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Dear Readers, When I’m in the car and my children aren’t with me, I am either listening to 880 to hear the weather and the news or listening to talk radio. I particularly enjoy the time waiting in the car pool line listening to financial guru Dave Ramsey’s wisdom. After hearing him for such a long time, I by no means consider myself an expert. But I do know some of his axioms: pay off the smallest debt first regardless of interest rate; cash is king; and avoid buying things on credit.

Some people call into the program with interesting questions; most are calling with general money woes—they are maxed out on their credit cards and have no end in sight. I especially love when his listeners do their “countdown”—when they count down to being debt-free. I am amazed when people recount how they paid off hundreds of thousands of dollars of debt in just a few years by budgeting and eating rice and beans.

Talking about money can be an uncomfortable topic. For most people, there are months or even years when finances are tight and when money concerns are always on their minds. Our lifestyles add to our money concerns. Frum people with families can’t necessarily survive on rice and beans. We need to serve our families meals that consist of more than Spaghettios on Shabbos and yom tov. We need to give our children healthy fruits and vegetables to snack on. We need to pay tuitions. We need to make weddings and bar mitzvahs.

But there is a way to enjoy life and live within your means. In reading Sara Glaz’s article about organizing your finances at every stage in life, I particularly liked what she said about defining the way you relate to money. Once you see how you relate to your finances, it is easier to note your financial pitfalls and stay far away from them. Do you have the “money avoidance” mindset or the “money status” mindset? Take a few moments to analyze just what type of “money person” you are; it can really help you get your finances in order in 2014.

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Nelson Mandela. The article was written in a beautiful way, inviting the reader to glimpse into the lives into South Africans. I especially appreciated how Dr. Lightman did not laud the late leader.

He highlighted some points that were positive about Mandela’s actions, and he also mentioned how he embraced the Palestinians and their cause. I was appreciative that he did not turn him into a “god” that we should be emulating.

Learning about the restrictions placed by the government on South African society and about the terror inflicted on the blacks in society only highlighted the importance of having such a strong yet humble leader like Mandela.

Sincerely, Pamela W. Dear Editor, Your featured story this week about anxiety and learning disabilities hit home. When I was younger, I would sometimes freeze during exams. I knew the material well at home and felt confident before entering the classroom. But once I was sitting at my desk, my mind would freeze and finding the answers to those questions would be painful.

My parents could not understand why I wasn’t bringing home straight A’s. My mother would study with me and knew that I knew the material and could not fathom why I wasn’t able to write down the correct answers.

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After this happened numerous times, I had one teacher who sat down with me to discuss my problem. She suggested that I meet with our school guidance counselor who was able to give me tips on relieving my “exam anxiety.” B”H, by utilizing those tips, as the years went on, I was able to overcome my problem.

Name Withheld Dear Editor, The wave. It’s one of my favorite things that happens when I’m driving.

It’s not a big deal. It’s subtle. But it makes me happy and gives my day a lift.

You know what I’m talking about. You let a car go before you when you have every right to continue driving, and they give you that little appreciative wave (or vice versa). I look forward to it. Kills me every time.

It’s the one time the cars become more than competing vehicles on the road, there are actually real people in there driving them, and some are even considerate or appreciative.

It’s a brief moment in the driving experience, but it moves me. The appreciation. The connecting.

The wave.

Then there’re those other people.

They strain their necks to avoid looking in your direction after they make their move. Can’t do it. Can’t admit it. You did something for me and I owe you?

I’m indebted to you? Not a chance!

Such a silly thing. But it irks me.

Hey, buddy, I didn’t need to be so gracious just now. I’m in a rush too…like everyone else. But I bothered, for your sake. So acknowledge it. Be a mensch.

Give me the wave.

And then I think about it. Isn’t that what we do when we say Modeh Ani and all the morning brachot? No big deal.

No major sacrifice in the Temple. Just a small wave, a little nod. A connection. I notice and acknowledge that You do me all these favors. They’re not just coming to me. I owe you.

I wonder if it gives Hashem that same lift. I wonder if it’s as annoying to Him when it’s absent.

Well, apparently G-d has no needs, so I guess it doesn’t affect Him at all.

But He’s training us to take a moment to connect and show gratitude for all our gifts.

So next time you daven, don’t just move your lips. Give a wave.

Laya Perlysky, tismach1@aol.com

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Dear Editor, Regarding the letter from Mr. Dornbush a few weeks ago regarding tzedaka organizations, there are a few good things that have come of getting incentives to collect. In my day, kids never asked that contributions to an organization be given in lieu of gifts for Bar/Bat Mitzvah. Also, many children are inclined to have lemonade and cake sales to collect for organizations, instead of just making money for themselves. In addition, there is more sensitivity to those less fortunate. These things are most likely due to their exposure to tzedaka organizations asking for their assistance.

I think it encourages volunteerism and rewards kids for their efforts.

G.S., Far Rockaway Dear Editor, Despite Nelson Mandela being a polarizing figure, the article in your paper last week was written in a very nice tone.

The focus of the article was on South Africa and on the Jewish community there, and it gave me insight into a vibrant Jewish kehilla.

Kudos to you for giving the passing of Mandela a Yiddishe ta’am.

Kol tuv, Chaim Wagner Dear Editor, I was most impressed with the article written by Dr. Hylton Lightman this week about his experience growing up in South Africa and his impressions on

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The world’s fascination with the royals continues.

Prince Harry, 29, and his fellow adventurers finally reached the South Pole on Friday. The prince is a member of one of three teams involving injured soldiers that set out two weeks ago on the 200-mile Walking with the Wounded South Pole Challenge.

The charity announced that the teams arrived at the South Pole at 13:25 GMT (8:25 a.m. EST).

Initially, the challenge was set up as a race but organizers suspended the competitive element last week due to harsh conditions.

In News wedding in 2005, the queen put out bowls of nuts and Bombay mix, a popular British snack that she specially ordered. The guards would eat the snacks and in an effort to dissuade them, the queen “started marking the bowls to see when the levels dipped,” royal editor Clive Goodman said in a 2005 email to his then-editor Andy Coulson. “Queen furious about police stealing bowls of nuts and nibbles left out for her in apartments in the BP/Queen’s corridor. She has a very savory tooth and staff leave out cashews, Bombay Mix, almonds etc.

Prob is that police on patrol eat the lot... memo now gone around to all palace cops telling them to keep their sticky fingers out.” The email produced laughter in the courtroom when it was read out loud.

Another interesting detail revealed that the first guest to RSVP to Prince Charles’ wedding was then-Prime Minister Tony Blair.

Coup Foiled in South Sudan

Queen Tries to Protect Her Snacks

A phone hacking trial in London this week against the British tabloid News of the World has revealed some interesting tidbits. The paper is charged with illegally hacking into the private emails and phones of public figures, including members of the royal family.

One detail that seemed most interesting to observers was that the Queen of England became “irritated” with the police guard for their excessive snacking.

During the week of Prince Charles’

On Sunday, soldiers attempted to attack the South Sudanese military headquarters in an effort to overthrow the current powers in the country. But their efforts were thwarted, and on Monday, President Salva Kiir ordered a dusk-todawn curfew in the capital to stabilize the city.

“The attackers went and [the] armed forces are pursuing them,” Kiir told the nation. “I promise you today that justice will prevail.” The government is now “in full control of the military situation” in Juba, he said, insisting his government could only be removed though elections.

South Sudanese Foreign Minister Barnaba Marial Benjamin said the coup was plotted by “disgruntled” soldiers and politicians led by former Vice President Riek Machar, who fell out with Kiir before being fired earlier this year as the country’s deputy president.

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The Week Sudan People’s Liberation Movement party, many of the dismissed ministers, including Machar, were key figures in the rebel movement that fought a decades-long war against Sudan that led to South Sudan’s independence in 2011.

Machar, a deputy chairman of the ruling party, is one of the country’s most influential politicians.

South Sudan has experienced bouts of ethnic violence, especially in rural Jonglei state, since the country peacefully broke away from Sudan after a brutal civil war.

Burqa Covers Up Abuse in New Zealand Authorities removed a Muslim girl from her home in New Zealand when it was learned that she was suffering from abuse and was being severely beaten for several months. It took authorities a long time to discover the abuse since family members who knew about the abuse forced the young girl to wear a burqa to cover her injuries.

The 15-year-old suffered a broken nose, damaged teeth and other injuries at the hands of a family member. After the facial injuries, the girl was kept at home but a concerned classmate learned of the abuse and called the police. When police visited the home, the girl was told to put on a burqa, even though she generally only wore a head scarf.

In News ident of the Federation of the Islamic Associations of New Zealand. “We are subject to the laws of the country and follow the laws of New Zealand. Anything like that is not accepted here. It has nothing to do with Islam or the religion.

It’s more to do with a cultural thing ... It could just be the family,” he said.

North Korea Unites Behind Kim

Pyongyang’s streets were empty. Regular citizens are often expected to attend memorial gatherings at their workplaces, some watching the live broadcast of the Central Memorial Meeting on state TV. Many then turned out in groups at portraits and monuments around the city to lay flowers before going back to work. The anniversary is not a public holiday and work continues around the memorial meetings and events.

The Handshake that Made Headlines “At this stage it is clear that a number of members of the community were aware of the extent of the abuse and did not seek medical assistance for her injuries or alert authorities,” authorities said. “This included people who were in positions of trust and who should have been relied upon to provide help.”

“Maybe the family members were trying to hide it, but I don’t think the community would condone anything like that,” said Javed Khan, acting pres-

After news of the murder of Kim Jong Un’s uncle rocked the world last week, North Korea is trying to uphold the image of a stable country on the second anniversary of the leader’s father.

Kim sat silently as a stadium full of military and party officials paid homage to his father, Kim Jong Il, at the day’s main event. He was flanked by Kim Yong Nam, the ceremonial head of state, and Vice Marshal Choe Ryong Hae, representing the military. Conspicuously absent was his uncle, Jang Song Thaek, who was executed after being accused of corruption and trying to overthrow the government.

Jang was North Korea’s second-most powerful man before his demise. The regime’s efforts to vilify him and condemn him in the public’s eye heightened questions over the stability of Kim’s two-year leadership. But since Jang has been literally erased from the country—he has been deleted from state media archives—North Korea is calling for “single-minded unity” behind Kim. On the eve of the anniversary on Monday, tens of thousands of people crowded Mansu Hill in Pyongyang, where two giant bronze statues of national founder Kim Il Sung and Kim Jong Il stand. A mass rally of the military was also held outside the mausoleum where the two Kims lie in state to swear allegiance to Kim Jong Un and the ruling Workers’ Party.

As the ceremony began on Tuesday,

When is a handshake not just a handshake? When it’s between enemies and done in public.

Briefly laying aside differences that spanned decades, President Barack Obama shook the hand of Cuban president Raul Castro at the memorial service for Nelson Mandela on Tuesday.

The handshake appeared to be the first between American and Cuban presidents since 2000, when Bill Clinton and Fidel Castro greeted each other at a United Nations luncheon in New York, and only the second since 1959, when Castro took power.

Moments later, in a eulogy for Mandela, Obama offered criticism of governments that embrace Mandela’s legacy of racial reconciliation but “passionately resist even modest reforms” to fight poverty and inequality, and that imprison people for their political beliefs. “There are too many who claim solidarity with Madiba’s struggle for freedom but do not tolerate dissent from their own people,” Obama said.

On his way to the lectern, Obama also hugged Dilma Rousseff, the president of Brazil, who has stridently opposed spying by the National Security Agency and criticized the U.S. government.

Texas Sen. Ted Cruz, the only senator to attend Mandela’s service, walked out when Castro began to speak, his spokesman said. “Sen. Cruz very much hopes that Castro learns the lessons of

Nazi Guard Says He had Fun in Dachau

Authorities in Germany have opened a probe into a Nazi concentration camp S.S. guard who kept a photo scrapbook of his time at Dachau where he admitted he “had fun.” Horst P., now aged 87, was a guard at the camp outside Munich between 1943 and the end of the war.

Dachau was the first of the Nazi concentration camps, the blueprint for brutality at all other such places in the Third Reich and some 36,000 people were murdered there between 1933 and 1945.

Horst P., who lives in Berlin, was reported to the local prosecutor by the Simon Wiesenthal Center in Israel as a probable war criminal after receiving information about him from camp survivors.

He lives in the Gruenau section of Berlin and has a photo collage of himself in an S.S. uniform in Dachau. Over the photos are inscribed the words “Mein Kampf” - meaning my struggle, the title Adolf Hitler ym”sh’s rabid anti-Semitic autobiography.

He told the Bild newspaper in Germany: “Yes, I wanted to go into the S.S. It was explained to me that it would be fun.”

The newspaper reporter commented: “When he talks about his time in Dachau, it sounded like it was.”

Horst P. went on: “We were together with the prisoners each day. They were like colleagues. With some I even played cards. I ate the same things. There was even a certain camaraderie.”

But he said nothing about extermination or murder, or the hideous medical experiments carried out on prisoners by air force doctors who wanted to test the human body’s reaction to freezing water in a bid to save downed pilots in the English Channel during the Battle of Britain.

He only added repentantly: “If a criminal made trouble I reported him.

Then he was taken away and went into the special prison. Sometimes I never saw him again. But I never asked questions because I didn’t want it to appear that I had something to do with them.”

It is understood that eyewitnesses have placed him at beatings and executions in Dachau. A whipping stool, where prisoners were often flogged to death, is one of the exhibits still on display in the camp to this day.

Between 1933 and 1945, more than 200,000 people from 38 countries were held at Dachau and at least 30,000 people were killed, starved or died of disease.

Missing American Was Working for the CIA

In 2007, Robert Levinson disappeared in Iran. The United States said at the time that he was a private citizen who was in the country on private business. But it seems that that’s not really the case. According to a report from AP, Levinson was working for the CIA and investigating the Iranian government.

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“Just as Mandela was released after 27 years in prison, Castro should finally release his political prisoners; he should hold free elections, and once and for all set the Cuban people free.”

This is not the first time Obama shook hands with one of America’s enemies. In 2009, the president shook hands with the late Venezuelan President Hugo Chavez — who called the United States “the biggest menace to our planet,” among other criticisms — at the Summit of the Americas.

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run international spying operations for the agency. Levinson himself, a former Drug Enforcement Administration and FBI agent, was not properly trained to undertake that work. Levinson

In News worked as a private investigator after retiring from the FBI in 1998.

Once the CIA realized that Levinson was working for them, they took great measures to ensure that his connections

and affiliations were kept quiet.

The AP learned of the CIA connection through a series of documents, along with “dozens” of interviews spanning several years with those involved in the mission to find Levinson. After agreeing to delay the story in 2010 based on a U.S. government request, the news agency changed its mind this year: “The AP is reporting the story now because, nearly seven years after his disappearance, those efforts [to rescue Levinson] have repeatedly come up empty.” The last proof of life photos for Levinson were sent in 2011.

Some U.S. officials believe Levinson is dead. Whether he is alive or not, U.S. and foreign officials seem to have no idea where he was taken.

In November, Levinson’s son Dan wrote an op-ed in the Washington Post about the effort to find his father.

“We respectfully request that the Rouhani administration help us find my father,” Dan said of the new Iranian president, adding, “It’s not possible to overstate the nightmare that the past 6 years 8 months have been since my father, a retired FBI agent, disappeared while on a private business trip. My mother, four sisters, two brothers and I have tried to continue with our lives, but the situation weighs on us every day.”

In the past, Rouhani has insisted he has no knowledge of Levinson’s whereabouts.

Fake Sign Language Interpreter Shocks the World

Thamsanqa Jantjie was seated with world leaders at Nelson Mandela’s memorial service last Thursday at FNB Stadium in Soweto, Johannesburg’s famed black township. He was brought on stage to enlighten the deaf and help them participate in the funeral. But despite his gesturing, Jantjie wasn’t helpful in interpreting the proceedings.

Instead, Jantjie created more confusion for the hearing impaired as his gestures seemed to be made up and without purpose.

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He said he tried not to panic because there were “armed policemen around me.” He revealed that he had previously been hospitalized in a mental health facility for more than one and a half years.

Jantjie’s statements raise major serious security issues for Obama, other heads of state and United Nations Secretary-General Ban Ki-moon who were around him. It is obvious that an imposter was vetted and allowed on stage with some of the world’s most important leaders. A South African deputy Cabinet minister, Hendrietta Bogopane-Zulu, later held a news conference to announce that “a mistake happened” in the hiring of Jantjie.

Many are still questioning who in the government hired the company that contracted Jantjie, how much money the government paid the company, and Jantjie’s own involvement with the company.

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Some speculate whether the company actually even exists. AP journalists who visited the address of the company that Jantjie provided found a different company there whose managers said they knew nothing about SA Interpreters. The owners seemed to have vanished and the phone numbers of Jantjie’s employers are disconnected.

Bogopane-Zulu apologized to deaf people around the world who were offended by Jantjie’s incomprehensible signing. She said the translation company offered poor services. Supposedly the company pays translators $77 a day, which is far below the average rate of up to $164 an hour.

“I would like to tell everybody that if I’ve offended anyone, please, forgive me,” Jantjie said. “But what I was doing, I was doing what I believe is my calling.

I was doing what I believe makes a difference. What happened that day, I see angels come to the stadium ... I start realizing that the problem is here. And the problem, I don’t know the attack of this problem, how will it comes. Sometimes I react violent on that place. Sometimes I will see things that chase me,” Jantjie continued.

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“I was in a very difficult position,” he added. “And remember those people, the president and everyone, they were armed, there was armed police around me. If I start panicking I’ll start being a problem. I have to deal with this in a manner so that I mustn’t embarrass my country.”

Jantjie said on the day of the ceremony he was supposed to visit the doctor for his regular six-month mental health checkup. He said the company that contracted him was fully aware of his condition but did not know about his scheduled appointment.

He said he has previously interpreted at many events without anyone complaining. But the Deaf Federation of South Africa said it filed a complaint about his interpreting last year at an appearance that included President Jacob Zuma and other top governing African National Congress members.

When Jantjie was shown video footage of himself interpreting on stage at the Mandela memorial service he said, “I don’t remember any of this at all.”

Jantjie was charged with murder in 2003 but did not stand trial when he was accused of burning two men to death.

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Pope Named Person of the Year Time Magazine has named its Person of the Year for 2013: Pope Francis. The leader of the Roman Catholic Church gained media attention for helping the homeless, being kind to children, and befriending a rabbi.

The pope beat out nine other finalists including National Security Agency leaker Edward Snowden and Syria’s President Bashar Assad.

“Rarely has a new player on the world stage captured so much attention so quickly — young and old, faithful and cynical — as has Pope Francis,” Time managing editor Nancy Gibbs wrote. “In his nine months in office, he has placed himself at the very center of the central conversations of our time: about wealth and poverty, fairness and justice, transparency, modernity, globalization, the role of women...,” Gibbs continued.

Francis was chosen, she added, “for pulling the papacy out of the palace and into the streets, for committing the

world’s largest church to confronting its deepest needs, and for balancing judgment with mercy.”

The Person of the Year award is reserved for an individual who has the “most impact on our lives, for better or worse.”

Last year, Obama held the title.

Vladimir Putin, George W. Bush, Rudy Giuliani, and the Ayatollah Khomeini were past recipients of the honor.

China Lists Benefits of Smog

China is attempting to mask its pollution problem by publicly claiming that the heavy smog that blankets the country has a positive impact on its people. Although the smog had residents gasping for clean air and forced schools to shut

down, the government published a list documenting its benefits. A Time Magazine translator translated the following state broadcaster CCTV rationalizations for smog: It unifies the Chinese people; it makes China more equal; it raises citizen awareness of the cost of China’s economic development; it makes people funnier and it makes people more knowledgeable.

Additionally, the Global Times, which is published by the Communist Party’s official People’s Daily, noted that smog has a defensive benefit.

“Smog may affect people’s health and daily lives,” the newspaper wrote, “but on the battlefield, it can serve as a defensive advantage in military operations.”

The article mentioned military operations in Kosovo and Saudi Arabia that used smoke as a means of obscuring the enemy’s sight lines and fouling electronic equipment.

I guess you can call China the new masters of spin.

The Harshest Laws around the World The world’s justice system is still evolving. While most Westernized countries have banned all cruel and unusual punishments, there are still some places where harsh laws still exist.

Just two centuries ago, Singapore had an American teenager killed for vandalism. Amendments have been made regarding vandalism laws but the city still strongly punishes drug possession. Having 17 ounces or more of marijuana in Singapore can carry a punishment of death by hanging.

Drug possession carries equally strict penalties in other countries, like Saudi Arabia, for example. Drug traffickers are often publicly beheaded. In Vietnam, drug convicts are sent to a rehabilitation center that prisoners have called a forced hard labor camp.

