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Rabbi Raphael Pelcovitz and Rabbi Berel Wein Enthrall the Audience with Their Stories and Thoughts PAGE 50

Hundreds Join in Song and Dance at the Hilulah at the White Shul in Honor of Lag B’Omer PAGE 60

Learning is Exciting at the Annual Hasmoda Program in Yeshiva of Far Rockaway PAGE 71

Food, Fun and Friendship at Chabad’s Lag B’Omer Extravaganza

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A MUSEUM RISES FROM THE ASHES Remembering the Heroes of 9/11 Page 90

Memorializing our American Heroes Page 102

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Dear Readers, It is almost 13 years since our innocent view of the world was shattered one peaceful morning. September 11, 2001, when terrorists boldly slaughtered thousands of innocent Americans, is a day that will truly be remembered in sorrow. Every person who was alive that day knows of someone who perished in the ashes. They were regular people like you and me who were heading to work under the light blue sky on a warm morning. But at 9:59am and then at 10:28am, when the Towers collapsed, they were transformed into heroes who gave their all for their country. I remember sitting alone that afternoon in my home watching the horrors over and over again with tears streaming down my cheeks. That was all that was on the news that day—the horrible scenes of the crash and the collapse and the aftermath of smoke, ash, and a quiet eeriness. It seemed otherworldly, yet it was all too real. That morning changed us as nation forever. We are ever-vigilant, always anxious, aware that we are the target of evil minds. Last Thursday, the 9/11 Memorial Museum opened to the public. The museum is not without its controversy but I think one of the most poignant parts of the museum is the little things—the pair of shoes, the fireman’s helmet, the wallet—that highlight the trauma of what happened on that fateful day. Imagine the firefighter who was wearing that crushed helmet; remember the man who held that wallet during his final hours. These were people who were fathers and mothers, sons and daughters, brothers and sisters, and they will forever be remembered and missed. Memorial Day has become a day off from work filled with barbeques and parades. But if you know a veteran who has given for their country, let them know that you appreciate their dedication and heroism in the name of freedom. This year, make Memorial Day count. Wishing you a wonderful week, Shoshana

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Letters to Dear Editor, It’s heartening to hear about the Orthodox Union’s drive to help the Orthodox community with the burden it shoulders in educating its youth. I have heard about their legislation and lobbying for government assistance for private schools and with their partnering with like-minded groups who educate their children privately. The tuition crisis is huge, and it is only getting bigger. Costs in general are ballooning today; the prices on food, housing, insurance, etc. are rising, and education costs are going to rise as well. There has got to be an answer for us. Educating our children should be one of the most important things in our lives and we have to make it a priority. So many times I hear of people who are getting tuition breaks yet are jetting out to Florida every January and going to hotels for Pesach. It’s no wonder that the boards in schools that are in charge of scholarships are so skeptical when people ask for breaks. So many of those who are asking don’t make their children’s tuition a financial priority in their lives. In defense of those who are paying

more than $15,000 a year per child, perhaps schools should offer parents more transparency. Showing parents the costs associated with educating their children and showing parents why the high tuition costs are warranted would galvanize more parents into wanting to pay full tuition for their children. If we all work together, hopefully we can come to a solution together. Shari Weider Dear Editor, I want to thank Joe Bobker for a very interesting and enjoyable article (“Bobker on Sefira”). It appears that part of a sentence may have been missing in the discussion of when we start counting the omer. It’s always the second night of Pesach, whether in Israel or Chutz La’aretz, it’s just that in Israel that is the first night of Chol HaMoed and outside Israel it’s the night of the second Seder. It’s interesting Joe Bobker brought up the da’as yachid of Chabad. We had heard of the theoretical “individual counting” by Chabadnicks but actually saw this in person some years ago when we visited Melbourne for Shavuos and were invited for the first night to eat

the Editor at the home of friends of ours. Their son, who had become a Chabadnick, had gone for Pesach with his wife and small baby to his in-laws in Montreal. Since they had a small baby they decided not to do the usual Chabad practice of traveling back to Melbourne via Israel, but took the shorter route back crossing the dateline. Eli then held his own personal sefira count rather than going according to the makom, so he and his wife actually held Shavuos a day later. That first Shavuos night he came to see his parents and wished them all a good Yom Tov but he was in weekday clothes and was not keeping Yom Tov (except not to do melacha in public). Hillel Kramer Forest Hills Dear Editor, I just finished reading Mr. Bobker’s article in The Jewish Home, May 1, on Sefirat Haomer. I want to tell you that I truly appreciate Mr. Bobker’s wonderful writing style and thank him for sharing his gift. There is a plethora of mediocre work out there and it is a pleasure to have access to quality work such as his. Sincerely, Seth Glass Dear Editor, Years before there was any news coverage of veterans not getting proper healthcare, my long-term doctor, Dr. John Peterson, located at 2983 Long Beach Road in Oceanside, NY, has been providing absolutely free healthcare to hundreds of United States veterans and never once sought recognition for it. I hope someone takes notice of this and takes a moment to let others know of this free service and says “thank you”

for the service that this special person has been providing veterans for years. Their office number is (516) 5365777. Scott K. Dear Editor, This week you featured an interview with the new EVP of the OU, Mr. Allen Fagin. In the interview he spoke about the tuition crisis in our community. Although the issue is on our minds always, it’s particularly brought to the fore during this time, when tuition bills come in the mail. Just this week, my husband suggested in all seriousness for us to possibly switch our daughter to a less expensive school. The education may not be on par with the school she currently attends, but the costs would be that much lower. At first, I thought he was being funny, but then I realized he had a point. Although we may not fully fit in with the crowd and parent body at that school, the stress of paying for her education would be that much less. I always thought that one chose a school for their children based on hashkafa and education, but a few thousand dollars a year makes a huge difference in a family’s budget. All the best, Chana F.

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A construction accident and a rare public apology from the North Korean government may mean that heads will (literally) soon roll in the totalitarian state. An apartment building that was still under construction in the Phyongchon district of Pyongyang collapsed, leaving many casualties. It is normal in North Korea for families to move into structures before they are complete.

Although the country’s Central News Agency would not put a number on the lives lost, a South Korean official estimated that the twenty-three story building housed 92 families. As households in North Korea each have four members, the death toll may very well be in the hundreds. “This accident happened because they broke the rules and methods of construction,” Pyongyang resident Pak Chol told The Associated Press. “After this accident, we must make sure that this kind of terrible accident never happens again, by sticking to the proper method of building.” Another resident, Hong Nam Hyok, said, “Everyone in Pyongyang is now sharing the sorrow of the victims and the bereaved families.” The regime’s news agency reported on a distraught Kim Jong Un who “sat up all night, feeling painful after being told about the accident.” Government officials issued an apology along with a damning report on the construction methods used on the collapsed building. This is a rare break from the dictatorship’s policy of silence; the last time it admitted to anything negative was after a failed rocket launch in 2012.

In News China’s Government Saturated in Corruption

Being a member of the Chinese government is becoming more deadly than ever. In little over a year, close to 60 Chinese officials have died of unnatural causes, most being suicides. The strong suspicion is that this epidemic of mysterious deaths among China’s elite is tied to the anti-corruption campaign being led by Chinese president and party general secretary Xi Jinping. Xi Jinping’s anti-corruption drive has reached higher in the bureaucracy than any such effort in decades. Emerging on the heels of the prosecution of the

high-flying Bo Xilai, a former Central Politburo member and potential rival of Xi, it raises the possibility of elite instability on a level not seen since the Cultural Revolution. Not surprisingly, Chinese newspapers have been told in a secret order from Beijing to stop reporting on suicides by top government and party officials. Thanks to China’s economic boom and the very corruption that Xi now sees as threatening the future of Communist rule in China, many members of the elite have managed to smuggle a massive amount of wealth out of the country. Members of the elite have sent their children to college in the West, especially in the United States and the United Kingdom, and are purchasing real estate in Manhattan, London, and elsewhere in increasingly large numbers. Many hope that this may be a time for America to finally gain undercover access to the inner workings of the Chinese government. This is clearly an elite worried about its future. U.S. intelligence is in a position to facilitate defectors’ enjoyment of their wealth in relative security. Or, should the CIA want to play hardball, it could well be in a position,

Jews Leaving Ukraine in Droves

There is a new wave of olim heading to the Holy Land. At a recent round-table, part of a symposium called “Ukraine: Thinking Together” that was organized by Ukraine’s Foreign Ministry, the US embassy in Kiev and several other bodies, Josef Zissels, chairman of the Vaad Association of Jewish Organizations and Communities of Ukraine and a vice president of the World Jewish Congress, reported on the growing number of Eastern Ukrainian Jews who are rapidly emigrating to Israel in response to the chaos and violence that has overtaken the region. “This is not the result of any anti-Semitism but of anxiety and fear from criminal activity and chaos,” remarked Zissels. “There are bandits, men with rifles, who are patrolling the streets of some cities in eastern Ukraine and this is causing many Jews and non-Jews to want to leave.” He rejected recent reports of a planned massive Jewish evacuation of Odessa and Southern Ukraine. A recent Jewish Agency for Israel report shows that immigration to Israel from Ukraine jumped 52% in the first quarter of this year. In the past few years, on average, 1,900 Jews have moved to Israel from that region.

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in certain cases, to increase the danger of those who might want to stay in China by threatening to reveal embarrassing bits of information publicly, such as how much money they have stashed away and where they have hidden it. One would prefer, of course, to welcome only defectors with high-minded motives, such as a desire to promote the democratization of their homeland. Most, however, will leave for less noble reasons, such as avoiding imprisonment. Some will be motivated by simple greed. It’s the intelligence community’s job to hold its nose, encourage defections, and, in turn, provide policymakers with information and insights about a Chinese ruling elite whose thinking and workings remain far too closed for American security and comfort.

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The recent opening of a Chinese oil rig roughly 130 miles off the Vietnamese coast in a disputed part of the South China Sea has led to violent protests in Vietnam and tensions between the two communist states. The setting up of the rig this month, a move largely believed to be a demonstration of Chinese sovereignty in public waters, led the Vietnamese government in Hanoi to allow a rare anti-China public demonstration. The move was risky for the country; China is largely seen as an important business and political ally. The protests quickly degenerated into violent riots with Chinese dissidents showing up to add to the chaos. A number of Chinese nationals were killed and scores more were injured. “I want to send a message that if we don’t stop China today, tomorrow it will be too late,” said demonstrator Dao Minh Chu. “I think the best way is to allow people to protest,” said La Viet Dung. “They say they are preventing people from protesting because they are worried about extremist actions and violence, but that is not logical.” Authorities in Hanoi were quick to crack down on the disorder, closing streets and arresting provocateurs. Some people in Vietnam reported having trouble logging onto social media sites, such as Facebook. In reaction to the events, China announced it will suspend some bilateral exchange agreements with Vietnam. It also demanded Vietnamese authorities protect its citizens who are staying there. Chinese spokesman Hong Lei said the violence that has resulted in Chinese casualties and property losses had “damaged the atmosphere and conditions for exchanges and cooperation between China and Vietnam.” Hundreds of Chinese have been exiting Vietnam en masse and China has sent cargo ships which are capable of carrying thousands of passengers to Vietnam to aid in the evacuation of its citizens. Top Vietnamese security official Lt. Gen. Hoang Kong Tu vowed to ensure the safety of all foreign investments and citizens in the country, including those from China.

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president Xi Jinping to discuss the issue of cyber-espionage between the two countries. White House Spokesman Ben Rhodes said that Obama told Xi the US sees it not through the prism of security but out of concern over theft of trade secrets. Recently, Defense Secretary Chuck Hagel told the Pentagon that Obama plans on tripling the current security staff for cyber-attacks. “Our nation’s reliance on cyberspace outpaces our cyber-security,” Hagel said at the time. “Our nation confronts the proliferation of destructive malware and a new reality of steady, ongoing and aggressive efforts to probe, access or disrupt public and private networks, and the industrial control systems that manage our water, and our energy and our food supplies.” On Monday, the United States charged five Chinese officials, accusing them of hacking into American nuclear, metal and solar companies to steal trade secrets. This was the first criminal hacking charge the US has filed against foreign officials. The charges obviously angered China, and the US ambassador to China, Max Baucus, met with Zheng-Zeguang, China’s assistant foreign minister, who protested the US’s actions. He claimed that depending on the development of the situation, China “will take further action on the so-called charges by the United States.” “The Chinese government and military and its associated personnel have never conducted or participated in the theft of trade secrets over the Internet,” the foreign ministry quoted Zheng as telling Baucus. He also told Baucus that the US attitude to Internet security was “overbearing and hypocritical,” pointing to reports that the US government has spied on the Chinese. Despite the charges, US authorities will not be able to arrest those indicted because Beijing is unlikely to hand them over. Still, they will be unable to travel to the US and other countries that have extradition agreements with the United States.

Will Putin Be Withdrawing? Are the sanctions against Russia working or is Vladimir Putin already calling a victory? Putin has ordered Russian troops stationed on the Ukrainian border to return home. NATO estimates that there are roughly 40,000 troops stationed there. He even praised the new dialogue between the current Ukrainian

government and its opponents. These moves may be a sign that Russia believes it has achieved its short term goals for the region, although it still wants guarantees that Ukraine will not be joining NATO and accumulating more sovereignty on a regional basis, so that Russia can maintain influence on the Russian speaking regions of the country.

Two weeks ago, Russia did not act on a similar statement that signaled its intent to withdraw from the area. Analysts say that this time around the specificity of the orders gives more of a reason to believe that it will act on its intentions. However, despite Putin’s pronouncements, NATO Secretary General Anders Fogh Rasmussen reiterated that the military alliance has “not seen any evidence at all that the Russians have started withdrawal of troops from the Ukrainian border.” White House spokesman Jay Carney has said that the US would know if there was indeed a withdrawal. As elections are drawing near in Ukraine, some believe President Putin is just waiting until after the election outcome. “They think that the Ukrainian government won’t be able to consolidate despite the presidential election, and the economic, political and social crisis will escalate,” analyst Pavel Felgenhauer said on Dozhd TV. “They see no need to take the risky move of invasion, which would trigger serious sanctions.”

Muslim Woman Sentenced to Death for Marrying Christian Evil still exists. Last week, Meriam Ibrahim, a 26-year-old former doctor and the daughter of a Muslim, was sentenced to death in Sudan. In 2011, Ibrahim married a Christian man. The couple has one child born 18 months ago and another on the way. By law, children must follow their father’s religion. Judicial officials said Ibrahim was convicted on charges of “apostasy” on Thursday. Under Sudanese law, Ibra-

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S. Korea: We Failed with the Ferry Disaster

After facing withering criticism over the handling of a sunken ferry that left 300 dead, South Korean President Park Geun-hye has disbanded the country’s coast guard, the agency in charge of the botched rescue mission. In South Korea, the coast guard is a civilian agency and does not patrol the country’s maritime borders; the Navy is in charge of security. Mayoral and governor elections are weeks away, and Park, whose approval rating has plummeted since the tragedy, appeared tearful and apologetic over the outcome of the ferry rescue. “We failed

In News to rescue students who we could have saved,” Park said. “The ultimate responsibility for not properly dealing with this incident is mine.” But she also blamed the coast guard for not acting swiftly and aggressively. The surprise move brought criticism from Park’s political opponents. “Disbanding the coast guard is an extremely sensational, stunning announcement, and it gives an impression that Park is passing all the responsibility to the coast guard,” said Park Kwang-on, a spokesman for the main opposition party. Coast guard chief Kim Suk-kyoon said his agency would humbly accept Park’s decision. The captain of the sunken South Korean ferry, Captain Lee Joon-seok, and three crew members were indicted with homicide charges on Thursday. Prosecutors are saying that they were negligent and failed to protect more than 300 people. They could face the death penalty if convicted. Since the sinking one month ago, 284 bodies have been retrieved and 20 others are listed as missing. Only 172 people, including 22 of the ship’s 29 crew members, survived. Most of the victims were students from a high school near Seoul who were traveling to the southern tourist island of Jeju.

even make the list, although the report did say that we, uncouth Americans, are greater buyers of wine than the snobby French, who fell to number two on the list this year for wine sales. How much alcohol is consumed yearly? In the US it’s about 9.2 liters per capita (we have big kiddush cups). Worldwide, those who drink consume 17 liters of pure alcohol annually. That’s way too much, according to the WHO. “More needs to be done to protect populations from the negative health consequences of alcohol consumption,” said Dr. Oleg Chestnov, WHO assistant director-general for non-communicable diseases and mental health. “The report clearly shows that there is no room for complacency when it comes to reducing the harmful use of alcohol.” Could that mean an end to kiddush clubs?

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Which Countries are Way too Drunk?

