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few weeks ago, as I was driving along Central Avenue, I had the following thought: when I was growing up, I looked forward to Chanukah for weeks and couldn’t wait for those eight days and nights. Now that I’m an adult, I look forward to Chanukah because it is a special time. But I also see it as a time of boundless excitement and happiness for my children – which also makes it something even more special to me. I thought to myself: did my parents feel the same way? When I was six-years-old, I was immersed in the spirit of joy of Chanukah and I thought that the whole house was transformed once the candles were lit and the Chanukah parties started. Were my parents not as enveloped in that energy as my six-year-old mind envisioned? I am sure every household is the same: we all get caught up in the excitement – each in their own way. There is a certain pride in driving down the street at night and seeing the windows of dozens of homes emblazoned with the glowing lights of the menorah. I love driving down streets that are not primarily Jewish and seeing the flickering glow in the lone Jewish home on that road. We may be few, but our small candles can shine brighter than all the neon lights that garishly light up the streets during this time. Chanukah also invokes another similar type of emotion within me. It’s a feeling of warmth that is formed when families and

friends get together over Chanukah. We’re not obligated to spend time together on Chanukah – there’s no mitzvah to share a sukkah or tell the story of yetzias Mitzrayim or even give mishloach manos – but we come together because we know that our simcha means including our family and friends. Our happiness is so much more because our night is shared with them. My children started their Chanukah preparations weeks ago. Last week, we baked Chanukah cookies that mysteriously disappeared a few days later. And they have been coloring Chanukah signs for days. Both sides of the front door are almost completely filled – and we still have a few more days to go. No worries, they’ll start on the walls soon enough. Speaking about Chanukah pictures, make sure to take part in our Chanukah Giveaway. We want to see how our TJH readers celebrate Chanukah. Send us your photos – with you, your family or your friends – and we’ll send you a cool Chanukah treat: $10 at Berrylicious! Make sure to take those photos fast – only 30 people will get to enjoy the ice cream. See the Centerfold for more details. As Chanukah quickly approaches, I look forward to spending it with my family and friends. And, of course, a few jelly doughnuts will be the icing on the cake! Wishing you a lichtige Chanukah, Shoshana

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Contents LETTERS TO THE EDITOR

COMMUNITY Readers’ Poll Community Happenings

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NEWS

ISRAEL

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Global

National

Odd-but-True Stories

Israel News

My Israel Home: A People that Dwells Alone by Gedaliah Borvick

PEOPLE Colonel Mordechai Frizis: The Highest Ranking Jewish Officer in the Greek Army by Avi Heiligman 128 PARSHA Rabbi Wein

The Shmuz

JEWISH THOUGHT

Cheerleaders by Eytan Kobre

Topsy-Turvy Too by Rabbi Jonathan 86 Gewirtz

CHANUKAH Kislev: United Colors of the Rainbow by Rebbetzin Tziporah Heller

All or Nothing by Rabbi YY Rubinstein

Halacha: Olives, Olive Oil, and Chanukah Bobker on Chanukah by Joe Bobker Light Unto Your Menorah by Brendy J. Siev

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JEWISH HISTORY The Infamous Case of the “Get of Cleves,” Part III by Rabbi Pini Dunner 94 HEALTH & FITNESS Why Bad Things Happen to Good People…Maybe by Deb Hirschhorn, PhD

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Nutrition Myths Busted by Aliza Beer, MS RD

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FOOD & LEISURE Fried De-Lights by Jamie Geller

Dear Editor, We need to tell our elected officials and have massive rally in Washington – the time for action is now! The situation in Israel appears intolerable and we need to do something. Of course we must say Tehillim, learn more Torah and pray continually for our fellow Jews in Israel. On top of that we must powerfully pressure our elected officials. It is an outrage that U.S. tax dollars are going to the Palestinian Authority which has for many years been encouraging terrorist attacks against Israel. The entire premise of allowing the PLO back into the West Bank, or as we know it, Judea and Samariah, was that supposedly this terrorist group has suddenly turned peaceful and is willing to live alongside the Jewish state of Israel. Sure enough, in the first years of this sham of a peace process, there were many suicide Palestinian terror attacks on buses, restaurants and all over Israel. After Palestinian elections Hamas was overwhelmingly voted into power. They seized control in Gaza but President Abbas has control in Judea and Samariah. Through Palestinian TV and radio and other media there are constant praises of those who murder Israeli men, women and children for many years including naming streets after them and calling terrorists spilled blood that of holy martyrs.

At the UN, the Palestinian Authority calls for resolutions declaring all Jewish holy sites in the Holy Land to be Muslim while some Jewish holy sites are torched and vandalized by them as well. There are continual calls for the freeing of all Palestinian prisoners including the many murderers of civilians. And for many days now Palestinians of all genders and ages, living and breathing constant indoctrination to murder Jews, are stabbing and running over Jews of all ages, and the Palestinian Authority is at best low key and at worst praising these actions. They have repeatedly rejected every peace offer for a Palestinian state by Israel because they want all the land to themselves and all Jews out. The Palestinian Authority even pays stipends to terrorists’ families and jailed terrorists from U.S. tax payer money! We need mass rallies, as when 100,000 rallied in Washington, D.C., during President Bush’s term, and pressure our elected officials to publicly rebuke the Palestinian Terrorist Authority and threaten to greatly cut funding unless they start acting like they really are peace partners. In the meantime it is very clear that no Jewish holy sites can be trusted under Palestinian control and no Jews can be safe in close proximity to Palestinian controlled areas. This Continued on page 12

Let’s Have a Chanukah Party! by Blimy Wassertheil

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The Aussie Gourmet: Potato Kugel Latke

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TJH Speaks with Leah Schapira and Victoria Dwek, Authors of Everyday 98 Secret Restaurant Recipes LIFESTYLES Dating Dialogue, Moderated by Jennifer Mann, LMSW

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Be a Learner so You Can be an Earner by Rabbi Mordechai Kruger

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Your Money

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Are You a Pretzel? by Rivki Rosenwald, Esq., CLC

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HUMOR Centerfold

Rocky’s Rant: My Laundromat Hates Me!

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Uncle Moishy Fun Page

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POLITICAL CROSSFIRE Notable Quotes

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The Syrian Immigration Cul-De-Sac by Charles Krauthammer

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In Iowa, Down the Stretch They Come by Michael Gerson

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means absolutely no divided Jerusalem, for one. If they show they are jihadist savages then that’s what has to be done. I hope the world is united, for the world’s sake, in no longer tolerating jihadist terrorist behavior in France, America, England, Spain, Nigeria, Afghanistan, Iraq, Syria, Libya and, of course, Israel. Speeches are not enough. We need to contact our organizations and representatives now. We must send a powerful message to Obama and Kerry that we will not be silent! And with our strong solidarity and prayers we shall prevail as we have for century after century and all our enemies shall perish as they always have. Utsu aitsa v’sufar dabru davar v’lo yakum ki imanu Kail – Let them seek coun-

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sel but it will be foiled! Let them say things but they shall not be! For G-d is with Us! Ben Small Brooklyn, NY Dear Editor, As most readers, I’m sure already know that an elderly man was killed on the 878 last Friday night while returning from shul. This is the third fatality that I know of on the 878, especially near the intersections of Central and Broadway, it is a dangerous road. Street lights oftentimes are out, the traffic lights are not synchronized well and cars drive too fast, among other problems. I urge everyone reading this letter to contact your local politicians and pressure them to do something about this problem. Be prepared, though. Your local politician will give you the whole speech about how it’s a state road yada, yada, yada...and he would do something about it if he could but it is out of his jurisdiction. Just know that that speech is an insult to your intelligence and it means that the politician you are talking to thinks you are a fool. Why? Because whenever they are running for elections they so proudly say, “Even on issues which I

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don’t have jurisdiction, I know who to call...You see, I am an advocate for this community.” But now when you ask them for help, they will tell you, “Oh, so sorry, it’s a state road, call the governor.” (Sure, you have his cell number?) Your response should be, “No, YOU take care of it. If it’s a state road, YOU call down the people from the state to take care of this problem.” Don’t let the politicians – whether it’s a mayor, an assemblyman, a councilman, or legislator – get away with taking you for a fool. If they don’t promise to do something about it, tell them that you will tell everyone you know not to vote for them the next time they come around boasting how they are “an advocate for the community.” The 878 can be fixed and it must be fixed now. Lives are too precious to be lost because local politicians are too lazy to do anything about it. Sincerely, D. R. Dear Editor, This in response to Matt Stern who suggested that colleges teach their students the rules of etiquette. Sadly, Mr. Stern, your suggestion is definitely not going to come to fruition – and I will tell you why. Etiquette is no longer something that is valued in today’s society. It has been replaced by those in the “me” generation who believe everything revolves around them and their ideals. Students sit in class glued to their phones and chatting online. No longer are people holding the door for others; instead, they are chatting incessantly or checking their Facebook status as they walk along or pay for their items at the cashier. Etiquette, Mr. Stern, is an uphill battle. The only way to conquer the lack of social mores is to be brought up in a home where proper behavior is modelled and valued. Call it etiquette, call it courtesy, call it middos. Whatever you call it, don’t think you’ll be getting it on the street. A home with strong values is the only thing that can instill strong values into today’s generation. Sincerely, Karen Strong Dear Editor, In response to the recent tragedy of the murder of Ezra Schwartz Hy”d, HANC High School students instantaneously began to think of initiatives to honor and remember Ezra. On Monday morning, our principal, Rabbi Adelman, announced that HANC

would be sending a van full of students on Tuesday to pay a shiva call to the Schwartz family. However, as interest in this mitzvah exceeded the seats in the van, it was arranged that an additional car of students be sent. Throughout the entire four hour drive there, our hearts were focused on the family and the Sharon community. When we finally arrived at the Schwartz residence, we were amazed by the amount of people there from all over the world. Seeing the Jewish community join together to mourn over the loss of Ezra was truly inspiring. As we walked up to their house, we noticed about thirty people standing in front of their door, many had teary eyes, others were standing quietly and respectfully. These thirty people comprised the long line of people waiting to enter the crowded house. Though not everyone was dressed for the autumn chill of Sharon, no one uttered a word of discomfort because in those moments our sole purpose was to be there for Ezra. After waiting outside for about fifteen minutes, we were given permission to enter the house. Walking through the door, we were instantly captivated by the pictures of Ezra and his family displayed throughout the entire house. We then met Ruth Schwartz, Ezra’s mother, and presented her with the letters of support that HANC students wrote to the Schwartz family. Both of Ezra’s parents were very grateful for these letters. As we went around and introduced ourselves to Ari Schwartz, Ezra’s father, he asked us if we are planning on spending a year in Israel. When many of us answered yes, Mr. Schwartz told us not to be afraid and to have a great year, just as Ezra had been doing. It was so incredible to hear these words of chizuk from a father who lost a son to terrorism. Saying the pasuk of HaMakom Yenachem filled our hearts with pain and our eyes with tears. However, the concentration of his parents on each individual reciting the pasuk instilled within us the sense that our presence was sincerely appreciated by the family. To honor Ezra, HANC has decided to complete Tanach, a goal that Ezra set for himself to accomplish over the course of his year in Israel. If you would like to participate in this initiative for the zechut of an aliyah neshama for Ezra Schwartz you can sign up online. Talia Kirshblum and Elana Lefkowit

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Kim Jong-Un: A Little Too Much Off the Top For anyone who thought that the rumors of how strange North Korean dictator Kim Jong-Un is were exaggerated, his newest orders will put those thoughts to rest. In March 2014, the young dictator ordered all of his citizens to have his “Dear Leader” haircut. Now his hairdo has taken on a whole new level of strange and he is still insisting that all males copy his look – or face serious consequences.

Photographs show that Kim has had his eyebrows plucked down to fine little lines and has grown out his hair that sits on a shaved sides and back. Authorities have issued new grooming orders to all citizens, mandating that men keep their ‘do under two centimeters (0.78 inches), and that women keep their hair “bobbed.” But it isn’t just short that the authorities are going for. They want a copy of the dictator’s haircut exactly. Kim’s newly evolved haircut is being called the “ambitious” style in North Korea, according to national papers. And for those who resist the new guidelines? “University student monitors are walking around with scissors and cutting off the hair of offenders,” revealed a source. Barber shops in Pyongyang are being stampeded by crowds of people rushing to get their dictator’s haircut, and many are now becoming barbers because the profession is viewed as “lucrative.” While this all sounds a little silly, it should be noted that a UN report in February 2014 revealed

“Nazi-like” abuses of human rights in North Korea, and in 2013 Kim reportedly gave his top officials copies of Adolf Hitler’s Mein Kampf.

Does Saudi Arabia Consider ISIS Friend or Foe?

Saudi Arabia seems to be entangled in the rapid rise of the Islamic State. Critics claim that the Gulf kingdom, one of the West’s most important allies in the region, is not really using its full power in the fight against the Islamic State. Some even suggest that Saudi Arabia is run by a similar ultraconservative brand of Islam dubbed Wahhabism, a sect that is strikingly similar to ISIS. Several episodes that occurred in Saudi Arabia recently that were labelled human rights scandals (including cases of public floggings, beheadings and “crucifixions”) have further added fuel to that criticism. In the aftermath of the Islamic State’s attacks in Paris, Algerian writer Kamel Daoud verbalized what many were suspecting with a powerful article for the New York Times. “Daesh [ISIS] has a mother: the invasion of Iraq,” Daoud explained, using an Arabic acronym for the Islamic State. “But it also has a father: Saudi Arabia and its religious-industrial complex.” Of course, Saudi officials have vehemently denied the insinuations and have attempted to deflect and counter the argument. On paper, the Islamic State and Saudi Arabia are clearly opposed to each other, with the extremist organization believing that the Saudi state is run by apostates. Militants from the Islamic State have carried out at least four bombings on Saudi mosques in the past year. Very recently, the Saudi state began to join in more directly with the fight against the Islamic State,

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Yemen against Iran-backed forces may well be diverting its attention. Additionally, in Europe and the United States there has been a wave of criticism against Saudi Arabia and other Gulf states for their apparent refusal to take in significant numbers of refugees. Last December, Amnesty International accused these states of offering “zero resettlement places to Syrian refugees.” However, Saudi Arabia claimed several months later that it opened its doors to a whopping 2.5 million or so Syrian refugees. It has also made significant donations to the U.N. refugee agency, it said, totaling at least $90 million in 2015. Although some have said that the Saudi kingdom has been funding ISIS, many doubt that claim. Lori Plotkin Boghardt of the Washington Institute concluded last year that there was “no credible evidence that the Saudi government is financially supporting ISIS.” However Boghardt did note that there appeared to have been significant numbers of donations to the group from private Saudi citizens, despite the Saudi state’s attempts to block these fundraising efforts. “Arab Gulf donors as a whole — of which Saudis are believed to be the most charitable — have funneled hundreds of millions of dollars to Syria in recent years, including to ISIS and other groups,” Boghardt noted. Perhaps the most alarming Saudi-ISIS connection is the number of Saudi citizens who have traveled to Syria to join the Islamic State. Supposedly, at least 2,500 Saudis have traveled to Syria to fight for the Islamic State, making the country one of the main sources of foreign recruits for the terror organization.

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most capable in the region, have been involved in the military fight against the Islamic State since last year, joining the U.S.-led coalition against the group in September and before that working with the United States to train rebels. But now, some analysts believe that the initial military involvement is fading. “Beyond the release of a photo purportedly showing F-15 pilots

who flew the initial strike missions in Syria, the Saudis have said nothing about their role in the U.S.-led coalition,” Jeremy Binnie, Middle East editor at IHS Jane’s Defense Weekly, pointed out. Disagreements between the Gulf states over the plan of action may well have been a factor in this withdrawal. However, it’s also likely that the Saudi-led proxy war in

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missing boats, but its leader, Kim Jong Un, has put a high priority on fishing as a way of earning foreign currency and providing a sustainable food source that is not reliant on harvests and weather. The Japanese coast guard and police reported 12 incidents of wrecked wooden boats, including

some that were in pieces, on the country’s shores and waters since October, containing 22 dead bodies, including five skulls. Japanese authorities declined to comment on the origins of the boats or the possible identities of the dead, but a handwritten sign identified one boat as belonging

to unit 325 of the North Korean army, according to footage from Japan’s NHK Television. Tattered cloth was found aboard the vessel that appeared to come from the North Korean flag, the video showed. Defectors and experts say fishing boats under the command of the Korean People’s Army may have succumbed under pressure from Kim to catch more fish, drifting off course and ill-equipped for rough seas. TV images of some of the boats showed relatively large but otherwise primitive-looking motorized craft and the coast guard said they did not have GPS navigation systems. Those aboard could have died of starvation and exposure to the cold after getting lost. Although Japan’s Meteorological Agency said there was not unusually bad weather in the Sea of Japan this November, the waters are rougher at this time of year due to the onset of cold, northwesterly winds. October through February is also prime season for squid, sandfish and king crab off the east coast of the Korean peninsula, and it is not unusual that there would be high numbers of boats at sea, said Kim Do-hoon, a professor of fisheries science at Bukyong National University in Busan. “Kim Jong Un has been promoting the fisheries, which could explain why there are more fishing boats going out,” he said. “But North Korean boats perform really poorly, with bad engines, risking lives to go far to catch more. Sometimes they drift and fishermen starve to death,” he said. Over the years, North Korean boats seeking the rich fishing grounds of the Sea of Japan have washed ashore in Japan as well as on the deserted beaches of the Russian Far East. North Koreans looking to defect, on the other hand, typically flee by land into China, or, less often, via coastal waters to neighboring South Korea. Fishing is a vital industry in a country where millions cannot find enough to eat. North Korea’s 1.2 million-strong army is heavily engaged in food production, including fishing. “Some of the boats belong to Korean People’s Army fishery stations, possibly operating to catch

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Russia Plans Turkish Revenge

The list of retaliations Russia is planning against Turkey for downing one of its warplanes is growing. “The government has been ordered to work out a system of response measures to this act of aggression in the economic and humanitarian spheres,” Prime Minister Dmitry Medvedev told a cabinet meeting. He said under Russian law the broad punitive steps could include halting joint economic projects, restricting financial and trade transactions, and changing customs duties. Measures could also target the tourism and transport sectors, labor markets and “humanitarian contacts,” Medvedev said. The Russian leader proposed “introducing limits or bans on the economic activities of Turkish economic structures working in Russia, a limitation of the supply of products, including food products, and on the work and provision of services by Turkish companies and other restrictive measures,” Medvedev said. Economy minister Alexei Ulyukayev did not rule out that the measures could hit two major projects with Turkey – the planned Turk Stream gas pipeline and the Akkuyu nuclear power plant – in a move that looked set to rattle cages in Ankara. Energy-poor Turkey relies on Russia for over half of its natural gas imports and the two sides had agreed to build the pipeline under the Black Sea. Moscow has also

started building Turkey’s first nuclear power station in the south of the country. Tensions have soared between Moscow and Ankara following the downing of the Russian jet on the Syrian border last week. Moscow has already warned its nationals against visiting Turkey and stepped up controls of Turkish agricultural imports. Those two moves represent a major blow to the Turkish economy; until now Turkey was a favorite for Russian tourists, and Russia’s large population makes it a lucrative market for agricultural exports. Some 4% of Russia’s total food imports come from Turkey. In terms of filling the void, Israeli tourism providers have already begun selling the Jewish state as an alternative attraction for Russians seeking a break in the sun and say deals are in the works. Israel’s tourism ministry has stepped up its game as well, investing $2.6 million in efforts to woo the Russian market.

This is not the first ruling against the comedian. Earlier this month the European Court of Human Rights ruled against Dieudonne in a separate case, deciding that freedom of speech did not protect “racist and anti-Semitic performances.” Dieudonne was protesting a fine he received from a French court in 2009 for inviting a Holocaust-denier on stage. He was fined 10,000 euros for what that court referred to as “racist insults.” In March, a French court also handed Dieudonne a two months suspended sentence and fined him heavily for anti-Semitic remarks after he caused an uproar by suggesting he sympathized with the attacks against satirical magazine Charlie Hebdo and a Jewish supermarket in Paris. French courts have hauled him up over a string of comments which opponents say are bluntly racist while supporters champion his right to free speech.

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French comedian Dieudonne has been sentenced by a Belgian court to two months in jail for incitement to hatred over alleged racist and anti-Semitic comments he made during a show in Belgium. Dieudonne M’Bala M’Bala, who has faced similar court cases in France, was also fined 9,000 euros, said Eric Lemmens, a lawyer for Belgium’s Jewish organizations. The judgment “says that all the accusations against Dieudonne were established — both incitement to hatred and hate speech but also Holocaust denial” relating to a show in Liege in 2012, Lemmens reported. “For me this is more than satisfying, this is a major victory,” he said.

Fifty-five people are to be executed for terrorism in Saudi Arabia. The sentencing appears to be a warning to would-be jihadists at a time of militant attacks on the kingdom. The terrorist crimes that they are convicted of committing have killed more than 100 civilians and 71 security personnel, according to Saudi news reports. Some of those facing execution were affiliated with al-Qaeda. Others are from Awamiya, a largely Shi’ite town in the oil-producing Eastern Province where the government has suppressed demonstrations for equal rights. Awamiya residents responded to the news by closing off roads leading into the city with burning debris. The charges against the Awamiya residents include sedition, attacks on security officials and interference in neighboring Bahrain, which

has also experienced unrest since 2011. The alleged al-Qaeda militants stand accused of attempts to overthrow the government and carrying out attacks using small weapons, explosives and surfaceto-air missiles. Saudi Arabia has already executed over 150 people this year – more than any in the past two decades, mostly by public beheading. The Saudi monarchy has in recent years sentenced to death dozens of people convicted of taking part in al-Qaeda attacks in Saudi Arabia from 2003-06 and again in 2009. Islamic State sympathizers have killed dozens in Saudi Arabia over the past 12 months with a string of mosque bombings and shootings aimed at members of the Shi’ite Muslim minority as well as security officers and Western expatriates. Saudi police have detained hundreds of the group’s suspected sympathizers and have joined an international coalition carrying out airstrikes against it in Syria. Saudi courts have also put to death this year seven Shi’ite men convicted of sedition, for taking part in pro-democracy protests and attacks on police during demonstrations over discrimination from 2011-13. Two of those men were minors at the time of the protests. Sentencing them to death and publicly displaying their bodies prompted an international outcry.

Iran “Closer than Ever” to a Nuclear Bomb

A senior Iranian official has been quoted as saying that Iran is “closer than ever” to a nuclear bomb and that completing it would be “easier than putting in a contact lens.” The claim by Hassan Karimpour, an adviser to Iran’s Quds Force commander Qassem

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A thick grey haze shrouded Beijing, with the concentration of PM 2.5, harmful microscopic particles that penetrate deep into the lungs, climbing as high as 598 micrograms per cubic meter. The reading, given by the U.S. embassy, dwarfs the maximum recommended by the World Health Organization, which is just 25 micrograms per cubic meter.

Authorities in Beijing ordered the closure of 2,100 highly polluting businesses, the state-run China Daily said. Citizens were urged to remain indoors. Over 30 flights were cancelled from Beijing and Shanghai, many to highly polluted Shaanxi province, a key coal producer. The environmental troubles came after Chinese President Xi Jinping took the stage at crucial international talks aiming to limit dangerous climate change. He vowed “action” on greenhouse emissions, repeating existing pledges and telling the summit that poor nations should not have to sacrifice economic growth. The smog problem is worse in the winter time when demand for heating rises. Most emissions come from burning coal. China is estimated to have released between nine and 10 billion tons of carbon dioxide in 2013, nearly twice as much as the United States and around two and a half times the European Union. Beijing pledged last year that carbon dioxide output would peak by “around 2030” – suggesting at least another decade of growing emissions. Social media users in China were skeptical about the possibilities of a clean-up, with many circulating a picture of a Beijing newspaper front page from 1999. It cited officials as proclaiming: “We absolutely will not let big pollution enter the new century.” Yet more than 15 years later the headlines still deal with heavy pollution.

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area. This time, the Navy divers are expected to search deeper levels of the reservoirs using advanced search measures. The pools in question are the water reservoirs near Katzrin, not far from the base Hever served in.

turns out that the foods most likely to make people’s blood sugar spike diverge widely. For instance, many people’s blood sugar rose sharply after consuming a sugary dessert, but others experienced a blood sugar surge after white bread but not after consuming food with glucose. One participant even saw a sharp rise after eating tomatoes, which she had been consuming under the mistaken impression that they were good for her. Segal decided to focus on blood sugar in the study “because it’s a very relevant parameter for weight management and fat storage, and of course diabetes, cardiovascular diseases, even cancer.” “When your blood sugar levels spike, your body secretes insulin that signals the cells to uptake the added sugar and convert it to fat in your cells.” Many of us have felt tired after a particularly rich meal, and perhaps noticed our waistline expanding the next day, but the truth is, says Segal, most people can’t tell when their blood sugar goes too high. “That’s why diabetes is known as the silent disease. Even when they become diabetic, some people won’t notice it necessari-

the efforts to find them are more focused on intelligence and diplomacy: IAF navigator Ron Arad, and three soldiers who went missing after the Battle of Sultan Yacoub in Lebanon on June 12, 1982: Zechariah Baumel, Tzvi Feldman, and Yehuda Katz.

Could Ice Cream Make you Lose Weight? Guy Hever’s family was informed of the renewed search effort. As part of the latest search efforts, divers from the IDF’s Underwater Missions Unit are searching through three water reservoirs: El-Sheikh, Had Nes and Katzrin. The IDF is also looking through aerial photographs, both current ones and from the late ‘90s, to ensure there are no other water reservoirs left from the time Hever disappeared. In addition to Hever, there are four other missing IDF soldiers, but

A new study out of the Weizmann Institute is trying to figure out why some dieters lose weight while others do not. According to Professor Eran Segal and Dr. Eran Elinav, individuals respond to different food in their own way, depending on their gut bacteria. The study followed 800 people for a week and continuously monitored their blood sugar levels. It

ly. When it’s really bad, symptoms start to emerge. But 40 percent of adults worldwide are pre-diabetic – which is a treatable condition – and many don’t even know it.” On a very basic level, the breakthrough of Segal and Elinav’s study is that “if a food has a low glycemic load for the population average, it might not be low for you personally. We had striking findings as to how individualized the responses are.” For instance, when Segal monitored his own blood sugar, he discovered that dark chocolate and ice cream did not cause much of a spike, but sushi sent his blood sugar through the roof. One participant’s blood sugar responded to bananas but not to cookies with the same number of calories, while another person’s blood sugar did the opposite. Segal and Elinav collected data on a total of 50,000 meals. In addition, they collected information about each participant’s age, lifestyle, and blood parameters and also took a swab of their gut bacteria. Using this information, they developed an algorithm that learned which gut bacteria and other factors correlate with which glu-

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A recent victim of a terror stabbing attack is thanking his tzitzis for saving his life. Yair Ben-Ezra, who was seriously wounded in Ra’anana last month, has sent a moving thank you letter to Rabbi Yechiel Eckstein. “My name is Yair Ben-Ezra,” he wrote to the president of the International Fellowship of Christians and Jews, which has raised thousands of dollars to help Israeli victims of terror. “On October 13, 2015, I was attacked and stabbed five times all over my body by a terrorist from eastern Jerusalem who came at me while I was waiting at the bus stop.” Ben-Ezra recounted how on the morning of the attack, he had debated about wearing the new pair of tzitzis he had purchased for his sister’s wedding, to be held the next day. “The morning of the attack, all of my tzitzis were hanging on the clothesline to dry, and I had only the new pair, folded in the closet, waiting for me. But then my yetzer harah came and said to me: ‘Nothing will happen – don’t wear them today, save them for tomorrow and the wedding.’” Ben-Ezra said his misgivings

Marcus Klingberg, known as “Moscow’s man in Tel Aviv,” passed away in Paris this week at age 97. Klingberg provided the Soviet Union with many Israeli secrets during his time as a spy, including scientific advances and weapons development. Klingberg had been living in France since being released from prison and house arrest in Israel in 2003. He passed away after suffering from several chronic diseases over the past decade. Klingberg was for years the deputy head of the top-secret Israeli Institute for Biological Research (IIBR) in Nes Ziona and afterwards was head of the Department of Epidemiology there until 1978. In 1969, Klingberg joined the Sackler Faculty of Medicine of Tel Aviv University and was Professor

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rael voted specifically to host the IRENA office in Abu Dhabi – instead of the initial locale chosen for the office, in Germany – in the hope of boosting Israel-UAE relations. Israel has invested a lot of energy over the past decade to draw closer to certain countries. While most of the cooperation between Israel and the Gulf states is in the fields of intelligence and security away from public view, the opening of the representative office in UAE is an exceptional public step of diplomatic rapport between the two countries.

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Alan Gross, the American Jewish contractor who served five years in a Cuban jail, says exercise, family and humor kept him going through his half-decade ordeal. “I had to do three things in order to survive – three things every day,” he said. “I thought about my family that survived the Holocaust. I exercised religiously every day and I found something every day to laugh at.” Gross was contracted by the U.S. Agency for International Development to deliver electronics to Jewish groups when he was arrested in Havana in December 2009. Initially accused of espionage, he was tried in 2011 and sentenced to 15 years for committing “acts against the independence and territorial integrity” of Cuba. Gross says for the first two weeks of his captivity he was sure that America would arrange for his release. He never dreamed that his suffering would be dragged out over five long years. The U.S. government has always insisted Gross was not an intelligence agent but a development worker trying to connect Cuban communities to the

Diplomatic relationships between Israel and the UAE have reportedly been growing quietly for the past couple of years. Thought mostly to have come about over shared reservations about a nuclear Iran, now Israel will be opening a formal diplomatic office in Abu Dhabi. An Israeli mission to the UN’s International Renewable Energy Agency (IRENA), which is based in the United Arab Emirates (UAE) capital, will open by the end of the month. The office will focus on working with the UN agency to find sources of renewable energy. Arab news outlets have reported that Is-

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outside world. A specialist in satellite communications, he had previously done such work in around 50 countries in Africa, Asia, Europe and the Middle East. Gross returned to the United States in December last year after he was released as part of a historic warming of ties between the former Cold War foes. Upon his release, Gross credited the advocacy by his wife of 44 years, Judy Gross, and his lawyer, Scott Gilbert, for getting him out of prison, and thanked his own Jewish community for their support. “It was crucial to my survival knowing that I was not forgotten,” he said.

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took a hardline stance during his meeting with Kerry in Jerusalem, saying Israel would not make any gestures to the Palestinians so long as the wave of violent terror attacks that began in September continued, a senior Israeli official said. The prime minister also reportedly called for the U.S. to recognize building in large settlement blocs and said there would not be a construction freeze. Netanyahu blamed the terror upsurge on “religious incitement” supported by the PA and spread on social media. Israel’s position infuriates the Palestinians, officials in Ramallah said, since they claimed the Israeli government is aware that responsibility for the wave of terror attacks does not lie with the PA, especially since they say the stabbing attacks are carried out by “lone wolf” Palestinian teenagers.

Bibi and Abbas Bump Into Each Other in Paris News outlets often report Israel’s disappointment with U.S. Secretary of State John Kerry. For a change, media reports are now indicating that Palestinian officials expressed deep disappointment with the results of John Kerry’s recent visit to the region. Palestinians are saying little was done to push forward efforts to resume peace negotiations for a two-state solution during Kerry’s meetings in Israel. According to officials, the Palestinians were expecting Kerry to bring news of a series of Israeli gestures that would ultimately pave the way for the resumption of diplomatic talks between the two sides. Kerry arrived back in the U.S. after holding meetings with Prime Minister Benjamin Netanyahu and Palestinian Authority President Mahmoud Abbas a day earlier; officials said there were no breakthroughs in his bid to calm raging tensions. Palestinian officials said that according to understandings between Abbas and Kerry, the secretary was expected to raise the possibility with Netanyahu of renewing peace negotiations on the basis of a two-state solution along the pre-1967 lines. But Netanyahu

An unplanned meeting took place between Prime Minister Benjamin Netanyahu and Palestinian Authority President Mahmoud Abbas this week at the Paris climate change conference. During the photoshoot of more than 150 world leaders who attended the summit, only the New Zealand prime minister stood between the two leaders. After the official pictures were taken, the two shook hands for the first time since 2010. “It’s important for the world to see that we’re ready to talk,” Netanyahu said later, stressing, however, that the handshake was merely an act of “protocol” since they happened to be standing close to each other. “On the other hand, we have no illusions about Abu Mazen [Abbas]. Incitement plays a central role in terrorism and Abu Mazen must stop his incitement.” The prime minister has accused Abbas of inciting against Israel and lying about ostensible Israeli plans to change

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peace in the Middle East was an issue of interest to the entire international community and also to all Europeans,” a spokesperson said. The Prime Minister’s Office, however, denied that Netanyahu and Mogherini spoke. World leaders opened an historic summit in the French capital saying “the hope of all of humanity” was resting on their shoulders as they sought a deal to avert what they call a climate catastrophe. The heads of more than 150 nations kicked off 12 days of talks in search of an elusive pact that would indirectly restructure the world economy, weaning it off fossil fuels that stoke global warming. It was the largest single-day gathering of heads of state or government in history, the United Nations said.

