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Can a grandmother save her girls from domestic violence?
Her daughter wouldn’t tell her anything over the phone. It wasn’t until L.Y. Marlow drove from Maryland to her daughter’s Philadelphia apartment and saw the bruises on the young woman’s neck that she learned the full truth. Her daughter had become just like her. And her mother. And her grandmother. Three generations of women in the same family had been physically battered and almost killed by the men they loved, and now here was Marlow’s daughter, the fourth generation, describing how her boyfriend had tried to strangle her. How she began to black out when she heard her six-month-old daughter on the bed next to her screaming. How that sound made her fight back. Marlow listened that day in 2007, cried and decided then she needed to do something — if not to save her daughter, then to save that baby on the bed, a girl whose name spoke to what she would come to symbolize: Promise. The nonprofit organization Marlow started days later has grown alongside the long-legged girl it was named after. And this year, as both the organization and Promise turn 10, Marlow has new allies in the long, formidable fight that her group and many others have waged against domestic violence. Saving Promise is bringing together executives from major companies, academics from Harvard and others — all united by an ambitious goal. They don’t want to just help women get out of abusive relationships. They want to prevent that abuse from occurring in the first place. “I feel Promise was born for a
L. Y. Marlow wants to make sure her 10-year-old granddaughter, Promise, doesn’t become her family’s fifth generation of domestic violence victims. Promise and her mother are in shadow. PHOTO: Amanda Voisard purpose,” said Marlow, who’s 50 and lives in Bethesda, Md. “I want her to know what it means and feels like to not have to endure what four generations of mothers endured before her. She could really be the first in our family not to be abused.” About one in three American women will experience intimate partner violence at some point in their lifetimes, with the majority becoming victims before their 25th birthday, according to data from
the Centers for Disease Control and Prevention. Women are far more likely to be killed by a spouse, an intimate acquaintance or a family member than a stranger, the Violence Policy Center found in a recent report. Every year their slayings — sometimes witnessed by their children or after they tried, to no avail, to leave a relationship — generate headlines and anguish in communities across the country.
In Henrico, a Richmond suburb, last week, 33-year old Quanta Nashall Chandler suffered a fatal shot inflicted by her ex-boyfriend, who also killed himself. In Maryland, a teacher and her 2-year-old daughter, still strapped into her car seat, were killed by the girl’s father. In Florida in January, a man choked his wife to death after a fight, then posted to her Facebook
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