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Dear Readers, Dear Readers, It was at the end of a random conversation and I was saying goodbye when the person I was speaking with wished me a good year. “You should have a nice Rosh Hashana,” she said. That simple sentence stopped me in my tracks. Rosh Hashana! It’s finally here! As the editor of a newspaper, I have Rosh Hashana on my mind in the middle of July since we have to start thinking about things in advance. But although I was preparing divrei Torah, recipes, and articles for publication – all about Rosh Hashana – I really didn’t register that Rosh Hashana, Yom Hadin, was edging closer. And it hit me in that moment. A new year, a new beginning, an opportunity to beg for all the good that can be bestowed upon us. The responsibility is frightening, the possibility is amazing. Last night, when researching something, I came across a website that listed questions one should ask themselves before Rosh Hashana. Here were some of the questions posed: When do I most feel that my life is meaningful? What would bring me more happiness than anything else in the world? What are my three most significant achievement/biggest mistakes in the past year? What are my three major goals in life? What practical steps can I take in the next few months toward these goals? There were at least 20 questions, each one more thought-provoking than the next,

ending with the last question of: What do I want written on my tombstone? It was nearing midnight as I perused the questions and guiltily I hurriedly read through them with nary a thought in my mind of attempting to answer them. Another time, I told myself. When I have more time. But when I woke up this morning, of course, there were lunches to prepare and breakfasts to be made and mitzvah notes to be written. And then work consumes much of my day. And my nights too. So when will I have the time to stop and think and contemplate the gift given to me last year for a fresh start? When will I have the opportunity to sit down and map out my hopes, dreams, aspirations and goals for this upcoming year? Will I just be swept up in the frothy waves of the new year rolling in or will I recalibrate, take stock, and come in with a clear picture of what I wish my year to be? Perhaps, just perhaps, this year I will give myself the gift of a few moments – no cooking, no cleaning, no shopping, no interruptions – so I can think and look back, be grateful for the blessings that I received, become aware of where I fell short, and hope for a year full of bracha and success. May this year be filled with only good things for you and your families, and may Hashem answer misha’alos libchem l’tova. Kesiva v’chasima tova, Shoshana

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Contents LETTERS TO THE EDITOR

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COMMUNITY Readers’ Poll Community Happenings

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NEWS

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Global

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National

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Odd-but-True Stories

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ISRAEL Israel News

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My Israel Home: Construction Project Manager: Luxury or Necessity? 80 A Vision of Hope: Prime Minister Netanyahu Speaks to the UN

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PEOPLE David Gurfein, A True American Hero

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Amir Nachumi: High Ranking Ace by Avi Heiligman

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PARSHA Rabbi Wein

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ROSH HASHANA The Call of the Wild by Rabbi Jonathan Gewirtz

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Coronation Day by Eytan Kobre

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Maximizing Our Spiritual ROI by Rabbi Dr. Naphtali Hoff

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Short Story: My Own Words by Adina Edelman

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HEALTH & FITNESS The Sweetness of Life by Deb Hirschhorn, PhD

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A Happy and Healthy New Year by Aliza Beer, MS RD

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This Rosh Hashana: Our Children – Our Focus by Rabbi Dov Silver

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Dear Editor, I have been reading with interest the comments that many people have about the gap between camp and school. I would like to address the dad who had a difficult time “being a parent for 13 long days.” This dad speaks as a parent who is frustrated by the system. I, too, am a parent. But I am also a teacher. He wonders why school can’t start earlier as teachers “don’t need vacation time as they have already been off for two and a half months”. Let me open his eyes about the reality of teaching today. Teachers have the hardest, and most important, job out there. The pay doesn’t come close to compensate for all the hard work and dedication our devoted teachers show our children each and every day. Besides for being in the classroom, a teacher devotes many hours during the day preparing lessons, sheets, tests, etc. During the evening hours, they are busy calling parents about various academic, social and emotional issues that need to be discussed. They stay late after school for meetings pertaining to your children. They sit for hours writing report cards and attending parent-teacher’s confer-

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FOOD & LEISURE Our Table by Renee Muller

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A Taste of Gourmet with Renee: TJH Speaks with Renee Muller

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10 Wines You Want on Your Table This Rosh Hashana by Raizel Druxman

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The Aussie Gourmet: Rosh Hashana Roundup

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LIFESTYLES Dating Dialogue, Moderated by Jennifer Mann, LCSW

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Understanding the New SAT by Chaim Homnick

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Your Money

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New Year’s Day or Rosh Hashana by Rivki D. Rosenwald Esq., CLC, SDS 126 HUMOR

S15 Notable Quotes

Centerfold Uncle Moishy Fun Page

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POLITICAL CROSSFIRE 98

Preening Bluster does not Make Up for Trump’s Willful Ignorance by Michael Gerson 106 CLASSIFIEDS

ences, all for the good of your child. After all this work, most teachers MUST take a summer job to compensate for their low salary. During the summer, these teachers turn into head counselors, day camp morahs, etc. and still work with dedication all for the good of our children. They work many long hours in the hot sun and do not even get a few days to go away with their families. Before they turn around it’s time for meetings again to talk about the new school year. Don’t you think a teacher deserves even a few days to rest? There needs to be some break time for them to be able to work at an optimal level when school begins. Don’t forget, they are also taking care of their children during the gap between camp and school. There are many wonderful programs out there for children during the post-camp season. It would be great if someone would take the initiative to make more programs, for all ages. But the solution is not to ask the schools to start earlier. Give our wonderful teachers a much deserved break! They deserve it. Signed, A mommy and morah teaching in a local school

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Dear Editor, I am writing this letter in reference to “Anonymous,” the dad who wanted school to start earlier. First of all, I want to echo “A Teacher” who wrote last week about teachers needing more time to set, up, etc., so starting school two weeks earlier is out of question. However, I do not agree with the approach Anonymous took, spoiling his kids like week-old milk, taking them out daily on trips, giving them prizes, etc. Growing up, my house was not too entertaining, and whenever we kids complained “I’m bored,” we’d always get answered with something along the lines of “so clean your room,” “find something to do,” “read a book,” “take a walk,” etc. While I do not necessarily agree with that approach, I certainly do not agree with psychologists who claim that boredom is “good,” “helps children think constructively,” etc. In my opinion, bored children are not trying to think of ways to entertain themselves – they want to be self-entertained and will not settle with anything less and will only ruin their day, as well as everyone else’s,

by just being in a nasty mood all day. However, instead of taking Anonymous’s approach, you could do the following: plan ahead. The night before, together with the kids, arrange a list of low-key, independent activities for them to do the next day, i.e. puzzles, baking cookies, drawing pictures, etc., that will keep them busy from dawn until dusk, making sure to avoid time gaps, which can lead back to the old story. Bottom line, while I certainly don’t agree with spoiling the kids rotten, I also think we should avoid leaving the kids to entertain for themselves because that will just be a bad day for everyone, while this system will give you piece of mind, and the kids a sense of accomplishment. Now before you start to think that I’m your average, boring guy because of my upbringing, I’d like to end off with a bad joke: Q: Why did the yeshiva guys get a new water dispenser for coffee? A: Because they urned it! Zundel Bresher (aka Sudo Nimm) Dear Editor, Loved Rocky’s article this week. I thought it was funny and clever. And

I totally agree with him. Weathermen have the best job – they can say anything they want and no one really believes them anyway. Wouldn’t you love to go around spouting nonsense, knowing that no one will fight you on it? Sounds like the way to go. A Reader Dear Editor, I’d like to address Chaim Homnick’s article about why schools don’t teach business to their students. Many successful businessmen did not go to business school. They are schooled in the school of hard knocks, experience, risk, and intuition. Further, many times, what is taught in the classroom is not something that can be applied in the real world. A businessman is someone who is thirsty for success; who wakes up early in the morning, goes to sleep late at night and then dreams about his business. He is creative in his marketing and has the tenacity to keep going. These are not things that can be taught; these are attributes that will make a person successful. The list of books he placed in his article is good reading material for students. They are interesting and will whet some people’s appetites. Sincerely, Charna H. Dear Editor, Each week I look forward to reading your editorials because the values that you espouse resonate acutely with me. With the first read of the September 15th editorial, I got teary. When I read it to my husband, I cried because I do so miss the opportunity to sit with my parents, ob”m, whose values of putting Hashem first in all of one’s peulos, honesty, integrity, giving tzedaka b’seser and greeting

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The Week In News

Ayatollah Keeps Ahmadinejad on the Sidelines

Mahmoud Ahmadinejad has been sent a loud and clear message by Iran’s supreme leader that he should not throw his hat into the ring for next year’s presidential elections. While he had not announced his intentions to run in May, the former president has made many public speeches recently, leading to speculation of his comeback aspirations.

The move by Ayatollah Ali Khamenei effectively destroys any chance of Ahmadinejad’s political comeback and clears a major threat to the incumbent, Hassan Rouhani. “He [Ahmadinejad] came to me and I told him not to stand as I think it is not in his interest and that of the country,” Khamenei was quoted as saying. “It will create bipolar opposites and divisions in the country which I believe is harmful,” Khamenei added. Ahmadinejad first won election in 2005. He then ended up in power after a disputed win in 2009. Winning a second term prompted huge protests in Iran that led to a tough security crackdown in which many were killed and thousands were arrested. Though Iranian law does not allow a president to hold a third consecutive term, Rouhani’s four year stint would allow for Ahmadinejad to technically lead again.

Birthplace Issues for Canadian Pol America is not the only country to have birther issues amongst its

leaders. Canadian Cabinet member Maryam Monsef has always claimed to have come to Canada from Afghanistan as a refugee. But it turns out that that is not a true story – although, to be fair, Monsef didn’t know that.

Monsef has been touted as her country’s first Afghan-born member of Parliament. Her story of how she was born in Herat, Afghanistan, and came to Canada with her widowed mother and two younger sisters at age 11 is well known. But last week, it was revealed that the lawmaker was really born in Mashad, Iran, a city 124 miles from the Afghanistan border. Though this may seem like semantics, it isn’t. The misinformation on her application could mean that she no longer holds Canadian citizenship. One person who would definitely not be sad to see her go is Tony Clement, who is running for the leadership

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of the Official Opposition Conservative Party of Canada. Clement has called for Monsef to step aside from her duties until a full investigation is run. ”The question is, should a Cabinet minister or an MP get more favorable treatment than the average citizen? Or should we revise the Citizenship Act?” said Toronto immigration lawyer Guidy Mamann. “Because when it applies to the average Joe who’s made innocent mistakes on a citizenship application, it hurts them considerably and it ultimately results in them losing their citizenship.” Monsef said she was shocked at the revelation and was unsure why her mother had told her she was born in Afghanistan. In a statement she explained that she asked her mother why she didn’t tell her she was specifically born in Iran. “She told us she did not think it mattered,” she said. ”We were Afghan citizens, as we were born to Afghan parents, and under Iranian law, we would not be considered Iranian citizens despite being born in that country.” An estimated 3 million Afghan refugees live in Iran today, although only about one million of them are documented.


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Miracle on Siberian Ice

Once in a while a very scary story comes with an amazing ending like this one. A three-year-old boy was finally found after spending three days in a freezing Siberian forest known to be inhabited by bears and wolves. Tserin Dopchut had innocently chased his puppy into the woods. He wandered off and got lost. Luckily, the tot had a stash in his pocket – a small bar of chocolate that sustained him throughout the three day ordeal. Upon his rescue, the youngster said that he slept under a large tree in freezing temperature. He did not have a coat on.

Search parties frantically searched for the young boy from both land and air. Eventually an uncle rescued him. Ayas Saryglar, a civil defense administrator, explained to a local newspaper how dangerous the situation really was. “There are wolves and bears in the forest,” he told the Siberian Times. “The bears are now fattening for the winter. They can attack anything that moves.” It was not reported whether the puppy was rescued as well. The boy’s village threw a festive party in celebration of his miraculous rescue and safe return.

Surfing the N Korean Web If you have been dying to get onto the North Korean internet, now you can. For the first time in history, the government has revealed every officially registered website operating in its country – all 28 of them. The revelation was not done on purpose. An unnamed – and probably by now very unfortunate – North

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communication. Its limited internet website list is further proof that the country’s tech sector is severely delayed. Some of the websites had been leaked before the master list was disclosed. The very paranoid Kim Jong Un does not keep any of his country’s sensitive information on a network that is connected to the outside world. The North Korean regime keeps its own walled off “intranet” for its sensitive internal communications, so do not expect any big secrets to be revealed anytime soon.

Mafia Instills Fear in Italians’ Hearts

Seen a few men standing around in Borsalinos with wads of cash? Italian mafias are not a thing of the past. They are an active and daunting aspect of Italian life. Benedetto Zoccola, deputy mayor of the small town of Mondragone, north of Naples, has worn a wiretap to nail a mob boss, who ended up in jail. As revenge, the mafia planted a small explosive on the windowsill of his office last year. Zoccola was less than a meter (3.3 feet) away when the bomb exploded, permanently damaging his hearing. He has been diagnosed with post-traumatic stress disorder and says he often feels depressed and isolated. “I can count my friends on one hand,” the 34-year-old related. A group, called Avviso Pubblico or Public Warning, has been formed to offer support to people like Zoccola. The network was established in order to join state officials who have taken the risk to openly oppose the mafia. They offer moral support to administrators who fight organized crime in their towns. In June, a group of 200 local administrators from Avviso Pubblico were joined by residents and state officials in a

march in Polistena, Calabria, the hub of the ‘Ndrangheta, as a show of unanimity for those intimidated by the mob. ‘Ndrangheta is regarded by investigators as the biggest cocaine broker in Europe. Polistena’s Mayor Michele Tripodi received a bullet in the mail in March. Last year, Italian mafia groups threatened a public official every 18 hours on average, and the mob has murdered 132 local administrators over the past four decades. They used arson attacks, killed animals, and bullets to deliver 479 threats to public officials in 2015, a third more than the previous year, according to Avviso Pubblico. Zoccola still receives death threats, and he is accompanied by an armed guard 24/7. Sicily’s Cosa Nostra, Calabria’s ‘Ndrangheta and Campania’s Camorra dominate the economies in their regions. They have been able to retain their control with the help of corrupt government officials. Just last month, Italy’s central government dissolved the local administration of Corleone in Sicily, the fictional hometown of Mario Puzo’s “Godfather” and the real birthplace of two of Cosa Nostra’s most terrifying bosses. In June, Italy’s Senate approved a bill allowing police more resources to clamp down on threats. The legislation is still waiting to be passed by the lower house. Until Italy is rid of the mafia, people will still go to sleep scared that they soon will be sleeping with the fishes.

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Islamic militant who helped destroy the fabled shrines of Timbuktu has been sentenced to nine years in prison. A three-judge bench at the tribunal in The Hague handed down the sentence on Ahmad al-Faqi al-Mahdi. This was the first sentence from the ICC to solely focus on cultural destruction as a war crime. Mahdi is also the first Islamic extremist to appear before the tribunal. Observers hope Mahdi’s prosecution will deter others from destroying cultural sites, an act condemned by UN chief Ban Ki-moon as “tearing at the fabric of societies.” The former junior civil servant last month pleaded guilty to the single charge of “intentionally directing” attacks in 2012 on nine of Timbuktu’s mausoleums and the centuries-old door of the city’s Sidi Yahia mosque. A video was shown of Mahdi and others knocking down ancient earthen shrines with pickaxes and bulldozers after occupying the city, in Mali, after a lightning campaign. The trial “has to be useful for something, showing to everyone that in the same way that we cannot kill another person with impunity, we cannot just destroy a world heritage site with impunity either,” ElBoukhari Ben Essayouti, who oversaw the reconstruction of one of the shrines, said. Timbuktu fell initially to Tuareg rebels, part of a coalition of factions backed by al-Qaeda in the Islamic Maghreb. Islamic militants quickly took control and enforced a harsh version of sharia law, banning music, forcing women to wear the burqa and preventing girls from attending school. Timbuktu, a major center of learning and commerce 500 years ago, has long been known for its shrines – the focus of the broadly tolerant, mystic Sufi branch of Islam which is seen as heretical by those who follow literalist doctrines practiced in Middle Eastern countries such as Saudi Arabia. These were an immediate target for hardliners, as they have been elsewhere in the Muslim world.

Swiss Closer to Burqa Ban On Tuesday, Switzerland’s lower house narrowly approved a draft bill on a nationwide burqa ban. The

measure, though, remains far from coming into force. The vote was close. The proposal by lawmaker Walter Wobmann of the populist right-wing Swiss Peoples Party (SVP) won 88 votes, with 87 against. Wobmann’s bill was nearly identical to a measure approved in a 2013 referendum in the Italian-speaking canton of Ticino banning the full-face Islamic veil. The Ticino ban came into force on July 1, and calls for fines ranging between 100 Swiss francs ($100) to 10,000 Swiss francs.

According to Wobmann, the national burqa ban was to “maintain public order and respect for the dignity of women.” Tuesday’s vote may prove to be a largely symbolic move in the protracted process towards an outright ban on the full-face veil as lawmakers will almost certainly defer action on the issue until the country weighs in through a referendum. An initiative has been launched to collect the 100,000 signatures needed to hold a public vote on a burqa ban. Polls say Swiss voters overwhelmingly support a ban, but a vote could still be two years away. Implementing the law wouldn’t be easy. Even if the ban is endorsed through a referendum, Switzerland’s government would still need to draw up a law proposal, which would then be subject to a final parliamentary approval. Across the continent Muslim dress has been the subject of controversy. This summer, France made headlines over its ban of the burkini, a full-body Islamic swimsuit, in resorts around the Riviera. In Britain, a poll published earlier this month showed Britons are strongly in favor of a burqa ban. Switzerland’s population of eight million includes an estimated 350,000 Muslims. The wealthy Alpine nation has seen a number of high-profile disputes involving its Muslim minority, including fines slapped on parents who refused to allow their daughters to take part in swimming lessons, and a case where male students refused to shake the hands of their female teachers.


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A Long, Fulfilled Life

According to him, the secret for his long life was a bracha he received from the Chofetz Chaim when he was just four-years-old. On Wednesday morning, Shimon Peres, one of Israel’s most eminent politicians, died. He was 93. Peres was the last of the founding generation of the State of Israel to wield power. He was the end of an era. Peres was the only person to have served as Israel’s president and prime minister. Although his political career was riddled with controversies and rivalries – after all, this is Israel, where everyone has three opinions – he died a beloved figure at home and abroad. Peres, who never won a popular election — his accession to the presidency in 2007 was a result of a secret ballot among Knesset members — was one of Israel’s most successful, shrewd, divisive and, ultimately, cherished politicians. A man of many stripes — a lifelong Labor leader who defected to the free market center of the Kadima party; a Nobel Peace Prize laureate who, according to foreign sources, gave a scarred and threatened state the ultimate deterrent weapon; and a signatory to the Oslo Accords who years earlier, as defense minister, helped lay the foundations of the settlement movement — he was considered by many to be one of Israel’s strongest assets, an erudite politician unblemished by corruption. On the world stage Peres was lauded for his drive for peace. At home, though, many derided him for his naiveté when it came to Israel’s Arab neighbors. “The Palestinians are our closest neighbors,” he said often. “I am sure they can become our closest friends.” Peres was the country’s eighth prime minister, serving from September 1984 until October 1986, and again from November 1995 to June 1996 in

the immediate aftermath of the assassination of his greatest rival-turned-ally Yitzhak Rabin. In 2007, he became Israel’s ninth president. He served in the Knesset for nearly half a century, from 1959 until 2007, holding virtually all senior ministerial positions over the years. In 1994, he was awarded the Nobel Peace Prize together with Palestinian leader Yasser Arafat and his Labor party colleague, then-prime minister Rabin. Peres was born in 1923 as Shimon Perski in Poland in a city that was later decimated by the Nazis. His grandfather took him under his wing, teaching him Talmud, although Peres’s parents were not Orthodox. His grandfather sent him off to Palestine when he was 11. “I remember the last words and the order that I heard from his mouth: ‘My boy, always remain a Jew!’” Peres recalled once. The Nazis later locked Peres’s grandfather in the town’s synagogue and burned him, along with many others, alive. Peres went to school in Tel Aviv and Ben Shemen and later co-founded Kibbutz Alumot, where he worked as a farmer and shepherd. He married and joined the Haganah. After the War of Independence, he became the director of the Defense Ministry’s delegation in the U.S. In 1953, the then-29-year-old Peres became the ministry’s youngest-ever director-general. In this position, he helped form strategic alliances that would prove crucial to Israel’s survival, and established the country’s nuclear program in Dimona. In 1959, Peres entered the Knesset for the first time. In 1974, then prime-minister Rabin made Peres his defense minister. He eventually became prime minister for the first time in 1986. In 1993, when the Rabin government signed the Oslo Accords with the Palestine Liberation Organization, Peres – who was the foreign minister at the time – and PLO leader Arafat won the 1994 Nobel Peace Prize for “their efforts to create peace in the Middle East.” “We are leaving behind us the era of belligerency and are striding together toward peace,” Peres said in his acceptance speech. In 2007, Peres was elected president of Israel and began a journey away from the tumultuous partisan politics that dominated his past. His speeches focused on the need to achieve peace in the Middle East, the dangers of a nuclear Iran, and the miracle of Israel’s high-tech success. He was energetic in his position and proved to be a qualified statesman. He used technology to

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help broaden his reach and endeavored to show the world how advanced the Jewish State is. “We used to be the people of the book. Now we’ve become the people of the Facebook — much better,” Peres said in a video clip. On September 13 of this year, the Israeli politician’s energy seemed to wane and he was admitted to the hospital after suffering a stroke. Just two weeks later, he left this world.

at number 8, Israeli-born Oracle CEO Safra Catz at number 10, and Google and Alphabet CFO Ruth Porat at number 13.

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Israeli CEO is One of Top 50 in the World

Another list from Fortune and this one ranks the 50 most influential women in the world. Rakefet Russak-Aminoach, president and CEO of Israeli banking giant Leumi, made the prestigious list at number 43. Most of the spots on the list were held by citizens of the United States, the UK, China, and Switzerland. The annual ranking focused on how Russak-Aminoach responded to Israel’s tightening of its banking regulations. “Russak-Aminoach, whose bank posted a 73% increase in profits to $730 million, responded by announcing the early retirement of 700 of its more than 12,000 employees. The bank will also shutter some branches and launch a fully-mobile bank called Pepper later this year,” the magazine wrote. Despite the recent esteem for the banking businesswoman by the paper, the mass firing was heavily criticized by labor groups in Israel. The article also mentioned that though she had to work within a law that caps the salaries of those in the banking industry, her $2.1 million paycheck is the highest of the country’s top four banks. The list also includes several American Jews. Among them are Facebook COO Sheryl Sandberg at number 6, Modelez International CEO and Chairman Irene Rosenfeld

The highly anticipated visit from Israeli Prime Minister Benjamin Netanyahu to the U.N. took place last week on September 22. The Israeli leader touched on many topics during his speech at the 71st United Nations General Assembly. The prime minister spent the bulk of his time at the podium on a fiery rebuke of the Palestinian agenda and leadership, urging nations to halt their bias against the Jewish State. Netanyahu invited Palestinian Authority President Mahmoud Abbas to speak in front of the Israeli Knesset and offered to speak at the PA headquarters in Ramallah in order to put together a peace deal. Bibi explicitly illustrated how the PA continues to incite terror by “poisoning the future” through educational and TV programs aimed at villainizing Israel and sanctifying “martyrs.” Netanyahu, who spoke minutes after Abbas, laid out Abbas’s choice, “You can continue to stoke hatred, as you did today. Or you can confront hatred and work with me to establish peace between our two nations.” Netanyahu underscored that he is “committed to a vision of peace based on two states for two people,” and that “Israel is ready to negotiate all final status issues,” as “the road to peace is through Jerusalem and Ramallah, not New York.” “One thing I would never negotiate is our right to the one, only Jewish state,” Netanyahu thundered to a large round of applause. “This conflict is not about the set-

tlements, it never was,” he said, contradicting Abbas’s earlier speech. “It’s always been about the existence of a Jewish state.” He pointed out, “If the Palestinians had said yes to a Jewish state in 1947 there would have been no war…and when they do finally say yes to a Jewish state we will be able to end this conflict once and for all,” Netanyahu said. Bibi also spent a long time blasting Hamas and Iran. Hamas has still not returned the remains of two Israeli soldiers that were killed in action during Operation Protective Edge two years ago. He also brought to light how they have rejected any negotiations on the return of three captured Israeli nationals. He urged the world’s leaders to stand with the families of these victims “and against the inhumanity of Hamas.” As for Iran, Bibi promised to never let them develop nuclear weapons, “not now, not in a decade, not ever,” he vowed. He returned to the theme of many of his previous speeches by calling Iran the greatest threat to “Israel, the region, and the world.” In spite of last year’s nuclear deal with Iran, Netanyahu said that the “threat Iran poses to all of us is not behind us, it’s before us.” There “must be a sustained, united effort to push back against Iranian aggression, Iran’s terror,” he added.

mer prime minister Ismail Haniyeh, deputy politburo chief Mousa Abu Marzouk and politburo member Imad al-Alami are the three most likely candidates. Mashaal made his announcement at a seminar on “The Transformation of Islamic Movements,” hosted by the Al Jazeera Center for Studies. Mashaal also said at the convention that Hamas’s weapons stash has grown many times since Operation Protective Edge in 2014. This claim is in very stark contrast to what former Israeli Defense Minister Moshe Ya’alon has said. According to Ya’alon, the IDF destroyed 80% of Hamas’s mortars and rockets in the war, and Israel has restricted items entering the Gaza Strip it believes can be converted into weapons. Additionally, Egypt has destroyed many of the tunnels going into Gaza that were formerly used to smuggle in weapons. Hopefully he’s wrong about the weapons and right about him never leading again.

Is Israel Halting Certain Citizenships?

Hamas Leader Stepping Down

The head of the Hamas terror organization will not be running for reelection in 2017. Khaled Mashaal is graciously allowing Hamas’s youth to “assume leadership roles.” “It is not right for Islamic and non-Islamic movements to allow their leaderships to grow old without providing an opportunity for internal vigor and pushing the youth forward to the top of the leadership,” he declared. Mashaal, 60, became chief in 1996 while he was living in Jordan. It is not yet known who will run for the position. Many Palestinian news sources are speculating that for-

Since 1967, when Israel captured East Jerusalem, it has formally offered residents in that area the option of applying for Israeli citizenship. Until around a decade ago, very few did, as the vast majority identified, and still do identify, as Palestinian. But recently, more Palestinians have been seeking Israeli citizenship. Israel, though, has been reluctant to accept them. Between 2003 and 2013 about half of citizenship applications from East Jerusalem have been denied or delayed. According to The Times of Israel, the denials and delays have become even more common lately. Currently, there are some 350,000 Arab East Jerusalemites, around 37 Continued on page 26


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Rabbeinu Yonah begins this Shaar by explaining that, although teshuvah represents a complete turnaround for the sinner, and his sins are forgiven to a large degree, in some cases further atonement is necessar y, beyond the actual teshuvah process. Various elements can be effective to bring about such atonement, depending on the nature of the sin and other conditions. The title of this Shaar, “Categories of Atonement,” refers to the different categories of sin that require different kinds of atonemen t, as Rabbeinu Yonah details below (§6 ff.). The elements that can bring about complete atonement after the sinner has done teshuvah include some of the following (depending on the sin): offerings brought in the Beis HaMikdash, the day of Yom Kippur, Heavenly affliction, and specific kinds of mitzvah endeavor s. Rabbeinu Yonah clarifies these concepts throughout this Shaar, focusing at length on the idea of Heavenly affliction and what one can do to avoid it, and on the awesome power of Yom Kippur to effect atonement.

§1 Rabbeinu Yonah illustrates the concept that some sins require additional atonement, beyond teshuvah, by comparin g sin to illness and teshuvah to healing:

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‫ְוּבשׁוּב ָר ָשׁע ִמ �דּ ְרכּוֹ ָה ָר ָעה יְ �ר ֵפּא �ה ֵשּׁם‬

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percent of the capital’s population. As permanent residents, they pay taxes and are entitled to state benefits like healthcare and social security. However, they cannot vote in national elections, apply for an Israeli passport, nor run for mayor in their own city. They can vote in municipal elections, yet most choose not to, in protest of what they consider Israel’s illegal occupation of their land. Around 80% of East Jerusalemites live under the poverty line, according to the Jerusalem Institute for Israel Studies. Over the past three years, the processing of citizenship applications for East Jerusalemites has come to an almost complete halt. Between 2014 and September 2016, of 4,152 East Jerusalemites who applied for citizenship, only 84 were approved and 161 were rejected. The rest of the applications are pending – formally, still being processed. Some East Jerusalemites and the lawyers who deal with their citizenship requests say the government deliberately makes the application process itself difficult in order to discourage East Jerusalemites from even requesting citizenship. This includes the long-standing demand they have proficient Hebrew, even though Arabic, their native tongue, is an official language of the Israeli state, and proof that East Jerusalem is the “center” of their life. The Population and Immigration Authority, which is responsible for the process, strongly denies this accusation, and contends that it is carrying out its responsibilities under the law. “The claim of allegedly posing obstacles is unfounded and each request is examined in its own right,” the authority’s spokesperson told The Times of Israel. In a response to the question of why, in the past three years, the number of applications processed has so greatly decreased, the authority argued: “Since there is a great number of requests for naturalization, processing them takes time. The requests that are dealt with in these years are usually not those submitted in the same year. This situation has existed for many years.” East Jerusalemites, like all permanent residents seeking Israeli citizenship, must give up any other citizenships, passports, or residency statuses upon gaining Israeli citizenship. (Different rules apply to those seeking citizenship under the Law of Return, who may retain foreign passports.) In the case of most East

Jerusalem applicants, that means renouncing Jordanian citizenship. The area was under Jordanian control between 1948-1967.

Jail Time for Sheikh’s Hate Speech

An Islamic preacher has been sentenced to eight months of prison for incitement of violence and racism. The ruling by the Jerusalem Magistrate’s court comes after Sheikh Omar Abu Sara delivered a speech at the Al-Aqsa Mosque, located on the Temple Mount, in which he compared Jews to pigs and monkeys and urged his followers to act violently against them. The November 28, 2014 sermon was recorded and uploaded to YouTube. “I say to the Jews loud and clear: The time for your slaughter has come. The time to fight you has come. The time to kill you has come,” said Abu Sara, according to a translation by the Middle East Media Research Institute. “Please do not leave in our hearts a single grain of mercy toward you, oh Jews, because when the day of your slaughter arrives, we shall slaughter you without mercy.” Judge Shmuel Herbst said in his final remarks, “I look at the accused and I see a man. It is a great shame that he looks at me and sees a monkey or a pig who should be destroyed without mercy. What a shame.” The sheikh tried to defend himself by saying that his sermon was not incitement and that he was just teaching the Koran. The court rejected his defense, as there was no evidence that his speech was quoting any other sources. They concluded that Abu Sara should have known his words would be heard as a call to action. Along with the eight month sentence, the Muslim leader was handed a six-month suspended sentence, which will be enforced if he commits similar offenses within three years.


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private email server while secretary of state. Towards the end of the debate when Clinton tore into many of Trump’s past controversial statements, Trump appeared “locked and loaded” to return fire. But he hesitated and said, “I was going to say something extremely rough on Hillary...and I said to myself, ‘I can’t do it, I just can’t do it. It’s inappropriate. It’s not nice.’” After the debate Trump explained that he wanted to bring up Bill Clinton’s indiscretions but thoughtfully didn’t do so because daughter Chelsea was present. Moderator Lester Holt, nightly news anchor for NBC, allowed the candidates to spar but jumped in at times on behalf of Clinton. Although Trump commented after the debate that “I thought Lester did a great job,” many of his supporters were outraged that Holt asked Trump six follow-up questions – indicating that his answers were not satisfactory – and did not ask even one follow-up question to Clinton. Holt also attempted to fact-check Trump numerous times but never did so to Hillary. In total, he cut off Trump 41 times and only cut off Clinton 7 times. Even so, the majority of online instant snap polls immediately after the debate were favorable to Trump. However, by their nature, online polls are suspect and the true measure of who won the debate may be seen approximately one week after the debate, when the national polls reflect voters’ post-debate opinion of the candidates. It remains to be seen how this debate affects the election, if at all. The next presidential debate will be held on Sunday, October 9 and will take the form of a town hall meeting. The last presidential debate will take place on Wednesday, October 19, which is on chol hamoed Sukkos. A vice presidential election between Mike Pence and Tim Kaine will take place on Tuesday, October 4.

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this year. A huge factor is the fact that nearly 40 percent of Americans are working from home at least one day a week. But price is the next biggest reason on the list. It is harder and harder to justify spending 14 bucks on a salad. “The price-value relationship at lunch has gotten out of whack,” said Bonnie Riggs, a restaurant industry analyst for NPD Group. “Part of it has to do with sticker shock. When you’re paying $12 for a sandwich and drink every day, well, who can afford that?”

