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Intimacy TV is excited for the launch its very first magazine issue – In the month of 'Love'. This month we focus on four main themes – Love, V-Day, Emotional Past & Mardi Gras.

Statistics show that the weeks coming up to V-Day have the largest number of break-ups and new hook-ups. Hence, in this issue we have a collection of articles ranging from dealing with emotional baggage, how to revive your love life, coping with being single on V-Day, the perfect gifts for V-Day and much much more...

Of course we can't forget the biggest party of the year with Mardi Gras fast approaching! Here we blow the lid open on being authentic and the New HIV Preventative Drug that has a 99% success rate just like the pill.

At Intimacy TV, our promise is to cover hot, sensitive and taboo topics in each issue that people rarely talk about. If there is a topic of interest, please feel free to send us an email to info@intimacytv.com.au.

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7 LOVE Hookups, Breakups & Dating Shows

10 VALENTINE'S DAY How to rock this Valentine's Day

21 EMOTIONAL PAST Making space for Love

26 MARDI GRAS Celebration of gender equality

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Melina

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What's your Specialty?

I am proud to be the ONLY Adult Intimacy Product Educator in Australia. With the overwhelming 16,000+ products to choose from two adult online boutiques, Love and Indulgence – for her & Taboo Intimacy (specialising in gift box experiences).

Through a YouTube Channel, I also educate the public on using these products as a tool for connection rather than as a guaranteed orgasm.

Your known as the Dr. Love.

What got you into this industry?

After two decades of monogamous relationships and two marriages later I entered the world of dating again. I had tried to spice up my own relationship by going to adult retail stores and the online adult world looking for aid. What I saw mortified me. The products were nasty and there was no education involved. After seeing the gap in the industry, I realise that things have to change.

People need to be able to access real information on sensitive and hot topics around the area of love, sex, dating and relationships. This birthed the creation of my educational platforms which has now become a part of IntimacyTV with my friend, educator and colleague, Jane Nguyen.

How did you get that name?

I spent a few years researching all forms of online dating platforms for my novel ‘Win the Dating Game: How to find a partner in the modern world'. As a result of research and writing my book, tweaking online profiles seemed to be my forte. People are often surprised at how a little tweaking can make a big difference to their profile.

So what is your role in IntimacyTV? I specialise in the Dating and Sex. I do all the filming and editing and at the moment my face is the one seen more often on interviews with hard hitting topics around the biggest taboo topic of SEX as Jane takes time to adapt to being a new mum.

So who is your ideal client?

Here is the deal, unless you are willing to look in the mirror and be pulled up on your B/S, stop playing the blame game or pointing fingers and basically be in enough pain to scream out loud “I WANT MORE!” I don’t want to work with you.

My ‘Tough Love’ & No B/S approach allow me to quickly sort out your issues in either the area of dating or sex. To meet your perfect Mr or Mrs Right we need to turn up as the person we desire first and that’s the trick most of us haven’t learned yet. So my job is to bring the best version of you out quick & smart and work on how you brand yourself to a potential mate. Dating is a learned skill. Being a god or goddess in the bedroom is also a skill that can be taught. I am constantly getting private messaged with thanks whether it be from men who have now met their ideal partner and happily married (thanks to my advice and the profile I did for them on Tinder) (yes you can fall in love on Tinder) to the “OMG by boyfriend is sending you a high five. Those blowjob tips worked a dream!”

I’m passionate about helping, educating and empowering people on how to consciously create the love and the relationships that they desire; and to sustain that love, passion and intimacy for life.

I came from a family where my dad was quite abusive to my mother when I was growing up, which then affected my view of relationships in general. At the age of 15, I unconsciously attracted a man into my life that was very much like my father. I then spent the next 6 years in that abusive relationship thinking that what relationship was supposed to be.

At the age of 21, I packed everything and left that relationship. I promised myself that I would never again settle for a relationship that was less than what I truly deserved. I got curious about why some couples have the best relationships of their lives whilst others go down the path of break­ups, separation and divorces. I spent many years in the space of personal development to find the secrets of a successful and happy relationship. I quickly learned that I was the ‘common denominator’ in all my relationships and if I wanted things to change, I must change. That started my journey of personal growth, self­love and healing.

Not long after that I attracted into my life an amazing man, who is now my husband and the father of my child. We don’t have the ‘perfect’ relationship as every relationship has its own ups and downs, but we are grateful for all the things we’ve accomplished as a couple and a team and the amazing memories and experiences we’ve gathered together.

I believe that if I can create that in my life, anyone can. Hence, this has become my obsession for many years – to help others find the love and the relationship they truly deserve and to sustain that passion for many years to come.

Unlike most marriage counsellors, I have a two session hit rate using my signature technique to bring out the ‘real’ truth that is holding people back from true happiness. I tend to attract a lot of ‘strong, independent and career­driven’ women who ‘seem’ to have everything in life, but love. Using my program “Masculine Power, Feminine Essence’, I teach them how to tap into the essence of who they are destined to be, and then attract the perfect reflection of that into their relationship. I only work with individuals who are truly committed to ‘be the change they seek in the world’.

This is what one of my clients’ experience after working with me: “From the first coaching session with Jane, I saw immediate results.

Her nonjudgmental approach and her powerful questions helped me gain insight into my self­worth and ways of handling my relationship issues. I noticed remarkable improvements after the first session and thereafter. Jane’s commitment and guidance as a coach brought me back to the person I knew I could be."

Jane Nguyen

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2015 showed 113,595 marriages registered with ABS and amongst those

48,000 divorces were granted. This works out the divorce rate at 42.7%.

Among those divorces 47.5% involve children. 12.1 years was the median duration from marriage to divorce. Today Statistics show joint applications for divorce are at the highest in the last two decades.

