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>> Israel Israel News . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 23

>> People Fighting the War of the Seas: Battleships in History. . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 86 A World after This: The Story of Lola Lieber. . . . . . 94

>>Parsha The Shmuz. . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 72

Dear Readers, Sometimes it takes weeks of waiting until election results are clearly determined. But this year, in most of the elections in our communities, the winners of this year’s races were apparent on Tuesday night. In Nassau County, County Executive Ed Mangano and the Town of Hempstead Republican incumbents all held onto their seats, as the county overwhelming voted to keep them in office. It’s interesting to note that this election was watched by many across the nation. Nassau County is seen almost as a foreshadow to upcoming major elections; the way Nassau County votes is generally how the nation will vote in the next election. This is not set in stone, but based on this analysis, Republicans may have a fighting chance to upset Democrat leaders in the years to come.

75 years ago, the Jewish community was shattered when the sounds of broken glass and the screams of frenzied mobs filled the streets. Kristallnacht was only the beginning of the end of an era for Jews in Europe.

After so many years of living relatively peacefully cocooned in their Torah and their community, the Jews were forced to leave their homes, shaken by bloodthirsty mobs who at one time pretended to be their friends.

But no longer were those “friendly” faces hidden behind masks. Neighbors knifed their Jewish friends viciously in their backs, ripped their possessions out of their hands and marched into their homes. Jews were rounded up, forced to watch the carnage of their shuls and friends, and then sent to sure death.

Those who managed to escape the slaughter tried to pick up the pieces after those frightening days in November. But repairing broken glass is almost impossible and some Jews realized that fleeing would be the only option for those wanting to live. Thus began the frantic dash for the border, the desperation to escape.

But as Hitler ym”sh watched gleefully from the sidelines, the nations of the world saw the desperation and slowly slammed their metal gates of entry. “No Jews wanted here” was the message, and then Hitler saw that his message of “No Jews anywhere” was condoned by the rest of the world. The Jews were not wanted and his plan for extermination was sent in place.

It was only 75 years ago when all this started. It’s hard to fathom the terror and the chaos that took place then. But, this week, Mr. Joe Bobker makes the frightening scenes vivid to readers as he takes them back to that place just a few years ago, when terror rocked the Jewish world and the rest of the world stood by watching their extermination. I urge you to read his riveting article on this terrifying period in history.

Wishing you a wonderful week, Shoshana

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Dear Editor, The article about Paul Reichmann presented somewhat of a paradox. At the same time that it praised Paul’s humility and related how to Paul his ruchniyus was more important to him than anything else, most of the article was about his business conquests. (Only one paragraph was dedicated to the years he spent immersed in Torah learning and teaching.)

Although we all try to teach our kids that the measure of a person is not taken by the size of his wallet, the truth is that at the end of the day that is unfortunately what we worship most.

Paul’s years teaching Torah to children after the war is a lot more impressive than the World Financial Center.

I am sorry to say that perhaps more than most communities, the frum community is very defined by monetary stature. It filters down to our kids and warps our priorities. Many times when I see people who are not wealthy but who are humble and good people I point them out to my kids and tell them, “That person is one of the most chashivuh people in the Five Towns.” No, he doesn’t have a Lexus and he isn’t sitting on the dais, but he wakes up every morning and goes to shul. He learns a bit on the train. He works hard. He comes home and tries to learn and do homework with his kids. He goes to sleep and does the same thing the next day and the next day. He has no expectations of kavod and doesn’t feel a need to be the “big boy on the block.” That is the prototypical Jew. He is comparable to the shtetl shoemaker with his Tehillim, who for hundreds of years was the bedrock of Jewish continuity.

May we merit to recalibrate our outlook on the world and realize that money and fame are fleeting but true Yiddishe sincerity is what really fuels our continuity.

Sincerely, B. Levitt

their bikes to school, and when completing yeshiva, they are riding home on dark streets. I urge fellow parents to have their children put lights on their bikes and wear a helmet with reflective tape on it to prevent accidents. Additionally, many of our children wear dark coats in the winter time. Perhaps one should keep in mind to buy coats with reflective tape on it so they will be visible to drivers while walking home from the bus stop.

This does not only apply to children. Last winter, I almost hit someone who was walking home from the train in middle of the street, wearing a black coat and carrying a black suitcase. He was almost invisible on the side street and I would have hit him if not for pure luck at the last moment. We shouldn’t be walking in the streets, especially at night, and especially wearing dark clothing.

Let’s keep our neighborhood and children safe.

Chaya Tzivi Kelmanowitz

Dear Editor, Now that we turned back the clocks, I want to remind parents to keep in mind that many of our children are now coming home in the dark. Some of them ride

Dear Editor, “More Americans Receive Government Funding than Full-Time Workers” (The Week In News – October 31) is in essence government confiscation of wealth, via taxation from the haves to the have nots growing out of control.

Sooner or later, the producers of wealth will be outnumbered by the takers. We are becoming perilously close to that point. Those who create wealth and income will eventually go on strike demanding that they be able to keep more of what they earned. To end this out of control spiral, government must destroy all its credit cards and be put on a fiscal diet today. A multi-year freeze on spending, balanced budgets, pay as you go spending, means testing for all entitlement programs and real down payments to reduce long term deficits are the cure. If not, our economy will continue into decline. The result will be a standard of living turning from one of affluence to a third world nation with most everyone living in poverty.

Sincerely, Larry Penner

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Each year Forbes generates a list of the most powerful people in the world.

The list includes heads of state, financiers, philanthropists and entrepreneurs who “rule the world.”

So who are the most powerful people on the planet? The top editors at Forbes consider hundreds of nominees before finalizing their list of 72, one for every 100 million people on the planet.

This year, some of those who hit the list were surprising, especially since U.S. President Barack Obama missed the number one spot. Instead, his nemesis, leader of Russia, headlined as the most powerful person on the globe.

The ten most powerful people in the world are: 1. Vladimir Putin, President of Russia 2. Barack Obama, President of U.S. 3. Xi Jinping, President of China 4. Pope Francis, Pope of the Catholic Church 5. Angela Merkel, Chancellor of Germany 6. Bill Gates, Wealthiest Man in the U.S. 7. Ben Bernanke, Chairman of Federal Reserve 8. Abdullah bin Abdul Aziz Al Saud, King of Saudi Arabia 9. Mario Draghi, President of European Central Bank 10. Michael Duke, CEO of Wal-Mart

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Police in China Have Special Rules for Female Drivers The long-standing generalization that men are better drivers than women seems to be a worldwide prejudice.

Recently, the Beijing police department issued some warnings specifically to women drivers in a series of micro-blog

In News postings. They warned: don’t wear high heels while driving, make sure you release the handbrake before setting off, and don’t panic if you suddenly realize you’re going the wrong way.

While these admonitions may have some husbands chuckling, it sparked major backlash among Chinese Internet users who say the tips are discriminatory.

“Some women drivers lack a sense of direction, and while driving a car, they often hesitate and are indecisive about which road they should take,” reads one of the suggestions, posted on the police department’s official micro-blog. The post continues on to say that women often discover that “when they’re driving by themselves, they’re not able to find the way to their destination, even if they’ve been there many times.”

Another posting features a cartoon of a confrontation between a police officer and a woman driving a vehicle shaped like a large red high-heel shoe. It relates to a story of a woman named Liu who caused an accident and then told a police officer: “I hit the brake, but my shoe got stuck in the car!”

“Women drivers, please change into flat shoes when you’re driving,” the posting warns.

Another driving tip points out that “while the handbrake is typically used for stopping the car’s movement, quite a few new women drivers often hurriedly get on the road without releasing it.”

The posts appeared on the police department’s verified account, which has nearly six million followers.

Although women in China are guaranteed equal rights under the law, there is a lot of gender discrimination in workplaces, schools and in other areas of modern life.

Interestingly, according to a March 2013 World Health Organization estimate, 77% of all global road traffic deaths occur among men, and men under age 25 are nearly three times as likely to be killed in a car crash as women in the same age range.

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Cuba Enforces Small Business Ban As Communist authorities in Cuba continue to pursue “order, discipline and obedience” recently, in the growing small business market, dozens of homebased move theaters were shut down.

This is just a small step in the Communist country’s plan to enforce its

laws. President Raul Castro’s plan is to terminate the private sale of imported goods, a plan that will affect some 20,000 small businesses and their employees. Many of these businesses sell clothing, hardware, and other goods that are imported informally by travelers from around the world.

A government statement issued through official media said home-based theaters and video games will “stop immediately in any type of self-em-

In News ployment.” The statement said, “The showing of movies, including in 3D salons, and likewise the organization of computer games, has never been authorized…These measures are corrections to continue bringing order to this form of management, fight impunity and insist people live up to the law,” the government said on Saturday.

“In no way does this mean a step backward. Quite the contrary, we will continue to decidedly advance in the up-

dating of our economic model,” it said, adding that would only be possible “in an atmosphere of order, discipline and obedience.”

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The import ban leaves consumers forced to buy high priced goods from low quality state-run establishments, particularly clothing. To combat that problem, three years ago the government opened up retail services to “self-employment” in the form of 200 licensed activities. Small businesses such as restaurants, cafeterias, bed and breakfasts, and entertainment were given licenses.

The government said the authorization was intended to absorb excess state labor, improve services, eliminate inefficiencies and bring black-market activity above ground. There are now 442,000 self-employed people in Cuba, of whom around 100,000 work as employees of small businesses, according to the government.

Of course, resourceful residents took advantage and attempted to fit their small business into the parameters of the categories. For example, one would call themself a seamstress and sell imported clothing. However, in September, the government caught on and provided more explicit guidelines. Now it clearly states that a seamstress “does not include the sale of manufactured or imported clothing.”

State employees have been visiting all license holders to review their activities and ensure that they are within the guidelines.

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The Dalai Lama, who fled to India after an unsuccessful uprising in 1959, says he merely wants autonomy for Tibet and denies promoting violence.

But China is continually defending its iron-fisted rule in Tibet saying the region suffered from grim poverty, cruel abuse, and economic stagnation until 1950, when Communist troops “peacefully liberated” Tibet.

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Now the government has plans to confiscate all illegal satellite dishes, increasing monitoring of online content and making sure all telephone and Internet users are registered using their real names.

Researchers Claim Top Nazi Official Buried in Jewish Cemetery in Berlin

The whereabouts of Heinrich Mueller, the head of the Gestapo secret police and highest-ranking Nazi during World War II, remained a mystery until now.

The murderer was never captured and his body was never recovered. Now,

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Tuchel, director of Berlin’s German Resistance Memorial Center, said the evidence he uncovered is “clear-cut.”

According to a death certificate he recently discovered, Mueller died in the final days of the war in 1945 near the Luftwaffe headquarters. Other evidence shows that about three months after the end of the war Mueller’s body was discovered by a work crew cleaning up corpses and buried along with about 3,000 others in a communal grave on the site of a Jewish cemetery that the SS destroyed in 1943. The documents show “with near certainty” that Mueller was buried in August 1945.

When Tuchel was questioned as to why this information was never recovered before, he answered, “That is a part of the puzzle I can’t answer.”

Tuchel discovered the documents when researching an incident in which Mueller ordered the execution of 18 resistance members at the end of the war.

He also found a testimony from 1963 by a gravedigger who told authorities that he had buried Mueller in the former Jewish cemetery, and had matched his identity papers to the face of the body.

The man did not give any indication as to Mueller’s cause of death.

Despite Tuchel’s confidence, there are those who remain skeptical. The Simon Wiesenthal Center’s top Nazi hunter, Efraim Zuroff, reinstated that only DNA evidence could prove Mueller was buried in Berlin. “The Nazis who wanted to escape very often took measures to create false documents faking their death,” he said in a telephone interview from London. “I would be very wary of reports like that without forensic evidence.”

The Nazi hunter cited the case of Aribert Heim, a Mauthausen concentration camp doctor who allegedly died in Cairo in 1992. “Heim was buried, according to his son, in a mass grave for poor people in Cairo, and it’s a perfect story because it’s impossible to verify,” Zuroff said.

No word has been given yet as to whether authorities will attempt to identify the remains of Mueller. However ,Zuroff said that if the information on Mueller does turn out to be accurate, it would be a “comforting thought” that Mueller didn’t escape and get away with killing thousands of European Jews.

“This is the biggest fish that got away,”

Hungary’s Far-Right Party Honors Nazi Collaborator

Hungary’s third-largest political party, the Jobbik party, is vocal about its anti-Semitic views. On Sunday, the far-right party unveiled a statue of wartime leader Miklos Horthy, who presided over the country’s alliance with Nazi Germany, in Budapest. The unveiling sparked protects and highlighted concerns about flagrant anti-Semitism in the country.

About a thousand Hungarians took to the streets of the capital to denounce the statue while the mayor of central Budapest and parliamentary leader of the ruling Fidesz party, Antal Rogan, warned the bust would provide an excuse to paint an unfair picture of extremism in Hungary.

One of the organizers of Sunday’s ceremony was Jobbik’s deputy parliament group leader Marton Gyongyosi.

Gyongyosi made international headlines last year when he called for lists of people in Hungary with Jewish ancestry to be drawn up; he later apologized and insisted his intentions were misunderstood. At the ceremony on Sunday, he said that Horthy was the greatest Hungarian statesman of the 20th century.

“It is outrageous that the new fascists erect a statue to Horthy, who is responsible for the Nazi rule and the Holocaust in Hungary,” said Bence Kovacs, a 22-year-old student who pinned a yellow Star of David to his chest in protest.

Parliamentary elections will be held next April or May with Jobbik set to win 8-9 percent of the vote, according to lat-

est opinion polls. The far-right has held Horthy in high regard. He ruled Hungary for 24 years in an increasingly radical political era and, as head of state in the early years of World War II, entered an uneasy alliance with Nazi Germany. Under his rule, the Nazis occupied Hungary and about 437,000 Jews were deported in a period of only 56 days.

Most of those deported were led to their deaths; the total number of Hungarian Jews wiped out in the Holocaust exceeded half a million.

“To call Horthy a war criminal is unjust and historically wrong,” Jobbik representative Lorant Hegedus told Reuters after the unveiling ceremony.

“He was not treated as a war criminal in Nuremberg, so why treat him like one now?” Horthy testified as a witness at the Nuremberg trials after World War II but avoided prosecution and eventually died in exile in Portugal in 1957.

N. Korean Defector Testifies to Famine, Oppression in North Korea

Although Jin Hye Jo is just 26-yearsold, she has suffered great losses in her life and is hoping to be a part of a major reform. Her father was tortured in detention in North Korea and died. Her elder sister went searching for food during the great famine of the 1990s, only to be trafficked to China. Her two younger brothers died of starvation, one of them a baby without milk who died in her arms.

Jin tearfully recounted her tragic story to U.N. investigators during a public hearing in Washington last Wednesday.

The U.N. commission, led by Australian judge Michael Kirby, says there is mounting evidence suggesting systematic and harsh human rights violations in North Korea.

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continues to deny abuse, oppression, and political prison camps. They have refused to cooperate and denied access to investigators, furthering suspicions.

Jin is one of two defectors who testified at the public hearing at John Hopkins School of Advanced International Studies. The three-member panel has received evidence from dozens of others during hearings in South Korea, Japan and Britain. Kirby said it will present its final report to the U.N. Human Rights Council in March.

Jin spoke of the serious shortages in 1996. She explained that at 8-years-old she would come home from school feeling dizzy from hunger and her parents were forced to make secret trips to China simply to get food for their children.

During one of these dangerous hunts for food, Jin’s beloved father was arrested and, according to a fellow detainee, was beaten and killed. Authorities claim he was shot while caught trying to escape.

“My baby brother died in my arms because we had nothing to eat. Because I was holding him so much he thought that I was his mom, so when I was feeding him water he was sometimes looking at me, smiling,” Jin said, weeping.

She said her grandmother and her 5-year-old brother also starved. The remaining family members fled to China, but were arrested several times and repatriated before finally gaining asylum in March 2008 with the help of Christian missionaries. She has been living in the U.S. since then and runs a charity for North Korean defectors like herself.

Jin scorned the mere suggestion that the food shortages were due to natural causes and claimed that government officials drive BMWs and drink exotic beverages while their people starve to death.

Russian Tycoon Heads to Space What’s on the bucket list for Russian multi-millionaire Vasily Klyukin?

It seems that the sky’s the limit for this tycoon.

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Zuroff said.

Still, if his final resting place is a Jewish cemetery, Zuroff said it would be “absolutely horrifying.” He continued, “It’s the last place on earth where he should be buried. If this is ever verified, they’d better move very quickly to make sure it doesn’t become a shrine for neo-Nazis.”

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After a 140-kilometer (86-mile) raft trip, the fresh-faced 37-year-old plans a flight to the North Pole for next April.

“I’ll spend a night there, and then leave again.”

But flying to the ends of the Earth is not enough for this man. In May, Klyukin paid 1.2 million euros ($1.5 million) at a gala auction at the Cannes Film Festival to be travel buddy to a Hollywood actor when he heads into space next year aboard the Virgin Galactic. For a coveted three hours, the Russian, who made his millions in banking and real estate, will get to see Earth from above, along with two pilots and five fellow passengers. “A journey into space – now that’s the most incredible challenge of my life!” he said.

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Turkey Opens Sea Tunnel Linking Europe and Asia

The world’s first sea tunnel connecting two continents was opened in Turkey last Tuesday. The three-billion-euro ($4.1B) project driven by the Islamic-rooted government is 13.6-kilometre (8.5 mile) long and links Istanbul’s European and Asian sides. It includes an immersed tube tunnel which officials say is the world’s deepest at 60 meters (nearly 200 feet) below the sea level.

Earlier this month, Transport Minister Binali Yildirim said, “Turkey will

In News celebrate two feasts together,” referring to the inauguration of the “project of the century” and modern Turkey’s 90th anniversary. “We will mark the 90th anniversary of the republic on October 29 and also realize a one-and-a-half century dream of a major rail tunnel project in Istanbul.”

The tunnel in the country’s main gateway city is part of a larger “Marmaray” project that also includes an upgrade of existing suburban train lines to create a 76-kilometer (47-mile) line that links the two continents.

Transportation is a major issue in Istanbul. Each day two million people cross the path of the Bosphorus via two congested bridges. “While creating a transportation axis between the east and west points of the city, I believe it will soothe the problem...with 150,000 passenger capacity per hour,” said Istanbul’s mayor Kadir Topbas.

The idea was initially dreamed up by Ottoman sultan Abdoul Medjid in 1860 but lack of technology at the time was not able to support the project. Former mayor of Istanbul, Prime Minister Recep Tayyip Erdogan, revived the plan in 2004 as one of his mega projects for the bustling city of 16 million people.

His dream was met with immense anti-government protests. Local residents complained the premier’s urban development plans were forcing people from their homes and destroying green space.

Erdogan was accused of rushing the inauguration of the Bosphorus tunnel to coincide with municipal elections scheduled for March 2014. Construction began in 2004 and was originally estimated to last four years but was delayed after construction workers discovered archaeological objects. The project is not fully complete and construction will continue for a few more years.

Present at the official opening ceremony was Japan’s Prime Minister Shinzo Abe since the Japan Bank for International Cooperation was the main financer contributing 735 million euros ($1 billion) to the project.

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The identified attackers are members of a Muslim minority.

The attack occurred last Monday afternoon at the Forbidden City gate across from Tiananmen Square, in the culturally and politically sensitive section of Beijing where China’s Communist Party leaders live and work.

One of the terrorists had been identified as a man with an ethnic Uighur name; his wife and his mother were also arrested for their involvement. The other two suspects also have typically Uighur names. The suspects were found within ten hours of the attack.

Uighurs (pronounced WEE-gur) are Muslim Turks native to the restive northwestern region of Xinjiang where extremists opposed to Chinese rule have been battling security forces for years.

The three attackers died immediately when their vehicle exploded beneath the portrait of Mao Zedong hanging from Tiananmen Gate. Police discovered knives, iron rods, gasoline and a flag imprinted with religious slogans in the vehicle.

Two tourists, including a Filipino woman, were unfortunately killed by the vehicle as it sped down a crowded sidewalk, and 38 people were injured.

Until now China has limited the volume and success of terrorist attacks while containing Uighurs to Xinjiang, a region bordering Afghanistan and Central Asian states. Uighurs claim that they are treated unfairly in China They say they have trouble getting passports and their travel outside Xinjiang is heavily monitored. They also report that hotels and airlines reject them as clients and employers refuse to hire them for work.

“Hotels won’t take us and you can’t rent if your ID shows a Xinjiang residence.

People look at us with a lot of prejudice,” said Yusuf Mahmati, 33, a Uighur fur trader who sells his wares on a busy Beijing sidewalk.

Some of the Most Secure Locations Around A recent report on structural vulnerability has highlighted some of the world’s most secure facilities. These hard to break into locations are sure to be kept off your next list of vacation destinations.

The U.S. Government’s Cheyenne Mountain complex in Colorado has a command center for the North American Aerospace Defense Command,

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Colorado is also home to ADX Florence Prison. Nicknamed “The Alcatraz of the Rockies,” the maximum-security prison has around 500 male inmates, including Unabomber Ted Kaczynski and Oklahoma City bomber Terry Nichols.

In addition to attack dogs, steel doors and motion sensors, the prison utilizes disorientation as a means of security.

The only view from the cells is of the sky through a narrow window. This means prisoners don’t know where their holding cell is located within the complex, making it extremely difficult to plan an escape.

But not all secure locations protect people. The Svalbard Seed Vault is located on a remote island in northern Norway and contains plant seeds. Built by the Norwegian government, the vault’s cold temperature and above sea level location protect it against climate change, allowing the preservation of vital crop seeds that would need to be regrown in the event of a global disaster.

Since 1965, the Mormon Church has kept its records safe inside a mountain vault located near Salt Lake City.

There’s no public access to the vault, which contains over 3.5 billion documents. That’s about 80 years of Mormon reading, which may be a deterrent all by itself.

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Daniel Larribe, one of the men held hostage by al Qaeda militants, was welcomed by his wife and daughters, who rushed to embrace him.

Pierre Legrand, Thierry Dol, Marc Feret and Larribe were working in Arlit, Niger, where the French state-controlled nuclear giant Areva operates a uranium mine when they were kidnapped. They were held by their captors for three years. Francoise Larribe, Daniel’s wife, was also captured along with her husband and the other three men but was released more than a year ago.

“I think Daniel on his part had a desire to resist, and he did it in a completely formidable way,” she said. “It’s like what we used to say to each other when we were in captivity together: every day is a victory.”

President Hollande reminded the public amid all the rejoicing that there are still seven French citizens being held hostage, three in Africa and four in Syria. “Today it’s joy for the four families, for our four ex-hostages, but it is still an unbearable wait for other families and for other hostages,” he told reporters from the tarmac.

There are still questions about the reason why the men were taken captive and whether or not a ransom was paid to secure their release. Pascal Lupart, leader of an association representing friends and families of the hostages, is in touch with those investigating the case and said he was told that Areva paid a ransom for the captives. He did not know the amount, however.

But, while analysts say that France has previously paid ransoms to free its citizens, Hollande announced earlier this year that the country would no longer pay to secure the release of hostages. He and several other members of the government have since reiterated that no ransom was paid in this case. An Areva press officer, Julien Duperray, also said on Wednesday that no ransom was paid.

Darkest Secrets of Poland Revealed in New Film The horrors of the Holocaust continue to come to light. The tales of Nazi oppression and torture are endless and can fill thousands and thousands of books.

Then there are stories of cruelty that are less well-known or in some cases more

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Jedwabne is a Polish village 85 miles northeast of Warsaw. On July 10, 1941, half its residents were murdered in cold blood. While the Nazis are typically blamed for the massacre, that is not the true story. What truly happened was that the mayor of the town led a mob of mostly Catholics that killed 1,600 Jews in the dark of night with bats, knives, rifles, and other makeshift weapons. Then the survivors were stuffed into a local barn and it was set ablaze. At the site of the barn a plaque is erected blaming the Nazi for this tragic massacre but in reality they only authorized the event and the locals are responsible. Now, locals all know the true story but simply pass the plaque without saying a word.

A few years ago, Jedwabne’s terrible secrets were brought public in Neighbors, an explosive account of the massacre by Princeton University historian Jan T. Gross. That 2001 book shattered carefully held myths, promulgated by Communist leaders, that Poles were only victims of World War II, not perpetrators.

Now, 12 years later after the release of the book, comes the movie, Aftermath. The film premiered in New York on November 1 and tells the real story of Jedwabne. The producer, Dariusz Jablonski, says that since the film’s first premiere at the Warsaw Film Festival, he has been accused of anti-Polish propaganda and has been blacklisted by the country’s national film council.

Creating the film was not an easy task as anti-Jewish thugs and locals occupied the village and fought to keep the true version buried.

“They said this wasn’t the truth about Poland, but unfortunately, I didn’t agree,” Jablonski says. “I know these kinds of villages; I know these kind of people.”

It’s important for the world to finally know the truth.

Norway Town Sees the Light of Day For six months each year, the town of Rjukan in Norway is immersed in faint darkness.

