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JANENGUYEN Aut hor ,Speaker , Tr ans f or mat i onalDat i ng SPEAKI NG TOPI CS: &Rel at i ons hi pCoach, NLPPr act i t i onerand Thes ecr etf or mul aofal ongl as t i ngands ucces s f ulr el at i ons hi p. L e v e l 2 Me t a Dynami cs How t oavoi dl os i ngyourr el at i ons hi pt oent r epr eneur s hi p Cons ul t ant How t oavoi dt het op3commonmi s t akest hatmos ts t r ongwomen makei nr el at i ons hi pt hatkeept hem s t r es s edout ,f r us t r at edand unf ul f i l l edi nr el at i ons hi ps W hyar eyouat t r act i ngMr .W r ongandhow t oef f or t l es s l yf i ndMr .Ri ght . How t os t epi nt oyourf emi ni nees s ence&al l ow yourment os t epi nt ohi s pur pos e,s t r engt h&power . How t of i ndacons ci ousmant hatcanhandl eyouandyourawes omenes s .
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C l e ans eT heC r ap By:Mi l osMar i nkovi c Ican' tbel i evehow weacceptf eel i ngl i ke s hi tmos toft het i me!Ser i ous l ywedon' t evenr eal i s ehow goodwear es uppos ed t of eelunt i lwes t ar tt r ul ygi vi ngourbody whati tneeds ! Ius edt obel i ket hi s !I tpr obabl ydi dn' t hel pt hatIt houghtt her ewasnotmuch di f f er encebet weenanappl eanda chees ebur ger .Imeani fi twasf ood,andI coul deati t …t hat ' sal lt hatmat t er ed! ! Unf or t unat el yf ormei tt ookaver y unpl eas antandhor r i bl eexper i encet o changet hewayIl ookedatf oodandal s owhatIwasgi vi ngmybody.ThedayIwasi nhos pi t alwi t hmy mum,havi ngneverbeent her ewi t hherbef or e…Is aw at er r i f i edl ooki nhereyes .Thatwast hedaywe f oundouts hehadat umourandhadbeendi agnos edwi t hpancr eat i ccancer .Fors omeonewho cons i der edt hems el vesapos i t i veper s on,Iwasknockedof fmypat hcompl et el y.If el tl os t ,s car edand hopel es s .Iwass ouncer t ai naboutmymot her ’ sf ut ur e,butatt hes amet i meIwascur i ous-whywast hi s happeni ng?!
Themor eIs t ar t edr es ear chi ng,t hemor eIs t ar t edr eal i s i nghow backwar dswewer eheadi ng!W hi l et her e wass uchar api dadvancementi nt echnol ogy,Is aw how s omekeyf undament al sofl i vi ngagoodl i f ehad beenmos t l yf or got t eni nt hi smoder nage.Thebi gges tr eas onbei ngs obackwar dsi sbecaus eofhow f as t pacedourl i veshavebecome;ever yonet r yi ngt okeepupwi t ht heeconomyandt her ei sver yl i t t l et i me. Thi si swhyf as tf oodhasgr ownandeat i ngheal t hyhast akenabacks eat . Regar dl es sofhow badi tmays eem,t her ear edef i ni t el ymanypeopl eal r eadywaki ngupt owhat ' s happeni ng,maki ngchangesandhel pi ngot her ss eewhatt hepos s i bl es ol ut i onsar e.That ' swhyIl ovewhat Ido…t hepeopl eIwor kwi t har eext r emel ypas s i onat eaboutpr ovi di ngconveni ents ol ut i onst ogetpeopl e backont r ackwi t ht hei rheal t h.Ther emaybeal otoff ocusonwei ghtl os sandf i t nes si ns oci et y,butt he number1f ocuss houl dbeondi ges t i veheal t h.Ourdi ges t i ves ys t em i st hegat ewayt ot her es tofourbody andi fi t ' snotf unct i oni ngpr oper l y,wewon' tbeachi evi ngmanyoft heheal t hgoal swe' r eai mi ngf or . Thi si swhydai l ycl eans i ngi ss oi mpor t ant .W e' r eput t i ngs uchat oxi cl oadonourbodyever ydaywi t hal l t hechemi cal si nt hef oodweeatands ki ncar eandcl eani ngpr oduct sweus e,yetweonl yl ookatcl eans i ng oncei nawhi l e.I ts houl dbeadai l yact i vi t yandt hat ' swhyf i ndi ngaconveni entwayi sver yi mpor t ant . Ourmai nf ocusi st ohel ppeopl ei mpr ovet hei rdi ges t i veheal t ht hr oughpl antbas eds uppl ement ss uchas enzymes ,pr obi ot i csandot herpr oduct s ,andal s or epl aceamaj orpar toft het oxi cchemi call oadont hei r bodybyus i ngor gani ces s ent i aloi l s . Oncewes t ar tgi vi ngourbodywhati tact ual l yneedst ot hr i ve,andf i l l i ngi nt hemi s s i nggapsofwhat we' r enotget t i ngf r om ourf ood,wes t ar tr eal i s i nghow cr azywehavebeent oacceptf eel i ngs ocr apf or s ol ong!
