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Volume 6, Issue 4

Columbia Outdoors Explore Flat Branch Park

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Heart Healthy Get The Facts On Atrial Fibrillation

10 On The Road With Ray Amazing, Alluring Hawaii

12 Blasting Expectations Q&A With Missouri Symphony Conductor Kirk Trevor

16 How-To Guides How To Choose An HVAC Company

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19 Prime Time Can’t-Miss Events For July

26 How Can I Help?

Camp Hickory Hill: A Place For Youth With Diabetes

28 Pet Corner Doc’s Adventures In Continuing Education

30 Life Lessons Honoring One Brave Little Cat

32 Faces & Places Alzheimer’s Association’s Roast Of Dave Griggs Assistance League® of Mid-Missouri’s 20th Anniversary

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36 Tell Me About It Get Angel’s Relationship Advice

38 Recipe Box Cool Down With Ice Cream Treats

42 Chef’s Secrets Easy Steps To Superior Summer Grilling

44 Your Bucket List The Difference A Mentor Makes

46 Columbia Confidential

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Publisher Fred Parry Takes On The Issues Columbians Are Talking About

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Welcome

Learning from the Maestro This issue brought me the chance to talk with the director of the Missouri Symphony Orchestra, Maestro Kirk Trevor. I’ll admit, I felt a little intimidated preparing questions for someone with “Maestro” before his name. Would he be aloof and hard to engage? Would I feel ignorant and uncouth?

I needn’t have worried. Trevor’s passion for sharing music, along with his teacher’s soul, made him one of the most engaging, fascinating interviews I’ve had. He shared several interesting tidbits about orchestra music that will let me better appreciate the next performance I attend. For example, I had no idea that during a concert, conductors will ask musicians to perform faster, slower or with different expression than they rehearsed as a way to raise the energy and drama.

Trevor also surprised me with his invitation for audiences to get a little rowdy in their appreciation for the music — not in a disruptive, disrespectful manner but in a manner befitting an audience that has gathered for entertainment and fun. Read more of what he had to say in the Q&A on page 12, and then be sure to attend one of the remaining concerts in the Missouri Symphony Orchestra’s Hot Summer Nights festival.

This issue also brings recipes for cool ice cream treats, advice on how to deal with a friend’s misbehaving grandchild, a grilling lesson and more tips for making the most of this summer.

Happy Fourth of July, everyone, and thanks for reading Prime!

staff Publisher Fred Parry Associate Publisher Melody Garnett Parry Associate Publisher & Executive Editor Sandy Selby Managing Editor Anita Neal Harrison Editorial Assistant Morgan McCarty Graphic Designers Trever Griswold Kate Moore Rudi Petry Photo Editor L.G. Patterson Sales Manager Deb Valvo Marketing Representatives Jessica Card Rosemarie Peck Joe Schmitter Jamill Teter Jes Weddle Operations Manager Kalie Clennin Office Manager Kent Hudelson Assistant Finance Manager Brenda Brooks Distribution Manager John Lapsley Director of Customer Retention Gerri Shelton Contributing Writers Saralee Perel, Angel Donnette Robertson, John Scarpinato, Ray Speckman, John Williams

Prime Magazine is published by OutFront Communications, 47 E. Broadway, Columbia, MO 65203, 573-442-1430. Copyright OutFront Communications, 2013. The magazine is published 12 times a year on the first day of every month. All rights reserved. Reproduction or use of any editorial or graphic content without the express written permission of the publisher is prohibited.

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Columbia Outdoors

Flat Branch Park 101 S. 4th St. or 400 Locust St.

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BY JOHN SCARPINATO Looking for a place to settle down after a day of shopping?

Walk a few minutes to the edge of The District for some relaxation time. Flat Branch Park is a hidden gem within the hustle and bustle of the city. The 2.5-acre park offers plenty to do throughout the year, including several annual events in its amphitheater.

5 THINGS TO DO HERE: 1. Take a walk. Flat Branch Park serves as the trailhead to the MKT Nature and Fitness Trail, an 8.9-mile trail that is 10 feet wide and open to walkers, runners and bike riders. The trail links to the Katy Trail near McBaine.

2. Stroll through the rain garden. Take a few minutes to walk along the Flat Branch Creek. There you will find the park’s rain garden filled with a variety of attractive plants.

3. Attend a Family Fun Fest. The park hosts Family Fun Fest every third Wednesday of the month between May and October. Each event provides free family entertainment with music, special performances, bounce houses, balloon animals and face painting. This month, grab the grandkids and come out on July 16, from 6 to 8 p.m.

4. Access free WiFi. Tired of gobbling up your data usage?

Connect to free WiFi throughout the park.

5. Learn something new. Make sure to stop by the historic plaques located in the center of the park. The four markers tell stories of the area’s rich history, focusing on Columbia’s African-American heritage, commerce, early settlement and transportation. v

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Heart Health

Disturbing Trend

Hospitalizations Increasing For Atrial Fibrillation

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BY ANITA NEAL HARRISON

New research from the American Heart Association shows that hospitalizations and costs for treating atrial fibrillation are escalating.

Atrial fibrillation is an irregular heartbeat that occurs when rapid, disorganized electrical signals cause the heart’s two upper chambers — called the atria — to fibrillate, or contract very rapidly and irregularly.

The research showed that from 2001 to 2010, the number of hospitalizations for atrial fibrillation jumped 23 percent, while costs jumped 24 percent. The study’s lead author, Dr. Nileshkumar Patel, an internal medicine physician at Staten Island University Hospital in New York, says the hike in hospitalizations is likely because people are living longer and accompanying risk factors such as high blood pressure, obesity, sleep apnea and diabetes are increasing.

The National Heart, Lung and Blood Institute provides detailed information on atrial fibrillation. According to the institute’s website, people who have this condition may not feel symptoms, but even when atrial fibrillation is unnoticed, it can increase the risk of stroke. Atrial fibrillation can also cause chest pain or heart failure, especially if the heart rhythm is very rapid.

Atrial fibrillation is caused by damage to the heart’s electrical system. Most often, this damage results from some other condition affecting heart health, such as high blood pressure and coronary heart disease. The American Heart Association study found that in the 3.96 million hospitalizations for atrial fibrillation analyzed, high blood pressure was a coexisting condition about 60 percent of the time, while diabetes and lung disease were each coexisting conditions about 20 percent of the time. The study also found that between 2001 and 2010, the rate of kidney failure as a coexisting condition quadrupled to 12.3 percent.

The two major complications of atrial fibrillation are stroke and heart failure. Stroke is a risk because during atrial fibrillation, the heart’s upper chambers don’t pump all of their blood to the ventricles.

Some blood pools in the atria, creating an opportunity for a clot to form. If the clot breaks off and travels to the brain, it can cause a stroke. Because of this risk, blood-thinning medicines that reduce the risk of stroke can be an important part of treatment for people with atrial fibrillation.

Atrial fibrillation leads to heart failure when the heart can’t pump enough blood to meet the body’s needs.

At least 2.7 million people were living with atrial fibrillation in the U.S. in 2010, according to the American Heart Association. Risk increases with age, and people over 65 are the age group seeing the fastest increase in their hospitalization rates.

Even infrequent, mild episodes of atrial fibrillation warrant a visit with a family physician. The doctor will want to find out what is causing the condition to determine the best way to treat it.