Last Wednesday, the town celebrated as winter’s sunrays peaked through the steep mountains and shined on the town’s market square, thanks to simple technology—three 183-square-foot mirrors placed on a mountain to deflect the sun. The 5 million kroner ($850,000)

computer-controlled mirrors were helicoptered in and installed 1,500 feet (450 meters) above the town square. The century-old idea was revived in 2005 by Martin Andersen, an artist and resident of the town, who helped raise the sponsorship money.

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Throughout the winter the Scandinavian town is very cold but Wednesday was a particularly mild winter evening with temperatures at about 45 degrees Fahrenheit.

“Before, when it was a fine day, you would see that the sky was blue and you knew that the sun was shining. But you couldn’t quite see it. It was very frustrating,” said Karin Roe, from the local tourist office. “This feels warm.”

Iran Celebratse Grand Day of Death to America For more than three decades, the slogan “Death to America” has been chanted at state events in Iran and that’s not about to end.

Iran’s Revolutionary Guards Corps (IRGC) and a prominent cleric say that the slogan “death to America” will be sounded on November 4, the country’s annual “Grand Day of Death to America,” which coincides with the anniversary of the takeover of the U.S. Embassy in Tehran in 1979.

There have been requests, even from within, to retire the slogan in attempt to convince the world that the country has changed their ways and become more moderate. But Tehran’s Provisional Friday prayers leader, Ayatollah Ahmad Khatami, said on Friday that the Islamic Republic would continue talks with the US, while simultaneously using the slogan “Death to America.”

“The representatives of the European Union say they pursue talks and [exert] pressure at the same time, [so] we too [will] push ahead with talks and the

“Spy” for Israel Convicted in Dubai A Jordanian citizen in Saudi Arabia has been convicted of spying for Israel. The sentence is nine years in prison as well as 80 lashes, according to Saudi newspapers.

For more than a decade, the Muslim kingdom of Saudi Arabia has been “promoting a plan for Israel to withdraw from occupied Arab lands in exchange for peace with the entire Arab world.”

The two countries are officially enemies and any spying is seen as an act against the State.

The Jordanian was not identified but the Riyadh criminal court found him guilty of “writing to the Israeli prime minister and communicating with a Zionist [Israeli] intelligence officer” by email and receiving a financial payment.

The court also convicted the defendant of using narcotics. “The suspect gave his reply orally, admitting he had communicated with the state of Israel, saying he did not full mental capacities due to the hashish and the pills,” the court documents said.

After he serves his sentence, the Jordanian will be deported back to his homeland.

Anti-Semitic Attitudes Decline in U.S. The Anti-Defamation League (ADL) turned 100 years old this month.

To see how far Americans’ attitudes toward Jews have come, the ADL ran a survey to measure anti-Semitism in this country.

The survey found that 12% of Americans harbor deeply entrenched anti-Semitic attitudes. This number is down 3%

since the last survey that was conducted in 2011. The survey asked 1,200 adults eleven questions. The questions were developed fifty years ago by the ADL when they ran their first survey in 1964.

Back then, 29% of people were classified as having anti-Semitic attitudes.

“It is heartening that attitudes toward Jews have improved over the last few years and, historically, have declined significantly in America,” said Abraham H. Foxman, ADL national director. “On the occasion of our centennial it causes us to take a broader perspective, to appreciate how far we have come in 100 years. In 1913, there were no surveys like this, but anti-Semitism was rife in public and private expressions, in universities, jobs and neighborhoods. In 1964, when we did our first survey, we found that 29% of Americans held anti-Semitic views. So we – and America – have made real progress, and yet disturbing indicators remain.”

The results show interesting findings both on the negative and positive side. Some of the negative findings of the survey include: 14% agreed with the statement that “Jews have too much power in the U.S. today”; 19% of Amer-

icans believe Jews have too much power in the business world; 15% agreed that Jews are “more willing to use shady practices”; 18% say that Jews have too much influence over the American news media; 24% agreed that the movie and television industries are pretty much run

by Jews; nearly one-quarter of respondents agreed that “Jews still talk too much about what happened to them in the Holocaust.”

As in previous surveys, the most educated Americans are largely free of prejudicial views. Less educated Americans are more likely to hold anti-Semitic views. Age is also a strong predictor of anti-Semitic propensities. Younger Americans – those under age 39 – are remarkably free of prejudicial views.

On a positive note, Jews were held in high regard on many key measurements. Even Americans who hold the most anti-Semitic views agreed with many positive statements about Jews, including: Jews have a strong faith in G-d (75%); Jews have contributed much to the cultural life of America (65%); and Jews place a strong emphasis on the importance of family life (78%).

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‘Death to America’ slogan at the same time,” Ayatollah Khatami was quoted as saying by state media.

News agency Fars quoted an official statement by the IRGC that read, “The slogan ‘Death to America’ reflects the Islamic doctrine of resistance to imperialism, and also symbolizes Iran’s strength.” The motto still remains their truth because the U.S. “is still the Great Satan and the first enemy of the Iranian nation.”

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Ten years ago, a flooded basement in an Iraqi intelligence building was found to contain tattered Torah scroll fragments, chumashim, and other religious artifacts. The artifacts were found in May 2003 after the collapse of Saddam Hussein’s regime as American troops searched for weapons of mass destruction. The contents of the basement were shipped to the United States for a painstaking conservation effort that is now complete. For the first time, a selection of the recovered items will be on display in the National Archives in Washington, D.C. “One thing that is particularly touching about them, or particularly interest-

ing about them, is that they connect to a community that no longer lives in Iraq,” said Doris Hamburg, the National Archives’ director of preservation programs.

The exhibit of two-dozen items offers a rare glimpse into a Jewish population that dates to antiquity but dispersed after the 1948 creation of Israel.

But the decision to return the collection to Iraq after its display here has raised bitter feelings among Iraqi Jews in the United States and stirred debate about whom the materials belong to: the country where they were found or the people who once owned them?

Iraqi Jews consider the artifacts part of their heritage and say a nation that decades ago drove out its Jewish citizens doesn’t deserve to recover sacred objects of an exiled population. Some also fear there’s no constituency of Jews remaining in Iraq to ensure the books are maintained, especially in a country still driven by violent conflict. “The fact is these were archives that belonged to the Jewish community in Iraq,” said Gina Waldman, president of Jews Indigenous to the Middle East and North Africa and a Libyan Jew. “They need to be

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State Department officials have expressed confidence that the Iraqi government will make the materials accessible in an educational exhibit. The materials will be housed in Iraq’s national library and archives, with the goal of helping future generations understand the contributions Iraqi Jews made and the repression that they endured, said Saad Eskander, director of the Iraqi institution.

The exhibit will open November 8 after being delayed by the recent federal government shutdown. It’s scheduled to run through January 5.

Nice Compliments Paid to Israel

Israeli high-tech got a nice dose of praise this week from the Wall Street Journal, probably the world’s most highly respected financial newspaper.

“Try as you might,” begins the article published under a picture of a flag

of Israel, “it is extremely hard not to be a bit star-struck by the Israeli technology scene. Just when you think you have seen everything, along comes something even more impressive, such as a startup with a nanotechnology that has the potential to disrupt everything from batteries to display screens to semiconductors.”

The author of the article is award-winning journalist Ben Rooney, who covers technology, entrepreneurship and innovation for the Wall Street Journal Europe. In his article, Rooney wonders what is next for the startup nation, noting that it is the scale of Israeli ambition that other startup ecosys-

“The crowd was as crazy and awesome as usual,” said runner Neal Sussman, 30, of Manhattan. “This is the best day to be a New Yorker.”

To the surprise of no one, Kenyans were the formal winners of the race.

Geoffrey Mutai, 32, took the men’s crown, clocking in at 2:08:24. Priscah Jeptoo, 29, finished the race in 2 hours, 25 minutes, 7 seconds. Tatyana McFadden stole people’s hearts after winning the women’s wheelchair race. She also won the competitions in London, Boston and Chicago this year.

It’s no doubt that all those who completed the race were winners, running the 26.2 miles in the five boroughs of the greatest city in the world.

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National Record Runners Race New York City Streets Some 50,740 runners pounded the city’s streets on Sunday for the New York City Marathon. The record number included the millionth person to start the race in its 43rd year history. The overwhelming number of marathoners showed the resilience of the city a year after the race was canceled due to Hurricane Sandy. Additionally, the NYPD was in full force with 47 bomb-sniffing dogs on patrol and scuba divers protecting bridges in response to the deadly Boston Marathon bombings just months ago.

An official affidavit has surfaced which shows the cold-blooded murderous intent of the shooter who opened fire at Los Angeles International Airport last week. The gunman is identified as Paul Anthony Ciancia, 23, of Los Angeles.

Ciancia approached the Transportation Security Administration checkpoint, pulled a .223-caliber M&P-15 assault rifle from his bag and shot multiple times “at point-blank range” at a uniformed TSA officer.

According to the affidavit, Ciancia then “began to walk up an escalator, looked back at the wounded officer, who in video appeared to move, and returned to shoot the wounded officer again.” Gerardo I. Hernandez, 39, was the TSA agent in the video and was fatally wounded. Hernandez is the first TSA agent to die in the line of duty in the agency’s 12-year history.

Ciancia then proceeded to fire upon at least two other uniformed TSA agents and one civilian, injuring all three. Ciancia was pursued by law enforcement and shot in the chest by a sergeant and an LAX police officer. He remains hospitalized in critical condition.

Bye Bye Tax Breaks Every year there are certain tax breaks that are set to expire. Sometimes, Congress votes to extend them, but generally, it is only known in December when it’s already too late to do tax planning for the year. This year, keep an eye out for these tax breaks that

are set to expire at the end of 2013. As always, it’s best to speak with your accountant, but it’s also nice to know a little more about the law than you usually do. After all, it is your money.

The teachers’ classroom expense deduction, where eligible educators who work in a school can deduct up to $250 worth of unreimbursed classroom expenses, is set to expire. Additionally, this year, employees can spend up to $245 pretax per month on transit benefits, but after 2013, it is set to only allow for $130 per month in pretax benefits for public transportation.

For those owning a home who owe more than 80% to the bank, private mortgage insurance premiums were deductible in 2012 and 2013. But that is set to expire at the end of the year, although homeowners who itemize their deductions can still deduct mortgage interest. Homeowners who remodel for energy efficiency can take a credit of $500 over their lifetime. They are also able to use a $500 credit for energy-efficient appliances. But make sure to use that up quickly; this provision is also set to expire at the end of the year.

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tems outside the U.S. seem incapable of matching. He quotes Saul Klein, a London-based venture capitalist and recently appointed a British tech envoy to Israel, as saying, “It is Silicon Valley for the rest of the world.”

Another quote is from Mark Tluszcz, co-founder and chief executive of Mangrove Capital Partners SA, a Luxembourg-based venture firm that has been investing in Israeli startups since 2007: “On a scale of one to 10, the innovation I see in, say, Germany would be close to zero. In Israel, it is a 10.”

“What’s the secret?” the newspaper asks. “Reasons include the role of the Israeli Defense Forces, and in particular the high-tech Unit 8200; the unique cultural values of a country forged from centuries of oppression; and Jewish mothers.” Yossi Vardi, introduced as “the larger-than-life so-called father of the Israeli tech scene,” favors that last theory. “From birth,” he says, “your mother will tell you that you have to succeed, that you have to be better than your cousin, or her friend’s son, or whoever.”

So what is next for Israel? In the meantime, there doesn’t appear to be any slowing down, the newspaper says, noting recent acquisitions by Google of crowd sourced traffic app Waze for a reported $1.1 billion and by Facebook of mobile-data-compression service Onavo, as well as Amazon.com’s recent announcement that it is to open an R&D center in Israel, as showing that “the lure of the eight-million-strong nation hasn’t tarnished.”

The start-up nation doesn’t look like it’s going to be stopping any time soon.

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Ray Kelly’s lecture came to a halt this week after audience members booed and protested the police commissioner’s policies. The NYC Top Cop was speaking at Brown University, lecturing on “Proactive Policing in America’s Biggest City.” The NYPD has received heavy criticism for its controversial “stop and frisk” policy as of late and this protest was more of the same.

About thirty minutes into his speech the audience began to become rowdy and Kelly was interrupted by catcalls such as “Racism is not for debate!” and “We’re asking you stop stopping and frisking people!” The crowd did not allow the Commish to continue and a visibly angry Kelly left the podium when order could not be restored. About 100 students protested outside the lecture hall before the speech. Some students circulated a petition asking that the school donate Kelly’s speaking fee to nonprofits working to end racial profiling The school later issued a statement condemning the conduct of its students.

“This afternoon, officials at Brown University closed a lecture by New York City Police Commissioner Raymond Kelly and cleared the auditorium,” the statement said. “That decision came after nearly 30 minutes of disruption by activist students and members of the local community. Loud shouting, persistent interruption, and coordinated chants made it impossible for the lecture to take place.” “This is a sad day for the Brown community,” Brown University President Christina H. Paxson wrote in

In News a separate statement In August, a federal judge ruled that the “stop and frisk” policy was largely unconstitutional. The city appealed the ruling, and Kelly defended the practice as necessary. “We have record low numbers of murders in New York City, record low numbers of shootings,” Kelly said. “We’re doing something right to save lives.”

According to the NYPD, 52 percent of the 4.4 million people stopped from January 2004 through June 2012 were black, 31 percent Hispanic and just 10 percent white. And 88 percent of those stopped by police were not arrested.

“We are sensitive to this,” Kelly said of the statistics. “Nobody wants to be stopped. At the very least, you’re giving up your time. But we need some balance here. The stark reality is that violence is happening disproportionately in minority communities. And that unfortunately is in big cities throughout America.”

Music Underground When we get on a subway car and there is a performer on board, many of us roll our eyes and pretend we don’t see them. But for those performers, it is a full-time job trying to make a living in the tunnels underneath Manhattan.

The street artists and musicians are known as Buskers. They spend all day trying to get the attention (and cash!) of the more than 5 million commuters NYC sees each day. And not just any commuters—these are the famously busy New York City travellers.

Performers in the MTA subway system include all types from all backgrounds. The buskers are everything from bucket drummers and Andean windpipe blowers, to one-man-bands and Chinese string lute players, performers try to squeeze a living out of the busy commuters and their generosity. While there are no hard statistics out there, some buskers are working for more than just spare change.

Theo Eastwind, 38, a singer-songwriter and full-time subway performer, has taken donations and sold about 50,000 CDs of his original rock songs at $10 each since 1995. In his best year, he said he pulled in about $80,000, and $15,000 in his worst.

William Chavis, an a cappella singer with a group called Select Blend, said the seven members of his crew split their earnings at the end of the day — a good day can net about $200 per person. “We all pay our rent this way, our

child support, this is how we eat,” the 47-year-old Chavis said.

Next time you take a ride on the subway, take a few moments to enjoy the music underground and empty your pockets of spare change—you’ll be supporting some of New York’s small businesses! They work hard for your money.

Jobs’ Home a Historic Landmark

The house where Steve Jobs grew up is now listed as a historic property, according to the city of Los Altos, California. The Apple Inc. co-founder grew up in Silicon Valley with his sister, Patricia, and his foster parents. Patricia currently owns the property, which the Jobs family moved to in 1968.

Steve Jobs, with help from his sister and Apple co-founder Steve Wozniak, built the first 100 Apple I computers at the home, according to the city’s evaluation. Fifty were sold to a shop in neighboring Mountain View for $500 each.

Steve Jobs also wooed some of Apple’s first investors and in 1976, established the first partnership for Apple at the home. The company later relocated to nearby Cupertino.

Early Holiday Shopping Attention shoppers: Black Friday is now on a Thursday. Yes, you heard that right. On Monday, Kmart announced that it will be opening its stores on Thanksgiving Day at 6am and closing at 11pm on Black Friday. That’s 41 hours of shopping for the perfect sweater.

“Members and customers can shop Black Friday deals from Kmart for 41 hours straight,” Sears Holdings boasted in a statement on its website. Last year, Kmart opened at 6 a.m. on Thanksgiving, but it closed its stores for four hours in the evening on the holiday, and again for a couple of hours before the traditional Black Friday opening.

Sears stores will open their doors at 8 pm on Thanksgiving Day through

Hizzoner’s Retirement Plans

Wondering what Mayor Bloomberg will do when he finally leaves office?

Hizzoner has high hopes of going on a vacation to Hawaii and New Zealand and will also focus on learning to “speak Spanish like a native.”

have both found ways to stay relevant and make a difference after leaving more public positions.

When asked what he thinks his legacy will be, Bloomberg cited city stats that New Yorkers “are living on average 2.5 years longer than they did 12 years ago. Our problems here now are all problems of success,” he said.

The billionaire Democrat-turnedRepublican-turned-Independent recently told reporters that he is planning a golf vacation in Hawaii and New Zealand that will begin on January 2, after he attends the next mayor’s inauguration.

Bloomberg, who will have served for 12 years, said his plans beyond that definitely don’t include another “24/7 job,” but that he will continue to stay involved in his political and philanthropic efforts, which include anti-gun and public health initiatives. He noted that Bill Gates and former President Bill Clinton

* ( ( * ( ( *((*(((* There was celebration on Tuesday night when the polls were closed and the winners of election 2013 were announced. In Nassau County, Nassau County Executive Ed Mangano successfully beat Tom Suozzi, a Democrat who had previously held the position for two terms. With 98 percent of the votes counted, Mangano pulled in a resound-

ing 59 percent of the vote. “What a great night,” the 51-year-old told his supporters. Suozzi admitted that his loss was tough—“a tough loss for Democrats—a tough loss for me personally,” he said.

According to Lawrence Levy, executive dean of the Hofstra University National Center for Suburban Studies, the results of this election were watched nationwide. Many see Long Island as a barometer for the 2014 midterm elec-

Taxi of Tomorrow Hits the Streets The “Taxi of Tomorrow” has begun taking fares in and around NYC. The all-new Nissan NV200 was designed and built specifically for taxi duty and will soon be pitched to taxi fleets around the world.

The new car features a driver’s seat that is built for functionality and comfort, with six-way adjustability, lumbar support, and special airflow-enhancing upholstery. Behind the wheel lies a simple instrument panel, while an integrated navigation screen is on the right, with

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tions in Washington because it is viewed as a typical suburban swing county. That being said, this may foretell good things for Republicans next year.

In New York City, many watched Bill de Blasio cruise to the finish in the mayoral election. He will be the first Democrat in two decades to serve as mayor of the Big Apple. De Blasio, the public advocate, pounded Joe Lhota, his opponent with 73 percent of the vote with 99 percent of the precincts reporting. Interestingly, back in the spring, de Blasio was in fourth place in a crowded Democratic primary race. But the dark horse came out a winner on Tuesday, highlighting his liberal agenda and his mixed-race family, especially his son who sports a large afro. He pledged to reverse many of Bloomberg’s policies, including stopand-frisk, and promised to raise taxes to pay for a universal pre-kindergarten system. “I’m calling for fundamental change,” the mayor-elect told reporters after voting on Tuesday. “Make no mistake: The people of this city have chosen a progressive path. And tonight we set forth on it — together, as one city,” he told supporters in victory.

For 23 years, District Attorney Charles Hynes held the district attorney position in Brooklyn. But on Tuesday, the borough voted the incumbent out of

the dash-mounted shift lever in between them. Forward and side vision improves, thanks to the NV200’s low windshield, small triangular quarter windows, huge side windows and big exterior mirrors.

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10 pm on November 29, as they did last year. That matches what other retailers have announced in a trend toward giving shoppers pre-Black Friday hours on a day that many Americans spend with friends and family.

Although many Americans celebrate the holiday sales, there are those who lament the fact that the Thanksgiving holiday is not a day of rest from commerce and business. They feel that the day should be spent celebrating the blessings of harvest and family, free from the pressures of shopping and sales and long lines at the checkout counter.

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The passenger also has many advantages in the car’s unique design. Thanks to an illuminated floor and sliding doors, entry and exit take far less effort.

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office, electing political newcomer Ken Thompson, who received a whopping 73 percent of the vote. Despite the easy victory, Thompson refused to answer a concession phone call from DA Hynes on Tuesday night. He was “apparently very, very busy.”

Even while being busy winning the seat, Thompson made sure to tell supporters, “I ran for Brooklyn DA because I love Brooklyn and I care about Brooklyn. And I ran because of every innocent man and woman who has been convicted in our borough.” He made sure to remind his supporters about Bloomberg’s stop and frisk policy. “We have to make sure that stop-in-frisk in Brooklyn must be based on reasonable suspicion. And

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reasonable suspicion can’t mean a black man.”

Across the river, Republican New Jersey Governor Chris Christie sailed into victory amid talks of a 2016 presidential run. His win sent a strong message to the GOP that a Republican could win in Democratic territory. The governor won almost half of the state’s Hispanic vote and one-in-five black voters voted for him. Almost a third of New Jersey Democratic voters cast their ballot for Christie. “The biggest thing I’ve learned over the last four years about leadership is that leadership is much less about talking than it is about listening,” Christie told supporters on Tuesday night.

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The Week Like the old Crown Vic, the NV200 cab can seat three average-sized people in back, though in the NV200, each can be comfortably belted in with three-point seat belts in an ergonomically sound position and with a flat floor beneath their feet.

The rear bench comes wrapped in anti-microbial, easy-to-clean fabric; the NV200’s rear quarters also have a sepa-

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rate A/C system and the ceiling holds an active carbon-lined headliner. As with most cabs, the NV200’s partition incorporates a large touchscreen for credit card payment. There’s also a pair of USB ports at ankle height and a 12-volt plug as well.

“Hey cabbie, I need to get to Penn Station—oh, and my train leaves in just a few minutes!”

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Microsoft founder Bill Gates in Washington State leads the pack. The top 10 of the wealthiest people on the list are collectively worth a staggering $362 billion, 67 percent of the total wealth of the 50 people in a list compiled by Wealth-X, a firm that researches ultra-high net worth individuals.

A recent Pew Research Center report shows the mean net worth of households in the highest 7 percent of the wealth distribution rose by an estimated 28 percent during the first two years of the nation’s economic recovery, while the net worth in the lower 93 percent dropped by 4 percent.

The top two richest people in Wealth-X’s list, Gates and Berkshire Hathaway CEO Warren Buffett, happen to be the most generous people in the country.

Designating a residence can be tricky for the super-rich in this list, who are known to have multiple homes across the country if not the world.

Wealth-X tries to solve this problem by tying each person to his or her primary place of business at times. For example, Kenneth Dart, worth $6.6 billion, chairman of Dart Container Corp., renounced his citizenship and is reportedly living out of the country, though Wealth-X lists him as the richest person in Michigan.

Sometimes wealth transfers don’t go very far. Last year, Pauline Keinath, great-granddaughter of W. W. Cargill, was the richest person in Minnesota, according to Wealth-X. This year, it’s Whitney MacMillan, her brother, who is CEO of Cargill Inc. There are nine new people on the list in Florida, Kentucky, Michigan, Minnesota, Mississippi, Missouri, New Hampshire, New Mexico and Utah.

These nine are collectively worth $34 billion, which is 50 percent more than the combined net worth of the people in the same states last year.

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The now famous glitches that have plagued the Obama administration’s rollout of Obamacare have gotten an official response from the Cabinet Secretary in charge of the program. Kathleen Sebelius, the secretary of health and human services, called the process “a miserably frustrating experience for way too many Americans.”

“I am as frustrated and angry as any-

one with the flawed launch of healthcare.gov,” she told the House Energy and Commerce Committee. “So let me say directly to these Americans: You deserve better. I apologize.”

The Obama administration has pledged to fix the site by November 30. Sebelius told the committee that the administration is committed to solving the problems. She said that the site has never “crashed” but is functional — just unreliable and slow. “I know that the only way I can restore confidence to get it right is to get it right,” she said. “So I have confidence, but I know it isn’t fair to ask the American people to take our word for it. I’ve got to fix this problem.”

A federal health care official told Congress that 700,000 people had submitted applications through the federal and state health insurance marketplaces.

But Sebelius said that the administration has no “reliable data” for how many have successfully enrolled. She said that she expected reliable data by mid-November.

Pressed by the congresswoman on who was responsible for the failures, Sebelius said: “Hold me accountable for the debacle. I’m responsible.” She said

In News that two weeks had “clearly not” been enough time to test the site before it launched.

The secretary was asked about warning signs before the launch that there would be glitches. She said, “Everyone was concerned that there were risks and there were likely to be problems…I don’t think anyone ever estimated the degree to which we’ve had problems in the system,” she said.

I hope this is not an indication of what’s to come.

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The al Qaeda leader was killed in May 2011 during a Navy SEAL raid on the three-story compound. U.S. officials have said the house wasn’t built until 2005, and Pakistani officials have said they believe he moved there in the summer of that year.

Man Seeks Reward for Tipping off FBI to Bin Laden’s Whereabouts A Michigan man is claiming to be a key player in the capture of Osama Bin Laden.