Mi l osandhi spar t nerVi ckiar et woyoungent r epr eneur swho ar ever ydr i veni ns pr eadi ngt hemes s ageofgoodheal t h becaus eofci r cums t ancesi nt hef ami l yt hathadaf f ect edt hem. Theywor kwi t hat eam ofexper t si ncl udi ngdoct or s ,nat ur opat hs s ci ent i s t sandr es ear cher swhohaveover1 00year sof exper i encei nt heheal t hi ndus t r yputt oget herandt hei rmi s s i on i st obr i ngt hi sknowl edget ot hepubl i cs opeopl ecanunder s t and whydi ges t i veheal t hi ss oi mpor t antandwhats t epst ot aket o gi vet hei rbodi eswhatt heyneedi nor dert of unct i onatt hei r bes t . www. es s ent i al oi l s gui de. com. au INTIMACYTV/JULY 5
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SetGoal sFort hi sYear Now youcans t ar twi t hacl eans l at e.Is ugges tt hatyouar es peci f i caboutyourf i nanci algoal s ,f or exampl e,r at hert hans ayi ngIwantt omakemor emoney,wr i t edownadol l arf i gur e. •Choos ehow muchmoneyyouwantt omakei ns al est hi syear( dol l arf i gur e)andt henwor kouthow manys peci f i cpr oduct s / s er vi cesyoumus ts el lt or eacht hi samount .Lookbackatt hel as tyear ’ sbes t
s el l i ngpr oduct s / s er vi cesandt heoneswi t ht hegr eat es tpr of i tmar gi ns . •Deci dehow muchmoneyyouwantt obepai dandwhet heryouwantt or ecei veawageort aker egul ar dr awi ngsoutoft hebus i nes s . •Revi ew yourexpens esands el ectwhi chonesyouar egoi ngt ocutoutorr educe. •Setupas i mpl ebudgetf or ecas t( s oundss car ybuti t ’ snot–Ipr omi s e! )andpl ayar oundwi t hyours al es andexpens est os eewhatyouhavet odot omakeapr of i t .Youcoul dal s omoni t oryourbudget t hr oughoutt heyearandmeas ur ehow youar eact ual l ygoi ngagai ns twhatyoui ni t i al l ybudget edf or . •Of t enwhens et t i nggoal sf orourbus i nes swef ocusj us tont hef i nanci aloroper at i onalgoal showeveri t ’ s i mpor t antt oi ncl udehow youwantt of eelt hi syear .Doyouwantt of eeli ncont r ol ,empower ed, s ucces s f ul , or gani zedormot i vat ed?Theai mi st obes peci f i candl ookathow youcanr unyourbus i nes s s oyouar eabl et of eelt hi sway.I fyouwantt of eeli ncont r ol ,f orexampl e,t hi smaymeannotonl yof yourf i nancesbutal s oofyourt i mes oyoumayneedt ocons i derl ooki ngati mpr ovi ngt hes ys t emsand pr oces s esi nyourbus i nes s . Mai nt ai ni ngMoment um Thi scans omet i mesbet het r i ckypar tbutper s i s t i ngwi t hs t i cki ngt oyourvi s i onandgoal swi l lpayof f ! W hatchangesdoyouhavet omaket oens ur eyoumai nt ai nmoment um ands t i ckt oyourgoal s ? •Keepi ngyouraccount supt odat eandaccur at ewi l lhel pyoukeept r ackofyourf i nanci algoal sand s et t i ngas i deadayperweek( orevenhal faday)t owor konyourbus i nes swi l lenabl eyout os eet hebi g pi ct ur e,s t i ckt oyourvi s i onandnotgetl os ti nt hedai l yt odo’ s .Youmayneedt ogett obedear l i erand s t ar tt hedayear l i erorbl ockoutdi s t r act i onsdur i ngpar toft hedays oyouar emor epr oduct i ve. •Havi ngcl ar i t yaboutt hevi s i onyouhavef oryourbus i nes sandul t i mat el yt hel i f es t yl eyouwantyour bus i nes st opr ovi dei samas s i vemot i vat ort os t i ckt oyourgoal s .W het heryouwr i t eyourvi s i ondownor cr eat eavi s i onboar dt hi swi l lhel pwi t hmai nt ai ni ngyourmoment um,whi chi spar t i cul ar l yhandyi fyou gets i det r ackedorchal l enged. •I nves ti nacoachorment ort ohel pkeepyouaccount abl e.I ff i nancesar eabi tt i ghtt hencons i der pai r i ngupwi t hs omeoneel s ewhoneedsanaccount abi l i t ys t r uct ur eandwor kt oget hert os uppor teach ot her .
“ Th e r e a l v a l u e o f s e t t i n gg o a l s i s n o t t h e r e c o g n i t i o n o r r e wa r d , i t s t h e p e r s o nwe b e c o me b yf i n d i n gt h e d i s c i p l i n e , c o u r a g e a n dc o mmi t me n t t oa c h i e v e t h e m. ”
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Doyouf eell i keyourcar eeri snotr eal l ygoi nganywher eandmor eof t ent hannotyou’ r ecount i ngdown t hemi nut esunt i lyoucangetoutoft her e?Somanypeopl echoos et os t ayi nunf ul f i l l i ngj obs ,event hough t heyknow t her ei ss omet hi ngbet t erwai t i ng. Sowhati st hef i r s ts t ept o“ s t ar t i ngover ” ?Thever yf i r s ts t epi st oacceptt hatyouar enots t ar t i ngover ; eveni tmi ghtf eell i ket hat .Yous ee;muchl i kehow abankappl i escompoundi ngi nt er es tont hemoneyi n yours avi ngsaccount ,ever ys i ngl eper s onhascompoundi ngl i f eexper i enceandpr of es s i onalexper i ence. Ever yt hi ngyou’ ves t udi ed,wor kedwi t h,managedandbeeni nvol vedi nhasgi venyouar angeofval uabl e exper i ences ,youj us thavenotl ear nedt os ees omeoft hos eashi ghl yval uabl e!Andgues swhat–i fyou don’ tval uet hi scompoundi ngef f ecti nyours ki l l s et ,nooneel s ewi l lei t her . W enevers t ar tf r om s cr at ch,eveni fwemi ghtbeheadi ngi nt os omet hi ngunf ami l i ar . “How doIf i ndmypas s i ont hen?” Ther ear emanygr eatt ool syoucanus eandunpackt oget herwi t hacar eercoach,butf i r s tIwoul d encour ageyout oputal lyourpr es s ur esand“ Is houl d”i t emsas i deandal l ow s omecr eat i ves pace. Onet hi ngt hatwi l lgetyous t ar t edi swhatIcal lt hemagi ct r i angl e. Thet r i angl ei sbas edon3equal l yi mpor t antcor ner s : 1 )Somet hi ngyouar enat ur al l ygoodat 2)Somet hi ngt hati sf unand 3)s omet hi ngt hatchal l engesands t r et chesyou.