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Over the past 15 years, fast-casual eateries have seen explosive growth. Between April and June of this year, as average lunch prices went up to $8.36, there was a 9 percent drop in lunchtime traffic. “What I’m saying is, the bloom is off the rose,” said Riggs, who usually packs her own lunch. “Even during the recession, when every other segment was weak, fast-casual was continuing to grow at 7 percent, 8 percent.” According to the NPD, lunch accounts for one-third of all restaurant visits. Dinner is a close second at 30 percent and breakfast and afternoon snacks account for 22 and 15 percent, respectively. “Lunch is the most popular meal to eat out,” Riggs said. “But it is also a time when customers don’t want to invest a lot of time, money or energy.” PB&J does the trick for me.

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They say to keep your friends close and your enemies closer and it seems like Chris Christie’s office agrees with that sentiment. New Jersey Governor Chris Christie’s former aides, who are now on trial for “Bridgegate,” kept an extensive Excel spreadsheet of all the favors the governor’s office has done for elected officials. The list was called the “Dem elected target hit list” and was made to keep track of potential endorsement candidates for Christie’s campaign.

The favors listed on the spreadsheet include giving a town a piece of steel from the World Trade Center and inviting officials to sit in the governor’s box at sporting events. The list also ranks the likelihood of the recipients of the favor to support Christie in upcoming elections. The existence of the list was brought to light by Matt Mowers while he was giving testimony in a federal court in Newark. Mowers, who now works for the Trump campaign, was a staffer in the Governor’s Office of Intergovernmental Affairs in 2011. Mowers said the list would “make sure we can always remind them of how helpful this governor has been.” Bill Baroni and Bridget Kelly are accused of shutting down access lanes on the George Washington Bridge in order to punish Fort Lee’s mayor for not supporting Christie’s re-election bid. Baroni and Kelly face nine counts of conspiracy, misusing agency property, wire fraud, and violating the civil rights of Fort Lee’s residents to travel freely. Baroni, 44, is the former deputy director of the Port Authority. Kelly, also 44, was the governor’s deputy chief of staff at the time. If convicted, they face as much as 45 years of jail time. Both the prosecution and the defense have said that Christie knew more about the bridge closures than he has admitted.

Baseball Pitcher Dies at 24 He was only 24, but he made an impact on many. José Fernández, the Miami Marlins pitcher, was killed early Sunday morning in a boating accident. Two other people were killed alongside him. His death left his fans stunned and the world of baseball reeling. The Cuban community in Florida held Fernández in the highest esteem. He was their hero. It seems as if Fernández’s 32-foot


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Fernández came to the United States from Cuba in 2008. He tried to escape the Communist country four times – even landing in jail – until finally making it to the U.S. He would often tell his teammates that they didn’t know the value of true freedom since they grew up in a free country. On his final escape, Fernández was on a boat heading to freedom when someone fell off. Without knowing who the person was, Fernández jumped in to save her. It turned out to be his mother. “I dove to help a person not thinking who that person was. Imagine when I realized it was

my own mother. If that does not leave a mark on you for the rest of your life, I don’t know what will,” Fernández told the Herald. It was hard for Fernández, though, when he reached America. Fifteen at the time, Fernández missed his grandmother. And he didn’t fully understand American life. In Cuba, he was happy earning $4 a day selling tomatoes and onions. In America, he would write down phone numbers in a book because he didn’t realize that his phone could store them. And he couldn’t speak English well. But he understood one language fluently: the language of baseball. As a high school sophomore, Fernández threw 94-mph fastballs, as fast as some pros, and he led Braulio Alonso High School to two state championships. The Marlins selected him in the first round of 2011 Major League Baseball draft, and he first took the mound for them in April 2013 en route to National League Rookie of the Year honors. After the season, the Marlins turned up with a surprise for Fernández: they had obtained a visa for his grandmother Olga. The reunion was emotional for the baseball player. When the nation learned of

Fernández’s death, many were shocked and saddened. In the baseball world, Fernández was not only known as a great player. He was also known for his effusive, happy personality. He connected with fans with his cheerful demeanor and fierce competitiveness. “The magnanimity of his personality transcended culture, religion and race – I mean it just did,” Marlins President David Samson said. “His story is representative of a story of hope, and of love and of faith, and no one will ever let that story die.”

IRS Chief: Don’t Impeach Me

A guilty plea isn’t always simple. John Koskinen admitted that the IRS messed up tea party applications and that he provided incorrect in-

formation to Congress at the House Judiciary Committee hearing recently. This is part of an investigation into “the allegations of misconduct and articles of impeachment” filed against the Internal Revenue Service (IRS) Commissioner. Koskinen promised lawmakers that he didn’t mean to mislead anyone. He attempted to convince lawmakers that dismissing him from the agency would only cause harm and undo the progress he’s made within the department since being sworn in on December 23, 2013. “I accept that it is up to you to judge my overall record. But I believe that impeachment would be improper, it would create disincentives for many good people who serve, and it would slow the pace of reform and progress at the IRS,” the commissioner said at a hearing called to set the stage for his possible impeachment. Koskinen, a tea part supporter, was appointed Mr. Fix-it after the party’s targeting scandal. He attempted to fend off the congressional inquiries into the targeting, including supervising the deletion of backup tapes containing emails sent or received by senior executive Lois


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G. Lerner, a key figure in the probe. Lerner was the Former IRS Director of Tax Exempt Organizations. She has repeatedly refused to testify about her role in the scandal, eventually being labeled in Contempt of Congress. Koskinen noted during the hearing that he had never met Lois Lerner, who departed the IRS before his arrival. Initially Koskinen had told lawmakers that everything was being preserved and his staffers couldn’t find any backup tapes. However, shortly after, inspector general investigators located many of the tapes, though not before more than 400 were erased despite a subpoena for their contents. “What really makes me mad about this whole sorry episode is that the IRS subpoenas information from taxpayers all the time and if the average taxpayer exercised the same lack of cooperation that the IRS displayed in this matter, that taxpayer would be in a world of trouble,” Rep. Steve Chabot, an Ohio Republican, pointed out. Whether or not these were impeachable offenses was not officially resolved by the end of the hearing. Members of the Committee have five additional days to submit questions to Koskinen and the IRS. To date, the IRS has spent more than $20 million and 160,000 hours to collect and review 1.3 million pages of documents related to the six investigations into the tax exempt organization scandal.

Americans Kicking Poverty to the Curb

attract better workers and in order to meet higher minimum wage requirements “It all came together at the same time,” explained Diane Swonk, an independent business economist in Chicago. “Lots of employment and wages gains, particularly in the lowest-paying end of the jobs spectrum, combined with minimum-wage increases that started to hit some very large population areas.” There was a steady decline in poverty rates amongst all groups. African-Americans and Hispanics, who account for more than 45% of those below the poverty line of $24,300 for a family of four in most states, showed the greatest improvement. The poverty rate declined in 23 states last year, with Vermont leading the way. While the rest didn’t show a decline, they didn’t show an increase either and remained the same. During the tough times, government funded programs like Social Security, the earned-income tax credit, and food stamps helped impoverished Americans survive. Between 2014 and 2015 there were 2.9 million more jobs created, helping millions of unemployed individuals to start earning respectable incomes and many part-time workers were able to increase their time on the job. Overall wages, adjusted for inflation, increased as well. “Another hidden benefit was lower prices at the pump,” Swonk added. “People who couldn’t afford the commute before could now afford to accept a minimum wage job.” While this is news to celebrate, keep in mind that there are still about 43 million Americans – more than 14 million of them children –who are still officially classified as poor.

He was a Golf Legend Last year 3.5 million Americans made it over the edge – the poverty edge. According to census data released this month, more than seven years after the recession ended it is finally starting to look better for workers. Employers are beginning to create more jobs in the hopes of better business, particularly among retail, restaurants and hotels. They are offering higher wages in an effort to

Arnold Palmer was more than just inspiration for the perfect iced tea; he was a golf legend who many called the King of Golf. From 2007 to 2015 Palmer participated in the game ceremonially. He was the honorary starter of the Masters Tournament, one of the four major championships in professional golf. On Sunday, the US Golf Association announced the death of beloved Arnold Palmer, 87. After learning to play golf at age 4 in Latrobe, Pennsylvania, by his fa-

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ther who worked as a groundskeeper at the local country club, Palmer never put down the golf club. He began his professional career in 1954 after winning the United States Golf Association Amateur Championship. During the height of his career Palmer won more than 90 golf tournaments, including the Masters four times, the U.S. Open in 1960, and the British Open in 1961 and 1962. He was also the first golfer to make $1 million playing the game.

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Palmer was also popular for his good looks, charisma and charm. GQ Magazine named him one of the “50 most stylish men of the past 50 years” and Esquire had him on a list of the “75 best-dressed men of all time.” Palmer was a staple in commercials throughout the years. Who doesn’t remember the golfing legend endorsing Pennzoil motor oil, a brokerage service, Ketel One vodka, and just last year a blood thinner? Palmer starred in commercials for more than 50 products. The TV audience loved him and he made for a great spokesman. Palmer was also the first celebrity to use his name and image to promote brands for himself, paving the way for athletes like Serena Williams and LeBron James. Between endorsements, appearances, licensing and golf course design, Palmer earned an estimated $875 million, according to Forbes. That number puts him behind only Michael Jordan and Tiger Woods in lifetime earnings for athletes-pitchmen. Palmer retired from competitive golf in 2006, but remained present at any event worth mentioning. A PGA tour competition was renamed for Palmer in 2007; the Arnold Palmer Invitational is held every spring in Orlando, Florida. Upon the announcement of Palmer’s death Tiger Woods tweeted: “It’s hard to imagine golf without you or anyone more important to the game than the King.” Palmer is survived by his sec-

ond wife, Kit, his two daughters, six grandchildren and many great-grandchildren. Fans and golf enthusiasts remember him fondly for his easygoing demeanor and his ability to connect with his supporters.

A Tale of Two Cities

According to mathematical rules, the whole is equal to the sum of its parts. But sometimes, just sometimes, one can be bigger than two halves. Take, for example, these two Ohio cities: Cleveland and East Cleveland. In an effort to save themselves, officials are considering merging the two areas into one. East Cleveland is so impoverished that residents often fill their own potholes, yet City Council members had long balked at the idea of dissolving their city. Recently, though, their situation was so severe that they had no choice but to agree to pursue annexation. “Without a revenue stream, I don’t know how we would exist,” pondered Thomas Wheeler, president of East Cleveland City Council. He and Mayor Gary Norton agreed their city is out of options and needs money now. With millions in unpaid bills and large budget cuts, the city was really hitting rock bottom. Wheeler said that during a recent house fire, only five firefighter were available to respond. The city barely makes its payroll and hasn’t been able to borrow money on the municipal credit market for years. The residents of East Cleveland have welcomed the news of the merger with neighboring Cleveland. They are frustrated with the collapsing roads, abandoned buildings, and long waits for emergency services and are hoping that by being absorbed by Cleveland they will receive basic city services. Anthony Donner, another resident of East Cleveland, said he personally cuts the grass on a vacant lot because the city doesn’t. Donner said he also clears storm sewer grates to try stop-


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of Ohio needs to provide millions of dollars to repair East Cleveland’s crumbled infrastructure and help the city get over the hump. Earlier this year, Ohio Auditor Dave Yost asked the Legislature to approve $10 million to help East Cleveland, a request that lawmakers summarily rejected. The state has a $2 billion rainy day fund that has been growing since Governor John Kasich took office in 2010 but he has refused to allocate any of those funds to East Cleveland as of yet. Of course taxpayer dollars will be relied on as well. “The city of East Cleveland’s complicated financial struggles have spanned decades and despite everyone’s best efforts, little progress has been made to pull the city out of fiscal emergency,” Emmalee Kalmbach, a Kasich spokeswoman, said in a statement. It seems that until something gets done, the government isn’t willing to throw money at the problem. Cleveland isn’t free of its own problems. The population is consistently decreasing and its violent crime rate is high, along with poverty rates. Residents of Cleveland are being asked to raise the income tax from 2 percent to 2.5 percent in November to close a projected $40 million budget deficit and to cover the cost of implementing a federal court-monitored consent decree aimed at reforming the Cleveland police department.

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ping his street from turning into a riverbed during heavy rains. According to Donner, crime has increased in East Cleveland and residents are forced to arm themselves because 911 has become so unreliable. Many Cleveland politicians are

hopeful about the possible merger, citing development possibilities along a main thoroughfare that connects East Cleveland with Cleveland’s fastest-growing neighborhood, University Circle, the home of research hospitals, Case Western Reserve University

and most of the city’s cultural institutions. Negotiations are expected to begin within the next few months by a commission consisting of three members from both cities. One thing officials from both cities agree on is the state

Haven’t seen many young people in the workforce? That’s because they’re probably sitting in mom’s basement playing video games. According to an unpublished study, the current generation of young men, particularly those without college degrees, are more likely to be found in their parents’ home playing video games than at work. They claim to be happy with their current situation.


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screen exercising their thumbs had risen to 8.6 hours. “When I play a game, I know if I have a few hours I will be rewarded,” Danny Izquierdo, a 22-year-old who lives with his parents in Silver Spring, Maryland, explained to the Washington Post. “With a job, it’s always been up in the air with the amount of work I put in and the reward.” Research shows that males specifically are more vulnerable to video game addiction, as video games activate the reward circuits of males more than females. Perhaps if similar models were implemented in to the workplace, young men will be more motivated to hold down a job. Technology theorist Tom Chatfield suggests that businesses set “calibrated targets” for employees, use “elements of uncertainty,” employ “a grand, underlying reward and incentive system,” and encourage collaboration in groups. “[I]f we can look at these things and learn from them and see how to turn them outwards, then I really think we have something quite revolutionary on our hands,” he said. Or maybe these guys can take some responsibility for their lives and actually earn a living.

A Flea Market at MIT

For many, flea market shopping or bargain hunting is a sport, although it has yet to be inducted into the Olympics. For geeky flea market junkies, this once a year pop-up shop is a must-do. Every year in the summer, a parking lot on the Massachusetts Institute of Technology’s campus converts into a high-tech flea market. The bazaar is known for its bizarre offerings. Tables overflow with antique radio equipment – some of it a hundred years old – extra-large telescopes, and even a NASA space capsule. The Swapfest, as it is called, attracts tinkerers from across New England to buy and sell the gadgets that aren’t sold on Amazon. The shop attracts geeks and nerds, some who are

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The study from researchers at Princeton University, the University of Rochester, and the University of Chicago found that more young men are living at home. Some of them hold down part-time jobs. While some politicians may blame the job market and a difficult economy, the young men admit that they are actually consciously and happily choosing video games over work. “[H]appiness surveys actually indicate that they are quite content compared to their peers, making it hard to argue that some sort of constraint, like they are miserable because they can’t find a job, is causing them to play video games,” researcher Erik Hurst, an economist at the University of Chicago, said. Appallingly, one in five men between the ages of 21 and 30 with less than a bachelor’s degree reported not working at all in 2014 – that’s more than double the 9.5 percent who reported not working in 2000. According to the study, 75% of the time that was spent working has been replaced with time on the computer and playing video games. Between 2004 and 2007, this group spent an average of 3.4 hours a week playing video games. By 2014, that time in front of the

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in search of an obscure part to complete their latest invention. Some simply like to add items to their various collections and there are others who are there just to browse. “You can pretty much find all things ‘nerdly,’” said Steve Finberg, an MIT alumnus and longtime organizer. “The flea is where you go to buy the stuff you didn’t know you needed.” This year was the event’s 30th anniversary – it was originally organized as a campus fundraiser for student radio clubs at MIT and it still funds those groups. “It’s the high-tech community in Boston that makes it unique,” said Finberg, who’s also an engineer at an MIT-affiliated research lab. “People will bring surplus runs from production at some facility which dumped a project, and you’ll find resistors that cost big bucks being sold for a dime apiece.” While some vendors are professionals who buy and sell electronics for a living, others are amateurs, mostly there to clear out their garages, although the sale of furniture, clothes or other typical yard-sale fare is discouraged.


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ly killing a male and four females ranging from a teenager to a senior citizen before leaving his gun on the cosmetics counter and then leaving the scene.

The youngest victim in the shooting, Sarai Lara, was only 16. The high school sophomore had survived cancer as a young girl, and was a happy, responsible, driven student. The oldest victim, Beatrice Dotson, was 95. She and her daughter, Belinda Galde, 64, were murdered in the rampage. Shayla Martin, 52, a Macy’s employee, and Chuck Eagan, a Boeing employee who was just about to retire, were also murdered. Eagan and his wife began running when the shooter opened fire. His wife fell down. Eagan stopped to help her and was shot and killed. Within 24 hours Cetin was apprehended just outside his apartment complex approximately 30 miles away from the site of the crime. He was arrested after Sheriff’s Lt. Mike Hawley recognized him as the suspect. “I literally hit my brakes, did a quick turn, I jumped out,” Hawley said. “We both jumped out with our guns, and he just froze.” During his arrest Cetin was unarmed and said nothing and appeared “zombie-like,” according to Hawley. While the world immediately suspected terrorism, the FBI has

Did you know? 60 Seconds of Terror Cascade Mall in Burlington, Washington, looks like any other mall. There’s a food court, an escalator, and a Macy’s, of course. But last weekend, Macy’s turned into a bloodbath after a suspect opened fire

and killed five shoppers in just 60 seconds. Authorities have identified the murderer as Arcan Cetin, 20, a legal permanent resident from Turkey. He allegedly had a series of run-ins with the law in recent years – court records indicated more than a half-dozen criminal cases in Island County alone since 2013. He allegedly assaulted his stepfather, and

during that case, he was instructed by the judge not to be in possession of a gun. The Seattle Times reported that Cetin also has a history of DUI charges. A neighbor described Cetin as “creepy, rude and obnoxious” and said that because of him she kept a Taser by her front door. The gunman opened fire in the department store’s cosmetics department last Friday night, tragical-

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insisted that there was no indication the shooting was terrorism. Social media accounts belonging to Cetin displayed his fondness for military and video games. He posted numerous selfies of himself including one where he’s holding a gun in his bedroom along with posts about serial killers and ISIS. Cetin is a permanent legal U.S. resident who emigrated from Turkey, a country on the border of war-torn Syria that has been fighting Kurdish rebels for years.

Zuckerberg Dreams of a Cure for All Many of us dream of changing the world but few have the resources to do so. Often the ones who have the resources lack the passion or drive. Occasionally the world comes across an individual who has both, like Facebook founder Mark Zuckerberg. Last week Zuckerberg and his wife, Priscilla Chan, pledged $3 billion through the Chan Zuckerberg Initiative to cure all disease over the next ten years.

“This is a big goal,” Zuckerberg said at a San Francisco event announcing the initiative. “But we spent the last few years speaking with experts who think it is possible, so we dug in.”

Last year the couple welcomed their first child and celebrated the birth by donating 99% of their Facebook holdings or some $45 billion to “advance human potential and promote equality.” This cause seems very personal to the couple. Chan was visibly emotional when discussing their objective. Chan, a pediatrician, said that her “heart is full of hope.” She said she hopes that within their daughter

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Max’s lifetime they can achieve their goal. Chan explained that she doesn’t expect children to never get sick but she hopes it will be less often and be less severe. The first installment of $600 million is being dedicated to the creation of a Biohub in San Francisco where researchers, scientists and others will work to build tools to better study and understand diseases. The engineers and scientists involved in the project will be from three prestigious California universities. Renowned neuroscientist Cori Bargmann of Rockefeller University and the Howard Hughes Medical Institute was brought on to lead the project. “Throughout the history of science, most breakthroughs have been preceded by the invention of some new technology that lets you see things in new ways,” Zuckerberg said, mentioning the microscope and DNA sequencing as examples. “We plan to invest billions of dollars over decades. But, it will take years for these tools to be built and longer to put them into full use. This is hard and we need to be patient, but it’s important,” Zuckerberg said. The power couple is hoping to inspire others to fund more medical

research. Bill Gates, who has been involved with improving health globally, attended the event. Gates praised Zuckerberg and Chan for taking on a “very bold, very ambitious” challenge. “I have no doubt they will make progress,” Gates said. “Mark and Priscilla, they are inspiring a whole new generation of philanthropists who will do amazing things.”

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that he’s not a typical student. The Nepalese man is, well, a man. He’s 69-years-old and is currently in tenth grade. “I used to think, ‘Why is this old man coming to school to study with us?’ But as time passed I enjoyed his company,” Sagar Thapa, a 14-year-old classmate, told HuffPost India earlier this year. “He is a little weak in studies compared to us but we help him out with that.” Kami is one of the world’s oldest high school students. But it’s not just admirable that he’s gone back to school to learn a thing or two. Kami walks three hours each day to school to complete an education he wasn’t able to receive decades ago. His goal? To sit on the other side of the desk one day and teach. Kami wears the uniform like everyone else. His, though, is topped with a frothy white beard. His walking stick is his companion on the long trek to class. Kami’s six children and eight grandchildren are proud of him. He went back to school after his wife died. “To forget my sorrows I go to school,” Kami said in the classroom where he studies alongside 14- and 15-year-olds. Studying is good for his loneliness and he joins in all the activ-

ities with his 20 classmates who are decades younger than him. He even participates in volleyball in the playground. Kami hopes that other “late bloomers” will join school as well. “If they see an old person with a white beard like me studying in school, they might get motivated as well,” he said. You know what they say: Better late than never.

Delivering a Punch

I’m not in the position to advise thieves, but I have one or two tips to share. For instance, when robbing someone, make sure it’s not an NFL lineman. If it is, abort the mission. I said, abort the mission. Sounds sim-

ple, huh? Well, not so simple to these really thin-between-the-ears thugs. Four men had the best plan to put into action. Order a pizza, rob whoever showed up with the pie, and then celebrate with a slice. But things didn’t go as planned. When the men came out for their pizza, Napoleon Harris III showed up. Harris is an Illinois state senator, was a professional linebacker for several NFL teams, is 6-foot, 3-inches, weighs 250 pounds, and owns two pizza franchises. When the call came into the shop right before closing, Harris decided to deliver it himself. The address for delivery turned out to be a vacant home, but Harris didn’t know that. A man greeted him on the porch and then three more men burst out from the hedges. “They were expecting a scrawny 5-foot-9 guy, and got Harris instead,” Sean Howard, a representative for Harvey police, said. “They put a chokehold on the senator, but to no avail. They were really trying to choke him to death, and he was just too strong. He out-powered all four of them. They were all beating on him, one guy just went out of his way and really hit him hard, and Napoleon never moved.” Howard added, “He just looked at him like Hulk Hogan, and from that the guys knew that we better get out of here, because we can’t get this guy down.” Despite the victory, the thugs stole Harris’ wallet and the pizza. But Harris didn’t drop the ball. He followed the thieves in his car and then called the police who located the thieves’ vehicle. Unfortunately, the car was empty of people but the police found blood there that eventually led to the arrest of a few men in a murder case. Now Harris can add “detective” to his impressive resume.

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start flying all over the floor. But coupons are good for something – hey, some people actually use them! Lauren Puryear has put coupons to good use. The 29-year-old has fed 5,572 people since she has started couponing and hopes to increase that number in the coming year by enlisting friends and family to shop with her. “My first couponing experience ever was canned vegetables. I was able to get them for four cents a can at Dollar General so I bought 420 cans and I added chicken and rice to that meal.” Lauren devotes up to 10 hours a week searching for deals. “Just knowing that we’re making a difference in someone’s life, that’s the most rewarding thing and what keeps me going,” the indefatigable do-gooder said. Lauren started her initiative, The Love of Others, four years ago, after her grandmother passed away. Her grandmother had instilled within her a passion to do good and initially Lauren was buying food in bulk at Costco and BJs to help feed the needy. But she needed to do more. Now she has added couponing to her mission and the results are amazing. “I started couponing for food items like spaghetti, meatballs, and I was (often) able to get the items for free or for little to no money,” the New Jersey native explained. If done correctly, she said she can feed as many as 150 people on just $20, depending on the items. Lauren holds four degrees, including a bachelor’s, two masters, and a Ph.D. in psychology. But beyond those accomplishments, she said, “The joy of helping other people does not compare to any other accomplishment in my life.” She wishes to pass along her passion to her five-year-old son. “It is very important to teach him to help other people,” Lauren said. “The little things we take for granted, the food we throw away every day ... and if we just spread a little more love around, the world would be such a better place.” Lauren’s goal is to provide 30,000 meals by the time she’s 30. Her next delivery? Feeding 1,200 people in Washington, D.C., next month.

Lunch Money Ever buy a newspaper on Sunday? You can barely lift it before coupons

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of chicken wings from Domino’s, she was surprised and shocked. Instead of crispy wings, the San Jose woman received a pile of cash – $5,000 in greenbacks. Can I have some fries with that please?

Avalos, although pleased with her find, realized that she must have received the store’s bank deposit instead of her usual poultry. She called Domino’s to let them know of her find. Interestingly, no one called her back. Avalos kept trying without success and in desperation called the local news who were able to connect her with the corporate branch of Domino’s. The restaurant is thrilled to have their money back, relieved to have given it to their most honest customer, and embarrassed to have made the mistake. In appreciation for her honesty, Avalos won’t have to worry about buying lunch anymore. The store is gifting her with a free pizza for a year. And her employer is so proud that it is giving Avalos a week of paid vacation from work. That’s what we call a slice of nice.

Presidential Ice Cream

Need something to savor while watching the presidential debates? Consider these ice creams that will definitely put you in the mood while Hillary and Trump hammer it out on the national stage. Brooklyn-based ice cream company Ample Hills has come out with two presidential candidate flavors: Madam President and Make American Orange Again. We wonder who they’re voting for. Hillary’s creamy confection, which features an original illustration of Hillary Clinton by Ample

Hills Art Director Lauren Kaelin on its packaging, is a chili-infused chocolate ice cream with chunks of chocolate chip cookies made with Hillary Clinton’s own recipe. Ample Hills describes it as “a powerful yet comforting combination of sugar and spice and women’s rights.” “Make America Orange Again,” meanwhile, is an orange marshmallow creamsicle ice cream (in honor

of Donald Trump’s slightly orange hue) with chocolate brownie bricks (“to build a wall,” according to Ample Hills). “We had so much fun creating our last presidential candidate flavors,” Ample Hills Creamery co-owner Brian Smith explains. “The differences between the two candidates in this election are even starker and we wanted to highlight

this contrast and the importance of voting in general with these two flavors. Years from now we want people to say: ‘The best thing about Trump’s candidacy was the Ample Hills ice cream flavor he inspired.’” Seems that even ice creams can be biased. Pass the skittles – I mean, the sprinkles – please.


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Community The shofar in shul goes... R’ Akiva Oppen of Oppen Scrolls showed the boys all about the mitzvah of shofar during the Learn & Live Program this week. R’ Oppen brought with him many different shofars, some kosher and some not, and went through each one and blew them (the ones that were able to be blown). At the end the boys got turns blowing to their hearts’ content. For more information regarding L&L email learnandlivefr@gmail.com.

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he Living Torah Museum came to HALB this past week. Rabbi Deutsch and his ram gave the children a hands-on experience about the mitzvah of shofar. The students learned why a ram’s horn is specifically used and why it is important to have a curved shofar. Rabbi Deutsch brought out many different types of shofrot and the students were given a chance to touch and blow bumpy, straight and super curly ones! With every shofar that

came out an explanation was given as to when that specific shofar was used in the Torah and a history about the animal that it came from. The students were exceptionally excited to learn about the horn of the ayal since its picture is printed on the water bottles in Israel. The ayal has a very unique looking horn and some students shared that they have seen the ayal while on a tiyul in Ein Gedi. The show was terrific and really did blow the students’ minds.


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n honor of the upcoming yom tov of Rosh Hashana, Curtis Crowell, the beekeeper, came to Yeshiva of South Shore last Tuesday.

Mr. Crowell taught the boys of Pre1A through fourth grade about the social structure of bees, how hives are constructed and the production

process of honey. He also brought his beekeeping apparatus with a live beehive inside an observation box. It was truly an exciting presentation.

In addition to the presentation, Mr. Crowell sold his fresh, locally harvested, non-pasteurized honey in honor of Rosh Hashana.

alition of legislators have sought to pass in previous legislative sessions. The Assembly candidate has also said that she will continue Goldfeder’s successful fight to reimburse non-public schools under the Comprehensive Attendance Policy (CAP) program. This past session, Goldfeder announced that non-public schools would receive $60 million in reimbursements over the next two years. CAP provides non-public schools with reimbursements for tracking and enforcing student attendance, which is one of the state’s many mandated educational programs. Pheffer Amato has also proven to be a strong advocate for public safety. The candidate has stated that she will work to increase security at local yeshivas, shuls and other potential

targets of terrorism. This comes as the city is reeling from last weekend’s terrorist attacks in Chelsea and elsewhere around the tristate area, as well as the growing tide of anti-Semitism around the world. This stance has helped her earn the support of Goldfeder, who has made security issues a priority during his five years in office. “I have known Stacey for a long time and she is the right person to fight our skyrocketing tuition costs and finally enact the Education Investment Tax Credit,” said Assemblyman Phil Goldfeder. “Our families continue to face grave threats at home and around the world and I am confident that Stacey will be a fighter in Albany who will secure the safety resources we need and deserve,” concluded Goldfeder.

Goldfeder Endorses Stacey Pheffer Amato to Fill his Seat in the NYS Assembly

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n the race for the State Assembly’s 23rd District, outgoing Assembly Member Phil Goldfeder (D – Far Rockaway) has endorsed Stacey Pheffer Amato to be his successor and continue the legacy started by her mother Audrey Pheffer and continued by Goldfeder. “My five years in office have been truly amazing and while I have enjoyed my work on behalf of the Klal it’s important we elect someone who will continue the fight on behalf of the frum community,” said Assemblyman Phil Goldfeder. “Audrey Pheffer was a mentor to me and if her experience is any indication, I have no doubt her daughter Stacey will be an equally great advocate for our community. I›m proud to enthusiastically endorse Stacey Pheffer Amato for the New York State Assembly and I urge everyone to join me in supporting her in the upcoming election.” With his endorsement of

Stacey Pheffer Amato, Assemblyman Goldfeder has made clear his strong show of support in the race for the 23rd Assembly District seat he currently holds. Goldfeder was first elected to represent the district in a 2011 special election during which he earned the support of his predecessor, Audrey Pheffer, current Queens County Clerk and mother to Stacey. This summer Goldfeder announced he would step down from the legislature to take a job as head of Intergovernmental Relations at the prestigious Yeshiva University Goldfeder cited Pheffer Amato’s commitment to many of the issues affecting the Far Rockaway community, including support for the area’s many non-public schools. Pheffer Amato has declared her intention to fight for the passage of the Education Investment Tax Credit, a popular financial support for families with children in non-public schools that Goldfeder and a bipartisan co-


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Gurwin Jewish Nursing & Rehabilitation Center Residents Bring Home the Gold

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leven residents at Gurwin Jewish Nursing & Rehabilitation Center participated in the Suffolk County Golden Games held recently at the Patchogue YMCA. Competing in modified sporting events against eight other nursing homes across Suffolk County, Gurwin residents – aged 62 to 90 – brought home the gold in volleyball, bowling and women’s distance throw. Gurwin residents have competed in the annual sports competition since its inception in 1989, when they were started by Karen Nash, CTRS, former director of Therapeutic Recreation at Gurwin. The multi-sport event kicksoff with an Olympic-style opening ceremony, complete with torch bearers and salute to the American flag, followed by a day-long schedule of various sporting events. The Games challenge seniors residing at nursing home facilities to develop their physical and socialization skills in a healthy, lighthearted and friendly competitive environment. “The Golden Games are rich in

the spirit of camaraderie, friendship and fun,” says Dawn Lettau, CTRS, Gurwin’s Director of Therapeutic Recreation. “Our residents practice for months prior to the Games, honing their athletic skills and developing friendships among their teammates. These annual games enable former athletes to maintain their lifelong interests and relive their glory days; for others, it is an opportunity to develop new skills and work towards a common goal. Our residents take pride in

doing their personal best and working together as a team.” Gurwin resident Patricia Davidson, a perennial medal winner at the Games and this year’s recipient of the gold medal for women’s distance throw, proudly displays her collection of medals in her room at Gurwin. “I look forward to the Golden Games each year,” she said. “I enjoy practicing for the events and always try to perform at my best. It is an exciting day for all of us, and bringing home a

medal is the icing on the cake!” Gurwin Jewish Nursing & Rehabilitation Center is a 460-bed nursing care facility located in Commack, Long Island. Gurwin offers skilled nursing care, short-term rehabilitation, medical/post-surgical subacute care, respiratory and ventilator dependent care, an adult day health program, on-site dialysis, hospice care, home care, assisted living and a proposed independent living community. Visit us at www.gurwin.org.