Tom Lee claims that he was the one who tipped federal investigators to the location of Osama bin Laden’s compound in Pakistan eight years. He has hired attorneys to help him collect the $25 million reward he feels he de-

The 63-year-old gem merchant claims he reported the location of bin Laden’s compound in Abbottabad in 2003. In a letter sent by the Loevy & Loevy law firm to FBI Director James Comey in August it says a Pakistani intelligence agent told Lee that he escorted bin Laden and his family from Pesha-

That’s Odd Woman Claims Lottery Just in Time Karen Gentry has got to work on her organization. A few months ago, the Virginia woman bought a lottery ticket and threw it into her pile of paperwork on her kitchen table.

Last Tuesday, she saw a news report that a Virginia Cash 5 winning ticket worth $100,000 was only hours from expiring. “Would you leave a $100,000 lying around on your coffee table for anyone to grab?” ran the Virginia Lottery’s plea to players. “Probably not.

But one Virginia Lottery player may be unknowingly doing just that.”

Only then did Gentry remember the ticket she had purchased. “So I looked, and there it was!” she told the Virginia Lottery. “I called my husband and he said, ‘Yeah, right.’”

By law, lottery tickets expire 180 days after the drawing. Gentry made it to her local lottery office with just four hours to spare.

Money that is unclaimed is donated to the state’s Literary Fund, which is used for educational purposes like technology upgrades. Since 1988, the Virginia Lottery has transferred more

than $234 million in unclaimed prizes to the fund.

Good thing she got there in the nick of time; there are no “late notes” for those who miss the deadline.

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Can it Be? $24 Can Buy you a Home in Oslo

Four years ago Kristoffer Koch, a Norwegian man, purchased $24 worth of bitcoins. He was doing research on encryption and impulsively decided to invest a little bit of money in bitcoins, a means of payment over the Internet.

The 29-year-old forgot about his investment and continued on to work as an engineer. But in April of last year, he read an article about the soaring value of bitcoins and remembered his spontaneous investment.

Now, four years later, the virtual currency has massively appreciated and multiplied. Koch used the money to purchase an apartment in Central Oslo: his 5,000 bitcoins were suddenly worth around $690,000 (500,000 euros).

Taking advantage of his investment took a little effort. After spending a full day trying to remember his password, Koch cashed in 1.1 million kroner (135,000 euro, $186,000), by selling a fifth of his newly acquired fortune. After being forced to give 28% in taxes, he still had enough to put a down payment on an apartment and renovate it in one of world’s most expensive cities.

“Not in my wildest dreams could I have imagined that they would have soared like this,” Koch said. “It’s bizarre; these psychological reflexes that make us attach a value to something that doesn’t have any in itself.”

Bitcoins can be exchanged for real money or used to purchase goods and services online. The virtual currency is increasingly used for Internet transactions and its value is extremely volatile and subject to speculation.

A central Florida gas station clerk has his cellphone to thank for saving his life.

The Hess clerk sustained only minor injuries after a thief fired a bullet at the man’s abdomen while robbing the station. The bullet was stopped by his cellphone.

The incident occurred Monday at about 4:45 a.m. in Winter Garden, a suburb of Orlando. The burglar entered the gas station and asked the clerk for help. When they were in close range, he showed off his revolver and demanded that he open the safe. When the man was

unable to open the safe successfully, he barked at the second clerk to try. He was also unsuccessful so the suspect fired a shot and fled the scene.

Police say the employee didn’t even realize that the bullet had hit his cell phone until he pulled it out of his shirt pocket.

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Lee, a U.S. citizen of Egyptian heritage, shared the information with customs and FBI agents. The Grand Rapids resident reported that the Pakistani agent “was a member of a family that Mr. Lee had done business with for decades,” the letter said, and the agent and his family opposed bin Laden.

According to the letter retrieved by AP, Lee made “numerous attempts” to claim his reward but received no response.

“Mr. Lee precisely identified the whereabouts of the most notorious terrorist of our era, a man responsible for the World Trade Center attacks, the most devastating act of terror committed on American soil, and numerous other assaults on Americans,” the letter said.

In an email to the Grand Rapids Press, Lee wrote, “It disturbs me, and it should disturb every American, that I told them exactly where bin Laden was in 2003, and they let him live another eight years.”

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The Week sues. Many men around the globe will be allowing their facial hair to grow in awareness of this cause. A lot of these men are taking this a bit too seriously in the Beard World Championship, which is held every year in Leinfelden-Echterdingen, Germany.

This year, more than 300 people from around the globe will face off with different moustache and beard displays.

How this pertains to men’s health, we at TJH are not sure but it sure made for some fun pictures!

Blindfolded Chess Champ Beats 10 Inmates at Chess

Earlier this year, inmates from Russia faced off against Cook County Jail inmates, a first-of-its-kind event organized by former Russian World Chess champion Anatoly Karpov.

Dr. Mikhail Korenman, a high school science teacher in Chicago who runs Karpov’s chess school in the U.S., introduced the chess program at Cook County Jail last year.

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Man Arrested for Overdue Book The public library in Copperas Cove, Texas, has some pretty strict rules. If you check out a book, you better return it or else…you will have to explain it the officer who arrests you.

Jory Enck borrowed a GED study guide from the library three years ago and never returned it. His punishment?

A couple of hours in county prison. He was released a few hours later on $200 bond.

It seems that those few hours in lockup was enough to make Enck learn his lesson. The book has since been returned to the library.

The city ordinance was passed because some patrons weren’t responding to requests to return their library materials. “The reason they passed it was that they were spending a tremendous amount of money replacing these materials that people just didn’t return,” explained Bill Price, the city’s municipal judge.

According to Sgt. Julie Lehmann of the Copperas Cove Police Department, the situation is more common than you may think. “I don’t have statistics on it, but it is quite frequently,” she said. Lehmann explained that the people are not aggressively pursued but police usually make “contact with the individuals on a traffic stop, or we go to their residence or wherever.”

She continued, “And usually when we make contact, it’s based on something else, like a traffic stop. The officer is going to run their driver’s license and it’s going to show that they have an active local warrant out of our city. So it’s not as if we’re actively out there going after these felony book thieves.”

Whatever you do, make sure to keep those library books on high priority. I know you like to read, but I don’t think you like to be read your rights.

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We would expect a chess grandmaster to be able to beat ten people in chess.

We would even expect him to be able to win ten games of chess at the same time.

But no one would believe that Timur Gareev could have won ten games at the same time without ever seeing the board!

On Friday, the grand master really put his skills to the test when he played inmates at the Cook County Jail whilst blindfolded. He beat ten inmates in two hours without ever seeing the board.

Gareev visited the prison in cooperation with a program intended to help inmates introspect and be more thoughtful about their actions.

The program was brought to the prison by Cook County Sheriff Tom Dart last year. He explains that the goal is to direct inmates away from their predilection toward seeking out instant gratification, and encourage them to think carefully before they act. Chess teaches people patience and strategy, and acting impulsively can be devastating when playing.

Gareev said he visualized each game as moves were announced out loud, letting him know each of his opponent’s moves as they made them. His eyes were covered by a black bandana.

“It’s kind of almost a visceral sense of the experience that you take in. If you’re trying to memorize every single game, all the moves, all the variations, it’s quite impossible,” Gareev said. “But the memory has all the little tricks that makes it easier to create patterns.”

Inmate Anthony Wooden was self-confident before facing off with Gareev. “I know I can beat him,” he said. “I’ve been playing chess since the 6th grade.” But he didn’t win.

Some jobs have benefits other than a paycheck. A woman in Southern California who throws axes for a living found her skills came in handy when a burglar invaded her home.

The woman called 911 and said a man had woken her up when he tried to take her watch from her wrist. The woman told police she’s a tomahawk-throwing champion, and she quickly grabbed a throwing ax and chased the man out of the apartment.

Police searched the area and found a man hiding behind some nearby bushes, along with property belonging to the woman. Twenty-two-year-old Nicholas Ulloa was arrested on suspicion of burglary.

If you try to steal something from this lady, you are really “axing” for it.

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The man who actually opened the safe was David Molick, owner of Robbie’s Key & Lock shop, who told reporters that the scrap collector asked him to break into the safe before it was turned into scrap about a month ago. “He showed me a picture of this safe, and I saw that it was a high security one,” Molick said. “It was real difficult to get into. It was pretty beat up. Looked like somebody had tried forcing their way into it since the front was beat up.”

Molick said he spent more than 20 hours trying to open the safe. Finally, after drilling 10 holes through sixinch walls of concrete, he discovered the contents. “I thought, ‘Oh, this ain’t real,’” Molick said. “There were 50 Krugerrands in one pipe, and brand new, un-circulated silver dollars in ammo boxes. All of them were well over half full.” Molick estimates the safe to contain $2.5 million.

Molick then called the police and put a lock back on the safe the next day.

“We temporarily took custody of the coins on Monday,” said Houston Police Department spokesperson Keese Smith.

Mike DeGuerin, an attorney for the family, assured that the coins were returned to the family. He said that the anonymous family’s father had been saving them for decades, but had died recently. Someone who was helping his family clear out the garage was given the safe to sell as scrap, but was supposed to return anything inside of value once he figured out a way to get it open.

Smith said, “The two parties involved worked out their differences, and the coins were released to the individuals involved yesterday afternoon.”

$43M Painting Held as Evidence

When emptying an old house, one can find a lot of valuable things. A Houston scrap collector this week found a lot of gold and silver “things”—coins to be exact.

A scrap collector who has chosen to remain anonymous was hired to remove an old safe from a family’s home. The safe weighed 3,000 pounds and the only person with the combination had recently died. When the vault was finally pried open, he discovered it held a fortune in gold coins and silver dollars.

The art world was abuzz in 2010 when English hedge fund manager Alan Howard bought an original Claude Monet painting for $43 million. The painting is called “Japanese Footbridge Over the

Random Kindness in Pizza Shop

In the nicest story to ever come out of a Pizza Hut, a complete stranger took the time to make someone’s day.

In Raleigh, North Carolina, a woman was eating out with her three children. Before she sat down, she quietly apologized to a man sitting by himself for any noise her children were making after a long day at school. He replied that he didn’t mind as he had three children of his own. She tried her best to deal with her children with patience and eventually asked for the check. To her surprise, the waitress informed her that her bill had been paid and the man sitting by himself had left her a letter.

“I do not know your back story,” the note read, “but I have had the privilege of watching you parent your children for the past 30 minutes. I have to say thank you for parenting your children in such a loving manner.”

“I have watched you teach your children about the importance of respect, education, proper manners, communication, self-control, and kindness all while being very patient,” he wrote. “I will never cross your path again but am positive that you and your children have amazing futures.”

He concluded, “Keep up the good work, and when it starts to get tough, do not forget that others may be watching and will need the encouragement of seeing a good family being raised. G-d bless! –Jake.”

Slice of pizza: $2.50; can of soda: $1.50; words of inspiration and admiration: priceless.

New Product Angers PETA A new surprising toy is on the market that allows kids to engage in neuro-

science with pet cockroaches. But not everyone is crazy about this new toy. It seems that these pet roaches are causing PETA to bug out.

An Ann Arbor company is hoping to change people’s view of the cockroach with a new device meant to turn the creepy crawlers into scientific entertainments they can control with a smartphone.

It’s like a remote-controlled car in the body of a live bug. The creators want it to be taken seriously, with Greg Gage saying his product advances the study of neural circuits, allowing students to make scientific discoveries. “Twenty percent of the world will have a neurological disorder with no known cure and so what we are trying to do is get kids interested in neuroscience at an early age and we can actually capture those kids and turn them into neuroscientists and actually help us cure these diseases,” said Gage.

According to Backyard Brain’s website, the RoboRoach circuit is not a toy, but a tool for studying neural circuits and allows for students to make discoveries about electrical micro-stimulation. The cockroaches are anesthetized and the purpose of their product is to

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Water-Lily Pond at Giverny” and is part of the very well known “Water Lilies” series. Now it has come to light that the painting may have been stolen goods.

The painting was once the property of infamous First Lady of the Philippines, Imelda Marcos. Now the 1899 painting is a key piece of evidence in the criminal trial of her ex-aide, Vilma Bautisa, which began in New York City in mid-October. The 74-year-old Bautista has been charged with conspiracy after she and two nephews tried to sell the painting (and several others from Marcos’ New York City townhouse) in 2010. Bautista faces up to 25 years in prison if convicted of the charges.

“It’s a simple story of greed, opportunism and fraud,” Garrett Lynch, an assistant district attorney, said to the jury at Bautista’s trial.

Speaking of greed, Marcos’ spending habits while First Lady are the stuff of legend. She was found to have a closet with 3,000 pairs of designer shoes, artwork by a range of old masters, and even owned several Manhattan skyscrapers including the Woolworth Building—all on the Philippine citizens’ dime.

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enable better retention of neuroscience concepts compared to traditional book based teachings.

But PETA doesn’t see it like that. PETA, or People for the Ethical Treatment of Animals, is crying “fowl” and believes the RoboRoach kit should be declared illegal. PETA counsel Jerrod Goodman claims it promotes the practice of veterinary medicine without a license by altering an animal from its normal condition.

Regardless of what PETA says, I know what I’m not getting my kids for Chanukah.

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Bikes, Friends and Fun at the Friendship Circle’s Bike4Friendship On Sunday, October 27, nearly 250 people joined The Jean Fischman Chabad Center’s Friendship Circle of the Five Towns for the second annual Bike4Friendship.

The children and volunteers of Friendship Circle, along with their families and the community at large enjoyed an afternoon of solidarity, promoting inclusion and raising funds and awareness for children with special needs.

The Friendship Circle, a non-profit organization founded in 2004, has a refreshing approach to helping families of children with special needs. Teen volunteers bring the spirit of true friendship and unconditional love to the children, who participate in recreational, Judaic, social and educational programs. The funds raised from this bike ride will help expand the services and activities that The Friendship Circle offers our community.

The glorious October day, brightened by sunshine, mirrored the warmth and enthusiasm of the atmosphere at the event. The local streets of the Five Towns, busy with typical Sunday afternoon traffic, were alive with colorful balloons and positive energy. Everyone felt unified, welcomed, and accepted. Bike riding together around our neighborhood exemplified the vision of The Friendship

Circle: a world of acceptance, peace and harmony. Every creation is significant and necessary to the picturesque

painting of life.

This year, the new 10K bike ride and the family walk were completed by

volunteers and supporters who braved the challenge and collectively raised more than $25,700. All funds directly benefit individuals with special needs and their families. At the same time, our volunteer body is empowered with the

gift of giving, a gift more valuable than money can buy.

Participants were addressed

by Rabbi Wolowik, Executive Director, who expressed his gratitude to the sponsors—the backbone of the program—the dedicated volunteers, and to all those who have participated to show support to this significant cause.

Mellisa Spector, a volunteer, spoke about her experience benefiting from the all the amazing Friendship Circle programs and how she feels to be able to give back to the community.

The bike ride and walk concluded with an exciting Finish Line party including an inflatable obstacle course, photo booth and music by Gary Wallin, Home Depot workshop, delicious barbeque

by Prime Time Catering, face painting by Shaindel, clowns by Lev Leytzan, and crafts by Individualized Family Cares.

“This bike ride was the best I have ever done, and to be able to do it with my son at my side makes me very proud,” said one rider. “We are counting down to next year’s ride.”

Thanks to South Shore Bicycle for their support, Gourmet Glatt for provid-

ing pr- bike refreshments and Lantern Investments Inc. for the unwavering support. The team that raised the most money was the Spector Family! The first biker to cross the finish line was Mr. Shlomy Hartstein! The Friendship Circle director Mrs. Batsheva Borenstein said, “It was a humbling experience to be a part of something so large and bike for such a great cause. I am truly amazed at the outpouring of support from the community, and wish I could thank each person individually for being a part of our circle.”

It’s still not too late to donate or sponsor a biker; you can go to www.

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Young Israel of Far Rockaway Celebrates its Golden Anniversary PHOTO CREDIT: SAM ULRICH

The Dinner Chairman, Akiva Fried, and his committee, arranged a spectacular event, replete with surprise guests, including Mr. Joseph Lhota, the Republican candidate for NY City mayor, who addressed the crowd, and Ms. Melinda Katz, the candidate for Queens Borough President, who was accompanied

by Curtis Sliwa, founder of The Guardian Angels.

Ms. Katz was most gracious and animated as she presented the Rabbi Chill, Bernard Frankel, Melinda Katz, Akiva Fried YIFR with a room at Congregation Knesseth Israel proclamation from the Queens Borough to capacity, as YIFR paid tribute to its President, congratulating the Shul on its glorious past, bridging it with the future. 50th anniversary, its decades of proacThe evening’s tone was immediately set by the beautiful rendition of the Star Spangled Banner sung by Shlomo Schwed.

Immediately thereafter, the audience was treated to a most poignant moment when Pesach Osina, Akiva Fried, Melinda Katz, Curtis Sliwa their attention was drawn to a video screen, and long-time tive community service and best wishes beloved member Norman Rosenman, for the future. Also in attendance were who now resides out of state, appeared such dignitaries as NY State Assemblyon-screen to sing the Hatikvah, as he man Philip Goldfeder, Pesach Osina, had always done in previous years. He and Richard Altabe. We were also honthen delivered a personal message to the ored with the presence of Rabbi Yaakov Shul membership. The emotion in the Bender, Rosh Hayeshivah of Yeshivah Darchei Torah, who presented one of room was palpable.

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History was made on Sunday, October 27th, as the Young Israel of Far Rockaway celebrated fifty years of service to the Far Rockaway Jewish community since its inception in 1963. An unprecedented turnout filled the ball-

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the awards. emotion as people expressed what YIFR The Shul paid tribute to its Guests of has meant to them, the distinguished Honor Michael and Pessi Steinberg, and Rabbis including YIFR Rabbi Emerto the other honorees, Rabbi Yaron Hal- itus Rabbi Yitzchak Meir Goodman bertal, Kathy Rosenberg, and Shoshana and our present Morah D’Asrah Rabbi Solomon, for Shaul Chill, honored their efforts guests, famon behalf ily members, of our Shul and friends and comof YIFR, all munity. The served to tribute to make this YIFR itself, evening most however, memorable. was a most compelling We are aspect of j u s t i fi a b l y the dinner, proud of the Daniel Berger, Rabbi Ephraim H. Sturm, D. Bernard Hoenig as the Shul’s decades of YIFR memearly history was movingly recounted by Shul bership’s serving on the Mikvah Comfounders like Rabbi Ephraim Sturm mittee, Chevra Kadisha, and West Lawand Mr. D. Bernard Hoenig, both in rence Civilian Patrol, and our housing the Vaad Tzedaka for many years. We person and in video footage.

One evening highlight was our raffle likewise are involved in various types of drawing, which included some wonder- outreach within our community. YIFR ful prizes. The spirit, video, including has been a mainstay of the Far Rockaseveral comedic moments by Michael way community for fifty years. May the Steinberg, music, delicious menu pre- next fifty years make us even prouder. pared by Sharmel Caterers, the heartfelt

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Queens Library to Lend Google Nexus Tablets with Library Cards Queens Library will begin lending library customers Google tablets on their library cards beginning November 20. The tablets are part of a donation of 17,000 tablets intended to assist Sandy-affected areas by Google to the New York State Community Action Association through the efforts of Gov. Andrew

M. Cuomo and the New York Department of State. The Queens Library was the recipient of 5,000 donated units.

The tablets will be loaned from seven Queens Library locations: in Howard Beach, Broad Channel, Arverne, Far Rockaway, Queens Library for Teens in Far Rockaway, Rockaway Beach

and Rockaway Park. Customers may borrow them for a month with the option of three renewals for a total of four months.

Queens Library is lending the tablets programmed with a proprietary software interface. It is the first library to do so.

The interface is icon-driven. Even users

who have not had previous experience with this technology will be encouraged to explore and learn more. The tablets are pre-loaded with curated content so there is plenty of information available whether the customer is online or not.

Preloaded content stresses educational information, health resources, resources for job readiness and searching, resources for computer skills training, resources for literacy and learning, resources for citizenship and immigration, original feature content, age-appropriate book lists and information about library programs and locations. The tablets can access e-books and e-magazines for reading offline. The content will be refreshed and updated every time a user comes into a Queens Library or is within wifi range. Customers who have access to wireless internet at the library or in other locations will have the full internet experience, as well.

“It has been almost a year since New York went through the worst natural disaster in our history but for many of our state’s residents who are still building back the generosity of companies like Google can make a huge difference,” Governor Andrew M. Cuomo said.

“Private donations like these are critical in aiding local communities in our ongoing recovery. We thank Google for helping New York build back better than before.”

“Google is excited by the Queens Library innovative use of technology to engage their community and patrons,” said William Floyd, Head of External Affairs for Google. “With this tablet donation, we hope that the residents of this borough will have access to the information and resources they need to strengthen their communities.”

“Public libraries are all about lifelong learning. The tablets provided by Google, coupled with innovative work

by Queens Library, puts information and educational resources into the hands of Queens residents. It is a first step toward our strategic goal of bridging the information divide through digital resources, coupled with educational partners. We expect to advance adult learning, language learning, student resources, and more. We are very grateful to Gov. Andrew M. Cuomo, the New York Department of State and Google Inc. for their support for this initial launch,” Thomas W. Galante, President and CEO, Queens Library.

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TMM: The High School of Choice TMM, which we all assumed stands only for Tichon Meir Moshe, has another meaning behind the initials. In the opinion of alumna Miss Rissel Kurland, TMM also stands for Teachers, Moros, and Mentors. As she declared at the TMM Open House on Monday night, October 28th, it is her connection with the giving and dedicated staff members that she cherishes still and which made a huge impact on her life.

At the Open House, which was very well attended by neighborhood families as well as those living in other boroughs, the school’s hashkafa and goals came through loudly and clearly.

From the introductory remarks by the esteemed Dean, Rabbi Shmuel Hiller, to the speeches by Mrs. Chaya Gornish (Menaheles), Mrs. Adina Mandel (General Studies Principal), Mrs. Ruchie Sokoloff (Dean of Students), and Mrs. Tzipporah Weinberger (9th Grade Chumash teacher), it was obvious that Tichon Meir Moshe succeeds in creat-

ing a vibrant academic environment for its students. The hanhala and teachers guide their students in maximizing their spiritual kochos and intellectual potential, enabling them to successfully navigate life’s choices.

Academic life in TMM is enriching and stimulating. TMM is the first Bais Yaakov high school to offer the Gruss Engineering/Robotics Program. A challenging two year course, the program enables the girls to conceptualize a mechanical project and then actually create it. TMM is also one of the very first Bais Yaakov high schools to use Rebbetzin Leah Kohn’s yahadus program. Rebbetzin Kohn of the Jewish Rennaisance Center won approval for her program from the rabbonim of Torah U’mesorah.

The curriculum builds upon each year’s previously taught skills and level of comprehension; the program develops along with the students, delving deeper and deeper into the foundations of our heritage. The Touro Freshman Center

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TMM’s claims were born out magnificently by the words spoken so sincerely by two current 12th graders. Sara Bracha Tanenbaum appreciated the challenge of TMM’s high academic standards. She also related that questions of any sort – hashkafic, halachic, or academic – are always welcome. Questions from students are treated respectfully and seriously and are answered cogently and honestly. Esti Halbertal, a former member of the high school’s G.O., described

how each G.O. event is carefully constructed with its end-user in mind. Each event must meet the criteria of being hashkafically appropriate, intellectually stimulating, and promoting achdus. In fact, the remarkable achdus which is a hallmark of TMM, is not accidental; it is promoted by design and with much forethought. It is the reason that ninth graders feel comfortable right away and why friendships develop across the grade levels.

Judging from the reception of the audience, the message of TMM’s focus on academics and its inclusive warmth is one that parents and teenagers are very eager to hear. Perhaps most telling about TMM’s success is this comment from one of this year’s twelfth graders: “I’m so upset that I only have this year left in TMM. The ninth graders are so lucky; they’re at the beginning of the four greatest years of their lives!”

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HaGaon HaRav Shmuel Yaakov Borenstein, shlita, to Keynote Dirshu Shabbos Chizuk L’lomdei Torah This Coming Shabbos

By Nachman Levine The Dirshu Shabbos Chizuk L’lomdei Torah to be held on Shabbos Parshas Vayeitzei at the DoubleTree Hotel by Hilton in Somerset, NJ, will be attended by Gedolei Yisrael from both America and abroad. Hundreds of Dirshu members, and non-members, will participate in this special Shabbos honoring the phenomenal accomplishments of participants in the Dirshu programs of Limud HaTorah.

The Shabbos Chizuk will be graced with the special participation of HaGaon HaRav Shmuel Yaakov Borenstein, shlita, who will be coming from Eretz Yisrael specifically to participate and address the special Shabbos gathering.

The special event has the positive encouragement and enthusiastic support of Gedolei Yisrael in Eretz Yisrael and throughout the world. HaGaon HaRav Dovid Cohen, shlita, HaGaon HaRav Yitzchok Scheiner, shlita, HaGaon HaRav Berel Povarsky, shlita, the Klausenberger Rebbe, shlita, the Modzhitzer Rebbe, shlita, HaGaon HaRav Aryeh Finkel, shlita, HaGaon HaRav Moshe Tzadka, shlita, and HaGaon HaRav Malkiel Kotler, shlita, all sent powerful letters which will be read publicly at the event. The venerated senior Rosh Yeshiva of Brisk, HaGaon HaRav Dovid Soloveichik, shlita, similarly imparted words of chizuk and comprehensive guidance for the American Torah community.