So much for the term “drunken Irish.” The World Health Organization just released it stats for drinking in the world and a surprising list of the most imbibing nations. Numbers one through nine are all occupied by vodka swilling Eastern European countries. The leader is Belarus with Mother Russia coming in at four. Hungary takes spot number eight, with all that slivovitz added to the arsenal. Rounding out the list at ten is, of all places, Portugal. For all the Budweiser we consume during football season, the US did not

Terror attacks in Kenya are becoming more and more common. Two blasts hit Kenya’s capital last week, killing 10 people and injuring 70 more. The blasts came the same week the United States and the UK issued renewed warnings about possible terror attacks in Kenya, leading to an angry response from the country’s president, who said such warnings strengthen the will of terrorists. Nairobi Police Chief Benson Kibue, who announced the casualty figures, said two improvised explosive devices detonated in a market area near downtown Nairobi. One blast hit a minivan used for public transportation. Before the blasts, the U.S. embassy sent out a new travel alert to American citizens warning of a continued terrorist threat in a country where the U.S. Embassy suffered a devastating attack in 1998. An earlier U.S. warning recently said that the embassy itself is taking new steps to increase security “due to recent threat information regarding the international community in Kenya.” Britain’s government also warned its

1 in 4 Adults Are Anti-Semitic

The Anti-Defamation League’s largest-ever worldwide survey of anti-Semitic trends is both terrifying and eye-opening. The data revealed that 26 percent of the world, approximately 1.1 billion people, has deeply anti-Semitic views. More than 53,000 people were polled in 102 countries and territories, approximately 86 percent of the world’s population. Israel was not included in the survey.

“Our findings are sobering but, sadly, not surprising,” ADL National Director Abraham Foxman said at a news conference on Tuesday morning at ADL’s national headquarters in New York. “The data clearly indicates that classic anti-Semitic canards defy national, cultural, religious, and economic boundaries.” The survey evaluated anti-Semitism by asking whether respondents agreed with an index of 11 statements that the ADL believes suggest anti-Jewish bias: Jews talk too much about what happened to them during the Holocaust; Jews are more loyal to Israel than to the countries they live in; Jews think they are better than other people; Jews have too much power in international financial markets; Jews have too much power in the business world; Jews have too much control over global affairs; people hate Jews because of the way Jews behave; Jews have too much control over the U.S. government; Jews have too much control over global media; Jews are responsible for most of the world’s wars; Jews don’t care about what happens to anyone but their own kind. Respondents who answered that a majority of those statements are “probably true” were considered anti-Semitic. The most common stereotype among the surveyed was that Jews are more loyal to Israel than to their home country, a view held by 41 percent of respondents The survey also questioned respondents about their attitudes toward Israel. More than half of the respondents overestimated the number of Jews in the world. Interestingly, 74 percent of respondents admitted that they had never met a Jew, and 35 percent had never heard of the Holocaust. Of those who had, about one-third think it is either a myth or greatly exaggerated. Unsurprisingly, the most anti-Semitic region in the world is the Middle East and North Africa, with 74 percent harboring anti-Semitic views. Eastern Europe was the second most anti-Semitic at 34 percent. In Western Europe, the most anti-Semitic countries were Greece (69 percent) and France (37 percent). The least anti-Semitic countries were Australia and New Zealand at 14 percent. Roughly 49 percent of Muslims harbor anti-Semitic views, compared to 24 percent of Christians. The West Bank and Gaza are the most anti-Semitic regions surveyed, with 93 percent expressing anti-Semitic views. The Arab country with the lowest level of anti-Semitic views was Morocco (80 percent). Iraq ranked the most

anti-Semitic country in the Middle East (92 percent). Laos was ranked the least anti-Semitic country in the world, where only 0.2 percent of the population have anti-Semitic views. The Philippines, Sweden, the Netherlands, and Vietnam all came in at 6 percent or lower. Unfortunately, nine percent of Americans admitted to anti-Semitic feelings. There were relevant discrepancies within age groups. Interestingly, 34 percent of respondents older than 65 were deemed anti-Semitic, compared to 25 percent of those younger than 65. Men polled were slightly more anti-Semitic than women. “The ADL’s Global 100 index will serve as a baseline,” Foxman said. “For the first time, we have a real sense of how pervasive and persistent anti-Semitism is today around the world.” In the past, the ADL has been criticized for overplaying anti-Semitism. In response to those critics, Foxman said, “We frequently get accused of seeing anti-Semitism everywhere, and we’re very conscious about the credibility,” he said. “We were cautious, we were conservative, to understate rather than overstate.”

Israel Israel’s Train May be Vulnerable to Attack

A disturbing video seized by the IDF shows that Hamas may be planning missile attacks on the civilian train line that travels from Sderot to Ashkelon. The new train line and all the stations along the route were built with protection from missiles, but the video shows Hamas and other Palestinian organizations are monitoring the feasibility of an attack from certain lookout points very close to the PA border. Continued on page 20

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The Week Following a deadly 2011 attack on a school bus, in which terrorists fired rockets from behind wooded areas in Gaza, Israel has removed all shrubbery from areas that are vulnerable to rocket launches against trains and buses. The new train line, however, is still vulnerable to attacks from such areas. Israel Railways and the IDF Southern Command are currently working on a solution to protect the exposed train.

Turkish PM Puts on Anti-Semitic Show Recep Tayyip Erdogan, prime minister of Turkey, displayed strong anti-Israel and anti-Semitic behavior last week, and the media is not letting it slide. Last Thursday, Erdogan visited Soma in the wake of a catastrophic and trau-

matic mining accident. Rescuers tried to save more than 700 people, but only 450 were saved while nearly 300 others were killed in the explosion.

Erdogan has been minimizing the magnitude of this incident, outraging many citizens. Protesters expressed their outrage en masse across Turkey, claiming that Turkey’s mining conditions aren’t safe and blaming the accident on statewide negligence. A Turkish citizen approached Erdo-

In News gan and his security team. Apparently, the citizen said something that set off the prime minister. Erdogan responded with an anti-Semitic rant. “Why are you running away from me? Israeli!” he shrieked and then slapped the protester. This incident was caught on camera, and the video was uploaded to Sozcu TV. The footage later shows security forces beating the man. In an attempt to defend his government and downplay the catastrophe, Ergodan said, “Explosions like this in these mines happen all the time. It’s not like these don’t happen elsewhere in the world.” Violence seems to be prevalent in the land. The incident came the same day that Yusuf Yerkel, one of Erdogan’s advisers, was caught on camera in Soma kicking a protester held down by two Turkish soldiers. Witnesses say Yerkel got in three to four kicks as the

man lay on the floor. Rightfully so, the violent photograph ignited anger in Turkey and caused more protests. Israel offered their condolences after the mining incident and even offered to send a fully equipped Magen David Adom team to help at the site of the disaster. Despite their generosity, Erdogan lashed out at them. This isn’t the first hint of anti-Semitism we’ve seen from Erdogan. He has a long public record of anti-Semitic statements. In 1998, preceding his stint as prime minister, Erdogan notoriously stated that “the Jews have begun to crush the Muslims in Palestine in the name of Zionism. Today, the image of the Jews is no different than that of the Nazis.” More recently, Erdogan accused Israel of being behind the ouster of Egyptian Muslim Brotherhood leader Mohammed Morsi. Charming fellow.

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Israeli Men Live Longer Good news for all the Israeli men out there. Despite their precarious road habits, love of arguing, mandatory military service, and constant threat of attack,

But all is not well in the Holy Land. This year, Israeli women didn’t make the top ten list. However, in 2012, their life expectancy at birth was 84 years, which today puts them in a tie with Portugal, the country with the 10th-highest life expectancy for women. Japanese women have the highest life expectancy at 87 years, followed by Spain, Switzerland, and Singapore at 85.1 years. According to global averages, a baby boy born in 2012 will have an average life expectancy of 68.1 years, while a baby girl is expected to live 72.7 years. This is an overall increase of 6 years of life expectancy since 1990. Keep eating those sunflower seeds and chummus…

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Occupy Wall Street?! How about the ER?! A new report by the Bureau of Labor Statistics lists the highest paying jobs in America and it’s the doctors who seem to be making the big bucks these days. The number one paying job in America is an anesthesiologist, which pulls in an average annual salary of $235,070. The rest of the top five jobs—each making over $200,000—are surgeons, oral and

maxillofacial surgeons, OB/GYNs, and orthodontists. CEOs only come in at number eight on the list with an annual salary of a mere $178,400. (So how is Bill Gates so rich?) At the bottom of the heap comes fast food cook, whose wages are $9.07 hourly or $18,870 annually. Shampooers— who at least get to smell great—theater ushers, amusement park attendants, and farmworkers, whose benefits do not include anything olfactory, are a little better off with an hourly wage of $9.09. According to the BLS, “Most of the largest occupations were relatively low paying. Of the 10 largest occupations, only registered nurses, with an annual mean wage of $68,910, had an average wage above the U.S. all-occupations mean of $22.33 per hour or $46,440 annually. Annual mean wages for the rest of the 10 largest occupations ranged from $18,880 for combined food preparation and serving workers to $34,000 for secretaries and administrative assistants, except legal, medical, and executive.” Gosh, I knew I should’ve gone to Harvard Medical School when they offered me a scholarship!

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Two Israeli journalists were violently attacked by a masked Palestinian mob near Ramallah last Friday. Palestinian security officials in Beitunia had to rescue the reporter and photographer. After the episode, the Coordinator of Government Activities in the Territories, Yoav Mordechai, spoke to the head of the Palestinian intelligence in order to ensure security in the territory. Avi Issacharoff, one of two journalists attacked, writes in Hebrew for Walla News, an Israeli news site, and in English for Times of Israel. Issacharoff was accompanied by a cameraman colleague from Walla News with whom he was assigned to report about Nakba Day. When a few Palestinian journalists approached the cameraman and told him to leave, Issacharoff stepped in. “I walked towards them, and told them that if they had a problem, they should be talking to me. One of the Palestinian journalists, a young woman, then called over to a group of masked men, who swiftly surrounded me and began attacking me.” After the incident, Issacharoff wrote on his Twitter feed, “Was attacked and beaten by Palestinian mob. Near Ramallah. Just because I’m an Israeli journalist.” Issacharoff was “hit and kicked from behind [by] a mob of Palestinian masked men…I’m not prone to exaggeration. It was a case of life and death, and I was within moments of falling victim to the kind of lynch that saw two Israeli soldiers who strayed into Ramallah in 2000 beaten to death by a baying mob,” the reporter wrote on the Times of Israel website.

men in Israel have the fourth highest life expectancy in the world, according to the World Health Organization. The average Israeli man is expected to live to 80.2-years-old. First place in life expectancy was Iceland at 81.2, next was Switzerland at 80.7, followed by Australia at 80.5. Singapore, New Zealand, Italy, Japan, Sweden, and Luxembourg completed the top ten list.

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Republican gubernatorial candidates in Idaho this week debated in what turned into one of the most entertaining political events in recent memory. The sitting governor of Idaho, Republican Butch Otter, has three challengers: Russ Fulcher, a Republican state senator; Harley Brown, a veteran and leather-clad biker; and Walt Bayes, a homeschool activist who says he spent time in jail for his religious beliefs. Otter insisted that all of them have an opportunity to debate him. The tape has to be seen to fully appreciate it, but we compiled some highlights for you in case

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The Week you missed it. Brown’s opening statement started out strong: “Don’t think I’m crazy. Because I’m not.” Then Bayes introduced himself. “I went to jail for homeschooling,” he said. “I’ve got 77 descendants.” That’s when Brown really let loose. “A substantial portion of my political campaign is to campaign against political correctness,” he said. “Those ‘Harleyisms’ as I call them, I had a warning on there that you might find it offensive. I hit everybody: Jews, Polish people, Irish, Italians, religious jokes and black jokes.… We took the real hardcore zingers out.… I don’t like political correctness!” If you were wondering whether wolf hunting came up in the debate, here’s your answer: Of course it did! “I did kill a wolf,” Brown admitted. “While it was still an endangered species!” The moderators moved onto taxes, which prompted Brown to go on a rant about federal control of Idaho land. Said Brown: “The key is getting our land back from the feds. And here’s my plan of attack. The three best men for the mission are myself as governor, because

I’ve got a master. ... Here’s my plan of attack, OK? You go in there and you use spiritual warfare. Everybody talks about the natural, but I want to talk about the other realm we exist in. You bind those evil spirits that are behind the feds… Take air superiority and then roll in with your tanks on your ground…Blitzkrieg! He would have kept going but the moderator interrupted him: “Mr. Brown? The question was about taxes.” Politics at its best.

Mother and Daughter Reunite After 4 Years After being separated for four years, a Florida woman was reunited with her 12-year-old daughter this week. Jodie Borchert of Deltona, Florida, had not seen her daughter, Cara Cox, since she dropped off the girl with her father, Aaron Cox, for a weekend visit in 2009. Cox, 55, then abducted his daughter and fled the country, police said. Since 2009, police from the Volusia County Sheriff’s Office have searched for the pair but they had no solid leads.

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Her Graduation was a Bomb (Threat)

You shouldn’t need to graduate college to know to block your caller ID when phoning in a bomb threat. Danielle Shea of Quincy, MA, got herself into big trouble for calling in some threats before the Quinnipiac University commencement ceremony. The 22-year-old was in cap and gown at the graduation ceremony when her family members realized her name was not on the graduate roster. And for good reason: despite her mother paying for her education this year, Shea did not enroll herself in college. Sensing her gig was up, she called the university’s public safety department and claimed there was “a bomb in the library” in an attempt to have the ceremony cancelled and hide the truth about her lack of education. Despite not sitting in classes, she gets an “A” for persistence. Shea called a second time and said, “You haven’t cleared out graduation yet. That’s not a good thing.” It sure wasn’t a good thing for Danielle. Authorities were able to track her down by using the telephone number she called from. She was arrested and is

being held on $20,000 bail. Let’s hope mom pays for that.

Radical Islamic Cleric Found Guilty in US Court

Justice has finally been meted out on US soil for Abu Hamza al-Masri, the one eyed, hook-handed Muslim cleric who led a London mosque which was defined by hate. Jurors sentenced the preacher, whose followers included the shoe bomber, Richard Reid, 9/11 planner Zacarias Moussaui, and other terrorists, on all eleven counts brought against him in a Manhattan courtroom. The charges included helping terrorists in a kidnapping in Yemen, creating a training camp in Oregon, and sending recruits to train for terror in Afghanistan. Jury foreman Howard Bailynson said outside court: “I feel he got a fair trial. There is no doubt about that.” Al Masri is known for wearing intimidating hooks in the place of his missing limbs. Previous reports have claimed that he lost his eye and hands while fighting the Soviets in Afghanistan, but al Masri claimed they were lost while he was a civil engineer in Pakistan. While he was allowed to keep them on while serving prison time in London, in the US he was forced to remove them. He is famous for his fiery and skillful hateful sermons at the Finsbury Park Mosque in London, and he brought that skill to the witness stand in court. “He’s a skilled orator so that played into his ability to provide testimony,” said Bailynson. “Preaching is in his core. That’s who he is. It gave him time to answer questions.” What jurors found very unsettling was al Masri’s cavalier attitude toward the events of 9/11. Prosecutors replayed a tape of the cleric telling a Canadian TV host, “Everybody was happy when the planes hit the World Trade Center. Anybody who tell [sic] you he was not happy, they are hypocrites for the Muslim nation.” Jurors found his remarks “clearly disturbing.” US Attorney Preet Bharara hailed the verdict which came just weeks after a conviction of Osama bin Laden’s son-inlaw. “Abu Hamza attempted to portray himself as a preacher of faith, but he was

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ed Republican Del. Larry Kump in the Eastern Panhandle primary. Kump is nearly four times her age. “Quite frankly, she out-campaigned me,” said Kump, 67, finishing his second House term. “It was a low voter turnout election, and she won.”

High School Student Enters Politics Anyone can get into politics if they really want to. Saira Blair, a 17-year-old from Charleston, West Virginia, has taken the GOP primary and is on her way to becoming the youngest state lawmaker in West Virginia history. Blair’s birthday is in July, so she will meet the minimum age requirement for West Virginia House of Delegates members. Seventeen-year-olds who turn 18 by the November election can vote in West Virginia’s primary. According to unofficial results, the teenager unseat-

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In 1960, Americans were saving 10 percent of their annual salary. Today, the personal savings rate has dwindled to a mere 3.8 percent. It turns out that some cities are more interested in saving than others. The Bureau of Labor Statistics has compiled a list of which cities have more dough squirreled away. The best city to find such a “savings opportunity” is Baltimore. That’s because the metro area’s median after-tax income outpaces its typical expenses by more than $2,000 per month, after accounting for both essential and discretionary expenses. Coming close behind was Washington, D.C., with a savings opportunity of $1,664 monthly. “We hear median income has been stagnant, while the cost of living in America’s biggest cities has continued to go up,” noted Mike Sante, managing editor of Interest.com. The study considered the median cost of living in greater metropolitan

areas. So, the New York City figure, which ranked 10th with a monthly savings opportunity of about $500, doesn’t just include the sky-high cost of living in Manhattan but also considered lower-priced areas such as Queens and Suffolk County. If families in many of the country’s largest cities should have hundreds left over each month, why is the personal savings rate so low? Sante said he believes consumers are increasing their spending to eat up all of their income, partly because what’s considered “essential” today is far different from what people wanted in the 1960s. “Families allow their spending to grow until it consumes every cent that they make,” he said. And because money is relatively cheap – with mortgage and auto loans hovering at about 4 percent – some consumers are tempted to trade up for more expensive cars and houses, he pointed out. If consumers are serious about saving, they should take a hard look at the most expensive items in their lives, which are typically are their homes and cars, Sante noted. His advice: If you get a raise at work, don’t trade up for a more expensive house or car. Instead, sock away that extra money. Skipping your Starbucks latte won’t get you as far as being frugal on these big items, he said. “When you get the mindset, you will take that raise and invest it in yourself,” Sante added.

