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Dear Readers,

ext week, on Tuesday, the school board and library elections will be held in our community. I know that no one connects the month of May with elections – that’s generally a November thing – but it’s important to remember that these elections truly affect us. Whether or not you send your children to the public schools in the area, the school budget also factors in our busing and school services. And our local taxes go up or down depending on the budgets for the schools and the library. As such, what happens next Tuesday will definitely affect us personally. Please take a few moments to go out and vote. Voting takes just a few minutes out of your day, but it can really alter your bottom-line. It’s important that our officials and those who run these establishments know the community is composed of concerned, active citizens. My children are big readers. So are my husband and I – perhaps that’s where they get it from! Because my kids guzzle books like water, we end up at the library at least once a week and lug home tens of books. I know that we have 100 books out at a time because we inevitably reach the limit on my card while we’re checking out the books each week. But I’ve been noticing that it’s becoming harder and harder as my children get older to find books that are appropriate for my children. Many books in public libraries mention certain topics that I don’t want my children to delve into. Even books that seem to be so innocuous (what could be not kosher about an informational book about a children’s author?) can sometimes have a line or two that provoke questions from my youngsters. Believe me, there will be ample

time when they’re older for them to have to learn about these subjects – especially with the media and politicians championing certain causes. But for now, I’d like to keep them innocent. Our community is fortunate that the Levi Yitzchak Library provides exciting, appropriate literature for our children to read. There are shelves upon shelves of Jewish books perfect for every age. But I’d also like to get our public libraries to step up to the plate. After all, they are here to service the community, and many families in the community would appreciate more books that are appropriate for their children to read. Recently, my friend and I were chatting about different ideas on how we can help families with this problem. Among the solutions we came up with were providing lists to parents at the library of appropriate secular books for their children to read and petitioning the public library to purchase certain Jewish books. I am going to be meeting with school librarians in the community to have them recommend books they know are appropriate, educational, and enjoyable books for children. And I’m going to be presenting these lists and ideas to the library board so they can hopefully implement them in the future. I know that there are so many other ways we can work together to get better reading material available for our children. I’d love to hear your thoughts and ideas. Email me your suggestions – hopefully before Thursday night’s library board meeting! – so together we can make the library a better amenity in our community. Wishing you a wonderful week, Shoshana

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Contents LETTERS TO THE EDITOR

COMMUNITY Readers’ Poll Community Happenings

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NEWS

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Global

National

Odd-but-True Stories

ISRAEL Israel News

The Painted Lady by Rafi Sackville

PARSHA Rabbi Wein

The Chofetz Chaim’s Blanket by Rav Moshe Weinberger

Parsha in Four by Eytan Kobre

Living on Purpose by Shmuel Reichman

PEOPLE TJH Speaks with Reva Oliner, Candidate for Library Board Crafting Operations to Steal Aircraft by Avi Heiligman

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HEALTH & FITNESS I Can’t Believe How Lonely I Am by Dr. Deb Hirschhorn

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Dine Out and Stay Lean by Aliza Beer, MS RD CDN

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The Tragedy of Children in Locked Cars by Hylton I. Lightman, MD 110 FOOD & LEISURE The Aussie Gourmet: Honey Chicken 116 LIFESTYLES Dating Dialogue, Moderated by Jennifer Mann, LCSW 102

Your Money

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You May Run Hot and Cold by Rivki D. Rosenwald Esq., CLC, SDS 134

Dear Editor, As is with your entire cohort of Navidaters fans, I really enjoy this column in every issue (in my case, in Baltimore Jewish Home). Often it’s more than being provided with reading enjoyment; it’s a matter of being provided with inspiration, as was the case with the May 2 issue in which the 15-year-old bas melech finds the right words to express to the right people about her particular indirect shidduch-crisis. The commentary in this letter to the editor is intended “to stand on the shoulders” of the wonderful responses by the skilled columnists and therapists, and I will come at this from the vantage point of a grandfather whose grandchildren are not yet “in the parsha.” 1. The young lady’s letter was so well-conceived and phrased that my “gut reaction” was that I hope she will be available when my nearly 15-year-old grandson will be emerging from his freezer (sooner than you might think, as he is already taking college courses). What I really mean to convey here is that it wouldn’t be the first time that today’s nisayon is the gateway to tomorrow’s happy ending and that the young lady might think of envisioning of how her challenge today may be the first step of her solution tomorrow. 2. As all the next-born children are apparently being left behind in the elder’s shidduch process, it is also likely that grandparents are also being back-burnered. What a wonderful time for the young lady and any available grandparents to reciprocally support each other! 3. With regards to the writer’s even-younger siblings, I’m remind-

ed about the chochma “to be the change that you want.” This might be a time for the young lady to be “even more there” than usual for the younger ones, and this will be a good training opportunity for her to be the oldest in-house sibling when the time will come iy”H upon the marriage of the first-born daughter. Trust that the parents will notice how this daughter is treating the younger ones. When I was not yet retired and I was a manager, I wasn’t a big fan of customer service training programs, as I believed that my staff would treat each other and their clientele in accordance with my example of treating them. Indeed, her parents will take notice of this young lady’s leadership in the arena of middos, and the whole household will benefit. If I were someone more than just a common reader of your fine column, I’d conclude with my bracha that the young lady will find solution and resolution to her current challenge. But I’m just a regular reader, so I will only predict that her immediate outcome (parental awareness and response) and her eventual outcome (her own shidduch process in which her siblings will be her partners every step of the way) will prove that her current nisayon will have turned out to be a wondrous gift that the Eibershter and she co-created and jointly solved. Respectfully – and anonymously going forward (I’m not permitted to meddle in the shidduchim of my grandchildren), Ben-Tzion Fellner Pikesville, MD Continued on page 10

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Iran and U.S. Mobilizations Could Lead to Conflict by David Ignatius 122 There’s Trouble Brewing in Joe Biden’s Presidential Campaign by Marc A. Thiessen 123 CLASSIFIEDS

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Dear Editor, It is extremely disgraceful to see Congressman Jerry Nadler, Chairman of the House Judiciary Committee slithering around the House Chambers. The Mueller Report after two years, $30,000,000, countless subpoenas, and witnesses has been concluded and presented to Congress with President Trump vindicated on collusion and obstruction charges. Nadler is a rank partisan of the worst type and an absolute embarrassment. Nadler has an extremely serious case of “Trump Derangement Syndrome.” In his case it has stopped his brain from functioning in a cognitive manner. Perhaps the only cure is to finally remove Nadler from his lifelong job of being a congressman. Nadler is obsessed with removing President Trump from office and will stop at nothing in his quest. Nadler wants to be judge, jury and executioner. He is Captain Ahab obsessed with his battle with the whale. He is Tomas de Torquemada, Inquisitor General of the Spanish Inquisition. On another level, he is a modern-day version of Tail Gunner Senator Joseph McCarthy. Who will be our Joseph Welch, Special Counsel for the U.S. Army, and bring an end to this Inquisition? Who will be the person to finally say to Nadler, “Have you no decency?” Nadler and the rest of the Democrats will stop at nothing to destroy President Trump. It is time for them to accept the results of the 2016 presidential election. The attempted silent coup to overthrow a duly elected president by deep state operatives in Obama’s Justice Department and FBI has finally been defeated. It is now time for the Democrats to start doing their jobs and stop their never-ending subpoenas and harassment of the president, his family, associates and businesses. Congressman Nadler pay attention, as former President Barack Obama once said, “Elections have consequences. We won. You lost. Now get over it.” Jack Lipsky Great Neck, NY Dear Editor, I wanted to describe the intense embarrassment that I personally as a Jew, gets when I see congressional Jewish Democrats political stunts on TV. It started with Representative Steve Cohen when Attorney General Barr didn’t show up at the House Judiciary Committee to testify about the

Mueller Report, when Cohen brought in KFC chicken and put a model chicken on the seat where Barr would have sat. Now, first of all, you have to internalize why AG Barr didn’t testify. He didn’t testify because he testified for three hours at the Senate Judiciary Committee. Those three hours weren’t for him the most pleasant hours of his life; these were hours when liberal senators brutally questioned him. Showing up at another brutal partisan-biased questioning session should not be of interest to the AG of the USA. Democrats say that the AG is supposed to represent the entire USA and not for political purposes – that is exactly the reason why AG Barr didn’t show up at the House. It was because the Democrats, especially the Jewish Democrats like Rep. Cohen and Chairman Nadler, who wanted to bully him for political purposes, that he didn’t show up. Now, AG Barr has been completely transparent this entire time, but the Democrats argue otherwise. They say that he acts like Trump’s defense lawyer because he didn’t listen to their mandatory subpoena of the entire Mueller report. The thing that they seem to forget is, first of all, there are some pieces of the report that are classified and are part of other findings of Mueller that had to do with other things that came up during the investigation. AG Barr has given over 90 percent of the information to the American people within weeks with granting redactions to parts of the report as requested from Congress. Not only did AG Barr do that for the American people, but for some members of Congress that specifically requested some additional confidential parts of the report that was given to them by Barr. Representative Doug Collins read the entire report and found no added information that would support that Trump or anyone related to him did any wrongdoing. So, this stunt by Rep. Cohen was absolutely ludicrous and stupid. Then, you have Chairman Nadler, who is one of the most partisan ideologues in Congress. He runs his committee like a circus. This week he held a contempt vote for AG Barr because he didn’t like that the Mueller report exonerated President Trump. Nadler will give his excuses about the subpoenas, but as explained above, Barr has been transparent in all regards. It is funny, though, that Nadler is holding Barr in contempt, because a few years ago when then-AG Holder was held in contempt by the Republicans because he didn’t hand them documents on

the Fast and Furious gun investigation, Nadler said he was going to join a walkout because of Republicans “partisan politics.” Nadler is clearly a hypocrite for saying that the opposing party is playing partisan politics and now he is doing that exact thing. Secondly, the Fast and Furious investigation was an ongoing investigation during the contempt vote, while the Mueller investigation was over by this contempt vote. Nadler is just part of the class of second-rate lawmakers of Congress who put party over country. We need to make sure that in 2020 that these second-rate lawmakers don’t continue to govern in any branch of our government! Sincerely, Donny Simcha Guttman Dear Editor, As the author & photographer of the book, “Ten Times Chai: 180 Orthodox Synagogues of New York City,” I have been to more than 180 existing orthodox synagogues in Brooklyn, Queens, Manhattan, the Bronx, and Staten Island. Without a doubt, I will tell you that the majority of our NYC synagogues are not secure. Without mentioning them by name, several synagogues have full-time security guards, metal detectors, and other security measures such as video cameras. Most others, unfortunately, have little or no security, and this must be changed. Cameras, armed security guards, and locks on synagogue doors where only the congregants know the code must be considered by rabbis, synagogue presidents, executive directors, executive boards, and others in each of our precious synagogues. We must take action, hishtadlus, before more lives are lost through senseless acts of terror. Indeed, the principle of pikuach nefesh, the belief stated in Jewish law that preserving human life should overrule any other religious considerations, applies. As we just learned with the shooting at Chabad Poway, near San Diego, California, it should be clear that the situation is life-threatening to every Jew and thus, all appropriate actions should be taken. Before the massacre at Etz Chaim, Tree of Life, Or L’ Simcha Congregation in Pittsburgh last year, where 11 Jews were murdered, the shooter yelled, “All Jews must die.” After the attack, President Trump tweeted that the attack could have been avoided “if they had protection.” I ask, how many synagogues changed their security measures since the Etz Chaim synagogue

massacre? In the wake of the countless massacres in Israel, in other countries, and more recently in the USA, how long will it take for all synagogue leaders to properly address the real issues of safety and security? Enough is enough. Congregants must demand that adequate measures be taken. Failure to do so is to accept this ongoing tragedy for the Jewish people. In addition, kosher supermarkets in each of the five boroughs of NYC must learn from these tragedies, such as the massacre in 2015 at the Hypercacher supermarket in Paris where four people were murdered. How much money should be spent on armed security guards and other security measures? Does the value of a human life no longer have a price? Enough is enough. We often walk a tightrope between bitachon, trust in Hashem, and hishtadlus, effort. Most of the time, we need to do both – we must trust that Hashem will protect us but we must also take the necessary, although costly steps, of protecting ourselves. No Jew should stay home on Shabbat, or not attend Shacharit. Mincha, or Maariv because they are afraid to enter a synagogue. Michael J. Weinstein Dear Editor, What a great interview with Inspector Danny Gluck! We should all show tremendous hakaras hatov to Inspector Gluck and the auxiliary police. They are always at all our events – generally in the background – ensuring that everything runs smoothly and safely. How fortunate we are that we have a program like this in our community. Great work! Sincerely, Chaim H. Green Dear Editor, When I read through Leah Lightman’s article this week, I thought of my own mother. Truthfully, I don’t really take the time to detail what exactly she means to me and articulate the devotion she has to all her children. But Leah Lightman’s article made me pause and think: what if I was interviewed for an article and had to talk about my mother? There is so much to say but would I be able to distill all the work she does/did for us and encapsulate it into words? Leah Lightman’s article pushed me to delve into this – to really put what my mother means to me into words. A Reader

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Labor Camps in Xinjiang

Although China has definitively denied that they exist, the U.S. State Department estimates that up to 2 million Uyghurs, Kazakhs, Kyrgyzs and other predominantly Muslim ethnic minorities have been held against their will in massive camps in Xinjiang. For now, an unknown number are working in what rights

groups have described as forced labor facilities and are unable to leave China. Activists and former detainees say that the Xinjiang internment camps were built rapidly over the last three years, the latest stage in an ongoing and widespread crackdown against ethnic minorities in the region. Allegations of torture inside the camps are rampant. The Chinese government has faced a rising tide of international criticism over its Xinjiang policies, including from the United States. A U.S. congressional bill introduced in January said there were credible reports that former detainees were made to produce cheap consumer goods in forced work facilities under threat of returning to the detention centers. Critics claim the camps are Beijing’s attempt to eliminate the region’s Islamic cultural and religious traditions – a process of “sinicization,” by which ethnic minorities are forcibly assimilated into wider majority Han Chinese culture. Beijing denies any allegations of torture or political indoctrination and says the camps are “vocational

training centers” designed to fight terrorism. Xinjiang is the largest region in China, a sprawling arid landscape in the country’s far west which has a comparatively tiny population of 22 million. It is home to a variety of minority groups, of which the predominantly Muslim, Turkic-speaking Uyghurs are the largest. Uyghurs are culturally and linguistically distinct from Han Chinese, the country’s dominant ethnic group. This is due in part to the fact that Xinjiang has only officially been part of China for less than two centuries. The name Xinjiang, translating as “new territory,” was first used in 1884. In most cities of Xinjiang there are facial surveillance cameras every block or so, where people’s faces and routines are monitored and cross-referenced. Police checkpoints pop up arbitrarily, and residents are randomly asked to produce ID and their cellphones for scans. In general, it’s the Uyghurs in Xinjiang who are subjected to these inconveniences. Han Chinese are waived through checkpoints without producing ID.

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Middle East, due to deteriorating relations with Iran. Iran’s Foreign Ministry spokesperson Seyyed Abbas Mousavi said on Monday that the incidents were “alarming and regrettable” and requested further information on the alleged sabotage. He also warned against “plots by ill-wishers to disrupt regional security” and called for “vigilance of regional states in the face of any adventurism by foreign elements.” Saudi Arabian Energy Minister Khalid al-Falih described the incident as a deliberate attempt to “undermine the freedom of maritime navigation, and the security of oil supplies to consumers all over the world.” In an effort to calm tensions, several U.S. officials are cautioning that there is no final conclusion on how the ships were damaged. One U.S. official pointed out the lack of detail from the UAE and Saudi Arabia about how the ships were damaged. Last week, the U.S. Maritime Administration issued an advisory that “Iran or its proxies” could be targeting commercial vessels and oil production infrastructure in the region. The warning followed Iran’s announcement that it was partially withdrawing from a landmark nuclear deal, the Joint Comprehensive Plan of Action, which the U.S. itself unilaterally exited one year ago. U.S. Air Force F-15s and F-35s, along with B-52 bombers, are now flying visible air patrols over the Persian Gulf, according to a U.S. official, who said that the flights are designed to demonstrate to both Iran and U.S. allies that U.S. forces are in a deterrence mode. The U.S. is continuing to conduct intelligence, surveillance and reconnaissance (ISR) flights in the Middle East. On Monday, U.S. Secretary of State Mike Pompeo canceled a planned visit to Moscow and flew to Brussels for talks on Iran with his counterparts from the UK, Germany, France. Asked later that day if the U.S. was going to war with Iran and if the U.S. was seeking regime change there, President Trump said, “We’ll see what happens with Iran.” Iran borders the Persian Gulf (also known as the Arabian Gulf) and the Strait of Hormuz, a strategically important waterway. The U.S. Energy Information Administration calls the Strait of Hormuz “the world’s most important oil tran-

sit chokepoint,” with an estimated 20% of oil traded worldwide moving through the channel, which is about 30 miles wide at its narrowest point.

Saudi Oil Pipeline Attacked

On Tuesday, Saudi Energy Minister Khalid al-Falih Al-Falih confirmed that an oil pipeline that runs across Saudi Arabia was hit by drones west of its capital of Riyadh, shortly after rebels in Yemen claimed they carried out coordinated drone strikes against the kingdom. The attacks followed reports of sabotage against oil tankers in the Persian Gulf off the coast of the United Arab Emirates on Sunday, with tensions rising between the U.S. and Iran. Al-Falih asserted that production and export of Saudi oil would not be interrupted. In a statement carried by the state-run Saudi Press Agency, he called the pipeline attack “cowardly,” saying that recent acts of sabotage against the kingdom’s vital installations were targeting not only Saudi Arabia but also the safety of the world’s energy supply and global economy. Al-Falih said the drone attacks reaffirm the need of the international community to confront the activities of groups like the Houthis, whom he accused of being backed by Iran, Saudi Arabia’s regional rival. Yemen’s Houthi rebels said they launched seven drones against vital installations in Saudi Arabia, which borders Yemen to the north. Saudi Arabia has been at war with the Houthis and their allies in Yemen since March 2015, targeting the Iranian-allied rebels with near daily airstrikes. “This is a message to Saudi Arabia: Stop your aggression,” Houthi spokesman Mohammed Abdel-Salam told The Associated Press. “Our goal is to respond to the crimes they are committing every

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A Jewish school in Australia celebrated Yom Haatzmaut by creating the world’s largest human menorah – the emblem of the State of Israel – with 1,048 people joining in the event

day against the Yemeni people.” The drone strikes on Saudi oil facilities reflect how the Houthis have expanded their capabilities during the four-year war. The rebels have targeted Riyadh with missiles and have used drones to disrupt air traffic at Saudi airports near the Yemen border. The Houthis have also flown into the radar arrays of Saudi Arabia’s Patriot missile batteries, according to the research group Conflict Armament Research, disabling them and allowing the rebels to fire ballistic missiles into the kingdom unchallenged. Iran has been accused by the U.S. and the U.N. of supplying ballistic missile technology and arms to the Houthis, which Tehran denies. Such drones remain difficult to shoot down with either light or heavy weapons. The U.S. supports Saudi Arabia and its allies in the war against the Houthis, despite criticism that Saudi-led coalition airstrikes have killed civilians. The two oil pumping stations targeted in Saudi Arabia this week are over 800 kilometers (500 miles) from Yemen’s northern border with the kingdom. It wasn’t immediately known from where the Houthis launched the drones. Saudi Arabia built its oil pipeline in the 1980s amid fears that the Iran-Iraq war would cut off shipping traffic through the Strait of Hormuz. The 1,200-kilometer (746-mile) pipeline is actually two pipes that have a total capacity of 4.8 million barrels of crude oil a day, according to the U.S. Energy Information Administration.

Ebola Threatens the Congo

Already the second-largest outbreak in history, the Ebola epidemic that has killed over 1,000 people in the Democratic Republic of Congo continues to grow and threatens to surpass the 2014 outbreak in West Africa that resulted in 11,325 deaths, an official at the Centers for Disease Control and Prevention (CDC) said last week. “We’re very concerned. This outbreak does have the potential to be the largest outbreak if things remain unchecked and cases continue at the current pace,” Ray Arthur, director of the CDC’s Global Disease Detection Operations Center, said. “This outbreak has been going for a year now. The first cases were actually in April of 2018, but the outbreak wasn’t recognized and declared until August. But over the last three or four weeks, we’ve seen approximately one-fifth of all the cases, which represents a marked increase.” Sectarian fighting has complicated the medical response to the virus from foreign governments and

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tacts of every case receive the vaccine as soon as possible.” Proven components in containing past Ebola outbreaks — tracking and monitoring an infected patient’s associates — have been difficult to achieve in the densely populated war zone, a fact that has further enhanced the need for a robust supply of the vaccine. So far, of the 5.7 million people who live in North Kivu, 111,000 have received the Ebola vaccine, and 30,000 of that number are health workers. Merck, the American pharmaceutical company that has developed the yet-to-be FDA-approved vaccine, is working to ramp up production. The scale of the need, however, has prompted the WHO to propose a strategy of cutting the dosage to stretch supply. Fearing that the current outbreak of Ebola – which is transmitted through contact with bodily fluids and has killed 66 percent of those who have been infected – will spread to neighboring countries, the CDC has deployed personnel to the region, including Uganda, Rwanda, and South Sudan. The perfect storm of a deadly infectious virus, violent social upheaval, and social media disinformation

has health officials on edge and bracing for more bad news. “Every wrinkle that could have happened in this outbreak seems to have occurred,” Arthur lamented. “That’s why we’re concerned, given the current trajectory. Definitely, things are going to get worse before they get better.”

U.S. Seized N. Korean Ship

In a move likely to heighten tensions between the United States and North Korea, the U.S. said last week that it has seized a North Korean cargo ship because of sanctions violations by the rogue state. The ship was “recently taken into custody,” although an exact date was not given.

The ship, the M/V Wise Honest, was used to haul valuable coal from North Korea that was sold in other countries, including China, according to the Justice Department. The U.S. and the United Nations have said that North Korea has used illicit sales of its coal to fund the country’s nuclear weapons and ballistic missiles program. In a statement, senior Justice Department officials called the seizure the first of its kind and said it was part of the U.S. campaign of “maximum pressure” against the North Korean government. “This sanctions-busting ship is now out of service,” said Assistant Attorney General John Demers, the head of the Justice Department’s National Security Division. “We are deeply committed to the role the Justice Department plays in applying maximum pressure to the North Korean regime to cease its belligerence.” The Wise Honest was North Korea’s second largest merchant ship and was capable of carrying tens of thousands of tons of cargo. Prosecutors said the ship was also used to haul heavy machinery into North Korea, including 412,584 kilograms

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The United States military hosted a team of Israeli cameramen in a combat photography competition last week, in which army photographers tested their mettle in obstacle courses, marches, and target practice. This was the seventh annual Department of Defense Hilda I. Clayton Best COMCAM (combat camera) Competition, created in honor of a U.S. Army photographer who was killed when a mortar shell prematurely exploded during a training exercise in Afghanistan. It was the first time that a foreign military took part in the competition – the IDF was the only one. The five-day competition was held at the U.S. Marine Corps Base in Quantico, Virginia. It was hosted by the U.S. Army’s 55th Signal Company. The contest began last Monday with physical training, a written exam, and a challenge to create an audiovisual package on a specific topic. The following day consisted of an obstacle course and “stress shoot,” in which the soldiers had their heart rates elevated before target practice to better replicate shooting in

real-world scenarios. The third day included a simulated urban combat mission, which included the evacuation of an injured soldier. On the final day, the participants took part in a 12-mile march carrying a 35-pound rucksack. Throughout every part of the competition, the soldiers took photographs and shot video, and at the end of the day, selected five of those pictures and edited the footage into four-minute clips. “It tested you mentally, physically and technically,” said Staff Sgt. Edward French IV, a drill sergeant in the U.S. military. Last Friday, a group of retired combat photographers reviewed the final videos. The scores were then tallied, and winners were announced. French and his teammate Staff Sgt. Enoch Fleites came in first, followed by a team from the 55th Signal Company. The IDF team — Staff Sgt. Yoav Pinus and Sgt. Nir Bitan — tied for third place with a team from the 55th Signal Company. The IDF’s combat photography program has gone through a number of changes over the years. Military photographers received relatively little combat training, until 2003 when Sgt. Lior Ziv was killed on an assignment in the Gaza Strip. Following Ziv’s death, the IDF determined that photographers who would be embedded with troops during operations had to go through combat boot camp. During the competition, which took place over Israel’s Memorial Day and Independence Day, the Israeli soldiers held a memorial service in Ziv’s honor, airing a short film about him. In 2014, the IDF expanded its combat photography program, having the cameramen go through even more intense training — as part of the Golani Infantry Brigade — before deploying them to every IDF command. This was enlarged further in the past five years, with an IDF Spokesperson’s Unit photographer embedded in nearly every infantry battalion, though now they undergo basic training with combat intelligence soldiers instead of Golani.

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nounced that more than $14 million that was bequeathed to the Jewish state by Nicolas Bauman in 2009 finally arrived in the Holy Land. Bauman, a French Jewish widower, passed away in 2009 without any children. The benefactor wrote in his will that the $14.55 million should be used to set up a fund for bereaved families of fallen soldiers and victims of terror.

Following a lengthy bureaucratic process, the money arrived in Israel last week and will be distributed via a fund managed by a Justice Ministry official and Keren Kayemet L’Israel-Jewish National Fund (KKLJNF). KKL-JNF representatives and the Justice Ministry’s Sigal Yaakobi decided at a recent meeting that the fund, to operate over the next ten years, will begin by dedicating resources to support bereaved siblings. “Bereaved brothers and sisters are part of the bereaved families, but their standing and rights have not been completely settled, and they do not receive full support from the official commemorative bodies in the State of Israel,” the KKL-JNF statement said. A team from KKLJNF and the ministry will be set up to “decide on clear criteria for areas of assistance and eligibility.” Bauman was born in Hungary on July 1, 1912, although not much else is known about the kindhearted Jew, including where he was during the Holocaust and when he moved to France.

Brilliant in Bible Twelfth grader Yonatan Weissman knows a lot more Tanach than you and me. Last Thursday, Weissman, 18, a student in Yeshivat Yerushalayim in Nehalim, beat out 15 other finalists from Israel and around the world to win the International Bible Contest for Youth held at the Jerusalem Theater.

Prime Minister Benjamin Netanyahu, Knesset Speaker Yuli Edelstein, Education Minister Naftali Bennett, and Jewish Agency Chairman Isaac Herzog were just a few of the prominent figures who attended the event, which was given the theme this year of “Guarding unity, guarding uniqueness.” In second place was Binyamin Kalhamiro from Kushner Yeshiva

in New Jersey, while third place was taken by Yarin Bar from Revivim in the Negev. In fourth place was Adar Geller from Jerusalem. The competition is an annual event held on Yom Ha’atzmaut that brings together dozens of Jewish youths between the ages of 14 and 18 from around the world to test their knowledge on Tanach. The teens spent two-and-a-half

weeks at a “Bible camp,” in which they traveled Israel, learned about its history, and met with several government officials, including Netanyahu. Questions this year spanned the breadth of Tanach, from Yaakov’s concern for Yosef to Shmuel’s search for a new king in Yishai’s home. Weissman, along with the 15 other finalists, defeated another 74 con-

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Germany Will Stand by Israel at UN

On Saturday, Germany said that it will oppose “any unfair treatment” of Israel at the United Nations, adding that it was deeply troubled by the anti-Israel bias prevalent at the international body. The statement, issued on the occasion of the 70th anniversary of Israel’s accession to the UN, was welcomed by Jerusalem’s envoy to Germany, Jeremy Issacharoff, who said he hoped it signals a change in Berlin’s voting pattern vis-a-vis the Middle East. Germany’s voting record on Middle East issues has been criticized by Israel and its supporters, as the country often joins other European nations in voting against Israel’s interests at the UN. “Seventy years ago today – 24 years before the Federal Republic of Germany’s admission to the United Nations – Israel was admitted to the UN as a full member. The Federal Government would like to take this 70th anniversary as an opportunity to reiterate the fact that Germany stands at Israel’s side in the UN, too,” the English-language statement by Germa-

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Noa Yanai, a student at the academy, said that planting these trees at the place where rockets fell gives her and her fellow students a sense of permanence in the area. “In a place where the rocket fell, evil is created,” she explained. “We are conveying a message that something good is growing within this evil.” The initiative comes following rocket attacks earlier this month, which saw some 690 rockets shot into southern Israel from the Gaza enclave. Four Israelis were killed and 234 injured during the recent flare-up.

