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in the Lauder Camp, where Yaakov would attend winter and summer camp. There he was finally able to feel comfortable, singing Jewish songs and learning more about Yiddishkeit. Just a few weeks ago, the Lauder Foundation celebrated 25 years since its founding. Ronald S. Lauder has made it his life’s mission to breathe life back into the Jews of Poland. When he founded his organization, so many of those who were still living there didn’t even know that they were Jewish, and even those who knew about their roots were unaware of what Judaism really means. But the Lauder Foundation changed all that. I was inspired by Yaakov’s article on Ronald Lauder and his foundation. It highlights the power of one individual whose

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Letters to the Editor Dear Editor, I have often heard about the question of if Christopher Columbus was a Jew. I found the article you featured this week on the European explorer to be fascinating. Many of the facts you cited were new to me—and it left almost no doubt in my mind as to his origins. My son, who’s only seven-years-old, reads The Jewish Home, and couldn’t help relating facts about Columbus to me as he read the piece. Thanks for the wonderful reporting! Charlotte Posner Dear Editor, Roslyn D. Goldmacher, Esq. writes this week about obstacles for the small business community. New York City has been consistently making it harder for small businesses to succeed. Increasing legislation and a flagrant misunderstanding of business are hampering any efforts that small businesses are making to thrive in an ever-competitive world. I am not a small business owner, but I fear for the time when small businesses cannot afford to operate in our area. Jobs and wonderful opportunities for New York residents will be lost. Even

more so, can you imagine a time when only big businesses will be open in New York? That means every pharmacy, supermarket and clothing store will be run by big-name corporations. Where will the flavor and diverseness of New York come from when we all eat, wear and buy the same things, at the same prices, from the same big-box stores? New York politicians will be better off heading to business school before leading the residents of the Big Apple. Naftali Perl Dear Editor, I’ve noticed that many drivers stop as they near the small signs in middle of the road reminding drivers that it’s the law the stop for pedestrians when they are in the crosswalk. I’d like to point out that drivers only have to stop if there are people waiting to cross the street. There is no need to stop at those signs every time you near them. All the best, Gary Klein Dear Editor, Take a brief trip down memory lane to understand why the Metropolitan Transportation Authority has had to

implement previous and proposed new fare hikes in 2015. Additional funds are needed to support the proposed new Metropolitan Transportation Authority 2015 - 2019 Five Year $32B Capital Plan which is short $15.2B. The problem is finding the money to make things happen. For decades, under numerous past MTA Five Year Capital Plans, both the city and state collectively cut billions of their own respective financial contributions. They repeatedly had the MTA refinance or borrow funds to acquire scarce capital funding formerly made up by hard cash from both City Hall and Albany. For those public officials who oppose any fare increases and are quick to demagogue on this issue (for political purposes to win upcoming primary or general elections), just how would you assist the MTA in balancing current financial shortfalls? Which capital improvement projects would you propose the MTA cancel to help balance the budget and avoid fare increases? Which route(s) would you support service reductions to save operating dollars? Would you volunteer to reduce service, cancel or delay any capital projects benefiting constituents in your district? How many public officials have a MetroCard and ride the system like

millions of constituents do on a daily basis? MTA services continue to be one of the best bargains in town. Since the 1950s, the average cost of riding either the bus, subway or commuter rail has gone up at a lower rate than either the consumer price index or inflation. The MetroCard introduced in 1996 affords a free transfer between bus and subway. Prior to this, riders had to pay two full fares. Purchasing either a weekly or monthly pass further reduces the cost per ride. Many employers offer transit checks, which pay even more of your costs. Fare hikes are probably justified if the MTA is to provide the services millions of New Yorkers on a daily basis count on. They are inevitable due to inflation along with increasing costs of labor, power, fuel, supplies, materials, routine safety, state of good repair, replacement of worn out rolling stock, upgrades to stations, yards and shops along with system expansion projects necessary to run any transit system. In the end, quality and frequency of service is dependent upon secure revenue streams. We all will have to contribute—be it at the fare box or tax revenues generated by different levels of government redistributed back to the MTA. Sincerely, Larry Penner

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Breedlove met Ukrainian President Petro Poroshenko and others in the pro-Western leadership to discuss ways the United States could assist Kiev’s defense in the conflict. Russia denies sending troops or equipment to the rebels but accuses Kiev of using indiscriminate force against civilians in the two eastern territories of Donetsk and Luhansk.

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Jordanian MP Bassam al-Manaseer, a man identified by MEMRI as the Chairman of Arab and International Affairs parliamentary committee, echoed Attieh’s sentiments: “If what we did in parliament is considered incitement, just because we stood by the Palestinian people, then we welcome the policy of incitement.” Attieh, who appeared more and more irate, encouraged all Arabs to hate the Jewish people, claiming “the Jews respect neither treaties nor human beings. [Jews] respect nothing… What have the Jews ever given us?” “Hating the Jews is a great honor for me and it makes me walk with my head high because they are worthy of hatred,” Attieh avowed. “They are not decent people. Any man of honor should hate the Jews.” The parliament also reprimanded Daniel Nevo, Israel’s “accursed” ambassador to the Hashemite Kingdom, for strongly denouncing the Har Nof synagogue attack. “[Parliament should debate] the statements of [Nevo], that pig, the de-

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This year, the most popular boys’ name in the United Kingdom was Muhammad—a name that jumped 27 places to claim the top spot in 2014. There has been a surge in Arabic names in the UK this year—with Omar, Ali and Ibrahim all taking spots in the top 100 for the first time. For girls’ names, the top spot was claimed by Sophia, but Maryam is now at number 35—up 59 places—and Nur is a new addition to the top 100— claiming the 29th spot. Sarah Redshaw, managing editor for BabyCentre, pointed out, “With the increase of Arabic names, the top 100 shows the ever-increasing diversity of the UK today.” George no longer is at the top ten, falling to number 13. Other royal names—such as Harry and William— were not as popular this year. Parents seemed more enchanted with celebrity names than with names of the royal family. Following Sophia as the most popular girls’ name in the UK in 2014, Emily, Lily, Olivia and Amelia came in at the top five. Isla, Isabella, Ava, Sophie and Chloe rounded out the top ten. In terms of boys, following Muhammad, the top names in 2014 were Oliver, Jack, Noah, Jacob, Charlie, Harry, Joshua, James and Ethan. A January 2014 census revealed that nearly one in every ten babies born in England and Wales is Muslim.

scendants of apes and pigs, who tried to drive a wedge between the parliament and the king,” Attieh proclaimed, calling for the dismissal of the Israeli ambassador from Amman. King Abdullah II officially leads the Jordanian people; he had previously issued a statement criticizing the attack and advocating for all violence against civilians in Jerusalem to be denounced. Israel normalized relations with Jordan after Prime Minister Yitzhak Rabin and Jordanian King Hussein signed an American-sponsored peace treaty in 1994. Although the two countries engage in large scale trade and cooperate together on security issues, public figures regularly disparage the Jewish state and voice anti-Semitic rhetoric on Jordanian media.

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Switched at Birth… and Staying That Way This story is straight out of a work of fiction. Two South African toddlers were born in the same hospital on the same day in 2010. They were accidentally swapped before being sent home to their families and now a court-appointed expert has decided that the children

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ISIS Cuts Phone Lines in Mosul

Residents of Mosul had all of their mobile phone networks blocked by ISIS militants this week. The terrorist organization made the move after accusing informants in the Iraqi city of tipping off coalition forces to their whereabouts. Mosul is the largest city controlled by ISIS. Residents described a scene of “chaos” and “paralysis” in the city, a day after the militants announced their decision on their radio network. Businesses were at a standstill as residents tried to understand what was happening, they said. Some were still able to access the Internet, which operates under a different network. The militants seized the city in June during their lightning advance across northern Iraq after the Iraqi military virtually crumbled when confronted by the terrorist group. The U.S. began launching airstrikes on August 8 and has conducted at least 22 strikes around the city of Mosul alone. The city has come to represent the expanding power and influence of the extremist group, which was born in Iraq but spread to Syria, where it grew exponentially in the chaos of the country’s civil war. Abu Bakr al-Baghdadi, the group’s reclusive leader, made his first video appearance in Mosul in July to announce his vision for a self-styled ca-

liphate, a form of an Islamic state. The cutting off of phone lines is a notable change from what has been the group’s core strategy so far — focusing on providing services and establishing administration in areas it controls to win the support of locals. In parts of Syria under its rule, the group now administers courts, fixes roads and even polices traffic. It recently imposed a curriculum in schools in its Syrian stronghold, Raqqa, scrapping subjects such as philosophy and chemistry, and “fine-tuning” the sciences to fit with its ideology.

N. Korea Princess Taking on More Prominent Role North Korean dictator Kim Jong Un has a less famous younger sister named Kim Yo Jong. This week, state media announced that the younger Kim, 27, had taken a senior position in the ruling Workers’ Party, confirming speculation she had moved closer to the center of power in the secretive state. It named her as a vice director alongside the head of the Propaganda and Agitation Department, which handles ideological messaging through the media, arts and culture. Kim Yo Jong’s title supports earlier reports from a North Korean defector group, which said she might have taken a high-level role when Kim Jong Un recently disappeared from public view for more than a month, prompting speculation about his grip on power. South Korea’s intelligence agency later said Kim, 31, was likely to have had surgery on his left ankle. Kim has since reappeared, walking with a limp. Kim Yo Jong’s power has been likened to that of a prime minister, an unnamed South Korean intelligence source told news outlets, even before her brother’s injury. “All roads lead to Comrade Yo Jong,” the source said. Kim Yo Jong has been featured in state propaganda since her brother took over the nuclear-capable country upon the death of their father, Kim Jong Il, in late 2011. In 2012, as state TV showed Kim Jong Un arriving at the opening of an amusement park in Pyongyang, Kim Yo Jong ran from one position to another between ranks of applauding party cadres and generals as if she was orchestrating the event for the new North Korean dictator. Continued on page 14

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More Taliban Terror in Kabul On Sunday, the Kabul police chief resigned after Taliban gunmen killed three members of a South African family in the capital. The attack happened after officials said Afghan forces had ousted insurgents trying to seize the former U.S. and British base of Camp Bastion

in the south. Taliban fighters breached the perimeter of Camp Bastion just one month after the base was handed over to the Afghan army. Despite tendering his resignation, General Zahir Zahir was reinstated to his post “on the request of high-ranking officials.” “Based on the request of high-ranking officials and in order to avoid disruption of security affairs, General Zahir was asked to continue his duties,” Kabul

police spokesman Hashmat Stanakzai announced on Monday.

The latest Taliban attacks have dented confidence in the country’s security force and added to concern the police and army will struggle to hold strategic territory after most foreign troops pull out at the end of 2014. The attack on a guesthouse in Kabul, which marks the third attack on a foreign guesthouse in 10 days, was home to staff of the U.S.based charity Partnership in Academics and Development (PAD). PAD said on its website that three people were killed by insurgents who used guns and explosives. They were identified as members of the same South African family – a father and his two teenage children. The family had lived in Afghanistan for nearly 12 years, with the father running the charity and the mother working as a doctor at a Kabul clinic. The children were 17 and 14. The Taliban claimed they had attacked the foreign guesthouse because they believed it to be a Christian center. This was the second time this year the Taliban targeted a group that it said had links to Christianity. Violence across Afghanistan has surged this year as the Taliban and their allies have stepped up their activities ahead of the scheduled withdrawal of most international troops by the end of next month. Over the past 10 days, armed attackers have hit three compounds used by foreign organizations. In separate attacks in Kabul, two American soldiers, two British embassy workers and dozens of Afghan civilians have died.

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London authorities were the first to uncover the threat, which they say would involve midair bombings. “There is a credible threat that they’re concerned about,’’ another source said. “They’ve known about it for a while.” Due to the threat, it is speculated that British airport officials may require devices such as smartphones and iPads to be placed in checked luggage. Cellphones can be used as bombs or bomb triggers, and nonmetallic devices can be hidden inside them. “The threat is aimed at Europe,” the newspaper reported, adding, “The U.S. has improved their security over the summer, but we have not.’’

he had seven relatives of his wife’s family stripped of their royally-issued names. The relatives were arrested last week in a corruption probe. They are accused of misusing their royal status to amass vast wealth and carry out a number of abuses.

Thai Princess’s Family Punished for Corruption Thailand has been in the news lately for corruption at all levels of government. The latest move by the Crown Prince Vajiralongkorn to crack down on usury and bribes came this week when

The prince ordered his wife’s family to stop using the name, Akrapongpreecha, which he gave them after he married Princess Srirasmi in 2001. The king and the crown prince both have this privilege, akin to knighthoods in the UK. Interestingly, the crown prince has not revoked the princess’s royal title, “Mom,” which translates roughly as “princess,” nor her use of the royal family’s name, Mahidol na Ayutthaya. She

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Notorious Nazi Confirmed Dead in Syria

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Mubarak Not Guilty of Murder Former Egyptian president Hosni Mubarak is not guilty of murder. Recently, an Egyptian court dismissed the charges Mubarak faced over the deaths of protesters during a 2011 uprising.

During the trial, Mubarak defended his 30 years in power despite the fact that it was laced with police abuses and corruption, especially during the final decade. In reference to economic growth during his rule, he said, â&#x20AC;&#x153;The last 10 years showed more results than the 20 years before, including telephones and so on, and then they turned against us.â&#x20AC;? He was also acquitted of corruption charges related to gas exports to Isra-

el. Corruption charges against his sons, Alaa and Gamal, were also dropped. Seven of his security commanders, including the feared former interior minister Habib al-Adly, were also acquitted in connection with the deaths of the 800 people killed during the revolt. Upon the announcement, the court room erupted with cheers. Mubarakâ&#x20AC;&#x2122;s two sons and co-defendants stooped down to kiss his forehead as Mubarak, 86, lay in an upright stretcher inside the caged dock. The usually stoic Mubarak, wearing his trademark shades, had a faint smile. However, loved ones of those killed in the uprising expressed grief and dismay. Mubarak was later transported back to a Cairo military hospital where he is serving his sentence. His lawyer, Farid al-Deeb, told AFP that the verdict was â&#x20AC;&#x153;a good ruling that proved the integrity of Mubarakâ&#x20AC;&#x2122;s era.â&#x20AC;? Despite the verdict, Mubarak may not be celebrating for long. An appeals court had overturned an initial life sentence for Mubarak in 2012 on a technicality and Saturdayâ&#x20AC;&#x2122;s verdict is expected to be appealed as well.

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The death toll keeps rising in Libyaâ&#x20AC;&#x2122;s second-largest city Benghazi as Libyan pro-government forces fight with Islamist groups. In the last week, approximately 400 people have been killed. The freshly molded government army launched in mid-October to fight off Islamists in Benghazi. They began by expelling them from the airport area and from several camps the army had lost during the summer. In the past three weeks, the fighting has centered around Benghaziâ&#x20AC;&#x2122;s commercial port where pro-government forces say Islamists are holed up. The port has had to close, disrupting food supplies in the eastern city. The fighting in Benghazi is part of broader tumult in the North African country. Two governments, each with their own parliament and army chief of staff, are contending for legality three years after the ouster of Muammar Gaddafi. In August, Prime Minister Abdullah al-Thinni and his cabinet were forced to leave Tripoli for the east of Libya when a group called Libya Dawn seized the capital. The new rulers set up their own government and parliament.

Upon winning the election, the normally outgoing politician made no victory speech but simply posted a few sober lines on his Twitter account. When bombarded by the media, Sarkozy simply responded, â&#x20AC;&#x153;Of course, I am happy,â&#x20AC;? into reportersâ&#x20AC;&#x2122; microphones. The hard-charging Gaullist who once made headlines for reviving France-U.S. ties and helping depose Libyan leader Moammar Gadhafi while in office won the race for leader of Franceâ&#x20AC;&#x2122;s main conservative party â&#x20AC;&#x201D; but with a margin of victory that was smaller than many had predicted. Sarkozy scored 64.5 percent of the vote, a big decline from his 2005 UMP victory when he scored 85 percent of the vote. After that triumph, Sarkozy used that victory to springboard his bid for presidency. The UMP will select their presidential nominee in two years. Sarkozy appears likely to face at least two rivals in 2016: his own prime minister, Francois Fillon, and Alain Juppe, another former premier who was a longtime ally and protĂŠgĂŠ of President Jacques Chirac. His two competitors for nomination did not compete with him for the party leadership.

â&#x20AC;&#x153;I did nothing wrong at all,â&#x20AC;? Mubarak said in a telephone interview with the private Sada El Balad broadcaster from the military hospital where he is serving a three-year sentence for a separate corruption case.

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dent confirmation impossible. Brunner would have turned 102 years old this week. Efraim Zuroff, noted Nazi hunter, summed up Brunnerâ&#x20AC;&#x2122;s legacy in a press interview. â&#x20AC;&#x153;He was a notorious anti-Semite, sadist, fanatic Nazi,â&#x20AC;? Brunner explained. â&#x20AC;&#x153;The only known interview we have with him was to a German newsmagazine in 1985, in which he was asked if he had any regrets, and he said, â&#x20AC;&#x2DC;My only regret is I didnâ&#x20AC;&#x2122;t murder more Jews.â&#x20AC;&#x2122;â&#x20AC;? Brunnerâ&#x20AC;&#x2122;s story is not just one of a mass killer who escaped, but of a man who found a way to continue killing long after he fled Europe. While living in Syria under the pseudonym Dr. Georg Fischer, Brunner taught former Syrian dictator Hafez Assad how to torture. In the ongoing Syrian civil war, Hafez Assadâ&#x20AC;&#x2122;s son, Bashar, has carried on this legacy of terror and torture.

The Week In News Yemen: Worst Country for Women

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According to a recent report from the World Economic Forum (WEF), not one single country in the world has been completely successful in eliminating gender gaps. Even so, there has been much improvement in many countries and the inequality gap has narrowed tremendously in some regions. The WEF’s 2014 Global Gender Gap Report measured disparities between men and women in 142 countries. It considered several categories including economic participation, educational attainment, political empowerment, and

basic health outcomes. Yemen is the worst country in the world for women. It has been the lowest ranked nation in the report since 2006, when the WEF began measuring gender inequality. Countries with the most severe inequality consistently failed to give its female residents the same access to educational opportunities than they give to male residents. In many of these nations, disparities were clear as early on as primary school. For example, in Chad, just 55% of school-aged girls were enrolled in primary school, among the worst rates in the world and far worse still than the 71% for boys. Côte d’Ivoire, Pakistan, and Yemen also had large disparities in enrollment. Subsequently, in many of these nations, there is a tremendous literacy gap, one of the most critical educational outcomes. For instance, in Mali, just 25% of women were considered literate, versus 43% of men. Similarly, Chad had female and male literacy rates of 28% and 47%, respectively. Generally, in countries with extreme gender gaps, women do not hold office. In each of the 10 worst countries for women, men accounted for at least 80%

of ministerial positions. Economic participation opportunities also varied widely between men and women in the world’s worst-ranked countries. In fact, in many of these nations, men are at least three times as likely to participate in the labor force as women. Syria is the most extreme example of this, with 76% of men in the labor force versus just 14% of all women. And of the women who do work in these countries, they tend to earn far less in salary than their male counterparts. In Iran, women earned an average of less than $5,000 annually. Men with jobs, on the other hand, earned more than $26,000 per year. Similarly, in Lebanon, men earned more than $26,000 per year, versus $7,106 for women. According to the report, the worse countries in the world for women are: 1. Yemen 2. Pakistan 3. Chad 4. Syria 5. Mali 6. Iran 7. Cote d’lvoire 8. Lebanon 9. Jordan 10 Morocco

Israel Heading to New Elections

On Tuesday, Prime Minister Benjamin Netanyahu fired Justice Minister Tzipi Livni and Finance Minister Yair Lapid amid the imminent breakup of the coalition and dissolution of the Knesset ahead of new elections. “In recent weeks, ministers Lapid and Livni attacked harshly the government I head,” Netanyahu said in a statement released by the Prime Minister’s Office. “I will no longer tolerate an oppo-

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certain — to fail, either because it falls short of the needed votes or because the U.S. will veto it. But it will likely add momentum to international backing for Palestinian statehood.

When Druze police officer Zidan Saif, 30, stormed into the Kehilat Bnei Torah shul that was under attack, he did not realize that he was about to become a national hero. Saif perished in the attack while attempting to save Israeli citizens, bringing the Druze community to

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This week showcased the latest case of anti-Israel rhetoric to come from Palestinian Authority President Mahmoud Abbas. Speaking in Cairo, Abbas said that the Palestinians would never recognize Israel as a Jewish state and accused Israel of establishing an apartheid government. The Palestinian leader was speaking at an emergency session of the Arab League with foreign ministers from around the Arab world. His remarks came following a week of intense debate among Israeli politicians about a Knesset bill that would enshrine Israel’s status as a Jewish state in law. Abbas also threatened to terminate all security cooperation between Israel and the Palestinian Authority in the West Bank unless peace negotiations are revived. Talks collapsed in April, and Israel will not resume them so long as Abbas is partnered with the Hamas terror group in a Palestinian unity government. “Return to negotiations is possible if Israel agrees to a full freeze of settlement [construction], including Jerusalem, release of the fourth group of long-term prisoners, and setting a timetable for negotiations which will begin with setting borders,” Abbas said. Israel had agreed to release four groups of Palestinian prisoners as a precondition for American-mediated negotiations that began last year. After Palestinian demands that Israeli-Arab prisoners be included, Israel refused to release the fourth group of prisoners. Abbas said on Saturday that the Palestinians weren’t willing to wait any longer for progress and were determined to petition the United Nations Security Council to demand a timetable for the end to Israel’s occupation of the Palestinian territories. The Palestinian leader is expected to receive Arab League approval to lodge the UN petition in the coming days, but did not say when he would do so. The resolution is likely — but not

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the spotlight. In the aftermath of the attack and Saif’s heroic actions, Prime Minister Benjamin Netanyahu announced via his Facebook page that he will submit a plan for government approval calling for “significant investment” in Druze and Circassian communities. The bid proposes to devote more funds to education, infrastructure, and employment within Druze villages. Israel’s 130,000 Druze live on the Carmel Range and in the Galilee and Golan Heights. They serve in the IDF and recognize the Jewish state; some have integrated into the upper reaches of the military and political establishment. Netanyahu met with Druze community leaders last Wednesday to express his condolences on the recent death of Saif and of Border Police Chief Inspector Jedan Assad who was killed earlier in the month when a Palestinian terrorist drove his car into a crowd of people at a light rail station in Jerusalem. “You are our very flesh. You are an organic part of Israeli society. Your heroic policemen and soldiers have fallen in order to defend the state and all its citizens, but we will defend your rights

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sition within the government. I will not tolerate ministers who, from within the government, attack government policies and the person who leads the government,” he added. The Yesh Atid party responded to Lapid’s dismissal, saying that Netanyahu’s “haphazard move of firing the ministers is an act of cowardice and loss of control.” “Prime Minister Netanyahu has failed in his management of the country and in dealing with the needs of the Israeli public,” the party said in a statement. “We are sad to see that the prime minister has chosen to act without consideration for the national interest and to drag Israel to unnecessary elections which will harm the economy and Israeli society, all for narrow political interests and a surrender to the ultra-orthodox parties, the powerful central committee of the Likud and outside lobby groups.” It added that the remaining Yesh Atid ministers would tender their resignations. Livni and Netanyahu met earlier on Tuesday. At the end of their meeting, Livni remarked that “already yesterday at midnight it was clear that we’re going to elections.” Sources close to Livni told Army Radio that the reason she was fired was her support for a bill which would curb Israeli daily Israel Hayom’s free distribution. “Netanyahu and I came from the same political home, but each of us took it in a different direction,” said Livni, who served as an MK and minister in Likud governments before joining Kadima and then establishing Hatnua. The move came a day after Netanyahu issued a series of demands to Lapid for the continuation of the government coalition agreement, which the Yesh Atid party leader rejected. Netanyahu and Lapid met Monday evening following weeks of tension between the leaders of the Knesset’s two largest parties. The prime minister demanded Lapid cease his criticism of the government, transfer NIS 6 billion to the defense budget, release funds needed by the IDF to relocate to the south, back the prime minister’s “Jewish state” legislation, and spike his affordable housing plan, or else risk a breakup of the governing coalition. Lapid refused to concede to the prime minister’s demands. Elections would likely be held in March 2015 if, as expected, Knesset members vote in the next few days to dissolve parliament.