Rav Berel Povarsky, shlita, who spoke at last year’s Shabbos Chizuk and enhanced its great joyousness, wrote emotionally, “My nefesh so much desires to be together with you at this holy time . . . in the honor of the Torah and the

Kiddush Shem Shamayim.”

HaGaon HaRav Shmuel Yaakov Borenstein Rav Shmuel Yaakov Borenstein, shlita, renowned rosh yeshiva of Yeshiva Kiryas Melech in Bnei Brak, is known for his brilliance in Torah and comprehensive shiurim. Rav Borenstein served as a R”M at Yeshiva Nachlas Dovid in Petach Tikvah and then as a rosh yeshiva at Yeshiva Chevron, Geulah for twenty years with HaGaon HaRav Chaim Sarna zt”l. With the founding of Kiryas Melech in Bnei Brak, he was invited to serve as rosh yeshiva.

Rav Borenstein is one of the most prominent talmidim of the Chevroner Yeshiva where he learned many years, and of Rav Chaim Shmulevitz zt”l where he was involved in the preparation of Rav Chaim’s seforim, Shaarei Chaim. He was also one of the most prominent talmidim of HaGaon HaRav Yitzchok Hutner zt”l at Yeshivas Beis HaTalmud-Gur Aryeh.

Rav Borenstein is the author of several important sefarim including collections of his Shiurim on several masechtos of Shas.

Chizuk and Practical Advice on How to Help Spiritually Neutralize the Terrible Gezeiros This year’s Shabbos has a particularly timely emphasis. The participation of Rav Shmuel Yaakov Borenstein, shlita, is especially relevant in light of the situation and contemporary issues in Eretz Yisrael today.

Many of the Gedolei Yisrael who wrote letters to honor the special Shab-

bos, specifically mentioned the gezeiros in Eretz Yisrael and suggested undertakings that lomdei Torah of America can do to help neutralize those decrees.

An Opportunity to Strengthen Each Other and Reinforce Our Commitment to Torah Many Gedolei Yisrael who sent heart-felt blessings noted the significance of the Shabbos Chizuk L’lomdei Torah celebration of Torah learning on such a magnificent scale as being truly meaningful now.

HaGaon HaRav Dovid Cohen, Rosh Yeshiva of the Chevron Yeshiva, noted, “It is such good news to hear that hundreds of great talmidei chachamim who have toiled in Torah and acquired a clear, in-depth knowledge of Shas, poskim, horaah and halacha [are coming together for a Dirshu Shabbos Chizuk L’lomdei Torah] . . . This news is especially gratifying today when so many have designs against those who learn Torah, shaming and ridiculing them in a clear, diabolical attempt to lessen the paramount importance of Torah learning, so precious to the soul of Klal Yisrael . . . ” In fact, Rabbi Moshe Tzadka, Rosh HaYeshiva of the Geula branch of Yeshivas Porat Yosef, expressed the wish and blessing that in the zechus of Dirshu’s activities of chizuk of the study of Halacha, so well-known in Eretz Yisrael, “that it should be a zechus and chizuk in Eretz Yisrael where there are those who wish to destroy Torah, chas v’shalom.”

The Shabbos Chizuk should be mechazek the light of Torah in Eretz Yisrael .May it be Hashem’s will that all the gezeros against the Torah be annulled.”

Rav Yitzchok Scheiner, Rosh HaYeshiva of Kaminetz, in his letter of blessing to the Shabbos Chizuk, praising Dirshu’s activities and particularly the Daf HaYomi B’Halacha program, noted its importance, “In particular in this time of persecution of Torah, it is vital that every person be moser nefesh to be mechazek this holy institution and everything connected with it.”

When Rav Dovid Soloveichik, shlita, was asked what the American Torah community can do to help, he prefaced his words by telling the senior members of Dirshu’s hanhala led by its Nasi, Rav Dovid Hofstedter, “You are doing amazing things, literally amazing work. You

are building Torah in the world. What could be better than that?!” Rav Soloveichik called on the American community to strengthen itself in learning halacha.

He said, “Every day, in the tefillah of Ahava Rabbah, we beg Hashem to ‘Install in our hearts to understand and elucidate… to perform and fulfill….’”

Special Events at a Very Special Shabbos—and After!

One of the high points of this year’s Shabbos Chizuk L’lomdei Torah will be that Dirshu will again be presenting what was one of last year’s most enjoyable, spiritually enlightening events, the open Shailos and Teshuvos session with the well-known posek, HaGaon HaRav Yechiel Michel Steinmetz, shlita, the Skverer Dayan of Boro Park.

The Dayan’s encyclopedic knowledge of both halacha and its practical application to questions of modern medicine, technology and the like, kept the audience riveted and begging for more.

Additionally, one of the most inspirational moments of the Shabbos certainly promises to be the Shalosh Seudos where a number of Gedolei Yisrael will address the crowd. The Shalosh Seudos is expected to stretch for a considerable amount of time into Motzoei Shabbos and culminate in great shared communal simchah.

While the Dirshu Shabbos Chizuk L’lomdei Torah itself is in fact completely sold out, Dirshu very much wants to make the Gedolei Eretz Yisrael’s special messages on Motzoei Shabbos accessible to all. A live audio-hook up will be available shortly after Shabbos ends, so that those throughout North America who desire to hear the dvar Hashem will be able to listen to their words. That is especially relevant this year in light of the special message of the Gedolei Eretz Yisrael and their response and encouragement to the situation in Eretz Yisrael.

The special words of the Gedolei Eretz Yisrael will be accessible after Shabbos on the Nachum Segal network and on Kol Haloshon [718-906-6400 (press *)].

Dirshu’s Director of operations in America, Rabbi Aharon Gobioff, notes, “Making the drashos given after Shabbos available to the wider community, helps us fulfill Dirshu’s mission to bring chizuk in Torah and enrich Klal Yisrael.”

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Gourmet Glatt Centers on Seniors Now in its third month, Gourmet Glatt’s Senior Shopping Hours Program –sponsored in conjunction with OHEL Children’s Home and Family Services

Amichai Portnoy, son of Sarah and Tanchum Portnoy of Lawrence, celebrated his engagement to Tamar Grunhaus, daugther of Miriam and Levy Grunhaus of Boca Raton, with a L’chaim at the Essex House last week

Bnot Yaakov Chesed Program Bnot Yaakov has an ongoing yearlong Chesed Program that engages students with the needs of others in the Jewish community. During the Aseret Y’me Teshuva, Bnot Yaakov talmidot took it upon themselves to raise money for the esteemed Great Neck Community Kollel, Ohr HaEmet. The girls agreed it was a worthy cause and it also gave everyone a chance to show their hakarat hatov to those who are participating in the important mitzvah of limud haTorah.

“In our tefilla it tells us: ‘Talmud Torah k’neged kulam,’” Morah Baalhanes told her Kitah Gimmel class. “Learning Torah is as great as all the mitzvoth.” She explained to her class how fundamental Torah learning is to the Jewish people and the girls discussed their own family members who are learning in yeshivot in Israel, learning b’chavruta or are regulars at the Great Neck kollel.

Kitah Gimmel took a special interest in this particular chesed though.

Two girls from the class approached Mrs. Friedman, Associate Principal, and told her they had made a “carwash” to raise money for the kollel. When they presented her with the money they told her that the entire class had participated in the carwash. It wasn’t until she went into the classroom to thank the

class for their heartfelt mitzvah that the “real” story surfaced...because when she thanked the class, some girls didn’t seem to know very much about the carwash!

As the facts emerged, it seemed that the real story of Kitah Gimmel’s chesed was that although only a few of the girls were actually involved with the carwash, those girls wanted to include the entire class so that no one would feel left out. Mrs. Friedman and Morah Baalhaness were genuinely taken aback with the mature middot the girls had exhibited and told them that the chesed done by including everyone in the class rivaled the chesed of their tzedakah collection!

It was fitting, then, a few weeks after Sukkot when all the monies had been counted, that Kitah Gimmel was the class chosen to go to Rabbi Shaliahsaboo, Rosh Kollel of Ohr HaEmet, and deliver the check to him.

The girls got the opportunity to see the kollel and Rabbi Shaiahsaboo greeted them warmly, spoke to them of the importance of learning Torah and of giving tzedakah to support community learning endeavors. He gave them a bracha that they should be zoche to continue with their mitzvot and raise Torah observant homes filled with Torah learning. He thanked Bnot Yaakov talmidot for their contribution and complimented them on their ability to understand the value of limud haTorah at such a young age.

President of Touro College and Dean of Landers College Hosted at Rambam Dr. Alan Kadish, the President and CEO of Touro College and University System, and Dr. Moshe Sokol, Dean of Landers College for Men, met with the educational arm of Rambam Mesivta.

Dr. Kadish, a cardiologist by profession, outlined many of the university’s postgraduate programs which could be of interest to students of Rambam Mesivta.

He spoke about the broad spectrum of programs offered in medicine, osteopathy and law amongst others. Dr. Kadish emphasized the university’s commitment to accommodate the needs and the lifestyle of the Torah community. He also spoke about the many innovative programs the university was offering incorporating technology into the educational process and allowing for “virtual dissections” in the medical school to enable Kohanim to attend.

Dr. Sokol spoke about the Landers College initiative called, “The Center for Jewish Law and the Professions” which offers all those pursuing degrees in business, psychology, medicine law and dentistry special shiurim and seminars offer-

ing guidance in the halachic issues that will confront them in their professions.

Rosh Mesivta, Rabbi Zev Meir Friedman, was duly impressed and noted, “How important it is to provide opportunities for bnei Torah in a setting and a framework where learning Torah and shmiras hamitzvos is of paramount importance.” Rabbi Yotav Eliach, Rambam’s principal, was excited to learn about the university’s upcoming BA-MD program which he said, “Would definitely interest many of our talmidim who want to pursue a career in medicine.”

After meeting with the Rambam administration, Dr. Kadish and Dean Sokol had lunch with the senior class to speak about Landers College and Touro’s graduate programs. They also met with Rabbi Haar and Rabbi Ziskind, who teach the seniors. Mr. Hillel Goldman, Rambam’s Assistant Principal, discussed various initiatives and joint programs to enable Rambam talmidim to experience firsthand all that Landers College has to offer.

WHAT’S SO FUNNY ABOUT A CHICKEN IN THE LIBRARY? Check out the Centerfold on page 70 for a good laugh

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– is changing the food shopping experience for many older Five Towns residents. The weekly program makes “personal shoppers” available to seniors in need of practical assistance and offers convenient access to eldercare specialists who can provide information about Ohel’s wide range of geriatric services. Senior shopping hours are in effect every Tuesday between 10 am and 1 pm.

Eligible shoppers (over age 65) are invited to stop by the Ohel eldercare table during those hours to request shopping assistance and a special senior discount. Pictured above, Ohel’s Dena Aber.

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This past week, several HANC high school students had the opportunity to join 400 other high school students from across the country and attended the AIPAC Schusterman High School Summit.

Robyn Awendstern, Victoria Kalmanowitz, Eliana Kaufman, David Sroka, and Judah Wolkenfeld traveled with AP History teacher Mrs. Laura Eisner for a three day conference in Washington D.C. The conference focused on both educating the students on Israel’s situation in the Middle East and developing the students’ political advocacy skills. It also emphasized the role that US citizens can play in strengthening the American-Israel relationship. The summit included several keynote speakers such as Matt

Nosanchuck, White House liaison on Jewish affairs, and IDF Sgt. Benjamin Anthony from Our Soldiers Speak. The students also interacted with significant Israel activists from college campuses across the country, including our own alumna (’11), Marissa Young from Columbia University. The trip culminated with a trip to Capitol Hill to lobby the office of Congresswoman Carolyn McCarthy on the issues discussed during the conference. The students learned so much on this trip, and they are eager to bring their activism and ideas back and implement them in school. This is one of many opportunities that HANC High School affords its students in leadership and in Israel Advocacy.

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MAY Hosts Simply Tsfat in Honor of Rosh Chodesh Kislev In honor of Rosh Chodesh Kislev, Mesivta Ateres Yaakov invited the musical sensation, Simply Tsfat, to entertain and inspire talmidim, alumni and fathers. The concert/ kumzitz was organized by the MAY Student Government under the helm of presidents Yonatan Arshadnia and Naftali Engel. Those in attendance were transported to Tsfat as the Breslov trio aroused singing and dancing from the audience

through their unique style of song, stories and chassidus.

Mercy Named Top Performer Mercy Medical Center has been ranked as a Top Performer on Key Quality Measures™ by The Joint Commission, the leading accreditor of health care organizations in the U.S. Mercy is among just 45 hospitals in New York State to earn such designation out of more than 3,000 U.S. hospitals evaluated. The ratings are based on an aggregation from the accountability measure data reported to The Joint Commission during the 2012 calendar year.

“We are very pleased to receive The Joint Commission’s latest recognition of our commitment to patient safety and quality care,” said Mercy’s Executive Vice President and Chief Administrative Officer Aaron E. Glatt, MD. “Mercy understands what matters to patients and we are proud to receive the distinction of being a Joint Commission Top Performer on Key Quality Measures™.”

Mercy excelled in measures for pneumonia and surgical care. Also, Mercy achieved performance of 95% or above on a single, composite score that includes

all the accountability measures in data reported to The Joint Commission, for every one of which the hospital also met a 95% performance threshold, excluding any measures with fewer than 30 eligible cases or patients. Along with Mercy, another CHS hospital—St. Charles Hospital in Port Jefferson—earned a place on the Top Performers list for the third consecutive year. St. Charles most recently received this recognition for pneumonia, surgical care and stroke measures.

This year, Mercy was named one of the “100 Great Community Hospitals in the U.S.” by Becker’s Hospital Review based on its “quality of care and service to the community.” This is in addition to being recognized with the Pathway to Excellence® designation by the American Nursing Credentialing Center. In 2012, it was ranked among the top hospitals in New York of Best Hospitals by U.S. News & World Report. Mercy also just earned for the third time the Get With The Guidelines® Stroke Gold Plus award.

Around the World with Shulamith Women’s Organization on November 16 The Shulamith Women’s Organization (SWO) will be hosting its first gala Chanukah Chinese Auction on Motzei Shabbat, November 16th at Congregation Beth Shalom for the Shulamith School for Girls of Long Island. Shulamith of Long Island is entering its 13th anniversary in the Five Towns area and is experiencing exponential growth with more than 500 students attending its three divisions, comprising of grades nursery through 8th grade. At Shulamith, students are being taught the beauty of Torah, tefillah and the performance of mitzvoth while simultaneously being provided with a strong secular foundation.

The Shulamith Women’s Organiza-

tion is a volunteer-based group of mothers working to enhance the school experience for the girls at Shulamith. They chose the theme of the evening “Around the World” because they realize that at Shulamith each child is really her own world and each student’s uniqueness is appreciated and actualized. An “Around the World” buffet Melave Malka will be served. Admission is $36 per person and includes a free $20 auction ticket. The SWO is looking forward to a great evening for a wonderful cause. ] Tickets can be purchased in advance at www.shulamith.org/auction or that evening.

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New York’s Second Eldest Resident, Goldie Steinberg, Celebrates Her 113th Birthday in Long Beach 11AM, Grandell hosted a special celebration for Goldie’s milestone birthday, and welcomed family, friends and well-wishers to join in the festivities.

“Goldie is such an immense pleasure to have here at Grandell. We are blessed to be in the presence of someone as wise and as wonderful as she is. From the bottom of our hearts, we all wish her many more years of continued joy and nothing but love,” said Baruch Giberstien, Administrator at Grandell Rehabilitation and Nursing Center.

Grandell Rehab and Nursing Center, located at 645 W Broadway, Long Beach, NY, is a 278-bed premier skilled nursing and rehabilitation care center providing 24-hour comprehensive inpatient care to adults of all ages. Grandell provides short-term rehabilitation, long-term care and hospice care, along with a renowned Alzheimer’s/Dementia program. Grandell Rehab and Nursing Center also offers a highly successful amputee rehab program which utilizes a specially-made 55 foot long harness, the first of its kind in New York State.

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Goldie Steinberg, a long term resident of Grandell Rehabilitation and Nursing Center, celebrated her 113th birthday on October 30, 2013. Goldie was born on October 30th, 1900 in Kishinev, Romania. An exuberant and welcoming individual, she is officially the 14th oldest person in the world and ninth oldest in the country.

Goldie immigrated to the United States at the age of 23, after her uncle offered her and her sister the opportunity. Then residing in Brooklyn, Goldie worked as a seamstress, sewing draperies and dresses. She met her husband, the late Phillip Steinberg, while a member of a society of Eastern Europeans. The couple moved to an apartment in Brooklyn and had two children. Ms. Steinberg is still active, spending her time watching the Yankees, knitting and helping out fellow residents. She has voted in every election since 1924, a total of 23 times.

When asked about her secret to a long and healthy life, Goldie says, “My children keep me alive.”

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Rosh Chodesh Kislev fun in Yeshiva Darchei Torah preschool

BYQ First Grade Students Create Original Educational Games Bais Yaakov of Queens’ Ivris curriculum is full of special activities and enrichment games which complement and reinforce all the skills students learn. To begin, the girls make flashcards weekly, representing many of the nouns they learn and enjoy playing with one another to review their words. The cards are then stored in a file box and referred to throughout the year in different applications. For example, verb cards are placed in a special album along with self-checking answers, so practice is fun!. It›s amazing to hear students’ Hebrew vocabulary grow!

Each student has her own loose-leaf binder which will be chock full of original, educational games at the end of the year. Games include puzzles, creative

storybooks, Hebrew lotto, memory games, puppets and dress-up dolls with clothing. The games feature spinners, Velcro fasteners, magnetic tape, and beautifully decorated pictures, all created by the students!

Some of the games are self-checking, and others are meant to be played with friends or family members. All games

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review vocabulary and/or sentence building skills, and encourage Hebrew language development.

Creating the games is always wonderful reinforcement of what we have learned, but the real benefit comes from the repeated playing. Girls who finish their classwork early always have the option of playing with their

own games, and many choose to do so.

Every once in a while, the folders are sent home so that the girls can share their games with family members. As an incentive to use their games, each girl has a chart which she initials every time a game is played, and prizes are awarded when the chart is completed.

The girls eagerly await creating each new game, even as they go back to old ones again and again. They take great pride in their creative artwork and in their growing Hebrew speaking skills.

Many current students, sisters of former students, have told me that their older sisters still have their game loose-leaf folders from first grade! Keep on playing and learning!

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Record-Breaking Attendance at DRS Open House The DRS building was filled beyond capacity this past Sunday as the Yeshiva hosted 180 prospective students and their parents at their annual Open House.

This year’s Open House, which took place in DRS’s beautiful state of the art building, was the largest in the school’s history. The program provided its attendees with an informative, exciting, and enjoyable experience which allows those interested in the school to get a real sense of what DRS is all about. Upon entering the building, every attendee was warmly greeted by DRS Menahel, Rabbi Yisroel Kaminetsky, faculty members, and current DRS students. The program moved to DRS’s spacious Beit Medrash during which Rabbi Kaminetsky and DRS General Studies Principal, Dr. Gerald Kirshenbaum, addressed the enormous crowd, enlightening them

about DRS’s strong and challenging curriculum in both limudei kodesh and limudei chol. Rabbi Kaminetsky stressed that the hallmark of the school is the “personal care, warmth, and attention provided for each individual student.”

More importantly, DRS prides itself on the “achdut” between classmates, who come to DRS from 16 different elementary schools and several different neighborhoods, including Queens, Brooklyn, West Hempstead, Great Neck, Oceans-

ide, and the Five Towns. Following the opening remarks, students headed off

to the extracurricular student fair in DRS’s incredible gymnasium, where they received a taste of all the extracurricular programs that DRS has to offer, including a presentation from the cooking and karate club, College Bowl competition, sports teams, shabbatonim and trips, and much more. The students then heard from a number of teachers who promote the high quality of education at the school. At the same time, parents got a chance to hear from DRS faculty members in the science, math, English, and social studies departments regarding the range of courses offered at DRS. DRS boasts a large curriculum including 15 AP courses, and the opportunity to be involved in several research opportunities in both science, and social

studies. DRS Associate Principal, Rabbi Elly Storch, informed the parents of the school’s wide limudei kodesh curriculum which includes gemara, mussar, Chumash, halacha, Navi, Jewish history, and machshava studies. Parents also got a chance to ask questions to a panel of five DRS students in order to get their view of the Yeshiva. DRS thanks all those who came to visit the Open House and looks forward to meeting them again in the future!

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South Shore Opens in the North They highlighted the Robotics Program, SET3 Program and Calculate Math Program. Morah Elana Fertig, the Early Childhood Director, spoke proudly of the amazing moros in the preschool and how they are constantly adding exciting and fun ways for our children to learn.

The morning was highlighted by the warm words of Rabbi Aryeh Lebowitz, Rav of Bais Knesses of North Woodmere, who is both an alumnus of the Yeshiva and a rebbe of many of the Yeshiva’s graduates. He proudly spoke about how well prepared the talmidim of YOSS are when they enter high school.

Rabbi Dovid Orlofsky spoke at the Yeshiva Ketana in Inwood, NY, on Sunday night on the topic of “Responsibility for our Children.”

He is pictured here with Rabbi Pincus Weinberger of the Inwood Shul.

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Bnos Malka Academy Hosts Open House Bnos Malka Academy, with a current enrollment of 344 students, held its open house for prospective parents on Tuesday, November 5th.

After being treated to delightful refreshments provided by the BMA Parents’ Association, the visiting parents gathered in the shul for a short program. Rabbi Michael Weichselbaum, the principal of Bnos Malka, and Mrs. Rivky Babad, the Assistant Principal for grades K-4, presented the educational philosophy that has made BMA a premier school in Queens. The parents were captivated by the welcoming remarks of 8th grade student, Rachel Deligdish, as she described the strength of the academic programs and the warm and caring atmosphere Bnos Malka is so well-known for. The PA co-president, Mrs. Nechama Strauss, emphasized the vital role parents can and do have in the school. Before starting their tour of the classrooms and the facility, the parents enjoyed an informative video presentation showcasing the school’s vision.

Bnos Malka encourages and develops each girl’s self-confidence, self-esteem, and unique potential. Through hands-on experiential learning in a meaningful context, our girls are provided with op-

portunities to explore, analyze, question, be creative, and think independently, while developing requisite social skills, such as cooperating, helping and communicating.

Walking around the school and looking into classrooms decorated with students’ projects, the visiting parents could see it was really true. Students were interacting with teachers and visibly interested in what their teachers were presenting. One parent commented, “It was hard not to notice the way the teachers were able to challenge and excite the children.”

Rabbi Weichselbaum acknowledges that having the Open House on a workday limits the number of people who can attend. “However, seeing our teachers and students in a real classroom setting is our best advertisement.” For those unable to attend, we have scheduled a “Mini Open House” on November 18th at 8pm at the home of Binyomin and Slava Deitsch, 137-77 75th Road in Kew Gardens Hills.

Interest continues to build for Bnos Malka. Enrollment is at its highest level, and with over 30 interviews for next year already completed, BMA should continue to grow.

SKA Holds Annual Honor Society Induction PHOTO CREDIT IRA THOMAS CREATION

A record number of forty seven students of the Stella K. Abraham High School for Girls were inducted on Wednesday, October 30, to Reut, SKA’s Honor Society.

Congratulations to all the honorees!

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Over the last few years, many young children from the community of North Woodmere have been streaming in to learn at Yeshiva of South Shore.

In response to the piqued interest, Avi and Daniella Rodin opened their home for an informational morning at which the administration members met with a room filled with potential parents who joined to hear about the wonderful chinuch at Yeshiva of South Shore.

Rabbi Mordechai Kamenetzky, Rosh Yeshiva, and Rabbi Chanina Herzberg, Menahel, greeted the participants with words of chizuk that lent an understanding about the warmth of Yeshiva of South Shore and its philosophy of education. Rabbi Avrohom Fridman and Mr. Daniel Winkler, the Associate General Studies Principals, each spoke about the many programs in the school and small classes that comprise both the enrichment and resource that enable the Yeshiva to meet each students’ needs.

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Around the Community Seeing the Good in the Challenges We Face In life, we are constantly faced with challenges. How are we ideally supposed to deal with such challenges while keeping our faith intact? One way to do this is by focusing on the concept of “gam zu letova”—this too is for the good. Whatever the test is, we need to be aware it was planned by Hashem and meant for the good of the person being tested. A man once came to Rav Noach Weinberg and said that he began to believe in G-d because he fell off a cliff while driving a motorcycle, and emerged unscathed.

Rav Weinberg responded by inquiring who it was exactly that the man believed caused him to fall off the cliff in the first place. The answer is G-d, and this event had to occur, although it was painful, so the man could walk away confident in his belief. So, sometimes something happens to bring us closer to G-d and that is where we can find some good in a given situation.

