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last several weeks. One incredible woman told me, “I davened harder for Raquel than when my own mother was sick.” She is not a relative or even a close friend of hers; just a caring woman who feels other people’s pain. And our tefillos must continue so that Raquel should have a complete recovery. We must never take anything for granted, and we have learned that from Raquel. We have learned that we must always look to improve ourselves individually and collectively. But one lesson that is highlighted from the wonderful turn of events last week is just how special and caring our community really is – so special that Hashem allowed an open miracle to take place right here in the Five Towns. As we enter the days of the greatest historical darkness for klal Yisroel, we hope that the spark that was lit through all the tefillos uttered in our community will be fanned into a torch which will burn bright and will rescue all of klal Yisroel from our individual and communal tzaros. May we be zoche to see yeshuos, refuos and only good things for all of klal Yisroel and to rejoice in each other’s simchos together.

ashem is all loving, constantly watching and protecting us. Perhaps part of the golus, though, is that there are so many distractions that prevent us from seeing His love for us on a daily and constant basis. Yet, once in a while something takes place that compels us to exhale from all our anxieties for a moment and allows us to be enveloped in His love. It is those moments that give us the courage to keep marching along in our lives, in which we sometimes feel alone. When faced with darkness, we can look at those moments, those events, to remind us that Hashem is not only by our side, but He moves mountains for us every day. Such an event took place last week in our community, when a young mother in a hospital bed awoke from a coma. That moment of euphoria, when the news spread, sent physical shivers through our bodies and gave us a glimpse of the tremendous light that Hashem shines upon us. We sometimes sit around our Shabbos or dinner tables talking about our community’s problems or deficiencies, but the event last week highlights just how special our community is. Every person that I spoke with couldn’t stop talking about how hard they have been davening over the

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Contents LETTERS TO THE EDITOR

COMMUNITY Readers’ Poll

Community Happenings

This Week We’re Talking to...Orah Day Camp

NEWS Global

National

Odd-but-True Stories

ISRAEL

Israel News

The House on Chelouche Street by Rafi Sackville 96

PEOPLE Tales from the Depths by Avi Heiligman

PARSHA Rabbi Wein

JEWISH THOUGHT Be a Potato Peeler by Rabbi Jonathan Gewirtz

Assault and Flattery by Eytan Kobre

Submitting to a Higher Will – Part II by Rabbi Naphtali Hoff

Tragedies by Rabbi YY Rubinstein

HEALTH & FITNESS I’m Out for your Blood – For Good Reasons by Dr. Hylton I. Lightman 69 How to Make Up by Deb Hirschhorn, PhD

Fast Track Foods for an Easy Fast by Aliza Beer, MS RD

Dear Editor, I would like to discuss an issue which has been quietly affecting this town for the last number of months. It is very frustrating and time-consuming, yet nothing is being done about it. That is, the newly installed traffic signal/turning lane at the corner of Rockaway Turnpike and Central Avenue. I invite you to stand on the corner and watch as traffic is backed up for blocks, literally, creating a nightmare of an intersection. It sometimes takes between two and three light cycles to successfully cross over from Central Avenue headed towards Far Rockaway. If the light was put in to help, it has had the exact opposite effect. Where are the people who got this light put in? Do they not see how much of a failure this is and how bad traffic has become because of one ill-advised light? Please step up and admit the project was a fail and revert the light pattern to what it used to be, and make Central Avenue a welcoming place as opposed to the Brooklyn feel it currently has. Tuvia Hertz Dear Editor, Recently, it was reported that Zika virus is now in Florida. I know that

the danger seems tenuous and we feel safe in America, but please keep in mind that the effects of Zika are real. I urge our community to stay in safe areas and be vigilant about taking precautions and using proper bug spray. This is truly something we should be concerned with. Thank you, D. Lewin Dear Editor, I am not into politics and generally do not listen to the news or talk radio. But this year’s elections have begun to make me nervous and I appreciate your coverage and insight. I especially appreciate what you wrote this week about Hashem truly being the One in charge. That is a lesson that’s true every day in everything – we just need to remember it and keep it to heart. A Reader Dear Editor, The letter in your dating column this week made me feel so sad. Clearly, the woman who wrote the letter values her husband’s learning, but she probably also feels that she is not the center of his attention, which is not Continued on page 12

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POLITICAL CROSSFIRE Donald Trump and the Dangers of a Strong Presidency by Marc Fisher

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how a marriage should be. A husband should devote his time to making sure that his wife feels cared for and acknowledged. I am sure that a difference of values has come up time and time again with this couple; it almost seems as if they are on different pages – she is the understanding parent who connects with the children; he is a wonderful, learning role model but clearly not involved in their dayto-day lives. Sadly, it’s the children who end up feeling confused and are often the “korbanos” when it comes to important decisions. In this situation, when it involves dating, it is really important that she finds someone who her husband values and ask that person to get involved. It is vital that he does not push his daughter into marrying someone who she doesn’t connect with or that he forces her to delay her marriage because she is only dating men who are not connecting with her. Sincerely, Chana L. Dear Editor, The article this week by Tammy Mark on the Save a Child’s Heart program was so inspiring, I wanted to print up hundreds of copies and hand them out on the LIRR commute! Israel is the most selfless and thoughtful country, forever going to other nations and providing aid, regardless of Israel’s small size and regardless of the other nation’s view on Middle East politics. To think that doctors give of their time – gratis – to help children from all over the world and in the Palestinian territories is mindboggling. Do they ever stop to think that relatives of this same child may be looking to hurt these doctors’ families or friends, G-d forbid? I am sure that they are dedicated to their duty and single-minded in their mission to lit-

erally save a child’s life. I hope that these children and their families will come back to the homes healthy and happy to tell others about the wonderful Israelis who helped them survive. Hopefully, they will become goodwill ambassadors for our Land. May we always continue to be givers and healers. Sincerely, Ron Yarmush Dear Editor, Your series on local camps is a wonderful feature. It gives every child who attends these camps an added excitement and helps them to learn more about their camp, especially how it started. We send our kids to camp for eight weeks a summer and it also gives parents a little peek into how it’s all run. Keep up the great work! Sincerely, M. W.

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Although he has been accused of stealing over $700 million from his country, being tied to murder, taking kickbacks, and having used federal prosecutors to investigate his rivals, Malaysia’s prime minister seems to be untouchable and currently faces no real threat to his reappointment in 2018. Throughout his years as prime minister, many have wondered how Najib Razak and his wife live such a lavish lifestyle. Now it has come to light that close to $1 billion has been siphoned from Malaysia’s stateowned 1MDB investment fund and much of it was used to purchase luxury properties, leisure jet airplanes, and works of art. Lawsuits filed in California show that the United States Justice Department is seeking to seize assets “involved in and traceable to an international conspiracy to launder money misappropriated from 1MDB” over a four-year period. Known to be an expert negotiator on the political playing field, Razak’s often-spoken-about relaxed attitude took a back seat when word reached him of Attorney General Abdul Gani Patail’s plans to file charges against him. The Attorney General and Deputy Prime Minister Muhyiddin Yassin were forced to resign and all further inquiries into the allegations against him were suspiciously buried. Tales are being told of very large amounts of hush money being paid in cash to those politicians left standing. The prime minister has also appointed himself as finance minister, which allows him to control and protect the state investment fund being questioned. Among the assets that were purchased by the “state-owned” fund are $137 million of art, including a Monet painting that was purchased at the bargain price of $35 million. A price like that is what I call a real “steal.”

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While we train our children to ride bikes and not to talk to strangers, there are children across the globe being taught from a very young age how to hate. Europe’s law enforcement agencies are issuing a warning that children of ISIS fighters living in Syria and Iraq are being trained to become the “next generation” of terrorists. The terror group openly broadcasts its use of children as fighters and suicide bombers. In fact, in a recent gory propaganda video that ISIS has become known for, a British toddler performs the role of executioner. Isa Dare is the son of Khadijah Dare, a London woman that became radicalized by ISIS. In the video he appears to blow up a car containing three prisoners. Dressed in military clothes and an ISIS headband he proclaims, “We will kill the kuffars [infidels] over there.” As more “jihadi brides” are taken to live under the cruel hand of ISIS, the number of children in the terrorist group is expected to increase dramatically. In its annual report on terrorism in the European Union, Europol

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tices Taiwan’s indigenous communities have suffered at the hands of the Taiwanese government. A delegation representing the island recognized 16 tribes who were dressed in feather headdresses and loincloths to receive the message from the island’s first leader with aboriginal heritage.

“I apologize to the indigenous people on behalf of the government, offering our deepest apology for the suffering and injustice you endured over the past 400 years,” Tsai said in her speech. “We need to look at history seriously and speak the truth,” she added. The president will be heading up an investigative task force to delve into past persecutions and attempt to right centuries of abuse. Tsai has promised to protect tribal languages, restore land rights, and increase the overall representation of aboriginal communities when forming state policy. Over the past centuries, large amounts of immigration from China has led to the erosion of the indigenous culture. Much of the land they once inhabited has been designated as national parklands and fighting has broken out over fishing and hunting in protected areas without the proper permits.

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that Brazilian drug trafficker Jarvis Chimenes Pavao was living the high life in a Paraguayan prison. Images show that he resided in a three room suite complete with a huge flat screen TV, a neat cabinet of DVDs, a conference room, and a library. Pavao is at the Tacumbu prison in the Paraguayan capital of Asuncion – the largest and one of the country’s most crowded detention centers – and his spacious accommodation are at striking odds with his fellow inmates. The prison has a capacity of 1,687; currently it’s home to 3,532 inmates. The drug lord was admitted to prison in December 2009. His cell was renovated with prison authorities and the then-minister of justice’s knowledge. His cushy accommodations came to light when prison authorities uncovered a plan by Pavao to use explosives to escape from his plush digs. It seems that the criminal should have just enjoyed his time in prison. And “enjoyed” in the right word for his abode. Pavao slept on a large bed on top of a thick mattress – hardly prison fare – with a comforter. He then was able to work out on his private treadmill or head to the couch

to watch TV. His collection of DVDs included those on the life of Pablo Escobar, the infamous drug lord who also designed his own prison under a deal with the Colombian government. On other days, Pavao could conduct meetings around his prison conference table. Perhaps it was his magnanimous attitude that helped to quell jealousy in the prison among other inmates. Pavao would rent out use of the prison haven to other detainees, according to local news reports. Last week, a new Justice Minister, Ever Martinez, was appointed and promised a regeneration of the prison system in Paraguay. He has already appointed a new director of the prison, Luis Villagra. Pavao is now sitting in another, far less luxurious cell. Now would be a good time to plan an escape.

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The rice scheme was considered the final straw that lead to Yingluck being kicked out of office by a court days before army chief Prayut ChanO-Cha seized power in May 2014. She was impeached retroactively and

is now on trial for criminal negligence. If found guilty, she could face ten years in prison. Yingluck’s older brother, Thaksin Shinawatra, also served as Thailand’s premier until he was thrown out of office in a 2006 coup. Yingluck insists that she did nothing wrong and was genuinely trying to help poorer rice farmers in the northern parts of Thailand. Thai rice fell 40 percent after the government attempted to hoard the grain to push up its global price to fund the policy. The country lost its spot as the world’s number one exporter of rice and was left with huge stockpiles it could not sell.

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today,” Al-Arian wrote on Facebook. Lenny also told her “that he feels awful about the bigotry my kids might one day experience, and that as a Jewish man whose parents didn’t speak any English growing up, he personally understands what it feels like to be rejected and discriminated against.”

Although prior to his arrest Al-Arian praised the Muslim Brotherhood and had on multiple occasions called for violence against “Israel and Westerners,” his family feels he was “persecuted” because of his background. At a protest in 2003, his daughter, Leena, said that her father was ”crucified because of who [he is].” Leena is not the sweet person that social media has been portraying this past week. While at the University of South Florida, she was the vice president of the radical Muslim Students Association. The blog she wrote often ranted against Israel, Holocaust education and Zionism. “I am just so tired of reading blatantly biased writings on the Holocaust... [T]he thought of sitting through that nauseating three-hour class makes me want to put a bullet through my head. I am sick of the likes of propagandists such as Elie Wiesel, Rubenstein, and others who continue to exploit the tragedy of the Holocaust to justify the continued, unjustifiable suffering of the Palestinians,” Leena wrote in 2004. Maybe if Lenny had Facebook, he would have thought twice…

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But Al-Arian is not just a typical Muslim. Many may recognize the surname “Al-Arian” in a different context. Her father is convicted Islamic Jihad terrorist Sami Al-Arian, who was indicted on 17 counts of aiding and abetting the terrorist organization Islamic Jihad in 2003. Al-Arian served time in a United States

Lebanese Series Celebrates Hezbollah Kidnapping The Lebanese have a warped idea of what makes for entertaining television. Al Mayadeen, a TV channel in Lebanon that has close ties with Hezbollah, produced and aired a three-part series that shows the training for and the kidnapping of

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“Black Lives Matter” Travels to Israel

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As if the Black Lives Matter movement wasn’t spewing enough hate-

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ful rhetoric here in the States, they have now sent a delegation to Israel to stand up for the oppressed Palestinians at the hands of what they are calling “Zionist vigilantes.” The delegation went to the Holy Land last week to promote the group’s fight for “dignity, justice and freedom.” The movement, which argues that law enforcement officers are explicitly hunting down young black males, participated in a violent anti-Israel protest in the village of Bilin that landed two Arab protesters in custody. Why can’t they just stay in the country of the red, white and blue? Well, the group’s international goals are laid out on its Facebook page. On Facebook, BLM states that they are “committed to the global shared struggle of oppressed people, namely the people of occupied Palestine and other indigenous communities who for decades have resisted the occupation of their land, the ethnic cleansing of their people, and the erasure of their history and experiences. “In this violent, political climate, it is urgent that we make clear the connection between violence inflicted on Black people globally that is encouraged and permitted by the state and the profiling, harm, and genocide funded by the United States and perpetrated by Zionists vigilantes and the Israeli Defense Forces on Palestinian people,” the movement asserts. “Our collective oppression mandates that we work together across geography, language and culture to decry and organize an end to capitalistic, imperialist regimes.” On that note I have a burning question: do the lives of innocent Israelis matter? Does the life of a 13-year-old girl sleeping in her bed in Kiryat Arba matter? Or how about the life of a mother of six children? I would really like an answer from the BLM leader.

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Hamas Gunning for Fatah in Upcoming Elections The newest weapon in the Hamas arsenal is going to be the election box. The terror group has agreed to participate in the upcoming municipal elec-

Hamas has controlled the Gaza Strip since it led a bloody coup and ousted Mahmoud Abbas’s Fatah party in 2007. In 2012, Hamas boycotted the municipal elections alleging that rival terror group Fatah had used intimidation and corruption to ensure their victory. Fatah and Hamas have been in a state of cold war since early 2012. The boycott is the main reason that many are surprised that Hamas will be participating in elections this year. Many experts have weighed in on the matter and some feel that Hamas is seizing an opportunity this year as Palestinian Authority President Mahmoud Abbas is aging and growing more and more unpopular. Others see Hamas as being in a state of political isolation after it lost the support of Egypt, Jordan, and Saudi Arabia and much of Turkey when Tel Aviv and Ankara recently made peace. Winning an election is a way for the group to have more control over its future. Hamas has been growing more and more popular with the young generation of Palestinians. For the past two years, the terror group has won the student elections at Birzeit University. As the oldest Palestinian university, Birzeit is considered a liberal outpost and a historic stronghold for Fatah and the PA. General elections have often mirrored the student elections at the university.

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Watching the news you’d never guess that violence in the United States is actually on the decline. In 1995, there were 685 violent incidents per 100,000 people nationwide. By 2014, the national violent crime rate decreased to 366 violent crimes per 100,000 people. As always, rates vary across the 50 states. So which states are the most peaceful and in which ones should residents hide behind closed doors after dark? 24/7 Wall St. created a list ranking each state according to peacefulness. Peacefulness is categorized as low violent crime and homicide rates, along with low gun ownership and incarceration rates. Dr. Nancy La Vigne, director of the Urban Institute’s Justice Policy Center, points out that a state can’t simply be classified as violent or peaceful. Rather, each state has safer and more dangerous areas. Some states may have a single city with extremely high crime rates, but the rest of the state is considerably peaceful. “Even within cities that tend to have higher crime rates, and even within neighborhoods that are well known to have lots of violent crime, there are pockets of peaceful streets and pockets of violent ones,” La Vigne pointed out. Low income and cities with high numbers of men aged 15 to 25 tended to contribute to high violence. “Vacant housing, burned out streetlights, [and] signs of disorder … can predict where crime might be more concentrated,” La Vigne explained. More peaceful states have higher incomes and low poverty rates. All but five of the 25 states at the top of the index had poverty rates lower

than the national average of 15.5%. Conversely, in the states with more violence, the poverty rates tended to be higher. These are the 10 most peaceful states in the nation: 1. Maine 2. Vermont 3. New Hampshire 4. Minnesota 5. Utah 6. Massachusetts 7. Rhode Island 8. Washington 9. Hawaii 10. Iowa Hang onto your pocketbooks! These are 10 least peaceful states: 1. Louisiana 2. Alaska 3. Tennessee 4. Delaware 5. Nevada 6. Arkansas 7. Missouri 8. Florida 9. South Carolina 10. Arizona Where does the Big Apple fall out? Well, pretty much in the middle. New York was slotted in as the 27th least peaceful state. Maryland is the 13th least peaceful state, Illinois is the 20th least peaceful, and California follows at 21.