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ment in the Israeli-Palestinian peace process in response to the bloc’s decision to label goods imported from Jewish settlements. The EU diplomat told Netanyahu that Europe “would continue to work on the Middle East Peace Process, in the Quartet, with its Arab partners, and with both parties, as

The IDF and the Border Police have set up a system of support for personnel who have been through traumatic situations such as terror attacks. A mental health officer now joins the commander out in the field for every terror attack, contacts the soldiers, and visits the wounded at the hospital. As part of the lessons learned from Operation Protective Edge, all new recruits for combat positions, starting in August, have been trained to provide initial treatment on the scene to any mental and emotional reactions of their comrades in arms. Over 70 terrorists have been shot dead by IDF and Border Police troops since the beginning of the current wave of violence. The IDF is aware of the fact that the mental strain soldiers are under at the scenes of the attacks might lead to issues that won’t necessarily manifest themselves in the immediate

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A huge wedding ceremony was held for Sarah Techiya Litman and Ariel Biegel late last week. Not only Israelis from all over the country, but also Jews from all over the world (including a group of 12 from a Canadian synagogue) re-

Remember when people would wait for hours on Thanksgiving for stores to open at the crack of dawn so they could grab amazing deals before items run out? Those days may become a memory, as trends have started to shift toward the computer. The National Retail Federation announced on Sunday that online shoppers actually eclipsed in-store shoppers over the Thanksgiving weekend this year. For years, Black Friday has been accompanied by deep discounts and video footage of shoppers literally fighting over

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merchandise. At one point, the post-Thanksgiving shopping frenzy gave way to Cyber Monday – effectively a migration of the Black Friday concept online – a day the NRF expected 121 million shoppers for this year. This year, 103 million Americans shopped online – slightly more than the 102 million who visited physical stores. “We recognize the Thanksgiving weekend shopping experience is much different than it used to be as just as many people want that unique, exclusive online deal as they do that in-store promotion,” NRF President Matthew Shay said. “It is clear that the age-old holiday tradition of heading out to stores with family and friends is now equally matched in the new tradition of looking online for holiday savings opportunities.” Shopping via the internet has become the new trend. Of the shoppers who visited a physical store over the weekend, 74.2 million of them did so on Black Friday – compared with 75.3 million online. About 35 million shopped in stores on Thanksgiving day, when 41 million went online.

Shay said more shoppers are taking advantage of discounted sales online that begin before Thanksgiving even arrives – a dynamic that has been forcing retailers to start holiday sales earlier, as well. “Shopping has changed and the consumer has changed and retailers have changed,” he said. “Retailers are heavily promoting starting the day after Halloween.” Couldn’t make it to a computer – or store – this week? Never mind. This year’s numbers indicate that even Cyber Monday may also be turning obsolete as an exclusive day for big holiday deals – because shoppers know Internet deals and discounts often stick around beyond the initial five-day holiday period between Thanksgiving day and Cyber Monday. Analyst Adobe, which aggregated web sales numbers from 4,500 retailers, said consumers spent a record $7.2 billion online on Thanksgiving day and Black Friday this year – a 14 percent jump over the same days last year. About a third of those purchases were made using a mobile device.

Is Being Rude Contagious?

Apparently it’s not just the flu that is contagious…. New research by Trevor Foulk, Andrew Woolum, and Amir Erez at the University of Florida suggests that rudeness is just as contagious as sick germs. In a series of studies, Foulk and colleagues demonstrate that being the target of rude behavior, or even simply witnessing rude behavior, induces rudeness. People who are exposed to rude behavior tend to have notions associated with rudeness activated in their minds and will see indefinite but benign behaviors as rude. More significantly, they themselves are more likely to behave rudely toward others, and to arouse aggression, negative affect, and even revenge from others. There is an infamous Bobo doll experiment that was conducted years ago. In the study, children who watched an adult strike a Bobo doll with a hammer or shout at it were themselves abusive toward the doll. Similarly, supervisors who believe they are mistreated by managers tend to pass on this mistreatment to their employees. In previous research on the negative contagion effect, the focus was on high-intensity behaviors like hitting or abusive behavior modeled by a person of higher status than the observer. These two factors elicited more extreme responses because they are rather striking and the observer is consciously and intentionally trying to imitate the behavior of someone with an elevated social status. But during this particular study Foulk and colleagues pondered about low-intensity negative behaviors, the kind you are likely to encounter in your everyday interactions with coworkers, clients, customers, and peers. Evidence for negative contagion among peers and customers might also suggest

that there is more than one mode of infection. We are far less likely to intentionally base our behavior on our customers than we are on our bosses, and thus any behavioral contagion observed in these settings is likely driven by unconscious, unintentional processes rather than by purposeful imitation. Perhaps we can “catch” behaviors without even trying. In one part of the study, Foulk’s team conducted another study in which participants were asked to play the part of an employee at a local bookstore. Participants first observed a video showing either a polite or a rude interaction among coworkers. They were then asked to respond to an email from a customer. The email was either neutral (e.g., “I am writing to check on an order I placed a few weeks ago.”), highly aggressive (e.g., “I guess you or one of your incompetent staff must have lost my order.”), or moderately rude (“I’m really surprised by this as EVERYBODY said you guys give really good customer service???”). The results revealed that prior exposure to rude behavior creates a specific sensitivity to rudeness. Conclusively, the data from Foulk and colleagues reveals the dangers of low-intensity negative behaviors, even those that are simply witnessed rather than personally experienced. With negative behaviors, the witness becomes the perpetrator, just as the person who touches a doorknob recently handled by a flu sufferer can themselves get sick and infect others. However, unfortunately, there is no Z-pack to take to alleviate rude behavior.

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Planned Parenthood, Scene of Violence Again Last Friday’s attacks in a Colorado Planned Parenthood left three victims dead, another nine wounded, and dozens traumatized. Although the motive has not been officially stated, based on the shooter’s actions one can infer that it was a protest against what the clinic stands for. This is not the first attack at a Planned Parenthood by people protesting their religious beliefs. The shooter, identified as Robert Lewis Dear, 57, was arrested after a six-hour standoff with police. “You can certainly infer what it may have been in terms of where it took place and the manner in which it took place,” Colorado Springs Mayor John Suthers told CNN. This is not the first attack on Planned Parenthood facilities. Back in 1997 in Atlanta, Georgia, and a year later in 1998 in Birmingham, Alabama, a man named Eric Rudolph placed bombs inside these

two Planned Parenthood locations. The first attack wounded six people and the second left one dead and one wounded. Due to recent revelations that have come out about Planned Parenthood practices, Republicans in Congress have attempted to cut off the federal funding that Planned Parenthood receives.

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Obama Hands out Medals of Freedom

On Tuesday, the Obama administration handed out the Presidential Medal of Freedom to 17 Americans. This is the nation’s highest civilian award, and honorees included well-known names in the entertainment industry, baseball legends, politicians, activists and government innovators. Famous filmmaker Steven Spielberg was included on the list.

Baseball legend Willie Mays was also awarded the medal. Mays was among the first African-American players in Major League Baseball. Another baseball star, Yogi Berra, was given the award posthumously. He died in September and was a great Yankees catcher, an 18-time All-Star, and 10-time World Series champion. Democratic Senator Barbara Mikulski of Maryland, who championed equal pay and women’s health during her 44 years of public service, also received the award. Former Rep. Lee Hamilton from Indiana, a longtime advocate of American national security and international relations, and the late Rep. Shirley Chisholm from New York were recipients as well. Chisholm was the first African-American woman elected to Congress and a founding member of what would become the Congressional Black Caucus. “Today we celebrate some extraordinary people: innovators, artists and leaders who contribute to America’s strength as a nation,” President Obama said.

College Student Jumps White House Fence

As the First Family sat around the dinner table in the White House enjoying their Thanksgiving meal, there was a commotion outside…Apparently Joseph Caputo thought he was invited to join in on the celebrations. Wearing white pants and draped in an American flag, Caputo jumped the fence of 1600 Pennsylvania Avenue and was promptly apprehended. He faces criminal charges after he scrambled over the north fence line of the grounds at 2:45 p.m., said Robert Hoback, a spokesman

for the Secret Service. The Secret Service is investigating how the 22-year-old college student overcame the new “pencil-point” spikes installed into the White House perimeter this year to deter intruders. Virginia resident Vanessa Peña was visiting the White House with her sister on Thursday afternoon when she witnessed the man prepare to trespass. She said he was behind them and took off his sweatshirt and wrapped an American flag around himself. Peña then heard him take a deep breath before saying, “Alright, let’s do this.” “Then he just ran through us, jumped over the first barricade and went over the fence,” said Peña, who captured photos of the incident. “Right when he landed, he threw his arms in the air and went to his knees.” The man was almost instantly swarmed by security men and dogs, according to witnesses who said the incident lasted no longer than five minutes. Police immediately pushed the crowd of tourists back through Lafayette Square to H Street. The square and Pennsylvania Avenue were cordoned off

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for much of the afternoon after the incident. Last year, Omar Jose Gonzalez jumped the fence and bolted past several layers of security before a Secret Service agent detained him inside the White House, prompting a review of the agency’s practices and the resignation of Director Julia Pierson

Attorney Stephan Seeger said his client is unlike previous fence jumpers and intended no harm and had no weapons on him. He held a binder between his teeth when he jumped, “a rewritten Constitution.” “He’s a young American that wanted to deliver a message of change,” Seeger said. “People have

been paying so much attention to the jumping of the fence because we live in this climate of fear.” Caputo’s version of the Constitution contained “an expression of desire for change in various areas of society including education, the judiciary, voting rights and privileges.” The suspect is studying criminal justice and martial arts

Just days ago Superintendent Garry McCarthy, Chicago’s top cop, insisted that Chicago Mayor Rahm Emanuel had his back. But on Tuesday, the police chief was summarily fired by the mayor, a week after the release of a dashcam video that showed a white Chicago officer fatally shooting a black teenager 16 times. Protesters have been calling for McCarthy’s dismissal in response to the handling of the death of Laquan McDonald, a 17-year-old who was killed in October 2014. The city released police video of the shooting only after a judge ordered it to be made public. The release set off several days of largely peaceful protests; Officer Jason Van Dyke has been charged with first-degree murder. The audio-free video shows McDonald walking down the middle of a four-lane street. He appears to veer away from two officers as they emerge from a vehicle, drawing their guns. Van Dyke opens fire from close range and continues firing after McDonald crumples to the ground. Police have said McDonald was carrying a knife, and an autopsy revealed that he had PCP, a hallucinogenic drug, in his system. Cook County State’s Attorney Anita Alvarez has said the 3-inch blade recovered from the scene had been folded into the handle. Defense attorney Dan Herbert says his client feared for his life, acted lawfully, and that the video does not tell the whole story. Prior to his arrival in Chicago, McCarthy was police director in Newark, New Jersey, after rising through the ranks of New York City’s police department. McCarthy had been chief since May 2011.

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Real estate getting you down? No way you can afford to buy a shack anywhere in New York? Hey, it’s not so bad. I’m sure you can afford to buy a whole town – the town of Swett, South Dakota. If the name may not be too appealing, consider the price. The town was originally listed for $399,000 16 months ago. Now, it’s currently listed at $250,000 – what a steal! According to the real estate agent, “Some of the types of individuals who have been interested in the past included people who wanted to be their own mayor, people who wanted to live off-grid, several production companies thinking about reality shows, hunters who wanted to create a hunting lodge, or somebody who wants to own a bar.” Hmmm, sounds exciting. The unincorporated hamlet includes a gas station, museum, bar and store. In the 1940’s there were around 40 residents of Swett, SD. At that time it had a post office and a grocery store.

The Rubik’s Wonder When you meet Lucas Etter, keep your eyes on his fingers as they fly. Yes, they really seem to fly as he solves Rubik’s Cubes.

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Lucas is only 14 years old and just 14 years ago, the world record for solving a Rubik’s Cube was 17.02 seconds. This year, Lucas shattered world records by solving a 3x3 Rubik’s Cube in just 4.904 seconds. That’s a full three-tenths of a second better than the previous mark of 5.25 seconds set earlier this year, and the first time a human has broken the five-second barrier. Before you cry foul, this was a formally sanctioned “speedcuber” event, and indeed Lucas followed proper competitive Rubik’s Cube protocol. That means he was able to look over the Cube before attempting to solve it, but the moment his blazing fast fingers started twirling blocks, the clock started. His feat has since been verified by the World Cube Association. Lucas may be the fastest human to solve a Rubik’s Cube, although robots are making strides. Last year, a Lego Mindstorms creation solved a cube in a mind-boggling 3.2 seconds.

The Goose on Dr. Seuss

Ever try to read a Dr. Seuss book when you’re tired? Your tongue gets tied and your brain gets fried trying to stumble through these nonsense words that can only be found in books by Dr. Seuss. Have you ever met a Zizzer Zazzer Zuz or a Once-ler or Bar-baloots or how about a Nook? (Yes, that’s from a Dr. Seuss book.) Chris Westbury, a professor of psychology at the University of Alberta, discovered a fairly Seuss-ian

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Community MAY Dor L’Dor Thanksgiving Day Breakfast

ast Thursday, Ateres Yaakov held their annual Thanksgiving Dor L’Dor Breakfast. Once again, fathers joined their sons at the Yeshiva for a morning of ruchniyus and gashmiyus. The morning began with a warm, yeshiva Shacharis followed by a lavish, catered breakfast. To begin the program, Rabbi Mordechai Yaffe, Menahel, addressed the over 400 fathers and sons in attendance. Nosson Geller, a talmid in the Yeshiva Gedolah, then spoke about the importance of mesorah in Yiddishkeit and how it is incumbent on each and every one of us to maintain and ensure the continuity of Klal Yisroel. Senior Yaakov Goldstein, representing the Mesivta

student body, delivered divrei Torah, discussing his own personal growth throughout his high school career and this year pushing himself to learn more than he ever thought he could. He highlighted the tests of Yaakov Avinu as ma’aseh avos siman l’banim, which gives us strength to overcome our own challenges in our lives. The event also featured the Mesivta’s annual Fall Essay Contest winners, with excerpts being read from the four 1st place essays. Awards and prize money were distributed by Rabbi Sam Rudansky, General Studies Principal, and Rabbi Yossi Bennett, Assistant Menahel/Assistant Principal. The winners included: Shmuel Berger, Moshe Dembitzer, Naftali Goldschein,

Yosef Burg, Yosef Halpern, Ushi Schreiber, Joseph Fink, Yoni Ben Zvi, Nathanel Flax, Eli Gross, Tzvi Berger and Akiva Katz. The highlight of the breakfast was a return visit from Rabbi Yaakov Horowitz, founder and director of Project YES and brother of the Mesivta’s Mashgiach Ruchani, Rabbi Yehuda Horowitz, who enlightened the audience with an incredible shiur on “Nurturing the Parent-Child Relationship during the Teenage Years.” Rabbi Horowitz kept the audience enthralled as he blended Torah thoughts, entertaining anecdotes, and his common sense advice, into a masterful presentation. The program concluded with the

HANC Sends Letters to Chayalim

hen second graders in Morah Rebecca’s class at HANC’s Samuel & Elizabeth Bass Golding Elementary School, in West Hempstead, found out that sixth grader Aderet Weiss was going to Israel for a family simcha, they jumped at the chance to show support for chayalim. The students wrote beautiful, heartfelt letters expressing their gratitude to the chayalim for keeping them safe and for protecting Eretz Yisrael. The students also drew the chayalim pictures in honor of Chanukah.

We wish all our chayalim a safe return home and a Chanukah sameach!

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SKA Artists and Advocates for Israel

wo weeks after the murder of her father and brother, Rabbi Yaa’kov and Netanel Litman a”h, Sarah Techiya Litman married Ariel Beigel in Binyanei Hauma in Jerusalem and invited the country to share in her simcha. A beautiful painting, made by students Tzippy Feldman, Yona Lavie, Joyce Mishaan and Melanie Sokolow of the Stella K. Abraham High School for Girls’ Artists for Israel Committee, and card, signed by almost the entire student body, were hand-delivered at the wedding last Thursday. Faculty member and Rebbitzen of Congregation Bais Ephraim Yitzchok, Paghit Ralbag, was able to dance with the kallah and share the good wishes of the SKA community. SKA students Emily Klein, Kayla Leifer and Eliana Wienerkur, along with Miri Lieber, who coordinates the Artists for Israel Committee, created a card signed by most of the school for the family of Ezra Schwartz a”h who was killed in a terrorist attack. Last Friday, Emily and Eliana traveled to Sharon, Massachusetts, to deliver the

card to the shiva house, hoping to bring some nechama to the grieving family. Students Gabriella Spirgel and Tamar Hershberg also went on their much anticipated day off, Thursday, Thanksgiving Day, to be menachem avel and show their support. The Israel Action Committee of SKA, under the passionate guidance of Ms. Raizi Chechik, Principal Grades 9-10, is continuing its advocacy of Israel in these troubling times. Over 100 SKA students signed up this past week for the AIPAC NGuage App to received updates on how to advocate for Israel. SKA has one of the highest registrations of any high school at this point, while our OhSayNation Online Lobbying group placed second nationally in the online lobbying campaign this month. On Friday, November 13, SKA student Adina Schupak arranged for Mr. Dovie Maisel, Chief Operating Officer and Director of International Operations for Israellife, a sponsor and consulting agency for United Hatzalah, to speak in the school. Adina, with the assistance of Michal Feldman and

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Meeting Sheldon Adelson at the Annual ZOA Dinner By: Max Fruchter

t’s not often that someone gets to spend an evening and interact with the greatest Jewish philanthropists in the world. These individuals, as one might expect, hold the ability to exercise incredible influence while impacting anyone of their choosing. Sheldon Adelson, one of the wealthiest Jews across the globe, surely fits this description. Along with Ariel Bagley, a close friend of mine, I was privileged to meet Sheldon and Miriam Adelson this past Sunday evening at the annual gala dinner of the Zionist Organization of America (ZoA) held at the Grand Hyatt in Manhattan.

Given Ariel’s relationship with Dr. Alan Mazurek, Vice Chair of the ZoA and MC of the evening, we were admitted into VIP reception. Surrounded by the likes of Sheldon Adelson, Rabbi Shmuley Boteach, Jon Voight, Richard Joel, and other noteworthy supporters of Israel, this exclusive setting provided ideal opportunities for intimate networking.

At a certain point, Ariel and I were able to speak briefly with Mr. Voight and have our picture taken. His calm and composed demeanor, belied by an enthusiastic “Hello!” when meeting fans, revealed his true characteristic- modest, confident, and firm in belief. Not surprisingly, Mr. Voight delivered a humble speech following his acceptance of the Sheldon and Miriam Adelson Defender of Israel Award. Fame and recognition did not consume Mr. Voight – he received every person with respect and genuine interest. In addition to meeting Mr. Voight, the reception was filled with lavish food and beverages. Political leaders, philanthropists, and successful businessmen circled the room, introducing themselves while learning of one another’s background. Well into the reception, everyone began migrating toward the front of the room. Security guards muttered inaudible codes to one another while everyone congregated around the man “scootering” down

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the hall. Sheldon Adelson held himself with a level of confidence and intensity that can only be characteristic of a man on his level. Requests for philanthropic donations and inquiries of political alignment were rapidly fired minute after minute. Undeterred by the chaotic attention, Mr. Adelson addressed each person in a direct, terse fashion; any nuisance to him was made aware of the fact. Having read of Mr. Adelson’s overwhelming support for Israel, I understood his importance was something I could not fully appre-

exchange of pleasantries, Ariel and I had our picture taken with Mr. Adelson. For those few moments, I faced a man who singlehandedly empowers Israel financially, politically and wholeheartedly. Following the VIP reception, everyone gathered into the main ballroom downstairs to have an extravagant dinner while hearing from several of the top supporters of Israel in America. Speeches were delivered by an eclectic group of prestigious figures, such as Danny Danon, Israeli Ambassador to the UN, Elliot

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Lauer, attorney of Jonathan Pollard, actor Jon Voight, and, of course, Sheldon and Miriam Adelson. Spending an evening with so many powerful Jewish patriots forged a silver lining of hope in Israel’s tumultuous, unpredictable cloud of the future. Everyone left the dinner with a feeling of optimism and hope for Israel’s continued support monetarily and politically.

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Congresswoman Kathleen Rice Speaks at DRS

epresentative Kathleen Rice visited DRS and addressed the students and faculty on November 24. The Congresswoman represents New York’s Fourth Congressional District in the U.S. House of Representatives. Menahel Rabbi Kaminetsky introduced Rep. Rice and thanked her for the work she has done on behalf of the community, previously as Nassau County District Attorney and presently as a Member of Congress. Congresswoman Rice spoke about her background and beliefs as well as the importance of a strong U.S.-Israel relationship. After taking questions from students on an array of questions pertaining to foreign affairs and

homeland security, the Congresswoman was presented with the 2015 Pillar of Israel Award by Rabbi Kaminetsky in recognition of the courage and fortitude she displayed when she opposed the Iran Deal earlier this year despite pressure from fellow Democrats. A special thanks to senior Michael Fagin, the co-coordinator of DRS’s Israel Advocacy Committee, who interned for Rep. Rice’s office this past summer and coordinated her visit to DRS. The students and faculty of DRS thank Congresswoman Rice for coming to speak as well as for her unwavering support of Israel and the tireless work she performs on behalf of her constituents.

DRS Student Run Broadcast Team Develops App

he Student Activities department at DRS works hard to meet the needs of its students. To that end, when a student comes up with a great idea, the school lets them run with it. This year, DRS Live, the yeshiva’s student-run broadcasting network, has taken a tremendous leap in bringing its game to the next level under the leadership of senior Simcha Sommer. Thanks to the generosity of the Parent Council, the broadcasting team has purchased new equipment and added additional features to its repertoire. Hockey and Basketball games are now streamed on drslive.com in high definition, featuring instant replay capabilities. Broadcasts now also include in-depth pre and post-game analysis and inter-

views. In addition, the team also posts highlight videos and game recaps on the website to keep fans in the loop. A fresh staff of student broadcasters, cameramen and technical coordinators has joined the squad, keeping the production running efficiently. Additionally, Sophomore Binyamin Klein has developed an app which has enhances the broadcast, enabling viewers to see the clock and score at all times during the broadcast. The app will also allow viewers to see advertisements throughout the broadcast, and DRS Live is actively looking for advertisers and sponsors; for more information, please email drslive@ drshalb.org. When the game is on the line, it’s online at drslive.com!

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Thanksgiving at CAHAL K Class in HANC

he children in the CAHAL Kindergarten (Pre-1A) class at the Hebrew Academy of Nassau County have been studying American history these past two weeks. They learned about the Pilgrims who came to America aboard the Mayflower and the hardships they suffered

on their journey. After the long hard winter those who survived met Squanto who taught them to plant, hunt and fish. In order to give thanks to their Native American friends, the Pilgrims made a three day feast with many of the crops they harvested. The children experienced daily life in a Pilgrim village by reading library books, making their own butter which they spread on their Shabbos challah and crackers, and by watching videos on their Smart Board from the living museum village, Plymouth Plantation in Plymouth, Massachusetts. They were in awe of how sparse and difficult Pilgrim life was and how many chores the children had to perform on a daily basis. The class compared and contrasted the clothing, hair styles, foods and homes of the Pilgrims to those of the Native Americans of long ago as well as to those of their own personal lives. In the spirit of giving thanks to those who help us, the children invited their therapists to a sumptuous feast on the Wednesday before Thanksgiving. Each child made a big white Pilgrim collar and hat as well as a Native American vest, which they fringed and sponge painted, a headband which they decorated with stickers in patterns they created, and a colorful wooden beaded necklace. They greeted their guests in costume and escorted them to the tables which were laden with foods that each participant child brought for the feast. While they had turkey, corn, cranberry sauce, applesauce, and potatoes, the favorite on the menu was the pumpkin muffins which they baked from scratch. After entertaining their guests with holiday songs, the children changed costumes and walked throughout the school giving out pumpkin muffins to others who help us daily like the principal, nurse, custodians, and specialty teachers in the school. To finish off the day of fun, they played “Duck, Duck, Turkey” and “Pin the Hat on the Turkey,” and then marched around with their kindergarten friends in the mainstream buddy class, sharing their songs to the beat of their Indian drums.

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Rav Dovid Frischman, menahel of Yeshiva Darchei Torah’s Middle School, took his seventh grade talmidim to visit and receive chizuk from Rav Hillel David, shlita, in Brooklyn last Wednesday

Learn & Live Pre-Chanukah Extravaganza

his past Sunday night, on a very busy day, L&L/Pirchei Nesiv Hatorah held their annual Pre-Chanukah Extravaganza instead of the usual L&L program that goes through mitzvos with “hands on” experience. The host was Yeshiva of Far Rockaway. The evening started with a pizza dinner and the boys received a great door prize as well. During dinner we asked some “Questions for Dollars.” After dinner the boys got to hear words of chizuk in limud HaTorah about how geshmak Torah really is and should be from R’ Eytan Feiner. After such geshmaka words the boys once again had the privilege to hear an entertaining story from the one and only R’ Binyomin Wielgus. Showtime! The boys went into the YFR gym (thank you to R’ Metz’s shiur for giving up the gym) where it was set up and looked like a real game show and it truly was real

‘cause the world famous “The Live Game Show” with Yisroel Erps as the host, was there and ready to play. First the boys were divided into two teams Sizzling Latkes & Jelly Doughnuts. Yisroel Erps called on a few boys from each team to be the contestants in the. There were questions about Chanukah and there were some Learn & Live questions as well. From all the buzzing and kids jumping to answer the questios it really seemed the boys were very into the games. After a few rounds, Yisroel Erps switched to the game of “Wheel of Opportunity.” Cheering and sounds of excitement filled the gym. A special thank you to YFR, Rabbi Feiner, Rabbi Wielgus, “The Live Game Show,” Pirchei Monsey and to our evening sponsors Russo’s Pharmacy and the Bergman family. For more information, email learnandlivefr@gmail.com.

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hen Yosef was sold into slavery by his brothers, we are taught by the commentators that the wagon that carried him to Egypt usually would carry repulsive smelling items and Hashem made a miracle for Yosef that this time the wagon carried perfumes and items with a much more pleasing fragrance. In the context of everything else that had happened and under the circumstances the miracle of the perfume actually seemed anything but special. The situation was so horrific and unusual overall. Yosef had just been sold into slavery after being thrown into a pit by his brothers. Yosef’s brothers had judged him as worthy of death but spared him due to Yehuda’s insistence. After such an experience, having his brothers defy him and being sentenced to death with his whole world caving in around him, what presence of mind might he have had to even appreciate a good smell versus a bad smell? How could Yosef even have noticed any smell to make there be a purpose to creating such a miracle? The average person would not have noticed one fragrance as opposed to another, but someone on the level of Yosef was always looking out for the good and always made an effort to see things with a positive attitude. Because he was on such a level, Hashem knew that he would notice the favorable fragrance and he would take it as a message that Hashem was with him and guiding history in a way that all would turn out for the good. He would notice the details, because Yosef cared about the little things

that showed him how Hashem was right there along with him. Living life with a positive attitude and an eye on the good that comes our way can provide us with an entirely different life experience than those that go through life with a pessimistic attitude. Yosef possessed a level of bitachon that enabled him to recognize Hashem’s presence and how Hashem was caring for him even in trying circumstances. The fact that he could see the good even after such harrowing events teaches us how powerful it can be to live with bitachon and a positive attitude. Yosef was able to notice details that others would simply ignore, and he was able to feel the reassuring sense of Hashem being there with him because he put himself on a level where he constantly looked to see the good. Let us start out even small to focus on the good. Noticing the negative is easy; it’s simple to become depressed. Happiness and looking for the good takes great effort, but this is what will ultimately make us feel good and joyful. May we merit to have a marriage where both spouses see the good and view life with a positive attitude.

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Yam Hatorah’s Open House – It’s About What’s Inside

n Sunday, November 15, Mesivta Yam HaTorah held its annual Open House. An outpouring of parents and perspective high school students came to hear about this small but growing school that sits modestly in Bayswater. The program opened with Rabbi Avram Pollak, Rosh Mesivta, welcoming the crowd and letting parents know that MYHT has a uniqueness to it, not found in many other schools. Next on the agenda was Rabbi Eli Zoldan, Menahel of the Mesivta. He, as well as the other faculty on staff at MYHT, care deeply for every student, in every aspect of their lives. This amazing quality of the staff at Yam HaTorah is a hallmark of the hanhala and of the yeshiva, which is earning it an outstanding reputation in the local community as well as in Queens and Brooklyn. The goal of MYHT is to obtain the maximum growth of each student as well as maintaining its high standards of academic excellence.

Rabbi Zoldan quoted Rabbi Shamshon R. Hirsch that although Yitzchak and Rivka were surely attentive and model parents, Eisav’s behavior was, in some way, caused by a slight lack in their individualized parenting. Yam Hatorah is designed based on the principle of Chanoch la’na’ar al pi darco (educate a child based on his nature). The Menahel explained the “motto” of the yeshiva is “If you want the students to care to know, they need to know you care.” It is this kind of

attitude that creates strong Rebbe/ Talmid relationships that last well beyond the high school years. Reinforcing this concept was the General Studies Principal, Rabbi Nachum Dinowitz, who focused on the school’s goal of instilling confidence and mastery into every student. However, to get there a student needs to put in the proper effort. Yam Hatorah is about a partnership with the student. Each boy at MYHT knows that if he puts the work in and does the best he can, the yeshiva will support him, stand by him, help him and encourage him. Rabbi Dinowitz emphasized the innovative STEM curriculum along with the electives and clubs which allow boys to inject their own personality and use their creativity to enhance their educational experience. At Yam Hatorah the school-parent team effort is a relationship that is deemed of utmost importance and parent involvement is welcomed by the staff and administration. Testifying to this was Lorey Friedman, mother of 11th grader Rafi Friedman. Mrs. Friedman spoke passionately about the yeshiva and what makes it unique. Her son Rafi, captain of both the varsity flag football team and the basketball team, is proud to be part of such an outstanding yeshiva. He loves his Mesivta, loves learning, has made great friends at MYHT and most of all is using his potential

to reach the greatest heights. Mrs. Friedman quoted her son as saying, “Let’s be real, I spend so much time at school, I have to like where I am. At MYHT we are like one big family.” Mrs. Friedman attributes Rafi’s love of school, of learning and most of all the belief in himself, to the Yeshiva. She ended by saying that she feels Yam HaTorah is the best kept secret in the Five Towns, Queens and beyond and urged parents to really consider what is important to them for their children and to think hard about where their sons will do best. Mr. Hillel Adelman, President of the Young Israel of Bayswater and father of 9th grader Dovid Aryeh, also emphasized the love his son has for his classes. When trying to encapsulate what is unique about Yam HaTorah he said, “Yam HaTorah develops healthy b’nei Torah. If you want your son to be a healthy ben Torah then Yam HaTorah is the

place to go.” The program then continued with a short video about Yam HaTorah, a fun Jeopardy game where boys won gift cards, a basketball clinic with the Coach Meir Perry, which boys didn’t want to leave, and a tour around the expanded property. Raffle prizes were won as well. The participants were duly impressed by the open house. They saw firsthand the warmth of the hanhala, heard the honesty of happy parents and most of all they saw well balanced, eager to learn and grow, happy bnei Torah. No doubt, this year promises to be another year of success for this young Mesivta. For more information about Yam Hatorah, to get an application, or to schedule an interview, please call or e-mail the office at 718-471-7471 or email mesivtayamhatorah@gmail.com.

What Happened with the Get of Cleves? On Thursday of Thanksgiving, volunteers from Chaverim of Queens and Hatzolah distributed turkey and kosher beef jerky from Blake’s Jerky to local NYPD precincts to say thank you for their service and for keeping our community safe.

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Record 1,300 Inspired at OHEL Gala Founder of Camp Kaylie Issues $500,000 Challenge Grant

Assemblyman Phil Goldfeder and OHEL Camp Kaylie Board member David Brecher

OHEL Co-Presidents, Moishe Hellman and Mel Zachter

Jay Kestenbaum, VP of OHEL Moishe Hellman and Board of Trustees and Camp Yaakov Reisman Kaylie Board member, Moishe Hellman, OHEL Co-President

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OHEL Board member Ben Englander, Bruce Prince and Tamar Sicklick, Team OHEL Every Hero Honorees

Guest of Honor Moishe Hellman

Left to Right: OHEL Camp Kaylie Board members Rivka Wilamowsky Team OHEL Everyday Heroes: Levi Family together with Road Runners Vice President and Ben Englander, Harvey and Gloria Kaylie, Camp Kaylie Founding Michael Rodgers, Tamar Sicklick, Bruce Prince Benefactors

n Sunday, November 22, more than 1,300 friends and supporters of OHEL Children’s Home and Family Services, the largest gathering in OHEL’s history, packed the grand ballroom of New York’s Marriott Marquis Hotel. OHEL’s theme of the evening was Building Our Future Together. The program inspired all – from OHEL’s latest groundbreaking film, “Journey to New Beginnings” to a number of story-telling videos and moving live speeches. Introduced by his son Reuven Hell-

man, OHEL Co-President and community advocate Moishe Hellman was Guest of Honor, and OHEL paid tribute to the 40 years of self-sacrificing and visionary leadership of Mr. Hellman and his wife, Rozi. Through the years, Mr. Hellman has literally taken the call – thousands of calls – of those in need and as personified by a friend in a worthy video tribute, Mr. Hellman “takes OHEL with him wherever he goes.” Through the Memorial Tribute, OHEL recognized the rich legacy of Max Wasser a”h, a former President

of OHEL and his wife Rose a”h, who together were the early pioneers and who literally placed OHEL on the community map. In a moving tribute to her father, Henny Rudansky, spoke of an OHEL Bais Ezra Shabbaton in her home shortly before her father’s passing, where a resident thanked Mr. Wasser for everything he had done for him, and she felt “it was as if Hashem was saying, Mission Accomplished Mr. Wasser.” Special guest speakers included Senator Chuck Schumer and OHEL Camp Kaylie Founder Harvey Kaylie.

Mr. Kaylie spoke movingly about his own personal challenge of disability and stigma – and that while he now uses a wheelchair, he is still the same person he always was, and towers with even greater conviction to the mission of Camp Kaylie. Embracing this cause of inclusion and that every child of any every ability deserves the Kaylie experience, Mr. Kaylie has made a direct appeal to the community to match his $500,000 grant. Visit www.ohelfamily.org to make your online gift meet the match. World famous cantor Rabbi Yitz-

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Around the Community chok Meir Helfgott also gave a live performance in honor of Moishe Hellman. Throughout the evening, illuminating and stirring videos showcased OHEL’s breadth of services, as well as the invaluable contribution of the evening’s honorees. The featured video, “Journey to New Beginnings,” was a unique first. While since 1969 OHEL has provided loving foster homes to over 2,500 foster children, this was the first time that former foster children had gone on camera to candidly share their life experiences, their challenges and triumphs – and where they are today, thanks to OHEL. Also recognized during the evening were Team OHEL Everyday Heroes Bruce Prince, Tamar Sicklick and The Levi Family. Together they have raised tens of thousands of dollars for OHEL’s children by participating in OHEL’s innovative first-time in Jewish world events such as the oXc Extreme Challenge or OHEL’s Over the Edge, or biking and running as part of Team OHEL in numerous New York Road Runners sponsored races. They collectively demonstrate that anyone of any ability – can be a part of the dynamic and expanding Team OHEL!