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Don’t Ignore These Signs The National Heart, Lung and Blood Institute’s website lists these signs and symptoms of atrial fibrillation: ➤ palpitations (the sensation that one’s heart is skipping a beat, fluttering or beating too hard or fast) ➤ shortness of breath ➤ weakness or problems exercising ➤ chest pain ➤ dizziness or fainting ➤ fatigue ➤ confusion

LEARN MORE Find more information on atrial fibrillation on the National Heart, Lung and Blood Institute’s website, www.nhlbi.nih.gov/health/ health-topics/topics/af/.

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On The Road With Ray

Amazing, Alluring Hawaii A Trip Across 3 Islands Filled With History, Beauty And Wows

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BY RAY SPECKMAN I have this photo, circa 1970s, of my father attempting the hula in Hawaii. It was a trip of a lifetime for a pig farmer and his homemaker wife. Except for my father’s attire, chosen when it was still gauche to go to dinner, even a luau, in something other than a coat and tie, Hawaii’s magic allure has not changed.

I know because this spring, it was my turn.

My travel companion and I planned a trip to visit three of Hawaii’s principal islands — Oahu, Kauai and Maui — and made amazing memories at each one.

OAHU We spent two nights in the bustling, hustling metropolitan Honolulu in order to accomplish one thing: Visit the USS Arizona and USS Missouri memorials.

Honolulu is not that much different than Chicago, Houston or any other large mainland town. The stores are the same, the traffic as heavy, and the people on the street just as rushed in their shopping and heading to work.

It was an all-day trip to the Arizona and Missouri, both located in Pearl Harbor.

A water shuttle takes visitors to the USS Arizona Memorial. It was a solemn trip across the few hundred yards of water.

There is usually a “wise guy” on every tour, but on this trip, there was only a reverent silence from all 150 passengers on board.

The battleship itself was sunk during the attack on Pearl Harbor, and the memorial is directly above the sunken ship. Someone on a previous tour had tossed flowers into the water. It might have been in tribute to one or to the more than 1,100 who perished on that ship, which still serves a tomb to most who died aboard her. It is a quiet visitation, with much to fill the thoughts of those who come to pay their respects.

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ship that World War II officially ended.

A plaque marks the spot where on Sept. 2, 1945, the Japanese government signed surrender in the presence of General of the Army Douglas MacArthur.

KAUAI Kauai was our favorite island, and the five nights we spent here just were not enough.

Beautiful does not describe nor do photos do justice to the “wow” of this place.

On Kauai, the luau to experience is the Smith’s Family Garden Luau. The family roasts pig in the earthen imu oven, filled with white-hot lava rocks. Seasoned by the banana leaves, tea leaves and salt in which it was buried, the pork is served along with other delicacies to the luau guests, who also get a feast for the eyes thanks to the hula dancers.

The show climaxes in a spectacular fire-eating demonstration.

On Kauai there are stunning drives into dense rain forests, along with impressive beaches. Around each bend of the road, the beaches turn from white sand to magnificent black lava rock formations, and the blue waters of the Pacific crash in ever-rushing waves.

Then there is the must-take drive to Waimea Canyon, every bit as magnificent in its own lush way as the mainland’s Grand Canyon.

Dozens of shades of green and fabulous waterfalls spill over the rock formations formed eons ago by dramatic volcano eruptions.

MAUI We spent three nights on this island of jetsetters. The beaches are just as spectacular as Kauai, but prices are higher, and there’s more snootiness among tourists. The golf courses are beautiful with emerald fairways next to a rolling cobalt ocean. White-capped waves rush against the shore and make one wonder how linksters can concentrate on their game.

Lahaina seems to best typify Maui with its bustling, shoreline downtown. Trendy shops, five-star restaurants, extravagant jewelry stores and high-end art and gallery shops line Front Street, which is anchored by a famous, huge banyan tree.

On Maui’s north shore is a 60-mile stretch of highway called the Road to Hana.

It is one of the most treacherous roads I have ever seen. The natural beauty along the road is unsurpassed, with incredible ocean views and spectacular waterfalls.

There are 54 bridges on the winding road, most one-way. A diligent lookout for oncoming traffic mixes with the desire to see the stunning scenery. It is a road of conflict, a continuing argument of practicality and desire.

Desire always wins in Hawaii. v — Ray Speckman can be found dreaming of traversing the Road to Hana, awakening in a sweat, or at rayspeckman@emmesannex.net.

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igniting interest MISSOURI SYMPHONY CONDUCTOR KIRK TREVOR IS BLASTING EXPECTATIONS by anita neal harrison

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very summer, musicians from around the world come to Columbia to take part in the Hot Summer Nights Festival. This celebration of music featuring the Missouri Symphony Orchestra packs 26 concerts into six weeks and offers something for everyone, from Mozart to Elvis and from opera to patriotic pops.

Leading the orchestra in this ambitious venture is Maestro Kirk Trevor, music director and conductor of the Missouri Symphony Orchestra. Born and educated in England, Trevor began conducting at the age of 8. He came to the United States on a Fulbright Exchange Grant, and his career includes past service as music director of the Knoxville Symphony Orchestra (1985-2003) and current service as music director of the Indianapolis Chamber Orchestra (since 1988), along with his post at the Missouri Symphony (since 2000). Trevor has also appeared as a guest conductor with more than 40 orchestras around the world.

Trevor has been married for 12 years to Maria Duhova Trevor, an acclaimed harpist born and raised in Slovakia. They have three children, Sylvia, 8, Daniel, 6, and Aidan, 1.

Trevor also has a grown daughter, Chloé Trevor, who has attracted worldwide acclaim as a solo concert violinist.

Although the Trevors maintain homes in Indianapolis and Bratislava, Slovakia, their home base is Columbia.

“There is a quality of life here that is somewhat European for us, in the sense that there is an intellectual community and cultural opportunities with the orchestra, ballet and lots of theater,” Kirk Trevor says. “The main thing was we wanted to be in a smaller community, rather than one of the larger cities we’d lived in. We can appreciate the parks and the fact that we have neighbors. We thought it was a great place to bring up children.”

Early one morning, before he had to take two of those children to school, Trevor sat down to talk with Inside Columbia’s Prime about his work at the Missouri Symphony Orchestra. The conversation ranged from how conducting is a performance in and of itself to where the musicians in the orchestra like to play soccer, and from his inability to sit still when in a concert audience to his plan to make the Missouri Symphony concert hall a friendly, whoop-welcoming place.

Hot Summer Nights: July Shows Patriotic Pops Wednesday, July 2, 7:30 p.m.

Masterworks: Grand Opera Matinee Sunday, July 6, 3 p.m.

Chamber Recital Monday, July 7, 7 p.m.

Broadway Christian Church Family: The Color of Music Wednesday, July 9, 6:30 p.m.

Pops: Elvis at the Symphony Friday, July 11, 7:30 p.m.

Masterworks: Orchestral Fireworks Saturday, July 12, 7:30 p.m.

All shows are at the Missouri Theatre, except for the Chamber Recital. See “Prime Time” on page 19 for more show details.

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be told what to do. … It’s like a coach on a football team. Your role is to bring the best out of people.

h What about how conducting is a performance in and of itself ? What do you want to bring to that performance?

I’m a very physical conductor. I move around a lot. I jump. And that’s not something I necessarily do on purpose.

I’ve always been a physical conductor, and when I was younger, that was always a criticism, that I was too much like Leonard Bernstein. Well, now I think that people appreciate that — It would be like saying a football coach can’t jump up and down and get mad. You’ve got to let your emotions show at times. You still have to be in control.

h How physically demanding Maestro Kirk Trevor with his wife, Maria Duhova Trevor, and their three children, Sylvia, 8, Daniel, 6, and Aidan, 1

Q&A With Maestro Kirk Trevor h What is the job description for the music director of the Missouri Symphony Orchestra?