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With the ISIS threat looming and Putin’s ongoing tantrum, the U.S. Army is gearing up in case of war. The Army is known for its sophisticated technology and superior intelligence, and the Defense Department’s latest goal is to add super soldiers to their resume by sending them through a boot camp for their minds. In order to shape the perfect sol-

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dier, the Pentagon is analyzing the interconnection between biology and technology by experimenting with all sorts of wearable devices. These devices are intended to help gauge a soldier’s needs without them having to verbalize it. For example, a common problem during basic training is heat exhaustion. One such device is designed to receive messages from the soldier’s sweat and inform instructors that the trainee is suffering from heat exhaustion. Wearable devices are also being used to sense fatigue in highly-trained Special Operations Forces, who have a tendency to avoid admitting that they are tired for fear of looking weak. “You’re putting a team of six people together. Is this person ready to go, or not?” asks Rajesh Naik, chief scientist at the 711th Human Performance Wing at the Air Force Research Laboratory on Wright-Patterson Air Force Base in Ohio. “Maybe [an operator] just got back from another mission. They’ll never say, ‘No, we’re not ready to go.’” The device allows commanders to use the information being provided to make the best decision about who to send out on a mission and who to keep back. Another way these devices can be used for training is by tapping into a soldier’s optimal mental state when practicing target shooting. Expert sharpshooters are extremely calm before taking the perfect shot; their breathing slows along with their heartrate. They enter “a very focused, calm, engaged state – almost at will,” says Amy Kruse, chief technology officer at Cubic Global Defense, which designs combat-training systems. Military researchers are hoping that trainees can tap into this mental “zone” in order to increase their success in the firing range. Through these devices, Kruse can monitor the trainees’ breathing, where their eyes are focusing, how they point their weapons, and what position they are in as they go through a video course. “We can actually say … ‘Dude, you weren’t even looking at the right spot. The guy was yelling, and you were looking at his face, not his hands,’” Kruse relates. Researchers say they can also tell whether trainees are actually absorbing what they’re seeing via the device by looking at their brain activity. Researchers are also using wearable devices to help soldiers recover from injuries in a more positive way. A team of doctors at John Hopkin’s University has designed a physical therapy routine that is actually a vid-

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Amnesty for Thousands of Illegal Immigrants

The holidays came early for more than 8,000 Syrians living in the U.S. – they were granted temporary amnesty on Monday from Homeland Security. This allows them to remain in the country for another 18 months regardless of their legal status. Secretary Jeh Johnson granted “temporary protected status” to foreigners living in the U.S. illegally. He announced that they are permitted to live here permanently and are eligible to apply for work permits and other documents. This offer benefits the original 5,800 Syrians that were pardoned under the original 2012 Temporary Protected Status program and the 2,500 newcomers. The TPS program was designed as a humanitarian relief effort for refugees from countries where they face hunger or danger. “Syria’s lengthy civil conflict has resulted in high levels of food insecurity, limited access to water and medical care, and massive destruction of Syria’s infrastructure. Attacks against civilians, the use of chemical weapons and irregular warfare tactics, as well as forced conscription and use of child soldiers have intensified the humanitarian crisis,” Johnson said in announcing the new program. The program also includes individuals from 13 countries including Honduras, Liberia, Nepal, and Nicaragua. However, many are focused on the pardon granted specifically to Syrians due to increased concern for national safety after recent terror attacks by ISIS enthusiasts in the U.S. and Europe. Thankfully, any illegal immigrant with a criminal record or anything that authorities consider suspicious will be denied for the TPS

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A new study has come out that reveals that men like to cite themselves as experts on a subject more than women. This doesn’t just relate to chitchat in shul about this week’s cholent; it’s highlighted in research papers that men write. In those papers, it’s common to give citations for various facts, mentioning another researcher who came up with that idea or theory. And citations mean a lot in academia. In fact, the more a person is cited, the more authority and influence that person is given. Universities often factor in citation counts when making decisions about hiring, tenure and pay. As it turns out, academics have a handy tool at their disposal for juicing their citation counts: they cite themselves. There’s nothing inherently shady about this practice. If you’re an expert in a relatively obscure field like ant taxonomy, you’re probably going to need to cite your previous work because few people are doing similar work. In their research on this subject, Molly M. King and her colleagues at Stanford University, the University of Washington and New York University combed through 1.5 million research papers. In those papers there were 8.2 million citations; nearly 775,000 of those citations, or about 10 percent of them, were of authors citing their own work.

For some individuals, the share of self-citations was much higher. They gave an example of one “prominent scholar” (they don’t name names, because academia is a small world) who has received more than 7,000 citations of his work. More than a fifth of those citations came from himself. But more strikingly, King and her colleagues found a huge difference in self-citation patterns between men and women. “Over the years between 1779-2011, men cite their own papers 56 percent more than women do,” they found. And in recent decades, men have stepped up their self-citation game relative to women: “In the last two decades of our data, men selfcite 70 percent more than women.” This self-citation gap held true across every major academic field the authors studied, including biology, sociology, philosophy and law. In a footnote, the paper’s authors – three women and two men – dryly note that the pattern holds among themselves as well: “The men authors of this paper cite themselves at nearly three times the average rate of the women authors.” King and her colleagues offer a number of hypotheses for why men may be more likely to cite themselves. For starters, studies have shown that men generally have a higher opinion of their own abilities than women do. And they typically face fewer social penalties for self-promotion. “Gendered perceptions of self-promotion likely influence perceptions of self-citation, which could be viewed as a form of self-promotion in the academic workplace,” King and her colleagues write. I totally agree with them, as you can see in TJH issue 211 in which I stated….

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Department. The Defense Department is responsible for footing the bill of wars, equipment, personnel, housing, healthcare and procurements. But the department is known to be lenient on its accounting practices and the Pentagon has yet to actually complete an audit detailing how our tax dollars are being spent. Soon they’ll have to take out their calculators, though. Congress is now demanding to know exactly how the money is being spent. In fact, Congress has demanded that by September 30, 2017 the Army must achieve “audit readiness.” Lawmakers responsible for the budget feel that with a proper audit on military spending, they can make better decisions for the overall national budget. Last week, a Department of Defense inspector general’s report revealed the magnitude of the sloppiness of the military’s auditing system – and it’s not pretty. The Defense Finance and Accounting Service, the Indianapolis-based agency that provides finance and accounting services for the Pentagon’s civilian and military members, could not provide sufficient documentation for $6.5 trillion worth of year-end adjustments to Army general fund transactions and data. The DFAS is solely responsible for paying the salaries of all DOD military, personnel, retirees, annuitants, contractors, and vendors. There hasn’t yet been any suggestion of abuse of funds, but rather severe negligence. Technically the agency is required to complete a “journal voucher” for each transaction by providing the serial numbers, transaction dates, and the amount of the disbursements, but they have not been consistent in doing so. “Army and Defense Finance and Accounting Service Indianapolis personnel did not adequately support $2.8 trillion in third quarter adjustments and $6.5 trillion in year-end adjustments made to Army General Fund data during FY 2015 financial statement compilation,” wrote Lorin T. Venable, the assistant inspector general for financial management and reporting. “We conducted this audit in accordance with generally accepted government auditing standards.” The IG study found that DFAS “did not document or support why the Defense Departmental Reporting System... removed at least 16,513 of 1.3 million records... As a result, the data used to prepare the FY 2015 AGF third quarter and year-end fi-

nancial statements were unreliable and lacked an adequate audit trail,” the IG’s report stated. The Pentagon employs around 23,000 military and civilian employees plus about 3,000 non-defense support personnel. The actual building boasts 5,100,000 square feet of office space, which is double that of the Empire State Building; the electricity bill alone should account for about a trillion dollars.

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The grass is always greener on the other side, but where exactly is that side? Each year thousands of Americans relocate within the U.S. for business, community, or quality of life. In the last half decade, some cities have consistently attracted newcomers while others have turned off residents, causing them to move elsewhere. According to net migration data from the U.S. Census Bureau, the general trend has been that Americans are migrating from Northern to Southern cities. Of the top 10 cities with the highest rates of incoming migration, nine of them are located in the South. Oddly enough, the most populated city in the country was also the city to lose the most residents (note, the most in quantity and not percentage); New York City lost more than 700,000 people. On the other hand, Orlando, Atlanta, and Houston all welcomed at least 100,000 new residents. It seems that the most common reason for relocation is job opportunities. In seven of the top 10, the unemployment rate has been increasing more than the national average. Apparently blue skies and palm trees are also a selling point; the Sunshine State made an appearance four times on the top 10 charts for highest rates of incoming migration. The fastest growing cities are: 1. The Villages, FL 2. Myrtle Beach-Conway-North

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It’s the summer so barbecues are the norm. But maybe instead of reaching for your burger with sliced pastrami at your next ‘cue, you should head for the lettuce instead. A recent study published in JAMA Internal Medicine this week said that replacing animal protein with plant protein in your diet can help decrease your risk of death. Scientists have long connected processed red meats with a wide spectrum of chronic diseases, such as cancer, diabetes and heart disease. Now, the new paper reveals that these associations may still exist when examining protein intake overall, said Dr. Mingyang Song, a researcher at Massachusetts General Hospital and the Harvard T.H. Chan School of Public Health, who served as lead author of the paper. “While it is important to know how much protein people should consume to achieve the optimal health benefit, from a broad dietary perspective, what foods people choose to consume to get protein is equally important,” Song said. But not all people will benefit from the results of this 30 year study. In seems that certain protein intake only affects your health if it’s combined with another unhealthy life-

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style habit such as smoking, heavy drinking, obesity or inactivity. In those people, a 10 percent increase in animal protein in their diet was linked to a 2 percent increase in their overall mortality and a 8 percent increase in risk of a cardiovascular-related death. But add a few more beans to your diet, and with a 3 percent increase in plant protein, a person’s mortality can decrease by a whopping 10 percent. So what can you consume to replace animal protein with plant protein in your daily diet? “The good food sources would be whole-grain bread, cereals, nuts and legumes,” Song said. “Although we didn’t look at soy in our study because its consumption is very low in the United States, there is evidence supporting that soy may be a good protein source for health.”

Hot Air Balloon Tragic Flight Tragedy struck the skies of central Texas on Saturday after a hot air balloon burst into flames mid-flight. According to the preliminary inves-

tigation at around 7:40am, the balloon supposedly struck power lines, caught aflame, and crashed into a pasture field near Lockhart, Texas.

Sadly, the accident left all 16 people aboard dead. Two people on the tragic flight were a newlywed couple. Another couple on the flight were grandparents; the woman was a teacher. This is being regarded as one of the deadliest such accidents on record. Jeff Chatterton, a spokesman for the Balloon Federation of North America, said this is the deadliest on record in the Western Hemisphere. “There are thousands of balloons that go up every year,” he said. “This is unspeakably tragic but it is rather unique.” In aerial footage from the crash site, remnants of the patriotic red,

white and blue balloon, adorned with a large, yellow smiley face wearing sunglasses can be seen. Heart of Texas Hot Air Balloon Rides owned the aircraft. According to the company’s website, they operate in several locations throughout Texas and fly to several destinations for $399 per passenger. Hot air balloons were invented in France in 1783, making it the first and oldest form of human flight. Nowadays there are more than 150 commercial hot-air balloon companies operating in North America.

bribed to wait a year, while a large part of the group said they’d want more than $200 to wait it out. The study revealed that the elderly are twice as impatient than middle-aged individuals. Respondents with dementia or Alzheimer’s disease had impatience levels 35% higher than the average, while patients diagnosed with cancer or heart conditions had patience levels 13% higher than average. “If you only have six months left to live, then it doesn’t make much sense to think about long term,” Olivia Mitchell, a professor of risk at the Wharton School, pointed out.

The Wealthy are Just More Patient They say patience is a virtue and new research is suggesting that it is rewarding in other ways as well. It has been proven that people with unshakeable patience tend to be wealthier and healthier. A recent study analyzed 600 individuals over the age of 70, asking them: “How much would you accept in a year’s time instead of $100 today?” More than half of those surveyed said they’d need $160 to be

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year of education showed a positive correlation with having more patience. Mitchell pointed out that individuals who put less focus on the future often avoid making big decisions about retirement or death. “They might not talk to their children about the distribution of assets, power of

attorney, long-term care insurance, and end-of-life medical-care costs,” Mitchell related. “Whether people are born with patience is a fascinating yet unstudied question; I’ve been working on financial literacy for years and it’s my view it can be taught.” I guess it’s true that good things come to those who wait.

Looking to enter the U.S. illegally? Don’t worry – we can help. Just check out the Border Patrol website, and you’ll learn where Customs and Border Protection agents are not allowed to carry out their duty – allowing illegals to jump into the U.S. without concern. Locations that are “sanctuaries” for illegals are schools, churches, hospitals, funeral and weddings, and protests. Agents, under a “sensitive locations policy,” are banned from carrying out their duty there and can only carry them out in an emergency or with supervisor’s approval. The Media Research Center points out: “So, almost any illegal alien can escape arrest by either walking with a second person (a march), attending some type of class, or finding a nearby church, medical facility or school bus stop.” Critics of the Obama administration’s immigration policies have long complained that it undermines the mission of border enforcement by imposing rules on agents that they say leave them unable to do their jobs. Additionally, giving advice to those who are seeking to break the law seems to be nonsensical. “It’s schizophrenic,” Jessica Vaughan, director of policy studies for the Center for Immigration Studies, said. “What the Obama administration has done is to create sanctuaries for illegal aliens and to publicize them. That is fine for a social welfare agency, but not for a law enforcement agency. No law enforcement agency would ever want to broadcast where lawbreakers can go to be shielded from the consequences of their actions.”

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OHEL Bais Ezra’s Hillcrest Residence Celebrates 15 Years

he residents of OHEL Bais Ezra’s Hillcrest residence recently celebrated their 15th anniversary in a home filled with love, laughter and fun. The Hillcrest ladies live active and thriving lives together, enjoying daily programs, day trips, birthdays, and living fulfilled lives. When the doors to Hillcrest opened on March 21, 2001, no one could have imagined the innumerable memories, happy occasions and celebrations that would transpire over the next decade and a half. During the day, the residents attend OHEL Bais Ezra varied and exciting DayHab programs in Brooklyn. They also love to sing, get their nails done, go to movies and bowling. There is so much to do and so little time for all the shopping trips, pottery classes, and Disney on Ice! Hillcrest celebrated their landmark anniversary on a beautiful summer evening as guests mingled with the residents over a delicious barbecue dinner with salads, baked beans, fruit and cake. Family, community

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One morning of Chol Hamoed Pesach, a minivan drives up to a house and parks. Five men and three women get out of the car. One knocks on the door. An elderly man peers cautiously out the window, and a look of wide-eyed amazement spreads across his face. His children are here – together! His children, who have been embroiled for years in a fierce dispute. They’re here, standing together, right at the door. This is the sight the father has longed to see. He runs to open the door, weeping from joy. His children crowd around him, hugging him and weeping on his shoulder. Gradually, the crying changes to smiles and laughter.

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“Come in! Come in, my dear children!” he says as the little group makes its way into the comfortable old house. “We’re back, Tatte,” says the eldest son. “And we’re together. We’ve all made up. We’ve all forgiven each other. We just want to be a family again. We just want to be here with you.” Like this father, Hashem has endured years of distance from His children as they bicker and feud, cutting themselves off from each other, and in the process, from Him. Like this father, He awaits the day when His children will stand at the brink of the geulah, at the door of the rebuilt Beis HaMikdash, together as a family.

World-Wide Event: 21st Year of Transforming Tisha B’Av Not so long ago, Tisha B’Av was a day on which many people had difficulty finding the right focus. Arising in the middle of vacation plans and summer camp, the day’s key concepts of golus and geulah seemed almost incongruous. That all changed in 1995 when the Chofetz Chaim Heritage Foundation’s first World-Wide Tisha B’Av Event presented a moving presentation that spurred hundreds of participants to feel the impact of the sinas chinam that keeps us in golus. Today, the World-Wide Event reaches 50,000 people in 770 locations in 16 countries throughout the world. Bungalow colonies, summer camps, shuls and community centers host full audiences of Jews eager to be inspired, eager to connect to the themes of the day and learn ways to move the world closer to geulah. The presentation has had immediate impact as well, leading feuding families to heal their rifts, estranged friends to re-connect, and communities torn by machlokes to seek shalom. Says one long-time CCHF supporter, “No one had to give meaning to Tisha B’Av. It has a meaning that’s very clear. But the Tisha B’Av Event, for me, is the way to connect to that meaning in a deep and yet practical way.”

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But the only way for us to get Hashem to fling open that door is to embrace each other as our Father’s children, each worthy of love, respect and compassion. Only a family can live together in one home. This Tisha B’Av, this quintessential theme of ahavas Yisrael will come to the forefront at the Chofetz Chaim Heritage Foundation’s annual World-Wide Event, “Opening the Door: How Ahavas Yisrael Opens the Door to the Geulah.” The day’s program will sharply focus on the urgent need to live up to our role as our Father’s children, to follow the simple directive of Hillel, who stated, “That which is hateful to you, do not do to your fellow.” Two riveting programs will bring world renowned speakers to hundreds of venues across the globe. Both programs will bring attendees the heartfelt words of HaRav Shmuel Kamenetsky, the Philadelphia Rosh Yeshiva and Rabbinic Advisor of the Chofetz Chaim Heritage Foundation, as well as the legendary Rabbi Yitzchak Dovid Grossman, founder and dean of Migdal Ohr, an epicenter of ahavas Yisrael located in Northern Israel. Program A presents Rabbi Paysach Krohn, whose Maggid series sets the standard for storytelling that highlights the beauty of Klal Yisrael and the depth of the Jewish soul. His popular lectures, focusing on ethics and spiritual growth, attract large au-

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diences world-wide. Rabbi Yissocher Frand, long-time maggid shiur at Yeshivas Ner Israel in Baltimore, will also be speaking. His powerful speaking style goes straight to the heart, awakening the audience to new levels of self-awareness and commitment to change. Program B presents Rabbi Y.Y. Jacobson, one of America’s greatest communicators of Torah and Jewish mysticism to audiences of all backgrounds. He delivers his passionate, fascinating lectures across the globe and serves as a teacher and mentor to thousands. Rabbi Warren Goldstein, the Chief Rabbi of the Union of Orthodox Synagogues in South Africa and the Chief Rabbi of South Africa, will be speaking as well. His groundbreaking kiruv work has brought a love of Torah and a positive Jewish identity to thousands of Jews in South Africa and beyond. This year, as the Jewish people make the sad journey into Tisha B’Av once more as a scattered and divided nation, the front door of our “home,” the Beis Hamikdash, appears just over the horizon. Our Father waits for us inside, eager to shower us with His love, eager to open wide the door and cry out, “Come in, my dear children!” This Tisha B’Av, in gatherings across the globe, every Jew can find the inspiration to turn this beautiful vision of the future into a reality.

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Yeshiva Darchei Torah Expands to Welcome New Talmidim

eshiva Darchei Torah is in the midst of renovating the lower level of its main building, creating eight new classrooms that will be ready in time for the new school year. The classrooms, which will house the first grade, are being built in response to the growth of the Yeshiva’s student enrollment. In addition, the Kaufman Ezras Nashim, which overlooks the Diamond Bais Medrash and functions as the Middle School’s shul and assembly space, is at capacity and is being significantly expanded. “This current project continues in the same vein as the

recent monumental construction of our new complex,” explains Rabbi Yaakov Bender, Rosh Hayeshiva of Darchei Torah. “We are ensuring that despite the growth of the Yeshiva as a whole, each individual class and each individual talmid can learn in the optimal environment with children their age – in bright, clean classrooms with wide, spacious hallways and in immediate proximity to each division’s menahalim and principals. “We look forward to the new school year and to welcoming all of our precious talmidim.”

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Camp Areivim Seniors’ Spectacular Trip

amp Areivim’s Senior Division, on its second major overnight trip of the season, visited Scranton, PA, and the Poconos! Beginning with a tailgating barbecue at the Scranton/Wilkes-Barre

Railriders doubleheader against the Buffalo Bisons, campers not only enjoyed the double win for the Railriders but, maybe more so, MIT Division Head Rabbi Tsvi Greenfield throwing out the first pitch and Se-

nior Division Head Counselor Rabbi Yossi Bennett singing, “G-d Bless America!” Exclusivity at the Scranton JCC gym and pool followed that evening and horseback riding, zip-lining

and kayaking the next day! A hike at Dingman’s Ferry’s beautiful, picturesque waterfalls was an incredible ending to an awesome trip!

