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ten by Renee Muller. When emailing Renee, she said that she knew a Shoshana Soroka in seminary; could that be me? We reconnected, and yes, it was my seminary friend from way-backwhen. She laughed when I kept on gushing over her new cookbook. I couldn’t believe that the person who was responsible for the delicious recipes, the sophisticated food styling, and the striking photos was someone who I knew years ago. And yes, I began to feel inadequate again. How does she do it all? Does her yom tov seudah look straight out of the pages of a magazine? (I would imagine that it does!) Here is what I tell myself, and I’d like to share it with all those people who are not food stylists in their spare time. Yom tov is not about food decorating or new recipes or Top Chef wannabes. Yom tov is about family. It is about spending time around the table sharing stories, singing songs, and enjoying each other’s company. If you like spending time in the kitchen and it brings you extra pleasure – and not stress – to present restaurant-like dishes to your loved ones, kol hakavod. But if you’re like me, and you and your family like the delicious, tried-and-true dishes that bring back memories of yom tovs past, relax as you look through pages of mouthwatering recipes, knowing that your yom tov will be just as delightful as long your family shares it together.

ver glance through pages of a Jewish magazine before yom tov and start to feel inadequate? You’re not alone. Every time I see recipes with fifteen different ingredients – some of which you’ll use only once in your cooking career – for foods artfully arranged on weathered wood planks, my stomach clenches. Am I supposed to make that for yom tov? Will my family only be happy if they have the balsamic glazed Cornish hens with rosemary, figs, coffee and star of anise on yom tov night? How about the seven-layered salted caramel ice cream pie infused with bourbon flavored vanilla and topped with homemade truffles and gold leaf? Is that the only way to bring in yom tov? My mother used to joke that when I first got married if I saw a recipe that required sautéing an onion, I’d turn the page. “Nah, too hard,” I’d say. Now we can laugh about it. Sautéed onions add enormous flavor, and I’m only too glad to add caramelized onions to my cooking. But I draw the line at some of the recipes that fill the pages of Jewish women magazines before holidays. Yes, many of the magazines – TJH included – publish recipes before yom tov as ideas for cooking mothers and for entertainment. Just as it’s pleasurable to look through the pages of a new cookbook (one night my daughter asked me to “read” her a cookbook before bed), flipping through pages of a magazine with delectable food is just as enjoyable. Recently, Artscroll came out with another feast-for-your-eyes cookbook, Our Table, writ-

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Contents LETTERS TO THE EDITOR

COMMUNITY Readers’ Poll Community Happenings

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NEWS

Israel News

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Global

National

Odd-but-True Stories

ISRAEL 21

The House that the Hales Built by Rafi Sackville

PEOPLE Phil-ing in the Gaps: Assemblyman Goldfeder Reminisces about His Five Years in Albany 72 Martial Arts, an MBA and a Motivation to Effect Change: TJH Speaks with Mayor Elaine Phillips, Candidate for State Senate 78 Sailing the Seas of World War II by Avi Heiligman

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THOUGHTS ON SUKKOS Sukkot by Rabbi Berel Wein

Looks can be Deceiving by Rabbi Jonathan Gewirtz

Meat, Wine, and the Pursuit of Happiness by Eytan Kobre

A Symbolic Sukkos by Rabbi Mordechai Kamenetzky Sukkot: The Final Destination by Larry Domnitch CHOL HAMOED GUIDE

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STORIES OF INSPIRATION The Darkest Sukkah in Jerusalem by Rabbi Yerachmiel Tilles

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“Appreciate Life!” Nonagenarian Mr. Bernie Brickman Shares His Memories S26 Be Our Guests: How Two Families have Mastered the Art of Hosting Crowds of People Every Shabbos S30 HEALTH & FITNESS Trust by Deb Hirschhorn, PhD

Yes, a Diabetic Can Enjoy Yom Tov by Cindy Weinberger MS, RD, CDN

Life is Happy. The Only Thing Missing is…Hashem? by Mindi Werblowsky Saketkhou, LMSW 92

Dear Editor, Better late than ever… I would like to share with your readers a great chessed trip which involved many groups this past summer. Every year, Camp Revach creates a week full of chessed trips the week before Tisha B’Av. On one of those trips the girls had a food scavenger hunt at Gourmet Glatt. Each group was given a list of clues, such as “something that has an expiration date of 2017” or “something that reminds you of the Three Weeks,” to purchase nonperishable foods. After the hunt, the girls presented their very creative selections to all the groups in a reserved aisle in Gourmet Glatt. The items were then donated to the JCC Food Pantry down the block in Woodmere. Renee from the pantry described how the pantry got started, how it is run and who it services. Camp Revach stocked the “store” placing the food in the correct “aisles.” A very special thank you to Mr. Steinberg from Gourmet Glatt who graciously doubled our donation to the food pantry by giving 50% off of every item! When asked to participate he jumped at the mitzvah and said he “was proud to partner in this special mitzvah!” The team at Gourmet Glatt also treated the girls to Dum Dum lollipops and enthusiastic smiles. Sincerely, Reba Singer/Camp Revach

Dear Editor, I want to publicly thank the kind person who found my car keys and returned them to the Oh Nuts store. It is a wonderful community we are privileged to live in and we are thankful to the thoughtfulness of others. May you be sealed and inscribed in the Book of Life for a good, sweet revealed year, Walter and Chana Epstein Dear Editor, When you read the account of the Yom Kippur War and how Israel was so surprised by the attacks by their neighbors, you truly see yad Hashem. Many of those who were called up to fight were not active soldiers. Imagine calling someone up for a job that they did months ago and then have them jump into it – right in the thick of it – right away. It’s unheard of, at least in a successful organization. Only Hashem could have orchestrated such an awesome victory. Sincerely, Avi Preiser Dear Editor, Thank you for printing Prime Minister Benjamin Netanyahu’s address to the UN General Assembly in its entirety. His words are so true and powerful. I only wish that the nations of the world would actually listen and Continued on page 12

FOOD & LEISURE The Aussie Gourmet: Stuffed Cabbage S34

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Scrumptious Sukkos Starters by Jamie Geller S36 LIFESTYLES Dating Dialogue, Moderated by Jennifer 84 Mann, LCSW

Your Money

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Are you going out-oftown for Sukkos?

You are Wearing that Inside Out by Rivki D. Rosenwald Esq., CLC, SDS 118 HUMOR Centerfold

Rocky’s Rant: Roof Goof

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Uncle Moishy Fun Page

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POLITICAL CROSSFIRE Notable Quotes

How the Bard Might View the 2016 Election by Michael Gerson

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The Stillborn Legacy of Barack Obama by Charles Krauthammer

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heed what he has to say. Sadly, it’s really all talk. When you don’t have a partner with whom you can work, nothing can happen and nothing will succeed. A Reader Dear Editor, I applaud those shuls that had security guards on Rosh Hashana and Yom Kippur. As members of a large, growing Jewish community near main thoroughfares and near the airport, we must be careful about our safety. There are many shteeblach around town; those shuls should also be protected. We cannot be naïve! We cannot rely on the patroling police officers. They are not an adequate deterrent. As Sukkos nears and as Simchas Torah is coming up, we should have extra security at our shuls and yeshivos as well. Part of the security’s reponsiblities should be watching out

for youth that are drunk or rowdy. They should not be allowed into our shuls. Parents, please be aware of where your children will be on Simchas Torah and who they will be hanging out with. Simchas Torah is not supposed to be an excuse to get drunk. (I personally don’t even know why there is overdrinking on Simchas Torah. What is the connection between rejoicing with the Torah and drinking to excess?) Yes, your children may be getting older, but knowing who they are hanging out with and open communication with your teen will help your child remain strong in certain situations. Wishing you a chag sameach, Chaim N.

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The Week In News

King of Jordan Awarded for Aiding Refugees

Last Saturday, King Abdullah II of Jordan was awarded the Westphalian Peace Prize, a prestigious award,

in Germany for his peace efforts in the Middle East. German President Joachim Gauck said the royal and his fellow Jordanians had “set standards for humanity” for their work in the region’s refugee crisis. He also lauded the king’s efforts in finding a twostate solution in the Israel-Palestine struggle. Jordan, with a population of about 6.5 million, is hosting about 635,000 refugees from neighboring war-torn Syria. The international community is facing “the biggest worldwide refugee crisis in human history,” Abdullah said upon acceptance. “We are standing before a global crisis, which requires a global action.” He called on other countries to do their part to aid refugees in crisis. Earlier in the week the king praised German Chancellor Angela Merkel’s “open door” refugee policy and her government’s support of other countries in the region dealing with the flood of refugees from Syria. Last year, Germany welcomed almost 900,000 refugees. The annual prize commemorates the conclusion of the Peace of Westphalia, a series of treaties concluded and announced in Muenster town

hall in 1648 that ended the Thirty Years’ War and other conflicts. It has honored distinguished individuals and organizations regarded as role models for promoting peace and equality since 1998 and is awarded in conjunction with a youth prize given to a young individual and youth organization. This year’s youth prize was awarded to the Action Reconciliation Service for Peace, a German peace organization that confronts the legacy of Nazism. Both recipients receive a 100,000 euro prize.

Tax Scam Ring Raided

A large arrest was made just outside of Mumbai this week when a tax scam ring that had swindled Ameri-

cans out of tens of millions of dollars was shut down. So far, over 70 people have been detained, and more arrests are on the way. The scheme was run from a huge call center. Scammers would call victims posing as IRS officials and left voicemails that accused the victim of tax evasion and threatened them with arrest. Assistant police commissioner Bharat Shelke explained that after being threatened, “some used to call back, and employees at the call center then demanded a few thousand dollars to settle the case,” he said. Suspicions should have been raised when unused iTunes gift cards were also accepted if the victim did not have any cash. While the owner of one of the call centers was among those arrested, police reports indicate the ringleaders were not brought in. Authorities say that the callers were instructed to alter their Indian accent to an American one. They were handed six-page scripts that contained answers for different scenarios, including how to overcome the doubts and suspicions of their victims. Many of the workers were “very convincing in recorded conversations,” according to police officials.

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Callers made between $150 and $1,050 a month. “Employees were aware of the fraud, but since they were getting a good salary, they remained silent,” Shelke said. Beware of the IRS – whether it’s authentic or not.

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Until a Hundred and Fifteen?

The longest documented lifespan in history was that of Jeanne Calment. The upbeat French woman died in 1997 at the age of 122. Scientists now believe that her record age may not be beaten for a long time. Analysis was conducted at Albert Einstein School of Medicine on the statistical mortality trends across 40 countries. While the average life expectancy rate is rising, the statistics show that as a species, humans have hit their longevity ceiling. A person who lived to be 115 in 1970 does not have a greater life expectancy than a person approuching 115 today. Since Calment’s death, the age-ceiling trend has been around 115. “It is possible that someone might live slightly longer, but the odds of anybody in the world surviving to 125 in any given year is less than one in 10,000,” observed molecular geneticist Brandon Milholland, who helped lead the study published in the journal Nature. “Despite any gains in the average life expectancy, there is a limit beyond which the maximum lifespan of humans cannot be extended,” Milholland pointed out. Italian woman Emma Morano, 116, is recognized as the world’s oldest living person.

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If you invent a machine that is 1,000 times thinner than a human hair, you can definitely expect to get some recognition. Frenchman JeanPierre Sauvage, Scottish-born Fraser Stoddart and Dutch scientist Bernard “Ben” Feringa have all won the Nobel Prize in chemistry for doing just that. The three scientists will share the $930,000 prize for the “design and synthesis of molecular machines,” which was presented to them by the Royal Swedish Academy of Sciences. The Academy said that molecular-level machines “will most likely be used in the development of things such as new materials, sensors and energy storage systems.” Although the practical applications are still very far away, the Academy called the advances “very exciting.” Illinois native Stoddart, 74, has already developed a 20 kB molecule-based computer chip. The Northwestern University chemistry teacher believes that chips that small may be the next step in the technology revolution of the past two centuries. Feringa, an organic chemistry professor in the Netherlands, leads a group of researchers that built a “nanocar” in 2011 that has four molecular motors as wheels. Sauvage, 71, is professor emeritus at the University of Strasbourg and director of research emeritus at France’s National Center for Scientific Research. The trio’s work has also inspired hundreds of scientists around the globe to expand the field of molecular technology. Robots have been built that can hold amino acids, the building blocks of proteins. “I feel a little bit like the Wright brothers, who were flying 100 years ago for the first time and then people were saying, ‘Why do we need a flying machine?’” Feringa, 65, told reporters in Stockholm. “And now we have a Boeing 747 and an Airbus. So that is a bit how I feel.” This year, the medicine prize was awarded to a Japanese biologist who discovered the process by which a cell

breaks down and recycles content. The physics prize was also split three ways between three British-born scientists whose theoretical discoveries have shed light on strange states of matter.

Afghan Criminals Get Rich off U.S. Taxpayers

The American taxpayers have spent more than $100 billion rebuilding the infrastructure in Afghanistan. But the committee that oversees the spending has concluded that huge sums of taxpayer dollars have made millionaires out of corrupt builders, officials, warlords, and gangsters. Special Inspector General for Afghanistan Reconstruction (SIGAR) John Sopko admitted, “Our $114 billion investment in Afghanistan has been plagued by criminal acts.” He continued, “Injecting tens of billions of dollars into a small country with insufficient oversight and flawed contracting practices created opportunities for the theft and embezzlement of foreign aid.” According to Sopko, virtually every dollar that has been spent in the war-torn country has had greedy hands reaching for it. His office is responsible for preventing further fraud and corruption and identifying those in the U.S. and Afghanistan who have stolen the funds. A large portion of the monies have gone to warlords and militia leaders who “guard the U.S. supply chain for a fee,” according to a report issued by the Congressional Committee on Oversight and Government Reform. The report shows that these modern day gangsters provide “protection” for a charge, making money off of their poorly veiled threats. But warlords are not the only Af-

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ghans to raid the $114 billion cookie jar. In 2013, 21 executives and employees of the Kabul Bank – which was founded after the war to pay army and security forces – were found guilty of fraud after they spent over a billion of the bank’s dollars to support their lavish lifestyles. The fraud was even found at levels of the bank’s management, including the bank chairman, Sherkhan Farnood. Sopko has written a report detailing how the United States has “turned a blind eye” to the rampant corruption. “The U.S. government was forced to choose between maintaining a hard line against corruption or retreating in the face of the realization that fighting corruption would either require even more political capital than anticipated, or be largely futile in the absence of Afghan political will,” the report stated.

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tance has already begun to pour into the poor country. In addition to U.S. aid, ships are beginning to arrive from France, the Netherlands, and the United Kingdom. U.S. President Barack Obama appealed to Americans to help other countries by donating to the Red Cross and other relief organizations, as Matthew brushed by the Florida coast. “We know that hundreds of people ... lost their lives and that they’re going to need help rebuilding,” he urged. Over 350,000 Haitians are in need of some sort of assistance in the aftermath of Matthew. At least 61,000 are living in temporary shelters until they can rebuild their homes.

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Haitian ambassador to the United States, Paul Altidor, said that Haiti unfortunately expects that number of 300 to “rise a little bit as we begin to access communities, regions that were inaccessible because of the roads …[and] the bridges that fell due to the hurricane.” Winds of 125 miles per hour destroyed thousands of homes and cut off many areas from the rest of the country. “The southern peninsula has been devastated,” said U.S. Navy Rear Adm. Cedric Pringle, commander of the Joint Task Force Matthew. Humanitarian and disaster relief assis-

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The 15 Security Council members at the United Nations have put forth former Portuguese Prime Minister Antonio Guterres’ name to become the next United Nations secretary-general. Though a formal vote has not yet been held, Guterres, who was head of the UN’s refugee agency for 10 years until 2015, has been the favorite in the straw polls that have been conducted. Guterres led Portugal from 1995 to 2002 as head of the Socialist Party. In order to become secretary-general, a candidate is recommended by the Security Council and then must be approved by the General Assembly, which consists of 193 members. 13 candidates were put forward, so six straw polls were conducted to reach only one candidate to be put in front of the General Assembly for approval. Guterres was born in Lisbon in 1949. He studied engineering and Continued on page 20

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held until 2002. Fluent in Portuguese, English, Spanish and French, he has since turned his attention to the world of international diplomacy, becoming the UN’s high commissioner for refugees in 2005. If approved, the 67-year-old Guterres will replace the current secretary-general, South Korea’s Ban Ki-

moon, whose second five-year term ends on December 31. While there is technically no limit to how many times a secretary-general can serve, no one has ever held the position more than twice.

It’s a wonder why so few Nazi criminals made it to prison postWorld War II. But recent revelations have shed light on the justice system after the Holocaust, revealing the true reason why so many weren’t brought to justice. According to a new official study released on Monday, Germany’s postWorld War II justice ministry was infested with ex-Nazis determined to protect their former comrades. 77 percent of senior ministry officials in 1957 were former members of Adolf Hitler’s Nazi party, a higher proportion even than during the 1933-45 Third Reich, the study found. “We didn’t expect the figure to be this high,” admitted study co-author Christoph Safferling, who evaluated former ministry personnel files. The fascist old-boys network closed ranks, enabling its members to shield each other from justice, the study found – helping explain why so few Nazi war criminals ever went to prison. “The Nazi-era lawyers went on to cover up old injustice rather than to uncover it and thereby created new injustice,” said Heiko Maas, Germany’s justice minister, who presented the report Monday.

Colombian President Awarded Nobel Prize for Peace Efforts In this case, many are saying he’s being awarded the prize just for effort. Last week, Colombian President Juan Manuel Santos exulted as he was awarded the Nobel Peace Prize. After suffering the worst defeat of his political career – having his peace

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proposal shot down – Santos was acknowledged for his effort to put an end to the civil war raging in his country. The conflict has left more than 220,000 people dead and forced about 7 million from their homes since it began almost a half a century ago, in 1964. The timing of the prize was ironic being that Colombians voted on Sunday against Santos’s peace accord, which many felt was too generous to the Revolutionary Armed Forces of Colombia (FARC).

“There is a real danger that the peace process will come to a halt and that civil war will flare up again,” warned Kaci Kullmann Five, a former Norwegian politician who is now chair of the Norwegian Nobel Committee. “We hope it will encourage all good initiatives and all the parties who could make a difference in this process in Colombia.” Upon graciously accepting the award, Santos dedicated the prize to the Colombian people and the millions of victims of strife in his country. “This is for the victims,” he said in an address to his nation, “so that there won’t be one more victim, nor one more death. We must come together and unite to complete this process and begin to build a stable and lasting peace.” On Sunday, while visiting the ravaged town of Bojaya, the president revealed that he will be donating the $930,000 prize money to those who were hit in the conflict and will be channeled to infrastructure projects in conflict areas and to victims’ groups.

Most Visited Cities Worldwide When traveling the globe, the world is your oyster. Where did most of world travelers end up visiting on their vacations? Recently, by analyzing airline ticket purchases, souvenir purchases, and other travel spending data, the Global Destination Cities

In 2014, there were 1.13 billion international tourists traveling the globe. Experts expect the number of tourists to exceed 1.8 billion by 2030. Europe produced the most travelers in 2014 with 575 million Europeans heading outbound. All that traveling churns out big bucks. In 2014, close to $7.6 million were spent on travel. But where were we all going? The top 2016 destinations in the world were: 1. Bangkok, Thailand 2. London, UK 3. Paris, France 4. Dubai, UAE 5. New York, NY 6. Singapore 7. Kuala Lumpur, Malaysia 8. Istanbul, Turkey 9. Tokyo, Japan 10. Seoul, South Korea

2 Murdered in Jerusalem Attack

Sunday morning turned tragic in Jerusalem as an East Jerusalem terrorist opened fire at police and pedestrians. Two people were murdered in the attack; five others were injured. The terrorist possessed an Israeli identification card, according to Public Security Minister Gilad Erdan. “There were no prior warnings ahead of a focused attack like this,” Erdan said. The terrorist was killed by secu-

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Knesset who retired in 2010, having worked there for over 30 years. She is survived by her husband, three children, and six grandchildren and was known to be a warm person who kept in touch with friends at the Knesset even after retiring. The terrorist, who had served five months in an Israeli prison in the past, was supposed to start another prison sentence on Sunday. After the attack, a video was made public in which his daughter spoke about how proud they were of her father. “We’re very happy and proud of our father,” she can be heard and seen on the recording. “My father is a great man. Our relationship, as father and daughter, was excellent.” There were celebrations in the streets as sweets and baklava were handed out in the Gaza Strip and in East Jerusalem. The terrorist was a member of the Morabitun, a group of Muslim extremists who regularly go to the Temple Mount to harass and threaten Jewish visitors. Hamas put out a video chronicling his life. A few hours later, Hamas published a statement recognizing the terrorist as one of its members and “a symbol of the city,” adding that “he gave his life today for the al-Aqsa mosque and the city of al-Quds.”

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rity forces. Hamas praised the shooting, calling it “heroic,” “brave” and a “natural response to the occupation,” Army Radio reported. One of the people who was killed on Sunday morning was a 29-year-old police officer, First Sergeant Yosef Kirma. He was just recently married. Kirma’s father, Uzi, eulogized his son. “Yossi, you were my friend. Now

you are no longer with us anymore. How is it possible to continue? What will I do now?” he said. “How can I move on from here? I love you so much.” Yossi’s wife Noy lamented their short time together. “We had so many plans together, a home, children, and you always supported my career. You loved me always, unconditionally, even more than I loved myself,” she

said. “My Yossi, look how many people came just for you. You are my light and my heart.” This is not the first time Kirma tried to stop a terrorist from harming others. He was decorated after helping to stop a terror attack in December 2015. The other victim of the attack was Levana Malihi, 60, a grandmother and former longtime employee of the

A family vacation turned tragic when the SUV that the Greenfeld family was driving in the former Soviet state of Georgia overturned. Two of the Greenfeld children, Achinoam, 10, and her brother, Nevo, 5, were killed. Noa, the mother, was seriously wounded; Hanoch, the father, was moderately hurt. The two other children, Yiftah and Ivri, were slightly wounded. The four surviving family members were taken to Israel on Wednesday via a special ambulance-plane, which was the only plane to land in Israel on Yom Kippur. The accident in which the two children died was, according to Georgian authorities, apparently caused by poor road visi-

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This week, it was revealed that the Shin Bet foiled a plot of a suicide bus bombing in Jerusalem. Hamas operative Muhammad Fuaz Ibrahim Julani, a resident of the Shuafat refugee camp, was arrested and indicted a few days before he planned to carry out his attack. The 22-year-old was planning the attack over the past few months. In September, he told an accomplice he planned to carry out the suicide bombing as “this is the way of G-d,” according to the indictment. The Hamas terror group’s operatives in the Gaza Strip had been in contact with Julani through the internet in order to plan the bombing and had also encouraged him to recruit other people to carry out attacks, according to the indictment filed against him Tuesday in the Jerusalem District Court. “This investigation reiterates and highlights the unrelenting effort by Hamas operatives in the Gaza Strip to instigate severe terror attacks in Israel and the West Bank,” the Shin Bet said in a statement. Though Julani ultimately decided to carry out a suicide bus bombing in the Pisgat Ze’ev neighborhood of Jerusalem, according to the Shin Bet, the terrorist had many plans in which to inflict terror and carnage. He said in his interrogation he had

also considered a shooting attack with an AK-47 assault rifle near the Hizme checkpoint; bombing a store where he had worked in 2011; throwing an improvised explosive device at the checkpoint in Shuafat; and pipe bomb attacks in high-traffic locations of Jerusalem, like the bus station and the Malha shopping mall. Approximately a year ago, Julani had also considered carrying out a stabbing attack in Pisgat Ze’ev, going so far as to purchase a 6-inch knife and to travel to the Jerusalem neighborhood, “but decided not to carry out the attack for fear that his parents’ home would be demolished,” according to the indictment. Instead, the East Jerusalem resident decided to carry out a suicide bombing after the Muslim holiday of Eid al-Adha, which was celebrated from September 12 to 16. By carrying out his attack after the holiday, Julani hoped to prevent Israel from restricting Muslims’ access to the Temple Mount during the holiday, according to the Shin Bet. When Julani was arrested on September 9, he had already purchased the materials necessary to create his bomb, including nails that he planned to pack into the device to maximize the damage. Two members of Julani’s family, Mehmed and Iyad Julani, were also arrested for allegedly helping him hide his illegal weapons. Julani was charged with planning to assist the enemy in wartime, contact with a foreign agent, being a member of a terrorist organization, and illegal use of property for the purpose of terror.

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When Clinton called Trump’s temperament into question and said, “It’s just awfully good that someone with the temperament of Donald Trump is not in charge of the law in our country,” Trump fired back: “Because you would be in jail.” Although there was much discussion about recent controversies involving Trump, there was also discussion about a recent WikiLeaks dump which discloses that Clinton told Wall Street bankers that it is OK to have a public and a private position on any given policy. Clinton defended her speech by saying that a movie about President Lincoln showed that he did the same thing. Trump retorted, “She lied. Now she is blaming the lie on the late great Abraham Lincoln. Honest Abe never lied.” The format for the debate was a town hall meeting in which the undecided voters on the stage – who bore a great resemblance to the cast of Guess Who? – would ask questions of the candidates. However, most of the time was taken up by a back-andforth between the candidates and only several questions were asked by the voters onstage. There was a substantive conversation about the failings of Obamacare and the crisis in Syria, but most of that came between the sharp barbs. In the immediate aftermath of the debate many are of the opinion that Trump’s performance brought his campaign back from the brink and enables him to fight another day, although he likely did not attract any new voters.

However, there was one clear winner at the debate: Ken Bone. Bone asked a question about energy independence. But it wasn’t the question that endeared him to millions of Americans and made him an instant social media sensation, rather it was the bright red cardigan sweater that he wore so well. By the morning after the debate Ken was on numerous shows discussing his wardrobe choice and explained that he actually purchased a brand new olive green suit for the debate but the pants split as he was getting into his car so he wore the red sweater instead. All I got to say is: “Kenny boy, you will never win that war. When they say you are size 48, don’t try to squeeze into a 44. It never ends well.”

“I’m Not Tired, I Just Have an XL Brain!”

This new study is for every teacher who took offense from your mid-lecture yawn – it was actually a declaration from our brains. Psychologist Andrew Gallup of the State University of New York at Oneonta and his colleagues recently released an article claiming that yawning actually promotes brain growth and activity and the duration of a yawn is heavily correlated to brain size. The researchers gathered 109 individuals from 19 species, including humans, African elephants, walruses, mice, rabbits, and capuchin monkeys. After analyzing the motley crew they discovered that the average yawn of the individual predicts the species’ brain weight and its number of cortical neurons. A long yawn represents a complex brain. Primates, including humans, have the longest yawn of all mammals. Humans don’t, however, have the largest brain. That accolades goes to elephants, who have the heaviest brains. But human brains are the most complex, followed by

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African elephants who also have more cortical neurons than other primates and the second longest yawn, perhaps hinting at their intelligence. There has been previous research and findings on this topic. A 2014 study found that yawning also jumpstarts the brain. Researchers believe that a yawn arouses the brain from its default mode, a sort of background humming-along state, and into a paying-attention state by increasing the circulation of cerebrospinal fluid. About a decade ago, a Gallup study suggested that by yawning, opening our jaws and breathing in air it cools off the brain, a theory that has come to be known as the thermoregulatory theory of yawning. “Longer and/or [more] powerful yawns should provide greater physiological effects,” Gallup said at the time. This theory prompted a prediction: yawn duration should correlate with brain size and complexity, since having a larger and more neuron-dense brain might require more blood flow. To test that idea, Gallup and his colleagues timed yawns captured in YouTube videos. The duration varied from 0.8 seconds (mice) to 6.5 seconds (people).

Columbus Day name for decades, reportedly declaring the second Monday in October as Native Americans Day in 1990. Phoenix became the largest city to recognize Indigenous Peoples’ Day after a city council vote made it official last Thursday. Dozens of other cities also approved the name change in recent years, including Denver and Seattle. Last week, though, one city refused to downgrade Christopher Columbus. Cincinnati’s city council voted against a proclamation that would have recognized Indigenous Peoples’ Day. As much as they try, it’s hard to erase him from the history books.

Record Number of Muslims Welcomed to the U.S.

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Most of us wouldn’t have known it was Columbus Day on Monday besides for the fact that the school buses weren’t running. But even so, in a few years it’s possible that Columbus Day will no longer be on your calendar. Many states and cities are moving to downplay the role of Columbus in our nation’s history, favoring instead to rebrand the day and rename it Indigenous Peoples’ Day. Among the states engaged in the rebranding is Vermont, where Gov. Peter Shumlin said the “sacrifice and contributions of the First Peoples of this land” would be honored. He wrote that the day provided an opportunity to celebrate “indigenous heritage and resiliency.” South Dakota has avoided the

America is known as the melting pot of the world, where many different people from many different lands and religions come together. With the promise of freedom and religion it has become an attractive destination for refugees seeking a better life. This year, America has welcomed a record number of Muslim refugees with open arms. According to a Pew Research Center analysis of data from the State Department’s Refugee Processing Center, in the fiscal year 2016, 38,901 Muslim refugees touched down on American soil. From Oct. 1, 2015, through Sept. 30, 2016, a total of 85,000 refugees entered the country– 46% Muslim. Another 44% percent are Christian, with 37,521 refugees. The last time that a larger amount of Muslims entered the U.S. than Christians was in 2006, when a large number of Somali refugees came into the United States, accord-

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ing to Pew. The origin of the Muslim immigrants calling the U.S. home this year was Somalia (9,012 refugees), Syria (12,486 refugees), Iraq (7,853), Myanmar (3,145), Afghanistan (2,664) and other countries (3,741). The Obama administration is most proud of the number of Syrian refugees. The White House had set a goal of accepting 10,000 Syrians amid the brutal civil war raging in the region. The goal was met in August, way ahead of schedule. “On behalf of the president and his Administration, I extend the warmest of welcomes to each and every one of our Syrian arrivals, as well as the many other refugees resettled this year from all over the world,” Susan Rice, President Obama’s national security adviser, said in a statement at the time. Despite the rising concern that some refugees may have terrorist ties the Obama White House has called it “shameful” and “not American” to reject Syrian refugees. In June, a federal court threw out a Texas lawsuit that had tried to prohibit Syrian refugees from residing in the state.

