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In honor of Father’s Day and all of our irreplaceable dads, we are hosting Bumble’s “Dad & Me Having Fun” Photo Contest.

Whether you are doing a craft, going fishing, watching a sporting event, going to a father-daughter dance or reading a book, we want to see it. Submit a photo of you and your dad just having fun for a chance to win fabulous prizes!

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DaD & Me Photo Contest Rules Submit a picture of your kids having fun with dad for a chance to win great prizes! Whether its laughing in an adorable dual selfie or a fun-filled daytrip together, we want to see it in Bumble’s “Dad & Me Having Fun” Photo Contest!

Limit to one submission per entrant. By entering, entrants warrant that his/her entry is original and does not infringe the intellectual property rights of a third party, has not been previously published in any medium and permits CharlottesvilleFamily to print or post the photo either in CharlottesvilleFamily’s Bloom magazine or online. By submitting, entrants grant the editors free license to publish, promote or republish at any time.

Guidelines: Photos must be high resolution (300 dpi) Please include your name, phone number and email along with your submission All entries must be submitted through Woobox by Thursday, May 10th, at midnight.

Voting will be open to the public from Friday, May 11–Thursday, May 16, and can be once per day. Voting should be based on originality, creativity and appropriateness to contest guidelines.

The winner will be notified by phone and/or email on or around June 1, 2018.

The winning photo will be published in the June issue of CharlottesvilleFamily’s Bloom magazine.

Prizes: The winning submitter will receive a prize to enjoy with dad. The winner will be required to pick up the prize at 4282 Ivy Road, Charlottesville, VA 22903, upon being notified. No prizes can be mailed, emailed or reimbursed.

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Teacher Appreciation Week The Virginia Lottery is inviting Virginians to send thank-you notes to as many Virginia public school teachers as possible!

Visit thankateacherva.com through May 11th to send a thank-you note, and learn how two lucky teachers will win a Virginia vacation courtesy of Virginia Tourism Corporation.

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Just Between Us… Dear Friends, My backyard told a tale of innovation. Many unusual objects were scattered

volume 19 issue 5 PUBLISHERS

may 2018 Robin Johnson Bethke Jennifer Bryerton

CREATIVE DIRECTOR Robin Johnson Bethke EDITOR-IN-CHIEF Jennifer Bryerton TECHNICAL DIRECTOR Peter D. Bethke SENIOR EDITOR Sarah Pastorek

under a Frisbee on our porch roof. First, our 9-year-old had fetched a bucket to

ONLINE EDITOR Madison Stanley

try and reach up to knock it off with a lacrosse stick. It was a pretty good idea, but

CALENDAR EDITOR Caroline Hirst

he wasn’t nearly tall enough. So, he ran back for a couple more buckets to stack

HOME & GARDEN EDITOR Becky Calvert

them up, only to discover that they collapsed together. His next idea included adding the old steel milk can that I use as a garden table to the stack. Thankfully,

GRAPHIC DESIGN Barbara A. Tompkins SENIOR MARKETING CONSULTANT

Susan Powell

he recognized that standing on this particular tower was a very poor and wobbly

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idea (though I was watching from a distance ready to swoop in and say no!).

Walter Scott, Jenny Stoltz

Next, he made the lacrosse stick longer, fetching two big sticks from the woods that he, very thoroughly, duct taped together, extending his reach considerably

Allison Muss, Carter Schotta,

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Becky Calvert, Rick Epstein, Jessica Lahey,

Susie Lyons, Catherine Malone, Whitney

Woollerton Morrill, Gene Osborn,

Dad made it home at this point and brought out the ladder, holding it while

Sarah Pastorek, R. Ryans, Beth Seliga,

our little MacGyver bravely climbed up with his super long lacrosse-n-sticks

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“reacher” to knock it down himself. This is to me was an afternoon very well spent.

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and adding quite a bit of flair as the tape was a purple leopard print! Though it wasn’t quite enough, he was excited to be getting closer to his goal.

He not only entertained himself, stretched his brain and tried new things, but also demonstrated perseverance, innovation and a bit of good sense to NOT stand on

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MARKETING CONCIERGE Abigail Sewell

the milk can! Then, when he had an adult, he safely used a real ladder. All are life

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skills that will prove handy when he faces his next challenge.

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I’ve always wanted our kids to know how to occupy themselves independently and to be problem solvers (we use A LOT of duct tape at our house). You just never know when you’ll be inspired to convert an old out-of-service iPhone into a “GoPro” camera by taping it onto the handlebars of your bicycle, or fashion a strap onto a box that is perfect for toting Pokemon cards. Once, our younger daughter even built a portable dishwasher for camping. A moving sponge connected via Popsicle sticks and brads powered by the battery-operated body of the toy kitchen mixer did all the work. All you had to do was slowly pour a pitcher of hot soapy water over the top of the dish then wipe it dry. I’m not sure who was prouder, our little engineer or her engineer daddy! With Mother’s Day this month, I’m sure to receive some beautiful handmade gifts. I’ve been hinting that I could use some plant labels for my herb garden, but whatever treasures come my way, they’re sure to be creative and innovative … and I will love them, duct tape and all.

Wishing You A Very Happy Mother’s Day,

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Contents TABLE OF

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OUR TOWN

News 6

LIVING WELL

The Buzz Around Town 8

Do you actively try to facilitate a diverse group of friends for your child?

Richard Walker, Army Vet, Uncle & Crossing Guard

Healthy Family 34 Speech & Language

Editor’s Pick!

From Mother’s Day celebrations (pg 49) and berry picking fun (pg 20) to running a local race together (pg 58), quality family time is what I am looking forward to most this spring.

Daytrip Fun! 20

Berry Picking Fun & More

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A Special Letter from Our Essay Contest Winner & A Sweet Recipe to Spoil Mom

Pregnancy Tips & Resources 52 Herbs & Pregnancy, Mommy & Me Classes & Car Seat Safety Advice

Raising A Runner 58

May Activities & Events for the Family

Mother’s Day Celebrations

Brunches, Tea, Tours & More

The Experience of Many Lifetimes

Out & About Calendar 16

Mother’s Day Special Section 44

Our Schools 14

Dear Bob 32 Your Parenting Questions Answered

Snapshot 12

INSPIRATION

New Mom 30 Tech-Free Baby

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A Local Mom’s Love of Running

Camp Farewell 64 “While Goodbye is Never Enough For Me, It’s Perfect For Him”

College 101 74

Helping Your Teen Navigate the Process

RESOURCES

2018 Pregnancy Guide 50

Tips & Trends 36 Fabulous Finds and Fun

Home & Garden 38 Deer Proofing Your Garden

Food & Family 40 Better Dining Out Experiences

Local Resources for Parents-to-Be

Summer Camp Quicklist 67 Find the Perfect Camp

UNTIL NEXT TIME

The Dying Art of Letter Writing 80

A Dad’s Humorous Tales

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“I really enjoyed reading the mother’s day essay submissions (pg 44) and am looking forward to trying the recipe.”

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Cover image by Amy Nicole Photography.

Amy has been photographing stories of life and love for 10 years. The simple moments of life endlessly inspire her and she’s thankful to call Charlottesville home after spending some time in Nashville.

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Festival of Cultures Washington Park May 12

The Gruffalo Live on Stage The Paramount Theater May 13

City Schools Hoping For More Laptops

UVA Program Gives K-12 Teachers More Resources In the wake of last year’s protests, UVA’s Center for the Liberal Arts, which offers free workshops to Virginia teachers, believed that a class on how to teach race relations could only do more. The center’s director Victor Luftig then sent out information about a new workshop titled “Resources for Teaching the History of Race in the United States.” While 30–40 teachers normally attend these workshops, this presentation enticed 100 teachers from over 40 Virginia school divisions, as well as from North Carolina, Maryland and Washington, D.C. Teachers learned about The Illusion of Progress from UVA’s The Carter G. Woodson Institute and an education guide from the Southern Poverty Law Center’s Teaching Tolerance project that includes primary-source texts and images, teaching models, podcasts, and a list of concepts and objectives that they can transfer over to the classroom.

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Having laptops in class is a crucial learning component for Charlottesville teachers, which is why Charlottesville City Schools (CCS) has allotted space in their budget for new computers. CCS has provided Chromebook laptops to students since 2011, and they are getting ready to receive proposals from technology companies so they can purchase thousands of new laptops for Charlottesville students in grades 3–12. Having laptops in the classroom enables teachers to pull resources for many different areas online, and allows students to have access to a computer when they might not have the same opportunity at home, ultimately providing them with experience in a realm deemed necessary for their future careers.

Hands-On Learning Through iSTEM Nights Students and their families had the opportunity to engage in handson learning during March’s iSTEM night. The family nights, which take place seven times a year with one at each of the elementary schools, encourages students to explore science, technology, engineering and math, or STEM, through several different activities.

It is not only a way to get kids excited about learning but also a way to introduce them to STEM earlier than they might otherwise.

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Do you actively try to facilitate a diverse group of friends for your child?

67% say “yes” 33% say “no” “I grew up in a diverse area and, as a minority, want my children to experience diversity as well. It’s important to know people who are of different skin colors, genders and religions. This is how tolerance, love and understanding are bred.”

– Local mom “Our daughter has been fortunate in growing up with a diverse group of friends and caregivers since she was a baby. These days, as we encourage her to cultivate a broad scope of friendships, it’s really more because she tends to focus on one or two ‘besties’, and it’s important for us to remind her that she’s really good at making friends and well liked by so many of her peers.”

– Keri, mom of an 8-year-old girl “My twins are in a reverse inclusion preschool. There are four role models and eight students with special needs. It’s been a very enlightening and positive experience for the most part.”

– Kristie S., Afton, mother of one

teen & two toddlers

“I am fortunate to live in a diverse neighborhood with a diverse school population in Charlottesville City, so we do not need to intentionally cultivate those friendships. I do, however, talk with my first grader about being kind to all people, no matter what they look like, and about equality for all races and genders. I have also been introducing some concept of challenges faced by local immigrant and refugee families so my daughter can begin to have understanding and compassion for children who have undergone very difficult circumstances.”

– Laura B., mother in

Charlottesville “We are fortunate that our children are on sports teams that have a good balance of diversity, so we don’t have to take it upon ourselves to encourage seeking additional friendships. We do, however, talk to our children about the different cultures of their teammates and encourage them to ask when they have questions.”

–Charlottesville Dad of three

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Students from schools all over Albemarle County brought home 72 awards at this year’s annual Virginia Piedmont Regional Science Fair (VPRSF). The fair, which took place at JPJ, educates and motivates students to pursue careers in science and engineering. With 17 categories, students had the opportunity to showcase their projects in divisions such as animal sciences, cellular and molecular biology, and computer science.

Albemarle High School students Jee-Ho Kim and Anders Knospe from St. Anne’s-Belfield School came away as Grand Winners, while fellow Mriganka Mandal and Sophie Meyer from Western Albemarle High School were Grand Award runners up. Among other winners were students from Sutherland Middle School and Western Albemarle High School. The VPRSF will be sending Jee-Ho and Anders to compete at the International Science and Engineering Fair in Pittsburgh, PA, this May.

Local Student Organizes Suicide Prevention Concert At just 13 years old, local Henley Middle School student Charlie Shea is already making a difference in the Charlottesville community. When her English teacher challenged her and her classmates to identify a world issue and attempt to do something about it, Shea came up with the brilliant idea to host a benefit concert at The Southern Café & Music Hall. Passionate about mental health and suicide prevention, her concert benefited the Suicide Prevention Awareness and Resource Council. Acts included Shea, who sings and plays multiple instruments, local acts 14 Stories and Unintended Consequences, and Nahj Corbin and Sarah Gross, soloists from the Music Resource Center.

A Local Mom’s Recycling Initiative Beth Seliga, a CharlottesvilleFamily writer and local photographer, jumpstarted YEPCrozet (Youth Environmental Program) to give the community an alternative recycling option. With a love for sustaining the area’s natural beauty, Seliga began the kid-driven group YEPCrozet, a recycling initiative focused on helping facilitate recyclables to the McIntire Recycling Center, with her kids. Through the initiative, local fourth through eighth graders will have the opportunity to introduce the different options for recycling waste to local businesses and schools. For more information on how to volunteer and help, visit yepcrozet.com.

UVA® CHILDREN’S HOSPITAL & KOHL’S CARES. WORKING TO MAKE OUR CHILDREN HEALTHY Nationally close to 32% of school aged children are overweight or obese.

UVA® Children’s Hospital would like to thank Kohl’s Cares for generously sponsoring Kohl’s Hoo’s Fit – a program designed by UVA® Children’s Fitness Clinic to promote healthy eating and active living among area children and parents.

You can help by looking for special Kohl’s Cares merchandise like books and plush toys, throughout the year. 100% of the net profits for these items support health and educational opportunities like Kohl’s Hoo’s Fit. The partnership between Kohl’s and UVA® Children’s Hospital is creating a healthier future for area children.

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Parents Start Campaign for Accessible Playground After losing their son this past February, the parents of 5-year-old Bennett McClurken-Gibney hope to honor his memory by creating a community playground. Bennett loved being active despite being diagnosed with spinal muscular atrophy type 1. You could catch him racing around in his wheelchair and playing on the playground. Because of his genetic disorder, however, many of the playgrounds were difficult for Bennett to access.

Bennett’s father realized that some simple design alterations would create more accessibility for all children. This idea sparked a go-fund me campaign, which has raised over $40,000 towards the creation of a new playground complete with ramps, a large platform swing built for wheelchairs and a multisensory wall. To help, visit gofundme.com/bennetts-park.

SPORTS ZONE WMHS Girls’ Chance at States After going undefeated, 21–0, in their regular season this year, the William Monroe High School Girl’s Basketball team in Stanardsville extended its postseason all the way to the Quarterfinals in the State Tournament. The team lost by two in the region championship game versus Culpeper County girl’s basketball team. This past season’s team was comprised of three juniors, all of whom have been on the team since their freshman year, and seven freshmen. Although they are young, the girls connected well under the guidance of coaches Jess Stafford, Robbie Shifflett and Philip Lamb, who coach the team under “The Pillars”—unity, passion, humility, servant hood, thankfulness and toughness. While the team includes the No. 1 recruit in the country for the class of 2019, Samantha Brunelle, the strong leadership of the juniors, combined with “The Pillars” and incredible coaching are what made this team successful.

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Richard Walker Army Vet, Uncle & Crossing Guard

A United States Army veteran, Richard Walker has watched over local children as they cross the road on their way to Buford Middle School for the past 12 years. A lifelong resident of Charlottesville, Walker (often called Officer Walker or Mr. Walker) strives to be a positive role model for the students on a daily basis. A proud uncle to three nieces and two nephews, he also shares his time and talents with The Haven, a multiresource day shelter in Charlottesville.

What are the best and most challenging parts about your job?

The kids are great. I call them my adopted kids. They smile and say good morning. When they graduate and leave, that is the worst part. I met a kid last week, who used to go to Buford Middle School three or four years ago and still remembers me. The parents are great, too. They bring me coffee in the wintertime and water in the summer; and at Christmastime, they load me up with treats and goodies. The hardest part of my job is managing people driving too fast and talking on their phones. It is so dangerous to the kids, and I just ask that they slow down and pay attention. If a child is in the street and an oncoming car is not going the speed limit, the car can’t stop in time. I have to be really diligent.