The obvious, cute response is, “Do everything.” Make programs, hire musicians, raise money, coordinate the publicity, marketing and promotion, do interviews, set up housing for the musicians, then — when they get here — conduct, prepare the technical side of the theater, make sure everybody is there for every rehearsal, conduct 26 concerts, and when it’s over, start again; do it all again.

h Have you had to do all that in other places as music director?

No, but there isn’t a large staff here to be able to do all of the nonmusical things, and perhaps the unusual nature of this orchestra is the season is only June and July, whereas most orchestras have a season from September through the end of May. So we do 26 concerts in six weeks, and most orchestras do 20 concerts in 10 months.

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h What are the pros and cons of having a short, summer season?

Many orchestras end their seasons at the end of May, and so you have a lot of musicians across the United States who are looking for opportunities to make music in the summer … not only for financial reasons, but because they just want to be playing and have a good musical experience in the summer. We get musicians from 10 countries and 15 different states, so a lot of musicians are meeting here and making friends. …

It’s obviously an enormous amount of work to put on 26 concerts in 42 days with rehearsals and everything, but we give the musicians enough free time in the evenings that we go down to Cosmo park and play soccer, and we have international food evenings because we have so many different people from different countries.

h How would you describe the ideal relationship between a director and orchestra?

The common thinking is that a good music director is a benevolent dictator.

Musicians want a leader; they want to

is conducting?

Conducting is one of the most athletic things people can do. It’s exhausting.

Your arms run five miles in the course of a concert, and they’re above your head while you’re doing it. You have to be in shape. You have to be fit. You have to have the ability to sweat with the musicians, to join the musicians in their physicality — because the violins and cellos are working very hard to produce the kind of energy that you are looking for in communicating with an audience.

I certainly don’t attempt to create an audience show because I’ve got my back to the audience anyway, so my show, if there is a show, is to motivate and inspire the musicians and to remind them, “This is what we do here,” and then the spontaneity aspect of it. Again, it’s like coaching. Do you go for it [in football] on fourth and one? That’s a simple choice depending on where you are on the field. But do you go for it on fourth and 15? There’s the spontaneity.

Some coaches might once in awhile go for it, just as a gamble and because you think you see something, and so those options have to be open to you in conducting. You always want there to be a surprise, even for the musicians.

h What might those surprises be in an orchestra performance?

Oh, taking longer over a pause, going

quite a bit slower or faster than you’ve been rehearsing, taking more risks. If we rehearsed a piece at a certain tempo and that gives you a certain energy, then spontaneously, a gamble might be to go a lot faster to see if you can create even more energy and a sense of dramatic kind of “Whoa!” from the musicians.

That can be exciting at times. It can also be an enormous risk.

I find it uncomfortable sitting and watching people make music for some reason.

h You teach conducting all over the

Nights now. This is the festival’s 10th season. What were your goals when you launched this revamped summer festival in 2005? In what ways has it been most successful?

The idea was to reach a broader audience with a wider variety of concerts. …

That involved convincing the board to spend a little more money on pop artists, so we could bring in people like Art Garfunkel. … And it proved that if you spend a little money, you reach out a little more with artists who have some broader appeal. But it wasn’t just in pop. … Another goal was to promote and to present the emerging generation of performing artists in classical. For some people, my soloists are, perhaps, a little young, but my philosophy has always been to promote and present the emerging generation of artists. …

In 2011, I made a conscious effort to expand the size of the orchestra, so we could play even more romantic repertoire, not just the Beethoven and Mozart, but the Tchaikovsky and the Brahms, so we could really be a symphony orchestra and not just a chamber orchestra, which it had been. I thought that was important to make everything broader.

world, in U.S., Germany, Switzerland, Brazil, China. Why do students come to you?

I’m a technique guru. I’m very much an objective conducting teacher rather than the abstract ones who talk about musical interpretation. I tend to talk about the tools that you need to be able to make this part clear. Most conductors talk about the musical side, but I just think that if a young conductor is going to be any good — if he has talent conducting — then he’s going to be a good musician in the first place. … The one thing [conducting students] are all looking for is how to have the technical skills, and that was something I developed and became known for around the world, and there are so few people teaching technique in conducting that now I have 700 students all around the world.

h You’ve been conducting since age 8.

How did you get such an early start?

I had the ability to conduct from an early age, and so people gave me some opportunities to see if I could really do it, and I could. … I try to do that with our students, as well, here in the in the [Missouri Symphony] Conservatory, to let them all conduct and give them opportunities and see if there’s anybody who has that innate talent. … If they display it, then it needs to be nurtured.

h Who have been your significant mentors?

I’ve had two or three. The reality is like a lot of musicians, I haven’t relied on one person, especially in conducting. … And I think with the advent of technology, every conductor I’ve ever watched has been a mentor in some way. …

I’m one of these people who doesn’t like to go to concerts very much because

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Well, I have to be moving. So I stand at the back of the hall or outside of the back door, wandering around, listening. I just can’t sit in a chair and watch somebody else conduct a concert. It’s one of my weird traits.

h Let’s talk about Hot Summer

h You also look for opportunities to partner with other local artistic organizations, from the Missouri Contemporary Ballet to the Columbia Art League. Why are those partnerships important?

If you are building new audiences, you may be building it through people who have never been to a symphony concert before. I understand how, shall we say, intimidating a concert hall can be to people who have never been there. It can feel a little bit like church. I’m trying hard to break down any of those barriers. ... As long as people don’t set

fire to the building or throw beer cups at us while we’re playing, I think the audience experience should be — it should be entertaining. They’ve paid money to be entertained.

You know, the entertainment dollar is a very broad dollar. It includes baseball games, movies, theater performances, rock concerts, strip clubs — I mean it’s pretty broad, and we are at one end of that: a concert hall, the one place where you can’t move. In the movie theater, you can get up and eat popcorn while you’re watching and snuggle up with your honey bunny, and there’s a little kissing in the back row. That’s supposedly not allowed in a concert hall. I mean, I want people to be respectful of others, but if you want to holler and cheer at the end of a piece, go ahead! It would be great. That’s the way they did it in the 18th century.

So, back to the question, the reason for collaborating with others is because it makes it not just about music. … If I’m doing a program on science and music and I bring in [the PBS character] Sid the Science Kid — which I’m not, but if I could get Sid the Science Kid — then I’ve opened myself up to a whole new interest level, parents who watch “Sid the Science Kid” or whose kids are interested in science — who haven’t been interested in music but now we’re trying to show the link between the two. Or for [the upcoming concert] “The Color of Music” [which will include a children’s painting contest] — lots of kids like to draw, so we’re allowing them to draw at the concert.

h You are serious about making it fun.

I use the three Es: entice, educate and entertain. That’s our goal. People who come to a symphony orchestra think less about the entertainment side. They think [speaking in a low, bored voice], “Ah, my wife’s taking me to the symphony to be educated,” when they should be saying [in a loud, folksy voice], “My wife’s taking me to the symphony to be entertained! [long pause] And maybe I’ll be educated at the same time.” That’s the way I want people to view us.

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Heating and air conditioning are a modern luxury many people take for granted. You adjust the thermostat and settle in comfortably. That is, until your HVAC system fails, leaving you sweltering in the summer or freezing in the winter.

A heating and cooling system isn’t something you buy often, so look for an experienced contractor you can trust, someone who is helpful, reliable and explains things thoroughly.

Recommendations and referrals from past and present customers are your first line of defense. Ask neighbors, relatives and friends whom they recommend.