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The Week In News and your security,” Netanyahu told Druze leaders. “There is a deep emotional commitment here that found expression in the crowds who came to the funeral. This emotionally underscored what Israeli citizens feel and what I feel,” he said. “This is our fight against radical Islam,” he added. On Thursday, Likud MK Danny Danon said he was seeking to have an addendum added onto the controversial “Jewish state” bill calling for affirmative action for minority communities who take an active part in defending the state. The amendment would affect the country’s Druze and Circassian communities, which take part in mandatory military service. There are around 4,000 Israeli Circassians, a Caucasian Muslim people that was settled in the Galilee by the Ottomans in the late 19th century.

Tel Aviv Named Creative City Each year the United Nations Educational, Scientific, and Cultural Or-

ganization generates a list of “creative cities” around the globe. This exclusive club is reserved for cities that participate in one of seven categories: craft and folk arts, design, film, gastronomy, literature, media arts, and music.

Cities that were given the creative cities designation in media arts “are characterized by the existence of creative industries and cultural activity driven by the use of digital technology and the successful implementation of media arts for the benefit of improving urban life,” according to a statement by the Government Press Office. “This is measured by the accessibility of cultural events and products through digital technology and the existence of electronic art forms and their integration into the life of civil society and their

ability to strengthening local working studios and media arts projects.” This year, Tel Aviv joined the elite list of creative cities with the designation in the media arts category. There were 27 other new cities added to the list including York, England (media arts), Bilbao, Spain (design), Hanover, Germany (music), and Prague, Czech Republic (literature), bringing the grand total of creative cities around the world to 69. Tel Aviv had previously been designated as a UNESCO world heritage site for its more than 4,000 white Bauhaus buildings in the city. There are more than 700 early stage startups in Tel Aviv, according to the GPO, giving it the second-highest number of start-ups of any city in the world; the city has the highest number of start-ups per capita. “Tel Aviv’s entrance to UNESCO’s Creative Cities Network UNESCO reflects the world’s recognition of the city’s contribution to the present and the future — recognition of Tel Aviv as a vibrant center of cultural creation and breakthrough technology, the creative industries and the focus of the original visionary scene of digital innovation and initiatives,” Mayor Ron Huldai touted.

Terror Ring Planned to Attack Jerusalem’s Light Rail

More than 30 Hamas operatives were arrested during the month of September, the Shin Bet revealed. The majority of the terrorists were recruited while studying in Jordan and trained in either Syria or the Gaza Strip, which they entered via tunnels from Sinai. The ring was preparing to kidnap Israelis in Israel and abroad, enter Israeli villages, detonate car bombs, perpetrate roadside attacks, and execute a major terror attack in Teddy Stadium, where the Israeli soccer team Beitar Jerusalem plays its home games. Israel’s Security Agency asserted that the plan was evidence of an “indefatigable” desire on Hamas’s part to rehabilitate its terror infrastructure in the West Bank and to tug Israel into a sharp military response, which might indirectly lead to the toppling of PA President Mahmoud Abbas’s regime, which is “one of Hamas’ goals.” The man behind the terrorists’ plan was Saleh al-Arouri, a Hamas leader who was deported from the West Bank to Turkey in 2010, sources said. Arouri built up and funded the network and has effectively established a Hamas command post in Turkey, which is leading terror efforts in the West Bank. He is reportedly aided by dozens of operatives, some of whom were deported by Israel in the wake of the Gilad Shalit prisoner deal in 2011. Prime Minister Benjamin Netanyahu commended the Shin Bet and IDF for thwarting the attack, saying it was only one of multiple covert operations “against terrorists, against Hamas, which poses a threat to the existence of the nation state of the Jews and is in essence a threat to the existence of Jews in general.”

France Votes in Favor of Recognizing Palestinian State The Shin Bet has discovered a Hamas terror ring that was planning to carry out a series of major attacks on Jerusalem’s light rail line and a major soccer stadium. Law enforcement officials confirmed that Israel had arrested dozens of members of a Hamas terror network operating throughout the West Bank. The network, Palestinian officials claimed, was funded and directed by Hamas officials in Turkey who have set up a command center in the Muslim country.

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Boulder, CO: A City of Degrees

According to the National Center for Education Statistics, roughly 41% of Americans ages 18 to 24 were enrolled in a two- or four-year degree-granting institution last year. Americans are earning more degrees; back in 1967 that number was just 25.5%. As of last year, close to 30% of all American adults 25 and older had attained at least a bachelor’s degree. However, despite the promising numbers, the trends vary from state to state and city to city. Boulder, Colorado, led the nation last year with 58.5% of adults having obtained at least a bachelor’s degree, while the Lake Havasu City, Arizona, metro area had the lowest percentage of college-educated adults—at just 11.3%. Understandably, cities with the highest college attainment scores also tend to have higher median household incomes. Additionally, salaries vary dramatically according to a person’s level of education. While a typical American adult with less than a high school diploma earned slightly more than $20,000 in 2013, the average person with a bachelor’s degree earned more than $50,000. To identify the most-educated cities in America, 24/7 Wall St. reviewed U.S. metropolitan areas with the highest percentage of adults 25 and older with at least a bachelor’s degree in 2013. Educational attainment rates, median earn-

ings by level of education, household median income, population estimates, and poverty data were all examined. So which cities in the U.S. have the most diplomas hanging on their walls? Boulder, Colorado, takes the cake—I mean, the degree. 58.5% of adults have at least a bachelor’s degree. The median household income is $71,604 (the 9th highest in the nation) and the poverty level is just 13.9%--the 94th lowest in the nation. Ann Arbor, Michigan, came in as the second most educated city in the States. 53.5% of adults have at least a bachelor’s degree; the median household income is $59,660. Corvallis, Oregon, came in third. Ithaca, New York, came in the fourth spot, with 50.9% of adults with bachelor’s degrees or higher. The median household income was just $48,516 and the poverty rate was 20.3%. 50.4% of adults in Lawrence, Kansas, have bachelor’s degrees or higher, making it number five on the list. Iowa City, Iowa; Ames, Iowa; the San Jose-Sunnyvale-Santa Clara, California, area; the Bridgeport-Stamford-Norwalk, Connecticut, area; and Durham-Chapel Hill, North Carolina, rounded out the top ten.

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Americans may be slow to commit to eating healthy and exercising but there is one category where we are living a healthier lifestyle: cigarette smoking has hit an all-time low in the United States. A new report finds that the percentage of U.S. adults who smoked cigarettes in 2013 was 17.8%, a decline since 2005 when it was at 20.9%, according to the report from the U.S. Centers for Disease Control and Prevention (CDC). This is the lowest figure since 1965 when researchers began tracking this data. Despite the increasing population in the U.S., the number of cigarette smokers was 42.1 million in 2013, a significant drop from 45.1 million in 2005. “There is encouraging news in this study, but we still have much more work to do to help people quit,” Dr. Tim McAfee, director of the CDC’s Office on

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CDC: Circumcision Benefits Outweigh the Risks Despite numerous medical issues, the court’s oldest justice has not missed any time on the job since President Bill Clinton appointed her in 1993. She underwent operations for colorectal cancer in 1999 and for pancreatic cancer in 2009, was hospitalized after a bad reaction to medicine in 2009, and suffered broken ribs in a fall two years ago. The Obama administration and the Democrat party is anxious for Ginsberg to retire so that Obama can appoint someone younger but with similar, liberal views before he leaves office. But the clock is quickly ticking; come January, the Senate will be controlled by Republicans making an appointment of a like-minded jurist more difficult. Clearly the Democratic Party’s ultimate fear is that a Republican will win the presidential election in 2016 and the appointment will likely go to a more conservative justice and potentially flip the outcome in important 5-4 decisions in death penalty and equal rights cases in which the liberal side generally has been prevailing. Chief justices have a history of being resolute despite health problems and old age. Chief Justice William Rehnquist remained in his position even as he suffered through thyroid cancer. He died in September 2005, allowing President George W. Bush to nominate another conservative, John Roberts, the current chief justice. The Roberts’ court has five justices appointed by Republican presidents and four appointed by Democrats. Ginsburg has continually rejected suggestions that it’s time for her to resign. She remains one of the court’s fastest writers, and she has continued to make frequent public appearances around the country. “Who do you think could be nom-

On Tuesday, U.S. health officials released a draft of long-awaited federal guidelines on circumcision, saying medical evidence supports having the procedure done and health insurers should pay for it. Although, the Centers for Disease Control and Prevention guidelines do not tell parents to have their boys circumcised, “the scientific evidence is clear that the benefits outweigh the

risks,” said the CDC’s Dr. Jonathan Mermin. According to the CDC, being circumcised can prevent some diseases and cancers.

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Much to the Obama administration’s veiled dismay, Supreme Court Justice

inated now that would get through the Senate that you would rather see on the court than me?” she asked in an Associated Press interview in July. In an October interview in the New Yorker magazine, Obama said Ginsburg was “doing a wonderful job.” “She is one of my favorite people,” the president related at the time. “Life tenure means she gets to decide, not anybody else, when she chooses to go.”

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Ruth Bader Ginsburg was back on the bench on Monday after some medical drama. Ginsburg, 81, had a heart stent implanted on Wednesday after a blockage was found in her right coronary artery, said court spokeswoman Kathy Arberg. The liberal jurist was rushed to the hospital in an ambulance at around 10 p.m. on Tuesday evening after experiencing “discomfort” during a routine exercise at the court with her personal trainer.

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Smoking and Health, said. Researchers were able to track where the most and least smoking is happening. In people who live below the poverty level, smoking remained particularly high. The report found that smoking was also high amongst less educated individuals and those who suffer from a disability or limitation. The smoking rate is also high among Americans of multiple races, American Indians and Alaska Natives, compared with people of other ethnicities. Among U.S. regions, people in the Midwest had the highest smoking rate—of 20.5 percent. The smoking rate was 19.2 percent among people in the South, and 16.9 among people in the Northeast. People who live in the West had the lowest smoking rate—13.6 percent. Each year over 480,000 Americans die due to diseases caused by smoking cigarettes. Research has proven that smoking leads to cancer, and it is also a factor in heart and metabolic diseases, which account for 40 percent of tobacco-related deaths. “We can bring down cigarette smoking rates much further, much faster, if strategies proven to work are put in place,” Dr. McAfee pointed out. These strategies include funding tobacco control programs, increasing prices of tobacco products, implementing smoke-free laws, and producing hard-hitting media campaigns. The report also analyzed the habits of smokers. The average smoker is cutting down the average number of cigarettes he or she smokes. About 76.9 percent of smokers confessed to smoking every day in 2013, decreasing from 80.8 percent in 2005. People who smoked daily reported smoking on average 14.2 cigarettes per day in 2013, compared with 16.7 cigarettes in 2005. It’s important to break the habit now—even if a person has years of smoking behind them. “Smokers who quit before they’re 40 years old can get back almost all of the 10 years of life expectancy smoking takes away,” Brian King, a senior scientific adviser with the CDC’s Office on Smoking and Health, said.

“The benefits of male circumcision have become more and more clear over the last 10 years,” said Dr. Aaron Tobian, a Johns Hopkins University researcher involved in one of the African studies. The guidelines were published in the federal register this week. For the next 45 days, the CDC will receive public comment before finalizing them next year. The guidelines are likely to draw intense opposition from anti-circumcision advocacy groups.

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The Week In News Stores are Saying Ca-Ching! With Black Friday Shopping ‘Tis the season for shopping and sales! According to experts, this year’s Black Friday was considerably calmer as compared to other years at malls across America. Experts believe that consumers are opting to shopping on the night of Thanksgiving and online rather than making a mad dash for stores early Friday morning. In addition, many retailers now extend holiday deals and specials rather than limiting them to just Friday in an attempt to keep consumers coming over the entire weekend. The natural result is less of a frenzy on Black Friday. According to ShopperTrak, since 2005, Black Friday has ranked the busiest shopping day in the U.S. However, due to these new trends, the research firm predicts that “Super Saturday,” December 20, will be the most active day for shopping in 2014. Don’t be fooled—less of a crowd does not mean no crowd, as more than 15,000 people lined up early Friday morning for the doors of Macy’s Herald Square to open. Shares of Macy’s, Wal-Mart and Target Corp closed from 2 to 3 percent higher on Friday as investors were encouraged by the long lines on Thursday night and executives made optimistic comments about demand for this holiday season. Analysts believe that the decline in gasoline prices also helped boost sales; if shoppers are savings on gas, they have more to spend on retail. “My budget is pretty tight this year and gas is a tremendous expense because I have to drive my daughter around a lot,” Kristen Akeley, 46, who works at an elementary school, said while shopping for clothes at a Target in Connecticut over weekend. “My gas expense has fallen from $150 a week to $80 a week and that is big savings at this time of the year.”

According to IBM Digital Analytics Benchmark, for Thanksgiving Day, online sales were up 14.3 percent and for Black Friday, there was about an 8 percent increase from last year. Best Buy’s website crashed for just over an hour due to heavy traffic earlier on Friday, but was back up and running by the afternoon, a company spokesman said. Target CEO Brian Cornell reported that his company had a record day of online sales on Thursday, and was seeing high demand in its stores as well. According to Cornell, Target stores sold 1,800 televisions a minute between 6 p.m. and 8 p.m. on Thursday night. This year also rang in some crowds that had no intention of shopping. Protestors flooded the parking lots of malls and stores, petitioning for higher wages at Walmart Stores Inc. In downtown Chicago, police arrested 11 people associated with workers’ rights group OUR Walmart for blocking traffic in front of a Walmart store. The protest was one of 1,600 planned across the United States by the group, which is pushing for higher wages and benefits for the retailer’s employees. “Walmart, Walmart you’re no good. Treat your workers like you should,” a throng of protestors chanted outside the store. Despite the protests, Walmart revealed that on Cyber Monday it saw the most online orders in a single day in the retailer’s history.

Survivor and Rescuer Reunite after 69 Years

Very few eyes were dry this week as a Holocaust survivor met with her rescuer at JFK International Airport for the first time in 69 years. The Jewish Foundation for the Righteous (JFR) organized the meeting between Mira Wexler and Helena Weglowski, who flew in from Poland. During the Holocaust, Weglowski, with the help of her brother, hid Wexler and her mother on a farm and in the woods, secretly bringing them groceries to give them sustenance during the war. Because of their brave and selfless acts,

Wexler and her mother survived the war and later moved to Brazil. Mira Wexler now lives in Rio de Janeiro, while Weglowski remained in Poland. The Weglowski family also hid Mira’s uncle, Joseph. “In the many years we have worked with survivors and their rescuers, I continue to be amazed by the heroism of the thousands of Christian rescuers who risked their lives to save Jews from certain death,” said JFR Executive Vice President Stanlee Stahl. “We owe a great deal of gratitude to these Righteous Gentiles, and through our work, hope to improve their lives and preserve their stories of heroism,” she added.

Ferguson Officer Resigns

Darren Wilson, the Ferguson police officer who shot Michael Brown, has resigned from the police force. His resignation comes nearly four months after the confrontation between the white officer and the black 18-year-old that ignited protests in the St. Louis suburb and across the nation and just a few days after the grand jury decision not to indict Wilson. Wilson will not be receiving any severance from the department. Wilson’s attorney, Neil Bruntrager, declined further immediate comment. Wilson had been on administrative leave since the August 9 shooting. Wilson told the St. Louis Post-Dispatch he was stepping down out of his “own free will” after the police department told him it had received threats of violence if he remained an employee. “I’m not willing to let someone else get hurt because of me,” said Wilson, who had been with the department for less than three years. Wilson spent months in hiding and made no public statements following the shooting. He broke his silence after the grand jury decision, telling reporters that he couldn’t have done anything differently in the encounter with Brown. “I know I did my job right,” he said. Brown’s shooting was the first time he fired his gun on the job, he said. Asked whether the encounter would have unfolded the same way if Brown had been

white, Wilson said yes. Some witnesses have said Brown had his hands up when Wilson shot him. Wilson told a grand jury that reviewed the case that he feared for his life when Brown hit him and reached for his gun. Just minutes before the shooting, a robbery was reported at a convenience store. The three black youths in the surveillance video that was released included Brown, who was 6’4”, 292 pounds, and wearing a white t-shirt and a red Cardinals baseball cap. The three stole cigars and Brown grabbed the owner by the shirt collar before leaving the store and shoving him. They left the store without paying. Witnesses at the scene of the shooting initially claimed that Brown had his arms up in defense. But later, the witnesses recanted, some of them admitting that Brown charged the officer. The grand jury spent more than three months reviewing evidence before announcing that it wouldn’t indict Wilson. The announcement ignited violent protests that resulted in at least a dozen commercial buildings destroyed by fire. Several other large but peaceful protests have since been held in Ferguson and across the country. “Witness 10” was crucial to the grand jury’s decision not to indict Wilson in the murder of Brown. He said that he saw Brown confronting Wilson inside the officer’s car. After pursuing Brown, the witness says that Brown then charged at Officer Wilson. Despite Wilson shooting at Brown, Brown continued to charge at the officer. According to Missouri law, a person is allowed to use force in self-defense as long as he has a reasonable belief that he is in imminent danger of harm from other person.

More Findings in Etan Patz Case

A 35-year-old tragic missing child case is close to being solved. Pedro Hernandez, the suspect in the case, watched TV reports on the case of Etan Patz and started to wonder if he was the killer. “‘Did I [do] it?’ It was just a thought that came into my head,” Hernandez questions in the psychologist’s report,

The Week In News before his arrest and that he’d shown the mental wherewithal to hold jobs, apply for government benefits and discuss religion.

We all know that Thanksgiving time is the worst time of year for travel. A lack of new highways and an increase in cars per household has only made commuting worse. As the commuting nightmares of this time of year have come to a close, here is a list of the five most traffic-laden roads in the U.S.—keep your car pointed in the other direction! 1. Interstate 110 in Los Angeles Los Angeles has the second-worst

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gridlock of any major city in the U.S., behind only Honolulu. This highway runs north and south through California’s biggest city, and is the worst commute in the country. According to the Texas A&M Transportation Institute, I-110, also known as the Harbor Freeway, had gridlock in 2010 that resulted in 1,440 hours of delays per mile and 2,170 wasted gallons of gasoline. Seems like driving in the City of Angels requires lots of patience. 2. Interstate 80 in San Francisco San Francisco falls closely behind Los Angeles in terrible traffic. I-80 runs all the way to Teaneck, New Jersey, but traffic on one 3.6-mile segment in San Francisco resulted in 600 hours of delays per mile for drivers in 2010. It also cost drivers 1,005 gallons of wasted gas, which is a massive expense even if gas has dipped below $3 per gallon. 3. Interstate 35 in Austin, Texas Houston and Dallas are Texas’ biggest population centers, but the Lone Star state’s capital city ranked higher than both of its major metropolitan areas’ terrible traffic. I-35 runs from Texas’ Mexican border to Minnesota, and it is home to a high-profile bridge collapse in 2007

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part of a recent court filing that adds new details about his defense in a case that galvanized the missing-children’s movement. “I was, like, nervous and questioning myself ... trying to make sense.” Hernandez would soon tell police he did kill 6-year-old Patz in 1979, confessing after investigators were tipped that he’d spoken of having harmed a child. But defense psychological experts later found him unsure of whether the brutal scenario he’d described was real or imaginary. “I believed it in my mind that I did it, but I don’t think I did it,” Hernandez, 53, told one psychologist. His defense says it was fiction from a man with an IQ in the bottom 2 percent of the population and mental illness that makes it difficult for him to distinguish real life from fantasy. Prosecutors say his confession was legitimate, and they’re seeking to limit proposed expert testimony on the psychological phenomenon of false confessions. “We believe the evidence that Mr. Hernandez killed Etan Patz to be credible and persuasive and that his statements are not the product of any mental illness,” the Manhattan district attorney’s office has said.

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The Week In News that transportation advocates were sure would have spurred more congressional action to fix highways in the U.S. But seven years later, traffic on Austin’s portion of I-35 is still notoriously clogged. One 6.7 miles stretch of the highway in Austin produced 546 hours of delays per mile for drivers and cost them 1,698 gallons of wasted gas. I guess everything really is bigger in Texas. 4. Interstate 678 in New York Ahhh, the Van Wyck!! We all know it’s bad, but how many of us knew it was the worst road in the East Coast, according to Texas A&M? The 3.1-mile stretch of highway running from John F. Kennedy International Airport to the Bronx produced 690 hours of delays per mile and 1,086 wasted gallons of gasoline. Fuhgettaboutit! 5. Interstate 95 North and South of Washington, D.C. Washington, D.C. has been associated with Congressional snarls in recent years, but there has always been gridlock on its highways. Interstate 95 runs along the entire length of the East Coast, from Maine to Florida. But the portion of the heavily-traveled highway that circles around Washington on the perimeter highway that is known as the “Beltway” is always backed up with drivers who are either leaving town or passing through on their way to destinations that are further north or south. Spending too much time in D.C. can really give you a headache.

That’s Odd Twice as Smashed

On Saturday, a single-engine plane lost power and crash landed on a road that was under construction in Connecticut. The pilot, though, walked away unscathed. After all, he is an expert pilot— an expert at crashing planes, that is. This is the second time Dan Hall crashed his single-engine plane. In 2008, his Cessna lost power and crashed into Pawcatuck River in Rhode Island. “I said getting into another plane crash—it’s never going to happen,” Hall explained. “It’s like a one in a 10 million chance—and to survive is a one in a 20

million chance. I survived. I love flying; I always have.” Seems like he loves crashing, too.

A Mouse, a Movie, and a Lost Masterpiece

When Gergely Barki was watching a children’s movie with his daughter, he was doing more than just spending quality time with his child; he was searching for long-lost art. It was reported on Friday that back in 2009 when the art historian, who is a researcher at the Hungarian National Gallery in Budapest, was watching the movie “Stuart Little” with his daughter, he spotted a work of art last seen by the public in 1928. “I could not believe my eyes when I saw Bereny’s long-lost masterpiece on the wall behind [the actor],” Barki related. “Sleeping Lady with Black Vase,” an avant-garde work by Hungarian painter Robert Bereny, wound up as a prop in the 1999 children’s movie about a cute mouse. “A researcher can never take his eyes off the job, even when watching movies at home,” Barki, who is writing a biography on Bereny, told AFP. In the film, the painting hangs over the fireplace in the Little family’s New York City apartment. “It was not just on screen for one second but in several scenes of the film, so I knew I was not dreaming. It was a very happy moment,” said Barki, 43, who knew the work from a faded photo taken in 1928. “I started to write e-mails to everyone involved in the film.” Eventually, he reached a set-designer assistant who said she bought the piece for $500 at an antique shop in Pasadena, California. “She had snapped it up for next to nothing,” Barki pointed out. But despite the low price tag for the piece of art, the assistant liked it so much, she bought it from the studio for herself. “It was hanging on her bedroom wall in Washington,” Barki said. “Within a year, I had a chance to visit her and see the painting and tell her everything about

the painter. She was very surprised.” She sold the painting to Barki, who will auction it off on December 13 in Budapest with a starting price of $110,000.

A Fishy Brew

Waiter, there’s a fish in my drink— and he’s doing the backstroke. Want to drink your tea and smile as you sip? Charm Villa will soon be offering tea bags with goldfish swimming inside. No, the fish aren’t live, but as you tug on your teabag, the fish seem to be swimming in the brew. For now, the Taiwanese company has not put the fishy bags up for sale but once they do, it probably won’t come cheap. These paper fish take 16 steps to make— and that’s before you start boiling your water for your chamomile. It’s a great way to turn your teacup into a fishbowl just by adding water.

The Day of I Do

$127K in a Drawer When Phillip LeClerc bought a desk for $40 at an auction, he got more than he bargained for. When the Massachusetts man brought the desk home, he discovered an envelope sticking out from under a drawer. Inside the envelope was a stack of bonds—worth $127,000—that matured in 1992. “The first piece I saw was $500 and that was enough to shake me up,” LeClerc related. “First I said, ‘Oh, this can’t be real. This doesn’t happen,’” he said incredulously.

The Good Samaritan gave the bonds back to the auction house, which delivered them to their rightful owner. Marg-e Kelley, president of the auction company, was extremely impressed with LeClerc’s integrity. “I’ve been doing this for 10 years and every day the stories get stranger and better and [more] fabulous,” she said. “The gentleman whose family the bonds belong to, he can’t even believe it. He said, ‘I’m over the moon.’”