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Israel Week at Ruach Day Camp

m Yisroel Chai – Israel week was sensational at Ruach Day Camp in Uniondale. Campers got to experience training as a person in Tzahal as they attempted challenging hurdles, obstacle courses and agility maneuvers. In addition, we wrote letters to show hakarat hatov to all of the Israeli soldiers. Our youngest

campers created a beautiful handprint of the Israeli flag to exemplify Im eshkachech Yerushalayim, tishkach yeimini. The Kotel photo booth and Instagram photo area was the place to be. We want to express our appreciation to Nefesh B’Nefesh, an amazing organization, that helped enhance Israel Week at Ruach Day Camp.

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Walk the Boardwalk for Sderot

lease join us for an evening walk on the beautiful Long Beach Boardwalk with family and friends from nearby communities, while supporting the American Friends of Sderot . Walkers, Strollers, Joggers welcome! 7:30 pm Check in and T-shirts @YILB 120 Long Beach Road 8:00 pm Walk the Boardwalk 9:00 pm Return to YILB for Sushi, Desserts and a Sderot Video presentation followed by Maariv Students: $18; Adults: $25. Pre-Register by August 1 to guarantee your T-shirt and be entered into a raffle to win an Iron Dome Mezuzah Cover from Sderot to protect your home and family.

To reserve a spot, please register online at www.sderot.org/boardwalk. For more information please contact Judah at Judah@sderot.org or 718-650-6091. The city of Sderot, located in southern Israel and less than 1 mile from the Gaza border, has become one of the most significant national symbols of heroism. Sderot is home to the largest Hesder Yeshiva in Israel which serves over 500 students. Sderot has become the symbol of responding to terror with the light of Torah, Zionist ideals and Jewish solidarity for Jews all over the world. Looking forward to seeing you on the Boardwalk! Rain Date: Weds. August 10.

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For the first time ever, Camp Areivim’s Junior Division invited fathers to a special father-son trip to Coco Key Water Resort in Mount Laurel, NJ! Campers were joined by their fathers for an amazing late night trip including exclusivity at the water park, delicious dinner, and coach buses! Campers (and fathers) had a blast!

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Gurwin Jewish ~ Fay J. Lindner Residences Concert

urwin Jewish ~ Fay J. Lindner Residences assisted living is pleased to announce that Cantor David Aaron Katz will perform a free community concert on September 18, 2016 at 11:00am at the assisted living community in Commack (50 Hauppauge Road). The event is cohosted by the Suffolk Y JCC and the Jewish Community Relations Council and includes a complimentary continental breakfast. A member of the “Three Jewish

Tenors,” Cantor Katz has served as a cantor on Long Island and in the Catskills since 1998 and has performed with a wide range of choirs and symphonies, leading full instrumental ensembles for Jazz Shabbats to large choirs of adults and children. Attendees at the upcoming event will enjoy their favorite Broadway tunes as well as operatic and Yiddish music at Long Island’s premier assisted living community. Tours of the beautiful one and two-bedroom apartments,

elegant dining and activity rooms are available by appointment following the concert. Seating is limited. To reserve your spot, RSVP by September 4, 2016. For further information or to register, call (631)715-8544 or email aschiller@ gurwin.org. The Gurwin Jewish ~ Fay J. Lindner Residences is an elegant 201-apartment assisted living residence located in Commack, Long

Island. Full apartments, elegant restaurant-style dining, wellness programs and fitness trail, exciting social activities, membership to the Suffolk Y JCC, and many other amenities make life at Gurwin extraordinary, including its beautifully landscaped, park-like grounds. The community also offers Enriched Pathways, a 14bed unit dedicated to the care of those with memory impairment. Learn more at http://www.gurwin.org/assisted-living/.

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Kollel Chatzos Arrages Ketores Segulah on Arizal’s Yahrtzeit at the Kever

ollel Chatzos is preparing for the auspicious day of the Arizal’s yahrtzeit by organizing a minyan to recite the Arizal’s Ketores Segulah at his kever on that midnight. The names of all sponsors and their entire families will be mentioned by the kollel members who will participate in this momentous occasion. Monday night, the 5th of Av (August 8th), marks the yahrtzeit of the Arizal, who exposed the depth of Kabbalah. Among the many secrets he revealed is the Ketores Segulah. As recorded by his appointed disciple, Rabbi Chaim Vital, in Shaar Hakavanos (Drushei Tefilas Shacharis 3), the Arizal stated: “If a minyan of pious Jews will gather after midnight and they will recite the special Ketores Segulah together with concentration, it will definitely make a deep impression and whatever they ask for will be accomplished in Heaven!” The Zohar says that those who rise at midnight to study Torah have the power to “de-

Davening on our behalf at the Kever of the Arizal on the night of his yahrzeit

cree below and their words are carried out above.” Now the members of Kollel Chatzos - Meron are preparing to daven on our behalf at the kever of the Arizal on the night of his yahrtzeit, espe-

cially by reciting his Ketores Segulah with deep concentration. Ketores Segulah, Tzfas—5th of Av, 5776 The schedule for the Ketores Segulah recital at the kev-

The NY Kollel at a special gathering to be Mispallel the holy Tefilos of the Arizal on the night of his yahrzeit (2015)

er of the Arizal on the night of the anniversary of his passing is as follows: The members of Kollel Chatzos - Meron will arise before midnight in Tzfas and prepare for their nightly study ritual. Before heading to their Beis Medrash at the kever of Rabbi Shimon bar Yochai in Meron, they will first stop to visit the kever of the Arizal in the ancient cemetery of Tzfas. There they will perform the Ketores Segulah with deep concentration as prescribed by the Arizal, followed by the recital of the names of all of the sponsors who have signed up and their families. When they are done they will continue with their nightly program of Torah study and prayer in Meron as usual. The actual Ketores Segulah follows the precise formula recorded in the name of the Arizal, beginning with the portion of the Ketores, followed by the posuk “Vayaas

es Hamenorah” three times, chapter “Veyihi Noam” seven times and other pesukim recited forward and backward. At the conclusion a special prayer is recited and this is accompanied by the names of the many sponsors. As an additional incentive, Kollel Chatzos is making a special offer this year: Whoever signs up for the Ketores Segulah on the Arizal’s yahrtzeit will also have his name and those of his family mentioned at Kollel Chatzos - Meron during the nightly recitation of the Ketores Segulah for an entire year! Ask about this offer when you call to sign up for the Ketores Segulah. Call the central office of Kollel Chatzos today to ensure your name is included in this year’s Ketores Segulah: 1-855-Chatzos (242-8967). Experience the yeshuah you have been praying for!

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You know you have been in Russia too long when... G You have 6 gold teeth and you’re not a rapper.

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G You play chess bare-chested in the park…when it’s 20 degrees outside.

G Your favorite non-alcoholic beverage is pickle juice.

G You make sure that your liquid intake consists of at least 8 glasses of vodka a day.

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G You have a selfie with icicles in your beard. G You think Budapest is the Bahamas. G You feel no need to go to Yosemite National Park because sitting on the benches on Ocean Parkway (that’s in Brooklyn) while cars are whizzing by at 70 MPH is perfectly scenic.

G You dance the kazatzka when your local soccer team wins a game. G After eating your meal of potato salad, potato kugel, potato soup and potato bread, you eat potato ice cream. G You spend your leisure time hacking U.S. government emails.

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2. What is the currency in Russia? a. Yen b. Pound c. Ruble d. Zloty 3. How many time zones does Russia have? a. 5 b. 7 c. 9 d. 11 4. What is the average temperature in the Russian town of Verkoyansk, which has a population of approximately 1,300 people? a. 50 degrees Fahrenheit b. 32 degrees Fahrenheit c. 14 degrees Fahrenheit d. 0 degrees Fahrenheit e. -14 degrees Fahrenheit f. -32 degrees Fahrenheit g. -50 degrees Fahrenheit

5. In 1995 while visiting Washington, D.C., thenRussian President Boris Yeltsin got so drunk that he did the following: a. He came 3 hours late to a scheduled meeting with President Clinton. b. He was found by Secret Service agents on Pennsylvania Avenue, wearing only his underwear and trying to hail a taxi to go get pizza. c. He stood up to make a toast to President Clinton at a state dinner and called him, “Mr. John F. Kennedy.” d. He tripped while walking up the stairs of the Lincoln Memorial. 6. What did Russian President Vladimir Putin bring to a meeting with Russian Chancellor Angela Merkel in 2007 that reportedly intimidated her? a. A large black Labrador dog. b. 27 advisors (even though the meeting was supposed to be a one-on-one meeting). c. A copy of the Potsdam Agreement which was the 1945 agreement that put Western

Germany under Soviet control. d. A massive sword that Joseph Stalin owned Answers 1. A 2. C 3. D 4. G 5. B- This is a true story that was reported in “The Clinton Tapes,” a book which is based on interviews historian Taylor Branch had with Bill Clinton 6. A- Merkel is known to have a fear of dogs since she was attacked by one in 1995. But, that didn’t stop Mr. Putin from bringing his large black dog to a meeting with her. Putin “tried to calm Merkel’s nerves” at the beginning of the meeting by saying, “The dog does not bother you, does she? She’s a friendly dog and I’m sure she will behave herself.” Putin later denied that he was trying to intimidate Merkel. Answer Key: 5-6 correct: удивительно! (For all of you non-Russian speakers, that means amazing!) 3-4 correct: You are lukewarm. Nothing good is lukewarm…except for vodka. 0-2 correct: Vot, doz my beeeg dog eenteemeedate you?

Answer to riddle: Nothing. It was supposed to sink—it’s a submarine…duh.

1. Which Russian leader’s name was Vladimir Ilyich Ulyanov? a. Lenin b. Stalin c. Putin d. Yeltsin

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Torah Thought

Parshas Matos By Rabbi Berel Wein

hroughout the entire Torah it seems clear that the Jewish people were to maintain the system of separate tribes with separate leaders. At first glance, it seems that this system of separate tribes would always guarantee a strong element of disunity within the Jewish people. Would it not have been better to discard the original tribal system of the house of Jacob and build instead a more unified community? Also, when the Land of Israel was settled and inhabited by the Jews at the time of Joshua, it was distributed in tribal sections, according to the rules of the Torah. The next few cen-

turies, as the Bible itself records for us in the book of Judges, disunity, if not even chaos, reigned in the Jewish community. Each tribe looked at itself as a separate and distinct entity having little responsibility or connection to the broader Jewish community.Â Eventually, the sad fact would arise that the tribes at certain stages of biblical history would even conduct civil war amongst themselves. The Torah obviously was aware of this danger but continued to emphasize the tribal nature of the Jewish people and of its leaders. The Torah explicitly names the individual leaders of the tribes and counts the population

of each tribe separately, one from another. Though this question is rarely addressed directly by the commentators to the Torah, it does underlie much of their insights and viewpoints into the Jewish story of the biblical period. It seems to me that the Torah here is emphasizing the important, but often overlooked, difference between unity and conformity. Each of the tribes, and certainly each of the leaders of those tribes, bring something different to the table of society. The Talmud teaches us that just as the physical features of human beings differ one from another so too do their opinions, thought processes, and worldviews differ. Conformity amongst human beings is against our very nature. That is why children raised in the very same home and who are products of the very same genetic makeup are frequently very different from one another in temperament, behavior and opinion. Often, these differences

present problems in families and in societies. Nevertheless, the Torah is willing to deal with these problems rather than enforce a rigid conformity upon the Jewish world. The unifying force in Judaism and in Jewish society is the Torah itself. Every Jew has a share in it and is bound with a commitment to honor, study, observe and live by its values. But that unity, as is evident from an even cursory observation of the Jewish world today, and in fact of all of past Jewish history, never advocates a society of conformity. Dictators and tyrants have from time immemorial attempted to impose conformity on their subjects and citizens. Eventually such attempts fail simply because they are contrary to human nature. The task of ancient and modern Israel â&#x20AC;&#x201C; and of the Jewish people as a whole â&#x20AC;&#x201C; is to create the unity of spirit and commitment that the Torah represents, without falling into the trap of tyrannical conformity. Shabbat shalom.

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The Observant Jew

Be a Potato Peeler! By Rabbi Jonathan Gewirtz

eople have various aspirations in life. If you ask little kids what they want to be when they grow up, you’ll hear things like fireman, talmid chacham, basketball player, mother, nurse, and more. There’s even the story of the kid who told his teacher that when he grew up he wanted to be possible. “Possible?” she asked. “Yes,” he replied. “Now my parents tell me I’m impossible, so I want to grow up to be possible!” Well, one day, as I was peeling potatoes for the cholent, I thought of a job that I – even though I currently have a full-time position plus the fact that I write several weekly items – would like to grow up to do. I’d like to be a potato peeler. Now, I don’t mean in a restaurant or kitchen, actually peeling potatoes. What I mean is that I’d like to work on and achieve the attributes of a potato peeler, the mechanical kind that most of us have floating around in our kitchen drawers. Chazal tell us (Eruvin 100b) that if we hadn’t gotten the Torah, we could have learned modesty from a cat, not to steal from an ant, and fidelity from a dove. It stands to reason, then, that everything in the world can be a source of education on how we should behave. We don’t learn everything from each animal, as we know, for example, that cats are considered ungrateful, yet we take the good lessons that are possible to take. If so, why not learn from a potato peeler?

So, the first thing to note about them is that they separate bad from good. They are able to easily reveal the hidden goodness underneath the rough, dirty exterior. This is similar to what the Gemara says about R’ Meir who learned Torah from Acher, who had become a heretic. It is said that he found a pomegranate, ate the fruit and discarded the shell. He had the ability to take the good and leave the bad, something that would be good for us all to learn. If we see people doing things wrong, we can still separate the sin from the sinner and love that person unless there is a halachic reason not to do so. Appreciating people even though they have faults and not “throwing them away” is a midda we can learn from the potato peeler. Another thing to think about is that potato peelers are tools. Despite what people might mean these days when they call someone “a tool,” referring to low intelligence, or someone who is easily “used,” I think it’s a compliment. What better reason for a person to exist than to help others and be useful? There’s a story about R’ Moshe Feinstein whose family had left him home to rest while they attended a simcha. When the phone rang and the yeshiva boy who had been asked to attend to R’ Moshe if he needed anything answered, R’ Moshe asked who was calling. It was a certain talmid chacham who wanted R’ Moshe to help him

with dealing with some difficult people who were causing him trouble. R’ Moshe immediately arose and began dealing with the situation with great energy. Soon after, his family members returned from the simcha, and expressed dismay that R’ Moshe was not resting.

or upset when things don’t go according to plan. We can get stymied and stopped in our tracks. However, if we take a lesson from the humble potato peeler, we can start to react differently to these obstacles. By taking the irregularities in stride and even expecting things to not go smooth-

If so, why not learn from a potato peeler?

R’ Moshe stood up, and, like a faithful soldier to his Father in Shomayim, said with great vigor, “What did we come to this world for, if not to extend a little chessed to a downtrodden Jew?” That makes two lessons from a potato peeler, both of which would be sufficiently worthy of mention. However, as I continued peeling, I had a final insight which I think is perhaps even more significant than the first two. I noticed that the blade on the peeler I was using is not stationary. It pivots and swivels. This flexibility enables the peeler to smoothly continue its job even when it hits bumps or valleys in the potato. Instead of hitting a snag and getting stuck, the peeler just changes its course ever so slightly and goes right on ahead with its business. It’s so easy for us to get frustrated

ly, we will find a way to move on. By simply making a minor adjustment, we can keep on doing our job of being useful and helpful and making the world a better place. So, whether you’re a doctor, lawyer or Indian chief, take on these attributes and you can proudly announce, “I am a potato peeler!”

Jonathan Gewirtz is an inspirational writer and speaker whose work has appeared in publications around the world. You can find him at www.facebook.com/ RabbiGewirtz, and follow him on Instagram @RabbiGewirtz or Twitter @ RabbiJGewirtz. He also operates JewishSpeechWriter.com, where you can order a custom-made speech for your next special occasion. Sign up for the Migdal Ohr, his weekly PDF Dvar Torah in English. E-mail info@JewishSpeechWriter. com and put Subscribe in the subject.

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Between the Lines

Assault and Flattery By Eytan Kobre

Flattery corrupts both the receiver and the giver. -Edmund Burke

king was once warned of a notorious flatterer coming to his palace. “Be on guard, Your Majesty,” his advisors cautioned. “This fellow wins favor through flattery, and then uses it to his own advantage.” “Don’t worry,” the king replied confidently. “He won’t get far with me.” When the man arrived, he wasted no time. How honored I am to be in the same room as the mightiest of monarchs. I find myself blinded by the radiance of your beauty, the glory of your presence, your divine charm, your grace, your elegance… He carried on for a full twenty minutes. When he paused for breath, the king’s advisors seized the opportunity. “Didn’t we warn you, Your Majesty?” “Rest assured,” answered the king, “the moment he starts to flatter me I’ll have him thrown out. But thus far, he has spoken nothing but the truth.”

In connection with the ills of murder, we are cautioned against “polluting the land” (Bamidbar 35:33). Because the word for “pollute” is the same as the word for “flatter,” however, the verse also is regarded as a prohibition against flattery (Sifri 161; Ramban, Bamidbar 35:33). Indeed,

flattery is regarded as an outright Torah prohibition (Yereim 55; Chofetz Chaim, Prohibition 16; Rambam, Sefer HaMitzvos, Shoresh 5 and Ramban ad loc.; Orchos Chaim 103). As commonplace as flattery has become in today’s society, it is nonetheless considered a grave sin. A flatterer, among other things, “brings anger to the world,” causes “prayers to go unanswered,” and “falls to Gehinnom” (Sota 41b). So severe a sin is flattery that a flatterer may be exposed publicly (Yoma 86b), and flattery requires daily confession (Mishna Berura 239:9). A congregation that flatters is regarded as “disgusting” and will ultimately be exiled (Sota 42a; see also Menoras HaMa’or 2:3). For example, when King Agrippas (grandson of the non-Jewish King Herod) became distressed to learn that his non-Jewish lineage disqualified him from being a Jewish king, the sages soothed him by saying, “You are our brother, you are our brother,” and this improper flattery doomed the Jewish people to destruction (Sota 41b). Likewise, the sages’ failure to protest the Kamtza and Bar Kamtza affair represented the very worst in flattery (Maharsha, Gittin 55b) – and look where it got us. Some enumerate nine categories of prohibited flattery: (1) telling a wicked person that he has not sinned; (2) publicly praising a wicked person as having positive attributes; (3) privately praising a wicked person; (4) befriending a wicked person;

(5) endorsing an unfit leader; (6) failing to protest the bad acts of others; (7) failing to protest the bad acts of others out of fear that it will not have the desired effect; (8) failing to protest improper speech; and (9) honoring the wicked out of a (misguided) sense of peace (Sha’arei Teshuva 3:187-199; Orchos Tzaddikim, Sha’ar HaChanifus). Others categorize flattery as only “bad” and “worse” (Pele Yo’etz, “Chanufa”). So it is no surprise that our leaders have gone to great lengths to avoid flattery. R’ Akiva Eiger gave his son two instructions for the printing of his books: use quality paper and delete all titles ascribed to him by others. R’ Yisrael Salanter would fold letters he received so as not to see the titles ascribed to him by others (only later did he relax this practice when he realized that everyone used these titles to describe just about anyone). And the Bais HaLevi famously moved out of his town of Slutzk rather than flatter a sinner by attending his son’s bar mitzvah celebration. R’ Naftali of Ropshitz would explain, only half in jest, that he was initially reluctant to enter the rabbinate for fear he might be expected to flatter his followers. So he thought about becoming a tailor. Then he discovered that tailors flatter their customers. So he thought about becoming a shoemaker. Then he discovered that shoemakers flatter their customers. If everyone flatters, he concluded, I might as well enter the rabbinate. And so he did.

