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Dear Readers,

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ast week we thought that when the elections were finally over, we’d be able to get some respite from the chaos of the past few months. But since November 8, when perusing the news, I find it almost impossible to avoid the word Trump. Every selection he makes for his Cabinet is analyzed. In previous elections, when a president-elect selected someone for their Cabinet, it made a headline or two and barely anyone registered the event. The only time I really remember a scandal coming from a selection came more than twenty years ago, when Bill Clinton had the misfortune of nominating two women for attorney general who happened to have employed illegal immigrants as nannies for their children. At the time, it made everyone stop for a few moments to breathe a sigh of relief that Clinton never nominated them, and then we all moved on. But it’s been hard to move on. I hate to admit that a lot of the talk at my Shabbos table last week was not about the parsha. How he won, why he won, what his policies are, what’s so bad about her, what will the next four years be like – we just couldn’t get away from the T-word. The conversation at the table was a conversation – not a shouting match – but it was interesting since we

hosted some people who voted for Clinton and others who voted for Trump. They all came away with the sentiment that it’s OK to disagree and I am sure that in four years the conversation will be a lot different. Come for a Shabbos seudah then. Speaking of seudos and food, this week, Aliza Beer writes about combating the midnight munchies. I find that in the fall and the winter, when we’re cozy at home, we reach more for the cookies than the smoothies that we craved in the summer. And now that Shabbos is shorter, Motzei Shabbos calls for more than just a nibble or two. Because I do a lot of work at night, I sometimes want to reach for something to nosh on. But I’ve been trying something new. Instead of eating chips, I’ll grab some almonds or pistachios. They’re just as crunchy and much better for my heart. I’ve also been craving warm drinks during the recent cool nights, and lemon tea hits the spot for me as I red-ink pages of TJH before they go to the printer. If you offer me a mug of hot chocolate with whipped cream, though, I may not be able to pass that up. Wishing you a wonderful week, Shoshana

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Contents LETTERS TO THE EDITOR

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COMMUNITY Readers’ Poll

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Community Happenings

38 NEWS

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Global

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National

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Odd-but-True Stories

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The Electoral College: Disaster or Genius?

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ISRAEL Israel News

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Water by Rafi Sackville

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Israeli Innovations that Could Save your Life by Raizel Druxman

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PEOPLE How Tanks Helped Israel Win the Yom Kippur War by Avi Heiligman 108 PARSHA Rabbi Wein

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JEWISH THOUGHT On Again Off Again by Rabbi Jonathan Gewirtz

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Advice about Advice by Eytan Kobre

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HEALTH & FITNESS What’s the Problem with Marriage? by Dvorah Levy, LCSW

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Florida, Winter Break and Zika by Dr. Hylton I Lightman

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Putting an End to the Midnight Munching by Aliza Beer, MS RD 89 FOOD & LEISURE Melava Malka Munchies

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Dear Editor, I wanted to point out one consequence of Mr. Trump’s victory that was not covered too well in our newspapers: school choice. It’s not a secret that in our community one of the most difficult financial burdens for larger families is the tuition. This issue affects not only the parents but also the teachers who are severely underpaid compared to public school teachers. All this despite the fact that in many of our schools the secular education is better than in average public schools (as an aside I personally went to the best public school here, Stuyvesant High School, and even there a large percentage of teachers taught absolutely nothing but could not be fired being members of powerful unions). Now, of course, Mr. Trump can’t do it alone, but given that the congress and senate are also Republican he can do a lot. Even though our state governor and city mayor are Democrats, the federal government might be able to make the funds they provide to the states conditional on allowing school choice. I think we should closely watch what Mr. Trump can do on this issue and if necessary try to write to our local government to promote the solution of this major problem in our community. (The other major financial burden is, of

course, expensive weddings, but here the government can’t help us, though we can help ourselves if a few nonfor-profit wedding halls would open with catering, photographer, musician and other stuff on regular pay rather than different ones being hired for each wedding; this will come out a lot cheaper, especially if these halls will have separate rooms to run a few weddings simultaneously.) Sincerely, Chaim Sunitsky

Dear Editor, Note is made of the excellent article, “Trump Israel Advisor David Friedman Spends Last Campaign Night in Hometown” by Tammy Mark. The narrative of that piece details the unique relation that Friedman enjoys with our new president-elect. The reportage was right on the spot noting how this relationship has the potential for future improved relations between Israel and the United States. Given these events, I am sure that your readers will find it of interest that there was another Friedman, the father of David, Rabbi Morris Friedman, z”l, of Temple Hillel of North Woodmere, who also enjoyed a relationship with another U.S. presContinued on page 12

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LIFESTYLES Dating Dialogue, Moderated by Jennifer Mann, LCSW 82

What Trump’s Win Means for Education by Chaim Homnick

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Success Story by Rabbi Mordechai Kruger

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Your Money

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The Proof is in the Pudding by Rivki D. Rosenwald Esq., CLC, SDS

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Did you get your flu shot yet?

HUMOR Centerfold

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Rocky’s Rant: For Agita Press One

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Uncle Moishy Fun Page

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POLITICAL CROSSFIRE Notable Quotes

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How the New Republican Majority can Succeed by Charles Krauthammer 104 CLASSIFIEDS

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Senator Alfonse D’ Amato, President Ronald Reagan, and Rabbi Morris Friedman at Temple Hillel

The family of Rabbi Morris Friedman of Temple Hillel standing with President Ronald Reagan on his historic visit to our community in October of 1984. David Friedman is standing behind the woman in the red dress.

ident. On Friday night, October 26, 1984, Rabbi Friedman hosted President Ronald Reagan at Hillel where the president delivered a formal address, an event very unique in American presidential history. In that most eloquent address President Reagan made the following observation: “We must never remain silent in the face of bigotry. We must condemn those who seek to divide us. In all quarters and at all times, we must teach tolerance and denounce racism, anti-Semitism, and all ethnic or religious bigotry wherever they exist as unacceptable evils. We have no

place for haters in America – none, whatsoever. “And let’s not kid ourselves, the so-called anti-Zionists that we hear in the United Nations is just another mask in some quarters for vicious anti-Semitism. And that’s something the United States will not tolerate wherever it is, no matter how subtle it may be. “We stand with you in support of our friend and democratic ally in the Middle East, the State of Israel. And together, we can build an even better future for our children and for America. And together, we will.” These firm and stark sentiments

are rarely heard from the current president, and given the reputation of David Friedman and of his firm relationship with President-elect Trump, we will once again hear and witness a new affirmation of a foreign policy that will emulate and further expand upon the words of President Reagan, who came to our community, hosted by David’s father, Rabbi Morris Friedman, z”l. Alan Jay Gerber Cedarhurst, NY

Dear Editor, Election Day has come and gone reminds me of “The Outer Limits” 1960’s television show. With the end of round-the-clock commercials by politicians, we now return control of your television back to you. A picture speaks volumes. Some important Democratic Party leaders and elected officials other than Queens Democratic Party Chairperson and Congressmember Joe Crowley appeared to be missing at former Senator and Secretary of State Hillary Clinton’s concession speech. When the cameras panned the crowd, I didn’t see Mayor Bill de Blasio, NYC Comptroller Scott Stringer, Senators Chuck Schumer and Kirsten Gillibrand of NY along with Corey Booker and Bob Menendez of New Jersey along with Gov. Andrew Cuomo, State Comptroller Tom DiNapoli and State Attorney General Eric Schneiderman. How quickly yesterday’s friends have become Clintons long-lost acquaintances. Perhaps the Democratic Party leadership has no loyalty. There is good news for both Bill and Hillary Clinton. They both can spend more time working for the Clinton Foundation with no potential conflicts of interest. Feel free to grab as many $100,000 to $500,000 speeches before any former potential Pay for Play Wall Street or other special interest group. They can build upon their $100 million plus family fortune, spend more time at home in 99% lily white trendy suburban Chappaqua, New York, and continue hanging out with Hollywood and other society elites. There is no need to pretend to be friends of the 99% while living the good life only the 1% know who they previously were so quick to criticize. Do as I say, not as I do has always been the Clinton family motto. Sincerely, Larry Penner

Dear Editor, We are always so concerned that our children will feel bad if they lose a game or fail at something. There’s a movement that I’ve been seeing in which “we’re all winners!” All children get prizes regardless of their effort and if they excelled or not. Some schools, I have heard, are even abolishing valedictorians and salutatorians because it would make those who did not receive the honor feel bad. Have we become insane? In our effort not to hurt our kids’ feelings (pooh, pooh, pooh), we are teaching our children to instead become mediocre individuals who have never tasted a feeling of success. Why am I bringing this up now? The election and its aftermath brought it to mind. We are seeing the outcome of our delusions on the streets of the United States. These individuals (who apparently do not have jobs or places to go and things to do during the day) have been protesting and screaming because “their candidate” did not win. “Not my president!” they scream. Sadly, it’s possible that they are not to blame for their immature, irrational behavior. Perhaps they were taught that “we are all winners.” Perhaps they were taught that there’s no such a thing as winning, as long as you play the game. So when someone actually wins an election – and it’s not the outcome that they wanted – they start to tantrum and kick and scream. On a smaller scale, Hillary Clinton shares a bit of this immature behavior when it came out that she blamed FBI Director James Comey for her defeat. Of course it wasn’t because she didn’t campaign hard enough, or listen to the people’s voices, or visit the right states, or become a bit more genuine. No, no, no. It was because of Comey. Forget about the fact that if she would have done the right things in the first place (not use a private server, not dip into the Clinton Foundation, etc.) Comey wouldn’t even be in the picture. But no, her defeat is all his fault. Hillary, I know you’re hurting, but please don’t place the blame elsewhere. Take a step back, analyze when went wrong, and accept your defeat. In conclusion, I urge your readers to look at the streets of the United States today and pledge to themselves that they will raise responsible, mature children who can become the leaders – and not the tantrumers – of future generations. Sincerely, Adam Levy


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Venice, Italy, is a major destination for world travelers. Each year about 20 million outsiders storm the cannels. Built on dozens of tiny islands, water is the most practical way to move from place to place, making it unique in its architecture. Residents of the quaint city are fed up with the constant throngs of tourists. In protest, many native Venetians stormed the streets last week, waving flags and dragging empty suitcases to symbolize an exodus of residents. Venetians claim that the wave of tourist make everyday life challenging. They say that a simple trip to the supermarket can turn stressful due to the hordes of tourists. Congestion isn’t the only issue affecting the quality of life for Venetians. Housing prices have been inflated due to the high demand of short-term tourist rentals. Citizens are pressuring the tourist industry to limit access to the city through a booking system. “This is not a protest against tourism, it’s a protest against the policies that the city has followed in the last 40 years,” Venetian resident Andrea Castelli clarified. “We don’’t want to leave the city – we are Venetian – we

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want to live here, so we are asking the City of Venice to help us to stay in Venice.” Castelli led a procession of residents toting a huge red cardboard suitcase and wheeling their own bags. They then boarded a gondola and symbolically left the city. Protesters hung a banner that read “#Venexodus” on the Rialto Bridge and glued to their trolleys signs that read, “Without Venetians? Don’t call me Venice anymore.” “Venice is a fragile city, fragile structurally and physically but also when it comes to its social fabric,” resident Federico Permutti said. “If you add to that the lack of housing for locals and a wild proliferation of accommodation offered to tourists, you can understand that the situation is unbearable for those who live here.” According to city resident Sebastian Giorgi, the city’s population drops by about 1,000 per year. An electronic display in a pharmacy’s shop window shows the current number of residents at 54,926. Beside the display there is a sign claiming that in 1951 there was a population of 174,808, which had decreased to 60,704 by March 2008.

A Dictator’s Burial – 23 Years Later

The body of Ferdinand Marcos, the former president of the Philippines, has been embalmed and on display in Hawaii for the past 23 years. Before the extremely controversial dictator died, he was exiled from the Philippines, and until now has never been allowed back to his home country. This week, Rodrigo Duterte, the current president of the Philippines, approved Marcos’s fam-

ily’s long-standing request to have the dictator’s body buried in Manila National Heroes Cemetery with full military honors. Marcos ran the Philippines with an iron fist for 20 years. In 1986, he and his wife Imelda fled to Hawaii when the “people power” revolution overtook him. Though his official salary had never been higher than $13,500, the Marcoses had amassed a huge personal fortune and it is estimated that he and his cronies bilked the Philippines out of over $10 billion. His reign also saw thousands of Filipinos thrown in jail without explanation and, in many cases, tortured. It is no wonder that his successors never saw fit to grant his family’s request for a hero’s burial. Duterte is allowing the burial not because of Mr. Marcos’s political record, but because of his military record. Though it is well-documented that the grandiose stories of Marcos’s valor during WWII have been largely fabricated, he definitely was a soldier in the war. The Marcos family is still very powerful in the Philippines. It is, therefore, not a coincidence that Duterte is granting this request. However, it is not without popular

support – a petition was signed by over 1.1 million people supporting the burial.

Neo-Nazis Make Kristallnacht Anniversary Threat On the 78th anniversary of Kristallnacht, a Berlin-based neo-Nazi group posted a map of 70 current Jewish institutions and businesses on their Facebook page. The map, showing addresses and location of the Jewish establishments, was titled “Jews among Us.” The list includes shuls, daycare centers, schools, memorials, businesses, restaurants and cemeteries. The post also had a tagline saying that today, Kristallnacht, is “such a nice day!” Kristallnacht is considered by many historians to be the opening shot in the violent and murderous campaign the Nazis led against the Jews during the Holocaust. The establishments on the list were all contacted by MBR (the Mobile Counsel against Right-wing Ex-

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Military aid to Tajikistan is focused on stopping the trafficking of narcotics and terrorism because the country is a close ally of Russia. Emomali Rakhmonov, the country’s eccentric and dictatorial president, supervises which direction the aid flows. Rakhmonov’s police forces have been accused of excessive force and human rights abuses. Although it is unclear exactly what areas of military training Khalimov received, a 2008 diplomatic cable from the Tajikistan embassy that has been released by WikiLeaks shows what training was requested. The groups wanted training in “mission analysis and the military decision making process, intelligence preparation of the battlefield, direct action, raids and ambushes, special reconnaissance, close quarters combat and battle, sniper and observe operations, military operations in urban terrain” – dangerous information in the wrong hands.

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for criminals. Now he has warned that his strong rule of law will also pertain to terrorists who wish to reside in the Philippines. This week, Duterte pointed out that the province of Mindanao is a hotbed of rebellion in his country. He is worried about “looming terrorism” and extremists who may want to take up home there. “Once the terrorists of the Middle East are deprived of the land area, the real estate area where they can sleep ... they will wander to other places and they will come here and we have to prepare for that,” he said during a speech at a law enforcement agency. “Remember, these guys, they do not have an iota of what is human rights, believe me. I will not just simply allow my people to be slaughtered for the sake of human rights, that’s [crazy].” Some say that Duterte has been violating his people’s rights as his war on drugs has cost many people their lives. A native of Mindanao and mayor of Davao City for 22 years, Duterte said there was a “very strong” Islamist rebellion there and Abu Sayyaf rebels were taking hostages almost every day. The group is holding 21 captives, most of them foreign. The Philippines, Indonesia and Malaysia are working closely to keep foreign extremists at bay, Duterte said. On Friday, he warned that he may use his executive power to tackle lawlessness in the Philippines by suspending habeas corpus, a legal safeguard against arbitrary arrest and detention. The constitution allows 60-day suspensions “in case of invasion or rebellion, when the public safety requires it” and would permit arrests without a warrant and detention without charge for three days.

Morsi to be Retried Ousted Islamist president Mohamed Morsi must have a lot of luck – and he may need more of it. This week, an Egyptian appeals court overturned a death sentence handed down to the former leader in one of four trials since his 2013 overthrow. The court ordered him to be retried on the charges of taking part in prison breaks and violence against policemen during the 2011 uprising which toppled longtime president Hosni Mubarak.

Five co-defendants, including the supreme guide of the now outlawed Muslim Brotherhood, Mohamed Badie, who also received death sentences in June 2015, will be retried too. Last month, the same appeals court upheld a 20-year jail sentence handed down against Morsi in April in a separate trial on charges of ordering the use of deadly force against protesters during his year in power. But Morsi is not off the hook. He has also been sentenced to life in prison in two other trials. In one, he was convicted of spying for Iran, Lebanese militant group Hezbollah and the Palestinian Islamist movement Hamas. In the other, he was found guilty of stealing documents relating to national security and handing them over to Qatar, a longstanding supporter of the Brotherhood. Egypt’s first freely elected civilian president, Morsi came to power after Mubarak’s overthrow. He was toppled by then-army chief and current President Abdel Fattah al-Sisi following mass street protests. The Brotherhood has since been blacklisted and subjected to a crackdown that has killed hundreds of his supporters and jailed thousands.

Iran Violates Nuclear Deal

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143.3 tons. The International Atomic Energy Agency report discovered that Iran’s stockpile exceeded that amount by 0.10 metric tons. Heavy water can be an explosion concern because it is used in reactors that produce substantial amounts of plutonium, a potential path to nuclear weapons. Investigators are claiming that this isn’t the first violation of the deal – it’s the second. “It’s important to note that Iran made no effort to hide this, hide what it was doing from the IAEA,” State Dept. spokesman Mark Toner told reporters. IAEA added that Iran surpassed the limit in February. In the report it was noted that Tehran said it intended to export 5.5 tons to an unspecified country, which would bring its number back under the limit. This disclosure came one day after Election Day in the United States, when Iran released a warning to the U.S. to uphold its end of the deal regardless of who controls the White House, a response to Trump’s threats along the campaign trail to rework the nuclear deal. The president-elect has described the Iran agreement as “the worst deal ever negotiated.”

IDF Field Hospital is Best in the World

It was a wonderful recognition of the thousands of volunteers and their unbelievable dedication and expertise around the world. Last week, the United Nation’s World Health Organization recognized the Israeli army’s field hospital, which is regularly sent abroad to provide aid at natural disaster sites, as “the number one in the world” in a ceremony last week, classifying it as its first and only “Type 3” field hospital, according to its commander, Lt. Col. (res.) Dr. Ofer Merin.

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In 2013, the United Nation’s WHO created a set of criteria to classify foreign medical teams in sudden onset disasters, on a scale from one to three. Israel is now the only country to receive the top mark. “Only a handful in the world could even think of” doing so in the future, Dr. Ian Norton, the lead author of the classification system and head of the WHO delegation, said in a conversation with The Times of Israel last month. In the ceremony last Wednesday, the IDF’s field hospital team received the “Type 3” designation, along with some additional “specialized care” recognitions, which technically made it a “Type 3 plus,” though the army kept the information quiet until Sunday. “We’re going to recommend the director-general verifies [Israel’s team] as a Type 1, Type 2, and also Type 3 and multiple different types of specialty cells,” Norton announced. “We haven’t had that ever before,” Norton said, praising the months of work put in by the Israeli team to receive the designation. A Type 1 medical team can offer first aid and other immediate emergency care on an outpatient basis, meaning the victims do not remain in the hospital for extended periods of time; a Type 2 has at least 20 beds for inpatients and can perform 7-15 surgeries per day; and a Type 3 has twice as many inpatient beds, an intensive care unit and can perform 15-30 surgeries per day, as well as provide a host of other services, including rehabilitation. Israel’s field hospital blows past some of these requirements: A Type 3 field hospital needs 40 inpatient beds, Israel’s has 86. A Type 3 needs two operating rooms, Israel’s has four. For Type 2 and Type 3 teams there are additional “specialized care team” designations, including burn units, dialysis, obstetrics and gynecology, and reconstructive plastic surgery. Israel, in addition to its Type 3 designation, was also recognized for its abilities in the latter two categories, plastic surgery and OB/GYN care, making it a “Type 3 plus.” Israel will receive official WHO patches noting the new designation, and members of the IDF’s Medical Corps, including Merin, will meet with the head of the international organization at a formal ceremony in Hong Kong at the end of the month, the army said. In a phone conversation with re-

porters on Sunday, Merin, who has personally invested “hundreds of hours” in the recognition process, described the experience of having the work he and his team have done be classified as the best in the world as “emotional.” “I wish I could sit here and say it’s a ‘Mazal tov’ for me, but it’s a ‘Mazal tov’ for the army, for Israel,” Merin exulted. The recognition process took nearly a year, beginning in January 2016, most of that meticulously reviewing manuals and ensuring that Israel met the criteria. According to Merin, the military’s field hospital is “not just some medics and doctors spread out in the field”; rather it is a “national treasure” that has the capabilities of an advanced, permanent hospital but can be set up almost anywhere in under 12 hours. Israeli disaster relief delegations — some of them led by Merin — have been some of the first and largest to arrive at the scenes of natural disasters. Teams from the IDF Medical Corps and Home Front Command provided rescue and medical services after an earthquake in Turkey in 1999, an earthquake in Haiti in 2010, a typhoon in the Philippines in 2013 and, most recently, an earthquake in Nepal in 2015. This Type 3 classification ensures that Israeli teams will continue to be the first allowed on the scene of future disasters and further cements Israel’s position as a world leader in emergency medicine, proving to friends and foes alike that the Jewish state knows how to handle catastrophes. “This recognition isn’t just international. It’s also recognition for ourselves, showing us what we can do,” the army spokesperson said on Sunday. While Israel’s emergency medical teams may be best known for their work abroad, Merin stressed that this takes a backseat to its primary directive. “Our role is, first of all, to deploy and assist in either — G-d forbid — a natural disaster, which can happen because Israel’s on an active [fault line] or in cases of war,” he said. Israel’s regular humanitarian relief efforts have drawn both international praise and accusations of “rubble-washing” — or using its disaster relief effort to boost its international standing. Helping other countries in need is “the most effective kind of diplomacy,” then-foreign minister Avigdor Liberman said in


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2015, after Israel sent a team to Nepal. “In crafting a country’s image, nothing is more effective than providing aid.” Diplomats insist the drive is mostly altruistic. “If we’re sending aid to Haiti, the Philippines and Nepal, we’re obviously not looking to reap great diplomatic benefits from these countries, which I might be allowed to describe as not superpowers,” said a former senior diplomat in 2015 In addition to being the only Type 3 team in the world, Israel’s is also the only one with a “military component” that has been recognized by the WHO. “It’s a proud moment for all the Jews around the world and for people from Israel and for people from the IDF Medical Corps. It’s great moment for all of us, really. It’s a great moment,” Merin said.

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Bibi Denies Inciting Rabin’s Death Prime Minister Bibi Netanyahu spent last week defending himself

against allegations that he indirectly contributed to the 1995 assassination of former Prime Minister Yitzchak Rabin. In a social media video, Netanyahu condemned the “shocking political assassination” of Rabin, who was a fierce political rival of his. Bibi said

that he is a victim of “attempts to distort the historical truth and attribute the incitement that preceded his murder.” Netanyahu also attached two videos of himself condemning the incitement against Rabin from the mid‘90s and invited his Facebook followers to “judge for themselves” whether


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Bibi promoted anti-Rabin violence. The video shows Netanyahu calling the anti-Rabin rhetoric “wrong, misguided and immoral.”

Yigal Amir, an extremist Jew, murdered Yitzhak Rabin on November 4, 1995. Amir, like many others, opposed the Oslo Accords in which parts of the West Bank were given to the Palestinians as part of the peace agreement. The accusations against Netanyahu stem from the fact that he, along with other members of his Likud Party, attended a radical rightwing protest rally where Rabin was called a “traitor,” “murderer” and a “Nazi” for signing the Accords. There are photographs of Netanyahu standing on a balcony over Kikar Tzion as protesters carried a black coffin with Rabin’s name on it through the crowds. Netanyahu came under fire again from left-wing politicians for failing to condemn a claim by fellow Likud member David Bitan that Rabin’s assassination was “not political.” In his Facebook post, Netanyahu did condemn the killing as “a shocking political assassination, abhorred by all.”

ADT: Automated Diamond Tester

The Israeli tech sector is looking to put another job into more objective, automated “hands.” In order to streamline and create more objectivity in the fine stone industry, Sarine Technologies Ltd. has invented a machine that can instantly grade the

clarity of polished diamonds. The diamond rating industry has always been a painstaking process that left the grading up to the subjectivity of the diamond appraisal. The new system is being tested in India and is planned to be brought to market in mid-2017. The company hopes that its invention will enhance consumer trust in each diamond’s valuation. “Instead of a human looking at the diamond from various angles – maybe the light isn’t good, maybe he drank too much coffee – so he is making a mistake,” said executive director Uzi Levami. The machine can “make the final decision for the grade of the diamond,” he said. Diamond dealers will still be needed to provide other services, such as determining if a stone is authentic. Although Israel does not produce any diamonds, the country is a leading polishing and trading center. Israel was one of the founding members of the Kimberley Process, which is the global body responsible for shutting down the “blood diamond” trade. The Israel Diamond Institute advertises that it has the world’s largest diamond trading floor.