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n Sunday, Senator Todd Kaminsky, officials from the Lawrence Public Schools and community members celebrated the official grand opening and ribbon cutting of the new Broadway Campus Playground. A grant obtained by Senator Kaminsky helped pay for the playground. “I am thrilled to join the community in celebrating the opening of this new playground,” said the senator. “I know that this will be a great

place for kids in the schools and the greater community to play, and I am proud to have secured a grant to help make this possible.” “Thanks to the grant we received through the efforts of Senator Kaminsky our new playground is the centerpiece of the Lawrence Public Schools Broadway Campus and provides enjoyment for children throughout our school community,” said Lawrence Public Schools Superintendent Gary Schall.


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Sara Rosenfeld Makes a Difference

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une 29, 2015 was a day that changed Sara Rosenfeld’s life forever. On that afternoon, her son Malachi was heading home from a basketball game with some friends when their car was ambushed by Arab terrorists near Shvut Rachel along Route 60. All four boys were shot, with Malachi sustaining the most serious injuries. In the frantic effort to save his life, a medivac helicopter was summoned to transport him quickly to the nearest hospital. Unfortunately, the helicopter was unable to land due to fears that there was a second terrorist sniper still on the scene. Instead, an ambulance was dispatched and he was transported to the nearest hospital – Shaare Zedek Hospital in Jerusalem. Even with its sirens blaring, it took nearly an hour by the time Malachi reached Shaare Zedek. Tragically, upon his arrival at Shaare Zedek, Malachi died from his wounds and the tremendous loss of blood. His funeral, including his father, Eliezer’s heart-wrenching eulogy, was broadcast worldwide and sent shockwaves throughout the Jewish community. The outpouring of sympathy and support was overwhelming as people around the globe visited and sent their condolences to the Rosenfelds. Malachi’s mother, Sara, was reeling from the tragedy. She had now lost two sons. Her oldest son, Yitzchaki, a decorated pilot in the IAF, perished 14 years earlier in a jeeping accident. Now the pain was too much to bear but she knew that something must be done to help ensure that no other mother would endure her suffering. To Sara and her neighbors in the

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Binyamin region of Israel, the lack of a local hospital is dangerous and unconscionable. It is an area of roughly 65,000 residents, yet the closest hospital to serve them is 40-60 miles away. There is just one, often congested, direct route to Shaare Zedek and others have suffered a similar fate to Malachi’s due to this untenable reality. Sara heard about One Israel Fund’s determination to build a new state-ofthe-art medical center in the heart of Binyamin and reached out to see how she could assist in this monumental endeavor. On Monday, September 19, Sara served as the keynote speaker at One Israel Fund’s 22nd Anniversary Gala Dinner at the Museum of Jewish Heritage in Lower Manhattan. She spoke of the horrors that her family has endured, but also of the deep faith that has preserved them throughout their ordeal. She is a woman who exudes great inner strength. Her story is at once heartbreaking and compelling and many listeners in the room were moved to tears. But her story is also one of incredible triumph for she and her husband are proud of the wonderful family they have raised as founding families in the community of Kochav Hashachar. Today, they have seven surviving children and twelve grandchildren. Her speech formally launched One Israel Fund’s newest and most ambi-

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tious project to date – the construction of the multi-million dollar Binyamin Medical Center. The medical center now takes its place among One Israel Fund’s many other critical projects, including the Pina Chama project which was also highlighted at the dinner. Pina Chama (The Warm Corner) is a unique concept. It aims to bring relaxing respite centers to cities across Israel where soldiers can relax after a grueling day on patrol and enjoy delicious home baked food and drinks. It is staffed by volunteers and all of the baked goods are donated by residents of each host community. After introducing the Pina Chama project in a moving video, the floor was opened as the audience texted their pledges to support the initiative. In just a few minutes, over $14,000 was pledged towards the project which currently has locations in Gush Etzion, Hevron, Michmash, Shilo and the Jor-

dan Valley. There are plans for a new Pina Chama to open at Beit El Junction. These funds will benefit the existing locations as well as new locales. Security concerns are still a primary focus of One Israel Fund and a new video series, entitled “Coffee With Marc,” was debuted at the dinner. Director of Security Projects Marc Provisor starred in a short video with a behind the scenes update of security needs and successes from the field. Over the next few months, this series will be seen monthly on One Israel Fund’s Facebook page and other social media outlets. The dinner also paid tribute to three special couples who have played pivotal roles in furthering the organization’s mission both here and in Israel. Hakarat Hatov Awardees Dr. Dov & Amy Snow; Bonei Yisrael Awardees Eli & Esther Arakanchi; and Manhigut Tze’irim Awardees Gavi & Tali Hoffman have all made an indelible impact on the residents of Israel through their involvement with One Israel Fund. This year’s dinner was graced by the renowned Master of Ceremonies, Nachum Segal, and featured a stirring performance by Cantor Joel Kaplan of Congregation Beth Sholom in Lawrence. It was an emotional evening that energized participants to get even more involved in supporting this important organization. To find out how you can take part in One Israel Fund’s critical work, go to OneIsraelFund.org.


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Siach Yitzchok Facilitates Kaparos Shlugging

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inhagim are a longstanding foundation of Klal Yisroel. They are part and parcel of our mesorah and provide a vehicle through which we maintain a special connection to our predecessors. For over 20 years, Talmud Torah Siach Yitzchok has facilitated the Five Towns/Far Rockaway community in “shlugging kaparos” with live chickens. This Aseres Yemei Teshuva, Siach Yitzchok will once again be arranging kaparos with live chickens as a service to the community. Rav Dovid Sitnick, Menahel of Siach Yitzchok, commented, “We are happy to be able to provide the community with the means to participate in this age-old minhag. Our mesorah is one rich with meaning and importance and it is our pleasure to be able to offer kaparos as they were done in years past.” On Sunday, October 9 there will be

kaparos sites conveniently situated in each of the various neighborhoods which comprise the Five Towns/Far Rockaway community. The location sites are as follows: • Far Rockaway: Bnos Bais Yaakov (613 Beach 9th Street) 10am-10pm • Woodmere: Aish Kodesh (894 Woodmere Place) 2pm-6pm • Lawrence/Cedarhurst: YI of Lawrence/Cedarhurst (8 Spruce Street) 3pm-6pm • Bayswater: Young Israel of Bayswater (2716 Healy Avenue) 4pm-6pm For more information, please call (917) 593-8405.

Girl Scout Cadets Earn Silver Award Honoring Veterans at Gurwin

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wenty-four U.S. military veterans at Gurwin Jewish Nursing & Rehabilitation Center were literally blanketed with love by two local Girl Scout cadets working on their Silver Award. Best friends Miranda Rago and Eviana Holmes of Troop 590 dedicated their “Take Action” service project to the aging soldiers, quilting patriotic patchworks to warm the veterans residing at the Center. According to Rago, the inspiration for their service project came as a result of her volunteer work at Gurwin. “My mother has worked at Gurwin for 27 years,” said Rago. “I participated in the center’s teen volunteer camp this year and found out that Gurwin has a lot of residents who are veterans. We decided that this would be the perfect group to present our quilts to.” The 14-year-old sewing novices were taught the skill by a troop leader specifically for the project, stitching two dozen lap blankets from squares of denim cut from donated jeans by family and friends. The Cadettes dec-

orated each blanket with American flags and other symbols, as well as messages of gratitude for the veterans’ service. Resident , a U.S. Navy veteran, was very touched by the gift. “It was so nice of them to honor me,” he said, his eyes filling with tears. “It’s beautiful.” Thanking them for their thoughtfulness, Dawn Lettau, CTRS, Director of Therapeutic Recreation at the Gurwin Center, said, “These cadets have touched the hearts of our veterans, many of who served during World War II, Vietnam or in Korea. Reaching out to remember our veterans with their beautiful handmade gifts has touched the hearts of both our residents and staff. We are grateful that they chose to honor our courageous veterans in such a unique way.” The Silver Award is the highest honor a cadet can earn before moving on to become a Girl Scout Senior as a freshman in high school. Both girls are from Selden and attend Newfield High School.

Achiezer Hosts Meeting with NYPD in Advance of Yomim Tovim

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afety and security are on the minds of many these days. Following recent terrorist activities in the NY/NJ area, several local rabbanim reached out to Assemblman Goldfeder to request a meeting with local law enforcement personnel. Achiezer was asked to host the meeting and this past week right ahead of Rosh Hashanah, local rabbanim, shul representatives and organizations from the community, including Hatzolah, RNSP and the JCC, met with representatives from the 101st precinct of the NYPD to discuss safety in the community in advance of the upcoming oamim tovim. Rabbi Boruch Ber Bender, President of Achiezer, opened the meeting with words of thanks to everyone in attendance and special recognition to outgoing Assemblyman Phil Goldfeder for his years of service to the community. Assemblyman Goldfeder then briefly spoke about the extraor-

dinary cooperation he has seen between the Jewish community and law enforcement agencies. NYPD Lieutenant Brian Padovani relayed a very detailed description of the extra measures and patrols that will be put into place over the course of the yomim tovim, with a particular focus on shuls and yeshivos during the yomim noraim, Sukkos and Simchas Torah. He also emphasized that there is no specific threat to the community and no particular reason to be concerned, but as always, the police department will do its best to keep the community safe. Following the meeting, several rabbonim of the newer Far Rockaway shuls that do not have clearly recognizable shul buildings spoke to police representatives and arranged to show them their locations to ensure that they too will be included in the extra security measures.

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How do High Holiday Services leave YOU feeling?

On Motzei Shabbat, September 24, Parshat Ki Tavo, HAFTR High School held a selichot service. To help prepare for the upcoming yomim noraim Rabbi Hubner gave divrei chizuk to a full room of students, parents, and alumni. Rabbi Oppen led the inspirational selichot and it was followed by refreshments.

The Mel and Phyllis Zachter OHEL Institute for Training Widens its Scope

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HEL is proud to announce that the Mel and Phyllis Zachter OHEL Institute for Training is one of the first institutions to be recognized by the New York State Education Department’s State Board for Mental Health Practitioners as an Approved Provider of Continuing Education for both licensed mental health counselors and licensed marriage and family therapists. These practitioners can now join social workers in fulfilling their New York State requirements by attending the Institute’s state-of-the-science trainings, confident that they will gain the knowledge and skills needed to meet the diverse challenges facing our communities. When New York State instituted continuing education requirements

for licensed social workers in 2015, OHEL’s Institute for Training was likewise one of the first educational institutions to be recognized by the state as an approved provider of such training. Since then, thousands of social workers have flocked to the Institute to learn from renowned experts, thereby enhancing their professional development and skills while meeting the state requirements. David Mandel, CEO of OHEL, comments, “OHEL’s Institute for Training continues to be a leader in advanced professional education and this accreditation is further recognition of the clinical excellence and value the workshops, seminars and conferences provide to clinicians, educators, mental health professionals and the wider community.”

HOW ABOUT INSPIRED? If you’re tired of nodding off into your prayer-book, join us for a High-Holiday program that’s meaningful and easy-to-follow. Inspi Inspirational High Holiday services and insights into the prayers with meaning and melody with Rabbi Zalman Wolowik. Professional prayer services led by Cantor Shalom Jacobs, and youth programs and services, including lunch and snack, led by Rabbi Meir Geisinsky. • Hebrew - English Prayer Books • No Membership (everyone is a member) • Explanations throughout the prayers

All are welcome regardless of affiliation, background or previous holiday experience.

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n Thursday, September 22, students of Shulamith Middle Division arrived at school brimming with excitement and ready for the first schoolwide trip of the year. Immediately after tefillah, the girls hurried outside to the waiting buses. Accompanied by a full contingent of faculty members, everyone quickly boarded, and we were on our way to the Aviator. Team building activities included

tug-a-war, dodgeball, hula hoop circle competitions, and more. The girls also had the chance to lace up their skates for an enjoyable hour of ice skating. Before returning to school, everyone enjoyed eating their lunches and socializing with their friends. By the time we returned to school at 2pm, students and teachers were happily exhausted and chattering contentedly about their memorable outing.

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MAY Freshmen and “Fresh-Parents” Begin Their Mesivta Odyssey

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esivta Ateres Yaakov held its Back to School Nights and Orientations this past week which included a special event for parents of 9th graders. The class of 2020 also went on their freshman class trip to Bounce Trampoline Park for an afternoon of fun and camaraderie. These MAY events are always informative and engaging, and this year was no different. The program was opened by Menahel, Rabbi Mordechai Yaffe, Ph.D., who discussed the challenge of reorienting students as they transition from 8th grade to 9th grade. Rabbi Yaffe also discussed the myriad programs and resources the Mesivta provides to support the talmidim’s growth in learn-

General Studies Principal Rabbi Sam Rudansky, J.D., M.A., described the general studies program in detail. He elaborated on the rigorous 9th grade program, the various

ing and general studies. Following Rabbi Yaffe,

elective offerings, the many Advanced Placement cours-

es, and the supplementary resources that are available to Mesivta students. He explained that “high school is a laboratory for life. We are preparing our students for college and careers. The work ethic that they develop here in MAY will last with them well after they leave.” Rabbi Yossi Bennett, S’gan Menahel/Assistant Principal, then described the high level of expectations the yeshiva has of its students and the responsibilities and protocols students are expected to meet. Also presenting were the Mashgiach Ruchani, Rabbi Yehuda Horowitz; Student Activities Coordinator, Rabbi

Tsvi Greenfield; and College Advisor, Mr. Chaim Homnick. Parents then had the opportunity to meet with their sons’ Iyun and Bekiyus Rabbeim. “The evening was very helpful and insightful,” commented one parent. “I really got the feel for who does what here and who should be contacted in different circumstances. My husband and I were both very impressed and reassured that we made the right choice for our son.” The freshmen outing was successful in helping the new arrivals bond with their peers and rabbeim in a setting that promoted team-building, cohesiveness and cooperation.

The trip, besides being an opportunity to rejuvenate, was a great opportunity for these young men to solidify their relationships with friends and rabbeim. Rabbi Tsvi Greenfield, the Mesivta’s Student Activities Coordinator, explained that “the goal of our freshman orientation trip is to promote individual and team growth, as well as development in a setting outside of the classroom, and this outing accomplished that. Our hope is that the students will recognize their true potential and that this trip propel them to succeed on the highest levels.”

Smooth Sailing at Shevach High School

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hevach faculty and students “cruised” into the new school year with an inspiring and invigorating event on Thursday, September 25. In line with the G.O. theme of “The Great Outdoors,” Shevach High School sailed on the Skyline Princess, a three level luxury liner docked at the World’s Fair Marina in Flushing. Upon boarding the boat, everyone was treated to snacks and drinks in the elegant dining room of the cruise ship. Following the muffins and cookies, the girls were divided into nine workshops led by Shevach’s outstanding faculty. The topic of these thought provoking sessions was Yonah Hana-

vi’s self description of “Ivri Anochi.” An analysis of the word “Ivri,” as in the Torah’s portrayal of Avraham Avinu and his descendants, focused on setting standards for oneself, even if those standards are not the most popular ones at the time. The teachers and students discussed tactics and shared personal stories of standing up for what they know to be right, even when it means not following the “herd mentality” and succumbing to peer pressure in life. That kind of strength of character develops a feeling of pride in oneself and overall Jewish pride. One mechaneches shared a story describing her experience of stand-

ing up for her beliefs. She was in a college class with many Jewish students, and the professor mentioned something that denied Hashem. The Shevach teacher (then a student) looked around the room to see if anyone would say something, but no one did. She then took it upon herself to raise her hand and say she does not believe in what the professor said. After standing up for her beliefs, she recalled how she felt proud that she had done something to honor Hashem, even though it was hard for her and made her feel different. After the uplifting workshops, the girls split into groups to play Water Themed Pictionary and take full

advantage of the dance floor on the third level of the ship. Following the fun and games, the girls had a chance to eat lunch and enjoy the beautiful scenery of Long Island Sound from the various decks and windows of the cruise ship. The students and faculty all enjoyed a beautiful day which was the perfect combination of inspiration and fun. Kudos to Mrs. Devorah Kovitz, Shevach’s Educational administrator, whose untiring efforts always produce innovative ideas that are both fun and inspiring. She was assisted by her very capable G.O. heads: Elky Kasirer, Atara Nat, Ahuva Portnoy and Tikveh Ney.


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Rabbi Reuven Feinstein, Shlit”a, Visits the Young Israel of Long Beach

DRS is extremely proud and excited to wish a tremendous mazel tov to seniors Dovi Schlossberg and Chaim Alper on being recognized as National Merit Scholarship Commendees, and to Evan Goldstein on his recognition as a National Merit Scholarship Semi-Finalist. These are extremely prestigious honors, and they reflect the high level of education that DRS strives to deliver to their students, as well as the level of commitment and work they expect from them. This marks the fifth year in a row in which DRS has produced a semifinalist for this illustrious accomplishment.

Rabbi Shaul Rappeport, Rabbi Chaim Wakslak, and Rabbi Reuven Feinstein, shlita

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tradition that started many years ago, first in the home of Rabbi Sam Krischer, z”l, a talmid of Mesifta Tiferes Yerushalyim, and continued by Rabbi Yitzchok Frankel, shlit”a, also a talmid of MTJ, while he served as Rov at the Bachurei Chemed Shul, continues to this day. Although Rabbi Frankel has relocated to the Five Towns, the annual Mesifta Tiferes Yerushalyim breakfast tradition is maintained at the Young Israel of Long Beach. As per tradition, on the Sunday of shlit”a Selichos a breakfast is held in support of the Yeshiva and the Rosh Yeshiva, Rabbi Reuven Feinstein, addresses the assemblage. This year was no different; a large gathering came out to honor Rabbi Shaul Rappeport, Rav of the Lido Beach Synagogue, who received the Rabbinic Leadership Award and to listen to the words of the Rosh Yeshiva. Rabbi Jerry Kleinman served as breakfast chairman. This particular event takes on added significance because it affords the members and friends of the Lido/Long Beach to meet, greet and hear words of inspiration right before the yomim noraim. After being introduced by the breakfast chairman, Rabbi Chaim Wakslak, Morah D’osrah of the Young Israel, explicated the posuk which describes the bringing of the bikkurim to the Kohen “who is

present at that time.” In response to Rashi’s question could anyone expect otherwise – that a Kohen from a previous time be available during a later generation – he noted that in a real sense the crucial halachic importance of Rav Feinstein zt”l which continues to impact upon the lives of Orthodox Jewry indeed makes the Rosh Yeshiva appear to be present to this very day. Rabbi Wakslak then extolled the virtues of Rabbi Rappeport who is a relative newcomer to his congregation, as evidenced by his erudition, compassion and overarching enthusiasm. A plaque was then presented to Rabbi Rappeport on behalf of the Yeshiva. Rabbi Rappaport responded, expressing his gratitude to his entire congregation for all of their endeavors and particularly for the support he has received for himself and his family. He expressed appreciation to all who attended the breakfast and felt that the tribute was particularly meaningful given the venerated and esteemed position the yeshiva holds within Klal Yisroel. Rabbi Reuven Feinstein, shlit”a, then addressed the assemblage sharing with them an elaborate dvar Torah and words of inspiration appropriate for the impending yomim noraim. Everyone in attendance certainly felt better prepared for the upcoming days of tefillah and repentance.

Bnos Bais Yaakov Preschool Making Music through Sound

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he clanging of a ladle on a pot, the thump of a plastic whisk on a colander, the rattle of beans in a container – these are the varied and interesting sound effects of the Sherry Garber Preschool’s new sound garden. Extrapolating from the educational movement called “Loose Parts,” which encourages children to view everyday items as potential pieces of their next creative invention, Morah Yehudis Oppen used

household items to create the sound garden. The pots, pans, and utensils are hanging outside in the preschool’s yard where they are available to provide some fun musical “dissonance.” While the noises may not sound symphonic to our adult ears, the sound garden is allowing the children to experiment with rhythm, differences in materials, and good old-fashioned pot banging. And that is indeed beautiful music to our ears!


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SKA’s Boker Iyun Sparks Inspiration

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here was a palpable air of excitement on Sunday, September 25 at the Stella K. Abraham High School for Girls as students, alumnae and mothers gathered for a morning of learning. Since there was such an ardent response after an evening of shiurim given for the community by SKA faculty members before the yom tov of Pesach, another program for the upcoming Rosh Hashana and Yom Kippur was arranged. “Elul Sparks of Inspiration” was so enthusiastically received by the over 200 attendees who filled the auditorium, library and Room 110. Giving up a morning of yom tov preparation to listen to rousing words of Torah, the women and girls first heard from Mrs. Helen Spirn, SKA’s Head of School, and Rabbi Isaac Rice who leads the Torah She’Baal Peh Department, as they introduced the stellar list of speakers. Rabbi Rice shared Insights on the Yamin Noraim while Head of the Tanach Department Mrs. Leah Feinberg discussed Meaning and Messages of the Shofar, Mrs. Elisheva Kaminetsky, Director of Religious Guidance, spoke of Listening to the Shofar’s Call, Limudei Kodesh teach-

Mrs. Elisheva Kaminetsky, SKA Director of Student Programming and Alumnae

er Mrs. Avigail Shmulewitz’s shiur addressed the words of the Machzor We are Like Clay in the Hands of the Potter, and Rabbi Yosef Zakutinsky, Director of Student Programming, explained why There is no ‘I’ in Teshuvah. Refreshments were served during the breaks in the sessions. This event was sponsored by the Kellner family l’ilui nishmat Shaul ben Rav Dovid and Hachaver Yaakov ben Rav Zissel, Chana and Jay Fenster l’ilui nishmat Dovid Aryeh ben Rav Yehoshua, and Shulamith Goldstein in memory of HaRav Avraham ben Menachem Moshe, Dr. Allen Goldstein.

Rabbi Isaac Rice, SKA Head of the Torah She’Baal Peh Department

Rabbi Yosef Zakutinsky, SKA Director of Student Programming

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Harold Kleiman helping his daughters saw, drill & sand their very own shofars at Chabad of the 5 Towns Shofar Factory

Jonathon Rabinow and his son as they work together to prepare their own shofar

Central’s Chromebook Initiative

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eshiva University High School for Girls has been the fortunate recipient of a generous STEM grant from the Gruss Foundation to expand the integration of STEM and 21st-century skills throughout our curriculum. “Central” to the Stem grant is our Chromebook initiative, a transformative effort to enhance our learning through a variety of online educational tools. Each member of the freshman class has received a Dell Chromebook to use during her tenure at Central, and the ninth-grade faculty has been trained to use the Google Apps for Education Suite of tools integral to Chromebook use. In only the first few weeks of school, our freshman teachers have taken advantage of the Chromebook initiative, exploring pedagogical methods and introducing projects that were never before possible. For years, a cornerstone of Mrs. Ruth Fried’s ninth-grade biology classes has been the Current Science Proj-

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ect, requiring students to find, summarize, and analyze biology-related news articles on a weekly basis to explore the relevance of class content to the world around them and to internalize the exciting and rapidly developing world of scientific research. This year, the Current Science Project is getting a Chromebook update! Students are learning how to customize their Chromebooks with the necessary Extensions and Applications, which allows them to download articles as PDF files and convert them to JPEGs so that they can be clearly embedded within their project. They are also working to synchronize their work on Google docs with easybib. com so as to clearly document the source of each article. Thanks to their Chromebooks, students can also now embed relevant video links and photographs to enhance their summaries, using the keys at their fingertips to delve more deeply into topics that strike their interest. Also using Chromebooks to enhance content is Mrs. Amy Katz, whose students can perform inclass, collaborative research about the material. For instance, during a unit focusing on prehistory, the students were considering how historians gather information about a past that seems too remote to be definitively described. The girls became historians, finding samples of prehistoric artifacts and explaining what each artifact reveals about the time period from which it originated. Mrs. Ofira Bashiry has also incorpo-

rated research into her Ivrit classes. Students exercise their Hebrew skills each year by writing a dialogue about autumn, specifically its cultural associations in Israel. Using their Chromebooks, students can now complete their dialogues in GoogleDocs and receive real-time feedback from Mrs. Bashiry. They have also been incorporating research into their dialogues, searching for pieces of information on the go, as they write their assignments. English teacher Mrs. Elana Rand has been using Chromebooks to enhance her writing instruction and to allow students to analyze literature collaboratively. Since students are now composing their writing pieces in Google Docs, after they receive feedback, they can ask follow-up questions directly in their documents, making the revising process more effective and immediate.

Chromebooks have shaped literature lessons as well. In a discussion of motif in The Book Thief, for example, small groups of students each filled out a portion of a joint Google Doc, allowing the whole class to pool information and work together towards a finished project. Ms. Elana Raskas has been using the Chromebooks for informal assessments at the end of each Torah She’Ba’al Peh lesson. Using a program called Socrativ, students can fill out a quick online questionnaire at the end of the class to assess their understanding on an ongoing basis. These teachers’ exciting methods and lessons are only the tip of the iceberg. We at Central look forward to seeing our students harness technology to enhance their skills and expand their minds in ever-changing and ever-growing ways!


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The Annual Teshuva Shmuz Comes to Baltimore

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otivating and inspiring!” “Real life lessons to walk away with!” “It’s always refreshing to hear Rabbi Shafier, especially now in Elul.” “Hearing the Shmuz gives me a clear focus of the steps I need to follow towards a meaningful Elul.” “I never heard of the Shmuz before and I found it fascinating!” These are just a few comments about the Annual Teshuva Shmuz given by Rabbi Ben Tzion Shafier, the founder and energizing lecturer of The Shmuz. Join Rabbi Shafier as he presents the Teshuva Shmuz in several different shuls in the coming weeks to give inspiration and chizuk to the Klal. On Friday, September 23, Rabbi Shafier traveled to Baltimore to spend a Shabbos of inspiration with the Baltimore community. Shabbos morning, he spoke at the Hashkama Minyan in KAYTT, Rabbi Heber’s shul followed by a drasha in Congregation Ohel Moshe, Rabbi Teichman’s shul after Shacharis. In the afternoon, Rabbi Shafier spoke

at Shomrei Emunah for both men and women. Rabbi Shafier’s featured Teshuva Shmuz, titled, “Finding the Real You,” was presented on Motzei Shabbos to a large crowd in Beis Haknesses Ohr HaChaim, Rabbi Weiss’ shul. On Thursday, October 6, Rabbi Shafier will be in Lakewood, where he has a loyal following, to present the Teshuva Shmuz in Khal Zichron Yaakov, Rabbi Gissinger’s shul, 175 Sunset Road at 7:30 pm for men only. The Queens community will once again host Rabbi Shafier on Sunday, October 9 in the Young Israel of Kew Garden Hills, 150-05 70th Rd at 8:30 pm, for men and women. The Shmuz is a Torah lecture that offers a worldview on major life issues ranging from working on our middos to learning to be a better spouse, from understanding the meaning of our davening to what our purpose is in this world. Rabbi Ben Tzion Shafier has been delivering these lectures across America and beyond for over a decade.


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The Reading Revolution at Mesivta Yam Hatorah

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alking through the halls of Mesivta Yam Hatorah during bekius, one may think they have entered into a thriving Beis Medrash rather than a local high school. Students in 9th12th grades can be seen learning b’chavrusa as they journey through Masechta Makos. The entire Mesivta is engaged in a bekius program designed to instill within each student the skills to learn independently. The program is built on the principle that people only like to do things they are good at. If a student thinks he is not good at Gemara he will likely not continue to learn. In this program students are given chavrusa time daily to read the Gemara multiple times. By the end of the week students have read an Amud six times. The transformation is amazing. Students start the program feeling that reading a piece of Gemara is a difficult task, perhaps beyond them. However, after a few short weeks, their confidence in their abilities goes up as the task gets easier. This same process is repeated in Rashi and Tosfos as they move onto higher grades. The end goal is a student ready to enter into Beis Medrash and prepare on their own for high level shiurim. Students are constantly reminded that beyond the reading lies a world of depth that is sweeter than any worldly pleasure. However, in order to access the

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depth one must first master the ability to read and comprehend the text. For further information on Mesivta Yam Hatorah please email mesivtayamhatorah@gmail.com or call 718-471-7471.

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The talmidim of Yeshiva Darchei Torah’s Harriet Keilson Early Childhood Center got ready for Rosh Hashana in numerous ways, from the visit by a beekeeper who taught them all about the creation of honey, to tasting slices of apples dipped in honey, to blowing their very own versions of a shofar!

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ANC’s AP Government class, along with their teacher, Mrs. Laura Eisner, had the opportunity to attend an interesting pre-debate event at Hofstra University on Thursday, September 22. The discussion featured a panel of two journalists: Pulitzer Prize winner Eugene Robinson, of the Washington Post and MSNBC, and Stephen Hayes, of the WeeklyStandard and FOX News, who analyzed the question: What issues will decide the

After viewing the rousing presidential debate with the Nassau County Republicans at the Grand Ballroom of the Long Island Marriott Hotel, which took place at adjacent Hofstra University, “Jews Choose Trump” made its presence known. (L-R) Richard Allen, Co-Chairman “Jews Choose Trump” and chairman JCCWatch, and Great Neck activist Dr. Paul Brody with his son Joey, a junior at Rambam Mesivta, proudly display “Jews Choose Trump” placards.

2016 election? The commentators offered unique explanations, but overall agreed that this election is one of a kind and that the issues are going to play second fiddle to the character and personalities of the candidates. Our students are extremely excited to be engaged in politics and informed about this upcoming historic election. They were also excited to be so close (literally next door) to the first presidential debate at Hofstra.

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ast week, the students of the Shulamith Lower Division enjoyed a number of very special experiences. On Thursday, September 22, 200 young ladies celebrated the completion of their summer homework with a scrumptious ice cream party coordinated by Mrs. Breindy Wahrman. The third graders were privileged

to hear the shofar blown by Rabbi Chait, father of third grader Avigail. Students also learned a lot from the visiting Shofar Factory which taught them all about different shofars and what makes them kosher. Special thanks to Morah Mindy Futersak and Morah Rivka Holzman for arranging the visit.

When the recess bell rings in Mrs. Shubowitz’s sixth grade classroom at Yeshiva Darchei Torah, math class does not end. The students enjoy all the challenging puzzles that she makes available to them.


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roject Extreme is tremendously thankful to our summer 2016 sponsors, program supporters, and loving staff for allowing us to complete another highly successful summer. Camp Extreme for Boys took place this year during the month of July in the Canadian Rockies, while Camp Extreme for Girls was held in August on our beautiful and serene, Midwest campus. The Project Extreme 2016 summer programs were successful for a myriad of reasons. Each one of the therapeutic programs was led by Director and Founder Rabbi A.Y. Weinberg. Simcha Lebowicz, LMSW, Project Extreme’s Clinical Director, attended both programs as well. Each program was aided by our Boys and Girls Division Head Counselors Laizer Shtundel and Leora Reichenberg, as well as 13-17 additional counselors and staff members that were required to attend a 6 day intensive training session prior to program start. Additional staff meetings took place every morning and provided appropriate guidance and supervision.

Each program boasted a 1:1 staff to participant ratio. The 2016 Boys program was diverse in that many participants originated from New York, while others traveled in from Israel, England, and Australia. The Girls Division included participants from Brooklyn, Lakewood, Detroit, Miami, and Providence. Each Camp Extreme day was structured and inclusive of the following: learning groups, known in Camp Extreme as QTIPS: Questions, Thoughts, Ideas, and Perceptions, were an opportunity for campers to individually learn

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a topic of their choosing. Campers were paired with staff and had the option to discuss Jewish philosophy and values, specific mitzvos, or even focus on their kriah (Hebrew reading) skills. Campers had full privileges to select their topic and explore it at their desired level. Questions were encouraged and applauded. High ropes courses, horseback riding, white water rafting and more filled the bulk of each day. Through challenging and team building activities, the group further developed their personal connection and sense of belonging within the Camp Extreme culture. These exhilarating activities increased the camaraderie in the Project Extreme programs and enabled the participants to work together towards a mutual goal. Strong group dynamics was apparent and essential in allowing each participant to feel comfortable, safe, and welcome. Processing took place after each main activity or as needed throughout the day. For example, a regular camp activity such as swimming could cause much anxiety and stress for those with a poor body image; basketball and team sports can be a stress for those that feel they are always picked last. Each activity in Camp Extreme was digested by the group in order to teach healthy life tools and positive ways to overcome stressful or uncomfortable situations. Processing was also done with situations that affect the group such as instances of bullying, theft, or lying. Group sessions took place around a serene evening camp fire. The darkness freed participants from their inhibitions and allowed them to talk openly and publicly about their feelings. Session topics included identifying methods for positive change, why bad things happen to good people, making Shabbos meaningful and relevant, Torah ba-

sics, and overcoming past trauma. Technology is often preventative from connecting with people in meaningful ways. For this reason, cell phones, internet, video devices, and access to all social media were banned during the Project Extreme programs. The lack of technology was a significant change for the participants, however, they relearned how to interact with their peers and live in the present. Additional lifestyle changes included early wake-up and a strict lights out time. This sleep schedule change was significant for many, but a reset of the group’s internal clock was integral to the participants’ growth. Challenges that some dealt with in the beginning of the program gradually improved over the summer, and it was wonderful to see how each camper enjoyed themselves, got along well with the other participants and staff, cooperated, and was in positive spirits. This was never taken for granted. Each of our participants struggled with individual conflicts and pain. Of course, not every minute was smooth, and not every camper was agreeable at every moment, but both groups has a mutual camaraderie in that Camp Extreme 2016 was a place for growth, security, and long term friendship. Project Extreme is now creating the 2016-2017 program calendar. Before the summer 2017 therapeutic programs begin, Project Extreme will host quarterly holiday programs, monthly weekend retreats, weekly evening events, crisis and guidance hotline, and continue Miryam’s House, our transitional living shelter for young women. For more information about Project Extreme’s lifesaving programs, including our upcoming Girls Division Sukkos program, please visit www. projectextreme.org or contact 516612-3922, info@projectextreme.org.