Another approach that enables us to see the good is to realize that in the grand scheme of things, we are only here for a short time and we don’t see the full picture, we can’t understand how it’s for our good, even though we accept that this is truly the case. Like a person who looks at one small puzzle piece, and finds it to appear so odd, with many strange colors, so is the man who views a small number of years in rela-

tive comparison to the years of the world and the overall plan G-d has in store for creation. It’s a matter of combining the knowledge that Hashem loves you, with the feeling that it is not necessary to understand everything that happens.

When using this approach a person will contemplate the situation and come to the conclusion that whatever happens he accepts it with love, since it’s from a loving Father.

While there are other approaches to dealing with challenges that we face, our main goal must be to find an approach that works best for us and then use this approach. There is possibly nothing more important in a marriage than “menuchas hanefesh”— peace of mind — and hopefully by planning out how to deal with challenges you will be best prepared for achieving such a state.

Five Towns Marriage Initiative provides educational programs, workshops and referrals to top marriage therapists.

FTMI will help offset counseling costs when necessary and also runs an anonymous shalom bayis hotline for the entire community Sunday, Tuesday and Thursday evenings, 10:00-11:00 p.m. For the hotline or more information, call 516430-5280 or email dsgarry@msn.com

Chanukah Yom Iyun at Machon Basya Rochel This Monday Machon Basya Rochel Seminary, dedicated in memory of Mrs. Rose Edelman, has been providing the women of the community with stimulating yimei iyun over the past four years. Women of all ages have enjoyed preparing for a Yom Tov or gaining insight in a particular area of avodas Hashem along with the seminary students. On November 11, Veteran’s Day, the seminary will once again be hosting another outstanding line up of shiurim.

The morning will begin at 9:30 a.m. with Mrs. Devorah Muskat. Mrs. Muskat is a new addition to the seminary faculty as a Tanach teacher. She delivers energetic and content filled lectures.

Her topic is “What Does Hashem Real-

ly Want.” The following shiur will be at 10:30 a.m. and given by the popular Mrs. Jackie Bitton. This is a special shiur just for Machon Basya Rochel Seminary titled, “Appreciating Life!” The last shiur of the morning is at 11:30 a.m with Rebbitzen Aviva Feiner, Seminary menaheles. She will be delivering “The Mesiras Nefesh of Chanuka Today.”

All women and girls are invited to attend. The suggested price for the morning is $10 per shiur or $25 for the morning. Machon Basya Rochel Seminary is located at 137 Lawrence Ave. across from the Lawrence Train Station.

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Successful Event Held for Buyers of Ramat Givat Zeev An impressive sales event was held in the United States for the unique residential project, Ramat Givat Zeev, in Jerusalem. Hundreds of buyers and potential buyers from the Orthodox community in the United States visited the Lawrence Country Club in New York and met with the professional staff behind the neighborhood, which is being tailor-built to the American Anglo community. They received a full picture of the project that is under construction just north of Jerusalem.

The expo was highly successful.

Over the day, 21 sales were made, which indicates the confidence that the buyers have in the exclusive communal neighborhood. It should be noted that sales of the Bnei Beischa lots are complete, and just 150 units in luxury apartment buildings are left to sell, out of a total of 450 units in the neighborhood.

Ramat Givat Zeev is the flagship project of Chish Nofei Israel, and most of the rabbanim in the United States have defined it as the most suitable to realize the dream of Americans to move

to Eretz Yisrael. The project offers exclusive advantages to facilitate easy acclimation to one’s new home, with emphasis on the construction of a warm, homogenous community that includes a plethora of community institutions that suit the mentality of the residents. The neighborhood is being built on luxurious standards, with rich technical specifications, spacious green parks and commercial space. Likewise, it is located just north of Jerusalem and offers the ideal combination of a tranquil, suburban setting with breathtaking views and clear mountain air, while benefitting from the close proximity to the Torah and chassidic centers in the capital.

To date, a large variety of families have purchased homes in the neighborhood, among them rabbanim, doctors, lawyers and businesspeople. Many people who have been unable to make aliyah, have found this project to be a wonderful opportunity to realize a dream to move to a homogenous community in Israel that includes community services, schools, and stores adapted to their

unique needs and familiarities.

At the end of the sales expo, a festive sit-down dinner was held for the buyers.

During the course of the evening, the professionals involved offered a general summary of the uniqueness in each part of the project. The project’s attorney and the bank’s representatives presented the plans. HaRav Shmul Brazil, Rosh Yeshivas Zeev HaTorah, which will be moving to the neighborhood, came to the United States especially for the expo, and spoke at the dinner. He emphasized the importance of creating a family-like atmosphere of unity. Housing Minister Mr. Uri Ariel spoke via video and praised the developers for the unique neighborhood. Israel’s former chief rabbi, HaRav Yisrael Meir Lau, extended his best wishes to the buyers.

The buyers noted that for the first time they feel confident when they see an Israeli company like Chish Nofei Israel operating in the United States and supporting the buyers from the moment of purchase and through the entire construction process, with attention to the

smallest details. It should be noted that Chish Nofei Israel is a leader in construction for the religious community in Israel, and has built a number of neighborhoods from beginning to end, including community services and other vital needs.

Chanoch Kass, a partner in Chish Nofei Israel, said that for him, the success of the neighborhood will be when the homes and community institutions will be built and the residents will enjoy a unique setting that was built exclusively for them. When this vision is realized, b’ezras Hashem, the residents will be able to say that for a neighborhood like this, it was worth to make the entire move to the Holy Land—both to realize a dream of settling there while to live on the highest standards, spiritually and materially.

Development work such as roads and infrastructure are underway, and construction is continuing constantly as a new neighborhood goes up in the Jerusalem Hills.

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MAY Freshman Overcome Challenges Together orable retreat through a challenging course of activities that included a tandem zip line, cat walk, high wire walk and more.

The outing was a success in helping the new arrivals bond with their peers and their Rabbeim in a setting

that promoted confidence, team-building, cohesiveness, and cooperation. Witnessing many talmidim face their fears and rise above them was inspiring in and of itself. This event, besides being an opportunity to rejuvenate, was a great opportunity to solidify their self-esteem and confidence.

“Doing these activities at Project C.A.R.E. was really challenging and scary,” said one freshman student, “but I pushed myself and

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Climbing higher. Confidence. Trust in one’s self. Trust in others. These are some of the many of the intended goals which were facilitated at Mesivta Ateres Yaakov’s ninth grade orientation outing to Project C.A.R.E. in Amityville last week. The freshman class had a mem-

feel stronger because of it.”

Rabbi Shlomo Drebin, the Mesivta’s Student Program Coordinator, explained, “The goal of our freshman orientation trip is to promote individual and team growth, and this kind of outing accomplishes that.

Our hope is that the students will recognize their true potential and use the tools they acquired on this trip to propel them to succeed on the highest levels.”

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Shai Silverstein, a seventh grader at Yeshiva Ketana of Long Island, celebrated his Bar Mitzvah this past Shabbos at the White Shul by leining Parshas Toldos and the haftarah, and by making a siyum and giving a drasha at the Friday night dinner with family and friends. Shai is the son of the White Shul Chairman of the Board, Tuvia Silverstein, and wife, Miriam, a teacher at YCQ.

OHEL Marriage Webinar Draws Hundreds Addressing the Everyday Challenges of Marriage Over 200 participants from New York to Los Angeles, Toronto to Israel attended OHEL’s recent live and free Webinar “Enhancing the Marital Relationship.”

Leading OHEL marriage and family experts Dr. Hindie M. Klein and Simcha Feuerman, LCSW-R provided both professional insights into the spousal relationship and practical steps to uplift any marriage. The “12 Transformational Tools to Defuse Marital Conflict” that were presented were based on Rabbi Feuerman’s new book “Marriage 911,” which he co-authored with his wife, Chaya Feuerman, LCSW-R. Dr. Hindie Klein, OHEL’s Director of Clinical Projects, commented that “the number and diversity of attendees—from spouses to mental health professionals, and from geographical locations around the globe—reflects a universal understanding of the increasing everyday challenges that can strain any good marriage. To see such proactive engagement by couples and profes

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Some of the tools discussed included how to properly manage anxiety and how to root out passive aggressive behavior. Another key tool emphasized was never turn down an apology, as well as to take full responsibility for your part of the problem.

Simcha Feuerman, OHEL’s Director of Operations, conveyed that “with over 44 years of experience in the community, OHEL is the ‘go to’ source for expertise and experience in mental health, and now via the web, is reaching an audience far and wide.”

For those that missed the live webinar, the entire session was recorded, and is live on ohelfamily.org.

Gesher Continues Making Its Mark Following a very successful inaugural year, the Gesher Early Childhood Center has continued to achieve. In just its second year, the Gesher student body has doubled.

Gesher has become known for its warm, professional, individualized program. Utilizing the most up-to-date resources, the Gesher staff incorporates each student’s goals into their lesson plans.

This reputation has attracted parents from across the community. After attending the Pre1A orientation, a mother of a five-year-old girl from Lawrence commented, “I could not stop talking about the orientation. I was just blown

away by the curriculum and all the different methods that Gesher uses to teach concepts.”

Another aspect of Gesher’s appeal is its small classroom size and low student to teacher ratio. Additionally, Gesher has added support staff, including a reading/kriah specialist.

Gesher values its strong working relationship with all of the local yeshiva day schools and is proud of the positive feedback that it has received from its parents. To learn more about the program, including a video and parent testimonials, visit www.gesher-ecc. org. Gesher can be reached by phone at (516) 730-7377. v

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OHEL typically presents at least one Webinar a month that is LIVE and FREE and on November the 19th, OHEL will be presenting their next webinar, which will address the needs of caregivers in the sandwich generation. You can register at: www.ohelfamily.org/webinar.

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The first graders in Mrs.Greenberg’s class at HANC’s Samuel & Elizabeth Bass Golding Elementary School love to add! The students practiced their addition facts by playing a game called “Ice Cream Addition.” The students worked together in pairs to roll two dice and add the numbers together. Once the students

added the numbers up, they had to locate the number on their “ice cream cones” and color in that section. The first pair to finish coloring their ice cream cone was the winner. The students had a great time working together and practicing their addition facts!

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(l to r) George Farber, Assemblyman Phil Goldfeder, Rabbi Tsvi Selengut, Stanley Leiker

Commemorating the 75th Anniversary of Kristallnacht Jakiw Palij, the last known Nazi war criminal who lives in the tri-state area, will be the target of a demonstration outside of his home by hundreds of protesters on the 75th anniversary of Kristallnacht – the night the Holocaust began.

Protesters from Rambam Mesivta High School will bring attention to the fact that Palij continues to enjoy the benefits of American society despite the fact that he was stripped of his citizenship and ordered deported. Palij is among a group of Nazi war criminals who remain in the United States because no other country is interested in allowing them in.

10th grade student Evan Edelstein who is helping to spearhead the rally spoke about the imperative of having Palij confined to detention. “It is outrageous that a Nazi who is involved in killing thousands of innocent men women and children should be able to walk the same streets that we do. Even though these events took place generations ago when neither I nor my classmates were born, does not take away from our obligation to remember what evil is and to forcefully speak out against it.”

Rabbi Zev Friedman, Dean of Rambam Mesivta, amplified this point and said, “The fact that no country wants him, coupled with the fact that despite

his numerous appeals he was stripped of his citizenship, makes him persona non grata. He is here illegally and it is an outrage that he lives here freely, when so many valiant American servicemen and women died fighting the Nazi scourge.

He should be immediately arrested and locked up in detention.”

Palij was found by the United States Department of Justice to have been an essential cog in the wheel who participated in the liquidation of the notorious Trawniki Labor Camp where 6,000 men women and children were killed.

Assemblyman Dov Hikind, a vociferous proponent of bringing Nazi war criminals to justice, will be speaking at the rally. Celia Dosamantes, a representative of Assemblyman David Weprin’s office, will address the students as well. Letters of support from various members of Congress will be read at the rally. “It is our expectation that by bringing this outrage to the public forum, and with the help and support of political leaders, the Department of Immigration and Customs Enforcement will open a case on Palij, arrest him and hold him in detention as long as he remains in the United States,” said Friedman.

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Yeshivas Mir Yerushalayim Shabbos of Chizuk and Benefit Reception This Weekend Excitement is building as the Far Rockaway/Five Towns communities prepare to welcome the Rosh Hayeshiva of Yeshivas Mir Yerushalayim, Hagaon

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Harav Carlebach and Harav Reznik will be spending the Shabbos in the Five Towns, delivering divrei chizuk in various shuls in and around the area. Friday night there will be an Oneg Shabbos in Lawrence, at the home of Mr. and Mrs. Yitzchok Steg, 236 Juniper Circle, at 8:30 PM. R’ Yitzchok learned in the Yeshiva over 10 years ago and still feels a strong connection with the Yeshiva. Motzei Shabbos, a special Alumni Melave Malka is planned including a kumzitz with Eitan Katz in North Woodmere, at the home of Mr. and Mrs. Chaim Stern, 745 Hillcrest Place, at 8:30 PM. R’ Chaim spent many years learning in the Yeshiva and considered the Mir his home. Even after departing a few years ago, he keeps on returning to the Yeshiva, a few weeks at a time (as he has these past few weeks) to keep the warmth he so keenly felt as a talmid.

This gathering will allow the alumni of the Five Towns and the greater New York area, who have always felt a tremendous sense of belonging, to reignite their relationship with the mashpiim of the Yeshiva.

Sunday morning, November 10th, the community is invited to attend the Yeshiva’s Annual Far Rockaway/Five Towns Benefit Breakfast to personally meet with the Rosh Hayeshiva, Hagaon Harav Eliezer Yehuda Finkel shlita, Hagaon Harav Binyomin Carlebach shlita and Harav Hagaon Elimelech Reznik shlita. The reception is being hosted

by Mr. and Mrs. Shloimie Jacobowitz, at their home, 43 Lawrence Avenue, between Central and Broadway. The Jacobowitzs , parents of Aryeh, who is currently learning in the Mir, have graciously agreed to open their home as a token of their hakoras hatov for the hatzlacha of their son. The hanhallah looks forward to the community participating en masse on Sunday morning at 9:30 AM to give them the much needed chizuk as they forge ahead in their harbotzas haTorah despite the severe government cutbacks.

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After dining on a delicious breakfast, the students bentched from their brand new beautiful bentchers, which they are sure to cherish. This is especially significant to them because Yehoshua wrote the second paragraph in bentching, and the girls will be spending the year learning Sefer Yehoshua in depth. The girls loved the places in Eretz Yisroel Bingo game and decorating their oversized brownies.

The girls showed their creativity by making such cute edible scenes.

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Last week, the fourth grade talmidos of Bnos Malka Academy had their annual Navi Gala. When the students are ready to embark on their first perek of Navi in Sefer Ye h o s h u a , w e celebrate the momentous occasion with a Navi Gala.

The students were privileged to hear Menahel Rabbi Weichselbaum speak to them about Moshe and Yehoshua as leaders of klal Yisroel. The talmidos were so inspired and involved in the discussion, that they kept asking more insightful questions, and didn’t want the speech to end!

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At Bais Yaakov of Queens, teachers encourage students to apply their knowledge to real life experiences. The first graders completed a unit of study of the five senses. They discovered enriched vocabulary to describe and experience sights, sounds, tastes and smells. The girls discussed their favorite Shabbos sights and smells. Besamim for havdalah was one of the scents many of the girls mentioned. The first grade teachers took the initiative to work on something meaningful for the students.

This scientific exploration and ensuing discussion about Shabbos led them to a chessed project for patients and relatives required to be in a hospital for

Shabbos. The students placed cinnamon sticks in gold, organza bags along with a small, personal note expressing their love and good wishes to the recipients of these special crafts.

Rabbi Daniel Coleman of North Shore Hospital on Long Island was thrilled to learn he will receive more than five hundred besamim “pekalach” for the Shabbos kits he distributes to the many Jewish patients who remain in the hospital over Shabbos. The children were so glad their efforts will make those in need feel better. What better way to make “sense” of all they learned!

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Camp Maor aims to explore the creative and expressive potential in every camper through its innovative summer program which is held on a beautiful campus in the heart of the Poconos.

Designed for girls entering 5th through 9th grade, every camper at Camp Maor will have the opportunity to learn from degreed teaching artists in the fields of acting, voice, and dancing. Campers will select a major area of concentrated study where they will participate in advanced training and performance exercises designed to keep them active and excited every day. The limited enrollment at Camp Maor will ensure that each camper receives individual attention from our professional faculty and gives our instructors the ability to tailor their approach to the group, eliminating the need to teach in a one-sizefits-all model.

“Our goal is to create a non-intimidating, safe and supportive environment so that all of our campers can explore their expressive and performance abilities,” says Sari Kahn, director of Camp Maor, “and the increased interaction between campers and faculty from our smaller courses will allow campers to grow in confidence and handle themselves with professionalism whenever they have to step into the spotlight,

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whether in school, or in any future career.”

Campers will gain additional skills while taking the elective courses and specialty workshops that will vary throughout the summer and will include special guest instructors. All of this will be done while not compromising our Jewish observance, with time designated every day for tefilah and a shiur relevant to the themes of our program, and ending each week in a unique Shabbat experience, where each camper feels a part of this gathering of amazing performance artist who make up the faculty and staff of Camp Maor.

There will be two sessions at Camp Maor this summer. The first session will conclude with a performance of Alice in Wonderland along with a “Glee” style a capella performance, and the second session’s final performance is Disney’s musical Mulan.

It’s not all rehearsals and training at Camp Maor. Campers will enjoy time every day at our beautiful sports and recreational facilities. The pool will be available for one to two swim periods a day for each camper and all campers will participate in organized sports on our state-of-the-art basketball and tennis courts and on our ball fields.

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Kidding!

Submitted by Moshe Harary A chicken marches into the library, walks up to the library desk, and says: “Book, book, BOOK!” The librarian hands over a couple of slim children’s paperbacks, and watches the chicken as it leaves the library, walks across the street, through a field, and disappears down the hill.

The next day, the chicken is back. Walks right up to the librarian, drops the books on her desk, and says, “Book, Book, BOOK, BOOK!” The librarian hands over a few books and again watches the chicken drag them away.

The next day, the chicken comes for a third time. Drops the books on the desk, and says, “Book, Book, Book, BOOK!!”

This time, once the chicken is out the door, the librarian follows — across the street, through a field, and down the hill to a small pond.

On a rock on the edge of the pond is the biggest frog the librarian has ever seen. The chicken walks up to the frog, drops the book on the pond’s edge, and says, “Book, Book, Book!”

The frog hops over, uses the front leg to push through the pile, and says: “Read it, read it, read it…”

Submitted by Miri and Avigayil Harary Which is correct to say: the yolk of the egg is white or the yolk of the egg are white?

Answer on next page

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Down 2. Chicago Tribune’s election eve snafu.

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3. Writes “Old Ironsides.”

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5. Composer of G-d Bless America

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6. 49ers QB completes NFL record 22 consecutive passes.

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7. The nation focused on these hanging things in Florida after the 2000 elections.

8. Wins Heisman Trophy Award in 1968 but is most infamous for the crimes leading to a white Ford Explorer chase through L.A.

10. The world’s first inhabited space capsule launched by Russia.

12. In 1962, these guys from Liverpool have their first recording session under the name of their newly formed band.

11. Famous UN plan voted on November 29, 2007.

14. Egyptian president makes historic visit to Israel.

13. Pass the turkey please.

15. President Reagan reveals secret arm deal.

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16. Celebration of those who serve.

9. 11th president of U.S.

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governor of Maryland.

1. JFK’s killer.

4. Resigns as VP due to charges of income tax evasion on kickbacks received while

17. “Four score and seven years ago…”

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Oxymoronically Speaking

Words we use every day, but do they really make sense?

All natural artificial flavor

Alone together

Working vacation

Temporary tax increase

Business ethics

Exact estimate

Plastic glasses

New classic

Government worker

American education

Sweet sorrow

Affordable housing

Childproof

Found missing

Clearly misunderstood

Resident alien

Peace force

Advanced BASIC

Terribly pleased

Genuine imitation

Computer security

Airline schedule

Political science

Good grief

Awfully good

Same difference

Act naturally

Almost exactly

Pretty ugly

Sanitary landfill

Twelve-ounce pound cake

Adult male

Diet ice cream

Pyramid Scheme Each hint represents a word. Each new word contains the same letters as the previous word, plus a new letter.

Can you figure it out?

Answers to Crossword Across 1. Lee Harvey Oswald 4. Spiro Agnew 7. Chads 8. OJ Simpson 12. Beatles

1) First letter of the English alphabet 2) Present; attending 3) Loves picnics 4) A small biter 5) Pro ballplayers have one 6) An attracting object 7) An article of clothing 8) A heated debate

14. Sadat 15. Iran Contra 16. Veterans Day 17. Gettysburg Address Down 2. Dewey Defeats Truman

Answer to riddle: Neither, the yolk of the egg is yellow.

3. Oliver Wendell Holmes 5. Irving Berlin 6. Joe Montana 9. James Polk 10. Sputnik 11. Partition Plan 13. Thanksgiving

Answer: 1) A 2) At 3) Ant 4) Gnat 5) Agent 6) Magnet 7) Garment 8) Argument

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The Shmuz

R’ Ben Tzion Shafier

Parshas Vayeitzei

The Influence of Society “And I will return in peace to my father’s house, and Hashem will be to me G-d.” – Bereishis 28:21 When Yaakov Avinu was told that his brother Eisav was plotting to kill him, he ran from his father’s home and prepared for an extended stay in exile.

Along the way, he davened and asked Hashem for a number of things, including: “I should return to my father’s house in peace.”

Rashi assumes that this can’t be referring to Hashem protecting him physical harm because Yaakov already asked for that. Rather, says Rashi, it means that, “I should arrive safe from sin,” in other words, that Hashem should protect him from the influences of his future father-in-law, Lavan.

It is clear from this Rashi that Yaakov was afraid of learning from the ways of Lavan. This is very difficult to understand. Why would Yaakov have such a fear? Each of the Avos “specialized” in a particular trait. Yaakov was the ish tam – honest and straightforward, integrity was his hallmark, and the mainstay of his avodas Hashem.

While this was a trait that he worked on extensively, it was also something that he was predisposed towards. On some level, it was part of his nature. Of all people, why would he be afraid of learning to cheat?

What makes this question even more difficult to understand is that at this time, Yaakov was seventy-seven years old. He had just completed a long period of uninterrupted Torah study. For the previous fourteen years, he had been

learning in the yeshiva that Shem had established. During that time, he never lay down to sleep at nights because he was constantly toiling in Torah. Surely, such a holy person in that state of kedusha wouldn’t be affected by being in the

of a second) split it into thousandths is measured in nanoseconds. A nanosecond is a billionth of a second – not a very long splice of time.

You may wonder: What need is there to measure such infinitely small

YAAKOV WAS AFRAID THAT BY LIVING IN THE HOUSE OF A THIEF, HIS STANDARD OF WHAT IS CONSIDERED ACCEPTABLE CONDUCT MIGHT BE AFFECTED. presence of a thief.

Even more, Yaakov was not going to be part of the party; he was going to be the victim! When he eventually ran away from Lavan, he said, “My payment was changed a hundred times.” Time after time, Lavan tried to swindle him out of his due. Surely, one of the Avos, who by nature was impeccably honest, who had just left the yeshiva and who was going to bear the brunt of being cheated wouldn’t become less honest because of that experience. So what was Yaakov’s fear? And since he was aware of the danger, surely he could have protected himself from it and didn’t need to ask Hashem for special protection.

The answer to this question can best be understood with a mashal.

An Eye in the Sky A nanosecond is a very small segment of time. One second split into a thousand parts is measured in milliseconds. One millisecond split it into a thousand parts is measured in microseconds. And one microsecond (a millionth

intervals of time? One application is in one of the wonders of the modern world, the GPS. The Global Positioning Satellite system operates by measuring a signal that travels from a satellite in the sky to the ground-based monitor.

A GPS unit can determine your exact location, and then guide you along to your destination by measuring the time it takes for that signal to travel. But the precision is excruciatingly demanding.

One nanosecond off, and the GPS will be off by one foot. A mere millionth of a second off, and the readings will be off by a thousand feet, making it almost useless. And if it is miscalibrated by as much as a hundredth of a second off, you might as well toss the thing in the garbage. When you are measuring against objects at a vast distance, precision is vital. Even miniscule errors will show themselves in very real results.

The Greatness of the Avos This seems to be a very apt mashal to our situation. It is very difficult for us mere mortals to even perceive the greatness and level of perfection that the Avos attained. Every action, every nuance, and every thought was weighed and measured with extraordinary precision. The result of living a life with such attention to detail was greatness of unparalleled proportions. And the Avos were very aware of human tendencies.

Yaakov Avinu wasn’t afraid that he would learn to steal because of Lavan; he was afraid that his image of what is considered normal behavior might be affected. He was afraid that by living in the house of a thief, his standard of what is considered acceptable conduct might be affected.

While this wouldn’t directly change his actions, he would now be measur-

ing from a very different standard, and that distinction might show itself many years down the line in an ever so small deviation from honesty. You or I might not even perceive the eventual consequence that might show itself, but to people aspiring to such levels of greatness, even the most minute deviation mattered.

While this was true about the Avos, whose every moment of existence was carefully measured, planned and focused, how much more so in our lives?