Now, to be sure, not all flattery is off-limits. A man should flatter his wife for the sake of marital harmony, his creditor to stave off demands for repayment, and his rabbi to teach him Torah (Orchos Tzaddikim, Sha’ar HaChanifus). It also may be permitted to flatter someone so that they will accept rebuke (Orchos Tzaddikim, Sha’ar HaChanifus). Some are of the opinion that flattery is permitted to escape danger (Tosfos, Sota 41b; Torah Temima, Bereishis 33:10; Yere’im 248); others disagree (Sha’arei Teshuva, 3:18788); and still others chart a middle course, distinguishing between imminent danger (flattery is permissible) and a more remote or theoretical danger (flattery is forbidden) (Yad Ketana, Dei’os 10:13; Ha’aros of R’ Elyashiv, Nedarim 22a). Flattery may also be permitted to avoid sizeable financial loss (Torah Temima, Bereishis 33:10). R’ Moshe Feinstein was asked whether the honor of opening the Aron Kodesh could be bestowed upon a philanthropic Jewish doctor married to a non-Jew (Igros Moshe, Orach Chaim 2:51). The congregation posing the question was concerned that the doctor would withhold financial support unless given some honor. In ruling that the honor was permissible, R’ Moshe explained that the core prohibition against flattery assumes some correlation between the deplorable act(s) and the honor being bestowed, such that the honor could be construed as approval of the

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errant act(s). Since opening the Aron Kodesh was unrelated to the doctor’s intermarriage, R’ Moshe ruled that it was permissible. But these narrow exceptions must never be allowed to dull the gravity of the sin.

court flattered him endlessly. You are the greatest, most powerful king of all…there is nothing you cannot do, nothing in this world dares disobey you. The king eventually grew tired of such foolishness and decided to

If everyone flatters, he concluded, I might as well enter the rabbinate. And so he did.

Flattery is heinous because it substitutes fear of man for fear of G-d (Tosfos, Sota 41b; Kad HaKemach, Chanufa). Indeed, flatterers “will not receive the face of the Divine Presence” (Sota 42a) as a punishment and also as a natural consequence of prioritizing man’s esteem over G-d’s (Michtav M’Eliyahu, Vol 5, pg. 102). There was once a king whose

teach them a lesson. “So you say I am the greatest man in the world and all things obey me?” “Oh, yes, sire,” the servants responded. “In that case, fetch my throne and place it down by the seashore.” The servants scrambled to carry the throne over the sands, placing it at the water’s edge. The king sat

down and surveyed the ocean. “I see the tide is coming in. Will it stop if I give the command?” “Give the order, great king, and it will obey.” “Sea,” the king called out. “Come no further! Do not dare touch my feet!” He waited a moment, and a wave rushed up the sand and covered his feet. “How dare you! Ocean, turn back now!” The king remained on his throne throughout the day, screaming at the waves to stop. But in they came anyway, until the seat of the throne was submerged. Finally, the king turned to his servants. “It seems I do not have quite so much power as you would have me believe. Perhaps now you will remember there is only one king, and He is all-powerful. I suggest you reserve your praises for Him.” Flattery stems from an inability to accept reality (Da’as Torah, Shemos 18:21), and so flatterers seek

to distort reality with disingenuous toadyism. Sincere compliments can build relationships, but flattery undermines them. Rightful praise develops self-esteem, but flattery makes us feel patronized and empty and cheap. Flattery creates, for giver and receiver alike, an artificial harmony and a false reality. Metaphorically, then, the prohibition against “flattering the land” is a prohibition against creating an atmosphere of disingenuousness and insincerity. Don’t get me wrong – I enjoy flattery as much as anyone. But I won’t be deluded it. Like the king who was warned of the notorious flatterer, I’d like to think I could not so easily be seduced. At least not when what others say is the truth.

Eytan Kobre is a writer, speaker, mediator, and attorney living in Kew Gardens Hills. Questions? Comments? Suggestions? E-mail eakobre@outlook.com.

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A Fulfilled L fe

Submitting to a Higher Will By Rabbi Naphtali Hoff

Part II Two weeks ago we talked about the impact that sin’as chinam, causeless hatred, has on our national harmony and our ability to come together as a single people before our Maker. This week we will explore another dimension to the scourge of sin’as chinam.

There’s another aspect of sin’as chinam that causes it to supersede the other problems. Harav Eliyahu Dessler, zt”l, noted the underlying differences in the personal motive behind each form of sinful behavior. He suggested that violation of the three cardinal sins is based on one’s drive to satisfy his personal desires. Even the drive to worship idols was really inspired by a craving for adultery. “Bnei Yisrael knew that the idols

were nonentities, but they engaged in idolatry only that they might openly satisfy their incestuous desires.” (Sanhedrin 63b) Eventually, however, a person reaches his saturation point and the sinful pursuit diminishes. Sin’as chinam, on the other hand, is motivated by gaavah (arrogance). Nothing inherent in the person brought about the hatred; it’s “causeless.” Rather, the very presence of the individual causes the resentment, as someone who can potentially alter my balance of power (real or imagined) in some way. A similar expression can also be found in Orchos Tzadikim, perek 1: One who is arrogant, his heart is desirous and is driven by a lust for wealth… In addition, his arrogance generates an inability to tolerate others. This idea ties in well with another stated reason for our exile. What is meant by, “Who is the wise man, that he may understand this (. . . for what is the land destroyed etc.”)? (Yirmiyahu 9:11) Now, this question was put to the chachamim, neviim, and malachei hashareis, but they could not answer it, until Hashem did so. As it is written, “And Hashem said, ‘Because they have forsaken my law which I set before them, and have not obeyed my voice, neither have they walked in them.’” (Ibid, 10) … (It means) that they did not first recite a blessing over the Torah. (Nedarim 81a) Ran explains that surely they

learned Torah regularly, otherwise why was the source of their punishment so difficult for all to discern? Rather, the issue was more subtle. Not making the blessing before the study of Torah means that their attitude to learning was not where it was supposed to be. These individuals were not motivated to learn for the appropriate reasons. They studied for personal, self-serving objectives, such as practical knowledge, intellectual stimulation, increased honor, etc., all of which betray a certain degree of selfishness and arrogance. There focus was not on Hashem (as indicated in the idea blessing Him for giving us the opportunity to study His Torah), but rather on themselves. Rabbeinu Yonah, writing in Shaarei Teshuva (3:160), explains that one can fulfill all of the mitzvos to the fullest degree and still be one who hates Hashem if he is bothered when he sees others serving Hashem as well. Such a person is not serving their Maker out of a true desire to fulfill His will, but rather for the purpose of enhancing his own personal stature. Of course, we must realize that as we commemorate the tragic events of this period, we are not simply recalling someone else’s misdeeds and their disastrous consequences. As our sages make clear, the root of the problem is as much a function of our times as it is theirs. Any generation in which the Bais

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HaMikdash is not rebuilt is considered as if it was destroyed in its days. (Jerusalem Talmud, Yoma 5:1) Our mission must be to attempt to counteract the pride within us by submitting our own will to that of Hashem. We must understand that

perplexing statement of our sages. “And the entire congregation lifted up their voice, and cried; and the people wept that night.” (Numbers 14:1) Rabbah said in the name of Rabbi Yochanan, “That night was the night of the ninth of Av. The Holy

They are describing a trait or behavior in which the perpetrators allowed their own agenda to take precedence over Hashem’s will.

when our sages refer to something as “causeless,” they are not indicating that these behaviors were completely arbitrary. Rather, they are describing a trait or behavior in which the perpetrators allowed their own agenda to take precedence over Hashem’s will. We can now begin to understand yet another related but seemingly

One, blessed be He, said to them, ‘You wept for no justifiable reason, therefore I will set (this day) aside for weeping throughout the generations to come.’” (Ta’anis 29a) A very basic question arises from this passage. How could their crying be considered as lacking a “justifiable reason” when they had just received a

very negative report from the spies? But the men who went up with him said, “We are unable to go up against the people, for they are stronger than we.” They spread an (evil) report about the land which they had scouted, telling the children of Israel, “The land we passed through to explore is a land that consumes its inhabitants, and all the people we saw in it are men of stature. There we saw the giants…In our eyes, we seemed like grasshoppers, and so we were in their eyes.” (Numbers 13:31-33) The answer again is that the people of that generation allowed themselves to place their own agenda of fear and uncertainty before Hashem’s objective of bringing them to their homeland. In so doing, they helped to foster similar responses in the future, which consequently led to many more opportunities for “weeping throughout the generations.” It is for this reason that we engage in active mourning during this period: fasting, mourning, lamentations, etc. We also turn our attention away from personal honor (by sitting on floor, removing our shoes and adorn-

ments), and eschew all forms of personal desire (by abstaining from eating, drinking, marital relations, etc.). Instead, we try to reconnect with Hashem and the true objectives of our existence. Let us hope that this year we can replace the “unjustified” weeping of our troubled past with a sincere weeping reflective of a true desire to fulfill Hashem’s will and thereby deserve the great opportunity to witness the complete restoration of Hashem’s active and open presence in this world. Everyone who mourns for Jerusalem merits to share in her joy, and anyone who does not mourn for her will not share in her joy. (Ta’anis 30a)

Rabbi Naphtali Hoff is an executive coach and consultant and President of Impactful Coaching & Consulting (www.ImpactfulCoaching.com). He can be reached at nhoff@impactfulcoaching.com.

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Tragedies By Rabbi YY Rubinstein

was in Los Angeles visiting family and friends when someone asked if I could make time to speak to an organization. I had never heard of it before and of course I had to find out what the organization was and who the people were I would be addressing. The last item on the list on these occasions is the unpleasant part (at least for me) of discussing a fee. The organization is called Links and when I heard what they do, there was no hesitation and no fee. Actually, I would have paid them to be allowed to speak to the girls they support. All of them have lost a mother or a father and sometimes even both. It turned out that one of the Links girls knew my youngest daughter, who like her, had lost her mom. The Links girls knew that I would understand what they had or were going through, and sadly, they were right. That was why they wanted me as a speaker. That first talk lead to an invitation to speak at their annual Shabbatons and meet many, many more girls struggling with profound pain and loss. All of the speakers who give their time and their hearts to Links have an equivalence of suffering. The

famous Rabbi Paysach Krohn, shlita, lost his father when he was a young man of twenty-one. He too is a passionate supporter of Links and has set up a recorded message that reaches all of the girls every erev Shabbos. At my first Links Shabbaton the organizers asked me if I could speak to a young lady who had lost her father suddenly three years before. Now only fifteen, her mother had just been diagnosed with cancer of the liver. I mentioned this story to a friend recently and he asked me, “What do you possibly find to say to someone in that amount of pain?” I could honestly reply that hadn’t a clue what I said then any more than I would have the slightest idea what to say now. I recall that somehow I did find the right words but that was only through Siyata D’Shmaya, not any wisdom I may or may not have. Many years ago in Manchester I received a phone call from the Rebbetzin of the Rosh Beis Din, Dayan Krausz, shlita. She told me a terrible story about a family that was sitting shiva. A young woman had been married for nine months and was six

months pregnant. Her husband had just been killed in a road accident. The Rebbetzin explained that the family wanted to speak to a rabbi and for some reason, although I didn’t know them, had asked for me. Of course I had to go. In the UK, around eighty percent of Jews belong to Orthodox shuls, although levels of observance range from strict to three-times-a-year attendees. The family was traditional in their Jewish observance. I assumed that they were very hurt and angry at Hashem about what had happened. If they could not let their anger out on Him, then one of His rabbis would be the next best thing. Rebbetzin Krausz told me I was wrong and that the family just wanted someone to answer their questions. When I arrived at the shiva house, the entire family brought their chairs close together so they could ask their questions and hear my answers. The Rebbetzin’s explanation of what she thought I would find was correct. Seven or eight deeply hurt people were searching for the answers to the deepest question of all: Why do very bad things happened to very good people? If my friend were to ask me the

same question about this story, I would have to give the same reply. Once more I haven’t a clue what I said. Somehow though, Hashem guided my words and an hour later those words seem to have brought a little comfort. When I got up to leave two members of the family asked to speak to me privately. This was a different story of deep hurt and pain about a father estranged from a daughter whom he had not seen for very many years. It was also a request now that the man was elderly and ill to see if there was any way I could bring the two back together again. This prove to be a mission that was easier to accomplish than solving the riddle of tzaddik v’ra lo. I remember thinking that perhaps this was the real reason why a family who did not know me had selected me from all the rabbis in Manchester to come to their shiva. After all, even if we can point to the explanations to human suffering contained in the third chapter of Shaar HaBetochon of the Chovos HaLevovos and elsewhere, these only reach the mind. The heart, broken and bruised, will be unable to hear those explanations for a very long time.

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Two years after this incident I was speaking in one of Manchester’s largest shuls on Yom Kippur. When I finished I had to quickly walk to another nearby shul to speak again. I went to collect my coat. A young woman knelt, doing the buttons up on her daughter’s coat. I smiled and wished her a gut yom tov and she returned the greeting and the smile. The next day, I met the mother and toddler again as she was strapping her little girl into the child seat at the back of her car. She greeted me and said, “You don’t remember me; do you?” I was sure she was not referring to our brief encounter outside the shul cloakroom and shook my head. She was the young married woman who had lost her husband in the car crash. “I want to thank you for what you said when you came.” She went on and then added, “I’m getting married in a few weeks’ time!” From tragedy and pain where she could have been angry at Hashem and turned her back on Him forever, she had instead turned towards Him and was now marrying a religious Jew who matched her now-higher level of observance. I met that lady recently when I spoke in her shul in Raanana in Israel. The rav was one of my earliest talmidim and a dear friend. He had passed way a few months before after a short illness. He left behind a shul that is now a sad and heartbroken community. So once more we met in tragic circumstances and once more she and the members of her kehilla, despite their pain, had determined to turn even more towards Hashem. This even though neither they nor she has or can have the answer to why very bad things happen to very good people. It’s a Jewish thing. People who have suffered so much, whatever the reasons may be, so very often come closer and grow stronger in their attachment to Hashem, despite their pain. When I returned from speaking in Raanana, I heard from the organizer of Links that the fifteen-year-old – who is now eighteen – had just lost her mother too, leaving her and her sixteen-year-old sister all alone. Despite jetlag and a flu courtesy of El-

Al, I drove the two hours to New Jersey to be menachem ovel on the last day of the shiva. Walking towards the door of the house, once again I kept thinking that I hadn’t a clue what I should say. It was a quiet moment and the two sisters were sitting alone. The oldest sister remembered

himself called them “rebellious.” The Ohr HaChaim quotes the Gemara in Taanis 9a and says, “No, the fault was Moshe’s for describing them that way!” But surely they did not mourn Miriam appropriately. The Ohr HaChaim once more leaps to their

“I know it’s what Hashem wants and is all for the best.”

me well and I started to ask her about her mother’s last days. She began by saying, “I know it’s what Hashem wants and is all for the best.” I wondered if perhaps the reason that I could not remember what I had said to the young wife who had lost her husband so tragically all those years before and why I could not recall what I had said to this young girl when we first met is because it was what they said to me that was important, not the other way around. Perhaps people with a simple and unbreakable faith don’t need so much to hear what a rabbi has to say; perhaps a rabbi has to hear what they have to say and witness a simple and unbreakable faith. I saw something recently that struck me as crucial and critical for every Jew to hear. It was in the commentary of the Ohr HaChaim on Pashas Chukas. As I was in Eretz Yisroel when it was read in shul and the same sedra was read again the following Shabbos in chutz l’aretz, I heard it twice so its impact was reinforced Bamidbar, Chapter 20:1: “And the entire congregation of Bnei Yisroel came to the desert of Tzin.” What follows, of course, is the death of Miriam and Moshe hitting the rock. The Ohr HaChaim says that the phrase “Bnei Yisroel” refers to the entire Jewish people being “righteous” and “tzaddikim.” The Torah emphasizes it, he says, because what comes next would lead you to the opposite conclusion. After all, Moshe

defense propelled by the Torah’s own testimony, “The entire congregation of Bnei Yisroel” were still “righteous” and “tzaddikim.” Yet Chazal point to these mistakes that the Ohr HaChaim disputes and more, like the people who made fun of Moshe claiming that he should show his mettle by hitting any old rock.

I think what the Ohr HaChaim is saying is that even though Klal Yisoel makes mistakes and slips up, that does not alter their intrinsic nature; they remained and they remain “righteous” and “tzaddikim.” Entering the Three Weeks yet again and recalling as we should the rivers of tears caused by our many mistakes, from the Meraglim to Churban haBayis, we must remember that they do not change the nature of Klal Yisroel: “righteous” and “tzaddikim.” The bitter exile in all its manifestations still finds a People with a simple and unbreakable faith who suffered and suffer and yet echo the words of an orphaned eighteen-yearold girl, “I know it’s what Hashem wants and is all for the best.”

Rabbi Y Y Rubinstein is a writer and author who speaks all over the world. He lives in Inwood.

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THIS WEEK, WE’RE TALKING TO…

Orah Day Camp How are the Five Towns’ youngest residents spending their summer? Over the next few weeks, we’ll be speaking to different day camps to learn how their campers are spending their 12 weeks of summer vacation.

BETWEEN SWIMMING TWICE A DAY, AMAZING ACTIVITIES, UNLIMITED RUACH, AND UNPARALLELED PROGRAMMING, ORAH DAY CAMP IS THE PERFECT PLACE FOR GIRLS TO ENJOY THEIR SUMMER. THIS WEEK, WE SPOKE WITH ORAH DAY CAMP’S CAMP DIRECTOR MRS. MALKA FISHMAN. JOINING MRS. FISHMAN WERE PROGRAM DIRECTOR MRS. NECHAMA SITTNER, COPROGRAM DIRECTOR MRS. NECHAMA STRAUSS, PRESCHOOL DIRECTOR MRS. MIRIAM FURMAN, AND UPPER CAMP DIRECTOR MRS. RUCHIE DUNN.

I know things are so busy in camp; thank you for speaking with us. Tell us how Orah Day Camp started years ago. Orah Day Camp was started in the early 1970s to fill the need for an all-girls day camp in the Five Towns/ Far Rockaway area. Orah is the oldest girl’s camp in our area. We moved onto our beautiful 3-acre campus in 2005 and our camp has grown by leaps and bounds each year to our current population of well over 650 girls. That sounds like a lot of happy campers! Can you tell us about the wonderful

head staff you have in camp who help keep the camp running smoothly? Sure! Mrs. Malka Fishman is Orah Day Camp’s Camp Director and has been here for the last 17 years. She works hard all year to ensure that Orah Day Camp is phenomenal, from the youngest campers to the oldest – everyone is a “happy camper.” From one summer to the next, from one age group to the next, Orah Day Camp just keeps strengthening and building on its success. Each year brings new and innovative ideas with new specialties and trips to bring new life to the summer. Mrs. Nechama Sittner, our Program Director, has been injecting the program with an incredible amount of creativity, hilarity and ent husia sm for the last 12 years. Before that, she ran our sports program.

