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Dear Readers,

n Sunday, I spent the morning at a forum organized by the Five Towns Jewish Political Action Committee. The group brought in ten candidates in the upcoming elections to address the audience. When Chele Farley – her first name is pronounced “Shell” – came into the room it was obvious that she knew her audience. Her outfit looked like it was purchased in a store on Central Avenue – long sleeves, high neck, long skirt, tights. But you don’t vote for someone because they know how to dress. You vote for them because of what they represent and the values they will bring with them to Washington. Listening to her speech, it was obvious to the audience that Chele would be representing the community’s interests in D.C. Chele is running against Kirsten Gillibrand for the U.S. Senate seat. Ms. Gillibrand has been in office since 2009, so she’s had a lot of time to show her true colors. You don’t have to look too far back to see with whom she associates. It was just a few weeks ago when Gillibrand was introduced by Linda Sarsour at an anti-Kavanaugh protest as “another champion, another one of our people who works for us on the inside.” The admiration goes both ways. Gillibrand has called Sarsour an “extraordinary woman.” But Sarsour is a vocal Jew hater who has endorsed the BDS movement and is one of the shrillest haters of Israel. She has urged Muslims to form jihad against President Trump and is a defender of Louis Farrakhan. Farrakhan is one of the U.S.’s most vocal anti-Semites. He has repeatedly perpetrated the myth that Jews were behind the 9/11 attacks. Sarsour once captioned a photo of a Palestinian throwing rocks at Israeli soldiers as “courageous” and has tweeted that “nothing is creepier than Zionism.” Why is Gillibrand, who is the senator for the largest population of Jews in the world outside of Israel, associating with these unabashed anti-Semites and Israel haters? Gillibrand, it seems, approves of supporting terror. When President Obama signed the Iran nuclear deal in 2013 with other world powers and Tehran, Senator Gillibrand was right behind him. We can understand why Gillibrand felt cowed to go along with the charismatic Democratic president at the time. But after years of seeing the smarmy duplicity of the Persian regime, the senator has still not grasped that Iran supports – and produces – terror.

When President Trump withdrew from the accord earlier this year, Gillibrand said it was a “shortsighted, dangerous mistake.” But, Ms. Gillibrand, without sanctions hindering Iran’s economy, the regime will have billions of dollars to produce nuclear weapons and support and supply terrorists with ammunition to use against the West. Why wouldn’t you try to stop them from acquiring weapons that could obliterate your home state in nanoseconds? As Jews, Israel is always on our minds, and it saddens us when we hear of those who try to denigrate our homeland. So why would our senator oppose anti-BDS legislation if she’s supposed to be supporting her constituents’ interests? Amazingly, Gillibrand has used the First Amendment as justification for vetoing anti-BDS legislation. Really? Using the Constitution to allow groups to attempt to cripple a U.S. ally? Is that what the Founding Fathers had in mind? Gillibrand has consistently been moving further and further to the left wing of the Democratic Party as she eyes the 2020 elections. With her eyes on the White House, she can’t move fast enough to get away from Israel and the Jews she represents. She’ll hug anti-Semites and throw Israel to the wolves as she attempts to climb to the top of the Democratic heap. As a community, it is incumbent upon us to show her that we have a voice and that we’re proud to use it to stand up for our values. Our values do not lay with one who supports terror and those who admire terrorists. Our values do not lay with one who spurns her constituents and her country. Our values do not lay with Gillibrand. The elections are still a few weeks away but it is incumbent upon us to start a chorus of voices that can become a rallying cry against Gillibrand and all that she stands for. Even though New York is predictably a blue state and Gillibrand is likely to be reelected, by voting against her we can decrease her margin of victory, which will send a strong message to her, her party, and those that harbor similar sentiments. On Tuesday, November 6 show Gillibrand that we know that she no longer represents us. She can keep her friends. We know that she’s not one of ours. Wishing you a wonderful week, Shoshana

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Contents LETTERS TO THE EDITOR

COMMUNITY Readers’ Poll

Community Happenings

Op-Ed: The Alcohol Keeps on Flowing by Zvi Gluck

NEWS

Global

National

Odd-but-True Stories

ISRAEL Israel News

My Israel Home

Hadata: The Effort to Make Israel into a Secular Jewish State

PEOPLE Sidney Shachnow by Avi Heiligman

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PARSHA Rabbi Wein

Same Place, World Apart by Rav Moshe Weinberger

JEWISH THOUGHT Yields and Dividends by Eytan Kobre

HEALTH & FITNESS This is What a Healthy Relationship with Your Kids Looks Like by Dr. Deb Hirschhorn 86 Back to Routine by Cindy Weinberger, MS RD CDN

It’s All In a Name by Dr. Hylton I Lightman

FOOD & LEISURE The Aussie Gourmet: Feta Lentil Burgers

LIFESTYLES Dating Dialogue, Moderated by Jennifer Mann, LCSW 82 The Wandering Jew

Tech for the Tribe

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Your Money

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Dear Editor, I was never particularly interested in politics and years ago it seemed that it does not matter who to vote for. As my rabbi used to say 25 years ago: you should vote but it does not usually matter who you vote for. However, in the recent years our voting became far more important than ever. While in the past most Americans agreed on the major issues (except some extremists who had no influence on either party) and the two parties were somewhere in the middle. In recent years things changed dramatically. The Democratic Party betrayed the Jewish people, betrayed everything holy to us, and put in danger our very

existence. These are the people promoting all the possible abominations. They are weak on crime and allow many illegal immigrants including criminals to enter USA and don’t allow the current Republican government to deport even those illegals who already committed crimes. They also support abortion (that is forbidden even for bnei Noach). They support legalizing certain drugs. They generally hate religious people (except for Muslims whom they view as allies in fighting the American fundamental values). They are not even happy that the economy is good since when fewer people are dependent on the government, fewer people vote for the Democrats. Imagine this, they would rather our economy was bad, so that more people would vote for them! (Their main tactics are usually slandering their opponents; indeed they are very proficient in the most disgusting sin of motzee shem ra). In addition, the Democrats don’t support private schools whereas the Republican government has a plan to start giving out money to our schools that may in the end be equivalent to what they pay per public school kids. With this money our current tuition crisis can be fully solved. I know much of it seems like a dream, but we should know, the more Republicans are in the government, the more chances for the dreams to come true. There is simply no excuse for us to sit home. We must go out and vote in Continued on page 10

Ding-a-Ling Wedding Bells by Rivki D. Rosenwald Esq., CLC, SDS 118

HUMOR Centerfold

POLITICAL CROSSFIRE Notable Quotes Western Spy Agencies Strike Back by David Ignatius

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Trump Could be the Most Honest President in Modern History by Mark Thiessen 106 CLASSIFIEDS

Dear Editor, I think Mr. Mark Thiessen’s piece on “What the Kavanaugh Fight Shows” was spot on. But I disagree with the last sentence. Why should we think that now the Democrats will be honest with themselves about why they lost? I think they are going to continue to fight the Trump victory until the end of his reign. They will never get over it and are prepared to do whatever they can, regardless of ethics, morality, or reality, to oust him from the White House. But thank G-d, He is running the show and He stunningly put Trump there, and will continue to orchestrate things according to His plan. So it really doesn’t matter what the Dems say or do. Sincerely, Rifka Saltz

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the coming election for the Republican candidates to Senate and Congress. Michael Stein Dear Editor, Jon Kranz’s essay on kugel cravings made me laugh all day! Nothing like a Jewish sense of humor. Thank you. Sincerely, Stefanie Greenberg Widen Dear Editor, Regarding Aliza Beer’s “Sweet & Healthy Substitutions Article.” Dear Ms. Beer, Thank you for your extremely vital and informative article about healthy substitutions. Choosing a healthy lifestyle, combined nutritious eating options can never be overemphasized. Keep up the delightful awareness that you so expertly do. As a professional chef and former math teacher, I would like to point out a few common mistakes when converting, substituting or multiplying recipes. When you mentioned applesauce as an excellent swap with a 1:1 ratio,

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and it is, of course, be clear about the water compensation (or in this case decompensation). When you substitute 1 cup of sugar with 1 cup of applesauce one would likely reduce the other liquids by ¼ cup. But if you are subbing 2 cups of sugar with 2 cups of applesauce then the compensation would be ½ cup. Might sound trivial but when multiplying recipes as most cooks need to do on occasion (think Yom Tov and a large family) the margin of error with have a noticeable and significant difference. More often than not I hear people complain that “I followed your recipe and it didn’t come out the same way you made it!” A few points to consider: instead of saying 4 or 5 eggs or 4 tablespoons of salt, try listing it as 1 cup of eggs or 2 ounces of salt. Eggs vary in size and teaspoons or tablespoons can be level or heaping. Again, when enlarging a recipe this can be significant. Another point is not to round off ingredients just be make it easier. The margin of error when duplicating can be very noticeable. Thank you again for your most informative article. Akiva J. Palmer Executive Chef/Dietary Director Boulevard ALP

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Russia Helps Iran Bypass U.S. Sanctions

Iran and Russia have come up with a way to spare Tehran from crippling U.S. sanctions that are set to hit the country’s oil industry next month. The mechanism put in place provides for Iran to export crude oil to Russia to be refined and then having Russia distribute the oil all over the world. An Israeli Foreign Ministry document shows that Russia has agreed to bring the oil across the Caspian Sea to its refineries. In return for the oil, Russia will be providing Iran with unspecified trade and service benefits. The goal is to avoid the U.S. sanctions that are to come into effect on November 4. The United States is hoping that the escalated sanctions will force Iran to come back to the negotiating table and reach a new nuclear deal. The Trump administration pulled out of the 2015 deal in May, which President Trump has called the “worst deal of all time.” The agreement between Iran and Russia was reportedly reached last month in Tehran when Russian President Vladimir Putin, Iranian President Hassan Rouhani, and Turkish President Recep Tayyip Erdogan got together for summit talks. The Israeli document which details the deal says that the Putin-Rouhani agreement is “a very significant” one and is meant to “breach the U.S. sanctions wall” that will start with oil but could also have further implications.

Jordon has reopened the main border crossing with Syria. The key Middle Eastern trade route has been closed for the past three years. The border crossing is known as Jaber on the Jordanian side and Nassib on the Syrian side. It was overrun by rebels in April 2015 and had not been opened since. The reopening is now possible because Syrian government troops retook their side of the crossing in July when they signed a deal with rebel fighters, which was brokered by Moscow. The black metal gate was opened this week with more than a dozen police and customs officials standing nearby. Many cars with Jordanian plates were lined up to enter Syria. “Today is a celebration for us and I wanted to be among the first to cross the border,” Syrian businessman Mohammed Hisham told reporters as he waited for his turn to enter Syria from Jordan, where he now lives. The seven-year civil war in Syria has taken a devastating toll on the country. The Syrian government has recaptured large parts of Syria, but still only controls about half of the 19 crossing points with its neighbors Lebanon, Jordan, Iraq, and Turkey.

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The Christian Social Union has lost its control of the Bavarian state parliament, an election result that is likely to be a problem for German Chancellor Angela Merkel’s fragile “grand coalition” government.

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Bavaria is a state in southeastern Germany bordering Liechtenstein, Austria and the Czech Republic. The CSU is a sister party to Merkel’s conservative Christian Democrat Union, or CDU, and has been the major player in the state since the end of the Second World War. This past Sunday, the CSU only received 37.2% of the vote and fringe parties secured huge boosts. The pro-immigration Greens came in second place with 17.5%, and the far-right anti-immigration Alternative for Germany party, or AfD, took 10.2% of the vote, marking its first time with seats in parliament. Immigration has been the biggest issue in the election. Bavaria took in the largest amount of refugees in the 2015 crisis. Thousands of asylum seekers poured through the state’s border every day during the height of the crisis. Chancellor Merkel admitted that voters have lost faith in their government and said that her job was to “make sure that trust is won back.” “I will work on that with as much vigor as I can,” she asserted. The election results in Bavaria seem to mirror much of the electoral trends in other parts of Europe. Populist and anti-migrant parties have made massive inroads and are splintering traditional support bases that have been the establishment for decades. Fractured election outcomes and more coalition governments are quickly becoming the norm in many European countries.