The Rambam (Hilchos Dayos, Perek 6) says: “It is the nature of man to be pulled after his friends and acquaintances, and act in the manner of his neighbors.” The reality is that we are shaped by our experiences and the times that we live in.

While there are countless applications of this concept in our days, one manifestation that might not be as obvious is the way that some people in our community dress. When religious women, who are dedicated towards serving Hashem, wear clothing that looks like it has been painted on, one quickly comes to recognize the effect of society upon us. These very same women daven daily, go to shiurim, and are very careful in what comes out of their mouths, yet walk around in a manner unbefitting a daughter of the King.

We live in wondrous times, and we have opportunities that Jews of previous generations couldn’t imagine.

However, it has been a very long and bitter exile, and unfortunately we have adopted much from the people amongst whom we live. When we recognize how much the society shapes our understanding of what is normal, we can protect ourselves from the dangers of those changes.

One part of the solution is to study the lives of the Avos. When see individuals whose every action and thought were focused on perfection, we gain an understanding of what a human is capable of, and we can recalibrate our own understanding of what a mentsch is.

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Try this example: WIFE: “How was my soup?” HUSBAND: “Not bad.”

Now compare it to this: WIFE: “How was my soup?” HUSBAND: “Good.”

See the difference? In double-negative-speak, not bad means good. But it isn’t true. The opposite of “bad” isn’t “good,” it’s “not bad.” And that may still be very far from good.

How about this? ED: “How do like my tie?” FRED: “It’s pretty nice.”

Now Fred could have said it was nice, or he could have said it was pretty. Instead, he said “pretty nice,” which is one step above, “I hope the guy at Goodwill didn’t charge you too

much for it.”

So why did the husband say the soup “wasn’t bad,” and why did Fred say it was “pretty nice?” Because we are afraid to give compliments.

Now, this suggestion may seem silly to you because, of course, we give compliments all the time. However,

in the cholent,” you may be right, but your negativity will harm your relationship.

I’d like to suggest that instead of using double negatives, we start using double positives. When someone asks you your opinion, be excited to praise them. How is the food? “It’s

IF I CAN COMPLIMENT YOU AND SAY YOU DID A GOOD JOB, IT MEANS I AM COMFORTABLE ENOUGH WITH MY OWN BEHAVIOR THAT I DON’T SEE YOU AS A THREAT.

by holding back and not being so effusive in our praise of something, we are exhibiting a certain power over the recipient. We are exercising restraint and giving the minimum compliment.

This makes it seem like we’re hard to please, so the other person has to try harder. It may not even be conscious, but if we listen to ourselves we’ll see how often we actually do it.

And guess what? That’s not good. Interestingly, while not bad can mean “sort of good,” not good means “bad.” It’s like everything in the language is leaning towards goodness and positivity, perhaps as a hint to us about what we should be doing.

But what about that bit of control we will lose?

What we need to realize is that when we give someone praise – full, heartfelt praise – we’re actually showing our strength.

If I can compliment you and say you did a good job, it means I am comfortable enough with my own behavior that I don’t see you as a threat.

Say you are listening to a speech.

If you sit there criticizing every word, it often means you are insecure in your own knowledge or ability. If you can appreciate what is being said, even if you could have said it more eloquently, then you are able to let people shine, and that’s a fantastic quality to have.

If you tell your wife (or husband) that the food (s)he made is delicious, your spouse will feel loved. If you say, “There’s too much olive oil in the s’chug,” or “There’s not enough salt

delicious!” What do you think of this dress? “You look stunning!” Did you like my presentation? “It was fantastic!”

Note that each of these responses has an exclamation point. That’s because when you’re lukewarm, people know you’re faking it. So am I telling you to lie? Not exactly.

Remember the double negative from the cookie jar example? “I didn’t take no cookies” is not a lie because it literally means I took some. Well, in double positives, you reach a whole new level of truth.

By praising someone, you make them feel good about themselves, which is what Hashem wants from us. Hillel said, “What you don’t like, don’t do to others. That is the whole Torah.” In other words, the Torah, our guide for living, wants us to treat oth-

ers well. It wants us to make people feel good, just like we’d like to feel.

If I make a cholent, and someone says, “It’s not bad,” or even, “it’s pretty good,” I feel like they’ve just said, “It’s awful.” I’m disappointed, depressed, and possibly insulted. Would you want someone to do that to you?

Absolutely not. So it’s not the Torah’s way.

Now, if they eat my cholent and say, “Wow, this is really good,” I’ll feel great, even if they’re not taking seconds.

That’s what life is really about, and if by bending the truth towards the positive we’re a little closer to that goal, then we’ve taken the truth and improved upon it.

So, this week, why not try finding ways to praise others and always remember to include the exclamation points? I bet you’ll start seeing positive results almost immediately.

Jonathan Gewirtz is a freelance writer whose work has appeared in publications around the world. He also operates JewishSpeechWriter.com, where you can order a custom-made speech for your next special occasion.

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ou’ve probably heard the expression, “Two wrongs don’t make a right, but two Wrights make an airplane,” and “Two wrongs don’t make a right, but three lefts do.”

(Think about it.)

Either way, the point is that fighting fire with fire isn’t always a good idea.

But while it may be true in life experiences that if someone does something wrong to you you can’t resolve the issue by taking revenge, it’s not true in the English language.

If you tell your mother you “didn’t take no cookies” from the cookie jar, she may let you off the hook despite the fact that you know your double negative meant you did take some cookies from it. That’s because she’s assuming you were careless in the phrasing of your response. Little does she know just how careful you were to include that double negative to avoid getting caught in an actual lie.

So, it would seem that even if two wrongs don’t make a right in action, two negatives do make a positive in speech. It would seem so, but it doesn’t actually work that way.

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Rabbi’s Musings [& Amusings]

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uring the last few years there has been much worthy discussion about Attention Deficit Hyperactivity Disorder (ADHD). It is particularly challenging for children with ADHD who have an extremely hard time in a structured classroom setting.

Experts note that ADHD is mislabeled. Those with the disorder actually do not have an attention deficit, but an attention surplus. Thus, the disorder should more accurately be labeled “Attention Surplus Hyperactivity Disorder.” At any given moment there is an abundance of stimuli surrounding us. But when we want to focus on one particular thing we mentally tune out everything else.

A person with ADHD, however, has a very difficult time doing so.

Thus, while the ADHD child in class indeed hears his rebbe/teacher, he also notices the fly buzzing around the classroom, the crack on the wall, the little stain on the teacher’s jacket, and that his rebbe’s beard looks like the chicken cutlet he had for supper the night before. It is very challenging to

Rabbi Dani Staum process a lesson when so much else is “spaced out” during part of Shemoneh going on at the same time.

Esrei, he can pause and concentrate on There are three times each day the words he previously said without when I feel like I have a similar disor- concentration. In that sense, saying der, which I call “ADDD,” Attention the words is like drawing a picture, Deficit Davening Disorder. It never and concentrating on the words is like ceases to amaze coloring it in. me how as soon Thus, even if one as I begin Shemfinished drawing oneh Esrei my the picture, he EVERY THREE MINUTES mind is immecan still go back diately flooded and color it in, IT WILL VIBRATE AND with appointas long as he did ment reminders, not yet finish reDISPLAY THE MESSAGE, citing Shemoneh things I need to “STOP SPACING OUT! Esrei.) do that day, varRecently, a ious other ideas REMEMBER TO WHOM (such as this arwatch was deYOU ARE PRAYING!” ticle!), and other veloped specifithings that I sudcally for ADHD denly remember. students. It is At times I programmed so feel like daventhat every three ing is a frustrating experience. Some- minutes or so, the watch vibrates. The times I will try to concentrate on what child then looks at the watch which I’m saying when I suddenly realize displays a reminder to “pay attention that my mind has wandered for the last and sit quietly.” ADHD children need two blessings. (It is worthy to note that to be constantly redirected and refoHalichos Shlomo [quoting the Chazon cused and the watch is a great way to Ish] writes that if one realized that he enhance that process.

Before anyone else patents it, I am proposing a “davening watch” for everyone who, like me, suffers from ADDD. Every three minutes it will vibrate and display the message, “Stop spacing out! Remember to Whom you are praying!”

Truth be told, if I had such a watch I would have never thought of the idea in the first place. The reason is that as I began to ponder the solution for my davening woes, the watch would have vibrated and displayed the message, “Stop spacing out! Remember to Whom you are praying!”

Actually, my bigger fear is that if my watch vibrated every three minutes during davening people would begin to wonder about my surging popularity. After all, who gets so many phone calls in such a short amount of time?

That would probably cause others to space out while they were davening, and just compound the problem I am seeking to rectify.

So until a better solution comes my way, I just have to keep davening that G-d help me daven to Him without distraction.

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A Grandparent’s Role in Their Grandchildren’s Chinuch

Rabbi Dov Silver

Founder and Executive VP of Madraigos My opinion is that this type of situation should be dealt with openly and honestly. In a respectful and humble way, communicate to your motherin-law that you and your husband sat down together and even consulted with professionals and rabbanim on the best and most effective way to educate your children. Let your mother-in-law know that her opinions matter and you are grateful to hear her suggestions, but at the end of the day, you and your husband need to follow in your own path with your own success and mistakes. As far as the kibbud av v’ aim issue, as long as you are respectful and courteous, you are on the right path. However, if you ignore your parents, your children learn

this problematic behavior and could end up ignoring you, which could cause a myriad of chinuch challenges.

Regarding messages for your own children, it displays your keen insight that everything we do is observed and processed by our children, even if we try hard to not show them. When kids see their parents in a loving relationship it teaches and models for them how they, G-d willing, should act in their marriage in the right time. It is nice to hear that aligning together with your husband has made your relationship stronger.

This, in fact, is very helpful, showing

the kids stability and peacefulness within the home. This issue requires a lot of work, but it is certainly doable and you and your husband, as a team, have made good progress. May you raise wonderful children who will always love and respect their parents.

Rabbi Shmuel Strickman

Elementary School Menahel, Yeshiva Darchei Torah Parents take on a different form of parenting after their children are married. They are no longer setting the standards, directing and teaching. Instead, they are advisers who suggest when called upon or with the willing consent of their children. They are respectful of all decisions (even if they disagree), and supportive whenever possible. If the married children are cognizant and appreciative of this shift in parenting, the groundwork has been laid for a long lasting relationship based on respect and love.

The responsibility of chinuch habonim lies exclusively upon the shoulders of the parents. The standards, the values, and the priorities may differ dramatically between the two homes.

The need of the individual child or the structure of the home may necessitate an approach which the grandparents did not employ in their household. As such, as a general rule, grandparents should not be disciplining their eineklach.

They may and perhaps should use their life experience to guide their children in facing their challenges in nurturing the grandchildren.

When one partner in any relationship (friendship, family or business) senses a lack of respect or confidence

from his partner, the relationship is weakened. In a business where the partner who manages the purchasing, begins on his own to advise and direct the sales people, his partner will begin to feel resentment towards him. Similarly, in a home where grandparents cross the generational lines and begin treating their grandchildren as their own, their children, the parents, could begin to feel resentment towards their parents, chas v’shalom.

Accordingly, I feel that your sense of annoyance is natural and not a violation of kibbud av. You obviously have a good relationship with your parents and want to maintain it. You offered two approaches to rectify the situation. Firstly, you began ignoring your mother-in law’s comments. This has two drawbacks. This could strain your relationship even more when she starts feeling resentment towards you. More importantly, when you ignore, are you disregarding or merely not responding to what is being said. If you are merely not responding, your annoyance and resentment is bound to surface at a later date in a more intense manner. Your second solution was to nicely ask her to stop.

There is nothing better than communication to alleviate tension. You took the opportunity to express your feelings in a respectful way and your mother-in-law, who obviously values your relationship, respects you and cooperated. As a result, you no longer feel annoyed, and she can live her role as a loving bubby.

Enjoy and share the nachas!

Dr. Dov Finman

Licensed Clinical Psychologist Faculty Fellow, Adelphi University Parents and grandparents play different roles in the lives of children. The responsibility of rearing children falls directly on the parents; this includes disciplining children as well. As long as the parents are capable, the responsibility of providing discipline is theirs alone.

Grandparents play a special role in the lives of children. Let’s define that role. Grandparents are not charged with the responsibility, or obligation, to raise

their grandchildren, and except in extenuating circumstances, this includes discipline. Grandparents share a special bond with their grandchildren precisely because they are distanced from the role of discipline. Grandparents are immune to the conflicts that arise between parents and children since they are not charged with the day-to-day enforcement of rules in the home. Grandparents offer encouragement and nurturance.

They share in their grandchildren’s excitement for their siddur party, science projects, or baseball games. Grandparents, in their unique position, have the ability to develop deep relationships with their grandchildren and can provide them with input that sometimes parents can’t. Bubbies and zaidies provide a connection to our beautiful mesorah as well. In that way, grandparents offer something unique to grandchildren that parents cannot offer—a connection to times past.

There are times, however, when it may be appropriate for bubby or zaidy to discipline. When bubby comes over to babysit or when the kinderlach go to bubby and zaidy for Shabbos without their parents, bubby and zaidy need to have the authority to discipline the children if they get out of hand. In those situations, it’s best to discuss in advance what methods of discipline you use in your home so that bubby and zaidy will be on the same page. In this way, bubby and zaidy are disciplining the children as an extension of the parents.

Getting back to your specific question, ignoring the situation is only beneficial in the short-term. If this is a chronic problem, then it needs a solution. When something happens on occasion, sometimes ignoring it is the best option, but in this case, given the recurrent nature, talking it out would be a more effective path. Certainly it’s important to display kavod and empathy to your mother-in-law when you make your requests. In the end, being honest with your mother-in-law seems to have led you down the right path.

Feel free to send your parenting questions to the moderator, Dr. Dov Finman, at Dr Finman@gmail.com.

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My mother-in-law likes to discipline our children when she’s around them, even if we’re standing right there. My husband and I find this very disturbing. We started ignoring her or asking her nicely to stop. This has actually improved our relationship as we are no longer annoyed and resentful toward her. Our question is: Is this not in keeping with kibbud av v’aim, and is this sending the wrong chinuch message to our children?

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Kristallnacht: 75 Years Later The Beginning of the End

by Joe Bobker

D

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After nine days of wining and dining at the glitzy Hotel Royal in Evian, a French spa resort on the banks of Lake Geneva, these distinguished diplomats reached a unanimous conclusion. With the exception of the tiny Dominican Republic that accepted 300 Jewish refugees, the others decided to do… nothing!

They represented an international empathy that was MIA, missing in action. In 1938, the countries of the world were divided into two: those who didn’t want their Jews and those who wouldn’t accept them.

One man in Berlin with a stiff right arm and a comical Chaplin’ish-mustache understood more than anyone else what the deafening sounds of silence meant: Niemand vill die Juedische fratzen (“Nobody wants the Jewish brats!”). The smug Hitler’s accurate supposition proved catastrophic for the European branch of the Jewish nation.

The fiasco of Evian was the Fuhrer’s “green light” to fast-track

a dream of a judenfrei universe which the rasha of rasha’s pursued with a near-messianic determination.

Less than four months later, at 2:00am on November 9, 1938, seventy-five years ago, the 1,000-year-old Ashkenaz Jewish communities of Germany came to an abrupt end with a synchronized two-day pogrom that would have made medieval Crusaders and Russian Czars proud.

Hitler’s prey was not just the Jew but the very idea of a Jewish life and the very idea of a Jewish G-d.

The Fuhrer, who was raised in a Catholic family, attended Catholic schools and a monastery, served as an altar boy, sang in the church choir, attended religious services, and dreamed of becoming a member of the clergy—as a boy he would wrap himself in his mother’s kitchen apron and pretend it was the garment of a Catholic priest—targeted the synagogues.

As a master of wicked symbolism, he chose the day before November 10 to kickstart a national negation of Judaism in honor of the anniversary of his favorite pin-up idol and hero, Martin Luther, the 16th century German founder of Protestantism whose inflammatory rhetoric that “Jews should be hung on gallows seven times higher than ordinary thieves,” who had stimulated his perverted ideology.

Suddenly, it seemed everybody wanted to participate. Priests and teachers, ordinary housewives and high-school students, led

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o remembrance of Kristallnacht is complete without singling out two extraordinary Jews.

Consider the remarkable saga of Rebbetzin Recha Freier, valiant wife of the chief rabbi of Berlin and possessor of an acute survival antenna. When she first saw the little despot sitting on his throne in January 1933, she recalls, “I saw the utter senselessness of Jewish life in the diaspora standing palpably before my eyes.”

Rebbetzin Freier immediately threw herself into rescue activities.

Through her organization Juedische Jugendhilfe (“Jewish Youth Help”) she saved 7,600 (mainly) orphaned Jewish children by sending them on aliya to Palestine. When she left in 1940, her place was taken by Henrietta Szold, the founder of Hadassah and the United States’ Women’s Zionist Organization, a Jewess whose superb organizational skills rescued another 22,000 Jews between the ages of two and sixteen.

In the posek, Lo sa’amod al dam rei’acha (“Don’t stand by while your brethren are being called”) the lo sa’amod is written in the singular to prod individuals to act and not wait for a consensus. The cliche of the right man in the right place at the right time applies here to a young yeshiva bochur from London who studied at the yeshivas of Nitra and Slabodka.

Solomon Schonfeld was a gifted natural-born leader; charismatic, innovative, tireless, pragmatic.

In a herculean effort over thirteen months between Kristallnacht and the start of World War II, with the help of Rabbi Klibansky, the brave principal of the Yavneh School in Cologne, Germany, Rav Schonfeld rescued not only several thousand Jews including 1,300 rabbis, teachers, and orthodox activists but in a stunning display of resolve and daring salvaged nearly 10,000 terrified Jewish children, including the 15-year-old Rav Immanuel Jakobovits, a future chief rabbi, on the famous Kindertransports, all of whom who were destined for certain death in Germany, Austria, Czechoslovakia, and Poland.

These children were scattered throughout England and housed and fed until war’s end. Rav Schonfeld opened the Ohr Torah yeshiva in London for the older boys and emptied out Jewish schools where beds were put in classrooms. In 1940, he married the daughter of Rav Hertz and his father-inlaw’s office of “Chief Rabbi” was used to smuggle money out of Britain to an enemy country to pay for rescue efforts.

Ninety percent of the parents and families of those who he rescued ended up in the opposite direction, eastwards, to their deaths.

Rav Schonfeld’s activism was the only successful community-organized orthodox rescue operation of the entire Holocaust. Others, such as the Vaad Hatzalah in New York, existed, but none on his scale and success.

May his memory act as a blessing and an inspiration to all of us in the spirit of Lo sa’amod when history’s challenges arise.

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by brown shirted Hitler Youth hooligans wielding hatchets, axes, bombs, kerosene, and dynamite, launched an orgy of violence and arson against 1,200 synagogues and thousands of Jewish stores, businesses, and homes.

The assault became known euphemistically as Kristallnacht because of the non-stop cacophony of the sounds of glass breaking like crystal. More glass was shattered in two days than the entire annual glass production of Belgium.

Hundreds of Jews were murdered and savagely beaten. In Vienna, home to scores of chassidic Rebbes and important orthodox leaders, a city where Hitler was embraced as the returning prodigal son, nearly 700 Jews committed suicide on the first day.

So many Jews took their lives in Germany that notices were pinned on bodies hanging from lamp poles requesting, “Any Jew who intends to

windows; some even brought homemade catapults.

Eichmann’s creative debasement caused a mass flight of 130,000 Austrian Jews, about 60% of the population, and turned him into a hero in Nazi circles. His methods and enthusiasm were copied in Prague and Berlin where Kristallnacht left entire Jewish communities startled, bewildered, numbed, paralyzed in dread, immobilized both physically and mentally, their collective nerves shattered, their spirituality assaulted, their raw vulnerability and isolation cruelly exposed and exploited.

The rabbinic hierarchy suddenly faced a savagery unraveling at a pace unmatched since the Middle Ages.

In Berlin, the frail 74-year-old Rav Chaim Biberfeld stood in front of his venerated beis medrash helplessly facing down a frenzied mob. In Worms, Herta Mansbacher, assistant principal of the Jewish day school who would

“Hitler’s prey was not just the Jew but the very idea of a Jewish life and the very idea of a Jewish G-d.” hang himself is requested to have the kindness to place a paper with his name thereon in his mouth so that we know who he is.”

35,000 Jewish men between the ages of sixteen and sixty were rounded up and taken to Dachau where Jews were interrogated with water hoses shoved down their throats, to Sachenhausen where Jews were drowned in toilets, and to Buchenwald where the first few days of detention became known as “Murder Week.”

No Jew emerged from these camps without terror in his eyes and fear in his heart.

And many didn’t return at all. Instead, their families received tin cans of ashes for which they had to pay the 3.75 marks postage and the bill for cremation. So many sheylas poured into the office of Rabbi Menachem Mendel Kirschbaum, the av bes din of Frankfurt, who would himself be incinerated at Auschwitz four years later with his wife, that he felt compelled to write a four-page responsa on how to mourn the receipt of ashes by mail. ristallnacht let loose the mass weapons of humiliation perfected by a young zealot in Vienna called Adolf Eichmann whose talent for lethal efficiency included handing out baskets to children so they could carry more stones to throw through Jewish

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later be gassed at Belzec, defiantly tried to block arsonists from entering the local synagogue. Rashi’s synagogue in Worms had survived for 700 years – until Kristallnacht paid a visit.

A rav in Frankfurt had a seizure, collapsed, and died while watching his shul burning. Rabbis were forced from their beds, taken to the ruins of their synagogues, and made to stand at their shtenders and read excerpts from Mein Kampf, Adolf’s crude manifesto of racism and intolerance. Dazed congregants stood in their pajamas and were forced to listen.

Rabbi Shimon Schwab, alumni of Lithuanian yeshivas and a German Rav in Ichenhausen, Bavaria, slept in his clothes each night because he was certain he would be dragged out at any moment and didn’t want the chillul Hashem of the sight of a Rav hanging from a lamppost in his pajamas.

Heinrich Himmler, the powerful head of the Gestapo, a genuine member of the lunatic fringe, encouraged his underlings to ridicule and scorn their targets in a “Jewish” way. To this high priest of the Final Solution, every death had to have a religious significance. So the imbecilic bigot and neurotic son of a pious school teacher had the SS drag every tenth Jew out of a line for special torture and torment in order to emphasize that, under the new religion of Nationalist Socialism, being a “minyan

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One group of German rabbis was forced to stand outside the home of an S.S. officer and serenade him to sleep amidst the sound of crackling flames. In Bensheim, Jews were forced to dance around their burning synagogues. In Dusseldof, bare-footed Jewish men and women dressed in their pajamas and nightgowns were forced to walk over shattered sharp glass. In Hietzing, they closed the school early so twelve- to fourteen-year-old students would not miss out on the entertainment. In Dortmund, siddurim and machzorim were used by schoolchildren as footballs while in one northern German town, enthusiastic kids played soccer with a Torah scroll.

In Baden-Baden, a local principal rewarded his young students with candy each time they yelled, “To hell with the Jews!” The London Daily Telegraph described the crowds as “fashionably dressed [Berlin] women clapping their hands and screaming with glee [at the sight] while respectable middle-class mothers held up their babies to see the ‘fun’ [of Jews being humiliated].”

Rav Joseph Carlebach, the chief rabbi of Hamburg, Altona, and Wandsbeck, was the rav of the beautiful Bornplatz Synagogue, the largest in northern Germany. Hitler personally ordered its destruction and that Rav Carlebach be forced to watch it reduced to ashes while being beaten by his thugs.

Within ten months, 150,000 terrified Jews, a quarter of the community, left Germany, more than the previous six years combined. The majority of German rabbis left within the year. Hardly a single synagogue in Germany had a functioning Rav. Rav Carlebach chose to stay and rebuild: but the Gestapo had other plans.

On March 26, 1942, the chief rabbi, his wife, and three of their nine children were machine-gunned to death in a knee-deep snowy forest on the outskirts of Riga, the capital of Latvia.

The family homicide occurred erev Pesach. In expectation of making a seder, Rav Carlebach met his death with a packet of matzas in his pocket. An obituary in a local German newspaper reported that he had died Eines natuerlichen Todes (“of natural causes”) which fooled no-one because Jews whose deaths were attributed to “heart attacks” or “work-related accidents” all seemed to have died alphabetically. he Third Reich knew the importance of sifrei kodesh in the lives of orthodox Jews and so one of Hitler’s first orders upon bullying his way to power was to shut down every

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Jewish book store in Darmstadt.

On Rosh Hashana 1938, sensing what was coming, Rabbi Dovid Borenstein, the Sochaczever Rebbe, asked his followers to make sure their children knew the mishna by heart because, quote, “there will be a time when books

In one synagogue, the Nazis stripped and sliced the community’s 200 Torah scrolls into parchments for use as shoe soles, boot padding, or lining for women’s handbags and purses. Vendors in the local market place wrapped fish and pork in pieces of Torah parchment.

The Germans referred to the 48 hour pogrom as the “Jew Action.” Jewish history knows it as “Crystal Night” (Krystallnacht) because of the miles of shattered glass scattered throughout the streets

will not be available.” He was eerily prescient.