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treated in a biased manner and marginalized in the bodies of the UN,” the statement went on. The country, which currently is a non-permanent member of the UN Security Council, pledged “to oppose any unfair treatment of Israel in the UN and to support its legitimate interests. We will continue to do our utmost to support these causes,” according to the statement.

Trees Not Rockets In a bid to show the Jewish nation’s strength in the face of rocket attacks, Mietarim, a pre-military academy located at in the southern kibbutz of Nahal Oz, has started an initiative to fill craters left by rockets

According to Iran’s foreign ministry, the State of Israel is a major cause of the crises in the Middle East. It also suggested that a referendum be held among all of the inhabitants of what it called “historic Palestinian territory” to decide its political future as part of measures by the international community to end the “crimes of the Zionist regime.” The statement was issued ahead of Nakba Day, when Palestinians commemorate the “catastrophe” that befell them with Israel’s creation in 1948. “On May 14, 1948 territories witnessed one of the most painful events in the history of Islam and the world. Since then, the people of this land have not seen peace and comfort,”

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Iran called on the international community, “and in particular the United Nations, to end the systematic occupation of Palestine” and bring about the creation of a Palestinian state with Jerusalem as its capital. Iran said the international community is expected to “take a decisive step forward after more than seven decades of occupation of the historic Palestinian territory to end the occupation and the subsequent crimes

and atrocities of the Zionist regime, and to provide the necessary conditions for the return of the Palestinian refugees to their ancestral lands.” The statement then suggested that there be a referendum “with the participation of all the main inhabitants of the land, including Muslim, Christian and Jewish, to determine its political system.” Palestinian factions in Gaza are mobilizing a mass march toward the

Valerie Plame publicly ran from the spotlight 15 years ago, but now she’s back in the public’s focus, this time running for Congress in New Mexico. Plame was a former CIA operative whose identity was leaked by officials in the George W. Bush administration who wished to undermine the credibility of her then-husband, former U.S. Ambassador Joe Wilson, after he publicly criticized the Bush administration for invading Iraq. “My career in the CIA was cut short by partisan politics, but I’m not done serving our country,” Plame said in a statement formally announcing her candidacy as a Democrat for New Mexico’s 3rd congressional district last week. “We need more people in Congress with the courage to stand up for what’s right. It’s why I couldn’t be prouder than to have the chance to represent my friends and neighbors of Northern New Mexico. I will work as hard defending my fellow New Mexicans in Washington as I did defending our country from nuclear threats.” The seat Plame is running for is being vacated by Democratic Rep. Ben Ray Lujan, who is running for the U.S. Senate. Topping the list of concerns

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that Plame would like to address is healthcare. On her campaign website, she elaborates on the other significant issues she plans to tackle to make a “brighter future for New Mexicans”: protecting clean air and water, equal voting rights, gun control, public education, strengthening the economy, and reducing poverty and homelessness. In 2003, Ambassador Joe Wilson, Plame’s husband at the time, wrote an op-ed in The New York Times. “I have little choice but to conclude that some of the intelligence related to Iraq’s nuclear weapons program was twisted to exaggerate the Iraqi threat,” he wrote after he was sent to Niger by CIA officials on a mission to investigate the country’s sale of uranium to Iraq. Eight days after Wilson published his op-ed, columnist Robert Novak identified Plame as an “agency operative on weapons of mass destruction” and cited two senior administration officials in his piece, “Mission to Niger.” The revelation culminated in the conviction of Lewis “Scooter” Libby, former Vice President Dick Cheney’s former chief of staff. He was sentenced to 30 months in prison in 2007 for lying to the FBI and obstructing justice in the investigation into the leak of Plame’s identity. Libby’s sentence was commuted by Bush and he was pardoned by President Donald Trump in April of last year. Plame, who relocated to New Mexico after leaving the CIA in 2005, moved to Santa Fe the day after Libby was convicted for his role in outing her.

Fake Heiress Sentenced

She was a fake heiress who wheedled her way into wealthy circles but now she’s going to be counting her fake dollars in a cell. Anna Sorokin, the German con artist who passed herself off as a

wealthy heiress to swindle banks, hotels and even close friends, was sentenced last Thursday to four to 12 years behind bars. New York Judge Diane Kiesel said during the sentencing hearing that she was “stunned by the depth of the defendant’s deception” and turned down a request by Sorokin’s lawyers that she be sentenced to time she has already spent in jail awaiting trial. Sorkin, 28, was convicted last month on multiple counts of grand larceny and theft of services, and has been in custody since her October 2017 arrest. Moments before she was sentenced, Sorokin briefly addressed the court, saying, “I apologize for the mistakes I made.” Sorokin went by the name Anna Delvey when she defrauded financial institutions and Manhattan celebrity circles into believing she had a fortune of about $67 million overseas that could cover her jet-setting lifestyle, high-end clothing, and lavish hotel stays. She falsely claimed her father was a diplomat or an oil baron, and falsified bank records, and forged her identity to further the scam. Her ruse included an application for a $22 million loan to fund a private arts club, complete with exhibitions, installations, and popup shops, prosecutors said. She was denied that loan but persuaded one bank to lend her $100,000 that she failed to repay. In all, prosecutors accused her of stealing some $275,000, including a $35,400 bill she failed to pay for a plane she chartered to and from the Berkshire Hathaway shareholders meeting in Omaha, Nebraska. Sorokin went to great lengths to ensure others paid her way, even as she had “not a cent to her name, as far as we can determine,” prosecutor Catherine McCaw said following Sorokin’s arrest. Jurors had acquitted her of two counts, including an allegation that she promised a friend an all-expenses paid trip to Morocco and then stuck her with the $62,000 bill. She was also found not guilty of one of the most serious charges in the indictment: attempting to steal more than $1 million from City National Bank. Even so, Sorokin was convicted of four counts of theft of services, three counts of grand larceny, and one count of attempted grand larceny following a monthlong trial that

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drew international attention and tabloid headlines about Sorokin’s courtroom fashion. Her defense attorney, Todd Spodek, argued that Sorokin had been “buying time” and had planned to settle her debts. He said she lacked criminal intent and was an ambitious entrepreneur. The judge and jury did not fall for that act.

iPhone Users Can Sue Apple

Here’s something to think about when your phone starts acting up. On Monday, the Supreme Court ruled that a group of iPhone owners who had accused Apple of violating U.S. antitrust rules can sue the company. The litigants claim that Apple’s App Store is a monopoly. Justice Brett Kavanaugh, in the

majority opinion, said that when “retailers engage in unlawful anticompetitive conduct that harms consumers” people buying those companies’ products have the right to hold the businesses to account. “That is why we have antitrust law,” Kavanaugh concluded. The court’s four liberal justices joined Kavanaugh in the 5-4 decision. The Supreme Court opinion notably does not accuse Apple of violating antitrust law; it merely states that consumers have the right to sue the company for monopolistic behavior because they purchase apps directly from Apple. The ruling could have wide implications for other tech companies that operate similarly walled-off online storefronts The case stems from a 2011 class-action suit by iPhone owners alleging that by taking a 30% cut of app sales, Apple has encouraged app developers to raise their prices in response. Consumers have been harmed by the practice, the suit claimed, because Apple does not allow customers to download apps from any other source other than the iTunes App Store. Unlike Android, iOS customers can only get apps from that of-

ficial source, which Apple says serves as kind of quality control to weed out security threats and apps that violate the company’s terms of service. Apple argued that iPhone owners do not have the right to sue because Apple is an intermediary. But the Supreme Court held that iPhone owners have a “direct purchaser” relationship with Apple and may sue under a precedent known as Illinois Brick. Apple says it is confident it will ultimately prevail in the case now that it can proceed. “The App Store is not a monopoly by any metric,” the company said in a statement. “Developers set the price they want to charge for their app and Apple has no role in that.” Apple’s stock fell 5.3% on the news. The broader market was down more than 2% Monday.

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The crash took place around 1 p.m. One float plane, operated by Taquan Air, was returning from a tour of Alaska’s Misty Fjords and was carrying 10 passengers and a pilot. The passengers had been on a cruise, and the float plane was a shore excursion that they had booked through Princess Cruises. The other plane was carrying four passengers from Royal Princess on a separate tour. Those four passengers and their pilot were killed. “We are deeply saddened to report this news and our thoughts and prayers are with those who lost their lives and the families of those impacted by today’s accident. Princess Cruises is extending its full support to traveling companions of the guests involved,” the company said.

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Who is Patrick Shanahan? On Thursday, the White House said that President Donald Trump will be nominating Patrick Shanahan to be defense secretary. Shanahan has been acting defense secretary for the past several months following the departure of Defense Secre-

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The announcement comes at a challenging time, when the Trump administration has been grappling with potential confrontations with Iran, North Korea, and Venezuela. It marks a pointed reversal from an era when the president relied primarily on generals to craft military and foreign policy. Before his position in government, Shanahan was vice president and general manager of the Boeing

Trump nominated Shanahan to become deputy defense secretary in March 2017, so that he could assist with the president’s planned expansion of the military. Former Sen. John McCain threatened to block his nomination during confirmation hearings in June 2017, charging that Shanahan had ducked questions on whether he believed the U.S. should supply Ukraine with weapons to combat Russian aggression. Shanahan said he would have to look at the issue. Shanahan was confirmed despite McCain’s reservations by a vote of 92-7 in July. Shanahan said in a statement that he was honored by Trump’s announcement. “If confirmed by the Senate, I will continue the aggressive implementation of our National Defense Strategy,” he said. “I remain committed to modernizing the force so our remarkable Soldiers, Sailors, Airmen, and Marines have everything they need to keep our military lethal and our country safe.” Shanahan said the president informed him on Thursday afternoon at the White House that he would be nominated. “I called my mom,” Shanahan told reporters outside the Pentagon after the announcement. “She was super happy.” Asked about the biggest challenge of the job, he said, “Balancing it all.” “For me, it’s about practicing selective neglect so that we can stay focused on the future but not ignore the emerging, really important issues that pop up day-to-day that you don’t plan for,” he said.

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Shanahan would oversee the armed forces as the military is seeking to wind down counterinsurgency wars and is preparing for intensified competition with China and Russia. Not long after taking over as acting secretary in early January, Shanahan rolled out the 2020 defense budget, which seeks to reorient the military toward competition with Russia or China. But the budget proposal immediately faced blowback on Capitol Hill when Shanahan agreed with Trump’s decision to take as much as $6.1 billion from the Pentagon budget this year for a wall on the southern border and “backfill” the money in the 2020 budget request. Lawmakers also balked at the administration’s inflation of the Pentagon’s war-fighting account in a bid to fund defense over domestic matters. Since he took over on January 1, Shanahan has sought to continue the approach Mattis staked out, regularly voicing support for the U.S. partnership with NATO and other allies. But he appears less inclined than his predecessor to challenge the president on significant strategic military policy moves.

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“Renewable energy projects create significant new revenues for rural communities where most of these projects are sited,” said the governor, whose bid for the Democratic presidential nomination centers on climate change. “New wind development projects in Washington generate millions of dollars in annual lease payments; much of it goes to small rural landowners.” The state ranks highly – third in the nation – for economy in U.S. News’ latest Best States rankings. It also places No. 2 for infrastructure, No. 4 for healthcare, and No. 4 for education. Washington’s showing in these categories helped it achieve the overall No. 1 ranking among states this year. New Hampshire came in as the second-best state this year. It was followed by Minnesota, Utah, and Vermont. Maryland, Virginia, Massachusetts, Nebraska, and Colorado rounded out the top ten. New Jersey came in at the twelfth slot; Florida grabbed spot number 13; and New York languished in the twenty-fifth seat on the list.

Florida to Ban Sanctuary Cities

The State of Florida is going to ban sanctuary cities. Florida’s measure, passed by lawmakers last week, forbids law enforcement agencies and local governments from adopting policies that limit cooperation with federal immigration authorities. Republican Gov. Ron DeSantis made the ban a campaign promise, and he’s signaled his support for the bill, though his office hasn’t said yet whether – or when – he’s signing it. Supporters of sanctuary policies argue they keep communities safe by fostering trust between immigrant communities and law enforcement. Many of the largest cities in the country have such policies in place. Critics maintain that local sanctuary policies endanger public safety. President Donald Trump, an opponent of sanctuary cities, has attempted to cut off federal funding for sanctuary cities,

although much of his administration’s efforts have been thwarted by numerous court challenges. More than 30 bills related to sanctuary policies – both for and against them – are pending across the country, according to the National Conference of State Legislatures. Once signed into law, Florida won’t be alone. There are at least 11 other states that have similar policies in place including Alabama, Arizona, Arkansas, Georgia, Iowa, Mississippi, Missouri, North Carolina, South Carolina, Tennessee, and Texas. According to the National Conference of State Legislatures, as of April 2019 at least 21 state legislatures were weighing measures regarding sanctuary policies: Colorado, Illinois, Maine, Massachusetts, Kentucky, Michigan, Minnesota, Missouri, Montana, North Carolina, North Dakota, New Hampshire, New Jersey, Ohio, Oregon, Pennsylvania, South Dakota, Virginia, Wisconsin, West Virginia, and Wyoming.

Chelsea Manning Released

On Thursday, former Army intelligence analyst Chelsea Manning was released from federal custody after spending about two months in jail for refusing to testify about disclosing military and diplomatic secrets to WikiLeaks in 2010. Manning’s freedom, though, may be short-lived, as Manning’s attorneys have said that Manning will again refuse to testify in response to a separate subpoena received while detained. Manning, who served about seven years in prison for the massive leak, objected to the questioning in a grand jury appearance in March that was part of a continued effort by federal prosecutors investigating WikiLeaks founder Julian Assange. Manning was subsequently held in contempt. Federal appeals court rejected Manning’s argument for release – that rights were violated by the subpoena proceedings and that federal prosecutors purportedly sought to entrap – in April.

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Manning was released from the William G. Truesdale Adult Detention Center in Alexandria, Virginia, on Thursday after 62 days because the grand jury that had demanded Manning’s testimony was no longer sitting, according to the statement. The second subpoena would have Manning appear before a different grand jury next week, “but for (the) same questions,” according to a tweet posted on Manning’s Twitter account on Thursday night. Manning’s representatives have said that Manning was held in a cell for 22 hours a day. They said that solitary confinement amounted to “torture.”

Investigating the Origins of the Russia Investigation

John H. Durham, United States attorney in Connecticut, has been appointed by Attorney General William P. Barr to investigate the origins of the government’s Russia investigation. Durham has a history of serving as a special prosecutor investigating potential wrongdoing among national security officials, including the F.B.I.’s ties to a crime boss in Boston and accusations of C.I.A. abuses of detainees. His inquiry is the third known investigation focused on the opening of an F.B.I. counterintelligence investigation during the 2016 presidential campaign into possible ties between Russia’s election interference and Trump associates. The department’s inspector general, Michael E. Horowitz, is separately examining investigators’ use of wiretap applications and informants and whether any political bias against Donald Trump influenced investigative decisions. John W. Huber, the United States attorney in Utah, has been reviewing aspects of the

Russia investigation. Senator Lindsey Graham, Republican of South Carolina and chairman of the Senate Judiciary Committee, says he will also review aspects of law enforcement’s work in the coming months. Barr signaled his concerns about the Russia investigation during congressional testimony, particularly the surveillance of Trump associates. “I think spying did occur,” the attorney general said. “The question

is whether it was adequately predicated. And I’m not suggesting that it wasn’t adequately predicated. But I need to explore that.” Last week, the F.B.I. director, Christopher A. Wray, defended the bureau, saying he was unaware of any illegal surveillance and refused to call agents’ work “spying.” Former F.B.I. and Justice Department officials have defended the reasons behind the investigation, saying it was warranted.

The Mueller report, which was released last month, citied “insufficient evidence” to determine that the president or his advisers engaged in a criminal conspiracy with Russia. As part of the early Russia inquiry, the F.B.I. investigated four Trump associates: George Papadopoulos; Paul Manafort, the Trump campaign chairman; Michael T. Flynn, the president’s first national security adviser; and Carter Page, another campaign foreign policy adviser.

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“Our concern is not the content of the speech but providing transparency about the true identity of the speaker,” Assistant Attorney General for National Security John Demers said. In a report in January 2017, U.S. intelligence agencies called RM’s sister TV station, RT America, “Russia’s state-run propaganda machine,” accusing it of having taken part in Russia’s efforts to interfere in the 2016 presidential campaign. In November 2017, the United States listed RT America as a foreign agent even though “similar” services like Britain’s BBC, China’s CCTV, and Germany’s Deutsche Welle Radio USA haven’t been listed. Margarita Simonyan, RT’s editor-in-chief, sarcastically congratulated the United States at the time for its “freedom of speech and everyone who still believes in it.” Then, in what was widely seen as retaliation, Russian President Vladimir Putin later that month signed a bill authorizing Russia to register U.S. media outlets like Voice of America and Radio Free Europe/Radio Liberty as foreign agents.

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Radio Station is a Russian Agent Radio Sputnik is, according to a federal judge, an agent of the Russian government. Judge Robin Rosenberg said that the radio station in Washington, D.C., must register as an agent of the Russian government. Americans “have a right to know if a foreign flag waves behind speech broadcast in the

United States,” the judge said. The radio station only identifies itself for five seconds every hour. It has been operating since December 2017. Radio Sputnik is part of Rossíya Segódnya, the government news agency created in 2013 by Russian President Vladimir Putin. In June 2018, the Justice Department ordered WZHF’s owner, RM Broadcasting of Jupiter, Florida, to register as a foreign agent under the Foreign Agents Registration Act, a

1938 anti-propaganda law. RM filed a counterclaim, arguing that it simply buys and sells air time, without regard to or even knowledge of that content. Moreover, according to court documents, RM’s contract with Rossíya Segódnya specifically declares that neither party is an “agent for the other.” Judge Rosenberg noted that under the contract, RM is required to perform services for Rossíya Segódnya in exchange for payment, which she

We could have guessed it, but now it’s been confirmed: Newark Liberty Airport is officially the nation’s worst airport, according to AirHelp’s annual rating list. The New Jersey-based hub held the lowest U.S. spot at 116 of 132 airports around the world, according to AirHelp, an organization that specializes in air traveler rights by seeking

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compensation for delays and cancellations. Overall, U.S. airports ranked poorly on the global list with the highest-ranking American airport going to Hartsfield-Jackson Atlanta International, which scored the 34th spot. Henrik Zillmer, AirHelp’s chief executive, told Bloomberg that the major reason why American airports scored low was due to weather-related delays and poor quality of service. Long security lines were frequent problems as well, causing a slew of customer complaints. AirHelp rated airports on three key factors: on-time performance, service quality, and food and shopping options. The group surveyed more than 40,000 passengers in 40 countries last year on their personal experiences. This is the ninth year compiling the report. According to the report, the best airport in the world is Hamad International Airport in Qatar. These other airports rounded out the top ten on the list: Tokyo International Airport, Japan; Athens International Airport, Greece; Afonso Pena International Airport, Brazil; Gdansk Lech Wałęsa Airport, Poland; Sheremetyevo International Airport, Russia; Changi Airport Singapore, Singapore; Rajiv

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This is not a scene from a movie, although it could be. Passengers waiting for a PSA Airlines flight to take off from Louisville International Airport were surprised when their flight was delayed. The reason? Their pilot had been arrested at the airport. He is being accused of

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Passengers were surprised to hear that their pilot was arrested and were even more startled to learn why he was taken into custody. “It’s scary to think this happened so long ago,” passenger Ashley Martin said, “and they’re just now getting around to catching the guy.” Seems like truth is a lot stranger than fiction.

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They were supposed to be the wave of the future. Australia recently came up with a new $50 bill with added security features. Among the anti-counterfeiting measures on the bill which entered general circulation in October is a swan that appears to fly and a holographic 50 that reverses when the note is moved. Around 400 million of these bills were printed – 46 million of them are in circulation. But one eagle-eyed citizen has noticed that there is something quite not right with the new currency: the word “responsibility” is missing an “i.” The mistake – which would be hard to spot with the naked eye – is in microprint beside Edith Cowan, the first female member of an Australian parliament. The microprint next to her features excerpts from

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How’s this for lucky? An Australian family was enjoying a walk with their dog on Sunday when thousands of dollars came their way. The father and two daughters were walking with their dog, Lucky, when they came across a huge gold nugget. “I actually walked right past it but my daughter pretty much kicked it as she was walking,” the father said. “She then goes, ‘Dad, is this gold?’ I said, ‘I think it might be.’” They tried to weigh the huge rock at a nearby supermarket. Turns out, the nugget weighs 20 ounces, or 1.25 pounds, and could be valued at a whopping $24,000. “To sell it as a nugget whole, it’s probably worth a little bit more than that,” dad said. “We’ve come on some tough times so it’s really good because we’ve been struggling financially. It couldn’t be better timing really.” The family’s “lucky” find was only the latest time an Australian has been revealed to have discovered a gold nugget. In September, a retired man found a roughly seven-pound gold

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The durian fruit is a delicious, sweet-tasting fruit. Its smell, though, is far from sweet. As the fruit ripens, its odor deepens and becomes more and more foul. An Australian university learned this lesson the hard way last week when the school evacuated its library because of the durian. 550 people were sent out of the University of Canberra’s library because of a gas leak. Patrons smelled an awful odor and authorities swiftly – within six minutes – cleared the area. But the unpleasant smell didn’t turn out to be gas at all – it was the durian fruit, doing its thing. “We are open!” the university wrote online about an hour later. “The lingering gas-like smell in the building is completely safe – someone left a durian fruit in one of our bins!” The “offending fruit,” as dubbed by the school, has a creamy, stringy texture, but also a smell that Smithsonian magazine once compared to “turpentine and onions, garnished with a gym sock.” The fruit caused the second mass evacuation of an Australian university. In April 2018, fire officials in Melbourne warned of a chemical hazard at the Royal Melbourne Institute of Technology and said the smell of gas had been reported. After hundreds were evacuated, it turned out the possible leak was “not chemical gas, but gas generated from rotting durian, an extremely pungent fruit which had been left rotting in a cupboard.” Seems like they’ve got to learn more about their fruits Down Under.

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Community Happy 71st Birthday Israel!

he excitement and fun activities didn’t stop as HALB Lev Chana celebrated the 71st birthday of the State of Israel. The day-long celebration began as our children arrived at HALB Lev Chana, showing off their blue and white attire and staring in amazement at the multitude of Israeli flags on the walls, windows, and doors of their classrooms, buildings, and trees. They boarded El Al Flight 70, davened Shacharit, and ate delicious snacks. Their tefillot and Hallel were even more meaningful as they talked about how important the Land of Israel is to them and the world. Each of our kindergarten classes created a detailed diorama as they focused on a specific city/place in Israel. The children did a magnificent job preparing and decorating the Lev Chana multi-purpose room so that their friends could experience firsthand a trip to Eretz Yisroel. Everyone “landed” at Ben Gurion airport and “visited” Yerushalayim, where they davened at the Kotel; Tzfat, where they admired the artwork and candles; Eilat, where they enjoyed the colorful fish and pristine beaches; and a kibbutz, where they milked a cow and picked some oranges. Our children went home with souvenirs to remember the places they visited. What a great tour! Throughout the day, all the children and teachers smelled the deli-

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n honor of the 71st anniversary of Israel’s Independence, HANC High School celebrated Yom Ha’atzmaut with exciting and meaningful programming throughout the day. On Thursday, May 9, the 4th day of Iyar, the morning began with a school-wide spirited musical Hallel in honor of the day. During morning shiur, classes participated in interactive lesson on Kedushat Eretz Yisrael prepared by Morah Nomi Zanjirian, director of Religious Life. Grades 9 and 10 also researched various cities in Israel and posted their completed projects on a board for all to see. Students and faculty celebrated with a spectacular chagigah led by

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Hempstead Town Supervisor Laura Gillen, Clerk Sylvia Cabana and State Senator Anna Kaplan raised the Israel flag with members of the Town’s Jewish community over Town Hall in honor the 71st anniversary of Israel’s Declaration of Independence last week. Also featured is Mindy Perlmutter and Adam Novak from the Jewish Community Relations Council, Robert Socolof from AJC Long Island, Gary Glick from the Jewish War Veterans, Rabbi Dave Siegal of Hofstra Hillel, and Pin Cole from the Friends of the Israel Defense Forces.

MTA Celebrates Yom Ha’atzmaut

TA celebrated Yom Ha’atzmaut with an exciting chagiga, featuring live music and dancing. Talmidim and rebbeim rejoiced together as they honored Israel’s declaration of independence. Following the celebration, everyone participated in a conversation with MTA alum Matthew Albert (‘17), who described his experience making aliyah and drafting into the IDF, where he serves in a special forces unit in mishmar hagvul, the Israel Border Police. Matthew discussed how participating in MTA’s Makor Chaim Israel Exchange Program made a tremendous impact on his love for Eretz Yisrael. He also talked about the strong foundation MTA provided him with, which helped him endure all of the challenges he faced during his IDF training. Matthew shared a story about a particularly grueling training exercise that took place around Purim, which made him feel like giving up. Just when he had reached his

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Candles & Bootcamp at Shulamith

hulamith Middle Division enjoyed a wonderful day of activities celebrating Israel’s 71st birthday. The day began with tefillah chagigit, followed by a video of the Megillah Ha’atzmaut with footage of Israel through history. Students then enjoyed a variety of activities prepared and coordinated by the

eighth graders, under the direction of Morah Chana Schwartz. The girls visited different rooms, including a Tzahal bootcamp, where they trained as soldiers do and learned about the history of the Munich Massacre; Shuk Machane Yehuda, where they learned the history of the shuk and were able to spend

“money” they earned throughout the week buying Israeli products; Tzfat, where they learned about the tzaddikim who are buried in Tzfat and enjoyed making havdalah candles at the “candle factory”; and a museum dedicated to the history of Israel, where they listened to audio presentations on important Israelis and

innovations. Everyone also had the chance to play a game of Jeopardy based on important general knowledge about Israel. A highlight of the day was the Daglanut, choreographed by Yali Altmark and Rebecca Schoenfeld, and performed by a dynamic group of eighth graders.

migration. Focusing on the modes of transportation, they created 3-D boats and airplanes, each reflecting interesting facts about the various groups of immigrants that moved to Israel. Third graders researched the Israeli created technology called WAZE. The students teamed up to answer research questions about WAZE using their Chromebooks and then built a car that reflected all that they had learned. The fourth graders focused on the diplomacy that resulted in the Camp David Accords, and the fifth grade took on the role of foreign correspondents as they reported about the Six Day War from the perspective of reporters from different countries in the Middle East. Sixth graders researched distinguished Israeli personalities like David Ben-Gurion, Golda Meir, Me-

nachem Begin and Bibi Netanyahu. Each life-sized poster displayed a zap code that enabled the visitors to see a video about that important person and their significant role in the Israeli government. At the conclusion of the day, the children were joined by their families for a spirited concert and dancing out on the playground. From the joy on their faces it was easy to see that it had been an exciting, educational, and fun-filled Yom haAtzmaut for one and all. Special thanks to Rabbi Merrill, Morah Dafna Berman, Morah Aimee Goldenberg, and Mrs. Naomi Fredman for their tremendous efforts in planning this spectacular day, as well as all of the staff who worked tirelessly to create a most meaningful learning experience and celebration of Israel’s 71th birthday.

Celebrating Israel at HANC

n celebration of Yom Ha’atzmaut, HANC 609 was awash in blue and white. All of the students in grades kindergarten through sixth grade spent weeks learning and researching different aspects of Israel’s history, culture, cities, landmarks, discoveries and innovations. As a culmination of everything they learned, each grade created an interactive display or experience to bring their research alive for the other students in the school. The children walked from room to room, experiencing numerous aspects of Israeli life. During the course of the morning, the students took a virtual tour of the country and had their passports stamped after they visited each station. They visited the Biblical Zoo, learned Torah in the virtual Yeshivat Gush Etzion Hesder program,

virtually walked down the streets of Israel, and stopped at many Biblical attractions all over Israel. At each station, the children had opportunities for further exploration by utilizing an app called Zappar, where they clicked on a zap code and discovered information that had been recorded by the older students. After eating an Israeli lunch complete with falafel and blue and white ices, the lunchroom was transformed into an Israeli museum. Each grade created a magnificent display about the topic that they researched. The kindergarten class created a model of an Israeli kibbutz, the First Grade made a three-dimensional model of Tel Aviv highlighting eighteen of the city’s most famous attractions, and the second grade created a map that reflected the different waves of im-

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HALB Celebrates Israel

ALB celebrated Israel turning 71 in a major way! Students in grades 1-8 came together to sing and dance in a “Kululam”-style medley. Each grade led a segment in the production and filled the room with energy and excitement. In addition to the song, dance and concert, meaningful tributes were conducted for members of the HALB family making aliyah. Senator Todd Kaminsky joined us and gave a moving speech about the love and dedication we all should have towards Israel.

