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t was 50 years ago this week when Apollo 11 lifted off and eventually landed on the moon. I was not alive at the time, but I am sure that every American was glued to their television sets during those eight days and held their collective breath until the astronauts safely splashed into the Pacific Ocean. Most people nowadays can tell you who the first person to step onto the moon was. (It was Neil Armstrong, in case you momentarily just had a lapse of memory.) And most people can name the second person to walk the lunar surface (Edwin “Buzz” Aldrin, ibid). But few people know who Michael Collins is. See? You probably can’t recall why Collins was important to the Apollo 11 mission. Well, Collins was also on the Apollo 11 mission but he never walked on the moon. Instead, during the time Armstrong and Aldrin were on the moon conducting experiments and gathering samples, Collins was manning the command module Columbia, orbiting the moon. As such, Collins was just as integral to the Apollo 11 mission as his counterparts, but he was working in the background ensuring that the Columbia was being maintained and preparing the cabin for Armstrong’s and Aldrin’s return. Collins’ role during the mission reminded me that there are times in life when we come to a situation and we’re about to do something but we’re held back from accomplishing it – and for good reason. Perhaps you’re about to bake cookies for a friend who just had a baby but realize that your children need your attention and that you won’t have time. Or maybe

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Contents LETTERS TO THE EDITOR

COMMUNITY 8

Readers’ Poll Community Happenings

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NEWS

Global

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Odd-but-True Stories

ISRAEL Israel News

Read the Signs by Rafi Sackville

JEWISH THOUGHT Rabbi Wein

Toras Moshe vs. Toras Bilaam by Rav Moshe Weinberger

Parsha in Four by Eytan Kobre

PEOPLE The Wandering Jew

From Rose Bowl to Rashi: A Unique Journey to Judaism

Landing on the Moon by Avi Heiligman

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HEALTH & FITNESS When You Have 31 Different Diagnoses by Dr. Deb Hirschhorn

The Soy Story by Cindy Weinberger, MS RD CDN

FOOD & LEISURE The Aussie Gourmet: Shakshuka

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A Taste of Simply Gourmet

Dear Editor, I was in 7-11 today with the rest of the world to pick up my free Slurpee, of course. When I got to the front of the line by the machines the (Jewish) man in front of me starting taking a flavor I didn’t see on the new Star-K list. I told him so and he checked his Star-K app and found a similar name by a different company. I would guess he was not the first nor the last person to make that mistake. The mistake was not that he confused the two flavors; the mistake is that nobody is even looking or checking if anything is kosher, assuming all Slurpee flavors are kosher. All the flavors seem innocent and fine. To be more specific, at the 7-11 by Peninsula and Rockaway Turnpike, the blueberry lemonade is kosher if it’s Fanta or Jones 7 select brand but this one says 7-11 brand. (Is Jones 7 select the 7-11 brand?) Sour Patch Kids Orange is not on the list but watermelon (by Jones 7 select) is kosher. Also listed under Dr Pepper is Sour Patch Kids, so I don’t know if that means all flavors or not. There used to be a list hanging from the machines but it’s now just one page with a few flavors. Please do your research before buying. A Reader

Dear Editor, Your article in the July 11, 2019 issue, titled, “From Shah to Sanctions,” was excellently written and informative. I’d like to make one point. When the Shah was in power, and riots were rocking the Iranian nation, many Americans – including Senator Ted Kennedy – supported overthrowing the Shah and bringing in Khomeini to lead the country. True, the Shah was not perfect but under the Shah women received rights, education was encouraged, and business flourished. The American media also demonized the Shah, despite him being an ally of the United States and being a foe of communism. Sadly, it’s perhaps because of people like Ted Kennedy – who was extremely vocal about his disdain for the Shah – that the Shah was ultimately weakened and Khomeini strengthened. Did Ted Kennedy feel any bit of remorse when Khomeini stepped onto Iranian soil and declared his hatred of all things un-Islamic? Could Kennedy have partly (indirectly) been responsible for the 53 Americans being held hostage by Iran in 1979? This should have been a lesson to politicians. Although you may Continued on page 10

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not like or appreciate the leaders in charge of other countries, beware of who will come in to fill the void left from their absence. Think: Gaddafi in Libya and Saddam Hussein in Iraq. Those who don’t learn from history are doomed to repeat it. Sincerely, Abie Gutner Dear Editor, I don’t find your news story about a tomato being sold at a restaurant for $24 to be odd. A restaurant can charge whatever they want for a dish – or for a vegetable. What’s odd are the people who are shelling out the big bucks for it. Cynthia Goodman Dear Editor, The article in your World Builders column this week about the infant being locked in the car in Israel just brought home the lesson for us

all: please be careful with your children and locked cars, especially in the summer! We can never be too careful with our precious children. If you ever find your child locked in a car, immediately call the police and Hatzalah and try to smash the window (on the other side from where the infant is sitting) of the car to get some air immediately to your child. It’s a life and death situation in which seconds really do count. Let’s all be safe this summer! Ariella T. Dear Editor, I love when you put in the camp interviews in the summer. Even though I ask my kids time and time again about what happened in camp each day, I don’t get to hear or see the full picture. Your feature brings home the camp experience so I can relate and join in their excitement in the summer. Keep you the excellent work! Amy Garfinkel

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The Week In News

China’s Economy Slumps to Lowest Rate in 27 Years

Newly released data shows that China’s economic production has slumped to its lowest level in 27 years amid fallout from its trade war with the United States. According to a report by China’s National Bureau of Statistics (NBS), the world’s second largest economy

continues to slide, with the slump particularly pronounced in the manufacturing and production industries. Overall, Chinese industrial production – a number measuring the total production of a slew of sectors such as mining and manufacturing – grew by only 5% in May, a 5.4% drop from April and below the 5.5% predicted by economists. The lackluster numbers were China’s worst since the dismal 2.7% growth it saw in February 2002. Meanwhile, both Chinese exports and imports continued their six-month slide, with exports falling by 1.3% for the first half of the year while imports plummeted by 7.3%. In addition, exports to the United States have slid by 8.1% since January while imports plummeted by 30%. More ominously for China, the National Bureau of Statistics warned of further “downward pressure” in the second half of the year and noted that the economic spiral is not expected to ease up soon. “The Chinese economy is still in a complex and grave situation,” it said. “Global growth has slowed and external uncertainties are on the rise.” The effected industries heavily

rely on exports to the United States, making them particularly vulnerable to tariffs imposed by President Donald Trump on Chinese goods. Trump has shown no sign that he will relax the tariffs on China until Beijing agrees to stop stealing U.S. technology and devaluing its currency.

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a “technical snag was observed in launch vehicle system.” “As a measure of abundant precaution, #Chandrayaan2 launch has been called off for today,” tweeted the Indian Space Research Organisation (ISRO). “Revised launch date will be announced later.” It is not known what technical difficulties delayed the launch or when the next scheduled liftoff will occur. The spacecraft had been slated to lift off on Monday at 02:51 local time from Sriharikota space station. The liftoff had been postponed several times in the past 17 months for a variety of reasons. The original launch date had been in April 2018 before being pushed to the beginning of October, with another delay sending the launch date to January. After another slew of mishaps, Indian space officials set the final date to the now-delayed July 15. The program that aims to land a probe on the moon’s surface is the biggest challenge the Indian Space Agency has ever faced. With two previous satellites failing to launch in recent years and a $142 million price tag, Indian space officials have refused to take any risks that might doom the spacecraft’s flight.

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sent shockwaves throughout the UK political scene, as Labour had been embroiled in a slew of scandals in recent years regarding the party’s treatment of Jews. British Foreign Secretary Jeremy Hunt, who is battling Boris Johnson for the leadership of the Conservative Party, said that Corbyn was “either voluntarily blind to anti-Semitism or an anti-Semite himself.”

Russia Launches New Telescope into Space

Following a multi-day delay, over the weekend, Russia launched a highly advanced telescope into space that aims to be the country’s first telescope to orbit the Earth since the fall of the Soviet Union. The Proton-M rocket can be seen in videos shooting off from its launch pad in the cosmodrome in Baikonur, Kazakhstan. The spacecraft had originally been slated to take off on June 21 but was delayed due to a battery issue. The Spektr-RG space telescope was launched to replace a similar design that broke off contact with Russian ground control earlier this year. The telescope is supposed to reach its pre-programmed position in 90 days, after which it will be used for a series of advanced experiments. Among other things, Russian scientists aim to conduct a complete survey of the sky within the next six years, making it the world’s first space telescope to accomplish this feat. Russia’s Space Agency said in a statement that the launch “marks the beginning of a new era in X-ray astronomy. No telescope has ever taken such a detailed look at the entire sky.” A smaller telescope attached to Spektr-RG named the eROSITA will be used to map more than 100,000 galaxy clusters as part of a study of the universe’s dark energy.

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Pirates Take 10 Turks Hostage

Ten Turkish sailors have been kidnapped by gunmen off the coast of Nigeria in what is presumed to be a hostage situation for ransom. Shipping company Kadioglu Denizcilik said that the sailors were attacked over the weekend by “pirates” while heading from Cameroon to the Ivory Coast, in which the Turkish-flagged Paksoy-2 cargo ship was posted in the Gulf of Guinea without any freight on board. Turkey’s foreign ministry said the sailors were taken hostage Saturday evening as the vessel carried 18 Turkish crew members at the time of the attack. Turkish television news channel NTV said the pirates approached the ship on speed boats

before seizing the sailors. The remaining eight crew members were rescued and taken to Ghana, the ministry stated, and the missing crew members have not been heard from since. “According to initial information, there were no injuries or casualties,” the shipping company said. “Efforts for all our personnel to be safely released continue.” The International Maritime Bureau (IMB) describes the Gulf of Guinea as the most dangerous area in the world for shipping – 73% of all sea kidnappings and 92% of hostage cases occur in the area with pirates regularly seizing sailors for ransom. In the first half of 2019, armed pirates kidnapped 27 mariners, and of nine vessels attacked across the world, eight were off the coast of Nigeria. However, Nigeria reported 14 attacks at sea in the first quarter of 2019 compared to 22 at roughly the same time the year prior. An IMB report in April credited the decrease in attacks to Nigeria’s navy ramping up its efforts to “actively respond to reported incidents by dispatching patrol boats.”

“unsurprising but hardly justifiable.” He said his group and others will appeal in hopes of bringing Traore to trial. Traore could be hospitalized for treatment of his psychotic lapses or made to attend a drug rehabilitation program, or he could be released. Khalifat’s op-ed published on Monday on the CRIF website follows a series of protests over perceived delays in Traore’s trial and the efforts, including by judges, that CRIF and others have condemned as attempts to prevent a murder trial. Sammy Ghozlan, a former police commissioner and founder of France’s Bureau for Vigilance Against Anti-Semitism, told the Jewish Telegraphic Agency in May that the handling of the Halimi case has made him “no longer have full confidence that anti-Semitic hate crimes in France are handled properly.” Traore pummeled Halimi, a physician and kindergarten teacher, for an hour as police stood outside the woman’s door, according to reports. He shouted about Allah and called her a “demon” before throwing her to her death. Traore had called Halimi’s daughter “dirty Jewess” two years before killing Sarah.

French Judge Lets Killer off the Hook

A Muslim man who killed his Jewish neighbor in Paris while shouting about Allah is probably not criminally responsible for his actions because he had smoked marijuana beforehand, a French judge ruled. The preliminary ruling in the trial of Kobili Traore for the 2017 murder of Sarah Halimi came on Friday from a judge of inquiry — a magistrate that in the French justice system is tasked with deciding whether indicted defendants should, in fact, stand trial. Francis Khalifat, the president of the CRIF umbrella group of French Jewish communities, called the ruling

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week in what many see as a warning to the U.S. over a massive weapons sale to the island nation. China’s Ministry of Defense said in a statement that the drills took place “in the water and air space including China’s southeast coastal areas in recent days.” Both Taiwan and China attempted to downplay the hostile nature of the exercise, with China saying that the “the drills are routine arrangements according to the annual plans of the military force.” However, Chinese military officials told the Global Times that the exercises included all five branches of the military and were designed to warn “Taiwan secessionists.” The drill also comes amid a strong protest by China over a massive U.S. arms sale to Taiwan that was recently announced. China and Taiwan have been locked in a state of war ever since the Chinese civil war ended in 1949, with China claiming that the island nation remains an integral part of its territory. The U.S. State Department announced in early July that it had approved a new $2.2 billion weapons deal to Taiwan, infuriating the Chinese government. The deal includes 108 Abrams tanks, 250 Stinger shoulder-launched missiles, and other weapons. Following the announcement, China called on the United States to “immediately cancel” the weapons deal and said that the sale “grossly interferes in China’s internal affairs and undermines China’s sovereignty and security interests.”

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bloodshed since the Iranian-linked Houthi insurgents overthrew the Yemeni government in 2014. With hundreds of thousands of Yemeni civilians killed, the civil war in Yemen is seen by many as the worst human rights disaster today. According to reports by the UN World Food Program, 15 million Yemeni civilians currently suffer from a “food catastrophe,” with the figure expected to rise to 20 million if the blockade is not lifted imminently.

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in the Red Sea off the coast of Yemen under the auspices of the United Nations. The irregular choice for the meeting was chosen after both sides refused to meet each other on Yemeni soil. The talks centered around the scheduled redeployment from the Yemeni port city of Hodeidah. The result of painstaking negotiations in

December, the agreement mandates both the government and the rebel Houthis to take their forces out of the city. The withdrawal was originally slated to occur two weeks after the ceasefire took effect in December, but that deadline was missed amid accusations of unfilled agreements from both sides.

In May, the UN confirmed that the Houthi rebels had left Hodeidah and two other nearby ports in what is the first time the agreements have been implemented. However, the Yemeni government says that the Houthis faked the pullout and merely handed control over to its affiliated militias. Yemen has been ripped apart by

International Atomic Energy Agency (IAEA) inspectors have found evidence of radioactive activity in the Tehran warehouse exposed by Prime Minister Benjamin Netanyahu at the United Nations last year. During his address to the UN’s General Assembly last September, Netanyahu had held up pictures of the warehouse in Iran he alleged had previously housed 15 kilograms of enriched uranium that Iran had hid from the International Atomic Energy Agency. According to Netanyahu, the site is one of many that the Islamic Republic had utilized to fool nuclear inspectors, adding that Iran had since cleared the site of any incriminating evidence. Iran had hotly denied the accusations and claimed that the warehouse was a facility for manufacturing carpets. Yet the findings by IAEA inspectors confirm that Netanyahu had been speaking the truth. As per Israel’s Channel 13, UN inspectors visited the site several times, with the most recent visit occurring in March, and found traces of radioactive materials. In a report set to be released soon, inspectors wrote that they have a “definitive conclusion” that

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“there were traces of radioactive material at the site in question.” The report will be distributed to the international community within the near future and will highlight Iran’s illicit nuclear activity. The report added that Israel has been working in tandem with the UN on the matter. Senior Israeli intelligence officials have known of the breakthrough for months. The news that Iran had indeed been storing enriched uranium is the strongest proof so far that the Islamic Republic had never intended to keep to the terms of the 2015 Iran nuclear deal. Under the accords, Iran was supposed to inform the UN of any stockpiles of nuclear material it possessed and allow the international community to conducts frequent inspections.

Worldwide, one in six adults – and one in three children – is multidimensionally poor. Nearly half of poverty-stricken individuals are children, the vast majority of whom reside in South Asia or Sub-Saharan Africa. “To fight poverty, one needs to know where poor people live,” said UN Development Programme (UNDP) Administrator Achim Steiner. “They are not evenly spread across a country, not even within a household.”

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UN: 271 Million Indians Out of Poverty in 10 Years

According to a United Nations report, 271 million people were lifted out of poverty in India between 2006 and 2016. The country experienced substantial improvements in domains including “assets, cooking fuel, sanitation, and nutrition,” the report said. There were 101 countries studied in the 2019 Multidimensional Poverty Index, and the results found 1.3 billion people to be “multidimensionally poor,” or poverty-stricken in more ways than simply income. For instance, poor quality of work, poor health, and threat of violence were also included as factors. Ten countries were found to have reached statistically significant progress towards Sustainable Development Goal 1, or ending poverty “in all its forms, everywhere.” Aside from India, these countries were Bangladesh, Cambodia, Democratic Republic of Congo, Ethiopia, Haiti, Nigeria, Pakistan, Peru, and Vietnam.

Britain said that it will agree to release an Iranian oil tanker it has been holding if the Islamic Republic promises that the ship will not defy sanctions by traveling to Syria. British Foreign Secretary Jeremy Hunt said that the UK’s offer came following a conversation on Saturday with Iranian Foreign Minister Javad Zarif regarding the issue. “I reassured him our concern was the destination not the origin of the oil,” tweeted Hunt. Hunt added that the UK would facilitate the release of the ship “if we received guarantees that it would not be going to Syria, following due process.” Tensions between Britain and Iran have escalated ever since the former seized an Iranian oil tanker last week off the coast of Gibraltar. UK officials said that the ship was transporting 2.1 million barrels of light crude oil to Syria in defiance of U.S. sanctions. Calling the decision to seize the ship “an act of piracy,” Iran threatened to take over a British ship in retaliation. “This is a dangerous game and has implications,” said the Iranian Foreign Ministry. “The legal arguments are unacceptable, and the release of the tanker is in the best interests of all the countries involved.”

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Killers of IDF Soldier Sentenced

The two terrorists convicted of murdering Sergeant Yanai Weissman in a 2016 attack were sentenced last week to 35 and 32 years in prison. The sentences came after an IDF military court found the two terrorists guilty of intentionally causing death, the military equivalent of pre-meditated murder. In addition to the lengthy prison terms, the two

were also ordered to pay NIS 2.5 million in damages to Weissman’s family. The prison sentence is seen as a blow to military prosecutors, who had lobbied the judge to deliver life sentences. However, the request was denied by the judge on the grounds that both perpetrators had been minors when carrying out the attack. The terrorists had infiltrated the Rami Levi supermarket in the Binyamin region, a well-known shopping center that caters to both Jews and Palestinians, in February 2016. After succeeding in smuggling three knives through security, the 14-yearold murderers began stabbing customers while screaming Palestinian nationalist slogans. Weissman, a married off-duty soldier serving as a commander in the Nahal Brigade, had heard the commotion and ran to confront the terrorists. Following an extended fistfight, Weissman was killed after being stabbed repeatedly in the upper body. He left behind a wife and a young child. Weissman was later awarded a posthumous citation from the IDF Central Command for his heroics, as his decision to take on the terrorists singlehandedly stopped them from

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Israel’s Foreign Ministry Turns Against its Own Government

The veteran diplomats at Israel’s Foreign Ministry are gearing up for a major campaign against a hostile gov-

ernment. Unlike previous efforts, this campaign isn’t targeting an anti-Israel European country or a biased United Nations resolution. This time, the men and women are battling Israel for the chronic lack of funds that diplomats say has caused the Foreign Ministry to hit rock bottom. As of the past month, the Foreign Ministry workers’ union has declared war on the Israeli government. Demanding an emergency infusion of cash, employees have embarked on a series of steps designed to make matters as unpleasant as possible for elected officials until their demands are met. The sanctions include shutting its consular service that provides visas and emergency passports to Israelis stranded overseas and refraining from assisting government officials in planning trips abroad. The Foreign Ministry has also halted all permits it gives to weapons sales, costing the country’s powerful arms manufacturers millions of dollars in lost contracts. The union plans on inconveniencing the highest levels of the country and has even refused to help Prime Minister Netanyahu coordinate his

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Hamas Official: Kill Jews Everywhere

A senior Hamas official on Monday attempted to walk back his call for members of the Palestinian diaspora to kill Jews around the world, as the terrorist group distanced itself from his remarks.

In a statement posted on the terror group’s website, attempting to “clarify” his earlier statement, Fathi Hammad said he supports “Hamas’s consistent, adopted policy of limiting its resistance to the Zionist occupation that usurps Palestine’s land and defiles its holy sites.” He added: “Our resistance to this usurping entity will continue in all of its forms whether that is armed or popular peaceful struggle.” Hammad, a Hamas politburo member considered a hardliner and known for his fiery rhetoric, made the original inflammatory remarks in a speech at a protest in the border region between the Gaza Strip and Israel on Friday. “Our patience has run out. We are on the verge of exploding. If this siege is not undone, we will explode in the face of our enemies, with G-d’s permission and glory,” Hammad said, referring to Israeli restrictions on the movement of people and goods between Israel and Gaza. “The explosion is not only going to be in Gaza, but also in the [West] Bank and abroad, if G-d wills. “But our brothers [in the diaspora] are still preparing. They are trying to prepare. They are warming up. A long time has passed with them warming up. All of you 7 million Palestinians abroad, enough of the warming up. You have Jews everywhere and we must attack every Jew on the globe by way of slaughter and killing, if G-d permits. Enough of the warming up,” he added. Hamas, which is sworn to Israel’s destruction, said on Monday that Hammad’s comments did not represent its official policy, amid a flurry of condemnations, including by a top

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Israel has reportedly told the Hamas terror group that it would agree to transfer medications into Gaza if a ceasefire between the two sides holds. According to Hani al-Thawabata, a senior official in the Popular Front for the Liberation of Palestine (PFLP), Israel informed Hamas via Egyptian intermediaries that it is prepared to grant the group a slew of benefits in exchange for quiet. The potential benefits include sending medicines to the Gaza Strip and raising the number of Gazans permitted to enter Israel for medical care. In addition, Israel also promised to return fishing boats confiscated by the IDF for straying beyond the permitted area, providing new boats and facilities in compensation to Gaza fishermen, and increasing the number of work permits for Gazans from 3,500 to 5,000. Thawabata added that Israel would allow more daily shipments into Gaza and would put additional items on the list of things allowed into the Gaza Strip. Israel’s offer came after the border

heated up in recent days after several weeks of quiet. Last week, a rocket exploded in the Eshkol Regional Council, causing no injuries. Hundreds of airborne incendiary firebombs also landed in Israeli communities bordering the Gaza Strip, burning agricultural fields and causing hundreds of thousands of shekels in economic damage. On Friday, 6,500 demonstrators rioted on the Gaza border after an IDF sniper mistakenly killed a Hamas police officer the day before. During the demonstrations, an IDF soldier was injured when his jeep went up in flames after being hit by a firebomb.

Yachimovich Quits Politics

Top Labor Party MK Shelly Yachimovich announced this week that she was quitting politics, at least for the time being, and would not run for office in the upcoming September elections. Yachimovich wrote on Facebook on Tuesday that she was “taking a break” after 13 years as a Knesset member, explaining that “at least for the time being, I’ve exhausted my effectiveness in politics.” Yachimovich, a former journalist who served as the leader of the Labor Party between 2011-2013 and as leader of the opposition in 2012, 2013, and 2019, said her decision was part of “an ongoing personal process.” Yachimovich said she was “grateful for the opportunity to serve the public” and “never stopped loving parliamentary work,” but added that she was “very tired of the politics part.” In her statement, the former Labor leader lamented the political gamesmanship that she said was paralyzing the country. With the nation holding an unprecedented two elections in a year, meaningful parliamentary work for the citizenry had become impossible for the foreseeable future, she said. “There must be a balance between [politics] and public service,” she added. “This balance has been upended intolerably.” Yachimovich was originally

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into the Knesset. (Peretz, who came in sixth place, was bumped to the No. 1 spot after winning the leadership race.) Yachimovich’s departure follows those of Avi Gabbay, the former leader of the party ousted in the primary held earlier this month, and former army general Tal Russo, who was brought in by Gabbay to the slate’s No. 2 spot, reserved for an appointment by the party chief. Yachimovich had supported leadership of the now-disgraced Gabbay, who in April brought the Labor Party to its worst-ever showing with just six seats.

When the Lights Went Out on Broadway Over 72,000 New Yorkers were left without power after a sudden

ic, the blackout occurred exactly 42 years after the infamous outage in 1977 that led to widespread looting and rioting. Con Edison has come under criticism for the power failure, which only grew after it admitted that it has been unable to pinpoint the cause. The power company said in a statement that it “will be conducting a diligent and vigorous investigation to determine the root cause of the incident.” “Over the next several days and weeks, our engineers and planners will carefully examine the data and equipment performance relating to this event, and will share our findings with regulators and the public.” On Monday, Timothy Cawley, president of Con Edison, said that the 13,000-volt cable that burnt up at West 64 Street and West End Avenue led to a series of failures in the electric system. At least two parts of the system failed to operate properly and corral the outages. As such, large parts of the city lost power. Cawley called the sequence of failures “extremely unique” and said that he had never “experienced a case like this.”

power outage on Saturday evening left large swaths of Manhattan in the dark. The power outage began at 7 p.m. on Saturday after six electrical networks that serve the Upper West Side blew out. Lasting until midnight, the blackout caused widespread mayhem and left people stuck in traffic, trapped in elevators, and caused the evacuation of Madison Square Garden.

