JerseyFashionista Magazine #3 by JerseyFashionista

fEBRUARY / MARCH 2014

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Winter Hair Care Tips Valentine’s Look Top Pick’s for the Remix: Day to Perfect Night Romantic Date 10 Red Lipsticks to Try This Valentine’s Day

Where’s My Libido?

And ways to say I love you

Featured Artist

Nadia Kay

JERSEYFASHIONISTA February- March 2014 JerseyFashionista.com

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Featured Artist

Nadia Kay 31-38 Features: 11-12 Top Pick’s for the Perfect Romantic Date 47 Where’s My Libido? 14 Winter Hair Care Tips 13 10 Red Lipsticks to Try This Valentine’s Day 16 Valentine’s Look Remix: Day to Night 59-60 Ask Lulu

JERSEYFASHIONISTA February- March 2014 JerseyFashionista.com

21-26 Edgy Fashion

39-45 Meet Alicia

49-50 Cabin Fever

54 Winter Fabulous

58 Mini Fashionista

55 Street Style

15 Channeling My Inner Mod

9 Ways to Say I Love You

51 Brighten your work

53 Buying your

8 Spice it Up!

52 De- clutter Your Life

10 Pull Yourself Together

7 Something for Him

29-30 Finding Fashion After Motherhood

48 Natural Beauty with Organic Tans

56 How We Met

Top Picks for the Perfect Romantic Date The tri-state may be icy and cold, but it’s also home to several of the most heartwarming and romantic places. Get into the mood for Valentine’s Day with our top picks for Valentine’s Day.

Union County Toute Heure Valentine’s Day Dinner, Cranford, Friday, February 14: A Toute Heure is an award winning and exceptionally reviewed restaurant that serves new American cuisine with a commitment to local seasonal ingredients. $75.00 per person.

Essex County

Pinot's Palette - Fri February, 14: 7:00-10:00pm - Love Bird Kisses (Date Night) Come celebrate a unique Valentine's Day at Pinot's Palette! This painting can be done on 1 canvas or on 2 side by side. We will have gourmet sandwiches, salads and desserts too! Hilton, Short Hills February 14: Enjoy a delicious meal for you and that special someone at The Dining Room on Valentine's Day! Dinner Served from 5:30pm-10:00pm

Morris County

Glassworks Studio, February 14 @ 7:30pm: Spend your Valentine’s Day creating lasting memories and projects with your special someone in a relaxed, inspiring environment. You’ll also enjoy a vegan dinner and sipping organic wine while you create your glass project.$30 cover includes dinner and wine for 2 – additional projects costs apply, sharing fee waived. Big Brew Beer Festival, $50.00, Morristown Armory, Morristown, Saturday, February 15: No, this is not your typical Valentine’s Day event, but for the right man or woman who loves their beer and great food, it is the perfect Valentine’s Day gift. The Big Brew Beer Festival is a perfect opportunity for beer aficionados to meet and hang out. It’s also the perfect Valentine’s Day gift for any man or woman who really loves their beer since it falls on Valentine’s Day weekend. Chef Eric Levine from Morris Tap & Grill has a great VIP beer festival buffet package that you might want to check out.

Highlawn Pavillion, West Orange, Friday, February 14: Share the enchanting ambiance and stunning views of Highlawn Pavilion with your special someone as you enjoy a lavish dinner thoughtfully prepared for the occasion by our Executive Chef, Mitchell Altholz. Special Four-Course Prix Fixe Valentine's Day The Bernards Inn Dinner, Make It A Romantic Weekend (Luxurious Valentine's Day Getaway) Includes Menu: $79.00 per person our Special Valentine’s Dinner on Friday Evening plus... The Manor, West Orange, Friday, February 14: Enjoy a Guestroom accommodations, a bottle of sparkling white complete four-course prix fixe holiday menu presented in the wine nestled in ice, one dozen long stemmed roses, Terrace Lounge. Seating times from 5:00 p.m. to 10:00 p.m. chocolate covered strawberries and truffles, and an a la Adults - $79.95. The restaurant is also running their popular carte breakfast for two. lobster dinner buffet for Valentine’s Day for $69.95.

Somerset County

The Orange Squirrel, Bloomfield, Friday, February 14: The prix-fixe menus are $65 (3 courses @ 6pm), $80 four courses at 7:30pm) and $85 (5 courses at 9:30 pm). All include a champagne cocktail and all large bottles of bubbly will be offered at 40% off. Reservations required.

Hudson County

Spirit Dinner Cruise, Weehawken, Friday & Saturday, February 14 & 15: Spirit is offering a 3 hour dinner cruise that includes a tour of New Jersey, New York and the Hudson River, an elegant buffet, a DJ, dancing and a stroll on the deck under the stars on Friday and Saturday. The cruise departs from Lincoln Harbor in Weehawken.