Do you have advice for their parents?

What the kids really need is more time from you. They need you to pay attention to their lives and care about what they are getting into. They don’t need telephones. In fact, they need to see you off the phone. Be a good example, because what they see their parents do is ultimately what they are going to do.

What is your favorite time of the week with your family/friends?

Fridays are my favorite. There isn’t much traffic. Everyone gets out at 2 p.m. and is happy and cheerful.

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If you had a 25-hour day, what would you do with that extra hour?

For me, I spend most of my time with the kids. I also work at The Haven. I have been doing that for almost six years now; we feed 200–300 people and have between 8–20 volunteers, so I would use my extra hour doing one of those two things.

How did you get to be so service-minded?

When I was in the Army, I saw a lot of people who were homeless.

When I got home to Charlottesville, I wanted to give something back to my hometown.

Is there anything else you want to share with readers?

School is for education. I have a passion for the kids, and I have to be very careful to make sure the kids stay safe. With all of the violence in school these days, you need to be very vigilant about watching your surroundings. If I see something suspicious, I need to contact someone right away. But, even though I feel the pressure, I try to remain cheerful. I really enjoy it.

What advice do you have for kids?

I will help anybody that I can and go out of my way to help them.

Don’t be selfish. The person you help might be someone that you need in the long run, so don’t turn your back on anyone. You have the chance to pass on joy to everyone you meet. Also, kids need to pay attention, use their gut instincts and don’t get into trouble, because once you are in trouble it is hard to get out.

Before switching to capturing the look of love and the inner beauty of her subjects, Beth was a sports photographer with her work appearing in Sports Illustrated, USA Today and Pro Cycling, among other publications. See her work at 3catsphoto.com.

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The Experience of Many Lifetimes A student dons a virtual reality headset while a teacher programs the computer that transports the student back to Florence, where he experiences the beauty and impact of the Renaissance. He stands at the Piazza del Duomo, and by adjusting his movements, the student can manipulate travel through and above the city streets. During those special moments, he becomes a citizen at the center of one of history’s most transformational times and places.

It’s also a special moment for teachers. They see a student, some of whom were previously uninterested or disengaged from school, suddenly come to life, empowered by the control they have over their own learning. One word we have come to use in talking about virtual reality learning is “delight,” and you can measure the motivation this feeling provides to learners by the enthusiasm in their body language and comments.

In a new division-wide program, high school students have universal access to the virtual life experiences that an entertainment technology

now is bringing to the classroom.

When they don their headset, it’s the ultimate application of experiential learning—the foundation of today’s contemporary curriculum.

As schools in Virginia move from predominantly a knowledgebased model to one that emphasizes knowledge and skills, virtual reality and its next generation, augmented reality, hold important keys to how effectively education will keep pace with the changes around us. Many of those changes are manifested in requirements for higher performance; students are being asked to achieve at optimum levels in order to be competitive, whether in being admitted to the college of their choice or to be successful in a career.

Virtual reality can be a catalyst.

Rather than passive learners who listen to a teacher lecture or sit at a desk completing worksheets, students became active participants in the discovery process that technology brings to the classroom.

In a virtual reality headset, students can swim in a prehistoric ocean,

where they encounter plants and fish that have long since been extinct; they can create their own scenes from important historical events; they can make themselves smaller than a DNA strand in order to study its function or they can create unimaginable artworks in 3D using the space around them as their canvas.

“Immersive” is another word we use to describe what virtual reality brings to the learning process. It offers the deepest, more profound refinement of the life skills that every student should master by graduation day. The state of Virginia identifies those skills as the 5 Cs—creativity, critical thinking, collaboration, communication and community service. A student comfortable with the use and application of these skills to produce value is a student whose potential for achievement is unbounded.

Just as economies, societies and technologies have evolved to become more productive, effective and uplifting, so should education.

Gene is a Learning Technology Integrator for Albemarle County Public Schools. He works closely with principals, teachers and students in support of innovation in the classroom.

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Scottsville Nurse’s Quick Action Saves Student’s Life Going on 20 years with Scottsville Elementary School, Vivian Fewell, the school nurse, has encountered a variety of situations over the years. The school can attest to her never-ending compassion and professionalism to their students and families. Recently, a student visited Fewell’s office, not feeling himself. Almost instantly, she recognized the child needed medical assistance immediately and accompanied him to the hospital. It was confirmed the student had a blood clot that needed removed from his brain.

Thanks to Fewell’s continued dedication to caring for her students, the school was able to handle a situation in the best possible way.

JDRF One Walk Surpasses Its Goal

On Saturday, April 14, the Charlottesville and Albemarle community came together at Albemarle High School to support the fight against diabetes. The inaugural Juvenile Diabetes Research Foundation (JDRF) Community One Walk helped surpass its goal of raising $50,000, reaching $54,000 towards Type 1 diabetes (T1D) research to make “Type One, Type None.” T1D, which currently has no cure, is an unpreventable autoimmune disease that comes upon children and adults suddenly. Everyone joined in the two-mile walk, as well as a variety of entertainment and activities for the family, and lunch items and snacks.

CharlottesvilleFamily was one of the event’s sponsors, along with St. Anne’s-Belfield School, Crutchfield, Keswick Vineyards, Beck Cohen, Aft Photography, Woldstrides, Black Box Players and Jim Auto Price. For more information and to donate, visit jdrf.org.

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FESTIVALS & FAIRS Cops 4 Kids Day

May 4, 4–6pm at Boys & Girls Club, Cherry Ave. Enjoy the K9 police dog demonstration, SWAT team gear show, a visit with McGruff the Crime Dog, relay races through a bouncy maze with police officers, a police/teen basketball tournament, food, ice cream, music and more. cvillepolicefoundation.org

Virginia Folklife Apprenticeship Showcase

Check our online calendar for more family events and activities!

Day Out With Thomas

May 4–6, 9am–4pm Friday, 8:30am–6pm Saturday, 8:30am–5:30pm Sunday at B&O Railroad Museum Take a 25-minute train ride behind Thomas the Tank Engine, meet Sir Topham Hatt, and enjoy a day of live entertainment, activities and family fun. 866-468-7630, borail.org

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Star Wars Day

43rd Annual Batesville Day 2018: Race, Parade & Fair

May 5, 10am–1pm at Amazement Square, Lynchburg Children can enjoy Star Wars games, crafts and challenges. 434-845-1888, amazementsquare.com

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4th Annual MSC Truck Touch

May 5, 10am–2pm at IX Art Park Children can touch, climb on and ask questions about vehicles of all types in a safe, supervised environment. Food trucks and other kid-friendly activities also available. Proceeds benefit the Montessori School of Charlottesville Scholarship Fund. montessoriofcville.org

May 5, 10am–2pm at Central Library Drop in to any 15–30 minute session and learn about a variety of topics from how to design videos to how to put on cosplay makeup. See the 3D printer in action and pick up a free comic book. 434-979-7151, jmrl.org

May 5, 11am at Batesville Come out for the famous 10K race, parade and village fair with a cake walk, games, free books, food, a raffle of a pickup truck and rompin’ stompin’ blues. batesvilleva.org

Free Union Country School Spring Fair

May 6, 11am–3pm at Free Union Country School Bring the whole family for pony rides, a fairy trail, cake walk, games and great food. Open to the community.

434-978-1700, freeunioncountryschool.org

May 6, 12–5pm at James Monroe’s Highland Join Virginia’s folk masters and their apprentices for a free celebration of traditional music with food, dancing and crafts. CharlottesvilleFamily is a proud sponsor! virginiafolklife.org

15th Annual Festival of Cultures

May 12, 10am–4pm at Washington Park A celebration of cultural and linguistic diversity.

The day features over 25 different nationalities, family-friendly performances; cultural exhibits, crafts and food. Open to the public.

CharlottesvilleFamily is a proud sponsor!

434-960-5656, festivalofcultures.org

Spring Block Party and Music Sale

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May 12, 12–6pm at The Front Porch Third Street will be closed for this familyfriendly event with food, live music and a raffle for prizes, including instruments and free music classes. Proceeds benefit the school’s scholarship program. 434-242-7012, frontporchcville.org

38th Annual Crozet Spring Arts & Crafts Festival

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May 12 & 13, 10am–5pm at Claudius Crozet Park Over 100 juried fine art and craft exhibitors show and sell their work at this fun familyfriendly event. Live music, great food and activities for the kids including bouncy castles, face painting and more.

434-326-8284, crozetfestival.com

Virginia Renaissance Faire

May 12–June 10, Saturdays & Sundays, 10am–5pm at Lake Anna Winery Artisans, craftspeople, royal archers, children’s area and food merchants for a day of fun and history. 703-508-5036, varf.org

Gordonsville Fried Chicken Festival

May 19, 11am–5pm at Gordonsville Fire Company Fair Grounds Join in the fried chicken contest or the fruit, cream or custard pie contests for a chance to win a cash prize. The event also features numerous craft and artisan vendors.

540-832-1735, townofgordonsville.org

26th Annual Monacan Indian Nation Powwow

4th Annual MSC Truck Touch

May 5, 10am–2pm at IX Art Park. See this page.

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May 19 & 20, 10am–9pm Saturday, 10am–6pm Sunday at Rt. 130, 6 Miles West of Rt. 29, Elon Special performances by Native American singers and dancers from across North America.

Enjoy Native American crafts and food. Fun for the entire family. 434-946-0389, monacannation.com

5th Annual Family Bike Fest

May 20, 10am–2pm at IX Art Park Bring your family to enjoy a strider course, a bike decoration station and bike-handling skill courses for riders of all ages. Blue Wheel Bicycles will provide free helmet and bike safety checks for all participants.

434-977-1870, bluewheel.com

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LAKE FRONT IN FOREST LAKES

2075 BUCK MOUNTAIN ROAD • $824,000 Incredible brand-new custom build with mountain views on 2+ acres in Meriwether Lewis district & 15 mins to Downtown C’ville & UVA. Top-class features. Main level includes master suite, spacious great room, ebony hardwoods, dream chef ’s kitchen.

Erin Garcia (434) 981-7245. MLS# 573541

3014 WATERCREST DRIVE • $565,000 Beautiful lake front home on a quiet cul-de-sac.

Easy access to extensive walking trails, just a short drive to neighborhood pool & tennis. Huge rear deck. Light-filled family room with vaulted ceiling, gas fireplace, and a lovely, private view of the lake. Sally Neill (434) 531-9941. MLS# 573772

Bandfair XVI YOU CAN HELP!

May 20, 1–6pm at Cardinal Point Winery, Afton This fundraiser features music, lip sync, children’s activities, great food, silent auction, raffle and more. Proceeds benefit North Branch students and teachers. 540-456-8450, north-branch-school.org

Strawberry Fest

TEN ACRES WITH VIEWS 10 MINS TO TOWN

May 26, 9:45am–3pm at Liberty Mills Farm Sample everything strawberry from sundaes made with farm fresh ice cream to chocolate dipped strawberries, strawberry salsa and more.

Visit with local vendors and participate in fun contests. 434-882-6293, libertymillsfarm.com

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5th Annual Celebrate Rockfish & Cash Raffle

May 26, 5–9pm at Blue Mountain Pavilion Music, food, games and family-friendly fun with no admission fee with cash raffle.

434-361-0100, rockfishcc.org

Memorial Day for Military Personnel & First Responders

May 28 at Lewis Ginter Botanical Garden The Garden offers free admission and discounts in the Cafe and in the Garden Shop for military personnel and first responders. Other members in the party receive half-price admission.

804-262-9887, lewisginter.org

750 BRIDLEPATH DRIVE • $945,000

Set in privacy with Blue Ridge views, this classic Georgian offers slate roof, copper gutters and entirely new interiors from top to bottom. Wonderful new kitchen overlooks huge, level rear lawn and is totally open to the family room, complete with stone fireplace and French doors out to the expansive terrace. Luxurious 1st floor master wing just added. Finished lower level. Horse-friendly with boardfenced paddock and run-in shed on 9.51 acres. Reidar Stiernstrand (434) 284-3005 MLS# 573443 METICULOUS RENOVATION - EDNAM FOREST

RENOVATED - MURRAY DISTRICT

205 ROWLEDGE ROAD • $2,399,000 Elegant home featuring quality craftsmanship & classic architecture designed by Kirk Train tucked away in Ednam Forest. Sun-filled chef ’s Kitchen, Family Room w/ custom cabinetry, dual staircases, covered Veranda & sunny Studio. Expansive Deck.

Tommy Brannock (434) 981-1486. MLS# 573234

3530 MONTGOMERY LANE • $548,000 Wonderful, completely renovated 5 bed, 5 bath home.

Gorgeous kitchen has new cherry cabinets, granite counter tops & Italian marble backsplash. Great room w/ beamed ceiling & stone fireplace. Spacious bedrooms, Andersen windows, new Trex decking.

Bridget Urmanski (434) 996-2997. MLS# 573811

26th Annual Graves Mountain Festival of Music

May 31–June 2, Various showtimes at Graves Mountain Lodge, Syria Picking, grinning and family fun.

540-923-4231, gravesmountain.com

MARKETS & BAZAARS Forest Lakes Farmers Market

May 1–October 2, Tuesdays, 4–7pm at Forest Lakes South 434-531-2733, facebook.com/ ForestLakesFarmersMarket

Farmers in the Park

May 2–October 17, Wednesdays, 3–7pm at Meade Park 434-970-3371, charlottesville.org 401 PARK STREET • CHARLOT TESVILLE, VA

434.977.4005 W W W . L O R I N G W O O D R I F F . C O M CharlottesvilleFamily.com

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{our town calendar} Spring PlantFest YOU CAN HELP!

May 4–5, 9am–5pm Friday, 9am–3pm Saturday at Lewis Ginter Botanical Garden, Richmond More than 40 vendors selling plants ranging from well known favorites to rare exotics. Plus, enjoy live music and a chance to get all your gardening questions answered. Proceeds benefit the Garden’s educational mission.

804-262-9887, lewisginter.org

Spring Pop-Up Market

May 5, 10am–4pm at Chiles Peach Orchard, Crozet Vintage, repurposed and upcycled items to purchase. Free admission and parking.

434-202-8031, facebook.com/pg/ ChilesPeachOrchard/events

Green Valley Book Fair

May 5–28 at 2192 Green Valley Ln., Mt. Crawford Huge selection of children’s books at 60–90% off retail prices on new, over-run or irregular books. 800-385-0099, gobookfair.com

Albemarle Farmers Market

May 5–September 29, Saturdays, 8:30am– 1pm at Hollymead Town Center 434-531-2733

City Market

May 5–October 13, Saturdays, 7am–12pm at Second and Water Street parking lots charlottesville.org

Crozet Farmers Market

May 5–October 13, Saturdays, 8am–12pm at Crozet United Methodist parking lot 434-823-1092

Scottsville Community Farmers Market

May 5–November 3, Saturdays, 8am–12pm at Scottsville Pavilion 434-286-9267, scottsvillefarmersmarket.org

SPORTS & OUTDOORS A Million Blooms

Now–June 1, 9am–5pm at Lewis Ginter Botanical Garden, Richmond See a succession of breathtaking blooms, enjoy entertaining activities, exhibits and family events, and play and learn in the Children’s Garden.