Lauding a Terrorist

Next time you are in Ramallah, make sure to check out the new Yasser Arafat Museum that has just opened. Twelve years after Arafat’s death, a $7 million building has been filled with the personal effects of the Cairo-born former head of the PLO and chairman of the Palestinian Authority. The building is inside his Ramallah compound, directly behind his grave. The 2,600 square meter building has two floors. The items on display include such interesting items as his rifle, his headgear, and the sunglasses he wore during a 1974 UN address.


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UN Rep: Don’t Shoot Terrorists

Michael Lynk is the United Nation’s special rapporteur to Judea, Samaria, and Gaza. His job is to report on the proceedings of all meetings taking place concerning the region. Last week, Lynk said he was “very concerned” by the use of live ammunition when dealing with terrorists that are stabbing people. “Lethal force is supposed to be used as a last resort and only when there is a legitimate threat to a security officer’s life,” said Lynk. Since October 2015, dozens of Israelis have been murdered in such knife attacks. Over 200 Arab terrorists have been killed while committing these deadly assaults. In many cases, the terrorists have been captured, however, they often charge at the people trying to capture them, forcing the security officer to open fire. For many years, it has been obvious that the special rapporteur position is inherently biased, as the job is only mandated to investigate Israeli abuses. Like all of his predecessors, Lynk has been denied an Israeli visa. Israeli officials have refused his offer to meet with them in North America. He is a law professor at Western University in Ontario. When asked if he was willing to extend his mandate to investigate rights abuses by all sides (and not just Israel), Lynk said that was “something I am open to and am considering.” Considering the UN’s abysmal history with the Jewish State, we won’t hold our breath.

The hallways are covered with pictures of Arafat with other world leaders. The Nobel Prize the murderer ironically received along with Yitzchak Rabin and Shimon Peres after the Oslo Accords were signed is on display as well. The main attraction is the small bedroom that Arafat hung out in during the second

intifada. The opening ceremony of the museum was kicked off with a ribbon cutting by former Secretary General Amr Moussa and Palestinian President Mahmoud Abbas. Aiman Udeh, an Arab member of Knesset, made a speech in his memory. On Facebook, Minister of Defense

Avigdor Lieberman pointed out, “He’s not willing to attend Peres’s funeral in Jerusalem, but he’ll make a speech in Arafat’s memory. We’ll continue to act until he will no longer be a member of Knesset in Jerusalem, but at most a member of the Palestinian Council in Ramallah.”

Cracking Down on iTrader Seven top officers and salespeople at the Ramat Gan offices of iTrader were arrested this week when their offices were raided by the Is-


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rael Securities Authority (ISA). The arrested individuals are accused of providing investment advice without a license, as well as aggravated fraud.

The ISA says the company, and several other binary options and trading companies like it, have been bilking customers for years. The scheme is basically to tell customers that they should invest in companies that are not doing as well as the broker says, and then to make money on the sales commissions. Attorney Eran Shacham-Shavit, the deputy counsel of the ISA’s investigation, told a judge that iTrader “is essen-

tially a well-oiled machine of fraud and exploitation of customers.” While speaking at a hearing being held to discuss the suspects’ release under restrictive conditions, Shacham-Shavit added, “Customers did not understand what they were investing in, and believed the falsehoods presented to them by employees of the company, who presented themselves as trading coaches and knew exactly what deceptive things to say to get customers to fork over more money.” The ISA also plans on making the case against salespeople, as there was no way they did not know was going on. As an ISA official put it: “Their entire goal was to feed the well-oiled money machine that led to failed investments, with full knowledge that there was a very great chance their customers would lose their money.” Many customers lost large six-figure shekel sums by investing with the company. According to Israeli news outlets, the company is owned by organized crime figure Roey Hayun. Last January, Hayun was awarded a 26 month stay in jail for fraud, money laundering and

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Minister Gives Away Expensive Drone – on a Whim

Whoops. Uri Ariel, the Agricultural Minister in Israel, just gave away a $50,000 one-of-a-kind piece of cutting edge research equipment to Russian Prime Minister Dmitry Medvedev. The gift was an impulse present. When Medvedev was playing with the controls of a remote controlled research helicopter during a tour of

the Volcani Agricultural Research Organization, Ariel asked his ministry’s director general Shlomo Ben Eliyahu for permission to give the equipment as a gift. Ben Eliyahu gave the OK, and the NIS 200,000 present was given. Volcani representatives tried to push off and get around the commitment without upsetting the trip, but after the tour, two Russian men took the helicopter and many of its accessories to their airplane. Government regulations state that gifts to visitors from abroad must be capped at NIS 700. It is now being reported that the department of government that supervises security exports is investigating the matter. Needless to say, the researchers at Volcani were less than thrilled to be losing a $50,000 machine. The 35-pound helicopter is capable of carrying a 5.5 pound thermal and infrared camera which can measure the actual water by crops and trees which have been given uniform irrigation. Chances are, though, once you give the Russians a gift, you may not be able to take it back.

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In the days following Donald Trump’s White House victory, Americans took to social media and the street to express their dissatisfaction or enthusiasm. All the while, Donald Trump was busy with meetings and planning for the most important job of his life. The president-elect met with President Barack Obama in his soonto-be Oval Office. The Trump family also sat down with CBS’s Lesley Stahl for a “60 Minutes” interview to share their hopes, dreams, and plans for the future. Trump also began to appoint people to his Cabinet. He named Reince Priebus as his White House chief of staff, perhaps the most important and powerful job of all. He also appointed Steve Bannon, the head of his campaign and of the far-right website Breitbart, as his “chief strategist and senior counselor.” Trump’s statement said that Bannon and Priebus would work as “equal partners.” “Steve and Reince are highly qualified leaders who worked well together on our campaign and led us to a historic victory,” Trump said. “Now I will have them both with me in the White House as we work to make America great again.” Bannon mentioned his “very successful partnership” with Priebus, who said in his own statement that the Trump White House would “work to create an economy that works for everyone, secure our borders, repeal and replace Obamacare and destroy radical Islamic terrorism.” Priebus, Chairman of the Republican National Committee, was very active in trying to secure Republican leaders to support Trump. He has also been a fixture in Washington and Wisconsin politics since the

mid-2000s. After the unsuccessful Republican election in 2012, Priebus led the so-called “autopsy report” to analyze the failure and helped focus the campaign to win over Hispanic voters and women. Bannon, a former Goldman Sachs executive spent who last several years leading Breitbart News, has been accused by some of anti-Semitism. The ADL’s chief executive, Jonathan Greenblatt, welcomed Priebus’ appointment but said of Bannon’s: “It is a sad day when a man who presided over the premier website of the ‘alt-right’ – a loose-knit group of white nationalists and unabashed anti-Semites and racists – is slated to be a senior staff member in the ‘people’s house’.” Rudy Giuliani and John Bolton have been named as possible candidates to fill the position of secretary of state.

IL Politician Indicted on 24 Counts

Another one bites the dust…yes, another politician is making headlines for fraud. Former Illinois Rep. Aaron Schock, 35, was indicted last Thursday by a federal grand jury on 24 criminal counts including theft of government funds, fraud, making false statements and filing false tax returns. His sentence has not been handed down yet, but several of the counts have maximum penalties of 20 years jail time. Elected in 2008, Schock resigned from the House last year on March 31, 2015. Later that day he was served with a subpoena outside his home by three federal agents. The subpoena told him to appear before the grand jury and to turn over a large number of records from the previous five years. He never testified before the panel. Schock was active on social media


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and made it clear he appreciated the high life. He was accused of excessive spending after spending thousands redecorating his congressional office using government money – some claim he purchased lighting that cost about $5K. The lawmaker was also accused of elaborate “business” trips, unnecessary use of private aircraft, and a habit of overbilling the government for auto mileage. Before the U.S. attorney’s office had a chance to announce the indictment in Springfield, Schock and his defense attorney George Terwilliger issued their own statement. “I intend to not only prove these allegations false, but in the process, expose this

investigation for what it was,” Schock said. Terwilliger, a defense attorney from Washington, said “criminalizing a handful of administrative mistakes” and issuing the charges two days after an election “has all the appearances of a politically calculated ambush.”

America’s Most Influential Jews? According to the Daily Forward, there are many influential Jews who have impacted American life. One of

the top five has a very famous father: Ivanka Trump. The Forward 50 is the paper’s annual list of 50 Jews who have impacted Americans. The other four in the top five on the list are singer/poet Bob Dylan, who recently won the Nobel Prize for Literature; Theo Epstein, president of baseball operations for the World Series champion Chicago Cubs; Julia Ioffe, a Jewish journalist targeted with anti-Semitic posts on Twitter; and Daveed Diggs, a rapper and “Hamilton” actor. The list, subtitled “A Year of Curses and Many Blessings,” covers categories including business, community, culture, food, law, media, politics, religion and sports.

Regarding Ivanka, the Forward wrote that she “carried none of the baggage of the Trump family.” “Her style of Trump was less gold leaf and loud ties; more pastels and pencil skirts. While her father was the butt of two decades of jokes among New York City’s elite, Ivanka was on the inside, a buddy to Chel-

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t’s November 9 and there are many sad Americans. But there is none sadder and more despondent than Madam Hillary. After months, years and probably decades of preparing for the Oval Office, her dreams have been shattered. Where does someone move on from here? Other failed candidates have taken on new roles or have shunned the spotlight. Here is a trip down memory lane and a look into presidential hopefuls who never made it to the White House. Adlai Stevenson, who ran and lost in both 1952 and 1956 for the Democrat Party (why would they let him try again?), thankfully did not attempt to take the White House in 1960. Instead, when John F. Kennedy became president, the young president appointed Stevenson to serve as U.S. Ambassador to the United Nations. He played a pivotal role in solving the Cuban Missile Crisis. Richard Nixon sought the presidency against Kennedy in 1960. Remember his drawn face on the first debate viewed on TV? He was no match for the youthful JFK. But the vice president in the Eisenhower administration did not take defeat too well. He didn’t concede one of America’s closest elections until the morning following Election Day. Three days after the vote, he said he wouldn’t challenge the results. His bitter concession speech (“You won’t have Nixon to kick around anymore”) made some believe that

was the last we heard of him. But he was far from done. Nixon joined a law firm and campaigned for the Republicans until he finally came back and won the presidency in 1968. Of course we know the rest of the story: in 1974 he became the first U.S. president to resign amid the chaos that ensued during the Watergate scandal. Barry Goldwater lost to Lyndon B. Johnson in 1964. But he didn’t leave politics. He remained an influential senator and champion of the far right. He retired from politics in 1987. Hupert Humphrey also returned to the Senate in 1970 after his loss to Nixon in 1968. He attempted to head to the White House in 1972, but lost the Democratic nomination to George McGovern. When McGovern eventually lost his bid for the White House in 1972 to Nixon, he took the failure pretty hard. He returned to the Senate and delivered a blistering speech assailing Nixon and his perceived abuses of power at Oxford University. He was blasted from both the right and left for his discourse. “I probably shouldn’t have done it,” he admitted in 2005. “It was just that the thought of sitting there listening to Nixon articulate his vision – and not being able to respond – was so unpleasant.” Gerald Ford lost the election in 1976 to Jimmy Carter. He was so emotional from the campaign that his wife, Betty Ford, delivered his concession speech for him. His years after the White House were

mostly quiet and many were surprised when a 2004 interview that was released after his death strongly rebuked George W. Bush’s foreign policy. It is perhaps Jimmy Carter – who lost the presidency bid in 1980 – who made the most of his failure. The former president has been lauded for his work with Habitat for Humanity, the Carter Center, and other diplomatic efforts. He received the Nobel Peace Prize in 2002. Carter has also earned a reputation as one of the most outspoken and politically engaged former presidents – writing several bestselling, and sometimes controversial, books centered on his positions on foreign policy, humanitarian work and more. George H. W. Bush served one term as president and then lost his bid for reelection to Bill Clinton in 1992. Since he left the White House, though, Bush 41 has been enjoying his family and outdoor pursuits, including his annual skydiving trip. Bob Dole effectively ended his 45 years in politics with his loss in 1996 to Clinton. Since then, he became a pitchman for many products included Pepsi and Visa. Dole is the only living former presidential nominee to have consistently endorsed Donald Trump for president. Remember election 2000? It was all about Florida and chads and disappointment for many Americans. Indeed Al Gore lost

the electoral vote to George W. Bush but won the popular vote, as is the case in the 2016 election. In the aftermath of his defeat, Gore grew a beard and took up the climate change cause. He also won the Nobel Peace Prize in 2007 and launched a failed TV network which netted him millions. John Kerry lost the 2004 election by an extremely slim margin to President George W. Bush. He returned to the Senate and eventually became Security of State after Hillary Clinton, sealing the Iran nuclear deal. John McCain also returned to his role in the Senate after his 2008 defeat to Obama. He continues to garner respect amongst his colleagues. Mitt Romney, who lost in the 2012 election, has laid low after his failure to capture the White House, although he was the subject of a documentary, “Mitt,” and boxed with former heavyweight champion Evander Holyfield for charity. Where does that leave Hillary? Will she return to politics, take up a cause, focus on her family, enjoy outdoor pursuits or remain a critic of President Trump? Only time will tell.


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“This is just a way of everyone getting together and feeling like they can protect each other from whatever policies the president-elect is going to enact that will be oppressive to women, people of color, Muslims, immigrants, basically any marginalized group,” said Janette Chien, 27, of Philadelphia, during a Thursday rally there. Ironically many civil rights groups that had denounced street marches during the Obama years were out on the streets protesting. Gregory McKelvey, who has organized Black Lives Matter events in Portland, said he is behind the Facebook posting announcing the “Portland’s Resistance” event but insists that he is unaffiliated with those who engaged in violence. “We think Portland has the opportunity to be a beacon of light during a dark Donald Trump presidency,” said McKelvey, whose group has issued a list of demands calling for rent control, abortion rights and safe streets. “It’s because he got elected that we feel are unsafe, so we want our city to be a safety net.” Sadly the protestors are hurting themselves more than anyone else. Portland’s Mayor Charlie Hales said in a statement, “I’m saddened by the destruction of our public spaces and local businesses caused by rioters. Although the majority of over 4,000 protesters last night were peaceful and followed Portland Police safety instructions, anarchists shut down these voices by spreading violence and fear.” About 25 people were apprehended in Portland alone. They are charged with disorderly conduct and interfering with peace officers. Nationally police departments say they have arrested at least 350 people in connection with these protests. In response to Thursday’s protest, President-elect Trump tweeted: “Just had a very open and successful presidential election. Now professional protesters, incited by the media, are protesting. Very unfair!”

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Amongst the apologetic ones was New York Times publisher, Arthur O. Sulzberger Jr. The NYT wasn’t shy about whose team it was on throughout the presidential race. They had a steady pro-Hillary, anti-Trump dialogue from the start and its “honest” reporting consistently made it seem like the majority of the country shared their opinions. After the votes were tallied, though, Sulzberger did some contemplating and promised that the paper will “reflect” on its stance. He vowed to “rededicate” his team to focusing on honest reporting. “After such an erratic and unpredictable election there are inevitable questions: Did Donald Trump’s sheer unconventionality lead us and other news outlets to underestimate his support among American voters?” In the letter he pleaded with his readership for their continued support. “We cannot deliver the independent, original journalism for which we are known without the loyalty of our subscribers,” the letter states. Liz Spayd, NYT’s public editor, highlighted the discrepancies between how the Times covered the election and the actual election results. The New York Times’ polling feature, The Upshot, claimed that Hillary Clinton had an 84% chance of winning the White House. Additionally, articles during the campaign painted Clinton’s campaign as organized and focused, while making Trump’s campaign look disorganized. In an op-ed piece, a columnist called Trump a “domestic terrorist.” There have been many outside critics as well. Take Michael Goodwin from the New York Post: “Because it [The Times] demonized Trump from start to finish, it failed to realize he was onto something. And because the paper decided that Trump’s supporters were a rabble of racist rednecks..., it didn’t

have a clue about what was happening in the lives of the Americans who elected the new president.” Their “unbiased” reporting blinded the reality. Many readers expressed their disappointment by the NYC election coverage as well. Sulzberger, who still maintains that both candidates were covered fairly, assured the readers that reporters and editors will “give the news impartially, without fear or favor.” “But we also approach the incoming Trump administration without bias,” he added. A poll put out by Media Research Center after the election found that many people do not believe the media is truthful and that they see a bias in the news. According to the poll, 7 in 10 (69%) voters do not believe the news media are honest and truthful; 8 in 10 (78%) of voters believe the news coverage of the presidential campaign was biased, with nearly a 3-to-1 majority believing the media were for Clinton (59%) vs. for Trump (21%). Amazingly, even 1/3 (32%) of Clinton voters believe the media were “pro-Clinton.” 8% of Trump voters said they would have voted for Clinton if they had believed what the media were saying about Trump. Despite them admitting the bias, 97% of voters said they did not let the media’s bias influence their vote.

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is the reason why she lost so many votes on November 8. A second announcement by Comey a week later that cleared Clinton of wrongdoing simply reinforced Trump’s allegation that the system is rigged in her favor, Clinton said. According to two participants on the call, Clinton said her campaign and the national party had raised $900 million from more than 3 million individual donors. President Obama had thoughts on why Clinton lost the presidency. On Monday, he told reporters, “You know, I won Iowa not because the demographics dictated that I would win Iowa. I spent 87 days going to every small town and fair and fish fry and VFW hall and there were some counties where I might have lost, but maybe I lost by 20 points instead of 50 points,” he said, suggesting that Hillary didn’t work hard enough to garner a win. Obama outperformed Clinton in the rural suburbs in the Midwest, like traditionally blue-collar, Democrat-leaning Macomb County, Michigan. Of the 700 counties Obama won twice, nearly a third flipped to President-elect Donald Trump, including Macomb. “How we organize politically I think is something that we should spend some time thinking about. I believe that we have better ideas, but I also believe that good ideas don’t matter if people don’t hear them,” Obama continued. “And one of the issues the Democrats have to be clear on is, given population distribution across the country, we have to compete everywhere. We have to show up everywhere. We have to work at a grass-roots level, something that’s been a running thread in my career.” Clinton has been criticized for her lack of outreach to white, Middle-class America – instead her campaign focused on rebuilding Mr. Obama’s coalition of African American and Hispanic voters in largely urban areas. At a rally in July, Donald Trump said that Clinton was “low energy.” “No naps for Trump,” Trump said at the time. “No naps. I don’t take naps. We don’t have time! You ever see Hillary where she comes out and she’ll read a teleprompter and then she’ll go home and you don’t see her for three, four days, then she comes back?” Trump asked the crowd. “She’s low energy, she actually is low energy. She’ll go home, she’ll take a nap for four or five hours then come back. No naps for Trump! No naps. I

don’t take naps. We don’t have time! We don’t time.” Aside from the conference call and a chance encounter with an excited Facebook user, Clinton has kept a low profile since her concession speech on Wednesday morning, while Trump has been gracing the pages of every news outlet.

Is Calexit Here?

The Brexit has set a trend and other places may be seeking to make their own exit. Some people from the state of California are toying with the idea to secede from the United States following Donald Trump’s victory. Hillary Clinton received California’s electoral votes after 61% of the state voted Democratic and just 33% voted for the president-elect. “As the sixth largest economy in the world, California is more economically powerful than France and has a population larger than Poland,” notes the website of “Yes California,” a group pushing the issue. “Pointby-point, California compares and competes with countries, not just the 49 other states. In our view, the United States of America represents so many things that conflict with Californian values, and our continued statehood means California will continue subsidizing the other states to our own detriment,” the group says. “In 2016, the United Kingdom voted to leave the international community with their ‘Brexit’ vote. Our ‘Calexit’ referendum is about California joining the international community.” According to the petition, the Golden State wants to stand alone and be its own country. The group is seeking a referendum in 2019. However, not all Californians share that sentiment. Others caution observers, and even leaders in the state, against seeing the state as a monolith. “We’re not,” said Mindy Romero, the director of the California Civic Engagement Project at the University


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Every Dog Has its Day Politics is going to the dogs, so it’s no wonder that a town has – quite literally – elected a dog. On November 8, the town of Rabbit Hash, Kentucky, declared a pit bull mayor in a landslide victory, garnering a whopping 3,367 votes out of a crowded group of furry and feathery candidates including a cat, chicken and jackass. The new mayor, Brynneth Pawltro (read that slowly and out loud), is the perfect canine-date for the position. According to Bobbi Kayser, who is on the board of directors for the Rabbi Hash Historical Society, “She’s a lover, she’s such a sweet dog. She is a pit bull

rescue and she’s going to be quite the ambassador for that breed.”

The election was held as a fundraiser for the Rabbit Hash General Store, which was devastated by a fire in February and in desperate need of repair. Each vote cost $1 to cast. Since this wasn’t a normal election, even by Kentucky standards, voters were able to cast as many votes as their cash flow allowed. Speaking of flow, voters were able to imbibe bourbon and whiskey while casting their lots. “We encourage drinking at the polls,” Kayser said, “because people tend to donate more if they’ve had a few.” In all, $8,965 was raised. That sounds like more than just a few beers. Brynneth, also known as Brynn,

is owned by college student Jordie Bamforth, who works for an animal hospital. This is the town’s fourth canine mayor, with the first, a mutt named Goofy, taking office in 1998. A black Lab named Junior followed a few years later. In 2008, the same year Obama was elected, a border collie named Lucy Lou, belonging to Kayser, earned the title. Lucy Lou retired on Nov. 8 and is notable because she’s the only former canine mayor not to die in office. According to Kayser, she set term limits for her fellow canines. Yes, 2016 has seen politics go to the dogs.

Light Up the Nights With the days getting shorter, darkness comes all too soon. But there’s no need to worry if you have glow-in-the-dark hair. Recently, a hair colorist invented a hair dye called Phoenix Neon Glowing Hair which transforms hair into a glow-in-the-dark ball of light in the dark. During the day, the locks are neon pink, yellow, orange and green.

So either way, you’re glowing – maybe even radioactive? Unfortunately, this is not something you can do at home. The supplies that the colorist used are only available to salons. Truthfully, though, I think this is something you probably should not even do in a salon. I’d rather use a flashlight than have a glowin-the-dark brain.

Bug Off!

Last week, Sam Wang, founder of the Princeton Election Consortium, ate his words. And they were crunchy. On October 18, Wang tweeted that he would “eat a bug” if Donald Trump garnered more than 240 electoral votes in this year’s election. Well, on November 9, Wang was pretty surprised – as was the rest of America – when he heard in the wee hours of the morning how the nation voted. Asked about his promise on Saturday in an

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interview with CNN, Wang took out “a can of gourmet-style crickets – from the point of view of a pet.” “I think that the eating bug thing is in itself sensationalist and keeps us off of important policy issues, such as Supreme Court appointments,” Wang warned before eating his words. “There are things that can happen to bring the country together. I think the bug thing is not one of them. I wanted to point that out.” Still, after that disclaimer, Wang delicately stabbed a cricket with his fork and ate the insect. “I regard myself as being in the wilderness a little. After all, I was wrong,” Wang said. How did the critter taste? “Kind of mostly honey-ish, a little nutty,” he told CNN. On Twitter he was more direct: “blech.” Our thoughts exactly when it came to the election.

Big Time Spender

Ever hear those commercials for Patek Philippe? Then you know that you don’t really own a Patek Philippe watch; you merely hold onto it for future generations. Well, it seems like a Patek Philippe may be a good watch to share with your kids – if you can afford it. This week, a rare stainless steel Patek Philippe Reference 1518 watch sold for over $11 million, making it the most expensive wristwatch to ever be sold at auction. It was more than triple the initial pre-sale estimate. The buyer has remained anonymous. The Patek Philippe Reference 1518 perpetual calendar chronograph wristwatch was made in 1943 and features a moonphase indicator, Arabica hour markers and a tachymeter scale. This is not the only Patek Phillipe to go for outrageous sums. Prior to this sale, the most expensive watch to ever be sold at auction was also a Patek Phillipe, which sold last year for more than $7.3 million. “I think Patek Phillippe is considered a blue chip brand and one of the most important watch makers in the world. They have had uninterrupt-

ed production since 1839, they make very few watches every year, and it’s just considered the very best, like a Rolls Royce,” said Sam Hines, international head of watches at the Phillips auction house. You know what they say: time is money.