Sussex County

Crystal Springs Resort, $65.00 to $115.00, Vernon, Friday & Saturday, February 14, 15: Rekindle your passion this Valentine's Day at the new ultra-luxurious Grand Cascades Lodge or the recreation-rich Minerals Resort & Spa with a special romantic getaway for you and your sweetheart. Crystal Springs has six different dinners available for Valentine’s Day weekend. You can choose a dinner in the wine cellar for $100.00 per person, at Restaurant Latour for $115.00 or a more modest one at Kites Restaurant for $65.00. Some highlights from the Springs Bistro menu include: porcini lemon risotto, Goffle Road game hens, buffalo tenderloins and Gianduja cheesecake.

New York City American Museum of Natural History, Romance under the Stars 2014 February 14: Celebrate Valentine's Day with a unique NYC experience only at the Hayden Planetarium! Join us for a cocktail hour, complete with open bar, champagne, and hors d’oeuvres, along with the music of the Josh Rutner Quartet. Then join Hayden presenters Lydia Maria Petrosino and Ted Williams in the planetarium for a view of the night sky. Sit back and enjoy some of the greatest romance stories from the ancient celestial past. The Rejection Show: Valentine's Day Heartbreak Haven, February 14: The cult-favorite live comedy series, The Rejection Show is back with its "Super Bowl" of Rejection Shows, celebrating Valentine's Day with an evening of its best breakup, heartbreak, and love related performances/ stories from shows past, present, and future --blending into an evening of love songs, live music, and a party. If you're single, feeling alone, rejected, don't have a date or simply don't like traditional Valentine's Day routines then Littlefield is the place to be on Valentine's Day 2014! Don't feel left out happy couples. ALL ARE WELCOME to party and see some hilariously heartbreaking performances. "Find someone to french!" Dance Manhattan, TGIF Valentines Ballroom & Swing Dance Party, February 14: Join Lou Brockman and Heather Gehring, along with special co-host Gene Eagle (known for his dance parties at the 92nd Street) Y, for this special Valentine's homage to the "Love of Dance". Two floors of dancing! The evening will be a Valentine's Day treat with chocolates, a dance lesson, performances and giveaways. (Including two $50 gift certificates to World Tone Music) So come dance the night away in our 5th floor - 3500 sq. ft. ballroom music with Lou and Gene sharing DJ duties and/ or 4th floor Swing room with DJ Tina Micic! There will be two great dances for one low price: $12 for Dance Manhattan students/$15 General Admission: Dance Lesson 8-9pm (included in price of admission) Dancing 9-12:30am

Rogers and Hammerstein’s Cinderella at the Broadway Theater includes the lilting melodies you know and love, as well as enchanting sets and elaborate, Tony Award– winning costumes. In this contemporary stage adaption, there’s a bit more sass, but no less romance. In February 2014, Carly Rae Jepsen (of “Call Me Maybe” fame) will take the stage as Cinderella while Fran Drescher plays her Stepmother. Ice Skating at Wollman Rink, Central Park, Ice skating in Central Park has been a wintertime tradition since the park opened in 1858. A spin around Wollman Rink offers lovely skyline views and plenty of people-watching fun. And of course, holding hands while gliding across the ice is always a romantic endeavor. And don’t worry if you are a bit clumsy on skates. It gives your partner an opportunity to come to your rescue. Open Valentine’s Day from 10am–11pm World Yacht Valentine’s Day Cruise, Spend an evening of dinner and dancing on both the Hudson and East Rivers, with a near-360-degree view of lower Manhattan’s spectacular skyline and close-ups of the Brooklyn Bridge and Lady Liberty. This Valentine’s Day cruise includes a four-course dinner, including lobster mac and cheese, filet mignon and pistachio crusted salad (save room for the chocolate ganache cake for dessert). The three-hour cruise also allows ample time for photo-ops on the indoor and outdoor decks and twirling around the dance floor. Note that World Yacht calls for dress shirts (jackets optional) for gentlemen and elegant or business attire for ladies. Boarding 6pm, departure 7pm

About Jennifer Po: Established by mom, marketer and blogger Jennifer Po, NJ Moms Guide (www.njmomsguide.com) is an online community for New Jersey moms offering connection and camaraderie for today’s modern woman. NJ Moms Guide specializes in social media, events, public relations, and word of mouth communications for products and services targeted to moms.

