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-A Guide To Internet SafetyPresented by AmyChristine Proctor

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Our families are under attack. In this meeting we will cover the following: 1. Alarming Statistics that Affect our Families. 2. The Science (what’s happening inside the brain). 3. Solutions to Protect Your Family. 4. Group Discussion, Q/A’s.

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Parental Disclaimer This is a presentation designed to educate and equip parents to guard their homes and the hearts of their children in the area of Internet safety. Every parent needs to arm themselves with the necessary tools and to review the material as they see fit. Not all the information or suggested approaches in this presentation may be fitting for every child. Use discretion.

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“Oh, my child would never...” So why bother? AmyChristine’s Testimony

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Definition of Pornography:

Merriam Webster’s Dictionary

por·nog·ra·phy (noun) 1. : the depiction of erotic behavior (as in pictures OR writing) intended to cause sexual excitement. 2. : material (as books or a photograph) that depicts erotic behavior and is intended to cause sexual excitement. 3. : the depiction of acts in a sensational manner so as to arouse a quick intense emotional reaction

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Sex is the #1 searched-for topic on the Internet.1 sex and porn “SEX” and “PORN” are among the top 5 search terms for kids under the age of 18. 2

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$10-$14 Billion is spent on porn annually, which is the same amount the US Government has spent on foreign aid. 3 Every second, $3075.64 is being spent on pornography. 4 (which is $184,538.40 every MINUTE and which is $4,428,921.60 every DAY!)

The pornography industry is larger than the revenues of the top technology companies combined: Microsoft, Google, Amazon, eBay, Yahoo!, Apple, Netflix and EarthLink. 5

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90% of children ages 8-16 have viewed pornography. And 91% of the first exposure to porn was during a benign activity such as a school research project, surfing the Web for information. 6 62% of parents of teenagers are unaware that their children have accessed objectionable websites. 7 70% of children admit to clearing their Internet site history to hide their online activity. 8

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31% of 7th-12th-graders pretended to be older to get into a 18+ website. 9 The largest consumers of pornography are 12 to 17-year-old boys. 10 According to a survey of more than 11,000 college-age women, more than half said they were exposed to sexually explicit material by the age of 14. 11

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A study of youth between the ages of 10 and 17 concluded that there is a significant relationship between frequent porn use and feelings of loneliness and major depression. 12 According to a study cited in the Washington Post, more than 11 million teenagers view Internet pornography on a regular basis. 13 The least popular day of the year for viewing porn is THANKSGIVING, the most popular day of the week for viewing porn is SUNDAY. 14

Are Christians immune?

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In 2003, Focus on the Family reported, 47% of families said that pornography was a PROBLEM in their home. 15 In 2003, 34% of female readers of Today’s Christian Woman’s online newsletter admitted to INTENTIONALLY accessing Internet pornography. 16 In 2005, 57% of pastors say that addiction to pornography is the MOST sexually DAMAGING ISSUE to their congregation. 17 In 2006, 50% of all Christian men and 20% of all Christian women are addicted to pornography. 20% of those Christian women say they struggle with looking at pornography on an ONGOING basis. 18

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It’s More Than Just Statistics: IT’S HUSBANDS FATHERS MOTHERS WIVES CHILDREN SONS DAUGHTERS FAMILIES FRIENDS CO-WORKERS CHURCHES MINISTRIES THE BODY OF CHRIST

Statistics only tell a part of the story. Statistics represent people you know. People struggling with sexual addiction. 13 ©AmyChristine Proctor

So, if you have any of these, there is access into your home. *Computer* *Laptop* *Smartphone* *iTouch* *iPod* *iPad* *Email* *Postal Mail* *Television* *DVD Player* 14 ÂŠAmyChristine Proctor

The Brain Science Behind Internet Pornography Use

Provided by Fight the New Drug

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HOW IS PORN ADDICT VE?

Provided by Fight the New Drug

Whether you’re taking drugs or viewing pornography, the addiction process is the same:

FRONTAL LOBES: The area of your brain responsible for making decisions and logically thinking through situations and scenarios is the part of your brain most affected by addiction.