Tresses of Time

On Sunday, nearly 2,000 couples tied the knot in the largest collective wedding Rio de Janeiro has ever seen. The state hosted the mass marriage ceremony for low-income couples who can’t afford to get married. With relatives joining in the festivities, there were nearly 12,000 people gathered to wish the newlyweds parabens—that’s congratulations in Portuguese. Rio de Janeiro has promoted the mass wedding for eight years in a tradition called “The Day of I Do” for people with a monthly family income of less than $1,000. At the end of the ceremony, the couples receive a free marriage certificate. Wonder who pays for the shmorg.

Napoleon Bonaparte once said, “There is only one step from the sublime to the ridiculous.” Well, you may just venture into the realm of ridiculousness if you purchase the newest watch by DeWitt with the intention of wearing it for the hair that’s stuck inside. The $10,000 timepiece will have a piece of Napoleon’s hair sliced into a half millimeter thick—and only 500 will be sold initially. The founder of DeWitt, Jerome de Witt, is a fifth generation descendant of the emperor. Viviane de Witt, Jerome’s wife, recently attended a private auction of items owned by HRH Prince Louis II of Monaco. She walked away with two lots, both containing strands of Napoleon’s hair, which she purchased with the “intention of enclosing them into De Witt watches so that admirers of the emperor can carry his DNA Continued on page 38

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Getting Married on the N Train Next stop, marriage. On Friday, a couple got married on the N subway line as it crossed the Manhattan Bridge from Brooklyn to Manhattan.

Hector Irakliotis, 26, and Tatyana Sandler, 25, love the subway and couldn’t wait to start their life together onboard the city’s train system. As Hector, a game designer, boarded the train at the Kings Highway stop around 3:30pm with his groomsmen, he announced, “Everyone, hi. I have an announcement to make,” the groom told the other riders. “I am going to be getting married in 20 minutes.” He invited everyone to stay, but asked if they would move to the back of the car. The New Yorkers—ever unflappable—willingly obliged. His groomsmen then decorated the poles and seats with white ribbons. Tatyana, the radiant bride, entered the train at 36 street in her white gown, accompanied by her maid of honor. She walked down the subway aisle as the best man blasted music from his iPhone. “We’ve been through a lot. Good times, bad times, and a lot of the good times have taken place on the train,” Hector said. “In New York, you spend so much time on the train, we thought why not?” As the couple said their “I do’s,” subway riders spontaneously burst into applause. Tatyana, beaming with joy, said the unorthodox wedding venue was just another example of her new husband’s incredible thoughtfulness. “I’m originally from Ukraine, and each time we’d come back here, I’d say to Hector, ‘It doesn’t feel like home until I see the skyline as we’re crossing the bridge.’ And he remembered that. He planned it out specifically so that we’d see the skyline as we were married,” she explained. We hope the couple has “unlimited” wonderful times—and many great subway rides—together. Perhaps you’d like to chip in for a Metrocard for the newlyweds? 

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Around The Community Yeshiva of South Shore’s 5th Grade Largest Ever Haschalas Gemara Celebration The fifth grade of Yeshiva of South Shore celebrated a milestone, a special simcha they will remember fondly for years to come. The occasion was a Seudas Haschalas Gemara, celebrating their first steps in their journey of Gemara learning. The fifth grade rabbeim, Rabbi Moshe B. Scharhon, Rabbi Yehoshua Zucker, Rabbi Dovid Schulman, and Rabbi Chananya Grinberg, have the enviable role of ushering the talmidim into the world of Gemara by imparting not only the neces-

sary skills, but also the ahava, the love of Torah sh’baal peh required for success. To mark the event, the Yeshiva held a gala breakfast for the boys and their fathers and grandfathers. After divrei pesicha form the menahel, Rabbi Chanina Herzberg, three boys delivered divrei Torah: Mordechai Ostreicher, Eli Trapunsky, and Chaim Hecht. During the sumptuous breakfast, which was sponsored by Seasons, Rabbi Shlomo Drebin, the program coordinator,

welcomed the crowd of over-200 fathers, grandfathers, and great-grandfathers coming to celebrate with the seventy-two 5th graders. Before the conclusion of breakfast, the boys performed a stirring musical rendition of Abie Rotenberg’s famous song, Lulei Sorascha. The boys sang beautifully, accompanied by Rabbi Drebin. Soloists included Mordechai Breuer, Yitzi Fox, Shmuel Jacobs, Yitzchok Kapetas, Michoel Kunstler, Yosef Siegel, and Moshe Sonnenblick. Moshe’s grandfather, R’ Yossi Sonnenblick, who performed the song on the original “Journeys” album, came up to sing alongside his grandson. The song was masterfully performed and moved the audience to tears. After bentching, they all moved into the Bais Medrash for a half hour of father/son chavrusa learning. Some boys had the privilege of having their grandfather learning with them as well. V’chut ha’mshulash lo bimhayra Yenatek! The Rosh Yeshiva, Rabbi Mordechai Kamenetzky, offered divrei bracha and introduced Rabbi Shaya Cohen, shlita, the Rosh Yeshiva of Yeshiva Zichron Aryeh, who addressed the talmidim. Rabbi Cohen stressed the importance of me-

sorah, the essence of Torah sheba’al peh and how it is the key to our survival, embodied by the generational learning that took place that morning. Indeed, there were a couple of sets of four generations of children, fathers, grandfathers and great-grandfathers learning together that morning. Mr. Yumi Ostreicher, Mr. Milton Ostreicher, Mr. Menashe Boruch Ostreicher and Mordechai Ostreicher, shared in learning Gemara together in a chavrusa that not only spanned a century of mesorah but spanned continents from Munkacz to Woodmere and bridged worlds that were lost to a new generation of hope. Three sets of Shas were then raffled off and were presented by Rav Binyomin Kamenetzky, shlita, along with his son, Rabbi Mordechai Kamenetzky, to the three lucky winners: Ephraim Boczko, Eli Klein, and Yaakov Y. Nelson. In addition, to conclude the program, each boy received a personalized shtender, a meaningful gift that each boy will undoubtedly cherish for many years to come. The talmidim of the fifth grade will iy”H be matzliach in their learning as they begin to swim in the vast yam shel Torah. Mazel tov to all of them.

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Chai Lifeline Gala Proves “Together We Are Stronger”

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Over 1,100 friends and supporters are expected to crowd the ballroom of the Marriott Marquis on December 9 to laud Chai Lifeline, the international children’s health network that provides emotional and social support to more than 4,300 children and their families every year. Inspirational speaker and radio host Charlie Harary will act as Master of Ceremonies. “The Gala celebrates our 27-year track record of positively affecting the lives of sick children and their families,” avowed Rabbi Simcha Scholar, the organization’s executive vice president. “Chai Lifeline continues to expand to meet the needs of the growing number of families who ask for assistance ever year.” Rab-

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ication to health care and his patients is a natural fit with Chai Lifeline,” Rabbi Scholar stated. CHOP CEO Dr. Steven M. Altschuler Honored Dr. Steven M. Altschuler, the chief executive officer of The Children’s Hospital of Philadelphia, will receive the Maimonides Medical Achievement Award for his groundbreaking stewardship of the world’s largest pediatric medical center. “Dr. Altschuler is an innovator both in providing exceptional pediatric care and in building CHOP into the premier research center into the cause, prevention, and treatment of pediatric disease,” said Rabbi Sruli Fried, MSW, director of Chai Lifeline’s New Jersey region. We are delighted to be able to recognize the relationship between our institutions that has such positive implications for CHOP’s young patients and their families.” Vision of Hope Award to Rena Rosenberg Rena Rosenberg, a principal at McKinsey & Co. and a partner in its Pharmaceuticals and Medical Devices practice, is this year’s Vision of Hope Honoree. Ms. Rosenberg was a member of the first Team Lifeline team that ran the Miami Marathon and Half Marathon in 2006, and was active in the Chai Society (young leadership) group in the Midwest before moving to New Jersey. “There is nobody in the world who 

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can’t understand the need and work of Chai Lifeline. It has a special place in my heart,” she explained. “Chai Lifeline gives children a chance to feel the excitement of childhood again.” Pillar of Courage Award Goes to Jeff and Amy Becker Chai Lifeline parents Jeff and Amy Becker will receive the Pillar of Courage Award in recognition of their family’s years of battle against daughter Sydney’s cancer diagnosis. Sydney’s preteen years were spent in treatment instead of with friends and schoolwork. Her parents credit Chai Lifeline with enabling all of them to remain focused and optimistic during these difficult years. Nachman and Esti Calko, Moshe Reiss to Share Camp Simcha Appreciation Award Former Camp Simcha staff member Nachman Calko and his wife, Esti, and Moshe Reiss, whose involvement with Camp Simcha spans more than a decade and a half, will share the Camp Simcha Appreciation Award. This honor is given annually to staff members whose contributions in camp and during the year have made a significant difference in the lives of campers and the institution. Chai Lifeline’s 2014 Annual Gala takes place on Tuesday, December 9 at the Marriott Marquis in New York. For reservations and to place ads in the commemorative journal, visit www.chaidinner.org or call 212 699-6658.

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Around The Community Inspiration and Ruach at Melava Malka to Benefit TOVA Mentoring On Motzei Shabbos Parshas Toldos, November 22, over 75 people attended a most inspiring Melava Malka to benefit the TOVA Mentoring program, hosted by Yehuda and Rebecca Biber of Wood-

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mere. Rav Naftali Weitz, shlita, rav of the Beis Medrash Ishei Yisroel of Woodmere and the grandson of the Bobover Rebbe, conducted a chassidishe tisch that provided the ideal environment for a meaningful discussion about the many benefits TOVA provides for the children of our community. Founded in1997 by a concerned group of educators and askanim, led by Mr. Richard Altabe, Dr. Norman Blumenthal, Alan and Fran Ganz, and Mr. Neil Rosen a”h, TOVA has been providing the nonjudgmental listening ear of a mentor to youngsters in our community, helping them confront the challenges of adolescence. TOVA is not a program for at-risk youth, rather it serves to prevent the development of at-risk behaviors because it reaches children while they are still young. Dovid, a former mentee and now successful Summa Cum Laude graduate of Brooklyn College, spoke emotionally about how the mentoring he received from Yehuda Klinkowitz, now-program director of TOVA, helped him overcome the challenges of adolescence that he faced. Through Yehuda Klinkowitz’s dedicated support and guidance, Dovid

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remained committed to his own personal growth and ultimately succeeded. Currently, there are over 50 dedicated young men and women who serve as mentors to over 100 children in our community. They support, guide and listen, giving our youth the opportunity to express themselves in a safe and compassionate environment. During the Melava Malka, Richard Altabe, executive director of the TOVA program, spoke about the origin of the program and the dedication of the mentors who connect each week with our youth and who maintain that connection often through adulthood.

TOVA provides mentoring free of charge and is completely supported through the charitable donations of many dedicated people in our community. At a cost of $1,800 per child per year, TOVA has provided our community with a low cost way of keeping our youth connected while they are still in school. If you would like to get involved with TOVA as a mentor or a supporter, you can contact the TOVA office at 516295-0550 or visit our website at www. tovamentoring.org.

CHAZAQ’s Women’s Rosh Chodesh Party On Sunday night, November 23, CHAZAQ Women’s Division welcomed the new month of Kislev with a celebration in Beth Gavriel. Women from different backgrounds gathered for an evening full of inspiration and joy. The program started with a guest speaker who spoke about the eight “candles” and a shamash, corresponding to the Chanukah lights, that women can light in their own times of darkness

in order to bring more joy and G-dliness into their lives. “Your words went straight to my heart,” the speaker was told by several women afterwards. After enjoying dinner and socializing, the women were amazed by a presentation by CROWNED, a project of the CHAZAQ Women’s Division. CROWNED’s goal is to show women how beautiful hair coverings can be when exploring the art of hair wrapping.

CROWNED offers women a large variety of scarves and accessories for head wrapping and teaches them different styles of wrapping. It appeals to older and younger women, and that was apparent when the women took interest in the different looks they can wear. One woman was overheard saying, “I didn’t want to cover my hair anymore, but after seeing this tonight, I’m finally excited to do this mitzvah.”

Music for the evening was played by DJ Atara. Women danced together to a mix of Ashkenazi, Israeli, and Sephardi songs. The night ended off with a raffle of five winners, who each picked a scarf of their choice from CROWNED’s merchandise. When leaving, the women requested that inspiring events such as these should be planned more often.

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able to every member of the community. Consistently accessible by phone or in-person, and always radiating genuine concern and sensitivity, he resolves some of the most personal and difficult shailas with warmth, insight, and an outstanding command of halachah. When a shailah is particularly complex—requiring more than a phone call—the rav willingly and freely gives of his time, with no regard to shul affiliation or membership. Three years ago, Rav Forst further raised the level of halachic service by establishing a daily hotline with extend-

ta of Long Beach and a well-attended halachah shiur at Yeshiva of Far Rockaway each Shabbos. As the years passed, 566 Oak Drive became a community milepost, a place where thousands of shailos were graciously received and efficiently answered. And to ensure the tzibbur’s continued mastery of relevant halachos, Rav Forst began giving an annual shovavim series, offering hundreds of men and women the necessary tools to properly keep halachah. Ten years ago, in a desire to do more,

the Rav founded Kollel Zichron Ephraim Heschel, a unique halacha-oriented kollel where over 30 dedicated young men integrate intensive halachic study with hands-on shimush, many becoming baalei horaah who service the community. At around the same time, the Rav established a kehillah that operates with a distinct focus on families and children. The Halacha Hotline—initiated and realized by Rav Forst—has fast become a model for other communities to emulate. In just over three years, it has received over 100,000 shailos from both near and far and is now averaging more

than 3,000 calls per month. In conjunction with the hotline, Rav Forst established the Dispute Resolution Center, a local service that assists disputing parties in reaching halachically acceptable and mutually agreeable conclusions. His series of pre-Pesach shiurim—set to become an annual event—were a welcome development, providing families with clarity and direction in an often-misunderstood and overwhelming area of halachah. Through it all, the Rav’s gentle, approachable manner has put thousands of questioners at ease, transforming sometimes difficult experiences into unique opportunities for building a relationship. “For over 40 years, Rav Forst has worked tirelessly, without fanfare, to raise the level of shmiras hamitzvos for the community,” says Rav Yitzchok Knobel of the Yeshiva Gedolah of the Five Towns. Today, after four decades of selflessly serving the community, Rav Forst faces the culmination of a lifelong dream: the Nesiv HaTorah Center. A multi-faceted hub of Torah, avodah and halacha in the heart of Far Rockaway, the center is set to house under one roof three of the Rav’s far-reaching endeavors—the Halacha Hotline, kollel, and Beis HaMedrash, acting as a dynamic nerve-center for the entire region. Headquarters for the Halacha Ho-

tline, the Nesiv HaTorah Center will be a central point of halachic growth and development, streamlining the hotline’s services and uplifting the tzibbur with inclusive, engaging programming. Offering a continuous array of events and initiatives, including important shiurim and community-wide learning programs for children and teens, the unified center will allow for continued expansion and evolution of current services, benefiting residents from Bayswater to Hewlett and beyond. “The Nesiv HaTorah Center will help shape the ruchnius of our community for many years to come,” says Rav Yaakov Bender, Rosh HaYeshiva of Yeshiva Darchei Torah. “We are very excited about this monumental project.” It would be difficult to find a Five Towns or Far Rockaway resident who hasn’t been helped by Rav Forst, through his seforim and shiurim, warmth and concern, taharas hamishpacha expertise, or unmatched availability. For over forty years, the Rav has devoted his entire being to the community while assiduously avoiding public recognition. Described by rabbanim as an ish tamim and ish emes, Rav Forst has for years remained out of the limelight, focusing only on halachah and continual giving to the klal. Now, as the Nesiv HaTorah Center stands to become a remarkable reality, Five Towns and Far Rockaway residents finally have a chance to give back—and invest in a center that will enhance their lives. On Sunday, December 28, all are invited to attend a dinner at the Lawrence Country Club and express their gratitude to a remarkable rav who has changed the face of an entire community. Together with numerous attending roshei yeshiva and gedolim—including Rav Shmuel Kamenetzky shlita, whose presence and speech will uplift the gathering—community members will come together to show support for a rav who has always been there. In participating in the Landmark Campaign and providing the means to realize Rav Forst’s dream, residents will enable a dual legacy of halachic excellence and community vision to continue—and flourish like never before.

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ed and emergency hours to address the community’s overwhelming needs. “In his modest way, Rav Forst has impacted every corner of our community,” says Rav Moshe Weinberger of Congregation Aish Kodesh in Woodmere. An alumnus of Mesivta Torah Vodaath and Beis Medrash Elyon in Monsey, Rav Forst studied under Rav Yaakov Kaminetsky, Rav Gedaliah Schorr, Rav Avraham Pam and Rav Elya Chazan. After several years in the kollel of Beis Medrash Elyon, under the tutelage of Rav Simcha Schustal, Rav Forst and his family moved to Far Rockaway, where he took over Rav Shlomo Freifeld’s daily blatt shiur in 1968 and subsequently served as a maggid shiur in Sh’or Yoshuv for 12 years. While working intensively on various seforim, Rav Forst taught in TAG for over 25 years, granting generations of young women a halachic foundation for life—and a trusted address for future shailos. The Rav also gave an afternoon shiur to the 12th grade at the Mesiv-

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“What bracha do I make on Pringles?” “Do I need to wash on a hot pretzel?” “How do I kasher my kitchen for Pesach?” Across the United States and in every English-speaking country, the first place people have turned for answers to questions like these is the halachic series authored by Rav Binyomin Forst shlita . An internationally renowned talmid chacham and community posek, Rav Forst has devoted the last 45 years of his life to disseminating Torah and facilitating a high level of halachic observance. His six authoritative seforim—which have remained national bestsellers for over two decades—are staples of every Jewish library and bookshelf, studied by thousands of Jews from all walks of life. But one population has been the unique beneficiary of Rav Forst’s halachic prowess: the residents of Far Rockaway and the Five Towns. For over four decades now, Rav Forst has made himself exceptionally avail-

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Around The Community The Miracle of Madison Madison, Wisconsin, is not the first place you’d expect to find 40 frum people spending an uplifting Shabbos together. But that is exactly what happened two weeks ago during an unseasonably warm weekend in November. What brought 40 East Coasters to the capital of Wisconsin for three days? Why would they leave their cozy homes

in Brooklyn and Five Towns to brave the November cold of the Midwest? It was a special event to mark the Chanukas HaBayis of the JEM building in Madison. JEM, or Jewish Experience of Madison, is a college kiruv organization that has been in the city for the past nine years. During those years, hundreds of students have joined JEM’s learning programs throughout the year, cramming into living rooms, dining rooms, and anywhere they could find room to enjoy the inspiration they found at JEM. Aside from being the capital of Wisconsin, Madison is also home of the famed University of Wisconsin… known not just for its high-level academics, but also for its successful football team (the pride and joy of every student) and the seemingly non-stop partying that takes place on campus. In this setting, University of Wisconsin would seem to be the least likely place to find a thriving kiruv organization. However, due to the very same confluence of factors, thousands of students flock to the university from the east and west coasts. Among those thousands are a

very large percentage of Jewish students – as many as 4,000 during any given semester. It was this massive population of smart, educated, and highly impressionable young Jews that spurred Rabbi Yerachmiel Anton and Rabbi Avi Zaitschek to establish JEM. Their goal was to create a warm and welcoming center for young men and women to explore Yiddishkeit at their own pace, without pressure or guilt, and expose them to the Torah-true experience of Shabbos and yom tov. Despite its humble beginnings, JEM’s campus staff always attracted large crowds who were drawn to the sincerity and honesty of Torah Jews. They came to talk, learn, eat, or just to enjoy the caring company. For many students, it was their first time alone in the big world. JEM became their anchor; a place where they felt like family. A few years ago, it became very clear that the size of their facility severely limited the scope and reach that these kiruv pioneers were hoping to achieve. So, they began searching for a large building that was capable of holding all of the organization’s activities under one roof. This was not a simple task. First, they would need substantial support from outside donors, since there is no local community to turn to for support. Second, they would need to find a building that was not just large enough for their growing programs, but also in the right location to attract students on campus. With much siyata dishmaya, they found an old fraternity house that was on the market. It was not just spacious

but also perfectly located in the center of campus life. They purchased the property two years ago. Though the project is far from complete, the building has already become a hub of activity throughout the year. Approximately 80 students learn one-on-one during the week and many more stop by for a quick chat or a heart-to-heart with a caring staff member. A typical Shabbos meal attracts about

30 students, some who are taking their first uncertain steps in Judaism and others who have been part of the JEM family for a few years and already keeping Shabbos and kashrus for the first time in their lives. The common bond that unites them all is a serious drive to learn more about their roots and connect to real Torah learning. For the 40 people from New York and New Jersey who spent Shabbos Parshas Toldos in Madison, it was an experience they will not forget. Many of them came to Madison not knowing what to expect, but left energized and charged by the amazing ruach that JEM exudes. They enthusiastically thanked Rabbi Zaitschek for his tenacity in organizing the event. They were introduced to sincere young Jews, all of whom are growing in their Yiddishkeit at their own pace. For each one, JEM is a lifeline, guiding, teaching, and encouraging every step of the way. The Shabbos festivities included beautifully inspiring davening by the famous Eitan Katz, delicious catered seudos and almost non-stop zemiros and singing. It was an amazingly uplifting weekend for both the students and the visitors. It was an amazing sight to behold on Friday night as the dining room was filled

to capacity with students, families and staff, all enjoying the kedusha of seudas Shabbos. One couldn’t help but marvel at the instant camaraderie felt between the students and visiting families. Young students sat side by side with the visiting men and women, and discovered they had much in common and even more to discuss. At the same time, the visitors were astounded to witness the thirst these young students have for a more meaningful way of life. The weekend culminated with a Chanukas HaBayis celebration on Sunday morning with a packed-house of friends and supporters who came to share in the simcha. The program included speeches from students, JEM staff, and visiting guests, all echoing the same theme of growth and inspiration that JEM stands for. Special guest speakers included Rav Bentzion Twerski of Milwaukee who spoke of the Kiddush Hashem taking place at JEM and noted askan, R’ Chaskel Bennett of Flatbush, who brought his family to experience Shabbos in Madison. His message to the gathering was simple yet powerful – JEM is on the frontlines in ensuring the future of the Jewish people. We all have the opportunity to partner with JEM in making sure the students, future leaders, get the opportunity to experience the beauty of torah Judaism. Bruce Leon, a special guest speaker from Chicago, enraptured the audience with his humor and sharp insight. Mr. Leon actually attended University of Wisconsin for college before becoming a baal teshuva and setting up a successful business in Chicago. Sporting his University of Wisconsin baseball cap, he pointed out the transformation that had taken place on campus and challenged the current students to stand up for Yiddishkeit, “Be a player, not a spectator. When I attended University of Wisconsin, there was no organization like JEM to help me make the right decisions that you all have the opportunity to make today.” Indeed, JEM is truly the miracle of Madison.

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Around The Community Five Towns Marriage Initiative Fighting Yishmael There are four main exiles that the Jewish nation has had to endure, and then there is one extra one that is different from all the others, the galus Yishmael. This is the current exile, where the descendants of Yishmael, the Arab nations, try to destroy and annihilate us.