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Idon’ tr emembert hef i r s tt houghtIhadi nt heki t chent hatni ght ,butIdoknow s omeofmyi ni t i ali mpul s es . “ How di dt hi shappen?”“ How am Igoi ngt ol i ve?”“ Icannotpos s i bl ydot hi s . ”“ W hatwi l lIdo?” Mycl ar i t ynow i sal mos tunbel i evabl e,exceptt hati t ’ st r ue.Mymi s s i onnow asas peaker ,aut hor ,coach andeventor gani s eri st ohel ppeopl ef ol l ow t hei rpas s i on. I ti snotanabs enceoff eart hatpr opel sme.W eal lexper i encef ear .Fearoff ai l ur e.Fearoft heunknown. Fearofr ej ect i on.Evenf earofs ucces s .Is t i l lf eelf earmos tdays ,butpeopl eof t ens ayI ’ ms t r ongand conf i dent .Il ear nedas ecr etaf t erAl ecdi ed.Thatl es s ons t ar t edf i r s twhenIwass car edt os i tont hecouch wi t houthi m.Thel es s onkeepshel pi ngmet hr ough,ever yt i meIam af r ai di nmynew wor l d.Now Idos i ton t hecouch,wi t hmynew l ovewhat ’ smor e,andIdobui l dnew l i f eevenwhenI ’ mt er r i f i ed. W hat ’ smys ecr et ? Ihaves wappedt hepr et enceofs t r engt handconf i dencef oradedi cat i ont obr aver yandcour age.Idon’ t wai tf ort hef eart ol eavebef or eIact ,butIr emi ndmys el ft hatIam def i nedbymyl oveandhow I demons t r at ei t . Thi scommi t mentt ocour ageper mi t sr aw hones t yi nal lar eas ,becaus ei ts t ar t sbyadmi t t i ngmyf ear ,t hen i ti si mpl ement edbymaki ngmys el faccount abl et oahi gherpur pos e.Ther ear enol i es ,noexcus es .Onl ya t r ut hf ulacknowl edgementofmyvul ner abi l i t yandacommi t mentt oact i onr egar dl es s . Thi smi nds etl i ber at esmet oadmi tot hert hi ngst oo.Iownal lmymi s t akes ,hur t ,f r us t r at i on,conf us i on,and s or r ow whenIchoos eaut hent i ci t y.Thi si show wes us t ai nt hepur s ui tofourpas s i onsandIt hi nki t ’ st he mai nr eas onf ormypr ogr es s .Thi sl es s onhast r ans f or medt hemos tgut wr enchi ngl os sofmyl i f ei nt ot he chancet opr epar emycor ei dent i t y,per cei venew oppor t uni t i es ,pos s es st hepowerofowni ngupt omy pot ent i al ,andenj oyt heempower mentofpur s ui ngmypur pos e. Sos omehow,des pi t et hedevas t at i ngl os st hatwi l lal waysbes ad,myl i f er eal l yi sbet t ernow t hatmyhus bandi sdead.
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What are you passionate about?
I am Passionate about quantum healing ,self love, sensuality, embodiment and creative empowerment. A t ypical day
I would have to say most of my days are quite varied as I travel a lot for my work and it depends on what activities I have. However, on average I will always spend time connecting with my inner self and centering through meditation, yoga or time in nature. I also make sure I have a dancing or singing session most days. The most significant influence in my working career was/is
I have had so many influences/mentors through out my journey and they change depending on what I'm learning and integrating in my life. I consider anyone I look up to and respect has something to teach me. I'm most proud of
Making a spontaneous decision to quit my career in Information Technology, to follow my dreams, which I didn't even really know what they were at the time but I just knew life was too short to be unhappy and inauthentic.
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One of the most memorable moments was
My very first experience having Ayaheusca with a trained Shaman in 2012. It was mind blowing. I was never the same again after this experience. Whats the biggest lesson you learned
Not being yourself is too big a price in this life. You have to free yourself from yourself.
Whats the biggest challenge you face
My biggest challenge has been accepting my sensual and sexual expression publically, unashamedly and openly sharing this part of myself having grown up in a very conservative and religious society were women get beaten for wearing mini skirts on the streets. There is a lot of shaming of women and suppression of their sexuality and expression. I still live with the fear of rejection and being ostracized by family and friends. Especially in this modern day and age with social media. You can not hide who you are and live a double life. You just have be authentic. 3 best tips
-Dance and Sing as often as you can. -Tree Hugging or Earthing to clear your body of anxiety and unwanted negative vibes. Its simple , effective and free -Be relentless in weeding out negativity and drama in your life. What is your biggest dream
To travel the world, speaking, healing and inspiring women from all backgrounds to be the best versions of themselves, so they too may know they are worthy of all that they dream. What I like best about my job
I love the relief, transformation and alignment people experience after working with me. I love watching someone become who they were always meant to be. It makes me feel like I am doing my part to make the world a better place with every person I work with. My clients also heal me because the people who tend to gravitate towards me have had similar challenges or experiences as me and often it feels like I am seeing my own reflection in another body. Taking up the responsibility to do this kind of work and step up also means I have a duty to be in integrity with myself, always practicing what I preach. If you weren't doing this job what would you do instead
Within my career and life I get to do everything that I love. There is no choosing, sacrificing or a Plan B. I just get live my love period!
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Ibel i evebei ngofs er vi cet oot her si st hemos tr ewar di ng gi f tyoucanr ecei vei nl i f e.Al lt hr oughmy20sIl i veda ver ydepr es s i ng,s el fdes t r uct i ve,dr amaandaddi ct i on f i l l edl i f eandatt hebes tt i mei twasamedi ocr el i f e.I r emembers ovi vi dl ycons t ant l yt r yi ngt of i l lt hevoi dIf el t Photo credit:@JoshOpalMaden wi t hi nmys el fand al wayst r yi ngt of i nds omeki ndof r el i efbutal waysf al l i ngs hor t . Byt heendofmy20sIwas depl et ed,s ui ci dalanddi s s at i s f i edi nf i r s tcar eeri nI . T.Ir eal i s edIwasl i vi ngamer ef r act i onofmy pot ent i al ;s et t l i ngf ormoneyands ecur i t y,butt hes ecur i t ynevercoul dqui t ef i l lt hevoi d. Iwasa ps ychol ogi cal l yandemot i onal l yabus i ver el at i ons hi pf orf i veyear sdur i ngt hi st i mewhi chl ef tmeanempt y s hel lofper s on.Feel i ngwor t hl es sandl os t .Iunder s t andnott hatImadeal loft hes echoi cesunknowi ngl y andoutmyowni gnor anceandt henwat chedast heys uckedt hel i f ef or ceoutofme,unt i lIr eached br eaki ngpoi nt .Mypas s i oncomesf r om havi ngexper i encedt hes t ar kcont r as toft hes eexper i ences .And ast heys ayexper i encei st hebes tt eacher . W hocanbenef i tf r om yours er vi ce? Anyonewhoi sf eel i ngphys i cal l yoremot i onal l yunwel lors i mpl ys omeonewhohast heawar enes st hat t heyar enotashappyast heyknow t heycoul dbebutt heyar enots ur ehow t ogett ot hi spl acei nt hei r l i f e.Someonewhohast r i edal lt heconvent i onalmet hodst ohealandi sopenmi nded,l ooki ngf oral ong t er ms ol ut i onandpr epar edt odowhat everi tt akest of i ndheal i ngandadeepers ens eoff ul f i l mentand happi nes s
W hatmakesyou/ s er vi ce/ bus i nes suni que( s et syouapar tf r om ot herpeopl ewi t hi nyouri ndus t r y? Il i ket ohealt hever ycor eofanydys f unct i onori l l nes s .Mys ki l l s etal l owsmet oacces sands eet hebl ocks t hatar et hever ycor eofanypat t er nordi s har mony.I ’ m noti nt er es t edi nmaki ngyouf eelbet t erf or5mi ns . Iwantyout ogetbet t erandneverneedmyhel pagai n.