When Kristallnacht erupted, as if in unison, if it was Jewish it was to be defiled in an unrelenting epidemic of hate.

The New York Times described how the crowds descended on the discarded holy texts and tore pages out of seforim to keep as souvenirs.

Pages from Old Testaments were torn out and used as smoking paper.

Sacred synagogue ornaments were attacked as though they presented a mortal threat to the mighty Third Reich.

The Gestapo suddenly took up interior decorating and unfurled Torah scrolls as stair coverings for their offices. In one instance, they stretched a sefer Torah on a wall as backdrop for filming Jewish executions. And when the thrifty Germans realized that the sturdy klaf made a perfect canvas for oil paintings, they sold portions to local artists and their studios.

The Kristallnacht carnage was so unfathomable that Rabbi Benzion Halberstam, the Bobover Rebbe, who would be beaten to death three years

“Sacred synagogue ornaments were attacked as though they presented a mortal threat to the mighty Third Reich.”

Ritual objects were dragged through the mud and dung and blood before being destroyed. German soldiers threw synagogue Judaica out to the crowds to use as cheap Christmas presents. The locals formed lines to buy chopped-up shul benches and tables and floorboards and wall panelings for firewood.

Woolen talleisim were sought after by German women who cut off the “strings,” dyed the cloth, and wore them with no charpa or boosha as fashionable black-striped skirts.

But what really acted as a magnet for blind German rage was the sight of sifrei Torahs, the centrality of all things Jewish.

later at Lvov by Ukrainian policemen and peasants, warned his followers “not to allow themselves to fall into a pit of despair and sadness over the desecration of sifrei Torah and synagogues.”

In some instances, the Jews tried to sanctify the remains of the Nazi profanity. Some saved the bricks and stones from their synagogue ruins which they called “orphan bricks” almune shteiner, and lit their Shabbos and Chanukka candles on them.

Perhaps the greatest victim of Kristallnacht was Judaic naivety.

It was the curtain raiser, an eyeopener as to what the Germans were

capable of doing, the last warning before the final extermination of European Jewry. It was the defining line between emigration and extermination, survival or slaughter.

After November 1938 hardly a single Jew in Europe did not finally understand the uncompromising and relentless personification of evil that they faced. “You’re next” was in every Nazi speech, every gleeful rally, every newspaper headline. Hitler made no secret of his violent intentions. Exclusion was followed by expulsion then extermination.

The last transport out of Germany to death camps left in April 1943. So paranoid was Hitler that he ordered all “Jewish” pets in Berlin to be put to death because the animals had had a close proximity to racially-defective Jews.

So thorough had Adolf Hitler been that on the first Pesach 1945 after liberation, a United States military chaplain could not find a single Jewish child in all of Berlin to say the traditional Ma Nishtana at the first seder meal.

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he fact of history remains grim: Miles and miles of shattered glass that “glittered like crystal,” ashes through the mail, and piles of mutilated Jewish corpses in four so-called “enlightened” countries failed as a wake up call for the rest of European Jewry.

Brimming with confidence at the lack of any meaningful moral outrage from an entire world, an intoxicated Hitler bluntly told the foreign minister of Czechoslovakia, “We are going to destroy the Jews.” And ten months later he began to do just that.

In the early morning hours of September 1, 1939, erev Shabbas kodesh, the Third Reich exported their boss’s ferocious law of the jungle eastwards into Poland mit blut un eisen. The entire Polish military forces collapsed in a few weeks. In the first thirty days, the Nazis massacred the Jewish communities of thirty villages and towns. The Holocaust had begun. There would be no rest for the wicked until the world was finally rid of the Jews.

Ten months later, on June 14, 1940, the switches at Auschwitz were turned on and Hitler’s “solution” became one of finality.

Joe Bobker, alumni of Yeshivas HaRav Kook, Jerusalem, is the publisher and editorin-chief of the Los Angeles Jewish Times, author of the popular Torah With a Twist of Humor series and the 12-volume Historiography of Orthodox Jews and the Holocaust, to be published next summer by Gefen Press, Jerusalem. He can be reached at jbobker@aol.com.

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“Say What?”

With respect to the issue of women driving here in Saudi Arabia, it’s no secret that in the United States of America we embrace equality for everybody, regardless of gender, race, or any other qualification. But it’s up to Saudi Arabia to make its own decisions about its own social structure choices and timing for whatever events…There’s a healthy debate in Saudi Arabia about this issue, but I think that debate is best left to Saudi Arabia, the people engaged in it, all of whom know exactly where we in the United States of America stand on this issue.

- Secretary of State Kerry at a press conference in Saud Arabia, when asked about the prohibition against women driving in Saudi Arabia

Just when you thought the state of American healthcare couldn’t get any worse, Dr. Conrad Murray, Michael Jackson’s doctor, has been released from jail.

– Jay Leno Run, Hillary, run. If you run, you’ll win and we’ll all win . . .

2016 is Hillary’s time. And our nation will be all the better for it. With a strong platform and with Hillary leading the charge, we will vanquish the Ted Cruz, Tea Party Republicans in 2016.

- Senator Chuck Schumer during a speech in Iowa last weekend

At first I ate a box of 20 for lunch, then another for dinner. The next day I had two boxes for breakfast, one for lunch and then another couple in the evening. I even grabbed some fries and an apple pie to go with it. Man, I should have gotten a gold medal for all that chowing down…During the 10 days I spent in Beijing, I downed 100 nuggets every 24 hours.

That equals 1,000 chunks of chicken .

- Usain Bolt, the Jamaican sprinter and world’s fastest man who won three gold medals in the 2012 Olympics, reflecting on his Chicken McNuggets addiction during the 2012 Summer Olympics in Beijing, China The government has betrayed us and we have no one to trust.

- Varda Akiva after the Israeli government released the Arab who murdered her son

As baseball wraps up, a new NBA season tips off. It’s the special time when we have baseball, football, and basketball at the same time — the holy trinity of ignoring our families.

- Jimmy Kimmel

According to a new study out of Harvard, it is easier for people to be moral in the morning. They say people are more moral at the beginning of the day, but they become more dishonest as the day goes on. So when people say Congress is as dishonest as the day is long, we now have scientific proof.

- Jay Leno

I am not a morning person.

- Mayor-elect Bill de Blasio, after showing up more than an hour late to a morning campaign rally (Enjoy him NYC!)

The website never crashed.

- Health and Human Services Secretary Kathleen Sebelius during her Congressional testimony last Wednesday about the disastrous Obamacare website System is down at the moment. We are experiencing technical difficulties and hope to have them resolved soon. Please try again later. In a hurry?

You might be able to apply faster at our Marketplace call center. Call 1-800-3182596 to talk with one of our trained representatives about applying over the phone.

– The message posted on the website as HHS Secretary Sebelius testified

I just want to remind everybody that they can still apply for coverage by phone, by mail, in person.

There was a time when the internet didn’t exist. It wasn’t that long ago. A lot of programs like Medicaid don’t operate electronically. And so there are ways for us to still work to make sure that people are getting the opportunity to buy affordable, quality healthcare.

– President Obama discussing the dysfunction of the Obamacare website A study found that fruit has become the second most popular food in the U.S. The first most popular food in the U.S.? NOT fruit.

- Jimmy Fallon NSA leaker Edward Snowden got a new job in Moscow.

Not only that, but he was also able to sign up for “PutinCare.”

- Jay Leno

Bottom line: of the 189 million Americans with private health insurance coverage, I estimate that if Obamacare is fully implemented, at least 129 million (68 percent) will not be able to keep their previous healthcare plan either because they already have lost or will lose that coverage by the end of 2014 - Duke University health care economist Christopher Conover in an interview with the Daily Caller What we said was you can keep it if it hasn’t changed since the law passed.

– President Obama last Monday when confronted about the 24 times he inaccurately said that individuals will be able to keep their healthcare plans once Obamacare kicks in You know, presidents sometime engage in a little hyperbole.

- Rep. Jim Moran (D-VA), dismissing concerns about President Obama’s 24 inaccurate assurances Well, the president, as awesomely powerful as the office is, we can’t go back in time.

– White House Spokesman Jay Carney, when asked whether the president regrets making the 24 false assurances that people will be able to keep their healthcare plans when Obamacare kicks in Mr. Obama clearly misspoke when he said that.

- The New York Times’ synopsis of President Obama’s 24 false assurances

Over the years, I’ve seen an America that was respected, hated, feared and loved. But traveling around China and Singapore last week, I was confronted repeatedly with an attitude toward America that I’ve never heard before: “What’s up with you guys?”…

It’s not just that we can no longer pull together to put a man on the moon. It’s that we can’t even implement proven common-sense solutions that others have long mastered — some form of national healthcare, gun control, road pricing, a gasoline tax to escape our budget and carbon bind.

-Tom Friedman, The New York Times

This weekend is the end of daylight saving time. Or, put another way, your microwave is about to have the right time on it again.

- Jimmy Fallon

New Jersey Governor Chris Christie is hoping to win reelection tomorrow, and polls show that he’s winning by a 19-point margin. Christie was really excited to hear that — but only because he thought someone said “margarine.”

- Jimmy Fallon

Millions of Americans are visiting healthcare. gov, which is great news.

Unfortunately the site was only designed to handle six users at a time.

- From a “Saturday Night Live” parody of Obamacare (Ironically, several days later CBS News uncovered that on the first day the website was up exactly 6 people signed up for healthcare)

I like him … in doses.

- President Barack Obama on former President Bill Clinton, according to Mark Halperin and John Heilemann’s new book, Double Down

The odds of traveling this far without any incident — police or otherwise — are obviously astronomical. This is a crazy record that only a small fraternity of lunatics (care) that much about and that doesn’t have an upside financially so I would not encourage anyone to try it.

- Ed Bolian who, along with two buddies, made record timing on his cross country drive from New York to California, which took a total of 28 hours and 50 minutes

According to CBS News, only six people enrolled in Obamacare on the first day of the rollout. Six! That means more people have walked on the moon than have signed up for Obamacare.

- Jay Leno

Con artists are using Obamacare confusion to sign people up for fake health insurance. The scammers lure victims with false promises like, “If you like your healthcare plan, you can keep your healthcare plan.” The scammers will tell you that, so you have to be careful.

- Jay Leno

Anyone watching this year’s chess match over Syria and NSA leaks has a clear idea of the shifting individual power dynamics.

- Forbes Magazine explaining why they rate Putin as the most powerful person in the world and President Obama only as the second most powerful person in the world

[Gov. Christie] was also a fundraising dynamo, but he and his staff were overbearing and hard to work with, demanding in ways that would have been unthinkable from any other surrogate.

Months earlier, Christie had banned Romney from raising money in New Jersey until Christie had given the O.K. to do so—a move Romney found galling, like something out of The Sopranos.

Are you kidding me, Mitt thought. He’s going to do that? There were plenty of New Jersey donors who’d given money to Mitt in 2008; now Christie was trying to impose a gag order on talking to them? “He sounds like the biggest [idiot] in the world,” Stevens griped to his partner, Russ Shriefer. More recently, Trenton insisted on private jets, lavish spreads of food, space for a massive entourage. Romney ally Wayne Berman looked at the bubble around Christie and thought, He’s not the President of the United States, you know. Chronically behind schedule, Christie made a habit of showing up late to Romney fundraising events.

In May, he was so tardy to a donor reception at the Grand Hyatt New York that Mitt wound up taking the stage to speak before Christie arrived. When the Jersey governor finally made his grand entrance, it was as if Mitt had been his warm-up act.

- Excerpt from Double Down, explaining why Mitt Romney didn’t choose Governor Christie as his 2012 running mate Mitt called me right away, and I could tell he was really embarrassed and outraged about it. It’s very disappointing. I think it’s a complete violation of trust of me and the spirit within which I entered that process.

- Governor Christie on CNN discussing confidential details about the 2012 vetting process that were disclosed to the authors of Double Down

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If you like your health care plan, you’ll be able to keep your health care plan, period. No one will take it away, no matter what.

– President Obama on June 15, 2010, one of the 24 times he made the same promise—almost verbatim—about Obamacare

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The Main Key to Getting Kids to do Homework

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hen I was a little kid, there was only one homework rule in my house: Do it first. That meant on short winter days there was a serious chance that I did not get to go out and play. No matter. Homework meant business!

When I became a mother, I forgot the rule. My first child was several years older than my second, so when she entered kindergarten, I thought she was still “my baby.” When she came home with her cute little sheets to fill out, I laughed. “What, they’re giving homework to babies?” The school didn’t think it was so funny. She got in trouble and came home in tears. I was horrified.

But I learned. By the time all my kids were in school, you better believe that homework came first. We had this really gorgeous, huge backyard in Florida (where they were all raised) and I realized that if they went out to play before homework, it would be very, very difficult to get them back inside to actually do it.

Besides that, they would come to resent the homework that took them away from their fun. Better to get the homework out of the way and then go out to play for a brief time if possible.

Was I mean? Was I a tyrant who didn’t let my kids enjoy the fresh air and sunshine in favor of homework?

My pediatrician thought I was and so did my children. But, to me, as it was for my parents, homework was non-negotiable and ranked first in importance.

Just as bath time and eating were musts, so was homework. Just as you couldn’t very well postpone bedtime (except in special instances), do away with teeth brushing, or replace dinner with candy – all things the kids would have loved – so too homework was immutable.

How did I pull this off? Were there nightly wars? Was there a lot of arguing? Loud voices? Complaints?

None of the above.

Just as dinner, bath, and brush didn’t entail any of these, neither did homework. Why should there be a difference? Either your message is clear or it’s not.

Let’s take other examples. Did I get

backtalk or chutzpah regarding other things like going to someone’s house for a mid-week sleepover or going to shul? No. Chutzpah wouldn’t have been tolerated. The key is clear expectations.

Once you have those understood, everything, absolutely everything falls into place.

The other day I was visiting my grandchildren. We were having a riot.

They were taking turns sitting facing me on my lap, then leaning backwards, turning savta into a seesaw. The littlest

thing is not easy.

“Would you stick your tongue out at me?” she inquired.

“No,” he replied.

“Or daddy?”

“No” again.

“Then apologize to savta.”

He did. End of story. “You’re forgiven,” I chirped. “I know you didn’t mean it. You just got carried away.”

So let’s get something straight: Being clear, being immutable, and being certain that something is important is

WHEN A MESSAGE IS DELIVERED IN AN ALMOST NONCHALANT WAY, IT “NORMALIZES” THAT MESSAGE.

one was light and fun. We flew. The oldest one was just too heavy for me. The middle two were “just right” and good exercise. But one of them got carried away with himself. In the spirit of fun, he stuck out his tongue at me. Uh-oh.

Now, I’m a savta, not a parent. But do I have the right to confuse this kid?

Should I be giving him a message that disrespecting elders is perfectly all right when it certainly isn’t?

No! So I said, “Uh-oh” and mom looked up. She eyed her child with what my own children (she being one of them) back in the old days would call “Look #8” and spoke his name. She definitely went beyond eye contact: Their eyes were locked. A look came over his face that echoed my “Uh-oh.”

“Did you stick your tongue out at savta?” my daughter wanted to know.

“Yes,” he murmured. I have to tell you, I felt terrible. I had gotten him in trouble. But sometimes doing the right

not – I repeat, not – the same thing as yelling, threatening, punishing, jumping up and down or whatever else frustrated parents do.

On the contrary, your words are most believable when they are said slowly and calmly and with minimal drama. Here’s why: Drama and all those other “baddies” send your kids a message that you are out of control. That means you aren’t really sure of yourself.

And that is the exact opposite message from the one you want to give!

On the other hand, when a message is delivered in an almost nonchalant way, it “normalizes” that message. The ordinariness of the tone doesn’t draw attention to it as anything to challenge or protest.

In fact, when your child does protest, as he surely will, your continued calmness and matter-of-factness is the most reassuring message your child could ever get. Why is that? Because

what a child wants most is not what he says he wants. He wants security. Safety. He wants to know that you are there to take care of him and protect him, even from himself.

When you’re calm, you’re really in charge. And when you’re really in charge, he feels safe.

You see how that goes? No matter what your message, stay calm and remember that you are the parent. You’re smarter than they are!

I’m going to be speaking live about this – with four more tips for getting homework done – at the inauguration of Food For Thought, a new weekly series for women starting next Thursday, November 14, at Cravingz Café (410 Central Ave, Cedarhurst, NY 11516) from 10 to 11 in the morning.

Then there will be other speakers on fantastic topics for a total of nine weeks.

The next four talks are as follows: on November 14: Dr. Deb Hirschhorn, Ph.D. Marriage & Family Therapist, on the topic of Five Secrets to Getting Kids to do Homework; on November 21: Sharon Rawitz, MHC, ballet dancer and instructor, on the topic of My Recovery Journey: They Told My Family I’d Be a Vegetable But Here I Am; on December 5: Deborah Kaminetsky, Esq. Matrimonial & Construction Contract Attorney, on the topic of What Is The Divorce Process Really Like?; on December 12: Jessica Vaiselberg, artist, private art teacher for children & adults, on the topic of How to Get a Better Perspective Through Drawing.

Incidentally, Cravingz has generously offered a special discount menu for the duration of the series and gift certificates to be raffled off at each lecture. Yum. Dr. Deb Hirschhorn, a Marriage & Family Therapist and best-selling author of The Healing Is Mutual--Marriage Empowerment Tools to Rebuild Trust and Respect--Together, is proud to announce that readers of The Jewish Home will receive a $50 discount on every visit to her Woodmere office. For more information, call 646-54-DRDEB or check out her website at drdeb.com.

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How to Stop Emotional Eating

The Connection Between Mood and Food Major life events such as unemployment, health problems and divorce, and daily life hassles such as a stressful work environment, bad weather and changes in your normal routine, can trigger emotions that lead to overeating. But why do negative emotions lead to overeating?

Some foods may have seemingly addictive qualities. For example, when you eat palatable foods, such as chocolate, your body releases trace amounts

of mood- and satisfaction-elevating opiates. That “reward” may reinforce a preference for foods that are most closely associated with specific feelings. Related to this is the simple fact that the pleasure of eating offsets negative emotions.

Food can also be a distraction. If you’re worried about an upcoming event or rethinking an earlier conflict, eating comfort foods may distract you.

YOUR MOOD IS MORE MANAGEABLE AND YOUR BODY CAN MORE EFFECTIVELY FIGHT STRESS WHEN IT’S FIT AND WELL RESTED. But the distraction is only temporary.

While you’re eating, your thoughts focus on the pleasant taste of your comfort food. Unfortunately, when you’re done overeating, your attention returns to your worries, and you may now bear the additional burden of guilt about overeating.

How to Regain Control of Your Eating Habits Though strong emotions can trigger cravings for food, you can take steps to control those cravings. To help stop emotional eating, try these suggestions: • Learn to recognize true hunger.

Is your hunger physical or emotional? If you ate just a few hours ago and don’t have a rumbling stomach, you’re probably not really hungry. Give the craving a few minutes to pass.

• Know your triggers. For the next several days, write down what you eat, how much you eat, when you eat, how you’re feeling when you eat and how hungry you are. Over time, you may see patterns emerge that reveal negative eating patterns and triggers to avoid.

• Look elsewhere for comfort. Instead of un-wrapping a candy bar, take a walk, treat yourself to a movie, listen to music, read or call a friend. If you think that stress relating to a particular event is nudging you toward the refrigerator, try talking to someone about it to distract yourself.

Plan enjoyable events for yourself.

• Don’t keep unhealthy foods around. Avoid having an abundance of high-calorie comfort foods in the house. If you feel hungry or blue, postpone the shopping trip for a few hours so that these feelings don’t influence your decisions at the store.

• Snack healthy. If you feel the urge to eat between meals, choose a low-fat, low-calorie food, such as fresh

fruit, vegetables with fat-free dip or unbuttered popcorn. Or test low-fat, lower calorie versions of your favorite foods to see if they satisfy your craving.

• Eat a balanced diet. If you’re not getting enough calories to meet your energy needs, you may be more likely to give in to emotional eating.

Try to eat at fairly regular times. Include foods from the basic groups in your meals. Emphasize whole grains, vegetables and fruits, as well as low-fat dairy products and lean protein sources. When you fill up on the basics, you’re more likely to feel fuller, longer.

• Exercise regularly and get adequate rest. Your mood is more manageable and your body can more effectively fight stress when it’s fit and well rested.

If you give in to emotional eating, forgive yourself and start fresh the next day. Try to learn from the experience, and make a plan for how you can prevent it in the future. Focus on the positive changes you’re making in your eating habits and give yourself credit for making changes that ensure better health.

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ometimes the strongest longings for food happen when you’re at your weakest point emotionally.

Many people turn to food for comfort— consciously or unconsciously— when they’re facing a difficult problem or looking to keep themselves occupied.

Emotional eating—eating as a way to suppress or soothe negative emotions, such as stress, anger, anxiety, boredom, sadness and loneliness—can sabotage your weight-loss efforts. Often, emotional eating leads to eating too much food, especially high-calorie, sweet, salty and fatty foods.

If you’re prone to emotional eating, you can take steps to regain control of your eating habits and get back on track with your weight-loss goals.

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Forgotten Heroes

Avi Heiligman

Fighting the War of the Seas Battleships in History

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aval warfare has been a part of military campaigns for thousands of years. Navies have always been looking for ways to build bigger and better warships to combat the enemy. For over 100 years, the battleship was the ruler of the seas with unmatched size, ferocity and firepower. About 20 years ago, the era of the battleship came to a close with the decommissioning of the USS Missouri. Many of these ships would need a stand-alone article each to properly relate their piece of history. This current article is a general overview of

“ships of the line,” and in 1794 it was shortened to battleship. These were the largest ships afloat and had many bores for cannons; however, they were unarmored and used sails for steering.

In the first half of the 1800s, steam was used to propel these ships and the French built the Napoleon as the first in this new class of ships. Other countries followed and by the American Civil War in the 1860s, they were outfitted with armor. Called ironsides, the ships were very strong and were difficult to sink. Despite the Confederates’ modest budget, they built several ships of this class.

The first major battle involving ironsides was the Battle of Hampton Roads. The USS Monitor and the CSS Virginia fought to a draw and soon the rest of the world caught onto the new design and began building metal ships.

The modern battleship era started with the ships built in the 1890s The USS Maine exploded off of Cuba and onwards. These and was the cause of the Spanish American War ships had large guns, at least 12 inches in diamthe class of ships and briefly describes eter, revolving turrets (the guns could their importance in naval warfare. swivel around and be aimed in severThe definition of a battleship has al directions) and had thick armor. In been debated for many years. The term 1892, the British were the first to use was first coined for ships that were the word battleship and U.S. built the

The USS Monitor and the CSS Virginia during the Civil War

USS Texas in 1895. She burned coal, had 2-12 inch and several smaller guns, torpedo tubes (on later battleships the torpedoes were used only on smaller ships) and had a 12-inch thick steel armor. Her sister ship was the infamous USS Maine which mysteriously exploded off the coast of Havana, Cuba, in 1898 and was a cause of the Spanish-American War. The British introduced the dreadnaught-era of battleships in 1906 with the launching of the HMS Dreadnaught. She had ten 12-inch guns, was fast and very well armored. The Japanese had built the Satsuma in 1904 but she was never tested in battle.

Soon the world powers were building bigger and better dreadnaughts and all-big gun battleships. They were to be put on show during the next half century.

The only major battle in which battleships faced one another was the Battle of Tsushima in the Russo-Japanese war of 1905. Although the Japanese had close to 90 ships, only four were battleships. The Russians had only 28 total ships but these packed a powerful punch with the core of their might in their eleven battleships. The Russians were sighted by the Japanese trying to enter Japanese controlled water without detection.

Using telegraphs, also a first in naval history, the Japanese were able to position themselves in a favorable location by crossing the Russian “T.” The Russians were only able to fire their guns forward while Japanese used all

of their guns on one side during the battle. What followed was utter destruction for the Russian fleet as all eleven of their battleships and several smaller ships were sunk. It was the first and only time in history that the Russians were beaten this badly on the high seas.

Before World War I broke out in 1914, a new type of ship was introduced. Called the battle-cruiser, it was smaller than a front-line battleship but packed a heavy punch. The heavy ships were vulnerable to an unseen enemy—the submarine. Able to attack completely submerged, submarines, especially the German U-boats, sank several battleships and battle-cruisers. The battleships and dreadnaughts were relegated to small skirmishes and there was no showdown of the world’s largest ships.

Germany was required by Treaty of Versailles to reduce her military to a bare minimum. Her large ships were decommissioned or scuttled and only a few men remained in the navy.

Germany was forbidden to build any capital ships. While Hitler ym”s ignored the rules set down at the end of the First World War and secretly built-up Germany’s armed forces, no battleships were launched. These and aircraft carriers would have been detected by the world powers. Instead, large amounts of U-boats were built.

However, in 1939, several large battleships were launched. It would take half of the British Navy to sink the Bismarck.

would be one last battle in which the behemoths would go toe-to-toe.