10 Red Lipsticks to Try This Valentine's Day By: Stefanio Savino Red lipstick is always in vogue and an easy way to amp up your look for your Valentine or many suitors! As there are hundreds of beautiful red lipsticks out in the market right now here is my top ten that I am loving right now:

1. RiRi Woo - MAC Cosmetics 2. Rouge Basque - Nars Cosmetics 3. 111 - Rimmel Lasting Finish Matte by Kate Moss 4. Moulin Rouge - Makeup Forever 5. Lady Bug - MAC Cosmetics 6. Passion - Chanel Rouge Allure Intense Long-Wear Lip Colour 7. Black Cherry - NYX Extra Creamy Round Lipstick 8. Signature Scarlet - Maybelline Color Exilir by Colof Sensational 9. Cerise - Smashbox Be Legendary Lipstick 10. Viva Glam I - MAC Cosmetics

RED LIPSTICK TIP:

About Stefanie Savino

For fuller plumper lips, apply a liner outside your natural lip line.

Stefanie is a hair stylist, makeup artist and beauty blogger. She is a licensed cosmetologist and esthetician in the state of New Jersey. Her greatest passion in life is the beauty industry and making her clients look and feel beautiful. She is the owner of her on site hair and makeup company Bella Rococo Hair and Makeup Artistry. She has worked for MAC Cosmetics, makeup for Bridal Trend Couture Fashion Week in New York City, makeup for Fashion Week in New York City and was a speaker at the International Beauty Show in Las Vegas. She is a true beauty product junkie and has way to many products to count, but loves sharing her knowledge and tips to bring some glam to her clients and readers.

Winter Hair Care Tips Oh the weather outside is frightful!! As the temperatures continue to drop lower it is important to take care of your hair more than ever. Here are some tips on how to care for your hair during these freezing winter months. DRY AND FLAKY SCALP A change in the weather can cause the scalp to peel. During the winter months there is less humidity in the air, which can make your scalp dry. If the peeling is constant and you have other symptoms such as large flakes and itching you may have dandruff. If you have dandruff you will want to use a medicinal shampoo or deep cleansing/clarifying shampoo. FLAT / LIMP HAIR When the temperature drops to single digits and negative numbers we have no choice but to bundle up and put a hat on. This could cause our hair to become flat and limp. Before you start layering up with all your outerwear make sure you style your hair in a way that adds body. When you wear a hat it creates heat, which will have the hair hold the shape its in. So if you styled with extra body it will hold that body even after taking the hat off. For extra volume use a root lifter such as Scruples Direct Volume. This will lock in the volume and keep your hair looking gorgeous. STATIC IN THE HAIR Static happens when the hair picks up an electrical charge from the dry air, which is primarily in the winter months. The winter months have less moisture in the air which makes everything from our hair, skin and nails more dry. To combat static you will need to switch to a more hydrating shampoo and conditioner, use ionic hair tools and more deep conditioning masks. You can also add a deep conditioning treatment to any hair service when you go to the salon. These treatments will add moisture and shine to your hair and all under fifteen minutes.

DULL HAIR Between the dry air and the rough temperatures our hair can become lack luster in the winter. Also, the combination of our styling tools , hair color and products can put a toll on our hair. You don't have to stop doing these things to your hair, but you will to be more proactive and preventive to ensure that your hair still glistens and remains healthy. If you shampoo everyday you will need to switch to a more conditioning product to make sure you are not striping the hair of moisture. If you blow dry regularly you will need to add more heat protection to your routine so prevent split ends, dryness and breakage. Mist a heat protection spray such as Moroccan Oil Thermal Protection spray on to your brush to fight off dryness. If you flat iron everyday rub regular olive oil onto the plates of your flat iron once a week to keep hair from getting too dry from the heat. CURLY HAIR PROBLEMS Most curly haired vixens like to style their curls when they are wet. However, during this time of you try not to leave with wet hair because the dampness will turn your curls hard and stiff. When styling squeeze out excess water with a towel and then flip your head over and use a diffuser. Even if you did this for just five minutes you will see the difference with your curls and they will not lock up once you get outside. Celebrity stylist and curly hair expert Quidad advises the following for getting the most out of your curls during the winter months: 60 Degrees and Above: You're good with gel. Choose a moisturizing formula with botanical extracts that works with the humidity to hold the shape of your curl. 59 to 41 Degrees: This is the best temperature for curls. Go for a non-silicone-based gel or mousse 40 Degrees and Below: Curls can go stiff unless you choose a styler that softens. Pick a moisture-rich conditioning creme. Most importantly is to keep your tresses hydrated. Make sure you are drinking plenty of water, taking your multi vitamins and/or supplements and most importantly using products that will provide your hair nourishment and heat protection.

Valentine’s Day Outfit Remix: Day to Night Valentine’s Day is here again! It’s the day where Cupid is floating around waiting to strike with his arrow of love aimed right at your hearts. Whether you are going to celebrate with some friends, family, or have a romantic date you are probably wondering what to wear. To help inspire you, I’ve created a Valentine’s Day look that can be transformed from day to night with a few simple tweaks to complete your outfit!