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hulamith Lower Division held a very unique Yom Ha’atzmaut program celebrating the Startup Nation. Grades 1-4 “visited” an Israeli tech museum created by third grade teacher Mrs. Fraida Liba Levine. There were multiple stations where students the opportunity to learn more in-depth about Israeli innovations with hands-on experiments and fun activities. Each

activity was introduced on colorful educational posters using a “problem: solution” format. The students are being trained to think and learn skills like a problem solver. The exhibits included: Agriculture, in which the girls watered real plants with a drip irrigation pump, like netafim used in Israel to make the desert bloom and save scarce water; a “Waze Maze” where the stu-

dents used input/output computer programming skills; solar power, the girls saw that we can get clean power from the sun to reduce our energy consumption and the waste it produces; Watergen, using frozen bottles, the students witnessed how air could be cooled to dew point and water can be created out of thin air; space travel, the girls experimented with propelling balloons using

the force of air and learned about the Beresheet spacecraft, reminding girls that if at first you don’t succeed, try again!; pill cam, the students were reminded of the Magic School Bus episode inside the human body and noted that dreams and imagination can become real with science. Thank you to Mrs. Judy Lebovits of CIJE for joining us!

YCQ, Etz Chaim & YIKGH Remember and Celebrate Israel

ong. Etz Chaim, Young Israel of Kew Gardens Hills (YIKGH) and the Yeshiva of Central Queens (YCQ) combined forces, as they have done annually, to commemorate Yom HaZikaron and to celebrate Yom Ha’atzmaut on Wednesday evening, May 8, 2019 at Etz Chaim. To commemorate Yom HaZikaron, Tehillim, Kel Maleh Rachamim, Misheberach for the soldiers of Israel, Tefilah L’Shelom Hamedina and modern poems of Yom HaZikaron were recited with great emotion. The 4th grade YCQ Choir, led by YCQ Music Director Tali Brody Spector, excitedly sang a combination of slow, emotional songs to commemorate Yom HaZikaron and then transitioned into lively numbers celebrating Yom Ha’atzmaut. The crowd joined in with extraordinary enthusiasm! Rabbi Moshe Rosenberg, the host rabbi, introduced Prof. Moshe (Milton) Markovitz of Teaneck, formerly of KGH, who, in his talk, entitled “Witnessing the Birth of the State of Israel,” related his memories of the original Yom Ha’atzmaut, which oc-

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curred on 5 Iyar, May 14, 1948, from the perspective of a 4-year-old toddler! He had vivid memories and his presentation was unique. The youth participated in special activities related to the chag, including Gimkit TorahTech Chidon Yisrael. After communal singing of the HaTikva, the crowd partook in traditional foods such as falafel, chummus and techina.

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TA commemorated Yom HaZikaron with a meaningful program featuring a moving speech by former lone soldier and current RIETS semicha student Michael Goldman, who shared his experience fighting for Israel in Gaza and discussed how his faith in Hash-

em helped him get through such a difficult time. Talmidim also observed a moment of silence on behalf of all of Israel’s fallen soldiers and watched an emotional video of Rabbi Eliyahu Meirav, stepfather of 19-year-old Sergeant Yosef Cohen, Hy”d, who was killed in a terrorist attack.

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he Young Israel of Oceanside marked Yom HaZikaron and Yom Ha’atzmaut with a meaningful youth-driven program. The event began early in the evening with a focus on Yom HaZikaron, and then transitioned to a festive celebration after nightfall in honor of modern-day Israel’s 71st birthday. The program was led and coordinated by Nechama Aryeh, who has been running the Israel programming at the YIO for the last ten years. “Each year, we try to changeup the program in order to bring in more people, and to keep it fresh and interesting for those who are returning participants,” said Nechama. “Our community is a closeknit group of individuals and families from a wide variety of backgrounds and across the entire age spectrum, and we want to appeal to every demographic when it comes

to these two important days on our calendar.” In that vein, Nechama approached Rabbi Jonathan Muskat, rabbi of the YIO, nearly a year ago with her idea to focus the 2019 program on the youth of the community. “Our community has experienced significant growth over the past few years and we now have well over 200 children who are regular participants in our youth program,” said Rabbi Muskat. “Nechama’s idea to not just involve the youth, but to make them the central point of the whole program, was novel and something that everyone would rally around.” Children of all ages selected from a long list of opportunities that would showcase their talents – choir, poetry, drama, multimedia video creation, art, and more. They were divided into groups and were then assigned a parent-mentor who periodically

met with them for several months to help prepare their part of the program. Along the way, the children learned an enormous amount about Israel’s history and the meaning of Yom HaZikaron. The standing-room only crowd experienced an event that was emotional in nature as the children, ranging in age from 5 to 17 years old, beautifully performed their segments. The audience learned about the details of the fall

and rebirth of Gush Etzion through a gripping skit, and they were moved to tears by a slideshow dedicated to Tzahal which was accompanied by a children’s choir singing Yehoram Gaon’s rendition of the Mi Shebeirach L’tzahal. There was also a multi-media presentation, an original poetry reading, and more. The program closed on a note of hope and inspiration as 20+ young children took the stage to sing Acheinu and Hatikva,

with musical accompaniment played by some older children. Following the Yom HaZikaron commemoration, participants davened the Tefilla Chagigit and Maariv, and then moved to the ballroom for a gala buffet Israeli dinner of shawarma, falafel, and more. The hall was festively decorated with Israeli flags, balloons, posters, and table centerpieces of Israel-themed art painted by the children of the Oceanside community. Everyone enjoyed the food and socializing immensely, and then broke into spontaneous singing and dancing to cap off the evening of celebration. It was a truly meaningful and memorable program which appropriately captured and conveyed the import of each day, Yom HaZikaron and Yom Ha’atzmaut, for all participants. Happy 71st birthday, Israel – our Jewish homeland!

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Mesivta Ateres Yaakov’s Annual Dinner – “Your Yeshiva for Life”

s Mesivta Ateres Yaakov celebrates its “Your Yeshiva for Life” annual dinner on Monday, May 20, at the Sands at Atlantic Beach, the honorees shared their thoughts about makes the Mesivta so special and why it has such an outsized impact on its talmidim and the community. “Our older son, Dovie, and now our younger son, Eli, have been happy to go to school every day at MAY. They have been taught to learn and to truly love Yiddishkeit. Dovie, who graduated in 2017, is constantly in touch with his MAY rabbeim discussing learning and life. He is in his second year at Yeshiva Mercaz Hatorah and has grown spiritually and emotionally, building on the solid foundation that he formed at MAY. Dovie’s connection with his rabbeim is genuine and is just as strong as when he was a student. The ongoing guidance and support from MAY really make it a yeshiva for life.” -Avi & Goldie Dreyfuss, Guests of Honor “We selected MAY because we wanted our son Natan to have a well-rounded education in limudei kodesh and general studies. We also wanted a warm environment where he could have close relationships with his teachers and where our family could be involved in the MAY community. The rabbeim and educators at MAY have allowed us to partner with them in introducing programming to benefit all of the students. We recently sponsored the CPR course in an effort to spread knowledge of basic life-saving techniques. It’s invaluable tools like this that make MAY a yeshiva for life.” -Dr. Yechiel & Brenda Berkowitz, Parents of the Year “My husband and I shared many milestones

Dr. and Mrs. Saul Bahn

Avi & Goldie Dreyfuss, Guests of Honor

Dr. Yechiel & Brenda Berkowitz, Parents of the Year

The graduating class of MAY 2009

with our children and grandchildren at Kehilla Ateres Yaakov and at MAY. It is more than a shul to our family and more than just a school to our grandsons. My husband felt at home at MAY and had a special kinship with Rabbi Yaffe. He had a great respect for books, and felt they were ‘best friends’ that must be cherished. Our family decided to dedicate the Otzer Haseforim in his memory to continue his connection with kehilla and to support the daily Torah learning that is the foundation of the school. Torah study will be a great zechus to his life.” -Mrs. Annette Bahn, dedicating the Bahn Otzer Haseforim in memory of Dr. Saul Bahn “My father, Dr. Saul Bahn, z”l, loved davening with his grandsons at the yeshiva on Sunday mornings. He received tremen-

dous nachas from sitting with them while they davened with their class and he always handed them a small amount of money to put in tzedakah after davening. It is especially appropriate for us to continue his tradition of tzedakah in the very room where he showed our boys by example the importance of tzedakah. It was one of his strong middos and one of the many middos instilled as a valuable life-lesson at MAY.” -Mrs. Susan Samson, dedicating the Bahn Otzer Haseforim in memory of Dr. Saul Bahn “An amazing thing about the Mesivta is the connection I still have to it today. The Mesivta, along with my parents, really helped shape my whole adult identity. The foundation and guidance I received at MAY really made it possible for me to go out into the working world and

still maintain that strong fundamental connection with being a good Jew. The Mesivta truly set us up for success in every realm – in our Yiddishkeit, in our professional world, and in our family world. The rabbeim, teachers and hanhalah served as amazing role models for our adult lives. I really feel privileged to have been part of, and continue to be part of, Mesivta Ateres Yaakov. The yeshiva says it works to provide rabbeim, education and Torah for life, and it’s 100% true.” -Shlomo Wasserman, Alumnus, Class of 2009 “I have a tremendous amount of hakaras hatov to all the rabbeim, including Rabbi Yaffe, Rabbi Rudansky and my mentor, Rabbi Bennett. MAY instilled in me the importance of learning Torah every day. They instilled in me the importance

of always trying my best and being nice to everybody. MAY is just a really special place. They really care about the talmidim. My son Shaya is only 2 years old, but I already know where I’m sending him to high school. I’m still constantly getting invited out to Shabbos meals, Purim seudos and events at the Yeshiva. I can truly say that my relationship with MAY is for life.” -Avi Klein, Alumnus, Class of 2009 The entire community is encouraged to attend the dinner and pay tribute to the Mesivta, its hanhalah, its rabbeim, and its distinguished honorees. For further information, to make reservations, or for dedication opportunities, please contact the Mesivta office at 516-374-6465 or dinner@ateresyaakov.com.

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Remembering and Celebrating at Central

t has been an intense and exciting week on the Jewish calendar. On Wednesday, students marked Yom Hazikaron with a traditional tekes (ceremony) honoring Israel’s fallen. Pictures of soldiers and citizens, killed defending the State of Israel, lined the hallways, and students spent the day in solemn remembrance. As students were leaving on Wednesday evening, though, whispers and decorations for what was to come could already be seen...and Thursday erupted into a day of celebration of Yom

Ha’atzmaut! With all classes canceled, students had the time to learn exclusively about the State of Israel – its history, its language, its culture and

TAG and CAHAL Visit the Zoo

its Torah – from an array of faculty. They also enjoyed tons of fun – mock Tzahal training that involved games like Code Names, Battleship, and oth-

ers, an Israel Culture Fest, including dance and song, and delicious Israeli food for breakfast and dinner. Am Yisrael chai!

IVDU Receives Generous Book Donation from Hindi’s Libraries

hat could be better than a day at the zoo with your friends? As the weather has finally started to warm up, TAG took its students for an educational and fun trip to the Queens Zoo to learn more about animals and their habitats. The yeshivas that host CAHAL classes integrate our students for all grade-wide activities including trips, and this was no exception. Mrs. Shani Hildeshaim and Miss Leah Kramer’s students from the TAG 1-2 CAHAL class went on the trip with their classmates in TAG. The girls were able to explore the different natures and preferences of many animals, from sea lions to bears. They were able to notice the similarities of some animals like the puma, cheetah, and lion, and they were introduced to animals they never saw before. A great time was had by all the

TAG students including those in the CAHAL class. CAHAL, the local yeshiva-based and sponsored community program for children with learning challenges, is now in its 26th year, providing smaller, more individualized classes in the local yeshivas. All the students attend mainstream activities daily, including lunch, recess, specials, assemblies, trips and more. When ready, children attend academic classes as well, with support from CAHAL to ensure success. The experienced and caring CAHAL teachers make it all happen. CAHAL is currently accepting students. For more information about the CAHAL program and to donate to this great community organization, contact CAHAL at cahal@cahal. org or call (516) 295-3666.

he students of IVDU Long Island have been the fortunate recipients of a generous donation of books from Hindi’s Libraries. The connection between IVDU and Hindi’s Libraries began when articles about IVDU and Hindi’s Libraries were featured next to one another in a recent edition of The Jewish Home, prompting IVDU to reach out to Hindi’s Libraries and inquire about the effort. Created in loving memory of Dr. Hindi Krinsky, a”h, Hindi’s Libraries aims to spread Hindi’s legacy and passion for literacy by distributing books to children. Hindi was a beloved high school English teacher and curriculum coordinator at HAFTR who inspired many with her love of learning. Hindi’s Libraries donates books to places such as Jewish community centers, hospitals, and children’s organizations. Hindi’s Libraries is truly continuing Hindi’s legacy, spreading a love of literature to thousands of children. We thank Mr. David Kanarfogel and Mr. Leslie Gang, the coordinators of Hindi’s Libraries, for providing our school with such a generous collection of beautiful books to help nurture our students’ love of reading. As a special education program, IVDU supports children in learning to read in spite of the various challenges and obstacles they

may face. The donation of over 200 books has greatly enhanced our school’s growing library. The students of IVDU will experience the joy of reading again and again as they enjoy their new books. IVDU hopes to continue Hindi’s legacy and passion for literature and learning for years to come.

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Rosh Chodesh Iyar at Gesher Mazel tov to Rabbi Merenstein, Rosh Mesivta of MSP, and family on the bris of their son, Akiva Tzvi, this week

BYAM Continues its Nashim Tzidkaniyos Program

t this month’s Rosh Chodesh assembly, the next tzadekes in our theme of nashim tzidkaniyos was introduced to the girls. Rebbetzin Vichna Kaplan was one of the founders of Bais Yaakov in America and was a student of Sarah Schenirer. One of her tremendous qualities was the middah of being able to be friends with everyone and understand and listen to everyone,

no matter who they were. Mrs. Zytman spoke to the Bais Yaakov Ateres Miriam girls about this middah and then the girls played various games that required team effort and help from everyone to win. They had such an amazing time working together and are excited to learn more and aspire to be more like Rebbetzin Vichna Kaplan.

The beauty of butterflies in the Holy Land Rafi Sackville, page 94

ast Monday, every class in Gesher had the chance to create a special friendship project at our Rosh Chodesh Iyar assembly. Each child took a Polaroid picture with their friends and was able to design a fun art project with those pictures. Afterwards they used Gesher’s new multimedia play space to learn about Lag B’Omer and the story of Rabbi Akiva.

Every Day is Mother’s Day at the Marion and Aaron Gural JCC

es, we all know that every day is Mother’s Day – or should be. But when that Sunday in May nears and flower shops, greeting card aisles, restaurants and just about every retail store put up signs or offer promotions about the upcoming celebration it’s hard to ignore the commotion. While for most women Mother’s Day is an opportunity to spend time with their families and enjoy some pampering, for many others this day can be a painful reminder of loss. Certainly, if you have recently lost your mother the day can be extremely difficult. If you’ve never had the pleasure and blessing of being a mom yourself, it is hard to watch others joyfully mark the occasion. If you do have children and grandchildren but they live out of town or overseas it can be a challenge spending the day without them. And if you are a single parent and your life has turned upside down, Mother’s Day can be a heart wrenching reminder of a failed marriage. At the Marion and Aaron Gural JCC, among our many programs offering support and services to the community and beyond, we make available caregivers groups, bereavement meetings, the OKAY program for moms whose kids live in Israel, the RISE project for parents dealing with infertility, miscarriage and infant loss, and the Kadima initiative for over 250 single parents. With Mother’s Day passing and clients’ sadness and struggles exacerbated, Kadima hosted a special “feel good” evening celebration last Wednesday. In memory of one of our initial and beloved members, Dan-

iella Vogel a”h, and in recognition of the wonderful, determined women in our program, of which Daniella was a brave leader, we offered our single moms a night of pampering – free mini sessions of massage, hair design and makeup application, aromatherapy and lip balm creation, a salad bar, puzzle-making station, and loads of giveaways. It was the kind of event that brought women of all ages and backgrounds – but with a shared experience – together in an enjoyable, relaxing atmosphere of camaraderie. It was the kind of treat no one would have been able to give themselves. It was a break from the stress and uncertainty of life and a chance to be themselves among friends in a safe, warm, and welcoming environment. The Kadima program at the JCC offers one-on-one counseling and support groups, entitlements assistance and other concrete services, lectures and workshops on legal and financial issues, career guidance, programs for children, and so much more. We recognize the need to occasionally intersperse these essential values with a few hours “off” and a night of fun. Our Mother’s Day event fit the bill. We could not have organized the evening without the generosity of Allison Chait of Shabbosbrushups, Tehila Tzadok’s hair design, the wonderful, generous families at Merrick Jewish Center, the dedicated volunteers and staff at the JCC, and the continued support of UJA-Federation New York. For more information about Kadima or any of our programs call the Marion and Aaron Gural JCC (516)5696733.

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Rav Shloime Eisen, maggid shiur in Yeshiva Darchei Torah’s Mesivta Chaim Shlomo and Beis Medrash Heichal Dovid, delivering a chaburah during second seder at the Yeshiva last week

From Darkness to Light

n the Acheinu tefillah, we offer a prayer to HaKadosh Baruch Hu to watch over Klal Yisroel m’afeila l’ora, from darkness to light. On Yom HaShoah, Yom HaZikaron and Yom Ha’atzmaut, we commemorate, and celebrate, some of the darkest and brightest moments in our nation’s history. On Yom HaShoah, DRS was honored to invite Mrs. Frima Laub, a Holocaust survivor and grandmother of DRS senior Jonathan Kaszlow. Mrs. Laub presented her remarkable story of survival, managing to somehow stay committed to her Judaism throughout the horrors she experienced in his lifetime. Her words of

courage, strength, fortitude, and immense bitachon inspired the entire yeshiva and moved many to tears. On Yom HaZikaron, six IDF soldiers addressed the student body and remembered fallen soldiers who gave up their lives to defend the State of Israel.

The soldiers led the packed Beis Medrash in singing of Hatikvah and Ani Maamin and recitation of Yizkor and Kel Maleh. Moving videos and stories were presented to the students as well. On Yom Ha’atzmaut, to celebrate the miracle of the birth of Medinat

Yisrael, the day began with a festive Hallel. The celebration continued in the gym with a unforgettable Yom Ha’atzmaut chagigah featuring the incomparable Mordechai Shapiro. The day ended with a schoolwide BBQ on the school’s front lawn.

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plishments of all of the yeshiva’s talmidim. If you wish to donate to the Scholarship fund, please visit yu.edu/mtascholarships.

Fundraising Blitz at MTA

TA raised a total of $551,080 for its Scholarship Fund during a 24hour fundraising blitz held on Monday, May 6 and Tuesday, May 7. With help from a committee of dedicated parents, rebbeim, faculty members, and talmidim who worked around the clock, MTA surpassed its original goal of raising $400,000 and increased the goal to $550,000, which was then exceeded. All donations made during the 24-hour+ fundraising blitz were matched 1:1. MTA is committed to ensuring that its unparalleled Torah and ac-

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Shalom Task Force at Torah Umesorah

his past week, Yeshaya Kraus, LCSW, Community Engagement and Educational Manager of Shalom Task Force, attended the annual Torah Umesorah Convention in Pennsylvania. Yeshaya shared that it was “a really great opportunity to meet with educators from all over the country and share how we can work together to foster healthy families and safe relationships.” Yeshaya is spearheading an initiative to pro-

vide quality educational workshops for high school and post-high school/ Beit Medrash-age students that address critical relationship and life skills. Shalom Task Force is committed to combating domestic violence and fostering healthy families. For more information about Shalom Task Force’s hotline, education and legal services are available at www.shalomtaskforce.org or 212-742-1478.

Weathering the Storm of Parenting By Mindi Werblowsky Saketkhou, LMSW

once heard a quote, “The apple doesn’t fall from the tree… except when there is a storm outside.” This seems to be an appropriate way to describe parenting today. How do we parent in a day and age when the world outside is trying with all their might to grab our children away from us? What tools can we use to weather the storm? Dr. Gabor Mate, a Canadian psychiatrist who is a Holocaust survivor, stated, “Whatever the hopes, wishes or intentions of the parent, the child does not experience the parent, they experience the parenting.” We need to develop the parenting skills needed to effectively raise healthy, happy, and productive children in today’s society. In any true storm, the most effective course of action is to stay home and out of the storm. Of course, it would not be feasible for our children to never leave the four walls of our homes and venture outdoors. However, we can create our homes

in such a way where even when our children do leave, their hearts and their minds stay home. They enjoy spending their free time at home with their families and they are happy to come back home at the end of the day. How do we infuse this feeling into our children? We need to make our homes happy places. Our homes should be filled with laughter, joy, music and fun. Our Shabbosim should revolve around spending time with our families and the focus at the table needs to be on them. When children enjoy being at home they will want to be there more often. One of the best pieces of advice I can give parents is to make your home the one that children want to bring their friends back to. Make your home the shelter from the storm. The second most important and effective step in weathering a storm is to wear protective gear when venturing outside. No sane person would walk into a thunderstorm wearing just a t-shirt and flip-flops. So too, when we send our children “outside,” we need to outfit them

Should my son remarry the woman he divorced a few months ago? Dating Dialogue, page 102

in protective gear. When utilizing technology, strong parental controls and filters are necessities, not accessories. Parents need to have open dialogues with their children about drugs, smoking, drinking, vapes, and co-ed relationships. Children must have chores and curfews. They need to be taught responsibility and ownership. And the most important message that parents can give their children is to impart to them in no uncertain terms that even when the children make mistakes and break the rules (which they will), they can always seek shelter and come back home. At Madraigos we counsel our parents to love unconditionally but parent with limits. It is these limits that, if put in place preventatively, will safeguard our children through the storm. But sometimes, no matter how well we prepare, we head out into a storm and hit an unexpected hardship. The winds of the storm are so strong that they threaten to blow away everything we have. Sometimes, the storm becomes a hurricane of massive proportions. To survive such a storm, we need to be tethered down so tightly that no matter what comes our way, the rope does not break. Even in a storm, the apple will not fall far from the tree if the apple is tied to it. At the end of the day, when all is said and done, the only thing that will keep our children safe and protected is our relationship with them. If we have been successful in building a strong positive connection with our chil-

dren, resonating with empathy, devotion, love and pride, our children will remain tethered to us. They may face challenge after challenge but their connection never severs. I have met with teenagers on the brink of disaster, children who have suffered through tremendous challenges and traumas. There have been times when I myself am shocked that they have not given everything up and drowned themselves in a life of substance abuse or irreligiosity. And when I ask these adolescents what has stopped them from going over the edge, they respond that they could never hurt their parents in that way. And that no matter what it takes, they will seek every recourse they can to find help and make sure they live up to their parents’ expectations of them. At Madraigos we believe in parenting from prevention - acquiring the necessary skills and resources to parent effectively before reaching a point of crisis. Our community wide parenting events and parenting support groups are all aimed at this idea of empowering the parents in our community to build these relationships with their children and to give them the tools on how to do it. To get further information about any of these programs or to seek out any individual guidance and resources please contact me at 516-371-3250 ext. 112 or mwerblowsky@madraigos.org. Mindi Werblowsky Saketkhou, LMSW, is the clinical director of Madraigos.

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Yeshiva of South Shore talmidim of the Abraham and Sara Silber Mechina Students of Month are seen here with Rabbi Zev Davidowitz, menahel, and Mr. Daniel Winkler, principal

Middos Olympics at YOSS

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n your mark, get set, get ready, go to sleep!” The races began with lots of excitement as the red and blue teams ran to do the Mitzvah of kabed es avicha ve’es imecha. In connection to Pirkei Avos, the boys celebrated the month of Iyar with the Annual “Middos Olympics.” The children raced to help their friends in their Hatzolah ambulances, they served food to their guests, and they hopped (and hoped) to put tzedakah in the pushkas. They especially liked the to play “please and thank you pass the ball around.” They soon discovered that everyone is a winner at the Middos Olympics!

Rabbi Rosenwasser’s eighth grade class at Yeshiva of South Shore enjoyed a trip to The Living Torah Museum after finishing Parshas Kedoshim. They learned much of the parsha in depth and discussed various halachos, such as the kashrus of shavers and the intricacies of shatnez.

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100 Years and Counting: Torah Vodaath Centennial Dinner to Celebrate the Past, Look to the Future A Torah Celebration of a Lifetime

eshiva Torah Vodaath’s upcoming Centennial Dinner is a celebration of the spreading of Torah in America and beyond and a reflection of the growth of Klal Yisroel as a whole. Virtually every frum Jew has been impacted in some fashion or manner by the bastion that is Yeshiva Torah Vodaath, lending a special aura to this event. As the mother of the yeshiva movement in America, Yeshiva Torah Vodaath bears an illustrious legacy of a century. For five generations, the visionary foresight of the leadership of Torah Vodaath has hewn the path for a Torah-true education and the unprecedented growth of Yiddishkeit in this country. The historic accomplishments of Torah Vodaath will be celebrated on Sunday, May 26, and the Brooklyn Marriot is the place to be that momentous evening. A massive crowd, with dignitaries and guests traveling in from across the globe to participate, will unite to pay tribute to a yeshiva that will long stand out in the annals of the Torah world. Despite its age, the yeshiva has never grown old. Today, with an enrollment of close to one thousand students, the dynamic vitality and innovative spirit of the yeshiva are reflected in every facet of each of its divisions. The yeshiva’s four educational divisions – pre-school, yeshiva ketanah, mesivta and bais medrash – are currently located in three beautiful buildings in the Flatbush section of Brooklyn. Due to the high demand for the yeshiva’s methods in education, Torah Vodaath now has satellite programs in the Marine Park and Boro Park neighborhoods. The upcoming centennial celebration program will be unlike any other in recent memory.

R’ Shlomo Yehuda Rechnitz at the Yeshiva’s Dinner in 2015 honoring Moreinu Horav Belsky, zt’l

Prominent at the event will be the presentation of the Belsky Family Centennial Heritage Award in memory of the rosh yeshiva, Rav Chaim Yisroel Belsky, zt”l, a grandson of the visionary founder of Torah Vodaath, Rav Binyomin Wilhelm, zt”l. Rav Belsky’s son-in-law, the Torah world’s premier philanthropist Shlomo Yehuda Rechnitz will participate and introduce the guest speaker, his brother-inlaw, Rav Reuven Cohen, rosh kollel of Kollel Zichron Yosef in Kiryat Sefer. As the yeshiva remembers its past and pays tribute to its illustrious roshei yeshiva from across the generations, Torah Vodaath will be celebrating its present and future with an address from the rosh yeshiva, Rav Yitzchok Lichtenstein. Rav Lichtenstein, a renowned talmid chochom and marbitz Torah, has infused the yeshiva with palpable energy and vitality since assuming his position. Rav Lichtenstein stands at the helm of a chaburah of almost three dozen outstanding bnei Torah who have joined Torah Vodaath since his arrival, filling the yeshiva with a vibrant kol Torah as it enters its second century. Rav Shlomo Cynamon, a dynamic talmid chochom and mara d’asra of Khal Bnei Torah of Flatbush, delivers a daily shiur to this chaburah as the head of

their second seder. The dinner will feature the Global Centennial Siyum Hatorah, a worldwide effort of limud haTorah in tribute to Torah Vodaath’s present roshei yeshiva, Rav Yosef Savitsky, Rav Yisroel Reisman and Rav Yitzchok Lichtenstein, and in memory of the gedolei Torah who were at the helm of the yeshiva during the last century. The yeshiva will present a special tribute to classes of distinction who have utilized their talents and abilities on behalf of the klal. The talmidim of 1944-46, who will receive the 75 Year Tribute, will be represented by Rabbi Mendel Balsam, Rabbi Bezalel Fixler and Rabbi Dr. Yaakov Neuberger. The class of 1969, who will receive the 50 Year Tribute, will be represented by Rabbi Heshy Arem, Rabbi Nosson Motechin, Mr. Srulie Orzel and Rabbi Chaim Dovid Zwiebel. The class of 1994, who will receive the 25 Year Tribute, will be represented by Rabbi Shmuel Dovid Danciger, Mr. Yonatan Goldenberg and Mr. Yosef Nussbaum. There will be a special memorial tribute l’zeicher nishmas R’ Yitzchok Fink, z”l, the yeshiva’s beloved general studies principal for 36 years, who was recently niftar. Noted askanim Harry Skydell, grandson of the legendary Harry Herskowitz,

Yeshiva Ketanah Talmidim gearing up for the Centennial Siyum Hatorah

one of the pillars of Torah Vodaath, and Matis Friedman, whose family represents four generations of Torah Vodaath talmidim, serve as the centennial co-chairmen. Registered dinner guests will receive a complimentary copy of the groundbreaking Belsky-Rechnitz Family Edition of “America’s Yeshiva,” which chronicles the history of Torah Vodaas from before its founding to the present day, providing a historical overview the likes of which has never been compiled or published before. Anticipation is mounting ahead of the release of this unprecedented 650-page coffee table size volume. Recognizing the transformative impact of this centennial volume, painstakingly compiled by ArTech’s Baruch Wenger, Shlomo Yehuda and Tamar Rechnitz have sponsored the book in memory of Mrs. Rechnitz’s father, the rosh yeshiva, Rav Belsky. Registered guests will also receive the two-volume HaMesivta Migdal Hameah, containing 1,600 pages of chiddushei Torah. This publication, sponsored by the Leshkowitz family, features mostly previously unpublished material, culled from the notebooks and manuscripts of gedolei Torah from the last century and from roshei yeshiva, rabbonim and talmidei chochomim from

around the world. It is critically important that dinner attendees arrive at the hotel on time to allow for a smooth-running program. The yeshiva has hired extra staff to direct the overflow crowd, ensuring that there is sufficient parking and that guests can arrive with ease. The reception will begin at 5 p.m., followed by the dinner at 6:30 p.m. Those who have not yet made reservations or submitted a journal ad should do so now, as time is running out and space is limited. Your attendance and your personal message in the commemorative dinner journal will be a source of great chizuk and support for the yeshiva. For further information, contact the yeshiva’s office at 718.941.8000 or email YTV100@torahvodaath.org. Those traveling to the dinner from out of town may call 212.434.0203, ext. 204, or email chaim@hmtravelinc. com for transportation information. On Sunday, May 26, the spotlight will be on the New York Marriot at the Brooklyn Bridge, located at 333 Adams Street in Brooklyn, NY, where the unparalleled impact of the mother of American yeshivos will be celebrated. You won’t want to miss a moment of this extraordinary event.