W hatar eyourcl i ent skeychal l enges ?AndW hy? Mos tofmycl i ent ss t r uggl ewi t hf i ndi ngabal ancewi t ht heMas cul i neandFemi ni neener gi es .Theyar e ei t hert oodomi nanti nt hei rmas cul i neener gyands uppr es s i ngt hei rf emi ni negi f t s ,s el fexpr es s i onand cr eat i vi t y.Thei rs ens ualexpr es s i on,r el at i ons hi pwi t ht hei rbodi esands exual i t yal s ogr eat l ys uf f er sasa r es ul t .Ther eas onbei ngwel i veapat r i ar chals oci et yandt hef emi ni nepr i nci palhasbeenheavi l y s uppr es s edwi t hi nal lofusf orcent ur i es .Rel i gi on,Educat i on,mai ns t r eam medi ahaveal lcont r i but edt ot he di s t or t edbel i efs ys t ems ,concept sandi deasofhow wes houl dexpr es sours ens ual i t yands exual i t y. How doeswhatyoudobenef i tourvi ewer s ? Themodal i t i esIwor kwi t hcancl earpas tt r aumas ,memor i es ,bel i efs ys t ems ,bl ocksar ounds exual i t y, s ens ual i t y,i nt i macy,s el fl oveandyourownabi l i t yt oexpr es syourowncr eat i vi t yandt obeempower edi n t hi s .Asar es ul t ,i l l nes scaus edbyt hi si mbal ancewi t hi nyour s el fcanbeheal ed. Anyt hi ngexci t i ngcomi ngup? Fol l ow meons oci almedi af orupcomi ngevent sandwor ks hops . 3bes tt i psf oryouraudi ence? 1 .Al waysmaket i met ogi vebackt oyour s el f 2.Know t hatyouar eal wayswor t hyanddes er vi ngofl oveandgr eati nt i macy 3.Makeyourheal i ngapr i or i t yandbydoi ngs oyous ayyest ot hel i f eyouknow youdes er ve.
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I si tnor malf ormyhus bandt o dot hi s ?
Iki ndofhaveamor aldi l emmagoi ngonher e.I I ’ vebeenmar r i edf oraboutayear .Myhus band f oundoutaf ew weeksagot hatmyf i ancécr eat ed andIdeci dedt ot r yf orababyr ecent l yandwe anaccountonapor ns i t eandi spr et endi ngt obea wer epr egnanti nabout4mont hsbuts adl yl os t gi r lont her e.He' ss ext i ngwi t hmul t i pl eguyst al ki ng t hebabyat1 5weeks .W ewer ebot hs oexci t ed ver ydi r t y.If oundoutabouti tbyacci dentand f orababyandwhenIl os tt hebabyhewasan whenIdi dIconf r ont edhi m abouti t .Hewas i ncr edi bl es uppor t .Myhus bandwas n' tr eal l y def ens i veatf i r s tandaf t eraf ew f l ar eupshe i nt er es t edi ns exf r om t het i meIgotpr egnant expl ai nedwhyhe' sdoi ngi t :i t ' sj us tamas t ur bat or y unt i lnow.al t houghhes ayshewant st ot r yagai n t hi ng,hei s n' tcheat i ngbecaus ehe' snevergoi ngt o f orababy,hedoes n' teveri ni t i at es exal t hough meetwi t ht hes eguys ,andi t ' sas t r es sr el i everf r om hei sof t enaf f ect i onat e.Ihadal ookonhi sphone t hes t r es sofj obs ear chi ng.He' ss t i l ldoi ngi t ,al mos t andf oundoutt hathehadt woaccount sondat i ng ever yday,f oraf ew hour s ,whet herI ' m athomeor webs i t esandt extmes s ageswi t ha" mas s eus e" atwor k.Heal s os ext sus i ngt ext i ngappsont he whi l eIwasoutoft ownt heot herni ght .I ts eems web.W ehaves exr egul ar l yandhes ayshe' ss uper t ohavebeenmor eofapr os t i t ut eashewas happywi t hme.Ibel i evehi m.W e' vebeent oget her meet i ngheratahot elandherwebs i t ehadnude f or4year sandhe' smademever yhappyi nmul t i pl e phot os .Now Idon' tknow whatt odo.Il ovet hi s ways .Idon' tknow exact l ywhybutt hi ss ext i ng manbutIam compl et el ybl i nds i ded.DoIconf r ont t hi ngi ss t i l lbuggi ngmeevent houghwe' vet al ked hi m?How doIappr oacht hi s ??Iam devas t at ed. abouti t . . .Anyi deas ?Shoul dIber i ghti nbei ng Ihaven' tt ol danyoneaboutt hi sasIam mor t i f i ed. . . . .concer ned?I st hi ss omet hi ngnor mals omeguysdo? butam now f eel i ngver yi s ol at ed. Iknow t hathe' spans exualhe' smadet hatver ycl ear
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Addr es st her eali s s uesi nyour r el at i ons hi pf i r s t
Fi r s tofal l ,Iam s or r yf oryourl os t .I ti snot s omet hi ngt hati seas yt ogot hr ough.I nr egar dst o yourhus bandnoti ni t i at i ngs ex,i tcoul dbeduet o acoupl eofr eas ons .Somemendohes i t at et ohave s exwi t ht hei rpar t nerast heyar eaf r ai dofhur t i ng t hebaby.However ,t hi smaynotbet hecas ei nt hi s s i t uat i on.Ther emaybeunder l yi ngi s s ueswhi ch havenotbeenaddr es s edi nyourr el at i ons hi p. Thef actt hatyoucheckedhi sphonemays ound l i ket her ei sal ackoft r us ti nt her el at i ons hi p.Ido t hi nkyouneedt oconf r onthi m aboutt hedat i ng webs i t esaswel last het extmes s ages .Bef or eyou t hi nkabouthavi nganot herbaby,It hi nki t ’ swi s e youaddr es st hes ei s s ues .Havi ngababywon’ tf i x yourr el at i ons hi p,i t ’ sj us tgonnamakei teven har deranddef i ni t el ynotf ai rf ort hebaby.You won’ tt obr i nghi m/ herupi nanenvi r onmentt hat i sl ovi ng&nur t ur i ng,notf ul lofl i esandcheat i ng.