The Day Look For the day look, I wanted to keep it elegant but troublefree. This black and white printed dress from Mandee worked impeccably. It has a classy length with the end of the dress falling a little over the knees. Black and white is such a timeless color that can be worked around countless styles. I paired this printed dress with modest low heeled pumps, which succeeded in giving the dress the slight daytime swanky element. These pointy toe pumps are Jlo brand for Kohls and they have charming little gold detailed studs. They are cute and inexpensive, which is such a good combination. I added my glasses to the daytime look to give it the “geeky” and urbane feel. With my hair picked up it really worked well together. The finishing accessories to the day look were a simple infinity necklace from Primadonna and a black and gold tote from JustFab. Ladies, keeping it meek but chic works well for a daytime look.

The Night Look Transforming this dress for a night look can be very simple with just a small amount of fine-tunes that make a vast transformation. Adding a pop of color against the black and white print will surely make you stand out. I changed the heels to red pumps. Red is such an audacious color and will definitely match the Valentine’s Day theme while also giving your outfit a romantic feel. I changed the purse to a clutch to convert the outfit into an “outfit of the night” and to keep the pop of color theme in red. This envelope sized clutch from Forever21 did just the trick. Another tweak was adding a statement necklace. A statement necklace can transform any outfit. I let my hair down and took off the glasses. What’s more, I added a brash red lip which makes the look much more exciting. Simple components transformed this look and gave it an instantaneously tasteful factor for a night time ready look.

It’s all in the details ladies, and modest particulars can make over your get-up from day to night! Whether its adding accessories, including color, or differentiating the style in your hairdo, or even choosing to go with a self-effacing and bold lip color; any of these subtle changes can transform your outfit from one feature to something utterly like chalk and cheese. Don’t underestimate the power of the little things in your wardrobe.

About Patricia Lora: Patricia Lora is a Latina Jersey girl who grew up in New York. She loves fashion and is shoe obsessed. Her style is versatile and affordable. She enjoys Sharing her creative ideas to inspire others. Visit her blog: thefashionvictim14.blogspot.com

Photographer - Carlos Alva of BlackHill Photography Makeup - Whitney Dorielan Model - Alexus Jegede Dress: Michael Kors

Photographer - Carlos Alva of BlackHill Photography Makeup - Whitney Dorielan Model - Alexus Jegede Top: Arden B. Pants: H&M

Photographer - Carlos Alva of BlackHill Photography Makeup - Whitney Dorielan Model - Lisa Green

Photographer - Carlos Alva of BlackHill Photography Makeup - Whitney Dorielan Models - Alexis Jegede & Lisa Green

Finding Fashion After Motherhood Last year, I started looking for the perfect contrast jacket. But after I had a baby in June, all of my needs and wants fell to the wayside. Fashion was no longer a motivation to get me up in the morning when I used to work as a full-time reporter. I’m a stay-at-home mom now, and on most days during this wretched arctic winter, my outfits are anything but chic. I feel like a snow

Photo Credit: Michael Shoudy Tanya “T.D.” Shoudy wears the W118 by Walter Baker Keanu Jacket in Olive; cargo skinny pants: Sanctuary, old; boots: Lucky Brand, old; blouse: Francesca’s, old; handbag: Longchamp; earrings: Old Navy; watch: Dooney & Bourke; necklace: vintage.

troll, trapped in the house and bundled in spandex and cotton that absorbs myriad baby excrement. Then in January I saw a beautiful picture of JerseyFashionista Editor, Lillie Morales-Torres wearing a gorgeous contrast Pimkie jacket from Paris, and it motivated me to go back on the hunt. I was searching online last week when I fell in love with a Walter Baker trench coat with vegan leather sleeves, a popular item worn by the Spencer character on a television episode of “Pretty Little Liars.” From that point on, in my spare time during nursing sessions, I scoured the Internet to find one - and find one that was not the original price, which was $228 on the Walter Baker website. Holy Lord, I couldn’t spend that much without feeling the guilt of how many diapers that would buy. But I did have money from Christmas gifts to allow myself a “mommy” treat. Thing is, it is sold out everywhere. At Macy’s. At Saks. Ebay had one for $175 and it was an extra small. That wasn’t happening. Then, I came upon the nursing mothers’ Shangri La of fashion. I found a picture of the trench on a website for a new, online boutique, www.shopburu.com, “Handpicked Ready-To-Wear For Breast-Feeding Moms & Beyond.” The clouds parted, the ice started to melt. I couldn’t believe I found my jacket on an online store for women just like me. And it was $114. Why was this such a miracle find? After almost eight months, I’m still exclusively breastfeeding my baby. I can’t wear complicated clothing, but I still want to feel confident and look stylish. Bu Ru’s mission is to help new mothers and those who are nursing find ready-towear non-maternity clothes that will be comfortable and fashionable, the kind that will last when I am beyond this period as a new mom. Founded by Morgan and Brett Hutchinson, the site launched on Sept. 24, and was inspired by their 15-month-old daughter, Olive, as well as Morgan wanting to find fashionable clothing for pregnancy and motherhood. “I couldn’t find anything I liked. The mom lifestyle in general requires a completely different set of clothes,” Morgan says. The shop, which supports all