In Australia

4.3 million are single.

74% of those are looking for long lasting commitment. With taking only 7 seconds to form an opinion and approximately

750 dating websites let us help you navigate through the minefield! **Information provided from ABS & Married at first sight

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News & Trends 2017 Dating Shows

Pro's Showing real issues within everyday relationships in modern society.

The series sees couples contend with disapproving family members, unhappy with their partner choices over ethnicity, religion and sexuality.

Going out of your comfort zone

Daters do not get to choose who they go on the date with

Shows real couples and real issues

Quick fix for real deep issues that are not addressed properly on the show

Monday 9pm

Tuesday 7.30pm

Mon, Tue, Wed 7.30pm

Con's

Its not a legal marriage.

Its supporting the view that if your desperate enough you would marry a stranger to avoid being alone

Good ideas for dates

Creates unrealistic expectations for dating

Showing a more realistic side of men that they too want what women want

Disappointing that there is less men to choose from then their counterpart show

Get the body issue awkwardness out of the way

Voyeurism as its peak

Participants are prompted to answer real questions about marriage, raising kids etc

This exposes rejection at its highest level when participants are sometimes left naked and in the dark.

Monday 9.30pm

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3. Compromise your identity In a dysfunctional or abusive relationship, you might find yourself compromising your identity, values or do things that are uncomfortable out of fear or to make them happy.

50 Shades of Red Flags

By Jane Nguyen

In this article I want to share top 5 red flags that you should pay attention to in the early stages and throughout the relationship.

1. Mistake infatuation for true love A happy and healthy relationship needs to be built based on similarities of life vision and perspectives, values, love, trust, respect and it does take time to establish. Make sure that in the early stages of the relationship, you do take your time to learn about the other person to see if you can be a good match in the long run.

2. Controlling behaviours One of the common signs of abuse or a dysfunctional relationship is one persons need to intimidate and control the other person’s behaviours or choices.

Make sure that you don’t let your feelings cloud your judgment on these controlling behaviours and set a clear boundary on what is or isn’t acceptable in the relationship.

4. Having the ‘attempt to tame the wild wolf’ syndrome.

The “attempt to tame the wild wolf’ syndrome refers to the women’s attraction to ‘bad boys’ qualities. They go into relationships ignoring all the facts and warning signs thinking that with enough love and patience, they can change their men for the better. This has led many women into vulnerable situations where they can potentially be hurt emotionally and physically. Love the person for who they are today, not who they could ‘potentially’ be.person might leave you) or to make them happy.

Again, make sure that you get clear on your values, boundaries and don’t let yourself be pressured to do anything that you are not comfortable with.

5. Intimidation, aggression, emotional and physical abuse The obvious signs of an abusive and dysfunctional relationship are emotional and physical attacks. However, these behaviours can build up over time, starting with intimidation and aggression. It is extremely important to note that just because a partner may not have physically hurt you, this does not mean you are not in a toxic, abusive relationship. Abuse of any kind should never be tolerated in a relationship.

Make sure that when you recognise these signs that you reach out for help and support from friends, family or professional assistance.

"Don't settle for a relationship that won't let you be yourself" - Oprah

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HOW To Survive VALENTINE'S DAY

As A Single

By Marie-Louise Pawsey Facebook.com/LifeStylinDatingCoach These words cut deep into the heart of a woman who doesn’t have a boyfriend. And worse, if she doesn’t have a boyfriend after previous solo Valentine’s Days. The more V Days that come along without her having a bf, the harder it is.

It could be that she’s had a bf here and there throughout the years, but just not at V Day. And that stings. Cuts. Shreds. Burns.

We’ve been conditioned that way. But you know what? This might shock you. Are you ready? It’s. Only. One. Day. One day in your whole year. Only really 10 or so days in your life if you’re 25! What’s the big deal?

I can hear what you’re thinking, what does she know? Well, I’ve been on both sides of the bouquet of roses. I’ve been single, with a boyfriend, and married on V Days past.

And I can tell you that being with the wrong bf­ or husband­ can be just as bad as being alone on V Day. Not to mention those who “don’t believe in Valentine’s Day.” Pfft.

You survived Christmas Day, and NYE­ those are the tricky occasions, not V­ Day. And you managed, either with people around, or without. I survived being alone for half of Christmas Day by cleaning up my spare room while I talked on the phone with a friend who was also flying solo. It was unexpected, and I made the most of it. Plus, it meant I had more time free for going out during the week. Bonus!

Sure, it’s lovely to have someone to show you how much they love you, and shower you with gifts, making you feel like you’re the cat’s pyjamas­ but that’s only one day too.

I’ve spent NYE on my own before, too. It’s no big deal really. I actually don’t even like going out on NYE. All the “best night ever” and pash pressure hoo­hah. No thanks, give me any Saturday night instead.

V Day is on a Tuesday this year. And what of those who’ve got regular Tuesday night activities? That’s great, you’ve already got plans. Good! Don’t change a single thing.

Frankly, I’d like to think you’d still play netball if you did have a bf. It’s just a day.

You should always feel like that. And the only person who’s really around for 365 days of the year, and the only one you can ever really rely on to make you feel special is you! No one knows you better than you do.

So buy your own Lindt, some sparkling, bubble bath, maybe a little sexy Bruno Mars music, and treat yourself.

Or, get the hell out of the house and go and spend it with the girls. Why not?

Celebrate friendship and being good to yourself and each other.

So what are you doing on Valentine’s Day?

Twin Flames vs.