Music for your Money

If your financial situation is causing you anxiety, perhaps you should start banking at Atom Bank. On Tuesday, the British bank launched the world’s most relaxing ATM machine: customers are serenaded by the Royal Philharmonic Orchestra while accessing their cash. The bank instituted the soothing symphony when it was revealed that 29 percent of people suffer from anxiety when checking their bank balance, feeling nervous and physically sick. The string section of the world famous orchestra played Gustav Mahler’s Symphony No.5 on either side of a walkway leading to the ATM in London’s Brick Lane. Violins, cellos, violas and even a harp helped ease tensions in the uniquely relaxing space where the ATM had been installed – a room draped with white curtains. Interestingly, while many get sick from their money woes, 85 percent of people don’t know what their current bank balance is. 6 percent lie to the partners about their money situation. The music, feather fans, soft lighting and soothing atmosphere were welcomed by the bank’s customers. Amelia Hazelrigg, 27, from London, said: “I hate checking my bank balance, I worry about how much money is in there. Going to an ATM in a white gallery with a harpist playing isn’t something you do every day, but at least it took my mind off my lack of funds.” Atom Bank is the UK’s only purely digital bank. Customers use mobile phone apps with biometric security such as face and voice recognition.

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ur Kol Yaakov boys love learning! From Morah Ramona’s Pre1A’s multi-faceted attack on reading that fosters fiveyear-old readers and writers to our 5th grade Junior High School boys’ literature essays and chess games, our boys love to learn. What better way to concretize Rosh Hashana’s hilkhot teshuva (laws of repentance) than to have a shofar workshop visit the yeshiva? Our talmidim got to participate in how the construction of a shofar intertwines with the message of the Yomim Nora’im. Morah Ramona’s Pre1A features a cozy reading corner so boys can enjoy reading on their own during unstructured learning time, and students and teachers of all grades enjoy lots of conference and individual time as teachers circulate classrooms to facilitate independent learning. Kol Yaakov offers whole school

programming focusing on different subject areas throughout the year. We’re wrapping up our PCT (Political Citizenship Test) program where our students are focusing on all things politics during this turbulent election time. Boys learned about our branches of government, checks and balances, and much about the presidential election. We enjoyed a visit from Congressman Steve Israel who told of his own firsthand experience of the political process in Washington, held our own political debates, did research projects and even voted in our own KY voting booths on Election Day! Our students play a hard game of soccer and dodgeball during gym time, and they work hard during class time as well, with curricula that includes daily writing, Common Core math and science and social studies activities. We have a reading Pre1A that uses the Starfall all-inclusive curriculum for language arts, science and social studies and a

hands-on approach to math with our boys building Lego patterns before venturing onto the pattern review pages in their math workbooks. Kol Yaakov is a warm environment of students growing into in-

dependent life-long learners. We’re proud of our devoted staff of Teachers working closely with their boys fostering middot tovot, derech eretz for Hashem’s world, and a love of learning.


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he Yeshiva Har Torah seventh and eighth grade girls kicked off another exciting year of Rosh Chodesh activities! This year, the Rosh Chodesh program is entitled “Rosh” Hour. Each month, the girls will focus on a different middah or mitzvah and explore how they can improve in that area over the course of the month. This month the girls will focus on Shabbat, a day in which we stop and rest from our busy lives to focus and reconnect with Hashem. To help the girls understand the beauty of both Rosh Chodesh and Shabbat, we were privileged to hear inspirational words from renowned lecturer and educator, Mrs. Michal Horowitz, the sister of YHT rebbe, Rabbi Dov Fried. Mrs. Horowitz inspired the girls with her moving words. She told a story of a dedicated Jewish immigrant mother on the Lower East Side in 1922 who would not leave the yeshiva building until a spot was found for her son to learn in

the school. The Jewish woman does not give up. This is signified by the moon. Although at times it may seem small, it always has a chance to grow bigger and shine forth once again. Rosh Chodesh teaches us to use our time to accomplish and never give up, even when we feel small. Shabbat is also about time, time to stop and reconnect with Hashem. When Hashem made Adam fall into a deep slumber to create Woman, the mefarshim explain that mankind fell asleep spiritually. Shabbat is the time to wake up from that spiritual slumber and make room for Hashem in our lives. Mrs. Horowitz’s words inspired the girls to continue to stop and look for ways to improve their Shabbat and connect spiritually to Hashem. In this vein, the seventh and eighth grade girls had a challah bake to share in this year’s Shabbos Project. The girls left the presentation uplifted and full of energy for the month of Cheshvan.


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Yeshiva Darchei Torah Celebrates Hascholas Gemara

Rav Moshe Brown, grandfather of a talmid

Dr. Irving Friedman, grandfather of a talmid

Rav Dovid Morgenstern, menahel of Darchei’s Upper Elementary School

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Berel (right) and Ephraim Tennenbaum (center), celebrated the hascholas Gemara of their grandson and son, Yaakov Simcha Tennenbaum

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n a recent Sunday morning, the fifth grade talmidim of Yeshiva Darchei Torah, their rabbeim, fathers, and grandfathers celebrated the milestone of hascholas Gemara, their first forays into Gemara learning, with two beautiful consecutive seudos at the Yeshiva. In his remarks, the Rosh HaYeshiva, Rav Yaakov Bender, accentuated to the boys that they are embarking on a journey into Torah she’baal peh, the same Torah learned in batei medrash around the world and in every preceding generation. The featured speakers who highlighted this monumental occasion were proud grandparents of talmidim: Rav Moshe Brown, Rav Yussie Lieber, Dr. Irving Friedman, and Mr. Shmuel Grossman. Each spoke to the boys with his own distinct flavor and left them with fond memories. The Yeshiva acknowledges the

devotion and talents of its distinguished rebbeim who give over the beauty and sweetness of Torah to their talmidim each day.

Mr. Shmuel Grossman, grandfather of a talmid. At left, Rav Yaakov Bender, Rosh HaYeshiva of Yeshiva Darchei Torah

The fifth grade of Yeshiva Darchei Torah celebrated hascholas Gemara with their fathers and grandfathers


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Woodmere Fitness Club: Studio Inna Focuses on Community Wellness By Tammy Mark

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tudio Inna has relaunched as Woodmere Fitness Club and founder Inna Koppel couldn’t be prouder. With a strong focus on fitness and her love of the community, Inna and her team appreciated everyone who came along to celebrate with them – and from the crowd gathered there it was obvious the feeling was mutual. Sunday’s launch party included trainers, club members, visitors and children of all ages coming to tour and enjoy the newly renovated facility. Complete with a photo booth, candy bar and sushi, the family atmosphere was warm and inviting – an atmosphere that Inna works hard to maintain every day of the year. Established in 2010 as a small studio on Broadway in Woodmere in 2010, Studio Inna developed over the years, offering a variety of classes. As more of Inna’s instructors became certified coaches, her Woodmere Strength and Conditioning program grew in popularity and she expanded next door. When Inna incorporated free babysitting and a lounge area for members the studio became more like a club in the broader sense. With a team of 22 people currently on staff, Inna relies on her team to work together as a family and wanted the new name to reflect the sense of community and camaraderie that she values deeply. “I’m proud of them as individ-

uals – and they inspire me,” she says. Woodmere Fitness Club utilizes a technique called “Starting Strength,” a specific method of barbell training which includes very small incremental increases designed to build muscle mass. The club offers small group training classes with 4-6 members working together and supporting each other along the way. Certified trainers explain all the mechanics of the moves, with videos and tutorials provided as well. Members gain strength without fatigue, while other benefits include improved bloodwork and bone density levels. The method has proven beneficial for all fitness levels – from seasoned athletes to beginners and even seniors. The new club offers something for everyone. While cardio classes are for women only, there are now separate men and women barbell training areas. Other classes include kickboxing and yoga and a dance party on Saturday night for ladies and kids. The club offers various workshops as well as diet coaching. There are classes for kids under direction of Raina Butler, who has a background in education, as well as programs run in conjunction with local community schools. Inna was always fitness minded. She trained in ballet as a child, learning about biomechanics, movement and body awareness. A social worker by trade, she started out working with bilingual children in inner city schools

and running therapy groups that incorporated sports and exercise. As the students bonded past the language barriers, Inna realized the power of sports as social intervention. She saw that she could help students succeed in other areas and subsequently began using these methods to help children with autism and attention issues. She eventually began to work with young girls with eating disorders, mentoring and teaching them healthy ways to eat and exercise and teaching various classes around the Five Towns. She opened the studio, and her fitness career was officially launched. “Social work has really driven the way that we effect change in the community,” she explains. “It drives the choices I make.” Inna’s goal is to empower women of the community to get strong and stay fit. She emphasizes self-esteem and a healthy body image and educates her team to be focused on performance rather than aesthetics. Inna wants women – many of whom are moms – to feel energized by their diet and exercise routines – not depleted – and believes that the fitness of the family often starts with the mom. Inna’s desire to help others goes well beyond the fitness center. She holds fundraisers at least once a year.

One kickboxing event for an Emunah Children’s Home in Israel raised $55,000 in one night; proceeds went towards building a gym and a basketball court for the home and providing computers, new sneakers and fitness coaching for the children. “Charity is a priority for us,” Inna says. During Hurricane Sandy, the Studio Inna team raised $200,000 together with the JCC to resettle 80 families who had lost their homes. Most recently they held a Mother’s Day fitness event to benefit Sharsheret. “Fitness is a way to get together, and to get different people together around something everyone loves.” Inna’s drive to give back to the community was fostered by her parents. Grateful to the Jewish organizations that brought the family over from Russia in 1976 and provided for the family until they could provide for themselves, her father paid back all the money that they had spent to help them. Her mother, a nutritionist who passed away 15 years ago, instilled the value of wellness and making the body better in order to make the mind better. Their values are the driving force in the way she gives back. “It is the American dream come true. It still happens,” says Inna. “It is a humbling experience that I can now help people in the community who need help.” Woodmere Fitness Club is launching “Silver Strength” program this winter for women and men 60 and over. Inna wants people to understand the importance of strength as a means of preparing for the future and to that end is now focused on addressing aging. Fitness needs change as people age and being “skinny” can lead to frailty. As a mother with three kids of her own to take care of, Inna is determined to stay strong and fit for the long term. “Training is my 401k plan.” Woodmere Fitness Club is located at 1040-1042 Broadway in Woodmere, New York.


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An Infusion of Warmth and Love for Yiddishkeit at YOSS

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n Motzei Shabbos, Parshas Lech Lecha, the 6th grade at Yeshiva of South Shore joined their Rebbe, Rabbi Yehoshua Meltzer, for an exciting kumzitz. This special event took place at the home of Mr. and Mrs. Kenneth Schuckman, in Woodmere, parents of Eli, a talmid in the class. The boys partook of a delicious melava malka, consisting

of pizza and various nosh. They then went outside to be warmed by the heat of a bonfire, where they roasted marshmallows, and were able to make s’mores. Most importantly they were uplifted by the niggunim that they sang and the live professional music that accompanied them. Additionally, Eli Schuckman played along with his drums and Shuey Wald

played the bongo. The boys were treated to a special visit by the Rosh Yeshiva, Rabbi Mordechai Kamenetzky, who came to participate with the talmidim and shared words of chizuk. Dovid Tzvi Daskel, Dov Hirsch, Yehuda Kestenbaum, and Eli Schuckman delivered inspiring words of Torah. The kumzitz offered the boys a unique way to spend time with their

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rebbeim and friends, while at the same time infusing themselves with a deep love of Yiddishkeit and Torah. The Yeshiva has tremendous appreciation to the Schuckman family for opening their home (and backyard) to the boys for this special event and to Rabbi Meltzer for preparing this amazing event with song sheets and much more.


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Standing Room Only at the MAY 2016 Open House

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t was standing room only at the Mesivta Ateres Yaakov Open House this past Sunday, as the Yeshiva hosted over 100 prospective students, along with their parents, all eager to learn all about the “MAY Experience.” In the yeshiva’s beautiful facilities and with the faculty and staff present to answer questions, the day’s program was an opportunity to educate parents and students about the mission of the Yeshiva. It was a busy, exciting and educational experience that included informative panels, video displays, passionate presentations, engaging dialogue, Torah brain teasers, team building exercises, raffles, a gala luncheon, prizes, an elaborate Student Fair, slushies, competitions and more. Upon arrival, attendees were warmly greeted by the MAY hanhalah, its talented and dedicated faculty and scores of student and parent volunteers. Guests were ushered into the elaborate Student Fair, where a multitude of booths, manned by current

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Ateres Yaakov talmidim, described the school’s myriad extracurricular programs. Following the Student Fair, the Menahel, Rabbi Mordechai Yaffe, addressed the standing room only crowd in the Mesivta’s expansive Bais Medrash. He explained that “the goal in

a yeshiva high school extends far beyond the high school years” and that “the ultimate purpose is to build better husbands, fathers and ovdei Hashem. Therefore, literally everything that occurs within the yeshiva is aimed at facilitating that goal.” Rabbi Yaffe concluded his remarks by clearly explaining each phrase of the Mesivta’s slogan “Rabbeim for Life. Education for Life. Torah for Life.” Rabbi Yaffe’s address was followed by an emotionally charged, informative video presentation that immersed the guests virtually in the Mesivta experience. Following the video presentation, the students then enjoyed a mad science presentation with MAY’s award winning master science teacher Joseph Malizia, team building activities with Director of Student Activities Rabbi Tsvi Greenfield, stimulating, brain-teasing shiurim delivered by 9th grade rebbe Rabbi Avi Schulman and 11th grade rebbe Rabbi Yehoshua Robinson, and a Q & A About MAY moderated by Assistant Menahel/Assistant Principal, Rabbi Yossi Bennett. The afternoon concluded with a delicious Chinese buffet and Avraham Scheinberg winning the grand raffle! Parents attended panel discussions focusing on limudei kodesh, general studies, MAY parents, and MAY alumni. Prospective parents asked current parents and panelists a variety of questions and received enthusiastic responses. These included: Are the rabbeim really involved in the lives of the talmidim even “after” graduation? Alumni talked about their many experiences receiving weekly calls in Israel from multiple

members of the faculty, about daily conversations and weekly chaburos or Shabbos meals with rabbeim, about rabbeim helping them with challenges after marriage, about rabbeim making their shidduchim, and more. Mark Gold, Co-President of MAY, noted, “When I wanted to know how any of my many MAY graduate sons were doing in Israel, all I had to do is ask one of the senior rabbeim, who invariably had just spoken with him and was always up on his progress.” How will MAY help a student who does not yet have good writing skills? A parent panelist noted that “MAY has adapted the curriculum to assign frequent essays and other writing assignments to build basic as well as advanced skills and to provide constructive criticism to facilitate revision. They also have numerous extracurricular writing outlets both in limudei kodesh and limudei chol. My son started out unable to write a quality essay and he ultimately he met with tremendous success as a result of the MAY curriculum.” How does MAY compare to the other yeshivos in our community? A member of the hanhalah responded, “There are many excellent local options. Each school has its own emphasis and areas in which it excels. MAY is uniquely outstanding in that it excels in limudei kodesh, limudei chol, and in extra-curricular activities, and its relatively small size facilitates the extra attention and long-lasting relationships that help students of all capabilities succeed.” One parent noted, “It’s clear that the rabbeim I spoke with have a very


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Around the Community strong emotional connection with their talmidim and truly care about their success.” Another attendee’s comment really summed up the MAY Experience: “MAY seems to have a lot to offer in limudei kodesh, general studies and also in extra-curricular activities. It’s a challenging high quality program that is very student-centric.” The yeshiva’s talmidim really made the event a success. Visitors challenged each other in ping-pong, foosball and arcade basketball while being cheered on by friends and current MAY students. The Mesivta’s numerous chessed opportunities were represented by blood drive coordinators, JEP and Ohel Bais Ezra volunteers and many other student representatives. Attendees picked up the Mesivta’s Chessed Directory, listing the ample opportunity for different chassadim available to its talmidim. The Mesivta Publications booth was represented by the MAY student newsletter’s editors, editor of the popular weekly student Torah publication Ateres HaShavua, senior Shmuel Gladstone, and authors and editors of the Mesivta’s creative writing journal, Vision. Athletics and Competitions were represented by various members of the Mesivta’s football, basketball, softball and Torah

bowl teams who were happy to show off the school’s many championship trophies! The ample Torah L’shma opportunities were represented by regulars of the Pre-Shacharis Cocoa Club, Post Shacharis Mishnayos Shiur, 12th grade Additional Bikiyus and Night Sederim, Shnayim Mikrah Program, Shakla v’Tarya Ba’al Peh Club, Bein Hazmanim Learning Program and voluntary Monday Night Seder. Applications for the 2015-2016 z’man are now being accepted. For more information, contact the yeshiva at (516) 374-6465 or visit their website at www.ateresyaakov.com.

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Dr. Paul Weinberg A Man on a Mission

As Shulamith Votes, So Votes the Nation

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n Monday, November 7, Shulamith students enjoyed an entertaining, enlightening pre-Election Day mock debate. Mrs. Danyel Goldberg, in the role of Secretary Hillary Clinton, and Mrs. Rivky Markowitz, who portrayed Mr. Donald Trump, masterfully presented the candidates’ platforms, including their opinions on Israel, the economy, and education. The debate was moderated by Morah Chana Schwartz. After the debate, Mrs. Goldberg used a PowerPoint presentation to explain the Electoral College to the students. Then, the girls had a chance to cast their ballots. The popular vote went to Mr. Trump, by a huge margin of 164 to 28. Each class was assigned electors based on its size, and Mr. Trump ended up winning all ten electors.

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hen Rambam Mesivta received word that their student representatives were nominated to attend the Shusterman Leadership Conference, one of the first people to sign up was Dr. Paul Weinberg. This conference is sponsored by AIPAC. Dr. Weinberg, a Rambam parent, volunteered to serve as chaperone to Ariel Blumstein, Avi Orlow, Noah Schwartz and Yosef Silverstein who traveled to the Washington, D.C., area for the conference. However, he was more than just a chaperone; he was a mentor and a role model. “The fact that Dr. Weinberg rearranged his busy schedule as an an-

esthesiologist to join the conference speaks volumes about his dedication and commitment to the Jewish people and the safety of the State of Israel,” said Rosh Mesivta, Rabbi Zev Meir Friedman. The conference offers training and leadership in encouraging and enabling its participants to take the lead in fighting anti-Israel sentiment and bias which is so prevalent on many college campuses across the country. The Rambam student representatives were ennobled by the conference and most importantly inspired by Dr. Weinberg’s example of commitment and leadership.

Bnos Bais Yaakov’s Year-Long Theme

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ave a goal. Plan for the best way to achieve it. Think the concept through. Work out the details. Put it in action. This is the process by which every program is born in BBY and the genesis of this year’s theme, “Kol kvuda bas melech penima – Unlocking the Secret of Me.” Tznius is a “hot button” topic these days. How could the message of its importance, in both dress and in actions, be brought home in a non-confrontational way? Rebbetzin Altusky,

Mrs. Kuessous, Mrs. Neuberg, and Mrs. Feldberger came up with the following plan: Let the girls learn and discover the majesty of their own neshama and the hugeness of their own potential. When they understand who they are and what being a female means in Yiddishkeit, the concept of packaging all that glory appropriately will undoubtedly be more natural. The theme was kicked off at the Rosh Chodesh Cheshvan assembly by the 8th graders who performed the year’s new song. They also put to-

gether an entertaining video in which some precious diamond dust was foolishly placed in a spice container and therefore treated as commonly as pepper or salt. Grades 1-4 were treated to a fascinating talk by our own beloved Morah Weingot, and grades 5-8 heard from the charismatic Mrs. Breindy Alpert who has given workshops on tznius and has been a featured speaker on a tznius hotline. Every girl received a key chain emblazoned with the phrase “Unlocking the Secret of Me” to wear around her neck at every

Rosh Chodesh assembly. Additionally, and most significantly, the theme and its monthly facets are always incorporated into the classroom curriculum. Furthermore, a fact sheet is sent home to the parents describing the aspects of kol kvuda bas melech penima that is currently being explained in school. So, between the visual reminders, the intellectual explanation, and the family involvement the message will surely resonate.


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Intergeneration Week is Synonymous with Joy

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f you would ask any kindergarten child, morah, or grandparent at HALB Lev Chana Early Childhood Center, all would agree that the Webster’s Dictionary needs to add a new synonym to the word ‘joy” – Intergeneration Week. What could be more joyful than grandparents shepping nachas as their grandchildren

perform a few songs and dances and then sit with their beloved Bubbies and Zaydies, Grandmas and Grandpas, Omas and Oppas – or a combination of titles – talking, laughing,

and hugging as together they create family trees, unique one of a kind frames, and the latest in beaded jewelry. Our grandparents flock from all over the tri-state area, from as far

away as Israel and California, for this special event. Yes, we at Lev Chana know the true meaning of joy: grandchildren and grandparents spending time together.

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Team OHEL Keeps on Running at TCS NYC Marathon

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unday, November 6 was a bright, brisk fall day that presented people with two choices: to cozy up with hot chocolate and warm sweaters or try and conquer the TCS New York City Marathon. Among those intrepid enough to opt for the latter were a dozen dedicated and inspirational runners comprising Team OHEL. They run not for glory, but to help raise funds and awareness of OHEL Children’s Home and Family Services. The race began in Staten Island and weaved through the five Boroughs of New York, culminating in Central Park. Throughout the race New Yorkers cheered more than 51,000 runners as they made their way around

the city; music plays and signs are waved exhorting the runners to finish the world’s largest marathon. Team OHEL had some especially talented runners this year including Solly Ellman (3:27), Yoni Hook (3:43), and Alan Klein (4:07) running impressive times. Team OHEL had a special cheering section near Mile Six in Brooklyn, waving flags, high fiving the runners and giving them a boost of energy as they made their way to the finish line. OHEL runners come from all over – New Jersey, New York, Long Island, and Canada – and they all have personal stories inspiring them to run, whether it is for health, social, or charitable reasons. Special thanks to

Coach David Roher, the Team OHEL trainer and real-life Iron Man. Says Roher, “Running the full 26.2 miles in my full Iron Man costume allowed me to interact with all kinds of people, especially children. Seeing their happiness reminded every step why I support OHEL.” Team OHEL would just be a brand name without the continued help of our many supporters. “We are very appreciative of all of our runners’ significant fundraising efforts that benefit children and adults with disabilities, foster children, and in domestic-violence shelters,” said Meital Cafri, Event Coordinator for OHEL. Cafri adds, “The continued support for Team OHEL is essential to provid-

ing life changing services to those in need.” OHEL’s generous fundraisers were led by Alan Klein, Jeremy Lavitt, and Yoni Hook. OHEL has collaborated with the TCS New York City Marathon since 2009 and started running with the United Airlines New York City Half Marathon last year. Up next for Team OHEL are the New York Five Boro Bike Tour on May 1, the OHEL Xtreme Challenge on May 15, and the NYC Triathlon on July 16. If you’re interested in joining Team OHEL as a runner, biker or fundraising supporter, please contact Meital Cafri at 718-686-3217 or meital_cafri@ohelfamily.org. Can’t wait for you to join the team!


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In honor of the Shabbat Project, the HANC ECC West Hempstead yeladim baked their own challah and enjoyed it at a school-wide Shabbat party

Shabbat is Coming at HAFTR

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n honor of the world-wide Shabbat Project, the HAFTR Lower School came together for its school-wide Challah Bake. Over two hundred families participated in this annual event. Students, parents and staff members mixed the ingredients, participated in hafrashat Challah (separating challah) and braided the challot. While the dough was rising, participants engaged in activity centers which focused on kiddush. At the Wine Museum, families learned how grape juice is made. They prepared the grapes by peeling them, squeezing them and then straining the pulp. Everyone enjoyed the grape juice taste testing and voted on their favorite flavor. Results were graphed

and “blush” came out as the HAFTR favorite. At the Art Center, families created a beautiful kiddush tray. Students demonstrated their creativity in designing mosaic patterns, words and symbols. The Game Center was designed by our bnot Sherut Leumi (the Israeli students who join HAFTR for a year rather than partaking in the Israeli

Army). On an oversized game board of the map of the world, students had an opportunity to apply all that they learned about Shabbat. A final center was the Music Center. The boys and girls sang numer-

ous favorite zemirot (Jewish hymns usually sung in Shabbat) and learned some new ones. Their voices filled the gym and a Shabbat atmosphere was felt by all.