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For the last two years, the Fuksbrumer family has hosted Rabbi Levin’s Chassidus/Sifsei Chaim Shiur. Week after week, with unique warmth and grace, Ronen and Sylvia, along with their precious children, have opened their home with the tastiest homemade chulent and delicious baked goods from Sylvia’s father’s bakery. The Fuksbrumer family once again opened their home for the inaugural SCP Shiur last week. Close to 100 men came out to join in the new Simchas Chaver program in Woodmere run by Rabbi Yoni Levin

Gurwin Nurse Honored at UHF Tribute to Excellence in Health Care

herryann Rampersad-Lalchan, RN (Brentwood), Transitions Nurse Educator at Gurwin Jewish Nursing & Rehabilitation Center in Commack, was among 51 honorees at the inaugural United Hospital Fund (UHF) Tribute to Excellence in Health Care, recognizing the personal efforts of top quality improvement personnel in hospitals and long-term care facilities throughout the metropolitan region to improve quality of care, patient safety and the patient experience. Rampersad-Lalchan was recognized for her work in creating the Transitions Program for short-term residents at the 460-bed nursing and rehabilitation center. As part of the program, each resident is followed during their stay by Rampersad-Lalchan as a Transitions Educator, helping them to understand their diagnoses and working with them to understand what they will need to care for themselves during their transition home. In her role, she follows up with the patients and families for at least four weeks post-discharge from the facility, lending support and encouragement during what can often be a fragile “transition” period. In just one year of running the program, indications are that patient satisfaction has increased while rehospitalization rates have decreased among discharged patients. The Tribute was held at Cipriani’s in Manhattan. According to UHF

president Anthony Shih, MD, MPH, “The Tribute is both a celebration of personal leadership and an occasion to amplify and elevate vital work underway to make our health care system more patient-centered, safe and effective.” Stuart B. Almer, president and CEO of the Gurwin Healthcare System, of which the Gurwin Jewish Nursing & Rehabilitation Center is a part, congratulated Rampersad-Lalchan on the honor, and thanked UHF for celebrating efforts to improve quality of care across acute and longterm care. “Our goal is always to provide the highest quality of care to our residents. Innovative ideas like our Transitions Program help our residents not only when they are directly under our care, but in the time during their transition home. This is person-centered care at work; we are proud of Sherryann and her efforts.” Rampersad-Lalchan has been with Gurwin since 2017.

Kollel Tiferes Avos Breakfast

n Sunday, May 19 at 9:45 a.m., Kollel Tiferes Avos, under the leadership of Rabbi Dov Bressler and Rabbi Dovid Scheiner, will host its ninth annual breakfast at Congregation Shaaray Tefila, 25 Central Avenue in Lawrence, New York. The occasion will serve as a memorial tribute to Ha’Rav Ha’Goan Eliyahu Pesach Rominek, zt”l, the founding Rosh HaYeshiva of Yeshiva Ohavei Torah, which disseminated Torah shiurim for decades and was a forerunner of the Kollel. Horav Don Blumberg, Rosh Kollel of the West Side Kollel, will present a timely and inspiring message highlighting the lasting contributions of Rabbi Rominek. At this gathering, the Torah V’Avodah Award will be presented to Dr. Yehoshua Korman for his inspiring participation in the Kollel’s sedarim. His meticulous attendance and probing analysis of shiurim has set a standard for all to follow. His Mora D’Asra, Harav Uri Orlian, will address, in his honor, the assemblage with words relating to Pesach Sheni and Lag B’Omer. Memorial tributes will also be

presented to honor the memories of the following distinguished participants in Kollel shiurim: Rabbi Mordechai Blaivas, Rabbi Chaim Klempner, Rabbi Betzalel Shindler, and Dr. David Bryk in addition to the noted maggid shiur Rabbi Efraim Kamin. The entire program will be chaired with warmth, sensitivity and humor by Rabbi Bezalel Korn, who is an inspiring figure within his own shul. Kollel Tiferes Avos is in session weekdays at Shaaray Tefila on Central Avenue in Lawrence. A day at the Kollel begins with a 9:45 a.m. shiur in Sefer HaChinuch and insights into the parsha presented by Rabbi Dovid Scheiner. A daily Gemara shiur emphasizing the underlying significance and ramifications of every statement together with halachic implications is delivered by Rabbi Dov Bressler, Rav of the HILI Bais Medrash. Chavrusos study the same mesechta at a more advanced level. Probing vaadim on machshava and mussar are also presented. For those who cannot attend morning sessions, shiurim are given on Tuesday evening and on Shabbos. All are invited!

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Rescued Woman and Rescuer to Speak for the Public in New York & L.A. for the First Time By Rhonda Goldstein

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e said to me, “If you leave, I will kill you.” Shira was trapped in an Arab village for over 20 years, starting from the age of 16. Now she is free and telling her story for the very first time in a series of events across Los Angeles, New York and Connecticut, organized by Yad L’Achim. This will be the first time Shira has ever told her personal life story in a public setting. Shira will talk about her harrowing decade-plus living a life of fear and her story of rescue that took place during Pesach of last year. Her husband was the head of a criminal enterprise. Shira’s dedication to her children despite her suffering will inspire and amaze you. Also appearing live at each of the events will be Sari, known as “the mother of rescued women,” who has helped to rescue over a thousand women and children. She will share

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erner to imagine how totally trapped they are,” says Yossi Eliav, Director of Special Projects, organizer of the tour. “Some live like prisoners, without access to a phone or even the freedom to go outside.” “One woman did not have access to a phone for 32 years and no way to call for help,” says R’ Nesanel Gantz, Director of Yad L’Achim in North America. Yad L’Achim, founded in the 1950s, has rescued thousands of these imprisoned women and their children. The operations are conducted with the utmost secrecy, as the lives of the women, their children, and all operatives are at high risk. Once free, Yad L’Achim provides safe shelter for these women and their children and supports their reintegration into society. The number of Jewish women and children trapped in these conditions today numbers in the thousands. “People aren’t aware how many hundreds of girls are drawn into these nightmare scenarios each year,” says Eliav. “Our mission is to show their plight to the world and save as many lives as we can.”

EVENTS - 7:30 p.m. nightly Sunday, May 19: Brooklyn, Har Levanon Synagogue, 820 Ave S Monday, May 20: Crown Heights, Lubavitcher Yeshiva Hall, 580 Crown St (8pm) Tuesday, May 21: Far Rockaway/5 Towns, TAG (elementary), 4-44 Beach 6th St Wednesday, May 22: Stamford, Connecticut, Chabad, 770 High Ridge Road Thursday, May 23: Queens, Ohel Simcha, 141-41 72nd Ave For more information including the schedule, visit www.2019ustour.com or call: 646-860-9165.

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he six first Kitah Alef talmidos of TAG joined together for a siyum to celebrate their completion of the sefer Kriah Ne’ema last week. Rabbi Meyer Weitman congratulated the girls and told them that their accomplishment of

learning proper kriah will impact their lives for many years to come. Mrs. Sima Greer, curriculum advisor, also spoke to the girls about the importance of tefillah and reciting Tehillim. The talmidos enjoyed tasty cookies and chocolate milk to com-

memorate this special event. The girls received their siddurim at their beautiful siddur performances in January and continue to daven with much enthusiasm and devotion. All this was accomplished through the efforts of their dynamic moros

under the leadership of TAG’s principal, Morah Menucha Levin. Mazel tov to all the talmidos and to TAG’s dedicated moros, Morah Fried, Morah Aviva Gerstel, Morah Faige Gerstel, Morah Klein, Morah Shteierman, and Morah Zucker.

Rep. Kathleen Rice Introduces Bill Requiring Cybersecurity Training for All House Members

.S. Representative Kathleen Rice, a member of the House Committee on Homeland Security, introduced new legislation last week that will require all House Members to undergo annual cyberand information security training, just as is already required for House officers and employees. H.Res. 355, the bipartisan Congressional Cybersecurity Training Resolution of 2019, co-led by Rep. John Katko (R-NY), will require the Chief Administrative Officer of the U.S. House of Representatives to carry out annual infor-

mation security training for House Members, officers and employees. The legislation is intended to help ensure that all House Members and staff are fully aware of the rising threat of cyberattacks and have the knowledge and skills they need to protect the integrity of data and information on government systems. New Members would be required to undergo this training within 30 days of beginning service to the House, and all Members would be required to complete annual training by January 31st of each year.

“Cyberattacks continue to pose a growing and vexing threat at nearly every level of government and Congressional Offices are no exception,” said Representative Kathleen Rice. “If we want to effectively counter those threats, then we need to make sure Members of Congress are equipped with the tools and knowledge to play an active role in this fight. Our employees and House officers are already required to take mandatory information security training, and it’s past time that Members are held to the same standard

and bear the same responsibility.” “Americans in the private and public sector are increasingly susceptible to cybersecurity attacks. Elected officials serving the House are no exception,” said Representative John Katko. “Members of Congress must be able to properly identify these risks. The staff in my official offices, as well as staff in every House office, are required to complete mandatory cybersecurity training. It is imperative Members of Congress do the same.”

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YOSS Alumni Return to Inspire Current Talmidim

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abbi Chaim Avi Weber (class of 2004), a rebbi in Yeshiva Mercaz HaTorah in Yerushalayim, and Rabbi Eli Portal (class of 2006), a rebbi in HAFTR, returned to Yeshiva of South Shore to speak to the talmidim of the Abraham and Sara Silber Mechina. They spoke about their experience in YOSS, they reminisced about their rabbeim, and they shared the messages of the yeshiva which inspired them to lead a life of harbatzas haTorah to the next generation. Rabbi Eli Portal addressing the talmidim

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Aish Kodesh to Host Lag Ba’Omer Hillula at the Lawrence Middle School

or the past 25 years, Aish Kodesh in Woodmere has celebrated the legacy and teachings of Rabbi Shimon Bar Yochai on Lag Ba’Omer, the 33rd day in the Omer, with a festive gathering otherwise known as a Hillula (a yahrtzeit celebration of a tzaddik). The annual Hillula has always played an important role at Aish, being an especially unique time in which the chevra would gather to hear Rav Moshe Weinberger, rav of Aish Kodesh, share deep mystical teachings of Rabbi Shimon Bar Yochai, as well as teachings from other great tzaddikim and chassidus. Music is also a powerful component of the Hillula with heartfelt niggunim and dancing throughout the evening. The energy is breathtaking; the experience one of a kind. “The event is so uplifting. I look forward to this night the whole year,” relates Woodmere resident and 15time participant Yehuda Klinkowitz. In the early days of Aish Kodesh, the Lag Ba’Omer Hillula would be held at HASC. To accommodate the growing crowd who were starting to

come from all over, this truly unique celebration was moved to the Young Israel of Lawrence-Cedarhurst. Four years ago, as the Lag Ba’Omer event continued to soar in popularity, with hundreds filling the YILC social hall, Aish Kodesh moved the event yet again, this time to one of the largest spaces available in the community, the Lawrence Middle School on Broadway. With the new space able to accommodate even more attendees, the Lag Ba’Omer Hillula in 2018 welcomed an overflow crowd of over 1,200 people, arriving from many different communities. Spilling in, from near and far, the participants have one thing in common: the shared desire to hear Torah depth and insights from Rav Weinberger and join the spirited singing and dancing that follows, in addition to the kumzitz-style buildup that starts the night. Although it may have only began with a handful of people in the early 1990’s, the Lag Ba’Omer Hillula has quickly become one of the largest and most anticipated annual events in the greater Five Towns/Far Rockaway community.

This year, Aish Kodesh once again looks to welcome a large crowd and has added several new components to enhance the experience. Live-feed video screens, with special lighting and sound around the auditorium where the Hillula is held, will be evident throughout. “The fresh visual experience accompanying the already awesome proceedings of the night will take this year’s event to a whole new level,” said a member of the planning committee. The renown singer and songwriter Eitan Katz will provide the live musical accompaniment, along with Rav Weinberger’s words of Torah

and chizuk. Just like the light of Torah that Rabbi Shimon Bar Yochai revealed to the world through the Zohar, this annual event of hisorerus and chizuk continues to spread the true light of Torah and chassidus, reaching countless people in the Five Towns community and around the world. The Lag Ba’Omer Hillula will take place at 8:45 p.m. on May 22 at the Lawrence Middle School, 195 Broadway, Lawrence, New York. For sponsorship opportunities, please email sponsor@ aishkodesh.org.

Club Central: A First Class Gym with a “Second Home” Atmosphere

ounded in Cedarhurst, New York, in 1996, Club Central continues to seek innovative ways to enhance the physical and emotional wellbeing of our community-based membership. Today, we still hold true to our commitment to reshaping the Five Towns. Our strong and successful growth stems from our commitment to understanding and meeting the distinct needs of the community we proudly serve. Enjoy total privacy with direct access from the women’s-only gym to the women’s locker room, including women’s-only group fitness classes and teen classes with our highly trained staff. Additionally, we provide men’s-only hours in our upstairs gym. We offer fun and effective workout options and membership types to members of all ages and in-

terests, which include highly qualified trainers, to help you get in shape and to encourage you to complete your best workout. What sets us apart from surrounding gyms and studios is our pledge to prioritize having a workout environment that is always maintained and comfortable for our members. Our “second-home atmosphere,” as our members call it, is what keeps our gym community coming back for more. Consistency means results! As we always have, and always will, cater to our members’ schedules, our weekday classes start as early at 6:00am, and our weekend classes resume Motzei Shabbos. Fortunate enough to be located right in the heart of Cedarhurst, we are also surrounded by three parking

lots, which allows all members to easily and safely park directly in the vicinity of the Club. Club Central has come under new ownership since June 2018 and it continues with the same management. Club Central has recently upgraded its facility. In addition, new equipment, such as ellipticals, bikes, and treadmills equipped with personal TVs, as well as spin bikes,

were added to the gym to ensure a stronger and more encouraging workout for every member. We always have been true to who we are as a club as we continue to respect the community around us; we will always be Club Central. As we approach our first full year under new ownership, we want to give back to the community and offer our new Fitness Stimulus mem-

bership for new and current members. An anniversary gift from us to you. See our ad for more information on this amazing, limited-time offer. Call 516-295-3232 to join Club Central today! To view our class schedule please visit our website at ClubCentralGyms.com and for great workout videos, last minute schedule changes, and motivation follow us on Instagram @ClubCentralGyms.

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Hundreds Attend Bnei Akiva Tekes Ma’avar

Rav Shaul Feldman, Eitan Katz, and Sam Meyer, founder of Babayit UWS

n the evening of May 8, over 700 people joined together for the annual “Tekes Ma’avar” transitioning from Yom HaZikaron to Yom Ha’atzmaut run by Bnei Akiva and its young professionals’ program Babayit at the West Side Institutional Synagogue in New York City. To say the evening was inspiring would be understating the impact of the event. Families, students, and young professionals all gathered to honor Israel’s fallen soldiers through tefillah, lighting candles and hearing from a chayal firsthand. Bnei Akiva brought in Yaron Porter of their partner organization, Tikvot, which rehabilitates Israel’s wounded soldiers and victims of terror through sport. Yaron’s empowering story of perseverance despite the trauma and injuries he endured as a combat soldier won a standing ovation from the crowd of hundreds. Rav Shaul Feldman, executive director of Bnei Akiva of the U.S. and Canada, then led the community into the second half of the evening

celebrating Israel’s Independence. He stressed the importance of Yom Ha’atzmaut as not just a national holiday, but as a date that must be marked on the religious calendar. The room then went from a serious mood of deep respect and remembrance into an uplifting atmosphere filled with tefillah, inspiration, and music led by Eitan Katz of Far Rockaway. In true Bnei Akiva fashion, through song and dance, the room was filled with tangible excitement and overwhelming gratitude for the very fact that Israel exists. After the ceremony, young professionals joined together for a soldout Israeli Beer, Wine, and Food Shuk with imported Israeli drinks and foods. With attendees from 10 Upper West Side based shuls and organizations and young professionals originally from all over the tri-state area including NYC, NJ, the Five Towns, Queens and Westchester, it was truly a community event to be remembered.

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Measles Educational and Titer Testing Event at YI of Woodmere

he community held a very successful measles educational and titer testing day Sunday, May 12, at the Young Israel of Woodmere. This event was co-sponsored by many community organizations and could not have been accomplished without all of their support. Kamin Health Urgent Care Centers provided the nucleus of the testing, with Mount Sinai South Nassau Communities Hospital, Hatzalah and Achiezer sending nurses and volunteers to round out a great team. Hosted by the Young Israel of Woodmere, and co-sponsored by Kamin Health, Mount Sinai South Nassau, Achiezer, Hatzalah, the JCCRP, Gural JCC, and the Nassau County Department of Health, the event was preceded by a shiur from Rabbi Dr. Glatt regarding the halachic and medical indications for vaccination and testing. At the end of the event, 755 community members were tested, and unfortunately some people had to actually be turned away because the lines were still quite long near closing time.

Volunteers (including many mothers who gave of their own time on Mother’s Day!) stayed till after 3:00 PM to finish the testing. Anyone in need of testing can still have this test easily performed by any physician ordering a simple blood test. Vaccinations for those in need can be obtained in many physician offices, at Kamin Health, or at the Mount Sinai Doctors Hewlett site by appointment. We are working on possibly having a community vaccination event in the future as well. As part of the education component of the program, many people were told that they do not require testing and are, in fact, presumed immune. In the hopes of preventing such occurrences, we are providing some of the guidelines here, but please discuss

with your physician how this applies to you. These are appropriate guidelines for people living in non-endemic areas, but some medical recommendations would be potentially different in an endemic setting. Measles is a highly contagious, serious, potentially fatal disease. Fortunately, only a small percentage of people develop serious complications. It is preventable through vaccination. We STRONGLY RECOMMEND that EVERYONE should be up-todate on ALL contagious illness vaccinations, but especially measles (part of the MMR vaccine). Based upon the best recommendations from the CDC and other sources, the following were the recommendations provided at the event. ADULTS: If you have received the recommended two doses of the MMR vaccine, no further action is recommended at this time. Titer testing is not necessary. If you had measles, you are protected, and no action is necessary. If you were born before 1957, it is assumed that you had measles and are considered immune, and no further action is required. If you have reason to believe that you are not immune (e.g., if you had a blood test showing no immunity to measles and/or you have no history of having measles), consult your physician regarding the administration of the MMR vaccine. It is safe at any age, although there are some people that medically cannot receive the vaccine. Ask your doctor if you fall into those groups. People born between 1957 and 1963 who do not know if they had measles should discuss with their physician what to do. In the setting of a potential outbreak in the community you live in, please see your physician to discuss whether a blood test to check your immunity and/or vaccination is appropriate. People born between 1963 and 1968 may have received a measles vaccine

that is less perfect in generating immunity. From 1968 to 1989, everyone vaccinated received a very good vaccine (similar to the vaccine used today) but only one dose was recommended. In the setting of a potential outbreak in the community you live in, please see your physician to discuss whether a blood test to check your immunity and/or vaccination is appropriate. Any adult who did not have measles and has not been vaccinated, should get vaccinated with a total of two MMR shots separated by 28 days. If someone received only one dose of the MMR vaccine, in the setting of a potential outbreak in the community you live in, please see your physician to discuss whether a blood test to check your immunity and/or vaccination is appropriate. CHILDREN: Please confirm for your own knowledge that all of your children have received the required two doses of the MMR vaccine. If your children received the first dose of MMR, but are not old enough to have received the second vaccine, which is usually given between ages 4 and 6, we recommend that you discuss with your pediatrician if they should receive the second dose early. This would be strongly recommended if there was an outbreak in the community you are in. If your child is less than 1 year old (the age when the first dose is typically administered), but older than 6 months, we recommend you discuss with you pediatrician if they should receive the first vaccine dose early. This would be strongly recommended if there was an outbreak in the community you are in. If you or your child develop any rash AND fever we ask that you please exercise the utmost precaution and obtain a medical evaluation BEFORE you enter any public spaces including shul Again, there is no cause for concern at this time in our community. However, with all the guests coming to our community from other places, possibly where exposure to measles occurred, we are being extra cautious. We sincerely hope that you will find these recommendations useful, and ask your physician if you have additional questions.

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s Bais Yaakov presented a gala Shabbos On Monday and Tuesday of this week, Bno ide focus on this fundamental facet of Expo, the climax of the year’s school-w Menahalos Morah Esther Kuessous and Yiddishkeit. Under the direction of m guidance of Limudei Kodesh Curriculu Morah Penina Neuberg, and with the ed trat students in every grade demons Coordinator Rebbetzin Baila Altusky, rse concepts related to Shabbos through their mastery and incorporation of dive ination of several months’ efforts, the creative artwork and prose. The culm els original writings, paintings and mod expo was comprised of hundreds of . researched and created by BBY students eld walls papered from floor to ceiling Upon entering the building, visitors beh have recorded their personal kabbalos with “Kabbalah Cards” on which students a the year. The expo then opened with regarding kavod Shabbos throughout ds, wor the d present, emblazoned with revolving, oversized model of a wrappe d azai u’shabbos shemah” and decorate “Mattanah tovah yesh li b’veis gen my in h ana “What makes Shabbos a mat with students’ writings on the topic of to displays representing the sheishes home?” From there, visitors continued s both foundational beliefs which Shabbo yimei b’reishis and Yetzias Mitzrayim – of t face y hem created and controls ever signifies as they are reminders that Has l efore, were essays on students’ persona the universe. Appended to these, ther of hashgacha pratis. expressions of emunah and experiences of inventive 3D models of each of the Also included were exhibits composed s and halachos of Shabbos, as well as lamed tes melachos and other concept ’ family members’ mesirus nefesh for striking artistic depictions of students ’ d of compositions describing mothers Shabbos. Yet another exhibit consiste os. individual tefillos during hadlakas neir s bbos finery and elucidating numerou A raised table resplendent with Sha hing catc eyeo’s exp bbos served as the concepts related to the seudos of Sha room, an audio-visual presentation on the of er focal display, while in one corn expo culminated with an explanation “me’ein Olam Habah” was presented. The s potato kugel was distributed to all of “to’ameha chaim zachu,” and deliciou attendees. r our students have absorbed and of thei We are enormously proud of how much nk Tha . lays disp ful oking and meaning efforts in creating such thought-prov e iding the stimulating lessons that mad prov for you to our dedicated teachers er berg Feld is lam Shu year, and to Morah Shabbos come alive throughout the or Shir l’Yom HaShabbos program, and Mizm re enti both for implementing the for assisting in producing the expo. del to Mrs. Shainy Bender and Rabbi Man We express our sincere hakaras hatov il. deta y ever to nce nda atte r tireless for making this expo possible with thei Leah Miss k than We t. even ing fund this Thank you to our amazing PTA for help Rosenberg and Miss Rochel Weinberg Leah . Mrs ng, You Schwartz, Miss Elisheva , Thank you also to Mrs. Mazalit Lehrfeld for lending their talents to the expo. n omi Biny and el fink Gar r Mr. Yisroel Mei Mrs. Frumi Metz, Mrs. Chani Finestone, g and to Traditions Catering for donatin ns, utio trib con Hellman for their artistic the delectable potato kugel.