804-262-9887, lewisginter.org

28th Annual Discovery Dash

May 5, 7:45–10am at Monticello High School Enjoy a morning of fun-filled races for kids ages 3–12, including quarter-mile, halfmile and mile runs; a sibling race; parentchild relays; a community-wide school relay; and even a scramble for the littlest YOU CAN ones. Each runner receives a Dash T-shirt. HELP! CharlottesvilleFamily is a proud sponsor!

434-977-1025, vadm.org

Roller Skating

May 5–26, Saturdays, 6–9pm at Greenwood Community Center Greenwood Community Center is open every Saturday night for roller skating under the Disco ball. 434-296-5844, albemarle.org

Hoofin’ It For Horses 5K Trail Run

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May 6, 7am race, 10am–2pm open house HELP! at 2080 Castle Rock Road, Afton Open to all age groups and all fitness levels, this event also features a Field Dash for children ages 8 and under. After the trail run, stay and meet the four-legged friends and enjoy educational programs, food trucks, music and kids’ games. 434-989-2949, hopeslegacy.com

5th Annual Crozet Running Trail 5K

May 12, 8am at Mint Springs Park, Crozet Enjoy the beauty of Mint Springs Park in this 5K race, the first of a four-race Summer Trail Running series in the Charlottesville area. crozetrunning.com YOU CAN HELP!

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17th Annual Run & Remember 5K

May 12, 8am, registration begins 6:30am at Keswick Club A 5K Run/Walk to benefit Hospice of the Piedmont. Enjoy prizes and food after the race. 434-972-3568, hopva.org

Red Hill 5K and 1-Mile Color Fun Run

May 12, 8:30am at 3901 Red Hill School Road, North Garden The newly added color run will be a memorable way to promote physical activity and fun with color powder stations throughout a one-mile loop. All proceeds will benefit Red Hill students. 434-293-5332, facebook.com/events/123838764875481

4th Annual Girl Scout Day

May 12, 10am–12pm at James Monroe’s Highland Brownies and Juniors can participate in a historic dance workshop, painting, nature photography and more. Badge is included with the fee. Girls must attend with an adult who stays at the event.

434-293-8000, highland.org

13th Annual Rivanna River Regatta Canoe & Kayak Race

May 12, Charlottesville A 6.2-mile downriver race for all paddler classes to promote recreation, conservation and sportsmanship through paddling on the Rivanna. 434-975-3072, rivannaregatta.blogspot.com

Superhero 2.5K Fun Run

May 18, 6:30–8:30pm at Pen Park Get your family moving together with this 2.5K family-fun run (or walk). Costumes are encouraged and prizes will be given out.

434-970-3572, facebook.com/ events/298322924032652

5K Chicken Run

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May 19, 8–9:30am registration, 10am race at Downtown Gordonsville A fun-filled 5K run/walk through the streets of historic Gordonsville, rain or shine. A portion of the fees will go to renovations for Dix Memorial Pool and its grounds. townofgordonsville.org

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2018

Charlottesville City Market

May 5-October 13, Saturdays, 7am–12pm at Second & Water Street parking lots.

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DogwooD FeStival Spring ConCert

Our 96th Season!

Sunday, April 22 | 3:30pm | Dickinson Theater, PVCC free admission

2018 Summer ConCertS

Stephen R. Layman, Music Director

Tuesday, June 5 | 7:30pm | Claudius Crozet Park Tuesday, June 19 | 7:30pm | Paramount Theater Tuesday, July 3 | 7:30pm | Paramount Theater Wednesday, July 4| 9am | Naturalization Ceremony at Monticello Tuesday, July 17 | 7:30pm | Paramount Theater Tuesday, July 31 | 7:30pm | Paramount Theater Tuesday, August 14 | 7:30pm| Martin Luther King Performing Arts Center

Ninety-Second Summer Season Stephen R. Layman, Music Director at the

Ninety-Second Summer Soundtrack Seasonof the Community since 1922 Paramount Theater

Tues. 6/3 8:00 p.m.

atGreat the American Composers

Tues. 6/17 8:00 p.m.

Guest Artists: U.S Army Chorus

Paramount Theater

Tues. 7/1 8:00 p.m.

Tues. 6/3 8:00 p.m.

Tues. 7/15 8:00 p.m.

Bernstein, Copland & Gershwin

from Washington D.C.

From the Classical World Great American James Simmons and Composers

Photo: Rob Garland

Bernstein, Copland & Gershwin

Charles Torian, guest conductors

Music from Stage and Screen

7/29 8:00 p.m.Guest Artists: Family Tues. 6/17 8:00Tues.p.m.

U.SNight Army Chorus Gary Fagan, guest conductor from Washington D.C.

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let’s BERRY go Fresh Fruit Chart Apples .......... July–November Blackberries .. June–August Blueberries .... June–August Cherries ....... June Grapes .......... August–October Peaches ........ July–August Raspberries ... June–October Strawberries .. April–June

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PICKING!

Chiles Peach Orchard (Crozet) Pick your own strawberries late-April through early-June and peaches mid-June through mid-September. Plus indulge in baked goods and homemade ice cream.

434-823-1583, chilespeachorchard.com

Henley’s Orchard (Crozet) Pick your own nectarines and peaches beginning mid-June and lasting through August. Apple picking season starts in July and runs through October.

434-823-7848, henleysorchard.com

Critzer Family Farm (Afton) Pick your own strawberries in May and June, cherries in June and July, blackberries and raspberries in mid-July and a selection of vegetables throughout the summer.

540-456-4772, critzerfamilyfarm.com

Hill Top Berry Farm & Winery (Nellysford) Pick several varieties of thornless blackberries mid-July through August at this berry winery, and don’t forget to visit the annual Blackberry Festival and Music Festival. Open daily 11am–5pm. 434-361-1266, hilltopberrywine.com

Dickie Brothers Orchard (Roseland) Pick your own blackberries in mid-July and honey crisp apples from August to September.

Pre-picked peaches, plums and nectarines will be available in August.

434-277-5516, dickiebrothers.com Gold Hill Blueberry Farm (Unionville) Come pick blueberries July through August, and check out other items grown on the farm as well. 540-222-7954, facebook.com/GoldHill-Blueberry-Farm-113974898651476

Kipps Grapes (Rochelle) Pick your own grapes from early August through early September. Check out the jams, jellies and sauces made from their fruit as well.

540-948-4171, kippsgrapes.com Liberty Mills Farm (Somerset) Pick your own strawberries in mid- to lateMay, and join in the Annual Strawberry Fest May 26. 434-882-6293, libertymillsfarm.com

The Market at Grelen (Somerset) Starting with blueberries, the berry picking starts in late-May or early-June and typically goes through September. Pick peaches in early-June and apples in early-September.

540-672-7268, themarketatgrelen.com Middle Fork Farm (Scottsville) Pick your own strawberries from May through July. Check their Facebook page for a Strawberry Fest date and specific berry picking dates on weekends. Tastings of Cunningham Creek Wine will also be available during the Fest. 434-589-0810, middleforkfarm.net Miller Farms Market (Locust Grove) Pick your own strawberries in May from the three-acre strawberry patch. You can also pick blackberries, blueberries and raspberries a little later on in the season. See their Facebook page for more information.

540-850-5009, millerfarmsmarket.com Morris Orchard (Monroe) Pick blueberries in mid-June and blackberries early-July. For specific dates and times, be sure to check their Facebook page.

434-929-2401, morrisorchard.com Saunders Brothers Farm Market (Piney River) Strawberries available to purchase by the quart from May 6 through early-June, and followed by cherries and nectarines.

434-277-5455, saundersbrothersfarmmarket.com **Seaman’s Orchard (Roseland) Pick your own strawberries in May, and blueberries and cherries in June.

434-277-8130, seamanorchard.com See ad this page Spring Valley Orchard (Afton) Owned by the same family as Chiles Peach Orchard and Carter Mountain Orchard; offers pick-your-own sweet cherries from mid-tolate May until June. Be sure to visit social media pages for actual dates.

434-960-9443, springvalleyorchard.com Sunrise Gardens (Brightwood) Pick your own raspberries, blueberries and blackberries from approximately mid-May through mid-July. Closed Sundays, and best selections are early in the mornings.

540-543-2220

Pick Your Own and Pre-Picked HOURS Mon-Fri 8am to 7pm Sat 8am to 4pm Sun 12:30pm to 5pm

Strawberries: May Blueberries & Cherries: June Mother Nature determines when our berries will be ripe.

Please call to confirm availability.

From Cville and Lovingston: Take 29 S to 56 W, go 1 mile, turn right onto Roseland Road. Watch for signs.

Wenger Grapes (Waynesboro) Pick your own Concord and Niagara grapes from late-August through September for fresh eating, jams and juice.

540-943-4956, wengergrapes.com

For more information, call 434-277-8130 | seamansorchard.com CharlottesvilleFamily.com

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{our town calendar} 9th Annual Dogwood Duathlon

YOU CAN May 20, 8am check-in, 8:30am HELP! pre-race meeting, 9am race start at Forest Lakes South Swim Club Kids ages 7–16 can participate in this runbike-run duathlon. All participants will receive a t-shirt, and all finishers will receive a medal. Lots of prize drawings, and food and drinks. Proceeds go toward three different nonprofits. dogwoodduathlon.com

WITH KIMORA AND PLUKO

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James Sun Color Run

MAY 8 MAVIS STAPLES AND BLIND BOYS OF ALABAMA

MAY 12 Grand TasTinG EvEnT Celebrating the Best of Central Virginia Wines

For ticket and event info: monticellowinetrailfestival.com

WITH ALICE MERTON

MAY 15

Two Full Sets

June 16 ALISON KRAUSS JUNE 21

May 20, 9am, 8–8:30am registration at Western Albemarle High School, Crozet Bring the family for a two-mile color run through the school campus to commemorate the life of former Western student James Sun. All ages welcome. Proceeds benefit the Make-A-Wish Foundation. 434-823-8700, sites.google.com/k12albemarle.org

Ramblin’ Rabbit 5K

with The War and Treaty

Indigo Girls ALL SHOWS ON SALE NOW

TICKETS: SprintPavilion.com, Downtown Visitor Center, 877-CPAV-TIX

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May 5 at V.L. Murray Elementary School Girls learn new tech skills and connect to other STEM programs in the community.

Open to all ages, girls in third grade or younger should plan to bring a guardian, too.

Registration required. tech-girls.org

Tunes & Tales

May 5, 10:30am at Northside Library Stop by for stories, music and movement.

434-973-7893, jmrl.org

Sibling Class at UVA

May 5, 6:30–8:30pm at Battle Building, West Main St. A one-session class for children ages 2–10 who are expecting a new sibling. Interactive play teaches about life with a new baby in the home. A tour of a hospital room is included. 434-924-9920, uvahealth.com

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May 26, 7:30am, registration HELP! at 6:30am at PVCC Proceeds will benefit the Boys & Girls Clubs of Central Virginia. There will be prizes for top overall finisher and top finisher in each age category. This is a family event with music and food.

703-209-1708, ramblinrabbit5k.com

16th Annual 5K Run/Walk for Autism

May 26, 8am at Innsbrook Pavilion, Richmond This family-friendly race includes entertainment, food, exhibitors and a kid’s fun zone. The 5K Run/Walk YOU CAN is one of the Autism Society Central HELP! Virginia’s primary sources of income, raising over $1360,000 in 2017.

804-257-0192, ascv.org

First Polo Match of the Year

May 27 at King Family Vineyards The Roseland Polo Club kicks off the 2018 polo season on Memorial Day weekend.

434-823-7800, kingfamilyvineyards.com

LEARNING FUN Butterflies Live!

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Girls’ Geek Days

Now–October 14, 9am–5pm at Lewis Ginter Botanical Garden, Richmond Butterflies LIVE! is an indoor exhibit in the Conservatory geared for all ages. Get up close and personal as hundreds of tropical butterflies feed and take flight all around you.

804-262-9887, lewisginter.org

Pictures & Pages With Glynis Welte

May 2, 10am at UVA’s Fralin Museum of Art Gordon Avenue children’s librarian Glynis Welte delivers dynamic arts-related storytimes with movement, songs and puppets. 434-243-2050, uvafralinartmuseum.virginia.edu

Story Time

May 7 & 21, 10:30–11am at Virginia Discovery Museum Children will be introduced to new words and ideas and encouraged to express their thoughts about what they’ve heard.

434-977-1025, vadm.org

Survival Skills Workshop

May 12, 2–4pm at Mint Springs Park, Crozet Learn everything that you’d need to survive in an emergency situation, including how to find shelter, build a fire, find food and water, and put together a survival pack to keep on hand.

Class by Master Naturalist Steve Pullinger.

Ages 10+. Required registration.

434-823-4050, jmrl.org

Bilingual Storytime

May 14, 1–1:30pm at Central Library Learn some Spanish with your storytime.

Join Miss Angela as she uses popular stories, rhymes and songs to introduce some basic Spanish words. 434-979-7151, jmrl.org

Writing Circles

May 17, 6:30–8pm at Kluge-Ruhe Aboriginal Art Museum Join writer Jessica Brophy at Kluge-Ruhe for a 90-minute writing circle inspired by the artwork on display. This writing circle is open to all levels, beginners to professionals.

434-244-0234, kluge-ruhe.org

Come Grow With Us

May 22–August 29, Tuesdays & Wednesdays, 10:30am, arrive by 10:15am to register at Chiles Peach Orchard These children sessions include storytime, a take-home craft or cooking project, and a small container for pick-your-own fruit and a snack. The program is geared towards ages 3–8, but all ages are welcome. No drop offs.

434-823-1583, chilespeachorchard.com

Shopkins Live! BFF Day

May 5 at Busch Gardens Audiences are immersed in the world of Shopville through creative onstage characters, custom-designed theatrical costumes and interactive performances.

800-343-7946, seaworldparks.com

Black Box Players Presents “Annie”

May 11–13 & 18–20 at Burnley Moran Elementary School Families are invited to enjoy this classic musical which showcases some of Broadway’s most memorable songs. blackboxplayers.com

Family Prom Butterflies Live!

Now–October 14, 9am–5pm at Lewis Ginter Botanical Garden. See page 22.

STAGE & SCREEN Fridays After Five

Fridays in May, 5:30pm at Sprint Pavilion Enjoy live music and food trucks at this free concert series. 434-245-4910, sprintpavilion.com

Pinkalicious the Musical

Now–May 13 at The Children’s Theatre at Willow Lawn, Richmond Pinkalicious is in love with the color pink.

This pinkish problem can only be solved by Pinkalicious herself as she becomes confident and embraces who she is.