Brooklyn DA Dies of Cancer

On Sunday, just days after revealing to the public his battle with cancer, Brooklyn District Attorney Ken Thompson died. He was 50-yearsold. Thompson took the job in 2014 — becoming the borough’s first African-American district attorney — after defeating longtime incumbent Charles Hynes. “With a heavy heart, the family of Brooklyn District Attorney Ken Thompson announced that the District Attorney passed away today after a hard fought battle with cancer,” his office said in a statement on Sunday night. “Thompson is survived by his wife of 17 years, Lu-Shawn Thompson, his two children, Kennedy and Kenny, his mother, father, brother

and sister.” The Post reported that Thompson had been out of the office since May, acting “extremely hands-on” from his Brooklyn home while undergoing treatment at the same time. “As a man of intense faith, I intend to fight and win the battle against this disease,” he had said in a statement last Tuesday. “I humbly seek your sincere prayers as I confront this challenge.” Thompson had been a federal prosecutor with the US Attorney for the Eastern District of New York before he was elected in 2013. As district attorney, Thompson ordered his office not to prosecute low-level marijuana arrests in part to devote more resources to fight gun crimes, assaults against women and domestic violence. He said he also wanted to spare younger New Yorkers from “the burden of a criminal record.” In a tumultuous time between the white and African-American communities, Thompson presided over the prosecution against police officer Peter Liang in the accidental shooting death of Akai Gurley. Liang was convicted of manslaughter — a charge that could have resulted in a 15-year

sentence. But Brooklyn Supreme Court Justice Danny Chun controversially reduced the charge to criminally negligent homicide after Thompson asked the judge not to send him to prison.

EpiPen Makers Sued by Medicaid

The abuse of power by drug maker Mylan is shocking. Recently the pharmaceutical company cranked up the price of the lifesaving drug that counteracts allergic reactions. Mylan acquired the EpiPen this year and has been accused of price-gouging. In 2007, the device cost just $94. It skyrocketed to $608 this year, while experts have estimated that it costs less than $10 to produce one EpiPen. The company will pay out $465

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million to settle allegations that it overcharged Medicaid for EpiPens. According to recent revelations, EpiPen has been falsely classified as a generic product under the Medicaid health program for the poor and disabled. However, the federal government says EpiPen is a branded drug, meaning Mylan should have been paying Medicaid a far higher rebate under the government’s complex pricing rules. Drug makers are required to pay Medicaid rebates of just 13 percent for generic products it purchases, versus a 23.1 percent rebate for brand-name drugs, which cost far more. “I am glad the Department of Justice pursued this so quickly, since the misclassification was an outrage,” Sen. Amy Klobuchar, D-Minn., said in a statement. Medicaid and other government health programs are valuable clients of EpiPens. Medicare and Medicaid spent $486.8 million in 2015 on EpiPens – that’s a 463% increase from $86.5 million in 2011. Last week, Mylan said in a statement that the proposed settlement resolves all potential federal and state government claims and doesn’t provide a finding of wrongdoing on the

part of the England-based company. “This agreement is another important step in Mylan’s efforts to move forward and bring resolution to all EpiPen Auto-Injector related matters,” CEO Heather Bresch said in a statement.

Liberal Professors Dominate Campuses

Colleges are notoriously liberal but it’s not just the students who generate the liberal, leftist sentiment. Professors and leaders on campus are equally as liberal. A new study published in Econ Journal Watch last month confirms that liberal professors outnumber conservative professors drastically on college campuses.

This may help explain campus protests regarding national and global politics. The study was based on faculty voter registration at 40 leading universities, and concluded that of 7,243 professors, Democrats outnumber Republicans 3,623 to 314 – that’s a ratio of 11.5 to 1. The study analyzed the academic fields and of the five departments studied, economics boasted the most conservative professors, with just 4.5 liberals to every conservative. This is a far cry from the least conservative-friendly department, where liberals outnumber conservatives by a 33.5 to 1 ratio. Historically Democratic academics have outnumbered Republicans, but not this drastically. In 1968 a study put the Democrat-to-Republican contrast 2.7 to 1. Even more recently, in 2004, researchers estimated that liberals outnumber conservatives in the field by a ratio between 9 to 1 and 15 to 1. The disparity between liberal and conservative professors is highest at the most prestigious universities, the study finds. Pennsylvania State University, for instance, has a comparatively balanced faculty ratio of 6 to 1, while Ohio State University enjoys

even closer ideological parity at 3.2 to 1. But a pair of Ivy League universities, Columbia and Princeton, both weigh in at 30 to 1. The university with the most even ratio examined in the report is Pepperdine University, which has a reputation for being a conservative school but still has 1.2 Democrats for every Republican on the faculty. Interestingly, the ratio between professors of different political leanings expands as their age drops. The possible reason could be that older professors eventually retire and make way for younger, more liberal professors on faculty. Or it could mean that professors tend to lean more conservative as they age.

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est president of all time. Although no one has the exact numbers, Forbes has estimated the GOP nominee’s fortune at approximately $3.7 billion in a recent analysis.

Hillary Clinton is not doing too shabby when it comes to wallet size. Her personal net worth totals $31.3 million. Husband Bill is estimated to be worth $80 million, which gives the couple a combined net worth of $111 million. Our 44 presidents have ranged from deep-pocketed to log cabin poor. Who’s the richest of them all? Many say that John F. Kennedy was America’s richest president. If he would have lived, he would have inherited his father’s financial empire, worth $1 billion. It would have been shared by a trust with the rest of his family, though.

George Washington was the second richest president of the United States – if you consider JFK to be the richest – with a fortune of $525 million (adjusted for inflation). Thomas Jefferson, our third president, was worth a whopping $212 million. Theodore Roosevelt, president number 26, garnered $125 million in his lifetime. With $119 million, Andrew Jackson was our fifth richest president, followed by James Madison who was worth $101 million.

Saddam’s U.S. Detention Center

Think Saddam Hussein’s regime didn’t extend over the waters to the United States? Think again. According to The Post, the Iraqi madman had a torture chamber on

the Upper East Side, right near Central Park. The basement of Mission of Iraq was used as a jail equipped for torture. Mukhabarat agents, Saddam’s henchmen, would imprison local Iraqis in the detention room for days at a time. Some were even there for two weeks. The kidnapped Iraqis were used as leverage to get their relatives in the homeland to surrender and cooperate with the despot’s government. “It was a dark room. The doors were reinforced in a way that nobody could break in or out. You didn’t need to soundproof it,” one official said. Another official added, “You’re not going to hear someone screaming down there.” The prison chamber was similar to detention rooms in Iraqi embassies around the world, including Eastern Europe and Arab countries, where evidence of torture was uncovered, the officials said.

Get Fit America! Healthy kids are going to be healthy adults. It’s important to cement good habits at a young age and eating healthy and exercising are vi-

tal to a healthy lifestyle. Despite our great strides in certain areas, Americans aren’t looking too good in this capacity. An international research team co-led from the Children’s Hospital of Eastern Ontario (CHEO) and the University of North Dakota studied the aerobic fitness levels of 1.1 million children and youth across 50 countries. The results were published recently in the British Journal of Sports Medicine.

“Kids who are aerobically fit tend to be healthy; and healthy kids are apt to be healthy adults. So studying aerobic fitness in the early years is very insightful to overall population health,” said Justin Lang, lead author, Healthy Active Living and Obesity (HALO) research group, CHEO and PhD student, University of Ottawa. “It’s important to know how kids in Canada or America fare

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Wells Fargo CEO Steps Down After 34 years, Wells Fargo chairman and CEO John Stumpf stepped down on Wednesday, effective immediately. The announcement came just weeks after the banking giant found itself making numerous headlines for a scandal regarding millions of customer accounts.

on the world stage, for example, because we can always learn from other countries with fitter kids.” How did Americans measure up? Unfortunately not too good. “If all the kids in the world were to line up for a race, the average American child would finish at the foot of the field,” observed Dr. Grant

Tomkinson, senior author, associate professor, University of North Dakota. So where are kids the fittest in the world? It seems like these countries like to head out on a walk or a jog with their kids in tow. The top five fittest countries are: 1. Tanzania

2. Iceland 3. Estonia 4. Norway 5. Japan America came in at a dismal 47 out of 50. Mexico came in last place in the world. Time to lace up those sneakers and start walking across Atlantic Beach Bridge.

“While I have been deeply committed and focused on managing the company through this period, I have decided it is best for the company that I step aside. I know no better individual to lead this company forward than Tim Sloan,” Stumpf said in a statement. Wells Fargo said its board of directors elected Sloan, the company’s president and chief operating officer, to succeed Stumpf as CEO while its lead director Stephen Sanger will serve as non-executive chairman. Sloan will also retain his title as president. “My immediate and highest priority is to restore trust in Wells Fargo,” Sloan said. “We will work tirelessly to build a stronger and better Wells Fargo for generations to come.” In September, the company was caught having opened about 1.5 million phony bank and credit card accounts without customer consent, dating all the way back to 2011. Customers often were unaware of the fraudulent accounts created in their name until they were charged unexpected fees or received credit or debit cards in the mail they didn’t request. In the wake of the scandal, federal regulators fined the bank $185 million and the company fired more than 5,000 employees, including managers, it held responsible for the situation. Stumpf, who forfeited $41 million in pay related to the scandal, also appeared on Capitol Hill twice to testify about the policies and sales culture and incentives at Wells Fargo, one many former employees have said was too harsh and forced them to engage in illegal practices. Stumpf’s decision to leave Wells Fargo comes just two days after he led

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an hour-long strategy call with 500 top executives at the bank to discuss how to move forward from the scandal that’s dominated the headlines.

Undersea Explorer Locates Pirate’s Treasure

Barry Clifford has made it his life mission to explore the great blue sea. He has been successful thus far. Clifford discovered the Whydah Gally back in 1984, the first authenticated pirate shipwreck in North America. The former slave ship, commanded by the English pirate Samuel “Black Sam” Bellamy, sunk in stormy seas off Wellfleet, Massachusetts, in 1717, killing all but a handful of the nearly 150-person crew. It’s believed the heavily laden ship sank quickly, leaving the ill-gotten riches from over 50 ships at the bottom of the ocean. Each year Clifford and his team return to the wreck, over which he has special rights, in hopes of discovering more facts. Supposedly they’ve already reclaimed some 200,000 artifacts, including thousands of silver Spanish coins, hundreds of pieces and fragments of rare African gold jewelry, dozens of cannons, various colonial-era objects and other prizes. Now Clifford, 70, is claiming to have found more of the ship’s legendary treasure. Clifford told the Associated Press his expedition recently located a big metallic mass that he’s convinced represents most, if not all, of the 400,000 coins and other riches believed to be contained on the ship. “We think we might be at the end of the rainbow,” Clifford said in the recently opened Whydah Pirate Museum on Cape Cod, where many of the expedition’s finds are now showcased. Maritime archaeologists and historians are skeptical, saying that Clifford has had previous false predictions.

“Barry Clifford’s many claims can be very exciting, if they can be verified with photographs or scientific proof,” said Paul Johnston, a curator at the Smithsonian’s National Museum of American History in Washington, D.C., who specializes in shipwrecks. “Until then, it’s just talk.” The dedicated explorer promised to try and prove his theory but stressed that the recovery process will take time. Once the mass is raised and removed from the sea, his team will need to break it down with care using electrolysis and small hand tools. “For me, it’d be great to get it all finished, but it isn’t going to get done in my lifetime,” Clifford admitted. “Archaeology doesn’t happen quickly, if you’re doing it correctly.”

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The Polling Potty

If the presidential election is any indication, our politics are going down the drain. Chris Owens has the right idea when it comes election time. The

owner of Owens Truck Farm, a farm stand in New Hampshire, is letting customers put their votes for president where he thinks they belong: right in the toilet. On the farm visitors cast their ballots in an outhouseturned-fake-voting booth with mannequins of presidential nominees Hillary Clinton and Donald Trump on the side. Where do your election papers get tossed? Well, down the toilet, of course. Owens told New Hampshire Public Radio that customers have been stopping by for photos and to vote at Ashland farm. He’s already collected a couple hundred ballots. Above the Trump mannequin is a sign that reads, “If I am elected, we will build a wall between Plymouth and Rumney, and Rumney will pay for it,” referring to two nearby towns. Owens plans to tally the just-forfun votes next month.

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grandmother, mother, and sister. “I think subconsciously I was just trying to patch those holes in my life and seeing an Italian grandmother in the kitchen cooking was my idea of comfort,” he said. Scaravella started by placing an ad in an Italian-language newspaper calling for “Italian housewives to cook regional dishes.” But it’s not just nonnas who work at the stove. He’s since expanded his team of chefs from those of his own Italian heritage to include grandmothers representing different cultures and ethnicities. At any given time there are two grandmothers in the kitchen: one from Italy and one from a different part of the world. A few of the places his cooks hail from include Syria, Poland, Nigeria, Venezuela, Turkey, and France. Enoteca Maria also features one male “nonno” who makes gnocchi, ravioli, and other fresh pasta for the menu. The restaurant has been open for around a decade and has published its own cookbook featuring its most popular nonna recipes. Since the restaurant is not under the Vaad, you may want to spend some time with Bubby over Sukkos to enjoy some good, heimishe food.

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My BFF BMW

A hurricane is approaching. Quick! Grab your children, your mementos, and some essentials and head for safety. But wait, where’s your car? Randy Jalil has one precious possession: his pristine 1988 BMW M3. So when Hurricane Matthew was set to hit the coast of Florida, Jalil scrambled to save his favored automobile. There’s not many places one can secure a car, so Jalil decided to place it in his living room. Luckily for Jalil, there was some space near his couch and his house has double-wide doors so that the BMW could fit through. “It’s my pride and joy and any of my friends that know me understand how much I love it!” he explained. “The last thing I needed was any kind of damage to my car.”

With some help from his dad, Jalil drove his car right through the front door. Now his BMW can enjoy some time indoors, watching the tube and chewing on Cheetos with his BFF. Jalil recently returned to Florida after seven years in the Air Force. He had forgotten what it was like to ride out a big storm. Luckily for him, the hurricane didn’t affect his area too much. And he got to spend some quality time with his car. “We enjoyed a nice breakfast together the morning after the hurricane,” he said. Nothing like a chowing down on Cheerios with your car.

$9M for D5 Ever go to the DMV for a new license plate for your car? It shouldn’t cost too much – except if you’re in Dubai and are pretty particular about what it should say. On Saturday, Balwinder Sahani, an Indian businessman, shelled out a jaw-dropping $9 million at auction for a single-digit car registration plate in the UAE. The entrepreneur,

who owns a Dubai-based property management company, spent the millions on the “D5” number plate in an auction in which 300 other people participated.

“I have collected 10 number plates so far and I am looking forward to having more. It’s a passion. This number will go to one of my Rolls-Royces,” he said. Auctions for “unique” car plates have become a fashion in the glitzy United Arab Emirates with auction organizers frequently netting millions of dollars. If it’s $9 million just for the license plate, how much is the car worth?

Fruity Shoes

As we dip the apple in the honey, many of us are throwing the peels away. But there are good uses for apple peels – namely, for shoes and bags. Hong Kong company Life Green is using apple peels from apples grown in Bolzano, Italy, to make their products. The apples are used for juicing and the peels were then burnt. But the company now uses a process which helps to transform the peels into a leather-like substance. It takes just two months to turn peels into bags or shoes. So what do their bags look like? Just like any other leather bag, available in black, red, green or pink. No word on if they’re edible if you’re really hungry one day at work.

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The Learn & Live program got very “decorative” this week as the boys made their very own beautiful sukkah bruchim haboim decoration.

On Monday before Yom Kippur, students in grades 1-5 at YCQ attended the yearly kapparot program. In preparation for Yom Kippur, each student brought in tzedaka to give as they performed the mitzvah of kapparot.

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he HALB sukkah was filled with singing children who enjoyed a kumsitz and nosh by the ocean! The sounds of music accompanied by the waves crashing made a beautiful combination. The rebbeim and morot each danced with their talmidim and talmidot, and Mr. Altabe spoke about the importance of sukkah and why we spend time outdoors – even if it is chilly outside!

Rav Yaakov Bender Delivers Chinuch Shiur on Upper West Side

s part of an ongoing series of shiurim for alumni of Yeshiva Darchei Torah, Rav Yaakov Bender, the Rosh HaYeshiva of Darchei, delivered a shiur entitled “Chinuch Begins at Home” to alumni and other men on the Upper West Side of Manhattan. The shiur, which took place during Aseres Yemei Teshuva, was hosted by

Mr. and Mrs. Gavriel Berger. Gavriel is an alumnus of the yeshiva. Rabbi Bender, who has been in the chinuch field for over 40 years and is a sought-after speaker and author on the subject, discussed issues relating to parenting and shalom bayis.

“Hosting Rabbi Bender was a rare and special honor for the community,” Mr. Berger says. “Attendees eagerly took advantage of the terrific opportunity by engaging Rabbi Bender on a myriad of topics that might not be addressed on a regular basis

but probably ought to.” Previous chinuch shiurim by Rabbi Bender have been hosted by alumni of Yeshiva Darchei Torah in Lakewood, New Jersey; Inwood, Cedarhurst, Lawrence, and Far Rockaway.

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Large Turnout at Siach Yitzchok Kapparos Sites

nce again, as has been the custom here in the Five Towns and Far Rockaway, Siach Yitzchok, the local cheder elementary school, was the organizer of multiple sites for all of our community to perform kapparos this past Sunday. At the largest of several sites, just off Beach 9th St and adjacent to BBY, hundreds of people were coming and going throughout the day and long into the night, to “shlug kapparos” before Yom Kippur. A large truck was stationed there with hundreds of chickens and a well-organized staff efficiently assisted everyone in this special minhag. Rabbi Yosef Richtman, who organized the event, noted, “It was surprising that even in the morning hours when the rain was coming down strong, Yidden were not deterred and we saw plenty of people

coming to kapparos. Baruch Hashem the rain subsided as the day wore on making it much more pleasant in the afternoon, when it really got even busier.” In Lawrence/Cedarhurst and in Bayswater at their respective Young Israel shuls as well as at Aish Kodesh in Woodmere, hundreds more were gently being handed chickens as they recited the tefillos. One participant commented to a Siach Yitzchok staff member, “It was a kiddush Hashem to observe the young boys helping with the kapparos with such wonderful middos and smiles.” Kapparos is a time when those who have the minhag go with their families, together with other Yidden from all different shuls, and display our desire to draw closer to Hashem during this time of year. “It was beautiful to spend a few moments at

each corner of the Five Towns and observe so many different people of all ages preparing for Yom Kippur. We at Siach Yitzchok are proud to be

able to facilitate this once again, as a community service,” said Executive Director Rabbi Eli Biegeleisen.

Rabbi Mordechai Becher Addresses Shevach’s Multi-Faceted Yom Iyun

n Friday, September 30, erev Shabbos Parshas Nitzavim, the students of Shevach High School were treated to their annual Yom Iyun assembly. This year’s theme “Ivri Anochi” began on the students’ boating trip the previous week, with workshops on the essence of a Yid. Our model, Avrohom Ha’ivri, stood apart; he recognized Hashem’s existence and spread Hashem’s awareness throughout the world. The Ivrim in Mitzrayim maintained their identity by not changing their names, language and dress. Yonah Hanavi said, “Ivri anochi” and took responsibility for the storm at sea. As Yidden we take pride in our mesorah and recognize our responsibility to be a source of nachas to Hakadosh Baruch Hu and the entire Klal Yisroel. Friday’s Yom Iyun opened with a slideshow created by Shevach students Dina Leah Garber and Chana Lavian. It portrayed the confidence and pride Jews have in our special role as Yidden, as well as the power

of our actions to create an impact on others. The choir girls, Elisheva Marcus, Elianna Lamb, Sara Katayev, Avigail Landau, Shani Sommers, Esther Shira Chait, Tamar Shalamov, and Atara Nat, sang a beautiful song with musical accompaniment. In addition, there was a special Yom Iyun song that was sung by the entire 12th grade. Both songs were inspirational and encapsulated the theme. The songs were composed by Esther Shira Chait and Atara Nat. In order to visually portray the theme, a beautiful banner was created by Elisheva Marcus, Avigayil Landau, Moria Giahn, and Zohar Tal depicting the mesorah being handed down through the generations. The Yom Iyun instilled within the Shevach students the recognition of and pride in our responsibility as Yidden to continue the chain of mesorah. The keynote speaker, Rabbi Mordechai Becher, noted Senior Lecturer for the Gateways organization, delivered an inspiring and informative speech in which

he elucidated that in order to know what truly personifies a Yid, we must analyze the actions and ways of Avraham Avinu. Avraham Avinu was viewed by other nations as a “social disruptor,” someone who was not afraid to take a stand, even when it was not a popular one. We see in the story of Sodom that Avraham illustrated kindness past the boundaries of human nature. Although Sodom was a city whose inhabitants had sunk to the lowest levels of humanity, Avrohom nonetheless davened on their behalf. He was truly in the category of an ish yoshor. As time went on, the Jewish Nation, as Avraham’s descendants, continued being “disruptors,” and in actuality a light unto the nations. After Rabbi Becher’s thought-provoking words, he presented an enlightening video displaying Jewish artifacts that have lasted through time. The girls were privy to an original manuscript of the Sefer HaRambam, as well as children’s drawings and aleph bais letters etched in

stone, from many years ago. The video clearly portrayed how throughout history Jews have maintained their identity and made an impact on society. As a memento of this inspiring day, Sarah Tropper, Adina Mirsky, and Rivki Elias, assisted by Shira Mittel and Elisheva Adler, presented the students with a booklet and a bracelet. In the booklet there was a message from Shevach Principal Rebbetzin Rochelle Hirtz, personal stories of siyata dishmaya by Shevach students, and quotes from Shevach teachers with their perspectives on the theme. The bracelet each girl received was inscribed with the logo “Ivri Anochi, Proud to be a Jew.” Kudos to Mrs. Debbie Meltzer for organizing this special Yom Iyun that definitely instilled within the Shevach students much pride in their role as an Ivri. The girls left uplifted and better prepared for Rosh Hashana and the year ahead.

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“V’ha’arev Nah” Grows at MAY

ast year, Rabbi Yehuda Orlansky, a 12th grade Rebbe at Mesivta Ateres Yaakov, introduced the “V’ha’arev Nah” program to his talmidim. The program, which was highlighted last year in a Mishpacha magazine feature, encourages talmidim through a variety of methods to engage in a tremendous amount of chaz-

arah until they truly “own” a masechta. It’s now common to find Rabbi Orlansky’s talmidim learning late into the night in a Bais Medrash at MAY or elsewhere. Stories have already emerged of chavrusas going for a late night jog and chazering over their limud ba’al peh, talmidim being makabel on themselves

Rabbi Dovid Neuman, the founder of V’ha’arev Nah, addressing the MAY talmidim

to chazer their limud 100 times over bein haz’manim or even, most recently, staying up after finishing s’lichos close to 2:00 in the morning on Motzaei Shabbos to finish kabbalos made for that week. “It’s inspiring to everyone in the yeshiva,” commented Rabbi Mordechai Yaffe, Menahel. “Rabbi Orlansky has done amazing things with his shiur in the past, but this has exceeded them all.” “A lot has to do with the geshmak and energy Rabbi Orlansky invests in his shiur,” commented Rabbi Yossi Bennett, Assistant Menahel. “He gives over lev v’nefesh for his talmidim and they feel that. He’s always thinking about how he can improve and create an even better vibe, and he seems to be benefitting from siyata d’shmaya in doing it!” This year, the program has expanded to the 12th grade honors shiur as well. 12th grade honors shiur Rebbe, Rabbi Yonasan Sprung, has adopted the “V’ha’arev Nah” program into his bekiyus shiur. “My goal is that my talmidim gain a geshmak in learning lomdos during

our iyun shiur, and another geshmak in mastery of a masechta during our bekiyus shiur.” According to the mastermind behind V’ha’arev Nah, Rabbi Dovid Neuman, this is the first time an honors shiur has adopted the program. The talmidim from both shiurim took a trip a few weeks ago to visit Rabbi Neuman and inaugurate the program for the coming z’man.

They were treated to a lavish lunch and incredible inspiration and infectious passion from Rabbi Neuman. Rabbi Orlansky proudly noted that “you need to see it to believe it. Talmidim are learning b’hasmada rabbah like they have never done before and are loving every minute of it!”

Annual Father-Son Kinus Teshuva

enerations bonded while learning Torah together at DRS’s annual Father-Son Kinus Teshuva program, held on October 9. After selichot and davening, DRS Menahel Rabbi Kaminetsky addressed the packed Beis Medrash about unique relationships rooted in and revolving around Torah between a father and son. Following a delicious breakfast, parents and students headed up to shiur, as each DRS rebbe presented stirring shiurim on topics related to teshuva and the yomim noraim. Keynote speaker Rabbi Efrem Goldberg, Mora D’Asra of the Boca Raton Synagogue in South Florida, delivered an inspiring shiur

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Alef Beis are More than Letters at Yeshiva Darchei Torah

av Yaakov Bender, the Rosh HaYeshiva of Yeshiva Darchei Torah, gives a weekly lesson to the kindergarten about the alef-beis. Each week he teaches the boys about one letter and a mitzvah or fundamental middah that begins with that letter. For alef, the boys learned about the importance of emes, always telling the truth. For beis, Rav Bender taught them about saying brachos before eating.

Singing and Sensors at HANC

he sounds of song could be heard in the hallways of HANC’s Samuel and Elizabeth Bass Golding Elementary School in West Hempstead as the students ushered in the Tishrei holidays with a pre-Rosh Hashana kumzitz. Lead by our talented music teacher, Rabbi Mordechai Shapiro, the spirit moved from inspirational songs that enlightened the soul to fast-paced songs that brought everyone to their feet for energetic dancing. It was truly moving to

hear the children sing with delight and celebrate with their friends and teachers. The children were also treated to a cameo performance by Rabbi Yaakov Sadigh, the principal of HANC 609, who shared the microphone with some of the kindergarten students who were seated up front. The kumzitz was an exciting start to what we hope will be a wonderful month of learning, fun and celebration of the Tishrei holidays. The sixth grade students of HANC’s Samuel and Elizabeth Bass

Golding Elementary School in West Hempstead are preparing for the future by learning how to code. Under the guidance of the science teacher Mr. Jonathan Eisenkraft, the students are learning how to build a robot with Legos that has a sensor attached to it. Their mission is to program the robot to move and then stop when it sees an object in front of it. After assembling their robots, the students tested their creations on the floor of the science lab and were excited about their suc-

cessful results. The children discussed the use of sensors in our world today, including motion sensors on sliding doors, in cars, outdoor lighting and in touch recognition systems that are utilized in phones. They also learned about how the sensor on the Mars Rover enabled scientists to gain enhanced views of objects on Mars’ surface. The children are excited to hone their computer skills and are looking forward developing more applications for this technology.

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The children in HANC ECC in West Hempstead learned the brachot and how to shake the lulav and etrog. Then they all enjoyed sitting in the sukkah with all of their friends.

DRS Varsity Basketball Team Takes Home First Prize

ast year’s DRS varsity basketball team ended their season with a record-breaking streak, finishing with an unprecedented 33-0 record, winning the Yeshiva League, Saracheck, Scott Satran, and Magen David Tournaments. This year’s basketball team looks to continue the success of DRS’s basketball program, and has done so by winning this year’s Magen David Invitational Pre-Season tournament, extending

the streak to 36-0! Highlights of the tournament included a buzzer-beater shot delivered by senior Ben Leichtung to force the semi-final game against Magen David into overtime and junior Gideon Velenski’s gamewinning shot, with 2 seconds left to the championship game. The regular season begins after Sukkos, and we look forward to great things from the team.

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Heartfelt Tefillos by Gedolim at Kever of Chofetz Chaim Climax in International Yom Limud and Tefillah Jews Worldwide Unite to Invoke Rachamei Shomayim on Yahrtzeit of Chofetz Chaim

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t is just a few days before the Yom Hadin. We are standing next to the kever of the Ish Elokim, our master and teacher, the holy Chofetz Chaim… With broken hearts we ask for abundant mercy for all of Klal Yisrael. In the zechus of the Chofetz Chaim whose sefarim have been accepted by literally all of Klal Yisrael, we come here with a heavy peckel of the tzaros that acheinu Bnei Yisroel are suffering.” These were the powerful words of HaGaon HaRav Shmuel Eliezer Stern, shlita, Rav of Western Bnei Brak and Av Beis Din of the Beis Din of HaGaon HaRav Shmuel Wosner, zt”l, in his emotional address punctuated with uncontrollable sobbing and copious tears in front of the

kever of the Chofetz Chaim in Radin on his yahrtzeit this past Tuesday, 24 Elul/September 27. A special delegation of gedolei Torah traveled to Radin to daven at the kever in what was a worldwide yom limud and tefillah organized by Dirshu. That was however the culmination of the worldwide campaign to consecrate the day as an international yom limud and tefillah, featuring Yidden from across the world, comprising the entire cross-section of Jewry davening on behalf of Klal Yisrael and learning that day’s Daf HaYomi B’Halacha in the Mishnah Berurah and the daily segment in Sefer Chofetz Chaim on the laws of lashon hara, both written by the Chofetz Chaim. As Yidden in communities spanning the globe learned

and davened, the Gedolei Yisrael at the kever of the Chofetz Chaim poured out their hearts in tears on behalf of Klal Yisrael in a deeply moving, chizuk-infusing maamad that was broadcast to locations in Eretz Yisrael and around the world. “Let Us Daven Here in the Zechus of the Chofetz Chaim that They Should Be Healed” In Radin, Rav Stern continued, “Rabbosai, there are hundreds of children, bochurim, avreichim, men, women and children whose lives are hanging in the balance! We have come to this holy place to daven for all of them. We find ourselves in a time when the curses of one day are greater than the previous day. We have come to daven for the many sick people in

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Klal Yisrael who are languishing in hospitals the world over. The terrible machalah is rampant, filling oncology wards with Jews who are suffering the most horrible pain and suffering as the machalah eats away at them… “Let us daven here, in the zechus of the Chofetz Chaim, that they should be healed, that those who need should be blessed with children, that the terrible machalah of ‘Kids at Risk’ with the associated pain and suffering of the children, their parents and families should be no more, and the terrible toll that the yetzer hara of technology is having on us should be stopped. They should all experience their yeshuah and all of those in Klal Yisrael who are suffering should have their tefillos answered. The main thing is that the galus should end, that

Hashem’s pain over the galus should be no more...” The group of rabbanim who went to Radin accompanied by the senior members of Dirshu’s hanhala included HaGaon HaRav Shmuel Eliezer Stern, shlita, Rav of Western Bnei Brak and Av Beis Din of the Beis Din of HaGaon HaRav Shmuel Wosner, zt”l, HaGaon HaRav Shimon Galei, shlita, Rav of the Osem Complex and a member of the Beis Din of HaGaon HaRav Nissim Karleitz, shlita, HaGaon HaRav Chizkiyahu Yosef Mishkovsky, shlita, Menahel Ruchani of Yeshivas Orchos Torah in Bnei Brak, HaGaon HaRav Avraham Salim, shlita, Rosh Yeshiva, Yeshiva Meor HaTorah of Yerushalayim, HaGaon HaRav Aryeh Zilberstein, shlita, Rav of the Gerer Community in Bnei Brak, HaGaon HaR-

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av Yitzchak Luxenberg, shlita, Rav of the Ne’ot Hapisgah neighborhood in Modiin Illit, and HaGaon HaRav Chanoch Friedman, shlita, Rosh Kollel Har Nof and editor of the new edition of the Chofetz Chaim’s sefarim. In Mir at the Kever of the Mashgiach Rav Yeruchem Levovitz, zt”l The group of rabbanim began the trip with a visit to the city of Mir where they davened at the kever of the famed Mirrer Mashgiach, Rav Yeruchem Levovitz, zt”l, and where Rav Chizkiyahu Yosef Mishkovsky gave his address, in his special uplifting way. From there they traveled to Radin. Throughout the trip both to Mir and Radin, rabbanim gave drashos in the bus over the microphone. The entire journey was also permeated by an atmosphere of great emotion and chizuk accompanied by songs of chizuk and regesh. The sight of Rav Shimon Galei singing with tremendous dveikus, beg-

ging Hashem for rachmanus, swept the entire delegation up into the special atmosphere of passionate tefillah.