Once you’ve developed a short list of likely candidates, check out their reputations with the Better Business Bureau, your state’s board of contractors or builders’ association and perhaps your town’s building inspection office. Avoid companies that have a long list of complaints lodged against them.

Call your top choices and ask about pricing, guarantees and warranties, their average time to complete a job and the manufacturers’ brands they use.

Your HVAC company should also service what they sell.

Proper maintenance will prolong the life of your energy system.

Find out if you need to buy a separate service contract or if routine maintenance and repairs are included in the price of the new installation. Also, it’s very important to know if they provide around-­the-­clock emergency service.

Make sure a company is fully licensed, bonded and insured.

You may think this is being overly inquisitive, but it’s in your best interest to know. If a worker is injured or causes any damage on your property, you’ll want his employer’s insurance to cover it.

Otherwise, you may have to file a claim on your homeowner’s insurance, which could result in increased premiums.

Reputable HVAC companies will usually belong to professional organizations. Some well­-known organizations include the Building Professionals Institute (BPI) and Nest Certified Professionals. Ask if the company is factory-authorized.

Membership in one of these organizations is not automatic.

Applicants are required to have certain certifications, meet professional standards and meet or exceed other requirements before they are admitted.

Before your HVAC company starts a project, check to ensure that all the required building permits are in place.

Many of the better companies will file the permits for you at the local building codes office. Don’t take this for granted.

Check with the permitting office first because any work performed without the proper permits could become a major headache for you.

Have a load calculation done before installing a new system in any building. The company you hire should do this. It’s important to do a new load calculation before a new system is installed because buildings can change over time due to foundations settling and cracks widening, affecting the efficiency of any equipment. Installing a new system that meets the new situation translates into saving money on your utility bill.

Ask your installer to explain the various kinds of equipment to you because there are a variety of options: air conditioners, heat pumps, duct-free split systems, zoned systems and geothermal. One size never fits all when it comes to a heating and cooling system.

Finally, have your HVAC contractor do a system check before the seasons change, spring and fall, to make sure it’s running at peak efficiency.

A new heating and cooling system is an important investment, so do some shopping before you make your decision and chances are, you’ll be comfortable and enjoy greater energy savings for years to come. v

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07.14July JULY 2 The Missouri Symphony Society’s Patriotic Pops is twice as stirring this year with the addition of the Columbia Chorale. Together, the two groups perform Hanson’s “Song of Democracy,” and the “Armed Forces Salute,” plus all of the favorite patriotic anthems and tunes that form the musical core of Americana.

Come sing along, and be sure to bring a flag to wave! From $12; 7:30 p.m.; 203 S. Ninth St.; 573-882-3781; www.mosymphonysociety.org

JULY 3–6, 10–13 At first, Adam Moss thinks the woman who springs from his closet and claims to be his God-sent soul mate is just a prank.

But Eve insists God has sent her to help Adam change the world. An uplifting comedy, “Adam’s Eve” will touch both your heart and your funny bone. Bring a lawn chair and/or blanket to watch this Maplewood Barn Community Theatre production. $7, $1 children 10 and younger; 8 p.m.; 2900 E. Nifong Blvd.; 573-227-2276; www.maplewoodbarn.com

JULY 4 Columbia’s night sky will once again explode in patriotic splendor at the 62nd Annual Fourth of July celebration, Fire in the Sky. Local bands will perform at Peace Park and Flat Branch Park, and Flat Branch Park will also host children’s activities. Fireworks begin at 9:15 p.m., launched from the top of the parking garage at Sixth and Cherry streets and choreographed to music simulcast on KBXR-FM 102.3. Free parking is available throughout downtown. Free; downtown Columbia; 6:30 p.m. for activities; 573-874-7460; www.gocolumbiamo.com/ ParksandRec

JULY 6 “Grand Opera Matinee” brings five of New York and Boston’s finest young opera stars to the Missouri Theatre to

JULY 21-26 Did you know that back in 1835, the first county fair west of the Mississippi took place in Boone County? Come take part in this summer tradition at the 2014 Boone County Fair & Horse Show at the Central Missouri Events Center. Events include a family fun night on Monday (no gate admission), the opening of the fair and carnival on Tuesday, a demolition derby on Wednesday, figure 8 racing and the Show Me Mounted Shooters on Thursday, motocross racing and the Show Me Mounted Shooters again on Friday, and a tractor pull and mule show on Saturday. $10; times vary; 5212 N. Oakland Gravel Road; 573-474-9435; www.TheBooneCountyFair.com perform memorable scenes from beloved operas, including “Marriage of Figaro,” “Rigoletto,” “Cavalleria Rusticana,” “Pagliacci,” “Tales of Hoffman,” and “Candide.” Be ready to stand up and shout, “Bravo!” From $23, half-price for youth or students; 3 p.m., 203 S. Ninth St.; 573-882-3781; www.mosymphonysociety.org

JULY 7 Get an up-close, personal performance from the musicians of the Missouri Symphony Orchestra in the season’s third and final Chamber Recital. This intimate

concert takes place at Broadway Christian Church and showcases the incredible talent of world-class musicians who shine in small group performances. The selections range from classical compositions to cutting-edge contemporary pieces for an astounding night of live music. $10, halfprice for youth or students; 7 p.m.; 2601 W. Broadway; 573-882-3781; www.mosymphonysociety.org

JULY 9 There was a Russian composer who thought that every key in music had a different color! In “The Color of Music,” Prime Magazine June 2014

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explore some of the musical works that have been inspired by works of art, including “Pictures at an Exhibition.” A children’s painting contest will take place, and all art will be projected above the orchestra during the concert. $10, half-price for youth and students; 6:30 p.m.; 203 S. Ninth St.; 573-882-3781; www.mosymphonysociety.org

JULY 9–19 Lovingly ripped off from the classic film “Monty Python and the Holy Grail,” the musical comedy sensation “Monty Python’s SPAMALOT” retells the legend of King Arthur and his hysterically inept Knights of the Round Table. Come to Arrow Rock Lyceum Theatre for a show featuring a bevy of beautiful showgirls, not to mention cows, killer rabbits and French people. Did we mention the bevy of beautiful showgirls? $35; 2 & 8 p.m.; 114 High St., Arrow Rock; www.lyceumtheatre.org

JULY 10 Warm summer nights plus soft green grass and starry skies — it all adds up to an ideal summer event, especially when set against the tunes of a local band. The Stephens Lake Park Amphitheater Concert Series presents the Columbia Community Band in the Stephens Lake Park amphitheater. Bring a lawn chair or blanket, and take in this pleasant outdoor evening. Free; 7 p.m.; 2001 E. Broadway; 573-874-7460; www.gocolumbiamo.com/ ParksandRec

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“Is He Dead?” by Mark Twain and adapted

by David Ives; and “Comedies-In-Concert.”

Summer Repertory Theatre creates a professional atmosphere for some of MU’s most gifted theater students while offering Columbia first-class theatrical productions. $12.50, discounts for students and seniors; 2 & 7:30 p.m.; 572-882-PLAY (7529); summerrep.missouri.edu

JULY 11 From Las Vegas to London, for more than 15 years Kraig Parker has thrilled crowds as the “King,” and he’s bringing his act to Columbia for the 2014 Hot Summer Nights festival. “Elvis at the Symphony” will feature many of the King’s greatest hits and even the harshest critics say this is as good as it gets. Uh-huh-huh, Elvis would be proud! From $25, half-price for youth and students; 7:30 p.m.; 203 S. Ninth St.; 573-882-3781; www.mosymphonysociety.org

JULY 11–13, 18–20 Carolyn Wickwire will star in a return engagement of the one-woman play “O’Keeffe!” by Lucinda McDermott, presented by Talking Horse Productions in partnership with Flower and Bone Productions and directed by Ouida White.