Of course this list wouldn’t be complete without mentioning the big bad wolf: North Korea. In North Korea, if one attempts to leave the country without permission he could face life in prison at a labor camp not just for himself but for his children and grandchildren as well.

In India, cheating on an academic exam in school can be punished with 10 years in prison.

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we go ‘la, la, la,’” said Pierre Kohler, president of the jury holding an unofficial competition to choose a new anthem.

Generally, a change in a national anthem is associated with revolutions or wars, none of which is relevant to the always peaceful and stable Switzerland.

“Personally, I think a national anthem can be changed every 50 or 100 years. It’s not a major problem. On the contrary, it allows people to think,” Kohler announced. On January 1, organizers will open a contest to find a new anthem. Anyone can submit an entry and the grand prize is 10,000 Swiss francs ($11,000). Entries must be submitted by June 30. The group wants to submit the new anthem proposal to the government by 2016.

The present anthem, the “Swiss Psalm,” was written in 1841. “You’ve got rolling thunder, radiant mountains.

It’s a mix between a weather report and a psalm. That might have been right for its century,” said fellow jury president Oscar Knapp.

Of course there are many who support tradition and reject the reform.

Historian Claude Bonard says the idea is wrongheaded: “Our anthem may not be great. It’s of its time, and times have changed. But change for change’s sake?”

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A Chinese lunar rover landed on the moon on Saturday morning, making China the third country to ever successfully “soft-land” on the moon.

The Chinese lunar, the Chang’e-3, an unmanned spacecraft carrying a lunar rover that will carry out experiments and collect geological samples, “soft-landed” on the moon, according to state television. A soft-landing occurs when the rocket is designed to touch down as gently as possible.

The vessel departed from Earth about two weeks ago.

Previously, only the United States and the U.S.S.R. were able to accomplish this mission.

China’s lunar rover, nicknamed the Jade Rabbit, will spend three months on the moon digging dirt and collecting samples, with tools that can reach 30 meters into the ground. The rocket weighs 140 kilograms (308 lbs.) and carries an optical telescope for astronomical observations and a powerful ultraviolet camera that will monitor how solar activity affects the various layers – troposphere, stratosphere and ionosphere – that make up the Earth’s atmosphere.

Kerry Visits Mekong Delta, Again

Secretary of State John Kerry has a new enemy: climate change.

Kerry visited the Mekong Delta, a remote part of southern Vietnam, where

rising sea waters, erosion, and the impact of upstream dam development are threatening serious damage. This isn’t Kerry’s first time visiting the region; as a young lieutenant in 1968 and 1969 Kerry battled the Viet Cong guerrillas on a naval gunboat in this region.

As Kerry’s boat left the dock onto the Cai Nuoc River, the secretary of state told his guide: “I’ve been on this river many times.”

When he was asked how he felt about returning to the scene of his wartime military service for the first time, Kerry replied, “Weird, and it’s going to get weirder.” He continued, “Decades ago on these very waters, I was one of many who witnessed the difficult period in our shared history,” Kerry told a group of young professionals gathered near a dock at the riverfront village of Kien Vang. “Today on these waters I am bearing witness to how far our two nations have come together and we are talking about the future and that’s the way it ought to be,” he said.

The millions of residents of the Mekong Delta are supported by the water-dependent economy. Kerry announced a pledge of $17 million to a program that will help the region’s rice producers, shrimp and crab farmers, and fishermen adapt to potential changes caused by higher sea levels that bring salt water into the delicate ecosystem.

Six countries, China, Myanmar, Thailand, Laos, Cambodia and Vietnam, share the Mekong and depend on it for livelihoods.

In News The PA purchased the fuel from Israel; it was paid for by funds supplied by gasrich Gulf state Qatar.

Tel Aviv Offers Affordable Housing to Raffle Winners Thousands of residents were evacuated from their homes to schools due to the inclement and unexpected weather.

According to an AFP correspondent, as of Sunday, the water level was reducing, yet many residents were still stranded.

On Friday, Israel allowed the transfer of gas for domestic heating and provided four water pumps. Additionally, Israel granted permission for another “800,000 liters of diesel fuel for transportation... and another 200 tons of household gas,” the army said in a statement.

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Israel Israel Transports Fuel and Gas to Gaza On Sunday, Israel began transferring fuel to the Gaza Strip’s sole power plant.

The Hamas-ruled territory struggled to deal with massive flooding caused by winter downpours that began on Thursday. Raed Fatuh, the Palestinian Authority official in charge of the transfer of goods between Gaza and Israel, said they are expecting Israel to transfer 450,000 liters of fuel to the plant, which has been shut down for some 50 days.

Although the PA is no longer in rule of over the Gaza Strip, it handles the transfer of goods from Israel to the territory, which Hamas refuses to recognize.

sight of the flurries falling from the sky.

Magen Dovid Adom received over 10,000 calls for help during the storm.

There were reportedly 313 babies born since the storm began on Friday.

Israel got a big surprise on Friday…a snowstorm! Oh, and what a mess!

As the snow accumulated on the mountainous roads, residents scrambled to prepare for the storm. In some areas, nearly three feet of snow gathered. Almost 60,000 households were left without power through Shabbos and as many as 20,000 remained without power as of Tuesday.

The army was summoned to dig out stranded motorists. Roads were closed.

Schools were closed. Stores were closed.

Most of the country shut down from the sheer lack of experience of dealing with a storm of this magnitude.

The storm spread to Eygpt’s capital, Cairo. The last recorded snowfall in Cairo was more than 100 years ago.

Children and adults alike marveled at the

Rents in Tel Aviv are sky high just like in many metropolises around the world.

The Tel Aviv Municipality announced back in September that it had plans to raffle off affordable housing to 77 lucky individuals. The lottery was held on Wednesday and winners won apartments with rents ranging between NIS 2,000 ($570) and NIS 3,100 ($880) in the Shapira and Yad Eliyahu neighborhoods of southern Tel Aviv.

In order to participate in the sweepstakes, individuals had to meet certain criteria and then received an entry number. Applicants had to be current residents of Tel Aviv-Yaffo, between the ages of 27-45, fall within a specific household income bracket, and not own another apartment. In addition, applicants were required to report their capitals and assets, work a certain amount of hours a week, and have children of a certain age.

Ezra U’Bitzron, the municipal in charge of the project, reported that they received 600 inquiries from residents regarding the affordable housing.

The apartments will be ready by March 2014.

Thousands of American Professors Boycott Israeli Universities The American Studies Association, which represents 5,000 U.S. professors, has endorsed an academic boycott of

National Details Released on Asiana Flight 214 Crash In the summer, the nation was rocked with the crash landing of Asiana Flight 214 at San Francisco Airport.

Now, a report reveals some more details on the crash.

Lee Kang Kuk, 46, was the pilot of the Boeing 777 that crashed last July on the runway of San Francisco Airport. He told investigators that he was “very con-

cerned” about attempting a visual approach without the runway’s instrument landing aids, which were out of service because of construction.

It was the pilot’s first time at San Francisco. And according to the investigation report released on Wednesday, he said, “It was very difficult to perform a visual approach with a heavy airplane.” A visual approach encompasses lining the jet up for landing by looking through the windshield and using several other signals, rather than relying on a radio-based system that normally guides an aircraft to the runway.

Lee was an experienced pilot with the Korea-based airline but was a trainee captain in the 777. He had spent less than 45 hours in the plane at the time of the accident. He had not piloted an airliner into San Francisco since 2004, according to NTSB investigator Bill English.

Ultimately, the plane came in too low and too slow and crash-landed.

Three people were killed and more than 200 were injured, according to the National Transportation Safety Board.

The report did not draw a final conclusion as to what exactly went wrong.

The jet’s mechanical parts are still being tested but at the time of the release of the report, the investigation did not find any mechanical problems with the 777 prior to impact.

Lee admitted to NTSB investigators that he did not immediately move to abort the landing and perform a “go around” as the plane descended because he felt that only the instructor pilot had the authority to initiate that emergency move.

Lee also acknowledged that he was worried about his unfamiliarity with the 777’s autoflight systems. He admitted he had not studied the systems well enough and thought that the plane’s autothrottle was supposed to prevent the jet from flying below minimum speed as it drew near the runway.

“This pilot should never have taken off,” said attorney Ilyas Akbari, whose firm represents 14 of the passengers.

“The fact that the pilot was stressed and nervous is a testament to the inadequate training he received, and those responsible for his training and for certifying his competency bear some of the culpability for the tragedy of this crash.”

Lee told investigators that as he real-

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Israeli colleges and universities. The organization said the boycott is “an ethical stance.”

“It represents a principle of solidarity with scholars and students deprived of their academic freedom and an aspiration to enlarge that freedom for all, including Palestinians,” a statement said.

This is a big blow, marking one of the largest boycotts intended to isolate Israel.

This is reportedly the first time the institute has called for an academic boycott of any nation’s universities. The academic group specified that the boycott doesn’t apply to “individual Israeli scholars engaged in ordinary forms of academic exchange,” including conferences, lectures, and research.

It justified the boycott, saying it was “warranted given U.S. military and other support for Israel; Israel’s violation of international law and U.N. resolutions; the documented impact of the Israeli occupation on Palestinian scholars and students” and “the extent to which Israeli institutions of higher education are a party to state policies that violate human rights.”

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Another Asiana pilot who had flown with Lee just two days before the crash told investigators that he was not sure if the trainee captain was making normal progress and that he did not perform well during the flight. That captain described Lee as “not well organized or prepared,” according to the investigative report.

Asiana’s chief pilot told investigators that the airline recommended pilots use as much automation “as possible.” He also said that the airline instructed its pilots to turn off the 777’s autopilots below 1,000 feet when making visual approaches to airports. But a former Asiana pilot told the board that Asiana pilots were rarely allowed to practice visual approaches on landing and that many trainee pilots “did not feel confident and did not want to make any mistakes.”

Recordings from the cockpit show Lee took the controls as the autopilot disconnected when the plane was about 1,500 feet above San Francisco Bay. Lee claimed that he had been blinded during a critical moment before the failed landing by a piercing light from

outside the aircraft. NTSB investigators questioned the light, but Lee could not determine its source or exactly how it affected him. The instructor pilot said he did not notice any bright light.

Hawaii: Healthiest State in the U.S.

We all know the importance of exercise and eating right. But how many of us actually take those important lessons to heart? (Pun intended.) With the year winding down, let’s pledge to work on our health in 2014.

This year, Americans improved in more than two-thirds of the measures used in America’s Health Rankings, an annual state-by-state assessment pub-

In News lished jointly by the United Health Foundation, American Public Health Association, and Partnership for Prevention.

The range of criteria used to determine the rankings includes concrete health measures like cancer deaths and diabetes rates, along with lifestyle factors such as smoking and alcohol use, combined with quality-of-life indicators like air pollution and rate of violent crime.

The smoking rate in America is on the decline, dropping to 19.6% from 21.2%. Levels of physical inactivity also decreased from 26.2% to 22.9%.

Yet nearly 28% of American adults are obese, and close to 20% still smoke.

Some of the unhealthiest states in the nation are Louisiana (#48), Arkansas (#49), and Mississippi (#50). The nation’s ten healthiest states included: New Jersey, North Dakota, Colorado, Connecticut, Utah, New Hampshire, Massachusetts, Minnesota and Vermont.

Hawaii is considered the nation’s healthiest state.

New York only came in at number 15 on the list. Just goes to show that New Yorkers better start taking some bites out of some big apples if they plan to get healthy next year.

Attempted Suicide Bomber Caught by Feds Terry Lee Loewen, 58, was charged on Friday with planning a suicide bombing at a passenger terminal at the Wichita Mid-Continent Airport in Kansas. The suspect, an avionics technician who lives in Wichita, was arrested as he attempted to use his security pass to drive a vehicle that he thought contained explosives onto the tarmac at the airport. Thankfully, the car contained dummy explosives.

According to U.S. Attorney Barry Grissom, Loewen spent months developing a plot to drive a carload of explosives to the airport terminal. His plan was to detonate the bomb himself and take his own life. Loewen, who is Caucasian, became radicalized after reading extremist Islamic material on the Internet, Grissom said.

A criminal complaint filed in U.S. District Court in Wichita charges Loewen with one count of attempting to use a weapon of mass destruction, one count of attempting to damage property by means of an explosive and one count of attempting to provide material support to a designated foreign terrorist organization. If convicted on all counts, he faces a maximum penalty of life in prison.

Investigators say that Loewen had been on their radar since August, when he began having an online exchange with someone he thought was a like-minded individual but who turned out to be an FBI employee. “Let me preface the bottom line by saying I have become ‘radicalized’ in the strongest sense of the word, and I don’t feel Allah wants me any other way,” he said in one online message.

Grissom and Michael Kaste, special agent in charge of the FBI office in Kansas City, stressed that the suspect was under constant surveillance and at no time was the public in danger.

Officials do not believe that anyone else was involved in the plot.

Schemer Sentenced to 28 Years

On Monday, a man convicted of masterminding a $100 million, cross-country Navy veterans charity fraud was sentenced to 28 years in prison. The defendant, who identifies himself as 67-yearold Bobby Thompson, was also ordered to pay a $6 million fine. Authorities say the defendant is Harvard-trained attorney John Donald Cody.

Initially during the trial, Thompson was seen writing notes but as the days wore on, he came to court disheveled, with his shirt unbuttoned and his hair uncombed. Jailers said he was acting erratically and bloodied his forehead by smashing it against a wall.

Thompson was convicted on November 14 of racketeering, theft, money laundering and 12 counts of identity theft. The prosecutor showed jurors identification cards with the defendant’s photo but with different names and issued by government agencies and comContinued on page 30

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The judge said the crimes had

harmed veterans who were the intended beneficiaries of the donations and also had hurt other charities as donors became skeptical of giving. “Everyone’s afraid to give,” he expounded.

Only a fraction of the $100 million was found. When Thompson was arrested, authorities found fake IDs and a suitcase with $980,000 in cash.

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B2 is expected to open its doors in December 2014.

Many developers are exploring the option of modular housing in an attempt to complete projects more quickly and efficiently. A shorter construction window means tenants can move in faster and rents start rolling in earlier. Modular housing also benefits neighbors since it decreases noise, dust, and debris.

“We’re getting phone calls like crazy from developers who see [prefab] as a panacea for the plumber who doesn’t show up or the electrician who screws up everything,” said Peter Gluck of Gluck+, the firm that designed the Stack, a sleek seven-story, 28-unit residence in the Inwood section of Manhattan. The building will offer studios at around $1,800 a month, one-bedrooms at $2,400, two-bedrooms at $3,200 and three-bedrooms at $3,900 when it opens its doors in early 2014.

Prefab projects tend to slice five to eight months off construction, according to Gluck. But while prefab projects bring rent to developers sooner it does not necessarily cost less. As with all construction, the prices of materials used vary according to quality.

Average American Receives $177K in Inheritance We all wish that our relatives live forever. But a recent survey revealed that American retirees expect to leave an average inheritance of almost $177,000 for their offspring. Although that number sounds high, there are five other countries where the deceased leave higher inheritances for their heirs.

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The Week According to an HSBC survey that surveyed more than 16,000 people in 15 countries, Australian retirees are the most generous, with inheritances averaging more than $500,000. This is partially possible due to the country’s booming real estate industry. Next up was Singapore at nearly $371,000, followed by the United Kingdom, France and Taiwan.

Around the world, 69% of retirees plan to leave an inheritance to their offspring, at an average of $148,000.

American retirees were the least likely, with only 56% expecting to pass on their assets to their children.

HSBC found that about 35% of working-age Americans have already received money from a parent – averaging $24,000 prior to the death of a par-

In News ent. About two-thirds of U.S. respondents said the inheritances they receive will at least partly fund their retirement, and 10% said they will rely on their inheritance completely to retire.

“These findings show that many Americans expect to leave an inheritance,” said Andy Ireland, head of premier banking and wealth management at HSBC. “However, it’s vital that peo-

ple don’t rely on these potential windfalls to fund their retirement.”

It is dangerous to simply rely on an inheritance because things can come up like unexpected medical expenses. A recent study from Ameriprise Financial found that retirees lose an average of $117,000 to unplanned events. “[Y]ou cannot predict what may happen between now and receiving an inheritance,” said Ireland. “The earlier you start preparing, the more financially secure your own retirement is likely to be.”

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The Anarchist Cookbook Should be Laid to Rest Last week, a student opened fire in a Colorado high school, leaving a girl in a coma and then taking his own life. Now, William Powell, author of The Anarchist Cookbook, is calling for his book’s demise. This book is not a recipe for good food. The manual is the original how-to of homicide and mass murder, and Karl Pierson of Colorado read the book in the days before his deadly rampage.

“The Anarchist Cookbook should go quietly and immediately out of print,” says William Powell, who wrote the book as a stern 19-year-old and as an opponent of the Vietnam War who felt violence was justified if it could prevent even greater violence in the process. He has since renounced that position, but never so forcefully, writing that “it is no longer responsible or defensible to keep it in print.”

In the 40-plus years since he wrote The Anarchist Cookbook, Powell has reinvented himself as an educator on the international stage, running a series of elite schools abroad, before settling in Malaysia. There he owns a teacher training center and writes books on pedagogy for the State Department.

Published in 1971, the book has sold more than two million copies and influenced many who long for destruction. Police have linked it to the Croatian radicals who bombed Grand Central Terminal and hijacked a TWA flight in 1976; the Puerto Rican separatists who bombed FBI headquarters in 1981; Thomas Spinks, who led a group that bombed 10 abortion clinics in the 1980s; Timothy McVeigh, who bombed the Alfred P. Murrah Federal Building in Oklahoma City in 1995; the Columbine High School shooters of 1999; and the 2005 London public transport bombers.

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Powell, meanwhile, has apologized for the destructive cultural force that bears his name, and posted an eight-paragraph warning to would-be buyers on the book’s Amazon page. But Powell has no say: the rights belong to the publisher and always have — and the publisher has never wavered in his commitment to selling.

“You know, we don’t ban books in America,” says Billy Blann, who bought the rights to the Cookbook in 2002. Of hundreds of titles offering tips on mass destruction, however, The Anarchist Cookbook remains his most-asked-for volume, he says, contributing largely to his $3 million in annual revenue and supporting a semi-retired life in a 6,000 square foot home in southern Arkansas.

“I’m sure I got my money back,” he says of the deal.

In 2010, after a father-son team of British white supremacists drew on the book to make a jar of ricin, a London judge joined police in calling for a ban on the title. But Amazon said the law could not compel them to stop selling the book.

“Our goal is to support freedom of expression and to provide customers with the broadest selection possible so they can find, discover and buy any title,” a spokesperson for the bookseller said at

the time, adding that they would only remove a book if the law specifically found it to be illegal.

When does freedom of expression impede on the safety of the country’s citizens? Those discussions will surely become more frequent in the coming months.

Panetta Revealed Secret Info about Bin Laden Raid

According to newly declassified documents, former CIA Director Leon Panetta revealed secret information to “Zero Dark Thirty” scriptwriter Mark Boal. The movie focused on the bin Laden raid and capture. According to the report, when Panetta gave a speech at CIA headquarters marking the raid that killed Osama bin Laden, Boal was there.

A spokesman said that Panetta was unaware that Boal was in the room.

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“I had no idea that individual was in the audience,” Panetta said in a statement. “To this day, I wouldn’t know him if he walked into the room.” Panetta’s spokesman, Jeremy Bash, said Panetta assumed everyone in the audience had the proper clearance to hear the speech.

The documents refer specifically to the name of the ground commander of the unit that carried out the raid that Panetta revealed during that speech.

CIA spokesman Dean Boyd said the CIA has since “overhauled its procedures for interaction with the entertainment industry after an extensive internal review.” He said the agency now maintains “a centralized record-keeping system for entertainment industry requests and, earlier this year, issued detailed guidance on contact with the industry and support for entertainment-related projects,” to make sure classified material is protected.

Boal declined to comment on the situation.

“Uptalk” on the Rise A new study suggests that “uptalk,” phrasing your statements with a rise in pitch at the end to sound like a question,

has become the new norm. This way of speaking used to be reserved for teenage girls and young women and was referred to as “Valley Girl” talk. But now this type of talk seems to be universal and even males are speaking in this pitch.

The study presented at the Acoustical Society of America’s annual meeting found that in Southern California young people tend to uptalk no matter their gender, ethnicity or socioeconomic status, “The use of uptalk is certainly more than just stereotypical ‘Valley Girl speak’ in Southern California. In fact, uptalk serves several purposes in the speech of SoCal speakers, and it is used by both men and women, at least those of young age, though there are also gender differences in the use of uptalk,” write authors Amanda Ritchart, a graduate student at the University of California, San Diego, and Amalia Arvanti, a linguistics professor at the University of Kent in the UK. Ritchart and Arvanti gathered 23 UCSD undergrads, 12 females and 11 males, all “native speakers of SoCal English.” Their backgrounds varied widely: most self-identified as middle-class, but six said they were upper-class, and four said they were lower-class. Eight of the group were bilingual. Despite their differences, they all used uptalk, the authors say.