Soul Mates

By Christian Cee www.twinflamesecret.com

When it comes to the world of soul mates, and twin flames, and what the differences are… I believe that ultimately the difference is your own unique process and the energy you create. Soul mates, for the most part, is the idea that you share a soul with someone else. That you were meant to be with this person in this lifetime, and therefore that person is the other half of your soul, and he or she completes you. If that works for you ­ then great.

Twin flames can vary in ideas, from the esoteric horoscope type tellings, to it’s obscure history, to more of a newer vibrational connection process. My own personal belief is that we all start with a blank canvas. What you decide to paint within that canvas is entirely up to you… yet we do have certain characteristics, thoughts, emotions, and energies, that will greatly encourage us, and give us vision as to what kind of painting we should paint.

My Twin Flame process for me is one that recognizes that we are all creatures of habit, but more deeply we are creatures of natural ego. We tend to paint pictures within our mind’s eye that we wish to come true, yet those pictures are so much laced in fantasy that quite often, it is us that stand in a way from painting that picture that we dream of, and bringing it to reality.

Contrary to Soul Mates where we just allow dreams to sift through in the hopes that some of them will stay, and that we just magically connect with our soul mate (because it’s meant to be), within Twin Flames, my perspective is that it is all a work in progress. And yes, one in which we should not allow our ego to dream to the point that it can not take action to paint what we dream about.Bringing your energy to “the conscious moment of now” while reflecting in the many many years past, while planning for the future, is all a fine balance.

In order to paint our very own Twin Flame painting, we use a process that deals with “vibrational synchronicity” — which are just fancy words that means that we strive to be on the same energy wavelength as our twin flame, but just as importantly, we want to connect the past, present, and future into being unique energy that we hold within ourselves.

This energy is then used in what Twin Flames call “ascension” from the 3D daily life that we live, into spiritual universe energy level of 5D. Again, this terminology helps us describe the inner energy process, the journey that we embark upon. And at the core of that, is a process in which we become aware of our ego self, and use that awareness to bring light and healing within ourselves first.

Sometimes that person will find light, heal, and prosper, but ultimately that will all lead both of us in finding light, healing, and prospering in one Twin Flame union. We might not be with this person, our Twin Flame, currently, or even within this lifetime, but that vibrational energy is one that we will feel within each other, and makes us aware that we are part of something bigger within the universe… and much bigger than sharing a soul with someone else, as soul mates often believe. We believe we are two souls connecting together, and emerging our inner energy to become a union of Twin Flames. My journey into healing and light, for myself and others continues.

"Love is a meeting of two souls, fully accepting the dark a light within each other, bound by the courage to go throu struggles into Bliss" INTIMACYTV/FEBRUARY

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5 Tips to Revive Your Love Life

By Katy Thorn

Having recently surveyed couples who have successfully transformed their sex lives from icy to spicy, we’ve analyzed common, libido boosting findings to bring you the top five ways for even those with the most demanding schedules to start getting busy.

1. UPGRADE YOUR SEXTING PLAN While you both may be surrounded by people all day—text messages, unlike phone calls, are exclusively private and take mere seconds to write. On top of creating arousal, your touchtone foreplay creates an insider bonding experience similar to that you experienced as a student stealthily passing notes in class.

2. COMMUNICATE WITH NEEDERS AND IMPEDERS When you finally have time off from work, you tend to be around one of two types of people—needers or impeders. Whether you have children or roommates, try getting what you want by giving them what they want.

3. QUICKLY DOES IT Regardless of how busy you are—there’s absolutely no excuse for not having time to indulge in the sporadic quickie. A stealthy sneak up in the shower, laundry room, garage or wherever your partner happens to be when you finish reading this is the ideal location for your next quickie.

4. REINVENT MOVIE NIGHT Whether you’re new to frisky films or you’ve got a hard drive full of hardcore, there’s something for every comfort level. Together, search and browse erotic clip sites or order an erotic film from one of your satellite channels. And don’t be afraid to make it interactive. For example, see who can watch the longest without getting aroused or reenact your favorite scene. In addition to creating anticipatory arousal, you’ll discover both mutual and personal turn­ons and fetishes.

5. REDISCOVER THE JOYS OF TOYS It’s truly only a matter of time before even the most experimental couple has exhausted every sexual position and sensation. While humans are built for much more than sex, sex toys are specifically crafted to stimulate your most sensitive pleasure points with stamina unmatched by the human body.

For starters, explore shared fantasies with the Taboo Intimacy Experience Pleasure Gift Boxes on www.taboointimacy.com As you begin your journey toward revitalizing your sex life, consider these pointers the tip of the spiceberg—open to your own creativity. While some of these leading examples might put you out of your comfort zone, recognize that any journey out of your comfort zone is a journey into self­ discovery.

Most importantly, don’t procrastinate. Start tonight, and if you happen to be reading this together right now—well, you know just what to do.

Finding The Perfect Gifts thisValentine's Day

by Jane Nguyen

Valentine’s Day is an opportunity to show the ones we love just how much we love them in out­of­the­ ordinary ways.

Today I want to share in this post the simple strategy on how you can find the perfect Valentine’s gift this year that does not cost a fortune but guarantee to melt his or her heart. I’m going to break down the 5 love languages in the simplest terms possible.

This is a verbal way to communicate your love and appreciation of another person.

Valentine gift ideas: 1. A love letter or handmade card expressing how you feel about him/her and how much you appreciate them being in your life.

2. A glass jar filled with 365 post it love notes so they can read one each day for a whole year.

3. Share with them 50 reasons why you are their No.1 Fan. In contrast with the above love language, someone whose love language is ‘acts of service’ believes that actions speak louder than words.

For Valentine’s gift ideas: 1. Valentine’s Day coupons, which they can redeem for favours such as car wash, clean the dishes; take out the trash, massages, etc.