mothers whether they formula-feed or breastfeed their babies, carries easy access clothing, chic elastic waist pants, and washable wear, Morgan says, as well as “must-have” items such as wrap dresses, blazers, and leggings and stretchy pants. Some of the designers whose lines are carried by the shop are working mothers, such as Rebecca Minkoff and Mara Hoffman. Other lines there include David Lerner, Rachel Roy, Corey Lynn Calter, and L.A.M.B. by Gwen Stefani. “Sometimes what moms completely stop buying is that special piece,” Morgan says. “We try to find special pieces that are baby friendly, and get them

About T.D. Shoudy: A winner of several New Jersey Press Association and New Jersey Society of Professional Journalists awards, Tanya “T.D.” Shoudy is a freelance writer, and is the former Community Editor of The Montclair Times and a former reporter for The Star-Ledger.

from play date, to office, to date night.” That’s how I felt when I got my trench. It might not seem like a big deal to the general public. But in my little mommy world, it was the special piece that put the stride back in my step. It also helped give me a boost of encouragement to continue breastfeeding. Sure, most of the time I don’t want to put in the effort to dress up. Then after being in the house for so many days, I have to go to the supermarket, and it’s like I’m going to the Grammys and I bust out the black pleather blouse and three pendant necklaces, aching for any excuse to get back into my groove. When I called Bu Ru to ask about the trench, I bonded instantly with Morgan, and she took the time to talk to me about life as a new mother, and how it can be difficult to feel sexy and glam when you’re drained, sleep-deprived, and adjusting to your tiring yet rewarding new role. She had only two of the trenches left, sizes small and large, and in Olive. Somewhere in the middle of our halfhour conversation, she was kind enough to have one of the employees, who was about my size, try the jackets on for me. Because I lost the baby weight and I thought a more snug fit would look neater with a trench, we decided on the small. I feel great in it, and it’s the perfect cover up for breastfeeding on these chilly days. I can’t dress up the way I used to every day, and that’s more than okay with me. My first priority is taking care of my son and it can’t be done right if I’m worried about spit on my clothes, or the baby grabbing a piece of jewelry. But I still want to be me, I still want to look good, and I still want to feel good. I can’t spend money like this on myself every week. But just because I’m a mom and still want to maintain my style doesn’t mean I have to look like Peggy Bundy in my leggings. I am so grateful for this experience and for Morgan who helped me make my first big “mommy” purchase. Blessings come every day: the fact that the oil hasn’t frozen in this dreadful weather, we have food in the refrigerator, and most of all that my son is healthy and thriving. But this was such a nice thing I could do just for me: a nursing mom, a wife, a writer, a woman.

Featured Artist:

Nadia Kay American singer, model and actress Nadia Kay is up and coming. She has modeled for major brands like Spike TV, Skyy Vodka and T-Mobile. Recently featured in the new Keanu Reeves’ action thriller ‘John Wick’ in theaters summer 2014, Nadia is looking forward to exploring new opportunities in Film and TV. The artist’s third music release, EP ‘Make Me Wanna Dance,’ is quite an exciting turn for Miss Kay. Produced by DJ APLEXO, it’s a solid club-dance record with dirty baselines, pounding synths and soaring vocals. Drawing inspiration from her fast NYC lifestyle, trying to juggle a music career, touring, modeling and acting, Nadia enters an edgier territory now offering loud Beatport quality bangers. Turn the pages to see more of the lovely Nadia Kay. www.nadiakay.com

Photographer - Manny Oliveira Hair & Make Up: Edwyn Javier Vargas Bethencourt Aleksandr Villamariona