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Kollel Tirtza Devorah, Darchei Torah’s “Crown Jewel,” to Celebrate 14th Anniversary

he crown jewel of Yeshiva Darchei Torah, Far Rockaway’s hub of chinuch and chessed, is undoubtedly its Kollel Tirtza Devorah. Founded in 2005, Kollel Tirtza Devorah is named after Mrs. Tirtza Devorah (Deborah) Weisz, a”h, whose legendary chessed and mesiras nefesh before, during, and after World War II made an indelible impact on countless lives. The Kollel is comprised of nearly 40 distinguished avreichim who spend their days and evenings plumbing the depths of the Torah in the Yeshiva’s main bais medrash. Nearly all are alumni of Yeshiva Darchei Torah and have settled with their families in Far Rockaway. Alumni of the Kollel have gone on to impact countless communities around the country – as rabbeim, klei kodesh, and learned laymen for whom the Torah is their lifeblood. An afternoon Kollel Mechanchim enables another 32 accomplished talmidei chachamim to augment their teaching and growth with an intensive second seder that offers three distinct learning tracks, each on an advanced level. The Kollel is led by Rav Dovid Bender, Rosh Kollel, and the yungeleit benefit from frequent interaction, shiurim, and vaadim from Darchei’s Rosh HaYeshiva, Rav Yaakov Bender; and the Rosh Yeshiva, Rav Shlomo Avigdor Altusky. Every day, with their toil and personal example, the members of

Kollel Tirtza Devorah – and their families – are making the Yeshiva, the neighborhood, and the world an immeasurably better place. On Tuesday, May 28, Kollel Tirtza Devorah will be holding its 14th anniversary dinner at Ateres Chynka in Brooklyn, New York. The dinner will pay tribute to the avreichim, their families, and three sets of illustrious honorees: Mr. and Mrs. Yossie Shapiro Guests of Honor Mr. and Mrs. Yossie Shapiro exemplify the ideals of Kollel Tirtza Devorah. Their dedication to creating a Torahdik home infused with true Yiddishe values is a legacy they carry on from their parents, Rabbi and Mrs. Yeruchem Shapiro and Mr. and Mrs. Amrom Frankel. The Shapiros’ clear admiration and enthusiasm for the Kollel is a reflection of their commitment to Torah ideals. They are excited to share their firsthand reflections: “Baruch Hashem, one of our amazing sons-in-law was in the Yeshiva and was also part of the Kollel after he married our daughter. The involvement that the Yeshiva and Kollel demonstrated in their lives, and the hadrachah provided, were so instrumental in enabling our children to build a beautiful Torah home. That closeness and involvement have continued in the years since our son-in-law entered the workforce. Our son, who is currently in the twelfth grade of Mesivta

Chaim Shlomo, spends most of his day learning alongside the Kollel yungeleit, who have a great hashpa’ah on him, too.” One of the factors that drew the Shapiro family to Yeshiva Darchei Torah is a unique family connection extending back several generations. Yossie Shapiro’s grandfather, Rav Aaron Yeshaya Shapiro, zt”l, was the rav of the shul in which Rav Yaakov Bender used to daven as a youngster. After Reb Aaron Yeshaya passed away, Rav Bender would stop by to ensure that the elderly Rebbetzin Shapiro had all that she needed. This caring attitude demonstrated by Rav Bender is mirrored in the Shapiros’ experience with the Yeshiva and Kollel, which “instill a strong focus on middos – and this sets them apart from any other yeshiva or kollel. When you meet any of the bochurim or kollel yungeleit, you are drawn to them and are able to see their exemplary middos,” shares Yossie. Yossie has been employed as the senior vice-president and underwriting manager at FM Home Loans, LLC, for the past 25 years. Yossie and his wife Pearl, a devoted mother and grandmother, are respected members of the Midwood neighborhood in Brooklyn. They are mispallelim at Khal Keser Yisroel Mordechai, under the leadership of Rav Meir Platnick, with whom they maintain a close connection. Yossie also serves as a ba’al tefillah in the shul on the yamim noraim. The

Shapiros look forward to maintaining their kesher with the Yeshiva Darchei Torah family, as their son Sruli, who will soon graduate Mesivta Chaim Shlomo, will be joining Beis Medrash Heichal Dovid for the upcoming year. Mr. Zev Kops Chaver Hakollel Awardee Mr. Zev Kops is a respected, longtime and most unique member of Kollel Tirtzah Devora. Since his early retirement ten years ago, Reb Zev travels daily from Kew Gardens Hills, where he lives with his eishes chayil, Leah, to learn in the rarified atmosphere of the Kollel. The excitement and enthusiasm that he brings to the beis medrash are an inspiration to his fellow yungeleit – most notably, his own son-in-law, Rav Eli Winzelberg. In sharing his feelings about “his” kollel, Reb Zev is overflowing with excitement: “The Kollel is my Mishkan and my greatest desire. We are so fortunate to be led by the Rosh Kollel, Rav Dovid Bender, shlita, who shows real ahavah and kavod to each of us. We are nourished by the chaburahs and vaadim of the Rosh Yeshiva, Rav Altusky, shlita, and the vaadim of the Rosh HaYeshiva, Rav Yaakov Bender, shlita.” Reb Zev is also grateful to the hanhalah of Yeshiva Darchei Torah for the stellar chinuch they have provided to his four sons and two sons-in-law -- and which they are

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Around the Community now passing on to his grandchildren. There is no more fitting recipient of the Chaver Hakollel Award than Mr. Zev Kops, whose drive for continued growth and accomplishment is the embodiment of all that Kollel Tirtza Devorah represents. Rabbi and Mrs. Dovid Frischman Harbotzas Torah Award As a beloved mechanech at Yeshiva Darchei Torah, Rav Dovid Frischman infuses his talmidim with a love and a geshmak for Torah. He is thus uniquely positioned to appreciate the incredible value that Kollel Tirtza Devorah provides to every talmid in Yeshiva Darchei Torah. Rav Frischman is an alumnus of Yeshiva Torah Temimah, Yeshivas Mir Yerushalayim and Beth Medrash Govoha, and maintained a close kesher with Harav Yisroel Belsky, zt”l. Today, he serves as the menahel of Yeshiva Darchei Torah’s middle school, as a seventh grade rebbi, and as a night seder rebbi to the ninth graders in Mesivta Chaim Shlomo. Rav Frischman was also a member of Kollel Tirtza Devorah’s afternoon Kollel Mechanchim for three years, during which time he was able to see firsthand the unique commitment of the yungeleit to limud haTorah and Torah values. In addition, Rav Frischman’s middle-school talmidim have benefited from the many occasions upon which the Rosh Kollel, Rav Dovid Bender, has shared his wisdom with them. “The Kollel is the crown jewel of the Yeshiva,” Rav Frischman attests. “It’s what we are working to produce. When I walk into the beis medrash and see the shleimus of the yungeleit – al HaTorah v’al ha’avodah – their middos, and their sincerity, I feel that these are the peiros of all the years of chinuch in the Yeshiva. This is the end-product we are striving for.” The Frischmans are an integral part of Yeshiva Darchei Torah in so many ways. Mrs. Basi Frischman is a dedicated secretary in the Harriet Keilson Early Childhood division, their oldest son is an alumnus of the Yeshiva, and their younger sons are current talmidim of Yeshiva Darchei Torah and Bais Medrash Heichal Dovid.

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Reb Dovid credits his parents, Rabbi Meir and Mrs. Chanie Frischman, and his parents-in-law, Rabbi Shlomo and Mrs. Tzurtie Braunstein, with setting the prime examples of lives of harbotzas Torah and devotion to the tzibbur. In addition, his late father-inlaw, Rabbi Yisroel Bloom, a”h, the

founder of Yeshiva Darchei Torah, was a staunch supporter of numerous kollelim and yeshivos throughout his life. As individuals who teach and model all that Kollel Tirtza Devorah embodies, Reb Dovid and his eishes chayil set a sterling example for the extended Darchei Torah family. It is

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Do You Know Enough To Be an Uber Driver Quiz 1. Which bridge has the most expensive toll in the entire U.S.? a. Verrazano Narrows Bridge in NY b. Chesapeake Bay Bridge in Virginia c. Golden Gate Bridge in San Francisco d. Mackinac Bridge in Michigan 2. According to INRIX Global Traffic Scorecard, which American city has the worst traffic, based on amount of time drivers spend stuck in traffic per year?

a. Los Angeles, CA

a. Toyota Prius

b. Washington, D.C.

b. Hyundai Ioniq

c. Boston, MA

c. Honda Insight

d. New York City, NY

d. Kia Niro

3. Which state has the cheapest gas in the U.S.? a. Mississippi b. Texas c. New Jersey d. Louisiana 4. According to Consumer Reports, which of the following vehicles has the best gas mileage of all common cars in America?

5. When averaging its highest allowable speeds, which state has the greatest overall top speed? a. Florida b. Idaho c. Texas d. Wyoming 6. The longest Uber ride recorded todate was from North Caroli-

 Answers 6. B- After Uber’s 25% commission, the driver made $4,100 for the trip which took 37 hours. (He was a former commercial truck driver, so the trip was a cinch.) 5. C- The average speed of Texas’ highways is 78 MPH. One more reason to love the Lonestar State. 4. C- Who named that car? 3. D 2. C- The average Bostonian spends 164 hours a year stuck in traffic. That’s a lot of time to think about the Red Sox. 1. A- The Verrazano just went up to $19. Good going, Cuomo! Why don’t you run for president?

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 Wisdom Key 5-6 correct: Good going, Mr. Uber X Drive. I love the complementary Q-tips! 3-4 correct: You are a part-timer...You only drive Uber between your gigs as a day trader and garage band frontman. 0-2 correct: You are a star! Nothing more - one star.

na to California. How much did the trip cost the passenger? a. $2,375 b. $5,500 c. $7,650 d. $12,500

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Uber Accurate In order to properly characterize your next Uber driver, here is a list of types of Uber drivers put together mostly by Thrillist.com. The GPS Denier Trust him, he knows how to get there. Don’t question his omnipotent understanding of traffic flow and stoplight rhythms and…shortcuts: this is much faster than the route from Google Maps or Waze or the mouth of a passenger that makes this drive on a daily basis. Wait, why are we driving on the railroad tracks?

The DJ Armed with a stereo system that cost two months’ worth of fares, the DJ’s main concern is assaulting riders with subgenre of choice, be it psy-trance or doom metal or early-aughts emo that he may or may not have just been crying to before you got into the car. His offers to become friends on Spotify are rarely accepted.

The Pro He dresses impeccably, leased a new hybrid to save on gas, doesn’t accept trips under two miles, and sleeps three hours at a time so as to hit every potential surge period. He knows the airline terminals by heart. He’s excited to talk about how much money he’s making and how his previous career was for losers, because he’s eating steak twice a week now and never looking back. He will burn himself out within three months and be forced to look back.

The Sociologist Also known as Mr. Curiosity or The Inquisitor or just Rick, this driver loves Uber because he has an insatiable appetite for learning about other people’s lifestyles. The welcoming confines of his Hyundai allow him to pummel passengers with enough questions that by the end of the ride he could accurately guess their debit card pin.

The Absent Mind “That sure is a beautiful sunset,” said The Absent Mind, before missing your turn and rolling through a stop sign and flattening a stray cat, only to slam the brakes and realize it wasn’t a stray at all but owned by a woman who is now distraught on the sidewalk while he holds up traffic as she cradles her dead cat in her arms. “But that sure is still a beautiful sunset.” The Guy You Feel Guilty About Giving a Bad Rating Sure, he accidentally drove three miles in the wrong direction and asked why you’re not married, but he’s new in town and used the phrase “looking for work” with a downtrodden tone. From the way he talks about his family, you can tell someone is in poor health. Your one-star review might keep him from ever becoming The Happy Family Man, but maybe he’d be a better fit for Lyft?

The Obvious Felon He’s got fading tats on his knuckles, a car that smells way too strongly of air freshener, and conversational skills that alternate between sparse and slang-heavy. Don’t ask to put anything in his trunk. The Elevator Pitcher He’s a singer-songwriter or makes artisanal mustache wax, or, worst case scenario, is the non-technical founder of a start-up. He views every fare as a potential fan, or a face in need of waxing, or, worst case scenario, an investor. The Partier He asks how your night is going, but quickly interrupts to describe his fulfilling social life filled with killer happy hours and softball teams and close friends he calls “the crew.” Turns out, he is just pulling a short shift before heading out to meet up with “the crew,” members of which probably aren’t aware of that nickname.

The Here’s My Life Story Guy Even before you’re settled in your seat, this guy feels the need to tell you his life story…starting from way back in fourth grade. “So, I was a wild one who figured out a way to build a contraption that would cause the teacher’s hat to fly off when he came into the room…. By eighth grade I was working in the garment district…” Please stop! If your life was so fascinating, you’d be doing a show on Broadway, not driving a sedan for fare on Broadway. The Rear-View Mirror Guy Some people can’t hear when they don’t have their glasses on. This guy can’t talk when he isn’t looking in the rear-view mirror, especially when making sharp turns. And, of course, it’s inevitable that you will be pulling up to a traffic stand-still right when Mr. Rear-View Mirror Guy is getting to the punchline of his story. Heaven forbid he should come to a gradual stop. In the last minute he slams the brakes and as you jerk back-andforth all you can say is, “Really? That’s so cool.” Pass the barf bag, please. The Silent Type Also known as The Mime or The Self Driving Car, there’s nothing memorable about this guy – except that he was the greatest driver you’ve never had.

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Torah Thought

Parshas Emor By Rabbi Berel Wein

he opening subject matter in this weekâ&#x20AC;&#x2122;s Torah reading deals with the existence of impurities in Jewish and human society. In our world today, especially in the realm of the intelligentsia, there is a great deal of chatter and worry about the pollution of our atmosphere. When the threat of global warming proved to be unfounded, the environmentalists amongst us changed the focus of their dire warnings, about the extinction of our planet, to now be under the new slogan of climate change. There is very little if any scientific evidence to support their claims that the world as we know it will disappear in the very near future because of fossil fuels, carbon emissions, and the natural behavior of cows. Nevertheless, it is clear that all of us have to be against pollution of the atmosphere. The pollution referred to in our Torah reading is of a different nature completely. It concerns itself with the impurity that comes from death and not from life, from sin and the non-performance of good deeds and noble aspirations. It prohibits the priestly descendants of Aaron from

willfully rendering themselves to be impure. This is a matter of ritual law, but it is also a matter of a value system and a personal and societal outlook. All of us, not only the priestly class of Israel, are to avoid whenever pos-

a holy nation, but spiritual, mental and physical pollution will always prevent us from reaching that desired goal. While it is difficult to maintain cleanliness of body and clothing in a physically polluted world, it is even more difficult to maintain cleanli-

They have done so with fancy-sounding slogans that espouse all types of freedom, but really impose upon those who disagree with them the tyranny of enforced conformity.

sible both physical and spiritual impurity. This type of impurity pollutes the atmosphere that we live in subtly. Its influence upon us is inescapable and tragically, many times, permanent. G-d demanded of us that we be

ness and purity of thought, dress, and outlook in a very polluted emotional, mental, and spiritual world. By removing all previous inhibitions, mores, and social manners of Western society â&#x20AC;&#x201C; built up over gen-

erations â&#x20AC;&#x201C; regarding speech, dress, public, and private behavior, a terrible cloud has enveloped society. Since the Jewish people exist in the main within the confines of Western society, with its attitudes and behavior patterns, there is no question that we also have been dirtied simply by existing. The advanced technological achievements of our time have unfortunately been put to the service of those individuals and ideas that intend to make us impure for their own personal, political, or economic gain. They have done so with fancy-sounding slogans that espouse all types of freedom, but really impose upon those who disagree with them the tyranny of enforced conformity. In many parts of the world today, especially in the Far East, people wear masks over their noses and mouths to prevent the air pollution that surrounds them from being inhaled. There is no question that we all need such spiritual masks as well to allow us to counter the destructive pollution and impurity of much of the norms of the society that we live in.

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Parshas Emor The Chofetz Chaim’s Blanket By Rav Moshe Weinberger Adapted for publication by Binyomin Wolf

ne of the most mysterious stories in the Torah is the anonymous child of a mixed marriage who entered into some sort of dispute with a Jewish man before he ultimately cursed G-d (Vayikra 24:10-11). The psukim say: “The child of a Jewish woman, who is the son of an Egyptian man, went out among the children of Israel and this child of the Jewish woman quarreled in the camp with the Jewish man. And the son of the Jewish woman pronounced the name of Hashem and cursed…” Why does the pasuk say this person “went out?” Where did he come from? Rashi explains, “Rabbi Levi says, ‘He went out from his world.’” Meaning, he forfeited his share in this world and in the World to Come. But the Midrash quoted by Rashi continues, “Rabbi Berachia says, ‘He went out from the parsha which preceded [this story – the lechem hapanim, the showbread]. He mocked and said [the pasuk says that the lechem hapanim] was set up on Shabbos. Is it the way of a king to eat hot bread every day or perhaps cold, nine-day-old bread!?’” In other words, the lechem hapanim was baked on erev Shabbos but the kohanim only ate it the following Shabbos. This quarrelsome individual cynically commented, “What kind of king would command a sacrifice consisting of nine-day-old, cold, stale bread?” Yet this criticism seems completely out of place. Chazal tell us (Chagiga 26b), “A great miracle occurred with

regard to the lechem hapanim: [It was in the same condition] when it was set up as when it was removed.” In other words, one of the miracles in the Beis Hamikdash was that the lechem hapanim was just as fresh and hot nine days after it was baked as it was when it first came out of the oven. If so, what was this individual’s “beef” with the lechem hapanim in particular? It was not even cold when the kohanim ate it! The Imrei Emes of Ger, zy”a, the son of the Sfas Emes, zy”a, explains that the central trait of scoffers and cynics is coldness. They look at everything with detached indifference, attempting to quickly extinguish the fire of enthusiasm, warmth, and freshness wherever they find it. This was personified by the mistake of the spies who spoke lashon hara about Moshe and the Eretz Yisroel even though they had already witnessed what happened to Miriam when she spoke lashon hara about Moshe. They viewed the events coldly, not allowing what they saw to affect them at all. They did not take the lesson to heart and therefore made the same mistake – but on an even greater scale, with disastrous consequences. But this still begs the question: what about the lechem hapanim got under this man’s skin so deeply that it ultimately caused him to do the unthinkable, to curse G-d? Indeed, Chazal tell us (Avos 5:4) that ten other miracles occurred on a constant basis in the Beis Hamikdash. Why

was this individual so obsessed with denying the veracity of the miracle of the fresh lechem hapanim? The Gemara (Chagiga 26b) discusses the Table on which the loaves of the lechem hapanim were arranged, which the pasuk (Vayikra 24:6) refers to as, “the pure Table.” The Gemara points out that the phrase “pure Table” implies that the kohanim must ensure that the Table remains pure, but that if they are not careful, it could become impure. The problem with this implication is that a fixture which becomes part of a structure is not susceptible to impurity. Fixtures are by nature not portable and therefore do not have the status of instruments, tools, or vessels, which are susceptible to impurity. The Table on which the lechem hapanim is laid should therefore not be susceptible to impurity such that the pasuk should not need to require that the kohanim maintain its state of purity! The Gemara therefore answers that the Table was not permanent and that it was designed to be moved around. That is why it is susceptible to impurity. When was it moved? The Gemara relates, “They would lift it [the Table] up and show the lechem hapanim on it to those who ascended [to Yerushalayim] for yom tov, and they said, ‘Look how precious you are before Hashem! [It is in the same condition] when it was set up as when it was removed!’” According to the Radbaz, zt”l, this event

was the highlight of the pilgrimage to Yerushalayim on yom tov. Those who came would wait in the Beis Hamikdash for the moment when the kohanim would pull aside the curtain separating the Table with the lechem hapanim from the courtyard in order to see the miracle of the piping hot lechem hapanim which had been baked nine days earlier. Reb Tzadok Hakohein from Lublin, zy”a, asks what was so special about this particular miracle in the Beis Hamikdash. There were many other miracles in the Beis Hamikdash (Avos 5:4)! He answers that the steaming hot lechem hapanim was different from all of the other miracles. He explains that each one of the other miracles, like the fact that a fly never appeared in the area of slaughter or that the meat did not rot, were ultimately for the honor of the Divine Presence, as the pasuk (Tehillim 29:9) says, “and in all of His chamber, he says ‘glory!’” In contrast, Reb Tzadok explains, the purpose of the miracle of the lechem hapanim was so that the kohanim would have warm, fresh bread to eat, rather than stale, cold bread. That miracle was purely an expression of Hashem’s love for His people. That was why everyone wanted to see that miracle more than any other nes. The conclusion of the pilgrims’ visit to the Beis Hamikdash in Yerushalayim was when the kohanim told the people, “Look how precious you are before Hashem!” They took that

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last sacred moment with them back home. They returned to daily life with the warm feeling that Hashem loves them. They remembered the sight of the hot challah and remembered the love and affection that defines our relationship with Hashem. The love and warmth the Jewish people share with Hashem are the opposite of the cynic’s coldness. Such people cannot accept that there is anything special about the relationship between Hashem and His people. They mock the lechem hapanim because the piping hot bread Hashem gave to the kohanim undermines their entire cynical worldview. They have no problem with the miracles Hashem performs for His own honor. But they deny the special affection Hashem has for the Jewish people. Many meforshim ask why the pasuk calls the person with whom the one who cursed G-d quarreled “the Jewish man.” Why not simply “a” Jewish man? The Chasam Sofer answers that this usage teaches that every Jew is called “the Jew” in Hashem’s eyes. Every Jew is a child of our father Yaakov. Every Jew is precious to Hashem. The way the Torah identifies this man personifies the fact that Hashem’s love for every Jew is the polar opposite of the cold cynicism of the scoffer.

Of Blankets & Socks This concept is personified by a story about Reb Elya Lopian from his time as rosh yeshiva of the Etz Chaim Yeshiva in London. The board of his yeshiva wished to solicit a much-needed donation from an individual who was not observant. This man was known to financially support many local institutions in London, giving to other yeshivos, mikvahs, and the like. Reb Elya was generally opposed to taking funds from non-observant individuals so he did not want to make the solicitation. The board pressured him greatly, insisting that the yeshiva absolutely needed this person’s donation. The board asked Reb Elya to at least come with them to meet with this potential donor and that he did not have to say anything. Reluctantly, he acquiesced. On the day of the meeting, Reb Elya entered the man’s house with the board members. But

even before the meeting started, Reb Elya became agitated and whispered to one of board members that the man did not even have mezuzos in his home! They began to get concerned, worrying that Reb Elya would sabotage their efforts to obtain a generous donation. Nevertheless, they forged ahead and made their presentation to the man. Reb Elya was disturbed, however, and after the board’s presentation, he spoke up: “I see that you are a person who has good feelings for Torah and Yiddishkeit and that you give money to all of the yeshivos and local Torah institutions. But I do not understand. You are not personally observant and you do not even have any mezuzos in your home. Why do you support all of these Torah institutions?” The members of the board were beside themselves, sure that Reb Elya had torpedoed all of their efforts. But the man answered Reb Elya, “You know, I very much appreciate your question. The representatives from all of the other organizations have taken my donations, but none has every asked me why I am so interested in supporting Torah organizations. So I will tell you. “I grew up in a certain town in Lithuania. When I was a young man, my father wanted me to study Torah in Radin. I had no interest but because my father commanded me to go, I went. When I arrived, I took the yeshiva’s entrance exam as I was required to do. Baruch Hashem, I failed the exam and was told that I was not accepted in the yeshiva. I was happy for the excuse to return home, but by that time, it was too late at night to find another train. I did not know anyone in Radin. The only person I had heard of was the Chofetz Chaim. I therefore inquired about the location of his house and walked there. “I knocked on the Chofetz Chaim’s door and he answered. I introduced myself and told him that I had just applied to the yeshiva. He asked me how it went, and I told him that I had failed the test. He asked how he could help me so I explained that it was too late to return home and asked whether I could stay in an apartment with some of the yeshiva bochurim for just one night. He informed me that this

was impossible but insisted that it would be his honor if I would be his guest for the night. I was amazed. I had failed the test to be admitted into the yeshiva but managed to secure an invitation to the Chofetz Chaim’s house! The Rav supplied me with a warm dinner and a bed to sleep in. “It happened to be a cold night and I was having some trouble sleeping. In the middle of the night, as I lay in bed half asleep, I heard the door creak open. I pretended to remain asleep and saw the Chofetz Chaim softly walk over to my bed to check on me. He quietly exclaimed, ‘Oy! It’s cold!’ when he saw that my blanket had slipped off of me a little bit. He rearranged the blanket and tucked it in so that I would be warm and slipped out of the room. “Ever since that time, the warmth of the Chofetz Chaim’s blanket has given me a warm feeling for Torah and yeshivos. That is why I support all of the local institutions.” It is also known that Rav Moshe Feinstein, zt”l, would go into his chil-

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dren’s rooms during the winter to place their socks on the radiator so that when they woke up in the morning, they would have warm socks to put on. The warmth of those socks on the cold winters of the Lower East Side radiated the warmth of Reb Moshe’s love for his children. May Hashem grant us the eyes to see how much Hashem loves us. May we merit to feel the warmth of Reb Moshe’s socks and the Chofetz Chaim’s blanket in all of the mitzvos we do. May we be blessed with the warm Yiddishkeit of the lechem hapanim and not the cold cynicism of the scoffers. With that, may Hashem send the redeemer and return us to Yerushalayim to see the piping hot lechem hapanim with our own eyes soon in our days.

Rav Moshe Weinberger, shlita, is the founding Morah d’Asrah of Congregation Aish Kodesh in Woodmere, NY, and serves as leader of the new mechina Emek HaMelech.

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Parshas Kedoshim By Eytan Kobre

Weekly Aggada And he shall wave the sheaf before Hashem, to be accepted for you; on the day after the Shabbos the priest shall wave it (Vayikra 23:11) R’ Levi said: This omer sustained the Jewish people in the days of Haman. Haman once approached Mordechai’s students and asked what they were studying. “The laws pertaining to the omer,” they replied, “which the Jewish people would offer up in the Bais HaMikdash on this day.”

“And what is this omer offering – gold or silver?” Haman probed. “Neither,” the students answered. “Barley.” “And how much of this omer must be brought – ten silver kikars worth?” “No,” the students answered. “Only 1/24th of one silver kikar worth.” “You may stop your prayers and remove your sackcloth, for your 1/24th of a silver kikar has defeated my 10,000 silver kikars [that I paid Achashveirosh to permit me to kill the Jewish people]” (Vayikra Rabba 28:6-8).

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During the Holocaust, the Bluzhever Rebbe, R’ Yisrael Spira, was sent to the Janowska concentration camp on the outskirts of Lvov. Other than a handful of his followers, no one in the concentration camp knew of the Rebbe’s true identity. Trepidation in the concentration camp mounted as Yom Kippur neared, for everyone knew how the Nazis, ym”sh, enjoyed using the Jewish holidays to further terrorize the near-death Jews. On Yom Kippur eve, a group of the Rebbe’s followers voiced to him their dying wish – to refrain from performing at least the 39 primary categories of work on Yom Kippur. They wanted to know if the Rebbe could assist them. A Jewish kapo named Schneeweiss was a foreman in the concentration camp. Schneeweiss hailed from nearby Lvov, but he had little respect for the Jewish tradition and publicly violated all of its laws and holidays. Surely Schneeweiss was not someone from whom sympathy for religious observance could be expected. But the Rebbe was moved by his followers’ request, and, although reluctant to disclose his true identity, he went to see Schneeweiss. “You might recognize me,” the Rebbe began. “I am Rabbi Yisrael Spira. You are a Jew like me. Tonight is Kol Nidrei night. A small group of us wishes to refrain from performing any of the 39 primary categories of prohibited work. It means everything to us. I beg you to help us so that we may still find some dignity in our non-existence.” Schneeweiss’s harsh demeanor melted away. “Tonight, I can’t do a thing,” he said. “I have no jurisdiction over the night brigade. But tomorrow, on Yom Kippur, I will do what I can.” The next morning, the Rebbe and his group of followers were sum-

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moned to Schneeweiss. “I heard that you prayed last night,” Schneeweiss began. “I don’t believe in prayer, and I even oppose them. But I admire your courage. Come with me.” He took them to the on-site home of Janowska’s commandant, SS-Haupsturmführer Fritz Gebauer. “You fellows will shine the floor without polish or wax. And you, rabbi, will clean the window with dry rags so as not to perform any prohibited work.” And with that, Schneeweiss turned and left. At noon, the door swung open and two Nazis burst in with a cart filled with food. “Lunchtime! Bread, soup, meat!” they barked. “Eat or you will be shot!” Neither the Rebbe nor his followers moved. The Nazis repeated their orders, but the Rebbe and his followers remained frozen in fear. Schneeweiss was summoned at once. “Schneeweiss, you are the foreman. If these dogs refuse to eat, we will kill you along with them. Make

them eat!” Schneeweiss stared at the Nazis. “We Jews do not eat today. It is Yom Kippur, our most holy day.” “You don’t understand, Jewish filth,” roared one of the Nazis. “Eat!” But Schneeweiss just repeated his answer. “We Jews do not eat today. It is Yom Kippur, our most holy day.” The German took out his revolver, pointed it at Schneeweiss’s head, and pulled the trigger. A shot pierced the room. Schneeweiss fell. A puddle of blood spread across the freshly polished floor. Schneeweiss – so bitter, so skeptical, so anti-tradition, so anti-religion – had sanctified G-d’s name and died a martyr’s death.

Weekly Halacha And you shall eat neither bread, nor parched corn, nor fresh ears, until this very day, until you have brought the offering of your G-d; it is a stat-

ute forever throughout your generations in all your dwellings (Vayikra 23:14) This is the prohibition against eating “new” grain until the omer offering is brought (Sefer HaChinuch No. 403). Referred to as “Chodosh,” this “new” grain is that which took root after the 16th of Nissan, and it may not be eaten until the following 17 th of Nissan (in Eretz Yisrael) or 18th of Nissan (in the Diaspora) (Shulchan Aruch, Yoreh Dei’ah 293:1; Shulchan Aruch, Orach Chaim 489:10; Kitzur Shulchan Aruch 172:1). Only the five species of grain may not be eaten (Challah 1:1; Rambam, Maachalos Asuros 10:2; Shulchan Aruch, Yoreh Dei’ah 293:1), and one may still benefit in other ways from the “new” grain (Kiddushin 38a). Nowadays, many people are lenient in eating Chodosh, relying on (one or more of) several justifications. Some maintain that the prohibition is subject to a double-doubt:

perhaps the grain is from the prior year; even if it grew this year, perhaps it took root before the 16th of Nissan (Responsa of Rosh 2:1; Rama, Yoreh Dei’ah 293:3; Mishna Berura 489:45). Others maintain that the prohibition of Chodosh applies only in lands near Eretz Yisrael (Magen Avraham 489:17; Mishna Berura 489:45). And yet others justify the leniency by arguing that grain grown by non-Jews is exempt from Chodosh (Kitzur Shulchan Aruch 173:3; Mishna Berura 489:45; but see Yalkut Yosef, Shaatnez v’Chodosh, pg. 427 [Sephardim should not rely on this leniency]). The Weekly Halacha is not meant for practical purposes and is for discussion purposes only. Please consult your own rav for guidance.

Eytan Kobre is a writer, speaker, and attorney living in Kew Gardens Hills. Questions? Comments? Suggestions? E-mail eakobre@outlook.com.

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Why Did Hashem Create the World? Living on Purpose By Shmuel Reichman

very day you wake up with $86,400 in your bank account. You can’t invest it or save it – only spend it – and at the end of the day, whatever you don’t spend disappears. This fortune is given to you every single day. What do you do with your daily $86,400? Are you leaving a single penny unspent? You shouldn’t – and if you thought about it, you wouldn’t. Each and every day we are given 86,400 seconds. They’re deposited into our bank account called “life.” And every day, whatever we don’t spend is lost forever. Nobody would throw away money. So how can we possibly do that with our time? Time is infinitely more valuable than money. There is never any borrowing time. You can’t take a loan out on your time or against someone else’s. The time you have is the only time you will ever have. Time management is about how you decide to spend your time, your 86,400 seconds. We can never say that we don’t have time – we have 86,400 seconds every single day. The question isn’t whether or not we have time to do something, but where it falls amongst our priorities. The greatest achievers in the world have the same exact amount of time as everyone else in their day and yet they know how to use it to maximize efficiency and proficiency.