Unlike the other exiles, Yishmael is not an organized kingdom, but it’s each man on his own carrying out acts of hatred. Rav Yitzchak Berkowitz explained that the name Yishmael comes from the two words: Yishma Kel, Hashem will hear. He said that the exile of Yishmael will

cause the Jewish people to be heard by Hashem. The descendants of Yishmael will cause us to cry out to Hashem and Hashem will hear our prayers, entreaties and tears. Rabbi Berkowitz explained that Yishmael is not a nation that you can

fight against with ordinary means. As stated previously, they are not an organized kingdom and therefore the general rules of the world when trying to achieve peace don’t work with Yishmael. When Israel went to war with Gaza, the outcome left Gaza decimated, but that did not cause them to concede defeat. If anything, they simply regrouped stronger than ever. Handing over land and other kinds of overtures of peace also have not appeared to have accomplished much. The only way to effectively overcome Yishmael is with three tools: emunah, bitachon and tefillah. Hashem is the One orchestrating all the events in the world and it behooves us to accept that fact and recognize that everything—both good and bad—emanates from Him. A world where zealous, angry and bloodthirsty descendants of Yishmael are in control is a terrifying place to be, but a world where Hashem is pulling the strings is a place where a person can feel safe and secure knowing that he will live out his intended days so long as he does Hashem’s will. This then is the tool of emunah and bitachon, knowing that Hashem is the One orchestrating events and trusting that Hashem loves us and will take care of us. The last tool is the tool of tefilla. The power of prayer can’t be underestimated. Through prayer we can actually change world events and we can enable painful decrees to be rescinded. We need to use the tool of prayer to our advantage, to pray to Hashem to protect our spouse and family members wherever they are, because it’s not only those in Israel that are in danger. Terror can strike anywhere and we know that nobody is safe without Hashem’s protection. Through the fulfillment of Yishma Kel, which has been actualized countless times already, may Hashem’s cup of tears finally be full so that we can merit the final redemption, to be free of terror, and to live in a world of peace and harmony where the whole world will know that Hashem is One and His name is One.

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Around The Community Yeshiva Invitational Mock Trial Tournament Hosted by MAY Over the past two Sundays, Mesivta Ateres Yaakov, DRS High School and Rambam Mesivta participated in the first ever Yeshiva Invitational Mock Trial Tournament. The tournament, hosted by MAY, was based on last year’s New York State High School Tournament case. In the end, MAY edged Rambam for first place. The case concerned criminal charges against a hydraulic fracturing (“fracking”) company and its CEO alleging it contaminated the drinking water supply by recklessly using unauthorized fluids. For purposes of the competition, the result of case itself is of no consequence. Rather, teams on judged on a variety of factors such as their trial practice acumen in executing opening statements, direct and cross examinations, closing arguments, and making and responding to evidentiary objections. Teams are also scored on witness preparation and credibility. The idea behind holding a fall competition in advance of the statewide tournament, which begins the first week of February, was to begin building the skillset necessary to meaningfully compete in that event. On the importance of having such a foundation, MAY’s mock trial team captain Dani Feit said, “As a returning member of last year’s team, I know how important it is to have practical experience. The Yeshiva Invitational provided an opportunity for students new to mock trial to acquire that experience.” MAY senior Daniel Guttman agreed, “It puts you in a position that forces you to

think on your feet, which really cannot be obtained in any other way.” Tournament director, David Kirschner, who also serves as attorney-adviser for MAY, was excited about having the tournament, a sentiment he said was expressed by all who participated, students and coaches alike. But exposing students ahead of the statewide tournament was not the only objective. While most of the Jewish parochial schools participate in it, many yeshivos throughout the area do not. As Mr. Kirschner put it, “The skillset of sharp analytical ability, clear and precise communication, and a poised presence is indispensable regardless of whether students become lawyers, doctors, business entrepreneurs or rebbeim.” Kirschner explained how a yeshiva tournament is the perfect opportunity for yeshiva students not competing in the statewide tournament to acquire those skills. In fact, planning for recruitment in next year’s tournament is already underway. MAY expresses its thanks to the volunteer judges for the tournament: Brendan Ahern, Associate at Barket, Marion, Epstein & Kearon, LLP; Steven Epstein, Partner at Barket, Marion, Epstein & Kearon, LLP; Michael Berardino, Partner at Mangialardi & Berardino; and Daniel Maurer, Deputy Commissioner, NYPD Judge Advocate’s Office. Congratulations to both MAY, Rambam, and DRS on their strong performances, and hatzlacha to all the teams participating in the 2015 statewide tournament.

Rosh Chodesh Kislev at Yeshiva Tiferes Moshe Rosh Chodesh Kislev started with a great big boom! The boys from Grades 1-3 gathered into the dining room and began the chodesh melody with extra cheers when the song reached Kislev. Then Rabbi Bookson told them a mesmerizing story that really hit home. Name calling hurts! Hurtful comments are more damaging at times than even physical contact. You could see from the expression on the boys’ faces that they knew exactly how this all too often

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MAY Father-Son Breakfast Last Thursday, Ateres Yaakov held their annual Thanksgiving Father-Son Breakfast. Once again, fathers joined their sons at the Yeshiva for a morning of growth in ruchniyus and gashmiyus. The morning began with a warm, yeshiva Shacharis followed by a lavish, catered breakfast. To begin the program, Rabbi Mordechai Yaffe, menahel, addressed the over-400 fathers and sons in attendance. Ohad Lobel, a talmid in the Yeshiva Gedolah, spoke about the importance of reinforcing the achdus of Klal Yisroel, particularly in these trying times. Senior Avi Terebelo, representing the Mesivta student body, delivered

divrei Torah. He addressed the sugya of hashgacha pratis and the necessity of seeing the yad Hashem in our lives, even when things may seem otherwise. The event also highlighted the Mesivta’s annual Fall Essay Contest winners, with excerpts being read from the four 1st place essays. Awards and prize money were distributed by Rabbi Sam Rudansky, General Studies Principal, and Rabbi Yossi Bennett, Assistant Menahel/Assistant Principal. The highlight of the breakfast was a return visit from Rabbi Zecharia Wallerstein who astounded the audience with an incredible shiur on “The

Rabbi Zechariah Wallerstein inspiring the attendees with divrei Torah and chizuk

Fathers and sons davening together

Power of One.” Rabbi Wallerstein kept the audience enthralled as he blended

Torah thoughts, entertaining anecdotes, and his common sense advice into a masterful presentation. One alumni parent whose son had graduated last year was back again, noting, “I enjoyed it so much the past couple of years, I wanted to come again.” Of course, he was welcomed with open arms. The program concluded with the Student Government raffle of various prizes, including an X-box, an iPad, Nets tickets, seforim, multiple gift cards and some very happy winners.

Ohad Lobel, talmid of the Ateres Yaakov’s Yeshiva Gedolah, delivering a dvar Torah

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Around The Community Great Play Offers Great Fun for our Community’s Children Interactive children’s gym, Great Play, which was described by USA Today as “a uniquely engaging experience

for children of all ages,” had their grand opening in Woodmere on November 30. Their ribbon cutting ceremony was an incredible success. Many important people gathered together with their children on Sunday – including community leaders such as Mayor of Cedarhurst Andrew J. Parise; County Supervisor Kate Murray; Councilman Anthony Santino; David Friedman, president of Woodmere Business Association; and Bob Block, president of Chest Community Club, Hewlett Education Association. Owners David and Janet Shapiro are very excited to be joining the community and look forward to becoming an integral part of the community. They stated that they already feel like a family and are excited to meet all the wonderful children of the Five Towns community.

Great Play will be kicking off their opening with free introductory classes December 3-7. The award-winning franchise helps children get off to a great start with award-winning programs that make it fun for them to develop essential motor skills, sports skills, fitness and coordination. What feels like “play” to the kids helps them develop a broad range of skills critical to reaching their full physical potential. Great Play also holds award-winning, high-energy birthday parties on Fridays, Saturdays, and Sundays. Every party is custom-designed and programmed into the Interactive Arena software to make the birthday

The Navi shiur of Far Rockaway and the Five Towns began its 19th year last week. Rabbi Shaya Cohen presented the first perek of Michah.

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The Flatbush Basketball League Week #3 Recap

In the China Glatt Division: As the two 2-0 and 0-2 teams faced off, the tension was palpable… Oh Baby and Pizza Heaven, both with 2-0 records, battled it out. The game was close for about a quarter, however, Shimon Greenwald and Yitzy Waxman combined for 28 and 26 respectively. Mordy Lebovits (8) and Mordechai Minkoff (7) were unable to stop the quickness and agility of Pizza Heaven, as they now fall to second place at 2-1. In the matchup between the two 0-2 teams, Batampte Pickles and Supreme RX Pharmacy, it was close throughout the entire matchup. Ezra Bayda was unstoppable for Supreme as he knocked in 23 season high points. Elimelech Friedman and Shayala child the star of the show! Lichtfield’s combined 13 were a little too late to secure the win. They now Great Play of Woodmere is located fall to 0-3; is help on the way? at 1012 Railroad Avenue right next door to Keyfood. For more information about In the Jewish Home Division: the Open House or to register your Again, the two 2-0 and 0-2 teams child for classes, call 516-341-0050 or faced off, here is their recap…. visit www.greatplay.com/woodmere. In the game of the night between Pizza Nosh and Holy Schnitzel, the game was back and forth up until the final seconds. The two teams went point for point throughout the game, as it was quite a low-scoring game, more of a defensive battle. In the end, it was Pizza Nosh who had a 3 point edge over the Schnitzel guys, 23-20. It was a game in which almost all players on both teams were on the scoring sheet. Holy Schnitzel falls to the second seed, 2-1. In the other game, ITP (0-2) dominated Quality Carpet (0-2) by doubling them up in this one. Avrumi Gutman and Yossi Fried led the way with 14 each. Moshe Frank tried to stop ITP, however his 12 points and continuous

tries to defend ITP went unanswered. ITP grabs the third seed with a 1-2 record, while Quality falls to 0-3. In the Jewish Connection Division: The cream rises to the top as Plaza Auto Leasing drives past Rami’s Pizza 67-37. Avrohom Fuchs had 25 and The Rabbis son had 20. Yossie Friedman led Rami’s with 22 but that’s all he wrote in this matchup. No Pizza for you. PAL leads the division at 3-0 and looking ahead to next week’s matchup: a Nostrand Avenue neighbor—The Visual Image. Pizza World led The Visual Image 24-18 at halftime but could they hold the lead? After blowing a 12 point lead last week, Daniel Bressler (25) and Co. learned their lesson and held off The Visual Image 48-38 to go to 2-1 in this early season game. Zevy Tepper led TVI with 17 points. What lesson did TVI learn in this one? “You gotta wear the shirts.” Image is still looking for their first win this season. Neil put your sneakers on—you might be coming in.

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Around The Community Over 1,000 Friends Inspired at OHEL’s 45th Annual Gala More than 1,000 OHEL friends, supporters and family members packed the grand ballroom of New York’s Marriott Marquis Hotel in Times Square to celebrate and honor OHEL’s past and see a glimpse of its future. On Sunday, November 23, Co-Presidents of OHEL Children’s Home and Family Services Moishe Hellman & Mel Zachter presided over an evening whose theme “Looking Back, Moving Forward” inspired many through a multitude of story-telling videos and live speeches. Special guest speakers included New York State Assembly Speaker Sheldon Silver, New York City Mayor Bill de Blasio, New York State Senator Charles E. Schumer, and Councilman

who craved recognition, but quietly moved mountains as a giant in chessed and helped secure significant funding for thousands of OHEL children and families over the years; she was someone driven to make a difference and improve the lives of others in need.” Her family was presented with an award in the shape of a telephone, as Mrs. Lubling was constantly on the phone, always answering the call, and never saying no to anyone in need. OHEL is establishing OHEL Miriam-The Miriam Lubling Center for Trauma and Bereavement in her memory, to be headed by our world renowned expert Dr. Norman Blumenthal. At OHEL Miriam, we hope to provide the same comfort and peace of

David Greenfield. The evening’s keynote speaker was Michigan Supreme Court Justice Elect and disabled rights activist the Honorable Richard Bernstein, who has been blind from birth. Justice Bernstein received a rousing standing ovation at the end of his inspirational speech. Throughout the evening, inspiring videos showcased OHEL’s work as well as the evening’s honorees. The featured video, “Trials and Triumphs,” featured Charlie Harary in one-on-one intimate interviews with five OHEL clients who boldly discussed their challenges and the unfortunate stigmas surrounding their respective situations and how OHEL has helped to remove the stigmas and help them live a better life. The touching words of these incredible individuals moved the entire room to tears. The evening featured a memorial tribute to Miriam Lubling a”h, OHEL’s “Angel of Mercy” and beloved longtime board member and founder of the Bikur Cholim movement. Mr. Hellman remarked that “Mrs. Lubling was neither financially wealthy nor someone

mind that Mrs. Lubling gave to so many in crisis. Abraham Banda and Pomegranate, the corporate honoree of the evening, was presented with OHEL’s Community Partnership Award. In a video recorded at the expansive Pomegranate Supermarket, the breadth of Mr. Banda’s commitment to OHEL and the community was clear. Mr. Banda believes in ‘giving back’ to the community and he employs OHEL’s individuals with special needs, as well as hosts OHEL’s Sibshops events, for siblings of individuals with special needs. A generous and compassionate philanthropist, Mr. Banda stays actively involved in causes that make the world a better, brighter place to be. “OHEL is certainly a worthy cause and I am honored to be making a difference in the lives of OHEL’s children and families,” he said. The evening also recognized “The Heroes of Willowbrook,” Rabbi Philip and Rebbetzin Malka Goldberg. Rabbi Goldberg was the chaplain of Willowbrook State School and spent nearly ev-

Richard Bernstein, Esq., Michigan Supreme Court Justice-Elect, with Jay Kestenbaum, OHEL Vice President of the Board of Directors, wife Chani and family

ery Shabbos and holiday with the Jewish residents of Willowbrook. Once Willowbrook closed in 1978, Rabbi Goldberg was instrumental in securing a home for the Jewish residents, and created the suc-

cessful beginnings of OHEL Bais Ezra – now home to over 450 individuals with disabilities. As for its future, OHEL unveiled its plans for its new home. For the past 45

years, OHEL has been based in Boro Park, but due to the myriad services offered, and increasing needs, a larger campus is necessary. OHEL announced a $10 million dollar Building Campaign, with plans to move into its new 60,000

square foot facility at Avenue M and East 14th Street by January 2016. Over the past 45 years, OHEL has placed 2,500 children into loving foster homes; has provided services to over 1,000 Holocaust survivors to enable them to age safely with dignity, comfort, and support; has counseled thousands of children, teens, and adults every month to help them manage life’s challenges; and has provided expert care 24/7 to over 500 individuals with developmental and psychiatric disabilities in OHEL Bais Ezra residences. As one impressed guest commented, “OHEL isn’t just an organization—it’s a chessed factory!” OHEL extends profound thanks to everyone who attended the Gala, made a gift in support of OHEL’s important work, and contributed to the evening’s success, and to those individuals who continue to provide support as OHEL moves forward. Video presentations shown at the Gala, as well as videos of the event can be viewed at www.ohelfamily.org/

gala2014. To support OHEL’s important work transforming the lives of children and families, please visit www. ohelfamily.org/donate or call 718-972 9338. Every gift—of any size—makes a difference.

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sivta has both football and basketball teams and offers Shabbatons and other trips all within the framework of an academic school. In addition, Rabbi Nachum Dinowitz, the general studies principal, followed Rabbi Zoldan’s address explaining the top notch, high academic level that the English department has with its experienced, professional and highly skilled, dedicated staff. Students can also pursue other areas of interest with the wide variety of electives offered including guitar and Spanish. Mr. Elliott Friedman of Kew Gardens Hills, father of MYHT’s 10th grader Rafi, spoke about the importance of choosing a mesivta where a boy can

develop and grow into a ben Torah who learns because he wants to, not because he has to. He stressed the advantages of a smaller mesivta and the special connection that his son feels with the entire staff. Whether it be from the challenging academic schedule he maintains or the strength he shows on the mesivta’s football and basketball teams, Rafi is excelling in all areas.

hours – day and night – packing, driving, singing, dancing, delivering Chanukah presents, and celebrating the joy of a child who just wants to be a happy child. Chanukah requires all the energy of a small staff and a large number of volunteers. At Ossie’s Toy Fund, we prepare for Chanukah all year long. We start early because our children need something special to look forward to. The week after Sukkos is known as “wish list week.” Children spend months thinking about what they want for Chanukah. To them this is an important decision – one which parents and siblings are a part of, like any other life decision. Chanukah presents are huge expense. Without your donations and volunteering, it cannot happen. The fact that it does happen year after year is another miracle of the Festival of Miracles. There are no words to describe what we see, what we experience, what it feels like, to celebrate Chanukah in a child’s bedroom, late at night, and to capture that moment in our minds. Seeing the smiles on the faces of these children and the twinkle of hope and joy in their eyes as they put their hands out to accept their gifts gives us all the strength we need to make it through anything. Until the time when every child has a positive prognosis, our mission

is clear. Support the families and lend our strength to theirs by giving them what they don’t have time to think about – Chanukah presents, hope, and happiness. Our strength is your strength passed on. Stand with us! Donations can be made online at www.ossiestoyfund. org. We are a registered 501c3 non-profit company. Check out OSSIESTOYFUND Youtube channel to see us in action. This year’s Melava Malka benefiting the Ossie Schonfeld Memorial Chanukah Toy Fund will take place on Motzei Shabbos, Parshas Vayishlach, December 6 at 8:15 pm at the home of Robbie and Judy Schonfeld, 850 Broadway in Woodmere, NY. Of course, our famous Ossie’s sushi bar and desserts will be served. Please join us in making this Chanukah the best Chanukah ever – because where there is joy, there is hope! For more information, please call 516-791-2158 or email ossiestoyfund@ aol.com.

The program concluded with a game of Jeopardy and a shiur. For further information about the Mesivta, please call the office at 718-471-7471 or e-mail mesivtayamhatorah@gmail.com.

The Ossie Schonfeld Toy Fund Miri made a wish list for her Chanukah presents. Ossie’s Toy Fund wants to make her wish come true because Miri may only have now! Throughout Israel, there are hundreds of children who, like Miri, live with cancer every day. Ossie’s Toy Fund is giving you the opportunity to help these beautiful girls and boys celebrate many more Chanukahs to come and make their wishes come true this year.

Chanukah is a respite from living with the fear that a child with cancer may not survive. Imagine that. Now imagine a sick child’s shining face when they receive the gift they’ve been waiting for anxiously. See how that toy can make all the difference in the world for them. The truth is, though, you can’t imagine such a face until you see it. Ossie’s Toy Fund is an organization that is committed to providing thousands of Chanukah presents to children with cancer and to their siblings. Your partnership will make this happen. Join us! The Ossie Schonfeld Memorial Chanukah Toy Fund was established as a

living memorial of our beloved father, R’ Yosef ben Avraham Chaim Nota a”h, whose greatest joy in life was to bring a smile to the face of each and every person he came in contact with, be it adult or child. In addition, his love for Eretz Yisrael was deeply rooted in his heart and soul. So, what could be a better way to honor and memorialize our father than to have a Chanukah Toy Fund for children with cancer in Israel; than to light up their lives with the fulfillment of their wish list and inject pure joy once again into their home?! Ossie’s Toy Fund gives every child the opportunity to give us a wish list of things they would like to receive for Chanukah – ranging from their first to fourth choice. Due to your support, we can make an effort to fulfill the first request of each of these children. Some years ago, a young boy suffering from cancer sent back in his wish list. All four choices were the same: a bike. The mother was apologetic, but her son was determined. The family and we, as well, knew that he would never ride that bike, but for little boys, bikes are about more than just riding them. That Chanukah, volunteers delivered this young boy’s bike in a sea of tears and smiles. The process necessary to provide these children with a glimpse of hope is both arduous and demanding. We need our supporters from around the world to raise the money. We need to find and order the toys. They need to come in time to make it onto the ship. They need to be identified, sorted, and routed for delivery. We need a maximum number of volunteers. Our staff and volunteers work 18

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weaknesses are able to be addressed and improved. Rabbi Zoldan emphasized that while the school may be small, the academics are demanding in both kodesh and chol. Boys are pushed to maximize their potential and strive to excel in both in-depth learning and solid learning in Gemara. The Mesivta’s focus on mussar and middos was also discussed. The boys are exposed to the classic mussar sefarim and challenged to think deeply about themselves and the world around them. He also spoke about the importance of activities in the day of a Mesivta bochur and that the Mesivta takes their extracurricular activities seriously. The Me-

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Around The Community A Trip Of Incredible Inspiration On November 25, 2014, Yeshiva Ketana of Long Island’s Sgan Menahel, Rabbi Shlomo Dovid Pfeiffer, went with his renowned father-inlaw, Rabbi Paysach Krohn, and sixty other people on a nesiah kedosha, a trip of holiness, to Poland. The trip, which was the brainstorm of Mr. Ari Scharf of Project Mesorah, included visits to the noted yeshiva of Rav Meir Shapiro in Lublin, the shul of the Ramah in Cracow, and the gravesites of such noted tzaddikim as the Rebbe Reb Elimelech in Lizhensk, the first two Rebbes of Ger,

the Chidushei HaRim and Sfas Emes, Rav Chaim Soloveitchik and the Netziv, all in Warsaw. In each place, Rabbi Krohn detailed the life of the aforementioned tzaddikim along with some divrei Torah that each of them is noted for. The emotion-laden trip included a sorrowful trek through the horrendous concentration camps of Majdonek and Auschwitz, where everyone witnessed the murderous gas chambers and the horrifying crematoria. On the second day of the trip, through the efforts of Rabbi Ari Ginian at YKLI and Mr. David Haddad who was on the trip, Rabbi Pfeiffer and Rabbi Krohn were able to be viewed at a school assembly as they traveled by bus to Lizhensk, explaining what they had experienced in Lublin that morning and what they were going to do in Lizhensk. Rabbi Krohn told a stirring story of Rav Meir Shap-

iro’s mother who cried when her nine-year-old Meir missed a day of learning being that his tutor did not show up in the new neighborhood they had moved to. “A day of learning that is lost,” she said, “can never be made up.” That was part of the impetus for her son Meir to years later develop the Daf

Yomi, for if one learns the daily daf he never misses a day of learning. Rabbi Krohn then told the boys that in Lizhensk everyone on the trip would be reciting together the special tefillah that the Rebbeh Reb Elimelech composed that contains the expression,

“Aderabah tain b’libainu liros maalos chaveireinu veloh chesronom, To the contrary give within our hearts the capacity to see the virtues of our friends and not their faults.” Rabbi Krohn then spoke to the boys about the mitzvah of v’ahavta l’raicha komocha. Rabbi Pfeiffer assured the boys he would daven for them and wished mazel tov to Yehudah Henesch who had put on tefillin for the first time that morning in the Yeshiva Ketana. The menahel, Rabbi Tzvi Krigsman, then told Rabbi Pfeiffer that just that morning a little boy named Srully Robinson was brought to YKLI for an upsherin and one of the participants was the boy’s grandmother, Mrs. Elaine Rosengarten, whose family was born in LizEveryone on the trip who heard this was incredulous. The trip, Rabbi Pfeiffer says, was elevating, inspirational and life-changing.