Rabbi Yaakov and Leah Lehrfield received the Community Leadership Award. Rabbi Yaakov is the much loved Rabbi of the Young Israel of Staten Island, and he and his wife are renowned for their devotion and attention to each community member in need. OHEL has partnered with the Lehrfields on many an occasion, often under the most trying of circumstances. OHEL paid tribute to a young couple from Flatbush, Duvi and Rikki Janklowicz, through the OHEL Foster Parent tribute. Quiet and unassuming, with four young children of their own, they serve as incredible role models of foster parenting to the wider community and the constant need of OHEL to recruit more foster parents given the increasing need for loving foster homes for the most vulnerable in our community. As clearly evident throughout the evening, the thriving and growing Jewish community of today is a far cry from 1969 when OHEL was founded. Through the new Jaffa Family Campus, opening in the fall of 2016 in Flatbush on Avenue M and East 14th, OHEL will be able to not only meet these diverse needs, but further strengthen the community through the expansion of

diverse services, which will all be integrated under one roof. OHEL extends profound thanks to everyone who attended the Gala, made a gift in support of OHEL’s important work, and contributed to the evening’s success, and to those individuals who continue to provide support in Building Our Future Together. OHEL thanks many public officials who were also in attendance and shared words of support for OHEL including NYS Senator Simcha Felder, Assemblymen David Weprin, Phillip Goldfeder, Steven Cymbrowitz, Michael Simanowitz, and Victor Pichardo as well as NYC Councilmembers David G. Greenfield, Helen Rosenthal, Andrew Cohen, Chaim Deutsch and

Mark Levine. Video presentations shown at the Gala, as well as videos of the event can be viewed at http://www.ohelfamily. org/galavideos. To support OHEL’s important work transforming the lives of children and families, please visit www.ohelfamily.org/donate or call 718-972 9338. Every gift—of any size— makes a difference. Since 1969, OHEL Children’s Home and Family Services has served as a dependable haven of individual and family support, helping people of all ages effectively manage disability, surmount everyday challenges, heal from trauma, and manage with strength and dignity during times of crisis.

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Yeshiva Toras Chaim at South Shore Commemorates Shloshim of Rebbetzin Kamenetzky

From left to right: Rabbi Mordechai Kamenetzky, Rabbi Dovid Spiegel, and Rabbi Binyamin Kamenetzky

his past Monday, the 18th of Kislev, marked the shloshim of the late dear matriarch of the Yeshiva of South Shore, Rebbetzin Tzirel Kamenetzky a”h. The Rebbetzin moved to the Five Towns with her husband, Harav Binyomin Kamenetzky, shlita in the mid-1950s and worked tirelessly for a half a century building Torah in the Five Towns community. The Shloshim was commemorated through a variety of program, meant not only as a memorial to the Rebbetzin, but as a chinuch lesson for all the talmidim on every grade level. It began at Shacharis where the talmidim were joined by the Founding Rosh Yeshiva, Harav Binyomin Kamenetzky, and his sons, Rav Mordechai and Rav Zvi Kamenetzky, Menahel of Ohr Ha’emet, Yeshiva in Toronto. Rav Zvi delivered powerful divrei azkara captivating a room filled with more than 200 talmidim and rabbeim as he vividly and passionately spoke of his mother’s sterling middos while painting a picture of what a Jewish mother is. He drew a parallel explaining selflessness by depicting Rochel Imeinu’s righteousness for giving over the simanim to her sister Leah to save her from shame. He went on to describe the selflessness of his mother who devoted her life to the chinuch of

the boys in the yeshiva and the hundreds of families who became closer to Yiddishkeit through the work of the Kamenetzky family. Following Shacharis, Rabbi Rafi Draiman, the Menahel of the Mechina division, presented the Kamenetzky family with a beautiful framed poster listing all the names of the talmidim who participated in a school-wide siyum Mishnayos on seder Moed as an aliyas neshoma for the Rebbetzin. From there the boys proceeded to a seudas mitzvah, a hot breakfast in honor of completing a seder of Mishnayos. The Rosh Yeshiva, Rav Mordechai, learned over the last mishnah in mesechta Chagigah and said the hadran. He also took the opportunity to highlight the achievements of two 8th graders, Moshe Goldfeder, and his chavrusa Avi Balsam, who made a siyum on mesechtas Brochos as well. Rabbi Kamenetzky then took a few minutes to give over some reflections of his mother and explained how his mother was able to deal with the many challenges of raising a Torah-true family in the Five Towns of yesteryear which bore very little resemblance to the Five Towns as we know it today. Citing some poignant stories he remarked how in retrospect he sees how correct his mother was in the stead-

Rabbi Binyamin Kamenetzky receiving a plaque commemorating the siyum Mishnayos in memory of Rebbetzin Tzirel Kamenetzky. From left to right: Rabbi Chanina Herzberg, Rabbi Binyamin Kamenetzky, Rabbi Zvi Kamenetzky, Rabbi Mordechai Kamenetzky, and Rabbi Rafi Draiman

Rabbi Mordechai Kamenetzky saying the Hadron. From left to right: Rabbi Mordechai Kamenetzky, Rabbi Binyamin Kamenetzky, Rabbi Zvi Kamenetzky, Moshe Goldfeder and Avi Balsam

fastness of ensuring that he would not be captured by man of the fads of the ‘60s and 7’0s. The elementary school had an assembly of their own as well. The theme of the program was brachos. A new initiative was put forth called “Birchas Tzirel” in which students were asked to remember not only to say the appropriate bracha before and after eating, but to say it clearly and with kavana. The elementary students also had the great opportunity and zechus to welcome and hear divrei Torah from the

Rabbi Dovid Spiegel, Ostrov Kalushiner Rebbe of Cedarhurst, speaking to the YOSS talmidim on the importance of saying brachos out loud

Ostrover Kalushiner Rebbe, the brother of the Rebbetzin a”h, Rabbi Dovid Spiegel, shlita, of the Shteeble of Cedarhurst. He implored the boys to say brachos loudly and to try and make sure that someone can answer amein which is even a greater act than saying a bracha. He related how his sister, the Rebbetzin, would always insist on saying brachos loudly and clearly and to make sure that someone says amein. She demanded the same from her children. To put it in to action, each boy was given four foods each with a different brachah: cookies, a fruit, a vegetable and some chocolate. Holding the food in their right hand, the boys thundered in unison the appropriate brachos. They followed this with the Brachos Acharonos of Al Hamichya and Borei Nefashos. As a token of the day’s events, each boy in the Yeshiva received a personally designed and laminated Birchas Tzirel card in memory of a woman who will never be forgotten, Rebbetzin Tzirel Kamenetzky z”l.

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TOVA Mentoring Melave Malka

hile most people in the Five Towns were out shopping last Motzai Shabbos on Central Ave, a group of dedicated young men came to the Okun home in Woodmere to participate in a special melave malka benefitting the TOVA Mentoring Program. Mr. and Mrs. Adam Okun opened their home to dozens of guests who partook of the sumptuous spread. Among the guests was Assemblyman Todd Kaminsky, who presented TOVA’s dedicated program director, Yehuda Klinkowitz, with a NYS Assembly citation for TOVA. Assemblyman Kaminsky made note of the tremendous work TOVA does to give children that extra special attention they need to prevent them from becoming “at risk.” After the presentation, guests were treated to a special drasha from HaRav Moshe Weinberger, shlita, Morah D’Asrah of Congregation Aish Kodesh. His stirring words presented the TOVA Mentoring concept through the lens of the Torah. Recalling the story of Yosef HaTzaddik and his brush with sin with Potiphar’s wife, the Rav gave a deeper meaning to the famous Rashi which tells us that Yosef saw the image of his father Yaakov. When Yaakov was presented with the tragic news that Yosef had been killed, the Torah says that Yaakov refused (“v’yimaein”) to be consoled. Many of our commentaries say that refusal came from a deep belief that Yosef was still alive. When Yosef was alone in Egypt and confronted with the temptation of immorality, his loneliness and alienation from his family almost made him give up his focus on becoming a tzaddik until he saw his father’s image. When Yosef saw that image, he realized that his father still remembered him and believed in him, and ultimately, that’s what gave him the strength to overcome temptation. That is why, said Rav Weinberger, Yosef used the same word (“v’yimaein”)

to stop himself from succumbing to sin. The connection to TOVA’s mentoring program is obvious. Our children are faced with incredible challenges today. Parents are often too busy with life’s daily challenges to give their own children the attention they need to face their challenges. TOVA mentors fill that gap and remind the child that there are those in the community who care. Every supporter of TOVA enables more children to receive this mentoring help, and through the efforts of TOVA we hope to see all of our children go and stay on the proper path. The audience was also treated to a presentation by one of TOVA’s newest mentors, Meir. He brought the crowd to near tears as he told his story of being mentored through some trying years in 8-10th grade. Like Rav Weinberger mentioned in his drasha, Meir came from a loving family who had been going through some rough times with a younger sibling, leaving Meir to face his own challenges alone. Through the help of his TOVA mentor, he was able to successfully overcome his issues, finish school and go off to learn for several years in Eretz Yisroel. Now that he is back in America, he himself is mentoring another young man, giving back to the community for the love and work that was invested in him. Meir’s story is but one of hundreds of successful stories throughout the community of young men and women who have been helped by this amazing program. TOVA Mentoring continues to grow and is seeking supporters and mentors to help us meet the needs of our community. If you are able to help, please contact Yehuda Klinkowitz at the TOVA Mentoring office 516295-0550 or via email at yehuda@ tovamentoring.org or visit our website www.tovamentoring.org for more information.

Tova Mentoring Program Director Yehuda Klinkowitz, Assemblyman Todd Kaminsky, hosts Adam and Lindsay Okun

Rav Yitzchok Knobel, Rosh Kollel Yeshiva Gedolah of the Five Towns, and Rav Moshe Weinberger of Aish Kodesh

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Chanukah Safety

AT THE CAMP MOGEN AV SENIOR CHILL OUTING LAST MOTZEI SHABBOS FOR 7TH & 8TH GRADERS

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This past Sunday was no ordinary day at the Levi Yitzchak Family Center. The library celebrated its 5th anniversary with a Magical Pre-Chanukah fun day! Since the library has opened in November 2010, the library has grown immensely, serving the Five Towns community and beyond. The library looks forward to continue being the #1 “go to” center for Jewish, educational fun in the Five Towns community. ONE OF THE MANY PROUD WINNERS OF THE CHANUKAH TRIVIA

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irst and foremost, teach your children that fire is dangerous! It can maim and destroy! When deciding where to place your Chanukah menorah, consider the following: Are there curtains close by? Will children be running around? Supervise your youngsters when they handle matches and candles/ wicks. Once the fire is lit, place the menorah out of your children’s reach. Children bring home beautiful projects on Chanukah that they wish to display near the menorahs. If they are flammable, either tape them to the wall or put them aside so that they do not catch fire. During Chanukah, many foods are fried in hot oil. Try to use the back burners for this purpose. When you walk away from the stove, even if for a moment, turn the handles inward to prevent the pan from accidentally being pulled down by a curious toddler. House fires tend to occur more often during the winter months. Prepare an escape plan and occasionally rehearse it with your family. First Aid for Burns – this is for immediate care only. The adult should decide whether an ambulance must be called or a doctor consulted. When in doubt, call Hatzoloh. Begin cooling the burn as soon as possible. A first-degree burn that is left untreated can quickly become a second or third degree burn. Cool the burn by running cold (not freezing) water on the affected area, or by covering the area with a cold, wet towel. Occasionally, re-immerse the towel in cold water as the burn warms the cloth. Burns, regardless of the cause, have to be cooled for a minimum of twenty minutes. The hotter the skin, the longer the cooling process. Make sure that the burn has been successfully cooled before applying burn creams. It is advisable that any burn to an infant, child or the elderly that affects the face, head, chest, abdomen, or back should be considered an emergency. Remember to check the batteries in your smoke detectors!

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Parsha and the Chanukah Story Come Alive at Gesher

ny preschool teacher will tell you that this time of year is one of their favorites. The lessons learned from the lives of Avraham, Yitzchak, and Yaakov and their families are the foundations of chinuch. Plus, the changing weather and the approach of Chanukah provide many opportunities for reinforcement

and multi-sensory learning. This is especially true at Gesher, where there is an additional emphasis on combined learning techniques. The Nursery did a unit on emotions. The children discussed things

that stimulate feeling of happiness, sadness, and frustration. They explored the physical indicators including facial expressions, body language and even changes in breathing. This was a great complement to the many emotion filled stories in the various parsha lessons. The Blue class combined their new letter ‘P’ with lessons on Chanukah and American history. Manipulatives were added as the frying Pan was introduced for the latkas. And the story of the Pilgrims was used to teach about tolerance, freedom, and personal sacrifice. The Yellow class used the connection between Chanukah and the parsha to emphasize the role that every person plays in protecting Torah. Using dramatic play and puppeting the children relived the heroism of Yaakov against Esav and the Maccabim against the Yevanim The First Grade has had a much greater exposure to the general Chanukah story. They have been learning about the events leading up to the

miracle of Chanukah as well, including the times of Alexander the Great and Shimon Hatzadik. Acting out the bravery of the Jews who hid in caves and “played” dreidel in order to be able to learn Torah has really driven home the message of Chanukah. In addition to the curriculum demands internally, the administration has been hard at work to create new programming to support the chil-

dren outside of school as well. Gesher is happy to announce that it will be hosting a Community-Wide parenting workshop on December 22. This is part of Gesher’s commitment to bridge all of the aspects of education to create the most ideal learning environment for all children. Details of the workshop will appear in an upcoming article.

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Rabbi Krohn Speak for Stars of Israel

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Saftlas Helps Businesses Grow Their Bottom Line

organ James’s new release, So What’s The Bottom Line? 76 Proven Marketing Tips & Techniques for Building Your Business and Personal Brand by Yitzchok Saftlas, offers key business fundamentals and proven experience-based tactics for the success-driven individual. So, What’s the Bottom Line? covers a wide array of topics relating to the business world, from marketing initiatives to communication, customer retention to strategic planning, and everything in between. With short motivational chapters and clear and concise action plans relating to each topic, business professionals will find this new book to be easy to implement and a guarantee for success. With over 25 years of experience in the corporate world, Yitzchok Saftlas is a marketing expert that has worked with all types of people, events, and organizations. His insights and advice compounded with his down-to-earth writing tone and personal anecdotes make for an enjoyable instructional read for the fast-paced, career-oriented individuals of today. Perfect for salespeople, marketers, seasoned executives, or entrepreneurs just starting out, So, What’s the Bottom Line? offers clear direction guaranteed to garner results and lead to success in the field. Experience-based tactics and common-sense ideas point out the obvious yet often overlooked human aspect of business and marketing, and demonstrate how to use human relations to further your business goals. The insights contained in these 76 short chapters are invaluable and highly motivating. For any businessperson looking to grow their bottom line and develop an informed, proven, successful approach, Yitzchok Saftlas’ new release, So, What’s the

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Childhood Cancer Survivor Participates with Team Lifeline in Rock ‘n Roll Las Vegas 10K

n October 28, 1998, Aliza and Ben Goldstein were blessed with a beautiful baby boy named Nate. Five years later, out of nowhere, their world was turned upside down. At age five, Nate was diagnosed with a rare form of cancer called Alveolar Rhabdomyosarcoma. A parent’s worst nightmare. Aliza and Ben were told that Nate would have to lose his left leg, and even so he would have a one in four chance of survival. Unwilling to accept this, they found Dr. Lenny Wexler at Memorial Sloan Kettering Cancer Center. Dr. Wexler believed he could save Nate’s leg and his life. And that’s exactly what he did. Dr. Wexler is also an oncologist at Camp Simcha, Chai Lifeline’s summer camp for children with cancer. Having a child with cancer is devastating and emotionally draining. Chai Lifeline provides light for sick children and their families in their darkest times.

On November 15 2015, Nate accomplished what everyone thought impossible 10 years ago and ran the Las Vegas Rock ‘n Roll 10K with his parents as part of Team Lifeline. What better way to celebrate his 10 years cancer free. “I will be forever

grateful for his [Dr. Wexler] kindness and medical expertise,” says Nate. “My ability to run this race is directly attributed to him and his dedication to my quality of life”. Team Lifeline is an endurance training program that brings teams to destination races to raise funds and awareness for Chai Lifeline. Team Lifeline offers individuals the opportunity to reach a personal goal, while helping make a seriously ill child smile. After weeks of training to prepare for the marathon, crossing that finish line is incredibly rewarding. Doing it for an extraordinary cause brings that reward to a whole new level. Chai Lifeline’s mission is to bring joy to children with cancer and other life-threatening illnesses. Chai Lifeline’s multitude of programs were created to alleviate the emotional, social, and financial challenges facing families living with pediatric illness. Chai Lifeline provides fun and support to these children, their parents, and their siblings. Their well-known summer camps, Camp Simcha and Camp Simcha Special, provide a two week getaway where sick children can feel like kids, while receiving the medical

care and treatment they need. “Chai Lifeline accomplished what I considered impossible – it made having cancer bearable,” says Nate. “Whether it was at the hospital or at Camp Simcha, Chai Lifeline’s presence in my life gave me joy and hope when I needed it most. This is why I am trying to return the favor by participating in the Las Vegas 10K and raising funds to help send other kids to Camp Simcha.” Nate’s strength and positive attitude are truly inspirational. His story even caught the eye of world renowned illusionist, David Copperfield. As a result, Copperfield invited Nate to see his show in Vegas and then meet him backstage as a special VIP. The Rock n’ Roll Las Vegas Marathon is one of only two nights a year when The Strip is closed to traffic, allowing over 40,000 participants to experience the excitement of the strip at night. With glow in the dark gear and concerts at every mile, the Rock n’ Roll marathon has become an exhilarating experience for both participants and fans. As one of the marathon’s Charity Partners, Team Lifeline was made up of more than 100 runners who raised a total of $425,000 for Chai Lifeline! Nate and his parents alone raised over $17,000 for Chai Lifeline. Team Lifeline provides an incredible weekend experience for their runners. Runners stay in the magnificent Venetian-Palazzo on the Las Vegas strip, which also hosts their pre-race pasta party and post-race victory party. Team Lifeline participates in four amazing races each year, including the Miami Marathon, Las Vegas Marathon, NYC Marathon and Lake Tahoe Bike Ride. To learn more about Team Lifeline, visit us at www.teamlifeline.org. Register today and help us make a difference!

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Bnos Bais Yaakov/Tichon Meir Moshe Staff Enrichment

s the world evolves ever more rapidly, the needs of students follow suit. To keep ahead of the game, the staff at BBY is constantly learning new educational techniques and perfecting existing ones.

Pre-School At the pre-school’s in-service day, the message was “strengthening our connections.” In classic Morah Yehudis style, the room was set up as a “Connect-4” board with all the appropriate props and color schemes. The format of the day was an ongoing PowerPoint presentation punctuated by speakers and group discussions. Morah Yehudis introduced Mr. Chaim Dahan, owner of Tikvah Security Co., who spoke about the correct behaviors and procedures to be followed in an emergency situation. The main thrust of his message was that we can create a calm connection with our students even during a crisis. Our demeanor will affect their behavior. To strengthen this point, Morah Yehudis showed the teachers a film of a morah in embattled Sderot who was able to sing her terrified students out of their panic. Mrs. Lainy Weinstein, 7th grade BBY morah, explained how we can help strengthen our students’ connection with Hakadosh Baruch Hu; Mrs. Amy Snow, Pre-school Administrative Assistant, described the connection with families that the weekly newsletters forge; and Mrs. Ellen Shaiman, School Psychologist, created a 3-D connection amongst the staff by having each teacher contribute a thought or question to the discussion as they passed a skein of yarn to each other. The resultant “web” was a clear demonstration of the connections we form when we are all focused on a common goal. The day was rich in discussions and lessons about connections and meaningful play on the preschool level. Limudei Kodesh The Hebrew department joined the in-service workshops held in the Torah U’Mesorah building in Manhattan. Delivered by Mrs. Miriam Gettinger, principal of Hasten Hebrew Academy in Indianapolis, the talk centered on differentiated assessment and instruction – better un-

derstood as “how to reach and teach every student.” Mrs. Gettinger’s talk generated a lot of discussion and questions, much of which was forthcoming from the BBY staff. Mrs. Kuessous noted that many of the tips on differentiation are already being implemented in BBY. The use of individual whiteboards is one such strategy that currently exists. Rather than involving one or two students when testing for retention throughout a lesson, oftentimes the entire class is encouraged to answer questions on their own individual whiteboards. The teacher takes note of each student’s answer and then has an instant reading of who retained information from the day’s lesson. This knowledge directs the teacher’s lesson for the next day and provides a quick and more accurate assessment of her entire class without causing undue embarrassment or wasting valuable class time. General Studies The English department divided their program into two parts. The first session consisted of an inspirational talk given by Shimon Wannaker. Mr. Wannaker was a principal in an inner city school where there was no sense of order or responsibility. Through his dynamic use of true leadership – comprised of humility, empathy, and courage – Mr. Wannaker turned the chaotic environment of that public school into one of structure and productivity. Part two of the in-service day took place in the Coffee Bar on Central Ave. Each teacher had been asked to prepare a three minute presentation on a particular topic. Topics included “Partnering with the Hebrew Teacher,” “How to Enrich the Bright Student,” “Initiating Friendships,” “Making Every Moment Count…the In-Between Times,” and “Making Lessons Come to Life” – among many other relevant topics. The incredible aspect of this portion of the program was that it was an idea generated by the teachers themselves. They recognized that their colleagues had so many superior classroom techniques and so many creative educational twists to offer, that they wanted to hear from them firsthand. At the end of the session, the teachers certainly

got their wish; they all heard innovative ideas from their colleagues. But, the unexpected outcome was the buzz that was created amongst the teachers – asking and collaborating and refining and discussing their ideas with each other. And the best part of the day? Each teacher walked away feeling proud to be part of the high caliber team of professionals at BBY. TMM The TMM in-service took place at a Melaveh Malka held in the Ateres Nechama Liba Simcha Hall. Before the symposium even got underway, the staff felt respected and cosseted by the meticulous care that went into the evening’s fare. Elegant table settings, a delicious repast, and heavenly treats from Cafe Chocolat clearly let the staff know in what high esteem they are held. The roster of speakers hailed from within the ranks of TMM teachers. Addressing the theme “Tests, Homework, and Assignments that Expand

the Learning Process,” Mrs. Miriam Rusi Perr explained how tests should be aligned with teaching goals. Mrs. Perr has taught a variety of classes and was therefore able to cite specific examples of test alignment from different subjects. Ms. Mindy Kramer was able to delineate seventeen distinct skills which a student must utilize while taking a test – critical thinking, prioritizing, and deductive reasoning among them. Mrs. Devorah Reidel posited the theory that students can exceed their own expectations if guided properly. Then Mrs. Reidel proceeded to prove just that, from case histories of her students who were shocked and proud of the masterful research paper they produced. The evening concluded on a high. Teachers felt that they would be able to incorporate many of the suggestions put forth by their esteemed colleagues. And they were gratified to be a part of the professional staff at TMM.

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Peninim of Woodmere Siyum Melave Malka

eninim of Far Rockaway/Five Towns is part of an international movement of tzinius sensitivity groups, originating in Montreal. Each Peninim session meets bi-weekly, with a group of 8-15 women who get together for approximately one hour. The cozy, non-judgmental atmosphere, filled with camaraderie, sets the tone for comfortable discussion and chizuk addressing today’s tzinius challenges. The session opens with a short inspiring message on an audio CD. It continues with reading from a sefer specifically written for Peninim, which includes halachos, hashkafos and practical advice. The session then continues with a workshop discussion, where true-to-life situations are spotlighted, expanding the focus from dress to daily activities and interactions, allowing each woman to internalize the halachos and hashkafos of tzinius on a new and deeper level. Since Peninim of Far Rockaway/ Five Towns was introduced in 2012, close to forty groups have started, even though not all continue to meet. Some of the groups have been so successful that they are learning the Penimin sefer for the second time! The Woodmere group gathered on Motzoei Shabbos Parshas Vayeitzei for a gala Melava Malka celebrating the completion of the Penimim curriculum. It was held at the Far Rockaway home of Mrs. Hadassah Zelman, Coordinator for Peninim of Far Rockaway/ Five Towns and mentor to the Woodmere group. The Siyum Melave Malka of Woodmere was a great accomplishment for these women who are just one group among the many groups initiated in this community alone. The Woodmere Peninim group siyum with buffet style savory hot homemade dishes, salad bar and more, added to the candlelit sit-down Melava Malka. The atmosphere which defined the evening was both elegant and regal. The tables were draped with floral purple tablecloths. Its décor of beautiful flowers, reflected off the mirrors on each table, set the tone for a night of splendor. The evening started with Tehilim for all of Klal Yisroel. This was followed by Mrs. Zelman’s heartfelt divrei chizuk, in which she compared the ruchnius that each woman has strived for throughout the Peninim sessions in the past years to the building of a mansion. In

a story from the sefer by Rav Mattisyahu Salomon, With Hearts Filled With Faith, she presented the story by Reb Chatzkel Levinstein, the Mashgiach of the Mirrer Yeshiva, which took place during the years in Shanghai. After Yom Kippur in Shanghai during World War II, he told his talmidim that their tefillos were higher than any previous year. Could they keep that inspiration? What if they would slip? Like a man who has built a beautiful mansion, but falls from its roof while affixing the final ornament to the palace, they should not feel that the mansion—their special avoda and tefilos on Yom Kippur—has fallen. The mansion remains, he explained. An individual may fall, but the mansion remains standing. So too for each of us. All the efforts each one has put in, whether in any aspect of tzinius, or any act of avodas Hashem, is a mansion, a place that has been built that will remain forever. The evening’s entertainment was enhanced by the singing of Mrs. Yael (Renov) Stein. The Melava Malka was honored with the presence of some of the Rebbetzins of the community giving divrei bracha. Rebbetzin Devorah Speigel of Bais Medrash of Cedarhurst stated that seeing such a group of ladies who continually learn about tzinius was very heart warming. Rebbetzin Beaty Kalish of Bais Medrash of Harborview remembered her own mother’s efforts to stand up for the woman’s role in Yiddishkeit during the pre-war years in Germany and afterwards in America. Each participant in the siyum was presented with an award certificate personally signed by Rebbetzin Miriam Salomon, wife of Rav Mattisyahu Salomon, Mashgiach of Bais Medrash Govoha, may he have a refuah shelama. The Rebbetzin graciously took time from her busy schedule which reflects how dear and important the Peninim program is to the Mashgiach and his Rebbetzin. The participants felt very honored at this highlight of the event. So what are the ingredients to the success of the Woodmere Peninim group? First, Mrs. Zelman explains that the Woodmere group’s continued success is due in part to the sincere efforts of coordinator Mrs. Temmy Bernstein and the graciousness of Mrs. Rachel Lerner, at whose home most of the

meetings took place, both residents of Woodmere. Mrs. Bernstein would not merely e-mail everyone in the group for the next Pennim meeting, but would follow up with a personal e-mail and phone call. Each one felt her sincerity and that each person’s attendance played a pivotal role at the session. Mrs. Bernstein shares what inspired her to be so committed to the group. Months previous, she was initially approached by Mrs. Zelman to coordinate a group, but she did not receive much interest from friends or neighbors. Then, on a memorable family trip, the Bernstein van skidded on black ice and turned on its side. Simultaneously, Temmy saw Mrs. Zelman’s name on her cellphone. .Her husband told his wife that whatever Hadassah Zelman tells her to do, she should just do it. With tremendous hakaros hatov to Hashem for saving them, she was even more determined to form a Peninim group. With remarkable siyata dishmaya, from that point onward, everyone she contacted responded in a positive manner. Hence, the Woodmere Peninim group began. Secondly, the success of this particular group is due to each and every participant coming week after week, month after month and year after year, making Pennim sessions a priority in her life. Discussions often continue well past the allotted hour and the women are reluctant to leave even as the hour grows late. So what gives the unique flavor to the Woodmere Peninim sessions? Their mentor, Mrs. Hadassah Zelman. As one shares, “Hadassah Zelman gives so much of herself by enhancing all our meetings with additional learning and inspiration.” Another added, “Your knowledge, presentation and enthusiasm have impacted my life in a very meaningful way.” Concluded another, “You have inspired me to think and grow in the area of tzinius, and as you have taught us, tzinius is not just about our dress, but rather encapsulates so many areas of our life.”

At the end of the Melava Malka, a roundtable discussion focused on, “What does Peninim mean to you?” “How has it impacted on your life?” A more “seasoned” community member shared, “Participating in our Peninim group has shown me that even at my age, I can try to grow in ruchnius. B”H, this amazing learning group has enriched my life and the lives of my family.” One spontaneous remark was, “This group is such a non-judgmental group, making me feel so comfortable.” Each person left the Siyum Melava Malka inspired. Of course, the most important aspect of the Peninim program is the internal changes taking place in the women who attend. One Woodmere group member explains, “Our Peninim groups have given me a chance to reaffirm to myself the ‘why’ I do certain things in my life. It has given me a chance to discuss relevant, real- life scenarios concerning the vast topic of tzinius in an open and matter-of-fact manner, allows us to voice our opinions and ask questions, with the ultimate goal of becoming stronger in our belief, intent, and actions...To have tzinius pervade every facet of our lives is a beautiful goal towards which to strive as a bas Yisroel and Torah-true Jew.” When questions arise in the group discussions, whether in halacha or hashkafa, Mrs. Zelman gleans from the daas Torah of Rabbi Binyomin Forst, shlita, Rav of K’hal Nesiv HaTorah and the head of the Halacha Hotline of the Five Towns & Far Rockaway community, who gave of his invaluable time to read through the Peninim sefer. He makes himself available for any questions or guidance for Peninim groups. Peninim has branched out to Lakewood, Passaic, Flatbush, Waterbury, Cleveland, Deal, Boro Park, Los Angeles, Toronto, Gateshead, Zurich and many more locations. Now that the Woodmere Peninim group is re-starting the Peninim sefer, anyone who wants to join or start a Peninim group, may contact Mrs. Zelman at 718-327-4386.

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Rosti with Fried Eggs

Rosti with Fried Eggs Take the tedium out of frying with this giant potato latke. The Rosti with its beautiful wedge presentation can easily be served as a side for your fanciest meal. Yields: 4 Large Wedges or 8 Small Wedges Ingredients 2 pounds peeled and grated redskinned potatoes (about 4 large) 1 medium onion, grated 1 teaspoon Winn-Dixie salt ½ teaspoon Winn-Dixie freshly ground black pepper 5 tablespoons Winn-Dixie pure olive oil, plus more for eggs 4-8 Winn-Dixie large eggs Winn-Dixie red pepper flakes, optional Preparation Combine the shredded potatoes and onions in a mesh cloth or metal sieve and squeeze until all liquid is removed. In a medium-large bowl, sea-

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son the potatoes and onions with salt and pepper and toss to combine. Heat a large frying pan over medium-high heat with 3 tablespoons olive oil. Make sure the entire pan is coated. When the oil is hot (you can test the heat by adding a bit of potato and listen for a sizzle), carefully add the potato mixture to the heavy-bottom pan and pat down the top with a spatula. Cook the potato mixture for 2 minutes over medium-high heat then lower the heat to medium-low and cook for 1215 minutes. You should still hear the sizzle while the potato mixture cooks. When the potato mixture begins to set and the bottom is browning, carefully flip the potato pancake onto a plate or platter. Place a plate the size of the pan over the top then flip the pan upside down. There might be some oil that drips out so flip the pan over the sink if possible. Heat the remaining 2 tablespoons of oil in the pan and carefully slide the potato pancake back in over medium-low heat. Cook for another 10-12 minutes. Remove the pan from the heat, set it aside to cool down for 10 minutes. Meanwhile, fry the eggs.

Slice Rosti into wedges and serve topped with fried eggs seasoned with red pepper flakes, if desired. Recipe adapted from Melinda Strauss’s Rosti with Smoked Turkey Latke

Fried Ice Cream One of the guiltiest pleasures out there. This dessert is so good it should be illegal! The crumb coating is equal parts frosted flakes and vanilla cookie crumbs but can easily be reinvented by subbing some or all of the cookies crumbs with crushed walnuts and/or coconut flakes. Yields: 8 fried ice cream balls Ingredients 8 scoops vanilla ice cream, or your favorite flavor 1 cup crushed frosted flakes 1 cup vanilla wafer cookie crumbs 2 large eggs, beaten Canola oil, for frying Chocolate sauce, optional

Whipped cream, optional Maraschino cherries, optional Preparation With an ice cream scoop, form 8 large balls of ice cream. Place on a waxed paper lined sheet and cover with plastic wrap. Freeze for at least 2 hours. In a medium bowl combine the cornflake crumbs and cookie crumbs. Working with one ice cream scoop at a time, dip into the crumb mixture. Use your hands to form the scoops into nice rounded balls and freeze for at least 30 minutes. Working with one coated ice cream ball at a time, dip into the eggs, then roll in the crumb mixture, coating completely. Freeze for at least 1 hour. Heat the oil in a large pot or fryer to 400 degrees F. One at a time, lower the balls into the oil and fry until golden brown, about 30 seconds. Remove from the oil and place in a dessert bowl. Drizzle with chocolate sauce and whipped cream and finish with a cherry on top. Repeat with the remaining ice cream. Recipe adapted from Emeril Lagasse/Food Network, 2001

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Kislev: United Colors of the Rainbow by Rebbetzin Tziporah Heller

The long, silent white nights of winter have an almost mystic quality. They make us occasionally consider ending the day early and opening a book or writing a journal or maybe just listening. The silence lets us hear our hearts speak loud enough for us to hear without the static of day-to-day living.

e tend to deaden the impact of living with seasons by killing their message with the intrusion (and blessing) of electricity. We turn summer into spring with air conditioning. We heat our homes and experience winter by looking out the window and feeling the frost if we actually touch the panes. We lengthen the day by keeping the lights on. All of this, of course, is a great piece of good fortune. After all, no one really misses the sort of summer that left us exhausted, tense and drenched in sweat, or the kind of winter that imprisoned us in our badly heated homes yearning for the sun. Nonetheless, it’s good to once in a while take the time to let the world speak to us.