In “O’Keeffe!,” Georgia — witty, irreverent and decades ahead of her time — shares revealing scenes from her challenging life as she struggles to maintain her independence in the early decades of the 20th century. $12, discounts for seniors and students; 2 & 7:30 p.m.; 210 Saint James St.; 573-2681381; www.talkinghorseproductions.org

JULY 12 Be the first to sample the latest release of Les Bourgeois’ Collector’s Series wines at the Collector’s Series Wine Release Party & Art Show at the Blufftop Bistro. Sample the new LBV vintages and a selection of appetizers. The party features live music, wine tastings and appetizers to accomPrime Magazine June 2014

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pany an art show by the winning artists featured on the labels. Free; 2 to 7 p.m.; 14020 W. Highway BB, Rocheport; 573-698-2300; www.missouriwine.com

JULY 12 Taste hand-crafted, limited-edition summer brews at the Brews for Blues Keg Tapping. Kegs will be tapped at 5:30 p.m. at Flat Branch Pub & Brewing and Broadway Brewery, and will stay open while supplies last. A portion of proceeds will benefit Blues in the Schools, a project of The Roots N Blues N BBQ Foundation.

Price TBD; 5:30 p.m.; 115 S. Fifth St. and 816 E. Broadway; 573-442-5862; ww.rootsnbluesnbbq.com

JULY 12 In its season finale, “Masterworks: Orchestral Fireworks,” the Missouri Symphony Orchestra performs the premiere of Judith Zaimont’s “River,” Debussy’s “La Mer,” and RimskyKorsakov’s “Capriccio Espagnol.” The evening features violinist Erin Schreiber — assistant concertmaster of the St. Louis Symphony — performing the “Mendelssohn Violin Concerto.” From $23, half-price for youth and students; 7:30 p.m.; 203 S. Ninth St.; 573-882-3781; www.mosymphonysociety.org

JULY 13, 20, 27 The 38th season of the annual Shelter Gardens Concert Series continues in July with performances from the Norm Ruebling Band (July 13), Ironweed/Swampweed (July 20) and Lisa Rose with Hot House and Margaret Bianchetta (July 27). The Sunday evening shows draw crowds of 1,000 or more music lovers to beautiful Shelter Insurance Gardens. Bring chairs and/ or blankets. Free; 7 p.m.; 1817 W. Broadway; 573-214-4595; shelterinsurance.com/aboutshelter/events

JULY 18–20, 25–27 Join Missourians from across the state for the 30th Anniversary Show-Me State Games. Held at venues throughout Columbia, the games offer more than 40 sports for all ages and ability levels, as well as volunteer opportunities. The Audrey Walton Opening Ceremonies will be July 18 at 7 p.m. at Mizzou Arena. All events free for spectators; times & sites vary; 573-882-2101 (athletes), 573-8842946 (volunteers); www.smsg.org 22

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JULY 18 In need of a creative boost? Artrageous Friday is back and ready to inspire. Everinventive and exciting, this quarterly selfguided art crawl takes visitors through the North Village Arts District to explore galleries, shops and businesses. Grab a bite to eat or a drink at one of the participating eateries or bars between stops, and enjoy spending an evening with other Columbians who love and support the arts. Free; 6 to 9 p.m.; The District; 573-442-2999; www.artrageousfridays.com

JULY 21–28 With resident composers originally from Australia, Colombia, South Korea, Taiwan and across the United States, the 2014 Mizzou International Composers Festival is bringing a world of music to Columbia.

This acclaimed festival culminates in a world premiere of new works from eight resident composers. New music group Alarm Will Sound will once again serve as resident ensemble; also slated to perform during the week are the American vocal consort Prometheus and the Mizzou New Music Ensemble. Presentations and rehearsals are open to the public and passes are available. Prices, times and sites vary; 573-882-3781; composersfestival.missouri.edu

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JULY 26–27 Hermann-area vintners continue their crowd-pleasing ways with delectable pairings of luscious berries, savory barbecue and fragrant Missouri wines at the annual Berries & BarBQ Wine Trail. Visitors will savor the flavors of summer at seven stops on a route that hugs the Missouri River for 20 scenic miles between Hermann and New Haven. Each ticket includes a souvenir wineglass; advance tickets are required for all Hermann Wine Trail events. $30; 10 a.m. to 5 p.m. Saturday, 11 a.m. to 5 p.m. Sunday; Hermann Wine Trail; 314-795-9770; www.hermannwinetrail.com 24

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JULY 26–AUGUST 2 A shiftless drifter stands in the dock, accused of murder. His wife can prove his innocence, but when she arrives on the witness stand, she drops a bombshell, and that’s just the first twist in a courtroom drama like no other. Passion and greed, lust and lies mix in this most ingenious thriller from the grand dame of mystery, Agatha Christie. “Witness for the Prosecution” takes the stage at the Arrow Rock Lyceum Theatre. $35; 2 & 8 p.m.; 114 High St., Arrow Rock; www.lyceumtheatre.org

JULY 31, AUGUST 1–3, 7–10 Maplewood Barn Community Theater presents “Julius Caesar.” Travel back through the millennia to witness the crumbling of the Roman Empire in this Shakespearean classic. $7, $1 children 10 and younger; 8 p.m.; 2900 E. Nifong Blvd.; 573-227-2276; www.maplewoodbarn.com v

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How Can I Help?

Camp Hickory Hill 573-445-9146 www.camphickoryhill.com

BY JOHN SCARPINATO

FOUNDED: 1972 ➤ Who’s in charge? David Bernhardt, president. Bernhardt has been with the camp for 16 years and works alongside the organization’s board of directors.

➤ What population is served and how? Camp Hickory Hill’s vision is focused on enhancing the self-reliance and capacity of children, adolescents and their families living with diabetes. The overnight camp provides its campers the tools they need to live happy, healthy and balanced lives. While at Hickory Hill, campers receive one-hour formal classroom training each day on topics including insulin monitoring, glucose monitoring and the emotional aspects of living with diabetes.

The classroom time, however, doesn’t get in the way of some more traditional camping activities like hiking, canoeing, swimming and archery. Campers also enjoy plenty of fun evening thrills like capture the flag, shaving cream fights and the camp dance.

Medical staff is on the property 24 hours a day. They go so far as making night-time cabin visits just as many parents “look in” on their children each night.

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➤ Opportunities to give: The camp offers a membership program in which individuals can donate $10, $25, $50 or $100 a month. While camp is in session in June, volunteers can serve as cabin counselors, maintenance workers or on the medical staff, if they are licensed medical professionals. Extra hands are also needed to help with skilled and unskilled labor around the campground during the off-season.

➤ What is the organization’s impact? Diabetes is a growing concern throughout the nation, especially among children.

“Many children with Type 1 diabetes feel like they are alone and do not feel ‘normal,’ ” says Bernhardt.

“We provide an atmosphere where not having diabetes is abnormal.”

Camp Hickory Hill also sets itself apart from other camps with similar missions by accepting campers who cannot afford the camper fee. The camp holds fundraisers, writes grant proposals and seeks individual donations to help make up the difference.

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Pet Corner

Never A Dull Moment The Things Docs Learn In Continuing Education Classes

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BY DR. JOHN WILLIAMS

Of all the unpredictability in veterinary medicine, there is probably nothing more unpredictable than continuing education courses. They can be, and many times are, downright bizarre.