TAG Father-Daughter Melava Malka While it was always customary for Torah Academy for Girls to host Mother-Daughter events, a few years ago, the Women’s League introduced the Father-Daughter Melava Malka for our young talmidos. It turned out to be a per-

fect vehicle to allow fathers and daughters to spend some quality time together. This year, it was hard to tell who was having more fun at TAG’s Father-Daughter Carnival: the Pre1A and first graders or their fathers! The TAG gym was transformed into a colorful, music filled, lively carnival last Motzei Shabbos in honor of our annual Father-Daughter event. Every father-daughter pair who entered through our rainbow colored balloon arch was entitled to unlimited games and booths, and boy, were there lots! The

Coke and Pepsi booth, the licorice race, the beanbag toss, and the marshmallow fluff and chocolate chip booth were just a few of the fabulously fun booths at our carnival. Each girl took a guess at the “Guess How Many Jellybeans” booth. Mazel tov to our lucky winner, Zara Grauman! There were 3,157 jellybeans! It was so nice to see fathers and daughters playing the games together and simply having a blast. Rest assured that the fathers and daughters were well-fed too! Everyone received pizza, soda, pink smiley face cookies, and freshly popped popcorn. To

add to the fun-filled evening, girls had their faces painted in colorful, glittery designs, and then bounced and slid down

two giant bouncy houses. Who could imagine a more magical night?! Thanks goes to the TAG high school girls who came to manage the booths and give our girls a great time: Miriam Stern, Bayla Schechter, Avishag Dan, Leah Bess, Shira Schonkopf, Naomi Schreiber, Daniella Neuman, Atara Klaus, Rena Zuckerman, Elana Eisenberger, Shira Gibber, Esti Schiffer, Kirya Goldfeder, Michal Zupnick, Bashi Tropper, Miri Stern, Chani Reich, and Avigail Katz. Thank you! Thank you to our carnival committee of mother who planned, set up, and ran such an amazing event: Esty Dancziger, Esther Feuer, Lori Goldberg, Esti Gross, Sarah Kamin, Batsheva Kelemer, Adina Klein, Devorah Leff, Talia Rapps, Shira Richman, Miri Roberg, and Shira Silberstein. Thank you to our “junior committee” who helped make our event so special: Bailey Newman, Rikki Klein, Racheli Friedman, Nechama Greenberg, Miriam Feuer, Mindy Feuer, Shoshi Leff, Shaindy Leff, Dena Mond, Eytan Mond, Bracha Rapps, Aliza Rapps, Racheli Roberg, Shira Roberg, Chayale Stern, Nava Miller, Shira Silberstein, Sari Goldberg, Shira Goldberg, Tzivia Kelemer, Rena Kelemer, Shoshana Rich-

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Around The Community Hundreds Come Out to Support Shalom Task Force More than 200 women from across the Five Towns, Far Rockaway and Brooklyn attended Shalom Task Force’s presentation of “Flowers Aren’t Enough” at the Sephardic Temple in Woodmere on November 11. The one-woman play, written and performed by Naomi Ackerman, tells the story of Michal, an upper-middle class woman who finds her-

self trapped in an abusive relationship. “Flowers Aren’t Enough” is a fictionalized version of several true abuse narratives, and the performance dramatically conveys Shalom Task Force’s message. “People like to think that domestic abuse doesn’t occur in their community,” explained Rachel Marks, a board mem-

ber of Shalom Task Force. “The message that we wanted to convey is that, unfortunately, domestic abuse can happen to your neighbor, to your friend and even to a family member.” Founded over 20 years ago, Shalom Task Force promotes peaceful family relationships and healthy marriages for Jewish families. Shalom Task Force

maintains an anonymous hotline that receives more than 1000 calls a year. They also provide legal services to victims. Shalom Task Force runs education programs for men and women, teaching the fundamentals of healthy relationships. Another program, S.H.A.L.O.M. Workshops, provides engaged and married couples with the tools to build healthy marriages. “Shalom Task Force was formed by a group of women in our community who witnessed examples of domestic abuse and decided to do something about it,” explained Marks. Thanks to an outreach effort involving several local shuls, the organization has seen an influx of younger women eager to help. The committee which organized this performance was composed mainly of new volunteers. “This is a very important cause that needs the support of our community,” explained Bayla Samter of North Woodmere, who decided to become involved after hearing a Shalom Task Force speaker at a shul. “There is a tendency to avoid facing such painful topics and there’s a sense of shame about these issues. We need to let people know there’s support for them.” After the play, which has been performed across the world to critical acclaim, audience members engaged in a lively question-and-answer session with Ms. Ackerman and Toby Carrey, Director of Education for Shalom Task Force. Audience members then spoke with staff members of Shalom Task Force while light refreshments were served. “People didn’t know that this could exist in the Jewish community,” said Chaya Eisner of Far Rockaway, who helped organize the event. “The play and the question-and-answer session opened their eyes: people were asking about advice for their own children.” For more information about Shalom Task Force and how to volunteer, or to find out about S.H.A.L.O.M. Workshops in your area, visit www.shalomtaskforce. org. The Shalom Task Force Hotline can be reached at 1-888-883-2323. All calls are completely anonymous. Shalom Task Force is incorporated as a nonprofit organization. Our funding comes from grants and individual donations. Support of this vital effort would be a meaningful way to memorialize or honor a loved one. Please visit www.shalomtaskforce.org or www.shalomworkshop.org to learn more.

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Around The Community Levi Yitzchak Library Presents 4th Anniversary Pre-Chanukah Celebration On Sunday, Levi Yitzchak Library will present its 4th anniversary pre-Chanukah celebration with crafts, raffles, fun and much more! 11:00AM – JUGGLER KEITH: Balloon twisting followed by an amazing comedy juggling & light show 1:00PM – FIREMAN JASON: Chanukah’s just around the corner. Join us for an interactive and informative story time and fire safety lesson. 3:00PM – DAVID ADLER: Meet the author of many favorite children’s books! David will describe what’s involved in creating a bestseller. Books available for purchase: $15. 4:00PM – Video Presentation featuring MACCABEES: A Live Chanukah Adventure.

Community support provides a vital source of revenue, offsetting costs for the many exceptional programs and collections that make the LYL such a unique place. In addition, your donation also provides membership for families who would not otherwise have access to Jewish books and programs. To donate or learn more about our programs, visit www.lylibrary.org, call 516-374-BOOK (2665), or e-mail lisa@lylibrary.org. The Levi Yitzchak Library is located at 564 central Ave., Cedarhurst, NY 11516. Library Hours: Sunday: 11 – 5; Monday: Closed to the public but open for class trips and group visits; Tuesday: 11 – 7; Wednesday: 11 – 5:30; and Thursday: 11 – 7.

A Demonstration Showing the Eternity of Klal Yisrael and our Torah By Chaim Gold It was just two days after the massacre. The bullet holes were still visible in the windows… but the sight was a display of one of the most powerful examples of the ideal of netzach Yisrael lo yishaker – the eternal nature of Yisrael will never cease. Kehillas Bnei Torah of Har Nof, the same shul where the massacre had transpired two days earlier, hosted tens of avreichim taking their monthly Dirshu tests. Hundreds of teary-eyed visitors could be seen everywhere. With broken hearts they came to look at the place where the four holy korbanos, the kedoshim of the Har Nof slaughter, met their deaths. Simultaneously, tens of Dirshu test takers blocked out the commotion as they concentrated on the questions on the test. Rabbi Shalom Yachnes, Dirshu’s representative in Har Nof and himself a resident of the neighborhood, related, “On the day of the test, I received many phone calls from local Dirshu test takers asking if the test would be held at Kehillas Bnei Torah as it is every month. I answered, ‘Yes.’” Indeed, the kedoshim who were supremely dedicated to limud haTorah represented the ideal of mesiras nefesh for limud haTorah. Taking the test in the very place where they gave up their lives would be an appropriate display of the eternity of Torah and the eternity of Klal Yisrael in galus, despite the terrible trials and tribulations. Rabbi Yisrael Cohen, Dirshu’s proc-

tor at that testing site, had difficulty expressing the mixed emotions of the test takers, all residents of the Har Nof community who were in some way connected with the kedoshim. “It was difficult to take the test. The room was quiet, you couldn’t hear a pin drop other than the scratching of pens on paper. All of us were thinking of the difficult sights that we had seen in this very shul merely two days ago. Blood, talleisim… nevertheless we realized that we must continue our avodas hakodesh. We did not contemplate changing to a different testing site. On the contrary—taking the test in such close proximity to the horrible terror attack was a declaration that effectively said, ‘Yes, tragically Eisav and Yishmael engaged in their mission, r”l. Our response will be to engage in our mission! We will continue, with even greater alacrity to learn, to chazer, to retain, to take tests and most of all, to continue toiling to understand the Torah hakedosha!’”

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Around The Community

The Dream Josef Weisman is an accomplished philosopher who has received the highest degrees from UCLA. As a younger man, he wasn’t religious, but very spiritual. And, during his quest for spirituality, he spent many years in India learning with monks, gurus and even joining cult-like groups. Now, Josef is a teacher of history and theology at YULA. Last year, while the Rebbe was visiting the school, Josef was extremely interested in meeting with the tzaddik, if for nothing more than the experience itself. When he walked into the room to meet with the Rebbe, the first thing the Rebbe asked him was, “Where do your children go to school?” Stunned, Josef went on to explain that currently his children go to public schools. But, for the last several months he had wanted to move his children into YULA. After all, he explained,

Shabbos is the Source of all Blessings While the Rebbe was at Yeshivat Rambam in Brooklyn, there was a bookkeeper who was very anxious to meet the Rebbe. When she approached the gabbaim, their response was typical: the Rebbe is here to see the students. If there is time afterward, the adults can get a bracha too, or they can make an appointment and go see the Rebbe in Williamsburg. But, this woman was very determined and she started begging. The gabbai agreed and she went in. A week later, the gabbai received a phone an informative presentation of the Mecall from this woman. She explained that sivta’s high-quality limudei kodesh and the Rebbe had demanded her husband to limudei chol program. keep Shabbos. As they were a struggling family that had only recently moved from For more information, or for an apIsrael, she tried explaining to the Rebbe plication, please call 718- 747- 8043.

Mesivta Shaarei Chaim Open House The Mesivta Shaarei Chaim of Far Rockaway Open House will iy”H take place on Sunday, December 7 at 8:00 PM. It will be located in the Young Israel of Far Rockaway, 716 Beach 9th Street. Prospective parents will be given

there was a clear difference between the kinds of students in public schools and the students in Yeshiva, and the education at YULA was superb. However, his wife was vehemently opposed to the idea of her children attending a religious school. So, for months they argued about it. “You have no choice,” responded the Rebbe, “Your children must receive a proper Jewish education. It’s essential. Go home and tell your wife these exact words: G-d gave her very special children with very unique character traits and personal qualities. They are refined. They will continue to develop into unbelievable people as long as they receive a Jewish education. If they don’t, they will lose all their talents and uniqueness. They will lose their future.” Knowing what his wife’s reaction would be, Josef went home nervous and unsure. But, the Rebbe told him to do something and who was he not to do it? After dinner, he sat his wife down and related everything that the Rebbe told him. She had only one word to say afterwards: fine. Josef was shocked, absolutely shocked. So shocked that he blurted out, “What?! For months you were against this idea and now you just say, ‘Fine’?” “Let me explain,” answered his wife. “Last night I had a dream. There was a man in my dream with a long beard. He looked so holy. And, this man in my dream said the very same thing that you just did.” A year later when the Rebbe returned to YULA, Josef was a different looking man: he had long peyos and a beautiful beard. His two children were both in YULA and were very distinguished in their personalities. Now, instead of history and theology, Josef teaches Tanach and the differences between the philosophy of mussar and chassidus.

that they needed the money to survive. “Shabbos is the source of all blessing in this world. Your husband must not work on Shabbos,” the Rebbe told her. “But we don’t even have our green card yet and no one else will even hire us.” “If you keep Shabbos, you will receive your green cards too,” the Rebbe said. A week later the husband decided to quit his job and keep Shabbos. That Monday, the mailman dropped off a letter. Inside, were the green cards! A Vessel That Holds a Blessing Iris very much desired to have another child, but her husband was totally against this. They were always arguing and the tension in the home was unbearable. Iris received advice from the Kalever Rebbe, and received his blessing. Wonder of wonders! Immediately after her visit with the Rebbe, her husband changed his tune. He brought her a birthday present and agreed to meet with someone from the Efrat Organization. Peace returned to the home, and one month ago, to the joy of the two of them, a healthy and adorable daughter was born. Iris was extremely thankful and appreciative to the Kalever Rebbe, for her life that changed in his merit. The Tumor Has Vanished The calm, good and quiet life became a thing of the past. The daily schedule suddenly changed. Forty-three-year-old Arik was informed that he had a malignant tumor. There were tests, running to doctors and experts, hospitalizations, surgery and more surgery…indescribable suffering. Arik heard that the Kalever Rebbe was in Netanya. Upon his release from the hospital, Arik went to the Rebbe and asked that he pray and beseech the Creator of all Cures that Arik should live. Arik wanted to see his children get married and he wanted to enjoy his grandchildren in good health. The Rebbe warmly welcomed and caressed him, “G-d willing, you should be healthy,” the Rebbe blessed him. Months pass and there were more tests. The expert cheerfully told Arik, “The tumor has vanished! You are healthy!” The Kalever Rebbe Shlita will be arriving at Aish Kodesh on Sunday, December 7. The Rebbe will be meeting privately with individuals from 1pm until 10pm. Don’t miss this unique opportunity to elevate yourself.

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holy chain of 234 years of his forefathers, the righteous leaders of the Chassidic community in Hungary, Romania and Poland. Following the Holocaust in Europe, he arrived in New York with his parents. His holy father led his students and his chassidim until his death in 1978, and then the Rebbe took his father’s place as their rabbi and light of the Kaalov Chassidim. The Rebbe has invested much of his precious time—leaving his students and chassidim— to travel the world in order to reach every Jewish community. During the past approximately thirty years he has visited hundreds of schools and Jewish communities within 63 countries in order to strengthen, encourage, bless from the bottom of his heart and advise men, women and youth from all circles and of all ages. Thousands have come to the Rebbe with their problems and sorrows. Following a short and personal conversation with the Rebbe, that penetrates the recesses of the soul, these people are filled with happiness, hope and solutions to their problems. All of this is given without taking donations. Here are a few stories of people who have been touched by the Rebbe.

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Of late, we have all witnessed the phenomenon of the Five Towns becoming a magnet for increased kedusha. With the rapid growth of more yeshivos, more new synagogues and shteibels springing up on every corner, and seemingly endless opportunities for learning — it’s apparent that the level of spirituality sought by our community’s residents continues to expand. For more and more people, there is an insatiable thirst to learn, grow and work towards infusing various aspects of our lives with ever-greater levels of holiness. Part of this movement has of late included the visitations of a few very special tzaddikim to our community. While many bemoan the lack of gedolim in our generation, we here in the Five Towns have been graced in the past year with several visits from truly righteous leaders. Returning this coming week to Woodmere is the Kalever Rebbe shlita of Williamsburg. The Rebbe is being hosted by members of the Aish Kodesh community. During his visit last time, he delivered a message of chizuk to everyone, met with many hundreds of people individually, and bestowed brachos upon them. Now everyone is looking forward to his return. Much of his appeal lies in the fact that he is a wonderful person, who possesses a unique capability to reach deep inside the person standing before him and perceive the imperceptible. A lot of people find this to be a compelling and powerful experience that leaves them changed forever. The Kalever Rebbe has been invited again by Kehilas Aish Kodesh in Woodmere. His connection with Rav Moshe Weinberger goes back to the days when Rav Weinberger taught at Ezra Academy in Brooklyn, and the Kalever Rebbe would come to meet with the students during an annual visit to give them chizuk. According to Rabbi Hershel Krausz, the Kalever Rebbe’s gabbai, “The Rebbe is really into kiruv.” He has traveled all over the world to meet with Jews of every level of observance, and his warm manner and tremendous insight enable him to connect immediately with every Jew. The Kalever Rebbe is continuing the

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Riddle!

In honor of Mark Twain’s birthday, here are some of his witty lines on this thing we call life

There are two men walking in the desert, but neither knows each other. One of them is dying of thirst and the other has a full jug of water. The man with the jug offers the man a drink, but only if he follows three simple rules. Rule 1: He cannot have the jug, because it is his only one. Rule 2: He cannot remove the cork from the spout and drink this way. Rule 3: He cannot poke a hole into the cork or the jug. So, the thirsty man accepted his rules and then he finished his drink and left. How did he do it?

• To succeed in life you need two things: ignorance and confidence. • All things are mortal but the Jew. • Get your facts first then you can distort them as you please. • It is better to keep your mouth closed and let people think you are a fool than to open it and remove all doubt. Answer on next page

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• Whenever you find yourself on the side of the majority, it is time to pause and reflect. • The only way to keep your health is to eat what you don’t want, drink what you don’t like, and do what you’d rather not. • It usually takes me more than three weeks to prepare a good impromptu speech. • Never put off till tomorrow what you can do the day after tomorrow. • The man who is a pessimist before 48 knows too much; if he is an optimist after it, he knows too little.

Yankel had an incredible talking parrot which he loved very much. The only problem was that the parrot used awful language when it didn’t get its way. Yankel was about to host a large group of people for Chanukah so he needed to train his beloved parrot very quickly to stop using foul language. The next time the parrot said a not nice word, Yankel decided to put him in the freezer for two minutes. After two minutes Yankel opened the freezer, took the parrot out and said, “So, have you learned your lesson about not using foul language?” The parrot replied, “I sure have. But I have one question for you: What in the world did the turkey do?!”

• What is the difference between a taxidermist and a tax collector? The taxidermist takes only your skin. • Civilization is the limitless multiplication of unnecessary necessities. • Buy land—they’re not making it anymore. • When your friends begin to flatter you on how young you look, it’s a sure sign you’re getting old. • If the world comes to an end, I want to be in Cincinnati. Everything comes there ten years later. • It is better to deserve honors and not have them than to have them and not deserve them. • Golf is a good walk spoiled. • “Classic”: A book which people praise and don’t read. • Few of us can stand prosperity. Another man’s, I mean.

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Around The Community Ezra Kollel Celebrates Siyum, Inspires New Girls Division Program It’s Tuesday morning at 7:30 a.m. and a group of high school boys seem to be coming a half hour early for school! Yes, they are indeed early for school, however, they are just in time for the Ezra Kollel. Approximately one year ago, Rabbi Elie Geller founded the Ezra Kollel, which meets twice a week before davening. This Kollel began with only two boys and has now grown to over one quarter of the Ezra Boys Division. What is interesting about this Kollel is that there aren’t any school incentives offered for those in attendance. No special grades, no special privileges, no special exemptions, nothing, except of course, the opportunity to learn Torah l’shma. Additionally, the Kollel has just one rule: once accepted you are not allowed to miss—ever. What subsequently occurred over the course of the year was mind-boggling. Besides the pure growth of the Kollel itself, everyone followed this rule. Last year’s winter was filled with snow and

ice, yet every week everyone came without missing a beat. This was truly inspiring for the entire school, students and teachers alike seeing young men coming early to school to learn Torah without incentives, in the hardest of times. The Kollel was able to finish the entire Mesechta Taanis by the end of the year. This year, the Kollel started out where it left off by beginning Mesechta Makos. They recently finished the first perek and were treated to a gourmet breakfast at Bagels and Co. in Hillcrest. However, what occurred at the store was not only inspirational for the boys, but a true kiddush Hashem as well. Hosting a group of twenty boys for breakfast is not an easy task, especially while keeping a store running, yet the staff at Bagels and Co. were phenomenal. One by one, people who entered the store heard

singing and dancing from the backroom and started inquiring about the celebration. When they were told that a special siyum for those who wake up early to learn Torah was occurring, numerous people wanted to be partners in the simcha. Before anyone was aware, the entire breakfast as well as a special dessert were sponsored by complete strangers. Many divrei Torah from the boys, as well as words of chizuk from Rabbi Aryeh

Sokoloff, ended a beautiful morning for these very special boys. After hearing the stories and hashgacha pratis that occurred for the boys, the Girls Division decided that their own learning program should be initiated as well. Similar to the Kollel, the girls agreed that their group should meet not during regular school hours, but rather in the evening after school was over. With this began a bi-monthly group, to meet at the home of Mrs. Rachel Samani to discuss important Torah thoughts and ideas, again with no curricular incentives or strings attached. This is a true testament of the famous Chazal that “mitzvah goreret mitzvah,” one mitzvah with the right intentions really causes more mitzvos to follow. We wish both the boys and girls divisions of Ezra Academy continued hatzlacha in their new endeavors of Torah l’shma.

The Broder Rebbe’s Visit to the Five Towns Motzei Shabbos, Rosh Chodesh Kislev, November 22, the Lawrence community was honored to host the Broder Rebbe of Monsey, Rabbi Moshe Yehoshua Michalowitz. The Rebbe is a son of Radviller Rebbe zt”l, who passed away this past Rosh Hashana. The Radviller Rebbe was the eldest son-in-law of the renowned Spinke Rebbe – Reb Hershele – of Williamsburg. Rabbi Michalowitz is a son-inlaw of the Naroler Rebbe of Flatbush,

Rabbi Berish Schapiro, shlita. A Melave Malka and reception took place at the home of Dr. and Mrs. Jerald Korman. The event was attended by many distinguished members of the Five Towns community and included the Sulitzer Rebbe, R’ Elisha Horowitz, R’ Yaakov Reisman, and R’ Shmuel Wagner of Yeshivas Ohr Yerushalayim. The olam heard divrei Torah, from Rabbi Naftali Jaeger, Rosh Yeshiva of Yeshiva Sh’or Yoshuv.

Father Tisch at DRS One of the many things that DRS is famous for are its lively, inspiring, and exciting tisches. Whether at the schoolwide Shabbaton in a hotel, freshmen Shabbaton in Camp Kaylie, or one of many mini-Shabbatons that DRS runs in Woodmere throughout the year, the “DRS Tisch” always remains the hallmark of the program. DRS maintains another “tisch-tradition” as it holds its annual West Hempstead community tisch, bringing the spirit of DRS to another community. For the past several years, nearly 100 DRS students, together with several rabbeim, join together on a Friday night in the fall at the home of Rabbi and Mrs. Efrem Schwalb, a

rav in the West Hempstead community and a longtime DRS parent, for a night of great singing, divrei Torah...and of course chulent and kugel! Students at the school get many opportunities to experience nights like these, but it isn’t often that DRS parents do. Last week, DRS held its first ever “Father Tisch” exclusively for fathers of DRS talmidim. Hosted at the home of Menahel Rabbi Kaminetsky, over 30 DRS dads joined together to also feel what it is like to be a student again. The night featured singing and dancing, and divrei Torah from Rabbi Kaminetsky, and Mr. Menachem Kagan, a parent of one of the school’s seniors.

The Rebbe shlita then addressed the olam with divrei Torah, chizuk and bracha, speaking about the difficult times facing klal Yisroel, especially in Eretz Yisroel. The Rebbe explained how in times when Yiddishkeit is strong, sonei Yisroel become more desperate and malevolent and the Rebbe encouraged the olam to strengthen their Torah, avodah and gemilas chassadim and in this way, the “kol Yaakov” will rise up over the “yedei Esav.” With the desire of continuing his legacy, it was twenty years ago that the Broder Rebbe started a Kollel in Monsey. The Rebbe’s diveykus and warmth attracted serious baalei batim and lomdei Torah, and the Kollel expanded into a Bais Medrash for tefilla as well. The Rebbe is someone who many individuals feel comfortable to approach for chizuk. He puts people at ease and with his wisdom and experience advises them in both ruchnius and gashmius. He is known for his outreach and work on behalf of klal Yisroel, following in the footsteps of his father and grandfathers. His doors are open and he is available for all Yidden who seek his assistance. The tremendous growth of the kehilla has made it necessary for the kehilla to construct a new, larger building for the Bais Medrash. Work has al-

ready begun on a beautiful new building which will also include a mikveh and rooms for shiurim. The Rebbe will also, b’ezras Hashem, be able to meet the great demand to expand the kollel and start a yeshiva. The kehillah can look forward to a comfortable, beautiful makom Torah which will bring a kiddush Hashem as it spreads the light and warmth of Torah. Reb Sender Schwartz was the chairman for the event. Anyone interested in more information or making a connection with the Rebbe, can call 845-8256011.