Singing Avinu Malkeinu at the Mass Grave in Radin The group then proceeded to the mass grave where more than 2,000 of Radin’s Jews were murdered by the Nazis. Dry ink on paper cannot possibly convey the emotionally charged atmosphere in Radin as gedolei Torah davened and sang the hallowed words of, “Avinu Malkeinu” at that makom kadosh. The Tehillim punctuated by tears as the gedolim, all of whom hear about so many tzaros each and every day, came to pour out their hearts, to place all of those tzaros on the broad shoulders of the Chofetz Chaim whose zechusim continue to enrich Klal Yisrael daily. Rav Shimon Galei, who led the Tehillim, said afterward, “We must understand that we are coming as emissaries for tens of thousands of Yidden who have sent in their names so that we can daven for them as they are learning or accepting upon themselves to learn the Daf HaYomi B’Halacha. Among them are so many Yidden who require yeshuos, broken-hearted Yidden who are in pain. In order to be faithful shelichim on their behalf we must feel their pain and suffering. We must understand – there are so many hearts full of pain, so many eyes full of tears! Only when we are cognizant of these feelings should we begin to daven.”

A Shiur in Mishnah Berurah Hilchos Netilas Yadayim in the Radin Yeshiva Upon arrival in Radin the group went to the building that once housed the Radin Yeshiva, the yeshiva founded by the Chofetz Chaim. In the very bais medrash where the Chofetz Chaim would give his mussar shmuessen to the yeshiva, a shiur was given by the Nasi of Dirshu, Rav Dovid Hofstedter, on the day’s Daf HaYomi B’Halacha in the Chofetz Chaim’s Mishnah Berurah on hilchos netilas yadayim. Rav Stern pointed out that it is perhaps not a coincidence that the Daf HaYomi B’Halacha page being learned on the yahrtzeit of the Chofetz Chaim was devotOne Day that Unified ed to taharas yadayim, puriMultitudes the World ty of the hands, because the Over Chofetz Chaim did so much to Perhaps the visit to Radin spread purity and “neki kapaserved as the nerve center of yim” among Klal Yisrael.

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the yom limud and tefillah but it was just one piece of a worldwide effort to invoke rachamei shomayim in the zechus of learning the Chofetz Chaim’s sefarim and davening on the yahrtzeit of the Chofetz Chaim. The achdus of all types of Yidden at various levels of observance who joined to unite Klal Yisrael in a massive demonstration of achdus through Torah learning and davening was a prime purpose of the day. Yeshivos, girls’ schools, chadorim, shuls and frum-owned businesses in locations that spanned the world, all came together in unity to learn and daven. Hundreds of places in Eretz Yisrael from Eilat in the South to Tzefas in the North

rachamei shomayim in the zechus of the Chofetz Chaim. In South America, there were tefillah gatherings in Argentina and Venezuela. In Europe numerous organizations hosted gatherings throughout London, Paris, Manchester, Odessa, Budapest, Gateshead and Pinsk. Other participating countries include Australia and South Africa. The scope of the tefillah effort was incredible. Last year, the first time the yom limud and tefillah was held the number of Yidden reached some 500,000. This year, factoring in the various estimates that have been coming in from all over the world, the number well surpassed that. The unity around this special day included an appeal

participated. In North America, there were locations from coast to coast that participated. Tens of mosdos and shuls in Lakewood, tens more in Brooklyn and numerous others across the country such as Boston, Los Angeles, Providence, Toronto, and Dallas. In all of these locales, Yidden came together as individuals and as organizations to invoke

to Klal Yisrael’s unaffiliated Jews, under Dirshu’s kiruv arm, Acheinu. This aspect became so noteworthy that the mainstream media as well as the secular Jewish media covered the story. Important news outlets such as Newsweek, Newsmax and Huffington Post carried stories about the fact that Jews from all over were designating a

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“Day of Jewish Unity” on the yahrtzeit of the Chofetz Chaim as a day of prayer and unity – a tremendous kiddush Hashem. The Zechus of the Chofetz Chaim On the bus to Radin, Rav Avraham Salim, one of the prominent Sephardic Roshei Yeshiva in Eretz Yisrael, spoke about the profound level of achdus that the Chofetz Chaim brought to Klal Yisrael. “Today we see the entire world learning the sefarim of the Chofetz Chaim. The Chofetz Chaim so cared about Klal Yisrael and wrote his first sefarim on the laws of lashon hara and shmiras halashon because he wanted to save Klal Yisrael. His ability to enrich Klal Yisrael with the Mishnah Berurah also came as a result of his desire to help Jews serve Hashem. The very fact that we have an organization like Dirshu today, which has taken upon itself to spread the learning

of the Chofetz Chaim’s sefarim even further, and we see so many more people taking upon themselves to learn the sefarim of the Chofetz Chaim is a testament to this ongoing zechus.” 70 Years after the Holocaust the Chofetz Chaim’s Sefarim are Being Learned throughout the World One of the highlights of the trip was the powerful shmuess delivered by Rav Chizkiyahu Yosef Mishkovsky. Rav Mishkovsky gave historical significance to the mission on behalf of Klal Yisrael to Radin saying, “We are on the blood-soaked soil of Europe where European Jewry and its great Torah centers were decimated. The Ponovezher Rov, Rav Yosef Shlomo Kahaneman, once visited Rome and asked to be taken to the Arch of Titus that pays tribute to the Roman Emperor who destroyed the Beis Hamikdash. The Rav walked

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in front of the arch, straightened his frock, and exclaimed with great emotion, “Titus, Titus, you thought you conquered the entire world. You destroyed the Beis Hamikdash and made a churban. Where are you today, Titus? Your remains have been scattered all over the oceans. There is nothing left of you. And we, the grandchildren of those whom you wanted to destroy, where are we? Look at the beautiful Ponovezh Yeshiva in Bnei Brak, look at the

hundreds of bachurim learning Torah! Titus, we are here, where are you?!” Rav Mishkovsky continued, “Seventy years after the end of the Holocaust, the Torah world is blossoming and growing, the Chofetz Chaim’s sefarim are being learned throughout the world by unprecedented numbers of people. We are here!” Rav Mishkovsky then urged all assembled to especially daven for the elderly gedolei hador, the sarei haTorah whom we so desperately need to lead us in these difficult times. Rav Mishkovsky concluded with a powerful story about the Chofetz Chaim that he had heard from the Chofetz Chaim’s own grandson, HaGaon Rav Hillel Zaks, zt”l. One Purim in the Radin Yeshiva a bachur became drunk and went to the home of the Chofetz Chaim where he insisted that he would not leave the house until the Chofetz Chaim promised him that he would be together with him in Gan Eden. At the beginning, the Chofetz Chaim ignored him, but the bachur began to shout and scream that he would not leave until he got the promise from the Chofetz Chaim. All of a sudden the Chofetz Chaim’s face became deadly serious and he said, “For my entire life I have distanced myself from lashon hara. If you will accept upon yourself not to speak lashon hara I can promise you that you will be my neighbor in Gan Eden.” The bachur began to stammer...saying he would try… The Chofetz Chaim observed and imme-

diately exclaimed, “Remove him from here!” Rav Hillel explained, “A person was at the entranceway to Gan Eden and he lost it all… With passion, Rav Mishkovsky then said, “We are at the kever of the Chofetz Chaim, davening for Klal Yisrael. We are asking for so much from him, but we must realize that he is also asking something of us! The Chofetz Chaim is asking us and all of Klal Yisroel to heed what comes out of our mouths. Recently someone asked the Rosh Yeshiva, HaGaon HaRav Aharon Leib Shteinman, shlita, what he should accept upon himself in advance of the yamim noraim, and the Rosh Yeshiva answered, ‘Shmiras hadibur’. If we accept upon ourselves to be careful in these areas then we will have the power to daven for yeshuos for Klal Yisrael, for lomdei Torah and lomdei Daf HaYomi B’Halacha.” Davening in Kovno of the Hallowed Past and Addressing the Promising Future A day before the Chofetz Chaim’s yahrtzeit, some of Dirshu’s senior hanhala members joined Rav Dovid Hofstedter and went to be mispallel at the kevarim of Rav Yitzchok Elchonon Spector, Rav Avrohom Dovber Kahana Shapira, the last pre-war Rav of Kovno, and the famed 7 th Fort where Rav Elchonon Wasserman Hy”d and so many other kedoshim were murdered al kiddush Hashem. They also visited the building that housed the famed Slabodka Yeshiva as

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well as meeting with a group of Jewish students under the influence of Rav Moshe Sheinfeld, Rav of the Jewish Center of Kovno. Rav Hofstedter addressed the students, infusing them with chizuk and afterwards conversing with them about some of the challenges they face as Jews seeking Yiddishkeit in 21st century Kovno. Thanking Hashem for the Past, the Key to the Future On the way to Radin, Rav Aryeh Zilberstein, Rav of the Gerer community of Bnei Brak, addressed the assemblage. He brought out the fact

that “all of us are in essence talmidim of the Chofetz Chaim, in Torah, in halacha and in shmiras hadibbur. It is not just we who are talmidim of his through his sefarim but the tens of thousands of Yidden for whom we are emissaries are coming here as talmidim of his, who are learning his Torah daily. Indeed, it is our most fervent tefillah that in the zechus of the fact that Yidden learn his sefarim in the Daf HaYomi B’Halacha program or have accepted upon themselves to learn, that we can come to his kever and say, ‘Rebbi, it is your Torah that we are learning, in that zechus may our

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tefillos be heard!’” Rav Zilberstein, who participated in the journey to Radin last year as well, then movingly brought out an important point. He said, “Last year we were here and davened for so many Yidden. Many Yidden had their tefillos answered. We have all experienced so much in the past year for which we must be thankful. As we daven to Hashem in the zechus of the Chofetz Chaim for the future, we must also give hodaah, we must also show our gratitude to Hashem for the past, for the countless blessings that He has bestowed upon us this past year. When we

thank Hashem for what He has already given us, Hashem will say, if you know how to recognize what has been done for you in the past then I will listen and answer your tefillos for the future as well!” Another fascinating aspect of the trip was the various halachic discussions that came up in the course of the journey that was discussed amongst the prominent rabbonim and poskim. A tiny sampling of some of the topics included whether birchas kohanim is recited on a weekday when a minyan from Eretz Yisrael (where birchas kohanim is recited daily) is together in chutz la’aretz (where the custom is not to say birchas kohanim on a weekday). Another question was whether food that was stored under the airplane seat where someone slept is subject to the halacha that states that one should not eat food that was under a bed where a person slept. Yet a third topic of discussion was whether or not there one is required to wash one’s hands after exiting a beis hakevaros if the next stop is another beis hakevaros. Davening at the Kever of the Chofetz Chaim, We are Like Children Davening at the Kever of our Merciful Father! The maamad of tefillah at the kever featured heartfelt tefillos both for the past and the future, and as the Tehillim was said at the kever with such passion, there was not a dry eye to be found. Pesukim of Tehillim whose first letters comprised the name of the Chofetz

Chaim were said along with a special tefillah composed by the mekubal, HaGaon HaRav Yaakov Hillel, shlita, Rosh Yeshivat Ahavat Shalom, especially for the yahrtzeit. Finally a special mi’shebeirach was said for the lomdei Dirshu after which Rav Hofstedter took the new Sefer HaGibborim containing the names of the thousands of lomdei Torah that participate in the many Dirshu learning programs and placed it in a special safe next to the kever. As the group of gedolim left Radin, Rav Shmuel Eliyahu Stern related that he has davened at many kevarim and mekomos hakedoshim in the course of his life, but that he felt that davening at the kever of the Chofetz Chaim imbues one with a unique illumination and siyata d’shmaya. He explained that perhaps the reason every G-d fearing Jew feels connected to the Chofetz Chaim is by virtue of the fact that we all learn and conduct our lives based on his sefarim, thus we are all like children coming to daven at the kever of our merciful father! Indeed, the tefillah on the lips of all the multitudes who participated in the international yom limud and tefillah was that in the zechus of the Torah learning and the tefillos performed with such unity on the yahrtzeit of the Chofetz Chaim just days before Rosh Hashanah, Hashem should please look upon us favorably and in the boundless zechus of the Chofetz Chaim, Klal Yisrael’s tefillos and needs should be answered!

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Second grade talmidim at Yeshiva Darchei Torah excitedly hold the arba minim that their rebbi, Rabbi Nachum Nachumson, brought to class just a few days before Sukkos.

Rav in Tzahal Speaks at HAFTR Middle School

uring Aseret Yemei Teshuva, on Tzom Gedalia, the students at HAFTR Middle School heard from Rabbi Eli Skaist, a lieutenant and chaplain in Tzahal-IDF and Rebbe at the Ashreinu Yeshiva in Israel. Rabbi Skaist spoke to the students about the meaning of teshuva and suggested that it is a response to Hashem calling out to us. He challenged the students to

think about what kind of year they want to have and told stories about chayalim who answered their call in very heroic ways. He made specific reference to two dear friends of his, Ezra Schwartz a”h and Rabbi Nechemia Lavi a”h, who were killed in Israel last year. The students were very inspired to hear directly from a chayal who is defending Medinat Yisrael on many fronts.

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A Blind Man’s Story By Moishe Rechester

n October 5, the grade 8 students at Yeshiva of Central Queens were privileged with a visit from a very unique individual and former YCQ student, Rabbi Lavi Greenspan. Rabbi Greenspan told the students the story of what led up to his blindness at the age of 26, about the struggles he went through, and what he has accomplished during his journey. After graduating from YCQ, Rabbi Greenspan continued his education at Yeshiva of Flatbush, Yeshiva University and eventually at Fordham Law School. Shortly after he started law school, he began noticing some health problems. This led him to a diagnosis of Cushing’s disease and the finding of a benign tumor right below his brain requiring two surgeries to remove it. The first was a nine hour open-head surgery and the second, a six hour operation through his nose.

He says, “I owe tremendous gratitude to Ha’Kadosh Baruch Hu that they were successful.” After recovery, he returned to law school. This was not the end to his medical issues. A few months later his doctor found a cerebral spinal fluid (CSF) leak requiring another operation. Though his doctor said it was successful, that was not the case and yet again

he headed to the hospital for another operation. During one summer, he underwent four operations, and though he had some vision issues, the doctors said his vision would not be 20/20, but it would be restored over time and thankfully he was able to see just fine. Several months later Rabbi Greenspan found another problem as a result of the surgeries and required yet another operation. After recovering, he began radiation treatment to remove what was left of his previous tumor. He hoped this would be the last of his hospitalizations. However, while visiting family, he began to have minor accidents as a result of his vision. The opthomologist said he should not be concerned – then he lost the vision in his left eye. With the support of his family, he began hyperbaric chamber treatment to maintain what was left of his vision. While in treatment he was running a high fever, he wanted to leave but his nurse chose to monitor him. “I owe tremendous gratitude to Ha’Kadosh Baruch Hu that the nurse did not listen to me,” Greenspan said. He had

contracted meningitis, went through another operation, and around Chanukah time, eventually lost his sight completely. “That Chanukah was probably the most difficult Chanukah of my life.” Despite the trials he had been through, he never gave up. He was in the middle of law school and with the help of his sister, a lawyer and others, he completed his studies. Then came time for the bar exam. Just prior to the exam, his community of Hillcrest got over 30 volunteer Jewish lawyers to study with him. Not only did he overcome his obstacles to pass the bar exam, he also received smicha from Yeshiva University. Rabbi Greenspan continues to inspire students and others through retelling how he overcame obstacles to reach his goals. “He is inspirational and inspiring,” said Sam Verstandig, YCQ student. “He taught us very valuable life lessons.” Another grade 8 student, Aaron Poulad, said, “It was inspiring how even though he was blind, he said baruch Hashem about everything. He has so much emunah.”

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Around the Community On Shabbos Shuva, Jewish singer Ari Goldwag davened Kabbalas Shabbos, Shacharis and Mussaf in the Young Israel of West Hempstead. He is pictured here with Rabbi Kelemer and Rabbi Goller.

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abbi Avraham Fridman, General Studies Principal of Yeshiva of South Shore, was chosen to represent the interests of yeshivas and day schools at the ESSA Non-Public School Workgroup. He traveled to Albany the week before Rosh Hashana together with Mrs. Sara Seligson of the Jewish Education Project and Mr. Avrohom Weinstock of Agudath Israel where they met with officials of New York State Department of Education to discuss the Every Student Succeeds Act (ESSA) governing K-12 education across the nation. An important aspect of the law requires a higher level of accountability and participation by the local school districts in providing private school students with the mandated special education and related services. To ensure that the local school districts are adhering to the new requirements of ESSA, the law has provisions requiring proper reporting by the districts and private schools. The New

Running Hand in Hand for Disability Inclusion

York State Education Department has created the ESSA Non-Public School Workgroup to help NYSED develop the processes by which practices will meet the new requirements of this law. NYSED chose twenty seven public and nonpublic school representatives that will be meeting in Albany on a monthly basis. Rabbi Fridman has said after attending the first meeting of the workgroup that the prospects of our students receiving equitable services looks promising and that all the representatives of various groups are eager to work together for the benefit of all students in this great state.

The Road to Return

uring Aseret Yemei Teshuva, the Shulamith Middle Division hosted a panel discussion on the topic of teshuva. The panelists, Mrs. Devorah Resnick, a parent of two Shulamith graduates, Morah Adina Wolf, a member of the high school faculty, and Morah Nava Eisenberg, a middle division faculty member, answered questions posed by students on the topic of drawing closer to Hashem. Students were inspired by these and many other ideas presented by the panelists: “It’s not nebby to talk about being close to Hashem. It’s cool to have a re-

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An Expanded Home for Tefillah at Yeshiva Darchei Torah’s Middle School

he talmidim, rabbeim and menahalim of Yeshiva Darchei Torah’s Middle School rejoiced this Elul as they moved into their newly-expanded shul, known as the Kaufman Ezras Nashim, the place where they daven Shacharis and Mincha together and grow in their avodas Hashem each day. With music and dancing, they carried the sifrei Torah back from the Diamond Beis Medrash – where the Middle School had been davening temporarily – to the Kaufman Ezras Nashim, which is now more than double the size of the original room and features a beautiful hard floor and large windows that provide abundant natural light. Rav Yaakov Bender, Rosh HaYeshiva of Yeshiva Darchei Torah, and Rav Dovid Frischman, menahel of the Middle School, both addressed the talmidim. Later, Mr. and Mrs. Uri Kaufman, parents in the Yeshiva and the dedicators of the Ezras Nashim, visited the new space. Mr. Kaufman spoke passionately about his parents-in-law, Rabbi and Mrs. Aaron Schreiber, in whose memory the

Rav Yaakov Bender, Rosh HaYeshiva, dancing with a sefer Torah

Ezras Nashim was dedicated. He mentioned that his late father-in-law was a distinguished talmid chacham as well as a law professor,

and that Maran Rav Elya Svei zt”l, the Rosh Yeshiva of Philadelphia, used to stand up for him out of respect. The expansion of the shul

Mr. Uri Kaufman, who together with his wife, dedicated the Kaufman Ezras Nashim, speaking to the talmidim. At right is Rabbi Dovid Frischman

was necessitated by the continued growth in student enrollment at Yeshiva Darchei Torah. Be’ezras Hashem, talmidim of the Middle

School will be able to daven and thrive in the new space with kavanah and harchovas hada’as for many years to come.

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Choosing the Right Mesivta for Your Son

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continue to be, the basic standard on which all else is predicated at Mesivta Yam HaTorah. At Mesivta Yam HaTorah the staff is available at all hours for their talmidim. Often, students will be in touch with their rebbeim at night in order to review a shiur or just for advice. This dedication and commitment to the talmidim is based on the Mesivta’s philosophy that chinuch today requires a rebbi who can capture the hearts and minds of all of their students. At Yam HaTorah, talmidim are given the skills to learn independently while being infused with a love of learning that grows from this rebbe/ talmid relationship. As these relationships grow, so does the students selfconfidence in his ability to pass on the mesorah. The entire curriculum of the Mesivta is designed to achieve these goals. In Iyun Seder, the shiurim are engaging and focus on in-depth analysis of the Rishonim and Achronim. Bekius seder emphasizes the need for students to be able to make a leining on the Gemara on their own. In mussar and hashkafa sedarim, the primary focus is on improving one’s middos, establishing a lasting emunah and an appreciation for the power of bitachon. In halacha seder, the foundations are built for students to live a life dedicated to commitment to proper avodas Hashem. Mesivta Yam HaTorah has a staff that embodies the qualities of a Mesivta that parents want for their children and that high school boys want for themselves. We invite you to call or come and see for yourself. For further information about the Mesivta please email mesivtayamhatorah@gmail.com or call 718-4717471.

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Putting Students First: Communication, Collaboration and Cooperation at Bnos Bais Yaakov

s part of its multi-faceted faculty enrichment effort, Bnos Bais Yaakov has just completed a two part workshop given by Mrs. Etti Siegel, MSEd, noted academic lecturer and workshop presenter. BBY’s relationship with Mrs. Siegel has been a mutually appreciative one since the very first workshop she presented years ago. BBY has greatly benefited from her educational wisdom, and Mrs. Siegel has remarked over the years how much she enjoys the enthusiasm and cooperative spirit that define BBY staff members. This most recent set of workshops, organized by Morah Penina Neuberg (Menaheles, grades 1-4), was aimed at enhancing the efficiency of the Morah/Assistant relationship in grades 1, 2, and 3. The first meeting began with the assistants only. These members of the BBY staff are integral to the smooth running of their respective classrooms and their roles are crucial to the academic success of the students. As Mrs. Siegel explained, assistants are expected to lead a kriah group, help children with transitions within the classroom, and act as the teacher’s second pair of eyes. Assistants’ roles go far beyond mere pencil sharpening and book collecting and, as such, they need to feel empowered to assume their more critical positions with confidence. In Mrs. Siegel’s session with the moros, she explained how empowering their assistants to take on a more active role is part of their responsibility. By according her assistant respect, the teacher is ensuring that the students will respect the assistant as well. By soliciting her opinion, the teacher is empowering the assistant to develop and comfortably express her thoughts. And by encouraging her to help build a child’s self-esteem, the teacher is enabling her assistant to make a real difference in a child’s life. Mrs. Siegel noted that BBY has a wealth of support personnel. Between Morah P. Neuberg (Menaheles, grades 1-4), Morah D. Kurland (General Studies Principal, grades 1-4), Rebbetzin B. Altusky (Limudei Kodesh Curriculum Coordinator), Mrs. M. Wender (Kriah Specialist

and Curriculum Coordinator), Mrs. J. Schonbrun (Head of the Waaserman Learning Center), and Mrs. E. Shaiman (School Psychologist), any assistant who seeks further guidance

in any area has a rich pool of resources to utilize. These dedicated and experienced professionals are available and eager to share their knowledge. The teachers and assistants

walked out of the sessions with a greater understanding of the potential inherent in the assistant’s position and the enhancement to the class dynamic that she can offer.

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Twenty Years of Walking the Walk By Dr. Eli Shapiro

or the past 13 years on Simchas Torah I have had the opportunity to participate in what is simply known as “The Walk.” Now in its 20th year, the walk has grown into an annual 5 mile trek that begins with Maariv at the Young Israel of Bayswater, finishes around midnight at Yeshiva Darchei Torah and includes approximately 15 stops along the way. Residents of Far Rockaway and Bayswater have come to expect to see the familiar faces of their elected officials and the leadership of the 101st police precinct that use the walk to connect with the community. The walk was first conceived in 1996 by Harvey Gordon, a”h, the executive director of the Jewish Community Council of The Rockaway Peninsula, a social service agency committed to the welfare of the Rockaway Jewish community. Former Assemblymember Audrey Pheffer, a longstanding member of the walking team, recollects how Mr. Gordon wanted to bring the police to the community to meet

people and have people see them. “It was such a good idea that the electeds wanted to join in,” said Pheffer. Over the years community leaders and advocates joined the procession in an effort to connect with elected officials, police officers and shul leaders along the way. Walkers have included Judge Martin Ritholtz, Richard Altabe, Pesach Osina, Yoni Dembitzer, Shulem Klein, and many others. For the past five years Assemblyman Phil Goldfeder has led the charge, coordinating the walk and providing the outreach to local leaders and the police department. In the words of Audrey Pheffer, who has continued on the walk despite no longer being in the Assembly, “It’s a wonderful experience seeing the relationships between the elected officials, the police and the community. To share in such a happy time and to see the excitement of the children, there really is nothing better.” While this will be Assemblyman Goldfeder’s final time on the walk as an elected, as he is not running for reelection, candidate Stacey Pheffer

L to R- Hon. Audrey Pheffer, Stacey Pheffer Amato, and Assemblyman Phil Goldfeder

Amato, daughter of Audrey Pheffer, will be joining the procession to meet and connect with the community. “This really brings a 20 year journey full circle,” said Goldfeder. “In 1996 the walk started with a Pheffer and in 2016 it will continue with a Pheffer.” Twenty years ago the community was much smaller with only a handful of stops including a mid-walk dinner at the home of Harvey and Lynn Gordon. Today, there is barely enough time to reach the 17 institutions on the route. In celebration of my bar mitzvah year

on the walk and the 20 years of its existence we take a moment to reflect how we have grown as a community and how the relationship between community and community leadership continues to be strong. Looking forward to seeing you on Simchas Torah. Dr. Eli Shapiro is a licensed clinical social worker with a doctorate in education. He is a community activist who serves as a member of community board 14 and a trustee of Queens Library.

dents about mindfulness. “Putting down our cameras for a minute to actually be mindful of where we were and how beautiful it was helped the seniors appreciate what they were doing,” she says. “Being mindful about our friends, our time in senior year, our time right before Rosh Hashana, this all helps us spiritually connect to the world around us and appreciate Hashem’s role in it.” “As seniors, our time at Central is coming to an end,” says senior Bru-

ria Rabin. “As we begin to consider seminary and college, it was so nice to take a break from all of our work and go on a hike to Bear Mountain with our whole grade. It was a bit cool, but we were having too much fun to complain about that. When we got to the top of the mountain, we ate lunch, got to hear an inspirational speech from Rabbi Weissman, and spend time as a grade. The scenery was beautiful and the hike was rigorous, but we had a blast!”

A Central “Senior Moment”

s seniors busily prepare for their post-high school careers, they enjoy seeking respite from their planning to take advantage of their last year all together. On a beautifully sunny Wednesday, the senior class of Yeshiva University High School for Girls traveled to Bear Mountain for a day of hiking, team-building, and reflecting. “Hiking up Bear Mountain always comes with its challenges,” says Student Activities Coordinator and senior Grade Level Coordinator Leah Moskovich. “It’s a huge mountain and a hard hike! The girls all help each other, push each other, and encourage each other up the mountain. It really bonds them and creates great memories.” Senior Risa Friedman agrees: “It was really a great bonding experience! Even though it was a hard and long hike, we all encouraged each other to keep going. When we got to the top and were able to look around at all the beautiful scenery we all felt really accomplished. Overall, I think

it was just a very good way to start off senior year because we had the opportunity to hang out while doing something fun, productive, and motivational.” Emily Berger appreciated the opportunity to spend time with her grade outside the confines of the school building: “It is our fourth year in this school, and we are such a close-knit grade.” She adds, “The hike itself was a little challenging, but it was definitely fun, and we all enjoyed it – as we did it together!” At the summit of the mountain, everyone took in the stunning views over a “Lunch and Learn” with Rabbi Elie Weissman. Rabbi Weissman beautifully spoke of the importance of finding Torah anywhere and everywhere – even at the top of Bear Mountain. The hike, said Rabbi Weissman, provided the seniors with the perfect opportunity to take themselves out of their routines, smell the fresh air, and recognize the awesome beauty and bounty of Hashem’s world. Ms. Moskovich also addressed the stu-

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Chai Lifeline Makes a Bar Mitzvah a Simcha to Remember

Grateful Parents Talk About Camp Simcha

Rafi was born with a neurological disorder that made everyday tasks more difficult. Walking more than a few steps is difficult; he spends most of his time in a wheelchair.