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Former Supreme Court Justice John Paul Stevens died in Florida on Tuesday. He was 99 years old. “On behalf of the Court and retired Justices, I am saddened to report that our colleague Justice John Paul Stevens has passed away,” Chief Justice John Roberts said in a statement. “A son of the Midwest heartland and a veteran of World War II, Justice Stevens devoted his long life to public service, including 35 years on the Supreme Court. He brought to our bench an inimitable blend of kindness, humility, wisdom, and independence. His unrelenting commitment to justice has left us a better nation.” Raised to the Supreme Court in 1975 by President Gerald Ford, Stevens became an outspoken critic of President George W. Bush’s efforts at Guantanamo. After the September 11, 2001 terror attacks, the Bush administration argued that enemy combatants held at the off-shore prison were not entitled to access to U.S. courts because they were not U.S. citizens and they were not being held on American soil. Stevens disagreed. In the 2004 case Rasul v. Bush, he wrote the majority opinion ruling that prisoners at Guantanamo had the right to challenge the legality of their imprisonment before a U.S. court. Two years later, Stevens wrote the majority opinion in Hamdan v. Rumsfeld, which ruled that the military commission system set up under Bush violated U.S. and international law. Prisoners at Guantanamo, Stevens held, were protected by a provision in the Geneva Conventions entitling them to “a regularly constituted court affording all the judicial guarantees which are recognized as indispensable by civilized people.” Stevens claimed that he never really considered himself to be left-leaning. Instead, he insisted that the Supreme Court became more conservative during his nearly 35

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with the majority in Regents of the University of California v. Bakke to rule that the use of racial quotas in a medical school admissions program was unconstitutional. But he joined the majority in the 2003 ruling Grutter v. Bollinger, which upheld the affirmative action program at the University of Michigan Law School. Stevens also wrote a strongly worded dissent in Bush v. Gore, the

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is perfectly clear. It is the Nation’s confidence in the judge as an impartial guardian of the rule of law.” Stevens was born in 1920 to a wealthy family in the Hyde Park neighborhood of Chicago. His father, grandfather and uncle were all arrested on embezzlement charges in 1933. His uncle killed himself before a trial, and his father was convicted and then acquitted on an appeal to the Illinois Supreme Court. Stevens would later say that his father’s wrongful conviction taught him that the legal system can make mistakes ― something he would keep in mind as a judge. In 1941, Stevens graduated Phi Beta Kappa from the University of Chicago, where he played tennis ― he continued to play into his 90s ― and worked on the school’s newspaper, The Daily Maroon. He then joined the Navy, serving as a codebreaker and earning a Bronze Star. After the war, he attended Northwestern Law School, where he graduated with the highest GPA in the law school’s history at that time. He clerked for Supreme Court Justice Wiley Rutledge for a year. Stevens then returned to Chicago to practice antitrust law. He would

also teach law at Northwestern and the University of Chicago before President Richard Nixon nominated him to the U.S. Court of Appeals for the 7th Circuit in 1970. Stevens served on that court until 1975, when Ford picked him for the Supreme Court. On the court, Stevens had a reputation for being a collegial, courteous consensus-builder ― and for wearing a bowtie. Instead of interrupting lawyers during oral argument to ask questions, as is the custom among other justices, Stevens would say, “May I ask you a question?” He retired from the court at the age of 90.

Democratic Party Civil War Escalates The generational power struggle roiling the Democratic Party exploded into public view last week after Congresswoman Alexandria Ocasio-Cortez suggested that House Speaker Nancy Pelosi was racist. The fetid feud began after Pelosi

criticized the radical left-wing Cortez, also known as AOC, in an interview with The New York Times. AOC and Pelosi have butted heads repeatedly ever since the former was elected to Congress in November due to the her refusal to heed Pelosi’s authority.

“All these people have their public whatever and their Twitter world,” said Pelosi, referring to AOC, Rep. Ayanna Pressley (D-Mass.), Rep. Ilhan Omar (D-Minn.), and Rep. Rashida Tlaib (D-Mich.) “But they didn’t have any following. They’re four people, and that’s how many votes they got.” AOC responded by suggested that Pelosi was “singling her out” due to the color of her skin. “But the persistent singling out…it got to a point where it was just outright disrespectful…the explicit singling out of newly elected women of color,” Ocasio-Cortez said. Matters continued to deteriorate from there. On Friday, the House Democratic Caucus’s Twitter account condemned AOC’s chief of staff for accusing Native American Congresswoman Rep. Sharice Davids (D-Kan) of racism. “Keep Her Name Out Of Your Mouth,” wrote the House Democrats. A few days later, Pelosi laid into AOC at a meeting of House Democrats over her habit of calling out fellow Democrats for being insufficiently progressive. “You got a complaint? You come and talk to me about it,” Pelosi told the legislators. “But do not tweet about our members and expect us to think that that is just OK.”

away this week in his home in Chevy Chase, Maryland. He had died only a week before his 79th birthday. Talisman had been a fierce advocate for the rights of Jews living behind the Iron Curtain to emigrate and practice their religion freely. Serving as a senior aid to Democratic Congressman Charles Vanik between 1963 and 1975, Talisman worked to tie U.S. trade policy to other nations’ human rights records. As the Soviet Union at the time was pressuring the U.S. to grant favored nation status to many eastern bloc nations, the move was designed to force the communist regime to relax its restrictions on Jewish emigration. Despite the fierce opposition by then-President Richard Nixon, Talisman pulled out all the stops to see both the House and the Senate pass the Jackson-Vanik amendment in 1974. The bill was officially signed into law by President Ford a year later. Russian officials later admitted that they viewed the passage of the legislation as a clear message by the United States that the freedoms afforded to Russian Jews was in the U.S.’s national interest. “While the amendment did little, initially, to help Soviet Jewry, by the late 1980s, Soviet leader Mikhail Gorbachev agreed to comply with its protocols,” Talisman later recalled. “Since then, hundreds of thousands of Soviet refugees (Jews, evangelical Christians and Catholics) have immigrated to the U.S., and more than one million Soviet Jews have immigrated to Israel. Soviet Jews, representing a fifth of all Israelis today, have markedly changed the face of the Jewish state.” Talisman went on to serve in a variety of leadership positions in the Jewish community, including forming the Washington Action Office for the Council of Jewish Federations of North America in 1975.

Champion of Soviet Jewry Dies Trump Drops Citizenship Question on Census Mark Talisman, a relentless advocate for Soviet Jewry, passed

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ly declared victory after the president backed down. “Trump’s attempt to weaponize the census ends not with a bang but a whimper,” exulted Dale Ho, who directs the ACLU’s Voting Rights Project. “He lost in the Supreme Court, which saw through his lie about needing the question for the Voting Rights Act. “It is clear he simply wanted to sow fear in immigrant communities and turbocharge Republican gerrymandering efforts by diluting the political influence of Latino communities.”

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“I am hereby ordering every department and agency in the federal government to provide the Department of Commerce with all requested records regarding the number of citizens and noncitizens in our country,” Trump said when announcing the policy shift at the White House. “They must furnish all legally accessible records in their possession immediately,” Trump continued. “We will utilize these vast federal databases to gain a full, complete and accurate count of the noncitizen population, including databases main-

tained by the Department of Homeland Security and the Social Security Administration.” Trump added that the new policy showed that he was “not backing down” in his crackdown on illegal immigration in the United States. Trump’s decision to drop the citizenship question on the census came after a lengthy battle with immigration advocates that wound its way through the courts. The Department of Commerce, which runs the census, had insisted that the contested question was needed in order to know the accurate number of U.S. citizens, something vital for drawing congressional districts. However, pro-immigration groups charged that the question would intimidate illegal immigrants from participating in the census out of fear of potential repercussions. Following a slew of lawsuits, Trump’s effort to keep the citizenship question was dealt a considerable setback when the Supreme Court ruled 5-4 against the administration earlier this month. The move to give up the citizenship question came as a surprise, as Trump was widely expected to restore the question via an Executive Order, and immigration rights groups quick-

Instead of using the census to determine the accurate number of illegal immigrants currently residing in the U.S., Trump said that he had ordered every government agency to provide any internal information regarding illegal immigrants they possess to the Department of Commerce.

A recent study published in the journal JAMA Pediatrics this week found that spending a lot of time on social media and watching television is linked to symptoms of depression in young people. For every additional hour spent watching TV, the severity of depressive symptoms they experience goes up. “To our knowledge, the present study is the first to present a developmental analysis of variations in depression and various types of screen time,” the researchers wrote. The study included 3,826 students in seventh to eleventh grade from 31 schools in the Montreal area in Canada. Between 2012 and 2018, the students were asked to complete surveys during class to assess their screen time behaviors and symptoms of depression. Screen time was measured by asking students how much time per day they spent playing video games, using social media, watching television and using a computer. Students who watched high levels of TV during the four years without an increase were associated with less depression. But with every one-hour increase in watching TV came an increase in the severity of their depres-

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sion symptoms. In terms of social media, high levels of computer use over the years were associated with increased depression. As computer use increased, though, their depression did not. “More research is needed to see whether there is a causal relationship between screen time and depression in young people. If there is, we need to know how this is happening and how to prevent depression in young people,” noted Dr. Michael Bloomfield, an excellence fellow and head of the Translational Psychiatry Research Group and consultant psychiatrist at University College London in the United Kingdom, who was not involved in the study. “Young peoples’ mental health is really important because adolescence is a time when our brains and our sense of self are developing. Therefore, having depression as a young person can have potentially serious implications for someone’s psychological and academic development which can have knock-on effects for mental health into adulthood,” Bloomfield said in a written statement distributed by the Science Media Centre in the UK. The American Academy of Pediatrics recommends that parents place consistent limits on how many hours per day their preteens or teens spend using screens.

No Fed’l Charges in Eric Garner Case

The Justice Department will not bring federal charges against any police officers involved in the death of Eric Garner, a 43-year-old black man whose takedown in New York in 2014 led to rallies against police officers around the nation. At a news conference on Tuesday, Gwen Carr said the Justice Department had “failed us,” and called on the New York City police commissioner to fire the officer who was caught on video wrapping his arm around Garner’s neck before he died. “Five years ago, my son said, ‘I

can’t breathe,’ 11 times, and today we can’t breathe, because they have let us down,” Carr said. Garner drew the attention of police for selling loose cigarettes. After he was wrestled to the ground, his gasps of “I can’t breathe” became a rallying cry for those advocating police reform. The case followed a lengthy and tortuous path through the Justice Department, staying alive as three attorneys general — Eric Holder, Loretta E. Lynch and Jeff Sessions — finished their terms without bringing it to a conclusion. Al Sharpton, who appeared with Garner’s family at a news conference after the meeting with prosecutors, said they were told Attorney General William P. Barr made the decision. The meeting came just a day before the five-year anniversary of Garner’s death, after which the statute of limitations would have prevented prosecutors from bringing certain charges. “Five years ago, Eric Garner was choked to death,” Sharpton said. “Today, the federal government choked lady justice.” From the outset, the Justice Department’s Civil Rights Division argued that charges were warranted, especially for New York City Police Officer Daniel Pantaleo, who was caught on video wrapping his arm around Garner’s neck during the takedown. But the FBI and federal prosecutors in New York were wary of bringing a case, and some of their skepticism was documented in internal records, potentially complicating a future trial, current and former law enforcement officials said. The chokehold that took down Garner lasted only seven seconds – not enough time, in the mind of prosecutors, to establish that the officers involved intended to harm him. The prosecutors decided they could not prove beyond a reasonable doubt that what Pantaleo did wasn’t a mistake, or poor judgment that did not rise to the level of a conscious decision to choke Garner, the senior official said. Pantaleo was put on desk duty and this summer went through an internal administrative process to determine what discipline he should face. Commissioner James P. O’Neill is expected to make a decision on Pantaleo’s future with the police department soon. The City of New York reached a civil settlement with Garner’s family in 2015 for $5.9 million.

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coastal city. Forecasters had warned that Hurricane Barry, which has since been downgraded to a tropical storm, would cause massive damage in New Orleans, prompting many to evacuate the city before the storm hit land. “The storm surge in the populated areas like New Orleans didn’t rise to the level to cause major problems,” acknowledged Louisiana Governor John Bel Edwards. “That being said, there was surge to 7 feet in a few areas, which was actually higher than forecast.” The governor also warned Louisiana residents not to let down their guard. “This storm still has a long way to go before it leaves the state,” Edwards said. “We still have a significant amount of rain coming our way.”

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The leaks came the same week two former officials from Rosselló’s administration were arrested by the FBI as part of a federal corruption investigation. Now, both civilians and politicians are calling for the governor’s resignation with protesters filling the street in front of the governor’s mansion in Old San Juan. The leaked chats reveal a vengeful approach in running the government, with conversations between Rosselló and his inner circle including sentiments against females and minorities. Other remarks disparage politicians and journalists. The governor has said that he will not answer the calls for his resignation. “Despite the difficulties that we have internal and external, the work will continue and the agenda will be completed in all areas, social, educational, safety, health, infrastructure, recovery and everything related to the financial situation that is a high priority among others,” he said. “You do not give up on work already started, and today, more than ever, a lot of people are counting on my commitment to do so.” If Rosselló were to resign, the law says the secretary of state, a post that is currently empty, is next in line to take the helm, followed by the island’s treasurer.

Eyes on Queens Recount This week, the recount of more than 90,000 votes cast in the Queens’ district attorney Democratic primary election began. Although it started on Monday morning, it’s expected to take quite some time to get through all the votes in the district. Last count showed that Melinda Katz earned 16 more votes than Tiffany Caban, a razor-thin margin.

More than 700 voting machines used in last month’s elections were opened. The paper ballots had been sorted last week.

This time around, there are three steps involved in counting the votes to ensure accuracy. The ballots are counted at one table; the votes are counted and recorded on a second table; the results are confirmed at a third time. Each table is manned by two employees of the Board of Elections and watched by two observers, one from each campaign. The count began with the election districts in eastern Queens, a stronghold for Katz. It will work its way around the county. “I caution all of you to wait until the end of the process,” Cabán’s chief lawyer, Jerry Goldfeder, said on Monday morning. “Until we have finished all 18 Assembly Districts, we will not know the result.” After the recount, any disputes that arise – including about ballots that were not completely filled out – will be brought before a special judge appointed for this election.

Holocaust Study Required in Oregon

Public schools in Oregon will now be required to teach students about the Holocaust, and other genocides throughout history, after the passage of a new bill signed into law by Governor Kate Brown on Monday. Claire Sarnowski, 14, of Lake Oswego, initially introduced the law she and 92-year-old Holocaust survivor Alter Wiener devised. Wiener, who died in December after being struck by a car, had developed a friendship with Sarnowski after the

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Schools will have to introduce Holocaust education beginning in the 2020-2021 school year. Schools are required to “prepare students to confront the immorality of the Holocaust, genocide, and other acts of mass violence and to reflect on the causes of related historical events” and encourage cultural diversity and emphasize the importance of protecting international human rights.

“Today more than ever, we need the learning opportunities that a bill like this will bring to our schools,” Brown said at a signing ceremony. The bill comes amid a recent poll in which two-thirds of American millennials surveyed could not identify what the Auschwitz concentration camp was, according to the Associated Press. Earlier this month, a Florida high

A much-discussed massive enforcement operation by the Immigration and Customs Enforcement (ICE) turned out to be significantly smaller than expected. President Donald Trump and other ICE officials had spoken of largescale raids all across the United States by federal agents who would target illegal immigrants slated to be deported. But by Sunday evening, immigration advocates said that there were little signs that the prom-

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ised raids were anything larger than a routine law enforcement operation. “It’s very quiet. Let’s hope it stays that way,” said Jose Mario Cabrera, a veteran immigration activist who directs the Coalition for Humane Immigrant Rights of Los Angeles. Cabrera told ABC that his organization had not received any calls regarding immigration sweeps by officials but said that the community of illegal immigrants remains on edge. “If the president wanted to hold communities hostage, he’s done a very good job,” Cabrera said. In the days leading up to Sunday, Trump had promised to send officials to major hubs of illegal immigration across the United States in order to nab the estimated 2,000 illegals who had already received final deportation orders. The majority of the effort was to concentrate on 10 major cities, including San Francisco, Los Angeles, Houston, Denver, Miami, New Orleans, New York, Baltimore, Chicago, and Atlanta. A similar raid had been slated to occur in June but was aborted at the last minute after a senior official in the Department of Homeland Security reportedly leaked the details to the press. Despite reports that the raids had been relatively minor, President Trump said that it was “a very successful day” and contended that hundreds of undocumented immigrants had been taken into custody. “People came into our country illegally,” Trump said at a White House press conference. “Many were felons. Many were convicted of crimes. Many, many were taken out on Sunday. You just didn’t know about it. “But you didn’t see a lot of it,” Trump added. “I’m not sure they should be telling you, but it was a lot.”

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An official in the Trump administration confirmed that the summit had been canceled and said that it was “being rescheduled,” adding that the United States “will continue to work with the government of Guatemala on concrete and immediate steps that can be taken to address the ongoing migration crisis.” Morales’ decision to cancel the meeting came after the country’s

Constitutional Court ruled in favor of a lawsuit against an agreement that would require migrants from Honduras and El Salvador to apply for asylum first in Guatemala before continuing on to the United States. According to the court, Morales lacked the authority to ratify the accord without first obtaining the approval of Congress. “Due to speculation and legal pro-

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ceedings admitted for processing to the Constitutional Court, a decision was made to reschedule the bilateral meeting until we know what was resolved by the court,” Morales said in a statement. The president also denied that such an agreement was ever in the offing, saying that “that at no moment has it contemplated signing an agreement to convert Guatemala into a safe third country.” The legislation in question would prevent migrants from appealing for asylum in the U.S. after passing through Guatemala, removing a powerful legal tool illegal immigrants often use to prevent forced deportations. As undocumented immigrants with pending asylum requests cannot be deported from the U.S. until the appeal is processed, something that often takes years, law enforcement is often helpless to remove said migrants from the streets. The agreement has been in the works for months and has been spearheaded by Acting Homeland Security Secretary Kevin McAleenan. Last month, Trump tweeted that Guatemala was “getting ready to sign a Safe-Third Agreement.”

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Baby Steps

Earlier this month, 25 toddlers were racing towards the finish line. No, they weren’t making a beeline for cheerios or crackers. These babies were participants in Lithuania’s annual baby race. Each baby crawled approximately 16.4-feet in the contest that’s been taking place for the past 20 years. There’s a lot of competition amongst the kids – aged 7 months to one year. Parents on the sidelines encouraged – and bribed – the tots with treats, toys and balloons. Most babies stayed on the track. Others, distracted by the cheering crowd, let their minds and legs wander. Ignas Dovydaitis won the grand prize. He will be turning one in two weeks. After a long day at the track, Ignas came home and hit the bottle.

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A thief in Connecticut used a lifesaving device to steal people’s life savings. Joshua Moore was arrested last week and charged with third-degree burglary, third-degree larceny and first-degree criminal mischief. Moore had been using a “Jaws of Life” hydraulic tool to break into ATMs across the state, making off with a whopping $300,000 in cash. The tool is primarily used by law enforcement and firefighters to extricate victims from cars or places where they are locked in.

This week, Guinness World Records awarded the street Ffordd Pen Llech (say that ten times fast) in North Wales the distinction of being the steepest street in the world. According to Guinness, the seaside town of Harlech has a gradient of 37.45 percent – two percentage points steeper than Baldwin Street in Dunedin, New Zealand, which held

the record for more than a decade. “The record is measured based on the steepest (highest gradient) section over a 10 m distance. If the average steepness is taken, you could have a road where one section is extremely steep and the rest is flat, which is not a fair assessment,” according to Guinness World Records. “The gradient is measured by taking the 10 m stretch road and dividing it by how much it rises/falls over the 10 m distance.” The Welsh campaign was led by businessman and architectural historian Gwyn Headley, who said he feels “jubilation” now that the street has been recognized. “I feel sorry for the New Zealanders, but steeper is steeper,” Headley said on Tuesday. In New Zealand, locals on the now-second steepest street expressed dismay over losing the title. The town council says it is now considering referring to the street in New Zealand as the “southern hemisphere’s steepest street.” Sounds trailblazing to me.

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Seventy-five years ago, Betty June Sissom lost her wallet. Betty June is now 89 years old and her wallet has now been found. Truthfully, she never lost it. It was stolen from her and then hidden in the walls of her high school. Recently, Seth Baltzell, whose church is moving into the building of the old Centralia High School in Illinois, said that construction crews found a stash of 15 wallets from the mid-1940s stuffed into a heating vent inside the school. The cash from the wallets is all gone, although the thief left the photos and information inside the wallets. After posting a photo of the wallets and the names of people who owned them, people started stepping up to connect the stolen wallets to their owners. Betty June’s family contacted Baltzell. Betty June recalled, “I remember it was red and I remember I lost my wallet...I can’t believe this from all these years ago.” She marveled at the photos she had in the wallet which included friends of hers. Reconnecting with her old possession was “unbelievable,” she said. “This is exciting,” she told KSDK-TV. “I can’t believe after all of these years.”

In the mood of a cup of tea on a Sunday afternoon? It may cost you. The Rubens at The Palace hotel in London is now serving a tea blend for a whopping £500 ($620) per pot – which comes out to be around $200 per cup of tea. Produced in the highlands of Sri Lanka, Golden Tips is hand-picked by expert tea-pluckers and sundried on a velvet cloth, which turns the buds from silver to gold. Described as “an extraordinary liquor and a smooth, light and mellow texture, with hints of fruity notes,” Golden Tips was sourced in collaboration with specialist tea merchants PMD Tea. The pricey tea is only available at The Rubens, where diners can sip it while overlooking The Royal Mews at Buckingham Palace. Tea so special that it’s more expensive than caviar comes with a special ceremony. Gold tweezers are used to pick up the tea leaves and

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Awesome Day at Gesher Century Challenge Stage 2

ow in its fourth year, the Gesher Century Challenge bike ride has become a favorite among riders. As in the past, the GCC has two components. The first ride, held on June 30, was in conjunction with the Nassau to Suffolk Bicycle Challenge, coordinated by the Kiwanis Club of Long Island. Stage 2 of GCC4 was held this past Sunday, July 14, and was in conjunction with the Gold Coast Tour and was coordinated by the Huntington Bike Club. It was an absolutely beautiful Sunday and the riders took advantage of the choice

of 25-, 55-, and 70- and the century 100-mile trails. While many of their friends were doing visiting day activities, the Gesher riders were out to beat the heat in support of a worthwhile cause. Stage 2 also has a 12mile family ride, and seven members of Team Gesher enjoyed that route. Special mention to Yosef Frishman, Dovy Newman, Chaya Sarah Weinreb, and Avigail Weinreb. Sporting their sharply designed jerseys, Team Gesher members enjoyed the great weather, the scenic routes, and the kosher food

before and after the ride and at all of the rest stops. The GCC coordinators express their appreciation of the SAG support throughout

the ride. Gesher is very grateful to its event sponsors: Sunharbor Manor, Fruit Platters and More, Tikva Security,

Alpert and Associates Financial, Russo’s Pharmacy, and Gourmet Glatt. Plans are already underway for an even better GCC5.

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Training Ground’s Full Program of Men’s Fitness

ehuda is a busy man. Between a demanding job, a growing family and community commitments, he doesn’t have much free time. When he first heard that Training Ground, a unique small-group training gym in Far Rockaway, launched a men’s program, he didn’t pay much attention. “I’d love to get in shape and lose these extra 20 pounds, but I’m just too busy,” he thought. A few weeks later, Yehuda found himself out of breath while playing catch with his son, and he realized that it was time to start taking better care of himself. Yehuda downloaded the TRAINING GROUND app and signed up for the next morning’s class. “When I walked in, I was greeted by AY Krohn, Training Ground’s very personable

head male coach. He greeted me with a smile and assured me that I’d be able to do things at a comfortable pace and he’d keep his eye on me. I left that first class feeling empowered and motivated. It was even fun and I surprised myself at what I could do! “Since then, I’ve been attending classes two to three times per week, and I notice a real difference in my life. I have more energy, I am leaner and stronger, and I’ve noticed that I’m more conscious about eating healthier, too. I feel more productive and I’m proud that I’m doing the right thing and taking care of my health. Even my wife has commented about the positive change in my mood and energy levels. “Initially, I didn’t know how I was going to fit this into my busy life. At this point, I

don’t know how I survived without Training Ground.” AY couldn’t be more thrilled. “My goal for the TG men’s program is to help guys of all ages and fitness backgrounds achieve results in a fun and effective way, in a setting that they feel comfortable in. “Our classes are for all levels. We have guys who are very new to this in the same class as some serious fitness junkies. We will push you to work hard, at whatever level you’re at. “I want our members to have a great time. Our classes are high energy and creative. They’re filled with interesting exercises that effectively help people function better in everyday life. We use sandbags, battle ropes, TRX, kettlebells, slamballs… the list goes on! I’m always throwing in something new. Ephraim [Seif, who leads the POWER x STRENGTH classes] focuses on explosive cardio circuits, plyometric drills, strength intervals and core training. If you’ve been around the fitness block, you’ll find our sessions to be innovative and challenging. “I love to see our guys pushing themselves each workout, whether that’s through using heavier weights, doing more reps or

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just pushing harder. It’s the best feeling when they finish the class, drop to the floor with smiles on their faces as they catch their breath and say, ‘Wow, that was awesome!’” Tania Weissman, founder of Training Ground, chimes in, “We pride ourselves in taking into account our members’ entire experience.” “Our studio is clean, comfortable and private, stocked with the latest state-of-theart equipment. The music we play is free of expletives and inappropriate innuendo. We keep our class sizes small to

facilitate proper coaching. TG’s trainers are attentive to form and to the quality of movement to keep everyone safe. “Our hope is that our men’s program will create a movement in which wellness becomes the norm in our community.” To check out TRAINING GROUND’s schedule of classes for men or women, and to sign up, visit traininggroundny.com or download the TRAINING GROUND app.