Model - Nadia Kay Stylist: Lillie Morales Clothing: Mint Market

Getting to know Nadia Kay... JF: What inspires you when it comes to... music? modeling? acting? NK: I love performing and while on stage, having the audience connect with my music gives me the best feeling on Earth and inspires me to keep creating!! As far as modeling - I get really inspired by colors, textures, and also the shape of designs and how they fit. I love form-fitting clothes that can easily transition from day to night with a simple addition of accessories, an exciting shade of nail polish or lipstick, a cool belt or a sexy pair of heels. Recently, I have been doing a lot of acting, which is super cool because I went to acting school in my early twenties, and now being able to apply the technique to my work allows me to take my skill to the next level. My biggest inspiration is the work of Scarlett Johansson, Nicole Kidman and Marilyn Monroe. JF: Where is your accent from? NK: I was born in Odessa, Ukraine - a beautiful city-resort on the Black Sea. I moved here with my family when I was 7, that’s twenty years ago. I first lived in North Carolina for a few years, but having come from a big city, it was very difficult to adjust there. I moved to NYC at 18 and the rest is history. JF: Tell us about your feature in Keanu Reeves’ new action thriller ‘John Wick’ NK: I’m playing the lead character’s girlfriend. It’s a small role but I got to shoot a few scenes with Keanu Reeves - so that was quite an experience. We shot at a beautiful Aire Spa in NYC so I also got a chance to chill, soak in the hot tub and get pampered in between the takes. JF: What is the most exciting moment you have experienced in your career? NK: It’s hard for me to tell, because I get excited at every single job I do. I really love what I do, so the satisfaction that comes with makes every day a great day. I love concept photo shoots, I love trying on new looks and playing different characters. I’m also working on my 3rd album and experimenting with different sounds and even voices. So stay tuned! JF:What is your ultimate goal? NK: My ultimate goal is being happy, doing what I love, living my life day by day and enjoying every step of the way. I’m blessed with having found the love of my life who makes my journey even more meaningful.

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Photographer - Manny Oliveira Hair & Make Up: Edwyn Javier Vargas Bethencourt Aleksandr Villamariona

Model - Nadia Kay Stylist: Lillie Morales Clothing: Mint Market

Photographer - Manny Oliveira Hair & Make Up: Edwyn Javier Vargas Bethencourt Aleksandr Villamariona

Model - Nadia Kay Stylist: Lillie Morales Clothing: Mint Market

Where’s My Libido? During a recent girls night out my friend says “I think my libido got lost in space!” Most women don’t live like the sexually provocative characters on Sex and the City and many often experience significant downtime in the bedroom. The complaint of lack of libido or desire is one that I hear about on a regular basis. I hear it from my patients who are in their 20’s through my post-menopausal patients. The fact is that almost every woman at some point in their life experiences a decreased sex drive. Surveys show that sexual dysfunction, defined as low libido, slow arousal, difficulty reaching orgasm, and painful intercourse, occurs in 43 percent of women. There are many reasons for this decrease. Smoking, diabetes, depression, thyroid dysfunction and menopause are just some of the causes of low female libido. Recently a patient came in, almost tears, “Dr there is something definitely wrong with me; I have no desire to have sex”. This was a big change for her. She had enjoyed a healthy sex life with her husband for 10 years and now felt absolutely no desire or fulfillment from intercourse. During her full evaluation we did discover that she had a hypoactive thyroid gland. In order to define female libido, you first have to understand the basics of libido. In its simplest form, libido means sexual desire, but there are few things in this world that are that simple! Female libido isn’t a simple matter of becoming aroused and maintaining that feeling to reach orgasm. Aside from the physicality of sex, it involves tricky things like hormones, emotions, and psychology. Women require a proper balance of all these things just to become aroused in the first place, never mind achieving orgasm. True to their gender, female libido is a more complicated then male libido. There are still mysteries of the female body that continue to elude the medical community, and the study of female sexuality is one of those uncharted medical courses. Men have had sexual enhancement products for years to aid them in their sexual desire and performance. For the reasons discussed above it is difficult to come up with these products for women. Female libido relies heavily on emotional factors – with love, self confidence, and an emotional connection with their partner being big ones. Psychologically, if a woman’s head isn’t in the moment, then her body can’t often fill in the gaps. Physiologic arousal requires a surge of blood flow to the vaginal areas to not only heighten desire, but also make it easier to achieve a powerful orgasm and satisfying sexual experience. When all of these things work at once, it can result in one of those Harry Met Sally moments!! Sometimes all you need is to get past one of these

factors in female libido to kick-start the rest. The good news is if you are experiencing a drop off in your desire there are things that you can do. If it is a sudden change then I would recommend a full physical and gynecologic exam. This would help rule out a medical cause. If you are on a combined estrogen/progesterone contraceptive i.e. pills or the ring they can sometimes effect your libido as well. That is not to say that you should stop what you are currently doing but perhaps you could explore other options with your physician that may not affect your libido in the same way. If you are postmenopausal your decreased libido may be caused by physical and hormonal changes to your body. A discussion with your gynecologist about treatments for vaginal dryness and atrophy, hormone replacement therapy, and/or testosterone cream may be helpful. Sometimes an over the counter lubricant can be enough to take away some of the discomfort caused by vaginal dryness. There is no great medication that women can take to help with sexual dysfunction at this time. Multiple studies, with Viagra, looking at many aspects of sexual dysfunction show no improvement in a woman’s sex life. A recent study of 66 women, ages 23 to 65, with sexual dysfunction for an average of six years, found that Wellbutrin SR may be an effective treatment. Approximately one third of women experienced doubled interest in sexual activity, sexual arousal and sexual fantasies. Although Wellbutrin SR is an antidepressant, the women in this study did not suffer from depression and they did not have relationship difficulties. More studies are needed to support this preliminary data. Some women have gained benefit from behavioral therapy to help increase sexual arousal. Such therapy is aimed at enhancing sexual fantasies and focusing one’s attention on sexual stimuli. For women in on-going relationships, the therapist would also look into the possibility of communication problems in the relationship, or lack of sexual stimulation by the woman’s partner. With that being said for all of us life, including work, children, marriage, financial stresses, can lead to a loss of libido. Try to re-kindle the sensuality in your relationship. This doesn’t necessarily mean just making the effort to plan a “date night” with dinner and a movie. Try being more spontaneous, maybe plan a one night getaway without the kids, or do something you enjoyed together when you first met. You can even stay in light some candles, open a bottle of wine, take a bath together, try giving your partner a massage, and take the time to focus on each other.