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The NYPD is in a heated legal battle over its use of Muslim informants in terror threat investigations. The unit that tracked everyday activities of Muslims in NYC has been disbanded, but the lawsuit rages on. Muslim groups filed a civil rights lawsuit last year asking a federal judge to declare the surveillance unconstitutional and halt the program. But city lawyers Continued on page 30

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war in Afghanistan, as well as financial records from the mosques and the charity, including names of donors. The plaintiffs say the city is unjustly seeking private information. Disclosure of records from the mosque and the charity “would further alienate and chill congregants, members, donors and donees [sic] ... and thereby infringe on plaintiffs’

right to free exercise, free speech and associational privacy,” their lawyers wrote in court papers in late March. The court fight is reinforcing skepticism about pledges by Democratic Mayor Bill de Blasio and NYPD officials to be more sensitive than the previous administration to concerns about surveillance. Last month, the nation’s largest

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police department announced it had disbanded the Demographics Unit, a team of detectives assigned to create databases tracking where Muslims lived, shopped, worked, and prayed. Civil rights advocates, however, noted that the department wasn’t committing to abandoning a practice adopted after the September 11th attacks – using Muslim informants to try to detect and thwart terror threats.

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The Week years. The FBI and other authorities seized computers, cash and weapons and arrested 80 people involved with the BlackShades malware activity. The agency also seized over 1,900 domain names. The virus has been sold to thousands of people across the world and has affected over 500,000 computers. It allows a hacker to take over his victims’ computers. In a recent case, 2,000 computers in the Netherlands were taken over by an 18-year-old man, who used them to take pictures of women and girls unaware. The raids involved searches of 359 homes in 16 countries, said Eurojust, the EU’s judicial cooperation agency. In the US, Alex Yucel was brought as a defendant. Yucel owned and operated the BlackShades organization under the online name “marjinz.” He ran the operation as a business, with a director of marketing, a website developer, a customer service manager and a team of customer service representatives who answered complaints submitted online, U.S. authorities said. BlackShades has generated over $350,000 in revenue over the past few years.

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A 42-year-old man from Tupelo, MS, has been sentenced to 25 years after an elaborate plot to frame his friend, which included sending poison letters to the president, went awry. James Everett Dutschke was sentenced by U.S. District Judge Sharion Aycock in Aberdeen after telling the judge on May 13 that he had changed his mind about wanting to withdraw his guilty plea in the case. Dutschke sent letters with ricin poison to President Obama, Republican U.S. Sen. Roger Wicker, and Mississippi judge Sadie Holland in an attempt to frame a rival, Paul Kevn Curtis. The letters were intercepted before reaching Obama and Wicker; Holland was not harmed when

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Treasury notes worth somewhere between $1 million and $5 million. Their assets also include Vanguard retirement funds and college savings plans. Profits from Obama’s books, Dreams from My Father, The Audacity of Hope, and Of Thee I Sing, totaled between $70,000 and $165,000. In 2011, they totaled between $250,000 and $2.1 million. The Obamas also have a 30-year mortgage on their Chicago home worth somewhere between $500,000 and $1 million with an interest rate of 5.625 percent.

Obamas Worth Millions According to financial disclosure forms released last Thursday, the Obamas reported assets worth somewhere between $1.8 million and $7 million for last year. The forms are required by law but allow public officials to list their assets in broad ranges. The largest jointly owned assets by the president and the first lady were

Last month, America’s “first couple” released their 2013 tax returns and reported paying $98,169 in taxes on their $481,098 adjusted income.

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What does it take to make tons of the report revealed. dough? The study revealed that bilIt’s not just the school that hones the . Quality . Service Comfort lionaires as a group are very highly ed- wealthy. Many billionaires majored in ucated and smart. Roughly one third of STEM fields: science, technology, engithe world’s billionaires attended elite neering, or math. The study didn’t use schools. Even within the elite crew, the official IQ stats but instead based their billionaires with larger estates were more estimates on attendance to top universilikely to have gone to an Ivy League ties. school. “The average net worth of those Harvard is the top billionaire-making that attended an elite school was signifi- school. Among U.S. billionaires, more cantly higher than those who did not,” than 1 in 10 went to Harvard. Globally,

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The Week change now. A New Hampshire town commissioner was forced to resign after hurling slurs at the president. Robert Copeland, 82, resigned Sunday night from the post to which he was re-elected in March, resort town Wolfeboro Board of Selectmen Chair Linda Murray said. His degrading comments against President Obama and the ensuing controversy sparked national attention. “The town is pleased,” Murray said Monday. “This gives us the opportunity to move on. We are a very accepting community that really takes care of each other.”

A resident had heard Copeland using a racial slur to describe President Barack Obama. Shortly after, the commissioner commented, “I believe I did use the [inappropriate] word in reference to the current occupant of the Whitehouse,” in an April email sent to two other commissioners. “For this, I do not apologize — he meets and exceeds my criteria for such.” “I thought it was disgusting, and the

way he justified it, it was even more disgusting,” said Ernie Bauer, a 64-year-old carpenter. “It was disgusting 50 years ago.” Some residents, however, have defended Copeland’s right to free speech. Jane O’Toole, the resident who sparked the controversy, said of his resignation, “I feel it was the right thing for him to do to stop this incredible train that had been blowing through our town. I’m thrilled. The people of Wolfeboro have stood up and said that this is not acceptable.” Mitt Romney, who owns a house in Wlofeboro, commented, “The vile epithet used and confirmed by the commissioner has no place in our community.” Murray, the chair of the board, has a biracial son who has also been the object of racism. “It also gave me an understanding as to why the children think it’s OK,” she said. “When you’re held in office, and you decide to become an elected official, you represent something higher than your own standards and your own things, and you need to stand up for the community in which you serve.”

Wisconsin Town Owes Uncle Sam The town of Madison, Wisconsin, needs a better accountant.

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That’s Odd Do Yoopers Eat Turduckens? The city just reached an agreement with the Internal Revenue Service to pay back $580,000 for failing to report some life insurance benefits as income for city employees. “We discovered [the error] over the past year-and-a-half and calculated the impact,” said city finance director David Schmiedicke. “When we fully understood the federal tax law in this area, we reached out to the IRS.” According to the IRS, employees can purchase life insurance policies of up to $50,000 pre-tax. The employee gets the benefit of using tax-free dollars, and the employer gets a reduction on some of its payroll taxes owed for Social Security and Medicare. However, any premiums exceeding $50,000 are supposed to be reported as income for tax purposes. Scmiedicke admitted that the city failed to do that for about 2,200 employees for

What’s up, Yankee? Da “Yoopers” who reside in the Lake Superior region have finally had their nickname christened in Merriam Webster’s Dictionary. Yoopers are known for their distinct manner of speaking and their Scandinavian roots. “People up here, we really do have our own identity and our own culture,” Steve Parks, the prosecutor in Delta County, Michigan, said. “We’re a really hardy bunch. We love the land, we love the lakes, we love hunting, we love fishing. You have to be very resilient to live up here.” Peter Sokolowski, a lexicographer and editor-at-large for Merriam-Webster, claims that Yooper is no longer just a regional term; it has become used all over. “Plus, it’s just a really colorful word,” he said. Other new words added to the dictionary this year include: spoiler alert, hashtag, selfie and tweep (all spawned by our love for social media), and turducken, a John Madden favorite turkey/ duck/chicken Thanksgiving trifecta. Then there’s freegan, one who scavenges for free food in store and restaurant trash bins as a way to reduce consumption of resources. “It’s a young word, from 2006,” Sokolowski said. “It’s one of the youngest in this list. This kind of environmentalism was a Lone Ranger type of activity before but has taken off.” And even though Webster’s seems a bit slow on the finish—Oxford already gave “selfie” the term of the year award last year—they don’t feel too bad. “One of the most important things we have to watch is the trendiness of language,

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Going Bananas for Bananas

If you thought paying six bucks for some raw fish rolled in seaweed and rice was enough of a reason to think people in Japan are nuts, wait till you see the price tag on the Gokusen banana, a limited edition banana sold at the Takashimaya department store in Tokyo. Dole Japan has wrapped each serial-numbered banana in a special gift box and put them on sale for a mere $5.39 a pop. So why should someone be going “bonsai” over this fruit? According to Dole, the banana is the product of special breeding by scientists using over 100 different types of bananas and is grown at a highly secret location at 500 meters above sea level, which apparently is ide-

al for banana growing. The “ultimate” banana is 36.5 percent sweeter, 33.4 percent more fragrant, and 40 percent better textured than conventional bananas. But before you hop on the next Air Japan nonstop to Tokyo, beware: there are only 59 of these bananas for sale. “The name of these bananas is ‘Gokusen,’ with the character for ‘goku’ referring to ‘extreme’ or ‘culmination,’ and the character for ‘sen’ referring to ‘compilation.’ Since they were released on May 9 (5/9), the event is a Japanese pun: the number five is ‘go’ while the number nine is ‘ku,’” a Japanese newspaper explained. Yes, they go bananas over their bananas in Japan.

Dancing on James Garfield’s Grave

In News cigarettes, lost a T-shirt and downed a bottle of Fireball cinnamon whiskey before making off with thirteen commemorative spoons from Garfield’s inauguration. “We were like, really? They took spoons?” Katherine Goss, the president of the Cleveland-based Lake View Cemetery, said. The spoons, Goss said, “would be hard to sell in a historical auction because everyone would wonder where they came from.” The vandals also left behind other, more important memorabilia—even money that was in a collection box. This all leads investigators to speculate that the spoons were just pilfered in order to prove that the vandals actually gained entry inside the tomb. They say when you’re gone you can’t take anything with you—even the silverware.

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Poor James Garfield; he was only president for 200 days until he was assassinated and now, even, in death, his tomb is host to some wild parties. An unidentified vandal or vandals broke into President Garfield’s tomb, smoked some

A woman in Texas didn’t need to go to the hardware store to get a snake for her bathtub drain; it found its way into her bathtub on its own. Veronica Rodriguez of College Station, Texas, told the Eagle newspaper that after hearing some strange noises coming from her bathroom, she discovered an enormous twelve-foot African python lounging in her tub. Rodriguez, who owns three guinea pigs, initially thought her pets were making the nois-

es, but, “as soon as I turned on the light, that’s when I saw it,” Rodriguez said. “It was crawling into my tub.” After calling 911, an officer showed up with a brown paper bag to contain the snake. “I told him, ‘You’re going to need a bigger sack than that,’” Rodriguez said. “No one believed me that the snake was that big. I didn’t know what I was going to do with a snake that large.”

In the end, it took two policemen and one animal control officer to coax the reptile into a city trash container. “It was pretty aggressive,” Gonzales said. “It definitely didn’t want to go into the trash can.” She believes the snake slithered into her house through an open back door. What a sneaky thing.

Fillin’ in the Holes

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and smells, but it was the only couch that fit the right dimensions for our living room.” The $20 couch was just a lumpy and uncomfortable addition until Reese Werkhoven noticed a zipper on the bottom cushion. The contents inside was an envelope with hundred and fifty dollar bills.

“So we pulled it out of the couch. And we’re freaking out, we’re shaking,” Werkhoven said. “The most money I’d ever found in a couch was like 50 cents. Honestly, I’d be ecstatic to find just $5 in a couch.” Werkhoven and his roommates, Russo and Callie Guasti, kept searching and found a lot more envelopes with cash, totaling over $40,000. They were just beginning to dream about the boat they were going to splurge on when a deposit slip turned up among

In News the money. It belonged to a 91-year-old woman who didn’t trust conventional banks, only her couch. Her children donated the old piece of furniture to the Salvation Army when she was hospitalized for a broken hip. The honorable students returned the money to its owner. They each received a $1,000 reward for their honesty and reported that the rightful owner was very grateful. “She said, ‘I feel like this is a gift from my husband, my husband’s looking down on me.’” I guess now they can get themselves some real furniture.

$570,000, but a strong auction showing brought the gavel down at a price well above any estimate. The blog Classic Diver says that the watch had been hidden away for several years.

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Another notable win at the auction was a Patek Phillipe from the early 20th century. It went for $1.34 million. Time is precious, let me tell ya.

Time to bring out the record books! A recent auction at Christie’s in Geneva netted a whopping $1.2 million for a luxury wristwatch. The most expensive Rolex to ever be sold is a 1949 Oyster Perpetual model with a cloisonné enamel dial. It was designed by artist Marguerite Koch and features a ship sailing through rough seas on the dial. Christie’s originally estimated that the watch would go for as little as

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At the 21st Annual Hasmoda Program in Yeshiva of Far Rockaway, dedicated to the memory of Rabbi Yisroel Meir Heiman, Rochel Brafman, Meir Aryeh Blum, Binyomin Tzvi Berger & Aaron Moshe Schreiber. The program is run by Rabbi Aaron Brafman and talmidim from all neighborhood yeshivas attend.

Madraigos Community Program with Dr. Jeremy Coplan, Achiezer, & Tova This past Thursday evening, May 8th, tremendous inroads were made in the community when key local organizations, all focused on mental health— together. These organizations partnered to help local families tackle difficult parenting challenges to better understand and more importantly, recognize, possible “red flags” in the behaviors of their children. Parents had the rare opportunity to hear from Dr. Jeremy D. Coplan, world renowned psychiatrist and Professor of Psychiatry at Downstate University, as well as a panel of local mental health professionals including Dr. Brucha Lowinger, PsyD, Mental Health Department Coordinator at Achiezer, Mr. Yehuda Klinkowitz, LMSW, Program Director at TOVA Mentoring, and Moshe A. Yachnes, LMSW, Clinical Director at Madraigos. Participants walked away more educated and inspired to be proactive in treating their children’s mental health issues, if necessary. “One of the main objectives of this program was to launch a discussion to help parents clarify the most common questions I face; ‘When do I seek professional intervention for my child?’ ‘Am I over-reacting?’ ‘Should I wait and see what happens?’” explained Rabbi Dov Silver, Founder and Executive V.P. of Madraigos. “If this panel of highly regarded professionals helped parents navigate these issues in a supportive environment, it was certainly worthwhile.” The program, generously sponsored by Ushi and Cirri Shafran, opened with inspiring remarks by Moshe A. Yachnes. He warmly welcomed the audience and focused on the motivation as parents to go beyond natural limits and do whatever possible to help their children find inner happiness and reach their fullest poten-

topics. Dr. Coplan has a unique perspective that is very different from many psychiatrists. While he is involved on an educational level, supervising medical students who analyze data and conduct research, he also maintains Dr. Jeremy Coplan at podium, seated (L – R) Mr. Moshe A. Yachnes, a very successful Mr. Yehuda Klinkowitz, Dr. Brucha Lowinger private practice. tial. He explained that this super-human He is able to personally see how cutting love is the ultimate incentive to overcome edge research and new information actuthe burden of time, emotional energy, ally affects patients and their families. and stigma associated with consultation The program ended with a lively with a mental health professional. The Q&A session, where participants had audience was duly impressed not only the opportunity to ask important queswith the professionalism with which Mr. tions pertaining to their individual situYachnes led the forum, but with his great ations. On one occasion, Yehuda Klinsensitivity to the families facing these kowitz helped parents better understand complex issues. and cope with the enormous impact the Dr. Coplan began his presentation by media has on our children. On another clearly describing a broad range of potential mental health challenges. He detailed all the major categories including depression, ADD/ADDHD, OCD, and bi-polar disorder and explained how many of the biggest mental-health challenges can be therapeutically treated if addressed appropriately. His discussion included all variations of psychiatric presentations and recommended possible interventions directly associated with each one. “Dr. Coplan’s ability to stimulate an interactive conversation was truly remarkable,” noted a participating parent. His scope of medical knowledge and understanding of our cultural norms helped create an enjoyable atmosphere while leading informative conversation on serious, complex

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Judea and Samaria 20 Years Later One Israel Fund Commemorates 20 Years at Gala Celebration on June 9th By Mordechai Kastlebaum Dateline: Oslo, September 1993 Diplomats from across the globe meet in Oslo, Norway. A historic document is about to be signed. The Oslo Accords were indeed historic, but not for the reasons that its well-meaning proponents had expected. Rather than ushering in a peace that so many politicians had naively promised, it gave license to our enemies to increase their hateful violence against the people of Israel. History will mark that day – September 13, 1993 – as the watershed moment that began the period of nearly continuous violence that characterized the following 15 years. It also opened the floodgates for the rise of anti-Semitism, especially in Western Europe, where it had been on the decline for the prior half century. Dateline: Judea and Samaria, October 1993 After Oslo, the situation looked bleak in Judea, Samaria and Gaza. From Kedumim in the north to Hevron in the south, from Elon Moreh in the east to Hashmonaim in the west, huge swathes of historic Jewish land were set to be amputated from Israel forever. The faithful residents in these areas had toiled for years to build homes and communities but now it looked as though their very future was going to be swapped for a fantasy of peace. The mood after Oslo was very dismal. Dateline: Gaza, August, 2005 The Israeli government, bowing to international pressure and compromising its national security interests, completes the Disengagement from the Gaza Strip. The move was applauded by pundits and politicians everywhere. Disengagement, goodwill gestures, unilateral concessions…the newly-coined terms were thrown about as if they were addressing

a third-grade playground argument. They spoke with Israel’s “best interests” in mind. This was the only path to true peace. Sadly, the residents of Sderot, Eshkol, and cities as far as Ashkelon and Ashdod are enjoying the new “peace” from the comfort of their bomb shelters. Another air-raid siren pierces the air, another frightening 15-second-maximum dash to the nearest bomb shelter, another day in the life of the residents of southern Israel. Over 8,000 residents were thrown out of their homes in Gaza and four more communities in the Northern Shomron, their towns were bulldozed and destroyed, our rightful homeland of thousands of years was willfully handed to our avowed enemies… and what does Israel have to show for it? Not friendly neighbors. Not security or peace of mind. Not better relations with Europe. Not increased support among the public. And certainly not peace. Sadly, Gaza has taught us that capitulation never pays. Dateline: Judea, Samaria and Gaza, November 1993 Let’s turn back to 1993. It was in those dire post-Oslo moments that One Israel Fund entered the scene. Led by fierce lovers of Israel, it brought a bold, ambitious, and almost unfathomable mission to counter the grim prospects for Judea and Samaria, and in those days, Gaza. Armed with conviction (and a healthy dose of Israeli chutzpah), these visionaries began a grassroots effort to challenge the recently ratified accords by dramatically transforming the facts on the ground in the cities and villages of YESHA (Judea, Samaria and Gaza). Their logic was simple... a town of 50 families is easily dispensable at the negotiating table. Diplomats would barely think twice about of-