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Al Haderech Max

eek 2 of Al Haderech Max was fantastic! The girls explored Virginia’s Shenandoah Valley. They walked through beautiful caverns, weaved through a garden maze, saw a minor league baseball game, went to Ripley’s Believe it or Not, went bowling, roller skating, rock climbing, etc. at Ozzy’s Fun Center and did so much more. We even celebrated two birthdays! Of course, we snuck in a little education at the Albert Einstein Memorial. Can the next overnight top this one? We’ll have to wait and see...

Local Educator Attends Harvard’s Principals’ Seminar The AVI CHAI Foundation Sponsors Rabbi Aaron Fleksher for Summer Program

abbi Aaron Fleksher, Director of Educational Technology and rebbe at DRS Yeshi-

va High School, has just returned from Cambridge, MA, where he participated in Improving Schools:

The Art of Leadership, a seminar at the Harvard Graduate School of Education’s Principals’ Center for emerging leaders. This weeklong institute is part of a larger, yearlong program to enable day school leaders to improve their schools, with special focus on their Jewish mission and vision, sponsored and facilitated by the AVI CHAI Foundation. The AVI CHAI Foundation, a New York-based private foundation dedicated to promoting Jewish commitment, sponsored Rabbi Fleksher and fifteen other eligible day school leaders to attend the seminar to help address the professional development of day school leaders with a particular emphasis on their role in promoting the Jewish mission of their schools. Participants attended lectures and discussion groups led by Harvard faculty, educational consultants and school practitioners. The program focuses on the challenges facing new school leaders and supports participants as they develop skills for leadership. Rigorous study is combined with writing, reflection and peer interaction, allowing participants to identify priorities and share ideas and solutions. In addition, they attended AVI CHAI sessions, facilitated by

Jonathan Cannon, former head of the Charles E. Smith Jewish Day School in Rockville, MD, applying what was learned at Harvard to the Jewish purpose of their schools. “It was a wonderful experience for me,” said Rabbi Fleksher. “At Harvard, I attended lively, thought provoking sessions exploring the components of what makes a good school. We learned how to enhance the quality of the school experience for everyone – students, teachers and administrators alike. The AVI CHAI sessions for principals of Jewish day schools allowed us the chance to discuss those issues close to our heart – creating the most effective atmosphere for the Jewish and general education of our children. I am looking forward to bringing these new skills back to DRS.” Mem Bernstein, chairman of AVI CHAI’s Board of Trustees, says, “Strong instructional leadership is critical to achieving AVI CHAI’s goal of enhancing the Jewish education provided by day schools. Through these institutes we aim to provide Jewish day school leaders with an intensive opportunity to reflect on school leadership with leading academics and with practitioners from across North America.”

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Fun on the Field and Off Grounds at Machaneh Hakayitz This Week

CHAZAQ’s Groundbreaking Shidduch Initiative By Shabsie Saphirstein

re you struggling with finding your bashert? Can you use a bit of guidance during the course of dating? CHAZAQ’s monumental Shidduch Initiative is the answer to your struggles. Join singles, parents and the community at-large for a spectacular gathering of tefillos and learn relevant yeshuos. The solutions exist, and they are literally at your fingertips. All participants will leave with an array of tools to successfully navigate and expand their network throughout the entire shidduch process. Maran HaRav Chaim Kanievsky, shlit”a, is the most sought after

gadol for brachos in our generation. We will have the unique privilege to hear words of chizuk from his renowned son-in-law, Harav Yitzchok Kolodetsky, shlit”a, whose wife Rebbetzin Leah Kolodetsky continues in her mother’s, Rebbetzin Batsheva Kanievsky, a”h, legacy of chessed. Harav Kolodetsky is recognized in communities across the United States for his unique capabilities in shidduchim. To this end, the CHAZAQ Organization was honored with a beautiful memorandum from HaRav Kolodetsky with a haskama on behalf of his father-in-law blessing CHAZAQ with their efforts on this specific undertaking. This powerful gathering will feature a keynote address by world-re-

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nowned lecturer, author and mohel Rabbi Paysach J. Krohn who is regarded for his exceptional dedication and involvement in the area of shidduchim. From Modern Orthodox to yeshivish; Sephardic to Ashkenazic all segments of the community are urged to partake in this transcending display of unity and interacting. An informational session will follow where attendees will gain necessary tools to navigate and expand their network for prospective matches. There will an opportunity to meet a slew of Torah-based prominent shidduch resources for individual guidance that have long been inaccessible to various sectors of the public. All aspects of the dating process will be touched upon from how to get set up, conduct oneself and continue through the course of dating. When going on a date, one is encouraged to laugh, learn, be inspired and be uplifted. In dating, we often take leaps of faith that give us insurmountable courage. However,

we must always remain steadfast knowing that we do not play G-d. As Rabbi Dr. Jack Cohen noted at a recent CHAZAQ lecture, “It is simply our obligation to settle for what Hashem has destined.” He continued with a few wonderful points: do not make unrealistic demands or snap to judge, as we must give one another the same opportunities that we would expect for ourselves. We should always maintain a friendly demeanor and remain receptive and open-minded to the views of the other. This will inevitably lead to finding a partner who loves and appreciates you for who you are and who shares your hopes and dreams. The term shidduch crisis has long loomed throughout Jewish homes. Together as a community, we will ensure this is an idiom of yesteryear. For more information on the Shidduch Initiative and for sponsorship opportunities please contact Odeleya Jacobs: Shidduch@Chazaq.org or call 718.285.9132.

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OU Leaders Meet with Prime Minister Netanyahu

OU EVP Allen Fagin is the left of Netanyahu. OU President Moishe Bane is on the right of the prime minister

rthodox Union leaders from throughout the United States and Canada recently met with Israeli Prime Minister Benjamin Netanyahu and discussed the need to increase and expand initiatives focused on Diaspora Jewish education and identity. The prime minister, while agreeing that more should be done, did tell the group of American Jewish leaders that he has had the Government of Israel invest tens of millions of dollars in these programs already, but he agreed this priority deserved more funding. “It is time that instead of Israel receiving from the Diaspora, we are giving now. We are increasing tens of millions of dollars, but it is not enough, we need to do more,” said the prime minister. “I was very much encouraged by the Prime Minister’s commitment to Jewish students in the diaspora. We

look forward to continuing to partner with him and the State of Israel to expose all Jews to their heritage,” said OU President Moishe Bane following the meeting. OU Executive Vice President Allen Fagin said following the meeting, “We were delighted to have the opportunity to explain to the Prime Minister how youth and adult programming around greater exposure to Israel increases their Jewish identity and their attachment to the State of Israel.” The OU leadership group was in Israel for an annual celebration with all participants of its summer programs in Israel, a number that this year reaches 3,000. The record summer attendance, and the fact that the OU has become one of the largest operators of first-time group travel to Israel by young adults from North America, validates the need for more funding to support these programs.

CHAVA/A TIME Women’s Event

n a recent trip out of town, Brany Rosen, founder of A TIME and director of its member services, met seven women who wanted to show her pictures of the children they were blessed to have with help from A TIME. A TIME was founded more than 25 years ago to help couples struggling with infertility navigate through the maze of doctors and treatments and to provide emotional support. That expertise found a new niche a number of years ago when the helpline team realized they were getting many requests for referrals relating to reproductive health – staining, fibroids, kallah issues, fertility preservation, pelvic pain etc., And so, CHAVA was launched and its helpline answers questions about women’s reproductive health.

Recently the CHAVA/A TIME staff has gone on the road and visited cities like Cleveland, Miami Beach, Passaic, Chicago and Denver, giving women a chance to come out and ask the questions they may not have even realized they could ask. On Tuesday, July 23, CHAVA/A TIME will be hosting an event in the Five Towns featuring a panel that includes Dr. Heather Applebaum, MD, OB-GYN Associate Professor of Obstetrics and Gynecology, Hofstra North Shore-LIJ School of Medicine; Aliza Beer, MS, RD, CDN, a wellknown nutritionist; and Brany Rosen. Women of all ages are invited to attend this very informative seminar at 8 p.m. at Congregation Shaaray Tefila, 25 Central Avenue in Lawrence. For more information, call 718686-8912

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The Workshop People Remember When It Matters Most By Avital Levin, LMSW

ecently, at a Shalom Task Force educational workshop that I gave at a college, a student asked: “How does someone know how to have a healthy relationship?” This seemingly simple question caused me to take a step back; do we assume that students will automatically know how to have healthy relationships? At day schools and yeshivas, we provide years of sophisticated curricula in scholastic subjects like math, history, Tanach, and Gemara. We know students cannot intuitively learn this information, so we teach them. How can we assume our children will naturally know how to sustain healthy and safe relationships — and avoid abusive ones?

Who is affected? According to data from Center for Disease Control and Prevention’s NISV Survey, about 1 in 4 women and nearly 1 in 10 men have experienced violence and/or stalking by an intimate partner during their lifetime. When you picture one of these women or men, who do you have in mind? How do we understand these numbers? We all want to rationalize why someone is a victim, because it makes us feel protected. The reality is, anyone can become a victim of abuse. Through Shalom Task Force’s direct contact with domestic violence survivors who have been assisted by the hotline, education and/or legal department, we recognize the valuable opportunity for prevention. When reflecting on the progression of their abusive relationships, most survivors shared that there were red flags present during the dating or engagement stages, but they did not know how to identify it as abuse at the time. Or, if they did, they did not know where to turn. They were not aware of what to look for such as patterns of power and control, red flags and fear. They didn’t have the language to describe their feelings and concerns about what they were experiencing.

School-based staff training given by Shalom Task Force

How do we promote safety? Through our educational programs, we provide this critical framework. We teach students what to look for when building healthy relationships and what to look out for when encountering abusive ones. We teach all of this because when it comes to the lives and futures of our children, making assumptions is just too dangerous. In addition to the entire segment of the population who, without awareness, may be at risk of falling into abusive relationships, there is another group for whom this education is essential. For the student who comes from an abusive or dysfunctional home, what expectations do we have for their learning about healthy relationships? Is it from the modeling they witness at home? Where one parent constantly yells and curses at the other? Where everyone tiptoes around the mood of a parent? How do they learn how to have a healthy relationship and acquire the skills that are needed? Who receives our educational workshops? Shalom Task Force introduced these skills to 3,402 students in the 2018-2019 school year. 1,952 high-school students, 1,287 gap year students, and 163 college students attended Shalom Task Force edu-

cational workshops to gain critical skills around domestic violence and sexual assault awareness, safe dating, and healthy relationships. When schools take pause from regularly scheduled programming to allot 90 minutes for the highly interactive, multimedia Shalom Task Force workshop, they send a critical message to students: “Building safe and healthy relationships is important and valued and here’s a forum to address your safety and well-being in relationships.” This year, 34 schools did just that. We encourage all schools in every community to join us in our mission. For all students, this message is appreciated. For students who are living in a home where there is abuse, this message may be the most impactful, comforting, and inspiring one they will ever receive during their years of schooling. It is one that acknowledges their experience, lets them know they are not alone, and offers them support. Students express these sentiments in written evaluation surveys or when shared with the presenter after the workshop: “This is exactly what goes on in my home. My parents’ relationship is abusive. Nobody knows. Everyone thinks my family is perfect. I was abused.” Participants are given the Shalom Task Force Confidential Hotline number and are directed to school-based staff to receive vital support.

Do people remember this workshop? This is the class that hundreds of callers to our Shalom Task Force Confidential Hotline refer to when encountering red flags in a dating situation or marriage. They call our hotline sometimes 3, 4, even 5 years after taking a workshop and state: “I remember learning something about experiencing constant fear in the relationship and I’m going through that now. Something happened on a date that reminded me of the red flags that we learned. I remember being told to trust my gut. Can you help me figure out if this sounds healthy?” Students remember our class at a time when they need it most. Our referrals help our callers gain access to vital resources including legal assistance, counseling, and safe shelters. How do we build a safer community? While the first Shalom Task Force workshops given are in high school, the educational classes, trainings, workshops, and conferences offered by our educational department extend well beyond those years. Trainings for communal leaders, school-based staff, and mental-health professionals are provided to hundreds of adults each year, maximizing the impact of wraparound community support. Parents, lay-leaders, and the gener-

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al public receive a myriad of learning opportunities to increase their knowledge of domestic violence, access resources, and learn how to support victims. In 2018-2019, 1,120 adults were reached through these high-impact educational programs. What is our message? At a training that I recently gave to Jewish communal leaders, an individual approached me and shared that he had grown up witnessing abuse at home and spent his childhood attempting to protect his mother from his father’s violence. One area where his father wielded total control was in all aspects of his wife’s religious life. He barraged her with insults and constant putdowns about her religious practices. He sabotaged her ability to keep halacha, distorted Torah passages and compromised Shabbos and yom tov experiences through heightened aggression and violence. The man expressed that he intentionally chose this profession in honor of his mother’s legacy. He wished to elevate the soul of his mother who on her deathbed had shared regrets with him, one of which was never having been able to live the religious life that she dreamed of due to her

experience as a domestic violence victim. He expressed his gratitude to Shalom Task Force for providing workshops to students. “As a child I would have felt deep comfort and clarity knowing that I was not the only one going through this,” he said. What’s more, he encouraged me to spread his message and story. “Keep teaching people about what abuse is and how to get help. For the memory of my mother who was a victim but was also the strongest person I have ever met.” Help us continue to expand these vital educational programs. To request a high-school workshop, host a program at a college campus, or bring a program to your community, contact Avitalslevin@shalomtaskforce.org. Please join us for our annual Spin to Win Ping Pong Tournament and Barbecue benefitting our education department on July 22 in Woodmere, NY. To register and for more information, please visit www. shalomtaskforce.org. Avital Levin, LMSW is the director of education at Shalom Task Force.

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Camp Shira’s EXTREME Summer

amp Shira Extreme, the oldest division in Camp Shira, has had an amazing start to the summer. Led by Mrs. Chavsie Friedman, Shira Extreme is its own unique division for girls entering 6th and 7th grade. It is designed as a small, special division where the girls get personalized attention. The trips are unique and handpicked to be different from the other divisions while still having amazing camp achdus and ruach! This half has already been packed with amazing activities and trips. The most memorable trip was the major late-night trip to Clementon Park and Splash World in Clementon, New Jersey. Some other amazing Extreme division trips

included kayaking, rock climbing, Escape the Room, bowling, a scavenger hunt, and so much more. The Extreme Division also has special and unique in-camp activities for just them. The girls are becoming professional needle-pointers, bakers, jewelry makers, and go-karters while also enjoying the fun factor specialty, water park, and so much more. The laughter and smiles on the girls’ faces shows how much fun they are having. To top things off, the amazing camp song keeps the girls moving and grooving from when they get off the bus until they board it again. Shira Extreme has truly provided an EXTREME summer so far!

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Take a Tour Behind Camp Atara’s Doors

ehind Door #211 at Camp Atara there is a room which looks like every child’s dream! This room has so many different art supplies from: stickers, to tapes, to glitter, to glues, to paints, to whole punchers-to colored pa-

pers, to tracers, to tissue paper in every shape and size! In this specialty, every camper creates their very own scrapbook of their summer memories in Camp Atara! Twice a week the campers create two pages in their scrapbook and insert pictures

of their bunk that were taken by our professional photographer so they can truly cherish every moment they shared together this summer. Behind Door #209 the Camp Atara preschoolers are opening the door to an enriching and fun sum-

mer. They have a new program, “language arts,” where they develop language and art fun. Each week they listen to a story, then complement it with a sensory art activity.

Swim @ Hillel Day Camp

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program at Hillel, served as Lifeguards- In-Trainings and now are trained and certified lifeguards and WSIs. Much of the success of the program is the continued education that the lifeguards themselves must participate in. The aquatics director

runs in-service training for the staff 4 days a week to ensure that the high standards set at the Hillel pools are maintained. Lifeguards must practice their swimming skills, teaching skills and rescue skills including reviewing preventative tactics as well as CPR and first aid training. The in-service training also includes many team building exercises. This ensures that Hillel swimmers are safe and learning. In fact, even the youngest campers in the toddler group are given specific lifeguards to serve as their instructors so that they can begin to learn the skills of the American Red Cross preschool aquatics program. This aquatic education continues to develop as campers progress through the various levels of preschool swim and then through the learn to swim levels. (The daytime swim program is so popular that many campers continue their swimming after camp hours

with their favorite instructors during private lessons.) According to Sima Fish, aquatics director, “The campers who participate in the swim program are improving tremendously. Many of these campers will likely develop into lifeguards and swim instructors one day as well.” Dori Schiowitz, a camp mom and morah, commented, “My own kids and my camp ‘kids’ are so excited to come down to the three beautiful pools. They live for swimming!” In addition to the regular daily lessons and free swim time, the Hillel program also includes “Fun Fridays” where swimmers compete in water sports – everything from water polo to races to diving events. So much more fun is expected this summer as we get ready for the dash and splash, the swim-a-thon, and other exciting events.

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Is Amex Membership Rewards Points Dominance Over?

eginning September 2019, it may be time to start looking at new points programs. Here’s why. Historically, the high value of Amex Membership Rewards points (MR) was based on their ability to be transferable into a variety of frequent flyer programs and MR points could be transferred to an account in any person’s name, not just the credit card holder. Some time ago, Amex changed the process for transferring MR points and only allowed transfers into frequent flyer accounts where the member was an authorized user on the Amex credit card account. Amex will be adding a new restriction very soon, which will make it more difficult to transfer the points to someone else’s frequent flyer account, which will therefore potentially impact their overall value. Effective September 1, cardmembers will be required to add the recipient of your points as an additional cardmember on your credit card account and then will need to wait 90 days before cardmembers can transfer MR points to the new frequent flyer accounts. Here’s how Amex describes what they’re changing: We are changing the Membership Rewards Terms and Conditions to provide that an Additional Card must be issued to an Additional Card Member at least 90 days prior to linking your Membership Rewards program account to that Additional Card Member’s frequent customer program account. Additionally, effective immediately, employee on business credit card account cannot have their own MR account. All points will be pooled into one MR account of the primary card holder. If you currently have a separate MR account for your employee card, these will be discontinued on Sept. 28. What’s does this mean for me? The changes that will take affect September 1 and those that have already been implemented will continue to reduce the overall value of Amex points. These changes will make it much more difficult

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France Preparing for Torah Revolution as Dirshu World Siyum Approaches HaGaon HaRav Chizkiyahu Mishkovsky, Shlita, Heads Dirshu Chizuk Delegation to Promote Daf HaYomi Learning in France By Chaim Gold

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e felt the tremendous thirst for Torah and for the dvar Hashem wherever we went in France. The way thousands hung on to every world spoken by HaGaon HaRav Chizkiyahu Mishkovsky, shlita, and the enthusiasm to incorporate more kevius ittim l’Torah into their lives is one of the remarkable transformations that French Jewry is undergoing,” said Rav Shlomo Rozenstein, Dirshu’s director of public relations. As the Daf HaYomi Siyum on Talmud Bavli approaches, Dirshu, the Torah organization whose raison d’etre is to promote limud haTorah the world over, has undertaken to

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Dirshu France has observed how over the past few years lomdei Dirshu in France have increased exponentially. The upcoming massive Siyum HaShas that Dirshu will be holding at a super-large venue in downtown Paris will certainly spur tremendous enthusiasm for limud haTorah. Dirshu is set to capitalize on that effort by expanding Daf HaYomi shiurim in hundreds of shuls throughout France. Letters from HaGaonim HaRav Gershon Edelstein, Shlita and HaRav Chaim Kanievsky, Shlita The two senior gedolim from Bnei Brak, Hagaon HaRav Gershon Edelstein, shlita, Rosh Yeshiva of the Ponovezh Yeshiva, and the Sar HaTorah, HaGaon HaRav Chaim Kanievsky, shlita, each wrote separate letters addressed to French Jewry expressing their admiration and bracha for the tremendous efforts that Dirshu is investing to promote more and more Torah learning and shiurim in France. Rav Edelstein writes, “It is a tremendous zechus to set aside time for daily Torah learning as after a person passes away he will be asked, ‘Did you set aside time to learn Torah?’ “How wonderful it is that Dirshu, led by Rav Dovid Hosftedter, shlita, works to strengthen this important

area! Now as the Daf HaYomi Siyum HaShas approaches, they have increased their efforts to establish shiurim all over the country and bring Torah to the wider public.” Rav Edelstein then went on to give his heartfelt bracha to all involved. Indeed, as the siyum approaches, it is only natural that Dirshu, which has been very active in France for more than a decade, establishing shiurim and testing sites both in Daf HaYomi Bavli and also the Daf HaYomi B’Halacha daily Mishnah Berurah learning program, should step in and promote Torah learning on a massive scale in France. In the past, Dirshu has brought in HaGaon HaRav Shalom Cohen, shlita, Rosh Yeshiva of Yeshiva Porat Yosef, and the great mashpia, HaGaon HaRav Moshe Shapiro, zt”l, for chizuk journeys for French Jewry. Last week, Dirshu continued this mesorah with a tremendously successful chizuk trip to France headed by Rav Chizkiyahu Yosef Mishkovsky, shlita, Mashgiach of Yeshiva Orchos Torah and a talmid muvhak of HaGaon HaRav Aharon Yehuda Leib Shteinman, zt”l. Deficiencies in Kavod HaTorah Rectified Through Increased Kavod HaTorah! During the two-day marathon, Rav Mishkovsky spoke multiple times at yeshivos, shuls and other chizuk gatherings. His primary focus was on speaking to current maggidei shiur as well as prospective maggidei shiur about the tremendous opportunity to spread Torah to the masses through Daf HaYomi shiurim, explaining that Dirshu was willing to invest a tremendous amount of effort to promote and encourage the establishment of shiurim in every shul in France. At a gathering for mechanchim and mechanchos held in the Paris suburb of Raincy at Yeshiva Chazon Baruch, led by Rav Yehuda Toledano, Rav Mishkovsky said, “700 years ago on erev Shabbos Parshas Chu-

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Around the Community kas, the Magen Avrohom describes how 24 wagons full of Gemaros were taken out to the main square in Paris and burned. The sages of that time instituted that erev Shabbos Parshas Chukas should be a fast day for individuals. “The Mahari Brunah, one of the early Acharonim, writes that the reason such a horrible gezeirah of burning the Talmud occurred was because at that time French Jewry did not display the requisite kavod haTorah for the Rambam because they burned his sefer Moreh Nevuchim.” Rav Mishkovsky became emotional and exclaimed, “Chazal tell us that Hashem burned the Bais Hamikdosh with fire and He is destined to rebuild the third Bais Hamikdosh with fire too! The way to fix deficiencies in kavod haTorah is to increase kavod haTorah and learning Torah. Look at what Rav Yochanan ben Zakai did when he told the Roman emperor, ‘Grant me Yavneh and its chachomim.’ He saved the Torah, and he saved the entire generation. You Yidden in France have the power to follow in Rav Yochanan ben Zakai’s footsteps and save the

entire galus of France by promoting shiurim in Daf HaYomi in every shul and encouraging Yidden to learn Torah daily. You can establish Torah and kavod haTorah in an unprecedented way!” Every Kehillah to Establish Daf HaYomi Shiurim Another highlight of the trip was the visit made by senior members of Dirshu’s hanhalah together with Rav Mishkovsky to Le Dome De Paris, site of the upcoming Dirshu Daf HaYomi siyum. The Center is the biggest indoor venue in Paris and French Jewry is expected to come en masse to attend the unprecedented demonstration of kavod haTorah and kavod for lomdei Torah that will be held there on 15 Teves/January 12. An important component of the journey was also the effort to reach all kehillos in France. Rav Mishkovsky met with HaRav Yitzchak Michel Gugenheim, chief rabbi of Paris. The chief rabbi has appointed two representatives from each of the disparate major kehillos as his personal emissaries to promote shiurim throughout the country.