804-282-2620, va-rep.org

Third Fridays Improv at PVCC

Now–May 18, Third Fridays, 6–7pm at Maxwell Theatre Led by award-winning playwright Brad Stoller, this workshop introduces the basic tools, rules and philosophy behind various forms of improv. 434-961-5376, pvcc.edu

May 12, 6–8pm at Carver Recreation Center Come make some special memories with your family while you enjoy an evening of dancing, light refreshments and photo booth. Youth age 17 and under must be accompanied by an adult. 434-970-3053

On Stage: Arias & Duets

May 12, 7–8:30pm at Maymont Mansion Lawn, Richmond Pack a picnic and bring the family for an evening of outdoor musical relaxation with vibrant voices of the Opera and Broadway.

Registration required. Rain date: Sunday, May 13. 804-358-7166, maymont.org

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PGA PROFESSIONAL AVAILABLE FOR GROUP AND PRIVATE INSTRUCTION Rent the Meadowcreek Grill space for your next event.

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CALL: 304.636.9477 • MTN-RAIL.COM CharlottesvilleFamily.com

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Fun on the Fastrax Take a day to explore Fastrax for some outdoor thrills and friendly competition. Start your day on the miniature golf course. Gather your loved ones and compete to see who can putt the best throughout the 18-hole course. Dodge obstacles such as rocks, railroad ties and different transitioning terrain, while you attempt to make that holein-one you’re striving towards. Enjoy this time together as you make your way past the small creek that flows throughout.

Test your batting skills at the two indoor batting cages that are capable of pitching both softballs and baseballs. Slow pitches are offered at one set of cages, while fast pitches can be found at the other. Whether you’re an experienced hitter, or looking to learn, the whole family will enjoy cheering each other on.

Continue your day on Fastrax’s two go-kart tracks. Hop inside your favorite colored kart and take a turn on the figure-eight track, as you learn which family member has superior driving skills. If you have a more competitive racer in the family, send them over to the smaller, oval-shaped track to test their streak. This go-kart track isn’t like others you might be used to. The lessened traction requires drivers to do more than just put the pedal to the metal, and the courses require actual driving skills. It’s a kind of excitement that will make you want to come back for more. fastraxfun.com

Just in time for Mother’s Day, we have reveal peppermint patties, and much, much more for Mom!

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325 Rivanna Plaza Dr., #102 Charlottesville Located next to Kegler’s Bowling Alley

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Cavern Adventures

Courtesy of Luray Caverns

Luray Caverns provides a daytrip experience the whole family will enjoy. Guided tours will walk you through the paths of cathedralsized rooms and various cavernous beauties will be revealed with every turn. Learn the unique history of how the caverns were discovered back in the 19th century as you marvel at their spectacular arrangement. After your exploration of the caverns, step inside the Luray Valley Museum, where your family can learn about the history of the Shenandoah Valley. This museum is home to findings from Native people’s way of life in the 1920s, a seven-acre recreation of a farming community from the 19th century and more enriching historical exhibits.

Whether you’re a history buff, a car lover, or both, check out The Car and Carriage Caravan Museum at Luray Caverns. Guests can find a 1908 Baker Electric and a 1925 Rolls Royce, previously owned by silent film star, Rudolph Valentino. The star of the show is the centerpiece of the museum’s collection, an 1892 Mercedes-Benz.

Toy Town Junction will bring out the kid in everyone in the family.

Pirate spies, jousting knights and a farmer feeding his pigs in a 1900s barnyard are just a few things you can find in this unique part of the caverns attractions. Learn how this exhibit began with just a single collectable train and expanded into a vast collection. luraycaverns.com

Castle Hill Cider, a place to celebrate.

Come visit. Drink our award-winning ciders. Wander the gorgeous grounds. We trust you’ll enjoy our rich history, and perhaps even create some of your own. We have daily tasting hours of 11-5, and host special events like weddings, corporate parties, and small gatherings—all sure to create beautiful memories.

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{our town calendar} Paramount Presents: The Gruffalo Live on Stage

May 13, 4–5:30pm at The Paramount Theater Join Mouse on an adventure through the deep dark wood in Tall Stories musical adaptation of the classic picture book by Julia Donaldson and Axel Scheffler. CharlottesvilleFamily is a proud sponsor!

434-979-1333, theparamount.net

PAW Patrol Live! “The Great Pirate Adventure”

May 19 & 20, 10am & 2pm each day at Altria Theater, Richmond An all-new action-packed, music-filled production based on the animated preschool series PAW Patrol. The new live stage show follows the heroic pups as they embark on a pirate-themed adventure. 800-514-3849, altriatheater.com

Family Jams at Fry’s Springs: 123 Andres

Central Film Series: Opposable Chums May 24, 7pm at Central Library Come out for a free film on Thursday evenings. 434-979-7151, jmrl.org

Charlottesville High School Orchestra Spring Concert

May 24, 7:30–9pm at Martin Luther King Jr. Performing Arts Center The Charlottesville High School Orchestra will perform an evening of music.

434-245-2726, chsorchestra.org

Outdoor Movie: Coco

May 26, Doors open at 7:30pm, movie at sunset at Dod Amphitheater, Frontier Culture Museum Bring the entire family, a picnic, your blanket and chairs and enjoy a free showing of Disney Pixar’s Coco. Food and popcorn available for purchase. Rain location is Cochran Pavilion.

540-332-7850, frontiermuseum.org

May 5, 1–3pm at Michael’s Arts & Crafts Come in this Saturday to make with Mom to personalize a gift or trinket box. Buy the wood box and the rest of the supplies are provided. Ages 3+. 434-971-1072, classes.michaels.com

Family Art JAMs: Individual Identities

May 12, 10am–12pm mixed ages 5–12, 1–3pm ages 5–7, 3–5pm ages 8–12 at UVA’s Fralin Museum of Art Interactive tours with hands-on art activities.

Reservations required. 434-243-2050, uvafralinartmuseum.virginia.edu

Boat-Building Picnic Fundraiser

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May 12, 11am–2pm YOU CAN at Lewis & Clark Exploratory Center HELP! Enjoy the picnic lunch on the terrace in support of the summer boat-building program for kids. Help build bird and animal prows for the kayaks, and participate in building a model for the boats that will be made this summer. 434-996-7282, lewisandclarkvirginia.org

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HELP! May 20, 5pm show, 4pm doors at Fry’s Spring Beach Club Stop by Fry’s Springs Beach Club for a family concert with GRAMMY-award winning 123 Andres. All proceeds will go to ReadyKids.

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MAKEbreak Mother’s Day Box

May 3, First Thursdays, 4pm at Northside Library All you need to bring is your creativity and natural engineering ability; building blocks will be supplied. No registration required.

Ages 5+. 434-973-7893, jmrl.org

May 17, 4pm at Northside Library Drop by and build with KEVA Planks. Grades K–5. 434-973-7893, jmrl.org

Go Green With Us! PICTURES & PAGES: May 2 Story time with Children’s Librarian Glynis Welte.

BABIES IN ARTLAND: May 8 Art conversation, with baby coos and cries encouraged.

FAMILY ART JAMs: May 12 Age-appropriate tours with hands-on art activities.

FUN FOR THE YOUNG: May 16 Explore artwork through observation, play and projects.

TODDLERS IN ARTLAND: May 22 Introduction to development theory.

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Strider Course, Decoration Station and Bike Handling Skill Courses for riders of all ages. Information from local city and nonprofit organizations on-site.

Sunday, May 20, 2018 10am - 2pm Blue Wheel at IX Ctr. Bring your bike and helmet!

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The 120-acre haven known as the Metro Richmond Zoo is home to 2,000 plus animals with 180 plus species. Famed for their primates (the largest collection in the U.S.), this zoo boasts more than twodozen species from pygmy marmosets to an orangutan. Your family will enjoy the variety of wildlife, from lions, bears, camels, tigers and kangaroos to exotic birds, koi, turtles and peacocks. And, be sure to adventure to the special exhibits that house prairie dogs, bats and snakes. On your way in, purchase a cup of food to feed the

giraffes up on the bridge, bringing your animal lovers face-to-face with the long-necked beauties. From there, you can venture to the North American boardwalk with its shady wooded path where you can see deer, bighorn sheep, bison and more. The aviary and zoo animal carousel are hits with the younger set. For a small fee, a chair lift can take you overhead some of the wild beasts. Bathrooms, covered picnic tables and a small concession stand with drink machines make the park very convenient. metrorichmondzoo.com

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Take a Screen Break: There’s So Much More to Do!

Asian Pop Culture Night

Now–May 6 at Crozet & Northside Library Fill out a Screen Break Pledge Sheet, pledging to reduce your normal amount of TV viewing and screen time, bring your pledge sheet in and receive a free book. Turn off all screens for the entire week, and you’ll be entered in a drawing for an extra-special prize. jmrl.org

Digital Branding: Crafting Your Presence Online May 7, 6:30pm at Central Library Join Charlottesville artist, designer and tech consultant John LeMasney as he leads a discussion on crafting an online presence.

Ages 14+. 434-979-7151, jmrl.org

Escape Room

May 12, Various times at Northside Library A forgetful Hogwarts professor has given you and your friends detention. Will you escape using your wits and magical learning or will you be trapped? The escape room accommodates up to four participants at a time and takes 30 minutes. Ages 11+.

Registration required. 434-973-7893, jmrl.org

Learn to Row Day

May 12, 9am & 11am at Boathouse at 276 Woodlands Road Come see the feet of boats. Club members will show you the boathouse, teach the stroke on rowing machines and give you a

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May 15, 6:30–8pm at Crozet Library Share your love of food, music, TV/movies and more from East and South Asian countries including K-Pop, anime, Bollywood films and dramas. Grades 6–12. Required registration. 434-823-4050, jmrl.org

Creative Writing Club

May 16, 5–6pm at Northside Library Get constructive feedback on your writing each month. All creative writing is welcomed, including poetry, nonfiction and fanfiction.

Grades 6–12. 434-973-7893, jmrl.org

ESPECIALLY FOR PARENTS Drop-In Wellness Tuesdays

May 1–29, Tuesdays at Jefferson School City Center No appointment is necessary. Sentara Starr Hill Health Center will provide blood pressure checks, A1C testing, weight checks, quick wellness & nutrition advice and referrals.

The Women’s Initiative will provide a walkin clinic. Common Ground Healing Arts will provide rotating mind body offerings, acupuncture, massage and mindfulness training. 434-984-6220, facebook.com/ events/766470846880635

Free Traumatic Brain Injury and Stroke Awareness Fair May 6, 1–3pm at Sprint Pavilion Visit information tables for educational materials, local resources, blood pressure checks and stroke risk factor screenings.

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Community Spring Job Fair

May 9, 10am–3pm at John Paul Jones Arena Over 100 exhibitors from a wide variety of industries will be hiring for over 1,000 open positions. Wear interview clothing and bring copies of your resume. 434-970-3117, charlottesville.org

Free Skin Cancer Screening

May 12, 8am–12pm at UVA Primary Care Center Dermatology Clinic Take this opportunity to be screened by a physician and bring in a baseball cap or visor to exchange for a new sun hat while supplies last. Doctors will screen questionable lesions and sun-exposed skin but do not offer further diagnostic or therapeutic services. Participants are given a chance to make a follow-up appointment. 800-223-9173, uvahealth.com

DATE NIGHT Virginia Gold Cup May 5, 10am–7pm at The Plains, VA See the 93rd running of these horse races. Ivy Publications is a proud sponsor! vagoldcup.com

28th Annual Orange Uncorked Wine Festival

May 5–6, 11am–6pm Saturday, 11am–5pm Sunday at James Madison’s Montpelier Wineries in Central Virginia come together for this annual event. The festival has arts and crafts booths, food vendors, children’s entertainment, kite flying and carriage rides all day. Co-hosted by the Orange County Chamber of Commerce. Rain or shine.

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May 5–20, 10am–4pm Friday–Tuesday, 10am–7pm Wednesday & Thursday at 2575 Garth Road Learn all the latest trends in home decorating and design and help victims of domestic violence at the same time. Ivy Publications is a proud sponsor! CvilleDesignHouse.com

7th Annual Taste of Monticello Wine Trail Festival

May 7-12 at Various locations Enjoy various events, including the Monticello Cup Awards, winemaker dinners and a wine tasting event at the Sprint Pavilion. Ivy Publications is a proud sponsor! monticellowinetrailfestival.com

Mavis Staples & The Blind Boys of Alabama

May 8, 7pm at Sprint Pavilion See the legendary Mavis Staples and “gospel titans” The Blind Boys of Alabama.

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6th Annual Bowl for Kids’ Sake YOU CAN HELP!

May 10, 6:30–9:30pm at AMF Kegler’s Lanes This Superhero-themed fundraising event supports mentoring kids in Charlottesville.

Form a team of six adults, eat, drink, win prizes, bid on auction items, meet celebrity guests, visit the photo booth, partake in three hours of unlimited bowling and help a great cause. 434-244-0882, blueridgebigs.org

Know Good Beer & Bourbon Festival YOU CAN HELP!

May 12, 2–6pm at IX Art Park Enjoy unlimited 2–4 oz samples from dozens of craft beers and proportionate samples from 20 bourbons. Each ticket provides access to both beer and bourbon, rain or shine. A portion of the proceeds help support Red Shoe Cville and Ronald McDonald House of Charlottesville. facebook.com/events/1502077243235158/ ?notif_t=event_calendar_create&notif_ id=1518287071874425

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Tech-Free Baby The Importance of Minimizing Tech with Babies & Infants

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All forms of media have their benefits when it comes to entertaining and even educating children. They expose children to different ways to communicate, different ways to learn and even different ways to behave. However, parents remain to be the most important influence and not only should they model healthy media habits for their children but also teach them how to create a healthy exposure to media beginning at a young age.

Parenting is tough work, and we’re all guilty of leaning on phones, computers, iPads and the television at times to calm a child in the checkout line or on a road trip. However, it is important to note that mobile devices can harm our baby’s development if used too often as a screen ‘pacifier’, and if they supersede reallife, face-to-face parent-child bonding. As a parent, our goal is to give infants every chance to connect meaningfully through human interaction and with the world around them, and that means keeping smart phones and other screens out of the family picture whenever possible.

by Whitney Woollerton Morrill Infants from 0–2 years old develop at lightening speed in every area— cognitively, emotionally and physically. An abundance of research shows that this crucial period of development lays an important and long-lasting foundation in a child’s life. According to the American Academy of Pediatrics (AAP), infants who are exposed to screen time may experience a cascade of negative effects later in childhood and adolescence. These can include: higher Body Mass Index (BMI), which can lead to being overweight; heightened anxiety; diminished or delayed language development; higher levels of distraction; and sleep problems.

The AAP recommends parents eliminates all screen time for babies under 18 months old. For children 18–24 months old, parents are encouraged to seek out high-quality programming for their children, and to watch and discuss it together.

Another burgeoning area of research related to infant For more information health and screen time focuses on a mothers’ use of on healthy digital media cell phones while caring for baby. Dr. Tallie Z. Baram, a use for babies, toddlers professor at the University of California Irvine, has studied and preschoolers, see the effect of mothers whose focus is frequently drawn away healthychildren.org from their infants. She explains in an issue of Time magazine that, “Our work builds on many studies showing that maternal care is important for future emotional health. Importantly, it shows that it is not how much [sic] maternal care that influences adolescent behavior but the avoidance of fragmented and unpredictable care that is crucial.”