“The magic that is Camp Simcha is widely known, but what is truly remarkable is the ability to see the children for who they really are. Too often, the world sees them as just their illnesses or disabilities. They see the struggle, but they don’t take the time to see into the soul of the child. The staff at Camp Simcha does the opposite. They see only the soul, and the disabilities are just extras. Even just

Rafi was a withdrawn, shy child when Chai Lifeline came into his life. Soon he was befriended by Dovid, a Chai Lifeline volunteer and Big Brother who loved to play with him and take him for pizza. Dovid’s many phone calls and visits helped him become an outgoing boy who talked and laughed all the time. Still, as Rafi’s Bar Mitzvah approached, his parents were concerned. His speech is garbled; would he have the courage to lain in front of the congregation? Would the other boys in his class want to come to the party? They needn’t have worried. On the day of his Bar Mitzvah, Dovid stood by his side, encouraging him with his presence. Sitting nearby was a phalanx of Chai Lifeline volunteers who knew Rafi from outings and Shabbatons. Their joy for Rafi turned the reception into an explosion of ruach. Rafi’s mother watched with tears in her eyes as his wheelchair was lifted into the air. She feared her son would be isolated by illness, but there he was, in the center of a circle of love. ■

two weeks of being seen for who she really is will be enough to change my daughter’s life.” “Avrohom had a wonderful time at camp this summer. For the first time, he actually came home and remembered things. He has not stopped talking. He keeps saying, “And one more thing…”

We went to see his neurologist the day after he came home and she said she has not heard this many words come out of his mouth in all ten years combined that she has seen him. She was even talking about investigating a different type of schooling based on how he was presenting himself. So thank you from the bottom of my heart!”

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Project CHAI Responds To Tragedies, Trauma Throughout Summer Unfortunately, though schools are on hiatus during the summer months, tragedies and crises never seem to take a vacation. Since June, Project CHAI teams were called to assist families and communities in more than a dozen tragedies and traumatic incidents. The teams, each comprised of community leaders and educators, work under the direction of Rabbi Dr. Dovid Fox, Project CHAI’s director of interventions, and Mrs. Zahava Farbman, assistant director. Teams are trained to provide a combination of professionalism and the comfort that comes from neighbors helping one another. “Every year, we prepare knowledgeable, sensitive and motivated men and women who can both provide nechama to

families in the first hours and days of a crisis and also help their own community heal after a trauma,” said Rabbi Simcha Scholar, executive vice president of Chai Lifeline. “This summer, our teams rose to an extraordinary challenge as they confronted immensely sad and horrific tragedies involving young people. Their compassion and knowledge helped those stricken cope with the shock and sadness.” Dr. Fox and Mrs. Farbman noted that families who are helped by Project CHAI become part of the Chai Lifeline family. They benefit from the full range of services available to bereaved families, including counseling, sibling programs like i-Shine (available in some communities), and the Healing Hearts Bereavement Retreat. ■

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Sukkot By Rabbi Berel Wein

upervising my somewhat willing helpers in the sukkah, while hanging our decorative memorabilia collected from our extensive travels all over the world, I quietly reflected to myself about the nature of this beautiful and happy holiday. Here in Israel the weather is not that much of a factor and only rarely does it play a role in our observance of the commandment of dwelling in a sukkah for a week. The sun usually shines here and the weather is still quite warm. So, like many other aspects of Jewish life, the Torah apparently meant for the holiday of Sukkot to be spent and enjoyed in the Holy Land with the special climate and ambience that exists there. However, the holiday has been celebrated by Jews for most of our history in less than ideal weather and social conditions. I remember the snow on the roof of the sukkah on bitterly cold days in Chicago and later in Monsey. I also recall the oppressive heat and humidity of Miami Beach where all of our guests were issued towels in order to be able to mop the sweat off of their faces during the meal. Since the holiday itself represents the ability to live outside of the physical comforts and habitats

of ordinary life and to exist in a special spiritual “house of G-dly clouds” Jews overcame all physical impediments in order to properly celebrate and commemorate this glorious and beautiful holiday. This idea of Sukkot – of being able to live in the physical and spiritual worlds at one and the same time – truly encompasses the entire

home after our “real” world ends. On Sukkot our real and ordinary world is sublimated to this great “other world.” Dwelling in the sukkah engenders within us the feeling of already participating in the sweetness of “the world to come.” If we deal with the sukkah as a purely physical project then we will always experience difficulties and

Dwelling in the sukkah engenders within us the feeling of already participating in the sweetness of “the world to come.”

viewpoint of the Torah regarding human life and behavior. Most of the year we emphasize the fact that we live in a physical and rational world and conduct our lives accordingly. But even then there is a portion of us that recognizes that we are living in a spiritual and eternal world as well and that our actions influence that unseen and intangible existence. On the holiday of Sukkot we actually attempt to live, at least for seven days, in this unseen world, the world that will be our true and eternal

perhaps even discomfort. However, if we truly visualize it as being a house of “clouds of glory” then all of the travail and discomfort of not living in our home with our accustomed conveniences will somehow diminish and even disappear. As I contemplated our sukkah decorations from all over the world I thought to myself that this is perhaps, in a small way, a representation of the universality of the holiday. Among the other artifacts hanging in our sukkah is a sheep from New

Zealand, a boomerang from Australia, an Asian dancer from Thailand, a flag from Croatia, decorated eggs from the Czech Republic, Navajo pottery from Utah and Colorado, Zulu dancers from South Africa, a wooden elephant from Botswana, a cowbell from Switzerland and a pinwheel from Canada. We also have a flag from Wales, an Eiffel tower from Paris, a doll from Russia, replicas of Henry VIII from London and of Shakespeare from Stratford-upon-Avon, Indian corn from Illinois, a sombrero from Mexico, a hat from Vietnam, a lamp from Morocco, a trinket from Japan and a few other assorted odds and ends from different parts of the globe that we have been fortunate enough to visit. All of these objects, together with our guests, will enhance our celebration of the holiday of Sukkot here in Jerusalem. Additionally, as is the case every year, I know that there will be many thousands of non-Jews who will also make a pilgrimage to Jerusalem. The words of the prophets of Israel regarding Jerusalem and the holiday of Sukkot come to life in front of our very eyes. What a privilege it is to live here now and rejoice in G-d’s festival and goodness. Chag samech.

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The Observant Jew

Looks Can be Deceiving By Rabbi Jonathan Gewirtz

his morning I gave blood at a local shopping center. Once the needle was in, the attendant put a piece of gauze over my arm. I wondered about the functional necessity of that, but there didn’t seem to be any. Then it hit me. He had covered my arm for one reason only. It was to make sure I didn’t see the actual needle entering my arm. I think it would have hurt a lot more if I did, and probably some people have run out of the bloodmobile screaming at the sight. OK, I’ll stop being gory. The point is that even though I knew that my lifeforce was literally dripping away, the fact that it was camouflaged made it easier to ignore. It’s kind of like those cell towers that they paint brown and cover with fake branches. Even though we know exactly what they are, they aren’t quite as offensive if they look a little like something else. For some reason, if we see a metallic pole with panels on top and what looks like giant cans of vegetables hanging off them, we start thinking that the electro-magnetic ra-

dio waves will fry our brains from as far away as we can see the towers. However, with some brown paint on the bottom and fake evergreen branches, voila! It is now just a large, uncommonly rigid-looking tree of nondescript species, towering over its neighbor trees. Of course, with too few fake branches, it just looks like a poorly camouflaged cell tower. Nobody is really fooled either way, so why do they camouflage them to begin with? Why put gauze over the needle if I know what’s going on underneath? The answer is that by simply obfuscating the view, even a little, our brains can block out negative feelings or fears. We no longer think about what is really there; our brains make it as if it’s not real. On the contrary, our brains tell us that the fake-out is real. OK, so where’s the message; what’s my point? Throughout the year we go about our business, living our lives, and often forgetting about G-d in the process. We know He’s there behind the scenes, but the view is obstructed, so our brains

block that out sometimes. We actually start to believe that we’re the ones earning our parnassa, we’re the ones making a difference in the world, we’re the ones churning out a continuous stream of brilliantly-constructed articles that illuminate the populace and offer hope to the…but I digress. Then comes Rosh Hashana and Yom Kippur. We are extremely focused on Hashem’s role in our lives and the fact that everything comes from Him. We spend that time repeating over and over again that only He can give us our needs. Once that’s over, though – party time! Judgment is over, the harvest comes in, and a person could quite possibly sit back, relax, and enjoy his bounty knowing that the growing season is over in more ways than one. Now Hashem says, “Go into the sukkah. Put some coverage over it, a few branches, but make sure it’s not enough to fool you into thinking it’s a solid roof. I want you to see it for what it is, just a bit of camouflage which masks My role in the world. I want you to

sit there, look up and see the stars peeking through, and recognize the subtle messages I send you all year that

perhaps now we have a new insight into why we call Sukkos “Zman Simchaseinu,” the time of our happiness.

“I want you to see it for what it is, just a bit of camouflage which masks My role in the world.”

you are dwelling under the shade of My protection and it is I who causes your crops to grow and your business to flourish.” This yom tov, when we’re sitting in the sukkah, let’s look up at the schach and remember that this world is just camouflage trying to fool our brains into thinking there is something else that can protect us besides Hashem. Let’s remind ourselves that when things don’t seem to work out it’s because He wanted them to turn out that way, and when they work out or exceed our expectations, that’s still Hashem pulling all the strings. That way, no matter what happens we will be happy with it; and

It is because this holiday reminds us that everything is from G-d, and all He gives us is exactly what we need.

Jonathan Gewirtz is an inspirational writer and speaker whose work has appeared in publications around the world. You can find him at www. facebook.com/RabbiGewirtz and follow him on Twitter @ RabbiJGewirtz. He also operates JewishSpeechWriter.com, where you can order a custom-made speech for your next special occasion. Sign up for the Migdal Ohr, his weekly PDF Dvar Torah in English. E-mail info@JewishSpeechWriter.com and put Subscribe in the subject.

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Between the Lines

Meat, Wine, and the Pursuit of Happiness By Eytan Kobre

The Constitution only gives people the right to pursue happiness. You have to catch it yourself. - Benjamin Franklin

Cherokee elder was once telling his grandson of the battle that rages inside people. “The battle, young one, is between two wolves that live inside us all. One is unhappiness, the other is happiness.” After contemplating this for a minute, the young boy asked, “Grandfather, which wolf wins?” “Ah,” replied the elder. “The one you feed.” Sukkos is the “Time of Our Happiness” and a holiday of “extra happiness” (Rambam, Sukka 8:12) – a point driven home by the Torah not once, not twice, but three separate times

(Vayikra 23:39-40; Devarim 16:13-15). The Vilna Gaon famously opined that being happy on Sukkos – being completely and utterly happy for eight consecutive days – is the most daunting of all commandments. And it’s easy to understand why. Life presents so many reasons not to be truly happy. Even hardships aside, ordinary and everyday concerns alone simply do not permit absolute happiness. So how can the Torah demand that we be happy? How can the Torah decree emotion? What if we’re just not in the mood? There once was an old watercarrier who passed the study hall of the Ba’al Shem Tov every day with his pails. Whenever the Ba’al Shem Tov saw the watercarrier, he interrupted his students to ask, “Berel, my good man, how are you today?” Berel usually offered a polite response and continued on his way. But one day,

he responded quite differently. “How do I feel? Not good! Day in and day out I carry these heavy pails. My back hurts. I’m getting older. My boots are in tatters. My family is large, and the burden is too much. Those new houses at the end of the town want more and more water, and they are built up on the slope of the hill.” With a deep sigh, Berel picked up his pails and trudged on. The Ba’al Shem Tov said nothing. A few days later, Berel again passed the Ba’al Shem Tov and his students. “Berel, how are you today?” This time, the watercarrier rambled on about his good fortune. “Thank G-d, I’m doing well. I have work, and I earn enough money to feed my family. I am blessed because I have a large family. My boots are worn, but they do the job. And those new houses they recently built at the hill need a lot of water, which means extra income.” The watercarrier lifted his heavy buckets and went joyfully on his way.

The Ba’al Shem Tov explained to his puzzled disciples the watercarrier’s apparent change of heart. When Berel is unhappy and feels things are missing from his life, it is because he chooses to see the world that way. But when Berel chooses to be happy and content with what is in his life, he sees the world that way and joyfully goes about his work. As with Berel, every day presents us with a choice: experience the world through happiness and joy or experience the world through wretchedness and melancholy. And there’s the rub. Happiness does not depend on anything we have or don’t have. Happiness is a choice. It is a path we can choose to go down, or not. It can be chosen. It can be learned. It isn’t something we are given; it is something we make (Pele Yoetz, Simcha; Chochma U’Mussar, Vol. 2, pgs. 331-332). Or, as Abraham Lincoln put it, “Most people are about

as happy as they decide to be.” We would never be commanded to feel happy if we couldn’t choose to do so. Sukkos is the perfect setting for cultivating happiness and reminding us that it is our choice whether to pursue it. The occasion itself is cause for happiness. Sukkos follows on the heels of a 45-day period of intensive spiritual cleansing and thus celebrates our new lease on our spiritual lives (Sifsei Chaim, Vol. I, pg. 208; Alei Shur, Vol. II, pg. 451). It also comes at a time of material gladness – the harvesting of produce – so that our material joy and our spiritual joy may coalesce (Sefer HaChinuch 324; Tosfos, Devarim 16:14). One Sukkos eve, a young man enduring a particularly difficult period in his life asked Rav Shach how to fulfill the obligation of being happy on Sukkos. “You’ll understand at kiddush,” he answered. That night, upon reaching the words,

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“for You have chosen us and sanctified us from all the nations,” Rav Shach’s face beamed with pride. And the young man understood that this alone was sufficient cause for happiness.

particular, gives us the Four Species as tangible tools of joy (Yerushalmi, Sukka 16b; Abarbanel, Vayikra 23:40), and the Simchas Bais HaSho’eva festivities were the greatest display of

“Unhappiness,” replied the man. “She manufactures her own unhappiness.”

Then there are the typical festivities of any holiday, i.e., treats for the children, clothes and jewelry for the women, and meat and wine for the men (Rambam, Yom Tov 6:17-18). Sukkos, in

happiness imaginable (Sukka 5:1; Sukka 51b). If despite all this, we aren’t happy on Sukkos, we have nothing to blame but our own choices. Minister/author Nor-

man Vincent Peale told of a dinner conversation he had with a couple in a railway dining car during a trip. Despite being dressed in furs, diamonds, and an expensive dress, the woman seemed to be having a terrible time of it. She complained rather loudly that the car was dingy and drafty, the service bad, the food inedible. Her husband, in contrast, was affable and pleasant. Peale asked the man what business he was in, to which the man responded that he was a lawyer – adding, “And my wife is in manufacturing.” This surprised Peale because she did not appear to be the industrial or executive type. “Oh? What does she manufacture?”

“Unhappiness,” replied the man. “She manufactures her own unhappiness.” Shemini Atzeres is the perfect capstone to this exercise in choosing happiness. Inasmuch as it lacks material instruments engendering happiness, happiness itself is the order of the day (Kol Eliyahu, Devarim 16:15; Rashi, Vayikra 23:36; Sukka 55b; Shir HaShirim Rabba 1:32). Shemini Atzeres encourages us to cultivate happiness as a choice, weaning us off the tangible expressions of joy employed during the first seven days of Sukkos. As the point of departure for the year ahead, the purpose of Shemini Atzeres is to “be joyful from your sukkah into your home” (Tar-

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A Symbolic Sukkos More than Just Metaphors

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By Rabbi Mordechai Kamenetzky

t was a scene out of a fantasy. I’ll call him Moishe. He had a real cynical streak and hardly a good word to say about anyone. To Moishe, everybody was a bum, an am haaretz, a frummie or a tutzach. I don’t think there was anyone with whom he ever felt hashkafically or socially compatible. Everyone was put down either because he was too frum or not frum enough. But there he was with all four of them, as if they were his nearest and dearest buddies. I knew how he spoke about them during the rest of the year, but for some reason today was different. He was not only treating them as equals, he was holding them close as if they were inseparable. The most prominent of the four was clearly as pious as pious could be. They called him Ezzie. He was always learning and davening, and I don’t think he ever said no to anyone who needed a favor. What was really strange was that the others were not

nearly as holy. The second guy was called Robbie. Rob was bereft of any spirituality: He’d never done a mitzvah nor picked up a sefer in his life. And when it came to doing a chessed, he was nowhere to be found. Yet somehow, the cantankerous and often snide Moishe was embracing him like a friend. The other two fellows also seemed out of place. One was called Lou. Lou was like the maskil of old. He loved to learn, yet when it came to good deeds there was much to be desired; he wouldn’t lift a finger for another person. I don’t know if he ever davened or even kept kosher. And believe it or not, next to Lou, hugging him tight, was the fourth guy, who was the exact opposite. All day long he was coming and going to hospitals and whatnot, Hatzolah and Mekimi. But open a sefer? Never! And there was good old Moishe, singing and swaying with them as if they would never part. I couldn’t

imagine what was going on until I snapped out of my daydream and the four men lost their human personae and morphed back into their Midrashic reality: the esrog, the lulav, the hadassim and the aravos, with their particular tastes and smells or lack thereof, each representing a different type of Jew and his performance of mitzvos and Torah learning. I needn’t elaborate on the symbolism of Lou the lulav, Rob the aravah, Ezzie the esrog tzaddik, or Harry the hadas. It’s funny how we like to take Chazal literally when it’s convenient, and how in theory we would bind these Jews together and hug them dearly if they were actual fruit. In Yiddishkeit we often emphasize the beauty of symbolism, but when it comes to reality we often get mired in the murkiness of the mundane, which can cloud our actual idealism. We invite the seven ushpizin into our sukkah and always seem to have

a place for them. But if there were hardly any room and it was hot and crowded, would you really invite a 2,000-year-old relative to your table? A story is told about Rav Isser Zalman Meltzer. He was once sitting with some students when one of them suddenly looked out the window and announced that one of Israel’s leading gedolim (I heard it was the Chazon Ish) was walking towards the house. Rav Isser Zalman quickly prepared his modest apartment to greet the honored guest. The table was covered with a freshly laundered tablecloth and adorned with a bowl of fruit. The rav also changed into his Shabbos attire to show his respect for the distinguished visitor. When someone knocked on the door Rav Isser Zalman rushed to open it. But instead of an esteemed gadol, it was a simple Jew who needed a letter of approbation in order to raise funds. From a distance he had looked like the

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gaon, but the student had made a mistake. To the surprise of his wife, and even more so to the visitor himself, Rav Isser Zalman ushered the poor man into his dining room. He proceeded to seat him at the head of the table, converse with him, feed him, and give him the respect he would have afforded a revered guest. After discussing the man’s needs, he wrote a letter filled with complimentary descriptions regarding the man and his situation. Reb Isser Zalman later commented, “Who among us can really assess a person’s value? Perhaps this is the way one must treat every Jew. I was happy to channel my enthusiastic expectations of the gadol’s visit toward this simple Jew.” Our challenge is to turn idealism into reality. Indeed, I’ll never forget how the idea of the all-encompassing sukkah of protection became a reality. It was erev Sukkos 1985. I was making the trip with my family to New York from Pittsburgh, where we were living at the time. The drive across the Pennsylvania Turnpike takes about six hours, plus another two hours to get to Woodmere. Somewhere near Philadelphia you pick up the New Jersey Turnpike to the Goethals and Verrazano Bridges, and then proceed to the Belt Parkway. It’s not a terrible ride, but that erev Sukkos it was different. We were being chased. It felt as if the Egyptians were breathing down our backs. The minute we changed our eastward trek from Pennsylvania and headed northbound we saw it coming in our rearview mirror: Hurricane Gloria. The hurricane was at Cape May, NJ, and heading north. We were still ahead of it, but it was gaining. Any slowdown and we would be caught in its eye. The rain was pelting, the winds were gusting and we knew there was a possibility we might face its wrath. But we made it. It hit only an hour or two after we finally arrived in Woodmere. Somehow, despite the trees falling, debris flying and cars floating, my father’s sukkah remained standing, protecting us like a real sukkas shlomecha. There is so much symbolism to Sukkos, such as the aforementioned

Midrash about the four minim representing the four types of Jews (Vayikra Rabbah 30:12). It all seems wonderful on paper when your fifth grader brings home a dvar Torah to read at the table. But here’s a story of someone who took its message to

crets known only to (if you’ll excuse my Carlebachian expression) the deepest of the deep and the purest of the pure. So I moved the lulav and esrog to my left side and held them in a way that I thought the general wouldn’t

“You’ve got a lulav and an esrog – why are you hiding them?! You should walk proudly as if you’re holding a bayonet and a grenade!”

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to you as a general!” Indeed, he was right. Chazal do compare the lulav and esrog to symbolic arms waved in proud victory after the defeat of a vicious enemy. If only I had really lived the symbolism. If only we believed that the lulav and esrog are our weapons, that the sukkah will protect us as in days of yore, and that our Avos come to visit. If only we believed that all Jews must unite and be embraced, despite their differences. Then maybe, just maybe, Hashem will allow us to sit in the great sukkah made from the skin of the livyasan. Reprinted with permission from AMI Magazine where this article originally appeared.

heart, even if he himself was less than observant. When I first moved back to Woodmere in the mid-1980s there were hardly any observant Jews in the immediate area. By the time my boys were old enough to take a lulav and esrog to shul a few families had moved in, but most of my neighbors would not have known what they were. And though I never wore a tallis over my coat as if I was living in Yerushalayim, it is almost impossible to carry a lulav and esrog incognito. One of my neighbors was General Lee Dicker. I had stopped to schmooze with him a few times when passing by his house on Shabbos. I thought he was Jewish, but I never said anything if I saw him getting into his car on that holy day. He claimed to be a onestar general in the Korean War, and I wasn’t sure if the “Good Shabbos” he usually extended to me was something he had learned from the streets or from his own Jewish home. Well, one day I was running late to shul and had my two boys with me. They were only six or seven at the time, and encumbered with their own arba minim, they were having difficulty keeping up with me. The general was sitting outside, with a cigar and The New York Times, if I remember correctly. I figured I’d get a “What’s that your holding?” or the like, which would require me to explain a commandment whose symbolism, in my opinion, is difficult for those of us in a non-agrarian society to understand on a simple level, let alone their se-

notice. Then came the booming voice: “You’ve got a lulav and an esrog – why are you hiding them?! You should walk proudly as if you’re holding a bayonet and a grenade! I remember the rabbi in Eitz Chaim Yeshiva in Boro Park telling us that! And now I’m telling it

Rabbi Mordechai Kamenetzky is Rosh Yeshiva of South Shore, the author of the Parsha Parables Series and weekly columnist in Yated Neeman and AMI Magazine.

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• The Darkest Sukkah • in Jerusalem BY RABBI YERACHMIEL TILLES

ll the Jewish inhabitants of the Old City of Jerusalem in the early 5700s (1940s C.E.) were well acquainted with the unique sukkah of Rabbi Shlomo-David Kahane, Chief Ashkenazi Rabbi of the Jewish Quarter. It was so special that even many New City residents made a custom of dropping in during the Sukkot festival on their way to the Western Wall in order to imbibe of its beauty, its invigorating spirit of holiness and festival joy, and the inspiring Torah words of the rabbi. Despite his advanced age (in his 70s), Rabbi Kahane always expended much effort in the mitzvah of building his sukkah. After the 26-hour Yom Kippur fast he would have something to eat and drink and, with the help of some of his students, he would get to work immediately. He wanted to be sure that it would be large and spacious enough for all the guests who would want to come. His young grandchildren and great-grandchildren could hardly control themselves in anticipation

until the sukkah would be ready so they could make it even more beautiful and precious with their innocent festive decorations. While everyone was fascinated by the rabbi’s magnificent sukkah, one custom of his perplexed them all. Indeed, it seemed almost bizarre. On the first night of the holiday, the time of the only meal of the Sukkot festival required by the Torah to be eaten inside a sukkah, all the sukkot in Jerusalem were filled with light…except the famous one of Rabbi Kahane, where the meal was conducted in great joy, but in near-total darkness, relieved only by the dim light of a few candles. And when those candles dimmed and went out, the rabbi sat in the pitch blackness the entire night, accompanied by some of his students, energetically discussing Torah topics relevant to the festival in particular to the commandment of dwelling seven nights and days in a sukkah. In a later year, on one of the days of Sukkot, Rabbi Kahane agreed to explain the background behind this strange custom of his.

Poland had been beaten into submission by the brutal Nazi war machine. Heavy artillery and rocket fire had devastated all the major cities, especially Warsaw. It was September 5740 (1939 C.E.). The High Holiday season was just beginning. Rabbi Shlomo-David Kahane was then Chief Rabbi of Warsaw. He was well aware that he would not be able to fulfill the two Sukkot festival commandments of dwelling in a sukkah and waving the Four Species in their full glory as he was accustomed to. Not a single lulav (palm branch) was available, nor any suitable myrtles or willows. In all of Warsaw there was one etrog (citron fruit) in the possession of Rabbi Meshulem Kaminer, the man in charge of the Jewish cemetery in Warsaw. After Yom Kippur, with the Sukkot festival only four days away, it seemed that it would be impossible to erect a sukkah for the week-long festival. True, Rabbi Kahane had in storage all the wooden boards necessary for the walls and the roofing of a sukkah, but to dare to actually build a sukkah would seriously endanger his life. Warsaw was occupied

then by bloodthirsty Nazis, who voraciously patrolled the streets. Any visible sign of Jewish observance could whet their appetite for another bloodbath. No one in his family would be safe – not in the sukkah and not inside the house. Nevertheless, despite the difficulties and the dangers, Rabbi Kahane was not willing in the slightest to give up the mitzvah so precious to him. In the days preceding Sukkot, he prowled all over the area, looking for a spot in one of the Jewish courtyards sufficiently concealed for him to risk constructing a sukkah there. In the end, he decided on a location in a courtyard only three houses away from his own dwelling. With the help of some of his students, he succeeded in removing the wooden walls and the thin strips of wood for the roof from storage, quietly transporting them to the chosen spot and quickly erecting a sukkah that fit all the requirements of Jewish law. Around it he hung wet sheets and clothes so that a casual glance would register only laundry hanging to dry. On the first night of the festival, the rabbi surreptitiously entered

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the sukkah with two of his students. They recited kiddush over two slices of bread and discussed Torah topics relating to the holiday and the mitzvah of dwelling in a sukkah in as low tones as possible. There were no decorations in the sukkah nor delicacies appropriate for a festive meal to eat or drink, no visible signs of the holiday at all other than the bare sukkah. Still, Rabbi Kahane felt as happy as he ever did in his life, filled with joy and gratitude at being able to fulfill the mitzvah of dwelling in a sukkah in such extremely difficult conditions. In order not to arouse the suspicions of the Nazi beasts, who patrolled everywhere in the area until there was no one left on the streets, the rabbi and his two students remained in the sukkah the entire night. Not even once did they discuss the dire political situation and its continuous terrors; they continued with enthusiasm to analyze the holiday and its mitzvot from all the various aspects of Torah. One point which the Rabbi emphasized to his two students was the following: There is one question I always ask myself: when will I be able to fulfill the commandment to “rejoice in your holiday” purely and in its entirety? Holidays contain many elements besides the mitzvah itself – eating, drinking, fancy desserts, resting, socializing, etc. Tonight we have learned that when we sit in a sukkah devoid of any of these components – no delicacies to eat and not even any light – overshadowed by an environment of dread and terror, yet still we make every effort to instill and feel joy in our hearts. This is true, pure, unadulterated joy in the mitzvah – the real thing! – an inner joy, stemming from the actual fulfillment of the mitzvah in the most antagonistic of conditions. A basic motif of Nazi activity in conquered cities was actions to depress the spirit of the Jewish community – to humiliate them, to subjugate them, to crush any remnants of Jewish pride and personal self-esteem. One of their favorite methods for accomplishing this was to topple the rabbi; it was on top of their “to do” list. They well understood the role

the rabbis filled in encouraging the people, strengthening them, and lifting their spirits. So it happened that on the first night of Sukkot, in the middle of the

blessing, thanking the Al-mighty for the kindness of His intervention. After a long arduous journey with numerous potential pitfalls, Rabbi Kahane finally managed to escape

One of the Nazi soldiers placed the barrel of his revolver between her eyes and barked, “Tell us immediately where the rabbi is or else….” night, while the rabbi and his two students were still sitting and conversing in the blacked-out sukkah, a small group of uniformed Nazis came banging loudly with their gun butts on the Kahane family door. When the terrified Mrs. Kahane finally opened the door, the vile Germans burst in and amidst much cursing began a thorough search in every room and corner of the house, pausing only to present blows with their gloved fists to any family member who came too close. During the entire time of the search Mrs. Kahane stood stone still. When they were not able to find any trace of her husband, one of the Nazi soldiers placed the barrel of his revolver between her eyes and barked, “Tell us immediately where the rabbi is or else….” It was with great difficulty that the terrified rebbetzin managed to squeeze out a few words in reply. “He disappeared as soon as the gunfire and explosions started.” This explanation made sense to the Nazi murderers because many people ran off whenever there were explosions. So he lowered his gun and they wrote in their report “the Rabbi fled,” implying there was no need to search the house anymore. While the rabbi was sitting in his sukkah with his students that night, he heard the screaming, the curses and the tumult in the neighborhood, but it never occurred to him that he was the main cause of it. Only early the next morning, when he managed to sneak home, his wife told him about the miracle that had taken place the night before. Subsequently, at the festival morning Torah reading, Rabbi Kahane said the “Gomel”

the claws of the Nazis and reach the shores of the Holy Land. He decided that as a reminder and an expression of appreciation for the wondrous salvation that had occurred for him, every year he would continue to sit in a darkened sukkah on the first night of the festival to remember and re-experience how it is possible to capture the true essence of the mitzvah of sitting in a sukkah, even without light or any other usually available

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pleasure. Into his remarkable story Rabbi Kahane delighted to weave the pithy explanation of the Chassidic rebbe and tzaddik, Rabbi Meir of Premishlan, about a law of the festival as stated in the Mishna: “One who is suffering [from illness or from conditions in the outdoor sukkah] is freed from [the obligation to dwell in] the sukkah.” Commented Rebbe Meir’l: “One who is suffering, the sukkah frees him” – the sukkah can free us and save us from all of our sorrows. Source: Translated-adapted by Yerachmiel Tilles from the Hebrew weekly Sichat HaShavua #1344. (First published on AscentOfSafed. com.) Reprinted with permission from Festivals of the Full Moon from Menorah Books, which is now part of the Koren Publishers and Toby Press family of publishing companies, by Rabbi Yerachmiel Tilles to be launched on November 1.

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Chol Hamoed Places to Go, Things to Do

Take advantage of the cool, brisk temperatures of Sukkos this year and spend time with the family during chol hamoed. TJH has compiled a list of ideas, activities and places to go for you to enjoy this time spent together. Make sure to pack enough food and music for the road and have fun!