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he B’gan Revolution continues! B’gan, the company that has positively transformed the kosher market via its cutting-edge innovation, is back with yet another ingenious and convenient offering. B’gan’s new line of microwaveable Steam ‘n’ Serve products combine the convenience of a microwaveable side dish with the freshness and quality of the B’gan reputation in a way that will forever bring smiles to the faces of ballebustas everywhere. This new line includes five delicious varieties: cut green beans, French-cut beans, peas and carrots, mixed vegetables, and whole green beans. Whatever is on the menu

for lunch or dinner, one of these scrumptious side dishes can complement it with the bush of a button. Yes, just place a bag in the microwave and literally push the button – and voila! Of course the family will have no clue that it was prepared in the microwave so easily; they will

happily eat it up and compliment the fine culinary skills of the chef! Kosher consumers everywhere have come to love B’gan and its product line and are continuously begging for more products to expand their menus and ease their cooking experience. Indeed, the good folks at

B’gan have heard the demand, loudly and clearly, and are continuing to add products to their ever-expanding line. Head on over to your local grocery or supermarket and peruse the freezer section. You will see many B’gan delicacies and now you will also see multiple varieties of B’gan Steam 'n'Serve microwavable packs. Try them once and you will be hooked. You may not be able to stop at just one bag. But when it comes to convenient preparation, you will marvel at the ease of pressing just one button. B’gan Steam ‘n’ Serve: Which one will you try first?


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Mesivta Yam Hatorah – A Student’s Point of View By Shlomo Perkal

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have been in Mesivta Yam Hatorah since the beginning of high school. Now, as a senior, I frequently look back on previous years and think about my experiences here. From the day I arrived here, I immediately noticed the administration’s intense focus on growth for both the students and the school. One thing that differentiates Yam Hatorah from most schools is its small student body. While some may view this as a downside, to me it meant having a close relationship with every student, rebbi, and teacher in the school. Smaller classes meant more attention from teachers and more focus on my personal growth, as opposed to just making sure I passed my tests. Throughout my years in elementary school I had plenty of great teachers, but it’s just not the same when they have twenty or more students calling for their attention. The majority of my lim-

udei kodesh classes have had around 15 other students and being in such a small group has helped me grow immensely in learning. Instead of just giving over information, the limudei kodesh classes have always been more focused on understanding and building the skills to learn independently. Just this year the school incorporated a new Bais Medrash program for the twelfth grade, where we spend time learning b’chavrusa. This makes the learning a lot more challenging and it’s definitely amazing preparation for any real world learning we will do in the future. The school’s English department has also been highly academic and has only improved since I entered ninth grade. With the combination of amazing teachers and smaller classes, we have all developed many important skills in essay writing, which we will definitely need for college or any career we pursue. We’ve always been well prepared for all of our Regents, and this year, the school added an SAT crash course

A twelfth grader mentoring a ninth grader

which usually can only be done in one’s free time. Aside for the academics, Yam Hatorah has always had a great focus on having fun when needed. Besides for our annual end of the year retreat and mid-winter ski trip, the school has offered many different trips such as paintball or amusement parks as incentives for learning over vacation, keeping up with shnaim mikrah, etc. We have both junior varsity and varsity basketball teams, and I’ve been on the football team since 10th grade. All these out-of-school activities have always seemed like extras, but I realize now that because of these “extras” this school has achdus between both students and rebbeim

like no other. When I first came to Yam Hatorah, I was a little skeptical. While most of my friends were heading off to much bigger schools, here I was going to some tiny school composed of just 28 kids, knowing only one other person going there. However, over the years I realize I definitely came to the right place. Now, in 12th grade, I look at all the growth and improvement I have personally achieved, the close relationships I have gained with both friends and rebbeim, and how much the school has grown. The school is now double the size, with over 55 students – students who are all lucky to have picked such an amazing school.

HaRav Pinchas Friedman to Speak

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ehilas Ahavas Yisroel, 568 Peninsula Blvd (entrance at back), and Rabbi Daniel Glatstein, Mora D’asra, warmly invite the entire Five Towns community to a special shiur and lecture on Sunday morning, November 20 at 9:30am from the renowned gadol and author of the popular Shvilei Pinchas series,

Harav Hagaon R’ Pinchas Friedman shlita, who will speak about the topic of chinuch habanim and shalom bayis in our times. The Rav will then open up the forum for questions on any subject. This shiur is sponsored by the Deutscher family l”n Reizel Rivka bas Harav Moshe Yechiel.


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HAFTR High School Open House

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AFTR High School opened its doors to more than 350 people on Sunday, November 13. Prospective members of HAFTR’s Class of 2021 attended alongside their parents to learn more about the Modern Orthodox Yeshiva located in Cedarhurst. More than 60 families from other neighborhood schools attended the event and all were introduced to the wonderful experiences that their children will have at HAFTR High School. Visitors learned about the unique and individualized educational opportunities that HAFTR High School has to offer both in general and Judaic studies. The day’s program began with speeches from the HAFTR High School principals Ms. Naomi Lippman and Rabbi Gedaliah Oppen, in addition to short presentations by Zachary Schwartz, Rachel Sacks and Ethan Oliner, current HAFTR

students. There was standing room only in the high school auditorium as guests listened to the presenters and watched a unique video presentation which highlighted the institution. Parents spent the remainder of the morning sitting in on four model lessons which included presentations by Directors of our College and Israel Guidance Departments, as well as a science experiment led by Mrs. Rita Sinensky, Chairman of our Science Department, and a current events lesson from Mr. Jason Gelman, Chairman of our Social Studies Department. Students were divided into four groups where they ventured on a virtual tour of the school while watching a 360 degree video on a virtual reality headset, followed by a Q & A session with current HAFTR High School students. The program culminated with an extraordinary lunch served to both parents and

Ms. Naomi Lippman, Rabbi Gedlaiah Oppen, Mr. Joshua Wyner, Mr. Ethan Oliner and Ms. Rachel Sacks

students in the current high school gymnasium, where high school students and faculty members showcased the various extracurricular

activities available at HAFTR High. We look forward to welcoming all of these new families to the HAFTR High School community.

Elections at Yeshiva of Central Queens

By Ashley I. Landsberg

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fter an entire week of campaigning we are pleased to announce the winners of YCQ’s election for student government. The JHS Presidents are Suzanna Rubin and Yossi Dahan; and Vice Presidents Ayelet Landsman and Benjamin Ariav. The school’s 7th grade representatives are Rebecca Szlechter and JJ Varnai; and 6th grade representatives are Skylar Askari and Yaniv Oxenhan-

dler. The “elected officials” are looking forward to a great year at YCQ. They hope to make some changes that will benefit all the students and the entire Yeshiva. The student government offers the opportunity for students to work alongside the faculty and administration to enhance the school experience for all students. The students and faculty are also proud of all of the students nominated who worked hard on their campaigns.


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Local faces at this week’s Kosherfest event

The Story of an Amazing Veteran

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r. Eddie Rosenblum is not your typical veteran. He is Jewish, he is Orthodox and he is 96 years young! To the amazement of the students in Rambam Mesivta, Mr. Rosenblum strode into Rambam’s annual Veteran’s Day assembly and spoke about his service in World War II.

He vividly recalled the life he left behind in Austria where, in 1938, the shul near his home was set ablaze and no firefighter was willing to douse the flames. Hitler’s program of anti-Semitism was in its early stages and the writing was on the wall for the Jews of Europe. Mr. Rosenblum was fortunate

to escape to the United States and shortly thereafter was drafted into the American Army. Surprisingly, he mentioned that he did not encounter anti-Semitism during his years of service. Quite the contrary, he said that accommodations for his strongly held religious beliefs were provided for whenever possible. Having learned French, he became a translator for his unit, as American and Russian forces closed in on the Germans. There were a number of German soldiers who dressed up as Americans and, by speaking English, penetrated the lines of U.S. Army. Immediately, spot checks were instituted to ensure that those in American uniforms were truly American forces. At one

point he remembered being stopped at a checkpoint with a flashlight shining in his face and being asked, “Who plays first base for the New York Yankees?” Not being a sports fan he could not come up with the answer and immediately faced a gun drawn to his chest. Fortunately, another U.S. soldier vouched for “Rosie” and he escaped what could have been a deathly encounter. He told the boys that his goal in life was never to be “the richest or the smartest,” but rather just to be a mensch. His message and his experiences clearly resonated with the talmidim and prompted them express true and deserved hakaras hatov to a Jewish American hero.

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Living Chessed – Achiezer Presents to CAHAL

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ovember 8th took on new meaning for the CAHAL staff. Rabbi Boruch Ber Bender, president of Achiezer, was invited to address and advise the staff of CAHAL on how to help their students understand and become more involved in acts of chessed. The Young Israel of LawrenceCedarhurst graciously hosted the gathering. Rabbi Bender vividly described how chessed is not just a project, but a way of life. He shared many stories about community members who became involved in chessed activities through Achiezer and how they enabled their children to experience giving chessed firsthand. He suggested that we ask our students to picture themselves on the receiving end, so that they can begin to develop empathy and the ability to feel someone else’s pain. Rabbi Bender suggested that we can identify simple ways to live chessed. Chessed opportunities are often right in our own backyards, and they are a win-win for both the

Achiezer’s Rabbi Bender addressing CAHAL teachers

receiver and the giver. Some of his practical examples included helping elderly neighbors after a snowstorm by shoveling their walk, helping bring food to restock hospital respite rooms, and making challah covers for families who stay in hospitals over Shabbat. The CAHAL staff was tremen-

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dously inspired by Rabbi Bender’s presentation, some sharing their own experiences with the aftermath of Hurricane Sandy, and how grateful they were for Achiezer’s help. Rabbi Bender concluded by reminding everyone that chessed empowers children and builds greater confidence and self-esteem.

After the presentation, the CAHAL teachers collaborated to plan chessed initiatives with their classes and in the community. The staff also expressed interest in helping to expand Achiezer’s newest initiative, CIMBY (Chesed In My Back Yard), to include even more opportunities for children to engage in doing chessed.

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The Highly Acclaimed “Marriage Seminar” Series Now Being Presented in Brooklyn

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n Motzei Shabbos, Nov 12, Rabbi Ben Tzion Shafier, founder of TheShmuz.com, noted and energizing international lecturer, presented the first of the five part series of his popular “Marriage Seminar” in Kehal Lev Avrohom in Brooklyn. The diverse crowd appreciated the down-to-earth, practical voice of Rabbi Shafier. Offering refreshing thoughts and life-changing advice, Rabbi Shafier was direct and downright funny, providing the audience with essential Torah principles about marriage, packaged in an enticing, enjoyable way. The “Marriage Seminar” is a multi-part Torah-based guide to a vibrant, successful marriage. With questionnaires and homework, Rabbi Shafier will cover questions such as: why do some marriages thrive and others fail? What are the 3 biggest mistakes that most couples make and

why is it that men and woman have such different views of marriage? By focusing on some of the most basic needs of a human, and then moving on to many of the more common pitfalls and blunders that couples make, he will give a tour of the complex weave of emotions, needs and expectations that creates a successful marriage. The Marriage Seminar provides the guidance, understanding and inspiration to create a successful, harmonious, long lasting marriage. The seminar series will take place on Motzei Shabbos, Nov. 26, Dec. 3, Dec. 10 and Dec. 17 in Kehal Lev Avrohom, 574 East 9th St (corner 18th Ave) at 9 PM. There is no charge and due to limited seating, RSVP is appreciated. For more information, please call or text 347-813-1929. For those that cannot attend the series in Brooklyn, it will be live streamed on TorahAnytime.com.

Free Carnival and Bubblemania Show at the Upcoming Gesher Open House

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ow in its fifth successful year, the Gesher Early Childhood Center has made a tremendous mark on the greater Five Towns community. As a vital partner with all of our local yeshiva day schools, Gesher has seen tremendous growth in our brief history. The five classes, nursery through first grade, including two classes of Pre1A, are comprised of children from the full spectrum of our neighborhoods. With current and former students from close to a hundred and fifty families Gesher appreciates the recognition and support and support of the community. The idea of hosting an Open House came from the parent body. “Some of my friends are still not sure what Gesher is all about. I want them to see for themselves, visit the expansive facility, meet the wonderful teachers, and observe the incredibly happy parents and children.” The administration is thrilled to have the opportunity to provide a morning of fun for the younger children of our community. Carnival booths will be operating from 10:00-11:30 AM on Sunday, November 27. At appointed times Gesher staff will be leading optional craft activities in the classrooms, providing a taste of a Gesher day. The highlight of the carnival will be the Bubblemania

Junior show. This interactive and fun demonstration is a big hit for younger children. The show will be from 11:30 AM-12:00 PM. The administration prides itself on its commitment to provide a unique service. Recently a parent wrote the following message following a meeting with her child’s educational team: “I can’t tell you how much we appreciate each and every one of you who put so much effort, care, and love into helping our children grow and develop. I feel it’s such a bracha to be able to send my children to a school that works with them to help them grow and reach their potential.” Gesher’s multi-sensory inter-disciplinary model takes early childhood education to a new level of individualistic teaching. Director, Chava Bodner, has carefully orchestrated what she refers to as “the ideal classroom setting.” “The Gesher models start with a typical yeshiva day school environment. By collaborating with parents and highly qualified related service providers, our specially trained teachers are able to tailor the curriculum to best fit each child’s learning style.” The Gesher Open House will take place on Sunday, November 27th from 10:00 AM- 12:00 PM. It will be located at Gesher, 650 Broadway in Cedarhurst.


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Yeshiva University High School for Girls is Pretty in Pink

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s the colorful leaves on the trees signal a move into November, we proudly look back on October as a month that demonstrated our student body’s commitment to community, wellness, and chesed. In honor of Breast Cancer Awareness Month, the Pretty in Pink Committee launched its month-long campaign to enhance awareness about breast cancer and how it affects people’s lives. Juniors Sela Boord and Caroline Altman, with the guidance of Chesed Coordinator Ms. Laura Fruchter, showed a moving video featuring Sharsheret, an organization pledged to support women and families affected by the illness. The video closed by emphasizing the importance of the “sharsheret,” the chain linking women together in support. Each student received a pink ribbon and wrote a message of hope or encouragement on it. Stringing the ribbons together, everyone symbolically demonstrated our commitment to participating in this supportive chain. Students, teachers, and family members gathered together on Friday, October 28, for the Great Pink Challah Bake. Head of School Mrs. CB Neugroschl opened the program with beautiful words of Torah, and then the baking took off! Using a recipe published by Sharsheret,

all participants made dough from scratch, incorporating some fun pink ingredients along the way. The mitzvah of hafrashat Challah is said to be a zechut for women in need of a refuah. How powerful it was when forty tables’ worth of daughters, mothers, and grandmothers said the bracha in unison to pray for their fellow women. Thank you to Student Activities Coordinator Ms. Leah Moskovich for organizing this fantastic event, where we made a whopping 200 lb. of challah! Students who enjoyed working with food on Friday were in for a treat on Monday evening, when Central hosted its very own version of the hit reality competition Chopped in loving memory of Lisa Altman, a”h. Eighty-five students, teachers, and family members flexed their culinary muscles by cooking an entrée and dessert out of never-before-seen ingredients. Ms. Naomi Nachman, aka the Aussie Gourmet, hosted the event and provided all materials, including cookware and portable burners! After the tasting ceremony, the evening concluded with a delicious dessert reception. Students were “positively pink” in other ways as well. The beauticians among us raised money for Sharsheret by giving “manis for the cure,” and others decorated pink cup-

cakes, doing and eating something sweet! The month closed with Pretty in Pink Day, when we expressed our solidarity with Sharsheret and those affected by breast cancer. Our range of programming seems to have paid off—we raised an impressive $2,000, the proceeds of which will go directly to Sharsheret. Ms. Fruchter saluted Sela and Caroline for their stellar job organizing our Sharsheret programming and had this to say to them about our “Chopped” event: “You did it again. Tonight was absolutely amazing. Everyone had such a great time and

you really did a great job setting the tone to give the program meaning and substance.” Head of School Mrs. CB Neugroschl further expressed her admiration for the initiative and dedication Sela and Caroline have demonstrated throughout the month of activities: “We are proud of the incredible efforts of Caroline and Sela, and we know that their example will inspire others to take action in support of breast cancer research and act upon the other values which they care deeply about. At Central, students know that everyone can make their values make a difference!”

Rabbi Yerachmiel Milstein’s Words are a Light in the Forest at Shevach High School

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n Tuesday morning, November 1, Shevach High School students gathered in the multipurpose room to engage in a fun and interactive breakfast in honor of Rosh Chodesh Cheshvan. The event was planned carefully by the dynamic G.O. heads, Tikva Ney, Ahuva Portnoy, Elky Kassirer and Atara Nat, together with Shevach’s G.O. coordinator, Mrs. Devorah Kovitz. Tying in with this year’s G.O. theme, “The Great Outdoors,” the MPR was transformed into a wild forest. The tables were elaborately set with intricate and gorgeous center pieces, and the pasuk “Eitz chaim hi lamachazikim bah” was emblazoned on the

front wall amidst decorations of lush greenery. The scene was absolutely breathtaking. The girls enjoyed a delicious breakfast of bagels, spreads, cereals and muffins, which they ate while schmoozing with friends. They were then privileged to hear from Rabbi Yerachmiel Milstein, noted lecturer and vice president of Project Chazon, who addressed the topic of “V’ahavta l’reiacha kamocha,” Loving your fellow as you love yourself. He impressed upon the girls that the first step in being able to achieve this mitzvah is to love and respect oneself. There are three main ways this can be accomplished: by how one speaks, how one dresses, and how

a person spends his time. One eleventh grader aptly said, “Now that I understand why speech is so important I cannot imagine talking in an inappropriate manner.” Rivka Gray, of the tenth grade, was touched by the story about Shaya and his friends, who went “above and beyond” by including this special boy in a baseball game, even though to many it meant forfeiting the game. Rabbi Milstein’s words were inspiring and moving, yet at the same time full of humor. Teachers and students alike were riveted by Rabbi Milstein’s retelling of this story, originally told by Rabbi Paysach Krohn. The speech was followed by a 10th

grade choir, orchestrated by Tova Freidman and Michal Kaplowitz. They performed songs that connected to the day and its theme, and the beautiful harmonies and lilting tunes uplifted the audience. The achdus in the air was palpable as the event culminated in a resounding Birchas Hamazon recited by the entire student body. It was wonderful to see the occasion come together so enjoyably and successfully, in the great Shevach tradition. Thank you Shevach juniors Menucha Lustig and Shoshana Moskowitz for reporting on this event.


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SKA Shabbaton 5777: Hakarat Hatov

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t’s so hard to top an annual SKA event, but this year’s Shabbaton 5777 was declared the best ever! The ruach, achdut, talent and warmth felt in the Hudson Valley Resort on the weekend of November 11 was something out of the ordinary. The weeklong prep – with Shabbat parties, chulent kickoffs, and class sessions on hakarat hatov among other activities – heightened the sense of anticipation in the school all week. SKA’s talented and hardworking G.O., together with Rabbi Yosef Zakutinsky, Director of Student Programming, headed up on Thursday to the hotel to decorate and prepare for the Stella K. Abraham High School sophomores, juniors, and seniors’ arrival the next day. The glorious grounds and weather, the inspirational presentations on the theme of hakarat hatov by guest speaker Mrs. Jackie Bitton, and the dynamic senior class program

Mrs. Helen Spirn, Head of School, with sophomores Sabina Benzaquen and Shira Rosenzweig

incredible Talent Show, the Melave Malka with spirited dancing, and the powerful kumsitz ended the evening on a high. Our thanks goes to Mrs. Helen Spirn, Head of School, and administration members, Ms. Raizi Chechik, Principal; Mrs. Deena Kobre and Ms.

Seniors Bracha Book, Naomi Fox, Anael Florian and Tehila Mammon

contributed to a wonderful Shabbat, as did beautiful student-delivered divrei Torah and delicious food. The

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Elana Flaumenhaft, Associate Principals; Mrs. Elisheva Kaminetsky, Director of Student Guidance; and the 12th grade level advisors, Mrs. Paghit Ralbag and Mrs. Avital Braun. Sincere appreciation goes to Rabbi Zakutinsky and his dedicated staff, Mrs. Yafa Storch and Mrs. Shana Leben, and Mrs. Jordana Mallin, Media Coordinator. Much hakarat hatov goes to the many SKA rebbeim, teachers and madrichot who joined for the weekend and played such an integral part in making this Shabbaton so wonderful. Each SKA student who attended, participated and enjoyed truly “saw the good” and enhanced this special Shabbat!

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Emunah of America Circle of Life Annual Dinner

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munah of America has been strengthening Israeli society through its many social and educational services for over sixty-five years. As Karen Spitalnick, National President, says, “Emunah’s work knows no boundaries; it touches all demographics and services their widespread and diverse needs.” From children’s homes to senior residences, therapy programs to women’s business groups, educational institutions to hot meal programs – Emunah is there, at the frontlines, taking care that no Jew is left behind. Emunah of America’s annual Circle of Life Dinner will be held at the Grand Hyatt New York, Saturday, November 19 at 8 PM. The esteemed Malcolm Hoenlein, Executive Vice Chairman of the Conference of Presidents of Major American Jewish Organizations, is to be the Guest Speaker and it promises to be an exceptional evening. The dinner is a celebration of all of Emunah’s past work, as well as all that is yet to come. “Emunah looks forward not only to continuing its out-

Fran and Alan Hirmes

Sharon and Matthew Herenstein

standing work, but catapulting it even further,” says Chief Development Officer Laurie Szenicer. Great changes are taking place at Emunah of America and we invite you to join in the efforts. This year, Emunah of America is privileged to honor individuals who have devoted themselves wholeheartedly to Emunah’s venerable cause and serve as both inspirational and aspirational role models. As our distinguished Guests of

Honor, Fran and Alan Hirmes epitomize the qualities represented by Emunah of America. Fran Hirmes has been an invaluable member of Emunah of America for years and a lifelong advocate for those less fortunate. As Chairman of the Board, former National President, and former CoChair of Emunah’s signature Missions Department, Fran has touched countless souls with her unwavering support and remarkable dedication. Additionally, Fran and Alan are graciously initiating HELPS, “Hirmes Emunah Life Preparation Services.” This valuable program consists of various services to aid Emunah’s youth and young adults through life’s transitions. Emunah could think of no one more deserving of this year’s Emunah Chesed Award than Sharon and Matthew Herenstein. Sharon is past President of Emunah’s Libby Kolb chapter and both Sharon and Matthew have made outstanding contributions to Emunah’s work. Their generosity knows no bounds and their commitment to the cause is unparalleled. Anita Walker’s life is characterized by her single-minded devotion to the betterment of others’ lives. She has been deeply involved with Emunah and served as Emunah’s National Vice President for over ten years. Anita is

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“Shear & Shear Alike.” At the Learn & Live Program this week many boys found out what it means as R’ Yehuda Deutsch presented the melacha of gozez hands-on. L&L would like to congratulate our first “L&L Ticketed” winner Yitzchok Yehuda Shteirman whose parents’ car was ticketed for having a L&L magnet on it. This Sunday at L&L will be “Hiding O’Sheep.” For more information, regarding Learn & Live, please email learnandlivefr@gmail.com.

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or teens with complex healthcare needs, the transition from teen to young adulthood is a series of transitions that include medical, social, educational and emotional changes. For their parents, who must often help their children navigate with little information or support, the transition years are often filled with stress and uncertainty. A unique Chai Lifeline conference presented parents with tools and resources to ease the journey for teens who might need extra assistance in their quest toward greater independence and adulthood. Moving Forward, held last week at Mercaz Hasimcha in Brooklyn, featured three experienced practitioners who offered solutions for participants’ real-life challenges. It was sponsored by Movin’ On, Chai Lifeline’s transition-support program for teens with medical challenges. The program provides educational, emotional, and social resources and support for teens with medical challenges and their families. “When our first group of Camp Simcha Special campers neared their last years in

camp, the biggest concern of parents how parents could find appropriate services for their teens. Movin’ On helps address that concern by offering teens a personalized program that addresses educational and social needs,” explained Rabbi Simcha Scholar, Chai Lifeline’s executive vice president. Moving Forward addressed issues surrounding transition, communication, and independence. Gary Shulman, MS, ED, a special needs trainer and consultant, emphasized that there is no checklist for accessing transition services offered by state governments. He urged parents to ask questions and be proactive in finding assistance. “For any situation you child is in, chances are there is a fix,” he stated. School psychologist Zipora Schuck, MA, MS, emphasized the importance of social skills in helping children navigate to adulthood. “You can more easily compensate for other deficits than social skills,” she warned. Mrs. Schuck provided a checklist that parents could use to assess their children’s

strengths and weaknesses, one of a number of resources available to parents at the conference. Clinical developmental psychologist Dr. Stephen Glicksman spoke on the need to create systems of interdependence with teens as they grow. He emphasized the importance of understanding that we are all dependent on others and to work toward developing networks of people who could be helpful. “It’s never too early to begin planning for a child’s transition to the adult world of medical and social services,” said Rivkah Reich-

mann, LCSW, associate director of Camp Simcha Special. “For example, schools are required to begin transition planning for adolescents with IEPs when they turn 13, but parents must be proactive with their children’s school. Even parents of children who are younger should start now to discover what’s available and how they have to prepare to access services.” Parents were especially appreciative. “I came away with knowledge and ideas,” said one. “We need more of this,” agreed a second. Daniel Essrog, LMSW, directs the program for Chai

Lifeline. “With the appropriate tools, teens with medical challenges can go very far. Movin’ On can help get them to the next stage in their lives.” Movin’ On provides personalized educational, social, and emotional resources to teens with medical challenges and their families. For information about eligibility and enrollment, contact Daniel Essrog, LMSW at DEssrog@chailifeline.org or call 212 699-6679. Movin’ On is supported in part by a grant from the JE and ZB Butler Foundation.