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as sandwiches, cooking sauces, pies, soups, and processed meats. Although the limits would not be mandatory, public health minister Steve Brine declared that the state was “willing to do whatever it takes to keep children healthy and well in this country.” Most of the pizzas and pies available at popular chain restaurants around England would be too fattening under the new guidelines. Pizzas would be required to not exceed 928 calories under the new recommendations and pies would have a 695 calorie limit. Many critics of the new guidelines argue that it is an interventionist, anti-free market drive to change the public’s eating habits. The country’s ruling Conservative Party recently introduced a very unpopular “sugar tax,” which many researchers point out has never been shown to reduce obesity. Eustace de Souza, national lead for children at PHE, notes that the number of children leaving elementary school that are classified as “severely obese” has risen to 4.2 percent. That number is up from 3.2 percent in 2007. “This shows why the government is taking drastic action; there are no grounds for complacency,” he said. The sugar tax went into effect in the country on April 6. The price for a standard can of regular coke went up by around 8p for a 70p can. A 1.75ml bottle of coke increased from roughly £1.25 to £1.49. Diet soft drinks and drinks with a high milk content are exempt from the tax. So are pure fruit juices.

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A dramatic emergency landing took place minutes after a rocket carrying an American and a Russian to the International Space Station failed to launch. U.S. astronaut Nick Hague and Russian cosmonaut Alexey Ovchinin parachuted to safety in their capsule last week after a

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gravity forces during their descent. It is the first time that the Soyuz, which is the main workhorse of manned spaceflight, failed to launch to the 20-year-old space station. The rocket is the only way to bring humans to the space station since the end of the U.S. Space Shuttle program. Recently, commercial providers that have been aiming for manned spaceflight have been gaining a lot of traction in the market. “Shortly after launch, there was

an anomaly with the booster and the launch ascent was aborted,” NASA Administrator Jim Bridenstine said in a statement. “Hague and Ovchinin are out of the capsule and are reported to be in good condition.” Dmitry Peskov, the Kremlin’s spokesman, put it more bluntly in his daily conference call with journalists: “Thank G-d everyone is alive.” Ovchinin, 47, is a major in the Russian Air Force who made his first spaceflight in 2016. He spent

Since taking office in May 2017, French President Emmanuel Macron has had a difficult time carrying out his globalism agenda. Although being voters’ favorite during elections, Macron’s approval ratings have consistently dropped since then. Currently, they are at an alltime low, in the 20s. His administration has dealt with the Benalla scandal, where his bodyguard beat up a May Day protester. Another incident that upset the public was a video of Macron telling an unemployed person that he could find work easily by “crossing the street” to a nearby café. The economy is still in a slump, with unemployment at about 9%, the same as when he took office, despite his promises to change that. Macron’s cabinet seems to be unstable. He has had three ministers resign from their posts, and more changes are expected. Last Tuesday, Macron announced a reshuffling of his cabinet. Christophe Castaner, who ran Macron’s political party, was named interior minister. He will oversee national security, a key role. Macron also named new culture and agriculture ministers. The public seems to view the former investment banker as arrogant and not in touch with his people. He has been dubbed “the president for the rich.” His term ends in 2022, as the presidential term in France is five years.

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Wikileaks co-founder Julian Assange has been given a set of house rules at the Ecuadorean embassy in London that include cleaning his bathroom and taking better care of his cat. The whistle-blower was sent a memo in which he was warned that his feline companion could be confiscated. He was also told to look after its “well-being, food and hygiene” in the set of guidelines, written in Spanish. Ecuador also said it would partially restore his internet connection.

Assange, who has been holed up at the embassy since 2012, had his online access cut in March this year after “interfering in other countries’ affairs,” Ecuador said. In a set of guidelines presented to Assange this month, Ecuador warned the 47-year-old to provide better care of the feline that he shares the embassy with or it may be handed to a refuge. The cat – which was given to Assange by his children – often appears at the embassy window to watch the journalists gathered outside. The cat also has its own Twitter feed, which says it is “interested in counter-purrveillance.” On the subject of cleanliness, Assange tweeted earlier this year: “Save water, don’t shower.” Assange has remained at the embassy after seeking asylum to avoid extradition to Sweden on an allegation. He alleges that the accusations were politically motivated and could lead to him being extradited to the U.S. over the publication of secret U.S. military documents and diplomatic cables in 2010. Sweden has since dropped its investigation.

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Press that she had fled her home after receiving death threats from gang members. The migrant caravan set off from the city of San Pedro Sula on Friday, the day after the U.S. Vice President, Mike Pence, urged the presidents of Honduras, El Salvador and Guatemala to persuade their citizens to stay home. “Tell your people: don’t put your families at risk by taking the dangerous journey north to attempt to enter the United States illegally,” said Pence at a regional security event in Washington, D.C. The Guatemalan government, which is seeking U.S. support in its controversial attempt to shut down the UN-backed crime fighting force investigating the president and his close allies for corruption, pledged to comply with Pence’s demands and halt the mass migration. In a statement, the country’s Institute of Migration (IGM) condemned the migrant caravan as illegal, and vowed to stop the migrants from crossing its border. About 100 Guatemalan police officers met the caravan at the border, but after a tense standoff of about two hours,

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China “Reeducating” Muslims

Re-education camps for people accused of religious extremism have been legalized in China’s far-western Xinjiang region. The local government revised laws to encourage “vocational skill education training centers” to “carry out anti-extremist ideological education” about one month after denying that such centers exist.

The Chinese government has long been accused by human rights groups of detaining hundreds of thousands of Uyghurs – a Turkic-speaking, largely Muslim minority native to Xinjiang – in an attempt to enforce patriotism upon them and make them loyal to Beijing. The UN Committee on the Elimination of Racial Discrimination published a report at the end of August showing that Uyghurs and other Muslims were being held for long spans of time without a charge or trial “under the pretext of countering terrorism and religious extremism.” Last week, U.S. Vice President Mike Pence made a similar accusation while speaking at the Hudson Institute. “Survivors of the camps have described their experiences as a deliberate attempt by Beijing to strangle Uyghur culture and stamp out the Muslim faith,” Pence said. Hu Lianhe, a spokesman for China’s United Front Work Department, told a UN panel that “Xinjiang citizens including the Uyghurs enjoy equal freedoms and rights.” The Chinese government has said that the reports are not true and that there is “no arbitrary detention or lack of freedom of religion or belief.” The new law says that “institutions such as vocational skill education training centers should carry out training on the common national language, laws and regulations, and vocational skills, and carry out anti-extremist ideological education, and psychological and behavioral correction to promote thought transformation of trainees, and help them return to the society and family.” Former detainees of such camps say that they were forced to yell patriotic slogans, sing revolutionary songs, and study the teachings of Chinese President Xi Jinping.

PA Cuts Ties with UN Peace Envoy The Palestinian Authority will no longer be working with Nickolay Mladenov. The PA accuses the UN peace envoy of overstepping his role

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more than 460,000 Palestinian refugees in Syria and Lebanon,” it said. The Canadian government added that part of the money will be used to “improve neutrality within the agency and its operations,” which it said was “essential” for Canada’s continued support. Prime Minister Justin Trudeau has reversed his predecessor’s cuts to Palestinians. He has since committed $110 million Canadian dollars in support for UNRWA.

UNRWA has been in a financial crisis since President Trump cut $300 million in planned funding in 2018. He called the organization an “irredeemably flawed operation.” Israel accuses UNRWA of helping to perpetuate the Palestinian narrative of Israel being illegitimate by giving refugee status to the descendants of refugees, even when they are born in other countries. The population of Palestinian refugees thus grows exponentially every year.

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20 Gaza Military Facilities Bombed

After a rocket attack on a home on Beersheba, the Israeli military bombed 20 “military facilities” in the Gaza Strip on Wednesday morning. The home that was bombed in the Southern city of Israel was damaged, although there were no injuries, thankfully, as the mother had run with her three children to the bomb shelter. A second rocket fired from Gaza landed off the coast of the greater Tel Aviv area, known in Israel as Gush Dan, which consists of the metropolis itself along with a number of large suburbs. The IDF holds Hamas responsible for the attack. “There are only two organizations in Gaza that have this caliber of rocket: Hamas and the Palestinian Islamic Jihad,” said IDF spokesperson Lt. Col. Jonathan Conricus. “It’s not hard to narrow down who’s behind it.” In a joint statement, though, Hamas and Palestinian Islamic Jihad publicly condemned the rocket attack, saying it was “irresponsible” and threatened to derail an Egyptled negotiation effort. The IDF said it bombed some 20 targets throughout the Gaza Strip, including an attack tunnel being dug toward Israel from outside the city of Khan Younis. The entrance to a naval tunnel west of Khan Younis,

which would be used by Hamas’s naval commando unit, was also destroyed in the retaliatory airstrikes. Israeli air force jets also bombed a number of weapons factory, military bases and other facilities connected to Hamas’s tunnel-building efforts. An Israeli aircraft also targeted a group of Palestinian terrorists as they attempted to launch a projectile at Israel from the northern Gaza Strip, the spokesman said. After disavowing the rocket attacks, Hamas and PIJ said they “affirm our preparedness to confront the occupation’s assaults. Our guns will continue to be a protective shield for our people and our weapons are drawn at the face of our enemy.” Rocket attacks on Beersheba — home to more than 200,000 people — are rare and considered a major escalation. This week’s attack was only the second rocket fired at Beersheba since the 2014 Gaza war. The previous rocket, which struck a field north of Beersheba on August 9, came as Palestinians fired dozens of projectiles at Israeli communities along the Gaza border. Following the rocket attack, schools were closed in Beersheba and in the communities immediately surrounding the Gaza Strip, the army said. Residents of the Gaza periphery were also barred from gathering in groups larger than 300 people outdoors and 500 people indoors. The attack came as an Egyptian military intelligence delegation was visiting the enclave. Palestinian media reported that the group was working to soothe tensions following the rocket attack and prevent war. Since March 30, Palestinians in the Gaza Strip have participated in a series of protests and riots dubbed the “Great March of Return,” which have mostly involved the burning of tires and rock-throwing along the security fence, but have also seen shooting attacks and bombings as well as the sending of incendiary balloons and kites into Israel.

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Terrorist Captured After Stabbing The Shin Bet security service announced that they have apprehended the suspect in the stabbing of an army reservist outside of an IDF base in the West Bank on Thursday. The soldier was moderately hurt in the attack and a 26-year-old civilian woman was also lightly injured by a ricocheting bullet that was fired at the attacker. The terrorist was a 19-year-old from the village of Jamma’in in the northern West Bank. Defense Minister Avigdor Liberman praised “outstanding intelligence and operational work in capturing the terrorist.” He said that forces that had been diverted to find the stabber would now be shifted back to the ongoing manhunt for Ashraf Na’alowa, a Palestinian who has been in hiding since he killed two people in a terror attack at the Barkan industrial zone last week. The 19-year-old attacked an Israeli reserve soldier outside of the Shomron Regional Brigade headquarters near the Itamar settlement. IDF soldiers at the scene opened fire on him as he fled in a car that was waiting nearby. The reservist sustained stab wounds to the face and upper body but is expected to make a full recovery.

ry” in the war despite there being a “vast power differential” between Egypt and Israel at the time. “That is the truth – here is a SEAT and there is a Mercedes,” he said, referring to the cars metaphorically to describe the power relationship between Egypt and Israel during the war. SEAT vehicles are very inexpensive and known not to have a long road life. “Who is going to win?… Who is going to take that SEAT to that race other than men? They were men!…That was a miracle, an honor, a victory,” he added. Although Israel managed to repel the surprise attacks from Egypt and Syria and push them across the Suez Canal and toward Damascus, the war is widely seen as the catalyst that forced Israel to make peace and withdraw from the Sinai Peninsula a few years later. Israel suffered heavy casualties in the war – over 2,500 soldiers died along fronts in the north and south of the country. Thousands of Egyptian, Syrian and Iraqi troops died as well. Israel and Egypt signed a peace agreement in 1979 – one that is still in effect. Today, both countries cooperate in both security and economic matters.