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Rosh Hashana By Rabbi Berel Wein

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he past year has passed rather quickly. As one thankfully becomes older, time seems to start racing by. Maybe that is part of what Einstein meant when he declared that time is relative. It certainly is relative to each individual person and to each differing circumstance and experience in life. There are long days and shorter ones depending on the occurrences in that twenty-four hour period of time. This is indicated to us in the sounds of the shofar that we are privileged to hear on Rosh Hashanah. There are long smooth sounds that are vaguely comforting and steadying. There are many days in the year that are like that. It is the ordinary, uneventful day that we so treasure and long for. Then there are also more broken, sharper sounds that the shofar gives forth. These are the sounds of tension and confusion, of problems unresolved and disappointments and frustrations, of long lines and wasted times, of unfulfilled goals and unaccomplished errands. I would imagine that there are many days of the year that correspond to these broken sounds of the shofar. These are the

days of raising children, of career and work, of medical appointments and taxing traffic jams. Finally there is the sound of staccato warning, of the sirens of danger and feared destruction and loss. These are usually caused by things that are not under our particular control. Financial reversals, wars and violent conflicts, megalomaniacal national leaders, illness and accidents are the stuff of life but we are not happy to have to suffer or witness them. These circumstances make for a very long day. The cliché is that we should not only count our days but more importantly make our days count. In spite of its being a rather trite cliché it nevertheless is a true and most valid one. Days are precious and should not be needlessly squandered. People who have worked and been busy and occupied for most of their lives often find it difficult to fill the days of retirement with meaningful and satisfying experiences. It is as though no sound of the shofar exists for them any longer. The shofar of Rosh Hashanah serves as a wakeup call to all of us.

This is the famous statement of Maimonides in Mishna Torah explaining the commandment of sounding the shofar. It is to rouse us from our slumber of inactivity and lethargy and to encourage us towards acts of spiritual, social and national worth and value. It bids us to become productive with our lives in a meaningful way. Rosh Hashanah becomes not only a day of calendar commemoration but rather a day of challenge and positive change – of goal setting and personal responsibility. No matter how long and short the day is for us, it should not be allowed to be an empty and silent one. The wise person has his or her ear attuned to hear the sound of the shofar every day in one’s heart and mind. It is the key to purposeful living. Rosh Hashanah is also the day of memory. We all sense that memory is the greatest of all gifts granted to us. Memory impinges on all of our present actions and behavior. It is the coloring to our lives and the true guide to our goals and hopes. It decides for us who are one’s heroes and villains. It helps us make correct choices and to ignore previous errors and pitfalls.

We are charged with remembering G-d and G-d, so to speak, remembers us on that holy day. In His omniscience, everything is remembered and recalled, judged, weighed and inscribed. The sound of the shofar is also the sound of memory. What has gone before us is now restored to us once more. The shofar is a most powerful instrument of human recall and validation. In its sounds we hear our past, both personally and nationally. It serves not only as a wakeup call but also as documentary recording of our lives and events. Its varied notes parallel the days of our years. The holiday heralds the beginning of a new good year but it also initiates within us the review of the past year and other previous years and times. We pray for better times, for health and healing, for successful endeavors and meaningful accomplishments and lasting achievements. So, the shofar is also the sound of hope and eternity, of improvement and redemption. A very happy new year to all. Shabbat shalom and ktiva v’chatima tova.


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The Call of the Wild By Rabbi Jonathan Gewirtz

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t is said that Shlomo Hamelech, King Solomon, understood the language of the birds. What to us sounds like incomprehensible tones is actually a complex language which can relay information to those who understand it. From Perek Shira, an ancient text some attribute to King David, we learn that so many sounds, from the roar of the lion to the rumble of thunder to the crash of waves, are songs praising Hashem and messages for Mankind. Beginning with the first day of Elul, and coming into prominent focus on Rosh Hashana, we have another sound – the sound of the shofar. This horn, usually made from a ram’s horn, is blown numerous times and commemorates the ram that Avraham Avinu sacrificed in place of his son Yitzchak. So what does this sound mean? What is the message for us? Probably the most famous is the idea that it’s an alarm clock, awakening us to repentance. While that works for Elul, on Rosh HaShana do we imagine we’re still sleeping? Of course, then, it becomes a sound of tribute and majesty as we coronate Hashem as our King. So I guess the message is, “Be happy with your

King.” We blow it a final time at the end of Yom Kippur. At that point the sound is celebratory, signaling the reprieve we have been given (hopefully) and a fresh new year to get things right. But why a shofar? Why not a trumpet or harp? Yes, I know we already addressed the fact that the shofar reminds Hashem of the Akeida, when Yitzchak was almost sacrificed. You’re right, that’s probably why we use this item. But what’s the message for us? On one hand you might say that it teaches us self-sacrifice; how far we must be willing to go for Hashem. But I don’t think that’s the whole picture. Let me explain why by way of a story or two. A woman was very excited that her daughter was old enough to go to shul and daven for the High Holidays. She made sure to buy her a seat so she could daven properly instead of standing in an aisle or perhaps having to keep moving to wherever she found an empty spot. Finally, Rosh Hashana arrived and they dressed in their finest. The girl tightly clasped her machzor and, together with her mother, walked proudly to shul. Knowing the girl couldn’t sit through the entire prayer,

her mother timed their arrival for tekias shofar, and they would then remain throughout mussaf and hear the shofar blown the requisite 100 times. As they approached their seats, something unusual took place. There was a woman sitting there. She had her toddler on the seat next to her. The shul was full and the woman asked if she could please have her seats as she wanted to be ready when they began. The young mother replied, “No problem. I’m only here for shofar-blowing and then you can have the seat.” Huh? You think it’s OK to take my seat “just for shofar” and that you’re doing a mitzvah? You think your toddler needs to take a seat away from my child when I’ve paid for the seat? There’s something wrong here. Another fellow got to shul on Rosh Hashana morning a bit later than he would have liked to. When you’re a father with a number of children and any number of other things that can require your attention, it’s not always easy to get out of the house when you want. He finally made it to shul and headed for his seat. He stopped in his tracks when he saw someone sitting there, using his shtender

(lectern), the one with his name written on it. He slowly approached and reached for his talis which was inside. The man backed up for him to get the talis out, then went right back to his intense prayers without realizing or caring that he was in someone else’s seat! Now, maybe on a regular day a latecomer could expect his seat to be gone, but on Rosh Hashana, when the shul is packed and seats are usually assigned, the man should have realized he couldn’t take someone else’s place. The common theme here is that people chose to commune with G-d as a priority over their fellow man. They believed their spiritual experience could be complete at other people’s expense. They missed the call of the shofar! You see, when Avraham was stopped from slaughtering Yitzchak, he looked around and saw a ram which he knew had not been there before. He realized it was put there miraculously by Hashem and that there was no possibility of it being stolen property. (See Sforno there.) However, had the ram belonged to someone else, even though this was his one opportunity to offer a sacrifice at the sublime moment

of having been ready to sacrifice his son, he would not have taken it. He was on a spiritual high but – wait! If it’s not mine, I can’t take it, even if that means I don’t get to capitalize on the self-sacrifice I had for Hashem. This, I believe, is the message of the shofar. During these days, when we find G-d in closer proximity to us, when He is more approachable and waiting to hear from us, we mustn’t get carried away. No matter how much we feel we can connect with Hashem, it doesn’t work if it requires a disconnect from our fellow man. Wishing you all a kesiva v’chasima tov.

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Coronation Day By Eytan Kobre

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here once was a king who had grown displeased with his son’s mischiefs. Despite the king’s many stern warnings, the young prince persisted in acting out to the point that even his own father could no longer tolerate him. With a heavy heart but no alternative, the king banished the prince to a distant province, decreeing that he live out his days as a commoner, without the privileges and comforts of royalty. But as the prince was escorted from the palace, the king pressed a small, sealed box into the prince’s hand. “Take this, my son,” said the king, “for although you are indeed banished from the realm, this box will help you in a time of most dire need.” Years passed, and the prince managed to survive outside the cocoon of privilege, always reassured that, if things turned unbearable and all else failed, he could open the box and make use of the riches it surely held. And one day it happened: the prince was in such dire straits that he had no choice but to open the box. But much to his surprise, the box contained no riches – it held

only a single piece of paper folded over many times. Hands trembling, the prince unfolded the paper. His eyes filled and then overflowed with tears. It was a letter from the king permitting the banished prince to enter the palace and present any request directly to the king. The prince understood that this letter was more precious than all the riches in the world, for it granted him the opportunity to acknowledge the king’s supremacy and dominion, and it thus afforded him a chance to return to the king’s good graces. Rosh Hashana is to the Jewish people what that paper was to the prince. To be sure, Rosh Hashana is a day of judgment (Rosh Hashana 1:3; Rosh Hashana 18a) inasmuch as our collective and individual fates are determined on Rosh Hashana (see Beitza 16a). Yet we hardly ask for anything; other than a few off-the-cuff remarks, we do not plea for food or clothing or peace or material success or power or wisdom or health. We don’t ask for these things because judgment is not the prevailing theme of the day – cor-

onation is. Rosh Hashana affords us the opportunity to proclaim G-d our king and we His loyal subjects. By reaffirming and proclaiming G-d’s dominion over us, we are permitted back into His realm, despite our prior misdeeds and shortcomings. Everything about Rosh Hashana bespeaks this coronation. At night, we chant majestically about the opening of “eternal gates” to welcome the “King of Glory” (Tehillim 24:7-10). In the morning, prayers begin in earnest with the chant of “Hamelech” (“the King”) proclaiming G-d’s majesty. The shofar is sounded, among other reasons, to coronate G-d as King of the Universe (R’ Saadia Gaon; Rambam, Shofar 1:2; Sifri, Bamidbar 77). And then in Mussaf we recite the verses proclaiming G-d’s kingship (Rosh Hashana 16a). Every aspect of the day is suffused with proclamations of G-d’s lofty kingship, steeped in motifs of coronation. Because Rosh Hashana is all about coronation, there can be no other divine service until that task is accomplished. We would not delay the coronation of a

mortal king with incessant song or frivolity, and the heavenly king is no different (Berachos 58a). Indeed, many authorities advocate curtailing the Rosh Hashana day prayers until the shofar coronation has taken place (see e.g. Ya’aros D’vash I, Drush 5). It is altogether fitting that this coronation of G-d take place on Rosh Hashana, since it was on the first Rosh Hashana that Adam was created and proclaimed G-d’s dominion over the Universe, calling on all creatures to “worship, bow, and kneel before G-d, our Maker” (Vayikra Rabba 29:1; Bereishis Rabba 22; see Rosh Hashana 11a and 27a). On Rosh Hashana, we hearken back to, and draw upon, that primordial moment when Man first recognized his Creator and accepted His supremacy. But this coronation is not without its obligations. One Rosh Hashana, as R’ Aharon of Karlin ascended the lectern and prepared to chant the word “Hamelech,” he stood silent and trembling for what seemed like an eternity until he passed

out. This sent his followers into a state of utter panic. What happened to the Rebbe? Is he summoning mystical intentions for his prayers? Is he alive? Is this an ominous portent? Once revived, the Rebbe explained what had happened. Contemplating the word “Hamelech,” he had recalled how R’ Yochanan ben Zakkai slipped out of a besieged Jerusalem to plead with the Roman general Vespasian to spare the Torah city of Yavneh (Gittin 56a). When R’ Yochanan addressed Vespasian as “Your Majesty,” Vespasian found him deserving of death. “First, I am not the king,” said Vespasian. “And second, if I am indeed king, why did you not come to me until now?” “I fainted,” explained the Rebbe, “because if we address G-d as ‘King,’ does that not beg the question, ‘Why did you not come to me until now?’ And how can we answer that?” Yet all the obligations inherent in coronating G-d are outweighed decidedly by the honor and privilege of doing so. When Rabbi Yosef Dov


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Soloveitchik (1903-1993) was a young child in the Russian village of Chaslavitch, his rebbi imbued upon the town’s children a discernible sense of awe and trepidation in the days preceding Rosh Hashana.

Nacht’—‘Coronation Night.’ And do you know who we will be coronating?” “Czar Nicholas!” the young Soloveitchik answered excitedly. “Nicholas?” his rebbi retorted. “He was coronat-

none other than Yankel the tailor, Berel the shoemaker, Zalman the water-carrier, Yossel the painter, Dovid the butcher, Moishe the shlepper…and each and every one of you!” The essence of the day

“And do you know who places the crown upon Him? It is none other than Yankel the tailor, Berel the shoemaker, Zalman the water-carrier…”

The teacher, a disciple of the Lubavitch following, would whisper to the children, “Do you know what Rosh Hashana is? The Rebbe (Tzemach Tzedek) would call it ‘Karanatzia

ed years ago. And besides, Nicholas is not a real king. No. Tonight, dear children, we coronate G-d Himself.” The rebbi continued. “And do you know who places the crown upon Him? It is

lies in the power of every Jewish person to coronate G-d Himself. Rosh Hashana is a festival of joy and happiness (Nechemia 8:2, 1012; Tehillim 81:4; see Rosh Hashana 8a-b) because G-d

permits us, relatively insignificant humans, to accept His authority willingly and with love. So despite the gravity of the day as one of judgment, we nonetheless engage in festivities because we appreciate the opportunity to coronate G-d Himself (Yerushalmi, Rosh Hashana 1:3; Tur, Orach Chaim 581; Tosfos Yom Tov, Taanis 2:2-3). Now, to be sure, G-d needs us too; after all, “there can be no king without a people” (Rabbeinu Bachaye, Bereishis 38:30; Kad HeKemach, Rosh Hashana; Pirkei D’Rebbi Eliezer, Chapter 3). But He doesn’t need us to coronate Him; we would be His subjects no matter what, coronation or not. But G-d nonetheless affords us the opportunity to accept

Him willingly, and He revels in the fact that His people choose to coronate Him, year after year after year. That is what G-d means when He instructs us to “recite verses proclaiming kingship before Me… so that you may coronate Me as King over you” (Rosh Hashana 16a). On Rosh Hashana, each and every one of us has the power – nay, the duty and the privilege – to coronate G-d. And that privilege and power is as reassuring as it is humbling. Happy Coronation Day.

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OI (return on investment) is something that we think about routinely. Investors want to know what type of return they can expect to receive on their money. Students want to know the benefit of pursuing specialized education. People in challenged relationships seek to understand what they can expect to gain from their in-

vestment of time and resources into therapy or other interventions. In most cases, ROI is measured by the bottom line. If the effort and investment result in a meaningful profit or gain, then it is considered to be worthwhile. If not, then the ROI is said to be negligible and the enterprise not worthy of future outlay. However, there is one notable excep-

tion to this rule. It relates particularly to this time of year, when we stand before our Maker in solemn hope that we will experience a positive judgment. Rav Dessler (Michtav M’Eliyahu, Vol II, pp. 96-97) writes that our judgment rides not on our “bottom line” actions, but on the inner desires and motivators that exist within our hearts. He supports his argument by citing Ramban in parshas Emor, who writes that Rosh Hashana is a “yom hadin b’rachamim” and Yom Kippur a “yom harachamim b’din.” The explanation to Ramban’s words, says Rav Dessler, is as follows. Despite the seriousness of Rosh Hashana, we have the capacity to stir divine mercy on that holy day by demonstrating such qualities of giving and compassion towards others. Conversely, we have the ability to transform the compassionate day of Yom Kippur into one of strict judgment if we are unable to engage in meaningful change. This explanation helps us better understand the roles and relationship between Hashem’s attributes of din and rachamim (strict justice and mercy, respectively). Typically, we perceive these two attributes as mutually independent elements of divine justice. Hashem either chooses to judge a person strictly or He applies compassionate mercy, and softens the severity of the true judgment against sinners. However, this understanding is wholly inaccurate. Rashi, commenting on the first verse in the Torah, questions why it is that throughout the entire first chapter of Genesis

only the name “Elokim” – the divine name used to express strict justice – is used when referencing the Creator. Yet, at the beginning of the following chapter (2:4ff), the combined term of “Hashem Elokim” is utilized (a term indicating that not only had rachamim become incorporated into Hashem’s mode of judgment, but had even bypassed din as the primary means of ruling). Rashi’s response provides us with a new insight into our discussion. In the beginning it was His intention to create (the world) with the Divine Standard of Justice, but he perceived that the world would not endure, so He preceded it with the Divine Standard of Mercy, allying it with the Divine Standard of Justice. (Rashi to Bereishis 1:1) Since the earliest stages of creation, Hashem deemed it necessary for din and rachamim to be melded together to form one complete entity, working together harmoniously in response to Man’s misdeeds. But how does this work? How can din and rachamim be used in conjunction with one another to achieve a desired result? Rav Dessler (Michtav M’Eliyahu, Volume 1, p.8ff) explains this idea through the use of the following example. Suppose that there are two young men who each rob a bank of the same amount of money. One was raised in a crime-ridden community without proper parenting and guidance. The other comes from an upstanding home; now, he has fallen in with the wrong crowd and has Continued on page 12


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turned to a life of crime. The judge, who happened to be a roommate with the second thief’s father during law school, rules that the first thief must spend two years in prison. His friend’s son, however,

should be treated with more clemency, while the one who was raised in an upscale setting should be reprimanded more severely. Certainly, the judge would want to avoid any possible accusations of impropriety

How can din and rachamim be used in conjunction with one another to achieve a desired result?

is required to pay a small fine and contribute 200 hours of communal service. At first glance, this inconsistency in judgment would appear to be highly inappropriate. After all, they committed the same crime. If anything, logic would dictate that the criminal from the depressed neighborhood

by letting his friend’s son off easy. Rav Dessler explains that the proper objective of justice is not to punish criminals or sinners for their misdeeds. Rather, the goal must be to correct the crime or transgression so that they are not repeated in the future. In the case of the second criminal, who was raised in a home

that valued proper conduct and respect for the law, this objective can best be achieved through a more lenient approach. This particular young man understands deep down what is right. With some additional guidance and a return to a strong, healthy environment, he can be redirected along the proper path. Under these circumstances, even “justice” would agree that leniency offers the best means of turning this young man around. Time in the penitentiary would only exacerbate the problem. The first criminal, on the other hand, does not possess a clear sense of proper social conduct. From his perspective, crime is a way of life, a means of survival. To allow him immediately back on the street would almost guarantee future repetition of criminal activity, which could result in even more dire results. Here, “mercy” would advocate for a stricter punishment, to suffer more today with the hope of a better tomorrow.

Hashem studies our desires and judges us accordingly. He asks, “What benefit will there be for him if I were to grant him the blessings that he seeks? What is the potential ROI to such a response?” If Hashem can discern a true desire for growth and teshuva within us, then He will see the investment as more worthwhile. If not, then He may see the best recourse to be something very different than what we request, chas v’shalom. As we approach Hashem in the coming weeks, we should aspire to give Him every opportunity to view us as individuals and a community who are on an upwards trajectory, deserving of inscription in the Book of Life. I wish us all a kesiva v’chasima tova. Rabbi Naphtali Hoff, PsyD, is an executive coach and President of Impactful Coaching and Consulting. He can be reached at 212.470.6139 or at nhoff@ impactfulcoaching.com.

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Lt. Col. David Gurfein A TRUE AMERICAN HERO From Taking out Saddam Hussein to Taking on Washington’s Status Quo BY NATE DAVIS

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fter a sixth month buildup of troops in the Arab peninsula, Operation Desert Storm was set to begin on January 17, 1991. In Saddam Hussein’s last minute effort to create chaos, the Iraqi soldiers lit all of the country’s oil fields on fire. Facing a deep orange furnace and black billowing smoke, the U.S. Marines received the order to advance. But before the Marines proceeded, a commander came over to a group of them and suggested that any Marine who had “Jewish” printed as the religion on their dog tags should turn the dog tags in out of concern that they would be tortured if they were captured by the Arabs. David Gurfein, nicknamed “Bull” by his fellow Marines, was one of those who received that suggestion. As a young Marine, he faced a decision whether he would be fearful or live by his convictions. In a split second decision, he decided to keep his Jewish dog tag on. “This is a test from G-d,” he said to his commander. “I will not disguise my Jewish identity.” And over his next twenty five years of active duty – which included a tour of Afghanistan and another tour of Iraq during the second Gulf War – he never took his dog tags off. Born and raised on Long Island, David joined the U.S. Marine Corps straight out of high school. Over the next 25 years he would rise to the rank of Lieutenant Colonel. His career as an infantry officer got off to a quick start in 1989 when he was part of Operation Just Cause – the


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U.S. invasion of Panama to overthrow Dictator Manuel Noriega. During that operation, the U.S. Army Psychological Operations unit (knows as “PSYOP”) played an integral role in the battle. For the first time, many Americans became aware that rock & roll may be an effective tool on the battlefield when the nightly news showed footage of American PSYOP units playing deafening rock music, 24 hours a day, over loudspeakers that ringed the Vatican Embassy compound where General Noriega had taken refuge. “So, did you hear that rock music?” I ask David. “No,” he says, “but on one occasion we actually played our own rock & roll music in the battlefield.” One evening as David and other members of his rifle platoon were patrolling a

But then 9/11 happened. On that fateful day, David was working in Manhattan and watched as the Twin Towers crumbled. “I immediately called headquarters of the unit I belonged to, the first Marine Expeditionary Force, and said, ‘Get me back into the fight.’ They said, ‘Stand by for orders.’” Within a few months, David was in Afghanistan. While there, part of David’s job was to interact with the locals. Although the Taliban controlled Afghanistan, many of the locals did not subscribe to their beliefs, David explains. “Before the Taliban took over, Afghanistan was one of the most westernized countries in that region. They had commerce, they had theater, etc. and then the Taliban came in and it was done.

“Leadership is going into the burning building first. We need to stand up and lead against this threat.” Celebrating Jewish holidays in Uzbekistan

In Afghanistan

jungle area, accompanied by a PSYOP unit which had a message playing on huge loudspeakers – “this is controlled by American armed forces, stay out” – they heard shots being fired. They realized that U.S. Marines nearby were under attack, but they lost radio communication with them and had no way of letting them know that they were coming with reinforcements. “So my platoon sergeant threw a cassette to the PSYOP officer and told him to put it on. He put on the cassette and it was the song ‘Welcome to the Jungle.’ When the Marines heard that song – the hottest American pop song at the time – they knew it was us and that reinforcements were coming. They held their ground until we arrived and then the enemy backed off.” Despite his long career in the military, David was never determined to be a lifer. He graduated from Syracuse University with a BS in Speech Communication and Political Science and received his MBA from Harvard Business School, where he was elected class co-president. He spent several years in the private sector, including a stint in Israel with a high-tech company.

All of the sudden women who were highly respected in their community were subjugated and most of them were forced to wear burkas.” David says that many of the locals actually appreciated what the U.S. Army was trying to accomplish. “One of the most interesting situations was when I went into this place Gardez and we went into the city and met a head doctor who was a female. She was extremely powerful and influential,” David says. “And we were shocked to see a female doctor. She told us a story about how when the Taliban came in and brought in some of their wounded, she prepared to operate on them and they put a gun to her head and said, ‘Get out of here, you are a woman – you can’t see a man undressed.’ And she said, ‘Listen I’m the only person here who can make sure that this individual survives. I may not agree with your ideology but I swore a Hippocratic Oath to do no harm, and I can save this individual’s life.’ They eventually allowed her to operate and she was one of the few people who was not forced to put on a burka. She was an amazing individual.” David then served in Iraq in Operation


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Enduring Freedom, where one incident showed him the true extent of the hatred that the Muslims have for Jews. David was part of a group of Marines whose unit also had Iraqi police embedded within them. One of the officers who David mentored became fast friends with him. So effusive was he that he would introduce David to the other Iraqi officers as his “greatest friend” and “brother.” “Then,” David recalls, “one day we were driving in a vehicle and it was just he and I, and he turns to me and says, ‘So, tell me, what do you think of Israel?’ I said, ‘What do you mean?’ He says, ‘So you think Israel should be allowed to fight?’ I said, ‘Do you mean should they be allowed to defend themselves? Of course they should.’ “He says, ‘You think the Jew should be allowed to defend himself? Do you not know the Jew is evil, horrible?’ So I said, ‘Really? That’s interesting. Have you ever met a Jew?’ He answers, ‘No, but I know they are bad.’ I said, ‘What would you do if you met a Jew?’ He says, ‘I would kill him.’ I said, ‘Muhammed, how would you know if you saw a Jew?’ He laughed and says, ‘You can smell them; they smell like Satan.’ I said, ‘All Jews?’ He says, ‘All Jews.’ “I said to him, ‘That’s interesting Muhammed – I’m a Jew.’ He laughed and said, ‘First Lieutenant Bull, you are always making the jokes.’” David pulled out his dog tags and showed it to the Iraqi officer. “He brought the vehicle to a stop and froze up,” recalls David. “His entire life he had been taught to hate the Jew even though he never met one and now someone who he is claiming to be his best friend in combat was a Jew. He got out of the vehicle and began banging his head with his hands. Eventually he realized what he wanted to do. He immediately drew for his pistol to shoot me. But, thankfully, like many of the Iraqi troops, he wasn’t disciplined enough to latch his pistol to his holster and it was actually not in his holster but on the vehicle seat. I picked it up and said to him, ‘Muhammed, you were going to shoot me? Your best friend?’ He was embarrassed and confused and didn’t know what to do. I took the ammo out of his pistol and threw it back at him and told him, ‘Come on, let’s get back into the vehicle.’ We drove back to camp. I got out and I never saw him again.” While in Iraq, David learned firsthand about the atrocities that Saddam Hussein

committed against his people. One Iraqi woman showed David how her ears had been hacked off with a knife. She explained that during the first Iraq war she was told to send all of her sons to fight against the Americans and she sent all of them except one, whom she thought was too young to be a soldier. The Baathist officials found out that she withheld one son. They came to her home and cut off her ears because “obviously she wasn’t able to hear well enough.” Then they shot her son. The stories that he heard so enraged David that the action he took ended up on the cover of international newspapers. He explains, “While we were in Safran, one of the first cities that we took control of in Iraq, we were standing in front of a very large poster of Saddam Hussein. A woman came over to us and told us that several years earlier her toddler child was playing around near a Saddam Hussein poster and threw mud at it by accident. Baathist officials investigated who defaced the poster of ‘the great leader’ and found out that it was this woman’s son. They came to her home and killed the child.” After David heard this story from the woman he turned to his Marines and said, “Let’s rip down every Hussein poster in this town.” His Marines said, “Lieutenant Bull, we can get in trouble.” He turned to them and said, “No, no, we are trouble.” With that, he started tearing down large Saddam posters. The weary Iraqis slowly gathered around and began cheering. The next morning the world saw the first images symbolizing Saddam’s fall from grace as the photo of David tearing down Saddam posters was printed on the front cover of newspapers around the world. At the time, an Associated Press article described the scene: Crowds of men and boys watched, briefly joining Major David “Bull” Gurfein in a new cheer, “Iraqis, Iraqis!” Gurfein yelled, pumping his fist in the air. “We wanted to send a message that Saddam is done,” said Gurfein, a New York native in the First Marine Expeditionary Force. “People are scared to show a lot of emotion. That’s why we wanted to show them this time that we’re here, and Saddam is done,” he said. As a veteran of that war, David does not shy away from the controversies surrounding it. David explains that before the invasion the Marines were very concerned about

At the Pentagon

Saving an officer in A Few Good Men

George Pataki wrote with admiration, “Your act inspired all of America. New Yorkers are proud. G-d bless you.”

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the mission to topple Saddam because they understood that he was the counterbalance to Iran. “We challenged the senior leadership,” he recalls. “But you have to understand that the Marine Corps is subservient to the army for all land warfare and the army is subservient to civilian leadership. So we kept pressing and trying to figure out what our mission was. The answer we kept getting was ‘we are liberating.’” Although the mission was unclear, David believes that Iraq could have ultimately blossomed into a democracy eventually but that diplomatic mistakes were made. “What happened after a new government was in place was that U.S. generals were subjugat-

turned to me and got really upset and said, ‘What’s that?’ I said, ‘I just told them not to put too much makeup on me because I don’t want anyone confusing the two of us.’ He looks at me and says, ‘Yea, because maybe you’d have to get a real job.’ In the movie my role was to stop Jack Nicholson from knocking over Cruise. So when we did a take that day, I stepped back when Nicholson came charging and boom! Jack lays Tom flat on his back. Jack gets up and starts laughing. Cruise gets up and starts cursing and screaming at me. Cruise didn’t realize that everyone on the set is looking at him and thinking that he is a jerk for fighting with the only real Marine on the set.”

His Marines said, “Lieutenant Bull, we can get in trouble.” He turned to them and said, “No, no, we are trouble.”

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Liberating Kuwaitis during the First Gulf War

David with his daughter, Avery

ed to a sovereign nation,” he explains. “The actions that would take place within that country had to be passed through the government which was being more and more influenced by the Shia and the Iranians.” The new government persecuted their Sunni rivals and many of them joined the insurgency against the U.S., which eventually morphed into ISIS and other terror organizations. David explains that rather than give up control to the Iraqis who formed a sectarian government, the U.S. should have maintained control and made key decisions in the post-Saddam era. If you can draw an image of a Marine, you may very well draw an image of David. Evidently, even Hollywood feels that way. When they needed a Marine to play a role in the movie “A Few Good Men,” it was David who was chosen for the role. Interestingly, even though his role on the movie lasts several seconds, it took twenty-eight days to shoot. Even more interestingly, he ended up in a fight with actor Tom Cruise in the process. “Before shooting one day, the makeup guys were putting touchups on my face and I said for a joke, ‘Hey, don’t put too much makeup on me because I don’t want people confusing me for Tom Cruise.’ Cruise

Later that evening David went on a date and asked the girl out for a second date but she declined and said, “Let me get this straight: you’re a U.S. Marine, you have been in Panama, the First Gulf War and now you are in a movie with Tom Cruise and you had a fight with him. Who is going to believe this meshugas?” Two weeks later, after the story was written up in the LA Magazine, she called him back and accepted a second date. As a candidate for the 4th Congressional District, David is well-suited to continue to serve our community’s interests. He not only supports Israel but also has a brother who is a rabbi in Jerusalem. His nephew who served in the IDF has followed in David’s footsteps and now serves as a U.S. Marine Corps officer. David has served two tours in Afghanistan, two tours in Iraq, and is now involved in the Special Operations command. “The security of Israel is personal to me,” he notes, “and we just gave Iran $150 billion. That’s a real problem and we need the right people in Washington to protect Israel.” Although many politicians promise to “change Washington” if elected, David’s experiences will make him a respected voice on matters of national security on day one. He has an established rapport with many


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in Washington; he spent four years as the Congressional liaison for Supreme Allied Commander General Jones. In that capacity he escorted dignitaries and officials on oversea trips to tour the war zone. David believes strongly that national security is one of the most pressing issues of our time. To him ISIS is not the “JV Team” and they must be defeated. “There are three ways for us to win this war,” he asserts. “We can surrender, we just become Islamists ourselves. But the problem is we just can’t be Muslims. Because most Muslims aren’t good enough for the Islamists. Considering that we don’t even use the metrics system in the U.S., I have a feeling that we are not going to accept Sharia law in the U.S. “The second option is to do what we do now – we continue to constantly play this game of hoping and praying that the enemy doesn’t get to us. But we see increasing attacks so we know that it is not working. The enemy is not going to fade away. They are only going to get stronger.

“There is only one other alternative: You destroy the enemy. People say that it can’t be done, but it can be done. Nazi Germany is a prime example. We went in with overwhelming force and in less than five years we destroyed them.” He adds, “Leadership is going into the burning building first. We need to stand up and lead against this threat.” Over the years I have met numerous politicians who breezed through the Five Towns searching for votes to propel them into one office or another. But David seems different. He is an accomplished Marine and businessman who has the world open to him. As a fighter, he can’t accept the status quo. He knows that things must change in Washington in order to get our fiscal house in order and to take on the threats that pose an existential threat to us. And he is willing to step up for the United States as he has done so many other times for our country. After all, isn’t that what true American heroes do?