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Centerfold Riddle me this?

kidding

An old man wanted to leave all of his

A young man asked an old rich man how he

money to one of his three sons, but he

made his money. The old guy fingered his expensive wool

didn’t know which one he should

vest and said, “Well, son, it was 1932. The

give it to. He gave each of them a

depth of the Great Depression. I was down

few coins and told them to buy

to my last nickel.

something that would be able to fill their living room. The first

“I invested that nickel in an apple. I spent the

man bought straw, but there was

entire day polishing the apple and, at the end of the

not enough to fill the room. The second

day, I sold the apple for ten cents. “The next morning, I invested those ten cents in two

bought some sticks, but they still did not

apples. I spent the entire day polishing them and sold them

fill the room. The third man bought one

at 5:00 pm for 20 cents. I continued this system for a month,

thing that filled the room, so he obtained

by the end of which I’d accumulated a fortune of $9.80.

his father’s fortune. What did he buy? See answer on next page

“Then my wife’s father died and left us five million dollars.”

Signs that You are Really

Getting Old

• The gleam in your eyes is from the sun hitting your bifocals.

• You dream in black and white.

• Your contact lists contains only names that end in M.D.

• You send money to PBS.

• Your favorite part of the newspaper is “40 Years Ago Today.”

• The end of your tie doesn’t come anywhere near the top of your pants.

• You sit in a rocking chair and can’t get it going.

• You wear black socks with sandals.

• Your knees buckle, and your belt won’t.

• You know what the word “equity” means.

• You’re 17 around the neck, 42 around the waist, and 95 around the golf course. • Your back goes out more than you do. • You have too much room in the house and not enough in the medicine cabinet.

• Your ears are hairier than your head. • You know the name of all of the anchors on the weather channel. • You get winded playing cards.

• You sing along with the elevator music.

• You need glasses to find your glasses.

• You no longer think of speed limits as a challenge.

YOU WONDER WHY MORE PEOPLE DON’T USE THIS SIZE PRINT.

• People call at 9 p.m. and ask, “Did I wake you?”


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16. Celebration of those who serve 17. “Four score and seven years ago…”

Answer to Riddle: A light

15. President Reagan reveals secret arm deal

Across: 1. Lee Harvey Oswald; 4. Spiro Agnew; 7. Chads; 8. OJ Simpson; 12. Beatles; 4. Sadat; 15. Iran Contra; 16. Veterans Day; 17. Gettysburg Address

14. Egyptian president who makes historic visit to Israel

Down: 2. Dewey Defeats Truman; 3. Oliver Wendell Holmes; 5. Irving Berlin; 6. Joe Montana; 9. James Polk; 10. Sputnik; 11. Partition Plan ; 13. Thanksgiving

12. In 1962, these guys from Liverpool have their 1st recording session under the name of their newly formed band.

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Torah Thought

Parshas Vayera By Rabbi Berel Wein

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ars, family dysfunction, and the danger of future extinction are the challenges that confront our father Avraham and our mother Sarah in the narrative that dominates this week’s Torah reading. In this era, correcting the past and editing personal biographies to make people’s lives appear perfect, serene and smooth is especially true. This methodology attempts to make the subject character the model and prototype for others to admire and perhaps even imitate. Who wants to have a life of trou-

bles, frustrations, domestic strife and risk of destruction – all for the sake of a noble but very unpopular cause? So, why would the Torah not wish to at least “pretty up” the story of Avraham and his family at least by omission if not by commission? Of course the Torah is the book of absolute truth and therefore brooks none of the human weaknesses that affect all of us when dealing – even in our most objective attempt – with narratives and biographies. The message here is that truth is the most important value and out-

weighs all other considerations. The Torah is determined to teach us that life, even for the greatest of people, is oftentimes difficult, disappointing and sometimes even cruel – and that faith and commitment, goodness and morality are the supports that justify our very existence, no matter the challenges that constantly engulf human life. We are not bidden to emulate Avraham’s life experiences. Rather, we are bidden to emulate his traits of belief and resilience, commitment and unwavering goodness. We are taught that G-d’s seal, so to speak, is truth. Truth is the gift that we ask G-d to grant to Yaakov and his descendants. Maimonides explains to us that we are not to serve idols, believe in superstitions, and worship the dead because all of these are false, little more than a pack of lies. And all of that is also applicable to belief in ideologies that have long lost any sense of truth, as to their goals and certainly as to their meth-

ods and policies. Avraham sees that Sodom is to be destroyed because of its falseness. He recognizes that Avimelech cannot be trusted because he is a hypocritically false person. And Avraham reserves the right to serve the cause of G-d’s truth even at the cost, originally, of his own life, and later that of his own beloved son. The Talmud describes our world as being “a world of falseness.” Yet knowing that we inhabit a world of falseness is the first step towards advancing into a world of honesty and truth. That is what is meant by the biblical admonition to attempt to go in G-d’s ways, so to speak. To be aware of the difference between falsehood and truth is the necessary ingredient for intelligent life and eternal faith. Avraham’s difficulties in life point us towards the way of realism and truth. It knows no compromises or avoidances. It is therefore eternal. Shabbat shalom.


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The Observant Jew

On Again Off Again By Rabbi Jonathan Gewirtz

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man was replacing a bulb in his car and asked his friend to help him. “I’m going to go switch on my turn signal,” he said to his pal. “Please tell me if it’s working or not.” “It’s working!” said his friend. “Oh, no it’s not… OK, it’s working! Oops, no it’s not.” This joke came to mind one day as I turned on my blinker, or turn signal. Now some of you may be unfamiliar with the concept but on the column of the steering wheel, you can find a nifty little rod, sticking right out of it, which does amazing things. When you push it either up or down, it illuminates a light on the front and rear of the car, and perhaps on the sides or mirrors as well, that will blink to indicate when you plan to move your vehicle to one side or another. Whether you plan to turn the car entirely, such as to enter a driveway or turn onto a different street, or you just plan on changing lanes, this device should be used to let others know what you’re planning to do. Well, it got me to thinking: Why am I turning on my blinker? Am I doing it for myself or for the other person? OK, yes, I’m doing it because it is the law, but what is my motivation when I do it? The law says it’s for safety, so whose safety are we worried about? Well, when I am going to slow down to turn and I don’t want to get

hit from behind, I’m doing it for myself. If I’m changing lanes and want the other driver to slow down so I can move in, I’m doing it for myself again. But sometimes I feel like I don’t need the signal. Let’s say there’s no one around, and I have plenty of room. Why bother signaling? Well, there is the

By signaling, I enable him to slow down, change lanes, or simply be prepared for what I’m doing. It’s a type of chessed. That means that when I swipe my turn signal into action, I have the choice to be thinking about myself or thinking about someone else. So am I thinking about my own trip, or

I’m not just changing lanes; I’m changing myself!

law factor, and that can help keep you from feeling foolish when you don’t have anyone else to see it. Or worse, feeling really foolish when there was a police officer there to see it, but you know what I mean. It’s kind of like doing a mitzvah privately and only you and Hashem know about it. I spoke to an attorney friend of mine who told me that traffic laws are for everyone’s benefit. If a driver runs a red light, he is in danger and so are drivers going the other way. Turn signals would be the same thing. But of course, in the Observant Jew’s world, it goes much deeper. When I signal, I could be trying to avoid getting hit. I could also be trying to let someone else prepare himself for what’s about to happen.

am I concerned with others? Maybe it’s both? Now that I started to think about it, I realized that I could focus on helping others when I use my signal, and I can start to become a better person. I’m not just changing lanes; I’m changing myself! Why not think of others when I am not alerting them to upcoming activity? I could switch lanes near a highway onramp to make it easier for others to enter the roadway. I could slow down to let someone else change lanes. It would be amazing! In fact, when I’m signaling so I don’t get hit, I can have in mind that hitting me would really mess up someone’s day, and they would probably appreciate it if I didn’t make them have to deal with an accident.

I’m still thinking about others then. Now, the problem with this observation is that it’s not so easy to do all the time. It takes lots of practice to think of others, but that’s still OK. Like the fellow in the joke above, who quipped that the blinker was working and then not working, we might assume that when I’m not thinking of others I’m getting no credit at all. But that’s not a given. As long as part of me knows I should be thinking of others, then I’m better off than a driver with a burnt-out bulb. Sure, it may not be visible all the time, but I’m still connected and still have the capability to shine brightly. It’s OK to work your way up to thinking of others more frequently, even if in actuality your other-centricity is on againoff again. As long as your heart and mind are in working order, you can turn it all around.

Jonathan Gewirtz is an inspirational writer and speaker whose work has appeared in publications around the world. You can find him at www.facebook.com/RabbiGewirtz, and follow him on Instagram @RabbiGewirtz or Twitter @RabbiJGewirtz. He also operates JewishSpeechWriter.com, where you can order a custom-made speech for your next special occasion. Sign up for the Migdal Ohr, his weekly PDF Dvar Torah in English. E-mail info@JewishSpeechWriter.com and put Subscribe in the subject.


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Between the Lines

Advice about Advice By Eytan Kobre

The only thing to do with good advice is to pass it on. It is never of any use to oneself. -Oscar Wilde

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hen a newly-graduated educator was asked to address the topic of parenting, she spoke of “Ten Commandments of Parenting.” After having a child, she was invited again to speak about child-rearing, and her speech was entitled, “Ten Suggestions for Parents.” After having another child, she spoke again, this time about “Ten Helpful Hints for Parents.” After her third child was born, she stopped giving parenting advice. Commanded by G-d to circumcise himself and his household, Avraham sought the advice of his three giant friends: Aner, Eshkol, and Mamrei (Tanchuma, Vayera 3; Bereishis Rabba 42:8). Aner and Eshkol warned of the various dangers of circumcision; only Mamrei reminded Avraham of all that G-d had done for him in the past and encouraged him to perform the circumcision.

For this, Mamrei merited G-d’s appearance in his estate (Rashi, Bereishis 18:1). The whole episode underscores the dual nature of advice. That Avraham – of all people, the first human to recognize G-d – sought advice regarding G-d’s direct and unequivocal command speaks volumes about the need to consult others. Regardless of what advice Avraham actually sought (see e.g. Sifsei Chachamim, Kli Yakar, Chizkuni on Bereishis 18:1), this surely appears to be a case where advice was unnecessary. And, yet, Avraham did not hesitate to seek it from others. Asking for guidance isn’t easy. William R. Alger was spot-on in acknowledging that “we give advice by the bucket, but take it by the grain.” Consciously or otherwise, we feel that seeking counsel makes us seem inferior or is demeaning. But it is a critical element of informed decision-making (Pele Yo’etz, Eitza). Even “G-d does not do anything unless He seeks advice from the Heavenly Court” (Sanhedrin 38b), and He sought such advice before creating the world and mankind (Tan-

chuma 1; Bereishis Rabba 8:8; Rashi, Bereishis 1:26). “More advice [is] more understanding” (Avos 2:7) because it allows us to consider varied perspectives – even if we end up choosing our own (R’ Ovadya of Bartenura and Ruach Chaim, Avos 2:7; Responsa of Rashba 1:48). But if Avraham’s actions showed us the importance of seeking counsel from others, Mamrei’s emphasized the duty to dispense it to others, which is why he merited to host G-d in his estate (Da’as Torah, Bereishis 18:1). Giving good advice – even (especially?) to those we don’t like – fulfills a positive commandment (Sha’arei Teshuva 3:53-54; Pele Yo’etz, Eitza), whereas giving bad advice violates two prohibitions: “Do not wrong one another” (Rashi, Vayikra 25:17) and “Do not put a stumbling block before a blind person” (Sefer HaChinuch 232; Rashi, Vayikra 19:14 and Toras Kohanim ad loc.). Indeed, our standard text of confession seeks forgiveness for “advising badly,” which bespeaks the prevalence and magnitude of this sin. We are notorious for giving advice – even when it is unsolicited. Every Jew

claims to have “the” answer to all the world’s ills. Ask two Jews, get three opinions, right? But not all advice is, well, advisable. Sound advice requires not merely knowledge but also perspective. That is the reason that “fifty is the age for advice” (Avos 5:21), that we are to “listen to the elders and not to the youngsters” (Nedarim 40a), that “advice is not found in youth” (Shabbos 89b), and that “those who heed the advice of elders will not stumble” (Shemos Rabba 3:8). Because sensible advice is not purely a matter of intellect; it depends upon the perspective that comes only with experience. Advice also should be offered only by those free of personal interest in the outcome and unburdened by their own biases and subjectivities (Mesilas Yesharim, Chapter 11; Meiri, Mishlei 20:18). As Hannah Whitall Smith observed, “The true secret of giving advice is, after you have honestly given it, to be perfectly indifferent whether it is taken or not, and never persist in trying to set people right.” So we are to “be careful of one who advises you ac-

cording to his way” (Sanhedrin 76b). Because the core prohibition against giving bad advice – i.e., “placing a stumbling block before another” – is less about objectively poor advice and more about “manipulation for your own advantage” by failing to disclose personal agendas or ulterior motives (Rashi, Vayikra 19:14 and Toras Kohanim ad loc.). Such biased advice, observed the Sochachover Rebbe, is more misguided than directions given by a blind person: a blind person sees nothing, whereas advice given with a stake in the outcome sees things backwards. There once was a shochet – an occupation traditionally held by the G-d fearing – who espoused anti-Torah ideologies. When R’ Yehoshua Leib Diskin learned of the shochet’s untoward beliefs, he very much wanted to persuade the shochet to find another line of work, so he directed his students to encourage the shochet to come seek his advice. But when the shochet actually consulted R’ Yehoshua Leib, the students were surprised to learn that their rebbi advised him to continue his work as a shochet. R’ Ye-


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hoshua Leib later explained. “I indeed intended to convince this man to find another occupation. But when he appeared before me seeking guidance, I was obligated to provide him with the best counsel for his needs – not mine. And for him, it is best to continue working as a shochet.” Reliable advice also requires empathy with the advice-seeker (Pele Yoetz, Eitza; Vilna Gaon, Mishlei 27:9). As the second Alexander Rebbe, R’ Yerachmiel Yisroel Dantziger, was wont to remark, “To give good advice, you do not need special talents. All that is necessary is that you sincerely love that person. If his suffering deeply affects you, you will be able to help him with sound advice.” The grandchildren of the

third Lubavitcher Rebbe, Zalman Aharon and Sholom Ber, spent many hours playing “Rebbe and Chassid.” Zalman Aharon would sit on a chair and put a hat on his head, acting the part

little “Rebbe” decreed, “you must henceforth pray directly from a siddur, not by heart.” When young Sholom Ber’s mother noticed how her little “Chassid” contin-

then does he offer guidance.” When others seek our guidance, we must never regard the matter as trifling or easily-solved – even if it is. It is only when we treat their issues as our own – when we

Every Jew claims to have “the” answer to all the world’s ills. Ask two Jews, get three opinions, right?

of Rebbe, while Sholom Ber would enter the room seeking a private audience with the “Rebbe.” Once, the little “Chassid” confessed his “grievous” sin to the little “Rebbe.” “Rebbe, I’ve done something forbidden. I’ve made a habit of cracking nuts on Shabbos.” “To atone for this,” the

ued to pray from memory rather than from a siddur, she asked why he was not heeding the “Rebbe’s” advice. “Oh, his advice is meaningless,” Sholom Ber explained. “You see, when a real Rebbe counsels his followers, he first pauses and emits a great big sigh. Only

empathize so viscerally that we feel compelled to sigh – that our advice has value. * * * With so much confusion in an increasingly-chaotic world, advice has never been in greater demand. And while there is no shortage of people clamoring to offer it – doctors, rabbis, law-

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yers, therapists, volunteers, friends, neighbors, co-workers – we need the gumption to seek counsel from the proper channels and to dispense it under conditions likely to yield beneficial guidance. And let’s not forget the role G-d plays in the efficacy of advice (Kovetz Ma’amarim, The Call of Our Generation). “Many are the thoughts in the heart of man, but the advice of G-d – that is what endures” (Mishlei 19:21). Only G-d can truly grant us the “spirit of advice” – both to seek it out and to dispense it.

Eytan Kobre is a writer, speaker, mediator, and attorney living in Kew Gardens Hills. Questions? Comments? Suggestions? E-mail eakobre@outlook.com.

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The Electoral College Disaster or Genius? BY SUSAN SCHWAMM

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he Electoral College is a disaster for a democracy,” tweeted Donald Trump in 2012. Now he will be the 45th president of the United States because of it. And the highbrowed elites who looked with scorn at this “champion of the uneducated working class” who couldn’t grasp the wisdom of the Electoral College are now decrying the Electoral College as a disaster for democracy, as it gave them him. As of now, Hillary appears likely to win the popular vote by a razor-thin margin of less than one percent. Even so, President-elect Trump will likely end up with a total of 306 Electoral College votes to Clinton’s 232. By all measures this is a landslide victory for Mr. Trump. But, as a consolation prize, Ms. Clinton’s sup-

porters will always be able to say that she received more popular votes than Trump. A Trump supporter — who is lacking empathy — may respond that Trump’s ability to win with an electoral landslide despite getting less votes is proof positive that he was the superior candidate. Furthermore, a Trump supporter may argue that many large population states – such as California, New York, Washington, and Illinois – are deeply blue, and as such there was no incentive for Trump supporters to vote. The only large population deeply-red state is Texas, and in Texas Trump won by less than 10 percentage points; Republicans didn’t feel the need to vote in a state which automatically leans toward their candidate. So Trump supporters would say that Trump’s slight deficit in the popular vote

should be disregarded. But, as we know by now, each side will dig into their arguments and disregard the other side’s view. Still, the question will remain: should the system of electing our president be changed? Let’s take a look at the Electoral College, why it was implemented, and why it is important for the United States to have it.

Wisdom of our Founding Fathers It all started over 200 years ago when the country’s founders were ironing out details for the nascent nation. At the Constitution Convention in 1787, the Virginia Plan proposed that Congress would elect the president. Most delegates at the Convention agreed, although some pointed out that it would put the power of the

presidency into the hands of a select few. Additionally, it would force the president to cater to the whims of Congress. On the other hand, small states were concerned that in a popular vote they would be overlooked if politicians were campaigning for individual votes. When it came to working out the details of the plan it was ultimately decided that the president would be elected by a group of people proportioned among the states in the same numbers as their representatives. As such, each state would have the same number of electoral votes as they would have representatives in the Senate and the House of Representatives. (The 23rd Amendment outlined that the District of Columbia, which is not a state, would get at most the numbers of electors it would have if


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it were a state but not more than the number of electors than the least populous state, which, in 2016, is three.) In all, there are 538 electoral voters – equal to 435 representatives in the House, 100 senators and three from D.C. The voters pledge before Election Day to vote for the candidate who their party has chosen. Initially it was decided that electors would be appointed by each state’s legislature. Each state would be able to decide if the electors would be appointed by popular vote or if the state legislature would appoint them. The electors cannot hold public office or a federal position. After the Civil War it was added that they could not have been part of the “insurrection or rebellion” against the United States during the war. The group of electors only meet one time in their state and are different every election. In this way, the founders hoped to ensure that they would be above influence. Alexander Hamilton, in The Federalist Papers, points out that the electors in the Electoral College would be appointed by the people for one time only. The process would ensure that the body would not be able to be influenced by foreign interests. The small states favored the Electoral College process out of concern that they would be ignored by candidates when it came to presidential elections. Their fears were warranted and we see now how in recent elections many large states – Texas, California, New York – despite their hefty populations have largely been ignored by candidates. Smaller states that are considered swing states have become the focus of candidates on the campaign trail. The Electoral College process ensures that politicians aren’t just crowding the street corners of Times Square and Hollywood; the voters in the smaller towns of Ohio and Philadelphia are just as important. In the first few presidential elections, each elector was given two votes. One vote had to be for a candidate who was not from the elector’s “home state.” Again, the founders wanted to ensure that the process wouldn’t be favoring one candidate over the other. After adding up all the electoral votes, the one candi-

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The 2016 electoral map after the election

date with the majority would win the presidency. The candidate with the second-to-highest number of electoral votes became vice president. If there was a tie, the House of Representatives chose the president from the two who had the most votes. On September 6, 1787, the plan for the Electoral College was approved. The College is not a place, it is a process – a process by which the electors are selected; they cast their votes for president and vice president; and Congress counts their votes. So far, in the 2016 election, we have only completed part I of the process. Part II, in which the electors vote for president and vice president, takes place on the first Monday after the second Wednesday in December after the presidential election, which comes out on December 19 this year. Congress counts their votes on January 6. The president is then inaugurated with great pomp and circumstance on January 20.

12th Amendment Eventually, after a tumultuous election in 1800, in which 36 rounds of voting was needed in Congress

to break a tie between Thomas Jefferson and Aaron Burr – who both received 77 electoral votes – it was clear that amendments needed to be made to the process. Thus, the 12th Amendment of the United States was proposed. The main change in the amendment that was ratified in 1804 was that each elector received two votes – one for president and one for vice president – instead of two votes to vote for any two candidates. Thus the candidates began to run as a “team” on one ticket – one for president and one for vice president. If no majority is able to be reached for one candidate (in 2016 that meant that no candidate garnered the magic number of 270 electoral votes), the House of Representatives – with each state delegation casting one vote, instead of each representative voting – chooses the president, and the Senate selects the vice president. The election of 1824 was unique in that the four candidates who ran on the Democratic-Republican Party line had strong support in different parts of the country: Andrew Jackson, John Quincy Adams, William H.

Crawford, and Henry Clay. As such, the electoral votes were split between them and no one candidate received the required majority to become president. At the time, there were 261 total electoral votes. Andrew Jackson received the most electoral votes after the initial count, 99. The decision was then moved to the House, where John Quincy Adams received the votes of 13 states (there were 24 at the time), making him the elected president of the United States. Since the 1880s, each state gives all their electoral votes to the candidate that the majority vote for in their state. Maine and Nebraska, though, are the exceptions. They use the “congressional district method,” in which the electors are selected within each congressional district by popular vote; the remaining two electors are selected by a statewide popular vote.

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pledged to vote. They either vote for the other candidate or don’t vote at all. Doing so, though, will tarnish their reputation in the eyes of their party; most electors won’t want to run that risk, although there have been 179 instances in U.S. history. In some states, there are fines for those who do not follow their pledge. In the 1836 election, Virginia’s 23-man electoral delegation defected and voted against the Democratic Party vice presidential candidate Richard Mentor Johnson because of his relationship with his black slave. Johnson fell one electoral vote short of the majority and the vice presidential election was forced – for the only time ever in U.S. history so far – to be decided by the Senate. The presidential candidate, Martin Van Buren, was voted for by the delegation as pledged and his victory was not in dispute. Johnson was eventually voted in as vice president by the Senate. Interestingly, the 1836 election is also notable because it was the first and only time a party endeavored to split the electoral votes so that the House would be forced to determine the president. The newly formed Whig Party put four candidates on the ballot to run against Van Buren; each of the candidates was strong in different parts of the country. Despite their efforts, Van Buren won the majority of the electoral votes and handily won the presidency.

There have been instances in which people endeavored to persuade electors to change their pledges, although none have dramatically altered any elections. In 1960, Southern Democrats were looking for an alternative to John F. Kennedy but refused to put Richard Nixon into office. The group wished to deny an Electoral College majority to either candidate, hoping to throw the election to Virginia Senator Harry Byrd. Eventually, only one elector betrayed his pledge and went along with the plan: Henry Irwin, a Republican from Oklahoma, who cast his vote for Byrd. JFK won the presidency with 303 votes; Byrd received 15. In 1976, Jimmy Carter won Gerald Ford by a razor-thin margin – if Ford would have had a bit more than 5,000 people in Ohio and 3,000 more Hawaiians voting for him, he would have garnered the needed 270 electoral votes. Efforts went out to influence electors to vote for Ford instead of their pledged candidate, Carter. Indeed, Bob Dole, who was Ford’s running mate at the time, admitted to actively seeking to influence Democratic electors to switch their votes. “We were shopping – not shopping, excuse me – looking around the electors,” he disclosed to a Senate committee. “It just seems to me that the temptation is there for that elector in a very tight race to really negotiate quite a bunch.” The last time the United States

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saw a faithless elector was in 2004 when an anonymous elector from Minnesota voted for John Edwards when he was pledged for John Kerry. Some say, though, that the move was an honest mistake. No elector has come forward to admit the wrongdoing.