Rabbi Avigdor Bernstein, a senior member of Dirshu’s hanhalah who was one of the organizers of the chizuk journey, expressed his awe, “I was simply overwhelmed by the level of enthusiasm that permeated French Jewry. Wherever Rav Mishkovsky went, crowds of people flocked to hear him. French Jewry collectively has a special place in their hearts for the memory of HaGaon HaRav Aharon Leib Shteinman, zt”l, who came to France a few times in his advanced old age to give chizuk to French Jewry. The fact that Rav Mishkovsky is a close talmid of Rav Shteinman had the Yidden in France hanging on to his every word. “A recent amazing development clearly shows how excited French Jewry is about the upcoming siyum. An entire network of local sefarim stores has announced that the Shabbos preceding the siyum will officially be called Shabbos Daf Yomi. They have asked the public to sign up to learn a daf or two of Gemara on that Shabbos so that an additional, collective siyum on the entire Shas would be able to be held

in conjunction with the Daf HaYomi Siyum Hashas. The seforim stores have pledged to gift every participant with a sefer.” The renaissance of Torah in France can be seen with a peek into the thriving yeshivos that have been established there. Rav Mishkowsky gave a powerful shmuess at the Yeshiva led by Rav Mordechai Rottenberg, shlita, Rov Agudas Hakehilot Haredim, Paris, and a chizuk drasha for over thirty Daf Yomi maggidei shiur at Mosdos Yad Mordechai, led by Rav Yitzchok Katz. Perhaps the words penned by Rav Chaim Kanievsky in a letter to French Jewry best encapsulate the importance of the Torah revolution taking place in France, “The hands of the activists of Dirshu led by Rav Dovid Hofstedter should be strengthened at the gathering of Daf Yomi maggidei shiur, led by Hagaon HaTzadik Rav Chizkiyahu Mishkovsky, shlita, in the city of the Baalei Tosafos - Paris…. May the zechus of the Baalei Tosafos, who illuminated Paris with their Torah and yirah, ensure that Torah should not be forgotten in Yisrael….”

Finding Your Inner Power with Rabbi Yossi Bensoussan

es, this a bit unconventional, but let’s go with it for a mere moment. Take a breather, lay back, and close your eyes. Think of a remarkable accomplishment where you can truly give yourself a pat on the back. Now, reflect on just one small manner where you may want to improve. That’s it! Getting to this point means you are ready to step aboard CHAZAQ’s Finding Your Inner Power Summer Tour 5779 with Rabbi Yossi Bensoussan. The Three Weeks begin this Sunday, July 21 on the Seventeenth of Tammuz fast. The Bein HaMetzarim, translated as “between the straits,” refers to a time where the Jewish nation is just that – lingering in peril. As a unity, we have the customs of maintaining a mourning period that commemorates the ultimate unfathomable destruction of both the first and second Bati Hamikdash, first by the Nevuchadnezzar II and later by the Romans. To this end, the CHAZAQ orga-

nization listened to the persistent behest of Mrs. Daphne Zeruvabeli of Great Neck, NY, and arranged a week of pure simplistic inspiration by a man of awesome stature, Rabbi Yossi Bensoussan. The Queens community at large will have the honor to hear the first of Rabbi Bensoussan’s penetrating words, entitled Hunger Games, this Sunday afternoon, July 21, at 4:30 p.m. at the Agudath Israel of Kew Gardens Hills located inside the Yeshiva of Central Queens, 147-37 70th Road, Flushing, NY 11367, as the ninth of 15 lives lecturers giving classes during CHAZAQ’s Shiva Asar B’Tamuz Marathon. Classes begin at 12:30 p.m. and continue throughout the day until Maariv. Well over a decade ago, Rabbi Yossi Bensoussan began his tireless work for the klal educating teenagers from all backgrounds. Rabbi Yossi brings a warm, friendly laugh alongside a respectable laidback demeanor giving down-to-earth meaning to his electri-

fying and empowering teachings. Notably, Rabbi Bensoussan speaks and gives counsel on issues ranging the gamut of teenagers in general and specifically with regard to substance abuse also helping to co-found the Second Chance Initiative for providing parents and schools with solutions to address young adult dependencies. Sunday evening at 7 p.m. the Five Towns community will host Rabbi Bensoussan at Congregation Shaare Emunah, 539 Oakland Avenue, Cedarhurst, NY 11516: Shiva Asar B’Tamuz: Break the Fast, Break Your Limits. Monday night at 8:15 p.m., Great Neck’s Ahavat Shalom Synagogue, 130 Cutter Mill Rd., Great Neck, NY 11021, will hear how G-d Runs the World, But I Run My Life. Emet Outreach will join in welcoming Rabbi Yossi back to Queens 8:15 p.m. on Tuesday at the Beth Gavriel Community Center, 66-35 108th Street in Forest Hills, NY for Pray to Fail. We encourage everyone

to spread the word to their friends and family. Lose Yourself to Find Yourself is Wednesday’s theme at Yeshiva Ohr Yitzchak, 1214 East 15th Street, Brooklyn, NY 11230, 8 p.m. For the past number of months CHAZAQ has joined forces with the Thursday Night Shiur and E Copier Solutions at Bais Medrash Netzach Yisrael, 49 Forshay Road in Monsey, NY. Every Thursday night at 9:20 p.m., acclaimed speakers deliver powerful uplifting tales of innovation. Rabbi Bensoussan will meld the ambiance of cholent and kugel with Who Are We without Our Stories. Sponsorship opportunities for this tour are still available. To bring Rabbi Yossi to your camp, shul or community please dial 718.285.9132 or send a note to Events@CHAZAQ.org. For more information on CHAZAQ’s life-changing work in your community and beyond, visit www. CHAZAQ.org.

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FINAL STRETCH

HELP BRING THIS BEAUTIFUL BASTION OF CHINUCH TO THE FINISH LINE

BUILDING

CA M PA I G N

An opportunity for partnership!

This is a historic opportunity to partner

with Siach Yitzchak and earn a share in its perpetual impact on the future of Klal Yisroel!

For 38 years, Siach Yitzchok, under the leadership of its dedicated Menahel, Rav Dovid Sitnick, has been a dynamic chinuch anchor of our community. The Yeshiva’s pioneering chinuch achievements are part of the beautiful spectrum of the Five Towns/Far Rockaway community’s essence and identity.

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to all the generous friends of Siach Yitzchok and community patrons for making our

such a success! Thank you for your commitment that will help us bring our new building to the finish line!

Dedication Opportunities

Main Lobby .......................................................... $180,000

B”M Bookcases (18) .......................... 1 Reserved $7,200

Roof-Top Play Area ......................................... $180,000

B”M Windows (12) .............................. 8 Reserved $5,400

Bais HaMedrash Entrance ............................... $100,000

Classroom Windows (18) ...................................... $3,600

Library .............................................,,,. Reserved $100,000

Classroom Cubbies (18) .................... 2 Reserved $2,500

Cheshek Shlomo Building Dedication ........ $2,000,000

Aron Kodesh .................................... Reserved $100,000

Set of Table & 4 Chairs in BM (50) .. 1 Reserved $1,800

Early Childhood Learning Dedication ...... $1,000,000

Mizrach Wall ....................................... Reserved $72,000

Mezuzos(50) ....................................... 6 Reserved $1,800

Bais HaMedrash Name ................... Reserved $360,000

Classrooms (18) ............................... 9 Reserved $50,000

Classroom Clocks (18) ...................... 4 Reserved $1,000

Main Entrance ................................ Reserved $360,000

OT/PT Rooms (6) ......................... 4 Reserved $25,000

Building Cornerstone .................... Reserved $360,000

Classroom Furnishings (18) ............................. $18,000

Dining Hall / Auditorium .................................. $360,000

Dinsmore Entrance Mezuzah ............................. $18,000

Harav Shlomo Freifeld zt”l Memorial Wall ...... $250,000

Mezuza at each Floor’s Entranceway (5) ............. $10,000

Gymnasium .......................................................... $250,000

B”M Siddurim Bookcases (2) .......... Reserved $10,000

For information on dedication and additional sponsorship opportunities please contact Rabbi Mordechai Stein at the Yeshiva office at 718.327.6247 ext.16 or dedications@siachyitzchok.org

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This Week TJH Speaks with... 1, 2, 3…8 weeks of amazing summer fun! For two months of the year our children bask in the sun, swimming, singing, and soaking up the fun every day. How are they spending their time away from their desks? In this annual feature series we speak with camp directors and head counselors to learn more about our community’s amazing, spectacular, incredible, marvelous, unbelievable (you get the point!) camps.

Camp Avnet

By Susan Schwamm

Camp Avnet, also known as HALB’s Avnet Country Day School, gives almost 1,000 children the time of their lives during these summer months. With two campuses, three pools, and thousands of activities each week, Avnet is always rocking - and so are the kids who get to call it their “home away from home!” This week we spoke with Director Daniel Stroock to hear more about the energy, excitement, and nonstop fun that takes place every minute of every day. TJH: This is your third year fully in the Five Towns. Has being all together changed the experience?

Daniel: Avnet has been on the summer camp scene for almost 60 years, but we’ve really been able to take the experience to greater heights since the New Woodmere Campus opened. The facility is simply stunning. Over the course of each year, I give tours to prospective campers and their parents, to new staff, and at times, to excited alumni with fond memories of Avnet. The reaction is always the same – people are delighted to see our grounds and are impressed by our building, pools, and the wealth of amenities we offer. The close proximity of the DRS Campus to t he new building (they are literally o n e and a h a l f blocks f r o m each other) has enabled

us to virtually double our programming. Many of our campers, regardless of where they are “based,” partake in activities on both campuses during the course of their day. There is a constant buzz of activity across our amazing baseball fields, basketball courts, hockey rink, heated pools, gym and in our spectacular auditorium, and it’s a pleasure to stroll around and see it all.

How many campers enjoy Camp Avnet? What schools and towns do they come from?

We’re proud to host almost 1,000 campers at Avnet. Our campers really have an opportunity to broaden their horizons and make new friends, since they represent many different communities and schools. They come from the Five Towns, Far Rockaway, Oceanside, West Hempstead, Long Beach, and Queens. Of course, many HALB students attend Avnet, but we also draw campers from YCQ, Shulamith, TAG, South Shore, YKLI, HANC, HAFTR, Har Torah, Yeshiva Darchei Torah, MDS, and some

of the local public schools. We even have campers that visit New York on an annual basis from Florida, Israel, and Brazil, and we are proud to say that Avnet is always a part of their summer itinerary.

That’s a lot of campers! I know the camp is divided into seven divisions with many division heads. Can you tell us about them all?

Since our campers range in age from 3-14, we have seven divisions to meet their varying needs and interests. There are five divisions housed in our New Woodmere Campus and two divisions in our DRS Campus. Our upper staff is entirely comprised of educators, and we understand the importance of the camp experience for building confidence, friendships, sportsmanship, and new skills. Miriam Furman heads our Tipot, or preschool division. We have two divisions for first through third grade: Ma’ayanot Boys led by Moshe Spern and assisted by Rabbi Kevin Rhine; Ma’ayanot Girls led by Miriam Steiner. Girls entering 4th through 5th grade are in our Agamim division, which is headed by Ariana Wolfson. Our Naharot division for 6th through

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8 t h g r ade girls, also headed by Ariana, offers more mature programming. On our DRS Campus we have two divisions for boys. The Harim division is for 4th and 5th graders, while G’vaot is for 6th through 8th graders. Zack Kessler is the Division Head for these two divisions, and Rabbi Shaya Samet is the Head Counselor. Malkie Behar is truly the “anchor” at Avnet. She runs our office year-round and has a phenomenal ability to connect with and remember almost every family and staff member. When staff members come to the office in need of something (and remember there are over 300 of them), we ask Malkie to identify them. She never fails to do so!

How does your preschool division get in on the action?

Our youngest “Tipot” campers are fully immersed in the Avnet experience. We’re not a “preschool camp,” but rather, we tailor our activities to their developing abilities so they learn to participate and build skills. The Tipot have ballet, gymnastics, cooking, music & movement and various sports just like the older children. When it comes to aquatics, they also have the opportunity to learn to swim in real pools along with their older peers.

What are the campers’ favorite activities and sports?

If you polled our campers about their “favorite’’ activities, you would definitely get a variety of answers depending on their individual interests! That’s why we offer a wide-range of specialties and sports to try and engage everyone. We recognize that not all children are sports-oriented, so we’re constantly expanding our ros-

ter of specialties. Those specialties include chinuch, country cooking, culinary creations, arts & crafts, fine arts, creative crafts, Zumba, music & movement, ballet, Warren Levi Boot Camp, jump rope, music, and wacky science. Rabbi Joey Werner of the DRS Campus and Rabbi Aaron Fleksher of the New Woodmere Campus lead the sports programs at their respective sites. Our sports include softball, soccer, basketball, hockey, tennis, volleyball, gaga and dodgeball. There are leagues for competition, and clinics where athletes can hone their skills. Last year we introduced “Chessed” as an activity for all children in 3rd grade and older, since Avnet is a Torah environment and we always stress good middos. This type of activity is not only fun, but meaningful as well.

Tell us about your new Coding Boot Camp?

We’re thrilled to be offering a four-session coding course for our Harim and G’vaot boys. We are bringing in a teaching crew that utilizes the same curriculum across the New York City public school system. They have a wealth of knowledge and experience and happen to be life-long camp professionals as well. We’re hoping this year will serve as a springboard to increase their presence in Avnet in the future.

Trips! Tell us about your trips and which ones make the kids ask for more. Are there overnights or late nights throughout the summer?

Our off-site adventures include Billy Beez, Adventureland, Kzam, Bouncers & Slydos, Active Kidz, Laser Bounce, fishing, RPM Raceway, Escape the Room, Launch, ice skating, Indoor Extreme Sports, and Dave & Busters. We send all of our preschoolers, as well as our elementary school girls, to gymnastics each week. The boys have bowling as a regular part of their schedule. The real standout trips of the summer will be Six Flags Great Adventure, Cyclones and Mets games, Broad Hollow Theater, “The Play that Goes Wrong” on Broadway, and Hershey Park. We host many fun late nights

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at camp, and the Naharot and Harim campers will also experience an overnight at Club Getaway. The Agamim and G’vaot will attend a two-night, three-day trial at Camp Mesorah so they can try out sleepaway camp with the added comfort of their Avnet friends and counselors.

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Heated pools Campers

Staffers

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Periods in a week per group Bunks in Avnet

Amazing trips this summer

60 1,400 9,000 250 1,300 2,160

Years of camping fun and experience Personalized water bottles

Towels handed out each week

Slices of pizza served on Fridays at the DRS Campus Slices of pizza served on Fridays at the New Woodmere Campus Activity periods happening PER WEEK!!!

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With nearly 1,000 periods, and they each bring their own unique brand campers it can of fun and energy to the scene. There’s an incredible be hard to ruach in the room, in addition to delicious food, and m a n a g e . it’s a very happening place to be! How do you make sure You have beautiful pools at Avnet. Tell us about your swimming activities. Swimming is a mainstay of a summer spent at that every camper Avnet and our three, on-site pools allow for a capacity feels the of over 250 campers at a time. Headed by Yael Greencamp spirit? berger, we are blessed to have a large, well-trained

The simplest answer is we follow schedules, pay attention to the details, and we have respect for each individual child. Structure is important, but our staff members know to be flexible when needed. We have 45 bunks and each bunk has 9 periods in a day over the course of a 5-day week. That means we’re executing over 2,160 different activity periods per week! We’re fortunate to have Rabbi Natan Farber as Program Director. Rabbi Farber is the “mastermind” behind all of our intricate scheduling, and he makes sure each group has an amazing activity to go to at any given time. In addition to assisting Natan with the programming, Alex Braverman is our expert at planning and executing special events. He is constantly introducing new ideas to wow our campers. He also spends part of his day taking many photos to post to our Facebook page and website. Our parent body loves to see pictures of their children in action at Avnet, and Alex does a fabulous job of providing that. Most importantly, we plan the summer from the child’s perspective, and that means asking for ideas and feedback from our campers! We also literally put the schedule at their fingertips, since we print our event schedule on personalized water bottles for each camper.

Are there special cheers or performances during lunch?

There is incredible spirit in the lunchroom with loud cheering at every meal. Our Division Heads and chinuch staff members take turns leading the lunch

lifeguarding staff to keep the children safe and build their skills. Our youngest campers begin their aquatics careers with their attempts to swim across the pool. Once they have done so, they are awarded with the coveted “I learned to swim at Avnet t-shirt.” As they advance, they take further tests to become “deep water” swimmers. When their skills increase, they can spend their twice daily swim sessions in the deeper pools.

Shiva Asar B’Tammuz is on Sunday. Do you do anything different or special for the Three Weeks?

We try to balance summer fun while teaching our campers to respect the solemnity of the Three Weeks. Preschoolers work on a special “Bais Hamiksdash” building/mitzvah project. Our chinuch groups discuss the time of the year and its significance, and we convert our free swim time into a “swim-a-thon” to benefit Chai Lifeline. Over the last number of years, our campers have logged thousands of laps and have raised tens of thousands of dollars.

Those are beautiful activities for the campers. What types of activities or training are offered to Avnet staff?

Our staff is really important to us. Last week we hosted the first of several “staff nights” we will have this summer. Seventy-plus staff members enjoyed Chinese food and a panoply trivia game. On a regular basis, our gym and outdoor hockey rink are filled with staff members enjoying their evening free time

playi n g spor ts. Last week w e also gave a CPR course onsite that is open to all of our staff. Although we far exceed the ratio mandated by the Nassau County Department of Health for certified CPR and First Aid responders, we want to give every opportunity for our staff to be trained and ready to help in case of an emergency, G-d forbid. I was inspired to see how many staff members signed up for this voluntary training!

You’re a very hands-on director. When you walk around campus, what are the three things that stand out for you?

The most rewarding part of my day is watching Avnet campers in action. I feel an indescribable sense of fulfillment when I see the pure joy and excitement on the children’s faces and the magical sound of laughter as they experience all the activities Avnet has to offer. That means we’ve met our main goal – which is making kids happy! The next thing that stands out is the positive vibe on our campus. This is possible because our staff operates as a team with a shared mission of – you guessed it – making our campers happy. Oftentimes a child will stop by my office, bursting with pride, to show off their latest art project, cooking creation or “camper of the week” trophy. Or as I walk through the fields, I will hear, “Daniel, watch me take an at-bat.” Yesterday I had the great joy of participating in a volleyball game with some of the campers. We’re building confin dence and memories at Avnet and that’s what summer should be all about. If it sounds amazing, trust me it is. Come on in for a visit!

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Vacation Reading Recommendation If you want to be able to say that you read a book on your summer vacation this year, here are a few quick reads:

Riddle me this? Yanky and Sara were sitting in their den one night. Yanky was watching the news while Sara was reading. All of a sudden, the power went out. Yanky decided to go to bed; Sara kept on reading. How did she keep on reading if the lights in their home went out?

The Engineer’s Guide to Fashion See answer on the other page

Human Rights Advances in China The Wild Years by Al Gore America’s Most Popular Lawyers Career Opportunities For Liberal Arts Majors The Sincere Politician List My Plan to Find the Real Killers by O.J. Simpson Detroit - A Travel Guide Different Ways to Spell Bob My Time in the White House by Anthony Scaramucci Dr. Kevorkian’s Collection of Motivational Speeches Easy Unix How to Comb Your Hair by Bernie Sanders Ethiopian Tips on World Dominance French Hospitality Spotted Owl Recipes by the EPA The Amish Phone Directory The Book of Virtues by Michael Cohen Winning by Mickey Callaway

You gotta be

kidding An aspiring novelist comes home to a burned down house. His sobbing wife is standing outside. “What happened?” the man asks. “Oh, John, it was terrible,” she weeps. “I was cooking, the phone rang. It was your agent. Because I was on the phone, I didn’t notice the stove was on fire. It went up in seconds. Everything is gone. I nearly didn’t make it out of the house. Poor Fluffy is—” “Wait, wait. Back up a minute,” the man says. “My agent called?!!”

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Book Trivia 1. What is the bestselling novel of all time, with over 500 million copies sold? a. Don Quixote

3. Which of the following terms means “the scent of a book”? a. Booksroma b. Bibliosmia

d. Thing One 5. Which Stephen King novel takes place mostly in the fictional Overlook Hotel?

c. Nostrolgia

a. Salem’s Lot

d. Phantosmia

b. It c. The Shining

b. A Tale of Two Cities

d. Different Seasons

c. Harry Potter and the Sorcerer’s Stone

6. What happened to the original manuscript of John Steinbeck’s Of Mice and Men?

d. The Catcher in the Rye

4. What famous literary character offers this sage advice: “Neither a borrower nor a lender be”?

b. $12 million

a. Polonius

c. $17 million

b. Ebeneezer Scrooge c. Tom Sawyer

7. Who is the most-published novelist in history, having written 69 novels and 19 plays and estimated to have sold 4 billion books? a. David Patterson b. Agatha Christie c. Isaac Asimov d. Margaret Mitchell 8. In Search of Lost Time by Marcel Proust is the longest well-known novel which exists. How many volumes is it? a. 5

b. His dog ate it

b. 8

c. It got burnt when Steinbeck fell asleep while smoking a cigar

c. 13 d. 23

d. Steinbeck donated

 Answers 7. B

3. B

6. B

2. D

5. C

1. A

 Wisdom Key 7-8 correct: You are an avid reader. It was very nice of you to put aside In Search of Lost Time in order to play this trivia. 4-6 correct: You are not exactly using bibliosmia cologne, but not bad. 0-3 correct: Let’s try this question. Fill in the blank: There is Think One and Thing _____.

Answer to Riddle Me This: Sara was reading a book in Braille.

d. $30.8 million

8. C

a. $2.7 million

a. He left it on a train and a passenger found it and released the book before Steinbeck could get it back

4. A

2. How much did Bill Gates pay in 1994, for Leonardo da Vinci’s “Codex Leicester,” a manuscript that dates back to the 16th century?

it to an auction house, which sold it for $700,000

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Torah Thought

Parshas Balak By Rabbi Berel Wein

e are all sufficiently sophisticated and experienced in our time to realize that wars are conducted on many different levels and not necessarily always on the battlefield or with massive armies. The Torah reading of this week introduces us to perhaps the first recorded use of psychological warfare and propaganda in human history. The magician, soothsayer and prophet of the non-Jewish world, Bilaam, is engaged by the king of Moav, Balak, to curse the Jewish people and to psychologically weaken them so that they would be unable to resist the army that Balak will eventually send forth to destroy Israel. Apparently, everyone involved, both the Jews and the non-Jews, believed that this type of psychological warfare â&#x20AC;&#x201C; cursing the people â&#x20AC;&#x201C; would be effective. And apparently, all concerned agreed that if the L-rd had not taken control of the mouth of Bilaam so that blessings and not

curses came forth from his tongue, the Jewish people would have been materially harmed by his words. All the commentators wonder why G-d had to change the words of Bilaam into words of blessing

the Jewish people with should never be allowed to have been uttered for they would undoubtedly have had some effect and that effect would have been negative in all respects. Jewish tradition teaches that all

All words have importance and consequences.

instead of curses. He, so to speak, could have just ignored what Bilaam had to say and arranged it so that those words would have had no effect on the Jewish people. The commentators concluded that Heaven recognized that spoken words always have an effect and cannot be completely ignored. The hateful words that Bilaam intended to curse

words have importance and consequences. Words define us for good or for better and even though they are intangible, they leave lasting effects on those who say them and those who hear them. Judaism always places a heavy emphasis on correct speech and on meaningful and holy words. Bilaam achieved fame and fortune in his generation

because of his words. But the fact that those words were used to destabilize and curse others, branded him an evil person no matter how great his talents and ability may have been. At the end of this week-s Torah reading, he again uses words to advise the enemies of Israel on how to overcome the Jews spiritually and to eventually destroy them physically. He comes to give advice, but by so doing he unleashes a weapon as lethal as any sword or spear, bomb or rocket. It proves again the adage of the rabbis that life and death are in the hands of the tongue. Even the blessings and the good words that he spoke about the Jewish people, because of the coercion of Heaven, in the end proved hollow and insincere. As the rabbis put it, from the blessings that he said we can well deduce what the curses are that he meant to inflict upon Israel. Speech can kill, and it can heal. The choice is always ours. Shabbat shalom.