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may not be visible to the casual observer, one who actually studies us will see how gnarled we have become and just how low we now go. We might think that there’s no reversing this but thanks to Dr. Mike, I’m pleased to tell you that you can do something about it. When you feel yourself

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hen we’re younger, our parents tell us all sorts of things. One of them, when we’re frowning or making a weird face, is, “If you keep doing that, your face will stay that way!” Of course it’s preposterous, and we vow never to say such ridiculous things to our children. It’s a vow we keep until our kids start making ugly faces and we can’t think of anything better to say. They may or may not get scared by it, but most likely they will roll their eyes, which will make the weird face even stranger. Now, while their faces may not freeze in that form, there are some times that this piece of parental wisdom is actually good advice. I was quite taken aback one day when I went to the chiropractor and he measured the straightness of my back. He pointed out to me that I was beginning to hunch forward. As he explained, your head is like a bowling ball balanced on your neck, and over time, if not balanced completely straight, it weighs down your spine and you begin to lean forward. At first it’s imperceptible, but over time the curvature is more noticeable, and sadly, we see elderly people almost completely bent in half. I was terrified by the prospect and began working on it. In my car, I moved the headrest back and began consciously sitting up straight. I also began having more kavana when I said the daily bracha of zokeif kefufim, blessing G-d “Who straightens out the bent over.” It worked. My stance straightened out and I did not bend over as much. When I went to my chiropractor a year or so later, I felt that I was beginning to bend. He told me that I was still pretty straight, but any time I remembered to sit up or stand straight, it would be a great exercise and would help me out. I was relieved, but his response also got me to thinking. Even if sometimes I forgot and started to slouch, I could reverse the damage by straightening up intentionally. Not only that, but whatever I did would be an improvement and would help me avoid being crooked. As Jews, we are supposed to be righteous and upright. But like the effect of gravity, we often get weighed down by the temptations and stresses of life. We may slip, and do something that’s not befitting our stature. We begin to stoop to things we shouldn’t. Over time, this becomes our new posture and though it

“If I don’t go out of my way, then what have I done for you?” slouching, stooping, or not being upright, simply straighten up and make a conscious effort to stand properly. It will exercise your righteousness muscles and help put you back into shape. If you’re very involved in gossip, try pulling yourself out of the conversations that lead to lashon hara. Feel the stretch? Are you less than honest when it comes to money? Imagine how you’d want to be treated if it was someone handling your money, and think about how Hashem evens out financial discrepancies so your cheating will come back to bite you anyway, and you might not

get dragged down until we suffer from it for the rest of our lives. So, keep your eye on the ball, remind yourself to mind your posture, and soon people will be able to look at you and say, “There goes a real standup guy (or gal).” This Chanuka, give yourself the gift of Nachas from your children! Not only will your teens enjoy reading The Observant Jew, but with short, funny, insightful selections, your son or daughter will gain valuable life tools like Yiras Shomayim, Simchas HaChaim, coping skills, and Midos Tovos. Look for it

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R’ Ben Tzion Shafier

Parshas Vayishlach Hashem is Here “And Yaakov feared greatly, and it caused him pain, and he split the nation that was with him, the sheep, cattle, and camels into two camps.” — Bereishis 32:7 Eisav comes to kill Yaakov The word came to Yaakov that his brother Eisav was coming to greet him, accompanied by 400 men armed to the teeth. It was obvious to all that Eisav intended to kill Yaakov. The possuk tells us that Yaakov feared greatly. In Brachos 4a, Rebbe Yaakov Bar Idi states there is a contradiction between this possuk and an earlier one. When Yaakov was leaving his father’s house, Hashem promised him that he would be protected. If so, how is it possible that Yaakov was now afraid? Rebbe Yaakov bar Idi answers that Yaakov was afraid that Hashem’s promise to guard him might have been based on the assumption that Yaakov would remain on the level he was on. Yaakov feared that he might have sinned and was no longer the same man he once was, so the promise no longer applied. Therefore, there is no contradiction. Hashem’s promise to guard him was based on his remaining on the madreiga that was then, and he was afraid that he had lost that level of purity. Therefore, he was now afraid of Eisav. This Gemara becomes difficult to understand when we take into account that after all is said and done, Yaakov Avinu was still a human. No matter how great

the Avos were, they were made outof the same flesh and blood that we are, had the same physical makeup that we do, and faced all the challenges of being a human being. This means that Yaakov had that most difficult challenge of life: integrating his intellectual understandings into practice, of believing and not believing. Of course he knew that Hashem promised to protect him, but here he was faced with a brother whose nature he knew quite well: a powerful, driven man

more plausible is that Hashem’s promise to Yaakov was made over 34 years before Eisav came to greet him. An awful lot of time passed since Yaakov left his parents’ home. Maybe the trust in Hashem’s promise had faded over the time. Maybe Yaakov was ever so slightly affected by the ways of the world. Why does Rebbe Yaakov bar Idi assume that there must be some answer as to why Yaakov was afraid? The explanation might be quite straightforward: Yaakov hadn’t heard this promise in many, many

Yaakov Avinu’s entire existence was focused on being close to Hashem. who had a burning desire to settle an old grudge. This man didn’t come alone; he brought with him an army to aid in what was his clear intention — murder. So why does Rebbe Yaakov bar Idi assume that it was impossible for Yaakov to be afraid? Maybe Yaakov was just scared — not because of any sin that changed his level, but because of the danger that he faced. Perhaps he was afraid of Eisav, afraid of being out there alone, and afraid of dying. Hashem Made that Promise 34 Years Ago What makes this explanation even

years, and he was simply afraid. Maybe Yaakov was much like us. The answer to this question seems to be that there is a key distinction between Yaakov Avinu and the average person. Yaakov Avinu walked with Hashem. When he got up in the morning, he said, “Good morning, Hashem.” When he went to sleep at night, he said, “Good night, Hashem” because his Creator was directly in front of him. When he went about his daily activities, Hashem was with him all day long. Hashem was there as he walked, as he ate, and as he greeted people. Throughout his day, Hashem was present and accounted for. One of the reasons that we have such difficulties in trusting in Hashem is that Hashem isn’t “here.” Perhaps Hashem is some thirteen billion light years away, up in the heavens. But when I am walking on a cold dark street late at night, and a car stops, and three tough looking guys step out and approach me, I am alone. It is the three of them and me. So, naturally, I am afraid. Who wouldn’t be? Yaakov Avinu was Never Alone But Yaakov Avinu was never alone. His entire existence was focused on being close to Hashem. Hashem was present with him every moment of his day. When he went to the well to find a wife, Hashem was right there arranging for Rochel to come with

the sheep. When he went to the house of Lavan, Hashem was right there protecting him from the scheming of a trickster. And now that he was preparing to meet his brother in what was likely to be mortal combat, he was not going out alone. He walked with Hashem. If Yaakov didn’t have a reason to think that Hashem’s promise no longer applied, it would have been impossible for him to have feared being injured. It would be the equivalent of you or me being afraid of some high school punks while being escorted by the entire U.S. Marine Corps. That is why Rebbe Yaakov Bar Idi asked, “How is it possible that Yaakov was afraid?” His answer is that Yaakov was afraid that the promise no longer applied. Maybe Hashem no longer guaranteed to protect him. Otherwise, it would have been impossible for Yaakov to have feared danger. This concept that Hashem is present and right here is the basis of all bitachon. If a person doesn’t know that Hashem is present in his life, any discussion of relying on Hashem is foolish. How can I rely on Hashem when He isn’t even here? What good is trusting in Hashem if Hashem isn’t on the scene, right here to watch over me? Bitachon, by definition, means knowing that Hashem is here, supervising me and involved in my life. While this may seem self-evident, in practice it is highly elusive. To truly know it requires much work, and to a large extent, this is the measure of a person’s ruchniyus. However, it is also one of the easiest things to do – to simply remember that Hashem is here. Right here. As I speak, as I think, as I read. Not some millions of miles away up there in the sky, but right here. This single cognition has a dramatic effect on my entire relationship to Hashem, on all of my Avodas Hashem, and ultimately on my entire life. Get the new Shmuz APP! Access hundreds of audio, videos, and articles from the Shmuz. Simply go to the App store, or Google Play, and search for “TheShmuz” or go to www. theShmuz.com.

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Rabbi Berel Wein

Parshas Vayishlach

ne of the basic questions raised by the commentators to the Torah as well as by all of Jewish history is determining the true relationship of Jacob and Esau. Is Esau the implacable enemy of Jacob and so has he remained throughout human history? Or, is he only the wayward brother of Jacob who is capable of reconciliation and cooperation in building a better and more just society? This question is been debated in Jewish sources for millennia. The Talmud itself records for us varying and even contradictory opinions regarding the matter. Over the long years of Jewish dispersion as history itself shows, especially in the countries of Europe, Jacob has suffered mightily at the hands of Esau. This fact alone naturally colors the mood and attitude of the Jewish people towards the non-Jewish and especially the Christian world. In the nineteenth and the early part of the twentieth century, Jewish Europe sought to join Esau in all ways

and endeavors. Hundreds of thousands of Jews converted to Christianity and millions more adopted the philosophy, worldview and behavior pattern of Esau while still officially remaining Jacob. This trend was rudely interrupted by

a great extent as our friendly and benevolent brother. We have to pray and hope that this assessment is a correct one. However, it is undeniable that Esau in many respects remains our enemy. The non-Muslim world of Esau loses no

Over the long history of Jews in the Exile, neither assimilation nor acculturation has helped dissuade Esau from persecuting Jacob. the events of World War II and of the Holocaust. To a great extent, European Jewry was no longer the driving force behind Jewish life generally the world over. However, much of American Jewry, substantial in numbers, influence and wealth, continued to pursue the ways of Esau and his less than wise lifestyle. American Jewry, across its entire spectrum, views Esau as our brother, and to

opportunity to criticize, demonize and oppose Jacob at every turn. The Catholic Church constantly supports the Muslim narrative of the events in the Middle East, even though it is Christianity and Christians that are being persecuted and killed regularly by Muslim extremists. It seems that the only thing that matters is that somehow Israel and the Jews should be deprived of legitimacy and security. So in that sense, it is cer-

tainly clear that Esau is not a benevolent brother but rather a most formidable foe. Over the long history of Jews in the Exile, neither assimilation nor acculturation has helped dissuade Esau from persecuting Jacob. In the Bible itself, Jacob attempts to buy his way out of trouble by temporarily appeasing Esau with wealth and money. But in the long run, this tactic also fails to solve the “Esau Problem” as far as Jews are concerned. After the creation of the State of Israel, Jews the world over hoped that Esau would finally reconcile himself with Jacob – and with Jacob’s new found resilience and accomplishments. Apparently that was too much to hope for. So, the “Esau Problem” still looms large in Jewish private and public life. Apparently, the solution and removal of the problem is destined to occur only in messianic times. Meanwhile, we still continue to wrestle with Esau, whether he as foe or brother. Shabbat shalom.

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25 Years of Revitalizing Polish Jewry BY YAAKOV WASILEWICZ

“If I would realize all the difficulties that I would have, I may have not done it. But I was naïve and I believed, and this belief came true.” – Ronald S. laudeR, pReSident of the

WoRld JeWiSh CongReSS, duRing

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onald Steven Lauder grew up in a five-story townhouse on Manhattan’s tony Upper East Side. He attended the prestigious Bronx High School of Science and also studied in Europe, where as a teenager he began buying German and Austrian paintings. After he graduated from Penn’s Wharton School in 1965, Lauder followed in the footsteps of his brother, Leonard, and dutifully went into the family cosmetics business founded by his mother, Estée, and his late father, Joseph. But after 17 years, he began to feel that there was more to life than selling lipstick. “I’ve always admired my mother,” says Lauder, “but I wanted to make my own mark, to make a name for myself as distinct from hers. Everywhere I went, I was always identified as Estée Lauder’s son. I had been brought up by my parents to believe that I could achieve anything I wanted in the world. And I decided that what I wanted was to make a contribution in the public arena.” Lauder says he first thought of a government career with the outbreak of the Yom Kippur War in 1973. “Those first two days, I realized the war could go either way and there was nothing that I, as a private citizen, could do to help. In the future, I wanted to be in a position to affect something I really believed in.” Lauder entered the world of politics in the late ‘70s when he became a major fundraiser for the Republican Party in New York. In the mid-‘80s, he was appointed finance chairman. In 1983, he quit his job as chairman of Estee Lauder International to work at the Pentagon. His departure from the family business was not easy for anyone. “My parents had built the company to pass onto Leonard and me,” says Lauder. “My father died right before I moved to Washington and my mother was devastated by both events. It was a tumultuous time.” For the next three years, Lauder traveled back and forth to Europe as deputy assistant secretary of defense for NATO and European affairs, coordinating relations

with NATO countries and attending defense planning meetings. “I had decided that if I were to become an effective politician, I would have to understand what defense was all about,” he explains. In 1986 he was appointed by Ronald Reagan to be the U.S. ambassador to Austria.

he first time Lauder came to Poland was in 1987. He came to one synagogue that was there and walked in. The average age of the people there was around 75. He asked them, “Where is the Jewish community?” They replied, “We are the Jewish community.” “Do you have any children?” They answered, “Yes, they are in Israel.” “Do you know any young people?” They answered, “You don’t consider us young?” Lauder walked away very depressed from this exchange because after being in Vienna and Prague, he knew that there must be a Jewish community in Poland. About six months later, R’ Chaskel Besser, the venerable Chassidic religious leader of Manhattan’s Congregation Bnai Israel Chaim, appeared in his office. “Rabbi Besser heard there was a new Jewish ambassador and he was looking for kosher food to send to Poland,” relates Lauder. When he came to his office, they spoke about the Jewish community. “The rabbi told me that there is a Jewish community in Poland, but you just have to know where to look. And so I said: ‘Let’s find it!’ This began a 25 year relationship with the most wonderful person I ever met. He was more than a rabbi. I liked him immediately because he had great warmth along with a rich sense of humor. He wanted my help, but he soon helped me – he became my mentor, my instructor, and eventually, my partner. He taught me about being Jewish, but most important – he believed so much in the life in Poland that during the beginning of

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the process of the foundation about 30% of the money that was spent was spent for Poland.” After Lauder resigned as ambassador, he returned to the family business part-time as chairman of Clinique, one of Estée Lauder’s most successful lines of cosmetics. With the memory of those destroyed by Nazi sympathizers in a Vienna synagogue on Kristallnacht fresh in his mind, he decided to “do something Jewish.” In 1988, he organized an American interdenominational commemoration of Kristallnacht.

auder began traveling more often to Poland with Rabbi Besser. Rabbi Besser once said: “No one cared about the spirit or the soul of the

Children in the Lauder Camp in Rychwald, Poland, in 1996. Yaakov is standing in the middle

Jews in Poland. The JDC (Jewish Joint Distribution Committee) tried to help old Jews materially, but no

He asked the people there, “Where is the Jewish community?” They replied, “We are the Jewish community.” one was interested in educating Jewish children before Ronald.” Rabbi Besser told Lauder about hidden children,

Yaakov with Rabbi Shlomo Besser, son of Rabbi Chaskel Besser zt”l, in the Nozyk Synagogue in Warsaw, Poland, on November 2 at the event celebrating 25 years of the Lauder Foundation

children who were brought up not by their parents who were killed in the Holocaust, but by Catholic families or by Catholic institutions that hid them during the war. “We know that during the 2nd World War—between January of 1939 and January of 1943—around 70,000 of Jewish children were given away to the Catholic families for safekeeping,” Lauder related recently. “We know that 20,000 were found, mainly boys between 1 month and 15 years old, and were killed. We know that about 20,000 came out and many of them left Poland in 1950s. We also know that there were between 20,000 and 30,000 Jewish children who were raised by the Catholic families and who were still living in Poland, in many cities Continued on page 80

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Yaakov with Ronald S. Lauder, president of the World Jewish Congress, during the event celebrating 25 years of the Lauder Foundation

throughout Poland. Rabbi Chaskel Besser offered to go to many of those cities, town by town, putting ads in newspapers, saying: ‘If you found out that you are Jewish, come to such and such hotel…’ “We found people all over. In Katowice, 157 people showed up. And by the time we finished, by the 1990s, we had almost 3,000 of these no longer children but people who found out that they were Jewish.” In 1989, Lauder and Rabbi Besser hosted a dinner for 100 of those young adults in the hotel Victoria, a place where Mr. Lauder would often stay. “I cannot say that I remember that hotel in fine memories,” he said. “But one evening we invited those 100 people who found out that they were Jewish. Their ages were somewhere between 40 and 50. I remember all of them coming in and being very shy. I remember very much that nobody wanted to speak, that they were all very shy and instead of talking, they just whispered. And then, 2 hours later, I took Rabbi Besser aside and I said to him, ‘This is not working.’ “Then I asked him, ‘What would a Jewish mother have sang to those children as infants?’ And he said to me: ‘Raisins and Almonds,’ a Yiddish song. So we did a quick rehearsal and then we came out and Rabbi Besser said in Polish, ‘The Ambassador Lauder and I will now sing a song, which many of you may have heard as children. Anyone who remembers the words please join in.’ “And we started to sing. First 10, then 20, then 40, and 60, and finally we got to the “Shloff Yiddele, shloff,” 80 out of 100 of people there were singing the song that their mother that they never knew sang to them when they were infants. It was in their subconscious. And they were singing that song that brought back all the memories,” Lauder remembers. “We then sat from 9:30pm until almost 1:30 in the morning. Everybody would get up and say over their story. There was a change, a change that changed things dramatically. It’s something that I will never forget. And there we started very much the idea of what we should have. “They said to me: ‘We want foundation, we want a Jewish life. If we are going to be Jews, we want to be Jews in the Poland that we can live in and our children can live in.’ And the result was that on that evening, the Foundation was born. It was a little over 25 years ago. We started very small; we started off with a kindergarten, and we started off with a few

people, a few teachers, and the kindergarten grew. From an apartment to a house, and from a house to another school, finally to a school where it’s at. And every time I come here I get very emotional to see what has happened.”

uring the recent event celebrating 25 years of the Lauder Foundation in Poland, Rabbi Besser’s son, Rabbi Shlomo Besser, and daughter, Mrs. Aliza Grund, were present. Rabbi Shlomo Besser spoke about Mr. Lauder, saying, “As much as can be said about you, doesn’t match to the deeds that you’ve done in the past, that you are do-

80 out of 100 of people there were singing the song that their mother that they never knew sang to them when they were infants.

ing in the present, and that you will be doing in the future. As we read in the yesterday’s parshas hashavuah, the Jewish nation is compared to the stars.” Rabbi Shlomo Besser continued, “And my father, Rabbi Besser, would point out that the stars are visible only at night. It is in the dark times that we see the stars the best. It is our prayer, Mr. Lauder, that you continue helping the stars shine, but more than that – bring us to the point that there will be no night, only day and light. And in the name of my mother and my siblings we thank you for what you have done, for what you are doing and for what you will be doing.” Mrs. Aliza Grund related, “Our father, Rabbi Besser, was very interested in the education. Where we grew up – in Manhattan – there were not many choices in education. But our parents made sure that we went to a day school that had some religious studies and a lot of secular studies. And the school that we attended had a very big mix of children. “But no matter what we did later in life, what high school we attended, no matter what college we

L-R: Rabbi Besser zt”l, Ronald S. Lauder, Kostek Gebert, Dasha Rittenberg, Ela Trepka with her daughter, Judyta Nekanda-Trepka, and Rabbi Hershel Lieber

attended,” she continued, “our foundation was our elementary school. And the love of learning, what you will achieve in life starts here. And we were fortunate to be included to come on this trip and to see what you’ve gotten, and what you will be getting, and let it carry you through and remember and be strong in your Jewish identity. It should carry you through for the future—to make a very big difference in am Yisrael,” she encouraged.

n Judaism we have a very important concept called hakaras hatov, appreciating and showing gratitude. Wherever we are, we must always be aware of things being done for us, and we must always show our gratitude both to G-d and to people for all that is done for us. Even if it is just a small thing that was performed on our behalf, it is our obligation to recognize the goodness and our duty to appreciate it. What the Lauder Foundation did for us – Polish Jewry – was not a small thing. The Lauder Foundation established a Jewish school in Poland and created summer and winter camps. Thanks to the Foundation, youth clubs started to operate in many cities throughout the whole Poland. It supported the Polish Jewish intellectual monthly Midrasz, translated many great books into Polish, and helped repair historic synagogues throughout the country. The Foundation launched an important program called the Genealogy Project at the Jewish Historical Institute in Warsaw, which until today is assisting many people who come to Poland looking for their family’s roots. But Lauder’s involvement in Poland is even more far-reaching. He has been deeply committed to preserving the concentration camps, Auschwitz and Birkenau, to memorialize the atrocities committed against our nation. I owe a special debt of gratitude to the Lauder Foundation in Poland, which helped to rebuild Jewish life in Poland throughout these 25 years and greatly contributed to my connection to Judaism. Thanks to Ronald Lauder, Rabbi Besser, Chief Rabbi Michael Schudrich, and many other wonderful people, the Jews of Poland have been revitalized and energized. Yaakov welcomes your questions and comments and can be reached at jakubwasilewicz@tlen.pl.

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wish to our family and also attend the various functions, meetings, etc. that our political/communal responsibilities demand. How can we manage between these competing realms in a manner that

We all struggle to make proper use of our time and abilities. organically. His approach was to grow from within and he gained no greater satisfaction than what he received from his toils in raising a large, committed family that shared his principles. In contrast, Esav was most interested in building from without. His main motivation was to gain control and influence well beyond the immediacy of his own family. Without power, he had nothing. For most of us, the tension between family life and politics/community is not nearly as polarizing as it was for perhaps history’s most famous twins. We embrace our private roles as familial heads and relish the opportunity to instill within our family the values that we embrace. We enjoy the quiet and contentment that domestic living offers and welcome the nachas that we receive as we observe the fruits of our labors blossom before our eyes. Yet, many of us also seek opportunities to make a difference within our communities, to help our neighbors and give back to those who improve the quality of our lives each day. We do so from a deep desire to display our appreciation and make a difference, not to achieve the personal trophies of recognition and praise. At least those should be our goals. Despite our best intentions, however, there are often times when our personal and political aims come into direct conflict with one another. We simply cannot give as much time as we

is both responsible and fulfilling? For starters, it is important that we take the time to identify and prioritize our core values (often with the help of a coach, rav or mentor). We must be open to change and be willing to ask the hard questions that drill down on what is truly important in our lives. Once we arrive at some answers, we can then decide what needs to be done to achieve our goals and strike the proper balance. Not only will this offer us direction, but it will also strengthen our self-identity. Self-identity emerges from the way that we balance such components as family, work, study, observance and community service, and is critical to managing the conflict between competing domains. Two powerful talks come to mind in this regard. The first was delivered to a group of principals in Chicago about 10 years ago. The speaker, a well-respected educator and former principal, talked about the personal-professional tension. He shared an incident in which his school’s eighth-grade graduation was slated to take place the same night as his own child’s commencement. He chose to attend his school’s event. After all, how could be not be present? In retrospect, he came to regret his decision and shared with us that there is nothing more important than family. Positions and communal affiliations come and go, but family is an eternal bond. Though he did not possess such clarity earlier on, he came to that realization (for him)

over time. The other presentation was delivered by Rabbi Paysach Krohn, who told of a dilemma that confronted Harav Moshe Feinstein, zt”l. On one particular Shabbos, there were two scheduled events that Reb Moshe wanted very badly to attend. The first was the bar mitzvah of his grandson, the son of Harav Reuven Feinstein, shlita. The other was the annual Agudah Convention. For reasons that were not disclosed, Reb Moshe chose to be at his grandson’s celebration earlier that week and attend the convention on Shabbos. Reb Reuven was asked about his father’s decision. His response was truly remarkable, the outgrowth of years of relationship building. He shared that he was fully comfortable with the decision; his father needed to be with the klal. He added that Reb Moshe had continually demonstrated acts of care and love for him as a youth, such as warming his clothing on the radiator on cold winter mornings before he awoke; preserving his seat by his father’s side at the Shabbos table, regardless of which dignitaries graced their seudah; and allowing him to leave his summertime father-son studies when the hay ride would take place at the family’s bungalow colony. From these displays of love and many others, Reb Reuven knew just how much his father loved him, which may very well have given Reb Moshe the basis from which to resolve his present dilemma. We all struggle to make proper use of our time and abilities. We want to be as helpful and supportive as possible. But we simply cannot do everything for everyone. For us to make proper choices, we must root ourselves in positive values (a desire to give, not receive) and establish clear, rooted guidelines that govern our choices and actions. But we also want others to appreciate and respect our decisions. Such appreciation comes from regular communication of our love and concern for others, which will serve us well at times of conflict and possible disappointment. Rabbi Naphtali Hoff is an executive coach and president of Impactful Coaching and Consulting (ImpactfulCoaching.com). He can be reached at 212.470.6139 or at president@impactfulcoaching.com.

