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Fucking For Fun

Jerk’s guide to the most pleasurable sex possible. words by Margo Moran | art by Jenny Katz

Fucking someone you love in an effort to feel close to them is cool. Fucking a stranger in the bathroom of a bar because you wanted to is also super cool (COVID aside). Fucking for the sole purpose of feeling good is valid and very cool. Pleasure can come in many forms, from solo situations to partner-play to a full-on group gab sesh. The goal of everyone involved should always be that all parties feel as good as possible, and sometimes the best way to amp up those feelings of satisfaction is by involving props. Sex toys can range from handcuffs to vibrators to sex swings, and because there’s such a massive range of toys, there really is something for everyone. Without further ado, let’s meet our sexy hot candidates:

Lube The Dildo

Lube, or as it’s written on her birth certificate, lubricant, is not a toy per se but is a foundational part of pleasure that is too often overlooked. Natural moisture is fantastic, but sometimes it doesn’t happen or you just want reinforcements! Lube can eliminate friction during penetration and decrease your chances of feeling discomfort or pain.

Situations Where Lube is Particularly Fantastic:

When someone experiences tightness during vaginal penetration: if you’re hooking up while high and your mouth isn’t the only thing that’s dry; if you don’t have time for sufficient foreplay; if the person you’re fucking has no earthly clue how to make a vagina wet. A particulary beloved product because of its reasonable price, notable effectiveness, and lack of animal testing is Nécessaire’s The Sex Gel, available at Sephora. Nothing says sexy like ethical production. Dildos are a classic for a reason. A dildo is the perfect toy for someone with a vagina who sits in their introductory science lecture and dreams of getting absolutely fucking railed. Rail yourself and call that shit fourth wave feminism! Or, get silly with a partner, whether they’re penile-inclined or not. In fact, getting a trusted associate involved can take your experiences with any of these toys into a new and exciting realm. Dildos are the closest thing to penetrative sex, but with more convenient angles and neat colors. Pair with our old friend lube for a smoother and more comfortable dildo experience, especially if it’s going in your ass!

Fantastic When: You want some deep penetration that hits your g-spot, or when you want to simulate being penetrated with a penis. A Fun Match For The Dildo: The harness! This allows you to strap a dildo to your pelvis to simulate penetrative sex with your partner.

The Vibrator

Vibrators are exactly what they sound like: a device that vibrates and, when placed on an erogenous zone, produces feelings of pleasure. Vibrators are especially lovely for people who have a clitoris, as many of them have adjustable intensities and can be super precise in their stimulation. Toys like the Womanizer Classic even provide clit suction for extra eyes-rolling-back-in-your-head fun.

Wonderful in These Situations: Someone with a vagina experiences pain from penetration and wants to focus on their clit, someone wants to stimulate their scrotum or the area right behind it, or when you or a partner enjoy some creative nipple-play. Bonus: Rabbit toys combine the penetrative aspect of dildos with the clit stimulation of vibrators, and they definitely deserve attention. Our recommendation goes to the Bender from Unbound: a waterproof vibrator with impeccable battery life and a remarkable ability to make you sweat — in a good way, of course.

People with prostates have their g-spot located in their ass, and don’t let your homphobic sex educator from high school tell you otherwise. This is where quirky accessories like anal beads, butt plugs, and prostate massagers come into play. First of all, your anus doesn’t self-lubricate, so lube is your bestie when it comes to butt stuff! Anything that goes up there should ideally come out, so stick to toys (or household objects that have been thoroughly washed and will be thoroughly washed as soon as you’re done with them) with a flared base.

Anal Toys

Butt Stuff Rocks When: A person with a prostate wants to access their g-spot.

Cock Rings

Cock rings are rings that go around your cock! More specifically, they restrict blood flow between a person’s body and penis to intensify erections and help them last longer. These cuties can vibrate (which your partner can benefit from if they have a clitoris!) and can be made of a softer material, like silicone, or something firmer, like metal. Make sure to use these only for short periods of time and take them off if you have any pain.

Fun When: you want a rocking boner, either alone or with a partner (or partners). BDSM Equipment: These are the toys to experiment with while getting it on with that special someone (who chokes you out against their wall and then you thank them for it). Handcuffs, blindfolds, and restraints can all serve to bring your submissivedominant dynamic to a new level. Hot take: don’t spend money, get (safely) crafty. Scarves and belts aren’t just for accessorizing anymore. When you dip into this pool, always establish a safe word before tying any knots and make sure that everyone involved is comfortable and on the same page! The Time to Shine: Power and control is hot, and these toys can help you amp up that dynamic.

Pleasure is something to be experienced without shame or stigma. Pleasure that doesn’t end in orgasm is valid pleasure. Pleasure that you achieve by yourself is valid pleasure. Feeling good is not a privilege but a right, and you deserve immaculate sexual wellbeing.