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fering it to our Arab enemies. A thriving city of 500 families, on the other hand, is a force to be reckoned with, and would prove to be much more secure during “negotiations.” And so, they set out to build. They reached out to caring supporters across North America and urged them to pour money into vulnerable communities of YESHA. They sought to enable them to grow and prosper, to attract young new blood and build vibrant communities, to massively strengthen the Jewish roots that had been there for millennia... and ultimately, to make it impossible for politicians to hand away such burgeoning towns and cities. To accomplish this, they would need to build infrastructure and reinforce security, offer humanitarian and religious aid, and bolster medical and social services to local residents. It was a massive undertaking, but they were not deterred. Many people were incredulous in those early days, doubting that anyone would be willing to live in YESHA with its uncertain future. But some understood the far-sightedness of the strategy and joined the movement from day one. Dateline: Judea and Samaria, May, 2014 Here we are 20 years later. 20 years of tireless efforts. 20 years of incredible investment of resources and manpower. 20 years of remarkable resilience and devotion by tens of thousands of pioneering men and women. 20 years of efforts have returned enormous growth throughout YESHA. On these 40 square kilometers of ancient land, cities have grown, families have set up homes, and a glorious Jewish presence permeates the air… everywhere! The work of One Israel Fund combined with other heroic partners has completely transformed the landscape

of Judea and Samaria. A land that consisted of a modest population of 75,000 in 1993 is now the proud home of nearly 400,000 residents. Now that’s growth! Over $30 million dollars has been invested in preventive security and infrastructure to build and secure over 140 communities in the area. This includes building schools and community centers, installing and maintaining high-tech preventive security systems, training and equipping first responders, purchasing and refitting armored ambulances and security vehicles, building playgrounds and respite centers… and the list goes on and on! It is due to this highly targeted investment that YESHA has become not only viable, but an attractive place for people to set up homes and raise families. 20 years ago, only a few courageous pioneers would have even dreamed about living under the dangerous conditions that plagued towns like Itamar. Today, this community, and countless others like it, are undergoing continuous growth and new families are building homes in thanks to One Israel Fund’s ongoing investments in security and community development. The impact has been felt by the former residents of Gaza as well. While so many seemed to turn their back on these forlorn families, One Israel Fund immediately set out to assist them in any way possible. From educational scholarships, career retraining, summer camps and Chanukah toys for the children, to new synagogues, libraries and community centers, olive groves and other agricultural grants – One Israel Fund was with them in Gaza and then, following Disengagement, from their tent cities to their new beginnings in areas throughout Israel. One Israel Fund even went into Gaza to dismantle its own playgrounds and had them rebuilt in the new communities. Most have forgotten but not One Israel Fund. Though Israel is experiencing a relative calm from violence, let’s not fool ourselves into believing that Oslo’s impact is not still felt today. Today, the weapons of choice have become politics,

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public opinion, and world perception in addition to the bombs and machine guns of the previous decade, which still continue unabatedly. The latter is certainly deadly, but the former is perhaps even more dangerous due to its deceptive and seemingly innocuous tactics. Anti-Israel activists are increasingly sophisticated in their efforts to delegitimize Israel and its government, and disenfranchise its supporters. This is particularly true on college campuses across the United States. Virtually an entire generation of young people, who

would have otherwise formed the nucleus of future supporters of Israel, is being indoctrinated with a distorted worldview that paints Israel as an aggressor and occupier against the innocent, peace-loving Palestinian people. This is the new Intifada – one that has added Facebook and hashtags to its arsenal of Molotov Cocktails and grenades. Leading the charge is the BDS movement whose frightening rise in popularity only serves to embolden our enemies as they gleefully watch an Israel that is isolated further and further… all without the blood and gore of the previous Intifada. To address this, One Israel Fund is leading the way by spreading awareness and truthfulness through its grassroots efforts both here and in Israel. It organizes trips to YESHA, where packed busloads of tourists, rabbis and politicians learn first-hand about the real facts on the ground and come away as supporters and strong advocates for Israel, YESHA, and its residents. That is why its mission is Marc Provisor of One Israel Fund giving out basic lifesaving kits even more important today

than it was 20 years ago. So much has been accomplished yet so much more can and must be done. If anything has been learned over the past 20 years, it is that strength, resilience, and truth will prevail. With the strong support of generous donors from abroad, YESHA will continue to grow and prosper for years to come. To mark the momentous 20th year since its inception, One Israel Fund will celebrate with a gala Anniversary Dinner on June 9th at the Tribeca Rooftop in New York City. To headline its banner roster of honorees at the event, the organization will bestow its prestigious Shomer Yisroel Award upon the Honorable Alan Baker, former Israeli Ambassador to Canada, co-author of the Levy Report and outspoken defender of the Land of Israel. Mr. Baker’s sterling record of accomplishments during his tenure as ambassador is widely recognized throughout the diplomatic field, while his unshakable support for the Jewish State has led to Canada emerging as one of Israel’s staunchest supporters in the International arena. His legal expertise as one of the three appointees by Prime Minister Benjamin Netanyahu for work on the, now famous, Levy Report, proved invaluable in providing the legal basis for Israel’s

right to build and live in the areas of Judea and Samaria. Ambassador Baker is one of the leaders in fighting for Israel in this new battlefield arena. It is an honor and a privilege to recognize the work of such an upstanding individual. Several other important figures will also be honored at the event, including One Israel Fund Board Member Sarita and Ben Greszes of Great Neck and Manhattan; Doreen and Dr. Matt Skolnick of Dix Hills, Long Island; Danit and Aaron Zerykier of Cedarhurst; and Merissa and Craig Shapiro of Kew Gardens Hills. Their significant contributions on behalf of One Israel Fund will be celebrated at the gala event but it is also the grassroots support throughout the country which will be on display as One Israel Fund pays tribute to the two decades of success on behalf of our ancestral homeland and its dynamic pioneers who live there. From the days of Abraham and Sarah, Yitzchak and Rivkah, and Jacob and Rachel and Leah to today’s modern day chalutzim, the areas of Judea and Samaria have always been our Biblical Heartland. This is the one evening to come out in support of our ancestral homeland. For information about joining in this momentous occasion, please visit www.oneisraelfund.org/dinner or call 516.239.9202.

Focusing on the Good Focusing on the positive and appreciating all the good one has is the secret to happiness in life and in marriage. While some people naturally focus on the good, most people need to work at developing this quality. In marriage, developing this trait of focusing on the good in one’s spouse can actually change the entire dynamic of the relationship. There are a number of exercises that are commonly suggested to help a person gain an appreciative outlook towards his spouse. This article will detail three powerful exercises. If done properly, each one can contribute a lot towards this goal.

The first exercise is to write a “take for granted list.” In this exercise, a person lists at least 15 things that their spouse does for them on a regular basis that they normally take for granted and don’t usually express appreciation for. Some common examples are going to work each day, taking care of the house, taking out the garbage, doing the grocery shopping, paying the bills or preparing supper. A person should then take the list they wrote, and for the next fifteen days, thank their spouse for one thing each day. The second suggested exercise is to keep a “gratitude journal.” In this journal, each night a person writes down ei-

ther one nice thing their spouse did for them today or one reason that they are grateful to be married to their spouse. In addition to the nightly writing, each night a person should read one past journal entry. The writing causes one to focus on the positive and the reading reinforces that feeling of appreciation. The third idea is to list in writing all the traits that you appreciate about your spouse, starting with those that you noticed while you were still dating and continuing with those that you noticed as time went on. Review this list often and add to it as you notice more things. This week, make a commitment to view your spouse through “gratitude

glasses” by trying one (or all) of the exercises suggested. May these efforts result in you and your spouse experiencing increased happiness both in marriage and in life as you develop the trait of focusing on the positive. Five Towns Marriage Initiative provides educational programs, workshops and referrals to top marriage therapists. FTMI will help offset counseling costs when necessary and also runs an anonymous shalom bayis hotline for the entire community Sunday, Tuesday and Thursday evenings, 9:30-11p.m. For the hotline or more information, call 516430-5280 or email dsgarry@msn.com.

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DRS Honors Students of Distinction Valedictorian Yitzie Scheinman is respected by his peers and the DRS staff for his hard work, intelligence and dedication. He is a National Merit Scholarship Finalist and the winner of a silver medal in the Science Olympiad. As a member of the National Honor Society Achdut Chapter, and an honoree at DRS’s Nedivei Lev Service Society Induction Ceremony, Yitzie epitomizes the balance of strong academics, ethical behavior and leadership that the honor society represents. Yitzie serves as Captain of the Debate Team, Varsity College Bowl, Science Olympiad, and Varsity Softball Team. He is also a member of the Mock Trial and Tennis Teams. He also serves as Editor-in-Chief of the school’s weekly Torah publication. Yitzie has also led the announcer team on DRS’s live broadcast of various sports games. Yitzie is rarely just a participant in an activity, he usually rises to become a leader. Whether it is academics, sports, or working in his shul, Yitzie takes his involvement to the highest level of dedication. Yitzie will be attending Yeshivat Shaalvim next year, followed

by the Yeshiva University Honors Program. Salutatorian Moshe Lonner is wellknown for his exceptional character. He uses his own work ethic and success to help others who struggle academically. By handing out his class notes, he encourages and motivates other students to do better in school. Moshe is captain of the Torah Bowl and Science Olympiad Teams. He is in charge of the Kulanu Mishmar program at DRS. Perhaps because of his quick wit and strong oratory skills, Moshe is often asked to speak at DRS public events and gatherings. A member of the National Honor Society Achdut Chapter and an honoree at DRS’s Nedivei Lev Service Society Induction Ceremony, Moshe’s accomplishments speak for themselves. As a finalist in the prestigious Jerusalem Science Contest in Astronomy and Forensics, Moshe earned third place in the United States and an educational trip to Israel. In his STEM class, Moshe created a sensor device that would recognize the motion of a child who is near a heated stove and would sound an alarm.

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He received several medals on the Science Olympiad Team, high scores on the Math and Debate Teams, recognition in the National Social Studies League, and fifth place in the Yeshiva University Bekiut Program. Moshe will be attending Yeshivat Kerem B’yavneh in Israel next year, and then will attend Yeshiva University in the Honors Program. Moishy Rothman was voted by his peers as this year’s Keter Shem Tov awardee. Moishy has been gifted with the ability to simplify difficult concepts so they can be easily understood. He tutors younger students in gemara, while serving as a true role model for them in his zeal and excitement for learning. Moshe participated in the Jerusalem Science Contest in Nuclear

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Science. Moshe also finished in fourth place among students around the country in Yeshiva University’s National Bekiut program. He demonstrates creative thought in a weekly article that he writes for the DRS Torah publication. Moshe’s academic record is outstanding and his commitment to his family and community is steadfast. He responds to challenges with a sense of purpose and he tackles obstacles with a strategic plan and much forethought. Above all, Moshe has been a pillar in the DRS Beit Medrash for his four years at Yeshiva, attending and leading night seder every night of the week. Moshe will be attending Yeshivat Kerem B’yavneh next year, and then Yeshiva University in the Honors Program.

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by their hosts and then visited different faculty members who held open houses. The students were able to bond with their teachers over snacks and games for a relaxing afternoon. Each grade then had Seudat Shlishit at the home of a different teacher. The students heard divrei Torah from the teachers as they munched on scrumptious homemade food. On Motzei Shabbat, the girls headed back to Rambam for a bonfire in honor of Lag B’Omer. They sang, danced, and roasted marshmallows to cap off a wonderful weekend!

Marriage Seminar Tour West: A Real Success On May 8th-18th, the Jewish community of Los Angeles was privileged to once again host Rabbi Ben Tzion Shafier of the Shmuz. Rabbi Shafier has a loyal following in LA, which was the latest stop on Rabbi Shafier’s ongoing “Marriage Seminar Tour.”

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SKA Lights up the Night: Lag B’Omer 5774 and shalosh seudot graced by Rabbi Aryeh Lightstone, culminated in a Lag B’Omer bonfire motzei Shabbat at the home of Mrs. Ralbag, their grade level advisor. Roasting marshmallows and spirited singing accompanied by 12th grader Nava Gross on the guitar ended Shabbat on a very high note. The 11th grade also had a bonfire and BBQ motzei Shabbat at the home of Mrs. Kaminetsky, SKA’s Director of Religious Guidance, with the added bonus of the music of the SKA Band. Divrei Torah from Mrs. Kaminetsky and Mrs. Mezei about thanking Hashem inspired the lively singing of the evening, with harmonies relating to “tov l’hodot l’Hashem.” “Light Up The Night” was the theme for the ninth grade’s event on motzei Shabbat and the hallways of SKA echoed with the sounds of laughter as the freshmen held a Glow in the Dark Scavenger Hunt. Searching for clues in

Gan Chamesh Celebrates Lag B’Omer with an Exciting Trike-a-Thon The children of Gan Chamesh, Chabad’s early childhood program, celebrated Lag B’Omer with an exciting, fun-filled Trike-a-Thon. They came to school with tricycles, bicycles, scoot-

ers and helmets. Every child enlisted sponsors to support their cycling. Clad in brightly colored Gan Chamesh shirts and with personally designed driver licenses hanging from their necks, the children pedaled and scooted furiously as they followed the delineated courses around Gan Chamesh. The sunny sky, the bright balloons swaying in the breeze, and the cheers of the spectators contributed to the excitement. Of course, the children adhered to the rules of traffic as they rode. When they crossed the finish line, they were rewarded with gold medals and traffic pop ices. The smiles of the children shined brightly as they enjoyed their well-deserved rewards for a job well done.

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Bonfires! Scavenger Hunts! Senior Shabbaton! Tisch! Lag B’Omer this year at the Stella K. Abraham High School for Girls was observed in a variety of ways, and each grade decided that their individual event was the best! The festivities began on Thursday night, May 15, when the sophomores gathered at the Fishman home in Woodmere for “TNT” (Thursday Night Tisch) where they dined on chulent, potato kugel and sushi. In the spirit of achdut, they watched a video produced by 10th graders Rachel Meyer and Samie Kirschner in which the girls noted their favorite memory of the year in SKA. Inspiring divrei Torah and animated singing rounded out the Lag B’Omer evening. The seniors, relishing one of their last weekends together as a grade, had a wonderful Shabbaton in Woodmere, notwithstanding the Friday night rain. An oneg at the Jacobson home

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all three buildings on the SKA campus, the girls, divided into teams, wore glow necklaces and bracelets and carried flashlights as they searched in the dark for clues. The moving kumsitz was the highlight of the evening; faculty members and students spoke of the unity of the grade and how girls from so many different elementary schools came together as friends and formed a solid connection. It was a beautiful way to

end a beautiful year. Thanks go to the Fishman, Jacobson, Kaminetsky, and Ralbag families for opening their homes and to Rabbi Zakutinsky, Director of Student Programming, Mrs. Storch, Ms. Bensoussan and all the grade level advisors and madrichot who planned and accompanied these remarkable programs. Celebrating Lag B’Omer was a truly bonding event for all of SKA!

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Riddle! Captain Frank and some of the boys were exchanging old war stories. Art Bragg offered one about how his grandfather led a battalion against a German division during World War I. Through brilliant maneuvers, he defeated them and captured valuable territory. After the battle he was presented with a sword bearing the inscription “To Captain Bragg for Bravery, Daring and Leadership. World War I. From the Men of Battalion.” Captain Frank looked at Art and said, “You really don’t expect anyone to believe that yarn, do you?” What’s wrong with the story? Answer on next page

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The commanding officer at the Russian military academy (the equivalent of a 4-star general in the U.S.) gave a lecture on potential problems in military strategy. At the end of the lecture, he asked if there were any questions. An officer stood up and asked, “Will there be a third world war? And will Russia take part in it?” The general answered both questions in the affirmative. Another officer asked, “Who will be the enemy?” The general replied, “All indications point to China.” Everyone in the audience was shocked. A third officer remarked, “General, we are a nation of only 150 million, compared to the 1.5 billion Chinese. Can we win at all, or even survive?” The general answered, “Just think about this for a moment: In modern warfare, it is not the quantity of soldiers that matters but the quality of an army’s capabilities. For example, in the Middle East we have had a few wars recently where 5 million Jews fought against 150 million Arabs, and Israel was always victorious.” After a small pause, yet another officer from the back of the auditorium asked, “Do we have enough Jews?”