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his week’s parsha presents a strong contrast in priorities, as expressed by Yaakov and Esav in their historic standoff. The conflict that is subtly expressed at the parsha’s onset presents a fundamental attitudinal difference which underscores the personal weltanschauung of these two men. Yaakov arrived in Eretz Yisrael after two decades of tireless service in the house of Lavan. It was there that he built his household and accumulated his riches, emerging victorious from that harrowing experience. Upon returning to his homeland, he is immediately confronted by his longtime nemesis Esav, who stood at the head of a mighty army and sought revenge for past “injustices.” But the impending confrontation between estranged brothers wasn’t only about past issues involving the birthright. This was a conflict in essence, a face-off between two siblings whose personal drives were about as disparate from each other as the lives that they had lived until now. By the labor of [Yaakov’s] hands he had succeeded in obtaining the happiness of being a father of a family. [In contrast] Esav had become…a political personality, a leader of an army… Thus the external contrast between the “holder on to the heels” and the “made” man… There are two principles of life which we meet in Yaakov and Esav, and the fight between them is what the history of the world consists of: Family life which … dispenses happiness in Yaakov, and the glitter of political power and greatness in Esav. For thousands of years the battle has raged; whether it suffices to just be human beings, and all social, political power and organization have only importance as means of ensuring this goal of all human endeavors to be reached, or whether all that is humane in mankind, all family and home life, has only importance as trophies of politics to serve as a background. (Rabbi Samson Raphael Hirsch, Commentary to Bereishis 32:8) In presenting this fateful showdown, the Torah paints a classic conflict in core values. Yaakov emerged from

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f your stomach is grumbling and you happen to feeling a little puckish, the most enticing place to be in the Western Galil is around the area of the train station in Nahariya. The smells permeating through the air are as mouthwatering as any you’ve experienced. The wonderful aromas are coming from the Zoglowek’s meat store and factory. Even sworn vegetarians and vegans would be forced to pause and inhale the olfactory sensations. The more serious vegan would have trouble

were laden with all sorts of goodies. We walked outside a little lighter in the pocket but animated in discussion about food we’d be cooking for the coming Shabbat. On an impulse, I told Keren to wait a moment and I dashed back into the store to talk to cashier. I asked her what I had to do to see the inside of the factory. She pointed me in the direction of the main offices just outside and to the left. The door was locked. I knocked. Through the glass I could see a man

“Two coincidences? You guys didn’t know one another a couple of minutes ago.”

feigning disgust at the smells of cooking meats, chickens and every possible variety of meat delicacies imaginable. I’d love to bring my friends who have sworn off meat and stand them in front of Zoglowek’s on Rehov Ga’aton for five minutes before asking them to give me one reason why I shouldn’t continue my carnivorous pleasure. My wife Keren and I recently walked into the store. Our intention was to window shop, as it were. Alas, within a couple of minutes, we

and a woman standing at a desk. “What do you want?” the man called from the inside. I intimated that I wanted to speak with him. He opened the door and let us in. He was short and looked my age. “A tour of the factory floor? I don’t think so. They’re very careful about who they let inside. There was some trouble last year and they’ve tightened protocol since then. I’m head of security. Why do you want to see it?” “I write stories. It’d make an inter-

esting piece,” I answered. “Hey, where are you from? You have a cool accent,” asked the woman. “We came from New York last year,” I explained. “Really? Where exactly?” asked the head of security. “Cedarhurst.” “I don’t believe it. Do you know the Sunflower Cafe?” “Yes, as a matter of fact I do,” I replied. “My son works there. He lives in Far Rockaway, straight down Central Ave.” “Far Rockaway? Our daughter lives there,” said Keren. After a little inquiry we discovered that his son and our daughter live one block away from each other. “That’s quite a coincidence,” said the woman. “And your accent...where are you from? You don’t sound American.” “I’m originally from Australia.” “From Melbourne, by any chance? I have family there,” asked the head of security. I nodded in the affirmative. He told me their name. “Yes, I know them. They live close to where I grew up when I was a kid.” The woman behind the desk clutched the pad she was holding to her chest. Her eyes were wide open. “You two scare me. Two coincidences? You guys didn’t know one another a couple of minutes ago.” “What’s your name?” I asked him. “Vic. Vic Tiran. And yours?” “I’m Rafi.” We shook hands warmly. I looked at him carefully. He had a thicker head of hair than me, but we were greying about the same. “May I ask you what year you were born?” “1957,” Vic replied. “Me, too.” By this time the woman actually looked frightened. Keren, on the other hand, appeared quite amused.

“Please, no more,” begged the woman behind the desk. “And what month?” “I was born on March 16th, here in Israel.” “Ha! You’re two weeks older than me. I was born on April Fool’s Day,” I laughed. “We’re like long lost brothers. Vic—for that really is his name— and I fished around for any other common denominators, but found none. The woman waved warily as Vic, his arm on my shoulder, escorted us to the door. “About the story you want to write. Take down the number of the woman who deals with the press. You never know. She might say yes,” he suggested. “Story? Oh, sure,” I said and lazily typed the number into my phone. After we parted Keren and I began our walk back to the car. The smell of cooking meats still permeated the air. “Are you going to call her?” Keren asked me. “Who? Oh, that woman? I don’t think there’s any need, to be honest.” “You never know. They might al-

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low you to see the inside of the factory. You could get a good story out of it.” “A good story? No, I think I’ve got one already.” Rafi Sackville, formerly of Cedarhurst, lives in Ma’alot in Western Galil. He teaches in the local high school.

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Rabbi Chaim Morgenstern

Chinuch Workshops: Practical Torah Guidelines and Strategies for Achieving Successful Chinuch The following series of articles will conclude with a project for parents to focus on each week to improve their parenting skills.

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he most important area of raising children that parents should focus on is being a good role model for their children, as the Steipler Rav once remarked, “Role modeling is 50% of child-raising.” A story is told of a young man who asked a Torah sage when and how he should prepare himself for child-raising. When the sage asked him where he was holding in life, he replied, “My wife just gave birth to our first child.” “Mazel tov,” replied the sage, “but you are a few years too late!” The sage was conveying an important message: Chinuch starts when parents are still single, when they create and mold themselves to be the best role models possible for their future children. Thus, for parents to raise well-balanced children, they must project a good model of the Torah personality and of middos tovos so that their children will follow in their footsteps. The Dynamics of Role Modeling Parental role modeling can be broadly defined as: actions, behavior or conducts that have a subtle and very powerful influence on their children. The reason for this influence is because children naturally imitate and emulate their parents’ behavior. The former Kaminetzer Mashgiach, Rav Moshe Aharon Stern, explained the dynamics of role modeling as follows: “The greatest people in a child’s eyes are his parents, and what they do is like Torah from Sinai. Children observe and study their parents’ every action and behavior and record them in their subconscious minds, leaving lasting impressions. Why is this so? Because parents are the most reliable source for priorities and values in their children’s life. Children have the simple trust that their parents won’t transmit any non-Torah or non-ethical ideals to them. Parents

are the children’s prime rebbis and educators, and their actions are the basis for their chinuch.” Moreover, since children’s intellects are not fully developed, they function mostly from their emotions rather than from logic. The result is that they learn and absorb more from what they see than from what they hear. Therefore, showing one’s children how to properly fulfill mitzvos and be a yireh shamayim has a greater impact and influence than telling them so. In a shiur on child-raising, Rabbi

tance of bentching. Rav Frand further notes that since it was done inadvertently, it made an even greater impression because it showed true sincerity. Imitating & Retaining Children also have the tendency to imitate their parents’ actions and behavior, and they observe and retain more than we realize, as illustrated by the following story: It was the night of bedikas chametz, and in order to facilitate the bedika, the

Children naturally imitate and emulate their parents’ behavior. Yissocher Frand told the following story to illustrate this concept: One day when he left his home and was on the way to giving his shiur in Yeshivas Ner Yisrael when he suddenly remembered that he hadn’t bentched. Since it was a hot and humid summer day, he was debating with himself if it was permissible to bentch away from home b’di’eved. In the end, he decided not to look for any leniencies, and he returned home, perspiring from the sweltering heat. That day, his young daughter happened to be home and asked her father in amazement why he had suddenly returned home. When he told her that he had forgotten to bentch, she exclaimed, “What! You came back to bentch?!” Rav Frand realized that he had just “scored a win.” Seeing her father’s great effort to fulfill the halachos of bentching properly made a greater impression than countless times of telling her the impor-

father assigned different parts of the home to his children, while he would do the most difficult task of checking the sefarim. After the father finished reciting the bracha of Al biyur chametz, each child went to his assigned room to do the bedika. Twenty minutes later, the children finished their bedikos and returned to their father only to find him intensely involved in looking over the sefarim. Innocently, one of the sons asked, “Tatty, what are you doing?” In total amazement, the father turned to his child, “Nu, ah-ha” and pointed to his flashlight and feather. The children returned to their rooms and started tidying up for Pesach. Ten minutes later, the children returned to their father who was still occupied with checking the sefarim. Again, one of his sons asksed, “Tatty, why are you so busy with the sefarim?” The astonished father turned to his son and in a raised voice shouted, “Nu sha!” and motioned for the boy to leave

the room. After the father finally finished checking the sefarim and saying Kol chamira etc., he called over his children and exclaimed, “What chutzpa you have for interrupting my bedika! Did you suddenly forget that tonight is bedikas chametz night?” The same son innocently replied, “But Tatty, we never saw you study from these sefarim the entire year, so why was it necessary to check them?” Main point to work and focus on for the coming week: > Parents should start becoming more aware of what they do and say in front of their children so that they will be proper role models for their children to imitate. More examples will appear in the forthcoming articles.

Rabbi Morgenstern does family counseling and lectures extensively in Israel and abroad on shalom bayis, chinuch habanim, family communication, shidduchim, dating and personal growth, and has produced a popular CD series on these topics. His articles on these topics and Jewish hashkafa have appeared internationally in Jewish newspapers and magazines. For more information or to schedule a lecture, contact Rabbi Morgenstern at 952-236-4197, 612845-0872 (Cell number when he’s in the U.S. or Canada), or at rabbi@toras-chaim. org. You can also request to receive his weekly Parsha Pearls and chinuch articles by e-mail. Please include your name in the request. Articles are dedicated to the memory of Rabbi Morgenstern’s parents, Reb Yerachmiel Yisroel Nesanel ben Reb Moshe Dov z”l and Leah Gittel bas Reb Nachman Tzvi a”h. T.N.T.B.H.

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have no skills at boundary-setting. Their wives do, though. In fact, they are very impressed with their wives’ superior relational skills. But when a wife is told, “That’s just the way my mother is; you have to accept that,” she feels betrayed. “Whose side are you on?” she demands. • Men may be intimidated They would not want to admit it in a million years, but some men may be intimidated by their mothers. Their mothers were strong with them growing up and due to their lack of propensity to fight, they simply came to accept what could even amount to abuse. Now, the unfortunate part about this is that since they also love their mothers, it becomes difficult to admit that this same woman who is so good to them is also an abuser. In fact, even if she is not so good to them, I’ve found that people are very hesitant to label their parent as abusive. It’s so sad and so awful to contemplate that. • Men may have formed a protective bond Another possibility is that the man, as a boy, felt called upon to protect his mother from a hurtful husband. As much as a boy may feel hurt and angry by his father’s abuse, he will often put himself aside to be the “shining knight,” as one researcher called it, for his mother if she was also a victim. She may have unconsciously fostered that: It feels good to have an ally, even if it’s a child. This is wrong; it’s a breach of boundaries, but hurt women do it all the time. It would be a strong and unusual boy who would not enter into that sort of camaraderie with his mother. This means that later on, in his marriage, that man can see no wrong in the woman he was trying to protect. Now that is laying all the responsibility on the men and you know that would not accurately portray the extent of in-law problems. Sometimes, indeed, a young woman brings upon herself some of her misery. This is not to blame

her: She is just getting started on the adventure of real life; how would she know better? But here are some of the causes that could originate with her: • Too defensive A new wife is enjoying a taste of complete independence for probably the first time in her life. She is now in charge of her home and how it looks, her time, her kitchen. It’s all about autonomy. And along comes a mother-inlaw who may mean well and wants to pass on the wisdom of her years to her new daughter -in-law – can you blame her for that? So, coming from the best of intentions, she offers her advice. And her daughterin-law’s first taste of freedom seems to be slipping through her fingers. It is no wonder that the younger woman may put up walls – but she shouldn’t. Be gracious and appreciative of the offer of advice; you can use it or not as you like. • Too insecure It is totally understandable that a young woman – especially if she had been used to leaning on her own mom – would feel a bit insecure starting a new marriage. But this is her proving ground; she has to build up her inner strength to take life by the horns. She can acknowledge feeling uncertain to herself, but it would be unwise to let others see that because they may – out of the best of intentions once again – jump in and stay there. That’s called meddling. A parent does not belong in the day-to-day life of their adult children. • Too afraid This is not the same as insecure. Insecurity may come from a warm, loving home in which the parents made too many decisions for their child. Fear comes from a home in which the child gets smacked – literally or figuratively – for standing up for herself. If that happens, she may marry the wrong person just to create a sharp division with her feared parent. Or she may marry someone to take on the fight for her that she

has been afraid to have herself with her abusive parent. It is not only the daughters or the mothers who provoke fights; the men are quite capable of it, too. Sometimes fights by either member of either couple are great ways to deflect intimacy problems in their own marriage. Sometimes fights may come from not understanding that the other person’s family is really a different culture with its own norms and values. Researchers found that up until the 1970s in rural China, poor families would sell their baby daughters to wealthier families to be the future wives of designated boys. Doesn’t that sound familiar? It is not only a means to distribute wealth but a way to bridge the differences that will come up in families. Most mothers-in-law are wonderful; I hope I’m one myself! Most daughtersin-law are decent, lovely people. I know I’ve got those! The key thing, then, is to set up strong boundaries; make the marital unit of prime importance without allowing meddling; remain respectful and kind but know, also, the difference between harmless good intentions and abuse. Cut some slack to the good-hearted relatives and keep a safe distance from the others. My talk at Food For Thought covered some of this and a bunch of other material. Next week, we are privileged to hear Heidy Krantz on “Discovering the gift That You Have Been Blessed With.” Last month’s talk highlighted her wisdom and depth; this Tuesday’s will be sure to do the same. Dr. Deb Hirschhorn, a Marriage & Family Therapist and best-selling author of The Healing Is Mutual: Marriage Empowerment Tools to Rebuild Trust and Respect—Together, is proud to announce that readers of The Jewish Home will receive a $50 discount on every visit to her Woodmere office. Attend the Food For Thought lectures at Traditions Restaurant in Lawrence on Tuesdays at 12:30 PM. (There is a lovely optional lunch menu for $12 cash.) Any questions, call 646-54-DRDEB or check out her website at http://drdeb.com. All stories in Dr. Deb’s articles are fabricated.

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on’t get me wrong. I was very close with my mother-in-law. She passed away five years ago at the wonderful age of 101 ½ -- and I was sorry to let her go. But I’ve heard all kinds of in-law stories and that inspired me to give the talk about this subject in my Food For Thought series this week. If you do get along with your in-laws, kol hakavod, but if you don’t, you should not be surprised. According to the Gemara, it is natural that there would be a strain between a mother-in-law and a daughterin-law. Imagine that. They could see the same things happening way back when that we see today. And why are the men excluded from this misery, pray tell? The truth is that the men set up the women in their lives on purpose. At least that is the conclusion of Dr. Terri Apter, reporting in Psychology Today in 2009. She interviewed 49 couples and says: “I was surprised how often men chose to protect their mothers against their wives.” There it is! But why would the men even do this? There were a number of possible reasons – and several offered by members of the audience. • They can’t handle the heat in the kitchen Jon Gottman, a well-known researcher at the University of Washington, has been studying couples for about 30 years. In one of his studies, he had couples argue with each other while measuring their blood pressure, pulse, heart rate, adrenaline level and so on, all the indicators of autonomic fightflight-freeze response. And it turned out that the men’s measurements were out of control: the fight had caused theirs to rise higher and faster than the women’s. • Poor experience with boundarysetting Dr. Apter hypothesizes that as teenagers, boys don’t have to do any work to set boundaries with their mothers. Because of the gender difference, boys simply do their own thing. Girls, on the other hand, have to work on creating that differentiation from their mothers specifically because they are the same gender and it would be natural for them to have more in common. Thus when those boys grow up, they

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Notable Quotes

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“Say What?” The reason I have a clean conscience is I know I did my job right. - Police Officer Darren Wilson, in an interview with ABC’s George Stephanopoulos, discussing his shooting of Michael Brown President Obama was asked this week whether he thinks that Hillary Clinton will try to distance herself from him in 2016 and he said, “Look, she is not going to agree with me on everything.” Of course, Obama just sent more troops to Afghanistan so even he doesn’t agree with himself on everything. – Seth Myers

Americans eat and drink about one-third of their calories away from home, and people today expect clear information about the products they consume. - Food and Drug Administration Commissioner Margaret Hamburg on new regulations requiring restaurants to post calorie counts

I did nothing wrong at all. - Former Egyptian president Hosni Mubarak, after he was acquitted for the deaths of protesters during a 2011 uprising

The benefits of male circumcision have become more and more clear over the last 10 years. - One of the doctors involved in the just-released Centers for Disease Control and Prevention report which found that the benefits of male circumcision outweigh the risks If I have to drink another Coke in 1,000 years it would be one Coke too soon. - George Prior, 50, who just completed one month of drinking ten 12-ounce cans of Coca Cola daily to see how it would affect his physical health

The clear suggestion is that the White House does indeed still want a doormat — Hagel just forgot whose doormat he was supposed to be. - Former Obama administration official Rosa Brooks

When the president goes through three secretaries, he should ask, “Is it them or is it me?” - Rep. Howard McKeon, R-Calif., as the Obama White House began looking for its fourth secretary of defense

We gonna die anyway. Let’s die for something. Elijah Mohammed said 40 years ago, maybe near 50 years ago – there were 20 million of us then – he said if 10 million of us lost our lives, 10 million would be left to go free...As long as they kill us, and we go to Wendy’s and have a burger and go to sleep – they gonna keep killing us. But when we die and they die, then soon we gonna sit down at a table and talk about – we tired. We want some of this earth. We tear this…country up. - Nation of Islam head Louis Farrakhan in a sermon about Ferguson Hands up, don’t shoot. It’s a rallying cry of people all across America. - Rep. Hakeem Jeffries (D-NY) speaking on the House floor in Congress All week long, the Rams and the NFL were on the phone with the St. Louis Police Department asking for assurances that the players and the fans would be kept safe from the violent protesters who had rioted, looted, and burned buildings in Ferguson. Our officers have been working 12 hour shifts for over a week, they had days off including Thanksgiving cancelled so that they could defend this community from those on the streets that perpetuate this myth that Michael Brown was executed by a brother police officer and then, as the players and their fans sit safely in their dome under the watchful protection of hundreds of St. Louis’s finest, they take to the turf to call a now-exonerated officer a murderer— that is way out-of-bounds, to put it in football parlance. - Statement by the chairman of the St. Louis Police Officers Association after five members of the St. Louis Rams entered the football field exhibiting the “hands up, don’t shoot” pose that has been adopted by protestors who accuse Ferguson Police Officer Darren Wilson of murdering Michael Brown in cold blood

I got the haircut to fit into the hairstyles I see people wearing on the street. - Radu Mazare, the mayor of Constanta, Romania, who in 2009 was photographed wearing a Nazi uniform, explaining why he has a “Hitler-style” haircut

This week, President Obama is scheduled to meet with superintendents to discuss his plan to provide students with high-speed Internet in the classroom. Then teachers will meet with Obama and say, “Any other ideas for making my job impossible? Wanna give each kid an iPad with Minecraft and a couple of Red Bulls? Leave me alone!” - Jimmy Fallon

Defense secretary Chuck resigned after sources say the White House became frustrated with his often embarrassing and contradictory remarks, at which point Biden started packing his things. – Jimmy Fallon

The “uberification” of our economy signals a fundamental shift in the way that local services are discovered and fulfilled. - Steve Schlafman, a venture capitalist with RRE Ventures, on apps that deliver services such as doctor visits, security guards and haircuts

I know some will call this amnesty. - President Obama joking during the traditional White House turkey pardon

Prime Minister Netanyahu has failed in his management of the country and in dealing with the needs of the Israeli public. The firing of ministers is an act of cowardice and loss of control. We are sad to see that the prime minister has chosen to act without consideration for the national interest and to drag Israel to unnecessary elections which will harm the economy and Israeli society, all for narrow political interests and a surrender to the ultra-orthodox parties, the powerful central committee of the Likud and outside lobby groups. – Statement by Yair Lapid, chairman of Yesh Atid and Israel’s finance minister, after being fired by Prime Minister Benjamin Netanyahu on Tuesday

Today, President Obama finalized his executive action to protect undocumented immigrants by signing a “presidential memorandum” during a rally in Las Vegas. Because if there’s one thing that always works out, it’s a commitment made in Las Vegas. – Jimmy Fallon Before the announcement, Oklahoma Senator Tom Coburn warned that the country was— quote—“going to go nuts” and predicted the possibility of violence and civil disobedience. Then today Americans were like, “No, that’s next Friday... at Walmart.” - Ibid Yeah, Obama’s taking a lot of heat from Republicans. In fact, some are saying that Obama thinks he’s an American king. When Obama heard this, he was like, “Hey, at least they finally admit I’m American. That’s some progress, I’ll take it. I’ll take whatever I can get.” - Ibid

C-SPAN set up a phone line for undocumented immigrants to call and share their perspective on the immigration debate in the U.S. Although it was awkward when the immigrants said, “Can I call you back? I’m going through a tunnel.” – Jimmy Fallon

I’m fed up. My iPod doesn’t work anymore here. I have to come back. - From a letter written by a French citizen who joined ISIS to his parents (The letter was obtained by Le Figaro newspaper)

Want to go somewhere, but don’t know where? - A promotional tweet sent out by Malaysia Airlines last weekend which was quickly removed by the airline for have “unintentionally caused offense to some” I hope that all of you will follow me. - Adolf Eichmann’s actual last words before he was hanged by Israel in 1962, according to a newly released documentary

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When I opened the goat house in the morning, dead goats were everywhere. - Chinese farm owner Guo Yulin, after a rare Siberian tiger released into the wild by Russian President Vladimir Putin killed 15 of his goats

Secretary of Defense Chuck Hagel reportedly gave into pressure from the White House to resign. Hagel realized it was over when Obama started responding to his memos with “k.” - Seth Myers

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Who am I to stand from my perch of privilege, surrounded by million-dollar homes and paying for a $60,000 education, to condemn these young men as “thugs”? It’s precisely this kind of “otherization” that fuels the problem. Not once did I consider our attackers to be “bad people.” I trust that they weren’t trying to hurt me. In fact, if they knew me, I bet they’d think I was okay. The fact that these two kids, who appeared younger than I, have even had to entertain these questions suggests their universes are light years away from mine. We should look at ourselves first. Simply amplifying police presence will not solve the issue. Until we do so, we should get comfortable with sporadic muggings and break-ins. I can hardly blame them. The cards are all in our hands, and we’re not playing them. - Oliver Friedfeld, a senior at Georgetown University, writing in the school’s newspaper after he was mugged

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The Taliban attacked our village and my son’s outpost at dawn. After seeing my young son’s body, I picked up his gun and decided to fight off the killers of my son until I die.

I said getting into another plane crash, it’s never going to happen. It’s like a one in a 10 million chance, and to survive is a one in 20 million chance. I survived. I love flying, I always have. - “Pilot” Dan Hall of Connecticut who just survived his second small plane crash in five years

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David Elazar Simai, MD

Dealing with Ear Infections Part II

n the last article I wrote, I recalled the excitement that physicians experience when they first diagnose an ear infection. It seems that not all ear infections warrant antibiotic use. Sometimes the side effects or risks of intervening have to be taken into account. That is why, in my opinion, properly treating ear infections is an art. Parents should not be sent home with a prescription for oral antibiotics without a discussion about the child’s infection and why a certain treatment is appropriate for it. Not all ear infections are created equally. The “old school” thinking was that when you find an ear infection, you should treat it with antibiotics. Obviously, this is no longer the case. These are factors that help physicians in the decision-making process. 1. Fluid vs. Infection –This is the most important factor. Many physicians confuse infected ears with ears that contain fluid. Having fluid in the ears is

a common finding in children with colds. Due to the position and the small size of their Eustachian tubes, children with colds often have fluid in their ears. I like to describe the fluid as just an extension of nasal congestion. We adults seldom develop ear infections due to the large size and the slanting of our Eustachian tubes. Children, however, may have fluid in the ears for a while after a cold is gone. The fluid usually disappears when the weather warms up.

the American Academy of Pediatric Guidelines. 3. Fever – Children with an ear infection and a fever above 103°F should be treated with antibiotics. 4. Pain Level - Children with extreme otalgia (ear pains) commonly have bullos ear infections. Their eardrum is stretched and “balloons out”. These infections are very painful and if not promptly treated, the Tympanic membrane could easily rupture.