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hana, you’re sure you’ll be okay with the kids?” Imma grabbed her shoes off the floor, stuffed a cracker into Tzvi’s mouth – he’d started crying as soon as he heard the word “shul” – and then turned to face me, eyebrows drawn with worry. I gave her a big smile. “Not to worry, mother dear! I have everything under control! And I can always wake Freydie if I’m desperate.” Imma hesitated. “I feel bad that you won’t be getting to shul. How about I come back -” “Imma.” I spoke firmly, breaking off her offer. “You haven’t gone to shul in ages. The kids and I will be perfectly fine. Right, Tzvi?” Tzvi took the cracker out of his mouth and screamed, “Imma, don’t go!!” Rikki, my little sister crumpled in the hallway, wailed, “Imma, I wanna go, too! I wanna go to shul!”

“Shh, Rikki, Freydie and the baby are asleep downstairs,” Imma said hurriedly, dropping her voice to a loud whisper. “We don’t want to wake them up.” “How about we go on a walk, Rikki?” I asked. “We can go to the Litman’s swing set and you can help push Tzvi on the swings!” “I don’t wanna!” yelled Rikki and Tzvi together. “Maybe I should stay,” Imma said doubtfully. “Chana, you should go –” “Just until Mussaf,” I said quickly. I had hoped that I wouldn’t have to go to shul at all, but it looked like I’d have to settle for the next best thing. “Come back before Mussaf, and we’ll switch. I can handle their screaming for that long.” After a few moments of indecision, Imma nodded. She gave me, Tzvi, and Rikki a quick kiss, made sure her sheitel was on right, and left the house. As soon as the door

closed Tzvi started crying again. Rikki banged her feet on the floor, shouting, “I want to go, too!” I sighed, then walked over to Rikki, bending down beside her. “Hey, Rikki, did you know about that special you-know-what in the cabinet above the microwave?” Rikki ignored me, more interested in pounding out her frustrations into the wooden floor. “Imma went out before yom tov and bought something you’d really enjoy,” I said, glancing over at Tzvi to see that he’d stopped crying to listen. “It’s round and has lots of colors, and it’s also really yummy... I’ll give you some if you stop screaming for just one minute.” Rikki paused her tantrum, thinking, then dropped her head onto the floor, defeated. “Good girl.” I stood up, walked into the kitchen, and produced Rikki’s treat: button candy.

“I want, too!” Tzvi cried. “Are you going to stop crying?” I asked him. He nodded eagerly, and I gave him two candies. “Tell me when the minute’s over,” Rikki said as she inhaled the candy. She didn’t seem to be the least upset anymore. I raised my eyebrows at her. “Okay, then. Tzvi, do you want to hear a story about a shofar?” Tzvi nodded, calmed by his sugar intake. “But it has to be rainbow shofar.” “Got it.” “Shofars can’t be rainbow,” Rikki said, popping her last candy into her mouth. She looked down at Tzvi with a superior look. “That doesn’t make any sense.” “But that’s what makes this shofar so special,” I said, grinning. “Do you want to hear the story? Or,” I glanced at the clock, “do you want to start fake crying again?” Rikki glared at me. “I wanna go to shul.”

“Good for you. Maybe when you can sit still for more than five minutes I’ll take you.” Rikki’s eyes lit up. “Really? So if I sit really still for five minutes you’ll take me?” I shrugged. “Sure.” Rikki wiggled in her chair then sat very still. “I’m ready. Start timing.” By the time I’d told three stories and played several rounds of Go Fish and Candyland, Rikki had forgotten about the five minutes. I was about to start another board game when I heard a door open and turned to see my older sister Freydie emerging from the basement. Her hair covering was askew and she had bags under her eyes; she looked like she could use another eight hours of sleep, but she still managed to give us all a smile. “Good yom tov. Did Imma leave for shul?” I nodded. “She’s coming back before Mussaf. That was the only way I could


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convince her to leave the house.” Freydie smiled. “Well, I’m up now. Why don’t you join her and I’ll watch these two?” I winced inwardly. “I’m fine – you can daven and then go back to sleep. You look exhausted.” Freydie eyed me. “Imma’s coming back by Mussaf, right? It shouldn’t be a problem. I want you to go to shul.” But I didn’t. I didn’t want to stand there, forming words I didn’t know, making kabbalos I couldn’t keep. Trying to connect to Hashem and instead falling flat. “Chana, this way you can hear the shofar.” I looked up at Freydie. “You’d need to go to hear the shofar anyway, right?” she asked. “I can go later with the baby and the kids.” “I wanna go now!” Rikki piped up. “I wanna go to shul!” Freydie grinned. “Alright, then why doesn’t Chana take you?” “She said I have to learn to sit still for five minutes first. And I can.” Freydie looked at me. “Take Rikki. It’ll give her something to do. I’ll watch Tzvi.” Her gaze was firm, like mine had been with Imma. I sighed. “Fine.” Rikki got her shoes on, and a few minutes later we were out the door. Rikki was overjoyed, skipping along the sidewalk chanting, “I’m going on a trip, a great fantastic trip to the shul!” I watched her move ahead, frowning. Had I been like that when I was little? Excited to go to shul? Probably, but only because it was a place all the grownups went to. It’s instinctive for a child to want to go somewhere she can’t. “Rikki,” I called, figuring it couldn’t hurt to ask. “Why

do you want to go to shul so badly?” Rikki paused in her skipping. “’Cause shul’s special!” “What do you mean?” “Abba told me that when you’re in shul it’s easier to talk to Hashem. Like you have a megaphone like Sari used at camp so we could all hear her.” Rikki continued skipping. “So if I go to shul Hashem will definitely hear everything I say!” “But...Hashem will also hear you if you don’t go to shul,” I said. “Yeah, but you won’t have a megaphone!” Her tone implied the duh, Chana. Duh, Chana. What do

“You could, I suppose,” I muttered. “Morah Klein told us that we could always talk to Hashem with our own words,” Rikki said. “That’s why every night I ask Hashem to not give me bad dreams.” “Does it work?” “Well, I forget to say it sometimes.” “I see.” After another street and one more block, we reached the shul. It was made of white stone and took up an entire corner of the block. There was a small playground in the back, and I could hear the sounds of children on the

saw often. They were all focused on davening, save for a few whose eyes wandered as mine did. I glanced at Rikki and saw her looking around with wide eyes. She’d be fine for a little while. I glanced at the person next to me to see what we were up to. Lam’natzeach l’vnei Korach mizmor. We were almost up to the blowing of the shofar. Perfect timing. I opened up my machzor and stared at the passage. Words. Lots of words. Words I didn’t know. Words I didn’t care about. I was about to hear the shofar being blown, the blasts that tell

Words. Lots of words. Words I didn’t know.

you do when you don’t feel heard? Shout louder. Scream higher. Use a megaphone. I figured if I’d gotten this far with the child wisdom, I might as well see if Rikki had anything else for me. “Well, Rikki, what are you supposed to do if the words you’re saying don’t mean anything to you?” Rikki was in first grade. She had little experience with davening. I didn’t expect any big revelations in this department. “Use your own words,” Rikki said simply. “But you can’t,” I said helplessly. “You’re supposed to say the words in the siddur.” Our DMC was interrupted as we came to a road, looked both ways for cars, and then crossed. “Why can’t you say the words in the siddur and your own words?” Rikki asked, looking up at me as we stepped up onto the sidewalk.

swings and zooming down the slide. “You have to remember to be quiet inside, okay, Rikki?” I asked as we walked up the front steps. “Whisper in my ear if you have to tell me something.” Rikki nodded solemnly. She was ready to go to shul. Was I? I made sure my hair was in place, grabbed Rikki’s hand, and we marched inside. My mother didn’t even notice us enter the women’s section. Her eyes were fixed on her siddur, her lips mouthing words with utter focus. A few others glanced up as we came in, but otherwise we entered unnoticed. I led Rikki over to two empty seats in the back and we sat down. I set the machzor I’d brought on my lap and glanced around the room. There were several people I knew; teachers and friends from school, neighbors and other regulars I

us Hashem is King and we need to live up to our name as His nation. It was an important moment. I wanted to prepare myself for it. But these words meant nothing to me. Use your own words. I bit my lip, took a breath, and began. Lam’natzeach l’vnei Korach mizmor. Hashem, I don’t know how to improve this year. I’m stuck in a cycle where I’ll say I’ll change but it never happens. Kol ha’amim tik’u chaf... Hashem, why is it so hard to change? I want to be like my mother, who’s able to daven with concentration. But I don’t know how. Ki Hashem elyon norah... Hashem, how do I know you’re listening? Rikki tugged on my sleeve. I broke off, put my finger on the line I was up to, and bent down so she could whisper in my ear. “You look like Imma when you daven.”

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I pulled back, startled. “You scrunch up your face and your eyes get really,” she squinted her eyes, trying to demonstrate. I smiled at her, then put a finger to my mouth. Rikki sat back and continued her surveillance of the room. A few minutes we all rose to hear the shofar. “Tekiah!” Hashem, I’m trying to change. “Shevarim-Teruah!” Give me motivation. Give me courage. “Tekiah!” Help me come closer to you. I held onto those blasts, wishing they’d blow away all my doubts and fears, wishing they’d bring me to a place where I could believe, as Rikki did, that Hashem listened to my every word. “Tekiah-Gedolah!” Please help him, I thought. Let it be strong. Let it be loud. Let it be clear. Toooooooooooooooooot. Rikki squeezed my hand excitedly. A long, pure blast that lingered for a moment in the air, then faded. I breathed a sigh of relief. Several women began to leave right after tekias shofar, including, I realized, my mother. Rikki and I hurried after her. We came out into the entryhall of the shul. “Imma!” She turned, surprised. “Chana! Rikki! What are you doing here? Where’s Tzvi?” “Freydie’s taking care of him. She’s going to come later to hear the shofar with the baby. Rikki really wanted to come to shul, and Freydie insisted.” Imma smiled. “Well, I’m glad you got to hear tekias shofar. That Tekiah-Gedolah was really good, wasn’t it?” As Rikki skipped ahead I fell into step beside Imma. “Yeah, it was. Like a megaphone.”


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The Sweetness of Life By Deb Hirschhorn, Ph.D.

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could not believe it. I stood there after Pesach looking at my husband’s bookshelf full of periodicals and papers that he treasured. Some were about how to live a healthier life – with all kinds of weird and unheard of vitamin supplements to overcome every imaginable malady (of which my husband had a number). Some were about how to make

better investments – with surefire ways to beat the stock market or create your fortune in futures or gold or whatever. And he would not need those magazines any more. But they were so important to him! He wanted so badly to utilize them! He had talked about the ideas in them endlessly.

And they would serve no purpose now. Because he was gone. How is that possible? All the plans . . . gone. The dreams . . . gone. With no second or third chances. He wanted to visit Eretz Yisroel but our children told him he could never make such a trip in his condition. And that was okay because he expected to recover and then make the trip. But he didn’t. Well, he got there, but only we could appreciate that. He was beyond “enjoying.” Losing him got me wondering about my own demise. We never expect it. And we shouldn’t. If we did, how could we live a full, robust life? When my parents, a”h, died, I certainly didn’t think about the possible or likely end of my own life. But this started me thinking about it. I couldn’t help it. I was holding a dish from an old set that I’d purchased when I lived in Des Moines 40 years ago. All the middle and small size plates were missing, and I’d often thought that I really should replace them since I liked the dishes. But I would always tell myself that since we’d moved about a bit I will wait until I’m “really” settled. Now, I’m thinking maybe I will never get a chance to replace those plates. It’s not that I think my own death is imminent, G-d forbid. I’m pretty healthy and I just don’t see that happening. On the other hand, I now know something that I did not know in my gut before: it can happen. Anything can happen. There’s a part of me that is excited and making plans for my future.

But there is also a part of me that is quite clear that I might not have one. And I am absolutely not trying to be morbid here, chas v’chalila. I’m just experiencing a deeper understanding of Reality. Reality is knowing deep inside, in your gut and in your bones, that you could die at any minute. I got in touch with an old friend – kudos to Facebook! We had a wonderful re-connect by phone. Then she told me her son, who is 39, was just diagnosed with leukemia. Why am I telling you all this? Do I want to ruin your lovely yom tov? Of course not. I’m telling you this because I want to enhance your life and your yom tov. See, there is an upside to this place I’m in, this place of knowing fully that death is at the door. It is the enjoyment, the breath-catching awe of the beauty of life itself. It includes feeling the pain of my friend who lost her parent. It includes feeling the amazement at my rabbi who keeps on smiling no matter how many funerals he must conduct. And that means appreciating the wonder of people who are majestic in stature. It includes being brought to near tears at the beauty of a mild and sunny day and touched by the warm remarks of friends. It includes the feeling of awe at the heroic acts of Hatzalah whose cars and trucks never miss a day (unfortunately) of whizzing by my apartment as I sit working on my computer. It includes a sense of connection and even love for the strangers going up and down my block. It includes a


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Now, you may not want this for yourself. I certainly wouldn’t want you to discover it through a personal loss, G-d forbid. That’s why I’m sharing my experience with you. Maybe you can sense what I’m talking about and feel it, too.

gratitude so profound I am at a complete loss for words at the cuteness and smarts of my grandchildren. I cannot hear a sweet mashal without tears coming to my eyes. I cannot see a child playing without tears coming to my eyes. I cannot

I’ve become an appreciator of the little things.

See, normal life, life without really considering one’s own possible death, can be fun and beautiful, happy and appreciative. I know; I’ve been there. But it’s not the same as when you’ve experienced the ultimate truth about what life is: it does not go on forever; there really is an end. And having an awareness of that

hear a bird chirping without tears coming to my eyes. These are not sad tears; they’re tears of being touched, connected with the vibrant core of life. That is a connection that comes from experiencing someone’s death that I was connected to. Ironically the connection to life comes through death.

end makes all the difference in the world. Normal life as I used to live it was really quite parve when I compare it to now. It was kind of like the way you feel – or don’t feel – after a Novocain: your feelings are mostly blunted. So why am I telling you all this? Yes, to help you enjoy in a total, in-the-moment way, your life. But there’s something else, too. Take for example the striving to succeed that people do, me included, and my husband, too, for that matter. For what? So you succeed, so what? Are you living while you’re busy striving? No. And you know it. That is what he did. That is what he was all about for the 40 years I knew him. He didn’t get anything out of all that striving. He should have lived more. I see his mistake clearly now. I was exactly the same way. Except now I am taking walks that I didn’t have time for before. I’m allowing myself to read and learn

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more. I take time to make delicious food even though I eat alone. I’ve become an appreciator of the little things. That’s what Rosh Hashana is supposed to do, I think. We read about Hashem judging us on this day and deciding on our future. It’s meant to shake us up a bit, get us out of thinking about life in an automatic, routine way. We don’t want to be shaken up. It’s scary. I’ll agree; it is. Been there, done that. However, it’s also incredibly more beautiful and extraordinarily more meaningful. So I’m inviting you to allow the chagim to shake you up a bit, to touch you to the core. So that you can truly live while you’re living.

Dr. Deb Hirschhorn is a Marriage and Family Therapist. She can be reached at 646-54-DRDEB or by writing drdeb@ drdeb.com.

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t’s that time of year again: challah, apple pie, honey, desserts, more challah, more honey, and a whole array of delicious but not-sohealthy foods. Rosh Hashana, filled with calorie-laden meals, can be a strong temptation for even the most disciplined to abandon their healthy eating habits. This year, Rosh Hashana immediately follows Shabbos, which can make maintaining one’s weight seem like a daunting task. However, with proper planning and strategies, one can start off the New Year feeling and looking great. There are several reasons as to how those pounds seem to accumulate during the holiday season. One major reason is poor portion control. Our Rosh Hashana meals tend to be excessive and filled with many, sometimes unhealthful, choices. We often lose sight of our nutrition goals and fill our plates with every delicious dish we see. Then we indulge in a second portion. By doing this we overload our system with calories, fats, sugars, and carbohydrates. This trend of overeating meal after meal throughout the holiday leaves us feeling bloated and raises the number on the scale. By moderating our food intake at meals and adhering to our hunger cues, which warn us that

we’ve eaten enough, we can cut calories and avoid overeating. Filling our plates with healthier options, such as with a salad or a vegetable dish, and limiting our intake of the less healthy dishes allows us to control our portions and still enjoy our favorite yom tov foods! Additionally, including a healthful and filling breakfast into our morning routine will enable us to enter the yom tov meal less ravenous and less likely to overeat. Another culprit of weight gain on yom tov is the general lack of activity. We spend most of the morning sitting in shul, davening, then hurrying home to a large yom tov meal. Many of us find ourselves resting lethargically or sitting and reading our favorite book throughout the afternoon. Before long, the next big meal begins. This lack of activity combined with the excess calories at our meals may make it difficult to maintain our weight goals. Making a plan to take a long, brisk walk during the day is a great way to offset some of the extra calories consumed. It is also important to make sure to drink enough water throughout the holiday. We often mistake thirst for hunger and may eat more than we intend when in actuality we are slightly dehydrated. By drinking a

cup of water before indulging in the meal we can help prevent overeating. Water is especially important when incorporating long walks into the day. Be sure to stick to water and avoid sugary beverages. These do not hydrate us as water does and add calories to the already calorie-laden meal. Lastly, when preparing a yom tov menu try to create a healthier menu. Emphasize lean proteins, such as chicken, turkey or fish, as opposed to fatty meats. Try to make one or two very light meals consisting of just fish, eggs, soup, and salads. Stick to healthier side dishes such as roasted vegetables instead of quiches or kugels, baked sweet potato fries instead of potato kugel, and salads and try and minimize the less healthy options. Provide fruit for dessert and limit sugary cakes and cookies. Honey is another name for sugar; therefore you may dip your apple in the honey but don’t slather it on under the assumption that it is a healthy custom. Make these healthy selections the rule when invited as a guest as well. Just because it’s on the table doesn’t mean it has to be eaten. Additionally, limiting carbohydrate intake at some meals is another great way to avoid

weight gain. Minimizing challah intake, white potatoes, white rice, kugels, and pastries greatly reduces your carbohydrate consumption. Consider eating whole wheat or spelt matzah at some of the meals instead of challah. Rosh Hashana is known for its delicious, sweet, and abundant meals. Unfortunately, it is also an infamous time of weight gain. How can we enjoy this special time of year and the delicious food while avoiding the extra weight? By planning ahead and creating strategies to prevent overeating, allotting time for some physical activity, and sticking to healthier options we can be sure to maintain our weight over the holiday. Staying positive and remembering that you are in control of your weight and that the yom tov weight gain is not inevitable is important to keep in mind too. Wishing everyone a kesiva v’chasima tova and a happy and healthy Rosh Hashana! Aliza Beer is a registered dietician with a master’s degree in nutrition. She has a private practice in Cedarhurst, NY. Patients’ success has been featured on the Dr. Oz show. Aliza can be reached at alizabeer@gmail.com.


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A Peek into Our Table

BY RENEE MULLER

Sweet Chili Salmon Cubes I’ve been on the lookout for a fantastic appetizer for a while. It needed to be the type that could be prepared in advance, taste amazing at room temperature, and still look gorgeously elegant once plated. I thought I was asking for too much and kinda gave up. It seemed like it was going to be grilled chicken salad. Again. Then I met my new, friendly, and super talented neighbor, Yocheved. She introduced me to this amazing salmon and it’s been love at first bite ever since. See? It always pays to be neighborly. Yields: 4 skewers M M M M M M M M M M M

1½ pounds salmon, cut into 1-inch cubes ½ cup sweet chili sauce ¼ teaspoon cumin, optional ¼ teaspoon za’atar, optional ½ cup panko breadcrumbs ¼ cup everything spice ¼ cup breadcrumbs 3 TBS black sesame seeds 1 teaspoon Montreal steak seasoning 2 medium zucchini 2 medium yellow squash

Place salmon cubes, sweet chili sauce, cumin, and za’atar into a resealable bag. Marinate in the refrigerator for up to 2 hours. Preheat oven to 400°F. Line a baking sheet with parchment paper. In a shallow dish, combine panko breadcrumbs, everything spice, breadcrumbs, black sesame seeds, and Montreal seasoning. Mix to combine. One by one, coat each salmon cube in the panko mixture. Place on prepared baking sheet. Bake for 6 minutes. Refrigerate until ready to use. Using a vegetable peeler, carefully peel the zucchini lengthwise into long strips, making sure to leave some peel at the edges. You will get 4 to 5 nice strips on each side. Repeat with yellow squash. (Save remaining zucchini/squash for another use.) Place squash strips into a microwave-safe bowl; microwave for 30-60 seconds. This will ensure that the strips are soft enough to fold without cracking, yet not entirely cooked. Refrigerate until ready to use. M To assemble: Fold one zucchini strip like an accordion, then thread onto a skewer. Next, thread on a salmon cube and a yellow squash accordion. Keep alternating between the yellow squash and zucchini between each salmon cube. M Notes: This is a great Shabbos-day appetizer, as the fish will be flavorful and still moist. Bring the fish to room temperature before serving.


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Lattice Minute Roast For as long as I can remember, my mother-in-law (and her sisterin-law, aka Tanta Esther) have been saving this very popular roast for Yom Tov. The roast itself is incredibly flavorful and the latticed dough gives it just the perfect amount of oomph that a festive dish requires, without rendering it overly heavy. I asked Esther how long she cooks her roast and she replied, “Oh, I’m not quite sure. I do the fork test after a couple of hours.” So I did that too, and guess what, it worked. Further details below. Yields: 6-8 servings M 1 (approx. 4-pound) minute roast For the Marinade M 2½ TBS vinegar M 2 cups duck sauce M ½ cup soy sauce M 5 garlic cloves, minced M 1 tsp ginger, minced, or ½ tsp dried M ½ teaspoon dry mustard M 1 cup sweet red wine, such as Malaga M 1 (17-ounce) package flaky dough M 1 egg, beaten, for egg wash

Using a fork, prick roast all over its surface. Combine all marinade ingredients in a resealable plastic bag. Add the roast; marinate overnight, or up to 24 hours, refrigerated. Remove roast from the refrigerator; let come to room temperature. Preheat oven to 350°F. Place roast with marinade into a baking dish. Cover; bake for at least 3 hours, turning the meat halfway through the cooking time. After 3 hours, check the meat by pricking it with a fork. Meat should have softened and gravy formed from the marinade. If it has not softened quite yet, return to the oven for an additional halfhour, or until soft. Remove roast from the oven; let cool, then refrigerate with its gravy. After fat has congealed, you can remove and discard it. About 1 hour before you would like to serve the meat: Preheat oven to 375°F. Remove meat from the gravy. Pat dry with paper towels. Roll out the flaky dough; use a lattice cutter to form the lattice. Wrap the lattice over the roast, then place the roast, seam side down, in a roasting pan. (Alternatively, you can simply wrap the roast in the dough, no lattice necessary; it will be just as delicious.) Add about 1 inch of gravy to the pan. Brush the lattice with egg wash. Bake until pastry is golden, about 30 minutes, basting with the sauce every 10 minutes or so. Slice and serve immediately. Note: After cutting out the lattice, you can re-roll the scraps of dough and form them into a ball. Roll out the dough again and shape it into a decorative bow and place it on top of the roast, just like my mother-in-law does.

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Apple & Honey Rosh Hashana Muffins At our house, Rosh Hashana cannot happen without honey muffins. At least, that’s the way my kids see it. It’s a family project, and by now, a family tradition, too. This recipe was given to me by a relative in Israel who bakes them all the time and claims that no matter how many batches she bakes, there are never enough. She’s absolutely right. We once baked a quadruple batch of these (sans the apples) for a bake sale on our block and we were left without a crumb! Yield: About 48 muffins For the Apples M 2 TBS butter or margarine M 4 Granny Smith apples, diced M 4 TBS sugar M 1 tsp cinnamon For the Muffins M 2 cups prepared tea, lukewarm M 2 cups sugar M 2 cups oil M 2 cups honey M 12 eggs M 6 cups flour M 2 TBSbaking powder

M 1 tsp baking soda M 2 heaping TBS cinnamon Preheat oven to 350°F. Line a muffin pan with cupcake liners. Prepare the apples: In a saucepan, melt butter over a medium-low flame. Add apples, sugar, and cinnamon; cook until apples are fragrant and soften a bit, about 15 minutes. Set aside to cool. Prepare the muffins: In the bowl of a stand mixer, on medium speed, combine tea, sugar, oil, honey, and eggs. Mix until smooth. Reduce speed; gradually add flour, baking powder, baking soda, and cinnamon. Scrape down sides of bowl as needed. Fill each muffin cup halfway with batter. (I like to use a cupcake pen for this; I find it very helpful.) Top with a teaspoon of prepared apples. Bake for 15-20 minutes, or until an inserted toothpick comes out almost dry with some moist crumbs attached. Note: The apples are optional; I find that some children prefer the muffins plain. We add the apple for Rosh Hashana (very loudly singing, “Dip the apple in the hooooneeeyy” as we do so) but throughout the year, we bake them plain. Tip: I recently discovered an amazing gadget called “The Cupcake (or Muffin) Pen.” It really removes the whole messy aspect of filling cupcake pans with batter. Look for it in specialty equipment stores. Reproduced from Our Table by Renee Muller with permission from the copyright holders ArtScroll/Mesorah Publications, LTD.


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A Taste of Gourmet with Renee TJH Speaks with Renee Muller of Our Table

Renee, it’s a pleasure to meet you. You grew up in Switzerland. How is European kosher cuisine different from American kosher cuisine? Very different. For starters, kosher foods are almost non-existent there. Sure, you can buy kosher milk, bread, cheese, meat and poultry. But staples like, for example, chrein (prepared horseradish) or pickles are not. If you wanted to have chrein, you had to prepare it – from scratch. I grew up watching my mom preparing everything from scratch and thinking it was completely normal. Lugano had less kosher items than the larger Jewish communities in Europe, so while on occasion we would drive to Milan, Italy, and “stock up,” the norm was to prepare everything from scratch. This approach, I find, is very refreshing. The food is so

genuine and so unprocessed. Think Pesach, but year-round. How great is that? Sounds fresh but also a bit time consuming for the American cook. How did you get into the kosher food industry? After writing a food column for Ami Magazine for a few years, I realized that what I enjoyed most was the food styling at the photoshoots. I chose to go into that field fulltime once I realized there was a need. Nowadays, advertising has boomed into better, sleeker, sharper images, hence the need for better photography and better styling. Let’s talk about Our Table, your newest cookbook. How long did it take for you to develop it? Our Table is the culmination of

four years of recipe testing and retesting. Only the best dishes made it to the book. Anything slightly “iffy” was immediately discarded. Every recipe in the book is a keeper, and I am extremely proud of that. It took long, but the results are worth it. How is this cookbook different from other cookbooks out there? I think that what makes Our Table different from other cookbooks is the fact that you don’t necessarily need to be a cook to read it. Yes, you read me right. Our Table is easily read on the couch or enjoyed with a cup of coffee. And if you decide never to cook or bake anything at all, that is perfectly fine too. You won’t feel like you wasted your money, because Our Table is just as a good read as it is a great cookbook. The stories be-

hind each dish, the memories from my childhood, are all shared within the recipes. I can attest to that. I loved the tantalizing photos and the bits of explanation you include with every recipe. I almost felt as if I can be part of your family table! Can you give us your two or three favorite recipes from Our Table? I keep getting this question! This is so hard, almost impossible to answer. How can I pick when I just told you before that each and every recipe is an absolute favorite?! But I will tell you that my most popular recipe is probably the Kaas Potjes (cheese pots), my children’s favorite treat is the Sea Salt Caramels and our family’s most looked forward to meal is usually the Fragrant Standing Rib


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accompanied by Onion Crisps, of course – preferably followed by Deconstructed Lemon Meringue Pie for dessert. And now, I’m hungry. So am I! Is there a recipe or two that someone may be scared to try from the book because it’s so different but will be pleasantly surprised once they make it? Sure. The Wahe-Swiss Fruit Tart and the Cannoncini are surprising that way. So easy to prepare yet they can look daunting, different. That is why I included a video tutorial, to help the viewer get at ease and gain confidence with the methods used. Rosh Hashana, Yom Kippur and Sukkos are all about tradition. But are there any recipes that we should include in our yom tov menus that our families will rave about throughout the year? We all continue our family’s traditions during this time of year and at the same time add our own traditions. Like for example, the Apple and Honey Rosh Hashana Muffins, which we bake every year, without fail. That has become our tradition now. The Classic Chicken Soup will help you out come Yom Kippur, and Sukkos is when the famous Herbed Rack of Veal makes its appearance. We all look forward to that. We eat so many meals on yom tov. Do you have any ideas or recipes we can include in our menu that are lighter and healthier? Generally, to keep things light, I like to focus on an appetizer and

then a main accompanied by a large leafy salad. Too many sides, dips and grains will make the meal heavy. Elegant plating, using greens and pretty produce, will help your guests forget the AWOL potatoes or rice. What do you recommend to serve for dessert on a cold night in the sukkah? My children look forward to our hot chocolate sukkah fondue! I prepare the fudge used in my Mint & Chocolate Hot Cookie Dessert, cut up all kinds of fruit, marshmallows and whatnot, then serve it with skewers in individual ramekins filled with hot fudge. The kids have a blast –

Shabbos? How about a recipe or two that I can prepare with the kids? Confession: my Shabbos cooking happens mostly in an hour or two. Maybe not that close to Shabbos, but all my recipes are pretty in and out. I would recommend the Lemony Dill Salmon or Silan Salmon. Friday Night Roasted Garlic Confit is a must; everyone will forgive whatever you may be lacking as long as the garlic makes its appearance along with some warm challah. Zahava’s Ribs take a bit longer than two hours but it’s a main I usually prepare on Fridays. When you’re cooking with the

Elegant plating, using greens and pretty produce will help your guests forget the AWOL potatoes or rice. best dessert of all time. The adults, of course, get the Mint & Chocolate Hot Cookie Dessert. Sounds delicious. Can I come too? Speaking of your family, how are you able to balance your cooking career with running a home? It’s the best career to be had! There’s always food around; mommy working equals dinner! Are there some recipes in Our Table that I can prepare with just an hour or two before

kids I’d recommend you try the Pretzel Sausages because they are so much fun to prepare and even more fun to eat. The Popcorn too because all children like preparing popcorn, and if that popcorn is caramel or kettle, even better, right? Also, my children regularly restock the freezer with Healthy Granola Bars and Chocolate Cranberry Granola. Those are both great school snacks, the type that moms like and classmates request. Sounds like your pantry is always fully stocked. You are

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a food stylist. Can you give a home cook some tips or techniques on how to plate their food to enhance its beauty? Like I mentioned before, I rely on fresh produce and microgreens (I love this new company called Verdini Petit Greens) to enhance my plating. A little goes a long way. Also, don’t be afraid to play around with sauces and dressings. You can brush them onto plates with a pastry brush or a spoon. Perfection isn’t the goal anymore nowadays. How about some ingredients a cook should always have in his or her kitchen? You don’t need a million different spices and sauces in order to cook well. Staples like kosher salt, black pepper, lemons, garlic, onions, fresh herbs and honey will do just fine. Using fresh, in-season produce will give you far better results than sauces and exotic ingredients. It’s a new year. Is there anything else on the horizon for you? I am very excited about a new project I am collaborating in. It is called betweencarpools.com; it’s a forum for the busy Jewish woman, a positive, helpful website with recipes, housekeeping tips, parenting help and just fun reads. We (me and my colleagues) felt that the frum world was missing a website for the Jewish mom. Check it out, I am sure you will love it. Renee, thank you for spending some time with us this morning. We can’t wait to try out some of your delicious dishes.


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You Want on Your Table This Rosh Hashana BY RAIZEL DRUXMAN

The New Year is a time for introspection and growth and also provides the perfect opportunity to get out of your comfort zone and try new things. If you don’t want to plunge into the deep end right away, start with small changes. When you pick out your wines for Rosh Hashana, be brave and try a new brand or vintage. Here are a few wines to kickstart the new you.

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Yarden Blanc de Blanc Champagne 2008 A special sparkling wine made in the traditional champagne style is the perfect way to get into the festive spirit. With a bit of graceful creaminess, this complex sparkling wine is crisp, elegant and drinkable. Great served on its own as an aperitif, the wine also pairs wonderfully with a delicate cheese soufflé, a selection of fish tempura, or smoked salmon.

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Galil Alon A nuanced red wine with flavors of sweet plum, licorice and an edge of spiciness with pepper, cloves and sweet spices. Drink it this Rosh Hashana to start off the year right. It is best served with medium-intense flavored food like a braised shoulder or lamb rubbed in oriental spices. Hermon Indigo 2014 A flavorful and medium-bodied red blend that makes a great everyday drinking wine. A very

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affordable wine for its flavor, Hermon Indigo is a big favorite as it goes well with a wide variety of foods including roasted lamb, spare ribs, a good steak, or grilled vegetable antipasti.