The authors of the study analyzed the group’s speech by asking them to retell scenes from shows or give directions from one San Diego landmark to another. “For young speakers in Southern California, no matter the gender, the ethnicity, the socioeconomic background, everyone uses uptalk,” Ritchart says.

Proposal to Cut Spending on “Lavish” Congressional Portraits A cross-party Senate duo proposed a new budget on what they call the government’s “lavish” spending on oil paintings of congressmen. Just a single portrait can cost the government $50,000 or more.

In a press release on Thursday, Senators Jeanne Shaheen, D-N.H., and Tom Coburn, R-Okla. introduced a bill that

Jesse Owens Olympic Medal Sells for $1.4M

That’s Odd 4-Year-Old Has IQ of 160 Sherwyn Sarabi is only four-yearsold but he is already a member of Mensa, and he is being compared to Albert Einstein, Bill Gates, and Stephen Hawking.

The toddler has an IQ of 160.

He spoke his first words at ten months, was talking in full sentences at 20 months, and has been shocking his parents, teachers, and doctors ever since.

The four-year-old can identify every country in the world and can read up to 500 words. He can describe major body organs and their functions and explain volcanoes and shooting stars.

Sherwyn’s mother, Amanda Sarabi, 37, a former teacher, said about her only child, “He is a very happy, healthy child and loves to talk. He questions everything and I have been doing my best to answer his questions to the best of my knowledge.”

His mental age is eight years and nine months, more than twice his actual age. He has read more than 940 books.

If this is how he is at four, what will he be doing at age twenty-four?

Jesse Owens achieved international fame when he won four gold medals at the 1936 Summer Olympics in Berlin, Germany. He recalled that during the race, “I let my feet spend as little time on the ground as possible. From the air, fast down, and from the ground, fast up.”

Despite Hitler’s assertion that the Aryans were the superior race, Owens, an African-American, took home four gold medals in the Olympics. Last week, one of his gold medals was auctioned off for $1,466,574, the highest price paid for any piece of Olympic memorabilia.

SCP Auctions lead the online auction and sold the valuable medal to Ron Burkle, co-owner of the Pittsburgh Penguins. The medal was sold by the estate of Robinson’s late widow, Elaine Plaines-Robinson.

Prior to the sale, Owen’s daughter, Marlene Owens Rankin of Chicago, said, “We just hope that it’s purchased by an institution where the public could have access to it, a museum or something like that…”

Burkle did not comment on Sunday but the auction house said that he has plans for an educational tour of the historic piece. This is not the first medal in his collection. He is also the proud owner of William Faulkner’s Nobel Prize for literature.

It is believed that Owens gave this medal to his friend, Bill “Bojangles” Robinson, in gratitude for helping Owens find work in entertainment after he returned from Berlin.

Interestingly, Owens’ name was really James Cleveland Owens. He was known as J.C. and when asked by a new teacher what his name was, Owens replied, “J.C.” with a strong Southern accent. The teacher heard “Jesse” and that is what he was called ever since.

Doctors Attach Man’s Hand to Ankle In an effort to keep a man’s hand alive, doctors at a hospital in China

grafted the hand to his ankle after it was severed in an accident. Xiao Wei’s right hand could not be reattached to his arm right away after the incident at the factory where he worked. Instead of having his hand wither and die, doctors kept the hand “alive” by stitching it to his left ankle and “borrowing” a blood supply from his arteries in his leg.

A month later, the hand was still alive and doctors were able to reattach Wei’s hand to his arm. Even so, he may not be able to regain full use of his hand, although the doctors’ innovative thinking helped save the appendage.

Earlier this year, resourceful doctors in China grew a nose on another man’s forehead after a traffic accident.

Remember to Say “Please”; It’s Worth It La Petite Syrah, a French café in Nice, France, rewards politeness and punishes rudeness. The café warns customers to be polite or be prepared to pay.

If a customer forgets to say please when ordering a coffee, the price is 7

euros ($9.63). If you remember what you’re mama taught you and ask politely for your cup of joe, it will only cost you 4.25 euros ($5.85). If you greet the barista with a “bonjour,” then your coffee will be even cheaper at 1.40 euros ($1.93).

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would only permit $20,000 of taxpayer dollars to be spent on a single portrait.

Additionally, it would only cover the costs of paintings of lawmakers in the line of succession to the presidency. “At a time when vital services and programs are facing cuts, we need to be looking at every way we can stop excessive spending practices in Washington,” Shaheen said.

Coburn says their proposal is an attempt to minimize excess spending in Washington and ensure taxpayers are not paying for unnecessary projects. “Hardworking taxpayers shouldn’t foot the bill for lavish official portraits, especially when government officials spend more on paintings of themselves than some Americans make in a year,” Coburn said.

According to ABC News, the Obama administration spent nearly $400,000 on paintings of officials in just two years.

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Cafe manager Fabrice Pepino explained the pricing system. “It started as a joke because at lunchtime people would come in very stressed and were sometimes rude to us when they ordered a coffee,” he said. Pepino said that this new system dramatically changed customers’ attitude and the employees feel respected.

“Most of my customers are regulars and they just see the funny side and exaggerate their politeness,” he said,

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He continued, “But people are more relaxed now, and they’re smiling more.

That’s the most important thing.”

Bottom line: it pays to be nice especially when you’re in Nice!

Bills! Bills! Bills!

These days all you need to pay your bills is a checking account and a computer with access to the internet. Online banking and bills are the new normal.

Yet there are still some people out there who rely on the old school method to pay their dues: in cash. Some people abuse this privilege or use it as opportunity to get a point across.

A Florida couple paid their $11,000 property tax in $1 bills. It required six county employees to count the money and took over an hour. Then the singles were stuffed into three bags and taken to the bank. But cash is king no matter the denomination. Of course, the couple had an agenda and they admitted that their ploy was an attempt to make a statement that taxes are simply too high.

In a similar event, a Californian man had fallen on hard times financially and asked friends and family members to donate spare change to help him out. Finally when he collected the $14,000 he owed in property tax, he used a wheelbarrow to transport the fee in loose change to the county clerk.

In 2012, a Massachusetts man made the final mortgage payment on his house using pennies that he had been saving since he bought the house in the 1970s.

He warned the bank before depositing the metal boxes containing around 62,000 rolled up pennies, weighing more than 800 pounds.

There’s nothing like cold, hard cash—it all adds up to dollars and “sense!”

Zipping Across the River in a Car

The latest video released by daredevils shows a group of Russians driving

their car across a raging river on a zipline.

Apparently, this group of drivers was on their merry way when they suddenly encountered an inconvenient roadblock, the Siberian River. Instead of reversing and going back, they decided to attach the car to a zip-line and slide across.

The video ends right before it shows whether or not the car made it to land.

Zippadee doodaa zipadee dae…my, oh my, how crazy are people today!

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saving the environment,” Grand said in an official statement about the app.

You know what they say: give a man a fish, feed him for a day. Teach him how to fish, feed him for a lifetime. In this modern day example, teach a man to code, give him apps for a lifetime.

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Jewelry with a Cause

Social entrepreneur Peter Thum was deeply affected by the Newton tragedy but has turned tragedy into beauty. He took matters into his own hands and in an attempt to simultaneously reduce gun violence and send a powerful message, he takes firearms and uses them to create beautiful jewelry.

His company, Liberty United, collects and destroys illegal guns, then uses the material to create jewelry. A portion of all proceeds from the sale of the jewelry are donated to organizations that are involved in reducing gun violence. The finished pieces start at $85 and go up to $1,545.

“We’re taking something that in the case of illegal guns involves despair and hopelessness, and we’re turning it into something positive and beautiful,” Thum explained.

In 2009, Thum created a similar business named Fonderie 47 that makes high-end jewelry from illegal AK-47 rifles in Africa, many of which are confiscated from child soldiers. “Most of the people I talked to about that idea said this would never work,” he said. “We’ve now removed over 32,000 guns from circulation in Africa.” Thum had been toying with the idea of bringing the same program to the United States when the tragic events at Newtown occurred.

“When you meet someone, and they tell you how they lost their kid to gun violence, if everyone could have that conversation, I think we’d all view this issue very differently in this country,” Thum said.

Things couldn’t really get much worse for Leo Grand. He called the streets his home, the park bench his bed, and he had no job prospects on the horizon.

Grand had lost job at MetLife and was forced to live on the streets of Manhattan until Patrick McConlogue gave him a golden opportunity. He offered the homeless man $100 or books, a laptop, and lessons on how to code. Leo saw the potential in this opportunity and chose the second option.

“I can go through $100 in a few days,” Leo said. “But he told me I could have a laptop and learn how to do something and I figured it could turn into something more.”

It all changed from that day forward.

Grand charged his laptop in an apartment building hallway and would study code from used books. Each day at 8am, McConlogue and Grand would sit together for an hour and code. When McConlogue headed off to work, Leo would spend several hours writing and studying code. “It’s not like I don’t have the time to learn to do it,” Leo says.

Quickly, Grand was able to see his natural talent for writing code and the two men began to build an app. Just this month, four months after that fateful day, Leo has his very own app.

Trees for Cars is a carpool app that hopes to save the environment by helping New York commuters share rides.

For those driving, a meeting place is selected on the app and a list of nearby riders is suggested. The users are then connected if they choose to. The app will then track how much CO2 was saved by the passengers, which encourages a competitive saving element.

“Trees for Cars is a great way to build relationships, strengthen communities, help each-other financially and energy wise, all under the umbrella of

A letter addressed to Mrs. Agnes R. Smith arrived at her former address 67 years too late.

The sender was the Navy’s secretary at the time, James Forrestal, and was sent after the end of World War II. Smith no longer lives at the address where the letter arrived and it remains a mystery who she is and where she is. The note is dated February 5, 1946 and expresses Forrestal’s thanks to Agnes for her “service” but does not give any specific details.

The letter reads: “Without formality but as clearly as I know how to say it, I want the Navy’s pride in you, which it is my privilege to express, to reach into your civil life and to remain with you always. No other Navy at any time has done so much. For your part in these achievements, you deserve to be proud as long as you live. The Nation which you served at a time of crisis will remember you with gratitude.”

The post office said it doesn’t look like it was re-sent recently so where it’s been for the last six-plus decades is a mystery as well. “We just can’t figure out where it’s been for 67 years,” says Point Royal History Association president Mildred Dornan. “I would hope that somewhere she is found so she can get this letter,” said Dornan.

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The Medical Clowns of Lev Leytzan and Ossie Memorial Toy Fund: Israel Mission For the tenth year in a row, young adults from Long Island sacrificed being home with family and friends for Chanukah and boarded a plane for a mission that would include nine days in Israel, 14-18 hours of “work” each day, and was entirely self-funded.

These are the professionally trained medical clowns of Lev Leytzan: the Heart of Therapeutic Clowning, Inc. housed in the “Five Towns” community of Long Island. These are students who added red bulbous noses, spinning hats, and face paint and props in the valuable real estate known as overhead bins on a Boeing 7474 Jumbo Jet. Why? Perhaps the best answer was captured in a statement by Rabbi Zev Slavin

at Ohr Simcha, one of dozens of institutions the clowns worked with during their Israel trip. “Our children come from some of the most difficult backgrounds imaginable, and the visit [the clowns] paid us not only helped them forget about their troubled past, but was quite instrumental in assisting with their therapeutic process.”

Chanukah, the festival of lights in the Jewish calendar, is rooted with the tradition of giving children gifts throughout the eight days of which it lasts. Lev Leytzan has partnered with the Ossie Schoenfeld Memorial Toy Fund (OSMTF), another local organization that donates countless hours throughout the year to raise funds and purchases specifically requested gifts that, together with

the Lev Leytzan clowns, are delivered to children who have been isolated due to trauma or chronic illnesses. These professionally trained clowns enter dozens of homes, orphanages, and hospitals and partner with many organizations to bring emotional healing through laughter.

If one has experienced the joy that a small gift can bring to a child, especially one who is suffering because of a condition or situation beyond his or her control, one sees the delight that it can bring.

But the medical clowns of Lev Leytzan, the The Heart of Therapeutic Clowning, take the simple act of giving a toy to a new and extraordinary level.

Unlike other clowning (or performance-oriented) organizations, Lev Leytzan volunteers undergo serious medical-clown training before going on rounds. They are equipped not only with the tools and skills necessary to interact with their audience, but also with the emotional and psychological preparedness that the environments in which they

will be working call for. This “medical clowning” is a playful, free-form engagement that not only lifts the spirits of the sick, it has actually been shown to have an impact on the healing process.

As founder Dr. Neal Goldberg says, “We believe that laughter has the power to heal bodies, minds, and spirits.”

Rabbi Slavin adds, “What the [Lev Leytzan medical clowns and the Ossie Memorial Toy Fund] did for our children at Ohr Simcha was priceless…Whenever outsiders come visit or volunteer at our campus, it helps our children restore their long lost faith in humanity. It shows good exists and flourishes in the world. It shows that someone cares about them and that they matter. [The medical clowns] truly brightened their Chanukah.”

To read more from the Lev Leytzan clowns about their trip abroad, please see the organization’s Facebook page at www.facebook.com/levleytzan.

Special Dementia Symposium for Providers & Caregivers on January 22 Margaret Tietz Center in conjunction with Samuel Field Y and the Queensboro

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With a growing population of seniors dealing with the onset of dementia and all the ensuing challenges, it is crucial for caregivers to be as educated as possible in order to provide their loved ones with the support and care they desperately need. An estimated 5.2 million Americans of all ages have Alzheimer’s disease, and 80% of their care is provided by unpaid caregivers, usually family

members. The emotional and physical toll of caregiving is very high, and caregivers need to learn what resources are available to them so that they receive the necessary stress relief and time out.

The symposium will feature a distinguished roster of presenters including Jed A. Levine, MA – Executive Vice President and Director of Programs & Services of the Alzheimer’s Association, NYC Chapter; Jane C. Bardavid, LCSW – Director of the Community Advisory Program for Elderly (CAPE) at Samuel Field YM & YWHA; and Joan Serrano Laufer, LMSW –Executive Director of the Queensboro Council on Social Welfare.

If you are interested in attending, please RSVP to Linda Spiegel at 718298-7838. For your convenience, valet parking will be available.

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Flatbush Basketball League Week #3 Recap In The Jewish Home Division: Batampte Pickles pulled out with a win over China Glatt, 45-43. Yosef Kapetas was unstoppable with 37 points for Batampte, and newly acquired Ezriel Shain contributed with 6.

China Glatt’s Eliyakim Gelbard’s 16 and Moshe Y. Lebowitz’s 12 just weren’t enough to stop Batampte from getting their second win of the season. China Glatt is right behind them with a 1-2 record.

Quality Carpet “swept the floors” with Ron’s Art World as Moshe Frank scored a season high 45 points, and Binyomin Parnes pounded in another 30 to bring Quality to a perfect 3-0 record.

Avrohom Kreiger had a season high 16 points, however, Frank and Co. were just too strong to lose this one. Look for trades between these two teams in the upcoming game, things are going to be looking up for Art World….

Shirt Stop dominated against Perfect Collision and now stands with a perfect record of 3-0. Meir Rubinfeld and Yehudah Oppenheim contributed with a combined 46 points for Shirt Stop and Co. Look for a big trade for next week’s game, as Perfect Collision will be acquired “a blast from the past” Dovid Reiser as well as Meir Rubinfeld to help save them from a possible 0-4 record.

In the closest game of the night in

the Elementary division, it was a double overtime victory for Donny’s ITP as they beat Meir’s Pizza World by a score of 43-41. Ezi Fishman knocked in 14 together with Aharon Antar’s 12 to give them a 2-1 record. Shaya Friedman led the way for Pizza World with 10 together with Yitzy Waldman and Yanky Weber’s combined 18.

However, it was not enough, as ITP was just that much stronger.

In The Jewish Connection Division: Nosh Express beat up on Russell’s Repairs on Wheels, as they now lead the league with a 3-0 record, beating everyone in their division. Sendy Hammond had a career high 31 points and Shmuel Krzywanoski had 23. Zev Tepper led Repairs together with Shimshi Lebowitz; however, their defense was too weak as Nosh Express blew right by them.

In a close game between Plaza Auto Leasing (PAL) and Jake’s Ready to Roll, it came down to the fourth quarter to determine the victors in this nail bitter. PAL’s David Sasson hit a record 7 three pointers in the fourth quarter alone, as he pounded in 34 points total. Yiddy Follman’s 20 together with Yaakov Ibragimov’s 20 just fell a tad short in this amazing game from start to finish.

12-Year-Old from West Hempstead Wins Jewish Kids Got Talent Competition Twelve-year-old Estee Ackerman of West Hempstead, NY, won the fourth annual “Jewish Kids Got Talent” competition held on Monday, December 9 at The Grand Prospect Hall in Brooklyn, NY. The Jewish Kids Got Talent Competition recognizes children’s talents and achievements. It gives children worldwide, ages five to Bar/Bat Mitzvah, the opportunity to make a submission in three categories: Chesed (Heart), Performance (Hand), and Achievement (Head). Over one hundred submissions came from different cities throughout the world, with nine finalists showcasing their talent before a live audience who got to vote at the Tzivos Hashem Dinner.

Tzivos Hashem has long been at the forefront of Jewish education and humanitarian services. Tzivos Hashem Magazines are published in nine different languages and the Jewish Children’s Museum is visited by thousands of children and their families every year. Ackerman, who is a nationally ranked table tennis player, won in the “Heart Catagory,” not so much for her amazing ping pong skills, but for the fact that she bowed out of the 2012 US National Table Tennis Championship in Las Vegas when her round of sixteen match was scheduled for Friday night after Shabbos began.

For her performance, she practiced with her brother Akiva, a sophomore at DRS high school, to the delight of the over three hundred guests who watched how fast they can hit the ball back and forth.

Other winners were Eli Avidani (Hand category), a singer from Israel, and seven-year-old Yossi Stambler (Mind category) who came with his family all the

Rabbi Yerachmiel Benjaminson, Executive Director of Tzivos Hashem, with Estee

way from Poland. The event ran smoothly with the ever-funny Modi as emcee.

For winning, they all received a medal, certificate, watch, Sefer Tehillim, cash for themselves as well as for a non-profit organization of their choice.

Ackerman is a seventh grader at the Hebrew Academy of Nassau County, is ranked #4 in the USA in her age group, and is sponsored by the Killerspin Table Tennis Company.

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The Hollander Early Childhood Center at Yeshiva of South Shore hosted Avraham Avinu, Yosef Hatzadik, many Shevatim, and various parts of Maaseh Breishis, who had all joined us at our Sefer Bereishis Siyum.

The moros and children worked together to create posters of each parsha, followed by songs from the parshiyos and of course, “Chazak Chazak Vnischazek!”

The Pre-1A boys enjoyed an official siyum with parsha questions and singing and dancing led by Rebbe Eli Herzberg.

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The United States: A Beautiful Mosaic

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While most people compare the United States to a melting pot, a former president described the country as “a beautiful mosaic with different people, different beliefs, different yearnings, different hopes, and different dreams.”

The eighth grade students of Bnos Malka Academy have been exploring the history of immigration within the United States and have come to appreciate what a beautiful mosaic we truly are.

Their exploration of the historical topic has developed into their own investigations into their family backgrounds and cultures.

The students were introduced to the topic by tracking their countries of origin and were amazed to find they originally came from countries such as Poland, Iran, Iraq, Egypt, France, Russia, Israel, Georgia, Hungary, and many more. They were intrigued and began to inquire into their family history and ancestry. The students took the initiative and began contacting numerous family members and researching their personal histories.

Fueled by the students’ interests, the project has become a much larger entity. The school has received a grant from Ancestry.com which will provide the students with free access to their large database. The girls are able to use the computer lab and continue their

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In order to further understand their history, the students have “experienced” immigration themselves. They had visited Ellis Island earlier in the year, and in their social studies class they completed a virtual stimulation of the journey to Ellis Island and entering America. They were given an immigrant profile and while going through the steps of immigration they jotted down their thoughts and emotions in their journals. The end results were beautiful and moving diary entries in which they reflect upon their arrival, hopes, and dreams.

The project crosses a number of disciplines; it brings to life the history of immigration, it develops research and analytical skills, and culminates in a narrative depicting both the unique story of each family and, in a strange way, the commonality that all of us share.

Yes, the United States is a beautiful mosaic – rich in culture and history. As the students of Bnos Malka continue their research they have come to understand that their own families’ beliefs, yearnings, hopes and, possibly most importantly, bravery have enabled them to pursue their dreams and ambitions.

