The Single Tzipora

Grodko

Dear Friend, I’m struggling to answer your question as I have many points I want to share.

Firstly, it is extremely difficult to be an “older” single in the Jewish community. Please consider that your friends “snobbiness” or “holier than thou” attitude is most probably the simplest expression of pain, loneliness, and self-preservation amongst all the inappropriate, rude, and harsh judgments and comments that people make towards her. I share this because I don’t think further steps can be taken without having extreme compassion for your friend and noticing the pain she’s likely in.

Secondly, this is your friend’s process. You may need to exercise patience and support while she takes this journey of growth. Sometimes details may seem to indicate that THIS is the reason why someone is single when, in reality, it just may not be the right time.

Lastly, with extreme compassion and kindness, (once again) approach your friend and ask : how can I be a good friend for you while you’re navigating through the struggles of dating? She may respond by asking you for advice or appreciate that you are there when she is ready. It’s very difficult for