Happiness & Greatness In essence, this is another inspir-

ing parable for us to “achieve greatness.” Rabbis, inspirational speakers, and psychologists alike will almost all invariably claim that we should strive for greatness; it seems as if the goal of life is to become great. Yet, very few people can actually articulate or explain why we should strive for greatness. Psychologists from across time and disciplines have often claimed that the secret to happiness is largely found in achievement and personal fulfillment. However, this obsession with achieving happiness reveals the assumption of popular psychology that the goal and purpose of life is to be happy. Is this true? What is the Jewish perspective on the goal of life? Do we limit ourselves to our own individual happiness or should we be striving for something even deeper and greater? Furthermore, some people might claim that they’re perfectly happy not striving for perfection. If greatness is merely designed to attain happiness, then if we can achieve happiness without achieving greatness, there should be nothing wrong with that. Is there perhaps a deeper purpose to achieving greatness and striving for perfection? There is another question deeply connected to this topic. Many people who sincerely want to believe in Hashem, who have embarked on a genuine spiritual journey, are troubled by the following paradox. If we believe that Hashem, the G-d of the universe, is perfect, then how can He create such

an imperfect world? Wouldn’t a perfect G-d create a perfect world? Furthermore, if the purpose of life is to become perfect, then why did Hashem create a world full of challenges and ordeals, making it difficult, in fact, nearly impossible to reach perfection?

Two Fundamental Prerequisites Before we begin discussing the fundamentals of this world and the nature of Man’s existence, we must first state the following two qualifications: first, whenever we speak of Hashem, we are referring to our relationship with Him and how He appears to us, not the infinite, objective, and unknowable truth of His reality. As the Rambam, the Maharal, the Ramchal, and all other ba’alevi machshava say, we can never know Hashem Himself; we can only know how He appears to us. The following analogy will hopefully make this clear: you can never truly know your friend or loved one. You will never see their thoughts, their mind, their consciousness, or even their emotions. All you can ever see is how they express themselves through their physical body: their actions, words, facial expressions, and body language. Through this, we can come to know someone more and more. Similarly, we can never know Hashem Himself; He’s infinite and completely beyond our comprehension. However, we can know Hashem by understanding the way He reveals Himself to us:

through His creations, through the physical world, and through His Torah, which is a revelation of His will and thought. So when we talk about why Hashem created the world, we are only talking about it based on our understanding of Hashem. The second prerequisite is to understand that Hashem did not have to create the world. The Rambam and Ramchal explain that Hashem chose to create the world. Unlike Aristotle, who claimed that G-d was forced to create the world, we know that Hashem chose to create the world of His own free will.

Hashem is Goodness The Maharal and Ramchal, as well as many other key Jewish thinkers, provide a fundamental understanding of why Hashem created the world. The Ramchal explains in Da’as Tevunos, Derech Hashem, and the beginning of Mesilas Yesharim as follows. Hashem is absolute and ultimate goodness. However, there are two aspects of goodness. Hashem is good, but He also has the ability to do good unto others. Before Hashem created the world, there was only Hashem Himself. Therefore, Hashem was internally good, but He wasn’t actively giving or doing good unto others. Hashem then chose to actualize, k’viyachol, His potential ability to give good unto others by creating Man, the being upon whom Hashem would bestow the ultimate goodness. If Hashem’s goal in creating the

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world was to bestow the ultimate goodness unto Man, we must then ask: what is the ultimate goodness that Hashem can give? If Hashem Himself is the ultimate goodness, then the ultimate goodness Hashem could give is the ability to enjoy Hashem Himself, to enjoy G-dliness, enjoying the deepest and ultimate connection with Hashem. This is the ability to be all-knowing, allkind, all-loving, all-powerful, to have complete self-control. These are truly G-dly experiences. To explain this approach from a different angle, when Hashem created Man, He did so to create a “marriage” relationship with him. Marriage is when two people connect in such a deep way that they existentially fuse into one. As we’ve explained in the past, this is why Adam and Chava were originally created as one being; it was to show them, and us, that the goal of marriage is to become one, to recreate the original oneness that they once shared. This is also why the relationship between Klal Yisrael and Hashem is referred to as a marriage. At Har Sinai, the Jewish people married Hashem – the mountain served as the chuppah, the marriage canopy. Shir Hashirim is a sefer which Chazal interpret as being a description of the love relationship that exists between Hashem and the Jewish people. This is the original connection that Hashem intended to forge with Man when He created Him. Hashem created us in this world to earn Olam Habah, the World to Come, the place where each of us can enjoy this existential connection and oneness with Hashem. There’s an obvious problem with what we stated above. If Hashem’s goal was to give us the ultimate goodness, defined as connection and fusion with Him and Olam Habah is the place of this ultimate connection, then what’s the purpose of this world? Why did Hashem decide to create us in this world, where we have to earn our share in the World to Come? If Hashem really wanted to give us the ultimate good, then why not give it to us to begin with? Why do we have to go through the difficult process of earning it in this physical world? Furthermore, so many people don’t seem to be succeeding; how many people do you know who are genuinely striving for greatness and achieving perfection?!

Working Towards Perfection The Ramchal explains based on the Gemara in Yerushalmi that human beings were created in such a way that we don’t enjoy free handouts. A poor person is embarrassed to receive money from people, since he feels ashamed, knowing that he didn’t earn the money. This is termed “the bread of embarrassment.” This is why we should give a poor person a loan instead of a free handout. This way, he’ll be able to eventually pay you back and feel independent. Even better is to get him a job, which will endow him with a more complete sense of independence and dignity. If Hashem would have created us in Olam Habah, our enjoyment would have been free, unearned. This is the

If Hashem would have created us in Olam Habah, in such a way that we enjoyed free handouts, we would have been the exact opposite of Hashem. Hashem would be the giver, we would be the taker; Hashem would have free will, we would have no choice; Hashem would be the Creator, we would be the created; no one would have given Hashem His perfection, but Hashem would have given us ours. Since we’d be so different from Hashem, this would not allow for the ultimate connection with Hashem, and thus, this would not result in the greatest expression of Hashem giving of His goodness to another. A real relationship is about creating a connection of oneness; it’s about connecting to the other. By creating Man in His image, Hashem has given us the ability to

We are born imperfect so that we can travel through this world on a journey of becoming perfect.

type of perfection that malachim, angels, enjoy. However, this is not the ultimate enjoyment. The ultimate enjoyment is perfection that is earned, that is chosen, that is an expression of all the hard work you put in. Psychologically, we feel so much more connected to achievements and rewards that we’ve earned than those that we’ve received for free. We know that Hashem put us in this world in order to give us the opportunity to earn our reward instead of simply receiving it for free so that it will be much more enjoyable. Yet, if Hashem created the world, why didn’t Hashem just create us in a way that we do enjoy gifts and free handouts as much as we enjoy things that we’ve earned through hard work? We can’t look at human psychology and how we are currently wired to explain why Hashem created us this way. If Hashem had chosen to create us differently, psychology and human experience would reflect that! So why didn’t Hashem simply create us differently?!

create a relationship with Him based on the similarities, k’viyachol, that we have with Him. This is why Hashem created us imperfect. We get to choose and earn our perfection, our G-dliness. Hashem is perfect, we get to become perfect. Hashem is good, we get to choose to become good. We are born imperfect with the goal of becoming G-dly, to become perfect, all knowing, all good, all kind, to have complete self-control. This is the goal, not the starting point. We start out as animalistic beings. As a baby we are born with no intellectual abilities and no developed character traits. We are selfish, we think that we are the only person who exists, we perceive ourselves as the center of our own universe. We are the exact opposite of G-dly. The goal of life is to then become Godly, to actualize our potential and to become tzelem Elokim. As we’ve explained in the past, the fetus learns kol ha’Torah kulah in the womb, and then loses it

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upon being born into this world. We are born imperfect so that we can travel through this world on a journey of becoming perfect, recreating and earning what we once received as a gift. This is why we have free will. We are tasked with the mission of choosing good, choosing perfection. We can now understand why our mission in this world is to become great, to become G-dly. We live in a world of time and movement, as our job in this world is to become something more. Perfection lies in a transcendent realm, beyond process, beyond time. Becoming perfect requires time, movement, and process. We need to learn to ride the waves of time, the 86,400 seconds in our day, utilizing them to the best of our ability. The challenges we face aren’t there to stop us from achieving our greatness, quite the contrary. The Ramban explains that the purpose of challenges are to push us out of our comfort zone, to help us achieve our true potential. Only when we are pushed to our max do we begin to realize what we are truly capable of. Olam Habah is the experience of everything we’ve built in this lifetime. Some people think that the World to Come is a place where we receive something enjoyable. In reality, as the Ramchal, Nefesh Ha’chaim, and others explain, Olam Habah is where you experience you. It’s where you enjoy the ecstatic experience of the person and consciousness you’ve created, everything you’ve built and become during your lifetime. Many people think that they’ll live forever. But in truth, time is dying. Every second fades away. How many years do you really have left on this world? The better question is, what are we going to do with the time we have left? May we be inspired to utilize as many of the 86,400 seconds of every day, and may each of us achieve our true greatness. Shmuel Reichman is an inspirational speaker who has spoken internationally at shuls, conferences, and in Jewish communities. You can find more inspirational shiurim, videos, and articles from Shmuel on Facebook and Yutorah.org. For all questions, thoughts, or bookings, please email shmuelreichman678@gmail.com.

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Israel Today

The Painted Lady By Rafi Sackville

n an early Friday Shushan Purim morning, we began the long drive to friends in Jerusalem. It was a sunny day with the first scent of spring in the air. As we were driving out of Ma’alot the car’s windshield was splattered yellow by an insect. I cleared the windshield with soap and water. I asked my wife, Keren, if she had noticed anything out of the ordinary in the skies. She initially said no, but then caught herself short and said, “There’s another. And another. They’re everywhere!” We were witness to uncountable numbers of butterflies flying by and at us in that seemingly indiscriminate dance of theirs. More curious was the fact that they appeared to be flying in the same direction: north by north west, which, after witnessing this for almost 100 kilometers, made me think they weren’t acting so indiscriminately. This phenomenon occurred over and over again all the way to Jerusalem. At times there were so many they were impossible to count. Not having seen anything quite like this before, my curiosity was

piqued. I thought I’d find little to nothing on the internet. But I was wrong. We called our friend Yehuda Schwartz, whose first comment was to ask me why I hadn’t been reading the papers. “Wherever I look there are stories about them,” he added. I told him we were driving in the

It was Purim, and I thought he was joking. “What is the matter with you, Sackville? No, don’t answer the question. Just look out your window. If they’re suggesting there are 25,000 per square kilometer, that almost equals a billion.”

These little critters with brains no larger than a sesame seed possess navigational equipment humans would be happy to own.

car. To which he replied something to the effect that I was always making excuses. “They’re butterflies, called the painted lady. They are invading our shores. Can you guess how many of them there are?” he asked me. I had no idea. “There are a billion of them, Sackville. A BILLION!”

I ran the numbers through my head. I knew that if Israel was 22,000 square kilometers in size, and I multiplied that by 25,000, I’d get close to 600,000,000. So I told him that the difference of 400,000,000 might be meaningful. I won’t repeat what he called me, but while I was doing the sums, the car must have been hit by

twenty butterflies. Then the windshield wiper fluid ran out and the wipers were scraping and dragging yellow liquid matter across my line of vision. I had to pull over to replenish the wiper fluid. We spoke to friends living near Be’er Sheva, who told us they had driven through swarms of butterflies so thick they couldn’t see anything in front of them. Once we got the windshield clean and we’d started again, Keren searched the internet and came up with the same kinds of facts that Yehuda had told us. The head of the Association of Butterfly lovers in Israel, Dubi Binyamini, explained the calculation to Israel21c. What he did was estimate how many butterflies fly over a given square meter per minute. He took that number and multiplied it by their flying time and then by the width of the area they invaded. That’s how he arrived at a billion butterflies flying over Israel every day. The painted lady is the most prolific butterfly in the world. It can be found everywhere, except in Antarctica and Australia. In perfect conditions it can fly up to 50 kilometers

per hour and travel almost 160 kilometers a day, reaching distances of up to 2,500 kilometers. More notable is the curious fact that they can live up to 12 months after their eggs are hatched. And where were these butterflies headed north by north west? To Cyprus and Spain of all places, where they would lay more eggs and die. The reason for the phenomenon is directly linked to the excessive rainfall this year not only in Israel, but particularly on the Arab Peninsula, in Saudi Arabia and Kuwait. We are not accustomed to seeing so great a number, for when the desert is dry, fewer butterflies hatch. This year has been unusually wet. The Kineret has been rising, and the country is bathed in water it hasn’t seen for years. This year, the deserts were transformed by the rainfall and bloomed, which in turn gave the butterflies nourishment, that in turn led to huge numbers of butterflies hatch-

ing. Once they had consumed all the food they could find in the deserts of the Arab Peninsula, they flew off in search of more food. And this is how they came to Israel. Migrating animals have mystified scientists for years. The obvious questions are these: how do they know in which direction to fly and

when do they know when to stop? Somehow the painted ladies are wired to fly northward out of the Arab Peninsula, up to the Carmel Mountains, and then westward towards Cyprus and Europe beyond. Humans make do with Waze and other modern devices to get around. These little critters with brains no

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TJH Speaks with Reva Oliner, Candidate for Library Board By Susan Schwamm

Reva Oliner is running for trustee for the Library Board of District 15. Recently, we spoke with Reva at her home about her aspirations for joining the board and the changes she feels need to be done. Her husband, former Mayor Marty Oliner, joined in the conversation as well.

TJH: Reva, you’ve been living in Lawrence for a long time. Reva: We’re here at least 35 years. We moved here from Canarsie a long time ago. When we moved, there weren’t a lot of frum communities we were considering. But we chose Lawrence, and we love it. We’ve been in the same house for all this time. Marty: When we moved here, Rabbi Kamenetzky was here. Rabbi Freifeld was here. Not many people know this but at one point, Rabbi Freifeld wanted the property that Shaaray has now for Sh’or Yoshuv. And then he decided that he didn’t want it. It was a long conversation with him. But that

took place just a few days before he was niftar. I think I was the last person he came down for – that’s what the Rebbetzin said – before he passed away. Reva: My father received semicha from Chaim Berlin – my maiden name is Sumner – and he went to school with Rabbi Freifeld, a grade or two below him. Rabbi Freifeld would always tell me how brilliant my father was. So our connections go way back. Years ago, there was a store called Fortunoff. It was in East New York. My mother and Rabbi Freifeld worked together in the stockroom as kids. And I knew his family. His parents used to have a store and they sold cheese,

pot cheese. Back then you had to buy it in the store, and they had these little wooden boxes and they’d dish it out for you. So our connection to the family go very far back. TJH: You’ve really watched the community grow. Reva: Oh yes. And we were – and still are – a very big part of it. We’ve always been advocates for the community, given back to the community. Marty was mayor of Lawrence and for six years he was trustee. But even before that, we always opened our home for community events. Rabbi Dovid Lau was here, Rabbi Mayer Lau,

Chuck Schumer, Tom Suozzi, when he was county executive, Huckabee, Joe Biden, when he was a senator for Delaware… Every politician has come here. You have to see our collection of pictures with political figures. Joe Lieberman would love to come here because he got kosher food and he was able to stay in the other part of the house, so he had his own space. We’ve hosted so many events and have opened our home for community fundraisers and events over the years. The community has really grown. It used to be that you knew everyone in Lawrence. Now, there are so many more people, it’s impossible to know

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Reva with her husband, former mayor of Lawrence, Marty Oliner

them all. But it’s still warm, inviting… You walk down the street in Lawrence and everyone says, “Good Shabbos” to you. Marty: It’s not like that in other communities. Even in Israel, on King George, people used to say, “Good Shabbos” to each other. Now they don’t. But in Lawrence, in the Five Towns, everybody wishes each other, “Good Shabbos.” There is something for everyone in the community. There’s great infrastructure; there are great schools here – no matter how religious you are, there’s something for everybody. Reva: The community really is warm and welcoming. And everything’s here that you could ever need: supermarkets, shuls, wig stores, clothing stores, shoe stores…. You want a gown, you can buy that too. There’s nothing that’s lacking. TJH: What was the impetus for you getting involved in the community? Reva: It’s a certain type of person who wants to get involved, a certain personality. And we want to be involved. We like to help get things done and make things better for the people in the community. Let me tell you a story about what happened years ago. Marty was very instrumental with getting the traffic flow on Rockaway Turnpike worked out. Years ago, when they were putting up the warehouse facility on Rockaway Turnpike, Marty saw that there was a tremendous traffic buildup there. He called up the village administrator of

Lawrence at the time and told them about it. And the village administrator said, “Well, is it in Lawrence?” And Marty said, “No.” He said, “Well then, we have nothing to say.” But it does affect Lawrence. And Marty knew that it would be a bigger problem as they were building the warehouse. So on his own, he privately hired Sam Schwartz, who is the leading traffic consultant. Marty: He’s Gridlock Sam; he writes in the Daily News. He was the first, real traffic engineer under Lindsey and today he’s got two, three hundred people working for him. He built the JFK Expressway. I hired him to make a point. Reva: Marty spoke with Dean Skelos, who at the time was very instrumental in halting the building of the warehouse until they developed a viable alternative so we don’t have gridlock. That’s part of the reason why we have Brookville Road. That was put there as part of the project. The turning lane was put there too. TJH: Reva, you’re running for the board of trustees of the Peninsula Library on May 21. Why did you decide to run? Reva: That’s right. The elections are on Tuesday, May 21. It’s a five-year term and each person on the board – there are five in all – are up for election each year. I’m up against an incumbent who has been there for a long time – maybe too long. He had an opportunity a long time ago to purchase a property across the street for the library and he turned it down. That plot of land would have solved all the library’s problems

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but he turned it down years ago and nothing’s happened since. There needs to be a fresh perspective to get things done. We need fresh ideas, someone who will work for the community. And that’s me. I started to get involved because of the proposed library that they had planned to build in the parking lot

behind Lawrence Park, in the commuter parking lot. I started going to the library board meetings. I saw that there were numerous problems with their plan. First of all, the commuter parking lot needs every space it has. You can’t take away spots from there. There are more permits for the lot than parking spaces.

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Some photos of the Oliners with political figures they’ve met

Did they explore other places in town in which to put the library? Maybe across from Rock Hall Road? That’s a large spot – 3½ acres. But every time I went to the meetings, I saw that they didn’t have any alternatives to their plan. They had one idea – and one idea only. Did they look at the idea of expanding their current building? That could be a great plan. They could raise it up two levels or dig under their current parking lot and expand their basement facilities. I would love for them to expand the second floor on top of the parking lot. They could put the expansion on stilts on top of the lot and make it all glass – really beautiful – for the children’s area. There are so many wonderful ideas that wouldn’t cost an exorbitant amount of money and that would expand the library. Everyone agrees that we need to expand the library. But the idea that they were proposing was ridiculous and was going to cost $25 million. That’s crazy! That’s way too much money. When I went to meetings, I realized that no one was listening to alternatives. They had one idea – and that was it. Marty: Taxes would have gone up by who knows how much. There would be more people working in the library – aside from the building of the actual structure – so the budget would be a lot more too. And let’s not talk about the parking. With their proposal, they

weren’t really adding on parking spots to the amount of spots they have now – and they were taking away commuter parking spots. If you add onto the library and expand it, like Reva proposes, it will only cost $2-3 million – nowhere in the ballpark of $25 million. You need to add on more computers and software. And buy more books. And that’s not a lot of money. Reva: I was going to meetings and

was usually the only one there. TJH: With your plan, what would you do about parking for library patrons? Reva: There are lots of things you can do. First of all, they should purchase spots in the parking lot behind Stefan’s from the Village. They can use those spots for their employees. There is no reason why their employees are parked all day in the library parking

“There needs to be a fresh perspective to get things done.”

I felt like I was talking to a wall. Expanding the library itself will add a lot more to the current space but will cost so much less and be so much more palatable to the community. TJH: How many people show up at the library board meetings? Reva: When I was going, it was either just me or me and someone else. Aside from the board, people don’t show up to see what’s going on. They generally meet once a month, and I

lot. Also, there should be a 2-hour limit on parking in the library parking lot, just like on Lawrence and Cedarhurst streets. No one needs more than two hours in the library, and if they do, they can park on the street at the meters. TJH: My children and I love going to the library. Last summer, my kids won awards at the library for the amount of books that they read over the summer.

What about expanding the programming at the library? Reva: It certainly has a lot of wonderful programming but more can be done. They have marvelous programs for seniors, but we definitely need more programming for children and our tweens. We need programs that would connect with members of our community. I’d love to hear suggestions from the parents and children who go to the library. This way, we can create programming that would resonate with young readers and parents. Marty: I agree. There’s no dialogue between the community and the library right now. There should be an ombudsman working together with the community and the library. It’s an amenity and we should make sure it works for the community. TJH: Reva, I know you were on the development board of St. John’s. Reva: Yes. I loved working there. When I was on the board, I developed a walkathon for them that raised hundreds of thousands of dollars over the years. It’s since been disbanded but I still love walking. I have to tell you an interesting story that happened to me on one of our walks. We like to walk to where Loehmann’s used to be, in Hewlett near Trader Joe’s. Around 20 years ago, we walked past the Burger King that used

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to be there – there was a big glass window – and I saw a man there wearing a yarmulke and eating a hamburger. I told Marty, “We have to go over to him.” I said to him, “Maybe he’s Israeli and doesn’t know that the Burger King here is not kosher.” Well, Marty told me I shouldn’t bother him, but I couldn’t not go over. So I went over to the man, and I told him, “You know, you’re wearing a yarmulke but the hamburger you’re eating is completely treif.” And he said to me, “Oh, this? Oh, I wear this on my head for my mother.” I was shocked – and sad – but I said my piece. There was nothing more I could do. Years later, Marty and I were walking on one brutally cold winter Shabbos morning. No one else was out, it was so cold. And as we were walking, we saw a man coming towards us. He was wearing a black hat, with a beard, a long coat, and he was humming to himself. We were about to pass him by, and he said to us, “Hey, wait a minute. I know you.” We couldn’t understand

how he knew us. And then he said to us, “No, I know you. I know you. Seventeen years ago you saw me eating a non-kosher hamburger in Burger King, and you went over to me. And after that, I had an epiphany. I said, ‘What am I doing? I don’t know anything about my religion.’ So I went to Israel and I learned in yeshiva and here I am.” TJH: That is an amazing story! So inspiring. What do you listen to when you’re on your walks? Reva: I listen to talk radio. Lately, I’ve been listening to Ben Shapiro. I met him, in fact, in the White House. I used to like listening to Michael Medved – now he’s only on in Seattle. But I listen to other radio talk shows. Generally, they’re conservative hosts, but I also listen to NPR sometimes, although they really skew towards the left. It’s terrible what’s been happening on college campuses now with BDS and anti-Semitism. We’ve seen it grow exponentially in the past few years.

That’s why Marty and I have the Center for Righteousness and Integrity. It’s about tackling these issues in a broader sense. We privately fund it. We recently had a large meeting for the Center in Congress and many people came out. I’m also on the board of the Friends of Rock Hall Museum. We’re going to build that up as well. There’s a lot to do there because the heating and cooling systems there are really not up-to-date and there are so many educational programs that we can host there for children and schools. We really like to give back to the community. This week is the annual dinner for Hatzalah. Well, we donated an ambulance for Hatzalah – in Israel, in Beit El, and here. Number 705 ambulance here is our ambulance. We’re so proud of it. As a matter of fact, at one point, our friend was pregnant with twins. And she was so nervous when she went into labor early. But when she had to call Hatzalah and she saw our ambulance, she said it made her feel so much better.

TJH: How often do you get to go to Israel? Reva: We just came back. We like to go four, five times a year. The ambulance we donated was unfortunately put to good use when they really needed it and it saved a life. They had an ambulance before ours, but it was old. We are grateful we were able to donate one. We are always looking for ways to give back to the community, to the Jewish community. I look forward to being on the library board so I can do more for the Five Towns community and help our community continue to grow. There’s so much to be done, and I know that I can be the one to bring things to fruition. TJH: Reva, we wish you much luck on Tuesday’s election. There certainly is a lot that needs to be done for the library, and a fresh perspective would be appreciated.

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Dating Dialogue

What Would You Do If… Moderated by Jennifer Mann, LCSW of The Navidaters

Dear Navidaters,

My son was briefly married and got divorced 14 months ago. Everything happened so quickly. I think that they were both very immature and frankly probably had no right getting married in the first place. There were no children involved, and the divorced was quick and as painless as such things can be.

Recently he shared the fact that he had started speaking with his ex-wife again and that they were both more mature and understanding about what went wrong. He told me that they want to start dating again and see if they can make it work. My husband and I never really knew exactly why they got divorced, aside from the fact that they were both very unhappy. We certainly never actually disliked our ex-daughter-in-law for any particular reason but this whole idea seems so strange to us, we don’t even know what to do with it. My fear is that they have a very strong attraction for one another and that they are probably both lonely. But that’s hardly enough reason to start dating. Do any of you have any experience with such situations and do you have any thoughts as to whether this is something worth pursuing or whether it’s a crazy idea? Mind you, I’m not so sure our son will actually care what I say to him on the matter, because he tends to follow his own heart, but I am curious to know your thoughts regardless.

Disclaimer: This column is not intended to diagnose or otherwise conclude resolutions to any questions.

Our intention is not to offer any definitive

conclusions to any particular question, rather offer areas of exploration for the author and reader. Due to the nature of the column receiving only a short snapshot of an issue, without the benefit of an actual discussion, the panel’s role is to offer a range of possibilities. We hope to open up meaningful dialogue and individual exploration.

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The Panel The Rebbetzin Rebbetzin Faigie Horowitz, M.S. do not have experience with the situation you describe, but I am hearing that you are not close with your son, neither before nor now. I question why you didn’t encourage professional help and guidance before the divorce was executed. The fact that he did share with you that he has been talking to his ex and that they are considering dating means that he does want some input and guidance. I would run, not walk, to professional rabbinic and family therapy experts for help here on how to respond and how to handle things, both long term and short term. My guess is that they would suggest waiting a lot longer to start dating each other again. They are lonely and know each other fairly well by now. Fear of the unknown and lack of dating suggestions may be driving them. While remarrying one’s divorced partner is considered a good thing in Jewish sources, it should not be a reflexive act.

The Mother Sarah Schwartz Schreiber, P.A. f you’re asking what are the statistical chances of success in secondtime-around marriages, my actuary is out-of-town. Seriously, though, if maturity is the key factor in a happy marriage, then all the young frum kids getting married (the cute “babies-having-babies” types) would end up miserable and divorced. Thankfully, such is not the case. Trust me, your son’s marriage did not fall apart solely due to “immaturity.” Divorce is never undertaken blithely or unilaterally; it takes two people to make a marriage work, and, by the same token, it takes both to agree it’s not working. Usually, the gut-wrenching decision to divorce is reached only after consul-

tation with rabbinic authorities and marriage therapists. To complicate matters, the trauma of your son’s divorce did not dampen his attraction or comfort level with his ex-wife. While it’s easy for you to attribute their on-again relationship to loneliness, there are dozens of newly divorced women out there who, over the past fourteen months, have been hankering to date your son. There’s obviously some happy history shared between your son and Wife #1. Pardon me for saying this, Mom, but between you blaming your son’s quickie marriage and divorce on his “immaturity” and attributing his re-connection to “loneliness,” there’s probably a lot about your son you don’t understand. Your role now is to step back. Give your son the gift of space; encourage him to take his time and seek the guidance of professionals before he makes his next move. Above all – and this is the hard part – keep your comments, questions, advice, opinions, and witticisms to yourself. Criticism of your son or his choice of partner may backfire and lead to renewed heartbreak. Finally, if you’re finding it hard to maintain that maternal “sweet spot” of concern tempered with restraint, consult a qualified therapist for assistance.