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2. Who did the U.S. fight in the War of 1812? a. Mexico b. Spain c. France d. Britain 3. On June 6th, 1944, American troops invaded the beaches of Normandy during World War II. What country is Normandy in? a. France b. Japan c. Italy d. Poland 4. What was Woodrow Wilson’s campaign slogan when he ran for re-election in 1916? a. Peace, Progress, Prosperity b. Secure Our Homeland First c. Don’t Swap Horses in the Middle of the Stream d. He Kept Us Out of War 5. Which U.S. soldier was the highest ranking officer captured by North Korean troops? a. Major General William F. Dean b. Lt. General Levon D. Smeth c. Lt. General Jean McArthur d. Sergeant John McCain 6. In which war did the U.S. suffer the most deaths? a. World War II b. Vietnam War c. Civil War d. World War I 7. In World War II, who was the Supreme Commander of the Allied Forces who directed the D-Day invasion and

announced its start by saying, “OK, we’ll go”? a. Dwight D. Eisenhower b. George S. Patton c. Matthew B. Ridgway d. Douglas Macarthur 8. Which of the following was the U.S.’s longest war? a. Vietnam War b. World War II c. Revolutionary War d. War in Afghanistan Answer key: 1. C- In 1964, as the Civil War raged and thousands of soldiers were dying, the Union government needed a cemetery to bury its dead. The Union occupied Arlington, and the Arlington Estate of Confederate General Robert E. Lee was the most suitable property in the area. The property was high and free from floods, it had a view of the District of Columbia, and it was aesthetically pleasing. Denying Robert E. Lee’s use of his home after the war was also a valuable political consideration. 2. D- The War of 1812 is often considered to be the “forgotten war.” Some facts that were not forgotten: The White House and Capitol were burned to the ground during the invasion of Washington, D.C. First Lady Dolley Madison garnered fame for saving a portrait of George Washington before flames engulfed the president’s home. In 1814, Francis Scott Key wrote “The Star Spangled Banner” while watching the British bombardment of Fort McHenry in Baltimore Harbor. 3. A 4. D 5. A- On July 20, 1950, Major General Dean became separated from his men during battle. He hid alone in the woods around the countryside during the day and traveled at night for over a month. On August 25, 1950, after a hand to hand struggle with fifteen North Koreans, he was captured. General Dean had no contact with the outside world until he was interviewed on December 18, 1951 by an Australian, Wilfred Burchett, who was a correspondent for Le Soir, a French left-wing newspaper. This was the

first time that anyone had any idea General Dean was alive since being reported missing in action. He was released in 1953 and showered with military and civilian honors. General Dean, however, insisted he was no hero but “just a dogfaced soldier.” 6. C- 625,000 soldiers died in the Civil War, amounting to 1.988% of the total population of 32,000,000 American citizens. The second deadliest war was World War II, in which we lost 405,399 soldiers, amounting to .307% of the total population. 7. Plans were delayed for a couple days because of bad weather, until Gen. Eisenhower finally gave the order. 8. The Vietnam conflict between the C government of North Vietnam and its allies in South Vietnam, known as the Viet Cong, against the government of the South and its principal ally, the United States, lasted from 1954 through 1975. America’s direct military involvement was from 1965 to 1973. The second longest is the Afghanistan War, which started in 2001 and is still being fought. Wisdom key: 6-8 correct: You are a war buff! 3-5 correct: You are wishy-washy. You probably think the “Cold War” has something to do with a beer commercial. 3-5 correct: You dodged the intelligence draft.

Answer to riddle: World War I wasn’t called “World War I” until World War II.

1. What was the grounds of Arlington National Cemetery before it became a cemetery? a. It was Thomas Jefferson’s farm b. It was an army base c. It was Confederate General Robert E. Lee’s plantation d. It was a hunting grounds

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n Israel, just like the rest of the world, owners of real estate have to pay property taxes, which are used to support city administrative activities such as garbage collection and maintenance of parks and roads. In Israel, property taxes are called “arnona,” an ancient Greek word which has been in our lexicon for at least two thousand years (see Tractate Pesachim 6a). This term should not be confused with the Jerusalem neighborhood Arnona, which received its name thanks to its great views: on a clear day, one can see the Arnon River in Jordan which runs into the Dead Sea. In the United States, property taxes are determined based on the property’s value. In Israel, however, arnona payments are based on the property’s size. Determining the Size Different cities use different methods to calculate the size of apartments. The computation methods range from the most conservative extreme of only including the apartment’s net usable

space, all the way to the most far-reaching extreme of including not only the apartment and balcony space but also the unit’s portion of the common areas, including public stairwells and hallways, parking, storage, roof, garden, and even trash bin areas. (Don’t worry; parking and storage space are taxed at a lower rate.) Determining the Tax Rate After determining your apartment’s taxable size – based on your city’s arnona calculation method – the next step is to determine the arnona rate on a per square meter basis. Each city has a different tax rate, and the rates fluctuate greatly; for example, Beit Shemesh’s tax rate is about half of Jerusalem. Some cities have multiple districts, each with its own tax rate. In addition, some cities have different tax rates based on the size of the apartment. For example, in Jerusalem, there is one rate for units below 120 sqm and a higher rate for units that are above 120 sqm. To make matters even more complicated, in Jerusalem, different building types have different

tax rates. For example, the tax rate in a stucco-faced shikun building is lower than in a stone-faced building. One last twist: discounts are available to various demographics, including senior citizens, people with health-related issues or special needs, and indigent families. Future Changes? Jerusalem has historically used the most conservative measuring approach of only including net usable space, but there is currently a movement to expand the calculation method to include the apartments’ internal and external walls. Although this proposal is facing considerable resistance, there is a good chance that this broader calculation method will pass, as it will fill the city’s coffers in multiple ways. First, the average apartment will suddenly grow by about 10%, thus increasing taxes by 10%. In addition, many apartments are currently just below the 120 sqm threshold, and going above 120 sqm will raise the unit’s tax rate by about 20%. So not

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Thank you to Peretz Silverman, who – when I heard that he was researching his own tax bill – generously agreed to research and co-write this article. Gedaliah Borvick is the founder of My Israel Home (www.myisraelhome.com), a real estate agency focused on helping people from abroad buy and sell homes in Israel. To sign up for his monthly market updates, you may contact him at gborvick@gmail.com.

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A Museum Rises from the Ashes Remembering the Heroes of 9/11

The traumas of September 11, 2001 were unique to every person.

We found shelter in those who spoke confidently, with sure footing and a

Some watched the horror on their television sets out in Long Island; oth-

plan of action. The president’s pledge to bring those responsible for the ag-

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ast week, on May 15, at the opening of the National September 11th Memorial Museum, President Obama spoke about the profundity of the tribute on Ground Zero, “Here, at this memorial, this museum, we come together. We stand in the footprints of two mighty towers, graced by the rush of eternal waters. We look into the faces of nearly 3,000 innocent souls – men and women and children of every race, every creed, and every corner of the world.” The museum, a reminder and monument to the upheaval and damage felt that day and the weeks that followed, serves as a binding agent for everyone—those directly involved in the attacks, foreigners and even those who were unborn at the time—to reflect on the tragedy together. Despite our differences, we are all united in our sorrow and in our hope for the future. The museum, which is described as aesthetically spare, was designed by the firm Davis Brody Bond LLP, and delivers its powerful message through many simple artifacts which were recovered from the ruins—a stack of personal letters, a pair of shoes, a wallet, a wedding ring, even the ash-smothered jeans and t-shirts still hanging off their racks from the nearby Chelsea Jeans store. These all craft a narrative about the enormity of the lives lost and aid in their memory. Then there are the battered firefighter helmets on display, some so warped it is hard to imagine that they were designed to protect in the first place. Indeed, the museum’s curator had a difficult time in deciding what upper limit—if any—there should be for the exhibition. “We all had our different thresholds about what was the right thing to do,” curator Jan Ramirez said. “We want to remind people why 9/11 was unlike any other day the country has experienced. But we did not

want to cross a threshold where a visitor’s empathy shuts down. That would be a horrible misfire of our objectives.” Hence, the divided sections of the museum that are marked clearly in a cautionary manner, such as an alcove with famous, yet disturbing photographs. There is the separate section with unidentified human remains. But, it is the names of the 2,983 victims that are inscribed on 76 brass plates at the entrance to the World Trade Center site, arranged based on each victim’s location at the time of the attacks, which are most poignant. The plates form the edges of the two one-

morialized on the South Pool side, site S-50, age 24. A former volunteer firefighter who worked on the very top of the South Tower in a finance firm, Crowther’s heroism earned him the name, “the man in the red bandana,” the mysterious male who helped guide scared, huddled office workers on the 78th floor amid all the smoke and flames. “And then, there came a voice: clear, calm, saying he had found the stairs. A young man, in his 20’s, strong, emerged from the smoke and, over his nose and his mouth, he wore a red handkerchief. … He led those survivors down the stairs to safety and carried a

A stack of personal letters, a pair of shoes, a wallet, a wedding ring, even the ash-smothered jeans and t-shirts still hanging off their racks from the nearby Chelsea Jeans store. acre pools that fill the empty footprints of the towers, their cascading waterfalls meant to embody the void left by the loss of both the people and towers. At the entry pavilion to the fully underground museum are two of the tridents of the World Trade Center that gave it its distinct design and one of the museum walls is the “slurry wall,” the retaining wall that holds back the Hudson River and that had remained secure on 9/11.

ach brass inscription holds a story, most of which are unknown. And those which are known serve only as a quiet suggestion of what really happened that day. In his speech on Thursday, President Obama recounted the story of Welles Crowther, me-

woman on his shoulders down 17 flights,” the president said. “And then he went back.” Those he saved did not know his real identity until much later, when his mother, Allison, recognized from the story that it was indeed her son, who had walked around with his red bandana in his wallet since childhood, who had given his life for others. “For us he lives on in the people he helped and in the memory of what he chose to do that Tuesday in September,” she said. “When people come here and see Welles’ red bandana, they will remember how people helped each other that day, and they will be inspired to do the same.... This is the true legacy of September 11th.” Ling Young, one of the women Welles saved, also spoke at the

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dedication, saying simply, “I’m here today because of Welles, a man I did not get the chance to thank. It was hard for me to come here today, but I wanted to do so, so I could thank his parents, my new friends, Jeff and Alison.” Abe Zelmanowitz, hy”d, memorialized on the North Pool side, site N-65, was a computer programmer on the 27th floor of Tower One. With the elevators out and the stairs the only means to safety, Zelmanowitz stayed back to help reassure a quadriplegic friend,

don’t have a good feeling about today.” Benjamin told him to go back to sleep; it was the first day of school and he would need his rest. When his building was hit, Benjamin made sure that everyone in his company’s office was safely exiting the building before he made his own exit down the stairway. At the 78th floor, he paused to assist a woman in a wheelchair. He never made it out. An official at his company, Fiduciary Trust Company, would later credit him for saving hundreds of lives.

“We can touch their names and hear their voices and glimpse the small items that speak to the beauty of their lives.” Ed Beyea, until assistance came to carry him down. When smoke filled the office and it became difficult to breathe, he sent Beyea’s aide away to safety, knowing that he himself would likely not survive. The following Friday, at the National Cathedral, President Bush remembered the man who stayed behind to help his handicapped comrade. The two friends prayed together and died together; their names are now inscribed next to one another. Every September 11, precisely at midnight, Elsie Clark drapes a flag from her front yard fence with the following inscription: “In Loving Memory/ Benjamin Keefe Clark/ 9/11/01.” Her son, Benjamin, memorialized at the South Pool side, S-39, a father of five, was a chef on the 96th floor of the South Tower and a former Marine. At 4 am on the morning of September 11, as he was preparing to leave to work, his son, Taj, awoke and told him, “Dad, don’t go to work today, I

Leonard Hatton, memorialized at the South Pool side, S-26, was an FBI specialist in explosives and evidence recovery. On the morning of September 11, on his commute into Manhattan to the FBI’s Joint Bank Robbery Task Force office, he saw the flames and billowing smoke coming out of the towers. An experienced volunteer firefighter, Leonard abandoned his car near the Marriot hotel and rushed to the hotel’s roof for a better look. He radioed to his squad that people were jumping from the towers and rushed to aid the New York firefighters in the towers’ evacuation. Leonard was killed when they collapsed. “He didn’t have to go in. But that was his nature. That was truly his nature,” said his wife, JoAnne Hatton. “If he had gone to work, he would be here today. But I would have expected no less from him,” she said. Danny Lewin, hy”d, memorialized at the North Pool side, N-75, was a former captain in the elite IDF

unit, Sayeret Matkal, and graduate of the Technion Institute in Haifa. A brilliant mathematician, Lewin was cofounder of the internet powerhouse company, Akamai Technologies, and was named one of the most influential figures of the internet age. On September 11, Danny was onboard American Airlines flight 11 to Los Angeles when it was hijacked by five terrorists. Danny’s seat was 9B; hijacker Satam al Suqami was seated directly behind him in 10B. With his elite antiterror skills and fluency in Arabic, Danny was able to ascertain that a hijacking was underway. It is speculated that he tried confronting one of the hijackers who was sitting in front of him, only to be mortally stabbed by Suqami, who Danny was unaware had a seat directly behind him. Danny was the first fatality of the thousands that day. “Those who knew him feel like the world was robbed,” says Molly Knight Raskin, the author of No Better Time: The Brief, Remarkable Life of Danny Lewin, the Genius Who Transformed the Internet. “He was always searching for something greater.”

hile so many of us who suffered the traumas of that day will always live with its memory unsullied, the younger generation possesses no frame through which to memorialize the most harrowing events to ever encroach on their country; next year’s bar mitzvah class was born after the events of 9/11. It is only at a 110,000-square foot institution in lower Manhattan that, in the words of President Obama, “we can touch their names and hear their voices and glimpse the small items that speak to the beauty of their lives — a wedding ring, a dusty helmet, a shining badge. Here we tell their story so that generations yet unborn will never forget.”

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ing the ultimate measure of greatness. It is said in the name of the Gra that when a person leaves this earth, he will stand in front of the heavenly tribunal and be shown a picture. It is a picture of a great person. An individual who changed himself and changed the very world he lived in. And they say to this man, “Why isn’t that you?” “Me? Little me?” he responds. “You want me to be that great man? A talmid chacham. A tzaddik?” And they will answer, “That is you. That is you, had you lived up to your potential, had you become what you were destined to be.” The point is that they hold up a picture of that man. Not a picture of the Chasam Sofer. Not a picture of Rabbi Akiva Eiger. A picture of him. Based on his talents and abilities. Based on the times he was born into. The only question they ask is, “How much of his potential did he reach? How much of him did he become?’ This seems to be the answer to the Seforno. Surely, the generation that entered Israel had learned more Torah than did the generation that came before it. They were far greater Torah scholars. But they were born into it. From their youth, that’s all they knew. That was all that was important in their world — so of course they amassed great fortunes of Torah knowledge. The generation that left Egypt, however, didn’t have those advantages. They didn’t come to study Torah until late in their lives. Their growth required them to give up everything they had been exposed to. They had to leave behind the very world that they had known. So while objectively they may not have been on the same level, actually they were far greater — because based on where they had come from and the

level they reached, they had grown far more. This concept has a very practical application. I Can’t Respect My Father We live in amazing times, and one of its outgrowths is the baal teshuvah movement. Thousands of Jews brought up with nothing have returned to a Torah true life. Their sacrifices are huge, and their personal growth is extraordinary, as they leave behind everything to reclaim the heritage of their fathers. They then marry and bring up the next generation, and their children, who enjoy a yeshiva education, often the rank amongst the finest bnei Torah. And wondrous though this is, it sometimes creates a disparity. You see, as intelligent as the parents may be, they began their Torah education late in life. And while their sincerity may be impressive, their skills and actual knowledge is often lacking. Their children, on the other hand, attend the fin-

est yeshivas, and from a tender young age are steeped in Torah learning and mitzvos. It can happen that by 6th grade, the child knows more than the parent. As the child matures, the gap widens and this may lead him to look down at his parents with an attitude of, “My father, he’s a good guy and all that, but what does he know? He’s an am ha’aretz. (ignoramus).” This Seforno may be a guiding light on this issue. What we see is that a person’s stature is defined less by who he is now than by how much he has grown, and that growth is credited to him. The scale of measure is where he is coming from. How far has he gone? How much of that change is because of his fortitude and will, and how much the environment that he was in, simply going with the flow? So, it may well be that your father doesn’t know as much as you, yet in the World to Come, he will tower over you. It could be that his Chumash and Rashi are more valuable than your learning all of Shas.