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Abdel-Fattah el-Sissi, the president of Egypt, compared his country’s army to a cheap Spanish car that was still able to defeat Israel’s “Mercedes” in the 1973 Yom Kippur War. On the war’s 45th anniversary, Sissi went on to tout Egypt’s “victo-

Lara Alqasem has been held in Ben Gurion airport for the past two weeks as she has been denied entry into Israel for her support of anti-Israel boycott efforts. The Tel Aviv District Court has now upheld the ban, saying that the state was acting legitimately to protect itself. Alqasem’s case has been one of the most controversial since the 2017 law was passed allowing Israel to ban entry to supporters of the Boycott, Divestment, and Sanctions (BDS) movement. She had appeared in court to appeal the decision that prevented her from entering into a

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study program at Hebrew University. The judge said that the entry ban was indeed in accordance with law, and she now faces deportation. In its ruling, the court said that “any self-respecting state defends its own interests and those of its citizens, and has the right to fight against the actions of a boycott…as well as any attacks on its image.” Alqasem is from Southwest Ranches, a suburb of Fort Lauderdale, Florida. She is the former president of the University of Florida chapter of Students for Justice in Palestine. The group is heavily associated with the Boycotts, Divestment, and Sanctions (BDS) movement against Israel. Erez Yekuel, the judge in the case, said that there was “no disputing” that Alqasem was a member of the organization that from 2014-2017 tried to boycott Israel and for two years was the president of its Florida chapter. He also went on the stress that the organization expressed support for those who carry out activities to harm Israel. He cited contradictions in Alqasem’s testimony and noted that she had wiped her social media history clean. He found that the state has the right to bar someone who is seeking to harm Israel’s economy and image. Since she has been at the airport, Israel gave Alqasem many chances to leave on the condition that she renounces the BDS movement. She has declined to do so. Israel enacted the law last year. It bans entry for any foreigner who “knowingly issues a public call for boycotting Israel.” Alqasem had been registered to pursue a master’s degree in human rights at Israel’s Hebrew University. The first day of classes was Sunday.

Palestinian Killed in Rock Throwing Incident A Palestinian woman was killed in her car late last week when a rock was thrown at her vehicle while her husband was driving. Palestinian media outlets are charging that the rocks were thrown by a group of Jewish settlers at the Tapuah Junction. A Shin Bet spokesman confirmed that the security agency had opened an investigation into the matter and

that settlers in the area are indeed suspects in the attack. The police’s Judea and Samaria (West Bank) District has also been probing the death and has been placed under a gag order until the investigation is complete. Authorities have not ruled out the possibility that a group of Palestinian stone-throwers are responsible and hit the wrong car. The initial reasons for the Pal-

estinian media’s charges come from the fact that Yakoub Rabi, who was driving the car, said he spotted a group of Jewish settlers near the scene. Both he and his wife, Aisha Muhammad Talal Rabi, 47, were taken to a hospital in Nablus, where she succumbed to her wounds and he was able to be treated. Likud MK Yehudah Glick called for the murderers to face justice.

“If Jewish settlers indeed threw rocks at Palestinian cars and killed a woman, they must be found and put on trial as soon as possible, and punished,” he said in a tweet. Glick, who is himself a resident of a West Bank settlement, added, “Killers are also enemies of the settlement movement.”

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“The crossing was closed in 2014 after hostile forces took over the area and has remained closed at the request of the other side ever since,” he said. “We expect [UNDOF] to again enforce the buffer zone and keep away hostile forces.” It is hoped that in the future the crossing may be used by Druze citizens in Israel to visit family in Syria and for the passage of a small amount of goods, notably apples. In the meantime, the crossing will be used solely by UNDOF troops, who will be allowed to pass back and forth in the morning and then again in the evening. The UN observers left the Quneitra crossing in 2014 for the first time since deploying there in 1974 after Syrian rebels and terrorist groups took over the border zone. U.S. Ambassador to the UN Nikki Haley welcomed the upcoming reopening last Friday, saying it would allow peacekeepers to “step up their efforts to prevent hostilities in the Golan Heights region.” “We look to both Israel and Syria to provide UN peacekeepers the access they need as well as assurances of their safety. We also call on Syria to take the necessary steps so UNDOF can safely and effectively deploy and patrol without interference,” Haley said in a statement. She called on both countries to adhere to the ceasefire and “keep any military forces other than UN peacekeepers out of the area.”

Israel-Syria Border Reopens For the first time in four years, a border crossing between enemy nations Syria and Israel was reopened this week. The Quneitra crossing was closed four years ago as UN observers fled the area due to fierce fighting in the Syrian civil war. The move to reopen the crossing marks a de facto recognition by Israel that

dictator President Bashar Assad has returned to govern in southern Syria after he defeated rebel groups in the area earlier this summer. The Syrian flag was raised at the Quneitra crossing, and as it reopened, the United Nations peacekeeping force UNDOF sent a number of white trucks from Syria to the Israeli side of the border. “The opening of the crossing symbolizes the return of the enforcement of the 1974 disengagement agreement [between Israel and

Syria],” Maj. Nehemia Berkey, the Israeli military liaison to UNDOF, told reporters. The 1974 ceasefire accord marked the end of the previous year’s Yom Kippur War and established a buffer zone between the two countries. The area closest to the border became a full demilitarized zone, where only UNDOF and police could operate, while the rest of the buffer zone had strict limits on the number and types of military units and equipment allowed inside it.

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Young Mayor Accused of Fraud Jasiel Correia made headlines when he became the mayor in his Massachusetts town at the young age of 23. Now, he is being accused of fraud.

The mayor of Fall River is accused of using funds he collected from investors to develop an app aimed at helping businesses connect with target consumers for his own personal

luxurious lifestyle. Federal authorities say that of the $360,000 Correia fundraised, he spent $230,000 on casinos, a Mercedes, jewelry, designer clothing, and repaying his student loans. “His actions were underhanded, shameless and greedy,” said FBI agent Hank Shaw. “Mr. Correia blurred the lines between public business and private duties, using investor funds as his own personal ATM, systemically looting almost a quarter-million dollars.”

In 2013 Correia was elected city councilor and after serving one term he was elected mayor in 2015, the youngest mayor in the history of the old mill city with a population of about 85,000. Last Thursday Correia, 26, was arrested in Bridgewater and charged with wire fraud and filing false tax returns. . The indictment says that Correia founded SnoOwl in 2012 and the next year began to seek investors in return for equity in his company. But the funds weren’t going to his newest

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project. Instead, he was spending the monies to enhance his personal lavish lifestyle and was lying about the app’s progress to investors. Authorities say he also filed false tax returns as soon as he learned he was under federal investigation. Ironically, during the election, he even touted his “progress” of SnoOwl as one of his primary qualifications to be mayor of the town. In September 2017, Correia confirmed to the Fall River Herald that he was under investigation but denied any criminal activity and blamed the investigation on political opponents. He won re-election in November.

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On Monday, Paul Allen, the billionaire cofounder of Microsoft, died. Allen was more than just a tech genius. He was also an investor, entrepreneur and philanthropist who

influenced many aspects of modern life – from technology and science to sports and music. Just two weeks ago the 65-yearold announced that he was dying from complications of non-Hodgkin’s lymphoma. Allen founded Microsoft with Bill Gates in 1975, several years after the two met as fellow students at a private school in Seattle. Allen left the company in 1982 after he was diagnosed with Hodgkin’s disease. “I am heartbroken by the passing of one of my oldest and dearest friends, Paul Allen,” Microsoft founder Bill Gates said in a statement Monday. “Paul was a true partner and dear friend. Personal computing would not have existed without him.” Allen didn’t slow down after leaving Microsoft. He stayed on the company’s board of directors for several years while establishing his own philanthropic foundation, along with Vulcan, his investment firm. He also bought two professional sports teams: the NBA’s Portland Trail Blazers and the NFL’s Seattle Seahawks. Allen was worth $20.3 billion at the time of his death. He had donated more than $2 billion to charity during his lifetime.

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Now might be the best time to stock up on Forever stamps. Once again, the U.S. Postal Service is proposing a hike increase on the firstclass mail Forever stamp. If the 5 cent increase is approved it will be the biggest price hike since 1991. The USPS board of governors requested the increase which would bring the price up to 55 cents. As a compromise, the USPS said the change would also reduce the additional ounce price of letters. So, a 2-ounce stamped letter would decrease from 71 cents to 70 cents, according to a statement. Priority Mail flat rate prices could also increase by an average of 5.9 percent. For example, a medium flat rate box that now

goes for $13.65 would increase to $14.35. Before any changes go into effect they must be approved by the Postal Regulatory Commission. Lately the USPS has been in trouble with falling sales as fewer people rely on mail. However, the USPS is experiencing an increase in package delivery, a reflection of consumers relying on the internet to shop.

DNA, Shmee-N-A Senator Elizabeth Warren is pulling out all the stops in a bid to win the 2020 Democratic nomination for president. This week, Warren released a DNA test providing “strong evidence’’ she has Native American roots, although the results show that it dates back 6 to 10 generations. President Trump had mocked Warren’s claims that she was Native American. The release of her DNA results may have been an effort at proving that her assertions were correct. Many have also speculated that this is an attempt to attract the me-

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dia spotlight. Hey, headlines are free publicity, right? Carlos D. Bustamante, a Stanford University professor and an expert in the field of DNA, conducted the test. Bustamante confirmed the Native American claim but concluded that “the vast majority” of Warren’s ancestry is European. There were five parts of Warren’s DNA that suggest a Native American ancestor, according to the report. The largest evidence of Native American DNA was found on her 10th chromosome; each human has 23 pairs of chromosomes.

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Warren has 12 times more Native American blood than a white person from Great Britain and 10 times more than a white person from Utah, the report found. If the results are accurate, Warren would be 1.6 percent to 0.1 percent Native American. The average American of European descent is 0.18 percent Native American. The Cherokee Nation, from which Warren is claiming she is from, is disconcerted by Warren’s newest publicity stunt. “A DNA test is useless to determine tribal citizenship,” Cherokee Nation Secretary of State Chuck Hoskin Jr. said in a statement. “Current DNA tests do not even distinguish whether a person’s ancestors were indigenous to North or South America.” Indeed, the genetic analysis report released by Warren concedes that because there are no samples available from many North American groups, the senator’s DNA was compared against samples from Mexico, Peru and Colombia. Most Native American groups in the U.S. have declined to participate in recent genetic studies, the report said. In addition to the lack of specificity and the fact that DNA tests do not meet the existing legal standards set by the tribal nations to determine citizenship, Hoskin Jr. said that using “a DNA test to lay claim to any connection to the Cherokee Nation or any tribal nation, even vaguely, is

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inappropriate and wrong.” He added, “It makes a mockery out of DNA tests and its legitimate uses while also dishonoring legitimate tribal governments and their citizens, whose ancestors are well documented and whose heritage is proven,” he said. “Senator Warren is undermining tribal interests with her continued claims of tribal heritage.”“ For now, Warren is seeking re-election in Massachusetts and is

expected to sail into victory. When questioned about her plans to run for president, Warren answered she will take a “hard look” at running for the Democratic nomination after the midterm elections are over. In preparation she has released 10 years’ worth of her tax returns and made her personnel files available to The Boston Globe. Experts are saying that Warren’s game plan is to be an “open-book” unlike the previous female candidate. When Hillary

Clinton ran in 2016 she shied away from releasing personal information and it was later revealed that she had many secrets to hide. Back in July during a rally in Montana, Trump talked about a hypothetical debate between himself and Warren during the 2020 presidential election. At the time he suggested that she take a DNA test and offered to pledge $1 million to a charity of her choice if she does take the test.