Zoos and Farms Queens County Farm Museum 73-50 Little Neck Parkway, Floral Park, NY 11004 718-347-3276

Family Animal Fun At the Aviator Sports Center 3159 Flatbush Avenue, Brooklyn, NY 11234 718-577-2086 White Post Farms 250 Old County Road, Melville, NY 11747 631-351-9373 New York Aquarium Surf Avenue & West 8th Street, Brooklyn, NY 11224 718-265-FISH

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Six Flags Great Adventure 1 Six Flags Boulevard, Jackson, NJ 08527 732-928-2000 Adventureland 2245 Broad Hollow Road (RT 110), Farmingdale, NY 11735 631-694-6868 Luna Park Coney Island 1000 Surf Avenue, Brooklyn, NY 11224 718-372-0275 Adventurers (formerly Nelie Bly Park) 1824 Shore Parkway, Brooklyn, NY 11214 718-975-2748

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“Appreciate

Life!”

Nonagenarian Mr. Bernie Brickman Shares His Memories BY MALKY LOWINGER Mr. Bernie and Dorothy Brickman, together for 70 years ka”h

Bernie Brickman was born in September of 1922, just a few years before the Great Depression. It was a time when many Americans were struggling economically and while Jewish-Americans were struggling to hold onto their religious beliefs. Today Bernie is a remarkably vibrant and intelligent 94-year-old with a delightful sense of humor and almost a century of memories that he loves to share. Recently, he was zoche to celebrate his 70th wedding anniversary. I was fortunate to speak with Mr. Brickman about his stint in the army, the growth of Yiddishkeit in America, and the secrets to a long and happy marriage.

Mr. Brickman, what are some of your earliest memories? I was born in Carmel, a city which is located in southern New Jersey. The Great Depression started when I was about seven, and that’s something that I vividly remember.

Yerushalayim. You won’t believe what they wanted to charge for tuition in those days – a big ten dollars! In the end, I didn’t attend the yeshiva because my father became ill and I was needed at home. Instead, my father hired a rebbe to learn with me pri-

dishkeit is concerned. In those days they would hire European immigrants as community rabbanim, but unfortunately they didn’t relate to the American youth and their culture, or they were too busy trying to earn a living so they could bring over their wife and

He laughed at him and said, “Ha! When you see hair growing on the palm of my hand, that’s when you’ll get to see the president!” At that time there were no yeshivos between New York and Baltimore. I went to grammar school, and then my father, a”h, registered me in Yeshivas Tiferes

vately, which he did until I graduated high school. We in New Jersey and actually in the whole country were almost a lost generation, as far as Yid-

children. Very often it just didn’t work. My father himself was a rav, a shochet, a chazzan, and a mohel all rolled into one. He was the chavrusa

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of Rav Naftoli Riff, the rav and Torah scholar in Camden, NJ. I had the opportunity to see firsthand how my parents stayed religious all those years and had the opportunity to see him do taharos and even performing a chalitzah ceremony once. I saw how he and my mother lived Yiddishkeit, and I tried to do the same. My brother, sister, and I are among the few who remained Orthodox in those days. What was the rest of the community like? I’ll give you an example. My father was a little surprised once when there was a death in a particular family, and they asked the Conservative rabbi of the town to officiate at the levaya. He didn’t say anything but he did make a shiva call, to which I came along. The daughter came over to him and said, “I want you to know why we didn’t use you at the funeral. All of us, the

the rest of us learned by example. In what way? When it came to dairy, there was no cholov Yisroel. We had a neighborhood farmer who gave us milk, but there were many people who ate Kraft cheese and the like. (Incidentally, the founder of Kraft was a religious Jew who lived in our neighborhood.) The chassidim made sure there was cholov Yisroel and proper hechsherim. They brought Yiddishkeit up to a higher level in America. I feel kind of envious of them. What did you do for a living? I went to dental school and opened a dental lab. My specialty was making crowns and bridges for dentists. And then I got drafted into the army. Can you tell us about your army experience? I was drafted like every-

sible while I was serving. But we were at war, so this was sometimes difficult, especially in the morning. Mincha and Maariv I was able to manage. Were you aware of the atrocities that were happening at the time? Look, we knew there was a Hitler. We knew about him in ‘38 and ‘39, but we didn’t know the extent of what he had done. We understood that the Jews were being thrown into jail. We really didn’t know that they were being killed. But I was there after the camps were being liberated, and I would go out and buy chocolates and cigarettes for the refugees. They would sell these to make some money. What happened after the army? I was discharged in 1945 and went back home. A lot had changed. My father had passed away during my ab-

Since then, I tell everybody that my father made my shidduch after he had passed away. children, had a meeting and we decided that when you make a hesped you make the children cry too much.” When did things start to improve? The chassidim began coming in ‘56 and ‘57. They brought with them a lot of things that were helpful to Orthodoxy in America. When the chassidim came,

body else, but I took along my dental school diploma with me. When they interviewed me to decide where to place me, I pulled out the diploma and showed it to them. Right away they said they will put me in the dental corps. I ended up in a hospital unit and I never fired a gun. I tried to keep kashrus and daven as much as pos-

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sence. I actually found out about it via telegram while serving in the army. One Shabbos, we were hosting a fellow who I met in dental school. His name was Arthur, and he was on his way down to Baltimore to start working. My mother said to him, “Arthur, if you see something for Bernie down there, call him and he will join you.” Well,

Mr. Brickman’s grandfather, Rabbi Yisroel Brickman, sending a Rosh Hashana message to his son, R’ Nachum, in 1912

he called me and we ended up being partners together for 25 years. In those days, if you told your boss on Friday afternoon that you couldn’t come into work on Saturday, he told you not to bother coming in on Monday either. But I was fortunate. I didn’t have that problem because Baltimore had a five day work week. I lived with a family near Yeshivas Ner Yisroel. I was working, but I became active with the yeshiva. A few yeshiva boys took it upon themselves to learn with me. Three boys, who later became well-known rabbonim, took me under their wings. They learned with me every day. I give them the credit for my love of learning Torah.

When did you meet your wife? After a year and a half, I decided to look for a job in New York. The Dental Society sent me to a lab for an interview. Well, the boss was out that day but there was a girl, Dorothy Traiser, who worked there as a bookkeeper. She ended up interviewing me for the job and eventually becoming my wife. We were married in August of 1946. In those days, dating wasn’t like the shidduchim of today. We dated friends. I actually knew another girl at the time, and I was wondering which one I should marry. Then one night I had a dream that I’ll never forget. I dreamt that I took both girls to my father and asked him whom to marry.

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The document requesting for Mr. Brickman’s mother’s release from Russia

He pointed to Dorothy! Well, I got up in the morning and told my mother about it. She said, “You see? Your father is looking out for you!” So I realized that it was a basherte shidduch. Since then, I tell everybody that my father made my shidduch after he had passed away. Sounds like your father was very special. I’m going to tell you a story about how he met the president. My father came to America in 1912 and left my mother and a six-monthold daughter back in Russia.

That was the style in those days. The men came here, made a little money, and then brought the family over. In the end, World War I broke out and lasted from 1914 to 1918. So they couldn’t come over and they stayed in Russia for ten years. When the war ended, he tried desperately to bring them. Being a rabbi, he was acquainted with some Evangelical Christian “men of the cloth” and he spoke to them about this. “No problem, rabbi,” they told him. “We’ll handle it for you.” They got him in touch

with a lawyer in Washington, D.C. who said he will get my father an appointment with the president. At that time the president was Warren Harding. Well, you can imagine that when my father came home and told my uncle what happened, he laughed at him and said, “Ha! When you see hair growing on the palm of my hand, that’s when you’ll get to see the president!” But my father went to Washington. And he did see the president! Now, just so you understand, my father didn’t speak a word of English. But when he saw the president, he cried out in Yiddish, “Tatteh in himmel! Ich vihl zahn matzliach!” Harding asked the lawyer to translate. The lawyer explained that my father was asking G-d for success. Then my father began to cry and somehow his story came out. Right then and there the president called the State Department and ordered a special visa for my mother.

dollars and twelve cents for the telegram. That is an unbelievable story. You’re married to your wife Dorothy for seventy years now. What’s the secret to a long and happy marriage? Number one: Never say anything to your spouse that you know will bother her. Number two: Never belittle your spouse. Number three: Always let her know that you take her seriously. And most of all, never go to sleep angry. In all our seventy years together, my wife and I had disagreements, of course. But we never had an argument in our entire married lives. What keeps you young at heart? I always think of myself as young I would do things when I was ninety that people ten or fifteen years younger wouldn’t do. I always thought of myself as a young man.

Torah and I learned with him for 27 years. Since then, I’ve been learning daf yomi and am currently in middle of my third cycle. All my life, I try to attend every shiur I can get to. I have also been close to Rabbi Pelcovitz and Rabbi Flaum for all the years I’ve been living in Far Rockaway. What’s your greatest nachas? Seeing my grandchildren, great-grandchildren, and great-great-grandchildren learning Torah. It has such an effect on me! These are truly my dividends. I don’t know if I made a lot of money in my day, but boruch Hashem this is my greatest nachas. I am also amazed at the incredible growth of the Jewish community today. Back in the 1940s, who would have believed this would happen? Any yom tov message that you can share with our readers? I would tell everyone to stop for a moment and ap-

In all our seventy years together, my wife and I had disagreements, of course. But we never had an argument in our entire married lives. This was on June 17. My father went straight to the telegraph office to send a telegram to my mother. We still have all the documents. They even billed him five

And my faith keeps me going. I make it my business to learn Torah, even back when I was in business. I was a talmid of Rav Eliyahu Rominek of Yeshiva Ohavei

preciate life. That’s so important. If you appreciate your life and thank Hashem for it on a regular basis, then He will in turn grant you more life.

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Be Our Guests

How Two Families have Mastered the Art of Hosting Crowds of People Every Shabbos BY MALKY LOWINGER

n Sukkos, we invite the ushpizin into our sukkahs and, frankly, they make pretty good guests. They don’t spill the wine or try to make awkward conversation. Their kids are never rowdy. And they never complain that the food wasn’t good enough. Inviting real guests is different, especially if you’re having random strangers. They can show up at the last minute or fall asleep on the living room couch. They might even be rude or noisy. And yet, there are those families among us who have turned the mitzvah of hachnosas orchim into their life’s calling. Not satisfied with the occasional Shabbos seudah company, these people have an open door policy every Shabbos. And they never really know who the next interesting guest will be. These families tell us that as much as their guests benefit from their hospitality, it’s they who are reaping the benefits of meeting amazing people who inspire them week after week. The occasional stain on a tablecloth is a small price to pay for the opportunity to revel in the diversity of klal Yisroel. It doesn’t get better than this, they say. With the advent of social media as well as the Shabbat.com site, it’s easy to invite guests anytime and anyplace. These families rise to the occasion on a regular basis, week after week. Their stories are an inspiration to us all.

Meet the Beymans

The Beyman family at a family simcha

Deena and Avrohom Beyman have been living in Monsey for the past 21 years but only registered with Shabbat.com about six years ago. “We started out with just a few guests but then they started bringing their friends and it grew

and grew.” These days, the Beymans host an average of twenty guests each Shabbos. “We can fit eighteen around our dining room table,” Avrohom explains. “And then if we need to, we can open up a folding table for a few more.”

Because they live upstate, most of the Beymans’ guests sleep over. “We have sixteen extra beds in our home,” says Deena. “When there’s an overflow, they are hosted overnight by our wonderful neighbors who also want to have a part in

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this mitzvah.” Their guests come from all walks of life and all backgrounds, but most of them are single or divorced young people who are looking to enjoy a Shabbos experience or maybe just to socialize. More than a few shidduchim have come about as a result of Shabbosim spent in their home. The Beymans begin searching for their Shabbos guests as soon as the previous Shabbos is over. As Avrohom explains, “We realized you need to be proactive.” Deena can often be found at her computer on Motzei Shabbos inviting next week’s guests on Shabbat.com. The motto at the Beymans’ home is that “All Brands of Jews Are Welcome,” and that includes the not-yet-Jewish. They’ve had several geirim at their Shabbos table, as well as almost-geirim. Most memorable was a woman named Melissa who reached out to them through social media. “She lived in a small village in Canada and didn’t drive. Instead, she took buses and hitched rides to get to us. She left on a Tuesday and didn’t arrive at our home until Friday. But she was determined to join us.” They’ve met their share of amazing people: Yedidya, the African-American ger who asked the Beymans to adopt him; Nancy, who escaped from Cuba on a raft in shark-infested waters; Rivka, who kept growing in her religious observance until she married a yeshiva guy and is now hosting guests in her own Brooklyn apartment; Millie, from

Peru, who burst out crying as she sat in the Beyman sukkah and eventually was megayer – she now calls herself Miriam and is married to a man from Boro Park; Roger, from Brooklyn, who observed his first Shabbos at the Beymans and is now learning in yeshiva in Israel; Imri, the Israeli ba’al teshuva who brought along his non-observant father, David, for Shabbos. At the end of the weekend, David said to Avrohom, “I never knew Shabbos could be so beautiful.” Their most memorable

we request that all guests move out of the living and dining room areas into the kitchen and family room so as not to disturb those who are going to sleep. I also announce that we are a ‘shomer negiyah’ household and that everyone should act accordingly. Basically, it boils down to being a mensch.” Were there ever guests who were rude or disrespectful? “Look,” says Avrohom, “ninety five percent of our guests are wonderful and amazing. There’s a tiny percentage who aren’t and we’ve definitely had some

We buy sodas at Shoprite, water at Walmart, and paper goods from Amazing Savings. We pretty much have it down pat.” Deena does the cooking on Thursdays and Fridays, and the cleaning lady makes the beds before Shabbos. Avrohom admits that their weekly hachnosas orchim project can become pricey, yet he says, “somehow we manage. Only Hakadosh Boruch Hu knows how it gets done.” The menu remains simple yet satisfying. Deena’s specialty are her meatballs, and she makes sixty ev-

At the end of the weekend, David said to Avrohom, “I never knew Shabbos could be so beautiful.” guests, say the Beymans, were the group of students from Toulouse, France. “It was several years ago, after the tragic terror attack at their school. They came with their principal to spend Shabbos with us. Most of them didn’t speak English but we had someone translate. There was so much singing and dancing that weekend, it was amazing. Probably one of the best Shabbosim we ever had.” Avrohom and Deena are generally laid back and easygoing about hosting, but they did establish a few general rules. “During the meal,” says Avrohom, “I announce that everyone should help clear the table before benching. And at 11:00 PM,

interesting experiences, but by and large we’ve morphed into a great group. I guess you can call it on-the-job training.” The Beymans maintain a non-judgmental atmosphere, which their guests appreciate. “We love everyone,” says Avrohom, “and people feel it.” How do you feed so many hungry people week after week? The Beymans have turned their weekly shopping expeditions into a science. “We dedicate much of our Sundays to shopping, and we purchase different products in different stores, depending on the prices. By now we have a system. Evergreen’s kugels are on sale on Sunday. The bakery donates cake to us on Wednesdays.

ery week. “That’s the first course,” says Avrohom. “The second course is buffet style. We prepare chicken and side dishes on the kitchen island. Everybody helps themselves.” On Shabbos day, the menu consists of a huge cholent and lots of salads. Some of the guests will bring along extra side dishes, challahs, sodas, or dessert. Avrohom and Deena insist that they benefit from their Shabbos hosting experience as much as their guests do. “We meet a lot of fantastic people,” says Deena. “We’re like one big happy family.” So much so that a few guests have taken to calling them Tatty and Mommy Beyman. Their

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own married children don’t come often for Shabbos, as they are busy raising their own families. And their single son, Elisha, is totally on board and has become an integral part of the program. “He’s a real people person,” says Deena. “He’ll often say a dvar Torah or lead the singing and the havdalah ceremony.” Do the Beymans recommend hachnosas orchim to other families? “Of course,” says Avrohom. “But better to start small. Have just a few people over and see if you are ready to build up. Also, you certainly don’t have to be hosting every single week.” But he does encourage would-be hosts to be proactive. “Don’t expect your guests to invite themselves for Shabbos. It’s your job to do that.” Reaching out has its rewards, he says. “You don’t know what kind of impact you can have on someone else’s life. Several people have told us that if they wouldn’t come here they wouldn’t keep Shabbos.” Before he ends our conversation, Avrohom makes one request. “Could I ask you a favor?” he asks. “Can you list our names and phone numbers in the article? That way, someone new might see this and decide to join us for Shabbos. We enjoy meeting new people and this might attract potential guests. We really want to host more people!” Of course! The Beymans can be reached at 845-3540934 or at deenabeyman@ gmail.com.

Some items to leave in your guest room to make your guests comfortable Bottle of water • Sealed snacks • Magazines (don’t forget TJH!) • Books • Over-the-counter-medication • Bandages Mini mouthwash • Extra blankets • Shabbos lamp • Closet space • Alarm clock • Shabbos key or code to the house

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The Zahav family with a guest

Meet the Zahavs They may live in a cozy little Jerusalem apartment, but that doesn’t stop Tuvia and Chana Zahav from hosting 20-24 people every Friday night as well as a sizeable group of lunch guests on Shabbos. “Somehow,” says Chana, “Hashem allows our living room to expand.” The Zahavs live in the area of Rechov Shmuel Hanavi, easily accessible to the Old City, the center of town, and the Maalot Dafna/Ramat Eshkol areas. It wasn’t always so. When they were first married, the Zahavs lived in a more remote location, and “we would daven for guests” but it didn’t always happen. Now, their apartment is an open house, with guests coming and going. “We love it and we love people, so we feel truly blessed, boruch Hashem.” For Chana, these blessings are truly special. She and Tuvia are married nearly thirteen years and are still waiting to be blessed with children of their own. “So aside from my husband’s Torah learning, we feel this is our way of contributing to klal Yisroel. It’s as if Hashem sent us His children to nurture until we have our own, b’ezras Hashem.” There’s an open atmosphere at the Zahav evening seudah, with religious and non-religious guests min-

gling easily. But the daytime seudah is more formal, with separate seating that usually attracts the seminary and ye-

will then call them during the week to inform them about the basic standards of dress observed in her home. “They have always taken it well,” she says. The Zahavs say that their most memorable guest was a young girl of Ukrainian heritage who had recently discovered that she is Jewish. As a result, she had come to learn in seminary in Eretz Yisroel. “Her story was so inspiring!” says Chana. Another “interesting” guest was the homeless woman who was so selfless she would consistently give away any contributions she received to those less fortunate than her. “We all thought she

Chana cooks for Shabbos whenever she gets a chance, but mostly on Wednesdays and Thursdays. She’s also an expert at making the dollar (or shekel) stretch. “When I make chicken burgers,” she says, “I use one whole chicken and lots of carrots instead of using several whole chickens which we simply couldn’t afford to do week after week.” Funding for their hachnosas orchim seems to come min hashamayim. “Several years in a row,” says Chana, “we’ve had different people magically show up at our home on erev Pesach with gigantic vegetable deliveries. They told us they just had extra.” Chana and Tuvia are

Once in a while she’s had to walk a guest to the door at 3:00AM, give them a hug, and say, “I love you! Good night!” shiva crowd. “Both are great in different ways,” Chana observes. “It can get quite lively at night and we get to know lots of different people. But it’s also nice to have deeper conversations and a bit more quiet for lunch.” The Zahavs try to include everyone in the conversations. “We go around the table asking people where they’re from,” Chana says. “Then they can either say a dvar Torah or an inspirational or funny story. This works out really well as it helps us avoid inappropriate conversation plus it makes it easier for us to really get to know our guests.” What if someone shows up dressed inappropriately? Chana admits that it’s certainly happened but they are careful not to lecture or judge their guests. Instead, she waits. If these guests start coming on a regular basis, she

might really be Eliyahu Hanavi!” The Zahavs consider it a successful Shabbos when all their guests get along and everyone seems to be enjoying themselves. Chana admits that there were the rare occasions when she and Tuvia were publicly insulted by a guest in front of the others. “That was hard,” she admits, “but boruch Hashem part of hosting is letting everyone in.” Otherwise, the only awkward situations they experience is when their guests are having such a good time they don’t want to leave. “We do encourage people to stay a bit after the meal,” Chana says, “but when we’re very tired we are very clear about turning in for the night.” Once in a while she’s had to walk a guest to the door at 3:00 AM, give them a hug, and say, “I love you! Good night!”

grateful for the guests who fill their home with joy every week. Do they ever crave private quality time? “We’re fine,” Chana says. “We take nighttime walks together during the week. And we do Melave Malka together on Motzei Shabbos.” Do the Zahavs recommend that the rest of us open our doors to klal Yisroel every Shabbos? Only if we can do it

b’simcha. “Everyone should do the chessed that they enjoy. I am not the type to sit with a sick child for hours. I’ve done that and I came home so drained I just couldn’t function. But I love having guests.” Still, she warns would-be hosts to take it slow. “Some people enjoy a smaller table. Others may want to host once a month. It’s okay to push yourself just a bit beyond your normal, so you are growing. But don’t give beyond what you can give b’simcha.” Chana and Tuvia continue to be inspired by their guests, especially those who contact them years later saying that their Shabbos table made a tremendous difference in their lives. “Nobody knows how their acts of chessed affect others,” Chana points out. “A woman once shared with us that she was not yet Jewish when she ate at our home on Shabbos but that the experience made her feel so comfortable it reinforced her determination to convert.” The most important thing, say the Zahavs, is for guests and hosts to appreciate each other. “Judging each other favorably on both sides would go a long way to making us all better, more caring Jews!” The Beymans and the Zahavs can be contacted through Shabbat.com, a Jewish social network that allows Shabbos hosts and guests to connect with each other.

Chana Zahav with a few happy guests

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In The K

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By Naomi Nachman

Stuffed cabbage is one of my favorite dishes. I started making stuffed cabbage when I was first married, trying to emulate my bubby’s version. I remember my mum and grandmother making huge vats of stuffed cabbage and storing them in smaller containers in the freezer. It was a tedious task – but well worth it. I too always make large quantities for my catering business and my family. What makes life so much easier nowadays is that Gourmet Glatt now sells softened and prechecked cabbage leaves. Making stuffed cabbage is no longer a big chore – it’s almost as easy as making meatballs!

Stuffed Cabbage Ingredients Meat Mixture 2 to 3 heads of cabbage or 4-6 packages of checked leaves from Gourmet Glatt 5 lbs. chopped meat 1 large onion, grated 4 cloves garlic, minced 1 cup seasoned panko or breadcrumbs 3 eggs 1 tablespoon paprika 1 tablespoon salt Dash pepper ¼ cup ketchup Sauce 3- 4 6 oz. large cans Sacramento tomato juice 1 ½ cup ketchup 2 tablespoons tomato paste 3-4 fresh lemons, squeezed 2 cup brown sugar 2-3 marrow bones Note: If you like it sweeter, add more sugar; if you like it tart, add more lemon.

the leaves, removing the thick core. Another option is, if you are very organized, place the cabbage head in the freezer for a few days. Remove the day before from the freezer; this makes the cabbage soft and easy to work with.

Preparation To prepare the meat mixture: Combine all meat mixture ingredients except for cabbage, mix well and set aside. To prepare the sauce: On a medium flame, mix the sauce ingredients together and bring to a boil. To prepare the cabbage leaves: Steam cabbage in boiling water for about 20 minutes until the outer leaves separate. After they have been drained and cooled, separate off

To assemble the stuffed cabbage: Place a tablespoon of meat mixture in the center of a leaf, roll up and tuck in sides. Repeat using up the cabbage leaves and meat. If you have extra meat leftover you can roll them into meatballs and cook them in the sauce. If you have leftover cabbage, you can shred it and cook it with the prepared sauce too. Place stuffed cabbage in prepared sauce and cook for 1½–2 hours on a low flame.

Naomi Nachman, the owner of The Aussie Gourmet, caters weekly and Shabbat/ Yom Tov meals for families and individuals within The Five Towns and neighboring communities, with a specialty in Pesach catering. Naomi is a contributing editor to this paper and also produces and hosts her own weekly radio show on the Nachum Segal Network stream called “A Table for Two with Naomi Nachman.” Naomi gives cooking presentations for organizations and private groups throughout the New York/New Jersey Metropolitan area. In addition, Naomi has been a guest host on the QVC TV network and has been featured in cookbooks, magazines as well as other media covering topics related to cuisine preparation and personal chefs. To obtain additional recipes, join The Aussie Gourmet on Facebook or visit Naomi’s blog. Naomi can be reached through her website, www.theaussiegourmet.com or at (516) 295-9669.

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By Jamie Geller

Scrumptious Sukkos Starters

PHOTO CREDIT BRIAN K SPECTOR

MATZO BALL DIPPERS Spinach, pastrami and brisket stuffed matzo balls are an amazing trio. They can be served in soup or made even better when crisped and served up with matching dipping sauces.

Ingredients ● 4 eggs ● 2 tablespoons extra virgin olive oil, plus more for shaping and browning ● 2 (4.5-ounce) boxes Lipton Matzo Ball Mix ● Kosher salt ● Freshly cracked black pepper ● 2 packed tablespoons thawed frozen spinach (squeeze out excess liquid) ● 2 slices pastrami, minced ● 2 slices cooked brisket, small dice ● Dips: spicy mustard, BBQ sauce, chili sauce

Preparation Place eggs, olive oil, and 2 pouches of matzo ball mix in a large mixing bowl. Add a generous pinch salt and pepper. Blend with a spatula. Divide batter evenly between three bowls. Mix spinach into the first bowl of matzo ball batter. Mix pastrami into the sec-

ond bowl of matzo ball batter. The third bowl is the classic batter with no mix-ins. Refrigerate all three batters for 10 minutes. With wet or lightly oiled hands form spinach and pastrami batters into 1-inch sized balls. Flatten a small portion (about 2 to 3 teaspoons) of classic matzo ball batter into the palm of your hand. Place 1 piece of diced brisket in the center. Fold over the batter to encase brisket. Form into a round 1-inch sized ball. Repeat with remaining batter. Drop matzo balls into boiling broth or heavily salted boiling water, allowing room for matzo balls to double in size. You may have to do this in batches depending on the size of your pot. Reduce heat and simmer for 15 minutes, turning matzo balls occasionally. Remove matzo balls to a paper towel-lined plate and gently blot with paper towels to remove excess moisture. Heat a large sauté pan, lightly coated with extra virgin olive oil, over medium heat. Brown matzo balls until golden and crisp on all sides, about 3 to 5 minutes. Transfer to a paper towel-lined plate. Serve Matzo Ball Dippers warm with spicy mustard, chili and BBQ sauces.

Jamie Geller is the only best-selling cookbook author who wants to get you out of the kitchen – not because she doesn’t love food – but because she has tons to do. As “The Bride Who Knew Nothing” Jamie found her niche specializing in fast, fresh, family recipes. Now the “Queen of Kosher” (CBS) and the “Jewish Rachael Ray” (New York Times), she’s the creative force behind JOYofKOSHER.com and “JOY of KOSHER with Jamie Geller” magazine. Jamie and her hubby live in Israel with their six busy kids who give her plenty of reasons to get out of the kitchen – quickly. Check out her new book, “Joy of Kosher: Fast, Fresh Family Recipes.”

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STUFFED PEPPERS Stuff with either white or brown rice or couscous, quinoa, barley, bulgur, orzo, or even broken (slightly undercooked) spaghetti. This is a really versatile, grab what you got for bulk, stuffing.

Ingredients Peppers ● 4 large peppers ● 4 cups boiling water ● 1 tablespoon canola oil Filling ● 1 lb. ground beef ● 1 medium onion, coarsely chopped ● 1 tablespoon kosher salt ● 1 teaspoon freshly ground black pepper ● 2 cups cooked rice ● ¼ cup chopped fresh dill ● Pinch ground nutmeg ● 1 (28 oz.) can chopped tomatoes, undrained ● Cucumber and Red Onion Salad ● 1 cucumber, unpeeled, rinsed, and sliced ● 1 red onion, halved lengthwise and thinly sliced ● ¼ cup Basic Vinaigrette

Preparation Preheat oven to 350°F. To prepare peppers: Cut off tops of peppers. Reach in with your fingers or a large spoon and gently remove the seeds and ribs, making sure to leave peppers whole so they can be stuffed. Set aside the pepper tops. Place the whole peppers in a 9-inch square baking pan and pour boiling water in them. Set aside. Finely chop pepper tops. In a medium sauté pan, heat oil over medium-high heat. Crumble the ground beef into the pan. Mix in the onions and pepper tops. Season with salt and pepper. Mix well and cook for 5 minutes. Stir in cooked rice, dill, and nutmeg; mix well. Drain peppers and stuff them with beef mixture. Return peppers to the baking pan. Pour tomatoes over and around peppers and bake for 20 minutes. Arrange peppers and tomatoes on a serving platter and serve with Cucumber and Red Onion Salad. To prepare Cucumber and Red Onion Salad: In a salad bowl, mix cucumber and red onion with ¼ cup basic vinaigrette. Toss and serve.

ASIAN VEGETABLE STUFFED FLOUNDER You can use this same filling for chicken, chicken breast cutlets, dark meat chicken cutlets, salmon fillets, sole fillets, flounder fillets, sandwich steaks or beef cutlets.

Ingredients ● 2 tablespoons toasted sesame oil ● 1 tablespoon rice vinegar ● 2 tablespoons soy sauce ● 2 tablespoons olive oil ● 2 cups julienne vegetables: multi-color bell peppers, carrots and celery ● 5 thinly sliced cutlets or fillets, about 1 pound ● 5 teaspoons mixed black and white sesame seeds

Preparation Preheat oven to 350°F. Lightly grease a baking dish, large enough to hold all of the rolls without touching, with cooking spray. In a medium bowl whisk together sesame oil, vinegar, soy sauce and olive oil. Add julienne vegetables to the bowl and toss to coat well. Let vegetables marinate for 15 to 30 minutes. Evenly distribute the vegetables amongst the cutlets. Roll up the cutlets like you would a jelly roll. Place seam side down in prepared baking dish. Pour remaining marinade over the rolls. Sprinkle each roll with 1 teaspoon of mixed sesame seeds. Bake at 350°F for 20 minutes or until fillets are cooked through and no longer pink inside. Reprinted from Joy of Kosher Magazine.