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Around the Community Achiezer to Host Historic Evening for Post High School/Seminary Girls When you’re in the post-high school, pre-marriage stage you know that sometimes all it takes is one minute to change a life forever.

One comment that points you in the direction of the perfect career choice.

One tip about an open job.

One call with the right shidduch.

Sometimes, all it takes is one person to change a life forever.

Sometimes, that one person is you. ***** It’s no secret that the single population accounts for an enormous amount of the chesed performed on a daily basis. Individually and as a group, the post high school contingency constitutes an incredible reservoir of talent, skills, and heart. Often, the only thing holding a girl back from maximizing that talent is the simple fact that she has no idea where to utilize it.

Just a short while ago, Achiezer had the privilege of being approached by a particularly special young woman, Faige Fried. Given her experience as chesed coordinator at Tichon Meir Moshe, Faige knew many, many girls who would jump at the opportunity to reach out and give to others – if they only knew to whom to give. Faige had the simple but ingenious idea of contacting the numerous community organizations who really rely on volunteer work, and giving them the chance to present themselves – along with the opportunities for chesed that they offered – to her friends and others like them.

The staff at Achiezer was tremendously impressed by the idea and excited as well. The beauty of the project is that it helps everyone – the organizations, the community, and the girls themselves. As Mrs. Esther Novak, project coordinator at Achiezer, put it, “When I have a family with a more complex situation, I can’t send a high school girl to help out. There are things that post high school girls can

do that nobody else can.”

As Esther got busy contacting the various organizations, the response was overwhelming. The organizations loved the idea. It’s a win-win for everybody.

The result of Faige and Esther’s combined efforts is a magnificent evening of information, slated to take place at the Achiezer office on Sunday, December 22, from 7-9 PM. During the evening, each organization will have a chance to briefly present itself and outline the various volunteer opportunities that are available. There will also be short presentations from two organizations that offer shiurim and personal enrichment exclusively for post-high school girls, as well as the unveiling of Achiezer’s new financial planning class, also geared specifically to this group.

After the presentations, the girls will have the opportunity to meet representatives of each organization, ask questions, and sign up for whichever options appeal to them. There will also be light refreshments, and time to just relax and socialize (of course!).

The organizations that will be represented include (in alphabetical order): Achiezer; Bikur Cholim; I-Shine; Kulanu; Levi Yitzchak Library; Machon Basya Rochel; Madraigos; Ohel; She’efa; The Friendship Circle; Tova. ***** If you are a post-high school/seminary girl, we are turning to you. We know that you are busy; between work, school, family life, and friends, you may not have much time to spare. But whether you’re available for an hour a day, an hour a week, or an hour a month, you owe it to yourself to see what there is out there for you. Because sometimes, all it takes is a minute to change a life forever.

And often – when you reach out and give – the life you impact most is your own.

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Worldwide Celebration as Dirshu Daf HaYomi B’Halacha Completes Chelek Hei of Mishna Berurah

By Chaim Gold Dirshu’s Daf HaYomi B’Halacha program of daily Mishna Berurah learning is completing chelek hei of the Mishna Berurah, the volume dealing with the laws of Pesach and the laws of Yom Tov. This milestone marks the beginning of the home stretch, the beginning of chelek vav, the final volume of Mishna Berurah, propelling Daf HaYomi B’Halacha to its first siyum on the entire Mishna Berurah.

In the six years since its inception, Daf HaYomi B’Halacha has evolved into a worldwide program where thousands of individuals throughout six continents are bringing halacha learning into their

daily lives and taking tests on it to ensure accountability.

Daf HaYomi B’Halacha Shiurim the World Over Daf HaYomi B’Halacha has spawned hundreds of daily shiurim in cities and communities in both mainstream and exotic locales. From Jewish metropolises such as Brooklyn, Lakewood, Yerushalayim and Bnei Brak to less travelled Jewish destinations like Kiev, Ukraine; Berlin, Germany; Portland, Oregon and Buenos Aries, Argentina, Daf HaYomi B’Halacha has been taking Klal Yisrael

by storm. The daily halacha program has been ensuring that Jews world over are cognizant of Hashem in every action done throughout the day to make sure that it is in consonance with halacha thereby arousing the incomparable bracha of Chazal that teaches, “He who learns halachos every day is assured a place in Olam Habaah.”

Keynote Speaker: HaGaon HaRav Shmuel Akiva Schlesinger, Shlita Dirshu and especially Daf HaYomi B’Halacha are programs that span the entire world. Last year, Dirshu celebrated its World Siyum Hashas in Yerushalayim and recently, Dirshu celebrated its Shabbos Kinnus Olam HaTorah for the American Dirshu community. Now Europe too is having a major event – a large scale siyum on chelek hei of Mishna Berurah to pay tribute to the accomplishments of lomdei Dirshu and particularly those participating in the Daf HaYomi B’Halacha program. The siyum, scheduled for this coming Monday, 20 Teves/ December 23 at the Finchley Synagogue in London, promises to bring together the diverse Torah communities of London, Manchester and Gateshead as well as contingents from France, Belgium and Switzerland.

The celebration will be attended by

numerous Gedolei Rabbanim representing the entire cross-section of the community and will also be graced by some fifteen Daf HaYomi B’Halacha maggidei shiur from London, Manchester, Gateshead, Paris and Antwerp.

The keynote address will be given by HaGaon HaRav Shmuel Akiva Schlesinger, shlita, Rav of the City of Strasbourg, France, and a powerful, eloquent speaker whose inspiring drashos leave an indelible impact on his listeners.

The well-known maggid, Rav Paysach J. Krohn, is flying in especially for this event and will be giving a major address. Rav Dovid Hofstedter, the Nasi of Dirshu, will also be participating at the milestone siyum of chelek hei, which begins the final march into chelek vav, completing the first cycle of Daf HaYomi B’Halacha.

London No Stranger to Major Dirshu Highlights Hundreds of Dirshu participants throughout Europe take monthly tests in addition to the few hundred participants in Dirshu’s numerous Daf HaYomi B’Halacha shiurim. They have joined together with thousands of others amongst Klal Yisrael in bringing practical halacha into their lives thereby enriching their lives as shomrei mitzvos and inspired ovdei Hashem.

The host city for the siyum, London, is no stranger to Dirshu celebrations. A number of years ago, a massive Dirshu siyum was held at the Yesodei HaTorah Hall there and was addressed by HaGaon HaRav Ephraim Padwa, shlita, Rov of the Charedi Kehilla; HaGaon Dayan Aharon Dovid Dunner, shlita; and the special guest speaker from Eretz Yisrael, HaGaon HaRav Asher Weiss, shlita, Rosh Kollel of Machon Minchas Osher L’Torah V’Horaah.

At that time, Dayan Dunner passionately addressed how vitally important it is for each individual to have a seder hayom, a daily learning schedule, that enables him to maximize his time and his sipuk hanefesh, his spiritual satisfaction from learning and how Dirshu’s programs are tailor-made to aid in reaching this vital goal.

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them and reviewed them together with the Dirshu Biurim U’Musafim that depicts hundreds of modern-day scenarios that emanate from these halachos and they were tested on all of them! They have brought so much more halacha into their lives. They have brought Hashem in, invited Hashem, as it were, into their Yom Tov, into their Pesach in an unprecedented way.”

Several years ago, the Posek Hador, HaGaon HaRav Yosef Shalom Elyashiv, zt”l, encouraged the hanhala of Dirshu to create halacha programs whereby lomdei Torah would be encouraged to learn, understand and know halacha l’maaseh, practical halacha. Over the course of the past six years, lomdei Dirshu in both its Kinyan Halacha and Daf

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HaYomi B’Halacha programs have followed through on Rav Elyashiv’s guidance and have wrought a transformation in the Torah world. With the completion of chelek hei and the commencement of chelek vav, Daf HaYomi B’Halacha is embarking on the final chelek in the Mishna Berurah that covers the halachos of the Yomim Tovim.

Before long Klal Yisrael will be enriched with thousands of new bekiim in all six volumes of Mishna Berurah!

“Why Not You?” HaGaon HaRav Mordechai Gifter, zt”l, the legendary Rosh Yeshiva of Telshe Yeshiva, grew up in America of the early 20th Century. While many were running away from Yiddishkeit, he em-

braced limud haTorah and went on to become a gadol hador. As a young bachur, he decorated both the left and right sides of his yeshiva dormitory room walls with pictures of Gedolei Yisrael with hand-written captions underneath the names. In the middle, he left an empty space with the telling caption, “Why not you?”

This pushed him to learn with hasmadah, to review and to know. Thousands of lomdei Dirshu Daf HaYomi B’Halacha are on the cusp of becoming bekiim in the entire Mishna Berurah. Those who have not yet joined Daf HaYomi B’Halacha have the opportunity with as minimal an investment as half hour a day to join the movement that is transforming the lives of Yidden the world over. We can paraphrase Rav Gifter and ask the resounding question, “Why not YOU? To join Daf HaYomi B’Halacha’s daily learning of one amud a day of Mishna Berurah and to receive calendars and or shiurim locations. please call 1-888-5-Dirshu or e-mail info@kolleldirshu.org.

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with great excitement the underlying meaning of the siyum on chelek hei and the initiation of chelek vav. “Chelek hei in the Mishna Berurah is a section of which lomdei halacha with limited time often choose to learn only the seemingly more relevant halachos. Many of the important simanim which on the surface seem to either be very intricate or not as relevant to our times have until now been neglected by many. Countless individuals suffice with learning the beginning of chelek hei which deals with the halachos of bedikas chametz and biur chametz and then skip over to the seder night thus missing numerous vital halachos. There are the halachos of taaruvos chometz, the halachos of what one must do if, G-d forbid, he finds chametz in his house on Pesach; there are the halachos of kashering keilim, baking matzos and the list goes on… The halachos of Yom Tov are also among the most intricate halachos, especially the numerous fine differences between the halachos of Yom Tov and Shabbos.

“What has happened is a revolution.

The thousands of Dirshu Daf HaYomi B’Halacha participants didn’t just learn these areas perfunctorily. They learned

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Sh’or Yoshuv 47th Annual Dinner a Resounding Success Photo Credits: Ira Thomas Creations

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Rabbi Avrohom Halpern addressing the audience

Rabbi Naftali Jaeger addressing the audience

Oh, what a night! Despite inclement weather, the 47th Annual Dinner of Yeshiva Sh’or Yoshuv was well attended and a huge success. Over 500 guests gathered at the Sands of Atlantic Beach for an evening to show gratitude to Sh’or Yoshuv, meet old and new friends, and pay tribute to three outstanding families: Rabbi and Mrs. Zev Freundlich, recipients of the Reb Shlomo Freifeld Memorial Award; Marc and Sharon Friedman, recipients of the Kesser Shem Tov Award; Pesach and Matty Sod, the recipients of the Community Service Award.

Highlights from this year’s dinner included warm words of inspiration from the Rosh HaYeshiva, Rabbi Naftali Jaeger, and the Menahel, Rabbi Avrohom Halpern, the video award presentations to the well-deserving awardees, and an informative video about the Yeshiva and all of its accomplishments.

The success of the Annual Dinner and the Yeshiva as a whole is due to the unwavering support of the extended Sh’or Yoshuv community.

Marc and Sharon Friedman, recipients of the Kesser Shem Tov Award

The Far Rockaway community recently gathered to celebrate the bar mitzvah of a special young man, Avrumi Vershubsky, an 8th grade talmid in Yeshiva Darchei Torah.

Many rebbeim and friends of the bar mitzvah boy gathered at the Agudas Yisroel of West Lawrence to celebrate this special milestone. Mazel tov!

SKA Joins YU Mission to Washington By: Talia Ginsberg, 11th grade

Rabbi and Mrs. Zev Freundlich receiving their award

Pesach and Matty Sod, Community Service Awardees

Several students from the Stella K. Abraham High School for Girls participated in the annual Yeshiva University mission to Washington, D. C. Juniors Yehudis Ash, Miriam Boim, Naomi Eisner, Alissa Fagin, Talia Ginsberg and Ahuva Ross, senior Tova Fertig and their chaperone, and alumna Miriam Khukhashvili, had the opportunity to lobby congressmen and women on issues relating to Israel. The event began on Sunday, December 8, at Stern College for Women where the SKA girls, along with many other students from schools across the New York and New Jersey area, met to learn about various lobbying techniques.

They enjoyed a delicious lunch and worked together in groups discussing the many conflicts Israel faces.

The next morning, the girls woke up bright and early to meet up with the rest of the schools at Yeshiva University to depart on their trip to Washington, D. C. After a long bus ride, they arrived at the Israeli Embassy where they heard from the Counselor of Congressional Affairs.

Following their visit to the embassy, they headed to their meeting with one of Senator Kristen Gillibrand’s aides to discuss Israel’s relationship with America and the potential threat that a nuclear Iran poses to both America and Israel.

Going on this lobbying trip was an important means to be a voice for Israel!

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Chesed at Bnot Yaakov of Great Neck Hanuka came in many forms to Bnot Yaakov: in Hanuka coin “Scavenger Hunts,” in Hanuka dancing, in a Hanuka Celebration where students performed for parents and, most importantly, in Hanuka Hesed. Our third grade spearheaded outreach to Northshore Hospital’s Rabbi Daniel Coleman when Rivka BenIshay approached Mrs. Friedman, Bnot Yaakov Associate Principal, weeks before Hanuka to ask if Bnot Yaakov talmidot could donate Hanuka gifts for sick patients. Our families gave generously and funded the donation of books for Jewish patients who find themselves within the confines of the hospital for Shabbat. The third grade went proudly to deliver their books and were treated to a tour of the hospital, courtesy of Rabbi Coleman, Chaplain of Northshore Hospital, who showed them the

bikur holim rooms, the volunteer office and even introduced them to other hospital staff members as well. The girls expressed the desire to further help out in any way possible and Rabbi Coleman told them that putting Shabbat packages together was a very necessary hesed for any shomer Shabbat person who might find themselves at Northshore over Shabbat. The girls took a box of “Shabbat Package ingredients” and are looking forward to delivering it back to Rabbi Coleman in assembled packages.

Bnot Yaakov’s hesed didn’t stop at Northshore; the second, third and fourth graders all got together and went to Highfield Gardens Care Center to sing and visit with seniors there. The girls prepared songs, brought Hanuka cookies to pass out, and entered with radiant smiles for everyone. At the last moment, while walking towards the room in which they

were to perform, the girls were told that they wouldn’t be able to actually “hand out” the cookies because health regulations dictated that the aides do it. The girls didn’t mind, though, and right after they finished singing, instead of passing out cookies as planned, they simply walked around greeting people, meeting people and giving smiles, hugs and Hanuka joy to everyone. The first thing Ms. Lisa Simon, Director of Recreation at Highfield Gardens, asked as the girls began leaving after the event was “When are you coming back?” The girls are looking forward to returning and bringing more simha to seniors in Highfield

iPads Debut at HANC Second graders at HANC’s Samuel & Elizabeth Bass Golding Elementary School are piloting a very exciting technology program using iPads! The iPad program is designed to enhance math and language arts skills while also introducing the students to today’s cutting edge educational technology.

The pilot program was launched with two apps: DreamBox and Spelling City.

DreamBox is a math app that allows students to work on math skills at their own individualized level and pace and Spelling City enables the students to play spelling games to practice their weekly

spelling words. Both apps also send the students’ data to the teachers so that the teachers can easily track how students are doing. We are not sure who is more excited about this program—the teachers or the students!

“Nothing can ever replace the valuable role that teachers play in the classroom; however, technology will continue to have an increased presence in the classroom and will allow us to create enhanced learning opportunities for all students. We are very excited to be sharing this program with our students,” explained Rabbi Yaakov Sadigh, principal.

Gardens. Many thanks go to Ms. Rita Kaminov for organizing the event with Bnot Yaakov and for acting as such a wonderful “M.C.” for our performance there.

Although our talmidot loved their Hanuka fun, contests, prizes and yummy treats, they all realized that the most meaningful activities in which they participated were those in which they gave of themselves. So a special thank you goes to Ms. Simon, Ms. Kaminov, all the seniors we met in Highfield Gardens, Rabbi Coleman and all the Northshore patients for helping us realize the importance of hesed in our lives.

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Yeshiva of South Shore’s Motzei Shabbos Learning Program Inducts over 60 Esser Club Members This past Motzei Shabbos, over 60 boys became Esser club members. This number is unprecedented since Yeshiva of South Shore began its Motzei Shabbos Learning Program 15 years ago. To be an Esser club member, a boy needs to come to learn 10 Saturday nights. Being that last week was the 10th week, these 60 boys came 10 weeks in a row! Each boy who joins the club will receive a beautiful Chamisha Chumshei Torah with Tefillas Shabbos. This is a very appropriate and beautiful gift which will undoubtedly be used for many years to come. The following is the list of the 62 boys: Yonatan Aharon, Gavriel Y. Aharon, Yehoshua Aharon, Yedidya Aharon, Meir Bahn, Moshe Blumstein, Yosef Bluth, Yisroel Aryeh Bluth, Baruch Bluth, Johnathan Boxer, Marky Breuer, Chaim Tzvi Bugayer, Yosale Deutsch, Aharon Dimenschstein, Nathan Dimenschstein, Rafi Farbman, Yosef Farbman, Avi Feldman, Akiva Feldman, Yehuda Fiber, Chaim Fried-

man, Shmaryahu Friedman, Dovie Gladstone, Moshe Goldberg, Yehoshua Goldberg, Moshie Hirsch, Avi Hirsch, Hoodie Hirsch, Yosef Horowitz, Michael Horowitz, Benji Kloc, Menachem Kunin, Ariel Kunin, Avi Levine, Dani Lieberman, Pinchas Lipsky, Emanuel Medows, Yehuda Meisels, Yoni Meisels, Yosef Menashy, Avi Mandel, Yoseph Miller, Binyamin Meir Montaine,

Yonatan Zechariah Moskowtiz, Eliyahu Simcha Moskowtiz, Chaim Yosef Neuman, Shmuely Pak, Yoni Schonbrun, Avraham Safdieh, Mordechai Simentov, Tzvi Singer, Aryeh Scheinenger, Av Soffer, Sholom Trapunsky, Eli Trapunsky, Yehuda Trapunsky, Shlomo Weinreb, Yosef Weisfeld, Yerachmiel Dov Weisfeld, Yosef Weiss, Shmuel Weiss, Tzvi Weiss, Yehuda Weis, Mordechai

Yudin, Yosef Yudin, Moshe Zern, Yaakov Tzvi Zerykier, Nachum Zerykier, Moshe Zinn and Ezra Zucker.

The program has grown much over the years; the Yeshiva now has four satellite locations in the Five Towns with over 300 boys coming to learn each Saturday night. Just a few weeks ago on Motzei Shabbos Chanukah, the boys from all the locations converged at the Yeshiva for an unforgettable evening of learning and Chanukah entertainment. After 45 minutes of learning, the boys were enthralled by Rabbi Knowles’ Kosher Laughs Puppet Theater. The puppet show was hilarious and educational at the same time.

Chanukah refreshments of jelly doughnuts, chocolate coins and ices was generously sponsored by Gourmet Glatt of Cedarhurst. With more than 10 weeks left to the program the Yeshiva anticipates well over 200 more Esser club members. What a nachas! Kein yirbu.

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When Hashem gave the Jewish nation the Torah, it was given on Mount Sinai. There were other mountains that also desired to have the honor and privilege, such as Mount Tavor and Mount Carmel. Although those two mountains did not merit the Torah being given on them, Hashem made a special miracle for those mountains and transported them to the land of Israel. They deserved this reward because they had wanted to enable the Torah to be given and Israel is a place where Torah comes out of, as it says in Yishayah, “Ki mitziyon tatzei Torah” from Tziyon, Torah will emerge (R’ Aharon Leib Steinman, shlita).

The mountains had good intentions and although nothing of their intentions came to fruition, Hashem still found it justified to reward them. When we see how Hashem acts with inanimate objects, we can get an idea of how much more so it must be with living, breathing humans. When a person has a good intention, if he is prevented from carrying it out through no fault of his own, he can look forward to being rewarded for his positive intentions.

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bayis, a spouse can act out of the best of intentions and hit a brick wall. The other spouse can completely ignore the gesture or even take it the wrong way. A person can keep on trying and feel like he is not making any inroads. It is important to realize though, that shalom bayis is also a mitzvah. Hashem wants there to be peace between a husband and a wife, and He rewards a spouse for trying to create an atmosphere of peace and harmony. So when the intentions are good, a person can feel secure in the knowledge that the good deeds are not going unnoticed, even if they are not making the kind of impact that was expected. With Hashem’s help, not only will the intention’s we have be good, but the outcome should be satisfactory and positive as well.