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Parshas Balak Toras Moshe vs. Parshas Bilaam By Rav Moshe Weinberger Adapted for publication by Binyomin Wolf

hereas in many other parshios, we focus on deriving lessons from the subtleties of various psukim, the whole parshas Balak is difficult to understand. Adding to the mystery, the Gemara (Bava Basra 14b) says, “Moshe wrote his book [the Torah], parshas Bilaam, and Iyov.” Rashi explains that “parshas Bilaam” refers to “his prophecy and parables, even though these do not serve the needs of Moshe, his Torah, and the events of his life.” This is very difficult to understand. Moshe wrote the whole Torah, including “parshas Bilaam” within parshas Balak according to G-d’s command. Why does Rashi explain the nature of “parshas Bilaam” in a way that implies it was not part of the Torah at all? The Torah also includes sefer Bereishis which took place before Moshe was born and certainly does not include “the events of his life.” So why is Bereishis considered part of “Toras Moshe?” In order to understand what Rashi

teaches us, we must first define “Toras Moshe.” Rashi on the Gemara (Chulin 137a) explains that the word Torah comes from the root word “hora’ah, teaching,” so that the essence of the Torah is that it is a “teaching for all generations.” The Maharal at the beginning of Gur Aryeh explains along the lines of the following words of the Ramban: “The Torah includes the stories from the beginning of Bereishis because this teaches people the path of emunah.” All parts of the Torah which teach the Jewish people what they need to know to live as Jews are considered part of “Toras Moshe.” This seems to imply that Rashi teaches us that “parshas Bilaam” has nothing to teach the Jewish people. How can we understand this idea? The Midrash (Sifri on Devarim 34:10) says, “‘No other prophet has arisen among the Jewish people like Moshe. Among the Jewish people there has arisen no prophet like Moshe, but there has arisen [a prophet like Moshe] among the nations of the world. Who? This refers to Bilaam.”

How could the Midrash compare this sorcerer’s “prophecy” to Moshe, the master of all prophets? The Ramban explains that Bilaam was not a prophet at all and was certainly not even on the level of regular prophets, much less Moshe. What, then, was the similarity? He explains that it was in the clarity of the message. When Moshe opened his mouth, the Divine presence spoke. Similarly, Hashem placed His words directly into Bilaam’s mouth without any room for interpretation. All other prophets received visions which required interpretation through their own human, albeit lofty, understanding. But Bilaam’s prophetic message was perfectly clear because it came straight from Hashem. Why did Hashem give Bilaam such a clear prophetic message? The Ramban explains that He did so in order to deprive the nations of the world of the ability to claim “if only we had a prophet like Moshe, we would serve Hashem too.” He explains (commenting on Bamidbar 22:31) that Bilaam

was merely a sorcerer, not a prophet, and that Hashem only gave him the ability to prophesize in order to increase the honor of the Jewish people “because it was Hashem’s will that the Jewish people be blessed through the mouth of a prophet of the nations.” If so, who was the primary beneficiary of Bilaam’s prophecy? The Jewish people or the nations of the world? I believe that we can understand the answer to this question by studying the Ramban on parshas Ha’azinu (Devarim 32:26, 40). There, he explains that the Jewish people are G-d’s nation, the only people who know Hashem and through whom G-d’s name becomes known in the world. In addition, he explains that the fundamental reason for anti-Semitism in the world is the fact that we reveal G-d’s presence in the world. We bring G-d, and therefore conscience, obligation, and responsibility, into a world that doesn’t want to hear of such things. The deeper reason anti-Semites hate Jews is because they hate G-d. The natural result

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is that they hate Hashem’s messengers in the world. Dovid Hamelech said (Tehillim 44:23), “It is for Your sake that we are killed all of the time.” Based on this, the Ramban says, “Because of their hatred for Hashem, they do all of these evil things to us ... He must take vengeance on them.” Since their hatred and oppression of us is because of Hashem, it is His obligation to punish them. It appears that the nations have two basic choices with regard to how to approach the those who reveal Hashem’s presence in the world, i.e., the “Jewish problem.” They can join with us in revealing the Divine in this physical world by accepting the seven mitzvos which are applicable to them or by converting. Alternatively, they can pursue, oppress, and enslave us. They learned of this choice through the prophecy of Bilaam. He taught them that the Jewish people are “a nation which dwells alone.” As Bilaam says in various ways, the Jewish people will successfully conquer

Eretz Yisroel, the land primed to reveal Hashem’s presence in the world, and ultimately, Moshiach will come and all of the nations who have oppressed the Jewish people will be punished. Bilaam’s prophetic message was that the nations’ true mission is to follow the

themselves by claiming that they did not know their purpose. We now understand why Hashem wanted the Jewish people to be blessed by a gentile prophet. He wanted the nations to understand clearly, from one of their own, that the role of the Jewish

Bilaam’s prophetic message was that the nations’ true mission is to follow the Jewish people by partnering with them to reveal the Divine presence.

Jewish people by partnering with them to reveal the Divine presence. This is their purpose, their raison d’être. The purpose of Bilaam’s prophecy was to deprive them of the ability to excuse

people is to bring about the revelation of G-dliness in the world. After receiving that message, the nations must now choose which side of history they will be on.

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We can now understand why Rashi explains that “parshas Bilaam” is something separate from “Toras Moshe.” The purpose of the latter is to teach the Jewish people what is expected of them for all generations, while the former was meant as a message primarily for the nations of the world and not the Jewish people. The nations had to be told about the Jewish people’s purpose in creation, as well as a clear understanding of their own choice in how to relate to the Jewish people. May we merit, soon in our days, to see Hashem take revenge upon those who have tormented us throughout the generations and the reward of the righteous people among the nations who have joined with us to reveal Hashem’s presence in the world.

Rav Moshe Weinberger, shlita, is the founding Morah d’Asrah of Congregation Aish Kodesh in Woodmere, NY, and serves as leader of the new mechina Emek HaMelech.

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Parshas Balak By Eytan Kobre

Weekly Aggada And Bilaam rose up early in the morning, and he saddled his donkey, and he went with the princes of Moav (Bamidbar 22:21) R’ Shimon bar Yochai said: Love ruins straight thinking (i.e., love can cause one to act irrationally). As it says (in connection with Avraham’s journey to sacrifice his son Yitzchok), “And Avraham rose up early in the morning, and he saddled his donkey” (Bereishis 22:3). Did Avraham not have many

servants who could have saddled his donkey for him? But love ruins straight thinking. [Avraham saddled his own donkey – a relative lapse in rational conduct – out of love for G-d’s command.] And hate ruins straight thinking (i.e., hate can cause one to act irrationally). As it says (in connection with Bilaam’s journey to curse the Jewish people), “And Bilaam rose up early in the morning, and he saddled his donkey” (Bamidbar 22:21). Did Bilaam not have many servants who could have saddled his donkey for him? But hate ruins straight thinking. [Bilaam

saddled his own donkey – a relative lapse in rational conduct – out of hatred for G-d’s people.] Let one saddling come and override another saddling: let Avraham’s act in saddling his donkey to do G-d’s bidding overcome Bilaam’s act in saddling his donkey to go curse the Jewish people (Bereishis Rabba 55:8).

Weekly Mussar And Bilaam said to the angel of G-d, “I have sinned, because I did not know that you stood opposite me on the road; and now, if it is bad in your eyes, I will return” (Bamidbar 22:34) R’ Chaim of Sanz, author of the Divrei Chaim, once confronted one of his followers who was the rav of a small town. “What have you done to ease the suffering of so-and-so in your town, who lives in abject poverty and whose family starves as he cannot make ends meet?” “To tell you the truth,” answered the student, “I did not even know that so-and-so was in such dire circumstances.” R’ Chaim replied with a mix of bewilderment and disappointment. “It is not an answer for a rav to say, ‘I don’t know.’ A rav has to know about his constituents. We are told that Bilaam said to the angel of G-d, ‘I have sinned for I did not know.’ Now, if Bilaam did not know, how could he have sinned? We see, therefore, that ‘not knowing’ could itself be a sin.” The same holds true for us all. It is not enough for us to remain blissfully ignorant of the hardships or challenges of those around us, content simply to bury our heads in the sand and say, “I don’t know.” We are obligated to know. We are obligated to be concerned. We are obligated to

take an interest in the wellbeing of our fellow Jews. If we do not know of their plight, that itself is unacceptable.

Weekly Anecdote How goodly are your tents, o’ Yaakov, your dwelling places, o’ Israel (Bamidbar 24:5) This also refers to the Mishkan and the Bais HaMikdash, whether built or in a state of destruction, which offer atonement for the Jewish people (Rashi). During the years of the British Mandate in Palestine, a presiding British governor once arranged to meet R’ Yosef Chaim Sonnenfeld. Because the British governor was himself a descendant of Jews (although it is unclear if he was actually Jewish), he very much wished to meet this “Man on the Ramparts” (as R’ Yosef Chaim Sonnenfeld was referred to), the dominant Torah personality in Yerushalayim at the time. No different than the other Jews in the “old settlement” of Yerushalayim, R’ Yosef Chaim lived in relative squalor. His home was a small, mostly unfurnished cellar apartment in the Old City. So as the date of the meeting with the British governor drew near, R’ Yosef Chaim’s confidantes suggested, even urged, that he meet with the governor at some other, more dignified location, perhaps another apartment that was more spacious and even furnished... more befitting a meeting between a leading rabbinic authority and the high-ranking British governor. While R’ Yosef Chaim did permit his confidantes to lay out a new tablecloth in honor of their esteemed guest, he absolutely refused to re-

ceive the British governor anywhere but in his own home. It would be an understatement to say that the British governor was surprised by the squalor in which R’ Yosef Chaim lived. He simply could not believe that someone of R’ Yosef Chaim’s stature would live in such a depressed setting, a cellar apartment no less. Indeed, so shocked was the British governor that he even muttered under his breath, “I’m surprised that this man could not find a flat sunken yet deeper into the ground” – an unabashed (even if unintentional) slight to R’ Yosef Chaim. But R’ Yosef Chaim was unfazed by the insult. “Come to this window with me,” he said, motioning for the British governor to join him at a window just above street level. R’ Yosef Chaim pushed aside the window’s curtains to reveal a view of the Temple Mount, with the Dome of the Rock sitting atop the place where the Bais HaMikdash once stood, r”l. His eyes brimming with tears,

R’ Yosef Chaim turned to the British governor. “You see, that was the Creator’s home on earth, but now it is in ruins. So long as that House is in a state of ruin, my own house need be in no better a state.”

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from “taking a spear in his hand” until after he “arose from amidst the congregation” – the “congregation” being a reference to a congregation or house of worship – we derive that one should not enter a Bais Medrash

We are obligated to take an interest in the wellbeing of our fellow Jews.

Weekly Halacha And Pinchas, the son of Elazar, the son of Aharon the Priest, saw it, and he arose from amidst the congregation, and he took a spear in his hand (Bamidbar 25:7) Inasmuch as Pinchas refrained

with a weapon (Sanhedrin 82a and Rashi ad loc.). This has been codified as a prohibition against entering a shul with a “long knife” (likely a sword), since prayer lengthens one’s life while a knife shortens it (Bais Yosef, Orach Chaim 151 [in the name of the Orchos Chaim]; Shulchan Aruch, Orach

Chaim 151:6). The prohibition applies, of course, only when there is no existing danger; in a situation of danger, one may bring a weapon into shul. Even when there is no danger, some permit bringing a weapon into a shul (and, presumably, a Bais Medrash) if the weapon is concealed (Mishna Berura 151:22 [in the name of Elya Rabba]; Yechaveh Daas 5:18). Others regard the prohibition as applicable only to “long knives” (i.e., swords) but not to shorter knives and smaller weapons (Taz 151:7) or to guns (Yechaveh Daas 5:18; see also Tzitz Eliezer 10:18 [setting parameters for bringing a gun into shul]). The Weekly Halacha is not meant for practical purposes and is for discussion purposes only. Please consult your own rav for guidance. Eytan Kobre is a writer, speaker, and attorney living in Kew Gardens Hills. Questions? Comments? Suggestions? E-mail eakobre@outlook.com.

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Pesach in Kishinev By Hershel Lieber

n 1992, the Vaad L’Hatzolas Nidchei Yisroel established a yeshiva in Kishinev, Moldova. Moldova, which was part of the U.S.S.R., became an independent country with the fall of the Soviet Union. The new democratic government allowed the free practice of religion, and the yeshiva could serve the population of over twenty-five thousand Jews in Moldova. There were twenty-five boys and fifteen girls in distinct divisions in the yeshiva. A full program of Jewish and secular studies was provided, and the students lived in dormitories in separate buildings. For many parents – the vast majority of them being quite poor – the opportunities that the yeshiva offered was a great blessing. Their children were given an excellent education, were taught the English language, were given computer skills, nourishing meals, and decent clothing, played sports, enjoyed recreation, and held the prospect of continuing their schooling in the United States.

Our ramshackle apartment in Kishinev

The fact that the children were learning about Yiddishkeit did not play a major role in the parents’ decision to send them to the yeshiva. On the other hand, the Vaad stepped up to the challenge, and hoped that the school would bring those children closer to Torah and mitzvos. Pesi and I first visited the yeshiva in 1994, when we toured the different schools the Vaad established in the former Soviet Union. We spent a week with the students in a summer camp on the outskirts of Kishinev. I have previously written about that trip. In 1996, I was asked by Rabbi Mordechai Neustadt, z”l, to go with my family to Kishinev for Pesach and help direct yom tov programming which included, both sedarim, davening, lectures and chol hamoed activities. The staff of the yeshiva included Rabbi Mordechai Tokarsky, the director, and Rabbi Avrohom Krichevsky. Having my family and myself involved would enhance

and enlighten the Pesach traditions that, for most of the participants were entirely new and, in some ways, strange. Pesi and my engaged daughter, Chavi, would concentrate their kiruv efforts on the girls while I would apply my talents to the boys. My 13-year-old son Mechel would join the boys in their activities. The Vaad was confident that our participation would make an everlasting impression. And so, on Sunday, March 31, 1996, my family boarded a flight to

Budapest, where we stopped to eat a hearty lunch, and continued on to Kishinev later that afternoon. We were greeted at the airport by Sergei, who was the manager of the yeshiva. While retrieving our luggage, I realized that the suitcase which had my complete wardrobe for the entire trip was missing! I knew that I was in serious trouble. I was considerably heavy at the time and finding clothing that fit was always a challenge. Here I was, two days before Pesach, with nothing but the clothes that I

Breakfast on erev Pesach in our apartment with my son and daughter

Pesi cleaning the apartment for Pesach

Burning the chometz in the courtyard of the yeshiva

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Cooks preparing the Pesach foods

was wearing. The next morning, we went to the only decent men’s shop they had in the city which had only sizes that would not have fit me even at my own bar mitzvah. Someone suggested the flea market (bazaar) which had used clothing as well as shabby new ones. I went from stall to stall and could not find any shirts, pants, nor underwear. The only thing I found and bought was a white cowboy-style shirt with embroidery and fringes. This one piece of clothing would have to last for the next ten days! What a relief it was when I returned to the yeshiva and a call came in that my suitcase finally arrived and could be picked up from the airport. This experience was for us a life lesson: to divide our clothing into multiple suitcases. Our family was given an apartment two blocks away from the yeshiva. The one-story building was a dilapidated shack. The mattresses were so thin that we had to sup-

The boys in the yeshiva’s beis medrash

Preparing for the seder with Rabbi Mordechai Tokarsky

port them by placing our suitcases under the beds. The bathroom and tub were decrepit, the wooden slats in the shower floor decaying from

Preparing the seder foods with the boys in the yeshiva

gypsies and vagrants. In this setting, we started cleaning and organizing our rooms to spend our Holiday of Freedom, Pesach.

Walking back to our apartment in the pitch darkness of the blacked-out streets of Kishinev, accompanied by security guards with candles, we felt that we were witnessing the Plague of Darkness in Egypt

age and use. The prewar kitchen had in its center an old-fashioned tiled heating stove. In the backyard roosters and hens shared space with a constant barking dog and a number of cats. Our neighbors were mostly

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From this evening on, we turned our attention to the talmidim of the school, the boys and girls. For most of the children, this was the first time they would celebrate a traditional Pesach. Beginning with

bedikas chometz, followed by next morning’s burning of the chometz, erev Pesach was a continuous learning experience. We included the students in setting up the seder tables, the kaaros, the pillows to lean on, the Haggados and the special foods required. Many of them joined in the preparation of those foods. All of this effort was done with a sense of anticipation and excitement. When we finally sat down to the Seder, we all felt gratified and accomplished, and yes, extremely tired. There were many parents that came to be with their children on this special night. The atmosphere was festive, and the mood was joyous. Together with the other rabbis, I conducted the seder ceremonies, and with stories and songs we made Yetzias Mizrayim come to life. Walking back to our apartment in the pitch darkness of the blacked-out streets of Kishinev, accompanied by security guards with candles, we felt that we were witnessing the Plague of Dark-

The girls in their dorm. Pesi is on the right. Chavi is next to her

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ness in Egypt. We did, of course, realize, that at the seder in the yeshiva, we were blessed with “la’Yehudim hoisa orah.” The Vaad had shipped us a container with Pesach foods including machine matzah and grape juice. I

A chol hamoed outing with the girls. Pesi is in the center row on the right, Chavi is on the top row on the right

brought along some hand matzos and wine for personal use. We had some difficulty in maintaining a strict non-gebrokts diet, since the kitchen in the yeshiva was not observing this minhag. Basically, we kept the minhag, but we were told we could eat

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from the pots, pans and dishes which were used by all. The food was a far cry from what we were used to, but we were there to offer spiritual sustenance, not to satiate ourselves with gourmet meals. The davening lacked the baalei tefilla and niggunim that made yom tov special back home, but that was compensated by watching the children’s attempts to join in the voice and spirit of Klal Yisroel. I davened once or twice over yom tov and Mechel also leined the Torah twice, but mostly the boys were given a chance to lead the tefillos. Pesi and I spent a lot of time teaching both boys and girls. Chavi connected very well with the girls who were a few years younger than her. Mechel became the mascot for the boys, who adoringly included him in all their activities. In retrospect, we all had a role in making this Pesach very special for the talmidim. Chol hamoed was filled with activities. On the first day, the boys went on a hiking trip while the girls went to the circus and a magic show. The next day both groups entertained themselves in a park and went boating on the lake. The last day of chol hamoed, the boys went to the stadium across the street from the yeshiva to watch a soccer match between the teams of Ukraine and Moldova. When I walked into the arena an hour later, I marveled at the scene in front of my eyes. Two rows of our talmidim, proudly wearing yarmulkas and with tzitzis hanging out of their shirts, were watching

and cheering a game of two nations that have traditionally been fiercely anti-Semitic. That sight was truly mindboggling! Our Pesach in Kishinev was an unbelievable experience. It was a harbinger for the next ten years, when I was involved with the running and financing of this mossad. Baruch Hashem we had quite a number of talmidim who went on to build Jewish homes and families. I hope to write in the future of the difficult task I faced and the subsequent failures and successes of this undertaking. Hershel Lieber has been involved in kiruv activities for over 30 years. As a founding member of the Vaad L’Hatzolas Nidchei Yisroel he has traveled with his wife, Pesi, to the Soviet Union during the harsh years of the Communist regimes to advance Yiddishkeit. He has spearheaded a yeshiva in the city of Kishinev that had 12 successful years with many students making Torah their way of life. In Poland, he lectured in the summers at the Ronald S. Lauder Foundation camp for nearly 30 years. He still travels to Warsaw every year – since 1979 – to be the chazzan for Rosh Hashana and Yom Kippur for the Jews there. Together with Pesi, he organized and led trips to Europe on behalf of Gateways and Aish Hatorah for college students finding their paths to Jewish identity. His passion for travel has taken them to many interesting places and afforded them unique experiences. Their open home gave them opportunities to meet and develop relationships with a variety of people. Hershel’s column will appear in The Jewish Home on a bi-weekly basis.

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Read the Signs By Rafi Sackville

emember those t-shirts that read ISRAEL isREAL? Not long ago I saw a young man wearing one. Despite thinking it a bit anachronistic, it hasn’t lost its quaintness: it says little, but means a lot. I was with a friend who, upon seeing the t-shirt, showed me a photo of a poorly translated notice for swimmers. What most caught my eye was this instruction in translated English: “Parents lenders- you watch the kids wash up to 6 years of age toddlers knees (there are no saves).” The sign should have read something like: it is incumbent upon parents, or those accompanying young swimmers up to the age of 6, to closely

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How the word ma’akaf became “buypass” instead of bypass is truly an unforgivable feat of incompetence. Imagine the hundreds of English-speaking tourists asking themselves, We’re in the middle of nowhere! What does it get us a pass to?

How “Caution! Trucks Crossing” came to be connected with Pesach also defies belief.

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These mistakes are reminiscent of the electronic dictionaries my students use. They’ll look up a word in English and use the first translation they see. Oftentimes, this is at a grammatical cost. They might use a noun instead of an adjective or verb. For example, the word “help” translates into Hebrew in a number of ways: the verb la’azor; the noun, ezra or ozer. In other words, it can be confusing. Which is why the sign on an Israeli beach can only be the direct result of a worker reading dictionary entries and including the grammatical function of words.

Sometimes the sign writers are not even aware of the need for translation. The words “Private Road” on this sign was mistakenly thought to be the road’s name, causing people to think the road’s name is “Prati.”

There is a case to be made for Hebrew being a difficult language to translate. Chanukah, for example, can be written Chanuka, Channukah, Hanuka, Hanukka, Hannukkah. Some words and phrases sound

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normal in Hebrew, but translate poorly. “I’m crazy about you” translates directly into “I’m dead over/ about you.” The words neshama (soul) and kapara, (atonement) don’t exactly mean that in spoken Hebrew, where they translate into “you are sweet.” The word lachfor means to dig. Its connotation runs deeper, however. It is usually used to berate someone for being a pest. If one talks too much, he/she might be termed a chafran. Kids use it often when they don’t like teachers talking too much, and have no fear of being impertinent in front of them. One of my favorite sayings is used when describing a bad situation. For example, a student might have done poorly on a test. He’ll announce that his/her result is “al hapanim” or “on the face.” What that person is telling a listener is that the result of his past exam was rock bottom. My favorite Israeli sign of all

time is one that embraces chutzpah, reality, and a dose of humor all in one. I was in the gastro ward at Bnei Zion hospital in Haifa one day, accompanying a friend who had to undergo a colonoscopy. We had chosen the perfect day. It was during Pesach, which meant they were work-

attending nurse made it clear, even recommended, that the patient pass gas freely. There was a moment of embarrassment, for it’s not often that one is offered that kind of encouragement. The nurse said, “We tell all our patients the same thing.” Okay, I thought. That’s nice. Then she

How “Caution! Trucks Crossing” came to be connected with Pesach also defies belief.

ing half a day. It was a laid-back ward that greeted us. I looked around and noticed they had Pesach cookies for those coming out of anesthesia. Another “only in Israel” moment. After the procedure was over and we were in the recovery room, the

The sign in the hospital has given me a greater appreciation of every sign I find trouble with. It’s as if you can read into the mistake and conjure the voice of the sign maker who knows he’s more than likely made a mistake but is certain that the people reading the sign will not only smile but will also know exactly where they are on the map, or what the sign is conveying, because, as I said, Israel IsReal. Rafi Sackville, formerly of Cedarhurst, teaches in Ort Maalot in Western Galil.

waved in the direction of the wall behind me. “Look! We put up that sign to emphasize the point.” It’s the sign’s brazenness, its lack of formality, it’s unspeakable usurping of social norms that make us feel at ease and cause us to laugh that makes the sign so unique.