2. If you have children, offer to take care of the children so they can have some relaxing or pampering time.

3. Home­made breakfast in bed or candle lit dinner.

Some people respond very well to more visual symbols like gifts, and that’s their way of respecting, caring, loving and appreciation.

Valentine’s gift ideas: 1. You can’t go wrong with giving them something they really enjoy or love.

2. If you are crafty, you create a unique hand­made gift to express your love.

3. Find out the thing that he/she really wants for a long time – go get it for them as a surprise.

4. A special gift voucher to do different activities or experiences that they have always wanted to do.

5. Sentimental gifts such as an album with the collection of all your beautiful memories and moments together.

When it comes to quality time, this person appreciates someone who plans to spend time with him or her.

Valentine’s gift ideas: 1. Dinner dates at a romantic restaurants where you can spend time to chat and connect on this special day.

2. Go on a getaway somewhere just the 2 of you to recharge, reflect & reconnect.

3. Take a class together whether dance, cooking, calligraphy, wood shop, you name it.

4. Go do some experiences or activities that will grow you as an individuals and an s a couple.

5. Re­enact your first date and revisit some memorable times together.

It is important to communicate with your partner through body language.

Valentine’s gift ideas: 1. Go for a nice long walk along the beach holding hands.

2. A nice, warm & relaxing bubble bath or shower together 3. A beautiful, nice gentle massage for your loved one in bed.

4. Lots of kisses, cuddles and hugs.

5. Passionate sex & intimacy!!!

The understanding of love languages will definitely help you better communicate and express your love and appreciation and re­ ignite passion and intimacy for many years to come. Have fun & enjoy exploring your love languages.

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About ME

What are you passionate about?

Love, happiness, connection A typical day I try to wake around 6­6:30am, and set off to do some sort of exercise early on. I don’t eat brekky til I’ve sweated a bit, purely because my body is far happier in this order.

I will hop on social media, and check out what’s going on, and post on my pages. Every day is different, depending on where I’m speaking, what networking events I am attending, or what content I need to create for clients or programs.

I’ll always make my own meals, and try to get to bed before 10pm.

Whats the biggest challenge you face Wondering how I’ll connect with as many people as I’d like to!

The most significant influence in my working career was/is Leaving a full time job, and starting my own business as a personal trainer. Going from employee to sole proprietor was exciting, frightening and empowering.

I’m most proud of My son, and watching him grow into an amazing young man. And knowing that my life now, is the way I’ve created it.

One of the most memorable moments was Getting my first $20 from my very first Pt client.

Best $20 ever, knowing that someone was paying me for helping them.

Whats the biggest lesson you learned Everything in your external world is a reflection of how you feel on the inside.

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Andrea Dix

3 best tips Always trust what your inner voice and heart tells you If you don’t know how to do something, ask for help Do at least one thing everyday that lights you up What is your biggest dream To travel the world speaking, doing live events, and visiting beautiful places ­ all in the name of spreading joy, love and happiness.

What I like best about my job The deep gratification that comes from knowing you’ve touched someone, awakened them in some way, and set the wheels in motion for changing their lives for the better.

ANDREA DIX

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Why are you passionate about your purpose/mission, business/service?

When I was young, I always knew I wanted to help people, but didn’t know in what capacity. I toyed with police officer, nurse (blink of an eyelid timeframe!), teacher, but funnily enough didn’t do any of those. I had too much internal noise and discomfort to work with, before I was of any use to anyone else, so I spent many years delving and looking into why I felt so out of sorts, unhappy with who I was, unloving towards myself.

This drive to find out how to become a person who smiled because they genui­ nely felt it, was secure and confident in who they were and had conviction and certainty in how to be happy has become the foundation of why I created my business platform.

I see and feel that we live in a world where we are driven by More. We want more money, more stuff, more time, more gratification ­ but it’s smothering our natural instinctual ability to find happiness in the simple things, and then have the rest of our lives feed from that joy.

I can’t help but feel a deep internal pull towards helping people reconnect to their natural state of joy, and use that as the compass for living a wonderfully full and rich life.

Who can benefit from your service?

I have a natural affinity to attract women, but everyone benefits from having more happiness in their lives. I mostly find that people who work with me have a lot going on in their worlds, successful in many areas, but are fed up with the constant niggling that they don’t feel as happy as they could be.

successful in many areas, but are fed up with the constant niggling that they don’t feel as happy as they could be. It’s almost as if they have forgotten how to feel completely peaceful, and feel smothered under the layers of responsibility, and a pile of Life, and want to be able to find their happy place again­ even if just for a while.

I work with people who know they want to feel more, rather than have more, and are curious to find out how to do that.

What makes you/service/business unique (sets you apart from other people within your industry?

Honestly, I don’t think there’s anything fundamentally ‘special’ about me or what I do, but I love the way I connect with people and share what I learnt forward. I really draw from every single inch of my life experience, and what I did to get to this position, and use my battle scars and my triumphs to show that it’s possible to create a life that is beautiful, happy and full.

There are plenty of people showing you how to make more money, run more ads, how to get more stuff in your life, but I honestly believe, hand on my heart, that everything starts with your own haven of happiness, and by being that beacon of light for people, I’ll happily own that space.

What are your clients key challenges?

And Why? The biggest challenge is that people have the belief that happiness is something that comes from outside of them. They’ll be happy when…...something arrives or appears, and are disappointed when it’s shortlived. It’s also challenging to let go of thinking that happiness is something that has to be ‘worked on’, and they find it difficult to relax their hold on being busy, and allow space to be simple and joyful.

Our lives are just so busy and full, and sometimes the act of happiness becomes just another thing to do, and add to people’s workload ­ so they brush it aside and just go back to their safety net of busyness.

