165 ERIN MILLER – Harnessing the 5 love languages

LOVE DOESN’T ERASE THE PAST, BUT IT MAKES THE FUTURE DIFFERENT

GARY CHAPMAN

THESE TWO LITTLE BOOKS HAVE BEEN INVALUABLE TO ME AT DIFFERENT TIMES IN MY LIFE.

In the absence of clear communication and speaking the "Love Language" of another; whether that be a partner, child, friend, or colleague is so often the fuelling for arguments, hurt, tantrums, misunderstandings, and relationship breakdowns.

I have found that mostly we just want to feel heard, feel we are understood and feel truly and deeply loved and appreciated. Whilst we may have good intentions to be communicating in this way, sometimes unless we are speaking the other persons love language we might as well be talking a foreign language!

TAKE ME FOR EXAMPLE; BASED ON GARY CHAPMANS BOOK "THE 5 LOVE LANGUAGES" MY LOVE LANGUAGES ARE PRIMARILY "QUALITY TIME" AND "WORDS OF AFFIRMATION".

So, for me I feel heard, understood, loved, and appreciated if the people nearest and dearest to me respond with "Words of Affirmations" such as compliments, acknowledgment for my day-to-day efforts and encourage me using kind and humble words-then I'm one happy lady! And likewise, "Quality Time" for me equates to quality conversations where I connect deeply and authentically with the other person and participating in quality activities- so sitting on the couch watching TV while we scroll through social media does not cut it for me!

My eldest son's love language is "Quality Time”, and my middle son is "Physical Touch". My husband is a mix of "Quality Time" and "Physical Touch".

By identifying how to speak our love languages in a way that makes each of us feel really loved and understood-our day-to-day interactions with each other only get easier. It takes practice and I am by no means an expert at it, but when things are going south it’s a great tool to refer back to.

DO YOU KNOW YOUR LOVE LANGUAGE?

 WORDS OF AFFIRMATION  QUALITY TIME  GIFTS  ACTS OF SERVICE  PHYSICAL TOUCH

Erin Miller is a NLP life coach, mentor, writer and proud mama to 3 very active young boys.

Her previous career roles have been quite diverse and she has a background in hospitality/travel, disability/mental health and business management.

Trained in a variety of modalities including NLP, Life Coaching and as a Soul Modes Mentor, she has had the privilege to work with clients all around Australia and also runs empowerment workshops, retreats and group events. For further information please call 0418 328 441 or visit my website www.erinmiller.com.au or follow me on Facebook and Instagram.

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