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From

Rose Bowl To

By Yosef (Calvin) Murray

Rashi A Unique Journey to Judaism

A legendary all-star Rose Bowl running back makes his most sensational touchdown run as an Orthodox Jew

s I stood on the steps of the mikvah, for a moment I contemplated the life-changing event that was before me. In a few short moments, after emerging from the mikvah, I would be a new person, a Jew, with a new soul and a new destiny in life. I wondered what my wife was feeling at that moment. We had traveled on an arduous spiritual journey together, from evangelical Christianity to Orthodox Judaism, and after ten years of study we would soon reap our reward. This, after being committed Christians, raising our six children in the church environment and serving as youth pastors. Our ever-increasing list of questions and discontent with the answers given forced us to seriously question what we believed. Being individuals with an intense thirst for truth and seeking a close relationship with God, slowly, slowly we began to see that Judaism held the answers. Not the typical journey for a

black NFL football player. began playing football at the age of eight. By my junior year in high school, recruiters from the University of Minnesota, Ohio State, North Carolina State, University of Arizona, and Notre Dame were watching me with apt interest. The legendary Woody Hayes from Ohio State University made the biggest impression on me and my family, and I was offered and accepted a full football scholarship. The practices were pure torture, but the end result was becoming a better man. Little did I know then that the very disciplines Hayes instilled in me and the moral values he taught me would be crucial in my spiritual journey to Judaism some 35 years later. I lettered all four years at Ohio State, and in 1980 I was honored with being voted Team Captain and Most Valuable Player. In my senior year at Ohio State, I was drafted by the Philadelphia Eagles. I played two seasons with the NFL before an injury ended my football career. The discipline I

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acquired from my football career gave me the discipline to take on the myriad of mitzvot that govern a Jew’s daily life. The constant study, practice, and repetitive actions all laid the foundation for the conversion process and for leading a meaningful Jewish life. married Emunah (then Jeri) in 1992, and thus began our adventure, of raising six kids, of being youth pastors in a church, and spending our lives mentoring young people. We were committed to raising our five sons and daughter with the foundation of the Bible and relationship with G-d. However, 12 years into our marriage we got a taste of Judaism through a messianic congregation. This introduction to Shabbos and the Festivals sparked our interest to dig deeper. After eventually being terminated from our youth pastor positions for being “too Jewish,” we studied Judaism in our home. We eventually ended up at a local Chabad, where we spent two years continuing our studies. We then asked the rabbi to sponsor us for

conversion, and he made the arrangements for our first meeting with the Beis Din of Detroit. The Beis Din was a four-hour drive from our home in Columbus, Ohio. This allowed plenty of time for us to become anxious about what might happen at our first meeting. It was intimidating to sit across the table from four esteemed rabbis and having to convince them of our desire and commitment to pursing a halachic conversion. They were imposing figures, but they all demonstrated kindness and fairness from the moment we started talking. The bar is set very high to exclude all but the few who are willing and able to accept the demands of a halachic lifestyle. They were not aware that we had already spent nearly nine years poring over every morsel of Jewish religious instruction we could find and had already begun to incorporate several Jewish practices into our lives. We do not take our religion lightly and are not people who do things halfway – we wouldn’t have been at this meet-

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Playing for the Philadelphia Eagles. Yosef is holding the football

ing if we weren’t absolutely sure we were 100% dedicated. We offered every piece of evidence we could to prove our resolve. They were convinced of our sincerity and laid out a plan for the process, advising us it would take one to two years. With each successive meeting, we were quizzed at length on what learning had occurred since our last visit. In addition to much study, classes, and one-on-one instruction on Shabbos, kashrut, Jewish holidays, and Hebrew, as a condition to advancing in the process, we were required to sell our family home and move across town to the Jewish community. Finally, the rabbis were satisfied with our progress and the big day was before us. Emunah writes in our book, From Rose Bowl to Rashi, A Unique Journey to Orthodox Judaism: “After one house move, two shuls, two sponsoring rabbis, five visits to the Beis Din; after 2,110 miles, and 40 hours in the car; after hundreds of hours of classes and tutoring; after thousands of pages of reading; and after 19 months – the goal line was in sight. The Beis Din gave us their approval and scheduled us for the mikveh, the immersion ritual that is the capstone of the conversion process, the birth of our Jewish selves.” After our conversion, we had a beautiful chuppah and celebration with our new community. We were fortunate to move into a warm and accepting Jewish community where there are many learning and growth

opportunities. We were nurtured and loved, both by the community and numerous rabbis. onversion to Judaism impacts all areas of your life – what you eat, what you wear, your worldview, and how you conduct your family life. It’s not for the timid or faint of heart; it requires the fortitude to withstand rejection and the strength to stay the course. One of the rabbis of the Beis Din told us, “It’s a marathon,

Marrying k’daas Moshe v’Yisrael

date. Many sacrifices had to be made along the way, not the least of which was having to uproot our children and move out of our family home of many years and relocate to the Jewish community. Another challenge was saying goodbye to people who had previously been part of our lives. This was painful at the time, but G-d brought us many new and wonderful friends after we relocated to the Jewish community. A major challenge for me in becoming shomer Shabbos was that I

“Becoming Jewish is a wonderful and transformative experience - and it is also the hardest decision we have made in our lives.” not a race.” Truly, it is not an easy path, but we cannot imagine living our lives any other way. Becoming Jewish is a wonderful and transformative experience – and it is also the hardest decision we have made in our lives. You are not just adopting a new faith. You are adopting a People, a land, the Torah, and a holy tongue. Our path to Judaism was sometimes difficult and remains so to-

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could no longer participate in NFL alumni events, attend Friday night football games, or participate in OSU activities that largely occurred on Shabbos. Although our path was fraught with difficult and sometimes painful decisions as well as a drastic change in lifestyle, we have no regrets. The outcome has been deeply fulfilling and rewarding. We are forever grateful and humbled that we have the great

privilege and responsibility of joining the Jewish People and striving to serve G-d. People often ask how our six children reacted to the conversion (our children share their honest feelings in our book). Our daughter has been the most supportive; she even wanted to take the day off school to participate in our “big day” at the mikvah. Our five sons are at various places – some supportive, some neutral, some resentful. There are resentments amongst our children, largely due to the fact that we cannot eat out as a family any longer (there are no kosher restaurants in our city), and around Shabbos observance issues, such as us not answering our phones on Shabbos. Our children are in various stages of discovering what their religious identities are. None of them are practicing Christianity. Our daughter commented that seeing us on our journey has inspired her to figure out what she believes. My wife and I firmly believe they are all on the path G-d has laid out for each of them. fter my wife’s sixth trip to Israel and my fourth, I could see the sadness in her eyes each time we left Israel. We had discussed making aliyah after we retired, which was still at least seven years away. One of the vows I made to G-d when we got married was that I wanted to make her the happiest woman in the world. I was starting to see that living in Israel was part of that happiness.

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We developed a plan where she would make aliyah first, put down roots, and I would come later. We felt that doing a split aliyah would ease our kids into the idea and make it more palatable for them. We consulted with a trusted rabbi, and he suggested that if we were in agreement, that Emunah had parnassah to sustain herself, and we were not apart for more than 90 days at a time, he thought it would be safe to do a one-year trial. Emunah then quit her dream job of 21 years and, in August 2016, became an Israeli citizen. We agreed on a oneyear trial period, and if at the end of one year if either one of us felt our marriage was weakened or suffering in any way, all bets were off and she would return to Ohio. Our marriage has always been and will always remain our number one priority. About eight weeks after her arrival in Israel, I visited for Sukkot and was stunned when I laid eyes on her at the bus station. She was absolutely glowing. I told here, “You look different;

any worries about her being in Israel without me. I told her I was extending the trial period for another year. Every three months, either she would come back to Ohio for three months, or I would visit Israel. This continued for about two-and-a-half years, until I made aliyah in June of this year. At present, we are only here part of the year but look forward to retirement soon, when we will be able to spend significantly more time in Israel. We live in a very special place, Ma’ale Adumim, with breathtaking Judean desert views and a warm and welcoming community.

Yosef and Emunah in the place they call home

you are different.” After I spent a few days with her in Ma’ale Adumim, I

could see that she had a very strong support system and I did not have

The Murrays tell the beautiful story of their spiritual journey from being youth leaders in a Christian church to choosing Torah and Judaism in their book, From Rose Bowl to Rashi, A Unique Journey to Orthodox Judaism, which is available at fromrosebowltorashi.com, Amazon, and Pomerantz Bookseller in Jerusalem, Israel.

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Dating Dialogue

What Would You Do If… Moderated by Jennifer Mann, LCSW of The Navidaters

Dear Navidaters,

Our daughter is 21 years old and recently engaged. Since she began dating “Joseph” my wife and I have noticed a change in her personality. It began with her withdrawing from the family, which we chalked up to being enthralled with Joseph and wanting to spend all her free time with him. Slowly, she became what we can only describe as sad. She has lost her sparkle and chein. Others notice the change as well. Our very close neighbors who have known our family for years commented on our daughter’s personality change.

We always had a nagging feeling but it wasn’t something we could put our finger on until we noticed the pattern. He was charismatic and charming when he met our daughter, and we were all taken by him. As we’ve gotten to know him, though, we noticed certain mood swings. There are times when he comes to pick her up and he can barely make eye contact. I am no psychiatrist but Joseph seems to have some personality or mood issue going on that he is either choosing to withhold from us, has told our daughter about and she hasn’t shared it with us, or is undiagnosed. I think our daughter is in way over her head. When Joseph isn’t feeling well, he mistreats her and she becomes his therapist. I hear her pleading on the phone with him and always apologizing profusely for things she says. As a father I want to do everything in my power to break up this relationship but it is not simple. We have already expressed our concerns to our daughter, and she refuses to hear it. We’ve offered her therapy, have enlisted her married siblings and her rabbi from her year in Israel. At this point, we are against their wedding. She is a beautiful young girl who deserves to be in a happy and healthy, mutually satisfying relationship. We fear that if we officially take a stand against the wedding we will lose her. My wife reads your column every Shabbos and suggested that we write in. We look forward to hearing your thoughts about our situation. All advice is much appreciated. Deeply worried parents

Disclaimer: This column is not intended to diagnose or otherwise conclude resolutions to any questions.

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conclusions to any particular question, rather offer areas of exploration for the author and reader. Due to the nature of the column receiving only a short snapshot of an issue, without the benefit of an actual discussion, the panel’s role is to offer a range of possibilities. We hope to open up meaningful dialogue and individual exploration.

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The Panel The Rebbetzin Rebbetzin Faigie Horowitz, M.S. ou are right to be worried. Joseph sounds like a young man with some mental health issues. Take action. You need to get truthful answers from someone who knows him for a long time. You may not get them if you dig directly. Share your concerns with your rabbi or someone of authority in the community who will be able to get honest answers from his teachers, principals, rabbis, friends, and neighbors. Some of this may need to be done in face-to-face meetings because body language will need to be read and words may be ambiguous. S/he must press for answers and the truth about Joseph’s mood swings, control issues, and disrespect. You need to get to the bottom of this with help of strong individuals who care about you and your daughter. Then you will need to get confirmation. This is going to be tricky because there are going to be roadblocks in terms of professional ethics on the part of therapists and mental health professionals. Your daughter is probably doubtful deep inside her conscious. She has probably picked up on some red flags but is too insecure to openly confront what troubles her. Once you get some facts that have been checked out, get some professional guidance on how to break the news of the facts you have uncovered and how to follow up. Language will need to be carefully chosen. The persons who got the information may need to be present as well as family mentors and someone whom your daughter trusts. You must be very careful in how you broach this so she doesn’t feel attacked. Then it will be the two of them forming a united front against the perceived threat to their marriage. This is not going to be easy but with thought, guidance, and care, you can find out what is going on and your daughter can make an educated choice about her future without hysteria. She

will want and need good help then even if she refused professional help until now. Good luck. You will all need it.

The Mother Sarah Schwartz Schreiber, P.A. ou don’t need a degree in psychology. And I don’t have to consult the latest DSM-V (the psychiatrist’s bible) to confirm what you, your wife, your children, and your neighbors already suspect. Joseph is a troubled young man. And no matter what his diagnosis – personality disorder, bipolar II or any variant of emotional instability – your daughter must not marry him. Living with a mentally unstable individual is like riding a very shaky roller coaster; it can destabilize the toughest among us, let alone a vulnerable 21-year-old woman. Witness how her relationship with Joseph has systematically and adversely affected your daughter. Almost from the get-go, after falling prey to Joseph’s charm (a typical sociopathic trait), your daughter was compelled to withdraw from her family. Almost overnight she’s been transformed from an upbeat, charming, young lady to a sad, morose character. Even scarier, she’s exhibiting classic signs of abuse: the secrecy concerning the relationship, the whispered pleas, and tearful apologies. All this, before he’s put a ring on it. With Hashem’s help, this wedding will not take place. Unfortunately, breaking the shidduch will not be easy. Your daughter may be opposed to your rescue efforts either because a) she’s afraid – Joseph is threatening her to choose him over family; or b) she’s feel guilty – Joseph confided that he suffers from a “chemical imbalance” and promises he’ll be cured once married and on the right medication; or c) she feels embarrassed to admit she made a colossal mistake. Whatever prevents her from listening to reason, you, Dad, must enlist a team of professionals (therapist, rabbi, the works) to help figure out the root cause of her resistance

and strategize with your SWAT team on how to set her free. In the meantime, an immediate and possibly effective fix would be to physically extricate your daughter from her current morass; send her on an “engagement” respite to Israel (with a new cell phone). Distance and change of scenery (6,000 thousand miles + Israel + rabbi) may be the curative formula to restore your daughter to her former happy self. Hopefully, after speaking face-to-face with people she has come to trust and respect, your daughter can gain clarity and self-forgiveness about her tumultuous, perilous situation. In time, she will return home with the confidence (to ask you) to tell Joseph, “It’s over!” And when that happy day arrives, there’ll be plenty of hugs and unconditional love, and no “I-toldyou-so’s.”

The Shadchan Michelle Mond his is not an easy thing to write to someone I have never met, about a daughter I know nothing about, but every detail you describe in your letter regarding your precious daughter frightens me. Judging by the details you gave, this is not a healthy relationship. Joseph’s actions sound like the work of a master manipulator who has captivated your daughter and made her feel stuck despite her unhappiness. Like manipulators commonly do, he may be demeaning her and telling her that she is not good enough, thereby diminishing her self-confidence. The best advice to give a person who is stuck in a situation like this is to create a mandatory separation. Plan an impromptu 2-week vacation with her (preferably in a different time zone) and over the course of the personal time shared together, watch her personality come back to life. Use this as a teaching opportunity to show her what true happiness feels like, and this will allow her to properly assess her true feelings without Joseph pulling

Use your maternal and paternal love and care to exemplify how someone with true love for her would make her feel.

her the other way. Use your maternal and paternal love and care to exemplify how someone with true love for her would make her feel. If a vacation is not possible, buy her a very precious gift with a heartfelt letter describing your and your wife’s thoughts. Describe your pain watching her personality shift and her intense efforts to constantly appease Joseph when this is supposed to be such a happy time. If all is said and done, and there is absolutely nothing you can do to show her the gravity of the situation, the best you can do is be the ones to give her endless love and support. Hopefully she will come to the realization on her own. I wish you so much hatzlacha and clarity for your daughter!

The Single Tova Wein hat you are describing sounds, indeed, extremely disturbing. Joseph sounds like a troubled young man, and your daughter is caught in his web. Nothing good could possibly come from this situation. The fact that you have not been shy about expressing your concerns to your daughter and you’ve even enlisted the

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help of others to knock some sense into her, all to no avail, basically covers all of your options, aside, however, from the drastic step of saying to her that you refuse to make a wedding for her until she and Joseph spend a good six months in therapy, hopefully working

out their issues, until they get a “clean bill of health.” It’s a strong move, and there is no way of knowing whether Joseph’s parents will decide to make them a wedding regardless. And as you mentioned, some-

Pulling It All Together

thing so drastic could push your daughter to decide to cut off from you. It’s a serious step and you have to be prepared to tolerate the worst possible consequences. Are you? Unfortunately, as hard as parents try, sometimes they can’t save their children from making enormous mistakes. Some children unfortunately have to make their own mistakes and learn the hard way some

Joseph is like a drug. She is addicted to him, and he is bad for her.

of life’s most difficult lessons. This may be one of those times.

The Navidaters Dating and Relationship Coaches and Therapists

y initial and immediate gut reaction is that you, your wife, and your daughter see a therapist who works with families – as soon as possible. Whatever it takes to get her there, do. If you have to beg or bribe, I think that is fine. You and your wife come across as highly emotionally intelligent and aware people who have tried everything that a good parent would. So, what does your daughter want? Find your leverage. Has she been asking for anything? Every time you hold up a mirror to her and her relationship, she looks away. So, put down the mirror for now. Communicate to her that you both want to understand her relationship with Joseph and you are tired of the strain on your relationship with your daughter. She must be too. My hope is that a few family sessions in and hopefully some individual sessions for your daughter will be helpful in putting a stop to this unhealthy relationship. First, I will put on my professional hat (then, I’m going to put on my maternal hat). We have to accept as parents that our children are going to make their own decisions. Ultimately, if your daughter wants to marry Joseph, she will find a way. There is something inside of her that is attracted to Joseph and she is a willing participant. She doesn’t have the strength to or she doesn’t want to leave. Whatever you do, understand that you run the risk of losing her. That is a bitter pill to swallow.

A nd now for my maternal hat. Your letter has touched me profoundly. Your daughter is walki n g into the fire and you, as her parents, are going to go into that fire to do everything that you can to save her. You’re going to make phone calls to the people in Joseph’s life. You’re going to find an old friend, an old girlfriend or woman he dated in the past, a teacher, his rebbe or shul rav. And you are going to ask, if not beg, these people to call your daughter or come to your home and share their experiences of Joseph. As the “Mother” said, you may want to ship your daughter off to Israel to a warm and loving environment that will provide her with guidance. Bribe her if you have to. If nothing works, you may think about staging an intervention – parents, grandparents, siblings, her closest friends, her mentor. You can hire a professional to facilitate this. We typically think of interventions for drug addicts…. Joseph is like a drug. She is addicted to him, and he is bad for her. I don’t know if you would want to show this column to her, but if you do, my next thought is written for her and anyone who finds themselves in this position. Being in a relationship with someone who makes you feel like he walks on water, only to be in a bad mood for days or weeks at a time, is no way for

you to live. Believe him when he shows you his “bad” side and understand that you will never be able to help him with this. He is making you feel like this is your job, and you believe him. Begging and pleading and crying and withdrawing from your life and “therapizing” your partner is not a marriage. Joseph needs the help of mental health professionals, not a girlfriend or wife. If you continue with this relationship, you will be keeping him in a sick, unhealthy state. He will not get better and you will begin to feel sick mentally, emotionally, and, eventually, physically. You already have. I should never diagnose someone from afar, but your parents have described someone who possibly suffers from mood swings (depressed, manic) or a personality disorder (maybe borderline) or both. He has not taken any steps to help himself. He will not be able to offer you anything in his condition. Joseph is not well enough to love you. This isn’t love. This is an untreat-

ed condition. You have to ask yourself why this is enough for you. What is drawing you to this man? What do you believe you deserve? Do you ever miss the old you? The way you were before Joseph came around? The happy girl with the sparkle in her eye… If you want her back, you can get her. I hope you do. All the best, Jennifer Esther Mann, LCSW and Jennifer Mann, LCSW are licensed psychotherapists and dating and relationship coaches working with individuals, couples and families in private practice in Hewlett, NY. Jennifer is looking forward to teaching a psychology course at Touro College in the fall. To set up a consultation or to ask questions, please call 516.224.7779. Press 1 for Esther, 2 for Jennifer. Visit www.thenavidaters.com for more information. If you would like to submit a dating or relationship question to the panel anonymously, please email thenavidaters@gmail.com. You can follow The Navidaters on FB and Instagram for dating and relationship advice.

Hi Readers! Receiving your enthusiastic emails wanting to participate in the Reader’s Respond section has been wonderful! Just a reminder about how Reader Response works. Email thenavidaters@gmail. com with the subject line “Reader Response.” We will then ask you, in the order we receive your email, if you would like to respond to the coming week’s email. If you would like to respond to an already printed Navidaters Panel, please submit your answer to the editor at editor@fivetownsjewishhome.com. You can also join us on our FB page @thenavidaters on Sunday evenings to post your response to the week’s column. Interacting with you has been a pleasure! Thank you for all of your feedback. Esther and Jennifer

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Dr. Deb

When You Have 31 Different Diagnoses By Deb Hirschhorn, Ph.D.

o you know anyone who, at one time or another, has been diagnosed with Depression, Bipolar Disorder, Oppositional Defiant Disorder (as a child), Panic Disorder, Borderline Personality Disorder, Conduct Disorder (as a child), Addiction Disorder, ADHD, etc.? Did you ever wonder why one person got such a variety of diagnoses? That’s what Bessel van der Kolk wondered, too. In fact, he didn’t exactly wonder. H figured out the reason – and he found the perfect solution. It just fell on deaf ears, as is the case with all that is new and doesn’t go down so comfortably to listeners. So for summer reading, I’ve been absorbed in his 2011 book, The Body Keeps The Score, and for the next couple issues, I’d like to share some amazing findings from this book with you, findings that will surely shake you up and get you out of your comfort zone – which is fine since we shouldn’t get overly relaxed and comfortable just because it’s summer. Not when people are suffering. Bessel van der Kolk was born in the Netherlands but came to the U.S. to study. He earned his M.D. at the

University of Chicago and specialized in Psychiatry. In conjunction with Harvard University, he founded the Trauma Center in 1982. He taught at Harvard until 1999 and also started teaching at Boston University in 1996. His life has been spent researching trauma and applying what he discovered to healing its victims. The book that I will be reviewing has 27 testimonials from outstanding researchers at respected institutions such as Daniel Siegel, M.D., clinical professor at UCLA Medical School; Rachel Yehuda, Ph.D., professor of psychiatry and neuroscience and director of the traumatic stress studies at Mount Sinai Medical School; and Francine Shapiro, Ph.D., creator of EMDR – to name just three. To understand and answer his research questions, van der Kolk or colleagues studied, not only hundreds, but thousands of people. In studying trauma, van der Kolk was faced with many inexplicable questions: Why do some victims numb out while others become hypervigilant? Why do medications that are so successful for some people with a PTSD diagnosis not make a dent in the symptoms of combat veterans?

Why are some children, grown to adulthood, completely disorganized and unable to think or concentrate as a result of their trauma experiences? And why do some victims of abuse (abuse is trauma) end up having a higher probability of being abused again? This last question was particularly puzzling for van der Kolk. Why would anybody go towards, instead of away from, dangerous people and situations, let alone victims of trauma who should, theoretically, know better? For example, early on in his work at the Trauma Center, Vietnam veterans would come for treatment because they could not live the way they were feeling. They were plagued with flashbacks and a feeling of being right back in some moment of horror without recognition that it was a memory; it felt as if it were happening right then. The vets often resorted to alcohol to numb their memories and, in particular, to help them sleep at night. Otherwise they would wake up in a sweat with nightmares whose sense of being real was terrifying. Imagine your buddies being blown up night after night, and it feels as if it’s just

happening fresh each time. Nevertheless, when he created a therapy group for them, what was striking to van der Kolk and his colleagues was the men’s constant gravitation toward the topics of crashes and exploding bombs. In fact, he says that “patients often complain about a vague sense of emptiness and boredom when they are not angry, under duress, or involved in some dangerous activity.” Over time, he was able to explain this in terms of brain activity. When a person experiences trauma, the components of the memory do not get placed in long-term memory as is normal with our experiences. Instead, “the emotions, sounds, images, thoughts, and physical sensations related to the trauma” remain as if “current where they are repeatedly relived.” Not only that, “as long as the trauma is not resolved, the stress hormones that the body secretes to protect itself keep circulating, and the defensive movements and emotional responses keep getting replayed.” Now, we take it one wild step further: “If elements of the trauma are replayed again and again, the accom-

enough to become very compelling. The individual starts to pay less attention to and be less drawn to the ordinary. That’s because it is just ordinary, and our brains are hardwired to attend to what’s not ordinary. That is part of the negativity bias of the

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nightmares – will nevertheless be drawn to the horror and drawn away from day-to-day life. What has all this to do with marriage? The sad reality is that a good, sizeable percent of people were not

“Not being fully alive in the present keeps them more firmly imprisoned in the past.”

brain. Evolutionists believe that that was part of brain function so that we would attend to danger very readily to protect ourselves. So, with this in mind, it makes sense that people suffering horrific flashbacks – so horrific, in fact, that many will forego sleep for fear of the

brought up well. Whether they were put down or neglected or told, “I’ll give you something to cry about,” they suffer trauma. They may not remember episodes and they may not have nightmares and flashbacks, but their experiences still impact their lives and the lives of their loved ones.

Yes, child abuse is trauma. The definition of trauma includes the notion that the individual is mortally afraid. When a parent tells a child that they are leaving or will leave, or doesn’t even tell the child but simply is not there one day when the child gets home from school, that is frightening. Whether the child recognizes the fear or turns it off to survive, it’s frightening. It therefore is necessary for those loved ones who are married to those grown up children to understand what’s happening. Obviously, understanding is only the first step in dealing with the problem, but it’s a vital one. Stay tuned for more on this. I know I still didn’t answer the question we started with. Dr. Deb Hirschhorn is a Marriage and Family Therapist. If you want help with your marriage, begin by signing up to watch her Masterclass at https://drdeb. com/myw-masterclass.