{CHEMICALS} You over-expose the brain with pleasure chemicals like dopamine, serotonin, oxytocin & norepinephrine.

{DEPENDENCY} You build up a tolerance and a dependency to the chemicals. You go from “wanting” the pleasure chemicals in order to feel good, to “needing” them. Fight the New Drug (Image recreated by AmyChristine Proctor)

{REWIRING} Your brain rewires itself to accommodate the extra chemicals. 19

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Letâ&#x20AC;&#x2122;s talk Chemicals. The chemicals behind the addiction. Provided by Fight the New Drug

Dopamine Norepinephrine Oxytocin Prolactin Serotonin 17 ÂŠAmyChristine Proctor

Dopamine: Provided by Fight the New Drug

First up is Dopamine. Dopamine does a lot of things from helping you focus and learn to helping you control movement of your body. But it usually is talked about as a pleasure chemical. Dopamine engages the rewardlearning systems of the brain, so it’s also a kind of learning chemical 20a. When you’re doing something cool, it rewards you with feelings of excitement, pleasure, and arousal 20bcd while simultaneously “taking notes” on what’s happening, so you can remember how to do it again. Healthy Sex: This chemical is awesome in a relationship! When you have sex with someone you care about, Dopamine kicks in to help you focus on THEM, their positive characteristics stand out, they become more attractive to you, and you develop a healthier relationship. 20e

Pornography Use: When you use an image to trigger the release of Dopamine, there isn’t an actual person involved for you to focus on, so you end up focusing on the sex act and sex organs. You learn to look at others as objects and forget about their personality, talents, quirks, etc. Porn also releases exaggerated levels of Dopamine,20fg This means more seeking behavior, (e.g. more gasoline). It stops the release of Prolactin 20h, which is a “breaking” chemical that helps you feel full or done. [More on Prolactin in the next couple slides] In a nutshell, this is like an automobile with a lot of gasoline and no brakes, sound like a problem. 18 Fight the New Drug 20

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Norepinephrine: Provided by Fight the New Drug

This chemical may sound like the name of a new heavy metal band, but it’s really what gives you an adrenaline rush and makes your heart pound. The details of whatever you’re doing when this chemical is released are seared into your brain so you easily remember them later.20bc They help make you hyper-aware of novelty and increase your general awareness as well. 20ij

Healthy Sex: Simply put, Norepinephrine makes sex exciting. When you are having sex, it’s this chemical that makes your heart beat faster and creates a lasting memory of your time with that person.

Pornography Use: When you use porn, Norepinephrine is released, 20k making the images hard to forget. When you remember the image and the experience, there’s no personal connection, which can make you feel lonely and even worthless. The strong memories also make it hard to stay away from pornography, which can make for a vicious cycle. 19 Fight the New Drug 20

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Oxytocin: Provided by Fight the New Drug

This chemical helps connect you to your family. In fact, it’s what creates the bond between a mom and a newborn baby. 20l The craziest thing is that Oxytocin helps people fall in love. Oxytocin is released when people hold hands, embrace, and kiss. 20m It is correlated with trust and decreases in anxiety. 20n But it isn’t just about love, it’s about tuning us into social information so we can analyze it more appropriately. Healthy Sex: When you have sex, kiss, cuddle, hold hands, etc., Oxytocin is released, making the bond between you stronger. When you have sex, a tidal wave of Oxytocin is released at climax. This helps you relax and creates an emotional bond between you and your partner as your fear decreases and your trust increases.

Pornography Use: When your “relationship” is being carried on with an image, there’s not as much social information to take in, but some Oxytocin is still released at orgasm. The momentary feelings of contentment and calmness brought on by Oxytocin can lead you back to pornography when you need an emotional connection or to relieve stress. The problem is that an image will never fill your need for a relationship, or even a friendship, as effectively as a real person. Real people hit all of the Oxytocin “hot buttons.” 20 Fight the New Drug 20

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Prolactin: Provided by Fight the New Drug

Prolactin does a lot of things, it’s a very active little molecule. The root of the word is to encourage lactation, but it has a range of other effects from affecting hair growth to promoting brain development. In sexual process it surges after orgasm and acts to inhibit Dopamine 20h in order to bring about feelings of satiety, or feeling done, just like finishing a large meal and feeling full.