So, how to limit the lure of the phone? First, know that you’re not alone.

According to the non-profit Common Sense Media, the number of infants who had been exposed to a mobile device jumped 30 percent between 2011 and 2013.

Also, try leaving the phone in another room when you’re around baby. You can interact with your child in simple ways, such as working with identifying objects with names (bird, sky, bed, etc.). And, read, read and read some more to them. Hold him, be in the world and know that every simple sentence, hug and dose of eye contact is a gift both now and far into the future.

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Dear Bob

Your Parenting Questions Answered Our 7-year-old is addicted to video games. If I don’t let him play, it is a continuous whiny battle. How can I stop this?

You’re right to be concerned. Video games can have an addictive quality. You want to nip this in the bud now rather than later. It sounds like there may be two interrelated problems here. One is the video gaming itself. Yes, your son is going to whine (or more) if you try and place limits on his gaming, because he is not getting his way and hopes that by complaining enough you will give in. Have a calm conversation with him about this, sharing that you are concerned he is spending a lot of time gaming. Decide on a limited amount of time per day, and use it as a reward, for instance: after he does his homework, cleans his room, gets ready for bed, etc. Your job is to hold steady.

The other problem deals with the role the gaming plays in his life. Does he game as a default when he is bored, because you are tied up with your other children, because he doesn’t have many friends or other hobbies and interests?

by Bob Taibbi This is the other half of the conversation you want to have with him. Gaming is addictive because it pulls you out of your everyday world and gives you stimulation, challenge and control. Are their ways that he needs to get this in other ways? Have this conversation with him, find out what he likes most about gaming, and then suggest other activities he can try that provide some of these same emotional and psychological results.

Our kindergartner has picked up some bad words at school. How can I best teach him how to handle this on the playground, and to not use his newfound vocabulary?

You’re right in that it’s the newfound aspect that is the draw here. Most kids pick up words and really don’t understand what they mean or that they are inappropriate. They also often sense that they are in a different territory and try them out to see what reaction they will provoke.

The key here is not to provoke any strong reaction. This is the time for poker-face. It is also the time to calmly let him know that this is not acceptable. You don’t need to go into a long lecture Email your parenting about why and saying you don’t allow “such language” is too concerns and queries to vague for a child. Simply say that those are not nice words. editor@IvyPublications.com.

Next, you need to enforce your dictum. You should decide on Yours might be included in consequences that seem appropriate and that you can follow through an upcoming issue! on, such as a time-out, no dessert or no reading books at bedtime.

What you don’t want to do is send a double message, for example, say that the word is not nice and still give him dessert.

If this persists, if you feel like you are engaged in a power struggle, you want to question why. Ask: Is your child struggling in some other area of his life, or is he not getting enough positive attention from you? Here, you have a conversation about this bigger picture, about whether he is unhappy or worried, or whether there are some other problems that he needs your help to fix. Finally, as always, reward any appropriate behavior whenever it comes up. And, don’t forget to watch your own language.

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Early Intervention In Children’s Development

Speech and language with children is more than babbling and identifying words with objects. According to the American Speech-Language-Hearing Association (ASHA), “speech” is how we say sounds and words—articulation, voice and fluency.

And language is speaking, understanding, reading and writing. Although each child develops at her own rate, it’s important to watch their abilities at an early age.

At the Infant & Toddler Connection of the Blue Ridge, which serves the city of Charlottesville and Albemarle, Greene, Fluvanna, Louisa and Nelson counties, their early intervention program works with children between birth and their third birthday. No matter the family’s need—educational or developmental (speech, or occupational or physical therapy)—families can receive a screening or a complete assessment at no cost and, if eligible, the development of an individualized-family plan with goals and outcomes. “On the state level and locally, speech therapy is the most frequently delivered service in early intervention,” says Susan Shaw, a

by Sarah Pastorek program director with the Infant & Toddler Connection.

“Around 1 year old, babies should be babbling consistently—putting together syllables and sounds,” says Jessica Norton, a licensed and certified speechlanguage pathologist who the Infant & Toddler Connection contracts with. “By 12–15 months old, babies should become more intentional with their words, adding objects and action words to their vocabulary. By age 2, they should have at least 50 words in their vocabulary,” she says. “If not, they could have a 25 percent delay and should be referred for an assessment.”

For children with an expressive language delay—a child who struggles with sharing his or her own thoughts, ideas and feelings—Norton shares that they “understand a lot, follow directions and get objects when they are told; they are just not building use of language themselves.” On the contrary, if they aren’t following directions and responding to things, they could also be experiencing a receptive language delay. As for speech disorders, a child could be struggling with saying sounds, have a stutter when they speak or repeat parts of words. According to ASHA, speech sound disorder is an umbrella term that refers to any combination of difficulties with “perception, motor production, For more helpful information and/or the phonological representation of speech sounds and on the speech and language speech segments that impact speech intelligibility.” development of your child, visit “All young kids will have articulation errors,” Norton infantva.org or asha.org shares, “but typically, they will use patterns as they learn to talk.

Caregivers and parents should be able to depict what their child is trying to say. A 2-year-old is usually 50 percent intelligible, and, by age 3, children should be 75 percent intelligible.”

Parents and caregivers are encouraged to talk, read and play with their child, as well as listen and respond to their words in the early stages.

“Children learn words for what they are interested in and what they see and do,” Norton says, “so it’s great to use their interests as sounding boards for exposing them to words and narration throughout the day. Parents should also use gestures as they talk, talk about the things right in front of them and use simple repetitive language. The shorter the word or phrase is, the easier it is to copy and retain.”

No matter what type of concern or question you have, don’t hesitate to reach out to a pediatrician or pediatric speech-language pathologist for advice or a referral.

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Keeping Your Garden Animal Free

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In heavily deer-populated areas, gardeners and horticulturalists have to resort to deer proofing garden practices to protect their flowers, herbs and vegetables.

There are a few tricks gardeners can employ to protect their gardens though, particularly with some smart landscaping.

Deer rely on their sense of smell to eat, so incorporating fragrant plants into your landscape is one way to keep the wildlife buffet at bay. For instance, by planting flowering herbs such as lavender, rosemary, catnip, garlic, chives and oregano to viburnums, boxwoods, hawthorn, currant and gooseberry bushes, lilacs, hollies and smoke trees, gardeners can help deter these quiet grazers from damaging beautiful crops. Deer also don’t care for fuzzy, spiny and bitter plants, so lamb ears, yarrow, bee balm, Echinacea and poppies, daffodils, alliums, fritillaries, hyacinth, blue bells and hellebores are all excellent choices if you have a herd of neighborhood deer.

There are other deterrents that also involve odor and noisemaking, but those can also offend nearby neighbors.

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Planting near the house or other structure can help deter deer as can creating a border of plants that deer don’t care for around those plants that deer do love to nibble.

Tall fences can also be helpful, but keep in mind that deer can clear an eight-foot tall barrier. It is worth noting that deer won’t jump where they can’t see the other side, so a lower stockade fence will work better than a taller, more transparent one. Don’t want to install a fence? Try a few rows of fishing line—small and barely perceivable to the eye. The transparent string can be used to create a vertical mesh between larger strands of wire that will stop deer for a more inexpensive fence.

Whatever methods you choose, be sure to steer clear of anything poisonous to humans and other living creatures, especially if you or your neighbors have pets. Finally, your pets are also another great deterrent to deer. The more time your dog or cat spends outside, the less likely deer will want to set foot in your yard.

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by Beth Seliga

“A healthy outside starts from the inside.”

– Robert Urich

SCOTT SMITH & JOHN KOKOLA

30 Years of Bodo’s Bagels

Co-owners Scott Smith and John Kokola of Bodo’s Bagels continue Brian Fox’s vision of being one of Charlottesville’s staples into the business’s 30th year. What began on Emmet Street in 1988 has expanded to two additional locations on Preston Street (1993) and The Corner (2005). Having baked bread all of her life, Fox’s wife was a primary influencer in Bodo’s menu. A bagel bakery in Burlington, VT, where the Foxs lived prior to Charlottesville, helped Fox’s vision of a bakery in fast-food fashion come to life.

What are your favorite recipes to make?

Scott: New ones. I love the design challenge of putting together a recipe that will work unfailingly in context. I love making something special out of a short list of things.

John: I most enjoy either making a new dish out of whatever happens to be on hand, or trying to replicate a dish I’ve had elsewhere. Sometimes, once I see progress with a dish, I will make many versions with slight variations in each successive version. My recipe for vegan banana/cocoa muffins, for example, went through at least 20 revisions.

What technology could you not live without?

Scott: I could live without anything but the very basics, but I’d really miss electric guitars.

John: I appreciate that we live in an era where we don’t have to spend all of our time in survival mode, making shelter, tools and clothing, planting crops and preparing for unknowns. There’s so much to be grateful for.

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Do you have any current projects?

Scott: We always have something in development, whether it’s a recipe, a process or fixture, or a new chunk of music for the playlist in the bakery.

John: We have numerous physical plant projects going on at our stores.

What was your favorite book as a child?

Scott: I read The Lion, the Witch and the Wardrobe by C. S. Lewis a couple of times, which I loved for its allegory, I think, though I wouldn’t have thought about it exactly that way.

The allegory is there in the fantasy, but it’s the family story that makes it work, along with the children being without their parents because of the war.

John: I read voraciously as a kid, and was drawn to re-read anything that felt comfortable.

Whom do you admire?

Scott: I admire humanity.

John: Anyone who chooses to decline prestige and comfort in the pursuit of justice, equality or a better life for others; those who struggle for the sake of their loved ones or their community to provide, uplift and be as honest, unbiased and authentic as they can be.

Where do you love to eat out?

Scott: I love Mas Tapas and Lampo Neapolitan Pizzeria especially. I order what’s new but have a deep love of Mas’s

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flair with a poached egg and Lampo’s porchetta panouzzo.

John: The C&O, Bizou, Oakhart, Doma, Now&Zen, The Juice Place, Michael’s Bistro … there is an incredible amount of good food to be had in this town.

What is the best advice your parents have ever given you?

Scott: Do your best. The best advice I ever heard given came from Spike Lee, “Always do the right thing.”

John: Be yourself.

one y r Eve

Can you share a kid-friendly recipe that’s quick and easy to make?

Crepey Pancakes • 2 cups each – flour, eggs and milk • 1 stick melted butter Order is crucial: mix the eggs and flour smooth, add melted butter next and mix smooth again, finally, add the milk last. It will become a thin batter.

Spread a half cup over an 11”x 18” very lightly oiled grill pan; cut it into six squares with the flipper; and turn them once so they’re a little golden

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Why is it important to teach children about healthy eating?

Scott: To instill the self-control that underlies healthy eating, and the openmindedness and joy that underlie everything else, too.

John: Because it’s easy to become your own worst enemy by eating indiscriminately.

What advice do you have for parents when eating out with kids?

Scott: Order food to share. Let everybody pick, but make everybody eat it all.

Don’t be too absolute.

John: Try to always be mixing in some new and untried foods with old standbys. Model healthy eating, an adventurous palate and enjoyment!

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{inspiration mother’s day}

happy mother’s day thank you

A huge to everyone who submitted to this year’s annual Mother’s Day Essay Contest. We enjoyed reading all of the sweet and touching stories, and hope you enjoy the winning essay (seen here) as well as the first runner up (pg 46). We wish you all a Happy Mother’s Day and hope you enjoy this special section filled with sweet recipes and special holiday events.

Winner!

The Yin & Yang of Motherhood

by Sarah R., Mother of three Before I could think too much about it, I had the wrench in my hand. With just a TM

few cranks, the screw loosened. This move was something I had been toying with for months and might put off indefinitely if I didn’t force myself to do it. My son was 3 years old and more than ready for his crib to convert to a toddler bed. But was I? The piece that I was removing was much more than a simple plank of wood.

It was the rail that stood calmly through countless long newborn nights, that had held fast when chubby fingers gripped tight and wobbly legs pulled up those first few times. How many times had I leaned over these posts to give him one more kiss or to make sure the blanket was situated just the way he liked? How many mornings had his feet kicked against these slats as he danced and sang silly songs while waiting for the rest of the house to wake up? Without the screw’s grasp, wood let go of wood, and the front side of the crib started to drop away.

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Oftentimes I had been caught off guard by the emotion that comes with seeing my child grow. I had blinked back tears while packing away tiny onesies and impossibly small socks.

The first time I left him with a babysitter, I had to slip out of the house before anyone could notice a lump in my throat that felt so large it must have surely been visible. This particular step was nothing of greater importance, but it struck me with a clarity that the others hadn’t.

As I freed the crib’s sidepiece from the four screws holding it in place, I was opening up my son’s little world. It meant that I was ready to trust him on his own— just in his bedroom for now, but quickly his range would spread. This move would invite him to step out into the larger life of our household and to begin to find his way in the world.

There, in that one tiny moment, was the greatest joy I find in motherhood. The yin and yang of marching forward through the amazing journey of childhood, while also allowing my heartstrings to remain tightly wound around the memories of what came before. The safeguard of the crib must fall away if I am going to allow this beautiful child to explore what he can do with each new day. I am profoundly grateful to get to see what that might bring. photo by Jen Fariello

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{inspiration mother’s day}

happy mother’s day Runner-up

Judgy Mom

by Kristie B., Mother of three girls

I used to be a judgy mom. I had one

When they crushed those bags of Doritos

too, is a blessing. I’m not judging you if

precious well-behaved daughter. As I

and I realized I hadn’t packed another

you are still caught in the trap of judging.

would drive her to elementary school,

snack, I rummaged around and found two

It is so easy to do! But I love that I have

I would see the glare of a movie playing

packs of fruit snacks. They inhaled those.

finally gotten to the point where I’m able

in the car in front of me. What a shame

Thank goodness I found two Sour Apple

to cheer on my momma friends. You do

… that short of a distance in the car and

blow pops that I had hidden for myself

you. I want us all to succeed, because

you have to turn on the television for your

because they are my favorite. I gladly

at the end of the journey, we all love

child?!

handed them over to keep the precious

our kids. We are doing our best to raise

busy

kittens quiet and happy. Thankfully, my

human beings who will survive, thrive

engaging with my child, talking about

oldest sashayed on out while they were

and succeed in this crazy world. But

her schedule for the day, setting the tone

still chewing away happily. In my defense,

be careful, and consider what it took to

for her fantastic day and managing her

they were at least drinking water. Me, I

shake me out of my judginess!

expectations. I was interacting with my

was guzzling my ever-present Dr. Pepper.

child … pouring into her. I would try very

I’m kind of the female

hard to pray for her before we left the car.

Uncle Si with a Dr. Pepper

I would walk her into school while feeling

addiction instead of sweet

sorry for those poor sweet souls that

tea.

Bless

their

hearts.

I

was

got dumped out of their cars by harried parents rushing off to work.