The round of daily activities she arranges for the campers and the nonstop bursts of excitement account for much of that Orah Day Camp magic. Our beloved Pre-School Director/Lower Division Head, Mrs. Miriam Furman, has been with us for 11 years and makes sure that the youngest campers are constantly and vigilantly supervised. She is there bright and early each and every morning greeting the preschoolers at the door, making each one feels very special and loved. Mrs. Ruchie Dunn is our Upper Division Head, who oversees each and every middle and older division bunk. Before becoming a Division Head, she ran a very popular activity called Wacky Science. She is very energetic and enthusiastic and keeps things running smoothly between staff and campers in the older division. She troubleshoots and is very involved in the program and making sure all staff and campers are happy and having a great time. Mrs. Rena (Jacobi) Nathan is a welcome addition to the Orah Day Camp staff. Assuming the role of Head Counselor, she has camp in her blood. She brings a breath of fresh enthusiasm and new ideas to Orah Day Camp. She is

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Excitin Camp Fe g ature! BACK F O THIRD R A YEAR! simply amazing! A very special thing about our camp is that many of our staff members come back year after year and they’re so happy to be here. We believe that if you’re a happy staff member, you will be committed to your happy campers and your campers will be happy. The true secret of our success is the most dedicated administration staff, to whom camp is a true labor of love. It sounds like you have a phenomenal staff that pumps in the amazing ruach that Orah Day Camp is known for. Tell us about your amazing campers. Where do they come from? Where don’t they come from? More girls than ever have joined us this year in Orah Day Camp coming from all over the tristate area and far beyond! Our campers and staff literally come from all over the world! In terms of age,

our campers range from age Nursey and Pre-K to our spectacular, sought-after 7 th grade program. This year we have over 45 girls in that program and people are calling daily from our waiting list to try to get in. Sounds like I’d like to try it! I heard you have amazing themes. What’s it all about this year? This summer we will all get into SHAPE! We’ll be dancing in a SQUARE, playing on a DIAMOND, and working every ANGLE to make this summer the best ever! So don’t be SQUARE, CIRCLE the wagons and get ready for a super summer… Because in Orah Day Camp every camper is a STAR! As you can tell, our theme this year is “SHAPES.” Circle week was fun with bubbles for the younger division, while the older girls made Rubber Band Jump Ropes. Square week had

a square-dancing special activity, we had a mock wedding for diamond week, a talent show for star week, with lots more to come. Seems like there’s a lot of fun going “around!” What’s a regular day like at Orah Day Camp? There is no “regular” day at Orah Day Camp! From the minute the campers arrive, they are moving non-stop! They go from one exciting activity to the next, barely stopping to catch their breath in between. In just one day at Orah Day Camp, a camper can bake delicious cookies, play a rousing game of kickball, attend a shiur, enjoy swimming lessons in our Olympic-sized pool, choreograph their own dance, have a great time at special activity, and much, much more! Girls love lots of variety. The entire day is filled with exciting activities, including music, an array of arts & crafts, aerobics, kickboxing, baking, ceramics, etc., with special activities geared to our younger

By the Numbers... 640 Campers go to Orah Day Camp each day

198 Campers went to

Orah Day Camp during its first summer

102 Lbs. of challah

dough baked each week

1,423 Slices of campers’ favorite lunch—pizza, of course!—served every Friday

47 Gallons of sunscreen,

applied for the twice daily swim. Sunscreen is the perfume of Orah Day Camp!

312 Deep water swim tests attempted

242 Hamburgers flipped on our late night BBQs

1,280 Amazingly happy parents!

Countless smiles!

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campers. It’s a day packed with fun. So what are the kids’ favorite activities? There are no “favorite” activities! If you like to swim, we have swimming twice a day; if you like art, we have different types of art activities; whatever you like to do, we have it here at Orah Day Camp. There is something here for everyone! We are always looking for new activities and specialties – fine art painting, PowerPoint, dance choreography, and AOW are some of the new things at Orah Day Camp this year. As if that is not enough, we also have Main Events each week with an entertainer and/or special activities and projects related to the camp theme. You keep on mentioning swimming. Tell us about your refreshing pool. Orah Day Camp takes pride in the fact that our

c a mp ers have 2 daily swims – one instructional and one free swim each day in our Olympic-sized pool. Mrs. Laya Mandel, our head lifeguard, has over 30 years’ experience. She is also an EMT and a teacher’s teacher – she teaches lifeguarding. Most of our lifeguards are WSI certified and most of them have been with us for many years. The word around town is that if you want your daughter to learn to swim, send them to Orah Day Camp. Yes – that is certainly the word on the street! Off-campus, what trips do the girls enjoy? We take the campers out regularly for trips – Bounce U, Luna Park, FitWize, Sportime USA, @Play, New Rock City, and Lego Land – to name just a few. We had a wonderful overnight with our oldest bunk last month. We were fortunate to join with other teen camps

at the beautiful Clementon Water Park. The weather was amazing and the girls loved the many rides and slides at the water portion of the park. When they were ready to dry off, they had time to enjoy the amusement part of the park as well. We then spent the night at a beautiful local JCC and topped off the experience the next morning with some black light mini golf at Monster Mini Golf. The girls were exhausted but happy when they arrived back at camp! Do you do anything different for the Three Weeks and the Nine Days? We usually have a very different schedule planned for our campers for the upcoming Nine Days, some of a more serious nature, some fun. We have a choir in formation for our annual Cantata production which is something that the girls look forward to each year. This year our very own Rena (Jacobi) Nathan will be leading the choir with

songs that reflect our yearning for Yerushalayim and the geulah. Our drama specialty head, Malka Wolf, has been in charge of the dramatic portion of the production for almost a decade. Each year she focuses on a different aspect of the serious time period that we are in and works to get a specific message across – whether it is ahavas Yisroel, or nosei b’ol im chavero the girls are captivated by the message and the way that it is conveyed. We also have some special activities that we pull out just for this time period. As none of our campers swim during the Nine Days, we replace those activities with things like zip lining, slack line, and preparation for our spectacular Carnival for our older girls, and water slides and sprinklers for the younger campers and so much more! There really is so much going on here all the time it’s hard to squeeze all the excitement into the short time we have speaking with TJH!

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Health & F tness

I’m Out for Your Blood – For Good Reasons By Hylton I. Lightman, MD, DCH (SA), FAAP

t might be the one-year well visit, or you’ve brought in Michael for his annual well check up – and Michael is now a towering 6-foot 17-year old. Every parent wants to know: Why is it important that you draw blood from my child? Pediatricians order bloodwork at well visits for a variety of reasons and those reasons vary from age-to-age. Today, we focus on why assessing lead risk and conducting lead tests for ages 6 months through 6 years is important and recommended by the American Academy of Pediatrics (AAP) and the Centers for Disease Control (CDC). Measuring for lead levels? Yes, even in today’s world, our children can be exposed to lead. Most commonly, the lead source is dust and chips from deteriorating lead paint on interior surfaces, especially in older homes, as well as many toys and products from outside the United States. In some places in this great country, drinking water is still pumped through leaded pipes. Certain home remedies, consumer products such as candies, makeup and jewelry, and imported products like clay pots can contain lead. Lead exposure can be insidious as it can take place over extended time periods before there are any symptoms. Lead is toxic to everyone, but especially for unborn babies and young children because their smaller, growing bodies make them more susceptible to absorbing and retaining lead because of their developing guts. Once lead gets into a person’s system, it’s distributed throughout

the body just like important minerals such as iron, calcium and zinc. In the bloodstream, lead can damage red blood cells and inhibit their ability to carry oxygen to organs and tissues, thus causing anemia. Lead in the bone can interfere with producing blood cells and absorbing calcium – and calcium is essential for strong bones and teeth, muscle contraction and nerve and blood vessel functions. Even a small amount of lead in a baby can cause learning disabilities, behavioral problems, and anemia. At higher levels, lead exposure can cause seizures, coma, and even death, G-d forbid. The AAP recommends that the pediatrician conducts a lead risk assessment at the 6-month, 9-month, 12-month, 18-month, and 24-month well visits as well as those at ages 3, 4, 5, and 6. If the risk assessment is positive, then the pediatrician should conduct a lead test to measure the lead level. Medicaid and most private insurers cover this test. The optimal treatment for lead poisoning is primary prevention. However, children are not found to have lead in their environment until they have an elevated blood level. Should a child test with a high lead level – and any level of lead is too high – there is pharmacological intervention. Public health staff should investigate thoroughly the child’s physical environment and family lifestyle for sources of lead. What can parents do? Partner with your pediatrician

to assure your child’s health. Answer honestly the risk assessment questions. If your pediatrician recommends the lead test, do so. Good information can lead to the most effective protocol. The CDC recommends talking to your local health department about testing paint and dust in your home if you live in a home built before 1978. Common home renovations like sanding, cutting and demolition can create hazardous lead dust and chips

jewelry from children. Stay current on recalls by visiting the Consumer Product Safety Commission’s website: http://www.cpsc.gov/. To learn more about the CDC’s recommendations for lead poisoning prevention, please consult http:// www.cdc.gov/nceh/lead/about/program.htm. Chazal tell us that blood serves as an adhesive, connecting our bodies, the source of our animalistic instincts, with our souls, the source of

Even a small amount of lead in a baby can cause learning disabilities, behavioral problems, and anemia.

by disturbing lead-based paints. It’s optimal that renovation activities be performed by certifies renovators who are trained by EPA-approved training providers to follow leadsafe work practices. Please refer to: http://www.epa.gov/ead/pubs/renovation.htm. If you see paint chips or dust in windowsills or on floors because of peeling paint, clean these areas regularly with a wet mop. Wipe your feet on mats before entering the home, especially if you work in occupations where lead is used. Remove your shoes when entering your home. Remove recalled toys and toy

our spiritual drives. It serves us well to take care of our blood, the synthesis of our life, the fusion of our most basic wants and needs with our aspirations to rise and soar above them. Special thank you to Rabbi David Fleischmann of Far Rockaway, NY, for his valuable input.

Dr. Hylton Lightman is a pediatrician and Medical Director of Total Family Care of the 5 Towns and Rockaway PC. He can be reached at www.totalfamilycaremd.com, on Instagram at #lightmanpeds or visit him on Facebook.

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Dating Dialogue

What Would You Do If… Moderated by Jennifer Mann, LCSW of The Navidaters

Dear Readers, T

his week’s author of the What Would You Do If question decided that she did not want her question to go to print at the last minute. I usually mentally prepare my response on Sunday and sit down to write Pulling it All Together on Monday evening, just making my deadline. This is one time I can say that my procrastination has worked to someone’s benefit. I apologize to the wonderful panelists who provided insightful and thought-pro-

voking responses for not seeing the fruits of their labor, and to you, the reader, who looks forward to our content. I hope we all agree that respecting someone’s wishes for privacy trumps all. So, what’s a Navidater to do without a What Would You Do If? Leaving you empty-handed is not an option. So, I thought we could discuss somewhat of a hot topic and “navidate” the waters of vulnerability in dating and relationships in the orthodox world. Many singles and marrieds alike are struggling with being open about their thoughts and feelings in their relationships. If you’re an avid reader of the column, you’ll notice that I generally propose that the author speak di-

rectly to whomever he/she is writing in about. What I am really suggesting is vulnerability. “I don’t know if I have feelings for her.” Talk to her about it. “My mother is driving me crazy about my weight.” Talk to her about it. “I don’t know how to tell the guy I’m seeing that my brother battles clinical depression and I think I may also.” Tell him there’s something on your mind that you want to share but are having a hard time sharing it. It’s so obvious and yet we all, myself included, struggle with sharing our truth at times; maybe when we feel that something is at stake or a relationship is on the line. I am not one to generalize and actually abhor generalizations about groups of people. I will say, however, that in the Orthodox world of dating, relationships, engagement and even marriage, too many people are struggling with being vulnerable.

They are encouraged to “open up,” but can’t. And who can blame them? The message out there is that you must be pretty close to perfect in order to find a shidduch or soulmate. You know… your family cannot have a history of mental illness, drug or alcohol abuse, no siblings with special needs, no girl over a size 10 (and that’s pushing it), and no history of anorexia or bulimia. Let’s see…you must be very involved in chessed, and you’ll be very sought after if you’re from a well-to-do family. Young divorcees are not suitable for young daters, and if you are older and have never married, well, something must be wrong. Young singles are expected to have chosen careers, be able to support a family or at the very least have parents willing to support them. And who can forget “having a past”? He has somewhat of a past. I don’t think it’s a good shidduch. It is

The feedback from our readers has been remarkable. In order to facilitate further discussion, you can now continue the conversation anonymously on our website. Every Sunday, we will upload the weekend’s most recent edition of What Would You Do If to the dating forum at thenavidaters.com. Join The Navidaters and your fellow TJH readers in a comprehensive dialogue with regard to dating, relationships and marriage. The forum will be moderated daily for everyone’s comfort and safety. See you there! Disclaimer: This column is not intended to diagnose or otherwise offer resolutions to any questions. Our intention is not to offer any definitive conclusions to any particular question, but to offer areas of exploration for the author and reader. Due to the nature of the column receiving only a short snapshot of an issue, without the benefit of an actual discussion, the panel’s role is to offer a range of possibilities. We hope to open up meaningful dialogue and individual exploration.

highly frowned upon to come from a divorced home, or a home where the parents fight. And for those of us reading this and thinking, “I don’t know, my family doesn’t have any problems. We really are the perfect family…” Some might say that your family has repressed all their feelings and lives in a constant state of denial…and you are not acceptable either. Freud estimated that 90% of the population is mentally ill. Perhaps a bit extreme in his view, we can conclude that we all have some meshugas! Some of us try to control every variable when dating, and yet the rate of divorce is increasing. And so I ask the universe and you, from my dining room table, is there a way to change the message that our singles are receiving? Must we as a society feel so ashamed of what we perceive as imperfection that we are driven to project a false image of perfection? When will be able to get real with each

other? (Once we have married off all our children? That was a joke). I heard a great quote and it went something like this: “When perfection is in the driver’s seat, shame is riding shotgun.” Shame lies to us. Shame silences us. Shame makes us keep secrets. Shame tells us that if we share something “bad,” someone may not love us anymore. Shame tells us that in order to be loveable we must be perfect. The more we give into our shame, the larger it becomes, until we have no voice and we live our lives avoiding and denying. If you live with something you feel ashamed of, then you know exactly what I am talking about. Pretty hard to let someone in and get to know us when we’re trying to be perfect. You know what the antidote to shame is? Vulnerability. Talking. Sharing. Telling. Shame withers away in the light of day. Imagine someone responding to you with “me too,” or “I’m so happy you told me” or

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And who can blame them? The message out there is that you must be pretty close to perfect in order to find a shidduch or soulmate.

“thank you for trusting me. I feel so much closer to you now.” I have some ideas about how to change the narrative our society tells, and they involve getting into the school system and talking to young men and women in high school about dating, relationships, vulnerability, and emotional intimacy. Until this is addressed societally, my advice to singles navigating the waters of dating

and relationships is to take that risk and get vulnerable when the time feels right. It is a risk, indeed, because the truth is you may be rejected. But the other risk is to never open up, to never share, to never be vulnerable and to never feel a true connection with another person. I guess it boils down to what feels like the bigger risk for you. Stepping off my soapbox, Jennifer

Esther Mann, LCSW and Jennifer Mann, LCSW are licensed, clinical psychotherapists and dating and relationship coaches working with individuals, couples and families in private practice in Hewlett, NY. To set up an appointment, please call 516.224.7779. Press 1 for Esther, 2 for Jennifer. If you would like to submit a dating or relationship question to the panel anonymously, please email thenavidaters@gmail.com. Follow The Navidaters on IG and FB!.

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Dr. Deb

How to Make Up By Deb Hirschhorn, Ph.D.

ince the Nine Days are upon us, this may be the perfect time to take a look at how to make up, or better, how not to make up. Historically, Hashem was quite angry at the Jewish People but we didn’t heed the warnings and got punished for it.

BLAME-FEST

EX G CL RE U AT SI VE W E Q DD UA IN LI G TY G FA IFT BR ! IC S!

Oddly, we still keep doing the same things that were clearly erroneous in the first place. For example, a couple comes in for therapy and starts to re-

lay all their problems. What is the first thing most of them do? They point their finger at the other person. Now, objectively, the other person may be “annoying,” “irresponsible,” “rude,” or even “abusive,” but how does this process of looking at the other person ever accomplish anything? The other person is going to say, “No, I’m not! In fact, you are….” And off to the races they go. They spend hours – no, years – pointing a finger and never look at themselves.

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It is only when each person takes 100% responsibility for his or her part of the mess that the situation has a chance of improvement. Can you imagine what it is like to sit there listening to each person rat on the other? How totally unproductive that is? Imagine how much happier you would be if you happened to find yourself in that sort of situation and instead said, “You are right. I will work on that!” and then get to work. Three wonderful things would happen as a result: 1. You would have improved the entire situation by having eliminated whatever it was that was bugging your spouse. 2. Your spouse now would be compelled to take responsibility for her or his own part of the problem since you were already taking care of yours. 3. Your efforts to fix one piece of the puzzle would completely reverse the ugly mood of the household by eliminating that repetitious, get-nowhere mutual blame fest. There’s a fourth element too: You would instill hope in the relationship. Because now, instead of turning away from one another, there would be a turning towards.

WISHY-WASHY ACCEPTANCE OF RESPONSIBILITY

“Oh, Doc,” some people will tell me, “I know I was in the wrong. For sure. My actions were reprehensible. I take full responsibility.” Great start. Until they drop the zinger. “But this isn’t going to work unless he (or she) also works on it. He’s gotta do his share.” Now it is true that it takes two to

tango. But the element of judgmentalism that just crept into the conversation is a baddie. Who is to measure who is “worse” than the other? It’s our job to focus on ourselves and if we must have a point of comparison, then let’s compare ourselves to who we ought to be (as the familiar story of Zusha tells us). Let’s take an example. Is the neglectful husband who hides behind his phone and answers in monosyllables worse than the wife who shouts at him out of frustration? Isn’t it silly to try to unravel that one? Who cares who is worse? Once the problem is brought to the table, if each person simply attends to working on his or her part in it, it will be rectified. Certainly, it’s good that the initial person did take responsibility but his (or her) energy is siphoned off from the task at hand just by judging his partner’s share in the problem. Now, there is a reasonable concern that if only one person repeatedly takes responsibility for making changes and the other one is not inspired by this to do likewise, then the first person may still have gripes and grudges. In that case, a gentle conversation, not a clobber-over-the-head conversation (which will again chase away the person), is needed. If that doesn’t work, then getting outside intervention may be in order. But try the gentle conversation first.