As we all know, being busy is a wonderful cloak to stay hidden under, and ignore the things that really matter and will enhance our lives, but it also is a smokescreen for not having to look deeply into what’s going on and make the changes your heart is calling for.

How does what you do benefit our viewers?

Have you ever noticed that when you feel happy and elated, that the rest of your life just seems to be so much better too? It has a wonderful, delicious flow on effect. You make decisions effortlessly, you laugh more, your relationships improve, you communicate more effectively and from a more loving and authentic space, you make better choices food wise and around your physical health which in turn makes you feel and look sexier.

There is NOTHING that happiness does NOT touch, and I have the magnificent, beautiful honour of being able to re­introduce you to your source of joy, and show you how to let it light up your whole life.

Anything exciting coming up? (workshops , event) Workshops, both live and online are my favourite way of connecting with people. There’s nothing like being in the same room with real breathing human beings, to enhance the experience of connection, intimacy and change.

Joy School is an 8 week online experience, with live classes every week, and ‘playwork’ to do in between, all designed to having you graduate as the most joyful person you know. We play with practical tips and strategies to help you find your happy, organise your time so that you get more of what you need and want, how to eat and move so that your body sings, and how to stay happy even when life tells you otherwise.

You can find out when the next term starts here http://www.andreadix.com.au/joy­school/ I have also just finished my book, titled “Permission to Shine”, where I share the triggers, challenges, and journey of moving from feeling invisible, to allowing myself to confidently, and lovingly show the world who I am. I’m very excited (and perhaps a tad nervous!) about launching in March, but it’s a conversation that is far more common than I initially thought, and I know it will speak to many. My only vision for this is that it opens up the space for allowing women especially, to ‘see’ their beauty, their strengths, their vulnerabilities, and allow themselves to honour that by pulling the pin on hiding out, or playing small, and shine brightly.

3 best tips for your audience? ­ There is no honour or valour in playing small in this world. You were born to be amazing and incredible, and it’s your only and most important job to keep that up. ­ Joy is an inside job. Its true origin comes from you, and isn’t dependent on what, or how much you have. ­ Happiness comes down to choice. You get to choose what you want for your life, and how you want to feel along the way.

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Straight Talk with Jane & Melina

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Casual sex or meaningful relationship?

I met a guy online. Went on two dates. In between dates, we rarely kept in touch, only set up and confirm time and location (done by him). Third date he asked me over to watch a movie. We ended up having sex. When I was leaving in the morning he gave me a book that I really liked. Again, he kept in touch but not every day. He also set up the next date and I went over again to his place. Had breakfast in the morning. Few days afterwards, I asked him (via text) what he was looking for. He said he thinks there was chemistry between us, so we should see where it goes. And he also said he wasn’t looking for anything casual. When I didn’t hear from him in the next two days, I ended things. Two weeks later, he contacted me, apologized for being distant and not keeping in touch (he was working on his PhD paper) and asks me if I would give him another chance and have dinner with him.

Is it possible he is honest and want something serious? Should I go out with him? - Jess

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Possible meaning relationship Dear Jess, when it comes to responding messages, women tend to respond to messages immediately, and in turn think men should be the same. Hence they often classify men as disrespectful if they don't. Just because you haven't heard from him in a while doesn't mean he is not interested at all.

Men generally deal with one issue/decision at a time and if there is something distracting him, it could take weeks before he responds. This just signifies the difference in the way men and women communicate.

He gave you a book which you really liked, represents that you are more to him then a quick bootie call so drop the ego (i.e. fear of rejection) and definitely give it another whirl. You never know where it might take you. Even if this doesn’t work out, you’ll learn something from it.

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Caught In A Cheating Trap. Help!

I am unhappily married for two years to an emotionally abusive man and have been having an affair for a year with a married man that I used to work with. Lately he's been real controlling saying he wants me to obey him and he wants to own me. He has kids and married and doesn't seem to be leaving them in the future. I'm thinking about getting a divorce soon and he says when I'm alone things will be different between us. I am just wondering if he is using me since we don't see much of each other.

We normally just sext and send pictures and one possible meet up but never in public. I'm trying to get him out of my head but I am in love with him.

Even though he says he loves me I'm not sure what his real feelings are. Feel Like a fool that I even started this. - Adele

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Wake up before it’s too late So you want to go from an emotionally abusive relationship to a controlling relationship with a married man who tells you that things will be different once you are divorce?

You know deep down that things won’t be different even when you are divorced. He will keep treating you like this as he has no intention of leaving his family.

If your marriage is intolerable, then end it. Have some respect for yourself, take some time to get your life together. The reality is, you are the common denominator of all the men you attract, hence if you are not willing to change yourself, you’ll keep attracting the same type of men in your life (abusive, aggressive, controlling etc.).

Realise that you deserve more than this and the only way to get out of this trap is to focus on you. *All names have been changed to protect privacy Please send your questions to info@intimacytv.com.au and our team will personally review and answer them.

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MPTY YOUR PAST MOTIONAL BAGGAGE Jane Nguyen

“There’s a luggage limit to every passenger on a flight.

The same rules apply to your life.

You must eliminate some baggage before you can fly.”

— Rosalind Johnson

Living a positive and happy life requires us to first let go of the past and any emotional baggage that weigh us down. Many people are afraid of letting go because they believe that it’s a daunting process but it doesn’t have to be that way.