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panying stress hormones engrave those memories ever more deeply in the mind. Ordinary, day-to-day events become less and less compelling.” Not only that, the individual to whom this is happening is so pre-occupied with the trauma fragments that he or she will miss out on the ordinary joys. So not only is the ordinary “less compelling” but the individual to whom this happens doesn’t even know what it is. Reality starts to feel unreal, and the memories of the past are ever-present and very much real. This, in turn, means that “not being able to deeply take in what is going on around them makes it impossible to feel fully alive. It becomes harder to feel the joys and aggravations of ordinary life, harder to concentrate on the tasks at hand. Not being fully alive in the present keeps them more firmly imprisoned in the past.” Do you see the vicious circle here? The trauma fragments flash often

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The Soy Story By Cindy Weinberger MS, RD, CDN

oy foods have been a staple in the Asian diet for hundreds of years but are relatively new to the Western diet. Soy protein consumption in Japan is reported to be as much as 55 grams a day, compared to less than 5 grams a day in the United States. In the past 10 years, soy foods have become increasingly popular in the United States, mostly due to their beneficial effects on the body. Soy is considered a complete protein, containing all of the essential amino acids that the body needs yet is unable to synthesize. Soy beans are also a rich source of calcium, iron, zinc, phosphorus, magnesium, B-vitamins, omega 3 fatty acids, and fiber. Due to its high nutrient concentration, soy has many powerful benefits such as heart health, healthy bones, menopause, and cancer prevention. One of the many benefits of soy is its cholesterol-lowering effect which plays a role in heart disease. Soy contains a soluble fiber which helps lower LDL cholesterol, while preserving HDL cholesterol. By replacing animal products with soy, one can lower their total and LDL cholesterol levels which has a major impact on heart disease. The FDA health claim for soy protein recommends at least 25 grams of soy proteins a day. Another benefit of soy is its high calcium concentration which is im-

portant in bone health. In addition, soy consists of isoflavones which inhibits the breakdown of bones. Daidzein is an isoflavone that is very similar to the drug ipriflavone which is used to treat osteoporosis. Furthermore, studies have shown that high soy intake is associated with lower bone fracture in post-menopausal women.

cer. However, recent studies demonstrate that soy might actually have an opposite effect, and, in fact, be beneficial in cancer patients. Phytoestrogens found in soy foods are considered “anti-estrogens” and block estrogen from reaching the receptors, thus protecting women from developing breast cancer. Even more, women diagnosed with

By replacing animal products with soy, one can lower their total and LDL cholesterol levels.

Soy has also been shown to alleviate menopausal symptoms and preventing hot flashes. Researchers believe that soy includes substances which mimic estrogen activity. Therefore, this substance is thought to help the body cope more effectively with the reduction of estrogen levels during menopause. Throughout the years, soy was thought to have a negative impact on various types of cancer. Experts believed that soy is thought to play a role in causing hormone-related cancers, such as breast cancer and prostate can-

breast cancer were followed, and research showed that those with highest intake of dietary isoflavones (the phytoestrogens in soy) had a 21% decrease in all caused mortality. As good as it sounds, soy is not for everyone. Along with the benefits come the drawbacks. Soy can be dangerous for those with thyroid issues. Soy contains goitrogens, which can decrease thyroid function. Therefore, those with hypothyroidism or hyperthyroidism should avoid soy at all costs. Furthermore, soy has been shown

to affect fertility, and therefore, those with fertility troubles should avoid soy as well. Some believe that soy has a negative effect on fertility due to its growth being genetically modified. Whether soy is good for you or bad for you is extremely controversial, especially since a large percentage of babies are fed soy-based formulas. As mentioned above, soy has been shown to have numerous health benefits and is a great source of protein, yet can be dangerous to some as well. My recommendation is to limit soy consumption if you have any thyroid, fertility issues, or other hormonal imbalances. Otherwise, enjoy soy one to two times a week, worry free. Soy products can be eaten as edamame, tofu, tempeh, soy milk, soy beans, soy nuts, or any other way you prefer. Enjoy the soy!

Cindy Weinberger MS, RD, CDN, is a Master’s level Registered Dietitian and Certified Dietitian-Nutritionist. She graduated CUNY Brooklyn College receiving a Bachelor’s in Science and Master’s degree in Nutrition and Food Sciences. She is currently a dietitian at Boro Park Center and a private nutrition consultant located in Brooklyn and the Five Towns. She can be reached at CindyWeinberger1@gmail.com.

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Shakshuka By Naomi Nachman

Everyone I know loves an Israeli breakfast. Here is a quick and easy shakshuka recipe to make at home – and imagine that you are sitting in an outdoor café in Israel eating breakfast. Ingredients 1 large onion, cubed 4 garlic cloves, crushed 1 28 oz. can crushed tomato 1 14 oz. can diced tomato 1 bunch chopped cilantro, finely diced Salt, pepper, cumin, to taste 6 eggs

Preparation Sauté onion for 5 minutes until soft on medium heat. Add in garlic and stir until it is soft for another 5 minutes. Add in rest of ingredients, aside for the eggs, and simmer and stir for 15 minutes until reduced down and flavors are concentrated. Crack the eggs individually and lower each one into different areas of the pan. Cook the eggs in the hot sauce until cooked through.

Naomi Nachman, the owner of The Aussie Gourmet, caters weekly and Shabbat/ Yom Tov meals for families and individuals within The Five Towns and neighboring communities, with a specialty in Pesach catering. Naomi is a contributing editor to this paper and also produces and hosts her own weekly radio show on the Nachum Segal Network stream called “A Table for Two with Naomi Nachman.” Naomi gives cooking presentations for organizations and private groups throughout the New York/New Jersey Metropolitan area. In addition, Naomi has been a guest host on the QVC TV network and has been featured in cookbooks, magazines as well as other media covering topics related to cuisine preparation and personal chefs. To obtain additional recipes, join The Aussie Gourmet on Facebook or visit Naomi’s blog. Naomi can be reached through her website, www.theaussiegourmet.com or at (516) 295-9669.

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“Have Fun With Your Food” TJH SPEAKS WITH RIVKY KLEIMAN, AUTHOR OF SIMPLY GOURMET

By Susan Schwamm Rivky, thank you for taking the time to speak with TJH. I have been making your recipes for so long – seeing them in Mishpacha and in your cookbooks for a while now. It’s almost like you’ve been a guest at my Shabbos table so many times – and you just don’t know it. That’s the nicest thing to hear. I love being part of and enhancing people’s lives. You’ve co-authored the Bais Yaakov cookbooks and just released your first cookbook, Simply Gourmet. What pushed you to come out with a cookbook of your own? Simply Gourmet has been in the works for a while. I had so many of my friends, peers, and coworkers telling me to put out my own cookbook, especially when Bais Yaakov II came out. My final push, the real impetus, behind Simply Gourmet was when Renee Muller – who styles my book and I think is a classic act and a league of her own – said to me one time when I was

dropping off food for a photoshoot for Mishpacha, “OK, Rivky, this is it. You are making a cookbook, and I am going to style it for you.” And I looked at her and said, “OK.” And the rest is history. So we have Renee to thank for Simply Gourmet! How long did it take from her “push” to publication? Believe it or not, it was 5 ½ months – that’s it. Five-and-a-half of the most intense months in my life. I ate, slept, and breathed cookbook. And I couldn’t even sleep well at night because I was dreaming cookbook. Baruch Hashem, it was very intense, but it was an unbelievable experience. Did you need to create new recipes specifically for the Simply Gourmet? Absolutely. There were very little that was, shall we say, ready to go. I had been thinking of writing a cookbook for a while so I had my special bank of ideas. I had some ideas in my mind; some I marked down; some I had been working on.

I like to say that I’m a traditionalist in my heart but with a twist. I don’t like to do same old, same old. If you’re familiar with my style, you’ll see that I like to get a little creative with my recipes but I don’t want to stray too far that it becomes frightening. You’re a recipe developer. Where do you start from? Do you look at a cut of meat and say you want it taste a certain way? It happens in multiple ways. Sometimes you can go to a restaurant and have a dish and you say, “This is so ‘wowzer,’ I’m going to go home to see how I can duplicate it – so that could be an inspiration. Or under pressure, like with the cookbook, I’ve come up with different recipes. Take my Cashew and Broccoli Stir Fry. I knew I wanted a stir fry. But I didn’t know if I should put in sugar snap peas or broccoli. But I was under pressure and I needed to complete it, and I had the broccoli, so I put that in. Looking back, if I would have looked at the table of contents in the cookbook, I probably would have used sugar snap peas. In any case, I knew I

wanted to use hoisin sauce and garlic for the sauce, and it ended up coming together really well. How many times do you have to work on a recipe for it to be successful? It depends. Usually it’s not on the first shot. If it does work right away, I say, “Thank you, Hashem!” but look at my Lotus Ribbon Bundt Cake. That took me seven times to get it really right. My husband kept on saying that I should give up. But I told him, “You need a Bundt cake in a cookbook.” I worked it, and I worked it. When it finally came together, that was eureka. When you work so hard, you become very close to that recipe. What are your favorite recipes from Simply Gourmet? I know it’s hard to choose, since it’s like asking which child is your favorite. You’re right. It’s so hard to choose because it sounds crazy but a lot of them have become family-loved recipes in our home.

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My family happens to love sushi. My way to appeal to that love was to create the Salmon and Kani Ceviche, which I put in the book as an appetizer. It’s so fanta-bulous I make it every Friday night. We style in the book in a free style, which is popular now, but I serve it more traditionally. I make guacamole and place it in the bottom of a ramekin, filling around a quarter of the ramekin. Then I put the ceviche on top. When I turn it over, you see the guacamole on top and the ceviche on the bottom. I top it with fresh parsley and drizzle it with sweet sauce or balsamic reduction and put soy sauce on the side. My kids also love the Apple Galette, which we put in the cookbook as a side, but you can also serve as dessert. In my home, all my kids love the Roasted Veggies and Quinoa, which has become a staple. I can’t make enough of that. We eat it cold or room temperature. It tastes great either way. My kids love the “simple suppers” in the book because we didn’t compromise on taste and they love that they can have a full dinner in less than an hour, tops – the Garlic-Mayo Skirt Steak Dinner, Cranberry Chicken Sheet Pan Dinner, Cashew and Broccoli Stir Fry, General Tso’s Chicken and Broccoli Bake, Oven Southern Fried Chicken, Crispy Orange Beef – that’s just a couple of them. They’re all so good, and easy, and taste great in no time. Another recipe I really like is the Poached Mediterranean Flounder; it’s insane. That one worked out in two shots. The first time, my kids said you need a bit more sauce and that the sauce needs to be more liquid-y. I made it for them, and they all devoured it for lunch.

You know, it was with some of these recipes in mind that I put in the section “Brunch, Lunch, & Beyond” in the book. I wanted something that was food plus fun that could be created anytime. What I’m so proud of, what my aspiration was, was that every recipe in the cookbook should be a superstar in its own right. I wanted every recipe to be something people will make over and over. One of my daughters told me, when she read the cookbook, “Ma, I’m so not bored. I’m loving it. Every recipe is so great.” I thought that was a really big compliment. My middle daughter told me,

The Poached Mediterranean Flounder is great for the Nine Days. What else do you recommend to make for the Nine Days? Definitely try the Crustless Onion and Chive Quiche. The Malawah Calzones are also amazing. All the fish, for sure, are great for the Nine Days. The Quinoa-Crusted Branzino is wild. The flavor profile is so good, I can have it every day. Of course, the Maple-Barbecue Salmon is perfect. Also, I love the Snappy Lemon and Garlic Salmon. The pastas are also delicious. You should definitely make them during the Nine Days.

How old are your children? My children range from 30 to 17.

When I was a newlywed, I would spend 15 hours on a dessert. Who has time for that? As my family grew, I cut down on the time spent on dinners but I never gave up on serving real, good dinners every night. That’s what the cookbook is about. “Simply gourmet” sounds like an oxymoron. But we accomplished that with the book. The recipes are easy to make but are well-rounded, delicious, and look good. So, back to my daughter, when we were doing photoshoots, sometimes, when we were working all day, and we were working on desserts, I had no time to prepare dinner, and we had to

“MY ASPIRATION WAS THAT EVERY RECIPE IN THE COOKBOOK SHOULD BE A SUPERSTAR IN ITS OWN RIGHT.” “Mommy, I take your book to bed with me at night. I read it like a novel. I go through every page, every recipe. It’s a feast for the eyes.” Hashem has blessed me with a dream team. The food styling was done by Renee Muller and the photography was done by Moshe Wulliger, and they are both so talented. I feel so blessed.

How do you balance being a mother and working and presenting outside the home? That’s a wonderful question. To me, family always comes first. My youngest, who is the only one at home now, had to give up a bit for the cookbook. I’m so grateful to her. My kids grew up with me completely devoted to them – they had a full dinner every night with salad, soup, a side, a protein. I made very real dinners, which didn’t take me a long time but were so good.

eat out. And she’d say, “Oh, when is this going to be over?” But it worked out. When you go out to eat, what do you like to order? I like good food. And I’m willing to try new things out. I’m more adventurous maybe than other people. I love duck and lamb. My husband is king of the grill, so I don’t necessarily need a steak when I go to a restaurant. To me, the biggest disappointment is when you eat out and you say, “Oh, I could have done this better at home.” We hope that doesn’t happen often. Sometimes, when I eat out at high-end restaurants, the food becomes an inspiration for me. What about trends in kosher cooking? It’s been unbelievable – in the last 10 years, the kosher palate has changed. Fifteen years ago, if you told someone that they were eating raw fish, they’d give you a look. But now, most people can’t get enough of it. There

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are some people who haven’t hopped on that wagon yet, so when I serve the Salmon and Kani Ceviche when I have guests, I always make sure to also serve salmon. I’m training them slowly. You know, even kids eat differently than years ago. My granddaughter, who’s five years old, told me, “I love red meaties, Bubby!” She told my son that she likes it because it’s juicy. It’s so cute. What five ingredients do you have to have on-hand when you’re cooking? Are we assuming that kosher salt, pepper and olive oil are not included? Then I would say I love maple syrup, Dijon mustard, and something for acidity like different vinegars and lemon juice or lime juice. I love chili powder – I think it adds so much to meats – and I also love smoked paprika, it gives such a nice depth. It can change the whole flavor profile in your dishes. You’re so busy, between your profession and your family. What do you do to relax? My top way to relax is spending time with the kids and grandkids. I also love music. And I love working out and reading. I really have gotten into historical fiction. I feel it’s so important for my children to know more about the Holocaust. ArtScroll has great historical novels on the Holocaust and wonderful non-fiction books on the Holocaust. I read those books, and I pass them on. I also love to read food magazines and seeing the trends in the industry. What’s your advice to people looking to enhance their cooking skills? Make it fun. Don’t be scared. Don’t be afraid to try. I have learned through cooking and playing with different ingredients to never say never. I used to think that jalapenos were so hot. But now I love jalapenos. Whether with ceviche or salmon, I dice them finely and use them in my recipes. I’ve made a barbecue sauce with jalapeno, which is not too hot. The jalapenos add layers and depths of flavor to the sauce. Enjoy what you’re making, have fun, and don’t be afraid to experiment with ingredients and different foods.

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Simply Gourmet RECIPES RIVKY KLEIMAN PHOTOGRAPHY MOSHE WULLIGER

This truly is a restaurant-worthy dairy delicacy. Dairy • Yields 6-8 servings INGREDIENTS 8 oz. 2 TBS 1 lb. 2 cloves 1 tsp 1/3 cup 1½ tsp 1 tsp 2 tsp 1 tsp ¼-½ tsp ½ cup 1 TBS

fettucine butter sliced steak mushrooms or large baby bella mushrooms garlic, crushed pareve beef broth powder, dissolved in 1/3 cup water semisweet or dry white wine low sodium soy sauce cornstarch Dijon mustard sea salt black pepper heavy cream dried parsley flakes

PREPARATION Prepare pasta according to package instructions. Drain; rinse and set aside. Melt butter in a large skillet over medium-high heat. Add sliced mushrooms and garlic. Stir until well coated. Sauté for 10-15 minutes until all mushrooms are slightly browned. Transfer to a bowl. Combine pareve beef broth, wine, soy sauce, cornstarch, mustard, salt, and pepper in a small bowl. Add mixture to the skillet; bring to a boil. Stir until mixture begins to thicken, about 1 minute. Add cooked pasta and mushrooms; stir to coat. Add heavy cream and parsley flakes. Stir until well combined. Remove from heat and serve.

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Lotus Ribbon Bundt Cake My top criteria for a perfect cake are moist texture and fabulous flavor. Achieving this combination was not easy. After many trials, I took one bite and knew this one was a keeper. This “honey” cake is a great idea to make for Rosh Hashana. Pareve • Yields 12 servings INGREDIENTS Lotus Filling ¾ cup crushed Lotus cookie crumbs (14 cookies) 1 oz. bittersweet chocolate, grated Cake 2 cups ½ cup

flour vanilla instant pudding mix (1 [3.5-oz] package) 1 tsp sea salt 1 tsp baking powder ½ tsp baking soda ¾ cup orange juice ¼ cup honey ¼ cup bourbon 1 TBS vanilla extract ¾ cup canola oil 1¾ cups sugar 4 eggs Chocolate Glaze 3.5 oz. bittersweet chocolate, very finely diced or grated ¼ cup almond creamer or nondairy whipping cream, hot 2 TBS light corn syrup ¼ tsp vanilla extract pinch sea salt

PREPARATION Adjust oven rack to middle-lower rack. Preheat oven to 350°F. Grease and flour a 12-cup Bundt pan; set aside.

Prepare the Lotus filling: In a small bowl, toss together cookie crumbs and grated chocolate. Set aside. Prepare the cake: In a medium bowl, whisk together flour, pudding mix, salt, baking powder, and baking soda. In a small bowl, whisk together orange juice, honey, bourbon, and vanilla extract. Set bowls aside. In the large bowl of an electric mixer at medium speed, beat together oil and sugar until combined. Add eggs, one at a time, beating until light and fluffy. Lower mixer speed; beat in ⅓ flour mixture, followed by ½ liquid mixture. Beat in remaining flour and liquid mixtures until just combined. Pour half the batter into the prepared pan. Smooth

the top. Sprinkle evenly with filling. Pour remaining batter over filling. Gently tap the pan on the counter to settle the batter. Bake for 50-60 minutes, until a toothpick inserted into cake comes out clean with a few moist crumbs. Allow cake to cool 10 minutes, then turn out onto a cooling rack. Allow cake to cool 2 hours. Transfer to cake plate. Prepare the chocolate glaze: In a medium bowl, whisk all glaze ingredients together until smooth. Allow to set and thicken for 25 minutes. Pour over completely cooled cake. Allow glaze to set before serving. Note: This recipe is freezer friendly! Recipes reprinted with permission from Artscroll/ Mesorah Publications.

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Notable Quotes “Say What?!”

When these comments first started, I kind of thought that she was keeping the progressive flank at more of an arm’s distance in order to protect more moderate members, which I understood. But the persistent singling out — it got to a point where it was just outright disrespectful — the explicit singling out of newly elected women of color. — Rep. Alexandria Ocasio-Cortes (Socialist/Dem-NY), in an interview with the Washington Post accusing Speaker of the House Nancy Pelosi of racism

I was assigned to some of the busiest committees and four subcommittees. So my hands are full. And sometimes I wonder if they’re trying to keep me busy.

My first act will be to ask Megan Rapinoe to be my secretary of state.

— Ibid., in an interview with WNYC, accusing Pelosi of intentionally saddling her with work to keep her out of the spotlight

— 2020 presidential candidate Gov. Jay Inslee (D-WA), at the progressive political convention Netroots Nation, talking about the U.S. Women’s National Soccer team cocaptain Megan Rapinoe who kneeled for the National Anthem even while representing America on the world soccer stage

What a weak argument, because you can’t get your way and because you’re getting pushback you resort to using the race card? Unbelievable. That’s unbelievable to me.

She wants a Kaepernick deal with Nike… She’s angling for a Kaepernick. She’s showing Nike she can be just as anti-American as Kaepernick.

— Rep. William Lacy Clay (D-MO), a member of the Congressional Black Caucus, criticizing Cortez’s comments

– Rush Limbaugh talking about Megan Rapinoe

It is [said] that I am anti-American because I criticize the United States. I believe, as an immigrant, I probably love this country more than anyone that is naturally born and because I am ashamed of it continuing to live in its hypocrisy. — Rep. Ilhan Omar (D-MN), who in the past has criticized Americans for being critical of alQaeda, at a conference last weekend

By Allah, I don’t know where they get the blood from. — Fouad AbdelWahed, a professor at King Saud University, on Egyptian TV this week, explaining how Orthodox Jews use human blood as one of the ingredients in Pesach matzah

For much of our nation’s history, people of color – particularly women – have been marginalized and discriminated against simply because of their hair style or texture. By signing this bill into law, we are taking an important step toward correcting that history and ensuring people of color are protected from all forms of discrimination. — Statement by Gov. Andrew Cuomo (D-NY) upon signing a bill on Monday prohibiting race discrimination based on natural hair or hairstyles

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The first thing to understand about “The Lion King” is that it isn’t in any way about lions, or any other animal species. As in every fable, a variety of cute and cuddly figures stand in for human societal organizations. Mapping our internalized social hierarchies onto the pristine and “neutral” world of the animal kingdom renders these power dynamics natural, common-sense and desirable. But by using predator-prey relationships to allegorize human power, the film almost inevitably incorporates the white supremacist’s worldview, one in which some groups of people are inherently superior to others. — From a Washington Post op-ed titled, “‘The Lion King’ is a fascistic story. No remake can change that,” by Dan HasslerForest

So interesting to see “Progressive” Democrat Congresswomen, who originally came from countries whose governments are a complete and total catastrophe, the worst, most corrupt and inept anywhere in the world (if they even have a functioning government at all), now loudly...and viciously telling the people of the United States, the greatest and most powerful Nation on earth, how our government is to be run. Why don’t they go back and help fix the totally broken and crime infested places from which they came. Then come back and show us how...it is done. These places need your help badly, you can’t leave fast enough. I’m sure that Nancy Pelosi would be very happy to quickly work out free travel arrangements!

New York City suffered a major blackout on Saturday that left over 70,000 people in Manhattan without power. Of course, in Manhattan, 70,000 people is two Starbucks and a Jamba Juice. — Seth Meyers

At the Plaza Hotel, the lights went off right before a couple exchanged vows. Even worse, the bride had just said, “G-d, if this is a mistake, please give me a sign.” — Jimmy Fallon

– Series of Tweets by President Trump about four progressive congresswomen (Reps. Ocasio-Cortez, Omar, Tlaib and Pressley) who have been loudly criticizing the U.S. since joining Congress earlier this year

We all know that AOC and this crowd are a bunch of Communists, they hate Israel, they hate our own Country, they’re calling the guards along our Border (the Border Patrol Agents) Concentration Camp Guards, they accuse people who support Israel as doing it for the Benjamins…they are AntiSemitic, they are Anti-America… - Ibid.

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Americans are much more reasonable and moderate than what you might guess when you see a little Twitter war. But I’m guessing that the purpose of many Twitter wars is to polarize people and, in fact, we’ve seen that happen because you can often trace some of the fighting groups to the same location. Outrage is profitable. Most of the outrage I’ve seen in the online world – I would guess 80% – someone’s faking it for profit. — Craigslist founder Craig Newmark, in an interview with The Guardian

When the crowd is chanting “Roger,” I hear “Novak.” It sounds silly, but it is like that. I try to convince myself that it’s like that. — 2019 Wimbledon champion Novak Djokovic telling The New York Times about a little mental trick that he did when the Roger Federer-supporting crowd chanted during their duel

The left calls him Hitler, accuses him of [bad things] and attacks his family. He swings back in his chosen fashion, but the outrage is reserved only for his tactics. Lather, rinse, repeat. No minds are changed. Trump will not lose his base over this, and the Democrats will not realize new waves of support. The postures of both sides are baked into the casserole we will chew on until November of next year. – Mark Davis, Townhall

Mayors are important. And situations like this come up, you know. And you have to be on-site. ... I think it’s important to be in a place where you can always respond, but look, everybody makes their own political judgment, and I’m not going to second-guess anyone either. - Gov. Andrew Cuomo criticizing his rival Mayor Bill de Blasio for campaigning in Iowa last Saturday when a blackout hit New York City

The U.S. Air Force always stands ready to protect America and its assets. — An Air Force spokeswoman, telling the Washington Post that UFO enthusiasts should stand down from their plan to storm Area 51 and “see them aliens”

I regret that I will miss the rest of the revolution. Doing what I can to help defend my precious and wondrous people is an experience too rich to describe. I am Antifa. — From Van Spronse’s (age 69) manifesto, written shortly before he attacked an ICE facility with incendiary devices last Sunday and was quickly shot and killed by armed agents

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Political Crossfire

Like it or Not, Democrats, Trump is on a Roll By David Ignatius

he agonizing fact for Democrats this summer is that President Trump appears to be gaining ground on domestic and foreign policy, while his potential challengers are quarreling and mostly spinning their wheels. Trump is taunting allies and defying Congress – and seemingly getting away with it. He isn’t just rewriting the political rulebook; he’s tossing it aside. And the painful fact is that the Democrats haven’t figured out a way to stop his forward momentum, even when they believe it’s taking the country over a cliff. Trump remains a divisive and unpopular leader who is vulnerable in 2020. But a Washington Post-ABC News poll released last weekend was the clearest warning yet for Democrats that Trump is gaining strength beyond his core base of support. Trump’s approval rating has risen 5 points since April, to 44%, according to the Post-ABC News survey. His disapproval rating is 53%, but his support is still the highest he’s had as president. The RealClearPolitics average of major polls shows a similar trend. Trump would probably be doing even better if so many people weren’t turned off by his crass behavior. Commentator Steve Rattner recently noted the gap between the 56% predicted support for an incumbent with this record, as modeled by Yale economist Ray Fair, and Trump’s much lower actual support in polls.