Five Towns Marriage Initiative provides educational programs, workshops and referrals to top marriage therapists. FTMI will help offset counseling costs when necessary and also runs an anonymous shalom bayis hotline for the entire community Sunday, Tuesday and Thursday evenings, 10:00-11:00 p.m. For the hotline or more information, call 516-430-5280 or email dsgarry@msn.com.

Kulanu Presents Sensitivity Training at HALB Long Beach On Friday, December 13, over 120 HALB junior high girls participated in a sensitivity training presented by Jonathan Cooper, LCSW, Kulanu’s Director of Inclusion and Community Services.

Cooper emphasized the theme, “Knowing the story behind the story.”

There was complete silence during the panel presentation as three students from Kulanu Academy, Jonah Goldstein, Shaya Martin and Mashi Nockenofsky,

and two teen shadows from Kulanu’s Sunday Program, Nicole Odinsky and Shira Fagan, shared their individual stories. The Kulanu Academy panelists discussed their challenges and their desire not to be judged by their peers and to be understood by their community.

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NY State Commissioner of Division of Homeland Security and Emergency Services Visits the Five Towns and Rockaways Photos courtesy of: Naftali Goldgrab and Yeshiva Darchei Torah

Jerome Hauer, Commissioner of NY State Division of Homeland Security and Emergency Services, recently visited and met with Achiezer staff members and members of the executive board as a follow up to his initial involvement with our community during Hurricane Sandy. The commissioner was presented with a token of appreciation from Achiezer in recognition of critical emergency services that he was able to provide for the Five Towns and Rockaway community. The commissioner and

his colleagues discussed various ways that they will collaborate and support our community so that we can be better prepared in the event of a disaster or cri-

Mesivta Football League – DRS vs MAY In a repeat of last season’s championship game, the DRS Wildcats, the 2012/2013 season champions, took on the MAY Eagles in an anticipated match up sure to be a nail-biter. Both teams entered the game with no losses and, for DRS, no points allowed by an opponent this season.

MAY got first possession and came out strong but could not capitalize on the first drive due to tremendous pressure from DRS defensive lineman, Chizkiyahu Burstyn. As DRS took possession of the ball and began a strong drive, it was quickly thwarted by MAY defensive lineman, Yaakov Goldstein, who intercepted a pass which led to the first points on the board for MAY, a long pass from MAY quarterback Elie Korn-

feld to wide receiver Yaakov Puderbeutel. That would be Puderbeutel’s first of two touchdowns in the game.

Although DRS made some valiant efforts, the MAY defense was stellar and denied the DRS offense at every turn with excellent pressure on the line and tallying 3 interceptions in the secondary.

A third touchdown for MAY came in the form of Kornfeld connecting with second string quarterback, Ari Shaulson, a tremendous athlete who doubles as a wide receiver.

Wildcats head coach Yitz Mendlowitz and his squad played a great game, but, in the end, MAY head coach Avi Klein and his Eagles took the victory home, 20-0.

sis. During his visit to Yeshiva Darchei Torah, the commissioner made several recommendations and plans on following up with ideas that will strengthen the

safety and security of the schools in our community.

Chanukah Sports Fun at Yeshiva Har Torah

Over Chanukah, the rebbeim and morot of Yeshiva Har Torah challenged the students at sports. The morot played the girls in basketball, losing to the students by only a couple of points, while the rebbeim played hockey against the

boys, ending in a 3-3 tie! It was a great opportunity to increase school pride and camaraderie between the teachers and students. Most of all, a fun time was had by all!

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Over 20 inches of snow fell over a fourday period – an enormous amount for any community but all the more so for a country which views any snow as an anomaly.

Motorists were stranded in cars, homes were without water, electricity and phone service, and roads were completely closed.

While the pictures of Israel were beautiful, covered in a blanket of white, the reality was quite the opposite for thousands. Some people sought shelter and weren’t reunited with loved ones for as many as four days.

One Israel Fund is predominantly known for its work in supporting the communities throughout Judea and Samaria.

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rence. It also helps with communal needs, such as building schools, playgrounds, yeshivot, synagogues, mikvaot and community centers to keep them strong while providing subsidies for those in need.

Sometimes, equipment which is supplied for one purpose ultimately is used for totally unforeseen circumstances.

During the storm, the Megillot Search and Rescue Team, which had just recently returned from a rescue mission in the Philippines after its massive storm, was pushed into action. This award-winning team of

first responders, located in the Jordan Valley, is a highly trained team of experts in the field of disaster rescues. As the storm raged, the team responded in their newly refurbished 4x4 ambulance. It had been refitted, with all-terrain tires and other enhancements a week earlier through One Israel Fund’s Ambulance Refurbishing Project. This was done to help them respond to the constant terror attacks throughout the region as much of the terrain is impassable by normal vehicles. Little did we know that this refurbishment would become one of incredible importance during the storm one week later.

As Marc Prowisor, our director of security projects, described the situation in an email to supporters of One Israel Fund: Yesterday, I received a call from the Megillot Search and Rescue Team’s representative, Gabi Bar-Sheshis, telling me proudly how, “due to the recent refitting of their ambulance for tough terrain, their ambulance was called into Jerusalem and was directly responsible for saving the lives of over ten people. This was simply because many of the other ambulances in and around Jerusalem could not make it through the snow.” He called and asked me to “thank each and every supporter of One Israel Fund for having the foresight to provide the equipment needed to save lives and for doing it before the need arises.”

Other One Israel Fund security equipment such as tactical searchlights and our TacSight Portable Thermal Cameras – equipment which has been predominantly used in thwarting terrorist attacks – were also instrumental in permitting first responders to locate and rescue stranded motorists whose cars careened off the roads.

The Civilian Emergency Response Teams (CERT) throughout Judea and Samaria are commonly thrust into action to stave off attacks and save lives. This time, the attack was not due to Arab incursions but to a wintry blast the likes of which Israelis had nev-

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emphasis on filling the gaps which are conspicuously lacking in the Biblical Heartland Communities of Judea and Samaria. To learn more, visit www.oneisraelfund.org or contact us at info@oneisraelfund.org.

Scott M. Feltman is the executive vice president of One Israel Fund and can be contacted at scott@oneisraelfund.org. One Israel Fund is the premier US organization dedicated to supporting the welfare and safety of the men, women and children of Israel with a specific emphasis on the areas of the Biblical Heartland known as Judea and Samaria, as well as rebuilding the lives of the Jewish people impacted by the Gaza evacuation. These 370,000+ citizens of Israel are the vanguard of Israel’s security and sovereignty as a Jewish State. Working in concert with communities, government officials and the IDF, One Israel Fund fills the gaps in medical, social, recreational and preventive security services which are conspicuously lacking in Judea and Samaria. Its goal is to undertake ongoing fundraising campaigns to help ensure the physical, emotional and moral well-being of the Jewish families living in each and every community in these areas.

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Thirty minutes later, the captain announces, “One more engine has failed and the flight will be two hours longer. But don’t worry we have two engines left.”

An hour later the captain gets back on the PA system and informs the passengers, “One more engine has failed and the flight will be three hours longer. But don’t worry we have one engine left.”

Jimbo turns to Bobo and says, “If we lose the last engine, we’ll be up here all day!”

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4. What are the four forces that enable an aircraft to fly? a. Lift, gravity, weight, thrust b. Gravity, lift, weight, direction

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1. In the International Civic Aviation Organization alphabet, what comes after “Sierra”? a. Tango b. Tarzan c. Tatter d. Tom

3. Approximately how heavy is the fuel in a Boeing 747 when it’s filled up to maximum capacity? a. 1,000 lbs b. 4,000 lbs c. 40,000 lbs d. 400,000 lbs

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So You Think You Can Fly Trivia 5. How did American Airlines cut $100,000 from their budget in 1987? a. They cut the length of time it took to explain safety procedures b. They stopped giving out headphones c. They started using cheaper paper goods. d. They cut one olive out of each salad 6. What is the largest number of people to ever fly on one flight? a. 689 b. 732 c. 901 d. 1,088 Answers: 1. A-The ICAO alphabet is as follows: Alpha, Bravo, Charlie, Delta, Echo, Foxtrot, Golf, Hotel, India, Juliet, Kilo, Lima, Mike, November, Oscar, Papa, Quebec, Romeo, Sierra, Tango, Uniform, Victor, Whiskey, X-ray, Yankee, and Zulu.

2. B 3. D- A Boeing 747 can carry around 400,000 lbs of gas and gets approximately

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.2 miles per gallon (a bit less than some of the big cars rolling around the Five Towns… hello global warming! Just kidding, I am really not a Save the Polar Bears type).

4. C- The four forces are: lift, thrust weight, drag. For a comprehensive understanding of how these work…go to aviation school.

5. D 6. D-1,888. On May 24, 1991, Israel evacuated Ethiopian Jews from Ethiopia to Israel. When the flight took off from Ethiopia there were 1,886 on board. When it landed in Israel there were 1,888 onboard because two babies were born during the flight.

Flight Check: 5-6 correct: Good job Captain Sully!

(Next time please go back to the airport, the Hudson was really cold).

2-4 correct: You are banished to the middle seat!

0-2 correct: For how long have you been a pilot for Spirit Airways?

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Snake River Airport Chicken Airport Fox Airport Duck Airport Pietarsaari Kruunupyy Airport George W Bush Airport

Answer to riddle on opposite page: The married people are still alive because every single person dies! (Sorry, gotta think on your feet!)

Answer to riddle above: George W Bush Airport

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Parshas Shemos

The Difference between Emunah and Bitachon “And Moshe returned to Hashem and said, “Hashem, why have You done evil to this people? Why have You sent me?”

— Shemos 5:22 Hashem sent Moshe Rabbeinu to be the redeemer of the Jewish people. However, from the moment that he embarked on this mission, the slavery became more intense and the pain more profound. Out of love for his nation, Moshe turned to Hashem and said, “Why have You worsened the situation? Why have You sent me?”

The gemara tells us that Moshe was punished for questioning Hashem. Hashem said, “It is a shame that that which is lost can no longer be found.” It is as if Hashem were saying, “They don’t make them like they used to. Avrohom, Yitzchak, Yaakov, those were great people, but no more. Moshe, you don’t compare to them. They trusted Me, but you aren’t on their level.”

The question on this gemara is that that the single greatest human being who ever lived was Moshe Rabbeinu. The Rambam calls him the “father” in Torah and wisdom. He was the greatest of all prophets. In fact, one of our Thirteen Principles of Faith is that Moshe was the greatest of all navi’im, greater than those who came before him and those who came after.

Since we know that Moshe was greater than even the Avos, how can we understand this gemara? It seems to saying that Avrohom, Yitzchak, and Yaakov were superior to Moshe.

The Difference between Emunah and Bitachon The answer to this question lies in understanding the distinction between emunah and bitachon. The Rambam defines emunah as the knowledge that Hashem created and continues to run all of Creation. Simply put, nothing can exist and no activity can occur without Hashem.

Bitachon, however, is a quite different. The Chovos Halevovos defines bitachon as trusting in Hashem. It is a sense of relying on Hashem to watch over and protect me, as if to say, “I take my heavy burden and place it on Hashem.” While I am responsible to be proactive, I am not in charge of the outcome, and I am not the determinant of the results. I rely on Hashem to care for me.

Emunah is a state of understanding; bitachon is a state of trust. Emunah

Emunah is a state of understanding; bitachon is a state of trust. means knowing that Hashem is involved in every activity on the planet; bitachon means trusting in Hashem in every situation.

A person can have emunah and not bitachon. Pharaoh was a classic example. When threatened by the Jewish overpopulation, Pharaoh’s solution was to throw the baby boys into the Nile. The Medrash explains that this wasn’t a flippant reaction – it was highly calculated.

Pharaoh knew that Hashem promised Noach that He wouldn’t bring another flood. He also knew that Hashem pays back “measure for measure.” Therefore, Pharaoh determined that Hashem would want to bring a flood to pay back the Egyptians for drowning the babies, but because of Hashem’s promise to Noach, that couldn’t happen, so he felt protected from Hashem’s wrath.

Clearly, Pharaoh understood the power of Hashem. He realized that Hashem watches over the world. He also understood that Hashem acts with justice.

Pharaoh had no problem with emunah, but he sure didn’t trust in Hashem – he rebelled. He had emunah, but no bitachon.

Both emunah and bitachon are based on relating to the world in a deeper manner. Emunah is the understanding that Hashem is involved in more than just the big picture issues: life and death, war, famine, disease. . . Hashem is involved in the minutiae of my daily life. Hashem is there with me, 24/7, 365, all day, every day, from morning to night.

Amazingly, I can have this understanding and yet lack a level of trust in Hashem.

To truly rely on Hashem, there are two additional criteria I must feel. I must know that Hashem loves me more than I love myself, and I must know that Hashem knows better than I do what is for my good.

Bitachon is predicated upon knowing that Hashem has my best interests in mind and that He knows better than I what is for my good. When a person realizes this, and then takes his heavy load and transfers it to Hashem – that is bita-

chon.

The answer to the question seems to be that Moshe Rabbeinu was on a higher level of emunah than any other human being, then or since. He saw Hashem with an absolute clarity. Just as we see a piece of wood in front of us as undeniably real, he saw Hashem – right there.

But absolute trust in Hashem doesn’t necessarily follow. Bitachon is learned and practiced. Much like a character trait that one develops over many years, one learns, often through life experiences, to be totally and utterly trusting in the kindness of Hashem. Apparently, the Avos reached a higher level in this regard.

They had an unwavering sense of the

constant goodness and loving kindness of Hashem; hence, they were able to be more trusting of Hashem even when on the surface there were many questions to be asked. Moshe was greater in emunah, while they were greater in bitachon.

This distinction has great relevance.

Often our problems with faith come from this one issue: we have emunah, but not bitachon. When a person comes to the core understanding that Hashem is more concerned for my good than I am, and that Hashem knows my needs far better than I, he comes to a different degree of trust, a different level of relying on Hashem. He comes to true bitachon.

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What Are You Going to Do About It? other, and walked them back to the store. Then I quietly went back to my car and drove away.

At the time, I thought I had seen an injustice. I thought I had seen an ex-

I’m not suggesting that you start a fight with a guy whose neck is thicker than a Shabbos afternoon cholent that was left on the fire too long, or with someone whose muscles have their

Fight against your own natural inertia and take action when you can make a difference.

ample of the worst in humankind, the apathy towards others that enables people to do things like this. In retrospect, I think I was mistaken. What I actually saw was an opportunity to make a positive difference in the world.

I also saw a test. It was easy for me to condemn others for not being thoughtful. Would I hypocritically ignore the opportunity to change it? It was a litmus test to see if I truly cared about the others or if I was just looking for a way to put others down and thereby make myself feel uplifted. I think I passed.

In life, I think sometimes we need to be a little tough on ourselves and ask, “What are you going to do about it?”

The Baal Shem Tov famously said that when we see something we dislike in another person it’s either because we possess that trait ourselves or so that we might help the person change his ways. In either case, it is a call to action. In other words, “What are you gonna do about it?”

We don’t see things for the sake of seeing them. We see things for the sake of the action we will take in response to what we see. If we simply shrink back and do nothing, then we are no better off than the weakling who allowed the bully to get the better of him and crush his spirit.

own zip code. What I am suggesting is that you fight against your own natural inertia and take action when you can make a difference. That difference may be as small as changing how you think, but it’s important and worthwhile.

Well, now you’ve read my arti-

cle and I’ve given you some food for thought. So? What are you gonna do about it?

Jonathan Gewirtz is a freelance writer whose work has appeared in publications around the world. He also operates JewishSpeechWriter.com, where you can order a custom-made speech for your next special occasion.

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e all know the scene. A bully or big scary-looking dude does something wrong. A small nerdy-looking fellow, perhaps with glasses, says, “That’s not right!”

Bully boy comes towards him with a menacing look and says, through gritted teeth, “What are you gonna do about it?!” Nerdy guy backs away frightened and bully laughs about it with his other meathead friends.

Well, it happened to me. There I was in the supermarket parking lot. I put the groceries in the trunk, sat down behind the wheel and started the car.

As I did, I shook my head at the callousness of the person or persons who had left two shopping carts in the empty space in front of me. Had they not been there I could have driven straight out but now I’d have to back out, but that wasn’t what got to me.

“That’s so rude!” I thought to myself. Or maybe I even said it out loud, who knows? “They left those carts in a space and now someone else won’t be able to park there. How insensitive and callous!”

And that’s when I heard it.

It was a gruff, growling voice that said, “What are you gonna do about it?!”

However, it wasn’t a muscle-bound bully or even a little old lady with a head cold.

It was a voice I heard in my head. Maybe it was me, and maybe it was G-d. But either way, the challenge had been made.

I saw something and was upset by it. I felt that the people who had left the carts in the spot, effectively stealing it from a future customer, acted selfishly.

OK, they did. But what would my condemnation do? Nothing! The question reverberated in my ears, “What are you gonna do about it?”

Mustering up my courage and overcoming my laziness, I shut off the engine, got out of the car and approached the two wayward shopping carts. I turned them around, put one into the

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Let’s Talk Money HOW TO GET YOUR FINANCES IN ORDER AT EVERY STAGE IN LIFE

by SARA GLAZ

WITH THE YEAR WINDING DOWN, WE ALL KNOW THAT TAX SEASON WILL BE LOOMING IN THE NEAR FUTURE. AFTER PARTING WITH A CHUNK OF CHANGE TO UNCLE SAM, YOUR WALLET WON’T FEEL AS PADDED. MONEY PLAYS A LARGE ROLE IN OUR LIVES—PAYING TUITIONS, THE GROCERY BILL AND THE MORTGAGE ARE RESPONSIBILITIES WE THINK ABOUT CONSTANTLY. BUT TALKING ABOUT FINANCES IS NOT EVERYONE’S FAVORITE TOPIC (UNLESS YOU’RE AN ACCOUNTANT!).

EACH STAGE IN OUR ADULT LIFE CAN BE DEFINED BY SPECIFIC FINANCIAL SITUATIONS AND EVENTS. THE KEY TO STAYING FINANCIALLY AFLOAT AND MAKING GOOD FINANCIAL DECISIONS IS TO KNOW WHAT TO FOCUS ON AT EACH STAGE—WHETHER IT’S A FINANCIAL OPPORTUNITY, EXPENSES THAT NEED NOT BE PUSHED OFF, OR SAVINGS PLANS THAT MUST BE STARTED ASAP.

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WORKING SINGLES: BUILDING FINANCIAL FOUNDATIONS Whether you’re in this stage for six months or ten years, working singles have a great financial opportunity. While the biggest question mark in their life might be when they’ll walk down the aisle, having a limited amount of current financial responsibilities can work greatly in their favor.

One of the main things that singles should focus on is their income and what they’re doing with it. While it may be quite tempting to spend freely and push off being financially responsible until getting married, a lack of expenses can mean the opportunity to start building one’s financial foundations.

Tip #1:

The first thing to consider is starting an emergency fund. An emergency fund should consist of about six months of living expenses (or let’s say $3,000) and is only used in cases of dire emergencies. Consider adopting the habit of putting $50 per week into a separate account such as a high

interest savings account (high interest and limitations for withdrawing cash). Your focus shouldn’t necessarily be on amassing the entire emergency fund right away, but rather on starting the fund and developing the habit of saving towards financial goals.

Tip #2:

In addition to the emergency fund, singles should explore starting an investment portfolio. Being that interest compounds, the key to saving money is to start as early as possible. In a recent seminar given by Michael Rapps, attorney and financial advisor with Merrill Lynch Wealth Management, he explained how every year matters when it comes to investing. For example, let’s assume that a person makes an annual contribution of $5,000 to their retirement account until the age of 71 with a rate of return of 10%. If this person were to start investing at age 45 instead of age 46, his ending balance will be greater by more than $65,000. If he starts at 35 instead of 36, he will be richer by more than $168,000. What about 25 instead of 26? The one extra year of investing will result in almost half a million dollars more to use

in retirement!

NEWLYWEDS: CREATING A STRONG FINANCIAL TEAM Mazal tov! You’ve made it to the chuppah and are ready to share your life with someone else. While being a newlywed is filled with much excitement, it can also be fret with anxiety and stress over all your future choices. Where should you live? Daven? What about your career? Do you want to start a family? You and your spouse have seemingly infinite opportunities and minimal limitations.

When it comes to finances, the good thing about being a newlywed is that there’s not too much to worry about. A list of expenses can probably be counted on one hand, non-student loan debt is hopefully non-existent, and there aren’t too many complicated financial decisions to make in the near future. While it’s important for a newlywed to start amassing the basics of personal financial knowledge, a newlywed couple should more importantly focus on their relationship with money—both as individuals and as a couple.