Each month has its own message. The Arizal, a great mystic, tells us that the spiritual force of each of the 12 months parallels one of the 12 tribes (for the month of Kislev, it is the tribe Benjamin, who was known for his unwavering faith in G-d and his ferocious ability to battle evil) and the astral sign of the month (for this month, it is the bow). All of this lets us map out something of the nature of the month, and perhaps how to find a part of ourselves (since each Jew is a composite of all 12 tribes). As the days get longer and blacker, we can intuitively sense that place within us that is dark, hopeless and vulnerable is closer to the surface than it is during the summer. In fact, there

is scientific evidence that there is a biological basis for this feeling. What escapes us is the precious nature of coming in contact with this part of ourselves. There are two events that took place in this month that give us insight to the turf we enter. The first is G-d presenting the rainbow as a covenantal sign after the destruction of the Flood. We hardly associate rainbows with the shortest days of the year, but the rainbow is indeed very much part of the picture. Noah left the safety of the ark and re-entered the world on the 28th of Cheshvan (the previous month on the Jewish calendar). He saw vast, unspeakable, total desolation. We can’t begin to envision the

barren, silent world that he faced. He recognized that it was up to him to chart a course that will lead him and his descendants to redefining the world. He offered sacrifices to symbolize his commitment to uplift the world and everything in it to its Divine source. On the first day of Kislev, G-d responded to this act by blessing Noah and his family. He set down new rules for them. From now on man will be permitted to eat meat. He will be accountable for shedding human blood. The world is meant to be a place where the fact that we were made in G-d’s image is relevant. We are not just a more developed sort of animal, but an entirely unique species. The spark of eternity within

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us can never totally disappear, no matter how well we disguise it by adapting animalistic behaviors. We cannot “convert” to becoming an animal any more than a doorknob can become a canary. Animals may be killed and eaten; no human being is an animal. G-d promised never to bring a flood again, sealing his covenant to continue existence with a sign – the rainbow.

WHY A RAINBOW?

There were always rainbows, even before the flood. What changed is its message. What does the multicolored luminescent rainbow tell us about the territory we walk? It maps our future. After the flood, humankind will now develop differently. Until that

their Source, and nothing about their lives gives any external evidence of having any sort of relationship with Him. The fact is that both people come from one source, in the same way that red and violet are both caused by the same pure light. In our individual lives, we also experience the entire spectrum of light, going from bright to dark. Three in the afternoon may be an ideal time – work is great, the sky is blue, and everything seems perfect. Three in the morning is an entirely different story. You lie in bed and can’t sleep. Nothing you do seems significant; nothing seems likely to change either. Sometimes black moments are spurred by external

Sammy that he had two calls. Sammy remained silent. His eyes raced from the florescent light to the chipped brown Formica desk. Anywhere but the phone. At 19, he felt old, dead, and repulsive. There was no one to call. Not his father, who hadn’t seen or spoken to him since his infancy, nor his raging half sane mother. The policewoman looked at him with a strange mixture of impatience and compassion. “Call your lawyer or someone from your family. We can’t let you out until someone comes to sign for you and to put down bail money. It can be months until your trial.” He didn’t answer; he didn’t have to. She caught

He knew what Sammy didn’t know and believed something Sammy never believed; Sammy is priceless, dazzlingly beautiful, and eternal manifestation of his Creator.

point, there was no concept of nationhood or of divergent cultures. From now on, different peoples will become progressively more variegated. The rainbow is a living statement (a map) of what that really means (the territory). A rainbow is formed when pure white light refracts into seven shades. Red is nearest the original beam, and violet is the furthest away from the pure white light. This has a human parallel. Some people are close to G-d and live lives that reveal their intimacy with the Creator. Other people are much further away from

factors – rejection, failure or perceived rejection or failure – but there are also black moments that are just part life’s ebb and flow. At both times, we can recognize that G-d made us with an inner rhythm that moves the light within us from “red” luminosity to “violet” despair, and that our souls are still eternal and life still has meaning. Each human soul is and always will be attached to life, which is G-d Himself. All the hues of our existence stem from one single source of Light, even if we are not always wise enough to see it. The police sergeant told

on. There was no one on the entire planet that Sammy could call. Her tired brown eyes met his for a moment. He wanted to lash out at her and all of the rest of the patronizing, safe, normal people he had ever known. The hatred was sharp, deep, and nothing at all compared to the heat of the hatred that he felt for himself. One number came back to him. The principal of his high school in Migdal HaAmek who had found him asleep on a park bench five years earlier and convinced him to go to the school dorms. The last time he had spoken to him was

at stormy meeting in his office that had ended with Sammy going off to chart his own path. He didn’t know what to say. He dialed the number with trembling hands. He wanted the phone to just ring so he didn’t have to face the policewoman who knew too much and at the same time not force him to hear either indifference or anger he anticipated from waking someone up at 4 am. It rang eight times. Rabbi Grossman answered. “It’s Sammy.” “What happened? Where are you?” He spilled the entire sordid story and ended with the only words he could. “They’re holding me here unless someone signs and pays.” In a matter of hours, Rabbi Yitzchak David Grossman, the legendary Rav of Migdal HaEmek, was in Tel Aviv, a 2 hour drive if the roads are clear. He knew what Sammy didn’t know and believed something Sammy never believed; Sammy is priceless, dazzlingly beautiful, and eternal manifestation of his Creator.

THE LIGHT OF CHANUKAH

The second event that hallmarks Kislev is Chanukah. It was one of the darkest times in our history. We had somehow lost track of everything real and enduring. A significant percentage of our people defined themselves as Hellenists, lovers of everything Greek. The Greeks knew the map better than any nation that preceded them. They saw the hills and valleys; the mind and the body. They were gifted with uncanny accuracy and portrayed what they saw with unparalleled beauty and power. But they didn’t know the

territory. Morality, G-dliness, spirituality were beyond their grasp. What’s worse, they found the very concept of spirituality to be threatening and dangerous to their human-centered world. They outlawed Torah because it took the mind to places unknown. They outlawed Shabbos because it invited anyone who kept it to see themselves as part of a created world with accountability to its Creator, rather a member of a human-centered world in which morality is irrelevant. They outlawed circumcision because it implied that the human body was not perfect as is, but rather an imperfect instrument left for humans to perfect. In the midst of all of this, we experienced national rebirth and self-discovery. Then the miracle happened. The Greeks had defiled the Menorah, which is a symbol of the spirit just as they defiled everything else in the Temple. When the Temple was recaptured one of the first things that the Hasmonean (meaning coming from a family of Kohanim whose name was Hashmonai) fighters did was to try to rekindle the Menorah. Why was that so important to them? The reason is that they were not fighting for political independence. They were fighting for spiritual renewal. Lighting the Menorah was their response to darkness. One day’s worth of oil lasted eight days. Each of us has to fight off darkness in our own way. None of us are alike; each one of us is an entire world. Let us use this time to see the rainbows that are the natural result of rain and sun meeting. Let us use this time to light the Menorah that is always there within our hearts.

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All or Nothing By Rabbi YY Rubinstein

There is an uncomfortable fact about the Chanukah story we often tend to forget. It was really more of a civil war between Jews and Jews than a war between Jews and Greeks.

lexander the Great had entered Jerusalem in peace. He studied Torah and was a friend of the Jewish people. His great teacher, after all, was Aristotle who, according to Jewish sources, went on at the end of his life to convert to Judaism. Jews happily embraced the new culture the young

Macedonian king brought to their capital. It was the perfect synthesis and a fulfillment of the blessing in Parshas Noach. Greece was a descendent of Noach’s son, Yafet. He was given the gift of beauty in art, architecture and culture. When that combined with Shem’s descendants, the Jewish people, and their gift

of spirituality, each enhanced and complemented the other. From that time to even now, Alexander became a name religious Jews give to their sons. The perfectly balanced harmony of the two worldviews did not last. The remarkable Alexander died at the young ago of only thirty-two years. Tens of thousands of Jews no longer wanted Greek culture to enhance Judaism; they wanted it to replace it. The New Greek rulers were more than happy to accommodate their wishes. Now it was to be all or nothing. Greco-Jews would turn on their own people to force the abandonment of everything Jewish. Torah was outlawed and keeping Shabbos was made illegal. Circumcision was banned as was the rabbis declaring the arrival of the New Moon. With this, the Greeks and their Jewish converts hoped to eradicate all vestiges of the Jews’ spirituality. Banning Torah would mean the Jews stopped thinking differently. Outlawing Shabbos would speed up the process, as someone once said, “More than the Jews have kept Shabbos... Shabbos has kept the Jews.” Circumcision would stop Jews looking different. The banning of the announcement of the New Moon, which allowed Jewish festivals to be calculated, would be the final nail in the coffin. Rabbi Dessler points to the fact that all those who have tried to destroy the Jews failed and their failure and undoing were caused by the

very device they sought to use to destroy us. Pharaoh correctly understood a boy was to be born who would save the Jews and ordered all boys drowned at birth. Not only did he not succeed in killing that boy, he brought him up in his own palace as an Egyptian prince. Haman calculated the ideal date to unleash a “Final Solution” to finish Klal Yisroel and built a gallows to kill his nemesis Mordechai and his family. That day was in fact the one when the Jews destroyed Haman and his forces. The gallows he built for Mordechai and his family was the one upon Mordechai hanged Haman and his family. The laws enacted by the Greco-Jews were designed to take away all the essential elements of Jewish life, Shabbos and the festivals. Instead, they succeeded in giving us a new festival, Chanukah. The Chanukah story would be repeated over and over through the next two and a half thousand years of Jewish history. Only the names of the actors would change; the script and the story would remain remarkably similar. Instead of Greek culture seducing Jews and turning them against their own people, it would be Roman or Christian and nineteenth century Nationalism, Socialism or twentieth century liberalism and feminism. Each would enlist legions of Jewish advocates and converts and they would turn on their own people, religion and values. Just like in Greece they would face a stubborn Jewish

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resistance and rejection. The greater the pressure to capitulate grew, it was met by an even greater determi-

The Chanukah story would be repeated over and over through the next two and a half thousand years of Jewish history

nation not to. The stubborn Chanukah Jews stayed. Those seduced by the “zeitgeist” simply walked away and were lost. Yet if the Torah states that there is blessing when the beauty of Yafet is found in the tents of Shem, it must be true. It’s only when the science and culture of “Greece” moves out of that symbiosis and harmony that the blessing becomes a curse. In the United States a culture that attempts to secure that balance has been in place for a long time. Boys and girls often learn in yeshivas and seminaries while pursuing vocational qualifications that will lead to employment and careers. At the same time, those who want to devote their entire lives to uninterrupted Torah study can pursue that path too when circumstances allow. In Israel, where more Torah is learned and more yeshivas exist than at any other time in Jewish history, the balance has inclined more towards total emersion in the Tents of Shem –particularly in the face of the near success of the twentieth century’s second Haman and his Final Solution. But what of the Hareidei young man who is simply not cut out for 24-7, all day and all night Torah learning. Until very recently, faced with an all or nothing that offered them no or few alternatives, the danger was and is they might leave for the world of Yafet and abandon the Tents of Shem forever. I recently met a rabbi who has spent his whole life offering such

young Jews a “Yafet/Shem” balance that allows both paths to combine, flower and prosper. Rabbi Yisroel Cohen Rozovski was born in Bnei Brak. He comes from a Chassidishe family but learned in Litvishe yeshivas. He started his career helping Jewish families who were unqualified to enter Israel’s workforce, finding courses with qualifications to do exactly that. Today his latest venture is a school called Darchei Chaim, which offers boys advanced Torah studies in the morning and vocational training in computer programming and other subjects in the afternoons based on the premise of Torah im derech eretz. Rabbi Rozovski’s passion and commitment to the fifty or so boys who are thriving in his school is infectious. So are the smiles on the faces of the young men who are now firmly anchored in this latest version of the Torah’s partnership between Shem and Yafet. I asked him what the boys see as their goal and he told me that they simply want to have the necessary tools to enable them to support the families they one day hope to start. They also want to support and contribute to the communities they come from when they return, be able to earn a living. And of course they want to continue to learn Torah. The rabbi’s hope is to grow his school into a traditional yeshiva with a vocational component that offers 400 places to boys. He then plans to create a parallel Hareidei girls’ school with vocational training for those seeking careers in health care and other similar professions. He showed me an impressively large folder of letters of support from gedolim encouraging his initiative. The letters from Israeli ministries supporting his school were impressive too. It would seem that with the correct balance, the Yafet/Shem partnership can still provide a blessing for Klal Yisroel and an alternative for those for whom denied it, and facing a choice between all or nothing, might simply walk way.

Rabbi Y Y Rubinstein is a writer and author who speaks all over the world. He lives in Inwood.

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Olives, Olive Oil, and Chanukah by Rabbi Moishe Dovid Lebovits

s we all know, we use olive oil to light the Chanukah menorah. Recently, olive oil has become very popular for its health benefits. Olive oil has many other uses as well (see below). In previous years, its main purpose was as fuel for lamps. Aside from the Chanukah questions, there are other questions regarding olives and olive oil. Are there any restrictions with eating olives? How is olive oil made? What bracha is recited on olives? What are the different kinds of olive oil? Are there any kashrus concerns about olive oil without a hechsher? Why do we use olive oil on Chanukah? Is there a difference in which olive oil is used? If the price of olive oil is high can one light with other oils or wax? Does the olive oil have to be edible? Can one give his children wax as opposed to oil? Can one light some lights with olive oil and other lights with different oil? Can one light with an electric menorah? What are the customs regarding eating foods with oil on Chanukah? These questions will be addressed in this article.

OLIVES IN CHAZAL

Olives are mentioned frequently in Chazal. Olives for pickling were more expensive than those for oil making. Olives were pickled or preserved in jars or barrels.

BUYING OLIVES

Green olives are grown in many parts of the world such as California, Italy or Eretz Yisroel. Olives from Eretz Yisroel pose issues of teruma, ma’aser and shemitta. Olives even from other locales pose kashrus concerns since olives can be packed in

brine which can be made with salt, acetic acid and vinegar. Therefore, olives require a hechsher. If they are packed in salt or lactic acid no hechsher is required. This applies to both green and black olives (they are the same fruit but black olives remain on the tree longer).

EATING OLIVES

The Gemara says that the frequent consumption of olives is one of the items which make one forget his Torah knowledge. This is brought in many poskim as well. Many poskim opine that there is no difference if the olives are pickled or raw. According to Harav Chaim Kanievesky shlita one may eat olives once every thirty days and it is not considered “frequent.” There is a discussion in the poskim if one is permitted to eat olives frequently if he adds olive oil to them. Many are lenient. The custom seems to be lenient with eating olives in any case. The Mor U’ketizah explains that the entire concern is eating raw olives as a meal. However, pickled olives (even in salt or vinegar) as a snack are permitted. The custom is to be lenient either because it is mixed with olive oil or is pickled. Eating olive tortilla chips are permitted and are excluded from the above discussion.

THE RIGHT BRACHA

Olives are not generally eaten raw and they taste better when cooked or pickled. Therefore, raw olives are a shehakol, and cooked or pickled olives are a ha’etz. After eating a kezayis of cooked or pickled olives, the bra-

cha acharona is al ha’etz.

OLIVE OIL IN HISTORY

Olive oil was used for many things throughout our history. It is one of the seven species for which Eretz Yisroel is praised. Olive oil was used to light the menorah in the mishkan. In addition, it was used in the purification for a person who was recovering from tzara’as. Olive oil was used as an ingredient in the korban mincha. Olive oil was used to soften skins such as animal hides, to gargle for a remedy of a sore throat, to remove hair, and a treatment for headaches and stomach disorders. It was also used to heal wounds.

HOW IS OLIVE OIL MADE? Background Olives are harvested by shaking them off the tree onto a sheet on the ground. More sophisticated facilities have a special harvesting machine. They are sent to the factory where the olives are placed on a vibrating table to remove leaves and other debris. A crusher grinds the olives into a paste. The oil is then removed from the paste through a process called centrifuge. (Some vegetable oils are extracted from the seed of a vegetable, such as corn, soybeans, peanuts, hazelnuts, and sunflowers. Some vegetable oils come from the “fruit of the vegetable,” as in olives and palm.) A variety of processes are used to extract oils. Olive oils are graded according to their acidity levels. The best-quality oils are called cold-pressed, a chemical-free process that involves only pressure and produces oils that are low in acidity. Extra virgin olive oil, a cold-pressed oil, is only one percent acid and is considered the finest and

fruitiest of the olive oils. Extra virgin olive oil undergoes no refining process; the sediment is allowed to settle and the oil is sold as is. Cold Pressing Cold pressing is also known as physical or mechanical extraction, as it does not use processing aids. All varieties of vegetable oils are expressed through chemicals and heat. Cold pressing is unique to olive oil. Olive oil is truly one of Hashem’s unique creations. It is the only fruit oil that can be extracted through cold pressing. This means that the oil only needs to be squeezed out; no further refining is required before it is ready for consumption. Although the heavy grindstones and millstones that crushed and expressed the olive oil in ancient times have given way to mechanical crushers and centrifuges, cold pressing extraction has remained virtually unchanged. The olive oil’s quality is rated by its acidity content. If there is little or no acidity, then this supreme quality olive oil is labeled extra extra virgin; up to .5% acidity, the oil is considered extra virgin; and from 1 to 1.5% acidity, virgin olive oil. The oil is filtered through a cold filter press and is ready to go. Extra virgin olive oil comes from the first pressing of the olive. Virgin olive oil comes from additional pressings of the olives. Pomace olive oil is extracted sometimes with the aid of solvents and enzymes from the remaining mass of pulp residues and pits of the olives after the initial pressings. This is the lowest quality oil and has more concerns for adulteration. The pomace oils are subject to more processing for refining in equipment that could have been used for non-kosher oils as well.

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BRACHA ON OLIVE OIL

One who consumes olive oil as is does not recite a bracha since it is damaging and not enjoyable. This is true even if one eats the oil with bread. However, there is a possible exception in a case where one eats a little bread with olive oil, and the oil is being consumed to soothe his throat. The poskim debate whether a bracha is recited on the oil and no bracha on the bread. The bracha would be a ha’etz, followed by an al ha’etz if one consumed the shiur. Based on this, the Aruch Hashulchan suggests that a bracha would be recited on olive oil because it would be a benefit in certain cases (perhaps their olive oil was better tasting than ours). Some poskim are of the opinion that our oil is better than in the time of the Gemara and Shulchan Aruch, and one would recite a bracha on olive oil when eaten alone. However, this is not the accepted custom.

OLIVE OIL FOR CHANUKAH

The miracle of Chanukah was that olive oil was found after the victory against the Yevonim and it lasted eight days. Since the miracle happened with olive oil, it is preferable to use olive oil for the mitzvah of lighting the menorah. In addition, olive oil produces a clear light. Based on the first reason, one should try to use extra virgin cold pressed olive oil, which is the type of olive oil used in the Bais Hamikdash. Many oils do not burn cleanly. Nevertheless, one fulfills the mitzvah even if the flame goes out. Therefore, all oils are permitted for Chanukah. The opinion of some poskim is that the olive oil used for Chanukah should be edible.

LIGHTING WITH WAX

Wax candles may be used if olive oil is very expensive. Nonetheless, one should light with oil on the first night. Others say that one should use olive oil even if it is very expensive. There are many circles that light with wax candles since their light is as clear as olive oil. Some poskim say that lighting with wax is not acceptable. However, this is not the custom, and lighting with wax is acceptable but not the preferred method. Those who have the custom to light with wax candles should make sure they are long, since they look nicer. The Chai Adom says that wax is only per-

mitted if there is no oil available. Some poskim frown on the practice of using both oil and candles on the same menorah, as people will conclude that two people are lighting one menorah, and are not fulfilling mehadrin min hamehadrin. Others are lenient. According to some poskim one can light on one night with oil and other nights with wax. One can light the menorah with some olive oil and some other kind of oil as well. One who prepared to light with wax candles and then received a supply of olive oil should light with the olive oil even if the menorah was already set up with the wax candles. One who is lighting on the road (he is away for Chanukah) may light with wax candles. There is no need for the shamash to be lit with olive oil; using a wax candle is permitted. There is a discussion in the poskim if children have to be given olive oil or if they can light with wax. The consensus is that giving them wax is permitted even l’chatchilah. One should not use olive oil which was stored under a bed unless the olive oil is bitter tasting. The reason for this is because there is “ruach rah” under a bed.

DOES THE OIL HAVE TO BE YOURS?

There is a discussion in the poskim if one must own the oil used for Chanukah as opposed to borrowing it. Some poskim maintain that one should make sure to pay for the olive oil, while others are not convinced that this is so. If a guest needs to borrow oil from his host, he should either pay for it or ask that it be given as a gift in order to fulfill all opinions.

WOMEN TO PREPARE THE OIL

The Gemara says one who is haragel b’ner – accustomed to lighting (Shabbos and Chanukah) candles – will have children who are talmidei chachamim. Therefore, there is an opinion in the poskim that the wife should prepare the wicks and oil as a segula.

FLOATING WICKS

Many people use floating wicks for Chanukah. Some claim that this is not preferable since the fuel for the flame is the wax coating on the wick

and only later does the oil start to burn. However, this is not the overwhelming opinion of the poskim.

NEW INNOVATIONS

A recent innovation is hard-jelled olive oil lights. The consensus of the poskim is that lighting with this is like lighting with regular olive oil. Another innovation is ready-made disposable glass cups preloaded with oil and wicks. These are permitted, and it is not considered a disgrace for Chanukah and it looks like a proper arrangement.

ELECTRIC LIGHTS

Over the years the question about using an electric Chanukah menorah arose. The electric lights certainly burn as clearly as olive oil. Most of the poskim who dealt with the question maintained that using such a menorah was not allowed. If no other options are available, one should light an electric menorah without a bracha. We will detail some of their reasons below: In order to light a regular fire, the lamp must be in the person’s presence; this is not the case when it comes to an electric light. An electric light is like a torch, which is not valid for the Chanukah lights. The light of an electric menorah does not resemble the light which was used in the Bais Hamikdosh which had wicks and oil. Since one lights with electricity all year round there is no pirsumei nisa that the lighting is being done for Chanukah. The menorah at the time of the miracle was lit by a human, while this is lit by a machine. Those who wish to light an electric light in public to publicize the miracle should light at home with a regular menorah and then light on the street to publicize the miracle.

DOUGHNUTS AND LATKES

The minhag of eating doughnuts and latkes is a zecher of the miracle that happened with oil, since these items are made with oil. Harav Shlomo Zalman Auerbach zt”l said that in regard to latkes if the potatoes are still recognizable, then the bracha is ha’adama. If they are not recognizable, then a shehakol is made. Furthermore, doughnuts that are eaten during the meal, even for dessert, do not require their own bracha. The

poskim advise that one should not eat a lot of doughnuts outside of a bread meal and if one wishes to eat doughnuts at a bread meal he should have in mind to do so when he washes for bread.

UNCOVERED OIL

Many people prepare the oil for the menorah early in the day. In addition, they may use some leftover oil in the cup from the night before. The question is if using oil that was uncovered is in an issue. In the time of Chazal there was a concern that one should not drink water, wine, milk, and honey that was left uncovered because a snake might drink from these beverages and inject some venom into them. Today, snakes are not commonly found and therefore, most of klal Yisroel are not concerned with this halacha (except for Kiddush). However, there are some poskim who say that even today one should be careful with this. The din of uncovered beverages does not apply to oil. Therefore, one is permitted to use oil that was left uncovered for lighting Chanukah neiros.

KASHRUS OF OLIVE OIL

Extra virgin oil is packed at the source so it presents no problem for kashrus. One may purchase such olive oil without a hechsher. However, any other form of olive oil must have a reliable hechsher. Most processed oils are often processed on the same equipment as non-kosher fats, are stored in the same equipment as non-kosher fats, and are shipped on the same carriers as non-kosher fats. Great care, therefore, must be taken to ensure that all these products carry a reliable hechsher.

THE JEWS ARE LIKE OIL

The Medrash says that just as oil in the beginning is bitter and at the end is sweet, so too Torah is hard at first and then one finds it sweet. Just as oil lasts forever, so too Torah lasts forever. Just as oil cannot mix with other liquids, so too Yisroel cannot mix with other nations. Just as oil will rise to the top of other liquids, so too Yisroel is on top of all other nations. Rabbi Moishe Dovid Lebovits is a former chaver kollel of Yeshiva Torah Vodaath and a musmach of Harav Yisroel Belsky shlita. Rabbi Lebovits currently works as the Rabbinical Administrator for the KOF-K Kosher Supervision.

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Let’s Have a Chanukah Party! By Blimy Wassertheil

One of the modern day miracles of Chanukah is throwing a kids party that will leave all kinderlach, mommies, tatties, zaidies, and bubbies smiling and joyful. Between meeting cousins, stuffing their cheeks with donuts (or more precisely the icing and sprinkles…) and counting Chanukah gelt, it’s one of the brightest highlights of the year. To make it successful, advance planning and proper coordination is of utmost importance. To help with that daunting task, we have compiled a list of kids’ party ideas to make this year’s party an unforgettable one!

DELIGHTFUL DECOR

Dreidel straws

Decorate straws in each cup with a felt dreidel topper. Simply cut felt dreidel shapes, make two slits in each, and slip onto the top of the straw.

Dip a plain plastic dreidel in glue and then glitter, and attach a name tag to put at each place setting.

Candy menorah

This makes a beautiful centerpiece. Choose glass cylinders or rectangular vases that are of the same height. Set them up on the table as a “menorah” and fill them with assorted candies – jelly beans, chocolate lentils – in a color that coordinates with your color scheme. Place the middle “shamash candle” on a small block to give it a little height. Don’t worry; the leftover candy can be sent home after the party in goody bags for the children.

Gelt bags

Stack some chocolate gelt in a clear cellophane bag and tie with a ribbon. Looks very impressive on the table and makes a great souvenir.

WHAT’S COOKING?

Aside for standard party fare like nosh and basic kids’ comfort food, it’s nice to have something special on the menu. Children will surely enjoy one of these fun ideas.

Latke Bar

Doughnut Dipping

Greek Yogurt Bar

Set out platters of latkes with some delicious condiments like apple sauce, sour cream, jam, shredded cheese, etc. Kids can get compartmentalized plates to enjoy a latke dipping dish.

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Glitter dreidel

Gelt vase

Fill a plain glass vase with chocolate coins and silk flowers. To incorporate this centerpiece into your program, have kids guess the amount of coins in the vase to win its equivalent in real greenbacks. (Or just to eat the chocolate…)

Set out plain donuts on platters along with some chocolate and/or colored icing. Set up a neat bar of sprinkles, mini chocolate chips, nut crunch, chopped marshmallows, etc. Kids will love creating their personal doughnut.

What better way to celebrate our victory over the Greeks than by eating kosher Greek yogurt? Set up big tubs of Greek vanilla or plain yogurt along with an assortment of granola, sliced bananas, berries, chopped cookies, mini chocolate chips, pomegranate seeds, chocolate syrup, etc.

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You can make it really special by providing sturdy, clear plastic cups that allow kids to experiment with a layering effect.

Dreidel Fries

This can be done in advance by the hostess or by the kids as a party activity. Slice some potatoes and cut dreidel shapes from each slice with cookie cutters. Fry these as you would regular French fries for a true Chanukah specialty.

great transition activity which gets the kids into calm mode from an energetic game. It also gives a chance for stragglers to finish what they’re doing while everyone is busy writing so they can be ready for the next major part of the program.

Tie string around some donuts and hang from the ceiling or doorway. Participants get their hands tied behind their back and they have to race and see who can finish the doughnut first. If you have a crowd, go ahead and tie a few in advance, then slide them down as players finish. The prize for this game is getting to eat the doughnut!

Top Your Own Pizza

Each child receives a flat dough disc. Set up a table with marina sauce, an assortment of shredded cheeses, olive slices, mushroom slices, peppers, fried onions, etc. Kids will love topping their own pizzas! Have them sing a Chanukah song while they wait for it to come out of the oven…

CHANUKAH FUN

Games are the life of the party. Feel free to tweak these activities and craft ideas to suit the age level of your crowd. Make sure to have extras of all supplies and prizes ready to keep things running smoothly.

Chanukah Anagrams

How many words can you make out of the word Chanukah? This is a

Cookie Decorating

Prepare little bags of cookie dough along with Chanukah-themed cookie cutters and a variety of sprinkles. Which kid doesn’t adore baking? For older kids, baked sugar cookies can be distributed along with bottles of ready icing for their decorating pleasure.

Hanging Donut Chomp Race

Wax Sheet Candles

Make your own candles with ready-bought wax sheets. Follow the instructions on the packet to make pretty candles which kids can use in their menorahs.

Painting with Dreidels

Spread a plastic tablecloth or some newspapers and set out shallow plates with washable paint. Each child gets a dreidel and hard paper. Children will dip the dreidel point in paint and spin it on their paper to create one-of-a-kind modern art. Whose painting will rival Jackson Pollock’s?

Pass the Latke

Fishing for Dreidels

Adapt the popular dreidel song tune to the following rhyme: “Take a potato, pat pat pat. Roll it and make it flat flat flat. Fry it in a pan with fat fat fat. Hanukkah latkes just like that.” Once all kids know the song, form a circle and sit down. One child gets a potato and starts to pass it around as all sing the song. An adult blows a whistle and all kids stop singing. The one holding the potato is a “latke” and has to sit in the center. Last one left over wins.

Supplies needed: Wooden dowels, cotton twine or yarn, metal washers, mini dreidels, magnets. Tie string to end of dowel (use hot glue to anchor it better) and attach magnet to other end. Figure out what size of flat metal washer will fit snugly around stem of dreidel, then use hot glue to attach. Place all dreidels in a large pool or empty area. Who can fish for the most dreidels by attracting the washer to the magnet?

Menorah Ring Toss

Flip the Latke

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terials: wooden disc, flat beanbag, painted CD/DVD, thick cardboard, model magic or anything flattish, round and with enough weight to flip well. Attach disc to string, ribbon or elastic and then tie other end to hole in the pan’s handle. Giggles abound...

Musical Dreidel

Human Dreidel

Make a Chanukah Card

A twist on musical chairs with two versions. Version 1: As the music plays, the children pass the dreidel from one to another. When the music stops, whoever has the dreidel spins it. If it’s a gimel, they continue to play; otherwise, they’re out! Version 2: Players march (skip, hop, twirl) in a circle around the chairs while the dreidel is spinning (a veteran spinner should do the spinning). When the dreidel stops, everyone finds a chair or a lap! Unlike in the classical game, no one is “out,” but one chair is removed with each round until, by game’s end, the players are all stacked up on the last remaining chair.

Create a large mat decorated with the four letters of the dreidel – one in each corner. Participants are blindfolded and spin in the center of the mat. After each spin, they take off the blindfold and see where they are facing. Gimel wins a prize, shin is another spin, nun is out, and hei competes with a real dreidel to see who spins longer…

Toss wooden or plastic curtain rings or light-up bracelets onto the arms of a large menorah. Menorah can be real or a dummy menorah made of wooden dowels glued into a block base, or even made of cardboard tubes if you are in a big hurry. Tape the menorah to the floor for stability. Ring size should depend on size of menorah arms. Extra points can be awarded for “lighting” in the correct order.

Players will try to flip the latke from one side to another without letting the latke fall out of pan. Any cheap, small plastic toy pan will do. Make a latke from one of these ma-

Provide stickers, crayons, markers, rubber stamps, and an assortment of paper. Kids will pick a name out of a hat and make a special card for that party member.

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Bobker on Chanukah By Joe Bobker

Chanukah or Chanukah (“Chanukah O Chanukah”) A yom tov a sheiner (“A festival so beautiful”) A lustiker, a freilicher (“With its lights and its happiness”) Nisht do noch a zeiner.. (“There’s nothing that compares to it”)

n the Venice Ghetto, Jews during the Middle Ages would row through the watery streets on gondolas looking for the tell-tale chanukkiahs and then burst into joyful song when they spotted one. When R’ Eliezer and R’ Joshua heard that the Jews of Lydda, near Tel Aviv, had fasted during Chanukah, they were so upset that they staged another fast to atone for the Chanukah fast. Chanukah, as a champion of liberty and a festival of joy, prohibits sadness, fasting, mourning, and, uniquely dif-

ferent from all other Jewish festivals, encourages fun, games and partying. It is an extraordinary user-friendly, delectable yom tov with its own Chanukah cuisine. We eat special foods: latkes, a special kind of fried potato pancake derived from the Greek word for olive oil (avoid the latkes that have more oil in them than Saudi Arabian oil fields!), and jelly doughnuts, “the sweet, fattening face of Chanukah” (last year 95% of Israeli households bought 32,000,000 doughnuts).