THE APOLOGY TAKES THE PLACE OF CHANGE

No, you’re not supposed to say the magic words “I apologize” and then forget the whole thing. What’s the point of that? People who do that lose the respect of the people in their lives; they become looked at as insincere

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and unreliable. It is a great first step to recognize that you did do something wrong. And a wonderful second step to apologize for it. But if that apology won’t lead to observable, permanent changes, the

to work is all a habit. And rightly so: It saves us a lot of mental energy to not have to figure everything out fresh each day. However, when the habit is something wrong, it needs conscious focus

But if that apology won’t lead to observable, permanent changes, the apology comes out looking more like a way to shush someone up than an apology.

apology comes out looking more like a way to shush someone up than an apology. Admittedly, this is the hard part. You have to actually change. And this is difficult. We are creatures of habit. Everything, from which side of the bed we get up on to which street we take

and mental effort to change. Nothing will replace that. I used to ask clients to post sticky notes all over the place reminding them of the changes they had verbally committed to make. Then, as technology advanced, Iwsuggested they program their phones to shout out a

notification at specified time periods. But now, I have a new method: I ask clients to slow down, breathe deeply, clear their minds of the rush of thoughts, and allow themselves to get clear on what is really important. It’s working.

UNAWARENESS

The worst offender of all is the person who is unaware that anything is wrong and doesn’t even realize she or he needs to apologize. They’ve been told over the years – or decades – hundreds of times but they’ve built up a good, sturdy wall and no longer hear their partner speaking. These are the people who walk into my office absolutely shocked when they are given divorce papers. “I never knew,” they say, with the look on their faces like the proverbial deer in the headlights. It’s no good to be unaware of one’s faults and flaws. Just because it is unhealthy to drown in them doesn’t make it okay to be oblivious to them,

either. As Jews, we are required to go through a cheshbone hanefesh (accounting of the soul) all the time. We are not permitted to give ourselves a stamp of approval. We must become introspective. And deeply honest with ourselves. We must tear down the wall that is keeping us apart from our partner. After all, as long as you are still married, why not get all the benefits of marriage out of it? You just have to take that difficult, but necessary, first step of tearing down the wall and looking at yourself. This is what Hashem wants us to do with these Nine Days as our taste buds long for the juicy steak. He is gently speaking with us. Are we listening?

Dr. Deb Hirschhorn is a Marriage and Family Therapist. She can be reached at 646-54-DRDEB or by writing drdeb@ drdeb.com.

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Health & F tness

Fast Track Foods for an Easy Fast By Aliza Beer MS, RD

ith Tisha B’av lurking right around the corner, it is certainly a good idea to become familiar with the healthy and smart dietary choices to prepare

before and after a fast. The idea of a 25-hour fast can be quite daunting and many people feel the best way to go about it is by stuffing everything and anything into their mouth

before the fast in order to tide them over. This, however, along with many other misconceptions, may make the fast more difficult than it should be. By understanding the way our bodies work and how to properly fuel them, we can make the right decisions and thereby have a healthier and more successful fast. One of the most vital aspects to healthfully preparing for a fast is ensuring proper hydration. Our bodies are incredibly dependent on water and when inadequately hydrated, the consequences are felt almost immediately. Feelings of dizziness, lightheadedness, extreme fatigue, difficulty focusing, and headaches are incorrectly attributed to hunger but, in fact, are symptoms of dehydration. It is important to spend the days leading up to the fast drinking lots of water. This is especially important for a fast in warmer temperatures where we lose even more water. By keeping a large water bottle by your side in the days leading up to the fast and ensuring that you are constantly hydrated, you will enter the fast better prepared and healthier. Additional means of hydration can be found in zero calorie Gatorade or Powerade, ice pops, and diluted juices. Many fruits like watermelon, grapes, peaches, strawberries, and melons are additional choices to stay hydrated. Though drinking lots of water is

great, drinking caffeinated beverages might not be the best idea. Caffeine is a stimulant for the nervous system that can cause dependency. When people ingest large amounts of caffeine on a daily basis and then abruptly stops, they may feel withdrawal symptoms that are extremely unpleasant, such as severe headaches. The most obvious source of caffeine is found in coffee. Additionally, tea, soda, ice cream, chocolate, and even decaffeinated coffee also contain some caffeine. The best way to cut back on the caffeine before a fast is to slowly eliminate caffeinated coffee and other sources of caffeine during the days leading up to the fast. Another solution is to use caffeine suppositories during fasting. Extremely salty foods are also good to avoid before a fast. These thirst-inducing foods, such as pickles, cheese, soups, lox, and processed foods like chips, should be limited the day before the fast. These foods require excess water to rid the body of the high amounts of sodium and can therefore leave you dehydrated. Another important tip before a fast is eating well balanced-meals throughout the day while focusing on healthy carbohydrates. The word “carbohydrates » actually has the word hydrates in it because it works with water to keep your body full but also hydrated. The chemical makeup of carbohydrates causes the body

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to maintain water. There are, however, different types of carbohydrates and before a fast you want to try to make the smartest choice. Simple carbohydrates are rapidly broken down in the body and used as energy. This causes our blood sugar to spike. Simple carbohydrates are found in many processed foods, such as candy, baked goods, and sugary drinks. Complex carbohydrates are the fiber-rich, whole foods that are broken down more slowly and used as energy sources for the body to function. These include whole-wheat breads and grains, pasta, oatmeal, vegetables, sweet potatoes, corns, beans, and lentils. These foods will maintain your energy stores for a longer period of time and will keep your body full for longer, making them the optimal dietary sources before a fast. Eating a carbohydrate-rich meal coupled with some protein and healthy fats before the fast is the best way to enter the fast. The protein will keep you feeling full, and the healthy

fats, such as olive oil, avocado, or nuts, digest slower and will keep you satisfied. A meal such as grilled chicken, brown rice or quinoa, sweet potatoes, a salad with avocado and nuts, and watermelon for dessert is an ideal way to start the fast. It is important to note, however, that eating a very large meal before the fast is not going to tide you over and help you during the fast. Overeating will just make you feel uncomfortable and stretch out your stomach, which will leave you hungrier by the next morning. Avoiding overeating is also crucial when it comes to breaking the fast. After spending a full day fasting, your body’s digestion is very slow and needs to be eased back to food thus the proper selections are necessary. The body is also in starvation mode, and most of what we eat after the fast the body is hoarding as fat, because it’s so nervous and thinks it may not be fed again for another 24 hours. Hydrating yourself after the fast is vital.

The first thing that enters your system should be an 8 oz. glass or more of fluid. This can be water or even a fruit juice. By doing so, one will counteract the dehydration and fill some of the hollow space in your stomach, thereby dissuading you from gorging yourself with food. Reaching for some fresh, cool watermelon or cantaloupe may also be a wise decision since they’re so water-rich and also have some sugars to give you some quick, much-needed energy. As with the pre-fast meal, complex carbohydrates are a great choice in the post-fast meal. Replenishing with foods that provide energy but are slowly digested is the optimal choice. These can include wholewheat pasta, yams, whole-wheat crackers, oatmeal, or whole-wheat toast. Though bagels are a popular choice, it may be best to stick to only half of a scooped out (and wholewheat for more fiber if possible!) as to not overload your system. But note that the simple carbohydrates

like cake, cookies, or candy may be a poor choice since they are digested so rapidly and may shock the digestive system. While we try to make healthful choices on a daily basis, it is also important to make healthful choices before and after a fast. Ingesting foods and liquids that will leave us satisfied and energized as well as ensuring that we are properly hydrated are the keys to successfully entering a fast. As for culminating the fast, hydration and small, controlled choices will bring our bodies back to normal. Wishing everyone an easy and meaningful fast!

Aliza Beer is a registered dietician with a master’s degree in nutrition. She has a private practice in Cedarhurst, NY. Patients’ success has been featured on the Dr. Oz show. Aliza can be reached at alizabeer@gmail.com.

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Nine Days Menu Mix ‘n’ Match

This year, mix up your family’s Nine Days dinners with delicious and interesting dishes to get their stomachs rumbling. Out of ideas? Don’t worry, TJH has your back. Choose from some of these delectable choices to enhance your supper table.

STARTERS and... Techina platter with falafel balls Fried haloumi with grilled vegetables Tomato basil bruschetta Crudité with dip Eggrolls

Garlic bread

Stuffed mushrooms

Guacamole with chips

SOUP Tortellini soup Minestrone soup Hot and sour soup Broccoli soup topped with ricotta Watermelon gazpacho

and... Tomato soup with bread croutons

French onion soup

SALADS and... Waldorf salad Watermelon and feta salad Three bean salad Asian coleslaw Tabbouleh salad Corn salsa Salad nicoise

Caesar salad

Spinach strawberry salad

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MAINS

Fettucine Alfredo

Spinach lasagna

Blueberry pancakes or waffles

Veggie wrap

and... Tomato tart Baked potato with broccoli Asian seared tuna Hasselback potatoes with cheese Quesadillas Mushroom quiche Teriyaki salmon

Homemade pizza

Portobello mushroom burgers Spaghetti squash with cheese and marinara Ricotta pancakes Spinach frittata Rigatoni with roasted tomatoes

Veggie burgers

SIDES Garlic potatoes Roasted vegetables Edamame with dipping sauce Asparagus with almonds Spanish rice Stuffed peppers with couscous

Roasted squash with basil Creamy mashed potatoes Herbed rice and mushrooms Breaded cauliflower

and... Beer battered onion rings

Sweet potato fries

EXTRAS and... Fruit smoothie Cheesecake Roasted plums with maple syrup and Greek yogurt Chocolate raspberry tart Fruit kabobs Raspberry sorbet with fresh berries Baked apple

Iced coffee

Parfait

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Fish Fest By Naomi Nachman

Every summer during the Nine Days I have to come up with creative ways to feed my family dairy or parve meals for 5 days straight. How much pasta and pizza can we really eat for lunch and dinner? Don’t get me wrong – I love both pasta and pizza but I need to change it up a little and add some variety and protein to our diet. One way to do that is to serve some fish too. Here are some of my most popular recipes from my fish repertoire.

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Beer Battered Fish

I know that not everyone loves fish as much as I do – but when you make this beer batter and then fry it up, almost everyone will love it! Don’t forget – you can dip and fry vegetables such as onions, zucchini, and eggplant, too.

Ingredients 1½ cups of flour 1 teaspoon salt ¼ teaspoons freshly ground black pepper 4 large eggs 1 (12-oz) bottle of beer, room temperature Canola oil 1½ pounds of flounder Tartar Sauce 4 tablespoons of mayonnaise 2 tablespoons of sweet relish 2 teaspoons of Dijon mustard 2 teaspoons of white wine or apple cider vinegar

Preparation Mix together tartar sauce ingredients and set aside. To Make the Fish: Sift 1 cup of flour into a bowl. Add salt and pepper. Whisk in the eggs. Slowly add the beer, whisking after each addition. Allow the batter to sit at room temperature for 30 minutes. Heat 3 inches of oil in a large pot, skillet or deep fryer to 360 - 375° Fahr3 enheit Dredge fish in the remaining flour, shaking off excess. Then coat the fish in the batter. Add fish to oil and fry until golden brown, about 3-4 minutes. Serve with tartar sauce.

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Miso Glazed Sea Bass

For the sophisticated palate in your family! You can also use salmon, flounder, or tilapia in this recipe. Great for Mexican night or serve it for “Taco Tuesday”

Ingredients

1 pkg flour or corn tortilla Cumin powder Garlic powder 1 jar salsa 1 pkg shredded mozzarella cheese 1 pound flounder Butter

1/3 cup sake 1/3 cup mirin 1/3 cup light yellow miso ¼ cup toasted sesame oil 3 tablespoons packed brown sugar 2 tablespoons teriyaki 4 6-oz. sea bass fillets (each about 3/4 inch thick) 2 tablespoons scallions, for garnish 1 tablespoon black sesame, for garnish

Preparation

Season flounder with garlic powder and cumin and sear on a grill pan for a few minutes on each side until cooked through. Fish may break apart but that is okay. Heat a skillet and melt some butter. When the butter has melted, place a tortilla in the skillet and spread salsa to cover the whole surface. Take a handful of cheese and spread over the salsa. Place fish over the cheese then cover with a plain tortilla. Cook for a few minutes on each side. The cheese should be melted. Slice into wedges like a pizza. Serve with guacamole or salsa.

Mix first 6 ingredients in a shallow glass baking dish. Add fish and turn to coat. Cover and refrigerate at least 2 hours and up to 6 hours. Preheat broiler. Remove fish from marinade. With broiler door slightly open, broil fish 6 inches from heat source until just opaque in center, about 6 minutes. Garnish with scallions and sprinkle with sesame seeds.

Ingredients

Naomi Nachman, the owner of The Aussie Gourmet, caters weekly and Shabbat/ Yom Tov meals for families and individuals within The Five Towns and neighboring communities, with a specialty in Pesach catering. Naomi is a contributing editor to this paper and also produces and hosts her own weekly radio show on the Nachum Segal Network stream called “A Table for Two with Naomi Nachman.” Naomi gives cooking presentations for organizations and private groups throughout the New York/New Jersey Metropolitan area. In addition, Naomi has been a guest host on the QVC TV network and has been featured in cookbooks, magazines as well as other media covering topics related to cuisine preparation and personal chefs. To obtain additional recipes, join The Aussie Gourmet on Facebook or visit Naomi’s blog. Naomi can be reached through her website, www.theaussiegourmet. com or at (516) 295-9669.

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Chef Fadida’s Scrumptious Summer Dairy Strudel Thousands of visiting tourists and business travelers from the USA have had the pleasure of enjoying a myriad of culinary delights prepared by Charlie Fadida, Executive Chef at the prestigious Sheraton Tel Aviv Hotel. During the summer season, Chef Fadida creates an array of scrumptious dairy delights that can also be enjoyed at home. Here is one of his favorite recipes.

Smoked Salmon (Lox), Olives & Cheese Strudel Serves 10

Ingredients

Preparation

17.5 oz. Tnuva Cheese Spread (cream cheese) 7 oz. smoked salmon 2.2 lbs. puff pastry dough 2 eggs (to create a batter) ½ bundle of chopped chives Flour for working surface/preparation 20 black olives (seedless), chopped roughly 1 tablespoon corn flour

In a bowl, mix the cream cheese, smoked salmon (chopped into pieces), black olives, chopped chives and corn flour. Add salt and pepper to taste. Open the dough (puff pastry) on a floured surface. Put the filling into the dough and roll into a long pipe. Brush with the egg batter. Place the roll in the oven set at 350°F for 12 minutes or until the color of the dough becomes golden. Remove from the oven and slice into portions. B’tayavon!

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Donald Trump and the Dangers of a Strong Presidency By Marc Fisher

onald Trump has promised not only to be the voice of the American people, but also to take decisive, immediate action. As president, he has said he would move fast to destroy the Islamic State, scrap bad trade deals, build that wall, “stop the gangs and the violence,” and “stop the drugs from pouring into our communities.” He would “immediately suspend immigration” from countries where terrorism is rampant. He might even defy treaty obligations and decline to aid NATO allies. The Republican nominee has led some to conclude that he intends a sweeping expansion of presidential au-

thority. His rhetoric implies a muscular, almost unitary, presidency that would be at least as expansive as what historian Arthur Schlesinger Jr. famously dubbed the “imperial presidency” – his critique of Richard Nixon’s abuse of power in the era of Watergate and Vietnam. But scholars of the presidency say that Barack Obama, George W. Bush and their predecessors have added so many powers to the White House toolbox that a President Trump could fulfill many of his promises legally – and virtually unchecked by a Congress that has proven incapable of mustering much pushback for decades. “Every president ex-

pands the power of the presidency,” said Neal Devins, a law professor at the College of William & Mary. “This is a constant pattern. They never shrink the presidency. A President Trump could say, ‘I’m going to use the Obama playbook,’ and go pretty far. The difference between Hillary Clinton and Donald Trump is not going to be one of lawlessness, but of the policies they pursue.” Plenty of politicians have pledged wholesale, game-changing shifts in policy, but Trump’s hot rhetoric stands out because his promises are rarely accompanied by details on how he might implement his initiatives. He doesn’t say how he might punish companies

that ship jobs overseas, or how he’d get Mexico to pay for a border wall, or how he would impose a ban on Muslims entering the country. He says he will make it happen – “believe me.” Trump’s critics hear his sweeping promises as the words of a classic strongman, a ruler who seems prepared to push aside the cobwebs of bureaucracy and the checks and balances of American federalism to produce instant, decisive action. They’ve compared him to Mussolini, Hitler, Vladimir Putin, Saddam Hussein and Argentina’s Juan Peron. Trump has praised Putin and Hussein for being tough on terrorism. In the past, Trump has singled out

China’s crackdown against pro-democracy activists in Tiananmen Square in 1989 as a demonstration of “the power of strength.” “Certainly rhetorically, Trump’s idea that ‘I alone can fix this’ does go beyond the template that President Obama and President Bush before him came in with, the idea that you try to fix things together,” said Andrew Rudalevige, a professor of government at Bowdoin College. Trump’s defenders argue that his statements, whether off the cuff at rallies or in his scripted acceptance address at last week’s Republican convention, are not policy prescriptions but rather reflections of popular frustra-

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“When the president does it, that means that it is not illegal.”

tion. When Trump says he’s going to fix a problem immediately, some supporters say, he’s throwing down his marker, taking a stand rather than spelling out a plan. A spokesman for Trump declined to comment for this article. Some Trump initiatives, such as repealing the Affordable Care Act, cutting taxes or expanding Social Security, would require extensive, close work with Congress. But presidents already have the power to do much of what Trump has proposed. Congress has given the president the authority to negotiate trade deals, for example, and Trump could try to renegotiate the nuclear deal with Iran. Other promises put him in disputed terrain, such as his vow to bomb the Islamic State, “circle” their territory and “take the oil.” Some argue that such actions must be authorized by Congress under the War Powers Resolution, which was passed over President Nixon’s veto in 1973. But presidents since then have routinely ordered military action without seeking a congressional greenlight. Trump could justify an all-out assault on the Islamic State by pointing to the same kinds of authority that allowed the Bush ad-

ministration to use torture against alleged terrorists and allowed the Obama administration to expand the use of drones to kill terrorist suspects. Recent presidents have used their constitutional authority as commander-in-chief even to

Will Congress be able to fight back against an “imperial presidency”?

presidency without an invisible Congress that is willing to take a back seat because it doesn’t want to be blamed for a war or some other unpopular policy.” There’s only one effective way to push back against presidential power grabs, he

dents will continue to assume broader powers unless Congress fulfills its constitutional duty to “protect the American people from exactly the kind of arbitrary, unaccountable government-without-consent that Congress now for its own

“He doesn’t have to call the Congress. He doesn’t have to check with the courts. He has that authority because of the nature of the world we live in.”

take actions that are specifically restricted by law. In 2014, Obama announced a prisoner swap in which Army Sgt. Bowe Bergdahl was brought home from Afghanistan in exchange for five Taliban commanders who had been held at the U.S. facility at Guantanamo Bay, Cuba. Congress had passed a law requiring the president to notify it 30 days before the release of any Guantanamo detainee, but Obama insisted he had a higher duty to protect American lives and U.S. soldiers. “The presidential toolbox of unilateralism is quite deep,” Rudalevige said, “but you can’t have an imperial

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concluded in a recent study: “Congress has to do its job.” That hasn’t been happening, however. The country is so politically polarized that many members of Congress are now elected on promises to resist the kind of compromise that is necessary to build majorities and be an effective check on executive power. “The constitutional order set up by our founders is breaking down,” Sen. Mike Lee, R-Utah, wrote this month in National Review. “What Congress wants today is to be weak … for fear of the political consequences of hard choices.” Lee argued that presi-

selfish reasons enables the executive branch to practice.” In recent decades, presidents have stretched their ability to act unilaterally, bypassing Congress through executive orders, executive memos, national security orders, findings, signing statements and prosecutorial discretion. After Vietnam and Watergate, Congress pushed back with a series of laws designed to rein in the president. But the War Powers Resolution, the Intelligence Oversight Act, the Congressional Budget Act and the independent counsel act – all designed to limit presi-

dential unilateralism – have proved toothless, and Congress since has ceded even more authority. After 9/11, the rush to expand the president’s ability to respond quickly to attacks and to ferret out terrorists shifted the balance of power ever more decisively toward the White House. Then-Vice President Dick Cheney, a proponent of a stronger presidency going back to his days in Congress three decades earlier, argued that the fragility of a world with nuclear weapons mandated an expansive presidency: The fact that the president is accompanied at all times by a military aide carrying the nuclear codes, he said, means that “he doesn’t have to check with anybody. He doesn’t have to call the Congress. He doesn’t have to check with the courts. He has that authority because of the nature of the world we live in.” A president who might act unilaterally was one of the chief fears expressed in the original debates about the Constitution. Writing in the Anti-Federalist Papers in 1787, the pseudonymous Cato warned against the presidency becoming “a Caesar, Caligula, Nero, and Domitian in America.” The system of checks and balances – giving Congress the

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Bush used his power to deal with alleged terrorists

authority to make laws and decide how money is spent, and giving the Supreme Court the last word on what laws comport with the Constitution – was supposed to rein in the president. But as the size and scope of government ballooned, the president became the de facto manager of a sprawling, vital sector of the economy, and presidential authority expanded almost continuously. A century ago, Theodore Roosevelt argued that presidents were allowed to do anything not specifically prohibited by law or the Constitution. And Nixon famously asserted, after he had resigned from office over the Watergate scandal, that “when the president does it, that means that it is not illegal.” By 2004, George W. Bush could state that when “Congress wouldn’t act,” he had no choice but to issue an executive order expanding access to federal grants for faith-based charities. Obama similarly said in 2014 that “when Congress doesn’t move on things they should move on … I’ve got a pen and I’ve got a phone, and I can use that pen to sign executive orders and take executive actions and administrative actions that move the ball forward.”