The findings are clear; according to “Examining the Relationship Between Financial Issues and Divorce,” published in 2012 in Family Relations journal, researcher Sonya Britt found that couples who argued about money early in their relationships, regardless of their income, debt or net worth, were at a greater risk

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Tip #1:

On an individual level, think about how you relate to money and what meaning it holds for you. In Mind Over Money, Drs. Ted and Brad Klontz (father-and-son duo) present the main money mindsets: Money Avoidance (avoiding financial decisions), Money Status (equating your net worth with your self-worth), Money Worship (seeing money as magical and being the potion to solve all your problems), and Money Vigilance (stinginess and wariness about your finances). Knowing how you relate to money helps you understand the emotions that are causing unhealthy financial behaviors. For example, if you have the Money Status mindset, you may overspend in order to “keep up with the Joneses.” At the root of this mindset might be a need to “fit in” or compensate for feelings of inadequacy. If you know you struggle with a Money Status mindset, the next time you notice yourself eyeing the new dress or hi-tech gadget, question the root of your desire as opposed to making a purchase you may not be able to afford.

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While knowing how you and your new spouse spend, save and relate to money is very advantageous, the most important thing is to start becoming a financial team. While figuring out what color the bathroom towels should be is not necessarily a “team decision,” the bigger financial decisions are. Where should you save your money? Should you buy life insurance policies? How should your monthly budget look? Should you use only cash or credit cards? Who should pay the bills?

Tip #3:

Lastly, just like you may have a weekly “date night,” so too should you adopt a monthly “money date night.” As opposed to getting into arguments with a tired, stressed-out, or hungry spouse, reserve all the “money talk” for once a month when you can go out with your spouse to a restaurant where you can calmly talk finances over a plate of sushi.

YOUNG PARENTS: DETAILS, DETAILS, DETAILS After a little more than five years of marriage and a few children, you might be feeling a bit more settled.

While you may know where you want to raise your family and what type of income you and your spouse

will have, you may still be wondering when you’ll have enough money to buy a house and how you’ll go about financially providing for a growing family.

Tip #1:

age. The longer your credit history, the better. Therefore, keep your old card in your wallet and only use it for small purchases in order to keep it active.

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At this stage in life, you should focus on the nitty-gritty of your finances. If you haven’t already, this is the time that reviewing your budget with a fine-tooth comb is highly beneficial. If time and energy elude you and tracking all expenses is simply not practical, consider looking at the spending categories that fluctuate the most or tend to be the largest each month.

Typically, this is the food category, especially since about every six months (Pesach and yomim tovim) the expenses in this category tend to spike. Spend a month tracking all your food purchases (make life easy by using a bank card or credit card for all the purchases) and reflect on how you can save money. Less take-out?

More fruit and veggie-based snacks and meals? If you can spend within your budgeted amount for the month or week, award yourself with a prize (for example, a $1.50 chocolate bar). Giving yourself a prize will help to psychologically reaffirm your good behavior and make your achievement much more tangible.

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This is also the perfect time to focus on your credit history. Whether or not a loan such as a mortgage is in your future, employers or landlords might want to have a look at your credit report and how responsible you are. The first step is to order your credit report from the three major reporting agencies (Experian, TransUnion, and Equifax) and make sure it’s free of noteworthy errors. Such important errors to look for include late payments, collections, and other negative pieces of information that aren’t yours, credit limits (like for credit cards) that are lower than they actually should be, accounts listed as anything other than “current” or “paid as agreed” if you paid on time and in full, and negative items like late payments that are older than seven years.

Aside from making sure that your credit card balances have been paid down, also consider keeping your credit card balance below 30% of your credit limit. For example, let’s say that your credit limit is $2,000. Every month you should aim to only spend about $600. If this isn’t possible, try to stick to the 30% rule when you are running your credit report as credit bureaus run your credit score using the your last credit card statement from your credit card company.

Lastly, don’t cut up your old credit card just because it’s not giving you a great deal on points or mile-

OLDER PARENTS: FUNDING WEDDINGS AND RETIREMENT

Just like the time when you knew that you would soon have to upgrade from an apartment to a home, so too is a gigantic expense lingering in the near future: seminary and weddings.

Not to mention—retirement.

Tip #1:

First, seminary and weddings. If you have a decent-sized savings account, you probably aren’t sweating the bullet too much. But what if you don’t? Or, what if you only have a fraction of what you anticipate the costs to be?

It might be time to start exploring pathways for smart, responsible borrowing.

Perhaps the best and easiest way to borrow is through a community loan gemach. Instead of maxing out a credit card or having to pay loads of cash in credit card interest, a local community loan gemach can be a great loan option. Other loan options include peer-to-peer lending such as the Lending Club, borrowing against a life insurance policy or 401k, tapping home equity, and—my least favorite—credit card cash advances.

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Next, retirement. If you haven’t done so already, you should be focusing on what your nest egg will look like after you stop working. Zero cash in the retirement account? Don’t worry, because you’re not alone. A survey conducted in 2009 by Edward Jones, the financial services firm, showed that 20% of respondents ages 45 to 54 had saved nothing at all for either retirement or college. Even though you may have big expenses on the horizon, consider matching any employer contributions to your retirement plan, as well as contributing the maximum amount per year to a new or existing IRA (individual retirement account).

Typically, financial advisors recommend investing in a target date mutual fund.

Regardless of your stage in life, it’s important to be fiscally responsible. Making changes, even small ones, can add up to a more comfortable bottom line for you and your family in the future. Talking about money may be uncomfortable, but having that conversation and analyzing your finances is not something you can afford to delay.

Sara Glaz is a graduate of UCLA with a degree in Economics. She has worked in finance and estate planning and currently runs a life insurance brokerage company, Sapphire Wealth Management LLC. She also teaches AP Economics and Personal Planning at TAG HS. Sara is the popular personal finance columnist for Mishpacha Magazine.

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“Say What?”

In an annual list that ranks states based on how healthy they are, the healthiest U.S. state is Hawaii. Mississippi finished 50th out of the 50 states, which isn’t surprising.

Healthy eating is not big in Mississippi. Their state bird is the fried chicken.

- Jimmy Kimmel

Dear Cade (#43), Life has its setbacks, I know! However, you will be a stronger human with time. I wish you all the best. Sincerely — another 43.

– A note sent by George W. Bush to Cade Foster after the University of Alabama kicker missed two field goals and had another one blocked in the Iron Bowl Alabama kicker Cade Foster had a tough time in the Iron Bowl, missing three field goals against Auburn. A lot of people blamed him for losing the game. Former President George W. Bush actually sent him a note to offer his support. The guy had such bad aim, you’d think he get a note from Dick Cheney.

- Jimmy Fallon The Mega Millions jackpot is now up to $586 million. The odds of winning are 1 in 259 million. Those are the same odds of Tony Romo throwing a pass to his own teammate in the 4th quarter.

- Jay Leno

Let us vote to provide for unemployment insurance for working men and women so that faces across America will not have the tear of desperation on their face. We cannot allow this to happen this season of joy and giving.

- Rep. Sheila Jackson-Lee (D-Texas) calling for unemployment benefits to be distributed to “working men and women” during a speech on the House floor This seems to be a good opportunity to put yourself in the place of the individuals you and the rest of your hunting party were trying to kill. As terrifying as it must have been to be attacked by a bear, please consider the frightening and painful experiences that hunters set out to impose upon animals.

It would be a blessing if you were to abandon hunting and decide to live and let live.

- From a letter written by PETA to Camille Bomboy, 18, who was mauled by a bear

From Jared Loughner in Arizona and the Aurora shooting and Adam Lanza, the Virginia Tech shooting, they were all crazy people. They were known to be crazy. They should have been forced to take medication or institutionalized. But as you point out, as long as liberals have brought up what their politics are, as I described in my book, “Demonic,” about mob behavior and violence on the left, the left has a 200-year history of engaging in political violence. Every single presidential assassination in the United States – sometimes it’s just a run-of-the-mill nut. But to the extent they have been political, they are always liberals. They’re communitarians, they’re socialists, they’re Communists. There have been four members of Congress were assassinated. Two were just crazy people. And the two – the first and the last were committed by liberal nuts…So it is not surprising to the extent any of the political violence or any assassinations are political, it is always, always, always liberals. There has never been a right-wing assassination attempt on a president or a member of Congress…

Liberalism is on the spectrum of mental illness.

- Ann Coulter on the Sean Hannity show Yesterday everybody reported on the fake sign language interpreter at the Nelson Mandela memorial.

Turns out that he was not a fake but a violent schizophrenic who was hallucinating that angels were flying into the stadium.

So at least there’s a simple explanation for what went wrong. For a minute I thought there might have been some kind of security problem.

- Jay Leno So let me get this straight.

The NSA is listening to our phone calls, but no one is checking up on the violent schizophrenic who is 18 inches from the president of the United States.

- Ibid

Are you kidding me? He’s shopping for me!

- Vice President Biden when a reporter asked him if he is busy shopping for a gift for President Obama

Queen furious about police stealing bowls of nuts and nibbles left out for her in apartments in the BP/ Queen’s corridor. She has a very savory tooth and staff leave out cashews, Bombay Mix, almonds etc. Prob is that police on patrol eat the lot... memo now gone around to all palace cops telling them to keep their sticky fingers out.

– One of numerous Buckingham Palace emails that have recently been made public at a London trial

- Ex-NFL player and accused killer Aaron Hernandez in a jailhouse letter Well, you know, the thought has crossed my mind.

- Senator Rand Paul on running for president

The world said goodbye today to Nelson Mandela.

And what a life he lived. He spent 27 years in prison and then ascended to become president of his country. He went from prison to politics.

It was exactly the opposite of how we do it in this country.

- Jay Leno

If I had kids, my kids would hate me. They would have ended up on the equivalent of the “Oprah” show talking about me, because something [in my life] would have had to suffer and it would’ve probably been them.

- Oprah Winfrey in a recent interview In an interview Oprah Winfrey said she has no regrets about not having children. Oprah said, “I feel bad enough about bringing Dr. Phil into the world.”

- Conan O’Brien In a new interview, Oprah said she’s glad she never had kids because they would probably hate her. Seriously?

She gives away free cars and lets people jump on the couch. I mean, she sounds fun to me.

- Jimmy Fallon

My parents, my great grandparents, my greatgreat grandparents came to escape the famine and they didn’t all come here legally.

They didn’t all come legally.

So listen, the existence of the system wasn’t as nearly as truncated as it is now. A lot went to Canada, came down.

So, I’d check your ancestry to make sure they did come in legally, if that’s a concern to you.

– Vice President Joe Biden during a Skype Town Hall to a woman who had a critical question about the Obama administration backed immigration reform legislation

The Washington Redskins have benched quarterback Robert Griffin III. He had a great first year in Washington, showed incredible promise, and then the whole thing fell apart. To which President Obama said, “Tell me about it.”

- Jay Leno

A football player from Troy University in Alabama has been arrested for murder.

Sounds like he’s ready for the NFL. The scouts are like, “Wow!” - Conan O’Brien

Onion print revenues up 5,000% - Headline of final print version of the Onion

Due to inflation, a cup of coffee in Russia costs $8.30.

In other words, they now have Starbucks in Russia.

- Conan O’Brien

It really reminded me of a video that we saw of Saddam Hussein doing the same thing, having people plucked out of an audience, and people sitting there sweating, and nobody daring to move or do anything… This is not the first execution. There have been a significant number of executions taking place over the last months which we’re aware of…This is the nature of this ruthless, horrendous dictatorship and of his insecurities. It’s an ominous sign of the instability and of the danger that does exist. To have a nuclear weapon, potentially, in the hands of somebody like Kim … just becomes even more unacceptable.

- Secretary of State Kerry, discussing North Korea dictator Kim Jong Un’s execution of his own uncle last week

Despicable human…Jang, who was worse than a dog, perpetrated thrice-cursed acts of treachery in betrayal of such profound trust and warmest paternal love shown by the party and the leader for him… he behaved so arrogantly and insolently as unwillingly standing up from his seat and half-heartedly clapping [as a crowd cheered for Kim Jong Un], touching off towering resentment of our service personnel and people.

- North Korea’s official news agency explaining why Kim Jong Un’s uncle and longtime confidant was executed

I wish things were that ruthlessly efficient.

- President Obama, discussing the show “House of Cards” with Netflix CEO Reed Hastings

Inside, joining in cigarette decide to prove an on and on.

- One of the few “complete sentences” that the fake sign language interpreter at the Nelson Mandela memorial signed during speeches

I think John just got his Irish up there.

- Rep. Paul Ryan (R-Wis.) on Meet the Press, discussing Speaker of the House Boehner’s recent rift with the Conservative faction of the GOP

President Obama shook hands with Cuban dictator Raul Castro. Or as Fox News reported it, “Foreign Communist shakes hands with the leader of Cuba.”

- Conan O’Brien

This week President Obama attended Nelson Mandela’s memorial service in South Africa. Hundreds of world leaders were there. President Obama said it felt strange to listen to these leaders in person rather than eavesdropping on their phone calls.

- Jay Leno

Get covered because it will give your mom piece [sic] of mind.

- Tweet sent out by the White House encouraging people to sign up for Obamacare, in order to give their moms peace of mind, presumably

Major League Baseball announced a new rule that bans intentional collisions at the plate. Or as that’s also known, “the only exciting thing that happens in baseball.”

- Jimmy Fallon

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Perfect Portion Sizes

ortion control and knowing what a portion or serving size looks like is essential for losing weight and maintaining your weight. Over the past few decades, American portion sizes have increased, with a direct correlation to our expanding waistlines. Many times we think we are eating sensibly, but our intake of even healthy foods could be double or triple the appropriate serving size.

The following is a list of foods and their appropriate serving size with some realistic everyday tips to help you identify them.

• 3 oz of cooked chicken, meat, fish = a deck of cards • 1 cup of cooked vegetables = size of one baseball • ½ cup cooked brown rice or pasta = size of an ice cream scoop or a regular light bulb • 1 medium apple = size of a baseball • 2 TBS of peanut butter = size of ping pong ball • 1 pancake or waffle = size of a CD • 1 cup of cereal = size of a baseball • 3 oz of cooked fish = size of a checkbook • 2 TBS of hummus = size of a golf ball • 3 oz of tofu = size of a cassette tape • ½ cup of grapes = about 16 small grapes • ¼ cup of dried fruit or nuts = size of golf ball or large egg • 1 cup of berries = about 12 small strawberries or size of a baseball • 1 TBS of butter or salad dressing = 1 poker chip • ½ cup of ice cream or frozen yogurt = size of 1 regular light bulb or tennis ball • 1 ½ oz of cheese = six dice When eating a meal it’s important to make a portion plate. Half of your plate

should be consist of vegetables; one quarter of the plate should be protein (like chicken or fish); and one quarter of the plate a whole grain carb (like brown rice, whole wheat pasta or quinoa). Most restaurants serve more food than one person needs at one meal. Ask the wait person for a “to go” box, and wrap up half your meal as soon as its brought to the table or split an entrée with your dinner companion.

Pizza, movie popcorn, burgers, and bagels are just some of the everyday foods that have literally doubled in size/ calories in the past 20 years. It behooves everyone, the person that is dieting and the one that is not, to study the above table and learn the appropriate portion sizes and how to eyeball them. If you find these portions to be too restrictive, then wean yourself down gradually. Every day decrease your portions a little bit more until you are at the ideal size. Eventually, you will feel satisfied on the smaller portions, and it will take less food to banish your pains of hunger. Follow these perfect portions and you might even shed a few extra pounds without trying too hard!

Aliza Beer is a registered dietician with a Master’s degree in nutrition. She has a private practice in Cedarhurst, NY. Patients’ success has been featured on the Dr. Oz Show. Aliza’s new line of prepared, healthy meals-to-go are available at Gourmet Glatt. Aliza can be reached at alizabeer@gmail.com.

Deb Hirschhorn, Ph.D.

Parenting 101: Blame plagued with anxiety over previous performance problems?

See, we don’t have answers. We need them in order to know what steps to take next to help Jake. Meanwhile, if nothing changes, Jake will continue to disappoint his mother.

There are more unwanted consequences of Lenore’s blame: She has now pushed her son away from her in the area of academics. It’s quite possible he will be so hurt and so estranged

through life. (This state of affairs is fixable, but obviously, the older Jake gets, the harder it is.) Many people have told me how much their friends, co-workers, and loving family will dispute their self-defeating thoughts about themselves, and they will say to me, “You know, Deb, I know these thoughts are not true – objectively – but for some reason, they feel true.”

That is the sad result of the silly detail that those thoughts got there first.

Although on the outside Jake defends himself to his mother, the inside looks quite different: Jake now has a message inside that tells him he is not good enough.

if this keeps up that he will not have a good relationship with his mother at all.

This makes sense. People’s emotional survival cannot tolerate a barrage of bad thoughts about themselves. Thus, the less he has to do with his mother, the less he will hear those unwanted messages. Unfortunately, the problem can globally affect relationships: Bad messages about one topic spill over to bad feelings about another. The target of the bad messages never knows when another painful one will be lobbed at him so it’s best to completely avoid the person who gives them.

As a result of Lenore’s approach, Jake will also not think well of himself and this may be the most unfortunate fallout of all. Although on the outside Jake defends himself to his mother, the inside looks quite different: Jake now has a message inside that tells him he is not good enough. That message will take him through school and through marriage. He may very well pass it on to his own children.

If he receives this sort of message often enough, Jake will believe in his heart the worst about himself no matter what successes and what positive feedback he gets from others as he goes

It seems that the more a thought travels down a certain neural pathway, the more automatic it is. In this way, a trigger can set off the negative thought in a split second before a person can begin to challenge it. Heard over and over in childhood, it becomes an embedded axiom of life. Even when it isn’t true.

The truth is that Jake is just a schoolboy with his life ahead of him. He has the potential to shine academically. After all, we don’t know what the problem is (see the list of questions parents must ask themselves, above). If we did, it could be addressed. And if it were addressed, he would not have any reason for a bad opinion of himself.

Let’s suppose for a moment that Jake’s problem is that as a first grader he was a bit shy and insecure. He didn’t shine in school because he didn’t raise his hand to give answers; after all, they could be wrong and he didn’t want to risk embarrassing himself. When he came home with mediocre grades, his parents were disappointed. They didn’t take action to determine what could have been done about it, so his performance continued to go downhill.

Now, let’s create an alternate version of this story. After first grade is

over, Lenore initiates a conference at school with the teachers and principal.

She is puzzled by his lackluster performance and asks them for their input.

“The truth is,” Mrs. Millovsky, the English teacher, says, “I don’t know Jake at all. In a class of 32 kids, he wouldn’t raise his hand, wouldn’t stop by to talk, didn’t ask for help, and didn’t even joke around with the other kids. There was nothing I could go by but his grades on tests to determine his performance.”

The others concurred.

Lenore leaves just as perplexed as she was when she came in. Mulling this information around in her mind, she comes to the conclusion that maybe whatever has been affecting Jake’s performance is also responsible for his lack of participation. She knew Jake to be shy, but that wouldn’t explain his poor results.

So she went into Jake’s room and had a talk with him. “How did you like school this year?” she began. Jake shrugged his shoulders. “Well, what did you like best?” she asked. Jake looked at her and decided to be honest. “Not much, really,” he said. Lenore took in a deep breath. This was not easy. “Okay, let me ask you a magical question,” Lenore began again. “What would have to be different for school to be fun?”

Jake thought back to preschool which was fun. The kids would play and laugh. Everything was a game. “You didn’t have to have answers last year, mommy,” he said, looking at her with big eyes.

There you go. Lenore now had her answer: Her son was scared by having to have answers. At this moment, she wasn’t quite sure how to get around that, but at least she knew what the problem was. Stay tuned for next week’s continuation of this story.

One thing should be clear: Blame pushes away the results you want – and pushes away your child as well. Don’t do it.

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et me see that paper, sweetie,” Lenore said after Jake came in the door from school.

Jake had his report card in his hand; he figured he’d get it over with. In the past, he would delay and delay but he found the anxiety of waiting for his parents’ response wasn’t worth it. Just take his licks.

Lenore looked at the card. To her it was terrible: There actually were two B’s, then the two C’s and the unfortunate D. The report card didn’t make Lenore feel good; she felt like a total failure as a parent.

She couldn’t tolerate that feeling for more than a second or two so she turned to Jake with her voice rising saying, “You see, you didn’t study! You thought you could simply slide through and not have to work!” Her voice rose a shade more in pitch. “I’m really upset with you! You can do better than this.

All you had to do was try.”

“No I couldn’t!” Jake retorted defensively. “I tried. I really did. You’re absolutely wrong!” Jake stomped out of the hall and slammed the door on the way into his room.

What just happened?