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INTIMACYTV/JULY 13
Te l e p a t h i c Lo v e Dani el aBi rch I nt ernat i onalPsychi cMedi um and SoulMat eSpeci al i st www. dani el abi rch. com Movi ngonf r om s omeoneyouhavehadanobvi ousconnect i onwi t hi sr eal l yhar dt odo;es peci al l yi ft hi si s as oulmat ewi t hwhom youhavebeenwi t hovermanyi ncar nat i ons .Longaf t ert hatper s onhasl ef tyour l i f e,youcans t i l lbeener get i cal l yconnect edt ot hem bywhati sknownasEt her i cChakr aCor ds . Somecl eari ndi cat i onst hi sper s oni ss t i l lat t achedt ooyoui s : . Youf eelt heener get i cpr es enceoft hi sper s onandyoucannotgett hem outofyourmi nd. . Youcons t ant l yt hi nkaboutt hem yetyoumaybei nanot herr el at i ons hi port heyar e!I ns omecas est hey ar eevenmar r i edwi t haf ami l y. . Ther ei st hi sener get i cpul lt obewi t ht hem yetyoudon' tunder s t andf ul l ywhy. . Youmayf orexampl epi ckupont hei rt hought s&f eel i ngs ;youmays mel lt hes centoft hei rcol ogne,have s exualener gypr oj ect edont oyououtofnowher e,s ens et hi st ot alemer gi ngofbot hyourbodi esand hear t s&youcanevenheart hem t al ki ngt oyoui nyourmi nd! Theyar ecommuni cat i ngl ovi ngt hought st el epat hi cal l y;how mucht heymi s syou,andwi s hyouwer e t oget her . Youmayevenf eelt hem i fyourwi t hyourcur r entpar t ner ,t r yi ngt ocomei nbet weenyou,event hough t heyendedt her el at i ons hi p.
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Aswear emul t i di mens i onalbei ngs ,wear eabl et opower f ul l yconnectwi t heachot hervi aanener gypor t al f r om t hei rs oul s ,hear t sandmi nds !Thi si sl i kenedt oanans wer i ngoft hei r" Tel epat hi cFr equencyPhone Cal l "yeti nmos tcas est heot herper s oni sunawar eoft hi sexchange,asi ti shappeni ngi nt heet her i c! Thi si sawayf ort het woofyout os t ayconnect ed,eveni foneorbot hofyouar ecur r ent l yi ns acr ed cont r act swi t hanot her .
Yett her ei ss t i l layear ni ng,us ual l yonas oull evelt obeabl et oconnecti nt ot heot her sener gyf i el d! Thi smaybeoccur r i ngasyourownSpi r i t ualCont r act s( wi t hyourcur r entpar t ner )ar eyett obe compl et edandi t ' sawayt os t ayi nt ouchoroneofyoui sdes per at el yunhappyandyouar e" f eedi ng"of f eachot her ' sl ovi ngvi br at i on!I ft het woofyouar eSoulMat esandi twas n' tt hedi vi net i met obet oget her , ort hel oveyous har edwass oover whel mi ng&power f ul ;youar es t i l lf ul l yat t ached,unabl et ol etgoand t hi si swher et heTel epat hi cUni onwi l lt akepl ace. Theconswi t ht hi sexchangecanbet hati t ' sver yaddi ct i veasyourf eedi ngof feachot her ' sener gy, es peci al l ys exual l y&i fyourort hei rpar t ner sar enotmeet i ngt hei rneeds ,youar eal l owi ngyour s el ft obe mani pul at edener get i cal l y,s oi deal l yt heyar el i vi ngt hebes tofbot hwor l ds !
Ther eas oni t ' shar dt obr eakf r eei st hei ri snoego,youf eelt hi ss ens eofpur el oveasi t sl i t er al l yf r om t hei r s oul !Yeti tal l owst hem t oknow youral wayst her ef ort hem nomat t erwhat ,andes peci al l yi fyoudonot
communi cat eatal li nt hephys i cali e.Not ext i ng/ phonecal l s ,t henyoui nf actbei ngs pi r i t ual l ymani pul at ed. I ft hi st el epat hi cexchangehasbeengoi ngonf orawhi l e,andi t ' spr event i ngyouf r om connect i ngi nt o yourcur r entpar t nerorhol di ngyoubackf r om meet i ngs omeonenew,t heni t ' st i met ocr eat es ome boundar i es . I t ' st i met ocl os et hi s' l ovepor t al'andcr eat es ome' t oughl ove' !Atf i r s tt hi sper s onwi l lgoi nt opani cand f eelabandoned,yeti ft heyr eal l ywantyoui nt hei rl i ves ,t hent heyneedt os how youi nt hephys i cal i t y! ! How t oyoudot hi s? St ep1 :Fi r s t l yt al kt ot hi spar toft hem andas kt hei rhi ghers el f ,s oulandhear tt ocompl et el yl eaveand s t epback!Thi smayf eell i keyou' r ehear thasbeenr i ppedapar tbuti t ' scr uci alf oryout obedi s cer ni ng. St ep2:Vi s ual i zedoor sar oundyouwher et heyar eabl et oent erbei ngcl os ed,andevenl ockt hes e ener get i cdoor s .As kAr changelMi chaelt ocl earal lhooksandener get i ccor dsat t achedt ot hem andbe r el eas ed.I ns t ant l yyouwi l lf eelyour s el fbei ngf r eeandabl et ot hi nkcl ear l y.Sur r oundyour s el fi nabubbl e ofdi amondl i ghtt ohel ps ealyouraur as ot heyar eunabl et oknockont hedoorwhent heywant ! St ep3:Ful l ydi s ci pl i neyourmi ndandt r ynott ot hi nkaboutt hem t oomuch,ast hi sal l owsnew cor dst o becomeat t achedandyouwi l lneedt os t ar tt hepr oces sal lover .Remembert heyar epower f ulandnohow t ogett ooyou,bys endi ngyout hei rl oveandyouaut omat i cal l yopenupt ot hem.
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1 0mont hsago,Igavebi r t ht ot hemos tbeaut i f ull i t t l egi r landIador eherwi t hal lmyhear t .Butt he j our neyofmot her hoodhas n’ tbeenal ls moot hs ai l i ng.I nf act ,i twasmor el i keanemot i onalr ol l ercoas t er r i de.Ir ememberl ooki ngi nt ot hemi r r oraweekaf t ergi vi ngbi r t hands eei ngal lt hes t r et chmar ks ,cel l ul i t e and‘ bi t s ’Iwasl ef twi t h.AsmuchasIam gr at ef ulandpr oudf orwhatI ’ vebeent hr ough,att het i met her e wasas ens eofl os s–If el tl i keIl os tmyowni dent i t y.I twasl i keapar tofmehaddi ed.Bef or ebi r t h,It ook pr i dei nl ooki ngaf t ermys el f ,owni ngmybodyandmys exual i t y.Af t erbi r t h,Ir emembercons t ant l yf el l‘ f at ’ anduns exy,hi di ngbehi ndl oos ecl ot hi ng,di s l i ki ngwhatIs aw i nt hemi r r or .Bef or eIknow i t ,Iwass ayi ng al lt henas t ys t uf faboutmybodi es .Anyonewho’ samum knowst hats omet i mesyouar et oot i r edt ogi ve as h* tabouthow yourbodyl ook,orbebot her edabouts havi ngyourl egsorwas hi ngt hei rhai r .Iwast he s ame.Ir at hers l eptt hanhavi ngs hower / was hi ngmyhai r .