For those of you who aren’t familiar with what we call “CE,” think of it as a weekend of show-and-tell with an open bar. At least once each year, veterinarians are required to attend an approved veterinary medical course to get updated on the latest medical stuff. During these weekends of mental enrichment, veterinarians can learn everything from the latest surgical techniques to how to manage that receptionist who is repeatedly late to work because she just took a second job as a topless dancer. I’m not kidding.

I actually attended a CE conference once where both areas were covered in the same day. As I recall there were very few guys cutting class once they heard there would be videos. And there were, too — of the surgeries.

As the years pass and a veterinarian gets more accustomed to attending these affairs, a basic reality becomes apparent: Destination is more important than information. What do I mean by that? Simply put, attending a course in Wichita about cancer cures isn’t nearly as fulfilling as a toenail clipping course taken on Maui.

Similarly, a course at the Ritz Carlton is abundantly more informative than one at Hair in the Sink Motel, just off the Interstate. Now do you understand?

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But, of all the interesting things about veterinary conferences, it’s the reaction of fellow tourists once they find out that they are traveling with a group of animal doctors that is most intriguing. Their behavior can vary from offers to pick up your beer tab for a little medical advice (not a bad trade) to trailing an unsuspecting vet into the elevator, where they can regale him, or her, with precious, little stories about their precious, little things back home.

And God forbid if poor, old Doc is staying above the 30th floor and the elevator is slow.

I was once at a course where the presenter was decidedly late in returning to the classroom after a 10-minute break. When he finally returned, he apologized to the group by explaining that his name badge had given away his identity while he was in the men’s room and he had spent the last half hour dispensing veterinary medical advice to a man whose intense concern in all things pet-related had apparently overcome any concern about his own bladder. Needless to say, for the rest of the weekend that particular hotel guest was allowed to ride the elevator alone.

As you might imagine, many of these conferences are sponsored by pharmaceutical or pet food companies, which are always trying to stay on the doctor’s good side while jacking up the costs of their goods. As such, in an attempt to make

peace, there is loot. Lots of loot. Nothing extravagant, but it’s not unusual to end up with an abundance of vital necessities such as beach towels, ski goggles and cases of pet food, all adorned with the sponsor’s logo.

Typically, these goodies are doled out by attractive young ladies who apparently are in some sort of upper management trainee program, at least for the weekend. It is their job to attract old Doc with a flirtatious smile, and before they turn him over to one of their sketchy sales people, they flatter him into thinking he doesn’t look, or act, his age. This is totally harmless and usually goes well unless Doc has been shortsighted enough to have told his spouse to meet him in the same room so they can go to dinner.

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— John Williams, DVM, is a retired Columbia veterinarian who spent 39 years as a small-animal practitioner.

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Life Lessons

DR. LARRY VENEZIA AND JORDY

Without A Leg To Stand On Lessons Learned From One Brave Little Cat

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When our little cat, Jordy, needed to have his back leg amputated, I didn’t want our vet to take him from my arms.

Dr. Larry Venezia coaxed gently, and I finally let my beloved pet go.

I kissed Jordy on his forehead as he was about to be carried out of the examining room. I could see my sweet cat, scared, looking at me over Larry’s shoulder as he was carried away.

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I called my husband, Bob, from my cell phone. He had been dreading this call.

“Jordy’s whole leg has to come off,” I said.

In tears, Bob asked, “How will he ever be able to get around?”

“I don’t know.”

During Jordy’s recuperation, he had to stay very quiet and away from our other pets. We kept him in a crate in our bedroom. He looked up at me, seemingly

saying: “Everyone else is out playing.

What did I do wrong?”

I held him, checking his stitches where his leg used to be. Like all pet owners, I wished he could have understood me. “You didn’t do anything wrong, Jordy. You were born with your leg problem, and it had to come off so you’ll never be in pain again.”

And so, my cat teaches me these lessons: ➤ There’s nothing shameful in

needing help. ➤ If a jump can’t be made to the top

of the bed, keep trying until it can. ➤ Missing a limb has nothing to do

with the goodness of one’s heart. ➤ In spite of a handicap, always

choose playtime when there’s an

option. It’s a blast sliding across a

tile floor diagonally on three legs. ➤ If you can’t scratch behind your ear

because your lower limb is missing,

have Bob scratch it. It feels just

as good. ➤ Caregiving is a privilege. ➤ Being differently abled doesn’t

change how good the sunshine feels. ➤ My cat is just as complete as any

other cat is. Impediments are often

just in the mind.

Jordy’s lessons have a particular meaning for me because of my walking problems from my spinal cord injury.

Perhaps he sets an example for anyone who is different physically, be it shape, size or anything else we consider limiting.

And that example leads to the realization that being our best has nothing to do with having a body like everyone else has.

Larry once told me that he’d like to leave “a footprint in the sand by helping my patients any way I can.”

Trust me, Larry, you already have.

I thank him the most for what has been his greatest gift to me and Bob — the three footprints of Jordy. v — Award-winning columnist Saralee Perel can be reached at sperel@saraleeperel.com or via her website: www.saraleeperel.com.

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Faces And Places

The Roast Of Dave Griggs The Alzheimer’s Association Greater Missouri Chapter announced that the Roast of Dave Griggs, presented by KOMU 8, raised over $55,000. The event was held Thursday, May 29, at the Holiday Inn Executive Center in Columbia. The two roast masters, Bob Gerding and Joe Moseley, kept the audience laughing as they interspersed jokes and anecdotes between introductions and announcements. The roasters did their best to embarrass the guest of honor, but Dave had the last word. (Photos by Jeremy Elson and Lisa Stevens)

Roastee Dave Griggs and Mayor Bob McDavid

Kristin Blake, Chris Cottle, Amelia Cottle, Anna Hargis, Dave Hargis and Brian Cottle

Lee and Danyale Williams

Melissa and Kim Anderson

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Tammy and Matt McCormick

Norm and Virginia Stewart

Fay and George Carney

Ann and Les Borgmeyer and Jim Robertson

Virna Camancho and Marty Siddall

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Assistance League® of Mid-Missouri’s 20th Anniversary Celebration On May 14, members of Assistance League® of Mid-Missouri celebrated 20 years of service to the Columbia community with a special event in the Kimball Ballroom of Lela Raney Wood Hall on the Stephens College campus. The evening’s highlight was a video telling the story of Assistance League from dream to reality featuring the people and programs that have made a difference in many lives in the Columbia community. Members happily shared memories of accomplishments and successes while enjoying a buffet dinner and special entertainment. (Photos by Jean Gurucharri)

Marilyn Hoecker, Debby Cook and Sondra Flaker

Rita Schulte and Donna Beckett

Cryptogram Decipher this quote by unraveling the secret code.

Each letter stands for another letter. We’ve given you a few hints to get you started.

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Test your knowledge!

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Past Presidents Marilyn Starwalt and Laurie Diggs

Glenda Moore, Candi Thomson, Pat Jackson and Jan Mees

Betsy Vincente, Jan Beckett and Donna Buchert

Charter Members Eddy Wildt and Judy Carter

Stephanne Walker, Stephanie Driskill and Sandy Happ

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Tell Me About It

With Angel Donnette Robertson

Q:

I have a weekly lunch date with an old friend. Sometimes, she brings her 3-year-old grandson with her to the restaurant. Her grandson demands all her attention and often throws tantrums — and food — when he is not allowed his way. I am often frustrated and embarrassed by the end of the meal.

I don’t want to hurt my friend’s feelings, but I do not think I can smile my way through another one of these lunches.

What can I do?

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Children are a blessing, but, at certain times, that blessing seems very mixed indeed.