Lenore was playing the blame game. To the recipient, blame feels like an attack; therefore, it leads to defensiveness. What Lenore wants is for Jake to be open to her message of the need for self-improvement and instead she is getting the opposite. If this continues going forward, Jake will close himself off completely. He is already wrapping himself in armor. After all, who wants to be attacked?

Ironically, Lenore’s concept of “letting children know how you feel” has another unwanted consequence: Even if Jake was not defensive – that is, even if Jake fully agreed with his mother – no roadmap has been figured out to get the results that his parents want. After all, although it could be true that Jake didn’t study enough, we still have to ask why.

Was the work too difficult? Were there distractions in the room or in his life? Was something bothering him?

Was he too tired from staying up too late? Did Jake not know how to study?

Does he have a learning disability? Is there something about the way the material is explained that hinders his grasping it? Or, as was mentioned last week in another article in this paper, was Jake

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his February, millions of Americans will tune in to watch the Superbowl. Did you know the television network airing the game reportedly charges around $4 million for a 30-second commercial? That’s over $125,000 per second! Think about how much time, energy and planning those companies use to prepare for just 30-seconds of uninterrupted viewership. Now think about the effort you put forth during that

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same amount of time with your children.

Much like a television audience, children soak up everything they see from the minute they’re born, and you, as parents, are their most frequently viewed program. Let’s face it, they learn your habits pretty quickly, easily figuring out how to push your buttons, catch you off guard, or get your attention. Take, for example, a child fascinated with pressing the buttons on a phone and subsequently experiencing a noise

or an image change; if they like it, they keep fussing with those buttons. Yes, your child is well-versed in the nuances of cause and effect.

Today, too many young people find themselves at the edge of the abyss, physically or psychologically. Abuse, depression, anger, alienation, hopelessness and cynicism have infiltrated the lives of too many youngsters, plunging them into a lifelong battle with emotional enslavement. Sadly, many of us are

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So how can 30 seconds improve your relationship with them? Our children know when we’re engulfed in our own technological or work-driven tasks; perhaps you have heard an eager voice say, “Daddy, look what I colored,” or “Mommy, you wouldn’t believe what I built, come and see.” For adults, it seems obvious that you simply cannot give them that attention all the time. Yet for children, hugs and kisses mean “you care about me” and a pre-occupation directed elsewhere translates to “You’re rejecting me – your emails and phone are more important than me.” All of these messages help to form the basis of your child’s self-concept and self-confidence which vitally impact how a child develops, both socially and emotionally.

I challenge you parents out there, along with myself, to stop all that you’re doing in one 30-second long moment (yes, you can time it). Get down on their level, turn your body towards them, and listen to what they’re saying. Take that time to acknowledge what they are doing and how they are feeling, and be fully present with your child. It is amazing how just 30 seconds can improve your relationship with him or her, giving both you and them time to cherish. Unlike the $4 million Pepsi will likely be paying in February, this 30-second commercial is PRICELESS! We put so much emphasis on how good or bad our children’s behaviors are that we miss out on the most important aspect of the parent-child relationship – “the relationship.” Nothing surpasses the importance of staying committed to keeping your bond strong, especially once your sweet little girl or boy has grown into a stubborn teenager!

Dovid Schatzkamer is a licensed mental health counselor with distinguished experience in providing play therapy and counseling to children and adolescents. Dovid now serves as the Director of Clinical Services at a social services organization, and has a private practice in Marine Park. You can contact him at 718-715-9384 or dschatzkamer@ aol.com for any questions or comments.

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Changing our Minds, Torah Style

How would all this help Ezra, in the example above?

The Torah commands us to refrain from bearing grudges or from taking revenge ‘Lo Tikom’ (Vayikra, 19:18). The Sefer Hachinuch, which provides insight into the reasoning behind the 613 commandments, recognizes how difficult it can be to forgive people who have hurt

us. Why would we just move on? And how can we forget the hurtful things that people have said or done? The Sefer Hachinuch (Commandments 241 and 242) recommends that one engage in a specific set of thoughts when they are wronged: imagine that everything that happens is purposeful. The person who wronged us—he was merely the conduit for the hurt that we were meant to experience. Of course, the person who excluded us or stole or gossiped was wrong, and they failed a personal spiritual challenge of their own. However, our thought process, the Sefer Hachinuch seems to argue, should be focused on what we can control (our own actions) rather than on what we can’t control (the actions of others).

The Torah seems to be clearly stating that we can change how we feel and how we act and that it all starts with altering our thoughts.

Cognitive Therapists would tend to support the constructs within the Sefer Hachinuch. Aaron Beck, the founder of Cognitive Behavioral Therapy, identified several thinking patterns (called Cognitive Distortions) that are categorically damaging to people. Some examples of distorted thinking include blaming and all or nothing thinking. Blaming involves focusing on who is to blame for a problem, rather than on how to solve the problem. When we blame something or someone, we usually have a skewed perception of how much they are responsible for what happened—we forget to notice the other factors that may have contributed to the problem. All or Nothing Thinking involves seeing situations or people in terms of black or white (good or bad) without seeing the entire picture, one that may include some good and some bad.

How Thoughts Create Change Ezra may be using some unhealthy thinking patterns, such as blaming Elisha for all of his problems during recess.

If he stops to think about it, Ezra may realize that he is very shy, and he didn’t actually ask to be part of the game. Elisha happened not to invite him to play, but maybe he just didn’t realize that Ezra wanted to. That hurts a lot. But maybe Ezra should’ve spoken up instead of just standing there. Ezra looks up at his teacher and nods, “I have a pencil for Elisha.” His voice shakes. But he hands Elisha that pencil, knowing that Elisha wasn’t entirely at fault.

When Ezra learns to use cognitive therapy in order to change his tendency to hold a grudge, he increases his chances at social success. Instead of starting a fight with his peers and then mindlessly staying in a cycle of resentment and anger, Ezra may learn to think clearly and communicate effectively. Next recess time, he may have an increased chance of being invited to play basketball since he has shown his peers that despite his past behavior, he is capable of being friendly.

How Actions Create Change After a long morning of serious, hard work, the recess bell finally rings. Meira is so excited to get some fresh air that she runs to be first on line. She barely notices stepping on backpacks and shoving the other girls out of the way. All she can think about is finding the jump rope and being the leader of the next game.

Children are often unaware of how their actions affect those around them.

They may not have bad intentions; rather, they may overlook the needs of their peers accidentally. They may be simply focused on how they feel. How can we teach our children to feel empathy? According to the Cognitive Model in psychology, we can break a bad cycle of behavior by changing either our thoughts or actions. And according to Judaic philosophy, changing one’s actions can be an effective first step in changing one’s self. For instance, the Sefer Hachinuch

(Commandment 16), in describing the instructions for eating the korban Pesach mentions that it is forbidden to break any of the animal bones. The reason for this, the Sefer Hachinuch states, is that “a person will become like his actions, and his heart and thoughts will reflect the things that he does.” While children may not intuitively feel empathic and sensitive toward one another, they can be taught to pay attention to the needs and feelings of others.

Meira can learn to make sure that she doesn’t physically hurt her classmates or damage their belongings. She can be encouraged to step around those knapsacks on the floor and to respect her classmates’ personal space. Just like eating animal sacrifices in a dignified manner can have an effect on our personal dignity, acting with empathy can teach us to feel and think more kindly.

Through being more careful with her actions, Meira will end up thinking about how to consider the needs of others when making decisions.

Torah sources and cognitive behavioral theory each elaborate on practical strategies for increasing skills such as communication, empathy, and frustration tolerance. While people often see individual or group therapy as solutions to interpersonal problems, therapists may also be helpful in preventing those problems from arising in the first place.

Psychotherapy may be a great way to supplement academic education with social and emotional education for both children and adults.

Jonathan Cohen, PsyD is the director of South Shore Cognitive Therapy and has advanced training in evidenced-based therapies for emotional and behavioral problems.

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“Ezra, would you lend Elisha one of your extra pencils for today?” The teacher looks expectantly at her fourth grade student. Ezra frowns. He doesn’t feel like loaning his pencil to anyone, especially not to Elisha, and especially not after Elisha did not include him in the basketball game last recess. Why should he do a favor for Elisha, when all Elisha has done today is made him feel excluded? Ezra shrugs. He feels his hand tighten around the extra, freshly sharpened pencils on his desk. There is no way that Elisha will get anything from him, he decides. Even if it means that he won’t get to play with the popular kids at all.

How do we teach our children to break the cycle of hurtful behavior? How do we show them that by perpetuating acts of intolerance, they are damaging their peer relationships? In our practice, we place an emphasis on evidence-based treatments and methods that are supported by research; we tend to look towards scientific sources in order to learn about psychological theory. However, the truth is that as observant Jews, our Torah knowledge plays a large role in helping us understand how people work. Torah knowledge actually predates the modern day theorists, philosophers, and scientists. For instance, the fundamental concept at the core of Cognitive Behavioral Therapy, that our thoughts and beliefs impact our decisions and behavior, is clearly stated in several primary Jewish texts.

Both Torah and science seem to agree on several key components of change: Our thoughts impact our feelings, which in turn, impact our actions, as part of a cyclical process.

It is possible to change ourselves by changing our thoughts or actions (our feelings will then follow) When we use cognitive change to alter our thoughts and actions, we are able to stop our self-defeating patterns and get closer to reaching our goals.

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eing an Aussie (Australian born) I grew up eating lots of lamb. In fact, reportedly there are currently more sheep than people in Australia! I realize that not everyone is partial to lamb, as it can sometimes be fatty and has a gamey (earthy) taste, but the right recipe can turn something you might be ambivalent about into something exciting and tasty. That’s especially true with lamb. These recipes applied to some good-quality lamb from your butcher can make all the difference. I always ask my butcher (Rabbi Berel Wolowik from Gourmet Glatt) to trim the fat off my lamb and also to “french” the bones.

(Note: to “french” a rack of lamb means to clean meat, cartilage and fat between the tips of the rib bones to make for a neater presentation. It also makes the rack a little easier to cut apart into chops and serve when fully cooked. Generally it’s best to leave “frenching” to the expert hands of your butcher, but you can try it yourself with a very sharp knife.)

These two recipes burst with flavor and both are always big hits with my family and guests when I serve them.

Herb Crusted Rack of Lamb Ingredients 10-12 baby lamb chops, cleaned and frenched Salt and black pepper 6 slices good quality stale white bread 2 tablespoons chopped fresh mint 2 tablespoons chopped fresh parsley 2 tablespoons chopped fresh chives 2 tablespoons Dijon mustard Preparation Preheat oven to 400° F. Place lamb on baking sheets and season with salt and freshly ground black pepper. Roast the lamb in oven until rare-medium rare (lamb should be 125-130 degrees), approximately 10 minutes.

Combine the bread with herbs in a food processor and process until well-blended.

Remove lamb from oven, and smear with mustard.

Coat with bread crumb mixture. Return to oven and cook another 2 minutes, or until crumbs are lightly toasted.

Coconut Lamb Stew You can also use chicken Ingredients 2 tablespoons vegetable oil 1 medium onion, coarsely chopped 2 garlic cloves, minced 1 tablespoon minced fresh ginger 1 ½ lbs lean lamb cubes 1 tablespoon curry powder 2 medium sweet potato, peeled and cut into 1/2-inch dice One 14-ounce can unsweetened coconut milk, stirred 1 cup chicken stock or low-sodium broth Salt and freshly ground pepper 10oz bag frozen spinach 1/3 cup coarsely chopped cilantro Hot sauce, for serving Preparation In a large, deep skillet, heat the oil until shimmering. Add the onion, garlic and ginger and cook over medium heat until barely softened, about 4 minutes.

Add the lamb and cook over moderately high heat, breaking it up with a wooden spoon, until it starts to brown, about 10 minutes. Add the curry powder and

sweet potato and cook for 2 minutes. Add the coconut milk and stock and season with salt and pepper.

Cover partially and simmer over moderate heat until the sweet potato is tender, about 15 minutes. Add the spinach and cook until heated through. Stir in the cilantro and serve with hot sauce.

Naomi Nachman, the owner of The Aussie Gourmet, caters weekly and Shabbat/ Yom Tov meals for families and individuals within The Five Towns and neighboring communities, with a specialty in Pesach catering. Naomi is a contributing editor to this paper and also produces and hosts her own weekly radio show on the Nachum Segal Network stream called “A Table for Two with Naomi Nachman.” Naomi gives cooking presentations for organizations and private groups throughout the New York/New Jersey Metropolitan area. In addition, Naomi has been a guest host on the QVC TV network and has been featured in cookbooks, magazines as well as other media covering topics related to cuisine preparation and personal chefs. To obtain additional recipes, join The Aussie Gourmet on Facebook or visit Naomi’s blog. Naomi can be reached through her website,www.theaussiegourmet.com or at (516) 295-9669.

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The Pony Express

Racing Through the Nation at the age of fifteen.

Buffalo Bill was heading west when he learned of the Pony Express. He helped construct several way stations and was soon given sections of the route to run. One time he galloped into a home station only to find out that his replacement had The Pony Express route been killed while drunk and there was no one to take his place. BuffaThe youngest rider was fourteenlo Bill immediately volunteered and year-old Billy Tate. He was chased rode for 322 miles in 21 hours over by a band of Paiute Indians and was the most dangerous sections. Another forced to hide behind some rocks. A time he was attacked by fifteen Indi- gunfight ensued and seven Indians ans but managed to pull away from were killed before Billy was shot and them to the next station killed. only to find that the Wild Bill Hickok stationmaster had been was a station boy for killed by the Indians the Pony Express beand the horses stolen. fore he became a faHe continued until the mous gunslinger. He next station while ridwas too big and old to ing the same horse for be sent out as a rider. a distance on 24 miles The story of him taking nonstop. on a gang is a tall tale.

Indians, in particHe supposedly killed ular the Paiute tribe, four members of the were troublesome for McCandless gang after the riders on the trail they murdered a staA Pony Express rider in 1860 and were especialtionmaster and took his ly a menace for stationmasters. Bob wife hostage.

Haslam was attacked by Indians on In October 1861, the telegraph had March 4, 1861. He was only wounded, reached California and there was no and he was able to deliver the precious need for the relay system. The Pony cargo—a copy of President Lincoln’s Express was discontinued on October inaugural address. He was shot in the 24 after nineteen months of service. jaw by an arrow, lost three teeth but Most of the riders joined the cavalry continued his route. Despite the haz- as the Civil War had broken out and ards from Indians, more Pony Express experienced horsemen were needed employees were killed by gangs and while others gained employment with outlaws. Only one rider is known to Wells Fargo’s mail service. The Pony have been killed by Indians.

Express has been the talk of legends ever since. Stories of Buffalo Bill and other cowboys have endured the test of time as the Pony Express and its riders have passed into history.

A rider leaving a station

Avi Heiligman is a weekly contributor to The Jewish Home.

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n the age before technology, news the relay system and purchased 400 and mail traveled slowly—too ponies for the enterprise. He also set slow for many up over 150 housing Americans living in stations in desolate arthe 1800s. Someeas and hired stationtimes it could take masters to man the months for informaoutposts. Then came tion to reach the west the most difficult coast and letters from challenge of all: the loved ones sometimes Pony Express needed never reached their riders. The rider had destination. Since the to be young, daring, boom in population lightweight and an exfrom 1848, Califorpert horseman. A typnia gold rush invenical ad went like this: tors and businessmen “Young, skinny, wiry were trying to come fellows, not over 18. up with new ideas to Must be expert riders.

Recruiting Pony Express riders tackle this problem.

Willing to risk death The telegraph, elecdaily. Orphans pretric signals which use power lines or ferred.” Once recruited, the rider was radio waves, existed but scientists given a Bible and told to sign a pledge hadn’t made it practical just yet. Three that he wouldn’t drink, swear or fight businessmen came up with a solution with other Pony Express employees. of sending riders on very fast horses The route started in Saint Joseph, across America, and in 1860, the de- Missouri, wound around 1,900 miles tails were worked out and the Pony of mainly open barren land and mounExpress was born. tains, and ended in Sacramento, CaliThousands of people were mov- fornia. The trip took ten days and the ing west. Not only did the people who riders transferred horses every 10-15 found gold stay in the west but poor miles. Every third station was a home prospectors couldn’t afford a trip back station and the riders would transfer east and therefore made California the 20 pounds of mail to a fresh rider their home. These people wanted a on a fresh horse while the tired rider way to communicate with their loved could get some rest. The riders covones and the existing ered about 250 miles service, the Overland in a day and were Mail Service, was paid $100 a month for overburdened with the dangerous work. mail. More problems The Pony Express arose in 1858 when worked both ways as they cut back on the the riders were turned service partially bearound and sent back cause traversing the east with more mail.

Rocky Mountains was There were several a hazard. Even under divisions of the trail, the best conditions, and riders were asthe mail would take signed to a particular a minimum of three division riding back Buffalo Bill Cody weeks to reach Caliand forth. fornia. The government of California The first westbound trip left Saint asked William Russell, a stage coach Joseph on April 3, 1860 and arrived to owner, to come up with a better ar- an exuberant crowd in California ten rangement. Together with Alexander days later. The identity of the rider is Majors and William Majors they came disputed. Eventually, over 180 men up with a horse relay system. and boys were hired for the mail serAlexander Majors was originally vice with one of the youngest riders opposed to the idea but warmed up to being the legendary Buffalo Bill Cody

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Ask the Attorney Zehava Schechter, Esq.

Avoiding Probate My wife is pushing me to make a Will. However, I do not see a reason to do so as our assets have a value less than $1 million. Do I need a Will?

request is not binding upon the Surrogate, it carries significant weight; and • You are able to set up a specific type of testamentary (under the Will) trust called a Special Needs Trust or Supplemental Needs Trust (SNT) for any disabled beneficiaries, who might otherwise lose government assistance

The Attorney Responds: To answer the question properly, we need first to look at the reasons to make a Will, and there are many. To name a few: • Your assets are distributed after passing the way you want, not the way the Surrogate (Judge) or New York State law decides; • You are able to name your Executor (the person who marshals and distributes your assets) and your Trustee of any trusts (whether for disabled, minor, or other beneficiaries); • If married, you are able to shelter money from estate taxes after the second spouse passes (but only if you plan for this while both of you are alive and your spouse is a United States citizen); • You name a Guardian for any minor (under 18 years) child. While your

If you have a camera and take a photograph of everything under your control at the time of your passing, that would be your estate. upon receiving an inheritance outright.

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ing, that would be your estate. If you own real property (explained generally as anything attached to land) or personal property (anything not attached to land, e.g. movable, tangible or intangible, etc.) with someone else (or more than 1 person or entity), a portion of the value of the asset is attributed to you.

The goal and theory of estate planning is to reduce or eliminate estate taxes altogether while distributing your assets per your wishes. Also, while you think your assets are currently valued at less than $1 million, at the time of your passing (ad 120) they may be much more significant due to appreciation, greater wealth amassed, etc. So, you are planning today for tomorrow, next year, and onwards.

You can always change your Will – that is why it is called a Last Will and Testament; only the most recent valid Will before your passing may be offered for probate in Surrogate’s Court (New York’s probate court).

One of the most common reasons I hear from people as to why they hesitate to make a Will is the cost. Yet, attorneys’ fees for preparing and executing (signing ceremony) a Will (mine as well as colleagues with whom I have checked) are modest. It will likely cost your family much more money after your passing to administer your estate if you do not have a Will and have to file an Administration proceeding in Surrogate’s Court.

Therefore, when weighing the pros and cons of making a Will, the scale is quite lopsided in favoring of making one.

Your work does not end with the Will. Here are more questions to consider:

1. Have you confirmed all beneficiary designations on bank accounts, brokerage accounts, pensions, IRA’s, etc. to make sure they are correct (both in name and percentages assigned)?

2. Do you have young children, a spouse, or persons who rely on your income? If so, you need term life insurance.

3. Do you have Long Term Care (LTC) insurance? I strongly advise all of my clients to obtain this insurance.

The younger and healthier you are, the less expensive this insurance will be for you. If you wait until you are ill (even at a young age), you may not qualify for the insurance and will regret waiting.

Make sure you take the compound interest (3% or 5%) rider and the home health care rider. The rest is based upon what you can afford. A portion of your LTC insurance annual premium is also credited against your New York State income tax for that tax year – every year. If you need home health care or nursing home care later in life, the premiums paid until then will be a very small fraction of the cost for these services and will leave your assets (generally speaking) protected for your family.

There are many more issues involved in estate planning for you and your family to consider. When is a good time to plan your estate? Yesterday, as no one knows what Hashem has planned for us today.

Be well!

W. Zehava Schechter, Esq. specializes in real estate law, estate planning and administration, and business law. Her law practice is located on Long Island. Please send your comments to SchechterLaw@gmail.com.

No column is a substitute for competent legal advice. Please consult with the attorney of your choice concerning specific legal questions you may have.