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It Ain’t About the Money

abbi Yitzchok Hutner zt”l would say that a conversation he once overheard between two young boys made him realize just how entrenched we are in American culture. A boy was telling his brother what he learned in yeshiva about the Kohein Gadol, his eight special clothes, the service he performed, and the great responsibility he had, especially on Yom Kippur. The younger boy was fascinated and replied, “Wow! How much do you think he got paid?” Shaquille O’Neill, the well-known, now retired, basketball star once quipped, “The problem with our world is that it’s too materialistic.” The profundity of his statement is that he uttered those words shortly after he signed a fourteen million dollar contract. When asked about the glaring incongruity he explained that the contract “ain’t about the money.” Perhaps it takes one to know one, and maybe only someone making as

much money as Shaq can truly appreciate just how enslaved one can become

an invaluable piece of advice, which is key to living a happy life. I hope G-d

DO YOU CONTROL YOUR MONEY OR DOES YOUR MONEY CONTROL YOU? to money, but I think it’s more likely that he didn’t realize how ridiculous his statement was. There is a wellknown truism that today’s luxuries become tomorrow’s necessities. Our drive for materialistic pursuits is insatiable, and one can easily become controlled by his money, rather than the other way around. Rabbi Yisroel Reisman tells his newly married students, “I want to offer you

will bless you and your businesses will be successful and prosperous. When that happens, don’t raise your standard of living! If you are blessed with extra money, save it, put it away, and enjoy it moderately. But don’t up the quality of your life by looking for a bigger house, a fancier car, more extravagant vacations, etc. If you do, you will never be able to enjoy what you have.” A rebbe of mine told me that his

grandmother would often repeat that in Europe they would mockingly say, “Upon three things the world stands gelt, gelt, oon noch gelt—money, money, and more money” (a distortion of the Mishna [Avos 1:2] which says the world stands on three things – Torah, divine service, and good deeds). Often money becomes an end instead of a means. Like everything else, money needs to be placed in the proper perspective. Without money we cannot give charity, support our families, purchase mitzvos, etc. But the million dollar question (or maybe the priceless question) is: Do you control your money or does your money control you? Rabbi Dani Staum, LMSW, is the Rabbi of Kehillat New Hempstead, and Guidance Counselor/Rebbe at Yeshiva Bais Hachinuch & Ashar in Monsey, NY. He is the author of Stam Torah and can be reached at stamtorah@gmail.com. His website is www.stamtorah.info.

97 Rabbi Jonathan Gewirtz

few weeks ago, I began to notice that I seemed to be getting a number of very good parking spaces. I would go to the supermarket and someone would pull out of a space right in front of the store as I arrived. Making another trip there? Well, here’s a nice spot, right in the shade. When I arrived at work, there was a space three cars from the door. I knew that G-d was providing me with valet parking. It’s not new to me, as half a dozen years ago my rabbi spoke about asking Hashem for things. It doesn’t matter how mundane they are because since everything comes from G-d, it’s important to acknowledge that by asking. For example, when going to buy shoes, say, “Hashem, please help me find a good pair that will fit comfortably, last a long time, and be a good price.” So, when I need to park, I pray, “Please, G-d, send me a good parking spot, close to the door, where it’s easy to get into.” At the mall once, my friend said, “I hope G-d has more important things to do than find you a parking spot.” I replied, “He doesn’t. He does everything so nothing is beneath Him.” To prove my point I offered up a little prayer, and a car pulled out from a spot right by the door. Now, I’m not saying it was because my prayers are so effective, but in that case maybe it was to show my friend that Hashem is directly and intimately involved in our day-to-day lives and, as they say, “No job is too small.” One day I went to a shul that is notorious for a shortage of parking. I offered up my prayer, then drove to the beginning of the block, right across from the entrance, and paused for a minute. I imagined that someone might pull out any minute. As I paused, another car went around me and got a space perhaps three car-lengths in front of me. I realized that had I not been waiting for a closer spot, I would have driven far enough to see that one. Instead, I ended up driving perhaps another fifty yards down the block, quite a trek in the damp, rainy air. So, was I upset that the other guy got “my spot”? Nope. Because the corollary to knowing that my close spots come from Hashem is knowing that the far ones do too. The other guy didn’t get “my spot.” He got “his” spot. In fact, I recognize that Hashem was sav-

Do You Validate Parking? ing the spot for him and it was never an option for me. In other words, I validate parking – I understand and acknowledge that there is a rationale beyond that which my eyes can see. I know that nothing happens by chance, not even the seemingly mundane act of finding a parking spot. (I’d imagine many people agree with me that sometimes it takes a miracle to find a place to park.) I remember one evening in Manhattan when I was meeting someone at a restaurant. Looking for a spot in the pouring rain, I spied one not too far away. I parallel parked in one shot, quite impressed with my skills and thankful to G-d that it had been so easy. When I got out of the car, however, and saw that I had mere inches both in front and in back of my car, I knew that there was no physical way I could have made it into the spot if G-d had not guided me. Thankfully, when I came out, the car in front of me had left so I was able to pull right out. As a teen, I remember one of the yeshiva faculty who would frequently park in the middle of the street, often at crazy angles to the road. In actuality, what happened was that when he arrived, people had already parked around his parking space, and he parked around them. When they left, he looked like he had chosen to park in a random area. It happened to me at work one day. I had just given my spot at the curb to another driver and driven off. I realized I needed to go back in for a minute. Well, the driver parked in the middle of the two available spots, so I pulled up behind him, partially blocking a driveway which I believed would remain unoccupied for the next few hours. I put on my hazard lights and ran in. When I came out, I was greeted with a very comical sight. He had left, there were two free spaces, and some lunatic’s car was sitting blocking a

driveway with his hazards blinking! Oh yeah, that was me. It struck me again how silly it must have looked to someone who didn’t know the back story, but since I did, I was able to validate my own parking and understand there was a reason for this scene. I made the connection that many times in life, we see people getting what we wanted, blocking us from our goals, and seemingly looking like they randomly ended up impinging on our lives. The truth, of course, is that we don’t see what else might have been in the way that made

them end up there. It was all part of Hashem’s plan to put them, and all of us, exactly where He wants us. So now that you understand that, ask yourself this question: Will you validate His parking? Jonathan Gewirtz is a prolific inspirational writer whose work has appeared in publications around the world. He also operates JewishSpeechWriter.com, where you can order a custom-made speech for your next special occasion. His book, The Observant Jew, distributed by Feldheim, is coming soon to a bookstore near you. For more information, or to sign up for or sponsor the Migdal Ohr, his weekly PDF Dvar Torah in English, e-mail info@JewishSpeechWriter.com and put Subscribe or Sponsor in the subject. © 2014 by Jonathan Gewirtz. All rights reserved.

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is only possible if both parents live near each other and have schedules that allow for each of them to care for the child in equal proportions. The two parents also need to be able to work together to ensure that although the child lives in two homes, all homework is completed, appointments are scheduled and kept, etc. This kind of coordination is difficult when parents live together, never mind in separate homes, possibly with new spouses. While it can work, I have found in my practice that even with the best of intentions the amount of time spent at each parent’s home usually becomes disproportionate over time Joint legal custody with one parent being the “residential” parent is the

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more usual and frankly, the more practical scenario. This type of custody entails the child regularly living with one parent and the other parent having liberal visitation or “parenting time.” Both parents share equally in making decisions about the child’s health, education and welfare. Normally, in an emergency, whichever parent the child is with at the time will make any decisions and then inform the other parent. Sole custody is when only one parent has the authority to make decisions regarding the child’s health education and welfare. This is usually utilized when the parents cannot get along well enough for their child’s sake to make joint decisions or if one parent is incapacitated for whatever reason. Under this scenario, one parent would be able to unilaterally choose a school, choose a caregiver, etc. Now to the second part of your question: custody in relation to child support. Your husband may or may not be trying to get out of paying child support; however, New York State law will make this almost impossible. First of all, if you were to have sole custody, he would certainly have to pay child support. Normally, with joint custody with one parent being the residential parent, the non-residential parent pays child support to the other parent. The custodial parent is expected to pay their share of expenses for the child as well. Here is the kicker – even in a scenario of true joint custody, the law in New York courts have held that child support must be paid. There are two cases on this point, Baraby v. Baraby, 250 A.D.2d 201, 681 N.Y.S.2d 826 [3d Dept. 1998] and Bast v. Rossoff, 91 N.Y.2d 723, 675 N.Y.S.2d 19, 697 N.E.2d 1009 [1998]. Bast made clear that even in shared custody cas-

es, courts are required to identify the “primary custodial parent” and Baraby made clear that the parent with the substantially higher income does have to pay child support. So, to sum it up, if you feel that your child would benefit from joint custody and that you and your soonto-be-ex can get along well enough to have that arrangement, I see no reason why you should not. I would not, of course, advise you to sign anything without attorney review. No column is a substitute for competent legal advice. Please consult with the attorney of your choice concerning specific legal questions you may have. Deborah Kaminetzky is the founding member of Kaminetzky & Associates, P.C. located in Cedarhurst, New York. Prior to starting the firm Ms. Kaminetzky was an associate at Weisman Law Group, P.C. where she primarily practiced matrimonial and family law. Deborah has also worked at the New York Department of Consumer Affairs where she was responsible for prosecuting unlicensed home improvement contractors and negotiating settlements for consumers. She is expanding her alternative dispute resolution practice by enrolling in a Mediation certificate program to be completed this December. Ms. Kaminetzky has spoken to various groups on topics including matrimonial law, technology and social media use, and disaster preparedness for business.

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Memorializing our AMERICAN HEROES Throughout American history, millions of soldiers, sailors, marines, airmen and guardsmen have given their lives in the name of freedom. In every war that the U.S. has fought, some type of freedom was at stake and the stories of these wars have been told in history books. But more than just in books, relics, like planes, tanks, guns and even ships, have made their way to museums as a testament to the men and women who used them. Today, we are able to see these mementos of the past on display at memorials to honor those who sacrificed all for their country. Lincolnâ&#x20AC;&#x2122;s bust at Gettysburg

Left: The Attu Peace Monument in Alaska Right: The statue of Robert E Lee atop the Virginia Memorial at Gettysburg

isiting the place where a battle was fought takes the visitor deep into the past. Many battlefields have been preserved from the Revolutionary War and the War of 1812 to give visitors a feeling of what happened there. Today, visitors are able to take a trip back in time to the Battle of Yorktown in Virginia. Fought in 1781, the battle proved to be a major victory for the American and French forces that turned a siege into the battle that tipped the cards in favor of the Americans. The Yorktown Victory Center currently on the site commemorates the entire war. One of the best preserved national historic sites in America is the Gettysburg Battlefield. The Gettysburg National Military Park has over 1,300 monuments and countless plaques commemorating the historic battle that changed the course of the Civil War. There are statues depicting General George Meade, a chaplain, and an interesting plaque telling the story of one Sergeant Amos Humiston. One of the biggest problems after the battle was identifying the bodies so the grieving families could have some closure. Humiston, a soldier from New York, died at Gettysburg, and a little girl discovered a photograph of him and his three children near where he

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ost of the battles of World War II were fought on foreign lands but there are many memorials that were dedicated in the memory of those who fought in the name of freedom. There are only a few memorials in the States from this war as the only battles in the U.S. were in Hawaii and Alaska. Alaska became a state fourteen years after the war ended but a battle between American and Japanese forces took place on Attu Island making it the only land battle in North America during the war. At the place of the fierce end of the hand-to-hand battle, the Japanese, with the permission of the U.S., dedicated a memorial in honor of all combatants. The unique peace gesture has an inscription in both English and Japanese and reads, “In memory of all those who sacrificed their lives in the islands and seas of the North Pacific during World War II and in dedication to world peace.” The USS Arizona Memorial in Pearl Harbor, Hawaii, is the final resting place for over 1,200 sailors who died on December 7, 1941 when their ship was bombed. Out of the eight battleships attacked on that fateful day, three were sunk and only the Arizona wasn’t salvaged. Even now, oil rising from the sunken behemoth is sometimes referred to as the “tears of the Arizona.” The structure that houses the museum was built above the wreckage in 1962. In a symbolic gesture, the ship on which the Japanese surrender was signed, the USS Missouri, became a museum ship and now faces the sunken Arizona. Most people don’t the exact details of the Battle of Iwo Jima but they do know about the famous photograph depicting six marines raising a flag. It was taken by a civilian photographer, Joe Rosenthal, for the Associated Press and was the second flag to be raised on Mount Suribachi. Three of the six men depicted did not survive the fighting on Iwo Jima and it took some time for all the men to be identified from the photograph. In 1954, a bronze statute designed from the picture was dedicated as the Marine Corps Memorial outside Arlington National Cemetery in Virginia. The memorial not only honors those who served and died on Iwo Jima but also every marine that served in the corps since its inception in 1775. This author has never been to the memorial but some visitors have counted a thirteenth hand on the statue (there were only six men there) and many theorize how that came to be. Several other memorials used the famous picture for inspiration including the National Iwo Jima Memorial in Connecticut. Washington, D.C. is the home of several of memorials and tributes to our nation’s heroes. The Vietnam Veterans Memorial has the names of the 58,195 service members who died during war engraved on a wall that has the Washington Monument in sight. Designed by a 21-year-old daughter of Chinese immigrants, Maya Lin, it was erected in 1982 and includes names of all service members who died in Vietnam from 1956 to 1975 (most of the fighting in Vietnam was between 19651972). A statute of three soldiers, one Caucasian, another African American and the third Hispanic, stands nearby to give a visual to visitors. There is also a “Moving Wall” that is displayed in many small towns and cities that is about half the size of the original wall. The horrors of war sometimes make identifying the remains of soldiers impossible. The Tomb of the Unknowns is a worldwide concept, and the American version is in the Arlington National Cemetery. The remains of three servicemen were interred there from World War I, World War II, and the Korean War. A fourth tomb was in place for the Vietnam War but DNA samples determined the deceased identity. The body was reinterred and the tomb now remains empty. Elite soldiers from the 3rd Infantry Regiment are designated as Tomb’s Guards and follow a rigid procedure in honor of their fallen comrades.

he number of memorials dedicated to the men and women who put their lives on the line for their country are too numerous for this article. Highways, airports, stadiums, parks and many other structures have been erected in honor of these heroes. Recently, a Navy SEAL and UDT museum opened in Florida, and the World War II museum in New Orleans keeps on getting more artifacts as veterans donate their effects to teach younger generations. As time goes on, more memorials will be dedicated as the U.S. keeps on fighting wars in the name of freedom for all of humanity.

The Iwo Jima Memorial in Washington, DC

The Tomb of the Unknown Soldier in Arlington National Cemetery

The USS Arizona Memorial and the Battleship Missouri Memorial memorialize the beginning and end of WWII

The Vietnam Memorial in Washington, DC

Monument for the 73rd NY Infantry at Gettysburg. Many of the members were firemen

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fell. Newspapers picked up the story, and the photograph was reprinted and sold for charity. There is also a monument at Gettysburg honoring members of the 73rd NY Infantry Regiment which had several members of the local fire department killed in battle. A statue of Southern commander General Robert E. Lee on his horse, Traveler, was placed near where he watched the battle. Perhaps the most recognized memorial in the entire Gettysburg Park is the bust of Abraham Lincoln. The likeness stands in the middle of the national cemetery and was the location of the most famous speech in American history—the Gettysburg Address. The cemetery itself houses graves of soldiers from all participating states in the battle; veterans from other wars are buried in a separated section.

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Deb Hirschhorn, Ph.D.

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Is There a Problem with Being Content with Your Lot?

e were all sitting around a cozy kitchen enjoying a late shalosh seudos and listening to the ba’al habayis read Pirkei Avos. He got to the one we know so well: Who is rich? – The person who is happy with his lot. “Wait a minute!” someone at the table chimed in, “I don’t think it’s good to be contented with where you are at; it’s better for a person to strive for more.” She gave an example of an artist who wants his work to be better and better. He should not be satisfied with the level that he is at in the moment. Those at the table argued that this contentment is meant to be with material things and that we should be satisfied with what G-d gives us. That did not satisfy her: She was adamant that discontent is a great motivator to work harder and strive for more. Is it? My friend could be correct. Research shows that children raised with constant praise may not strive as hard as those on a more sparse diet. On the other hand, research also shows that parents who lead their child to believe that he is never going to measure up to their expectations may have a kid who stops trying. “Whoa!” You might be about to say: “This Mishnah is about material accomplishment, not about learning or achievement.” Is it? Your “cheilek” in life is the totality of what has been given to you by the Giver of everything. Therefore, there is no way to separate out the big (or small) house from the cleverness, industriousness, and hard work that you may (or may not) have had so as to earn it. Your cheilek includes your children, to whom you married, what country you live in, your talents, all of it. You know very well that you can consider yourself rich if you have wonderful children. And simcha is that state of being in which you know in your bones that you are a partner with G-d and based on your choices, He gave you what He felt you needed. And you appreciate HaKodosh Baruch Hu for that. So now you’re going to ask: But what if my children didn’t turn out

right? What if my marriage didn’t? For Pete’s sake, what if I didn’t? How am I supposed to be b’simcha? And that is an excellent question. Here’s how I see it: We are all artists here. We were

bly didn’t. After all, we start out as novices; we only learn how much better we could have done it much later when it is too late to erase and start over. The issue is not whether you did a good job

THE MOST IMPORTANT THING TO CONSIDER IS: DID YOU DO A DECENT JOB WITH WHAT YOU WERE GIVEN?

given certain colors, a bit of canvas, a brush, and told, “Go make Me a picture!” And years later, we can look with the eye of an expert and say, “Well, I don’t like how this turned out. It could have used more blue in this corner and yellow in that.”

but whether you tried to do one. And assuming you made every effort that you could have at the time, you can now look back and be pleased with what G-d gave you. You see, there are two perspectives here – yours and G-d’s. You invested

Except that you didn’t have the blue at the time nor the yellow. You weren’t so sure how to hold the paintbrush or how much color to get on it when you were ready. Your hand wasn’t so steady and you couldn’t possibly have had the vision when you were twelve or twenty two that you do now. The self-criticism is misplaced. Looking backward at what materials you were given and the job you did with them, the most important thing to consider is: Did you do a decent job with what you were given? It’s not even right to ask if you did the best you could because you proba-

time, brains, and energy to create something, your “lot.” Theoretically, your investment of these things should result in an outcome commensurate with them. But there is also G-d looking at you and wondering how He can best help you. Is there something else that you could learn? And so He gives you the outcome commensurate with what He thinks would benefit you. He gives you what, from His perspective, you need. So, if, for example, you’ve had hardships – and there are very few people that haven’t had them – and you tackled life anyway, then you’ve really utilized the tools He gave you very well even if

the outcome is not what you were striving toward. In that case, you have to be pleased with yourself and thankful to Him. What if you don’t think you did a good job with what you were given? My best guess is that you are too hard on yourself. If you worked hard and thought through things well to try to make good choices, then you did well. And you’re not dead yet! You can now go forward making improvements in your choices. Here is the key: While you are doing that, you should, indeed, be b’simcha. You should be happy for the fact that you tried hard to do the right thing. You should be happy that you finally figured out what you did wrong and what you can do different. You should be happy that you have a future in which to make those changes. So while you are figuring out what to do better tomorrow, you are happy today. Just because you want to do better doesn’t mean you can’t be b’simcha with your efforts thus far. Indeed, the very fact that you realize that you didn’t always make the best decisions is something to be very happy about: It means you have more tools today to do better than you did previously. Your awareness is itself a blessing. Knowing that the whole thing comes from G-d and that we can improve until the day we die is a cause for simcha. I can’t figure out a way you could not be b’simcha. What am I missing?