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35 years in jail if convicted of all the charges against him. Trump fought hard to secure his release without conditions. A few months back, Trump and Turkey’s President Recep Tayyip Erdogan made a deal in which Israel released a Turkish prisoner and Turkey was supposed to release Brunson. Turkey, though, only allowed Brunson to leave prison for house arrest. It is only now, after months of pressure, that Turkey allowed Brunson to leave the country.

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On Friday, a Turkish court on Friday wrapped up Brunson’s case. He was convicted of having connections to terrorism and sentenced to just over three years in prison. He was released immediately since he had already spent nearly two years in detention. An earlier charge of espionage was dropped. Trump thanked Erdogan and said the U.S. greatly appreciated Brunson’s release. He added that the move “will lead to good, perhaps great, relations” between the U.S. and fellow NATO ally Turkey and said the White House would “take a look” at certain proposed sanctions.

Brunson Freed from Turkey Welcome back Andrew Brunson to the United States of America! The American pastor who had been apprehended in Turkey since October 2016 has finally returned home. Upon his return, he visited President Trump in the Oval Office where

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the two recited a prayer over the weekend. Brunson said he prayed to G-d to provide the president “supernatural wisdom to accomplish all the plans you have for this country and for him.” On Saturday, October 13, Brunson returned to the U.S. on a military jet. He appeared to be in good health and good spirits. “From a Turkish prison to the White House in 24 hours, that’s not

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Obesity & National Security

Yes, you read that headline correctly. Our nation’s waistline is ever-expanding, and as the buttons begin to pop on our shirts, many of our youngsters are becoming too overweight to sign up for our nation’s military.

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A study released this week has found that nearly one-third of young Americans are now too overweight to join up, a worrying statistic for military officials already facing recruitment challenges. “Obesity has long threatened our nation’s health. As the epidemic grows, obesity is posing a threat to our nation’s security as well,” the Council for a Strong America states in its new report. Last month, the Army announced it would miss its goal of attracting 76,500 new recruits in 2018. The shortfall is of about 6,500 soldiers – the first time since 2005 the service had missed its hiring targets. A strong U.S. economy and tight jobs market played a role, but the numbers highlight the dwindling pool of applicants the Pentagon has to draw from. According to the Defense Department, obesity is one of the top reasons why a stunning 71 percent of Americans aged 17-24 do not meet the military’s sign-up requirements. “Given the high percentage of American youth who are too overweight to serve, recruiting challenges will continue unless measures are taken to encourage a healthy

lifestyle beginning at a young age,” states the study entitled, “Unhealthy and Unprepared.” Other factors such as prior drug use or a lack of academic qualifications are also taking a toll. The report, compiled by a group of retired generals and admirals, notes that the obesity issue is a particular worry as it comes when fewer young people are interested in joining the military in the first place. Defense Secretary Jim Mattis, a retired Marine general, last month said the shrinking pool of Americans eligible to serve was a “big concern.” “It’s a sad state of affairs when 71 percent of the 18 to 24-year-old males in this country cannot qualify to enter the United States Army as a private,” he said. The problem should be addressed at the local level, he said, praising efforts of retired service members who are working in schools “to try to restore physical education where it’s been taken out, to try to get school lunches to be things that fuel the body, instead of just giving them crummy food.” The obesity problem persists even after boot camp. According to retired Army major

general Jeffrey Phillips, the military spends more than $1.5 billion each year treating obesity-related health conditions and filling positions vacated by unfit troops. “I saw it myself: pudgy soldiers visibly pushing, or beyond, the ‘height and weight’ standards,” Phillips wrote in a Military Times commentary. The new report says the Pentagon has recognized the long-standing obesity problem, and is taking steps to improve the health of its troops. Many military facilities are equipped with top-notch gyms, and dining facilities on U.S. bases around the world often provide nutritional guidelines. Parents should give their children an early start on healthy eating to ensure fit adults. “Basic training lasts weeks, but building strong troops takes years. Encouraging healthy lifestyles early in life will help our nation prepare for future challenges,” retired Air Force General Richard Myers said. A study published in the New England Journal of Medicine last year found that 2.2 billion people worldwide are believed to be overweight, and more than one in 10 people are

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youngest member of the All Fifty States Club pretty soon. She has been traveling with her father and mother around the United States over the past few months. Harper’s parents, Cindy and Tristan, are not Americans. They are from Australia but have been living in Canada for the last three years visiting the U.S. from time to time. Even so, they always wanted to visit all 50 states of the United States. Their trip started off in June when they entered Maine while on maternity leave – and they didn’t even have their fifty-state adventure on their minds yet. A bit of investigating into the All Fifty States Club membership got the idea going. “Why not go to all 50 states?” Cindy said. “It was just our plan to do it together and have fun.” Having Harper added as the club’s youngest member was just icing on the cupcake. As of now, the trio have visited more than 40 states. Harper is prominent in their social media posts, posing near state landmarks and signs. “She wakes up every morning happy and smiling,” Cindy said. “I like to think it’s impacting who she will become.” Vermont will be the last state they will visit. “Personally, when she looks back at what we achieved, I hope when she looks at the photos and I tell her all the stories, that she can have the confidence that she can do anything,” Cindy said. Well, as long as she has her carriage and blanket.

Drunk Dogs?

You know, dogs are really missing out. They aren’t able to take out a beer now and then – provided they’re over 21 – to guzzle with their buddies. This sentiment is what prompted Megan and Steve Long to launch Good Boy Dog Beer. The Longs own Henderson Heights bar in Texas and have created a brew for their favorite things on

Earth: dogs and beer. The beer, though, won’t rock your world. It doesn’t have sodium and so is not tasty. It’s also non-alcoholic. But that didn’t stop 15 other bars in the Houston area to serve pints to pups throughout the community. The brew sells for around $15 a can and comes with fun names like Mailman Malt Licker and Session. squirrel! “Everyone likes the idea of hav-

ing a beer with their dog, you know?” says Steve, who is 41. The Longs came up with the idea of a doggy brew when one of their dogs, Rocky, started having digestive issues and they had to make his food from scratch. Pretty soon they were joking that they should make his broth, which was filled with good things to eat, into a beer. For example, the Mailman Malt Licker contains chicken, turmeric, ginger,

oranges, carrots, basil, cilantro and fennel, a dog’s delight. The brew took off. And it’s not the first time that beer for canines has been sold. The pet industry in the U.S. is huge, a $72 billion business in 2018. Millennials, who view their dogs are part of their family, are a big part of that increase. Hot dog!

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Cook for Company

Are you lonely? Time to start cooking – doctor’s orders! By the time the year 2023 rolls around, doctors in England will be able to write prescriptions for cooking classes and walking groups as part of the government’s effort to combat loneliness. This week Prime Minister Theresa May described loneliness as “one of the greatest public health challenges of our time,” saying it is linked with a range of illnesses, including heart disease, stroke and Alzheimer’s disease. Sadly, around 200,000 older people across the UK haven’t had a conversation with a friend or relative in more than a month. To combat this, the government has called for “social prescribing,” which allows doctors to recommend group activities such as cooking classes, walking groups and art clubs for those who are lonely, instead of medication. And, of course, preparing dinner earlier in the day won’t make your dinner plate look so lonely either.

Cat Chief

Svetlana Logunova is one happy woman. She has been chosen for the position of cat chief in her town of Zelenogradsk, Russia. Her duties? Tending to the town’s approximately 70 stray cats. Logunova wasn’t able to nab the role without competition. More than 80 others applied for the new role in the small town, which also has a cat statue and a feline that has been added to its emblem. The town has been attempting to rebrand itself as Russia’s foremost cat-loving community. Logunova was given a bicycle and a uniform – including a bright green jacket, a black bow tie and hat – to help her in her new role. She is also receiving a budget of around 5,700 rubles – around $85 – a month to make sure the cats are enjoying food and rides in her bike’s basket. “I alone cannot care for every single one and a helping hand would go a long way,” Logunova said. Sounds like the purr-fect job.

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Donkeys Demand Slim Passengers

Donkeys in Greece are now breathing easier. The country has banned “overweight” tourists from riding on donkeys on the island of Santorini after activists said that the animals were suffering from spinal injuries. Sightseers often pay to ride donkeys up steep slopes from the shore to the island’s main town, but transporting heavier travelers has taken its toll on the creatures and prompted anger from campaign groups. Now, people wishing to ride on the donkeys better watch their waistlines. Only those weighing 220 pounds will get a ride. Santorini has steep terrain, and donkeys are often required to travel through pathways too narrow for cars. Activists have also complained about their treatment by their owners. Footage of overweight tourists riding the animals prompted a backlash on social media in July, and a petition calling for an end to donkey’s use as transportation received more than 100,000 signatures. In addition to the weight limits, the guidelines insist that the animals are exercised once a day for at least half an hour and have a continuous supply of drinking water. Santorini, which sits atop a spectacular dormant volcano caldera and is renowned for incredible sunsets, has seen tourism increase dramatically in recent years, thanks to its popularity with cruise ship tourists. They better lay off those Greek salads.

A Drunken Purchase There are many lessons one can learn from this story. And you may need two hands to count them all. Last year, Gina Lyons and Mark Lee were on their honeymoon in Sri

Lanka when they heard that the hotel they were staying in was for sale. Gina and Mark, though, were quite inebriated when they heard the news

and in their drunken state decided that it would be perfect idea to buy the hotel after the lease was up. After all, it would only cost $39,576 for the next three years to run the hotel. And so, for the next day or so, the couple – still drunk – proceeded to purchase the hotel. As both of them were from London and didn’t speak the language, they sat in on businesses talks with someone who was able to translate for them but sitting there for those long hours, bored and confused by the conversation, they

continued to keep up their drunken stupor. “Because we didn’t understand most of the conversation, Mark and I just sat drinking more rum and slowly getting drunk again,” Gina said. And so, they came back from their trip with a giant present – or maybe just enormous debt. Now, they’re running the hotel, which they reopened in July, from London. Let’s hope they stay away from liquor for a while.

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t the Bais Yaakov of Queens Early Childhood Center, Parshas Noach was full of learning and fun. A visiting petting zoo gave our young scientists a hands-on opportunity to study animals “up

close and personal.” The children were fascinated by the various animals and enjoyed feeding and petting them. Then Zoe, a rescue dog, came to visit the Pre 1-A classes. This was a wonderful opportunity for the

children to ask questions and get to know the pretty black and white dog. Even those youngsters who were initially fearful quickly became more comfortable when they saw Zoe “smile” at them and wag her tail in

happiness. The children can’t wait for their next animal visitors to arrive. At the Bais Yaakov of Queens Early Childhood Center, learning is always meaningful and exciting.

