How You Can Enhance Your Social Skills

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Social skills are one of four well-being pillars

Your social skills depend on many different factors. Your childhood is the first thing to pop up. Do you come from a strict family with rules for almost everything, including how to behave with others?

Or were your first years as a human being filled with open and “flexible” rules?

Things can change when growing up, starting school, and becoming a teenager. However, your childhood experience always will be there.

In my case, I come from a Swedish family where open and social behavior wasn’t promoted very actively. That education will follow you for the rest of your life in one way or another.

At the age of 22, I met a wonderful Mexican girl who, besides being lovely, also had that spontaneous Latin mindset. That wonderful girl and my wife, for 48 years now, influenced my behavior greatly

But that restrictive attitude to always hold back is still there and will be for life. It has changed from “holding back” to “being careful,” and those two characters are playing well together

Your Social Skills – Basic Education and Training

Being aware that your education from your childhood can never be erased, the question would be, what can you do about it? And the answer is training.

So, accept the person you are. Never try to change it because you will fail. Some people are trying to play a personality they aren’t. People around you easily detect your behavior or you’re a professional actor

The 21-module “Your Best Life Blueprint” you get access to when becoming a LaunchYou member is talking about “Human Beings” versus “Human Doers.” Acting as a human will always be easier because you act as yourself, not as anybody else.

Social training

Accepting your social heritage, let’s focus on the other leg of your social skills development, training.

Make a sort of questionnaire for yourself, and be completely honest and transparent with yourself. Here are just a few examples of questions:

Do you show up how you want to for your family and friends?

Do you spend enough time with those you love?

Are you spending time on/or pursuing your hobbies?

Do you hang out with those who lift you higher?

Are you involved with any fun challenges?

Do you socialize as much as you’d like?

Are you involved with a like-minded community?

Are you open to making new friends?

How’s your fun-o-meter looking right now?

Are you giving off a positive vibe to attract your tribe?

As you can see, the number of questions can literally be endless.

We, humans, love the comfort zone, and if your passive social living makes you feel comfortable, it’s easy to make it a habit. Some people like to live that kind of life, and that’s ok. But most people don’t, and they have a low fantasy level of breaking the “bad habit chain.”

Change a bad habit to a good one

If you sincerely want to change and get a more active social life, there is only one way to go. Change your habits!

And how to do it?

Watch the video and get a tip on how to make a simple and easy change.

Change a Passive Habit to an Active Lifestyle

Here are the links mentioned in the video:

https://tvdmexonline.com/cornerstones-to-total-weelbeing/ https://tvdmexonline.com/health-detox

ttps://tvdmexonline.com/initial-training

https://tvdmexonline.com/LaunchYou

Nothing in life will happen without your willingness to make it happen; this habit change is no exception.

Social media

For me, who grew up a long time before the digital world even was something people talked about, I probably have a somewhat different view of what social media can do for us. Today we are spoiled with social media everywhere and anytime.

People can’t live without smartphones, and it seems even funny when people walk down the street just keeping their eyes on their phone screens. Personally, I have seen a complete family having dinner at a restaurant. Instead of having social family intercourse while eating, their eyes were fixed on the phone screen throughout the meal.

Wuuaaa, what a social life!

In a previous article, I wrote about the importance of sometimes having a social media detox week. It serves two goals:

1) Get out of the social media “slavery.” Real life isn’t in your smartphone.

2) Actively starting to be more social with people around you.

With Messenger, SMS, WhatsApp, or any other communication app, people mix up dialogues with monologues. Dialogue is when two or more people meet physically or over the phone to discuss any topic, while messages sent through the different available apps are nothing else than dialogues.

David Gurteen explains perfectly the difference between dialogue and monologue.

“A monologue is a speech delivered by one person or a long one-sided conversation. However, a one-sided conversation cannot be considered a real one. In everyday language. Dialogue, on the other hand, is a conversation between two or more people where each person takes turns speaking.”

Conclusion

The fast development of society and the enormous supply of communication tools sometimes give the opposite effect compared to the initial idea. In a way, the easy access to all technical apps has made us lazy and, in a way, less social compared to just a few decades ago.

If health (by the way, did you read last week’s article about health?) is the starting point in a life of total well-being, social skills and togetherness are definitely essential cogs in the search for total well-being.

Your Best Life Blueprint you will get access to as a LaunchYou member is more than a 21module training program to become more social. It’s a tool to make your lifestyle happy and efficient.

But hurry up! There is a limited number of people we can allow in this training. Click here to not miss out!

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