ThenIr eal i s edt hatt hemor eIkeepgoi ngl i ket hi s ,t hef ur t herIam awayf r om r ecl ai m myownconf i dence, happi nes sands exual i t y.I fIvowedt oal waysputi nef f or ti nmyr el at i ons hi pwi t hmyhus band,i t ’ sabout t i meIputt hatext r aef f or ti nt her el at i ons hi pwi t hmys el f .SoIs ai dt omys el f‘ Fuckt hi st i r ednes s ,I ’ m goi ng t ol ookandf eelashappyandconf i dentasIwannaf eel . ’ThatdayImadet hedeci s i ont ol ovemys el fagai n, andl ovi ngever ybi t sofmypos tbabybody.I twas n’ tanover ni ghtpr oces sandI ’ m gl adIdi di t ,becaus eI cant el lyouhow genui nel yhappyIam wi t hmybody. Soi nt hi sar t i cl e,Iwoul dl i ket os har ewi t hyous omes i mpl et i psf oramor epos i t i vebodyi magepos tbaby
1 . Letgooft heol d&embr acet henew Let t i nggooft heexpect at i onspr ebabyaboutyourbodyandhow youar es uppos edt ol ookorf eel .Thi s i spr obabl yt hehar des tt hi ngf ormet obehones tbecaus eIhadt ol etgoofmyol di dent i t yandembr ace t hi snew ver s i onofmeasamum ( i ncl udi ngmypos tbabybody) .Lear nt ol ookatyours t r et chmar ksand cel l ul i t esas‘ wars car s ’becaus eyouwentt hr oughhel landbackdel i ver i ngt hi sbaby.Si tdownandt hi nk aboutar eal i s t i cver s i onofyou–W henyouar ehappy,cont entandconf i dent ,whatdoesi tl ook/ f eel / s ound l i ket oyou? 2.Remi ndyour s el fhow t r ul ybeaut i f ulandamazi ngyouar e. Your eal l yar ebeaut i f ulandamazi ng.I fyoudon’ tbel i eveme,yous houl ds eeyour s el ff r om yourchi l dr en’ s per s pect i ves .Youar et hei rever yt hi ng.Tol ear nt os eemys el ff r om adi f f er entper s pect i veal l owsmet o di s as s oci at ewi t hal lt henegat i vet hi nki ng.Sof orweeksIwr ot eonmymi r r or“ Youar eenough”andkeep r epeat i ng“ Iam beaut i f ulandIam ENOUGH” .Idi di tunt i lIf eelcompl et el ycongr uentwi t hmys el f . 3.Dos omet hi ngt hatmakesyouf eelhappyandbeaut i f ul Thi sdoes n’ thavet obes omet hi nggr ant ,coul dbes omet hi ngt hati ss i mpl el i kegoi ngf orwal ks ,exer ci s i ng ,havi ngas hower ,get t i ngyournai l sdone,get t i ngamas s age,medi t at i nget c.FormeIcommi t t edt oget outofmyPJ,haveas hower ,getdr es s edi npr opercl ot hesandputmakeuponnomat t erhow t i r edIf el t . Ther ewer edayswher eIr at herhi dundert hebl anketandnotf acet hewor l d,butmos tdaysIf el tamazi ng af t ermymor ni ngr out i ne.Ial s ot r i edt ogetoutf orwal ks ,pl aycent r eandcof f eeasmuchaspos s i bl es oI coul df eel‘ nor malandME’agai n. 4.Lear nt obei nt i mat ewi t hyour s el fandyourpar t neragai n. Mos tpeopl et hi nkt hatt heyneedt of eelconf i dentwi t ht hei rbodyf i r s tbef or et heycanbes exualand i nt i mat ewi t ht hei rpar t neragai n.I t ’ sact ual l yt heot herwayar ound.Havi ngt i meal onet ogeti nt ouch wi t hmybodyandbei nt i mat eagai nal l owsmet of eelmor econnect edwi t hmys el fandf eelmor e conf i dent .Mumsal lgot hr oughani ncr edi bl ej our neywi t hbi r t handi ts ur echangeshow yous eeandf eel aboutyourbody,es peci al l ydownt her e.Taket i met or econnectwi t hyour s el fi nt i mat el y,r eal i s i ngt hat event houghyouar eamum now,i tdoes n’ tchanget hef actt hatwear eal ls exualbei ngs .Don’ tr us hi nt o s exbutal s odon’ twai tt ool ongt ohaves exagai n.Thel ongeryouwai t ,t hel es syouwanti tandevent ual l y you’ l lj us tt el lyour s el fyoudon’ tneedi t( whi chi sat ot alB/ S) .St ar twi t hs omes ens ualmas s age,ki s s i ngor j us tt ouchi ngandbui l di tupf r om t her e. 5.Gr at i t ude,gr at i t ude,gr at i t ude W henyoucomef r om apos i t i veandgr at ef ulpl ace( aka.Thanki ngyourbodyf orwhatani ncr edi bl e j our neyi thasbeent hr ough) ,your eal i s ehow s t r ongandamazi ngyourbodyr eal l yi s .Lookatbody f eat ur esyouar epr oudofnow anddr es swel lt oaccent uat et hos ef eat ur es .Soi ns t eadoft r yi ngt o s queezei nanol dpai rofj eanst hatnol ongerf i tyou,buyt her i ghts i zet of i tyours hape.Makel ovi ngyour bodyapr i or i t y( i . e.t aki ngcar eofyourbodybyeat i ngheal t hi er&exer ci s i ng)i ns t eadofl os i ngwei ght andyou’ l lf i ndt hatt hewei ghtwi l ldr opnat ur al l y. Ihopet hes es i mpl e5t i pshel pyouf al li nbacki nl ovewi t hyourbodypos tbaby.Foranyques t i ons ,pl eas e f eelf r eet os endanemai lt oj ane@i nt i macyt v. com. au
“ D ar i ngg r e at l yme anst hec o u r ag et oB EVU L NE R AB L E . I tme anst os ho wu pandb es e e n.T oas kf o rwhatyo une e d . T ot al kab o u tho w yo u rf e e l i ng .T ohavet hehar dc o nve r s at i o ns . ”
Marie-Louis e Powsey is the founder of Life Stylin,' which aims to help people who feel a bit s tuck in their life, and uns ure of their next step toward happines s . She helps them to examine as pects which are holding them back, and empowers them to make smart decisions that they will f orever be confident in. facebook.com/LifeStylinDatingCoach
Starting over is like starting from scratch, isn't it? Well, it doesn't have to be. It all depends on your perspective. I, for one, choose not to see it that way. It doesn't have to feel as though your life until that point has been a waste, because it hasn't been. But that's your choice. In fact, it affords you the chance to do things a different way if you want to. Or you can do it again the right way but with a new mindset. Because no matter how much or how little time has passed, you're different now.