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Morah Shoshana and Morah Yael’s class did a wonderful science experiment at HANC ECC. They studied all of the colors in the keshet and then predicted which colors would mix together to create new colors

Rabbi Steve Gar at HALB

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ast week, HALB had the privilege of hosting Rabbi Steve Gar, an elite counterterrorism expert from Israel. Steve addressed all grades between third and eighth. Over the course of 3 sessions specific to each age group, he was able to share what it means to be a first responder for terror attacks in the Gush Etzion area of Israel. Through his unparalleled firsthand stories, Rabbi Gar conveyed a love for his family – all of Am Yisrael – sharing how this love allows him to run into danger, protecting his land and his people from the worst kinds of horrors. Steve’s words moved HALB students to feel and imagine what it is to be a chayal, an Israeli soldier, and to make Israel a safe home for all Jews around the world. Rabbi Gar also shared the message of Darkaynu, a program for post-high school special needs students. This program, for which Steve is assistant director, allows those who would ordinarily be unable to attend the famed Yeshivat Har Etzion

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(Gush) be a part of the rich life and high-level Torah learning that goes on there. Steve’s message of inclusion and love shone through to the entire HALB family. May Hashem continue to watch over Steve, his family, his unit and all of Klal Yisrael!

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Bais Yaakov of Queens Ribbon Cutting of the New State of the Art Computer Lab

ast Friday Bais Yaakov of Queens celebrated the opening of their new computer lab with a ribbon cutting ceremony. The girls in 3rd and 4th grades stood outside the room as Mrs. Bergman addressed them and regaled the meaning of hakoras hatov to the anonymous donor who wanted to enhance the learning at Bais Yaakov. The lab was in need of new computers so the latest STEM

software could be incorporated into the curriculum. Mrs. Bergman offered a meaningful bracha to the donors for their generosity and expressed gratitude to all those at BYQ who made the lab opening possible in such a short time. The girls expressed their excitement when they were introduced to one of the presidents, Mr. Bernie Shafran, who took the time to attend the ribbon cutting.Â

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MTA Celebrates Siyum and Hachnasas Sefer Torah in Memory of Ari Fuld

Yeshiva University President Rabbi Dr. Ari Berman joins in the Siyum celebration

n Monday, October 8, 2018, MTA hosted a siyum in memory of Ari Fuld (‘91) and a Hachnasas Sefer Torah. This meaningful and uplifting event included divrei Torah from Yeshiva University President Rabbi Dr. Ari Berman (‘87) and Head of School Rabbi Joshua Kahn, and dancing with the new Torah, the making of which was funded by an anonymous donor, down Amsterdam Avenue into the MTA Beis Medrash. The program began with the entire yeshiva cumulatively finishing Seder Nezikin mishnayos, which culminated in a siyum in Ari’s memory made by his cousins, Elie Goldberg (‘20), Binyamin Fuld (‘21), Shaya Goldberg (‘20), and Dovi Forman (‘20). On September 16, Ari Fuld was murdered near the Rami Levy supermarket in the Gush Etzion junction in Jerusalem. In a message sent to the Yeshiva University community that same day, Dr. Berman stated that “our hearts are torn by

the murder of our alumnus Ari Fuld, zk”l, ’91YUHS in today’s terrorist attack. Ari’s heroic response to capture the terrorist before succumbing to his wounds was emblematic of the courageous approach he took to his life, defending the State of Israel and the Jewish people. Deeply committed to our Torah, people and land, Ari’s sense of mission permeated all that he did and inspired all those with whom he came in contact. His tragic loss shakes us to our very core.” Some of that sadness occasioned by Ari’s death was lightened by the joyous energy in the room as members of both Fuld’s family and graduating class watched the MTA talmidim and rebbeim dance, sing, and celebrate. Rabbi Kahn noted how Ari’s life, like the Sefer Torah, embodied kedushah, which “can only be created through action, and just as we are commanded to write a Sefer Torah, we are commanded to write our own life story and view our existence with the kedushah

of godliness.” In his comments, Dr. Berman picked up on this theme of living a G-dly life by focusing on how Ari Fuld practiced

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charity in whatever ways he could, providing a profound example about how to bring Torah values to life. He encouraged all those in attendance to consider what values

Some of Ari Fuld’s relatives who attended the event

they can draw from the Torah to share with the world, and – as the Sefer Torah is a physical manifestation of G-d’s speech – to imagine how we ourselves can manifest His

values. After the completion of the siyum, MTA Rosh Yeshiva Rabbi Michael Taubes (‘76) gathered the Sefer Torah in his arms and, escorted by a phalanx of hundreds of dancing talmidim and rebbeim, as well as YU Roshei Yeshiva Rav Hershel Schachter, Rav Mordechai Willig, Rav Hershel Reichman, Rav Baruch Simon, Rabbi Eliyahu BenChaim, and RIETS Dean Rabbi Menachem Penner, brought it to the safety of the MTA Beis Medrash.

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HAFTR’s Back to School Carnival

he day started off cloudy and overcast but turned into perfect carnival weather with sunny skies and smiles at HAFTR’s Back to School event Sunday afternoon, October 7. Over a hundred children from all

the school’s divisions attended and participated – from HAFTR’s Early Childhood through HAFTR High School. There was something for everyone. Popular attractions and featured entertainment provided by NYFF in-

cluded a mechanical bull, hard rock climbing wall, and Euro Bungee ride, along with a bounce castle and Twisted Twister slide! Along with HAFTR’s PTA, volunteer parents and students, the carnival had the support of local sponsors Ariel and Baruch Glaubach, Julie and Jonathan Miller, Pizza’le, David’s Famous Pizza, Sushi Tokyo, and Azamra Entertainment. HAFTR Chairman of the Board Neil Wiener echoed the enthusiasm felt at the event. “We’re so excited to officially start the school year in earnest. What a great way to celebrate together. We thank our sponsors, along with our HAFTR family who made our event a great success.” Ita Mermelstein was watching her two sons, Yechiel Mermelstein (2nd grade) and Oren Mermelstein (4th grade) flying high on the Euro Bungee ride. “They really love it, just like last year. The school is amazing. I love the warmth, the education is top-notch of course...it’s a family with very caring teachers.” The micro-reality mini race car driving track racing drew a huge crowd and the thrilled winners got to take home trophies after competing in semi-finals and finals. Another heavily populated area was the food concession where delicious carnival food was offered for purchase. The menu offerings were tailored to the picky eater including hero sandwiches, pastrami burgers, chicken nuggets, hot dogs, beef burgers, veggie burgers, onion rings, potato chips, corn on the cob,

and a pickle on a stick. But the biggest sellers were sno-cones and cotton candy. HAFTR High School student, Ilana Sacolick, was there as a volunteer and worked the popcorn machine. She said, “It’s fun and the popcorn tastes good.” This year’s prizes were a huge hit with the kids. Sharon Fried, HAFTR’s Administrative Assistant, was working the prize table and said the stickers and magnetic dart boards were “going like crazy.” Children kept playing more games to earn more tickets so they could win more prizes. Candice Feiler, HAFTR PTA co-president, said, “We also had great raffles this year with prizes like NY Nets tickets, free pizza and garlic knots for the year, reserved seating at a HAFTR Lower School event of your choice, games of HORSE with HAFTR Middle School Principal Mr. Joshua Gold, a game with gym teacher Mr. W, choice seating at lunch, and helping to serve lunch.” “A fun day was had by all,” added Shanna Schein, HAFTR PTA co-president, whose own daughter, HAFTR High School student Makayla, volunteered at a game booth to help at the carnival. “We would like to thank the families for coming and especially the sponsors, the volunteers, and all of the people who helped make today happen. A special thanks to Ayelet Shalmon for working so hard with us to make this event a success.” For more information about the school and to schedule a tour, visit haftr.org.

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Around the Community A hands-on children’s garden was planted at HAFTR’s Early Childhood Center in memory of Morah Betty Karp by her daughter and son-in-law, Sharon and Gary Hoffman, and family. Morah Betty, a beloved morah for many years, loved to “grow” children and this is a fitting tribute to her legacy

Sharon Hoffman with Cyndy Goldberg, HAFTR’s Early Childhood Director, and Karen Rosenbloom, HAFTR Early Childhood Faculty

The Hoffman family

Mentoring at DRS

et’s face it: high school is hard. And when you are starting your high school experience as a ninth grader, it can seem impossible to deal with. The answer at DRS? Seniors! DRS’s Senior-Freshmen Mentoring Program encourages positive relationships between the

school’s youngest and oldest students and gives each ninth grader a mentor who has gone through many of the challenges they are encountering. At the school’s opening mentoring event last week, each freshman got to meet their “senior big brother.” The groups spent some

quality time learning together on the Torah’s perspective on friendship, and after hearing from Associate Principal Rabbi Elly Storch, it was on to Dave and Busters. Seniors and freshmen pairs enjoyed an afternoon learning together, playing at the arcades, and spend-

ing quality time with one another. More importantly, the seniors left the event with a new found sense of responsibility to their younger fellow students, and the freshmen left with a friend they could look up to and get advice from.

publication, Survival of the Spirit, certainly sets the tone, and the staff works clearly and carefully to serve the purpose. From the dedications in the front through the editors’ note

and the contents, this is an inspiring magazine.” Yashar koach to the SKA editors – Breindy Berger, Ariella Borah, Devora Fuchs, Priva Halpert, Anni

Laufer, Jenny Lifschutz, Sussy Liss, Ayelet Rosman, Menucha Ross and Sara Stein – and faculty advisor Mrs. Leibtag for producing this important work.

SKA Holocaust Journal Wins Gold

ongratulations to the editors of SKA’s Holocaust Journal which was awarded a gold medal by the CSPA. Last year’s journal, produced by members of the ninth grade, was deemed by the CSPA “a crucial publication. It is wonderful to show the connections with so many stories of great grandparents. The name of the

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Reptiles at Gesher for Rosh Chodesh

he administration of the Gesher Early Childhood Center prides itself on its dedication to constantly elevate the Gesher learning experience to new heights. Much work was done this past summer to enhance the facility, including expanding into additional space. One initiative that makes use of the new resources is Gesher’s new school-

wide Rosh Chodesh assembly. These gatherings allow the staff to introduce some of the seasonal lessons in a fun way while allowing the children to feel the positive energy that permeates amongst the faculty. Rosh Chodesh Cheshvon is strongly associated with rain and the upcoming rainy season. As a perfect complement, this month’s assembly

had a special focus on Parshas Noach and the mabul. A hands-on reptile show visited Gesher, with an assortment of lizards, frogs and snakes. One of the snakes was so big that a large group of children needed to hold it together! The students enjoyed the interesting creatures: petting, touching, carrying, and even placing some on their heads.

The assemblies also allow parents and grandparents an opportunity to celebrate a student’s upcoming birthday in a meaningful way with a callup, a cupcake, and a new book added to the Gesher children’s library. Thank you to Mr. and Mrs. Ettedgui for sponsoring the special event at this month’s assembly.

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Leadership at HALB

he sixth graders recently enjoyed a leadership challenge workshop with Rabbi Tani Prero. R Prero leads Camp Yagilu WIlderness, an adventure-based summer camp in the Catskills for boys ages10-18. They also learn leadership skills, grow confidence and enjoy amazing adventures while making lasting friendships. Yagilu is also planning a separate girls program for high school girls this summer. In the workshop at HALB, Rabbi Prero led our sixth graders in team building games. The boys enjoyed

games including Reverse Relay Race, Super Stand Up, Tension Tightrope and Team Scream. The girls played all these and Silent Geometry. The students also learned about how helpful it was to work together with their friends, talking and listening. Rabbi Prero also led two teacher training sessions for our middle school staff. Using an active and hands-on approach, our teachers learned about the importance of student leadership in the classroom and how to enable and empower their students to develop leadership qualities.