It is possible the little boy is just an average, demanding, active 3-year-old, who could simply be overtired, overstimulated or hungry with a blood sugar level that has dropped.

It is also quite possible the little boy is a miniature tyrant already skilled in the terrorizing of the kingdom.

Either way, you can have little effect on his behavior. And the grandmother, if he is an actual tyrant, can probably do little as well, as most parents do not appreciate interference in their disciplinary style.

You could approach your friend, explaining that you enjoy the time you have with her and adding that you understand she treasures the time with her grandson. Of course, you will want to avoid

any criticism of the grandson and emphasize your appreciation of quality, focused time and conversation with her. Then you can ask about switching days for lunch when she does not have her grandson, so that she can be free to enjoy her time with each of you individually.

If switching days is not a possibility, then you might change your schedule to meet every other week or once a month. Or you may have to decide whether you will just politely excuse yourself from eating lunch with your friend on the days she has her grandson.

Having a regularly scheduled time to meet helps sustain a friendship. Missing days can sometimes mean missing months, which then leads to missing years. So, you should know what you want and what you are likely to get or lose when you are considering your options. v

Q:

My mother-in-law always uses guilt trips to get us to do what she wants, which makes me not only resent her but also my husband when we end up giving in. I know I need to stand up to her, but I don’t know how to say “no.”

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Although guilt trips can appear harmless, even humorous, the truth is the behavior is manipulative and can build real and deepening resentment when used repeatedly and frequently.

First, you should have a conversation with your husband. You should be as honest as you can about his mother’s behavior and your feelings, but you need to avoid criticizing his mother so that

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he doesn’t instinctively become defensive.

You will need his support and assistance.

Besides, she is his mother, and you will want to give her the respect she is due in that capacity, even if she is not offering you the respect due her son’s wife at the moment.

Once your husband and you are in agreement, the two of you will need to set boundaries and then verbalize those boundaries to your mother-in-law. For example, if you are often forced to cancel your own plans for hers, then simply explain the next time that you understand that her plans are important to her, you wish you could accompany her, you might be able to do so in the future with proper notice, but you will not change your plans at the last minute.

It is important that you remain calm and kind.

It is essential that you remain firm.

She will probably not accept your boundaries at the first try, so you and your husband will need to remain vigilant. Eventually, I hope, your mother-in-law will learn to respect you and your husband and your right to make decisions that aren’t guilt-induced.

However, if she doesn’t — because not everyone does — you can continue to maintain your boundaries. She can only control you through guilt by your consent. So don’t give it. v

Angel Donnette Robertson is not a professional counselor, but she has a lifelong appreciation for the beauty and complications of relationships.

MEMOIR PROMPT Think about your parents and a set of values with which they raised you — moral, political, financial, ethical, religious. Consider one or a combination of those values. What was happening in your life when you first realized your independence in either retaining or rejecting those values?

Which did you do? If you first rejected your parents’ values, did you eventually return to them? If you first accepted your parents’ values, did you eventually reject them? How do you see their values influencing your life today?

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Recipe Box

Summertime Sweets

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Cool Down With Delicious Ice Cream Treats You can turn any summer day into a special occasion with a cool ice cream treat. From classic favorites to innovative new flavors, it only takes a scoop or two to bring out plenty of smiles.

Grab a spoon and dig into these scrumptious recipes, featuring delicious Blue Bunny ice cream flavors. These treats make it easy for everyone to customize to their own sweet preference, whether it’s pairing creamy Blue Bunny ice cream with the gooey goodness of freshly-baked chocolate cake, the buttery finish of a flaky pie crust or in a classic, richly adorned parfait.

ICE CREAM CUPCAKES Yield: 18 to 20 cupcakes 20 1 1/8 1/2 1 1 1/2 1 1 1 1 1

cupcake liners cups all-purpose flour cup unsweetened cocoa powder teaspoon baking soda teaspoon salt cup butter, softened cup white sugar egg teaspoon vanilla extract cup brewed coffee container Blue Bunny Caramel Fudge Brownie Sundae, Vanilla or your favorite Blue Bunny flavor Decorations (such as sprinkles, cupcake skewers, cherries)

To make cupcakes, preheat oven to 350°F. Place cupcake liners in cupcake pan. Sift together flour, cocoa, baking soda and salt.

Set aside. In medium bowl, cream butter and sugar until light and fluffy. Add egg and vanilla and beat well. Add flour mixture, alternating with coffee. Beat until just incorporated. Fill cupcake liners about 1/3 full to allow for ice cream. Bake for 10 to 15 minutes or until toothpick inserted comes out clean. Let cupcakes cool. Using round ice cream scoop, scoop out rounds of ice cream and set on baking sheet in freezer.

Once ice cream scoops are frozen, carefully place one into each cupcake and top with fun decorations.

Note: Though the recipe calls for brewed coffee, the cupcakes won’t take on its strong flavor.

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Recipe Box PEANUT BUTTER SUNDAE PARFAITS Yield: 10 to 12 sundae parfaits

MINI ICE CREAM PIES Yield: 10 mini pies 2 1 10 3

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round pie crusts, thawed 3 1/2-inch round cookie cutter 2- to 3-inch scalloped tart shells cups chocolate chips Blue Bunny Bunny Tracks Ice Cream cup chopped peanuts

Preheat oven to 425째F. Roll out round pie crusts and use round 3 1/2-inch cookie cutter to cut out circles from pie dough. Round cookie cutter should be slightly larger than top of tart shell. Cut out 5 rounds from each pie crust. Grease tart shells and place pie dough rounds down into tart shells, carefully pressing dough into scalloped edges and bottom of tart shell. Pierce bottom of tart shell with fork to prevent it from baking too high. Bake tartlet shells for 8 to 9 minutes or until golden brown. Remove from oven and allow to cool before flipping out onto work surface. Melt chocolate chips in microwave-safe bowl or double broiler. Carefully dip scalloped edges of tart shells into chocolate and flip over to let cool. Scoop mini balls of ice cream into shells. Top with drizzle of warm, melted chocolate chips and garnish with chopped peanuts.

For other great ideas to cool down your summer days and nights, visit www.BlueBunny.com.

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waffle or sugar cones Chocolate cake or brownies Chocolate chip cookies Blue Bunny Peanut Butter Panic Ice Cream Maraschino cherries, sprinkles or cupcake pompom topper for garnish

Break up waffle cones, chocolate cake or brownies and chocolate chip cookies into bite-size pieces and place in individual containers or cupcake cups. Or use favorite cake or cookie flavors to customize. Layer ice cream, waffle cone pieces, cake pieces and cookie pieces into mini parfait glasses or any small glass or bowl. Garnish with Maraschino cherry, sprinkles or cupcake pompom topper.

Tip: Other fun mix-in ideas include pretzels, chocolate candies, marshmallows, graham crackers, fudge sauce or caramel sauce.

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Chef ’s Secrets

Grilling 101 Easy Steps To Improve Your Summer Grilling

BY DENNIS CLAY

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The last week of June marked the official beginning of summer, and if you’re like me, you are looking at your grill to handle most of the cooking workload this season. The Fourth of July is also upon us, which gives our grills a workout, too.

I have a real appreciation for the entire ritual of grilling, from starting the fire with the correct placement of bundled sticks to letting the coals burn to just the right ember, from heating and properly seasoning the grill grate to cooking the meat just right. Whether smoking with wood or cooking over an open fire, the distinct flavors produced by this country’s backyard barbecue chefs is a tasty part of Americana.

Here are six steps to grilling perfection: 1. Pull your meat out of the refrigerator and season it an hour before you plan on grilling it. This will make for more even and quicker cooking.