If your doctor diagnosed an ear infection and your child is in extreme pain, do not let your child suffer much longer! 2. Age – Ear infections in infants younger than 6 months should be treated with antibiotics, according to

Although most ruptured eardrums heal nicely and the perforation actually relieves the pain as well, some perforated eardrums do not spontaneously close, leading to some hearing loss. There are some intricate ways to surgically repair these perforations, but due to the complexity of the procedure, ENT specialists do not rush to perform these surgeries. To sum it up, if your doctor diagnosed an ear infection and your child is in extreme pain, do not let your child suffer much longer! 5. Hearing Loss – All ear infections will cause a temporary hearing loss. Having fluid in the middle ear obstructs the transmission of sounds into our inner ears. Most ear infections resolve in 2-3 weeks. However, some children may have anatomical changes, allergies or enlarged adenoids that may prolong the time it takes to drain and clear their ears. Therefore, if a toddler is noted to be delayed in speech, I am extra careful when it comes to the problem of middle ear effusion. I try and perform hearing tests at my office or at an audiology clinic to assess the extent of the hearing loss. Each child has a “window” of opportunity for his speech development. This time is very critical for their future abili-

ties to communicate. Many times, surgical intervention to drain the chronic ear fluid results in immediate enhancement of their expressive and receptive speech. So if your child’s speech is not up to par with his peers and you have a fridge full of antibiotics for ear infections – please discuss the possibility of hearing loss with your pediatrician. Ear Recheck Even if your child feels better, inspection of their ears may reveal fluid for 2-3 weeks after the infection. As I like to tell parents: “When the congestion and the mucus from the nose clears, so will the congestion in the ears.” The Art of Medicine This article highlights why practicing medicine is still an art. Even treatment of a simple ear infection requires proper diagnostic skills and a thorough investigation into a patient’s history and speech development. At times, it may be challenging for both the parents and physicians alike. Ultimately, however, we have to do our utmost as parents and physicians to allow our kids to hear the sounds of life in their path to a bright and successful future. Wishing you a happy and healthy winter! David Elazar Simai, M.D.

Dr. David Simai is a Board Certified Pediatrician from the Five Towns. He is a full time attending in his own private practice since 2007 in Cedarhurst, New York. In addition, he is an Attending Physician at LIJ-Cohen Children’s Hospital, North-Shore Manhasset University Hospital and South Nassau Communities Hospital. He can be contacted for consultation at 516 374-2228 or via email at davidsimai@yahoo.com. NOTE: name, gender, geographical area and other identifying information were deliberately altered in this article in order to protect the patient’s privacy. This article is not intended to help diagnose or treat any specific disease. Always consult your personal physician before diagnosing or treating yourself or your child for any of the above mentioned illnesses.

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Alex Idov

The Growing Kosher Industry

s a student majoring in Culinary Sustainability & Hospitality and a kosher food blogger, I think it goes without say that I have a great interest in the culinary world. Unlike many other “foodies,” however, my interest reaches far beyond simply procuring gourmet kosher products and enjoying all things food. What some people would call a quirk of mine is that I also enjoy food history (particularly with regards to kosher brands), grocery stores, and food marketing (again, mainly with regards to kosher foods). The demand for kosher certified products and services in the United States has grown exponentially in the last three decades and it has been an amazing experience to see national companies such as Nabisco, Mars, Kraft, and Miller’s gain kosher certification and begin marketing toward the kosher consumer. I have enjoyed every moment of it (oh, and it tastes good, too!). “There is no doubt that kosher product buyers represent an attractive market seg-

ment for many value-added producers,” boasts the 2006 marketing report by Pennsylvania State University. According to a survey performed in 2011 by the Mintel marketing research firm and the Lubicom marketing and consulting agency, there are approximately 12,250,000 kosher consumers in the U.S., with 21% of American consumers purchasing kosher products solely because they are certified kosher. The marketing report put out by Penn State states that in 2006, when the report was published, the kosher food product industry was estimated at approximately $100 billion. I am sure that the number must

have grown greatly since then, as the demand for a kosher market keeps growing. The report brings proof to this by bringing the fact that there were approximately 60,000 kosher certified products in 2000, growing to around 75,000 certified products in 2002. It is easier today than ever before to gain kosher certification from one of the many

“ethnic kosher” brands (and this phenomenon is mainly restricted to parts of the New York tri-state area). The growing demand for a kosher market is not restricted to food manufacturers, but has become an increasing trend in the hospitality industry. Ever since I can remember, I have been enthralled by the hospitality indus-

The Orthodox Jewish consumer is no longer the common buyer in the kosher segment; it only makes up about 20% of the market. certifying agencies and many companies already produce products that contain all kosher ingredients, making it easier for them to receive approval. The funniest fact about the growing kosher market is that the Orthodox Jewish consumer is no longer the common buyer in the kosher segment; it only makes up about 20% of the market. The majority of the kosher market consists of a growing number of Jewish and non-Jewish consumers who value quality, specialty food products which they find healthier and more appealing. The kosher market is further categorized into two segments: “mainstream kosher” and “ethnic kosher.” My understanding and personal belief is that the majority of kosher certified products that the general public purchase are those in the “mainstream kosher” category. These are products that “happen” to be kosher and are not necessarily purchased for their kosher mark. This includes foods produced by national manufacturers like Hershey’s, Pepsi Cola, and General Mills. The other segment, “ethnic kosher,” encompass the food products that are typically manufactured by strictly kosher/Jewish-owned companies like Kedem grape juice, Yehuda matzah, or jarred gefilte fish (what I like to call the universal grocery store kosher stock). These products are characteristically purchased due solely in part to their kosher mark and identification as a traditional Jewish food. It is my belief that the “ethnic kosher” products are a remnant of a dwindling market and most American kosher consumers today are apt to purchase “mainstream kosher” products, though there is a small percentage of Chassidic and other sects of Orthodox Jews who will strictly buy

try and watch with amazement as world-renowned hotels and resorts take on the task of catering to kosher consumers. My hometown of Atlanta currently has five upscale venues that boast kosher kitchen facilities, including the Georgia Aquarium, Westin Peachtree North, The Intercontinental Buckhead, and the Grand Hyatt Buckhead. The Ritz Carlton hotel chain announced earlier this year that they will be offering kosher catering in conjunction with Mark David Destinations at select resorts throughout the nation (including Atlanta). Many hotels, mainly in New York, Florida, and Chicago, also have kosher dinein options. Co-founder of getaroom.com, Bob Diener, noted, “Hotels are being more creative in targeting different markets, and this [kosher] is an upscale market… There’s a big market of people who keep kosher, and hotels are getting better and savvier at data mining and using the data and acting on the data, which they didn’t do in the past.” And that is the past, while kosher is the wave of the future. While it has been fun observing the growth of the industry both in the manufacturing and hospitality sectors, I hope to join the field myself sometime after I graduate. Until then, I look forward to continue watching the industry grow. Watch out, kosher: here I come! Alex Idov (AKA ‘The Kosherologist’) is a food blogger who runs the blog ‘Kosherology’ and a contributing food columnist to Jewish publications across the U.S. He is currently attending Kennesaw State University (near Atlanta, GA) for his bachelor’s degree in Culinary Sustainability and Hospitality. Visit his website, ‘Kosherology’ @ www.thekosherologist.com

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Nutrition Therapy for Those Suffering from PCOS of moderate or vigorous activity per week is suggested. Even just 30 minutes of walking most days of the week can be extremely beneficial. Many doctors are using medications to help decrease insulin resistance as well. Most medications commonly used are Metformin or one of the glitazones. A metabolic syndrome such as PCOS carries a high risk of developing

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ecently, I heard an excellent presentation at a shul in Flushing where the speaker stated that preserving shalom bayis is one reason to consult an attorney before doing a will. Those who wish to write their own wills, or change them on their own, can leave their family with unnecessary conflict and tension. Two matters of concern are the Spousal Right of Election and the Codicil.

The Spousal Right of Election Another Election Day passed a few weeks ago. We are all familiar with voting on Election Day. However, most of us are not familiar with the spousal right of election in New York law. This right, though, is about inheritance, not voting. The spousal right of election gives the widow or widower the right to obtain the greater of one third of the net estate or fifty thousand dollars, or if the cap-

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problem with his toe. Instead, he went ly about that point—a little thinking to England and became a commando can go a long way. Time Magazine trainer in tactics for a group of civil- wrote about the book, “Anyone who ians known as the Home Guard. They thinks his country will be invaded… were to protect England in case the [would] do well to read “Yank” Levi’s Nazis pulled off Operation Sealion— [sic] Guerrilla Warfare for instruction the invasion of England. The opera- on to harass invaders.” Yank stressed tion was called off because the Ger- in the book that everything possible to man Air Force didn’t gain control of harass the enemy should be done and the skies during the Battle of Britain. anything can be used to an advantage. However, the training of the Home Some of the methods described aren’t Guard went on and Yank was a prima- for this article (I’m afraid I’ll get an ry instructor, teaching thousands from email from a worried mother wonhis experiences in battle. The school dering why her son has been digging was in Osterley Park and Levy was irregular shaped trenches in the backjoined by other former Internation- yard!) but the book was so popular al Brigade members including Tom that it was distributed worldwide. Winteringham who had been his comYank Levy returned to the U.S. in mander in Spain. The school became 1943 and unsuccessfully tried to marso popular that Levy and his staff were ket a combat knife. He was billed as training over 400 new recruits every an expert on the subject of guerrilla week. Eventually, it was closed by warfare and went around the country the government because of its radical lecturing on the topic. Given the honpolitical views and lack of “official” orable title of “the greatest instructor training. in defensive Winteringfighting,” he ham helped wanted to go Levy write his back to Israel book called to help his felGuerrilla Taclow Jews after tics in 1941 and World War II wrote an introended. In the duction to the end, his passbook. He wrote port request about Yank’s was denied accolades and by the U.S. how he made because they his way to Enwere afraid gland to train that his “dirty the Home tricks” may Guard. At the pose a politiend Wintercal threat to the ingham writes, British Man“That is why date. Yank Levy on the cover of Life Magazine in 1942 I recommend Yank died this book not in 1965 at the only to every member of the Home age of 67 but his legacy still lives on Guard but to every soldier who under- through his popular book that is still stands that we may need to do a little being sold today. thinking for victory, and to every civilian who wants to understand what is happening and can happen in this Avi Heiligman is a weekly contributor to war, how to help if invasion comes to The Jewish Home. He welcomes your comthis country, how the Nazis are going ments and suggestions.for future columns and can be reached at aviheiligman@ to be defeated.” In the book Yank goes on exact- gmail.com.

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uerrilla warfare is a type of scouts who told of amazing stories of fighting using unconven- their legendary commander Lawrence tional soldiers who weren’t of Arabia. This was his first introducalways accepted by “proper” armies. tion to guerrilla warfare and Yank deThe term guerrilla, meaning “little cided there to make it a career. Before war,” was used by Spaniards in the his time was up in the Middle East, he 1700s but the concept is much older. contracted malaria. After the war, he It wasn’t until the 20th century that went back to Cleveland, married and using locals to began to start a fight became acfamily. cepted in major However, wars. Manuals Yank Levy still were written to had that itch train these inin him to fight digenous forcand in 1920, he es as well as went to Mexico to train regular to fight in a revsoldiers in close olution. When combat fighting. he heard that One of these his enemy shot manuals was at prisoners for written by the target practice, eccentric Bert he resigned in “Yank” Levy disgust. Soon he A guerrilla soldier destroying a tank who served was employed in many ways again to help a for multiple countries during several revolution. This time it was to supply wars. weapons to Nicaraguan guerrillas unIsaac Meyer Levy—at some point der General Sandino. He also advised he took on the name Bert and later was them on proper fighting techniques given the nickname Yank—was born and made several trips there until the in 1897 in Hamilton, Ontario, Canada. American Marines showed up. Levy His family of ten children moved to didn’t want to fight his own countryBuffalo and then to Cleveland when men, so he returned peacefully to the Bert was seven. As a child, Yank was States. weak so he joined the Boy Scouts In 1927, Yank was arrested, and and took up boxing to make himself after serving time, he moved back to stronger. Throughout his life, he was Canada. He was employed in many an active boxer, an amateur champion fields but when he heard about the in the bantamweight division and at Spanish Revolution in 1937, he went times fought professionally. In 1916, there to fight and train irregulars. Yank he joined the British Merchant Navy served in the International Brigade but and aboard the beef supply ship Man- was captured by fascists after he was dalay he experienced a bombing raid. wounded during the Battle of Jarama. Two years later, he joined the 39th After six months, the Canadian govBattalion of the Royal Fusiliers which ernment was able to bring him home was part of the Jewish Legion. in a prisoner exchange. He wanted to The Jewish Legion was comprised go back to the fighting but he was sick of five battalions in the British Army with diseases he contracted in Spain. during World War I and served in the Friends also convinced him that it Middle East and in Israel in particular. wasn’t the best idea to go back to They were involved in a few actions, fight, so he recruited over 1,000 Canasuffering over 100 fatalities in battle. dians to fight against the fascists. Yank was a machine gunner when When WWII broke out in 1939, his unit entered the Jordan Valley. In Levy tried to enter the Canadian army. September 1918, he met up with two He was rejected because he had a

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Life Coach

Rivki D. Rosenwald Esq., CLC, SDS

Get Out of Your Own Way!

arly morning traffic! Did you just have a visceral reaction? Sweating, clammy hands, anxiety?! If you were blessed with an amazing night’s sleep and woke up relaxed, ready to face the day, this thought – traffic – definitely presents a challenge to continuing in that state. Now, if you tossed and turned all night, or took that common 3:00 AM stroll to the kitchen, which usually lasts till about 5:00 AM, you are even less ecstatic about the bumper-to-bumper drive to work or school ahead of you. An endless sea of cars ripple before you as far as the eye can see. Your only possible escape is Google or Waze. Though, being warned of potholes in the road or cars sitting on the shoulder hasn’t really done a lot for me—I’m kind of trying to avoid actual traffic—that means hearing about cars on the road!

Now, pan to sunset. You’ve put in a full day. You’re ready to head home. Maybe to get there and put your feet up, if you’re one of those lucky few, or maybe to get a barrage of complaints,

heading straight into 600 other cars all accompanying you almost to your front doorstep can truly “drive” you crazy. Wait, let me use less agitating language: “send you over the edge.”

“Traffic” sounds phonetically a lot like “terrific” but it certainly isn’t. condemnations, or criticisms from your kids, mate, parents, whomever, if you’re more typical. Certainly, the last thing you really want to experience during this transitional moment from tension to potential tension – is more tension! Therefore, getting behind the wheel, turning on the ignition and

“Traffic” sounds phonetically a lot like “terrific” but it certainly isn’t. What it is is too many people functioning on the exact same schedule. Is there any way to beat it? By boat? Helicopter? If none of these seem realistic as an option, try mindset! That’s the secret antidote. Try this attitude: it’s your special time on the road. Place your favorite beverage in the handy dandy cup holder, brilliantly designed to accommodate your choice of libation—in other words a round hole. Obviously, you will need to first empty out the pens, cellphones and assorted garbage you also figured it was designed for. Don’t, however, overdrink your drink—just nurse it! The very last thing you want to do is increase travel time by having to make an extra stop. Of course, have a snack on hand as well. Nothing soothes tension like good, old, dependable food! Well, except t maybe a little shot but you can see how this may not be the right place for it! Now, of course, it’s true – you cannot get your important reading or writing done, but you can go oral or even audio… In fact, it’s the best time to do certain things. There’s no distractions, at least inside the car! Soooo go for it. Make those calls you’ve needed to catch up on. Unfortunately, technology today can’t make your car fly—yet! But you can get your phone to practically wake

someone up, dress them, and get them on the line. So then you can get down to business. You can even dictate a letter or paper. Though it may be difficult to decipher what in the world you wrote later on. “Auto” correct—whoops! I didn’t mean to mention cars again—let’s call it “automatic-correct,” literally is the biggest misnomer ever. It’s gotten the automatic down, but it’s a far cry from correct. Granted, it does spell things right, just not anything resembling the words you dictated. It creates a perfectly written document, only it has no connection to your original meaning! So you may

have to spend time later translating it back into English! It’s also a great time to do audio learning. Depending on your level of technological advancement, you can use your iPad or cellphone, or, in regressing order, your CD player, tape recorder, or even resort to picking up your tutor/teacher in person, if you have failed to acquire any advanced skills since receiving your license. Finally, here’s the other wild and crazy idea you can actually attempt! Try using this time as downtime. Just turn on your favorite music, tap out your favorite tunes, or call your loved ones to talk. Then just think of this travel time as a good time rather than a waste of time! Rivki Rosenwald is a certified relationship counselor, and career and life coach. She can be contacted at 917-705-2004 or rivki@ rosenwalds.com

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The Studio

Rachelle Kluger

Miracle of Lights

less than two weeks we will be celebrating Chanukah, the festival of lights. As menorahs are proudly displayed in windows across the world we focus on the tiny flickering flames and the miracle they represent – a tiny cruse of oil sufficient to last only one day burned for eight. In today’s world, it is hard to imagine being dependent on oil as a source of light when with the flick of a switch our

homes are instantly illuminated. Though we often take electricity for granted, when our lights are cut off by storms, hurricanes, and power outages, we realize how “miraculous” this modern convenience is. Although not the first to invent the light bulb, Thomas Edison is credited with the creation of the first long lasting electric light in 1879. After that, the world of lighting changed forever as

candelabras and lanterns were replaced by lamps, chandeliers, overhead lighting, task lighting, and the like.

all the lighting choices available today, the most ubiquitous is the chandelier; it provides a wonderful way to add an interesting aesthetic, color, and personality to any room. These versatile

sources of light once reserved for formal dining rooms and grand entrances have now made their way into kitchens, bedrooms, and even bathrooms. Elegant chandeliers for more traditional homes can be found in any lighting store, but they can also be “discovered” in antique shops or tag sales; their old world quality is virtually unmatched. These vintage fixtures also lend interest, individuality and charm to a room. “Putting an unusual antique fixture over a kitchen island, for example, really makes a statement. It can be the one element in the entire house that defines the homeowner’s taste and sensibility,” says Rachel Septimus of The Studio. “I often spend hours combing the wares at antique fairs to find that one exciting piece that transforms a room from ordinary to extraordinary.” Contemporary chandelier designs on the other hand are following a renewed design aesthetic that appreciates clean lines as well as whimsical details. They create a look that is full of attitude and suits any room in the house. Many chandeliers are abstract and architectural in nature and can sometimes feel like a piece of hanging art. These fixtures don’t conform to any pre-conceived notions of what a light should be and are unusual in composition. Some couple bare bulbs with shaded ones at oblique angles to create a jarring and eye-catching effect. The latest trend in contemporary fixtures that serve to meld traditional and contemporary looks features large drum shaped shades that can be customized to fit into any décor or color scheme. “Another interesting look that has gained popularity over the past number of years and is well suited for the large dining room tables in our clients’ homes is the double chandelier. Putting two chandeliers over a dining room table was unthinkable years ago but we are doing it more and more,” says Rachel. “It distributes light more efficiently and creates balance and symmetry in oversized rooms,” she adds. While technically not chandeliers, there are many modern pendant lights that have the same luxurious look as a beautiful chandelier. The best designs cluster multiple pendant lights together (the more the better) at the end of long cords. Many pendants are done in unusual shapes and colors with textured glass adding an artistic touch over tables, islands or bars. With the advent of so many different bulb types (incandescent, Tungsten-halogen, fluorescent, HID’s, and LED’s) and lighting options, the task of selecting

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400 People Giving Thanks reported 1.31% of the entire country’s adjusted gross income. The big surprise isn’t how much our top 400 make, it’s how they make it. Not salaries and wages — those made up just 6.41% of the total. Not interest and dividends — those made up just 8.54% and 16.41%, respectively. No, the real action came from capital gains, which averaged $165.9 million for each of our top earners. In fact, those 400 taxpayers all by themselves accounted for over 14% of capital gains reported by the entire country. And how much tax did our top 400 pay? Remember, rates on capital gains were capped at just 15% in 2010, and there was no 3.8% net investment income tax as there is today. So, the average “top 400” tax bill was $47.8 million, and the group as a whole paid 2.01% of the entire country’s tax bill. Sure, that sounds like a lot. But it equals a rate of just 18.04% of the average “top 400” income — and barely half the top 35% marginal rate. In fact, 37 of those 400 paid less than 10% of their income in

tax, while just 54 paid over 30%. 4,024 taxpayers have joined the IRS Top 400 over the last 19 years. 2,909 of them appeared just once, which reinforces the fact that most of those lucky winners make it by selling something like a business they spend a lifetime nurturing. 504 have appeared twice; 175 have appeared three times, and 126 have appeared four times. Just 95 taxpayers have appeared on the list 10 or more times, and you can imagine the holidays are pretty lavish at their houses. This holiday season, we want to give thanks to you, our loyal readers. This includes those of you who are clients, and those of you who aren’t (yet). We wish you and your families the best, and we understand that the best reasons to give thanks don’t show up on your tax returns. Allan J Rolnick is a CPA who has been in practice for over 30 years in Queens, NY. He welcomes your comments and can be reached at 718-896-8715 or at allanjrcpa@aol.com.

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400 highest incomes. And while the IRS isn’t telling us everything we want to know (like their names!), the report offers a fascinating peek into the wallets of 400 people with great reasons to give thanks this season. Last week, the numbers geeks in the IRS Statistics of Income division released their Top 400 summary for 2010. (It took a while to sift through the 143 million returns the IRS got that year.) It took $99.1 million in adjusted gross income to make the list. (That means that, among others, billionaire Warren Buffet didn’t make the list, as he revealed his adjusted gross income for that year was a “mere” $63 million.) The average income for the top 400 was $265.1 million, and the group as a whole

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ack in 1982, Forbes magazine compiled their first “Forbes 400” list of the richest Americans. It took $75 million to gain entry to that first list, which featured an entire country club’s worth of Rockefellers, Mellons, and DuPonts. Shipping magnate Daniel K. Ludwig reigned above the rest, with a net worth of $2 billion. (You all remember that guy, right?) Since then, the Forbes 400 has become the magazine’s most eagerly awaited feature, with Silicon Valley tech billionaires and hedge fund superstars replacing the blue-blood heirs of yore. They say that imitation is the sincerest form of flattery. Ten years later, in 1992, our friends at the IRS got into the “400” game, compiling statistics on the

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Elite

Gefen

Chocolit

Taanug

Tomato Sauce

17.6oz

Glicks

Vegetable Oil Cooking Spray

15oz

Devash

Chick Peas

Shwartz

Liebers

½ Gal

Large Dreidels

Milk

16oz

Square Filled Dreidels

6oz

4.49

.79

1.79

Tivalli

Jack & Jill Cookies

Veggie Corn Bites

.89

2/$5

2/$3

3/$2

Kineret

Mendelsohns

Gesher

Quaker

Lapid-Or Ready To Use

4pk

1.25oz

42oz

Chocolate Chip Cookies

21.20 Oz

Pizza

Snack Pak

Oatmeal

Chanukah Oil Candles

12oz

4.99

2/ 3

Tasty Yogurt

Gedilla

2.99

Snackers 12oz

1.99

Liebers

Rainbow Sprinkles 11oz

1.99

Gefen

Natural Applesauce 46oz

Liebers

6oz

Chocolate Baking Bar

3.49

Gefen

Kleenex

2.99

Gefen

Chunk Light Tuna In Water

3.99

8oz

12oz

Liebers

Vanilla Custard

Ohr

Chanukah Jellies

Olive Oil Bottle

3.99

2/$3

Gefen

Semisweet Chocolate Chips

2.99

1.99

Kedem

Natural And Kosher

4.2oz

108 Slices

Tea Biscuits

Natural And Kosher

Cheese

Elite

Shredded Pizza Cheese

Chocolate Bars 3oz

8oz

2/$1

Snapple

Pomodori

Glicks

New York Pasta

5lb

13oz

Marshmallow Fluff

160ct.

1.99

3.99

64oz

Pizza

13.99

2.99

Flour

Fiber Biscotti

8 Slices

Ravioli

.99

16oz

4.5oz

2/$3

3/$5

8.99

2/$5

1.99

3.99

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Grapefruit

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Bakery

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30oz

40pk

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4.49

9oz

1.29

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Liebers

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15oz

6oz

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Beigels

Oberlander’s

Chanukah Cupcakes

Chocolate & Cinnamon

Pinwheels

Chanukah Stars

12oz

.99

.79

3/$1

2/$5

3.99

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2.99Lb

Chicken Bones

1.29Lb

Swiss Steaks

6.99Lb

Cholent Meat $

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3.49

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3.99

Large 32oz

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