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Yarden Merlot 2012 An elegant rich red wine full of complexity, this merlot displays many layers of flavor that continue to surprise as the wine breathes. Yarden Merlot pairs delightfully with main dishes such as beef short ribs, grilled lamb chops, roast turkey, or a porcini mushroom tart.

Yarden Muscat A sweet yet elegant dessert wine. It is a delightfully light dessert wine and is perfect when you want to enjoy something for a sweet New Year. It pairs well with most desserts including various cheeses, or fruit desserts such as fresh strawberries with whipped cream, or dark chocolate.

Recanati Shiraz Galil Elyon 2015 This Shiraz is a beautiful black-purple color and has deep and powerful flavor of violets, lavender and black pepper, accompanied by aromas of oak. Splurge for the holidays and serve this wine with a rich-flavored Porterhouse.

Recanati Carignan Wild Reserve 2014 A wonderfully festive red wine that contains unique aromas and flavors of black plum, berries and pecans. Its rich flavor lends itself perfectly to be enjoyed with a delicious holiday meal of sizzling steaks.

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Gvaot Masada 2013 Masada is a powerful, complex red wine blend with great aging potential. Even with the rich flavors, Masada is smooth, elegant and easy to drink. An excellent match for complex meat dishes such as beef Wellington, tournedos-style filet, slow-roasted saddle or leg of lamb with root vegetables.

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Château Haut Peyraguey Sauternes Sauternes is a distinctively flavored French white wine balancing sweetness with the zest of acidity. This delicious and light wine tastes of apricots, honey and peaches with a nutty note. Sauternes is a classic match with foie gras, but can be paired with a variety of foods.

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Midbar Southern White 2014 A dry white blend of Chardonnay, Viognier, Chenin Blanc and Gewurztraminer, this wine has aromas of apricots, lemons, apples and pears and hints of lime. Medium to full-bodied, this wine is best served with grilled fish and roasted vegetables.

Whatever vintage of wine you usually prefer, now is the time to try some fresh new flavors. With an ever-expanding variety of top quality kosher wines, pamper yourself and bring in the New Year with a wine that you will love. It might not be your usual, but now’s your opportunity for freshness, even when it comes to the wine on your table.


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Rosh Hashana Recipe Roundup By Naomi Nachman

Here are some of the recipes which have appeared in The Jewish Home for the last several years. I have been getting phone calls to repeat the recipes again in the upcoming Rosh Hashana issue. Please enjoy this roundup. Wishing all my readers a kesiva v’chasima tova. With Rosh Hashana just around the corner, I try to prepare for my family a beautiful simanim platter reflecting the variety of yehi ratzons that we make on Rosh Hashana evening. Each family may have their

own minhag of what they use. The platters make the table look elegant and the kids can also get involved by making beautiful centerpieces with multi-colored apples and jars of funky honeys. We like the honey bear, but I also get honey straws. To enhance the presentation, I buy multi-section platters or plates and I place each of the simanim dishes in each compartment so that each siman is highlighted. I serve it with a mini-fork and I serve the soup in a shot glass.

Simanim Recipes APPLES AND HONEY The first siman is the most wellknown, the apple dipped into honey. There are so many delicious apples. Choose your family’s favorite type of apple. Here are some suggestions for apples to bake with: Golden Delicious, Granny Smith, Cortland and Macintosh. For fresh apples (i.e., apples to be eaten fresh), you might want to try: Grapples, Honey Crisp, and Fuji Gala.

DATES, TEMARIM

Date Muffins Ingredients Crumb topping 1 cup flour 1 cup sugar 1/8 cup desiccated coconut

(optional) ½ cup canola oil Muffins 2 cups whole dates, pitted ¾ cup boiling water 2 cups flour 2 ½ teaspoons baking powder ½ teaspoon salt ½ cup canola oil ¾ cup packed dark brown sugar 2 eggs 1 teaspoon vanilla

Preparation To make the crumb topping: In a medium bowl, stir together the flour, sugar and coconut. Using a fork, stir oil into the mixture until well combined and mixture begins to hold together but is crumbly. To make the muffins: Preheat the oven to 375°F. Grease a 12-cup muffin tin. Place the dates in a shallow bowl (in a single layer if possible), pour the boiling water over them, and soak for 15 minutes. Transfer the dates and soaking liquid to a food processor and puree until almost smooth but

Divide the batter among muffin tins. Top with the streusel and press down gently to adhere. Bake for 30 minutes.

POMEGRANATE, RIMON

a few pea-sized fruit pieces remain. Set aside to cool slightly. In a medium bowl, combine the flour, baking powder, and salt. Set aside. In the bowl of an electric mixer, mix together the oil and brown sugar. With the motor running, mix in the eggs one at a time. Add the vanilla. Add half of the flour mixture and mix until moistened. Follow with the date puree, and when thoroughly combined, mix in remainder of the flour mixture. Scrape down the sides and give a final stir with a spatula to make sure all ingredients are thoroughly combined.

Pomegranate Salad Ingredients

Dressing ¼ cup apple cider vinegar (optional if you don’t eat vinegar during Tishrei) 1 tsp. salt ¼ cup pomegranate juice 1 tsp dry mustard ½ cup sugar ½ red onion diced finely ½ cup olive oil


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Salad 1 head romaine lettuce 1 pomegranate, seeded 1 jicama, peeled & cubed 1 avocado, peeled & cubed 1 mango, peeled & cubed

In a pan with a steamer insert, steam the green beans until fork-tender, 7 to 10 minutes. Drain and set aside. In a skillet over medium-high heat, heat vegetable oil until it starts to shimmer. Add mushroom slices and sauté until they lose their moisture, 3 to 4 minutes, stirring constantly so they don’t burn. Reduce heat to medium, and add the onion and olive oil. Stir and cook until onions begin to brown, 3 to 4 minutes.

Preparation Place all ingredients in a food processor or blender and pulse until smooth. Taste and adjust seasonings and ingredients as desired. Chill and store in the refrigerator for up to 3 days or freeze for longer storage.

sheet. Drizzle with olive oil and rub on both sides of pumpkin. Season with salt, spices and brown sugar. Roast for 20-25 minutes, depending on thickness of pumpkin slices.

LEEKS, KARTI

Potato Leek Soup

Preparation To prepare the dressing: Place the onion in a food processor and finely chop. Add in all ingredients except the oil and pulse. Then, while machine is running, slowly add oil in one steady stream. Pour dressing ingredients into a jar. Store in the refrigerator until ready to use. To make the salad: Wash and dry lettuce leaves. Carefully (pomegranate juice stains) remove seeds from the pomegranate. Combine lettuce, avocado, pomegranate seeds and jicama in a salad bowl. Just before serving, sprinkle some of the dressing on the salad and toss.

BEETROOT, SELEK

Beet Hummus Stir in the drained green beans until they are evenly coated with oil and cook until warm. Sprinkle fresh basil over beans and mushrooms and season to taste with salt and pepper.

PUMPKIN OR GOURD, KRA GREEN BEANS, RUBIA

Green Beans with Mushrooms

Ingredients 4 cups trimmed and cut (1 inch long) green beans 1 teaspoon vegetable oil 1 cup sliced mushrooms (I use a variety of cremini and shitake) ¼ cup finely chopped white or yellow onion 2 tablespoons extra virgin olive oil 2 tablespoons chopped fresh basil Salt and freshly ground black pepper

Roasted Pumpkin

Ingredients 1 small pumpkin, peeled and cubed 1 tablespoon olive oil Sea salt Ground cloves Ground cinnamon ground nutmeg 1 TBS packed brown sugar

Preparation Heat oven to 400°F. Using a large metal spoon, scoop out the seeds and insides of the pumpkin. Use a sharp chef’s knife to cube the pumpkin, about 1-inch pieces. Place pumpkin slices on baking

Adapted from simplyrecipes.com

Ingredients ½ pound beets (about 4 medium sized beets), scrubbed clean, cooked, peeled, and cubed* 2 TBS tahini sesame seed paste 5 TBS lemon juice 1 small clove garlic, chopped 1 TBS ground cumin 1 TBS lemon zest (zest from approx. 2 lemons) Generous pinch of sea salt or kosher salt Fresh ground pepper to taste *To cook the beets, cut off any tops, scrub the roots clean, put them in a covered dish with about ¼-inch of water in a 375°F oven, and cook until easily penetrated with a knife or fork. Alternatively, cover with water in a saucepan and simmer until tender, about ½ hour. Peel once they have cooled.

Ingredients 2 tablespoon canola oil 10 russet potatoes, peeled and cut into large pieces 6 leeks (whites only), thoroughly washed and sliced 1 TBS flour 6 cups vegetable stock (I use Trade Joe’s soup stock in the box) Salt and freshly ground pepper

Preparation In an 8 quart stock pot, sauté leeks until soft. Watch for burning. Add flour and mix continuously for 2 minutes on low flame. This will help thicken the soup. Put the potatoes and the stock into the pot. Sprinkle with salt and pepper. Boil until the potatoes are soft, 15 to 20 minutes. When potatoes are soft, use an immersion blender until the soup is smooth and simmer until the soup has thickened, about 20 minutes. Note: When you add the stock make sure you fill it only to the top of the potatoes or it will be too watery.


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HEAD OF THE FISH This one is a little tricky. My family and I are a little queasy, so we don’t put an actual fish head on the table. Instead, I buy JuJu gummy fish candy and cut the heads off. However, when I was growing up, my parents always had a fish head on the table. It was cleaned out by my grandmother and then she took the homemade gefilte fish mixture and she stuffed it inside a salmon head and boiled it for 2 hours. Apparently, it was delicious. (I wouldn’t know!). * * * I love to serve the different simanim featured in my recipes throughout the meal. This salad is perfect in taste and has perfect eye appeal with all the colorful ingredients.

Simanim Salad Ingredients 1 large granny smith apple, finely chopped ½ cup pomegranate seeds ½ cup leek finely sliced, white part only 1 tablespoon honey 1 medium carrot shredded 1 small yellow beet, peeled and finely shredded 3 Medjool dates, pitted and finely chopped, about ¼ of a cup 2 TBS cilantro, chopped or parsley 2 limes freshly squeezed 3 cups arugula Kosher salt to taste 2 tablespoon avocado oil or extra virgin olive oil

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Preparation Mix everything together in a bowl and let it marinate for ½ hour, except for the arugula which you should add in right before serving and toss again. Many years ago my mother was visiting me in New York for the Yamim Noraim and we were busy cooking together in my kitchen. The two of us were testing out new recipes for a fish cooking class that I was scheduled to give for Ossie’s Fish in the Gourmet Glatt supermarket. We came up with an idea for a sauce that used some of the simanim from Rosh Hashana. After extensive testing and tweaking, we finally came up with a great balance and I introduced the recipe at that class. It was an instant hit. Since then Siman Fish has been one of my favorites and has been one of the most popular of my recipes. NOTE: This recipe easily doubles, freezes well and the sauce can also be used to spruce up leftover corn beef or chicken cutlets.

“Siman” fish A special fish to bring in the sweet new year

Ingredients 1-2 pounds tilapia cut in half lengthwise 2 TBS curry powder ½ cup cornstarch Salt and pepper Olive oil for frying 3 leeks, washed and cleaned and sliced 2 cloves garlic 4 carrots sliced into rings

1 cup ketchup 1 teaspoon cinnamon ¾ cup brown sugar Pinch cinnamon 1 can pineapple chunks in heavy syrup 2 cups water, divided 1 ½ TBS cornstarch

Preparation Rinse then pat the fish dry and season with salt and pepper. Mix the cornstarch and curry together in a small bowl. Dip fish in mixture and shake off excess. Heat oil in a sauté pan and sear the fish on medium heat until crisp, about 4 minutes on each side. (It should look a little yellow from curry). Place fish in a 9x13 oven to tableware dish and set aside. In the same pan, add the leeks and sauté until soft. Add the garlic and carrots and sauté for 2 more minutes. Add ketchup, pinch of cinnamon, brown sugar, can of pineapple chunks with the liquid, and half the water. Bring to a boil and simmer for 3 minutes. In a small bowl, combine the cornstarch and remaining water until cornstarch is dissolved and add to simmering sauce. Bring back to a boil until sauce thickens, stirring constantly. Season with salt and pepper to taste. Pour sauce over the fish in the pan and bake covered for 15 minutes at 350°F.

Naomi Nachman, the owner of The Aussie Gourmet, caters weekly and Shabbat/ Yom Tov meals for families and individuals within The Five Towns and neighboring communities, with a specialty in Pesach catering. Naomi is a contributing editor to this paper and also produces and hosts her own weekly radio show on the Nachum Segal Network stream called “A Table for Two with Naomi Nachman.” Naomi gives cooking presentations for organizations and private groups throughout the New York/New Jersey Metropolitan area. In addition, Naomi has been a guest host on the QVC TV network and has been featured in cookbooks, magazines as well as other media covering topics related to cuisine preparation and personal chefs. To obtain additional recipes, join The Aussie Gourmet on Facebook or visit Naomi’s blog. Naomi can be reached through her website, www. theaussiegourmet.com or at (516) 295-9669.


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he Yeshiva Har Torah Kitah Aleph journey to learn to read and write in Ivrit (Hebrew) kicked off with an exciting start. After meeting the characters of their virtual classroom, the children received a special surprise visit from Ari-ot the Lion. Ariot (who some say bears a striking resemblance to our beloved Menahel,

Rabbi Menchel) traveled all the way from Eretz Yisrael to wish the children a warm mazal tov upon beginning their journey. He presented each student with a new choveret (workbook) that each child proudly accepted with anticipation and excitement. We look forward to what will surely be a year of tremendous growth and success for our first graders at YHT.

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he Selichos days are mesugal for nighttime tefillah. Kollel Chatzos introduces a new offer wherein the talmidei chachamim will be mispallel for supporters from today until after Yom Kippur. The yemei rachamim v’ratzon are fast approaching, and all of Klal Yisroel seeks to garner as many zechusim as possible. The office of Kollel Chatzos is abuzz with activity. Yidden from all over the world are calling, asking to have the holy Chatzos talmidei chachamim daven for them during the auspicious hours after chatzos halayla, when the gates to heaven are wide open and Hashem is accepts our tefillos b’rachamim u’v’ratzon. Now, in the Selichos days, all of Klal Yisroel arises before the sun to be mispallel in the holy night hours when our tefillos are more readily answered. The talmidei chachamim at Kollel Chatzos awaken at midnight each night of the year to learn and daven during the auspicious time, effecting

refuos and yeshuos in Klal Yisroel. During these holy days, many seek to secure a partnership with Kollel Chatzos in order to declare their oneness with the talmidei chachamim. They select the talmidei chachamim as their representatives to beseech heaven on their behalf and secure them a sweet new year. It is worthy to note that during the current Elul days there has been much participation from the tzibur at the kollel. Yidden taking the opportunity, during these days of closeness to Hashem, to awaken early and join the talmidei chachamim of Kollel Chatzos in their Torah study. It is our hope that the power of Torah and tefillah at Chatzos Halayla will bring an abundance of blessing to all of Klal Yisroel, and that we should all be granted a sweet new year when we will finally be zoche to greet Moshiach. Kollel Chatzos wishes all Chatzos partners and all of Klal Yisroel a sweet and happy New Year.

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A Decade of Chazaq Celebrated at Gala Dinner PHOTO CREDIT: GABE SOLOMON, SHUA KATZ AND DENNIS SHORE

By Sergey Kadinsky As summer comes to an end, there is one event that brings together the rabbis, elected officials, activists, business leaders, and volunteers representing the Queens Jewish community. Chazaq, founded a decade ago by a teenager from Forest Hills, now a recognized and respected force in inspiring men and women of all ages and preserving the Jewish heritage of the next generation. “Many people associate Chazaq with lectures that give chizuk to the frum community,” said founder Rabbi Ilan Meirov. “But we also have a huge operation behind the scenes,” referring to after-school programs for public school students. “These programs have changed the lives of hundreds of youth thanks to the involvement of community members.” When Rabbi Meirov’s brother Yaniv started Chazaq, most teens from the former Soviet Union were in local public schools, knowing little about Jewish observance with many of them getting into trouble. Inspired at age 15, he printed a one-page parsha sheet newsletter that he distributed around Queens, and also began organizing lectures in shuls such as Beth Gavriel in Forest Hills. As the popularity of the events grew, Yaniv and Rabbi Ilan met with prominent rabbis and gathered the support of community leaders to build a comprehensive organization that reaches as many individuals as possible. It was put to the test this past summer, when Chazaq sought to place Jewish public school students into local yeshivas by finding

the schools willing to reserve seats, philanthropists and organizations to assist with tuition payments, friends and relatives to make the phone calls, and the floor of the Beth Gavriel synagogue where the back to school forum took place last month. The result was nearly 200 students making the transfer to yeshivas a week before classes began. The honorees this year are widely recognized for their contributions to the community. Isaac Sasson is known to many for his work as a cancer researcher and Queens College professor, Jewish War Veterans member, civic activist, as well as a past candidate for public office. Queens Jewish Link publisher Yaakov Serle, a lifelong resident of Kew Gardens Hills received the Community Builder award. After

any years of promoting advertising in established Jewish publications, he co-founded this newspaper with Naftali Szrolowitz, giving the Orthodox Queens Jewish community its own forum for exchanging ideas, news, public events, and discounts. An alum of public schools who became more observant over the years, he sent his six children to yeshivot, a source of tremendous pride for him and his wife Atara. Forest Hills resident Baruch Sendic received the Community Service award, bringing fellow Young Israel of Forest Hills member Eugen Gluck with him to the stage. An activist for Soviet Jews in his younger years, he recognized that once the Soviets had “let our people go,” the ongoing task is now to let our people know their heritage. As he supports the education of younger Jewish Queens residents, he also remains a lifelong student, attending the Retirees Kollel at the young Israel of Kew Gardens Hills and at the Agra d’Pirka program in Congregation Nachlas Yitzchok. With a decade of accomplished talmidim, this year’s Chazaq dinner had the opportunity to honor not only its generous supporters but also its graduates. Moshe Borukhov, 25, and Imanuel Inoyatov, 24, both attended Forest Hills High School and have since embraced Jewish observance, volunteering and supporting the organization that made it possi-

ble. Along with their respective wives Sharona and Aliza, they were honored as examples of individuals who have benefited from Chazaq and are now giving back through their time, resources and promoting its work in the community. Other honorees included the partners of the popular Sushi Fusion chain, whose dedication to the community goes beyond serving delicious foods, as they have been very active in supporting Chazaq’s afterschool programs and are part of Chazaq’s board of directors. Queens is fortunate to have many dinners supporting worthy organizations, but the Chazzq dinner is truly an event, where a stand-up comedian keeps it kosher while delivering laugh out loud observations of Jewish life, and chart-topping Benny Friedman songs are performed by Benny Friedman in person, where one would expect sushi at the shmorg, instead finds popular staples of Middle eastern and Bukharian cuisine at the table – including the bowl-shaped matzah-thin non-toki on which to make the hamotzi blessing. Plenty of celebrating but as Rabbi Ilan Meirov noted, still plenty of work ahead, until all Jewish public school students have the opportunity to reconnect with their heritage. For more information about Chazaq please email info@chazaq. org or call 917-617-3636


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YOSS Mechina’s Learning Program on the Chofetz Chaim’s Yahrtzeit

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n Tuesday September 27, the 24th day of Chodesh Elul, the the Mechina division at Yeshiva of South Shore commemorated the yahrtzheit of the great Torah personality and luminary, Rav Yisrael Meir Kagan zt”l, known as the Chofetz Chaim. Rabbi Zev Davidowitz, the dynamic Menahel HaMechina, spoke to the talmidim about the impact that this great tzaddik had on our nation during tumultuous times in the early 20th century. The boys heard about the care and concern that the Chofetz Chaim had for every single Jew of every background, and his deep concern to help strengthen their religious observance. He wrote many seforim that addressed important topics such as kashrus and Shabbos. He saw that many young Jewish men were being conscripted into the Russian army and were falling to the wayside in their avodas Hashem. Rather than just standing on the sidelines, he wrote them letters of chizuk to help them withstand their challenges. The boys were

YOSS 7th grade rebbe, Rabbi Lemberger, learning from sifrei Chofetz Chaim with his class

taught that all of Klal Yisrael are responsible for one another. The Chofetz Chaim is named after his sefer on the laws of loshon hara by the same name. The boys were told over the famous viewpoint of Rav Hutner in his letters – that one shouldn’t think for a moment that the Chofetz Chaim had an easy time

conquering his yetzer hara to avoid speaking loshon hara. He worked on himself! All serious growth in avodas Hashem requires a constant battle, and it takes hard work. What a powerful message for the boys to hear during their formative years. Within the classroom, every rebbe prepared special shiurim from

the writings of the Chofetz Chaim, including the Sefer Mishna Berurah and Sefer Chofetz Chaim. All the classes were treated to halachik insights of the Chofetz Chaim into hilchos tefillah and hilchos loshon Hara. Additionally, the boys recited Tehilim perek tes vav, l’iluy nishmas his neshama.


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Ramat Givat Zeev Project Lures Hundreds of Families from USA

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rapidly growing number of Orthodox families from the Los Angeles and New York communities are purchasing homes in the luxurious Ramat Givat Zeev project, located on the outskirts of Jerusalem. Ramat Givat Zeev, which is being erected by Chish Nofei Israel at a fast clip, is anticipating providing the keys to its first residents within the next 18 months. This unique private community has already been dubbed the “5 Towns of Jerusalem” by the hundreds of buyers who have already purchased a property. The new neighborhood is designed to mimic the popular Long Island, New York, Jewish community by providing a wide range of services. A synagogue, mikvah and educational facilities will cater to the residents’ spiritual needs. At the same time, Ramat Givat Zeev’s lifestyle infrastructure is also being constructed, high-

lighted by lush green parks, as well as tennis and basketball courts and a plush country club. All of these aspects have transformed Ramat Givat Zeev into one of the most sought after real estate projects in metro Jerusalem. Recently, a significant number of Los Angeles residents purchased dozens of homes in the project, which accentuates the growing popularity Ramat Givat Zeev amongst potential olim to Israel. According to a company spokesperson for Chish Nofei Israel (Ramat Givat Zeev’s real estate entrepreneurs), “We are especially proud of the fact that we have had a direct impact on the massive aliyah of American families to Israel.” They added, “Newcomers will find assistance in their integration into Israeli society by helping them find jobs and deal with various Aliyah issues,

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oyal Wine Corporation is proud to introduce Boondocks American Whiskey, a creation from Whisky Advocate Lifetime Achievement Award winner Dave Scheurich who has helped to create some of America’s most recognized whiskeys over the last 40 years. Available in both 95 Proof and Cask Strength 127 Proof, the brand’s entrance into the rapidly growing spirits category marks a new level for American whiskey, introducing a brand that could just be Dave’s crowning achievement. “Royal Wine Corp. has a rich legacy of producing spirits, dating back to the early days of Baron Philip Herzog,” said Mordy Herzog, CEO of Royal Wine Corporation. “We produced beer, wine and spirits in the 1800s and now nine generations later, we could think of no better individual to get back into the spirits game with than David Scheurich, a man with similar ethos and perspective as our organization and family. We are honored that he agreed to come out of retirement to oversee the development of the Boondocks brand as our master distiller.” “Boondocks is an exciting project to be a part of,” said Dave Scheurich, Boondocks’ Master Distiller. “With the development of this brand, we wanted to bring a superior product

with exceptional taste to the market, but most importantly we wanted a whiskey that delivered an ultra smooth finish—something easy to enjoy.”

Aged for 11 years in American white oak barrel in Kentucky, Boondocks American Whiskey 95 Proof is made from corn, rye and malt. Light in color but rich, nuanced and complex, fruitiness and exotic spices enhance some of the subtler aromatic characteristics like the toasted marshmallow oak barrel notes.

something that is almost unheard of today in Israel.” The soaring interest in the project is such that Chish Nofei Israel anticipates selling out all of its homes in Ramat Givat Zeev within a year. Chish Nofei Israel anticipates that demand will outstrip the supply of homes

available, thus creating a lucrative market for the project’s original buyers, making it an excellent investment opportunity.

Mouthfeel is creamy and buttery with long pleasant finish. Overall, the whiskey is spicy and warm but does not burn and is sweet like cotton candy. Boondocks American Whiskey 95 Proof has already garnered several accolades including a Gold Medal /90 Points from the Los Angeles International Spirits Competition 2016 and was named a Finalist in the Ultimate Spirits Challenge 2016, receiving 92 Points. Boondocks American Whiskey Cask Strength 127 Proof has distinctive aromas of rich caramel and vanilla. A robust and pleasantly aggressive palate is highlighted by fall spices and oak that leaves a long lasting finish. This expression received a Gold Medal/91 Points in the Los Angeles International Spirits Competition 2016 and Best of Category in the Ultimate Spirits Challenge 2016. A limited edition expression will be added to the Boondocks’ portfolio later this year followed by further marques in 2017. From Dave’s perspective, the brand vision is clear, “With each expression of Boondocks, our intention is to share unique, complex and flavorful spirits that will interest and satisfy consumers.” Boondocks’ iconic packaging is elegant and timeless, reminiscent of a pocket flask with a slight indent on the front and back to allow for easy handling. The brand’s bold print logo is

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Credit Card Companies are Increasingly Regulating the Industry

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ecently, several prominent credit cards have seen a makeover in terms of regulation and application restrictions which are leaving longtime customers high and dry. Both Chase and CitiBank have introduced new guidelines regarding eligibility for new cards, specifically irking travel gurus who utilize their cards and points to maximize on rewards and travel. Chase is one of the most accessible and well-known banks in the U.S. It should come as no surprise that with great cards such as Chase Sapphire Preferred, it has become fairly common for people to apply for several of their rewards cards simultaneously for ultimate value. To the dismay of Chase loyalists everywhere, the 5/24 rule has taken over. What this means is that “Chase will not issue you a new Chase credit card if you have opened five or more credit cards over the past 24 months.” To add insult to injury, this even includes any card in which the applicant is considered an authorized user. Theoretically, a person with outstanding credit and years of customer loyalty would be duly denied without reprieve. Ouch. On August 28 CitiBank updated their rules regarding rewards, effectively limiting what customers will be able to receive in terms of “sign up bonuses” for the future. They now only allow their customers to receive a sign up bonus every 24 month, per “type” of card. What does this mean? That you won’t be able to earn a Citi ThankYou credit card signup bonus if you opened or closed any Citi ThankYou cards within the past 24 months. In addition, this rule also applies to Citi’s other cobranded cards, such as Citi AAdvantage cards and Citi Hilton cards. To clarify – let’s look at the evolution of the coveted Citi Prestige card “Bonus Rules.” Old rules: Bonus ThankYou Points not available if you have had a Citi Prestige card opened or closed in the past 24 months Now the following new terms are

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Talmidim of Rabbi Yehuda Deutsch’s third grade class at Yeshiva Darchei Torah hold artificial specimens of each of the shivas haminim – the seven species of grain and fruit with which Eretz Yisrael is blessed

YCQ Annual Trip to Ellis Island and the 9/11 Memorial

By Jeremy Haviv and Savi Kessler

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uring the week of September 20, the eighth grade boys and girls from Yeshiva of Central Queens each took their annual trip to Ellis Island and the 9/11 Memorial. We learned all about how immigrants came by ship from Europe to Ellis Island and about the struggle the immigrants went through just so they can stay in America. We got to see how the immigrants lived their lives before they left for America and when they arrived at Ellis Island until they were either approved to stay in America or sent back to the country they came from. We also watched a documen-

tary on how the immigrants felt and the hardships they endured to get to America. Then we traveled to the 9/11 Memorial where the students all went to locate the victim that they were assigned by their teacher. Time was spent researching a little bit about our victims. This gave us a more personal connection to each victim. Then each of us used a piece of parchment paper and sketched out our victim’s name. We also saw the Statue of Liberty (from afar) as well as Battery Park. We all had a great time on this trip and it was a very educational and meaningful experience for everyone who attended. It was definitely a day to remember.


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Bus Safety at HALB Lev Chana

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ate Wednesday morning, HALB Lev Chana Early Childhood Center conducted bus safety sessions for our 4-year-old nursery and kindergarten children. In cooperation with and with

the assistance of Charmaine of Independent Bus Company, a big yellow school bus, driven by Bus Driver McCoy, arrived and parked in front of the preschool. Each class boarded the bus with their teachers and

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went over bus safety rules, i.e. sitting belted in the front half of the bus, speaking to your friend using your indoor voices, no eating and drinking on the bus, and no standing, walking, jumping… The children themselves provided reasons for the safety rules. When asked who was in charge of the bus, everyone responded, “The driver!” They know we don’t eat or drink on the bus because someone might, chas v’shalom, choke or there might be someone on the bus with allergies. They know that yelling on the bus bothers their friends and can distract the bus driver. Standing, walking, or jumping on the bus is dangerous for them and distracting for the bus driver. We further explained that if their belt is not working for some reason, it is important for them to remain seated because the seats themselves were designed to cushion them if the bus stops short. All the children practiced buckling and unbuckling

their seat belts. They laughed when Morah asked them to try it with their eyes closed and were astonished that they were able to do it. Of course, our children know that saying hello when getting on and thank you when getting off is a kiddush Hashem and very much appreciated by the drivers. Thank you to Bus Driver McCoy and Charmaine of Independent for helping us educate our children in bus safety.


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Morris who is in his high eighties is driving down the freeway in Florida when his wife, Sadie, calls him. In a frantic voice she says, “Morris, are you okay? I just heard on the news that there’s a car going the wrong way down the freeway. Be careful out there!” Morris replies, “Sadie, it’s not just one, it’s two hundred of them!”

Mr. and Mrs. Adler have three daughters and each daughter has two brothers. How many children do Mr. and Mrs. Adler have? See answer on next page

Wordisms: Words that should be but aren’t c AQUADEXTROUS [ak wa deks’trus] (adj.) – Possessing the ability to turn the bathtub tap on and off with your toes.

c GLUTTENVY [glut e’n vee] (n) – The sweeping bitterness you feel when the food you ordered doesn’t look as good as another diner’s.

c CARPERPETUATION [kar’pur pet u a shun] (n.) – The act, when vacuuming, of running over a string or a piece of lint at least a dozen times, reaching over and picking it up, examining it, then putting it back down to give the vacuum one more chance.

c LACTOMANGULATION [lak’ to man gyu lay’ shun] (n.) – Manhandling the “open here” spout on a milk container so badly that one has to resort to the “illegal” side.

c DESSERTION [dez ert’ shun] (n.) – The act of making your husband leave the wedding, even though the Viennese tables have not yet been brought out. (That’s right, because no man would leave early on his own in that situation) c DISCONFECT [dis kon fekt’] (v.) – To sterilize the piece of confection (a lollypop) you dropped on the floor by blowing on it, assuming this will somehow “remove” all the germs. c ELBONICS [el bon’iks] (n.) – The actions of two people maneuvering for one armrest on a plane c FRUST [frust] (n.) – The small line of debris that refuses to be swept onto the dust pan and keeps backing a person across the room until he finally decides to give up and sweep it under the rug.

c NOODLECIDE [noo du’hl syde] (n.): When you’re boiling pasta and the noodle you want to test gets scared and leaps off the spoon and plummets beneath the burner. c PARKANOIA [park uh’ noy uh] (n.) – The act of parking your new car miles away from a store entrance to protect it from stray shopping carts c PEPPIER [peph ee ay’] (n.) – The waiter at a fancy restaurant whose sole purpose seems to be walking around asking diners if they want fresh ground pepper. c PHONESIA [fo nee’ z’ huh] (n.) – The affliction of dialing a phone number and forgetting whom you were calling just as they answer. c TELECRASTINATION [tel e kras tin ay’ shun] (n.) – The act of always letting the phone ring at least twice before you pick it up.


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Fruitrivia

2. What part of a grape can be pressed to produce an oil? a. Pulp b. Stem c. Skin d. Seeds 3. What is contained in an apple seed? a. Oil b. Vitamin D c. Cyanide d. Vitamin B-17 4. Which country grows and exports the most pears in the world? a. U.S.A. b. Argentina c. China d. Columbia

5. How long can olive trees live? a. 10-20 years b. Over 50 years c. Over 100 years d. Over 2,000 years 6. The common garden strawberry is genetically an octoploid, meaning it has eight sets of what? a. Chromosomes b. Chloroplasts c. Tentacles d. Nucleobases

olive tree near Beer Sheva that is believed to be to be close to 3,000-years-old. 6. Humans are diploids, meaning they have two copies of each chromosome, one from the mother and one from the father. Strawberries have eight. Polyploidy (multiple sets of chromosomes) is common in plants, but extremely rare in animals. Strawberries’ polyploidy has made them good candidates in the field of genetic research.

