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It’s All How You Slice It by Rivki D. Rosenwald Esq., CLC, SDS
Life C ach It’s How You Slice It
By Rivki D. Rosenwald Esq., LMFT, CLC, SDS
Talk about a microcosm of life.
So, the weather is perfect for a delightful day at the beach….
You know what I mean – it’s deliciously hot enough to get wet in the ocean and to feel completely comfortable in those wet things all day and yet not so unbearable that you will fry.
A day where the wind is too nonexistent at home, yet at the beach there is a breeze that provides the gentle cooling of an overhead fan and still is not whirring around in gusts that blow the sand in your face or your stuff around.
The sand is hot-ish, but you’re prepared with your trusty flip flops as a solid defense.
The waves are just the right height to enjoy riding and jumping, and the undercurrent is not strong.
There is even a food concession nearby that actually even sells some kosher food.
And the “piece de resistance” – there are “clean” bathrooms nearby, too.
So, this is all amazing!
But those little rocks and shells are prickling at your feet as you walk into the ocean.
And those supposedly dead jellyfish are starting to wash up on the shore. Don’t’ they look ominous to you?!
The umbrellas are solidly in the sand, but the sun is moving, and you can’t move them at all.
The tide just came in really close unexpectedly and washed away the giant sandcastle your kid spent all day building.
And the lotion you applied that said 100 SPF is starting to feel like it was just a 5!
Such is a microcosm of life….
There’s the wonderful – and the wondering – of what just happened.
Whether it’s the beach, the job, the
marriage, or the friendship, etc., there will be the great and the grating.
Yippee and yich!
Well, how do you want to play this thing?
Do you never want to venture out because life is unpredictable?
That’s the reality. G-d made an interesting world. We can’t say we’re not interested because it ain’t perfect.
Anyway, sometimes, predictable is boring.
Also – more importantly – maybe we can find a different enjoyment from things. For instance, we can learn to appreciate the skills of refocusing that we can demonstrate when the charmed goes to challenging. That, too, can be a way to snatch victory from the jaws of defeat.
Whether it’s the beach or any other place we find ourselves, we can certainly embrace and enjoy the fabulous and on top of that find a way to flip the unfortunate or the fatal.
And that, my friend, is the way to deal with life’s microcosm and thus make your macrocosm marvelous!
Rivki Rosenwald is a Licensed Marriage & Family Therapist working with both couples and individuals and is a certified relationship counselor. Rivki is a co-founder and creator of an effective Parent Management of Adolescent Years Program. She can be contacted at 917-705-2004 or at rivkirosenwald@gmail.com.
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