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A World After This

A Memoir of Loss and Redemption

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Chapter 25 Birth and Rebirth

s I started to fall asleep I was aware that this possibly would be the last Shabbos of my life as a woman without a child. Perhaps by the following Shabbos, certainly no longer than two more, I would be a mother.

Mechel would be a father. We would be a family. It was a sentiment I had not contemplated before: I would become someone’s mother. Of course we had no idea whether we would have a boy or a girl, nor did we care; we prayed only that our child would be healthy. The 10 p.m. curfew was about to begin and I had a sudden urge to go to the bathroom. The lights were just being turned

arrived at the hospital and I was in bad shape. Mechel asked for the physician on duty and explained our predicament.

A stern and nasty German doctor

starvation and brutality, Lola and her husband held onto their faith and values.

It was Mechel’s words of encouragement, “There will be a world after this,” that helped them cling to the hope that there will be a life of light and joy waiting for them at the end.

This is the story of Lola’s life—from her grandparents’ “enchanted garden” to meeting Eichmann ym”sh to making the Pesach seder for the Bobover Rebbe during the war—her words will take you back to a different world. the operating room and the doctor confronted her.

“You may not admit anyone to this hospital without my permission. She

I would be a mother. Mechel would be a father.

We would be a family.

came into the foyer of the hospital. It was not the rather pleasant doctor we had seen earlier in the week. “What do you want? How dare you wake me up; what is the matter with you? You are not about to give birth. I know why you came. You just want chocolate and milk. Go away.”

There was no point in arguing with him and I told Mechel I wanted to leave. He was beside himself because he couldn’t help me and he couldn’t confront this hateful doctor. I wondered if he really was a doctor. He had made no attempt to examine me, and although I was Baby Herschel Leiber, born in January 1946, Munich, Germany dressed nicely, I was out as I returned to my bed. As I started quite obviously very pregnant. I went to get into bed, I had to rush again to outside and found a bench. I lay down the bathroom. Then, a third time, and I on it, too tired and too embarrassed to didn’t make it quite in time. I started to make a fuss in front of my own family. cry. I was ill. The last thing we needed I honestly didn’t know what was hapwas for me to be ill before childbirth. pening to me.

I had pains and I couldn’t control The labor pains came back, and I myself. I didn’t understand that I was made faces but didn’t cry out. By now, beginning to go into labor. Without my the men were timing them and they mother or another female relative to tell were in twenty-minute cycles. Mechel me, I was completely bewildered and ran to the hospital door again and again, terrified. A woman told me that I was banging on it and begging to be admitgoing to have the baby and pulled the ted. He was refused. Six hours passed alarm. Immediately, Mechel came to and I almost fainted several times. With me and also my Uncle Yoshe and my miraculous timing, a woman passed by brother Ben. Although it was Shabbos just then and said, “Wait a minute. You the three of them found a taxi in no time, need help. You are about to deliver. I and we headed for the hospital in Mu- am a midwife.” She picked me up in her nich. On the way, the real pains of labor arms like a baby and screamed until the began. It was about midnight when we door was opened. She carried me into

will not have that baby for days.”

The midwife had a strong Lithuanian Jewish accent. I felt I was in competent and loving hands.

“Really? Well, I’ll tell you what, Doctor, I am going to bet you a carton

of cigarettes that you are wrong. And she is going to have this baby in less than five minutes.”

The doctor accepted her challenge.

It was a bizarre scene. However, I knew I was about to have a baby, primarily because the midwife would not have made such an extravagant bet if I were not about to “deliver” for her. Before she turned around from washing her hands, my baby began to come into the world.

Continued next week A World After This was published in 2010 by Devora Publishing.

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Lola Lieber Schwartz is a world-renowned artist whose paintings have been exhibited in art galleries throughout the United States and are part of the Yad Vashem archives in Jerusalem. Most importantly, Lola is a mother, grandmother and great-grandmother to many. She has myriad friends and sees life in all its vibrancy and vitality. But life was not always easy. Lola was only sixteen-yearsold when Hitler ym”sh invaded Poland, and Lola was forced into hiding and spent years on the run with her husband, Mechel. Through six years of trying times, near

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Beit Shemesh was founded in 1950 but its history goes back thousands of years to Biblical times, where it is prominently mentioned in the books of Joshua, Samuel and Kings. In addition, it is located in close proximity to where the famous battle between David and Goliath took place.

Beit Shemesh was a classic “development town” with a large segment of its initial population arriving from North Africa. Over the years, many Russians

and Ethiopians moved in during later waves of aliyah.

The city is centrally located, thirty minutes from Jerusalem’s city limits and less than an hour from Tel Aviv. With trains linking Beit Shemesh with both

This past Friday night reminded me of the city’s uniqueness and its potential for greatness.

cities, the city is a commuter’s dream. In the 1990s, new neighborhoods, such as Sheinfeld, Nofei Aviv and the first communities in Ramat Beit Shemesh, were established and drew many Anglos, and these neighborhoods flourished. At about the same time, the Charedi com-

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The challenging past few years have caused me to overlook Beit Shemesh’s strengths, but this past Friday night reminded me of the city’s uniqueness and its potential for greatness. My family attended Kabbalat Shabbat services that my friends Goel Jasper and MK Dov Lipman run on Goel’s large back porch.

I absolutely loved the amazingly diverse

2020 due to the seemingly endless development that is occurring in Ramat Beit Shemesh (RBS). RBS Gimmel and other surrounding new developments will add 5,000 units, and RBS Dalet and Heh, which are in the planning stages, are slated to add another 13,000 units. Why the tremendous growth?

In four words: price, loNofei Hashemesh: Rav Rosner’s community, cation, community and Photo Credit: Gedaliah Borvick convenience. One can buy a home for less than half the price of a home in Jerusalem, crowd of over 100 people that crammed and have excellent access to most of the into the backyard. The minyan was comprised of Dati Leumi people in knitted kippot, Charedim in black hats, and multiple sects of Chassidim bedecked in bekeshas (long jackets) and shtreimels (fur hats).

What a great reminder that there are so many wonderful people from all the communities of Beit Shemesh who yearn to cast aside the silliness that divides us and seek Ayalon Park in Ramat Bet Shemesh, out meaningful opportuPhoto Credit: Gedaliah Borvick nities to unite us. country’s population and business centers. In addition, the city boasts many synagogues offering countless Torah Gedaliah Borvick is the founder of My Israel classes, outstanding educational institu- Home (www.myisraelhome.com), a real estions, numerous retail options and med- tate agency focused on helping people from ical clinics, plus a wonderful infrastruc- abroad buy and sell homes in Israel. To sign ture of social programs and charitable up for his monthly market updates, contact organizations. Beit Shemesh and RBS him at gborvick@gmail.com.

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Room for Design Naftali Landau

Backsplash Ideas I am redoing my kitchen and am up to deciding on a backsplash. What are some different ideas I can use for my backsplash?

R.Z. Choosing a backsplash for your kitchen project is a very important and vital step in the overall look of your kitchen. The backsplash in your kitchen helps bring in the whole feel of the space and enhances the different colors you are trying to emphasize. There are many different options in backsplashes nowadays and I will go over the most popular choices available today.

The most popular backsplash option by far is a tile backsplash. Tile backsplashes come in an array of different styles and colors. You can do a traditional ceramic or porcelain tile either in a horizontal or herringbone pattern, giving your backsplash a classic feel. However, most people use glass tile when using this option as it gives a nice amount of refection which creates a nice focal point. Glass tile can be made in many different shapes including a mosaic kind of pattern or just as a plain subway tile. It also comes in many different color combinations.

There are tile backsplashes that have a more matte appearance which can be used in a more subtle space to add a feel of texture. A tile backsplash is a great option and most popular because of its relative low cost while creating a beautiful look.

Another type of backsplash which is commonly used is using the same material as the countertop. This type of backsplash is usually either granite or marble and matched to the countertop that is being used for the rest of the kitchen. This option is great when designing a kitchen with a more monotonous look and you want to keep the look uniform in the space. Using a solid background such as this also creates a cleaner, sleeker look and feel to the backsplash and can make cleanup much easier as well since there is no grout involved and it is seamed together like you would a regular countertop. This option also allows you to continue the look of your countertop onto your wall which gives a feeling of continuous space throughout your kitchen.

The next group of backsplash ideas which is gaining more popularity over the years is utilizing a different type of material such as sheets of glass, stainless

steel, or faux masonry. Using sheets of glass with some type of colored substrate underneath creates a nice, clean-looking backsplash that can be made in any color you are trying to bring more out of your kitchen. Usually seen in more contemporary kitchens, this option can really add to the sleek and non-cumbersome look of the cabinets. Stainless steel backsplashes are also a great way to bring interest into your backsplash. This type of backsplash comes in full sheets, either smooth or in a quilted pattern or can also come in small metal tiles, and adds a nice look because of the reflections of the material. The industrial looking feel of the stainless steel which paired with the right cabinetry can really make a statement. Faux masonry is one of the fastest growing trends in back-

splashes because of its general appeal of rustic look. This type of backsplash uses tiles made to look like an array of different styles and types of bricks and is laid out like a tile. The fake brick look is an amazing focal point in any kitchen and can give those traditional kitchen cabinets that old-fashioned look to bring the kitchen together.

In summary, whichever type of backsplash you choose, consider the type of look and feel you are trying to achieve and with that you should be able to find one that will best suit your needs.

Whether it is a beautiful crafted glass tile or the sleek look of stainless steel, each backsplash option will create a different ascetic look that will enhance your kitchen cabinets. Good luck.

Naftali Landau is owner and chief designer of Exclusive Cabinetry and Design and has been designing kitchens for the past 13 years.

For questions or ideas for future articles, he can be reached at 917-468-7693 or at naftalilandau@gmail.com

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From My Private Art Collection Rebbetzin Naomi N. Herzberg

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The Four C’s Needed for Children to Create a Collage

t begins with a conversation about the theme. This will start the creative juices to flow. Talk to your children or students, tell stories, or have them tell you stories about what it is they

would like to communicate through artwork. It can be created as one group

project or individual projects, with each person communicating his or her own message.

Brushes, chalk, charcoal, crayons, felt-tip pens, inks, paint, pencils, pens, tempera, and watercolors are some of the staples needed to draw with, moreover, to create.

Aluminum foil, cardboard, cellophane, construction paper, contact paper, newsprint, oak tag, tissue, poster board, scraps from printers, shelf paper, wallpaper samples, waxed paper, and wrapping paper are all types of papers used to combine.

Boxes of all sizes, burlap, candles, cans, canvas, egg cardboard, car-

tons, empty paper bags, felt, fur, jars, lace, leather, mail, netting, newspapers, old picture magazines, old sheets, old socks, paper towels, photos, plastic tubs, popsicle sticks, ribbons, rubber, rugs, scraps, soap, spools, stockings, string, styrofoam meat trays, telephone wire, thread, toilet paper tubes, trash cans, window shades, wire hangers, wire mesh, wood, and yarn are used to collect.

Use any combination of materials to create a collage. Attaching and combining colors, lines, and objects onto paper or any other surface is what makes up the art of collage. It can be two, three or many dimensional, created by gluing layers on to the surface. By tearing scraps of paper of various textures and applying those to the surface, a new idea will develop. To create a multilayered collage, place small pieces of cardboard between the layers. Cloth collages can be made by using material scraps cut into circles, triangles, squares, and any other geometric shape. Collages from found objects or natural objects such as seeds adds interest to a piece of artwork.

Art is a wonderful form of expression. Its unspoken language speaks volumes. Presenting a way for children to express themselves through collage work makes for an experience which cannot be beat. Children love doing this type of arts and crafts and it is a healthy form of expression. It is a form of communication, which is an additional creative expression to creative writing. By expressing feelings and displaying creative potential, the children gain an enormous amount of self-esteem.

Please note: Adults will also benefit from this creative outlet. Collage work requires a very small budget and a ton

of imagination and experimentation. All you need to do is follow the four C’s.

Creative collage work is a wonderful experience and allows one to use their imagination in a beneficial way. A magnificent masterpiece can be created on a multitude of surfaces including canvas.

Some artists enjoy the combination of using all different types of mediums on the canvas combined with paint. A key to a collage which will turn out well depends on the kind of glues and other means of securing the parts that are applied. Take time to plan and converse with children about the theme and what is their desired outcome. A collage takes time to create, requiring proper planning.

Once you have incorporated all the four C’s needed for a creative collage you are ready to begin the projects.

Rebbetzin Naomi N. Herzberg is a professional art educator, artist and designer.

Among her known artwork is a floral sculpture presented to Tipper Gore, Blair House, Washington, D.C. Presently she is the Director of Operations at Shulamith School for Girls. Please feel free to email nherzberg@ optonline.net with questions and suggestions for future columns.

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Kever Binyamin - what’s he doing here in such close proximity to Kalkilya?

El Matan hilltop in Maaleh Shomron – A mixed community with amazing views of Nachal Kana Enjoy lunch in Yeshivat Hesder Karnei Shomron where you will also meet some inspiring local people Off to Har Grizim for an overlook of Shechem and Kever Yosef and be taken on a ride through time with the rich history here Learn about the smallest ethnic group in the world, the Samaritans, and visit remnants of their temple from 2,000 years ago at the newly reopened National Park Visit a Tehina factory which has won awards for its outstanding product End the day at the Har Bracha Winery

Up the hill to the Melet Mill for flour, oil and honey. Eretz Yisrael is desolate no more. Peek in at the cutting edge One Israel Funded security center keeping our farmers and their children safe.

See where Gideon may have 'threshed his wheat in a grape press' at Ofra of the Judges.

Enjoy a delectable home-made dairy lunch at Savta Chana's (Rav Dudkevitch) in Yitzhar.

In the afternoon we will honor the holiday by planting fruit trees in Eli, planning for the future even as we partake of the bounty of the Land End the day at the Gvaot Winery in Givat Harel, where creative blending and ongoing research have brought our new old industry back to life

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Southern Jordan Valley • Down to Israel's east via the stunning back road north of Wadi Kelt towards Jericho • Visit Naama and Omer Atidya on their Einot Kedem Ranch; a little house on the 'prairie' where we can buy their olive oil and dates. This inspirational young couple also provide a haven for youth at risk • Netiv Hagdud; tour with agronomist Chaim Oren and try the restorative pure Argan Oil that he and his wife Sylvie harvest and sell all over the world • After a delicious dairy lunch at Cafe Cafe, we will drive up the Sartaba Mountain to the brand new breathtaking lookout platform of the entire area.

• South to the Dead Sea; meet the Megillot Search and Rescue Team. See their storage facility and hear of their high risk life saving work, including never before told stories from their recent volunteer stint in the Philippines after the typhoon. Then, exclusive for One Israel Fund - a live demonstration of a rescue in the Judean Desert.

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Northern Jordan Valley • Drive the little known Allon Road, behind the scenes, scenic and strategic • A visit to the Spice, Tea and Stevia Ranch at Moshav Hamra. A green oasis in the foothills of the Shomron • In the Massua area, meet the local IDF Brigade Commander and hear firsthand what his challenging work entails. Special for One Israel Fund - lunch with soldiers • At the Miller Packing House in Shadmot Mechola, see locally grown flower bulbs and herbs for export and learn how the BDS movement affects the farmers’ livelihood • An Iron Age foot shaped enclosure near Argaman - can this be a Gilgal from the time of Joshua and the Judges?

• Return to Jerusalem via Road 90

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Allan J. Rolnick CPA

“Ardente!” is Portuguese for “Hot!”

ax collectors generally don’t choose their line of work for the pay. Glassdoor.com, a gossipy website covering salaries and careers, reports the average Revenue Agent earns $73,967. Careerbliss.com tells us the average criminal investigator earns $99,000 — which makes sense considering there’s at least a chance they get

shot at while working. That’s not bad coin . . . but it’s hardly enough to party with the rich and famous.

But what’s true here in the United States may not be true in the rest of the world. Our neighbors to the south in Brazil have been transfixed lately by a sordid scandal of glitz and bling featuring — you guessed it — a gang of tax

collectors, accused of helping construction companies evade over $200 million in taxes.

Our story starts, as so many tawdry stories do, with a woman scorned. Luis Alexandre Cardoso de Magalhaes met Vanessa Alcantara at a club. (She says they met when she tried to sell him a cellphone plan.) Magalhaes worked as a

tax inspector for the city of Sao Paolo, earning $82,000 to oversee the city’s “Imposto sobre Servicos,” or service tax. He was also, it turns out, working with three other officials to help developers evade the tax. The builders delivered bags of cash with up to $30,000 every week to his office. Magalhaes would spirit the cash out of the build-

ing, and he and Alcantara would count it and divvy it up together in her living room.

And what did they do with their ill-gotten gains? Secure their retirement with a portfolio of carefully diversified mutual funds and prudently-laddered municipal bonds? (That wouldn’t make much of a story, would it?) No — they blew the loot on $500 boxes of Cuban cigars, $2,260 bottles of wine, a Porsche Cayenne, and private plane rides to resorts on Angra dos Reis, an island off the coast. The couple dropped $50,000 to decorate Alcantara’s apartment and splurged on $2,200 hotel suites.

The party came to an end, as all parties must, when Magalhaes and Alcantara separated after giving birth to a son, and Alcantara became enraged at what she saw as a meager monthly child support offer. She dimed him out to city prosecutors, and the story went straight to the tabloids. The case has even produced a brand new celebrity —Alcantara herself, who plans to run for office.

Her proposed slogan? “Being a thief is easy; I’ll be honest among the thieves.”

We understand that you want to pay less tax, too. But we know you’re not willing to risk scandal to do it. So we give you a plan to pay less, legally. And besides, everything accountants do is court-tested and IRS-approved.

Allan J Rolnick is a CPA who has been in practice for over 30 years in Queens, NY. He welcomes your comments and can be reached at 718-896-8715 or at allanj rcpa@aol.com.

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Go hot or go cold? Fly or drive? Who is in? Whose schedule works?

You got it…Winter break!

If you have kids all in one school and under a certain age—jump for joy! ‘Cause at least you can all fly together, to the same place, for the same period of time. It may not seem like a big deal to you, but in a few years you’ll just be craving the simplicity of this time.

It is a true challenge getting all of your family to coordinate dates. Once you have high school-ers, college kids, or married children it is a feat in itself to coordinate their vacation times, and that’s before you start coordinating their desired destinations.

We want our kids to grow up, move out, and move on and simultaneously to stay young, move in, and never leave. So getting them to join a vacation is always a priority.

Vacations start to look like Grand Central Station—a different kid coming and leaving every hour.

Unfortunately, vacations start to look like Grand Central Station. A different kid coming and leaving every hour. Hypothetically, it could look like this:

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us. Carrie can overlap with Loni but wants to be back for the weekend to see her friend who is leaving on Monday.

I think there are three minutes and forty two seconds we can all be together, and I think that’s at the checkin line before the first group takes off for vacation.

Well, I remember when everyone used to be stuffed into the car for those long road trips— in the days when people were actually aware of one another in the car.

No one on cell phones, iPads, or TV’s to transplant them to another stratosphere. I once read almost the whole Harry Potter book to my kids on a long drive—listen, it was that or pray for survivors. It was more work, but certainly more interactive, and they are some of my fondest memories I have or am I hallucinating?!

Planning these vacations is no easy job unless you are one of those uniquely organized people or have the same time share every year. Some challenges that plague us are finding the right place to go to, then finding the right price for flights and accommodations. There is also making sure someone will be there for our kids to be busy with. That’s always another challenging challenge. Those are the times you wonder why each kid couldn’t be packaged with a twin. Oh what a gift that would be—an instant

playmate.

Food—you heard me—food, that’s another biggie. I used to UPS my ski supplies ahead so I could drag the homemade food along on the plane with me. Now I’ve just developed a taste for eating snow. It’s bland, but abundant!

It could be Miami, where you experience no exercise and overeat with all the kosher restaurants available or Colorado, exercise all day and then starve—seriously, it’s just a joke! Who skis all day?! Who misses a meal? We may be as cool as they come, with our ski boots and snowboards but no one’s starving; after all, we are still Jewish.

So I’ve got a stash of cholent in with my hand warmers! And I’m sure everyone else has some survival meal plan as well.

My whole point is it’s not so simple. There’s lots of coordinating to be done for these trips. Unless, of course, you’re the kid, then it seems like a breeze. Your job is to just show up!

So kids, appreciate the hard work your parents put in to create a fun family vacation. And parents, try to see the bright side: at least your kids do show up to spend time together!

Bottom line: don’t think of winter break as “breaking you” and draining you, think of it as “making you” a fulfilled and a stronger, more connected family.

Rivki Rosenwald is a certified relationship counselor and a career and life coach. She can be contacted at 917-705-2004 or at rivki@rosenwalds.com.

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