These

late-in-life

blessings have made me a

Now mind you, I NEVER uttered these

more flexible mom. They

thoughts those to anyone, no ma’am. I

have given me the ability

kept my judginess tucked away in my

to

self-righteous heart. I was a stay-at-home

a prayer for the mom

mom and also a working mom during this

struggling with a tantrum-

timeframe. I judged in both roles. And then

throwing

my world tilted, rolled so far I’m still dizzy

chose the middle names

and wondering when it will right itself.

Faith and Grace because I

smile

and

whisper

toddler.

We

My surprise pregnancy with twins

knew from the beginning

at the age of 40 has pushed, sucked and

that was what we needed

beaten the judginess right out of me!

to survive the pregnancy.

Today for example, while waiting in line

The same holds true for

for car pick-up at my oldest child’s school,

raising them.

my sweet 3-year-olds were plugged up,

Out

of

necessity,

watching The Secret of Nihm, eating

it has given my oldest

Cool Ranch Doritos. Their Kindles were

the freedom to grow, to

within reach, connected to Wi-Fi from

get out from under her

my phone (the data usage is so worth it).

helicopter

mom.

That,

photo by Lauren Roach

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LEARN MORE about our services and the classes we offer to help you prepare at www.SentaraMJHMaternity.com CharlottesvilleFamily.com 47 or by calling 1-800-SENTARA.

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Photo: David Loftus

Chocolate, Raspberry & Hazelnut Oat Bars Serves: 8 Prep: 15 minutes Cook: 40 to 45 minutes

Ingredients: • 1 ½ cups golden syrup • ½ cup plus 2 tablespoons butter

medium heat for 2–3 minutes, stirring constantly, until completely melted.

3. Add the oats and salt, and stir until

• 2/3 cup sugar

evenly moistened. Turn the mixture

• 3 cups plain instant oats

out into a bowl and let it cool down for

• A pinch of sea salt

15 minutes, then stir in the chocolate

• 3 ½ ounces dark chocolate, roughly

chips and hazelnuts.

chopped • ¼ cup plus 2 tablespoons skinned hazelnuts, roughly chopped • 1 1/3 cups raspberries

4. Transfer the mixture to the prepared 7 x 9 ½-inch buttered and parchmentlined baking dish, prod in some indentations, and then squash the raspberries into them. Transfer to

Directions: 1. Preheat the oven to 325°F. Butter an 8-inch square baking pan and line This recipe was reprinted from Dinner’s in the Oven by Rukmini Iyer with permission

by Chronicle Books, 2018.

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the oven and bake for 40–45 minutes, until golden brown on top.

5. Using

the

parchment

handles,

it with parchment paper, leaving

carefully lift the bars out of the

overhang for handles.

pan, and place on a wire rack. Let

2. Place the honey, butter and sugar in a large saucepan and warm over

cool completely before cutting into squares.

Mother’s Day Celebrations Mother’s Day Weekend Celebration

May 11–13 at Lewis Ginter Botanical Garden A three-day weekend with Butterflies LIVE! exhibit, live music, Children’s Garden activities, shopping, dining and more.

Sunday’s concert will be held at Bloemendaal House from 1–4pm. 804-262-9887, lewisginter.org

Mother’s Day Weekend: Music, Plant Sale & Wine Brunch

May 12 & 13, 12–9pm on Saturday, 11:30 brunch on Sunday at DuCard Vineyards Bring Mom for Music on the Patio from Scuffletown (6–9pm), fare by North Cove Mushroom food truck, a plant sale and an appearance by glass engraver Patty Sevre.

540-923-4206, ducardvineyards.com

Mother’s Day Tea

May 12, 2–4pm at Horton Vineyards Enjoy a sitting of tea with a menu of savory and sweet delights by Jack’s Shop Kitchen accompanied by a glass of Horton wine and an individual pot of tea. There will be one seating at 2pm. 540-832-7440, hortonwine.com

Mother’s Day Tea

May 12, 2–4pm at Maymont Mansion Enjoy afternoon tea with mothers, daughters and special friends on the mansion porch as Victorian ladies, gentleman and servers see to every detail. Tea sandwiches, little cakes, special music and a mansion visit too.

804-358-7166, maymont.org

Mother’s Day Music Festival

Mother’s Day Winemaker’s Brunch

Mother’s Day Open Picnic Day

Mother’s Day Celebration

May 12, 2–8pm at Tandem Friends School Don’t miss the annual Mother’s Day Music Festival featuring music, food and drink for sale, and fun activities for all ages.

434-296-1303, tandemfs.org

May 13, 10am–6pm at Montfair Resort Farm Make up a picnic and bring Mom to enjoy the day in nature. Hike the nature trails, spread a blanket in the field, fish and canoe in the lake and play yard games on the lake-front lawn.

434-823-5202, montfairresortfarm.com

Mother’s Day Brunch

May 13, 10am, 11:30am, 1pm & 2:30pm seatings at Lewis Ginter Botanical Garden Enjoy a three-course brunch for Mother’s Day. Make reservations online. Guests are asked to arrive 30–45 minutes ahead of their reservation. 804-262-9887, teahouseevents.com

Mother’s Day Brunch

May 13, 11am–3pm at Prince Michel Vineyard & Winery Bring Mom for brunch catered by Shawn’s Gourmet Catering. Reservations requested.

540-547-3707, princemichel.com

Mother’s Day Tea & Tours

May 13, 12:30pm at Veritas Vineyard & Winery, Saddleback Hall Wine and dine Mom with a brunch in Saddleback Hall and relax on the deck for the afternoon. 540-456-8000, veritaswines.com

May 13, 1pm at Barboursville Vineyards Enjoy a five-course feast paired with Barboursville wines, prepared by Chef Spencer Crawford. 540-832-7848, barboursvillewine.net

Mother’s Day Music

May 13, 2–5pm at Glass House Winery Peyton Tochterman plays at Glass House to celebrate Mother’s Day. glasshousewinery.com

Mother’s Day Lunch

May 13 at Graves Mountain Lodge, Syria Make Mom feel special by treating her to an all-you-can-eat fried chicken or country ham lunch at Graves Mountain Lodge.

540-923-4231, gravesmountain.com For more Mother’s Day events and ideas, visit CharlottesvilleFamily.com, CharlottesvilleWelcomeBook.com or CharlottesvilleWineandCountryLiving.com.

May 13, 12:30–5pm at Agecroft Hall, Richmond Spend the afternoon with Mom at Agecroft Hall, and explore the gardens and grounds.

Mom’s get in free. 804-353-4241, agecrofthall.com

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Pregnancy 2018 GUIDE

PROGRAM

DESCRIPTION

WEB ADDRESS

PHONE

American Red Cross Child and Infant CPR Course

Learn how to prevent and respond to cardiac & breathing emergencies in infants & children.

centralvirginia.redcross.org

434-979-7143

Birth Matters of Virginia

A support group plus presentations about pregnancy, birth & mothering issues.

birthmatters.us/charlottesville

757-932-2682

Child Safety Seat Awareness Course

Learn how to properly secure a child in a safety seat & the seat in a vehicle.

albemarle.org

434-531-6614

*Sentara Martha Jefferson Hospital See ad page 47

Programs include preparing for childbirth, baby care basics and safety. Also offers breastfeeding, sibling & postpartum support.

sentaramjhmaternity.com

434-654-7009

*University of Virginia Health System See ad page 9

Prenatal & parenting classes, including prepared childbirth & infant safety. Also offers breastfeeding, midwifery & sibling support.

uvahealth.com

434-924-3627

*ACAC See ad page 7

Pilates, yoga and water exercise classes and more for expectant mothers & new moms.

acac.com

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*Charlottesville Parks & Rec See ads pages 13, 31

Yoga classes focusing on stretching, deep breathing, strengthening & mindfulness.

charlottesville.org/parksandrec

434-970-3260

*Piedmont Family YMCA See ad page 62

Enjoy a low-impact choreographed dance exercise class using resistance bands.

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434-974-9622

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Free classifieds for families. Buy or sell that perfect piece of baby equipment.

charlottesvillefamily.com

434-984-4713

La Leche League Meeting

Education & support for women who want to breastfeed.

lllcville.blogspot.com

434-214-0620

*Lactation Corner, Sentara Martha Jefferson Hospital See ad page 47

Find breast pumps & other baby & new mom supplies along with a breastfeeding class.

sentaramjhmaternity.com

434-654-7042

*Sentara Martha Jefferson Hospital See ad page 47

The hospital offers an array of classes, including breastfeeding basics.

sentaramjhmaternity.com

434-654-8440

*UVA Breastfeeding Medicine Program See ad page 9

Help with breastfeeding issues; Breastfeeding Basics class and new mother support group.

uvahealth.com/breastfeeding

434-924-0000

Preparing for Baby

Pre- & Post-Natal  Fitness

Breastfeeding Support & Specialty Gear

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PROGRAM

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PHONE

*Albemarle Center for Family Medicine See ad page 56

Offers comprehensive family care, from pediatric and women’s, to preventative care.

albemarlecenter.com

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*Heppner Family Chiropractic & Wellness Center See ad page 56

Treatments include maternity care, pediatric services, relief of low back/neck pain and pre- & post-natal massages.

heppnerfamilychiropractic.com

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*Jefferson Obstetrics & Gynecology See ad page 57

Board certified ob/gyn specialists provide care from prenatal through to postpartum.

jeffersonobgyn.net

434-977-4488

*Obstetrics & Gynecology Associates See ad page 54

Prenatal care & management of normal & high-risk pregnancies, obstetric ultrasound.

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*Scott Wagner Chiropractic & Sports Medicine See ad page 57

Chiropractic & pediatric care, and the Webster technique specific to expectant mothers.

scottwagnerchiropractic.com

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*Sentara Martha Jefferson Hospital See ad page 47

Programs include preparing for childbirth, baby care basics, safety and breastfeeding, sibling & postpartum support.

sentaramjhmaternity.com

434-654-7009

*University of Virginia Health System See ad page 9

Prenatal & parenting classes, including prepared childbirth & infant safety. Also offers breastfeeding & sibling support.

uvahealth.com/services/ pregnancy-birth/prenatal-classes

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Herbs + Pregnancy

Your Guide to a Safe, Comfortable Pregnancy ...Plus What to Avoid

by Susie Lyons

The process of conception, gestation and birthing is the beginning of all things. To complement the ultimate natural process, it makes sense to remain as close to nature as possible by caring for your body during your pregnancy and after giving birth.

Herbal remedies can be used for everything from morning sickness to varicose veins. Before you take any herbal products though, the FDA urges pregnant women to first consult with their OBGYN. We consulted with Elderberry Herbals and Rebecca’s Natural Food in Charlottesville.

Consider These Common Herbs During Pregnancy

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gas in the baby. You can also use 1 drop

during the day. Or try ½ cup pumpkin

of dill essential oil in a teaspoon of honey.

puree (NOT the pie filling), ½ teaspoon

Internal use of essential oils is NOT

cinnamon and 1 teaspoon flaxseed oil.

recommended regardless of physical

Mix well and eat 1–2 times/day.

condition, so be sure to consult a doctor

Raspberry Leaf – A strong uterine tonic

prior to using a form of Dill.

only for the last trimester of pregnancy

Chamomile – Soothes the nerves and is

to help the body prepare for childbirth.

wonderful for the digestive system. A cup

Drink a raspberry leaf infusion daily in

of chamomile tea will relieve morning

the last trimester and for 2–3 weeks after

sickness, help you relax and ease any

giving birth to help the muscles contract

digestive issues you may be having.

and promote breast milk. Do not use

Jasmine – There’s a long tradition of

this infusion during early pregnancy. It’s

using jasmine essential oil during labor

a good source of minerals along with

for relaxation and to instill a feeling of

Nettles, Oatstraw (and Alfalfa, if there is

calm confidence. Dilute the essential oil

not a history of bleeding issues).

with a good carrier oil (olive oil, coconut

Calendula Oil – Calendula oil is very

oil, almond oil) and have your partner

nourishing to skin and helps promote

massage it into your lower back. A 1

healing. Only under the direction of

percent dilution rate for topical essential

your obstetrician, massage macerated

oil = 6 drops EO/1 ounce oil. DO NOT USE

calendula oil into your skin during

essential oils for children under age 5,

pregnancy to prevent stretch marks.

even in diffusers. Their little livers and

There are also herbs to be avoided.

Ginger Root – Great for relieving nausea

kidneys can’t handle concentrated oils.

You’ll notice that some of these are

and morning sickness symptoms. Just add

Witch Hazel – Long valued for its

culinary herbs. Some can be used as you

a few of slices of organically grown ginger

astringent properties, witch hazel will

normally would in cooking, but don’t

to hot water and sip as needed. It should

help shrink and tighten inflamed veins.

take them medicinally while you’re

be used sparingly during pregnancy

Keep a bottle of distilled witch hazel in

pregnant or breastfeeding. Be sure to

so if you have frequent or prolonged

your refrigerator. Pour some on a cotton

consult with your doctor before using

symptoms, alternate with chamomile.

ball and apply it to tired, sore legs,

any herbs or supplements:

Lavender – Lavender essential oil can be

varicose veins and/or hemorrhoids.

• Aloe vera

used to relieve discomfort after childbirth.

Flaxseed Oil – This oil acts as a gentle

• American spikenard

Just add 4–5 drops to your bath water and

laxative and bowel lubricant to help

• Angelica root

soak, or 3–4 drops on a warm compress to

relieve constipation. As an added bonus,

• Ashwaghanda

relieve symptoms of mastitis.

it’s loaded with omega fatty acids. Add

• Bearberry

Dill – Drinking a dill seed infusion helps

a tablespoon to your morning meal (in

• Black cohosh

promote breast milk and relieves colic or

cereal or oatmeal) and drink lots of water

• Borage

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• Burdock Root

• Gotu Kola

• Osha

• Calendula

• Hemp agrimony

• Pennyroyal

• California Poppy

• Hops

• Pleurisy Root

• Catnip

• Horsetail

• Red clover

• Cayenne

• Hyssop

• Red Root

• Celery seed

• Jamaican Dogwood

• Rosemary

• Chaparral

• Juniper

• Sage

• Chervil

• Kava Kava

• Sarsaparilla

• Cinnamon

• Lemon Balm

• Sassafras

• Comfrey (leaf & root)

• Lemongrass

• Sumac

• Common sage

• Licorice Root

• St. John’s wort

• Crampbark

• Lobelia

• Thyme

• Damiana

• Marijuana

• Turmeric

• Elecampane Root

• Liquorice root

• Vervain

• Fenugreek

• Mistletoe

• Vitex

• Feverfew

• Motherwort

• Willow Bark

• Ginseng (ANY variety)

• Mugwort

• Wormwood

• Goji

• Nutmeg

• Yarrow

• Golden seal

• Oregon grape

When the birthing process stays as close to nature as possible it’s a win/ win for both mother and child. Using these herbal remedies will go a long way toward doing exactly that and keeping you and your baby happy and healthy before, during and after birth.

Susie’s lifelong interest in natural remedies and holistic health practices led to the publication of The Herbalist Journal and her own line of herbal products. Both enterprises were born of her curiosity about natural healing and the folk remedies she grew up with in her extended East Texas family. The original article can be seen in Green Child magazine.