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Around the Community

HANC High School Community Chessed Day

ANC ninth and tenth grade students were presented with the opportunity to be involved with community service on HANC High School Annual Pre-Rosh Hashana Chessed Day. On September 29, the freshman and sophomore classes spread out across the wider New York region and Nassau County areas to participate in various chessed projects. The 9th and 10th grade girls who traveled to Flatbush volunteered to assist at the Masbia Soup Kitchen. Chessed tasks included the preparation and packaging of food for Shabbat and the chagim. The ninth and tenth grade boys traveled to Staten Island to partici-

pate in a cleanup of the Hebrew Free Burial Society Cemetery at Silver Lake. The 128-year-old cemetery provides a final resting place for those who were unable to have a proper funeral. Students cleared leaves, twigs, and other debris from the cemetery grounds. Sophomore Jordan Socol remarked that this was a meaningful experience and should be done at any time of the year, even in the winter, not just prior to the yamim noraim. Students who are Kohanim were unable to participate in the cemetery cleanup. Therefore, they were accompanied by Rabbi Nafi Orlofsky (also a Kohein) to the JCC in Five Towns to assist in the Holocaust Survivors Program. This program, which occurs

on Thursday, allowed the students to serve the participants lunch, exercise with them, and have the opportunity to schmooze with them. Rabbi Aharon Friedler organized

the amazing day, and thank you to all the chaperones for making the day a success. HANC students look forward to more opportunities to serve their community.

Spirits to be in Good Spirits and Down on the Farm Keep the Body Warm for Sukkos By Gabriel Geller

he French always have their own way of talking about wines or spirits. Some liquors are called aperitifs, as they open the appetite before a meal. The ideal drinks for kiddush would thereby fall into that category. Other sprits are called digestifs, as their purpose is to ease the digestion after a festive and copious seudah. For Sukkos, an appropriate selection of spirits would include aperitifs such as slivovitz or vodka to serve ice cold, as a refreshing welcome in the sukkah after coming home from shul on a warm day. Zachlawi produces some of the most delicious vodkas, including a very special Chocolate Dream Vodka. This vodka offers nuanced flavors, as opposed to many of the somewhat overpowering flavored vodkas that are found in abundance on the stores’ shelves. The traditional slivovitz made by R. Jelinek are some old favorites and the perfect way to start a meal. The 10-year-old slivovitz is

delicious poured over an ice cube and features deep flavors of almonds and plums. It is a well-known custom to mark a pause with a glass of whiskey in between the fish appetizers and the meat being served for the main course. The Boondocks is a world-class American Whiskey blended by Master Distiller Dave Scheurich, winner of the Whisky Advocate’s Lifetime Achievement Award. Whether sipped with or after a plate of gefilte fish or herring, the Boondocks provides a delightful sensation of warmth and satisfaction. It will be enjoyed even more if it is chilly out there. The new Walders Banofee provides a delicate and creamy sweetness with dessert, the flavors of banana and toffee pairing wonderfully with a hot slice of banana cake. The Heavens Peanut Butter liquor is another must-try, especially with a scoop of chocolate or vanilla ice cream... You won’t even consider leaving the sukkah, at least not until finishing the entire bottle! L’chaim! Chag sameach!

n Thursday, October 6, the first graders of Shulamith School for Girls got a jumpstart on their study of animals and other living things. They traveled to Green Meadows Farm in Queens where they enjoyed a hay ride, proudly rode the ponies, milked the cows,

and fed the goats. Each girl also picked a pumpkin to take home. The girls were chaperoned by their teachers, Mrs. Judy Greenfield and Mrs. Masha Hoffman, and by parents Mrs. Hirsch, Mrs. Hirth, Mrs. Romer, and Mrs. Taub.

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Inspiring and Improving

n the days leading up to the yamim noraim, the Shulamith High School students stepped out of their regular routine to inspire and bring meaning to their tefillot and teshuva process. Yom Iyun – Tefillot Tishrei: Our girls analyzed the meaning of tefillot, heard about challenges that others had overcome, and experienced the atmosphere of the yamim noraim with every one of their senses. “It was so inspiring to take a deeper look into so many different tefillot,” said 10th grader Hadassah Allman. “By writing down our

own thoughts on a tefillah, it made it applicable to our lives. This had a major impact on my Rosh Hashana davening in shul because I understood the meaning of the tefillot and how they connected to me.” Tefillah at Sunrise: A full bus of excited girls set out at 6AM for the opportunity to daven at sunrise on Atlantic Beach. After moving words of inspiration and some warm hot cocoa, the girls took the time to think about Aseret Yimei Teshuvah and focus on their tefillah. “I was amazed by how many girls voluntarily came

to school so early for the chance to learn, grow, and enhance their tefillah,” said our Special Events Coordinator Ms. Emma Mael. “The sunrise was beautiful and the inspirational environment only made it better!”

Second Annual TEAM Shabbos Movement to Unite Hundreds of Shuls and Communities Nationwide

n Shabbos Parshas Vayechi, January 14, 2017, more than 300 shuls and communities in 136 cities nationwide will join the second annual Traditional End-oflife Awareness Movement (TEAM), a project of the National Association of Chevra Kadisha (NASCK). Following last year’s resounding success under the leadership of Rabbi Elchonon Zohn, this initiative will continue to help raise awareness throughout our community about the Torah’s perspective on end-of-life matters. Beginning the preceding week and throughout the Shabbos, shuls around the country will be participating in the Team Shabbos movement in various ways. Rabbis will dedicate

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their sermons, lectures and shul programs to generate the discussion. Many shuls will be utilizing their weekly program and shul material (i.e. newsletters, e-blasts) to focus on relevant topics, while some will collaborate with NASCK to coordinate a special event in their community to boost awareness. Some of the topics that will be addressed include the inherent sanctity of life, the importance of making proper medical decisions, choosing and helping others to choose traditional Jewish burial practices and writing wills in accordance with halacha. The Torah perspective on end-oflife is not easy to talk about. As such, many of these very important obligations and far-reaching matters are infrequently mentioned. “Due to a lack of awareness about the inherent sanctity of every moment of life,” says Rabbi Elchonon Zohn, “many people make end-of-life medical decisions that are contrary to Torah values. The goal of TEAM Shabbos is to open the discussion about ‘Respecting Life – Here and Hereafter’ in a unified national movement to facilitate the necessary awareness about these issues.” 2015’s TEAM Shabbos movement was a national success with over-

whelming positive feedback. “Many of the rabbonim that presented shiurim on end-of-life were surprised at the positive and accepting attitude that their communities responded with,” Rabbi Zohn explained. “The ‘It’s about time’ sentiment was an oft-repeated phrase this Shabbos.” “The tzibbur welcomed the opportunity to learn about the importance of end-of-life directives and halachic wills, as well as hear an overview of the halachos of end-of-life situations and issues related to a bais hakvaros,” explained Rabbi Dovid Heber, Rav of K’hal Ahavas Yisroel Tzemach Tzedek in Baltimore, Maryland. “Thanks to the efforts of NASCK, these sensitive topics were addressed ‘l’maaseh uv’rov am’ in our shul, together with many other kehillos in our community and nationwide.” Many Torah-observant people do not fully understand the modern-day practical applications of end-of-life concepts such as pikuach nefesh and mes mitzvah. These important concepts require us to make proper medical decisions and assist our less-observant friends, relatives, acquaintances and co-workers in choosing traditional Jewish burial practices. In fact, a rabbi from Maryland

noted, “Given the level of knowledge of the people in my shul, I was very surprised how unfamiliar they were with the many important hashkafos and halachos that pertain to end-oflife. I’m so grateful to TEAM Shabbos and NASCK for giving me the push and the opportunity to speak about it.” So, what’s the next step for NASCK and TEAM Shabbos? “We will continue to keep the discussion open and to generate awareness surrounding the importance of the inherent sanctity of life and choosing traditional afterlife choices. We look forward to expanding the TEAM b’ezras Hashem next Parshas Vayechi,” says Rabbi Zohn. “We encourage communities to join NASCK’s many ongoing programs dedicated to support, inform, educate and inspire all those seeking information about traditional Jewish burial, including programs promoting halachic living wills and EMES (Emergency Medical Education and Sign-up) cards.” To have your community join or for more information about the National Association of the Chevra Kadisha (NASCK) and the TEAM Shabbos, please visit www.nasck.org or call 718-847-6280.

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A Fine Vintage in Any Weather By Gabriel Geller

osh Hashana is now behind us and yet the festivities have only began. There are many more holiday meals ahead of us, special moments to enjoy with friends and family. Sukkos is a very special holiday, with an emphasis on the mitzvah of hachnasas orchim, welcoming guests to share our meals in the sukkah. One more emphasis of Sukkos and the following Simchas Torah is joy. As we learn from the Talmud, in the treaty Pesachim (109A), “There is no joy without (meat and) wine.”Therefore, Sukkos is one of the year’s best occasions to open some delicious wines and share them with our ushpizin, the guests who will grace our table. However, Sukkos is often a challenging time, since the weather is somewhat unpredictable. Sometimes, it can be chilly and sometimes it can be warm, making the wine selection

a bit tricky. The best way to deal with the weather is to choose wines that will be both pleasant and easy to pair with the food, regardless of the temperature in the sukkah. While white wines are typically the primary choice with fish dishes, some can pair quite nicely with a variety of meat dishes, such as veal or chicken. A fine example of a white wine to enjoy this Sukkos is the Barkan Special Reserve Chardonnay, a refined Israeli white wine made from grapes grown in the Judean Hills. It has been featured this month in the Wine Spectator magazine as one of the top Israeli white wines. This is a wine with many surprises, combining delicate flavors of green apples and lemons with a refreshing acidity as well as a creamy, nutty finish. Whether served chilled with some home cured turkey or at a higher temperature with a veal roast, it will be enjoyable regardless.

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The wines of Bordeaux are wellknown and recognized for their understated elegance. The wines hailing from the Lalande de Pomerol appellation, on the right bank of the Gironde River, are no exception. They are characterized by the sommeliers and Masters of Wine as feminine, racy, and supple while approachable relatively young, in the first years following their release. Château Royaumont’s newest vintage is no exception to this rule. This wine unwraps into a medium-bodied mouthfeel, with a luxuriously silky texture, its red berry aromas and earthy undertones will make it the star of the evening, regardless of the weather. While this wine is enjoyable in its youth, it is a wine that will gain depth and complexity over the decade following the vintage, if it is cellared to age properly. Mediterranean wines have the ability to pair with a large array of dishes, and they can be served in any weather. Terra di Seta, the famous estate from Tuscany, just released its flagship wine, which turns out to be quite ad-

equate for a meal in the sukkah. The Terra di Seta Assai is a Chianti made with the finest Sangiovese grapes and was aged for 24 months in oak barrels. Sipped over the course of a chilly evening with a beef bourguignon or on a warm afternoon with a plate of salami and cured meats, this is a wine that keeps opening up, revealing layers of eye-opening, complex flavors and aromas. Spain is another Mediterranean country producing top-notch wines that please the novice and the connoisseur alike. Celler de Capçanes, in Montsant, has been producing the La Flor del Flor Garnacha since 2007. This is an outstanding wine from grapevines that are over 100 years old, a feature that improves the quality and complexity of the wines produced. No matter how delicious the food is or if it is hot or cold in the sukkah, this delicate, classy wine stands out as the shining star. One can only think about how beautiful and delicious a wine this is to enjoy under the schach. Chag sameach!

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Moishe decides one day to face his issues and finally goes to therapy. The therapist turns to him and says, “So, what can I help you with?” Moishe replies, “Well, I have a hard time making friends. You think you can help me out you lazy piece of garbage?”

Riddle me this? 1. What goes up and down stairs without moving? 2. The more there is, the less you see. What is it? 3. What kind of rooms have no windows or doors? 4. What has to be broken before it can be used? 5. David’s father has three sons: Snap, Crackle and _____ ? See answers on next page

Snachracter Traits In 2000, Dr. Alan Hirsch, MD, a researcher at the Smell and Taste Treatment and Research Foundation in Chicago, conducted a study of snack foods in which he matched popular snacks with different personalities. See if you can match the food with the character traits SNACK

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A. Perfectionists in regards to their own actions and to the community at large; humanitarians who are often distressed by the inequities and injustices of society.

(2) Tortilla chips (3) Snack crackers (4) Pretzels (5) Cheese curls (6) Meat snacks

B. Lively and energetic; seek novelty and thrive in the world of abstract concepts; they often lose interest in mundane, day-to-day routines C. Gregarious, social and often the life of the party; they are loyal and true friends who can always be trusted. D. Successful, high achievers who enjoy the rewards and trimmings of their success—both in business and in family life. E. Formal, conscientious and always proper; they will always maintain moral high ground with their family, work and spouses. F. Contemplative and thoughtful; base their decisions on logic rather than emotions. See answer on next page

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Body Language Trivia*

1. When someone smiles but their eyes don’t crinkle, it indicates that the person is: a. Tired b. Hiding something c. Faking d. Excited 2. Raised eyebrows are a sign of: a. Discomfort b. Genuine concern c. Thinking about something else d. Happiness 3. It is generally accepted that there are 6 universal facial expressions. Which one of the following is not one of them? a. Happiness b. Sadness c. Nervousness d. Fear e. Disgust f. Surprise g. Anger 4. When someone shakes your

hand with their palm down, what does that likely indicate? a. They are dominating b. Seeking to convey trust c. They are relaxed d. They are enthusiastic 5. Making eye contact for too long may be a sign of lying: a. True b. False 6. If a person is rubbing their chin, this would typically mean: a. They like what you have to say. b. They are thinking. c. They are signaling they are in control. d. They are ready to leave 7. What is the average blinking rate of a person who is in a relaxed state? a. 2-4 blinks per minute b. 6-8 blinks per minute c. 14-18 blinks per minute d. 24-27 blinks per minute

Answers 1. C 2. A 3. C 4. A 5. A- Studies show that when people lie they may seek to overcompensate by making excessive eye contact rather than the more natural tendency for someone who is lying to avert eye contact. 6. B 7. B Wisdom key 6-7 Correct: You can work for the FBI. (Good job on the Hillary investigation!) 3-5 Correct: My lips are turned downwards (like a wide “n”) and my head is swaying back and forth like a row boat in choppy water… “Not bad.” 0-2 correct: You are brilliant…. wink! Wink!

* Dear Centerfold Readers, This trivia is based on various common beliefs about body language, but it is based on generalizations and not conclusive. All I need is for you to throw a kugel in your brother’s face when you misinterpret his body language.

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Answer to Snachrachter Traits:

Answer to Riddle: 1. Carpet; 2. Darkness;

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Phil-ing in the Gaps Assemblyman Goldfeder Reminisces about His Five Years in Albany By Naftali Halpern

Uh-oh.

Much like a basketball player knows a shot is an air ball the instant it leaves his fingertips, I knew this was a bad question as soon as the words left my mouth. Yes, Phil is a personal friend and anyone who knows his affable personality knows that he is a great conversationalist, but in this conversation there was a little black tape recorder between us. In the presence of such devices politicians tend to be more cautious than 17-year-olds trying to complete a k-turn on the driving test. But, now that Phil is free from having to run

again – in another “hotly contested” election – he is as eager to give a non-political answer as I am in getting one. The question: “So what will you miss most about your job?” Phil smiles broadly and gives the political hand chop (it’s hard to get over that habit). “I can honestly say that I made sure to do everything I can to get the full experience of being an assemblyman and it was all so enjoyable… I’m one of those guys who really loved my job.” We spent the rest of our time talking about some of those experi-

ences and I must say even though I exhibit some anti-social tendencies and don’t look that great in the red power tie, for a moment I considered throwing my hat in the ring as his replacement. “Because, after all, I’m just a boy from a middle class family…” Never mind, I’m done. When Phil went to Albany at the young age of 30, he had to distinguish himself fast. “I was young and I kind of looked young,” he admits. “So I really had to quickly set the record straight that I had a serious mission.” The first bill that he sponsored and

passed dealt with end-of-life care, a matter of utmost importance to many in the religious community, rather than the usual “procedural bill” that freshman assembly members are usually given to shepherd through to get their feet wet. In his second year, Hurricane Sandy poured her wrath upon the Rockaways. Phil’s status as one of the new and young members of the Assembly only strengthened his resolve to make sure that he went to great lengths to push and pull every lever of power possible to help the Rockaway community rebound. Talking about looking young,

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though: on one late-night trip up to Albany, Phil was pulled over by a police officer. When Phil handed the officer his Assembly ID card, the officer looked at it for a few minutes and then turned to him and quipped, “Does your father know that you are using his Assembly ID card?” Being a young assemblyman and learning on the job required diligence. “People don’t realize the amount of studying that we have to do to be up-to-date on the issues,” he says. Legislatures are driven by horse-trading – “you support my bill and I’ll support your bill” – and in order to be effective one has to be up-to-date on a wide range of topics from the obvious issues of the day to the obscure. It takes a skilled operator to keep track of all of it and to see what can pass and what can’t and to ascertain who to create alliances with on a given topic. Being informed takes time. When the Assembly was in session, Phil would spend every waking hour being briefed, going to meetings, and in session on the Assembly floor. “From the second you wake up there are emails, advocates, issues, lobbyists and thousands of bills,” Phil notes. “And for every bill that’s introduced

there is a reason it is important to one group or another.” While in session, Phil’s day was usually broken up into 15 minute meeting slots, each one designated to a different bill. His staff would give him a binder on each bill containing all the relevant memos about the topic and papers in sup-

an extra sense of pride as well as an awareness that his actions would be scrutinized perhaps more intensely than others. “I never took my yarmulke off – ever,” Phil says with conviction. Although his experiences were mostly positive, when he did en-

“I’m tired of reading about how rich and corrupt I am in the newspapers, which is simply not the truth.”

port and against the bill. “What may seem simple is oftentimes very complicated once you start peeling away the layers,” Phil explains. “Sometimes I get emails like, ‘I can’t believe you voted like this or like that,’ but they don’t understand that it’s much more intricate than what you read in the New Yok Post, which is trying to squeeze a 100 chapter story into 1,000 words.” Being one of very few assemblyman who are Orthodox Jews gave Phil

counter bias he dealt with it head-on. When a fellow Democrats one time made out-of-line negative comment about a group of Orthodox Jews, Phil spent a half hour debating her oneon-one. That was the only time in Phil’s five years in the Assembly that two members of the Democrat Party debated each other on the Assembly floor. There were funny moments too. One time, because of a particularly important early morning vote, Phil was unable to make it to shul for

Shacharis so he found a quiet place to daven in the corner of the lounge. When he was finished davening he wrapped up his tefillin and walked by some of his colleagues who were seated at the other end of the lounge. They all looked at him suspiciously, so he turned to them and said, “What?” They said, “What were you doing over there?” Once Phil assured them that he didn’t have a bomb and wasn’t communicating with a Russian satellite, he showed them his tefillin and siddur. Some bills that Phil sponsored were those that he had obvious connections to, others were based on issues that were brought to his attention by different groups and even random people. In fact, Phil once introduced and passed a bill brought to his attention by a police officer who pulled him over. (“Wait,” you say, as your eyes glance back a few paragraphs. “Didn’t we already talk about Phil getting pulled over? Is this guy Dale Earnhardt Jr. or something?” Don’t worry about that – I covered it. “Phil,” I say in the most paternal voice I can muster, “was our assemblyman a reckless driver?”

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Phil laughs and goes into full defense mode, “Wait a minute, I drove to Albany for five years and got pulled over a total of two times for going a few miles over the speed limit on the Thruway. Knowing you, you would have had your license revoked in your first year, so don’t bust my chops!” he teases. I can’t argue with that…another reason I’m not running.) This time the police officer believed that Phil was in the Assembly and started telling him about something that he thought should be addressed in Albany. After a half hour discussion the two agreed to keep in touch. The two became good friends and Phil ended up sponsoring the resulting bill. “The police officer came to Albany when the bill passed; it was great,” recalls Phil. Aside for the work within the legislature, constituent services is a whole other and equally demanding part of the job. “Yes, I’m not just saying this...I know all politicians say this, but I loved that part of the job,” says Phil emphatically. Being an advocate for local institutions and dealing with a myriad of issues that his constituents had required Phil and his staff to devote hours a day

to those tasks. “Getting results kept us going,” he says. “Nothing is worse than hitting a brick wall and having to pick up the phone to say there is nothing else you can do. And nothing feels better than being able to pick up

from a fire hydrant even though his car was 15 feet from the hydrant. He wanted Phil to see his car before he moved it. Phil went out and saw that his neighbor was correct. “This was clearly a traffic officer who was in-

“99% of the job is stressful, complicated and challenging, so when I got to do interesting or fascinating things, I always took advantage.”

the phone to report that the issue has been resolved.” Sometimes constituents need help during odd times as well. One cold winter Motzei Shabbos just after Phil made havdala, the doorbell rang. Phil opened the door to find a neighbor standing there and holding up a parking ticket. His first thought was: “Can’t this wait until I put away the challah board?” But the man explained that he had gotten the ticket for parking 7 feet

correctly ticketing people,” Phil says. So he called the commanding officer to have the ticket dismissed and was told that there was nothing that could be done; the car owner would have to go to court. When the court day arrived Phil went with his neighbor to court and vouched to the judge that he had seen the car and that it was, in fact, 15 feet away from the hydrant. The ticket was dismissed. Phil called the commanding officer back and told him that the ticket was

dismissed and was assured that the commanding officer would keep an eye on the police officer who wrote the improper ticket. The most common requests that Phil’s office dealt with were related to traffic safety, potholes and streetlights. “The key,” Phil says, “was having a good system in the office to deal with the requests.” His office, which consisted of five staff members, knew that constituent services was as important as anything else they did. “Sometimes the small quality of life issues need to be fought for with equal zeal,” says Phil. “People need to know you are there for them.” Being an assemblyman also gave Phil a different view of certain politicians. In the immediate aftermath of Hurricane Sandy, he interacted with many high level officials and got a perspective on them that the general public does not often get. For example, Phil met with one official, who, at the time, was on the national stage. After waiting on the receiving line for the official he introduced himself and said that he represents a district which was ravaged by the hurricane. The official turned to him

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and said, “Yes, yes, Hurricane Sandy was a very bad storm.” Phil said, “We really need federal assistance fast,” to which the official responded, “Yes, we really need to get you federal assistance fast; it’s so important.” Phil then said, “It would help if we can streamline the insurance claims process.” And the official responded, “Yes, streamlining the insurance process would help.” At that point Phil realized he was talking to the wall. “It was a pleasure meeting you,” said Phil, before departing so that the next person in line could be patronized by the pandering politician. Phil’s experience with President Barack Obama and Vice President Joe Biden were much different, though. At the White House Chanukah party after the storm, the president reiterated to Phil that it was an administration priority to make sure that claims were expedited and that people could get back into their houses fast. In the few minutes he had with the president, Mr. Obama seemed well-versed on the facts on the ground. Phil then spoke with Vice President Biden who told him that in his 40 years as a politician, he has learned that the most important thing is to let people know that you

are there for them. “You have to be out there on the streets,” Mr. Biden told Phil, “and your constituents need to know that you care.” He then added, “Let them know, too, that you were here talking to me about them.” “What will you miss the most about Albany?” I ask. This time Phil seems to revert to political speak. “My colleagues.” When I accuse Phil of being contrived, he does not back down. “One of the biggest misconceptions – which is perpetuated constantly in the media – is that the legislature is a bunch of slimy politicians. Most of them are really good guys but they are painted with one broad stroke.” Phil tells me that he told the governor the same thing one time when he was at a private dinner at the Governor’s mansion with a handful of other assemblymen. During the dinner, Governor Cuomo – who at that time was trying to mend fences with the Assembly after a contentious period – turned to Phil and said, “What do you have to say?” Phil turned to the governor and said, “I’m tired of reading about how rich and corrupt I am in the newspapers, which is simply not the truth.”

“I made real friends in Albany,” Phil says. “Most of these people got into politics because they are passionate, they want to help and they wanted the status quo to change.” Aside for all the hard work, Phil also got to have a good time. “Look, I like doing things,” he says. “Anything I can do that is interesting, I am going to take full advantage of.” One of the perks of being a government official is having heightened access to certain events and facilities. It’s not just the numerous trips to the White House that Phil enjoyed (“There is nothing like chilling on the White House lawn,” he says) but he also got to take interesting field trips with his staff. After the famous May 2015 jailbreak by Richard Sweat and David Matt from the Clinton Correctional Facility, Phil and his staff hopped into a car for a five hour drive up to the prison, where they were given a complete tour of the cells from which the escapees hatched their plans and the pipe area from where they escaped. His curiosity and sense of adventure led him to strange places, such as filling potholes with the Department of Transportation at

2AM; helping prepare the route for the New York City Marathon; and being hoisted via crane onto a barge six miles off-shore to examine a gas pipeline. Phil’s field trips with his staff were always unique and interesting. “I took them to the Police Training Academy in College Point, which has mock police stations, jails, scenario rooms, and subway stations,” Phil recalls. “It was a blast – we were jumping around and taking pictures.” Phil also took them kayaking in Jamaica Bay and hiking in the marshes. When Jamaica Bay froze for the first time in many years, they went walking on it. “99% of the job is stressful, complicated and challenging, so when I got to do interesting or fascinating things, I always took advantage,” Phil says. Now that Phil is moving on, I ask him what this experience has taught him. He stops and thinks for a minute and then says: “At the end of all this, I learnt a little bit about a lot of things, but I was always eager to find new ways to solve a problem or help the community.” And it sure seems like he had a good time doing it.

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Martial Arts, an MBA and a Motivation to Effect Change TJH Speaks with Mayor Elaine Phillips, Candidate for State Senate Mayor Phillips, it’s a pleasure to speak with you so close to the election. Tell us about your experience as mayor of Flower Hill. I was invited to join the Village Board by the then-mayor and, when he decided not to seek reelection, I decided to run. I saw local government as a way to serve my community and give back for all the wonderful opportunities that my family has enjoyed. I’m proud of our accomplishments, from our nationally recognized tree planting program to our expanded park and improvements in our quality of life that has helped Flower Hill earn a reputation as one of the best places in New York to raise a family. You have an MBA and

have previously worked in the business world. What made you decide to get into politics? How has your business background influenced your decisions as mayor? My business background has helped me as mayor in several ways. First, I know how to read a budget and

vices and protect the quality of life that residents and taxpayers really want. I’ve shown that it can be done in my village by cutting taxes four years in a row, even as we added services like an expanded park and walking trail, beautification and tree planting programs and other services.

ator, Jack Martins, told me he was going to run for Congress, I was excited by the opportunity to do more for our community on the state level. I love Long Island. It’s where I raise my family, and I want my three daughters to live here and pursue their own careers and raise their families. I want every Long Island

“I believe that experience helps me better understand the challenges that are faced by so many working families in our communities.”

to find ways to balance the needs of residents with the cost of providing services. That often requires hard choices to preserve vital ser-

You are now running for State Senate. What influenced your decision to run? When our current sen-

parent and family to have the same opportunity. You’ve been speaking to many people in the dis-

trict. What are the three top concerns you hear from residents along your campaign trail? Affordability first and foremost. We are all concerned about the high cost of living here on Long Island. We all agree this is a wonderful and unique place to live, but we have to act now to make it more affordable so young families can stay here and senior homeowners can remain in the communities that they helped to build. We have to start by cutting taxes. I’ve done it, so I know how to do it. Education is next. Parents are concerned about the over-testing and state mandates that are distracting from classroom learning. I will work in Albany to make sure that teachers, parents and communities retain con-

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trol over our schools – not Albany and Washington bureaucrats. And I will fight for our fair share of state aid and stand up to New York City politicians who want to take more of our aid and funnel it to their schools. And not least is ethics. We have the distinction of having the most corrupt state capital in America, where 30 legislators and now top government staffers have been charged, convicted or are under investigation in the past decade. As mayor, I rewrote ethics rules to restore confidence in our village government. In Albany, I will work to enact term limits and to take away the pensions of corrupt legislators. Speaking of change, can

you tell us four things that you feel needs to be done when you get to Albany? I think Senator Jack Martins has done a great job for us in the Senate and he will continue in the U.S. Congress. I want to build on his record of reducing middle class taxes by working to make the property tax cap permanent, increasing STAR (the property tax reduction program), and with real mandate relief that will translate into lower tax bills here in Nassau County. We need to increase our share of education aid from Albany and stop the Common Core debacle that’s hurting our schools. We need to invest more in infrastructure, especially for water and sewer programs

that protect our harbors and Long Island’s drinking water. We also need a strong ethics law, more transparency, term limits and real penalties, including the loss of taxpayer-paid pensions for corrupt politicians. You teach and do karate. Clearly fitness is important to you. How can we get our children involved in more fit lifestyles? I started studying martial arts 20 years ago to stay in shape, but it has taught me so much more about determination, respect and discipline. It’s been my privilege to teach some of these skills to hundreds of women and children in classes I’ve conducted over the years, part of my effort to

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taxpaying families that need to send their children to private schools? Albany needs to realize that many in our communities attend private schools and they save taxpayers millions of dollars by doing so. I want to support struggling parents who want to send their children to yeshiva. I also believe that the state has an obligation to pay or the mandates it imposes. Senator Flanagan and the Senate Republicans have led the way to provide the millions that Albany owes yeshivas for mandate relief. I am proud to support all parents who want to educate their children. You have three daughters. How do you balance family and work life? It isn’t easy! For years, I was on that early train to Manhattan and then back in the evening for dinner and to make sure homework was done. I was active in my daughters’ schools and to support their sports and after-school activities. It’s always about priorities, and I believe that experience helps me better understand the challenges that are faced by so many working families in

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our communities. It comes back to affordability. How can we make it easier for working families to be able to spend more time on the things that real matter? That will be my guiding concern. You are an advocate for the environment and have worked to help protect the environment in your position as mayor. Do you think that Nassau County should tax consumers for using plastic bags when shopping? I’m proud of my record protecting Long Island’s harbors and drinking water and grateful to have earned the support of NY’s leading environmental advocacy group, the League of Conservation Voters, in my campaign for Senate. In the Senate, I will build on my record to bring together every level of government, state, local and, yes, federal, to find new ways to protect the air we breathe and the water we drink. With regard to plastic bags, I am always thrilled to see so many people shopping with reusable bags and reducing waste. Frankly, I’m disgusted to see litter on our roadside, in our harbors and even stuck on trees. I am concerned,

Mayor Phillips and Senator Jack Martins at an anti- BDS event in Great Neck sponsored by Stand With Us. L- R: Mehran Hakimian, unknown, Avi Posnick, Mayor Elaine Phillips, Sen. Jack Martins, Judy Bodsworth, Mayor Pedram Bral, Alfred Dilimani, Shahar Azani, Mike Delafraz, and Raymond Eshagoff

though, that some of the plastic bag proposals I have seen, such as that proposed in NYC, are really nothing more than additional taxes on consumers, and while they would increase costs, I’m not sure they would do much to reduce litter. You recently took a trip to Israel. It was the trip of a lifetime! My husband, Andy, and I had a wonderful opportunity to see some tremendous sights, and we were repeatedly moved by the historic and spiritual significance of the region. It was also an opportunity to learn about the critical role that Israel plays as America’s most important Middle Eastern ally and the constant threats that the people of this resolute nation face. We visited a pre-school and saw firsthand the bomb shelter that toddlers would be expected to use against a missile attack and witnessed fighting directly across the Syrian border. Our most moving experience of the trip was a touching opportunity to reunite with two young Israeli women. Ten years ago, we were fortunate to house two teenage girls from Haifa who were fleeing the 2006 Lebanon

War when Hezbollah was terrorizing northern Israel with rocket attacks. It was a thrill to see our girls and to see how they had grown into successful young women with bright, promising futures. That sounds like a very emotional reunion. Can you give us your thoughts on the presidential election? Why is it so contentious? Like most voters, I have not been happy about the tone and tenor of this year’s presidential election. Our nation faces serious problems, from the continuing terrorist threat that we New Yorkers understand all too well, to challenges facing economic growth and our very future. I am a strong believer that our elected officials are here to represent us and our ideas, and I encourage voters to consider the impact that national policies have on our economy and way of life here on Long Island and in the 7 th Senate District and to choose the candidate who they feel can best represent the issues and decisions that we want. It sounds like you are busy nonstop. What do you do to relax and unwind?