We give gifts (usually on the fifth night) and thrifty d’mei Chanukah, “Chanukah gelt”; thrifty because we don’t use real cash but chocolate coins with Maccabean symbols, handed out on the first night, a light-hearted activity whose origin was more serious. Originally coinage, introduced during the Persian Empire, was a sign of national independence, something denied to Judea while under foreign domination. Thus the Judaic right to mint an independent coinage became a major symbolic feature of the

Maccabean struggle. We tell stories – about the beautiful widow Judith who risked her life to save the Jews of Jerusalem under siege from General Holofernes; we sing special songs, Hanerot Hallalu and the six-stanza poem Maoz Tzur, “Rock of Ages,” the Chanukah motif hymn par excellence, with lyrics that go back to the early 14th-century by Mordechai ben Yitzchak HaLevi, a German Jew whose authorship is enshrined in the acrostic formed by the first letters of its five opening stanzas, that “thanks G-d for Jewish survival against Pharaoh, Babylonia, Haman, and Antiochus”; and we play games. “Dreidel, dreidel, dreidel, I made it out of clay. And when it’s dry

and ready, Oh dreidel I shall play.” The dreidel (sevivon, in Hebrew) is synonymous with Chanukah. The term is a derivative of a German word meaning “top” and is adapted from an old German gambling activity which is why some European rabbis tried to discourage their communities from indulging in this games of chance. But they were unsuccessful. Even Rabbi Moshe Schreiber, the strict and uncompromising Chasam Sofer, spun a precious silver dreidel every year, and has anyone seen the faces of Belzer chassidim staring in awe as their Rebbe, R’ Ahron Rokeach, spins his dreidel? The dreidel’s tiny spinning top is etched with four Hebrew letters – nun, gim-

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mel, hey, shin –which stand for nes gadol haya sham, “a great miracle happened here.” In Israel, these letters are changed to reflect that “here” means Palestine; there is a pey for po (here) and a shin for sham (there). In our home we play it with a max-

“cash” (i.e.; Chanukah gelt). For example: If it’s a nun, the initial for the Yiddish word nishi (nothing), the player does nothing; if it’s a hey, the initial of halb (half) the “spinner” takes half of the money; if it’s a shin, which represents shtel (put), a certain amount

a predetermined number of spins, or after each player drops out. Why eight? The question, which seems as old and as popular as Chanukah itself, refers to lighting candles for eight days instead of seven,

“For such a little bit of oil, such a big festival?” - Yiddish saying

imum of four or five players who each put an equal number of pennies (or chocolate Chanukah gelt) in the center. Each then spins the dreidel in turn, and, depending on the “roulette” letter it lands on, gets to do something with the

has to be contributed; and if a gimmel, short for gantz (all), it’s the jackpot and the excited player gets to keep the entire house (whoops, sorry, Chanukah gelt). This continues until there is no more gelt left, or after

the extra length of time that a flask enough to light oil for one day was stretched, a timeframe that is the spiritual essence of Chanukah itself. I’ve heard many answers. Rabbi Yosef Caro of Shulchan Aruch fame gives us at least

three; there are over a hundred in total ranging from the traditional (dividing one night’s oil into eight equal amounts) to the military (the first day commemorates the victory over the Greeks) to the mystic (just like Moses’ burning bush never consumed itself, the light of Israel burns longer than normal). Here’s my favorite. It comes courtesy of Rabbi Yehonoson Eibshitz, a brilliant 18th-century Talmudist, posek, and Kabbalist who served as the Rav of Altona, Hamburg, and Wandsbek, Germany. Rav Eibshitz focused on the intrigue of the last day because it was “the eighth,” a supernatural number he believed had the potency to shape time and history. Its power is derived from being Yom Ha-Shemini, the “eighth day” after Creation, the first workday after the week was “completed” with G-d “resting” on the seventh day (Shabbos). Rabbi Samson Raphael Hirsch, the brilliant German founder of the Torah im Derech Eretz School, Rabbi Judah Loew of Prague (Maharal) and Rabbi Shlomo Ehpraim Lunschitz (Kli Yakar), the chief rabbi of Prague, saw the number eight as a symbol of the spiritual. Everything natural in the world, they argued, was related to the number “seven,” a weekly cycle seemingly the norm in the building block of human time; in contrast, the spiritual attached itself to the number eight. Consider: The covenantal eighth day circumcision (bris) as the spiritual birth of an infant boy; all the “eights” related to the Mishkan (Tabernacle), the bastion of spirituality that transcended the realm of normal time (eight articles of clothing for the High Priest, eight spices of incense, eight carrying poles, and so on); eight strings on

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the tzitzis, a reminder of G-d; the “eighth” day of Succos (Shmini Atzeret) as a “Special Day” of unity between G-d and Jews. Even the Yiddishists were attracted to the number eight: they took Chanukah’s first two letters (c-h) and introduced into the vocabulary – the expression chein, which means “wholesome,” as one of eight Hebrew synonyms for beauty and charm, each symbolizing one of the eight candles. And who could stop the gematria groupies: they linked the numerical value of Hashmonaim not just to shemonei, for the “eight” days, but to shemen, Hebrew for....yep, oil! Rav Eibshitz had an interesting computation that goes as follows: when Adam left Eden he ended up in the northern hemisphere of the land of Israel where, unlike Eden whose days and nights were of equal length, he experienced a time between Tishrei and Teves where the days were getting shorter and the nights longer. Adam panicked. He thought the world was closing in on him. When the day-night cycle began to reverse on the second day of Teves after the Winter Solstice he gave thanks to G-d for the next eight days. This eight-day period was later hijacked by Adam’s descendants and turned into a festival of avoda zora; the Talmud calls it Kaladaria. Rav Eibshitz became convinced that the number ten – i.e.: two days plus eight days – had great significance in the flow of history. He began assembling proof. “And G-d said” during Creation appears ten times, the Israelites are freed after ten plagues, there are Ten Commandments, a minyan requires (at least) ten Jews, and so on. He then analyzed the tenth day of the month on the Jewish calendar and uncovered a re-

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markable pattern. The tenth day of the first month in each of the three-month periodic seasons, is either very good, because Adam thanked G-d, or very bad, because of its association with avoda idolatry. Consider: the tenth of Teves (Asara B’Teves) was a joyful period during the Second Temple only to become a day of mourning after Nebuchadnezzar besieged Jerusalem. Three months later comes Nisan 10, a great day for the Israelites in Egypt when they prepare for a sacrifice (korban Pesach). Three months later, we have Tammuz 10, not a good day as the walls of Jerusalem are breached, followed by Tishrei 10 three months later which, being Yom Kippur, is good for some, bad for others. Rav Eibshitz became “hooked” on this recurring day and announced he had an antidote to ensure that each of these “tenth days” is not “uncertain” but always good. They are the four “T’s.” Torah for the month of Teves because its long nights are suited for learning, tzedaka for Nisan, tefila for Tammuz, and teshuva for Tishrei. By embracing these “T’s” after the “eighth (last) day” of Chanukah, the Jew has an opportunity to start fresh, a time of new and good beginnings, to reenter and continue a cycle of Jewish festivals, a calendar thread of Judaic experiences that humbly weave their way through the tapestry of Jewish continuity. If we look closely enough we see the human heroism, the dignity and triumph of the individual Jew. On Purim we see Mordechai, the popular leader of Persian Jewry, wandering the streets of Shushan in numbness and shock while Esther, an “ordinary young Jewess” with an extraordinarily strong emunah, seizes the moment,

Lighting the menorah in Kiel, Germany, in 1931

stands up to Haman, and saves the day. On Pesach we see its direct effect not through Moses who seemingly stands lost in prayer at Pi-hahiroth but through R’ Nachshon, an “ordinary Jew” with an extraordinarily strong emunah who steps out into the raging waters and forces G-d’s Hand. The chronology is revealing: the “supernatural” came

Chanukah in Westerbork Transit Camp, December 1943

retained their extraordinary emunah. And on Chanukah? While Jews were aggressively dancing around the golden calf of the Greek Weltanschauung, aping Greek names, manners, clothes – even reversing circumcisions so as not to be “Jewishly” embarrassed as they frolicked nude in the Palaestra and Gymanasia – the heroism came not from the

ger-than-expected miracle in the Talmud. R’ Chanina ben Dosa once found his daughter depressed because in her pre-Shabbos haste she had mistakenly filled the Shabbos lamps with vinegar instead of oil. He told her not to worry, “The One Who told oil to burn will tell the vinegar to burn!” And it did. Throughout Shabbos. There was even enough for havdalah! This remark-

The greatest nes is that there are still Jews of faith left to light the candles of Chanukah. The rest, as they say, is history – amply illuminated.

only after “natural” Jews acted, a sequence that reinforces G-d’s role in Jewish history. Meanwhile on Simchat Torah we once stood stunned in awe and pride as “ordinary Soviet Jews” danced in the shadow of the Kremlin. On Rosh Hashana we recall the extraordinary emunah of Jews in death camps who risked their lives to smuggle in a shofar. On Succ-s we saw the longings of “ordinary exile Jews” as they overcame extraordinary obstacles to reach their promised land. On Tisha B’Av we saw it in the scarred facial lines of hope and optimism of Holocaust survivors who

High Priests nor the rabbis of Jerusalem but through an “ordinary elderly Jew” (Matisyahu) from a small and obscure village, a man with the same extraordinarily strong emunah; a man so outraged at the Hellenization of the Holy Land that he, and his family, including his daughter who inspired Jewish mothers to continue circumcision despite its “illegality,” (and in whose honor women do not work while the candles burn) became a catalyst of courage that moved Jewish bravery to center stage. Chanukah is not the only recorded burning-lon-

able faith is echoed in the lyrics of Haneros Hallalu, “For the miracles and wonders…in those days and in these days.” Like pristine candles in the wind, the Jewish folk have shone on despite staring into the face of a stark black night in the dead of history’s winters, constantly and miraculously emerging as the “light unto the nations,” a declaration that never ends; that Israel never dies; that the dream continues to burn in the hearts of perhaps only the few, but the whole burns so bright that no tempest can quench it. The greatest miracle of

all is not that one day’s oil burnt for eight days but that the cumulative light of those eight are still afire after all the forced conversions and crucifixions, pogroms and stakes, death marches and gas chambers. The greatest nes is that there are still Jews of faith left to light the candles of Chanukah. The rest, as they say, is history – amply illuminated. This is the lesson behind the Jewish festivals. That we ought not worry. If Pesach’s slogan was Let My People Go, Chanukah’s became Let My People Glow! And the brightest and best glow was the last, the mystical “eighth,” when the wicks not only burned eight times brighter than the first day but even the lonely and sequestered shamash, for the first time no longer asymmetrical, suddenly seemed animated, coming alive, burning equally and majestically with all the others, his duty done. Yes, it was a nes gadol haya sham. Shelo yichbe neiro l’olam v’ed, the light will burn forever. Why? Because G-d helps those who help themselves. Because in each generation we have among us ordinary Jews with the extraordinary ability to hear that same “still small voice” that Elijah heard in the desert – and rise to the occasion, single-handedly changing the course of Jewish destiny and restoring Jewish faith and desire, hope and confidence, dignity and optimism. Who could ask for more? Joe Bobker is the former editor and publisher of The Los Angeles Jewish Times and author of the popular Torah with a Twist of Humor series; his fifteen volumes in the series Historiography of Orthodox Jews and the Holocaust will be published next Pesach. He can be reached at jbobker@gmail.com.

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Potato Kugel Latke By Naomi Nachman

I love the idea of making waffles instead of latkes for this Chanukah. Waffles have been super trendy in the food world (and I don’t have to stand over a frying pan for hours). People have been pouring all kinds of funky batters in their waffle makers,such as red velvet cake batter, ricotta cheese pancake batter (see my recipe on my blog, theaussiegourmet. com), falafel batter, and even chocolate chip cookie batter. You can have so much fun experimenting with the batters and the toppings. When I made the potato latke waffle, I served it with pulled beef by Jack’s Gourmet Sausages and some sautéed onions as toppings. The waffles reheated really well and they also are good as a side dish or appetizer. Ingredients 6 potatoes 1 large onion 4 eggs 1 tablespoon kosher salt Dash white pepper 2 teaspoons canola oil Preparation In a food processor blend potatoes and onions. Add eggs and oil. Pour into a mixing bowl and add salt and pepper. Turn on your waffle maker and preheat it according to directions. Add enough potato batter to fill the waffle maker and cook until ready. When ready make a stack of your fresh waffles and serve them with different toppings.

Naomi Nachman, the owner of The Aussie Gourmet, caters weekly and Shabbat/ Yom Tov meals for families and individuals within The Five Towns and neighboring communities, with a specialty in Pesach catering. Naomi is a contributing editor to this paper and also produces and hosts her own weekly radio show on the Nachum Segal Network stream called “A Table for Two with Naomi Nachman.” Naomi gives cooking presentations for organizations and private groups throughout the New York/New Jersey Metropolitan area. In addition, Naomi has been a guest host on the QVC TV network and has been featured in cookbooks, magazines as well as other media covering topics related to cuisine preparation and personal chefs. To obtain additional recipes, join The Aussie Gourmet on Facebook or visit Naomi’s blog. Naomi can be reached through her website,www.theaussiegourmet.com or at (516) 295-9669.

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Midreshet Shalhevet Alumnae Dinner in Yerushalayim

he Annual Midreshet Shalhevet Israel Alumnae reunion took place Sunday night in Yerushalayim. The alumnae met Rosh Yeshiva Rabbi Friedman for dinner at the popular Café Rimon. Although the girls have stayed in touch and see each other on a regular basis, they were so excited to see their Rav and catch up with their high school friends. The girls are all truly making the most of every moment of their time in Israel and gaining as much as possible. A couple of girls told Rabbi Friedman that the education they received at Midreshet Shalhevet has enabled them to feel confident with their ability to learn in the beit midrash at the next level. In fact, some of the things they are learning now in seminary, they already covered in high school! As Daniella Azose, currently at Midreshet Moriah, recently said, “I didn’t realize the extent to which I have to be thankful. Midreshet Shalhevet instilled in me a strong foundation in Torah and provided answers to complicated philosophical questions. So far in my time in Israel I see that most

L-R: Rabbi Friedman, Tehila Cohen, Tali Roth, Shira Farber, Riki Gruenburg, Shoshi Gross, Tova Gordon, Daniella Azose, Dassa Bitterman, Devora Chait, Rivky Katz, Miriam Blonder, and Dassi Schneider

girls are constantly asking questions in class because their high schools only barely touched upon these topics. I feel so privileged that I had the opportunity throughout high school to discuss concepts and receive solid answers. Additionally, I owe credit to Midreshet Shalhevet for building my textual reading and translating skills. I feel so prepared for my seminary courses and cannot thank you enough. I want to come back; those were the best four years of my life!” Over a delicious dinner, there was an active discussion with questions raised on the relationship of Torah to

science, so, Rabbi Friedman gave an impromptu mini shiur on the halachic aspects comparing ner Chanukah to ner Shabbat and the hashkafic symbolism of each, based on the Rav. The key point Rabbi Friedman made is that a person has the ability to reach out and find Hashem in the best of situations -- when the sun is shining and its light replaces darkness, and in the most challenging times when the world around them is dark. Ner Chanukah is a light from which we can derive no benefit. It’s not a light that dissipates darkness. The Rav compared it to a twinkling star far away, outside

is dark but we know that in the great distance, Hashem, the Creator of the star, beckons us to come closer to him. Chanukah took place during times when there was anti-Semitism and assimilation, and despite it, we were able to return to Hashem. Rabbi Friedman was “very impressed with their level of sophisticated learning, probing questions and creative answers. I am confident that iy”H in the years ahead, they will all be accomplished women who view everything from a Torah perspective.”

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Rav Gigi Inspires Talmidim at Rambam

ast week, the boys at Rambam were privileged to hear a surprise shiur from Rav Baruch Gigi, Rosh Yeshiva at Yeshivat Har Etzion. Rav Gigi, who has a jammedpacked schedule when he comes to New York, came to Rambam because of the special and longstanding relationship that Rambam has with “Gush.” Earlier in the day, Rav Gigi spoke in Manhattan and immediately after speaking at Rambam, Rav Gigi heading to New Jersey to speak once again. “We know how tight his schedule is and we certainly did not want to impose, but when we got the invitation, we jumped at the opportunity!” said Rambam’s Rosh Mesivta, Rabbi

Zev Meir Friedman. Rav Gigi spoke about the lessons to be learnt from Yakov Avinu, who worked 24/6 for Laban. “The Torah tells us the Yakov endured the cold of winter and the heat of summer and didn’t sleep for many years. How is such a thing possible – we know it is impossible to go 3 days without sleep?” asked Rav Gigi. Rav Gigi explained that the Torah means to tell us about “Personal Responsibility.” Yakov never slept because his responsibility was always with him: “It was always on his head.” Continuing, Rav Gigi mentioned that the Gemara derives from the Torah’s account the extent by which a “shomer” must watch an object. Accord-

ing to one opinion, a paid watchman must stay with the object all the time and can’t even lock it up safely without being physically present. “Our job is to be responsible and serve Hashem 24/ 7,” said Rav Gigi. He recounted that in the early days of the Yeshiva, Rav Aharon Lichtenstein zt”l used to play basketball with the talimidm and “always made sure to run up and down the court. He used to chastise the boys who waited under the basket, saying that they weren’t putting forth their full effort.” Rav Gigi’s message echoed that of Chazal who taught “Lefum tzara agra, in accordance with effort is the reward.”

The talmidim truly enjoyed the shiur and were inspired by his words.

Renowned Author Rav Yosef Zvi Speaks to HANC High School BMP Classes

n Friday, November 20, HANC High School welcomed Rabbi Yosef Zvi Ri-

mon, an eminent talmid chacham and prolific author. Rav Rimon is founder and chairman of the

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came with prepared questions regarding contemporary halachot of Shabbat and tefilla. Rav Rimon answered their questions in a clear and concise manner and as is his way, he explained the various halachot and the reasoning behind them. Rav Rimon then addressed a different group of students on the very important topic of “Finding Your Own Voice in Tefilla.” The visit served as a great source of inspiration to students and faculty alike. HANC thanks the Lichtman and Kirschenbaum families who arranged and generously sponsored Rav Rimon’s visit l’zecher nishmat Shani Kirschenbaum, Shoshana bat Binyomin Ze’ev, daughter of Aileen and Ben Kirschenbaum, an alumnus of HANC.

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The “Suicide-Vest” Worn by Terrorists; The “Mitzvah-Vest” Worn by Jews

ould you like to have your own Mitzvah-Vest? Rabbi Perl at Chabad of Mineola is distributing free pairs of tzitzit to anyone who would like to start this mitzvah. Simply email us your name and address to rabbiperlwebcasts@ gmail.com. A suicide vest is an improvised explosive device worn by suicide bombers. Now let’s compare this weapon of destruction to the “Mitzvah Tzitzit Vest” worn by Jews. A Tzitzit-Vest is a Model of Faith There is a biblical command to attach fringes to the corners of four-cornered garments. The garments which sport these fringes, known as tallit and tzitzit, serves as constant reminders of our obligations to G-d and our fellows. Tzizit are the fringes placed on these four-cornered garments (tallit—the larger Jewish prayer shawl) and on one such smaller garment, called arba kanfot, which is generally worn under the shirt. Putting on the arba kanfot in the morning and wearing it all day is an active affirmation of G-d’s presence. It is a personal reminder of what the Jew is expected to be and do. Being literally covered

with this “mitzvah vest” helps keep one from “forgetting” and succumbing to unworthy weakness. The Tallit has Two Parts The garment itself and the tzitzit or fringes. The garment surrounds our body, and the fringes hang off it. They represent the two aspects of G-d’s being. His true self is totally beyond our capacity to grasp, represented by the garment that envelops us. It is only a tiny fraction of His being, the little fringes dangling off the corners that we can experience. No matter how holy we feel, G-d is infinitely holier. He is the tallit that surrounds us. But no matter how unholy we feel, G-d comes down to us and asks us to talk to Him. He is the tzitzit reaching down for us to grab onto and kiss. Let’s strengthen and protect ourselves with this mitzvah! Would you like to start wearing a Mitzvah Vest under your shirt? Chanukah Free Gifts In honor of Chanukah, we are giving away, 36 sets of tzitzit. First come, first served to the persons who email us their name and postal address. No costs. No obligations. One set per family. Spread the words to your friend and neighbors. Email us at rabbiperlwebcasts@gmail.com.

Local Rav Publishes Great Jewish Treasures

abbi Moshe Bamberger, Mashgiach Ruchani of Beis Medrash L’Talmud / Lander College for Men, and author of the highly acclaimed Great Jewish Letters and Great Jewish Speeches (Artscroll/ Mesorah), is releasing his latest masterpiece just in time for Chanukah, entitled Great Jewish Treasures: A Collection of Precious Judaica Associated with Torah Leaders. Rabbi Bamberger, in his newest volume, brings his talent for finding fascinating and unusual historical facts and stunning visual images to the world of rabbinic artifacts. In this lavishly designed, full-color coffee-table book, the reader will

be taken on a virtual tour of a museum of Gedolei Yisrael: viewing the ancient seal of the Ramban, which was only recently unearthed in the Holy Land; being dazzled by the exquisite Torah crown of the Ruzhiner Rebbe; and beholding the “Last Ketzos” sold in America. Also on display is the shofar used by the Bluzhover Rebbe in Bergen-Belsen, Rabbi Aharon Kotler’s grand blueprint for Beth Medrash Govoha, and over 130 other sacred and historic items of the past millennium. Each artifact has a biographical sketch of the Torah personality associated with it, and highlights the significance of the object to that leader’s unique mission in life.

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Centerfold

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Riddle me

Yankel and his wife Henchel were getting ready to go out to dinner. Before leaving the house, Henchel says, “Yankel, you think I should wear this Chanel coat or shall I put on the Gucci coat?” “Vat’s the difference? They are both nice,” says Yankel Henchel then asks, “Yankel, shall I wear my Rolex or my Cartier watch?” “A watch is a watch,” says Yankel. Henchel then asks, “Yankel, shall I wear my 5 carat pear or my 6 carat round diamond?” To which Yankel responds, “Henchel, if you don’t get your act together and soon – we are going to miss the Early Bird Special!”

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Siblings Sara, Moshe, Chaya, Leah, and Tzvi all got Chanukah presents from their parents. Sara got her present before Chaya, but after Moshe. Leah got her present first. If Tzvi got his gift after Chaya, in what order did the siblings get their presents? See answer on next page

Send us your photo(s) of what Chanukah means to you—it could be your family lighting candles, you and your siblings at your Chanukah party, Grandma playing dreidel or Grandpa eating a jelly doughnut (or two…or three), etc. We want to see what makes Chanukah special to you. Make sure the photo includes the people you love most. Be one of the first 30 people to send in your photo(s) and we’ll send you a $10 Berrylicious gift card! V.I.I. (Very Important Information): • The contest starts Sunday night, the first night of Chanukah • Email the photos to editor@fivetownsjewishhome.com with the word “contest” in the Subject line • Include your name, age, and mailing address in the email (unless you want to donate your Berrylicious gift card to the Centerfold Commissioner) • The photo(s) must have people in them • Photos may be printed in a future issue of TJH so make sure to smile big! • Only the first 30 people who send in their photo(s) will receive the gift card • One gift card per family • Enjoy!

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1. How many years ago did the miracle of Chanukah take place? a. 3206 b. 2113 c. 1461 d. 1402 2. What does “Maccabee” mean? a. Star b. Courage c. Soldier d. Hammer 3. What is the total number of candles lit during Chanukah? a. 44 b. 36 c. 54 d. 28 4. Which city did the Maccabees live in? a. Yerushalayim b. Beit Shemesh c. Modi’in d. Chevron 5. Who of the following was not one of Matisyahu’s five sons? a. Yehuda b. Yonasan c. Shimon d. Eliyahu 6. What modern day country were the “Greeks” based in? a. Syria b. Greece

c. Rome d. Iran 7. Who bowed down to Shimon Hatzaddik? a. Antiyoches b. Matisyahu c. Alexander the Great d. Helifornus 8. Which of Noach’s children were the Greeks descendants of? a. Shem b. Chom c. Yofes d. His daughter Answers:

1-B 2-D 3-A 4-C 5-D 6-A 7-C 8-C Wisdom key:

6-8 correct: You know your Chanukah facts (but can you tell me how it’s spelled? See side column). 4-5 correct: Do you also light only half of the candles? 0-3 correct: You’re so behind on your Chanukah facts that you probably didn’t even put up your sukkah yet.

Chanukwhat? With so many ways to spell it, put the following spellings in order of the amount of Google hits they generate: Chanukkah Chanukah Channukah Hanukka Hanukah Hannukkah Hannukah Chanuka Hanuka Hanukkah Channuka Chanukka Hannuka Answer: Correct order along with number of hits Hanukkah : 18,400,000 Hanukah : 12,200,000 Chanukah : 5,600,000 Hannukah : 557,000 Hanuka : 486,000 Chanuka : 416,000 Chanukkah : 389,000 Hanukka : 248,000 Chanukka : 206,000 Channukah : 157,000 Hannuka : 67,000 Hannukkah : 107,000 Channuka : 30,600 Why don’t they just spell it in Hebrew?

Answer to riddle: Leah got her present first, then Moshe, then Sara, then Chaya, and then Tzvi.

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Torah Thought

Parshas Vayeishev By Rabbi Berel Wein

Our father Yaakov finally makes it home to the Land of Israel, the land promised by G-d to his ancestors… that their descendants would inherit and dwell therein. Rashi, according to rabbinic tradition, portrays our great patriarch as somehow viewing his return to the Land of Israel as being the final chapter in his difficult and turbulent life.

he Land of Israel, so to speak, is perceived by him to be a place where serenity and quiet retirement can be achieved. However, as he will find out in the tragic events that will unfold regarding Yosef and his brothers, dwelling in the Land of Israel is certainly no guarantee of peace and quiet. It is a place of challenge and constant demands, and of personal and national difficulties and struggles. It never was meant to be viewed as a giant retirement community for the Jewish people. Even though the Torah will refer to it as being a place of “rest and inheritance” it was always intended to be a place of accomplishment and progress, of holiness and service. To achieve holiness and to be of true service to G-d and human be-

ings requires constant effort and sacrifice. It is not an easy road to traverse. Yaakov saw the Land of Israel as a place of refuge, serenity and quietude. The Lord apparently did not agree with that assessment. The Jewish people will have to be formed into a nation, with the Land of Israel being viewed as its home base. Nation-building is never an easy task and the symbol for the difficulty of this task in Jewish life will be the return of the Jewish people to their ancient and rightful homeland, the Land of Israel. Currently, part of the difficulty with regard to the attitude of many Jews towards the state of Israel, with all of its imperfections and difficulties, is due to the misreading of the promise inherent in the creation of a Jewish national entity in the Land of Israel. Many saw it as somehow being the solution to all Jewish problems, a place that would somehow

It is a real place with real problems because it contains real people

guarantee eternal happiness. Political Zionism taught that the creation of such a state would reduce anti-Semitism throughout the world. If anything, the Jewish state and its mere existence have exacerbated this scourge of anti-Semitism. It now dis-

guises itself as anti-Israel but all of us know what is really meant. The return of the Jewish people in our time to their ancestral homeland has not brought about the creation of utopia. Rather it has placed before us a great number of challenges – financial, familial, and spiritual – and many difficult dilemmas. The State of Israel has not turned out to be the supreme retirement home that we envisioned while living

in the Diaspora. Instead, it is a real place with real problems because it contains real people. It is engaged in constructing a real society that will embody the holiness of Jewish tradition and the practicality of the world in which we live. If we view it correctly and resolve not to see it through falsely nostalgic eyes, we will prosper as did our father Yaakov long ago. Shabbat shalom.

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Torah Shmuz

Parshas Vayeishev Living Like a Rock By R’ Ben Tzion Shafier

And Yaakov lived in the lands in which his father sojourned, the land of Canaan. - Bereishis 37: 1

ashi tells us that after the Torah described the life of Eisav in an abbreviated man-

ner, it then told over the events in the life of Yaakov in full detail. The reason for this is that Yaakov and what occurred to him are important in the eyes of Hashem, whereas Eisav and his life aren’t. So too, Rashi explains, we find with the ten generations from Adam to Noach. Each individual gets a mere mention un-

til we get to the life of Noach. Then the Torah elaborates in full detail. The same pattern is repeated with the ten generations from Noach till Avrohom. We are told in condensed form – “so and so gave birth to so and so” – until we get to the life of Avrohom. Then the Torah again goes into great detail because the life and activities of tzaddikim are important in the eyes of Hashem, whereas those of rashiim aren’t significant. Rashi continues with a mashal

to help explain this concept. Imagine a man has lost a precious stone in the sand. He takes a sieve and begins combing through the sand to find it. The sieve picks up many small rocks along with the gem that he is searching for. Once he finds the gem, he takes it out and throws the rocks away. This Rashi becomes difficult to understand when we focus on the purpose of a mashal. Chazal use parables to help bridge a gap. When

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we are dealing with concepts that are outside our frame of reference, our sages often use examples and metaphors to bring difficult ideas into terms that we can understand. For instance, if you were given the task to describe the color purple to a color blind person, how would you portray it? Well, it isn’t blue and it’s not red… The problem is that since this person sees all colors in the grey spectrum, neither point of reference has any meaning. So you might revert to a mashal. Imagine that sounds have color. Then a cello would be a woody brown, and a flute would be a light yellow. In the midrange would be a saxophone, and that’s purple. The purpose of the mashal is to capture the essence of a distant concept and bring it closer. Why does Rashi feel we need a mashal to understand this concept? It seems rather straightforward. Eisav wasn’t important, so the Torah told over his life quickly, whereas Yaakov and what he accomplished are significant, so the Torah went into the details. That seems like an elementary concept, not one that needs repeating or a mashal to help clarify it.

THE VALUE OF A PERSON

The answer to this question is that Rashi is explaining a concept that isn’t obvious at all, namely the true value of a person. If you were to ask a chemist the value of a human being, he might say, “Well, let’s see… So much potassium… so much magnesium… I would estimate his value at about 60 cents.” That would be accurate in one dimension. If we were measuring the value of a human from the perspective of the chemicals that make up his body, we would find him rather inexpensive. However, from a different perspective, the human is the most precious entity on the face of the planet – something so precious that it was worthwhile to create an entire cosmos for just one person. The difference in the value systems manifests itself in the way a person lives his life. If a person leads his life like any other occupant of this planet, as just another member of the animal kingdom, then he has the value of whatever his physical being represents – a couple of pounds of rotting meat. However, if a person recognizes the reason that

Hashem put us on the planet and leads the life of a great person, then his value is incalculable. That is what Rashi seems to be telling us. If the Torah only mentioned Eisav quickly and then elaborated about the life of Yaakov, you would never quite understand the difference in their values. Let me give you a mashal: When a man is looking for a pearl in the sand and he picks up some rocks along with it, they are utterly, totally and completely valueless to him. He throws them back down. The Torah is using this mashal to give us the perspective of the stark difference in value. It wasn’t that Eisav wasn’t as important as Yaakov – he was valueless, something to be discarded. He was a rock. When he left this planet that is all that was left – the body to decay into the ground. This concept is very relevant to us because we tend to get very busy at this thing called life. Working, doing, going, taking care of this, taking care of that… But a person has to ask himself, “What is it that I am so busy with? Granted I have to make a living, agreed that I must take care of many basic physical needs, but has that taken over the focus of my life? Do I spend so much time focused on the mundane issues of survival that it has become the epicenter of my existence? If it does, then I am no different than a beast of burden – I am a rock.” Two men can look identical; yet the difference between them can be the distance from the heavens to the earth. If a person follows his natural tendencies, he may well have wasted the greatest opportunity of his life, and at the end of it all, he will have nothing to show for all of his efforts. Whereas, if a person invests his energies in those values that the Torah teaches us, then he at his very essence becomes more precious than anything that we can imagine and for eternity he will enjoy those phenomenal accomplishments. The entire world was worth creating for him alone. Rabbi Shafier is the founder of the Shmuz.com. The Shmuz is an engaging, motivating shiur that deals with real life issues. All of the Shmuzin are available free of chaarge at the www. theShmuz.com or on the Shmuz app for iPhone or Android.

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Between the Lines

Cheerleaders By Eytan Kobre

We rise by lifting others. — Robert G. Ingersoll

group of frogs was travelling through the woods, when two of them dropped into a pit. The other frogs peered in and, seeing just how deep it was, yelled to their comrades that it would be impossible to make it out. Still, the fallen frogs tried mightily to escape. One of the frogs eventually grew dispirited by the onlookers’ discouraging words and quit and died. But the second frog kept jumping. It seemed that the more the group discouraged him, the harder he tried to escape, until he finally managed to jump right out of the pit. “Didn’t you hear us yelling that you could never make it?” the group asked incredulously. “I’m a bit hard of hearing,” the frog answered. “I thought you were cheering me on.” Our forebears have, from time immemorial, understood the value of encouraging words—and the ethical imperative to offer them to those in need. Yosef found himself languishing in an Egyptian jail on trumped-up charges, when he noticed that two of Paroah’s officers, jailed for their own offenses, looked a bit out of sorts. “And Yosef came to them in the morning and he saw them and behold they were downcast. And he inquired of the officers of Paroah who were with him in the prison of his master saying, ‘Why are your faces troubled today?’” (Bereishis 40:6-7). Now, these officers were the very officers who had conspired with Potiphar to imprison Yosef in the first place. Yosef hardly could be faulted were he to treat them with contempt, much less turn a blind eye to their

apparent despondency. But Yosef did just the opposite. He saw their pain. He felt their pain. And he attempted to lift their spirits (see Rabbeinu Bachaye ad loc.). Putting aside his own troubles (and he had plenty), Yosef empathized with the officers and sought to encourage them. And in the end, Yosef was redeemed for his efforts—the officers learned of Yosef’s ability to interpret dreams and later recommended him to Paroah (see Emes L’Yaakov ad loc.). Despite his own unkind fate, Yosef would not abandon his duty to encourage others in need—even others who had wronged him. Shortly before his passing, R’ Yechezkel Sarna, head of the Chevron Yeshiva, pushed himself to join his students for Maariv, despite feeling ill and weak. Although he arrived after Maariv had concluded, he continued up the steps anyway. When asked why he bothered, R’ Chazkel explained, “Davening with the congregation fulfills a rabbinic obligation, but offering encouraging words to the students fulfills the Torah command to ‘Love your neighbor.’” He was suffering, but that would not stop him from offering encouragement to others. Doing so isn’t simply a nice gesture—it is an absolute duty. “When you see that someone is sad, there is an obligation to try to console him. This is a fulfillment of the commandment to comfort mourners, which includes helping anyone overcome emotional suffering” (Ahavas Chesed 2:2; see Rambam, Avel 14:1-2; see also Rambam, Megilla 2:17). Under certain circumstances, it may even be permitted to lie to cheer up one who is despondent (Niv Sefasayim, pg. 76; see Nedarim 50a). So how do we lift the spirits of those in need? With profound in-

sights into the human psyche? Close relationships developed over many years? Not necessarily. It could be as simple as a friendly greeting, and we are advised to “always be the first to greet every person” (Avos 4:20), a teaching elevated to an art form by R’ Yochanan ben Zakai, who never failed to do so

“I noticed the rabbi being pushed in his wheelchair toward the synagogue. He saw me standing in the doorway and smiled. ‘You have such a beautifully decorated window. It’s so colorful and inviting. Have a nice day.’”