Answers: 1. A 2. D 3. B- That is right, apple seeds do not contain Vitamin D, but they do contain small traces of cyanide. It is not dangerous to eat apple seeds because the cyanide that is being released is usually in small enough doses that it either passes through the digestive system or the body can combat it. 4. C- It’s not just your Apple iPods that are made in China. 55% of worldwide production of pears is in China. (Ever feel like you are eating a “knock-off” pear?) 5. D- On Har Hazeisim, there are olive trees that are believed to be approximately 2,000-years-old. A botanist from Bar Ilan University in Israel supposedly located an

Wisdom key 4-6 correct: You know a mighty lot about fruits. I guess you are a fruitcake! 2-3 correct: A moderate amount of fruit is still better than nothing; a moderate amount of knowledge will get you nowhere, though. 0-1 correct: My friend, it is all about the acai berries! It’s not that you are not smart; it’s just that your brain is missing some key nutrients. Stop snacking on all of those apple seeds. Call me ASAP and I will set you up on an acai berry program. You will see the changes right away. (Due to high demand, those whose names start with A through M can begin calling today; the rest of you can start calling tomorrow.) Call for your free sample; shipping and handling not included.

Answer to Riddle: 5

1. Befitting an ancient fruit, the pomegranate’s name comes from the Latin “pomum granatus.” What does “pomum granatus” mean? a. Seeded apple b. Tart fruit c. Red pulp d. It means: If you stain yourself with this fruit, you will have to send your shirt to the cleaners 7 times to get the stain out. So pick up that napkin and tuck and make yourself into a big macho man!

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Construction Project Manager Luxury or Necessity? By Gedaliah Borvick

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y client wanted to purchase an apartment in a particular building in Jerusalem’s lovely Talbieh community but had no interest in doing renovations. “Find me a renovated 3-bedroom apartment in this building and I’ll purchase it immediately,” was his directive. We canvassed the entire building numerous times, but unfortunately no such apartment came onto the market for two years. Finally, a 3-bedroom unit became available for sale but, alas, it required a complete renovation. I called the client and explained that an apartment with lovely views just came onto the market at a fair price but it needed work. His initial response was that the deal was not for him. I explained that my partner Eliezer Goldberg has a zoning and building permit company called Heter,

which employs six architects and two expediters. As he is well-connected in the construction industry, I reasoned, we can hire a good kablan (contractor) and a project manager to oversee the construction. He surprisingly responded, “I have two words for you: shalom bayit,” and explained that they recently renovated their home in the U.S. and it caused his family so much tension that he didn’t want to undertake such a project again. We agreed that he would think about it over the weekend and that I would follow up with him a few days later. Many people who want to purchase an apartment find themselves in a similar predicament, as most of Jerusalem’s centrally located neighborhoods were developed years ago and the original apartments, now somewhat dated, need to be renovated.

They adore these charming neighborhoods but would rather not endure the challenges associated with renovating a home from afar. Let’s discuss the role of a construction project manager and how this person can alleviate many of the stresses that arise during the renovation. Simply put, project managers oversee the construction process and make sure that the contractor (1) finishes the project (2) on schedule and (3) within the agreed upon budget, without additional surprise expenses. A good project manager will make sure that any issues that were inadvertently omitted in the construction contract will not be overlooked, such as the quality of the building materials. In addition, the project manager will inspect all materials to ensure that you get what you paid for.

The construction manager will interface with the kablan on a daily basis to ensure that the project is moving forward on schedule and that all unresolved issues are being properly addressed. With larger projects (more than just a cosmetic makeover), we have found that having a professional oversee the construction process is a worthwhile investment. Often, an architect or designer will serve in this capacity, so it’s important from the outset to determine what services the architect offers, and whether you want that person to serve as your project manager. We look at a construction manager as an insurance policy, who will hopefully prevent expensive complications and aggravation. Based on our experience, hiring a good construction manager is a worthwhile investment and can help turn a renova-

tion or construction project into, dare I say, a pleasant experience. Returning to the story at the beginning of this article, our client reconsidered and purchased the apartment. Fortunately, the renovation process went smoothly, thanks to the excellent construction project manager and seasoned kablan, whom we helped him choose. I am pleased to report that the renovated apartment is absolutely beautiful and is being immensely enjoyed by our client and his family.

Gedaliah Borvick is the founder of My Israel Home (www. myisraelhome.com), a real estate agency focused on helping people from abroad buy and sell homes in Israel. To sign up for his monthly market updates, contact him at gborvick@gmail. com.


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A Vision of Hope On September 22, Israeli Prime Minister Benjamin Netanyahu spoke at the 71st sessions of the United Nations General Assembly in New York. Here are his words.

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r. President, ladies and gentlemen. What I’m about to say is going to shock you: Israel has a bright future at the UN. Now I know that hearing that from me must surely come as a surprise, because year after year I’ve stood at this very podium and slammed the UN for its obsessive bias against Israel. And the UN deserved every scathing word – for the disgrace of the General Assembly that last year passed 20 resolutions against the democratic State of Israel and a grand total of three resolutions against all the other countries on the planet. Israel – twenty; rest of the world – three. And what about the joke called the UN Human Rights Council, which each year condemns Israel more than all the countries of the world combined. As women are being systematically raped, murdered, sold into slavery across the world, which is the only country that the UN’s Commission on Women chose to condemn this year? Yep, you guessed it – Israel. Israel. Israel where women fly fighter jets, lead major corporations, head universities, preside – twice – over the Supreme Court, and have served as Speaker of the Knesset and Prime Minister. And this circus continues at UNESCO. UNESCO, the UN body

charged with preserving world heritage. Now, this is hard to believe but UNESCO just denied the 4,000-year connection between the Jewish people and its holiest site, the Temple Mount. That’s just as absurd as denying the connection between the Great Wall of China and China. Ladies and gentlemen, the UN, begun as a moral force, has become a moral farce. So when it comes to Israel at the UN, you’d probably think nothing will ever change, right? Well think again. You see, everything will change and a lot sooner than you think. The change will happen in this hall, because back home, your governments are rapidly changing their attitudes towards Israel. And sooner or later, that’s going to change the way you vote on Israel at the UN. More and more nations in Asia, in Africa, in Latin America, more and more nations see Israel as a potent partner – a partner in fighting the terrorism of today, a partner in developing the technology of tomorrow. Today Israel has diplomatic relations with over 160 countries. That’s nearly double the number that we had when I served here as Israel’s ambassador some 30 years ago. And those ties are getting broader and deeper every day. World leaders increasingly appreciate that Israel is a powerful country with one of the best intelligence services on earth. Because of our unmatched experience and proven capabilities in fighting terrorism, many of your governments seek our help in keeping your countries safe. Many also seek to benefit from Israel’s ingenuity in agriculture, in

health, in water, in cyber and in the fusion of big data, connectivity and artificial intelligence – that fusion that is changing our world in every way. You might consider this: Israel leads the world in recycling wastewater. We recycle about 90% of our wastewater. Now, how remarkable is that? Well, given that the next country on the list only recycles about 20% of its wastewater, Israel is a global water power. So if you have a thirsty world, and we do, there’s no better ally than Israel. How about cybersecurity? That’s an issue that affects everyone. Israel accounts for one-tenth of one percent of the world’s population, yet last year we attracted some 20% of the global private investment in cybersecurity. I want you to digest that number. In cyber, Israel is punching a whopping 200 times above its weight. So Israel is also a global cyber power. If hackers are targeting your banks, your planes, your power grids and just about everything else, Israel can offer indispensable help. Governments are changing their attitudes towards Israel because they know that Israel can help them protect their peoples, can help them feed them, can help them better their lives. This summer I had an unbelievable opportunity to see this change so vividly during an unforgettable visit to four African countries. This is the first visit to Africa by an Israeli prime minister in decades. Later today, I’ll be meeting with leaders from 17 African countries. We’ll discuss how Israeli technology can help

them in their efforts to transform their countries. In Africa, things are changing. In China, India, Russia, Japan, attitudes towards Israel have changed as well. These powerful nations know that, despite Israel’s small size, it can make a big difference in many, many areas that are important to them. But now I’m going to surprise you even more. You see, the biggest change in attitudes towards Israel is taking place elsewhere. It’s taking place in the Arab world. Our peace treaties with Egypt and Jordan continue to be anchors of stability in the volatile Middle East. But I have to tell you this: for the first time in my lifetime, many other states in the region recognize that Israel is not their enemy. They recognize that Israel is their ally. Our common enemies are Iran and ISIS. Our common goals are security, prosperity and peace. I believe that in the years ahead we will work together to achieve these goals, work together openly. So Israel’s diplomatic relations are undergoing nothing less than a revolution. But in this revolution, we never forget that our most cherished alliance, our deepest friendship is with the United States of America, the most powerful and the most generous nation on earth. Our unbreakable bond with the United States of America transcends parties and politics. It reflects, above all else, the overwhelming support for Israel among the American people, support which is at record highs and for which we are deeply grateful. The United Nations denounces Israel; the United States supports


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We will not accept any attempt by the UN to dictate terms to Israel. The road to peace runs through Jerusalem and Ramallah, not through New York. But regardless of what happens in the months ahead, I have total confidence that in the years ahead the revolution in Israel’s standing among the nations will finally penetrate this hall of nations. I have so much confidence, in fact, that I predict that a decade from now an Israeli prime

throughout the developing world? The sooner the UN’s obsession with Israel ends, the better. The better for Israel, the better for your countries, the better for the UN itself. Ladies and gentlemen, if UN habits die hard, Palestinian habits die even harder. President Abbas just attacked from this podium the Balfour Declaration. He’s preparing a lawsuit against Britain for that declaration from 1917. That’s almost 100

The sooner the UN’s obsession with Israel ends, the better. The better for Israel, the better for your countries, the better for the UN itself.

minister will stand right here where I am standing and actually applaud the UN. But I want to ask you: Why do we have to wait a decade? Why keep vilifying Israel? Perhaps because some of you don’t appreciate that the obsessive bias against Israel is not just a problem for my country, it’s a problem for your countries too. Because if the UN spends so much time condemning the only liberal democracy in the Middle East, it has far less time to address war, disease, poverty, climate change and all the other serious problems that plague the planet. Are the half million slaughtered Syrians helped by your condemnation of Israel? The same Israel that has treated thousands of injured Syrians in our hospitals, including a field hospital that I built right along the Golan Heights border with Syria. Are the gays hanging from cranes in Iran helped by your denigration of Israel? That same Israel where gays march proudly in our streets and serve in our parliament, including I’m proud to say in my own Likud party. Are the starving children in North Korea’s brutal tyranny, are they helped by your demonization of Israel? Israel, whose agricultural knowhow is feeding the hungry

Israel. And a central pillar of that defense has been America’s consistent support for Israel at the UN. I appreciate President Obama’s commitment to that longstanding U.S. policy. In fact, the only time that the United States cast a UN Security Council veto during the Obama presidency was against an anti-Israel resolution in 2011. As President Obama rightly declared at this podium, peace will not come from statements and resolutions at the United Nations. I believe the day is not far off when Israel will be able to rely on many, many countries to stand with us at the UN. Slowly but surely, the days when UN ambassadors reflexively condemn Israel, those days are coming to an end. Ladies and gentlemen, today’s automatic majority against Israel at the UN reminds me of the story, the incredible story of Hiroo Onada. Hiroo was a Japanese soldier who was sent to the Philippines in 1944. He lived in the jungle. He scavenged for food. He evaded capture. Eventually he surrendered, but that didn’t happen until 1974, some 30 years after World War II ended. For decades, Hiroo refused to believe the war was over. As Hiroo was hiding in the jungle, Japanese tourists were swimming in pools in American luxury hotels in nearby Manila. Finally, mercifully, Hiroo’s former commanding officer was sent to persuade him to come out of hiding. Only then did Hiroo lay down his arms. Ladies and gentlemen, distinguished delegates from so many lands, I have one message for you today: Lay down your arms. The war against Israel at the UN is over. Perhaps some of you don’t know it yet, but I am confident that one day in the not too distant future you will also get the message from your president or from your prime minister informing you that the war against Israel at the United Nations has ended. Yes, I know, there might be a storm before the calm. I know there is talk about ganging up on Israel at the UN later this year. Given its history of hostility towards Israel, does anyone really believe that Israel will let the UN determine our security and our vital national interests?

years ago – talk about being stuck in the past. The Palestinians may just as well sue Iran for the Cyrus Declaration, which enabled the Jews to rebuild our Temple in Jerusalem 2,500 years ago. Come to think of it, why not a Palestinian class action suit against Abraham for buying that plot of land in Hebron where the fathers and mothers of the Jewish people were buried 4,000 years ago? You’re not laughing. It’s as absurd as that. To sue the British government for the Balfour Declaration? Is he kidding? And this is taken seriously here? President Abbas attacked the Balfour Declaration because it recognized the right of the Jewish people to a national home in the land of Israel. When the United Nations supported the establishment of a Jewish state in 1947, it recognized our historical and our moral rights in our homeland and to our homeland. Yet today, nearly 70 years later, the Palestinians still refuse to recognize those rights – not our right to a homeland, not our right to a state, not our right to anything. And this remains the true core of the conflict, the persistent Palestinian refusal to recognize the Jewish state in any boundary. You see, this conflict is not about the settlements. It never was.

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The conflict raged for decades before there was a single settlement, when Judea Samaria and Gaza were all in Arab hands. The West Bank and Gaza were in Arab hands and they attacked us again and again and again. And when we uprooted all 21 settlements in Gaza and withdrew from every last inch of Gaza, we didn’t get peace from Gaza – we got thousands of rockets fired at us from Gaza. This conflict rages because for the Palestinians, the real settlements they’re after are Haifa, Jaffa and Tel Aviv. Now mind you, the issue of settlements is a real one and it can and must be resolved in final status negotiations. But this conflict has never been about the settlements or about establishing a Palestinian state. It’s always been about the existence of a Jewish state, a Jewish state in any boundary. Ladies and gentlemen, Israel is ready, I am ready, to negotiate all final status issues but one thing I will never negotiate: Our right to the one and only Jewish state. Wow, sustained applause for the Prime Minister of Israel in the General Assembly? The change may be coming sooner than I thought. Had the Palestinians said yes to a Jewish state in 1947, there would have been no war, no refugees and no conflict. And when the Palestinians finally say yes to a Jewish state, we will be able to end this conflict once and for all. Now here’s the tragedy, because, see, the Palestinians are not only trapped in the past, their leaders are poisoning the future. I want you to imagine a day in the life of a 13-year-old Palestinian boy; I’ll call him Ali. Ali wakes up before school, he goes to practice with a soccer team named after Dalal Mughrabi, a Palestinian terrorist responsible for the murder of a busload of 37 Israelis. At school, Ali attends an event sponsored by the Palestinian Ministry of Education honoring Baha Alyan, who last year murdered three Israeli civilians. On his walk home, Ali looks up at a towering statue erected just a few weeks ago by the Palestinian Authority to honor Abu Sukar, who detonated a bomb in the center


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of Jerusalem, killing 15 Israelis. When Ali gets home, he turns on the TV and sees an interview with a senior Palestinian official, Jibril Rajoub, who says that if he had a nuclear bomb, he’d detonate it over Israel that very day. Ali then turns on the radio and he hears President Abbas’s adviser, Sultan Abu al-Einein, urging Palestinians, here’s a quote, “to slit the throats of Israelis wherever you find them.” Ali checks his Facebook and he sees a recent post by President Abbas’s Fatah Party calling the massacre of 11 Israeli athletes at the Munich Olympics a “heroic act.” On YouTube, Ali watches a clip of President Abbas himself saying, “We welcome every drop of blood spilled in Jerusalem.” Direct quote. Over dinner, Ali asks his mother what would happen if he killed a Jew and went to an Israeli prison. Here’s what she tells him. She tells him he’d be paid thousands of dollars each month by the Palestinian Authority. In fact, she tells him, the more Jews he would kill, the more money he’d get. Oh, and when he gets out of prison, Ali would be guaranteed a job with the Palestinian Authority. Ladies and gentlemen, all this is real. It happens every day, all the time. Sadly, Ali represents hundreds of thousands of Palestinian children who are indoctrinated with hate every moment, every hour. This is child abuse. Imagine your child undergoing this brainwashing. Imagine what it takes for a young boy or girl to break free out of this culture of hate. Some do but far too many don’t. How can any of us expect young Palestinians to support peace when their leaders poison their minds against peace? We in Israel don’t do this. We educate our children for peace. In fact, we recently launched a pilot program – my government did – to make the study of Arabic mandatory for Jewish children so that we can better understand each other, so that we can live together side-by-side in peace. Of course, like all societies, Israel has fringe elements. But it’s our response to those fringe elements, it’s our response to those fringe elements that makes all the difference. Take the tragic case of Ahmed Dawabsha. I’ll never forget visiting

Ahmed in the hospital just hours after he was attacked. A little boy, really a baby, he was badly burned. Ahmed was the victim of a horrible terrorist act perpetrated by Jews. He lay bandaged and unconscious as Israeli doctors worked around the clock to save him. No words can bring comfort to this boy or to his family. Still, as I stood by his bedside I told his uncle, “This is not our people. This is not our way.” I then ordered extraordinary measures to bring Ahmed’s assailants to justice and today the Jewish citizens of Israel accused of attacking the Dawabsha family are in jail awaiting trial. Now, for some, this story shows that both sides have their extremists

world today offer a unique opportunity to advance that peace. I commend President el-Sissi of Egypt for his efforts to advance peace and stability in our region. Israel welcomes the spirit of the Arab peace initiative and welcomes a dialogue with Arab states to advance a broader peace. I believe that for that broader peace to be fully achieved the Palestinians have to be part of it. I’m ready to begin negotiations to achieve this today – not tomorrow, not next week – today. President Abbas spoke here an hour ago. Wouldn’t it be better if instead of speaking past each other we were speaking to one another? President Abbas, instead of railing against Israel at the United Nations in New

This conflict rages because for the Palestinians, the real settlements they’re after are Haifa, Jaffa and Tel Aviv.

and both sides are equally responsible for this seemingly endless conflict. But what Ahmed’s story actually proves is the very opposite. It illustrates the profound difference between our two societies, because while Israeli leaders condemn terrorists, all terrorists, Arabs and Jews alike, Palestinian leaders celebrate terrorists. While Israel jails the handful of Jewish terrorists among us, the Palestinians pay thousands of terrorists among them. So I call on President Abbas: you have a choice to make. You can continue to stoke hatred as you did today or you can finally confront hatred and work with me to establish peace between our two peoples. Ladies and gentlemen, I hear the buzz. I know that many of you have given up on peace. But I want you to know – I have not given up on peace. I remain committed to a vision of peace based on two states for two peoples. I believe as never before that changes taking place in the Arab

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York, I invite you to speak to the Israeli people at the Knesset in Jerusalem. And I would gladly come to speak to the Palestinian parliament in Ramallah. Ladies and gentlemen, while Israel seeks peace with all our neighbors, we also know that peace has no greater enemy than the forces of militant Islam. The bloody trail of this fanaticism runs through all the continents represented here. It runs through Paris and Nice, Brussels and Baghdad, Tel Aviv and Jerusalem, Minnesota and New York, from Sydney to San Bernardino. So many have suffered its savagery: Christian and Jews, women and gays, Yazidis and Kurds and many, many others. Yet the heaviest price, the heaviest price of all has been paid by innocent Muslims. Hundreds of thousands unmercifully slaughtered. Millions turned into desperate refugees, tens of millions brutally subjugated. The defeat of militant Islam will thus be a victory for all humanity, but it would especially be a victory

for those many Muslims who seek a life without fear, a life of peace, a life of hope. But to defeat the forces of militant Islam, we must fight them relentlessly. We must fight them in the real world. We must fight them in the virtual world. We must dismantle their networks, disrupt their funding, discredit their ideology. We can defeat them and we will defeat them. Medievalism is no match for modernity. Hope is stronger than hate, freedom mightier than fear. We can do this. Ladies and gentlemen, Israel fights this fateful battle against the forces of militant Islam every day. We keep our borders safe from ISIS, we prevent the smuggling of game-changing weapons to Hezbollah in Lebanon, we thwart Palestinian terror attacks in Judea and Samaria, the West Bank, and we deter missile attacks from Hamas-controlled Gaza. That’s the same Hamas terror organization that cruelly, unbelievably cruelly, refuses to return three of our citizens and the bodies of our fallen soldiers, Oron Shaul and Hadar Goldin. Hadar Goldin’s parents, Leah and Simcha Goldin, are here with us today. They have one request – to bury their beloved son in Israel. All they ask for is one simple thing – to be able to visit the grave of their fallen son Hadar in Israel. Hamas refuses. They couldn’t care less. I implore you to stand with them, with us, with all that’s decent in our world against the inhumanity of Hamas – all that is indecent and barbaric. Hamas breaks every humanitarian rule in the book, throw the book at them. Ladies and gentlemen, the greatest threat to my country, to our region, and ultimately to our world remains the militant Islamic regime of Iran. Iran openly seeks Israel’s annihilation. It threatens countries across the Middle East, it sponsors terror worldwide. This year, Iran has fired ballistic missiles in direct defiance of Security Council Resolutions. It has expended its aggression in Iraq, in Syria, in Yemen. Iran, the world’s foremost sponsor of terrorism continued to build its global terror net-


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with hope because Israel is capable of defending itself by itself against any threat. I am filled with hope because the valor of our fighting men and

Jews, Muslims, Christians, Druze, everyone. And I am filled with hope because despite all the naysayers, I believe that in the years ahead, Israel

I am ready, to negotiate all final status issues but one thing I will never negotiate: Our right to the one and only Jewish state.

women is second to none. I am filled with hope because I know the forces of civilization will ultimately triumph over the forces of terror. I am filled with hope because in the age of innovation, Israel – the innovation nation – is thriving as never before. I am filled with hope because Israel works tirelessly to advance equality and opportunity for all its citizens:

work. That terror network now spans five continents. So my point to you is this: The threat Iran poses to all of us is not behind us, it’s before us. In the coming years, there must be a sustained and united effort to push back against Iran’s aggression and Iran’s terror. With the nuclear constraints on Iran one year closer to being removed, let me be clear: Israel will not allow the terrorist regime in Iran to develop nuclear weapons – not now, not in a decade, not ever. Ladies and gentlemen, I stand before you today at a time when Israel’s former president, Shimon Peres, is fighting for his life. Shimon is one of Israel’s founding fathers, one of its boldest statesmen, one of its most respected leaders. I know you will all join me and join all the people of Israel in wishing him refuah shlemah Shimon, a speedy recovery. I’ve always admired Shimon’s boundless optimism, and like him, I too am filled with hope. I am filled

will forge a lasting peace with all our neighbors. Ladies and gentlemen, I am hopeful about what Israel can accomplish because I’ve seen what Israel has accomplished. In 1948, the year of Israel’s independence, our population was 800,000. Our main export was oranges. People said then we were too small, too weak, too isolated, too

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demographically outnumbered to survive, let alone thrive. The skeptics were wrong about Israel then; the skeptics are wrong about Israel now. Israel’s population has grown tenfold, our economy fortyfold. Today our biggest export is technology – Israeli technology, which powers the world’s computers, cellphones, cars and so much more. Ladies and gentlemen, the future belongs to those who innovate and this is why the future belongs to countries like Israel. Israel wants to be your partner in seizing that future, so I call on all of you: Cooperate with Israel, embrace Israel, dream with Israel. Dream of the future that we can build together, a future of breathtaking progress, a future of security, prosperity and peace, a future of hope for all humanity, a future where even at the UN, even in this hall, Israel will finally, inevitably, take its rightful place among the nations. Thank you.


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Dating Dialogue

What Would You Do If… Moderated by Jennifer Mann, LCSW of The Navidaters

Dear Navidaters,

My daughter, Ariella, is back from Israel a few months now and wants to begin the dating process. Ariella has always been a challenging child, with her own mind and ideas. So I guess it’s no surprise that she has a long list of requests (demands) regarding the parameters under which she expects to start dating. And here they are. First off, though she doesn’t mind that I will take calls about potential shidduchim, she insists that before I say “yes” or “no,” that I check in with

her first and get the final answer from her. I know that many of my friends have total say as to whether someone is suitable or not, but I guess I have to go along with this one, since she seems very passionate about it. Her next request is that when she goes out with someone my husband and I shouldn’t give our reactions to any young man until we hear whether or not she liked him. If she liked him, she doesn’t want us to say negative things about him that would upset her. Her third request is that we shouldn’t force her to go out at least twice with everyone. If she goes out once and really feels that there is no possibility for her ever being interested in the young man, we shouldn’t push for a second date. And finally, and this is the one that I’m having the most trouble with, she doesn’t want to hold by the rule that you can only go out with one young man at a time. She’s heard too many stories of missing the boat because someone was “busy,” and then when they were no longer “busy,” the guy was no longer available. Ariella wants the option to date two people at the same time, if that comes up. I feel so restricted, and I feel like my hands are tied. I know arguing with Ariella never ends well. She gets angry and unapproachable. Do you think these requests are reasonable and that I should go along with them? Any advice in general regarding how to deal with such a strong-minded, independent thinker as Ariella, who never, even as a small child, would listen to reason?

Disclaimer: This column is not intended to diagnose or otherwise conclude resolutions to any questions. Our intention is not to offer any definitive conclusions to any particular question, rather offer areas of exploration for the author and reader. Due to the nature of the column receiving only a short snapshot of an issue, without the benefit of an actual discussion, the panel’s role is to offer a range of possibilities. We hope to open up meaningful dialogue and individual exploration. Check out Soon By You’s Aftershow with the Navidaters on YouTube for a sit-down with coproducer Danny Hoffman.


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The Panel

The Rebbetzin

The Dating Mentor

Rebbetzin Faigie Horowitz, M.S.

Rochel Chafetz, Educator/Mentor

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our question has several parts, and the final request of your daughter is rightfully the most problematic for you. It seems to me that your last paragraph about a relationship with your strong-minded, independent daughter is the most telling. Apparently negotiating with your daughter has always been a challenge, one that you don’t feel you have mastered. Second, adapting your relationship to the new stage of young adult and parent has not happened. The parental contract, so to speak, is usually renegotiated at this point in time but in your case, there have been control issues in the past. She has identified that both parent and child have roles in the shidduch process. So that’s a good basis for working out parameters for this period. She recognizes that you and your husband remain parents and are partners in this new phase with your daughter seeking a spouse. At the same time, she is working and studying for her future while you are supporting her. So moving forward requires working out ways to handle life-altering decisions with responsibility, maturity and seriousness. However, her approach to dating seems rather uneven and immature while yours is focused on your child. Consider giving the three of you some time to “prepare for the dating process” as you re-establish appropriate roles at this juncture. In other words, buy some time so that you can work this out. Second, broaden the circle of players in this process. Obviously, include your husband whose name is not mentioned in your query. Agree to go for help as a group to work out some parameters and encourage Ariella to get a mature mentor for now and for the future. She should choose whom she wants: a teacher, dating coach, or mental health professional. You all need some help with this. Hatzlacha rabba.

t sounds like Ariella is the mother and you are the scared child. I think that before she gets married, she should go for some counseling in order to figure out why she needs to be so in control and to teach her that with her attitude she’s in for some rude awakenings. At the same time, you should speak to someone to empower you so that you can be her mother and not the other way around. Otherwise, all the advice we give you won’t help at all because it doesn’t sound as though she will listen to anything you will say. As long as you are scared of her, you won’t be able to follow our advice. I don’t know where she is getting her ideas from. I am a kallah teacher and a mentor, with four married children. And from all my friends whose children are married I have never heard of dating two guys at the same time. As far as her wanting to have input in the end to say “yes” or “no” that’s fine. We have to involve them and make them part of the discussion and decision. This is not kindergarten we are choosing for them. She should definitely be a part of things. You could even ask her what kind of questions she would like you to ask and what she would like to know. Her request that you shouldn’t push her to date a second time is something I don’t agree with completely. I don’t know what she is reading or who she is talking to, but tell her, “OK, Ariella, I hear that and we will do our best. But there may be something we see that you may not see and from the wisdom we have gained over the years, we may believe that a second date may make sense for you.” Tell her that you will try your best but that it’s possible you may break some of the “rules” sometimes because as parents you love her.

Unfortunately, my personal feeling is that she will probably not listen to anything you have to say. As a parent, tell her before she dates that it’s important to go to premarital help first. The same way she has requests, you do too. If she gives you attitude, I suggest you give her your little shidduch notebook with all the names in there and tell her, “Here, sweetie – I’m sure you’ll do a better job at it.” Good luck to you, Mom.

The Mother

Not everyone is mature enough to take on dating and marriage at 19-, 20-years-old.

effective, assertive parent during this critical crossroad in Ariella’s life.

Another Mother

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rom one mother to the other: I wish I could untie your hands so that you can lay Ariella across your knees and give her a good spanking. Unfortunately, it’s too little, too late. Your daughter sounds like she has been manipulating, dictating and throwing tantrums from the time she was born. And now that she’s spent a year in Israel, she has the hubris to think she’s the World’s Expert on Dating and Marriage. Rather than dissect each of her unreasonable demands – “check with me before you say yes”; “don’t give your opinions”; “don’t criticize if I like him”; “don’t pressure me if I don’t”; “I’m dating two guys at once, whether you agree or not” – I ask you: Who is the parent here? I’m afraid it may be futile to have a balanced, reasonable, respectful conversation with your daughter. At best, she won’t listen, at worst, she’ll attack your authority and leave you cowering in fear of her tantrums. Sorry, Mom, but you are enabling Ariella’s passiveaggressive lifetime pattern of behavior. Now is the time to seek help for yourself, through focused therapy and counseling, to develop the tools and parenting skills you need to deal with your challenging child. You cannot change her behavior, but you can become a more

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s a mother, I must say that I feel your pain. Ideally, this should be an exciting time in both of your lives and you should all be working together as a team to find Ariella’s bashert. Unfortunately, you are dealing with a difficult young lady. I’m not in a position to try and figure out why there is clearly an imbalance of power between you and your daughter. Perhaps it’s something you fed into and perhaps no one could have done a better job than you. Some children are just born difficult! You can’t fight over everything. It sounds as though her final request, about dating two men at the same time, is the one you are struggling with the most. I think it’s fair for you to tell her that you’ll honor her first three requests but that you must put your foot down when it comes to request number four, that it’s something you feel totally uncomfortable with and won’t be a part of. Hopefully, after pouting and arguing, she’ll ultimately come around. Because let’s face it – what are her options? She still needs you to handle the incoming calls and do research on her behalf. So I think Ariella has to depend on you and therefore, accept your solid “no.”


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Actually, this might be a great time for you to see how it feels to say “no” to her. Maybe you haven’t said it enough in the past. You might find it feels really good and you’ll start saying it more in the future!