The Shadchan Michelle Mond lthough I do not have much expertise in this specific area, I can say that, as a general rule, people grow up. What you wrote in the second paragraph says it all: “They are both more mature and understanding about what went wrong. He told me that they want to start dating again and see if they can make it work.” It sounds to me like it wasn’t a bad match per se, rather they were both very immature and got out of the marriage without working things out. Everything is bashert, and everything has a right time. What’s the harm

in having them try to date again with their newfound maturity? From your end, it would be wise to give over a lot of love and encouragement. Help them find an incredible couples therapist to work with throughout their second-time-around dating journey. They could also spend one date a week learning a specific book geared towards positive relationship building such as The Five Love Languages. They need to keep their fingers on the pulse of their relationship this time. Honing in on positive communication techniques and understanding each other’s love language is important. They should not rush into anything and take as much time as they need to feel comfortable going into a marriage again. While it is nerve-wracking for you to think about, there is certainly potential for success if they play their cards right this time. Hatzlacha!

Old patterns are highly likely to repeat themselves once the honeymoon period wears off.

The Single Tova Wein hough I haven’t heard of such situations, as they say, “there is nothing new under the sun,” and I have no doubt that there are couples out there who rushed into divorce only to realize

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that it was a hasty mistake. However, to say that your son and you believe immaturity could be a culprit in the demise of their marriage, let’s be honest. Fourteen months hardly sounds to me to be a long enough period of time for your son and his ex to be mature enough

to not repeat past mistakes. As you said, what we, the panelists, think may not be heard by your son, but in a perfect world in which your son would ask for and listen to advice, I would suggest that both he and his ex each enter their own individual therapy to get a better

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handle on how and why they behaved so impulsively and to better understand themselves and their actions. After a decent amount of work, and a sustained interest in dating one another, I would suggest that in conjunction with them dating, they see a couples therapist together. F u r t her more, no hasty decisions. No four dates and they are off to the races. They need to give the relationship time to determine whether there is enough there to make it stick.

Showing love and concern for your son, his well-being, and his future is always a parent’s place.

One divorce per couple is bad enough – two, ridiculous!

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cannot tell you whether them dating again is worth pursuing or a “crazy idea.” You haven’t shared any details about why this marriage broke down and ended in divorce over the short course of a few months. Chalking it up to some generalized immaturity doesn’t give any sense of what actually happened between your son and his ex-wife. Thinking that the only reason they are getting back together is due to loneliness doesn’t sit right with me, either. It all seems very simplistic. I sense that you don’t have a close relationship with your son, which is either by one person’s design or an arrangement that makes the most sense for both of you for personal reasons. I agree with The Mother in that I think there is a lot you don’t know about your son and his marriage. Entertaining your immaturity theory for a moment… if this is truly the world’s most immature couple – taking a marriage and divorce so lightly, entering and exiting like you would break a car lease – if they have not been through intense therapy or in a process of active and meaningful personal growth, then the likelihood that they will make it a second time around is probably very slim to none, as old patterns are highly likely to repeat themselves once the honeymoon period wears off, which, in their case, is going to be incredi-

bly fast. In my experience, when frum couples divorce after a short marriage, there is either something very important that was withheld from one or both parties when dating only to be revealed after the marriage; there was abuse, addiction or infidelity; or there was the realization that they rushed into this and were not a suitable pair. Ultimately, you have no control over what these two do. Whether they’re immature or gave their divorce great thought, if they want to date, they will find a way to date. It is their decision to be made. When we have no control over a situation (as is often the case in life), we have to ask ourselves, What is my role? If you haven’t done so already, and your relationship allows, I think that as his mom you should actively show him that you respect his thought process and share your concerns with him. If you haven’t asked him already, you absolutely should ask him what happened the first time around. “Look, Dad and I love and respect you and understand that ultimately this is your decision. But we are your parents and we are very concerned about you and Shira dating again. We are here for you. Can we talk?” He may not want to answer, and you will have to respect that choice

and give him space. But showing love and concern for your son, his wellbeing, and his future is always a parent’s place. As his mother, you can encourage him to seek professional counseling to help facilitate his personal growth as he makes this decision (nudge him once or twice... don’t hock him a chaynik). In order for them to have any chance as a couple, he needs to understand what his role was in the breakdown of their marriage (and she does as well. If her mother wrote in, I would say the same to her). A qualified therapist will help him do this work. If your son “follows his own heart” and doesn’t listen to you, but is respectful and polite, then that is fine. But if he doesn’t listen to you because he is not open to any feedback and/or if he responds to you with anger or hostili-

ty, then he has to work on these traits before he can make this or any other relationship work. Wishing you and your family all the best. Sincerely, Jennifer Esther Mann, LCSW and Jennifer Mann, LCSW are licensed psychotherapists and dating and relationship coaches working with individuals, couples and families in private practice in Hewlett, NY. Jennifer is looking forward to teaching a psychology course at Touro College in the fall. To set up a consultation or to ask questions, please call 516.224.7779. Press 1 for Esther, 2 for Jennifer. Visit www.thenavidaters.com for more information. If you would like to submit a dating or relationship question to the panel anonymously, please email thenavidaters@gmail.com. You can follow The Navidaters on FB and Instagram for dating and relationship advice.

Hi Readers! Receiving your enthusiastic emails wanting to participate in the Reader’s Respond section has been wonderful! Just a reminder about how Reader Response works. Email thenavidaters@gmail. com with the subject line “Reader Response.” We will then ask you, in the order we receive your email, if you would like to respond to the coming week’s email. If you would like to respond to an already printed Navidaters Panel, please submit your answer to the editor at editor@fivetownsjewishhome.com. You can also join us on our FB page @thenavidaters on Sunday evenings to post your response to the week’s column. Interacting with you has been a pleasure! Thank you for all of your feedback. Esther and Jennifer

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Dr. Deb

I Can’t Stand How Lonely I Am By Deb Hirschhorn, Ph.D.

t’s real. Feeling isolated, misunderstood, afraid to say something, afraid not to say something, wondering why you’re married but you’re sitting all alone in your empty house. Those feelings are magnified when you’re actually married compared to people who simply live alone. Being with someone who does not understand you or doesn’t care to understand you is devastating. Your partner is supposed to be your best friend, and instead, something went badly wrong and here you are more alone than if you were alone. “How did we get here?” you wonder. You got there slowly. It was not an earthquake. It was not a major upheaval. It never is. It’s a slow unraveling that starts with not being understood and instead of working on clarifying things, someone gives up. Someone says, “whatever,” and slinks off to suffer in silence. Leaving you – left alone. They didn’t intend to misunderstand. Of course not. They just didn’t understand. That happens. Actually, that happens a lot. But the “clarification” didn’t make sense to them. They left it alone because what other choice did they have? She or he wasn’t able to grasp it better in the first place so there’d be no reason why a new try would help. And you felt the same way. Why try? And then one day the worst of the worst – you found something suspicious. Eventually, you made the confrontation and got denials. But you

knew. Of course, you knew. You can read the signs. The worst part of this worst part is that you have no idea what options you can possibly have at this time and your partner is talking “divorce.” Well, of course they are. They don’t see options, either. When you’re completely slamming into the wall – forget bumping into it – in order to try to be understood and it just doesn’t work, anyone would give up. The most important part of life itself is living a meaningful life. And that means being someone. Being a person that leaves some kind of mark. But if whatever you say or they say just gets a “huh?” then it’s kind of hard to feel like you have some purpose here. Like who are you, anyway? You no longer know because there’s no one there to respond to anything you do. It’s like yelling in a lonely plain out in the Dakotas somewhere. One of the things I’ve noticed that makes this problem worse is that people often believe – incorrectly – that they are great communicators when, in fact, they’re not. I could fill a book with all the mistaken and misunderstood communications that spouses have. The reason I know is that in this day and age of texting and email, I myself get a LOT of messages that I cannot make heads or tail of! This all comes from thinking the other person understands the context that is in our minds when we talk or write. We are clear that we are talking about last February when we were all

in Florida, but our spouse doesn’t know that. We think they should get it from the rest of what we’re saying, but they don’t. Why is that? Why don’t people figure out the context that seems so clear when we’re trying to make a point? Several reasons: • They have enough stuff on their own minds to try to figure out what’s on yours. • They may be in a bad mood which means they’re going to interpret everything through that lens. • Even if they’re not in a bad mood, the fact that your communication has broken down in the past leads them to believe it is going to break down again, so that puts them in a bad mood. You see where all this is going. It seems inevitable that things will go south and there’s nothing you can do about it. However, I’m here to say that’s not true. You do have options. Here’s why: the fact that neither you nor your spouse learned how to communicate well enough to give and receive clear messages is no reason to assume that you can’t learn. Of course you can! And the fact that all your messages are colored now by the distance between you does not mean that it has to remain so. However, the reality is that it is quite possible that you will have to fix this problem all by yourself. If your spouse has checked out, the burden falls on you alone. But so what? Go for it anyway. It is altogether possible that with the right help, your partner will come on board later on. Here’s

how these things work: First, you work on yourself. This is good. Very good, in fact, because you need that. Not only do you need to learn to communicate better or receive messages more accurately – a widespread problem – but you also need to start feeling good about yourself. You need to forgive yourself for everything, like and love your own company, and learn to take action in a positive way. You need to heal and you need to discover who you are. Then, the next step is to work on learning to become a magnet for your spouse while you do all this. As they watch the changes, they will first be curious about how real these changes are, and then they will become interested to find out more. Finally, they will be impressed with you for pulling all that off. More than that: the truth is that happy people are attractive. When you’re deeply happy with yourself – no longer lonely in spite of the changes in your spouse that have still not happened – that alone is a magnet. And it’s an incentive for them to make changes too. Because now there’s a motivation to do the work. If this sounds like a big job, it is. I’m not going to lie. It’s a big job. But what a wonderful job! It’s a true transformation! And it’s worth it.

Dr. Deb Hirschhorn is a Marriage and Family Therapist. If you want help with your marriage, begin by signing up to watch her Masterclass at https://drdeb. com/myw-masterclass.

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Health & F tness

Dine Out and Stay Lean By Aliza Beer MS, RD, CDN

ining out could be a recipe for disaster. When preparing a homecooked meal, we can control what goes into our food and how it’s prepared. But even healthy options in restaurants are not always as they seem. A side dish as innocent as roasted vegetables may be layered with extra fat and excess sodium. Aside from the quality of the food, the portion sizes served in most restaurants exceed what an average person should be consuming in one sitting. A recent study by researchers at the Jean Mayer USDA Human Nutrition Research Center on Aging at Tufts University found that 92% of entrees served at restaurants, both fast food and regular, exceeded 600 calories. That number excludes appetizers, beverages, and desserts, which means that in one sitting diners could be consuming more calories than are recommended for an entire day! If you’re eating out once a week, those calories can really add up and lead to serious weight gain. Tufts University researchers also found that the portion size problem isn’t unique to the United States, so when you’re overseas or on vacation, your chances of overconsuming are just as high. Before you cancel your dinner plans, remember that some restaurants are actively trying to meet the new demand for healthier, leaner menu

options. Many eateries, unfortunately, are still serving up saturated-fat, sugar, and calorie rich entrées. No worries! Here’s how to dine deliciously while still keeping your health in mind: • Appetizers Matter – The dish you begin your meal with actually has a surprising impact on how much you eat during your main and dessert. A

appetizers instead of a main. Tuna tartare and a lightly dressed salad (which we’ll talk more about soon) provides more vitamins, minerals, healthy fats, and protein than a traditional main of rib steak and roasted potatoes. Appetizers also often pack more flavor and depth since the portions are smaller. Quality over quantity!

A gourmet home cook, no matter how skilled, will likely not douse a piece of salmon in butter because they’re actually going to be eating it.

study from Pennsylvania State University showed that those who began their meal with a broth soup, like minestrone or chicken, consumed 20% less calories than those who started their meals with other appetizers. Soups also contain far fewer calories than appetizers like pulled brisket tacos or that infamous warm bread which can have as many calories as a main. Another appetizer hack is to order

• The Fat, the Salt, the Ugly – Restaurants will often add way more oil, butter, and salt than necessary to increase flavor without you knowing the calorie price. The reason restaurant food is perceived as more decadent than homecooked meals is because of the fat and salt content in a lot of the dishes. A gourmet home cook, no matter how skilled, will likely not douse a piece of salmon in

butter because they’re actually going to be eating it. The proteins are the most susceptible to this treatment in restaurants. Of course, grilled chicken is a healthier option than schnitzel or red meat but there are ways to ensure you’re not being slipped a whole lot of fat and sodium into your dish. Ask the waiter if he can prepare your dish with half the oil and reserve some salt. I’ve tried it and two out of three times they actually listen! If you’re eating dairy, you can request olive oil for your fish as opposed to butter. This method will save you some calories and keep your sodium intake down. • Not all Salads are Created Equal – When trying to eat healthy, salads can be confusing for some people. The term “salad” does not automatically bless a dish with the components of a healthy meal. Salads can be upwards of 400-500 calories due to fattening add-ons like croutons, fried chicken, and tortilla strips. A fried goat cheese and candied pecan salad tells a very different story than a beet and avocado salad with toasted almonds. Look for options that have an arugula, spinach, or kale base and nutritious toppings like mushrooms, cucumbers, and salmon. A mayonnaise-based dressing like Caesar or thousand island can have anywhere from 150 to 250 calories in just two tablespoons.

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OIive oil and lemon dressings are a great option, but if you find the combination to be bland and boring, ask the waiter what vinaigrettes they have and request them to be put on the side. Salad greens do not need to be coated in dressing to be tasty. Try focusing on the flavors of the fresh vegetables and the other components that make up the salad and request some fresh pepper be sprinkled on it. A great trick is to lightly dip the end of your fork in dressing and then into the salad. You end up consuming a lot less dressing while still getting that dressing fix. • The Side Swap – You made a good choice and ordered the marinated chicken skewers but they show up with half a plate of French fries! When ordering your main, inquire about the side dishes. Most eateries allow you to choose your own sides from a list. Avoid breaded vegetables and choose steamed or grilled instead. Ask the waiter to swap your fries (or pommes frites, since we’re in fine dining territory) for a double portion of vegetables instead. Remember, the restaurant wants you to have a good experience. They will usually try to accommodate your requests, but only if you ask. • Codewords – Restaurants like to sneak in adjectives to seduce diners into ordering dishes. A “creamy, silky penne a la vodka” gets you in a way that “pasta with vodka sauce” doesn’t. Foods with descriptions that include “crunchy,” “battered,” and “breaded” are usually fried and high in fat. Words like “sticky” and “glazed” might have high amounts of sugar. Menus usually use adjectives like “creamy,” “rich,” and “cheesy” to describe dishes that are so obviously not low-calorie. This doesn’t mean all “glazed” or “rich” foods are unhealthy but it’s something to look out for when searching for those evasive healthy options. Dishes that contain the words “roasted,” “baked” (cakes not included – don’t even think about it), and “steamed” are almost always better options health-wise. The steaming, roasting, and baking processes require less fat and rely on heat and air to cook food. The right planning can help you avoid the pitfalls of succumbing to the wrong dish. Review the menu online before you go to the restaurant. This way you will have enough time to consider your options without impulse and

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stead of “I can’t eat that” when faced with temptations were more successful at resisting treats and more likely to choose a healthy snack. The researchers theorized that saying the words “I don’t” lends a feeling of self-control rather than the forced deprivation implied by “I can’t.” Control is the key: controlling the portion, controlling the choice, and controlling your cravings. It is unhealthy and unrealistic to never indulge, so control your response to your food and eat 3-4 bites of that special treat. Mindful indulgences will not significantly impact the scale, but will enhance your emotional wellbeing. So dine out, stay lean, and enjoy every bite! go with more nourishing picks. • Keep in Touch – Last but certainly not least, don’t leave your mindbody connection at the restaurant door. A study in 2017 by The American Heart Association demonstrated how people stray from their healthy eating habits when dining out. Even though portion sizes are likely too large for the average person, people still tend to finish their plates. We lose our “full signal” and eat whatever is in front of us. After a couple bites, check in with yourself to see if you’re still hungry. People have big eyes at restaurants and like to order more than they should actually be eating. Some restaurants will offer lower prices for smaller portions but those are few and far apart. Instead, split an entrée with another health-minded friend or ask the waiter to package half up before they serve you. Additionally, diners succumb to peer pressure and order what their friends are having. Stick to your morals! Just because the person next to you is ordering the mushroom and cheese ravioli with a side of Cajun fries doesn’t mean you can’t get the pesto salmon and roasted zucchini. There’s a common stigma against going out to dinner with someone who is “on a diet.” That needs to change. Own your healthy lifestyle. Be proud of your good choices. Dining out is and should be a part of our lives. Refraining from eating out because you are “on a diet” or just trying to maintain your weight will only lead you to feelings of deprivation. You

can and should eat in any restaurant your friends or family choose, and there are always good options on the menu. Finally, keep in mind that how you talk about food, to others and to yourself, can help you stick to healthy eating goals. In a study published in the Journal of Consumer Research, dieters who said, “I don’t eat that” in-

Aliza Beer is a registered dietitian with a master’s degree in nutrition. She has a private practice in Cedarhurst, NY. Patients’ success has been featured on the Dr. Oz show. Aliza can be reached at alizabeer@gmail.com, and you can follow her on Instagram at @alizabeer.

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It Can Happen to

ANYONE

The Danger of Children Left in Locked Cars By Hylton I. Lightman, MD, DCH (SA), FAAP

ast week’s tragedy in Lakewood was horrific. A nearly 2-year-old beautiful girl was unintentionally left in the car and died from vehicular heatstroke. In other words, she was left in a locked car which rapidly heated up – and the outside temperature was only 69 degrees. Unfortunately, this is not an isolated incident. Since 1998, when the United States started keeping records on this, there have been 801 deaths, according to noheatstroke.org, an organization founded by Jan Null, a meteorologist whose passion is to prevent these types of death from happening. Mr. Null readily agreed to be interviewed for this article, as did all people cited throughout. Death by hyperthermia is a heatstroke. Heatstroke is a type of severe heat illness that results in a body temperature of greater than 104 degrees. When the core body temperature cannot cool down, everything breaks down and the gut leaks toxins. The combination of children’s bodies not cooling down as rapidly and as efficiently as adults, and that cars, even in cool spring weather, can heat up swiftly in the sun, can be a lethal combination. We are never to judge these par-

ents or any parents who forget children in their cars. It can happen to any person. The highly educated, the lesser educated, the religious, the nonreligious, the wealthy, the middle class, the poor. Parents of all ages and ethnicities do it. 25% of all parents report that at some point, they have lost awareness of a child in the car. Clearly, each of us and all of us are vulnerable. Parents who forget children in cars are not criminally negligent. And they are not “bad” parents. It happens because of the way our human brains work. Any parent, grandparent, caregiver, or other person driving children is susceptible. Allow me to explain.

The Battle of the Brain Neuropsychologist Dr. David M. Diamond of the University of South Florida is an expert on memory. Since 2004, he has studied the phenomenon of parents forgetting about children and leaving them in cars. He has also interviewed many parents of such children. Dr. Diamond explains that our brains have several memory systems that compete with one another. “Habit memory” involves tasks with repetitive actions that are per-

formed automatically. For example, we wake up in the morning, say modeh ani, wash negel vaser, and then begin the day. Another example of habitual memory is getting in the car and driving from our home to our office. Habit memory allows us to multi-task without being fully conscious so that while we are driving, we might have a conversation with another person or listen to a podcast. Think of this as being on auto-pilot mode. “Prospective memory” allows us to hold information in our heads and plan to use it at some point in the future. We all try “to remember to remember.” It can either be timebased or event-based and something that can be triggered by a cue. For example: I see the store’s advertisement (cue) which reminds me to purchase milk (action). It is a daily occurrence that habit memory will prevail over the prospective memory. For example, I am driving home from work and know that the family needs milk for breakfast tomorrow morning, and despite knowing about this need, I somehow end up parked in front of my home and never stopped to get the milk. Why? “The suppression of the prospec-

tive memory caused by the dominance of the brain’s habit memory is an almost daily occurrence,” Dr. Diamond says. “When we forget to stop for groceries on the way home from work, it’s because the habit memory system takes us directly home, suppressing our awareness (prospective memory) that we had planned to stop at the store.” It would be wonderful if all prospective memory failures were as “pareve” as forgetting about a grocery item or two or even a more complete grocery shopping. Go back for a moment to the recent Lakewood tragedy – the news reports cited that the parents, who will thankfully not be charged with her death, had a “misunderstanding” about the day’s plans. Dr. Diamond underscores, “Our flawed prospective memory puts those we love at risk. This is especially true when we assume that precautions are not necessary because such tragedies happen only to negligent parents. The evidence is clear that the assumption is wrong.”

Change, Stress, & Sleep Deprivation Dr. Diamond is firm that although each case of a child being left unin-

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tentionally in a car is unique, they all share certain commonalities: • A change in the parent’s routine that leads Mommy or Tatty to follow an alternate route or routine • A change in how the parent interacted with the child during the drive, such as the child might have fallen asleep during the drive and is therefore silent • A lack of a cue such as a sound or an object associated with the child, i.e., leaving the diaper bag on the front passenger seat. It seems that there is a “choice point” during the drive where the parent should be going to the daycare or to another destination like work or home. At that choice, Dr. Diamond says, parents report having lost awareness that the child is in the car. Parents who have forgotten children this way report stressful or distracting experiences before and/or during the drive. Sleep deprivation is also a major factor. It is known that stress and lack of sleep can compromise the habit memory and impair the prospective memory. When stress and sleep deprivation are factored into the scenario, it is likely that the habit memory system will hijack the prospective memory system. We frum Jews know only too well about stress and sleep deprivation. Our measures in these areas can be quite off the charts. We are also multi-taskers par excellence. Our families are larger. It’s not uncommon for parents to be dealing with bottle and diapers, homework, high school and/or seminary and yeshiva applications AND shidduchim, many times all concurrently. The challenges of earning parnassah to support our families and lifestyles has been anecdotally documented. It’s not easy to juggle all these balls. Let’s not forget our action-packed days of getting up and out, keeping home and work going, preparing dinner, readying for Shabbos, etc. There is no lack of what to do when we are raising our families. I would be remiss to leave out the perils of the cellphone. Let’s face it – many people, especially millennials, are always browsing and the cellphone has become a permanent appendage. It’s the way of life nowa-

days that can have negative repercussions if not used properly. This piece of plastic and electronics can be distracting, as it disrupts our focus and attention. A universal observation that Dr. Diamond has made after such tragedies is that each parent’s brain appears to have created the false memory that he or she brought the child to daycare. This incongruity explains

keep children safe from the perils that exist with cars, all point to the change of not allowing car seats to be in the front seat of vehicles. Some readers may remember when we put car seats on the passenger seat. It was not all that long ago. When that happened, parents did not forget children because they were in plain sight; they were simply unforgettable. Yet technology and research

Take one item that you NEED to start your day and put it in the back seat of the car in front of the car seat.

why those parents believe their child is where he or she should be, even telling colleagues that they need to pick up their children, forgetting that they left them for hours in the car.

A Recent Phenomenon Interestingly, pediatric deaths by hyperthermia resulting from children being left unintentionally in cars is a relatively recent phenomenon. How do we explain this? Mr. Null, Dr. Diamond, and Amber Rollins, director of kidsandcars. org, a public safety awareness organization that seeks to educate parents, caregivers and others about how to

has progressed and airbags were introduced. Airbags would deploy and then BOOM – too many children in those car seats in the front were harmed. Hence, legislation was promulgated so that we are now mandated to put children in the back, behind our heads. Unfortunately, there is truth to the adage, “Out of sight, out of mind.”

Children Entering Unattended Cars Parents leaving a child unintentionally in a car account for 54% of the 801 deaths of death by hyper-

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thermia in cars since 1998. The other 46% have been caused by children gaining access to unattended cars and becoming trapped therein, as well as children being left intentionally in cars. How do children gain access to unattended cars? There are people who leave their cars unlocked, for whatever reasons. Here’s a plausible scenario of how a tragedy can unfold. It’s a beautiful afternoon when children return home from day camp. Later in the afternoon, they are playing “hide-and-seek” outside supervised by Imma, Daddy, Bubby, Saba or whomever. The adult in charge needs to step inside the house, perhaps to check on dinner or use the restroom. The adult might say to the 8- or 9- or 10-year old who is there, “Please hold down the fort and keep an eye on things while I run inside quickly.” The adult returns within 3-5 minutes and resumes supervising. It might be a short moment or two or several longer moments when the adult notices that 4-year-old Shlomo is nowhere to be found. The adult calls out for Shlomo but there’s no answer. The adult scurries around, looking at the neighbor’s property, going back inside their own house, and around the property. Others engage in the search. Those moments when you cannot find a child when he is supposed to be somewhere are terrifying. “Typically, cars are not the first ‘go-to’ place that people search for a missing-in-action child,” Mrs. Rollins says. “Yet a child perceives of a car as a ‘fun’ place to hide and hang out. If you have a pool, wouldn’t that be one of the first places you check? Make your car is place #2.” Once a child enters an unlocked car and locks the doors, he is trapped. The child safety locks kick into action and the child cannot unlock them. As the car heats up and the child is inside, the unthinkable and unspeakable can happen. Noheatstroke.org’s Jan Null is clear that children gaining access to cars accounts for 26.3% of deaths involving kids, cars, and hyperthermia. 18.9% of these deaths are caused by

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a caregiver knowingly leaving a child unattended in car. A survey of 1,000 parents in 2014 revealed that 14% of parents have done this. And fathers are more likely to behave this way than mothers. Leaving a child unattended in a car – how can this happen? “Impatience seems to be the order of the day,” Dr. Diamond explains. “People are in a hurry. People have so much to get done. An adult may think that an errand in a store will be ‘only’ 3 minutes – and before they know it, it’s more like 15 minutes.” Our packed lives are jammedpacked with everything we need and want to get done. As always, time is of the essence. Is this scenario all that unlikely? G-d forbid, if you ever saw this, I urge you to break the window of the car and get out the child. A broken window is a nothing price to pay for a healthy, live child. The professionals interviewed for this article are emphatic that people who intentionally leave a child alone in a car are negligent. “A child not in view puts the child in harm’s way,” Dr. Diamond emphasizes, “including at the risk of being kidnapped.” This statistic of 46% of pediatric hyperthermia deaths due to children gaining access to unattended cars or parents leaving them intentionally in cars is the reason why many professionals in this field, including Dr. Diamond, Ms. Amber and Mr. Null, dislike the phrase coined by the media, “Forgotten Baby Syndrome (FBS).” In our penchant to label and categorize things and events – part of how our brains work – people seek names for phenomena like this, the media included. Yet it does a disservice. Neuroscientist Dr. Diamond explains that “FBS trivializes forgetting kids in car and makes it something akin to forgetting our phones or wallets in the car. But do we label everything so there is ‘Forgotten Keys Syndrome’ or ‘Forgotten Notebook Syndrome’?”

What We Should Do The solutions here are multifactorial and layered. They should all be used at different points in order to create a “win-win” for all so there are

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no more tragic deaths of children this way. As we know, the consequences of the death of a child reverberate for generations. 1. Take this phenomenon seriously. Don’t think that you are the person to whom it will never happen. Give up thinking, “I love my child so much that I can’t imagine ever leaving him/her in the back of the car.” 2. Be honest about the limitations of this fantastically fascinating marvel called the human brain especially when it functions during times of overload, stress and sleep deprivation. Embrace its limitations. 3. You should physically open the car’s back door and check the backseat when leaving the vehicle. It is essential to implement this point 100%. “It has been proven that it takes 21 days to make something into a habit,” says Mrs. Rollins. “Start this habit today.” 4. Every day you are in the car, whether your baby is with you or not, take one item that you NEED to start your day and put it in the back seat of the car in front of the car seat. It might be your laptop, employee ID badge, your lunch, or briefcase. Make it something you NEED, as all items are important, with none nearing the importance of your precious child. 5. Look before you lock the car. Another habit to start pronto. 6. Communicate w ith your spouse and others in your home to maximize communication and minimize miscommunication. Picture one parent pulling the car

into the driveway while Rachelli is sleeping soundly in the car seat. The back of the car is popped open which is followed by the frenetic rush to unload the groceries. Do not assume that Rachelli has been moved from her car seat into the house. Verbal-

ly communicate to your spouse or an older child something like, “You get the bundles while I get Rachelli.” Remember: any change in routine increases the risk factor of forgetting about a child. 7. Ask your babysitter or day care provider to call you by a certain time if your child has not been dropped off yet. Let’s say Reuven is due at the babysitter no later than 7:50 a.m. on weekday mornings. The babysitter should call you no later than 8 a.m. if Reuven has not been dropped off yet. If the child has been left in the car, this layer can prevent a potential pediatric death by hyperthermia because of swift action. “It should be part of your daily habit,” Dr. Diamond and Mrs. Rollins both stress. (Preventative “stress” is good stress.) 8. Lock all cars AFTER making sure there are no children inside. 9. Keep cars and remote openers where kids cannot access them. Tod-

Speaking about the Unspeakable Much research has been invested in this topic as evidenced by the length and seriousness of this article. To appreciate the scope of this nuanced issue, it is important to give a comprehensive overview. I cannot emphasize enough that we need to remove the mindset of “it will never happen to me.” It can happen to each of us. Period. Sadly, it happened again on May 11, 2019, to a nearly 2-year old in Canada’s British Columbia. Never are we to judge any parent who unintentionally leaves a child in the car. The professionals cited in this article are passionate about their work (even the scientists). A spectrum of people care and are devoting their talents accordingly. Baruch Hashem. In addition to the sources cited in the article, I urge you to read Gene Weingarten’s article “Fatal Distraction: Forgetting a Child in the Backseat of a Car is a Horrifying Mistake. Is It a Crime?” This article was published in The Washington Post in 2009. Mr. Weingarten won a Pulitzer Prize for it. You can find the article at https:// www.washingtonpost.com/lifestyle/magazine/fatal-distractionforgetting-a-child-in-thebackseat-of-a-car-is-a-horrifying-mistakeis-it-a-crime/2014/06/16/8ae0fe3a-f580-11e3-a3a5-42be35962a52_story.html?noredirect=on&utm_term=.7f8472b93a59 You will be a changed person for reading it. Kidsandcars.org’s Amber Rollins, together with the organization’s founder Janette Fannell, have put together a fantastically useful website with practical, useful information. Take the time to read through and use the information provided.