Here are the simple 5 tips to help you let go of your emotional baggage: 1. Self-Reflection: Instead of masking these issues with self ­indulging activities (eating, shopping, drinking etc.), people or things, taking time out to think about where you are at and whether you are currently happy/fulfilled. We often go through life numbing our pain and suppressing our emotions, which only leads to more pain and issues. Instead, every week, take some time out to reflect (you can do this through journaling) and address issue(s) that are bothering you, whether you’re your health, finance, relationships or career etc. Nothing will change unless you do.

2. Honesty is the best policy: Often it’s easier to point your finger at someone or to blame people/things/events as to why you are not happy or why things don’t happen your way. It takes courage to take responsibilities and learn from your mistakes. Be honest with yourself, own up to your mistakes/downfall and learn from it. Remember: You are the common denominator of everything that is going on around you.

3. Own your emotions The more energy you put into suppressing your feelings and emotions, the more you allow them to control you. People often label emotions such as anger, shame, embarrassment, fear, etc. as ‘bad’ or ‘negative’. Just remember that these feelings or emotions are as valid as happiness, joy, love etc.

Without feeling sad, you’ll never appreciate moments of happiness. So own your emotions ­ all the good, bad and the ugly. It’s absolutely OK to be angry or fearful, feel them in your body and then release them.

4. Forgive yourself and others: An important part of emptying your emotional baggage is to learn to forgive yourself and others. Remember that your mistakes shape who you are today. Your downfall is what makes you stronger and more resilient. The people that have wronged you in the past teach you the best lessons about love and life. So thank them for that, forgive and let them go. Don’t forget to forgive yourself as well. You’ve done the best you could with what you had known.

5. Being present is the way forward Instead of holding on to the past, it’s important to be in the present moment and appreciate what life has to offer. Learn to appreciate the beautiful things and people around you. Be grateful for all that you have and all that you are. Focus on the positive because you deserve more of that in your life.

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BEAUTIFUL ADVICE FROM A DIVORCED MAN AFTER 16 YEARS OF MARRIAGE

BY JAMES RUSSELL

"After losing a woman that I loved, and a marriage of almost 16 years, here’s the advice I wish I would have had:"

1. Never stop courting Never stop dating. NEVER EVER take that woman for granted. When you asked her to marry you, you promised to be that man that would OWN HER HEART and to fiercely protect it.

2. Protect your own heart Just as you committed to being the protector of her heart, you must guard your own with the same vigilance.

3. Fall in love over and over again You will constantly change.

You’re not the same people you were when you got married, and in five years you will not be the same person you are today.

4. Always see the best in her Focus to the point where you can no longer see anything but love, and you know without a doubt that you are the luckiest man on earth to be have this woman as your wife.

5. It’s not your job to change or fix her Your job is to love her as she is with no expectation of her ever changing.

6. Take full accountability...

You are responsible for finding your own happiness, and through that your joy will spill over into your relationship and your love.

7. Never blame your wife if you... get frustrated or angry at her, it is only because it is triggering something inside of YOU. They are YOUR emotions, and your responsibility.

8. Allow your woman to just be Let her know that you hear her, and that she’s important and that you are that pillar on which she can always lean.

9. Be silly… don’t take yourself so damn seriously. Laugh. And make her laugh.

10. Fill her soul everyday… learn her love languages and the specific ways that she feels important and validated and CHERISHED. Ask her to create a list of 10 THINGS that make her feel loved and memorize those things and make it a priority everyday to make her feel like a queen.

11. Be present

14. Give her space The woman is so good at giving and giving, and sometimes she will need to be reminded to take time to nurture herself.

15. Be vulnerable…

You don’t have to have it all together. Be willing to share your fears and feelings, and quick to acknowledge your mistakes.

16. Be fully transparent If you want to have trust you must be willing to share EVERYTHING… Especially those things you don’t want to share.

"Give her not only your time, but your focus, your attention and your soul. " 12. Be willing to take her sexually...

To carry her away in the power of your masculine presence, to consume her and devour her with your strength, and to penetrate her to the deepest levels of her soul.

13. Don’t be an idiot Try not to make too big of mistakes, and learn from the ones you do make.

17. Never stop growing together T Atrophy is the natural process when you stop working a muscle, just as it is if you stop working on your relationship. Find common goals, dreams and visions to work towards.

18. Don’t worry about money Money is a game, find ways to work together as a team to win it. It never helps when teammates fight.

19. Forgive immediately... focus on the future rather than carrying weight from the past. Don’t let your history hold you hostage.

FORGIVENESS IS FREEDOM. Cut the anchor loose and always choose love.

20. Always choose love ALWAYS CHOOSE LOVE. In the end, this is the only advice you need. If this is the guiding principle through which all your choices is governed, there is nothing that will threaten the happiness of your marriage. Love will always endure.

In the end marriage isn’t about happily ever after. It’s about work. And a commitment to grow together and a willingness to continually invest in creating something that can endure eternity.

MEN ­ THIS IS YOUR CHARGE: Commit to being an EPIC LOVER.There is no greater challenge, and no greater prize. Your woman deserves that from. Be the type of husband your wife can’t help but brag about.

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are having difficulty avoiding conflict try to create other options that may decrease potential confrontations. Arrange for pickups or drop offs to take place in a neutral setting.

Parenting With Your Ex

By Christina McGhee

One of the most damaging aspects of divorce consistently emphasized by researchers, mental health professionals and family courts conflict between parents. . When children hear jabs, insults or negative comments about a parent, children tend to view it as something bad about them. This can greatly affect a child’s self image and self esteem.

Ongoing exposing to parent conflict can: Create loyalty conflicts Increase a child’s feelings of fear and insecurity.

Damage children’s self esteem and sense of self.

Keep kids from successfully adjusting or make short­term reactions worse.

Lead to more serious long­term reactions and acting out.

Leave children feeling like divorce is their fault or they are cause of parent problems.