In today’s hyper-partisan politics, accusations of overly expansive presidencies fly across the aisle as a matter of course. “A strong presidency is one who is of your own party and an imperial presidency is one from the other side,” Rudalevige said.

President Obama released Guantanamo prisoners without Congress’ approval

“especially if we still have an eight-member Supreme Court,” assuming that the late Justice Antonin Scalia’s seat remained unfilled. If a president does overstep his authority, Congress could cut off his funding or impeach him, but a President Trump could counter

the Patriot Act and establish the Department of Homeland Security – a sharp contrast to the administration’s failure to move on domestic initiatives such as overhauling Social Security and reforming immigration. What made the difference, Hagin said, was public opinion,

“I’ve got a pen and I’ve got a phone, and I can use that pen to sign executive orders and take executive actions and administrative actions that move the ball forward.”

Potentially dangerous clashes could develop: If Trump were to ask the military to target terrorists’ families – an idea he has at various times proposed and disavowed – some military and intelligence officials have said that commanders might refuse to follow such orders. “The American armed forces would refuse to act,” former CIA director Michael Hayden said earlier this year. “You are required not to follow an unlawful order.” That scenario could lead to “a constitutional crisis,” Rudalevige said,

with the power of the bully pulpit. “Any new president comes in with a certain degree of goodwill and political capital,” said Joe Hagin, who spent 14 years as a White House aide in Republican administrations, culminating in eight years as deputy chief of staff to George W. Bush. “What’s happening in the nation and the world at any given time affects your ability to move quickly. And if you look at what we were able to do post-9/11, it’s almost unprecedented.” Congress acted within weeks to authorize war, pass

and Trump’s knack for blunt communication could be an effective defense against efforts by Congress to rein him in. “He’s thrown the rulebook out the window, and that could be a very good thing,” Hagin said. “He certainly understands how to communicate with a certain segment of the population, and the question is, can he expand that to a majority of the population?” Public opinion also would likely have a big impact on Congress’s willingness to push back. “No one knows what

Trump would really do, which is why people are so freaked out,” said Devins, the law professor. “If he did push the boundaries dangerously, it really would depend on Congress, and it would take an awful lot for Republicans to join with the Democrats to assert themselves and slap him down. “It took Watergate for the parties to stand up to Nixon and attempt to constrain the presidency. The question really is, what unilateral action against ISIS would be so extreme that Congress would pass a funding ban?” Asked about Trump’s proposals to ban Muslims or build a border wall without congressional approval, House Speaker Paul Ryan, R-Wisconsin, said last month that he “would sue any president that exceeds his or her powers.” But Devins has concluded that the record of the past two decades shows that Congress “lacks both the will and the way to check the presidency. “Today’s system of checks and balances,” he said, “is an abject failure.” The Washington Post’s Mike DeBonis contributed to this report. (c) 2016, The Washington Post

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Notable Quotes “Say What?!”

Yesterday at the DNC, Elizabeth Warren said, “Trump’s entire campaign is just one more late-night Trump infomercial.” Trump called her “stupid” then said, “But wait there’s more...” – Conan O’Brien

The manager of English soccer team Manchester United has banned his players from playing Pokémon Go. The Manchester United manager said, “I want my players thinking about soccer, not some fun game where interesting things happen.” – Conan O’Brien

Hillary Clinton introduced her new running mate Senator Tim Kaine at an event in Miami…She found Kaine while searching a stock photo database for “white businessman.” – Seth Myers

It raises questions about the natural instincts of Clinton that when confronted with a serious domestic political scandal, she tries to blame the Russians, blame the Chinese, et cetera. Because if she does that while in government, it could lead to problems. – WikiLeaks founder Julian Assange on CNN responding to Hillary Clinton’s allegations that the Russians were behind the DNC email hack

President Obama appeared on Face the Nation this weekend and said of Hillary Clinton, “She’s not always flashy, and there are better speechmakers, but she knows her stuff.” Man, I’d hate to see Obama set somebody up on a blind date. “She’s got one wonky eye and she talks too much, but you don’t wanna die alone, do ya?” – Seth Myers

I was treated like dirt. I don’t think the Khan family was treated that way. But I was treated like dirt, I was called a liar. [Hillary Clinton] went on TV many times and nodding her head, thinking that she’s so wonderful and she knows everything and I know nothing… I don’t like her decisions, she kills people! - Patricia Smith, whose son Sean was killed in Benghazi, talking how she was mistreated by the same politicians that are outraged about Trump’s reaction to Khizr Khan

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Last night at the Democratic Convention, Bernie Sanders supporters staged a walkout. Witnesses say they’ll never forget the sound of 6,000 pairs of Crocs leaving the convention. – Conan O’Brien

I’m Jewish. My father’s family died in concentration camps. I will do everything I can to rid this country of the ugly stain of racism… Lots of hate is being generated against Muslims in America. If we stand for anything we have to stand together and end all forms of racism. – Tweets by Bernie Sanders, who after many months of neglecting to show any pride in his religion or origin, used his religion to criticize Donald Trump

After Joe Biden used the word “malarkey” in his speech, it became the most searched word on the internet. Mostly from people who thought “Malarkey” was a new Pokémon. – Conan O’Brien

It would be interesting to see, I will tell you this, Russia, if you’re listening I hope you’re able to find the 30,000 emails that are missing. I think you will probably be rewarded mightily by our press. – Trump at a press conference after reporters repeatedly asked him whether Russia was responsible for hacking the DNC’s emails

Hillary Clinton broke the glass ceiling, and just in case that point was lost on you, with Trump so close to the presidency, Hillary just became the largest “break glass in case of emergency” ever. – James Corden

It was a historic night. We’re either going to have our first female president, or the first president who sold a line of steaks at Sharper Image. - Jimmy Kimmel

This was a speech that could have been given in Moscow during the Cold War. Instead it was delivered to an enthusiastic audience of Democrats who love the idea of taking away someone else’s money. Beneath all the distractions, the celebrities and family stories is the fundamental idea that Hillary has more of a right to your money than you do because she is “humbly” more enlightened than you are. There’s a name for that ideology. It comes with a hammer and sickle, with the color red, with gulags and firing squads, with little red books and big black prisons, and the death of the human soul. Hillary made a mistake by wearing a white pants suit to her coronation. She should have worn red. - Daniel Greenfield, FrontPage Magazine, critiquing Hillary Clinton’s convention speech

You looked like a husband who was sitting there [outside] the waiting room while the wife tries on clothes. - Bill Mahar asking Bernie Sanders why he looked so angry during Hillary Clinton’s acceptance speech at the Democrat Convention

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I saw that Apple CEO Tim Cook will hold a fundraiser later this month for Hillary Clinton. He had a long list of terms and conditions for the event, but Hillary just said “Agree!” without really reading them. – Jimmy Fallon

Donald Trump will be holding a Q and A session on the online message board Reddit during the Democratic Convention this week — though Trump’s Q and A will be unique in that he will both ask and answer the questions. “Am I the most handsome candidate in history? Interesting question, thanks for asking. I will say, a lot of people think so.”

The summer Olympics start this Friday, and I read that the organizing committee will stay aboard a docked cruise ship called “The Getaway,” which will act as a floating hotel. ‘Cuz nothing makes you feel safer about the Olympics than the organizers staying in a getaway boat. “You kids have fun! We’ll just be over here – with the engines running in case things go south.” – Jimmy Fallon

Verizon has purchased Yahoo and plans to merge it with AOL. Verizon said its goal is to become the RC Cola of the internet. – Conan O’Brien

Turns out Melania Trump’s professional website has been deleted following allegations that she lied about graduating from college. She just deleted the whole thing. As if copying Michelle Obama wasn’t enough, now she’s copying Hillary Clinton. – Jimmy Fallon

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Political Crossfire

A Choice Between the Uninspiring and the Unfit By Michael Gerson

illary Clinton’s c o n v e n t i o n week featured two of the most effective communicators in the Democratic Party offering different images of the nominee. In Bill Clinton’s version, she is a “change-maker” who has “never been satisfied with the status quo.” In Barack Obama’s telling, she has the “intelligence” and “judgment” to carry forward his administration’s ideals into a third term, because the status quo is pretty darn good. When the spotlight finally came, the nominee was very much herself – a tenacious plodder, advocating halfa-loaf liberalism. This is closer to Obama’s description than her husband’s. In Philadelphia, she made the high-stakes decision to present herself as conventional, normal and safe, in sharp contrast to a small, unstable man “moved by fear and pride.” If this is a normal election – in which the composition of the electorate and the turnout of various groups roughly match recent presidential contests – Clinton’s argument should be enough. If this is an anti-establishment wave election, she has the worst possible political profile – boasting of her roy-

al resume during the French Revolution. There is no doubt about Clinton’s ideological framework. Down with Citizens United! Climate change is real! Raise the minimum wage! Free college for everyone! Clinton called this agenda “bold,” which is true in the same way as Donald Trump calling himself “a really smart person.” She said nothing creative from the podium that would have offended your average Bernie Sanders supporter (except the ones who believe America should defend itself with truculent self-righteousness rather than weapons). Clinton missed her best opening when it came to describing America’s unifying ideals. In Cleveland, Republicans – shockingly, disturbingly – left this rhetorical ground unoccupied. In his convention speech, Obama skillfully took this ground. But Clinton could not hold it. She strained mightily, consulted a Broadway musical, and produced a slogan: “Stronger Together.” I get that inspiration is not Clinton’s “thing.” But a candidate has weeks and months to produce a memorable convention speech. Clinton’s speechwriting process – which includes some fine writers and

too many political overseers – delivered the functional equivalent of a State of the Union address. The speech sounded so much like the product of a committee that you could almost picture the Post-it notes. In making her case about America’s future, Clinton highlighted her book (“It Takes a Village”) published in 1996. The liberal communitarianism found in those pages does not seem particularly well-suited for outreach to working-class whites, if that is one of her goals. In her attempt to identify with a cartoon version of the blue-collar everyman, her focus was on economics. The progressive version of homo economicus leaves out cultural matters entirely. What assurance did Clinton provide that Democratic elites even tolerate more conservative views on, say, abortion? What was her version of school uniforms or welfare reform – her husband’s symbols of outreach to cultural conservatives? As a policy matter, Democratic centrism is still dead. Clinton’s defense of the honor of the military against Trump’s ridicule was effective and needed. But it does not count as innovative policy outreach. Similarly, the mention of her Methodist

faith was an improvement on Trump’s secular silence. But it was brief and untethered to the rest of her reasoning – more an ornament than a foundation. The speech shined in attack mode – dismissing Trump as the outsourcer

say that the Founders would have held the main thesis of Trump’s candidacy – the promise of a man on horseback to save a frightened and supine nation – in utter contempt. It also says something that one of the strongest attacks on the Republican

The speech sounded so much like the product of a committee that you could almost picture the Post-it notes.

in chief, the breaker of alliances, the purveyor of casual misogyny, the Twitter troll who must be denied the nuclear codes. It says something that the most negative aspects of Clinton’s remarks were the most memorable. She is a fighter. And Democrats seem happy that their policy wonk moonlights as a cage boxer. In the speech, she put her finger on the most frightening element of Trump’s appeal: “Our Founders fought a revolution and wrote a Constitution so America would never be a nation where one person had all the power.” It is fair to

nominee is the defense of self-government. This is an extraordinary political moment. Any reasonable Republican presidential contender other than Trump probably would be beating Clinton handily. Any reasonable Democratic contender other than Clinton probably would be beating Trump handily. The parties, in their wisdom, have chosen the untrusted against the unstable, the uninspiring against the unfit. Take your pick, and take your chances. (c) 2016, Washington Post Writers Group

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What’s the Case for Hillary? By Charles Krauthammer

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he best darn change-maker I ever met in my entire life.” So said Bill Clinton in making the case for his wife at the Democratic National Convention. Considering that Bernie Sanders ran as the author of a political revolution and Donald Trump as the man who would “kick over the table” (to quote Newt Gingrich) in Washington, “change-maker” does not exactly make the heart race. Which is the fundamental problem with the Clinton campaign. What precisely is it about? Why is she running in the first place? Like most dynastic candidates (most famously Ted Kennedy in 1979), she really doesn’t know. She seeks the office because, well, it’s the next – the final – step on the ladder. Her campaign’s premise is that we’re doing OK but we can do better. There are holes to patch in the nanny-state safety net. She’s the one to do it. It amounts to Sanders lite. Or the short-lived Bush slogan: “Jeb can fix it.” We know where that went. The one man who could have given the pudding a theme, who could have created a plausible Hillaryism, was Bill Clinton. Rather than do that – the way in Cleveland Gingrich shaped Trump’s various barstool eruptions into a semi-coherent program of national populism – Bill gave a long chronological account of a passionate liberal’s social activism. It was an attempt, I suppose, to humanize her. Well, yes. Perhaps, after all, somewhere in there is a real person.

But what a waste of Bill’s talents. It wasn’t exactly Clint Eastwood speaking to an empty chair, but at the end you had to ask: Is that all there is? He grandly concluded with this: “The reason you should elect her is that in the greatest country on earth we have always been about tomorrow.” Is there a rhetorical device more banal? Trump’s acceptance speech was roundly criticized for offering a dark, dystopian vision of America. For all of its exaggeration, however, it reflected well the view from Fishtown, the fictional white working-class town created statistically by social scientist Charles Murray in his 2012 study “Coming Apart.” It chronicled the economic, social and spiritual disintegration of those left behind by globalization and economic transformation. Trump’s capture of the resultant feelings of anxiety and abandonment explains why he enjoys an astonishing 39-point advantage over Clinton among whites without a college degree. His solution is to beat up on foreigners for “stealing” our jobs. But while trade is a factor in the loss of manufacturing jobs, even more important, by a large margin, is the emergence of an information economy in which education, knowledge and various kinds of literacy are the coin of the realm. For all the factory jobs lost to Third World competitors, far more are lost to robots. Hard to run against higher productivity. Easier to run against cunning foreigners.

In either case, Clinton has found no counter. If she has a theme, it’s about expanding opportunity, shattering ceilings. But the universe of discriminated-against minorities – so vast 50 years ago – is rapidly shrinking. When the burning civil rights issue of the day is bathroom choice for the transgendered, a flummoxed Fishtown understand-

the Russian reset to the Iraqi withdrawal to the rise of the Islamic State. Clinton had a strong second half of the convention as the Sanders revolt faded and as President Obama endorsed her with one of the finer speeches of his career. Yet Trump’s convention bounce of up to 10 points has given him a slight lead

It wasn’t exactly Clint Eastwood speaking to an empty chair, but at the end you had to ask: Is that all there is?

ably asks, “What about us?” Telling coal miners she was going to close their mines and kill their jobs only reinforced white working-class alienation from Clinton. As for the chaos abroad, the Democrats are in see-no-evil denial. The first night in Philadelphia, there were 61 speeches. Not one mentioned the Islamic State or even terrorism. Later references were few, far between and highly defensive. After all, what can the Democrats say? Clinton’s calling card is experience. Yet as secretary of state she left a trail of policy failures from Libya to Syria, from

in the polls. She badly needs one of her own. She still enjoys the Democrats’ built-in Electoral College advantage. But she remains highly vulnerable to both outside events and internal revelations. Another major terror attack, another email drop – and everything changes. In this crazy election year, there are no straight-line projections. As Clinton leaves Philadelphia, her lifelong drive for the ultimate prize is perilously close to a coin flip. (c) 2016, The Washington Post Writers Group

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Israel Today

The House on Chelouche Street By Rafi Sackville

eve Tzedek is a sleepy neighborhood just north of Jaffa Port in Tel Aviv. In a move to escape the clutter of Jaffa, the goldsmith, Aharon Chelouche, first purchased property there in 1883. The castle he built in the sand came to be known as Chelouche House. Still a only a short walk from the

beach, the neighborhood has embraced the twenty-first century without losing touch with its Levantine character. The house has been undergoing extensive renovations, although it is unclear what it will eventually become. Israeli Nobel Laureate Shai Agnon lived opposite the Chelouche House.