Not Perfect but Excellent The 2016 election – and its outcome – is unprecedented in history on many counts. Supporters of Hillary and those who oppose Trump don’t want to admit defeat. They are still holding onto the hope that electors will be willing to cross party lines and throw off their obligations. As of this week, over 3.6 million people have signed a petition on Change. org for electors to select Hillary when officially voting on December 19. According to the petition, “Trump is unfit to serve.” But whether he’s fit or not, The Donald garnered at least 290 electoral votes; Hillary received just 228. (That is not counting Michigan’s numbers.) That would be a lot of electors crossing party lines. And which Republican elector with a wish to continue on in the party would want to move their “yay” from red to blue? This year’s election joins many others in which the popular vote and the electoral vote split. It is said that despite winning electorally, Trump will probably come in short between 500 thousand to one million votes

when all is counted and tallied. This is the sixth time the popular vote winner did not win the Electoral College vote. For the millions of Americans who have signed the petition for electors to reject their pledge, it seems that they may have a point. After all, didn’t more Americans vote for Ms. Clinton? But America is not a true democracy; we are a representative democracy. Some of our laws are decided by the majority, directly by the people. But that is only a small fraction of how our country is run. Generally, the people elect representatives who are elected by them and vote for them in the legislative branch. The Founding Fathers, in their wisdom, created the Constitution and our system of government with a balance of power in mind. As Alexander Hamilton said of the Electoral College system, “I venture somewhat further, and hesitate not to affirm that if the manner of it be not perfect, it is at least excellent.” On Tuesday of this week, President-elect Donald Trump seemed to agree, contrary to his 2012 sentiment. “The Electoral College is actually genius in that it brings all states, including the smaller ones, into play. Campaigning is much different!” he tweeted. Genius or disaster, the Electoral College system has worked for over 200 years. And the United States is a more perfect place because of it.


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Israel Today

Water By Rafi Sackville

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rom its main gate, Mekorot’s central filtration plant – just north of the Movil intersection next to Kibbutz Hanaton – looks like a cross between a well coiffured park and a maze of pipes of every shape and size that wouldn’t look out of place in an industrial zone. An unlikely place to visit you might think, until you consider the importance of water to this country. Israel mostly lies on the edge of the desert, which is why water is too vital to our existence to be taken for granted. The center is one of the biggest of its kind in the world. Here water is pumped from the Sea of Galilee, where its quality is enhanced by combining advanced technological and engineering processes. After it has been treated it is pumped into our households via the national water carrier. In the middle of the park sits a modern building from whose second floor a viewing platform juts out like an open drawer. The building houses an interactive museum, and the museum plays an important role educating its thousand-of-year visitors. Interactive museums allow visitors to not only touch exhibits, but are designed to leave a long lasting impression. The visitors’ center at the Mekorot water plant is partly what you’d expect from a traditional museum, but it was designed with young people in mind. In fact it would be fair to say that the key to understanding the museum is that its main mission is to educate people in the hope they will change the way they view and use water. Visitors are brought into a darkened room where they sit around a rectangular table. They are welcomed with a short speech and a water show. The walls magically turn into fountains and jets of arcing water shoot

across and over the room. Visitors then enter a larger room in which a huge physical map of Israel is built into the floor. It lights up showing the different sources of water. Most people know that much of Israel’s water is derived from the Sea of Galilee, the Kinneret. Other sources are underground aquifers. However, over the last few decades a greater emphasis has been placed on building desalination plants that draw water from the Mediterranean Sea. A process of

observation deck where questions were being shot at us at such a rapid rate I couldn’t keep up. Despite my embarrassment at not knowing some of the answers it was clear what the overall message was: water is important and the more we know about its source and scarcity the better we’ll appreciate it each time we open a faucet. In his book, LET THERE BE WATER: Israel’s Solution for a Water-Starved World, author Seth Siegel

We are living in the middle of a revolution in the manner and direction in which Israel is using water. osmosis transfers the saltwater into water for every day household use. Our guide was a fount of endless information. At one point she told us she trusted that what she was saying we were putting to memory. She guided us out onto the observation platform. Around the platform are five computer stands. We were divided into groups and were fed questions on all the information we’d heard over the previous 45 minutes. I admit that while paying attention to most of what was being said, I had the tendency to wander around the room by myself to check out different stages of the filtering process. For example, I was amazed to learn that certain type of carp are used during one of the filtering stages. They are placed into pre-sedimentation ponds to control excessive phytoplankton in raw water. Who would have known? That information didn’t help me out on the

argues that Israel quickly understood that the traditional methods of water usage were wasteful. Siegel explains how Israel has created ways to help itself and the world deal with diminishing supplies of water. Siegel notes how drip irrigation, a common agricultural tool used around the world, transformed Israel’s ability to grow delicious fruits and vegetables without exhausting our water resources. He also describes how many crops are watered using a different source of water: retreated waste. That’s why you see so many signs alongside fields which warn against drinking the water. In short, Israel has two main water carriers – that which is potable and that which isn’t. In fact, more than half of Israel’s potable water now comes from the sea. It uses a greater percentage of desalinated water than other countries. We are living in the middle of a

revolution in the manner and direction in which Israel is using water. It used to be that we used water from the south to the north of the country. Israel has turned to the W\west as well. Mekorot is eventually planning to receive desalinated water from five facilities along the Mediterranean for transfer throughout the country. This shouldn’t suggest that Israel no longer suffers from water problems. Mention of the depleting Kinneret Lake water levels are forever raising eyebrows throughout the country. This is evident to the naked eye. One of the features of Ma’alot, where we live in the Galil, is its manmade lake. Its circumference is a kilometer (.62 mile). The path that runs around it is popular for walkers and joggers. Over the course of summer the water level drops significantly enough to expose the original sheets of black plastic that line the bottom. Israel encourages water conservation. The irony of living here is that by logic people shouldn’t be living in the desert, and yet cities like Be’er Sheva are thriving. Israeli advancements in water technology allows the country to continually grow. New roads and communities are being built all over the country. This in turn allows for an influx of new immigrants. At the end of the summer great fanfare was made of a Nefesh b’ Nefesh arrival of hundreds of immigrants from the U.S. and Canada. Despite the tiny size of Israel there is plenty of room for new immigrants. Moreover, despite an almost 40% reduction in annual rainfall since 1948, there is plenty of water for them to drink. Rafi Sackville, formerly of Cedarhurst, teaches in Ort Maalot in Western Galil.


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Israeli Innovations that Could Save your Life Quickly becoming the hottest medical innovation hub in the world, Israeli technology is turning heads and saving lives. By Raizel Druxman

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hile most people were soaking up the sun this summer (hopefully with sunscreen), researchers in Israel were busy cracking the code of the human body. It’s not by chance that there are over 250 major R&D Centers in Israel owned by multinational companies including Apple, General Electric, Johnson & Johnson, and Google. Known worldwide as the start-up nation for its technological innovations, Israel is also a leading country in medical innovation. Helping people in wheelchairs stand with ReWalk, using breathing to detect life-threatening diseases with NaNose, screening for cervical cancer with smartphones from MobileODT, and even a special drinking cup that helps keep track of individual hydration needs called Pryme Vessyl, Israel is paving the innovation path with thousands of medical breakthroughs. NaNose and ReWalk were invented by professors and alumni of Technion Institute of Technology, one of the leading Israeli hubs developing technology and medical innovations. With

Technion’s American Medical Program that provides students from abroad the opportunity to learn in a cutting-edge environment and the opening of Technion-Cornell Innovation Institute (TCII) in New York, Israeli innovations will make an even bigger impact around the world. 2016 Technion American Medical Program graduate Allen Pimienta from Toronto matched at Mayo Clinic in Family Medicine. While studying at Technion, Pimienta published papers in four different journals and is the first author on two. “I can’t get this research opportunity anywhere else,” Pimienta said. “Not only do renowned researchers teach our classes, but they also

give us their cellphone information and say, ‘Please contact us with any questions.’” Another Israeli-American partnership that has already seen promising results is a recent study conducted by Technion and Harvard University. Through a time-lapse video, they have captured the study that illustrates bacteria mutating to overcome drugs meant to stop and destroy them. This is the first time antibiotic resistance has been documented in such a clear way and will have enormous ramifications on understanding antibiotics and bacteria. Another Technion alumni, Dr Amit Goffer, invented ReWalk, the “bionic” suit that relies on motion sensors

Hossam Haick with the components of his NaNose device

to help paralysis victims to stand upright and even walk again. Less than a month ago, 36-year-old Claire Lomas used a ReWalk suit to walk the Great Northern Run; the largest half-marathon in the world. In 2007 Clair Lomas was paralyzed from the chest down in a riding accident. Although it took her five days to complete the run, she never expected to walk again. “It felt surreal,” Lomas described. “When I was walking the last bit it was really hard not to start crying.” Goffer was inspired to invent ReWalk after an accident in 1997 left him in a wheelchair. However, due to limited function in his arms, he was unable to utilize his own technology, so he invented a new product: UPnRIDE Robotics. UPnRIDE is an innovative, upright, self-stabilizing chair that goes from sitting to standing with the push of a button and can handle rough terrains and inclines. “I was able to stand with my colleagues and drink coffee,” Goffer said. “Being able to stand was an experience out of this world; the psychological effect is dramatic.”


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Other Israeli innovations that are having an enormous impact are NaNose and Mobile ODT’s device to screen for cervical cancer. Early detection is the key to saving lives when it comes to the big C word and these technologies are doing the job. NaNose was created when Technion’s Professor Hossam Haick set out to non-invasively discover traces of cancer in the human body. When there is a cancerous growth in the body, it releases distinctive volatile organic compound (VOC). Upon release they travel in the bloodstream and when these molecules reach the lungs they are emitted to the breath. The number of molecules is extremely small and detecting them is like trying to find the one 5-petal tulip in a massive field of 6-petal tulips. When they leave the mouth with the exhaled breath is when NaNose can identify the molecules and detect the cancer. In four out

of five cases, the device differentiated between benign and malignant lung lesions and even different cancer subtypes. It is currently being customized to detect other diseases to ensure ear-

structure is hard to come by in developing countries, especially in rural areas. Ariel Beery, CEO and co-founder of Tel Aviv-based startup MobileODT, wanted to increase life expectan-

“Being able to stand was an experience out of this world; the psychological effect is dramatic.” ly detection and help save lives. Unlike other types of cancer, cervical cancer is relatively easy to identify and treat but is responsible for the deaths of more than 270,000 women annually and is a leading cause of death in developing nations. Thanks to routine Pap smear screening, cervical cancer rates in the U.S. have been drastically reduced but this kind of medical infra-

cy in developing countries. “There’s no reason a woman should die of cervical cancer just because she’s not screened on time,” said Beery, “so we make sure that women get screened on time.” MobileODT develops and sells relatively small and cheap colposcopes designed for developing countries without a strong healthcare infrastructure. Their secret weapon? They integrated

the colposcopes with smartphones, which are readily available everywhere in the world and have built-in imaging technology. Co-founder David Levitz helped design the mobile colposcope. “With a smartphone, you’re getting a much better camera with much better specifications than you are on this expensive medical device,” said Levitz. “It seems counterintuitive, but there’s just so much more innovation happening on the phone side that the phone cameras are just better – and going to get much better.” New Israeli innovations continue to emerge daily and R&D centers, Technion’s American Medical Program and many other institutions are helping bring the life-changing technology to the rest of the world. If you aren’t paying attention yet, keep an eye on the Jewish State for the next innovation that will change your life – and maybe even save it.

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Dating Dialogue

What Would You Do If… Moderated by Jennifer Mann, LCSW of The Navidaters

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I’m 21-years-old and have been dating for several years now. Recently, I was set up with a young man who seems to have the most important qualities that I have on my wish list. So that’s really great and I’m excited. The problem is that I’ve recently noticed a characteristic in Larry that I didn’t even consider putting on my list and it’s starting to bother me a lot. I’m wondering whether you all feel that I’m being silly, too picky and or are just looking for a problem, or whether you think that it’s an issue that can create serious problems within a marriage. I grew up in a very “busy” family. My mother always worked and we were always encouraged to have many hobbies and outlets. My parents hated to see us ever just sitting around doing nothing. There was always something to do. Also, if I’m being honest with myself, I think we’re all a bit ADD. We can’t sit still. From the moment we wake up in the morning, we’re off and running. My best day is a day that I feel was filled with tremendous accomplishments. The more I can squeeze into a day, the better I feel. We all like to live life to the fullest and we’re never bored. As I’m getting to know Larry better, I’m noticing that he approaches life very differently. If we go out on a Sunday evening and I ask him what he did that day, I’m usually very shocked at how little he did during the day. He’ll mention a few things and then say something like, “and I relaxed during the afternoon.” Relaxed??? I don’t even know what that means. If I probe a little more and ask for more specifics, he’ll just say that he and his brother were sitting around schmoozing or something like that. When I tell him what my Sunday included, he looks practically dizzy. The mere talking about all my running around tires him out! At this point, we laugh about our different energy levels or maybe it’s just our different approaches to life. Larry will tell me that I do more in a day than he does in a week. And we have a good chuckle. But I’m concerned. Is this a red flag that I should be taking very seriously? Aside from our different schedules, Larry is a wonderful person. We share very similar views about all the important things. It’s just this one thing that is making me nervous. Any thoughts about my concerns?

The Navidaters are offering a free gift just for you! Ever wonder what kind of a dater you are? Give us a call to take advantage of a FREE 20-minute DATING PROFILE analysis phone session. (This is not about your shidduch resume!) After a twenty-minute assessment, we will get back to you with the kind of dater you are, where you excel, and those areas needing improvement. The session is free, so you have nothing to lose and insight to gain. To learn more, watch the 3rd episode of “The Soon By You After Show With The Navidaters” on YouTube or give us a call at 516-224-7779. Sessions are filling up fast! Book yours today. Disclaimer: This column is not intended to diagnose or otherwise conclude resolutions to any questions. Our intention is not to offer any definitive conclusions to any particular question, rather offer areas of exploration for the author and reader. Due to the nature of the column receiving only a short snapshot of an issue, without the benefit of an actual discussion, the panel’s role is to offer a range of possibilities. We hope to open up meaningful dialogue and individual exploration


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The Panel

The Rebbetzin Rebbetzin Faigie Horowitz, M.S.

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have two key thoughts about your concerns. First, you concern is legitimate; people with different energy levels are probably not compatible. Sometimes, they are, however – one centers the other and there is balance. This bring me to my second point. I am just hearing superficial differences about pacing and style from your query, not where this need to do is coming from. Some people are driven and very goal oriented. That’s why they don’t chill out that much. Others are very centered. Still others are masking their inner emptiness with frenetic activity. Do you know yourself? I am very concerned about your “list” and your attitude towards it. Also, the fact that you are “dating for several years.” You are very young, getting to know yourself, and just at the beginning of the process of clarifying what will be a fit for you. What is the source for your need for activity? Are you separating from your family? Have you talked to Larry about his needs for relaxing and where they come from? Get past superficialities. Keep your focus on discovery (not the list!) with some help and see where it goes with Larry.

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out, we sometimes need that downtime. The time to talk… to laugh… to read… to just look at the color of the trees and flowers. I think that quality in Larry can be positive if you allow it to be positive, if you allow yourself to sit back once in a while and live in the moment. That’s what the past generations did hours before they davened. They sat quietly and reflected. At the same time, you can initiate some “doing time” and you can do it together. The thing is, you have to decide how you are going to look at this attribute. You can look at it as a flaw or as something positive, the same way one can look at your busy schedule as a positive or negative attribute. One can look at it as a flaw or something great. When you’re at home with your kids, will you be able to just sit and read to them or will you have to create busy time with them 24/7? On a rainy day, will you be able to bake cookies with them or will you feel a need to run with them? And with that attribute, you may create children who cannot seem to figure out how to keep themselves occupied without saying “I’m bored” after two minutes. So these are the choices. But whatever you do, don’t go into this with the intention of trying to change Larry. That would be a mistake that will ultimately lead to failure. Good luck.

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very person is different. No two people are alike – that’s an important point to remember. We complement one another. Like two pieces of a puzzle, two people have to fit together. This difference can actually enhance your relationship. You may need someone to help you sit and think and listen to your inner voice talking to you instead of constantly running and running. In order to grow and figure ourselves

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ust because it’s not on your “list” doesn’t mean it won’t impact your dynamic. You enjoy each other’s company; you say you have the same values. Perhaps you’re right about that – except you weren’t even aware that you don’t share one important value. You believe – whether consciously or not – that it’s important to be involved, active and not spend your

days “hanging out.” Or, as Larry puts it, “relaxing.” Is this an important value for you? I’m not sure. A deeply felt one? Absolutely. It’s the way you organize and spend your days. First things first: Put down the red flag. Not all things that strain a relationship are signifiers of impending doom, disaster and divorce. This is not a red flag alert situation. But this could be a cause of real strain between the two of you with many moments of regret and head shaking. So here’s what you need to do. Keep dating Larry. Really get to know each other. You organize one Sunday together – a typical one for you – and he organizes the next one, following the typical Sunday for him. Do this for a few weeks. Now take a moment. Did you like “relaxing”? Did he enjoy all the fun

Remember that old cliché: Opposites attract and then drive each other crazy.

and would he want to keep up that pace? And then take it a step deeper: Would you be comfortable with him sitting on the couch or on the phone while you do three errands, meet a friend for coffee, tie-dye your socks and whip up some brownies? Remember that old cliché: opposites attract and then drive each other crazy. Your point is to see just how crazy. So take your time and call us if there a mazel tov!


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am similar to you in the regard to packing everything into one day. My days are filled with me running non-stop. Most people can’t keep that pace going for long stints because the majority of people burn

out and/or get sick quicker because that type of lifestyle tends to run you down mentally, emotionally and physically. Shabbos and chaggim are my breath of fresh air and remind me that we are not meant to be running at such a high tempo every day, certainly not for long periods of time.

Larry sounds normal to me and could also teach you to slow down and enjoy life in a “stop and smell the roses” type of way. I recommend you spend a nice amount of time together – say 6 or more hours with one another – and see if you can blend and/ or compromise in regard to your lifestyles. Remember, that’s what marriage is about! See if you both can even each other out

Are you running toward your joy or running away from being with your own thoughts?

and still feel accomplished without feeling dizzy at the end of the experience.

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’d like you to ask yourself, “What exactly is concerning me?” Yes, you have different energy levels. But what is it about those different energy levels that leaves you asking yourself and us if you should be concerned or wave your red flag? Off the top of my head, I am wondering if a possible concern is that you will grow bored of Larry or that he will not be able to keep up with you. Maybe you wonder if ten years down the line neither you nor Larry will be laughing off your differences. Or you may be worried that Larry will grow exasperated by your energy. Some people run around, squeezing every last opportunity out of life. It is the running and the doing that provides them with tremendous and worthwhile satisfaction and quite literally energizes them. And yet, there are other “runners” who find themselves in perpetual motion in order to avoid sitting with their feelings or to avoid coping with a situation. Are you running toward your joy or running away from being with your own thoughts? Before you figure out if you should be concerned

about Larry, I would like you to figure out where your need to do is stemming from. I’d like you to set aside two hours on a coming Sunday to sit down and tolerate “not doing.” What would that look like? You could look at nature, read a book, even call a friend. I want you to engage in activities that won’t yield a tangible outcome. No multitasking. You grew up always on the go,and say you and the family might be a “touch ADD.” You were overly scheduled and weren’t allowed to “be.” You were taught to be a “human doer,” and somewhere along the way the importance of being a “human being” got lost. And so when Larry “relaxes” for a few hours on a Sunday afternoon between doing, you just don’t get it. Now, I don’t know the first thing about you or Larry, so this is all just my best guess and can even feel like a shot in the dark. Based on what you’ve described it sounds like Larry is a “human being” and you are a “human doer.” There is nothing wrong with “human beings” or

“human doers.” The question is, will you be able to tolerate him just “being” and not “doing” on all cylinders 24/7? You don’t need to be able to predict the future or have the answer to this right now. Here is the only thing you need to and can do to answer this question… For the moment, practice being open-minded. You say Larry is a great guy and you have feelings for him. He may or may not be the one, but for now, your relationship is moving in the right direction. Find a way to soothe your nerves for the time being and keep the communication open. As one of the panelists suggested, you will never change Larry and if you pursue this relationship you have to be OK with that. Same goes for Larry. He can’t change your energy level. The question is, can you each join in the other’s activities and enjoy time spent apart? Will you feel good about encouraging him to restore his energies with some R & R and will he feel good encouraging you to restore your energy with a jam-packed Sunday of shopping, errands and friends? Do you enjoy the time you spend together? These are important questions to ask yourself. If you answered “yes,” you have some pret-

ty solid relationship building blocks. If you answered “no,” then you have some thinking to do. One last thing: have you found yourself in a similar situation before? Either with a guy with a lower energy level like Larry, or in a different kind of relationship where everything is great except one thing… even if that one thing is something else? If so, that would be something for you to think about. When we start to notice patterns of behaviors or repeat emotions that we bring from one relationship to the next, it is then that it is time to speak with a professional. Wishing you all the best, Jennifer

Esther Mann, LCSW and Jennifer Mann, LCSW are licensed, clinical psychotherapists and dating and relationship coaches working with individuals, couples and families in private practice in Hewlett, NY. To set up an appointment, please call 516.224.7779. Press 1 for Esther, 2 for Jennifer. To learn more about their services, please visit thenavidaters.com. If you would like to submit a dating or relationship question to the panel anonymously, please email thenavidaters@gmail.com. You can follow The Navidaters on FB and Instagram for dating and relationship advice.


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What’s the Problem with Marriage? By Dvorah Levy, LCSW

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hat’s the problem with marriage? The problem with marriage is that our partner has the ability to hurt us in ways no one else can. We are hardwired to want to be in an intimate relationship with another. Our initial blueprint for attachment is formulated by our first intimate relationship, that of our primary caregiver. The messages we received as children around our worthiness, specialness and lovability were reflected in the responses our caregiver gave us. Ideally, when we expressed our distress or joy as children, more often than not, someone was there to mirror back to us what we were expressing and attend to our needs. If we did not receive enough consistent responsiveness, we developed “sensitive areas.” These sensitive areas can be identified by noticing what we react most strongly to in the present. Abe and Sara are a young married couple. They came to see me for marriage therapy and presented examples of how Abe often feels hurt by Sara. He interprets many of her reactions as a lack of caring for his needs and reacts by withdrawing from her. An example of this is his discomfort when visiting Sara’s family in their upstate home during the summer months. Sara, on the other hand, loves the time spent with her family. It gives her a taste of vacation and a break from handling their young

children by herself. When she insists on going, he feels disrespected and hurt that she can’t hear how distressing these visits are for him. This is one example of many where areas of difference lead to conflict and hurt. Recently, Sara said to Abe, “There’s no way to feel connected if we are not emotionally close.” Abe had a strong reaction to this. He said, “Forget it, we will just go about living our own lives separately.” Sara was taken aback by this reaction. Abe

clues that indicate that we are being triggered not from present interaction but from a past pattern of experiences. Living within the adult Abe is a young version of himself that struggles to feel heard and respected. The young part of himself hijacks his emotional responses to Sara at times and he is left to cope with the pain in the way that was most adaptive in the past, by withdrawing. Unfortunately, these reactions create emotional distance in his marriage.

tively. And then, Abe may get exactly what he’s been craving all along – consideration and respect. Sara may respond, “I hear you. I wonder if there is something I can do to make it more comfortable for you when we go, or is there a frequency of visits that we can compromise on that will make it more tolerable?” There starts a negotiation that takes into account both their needs. I believe that the most important tool in marriage is the ability to hold two reali-

Living within the adult Abe is a young version of himself that struggles to feel heard and respected.

later identified that what he heard her say is that she doesn’t want to be connected to him. I pointed out to Abe that I actually thought Sara was making a bid for connection, on both an emotional and physical level. Sara clarified her intention. She wanted to be close to him very much, but it was too painful to ignore the emotional distance between them. This was hard for Abe to see. On an unconscious level, Abe was doing what we all do. He was reading Sara’s responses through a lens that was familiar to him: he is not important, and his needs don’t matter. This is Abe’s experience from childhood. Our strongest reactions are

What if Abe were able to identify his primary emotion? Rather than feel his anger at perceived disrespect, what if he identified the pain of feeling that he doesn’t matter? What if he were able to articulate to Sara why it is so uncomfortable for him to visit her family? He might say, “I wish so much you could understand that so we could work something out. When you insist on going, I get that very familiar feeling that I frequently experienced growing up, which is that I don’t matter.” With this self-aware, vulnerable communication, Sara is more likely to hear him and is more likely to be able to respond more sensi-

ties. I often demonstrate what I mean to clients by holding up one hand, palm open to reflect one reality, and then the other hand palm open to reflect the second. When both Abe and Sara are able to understand and hold Abe’s distress and Sara’s need for contact with her family at the same time, then they can begin to negotiate a way to have both their needs met. I have yet to encounter a time when both realities were identified and viewed as understandable that a couple wasn’t able to find a place in the middle that felt really OK to both. That magic meeting place is where the joy of connection and positive attachment is made.