I have had a couple opportunities to sneak away to drive my daughters to college, and I really enjoyed the time we spent together. At home, I enjoy spending time on long walks with my husband and our 90-pound dog, and I’ve also enjoyed the chance to continue my teaching and training in martial arts. Do you like to read? Can you give us the name of a book you can recommend and why is it important to you? I’ve been very fortunate to be part of a local book club with professional women I’ve known for 20 years, since our children attended pre-school together. We regularly get together for lively conversation about books covering a wide variety of topics, including, most recently, “Hungry Tide,” by Amitav Ghosh. The book wove a series of current issues and themes with colorful historical references. Mayor Phillips, thank you so much for your time. Your enthusiasm for your constituents and your track record are impressive, and we wish you best of luck on Election Day.

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Sukkot The Final Destination By Larry Domnitch

he Duke of Manheim once asked Rabbi Tzvi Hirsch Levin, The Rav of Berlin, the reason that children ask the “Four Questions” on Pesach and not on Sukkot? “After all, on Sukkot you have more customs than on Passover, since you leave your homes and live in temporary booths!” The rabbi replied, “On Passover, a child sees the family seated around a table with many tempting dishes, and they are freely relaxed in a way we Jews are not always permitted to enjoy. Therefore the child is surprised and asks the questions. “But what does the little one see on Sukkot? The people of Israel leave their homes and sit in the outdoors without a roof over them. This is no surprise, for even a child knows this is the way of Jews in the exile.” The wanderings of Bnei

Yisrael in the Sinai wilderness commemorated by the sukkah can be seen as a microcosm of the future travels of Jews in the Diaspora throughout history. The Torah states, “These are

challenges to Bnei Yisrael. That experience was instrumental in strengthening their identity as a Torah Nation. As their ancestors in the Sinai wilderness, Jews

in Eastern Europe, the rise of Nazism in 1930s Germany, and persecution in Arab countries. Yet, according to Rashi, Bnei Yisrael were encamped in one place, Kadesh Barnea,

Jews throughout history have been in frequent transit as a result of many expulsions and flights from persecution.

the journeys of the Israelites who had left Egypt in organized groups.” (Numbers 33:1) The Israelites traveled to forty-two different locations en route to their final destination, the Land of Israel. Each place is specifically mentioned, and each presented its own specific

throughout history have been in frequent transit as a result of many expulsions and flights from persecution. Jewish communities have been subject to hundreds of expulsions. In the twentieth century alone, millions of Jews fled pogroms and discrimination

for nineteen years. (Devarim 1:46) Similarly, throughout history, there were times when an abode for the Jews had lasted for an extended duration and sometimes in relative comfort within a tolerant atmosphere. And, as with the Israelites in Kadesh Barnea, who were destined

to eventually move onwards, they too would most often be forced to continue their journeys with the emergence in their times of forces of hatred and intolerance. In today’s times, Jewish communities in the Diaspora are again imperiled and many Jews are again in flight. Anti-Semitism, which was once deemed under control in post-World War II Europe, has proliferated and now threatens Jewish communities throughout Europe. The current situation is so severe that many European Jews did not attend synagogue for the Rosh Hashana holidays out of fear. The sukkah, with its flimsy walls and open roof, is an embodiment of Jewish existence in the Diaspora, which as the sukkah itself is temporary is part of a larger journey which inevitably leads to the Land of Israel.

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Israel Today

The House That the Hales Built By Rafi Sackville

rom the outside the house looks like a series of interlocking igloos or elaborate tents. Inside one feels a seamless sense of harmony as one moves from room to room and looks out over the rocky terrain to the other side of Kfar Vradim, just south of Ma’alot. This is the home Avraham and Sara Hale built. They call it the Round House. It is a visitor’s paradise as Sara and Avraham have turned it into a Bucharian heritage museum full of artifacts, original clothing, a light show and performance given by Sara about her ancestry. The Round House is unique and inspiring, but not half as inspiring as Avraham and Sara’s life journeys and how they got there. Sara was born into a Bucharian household where she

was taunted with the name Sveta while growing up in Samarkand. When she came to Israel in 1973 she hoped the taunting would stop. Instead she was labeled Roosiah (Russian). She decided to become as Israeli as possible and disown her roots.

etable chopper, which made a mess of the machine. She was approached by a young man who told her to clean it. He persisted to the point of annoyance. Having suffered him long enough she took a bucket of water and poured it over his head. He in turn

from England he was always very polite. However, they were mortified when she informed them of her plans to marry him. What her parents had difficulty adjusting to was the fact that he wasn’t Jewish. This didn’t deter Sara,

So serious was his enthusiasm for Torah and the life of mitzvot that he planned to convert.

Sara went into the Nachal Brigade during her army service, a mixture of army and kibbutz life. The first job she was given when she was stationed on Kibbutz Izrael was to make salad. In a moment of creativity she managed to turn the bread slicing machine into a veg-

took a bucket and poured its dirty contents on her. And thus began the relationship between Avraham and Sara. When she informed her parents that she had a non-Bucharian boyfriend, they were concerned. That he wasn’t Israeli was another negative, although coming

whose sense of Jewishness was of little concern to her. They were married in 1988. After five years of life in England they returned to Israel. Looking for a place to live that was as pluralistic as their beliefs they eventually moved to Kfar Vradim. The architect worked

closely with them. His claims that his style of building using plans for the Round House would be cheapest weren’t exactly true; like his methods, his prices were exaggerated. The house is made of ferro-cement, otherwise known as thin-shell concrete. The process involves applying reinforced mortar over a layer of metal mesh, and is used to build thin but strong structures like the hulls of ships. The result is breathtaking. The windows conform to the house’s structure resulting in a uniformity of smooth curves and warmth. A few years after their return to Israel Avraham found himself taking a day course in Aish Hatorah. He decided to stay. So serious was his enthusiasm for Torah and the life of mitzvot

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that he planned to convert. At first Sara wasn’t as interested, but eventually came around to the idea. Avraham fully converted in 2002. Sara, too, had a conversion of sorts by becoming more interested in her Bucharian heritage. She began collecting items of clothing and utensils until her house became transmogrified into a mini museum. Together Sara and Avraham officially turned the house into what it is today, Pli’a’ [Wonder] The Heritage House of Bucharian Jewry. The house is named Pli’a after their only daughter who died in infancy. On any given day the house is full of visiting groups. On the day we visited, a pensioners’ club from Kiryat Ono was visiting. Sara is very outgoing and

vibrant and delivers a 45 minute talk about herself, Avraham and their family. She dresses up in full Bucharian regalia, is funny to the point of hilarious, and keeps her audience spellbound. Meanwhile Avraham, who Sara refers to as her righteous husband, hovers in the background and prepares tea for the visitors. He carries the air of tranquility. He is quietly spoken and nothing less than the epitome of good cheer and bonhomie. I see Avraham daily when he drives over to Ma’alot to learn daf yomi in our shul. He recently invited Keren and me over on a Friday afternoon. When I asked him if it was in celebration of anything in particular, he replied that he’d begun home-brewing beer

and would I be interested in a pint? Of course I was: what Australian is going to turn down a cold beer on a summer’s day? While there we sat outside under the large white canvas that covers the backyard and stretched our gaze over the distant hills towards Ma’alot. In the foreground are the multi-colored houses of Kfar Vradim and beyond an entire new neighborhood is being built. And if you want to escape the bustle of progress and return to an embryonic sense of calm, all we had to do was turn around and look at the house the Hales built. Like Avraham, it is calm; like Sara, it is vibrant. Together they have created a small, infectious world that is a must to see. The Hales can be reached

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Rafi Sackville, formerly of Cedarhurst, teaches in Ort Maalot in Western Galil.

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Dating Dialogue

What Would You Do If… Moderated by Jennifer Mann, LCSW of The Navidaters

Dear Navidaters,

I met Josh at a singles weekend at the beginning of the summer. We went out a few times but it was pretty clear to me very quickly that he was not the one for me. Josh is a very sweet, nice guy but I found absolutely no chemistry with him.

When I told him that I didn’t want to date him anymore, he asked me if we could remain friends. This was a new concept for me. I’ve never had male friends, but I felt as though I had already hurt his feelings already by telling him I didn’t want to date him anymore and that it couldn’t hurt to be “friends,” whatever that meant. Anyway, he continued to call me to just talk and also to text me. At first it didn’t bother me that much. But after a while he started getting bolder and asked if we could meet for coffee, “just as friends.” I met him once and it all just started feeling creepy to me. I really don’t think he views me as just a friend. I feel so sorry for him and don’t know what to do. I feel like telling him that I’d prefer never hearing from him ever again or seeing him ever again. But at this point, I think he really would be devastated if I didn’t want to at least be his friend. I’m so sorry I got myself into this pickle in the first place and wish I never agreed to remain friends. Right now, I don’t know what to say to him and how to rid myself of him once and for all, without hurting his feelings. Any suggestions?

Disclaimer: This column is not intended to diagnose or otherwise conclude resolutions to any questions. Our intention is not to offer any definitive conclusions to any particular question, rather offer areas of exploration for the author and reader. Due to the nature of the column receiving only a short snapshot of an issue, without the benefit of an actual discussion, the panel’s role is to offer a range of possibilities. We hope to open up meaningful dialogue and individual exploration. Check out Soon By You’s Aftershow with the Navidaters on YouTube for a sit-down with coproducer Danny Hoffman.

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top feeling sorry for the other person and do what’s right for you in this relationship. Bite the bullet and do what you have to do. Prepare some scripts to practice so that the words will come easily. You seem to have a problem with assertiveness – politely and directly stating what you want. Assertiveness is not the same as aggressiveness. And if you don’t learn to put boundaries on other people’s feelings and how they affect you, you will be taken advantage of by many other people. Don’t be a potential victim of abuse. Learn to express your needs directly and honestly. Get help if necessary. You must develop this skill.

t’s very nice of you to be concerned with not hurting Josh’s feelings but mature people understand that that is what the dating parsha is often about. You go out and see if you click and if you don’t, you kindly say no and you move on. Are you going to wind up marrying someone because you feel bad that you will hurt him if you say no? This is about making mature decisions and respecting those decisions. Which makes me wonder who is more immature right now – you or him. If this feels creepy to you, then you need to follow your gut and say very nicely that this doesn’t feel

right and you think it’s best if you stop right here. If he has a problem with that, then you’ll know for sure that there is something very, very wrong with this young man. Yes, the Torah says you have to be kind but not if it is causing you some creepy, unpleasant feelings, not if it is causing you to go against what you believe in. I think you need to understand the difference between being kind as opposed to bending to someone’s will against your own. You have a tzelem Elokim and hopefully a healthy sense of self and you need to assert yourself in a very nice way. Feeling bad that you hurt his feelings and doings things for him so as not to hurt him again sounds to me like you need to work on your sense of self and to understand boundaries. Can you imagine

I wonder how he would feel if he knew his “friend” was writing into a newspaper column to figure out how to break things off.

if, G-d forbid, you end up in a relationship with a controlling, abusive young man and you allow yourself to be controlled – all because you don’t want to hurt his feelings? I think it’s time to explore why you are allowing this to happen.

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ou sound like a very caring, sensitive individual. You allowed Josh into your life in spite of your personal discomfort, out of sympathy towards him. Now that whole arrangement is turning creepy. My advice to you, in this situation or any future interpersonal relationships, is to trust you intuition; if it feels wrong, it’s probably not healthy. Your feelings are paramount. Going forward, you are to curtail any contact with Josh – in person or by phone. In this case, text messaging is your best option. When Josh calls, tap the Quick Text, “Can’t talk now.” After twenty or so attempts, he will hopefully get the message. If he

continues to harass you, hand the phone over to your father, mother, brother or cousin Butch. They can firmly tell Josh, without apology or explanation, LEAVE HER ALONE! Always works!

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t would have been best to break things off with Josh with a severing of all ties when you were sure you are not interested in him as a suitor; even more so, once it started feeling “creepy.” For the next time around, it is best to have clear communication and give yourself time and space

before considering a relationship from a courtship to being (potential) friends. This period allows for the rejected party to heal and potentially fill the void with someone else and for the other party to feel “safe” in being in a strictly platonic relationship without needing to reiterate that you aren’t interested in him in “that kind of way (dating material).” Unfortunately, now this will be considered a second rejection from you and more devastating that the first one because he has invested more into it with higher expectations for an outcome that he truly desires. At this juncture, you should want to break the friendship – and there are two ways of conveying that you don’t wish to continue this “friendship.” The first way is by being direct and honest, which would look like “This friendship does not feel comfortable for me and I would like to put all my fo-

Assertiveness is not the same as aggressiveness.

cus, energy and time into potential shidduch suggestions that comes my way. I wish you hatzlacha in your search for the right person for you.” The second approach is a little more subtle but allows you to play into the universal communication of “we are just friends.” So, as just friends, you should feel comfortable being able to talk to him about all your suitors and dates. Upon hearing the details of your serious interests elsewhere, he will most probably lose confidence and recognize that he will never have a shot at you getting you to ever seriously like him. This method will cause him to gradually disappear because he will naturally want to find someone else who can actually appreciate him.

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his is a delicate situation and I’m afraid the only way out is to hurt Josh’s feelings, the very thing you want to avoid. Yours is an interesting dynamic because you both seem to struggle with boundaries. Josh doesn’t take “no” for an answer and you are uncomfortable asserting yourself. You are joined by hordes of women the world over who believe with every fiber of their beings that saying “no” is inherently bad. As women we are often taught that in order to receive love we must say “yes;” that our value is based on what we can do for others, even at the expense of our own mental health. And so I ask you to think about this question…Why are Josh’s needs and feelings more important than your own? (That wasn’t a rhetorical question. I think if you really think about why and how you have allowed yourself to remain in a “friend-

ship” that makes you utterly uncomfortable, you will arrive at some important insight that may be invaluable to you as you live your life and enter into dating and one day, G-d willing, marriage.) I highly recommend you read The Dance of Anger: A Woman’s Guide to Changing the Patterns of Intimate Relationships by Harriet Lerner, PhD. This book is a quick read and wonderful for anyone, woman or man who has trouble expressing their “negative” feelings. Women who are constantly saying “yes” when they silently mean “no” are often enraged; sweet as sugar on the outside and ready to explode on the inside. And when they do…it ain’t pretty. You are giving away your time and precious mental energy to someone you don’t like. It is OK to assert your-

self. It is OK to not like someone. It is OK to exit a friendship that is draining you. Those are your rights as a person. It’s time to flex that “no muscle” and get real with Josh. No matter how you slice it, you are ultimately rejecting him and this will probably hurt him. Rejection hurts…it was designed that way and it’s not your job to stop it. You deserve more, and Josh deserves more. I wonder how he would feel if he knew his “friend” was writing into a newspaper column to figure out how to break things off. There is no self-respect in this friendship for Josh so let’s kill two birds with one stone and break things off, empowering you to find your voice and restoring his dignity. Here is a potential script: “Josh, I’m going to be really honest with you. When I broke up with you, you asked if we could remain friends. I said ‘yes’ but what I should have said was ‘no.’ The truth is, I don’t have guy friends (or I get the feelings you still like me and I don’t want to lead you

on. We don’t have a future together… insert your truth here.) I wish you all the best.” Be direct and straightforward so there are no mixed messages. If you realize that you have been in a string of relationships in which your own needs and wants play second fiddle (or have no place at all), then I recommend going to therapy to figure this out. You can do Breakup #2. Good luck! And remember to buy the book! Sincerely, Jennifer

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Dr. Deb

Trust By Deb Hirschhorn, Ph.D.

’ve always looked forward to Sukkos with a sort of wicked glee. I loved watching everyone else working outside while I looked on pleasantly from my window. Years ago, I stopped worrying if the sukkah would even get up. My family could wait ‘til the last minute and I realized that I would not be in any violation whatsoever if it didn’t get done. They would, but that was not my problem. Unlike Pesach where I’d better have gotten all my chometz out the door by 10:30 or whatever that annoying time was the morning before the night of, I could relax on Sukkos. Sure, I love my sukkah and I would take great pleasure in the decorations that my children made, so yes, I would be scurrying out there at the last minute to put them up because that is when the sukkah was finally done. But I would do it with a sense of relaxation. I wasn’t nervous the way you are nervous on Friday night in case you forgot to turn the blech on or forgot to lower the control on the cholent pot. That relaxation is a very nice feature of this holiday. And then, you can be forgiven for using disposable dishes – pretty disposable dishes – in the sukkah, especially if it looks like rain and you want to be sure you can carry everything in quickly. Wouldn’t it be nice to take that level of inner peace

into our everyday lives? Theoretically, we should. After all, if the ruchniyusdik world is the emes and the physical world we consciously inhabit is not, then it would, logically, make sense that if we can be relaxed in what is perhaps the most spiritual of the holidays – due to our intense connection to HaKadosh Baruch Hu – then surely we should be relaxed in our gaivadik lives. But that’s not the way it is, is it? Instead, we are worried and stressed all the time: We can’t get rid of troublesome thoughts; our stomachs are tight or our throats are dry or our hearts pound – name your symptom. And that’s a shame because life was meant to be enjoyed. Stress should be a friendly messenger that there’s something perhaps we need to attend to not a constant companion spoiling everything going on.

SO HOW DO WE GET TO THAT PLACE? Here are some things to do to reduce stress: • You know why children on a trip always ask, “Are we there yet?” It’s more than the lack of a sense of time. It’s really because children live in the moment. Sure, they remember things from the past, but they are far more focused on the current point in time. Be like a child and tell your worries to wait while you live for now.

• If you are a real big worrier, here is a funny exercise that absolutely works. Tell yourself that you are “allowing” yourself to worry from 7-8 every night (or whenever) and sit down in a chair with a handy notebook and worry your brains out, taking notes on all your ideas, problems, and solutions. But that’s it. You should worry within your allotted time and at no other. • Learn to take deep, refreshing breaths during the course of the day. If you inhale to a count of 4, hold for 4, and exhale for 7 while counting, you not only slow down your vital signs, but you also create connections in your brain’s left hemisphere between your neo-cortex (which thinks) and your amygdala (which emotes). It is as if the cortex is telling the amygdala to calm down. Furthermore, the counting gets your mind off of your worries and helps you to focus on the present moment. • Don’t be afraid to delegate work. If you handle it right, you can get your kids to do a lot of the work you have piled up. It’s good for them, too: They feel proud of their participation in the family; they learn that housework is work and will therefore appreciate their parents more when they see what goes into it; and of course, best of all, it prepares them for adulthood. My 18-month old grandson likes to put his dirty diaper

in the garbage. He never got treats for doing this chore; he just thinks it’s fun and his parents do not mind at all. • Be okay with imperfection. When I would forget to turn on the cholent pot or something radically bad like that, I would console myself by saying, “Only Hashem is perfect.” It’s extremely important to not beat yourself

Him is not just for Sukkos, but for every minute. Or it should be. If your heart is in the right place and if you are trying to do the right thing, then you must believe that He is watching out for you and will give you exactly what you need to learn and grow. So that if you do make a mistake, there must be a purpose for it. Ditto if some-

Be like a child and tell your worries to wait while you live for now.

up for your mistakes. If that was done to you, it’s time to stop carrying that baggage. (The core of my new course is on Self-Love.) • Don’t grumble. Yes, yom tov preparations can be a hassle and so can everyday work for that matter. But it is our avoda, and we are meant to do it b’simcha. If you really hate your job, maybe you need to switch jobs or even careers, but if you hate getting ready for chagim then something else is going on, something unhealthy that needs to be addressed. Take care of that and don’t take it out on the yom tov. • Trust Hashem all the time. Our connection with

thing “bad” happens: It, too, has a purpose, a positive purpose. Sukkos is a great time to get one’s head into the right place about trusting Hashem. On Sukkos we purposely leave ourselves exposed to the elements just to prove that we are happy to put ourselves into His loving Hands. So, when Sukkos is over, let’s remember the feelings of joy we had and bring them into the rest of our lives. Dr. Deb Hirschhorn is a Marriage and Family Therapist. She can be reached at 646-54-DRDEB or by writing drdeb@drdeb.com.

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Health & F tness

Yes, a Diabetic Can Enjoy Yom Tov By Cindy Weinberger MS, RD, CDN

om tov is a cherished time to spend with family and loved ones. Unfortunately, it is also a time when people tend to eat more high-fat, high-calorie foods than they normally do. Every day can be a challenge when suffering from diabetes, however yomim tovim tend to be even more difficult. If you have diabetes and eat too much of the wrong foods over yom tov, your blood glucose level might rise higher than the target range. Avoiding seudos may not be an option, but some careful thought and planning can go a long way to help you manage your blood glucose and still have a good time. Remember yom tov does not have to disrupt your diabetes control. With a little preparation, you’ll be ready to face yom tov head-on and still enjoy it. Let’s start from the very beginning. The first meal of yom tov usually starts very late. By the time the men come home from shul and everybody moves to the sukkah, the meal is much later than from what you are probably used to eating. The yom tov day meals are also at a tricky time. Skipping breakfast is a common phenomenon on Shabbos and yom tov in anticipation of the big lunch meal. However, for a diabetic, skipping breakfast and jumping straight to a large lunch can cause irregularities in glucose control. Plan in advance for how you will handle making changes if your meal does not line up with your regular meal

schedule. I suggest pre-gaming before the night meals and eating a regular breakfast. Start your day with a healthy breakfast to help manage your weight and blood glucose levels. Include whole grains, fruit, low-fat dairy, and protein such as eggs or peanut butter. Additionally, if skipping your regular meal in order to eat together with everyone else and you normally take insulina hormone that helps the body use glucose for energy. The beta cells of the pancreas make insulin. When the body cannot make enough insulin, it is taken by injection or through use of an insulin pump. injections or a pill that lowers blood glucoseThe food you eat gets digested and broken down into a sugar your body’s cells can use. This is glucose, one of the simplest forms of sugar.X, you may need to have a snack at your normal mealtime to prevent a low blood glucosethe main sugar found in the blood and the body’s main source of energy. Also called blood sugar. reaction. Aside from meal planning, overeating on yom tov is inevitable. The best way to compensate for eating a little more than usual is to be active. Plan physical activity into your day. Having an hour of physical activity will make you feel energized and burn off calories you will be feasting on later. You can take a walk in the afternoon after the meals, briskly walk to shul, or play sports with the kids in the afternoons to help burn off the unwanted calories.

WHAT SHOULD A DIABETIC EAT OVER YOM TOV? Eating over yom tov should be no different from the way you eat every day. Hosting meals puts you at an advantage because you can prepare your meals according to your usual diet. If joining a meal as a guest, bring your own food if necessary or ask your host to prepare food appropriate for your diet. Most foods can be lightened up. Kindly ask your host to recreate a traditional recipe to fit into your eating plan while still preserving the goodness that makes it so delicious. That kugel with fried onions is just as tasty, or even better, with roasted caramelized onions instead. If unable to make changes to the meal, be sure to choose the food you put on your plate wisely. Choose vegetables and fruits that have a variety of colors. These foods are high in fiber and help keep your blood glucose under control. Include nonstarchy vegetables such as spinach, carrots, broccoli, lettuce, and cauliflower into your meals. Eat whole grains such as whole wheat pasta, brown rice, and whole grain bread. Choose a variety of protein foods. Include fish, lean meat, chicken, turkey, beans and lentils, peas, and soy products. Avoid the foods high in fat and obviously high in sugar. Most dishes prepared with white flour can be replaced with whole wheat.

COULD A DIABETIC DRINK ON YOM TOV? AND IF SO, WHEN? Aside from big meals, yom tov tends to go hand in hand with alcohol. Drink only when blood-glucose levels are under control. Drink alcohol with a snack or meal. Test your blood glucose to help you determine the effects of the drink. Remember, yom tov is about spending time with loved ones and remembering the sacred day. Focus on the fun, not the feast. Spend more time in conversation and enjoying the special days than worrying about what’s on your plate. I wish you and your families a chag kasher v’sameach!

Cindy Weinberger MS, RD, CDN, is a Master’s level Registered Dietitian and Certified Dietitian-Nutritionist. She graduated CUNY Brooklyn College receiving a Bachelor’s in Science and Master’s degree in Nutrition and Food Sciences. Her Dietetic Internship was completed under Brooklyn College primarily in Ditmas Park Care Center and Boro Park Center where she developed clinical and education skills to treat patients with comprehensive nutrition care. She is currently a dietitian at Boro Park Center and a private nutrition consultant. She can be reached at Cindy Weinberger1@gmail.com.

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Life is Happy The Only Thing Missing is…Hashem? By Mindi Werblowsky Saketkhou, LMSW

n my work with adolescent girls, a common complaint I hear from them is that if someone is a “good” girl, no one pays attention to them. The students who are struggling academically or at the other end of the spectrum as candidates for class valedictorian receive significant attention. But all of those girls and boys in between – the ones who don’t shine in a particular area yet also don’t cause trouble – fall through the cracks. For a majority of these students there is seemingly no major fallout. Most of them remain frum and continue to lead healthy and productive lives. Yet, there is potential fallout. This fallout may seem inconsequential at first glance but may have severe ramifications for these children’s lives in the future. It is very common for children to graduate school without the ability to form meaningful connections. I am not focusing on the lack of real relationships between adolescents and their peers, which can be direct-

ly attributed to technology and social media. However, I am focusing on children’s inability to form strong connections and relationships with a mentor/authority figure in their lives. The consequences can be devastating. In a study published in Psychology Today, it was found that religious people are overall happier than non-religious people. And the reasons given for their happiness are interesting. Greater than their sense of purpose and resources for coping with negative life events, a majority of people listed connection as their main reason for finding happiness in religion, connection with peers, their community and with G-d. A frum person cannot go through life alone, without someone to guide him/ her. Whether issues arise regarding dating, marriage, child-raising, professional challenges or general frumkeit, these relationships are crucial for appropriate and healthy development on a personal level and with regards to life as a frum Jew. Questions about raising

children should not wait until a child is in trouble. They have to start being asked when our children are babies and toddlers. In my past work experience I often ran parenting sessions for families whose children were presenting difficulties. When we discussed the importance of prevention, I used the following example. When a child begins crawling and walking it is very common for parents to protect the electrical outlets in the home. Parents do not wait until a child has stuck his or her finger in the outlet before doing so. They do it before the child has the chance to hurt himself. This ideology has to continue throughout the child’s life. Knowing effective ways to “block the outlets” have to be discussed with a rabbi or mentor on a constant basis. Another possible ramification of this lack of connection to a rebbe, mechanechet, or teacher is that our adolescents are feeling no connection with Hashem either. I have come across many people who are outwardly frum but inwardly

feel something lacking in their connection to Torah and mitzvos. They have no desire to give up a frum lifestyle or to rebel in any way. Yet, they also feel nothing for Hashem and have no passion about being frum. They enjoy time with their families on Shabbosim and yomim tovim, but don’t enjoy going to Shul. In the course of their day-to-day activities they do not think about Hashem at all. The concept of G-d and being frum has very little bearing on their overall mindset. The dangers of living in this world without being connected to Hashem cannot be overstated. As Jewish people we are not just guided by the laws of the Shulchan Aruch. We are meant to live with a constant awareness of Hashem and His will driving our every action. I recently read a quote in Mishpacha attributed to the Kapishnitzer Rebbe. Someone was explaining to him that there is a simple way to be yotzei a specific mitzvah. And his response was: “My soul didn’t descend from

On High all the way down to this lowly world just to be yotzei.” What an incredible mindset to have when living in this world and serving Hashem. But how can we ever hope to achieve that mindset when we feel nothing for Hashem? As a little girl I would often wake up in the middle of the night. I used to lie on my bed under my covers speaking to Hashem and asking Him to keep me safe. And eventually I fell asleep, comforted in my simple belief that Hashem would not let anything happen to me. Many years later as I now tuck in my own daughter at night I tell her that Mommy, Abba and Hashem are all watching over her and keeping her safe. There is something fundamentally important in growing up with the concept that Hashem is a tangible Being who is there loving you, watching you and keeping you safe. We are approaching Sukkos, Zman Simchaseinu, a time of tremendous joy and happiness. And what do we do during these days of joy? We move

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outside of our homes into a sukkah, a wooden hut where we have to often contend with insects and bad weather – clearly not as comfortable as being inside our homes. A sukkah is

connection to Hashem. An embrace from Him. A hug from a Father to His children. The epitome of happiness is being connected to Hashem and feeling His embrace.

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The epitome of happiness is being connected to Hashem and feeling His embrace.

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as zumba, baking, bowling and occasional outings including spa night are organized, all free of charge. GNO is a healthy, happy environment for local yeshiva high school girls to spend some free time and

form friendships with other girls in the community who may or may not attend the same school. The girls are encouraged to form connections with the leaders of the program trained and supervised by a licensed social worker. In this day and age when our girls are so busy keeping up with school, being part of production or after- school activities and fulfilling chessed hours and responsibilities at home, it is so important for them to have something for themselves – to help them grow as individuals. GNO offers two hours of fun and relaxation where the focus is all about them. Our program was very successful last year and we

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Notable Quotes “Say What?!”