In three of his novels the street makes an appearance. So does the daughter of Chelouche, a young woman with whom Agnon was once enamored. He would spy her from his balcony, which juts out under a heavily electrified pole which disrupts the view eastward. The neighborhood has seen the best and worst of times. Gentrification has finally descended on the surrounding streets, and what began as an escape from congested Jaffa has, 133 years later, seen a resurgence, particularly with tourists who are attracted to the chic stores and languid pace of what is generally a very busy city. After a long, school year I was on a two day trip with 60 of my colleagues seeing parts of Tel Aviv I hadn’t seen before. We’d been to the Palmach Museum as well as the Salvador Dali exhibition at the Tel Aviv Port. From there we’d made our way to the north of the city. Given a choice of a stroll to Jaffa or Neve Tzedek I had chosen the latter. There we were on a hot June afternoon standing on the famous corner under Agnon’s balcony. Eran, our tour guide, quoted from several of his works. I imagined Agnon sitting above me fountain pen in hand scratching across a loose-leaf as he looked down the narrow street surrounded by desert and sea. In a recent Jerusalem Post article, Tomer Chelouche, Aharon’s greatgreat-great grandson, wrote that to Aharon, “Jewish identity was of paramount importance, and his Judaism

Ruchama Peretz and Avi Chelouche on Chelouche Street

was inseparable from his deep love of Eretz Israel. Aharon wasn’t building a city – just a better place to live.” Neither Agnon nor Chelouche would recognize the overcrowded neighborhoods of current day Neve Tzedek. From Agnon’s famous balcony there is now an obstructed view of the Mediterranean. Despite Eran’s solipsism (I suppose tour guides/cum actors need to behave thusly), he was always ready to defer to any comment or question, even when he was in the middle of a sentence. He was midway through an explanation of how Agnon had incorporated much of these surroundings into his stories. More than once the large Chelouche House had appeared in his works. He incorporated the street in his famous novel Agunot, and from the balcony above us had sent secret signals to Chelouche’s daughter; signals her father was unaware of. Just as Eran became animated, just as he had donned a fez and began prancing around like a ballet dancer, Ruchama, our delightful, sweet-natured math teacher, interrupted him.

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By nature Ruchama is quiet and reserved. When she gets excited you won’t hear it in her voice, rather her brown eyes appear to smile under raised cheeks. She began by telling us that her maiden name was Chelouche. There had been three Chelouche brothers, who had come to Israel from Germany, Morocco – from where her family arrived –and Algiers, the original home of Aharon Chelouche. As she was telling her story a gentleman wearing a royal blue polo shirt joined the group. I looked across at him, noticed he was smiling and thought him no more than a fascinated passerby unable to resist a good story. Eran began telling another anecdote when the gentleman in the blue shirt announced himself by claiming that he, too, had a story to tell. “My name is Avi Chelouche,” he said, and looking at Ruchama, added, “We’re related.” I focused my attention on Ruchama, whose initial reaction seemed suspicious.

Avi explained that he was originally from Israel, but was now living in California. He was a director of Jewish affairs in Irvine County and was accompanying a family group. One of the party had become very ill

when he suggested their grandfathers had been brothers. “Your grandfather was my great-grandfather’s nephew, which would make you and I second cousins once removed.” The newfound cousins exchanged

“My name is Avi Chelouche,” he said, and looking at Ruchama, added, “We’re related.”

and had been rushed to Jerusalem’s Shaarei Tzedek hospital. With the family not interested in touring, Avi had made his way to Tel Aviv to daven in the old family shul. He had just happened to be passing us when Ruchama began to speak. The chance meeting of a relative she had never met was not lost on Ruchama. She corrected him, however,

numbers and posed for pictures before Avi disappeared into the shul as quickly as he had appeared. Ruchama was deeply moved. She couldn’t stop talking about his face which reminded her of her uncles’. “The similarity to them is uncanny. It truly was a wonderful meeting. We have such a big family dispersed throughout the world. My brother,

Uri, started researching as many members as he could through his Facebook page. At one point he decided that verification of the validity of family members would be better facilitated were we to be DNA tested. We were, and we’re all related.” What had begun as a simple walking tour through North Tel Aviv had turned into the most delightful coincidence. Fate had contrived to bring these two distant cousins together. Eran left us as we came to a stop at the Old Jaffa train station. He was thanked, but our minds were elsewhere. The house on Chelouche Street had been brought alive by a chance encounter that left an impression on us that no Agnon novel could ever render. Rafi Sackville, formerly of Cedarhurst, teaches in Ort Maalot in Western Galil.

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Forgotten Her es

Tales from the Depths By Avi Heiligman

The USS Sculpin

any people join the military to satisfy their sense of adventure and choose dangerous jobs that are not meant

The USS Squalus

for the faint of heart. During WWII, joining the submarine service was considered high praise for a sailor. It was an all-volunteer branch of the

navy in which many men “washed out” trying to join. Fear of tight spaces was not prevalent among these men who had to endure weeks of bad and hot air, old food, boredom, and being chased by enemy sub-killers for each patrol they were sent to complete. About a third of the U.S. submarines, 52 to be exact, never returned to base and are said to be on “eternal patrol.” Stories of these brave men abound and show their dedication to their country. The USS Sculpin (SS-191) was built in 1938 and was a diesel-electric sub of the Sargo class. Even before WWII started, the Sculpin saw action when she assisted the minesweeper USS Falcon in rescuing the USS Squalus (SS-192 and the Sculpin’s sister ship) when she sank in 1939. When the Japanese attacked Pearl Harbor, the Sculpin was based in the Philippines but scored no hits on her first patrol. She sank three Japanese ships during her next seven patrols, and in November 1943 set off for her ninth patrol. On board the Sculpin was Commander John Cromwell who was to manage a tactic called the Wolf Pack. A few submarines – in this case, three – were to sail to a designated spot and coordinate attacks on enemy ships. It worked well for the German U-boats but for

American subs and their commanding officers attacking alone seemed to be the better method for sinking ships. However, the Sculpin never showed up at the rendezvous point and was presumed lost. After the war, some survivors of the submarine were rescued from POW camps and told this story. On November 19, the Sculpin spotted a convoy and got into firing position. However, the convoy zigged, and the Sculpin needed to reposition but was discovered by a Japanese destroyer. The second salvo of depth charges sustained some minor damage. Surfacing when they thought it was safe, the destroyer attacked again and caused considerable damage. Commander Fred Connaway, commanding officer of the Sculpin, decided to surface as they couldn’t survive submerged. The destroyer attacked again and hit the conning tower, killing Connaway and several other sailors. The remaining officers decided to scuttle the ship and surrender. However, Commander Cromwell had a decision to make. Since he knew secrets of the upcoming invasion of the Gilbert Islands, his capture could have devastating effects in the war effort. Cromwell also knew a lot about decoded Japanese messages that were being translated and sent to U.S. subs. This informa-

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USS Tang (SS-306) rescues airmen off Truk Islands in 1944

tion, called ULTRA, included enemy convoy routes, configurations and times that were used by submarines to sink the ships. If the Japanese knew about ULTRA, all of the codes would have to be changed, years of work would have been lost, it would take many months – if not years – to break the new codes, many more Americans would die, and the war would take longer than if the secrets were safe. Cromwell decided to go down with the Sculpin and was awarded the Medal of Honor for his actions. Eleven other men went down with Cromwell and 42 were picked up by the Japanese. One was thrown back into the ocean and the rest were put on two aircraft carriers – one of them the Chuyo – for transport to Japan. The Chuyo was spotted by the USS Sailfish and sunk when a torpedo struck and destroyed the flight deck. Most of the crew died as did twenty of the sailors from the Sculpin. Only one, George Rocek, was saved. The irony of the situation was that the Sailfish was the second name for that particular submarine. Its first name was the Squalus – the same submarine that the Sculpin helped rescue in 1939! None of the sailors from the Sculpin in 1939 were on board when it sank in 1943. In all, 21 sailors from the Sculpin survived the war, although they were badly treated in POW camps. The USS Tang (SS-306) was a Balao class submarine that is credited with the second highest scoring

among American subs. In case you were wondering, “scoring” is the amount of tonnage a sub has sunk of enemy shipping. She was commissioned in 1943 with Lieutenant Commander Richard O’Kane as the commanding officer. Before being transferred to the Tang, O’Kane had been the executive officer on

The sleeping quarters in the USS Bonefish

wouldn’t explode, couldn’t run in a straight line, detonated too early or ran lower in the water and missed enemy ships entirely. On October 25, 1944 (the same day as the Battle of Leyte Gulf), off the coast of Taiwan, the 24th torpedo onboard the Tang ran in a circle and sank the submarine. There were nine

The U-1206 has such a unique story that I felt compelled to write her story in this article. She was sunk by a leaky toilet!

the USS Wahoo (SS-238). The Wahoo had been the most aggressive and successful submarine before being sunk by an unknown cause in the Sea of Japan (speculation has it that she struck a mine). During her five patrols and nine months of service the Tang sank 33 Japanese ships for a total of 100,000 tons. On her second patrol, the Tang didn’t sink any ships but was tasked with rescuing downed aviators off of Truk Island. Called lifeguard duty, the mission was undesirable among submariners but it was successful as 22 airmen were brought on the Tang before being sent back to their home bases. On the Tang’s fifth patrol, she torpedoed and sank 13 enemy ships. WWII submarines usually carried 24 torpedoes and early in the war many were defective. Either they

survivors including O’Kane. One man used his pants as a flotation device while five others escaped the forward torpedo room using an underwater rebreather called the Momsen Lung. O’Kane received the Medal of Honor for heroically trying to save the Tang that fateful night. Despite the high number of American submarines sunk during the war, a much higher percentage of German U-boats were sunk. At the beginning they ran around the Atlantic Ocean with impunity but thankfully Allied innovation caught up with the Germans and they sank over 700 U-boats. The U-1206 has such a unique story that I felt compelled to write her story in this article. She was sunk by a leaky toilet! Unlike toilets on American submarines that

flushed into a holding tank (on a rescue mission nuns onboard a sub had a particularly hard time figuring how to flush!), U-boat toilets flushed directly into the ocean. Three weeks before the final German surrender, the U-1206 was on its first patrol off the coast of Scotland. The U-1206 had a new type of toilet but it required a specialist. At a depth of 200 feet the captain decided not call him in for assistance until it was clogged and the specialist opened the wrong valve that flooded the boat. Seawater quickly found the acid batteries which caused a build-up of deadly chlorine gas. With no choice, the U-1206 had to surface. Soon they were sighted and bombed by British planes. Most of the men were rescued but the boat sank. Sailors onboard the Sculpin and the Tang, with a few believed to have been Jewish, were among the brave men who served on American submarines during WWII. They knew the dangers, loneliness and helpless feelings during a depth charge attack yet still chose to serve onboard. The sacrifices of Captain Cromwell and Lt. Commander O’Kane are a testament to service of all submariners.

Avi Heiligman is a weekly contributor to The Jewish Home. He welcomes your comments and suggestions for future columns and can be reached at aviheiligman@gmail.com.

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Classifieds classifieds@fivetownsjewishhome.com / text 443-929-4003 CO-OP FOR SALE WOODMERE Large, Lovely 2BR, 1BA, Co-op. Huge living room, 2 huge bedrooms, dining room, kitchen, foyer, 13 big windows, 5 large closets (with a beautiful cedar closet), huge rooms. Sunny and Spacious. Lovely chandeliers, beautiful ceiling fans with lights. Gorgeous radiator covers. Lovely flooring. Gorgeous hardwood floors underneath carpets. Very recently painted. Gorgeous unit. Amenities include laundry room with washers and dryers in updated and fabulous condition. Fantastic storage room for storage. Lovely lobby. Immaculate and beautiful pre-war building. Great neighborhood. Fantastic school district. Near all shopping and returants. Located convenient to many temples and houses of worship. Fabulous restaurant on premises. Pets allowed. Steps from LIRR. Extremely reasonably priced at … $179K. Please call my real estate agent Mark of Pugatch 516-298-8457, for showing.

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WELL-ESTABLISHED HEALTHCARE AGENCY IS SEEKING A MEDICAL RECEPTIONIST FOR ONE OF OUR CLINICS IN FAR ROCKAWAY. Please forward all resumes to careers@nhcc.us

PROFESSIONAL CO-OP FOR SALE IN CEDARHURST 545 Central Ave. (White House) Can be used for living quarters or professional use 2 bdrms/ 2 baths Entrance on Central Ave. Can be wheelchair accessible Call: Susan 917-554-5721

CEDARHURST 500-3,500 +/- SF Beautiful, newly renovated space for rent. Ideal for Retail or Executive offices. Prime location. Convenient Parking. Call Sam @ 516-612-2433 or 718-747-8080

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PART TIME AND FULL TIME BOOKKEEPING POSITION Fast growing accounting and consulting firm seeks a qualified individual to assist our accounting staff in providing bookkeeping services for our clients. Qualified individuals will have the opportunity to join our employee friendly culture At least 2 years working experience Working knowledge of Microsoft Office, QuickBooks a MUST Email – info@smallbizoutsource.com

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Now That’s Prime By Allan Rolnick, CPA

mericans love peeking into the wallets of the rich and famous. Just how much are they really worth? How did they get there? And who’s on top of the pile? For years, Microsoft founder Bill Gates ($76 billion) has been the king of that particular gilded hill, with Berkshire Hathaway chief Warren Buffett ($65 billion) capturing a respectable second place. But last week brought news that there’s a shakeup near the top — and taxes played a big role in that change. Amazon founder Jeff Bezos, who owns about 18% of the company, has seen his stock shoot up over 50% since its recent low in February. At the same time, Warren Buffett has seen his Berkshire Hathaway shares languish. On Friday, July 22, Bezos’s uptick and Buffett’s downtick crossed, making Bezos the second-richest man in America and the third-richest man on Earth. Now let’s look at just a few of the ways taxes played in growing Bezos’s wealth: 1. Amazon got an early boost by helping customers avoid the state and local sales taxes they would pay

at a local brick and mortar retailer. Buying online already meant saving a trip to the store. But skipping the tax bill made the whole proposition even more attractive. Even today, the company collects sales tax in just 28 states.

like something a James Bond villain would name his tax plan, but it earned the name because the goldcrest is Luxembourg’s national bird.) For example, Amazon used a 28-step (!) series of intracompany transfers to shift income from in-

On Friday, July 22, Bezos’s uptick and Buffett’s downtick crossed, making Bezos the second-richest man in America and the third-richest man on Earth. 2. Amazon’s international headquarters is based in low-tax Luxembourg, where it benefits from a sweetheart ruling negotiated with local authorities seeking to lure multinational corporations. Low taxes mean the company has more to reinvest in growing its business. 3. The company profits from an elaborate structure, dubbed “Project Goldcrest,” designed to shift income from high-tax jurisdictions to low-tax jurisdictions. (It sounds

tellectual property like software, trademarks, and brand names to a nontaxable Luxembourg partnership before passing anything back to the United States. 4. Bezos’s taxable salary is $81,840 — just $14,000 more per year than what a lowly Facebook intern makes for fetching Mark Zuckerberg’s coffee. (Bezos has no nanny for his four kids, and his wife picks them up from school in a Honda minivan.) His net worth

grows through stock appreciation, which isn’t taxable until he sells his shares. If he dies while he still owns the stock, his heirs will avoid income tax on that appreciation entirely. 5. Finally, on July 14, Buffett donated $2.9 billion to a group of private foundations. Buffett is a legendarily generous guy, who’s already pledged to give away the bulk of his fortune at his death. But he’s also a legendarily smart guy, and he certainly won’t be passing up the sweet tax deduction he gets for his gift. Of course, that tax-advantaged gift helped close the final gap between Bezos and Buffett. Here’s the moral of the story. Smart tax planning didn’t just help Jeff Bezos make Amazon more valuable. It was a crucial part of his strategy, right from the start. Shouldn’t it be part of your strategy?

Allan J Rolnick is a CPA who has been in practice for over 30 yea rs in Queens, NY. He welcomes your comments and can be reached at 718-896-8715 or at allanjrcpa@aol.com.

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A Word to the Wise By Rivki D. Rosenwald Esq., CLC, SDS

ords are kind of funny. We get used to them conveying a certain meaning. But, if we stop and think, they can really be confusing! For instance, let’s take descriptive words like “political party.” I guess that might describe Republicans and Democrats. But think for a second: these groups are having anything but a “party.” A war, an all-out battle, maybe? But drinks, music, and dancing? I just don’t think so! How about the saying, “pouring rain”? Pouring is usually a voluntary act. No pitcher of iced tea ever just jumped up and poured itself. But “pouring rain” usually just happens to us. It’s the very antithesis of something voluntary. It just starts to pour – we have no control. How about “dates”? They are consistently sweet! Has that been any “single” person’s experience with “dates”? As sweet as sugar? How about this: they make “glass bottles” out of glass, “plastic bottles” out of plastic, and then there are water bottles. But are they made of water?! Do you realize that the “banks” of a river deliver no cash, take no checks, and have no ATM? What are they good for? I don’t even think they hire a teller, maybe a lifeguard. But what savings are they guarding? Did you ever notice that there are

some individuals who are always getting into a pickle? Now how do they do that? I mean, even the smallest person needs to be at least 2 feet tall. OK, so some people say, “I got into a really big pickle.” But honestly, what’s the biggest cucumber you ever saw? How can they possibly get into a pickle? People use the vernacular OT, PT, ADD, OCD, but I’ve rarely heard ST used. Rather, they usually say “speech therapist.” I guess that makes sense

when you condition your house it gets cooler? Some people are said to have a way with words. What? Are the rest of us completely lost? I guess that’s ‘cause words send multiple messages. What about this? Here’s a different twist on words. For instance, Yiddish-isms like machatunim, fahrgin, or oy vey. Why are they missing in English? Machatunim means my daughter-

Has that been any “single” person’s experience with “dates”? As sweet as sugar?

because speech therapists are teaching you to speak clearly and enunciate all your words. By the way, who needs to lift weights? Every time I eat a meal I figure I’m a human “forklift.” Did you ever see how powerful that thing needs to be? I must be really strong! You know, I’ve been to a “storewide” sale. I’m trying to imagine a “storenarrow” sale! Hey, and why is it that when you condition your hair it gets softer…but

in-law’s or my son-in-law’s parents. But this sounds like they have nothing to do with each other. They just come along with the package. But machatunim get involved right from the start, usually planning the wedding. There is a real dynamic at play going on between them. And therefore, having a word for the relationship helps. You don’t want to call your female child your “husband’s feminine offspring,” and that’s why there is a word “daughter.” You have a real relation-

ship with her. On the other hand, there is no word for your boss’s daughter, because she’s just that to you – your boss’ daughter! There is no real relationship there. See what I mean. Now let’s look at the word “fahrgin.” It’s very useful, yet has no English equivalent. You’d probably have to give a long dissertation just to get the same idea across. Perhaps, something like: graciously, without jealousy, being happy for someone else’s happiness. Isn’t the word fahrgin a lot easier?! And look at “oy vey.” It’s so simple, and you can say it anywhere! Yet, in English, you would probably need some unacceptable 4 letter word to get the full power of its kvetch across. And then it probably would be inappropriate to say anywhere. Oy vey! So, we can see words can be pretty powerful. They can express us, they can impress us, and they can depress us. We need to use them wisely! Even one word can communicate a mouthful! Therefore, with all these words…I hope I didn’t just get myself into some kind of a pickle! But, no worries. Hopefully I can forklift myself right out of it! Rivki Rosenwald is a certified relationship counselor, and career and life coach. She can be contacted at 917-705-2004 or rivki@rosenwalds.com

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