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Parent & Child Classes Making “Mommy & Me” Time Extra Fun

Looking for some Mommy & Me classes for you and baby? It’s never too early to get your little one moving and learning. Here are a few local places where you can find fun and beneficial classes beginning in the infant/baby stages. For more offerings as well as classes for older age groups, be sure to visit our “Kids Recreation” section on CharlottesvilleFamily.com.

ACAC 434-978-3800, 434-984-3800 acac.com Mommy & Me classes include prenatal yoga, yoga for new moms & prenatal water exercise.

Baby Boot Camp 434-953-6888 • babybootcamp.com Programs for pregnant moms, new moms recovering from pregnancy and moms with stroller-aged children.

Bend Yoga 434-296-2363 • bendcville.com Bend Yoga offers mommy and me yoga classes for babies, toddlers and older children.

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Blue Ridge Music Together 434-293-6361 blueridgemusictogether.com Classes use children’s natural love of music to develop basic skills.

Charlottesville Parks & Recreation 434-970-3260 charlottesville.org/parksandrec Art & swim Mommy & me classes & more.

Charlottesville Waldorf School 434-973-4946 • cwaldorf.org A Parent and Me class that allows babies to explore their surroundings, play circle games and sing songs.

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FootNotes Music & Dance Studio 434-242-0605 • footnotesstudio.com Offering a wide selection of Kindermusik programs with parent participation.

The Little Gym 434-975-5437 • thelittlegym.com Age-appropriate aerobics, stretching, tumbling, games & more.

Mountaintop Montessori Mornings 434-979-8886 mountaintopmontessori.org Babies, toddlers & their parents explore their world together.

Swim S’cool Charlottesville 434-218-0968 • swimscoolcville.com Parent and Me classes introducing kids to the water with songs, games and fun.

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Offers comprehensive family care, from pediatric and women’s, to preventative care.

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*Charlottesville Pediatric Dentistry See ad page 11

Provides optimal, kid-friendly dental health care.

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*Community Dental Center See ad page 36

Full-service dentistry for family’s and children.

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*Cook, Kathryn, DDS See ad page 54

Children’s Dentistry with a Mother’s Touch offers conscious sedation, anesthesia & more.

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Treatments include maternity care, pediatric services, relief of low back/neck pain and pre- & post-natal massages.

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*Pediatric Associates of Charlottesville See ad page 51

Comprehensive care from infancy to young adulthood. Multiple locations.

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*Piedmont Pediatric Dentistry See ad page 31

Provides oral health care for infants, children, adolescents and all patients.

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*Piedmont Pediatrics See ad page 55

Small pediatric practice providing medical care to children & young adults.

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car seat safety Keeping Your Precious Cargo Safe

About 20 percent of American parents install their child’s car seat correctly, and 7 out of 10 kids are not properly buckled in child safety seats. Be sure to read the car seat instruction manual and your vehicle’s owner manual before installing.

The best child restraint is: comfortable; correct for your

When kids are old and big enough for the vehicle seat belt to

child’s age, weight, physical development and maturity level; has

fit correctly, the seat belt should lie across the upper thighs and

instructions and fits your vehicle; includes a 5-point harness;

be snug across the shoulder and chest; it should not rest on the

and is less than 6 years old.

stomach area or across the neck or face. All children younger than

All infants and toddlers should ride rear-facing until they

age 13 should ride in the backseat.

are at least 1 year old and at least 20 pounds. The American

Many Fire Departments and Police Stations offer a Child

Academy of Pediatrics recommends staying rear facing until age

Safety-Seat Inspection Program free of charge to teach the

2. For a rear-facing seat, the proper angle is never more than 45

public how to safely secure their seat and fasten children in.

degrees. Kids who’ve outgrown the rear-facing weight or height

Child passenger safety laws in Virginia require all children

limit should use a forward-facing seat with a harness up to the

through age 7 (until their 8th birthday) to be properly secured in

highest height and weight allowed by the car seat manufacturer.

a child safety seat or booster seat, regardless of weight or height.

All children (ages 8–12) whose weight or height exceeds the

Rear-facing child restraint devices must be placed in the back

forward-facing limit should use a belt-positioning booster seat

seat of a vehicle. If there’s no back seat, the child restraint device

until the vehicle seat belt fits properly, typically when they’re

may be placed in the front passenger seat only if the passenger

about 4 feet 9 inches tall. Booster seats must be used with both

side airbag has been deactivated. For a list of stations in the area,

lap and shoulder belts.

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*Scott Wagner Chiropractic & Sports Medicine See ad page 57

Chiropractic & pediatric care, and the Webster technique specific to expectant mothers.

scottwagnerchiropractic.com

434-978-4888

*Infant & Toddler Connection of the Blue Ridge See ad page 54

Assessment, services & support for children with delays & disabilities, beginning with early intervention.

infantva.org

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*ReadyKids See ad page 81

Home-visiting programs offer new mothers & parents support to nurture their children.

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*Virginia Department of Social Services See ad page 2–3

Assists in finding quality and licensed childcare childcareva.com and early learning options.

Family Support

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Traditional foods, supplements and bodycare for families.

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Assists with meal plans that are kid-friendly and nutritious.

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PLEASE NOTE! Please use the information we’ve gathered here as a “springboard” for your research into finding the right service for your family. We urge all parents-to-be to visit and/or interview each service provider to make certain that it is safe, there are qualified staff and it is a good fit for your family. We do not in any way represent the businesses and organizations presented herein. The information presented here is for informational purposes only, and although every effort has been made to present accurate information, we do not in any way accept responsibility for the accuracy of this information or for the services presented herein.

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RAISING A

RUNNER

A Local Mom’s Love of Running

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by Catherine Malone

I was a reluctant runner as a child, plagued by side stitches and low endurance, but as an adult, running has become a vital part of my exercise routine. The physical benefits are out-matched by the mental benefits: the time to breathe and be in nature, and to lose myself in a runner’s high that is a necessary anecdote to the rest of my life.

I’ve managed to bring my oldest daughter, another reluctant runner and a high school sophomore, up to a point where she’s done a few 5Ks and is thinking about running an 8K. My youngest daughter, on the other hand, more than keeps up with me in terms of distance and speed when she joins me for a run. It’s a little embarrassing to be outrun by an 11-year-old, but I can usually come up with some excuse as to why I “had to stop and pet the dog” that slowed me down.

Running is a great thing. It’s good aerobic exercise, low-key in terms of cost investment, and it can accommodate the solitary athlete and the person who enjoys a group run. If managed carefully, running can be a life-long form of exercise, done practically anywhere, which is why we should encourage our kids to run, whether as a mode of exercise, as a way of exploring new places and having new experiences, or as an opportunity for family togetherness.

Anna King, the Outreach Coordinator for the UVA Children’s Fitness Clinic, runs different programs that teach kids about the importance of healthy eating and physical activity. She’s aware of the challenges facing families who need to be more active. Even with issues, the most pressing of which might be the focus on screens, “It’s worth it for families to take the time to do things like eat meals together, prepare healthy foods together and be physically active together,” King says.

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{inspiration parenting} When King and I spoke, she mentioned one of the challenges to running that may

be

specific

to

Charlottesville:

“everyone here looks like a marathoner.”

Since the priority with kids should be on having fun—going for a run should be an outgrowth of play—there shouldn’t be any intimidation. The proverb about walking before you can run isn’t a metaphor.

Don’t head out the door and don’t ask your kids to head out the door to just run

“It’s worth it for families to take the time to do things like eat meals together, prepare healthy foods together and be physically active together,” King says.

a 5K. Instead, build a base of fitness and incorporate intervals of jogging with your walking. Keep safety in mind—running in places without cars—and of course, as summer warms up, make sure you have a

numerous runs offered in the area

water bottle alongside to maintain good

throughout

hydration.

untimed, is the culmination of the

the

year.

A

5K-course,

King points out that a goal for kids can

training program offered by “Girls on the

be working up to running in a 5K a few

Run,” a non-profit organization active

months away. Children need weekly goals

here in Charlottesville. Girls on the Run,

and (non-food) rewards, such as running

in the words of Central Virginia Council

for one extra minute or one increment

Director Mary Hansen, “uses running as

further, in order to stay motivated along

a tool for youth development. Our goal

the way.

was to reach girls at an age where they

A 5K is a great, attainable goal for young

runners,

especially

with

the

are still receptive to adults, and can learn coping tools to be safe through middle

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school and high school and to retain who they are.” That’s a powerful charge for the power of running, but Hansen, whose three daughters all went through the GOTR program, says that running is the vehicle by which the girls learn to

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stay out of the “Girl Box” that society puts them in. Through a non-competitive and supportive atmosphere, and what Hansen terms as a “mastery climate versus performance climate,” girls learn tools for positivity, encouraging and supporting others, using physical activity to work through issues and towards better health.

While the appeal of running is that at least for many months all you need is a pair of shoes, it’s true that you’ll want to pay particular attention to the safety and comfort of your running child. Michele Andersen, founder of Crozet Running and mother of a 12-year-old boy, spends a lot of time thinking about kids and running.

Area families flood her store around the start of the sports seasons, and she estimates that at least a quarter of her customers are under the age of 18. For Andersen, it’s divided into two groups: the pre-tweeners and then the tween-to-teen crowd. “For our youngest children, the key is keep it simple and keep it fun, and this

In terms of footwear, Andersen says to “Keep it simple. Kids need thin, light, flexible shoes so their feet can grow and get stronger. We don’t want to brace the foot, because then the foot will become weaker.”

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be track stars. But the majority of kids just want to get out and have fun.”

In terms of footwear, Andersen says to “keep it simple, because kids shouldn’t have too much shoe. Furthermore, keep it simple in terms of weight, cushion and stiffness. Kids need thin, light, flexible shoes so their feet can grow and get stronger. We don’t want to brace the foot, because then the foot will become weaker.”

Some of the biggest challenges occur around sixth grade, when peers start influencing

decision-making.

“Parents

need to come in and guide [their children] and find resources to teach kids how to train and adapt,” Andersen shares. She asks questions like, “Where are they weak?

Where are they strong? Are there areas of weakness that are noticeable?” and looks

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in a whole new way. Courses throughout the area can be downtown, around UVA’s grounds, or in some more rural venue that you’re looking to explore. But even if your family never wants to race, raising a runner is still a valuable goal for both parent and child that can turn into a lifelong hobby.

Catherine writes and raises her daughters in Charlottesville.

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A Camp Farewell “While Goodbye is Never Enough for Me, It’s Perfect for Him”

i

by Jessica Lahey spent a lot of time in a foggy,

in the everyday reality of graduate

get it, and not for my lack of trying to

was

school, grocery shopping and bill paying,

explain it. I’ve described, in great detail,

pregnant with my first son. I was in law

and found my mental meanderings

the experience of living in a cabin, tightly

school at the time, and it was much more

entertaining, if a little odd.

packed in with nine other girls and a

hormone-soaked

haze

when

I

entertaining to ponder the future contents

Oddest of all, he felt, was my

counselor, idolizing the teenage, cool-

of his nursery bookshelf or the tears

nostalgic and emotional attachment to

kid junior counselors, the anxiety and

I’d shed on his first day of kindergarten

camp and my inexplicable excitement

pride of surviving an overnight, and the

than the details of civil procedure and

about sending our own child away for the

angst of the session’s final night. My

contracts. Before I’d even begun to show,

summer, a child we’d yet to lay eyes on,

husband stares blankly as I describe the

I’d stocked his bookshelves with my

let alone consider abandoning to the care

end-of-day songs, complete with crossed

own childhood favorites, and the list of

of others.

arms and handholding, and the weepy,

possible boy and girl names had already been affixed to the refrigerator door.

My husband managed to stay rooted

This lack of imagination is not his fault; I have found that people who did not attend camp as a child often don’t

late-night soul baring that shaped my summer relationships.

My friend K.J. doesn’t get it either.

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{resources camp guide} She tolerates such talk, but barely. Once, when we attended a party in New York City to celebrate the first anniversary of the Huffington Post’s parenting vertical, I discovered that Lori Leibovich, then a Huffington Post editor, attended Chimney Corners Camp as well. We’d never met before, but no matter. Ten minutes later, we were reminiscing and singing the traditional closing circle song (“The sun is in the west, across the way / A Chimney Corners day has passed away.”) by the fireplace in the bar of the Midtown Hilton.

K.J. just rolled her eyes.

Fast-forward a number of years and I now had two sons. When it came time to sign them up for camp, I was torn. Becket, the brother camp to my beloved Chimney Corners, was an obvious first choice, but my sons had other ideas. Where we live, the camp of choice is Camp Coniston, in Croydon, New Hampshire. All of my older son’s friends were going there, and while I put up a respectable fight fueled by a sense of duty and nostalgia, they won in the end.

My older son, Ben, inherited my husband’s practicality, and established ground rules for our conduct at camp

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drop-off well before we were due to leave him at Coniston. I wrote about these rules for The Atlantic, in the essay “A Summer Camp Lesson: Good-bye and Go Away, Thank You Very Much.” His rules were outlined in the opening paragraph of that piece: Three years ago, when he was 11, my son Ben set down a very specific parental code of conduct we’d be expected to follow at summer camp drop-off. We could say our goodbyes at home, but once we arrived at camp, any displays of affection, attempts to make his bed, arrange his things, or force premature familiarity with his cabin mates would be strictly prohibited. We could hang around during registration, watch while they check him for lice, help him lug his bags to his cabin and shake hands with his counselor, but after that, our parental duties were complete. We were expected to say goodbye and go away, thank you very much.

Drop-off went according to his strict instructions. I took him to his cabin while

summer camp quick list R = Residential

ARTS Lee Alter Watercolor Painting See ad page 68 The Paramount Theater See ad page 29 Wilson School of Dance See ad page 68

OUTDOORS Camp Friendship (R) See ad page 67 Camp Hidden Meadows (R) See ad page 70 Girl Scouts of America See ad page 81 Lewis & Clark Exploratory Center See ad page 81 Mountaintop Montessori’s Seed Summer Camp See ad page 67

PROGRAM VARIETY Camp Horizons (R) See ad page 66 Charlottesville Parks & Recreation See ads pages 13, 31 Charlottesville Waldorf School See ad page 79 Covenant School See ad page 77

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off the path. As I watched him attempt to

I can tell he’s on

stuff two handfuls of the needles into his

tenterhooks.

pockets, I realized that next year, he’d be

His

younger

almost as old as his brother was the first

brother, Finnegan, is

year he went to camp. So just maybe, if

five years younger,

I do my job right, he will be big enough

and

watched

next year. Big enough to want me to say

Ben come and go

goodbye and go away, thank you very

from

much.

he’s

camp

great interest and

As it turns out, he was not big enough

more than a little

that next year, or the year after that.

trepidation.

“A

Finally, in his tenth year, he agreed it was

Camp

time, and we prepared to drop him off for

Summer

his little brother played outside. While the

with

other parents fussed over the details of

Lesson: Good-bye and Go Away, Thank You

bed making and laundry sorting, I kept my

Very Much” concludes with the beginning

mouth shut. I’d promised to stay out of his

of Finn’s camping journey:

his first day of camp.