In summation, our greatest hurts most often have their roots in the past. Enhance communication by identifying and communicating primary emotions. Most of the time our primary emotion is hurt. Anger is a secondary emotion. Anger pushes our partner away and elicits defensiveness. Hurt is more vulnerable and most often will elicit responsiveness. And, most important, we all need to work on, and fine-tune, the ability to hold two realities, our own and our partner’s. Both have validity and both need to be understandable, not necessarily in light of present day circumstances but also considering past experiences and gender differences. Imagine being asked, “What’s the problem with marriage?” and being able to respond, “Problem? I don’t know what you mean. Marriage has been the biggest catalyst for personal growth and expansion of self-awareness. “No problem with marriage.” Dvorah Levy, LCSW is a psychotherapist in private practice with offices in Cedarhurst and Flatbush, NY. Dvorah is a psycho-dynamically oriented therapist trained in Emotionally Focused Couple Therapy, Gestalt and EMDR. She specializes in relationship work: dating, marriage and parenting, grief, anxiety, depression and trauma. Dvorah can be reached at (516) 660-7157.


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Florida, Winter Break and Zika By Hylton I. Lightman, MD, DCH (SA), FAAP

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would have never thought that after writing about Zika several months ago, concern about Zika would still be the rage. With Chanukah and winter breaks looming,

the telephone calls from patients requesting guidance are coming in daily, fast and furious. Here’s some information that may help you with planning trips to the Sunshine State.

Vaccine development for Zika is underway at the National Institute of Health (NIH). However, nothing is imminent. Alas, there has been no Zika vaccine to date, mainly because scientists long assumed the virus was so benign that it wasn’t worth the resources required to investigate treatment. Only recently has Zika

cdc.gov/zika. If you choose to travel to Zika-affected areas, please do the following: 1. Purchase travel insurance. This is because you never know. 2. Study the CDC’s website for information on how to cover up and which insect repellents are recommended.

Don’t travel to areas that are affected by Zika.

become more widely examined. In fact, the connection between Zika and microcephaly – a severe neurological birth defect – is relatively new. Many people who get infected will never know it, and if they start showing signs of infection, such as a rash, red eyes, fever or joint pain, doctors have little to offer other than advice to stay hydrated or take Tylenol as needed. What’s the best way to avoid Zika? Quite simply: don’t travel to areas that are affected by Zika. The areas in question and other Zika-related information is readily available on the website of the Center for Disease Control – https://www.

3. Follow the CDC’s guidelines. 4. Daven. I am happy to be there for my patients and if people have questions in general. However, I don’t have a crystal ball to look into the future to see what the Zika situation in Florida will be next month or at any time. Perhaps a ski trip might be in order this year: there’s no Zika on the slopes.

Dr. Hylton Lightman is a pediatrician and Medical Director of Total Family Care of the 5 Towns and Rockaway PC. He can be reached at www.totalfamily caremd.com, on Instagram at #lightman peds or visit him on Facebook.


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Putting an End to the Midnight Munching By Aliza Beer MS, RD

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e have all been there at some point or another. After a long day of healthy eating and sticking to our diet goals, a late night snack craving kicks in. Cue the binge eating and regretful guilt that follows afterwards. It is an unfortunate trend that is all too common but when we stop to really understand why we snack at night we can prevent it from happening again. You might ask yourself: what is so terrible about snacking at night? What if you choose a healthier snack and stop at just one snack? Of course picking a healthier late-night snack is better than raiding a bag of cookies, but snacking at night in general is not a wise decision. Our activity levels drop significantly at night, meaning that our bodies are less able to burn off the food we are eating as energy, thus causing excess weight gain. However, snacking late at night can actually lead to other health problems too. At night our bodies begin to wind down and our cells become less resistant to the crucial hormone insulin. Insulin is the hormone that pulls sugar out of our blood to be used as energy. If we are consuming snacks late at night and our cells are less responsive to in-

sulin, then we are likely going to sleep with our blood sugar spiked. High blood sugar is a major risk factor for type 2 diabetes. Once our blood sugar is spiked, our body stores the extra sugar as fat. These extra fat stores are yet

colorful fruits and vegetables during the day (foods that are filled with vitamins and minerals), you may find that you no longer feel the urge to dig into snacks at night. While some cravings may reflect a nutritional de-

your mind off the craving. Another important tip to prevent snacking at night is to make sure your daytime meals are well-balanced. Being too restrictive during the day generally results in breaking down at night and

By distracting yourself and focusing on something other than the craving, you can get your mind off the craving.

another risk factor for type 2 diabetes as well as heart disease! Additionally, late-night snacking can lead to altered sleep patterns and can increase our risk for acid reflux. So how do we kick midnight munching to the curb? Sometimes when you feel a craving it means that your body is lacking in a certain nutrient. The problem is that your body may crave one thing (such as sweets and carbs) when it really is lacking in something different. For example, vitamin C has been linked to feelings of fullness, so if you are not getting enough during the day, your body might begin to crave snacks late at night. By filling up on a variety of

ficiency, another cause of late night snacking is purely psychological. Often when you crave something specific, like ice cream, chips, or a bag of chocolate, it is really a physical desire, not a nutritional need. While it may be easier for you to stick to a healthy diet during the day, our willpower often is weaker at night. Furthermore, boredom tends to kick in during the later hours of the night whereas during the day we are busy with a million different tasks. By distracting yourself and focusing on something other than the craving, whether that be catching up on work, reading a book, cleaning the house, or going on a walk, you can get

eating whatever is in sight. Sticking to a healthy balance of complex carbohydrates, protein, fats, vegetables and fruits is key. Also, staying well hydrated throughout the day is crucial because we often mistake thirst for hunger and it very well may kick in at night. If you feel hungry, first drink something – water or tea – and wait to see how you feel. Another good tip is to brush and floss your teeth after dinner; it will inhibit snacking after, as you may be too lazy to do it again. Lastly, try not to have junk food in the house. These snacks are generally what we crave at night and by not having them around you will be way less likely to binge at

all. Also, most of these highfat, high-sugar, empty calorie snacks just leave you in the mood to snack more. Try to buy your groceries when you are not hungry and you will be more likely to stick to healthful choices and avoid bringing these danger foods into your house. While we do our best to stick to a healthy diet and lifestyle, at times this can be more challenging. Nighttime snacking is an area where even the strongest can feel weak and giving into those cravings that may be extremely tempting. However, when we stop and realize that snacking late at night can cause serious health problems, in addition to adding undesired extra pounds, we might think twice. By taking the right steps to avoid nighttime snacking and understanding what may be the underlying cause of these cravings we can better prepare ourselves to avoid the midnight munchies.

Aliza Beer is a registered dietician with a master’s degree in nutrition. She has a private practice in Cedarhurst, NY. Patients’ success has been featured on the Dr. Oz show. Aliza can be reached at alizabeer@gmail. com.


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Teriyaki Mandarin Pasta Spinach Salad Ingredients 8 ounces bowtie pasta noodles 4 cups spinach leaves ½ cup Craisins ¹⁄₃ cup cashews or pine nuts 1 4-oz. can mandarin oranges, drained ¼ cup cilantro leaves, roughly chopped

Dressing ¹⁄₃ cup teriyaki sauce ¹⁄₃ cup rice wine vinegar or apple cider vinegar ½ teaspoon garlic powder ½ teaspoon onion powder ¼ teaspoon salt ¼ teaspoon black pepper

1 tablespoon sugar ½ cup oil, canola or olive

Preparation Cook pasta according to package instructions, drain and rinse with cold water. Set aside. While pasta is boiling, prepare the dressing. In a jar combine all dressing ingredients. Cover and shake to combine. Chill until ready to use. In a large bowl toss together pasta, spinach, raisins, nuts, mandarin oranges, and cilantro. Just before serving pour dressing over salad, toss, and serve.

Cheesy Stuffed Shells Ingredients 12 oz. box of jumbo shells 1 lb. fresh ricotta cheese 12 oz. shredded mozzarella cheese, divided ¼ cup minced fresh flat-leaf parsley ¼ tsp kosher salt ¼ tsp ground black pepper 2 cups marinara sauce, divided 2 TBS finely grated Parmesan cheese

Preparation Preheat the oven to 375°F. Cook the shells according to package

directions; drain, rinse and cool. Stir the ricotta, 2 cups mozzarella, parsley, salt, and pepper together in a bowl. Taste and add more salt if needed. Spread 1 cup sauce across the bottom of a 9x13-inch casserole dish. Stuff each shell with about 1 heaping tablespoon cheese filling and place in the dish. Top the shells with the remaining 1 cup sauce, 1 cup mozzarella, and Parmesan cheese. Bake uncovered for 30 minutes, until the cheese is melted and the sauce is bubbling.


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4 eggs 1 1/3 cups milk 2 TBS margarine or butter, melted, or oil 1 cup flour ½ tsp vanilla extract ½ tsp salt, if needed 1 cup chocolate chips, melted 1 cup strawberries, washed and sliced Whipped cream

In a medium bowl, beat eggs slightly. Add the milk, margarine or butter, flour, vanilla, and salt. Beat until smooth. Heat a crepe pan or a 7 to 8 inch skillet over medium-high heat. Grease with oil. Pour scant ¼ cup batter into hot pan, immediately tilting pan until batter covers bottom. Cook until edges start to dry and center is set. Flip onto other side for a moment. When cool, place a line of melted chocolate in middle of the crepe; place sliced berries on top. Fold crepe. Drizzle additional melted chocolate on top of crepe and top with whipped cream.

Mexican Spiced Hot Chocolate Ingredients 4 cups milk ¼ cup Dutch-processed unsweetened cocoa powder ¼ cup sugar 2 tsp cornstarch 1 tsp cinnamon ½ tsp vanilla extract ¼ tsp. chipotle powder or chili powder pinch of nutmeg pinch of cayenne

Preparation Add all ingredients to a medium saucepan. Heat over medium heat until simmering, stirring frequently. Remove from heat and serve with toppings such as whipped cream, marshmallows, chocolate syrup, and/or chocolate shavings.


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What Trump’s Win Means for Education By Chaim Homnick

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e now know that the pollsters were no better than a bunch of 8th grade students trying to tackle Common Core probability equations for the first time. Trump was given little chance of winning the election as various polls tracked by the New York Times pegged Trump’s odds at 15 percent, 8 percent, 2 percent, and less than one percent. Now it turns out the answer was “E: None of the Above.” Thus, for educators like myself, the question is what does this mean for education in America? What does it mean for yeshivos? Generally, in Washington, campaign promises are made to be broken while fingers are pointed disapprovingly at an oppositional Congress and Senate. However, in this case, the Republicans control most of our government which means that a lot of the policy promises made can become a reality. Here are some of the things to watch out for:

EDUCATIONAL PHILOSOPHY In keeping with Trump’s overall message about Washington’s corruption, Trump has stated the following

about education: “I’m a tremendous believer in education, but education has to be at a local level. We cannot have the bureaucrats in Washington telling you how to manage your child’s education.” As part of this mandate, Trump wants to minimize federal government interference with education and intends to promote school choice, something likely to pay huge dividends for yeshivos and the push for school vouchers. Additionally, part of his “Educate Locally” platform likely spells doom for the Common Core, a favorite of Democrats and the Clintons and a target of the wrath of parents and teachers across the country.

STUDENT LOANS Trump has also stated that he intends to cap student loans to 12.5% of a graduate’s earnings to ensure students don’t accrue debt that later becomes impossible to pay off. He asserts that, in general, “We will make it easier for families to afford college so students aren’t buried in debt.” He has also ridiculed the government, critiquing that “the only thing our government profits on is college kids and that shouldn’t happen.” If Trump

follows through, an overhaul to the student loan system seems likely as he attempts to veer away from the current level of federal involvement and funding in the loan process.

GOVERNMENT AID/ YESHIVA FUNDING Trump’s school choice plan includes $20 billion in immediate investment in expanding charter school and private school options for low-income families. Trump has declared, “Every child in America deserves a great education and an opportunity to achieve their dreams. We will enhance education options for students through school choice and charters.” For Jewish parents who have spent years paying school taxes for schools they don’t utilize while also paying hefty yeshiva tuitions, such a school choice program can be a game changer. Last week’s article discussed why yeshiva tuitions are so high and what could be done about it. If yeshivos start receiving significantly more government funding, it is incumbent upon each yeshiva to use those funds to lessen the tuition burden on parents before using them to enhance their buildings.

CONCLUSION Trump’s presidency commences at his noon inauguration on January 20th. His first days in office will be telling. Backed by Congress and the Senate, Trump and his team can begin to implement their policies. It is critical that the proper thought and development be devoted to each of these plans to prevent a disastrous rollout with unintended consequences like that of Obamacare. Whether Trump can make America great again remains to be seen but he can begin improving education and building up goodwill by helping Americans afford to get educated again. Chaim Homnick is the College Advisor at Mesivta Ateres Yaakov of Lawrence and also teaches 5 periods of Honors/AP English Literature. Chaim is the owner of Five Towns Tutoring (fivetownstutoring.com) as well as Machane Miami Day Camp of Florida (machanemiami.com). He scored in the 99th percentile on the SAT and the LSAT and tutors both extensively. He has a Masters Degree in Educational Leadership and Administration as well as an MBA. For questions, comments, previous articles or tutoring, he can be reached directly at chomnick@gmail.com.


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’ve been describing the job search of an imaginary client, Beryl Klein. Although Beryl’s story has all of the ingredients of a real search, there may be a limit to how much inspiration actual job hunters can take from him. After all, he’s not real, and it may be hard to believe that the steps he takes really work. So I’d like to describe an actual job search that just recently reached a successful conclusion. Since I already have an imaginary client named Beryl, I’ll give this real client the imaginary name Arthur. Arthur began his job search three years ago when he reached a point which I call the Kollel Conundrum. That is, he was in his late 20s, had two kids, and no visible job skills, and no idea how to proceed. His first foray actually turned out pretty well, when he followed the advice of the well-known radio ad and went to B&H. There he quickly learned how to use several popular cameras and became a resource for the salespeople. When a customer was considering a specific camera, the salesman would bring him over to Arthur to learn about the ease of use and special features. Arthur was often able to make today’s high-tech cameras less threatening to the customer, and sales often resulted. But Arthur’s family and expenses were growing faster than his salary, so he decided to try something else. A short stint at a frum-owned financial services company proved conclusively that Arthur was not a future Rothschild, so he again found himself on the job search trail. That’s

when he heard about Job Search for Champions. In our first session I had Arthur talking about his workplace skills and how he felt he might use them in the future. After describing several that were a little too generic to make much of an impression on an employer, Arthur began to describe a skill that he could use very well, that he enjoyed using, and that lent itself to a job description that he could investigate. That was being the “translator,” the person in-between a technological tool and its potential user. As more and more things can be done with software, apps, websites and gadgets, more and more non-technical people want to use those amazing tools. But those tools are created by engineers who often, shall we say, lack the outlook of the common man. Arthur has the ability to understand the concerns of an eager but unsophisticated customer, anticipating problems that would arise in using the technology, and suggesting ways to prevent the problem before the customer ever confronts it. He had already demonstrated that skill when he made complicated cameras less scary, and he felt confident that he could apply that skill in other settings. The next step in a job hunt is to identify work settings where that skill is critical and then do research to learn as much as possible about every aspect of each potential job. If the skills, talents, and goals are a good match, it’s a job worth pursuing. But in Arthur’s case, there was something else to investigate. There

is an emerging field known as “UX,” User Experience. It involves all types of tech companies – software developers, for example – who know that their customers are often frustrated by technological marvels that are supposed to make their lives easier but don’t. So they turn to UX experts to make their offerings user-friendly. Besides being a concrete way to use Arthur’s strongest skills, UX seemed to be uniquely suited for him because training in the UX field is available in short, highly focused courses, lasting from one day to several weeks. These courses are given, among others, by a highly regarded educational organization based in Manhattan called General Assembly, or GA. They offer introductory sessions every few weeks, and Arthur signed up. The results were electric. Arthur found that the concepts made sense to him, and he was soon talking to executives in the field about ideas, approaches, and solutions. They were impressed with Arthur’s confidence and articulate manner, and they found his unusual background (Lakewood and Mir) refreshing. Arthur was beginning to see a future where his talents and skills could be used in a new and different way. The key to job hunting is to become part of the conversation with people who do the work you want to do. Arthur spoke to software designers, UX people, and anyone he could find who was bringing technology into their business. One of the latter kind introduced him to a software company executive whose business seemed to be growing.

The first meeting was a disaster. There were interruptions, followed by delays, and finally the meeting broke off with only a vague promise to speak again soon. Arthur called me, obviously upset. But I sensed an opportunity. I advised Arthur to prepare for his next meeting, whenever it would be, by creating a proposal for his own job. That’s right. Instead of waiting for an employer to figure things out, a great job hunter, especially when considering a fairly new, growing company, comes in with a description of what he’s ready to do and why he’s the best person to do it. Arthur took that idea and the next day sent me a 25 slide PowerPoint presentation explaining how he would fix the company website, plus a list of six others things he was ready to do to improve the customer’s first experience with this company. A day later, Arthur had a second meeting, and a day after that, a job offer. Even though we live in a tough economy, there are still many jobs that need to be filled and they will be filled by proactive, articulate, well-prepared job searchers. And there are many more jobs that will be created and offered to a job searcher who takes the initiative to show the vision which is uniquely his.

Rabbi Mordechai Kruger’s Job Search for Champions has helped clients of all kinds find the jobs they really want. He can be reached at jobsearchfor champions@gmail.com


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Notable Quotes “Say What?!”

According to scientists, the moon is the closest it’s been to the Earth since 1948. Apparently, the moon is worried and wants to know what [in the world] is going on down here. - Conan O’Brien

This is a moral 9/11. – Thomas Friedman, The New York Times, discussing the election of Trump

Donald Trump is gonna be president. Republicans hope he’ll keep his promise to build the wall, and Democrats hope he’ll keep his promise not to accept the election results.

On Nov. 8, the most powerful country in world history, which will set its stamp on what comes next, had an election. The outcome placed total control of the government—executive, Congress, the Supreme Court—in the hands of the Republican Party, which has become the most dangerous organization in world history. – Radical leftist Noam Chomsky

– Jimmy Fallon

Who is your neighbor voting for? - Robert Cahaly, the only pollster who got this election right, disclosing the second question he asked to people (the first question was “Who are you voting for?”) in order to find the “shy Trump voter”

Two things happened last night: Donald Trump got elected president, and my job just got easier for the next four years. – Conan O’Brien

Trump also received congratulations from Russian President Vladimir Putin. They spent two minutes on the phone discussing politics, then an hour saying, “No, YOU hang up!” “No, YOU hang up first.”

My wife…said I can’t talk about politics anymore. – Tom Brady when asked to confirm that he voted for Trump

– Jimmy Fallon

The press took him literally, but not seriously; his supporters took him seriously, but not literally. – Salena Zito, The Atlantic, explaining the Trump phenomenon

Internalized misogyny is a real thing. - Former Clinton campaign communications director Jess McIntosh on MSNBC explaining why more women voted for Obama than Hillary

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You have to accept that millions of people who voted for Barack Obama, some of them once, some of them twice, changed their minds this time. They’re not racist. They twice voted for a man whose middle name is Hussein. That’s the America you live in. – Michael Moore on MSNBC

Everyone must stop saying they are “stunned” and “shocked.” What you mean to say is that you were in a bubble and weren’t paying attention to your fellow Americans and their despair. – Ibid. on Facebook

I read that polls may have been off because the shift to cellphones made it harder to collect data from people. Then Hillary said, “They seemed to have a pretty easy time collecting data from my phone!” – Jimmy Fallon

I understand everybody has their opinions; that’s fine. If you support him, great. If you don’t, I understand. However, we’re up here to go to Puerto Vallarta, supposed to be having a good time, and what I do ask is that as people we have the common decency to respect each other’s decisions and to get along. – Announcement by an American Airlines pilot, after a political argument broke out among passengers

I’ve figured out why the Young Democrats are so distraught. They believed, and apparently continue to believe, that postelection, we were planning to do to them what they were planning to do to us. The reality is, all us deplorables have ever asked for is to be left alone. – Howie Carr

Whitey Bulger has more of a chance of coming back than the Clinton Foundation.

In other news, Donald Trump continued with his White House transition over the weekend, appointing RNC chair Reince Priebus as his White House chief of staff. A lot of people are questioning this new appointment, and the biggest question people have is: Is it pronounced Rinse? Is it Rance? Reyoncé? - James Corden

We believe we reported on both candidates fairly during the presidential campaign. – From an open letter by New York Times publisher Arthur Sulzberger Jr., in which – ironically –Sulzberger promises to become honest again now that the campaign is over and they are no longer bound by their spring 2016 promise to be biased against Trump

While our leaders try to make the best of this, millions of Americans were very unhappy about how this election played out. Thousands of protesters took to the streets last night in Chicago, New York, here in L.A., a number of cities. It’s somewhat refreshing to see people angry in real life instead of just on Facebook, isn’t it? – Jimmy Kimmel

I think it’s important that we be open to talking about trade deals. If the Americans want to talk about NAFTA, I’m more than happy to talk about it. - Canadian Prime Minister Justin Trudeau showing a willingness to go along with Trump and renegotiate the NAFTA trade deal, two days after Trump’s election victory

– Ibid.

Trump said that he would not accept the standard $400,000 salary that presidents get. That story again: Trump made his first deal as president-elect and lost almost $400,000.

Deport Fashiosm!

- Jimmy Fallon

- Sign at a New York anti-Trump protest, which obviously did not go through spellcheck first

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Before we start calling the reaction a protest let’s get something straight. A protest is a peaceful objection to a grievance. A bunch of sore losers occupying a space is called a tantrum ... Correct me if I am wrong but I don’t think we experienced mass protests after Obama won in 2008 or 2012. No riots or tantrums mass-televised for the world to see. Why? Two reasons. I guess Republicans lose with grace, and, second, most aren’t afforded time in the middle of a workweek to congregate and throw a fit because they have to work. - Tomi Lahren, The Blaze

It’s been 48 hours since the election — I’m happy to report the healing has begun. I just unblocked three family members on Facebook. - Conan O’Brien

After the results came in, Donald Trump gave a big victory speech. He said he couldn’t have done it without the love of his life, his rock, his better half . . . FBI Director James Comey. – Jimmy Fallon

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President Obama called Donald Trump last night to congratulate him, and even invited him to the White House for a meeting tomorrow. Of course, it was hard to understand Obama, ’cuz at the time he was chewing 80 pieces of Nicorette. – Jimmy Fallon

Time for Hollywood to pony up and head for the border #illhelpyoupack #beatit. – Tweet by Cubs pitcher Jake Arrieta, reminding Hollywood that they promised to leave the country if Trump wins

I think [Obama] ends up a historic parenthesis. He has left the Democrats in ruins at every level. The governorships, the state houses, the House, and the Senate, and now the White House. He’s been a wrecking ball for Democrats and I think he deserves a lot of the credit for Trump’s victory. - Charles Krauthammer, Fox News

As a matter of convenience I generally haven’t paid a lot of attention to the polls, but since your question is directly related to the notion of a rejection of my worldview, last I checked, um, a pretty healthy majority of Americans agreed with my worldview on a whole bunch of things. – President Obama when asked if Trump’s election is a rejection of him


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How the New Republican Majority can Succeed By Charles Krauthammer

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onald Trump won fair and square and, as Hillary Clinton said in her concession speech, is owed an open mind and a chance to lead. It is therefore incumbent upon conservatives (like me) who have been highly critical of Trump to think through how to make a success of the coming years of Republican rule. It begins by recognizing Trump’s remarkable political instincts. As Paul Ryan noted in his morning-after olive-branch news conference, Trump heard “a voice out in this country that no one else heard.” Trump spoke to and for a working class squeezed and ruined by rapid technological and economic transformation. One of the principal tasks for the now-dominant GOP is to craft a governing agenda that actually alters their lives and prospects. In the end, it was this constituency of those left behind by the new globalized digital economy that delivered the presidency to Trump. Nonetheless, this election was not just about the social/ economic divide. It was also about the ideological divide between left and right. The most overlooked factor in the election is the continuing deep and widespread dissatisfaction with Obamaism. It tends to be overlooked

because President Obama remains personally popular (56 percent in the latest Gallup). As a charismatic campaigner, whenever his name is on the ballot, he wins. But when it’s not – 2010, 2014, now 2016 – the Democrats get shellacked. The reason is no mystery. The problem was never with

Obamaism had wrought. Hence the other principal task for the now dominant GOP: Undo Obamaism. Begin with canceling Obama’s executive orders on everything from immigration to climate change. Then overturn his more elaborate legislative adventures into overweening liberalism, starting,

veto on President Obama’s desk. Beyond the undoing, there’s now the prospect of doing. Serious border enforcement, including a wall, for example. That’s not only a good in itself, it would offer leverage in a grand bargain that would include eventual legalization of resident ille-

The promise of a Trump presidency is that, if it can successfully work with a Republican Congress, it could turn Obamaism into a historical parenthesis.