Something to consider…

Although parents aren’t thrilled to hear this, it is very true. While your relationship as a married couple has ended, your roles as Mom and Dad will last a lifetime. Kids NEED and DESERVE to have a nurturing, supportive relationship with BOTH parents.

Tips for establishing a successful co-parenting relationship with your Ex Shield kids from conflict Often contact between parents initially is difficult and can be a breeding ground for open warfare. If you, or the other parent,

Establish a business-like relationship with your Ex Avoid conversations that address old issues, personal information or encourage conflict. If you are having difficulty separating your emotions from the situation or person, ask yourself how you would handle a similar situation with a fellow co­worker.

Change your expectations Don’t put energy into trying to control your Ex or the situation. The most you can do is be the best parent you can be and strive to influence your children in a nurturing supportive way.

If face-to-face contact is too difficult use email.

However, stay mindful that exchanging a series of angry emails with each other will not make things better for your children.

Control your anger Give yourself time to vent to a friend, sort through your feelings and cool off. During times of disagreement, do your best to keep your cool.

Be supportive of the other parent’s role in your child’s life Speak positively about the other parent to your children when possible. (If you can’t, you are probably better off not saying anything.)

Stay in charge of communication between households Inform the other parent of school functions, important details, extracurricular activities and special events whenever possible for your child’s benefit.

When possible be flexible and willing to compromise Where children are concerned plans are always subject to change. Be open to changes or agreements which serve your children’s best interest. It also sets a good example for children when parents are willing to work things out.

When the going gets tough While you may not have control over the choices your Ex makes, you do have control over the choices you make. When situations are highly conflictual or difficult keep in mind some of the following suggestions.

Don’t get worked up over the small stuff When emotions are running high it is easy for issues to become much bigger than they actually are. To gain perspective ask yourself what difference will this make six months from now? A year?

Keep discussions with your Ex focused on your kids.

If your Ex brings up old arguments or issues don’t get into a debate over who is right and who is wrong. Refocus the conversation on the issue at hand and stick to the task, parenting your children.

Avoid talking about issues or arrangements during drop-offs or pick-ups Schedule mutually agreeable times to either talk over issues or choose to share information by email. Pick ups and drop off can be emotional times for children and parents.

If face-to-face contact is too difficult use email.

Email can be a good way to exchange ideas or information about the children and minimize conflict. However, stay mindful that exchanging a series of angry emails with each other will not make things better for your children.

Don’t retaliate when your Ex launches a personal attack.

Even though it may be hard when your Ex says or does something to push your buttons, take the high road and avoid reacting to your ex spouses inappropriate behaviour.

Find safe and healthy ways to vent/process your feelings.

Dealing with conflict can be draining. Make sure you are handling your feelings and that you have appropriate outlets, as well as, a supportive network.

Provide kids with consistency and stability Regardless of what the other parent does or doesn’t do, focus on what you can control not what you can’t.

While you may not agree with the other parent’s choices children will still fare better if they have a loving stable relationship with at least one parent.

When abuse has occurred When abuse of a child or parent has occurred the recommendations regarding co­operative parenting change drastically. First and foremost, the safety of children and or an abused parent are the primary issues.

If your situation involves any type of abusive situation seek help immediately for you and your children. When abusive relationships have occurred limited contact between parents, as well as, children, may be in a child’s best interest. Legal support may also play a significant role in keeping everyone safe. Keep in mind that consistent documentation can be very important in these types of situations.

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Authentic Version Of You Name/nickname: Angela (Ange) Country & City: Perth Australia Age: 40 Gender: Female Profession: Business Owner

What did you come out as (gay, bi, transgendered, use any terms you like here)? Queer How old were you when you first realized your identity? I knew I was different around 12, but pushed it down and ignored it until my mid 20’s How hard was it to decide to come out?

I felt I didn’t have a choice in the end, I didn’t want to live a life I thought was acceptable to everyone else.

How old were you when you first told someone? 27 Did you plan it? No What made you choose that person to tell?

She was very progressive and I knew I felt safe telling her Can you remember exactly what you said?

Not really, I think we were having a conversation about being gay over drinks and I probably mentioned it then How did you feel? Relieved What was the person’s reaction? She wasn’t fazed What did they say? Probably that she wasn’t surprised What was your relationship with the person like afterwards? We became closer. I think she felt special that she was the first person I told and trusted with something so important. She was probably happy not to compete over men too.

What’s it like now? We drifted apart due to different life choices, she got married and had kids, I started a business.

Since coming out, how has that affected these areas of your life (Education, Job, Family, Friends, Relationships etc.) Everything in my life became better and more real. I now choose to surround myself with progressive thinking people who are interested in making the world a better place and are pro all types of equality (race, gender, sexuality, disability etc). I also run my own business with my partner so we’re lucky we can also choose who we work with.

What does being out mean to you? Being accepting of who you are and others knowing If you could do it all again, would you do it any differently? I wouldn’t change anything, I consider myself extremely lucky to have amazing people in my life who support me 100%, if they don’t then they’re probably not in my life.

What advice would you give someone wanting to come out? There are many others like you out there and support groups, go find them and talk to them. I feel it takes more energy to hide who you are than to just be you. Being LGBTI is only a small part of who you are, it’s your heart and soul that people love, not who you are attracted to. If someone judges you on that then they probably judge everyone on different issues, don’t waste your energy on them, find those people who love you for you.

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Foreplay Tips for Beginners

By Kathryn Lindsay and Anna Breslaw

A good way to tell if you're dating someone ass­ centric is if they request belfies, always want to have sex doggy­style, or try repeatedly to touch your asshole. You should never, ever do something you vehemently don't want to do just because your partner wants to, and if you're not ready for full­on anal sex, tell them. if you want to experiment in that general area, here are some things to know about Base Camp 1, which consists of the stepping stones to anal sex:

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It shouldn't hurt. It should basically just feel like you might need to poop. You don't!