Dr. Deb Hirschhorn, a Marriage & Family Therapist and best-selling author of The Healing Is Mutual: Marriage Empowerment Tools to Rebuild Trust and Respect—Together, is proud to announce that readers of The Jewish Home will receive a $50 discount on every visit to her Woodmere office. Listen to her new show called “Kids and Parents” on Chazaq Radio live from 3-4 on Thursdays. The call in phone number is 718-285-9132. Attend the Food For Thought lectures at Cravingz Cafe, 410 Central Ave, Cedarhurst, on Wednesdays at 10 AM. Any questions, call 646-54-DRDEB or check out her website at http://drdeb.com.

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“Say What?” Yes, it was a mistake of course, but one makes lots of mistakes in life. - FIFA’s president, Sepp Blatter, discussing the decision to hold the 2022 World Cup in Qatar, despite the country’s many human rights violations

This week the FCC rolled out a new service that lets people text 911 for help. That’ll mean if you’re driving and you see an accident, you can cause another accident. - Jimmy Fallon

Why are you running away, Israeli spawn! - Turkish Prime Minister Tayyip Erdogan to a protester during a demonstration at the site of Turkey’s collapsed mine in which hundreds were killed

Part two of Donald Sterling’s interview with Anderson Cooper aired on CNN tonight. It may have been the first time I’ve ever seen an apology that was more offensive than the thing being apologized for. - Jimmy Kimmel

A new report found that the average life expectancy for women in the U.S. is 81, while the average life expectancy for men is 76. Or as both husbands and wives put it, “Good.” - Jimmy Fallon

You see, many districts in this country have actually pulled back on efforts to integrate their schools and many communities have become less diverse as folks have moved from cities to suburbs. So today, by some measures, our schools are as segregated as they were back when Dr. King gave his final speech. As a result, many young people in America are going to school largely with kids who look just like them. – Michele Obama, during a speech at a high school graduation in Topeka, Kansas

Kevorkianesque Genocide Rolling sarcophagus (tomb or coffin) Titanic Decapitating Detonate Horrific Disemboweling Grenadelike Widow-maker Apocalyptic Your toast Some of the words that GM engineers were told not to use in reports, according to a recently revealed internal memo

I am the Obama of Ukraine. - Ukraine presidential hopeful Vadim Rabinovich, who is Jewish

Innovation found only in the USA! You know, an AR-15 makes a great gift – what more says, “I love you”? - Tweet by Sarah Palin

I’m going to shoot down the place. - A threat from a woman at a South Carolina Burger King after she was served a stale cinnamon roll

A Chicago priest is offering a $5,000 reward to help stop gun violence. Meanwhile, people with guns just found out about a priest who has $5,000. - Seth Myers

President Obama was here, touring New York sites in need of repair. He wants to spend money on our infrastructure. He was at the Tappan Zee Bridge, where the renovation is already finishing up way ahead of schedule — like Obama’s second term. – David Letterman

That was a close play, but you made a really good call… Let me just stand here for a minute looking upset. - Cleveland Indians manager Terry Francona disclosing to ESPN what he told an umpire last week when he went into the field to “argue against” a call the umpire had made

$4,824,667,184.64 - The amount billionaire Dmitry Rybolovlev has to give his ex-wife after a Geneva Court ordered him to give her half of his fortune, down to the penny

IKEA announced it’s going to turn its first store into a museum. It’s going to be called the “Metropolitan museum of things that break after two years.” - Conan O’Brien

Yes, and later. – New Jersey Governor Chris Christie at a Washington conference when asked by CBS News veteran Bob Schieffer if he is thinking about running for president and when he would make a decision I think this will be a footnote by the time any of those decisions need to be made. - Ibid., when asked about the effect “Bridgegate” may have on a presidential run It’s utterly pathetic and embarrassing. I mean this guy Obama has done to America in 8 years what it took 100 years to happen to the British Empire. We are retreating all over the world. China is about to take total hegemony of the Pacific Rim. We have Israel leaving us, they’re moving on – now they’re pals with China. The Middle East is just falling apart, we’ve lost our power throughout the world and these idiots think that a hashtag is some major policy initiative. How about Michelle Obama have, hashtag “I’m Married To An Idiot”? - Ann Coulter on Fox News

Being called a disruptor is a high compliment. You here at Berkeley are already disruptors in many ways. Now, it’s all about you — what you can do with your freedom to speak out, with the tools of our time: Instagram and YouTube, Facebook and Twitter. - House Minority Leader Nancy Pelosi (D-Calif.) imparting her pearls of wisdom to graduates at Berkeley University Hillary is banal, corrupted, drained of vibrancy and passion. I mean, she’s been around forever… She’s surrounded by all these sleazy money types who are just corrupting everything everywhere. But she’s going to be the ﬁrst female president, and women in America are going to be completely invested in her candidacy. Opposition to her is going to be depicted as misogynistic, like opposition to Obama has been depicted as racist. It’s going to be this completely symbolic messaging that’s going to overshadow the fact that she’ll do nothing but continue everything in pursuit of her own power. - Left wing journalist Glen Greenwald on The Today Show

And also remember that before I hire anybody, I always check out everything that they’ve been doing online. And believe me—we have ways of finding out. – White House Senior Advisor Valerie Jarrett during her commencement address at Pomona College, invoking the NSA scandal

COPSLIE - Vanity license plate the New Hampshire Supreme Court ruled a man is allowed to keep

You are graduating today as the most diverse class in Yale’s long history. Or, as it’s called in the NBA, “Donald Sterling’s worst nightmare.” - Secretary of State John Kerry during his commencement address at Yale University First, let’s establish that I agree with your sister. You are a horrible person. - Opening sentence in nationally syndicated “Ask Amy” advice column, in response to a writer who asks what she should do about her sister who is upset that the writer doesn’t include her in her social outings

The earthquake damaged the Washington Monument. They had to do some sandblasting, had to have the graffiti removed, and then they filled in the cracks with some sort of sealant. It’s what they’re doing right now for Hillary Clinton. - David Letterman

It’s all fun and games until the cops show up. - The t-shirt Ricky Fisher was wearing when police apprehended him for a bank robbery he committed several days earlier

[Kim Jong Un] sat up all night, feeling painful. - The official North Korean Central News Agency after a building collapsed in North Korea killing many people

When they needed the city to fall in love with their family, New York’s First Family trotted out their kids, one follicle at a time. Look at Dante’s cute Afro! Aren’t Chiara’s flower crowns quirky? And so it began, Bill de Blasio and Chirlane McCray’s we’re-everyNew-York-family narrative that won over the city’s jaded hearts… But now the First Family has stepped in it — a huge pile of its own making….In this week’s New York magazine, the First Lady talks about grappling with all the struggles of being a mom. The interview was likely given to humanize McCray and to send a message that real talk and frankness will be hallmarks of the de Blasio administration. But when the coverage didn’t read like a Hallmark card, the First Family followed its all too disturbing pattern: It blamed the media. - Daily News editorial in response to Bill de Blasio’s criticism of the media for reporting—based on his wife’s admissions—that she was less than a stellar mother when her children were young

The most money I’d ever found in a couch was like 50 cents. - Reese Werkhoven, who, along with her two roommates, returned $40,000 that they found stuffed in a couch that they purchased from a widow

According to a new survey, 55 percent of Americans think that they are smarter than the average American. Said the average American, “55 percent? That’s almost half.” - Seth Myers

During his visit to the White House, the President of Uruguay lectured President Obama about the dangers of smoking. Then, when Obama said, “Oh, I quit,” Hillary Clinton ran past him into the Oval Office. - Seth Meyers

Donald Sterling is now planning to sue the NBA for banning him from the league. That’s good because it’s the only way he’ll ever see a court again. - Jimmy Fallon

I believe that President Obama could be more tactful politically when discussing these issues. Some decisions taken by the US administration are disappointing. We have indeed done a lot for Russian-US relations. I believe doing so was right. The agreements that we reached with America were useful. And I’m very sorry that everything that has been achieved is now being eliminated by these decisions. Basically, we are slowly but surely approaching a second cold war that nobody needs. - Russian Prime Minister Dmitry Medvedev in an interview with Bloomberg Television

I wish you guys would come get me. Hurry up and draft me because I want to be there. I want to wreck this league together. - What Jonny Manziel texted Cleveland Browns Quarterbacks coach Dowell Loggains which led the team owner to draft him with the 22rd overall pick in the NFL draft

A substantial portion of my political campaign is campaigning against political correctness .I like blue collar values…I hit everybody. Jews, Polish people, Irish, Italians, religious jokes, and black jokes. - Idaho GOP gubernatorial candidate Harley Brown at a debate in which he made several off-color jokes about different ethnic groups

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A Massachusetts woman, Brenda Drinkwater, was arrested on a seventh drunk driving charge. “Drinkwater” is good advice for her. - Jimmy Kimmel

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Health & Fitness Shalom Motechin, AuD

Can Hearing Aids be Hip?

tarkey Hearing Technologies, “Soundspace.” Soundspace is a feaan American company based ture that allows the patient to customin Minneapolis, has introduced ize the sound setting to a specific enHalo, a made-for-iPhone hearing aid vironment, for example, their favorite engineered to be compatible with the restaurant, gym or any other location iPhone, iPad and iPod Touch. The they frequent. These memories are Halo hearing aid is designed to pro- integrated with the GPS settings of vide the more than 26 million Ameri- the iPhone and activate automatically cans with untreated hearing loss a new upon your arrival to the saved locadiscreet option that effortlessly con- tion. nects with Apple devices. Halo combines Starkey Hearing David Fabry, vice president of auTechnologies’ superior hearing tech- diology and professional services for nology with Apple’s mobile operat- Starkey, in a recent interview said the ing system to deliver a new hearing following: “Based on initial response solution that makes every aspect of to the Halo, the new aid seems to aplife better from peal especially to conversations to consumers who phone calls to lisare at ease using THESE NEW HEARING tening to music. an iPhone for mulHalo connects tiple purposes, not AIDS ARE A GAME with the TrueLink simply for making hearing control app calls. Now that CHANGER IN THE which is available they need a hearINDUSTRY. as a free download ing aid, they want in the App Store. them to be fully Users of the Halo compatible with product benefit their iPhone. Halo from the cumulative intelligence of is part of a transition toward making both Apple and Starkey technology. hearing aids cool.” In my 18 years of experience as an In my opinion, cool or just plain audiologist dispensing hearing aids, I amazing, these new hearing aids are have never worked with an instrument a game changer in the industry. Halo that provides the patient with such a takes advantage of the combination personalized experience. The Halo is Apple and Starkey technology— designed to do the folmuch-needed in today’s tech lowing: savvy consumers. In addition • Deliver pristo the seamless integratine sound and extion between the iPhone ceptional listening and iPad, the new Halo clarity hearing aids are also • Use your standalone hearing iPhone remotely to aids that are packed control your hearwith the best in class ing aids performance features • Stream including feedback calls from your cancellation, adapiPhone directly tive noise manageto your hearing ment, and directionalaids using Blueity. tooth • Help you hear comfortably To make in noise an appoint• Eliminate ment and buzzing and whistling “hear” more • Stream music and video direct- about this technology, call me 516ly to your hearing aid 295-1300. Hearing Solutions is loTwo of my favorite features of the cated at 513 Chestnut Street in CeHalo are the TrueLink memories and darhurst. See ad on page 27

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Eating with Utensils My three year old is having a hard time scooping up food with a spoon and bringing it to his mouth. More often than not it lands on his lap or floor. As an occupational therapist, do you have any tips on how to help him eat with success? The Therapist Responds: Thank you for your question. I like how you are encouraging your son to eat neatly with utensils. When it comes to eating properly, I like to first discuss the environment and how the child is set up with his food. 1. Distance between child and food. Position him sitting in his chair close to the table; a child-size table and chair is ideal. Being close to his food provides him with minimal “air time” in which the food on the spoon has to reach his mouth. 2. Dish. Your child will have the

most success scooping out of a bowl instead of a plate. For example, if he is eating mashed potatoes the rim around the bowl gives him a nice wide and tall

edge to scoop his food onto the spoon. 3. Bowl in Place. If you can use a bowl with suction on the bottom, that’s great! If not, you will need to train your son to stabilize the bowl with his free hand while he scoops.

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4. Types of Food. The thicker the spoon (Gerber makes a very cute colfood, the less likely it will fall off the orful spoon) helps them grip the spoon spoon even when tilted. To provide handle well. I would avoid skinny long your child with some success and not handles and disposable plastic spoons. They do not provide good too much of leverage and input to the a challenge, hand while working on this prepare his THE THICKER THE skill. food with Wishing you and your some degree FOOD, THE LESS son much hatzlacha! of thickness (e.g. lumpy, LIKELY IT WILL FALL mashed poOFF THE SPOON. tatoes, thick Devorah (Gerber) Schmeltz, MS OTR/L is a 2003 alumnus pudding verof Downstate Medical Census runny yogurt, thick ter’s OT Program. She worked as a senior occupational therapist at United oatmeal). Next, look at how your child holds Cerebral Palsy’s Brooklyn Children’s Prohis spoon. The spoon should be held gram for 9 years. Currently, Devorah runs parallel to the table. Remind him that a private practice, Bumble & Tumble Octhe food on the spoon should be facing cupational Therapy P.C in Far Rockaway. the sky/ceiling as he brings it to his Your questions and comments are welcome. mouth. This will help him avoid tilt- She can be reached at BumbleTumbleThering the spoon. I find for young chil- apy@gmail.com or 917-971-5327. dren such as your son a chunky handled

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In the Kitchen Naomi Nachman

Naomi’s Barbecue Basics

Dijon Garlic Marinade

This marinade is great for chicken or vegetables. For the meat, let it soak for two hours or overnight. If you are using it for vegetables, leave out the ketchup and marinade for up to 2 hours. Ingredients ½ cup red wine ¼ cup seeded Dijon mustard 1/8 cup balsamic vinegar ½ cup ketchup ¼ cup olive oil 6 cloves crushed fresh garlic 1 tsp thyme 1 tablespoon Worcestershire sauce* ½ tsp kosher salt ¼ tsp fresh ground pepper Preparation In a small bowl, whisk all ingredients together. Place the meat in a shallow pan in one layer and pour the marinade over the meat. Try to marinade it for several hours. It helps tenderize the meat. When you are ready to cook the meat, place the meat on a medium-hot grill about four inches above the heat and cook on both sides until cooked through. *Make sure the Worcestershire sauce doesn’t say OU-fish. If it does, you cannot use it for meat.

I love to barbecue. In fact, I have been known to do it with three feet of snow on the ground. I barbecue chicken, lamb chops, vegetables— even fruit. Now that the barbecue season officially opens this weekend with Memorial Day, I have tried to come up with new barbecue ideas for my friends, family and readers. Note: Meat should always go on the grill at room temperature for maximum flavor of the meat. Here are a few ideas for your barbecue that I always do at mine: * I find that lamb has its own natural flavors and doesn’t need a marinade; you can just throw it from the package straight onto the grill. (Yay! No extra work.) *Sliders are very popular nowadays; I buy all kinds of great chutneys, sauces and flavored mustards to go as a complement. *My favorite sausages are Abeles and Heymann Sausages. Try buying a variety of them. Additionally, you can put some facon bacon on the grill for a few minutes until they are crispy; they are a great topping for hot dogs or sliders. *Make a topping bar for hot dogs. Anything from grilled onion, grilled pineapple, hot sauce, or guacamole on a hot dog is a lot of fun. *I make a platter of all kinds of pickles, including half sour and sour pickles, sauerkraut and pickled tomatoes. *I serve platters of sliced of tomatoes, red onion, and shredded lettuce and some sautéed onion. *No barbecue is ever complete without coleslaw. Either homemade or store bought is perfect. *I always serve a large, fresh garden salad, corn on the cob and French fries. (I love the 5 minute McCains fries.) *Fresh pineapple and mango are delicious on the grill. 3-4 minutes per side max is needed.