Trump’s best issue is the economy. Last week’s employment report showed sharp job growth, led by manufacturing. There are caveats: the distribution of rewards is grossly unequal, and growth has been pumped by deficit spending. There are signs of weakness ahead, too, but even The New York Times Editorial Board agrees with Trump that the Federal Reserve should cut interest rates, perhaps extending the recovery longer.

ing a deal that produces only modest gains. That’s been the case so far with North Korea, China and Mexico – and it’s probably where Trump wants to head with Iran. If you were to do a cost-benefit analysis of Trump’s foreign policy, the damage he’s done to allies would far outweigh any gains against potential adversaries. But Trump doesn’t pay the cost because, for all his belligerent “America First” talk, he’s avoiding

The public sadly seems almost as weary of Democrats’ investigations as of Trump’s scandals.

Trump anti-immigrant policies are appalling, but they don’t seem to be costing him politically. The Democrats, in their indignant response, have moved so far toward what critics argue is a policy of open borders that they may unintentionally make this issue a net winner for Trump. Trump’s foreign policy has been a disruptive megaphone, with little real success to show, but here again, he gets away with it. His approach has become predictable: he threatens fire and fury, imposes economic sanctions, and then starts bargain-

new wars and says he wants to withdraw from Syria and Afghanistan. Polls suggest a continuing public distaste for Trump’s erratic, egoistic personal style, with 65% finding his behavior “unpresidential” in the Post-ABC News poll. The daily Trump show leaves the country exhausted and frazzled, and you can hypothesize a Democratic challenger who would be calming, trustworthy and unifying. But looking at the Democratic field, it’s not clear yet who could actually deflate Trump’s balloon. The

Democrats appear increasingly divided; they’re skewing further left as candidates compete for the party’s base; young progressives seem eager to pick fights with House Speaker Nancy Pelosi and other leaders. The public sadly seems almost as weary of Democrats’ investigations as of Trump’s scandals. A Democrat who could, in theory, put a stopper in Trump’s bottle is former Vice President Joe Biden. He has experience, talented advisers, support from labor and some other traditional Democratic constituencies, and money. What he doesn’t have is pizzazz. Biden gave a solid foreign-policy speech last Thursday that was a reminder of what “normal” sounds like. His call for American leadership in the world was a reminder of how much damage Trump has done in abdicating that role. Democrats should wake up: like it or not, Trump is on something of a roll. Twenty candidates bickering onstage looks worryingly like a recipe for four more years. Hillary Clinton thought Trump would beat himself, but she was wrong. The Democrat who can win in 2020 will be the one who presents a reassuring contrast to this loud but chronically insecure president. The polls say Trump is beatable, but it will take a strong, sensible campaign that can pull voters in the middle, where this race will be won or lost. (c) 2019, Washington Post Writers Group

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Biden’s Electability is a Myth By Marc A. Thiessen

espite a lackluster debate performance, former vice president Joe Biden is still holding onto his lead in the race for the Democratic nomination in large part because Democratic voters see him as the most electable candidate. A Washington Post-ABC News poll finds that a 45 percent plurality of voters believe Biden has the best chance of beating President Trump. No other candidate comes even close. But what if those voters are wrong? To win back the presidency, Democrats must retake states such as Pennsylvania, Michigan, Wisconsin and Ohio where once-reliable working-class Democrats opted for Trump in 2016. The rationale for Biden’s campaign is that he is the candidate best positioned to win back these “forgotten Americans” who voted twice for him and President Barack Obama. In fact, he may be the worst candidate to try to do that. These voters left during Obama and Biden’s tenure for Trump for a reason -- they didn’t get the hope and change they were promised. During the Obama administration, the United States lost almost 200,000 manufacturing jobs. Indeed, Obama told them to get used to it, because some manufacturing jobs “are just not go-

ing to come back.” Well, guess what? They’re coming back under Trump. Since Trump’s election, the United States has added more than 500,000 manufacturing jobs. On his watch, the unemployment rate for Americans without a high school diploma reached the lowest point ever recorded, and their

sick and tired of the political establishments of both parties that ignored them or took their votes for granted. And Biden is the epitome of the very establishment they voted to remove from the halls of power. He arrived in Washington in 1973 and has been a fixture on the nation’s capital for decades. He is probably

In the land of the blind, the one-eyed man in king.

wages rose more than 6% last year, outpacing all other groups. In Michigan, unemployment is just 4.2%; in Ohio, it is 4.1%; in Pennsylvania, it is 3.8%; and in Wisconsin, it is just 2.8%. America’s biggest economic problem is that we have 1.6 million more job openings than unemployed people to fill those jobs. Why would these voters reverse course when they are doing so much better under Trump? These voters also cast their ballots for Trump because they were

the last person to whom anti-establishment voters would want to turn. Trump is going to portray Biden as a creature of the Washington swamp, and call him out as a corrupt politician who used his power and influence to enrich his family. And Trump will have plenty of ammunition to back those claims. Biden’s son Hunter’s international business dealings had a curious pattern of intersecting with the vice president’s diplomatic efforts with governments of countries of concern to the United

States. Whether it was Hunter’s $1 billion deal with the Bank of China less than two weeks after the vice president brought Hunter to Beijing aboard Air Force Two, or the vice president’s insistence that Ukraine dismiss its top prosecutor who happened to be investigating an oligarch who owned a Ukrainian energy company paying Hunter $50,000 a month to serve on its board, there is plenty of smoke there. That is not going to play well with the forgotten Americans. Trump is going to portray Biden as a Washington insider who enriched his family while backing all the disastrous trade deals that destroyed so many American manufacturing jobs. Trump will tell working-class voters that Biden’s family got rich while you lost your livelihoods – until I brought your jobs back. Biden is perceived as electable for one reason: because the rest of the Democratic field has gone so far to the left. In the land of the blind, the one-eyed man is king. With most of the other leading candidates having embraced socialism and open borders, Biden looks like a winner by comparison. But Biden’s electability is a myth. Trump will be just as happy to run against the swamp creature as anyone else. (c) 2019, Washington Post Writers Group

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Landing on the Moon By Avi Heiligman

Apollo 11 lifts off

Author’s note: Before I begin, please do not email me with conspiracy theories of how the moon landings were faked. A lot of research has gone into proving the moon landings actually did happen, including spectacular space imagery showing the six lunar modules still on the moon.

xploring new lands and frontiers has been a concept since at least the ancient Phoenicians, 4,500 years ago. They were looking for new trade routes, and some historians believe they made it all the way to England. Roman trade routes went to many remote places in Africa, and the Vikings are the first known explorers to have reached North America. The European Age of Discovery not only opened up new trade routes but established permanent colonies that eventually formed their own countries. Polar exploration was achieved in the early 20th century and stopped with the arrival of satellite technology exploration of Earth. However, people love to explore, and this desire has led to humans exploring space. Fifty years ago, this month Neil Armstrong and Buzz Collins achieved the incred-

From left – Neil Armstrong, Michael Collins, and Buzz Aldrin Jr.

ible feat of being the first humans to step foot on the moon. The Age of Enlightenment brought the dawn of the telescope and with it the discovery of planets, the solar system, and the understanding that there are other galaxies beyond the scope of the human eye. Of course, these

launch a successful satellite and was further embarrassed when Soviet Cosmonaut Yuri Gagarin flew the first manned space mission. Vostok 1 took off in 1961, and two years later the Soviets sent the first woman into space. A few months after Gagarin went into space, Alan Sheppard became the first

“Houston, Tranquility Base here. The Eagle has landed.”

discoveries brought the feeling of a new type of explorations, although it wasn’t until the Cold War that it was understood that it might actually be possible to send rockets into space. The Soviets achieved the distinction of sending an unscrewed satellite into orbit named Sputnik 1 in 1957. A few months later, in 1958, the Americans successfully launched Explorer 1. The Space Race was on. America had been second to

American to be launched into space in his craft called Freedom 7. In 1962, John Glenn became the first American to enter orbit. President John Kennedy pushed for a moon landing, and in September 1963 proposed an unprecedented joint effort between the Soviets and the Americans. After Kennedy’s assassination in November 1963, each country pursued space exploration on their own with President Lyndon

Johnson pushing the American effort and Kennedy’s legacy. Both sides experienced disasters in 1967, but by 1969 the Americans fixed their fatal flaws and were ready to shoot for the moon. Previous Apollo missions had proven that it was possible to enter the moon’s orbit and had tested the command and lunar modules that would be used for Apollo 11. Apollo 10 had reached a distance of less than nine miles above the moon and confirmed that all the components for a successful moon landing were there. On July 16, 1969, Neil Armstrong, Buzz Aldrin and Michael Collins climbed into their Saturn V launch vehicle in front of an estimated TV crowd of 25 million. Former President Lyndon Johnson and many other dignitaries watched the launch live from the Kennedy Space Center in Florida. The name of the command module (CM) which Collins would ride in while the other two landed on the moon was called Columbia. The Eagle was the name of the lunar module (LM). (The details of the launch are a bit long so the author refers those readers that are interested to other reading material that will

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Neil Armstrong saluting the U.S. flag

explain how a space launch works.) Three days after the launch, Apollo 11 entered the lunar orbit, and the crew was able to visualize their landing zone. The next day, July 20, 1969, Armstrong and Aldrin entered the Eagle and separated from Columbia. Collins was set to orbit around the moon and inspect the Eagle for any damage. However, there were a few issues with the computer systems on board, and the Eagle was going too fast to land at the designated spot. Ground control told the crew not to abort the mission, and the landings proceeded. Armstrong was aware that their propellant supply was quickly dwindling and decided to land at the first feasible location. Boulders and craters were to be avoided and finally a clear patch of ground was located. The descent was without incident, and the Eagle finally touched down on the surface of the moon, with just 25 seconds’ worth of fuel left. Armstrong told ground control, “Houston, Tranquility Base here. The Eagle has landed.” Wearing their bulky spacesuits, Armstrong and Aldrin exited Eagle to walk on the surface of the moon. Three and a half hours after landing, the astronauts were ready to step onto the moon. As he stepped onto the lunar surface, Armstrong proclaimed to all watching the broadcast “That’s one small step for a man, one giant leap for mankind.” He described the surface as very fine grained and almost like a powder. After several minutes, Armstrong collected soil samples and was soon joined by Aldrin. The moon’s gravity posed no prob-

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lem for the astronauts as they were able to move around easily. They planted the American flag there, and Armstrong gave it a salute. President Nixon then called them from the Oval Office and told them, “This certainly has to be the most historic telephone call ever made. I just can’t tell you how proud we all are of what you’ve done. For every American, this has to be the proudest day of our lives. And for people all over the world, I am sure they too join with Americans in recognizing what an immense feat this is …And as you talk to us from the Sea of Tranquility, it inspires us to redouble our efforts to bring peace and tranquility to Earth.” Aldrin then bagged a few samples of the moon’s surface and they discovered three new minerals that had yet to be found on Earth. After over two hours, the astronauts brought 47 pounds of soil back onto the lunar module as well as all of the film they had taken and prepared to rejoin Collins. Meanwhile, Collins never felt lonely in his capsule, even though he would never step foot on the moon. He kept Columbia in tip-top order and rendezvoused with the Eagle on July 21. The Eagle was sent flying into lunar orbit while the Columbia with the three astronauts reunited flew back to Earth. Splashdown in the Pacific Ocean occurred on July 24. The aircraft carrier the USS Hornet was assigned to recover the Apollo 11 astronauts. Divers from helicopters helped them as they began the 21-day quarantine process. Back in the States the astro-

nauts became instant celebrities and enjoyed festivities such as a New York ticker tape parade. The CM Columbia is now on rotating display at several museums across the country. Landing on the moon by Apollo 11 was the first of six successful lunar missions. Worldwide audiences were mesmerized by the landings, and it was a source of pride for all Ameri-

cans to finally beat the Soviets in a very important aspect of the Space Race.

Avi Heiligman is a weekly contributor to The Jewish Home. He welcomes your comments and suggestions for future columns and can be reached at aviheiligman@gmail.com.

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A Fulfilled L fe

When Work is Play By Rabbi Dr. Naphtali Hoff

ecently, I delivered leadership trainings based on the True Colors Personality Assessment. In this system, people are identified as being one of four colors: blue, green, gold, or orange. The personalities differ from each other in many ways, including their approach to relationships and situations. Of the different colors, I personally identify most with green. “Greens” are, among other things, less interested in connecting with others emotionally and engaging in small talk. Instead, they like to jump right in to solve problems and fix things. (Not surprisingly, this attitude can get Greens in trouble, particularly when dealing with more emotional, relationships-driven Blues. But that’s for another time.) Greens are also independent thinkers, natural nonconformists that live life by their own set of standards. They are deeply analytical and tend to think about and do things differently than most of their peers. They love independence and eschew outside control. When applied to work, Greens are likelier than most to see their work as play, as in less drudgery and more fun, since they invest a level of themselves into their projects. Whether you are a Green or not (most aren’t; only about 10% of society – primarily men – identify with Green as their primary color),

the idea of viewing work as play can have many positive workplace benefits. These include being more: 1. Punctual 2. Energized and engaged 3. Focused on tasks 4. Creative in completing them 5. Willing to persevere to get the job done right In addition, those who see work as play tend to suffer less from workplace stress. In contrast, those who see work as a necessary burden will invariably be “less” in each of these areas

responsibilities have changed over time and not to your liking), you still have the capacity to choose your attitude towards the work. The more that we feel that we made our own choices in what we do, the likelier we are to feel empowered and in control of our situation, as well as invested in the work that we do each day. 2. Make work self-directive – Become really good at your work to the point where you are given latitude to do it your way, without much direction and oversight. This

Find opportunites to be creative with your work.

and may ultimately come to be less valued by their employers. How can those who are not naturally enthused by their work become more so and gain the benefits that “workplace play” has to offer? 1. Exert a feeling of choice – Remember, despite how “trapped” you may feel about your work, you were the one who chose to be here and do this. Even if the latter is not true (i.e. your job description and

will make tasks feel more as if they are “yours,” which adds to your enjoyment. 3. And creative – In most cases, there is no single way of doing things. Find opportunities to be creative with your work. (Even with something as uninspiring as penning a memo can, with a little creativity and humor, be made to be fun for both the writer and reader.) So long as the work gets done satis-

factorily, your boss won’t care and may even come to appreciate the creativity and color that you have infused into the workplace. 4. Develop intrinsic motivation – Ask yourself, “What I am learning and becoming, in terms of skills and confidence, by doing this? Also consider, “What will others gain from my efforts and example?” The more that you feel that your work is making a bigger impact, for you and others, the more that you will come to feel a sense of mission, purpose and joy in achieving it. 5. Seek alignment – If you can, look for ways to make your work align better with your skills and interests. This may require volunteering at first on projects that speak to you and you seek to become more capable at. In most cases, there are opportunities lying right under our noses and if we proactively seek them, we can often position ourselves to do the work that most speaks to us.

Rabbi Naphtali Hoff, PsyD, is an executive and business coach and president of Impactful Coaching & Consulting. For a free, no obligation consultation, please call 212-470-6139 or email info@ impactfulcoaching.com. Check out his new leadership book, “Becoming the New Boss,” on Amazon. Download his free eBook for understaffed leaders at ImpactfulCoaching.com/EPIC.

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Cohen’s Cones By Jon Kranz

any Jews enjoy eating different forms of cream. They often eat cream cheese (especially with bagels), sour cream (especially with borscht), and, of course, the ubiquitous, crowding-pleasing ice cream (especially for dessert at a bar/ bar mitzvah). But even though many Jews love a frozen treat, is there anything inherently Jewish about ice cream? Is ice cream an important part of Jewish life? What is a more Jewish-sounding last name: Cohen or Cone? It is reasonable to assume that during the forty years in the desert, the Jewish People would have welcomed a scoop or two. They had the manna every day, which apparently was very satisfying, but if ice cream been invented back then, the manna could have mimicked any flavor of ice cream imaginable. In fact, according to Rashi, manna tasted like whatever food each consumer desired. So, if a Jew desired a banana barge sundae, Neapolitan or anything à la mode, then all that Jew had to do was think of it and let the manna do the rest. As an aside, the French expression “à la mode” literally means “in the fashion” but in the culinary world has come to mean anything served with ice cream. Thus, “à la mode” should only be used in the context of food. It would NOT be appropriate or a good idea to (i) deliver a newspaper, a baby or a eulogy à la mode; (ii) send someone an RSVP or a “cease and desist” letter à la mode; or

(iii) perform a plastic surgery or military strike à la mode. Truth be told, ice cream does not always fit in with Jewish cuisine because many Jews enjoy eating fleishig, whether it’s cholent, chicken. or cold cuts. So, for kosher-keeping Jews who keep meat and dairy separate, eating milchig ice cream really isn’t conducive to kosher carnivorous consumption. Yes, pareve ice cream would solve that problem but many people view pareve ice cream as a vastly inferior version of the real thing. In fact, to some people, the difference between dairy and pareve ice cream is as significant as the difference between (i) preseason vs. playoffs; (ii) ping pong vs. tennis; or (iii) watching movies at home on an iPad vs. in a Sony IMAX movie theatre. Ice cream is certainly not the only cream that Jews enjoy eating. For example, for most Jews, bagels and lox are just not the same without the undeniable and irreplaceable cream cheese, the quintessential spread for any self-respecting bagel-eating Jew. This, however, brings us to a really strange cream-related conundrum. For reasons that are less than apparent, scallion cream cheese is uber-popular whereas scallion ice cream is virtually non-existent. And you definitely will not find ice cream parlors offering scallions as a topping. Scallion sprinkles do not exist and neither do scallion cones. So why do cream cheese eaters love scallions but ice cream

eaters shun it? Unclear, but there are other comparable conundrums in the world of food. For example, why are prune Hamantaschen widely-available while other prune-filled baked goods are few and far between? Discuss. Another cream that some Jews enjoy is whipped cream. But, the term “whipped” could evoke images of harsh bondage in Egypt, a brutal episode that might not be an ideal image when enjoying some delicious ice cream. One could argue that ice cream could be more Jewish if the ice cream sundae (the term “sundae” is a twist on the term “Sunday”) was instead referred to as an ice cream “shab-dae,” in honor of Shabbat. And yes, in honor of Shabbat HaGadol (the Shabbat before Passover), every ice cream shabdae would feature a few extra scoops. And when Shabbat ends and folks recite Havdalah, they would feast on some special post-Shabbat ice cream called “Heavenly Havdalah Hash.” On that note, now let’s try to invent some more Jewish-themed ice cream flavors. Here are some examples: • Knishes & Cream • Caramel Kugel • Bubbie’s Butter Pecan • Pistachio Panim • Rainbow Rugelach • Nutella Nudnik • Dulce DeLatke • Herring Happiness • Peanut Butter Bubbe-meise • Coffee Kneidlach

• Essen Espresso • Spumoni Schmaltz • Cookie Dough Dreck • Cherry Schmendrick • Falafel & Fudge • Butterscotch Boychik • Peppermint Pickles • Tutti Frutti Teiglach • Marshmallow Machatenesta • Lemon Lokshen • Stracciatella Shakshuka • Rocky Road Rabbi • Rum Raisin Rebbe And here are some hypothetical names for Jewish ice cream parlors: • Cones & Kibbitz • Sprinkles & Spiels • Toppings & Tsuris • Dairy Derech • Frozen Farbissoner • Carvel Kvell • Milchig Mensch • Jewish Gelato • Heimish Haagen Daaz • Bupkis-Robbins • Soft-Serve Schmooze • Sorbet Shtick • Yenta Yogurt Final thought: Spies like to snoop, my shvigger throws me for a loop, old flowers like to droop, knedlach are good in soup, and ice cream eaters like to scoop. Many flavors, that is.

Jon Kranz is an attorney living in Englewood, New Jersey. Send any comments, questions or insults to jkranz285@gmail. com.

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how time’s hit ser ies Billions invites us into the gilded life of Bobby “Axe” Axelrod, a working-class kid from Yonkers who makes his billions running a hedge fund. The camera teases us with the spoils of his success: the $63 million Hamptons house he buys on a whim, the his-and-hers private jets he and his wife take when just one jet isn’t enough, and the helicopter that drops his sons off at Little League practice. Axe is a guy who loves every dime he spends, and he isn’t afraid to let us watch him spend it. Of course, the full story is a little darker. Axe is so shady you could throw a picnic under him. His portfolio strategies include bagmen, blackmail, and bribery (and those are just the ones that start with “B”). His plots and schemes are so deep and layered they could teach philosophy. Axe gives millions in charity to museums and 911 first responders. But behind the scenes, he’s evidence of Balzac’s epigraph that behind every great fortune, there’s a great crime. Axe has his fingers in lots of different pies. (Note to self: don’t eat the pie.) He makes plenty of enemies, wheeling and dealing his way through four seasons of Billions. But there’s a new threat lurking on his horizon, and it’s the sort of thing Bobby should spot from miles away. We’re talking about politicians looking to raise revenue without targeting the actual masses of voters who get them elected. How do they do that? They skip “income” entirely and head straight to net worth. Massachusetts Senator Elizabeth

Warren is the highest-profile legislator floating this sort of wealth tax. Her “Ultra-Millionaire tax” takes 2% of their assets above $50 million and 3% over a billion. Warren estimates her plan would raise $2.75 trillion over 10 years. Best of all, it hits just 75,000 registered voters. (Sadly for Warren, they’re also the registered voters with the most money to hire lobbyists to fight back.) Of course, it’s easy to propose that sort of flashy new tax. It’s harder to collect it. Who wants to fill out a form telling the IRS everything they own? (Oh, did I forget that second Swiss bank account?) What price do you use for assets that fluctuate, like stocks? What about illiquid assets like real estate, closely-held businesses, and art? How would Axe value his yacht, his cars, and his motorcycles? And who’s going to pay for the auditors to make sure he does the math right on his wealth tax return? As for the tax itself, three percent might not sound like much. But when you’re a billionaire, it adds up fast, especially if you’re getting mugged for it every year. Amazon founder Jeff Bezos has $158 billion, which would make his tax $4.74 billion. Stroking that check would have to hurt, even for him! Warren isn’t the only high-profile American who says we should tax the rich like we mean it. Last month, a group of card-carrying plutocrats including Abigail Disney, Facebook founder Chris Hughes, and Hyatt heiress Liesel Pritzker Simmons signed an open letter urging every 2020 presidential candidate to back Warren’s plan. And polling shows

that a surprising 60% of voters support it. (We’re guessing the other 40% think someday they’ll be that rich, too.) Warren’s wealth tax isn’t going anywhere soon. It might not even be constitutional. But it’s starting a conversation, at a time when Washington is looking harder than usual for sneaky new ways to pay the bills. So, while it may not be on Bobby

Axelrod’s radar, it’s on ours. We’ll let you know when it’s time to start hiding your helicopter and pawning your jets.

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here are three things that really matter. And I know you’re hoping I’ll tell you what they are but I can’t. Because it’s the three things that matter to you. A lot of people will say, Oh, it’s all

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what matters to you right in each moment because life is made up of a series of moments. And there are at least three things in any given moment that matter to you. You know, the shopping you need to do but the kid who needs you right now and the guilt you’re fighting not visiting your mom. Or the business call you are on but what you’d really like to be telling this irritating guy, and the fact that you are on speaker but you need to wash your hands. My point is, people are usually experiencing a lot of noise in their heads. They seem to be right there, but they are really dealing with at least three other things that matter to them all simultaneously.

that you get to hang up soon and he will have to live with himself. Or the person who takes your parking spot and you need to get three errands done now – reminding yourself that you can order your shopping online or circle around just one more time to get that spot and wondering if that person had an emergency to attend to. You never know – and at least you walked out smelling like roses in that situation. The list goes on and on. Choose to let only one thing concern you at a time, and cushion it with some great reassurances. This way, you can live your life and you will calm the voices in your head. Such is the gift of grey matter – helping you, soothing you,

Choose to let only one thing concern you at a time.

You can choose, you know, to make sure that only one thing is going on in your head. And that the competing voices are reassuring instead of adding pressure. And then you can take each stressful thought and give it a 2 to 1 ratio. Two good things to one difficult one, like the guy on the phone who is irritating but knowing

reassuring you. Until the next situation, when another three things pop up!

Rivki Rosenwald is a certified relationship counselor, and career and life coach. She can be contacted at 917-7052004 or rivki@rosenwalds.com.

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