Rabbi Nochum Dinowitz presented at the Learn and Live program this week. The topic was “Plowing Through”

Students Explore Co-Curricular Opportunities at Club Fair

AFTR High School students participated in the annual fall Club Fair on Wednesday, October 10, in our festively decorated school gym. Faculty advisors and student leaders were seated at tables, and students were invited to learn about the club offerings and sign up for clubs in which they are interested. Students were able to select from 35 club offerings, including a book club, creative writing, chessed, chess, environment action, Girls Who Code, globalization, Israel advocacy, music, nature appreciation, stock market, urban farming, Yiddish and yoga club, just to name a few. The club fair

was a resounding success, and students showed enthusiasm and passion for programs that will enhance their educational experience. Clubs are an integral part of our students’ experience at HAFTR High School. They provide a forum to develop students’ talents, passions and skills; allow students to connect with faculty and schoolmates who share their interests; and foster leadership and collaborative skills. We are committed to providing the opportunity for every student to be engaged in a meaningful co-curricular activity. For more information, visit haftr.org.

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One Night: Rambam Students, an NFL Player, LinkedIn Co-Founder, and Pulitzer Prize Nominee

ast week Rambam began another season of its Meet The Author Book Club by going to hear from Robert Turner, author of Not For Long: The Life and Career of an NFL Athlete who was accompanied by former NFL standout Middle Linebacker Chris Borland who played for the 49ers and sacked both Eli and Peyton Manning. Chris made national news headlines when he gave up his 3 million dollar contract and walked away from the NFL because he didn’t want to suffer the long-term effects of traumatic brain injury that often accompanies an NFL career. His story, as well as the whole “concussion” saga, was chronicled by Alan Schwarz (who moderated the night’s event) in over 200 New York

Times articles for which he was nominated for a Pulitzer Prize. Rambam students were able to meet and greet all the guests who signed their books and answered their questions. Mr. Turner was so impressed with the students that he gave them his personal email and cell phone number so they could arrange a private meet-

ing with him at a later date to discuss the book. In another room, other Rambam students, members of the school’s prestigious “Shtark Tank” Entrepreneurial Academy were hearing from LinkedIn co-founder and Greylock VC Reid Hoffman and Chris Yeh, author of Blitzscaling: the Lightning-Fast Path to Building

Billion-Dollar Companies, who were with Airbnb COO Belinda Johnson. The future businessmen were inspired by the discussion of a new way of doing business that tackles global markets in all-consuming winner-takeall style of expansion. Members of the Rambam Entrepreneurial Academy are treated to these types of

events and last year heard from a former Starbucks COO as well as Derek Jeter, the Yankee great turned business owner. They also spent the day at YU Sy Syms School of Business and used their accumulated knowledge to “pitch” a business to an entrepreneur. Last year, Jeremy Lyman, co-owner of Birch Coffee, a chain of coffee houses in New York, awarded $1,800 to Yitzy Lisker for his “pitch.” After the two groups met up, Mr. Hillel Goldman, associate principal, treated all the boys to ice cream and, after Maariv, they went back to Rambam eagerly awaiting the next trip to hear Tom Hanks, two time Academy Award Winner, discuss his new book and the publishing and film industries.

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n Tuesday, October 9, Shevach High School celebrated Rosh Chodesh Cheshvan with a school-wide breakfast. The G.O., under the direction of Shevach Educational Administrator Mrs. Devorah Kovitz, totally transformed the multi-purpose room with a racetrack theme. The eye catching décor clearly delivered the message of zerizus – stepping up with alacrity to move forward. After a delicious meal, the student body was addressed by Rabbi Moshe Sokoloff, Rav of the Agudas Yisroel of Kew Gardens Hills and Rosh Yeshivas Toras Halacha, who clearly portrayed the importance of the chosen theme. Rabbi Sokoloff himself is married to a Shevach alumna and opened his talk by telling the girls how lucky they were to attend a school where teachers care for every student and her growth. Through many insights and stories, Rabbi Sokoloff gave the girls tips that speak to the hopes and fears of every high school student. There is optimism but also trepidation about the school year ahead of them. Due to the Yomim Tovim, the first month of school was very sporadic, and so we are now effectively “starting” anew. Both the month of Cheshvan, and the reading of Sefer Breishis in shuls everywhere, underscore this newness. Rabbi Sokoloff indicated that it is our job to take this newness and make it special by our actions.

Rabbi Sokoloff quoted Rav Schwab who stated that it is OK to make mistakes. It is OK to fall, as long as we pick ourselves up again and rebuild. Ups and downs exist in everyone’s life. The challenge is to see the good in it and have confidence in our strength to make things right and better. Rabbi Sokoloff pointed to the Imahos, Sarah, Rivkah, Rochel and Leah, as examples of people who were able to use their challenges and build on them. They were able to overcome difficult situations and always did what was right. This power is built into our DNA as women, said Rabbi Sokoloff. We should not sell ourselves short, but rather reach, sometimes beyond our comfort zones, to be all that we can and move forward with positivity and swiftness. The morning was completed with a choir, presented by 9th graders Aviva Keller, Chaya Sara Kessler, and Rachel Mamonov, and with an entertaining skit, produced by twelfth grade Rosh Chodesh heads Chaya Akilov, Chava Crystal, and Rivky Schechter, with the assistance of Tikveh Ney. Kudos to the Shevach G.O: Malka Chanales, Batzie Schwartz, Miriam Goldstone and Shana Rowe, for all their efforts towards making this breakfast a memorable event. The morning’s message, so clearly delivered, will surely remain with the Shevach students for a very long time to come.

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Around 30 people represented Kulanu Academy at the annual Autism Speaks Walk at Jones Beach on Sunday

A Dying Mother’s Final Request

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ara Biderman, Jerusalem mother of 14, fought a long and brutal battle with cancer. Through countless rounds of chemotherapy and surgeries, she remained brave for her children. Though her family had sunken hundreds of thousands of dollars into debt, her focus remained on her survival: she must make it, for the kids. Tragically, her will was not enough to save her. The day that Sara passed away, the Biderman family gathered round her hospital bed to say their goodbyes. Knowing that her time on this earth was coming to an end, she made one last, urgent request. In her last moments her greatest desire was that of every mother: “Take care of my children,” she pleaded. Those present knew they must honor her request, though it was unclear how. Two months have passed since Rebbetzin Biderman’s petirah, and the shadow of grief still looms heavily over her home. Of 14 children, 7 still reside in their modest apartment in

the Geulah neighborhood. The youngest is just 8 years old. Bereaved of their mother, the children are lost, suffering in poverty. Their father, Reb Chaim Biderman, struggles to free himself from tremendous debt, whilst single-handedly raising his children and mourning his life partner. Their story has caught the attention of the gedolim: In a letter to the public, the Rachmastrivke Rebbe is quoted as saying that “it is impossible to describe the suffering of the family.” The Rebbe also made a very interesting statement regarding those who help the family, stating in his letter that “the mitzvah of supporting the Biderman family has tremendous power to protect [those who give] and their descendants from any illness.” Those who wish to help the Biderman orphans can do so by calling 1(877)-722-2646, and selecting fund # 4561. Checks can also be sent to Vaad HaRabbanim L’Inyanei Tzedaka at 221 Regent Drive, Lakewood NJ 08701. All donations are tax deductible. Please make checks payable to Vaad HaRabbani

t the start of the post Sukkos school season, Rabbi Yehuda Boruch Kamenetzky, Student Counselor at Yeshiva of South Shore, traveled to Los Angeles to speak to and inspire the students of Bais Yaakov of Los Angeles. Rabbi Kamenetzky, one of the longest survivors of the dreaded glioblastoma (the most deadly brain tumor) in the world, is a well-known motivational speaker and counselor for many people undergoing difficult situations. He holds a Master’s degree in Counseling from University of Missouri, is a member of the American Counseling Association, and is a Board-Certified Counselor. His best-selling book, Brainstorm, details the miraculous and inspiring journey of his battle with the deadly disease. Over the summer, Mrs. Gila Gettinger, 10th Grade morah and GO advisor at the Bais Yaakov of Los Angeles, designed a long-term project in which the girls would have the opportunity to focus on each word of the morning bracha of Elokai Neshama; each word would be the subject of a separate unit. After reading Rabbi Kamenetz-

ky’s book, Brainstorm, she was inspired by his unique and remarkable story, and invited him to share his perspective on life and to introduce the project and focus on the first word, “Elokai.” In his spellbinding address to close to over 350 talmidos, Rabbi Kamenetzky related that because of his unique life experiences and challenges he was able to create and maintain a meaningful and personal relationship with Hashem. He gave the girls practical tips on how to forge this most important connection. The girls were most enthusiastic and welcomed the opportunity to engage with Rabbi Kamenetzky. One talmidah even remarked, “You are so positive, it sounds like in order to gain your perspective you would go through it again!” To that he responded, “I don’t know if I am ready to go through it again, but I am forever grateful for what I have gained from going through it when I did…” Rabbi Kamenetzky is a Middle School Counselor at YOSS. He can be reached at rykamenetzky@yoss.org.

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Glick Sunday is Back With Another Smashing Success Sunday, we enjoyed a delicious ice cream table with an array of toppings for everyone! Before we had to say goodbye, we introduced our personalized 24hour Glick hotline to the girls. To bring Glick into our everyday life, not just Sundays, each child has a special link to tap into our personal hotline at any time. On this hotline we have weekly contests, music and some fun Glick Talk. Oh, and let’s not forget to call on Wednesdays after school. Each Wednesday we introduce to you our next week’s theme. Get pumped! Get ready! Get excited for a winter of Sunday Fun! Glick is an unparalleled Sunday program, and we are so lucky to have them in the heart of our community. To contact Glick call or text: 443802-4763 or e-mail us at: GlickGirl1gmail.com To register, go to GlickGirl.com.

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Around the Community At the wedding of Chaim Zanvil Sitnick, son of Reb Dovid and Rebbetzin Sitnick, to Chavala Schwartz this week

As part of “Middos Mission,” the first grade talmidim at Yeshiva Darchei Torah learned about the middah of kavod habriyos. They are ready to go on their first mission, to “greet others with ‘good morning.’”

Shulamith Celebrates Chodesh Cheshvan

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By: Aliza Zilberberg, Grade 8

ast week, Shulamith School for Girls welcomed Chodesh Cheshvan in a meaningful way. On the first day of Rosh Chodesh, Devora Reznik came to speak to the girls and shared many beautiful ideas on Torah and tefilla. She taught the girls about how Rosh Chodesh is a fresh star, and how to reconnect with tefilla. She encouraged the students to build a relationship with Hashem and to be close with Him. On the second day of Rosh Cho-

desh, our “Out of This World” G.O., Sheera Rockoff, Sara Feldman, Racheli Gelbtuch, and Michal Graff introduced a new program to the Middle Division. Rosh Chodesh Stars will provide a chance for students to shine. Each month, a group of girls will have the opportunity to sing a song or create a skit and then present it in the lunchroom to all of the grades. Our first “Stars” were the G.O. Presidents and friends who sang “Mama Rochel.” We look forward to many more beautiful Rosh Chodesh performances throughout the year.

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Noach and his animals visited HALB last week

MishnaBoyz

shreinu presented their new program, MishnaBoyz, this past Motzei Shabbos at Yeshiva of Far Rockaway. The evening started with very powerful divri chizuk about learning Mishnayos from R’ Avi Weller. After R’ Weller spoke, the boys got to hear what exactly is this new program. MishnaBoyz is for boys grades 6th - 8th. Every Motzei Shabbos the boys join together with R’ Aharon Wahl, a fifth grade rebbe at Yeshiva Darchei Torah, who teaches them two Mishnayos a week.