(Berachos 17a). Indeed, some maintain that greeting others is a rabbinic commandment (see Menoras HaMa’or 6:2:1-2; Tehillim 34:15; see also Ralbag, Bereishis 29:4). And, given the benefits to the recipient, it’s easy to understand why. R’ Shlomo Freifeld, zt”l, Rosh Yeshiva of Sh’or Yoshuv, was renowned for his ability to breathe life into oth-

ers—including total strangers—with so much as a friendly greeting. After he passed away, one of his students went to purchase a car, and the dealer asked about R’ Shlomo. “How is the rabbi from Far Rockaway?” “Which one?” the student asked. “The one from Central Avenue.” “Oh, he passed away.” With a pained look on his face, the dealer sighed, “That was my rabbi!” Apparently, the mechanic’s first job years earlier had been with a car dealership near Sh’or Yoshuv. One dark and cold morning, the mechanic opened the shop early, miserable and lonely. “Then, I noticed the rabbi being pushed in his wheelchair toward the synagogue. He saw me standing in the doorway and smiled. ‘You have such a beautifully decorated window. It’s so colorful and inviting. Have a nice day.’ “With that, he continued on his way—and I felt like a person again.” Encouraging others might even take the form of a seemingly-trivial smile, which is why we must greet others with joy—or at least with a cheerful countenance (compare Avos 1:15 and Avos 3:12; see Orchos Chaim 57). That is more valuable to the recipient than a gift (Kesubos 111b; Avos d’Rabi Nosson 13). Indeed, R’ Eliyahu Dessler once admonished a long-faced student, “You are like a thief! You have no right to deprive your friends of the pleasantness of a cheerful face.” R’ Samson Raphael Hirsch put it best when he explained the value of a smile. A smile costs nothing, but gives much. It enriches those

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who receive, without making poorer those who give. It takes but a moment, but the memory of it sometimes lasts forever. None is so rich or mighty that he can get along without it, and none is so poor but that he can be made rich by it. A smile creates happiness in the home, fosters good will in business, and is the countersign of friendship. It brings rest to the weary, cheer to the discouraged, sunshine to the sad, and is nature’s best antidote for trouble. Yet it cannot be bought, begged, borrowed, or stolen, for it is something that is of no value to anyone until it is given away. Some people are too tired to give you a smile. Give them one of yours, as none needs a smile so much as he who has no more to give. Although it requires little effort, there is ample reward for offering cheer and encouragement to others. “One who gives a coin to the poor is blessed with six blessings, and one who offers words of comfort is blessed with eleven blessings” (Bava Basra 9b; cf. Sukka 49b). In fact, it

punches a relatively easy ticket to the World to Come. R’ Beroka once asked Eliyahu HaNavi to identify those worthy of a place in the World to Come (Ta’anis 22a). At first, Eliyahu could identify only one such person, but then two men entered the marketplace. “These,” Eliyahu said, “also are worthy.” Curious to learn their secret, R’ Beroka approached the duo. “What is your occupation?” “We are clowns,” the men answered. “We cheer the disheartened.” R’ Beroka understood immediately that these were no ordinary clowns; the cheer they provided had earned them an exalted place for all eternity. But, in the end, the greatest reward for providing encouragement to others may be the enriched life it confers upon the benefactor. Philosopher and professor Alexander Papaderos once ended a lecture asking whether the audience had any questions. “Yes!” shouted a man from the back. “What is the meaning of life?” The audience chuckled and gath-

ered their belongings to leave, when they heard Papaderos reply boldly, “I can answer your question.” The audience settled back into their seats, eager to hear how he would capture the meaning of life in a brief, off-thecuff response. Drawing from his pocket a small round mirror, Papaderos told how, growing up during the war, his family was very poor and he had no toys. One day, he found a mirror shattered by a German motorcycle. After several fruitless attempts to piece the mirror back together, he discarded all but the largest piece. “This one,” he said, holding the shard for all to see. “I made it round and played with it, becoming increasingly fascinated by the fact that I could reflect light into dark places—deep holes and crevices and closets—places where the sun never shines. It became a challenge for me to get light into the most inaccessible places. “Well, I kept that little mirror and continued the challenge from time to time. As I became a man, I grew to understand that this wasn’t just a childish game I’d invented, but a

metaphor for life itself. I realized that while I am not the source of light, I could reflect light onto others.” And, using the little mirror to shine light onto the face of the questioner in the back, Papaderos concluded, “That is the meaning of life.” There is no shortage of people around us in desperate need of succor. By offering that encouragement—a positive word, a greeting, or even a smile—we emulate G-d Himself. “For so said the Exalted and Uplifted One, Who dwells forever and Whose name is holy: I abide in exaltedness and holiness, but I am with the despondent and lowly of spirit, to revive the spirit of the downtrodden and to revive the heart of the despondent” (Yeshayahu 57:15). And that’s awfully good company.

Eytan Kobre is a writer, speaker, mediator, and attorney living in Kew Gardens Hills with his wife and children. Questions? Comments? Suggestions? E-mail eakobre@outlook.com.

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The Observant Jew

Topsy-Turvy Too By Rabbi Jonathan Gewirtz

ell, Chanukah is fast approaching and soon we’ll be in the throes of holiday ecstasy with dreidels, menorahs, latkes, and presents…lots of presents. If you ask people, “Why do we spin the dreidel?” you’ll likely get the response that when the Greeks banned Torah study, the Jews would write letters on the little tops and spin them, using them to teach Torah. Alternatively, they would hide the books

And if you ask about gifts? That might stump people a little longer, but I recall hearing that it was a child who found the sealed cruse of oil, so in appreciation we started to give Chanukah gelt (money) which morphed into gifts over time. There are also the ideas of not using the light of the menorah to count coins and incentivizing children to learn with money, thereby channeling the physical into the spiritual.

that’s it!” exclaimed the first. “Rose!” he called to his wife in the next room, “What’s the name of that doctor I’m seeing?” [Pause for laughter.] Instead of using the mnemonic device to remember the doctor’s name, he just used it to remember the name of his wife, whom he would ask for the information, entirely missing the point of the exercise. I think that many of the Chanukah customs are top-

When we have parties and eat doughnuts are we taking the opportunity to discuss the miracle of the oil or are we just discussing the miracle of eating a jelly doughnut without getting our shirts dirty?

and spin the little toys as if they were gambling or playing a game when the Greek authorities would approach. How about latkes and doughnuts? Clearly it was because the Hellenists, who went to the gymnasium daily, had something against carbs, right? OK, so maybe not. It’s because these items are fried in oil so they remind us of the miracle of the oil that kept burning for eight days, kind of like Chanukah heartburn.

Does anything seem unusual to you about this so far? Let me tell you a story: A man was discussing his new doctor with a friend. “My memory is slipping so he told me to associate items with names so I could remember them better.” “That’s so interesting,” said his buddy. “What’s the doctor’s name?” The fellow began to think. “OK, what’s a flower that smells good, but has thorns?” “A rose?” suggested his friend. “Yes,

sy-turvy as well. We place the emphasis on the doughnuts, dreidels, and dozens of gifts but forget what they are supposed to remind us of. We play dreidel to remember that they used to go to great lengths to learn Torah, yet we often spend less time on Torah during this holiday. R’ Shmuel Berenbaum, Rosh Yeshiva of Mir New York, asked a question. Why is the eighth day called, “Zos Chanukah, this is Chanukah?”

He said it’s because all week people leave during second seder (afternoon study hall) to go home and light candles at the optimum time. On the afternoon of the eighth day, though, nobody is going to light candles. They are sitting in the Beis Midrash learning. “And that,” he said, “is what Chanukah is really about.” When we have parties and eat doughnuts are we taking the opportunity to discuss the miracle of the oil or are we just discussing the miracle of eating a jelly doughnut without getting our shirts dirty? Just as one says the birchas hagomel (thanking Hashem for saving him from a dangerous situation) in shul when there is a public gathering, so should these Chanukah get-togethers be about sharing stories of appreciation for the miracles Hashem does in our daily lives. What about Chanukah presents? Is the emphasis on what we get, or is it a lesson in appreciation, showing that we remember what someone did for us a long time ago and we don’t say, “What have you done for me lately?” This could be a chance to teach our children and ourselves a great lesson in recognizing the good we receive – that it’s not enough to accept it, but that we must also demonstrate our

appreciation. Are we thinking about the money’s positive uses or is it merely gelt by association? We should be focusing on the spiritual aspects of the holiday instead of the gastronomic ones. Did you know that the Steipler had a custom to give Chanukah gelt on the fifth night of Chanukah? Why? Because it’s the only night that can’t fall out on Shabbos! See? It’s about the spiritual side of things. So, this Chanukah, why not be a trendsetter? Like those cool kids who spin the dreidel from the bottom and make it spin upside down, let’s turn this holiday on its head and starting focusing on the deeper meanings of its customs. Then we can truly light up the nights. Jonathan Gewirtz is an inspirational writer and speaker whose work has appeared in publications around the world. You can find him at www.facebook. com/RabbiGewirtz and follow him on Twitter @RabbiJGewirtz. He also operates JewishSpeechWriter.com, where you can order a custom-made speech for your next special occasion. Sign up for the Migdal Ohr, his weekly PDF Dvar Torah in English. E-mail info@JewishSpeech Writer.com and put Subscribe in the subject.

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‎My Israel Home

A People That Dwells Alone By Gedaliah Borvick

Last Saturday night, I attended the funeral of Ezra Schwartz at Ben Gurion Airport. Ezra was spending this year in a yeshiva with a particular focus on gemilut chasadim, charitable acts. Tragically, Ezra was murdered when he and his friends were traveling to do volunteer work at Oz Vegaon, a nature reserve established in memory of the three teenagers who were kidnapped and killed by Hamas terrorists in the summer of 2014.

am not surprised by the lack of world outrage in response to this heinous act of terrorism. Over time, we have learned not to ex-

pect a balanced response to savage murders against Jews. Unfortunately these brutal acts are continuing on a daily basis and yet most of the world conveniently looks away while parroting hollow phrases such as “moral equivalence” and “excessive use of force.” In the book of Numbers (23:9), Balaam prophesies that the Jewish people are “a nation that will dwell in solitude and not be reckoned among the nations.” Many view these words as the formative statement defining the relationship between Israel and the nations of the world. The existence of anti-Semitism and Israel’s international isolation would indicate that our destiny is to stand apart from other nations. However, one can argue that the Jewish people are highly engaged in this world and have always been at the forefront of human development, as evidenced by the inordinate number of Jewish Nobel Prize winners and by the prominence of Jews in the political, scientific, business and cultural arenas. How can this paradox be resolved? Decades ago, Dr. Yaakov Herzog, a preeminent diplo-

mat and Talmudic scholar, brilliantly explained that the idea of a “people that dwells alone” is the “natural concept of the Jewish people.” He states, “If one asks how the ingathering of the exiles, which no one could have imagined in his wildest dreams, came about, or how the State of Israel could endure such severe security challenges, or how it has built up such a flourishing economy, or how the unity of the Jewish people throughout the Diaspora has been preserved, one must come back to the primary idea that this is ‘a people that dwells alone.’” Accordingly, our ability to effect change in this world and be “a light unto the nations” (Isaiah 42:6) remarkably depends upon our ability to separate ourselves from the nations of the world. Perhaps one can also suggest that the dichotomy between the Jewish people being a “light unto the nations” versus being “a nation that will dwell in solitude” rests on answering the simple question: whose interests are being served? When the world is the beneficiary of our achievements – be it in the form of medical advanc-

es, progress in water technology or other technological breakthroughs, to name but a few – they are understandably only too happy to

people. However, we must remember that from time immemorial, the Almighty has separated us from the rest of the world and, at the

Our ability to effect change in this world and be “a light unto the nations” remarkably depends upon our ability to separate ourselves from the nations of the world.

accept us, indeed embrace us, and reap the benefits of our achievements. However, when the Jewish nation is imperiled and requires aid and support, then the love affair with us is often abruptly shut down. When we need assistance, our requests are often answered with eerie silence from most of the global community. We cannot abandon our obligation to serve as the light upon the nations; this drive for excellence not only enhances the world but it also helps us become better

end of the day, we can only rely upon Him and ourselves to protect our nation and our people.

Gedaliah Borvick is the founder of My Israel Home (www. myisraelhome.com), a real estate agency focused on helping people from abroad buy and sell homes in Israel. To sign up for his monthly market updates, contact him at gborvick@gmail. com.

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CHANUKAH SAMEACH!

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Light Unto Your Menorah A Close Look into Your Chanukah Candles: From Israel to Your Window By Brendy J. Siev

These weeks, we emerge from work and school to a world prematurely dark. We inhale the cool, crisp air and smile: Chanukah is coming. Time to load up on potatoes, oil, gelt, and boxes of motley candles. Most of these candles have traveled to our homes from Israeli factories that have produced candles for decades. Here’s an insider’s look into the process and places that make the candles that make Chanukah, well, Chanukah. A BUNCH OF HOT WAX

Chanukah candles, according to Esther at Safed Candles, come from paraffin wax, a wax derived from petroleum. The paraffin is heated in large vats; different colored dyes are added to the vats to color the candles. The hot wax is poured into smaller pitchers and then into large steel forms, perforated with long

WHERE DO MY CANDLES COME FROM? Safed Candles

Safed Candles sends thousands of candles from Tsfat to stores all over Israel and America. Their factory, though, recently moved operations from Tsfat to northern Isra-

candle molds. Each mold has a wick embedded inside. As the wax cools, the tray is tilted to toss the candles out of the form. Hundreds of pencil-thin, fiveinch-long candles file out, ready for packing into boxes of 44, the perfect number to last a single menorah a whole Chanukah. Decorative candles at Safed Candles

el. These candles are white-based, hand-dipped and colored. The factory has been open for 28 years; their founder, an Israeli, learned candle making in California and brought his skill back to Israel. Paraffin, Esther tells us, makes for prettier colors. Beeswax is more

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malleable and suitable for shaped candles and sculpted candles. The message of their candles, says Esther, is that this Chanukah, we must “start seeing more light in the world. We need that.”

Menora Candle Company

Most candles come from the Menora Candle Company, a company with a heroic history that produces 55 million candles in just two months. The factory opened in 1939. Twenty-six years ago, Holocaust survivor Yisrael Sheiner purchased the candle factory. Now 88-years-old, Mr. Sheiner is an inspiration. Born in Pinczow, Poland, he and his family ran to the forest when Sheiner was a mere 11-years-old to escape the Nazis. They lived in an underground bunker for three years; Yisrael eventually fought with partisans in the woods.

The ubiquitous candles perfect for Chanukah

Chanukah is a holiday that is close to his heart. One Chanukah in the bunker, Yisrael drew a replica of the family menorah onto a piece of wood and carved it out for them to “light” underground. Sheiner often thinks of that year’s Chanukah celebration in the bunker. He spent the post-war years in France, but he made aliyah when he turned 65. In a way, the Menora Candle Company became his shlichut, his mission. He purchased the candle factory and then deliberately moved its operations to Sderot, two kilometers from the Gaza border. Sheiner wanted to bring industry and jobs to this remote Southern city, a city that over the past decade has felt the scars of being on the frontlines of the most recent intifada. Seven years ago, in fact, the factory itself was targeted by a Qassam rocket from Gaza. It blew out the windows and doors of the factory, though thankfully all the workers

and inventory were unscathed. But Sheiner believes, as Haaretz reported, that it’s “symbolic that the most bombarded city in Israel produces candles that stand for heroism and resilience.” His candlelit mission did not end with developing a border city: the factory also employs many special needs adults. Between 150 and

200 special needs adults work in the packing plant; around five work in the factory. Ilan Ben Moshe purchased the factory when Sheiner was finally ready to retire at 82. The two continue to meet regularly. Ben Moshe told Voice of Israel reporter Judy Lash Balint that the special needs employees “help make us good in our hearts.

We treat them like one of the Menora family.” If to most children chocolate gelt and gifts are the closest experience to being Charlie in the Chocolate Factory, Ben Moshe believes his candle factory is closest to the real fantasy. As Willy Wonka would say, the job is done with love. Continued on page 92

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It’s “symbolic that the most bombarded city in Israel produces candles that stand for heroism and resilience.” This is particularly key for the Sderot community. The community, founded as a transit camp for Jews leaving Arab countries during the early 1950s, evolved with the influx of Jews from the former Soviet Union into a diverse city. During wartime, those in Jerusalem and Tel Aviv hear alarms, enter their sealed rooms, and then return to business. But those in Sderot, Ben Moshe says, have ten seconds to respond to the alarm and to hide. For those working in a building, this may be emotionally manageable, but thoughts immediately go to children who may be in school, the park, or garden. “People have psychological and physical scars,” Ben Moshe told Voice of Israel. “So we try to organize fun days for families and locals. Our workers are like our family.” A third of the candles made in Israel are exported to the United

States, Canada, France, and Australia. In all, the candles reach 30 countries. As soon as Chanukah ends, the Menora factory begins making candles for next year. The fact that the factory thrives, producing millions of candles, is the message of Chanukah and all Jews. By the first light of Chanukah, every home in Israel is infused with the soft glow of Chanukah candles, a glow that unites all Jewish families for eight days. And thousands of their brother candles, cast from the same mold, shine in Jewish windows in 30 other countries. From deep in a bunker, to a city surrounded by enemies, to streets lined with friends, neighbors, and family, the menorah and its candles tell our Jewish story: We survive, we thrive, and we work through adversity to keep our spirituality and hope burning.

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The Infamous Case of the “Get of Cleves” Rabbi Yechezkel Landau of Prague initially tried to resolve the dispute through compromise, but later became the Frankfurt rabbinate’s most vocal opponent. As a result, he and his family, including his descendants, were banned from the Frankfurt Jewish community

By Rabbi Pini Dunner

In the first two parts of this series we saw how the “Get of Cleves” controversy embroiled the rabbinic world of the late eighteenth century as the fate of a recently married and divorced couple became the table talk in dozens of communities across Europe. With the Frankfurt beit din refusing to back down over their controversial ruling to invalidate the divorce, the stage was set for a difficult showdown. In March 1767, half a year after the events in question, the senior rabbi of the time, Rabbi Yaakov Emden, dismissed the Frankfurt beit din’s position as untenable and implored them to reverse their position so as not to make utter fools of themselves. They refused to do so and instead began to publicly denounce anyone who opposed them over their stance.

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t around this time, Rabbi Yechezkel Landau of Prague, author of the Noda Biyehuda, intervened in the controversy. Still quite young and not nearly as well-known as he would be ten or fifteen years later, Rabbi Landau was by nature a leader and a man of action. In his opinion, the Get of Cleves was without doubt a legally viable document, but nevertheless he felt that Rabbi Lipschuetz

of Cleves, who had presided over the divorce, should try and negotiate a face-saving compromise with the Frankfurt beit din so that everyone could walk away from the controversy with their heads held high. But after making a number of approaches to the rabbis of Frankfurt, he concluded with regret that they were in no mood for a compromise of any kind. Once this became evident to him, he immediately issued a public ruling validating the Get of Cleves. In his pronouncement he rebuked the Frankfurt dayanim for their

obstinacy and for claiming sole jurisdiction in the case, and suggested forcefully that they immediately reverse their decision in accordance with the majority view of all the other rabbis who had ruled on the case. In a last effort to be conciliatory, he wrote that as he was sure the Frankfurt beit din had initially acted in good faith and in accordance with their religious convictions, their refusal now to comply with the majority view was understandable. But, he said, it was a grave violation of Jewish law to

question the legitimacy of a valid get, and therefore, although he did not wish to offend the Frankfurt rabbinate, his duty to justice and Torah law compelled him to declare that Leah was free to remarry immediately. He nevertheless suggested that she should wait a full year from the date of the divorce to give the Frankfurt rabbis a chance to reconsider their position. Frustratingly for all concerned, Rabbi Abish of Frankfurt and his dayanim totally ignored Rabbi Landau’s suggestion. They were not looking for any exit strategy. In fact, it seemed that they were determined to force the entire rabbinic world to fall in line with their way of thinking. When this dawned on Rabbi Landau, he decided to act – and to act decisively. Exactly one year after the dispute had initially erupted he called together the entire Prague community into the city’s main synagogue and in a rousing public address announced that Leah was free to remarry and that he would perform the wedding if called upon to do

so. He also launched a powerful attack on the Frankfurt rabbinate, calling them to task for allowing pride and vanity to color their judgment. “Even the greatest Jewish legal minds can occasionally make mistakes,” he thundered, and with the packed synagogue listening in stunned silence, he closed his dramatic speech with these devastating words: “When there is a desecration of G-d’s name it is my duty to defend the honor of heaven, the honor of the Torah, and the honor of laws relating to the daughters of Israel. How sad that this story so perfectly demonstrates how careful one must be to ensure that the evil inclination does not gain control over us.” Rabbi Landau was far from done. He wrote to Rabbi Aron Shimon Copenhagen, who had attended the wedding of Isaac to Leah, and later the divorce, and asked him to publicize the Prague speech as widely as possible and also to send printed copies of the validation of the get to as many rabbis and communities as he could. Even at this juncture he made an

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attempt to get the Frankfurt rabbis to back down. But it was no use – not only were they in no mood to listen, in March 1768 they took his published letter and publicly burned it in front of the whole Frankfurt community. Rabbi Landau was not alone defending the Get of Cleves. In the early fall of 1767, Rabbi Yosef Steinhardt went public with his ruling in favor of the get. The following month Rabbi Yehoshua Heschel of Ausbach did the same. Towards the end of the year ten rabbis from Brody in Poland validated the get. Rabbi Shlomo of Chelm, a renowned and respected halachic expert, was next to come out in support of the get, and he was followed by Rabbi Arye Leib of Hanover, son of the former Chief Rabbi of Frankfurt, Rabbi Yaakov Yehoshua Falk, author of Pnei Yehoshua, and whose students included the dayanim of Frankfurt. In Frankfurt the mood remained belligerent and unrepentant. Copies of the avalanche of rulings by the various rabbis were publicly burned, and a stream of pronouncements were published, all of them restating that the Get of Cleves was not worth the paper it had been written on, and Leah was forbidden to remarry without a new get. Although they never explained their inflexibility, it seems that the Frankfurt beit din were of the view that sanity and insanity had to be judged contextually and holistically. If the behavior leading up to the get process indicated that the husband was insane in some way, then his instruction to give the get could also be considered part of that same trend. Isaac’s disappearance with the money on the Shabbat after his wedding was a clear indication that he was mentally ill, and therefore any

Sefer Ohr Hayashar (Amsterdam, 1769) by Rabbi Aron Shimon Copenhagen contains a contemporary account of the ‘Get of Cleves’ saga by one of its main protagonists

Rabbi Yisrael Lipschuetz’s publication, Ohr Yisrael (Cleves, 1770), included a vicious attack on the Frankfurt rabbinate on pages 31 and 32. The attack was later removed and the text reworked so that in most copies of Ohr Yisrael page 31 is followed by page 33. Copies that include the original pages 31 and 32 are extremely rare. This illustration shows the offensive pages from the copy of Ohr Yisrael in Rabbi Dunner’s book collection

subsequent act – including his instruction to write a get – had to be treated as part of his mental breakdown, even if he appeared rational when giving the instruction. Rabbi Lipschuetz of Cleves – and every single other rabbi who weighed in on the matter – disagreed profoundly with this viewpoint. The Shabbat disappearance incident was totally irrelevant and what mattered was whether or not Isaac was lucid and coherent at the time the get was given, which Isaac had certainly been. It had also become a matter of great concern among the rabbinic community that the Frankfurt beit din had refused to publish their legal arguments or to publish refutations of the reasons published by those who opposed them. Especially because their stance was so contentious, it seemed odd – at best – that they refused to back up their views with solid evidence and source based material to support their views on the matter. Their complete refusal to concede to the majority view

was by far the most problematic aspect of all. Had they been involved with the actual divorce, their obstinacy might have been excusable. But as their involvement had only begun after the fact, and even then only as representatives of one side, they really did not have a leg to stand on. Even had they been completely right, Jewish law dictates that the majority has priority, which meant that the Get of Cleves had to be treated as a valid legal document. There was a view that the Frankfurt rabbis and community had closed ranks to defend their esteemed chief rabbi, Rabbi Abish. This view seemed to be borne out when the community leaders in Frankfurt entered the following decree into their official community rulebook a few months after Rabbi Landau’s speech to the community of Prague: “Since Rabbi Landau publicly insulted our chief rabbi we decree that the he, his children, grandchildren, sons-in-law, and grandsonsin-law, and any of his de-

scendants, shall never hold an official position in our community. If a member of his family ever visits Frankfurt, he will not be allowed to speak publicly, nor be given any communal honors. Any document signed by the Rabbi of Prague alone, without any additional rabbinical signatures, shall be completely disregarded by our community.” Interestingly, it was never Rabbi Abish who was the driving force in the fight back by the Frankfurt rabbinate. The leading protagonist in Frankfurt was Rabbi Nathan Maas, author of the scholarly work Binyan Shlomo. A charismatic and forceful personality, he was regarded as a very smart man and was undoubtedly the most influential dayan in Frankfurt. It was Rabbi Maas who composed all the letters and public pronouncements, and it was Rabbi Maas who rabbis outside of Frankfurt accused of misleading Rabbi Abish and forcing him to stick to his guns by convincing him that he was fighting a holy war.

Tragically, Rabbi Abish died the day after Yom Kippur in 1768. His death shocked the Frankfurt Jewish community to its core. The belief was that his death had been caused only by the anguish he had suffered from the controversy. At his funeral it was announced that no rabbi who had opposed him in this case could ever be elected to replace him. It took four years to find a replacement due to the huge numbers of rabbis who had publicly defended the Get of Cleves against Rabbi Abish’s opinion. Eventually, Rabbi Pinchas ha-Levi Horowitz was hired to take up the position as Chief Rabbi of Frankfurt. It emerged much later that he had in fact written a letter to Rabbi Lipschuetz to support the notorious get. But as he finished writing the letter, he reached for the container of sand to scatter some of it on the letter to blot the still damp ink. Instead of picking up the sand container he mistakenly picked up the ink container and spilled it over the paper, ruining the entire letter. He began writing the letter for a second time, but someone who was with him told him not to bother. Rabbi Lipschuetz already had the support of so many other rabbis, the man said, and Rabbi Horowitz’s letter would not add anything extra and it was not worth wasting time to write the letter for a second time. Inadvertently it was that advice that got him the position in Frankfurt a few years later. In the course of this incredible tale we have been so caught up with the epic battle between the rabbinic luminaries of Europe that we have lost touch with the original characters – Isaac and Leah. Whatever happened to them? As it turns out, the

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story’s conclusion is almost too fantastic to be true, and considering the source of the story, it could well not be true. In the late nineteenth century a book was published that described the history of the Frankfurt rabbinate over the previous centuries. The story of the Get of Cleves saga was included in the book, for the first time from the perspective of the Frankfurt rabbinate. The book claimed that in early 1768 Leah and her family decided that they would accept the decision of the Frankfurt beit din and she would not remarry, despite the numerous rabbis who had validated her divorce. Then, without warning, Isaac suddenly returned to Germany from London and came to visit Leah and her family in Bonn. After a long heart-toheart talk, the couple announced that they had decided to “remarry.” As far as the Frankfurt rabbinate was concerned they did not need a wedding, seeing as the divorce had never been valid to start with. But just to be sure, the couple took part in a strange pseudo-wedding ceremony in Frankfurt, presided over by the Frankfurt rabbinate, during which Isaac put a ring on Leah’s finger and said: “At od mekudeshet li betaba’at zo kedat Moshe ve-Yisrael” – “You remain betrothed to me with this ring in accordance with the laws of Moses and Israel” The author of this incredible version of events was a man called Rabbi Markus Horowitz, who was himself Orthodox Chief Rabbi of Frankfurt during the latter half of the nineteenth century (although by now the community had split into two, with the strictly Orthodox community led as a separate group by Rabbi Samson Raphael Hirsch). Rabbi Horow-

itz claimed that his account of events was based on previously unseen source material taken from the archived files of the Frankfurt kehilla. The rabbinic world once more erupted in uproar over the Get of Cleves, especially as Rabbi Horowitz had declared in a published work that the Get of Cleves had been invalid, as had been stated by the rabbis of Frankfurt a century earlier. This opinion had been dismissed for a century or more and that it had now resurfaced caused no end of consternation. Rabbi Horowitz also claimed to have found a manuscript authored by Rabbi Maas in which he had explained why he and his colleagues had remained silent in the face of mounting rabbinic opposition. Rabbi Maas wrote, said Rabbi Horowitz, that the Frankfurt rabbinate had simply been asked to endorse the view of Rabbi Tevele Hess of Mannheim, who had himself witnessed Isaac’s curious behavior during the wedding week culminating in his Shabbat disappearance and who believed therefore that the Get of Cleves was worthless. With no reason to doubt the veracity of Rabbi Hess’s opinion, as it was based on firsthand knowledge of Isaac and his state of mind, the Frankfurt rabbinate was under no obligation to change their minds once they had ruled on the matter, nor to relinquish the jurisdiction of the case, which had been granted to them by Rabbi Hess. But this statement of Rabbi Maas, as reproduced by Rabbi Horowitz, raised more questions than it answered for those who knew the ins-and-outs of the story. Concerned that the confusion caused by Rabbi Horowitz’s account would have real repercussions for

halacha, many rabbis publicly condemned the Horowitz book and dismissed it as fiction. Their views were later summarized and published by a man called Rabbi Yehuda Lubetzky, the Lithuanian-born Ashkenazi Chief Rabbi of Paris, in a pamphlet called “Kevodan shel Rishonim.” In a long introduction he repeated the view of his predecessors in the late eighteenth century, namely that a halachic decision such as the one reached by the rabbis of Frankfurt about the Get of Cleves did not occur in

the indefensible. There was no doubt at all, said Rabbi Lubetzky, that halacha in such cases had been firmly established in favor of those who had supported Rabbi Lipschuetz. Just before we close the door on this incredible tale, it is worth noting that both Rabbi Lipschuetz and Rabbi Copenhagen published books recording their personal experiences of the controversy in which they demonstrated the halachic basis for their views and reproduced the prolific corre-

The invective against the Frankfurt rabbinate was clearly a step too far. And so, a new version was published in which page 31 was rewritten, page 32 was removed, and the text reworked so that it flowed seamlessly from page 31 to page 33. The first version of Ohr Yisrael is exceedingly rare and perhaps there are a couple of dozen copies in the world, most of them in private hands. The second version is less rare, although it is also a prized collectors’ piece. I am lucky enough to

“Since Rabbi Landau publicly insulted our chief rabbi we decree that the he, his children, grandchildren, sons-in-law, and grandsons-in-law, and any of his descendants, shall never hold an official position in our community.”

a vacuum, and if a majority of senior rabbis decide that you are in the wrong, it is simply untenable to persist in defending your opinion. Rabbi Lubetzky’s main criticism was directed at Rabbi Horowitz for concluding that the Frankfurt rabbinate had got it right. He accused Rabbi Horowitz of being disingenuous and sloppy in his presentation of the facts of the case and even of being deliberately misleading in his eagerness to exonerate the Frankfurt rabbis. If the Rabbi Maas manuscript even existed – and he questioned whether even if there was a manuscript, if it was genuine, or if it was a later forgery – the most likely reason why it had never been published or seen was because Rabbi Maas himself had probably realized how foolish he would appear if he attempted to defend

spondence generated by the whole saga. There is quite a curious side story with regards to Rabbi Lipschuetz’s publication. In 1770 he published his work, which he called “Ohr Yisrael.” On pages 31 and 32, after he had accused the Frankfurt rabbis of spreading lies about him and of being utterly dishonest, he included the text of a public declaration he had made in Cleves that described the “wickedness of these men” in explicit detail, even referring to Rabbi Maas as “the evil and corrupt dayan of Frankfurt.” But this incendiary version of Ohr Yisrael was quickly withdrawn from circulation, possibly following negative feedback by the rabbis who were behind the campaign to validate the Get of Cleves and whose support Rabbi Lipschuetz needed.

have both versions in my personal collection and have included an illustration of the elusive page 32 for the readers of this article. The “Get of Cleves” controversy set the precedent for defining incompetence and insanity in divorce cases according to Jewish law. The obstinacy of the Frankfurt rabbinate forced the rabbinic community of the eighteenth century to crystallize around a more lenient understanding of the relevant definitions and to enshrine them in halacha, making it easier to ensure that women in failed marriages could not be held ransom by husbands who feign “madness” and then claim they are not competent to issue a get. Rabbi Pini Dunner is the Rav of Young Israel North Beverly Hills in California.

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TJH Speaks with Leah Schapira and Victoria Dwek Authors of Everyday Secret Restaurant Recipes

TJH: I know that you are both busy moms. How are you able to balance your cooking careers with running a home? Victoria: I think it’s the first time we’ve actually been asked that. The big kids come home at 4:30 p.m. The daytime just has to be productive. Anything besides for groceries comes from Amazon. When Leah and I were working on our first book together, Passover Made Easy, we were able to concentrate until late at night. I can’t do that anymore. Leah: I agree. When the kids were younger, they went to sleep earlier and we still had the energy to work at night. Now we just have to work more efficiently and be organized during the daytime hours. Once 4 p.m. or so hits, our work day is pretty much over. Speaking of families: It’s been a busy day. You’ve come home from work exhausted and the kids are hungry. What’s a good supper to get on the table quickly?