Finn and Ben are very different kids, so it was appropriate that Finn had come

stuff, away from his sheets, and save for

On the way back to the car, my

up with his own set of expectations for

greeting the counselor, refrain from excess

younger son slipped his hand into mine,

that first day. Where Ben is practical, Finn

chitchat. He dumped his stuff on the first

something he hardly ever does anymore.

is sentimental. Where Ben’s hugs are

empty bed he saw, he hugged me and that was that. Thanks, mom; it’s time to go.

“I think I’d like to come to camp next year,” he said.

cordial, Finn’s are visceral. Accordingly, I sensed that where Ben’s goodbye was

Ben had a fantastic first summer,

“Really?” I said, picturing him running

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around among these hulking adolescents.

after that. As I write this essay, he is

“Yep,” he nodded. “I think I’ll be big

Finn’s first year of camp coincided

waiting to hear about whether or not

enough next year.” And with that, he let

with Ben’s last. We loaded Ben, Finn and

he’s been accepted into the counselor-in-

go of my hand and ran ahead to gather

Ben’s friend Charley into the back seat,

training program; and while he doesn’t

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the trunk for the drive to the campsite.

folding. He inched back out toward the

During the cramped car ride, Charley

door, not quite ready to deal with all the

and Ben filled Finn in on all the details

introductions and new acquaintances.

he’d

need

to

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into my arms.

“What just happened?” Ben said, as he spun around and watched the fawn’s

mealtime

As we stood on the cabin’s porch

duties worked, which showers kept their

considering what to do next, I asked, “Do

pressure the longest, how to use the

you want us to walk around with you, or

Everyone paused and instinctively

wooden box under the bunk to its best

would you like Ben and Charley to show

stepped off the path, expecting its mother

storage advantage, and which activities

you around?”

to come thundering along, close behind

were the most awesome.

We accompanied the boys to their lice check (and heaved a subtle sigh of relief when they cleared inspection) and

There was only one correct answer, of course, and we all knew it.

delicate rear legs disappear into the woods.

its vulnerable newborn. When she failed to materialize after a moment or two,

“Ben and Charley,” he said, and moved closer to his brother.

we fell back into single-file on the path, muttering to ourselves in disbelief.

headed over to the boys’ cabins, while

As we departed the boys’ camp across

As the boys regained their composure

sneaking looks at Finn to make sure he

a narrow path through the wetland that

and wondered aloud why a doe might

was holding up under what we knew was

feeds into the lake, Ben suddenly jumped

leave such a young fawn alone to fend

pretty significant nervousness. Charley

to his right, nearly falling over in an

for himself, I watched my own offspring

and Ben dropped their stuff off and then

attempt to avoid a tan-colored something

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escorted Finn to his cabin. They helped

that streaked past us before we could

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I eyed the counselors and camp staff

milled about, making conversation, Finn

as they went about their first-day duties,

suddenly and awkwardly lurched over to

praying that they understood that Finn

hug me goodbye. I’d expected a lingering,

may look confident, but he may well

tight grip, but he opted for his brother’s

need extra help, maybe even repeated

casual approach—a squeeze, “Bye” and

directions to the waterfront or the arts

release. As I’d expected, our goodbye was

and crafts building. I wanted to go back

less than enough for me, but exactly

and remind his counselor to keep an eye

enough for him.

out for homesickness and signs of worry,

I watched them walk away, Finnegan

but I restrained myself. I reassured myself

following a few steps behind his big

that counselors and staff get a hundred

brother and his brother’s even bigger

daily reminders that they are responsible

friend. Somewhere along the way, he had

for other people’s children, and they

grown up and was finally big enough to say

hardly needed yet another, no matter how

goodbye and go away, thank you very much.

well-meant.

They knew. They knew when my parents dropped me off at Chimney

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Corners, they knew when I entrusted them with Ben five years ago, and they continue to know.

As we neared the camp entrance, I looked to Finn for cues to my own behavior. Ben had been so explicit about his own wishes for “goodbye and go away, thank you very much,” but I was unsure about what Finn wanted from me. As we

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COLLEGE 101 Helping Your Teen Navigate the Process

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Choosing a college can be one of the most

online “College Matchmaker” or Princeton Review’s

important and exciting decisions in any high-

“Counselor-o-Matic” can help teens find colleges

school student’s life. It can also be one of the most

offering those majors. They can plug in additional

stressful. Knowing how and when to help your

criteria, like desired college size and location,

teen, and when to step back, can make the search

extracurricular offerings and other desirable

more fruitful—and fun—for everyone.

features, then get a list of matching colleges,

As you begin the college search, the first

with details on costs, application processes and

question is: does your teen know what career fields

admission requirements (GPA; class rank; SAT,

she’d like to explore? Many high schools offer

SAT II, ACT and AP scores; AP/honors courses;

career exploration programs including interest

extracurricular involvement). The College Board

assessments, career fairs and job shadowing

website lets students compare selected schools

opportunities.

side-by-side and provides a tool for teens to see

At Charlottesville City and Albemarle County schools, students are exposed to talks about their

how they stack up to the admission requirements for any school.

post-high school plans beginning in their freshmen

While teens are exploring their interests

year. For example, all Charlottesville High School

and searching for colleges that fit, parents can

(CHS) ninth graders complete an interest survey

best support them by being open-minded and

to get them thinking about possible careers and

encouraging them to consider many possible

college majors, and high school courses they’ll

schools.

need to take for those fields.

“We often limit ourselves to what we know,”

Homeschoolers or those whose schools don’t

observes Allen Freeman, a former Gifted Resource

offer such programs can explore careers that fit

Teacher at Albemarle and Western Albemarle

their own interests, skills, values and personality

High Schools. With over 3,000 four-year schools

through Virginia Mentors online “Plan A Career

in the U.S., hundreds would be a good fit for any

– Career Self Assessment” tools. Once they find

individual.

careers of interest, they can go to the list of

School

counselors

and

teachers

suggest

careers and find required education levels and

talking with your teen about your own college

related college majors.

experiences, including both the good and bad

With possible majors in mind, College Board’s

decisions you may have made. However, they

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might also caution parents to avoid the

During sophomore, junior and the

temptation to push their child to go to

first half of their senior year, students will

a parent’s alma mater or pursue certain

prepare for, schedule and take PSAT, SAT,

majors, colleges or types of colleges.

SAT II, ACT and AP exams. If a student

Freeman adds, “Remember, this is the

scores well on the PSAT, she may be

teen’s college experience, not the parent’s.”

eligible for the National Merit Scholarship

Parents should talk money with their

program. Students who score well on

teens, Freeman advises, including how

AP exams may be able to obtain college

many college visits and applications

credits for their knowledge in a subject

you’ll pay for, how travel expenses will

area. The Virginia Commonwealth College

be covered if the teen chooses a far-away

Course Collaborative allows high school

college, how much money parents can or

students to earn a semester’s worth or

will contribute toward college expenses

more of college credit through Advanced

and whether that financial contribution

Placement (AP) courses, dual enrollment

hinges on the student maintaining certain

(where students take college courses that

grades.

also count toward high school graduation),

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and

International

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any college is not necessarily the same

programs. These opportunities could save

as the published tuition. Many private

a substantial amount of money and give

schools offer substantial financial aid,

your student a head start, regardless of

bringing their total cost on par with or

which colleges she decides to pursue.

even below that of state schools.

With a list of interesting colleges in

“Students and parents should not

hand, your teen can visit each school’s

discount any school because of published

website to get a sense of the atmosphere,

tuition rates,” says Freeman. Parents

facilities and programs available. They

should also discuss what portion of

can also meet with college recruiters,

college expenses they expect their teen

either through recruiter visits to their

to contribute, whether through work

high

income, loans or scholarships. Obviously,

Albemarle County Regional College Fair,

scholarships would be the ideal starting

held at a county high school each spring

point, as that money doesn’t have to be

with representatives from more than 100

paid back. Fastweb offers a comprehensive

colleges. There, parents and students can

scholarship search engine and is a great

get initial impressions of many colleges at

starting point for locating scholarships.

once. If possible, try to attend the College

Students should check with their school’s

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Bear in mind that the actual cost of any college is not necessarily the same as the published tuition. Many private schools offer substantial financial aid, bringing their total cost on par with or even below that of state schools.

While teens are exploring their interests and searching for colleges that fit, parents can best support them by being open-minded and encouraging them to consider many possible schools.

Many colleges offer online “virtual campus tours,” which are a fine starting point. But nothing beats an in-person visit.

Check

out

visiting

options,

including pre-scheduled visiting days, where you and your teen may be among hundreds of other visitors, or individual visits and tours, where you’ll get more personalized attention. Together with your teen, create a schedule of colleges to visit throughout the junior year.

Have your teen take a camera and notebook along on each campus visit.

Suggest that he make notes during and right after each visit about his overall impressions, what he liked or didn’t like, and additional information he wants to gather about the school. The photos and notes will become invaluable later when trying to decide where to apply. Parents should also offer their own observations, but again in a low-pressure way.

Students don’t always consider factors that a parent knows will be important, such as distance from home, quality of food, dorm room set-up and how

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a checklist, organize their documents

adjectives best describe you,” “Describe

these to a question list you can take with

and create a calendar of all deadlines,

your greatest accomplishment,” “What

you to each visit.

including financial aid and scholarship

obstacles have you had to overcome and

application

application deadlines. The MyOrganizer

how did you do it,” “About what do you

process, start with the schools that seem

tool and College Application Checklist on

feel passionate” and “On what issues

like the best match, in terms of admission

the College Board site can help.

would you feel compelled to take a stand”

When

beginning

the

requirements, overall “feel” and fit with

Freeman cautions parents not to

not only provides information that will

your teen’s preferences. Then, add a

micromanage or nag their teen about

help their school counselors write a more

couple of “reach” schools (those that

the application process. Instead, set

individualized

might be a bit of a stretch for admission)

reasonable

completion,

but it can help the student prepare for

and at least one “safety school” (schools

especially if you’re paying the application

admissions interviews as well as college

whose admission requirements your teen

fees. “If the student is not responsible

and scholarship application essays.

easily meets). All should be schools your

enough to do what is expected, then he or

teen would feel good about attending, if

she is not ready for college,” he observes.

accepted.

Students

deadlines

should

for

arrange

recommendation

letter,

The college essay is perhaps one of the most feared aspects of the college

for

application process. Both the College

Each college has its own application

completion and submission of transcripts

Board and Princeton Review websites

procedures and deadlines. Many now

and letters of recommendation well,

offer tips for writing solid essays. While

accept applications online, but will have

done through the high school guidance

parents may be tempted to help with

different deadlines for “early decision,”

department, in advance of deadlines.

the essay, Freeman advises staying out

“early action” and regular applications.

Most counselors work with hundreds of

of the student’s applications as much as

Typically, early

due

students, so it’s essential for your teen

possible. Offer to proofread and suggest

in November of the student’s senior

to get to know her counselor throughout

changes such as not using certain words

year, and regular applications are due

the high school years, as counselors play

or phrases. But, says Freeman, “The

by January 1. Your teen should review

an important role in writing personalized

general rule is ‘read but don’t touch’.”

application requirements very carefully

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applications

are

Once your teen has sent in his

and follow them exactly. Parents are

Taking time to consider and write

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help him focus on other things while awaiting responses.

Most colleges notify students by April 1 whether they’ve been accepted, wait-listed or not accepted. Students typically have a month to respond to acceptances and financial aid packages.

In the ideal world, the student will have several acceptances to choose from.

“The most important factor in deciding which one to choose is comfortability,” says Freeman. “Does the student feel good about the college?

Does it feel right? Does it ‘beckon’?”

For some students, this will be an easy, gut-level decision. For others, they may like different things about each college, and have trouble making up their mind. Suggesting that they make a list of the pros and cons of each option may help. Again, parents should avoid pushing for their own favorite, but could highlight differences between the colleges that their teen might want to consider in making the final decision.

Once your teen has made a decision and communicated her decision to the

colleges,

parents

should

discourage

second-guessing, Freeman advises. Help your student to love the school she’s chosen. “If the student believes the one they’ve chosen is the best, then the force of positive thinking often makes it so.”

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{until next time humorous reflections} The Dying Art of Letter-Writing

A Dad’s Humorous Tales

by Rick Epstein

Dear Marie, It was a tough day at work. This morning in the office, I opened an email message that seemed to be from the bank. However, my screen was instantly filled with unwanted pictures. I had nowhere to click, so I turned off the computer. But then it wouldn’t boot up.

I was left with having to go crawling to Charles, our

that, we were all fairly unreachable. Although I’d call home most Sundays, Dad would supplement our conversations by mailing me newspaper clippings—articles on how much more money I’d make if I would study something else, or other such talk. By way of a cover letter, he would enclose a 3-by-5-inch file card with a terse greeting on it.

short-tempered director of artificial intelligence, who berated me for not typing in 6SJ7.FZAT to “escape” like anyone with sense would have done. “Instead, you shot the computer,” he accused. He angrily unplugged it, put it onto a gurney and wheeled it away to his operating room. I had to work at another computer.

That’s me writing a letter to my daughter, who is now a college sophomore. I don’t write very often.

Unfortunately, letter-writing is a dying art that is dying of natural causes. It took a bad hit in 1876 with the invention of the telephone, but it limped along, eventually staggering into the one-two punch of the Internet and the cell phone.

Now it’s easier to converse with Marie 300 miles away than it is to talk to most of the people who live in my house, what with intervening doors and earbuds and other electronic devices of entertainment and isolation. I can pick up my iPhone, give it three strategic pokes with my index finger, and we’re connected. In fact, if I knew how to set it up, I could save the finger-work and simply bleat Marie’s name into my little phone.

Back when I went to college, one pay phone served about 30 guys, and the ones who lived nearest to it soon got tired of answering it. After

Although pessimistic and uptight, Dad was original and articulate in person, with a wry and ready wit.

But you’d never know it from his letters. Here’s one: “Dear Rick, I trust you haven’t fallen behind in your studies thus far in the academic year. Love, Dad.” It was as if the dean were his ghost-writer.

Nowadays, I phone Marie a couple times a week for short chats, and she’ll phone me if she’s got a good joke or needs advice on punctuation. I feel nicely in touch, and letters don’t seem really necessary. But now and then, I write one just to maintain that extra dimension of our relationship.

Maybe someday I’ll produce a masterpiece like the one written by Julia Rush and her husband Benjamin, a signer of the Declaration of Independence. When their grown son was departing for India in 1796, they wrote him a letter that closed with: “Whenever you are tempted to do an improper thing, fancy that you see your father and mother kneeling before you and imploring you with tears in their eyes to refrain yielding to the temptation, and assuring you at the same time that your yielding to it will be the means of hurrying them to a premature grave.”

This dark-yet-vivid admonition reminds me of what my own dad could’ve written if only he had let himself go.

My own style is more cheerful and anecdotal, but I’m tempted to borrow that paragraph and stick it into my seventh-grader’s lunchbox. Why wait until she’s away at school before we start communicating?

But now and then, I write one just to maintain that extra dimension of our relationship.

Rick can be reached at rickepstein@yahoo.com.

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