Healthy Sex: After sex with a partner, Prolactin is released in large amounts to bring the act to an end and begin a period of rest and satiety. Along with Oxytocin, it enhances the sense of togetherness with another person.

Pornography Use: Prolactin released after a heterosexual activity is 4 times higher than the amount released after self-stimulation to pornography. 20p This means that real sex makes you feel 4 times more satisfied than pornography does. If you’re getting more Dopamine and less Prolactin than usual, you can see how pornography can quickly become repetitive and difficult to control. 21 Fight the New Drug 20

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Serotonin: Provided by Fight the New Drug

Last up is the calming chemical. A lot of times people call Serotonin the “natural Prozac” because it helps you feel happy, calm, satisfied and relieved of stress. 20c Like Prolactin, Serotonin is generally inhibitory to Dopamine and is released to signal the end of a sexual act. 20q

Healthy Sex: Following sexual climax with your partner, the release of Serotonin relaxes you and makes you feel satisfied. You attribute those good feelings with your partner and you remember and associate that feeling with them.

Pornography Use: When you regularly view pornography, you may begin using it to self-medicate when you’re feeling blue, or to escape the trials and pressures of life. A lot of porn users can’t even fall asleep unless they’ve had their porn fix, because the release of Serotonin helps them relax and sleep. That’s why pornography becomes a lot of people’s “drug of choice.” 22 Fight the New Drug 20

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Drug of Choice? Internet Pornography

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crack cocaine, leading to addiction. “The Internet is a perfect drug delivery system because you are anonymous, aroused and have role models for these behaviors...To have a drug pumped into your house 24/7, FREE, and children know how to use it better than grown-ups know how to use it -- it’s the perfect delivery system IF we want to have a whole generation of young addicts who will never have the drug out of their mind. Pornography addicts have more of a difficult time recovering from their addiction than cocaine addicts, since coke users can get the drug out of their system, but pornographic images stay in the brain forever.” -WIRED.COM 19 -WIRED.COM

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= Crack?

Drug of Choice? “Porn is like movie theater popcorn laced with heroin.”

-Mark Chamberlain, Ph.D.

-SimpleMarriage.net

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5 Ways Pornography Warps Our Minds: Provided by Covenant Eyes

Watching Porn Decreases Our Sexual Satisfaction. It trains us to desire the variety and “designer sex” of porn more than the familiar sexuality of marriage. Watching Porn Disconnects Us from Real Relationships. It trains us to detach emotional involvement from sexual experience. Watching Porn Lowers Our View of Women (and Men). It trains us to see men and women as sexual commodities, not people created in God’s image. Watching Porn Desensitizes Us to Cruelty. It numbs us to the seriousness of verbal and physical aggression. Watching Porn Makes Us Want to Watch More Porn. It taps into the neuro-circuitry of our brains, making us desire the rush of sexual energy from porn again and again. 22 Covenant Eyes Article

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Negative Effects on Teens When Exposed to Pornography Provided by Covenant Eyes

Lasting negative or traumatic emotional responses. Earlier onset of first sexual intercourse, thereby increasing risk of STD’s. The belief that superior sexual satisfaction is attainable without having affection for one’s partner, thereby reinforcing the commoditization of sex and the objectification of humans. The belief that being married or having a family are unattractive prospects. Increased risk for developing sexual compulsions and addictive behavior. Increased risk of exposure to incorrect information about human sexuality long before a minor is able to contextualize this information in ways an adult brain could. And over-estimating the prevalence of less common practices (e.g. group sex etc). 23 Covenant Eyes Article

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Pornography WILL Ruin Your Life.

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Solutions to protect your family. 28 ÂŠAmyChristine Proctor