Victoria: I work from home most days, but if I know I’m going to be out all day, I’ll try to have something planned ahead of time. The Baby Chicken in the book is a great option. Marinate it the night before and grill fresh. Serve it with pita, chummus, and cabbage salad. Sounds like your families eat well. How did you get drawn into a culinary life? Were you always fascinated with the chemistry, tastes and techniques of cooking? Leah: I’ve been cooking since I’m 8. I was a picky eater who didn’t like anything besides for pizza. My mother brought me into the kitchen to show me that food wasn’t as scary as I thought. I liked French fries, and French fries were made from potatoes...so maybe I could like other things made from potatoes. Starting from when I was ten or so, I’d have stacks of cookbooks on my night table and would read them in bed. I’m not picky now but pizza is still my favorite. Victoria: I didn’t cook

a thing until I got married. My husband comes from a big family and everyone used to live near each other. Every Shabbat and Yom Tov meal would be like a big party at someone else’s house. I wanted to be one of those hosts; entertaining seemed like so much fun. Chanukah is around the corner. What would you recommend from Everyday Secret Restaurant Recipes for some fun, yummy dishes to enhance our Chanukah parties? Victoria: The churros are an obvious answer, but I actually have some of the healthier dishes from the book on my party menu: the Stuffed Mushrooms, Hot Pretzels (in mini version), the Bulgar Salad, the Harvest Twist Salad, the Haloumi Salad, Tomato Rice Soup (and other soups). Leah: I love the quinoa. For a meat menu, I think a sandwich bar would be a fun idea because we have so many great sandwiches. Of course, I’d second the churros for dessert. I would also make the Mediterranean

Eggplant and the eggrolls for Chanukah. Speaking about your new cookbook—it’s truly beautiful. But there are so many others on the market today. What’s unique about this one? Victoria: It’s food we already eat and love. The recipes have already been prepared thousands of times and enjoyed by thousands of people. Most of these are dishes that our readers have specifically requested. Besides for the recipes, though, this book is also about the story behind the restaurant chefs and owners. We get to know them. It’s a very interesting read. So what do you think a restaurant needs in order to be successful in the kosher food market? Leah: I think good fresh food is number one along with great service. When you are looking at a restaurant menu, what dishes entice you the most? Victoria: Dessert. A lot

of chefs are very into their food, but don’t take this course seriously. I respect a restaurant that finishes the meal as creatively as they start it. Leah: I love the appetizers the most. You really get to know the chef and the style of food a restaurant serves by eating the appetizers on the menu. Ideally, I’d order every appetizer and skip the main dish...but I’d have to go out with people who are willing to share all those appetizers with me. Can you give us your three favorite recipes from Everyday Secret Restaurant Recipes? Leah: Only three? The Pulled Brisket Sandwich or the Pulled Short Rib Sliders. Both are amazing shredded meat sandwiches and I can’t pick one over the other. The quinoa (it’s so filling and healthy yet has amazing flavor), and the Mediterranean Eggplant (a real crowd pleaser and one of the greatest Israeli ideas). Oh, and I love both egg rolls in the book (because who doesn’t love something fried?). Victoria: Just like Leah

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loves the quinoa, I love the Bulgar Salad for the same reason. It just feels so good and healthy. I love our fish dishes. The Branzino transports me back to the day I enjoyed the dish at 26 in Miami. I think that our day in

ly among my favorites. Sounds like a dream day! You’ve been in the business for quite a while. What changes have you seen in the kosher food industry?

anymore. Today, you’ll find the most creative food in unexpected places. How do you keep so energized – you produce weekly recipes, give classes, write cookbooks

“Starting from when I was ten or so, I’d have stacks of cookbooks on my night table and would read them in bed.”

Manhattan was the ultimate coup: we learned the secrets behind the Pizza Dessert at Pizza Da Solo, the Crispy Wonton Chicken from Prime Ko, and the Grilled Mahi Mahi from Va Bene, definite-

Victoria: This year was the year of the trends. Beef or lamb fry, smoked meats. I think there was a big shift in locations too. The best food used to unequivocally be in Manhattan. It’s not like that

– how do you do it all with excitement? Leah: We both love learning new things and we have this pet peeve that we don’t like secrets. When we hear of a great dish we feel the

need to share it with as many people as possible Being that you don’t like to keep secrets, what are your go-to recipes for weekday or Shabbos meals? Victoria: For a main dish on Friday night, I’ve been rotating between Tierra Sur’s ribs, Gotham Burger’s ribs, Sino Steak from Essen, and the Pulled Brisket from Breadberry. We eat mostly fish on weeknights and I’ve been making every single one in the book. I love Va Bene’s recipe because it’s easy and versatile and works with almost any type of fish. Leah: On weekdays, my kids love boneless chicken breast, so it’s been Gong Bao Chicken, Cali Love Sandwich, Pretzel Sticks, and Eat a Pita’s Grilled Baby Chicken.

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For dessert, we’ve made the sweet rolls and chocolate tart countless times. What are a few essential tools and/or ingredients a cook should always have in her/his kitchen? Victoria: Leah and I discussed this lot so long ago. The small appliance we both use the most is our Panini makers. Leah: Mine stays on my counter because it doubles as a toaster; we use it to make our morning toast every day. Is there anything else on the horizon for you two? Shhh, we won’t tell! Victoria: I think we’re taking the year off from writing books. I know we said that last year, but I think this time we mean it.

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A Peek Inside Kosher Restaurants Gong Bao Chicken

Gong Bao Chicken From Dini’s Kosher Restaurant Owner: Chabad Beijing Location: Beijing, China Yield: 4 servings Category: meat At Dini’s, Beijing’s only kosher restaurant, the chefs cook authentic Chinese food along with traditional Jewish dishes and Western favorites that travelers expect (there’s a sushi bar too). The restaurant is named for Dini Freundlich, the lo-

cal Chabad shlucha. Local Chinese residents also enjoy eating at Dini’s because they feel that kosher food is safer to eat; the Chinese term for kosher is “Jie Shi,” “clean food.” Ingredients 1 lb. chicken breast, cubed 3 Tbsp cornstarch 2 Tbsp water Pinch coarse black pepper Oil, for frying 2 Chinese leeks or scallions 3 Tbsp salted peanuts Sauce: 2 tsp soy sauce 2 Tbsp sugar 4 tsp vinegar 2 tsp hot sauce 4 tsp ketchup

Churros

Preparation Place chicken into a small bowl. Sprinkle with cornstarch; top with water and black pepper. Mix to coat the chicken. Let stand for 2 minutes. Meanwhile, heat oil in a wok or sauté pan over high heat. When oil is very hot, add chicken cubes in batches; fry for 4-5 minutes. Remove from pan and drain on paper towels. Drain oil from the pan. Add soy sauce, sugar, vinegar, hot sauce, and ketchup. Cook until sauce thickens slightly, 2-3 minutes. Add chicken and scallions; toss to coat. Top with peanuts. Tidbit: Dini makes her own version of hot chili sauce to use in the restaurant. She says it’s the Asian equivalent of Israeli red schug.

Quinoa Salad

Home Cook: We’ve tested this with all different types of hot sauce and they’ve all been successful. Halve the quantity if serving this dish to children –Leah

Quinoa Salad From Borochov 88 Location: Ra’anana, Israel Yield: 4 servings Category: pareve Before the 2013 elections, Naftali Bennett, Ra’anana resident and head of the Israeli political party

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Bayit Yehudi, would hold meetings with fellow Knesset members at Borochov 88. They’d eat lunch there every day while planning their campaigns. Ingredients 1 cup tri-colored quinoa 1 Tbsp olive oil 2 cups water 1 tsp salt 2 Persian cucumbers, diced 2 tomatoes, diced 1 red onion, diced 1 Tbsp chopped parsley 3 Tbsp dried cranberries Dressing: 2½ Tbsp lemon juice ½ Tbsp sugar 1 tsp salt 1 garlic clove, crushed 7 Tbsp olive oil Techina: 1 Tbsp lemon juice 1 garlic clove 1 Tbsp fresh chopped parsley ½ cup tahini paste ½ cup water (add gradually, may not need all) Pinch cumin 1 tsp salt Pinch black pepper Preparation Wash and drain quinoa. Add oil to a saucepan over medium heat. Add quinoa; toast for 20 seconds. Add water and salt; bring to a boil. Reduce heat to low; cook for 15-20 minutes, until water is absorbed. Transfer quinoa to a large bowl. Add cucumbers, tomatoes, red onion, parsley, and cranberries. Prepare the dressing: In a small bowl, whisk together lemon juice, sugar, salt, and garlic. Drizzle in olive oil while whisking. Add dressing to quinoa; stir to combine. Prepare the techina: In a blender or food processor, combine lemon juice, garlic, and parsley. Add tahini paste and blend. Add water, a little at a time, until techina is desired consistency. Season with cumin, salt, and pepper. To serve, drizzle some techina over each serving of quinoa. Feel free to use store-bought te-

china. Home Cook: When I couldn’t find tri-colored quinoa at my grocery, I used ½ cup white quinoa and ½ cup red quinoa so I could still have those different quinoa textures in my salad. -Leah Home Cook: When I want to prep this in advance, I keep the quinoa, vegetables, dressing, and techina separate and toss them all together when I’m ready to serve. –Leah

Churros From T Fusion Location: Brooklyn, NY Yield: 8 Churros Category: pareve After Chef Daniel Rivera’s Bourbon BBQ Ribs were one of the most popular recipes in Secret Restaurant Recipes, we returned for another gem. These churros were the most requested recipe we were asked to include in our second edition. “What is the secret to that delicious dipping sauce?” people asked. We learned that little secret, and once again, it became clear why diners forgo Manhattan, with a restaurant of T Fusion’s caliber right in the neighborhood. Ingredients 2 sticks (1 cup) margarine 2½ Tbsp sugar 1¼ Tbsp salt 2½ cups water 2½ cups flour 5 eggs oil, for frying Strawberry-Ginger Coulis: 1 pint strawberries, hulled ½ cup sugar ¼ cup water 1-inch ginger, peeled Preparation In a saucepan, combine marga-

rine, sugar, salt, and water. Bring to a boil, allowing the margarine to melt. Add in flour all at once; mix with a wooden spoon to form a ball of dough. Remove from heat; transfer dough to bowl of an electric mixer. With the mixer running on low speed, add eggs, one at a time, until eggs are fully incorporated. Heat oil in a deep fryer to 350°F. Add batter to a piping bag fitted with a 1M tip. Pipe into hot oil: Using a knife, cut batter at about every 4 inches, allowing strip to drop into oil. Repeat, frying in batches of 4 churros until golden, about 4 minutes. Prepare the strawberry-ginger coulis: Combine strawberries, sugar, and water in a saucepan. Bring to a boil; lower heat and simmer until strawberries are soft. Purée. Using a microplane, zest the fresh

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ginger to extract the liquid (about 1 teaspoon). Add liquid to the purée to taste. Serve alongside churros. Home Cook: Though you don’t use the ginger solids in this recipe, don’t waste them. I like to zest the whole piece and freeze the fresh ginger in an empty frozen-herb cube tray. -Victoria “I find that ginger often has different strengths. That’s why I add ginger liquid to taste, and not a specific amount, until the coulis is perfectly balanced.”  - Chef Daniel Rivera

Recipes from Everyday Secret Restaurant Recipes by Leah Schapira and Victoria Dwek, reproduced with permission from the copyright holders, ArtScroll/ Mesorah Publications.

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Dating Dialogue

What Would You Do If… Moderated by Jennifer Mann, LMSW of The Navidaters

Dear Navidaters,

I started dating about four months ago. I wouldn’t say I’ve ever been the most exciting guy in the room, but I’ve never had a hard time making friends. I’ve always had a few good buddies who I enjoyed being with and when we weren’t playing sports together or later on, learning together, we never had a problem making conversation. I never felt tongue-tied. I’m comfortable. I’ve gone out with five different women so far. And I’m having such a strange experience that I feel like maybe I shouldn’t be dating right

now. I find myself very, very nervous before each date. As a result, by the time I show up at someone’s house, I’m literally sweating. And it only goes downhill from there. When the girl’s parents start asking me some casual questions, I practically stutter. I’ve never in my life been a stutterer. I don’t understand why I’m getting so nervous and even more important, I don’t know what to do about it. I feel pretty good about myself. I think I’m a solid person with what to offer someone in marriage. But this extreme nervousness and fear before and during dating is getting the best of me. And it’s been getting worse, from date to date. I don’t even know where to go from here. I’m so embarrassed to discuss this with anyone, that I feel very alone and lost. What do you suggest? C. P.

The Panel The Rebbetzin Rebbetzin Faigie Horowitz, M.S.

aking a break from dating to increase your communication skills will equip you with the confidence to be more articulate and less nervous. It is smart to work on projecting the real you who is confident and positive. You might want to follow up on one or several of the following suggestions: • Read Dale Carnegie’s classic book, “How to Win Friends and Influence People.” • Practice in front of a mirror.

• Role play introductory dating exchanges with trusted friends. Practice them with strangers (in elevators and public spaces) to become comfortable using your opening lines and responding. • Learn and practice visualization techniques in which you imagine yourself in rooms and spaces where you meet a girl and her parents. • Enroll in one-on-one short term social skills training to learn communication tips and relaxation methods that fit you. • If you have access to a college interviewing software that videotapes interviews that you can play back, use it to polish your skills and

increase your confidence.

Getting to know Rebbetzin Faigie Horowitz, MS... Rebbetzin Faigie Horowitz is a veteran community activist. She has spent more than twenty years in social services both as an executive and as a board member of non-profits. She is a founder of Rachel’s Place, a shelter for homeless girls in Brooklyn. Rebbetzin Horowitz has a career counseling practice and is a freelance writer for print and digital media. A columnist for Hamodia and Binah

Magazines, she has been published in several anthologies and in Poetica Magazine. Rebbetzin Horowitz is currently the program coordinator in the Career Services Department at Touro College’s Flatbush campus and serves as the Rebbetzin of Congregation Agudas Achim of Lawrence.

The Mother Sarah Schwartz Schreiber, PA

eminds me of the second fellow my daughter dated. Top learn-

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er in Lakewood, wonderful family, impeccable resume. Problem was: mute as a clam. Dates one and two (the shadchan insisted) were spent in one-sided conversation. He cowered in terror while my daughter blithely regaled him with seminary stories. Although he was not much of a talker, he did finally relax enough to converse with one young lady and they live happily ever after in St. Louis! What you are experiencing is not uncommon among those who are newly dating (or to anyone seated under high-intensity lights while their every word is being weighted and dissected). Psychologists call it “social anxiety.” Speech therapists call it “selective mutism.” Whatever term you prefer, give yourself permission to be less than your natural, charming self; dating is stressful. What to do? First off, you will never overcome this problem by keeping it to yourself. This is where your sisters, cousins, aunts and chavrusah’s wife come in. Talk to any and all of the above about anything (from global warming to the relative merits of potato kugel). Visit them on Shabbos, attend as many simchas as you can; the Shabbos seuda and your cousin’s vort are excellent venues for non-pressured interactions with women (“Please pass the pickles,” “Love that one-man band”). Hopefully, the more exposure you get to the female genus, the less frightening the species will be to you. Be patient; this “desensitization” program may take a while. If you do not see any improvement over time, seek professional help for targeted, short-term counseling.

Getting to know Sarah Schwartz Schreiber... Sarah Schwartz Schreiber, mother of several and grandmother of “not enough,” is a native Los Angelino. Decades back, she married and settled in Midwood (aka Flatbush). Since then, Sarah has worked in several professional arenas – first as a medical writer and a pharmaceutical copywriter. Sarah eventually pursued her lifelong ambition and became a physician assistant. Currently, Sarah can be found triaging patients

in the busiest labor and delivery room on the East Coast. Of all the jobs she’s held, Sarah considers her role as wife and mother to be the most thrilling and fulfilling vocation of all.

Young Married Shadchan Michelle Mond

irst of all, I commend you on writing in. You sound like a great guy and I’m sure you’ll find the right one in no time. What you are describing sounds very normal for a first-time dating guy. However, it’s important that you get to the root of it. The reason it’s not hard for you socially in regular settings is because that’s not something new, and there’s nothing at stake. In a normal social setting, you are not thinking about negative outcomes or the thought of being judged. You’re able to just be yourself! You’re transitioning now from a previous life of chilling with the guys and learning with chavrusas. Going on a date with marriage in mind is something completely new. You have to realize that everything you have been experiencing is totally normal, but you should work on training yourself to re-frame your thoughts leading up to the date, to help you calm down and be yourself on the date. Rather than feeling self-conscious and unsure of how they will perceive you, which is most likely causing your nervous reaction, try and think of the following: this girl and her parents looked into you, they heard wonderful things about you, and you are an amazing guy with a lot to show for yourself. It’s also helpful to remember that they are probably just as nervous as you, since there is excitement that you could eventually be the one for their daughter. They are no doubt hoping that you will be the one for her! Try to change your negative thoughts as the date approaches to positive ones. Realize that you are someone who can stand tall and be confident with who you are and your achievements that have brought you to where you are today. When you

If you are a sociable guy and you usually feel comfortable in a group setting, try meeting girls at a Shabbos table, Shabbaton or at a singles event.

are able to shift your mindset, your nerves should hopefully be calmer and the young woman you are going out with and her parents will see you as your normal, social self. I wish you much hatzlacha!

Getting to know Michelle Mond… Michelle Mond, from Baltimore, MD, is a Sharfman’s alumnus, a licensed esthetician by profession and a busy wife and mother. Michelle works as a shadchan for young men and women all over the U.S., both privately as well as on Saw You At Sinai. Her matchmaking began when she sought out her own husband, found out his name and brought it to a local shadchan. Since then, she’s advised many singles through their dating journeys, and made many shidduchim, in addition to writing about shidduch-related topics for local and New York-based papers.

The Single Irit Moshe (pen name) Don’t give up. Nervousness is normal on a first date and especially when you initially meet her parents. If you are a sociable guy and you usually feel comfortable in a group setting, try meeting girls at a Shabbos table, Shabbaton or at a singles event. Ask for her number and when you ac-

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tually take her out on your first date, she will then be someone you feel you actually already know somewhat and hopefully this will enable you to feel more comfortable. Perhaps asking a girl to meet you somewhere instead of picking her up may be a better setup for you than picking her up with the pressure of meeting her folks. Another possible solution for avoiding stressful “meet the parents” experiences is to text message her that you are at her house and ask her to text message you back when she is ready so you don’t have to go through the parental interview before your date. When you are ready to meet her parents, do it at a time when you are already feeling more comfortable and more confident in your relationship. This way you’ll be less nervous and also feel you have an advocate in your corner too – your gal!

Getting to know Irit Moshe... Irit Moshe (pen name) is a 39-year-old woman who has dated in the Orthodox world some twenty years ago and is now “back on the market,” divorced with children. Currently being eligible, and “on the scene,” she feels her anonymity is important, both for her marketability, as well as the sanctity of any of her past and future relationships she may be discussing with you, the readers. Irit’s background as a shadchon started back in her early 20’s, when she first succeeded in setting up several matches, who now have thriving families of their own. In her late 20’s, she worked in the secular world as a social worker for several years with the ill and geriatric communities. In her late 20’s, after her divorce, she experienced living within various Jewish circles, both on the east and west coasts and has observed the distinct differences in dating styles per coastal region. At present, Irit works as a certified life and dating coach, aiding other shadchanim with thinking “outside the box” as well as coordinating local events. Irit looks forward to hearing from you and learning about your dating experiences and dilemmas plus sharing with you some of her own.

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Pulling It All Together The Navidaters Dating and Relationship Coaches and Therapists

“googled” “hard time talking to women on a date” and the search yielded 116,000,000 results. You, my friend, are not alone. As a matter of fact, millions of handsome, successful, athletic “I would never believe he clams up on a date” kind of guys struggle with the same symptoms … tongue-tied, stuttering, sweaty palms, sweaty armpits, sweaty everything! Writers are blogging about it, psychologists are researching it and men are living it. And, P.S., many

women experience similar symptoms before and during their dates as well. The panel has honed in on some wonderful tips, tools and insights for you. Rebbetzin Horowitz suggests taking a break from dating to practice communication skills. Sarah Schwartz Schreiber recommends practice, practice, practice having conversations with members of the opposite sex. Irit proposes

meeting women in a group setting to minimize anxiety while Michelle prescribes reframing your thoughts to help you stay calm before and during your date. All fabulous advice! First and foremost I recommend taking a break from dating with the goals of: a) figuring out what is causing your anxiety; and b) developing a plan to manage it. Not only do we want to see you in a healthy relationship one day, we want to see you have a healthy relationship with dating. I strongly urge you to consider seeing a social worker or psychologist who will help you meet the above mentioned goals. You are understandably feeling alone and lost right now, not sharing your thoughts and feelings with anyone while the issue seems to be snowballing. In a therapeutic environment, you will have the opportunity to unload, figure out and work through the anxiety. Let’s stop this snowball and prepare you for successful dating experiences. I’m hearing you say that you feel pretty good about yourself and this anxiety has nothing to do with your self-image and or self-esteem. In an attempt to help you figure out why you experience the anxiety specifically before and during dates, I have prepared just a few ideas and questions for you to explore. A. Preconceived Notions. Sometimes we believe we know the answer to something before it has happened. Some examples: “I won’t pass that test.” “I am going to be so awkward on this date.” “She won’t like me.” “I must behave a certain way on my date.” Do you have any preconceived notions that may be playing a role? B. Am I Putting All My Eggs in One Basket? Consider how you think about the potential for each date. Do you find that you are putting any kind of pressure on yourself in the form of, “How do I know if she is the one?” “I need her to be the one,” or “I hate dating. When will it end?”

C. What Will I Do If…. Do you find yourself wondering or worried about how you will respond to her statements or questions during conversation? When we don’t know why we are behaving the way we are behaving it can be very frustrating. After all, we are living in the dark. Someone turn on the lights, please! Hopefully the questions and ideas listed above will serve as a platform for you to begin to understand what is driving your anxious behaviors. With your email you have broken your anxiety cycle. You would feel nervous before and during dates, feel bad about yourself, and then keep it all inside only to feel nervous before and during dates, feel bad about yourself and keep it all inside again and again and again (and again and again – there were five dates). You reached out for help, which is a very admirable thing to do. I am so hopeful that with a little intervention, you will find yourself ready to engage your dates with a sense of calm and empowerment! Sincerely, Jennifer P.S. I don’t know if this is of any relevance or addresses whatever it is that makes you anxious but for what it’s worth… A girlfriend and eventually wife is a friend. Yes, her hair may be longer, her voice softer and your responsibilities greater, but nonetheless, a friend indeed. Before and during dates try to remember that in essence what you are doing is seeing if there is potential for friendship. The Navidaters are dating and relationship coaches and therapists. Located in Lawrence, NY, their services include date debriefing, dating skills coaching, couples counseling, premarital and marital counseling. Sessions are held in the office or via phone or Skype. The Navidaters can be reached at 516.224.7779. If you have a dating or relationship scenario you would like to be featured in WHAT WOULD YOU DO IF, email thenavidaters@gmail.com. Check out their website, thenavidaters.com for more information. Follow TheNavidaters on Facebook, Instagram and Twitter.

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Dr. Deb

Why Bad Things Happen to Good People…Maybe By Deb Hirschhorn, Ph.D.

don’t know why bad things happen to good people. Why would a perfectly innocent little child be born into a house where she is put down, beaten, or worse? Not only don’t I know, but this particular problem has brought me to tell people that this is a difficult and painful

world. I don’t like saying that. Okay, it’s true. But I still don’t like saying that. I want to believe that this is a good world because I really do believe that G-d is good. So it seems very contradictory to say both G-d is good and the world is bad. It makes no sense.

And I’m tired of being caught in this particular place. Yet it comes up so often in my work that it seems like I ought to have a better answer. That’s when this idea hit me. When I look at my own life, the bad that happened in it makes perfect sense to me now because I learned so much. What I learned, I wouldn’t trade for the world. I’m awfully sorry I was such a slow learner, but ‘tis what it ‘tis; no sense beating myself up over it. Besides, it’s really a good thing that it took me so long because that way I can give chizuk (strength) to clients by telling them, “What are you complaining about? Look how long it took me to learn what I learned.” I can be a wonderful example to them of being slow to “get it” and yet, here I am, having finally made sense of my life and my place in it. And this brings me back to the many years of tears as I lit my candles on erev Shabbos, begging G-d to fix things. I didn’t appreciate, for a long, long time, why He didn’t swoop in with that famous rachamim (mercy) of His and rescue me. I knew, of course, that He could do what He wants, but I didn’t like it. Yet, today, only today, the germ of an idea is forming as to the huge gains I had by His passivity in this case. Sometimes, it is better for us to develop a little muscle than have G-d do the heavy lifting for us. We can cry and beg and plead for G-d to take care of things. Or we can get into action and make some scary changes in

our lives. And I think that’s what this is all about. I think that if we are really here to do our bit towards tikkun olam (making the world a little bit better place) then sometimes tears are not the best answer. Sometimes it’s all about doing what we can ourselves. And that includes the perfectly innocent children who are harmed. Maybe even they, when they grow up and take stock of their lives, can harness their wisdom and experience to do something very good and positive in the world. Maybe without their personal pain, they would not have the inner knowledge – an insider’s view – of just exactly what needs to be fixed and how. A perfect example of this is the oft-heard statement that to be a therapist you have to be a little crazy. The truth is that therapists often have struggled with family issues that were both hurtful and enlightening. They use their own pain to try to help others solve their problems. Doctors and other medical personnel often struggle with the heartache of physical ailments in family members and that spurs them on to become healers. We’ve heard stories of children growing up in poverty who use that history as a powerful motivation to succeed financially. Maybe that is the mechanism through which Bad Things that Happen to Good People are not in the end bad – because they serve as motivators to make that correction in the world, that tikkun olam. Yes,

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the Good Person is hurt. But here is a question: Does that person have to suffer? What I mean is: Does the person experiencing the situation have to label for himself that experience as “suffering”? Can he maybe see it as

tremendous achdus (unity), hope, and strength to the Jewish community. They have set an incredible example of faith and dignity for all of us. Their leadership and unbreakable trust in Hashem in the face of their worst nightmares have inspired the

The truth is that therapists often have struggled with family issues that were both hurtful and enlightening. They use their own pain to try to help others solve their problems.

“something I don’t understand but will try to make the best of”? To bring this home, let’s look at the horror we are discovering daily as we tune into the news. There is no way that what is going on can be called “good.” It is “bad,” clearly. But can good come out of it? It already has. The family members of murder victims have brought

rest of us to get through our personal tragedies and challenges while connecting us to one another and to Eretz Yisroel. This surely is a good. And the second question: Would these families consider themselves to be “suffering”? Perhaps they are. Surely, they are grieving, but that is different. Grieving is a positive feel-

ing in that it holds the lost one close to you emotionally. As we heal from grief, the one we loved seems more distant. I’m not sure that grieving is suffering. Suffering is feeling the pain without any compensation. There is no closeness to a loved one, no tikkun for the world, either. And research shows that even when the worst things happen that should make us suffer, we can opt not to suffer. Viktor Frankl, who famously took his experiences during the Holocaust to the world, epitomizes the person who mentally escapes to a better place so as to avoid the suffering imposed upon him. So it turns out that the Bad Things that Happen may have a good end and even a person going through them might be able to avoid suffering if he has faith in Hashem and strength of mind. Chanukah surely embodies this take on things. Things absolutely were as Bad as they could be and many Good People got sucked into the horror of that time. But we learn from the story that it is possible for even a very small group of people to

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succeed in going against power with all odds against them to do tikkun olam. They were Good People, pure and innocent; they didn’t “deserve” to be put in that position of pain. But we can look at their role differently and say they were deserving of greatness because they turned the forces of evil completely around. They didn’t spend any time thinking of themselves and wondering why such Bad Things had to happen to them; they took action instead. May we, too, utilize our Bad Things to create good in our world and in our personal lives.

Dr. Deb Hirschhorn is a Marriage & Family Therapist and best-selling author of The Healing Is Mutual: Marriage Empowerment Tools to Rebuild Trust and Respect—Together. Attend the Food For Thought lectures at Waffelino Restaurant at 310 Central Avenue in Cedarhurst on Tuesdays at 9:45 AM. Any questions, call 646-54-DRDEB or check out her website at http://drdeb.com. All stories in Dr. Deb’s articles are fabricated. See Dr. Deb on TorahAnytime.com.

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Health & F tness

Nutrition Myths Busted By Aliza Beer, MS, RD

Much of what we believe about food is really just hearsay, a game of nutritional telephone handed down from science journals to newspapers to television to your mom and then to you, with marketers in between. We must all learn how to separate fact from fiction, and then we can finally shed the habits that are silently sabotaging our waistlines.

he following are some popular myths that require more in depth research and analysis. 1. Kale is the Healthiest Green: A 2014 study at William Paterson University ranked fruits and vegetables by their nutrient density, based on their levels of 17 different nutrients that have been linked to improved cardiovascular health. Kale didn’t even make the top 10. In fact, simple spinach and romaine, even parsley and chives, beat out the kale, an alleged supergreen. Sure, kale is extremely good for you, but the ranking of kale as our greatest green is just plain not true. 2. High Fructose Corn Syrup is Worse than Table Sugar: Sugar is a master of disguise. Maltodextrin, brown rice syrup, dextrose, sucrose, are just some of its aliases, but its most well-known costume is high fructose corn syrup.

Whether HFCS is worse than sugar has long been a contentious issue. In a 2014 review of five studies comparing the effects of sugar and HFCS, there was no difference found in changes in blood glucose levels, lipid levels, or appetite between table sugar consumption and HFCS consumption. In other words, your body can’t tell one from the other – they’re both just sugar. Is it a good idea to minimize the HFCS in your diet? Absolutely. It’s best to cut out all unnecessary sugars, but HFSC’s role as nutritional enemy #1 has been exaggerated. 3. Sea Salt is a Healthier Version of Regular Salt: Everyday table salt comes from a mine and contains roughly 2,300 milligrams of sodium per teaspoon. Sea salt comes from evaporated sea water, and it also contains roughly 2,300 milligrams of sodium. That

makes them roughly identical. Advocates point to the fact that sea salt also contains other compounds like magnesium and iron, but in truth these minerals exist in trace amounts. To obtain a meaningful dose, you would have to consume extremely high and potentially dangerous levels of sodium. What’s more, traditional table salt is regularly fortified with iodine, which plays an important role in regulating the hormones in your body. Sea salt, on the other hand, gives you virtually zero iodine. 4. Energy Drinks are Less Harmful than Soda: Energy drinks like Red Bull, Monster, and Full Throttle attempt to boost your energy with a cache of B vitamins, herbal extracts, and amino acids. But what your body’s going to remember most is the sugar in these concoctions; a 16 ounce can delivers as much as 280 cal-

ories of pure sugar, which is about 80 calories more than you’d find in 16 ounce cup of Pepsi. A University of Maryland study found energy drinks to be 11 percent more corrosive to your teeth than regular soda. So here’s the secret that energy drink companies don’t want you to know: The only proven, significant energy boost comes from caffeine. If you want/ need an energy boost, save yourself the sugar spike and drink a cup of coffee. 5. Diet Sodas Help Keep You Slim: The obesity-research community is becoming increasingly aware that the artificial sweeteners used in diet sodas, aspartame and sucralose, for example, lead to hard-to-control food urges later in the day. One Purdue study discovered that rats took in more calories if they’d been fed artificial sweeteners prior to mealtime, and a University

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of Texas study found that people who consume just 3 diet sodas a week were more than 40 percent more likely to be obese. Try weaning yourself off by switching to carbonated water and flavoring with lemon, cucumber, or fresh fruit. 6. Foods Labeled “Natural” are Healthier: The FDA makes no serious effort to control the use of the word “natural” on nutrition labels. 7-Up boasts that its made with “100% Natural Flavors” when in fact the soda is sweetened with a decidedly un-natural dose of high fructose corn syrup. Another “natural” abuser is “natural advantage” Post Raisin Bran, which bathes its raisins in both sugar and corn syrup. 7. Egg Yolks Raise your

Cholesterol: Egg yolks certainly contain cholesterol, but current research has proven that dietary cholesterol has very little to do with serum cholesterol. Wake Forest University researchers reviewed more than 30 egg studies and found no link between egg consumption and heart disease. A study in Saint Louis found that eating eggs for breakfast could decrease your calorie intake for the remainder of the day. 8. Coffee is Unhealthy and Should be Avoided: Coffee has long been considered unhealthy, mainly because of the caffeine. However, most of the studies actually show that coffee has powerful health benefits. Coffee is one of the biggest sources of antioxi-

dants in the Western diet, outranking both fruits and vegetables. Coffee drinkers have a much lower risk of depression, type 2 diabetes, Alzheimer’s, and Parkinson’s. Some studies even show that they live longer than people who don’t drink coffee. 9. Nutrition Bars are Actually Nutritious: Nutrition or protein bars should really be called calorie bars. Most of them are so polluted with additives, that I personally don’t understand half of the ingredients. Most are loaded with all different types of sugar and are essentially just candy. 10. Dark Chocolate is Good for You: It would be great if the only thing you had to do to eat healthy was eat dark chocolate bars.

Unfortunately, the secret to unlocking the health benefits of chocolate are a bit more complicated. Many studies have found that polyphenols, the nutrients found in darkly colored plant foods like cocoa, can help lower blood pressure and even raise our ability to burn fat. A 2013 study in the journal Diabetic Medicine even found that eating dark chocolate lessened the effects of high blood sugar in diabetic patients. The problem is, the more chocolate is processed, the more of the polyphenols are lost. Creating “Dutch” chocolate, in which an alkalizing agent is added to the cocoa to reduce acidity, destroys up to 77 percent of the nutrients in the cocoa. In order to derive health benefits from

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the cocoa look for a dark chocolate that says 70% cacao or higher. The rest? It’s just candy. While there may be some truth to some of the aforementioned myths, a lot of it is exaggeration. Next time you hear or read about the new weight loss diet/fad/ pill or miracle foods, take the time to research the topic and ask your healthcare professional about it as well before making any drastic changes or purchases.

Aliza Beer is a registered dietician with a master’s degree in nutrition. She has a private practice in Cedarhurst, NY. Patients’ success has been featured on the Dr. Oz show. Aliza can be reached at alizabeer@ gmail.com.