The Battle of Leyte Gulf on October 24-25 was the largest naval battle in history and comprised of four smaller engagements. At Surigao Strait, Admiral Jesse Oldendorf used six battleships, including five that had been badly damaged on December 7, to sink the Japanese battleships and cruisers. He used the classic â&#x20AC;&#x153;T,â&#x20AC;? described earlier in the article, to engage the enemy and sank the Japanese battleships, Yamashiro and Fuso. The rest of the battle involved other battleships including the Yamato, the largest battleship in history, which almost destroyed a tiny American force protecting the Leyte beachhead. By a stroke of good fortune, which to this day historians debate as the exact reason, the Japanese admiral called off the attack just before the Yamato and the rest of the Japanese wiped out the American ships and shelled the beachhead.

Three ships of the Yamato class of battleships were started before the war and took about five years to complete.

The Shinano was converted into an aircraft carrier and was sunk just ten days after her commissioning by the submarine USS Archer-Fish. The Yamato was sunk by planes from the car-

rier USS Yorktown on April 7, 1945.

The largest warship ever built was the Musashi. She was sunk by bombs and torpedoes during an early engagement of the Battle of Leyte Gulf on October 24, 1944.

After the war, most of the surviving battleships were kept active by their respective countries. No new battleships were built and slowly but surely the need for them died away. For most of the Cold War, the U.S. had a few battleships available including the New Jersey which was commissioned and decommissioned three times.

The Missouri was the last battleship in history and was decommissioned in 1992. Several battleships, including the Missouri, New Jersey and the Iowa are on display as museum ships around the country. These museums are a testament to the powerful ships that they were and the brave men that served and died gallantly on the biggest warships in history.

Avi Heiligman is a weekly contributor to The Jewish Home. He welcomes your comments and suggestions.for future columns and can be reached at aviheiligman@ gmail.com.

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America was pulled into the war on December 7, 1941 when the Japanese attacked Battleship Row in Pearl Harbor. Out of the eight battleships stationed there, three were sunk (one later was raised from the depths and returned to battle).

The USS Arizona remains underwater as a memorial for the Americans who were lost that day defending the naval base. With only a few aging battleships left in the arsenal, the U.S. turned to the aircraft carrier to bring the war to the Japanese.

During the Naval Battle of GuadalThe USS Arizona was sunk during the attack on Pearl Harbor in 1945--It remains underwater as a memorial canal on November for those who perished on that day 13, 1942, American battleships sunk the British battle cruiser, Hood, and the Kirshima but the South Dakota was battleship Prince of Whales. After badly damaged. For most of the war, sinking the Hood in a terrifying ex- battleships were used in secondary plosion, the Bismarck escaped into the roles from escorting merchant ships Atlantic. Eventually, airplanes from to laying down gunfire in support of an aircraft carrier disabled her, and troops landing on beachheads. There

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A Little Bit of Latka As Chanukah is fast approaching, I am getting so excited. There is nothing more amazing than latkes right out of the frying pan. My mother makes the best cheese latkes. Whenever she visits us from Australia, my house smells of these ricotta cheese latkes every Sunday morning. However, the challenging part is that this recipe comes from her mother (my grandmother) and, rather than having fixed mea-

surements, they simply eye-ball all their recipes and use their estimations. When I asked my mother for the recipe, it was “a little of this, and a pinch of that…” So, on her last visit, I watched, measured and wrote down exactly what she did. Next thing I know (viola!), I have the precise recipe on paper and I can now share it with my family and all of you too!

Ricotta Pancakes Ingredients 1-½ cups ricotta cheese ½ cup milk ½ tsp vanilla extract 2 eggs, separated

¼ cup sugar 1 cup flour 1 tsp baking powder Pinch kosher salt 2 tsp canola oil

Preparation Place ricotta, milk, vanilla extract and egg yolks in a bowl and mix well. Stir in sugar, flour, baking powder and salt and mix gently until smooth.

In a separate bowl, beat egg whites to soft peaks, the fold them into the cheese mixture.

Heat oil in a 9-inch pan till oil is hot; drop 1/8 cup worth of batter into pan. Lower heat to medium and cook on both sides until brown, about 2 minutes per side.

My new favorite spices are cumin and curry. Last year, I was playing around with different ideas for a potato latke. After some experimentation, I came up with this Mediterranean style latke which tastes really good. I use chumus as my dipping sauce.

Mediterranean Potato Latkes Ingredients 4 russet potatoes 1 small onion 2 garlic cloves 1 can chickpeas, drained 4 cubes frozen cilantro 1 tsp cumin ½ tsp curry Crushed black pepper 1 beaten egg 4 TBS flour Kosher salt, to taste

Naomi Nachman, the owner of The Aussie Gourmet, caters weekly and Shabbat/ Yom Tov meals for families and individuals within The Five Towns and neighboring communities, with a specialty in Pesach catering. Naomi is a contributing editor to this paper and also produces and hosts her own weekly radio show on the Nachum Segal Network stream called “A Table for Two with Naomi Nachman.” Naomi gives cooking presentations for organizations and private groups throughout the New York/New Jersey Metropolitan area. In addition, Naomi has been a guest host on the QVC TV network and has been featured in cookbooks, magazines as well as other media covering topics related to cuisine preparation and personal chefs. To obtain additional recipes, join The Aussie Gourmet on Facebook or visit Naomi’s blog. Naomi can be reached through her website,www.theaussiegourmet.com or at (516) 295-9669.

Preparation In a food processor, shred potatoes, onion and garlic, then squeeze the mixture until dry.

Mash the chickpeas with a fork until pieces are small but still a little chunky for a nice texture. Add the spices and cilantro, then add the two mixtures together.

Once they are mixed, add the egg, flour, and salt.

Heat a skillet on high heat, then add enough oil so it should come up ½ inch above pan. Once oil is heated to 365°, add about ¼ cup potato mixture for each latke. Fry for a few minutes on each side.

Drain on paper towel when latke turns amber brown. Continue to fry the rest of the batch and squeeze out any liquid that builds up in batter.

Note: always keep an eye on the oil temperature. I use an oil thermometer to assist me. If the oil is too high, it burns and if it’s too low, the latkes will be soggy.

The optimal temperature range is 365-375° F.

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The Secret Ingredient Every Good Ad Must Have

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Everything I Need to Know I Learned From My 2-Year-Old

was running an errand one day, and I had my very active 2-year-old daughter Miri strapped into her car seat keeping me company. I flipped to the classical music station (really!) and turned up the volume, hoping the soothing tones would keep her quiet.

“What’s that music?” she asked.

“It’s some nice music for you to listen to,” I answered.

“But what is it?” she persisted.

“Just nice music, sweetie. Why don’t you quiet down and listen.”

We went through a few more rounds before I zoned out, letting the lilting melodies carry me away from that perky, demanding little voice.

And I distinctly remember thinking how silly it was to think that a 2-year-

old could actually relate in any way to this beautiful sophisticated music.

All of a sudden, Miri’s voice broke into my thoughts. “It’s ‘Twinkle Twinkle!”’

“What?”

“Twinkle Twinkle!”

I directed my attention back to the radio and, sure enough, it was playing “Twinkle Twinkle.” Well, actually, it was playing a piece by Mozart, “Ah, vous dirai-je, maman,” also known as, “Variations on Twinkle Twinkle.”

I burst out laughing. Here I was, the big sophisticate. I had thought this music so far above the level of my young daughter, and yet within a couple of minutes she was able to find something in it to relate to. They were

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playing her song!

The fact that it was a piece by a great composer was irrelevant. All the subtleties and nuances and harmonies of the variations went right over her head but it didn’t matter. She only had ears for “Twinkle Twinkle.”

The Secret Although it took me a while to realize it, I learned a powerful lesson that day. No matter what you’re promoting, you absolutely, positively have to find a way to make it interesting and engaging to your audience.

You may think that’s not possible, but if my daughter Miri could find something to appreciate about classical music, you can find something

interesting and engaging about whatever you’re selling.

“But,” you’ll argue, “she wasn’t really interested in classical music.

She thought it was kiddie music!”

I say it doesn’t matter. The important thing is to capture people’s interest and get them to let you in to tell your story. I’m not saying to misrepresent what your product is or does. But use some kind of storytelling device to peak people’s interest and draw them into your little artificial world where you can let them know how much their lives would be enriched with your product or service.

It doesn’t need to be complicated; in fact, it’s usually better if it’s not. I once created some ads for a company

Reach Out and Touch Someone Advertising needs to reach your audience in a specific way. But truthfully every communication – every ad, every PR piece, every interaction – between you and your customers has got to reach them in some real and meaningful way. They need to relate to it and feel that your brand or product is relevant to them personally – that there is somehow a two-way relationship between you. Companies like Apple, Disney and Nordstroms are all known for just this sort of branding and relationship building.

I once brought my Apple laptop into one of their stores for a nonwarranty repair. I wound up having to wait at the Genius Bar longer that is considered normal, so they did the repair for free. In other words, I was treated like I mattered. And I’ve had other similar experiences with Apple in the past.

To explore Apple a little further, the entire Apple Store experience

Some examples of advertisements that make the customer ‘feel’ their product

from the moment a customer crosses the threshold is crafted to bolster positive feelings and proactively manage customers’ expectations, so no one is left feeling slighted. Employees are instructed in how frequently they need to interact with customers – even if only to let them know they haven’t been forgotten – to reset people’s mental clocks so they don’t feel as if they’ve been kept waiting for too long a time. Laptops are displayed with the screens at an angle that requires customers to adjust them in order to try them out. That makes people put their hands on the products, which increases sales. And there are many more tricks of the trade employed to engage and involve customers. It’s no wonder that Apple Stores are among the most profitable per square foot of any retail stores in the world.

Even something as mundane as purchasing a product and opening the package can be transformed from a meaningless “rip the box open” moment to a significant point of contact between you and your customer. With proper design and planning it can become an “unboxing” experience that introduces people to your product and your brand and creates a bond that can ultimately lead to positive feelings

and tremendous loyalty.

I’ll end with one last example. I worked on packaging for a product a while ago. It was a teddy bear with Bluetooth speakers built into it. How do you advertise something like that?

By trumpeting which version of Bluetooth it uses? How loud the speakers get? Maybe how long it will last on a single battery charge? I humbly suggest that if you use a strategy like that, you won’t sell very many pieces. You need to sell it with love. Show a kid playing with it, hugging it, dancing

with it while it plays favorite tunes.

It’s the feeling that will sell, not the features.

Danny Kay is a marketing and advertising professional as well as a designer and photographer with over 25 years of experience. He’s worked with businesses and organizations of all sizes, up to Fortune 500. He can be reached through his website, www.dannykaydesign.com, or at dannykay@outlook.com.

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that sold ready-to-bake muffins. The batter came in a tray, and you just had to pop it in the oven to get fresh baked muffins. One version of the ad had a fresh hot muffin next to a cup of coffee. The headline read, “Mmmmmmmmm.”

It was a great ad with a simple message. Fresh muffins + hot coffee = delicious! The campaign was a terrific success. Stores could not stock the product quickly enough to supply the demand.

Of course not everything is as easy to sell as a muffin. But as I’ve said before, you’re not just selling a product, you’re selling a feeling.

Give me almost any product or service, and I’ll find an emotional hook.

Here are some examples of products and the emotions and ideas associated with them that could be used to write effective advertising.

Home alarm system – security, fear, wife, children, possessions, physical safety Car – comfort, style, envy, technology, eco-friendly Makeup – vanity, desire to look beautiful and attractive Food or other consumables – Usually presented in way to make you want to eat it. But even more, to make the viewer identity with or even want to be the person in the ad doing the eating (Think Marlboro Man) Health Care – Product will solve a problem, improve quality of living, make people happier I could keep going, but I think you get the idea.

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Lola's Story

Lola Lieber Schwartz

A World After This

A Memoir of Loss and Redemption Lola Lieber Schwartz is a world-renowned artist whose paintings have been exhibited in art galleries throughout the United States and are part of the Yad Vashem archives in Jerusalem. Most importantly, Lola is a mother, grandmother and great-grandmother to many. She has myriad friends and sees life in all its vibrancy and vitality. But life was not always easy. Lola was only sixteen-yearsold when Hitler ym”sh invaded Poland, and Lola was forced into hiding and spent years on the run with her husband, Mechel. Through six years of trying times, near

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e became complacent about leaving Bucharest. I was expecting, we were with the Bobover Rebbe, and I felt secure and comforted by the presence of other Jewish women. Mechel said he thought we should wait until things returned to normal in Bucharest and then we would proceed to either Austria or Germany to seek visas to the United States. We did not see what was coming. Fortunately for us, our relatives in Brooklyn did see what was coming because they were living in a “real” world and not inside our cocoon of false safety. When their letters took on an urgent tone we paid attention. They told us that if we remained much longer we would be living under a brutal, totalitarian regime. We would be under the control of a Communist government, run in the Soviet style.

We knew better than to play the odds.

We had had our own experience in Budapest with Soviet soldiers. We got the picture. We left Bucharest in August 1945, and we were not alone. Many Jews in Bucharest left when we did. Once again we climbed into cattle cars and headed back to Budapest, and from there, we hoped, to a destination in the west and to complete freedom. Most of the refugees streaming out of Bucharest were not native to Romania, and most of us heading toward Budapest were not native to that city either. Both cities were temporary safe havens for Jews who hoped to start their lives again in a new place and a new country.

We were astounded when we got to Budapest to see so much repair work had already been accomplished. There was still evidence of the war and the bombings, but it was not the same city we had left. There were still Jews in the old ghetto, or some who had returned. We found survivors from Poland who had come to seek family or learn the truth and mourn.

starvation and brutality, Lola and her husband held onto their faith and values.

It was Mechel’s words of encouragement, “There will be a world after this,” that helped them cling to the hope that there will be a life of light and joy waiting for them at the end.

This is the story of Lola’s life—from her grandparents’ “enchanted garden” to meeting Eichmann ym”sh to making the Pesach seder for the Bobover Rebbe during the war—her words will take you back to a different world.

MECHEL AND I WERE CONVINCED THAT AMERICA WAS NOT THE ANSWER, BUT WE DID NOT HAVE A BETTER IDEA. It felt to me like there were masses of Polish Jews, but then Mechel and I did our arithmetic. There was no such thing as masses of Polish Jews, or masses of any other kind of Jews anywhere in Europe. And those of us who had survived were all in transit to somewhere else, or to an unfulfilled dream of finding even one family member who had survived.

It was a ghastly and ghostly experience.

We moved into a refugee center in Budapest and there we “interviewed” everyone upon arrival. Mechel made sure we wrote down everyone’s contact information. Again, nothing we heard gave us any reason for optimism. Mechel was more realistic than I and questioned the refugees about the procedures for gaining entry into America.

One day at the center, I saw Rosie and Micheline. It was a reunion filled with raw emotion and unfinished sentences.

Rosie and Micheline had spent many months with my Uncle Yoshe Berger, her father-in-law, in Debrecen. Rosie and Micheline had just arrived in Budapest with Uncle Yoshe’s daughter, Toby, and her husband, Itche Pflancer. Only six years had gone by since I helped my aunt Raizel, Toby’s mother, in her corset and lingerie shop in order to prepare for Toby’s wedding. It was at that wedding where I met Mechel. Only six years before? It could not be! Or could it? I had a hard time remembering if it were even in my own lifetime that these events had occurred. So much was blurred by what we had gone through, but the Bergers and the Pflancers had endured transports and concentrations camps and we had not.

Rosie said they were all headed back to Krakow. Without any need for elaboration, we understood that they wished to return to their old lives in Poland. We

told them we were hoping to go to America. As I said good-bye to Rosie I did not tell her how much I wished she would not go back to Poland, nor did she disclose to me what she must have felt about us moving to America.

Mechel and I were not convinced that America was the answer, but we did not have a better idea. We received information from incoming refugees about Munkach. We learned that anyone deported in 1944 had gone to Auschwitz and that meant my remaining siblings, Tuli, Ben, and of course, Goldie. We had assumed that Moishe had been killed earlier because of his forgery involvement. We were wrong about Moishe. He did not survive, but the circumstances of his death were a terrible blow to us. He had somehow managed to survive both the Auschwitz and the Death March, and then was struck by an Allied bomb and instantly killed.

Goldie had endured a little while, because despite her pale complexion and weakened heart they thought she was able-bodied. She was worked to death.

We were told she died in my aunt’s arms, but we don’t know when. I wanted some confirmation of my sister’s fate, yet at the same time I blocked it from my mind.

I needed to maintain that last image of her in Munkach, not only for the sake of my sanity but as a memorial to my entire family and to a place I would never see again. We heard that Mechel’s brother Yoel had gone to Italy. He sent us parcels in Budapest, and then we lost touch with him, which was not uncommon in a time of such upheaval. The time we spent in the refugee center in Budapest was depressing us. We both recognized it was not a healthy environment for me.

The stories were of death and the techni-

cal details of how the Nazis had killed so many of us were not the best setting for a pregnant woman.

We went to see my Nandor baci and Hendi neini, who were still in their Budapest apartment where we had left them when we went to Bucharest. They were still planning to go to Palestine but were wisely waiting until the situation there was more stable. My aunt was so happy to see me pregnant that she really spoiled me. She ordered a beautiful maternity dress for me, and purchased a full layette for the baby, including a kishele, a soft bassinet feather pillow with a special lace cover. She had several embroidered baby shirts made of the finest cotton. Mechel was given a tailor-made coat with a Persian lamb collar.

As autumn progressed the Jews in Budapest fell into one of two groups.

The largest consisted of those of us using Budapest as a way station to move on to the next destination and, hopefully, ultimate home. But the Hungarian Jews of Budapest were determined to reestablish themselves and the Jewish community. It would not be long before many of them would chafe under the yoke of Communist domination and intolerance and flee Hungary for America.

We encountered the Bobover Rebbe again, but this time completely unexpectedly. He did not leave Bucharest when we did, so we were surprised to see him in Budapest. He was on his way to England with surviving members of his family. When we saw him in Budapest he had good news. They had obtained visas and were free to go. He would go on to make a life in an environment quite unlike anything we had known in our years together.

Continued next week Lola wrote this book with the help of Alida Brill.

A World After This was published in 2010 by Devora Publishing.

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t’s week nine of the 2013 football season, and millions of Americans are following every play. The Kansas City Chiefs are still undefeated. The New York Giants have finally won a couple of games. And playoff races are already starting to take shape. (Bengals, anyone?) So, what does any of this have to do with taxes?

Today’s National Football League is the biggest spectacle since the Romans packed the Coliseum to watch the Christians take on the Lions. (Needless to say, the Lions were heavy favorites — and usually covered the spread.) Last year, the league generated $9.5 billion in revenue from a combination of TV rights, ticket sales, stadium concessions, and licensing agreements. The biggest part of that cash geyser goes to the players (who naturally pay tax on their salaries). More chunks go to the owners (who pay tax on theirs) and stadium vendors (who pay tax on all those eight-dollar beers).

The NFL’s league office, which promotes the sport and organizes the teams, took in $255.3 million last year, mostly from team dues. That same year, the league spent $332.9 million, including $35.9 million to a construction company for new office space (who naturally paid tax on their share), $29.4 million in salary for Commissioner Roger Goodell (who of course paid tax on his share), and what must seem like a token $2.3 million in grants for community groups like the United Way. So, it sure sounds like the receivers at Team IRS are catching their share, right? Well, while the team owners, the players, the t-shirt sellers, and beer vendors are all in it for the money, would you believe the league office itself is a “not-for-profit” entity? That makes it sort of like the American Red Cross — if the Red Cross were in the business of giving concussions instead of treating them. (Technically, the Red Cross is a “501(c)(3)” public charity, while the NFL is a “501(c)(6)” trade association.) And that means the league office itself could earn $100 million or more per year without paying a dime in federal income tax. Talk about an end run around the IRS!

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There’s certainly no reason a league office needs a tax exemption to operate.

Major League Baseball gave up theirs in 2007, partly to avoid the salary disclosures that come with tax-exempt status. The National Basketball Association has always been a for-profit entity owned by the various teams.

And if the NFL does lose their tax-exempt status, they can still avoid paying any tax. How can they do that?

Through smart planning, of course — the same sort of planning accountants use to minimize your tax. But the clock is counting down for 2013, and there are no overtimes in this contest. So call your accountant now for your game plan!

Allan J Rolnick is a CPA who has been in practice for over 30 years in Queens, NY. He welcomes your comments and can be reached at 718-896-8715 or at allanjrcpa@ aol.com.

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Ask the Attorney Planning for the Future I am working on my estate planning. My kids are grown and set up on their own; they don’t need my money.

I’d like to leave the bulk of my money to charity. I typically give to charities for Jewish-related causes but I’m concerned that those organizations may not be around when I pass on. What are my options?

The Attorney Responds: You do not specify the size of your planned bequest to charity. You have several options which can be used to

donate money during your lifetime and through your will. You can set up a private foundation to administer your charitable giving during and after your life.

This may provide certain tax advantages but requires expensive administration and people interested in running it the way you want. You can give money directly to charities during your lifetime or through your will—but are you prepared to or interested in monitoring to make sure your money is used the way you want? Additionally, the charity might not exist at your demise. A great

alternative is a community foundation.

A community foundation is a public charity that connects donors with a variety of non-profit charitable organizations. There are community foundations all over the country. In our region, the NY Community Trust covers the five boroughs, the LI Community Foundation covers Nassau and Suffolk Counties, and the Westchester Community Foundation covers Westchester County.

(LICF and Westchester are divisions of the NY Community Trust.)

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7. You have choices at a community foundation. You can establish a field of interest fund which supports a particular cause. You can establish a donor advised fund (if you put your money into the foundation during your life) where you have the ability to participate in the grant-making decisions as much or as little as you deem appropriate. Or you can give or leave money in an unrestricted way to the foundation to make grants under its general guidelines.

Whatever you choose to do, talk to your professional advisor about the appropriate choices for you. If you would like more information about using a community foundation for your philanthropic activities, contact the LI Community Foundation at 516 348 0575 or check it out on the web at www.licf.org.

No column is a substitute for competent legal advice. Please consult with the attorney of your choice concerning specific legal questions you may have.

Roslyn D. Goldmacher is an attorney on Long Island who runs the LI Development Corporation, a nonprofit economic development entity helping small businesses & nonprofits with loans, seminars and technical assistance. She also sits on the Board of the LI Community Foundation.

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The grocery business, which his father would have preferred him joining for a livelihood, was not an option for Monet.

He pursued his passion for art, was determined and persistent in becoming an accomplished artist, and did accomplish that goal. In 1918, Monet donated twelve of his paintings to France.

“Monet found subjects in his immediate surroundings, as he painted the people and places he knew best.” The technique that he mastered was known as “en plein air,” which meant a technique for painting, done outdoors. He also did a series of paintings that proved how the effects of various lighting would change the way a subject appeared.

Claude Oscar Monet created magnificent pieces of art, which depicted scenes of outdoors, like gardens and landscapes.

Among his well-known pieces, which I find quite impressive are those titled: Camille Monet at her Tapestry Loom, Camille Monet on a Garden Bench, Claude Monet-Mouth of the Seine, Horse, Impression, Jean La Promenade, Monet on His Hobby, Pheasant, Poppies Blooming, Portrait With A Beret, Springtime, Sunrise, San Giorgio Maggiore at Dusk, The Artist’s house at Argenteuil, The Boat Studio, The Luncheon, The Woman in the Green Dress, Water Lilies, Waterlily Pond, Wild Poppies, Women in a Garden and Train in the Snow. These paintings can be found in art museums in the United States and all around the globe.

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Super Special!

12oz

Kosher Diapers

11.5oz

.99

2/ 3

$

$

Vanilla Sugar

All Hod Lavan Freshly Sliced

1.99

$

Today!

Come in for a

Live Demonstration

5.99Lb

Green Zucchini

.79Lb

5lb Bag

Checked Vegetables In Our Produce Department

Thursday Nov. 6 $ 4:00pm - 6:00pm 7.99

Checked By Our Rabbi On Premises

1.79

$

Meat Dept.

Super Family Pack

Chicken Legs

Chicken Bones

Cholent Meat

Flanken

1.99Lb

$

Wednesday Special Super Family Pack

Chicken Legs

Cold Cuts $

#56

12oz

Deli Dept.

Thursdays Only

.99

6oz

2/$3

$

Lollypops

.89

1.99

1.49Lb

$

4.49Lb

$

7.99Lb

$

1.79Lb

$

Sale valid 11/07/13 thru 11/13/13. Cash & Carry only. We reserve the right to limit quanitities on sale items. Not responsible for typographical errors. While supplies last.

ORDERS CAN BE EMAILED, FAXED, OR CALLED IN 1913 Cornaga Ave. • Far Rockaway • T. 718.471.7555 • F. 718.471.9102 • E. Kosherworldorders@yahoo.com

FREE PARKING • FREE DELIVERY • FRIENDLY SERVICE • CURVE SERVICE Store hours: Sun 8-8 • Mon. - Tue. 7-8 • Wed. 7-10 • Thu. 7-12 • Fri. 7-1 1/2 Hours Before Shabbos

N O V E M B E R 7 , 2013

Cucumbers In Brine

.79Lb

Golden Delicious Apples

2/$5 Large

7.99 Case

Nice

2/$1 Tomato Sauce

.69

Fruits & Vegetables

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Grocery Section

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