Whatever happened previously has brought you to where you are now, and it's made you who you are now. It hurt you, or helped you mature, but whatever it was, it brought you here. You can use your experience to navigate your future, and make the best of it, based on what you want your life to be. What you want for yourself will likely change with time. For example, if you're newly out of a marriage, what you want soon after the split could be different from 2 years down the track. ie shag first, relationship later. Getting back into dating can be a real headfuck. Even keeping it casual can be a headfuck, but you're stronger than you ever were, so you can do it. You won't necessarily know what you want straight away, and you might make a few mistakes along the way, but they're important, because they'll help you figure out what you do and don't want. From the time I truly came to the realisation that I was on my own, and had to start all over again, I was both determined to feel every emotion and move forward as quickly as possible. I've had a few traumatic events happen in the years I've walked this earth, but I've certainly learned to live them. People can tend to indulge themselves so much that they become more of a victim after the fact than they were at the time of the traumatic incident.
That's not me. I refuse to let any of the horrible things which have happened become b igger than me, and define me. It would be really easy to do, in fact, much easier than what I did. I've also found that by looking into the past and bringing forward brave moments helps me now. I remember times when I didn't think I could make it, or survive the trauma, and I'm grateful for what became as a result of that event, and the joy or triumph I felt by conquering the feat which seemed so completely insurmountable at the time. Most of us don't live uneventful lives, we have shit things happen in our lives, and it's up to us to get what we can out of those moments so that we're strong enough to cope with what comes our way next. As much as we try to be in control of our life, there are things we'll never expect, people changing their mind about being in a relationship with us, friends and loved ones dying. We can't control those, but we have to learn to live through them. And by learning how to cope with mourning what we've lost, we'll be strong enough to face what happens in our future when we start over again. Think about starting over as spring, a chance to freshen up, clean the windows of your life, and look around with clear vision- and get going!
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Peopl emaket hewor l dgor ound.Rat her ,connect i onwi t hpeopl edoes . Ibel i evewear eal ll ongi ng,s ear chi nganddr eami ngf ori nt i mat econnect i on–s omet hi ngt hatmakesus f eell i kewear es een,hear dandacknowl edgedexact l yaswear e.Butt het r ut hofi ti s ,t hatpeopl ewi l l onl ys eeyou,asmuchasyoual l ow t hem,andwantt hem t os ee. Peopl ewi l lcomeandgof r om yourl i f e,butt heoner el at i ons hi pt hatwi l lendur ef or ever ,i st heonewi t h your s el f .Soundschees y,Iknow,butyoucan' tes capet het r ut hs omet i mes . Sot hi si swhatIhavel ear nts of arf r om myowndevel opi ngr el at i ons hi pwi t hmys el f . Igr ew upwi t hl i esanddecei tf r om ayoungage.W el lmeani ngadul t st el lyouof f handedl yt hatyou' r e wr ong,s t upi d,s houl dbes eennothear d.Andayoungs pongel i kegi r lasmys el fs t ar t st obel i evet hem. Andt hepr obl em wi t hhear i ngt hi ngsout s i deofyour s el fbecomest hi s–t hatyous t ar tt omani pul at eand s hapet hem i nt obel i ef sandt hought st hats oundl i ket hey' r eyourown.Her ebegi nst hej our neyoft r ut h i nt ol i esanddecei t .
Themor el i esyout el lyour s el f ,t hemor eyous t ar tt ochangeands hapeyourbehavi our st omat ch.My t hought sar oundnotbei nggoodenough,pr et t yenough,and/ ors mar tenoughact ual l yi mpact edt hewayI i nt er act edwi t hot her s ,t hes or t sofj obsIwentaf t er ,t hei ncomeIf el tIdes er ved.Andnotonl ywasI decei vi ngmys el f ,andr obbi ngmys el foft hegi f tofl ovi ngandappr eci at i ngwhoIwas ,whoIcoul dbecome, andwhoIwant edt obe–Iwasal s odenyi ngt hos ear oundmet hej oyofknowi ngt het r ueandaut hent i c ver s i onofme.
Forwhati st het r ueandaut hent i cver s i onofmeanyway? Idancedar oundi tf ors ol ong,t hati tt ookmea l ongt i me,l ot soft ear s ,l oadsofmoneys pentons el fdevel opmentandi nt r os pect i on,l os toppor t uni t i esand f ai l edr el at i ons hi pst or eal i s et hati twasatmyf i nger t i psal lal ong–j us twai t i ngt obeal l owedavoi ce.
Theaut hent i cmei st heonet hati sf l awedi ns omanyways ,t hatIhavet ol augh.Idon' thavei tal lt oget her I ' m notper f ectbyanymeans ,I ' m notmodel l i kei nl ooks ,mynos ei sbi ggert hanI ' dl i ke,Is nor ts omet i mes whenIl augh,Idon' tal waysexer ci s eoreatt hewayIwantt o,andIcr yi ns ad,ands omet i mesf unny movi es .Gof i gur e.
Themos tr andom commentIhear doncewast hatt hemos ts t r engt hcomesi nbei ngvul ner abl e.I t ' show I l i vemyl i f enow,andIt r ul yt hi nkt hati tpr omot esanaut hent i ci t yandt r ut haboutmet hats hi nesf orot her s t owi t nes sandconnectwi t h.Icomef r om apl aceofi nt er nalj oyandhappi nes s ,andIdeepl yappr eci at e andl ovemyf l aws ,r at hert hanhi di ngt hem,pus hi ngt hem downori gnor i ngt hem.I tal l owsr el at i ons hi pst o bl os s om,l ovet odeepen,andl i f et of eelamazi ngandwor t hwhi l e. Andi s n' tt hatwhatl i f ei sal labout ?