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- A 16-year-old Palestinian girl who along with her cousin tried stabbing Israelis with scissors, giving her explanation to the police after she was taken into custody, despite a video showing both of the girls acting like classic Palestinian terrorists

This shows that Russia is the strongest nation. – Russian Aleksey Lovchev, after he won the Weightlifting Federation’s World Weightlifting Championships by squatting 582 pounds

Warning: Harris County is politically incorrect. We say: … G-d Bless America and in G-d We Trust. We salute our troops and our flag. If this offends you, leave! - A new sign posted outside Harris County Sheriff Mike Jolley’s office, which he put up to give voice to the “silent majority”

Our resources are being usurped, our trees are being uprooted, our agriculture is being destroyed. - PA leader Mahmoud Abbas at the United Nations climate conference in Paris, claiming that Israel is purposely destroying the environment in PA territory

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And we both know, no matter what I do next I’ll always be that kid With the rolled up socks Garbage can in the corner :05 seconds on the clock Ball in my hands. 5…4…3…2…1 - Kobe Bryant, writing in the Player’s Tribune about his decision to retire at the end of this season

I don’t want to get too Zen-like, but honestly, when I’m sitting in meditation, my mind starts drifting. [Before], it always drifted towards basketball. Always. And it doesn’t do that now. It does that sometimes, it doesn’t do that all the time. To me, that was really the first indicator that this game is not something I can obsess over for much longer. - Kobe Bryant at a press conference

It’s gotten to the point where even Saturday Night Live can’t parody this president anymore. Last week he went overseas and said he is not interested in America winning, he doesn’t have time for that. And now he is saying what a powerful rebuke it is to ISIS that he is going to a global warming summit. How out of touch? Yes [it is in Paris], but President Obama and John Kerry have both said that they think your SUV in the driveway is a greater threat to our security than is ISIS, than is a nuclear Iran. And it makes no sense whatsoever. – 2016 GOP presidential candidate Sen. Ten Cruz

Palestinian Dies in Ramming Attack - Reuters headline last Friday after a terrorist injured two IDF soldiers by ramming his car into them, before being shot dead at the scene

All right, let’s do this. – Joseph Caputo, before jumping over the White House fence on Thanksgiving Day, while draped in an American flag and holding a “Constitution” containing amendments he’d like to see implemented

Yoga has been under a lot of controversy lately due to how it is being practiced and what practices from what cultures (which are often sacred spiritual practices) they are being taken from. Many of these cultures are cultures that have experienced oppression, cultural genocide and diasporas due to colonialism and western supremacy, and we need to be mindful of this and how we express ourselves and while practicing yoga. - From a letter by University of Ottawa’s Student Federation representative, explaining that yoga is “offensive to some” and free yoga classes would no longer be offered at the school

A stab in the back by the terrorists’ accomplices. I can’t describe what has happened today in any other way. – Russian President Vladimir Putin, on Turkey shooting down one of his warplanes near the Syrian border

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I don’t know if I quite understand life yet, but there’s something to be said about this year. – Kyle Busch, on winning his first NASCAR Sprint Cup title just nine months after a broken right leg and left foot in a crash at Daytona nearly ended his season

I had to do three things in order to survive: I thought about my family that survived the Holocaust. I exercised religiously every day. And, I found something every day to laugh at. – Alan Gross, on “60 Minutes,” disclosing how he survived five years of brutality in prison in Cuba

The Philadelphia 76ers set a new record for the longest losing streak in American sports history, with 28 losses in a row since last season. You know the 76ers are bad when they leave the game early to beat traffic. – Jimmy Fallon

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Nearly four centuries after the Mayflower set sail, the world is still full of pilgrims – men and women who want nothing more than the chance for a safer, better future for themselves and their families. – President Obama comparing Syrian refugees to the Pilgrims, in his Thanksgiving address

I’ll answer your questions when there is peace and justice for Palestinians in Palestine. – Response that a 13-year-old Israeli girl got when she emailed a question for a school project to horse expert Professor Marsha Levine, who used to teach at Cambridge University (and is Jewish herself)

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Political Crossfire

The Syrian Immigration Cul-De-Sac By Charles Krauthammer

The Syrian refugee debate has become a national embarrassment. It begins with a president, desperate to deflect attention from the collapse of his foreign policy, retreating to his one safe zone – ad hominem attacks on critics, this time for lack of compassion toward Syrian widows and orphans.

his, without a glimmer of acknowledgment of his own responsibility for these unfortunate souls becoming widowed and orphaned, displaced and homeless, in the first place. A quarter-million deaths ago, when Bashar al-Assad began making war on his own people, he unleashed his air force and helicopters. They dropped high explosives, nail-filled barrel bombs and even chemical weapons on helpless civilians. President Obama lifted not a finger. In the earliest days, we could have stopped the slaughter: cratered Assad’s airfields, taken out his planes, grounded his helicopters and created a nationwide no-fly zone. (We successfully maintained one over Kurdistan for 12 years between 1991 and 2003.)

At the time, Assad was teetering. His national security headquarters had been penetrated and bombed. High-level aides were defecting. Military officers were forming a Free Syrian Army. Against the advice of his top civilian and military aides, Obama refused to intervene. The widows and orphans he now so ostentatiously champions are the product of his coldhearted refusal to do anything that might sully his peacemaking image. Obama has also charged the Republicans with cowardice, afraid to grant admittance to “3-year-old orphans.” He gave zero credit to the very real concern of governors and other officials that terrorists could be embedded amid the refugees. This is no theoretical proposition. At least one of the Paris attackers came to France by way of Greece. Obama’s own officials have admitted that the absence of thorough data makes it nearly impossible to properly vet Syrian refugees. In response, many Republicans (and some Democrats) called for a pause in admitting Syrians until alternate vetting procedures are developed. In my view, it would have been better to differentiate among the refugees: Admit women, children and the elderly under the current procedures, while subjecting young men of fighting age to a new regime of far stricter scrutiny. The concerns of GOP officials were quite reasonable. But there was no need for the Republican

candidates to allow the Syria debate to be derailed into a cul-de-sac on immigration – as if the essence of the Middle East issue is a relatively small number of potential refugees rather than the abject failure of Obama’s policies. Terror is rising around the world – Sinai, Beirut, Mali, Paris. Brussels was shut down by fear itself. The president, in denial about the collapse of his Syria policy, de-

They dropped high explosives, nailfilled barrel bombs and even chemical weapons on helpless civilians. President Obama lifted not a finger.

nounced those demanding a change in course. His secretary of state actually acknowledged a rationale (if not legitimacy) for the machine-gunning of a room full of Charlie Hebdo cartoonists for offending Muslim sensibilities with a drawing. Beyond that is the strategic surrender of the Middle East, for 40 years dominated by the United States, to Russia and Iran, who now dictate the terms. Which is why, for example, we dare not impose a protective no-fly zone. It’s too dangerous. Russia has filled the

Obama vacuum. Facing a massive failure of seven years of Democratic foreign policy stewardship, the GOP candidates have instead tried to outbid each other in being tough on Syrian refugees. This descent into xenophobia was led, as usual, by Donald Trump. Amid bushels of word salad, he concurred with registering American Muslims, raised alarms about Arab-American treachery (“thousands and thousands” on TV cheering the World Trade Center collapse) and promised not only to deny entry to Syrian refugees, but to send back the ones already here. Can you see it? Packing them onto his 757, the one with goldplated seatbelts, then dumping them – orphans, widows, the lot – into a war zone to await the next regime barrel bomb. Other GOP candidates have issued Trumpian echoes. The Muslim registry had no takers. But some have advocated shutting out all the refugees or taking Christians only. They are chasing the polls showing strong anti-refugee sentiment. How deeply shortsighted. It may work in the GOP primaries. But Trump-like anti-immigrant, antiforeigner, now anti-Muslim, antiArab rhetoric – and don’t forget those cunning Chinese stealing our jobs and ruthless Mexicans hurting our women – will not play well in a general election. Politically, it will be fatal. John Kasich has forcefully denounced this slide into the swamp. Where are the others? (c) 2015, The Washington Post Writers Group

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Political Crossfire Political pros in this state are not foolish enough to pick a winner this far out from the caucuses (I am: It will be Ted Cruz, whose mix of frank religiosity and anti-establishment zeal is a good fit for the Iowa Republican electorate, and practically no other) but they do love their typologies.

In Iowa, Down the Stretch They Come By Michael Gerson

istorically, by one account, there are brand name candidates (think Bob Dole or George H.W. Bush); conservative outsider candidates (think Mike Huckabee or Rick Santorum); and idea candidates (think Jack Kemp or Ron Paul). Most Iowa political types I consulted would pick this as a conservative outsider year. By most accounts, the Republican candidates are competing for control of three “lanes”: Hard-Core Evangelicals (HCE), who think the GOP’s main problem is a lack of fighting spirit; Practically Minded Evangelicals (PME), who are socially conservative but value electability; and Terry Branstad Republicans (TBR), who, following in the footsteps of a popular and effective governor, want the largest tent possible consistent with their convictions (and feel the HCEs are going off the deep end). Note that whatever lane you choose in Republican Iowa, you are likely to hit an evangelical. This makes the Hawkeye State unique or scary, depending on your cultural predilection. Scott Walker, it is generally believed, flamed out because (among other reasons) he did not “own his lane.” Based on polling and anecdote, HCEs are breaking toward Cruz. PMEs seem to be moving toward Marco Rubio. And TBRs – a shrinking proportion of Iowa’s GOP electorate – are still divided among a few candidates (many politicos close to Branstad, including his son, are in the Chris Christie camp). No one I consulted can explain the Donald Trump phenomenon, which seems to defy typology, so they tend

to talk about down-ticket conflicts: Cruz vs. Rubio. Rubio vs. Jeb Bush. Ben Carson vs. his foreign policy homework. Cruz is currently benefiting from a common but specious conservative argument – that recent GOP presidential candidates have lost because they weren’t conservative enough. This claim has been around since the days of President Goldwater. But it has gained traction in Iowa,

with a twist. Given the perceived political vulnerability of Hillary Clinton, might it be possible to choose and elect a “real” conservative this time around, defined as the rejection of compromise at the highest decibel level? Cruz has the decibel part mastered and has moved right on immigration in an attempt to sew up conservative support. “He goes where he needs to go,” one Republican strategist told me. Influential and obstreperous Rep.

Steve King has endorsed Cruz; influential evangelical Bob Vander Plaats seems about to. Cruz has benefited in one way from the Trump ascendency. He looks positively reasonable in comparison. And Cruz doesn’t have Trump’s main drawback in reaching out to conservatives – that Trump isn’t actually a conservative. Rubio is gaining steam in Iowa, on the strength of a perception that his next-generation conservatism matches up well against Clinton’s oldtime liberalism. He seems to be on just about everyone’s top three list. But the Iowa caucuses are not won by being a fallback choice. Rubio is trying to gain ground by moving right. During recent visits, he has emphasized his role as a conservative revolutionary – which is not easy for anyone once part of the immigration reform “Gang of Eight.” And since then he has also moved rightward on immigration, demonstrating how Trump’s nativism has pulled many in the GOP toward restrictionism. Rubio’s strategy is not without risk. Heading off Cruz on the right may come across as forced and inauthentic. And siding with anti-Branstad forces in Iowa could cause the TBRs to coalesce around Christie or Bush. This seems to be the only possibility for Bush to finish a respectable third or fourth. And the calculations of all the candidates appealing to evangelicals are complicated by Carson – whose autobiography, Gifted Hands, is sometimes used as a textbook by homeschoolers. He is slipping but probably not collapsing. All of which leaves large questions unanswered. Can Trump translate poll numbers into caucus-goers? He has hired a strong staff in the state. He is barnstorming in counties heavy in white working-class voters. But will people who have probably never participated in a caucus trudge on a cold night to a high school cafeteria to support a candidate who isn’t part of any ideological movement, other than the Trump-should-run-everything movement? In other words: Can you have a revolution without a cause? As the first test, Iowa will play its accustomed and essential role. (c) 2015, Washington Post Writers Group

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Forgotten Her es There were many WWII battlefields that are almost forgotten today. Consider that the Aleutian Islands was a year and half struggle in frozen tundra that was supposed to be a feint for the Japanese attacking the American forces at Midway Island. The New Guinea Campaign was fought between the Allies and Japanese over the unforgiving Owen Stanley Mountain Range. Ethiopia was one of the first major Allied victories of the war when the British forced the Italians to retreat. The GrecoItalian War was a five month battle starting in October 1940 that ended with the German invasion of Greece. However, the Greeks made significant gains against the Italians. One of the early casualties of the war was a veteran of two previous wars, Colonel

Colonel Mordechai Frizis The Highest Ranking Jewish Officer in the Greek Army By Avi Heiligman

A memorial to Frizis  Mordechai Frizis with his wife 

Mordechai Frizis.

ordechai Frizis was born to Jewish parents on the Greek Isle of Euboea in 1893. His family had been in Greece for many generations and could trace their lineage to Jewish slaves that had been in Greece since the destruction of the Second Beis Hamikdash. His parents wished for him to become a lawyer but after studying in law school, he volunteered for the army. After joining officer training school he had to drop out when he didn’t score high on the exams. He fought against the Germans and Bulgarians in Greek

Macedonia as a sergeant and earned a battlefield commission in 1919. Several countries including France, Poland, Romania and Greece joined the anti-Communist “White” Russians in fight Communist Russia in the Crimean Peninsula. Frizis joined the Greek expeditionary force on the Ukrainian Front and distinguished himself on the battlefield. Off the battlefield he was selected with another officer to try and gain supplies for the weary Greek army in Kishinev, Moldova. He had the following conversation with a Jewish shopkeeper. “Who are you?” the

shopkeeper asked. “Can’t you see? I am a Greek officer.” “I can see that all right, but how come you speak Hebrew better than I do?” “Because I am a Jew, and I have studied our language.” “So how they did they let you become an officer?” “No one asked me about my religion or which G-d I believe in. In Athens we have senior Jewish lawyers, civil servants and many others. So why not officers as well?” The word got out about there being a Jewish officer in the Greek army needing supplies for his soldiers, and all the Jewish shopkeepers

rushed to help but refused to accept payment. Soon the army was evacuated to Asia Minor and took part in the Turkish War of Independence. After their initial success, the Greeks were entrapped by the Turks outside Ankara and the fiasco got even worse when many soldiers were taken captive. Frizis was one of them and was offered his freedom as soon as they realized that he was the only non-Christian officer among the POWs. He refused to leave his soldiers behind and spent eleven months in captivity. He was released in 1923, returned to Greece and was promoted to captain. Greece went through many political changes but the army for the most part stayed intact. Frizis was sent to study at France’s war college after which he was promoted again. His knack for infantry tactics was noticed by his superiors, and he was promoted to lieutenant colonel thus making him the highest ranking Jewish officer in the Greek army. In the first year of WWII, Germany was fast advancing on most of Europe. In the east, Hitler ym”sh quickly defeated Poland in a month and defeated or annexed all other countries besides Russia. In the summer of 1940, Germany invaded Russia which turned out to be the longest and one of the bloodiest campaigns of the war. In the east, France, Holland, Belgium and other Allied nations were forced to surrender after Germany used its blitzkrieg tactics. Only England remained to fight against Germany. This left Germany’s ally, Italy, to invade Greece in the south. Dictator Benito Mussolini, known as Il Duce, wanted to

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show everyone that Italy had a world class military and proceeded to lose several key battles even though the Italian army was five times

At the beginning of the war, Greece rejected an Italian ultimatum and was invaded on October 28, 1940. The Greeks began to coun-

ually pushed back the Italian Modena division. The one advantage the Italians had – and used – was their air force. Greece had very

“No one asked me about my religion or which G-d I believe in. In Athens we have senior Jewish lawyers, civil servants and many others. So why not officers as well?”

larger than Greece’s. Germany only came in to assist when Italy was about to pull out of Greece after a failed offensive. Close to 13,000 Jewish volunteers served on the Albanian front in 1940. 513 Greek Jewish soldiers died during WWII and 3,500 were severely injured.

terattack in mid-November and the fighting spilled over into neighboring Albania. Mordechai Frizis was there with his men to repel a local Italian attack over a bridge. His men affectionately called themselves “Frizian soldiers” after their commander as they contin-

few anti-aircraft guns and on December 5, 1940 they were under aerial attack. Frizis rode up and down his lines on his white horse to inspire his men. Other officers begged him to get down but Frizis continued to rally his men. The planes soon left and the Italians began a

counterattack. Sadly, Frizis was found dead on the battlefield, the casualty of machine gunfire. In a strange twist, a Greek Orthodox priest came over to his body and recited, “Shema Yisrael.” Frizis was the first high ranking Greek officer to be killed in the war. Greece surrendered to the Germans in 1941 and suffered through four years of Nazi rule. Mordechai Frizis was buried on the battlefield in southern Albania but the exact location wasn’t known until 50 years later. In 2002 in a public ceremony he was buried with full military honors in Thessaloniki – once known as the “Pearl of Israel.” His grandson, Rabbi Mordechai Frizis, was named after him and now lives in Israel. After he was killed, the Greek gov-

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ernment acknowledged his noble actions by putting up statues honoring him. A street in Athens was named after him, and the prime minister personally wrote a condolence letter to his wife declaring him a hero of the state of Greece. Frizis was posthumously promoted to colonel and was beloved by the men who served under his command. Frizis is barely mentioned outside of Greece but his legacy on the battlefield makes him a true forgotten hero.

Avi Heiligman is a weekly contributor to The Jewish Home. He welcomes your comments and suggestions for future columns and can be reached at aviheiligman@gmail.com.

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any of my young clients (or their parents) ask about the role of higher education in preparing for the world of work. In my well-known humility, I always prefer to offer guidance from someone smarter than me, for example, Albert Einstein. He once said, “The only thing that gets in the way of my learning is education.” I don’t recall that the great professor was a job coach, but job hunters should pay attention to his words. He is telling us that there are two processes. Learning is each individual’s self-motivated drive to acquire information, insight, and analytical tools. The learner uses all of these to reach his own goals, whether in expanding the body of human knowledge, producing something of value, or enriching the lives of others. Education is the effort of others to provide access to a predefined set of skills and information, either in a traditional classroom or some more modern, technological way. Education may enable you to build a very valuable foundation for future success in the world of work. But in today’s job market, that foundation will almost always be lacking many of the critical skills that employers want and employees need. So if you want to be ready to get and

succeed in a job, an education might be a good start, but it is never enough. Today, instead of letting our children passively march through the process of becoming educated, we must enable them to become learners. A learner uses educational opportunities if they help him reach his learning goals. But he also understands that there will always be more that he needs to learn. Even while he is devoting a fulltime effort to his education, he knows that there are other things that he is responsible to learn. He constantly seeks additional opportunities, both formal and informal, for building his skill set and knowledge base. He is driven to seek more insight and ask more questions so that he will be able to look at something in an entirely new way. Once upon a time becoming educated was seen as a value in itself. Education was seen as liberating the mind, enabling people to think creatively and to accomplish great things. The subjects taught became known as the liberal (as in liberating) arts, and indeed, the most universal goal of free societies in the last 70 years has been to increase access to education as a means of increasing human happiness and freedom. But like the little boy at the king’s

parade, some people have noticed that there are a lot of people who become very educated yet remain as unhappy, unfree, even as small-minded as before. And there are also some people whose visions have enabled us to see, who have shared the fruits of their self-motivated and self-guided learning in ways that truly liberate us. In job search terms, the difference between education and learning is easy to understand. Educated people can provide interesting conversation while they draw your skinny double latte. Because they have not completed the package by adding their own learning to their education, they are simply not able to meet the needs of employers. Learners not only have the full array of skills that employers want, they also have the drive which enables them to do a job better than anyone else – and do it even better tomorrow. Some learners may use formal education to acquire at least some of the tools they want. Others may learn from experience, apprenticeship, reflection, self-guided study, or synthesis. The key is that they are relentless in pursuing and using the knowledge they want. Nothing will stop them from finding it. Whether someone is searching for a job at the

beginning of their working life or because they got sidetracked in the middle somewhere, education is often recommended as a way of opening doors to new opportunities. After the crash of 2008, millions of people were guided to retraining or even whole new degrees. Almost none of which led to new jobs. Because these people were receiving education, but no one told them that they also had to take the initiative to learn. There are more opportunities for education today than ever in history. On-campus, online, liberal arts, professional, core requirements, create your own major, certificates, degrees-unlimited! At costs in both time and money that run from high to astronomical. If what you really want is “hire” education, i.e., you want to end up with a job, then before you look at the menu, you need to look at yourself. Before you ask what education will do for you, you need to decide on your ultimate goal. That includes both deciding what you want to be prepared to do, and what are the best ways for you, specifically, to acquire the skills that you need. If you aren’t ready to make that decision,

then education will be an expensive waste of time. If well-meaning people are telling you to take a few courses while you decide, that’s even worse. A far better path would be to start working at a job you can do with the skills and background you have now, while you use networking and research to identify new options. Taking responsibility for your own learning is the most important step on the way to your hire education. No course, no degree, nothing can give you all of the skills you need to succeed. From the day you start your first job, your first class, the first day of the rest of your life, you must constantly take advantage of opportunities to build skills and develop talents, always striving to acquire that set of tools that is uniquely yours. Some people see education as a value in and of itself. They would be far better off if they would learn a lesson from Albert Einstein. Rabbi Mordechai Kruger’s Job Search for Champions has helped clients of all kinds find the jobs they really want. He can be reached at jobsearch forchampions@gmail.com

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Rocky’s

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My Laundromat Hates Me! By Rocky Zweig

Please note: the following article contains a euphemism. You’ll know it when you see it. I hope.

My laundromat hates me. Allow me to explain. This is the first time in my life that I’ve had to worry about my laundry. Before I was married, I put my dirty laundry in this magic box called a “hamper” or, as I called it, “Hampy,” and presto! Next thing I knew, everything was back in my drawers, including my drawers, neat, clean and tidy. I loved Hampy; it was a very wonderful system. Then I married Frenchi and sure enough, we had a hamper, too, but it wasn’t quite as efficient as good ol’ Hampy. My stuff came back clean and folded, but I had to reload it back into my drawers myself. I found that rather taxing at first, but I eventually got used to it.

emarkably, every time I was married, my laundry got done. But during the in-between-y times, I had to do it myself, even though I had a hamper. Maybe I lost the instructions or something, but bottom line is I actually had to physically remove my icky stuff and figure out how to wash it. So whenever I’ve been happy…I mean single…I’ve been a patron of laundromats. One of them was right across the street from one of my apartments which was awesome, but all the others have been something of a schlep. And I know, I know: they all offer pickup and delivery service, but for some odd reason I can’t seem to get my act together enough to be home when I’m supposed to, so I always drop it off and pick it up myself. Anyway, since I’ve been living here, I’ve tried several places all to no avail, which isn’t in and of itself a

huge problem, seeing as how I have no idea what an avail is. But either I haven’t liked the way they clean my stuff, they’re too expensive, they’re too far, or some combination thereof. Finally I found a place that was a little far but I went in anyway, mostly because when I saw the sign in their window, I laughed for ten minutes: Give up? Go ahead and try a few more minutes, I’ll wait. Okay, here goes: You have to read it backwards! They used the Hebrew letters from left to right; when you read it that way, it says “Wash (Vashin) & Fold!” First I stood there scratching my head. Then when I figured it out, I stood there giggling like a crazy person. I figured I better let the poor guy know. He was a twenty-something year old Chinese guy who spoke perfect English named Leo (Leo?). Seemed like a nice enough fellow.

“Hi,” I said, “I wanted to talk to you about your sign.” “Hi. Okay, sure; what about it?” “Just wanted to let you know that there’s a mistake on it.” “Huh? How is that even possible?” He sounded annoyed; maybe I should have kept my mouth shut. So I explained that unlike most other languages, Hebrew is read from right to left, not left to right, which is why if you see someone in the library reading a Hebrew book, it’ll look like he’s starting at the end. Leo was confused. Frankly, I didn’t blame him. Then he questioned my knowledge of Hebrew vis-à-vis the sign manufacturer. Harrumph! “The guy said he knew all the Hebrew letters for ‘Wash & Fold,’ no problem.” “He does. Only he wrote, ‘D’luf & N’shav.’” “Okay,” said Leo rather curtly, “I’ll look into it. Thanks for stopping by.” I took that as an invitation to leave. My momma didn’t raise no dummy. A few days later I decided to make it up to him by bringing him my laundry. “Hey, you were right,” he said when I walked in, “I Googled it and spoke to some other Jewish people and they all said that the sign guy totally messed up. Seriously, thanks for pointing it out.” “No problem. So when is the guy replacing the sign?” “Oh, he’s not. Since I approved it when I picked it up, he says it’s not his problem. There are no returns once it leaves his place.” Okay, a few words about my

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laundry: it’s not like most other peoples’ laundry only because of whom I share my dwelling space with. The fishes and the lizard are non-issues, but not so Clarice. Clarice is my European Starling who I raised from the time she was a little-ball-of-fluff fledgling who fell out of her nest, or possibly was pushed, and landed <SPLAT> on the little mound of earth below the tree. I took her home and fed her every 45 minutes with an eyedropper and she grew up strong and sleek and gorgeous and now she literally thinks I’m her daddy. Or maybe her mommy, I’m not sure. Regardless, she’s a wonderful companion who sits on my shoulder while I work at the computer and says, “I love you” into my right ear.

mulke hanging on my door so I’ll remember to change kippot before I venture out, lest someone think I’ve been sitting on the beach for the past few days. So I brought my laundry to Leo, complete with my painted robe and sheets and pillowcases and that’s really about it. But that’s a lot. When I picked it up later that day, Leo didn’t say anything, but I guess I had the need to share: “I have a bird.” “Yes,” he said, “we noticed.” Then I noticed the women smiling in the back, folding (or d’luffing, if you prefer) laundry. “Your mom?” “No,” he said, “my sister.” “How to Win Friends and Influence People” one more time…

those names. B’shita I won’t shop at one-word named stores that mean nothing, like “Visions,” “Horizons,” or “Platypus.” And if the name ends with an O? Fuhgeddaboudit! “Bellagio.” Ontario.” “Intaglio.” “Ambrosio.” Am I supposed to be impressed that your store sounds like a forshpeiz from the Olive Garden? So my source for clothing has pretty much boiled down to W.O.S.A.B.: Whatever’s On Sale At Burlington. Then I made the mistake of giving Leo two ties. I only buy silk ties, and they’re really hard to clean well. Well, apparently whoever Leo gave them to had no idea what he was doing, because they came back flat and wrinkled and…ready?... with the stains still there! Maybe I was imagining it, but it seemed like

So I have special paint clothes for home: I have a paint robe and a paint yarmulke, which looks like a cross between one of those tacky black velvet paintings and a Jackson Pollock.

I never had a wife who sat on my shoulder and said “I love you,” but I guess I could have done without the shoulder-sitting. Anyway, here’s the thing about birds. They do two things extremely well: they eat, and they… paint. Of course all pets paint, but dogs generally paint outdoors and cats usually paint in a paint box. Birds paint whenever and wherever they feel like it which is very inconvenient, considering that they fly. And when I’m home, Clarice is usually out of her cage for hours at a time, just having a grand old time, a-flyin’ and a-swoopin’ and a-paintin’. Sometimes it feels like I’m living with a pterodactyl. So I have special paint clothes for home: I have a paint robe and a paint yarmulke, which looks like a cross between one of those tacky black velvet paintings and a Jackson Pollock. I always have a regular yar-

Leo finally got used to my painted laundry, and things were going along swimmingly. He was helping me stay chic and dashing by doing a pretty good job cleaning my suits, and he charges about half what the guy across Coney does, who apparently thinks he’s in Nassau County (yes, I remember how much I paid to clean a suit out there; considering how much I pay for suits in the first place, it would have been cheaper just to wear them until they were too dirty and then buy new ones). Sadly, I seem to have metamorphosized from suave and debonair to old and decrepit. Don’t get me wrong: I’m not quite ready for the green-checkered polyester pants pulled up to my belly button, but I haven’t been paying too much attention to my clothes recently. Remember when clothing stores had real names? “Mendel’s.” “Zitwer’s.” “Moe and Phil’s.” I loved

Leo was looking at me with daggers shooting from his eyeballs, daring me to bring up my massacred neckwear. Who knows? Maybe he can tell when a tie was $9.99 from TJ Maxx. Anyway, I just smiled and didn’t say one word. Proud of me? Finally last week, the coup de grâce (nothing to do with Cadillac) was when I picked up a couple shirts and one of them hadn’t been cleaned. “They didn’t clean this one,” Leo said, “because it’s torn.” Huh? I liked that shirt. “Torn?” Daggers again. “Yes…see?” It wasn’t torn as much as it was frayed. In other words, I had worn it to death. Darn! I really liked that shirt. I guess I must have been standing there for a while with this sad, pouty puppy face staring at my shirt for just a wee moment too

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long, because Leo finally said, “We didn’t do it. It was like that when you brought it in. That’s why it wasn’t cleaned.” So the bottom line is: either I’ve become some new specialized breed of masochist who only tortures himself through his laundry service or I’ve gotten too old and lazy to start looking all over again. Leo and I seem to have settled into a nice, comfortable animosity. But if he compliments me on my watch, I better remember not to tell him I won it at a Chinese Auction.

Rocky Zweig has been writing since he was sixteen and was the Editor-in-Chief of the late and decidedly unlamented Modieinu, the mimeographed (remember mimeographs?) newspaper of the Tenth Avenue Pirchei of Boro Park, where he wrote everything from stories to news articles to hashkafa articles to...yes (now it can be told!)...letters to the editor. Rocky was sixteen a very long time ago. He is the proud father of three marginally neurotic children. He has been married three — count ‘em — three times and has finally determined that he’s probably not very good at matrimonial bliss. He lives in his Fortress of Solitude in Flatbush with a small menagerie: Clarice, a European Starling; Rabbi Horatio LeZard, a Bearded Dragon; an aquarium filled with Lake Malawi African Cichlids; and a ten gallon tank that functions as a Home for Unwanted Goldfish, or H.U.G., collected over the years by his grandkids and great nieces and nephews at myriad street fairs and carnivals (rather than face the unpleasant task of flushing these unfortunate piscine creatures when they are eventually, inevitably ignored by their own obnoxious progeny, the parents simply call Uncle Rocky who then feeds them and cares for them until their ultimate natural demise three or four or even ten years down the pike). So apparently Rocky seems to get along better with animals than with his fellow homo sapiens. Or sapienses. Or whatever. Rocky’s column will be appearing every other week in The Jewish Home. Rocky can be reached at anidaati@aol. com.

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Money

Uncle Sam, Knowing When to Hold ‘Em By Allan Rolnick, CPA

Last month, millions of fans across America sat down in front of their televisions to watch the Kansas City Royals beat the New York Mets, 4 games to 1 in baseball’s World Series. But few of those fans would ever dream they could suit up and join the players in the dugout. That’s because, while many of us played as children or teens, America’s national pastime is, for the most part, a spectator sport.

hat’s not the case with America’s favorite indoor sport. Poker players across America look forward to the World Series of Poker, in part because, for just $10,000, they can buy in and join the action themselves. On July 8, a total of 6,420 players from 80 different countries gathered at Las Vegas’s Rio Casino to compete in the no-limit hold ’em Main Event. And on November 10, there was one clear winner: our friends at the Internal Revenue Service. To be clear, no one from the Service actually appeared at the final table. And a 24-year-old pro named Joseph “Joey Ice Cube” McKeehen from North Wales, PA, walked away with the coveted gold and diamond bracelet. But the IRS walked away with a bigger chunk of the $24 million in prize money than anyone else! Joe McKeehen sat down at the final table with three times as many chips as his nearest rival and never let up. Three days and just 183 hands later, his pair of tens knocked out Joshua Beckley’s pocket fours to end

it all. McKeehen’s share of the purse totaled $7,683,346. And sure, that sounds like real money. But assuming he pays tax on the full amount, he’ll give back $3,073,240 of that in federal income tax, $292,000 in self-employment tax (because he’s a professional), $235,879 in Penn-

The IRS walked away with a bigger chunk of the $24 million in prize money than anyone else!

sylvania income tax, and $76,833 in local Earned Income Tax. (He’ll also owe tax on the $500,000 value of the bracelet.) That’s sort of like taking a full house and chopping off the

pair — it still leaves three of a kind, but it doesn’t pack the same punch. The story is much the same with the rest of the nine who sat down at the final table. Runner-up Beckley turned his $10,000 buyin into $4,470,896, but gives back $2,081,719 in tax. (His tax rate as a New Jersey resident is a lot higher than McKeehen’s.) Third-place winner Neil Blumenfield faces a 12% California tax on his winnings, while fourth-place finisher Max Steinberg of Las Vegas faces no state tax on his at all. Seventh-place finisher Pierre Neuville, of Belgium, actually finishes fifth after taxes. That’s because the U.S.-Belgium tax treaty lets him keep all of his $1,203,293 prize. Ninth-place finisher Patrick Chan, who lives in New York City, played just two hands at the final table and gives back nearly half his $1,001,020 to taxes. In the end, Uncle Sam should take home $8,467,081 of the total prize money. That’s not bad considering he didn’t even have to sit down

to play! No tough decisions over going “all-in” before the flop, no sweating out gutshot draws on the turn or the river. On other continents, Israel’s Tax Authority takes a shekel or two from fifth-place finisher Zvi Stern, and Italy’s Agenzia delle Entrate takes half a million (dollars, not lire) from eighth-place finisher Federico Butteroni. Here’s the good news where it comes to taxes: Paying less is a lot easier than catching pocket aces at the final table. So if you want to pay less, and you can’t take advantage of the U.S.-Belgium tax treaty, make sure you have a plan. Be sure to do it now, before the year runs out on you. We can tell you which strategies to hold, and which to fold, and send you home a winner.

Allan J Rolnick is a CPA who has been in practice for over 30 yea rs in Queens, NY. He welcomes your comments and can be reached at 718896-8715 or at allanjrcpa@aol.com.

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price differential. 1) Space. They say air is free. Well, not on a plane. You pay for every extra bit of breathing room. 2) A wet hot shmatta. They are really stretching there, looking for something to make you feel luxurious. No one knows what to do with it – first it’s too hot to touch and then it gets cold in a second. But no one refuses it ‘cause they paid heavily for it and they’re going to get their money’s worth. 3) A meal! Wow, now this is certainly worth an arm and a leg. 4) A better bathroom ratio – you can never knock that. 5) And then the coveted real reward: the ability to lie down. That’s really what first class is all about. Oh yeah and free liquor!! Now there’s the mistake the airlines make. The free liquor should go to coach. That way no one would remember how miserably they slept. Or then again even if they couldn’t sleep they’d be feeling happy anyway. That I think could be the solution to the dilemma of how to keep people from feeling miserable, folded up and bent in half, trying to find a place for their excess carry on – their body!

Rivki Rosenwald is a certified relationship counselor, and career and life coach. She can be contacted at 917-705-2004 or rivki@rosenwalds.com

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