2. Start with a small wood fire before slowly adding your charcoal. This eliminates the use of charcoal fluid, which renders a noticeable taste to your finished meal.

3. Add your charcoal briquettes in a pyramid tower, and allow them to burn down to a glowing red ember before distributing them across the bottom of your grill.

4. Let your grill grate burn for a few minutes before adding your meat. If you don’t have a grill brush, use a wad of aluminum foil and your grill tongs to clean the grill.

5. For thicker cuts of meat, like large steaks, start the grilling directly above the hot coals and finish the steaks by pushing the coals to one side of your grill and placing your steaks on the opposite side. This technique is called indirect heat grilling.

6. After grilling, always let your meats rest before cutting into them. Plan on a 10-minute rest time per pound, so if you have a half-pound hamburger, allow it to sit for five minutes before enjoying.

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GET YOUR GRILL ON

— Dennis Clay is the executive chef at Inside Columbia’s Culinary Adventures.

At the end of the 18th century, political divisions were so great in America that several towns held separate Independence Day celebrations. The Federalists, who supported centralized government, held dignified, solemn events, while Anti-Federalists went for rowdy street celebrations.

Join Chef Dennis Clay in the Culinary Adventures kitchen at 6 p.m., Tuesday, July 15, to learn more tricks, techniques and side dish recipes in Grilling 101.

Reserve your ticket at comoculinaryadventures.com/ classes/.

cryptogram solved Challenge your brain with this month’s puzzle found on Page 34.

Cryptogram Answer “Liberty is always dangerous, but it is the safest thing we have.” ~ Harry Emerson Fosdick

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Your Bucket List

Just Doing What Friends Do Tom Luckenbill Signs Up To Be A “Big Brother”

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Tom Luckenbill has been a member of Columbia’s KidsFirst Optimist Club for 16 years, and throughout that time, the club has supported Big Brothers Big Sisters, a program that matches boys and girls with role model mentors.

“Every time they would come around and talk about their program and every time we would participate in their bowla-thon, I would think, ‘Wouldn’t it be fun and interesting to be in that program?’” says Luckenbill, an attorney and the owner of Luckenbill Law Firm.

Finally, last year, he decided to join.

His two daughters were no longer living at home, and “so it seemed to be a good time to have time to do this,” he says.

Luckenbill was matched with a 10-yearold boy, now 11, in the organization’s community-based program. Luckenbill picks his little brother up at home and finds activities to do with him out in the community a couple of times a month.

It’s been less challenging than Luckenbill expected.

“I think they must’ve assigned one of the best kids in town to me,” Luckenbill says.

“He’s a very pleasant young man and very well-spoken. We really get along very well.”

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TOM LUCKENBILL AND HIS “LITTLE BROTHER” Luckenbill and his little brother have found that Sundays are usually the best time for them to get together. Most of their outings involve some sort of outdoor activity, such as Frisbee golf, tennis or yard work.

“One Sunday, I picked him up at his home, and we drove over to Rocheport and went for a bike ride on the Katy Trail, and then we got something to eat and just hung out for a while,” Luckenbill says.

“Mostly it’s just doing what friends do, just talking to one another and sharing with each other what’s on our mind.”

As is often the case with “littles,” Luckenbill’s little brother does not have a father in the home. Luckenbill texts with his little brother’s mom to arrange outings and receives positive feedback from her. “[She] tells me her son enjoys hanging out with me,” Luckenbill says.

At home, Luckenbill’s little brother

tends to spend his time on video games and similar pastimes. Although Luckenbill knows it’s good for children to be exposed to active outdoor recreation, he says those benefits aren’t really the point.

“Truly, my objective is to demonstrate a decent role model,” Luckenbill says. “It’s not really about the activities so much.

The program is more about being associated with someone who can be a positive influence.”

Having been in the program several months now, Luckenbill encourages others to volunteer. He notes that Big Brothers Big Sisters has a list of youth waiting for a match.

“And I think more people should get involved as a Big Brother or Big Sister,” he says. “I mean, I think I am having some positive impact on this young man, and I feel good about investing my time trying to help somebody.” v

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Columbia Confidential: Publisher Fred Parry On The Issues Columbia Is Talking About

Town & Gown Reaches A New Peak

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This year, the University of Missouri celebrates its 175th anniversary. The first public institution of higher education west of the Mississippi River got its start, in part, from the toil of 900 Boone Countians who shared a common vision and ambitious goal of bringing scholarly endeavors to Columbia.

Few could have imagined the eventual impact of this institution with breakthroughs in medicine, agriculture and technology. The founders most likely did not have grand visions of this university producing such a vast array of captains of industry, political figures, authors, entertainers and other American icons. The goal was simply to make Columbia and Boone County a better place to live by providing its citizens with educational opportunities. No doubt, the founders would be proud of the university and what it has become.

For nearly two centuries, Columbia has grown and prospered because of the success of the university. One might safely assume that a sleepy little town in rural Missouri would have incompatible interests with a thriving academic center teeming with tens of thousands of young adults nine months of the year. Yet the two entities have found a way to peacefully coexist through good times and bad. Columbia would not be what it is today without the University of Missouri flagship campus. In like manner, the University of Missouri would not be the institution it is today without the city it calls home.

Inside Columbia magazine recently hosted a group of local business and civic leaders for a discussion of community issues. One of the topics covered at this luncheon was the current state of affairs at the University of Missouri. There was universal agreement among this group that “town and gown” relationships in Columbia have never been stronger than they are now. That’s a bold statement when you consider the top-notch caliber of the leaders who have led both entities over the years. It’s also a well-deserved and fitting compliment for the university’s current leadership.

To their credit, University President Tim Wolfe and MU Chancellor R. Bowen Loftin recognize the role that a healthy community plays in the success of a university. In their relatively short tenures, both have made magnanimous gestures to connect and engage with the citizens of Columbia.

Granted, Columbia is Tim Wolfe’s hometown, but it’s still clear that neither of these gentlemen is simply passing through on the way to bigger and better things. Both share a genuine interest in making Columbia a better place to live, work and do business.

Tim Wolfe brings the experience of a successful CEO from the business world. While giving strong support to the aca-

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demic mission of the university, he holds his colleagues to a higher standard of excellence using performance-based funding and real-world metrics to measure results. His matter-offact approach is effective and the relationships he is building will pay dividends for years to come.

Wolfe has a masterful way of balancing the sometimes divergent interests of both the Missouri General Assembly and the businesses that eventually will be hiring Missouri graduates.

Although he might object to this characterization, R. Bowen Loftin is a charismatic leader. Decisive and insightful, Loftin has been able to forge effective relationships with the Mizzou student body and local community leaders. He understands the holistic effect of every decision he makes. In addition to scholarly credentials, his charm and demeanor impresses donors, politicians and business leaders alike.

Mizzou could not have made a better hire.

What I appreciate most about Wolfe and Loftin is their shared vision for the university and for Columbia. Their individual styles and attributes complement each other, which will be critical in helping them achieve their ambitious agendas. They have the ability to divide and conquer or they can tag-team for maximum efficiency.

Columbia has much to gain from strong leadership at the university. Admittedly, there have been times in our history when the gears of our economic engine were not turning in the same direction. This is not one of those times. The potential that exists in transferring technology from the academic lab to local startup business is more than promising for the community. The opportunity to grow the university’s influence around the state also benefits this city.

Serving the citizens of Missouri for 175 years is a great accomplishment and a significant milestone. Let us use this occasion to celebrate the bond our community shares with this great institution. Happy birthday, Mizzou!

Fred Parry, fred@insidecolumbia.net

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