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Mel i naMacdonal d I nt i macy&Adul tPr oduct Li f es t yl eEducat or ,Aut hor ,Speaker Dat i ng&Sex,Love&I nt i macyExper t www. i nt i macyt v. com. au Oneofpeopl e' sbi gges tf ear si sbei ngal oneI t ' snotmi ne I ' m qui t ecomf or t abl ei nmyowns pacei nmyown' cavet i me'bymys el f . W hatI ' vedi s cover edi soneofmybi gges tf ear si sact ual l ybei ngwi t hs omeoneagai n!Shar i ngmys pace, s har i ngmyl ove,s har i ngmyhear t ,Shar i ngmyever yt hi ng. Thel as tt hr eel ovesofmyl i f ehaveal lhadami dl i f emel t downsandf ormeIf el tl i keIwasdyi ngas l ow deat hasIcoui dnothel pt hem. I nf act ,wel l . . . t heys l owl ydi s appear edandmor phedi nt ocompl et el ydi f f er entpeopl et ot hepoi ntwher e t heywer eunr ecogni s abl eandunl ovabl e.Eacht i me,whenIf oundt hel i nei nt hes and,Iknew i twast i me t ogo.Theabus eIendur edhadnor el evancei nanyways hapeorf or mt ome. It henwentt hr oughamour ni ngpr oces swi t heachl os sofs omeone.Thehar des tt hi ngwast hef actt hat t heys t i l lwal kedont hi spl anet .I ' vel os ts omanypeopl et hi sl i f et i meandIunder s t andIwi l ll os emor ebut s omeonephys i cal l ydyi ngIf oundi sl es spai nf ult henwat chi ngs omeonement al l yandemot i onal l ywi t her away&mor phi nt os omebodyel s e.Thel ovesofmyl i f es l owl ydi ed. . . Mos tpeopl ewoul dn' tunder s t andi tbutl os i ngmypar t ner si nament alcapaci t yt obecomean unr ecogni s abl emanhasl i t er al l yf el tl i ket heydi edr i ghti nf r ontofmyeyes ! ! Thi si shandsdownbeent hemos tpai nf ulexper i encet hi sl i f et i met hatI ' vehad.Knowi ngt heys t i l ll i ve andbr eat heyetnotr ecogni s abl et oyouqui t ef r ankl yr i ppedoutmyhear t ! ! Thewor s tpar ti si sI ' vegotnowher et omour n.I ' vehadt oMour nt hes edeat hsi ns i l encebecaus enoone under s t andsi t .Thi shass hutdownmyhear t ! Myf i r s ts hutdownasachi l dwaswhenIl os tmybes tf r i end,aboyIl ovedt onever&want edt omar r y, andneverbeabl et os eehi m agai nwi t hnowar ni ngover ni ght .Is t i l lt hi nkofhi mt ot hi sday. Fi r s thear t br eak Secondhear t br eakwasl os i ngmycous i n,agai nwi t hnowar ni ngwhoIl oved( Iact ual l yt houghtIwant ed t omar r yhi m)
Thenmydadbr okemyhear twhenhel ef tmymum &hedumpeduski dsj us tt or uni nt ot hear msof anot herl adywi t hchi l dr en. . . t hi sIt r ul ybel i eveI ' veneverr ecover edf r om. Mynexthear t br eaki sf r om myf i r s tboyf r i endwhos t ol emyvi r gi ni t ywi t houtmyper mi s s i onbydr uggi ng meandt henl at erexpl i ci t l yt el l i ngever ybodyaboutours exualr endezvous( Thi si nf or mat i onIf oundout f r om myl i t t l ebr ot her ) . Thenmyhear twasbr okenbymybr ot herashebecameawomanbas her ! Thenmyf i r s thus bandnevergotoverhi sj eal ous yunt i li tbecames uchanobs es s i ont hatIhadt ol eave. ThenImetamanwhoIbel i evedwast hel oveofmyl i f e( t i l lIdi s cover edI ' vehadaf ew)andhehada mi dl i f emel t downaf t erhi sdadBl ew hi sbr ai nsout .Themos tcal m mani nt hewor l dt ur nedi nt ot hemos t meanman,al wayst aki nghi sr ol l er coas t erofemot i onsoutonme( whi chIneverunder s t oodunt i lmy br ot hers ui ci dedandt hat ' swher eIl ear ntt of or gi ve) .Bumpi ngi nt ohi m1 6year sl at erbr okemyhear t agai nashe' sneverr ecover edandmyadvent ur eadr enal i nemanhast ur nedi nt oas car edqui etl i t t l eman wi t hnopas s i onf orl i f e.Hel ookedl i kemycatr i ghtbef or eIputhi m down,nol i f ei nhi m!Icr i edf ordays . Andt hent hemant hatIs pent1 1year sofmyl i f ewi t hal s ohadami dl i f emel t downandneverr ecover ed. Hebecamecompl et el yunr ecogni s abl e.AndwhenIas kedhi m" whoar eyou?"hes ai d"Idon' tknow! "and Iknew mydeci s i ont ol eavewast her i ghtone.Bot hmenIgaveupnear l yal lmyi dent i t yf or ,t heys t r i pped mebar eandIhadt os t ar tmyl i f eagai nf r om s cr at chonever yl evel Noj obnohomenomoneynobel ongi ngs ! ThenIcameacr os samanIhavebeenmagnet i s edt o,mykr ypt oni t e,t odi s covert het her eas onwhyOur r el at i ons hi pi ss uchapus h/ pul lr el at i ons hi pi sbecaus eIhavei ncar nat edwi t ht hi ss oulmor et hanany ot hers oul .ThenhehadAmi dl i f emel t down! Over ni ghtwewentf r om s eei ngeachot herever ys econddayandhi m cal l i ngmeendear i ngnamest o. . . not hi ng. . . nada! Ont hi sj our neyt het hi ngsI ' vedi s cover edi st hatupunt i lt hel as tman( myf al s et wi nf l ame) ,Ineverever al l owedmyl over si n.Ineverl ett hem s eet heaut hent i cver s i onofme.Inevercompl et el yopenedupmy hear ts pace.Thi smanbr oughtaver s i onofmet hatwasr eal . . . l ovi ng. . . i nf l ow.Unt i lt woyear sagoIhad nevermetherei t her ! ! Soi nr ef l ect i onofwhymyhear ts pacei ss ocl os edandwhyt hi si st hechal l engeIf acet o' openmyhear t s pace'Iam di ggi ngdeepandact ual l yr el eas i ngal lt hepai nat t achedt omys t or i es . Iam r el eas i ngbecaus eInol onger des i r et ol i vei nf earofhavi nganot herpar t nerbymys i de. Ides i r et oembr acet hepos s i bi l i t yandoppor t uni t yt omeetapar t nerwhocompl ement sme. Ides i r et of ul l yembr acet hi sexper i ence. . . whi chi swhyweass oul shavedeci dedt ohavet hi shuman exper i ence!I fIdon' twhat ' st hepoi nt ?
Soher e' st ot het ear sandt hepai nt hatIam r el eas i ngasIconnectnotonl yt omyar chnemes i sar chet ype. t hemai den. . . her ei st obecomi ngt hevul ner abl eaut hent i cver s i onofme!
T h eP a s tI sT h eP a s t andhasno t hi ngt od owi t hyo u .I thasno t hi ngt od owi t hr i g htno w. D ono tl e tanyt hi ngf r o myo u rp as ti nhi b i tyo ui nt hi sp r e s e ntmo me nt . S t ar to ve r .S t ar tF r e s h.E ac hd ay.E ac hho u r ,i fi ts e r ve syo u .He c k, e ac hmi nu t e .J u s tg e tg o i ng . INTIMACYTV/JULY 27
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