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he fifth grade talmidim of Yeshiva Darchei Torah participated in the groundbreaking Eretz Chemda curriculum, a live, interactive program that introduces the boys to the mitzvos unique to Eretz Yisrael. With a beautiful, full-color workbook, live classes broadcast from Eretz Yisrael (in English) and inspiring, informative videos, the program will ensure that the talmidim come away with a deeper and broader appreciation for our Land and its mitzvos.

During that week the boys need to review those Mishnayos that they were taught at least 5 out of the next

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nlock potential! Embrace opportunities! Inspire excellence! A record turnout of prospective parents and students from many elementary schools were welcomed to the Stella K. Abraham High School for Girls at its Open House on Sunday, October 14. The overflow crowd listened with interest to introductory remarks by Mrs. Elisheva Kaminetsky, principal, Judaic studies; Mrs. Bluma Drebin, principal, general studies; Rabbi Yosef Zakutinsky, director of student programs; Ms. Elana Flaumenhaft, associate principal; and senior Devorah Schreier, G.O. president. The enthusiasm in the school was contagious throughout the parent and student tours. SKA presenters shared their passion for their subject areas while the richness of the curriculum and the warmth and dedication of the staff were apparent the entire morning. Student volunteers, including SKA Student Ambassadors, shared their insights about the excellent limudei kodesh and secular academic programs of SKA and the outstanding extracurricular experiences that are offered. Pointing out the recently built Graphic Design Studio, the newly remodeled Art Studio, the state of the art STEM Lab, the Chemistry Lab and our “whirly desks,” the SKAers were eager to share their school with the prospective students. They highlighted the sought-after Art Acad-

Student ambassadors at SKA’s Open House

emy and electives such as coding, forensics and sign language, while also emphasizing the popular sports program, student initiatives for religious growth opportunities, Israel Action activities, and SKA’s successful Chessed program which is such an integral part of the school. Serenaded by chamber music performed by members of SKA’s band under the direction of Production Head Mrs. Terri Wagner, the guests were given “look books” filled with information about the school and SKA gift bags. Following the program, parents and incoming students were able to chat with students, administration and faculty members of SKA, view tables laden with details about SKA publications, sports activities, academic clubs and teams among others and enjoy a delicious collation. We look forward to welcoming the Class of 2023.

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Emunah of America Celebrate 70 Years, 1948-2018

he annual Emunah Dinner, one of New York’s premier Jewish fundraising events, will be taking place on Sunday, November 11. The gala will be celebrating Emunah of America’s 70th anniversary. Emunah continues to strive to raise the dinner bar and create an innovative, dynamic event in the unique venue Playstation Theatre in Time Square. As well as generating vital funds for our work with children and families at risk in Israel, this event helps raise awareness of the work we do and provide the opportunity to celebrate incredible accomplishments of our 2018 Honorees. This year, Emunah of America is proud to present the Lifetime Achievement Award to Myrna Zisman for her outstanding commitment to the Emunah cause. Together with her husband Leibel, a”h, Myrna established the Leibel a”h & Myrna Zisman Center for Torah & Art Study Scholarship program. Myrna serves as Emunah’s Ambassador-at-Large. She is a founder, a leader, and longtime supporter of Emunah of America. This year we are proud to introduce our newest award Man of the Year. This award is dedicated to celebrating

Rubin Margules Man of the Year

Myrna Zisman Lifetime Achievement Award

the Emunah man who has made an impact and supported the important work of Emunah. Emunah of America is extremely privileged to honor Rubin Margules with the Man of the Year Award for his unwavering support for Emunah’s mission. Rubin, together with his wife Cecelia, has played a fundamental role in establishing a program in the Holocaust Center, a music room in Torah Arts High School, and a new building for the Emunah Sderot Counseling Center. Lisa and Johnathan Schechter are most certainly deserving recipients of the Dor L’Dor Award, for their remarkable work on behalf of Emunah

Lisa & Jonathan Schechter Dor l’Dor Award

of America’s families. Their Emunah dedication is truly in their blood. Jonathan’s grandmother, Yetta Geisler, served as a beloved past chapter president, with Lisa following in her footsteps as past president of the Gela Feldman Chapter in Englewood. Their children are continuing to follow in their Emunah path and have volunteered and raised funds for Bet Elazraki home. Through her devotion to Emunah of America’s cause, Samantha Bryk inspires the future of the next generation of volunteers and is a most deserving recipient of the Young Leadership Award. Samantha has participated

Samantha Bryk Young Leadership Award

for several years in the Emunah Kol Hanearim summer program and is currently a Young Leadership Board member. Samantha created the first young leadership after-party and continues to devote her time to the children in Achuzat Sarah. OUR ISRAEL STORY relies heavily on the support from the community to ensure that Emunah’s award-winning programs and services continue. Please join us on November 11th and help us make a difference to the lives of so many in Israel. For more info www. emunahdinner.org Contact Alana: alana@emunah.org 917-287-5847.

Rosh Chodesh Chagigah at Central

ith the chagim behind us, Central continued the festive spirit with a G.O.planned Rosh Chodesh Cheshvan chagigah. The G.O.’s theme for this year is “games.” The chagigah kicked

off with an intense game of faculty vs. student basketball. Members of the faculty were pitted against some of Central’s JV and Varsity players. The battle on the court was fierce, but the students, with the roar of the crowd,

pulled ahead for a 6-4 win. The game also featured a Pretty in Pink Halftime Show. Miri Biderman, Nikki Blitman, and Abby Melman attempted a half-court basket challenge! The entire event also served as the inau-

guration of Central’s newly renovated gym, with Mrs. Neugroschl presiding over the official ribbon-cutting ceremony. The beautiful new gym got off to a great start!

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Over 300 children joined the White Shul Youth Department Annual Live Animal Show to learn about all sorts of interesting animals that were on the teivah

A group of Yeshiva Darchei Torah alumni who are learning in Eretz Yisrael gathered for a photo before spending Shabbos together in Tsfas during the recent bain hazmanim

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ix MTA Seniors â&#x20AC;&#x201C; Noam Mayerfield (Teaneck, NJ), Ezra Muskat (West Hempstead, NY), Dov Pfeiffer (Bergenfield, NJ), Ariel Retter (Bergenfield, NJ), Akiva Richman (West Hempstead, NY), and Yehuda Snow (Edison, NJ) â&#x20AC;&#x201C; received Letters of Commendation from the National Merit Scholarship Corporation. Approximately 34,000 Commended Students throughout the United States are being recognized for their exceptional academic promise. Commended Students placed among the top 50,000 scorers out of the more than 1.6 million students who took the 2017 Preliminary SAT/National Merit Scholarship Qualifying test. Congratulations to these exceptional students!

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Meet the Candidates PHOTOS BY ASHER MANSDORF

Candidate for State Senate Francis Becker

Congresswoman Kathleen Rice

Senator Todd Kaminsky

Candidate for Governor Marc Molinaro

he Five Towns Jewish Political Action Coalition organized a “meet the candidates” forum on Sunday, October 14. Heshy Blachorsky, Michael Fragin, Meir Krengel, Asher Mansdorf, and Shlomo Zullen organized the event. Ten candidates attended the event and addressed the crowd in Young Israel of Woodmere. Juan Vides, candidate for Assembly; State Senator Todd Kaminsky; Marc Molinaro, candidate for governor; Keith Wofford, candidate for attorney general; Congresswoman Kathleen Rice; Francis Becker, candidate for State Senate; Chele Farley, candidate for U.S. senate; Assemblywoman Missy Miller; Jonathan Trichter, candidate for comptroller; and Ameer Benno, candidate for U.S. Congress addressed the audience. Elections will be held on Tuesday, November 6. Although this is not a presidential election, it is incumbent upon all of us to vote in the elections, whose outcomes will greatly affect our community.

L-R: Jake Weichholz, Rabbi Mordechei Kamenetsky, Michael Fragin, U.S. Senate candidate Chele Farley, Robert Koppel, Heshy Blachorsky, and Izzy Wasser

L-R: Lawrence Village Trustee Syma Diamond, Cedarhurst Mayor Ben Weinstock, Lawrence Village Trustee Uri Kaufman, Lawrence School board Trustee Asher Mansdorf, Lawrence Deputy Mayor Michael Fragin, FTJPAC chair Shlomo Zuller, FTJPAC chair Meir Krengel, FJCC chair Josh Mehlman, and AIPAC Political Director Jason Koppel

Rambam Masmidim Extra Learning Program

ambam Mesivta’s flagship program, the Masmidim Extra Learning Program, is off to a fast start with many talmidim staying after school to learn “extra.” The Masmidim, led by Assistant Principal Rabbi Avrum Haar, attend shiurim during free time such as lunch, club hour, and after school. Rabbi Haar also learns with a number of the Masmidim preparing them

for the Yeshiva University Bronka Weintraub Bekius Program. During the after-school portion of the program, the Masmidim are treated to a spread of food from Carlos & Gabby’s for dinner after the first hour or so of learning b’chavrusah. After dinner, shiur is given by Rabbi Haar or Rabbi Yaacov Weisenberg to the assembled talmidim. Lunch learning features a rotation of Rambam rebbeim and

topics as diverse as parsha, inyana d’yoma, moadim, and Gemara. Additionally, the talmidim are recognized by the school for their efforts in learning and treated to the occasional trip and banquet/celebration of learning. In past years, trips included Escape the Room, Air Trampoline, fishing, and laser tag. Each trip begins with words of inspiration from a guest community rav

and lunch at Traditions. The Masmidim are also equipped with official Masmidim gear – sweatshirts, polos, t-shirts, and seforim bags, depending on the year. Between the Early Morning Learning Breakfast Club and the Masmidim, the halls of Rambam Mesivta reverberate with pre- and post-shiur limud Torah.

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The Bostoner Bais Medrash of Lawrence began its 26th season of father and son learning with a packed house of kol Torah, prizes and pizza

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B-Seed: Helping Investors Grow Financially with Israeli Innovation

ardly a day goes by without news of an Israeli company being bought by a multinational corporation. Buyout records keep rising, as corporations turn to Israeli innovators for new technology. Names like Waze, Mobileye, NeuroDerm and Orbotech are just a few of the many buyouts that turned Israeli investors into multimillionaires. With over 300 multinationals operating R&D centers in Israel, companies such as Amazon, Apple, Google, HP, IBM, INTEL, Microsoft, Samsung and Sony have discovered the reasons for doing research in Israel. Israel’s “startup nation” mentality has created an atmosphere that has become fertile ground for successful startups. By using their “Yiddishe Kop” B-Seed, an investment company based in Israel, has found ways to

invest in the early stages of these companies, even before they start raising money for the series A round of venture capital financing. With so many startups, how do they select the ones that maximize the return on investment? Their team analyzes the new technology to determine the potential, while their investment group does the due diligence. Together, they make a recommendation to Eli and the B-Seed board on which early stage startups they feel would most likely grow the financial investments of investors. The company is run by Eliezer Gross, an ehrliche Yid from Petach Tikvah, Israel. Eli says, “I believe that my successes have only been because of Siyata Dishmaya. I always felt that I had a guiding hand helping me in my decisions. I owe a debt

of gratitude to the Ribbono Shel Olam for enabling me to help others grow financially.” Eli authored two books describing his business adventures and attributing all of the outcomes – funny, sad, frustrating and sometimes bizarre – to Siyata Dishmaya. Eli built a team of seasoned experts from the fields of IT, engineering, biotechnology, and manufacturing and is backed by partners

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True Yoga Practice By Andrew Kahn

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ehudah ben Tema said: Be bold as a leopard, light as an eagle, swift as a deer, and strong as a lion, to carry out the will of your Father in Heaven.” Pirkei Avos, Ethics of the Fathers, 5:23 Should we really strive to be like animals? No, to the contrary, we are trying to gain self-mastery over the animal part of us that moves us to rage, demands immediate gratification, and renders us slothful. We aim to be physically, mentally, emotionally, and spiritually ready to do the good that we are uniquely positioned to do. As the inner discord is replaced with calm, we naturally know how to act with peace, love, and kindness and promote a more lasting harmony. This helps repair our world. The Leopard: While being bold is not always a good thing, there is a time to “stare the world down.”