"Relax your muscles, and breathe," advises Dr. Emily. " Use a lot of water­based lubricant."

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Communication is key. Dr. Pierce stresses the importance of always being tuned in to how the other is feeling and being vocal about your preferences.

It's not dirty. As clinical sexologist Dr. Kat Van Kirk says, the anus and the lower part of the rectum actually have very little fecal material in them, which means it tends to not be nearly as dirty as you think.

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That being said, you can totally clean things up. The key to anal play is comfort, so do whatever you need to help with any lingering anxiety. ". You can use something as simple as warm water for a quick cleanse too.

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Start small. The whole point of anal play is to keep it simple before working your way up.

"To prepare a bottom for sex play, start with fingers, tongue, or a very small sex toy designed for butt play," says clinical sexologoist Dr. Nancy Sutton Pierce

It feels best when there's some additional stimulation going on. "The anal part is something that's an accent. It adds to the overall experience," says Ian Kerner, sex expert.

Make sure your partner doesn't use the same butt finger in your vagina afterward.

"Baby wipes should be mandatory on every nightstand," says Morse.

The person doing it should err on the shallow side. Everything that goes in should If you try it a few times and hate it, don't be "just the tip." The nerve endings you're keep trying it because you think it'll trying to stimulate are in the anus — hence the eventually be tolerable. "Assuming you moniker "rimming" — and not all the way up have a considerate lover who's invested in you there, which is generally the painful part and also feeling good, I think you'd know within the first the part that makes you feel like you need to take five times whether you like it or not," says Kerner, a huge dump. explaining that this depends on a variety of There shouldn't be any rapid-fire movement factors.Add a little bit of body text immediately. Vigorous jamming of fingers You don't need to get a wax. "Most anywhere should not happen immediately. women don't get Brazilians simply to "So much of sex is fast — especially in porn — but engage in anal foreplay," says Kerner, anal play has to be prepped," says Morse. based on his research.

PLAY IT SAFER WITH HIV PREVENTION DRUG PrEP by Melina Macdonald, IntimacyTV With the Sydney Mardi Gras nearly upon us again, we thought we would bring your attention to HIV preventative drugs now available in Australia called PrEP and PEP. So what if there was a way to play it safer in regards to HIV? For those of you who have never heard of the word PrEP (Pre Exposure Prophylaxis) this is a HIV preventative drug when taken daily (just like the contraceptive pill) reduces the risk of contracting HIV by up to 99%.

Know as Truvada, this medication has been used to treat HIV positive patients for many years and in 2009 a large study showed that this same drug was not just good for treatment but as a preventative. PEP (Post Exposure Prophylaxis) however is like the morning after pill for those who think they may have been exposed to HIV. It is a 4 week course of anti­HIV treatment drugs.

WHAT do we need to know?

So here is some simple guidelines on this medication: WHO is this for?

It is for HIV negative people who may be at risk of HIV such as; MSM – Men having Sex with Men Injection drug users Transgender Women who have a sexual partner who are either drug user, having sex with men or of African decent (due to high HIV positive rates within African based cultures) BEFORE use As only 10­20% of people living with HIV actually know they have the virus all people must have a blood test first to check this plus show that the persons kidneys are working well.

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HOW OFTEN DO I TAKE IT? Daily just like a woman would take the contraceptive pill.

SIDE EFFECTS Upset stomach, loss of appetite and mild headaches are common but leave after a few weeks. There are no known common long term affects however a handful of people did have affects to kidneys and bones density which is why these tests are done a 3 monthly basis.

HOW LONG TILL IT STARTS TO WORK It takes 1 week to work however it is still important to use a condom for the prevention of other STI’s

HOW EFFECTIVE "99% prevention is administered properly in comparison to the usage of condoms which is 70%" HOW MANY MONTHS SCRIPT DO I GET Your doctor will only provide you will a script for 3 months. Every 3 months you will need to have a full blood check up including a kidney check as this drug can affect not just your kidneys but some are susceptible to decreased bone strength WHAT IF I WANT TO STOP TAKING IT You should take it for a further 28 days after any partner potential exposure HOW MUCH? As this drug is not yet subsidised by the government it costs over $2000 for a 3mth supply however there are reputable USA websites to purchase this drug from and import at a cheaper rate with a maximum 3mth dosage subscription.

Gay Couple Makes Medical History, Welcomes Triplets Born with Both Fathers’ DNA

By Andy Towle

Christo and Theo Menalaou, a gay couple who just had triplets in South Africa, have made medical history. Their newborns Joshua, Zoe, and Kate are the first triplets ever born with both of their fathers’ DNA. International Business Times reports: Theo and Christo Menelaou fertilised one egg each of a surrogate using their DNA. The same­sex couple met the surrogate at a neighbourhood meeting during the trial of former Paralympian Oscar Pistorius who was their neighbour and friend in Pretoria, South Africa. During the pregnancy, doctors found one of the eggs split, making the surrogate pregnant with triplets.

Doctor advised them to terminate two of the foetuses but the couple pushed through with the pregnancy with the babies born prematurely in July, reports The Telegraph. The three babies weigh only a little over one kilogramme each. One of them would need to undergo heart surgery in the coming months.

Two of the infants are identical twins. They live in Pretoria. The IB Times adds: They had to follow South Africa’s strict law on surrogacy which meant the couple, the surrogate and her husband signed affidavits that they are all willing participants to the arrangement and no money was exchanged, excluding expenses incurred because of the pregnancy.

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