She heard what I said; we ladies can do two things at the same time you know. - A Norwegian parliament member sticking up for Norwegian Prime Minister Erna Solberg who was caught playing Pokémon Go during her speech

This weekend, a person or persons spraypainted graffiti all over Donald Trump’s new Washington, D.C., hotel. Police have narrowed their list of suspects down to “50 percent of the country.” – Conan O’Brien

According to a new report, the Zika virus may be able to spread through sweat and tears, which means one way or another come November 8, we’re all getting Zika.

Is somebody hollering again? You know what? Here’s the deal. Try to get your own rally. You gotta get your own rally. See, if you can’t get your own rally, don’t come mess up somebody else’s rally. – President Obama when he was heckled during a rally for Hillary in North Carolina

- Seth Myers

The president just signed a law that will require men’s restrooms in federal buildings to have baby-changing tables. Or as most guys will call that, “Finally! A place where we can eat a sandwich!” – Jimmy Fallon

If the subject were Islam, I mean, the president would have a primetime press conference right now urging all of us to quell our Islamophobia. – Tucker Carlson commenting on leaked Hillary emails which disparage Catholics

Hillary Clinton campaigned in Florida today with Al Gore. You’re making Al Gore go back to Florida? That’s so cruel. That’s like making Joe Frazier go back to Manila. – Seth Myers

We’re going to start by talking about everybody’s favorite subject: taxes. Over the weekend, Donald Trump’s private tax documents were leaked to The New York Times, showing that in 1995 he posted a loss of $916 million. The only people with a more embarrassing loss in 1995 were the prosecution team in the O.J. Simpson trial. – James Corden

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There are now about six more weeks left in the election. And we know that because this morning, Trump’s hair popped out and saw its shadow. – Jimmy Fallon

And I’ll tell you what – I didn’t think I’d say this, but I’m going to say it, and I hate to say it, but if I win, I am going to instruct my attorney general to get a special prosecutor to look into your situation. - Trump attacking Clinton on her handling of confidential material as secretary of state, promising to continue to investigate Clinton should he become president, at the second presidential debate

It’s just awfully good that someone with the temperament of Donald Trump is not in charge of the law in our country.

Apparently, I’ve gained about 30 pounds, and when I went to get in my car the morning of the debate, I split the seat of my pants all the way open. - Ken Bone, the now-famous bright red sweater-wearing undecided voter who asked a question at the second presidential debate, explaining to CNN why he wasn’t wearing the olive green suit that he planned on wearing

- Clinton, brushing aside Trump’s threat

I had seven Twitter followers and two of them were my grandma.

Because you’d be in jail.

– Ibid., on life before his red sweater launched him to stardom

- Trump’s retort

Julian Assange, the founder of WikiLeaks, is supposed to give a big announcement where he said he will release documents to hurt both nominees. People are calling it the “October Surprise.” I don’t like the name. I don’t. October Surprise is the most ominous title we can give this? October Surprise doesn’t sound sinister; it sounds like your aunt’s recipe for a squash casserole.

I used to hunt Indians, but now I’m gonna pay tribute to the Indians. - Hall of Fame pitcher Pedro Martinez, on a Boston post-game show after the Cleveland Indians swept the Red Sox in the ALDS

– James Corden

Yesterday, LeBron James wrote an op-ed in which he endorsed Hillary Clinton. LeBron says he and Hillary are all about the same thing: taking forever to finally win something. – Jimmy Fallon

They call me Lil Kaine. - Sen. Tim Kaine to a hip hop radio audience during an interview on a North Carolina R&B station

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Trump is going to walk away from this election without entering the White House – which it seems apparent that he never wanted in the first place. However, he is going to have a huge segment of the population in his corner who are going to go on fervently believing that Trump really would have won if he had not been stabbed in the back by the Republican Party. And he’s going to use them for whatever his next venture is – probably something television related; think Fox News but way more schlocky – and have a successful career for as long as he lives pointing this angry mass at his enemies like Paul Ryan or Hillary Clinton or whoever. - Leon Wolf, The Blaze

I know some of you and some of the people you are trying to convince are not crazy about Hillary. I know that. Okay. – Joe Biden, at a rally for Hillary

It’s my pride and joy and any of my friends that know me understand how much I love it. The last thing I needed was any kind of damage to my car. - Florida coast resident Randy Jalil explaining why he drove his BMW into his house and parked it near his couch during Hurricane Matthew

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Politics is like sausage being made. It is unsavory, and it always has been that way, but we usually end up where we need to be. But if everybody’s watching, you know, all of the backroom discussions and the deals, you know, then people get a little nervous, to say the least. So, you need both a public and a private position. – Hillary Clinton, in a 2013 speech to bankers, the transcript of which was recently released by WikiLeaks

Obviously, I’m kind of far removed because of the life I’ve lived and the economic – you know – fortunes that my husband and I now enjoy. - Ibid., talking about why she can’t relate to the middle class

Last night was the presidential town hall debate between Donald Trump and Hillary Clinton, and the audience was made up of undecided voters — or as they’re also known, the worst people to be in line behind at Baskin-Robbins. – Jimmy Fallon

Trump campaign manager Kellyanne Conway said this morning that “last night’s debate was a good night for democracy.” But I think what she really meant was, “Good night, democracy.” – Seth Myers

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Political Crossfire

How the Bard Might View the 2016 Election By Michael Gerson

aving quoted Freddie Blassie of professional wrestling fame in a recent column critiquing Donald Trump’s debate performance, and having still been accused of elitism, I consider all bets off. So let’s consider William Shakespeare’s view of the 2016 election. It is not quite (though almost)

as absurd as it sounds. “A plague o’ both your houses” from “Romeo and Juliet” seems to fit. And there is this from “Henry V”: “The empty vessel makes the greatest sound.” But there are lessons apart from the Shakespeare quote game. As anyone who took in some plays at a summer festival will tell you – and

a surprisingly egalitarian range of Americans, in a surprising variety of communities, actually did – Shakespeare often employed political settings for his dramas. He was consistently drawn to questions about leadership – examining the inner struggles of men (and, here’s to you, Lady Macbeth, women) who seek

power, and exploring how that thirst elevates or debases them. Abraham Lincoln was fascinated by “Macbeth,” a play about political ambition, being quietly ferocious in his own. During the fight against apartheid in South Africa, the prisoners on Robben Island secured a volume of Shakespeare that they passed

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around, marking passages that particularly spoke to them. Nelson Mandela signed his name next to these lines from “Julius Caesar”: “Cowards die many times before their deaths/ The valiant never taste of death but once.” And then there is this from Trump’s book, “Think Like a Champion” (p. 49): “I’m not proposing that you spend years studying Shakespeare, but a topical knowledge of certain things will greatly enhance your capabilities for dealing in the major leagues with people who are well educated in a variety of subjects. Don’t be left out!” Not wanting to be left out, this summer I saw a fine production of “Julius Caesar,” a world of plots, betrayal, villainy and the emotional manipulation of the angry masses. Or, as we call it in Washington, campaign coverage. In the decisive first debate between Brutus and Marc Antony, Brutus employs careful arguments in the expectation that reason will prevail over passion. He is public spirited yet boring. He has an emotional range that reaches from A to B. You make the comparison.

Marc Antony, in contrast, is emotive and deceptive. He moves in a cloud of chaos. He promises bread and circuses. He has considerable gaming assets in Pompeii and promises to build a wall across Gaul. You get the picture. For friends of the Roman republic, this confrontation does not end well.

branch – the courts and legislature – are strong. So there is no need for hysteria. But we should be suspicious of leadership that promises impossible benefits, organizes malice, proposes restrictions on press freedom, threatens political enemies with retribution and offers a single leader as the embodiment of the national will. It is a national blessing that America’s Antony has none of Antony’s (actually Shakespeare’s) mad rhetorical skills. Trump has essentially abandoned the field of rhetoric and rational persuasion. His definition of political authenticity is the impulsive expression of halfbaked ideas and popular prejudices. This may be enough to sustain a Twitter account. As we have seen, it is not enough to hold up one side of a 90-minute debate. And it would not be nearly enough to hold up four years of a presidential administration. This is populism without eloquence. Thank G-d for that. And thank Shakespeare for clarifying the democratic threats to democracy.

this one “the poet.” “It is no matter,” says the crowd. “Tear him! Tear him!” Should we see ourselves in Rome’s rabble? An extraordinary political argument is now on the table: that the old order is corrupt and inept and that we really need a man on horseback who will smash the establishment and serve the people. This type

Nelson Mandela signed his name next to these lines from “Julius Caesar”: “Cowards die many times before their deaths/The valiant never taste of death but once.”

When the votes of the masses are (figuratively) counted, voting itself ceased to count. Shakespeare is arguing, according to Allan Bloom, that “the corruption of the people is the key to the mastery of Rome.” This argument takes a darkly comic turn when the mob, thirsty for blood, is out looking for Cinna “the conspirator” but chances upon a different Cinna,

of populism has a certain appeal because our political establishment, in an infinite variety of ways, has failed. But America’s founders – who both read Shakespeare and studied the sad end of Roman republicanism – feared and repudiated the Caesarian option. (See Federalist No. 10.) As they intended, American institutions that restrain the executive

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Political Crossfire

The Stillborn Legacy of Barack Obama By Charles Krauthammer

nly amid the most bizarre, most tawdry, most addictive election campaign in memory could the real story of 2016 be so effectively obliterated, namely, that with just four months left in the Obama presidency, its two central pillars are collapsing before our eyes: domestically, its radical reform of American health care, aka

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Young people, refusing to pay disproportionately to subsidize older and sicker patients, are not signing up. As the risk pool becomes increasingly unbalanced, the death spiral accelerates. And the only way to save the system is with massive infusions of tax money. What to do? The Democrats will eventually push to junk Obamacare for a full-fledged, government-run, single-payer system. Republicans will seek to junk it for a more market-based pre-Obamacare-like alternative. Either way, the singular domestic achievement of this presidency dies.

THE OBAMA DOCTRINE The president’s vision was to move away from a world where stability and “the success of liberty” (JFK, inaugural address) were anchored by American power and move toward a world ruled by universal norms, mutual obligation, international law and multilateral institutions. No more cowboy adventures, no more unilateralism, no more Guantanamo. We would ascend to the higher moral plane of diplomacy. Clean hands, clear conscience, “smart power.”

This blessed vision has just died a terrible death in Aleppo. Its unraveling was predicted and predictable, though it took fully two terms to unfold. This policy of pristine – and preening – disengagement from the grubby imperatives of realpolitik yielded Crimea, the South China Sea, the rise of the Islamic State, the return of Iran. And now the horror and the shame of Aleppo. After endless concessions to Russian demands meant to protect and preserve the genocidal regime of Bashar Assad, last month we finally capitulated to a deal in which we essentially joined Russia in that objective. But such is Vladimir Putin’s contempt for our president that he wouldn’t stop there. He blatantly violated his own ceasefire with an air campaign of such spectacular savagery – targeting hospitals, water pumping stations and a humanitarian aid convoy – that even Barack Obama and John Kerry could no longer deny that Putin is seeking not compromise but conquest. And is prepared to kill everyone in rebel-held Aleppo to achieve it. Obama, left with no options – and astonishing-

ly, having prepared none – looks on. At the outset of the war, we could have bombed Assad’s airfields and destroyed his aircraft, eliminating the regime’s major strategic advantage – control of the air. Five years later, we can’t. Russia is there. Putin has just installed S-300 antiaircraft missiles near

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of benign disengagement. What’s left of the Obama legacy? Even Democrats are running away from Obamacare. And who will defend his foreign policy of lofty speech and cynical abdication? In 2014, Obama said, “Make no mistake: [My] policies are on the ballot.” Democrats were crushed in

Obama did nothing before. He will surely do nothing now.

Tartus. Yet, none of the rebels have any air assets. This is a warning and deterrent to the only power that could do something – the United States. Obama did nothing before. He will surely do nothing now. For Americans, the shame is palpable. Russia’s annexation of Crimea may be an abstraction, but that stunned injured little boy in Aleppo is not. ”What is Aleppo?” famously asked Gary Johnson. Answer: The burial ground of the Obama fantasy

that midterm election. This time around, Obama says, “My legacy’s on the ballot.” If the 2016 campaign hadn’t turned into a referendum on character – a battle fully personalized and ad hominem – the collapse of the Obama legacy would indeed be right now on the ballot. And his party would be 20 points behind.

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Forgotten Her es

Sailing the Seas of WWII By Avi Heiligman

The boat captained by JFK

ll great superpowers in history have had large armies and to go with this they also had a transportation situation.

Moving across thousands of miles of land wasnâ&#x20AC;&#x2122;t all that easy once weather, terrain, hostile locals and keeping the troops fed were factored

USS Wolverine, Lake Michigan, 1943

in. Conquerors like the Greeks, Romans, Vikings and more modern powers such as the British, French and Spanish have had huge navies that served two main purposes. One was to transport the troops with all of their equipment safely to the shore and the other was their mighty warships. Throughout the ages innovators have thought up some really interesting ship designs, and weâ&#x20AC;&#x2122;ll discuss WWII fascinating ships in this article. Traditionally, most ships were built out of wood. During the 19th century, this was phased out in favor of metal and, in particular, steel ships. However, during WWII when steel was in short supply, several companies were contracted to build a fast boat out of wood. The result was the PT (Patrol Torpedo) boat that was very active in the Pacific. Constructed out of plywood and mahogany and held together by glue and bronze screws, the PT boat was very fast. Capable of outrunning bigger ships the boat was manned by just a crew of twelve sailors and could carry up to eight torpedoes. While they were prone to break down at any given time, the boats were easy to fix and could be used as a floatation device. This helped future president John F. Kennedy and the crew of PT-109 survive being cut in half by a Japanese destroyer. PT boats made night attacks that

would confuse large Japanese warships into thinking that they were dealing with something much larger than an 80-foot plywood boat. Since they were cheap to make and easy to replace some American commanders would send out a PT on a reconnaissance mission and if they failed to return they would know where the enemy was located. PT boats served throughout the war and played a key part in the battle for the Philippines. They were very effective against Japanese barges and sank a few warships in the early stages of the war. Lieutenant John Bulkeley, commander of PT-41, was awarded the Medal of Honor for rescuing General Douglas MacArthur from the doomed island of Corregidor and delivering him and his entourage to a submarine that brought him to Australia. Later in the war they were used in the D-Day landings and during the Battle of Leyte Gulf. A few surviving PT boats still exist and are in various stages of repair, disintegration or other uses. Only PT-658, based out of Portland, Oregon, is seaworthy. Concrete and cement were two other types of unusual building materials used for ships, although they were less effective in battle than metal ships. Barges and small boats made of concrete existed prior to WWI and it was during that war that some merchant ships were con-

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structed of the unusual shipbuilding material. Concrete barges were used in building artificial harbors for the Normandy beachheads in June 1944. Longtime readers of this column know of the author’s fascination with submarines and when it comes to unique ships these underwater ships don’t disappoint. Midget submarines have a very small crew and in the case of the Japanese Kaiten it was used as a human-guided suicide torpedo. Many countries had small subs but only the Japanese had one that was built for a one way mission. On the opposite end of the spectrum, the Japanese also built submarines so large that they could carry an airplane and its launcher. The plane from the I-25 dropped a bomb in Oregon, making it the only time during WWII that the mainland U.S. was under attack by aircraft. For their part the Americans didn’t have any small submarines that were used for patrol but they did have a barge that went around

John F Kennedy and other boat officers

from ship to ship in the Pacific handing out ice cream. Seriously, that was its only purpose and at a relatively cheap cost it was really popular among the sailors although they would rather have had alcohol. The wackiest ship in the U.S. Army was more than a TV show. It was actually based on a real ship, the USS Echo, that originally was a flat-bottomed schooner called a scow from New Zealand. Built in 1905, the ship was transferred to the U.S. in 1942. First outfitted with topsails, the USS Echo only got her engines in 1920. She was valuable because

her wooden hull would be able to evade radar and because she looked like a fishing trawler she was able to blend in with other small boats and report on Japanese ship movements. Used as a spy and supply ship she was based in New Hebrides. For two years she remained commissioned and her crew was awarded medals for their invaluable service. In 1944 the Echo was transferred back to New Zealand and made into a museum/bar but was broken up in 2015. These are just of the interesting ships that were afloat during WWII. Other unique ships included Q-ships

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that were designed to look like harmless merchant ships but when an enemy ship got too close guns would appear on the deck. Many Allied ships fell prey to this favorite tactic of the Germans. Aircraft carriers were fairly new and the early versions were converted from merchant or other types of ships. This created a distinctive look but they proved their worth in battle. The USS Wolverine was a passenger steamer converted into a training carrier that sailed on Lake Michigan to train new carrier pilots. In a future article we will look into other unique ships that served in past wars and current ones that make up the powerful navies of today.

Avi Heiligman is a weekly contributor to The Jewish Home. He welcomes your comments and suggestions for future columns and can be reached at avi heiligman@gmail.com.

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Rocky’s

Rant

Roof Goof By Rocky Zweig

Please note: all names in this article have been changed. Except mine.

got married for the second time in 2004. I think. You’ll have to forgive me if I can’t be more precise; after a while they all kind of run together and it’s all just a blur. This is the one that everyone in my family refers to as my WWYT marriage: What Were You Thinking? The only thing Miriam and I had in common was our species. We had a friend who had known both of us for many years. When he got wind of the fact that we were dating his reaction was swift and unequivocal: “Are you out of your minds? Noooooo! Bad idea! Very bad idea!” He said this to both of us. Individually. So of course we did the logical thing and got hitched anyway, and so began our twenty-two month experiment in wedded bliss. Felt more like wedded blisters. Of course, it has long been established that what I know about women could fit in a thimble with room to spare, and Miriam was Lubavitch to boot, and let me tell you, people: What I know about the daily lives of real Chabad people could fit comfortably in the rest of the aforementioned thimble. When I think of Lubavitch, three things come to mind: vodka, tefillin, and Moshiach, usually in that order. And since Miriam owned her apartment in Crown Heights and

I owned my toothbrush and seven hangers, I moved into her place. Talk about leaving your comfort zone! I suddenly felt like Dorothy in the Kingdom of Oz: the quintessential outsider, except I didn’t even get to have a cute dog or sparkly shoes. One of the more pleasant aspects of my time in Crown Heights was my relationship with Miriam’s daughter and son-in-law, Ruchi and Chaim, and their little girl, Shifra. They were terrific young people who accepted me immediately with just the right combination of friendship and respect. One day Chaim called me and asked me to go to Home Depot with him. “Sure, but why?” “We’re gonna build a sukkah. From scratch.” I immediately thought of the old joke: The Lone Ranger and Tonto are surrounded by Apaches with bows and arrows and tomahawks who are looking for scalps. The Lone Ranger turns to Tonto and says, “Oh boy, we’re really in trouble now, Tonto.” “What you mean we, Kimo Sabe?” We’re gonna build a sukkah? We? As in me and you? Are you saying I’m the other person besides you that’s included in this particular “we”? Don’t you mean we’re gonna buy a sukkah? You know, one of those canvas jobs with the pipes left over from the fire sale at the plumb-

ing supply wholesaler’s warehouse that comes with an Allen wrench that I always lose? Of course, I didn’t say any of that, because I wanted to hold onto some semblance of dignity with this twenty-something-year-old Lubavitcher, who apparently went to MIT. “Chaim, I’m not handy.” “You’ll be fine.” “Chaim, I’m old.” “No, you’re not.” “Chaim, I hate you.” “Duly noted. Now please get in the car.” He knew exactly what he wanted and went to the exact bins he needed. He picked out plywood or fiberboard or some such thing, then he had lumber cut to order. He bought nuts and bolts and then he bought glue. “Glue?” “Yeah, we glue the lumber to the plywood, then we drill holes in the lumber to slip the bolts in to hold the thing together.” “Isn’t this a little too big for the terrace?” “What did you say?” I actually thought my question had been quite clear, but I repeated it anyway. “I said, isn’t this too big for the terrace?” “Well, duh. Of course it’s too big for the terrace.” Huh?! “So,” I was sooo afraid to ask, “where are we putting the sukkah?”

“Why, on the roof, of course.” What?! “And…where are we…building the sukkah?” “Take a guess.” Let’s talk about heights. I, Y’rachmiel Zweig, do not like them. At all. Not too crazy about stepstools. Would never even think of wearing lifts. Heights are bad. Heights are evil. Unless, of course, I’m strapped into a giant silver bird 35,000 feet in the air. Then I’m okay. Especially on Qantas. The apartment was on the fourth floor, and I honestly would have had enough trouble just stepping out on the terrace there. But the roof? That was not happening. Then they sat me down and explained the facts of life to me. I shall now attempt to explain them to you, with the help of a visual aid.

Here is a photo of the building. At least I hope it’s here, because some-

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The Lubavitcher Rebbe walks past his sukkah, 1979

times it’s somewhere else. As you can see, counting the ground floor, which has apartments, there are five floors. Floors two and three have it made in the shade, because for some reason they have those staggered, extended terraces so they can build sukkahs on those without any halachic problems. Obviously the fifth floor is home free. The ones who get shafted are the ground floor and — wait for it — the fourth floor (where we were) because the fifth floor terrace is directly on top of us. Confused? Good; so was I. So the only possible place where we had room was all the way up there on the observation deck. I felt like Philippe Petit, the guy who walked a tightrope between the Twin Towers in 1974. Only more frightened and way more unbalanced. After days of pleading, cajoling, and Xanax, Chaim finally got me on the roof. First thing I noticed was the wind. It was very windy, and it wasn’t a particularly windy day. Thank G-d there was a fence around the perimeter. It was about three feet high, so if any leprechauns happened to show up on yom tov (Shoshana, do you like dwarfs better? Or midgets?), they’d have nothing to worry about. Wasn’t going to do me any good, though. If there was a grizzly bear with a knife and fork in his hand near the edge smiling at me and drooling, I wouldn’t have been any further away than I already was. We were up there a good couple hours, and I’m proud to say that after I got the hang of it, I actually helped. We put it up and it looked really nice, and solid, too. And when

we were done, it was time to lash the thing down. Chaim had brought up all kinds of ropes and bungee cords and fahrshideneh zachen to keep the sukkah securely anchored. “Sure is windy,” I said. “Don’t worry,” Chaim said. “It’s be fine.” If memory serves, that’s exactly what General Custer said to his

from the first floor and fourth floor people, I think there was two that survived. Empire Boulevard looked like a messier version of Lumber Liquidators. Not for long, though: soon enough the scavengers showed up and picked the thoroughfare clean. Oh, well. For the remainder of yom tov we squished ourselves into one of Ru-

I felt like Philippe Petit, the guy who walked a tightrope between the Twin Towers in 1974. Only more frightened and way more unbalanced.

troops as they rode on to meet Chief Crazy Horse. First night came and went without a hitch. Ditto the first day’s lunch. Then we walked up to the roof for supper on the second night. Not a stick. Not a bolt. Not a shtickel schach. Gurnisht. If a stranger had walked up there, and you tried to tell him there had been a sukkah there, he wouldn’t have believed it. Chaim, master of understatement that he is, spoke first: “Oops.” Miriam spoke next. She had a lot more to say. The sukkah wound up all over the street. The only solace we could find was that we weren’t alone: of all the sukkahs that were built up there

chi and Chaim’s friend’s sukkah on Montgomery Street. It wasn’t perfect, but we managed. Remember how I told you that Miriam and I didn’t really have much in common? Turned out that she didn’t even appreciate my scintillating sense of humor as much as I thought she did. “Hey Miriam,” I said to her during chol hamoed, “What does our sukkah have in common with Napoléon?” First came the obligatory eye roll. Then the long exhale. Then, “I give up, Rocky; what does our sukkah have in common with Napoléon?” “Glad you asked. They were both…blown apart!” She didn’t even crack a smile. But

the aidim at the bais din thought it was hilarious.

Rocky Zweig has been writing since he was sixteen and was the Editor-in-Chief of the late and decidedly unlamented Modieinu, the mimeographed (remember mimeographs?) newspaper of the Tenth Avenue Pirchei of Boro Park, where he wrote everything from stories to news articles to hashkafa articles to... yes (now it can be told!)...letters to the editor. Rocky was sixteen a very long time ago. He is the proud father of three marginally neurotic children. He has been married three — count ‘em — three times and has finally determined that he’s probably not very good at matrimonial bliss. He lives in his Fortress of Solitude in Flatbush with a small menagerie: Clarice, a European Starling; Rabbi Horatio LeZard, a Bearded Dragon; an aquarium filled with Lake Malawi African Cichlids; and a ten gallon tank that functions as a Home for Unwanted Goldfish, or H.U.G., collected over the years by his grandkids and great nieces and nephews at myriad street fairs and carnivals (rather than face the unpleasant task of flushing these unfortunate piscine creatures when they are eventually, inevitably ignored by their own obnoxious progeny, the parents simply call Uncle Rocky who then feeds them and cares for them until their ultimate natural demise three or four or even ten years down the pike). So apparently Rocky seems to get along better with animals than with his fellow homo sapiens. Or sapienses. Or whatever. Rocky’s column will be appearing every other week in The Jewish Home. Rocky can be reached at anidaati@aol.com.

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Round ‘em Up and Shake ‘em Down By Allan Rolnick, CPA

ast month, Hollywood brought back the classic western with a remake of The Magnificent Seven. It’s a tale as old as the West itself. An evil land baron terrorizes a town to satisfy his insatiable greed...and a ragtag squad of outlaws rides in to the rescue. You might be surprised to learn that the IRS has its own elite posse, too. They ride into battle wearing wool suits and skirts instead of leather chaps, brandishing subpoenas instead of six-shooters. They’re the brave men and women of the Global High Wealth Industry Group. The “Wealth Squad,” as they’re known, is dedicated to battling tax evasion in the face of two growing trends: the rich getting richer and taxes getting more complicated. The IRS has always dedicated its most capable auditors to its most complicated cases. But those auditors tend to work in their own little bubbles — partnerships, corporations, estates, etc. The Wealth Squad is a horse of a different color — an interdisciplinary group dedicated to “enterprise cases,” where they look at taxpayers plus the businesses, trusts, foundations, and other entities they

control. One accountant quoted in Bloomberg magazine described them like this: “highly capable, experienced examination specialists, which include technical advisers to provide industry or issue-special-

quests start with your business and personal returns for the year in question, and get more intrusive from there. Imagine finding yourself on the business end of this summons:

They ride into battle wearing wool suits and skirts instead of leather chaps, brandishing subpoenas instead of six-shooters.

ized tax expertise, specialists regarding flow-through entities (such as trusts, partnerships, LLCs), international examiners, economists to identify economic trends within returns, valuation experts and others.” Got a private jet? How about a private foundation? The Wealth Squad is especially interested in those. How does the Wealth Squad do it? With a deceptively powerful weapon: the Information Document Request, or IDR. Those re-

“Provide complete copies of all financial statements and method of accounting used to compile them, net worth computations, or other financial data probative of your assets, liabilities, net worth, income and losses, and cash flows from all sources, within and without the United States, including all underlying documents and any exhibits associated therewith, and if not apparent, please identify the preparer of such documents.” Yikes. Someone’s going to bill a lot of hours complying with that

request! How much money are we really talking here? For the 2013 tax year, the IRS audited 1.5% of all tax returns reporting income from $200,000-399,999, and dug up $605 in additional tax for every hour they worked. That sounds like a pretty solid return on investment, until you look at what those auditors do with the “one-percenters” making real money. That same year, the IRS examined 12.1% of the returns boasting income of $5 million or more, and brought in a much-more-gratifying $4,545 for every hour invested. If there’s any good news here, it’s that unless you’re a billionaire, you’re probably not going to find yourself in the Wealth Squad’s crosshairs. But that doesn’t mean you don’t deserve the same sort of proactive planning as their targets take for granted. Make sure you have a hero on horseback to help you pay less!

Allan J Rolnick is a CPA who has been in practice for over 30 yea rs in Queens, NY. He welcomes your comments and can be reached at 718-896-8715 or at allanjrcpa@aol.com.

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You are Wearing That Inside Out By Rivki D. Rosenwald Esq., CLC, SDS

hat is Sukkos. We wear our houses inside out. We are just following instructions, after

all.

EX G CL RE U AT SI VE W E Q DD U A IN LI G TY G FA IFT BR ! IC S!

It doesn’t say wash with like colors or only by hand. It just instructs us – inside out! Now why is that? There is something about changing it up that wakes us up. We take our precious families, our often

prized china, even our expensive silver and we move it all to a much less secure domain. We are vulnerable to the elements, to our fellow man, even to a potentially bothersome neighbor. Though, I know that’s merely a hypothetical, like the wayward son. Even the prized china is a stretch – I realize it’s usually the best of Amazing Savings. But we are placing ourselves and

loved ones in a more vulnerable place. It’s not always easy. Sometimes the weather’s harsh and it’s purely a “cold cycle” you have to get through. Sometimes you may be catering to a “light load,” yet other times you may be really piling in a “heavy” one. You start feeling yourself “spinning” in a “delicate cycle” of serving, “cleaning,” “washing,” and “drying.” You feel “wrung” out and ready to come inside and “lay” yourself “out flat!” Yet, there’s no avoiding it, we must be inside out! But we do it and embrace it because we are following a command-

can imbibe the awareness that we are not held back by anything but the walls we construct in our lives, in our own minds. Outside we can shed what gives us a false sense of security and entertain what is more lasting. We can find a closer tie to who we can be, not feel walled into who we’ve become. This is truly a breath of fresh air. We can appreciate here, with no separate rooms imposing rifts within a family, that we are united, we are one, we are a part of a team – a community!

When we sit outside under the open sky and see the vast blue heavens, we see endless possibility.

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ment to do so! What is this trying to do for us? There’s very little our houses really protect us from. Sure, it seems more secure than being out on the street. But who is calling the shots anyway? If we are meant to get wet, a Sandy shows up! If we are meant to be cold or hot, the boiler or A/C usually goes on the fritz. And if we are meant to have our belongings invaded, well, a teenager usually takes care of that! When we sit outside under the open sky and see the vast blue heavens, we see endless possibility. There are no barriers, no limitations. We

Our houses should be a place of comfort and security. But taking the inside outside should help us know they are not our ironclad protectors. That is our bond with our Creator which can be protective even among arbitrary elements. And outside of our usual constraints we can let ourselves soar! Have an awesome Sukkos experience! And don’t forget to look up and see your endless capabilities! Rivki Rosenwald is a certified relationship counselor, and career and life coach. She can be contacted at 917-705-2004 or rivki@rosenwalds.com

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