Get a Natural Glow with Organic Spray Tans Winter gets so cold and boring. It leaves us counting down the days to summer. When we think of summer, we think of a nice warm tan. It not only compliments our skin, but our summer wardrobes too. But with busy work schedules, many of us donâ&#x20AC;&#x2122;t get enough Vitamin D so we opt for things like tanning lotions or even worse tanning beds. Many consider organic spray tans to be just a new and improved version of the traditional spray tan. Some of the components that can be found in a traditional spray tan include dye, oil, alcohol, perfumes, and various chemicals. An organic spray tan is free of each and every single one of these things. This is the main difference between an organic spray tan and a traditional spray tan. An organic spray tan is definitely an excellent choice for anyone who wants to experience the benefits of spray tanning, but who also does not want to be affected by the chemicals used in spray tanner. This may vary according to where you go for your spray tanning needs. In general, most places will charge you about the same price for an organic spray tan as they would for a traditional spray tan. The average of both types of spray tans is about $60. If you can pay about the same amount of money for an organic spray tan as you can for a regular spray tan, it makes more sense to opt for a more natural solution. Why expose your skin to chemicals and poor smells? Organic tanning also doesnâ&#x20AC;&#x2122;t leave you ompa lompa orange. When done correctly by a certified tech and licensed esthetician, you can achieve a gorgeous bronze look. Bella Organici provides the most natural all organic tans. Organic tans will in fact say Organic on the solution. Never be afraid to ask your tech for this information. Organic Solution was developed for the health conscious to perfect a desired golden tan while maximizing skin benefits. A potent blend of anti-aging, skin firming and cell rejuvenating ingredients all packed within one fantastic product. The scented formula is fragranced with allergen-free essence of raspberry and almond extracts. Of course we want a beautiful, tanned body, and the airbrush tan route will not only keep you looking good, but will help keep you healthy. Our airbrush tan will give you that sexy, radiant look you want, as well as peace of mind to go with it. Most tanning salons offer a form of sunless tanning. Often they offer spray-tanning machines only but some salons have added an airbrush-tanning technician to their list of services. Hotel spas often offer airbrush tanning as well. Hair salons have found it beneficial to add this service to their menus. Many mobile airbrush-tanning businesses have developed as a result of the high demand for this service. These technicians will service you in the comfort of your own home.

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Danielle Marie owner of Bella Organici, New Jerseyâ&#x20AC;&#x2122;s newest and most sight after mobile organic tan spa. Danielle is a certified master airbrush technician, celebrity airbrush artist and licensed esthetician/ cosmetologist. With 15 years in the beauty industry.

De-clutter Your Life By Lillie Morales-Torres

We know it all too well; spring cleanup. It’s that time of year when the season begins to change and you want to liberate yourself of any excess baggage in your life. From car to closet to home, there’s much to be tossed and given away. Here are some fun tips to help you get started. 1) Pile It Up- Make three piles: Toss, Gift, Keep. Who says TV doesn’t teach you anything? I learned this from the show Clean House on the Style network and believe me it works! Toss the junk, give away what you don’t use, and keep what you love. 2) Contain It- Use storage bins or contains to keep your messes in check. Label the containers indicating what’s inside. For ex. Cables, art supplies, holiday décor; etc. documents such as bills, warranties, and manuals. 4) Shelve It- Use your wall space to shelf items like books, board games, clothing, or smaller containers. 5) Jar It- Put those old mason jars sitting in your cupboard to use. Store small things like paper clips,