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dlers and children are sneaky, oops, I mean “creative.” Know that they are much smarter than we realize. Plan accordingly. 10. Put a chain lock high up on the front and back doors so children can only let themselves out with a parent present. 11. Build a community of support for prevention. Speak to your neighbors, asking them to commit to locking their cars and making sure that keys and remotes are not easily accessible. Invite them to a block kiddush once everyone has signed on. 12. Technology, technology, technology – thank G-d, we live in an era where technology abounds and people are thinking about this and taking action. Take Elepho ((http://www.elepho.com). Lawrence resident, businessman, askan (and neighbor and friend) Menachem Jacobowitz has devoted nearly a decade to innovating and developing wellbeing products for the family through a company called Elepho.

Together with his Elepho partner Michael Braunold, an engineer who is devoted to using technology for wellness and prevention, their eClip (https://amzn.to/2JxMkuK) product is saving lives.

the temperature in the back of the car. The on/off switch is designed so a child cannot turn it off accidentally. “The eClip is a great product and we have other plans in the works,” Mr. Braunold shares from his home

We need to remove the mindset of “it will never happen to me.”

The eClip is attached to the baby, car seat, or diaper bag and then is switched “on” before driving. Using simple Bluetooth technology that works with smartphones, it sounds an alarm when the parent has stepped away from the car and several seconds have elapsed. In addition, it has a thermometer which tells the adult

in Ra’anana. “Because we’ve already developed the technology, we are speaking with car seat manufacturers. Perhaps there will be a time in the near future when car manufacturers will incorporate our technology.” I urge my fellow pediatricians and medical colleagues to discuss this with all parents.

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ay Ray’s Law,” named for a little girl whose life was tragically lost this way, was passed in Texas in 2015. Ray Ray’s mother lobbied for this law which mandates hospitals across the state to educate new parents on the dangers of hot-car related deaths. I sincerely hope that today, in 2019, every pediatric healthcare provider in Texas and around the nation discusses prevention and technology at every point of face-to-face contact with parents and caregivers. Spread the word. Educate yourselves. Avail yourselves of the technology. As the Talmud tells us in Sanhedrin, “To save one life is to save an entire world.” As always, daven. Dr. Hylton I. Lightman is a pediatrician and Medical Director of Total Family Care of the 5 Towns and Rockaway PC. He can be reached at drlightman@totalfamilycaremd.com, on Instagram at Dr.Lightman_ or visit him on Facebook.

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Honey Chicken By Naomi Nachman

This dinner is one of the kids’ favorite. I like it because it can be easily doubled and freezes well. I serve it with roasted vegetables and a simple rice dish and everyone licks their plates clean.

Ingredients Chicken 2 pounds chicken breasts cut into 1-inch pieces 1 ½ cups flour 1 tsp chili powder 1 tsp cumin ½ tsp coriander ½ tsp onion powder Canola oil for frying

Honey Sauce 1 cup honey 4 TBS low sodium soy sauce 2 TBS balsamic vinegar 4 TBS ketchup 2 TBS cornstarch 2 TBS water

Preparation In a medium bowl, mix flour with all the spices. Coat the chicken with the spices and set aside. Heat a large sauté pan and fry the chicken in batches till brown and crispy. Drain on a paper towel. Mix the sauce ingredients, except the cornstarch and water, in a small saucepan and bring to a boil. In a small cup, mix the water with the cornstarch until smooth and pour into sauce. This will thicken the sauce. Place chicken and sauce in a sauté pan, on low heat, and mix until chicken is well-coated in sauce. Simmer for five minutes on low.

Naomi Nachman, the owner of The Aussie Gourmet, caters weekly and Shabbat/ Yom Tov meals for families and individuals within The Five Towns and neighboring communities, with a specialty in Pesach catering. Naomi is a contributing editor to this paper and also produces and hosts her own weekly radio show on the Nachum Segal Network stream called “A Table for Two with Naomi Nachman.” Naomi gives cooking presentations for organizations and private groups throughout the New York/New Jersey Metropolitan area. In addition, Naomi has been a guest host on the QVC TV network and has been featured in cookbooks, magazines as well as other media covering topics related to cuisine preparation and personal chefs. To obtain additional recipes, join The Aussie Gourmet on Facebook or visit Naomi’s blog. Naomi can be reached through her website, www.theaussiegourmet.com or at (516) 295-9669.

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Notable Quotes “Say What?!”

I believe people should be allowed to smoke, drink, and eat as much red meat they just want. The authorities may like to inform, but people already know pretty well what is healthy and what isn’t, I believe. - Norway’s new Health Minister Sylvi Listhaug Listhaug, in an interview with national radio, resulting in widespread condemnation

We were the most murdered victims here during the Second World War and we will never agree to any payments for anyone for this reason, any compensation. - Poland’s Prime Minister Mateusz Morawiecki, declaring last Saturday that his government will not pay compensation for property lost during World War II

Facebook is banning several far-right extremists from its services because it considers them dangerous – this includes the Nation of Islam leader Louis Farrakhan, rightwing conspiracy theorist Alex Jones. - CNN host Alisyn Camerota, spreading fake-news that Jew-hater Louis Farrakhan is a “farright extremist”

Mr. Olsen stated that he wanted to turn himself into an “official” and asked if he could turn himself into me. When asked, “Why do you want to do that?” Mr. Olsen stated, “My wife treats me like a servant…and I’m tired of this [garbage]” Mr. Olsen also stated, “Lock me up, I’d rather go to jail [than] go back home.” - From a police report for Leonard Olsen Jr., who was charged in Florida with misdemeanor reckless driving after allegedly putting his car on cruise control so that he could ride out of the sunroof

Now, Trump’s Wharton education is yet again under the spotlight because Trump is daily demonstrating just how little he learned about economics while studying there. Or while running businesses. Or ever. - From a Daily Beast article titled, “Can Wharton Revoke Trump’s Economics Degree Now?” arguing that Trump is the worst businessman ever and doesn’t know anything about the economy at all

I do not blame the former director for being angry, but now the former director is a partisan pundit, selling books and earning speaking fees while speculating about the strength of my character and the fate of my immortal soul. That is disappointing. Speculating about souls is not a job for police and prosecutors. Generally, we base our opinions on eyewitness testimony. -Former Deputy Attorney General Rod Rosenstein taking aim at former FBI Director James Comey at an event in Baltimore

The 3rd Intifada starts on the 27th night of Ramadan. Oh Allah make it blessed. #FreePalestine #48kmarch. - 2014 Tweet by Imam Omar Suleiman of Irving, Texas, who was invited by House Democrats last week to say a prayer in Congress

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On the night before Friday’s Game 6 of the Western Conference semifinals, after arriving from the Bay Area, Curry wanted to get some shots up at Toyota Center. The Warriors’ do-it-all manager, Eric Housen, booked the court from 7 p.m. to 8 p.m. so Curry could work on his shot. Somehow, Rockets guard Chris Paul got wind. He decided to go to Toyota Center to get shots up, nixing Curry’s reservations. The Warriors’ point guard offered to stick to half a court, but Paul wasn’t having it. Curry was kicked off the Toyota Center court. - The Athletics’ Marcus Thompson reporting how Rockets guard Chris Paul prevented Golden State’s Steph Curry from practicing at the Rockets arena the day before game 6 of the conference semifinals

Kick me off the court again, boy! - Steph Curry after he and his team buried the Rockets in game 6, ending the series

There’s always kind of a calming feeling I tell folks when I think of the Holocaust, and the tragedy of the Holocaust, and the fact that it was my ancestors – Palestinians – who lost their land and some lost their lives, their livelihood, their human dignity, their existence in many ways, have been wiped out…. And just all of it was in the name of trying to create a safe haven for Jews, postthe Holocaust, post-the tragedy and the horrific persecution of Jews across the world at that time. And I love the fact that it was my ancestors that provided that, right, in many ways. But they did it in a way that took their human dignity away and it was forced on them. -Rep. Rashida Tlaib (D-MI) on a podcast called “Skullduggery” in an episode titled “From Rashida with Love,” not only strangely referring to the “calming” feeling that she gets while talking about the Holocaust but also outright lying about the Palestinians helping the Jews when in reality the Grand Mufti of Jerusalem met with Hitler and helped formulate the Final Solution plans to kill all Jews

Just as President John F. Kennedy is remembered for starting our nation’s drive to the moon, where Neil and I left footprints, the Trump administration and this Congress would be remembered decades forward for putting humans permanently on the moon and Americans on Mars — for making human footprints in red dust and subsequent migration possible. - Buzz Aldrin, who was one of the first men to walk on the moon, advocating for exploration of Mars, in a Washington Post op-ed

I’m not going to comment on a particular investigative step, because that’s for the bureau to do, and I’m not in the government any longer. – James Comey when asked during a CNN town hall whether his FBI sent a spy to meet with a Trump campaign official in 2016

He says, “Michael, this is President Trump.” At this time, I had tears in my eyes. My heart’s beating fast. I’m smiling from ear to ear. I had a feeling I knew what it was for. President Trump called, which I think says a lot about the man. He didn’t have to do it that way. He could have just told my lawyer and pass it down that way. But it was more personable. - Iraq war veteran Michael Behenna who was pardoned by the president this week for his 2009 killing of an Iraqi prisoner, which he claims was in self-defense, talking about the moment that he got the call from the White House to inform him that he was being pardoned

I do not know what to say about people who ran out with bags; G-d is their judge. Responsibilty. - Typo on 46 million new $50 bills printed in Australia, with the last i missing from the word responsibility, which is written in microscopic print three times on the bill

- A survivor of the Russian plane crash that killed 41 of 78 people aboard expressing dismay that some passengers delayed the evacuation by grabbing their belongings

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I think it’s also critical to understand that, as I’ve been telling candidates who have come to see me, you can run the best campaign, you can even become the nominee, and you can have the election stolen from you. – Hillary Clinton speaking in Los Angeles

I don’t know. I don’t know. - Obama’s Secretary of Defense Bob Gates, who in the past said that Joe Biden has been wrong about every national security matter in the past four decades, on CBS when asked if Biden would be an effective commanderin-chief

Doctors and nurses don’t hear African-American women’s medical issues the same way that they hear the same things from white women. - 2020 presidential hopeful Sen. Elizabeth Warren (D-Mass.) positing why African-American women have more maternal health issues than others

I think it’s just gender bias. I think people are generally biased against women. I think also biased against young women. - 2020 presidential hopeful Sen. Kirsten Gillibrand, 52, when asked by CNN about a poll which found that 0.03% of Democrats support her bid for the Democrat nomination

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Political Crossfire

Iran and U.S. Mobilizations Could Lead to Conflict By David Ignatius

ehind recent U.S. and Iranian military mobilizations lies a perception by each side that the other may be about to attack. This doesn’t appear to be posturing by either nation but is instead a confrontation that could lead to actual conflict if there’s a miscalculation. The United States sent an aircraft carrier task force, bombers and other assets to the Middle East last weekend after officials concluded that Iran had altered its strategy of waiting out the Trump administration’s pressure campaign – and was instead making preparations for a possible military strike on U.S. forces in the region. Marine Gen. Frank McKenzie, the new U.S. Central Command leader, said in a speech last Wednesday that the buildup came “in direct response to a number of troubling and escalatory indicators and warnings.” His spokesman, Navy Capt. Bill Urban, had said the previous day there were “clear indications that Iranian and Iranian proxy forces are making preparations to possibly attack U.S. forces in the region.” This sense of an imminent Iranian threat marks a break from what U.S. officials had predicted just two weeks ago. At that time, officials expected that Tehran would try to ride out President Trump’s campaign of sanctions over the next 20 months, in the hope they would be removed by his successor. But last week, based on new information, the United States concluded that the Iranians had decided to reset

their strategy now and were moving military equipment to prepare for action. It’s not clear whether this turnabout happened because U.S. sanctions were squeezing so hard that the Iranians couldn’t wait until January 2021, or because they concluded that Trump might be reelected. The message of U.S. willingness to use force appears to have registered with Iran and its proxies. I received

American intermediary, whom I’ve known for nearly a decade, conveyed the message on condition that the militia leader’s name and organization wouldn’t be directly identified. U.S. officials have been particularly worried about a possible attack by Iranian proxies on the more than 5,000 U.S. troops in Iraq who are training Iraqi military forces and otherwise bolstering security in the country. So

The Iranians clearly are feeling the squeeze and looking for a way to push back.

a text message on Thursday morning from an American who travels widely in Syria and Iraq. He said he was contacting me on behalf of the head of the leading Iran-backed Shiite militia organization in Iraq. According to this intermediary, Iran-backed forces had “pre-positioned themselves to respond to U.S. escalation,” but “there was no plan for attack, only a response if the U.S. attacked.” The militia leader’s tone seemed conciliatory: “There is still an opening to de-escalate things if the other side doesn’t want direct conflict,” he said, according to the intermediary who had been asked to speak on his behalf. The

the message from the Iranian militia leader speaks, at least indirectly, to a major American concern. The Iranian-backed militias were said to have been especially worried after U.S. helicopters dropped flares near Camp Speicher in Iraq, near Tikrit, where some of the Shiite militias are based. The flares ignited fields of crops near the base, and the militias apparently feared that this might be a prelude to military action. The larger question emerging from this week’s showdown is where the U.S. strategy of “maximum pressure” is heading. The Iranians clearly are feeling the squeeze and looking for a way

to push back. Part of Tehran’s pushback was last week’s announcement by President Hassan Rouhani that Iran would withdraw from parts of the 2015 nuclear agreement, in response to Trump’s announcement that he was abandoning the pact and re-imposing U.S. sanctions. The Pentagon has feared that the Iranian reset might include kinetic military action, too, in the hope that it would push the United States back toward negotiations. Iran’s confusion about the Trump administration was exemplified by a comment on Thursday by Majid Takht Ravanchi, Iran’s ambassador to the United Nations, in an interview with NBC’s Andrea Mitchell. She asked whether Rouhani would be willing to sit down with Trump and negotiate a broader agreement, which Trump has sometimes said was his goal. “All of a sudden, he said that ‘I don’t like this and let’s sit down and talk about another rounds of negotiations,’” Ravanchi said. “What is the guarantee that he will not renege again on the future talks between Iran and the United States?” What’s clearest, after this week of saber rattling, is that Iran was mistaken if it hoped that a show of force would lead the United States to retreat. McKenzie put it bluntly in his speech last Wednesday: “Any attack on U.S. interests will be met with unrelenting force.” That doesn’t sound like a bluff. (c) 2019, Washington Post Writers Group

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There’s Trouble Brewing in Joe Biden’s Presidential Campaign By Marc A. Thiessen

Joe Biden at the Anita Hill hearing

oe Biden’s presidential campaign is in trouble. That may sound crazy. The former vice president just opened up (according to one poll) a 32-point lead over the rest of the Democratic field. But beneath the surface, trouble is brewing. Biden will be 78 on Inauguration Day 2021. That would make him older, if elected, on the day he takes office than President Ronald Reagan was on the day he left office. With old age comes old baggage – in Biden’s case, his handling of Anita Hill’s testimony during Supreme Court Justice Clarence Thomas’s confirmation hearings. Polls show that 30% of Democrats don’t approve of Biden’s handling of Hill’s testimony; 44% said they didn’t know or had no opinion. That’s not surprising. The Thomas hearings took place in 1991, when the Soviet Union still existed, the last apartheid president of South Africa was still in office, and something called the World Wide Web was made available to the public. Tens of millions of American voters have been born since 1991 and have no living memories of these events. But Biden’s Democratic rivals are going to make sure they do know

about Anita Hill. The more Biden’s primary lead expands, the more desperate his Democratic opponents will be to bring him down. And Hill is their most powerful weapon. Biden knows this, which is why he recently tried to reach out to Hill and smooth things over. It didn’t work. Hill told The New York Times that “she was not convinced that he has taken full responsibility for his conduct at the hearings – or for the harm he caused other victims of … harassment and gender violence.” She said “she was troubled by the recent accounts of women who say Mr. Biden touched them in ways that made them feel uncomfortable.” And she said that Biden’s handling of her testimony “set the stage” for the confirmation of Justice Brett Kavanaugh to the Supreme Court. Those words could prove devastating with Democratic primary voters. The Thomas hearings may be ancient history, but Kavanaugh’s confirmation is an open wound for Democrats. Biden said in a speech in March that “to this day, I regret I couldn’t come up with a way to get her the kind of hearing she deserved.” Democrats

won’t buy that. He was chairman of the committee before which she testified. Perhaps he didn’t do more to support Hill because most Americans did not believe her. After three days of hearings, a New York Times poll showed that 58% believed Thomas, while just 24% believed Hill. Even 46% of Democrats believed Thomas over Hill. Far from hurting Thomas, Hill’s testimony moved public opinion in his direction. The number of people who supported Thomas’s confirmation rose from 38% before Hill testified to 45% after, with just 20% opposed to his confirmation. Even Biden didn’t believe some of Hill’s testimony. At one point, Sen. Arlen Specter, R-Pa., asked whether Hill was told by Senate Democrats that her charges would be kept secret and used to force Thomas to withdraw. She denied it. Specter recalled in his memoir that Biden said, “It was clear to me from the way she was answering the questions, she was lying.” Biden bowed to the public mood of the times. But in 2019, the public mood of the Democratic electorate has changed. He is running for president in the #MeToo era, against female Democratic rivals such as Sens.

Kirsten Gillibrand, N.Y., Amy Klobuchar, Minn., Kamala Harris, Calif., and Elizabeth Warren, Mass. Think they are going to give Biden a pass on his handling of Hill’s testimony? Biden is the living embodiment of the era they are running against – a guy who is all too “handsy” with women in professional situations (as captured on video and parodied by latenight TV) and who did not stand up for a woman when she came forward. The mantra on the left today is that even completely uncorroborated allegations of certain misconduct must be believed and should be enough to destroy a man’s career. Democrats tried to use such uncorroborated accusations to stop Kavanaugh’s confirmation and failed. That failure is a source of continuing frustration for the Democratic base. Biden’s rivals are going to harness those frustrations by pinning their party’s failure to defeat Kavanaugh on Biden through the prism of the Thomas hearings. Biden may be the Democratic frontrunner. But that does not mean he will be the Democratic nominee. (c) 2019, Washington Post Writers Group

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Forgotten Her es

Crafty Operations to Steal Aircraft By Avi Heiligman

An amazing feat with Operation Mount Hope III

apturing an enemy weapon or machine is a big prize for any army while in battle. Aside from capturing a floating ship, intelligence units want to examine the enemy’s best aircraft. In the heat of battle there have been a few lucky breaks.

Capturing a plane or helicopter under any circumstances is a great accomplishment. Here are a few more stories of captured aircraft (we have discussed a few in the past) including the stealing of a helicopter at the end of the Cold War.

Being shot down by an enemy plane or anti-aircraft doesn’t necessarily spell total doom for the pilot. If he or she is shot down over friendly territory, they could eject, open their parachute and be returned to their base within a short period of time. For a Soviet World War II pilot named Kuzniecov this wasn’t the case. He was on a reconnaissance mission in his Iluyshin Il-2 when he was attacked by two German Messerschmitt fighters. After crash-landing in German-held territory, one of the German pilots landed to see if he could collect any souvenirs from the downed Russian. Much to the German’s cha-

servicemen and service women. Famed American pilot Bob Hoover had an experience during World War II that was later made into a movie. He was flying a Spitfire with the 52nd Fighter Group based out of Sicily when his plane malfunctioned over Southern France in February 1944. Four German FW-190 fighters appeared and shot down Hoover’s plane as he tried to take them head-on. During that dogfight he managed to kill one of the German pilots before parachuting into the Mediterranean. A German ship picked him up and sent him to a POW camp in Germany. After several failed

The scene was quite incredible as one helicopter was carrying another helicopter.

grin, Kuzniecov wasn’t hurt in the landing and was lying in wait nearby. As soon as the German landed, the Russian pilot ran towards the German Me-109 and got into the cockpit. He took off and headed back to Russian territory. However, his troubles didn’t end there as other Russian pilots had no idea that one of their comrades had stolen a Messerschmitt. Kuzniecov survived the encounter and was awarded the title Hero of the Soviet Union, the highest honor the USSR awarded to

attempts to escape, Hoover finally saw his luck change during the last month of the European war. Several inmates held a staged fight which distracted the guards. Hoover managed to climb over the fence and soon reached an abandoned Luftwaffe airfield. There he climbed into a FW-190 and flew to Holland. He crash-landed in a field because he was afraid of being shot down by Allied fighters. Later, after the war, Hoover became a test pilot, flew in over 300 varieties of planes, and has been

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described as one of the best pilots in the history of aviation. In another incident that could have come from a major Hollywood movie but is completely true, U.S. Special Forces captured a Russian helicopter in spectacular fashion. The Mil Mi-24 and its export model, the Mil Mi-25 Hind, is a large helicopter gunship that can also be used as a troop carrier. First introduced in the early 1970s, the attack helicopter is still in use today and has the nickname the “Flying Tank.” The CIA was keen on getting one of these Russian helicopters when word came that the Libyan Air Force had left one in northern Chad. It was parked at the Ouadi Doum airfield, and in 1987, the U.S. made secret plans to capture the valuable prize. The training and planning took a year and all the while the abandoned Hind was never moved, even though Libyan forces were highly active in the area. The team that was tasked with the mission, called Operation Mount Hope III, was the 160th Special Operations

bottom of the helicopter! The scene was quite incredible as one helicopter was carrying another helicopter. They even made it to safety just before an oncoming sandstorm. Within 36 hours, the Galaxy arrived back in the U.S. – this time carrying the captured Russian helicopter. The mission was a complete success. These are just three of several incredible stories about capturing or stealing enemy aircraft. In the 1960s, the Israeli Mossad pulled off an audacious operation to capture a top-of-theline Russian MiG-21 – which is a story for another time. Capturing enemy airplanes and helicopters saved the lives of many airmen by either taking them to safety or with the intelligence gained from their capture.

Legendary pilot Bob Hoover

Aviation Regiment (SOAR), otherwise known as the Night Stalkers. Two MH47 Chinook crews flew 490 miles after being offloaded from a C-5 Galaxy at the Chadian airport in the capital.

The first Chinook arrived on scene and secured both the location and the prepped the Hind for extraction. The second Chinook then came, and the Hind was simply sling-loaded to the

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n the criminal justice system, taxbased offenses aren’t considered especially heinous…but they still cost the government a ton of money. In field offices throughout the country, the dedicated Special Agents who investigate these expensive felonies are members of an elite squad known as IRS Criminal Investigation. (They’re also the only IRS agents who get to pack heat, rock a Kevlar vest, and go undercover.) From the FY 2018 CI Annual Report, these are their stories. (Dun Dun.) • Shawanda Nevers – aka Shawanda Hawkins, Shawanda Bryant, and Shawanda Johnson – operated several businesses in New Orleans, including a sports bar and a tax-prep shop. She must have thought her taxes should be as spicy as her cooking. So she whipped up returns giving her clients fake business losses, deductions, and credits. In 2014, the IRS permanently barred her from preparing taxes. But she kept les bon temps rouler until CI agents busted her again, fined her $7 million, and sentenced her to seven years of bland prison chow. • Kelly Sue Reynolds worked as a bookkeeper in North Carolina. Over five years, she embezzled $439,459.97 from her employer, in-

cluding the money that was supposed to pay their taxes. (That’s the mark of a top-notch bookkeeper, right? They can tell you down to the penny how much they stole.) When the IRS came looking for their money, CI agents busted Reynolds’ scheme. Now she’s counting down two years in the “camp” where Martha Stewart served. It’s been called “America’s cushiest prison”…but Reynolds still

Then he hid his money to dodge the back taxes and sent $900,000 from selling a second club to an account in the Cook Islands. But CI agents demanded the truth and helped send Rizzollo to 24 months in a place where the “bouncers” don’t wear tuxedos. • Lizzie Mulder (not a CPA) posed as a CPA in California, where she had clients make out checks payable to

She used their money for a pricey house, cosmetic surgery, vacations, and an Arabian horse.

gets to learn if orange really is the new black. • Rick Rizzollo ran a club in Las Vegas, where he paid employees in cash and filed bogus employment tax returns. (He’s a real gentleman himself – he used a baseball bat to “persuade” customers into signing fraudulent credit card charges.) In 2006, he copped to the employment tax fraud.

“Income Tax Payments.” Perfectly kosher, right? What clients didn’t know was that she had set up a phony account called (wait for it) “Income Tax Payments,” under her own name. She used their money for a pricey house, cosmetic surgery, vacations, and an Arabian horse. Lizzie’s husband ratted her out to clients, then CI agents joined to “stable” her in a

Phoenix prison for five years. • Monsignor (!) Hien Minh Nguyen was a priest for the San Jose archdiocese and director of the local Vietnamese Catholic Center. Apparently he missed class the day they discussed that whole “poverty” thing in priest school. Nguyen stole cash donations from parishioners and deposited their checks in his personal account, among other sins. CI agents visited him, hoping for a confession, and used his lies and inconsistent answers to build a case that led to $1.9 million in restitution and three years in prison. (He can probably count on a few years in purgatory, too.) It’s sometimes fun to see what happens to people when their good judgment and common sense take early retirement. Of course, we all want to pay less tax! But you don’t have to risk a visit from a pistol-packing Special Agent to do it. Make sure you have a plan and see how much you can save without posing for mug shots.

Allan J Rolnick is a CPA who has been in practice for over 30 years in Queens, NY. He welcomes your comments and can be reached at 718-896-8715 or at allanjrcpa@aol.com.

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t’s a steam bath in here! Can’t we turn up the A/C?” “Really, I’m kind of comfortable now. I think I’ll be cold if you turn on more air.” “Yes, but you can add more layers of clothing and I can’t take off my skin.” Does this dialogue sound familiar to you or at least the sentiment be-

hind it? I feel like I’ve heard it played out in so many different arenas in so many different words. When people date, they often ask a million questions – especially, today, with shidduch resumes, dating question games, and general agita about missing something. Couples are trying to establish that they are on the same page, however, they com-

pletely forget to be at the same thermostat level. And what use is it if you get along amazingly, well, if you can’t stand to be in the same room? I’m not saying this should be a deal breaker. But it could help save a lot of time if the dating resume added one more line about general body temperature and degree preferences. She wears sweaters in the summer; he wears shorts when it’s snowing outside. Something like that. You get my drift (no pun intended!). It could cut back on the calls and exploration into the boy or girl if we already realized from the resume that there would be a significant climate divergence right at the start. Hey, nobody said this

brings it for the other, then the relationship is even better. Another magical helper could be pregnancy. No, not because it literally grows a couple further apart so they may wind up in different areas! Rather, in this state, all temperatures are turned on their head. It flips everything around. The cold person may be hotter and the hotter one may become the colder. So why build or a break a union on a state that will certainly change? Putting your preferences on resumes is just to make sure there’s smooth sailing up ahead – along with understanding of the other. Sure the “I’m hot,” “but I’m cold” conversation may go on. But, thank-

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fully there are remedies around – sweatshirts and ceiling fans may just be the perfect wedding gifts. Remember, keep your love warm. And never give each other the cold shoulder. And you’ll figure out how to keep things simmering with devotion at the right temperature. Rivki Rosenwald is a certified relationship counselor, and career and life coach. She can be contacted at 917-705-2004 or rivki@ rosenwalds.com.

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