Obama himself, but with his policies. Before each of those losing elections Obama would campaign saying that his name wasn’t on the ballot but his policies – and now his legacy – were. The voters made clear what they thought of his policies and legacy. Simply put, from the beginning of his presidency, Obama overreached ideologically, most spectacularly with his signature legislative achievement – Obamacare. The spike in Obamacare premiums and deductibles just two weeks before Tuesday’s election proved a particularly damaging reminder of what

of course, with Obamacare. The promise of a Trump presidency is that, if it can successfully work with a Republican Congress, it could turn Obamaism into a historical parenthesis. Republicans would then have a chance to enact the Reaganite agenda that has been incubating while in exile from the White House. For years Washington gridlock has been attributed to GOP obstructionism. On the contrary, serious legislation, such as Medicare reform passed by the GOP House, was either strangled in the Senate by Democratic leader Harry Reid or died by

gal immigrants, an idea supported (according to the exit polls) by more than seven in 10 voters. Another given is a reshaping of the currently rudderless Supreme Court with the nomination of a conservative justice to replace the late Antonin Scalia. During the campaign, Trump’s populism often clashed with traditional Reaganism. The key to GOP success is to try to achieve an accommodation, if not a fusion. Two agendas: one ideological, one socioeconomic. They both need to be addressed. Onto the Reaganite core of smaller government and

strict constitutionalism must be added a serious concern for the grievances of the constituency that animated the Trump insurgency, the long-suffering, long-neglected working class. If Reaganite conservatives want to head off wrongheaded solutions – such as massive tariffs, mercantilist economics and trade wars – they must be prepared to accept such measures as federal wage subsidies and targeted restraints on trade. This involves giving up a measure of economic efficiency. But the purpose is to achieve a measure of social peace and restore dignity and security to a stressed and sliding working class. Some might even call it compassionate conservatism. The key to success for a Trump presidency is for the Reaganite and populist elements in the party to be willing to advance each other’s goals even at the cost of ideological purity. This will require far-reaching negotiations between a Trump White House and a GOP Congress. The Republicans have gained control of all the political branches. They have the means to deliver. They now have to show that they can. (c) 2016, The Washington Post Writers Group


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he following is based on approximately 412 true stories. 10:34 PM: Hello, thank you for calling Avalon Electronics. For quality and training purposes, your call may be monitored or recorded. Your call is very important to us. To continue in English, please press… 10:34: [#1] 10:34: Hola, gracias por llamar Avalon Electrónica… 10:34: <CLICK> 10:35: Hello, thank you for calling Avalon Electronics. For quality and training purposes, your call may be monitored or recorded. Your call is very important to us. To continue in English, please press 2 now. 10:35: [#2] 10:35: Please listen to all options before making your selection as our menu has recently changed. To place an order, press one. For questions about an order already received, press two. For information about an order not yet received, press 3. For billing questions… 10:36: [#0] 10:36: I’m sorry, that is not a valid option. Hello, thank you for calling Avalon Electronics. For quality and

training purposes, your call may be monitored or recorded. Your call is very important to us. To continue in English, please press 2 now… 10:36: <SLAM> 10:55: Hello, thank you for calling Avalon Electronics. For quality or training purposes, your call may be monitored or recorded. Your call is very important to us. To continue in English, please press 2 now… 10:55: [#2] 10:55: Please listen to all menu options before making your selection as our menu has recently changed. To place an order, press one. For questions about an order already received, press two. For information about an order not yet received, press 3. For billing questions, press 4. For information about returning an order, press… 10:56: Operator! 10:56: I understand you wish to speak with a representative, is that correct? 10:56: Yes. 10:56: Okay. Before I connect you to the correct representative, I need to know the nature of your call. Please tell me in a few words… 10:56: Tech support.

10:57: You want to speak with our sales department, is that correct? 10:57: What? No! No that is not correct. 10:57: Okay, sorry. In a few words, please tell me… 10:58: TECH SUPPORT! 10:58: You would like tech support, is that… 10:58: Yes! 10:58: Great! If your product is under warranty, please… 10:59: [#1] 10:59: Please enter your account number, followed by the pound key. 10:59: [AV49283] 10:59: Please enter your account number, followed by the… 10:59: [AV49283 #] 11:00: Please enter your order number. 11:00: 11:00: If you do not have your order number, please press… 11:01: [#] 11:00: If you do not have your order number, please press the star key. 11:00: @&%$*! 11:00: If you do not have your order number, please press… 11:01: [*]

11:01: Please hold for the next available representative. 11:01-11:24: ♬♪♫♪ 11:25: <SLAM!> 11:32-12:04 AM: (REPEAT) 12:04-12:19: ♬♪♫♪ 12:20: <SLAM!!> 12:35-12:52: (RINSE AND REPEAT) 12:52-1:07: ♬♪♫♪ 1:07: Hello, this is Vijay, how can I help make your day better? 1:07: Zzzzzzzzzzzz…. 1:07: Hello? 1:07: REP-RE-SEN-TA-TIVE!!! 1:08: Hello? 1:08: Hel…you mean you’re a human being? 1:08: Oh yes, yes sir. And with whom do I have the pleasure of speaking? 1:08: Not sure I remember anymore. 1:09: Sorry? 1:09: Never mind. 1:09: Am I speaking with Mr. Robert…Zweeg? 1:09: It’s Ronald. And it’s pronounced Zwyge. 1:09: So sorry, sir. So it’s Ronald… Zwilde? 1:10: Hashem Yishmoreini…


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1:10: Excuse me? 1:10: It’s spelled Z-W-E-I-G! Z as in Zebra, W-E-I-G as in George! And it’s pronounced Zwyge! Okay? Got it?? 1:11: Yes, sir. So sorry, sir. 1:11: Look, I’m sorry for the attitude, but I’ve been on the phone for almost three hours trying to get a human being to talk to, so I’m just about fried, okay? 1:11: I understand, sir, and I’m terribly sorry. You happened to call during our peak hours, and… 1:11: Peak hours? It’s one o’clock in the freaking morning! 1:12: Yes, sir, sorry, sir. May I call you Robert? 1:12: You may call me Caitlin for all I care. Can we please just move on? 1:12: Yes, sir, of course, sir. I just need to verify your account. May I have your mother’s maiden name? 1:12: I-N-D-I-C-H. 1:12: Okay, one second…I… M…D… 1:13: EN! 1:13: Sorry, sir? 1:13: It’s Not EM like Mary! It’s EN like Nancy! I-EN-D-I-C-H! 1:13: Yes, yes, that is correct. 1:13: No kidding. 1:14 Father’s middle name? 1:14: Sheesh. Jacob. 1:14: Yes. And just one last question: your Zip Code? 1:14: 11229. 1:15: Excellent. Now how can I be of assistance, Mr. Caitlin? 1:15: @&%$*! 1:15: Excu… 1:15: NOTHING! NEVER MIND! My AvTab is broken. 1:16: Yes, sir. I’m terribly sorry for the inconvenience, Mr. Caitlin, sir. But don’t worry, we’ll take care of it. Do you happen to have your original sales receipt? 1:16: My what? My receipt? What receipt? I bought it on Amazon! 1:16: Hmm. May I place you on a brief hold? 1:16: Oh, for crying out…yes, but please make it snappy! 1:16: No worries, Mr. Caitlin sir, be right back. 1:17-1:19: ♬♪♫♪ 1:20: Hello, Sir? 1:20: Zzzzzz….. 1:20: Um, hello? Mr. Caitlin? Sir?

1:20: Yes, I’m here. 1:21: So sorry for the wait, sir. So what seems to be the problem with the unit, sir? 1:21: Well, the screen fades out in the lower left hand corner, the most of the icons are missing, and the F, W, and B keys on the virtual keyboard do not function. 1:21: I see. So sorry for the inconvenience. May I ask: was the unit dropped in any way? 1:21: No, it wasn’t dropped. I did spill coffee on it, but I bought the special AvTec Warranty, so I’m covered for that kind of thing for another 2 years. 1:22: Okay, sir. Fine, no worries. Ummmmmm…may I just place you on one more brief hold? 1:22: COME ON! Do you know what time it is? 1:22: Yes, yes, of course, sir. I’m so sorry, I promise I’ll be right back this time, Mr. Caitlin. 1:22: Well, then hurry up! AND MY NAME IS ZWEIG! ZWEIG! NOT CAITLIN! ZWEIG! 1:23: But I thought…but you said… 1:23: Well, don’t think! You don’t get paid to think! And never mind what I said! Let me speak to a supervisor! 1:23: I’m so sorry, Mr. Zweeg. Hold on, I’ll be right back. 1:23: @&%$*!@&%$*!@&%$*! 1:24-1:26: ♬♪♫♪ - & @&%$*!@&%$*!@&%$*! 1:27: Thank you so much for holding. Mr. Zweeg, I’ve spoken to my supervisor and he informs me that unfortunately, your warranty does not cover this repair. 1:27: What are you talking about? Of course it covers it! That’s specifically why I bought the coverage in the first place! I use the tablet on my desk, I drink five or six cups of coffee a day, so I bought… 1:27: Yes, sir, I understand, sir. But if you read your warranty, you will see that it does not cover opaque liquids. 1:27: WHAT? WHAT ARE YOU TALKING ABOUT? 1:28: The LDC, the Liquid Damage Clause, specifically states that it covers only clear liquids, like water, tea, chicken soup… 1:28: CHICKEN SOUP? WHO

EATS CHICKEN SOUP AT HIS DESK?? 1:28: I’m sorry, Mr. Zweeg, but there’s nothing I can… 1:28: <SLAM!> 1:30: Hello... 1:30: Hello, I... 1:30: ...and thank you for calling Bellevue Hospital. To continue in English, please press one now.

Rocky Zweig has been writing since he was sixteen and was the Editor-in-Chief of the late and decidedly unlamented Modieinu, the mimeographed (remember mimeographs?) newspaper of the Tenth Avenue Pirchei of Boro Park, where he wrote everything from stories to news articles to hashkafa articles to... yes (now it can be told!)...letters to the editor. Rocky was sixteen a very long time ago. He is the proud father of three marginally neurotic children. He has been married three — count ‘em — three

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times and has finally determined that he’s probably not very good at matrimonial bliss. He lives in his Fortress of Solitude in Flatbush with a small menagerie: Clarice, a European Starling; Rabbi Horatio LeZard, a Bearded Dragon; an aquarium filled with Lake Malawi African Cichlids; and a ten gallon tank that functions as a Home for Unwanted Goldfish, or H.U.G., collected over the years by his grandkids and great nieces and nephews at myriad street fairs and carnivals (rather than face the unpleasant task of flushing these unfortunate piscine creatures when they are eventually, inevitably ignored by their own obnoxious progeny, the parents simply call Uncle Rocky who then feeds them and cares for them until their ultimate natural demise three or four or even ten years down the pike). So apparently Rocky seems to get along better with animals than with his fellow homo sapiens. Or sapienses. Or whatever. Rocky’s column will be appearing every other week in The Jewish Home. Rocky can be reached at anidaati@aol.com.


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Forgotten Her es

How Tanks Helped Israel Win the Yom Kippur War By Avi Heiligman

Israeli Centurion tanks

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ost-WWII war material production varied widely depending on the country and what was being produced. For example, warplanes saw a massive reduction but the development of the plane progressed leaps and bounds. This was due to companies finally determining how to produce better performing jet planes while increasing a pilot’s chance of survival if he ran into trouble. Being the case, world powers would send warplanes into battle before other weapons systems. Tanks, on the other hand, still needed to be operated within range of a base and it helped if infantry units were nearby. Large numbers of tanks were produced and the main battlefields that were favorable to tank warfare were in the Middle East. Very few large scale tank battles took place after WWII, with the most famous one occurring during the Yom Kippur War. American and British tanks saw limited action during the Korean War. Mainly there as a show of force and to test their capabilities in an ideal battleground, some tanks were bright spots during the campaign. British Centurion tanks were heav-

ily involved in a 1951 operation that destroyed parts of several Chinese divisions. A lot of videos were taken showing large numbers of tanks on both sides of the Cold War conflict. It became the norm in both East and West Germany for the Russians and Americans to line up tanks in somewhat of a staring contest. Another ugly war did not break out there but one did in Vietnam. Again the terrain was not great for tank warfare and the Communists only used tanks and other tracked vehicles on rare occasions. Several times before the Yom Kippur War, most notably during the 1956 Suez Crisis and the Six Day War, the IDF deployed tanks in battle situations. Helicopters and lighter all-terrain vehicles have taken the place of tanks. Centurion tanks deserve a special mention because of their long history, especially within the IDF. Production started in early 1946 – less than a year after WWII ended. Over 4,000 of the four-manned tanks were produced and were sent worldwide. Used in most large conflicts from the Korean War to the Persian Gulf War, the Centurion is still used

A Syrian T-55 in the Yom Kippur War

in some capacity by three countries. Israel is one of them, although they are unrecognizable as Centurions as they have been repurposed as other military fighting vehicles. The IDF had first received the Centurion from England in the late 1950s. Both the Israelis and Jordanians used the tank against each other during the Six Day War. Over the years the IDF upgraded its tanks, especially the Centurion. A 105mm gun was larger than the gun originally placed on the tank by the British, and there was an upgrade to the armor and engine as well. In a surprise attack, both the Egyptians and Syrians attacked Israel on October 6, 1973. In the most famous tank battle since WWII, 100 tanks of the 7 th Armored Brigade defeated a force that was many times their strength. The Syrians had the latest Russian-built T-55 and T-62 tanks during the Battle of Emek HaBacha (Valley of Tears), named for the many destroyed tanks that littered the battlefield after the fighting. Under the command of Avigdor Ben-Gal, the Centurion tanks, some American manufactured Patton

tanks, and an assorted arrangement of some armored cars and artillery pieces were to defend the valley between Mount Bental and Mount Hermon (Har Chermon). The 7 th Brigade had two frontline battalions and one in reserve. They would receive scattered reinforcements during the battle. Facing the Israeli 7 th Armored Brigade in the Golan’s northern sector was the Syrian 3rd Armored Division under Brig. Gen. Mustapha Sharba, the 7 th Mechanized Infantry Division, and the Assad Republican Guard. The Syrians had about 28,000 troops and over 1,200 tanks against the 3,000-plus reservists that the Israelis were able to muster at the time of the initial attack. The attack commenced at 1:55pm, instead of the 10am that was planned. This gave time for Ben-Gal to survey the Syrian lines and to put together his defense plans. To protect the Israeli lines there was an anti-tank ditch and mines laid out in front of their positions. To counter this, the Syrians had bridging and anti-mine equipment which proved to be ineffective when Syrian soldiers dismounted. This left tanks ripe for the pickings of the Israeli


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An Israeli tank unit crosses the Sinai, heading for the Suez Canal

Centurions. Then, with night falling, the Syrians with night vision capabilities mounted another ferocious attack. Help from the Israeli Air Force had to wait until three days into the battle because the planes were having problems with Arab surface-toair missiles. The 77th Battalion under Avigdor Kahalani was ordered into the center at Hermonit but left a small force to deal with 20 Syrian tanks which were destroyed in the afternoon. After repulsing several attacks by redistributing their meager forces to meet each oncoming threat, the Syrians threw up a tremendous artillery barrage at 10pm. The Israeli brigade, with less than 40 tanks, was facing approximately 500 Syrian tanks. Due to the Israelis’ lack of night-fighting equipment to locate the enemy, the Syrians reached within close range and destroyed many tanks. As the enemy approached an Israeli bunker with only five tanks in it, the commander allowed the Syrians to get in close range before firing. Within four minutes, twenty-five T-62 tanks were burning wrecks with no casualties for the Israelis. The Syrians backed away, and besides for another artillery barrage at 4am, made no attempt at breaching the Israeli lines for the rest of the night. The Syrians had lost about 130 tanks that attacked the position on Hermonit. On the third day, all the Syrian attacks proved unsuccessful, and the Syrian commander, Omar Abrash, was killed just as his tank was about to get ready for a new attack. By the fourth day of the battle, the IDF troops were exhausted.

A wrecked Israeli tank during the early days of the Yom Kippur War

Many senior commanders had been killed and what few tanks remained had very little ammunition left. The 188th Barak Brigade ceased to exist as a unit. The Syrians began with a heavy bombardment which forced the Israelis to retreat 400 yards thus giving up their good positions. After some intense fighting the Syrians were poised for a breakthrough with their 7 th Division and managed to get behind the IDF lines. The Israeli Centurions from the 7 th Brigade were now firing in all directions. At the crucial moment, the Syrians began to withdraw. The Israelis were completely in disarray and many tanks were completely out of ammo, yet the Syrians retreated. The 7th Brigade, including reinforcements, totaled at some twenty tanks. It began to pursue the Syrians but stopped at the anti-tank ditch. About 260 tanks were lying in the valley. The Syrians lost over 500 tanks and APCs; the Israelis lost 60 to 80 armored vehicles. General Eitan told the 7th Brigade over the radio: “You have saved the people of Israel.” Kahalani was awarded the Medal of Valor for his part in the battle. There were many stories of how the Hand of G-d saved the army from destruction. In one instance, one Syrian T-55 crashed into General Eitan’s headquarters, only to be knocked out by the last operational tank in Zvika Gringold’s platoon (we’ll go over his exploits in an article around Chanukah time). The fact that the Syrians retreated at a very crucial moment (some say that the Israeli government threatened to use nuclear weapons but there is no concrete proof of that) proves that it was a miracle from Above.

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Syrian tanks on their side

Tanks are becoming a weapon seldom used, although in recent wars they have been employed for combat on occasion. Attack helicopters and gunships can be on the scene quickly, and faster vehicles with deadly firepower can get in and get out when needed. Still, countries are putting tanks in the field even though their uses are limited. In our last article on the history of tanks we will delve into

current ground fighting vehicles that have taken the place of tanks as well as some of the tanks that remain in use for modern warfare.

Avi Heiligman is a weekly contributor to The Jewish Home. He welcomes your comments and suggestions for future columns and can be reached at aviheiligman@gmail.com.

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APT FOR SALE Large One Bedroom Apt. in Lawrence Close to train, underground parking, spacious living room/dining area. Motivated seller $118,000. Call 917-299-8082

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O Canada! By Allan Rolnick, CPA

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iven how long the 2016 presidential election season was, you’re probably in one of two camps right now: ready to move to Canada or relieved you don’t have to. Either way, it’s likely more Americans have actually thought about Canada in the last year than in the entire last century. So let’s take a look at how Canada’s tax system works, eh? Here’s what you’re in for (or what you’re missing) from a country that calls its money the “loonie.” At first glance, Canada’s tax system looks a lot like ours. The Canada Revenue Agency is the Great White Northern equivalent of our IRS, and it collects income and payroll taxes. “Revenue Canada” also collects the Goods and Services Tax (a 5% value-added tax) and Harmonized Sales Tax, a combined federal/provincial sales tax that replaces the GST in five eastern provinces. Tempted to cheat? Just remember they’ve got the

Mounties on their side! Canada’s federal income tax looks a lot like ours, too, only nicer. Rates start at 15% and top out at 33% on incomes over $200,000. (Right now, one dollar equals about 1.34 loonies.) Capital gains are taxable;

tax rates rarely climb above 8%. California has the top rate at 13.3% and it doesn’t apply until $1 million. Canada’s provincial rates generally start around 8% and climb quickly from there. Quebec has the top rate at 25.75%, and it kicks in at just

eyeglasses, and dental care. It’s hardly perfect, of course — critics point to long wait times for specialists and Canadians traveling to the U.S. for elective surgeries. But in the end, Canadians drop just 9% of their GNP on healthcare, versus 17% here.

Canada has the usual collection of oddball tax rules you’d expect in any democracy. however, you’ll only include 50% of them in your income. You can defer up to 18% of your previous year’s income, up to about $25,000, into a Registered Retirement Savings Account that resembles our 401(k)s. You can also put up to $5,500 per year into a Tax-Free Savings Account that resembles our Roth IRAs. The big difference comes in the provinces and territories. Here in the U.S., state

$103,151. (But it sounds so much better because it’s in French!) Of course, Canadians get something for their provincial tax dollars that we don’t get from our states: Canada’s legendary healthcare system. Canucks love their healthcare almost as much as they love maple syrup. Doctors handle billing directly with the government for everything but prescription drugs, long-term care,

And Canada has the usual collection of oddball tax rules you’d expect in any democracy. Blank CDs carry a special “private copying levy” because the government assumes you’re using them to violate somebody’s copyright. Geese, ducks, and turkeys are tax-free if you’re going to breed them, but taxable if they’re on the menu. And just this year, Alberta boosted taxes on small breweries from 10 cents to $1.25

per liter, which drinkers are finding hard to swallow. Canadians will roll out the welcome mat if you decide to pack up your skates and take off. If you’re single, visit MapleMatch.com, a dating site to match fleeing Americans with lovelorn Canadians. (Check the boxes for “bacon” and “hockey” to up your odds.) And don’t forget that Canada’s most recent election lasted just 78 days. The new administration is sure to bring change to Washington and that probably includes changing tax laws. We’ll stay on top of it all to help you pay less. Maybe you’ll use some of the savings for a city weekend in Montreal, or a ski trip to Whistler? Bring us back some souvenirs, hoser! Allan J Rolnick is a CPA who has been in practice for over 30 yea rs in Queens, NY. He welcomes your comments and can be reached at 718-896-8715 or at allanjrcpa@aol.com


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The Proof is in the Pudding By Rivki D. Rosenwald Esq., CLC, SDS

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id you ever really understand the saying, “One man’s meat is another man’s poison”? Well, this week I think it really came to light in stereo. Actually maybe even in surround sound. It seemed one man’s “celebrated winning candidate” was another man’s “nightmare on steroids.” The rejoicing and revolts were of mutual intensity. How should we behave at a time like this, when nothing is actually certain about change and transition? Perhaps it would be wise to embrace optimism: Be: Open Patient Trusting Involved Magnanimous Interested Steady Mensch-like The rabbi told a story this week about a guy who wound up in jail serving time. And it was for something that his friend in fact had done. For many years he wouldn’t talk to

this friend. Who would? Like what are you going to say? “No problem, I was looking for a place to sleep anyway?” When he got out, he went to look for a job in an investment banking firm and he got accepted. And then, the day before he was supposed to

saved his life! My point? We just don’t know. And even when we think we know, things can be different. For instance, statistics say the divorce rate is over 50%. So that means people who thought they knew, then realized maybe they just didn’t know.

Like what are you going to say? “No problem, I was looking for a place to sleep anyway?”

start working, they rejected him. He was quite upset, as you could imagine. They had just found out about his felony. A few days later he called his old friend to thank him for putting that felony on his record! Because the job he lost was located in the World Trade Center, and it blew up the day he was supposed to start. His felony

Now the message here could be that marriage is challenging but that’s not where we are going with this. Our message is: You just can’t really know for certain till you are in it. So it’s time to calm down and wait for the marriage to start. In the meantime, we are clearly lucky the debates are finally behind us! How could we possibly tell

our kids to behave like adults when that was going on? Short of throwing a sibling out the window, it kind of demonstrated any behavior goes! The bickering and name calling, lies and distortions, face making and sarcasm, all of it, was certainly not befitting a grown up. Wait – it wasn’t even befitting a child! So let’s not emulate the hostile behavior. Let’s try uniting to work toward a good marriage, one of communication, openness, respect of the parties involved, and faith in your partner’s ability to come through for you. Maybe the meat isn’t really poison – you just haven’t met the right cook yet. And maybe we can be optimistic that a new cook will hit on the right recipe!

Rivki Rosenwald is a certified relationship counselor, and career and life coach. She can be contacted at 917-705-2004 or rivki@rosenwalds.com


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