Naomi Nachman, the owner of The Aussie Gourmet, caters weekly and Shabbat/ Yom Tov meals for families and individuals within The Five Towns and neighboring communities, with a specialty in Pesach catering. Naomi is a contributing editor to this paper and also produces and hosts her own weekly radio show on the Nachum Segal Network stream called “A Table for Two with Naomi Nachman.” Naomi gives cooking presentations for organizations and private groups throughout the New York/New Jersey Metropolitan area. In addition, Naomi has been a guest host on the QVC TV network and has been featured in cookbooks, magazines as well as other media covering topics related to cuisine preparation and personal chefs. To obtain additional recipes, join The Aussie Gourmet on Facebook or visit Naomi’s blog. Naomi can be reached through her website,www. theaussiegourmet.com or at (516) 295-9669.

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Contractor’s Corner

Jason Kersch

An Educated Consumer

n educated consumer…can be a contractor’s best customer or worst nightmare. Nearly every day when I turn home, I find in my door the flashy business card of some “big-time” contractor which turns out to be a guy with a truck and a printer. On a side note, how do they have time to slip cards into every door on the block if they are so busy? But I digress; my point is that it is easy to be fooled by talk and props, but are they qualified for the job and have they earned the right to have access to your home and family for an extended period? If you demonstrate that you have done your research then it will be harder for someone to take you for a ride. It has become common practice for homeowners to call multiple places and ask, on the phone, for a price quote

of an extension, kitchen or roof. While this is a horrible way to research the right company for you (price should be secondary), it is a great question to ask

Sticker Shock vs. Stepping Up The companies bidding on your project will give a quote that either

IF THREE ESTIMATES SEEM IN-LINE AND ONE IS WAY OFF, READ IT CLOSELY AND ASK WHAT UNKNOWN FACTORS HAVE ARISEN ON PREVIOUS JOBS.

because if you receive an answer on the phone then they will not be willing to expend much energy into the project. I recently fielded a call requesting our price per square foot for an extension. Who is crazier: the one who asks or the one who answers?

sounds fantastic or is all-inclusive; you will not find both. It is a common sales practice to price a product or service in the cheapest possible way in order to convince potential clients that is a good deal. Once the client is on board and the 3-day cancellation period has passed, the company will arrange a meeting to “go over options” with a member of their staff. This is where you find that, yes, the price was all inclusive, but with the cheapest possible options, but now you have the opportunity to upgrade at “x” percent of the normal price because you are now a customer. This is known as “stepping up” the customer. We have always believed in proving honest and up-front estimates that include everything needed for the job that you want, as well as any additional items that may come up, such as a provision for potential rotted wood. If three estimates seem in-line and one is way off, read it closely and ask what unknown factors have arisen on previous jobs. None=Lying. Don’t Spend it All in One Place When a project requires fixtures and appliances, the contract often includes a section that lists the allowances; this means that you are being told what is being spent on your toilet or refrigerator. While in theory it is nice not to have to worry about picking these details, you will never have the same taste as the company you have

hired. While they are busy picking up the tiles from the “sale” rack at a Home Center, you are picturing fine Italian tiles, and someone is going to end up disappointed. Although it is more effort on your part, buying the fixtures and appliances on your own and from the vendor of your choice will ensure that there are no surprises. Most companies that work this way will provide you with a list of their suggested retailers with whom they have a long relationship and will provide pickup and delivery on your behalf.

Seeing is Believing Ask to see both jobs in progress and those completed 3-5 years ago, and speak with the homeowner. It is very possible that a project looks nice now, but how will it hold up? Additionally, while it may look fantastic, how much heartache and grief was the customer put through to get to that point? Are the mechanics courteous and showing care for the property? Are they drinking beer on the front lawn during their three hour lunch breaks? At some point when there is no more research left to do, there is a leap of faith. Show you have done your research and will not be taken advantage of, know your rights and resources should things go awry, and always be led by your intellect and not by your wallet. Jason Kersch is one of the owners of Major Homes. He welcomes your comments and questions and can be reached at JKersch@ majorhomes.com or at 718-229-5741.

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he former Soviet republic of the country and working directly with Ukraine has become the world’s our Treasury. And even worse, at least hottest military and diplomatic for Putin and his henchmen, our Treaflashpoint as Ukrainian nationalists sury suspended negotiations entirely face off against pro-Russian separat- when Russia rolled into Crimea. ists. Russian President Vladimir PuAt this point, then, it looks like law tin courteously waited until after the will make it way more expensive for Sochi Olympics to seize Crimea, then investors to use Russian banks to inpositioned troops throughout eastern vest in the U.S. And private investors Ukraine. Now he’s who use Russian announced he’ll banks to facilitate withdraw the troops trades are also subhe denied dispatchject to the law. It ing in the first gets worse in 2017 place. But sabers — if there’s still no are rattling, and the agreement in place, situation is so volbanks will have to atile that combat withhold 30% of could explode before you finish reading the gross proceeds of stock and bond this article. sales, on top of the interest and diviThe United States obviously wants dends they earn. to avoid that possibility. But Secretary FATCA may not be the only way of State John Kerry’s best efforts ap- to marshal the power of taxes against pear to be having little effect. We’re Russia. Putin’s cronies — the billioncertainly not going aires who own Rusto involve our own sia’s biggest oil, gas, military anytime mining, and retail PUTIN’S CRONIES — soon. Even James companies — have Bond himself would moved tens of bilTHE BILLIONAIRES be hard-pressed to lions of dollars of parachute in with a assets out of Russia WHO OWN RUSSIA’S solution. So, who and into western BIGGEST OIL, GAS, can we turn to? jurisdictions like Well, how about Luxembourg, the MINING, AND RETAIL those stalwarts of Netherlands, and democracy at the Switzerland. They COMPANIES — IRS? did so to dodge RusHAVE MOVED TENS Back in 2010, sian taxes (apparWashington passed ently, ex-commies OF BILLIONS OF the Foreign Account resent paying them DOLLARS OF ASSETS Tax Compliance Act as much as any other (“FATCA”) to stop capitalists). But now OUT OF RUSSIA. tax evaders from they find their assets parking assets in exposed to possible secret foreign acU.S. sanctions and counts. (Add another “t” to that acro- vulnerable to freezes. It’s probably too nym and you’ll see who it’s aimed at!) soon to break out the balalaikas and That law requires all foreign banks to celebrate — but we can hope that the spill the beans on American accounts risk of losing their assets motivates the with more than $50,000. If they don’t, oligarchs to pressure Putin to pull back. starting July 1, they’ll have to withhold Closer to home, we help you pay 30% of the interest and dividend pay- less tax on your investments. Fortuments their clients earn on most U.S. nately, you don’t have to risk internastocks and bonds. tional sanctions to do it! You just need Almost 50 countries have agreed to a plan to save a bunch of rubles on your let their banks participate and avoid that bill! penalty. That list includes traditionally “sunny places for shady people” like Allan J Rolnick is a CPA who has been the Cayman Islands. But guess who in practice for over 30 years in Queens, still says nyet? That’s right, Russia. NY. He welcomes your comments and What’s worse, Russia’s bank secrecy can be reached at 718-896-8715 or at laws prevent banks from going around allanjrcpa@aol.com

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start seeing those imperfections? Well, to keep loving someone, you need to keep focusing on their strengths. I’m not saying you absolutely cannot notice, mention, work on, discuss, figure out, etc. how to accept their “tiny imperfections.” I’m just saying you need to keep those “wonderful virtues,” strengths, positive qualities, gifts they have, front and center. This is one very important secret to loving! Get it? It takes an action to keep putting those virtues back into the front and center when they get pushed aside. That will definitely keep you actively loving! The other element of loving is one a newborn figures out immediately upon passing through the birth canal. Imagine that— TO KEEP LOVING SOMEONE, and I need to tell it to a literate, educated adult like yourYOU NEED TO KEEP FOCUSING self! To keep someone loving ON THEIR STRENGTHS you, you need to incline them to keep giving to you. Every kid makes it so easy for their parents. They demand and demand and d-e-m-a-n-d and the parent gives destination you plunge to. Especially, and gives and, voila, as drained and because even with a soft landing, you depleted as they are, the parent, has can fall out of something you fell into totally become a loving machine. just as haphazardly. For instance, last night I was so exhausted I fell into bed. This morning, I was rested, I fell right back out—just 8 hours later! Love needs to be a verb not a noun. Love needs to be an action you can control, not an inanimate object like a place you land when you’re thrown off kilter. If love is good, we want to have some control in keeping it around. An “object” is usually limited. An “action” is usually infinite—as long as you can keep doing it. So how can we keep love going? Easy: keep loving! The end! Aha, there’s the rub. How do we keep the action of love going? First, let’s get an operational definition of the word “love.” There are two important elements: Maimonides says love is seeing and focusing on the virtues in another person. Oh sure, easy enough when you first meet someone and are excited about them! But with a little bit of familiarity comes the unfortunate reality that people have a “tad bit” of imperfection, as well. So what’s a person to do when they oes anyone like falling? At any age? The scraped knees, the bruised hips, the broken bones. Why would anyone want to fall at any stage? Then why do people want to fall in love? Falling usually leaves you in a state of pain or at the very best, it doesn’t harm you. But a positive outcome from a fall? Never seen it. That’s the problem. It’s a misnomer. You are set up to fail right from the start. You are freefalling and there is nothing to stop you from hitting the ground. Love needs to be an action, not the

Why is this so hard to do with a peer or a mate? Well, since you don’t meet a peer in a helpless a state, one figures they don’t need to do as much for them : after all, they can feed themselves. They are, thankfully, toilet trained. They are even able get themselves everywhere they need to go. They seem completely independent. That’s where the trouble exists. Expectations! A kid is expected

to be dependent and demanding. A peer is not. But the trick is to take your cue from a drooling, crying, babbling baby. That baby knows how to make a lover out of someone— just let them give. So, if you want to be a lover, you must give to someone else! They may not need a bottle or a pacy or a push in a stroller but they do need help, support, thoughtfulness, gifts, attention, affection, and appreciation. Remember, you don’t want to be the person going to a party alone, called “stag,” rather you want to have someone with you. The best way to get that is STGAG (See The Good And Give). So stop reading this and take action. Go love someone. It might take a little more active effort but it’s definitely a lot less painful than taking a flop. Rivki Rosenwald is a certified relationship counselor, and career and life coach. She can be contacted at 917-705-2004 or rivki@ rosenwalds.com

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A lumpia is a type of spring roll, generally made in Oriental countries and in the Philippines.

Ingredients ¾ cup light brown sugar 2 tsp cinnamon 8 bananas, peeled and cut in half 16 lumpia or wonton or eggroll wrappers 1 cup coconut milk ¾ cup brown sugar Preparation Preheat oven to 400°F. Line baking sheet with parchment paper. In a medium bowl, combine brown sugar and cinnamon. Dredge each banana in cinnamon/sugar mixture and place banana on wonton wrapper. Roll wonton around the banana, being careful not to tear the wrapper. Wet the edges of the wrapper to seal the bananas in the lumpia. Place wrapped bananas onto baking sheet; lightly coat with cooking spray. Bake for 20-25 minutes, until golden brown. You can also choose to fry the lumpias in hot oil. Let them drain and cool slightly before serving. To make the sauce: pour the coconut milk into a medium saucepan over low heat. Heat until bubbling slightly, about 5 minutes. Add the brown sugar and stir until smooth. Thicken the sauce to your desired consistency by keeping it at a low boil and stirring very frequently. It thickens slightly as it cools, but you should be able to see it thickening in the pan as well. Serve immediately, garnished with sauce, and melted chocolate, if desired.

Avocado Corn Salsa Ingredients 2 cups canned corn, drained 1 jalapeno, seeded and diced ¼ cup diced red onion 2 TBS chopped fresh cilantro 2 TBS lime juice 1 tsp sugar ¼ tsp salt 1 avocado, diced Preparation In a large bowl, combine corn, jalapeno, red onion, cilantro, lime juice, sugar and salt. Stir in avocado. Serve immediately.

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Quinoa Fruit Salad Reprinted from two peas & their pod

Ingredients 1 cup quinoa 2 cups water Pinch of salt For the Honey Lime Dressing: Juice of 1 large lime 3 TBS honey 2 TBS finely chopped fresh mint For the fruit: 1 ½ cups blueberries 1 ½ cups sliced strawberw ries 1 ½ cups chopped mango Extra chopped mint, for garnish-optional Preparation Using a strainer, rinse the quinoa under cold water. Add quinoa, water, and salt to a medium saucepan and bring to a boil over medium heat. Boil for 5 minutes. Turn the heat to low and simmer for about 15 minutes, or until water is absorbed. Remove from heat and fluff with a fork. Let quinoa cool to room temperature. Make the dressing: In a medium bowl, whisk the lime juice, honey, and mint together until combined. In a large bowl, combine quinoa, blueberries, strawberries, and mango. Pour honey lime dressing over the fruit salad and mix until well combined. Garnish with additional mint, if desired. Serve at room temperature or chilled. You can use your favorite fruit in this salad. Blackberries, peaches, kiwi, raspberries, pineapple, grapes, etc. are great options.

Honey Teriyaki Spicy Wings Ingredients 3-4 lbs chicken wings 1 TBS corn starch 1 1/3 cup soy sauce 1/3 cup sherry cooking wine ½ cup honey 3 cloves garlic, minced 1 TBS grated ginger 2-3 TBS hot sauce, optional Preparation Preheat oven to 375°F. Lightly oil 9x13 baking dish with nonstick spray. In a small bowl, whisk together corn starch and 1 TBS water. In another bowl, whisk together soy sauce, sherry cooking wine, honey, garlic, ginger, hot sauce and corn starch mixture. Arrange wings on baking dish in a single layer. Pour sauce evenly over the wings. Bake for 45-50 minutes, using tongs to turn halfway during baking. After baking, broil for 2-3 minutes or until wings are slightly charred. Let cool for 10 minutes before serving.

Sparkling Strawberry Lemonade Ingredients ½ cup extra fine granulated sugar 1 pound strawberries, hulled ¾ cup freshly squeezed lemon juice 4 cups sparkling water Preparation Prepare the simple syrup: combine sugar and ½ cup water in medium saucepan over medium heat, stirring sugar until dissolved—2-3 minutes. Let cool. In a food processor, blend strawberries until smooth, 1-2 minutes. Strain through a cheesecloth or fine sieve. To prepare the drink: whisk together strawberry puree, lemon juice and simple syrup in a large pitcher. Place in the refrigerator until ready to serve. Serve over ice and sparkling water.

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From My Private Art Collection Rebbetzin Naomi N. Herzberg

A Picture Says More Than a Thousand Words It is interesting to note that despite their visual impairments the following people were able to create artwork that tell meaningful stories in visual form and are appreciated by so many people. We can learn so much from these artists who persevered and shared their talents, producing wonderful visual narratives and renditions.

gally blind and had many operations, which unfortunately were not productive. Eventually, Cassatt stopped producing artwork but her many existing works depicting “mother and child” speak volumes.

Edgar Degas (1834-1917) began to lose vision in his early thirties.“Scotoma- An area of deMary Cassatt creased central vi(1844-1926) was a sion, often caused diabetic. “Diabetic by macular degenRetinopathy—The eration” (Axel & leaking of retinal Levent, 2003). A blood vessels may well-known paintoccur in advanced ing dated 1872 is or long-term diacalled “The Ballet betes, and affects Studio at the Opthe macula (the era on Rue Le Pecentral area of the letier,” which was eye) or the endone in oil on cantire retina”(Axel vas. In one eye he Monet’s ‘Waterlily Pond, Green Harmony’ & Levent, 2003). could not see at all There is a welland he had issues known painting dated 1889 called in the other eye. He underwent many “Woman and Child before a Washstand treatments which did not help him and with Jar and Bowl” which was done in was also considered legally blind. pastel on paper. She was declared le-

a right pupil that appears dilated.

Van Gogh’s ‘Self- Portrait with Bandaged Ear’

Vincent Van Gogh (18531890) had glaucoma. “Chronic elevated eye pressure in susceptible individuals may cause optic nerve atrophy and loss of peripheral vision” (Axel & Levent, 2003). A well-known painting dated 1889 is called “Self- Portrait with Bandaged Ear,” which was done in oil on canvas. It is interesting to note that some of his self-portraits have

Claude Monet (1840-1926) had cataracts. “Opacity of the lens that results in diminished acuity but does not affect the person’s field of vision” (Axel & Levent, 2003). A well-known painting dated 1899 is called “Waterlily Pond, Green Harmony,” which was done in oil on canvas. While in his twenties, he was declared legally blind and underwent surgery. After his surgery there was improvement but he wore tinted lenses instead of clear lenses which was helpful. Until the time of his surgery, a fuzzy look in his works of art is noticeable.

Rembrandt’s ‘Self-Portrait in Old Age’

Rembrandt van Rijn (1606- 1669) created art even while aging. “Aging—As artists age so do the colors and details of their works, details often become less prominent” (Axel & Levent, 2003). A well-known painting dated 1669 is called “Self-Portrait in Old Age,” which was done in oil on canvas. Sometimes while a person ages, the details and colors used in their works of art can change by replacing one color for another. For example, blues and greens may be replaced with reds and browns. The details become less prominent than at a younger age. References: Axel, E.S. & Levent, N.S. (2003). Art beyond sight: A resource guide to art, creativity, and visual impairment. New York, New York, AFB Press Rebbetzin Naomi N. Herzberg is a professional art educator, artist and designer. Among her known artwork is a floral sculpture presented to Tipper Gore, Blair House, Washington, D.C. Presently she is the Director of Operations at Shulamith School for Girls. Please feel free to email nherzberg@ optonline.net with questions and suggestions for future columns.

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