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Good money-management skills are a must have. If you donâ&#x20AC;&#x2122;t have a household budget today, start one. A fashionista needs to know where your money is and where it is going! In order to know how much you can spend on a new home, you need to analyze what you can afford to spend. This might include cut backs on clothes for all of you shopaholics out there! Once you have your current finances figured out, make up a fake budget for homeownership. Find out how much homes cost in your area and how much your mortgage payment will cost. Then, factor in higher utility bills, homeowners insurance, property taxes, homeowners association fees, and maintenance and upkeep costs, as well as higher commuting costs if you're thinking about moving to a neighborhood farther from work. If you simply cannot afford the increased expenses that come with a house, it's never a good time to buy â&#x20AC;&#x201D; no matter what's happening in the real-estate market. Traditionally, to get your foot in the door, you'll need a down payment worth 20% of the home price. That means for a $250,000 home, you'll need $50,000 upfront. Sure, there are ways to get around that steep requirement with zero- or low-down loans, but those options will cost you. You may have to pay extra for special mortgage insurance or take out a piggyback loan with a much higher interest rate. With the slowing housing market, having that 20% down payment becomes even more important because you'll start off with some equity in case you have to move earlier than expected. "In the early years, you aren't building any equity with the mortgage payment. Buying a home is a long-term huge financial commitment, so you'll need regular cash flow to cover those monthly payments. If you're in school, plan to go back to school, have a less-than-reliable job or plan to start a family, you need to take a good look at your future financial abilities. Will you be able to make your mortgage payment 3 months from now? How about 3 years from now? Some couples can afford the house when they're both working, but if a kid comes along and one wants to stop working, then they might have an issue.

h o m e o w n e r s h ip ? If you have enough cash on hand to cover three to six months of your living expenses, you'reone step closer to being prepared for homeownership. Just in case something happens to disrupt your steady income like a serious illness, a layoff or even a natural disaster that keeps you fromworking; you want to make sure you can still afford to make your mortgage payments until you can get out of your rough patch. Lenders like to make sure you'll have enough money each month to pay your dues. So before they'll give you a mortgage, they take a look at your debt-to-income ratio. Usually speaking, they want to make sure your monthly housing costs, counting principal, interest, taxes and insurance, will be no more than 33% of your monthly gross income; and that your total debt payments, including your mortgage, credit cards, student loans and auto loans, will remain below 38% of your total pay. So if you have large outstanding debts, it's a good idea to try to pay them down before applying for a mortgage to make sure you can qualify for as much money as you'll need. This also means you should avoid taking on any substantial new debt six months to one year prior to your purchase, or you may throw your ratio off. So, it may be best to drive that clunker for a little while longer, or put off charging that European vacation.

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Laura Allen is a real estate agent for Weichert of Kinnelon. Contact Laura for more advice and information on buying your first home. To contact Laura, visit: ListingsbyLauraAllen.com

Winter Fabulous Let’s face it; the cold season just makes us want to throw on our sweats, add on layers, and head out the door. Mother Nature is not playing this winter season with its brutal cold fronts and back-to-back snowstorms. Let’s just say the Polar Vortex is here to stay for a while. Pulling off a summer look is simple; maxi dress with sandals and you’re out the door. However, when we’re faced with cold temperatures it becomes more of a task to stay warm AND stylish. Here are three tips on how to look chic even when you’re forced to bundle up. A good coat is a base piece for your winter wardrobe. It’s what’s inside that counts, but when the temperature drops, stylish outerwear matters. Investing in a statement winter coat will keep you warm and modish. When looking to purchase a statement coat, look for something that’s stylish but useful, warm but not bulky and trendy but convenient. It’s all about details like bold colors, prints or patterns and embellishments like fur that will help your coat make a statement. This double-breasted printed coat from Joyce Leslie is sensible and fashionable without breaking the bank. You can never go wrong with your basic black and white hounds tooth print whether it’s for a daytime or evening look. A hat is a big winter accessory. Hats do so much more than keep your head warm; they can help you make a fad declaration and help you originate a new style. Something as simple as a hat can glam up your winter outfit by giving it the finishing touch you’re looking for. With so many styles, from fedoras to wide brim hats, it’s impossible to just choose one. One of my favorites is this black winter floppy hat from Joyce Leslie. Whether you want to keep your head warm or just hide from the winter flurries, it will give you that voguish factor you’re looking to add to your winter apparel. Don’t forget fabulous footwear. Like these black thigh high Forever21 boots, for example. Definitely show stoppers! They’re adaptable as they can be paired with tights, jeans, or skirts. There are plenty ways to wear these boots without having to comprise your warmth for the winter. All you need is some aggrandizement to make a fashionable statement. So many designs and details for you to choose from, such as a buckle, zipper, or even thigh high length like I sported in my winter look will add that fab element to your winter look. Don’t let these low temperatures, bring your wardrobe down or make you look unfashionable. Yes ladies, it’s brutally cold outside but you can win this battle against Mother Nature. When you look good, you feel good, and we all can do it no matter what the season. Follow these three winter fabulous tips, and you will be flying out the door looking as pretty as an ice princess.

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Married 1 year – Belville, NJ “We meet 5 years ago. I was his waitress at 3 Guys pizzeria. He had just came back from he Army and was dining with his parents. He asked for me out at the end of my shift and I finally gave him a chance after seeing him more at 3 Guys.”

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