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Preface

In my professional life, I encounter much suffering that has relationship difficulties at its core. Most people have taken some measures to tackle these issues, and yet numerous couples suffer for many a long year before seeking help. The patterns they wish to address are often ingrained and can be difficult to shift. Changing can be hard, and old pat­ terns don’t fall away without notable resistance first. I feel lucky that my chosen field has offered me ongoing training and research into the world of relationships, and I know that my life has benefited enormously as a result. I’ve often wondered if people could be saved the hardship of years of struggle if they had some feasible answers to meet the chal­ lenge of relationships. I’ve also considered how a practical source of information regarding this challenge could go a long way towards preventing the many issues I deal with every day. A period of twenty years as a couples psychotherapist has given me access to the range of difficulties that beset relationships, but it has also shown me the astounding resources people have for finding a way through what can appear to be insurmountably problematic situations. My experience is that we, as human beings, are often willing to stretch ourselves beyond what we think is possible in order to keep the love of another. While this does not always work out, knowing that love has this enormous influence 11


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