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s a single young woman, I can understand what it feels like to want to take some control over the dating process. I know that some women want to allow their mothers

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to take over completely and not be bothered trying to figure things out for themselves. But there are some women who are more independent in nature and need to put in their two cents. Ariella is obviously very independent in her way of thinking and I get the feeling that she’s not going to want to negotiate at all on any of her demands. But I worry that if you just go along with her demands, you may

be unhappy and not necessarily go about finding someone for her with a full, peaceful heart. Therefore, I think the two of you need to meet with a dating coach or therapist and in the presence of a professional work out a working relationship that would probably include some compromise on both of your parts but also give you each an opportunity to hear from one another why you feel so strongly about having things your way. Maybe you’ll each learn something interesting about the other and have more respect for each other’s point of view. Good luck!

dig deep into your relationship and hopefully come to some compromises with regard to dating and life in general. If you are concerned about her readiness, talking about this with a third, objective party can be a wonderful experience for both you and Ariella. While parents in other circles might say, If she thinks she’s mature enough to get married, then I am taking a backseat and will let her make her own mistakes, my response takes into account how culturally normal it is for Orthodox parents to be involved in their child’s dating. Raising a strong-willed, fiercely independent child is a life-long challenge. Children don’t come with manuals, and if they did, the tenacious ones would hide them. And when you would finally find the manual, they would grab it and rip it up to shreds … in front of you … and all your friends … and blast it out on social media. Why? They don’t like rules. They have their own ideas that seem better than the rules. And who knows? Maybe they are! But alas, life comes with rules. And the independent minded child internally struggles with this every day. (And

by the way, so do a lot of grownups.) Because she has had this streak in her since birth, it is not surprising to you that she is going to challenge you every step of the way when it comes to dating and shidduchim. Here are some thoughts and feelings and experiences you may have faced while raising Ariella, perhaps some will resonate. 1) You were constantly questioned; 2) Felt as though I just can’t win with her; 3) Worried about her social and emotional well-being; 4) Why can’t she just go with the flow?; 5) Felt judged by others: neighbors, friends, parents, in-laws, teachers, etc. who insisted if you were tougher, stricter, not such a pushover, maybe softer with her and not so demanding Ariella would be more flexible. Maybe if you gave in (twisted yourself into a pretzel) she wouldn’t feel the need to rebel… (Ever put a bee in a cup and then release it? That’s about how effective a standard “time out” is with a strongwilled child. They seem to come out with a vengeance!); 6) Feeling emotionally exhausted and drained; 7) Questioning the decisions you make for this child; wondering is it me? And then of course there is the nachas from your strong-willed child. You have confidence that they will achieve. You could drop them

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don’t know your daughter, but I must ask you: Do you think Ariella is ready to date? Not everyone is mature enough to take on dating and marriage at 19-, 20-years-old. Some players need to be benched until they’re ready to have their best shot at a successful game. Before I continue, you need to seriously consider your feelings on the matter. Is she ready to be a married woman who must take into account the needs and desires of another person? Will she be able to engage healthily in a relationship with a man? What will happen when her husband asks her to do something that she doesn’t want to do? Will she shut down or get really angry? Marriage is hard and selfless work. I hold my breath when any young couple gets married because developmentally young people are not wired to do this selfless work that marriage requires. Sorry, it’s biology. At 20-years-old, the sun has not yet set on adolescence. If your intuition tells you she isn’t ready (which, by the way is totally fine!) please listen. Too many young men and women end up back on

Mommy and Daddy’s doorstep, divorced, because they weren’t ready. I don’t mean to scare you; I only want to convey that her readiness is paramount. I really don’t like to make sweeping statements, especially in this column where I don’t know you at all, but if I didn’t include this next statement, I would kick myself. This next statement might be the underlying root of the situation here, or not. So, I’m taking a risk here … but I get the sense that you are scared of your daughter and that your daughter is somewhat manipulating you because she knows she can. The panel’s insights were wonderful but it was Tova Wein who most resonated with me. The only tweak I would make is that the issue you are having with Ariella is not appropriate for a dating coach. I believe the two of you should consider working with a therapist who has experience in the area of family therapy and relationships. This experience will give both you and Ariella the opportunity to share your feelings,


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off in a foreign country with no money, and you know your child will figure it out. They can probably run a small country! They are usually very savvy, sharp, witty, bright, and talented. You admire their determination, their “go get ‘em” attitude, their relentless effort to achieve a task. The pride they take when they set their minds to something, toil with it, persevere and achieve can make a mother’s heart swell with joy. If they channel this energy properly as an adult, these children can become productive and incredibly successful as they enjoy the independence that adulthood offers. I delve into the complexity of a parent’s emotions raising a strongwilled child because your feelings and experiences are an important component of your current relation-

Children don’t come with manuals, and if they did, the tenacious ones would hide them.

ship with Ariella. Ariella’s feelings, as the child in this relationship, are important too. You both matter, and both of your requests matter. Even if you feel that Ariella is living in the clouds and she is wrong, wrong, wrong, if you want to have a relationship with her as she becomes an adult who will be independent of you, you must convey to her that her ideas about dating matter!

So, get a good referral and invite Ariella to therapy. Keep it light and open. “We need to figure out a way to work well together. I’m open to hearing you and your needs but I think I need some help. We seem to end up fighting. I want to do this better. Can you come with me to short term therapy to help me?” I know, I know, hold the phone and the emails! This is your best chance in getting her to go. You can resort to ultimatums and threats if this fails. A trained therapist will see right through this entrance to therapy because he or she will see Ariella digging in her heels in her body language, the way she talks to you, her ideas, etc. And you will be setting up the session with the therapist and can say whatever you want before the first session. If Ariella will not join you in ther-

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Esther Mann, LCSW and Jennifer Mann, LCSW are licensed, clinical psychotherapists and dating and relationship coaches working with individuals, couples and families in private practice in Hewlett, NY. To set up an appointment, please call 516.224.7779. Press 1 for Esther, 2 for Jennifer. If you would like to submit a dating or relationship question to the panel anonymously, please email thenavidaters@gmail.com. You can follow The Navidaters on FB and Instagram.


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s we draw an end to this year, we conclude the reading of the Torah and anticipate starting anew with Parshas Bereishis. One of the final mitzvos that the Torah teaches us is the mitzvah of hakel. The Jewish people would gather on Har Habayis once in seven years on the year after the shemita year during the holiday of Sukkos. Millions of Jewish men, women, infants, the elderly, working people, and scholars gathered together to hear the king (melech Yisroel) recite certain brachos and read from Sefer Devarim. An incomparable display of unity invigorated the Jewish people with a sense of mission that revitalized their connection to Hashem and Torah. The Gemara in Chagiga 3a teaches that the men came to learn and the women came to hear. But why did the infants come? The Sfas Emes explains the Talmud’s question in the following manner. Generally, children make noise and disturb adults from learning and hearing the Torah reading. Therefore, since this is a most auspicious time and gathering of splendor, why did they bring small children? Would it not have been better to leave the children at home? The Gemara answers, “In order to give reward to those who bring them.” In other words, it is better for parents to be disturbed a little by the presence of their children if the result will be that their children will absorb the

sounds and messages of the Torah and be inspired later on in life to the service of Hashem. Therefore, from the mitzvah of hakel we learn a very important lesson. Parents at times must sacrifice some of their own spiritual service and connection in order to educate their children to be faithful and G-d fearing. If it is indeed the case that parents must compromise their spiritual growth in order to effectively educate their children to stay on the proper path, it is the same focus when parents are preoccupied with materialistic pursuits. Acquiring wealth and being involved with earthly pleasures must take a back seat in order to inspire and educate children to love Hashem and His Torah. These distractions prevent us from getting close and staying close to our children. Allowing ourselves to be very busy with material interests at the sacrifice of parenting our children is one of the biggest mistakes a parent can make. Many times we hear parents confess that while their children were growing up they did not make their children a priority in their lives. What is more precious to us than our sweet, adorable children who desperately need their parents’ love and encouragement? We must never lose sight of what is really our first and biggest concern: our children! The fact of the matter is that deep down we all know that our children come first. It may be hard and take discipline, but we must actually make them the

primary focus in our lives. The stories are endless of how our Torah leaders built their relationship with their children. One story that comes to mind is when someone asked the Brisker Rav zt”l how he merited having such wonderful G-d fearing children. He

guide our children. It is our crucial mission. I would like to take this opportunity to bless each and every one of you with much bracha and hatzlacha in all your endeavors. May you always care for and love your children, and may your children always

“You have no idea how many tears I shed every day for my children’s success.”

responded, “You have no idea how many tears I shed every day for my children’s success.” Nobody said that parenting our children is easy but it is definitely rewarding and beneficial. As we prepare for Rosh Hashana, we elevate ourselves to reconnect with our Creator. In addition, we need to remember that we have to work with our own children as well to help them create a positive and healthy relationship with Hakadosh Baruch Hu. Finding ways to help them develop a healthy self-esteem and gain confidence gives our children the ability to strengthen themselves emotionally and spiritually. If we find ourselves at a crossroads and unable to guide them appropriately I recommend reaching out to rebbeim and mentors for advice and to learn better insights to help us

love you, their parents. K’siva v’chasima tova. To learn more about Madraigos’ programs and services, please call our office at (516) 371- 3250.

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Notable Quotes “Say What?!”

Fox News has forbidden Sean Hannity from appearing in any more campaign ads for Donald Trump. Fox said, “We want to appear neutral while covering the race between Mr. Trump and that Sickly Lying Witch.” – Conan O’Brien

Fashion designer Ralph Lauren is working on an autobiography. You can buy it full price at any of his stores or just wait until it is half price in a bin at T.J. Maxx. – Jimmy Fallon

I look at the accused and see a human being. It is a shame that when he looks at me, he sees the image of a monkey or pig which must be mercilessly destroyed. What a shame. - Jerusalem magistrate Judge Shmuel Herbst upon sentencing Sheikh Omar Abu Sara for inciting violence against Jews on the Temple Mount

Tonight the main event from Hofstra University in Hempstead, New York: Donald Trump vs. Hillary Clinton in the first of three presidential debates. It was a long 90 minutes. But the results are in and not a single voter changed their mind. A huge waste of time. It’s very hard to believe that there are still undecided voters. The choice is pretty orange-and-white. – Jimmy Kimmel

I wouldn’t debate the fact that there’s the potential for ISIS terrorists to try to insert themselves, and we see that in some of the refugee camps in Jordan and in Turkey, where they try to insert themselves into the population.

So, Katherine, what do you do? – Speaker of the House Paul Ryan to Congresswoman Katherine Clark (D- Mass.) when she went over and was chatting with him at a Washington airport

House Speaker Paul Ryan was at the airport and didn’t recognize a three-year congresswoman from Massachusetts and even asked her, “So what do you do?” Ryan realized she was a congresswoman when she answered, “Nothing.” - Jimmy Fallon

No doubt. - Egyptian President Abdel Fattah al-Sisi on CNN when asked whether he thought Trump would make a strong leader

- State Department spokesman John Kirby on Fox News, acknowledging that there is no real way to vet refugees coming into the U.S.

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DEBATE ZINGERS Now, in all fairness to Secretary Clinton, yes, is that OK? Good. I want you to be very happy. It’s very important to me. - Trump checking in with Clinton to make sure she was OK with him using her title of “Secretary” in the midst of criticizing her stance — and that of her husband, former President Bill Clinton — on NAFTA.

Donald, I know you live in your own reality. - Hillary in the midst of a back-and-forth disagreement over Clinton’s support or lack thereof for the TransPacific Partnership; Clinton accused Trump of imagining her stance

I have a feeling by the end of this evening I’m going to be blamed for everything that’s ever happened. – Clinton, after Trump attacked her over companies moving jobs out of the country. Trump’s response to Clinton’s line was: “Why not?”

When she releases her 33,000 e-mails that have been deleted, as soon as she releases her 33,000 e-mails, I will release my tax returns. - Trump, after Hillary accused him of failing to release his tax returns because he is hiding something

I can only say that I’m certainly relieved that my late father never did business with you. - Clinton, after sharing the story of an architect who claims he wasn’t compensated for his work on the clubhouse of one of Trump’s golf courses

New research found that pigeons can actually be taught to read. And once the researcher finished teaching the pigeon, the first thing it wrote was, “Get a life, man.” – Jimmy Fallon

When I hear you boo me, I’m gonna try to hit the ball over that white fence, all the way to the … choo choo train. - Boston Red Sox player David Ortiz in the Player’s Tribune, writing about the last time he plays at Yankee Stadium before he retires at the end of this season

Some players are born to be Yankees … [I] was born to play against the Yankees. - Ibid

Environmentalists are trying to get the bumblebee added to America’s endangered species list. Then they changed their minds after they were at a picnic for five minutes. – Conan O’Brien

It also could be somebody sitting on their bed that weighs 400 pounds, OK? – Trump, during a discussion about the hacking of the Democratic National Committee’s emails, arguing that it wasn’t necessarily Russia or China

That line’s getting a little bit old, I must say.

Yahoo today announced that at least 500 million user accounts have been hacked, which would be one of the biggest cyber-security breaches ever… They believe it was by a state-sponsored actor like Russia or North Korea, or maybe the Belgians are up to something. Whatever country it was is unaware no one has signed up for a Yahoo account since 1996. – Jimmy Kimmel

- Trump’s response to Clinton’s oft-repeated claim that “a man who can be provoked by a tweet should not have his fingers anywhere near the nuclear codes”

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This week a study was released by the World Health Organization showing that the United States is the third most depressing country in the world after India and China. When Americans heard the news they were like, “Oh, we only got third?” – James Corden

America, you have got to buck up. Look, I understand India, China — they are overpopulated and they are polluted. But America, you guys are like, “Ew, there’s no Wi-Fi at this restaurant. How am I supposed to Snapchat my sliders? I’m sad now.” - Ibid.

I’ve needed you far more than you’ve needed me. Oh, he’s up in years.

- Famed Dodgers play-by-play announcer signing off from the broadcast for the last time after a 67 years of calling Dodgers games

– Donald Rumsfeld when asked on MSNBC what he thought of Pres. George H.W. Bush’s plan on voting for Hillary

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After many months of careful consideration, of prayer and searching my own conscience, I have decided that on Election Day, I will vote for the Republican nominee, Donald Trump. I’ve made this decision for two reasons. First, last year, I promised to support the Republican nominee. And I intend to keep my word. Second, even though I have had areas of significant disagreement with our nominee, by any measure Hillary Clinton is wholly unacceptable. Edward Snowden said this week that the public would be worse off if he hadn’t revealed that the NSA was tracking people’s phone conversations, while the public tried to remember the last time they actually had a phone conversation. 2003, maybe? – Jimmy Fallon

– From a Facebook post by Sen. Ted Cruz, endorsing Donald Trump for president

Let’s be real about it. You’re a propaganda rag. – Mayor Bill de Blasio when a New York Post reporter asked how he could “ justify spending an hour and a half at the gym”


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Preening Bluster Does Not Make Up for Trump’s Willful Ignorance By Michael Gerson

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f all the absurdities in Donald Trump’s rapid political rise, none is more puzzling than his reputation for toughness in the war against terrorism. Trump is a real estate developer who takes any domestic terrorist attack – whatever the actual circumstances – as confirmation of his views on a lax immigration system, as evidence of a law enforcement system hobbled by political correctness and as cause for more aggressive profiling of Muslims, Arabs, or whomever he is currently defining as the threat. Some of his followers seem particularly pleased when he edges toward declaring Islam itself to be the enemy. “Frankly,” Trump has said, “we’re having problems with the Muslims.” This is complete madness. No serious counterterrorism expert (Trump may have unearthed some unserious ones to provide cover) believes that the task of confronting domestic radicalization – of working with communities to identify threats and prevent attacks – is helped by declaring a war on Islam.

Those who regard Trump’s use of the words “radical Islamic terrorism” as a counterterrorism victory are engaged in magical foreign policy thinking – the deployment of incantations in a global conflict. Trump has hardly distinguished himself in reacting to that conflict, fed by the radiating disorders of the Middle East. As the Islamic State (also known as ISIS) rose, the GOP nominee said, “That’s not our fight.” And: “Let Syria and ISIS fight. Why do we care?” And: “Let Russia fight ISIS, if they want to fight ‘em.” But also: “Bomb the oil and take the oil” – which would seem to require a choice between the two. Incantations are preferable to such gibberish. Trump’s instinct is to lead from behind – the intensification, not repudiation, of Obama-era policy in the Middle East. But one of the leading critics of this policy is also Donald Trump. “If [Obama] had gone in with tremendous force,” he has argued, “you wouldn’t have millions of people displaced all over the world.” Those who believe that

preening bluster makes up for willful ignorance and dangerously poor policy judgment have found their man. But this is not the worst of it. Anyone who has spent time working in the White House would attest that the single most important presidential attribute is leadership in times of crisis. We have no idea what challenges the next president may face – an outbreak of deadly pandemic flu, the collapse of order in nuclear Pakistan, a cyberattack on the U.S. electricity grid. All we know – or try our best to know – is the character, stability and credibility of the president himself (or herself). On current and consistent evidence, Trump would jump to conclusions, entertain conspiracy theories and lash out in rhetoric that seems tough but actually complicates the task of leadership. Conservatives trying to justify a vote for Trump argue that the presidency itself will somehow mature him. Yet the Republican nominee has provided little reason to believe he is truly capable of learning

or benefiting from good counsel. “My primary consultant is myself and I have a good instinct for this stuff,” Trump has said. When I asked a former official of George W. Bush’s administration (who wanted to be unnamed in order to speak more freely) about the requirements of presidential leadership in a time

lead to rash decision-making.” And: “One cannot solve a crisis by blaming other people. This tone makes it harder to rally the whole nation.” A leader has to “articulate a credible strategy” and honor the “American values that unite us.” By all of these measures, Trump represents an extraordinary risk to the

“My primary consultant is myself and I have a good instinct for this stuff,” Trump has said.

of national testing, the list was not a match with the GOP nominee. “It is really important to project a sense of calm,” the official said. “A leader understands that people feed off his emotions in a moment of crisis. If he uses wild or frantic rhetoric, it will risk creating a psychological tsunami.” The president may face simultaneous crises, the official went on, forcing him “to rely on others in the team to give good advice.” And: “If the ego is central to a leader and a crisis occurs, it could

nation. On foreign policy, he is the worst of all worlds – extreme and alienating in his rhetoric, confused, erratic and weak on matters of policy. When some of us talk about presidential temperament, this is what we mean. Trump has not shown the stability, prudence and judgment the presidency requires in moments of national testing. This is not only disturbing; it is disqualifying. (c) 2016, Washington Post Writers Group


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Amir Nachumi High Ranking Ace By Avi Heiligman

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arly on during World War II scientists and engineers experimented with putting a new type of engine in airplanes. Planes up to that point could barely reach speeds of 400 MPH but with the invention of the jet engine those speeds were blown out of the water. Both the Axis and the Allied powers introduced jet planes into combat before the war ended in 1945. With faster speeds and other technological advances, countries needed less frontline fighter planes and this in turn reduced the amount of planes being shot down. Since 1945 only a few countries have had aerial aces, pilots who have shot down five or more enemy aircraft, and the Israel Air Force (IAF) is among the top post-WWII air forces with 45 aerial aces. (In contrast they have allowed only four enemy pilots gain the distinction during the Israeli-Arab Wars.) Amir Nachumi was Israel’s third highest ranking ace with fourteen kills in his flying career. Nachumi was born in Yerushalayim in 1945 while Eretz Yisrael was still under the British Mandate. He was 17 when he was drafted into the IDF but failed pilot training. Tanks were his next best option so he joined the armored corps for his mandatory duty. After graduating Hebrew

University with a degree in chemistry and physics, he was called up to fight during the Six Day War in 1967. There were several pilots downed during the war, and with the IAF expanding, Nachumi was allowed to try the demanding pilot course again. A year later he earned his pilot wings and was commissioned into the IAF. Israeli pilots flew several types of fighter jets in the late 1960s with both France and the U.S. delivering

abruptly on October 6, 1973 at 2PM. Nachumi and his backseater, Yossi Yavin, were sitting in their jets when radar detected Egyptian aircraft approaching. The Israelis weren’t prepared for the surprise attack and only had two crews ready to take off. Even though they were told to stay on the ground, Nachumi realized that there was no choice and left with another F-4 that was piloted by Daniel Shaki. The duo was barely airborne when

“I ordered him to break, I came in and I shot down the two of them.”

top of the line fighters to counter Soviet arms buildups in Arab countries. Nachumi joined the 113 Squadron and flew in Dassault Ouragans, a French fighter-bomber that had seen action during the Six Day War. He flew fifty combat missions during the War of Attrition before becoming an instructor. In 1971, he transferred to 107 Squadron where he became a pilot of the American built F-4 Phantom fighter jet. The Yom Kippur War started

the enemy bombed the runway. There were at least 28 MiG-17 and MiG-21 Russian-built fighters that attacked the base at Ofir, and Nachumi and Shaki went after them. Nachumi destroyed two aircraft with Sidewinder missiles and damaged two with his cannon before having engine trouble. After quickly resolving that issue, he went after the remaining MiGs and killed two more with Sidewinder missiles. Nachumi and Shaki, who shot down three enemy aircraft, both

landed safely on the damaged runway at Ofir. All four airmen – David Regev was Shaki’s navigator – received Israel’s third highest decoration, the Medal of Distinguished Service, for their actions that day. Nachumi downed three other aircraft during the war, and in one adrenaline–pumping battle on October 14, he caused a MiG-21 to crash in the Mediterranean. In another aerial dogfight Nachumi shot down another MiG-21 that was close to shooting at his wingman. His seven kills were the highest total for Israeli Phantom pilots during the war. After the war he trained at Hill AFB in Utah on the brand new F-16 Falcon that was to play a vital part in history. In one of the most daring aerial raids in history, eight Israeli F-16 fighter/bombers took out the Iraqi nuclear reactor at Osirak. Nachumi was the leader of the second formation to attack the reactor. One of the four planes in his formation was piloted by future astronaut Ilan Ramon. Israel was strongly condemned at first but in the subsequent years the free world silently thanked them for not allowing a mad dictator attain nuclear weapons. A few weeks after the raid Nachumi became the first F-16 pilot to shoot down an enemy fighter. The action took place


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over Lebanon where a year later his squadron shot down a total of 23 enemy planes. During the Lebanon War of 1982, Nachumi shot down six more MiGs for a total of fourteen. He describes one of the aerial dogfights: “I saw the MiGs coming in on my radar screen and I pushed the controller to let me in. I immediately shot down a MiG23 and then we started to pursue the

other MiGs and to maneuver with them. I was behind a MiG when my wingman yelled, ‘One, let me have him, let me have him,’ and I did the unthinkable – I said, ‘Have him.’ I pulled out and let the wingman have him but he did not shoot him down. He got sandwiched between two MiGs, and instead of coming in after the trailing MiG, he came in after the leading MiG. I ordered him to break,

I came in and I shot down the two of them.” After the war, Nachumi had several desk jobs within the air force, and in 1989 was promoted to brigadier general. He was the commander of the aircraft during Operation Solomon, the 1991 airlift of Ethiopian Jews. He retired as an instructor in 2005 and works with companies building defense material.

Amir Nachumi’s status as a legend in the Israeli Air Force is firm, as his air battles are an inspiration for new pilots who defend the State of Israel. Avi Heiligman is a weekly contributor to The Jewish Home. He welcomes your comments and suggestions for future columns and can be reached at aviheiligman@gmail.com.


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Most of the below article first appeared in the TJH last year to address the confusion surrounding the introduction of the new SAT and to help parents, students and educators alike understand the new test and the benefits it offered. There is still a massive amount of confusion and misrepresentation occurring in the Five Towns as principals, teachers and parents are still making decisions based upon outdated information and downright false trends. Just this past week I heard from parents who attended College Night at a prominent school in the Five Towns and heard a representative from Brooklyn College who stated that: “The SAT just came out this year and no one knows much about it so you should avoid it.” Not only is that information one year behind but it is terrible advice! The principals at several other large school are still advising every student to take the ACT because it’s “easier” which is again bad advice stemming from well-meaning educators who are simply lacking information on the new SAT. The SAT was redesigned specifically to compete better with the ACT and the changes have made it the better choice for most students. Here, therefore, is the reality:

THE FACTS When the organization behind a major standardized test announces that it is undergoing changes, educators, parents and students alike are left scrambling to identify the nature of the changes and the ramifications those changes will have for students. While the common core changes to the Regents left people upset and confused, understanding the newly redesigned SAT has been nearly as difficult for many people to master. This is an issue because the SAT is the most critical test students take in their high school careers as it is a major factor in their acceptance to colleges. The biggest issue is that the new SAT has been totally redesigned in nearly every aspect (unlike earlier changes that had been minor tweaks to question types such as when the SAT removed the short analogy section). The format and substance of the test are far different than the SAT of the past several decades. While the SAT wants you to believe that these changes were undergone to improve the test and to better measure key determinants in a student’s likelihood of achieving collegiate success, that is a smokescreen answer. The blatantly obvious truth is that the SAT-makers at the College Board were tired

of having the ACT steal their lunch money, so to speak. The new SAT isn’t merely a new approach to measuring students’ skills as much as it is an attempt to regain customers (aka the students) who were choosing the ACT in ever-increasing numbers.

THE BACKGROUND In the mid-2000s, the number of students taking the ACT finally matched and then exceeded the number of those taking the SAT exam (which had long been the industry leader). The reason for this is that the ACT offered several clear benefits for students, and schools began pushing it as a result. While any decent college advisor weighed each student’s individual skills before advising them to pursue the SAT or ACT track, some schools just mass-advised all of their students to take the ACT, believing it to be “easier.” For many students, there was definitely truth to that assertion. The old SAT had a required essay, 5 choices for each answer, a penalty for guessing, direct vocabulary questions and critical thinking-based math. The ACT meanwhile is comprised of an optional essay, only four multiple choice selections per question, no direct vocabulary and straightforward math. The ACT threw in a science section built around graph and data interpretation but students who were weak in English or in logical math still flocked to the ACT in droves.

THE NEW SAT So unsurprisingly, the new SAT has adopted those components of the ACT while seeking other ways to appeal once again to high school juniors and seniors. The new SAT now has an optional essay, 4 multiple choice options, no penalty for guessing, and no direct vocabulary. The scoring has been simplified as the Reading and Writing now combine into one score so that the SAT is scored out of 1600 again. Streamlining the score back to being out of 1600 simplifies the score and makes it more standardized for colleges. That helps students know exactly where they stand in their applications to any school. The ACT still has 4 sections and some colleges only care about 2 sections while some view the full composite score. The interesting twist on the new SAT is that the Math is now split into two sections: math with a calculator and math without a calculator. While some


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students may struggle initially with the adjustment, any teen with a good math brain should be able to conquer the section as the math is very doable. As an aside, perhaps this will also decrease many high schoolers’ over-reliance on their calculators. As for the Reading and Writing sections on the new SAT, there are some significant other benefits to the new format. These sections are now context-based and the performance on both sections combines into one score out of 800. This is extremely helpful to students as the Writing section (which tests grammar) is the easiest to improve upon. Students need not know the difference between past and present participles; they just need to master the basic 12-15 grammar mistakes that the section emphasizes. On the old SAT, the Reading section was half of the 1600 score, now it is just a quarter of the total. That helps students with weaker reading comprehension and analysis skills. The SAT still doesn’t have a Science section, so that also helps lessen the amount of material that a student must study for. At this point, the ACT is only worthwhile for a student who is extremely strong in the sciences and will have a nearly perfect score on that section (keep in mind that many schools will still disregard the Science section’s score). Otherwise, the SAT has practically copied all of the benefits the ACT used to have exclusively, while leaving off Science and simplifying the scoring in an advantageous way. There are several other content-based changes to the new SAT but they are mostly subtle. For example, the passages selected for SAT questions are now intended to cover either founding documents of the U.S. or contribute to the “global conversation.” Again, these are subtle nuances, not decision-altering changes.

SUMMARY OF KEY CHANGES OF THE NEW SAT

Old SAT

New SAT

Scored out of 2400

Scored out of 1600

Penalty for Guessing

No Penalty for Guessing

Broken Down into 10 Sections

Divided into 4 Sections

Required Essay

Optional Essay

Direct Vocabulary

Only Limited Vocabulary in Context

Individual Grammar Questions

Grammar in Context Questions

5 Multiple Choice Options per Question

4 Multiple Choice Options

Calculator allowed for all Math Sections

New Math without a Calculator Section

THE PSAT The one odd change in the format was the scoring for the PSAT. Students take the PSAT in 10th and 11th grade as a practice of sorts for the SAT. It helps the students see how prepared they are for the exam and what areas they need to improve in. Inexplicably, the PSAT is now graded out of 1520. In order to translate a student’s PSAT score to the SAT, it makes sense to just add a full 80

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points to the score. By doing that, parents, teachers and students can better understand and compare those scores and then strategize and set goals for the SAT.

THE CONCLUSION Ultimately, the new SAT is a drastic shift from the SAT of the last 20+ years. Nonetheless, the SAT-makers at the College Board seem to have succeeded in their goal. They have created a better product that more directly competes with the ACT and better serves their customers. Regardless of what your principal or teacher suggests, that makes it a no-brainer for many high school students.

Chaim Homnick is the College Advisor at Mesivta Ateres Yaakov of Lawrence and also teaches 5 periods of Honors/AP English Literature. Chaim is the owner of Five Towns Tutoring (fivetownstutoring.com) as well as Machane Miami Day Camp of Florida (machanemiami.com). He scored in the 99th percentile on the SAT and the LSAT and tutors both extensively. He has a Masters Degree in Educational Leadership and Administration as well as an MBA. For questions, comments, previous articles or tutoring, he can be reached directly at chomnick@gmail.com.


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att Bissonnette grew up in a dinky flyspeck of a town off the Alaskan coast that you can’t get to without a boat or a plane. He ultimately escaped to join SEAL Team Six, the Navy’s most elite counterterrorism force. He took part in the 2009 mission to rescue Captain Mark Phillips from Somali pirates, a story which was told in the movie Captain Phillips. But that was just a warmup for his biggest mission: “Project Neptune Spear,” the 2011 raid that killed Osama Bin Laden. In 2012, Bissonnette wrote a memoir called No Easy Day: The Firsthand Account of the Mission That Killed Osama Bin Laden. It earned him $6.7 million in royalties, which he planned to donate to the families of fallen SEALs. It also launched a lucrative second career as a public speaker. Unfortunately, Bissonnette broke the Pentagon rule requiring him to submit it for vetting before publishing. The day after the book landed on shelves, officials said it revealed classified information, a breach that could subject him to years in prison. Last month, Bissonnette settled the dispute and agreed to pay back every dime of royalties, plus another

$100,000 in speaking fees he earned before they approved the slides he uses in his presentations. Question: can he now deduct that payment from his taxes going forward? Code Section 162(f) seems to shoot down any tax benefit. “No deduction shall be allowed . . . for any

serve to compensate the government for the damage his book caused? If so, then he gets his deduction. Or does it merely settle his potential liability for civil or criminal fines or penalties — in a way that benefits both the government and him by avoiding the time, expense, and po-

The day after the book landed on shelves, officials said it revealed classified information, a breach that could subject him to years in prison.

fine or similar penalty paid to a government for the violation of any law.” But what about payments made to settle a dispute before a fine or penalty is imposed? Treasury regulations state that payments made to settle that sort of potential liability aren’t deductible. But the regulations also state that compensatory damages do not qualify as fines or penalties. So, that’s the $6.7 million question. Does Bissonnette’s payment

tential public disclosures involved in a trial? In that case, no dice. Bissonnette isn’t the only celebrity who may miss out on a fat tax deduction for a big gesture. An actress, Amanda, recently finalized her divorce with a $7 million lump sum payment, then announced she’s giving it all to charity. But she probably won’t get the deduction you’d expect. That’s because you can only deduct up to 50% of your adjusted gross in-

come in any year (and carry any remaining balance forward five years). Ouch! Bet she didn’t see that coming! Now, there are two ways Amanda and her ex might be treating that $7 million. It could be a transfer between spouses, incident to the divorce. In that case, it’s nondeductible to the man and tax-free to Amanda. (Too bad her financial disclosures show she doesn’t have nearly enough income to take advantage of the full deduction.) Or it might be alimony, deductible to him and taxable to her. In that case, she’ll still owe tax on the 50% of her donation that she can’t deduct this year. Here’s the lesson. Sometimes pricey things happen, and we console ourselves by saying “at least I get a tax deduction.” But that’s not always true, and it’s rare that value of the tax deduction is enough to compensate for the loss that creates it. Make sure you plan ahead before your next big transaction and that it serves you best!

Allan J Rolnick is a CPA who has been in practice for over 30 yea rs in Queens, NY. He welcomes your comments and can be reached at 718-896-8715 or at allanjrcpa@aol.com.


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New Year’s Day or Rosh Hashana? By Rivki D. Rosenwald Esq., CLC, SDS

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ow come in Hebrew we call it Rosh Hashana and in English the Jewish New Year? I mean, after all, one means the head of the year, or the beginning of the year, while the other kind of means... What does it mean? The Jewish New Year, like does the whole New Year appear in one day? Or is it New Year’s day today, and tomorrow are we back to the old year? There’s just something much clearer about calling it the Beginning of the Year as opposed to the New Year! Furthermore, it conveys a lot. It says that this is the start of something new. This is only the beginning. Rosh is the Hebrew word for “head,” literally. So it reminds us to use our heads as we transition into the new year. For instance, to make better resolutions and decisions for addressing the year “ahead!” There is wisdom to offering a dedicated new beginning. Of course we start every day anew. But we carry stuff with us from yesterday and

the day before and before and before... When we get this day called the Start of the New Year it wakes us up to a new opportunity to begin again. And we all need that! No one likes to be carrying bag-

you can! Give yourself a break! Decide on a new direction you’d like your life, actions, attitudes to take. And know that you can embrace that. This is your moment.

Decide on a new direction you’d like your life, actions, attitudes to take.

gage. Well, except for that little kid at the airport turnstyle. That kid who thinks he’s Hercules. He is 2 by nothing in size but he is committed to pulling off that 70 lb. duffle bag that his mother over packed even if it kills him. And if his mother doesn’t kill him first! Most of us wish we can let go of all our mistakes, burdens and issues, and Rosh Hashana says that

Don’t view this as New Year’s Day, a one-day investment in thinking about change and growth; a day to stop and think how you’d rather be, what you’d like to undo, and what you want to do. And then when the day is over the new you is a bygone too. Rosh Hashanah stands for Head of the Year. And Head of the Year stands for:

Have Every Attention Devoted Openly Focus Try to Herald in Effectiveness You’ll Embrace Amazing Results Believe in your ability to make a new start and go for it. Have a sweet New Year and make yourself even better to help make your dreams come true. Rivki Rosenwald is a certified relationship counselor, and career and life coach. She can be contacted at 917-705-2004 or rivki@rosenwalds.com


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