Sometimes we truly need to have the quality of boldness to preserve life (often our own) and to help secure necessary sustenance. The Eagle: To be light like an eagle means to have, to some degree, overcome the forces of gravity. We do not want to be too earthbound, so grounded in the pursuit of our own physical pleasures that we become “sluggish.” We want to rise above our own addictions and attachments and excesses. As we do, we become physically lighter and we may even spiritually soar. The Deer: When we know the right way to go, we should run and not walk. Swiftness is a virtue when we are serving our fellows and G-d, but not when we are racing after our own selfish desires. The Lion: Sometimes we need to be strong and resolute in acting upon the truth that we see and knowour truth- even though others may

see things differently and not share our vision. Our vision has an important place, and we need to stand our ground with strength. After calming the restlessness in the mind with meditative techniques like yoga, learning, praying or just being out in nature, intuition functions as it is meant to and insight is gained. We know when to be unyielding and when flexibility, going with the flow, is the wiser choice. Whether our intention is to gain inner peace, fulfill a sacred covenant guided by Torah or other scriptural learning, or just to be the best human being we can be, we can look to nature, including the animal kingdom, and be inspired. With continued practice we can be bold, light, swift, and strong as we actualize our human potential and serve a larger purpose. Serving our families, our fellows and the One who lives within all – the Eternal One – is our real purpose.

This is the essence of true yoga practice. Our growing mastery and inner peace definitely helps bring on a larger peace in the world. May a greater peace, clarity, and harmony come soon and in our day. Shalom. Andrew Kahn is the owner of the Peaceful Presence Yoga & Massage Studio of Cedarhurst. At Peaceful Presence Studio we strive for an inner peace that includes an overall sense of wellbeing. Wellbeing comes from practices that promote mental focus, physical health, strength, flexibility, relaxation, emotional calm, and spiritual integrity. No membership required. Advance class sign-in preferred. Walk-ins welcome. 436 Central Avenue, Cedarhurst, NY 11516 www.peacefulpresence.com, 516-371-3715.

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Op-Ed

The Alcohol Keeps On Flowing By Zvi Gluck

aruch Hashem, I had the zechus of spending a wonderful Sukkos with my family in the most beautiful place in the world: Yerushalayim. While it was a truly remarkable and uplifting experience in so many ways, it was sadly tarnished by certain behaviors that I witnessed over yom tov. As I walked with my wife and children to and from meals over Sukkos, I could not believe the amount of drinking that was going on by the many students, both boys and girls, who are spending a year (or two or three) in Eretz Yisroel. They were being liberally supplied with drinks at meals and kiddushim, and I cannot even begin to tell you how many of them I heard speaking openly about the amount of alcohol they had enjoyed, identifying the various bottles by brand, year and price. Some of the kids I saw had had so much to drink that they were literally stumbling over their own two feet trying to make their way home. And that was before we even got to the second days of yom tov. The drinking that I just described all took place before Shemini Atzeres and Simchas Torah rolled around. Things were exponentially worse on the last days of yom tov, particularly when it came to those who don’t live in Eretz Yisroel who found themselves facing a 48 hour drinking bonanza. First they got plastered on Shemini Atzeres, joining Israeli shuls and families who were also celebrating Simchas Torah on the same day. Then they enjoyed an encore alcohol binge on the

next day, joining foreigners for their Simchas Torah celebrations and, once again, getting completely and totally bombed. But wait, it gets worse. There was one location where well-meaning individuals set up second day minyanim for the chutznikim, but there was no supervision whatsoever. From that site alone there were over 25 students who were so drunk that they were rolling around on the floor. Six more kids from that location ended up hospitalized, two of whom had to have their stomachs pumped because they had alcohol poisoning. It goes without saying that not every young adult who goes to study in Eretz Yisroel engages in this kind of destructive behavior. I witnessed beautiful yom tov celebrations at both Rabbi Senter’s and Rabbi Fisher’s yeshivos; there was zero alcohol present, just true simcha that emanated from the hearts of everyone present as they experienced the pure joy of yom tov. I have no doubt that there were many other sober events throughout Eretz Yisroel and I applaud everyone who participated in those as well. But there is no question that there were way too many events where the alcohol flowed freely and multiple friends who spent Sukkos in different neighborhoods in Eretz Yisroel told me that they had seen exactly the same type of drinking that my family and I witnessed. I wish I had all the answers to problems like these, but I don’t. Still, I know that what I saw in Yerushalayim is simply not acceptable and we all

need to work together to put an end to this situation before more lives are ruined or worse. No matter what country or neighborhood you find yourself in, if you are a responsible adult, be it the head of an institution or simply someone who wants to invite young adults for a meal or for a simcha, I urge you to do the right thing and to refrain from serving alcohol to your minor guests. It is also important to remember that the burden of responsibility for the excessive drinking by young adults in Eretz Yisreol falls upon many sets of shoulders. The yeshivos and seminaries to whom we entrust our children must not look away from these problems and must take a firm proactive stance on these issues. The well-meaning baalei batim who invite our children to their tables need to understand that they have no business allowing students to consume alcohol in their homes. We parents also need to be well aware of the many opportunities for destructive behavior that exist when our sons and daughters are spending a year or more away from home, and we need to make sure that they are equipped to face those dangers responsibly, no matter how tempting they may seem or what their peers are doing. Finally, it is important to remember that children mimic the behaviors that they see around them, which means that adults need to drink responsibly. Hoping to further that goal, Amudim has been promoting the concept of having a designated adult shomer in charge of all alcohol-

ic beverages at every simcha, event or kiddush. That person would make sure that all alcohol is kept in a single location, would pour all drinks to anyone of legal drinking age, and would refuse alcohol to anyone who has had one too many. We are confident that by introducing measures to eliminate unsupervised access to alcohol we can drastically reduce the number of young adults who find themselves addicted, a situation that can have fatal consequences. As a frum community, we need to remember that we are not immune from the problems that plague the outside world. Unfortunately, we are seeing more and more how alcohol, and yes, drugs, are destroying lives all around us, shattering families and inflicting unspeakable damage. The time has come for us to take a strong stance against these problems – not only do we need to demand accountability to those who are entrusted with the care of our children but we also need to require the same level of stringency from ourselves. Nothing is more precious than our kids. The time to stand up for them and to protect them from harm is NOW.

Zvi Gluck is the director of Amudim, an organization dedicated to helping abuse victims and those suffering with addiction within the Jewish community and has been heavily involved in crisis intervention and management for the past 19 years. For more information go to www.amudim.org.

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Why I Love Fall Festivals Pickles just taste better on a stick.

tion to Newsday. (Why the blue tablecloth?)

I realize how much I am willing to pay to entertain my kids for 5 minutes: $6, the price for them to put different colored sand in a bear-shaped honey bottle, which promptly spills all over the one room with shag carpet as soon as we get home.

Because they usually get me pretty hungry and since they are on Sundays and my diet starts on Mondays I get to go home and eat delicious food…one last time, before starting my post-Sukkos run!

I realize that if I keep my car running for just a few more years, I will get the best parking spot at the festival…and people will “ooh and ahhh” at my relic. (Anyone have a Korean War hat I can borrow?) I get to watch the band that was supposed to lead the ‘60s British Invasion before the Beatles “stole their thunder”…and now they are performing in front of a large field of pumpkins. (Does that singer actually see a sea of people in front of him in his own mind?) I get to once again not renew my non-existing subscrip-

I get to take a picture with the guy running as assistant local deputy school board trustee. (Hey, if you lose, you can always get a gig smiling in your local dental ad.) I get to sit on stacks of hay and then walk around the rest of the day with people wondering why I have a piece of hay on my clothing. (Hey, how about: “Um, sir, you have a piece of hay on you?”) I get a kick out of people who think they are George Washington…I sometimes think I am Elvis. There’s nothing like seeing a 4’6” person dragging a 6’4” scarecrow. I get to purchase locally baked pumpkin pie from someone who has at least two teeth.

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Jimbo is really, really drunk and stumbles out of the bar to go home. As he exits the bar, he falls flat on his face. “Ouch!” he mutters as he gets up and continues the long crawl home. When he gets to his front door, he opens the door and again falls flat on his face. He crawls upstairs into his room, stands up, falls flat on his bed and falls fast asleep straight away. The following morning his wife wakes him up and says, “You’ve been drinking again haven’t you?” Jimbo replies, “What makes you say that?” His wife says, “Well, you left your wheelchair at the bar again.”

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1. The Kingda Ka at New Jersey’s Six Flags is the tallest roller coaster in the world. How many feet is the fall?

3. What caused the fall of Athens? a. The Peloponnesian War

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b. The Greco-Persian Wars

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c. The Trojan War

d. 722 feet

d. The Battle of Thermopylae

2. When a Yugoslav Airlines plane broke apart in the sky on January 26, 1972, there was only one survivor, Vesna Voluvic, causing her to survive the largest fall in history. How many feet did she fall? a. 4,000 feet b. 12,000 feet c. 22,000 feet

 Answers

4. He was a famous politician who was quick to the trigger, causing Alexander Hamilton to fall to his death in a duel. His actions caused his political fall, and he went from being vice president to being tried for treason. Who was he? a. Andrew Jackson

c. James Monroe

b. Columbia

d. John Dickenson

c. Mexico

5. In what year did the Berlin Wall fall? a. 1969 b. 1972

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c. Dardanius 6. Angel Falls (Salto Ángel) is the highest waterfall in the world. The falls are 3,230 feet in height, with an uninterrupted drop of 2,647 feet. In which country is it located?

b. Aaron Burr

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Torah Thought

Parshas Lech Lecha By Rabbi Berel Wein

he pace of the narrative of the Torah abruptly changes with the events described in this weekâ&#x20AC;&#x2122;s reading. Until now the Torah has dealt with large periods of time and many generations and different numbers of human beings and nations. It concerns itself apparently with a broad overview of the origins of human civilization and of the formation of societies, tribes and na-

tions. Its narrative confirmed the idea expressed so vividly in the story of the building of the Tower of Babel, that the individual human being was relatively unimportant in the grand scheme of things and that individuals mattered little in the development of the course of civilization and nation building. All of this dramatically changes with the appearance of our

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ism in totalitarian societies of what value is there to what an individual may think or believe? But all of history has shown us that it is the individual that sets the course for human civilization and that literally a handful of people are responsible for the great changes, defeats and definitive struggles that have marked human history from its onset until today. I think this is the strongest lesson of the narrative of the lives of our father and mother, Abraham and Sarah, as recorded for us in the immortal words of the Torah. The prophet Isaiah will character-

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a world that was corrupted by idolatry and poisoned by violence and greed. The story of mankind becomes a stand-alone narrative. Even though the big picture is certainly in the background, it is the actions and beliefs of individuals that truly set the course for the further development of civilization and humankind. How often do we feel insignificant and of little consequence in the overall scheme of society, government and world affairs? After all, in a world where millions of votes are required to win a major election in democratic societies or where the rule of police and government crushes individual-

ize our father Abraham as being an individual, one, alone and different from all others. In this way his greatness has made him the founder of the people who are smaller in numbers but enormous in influence and who have fueled the progress of human civilization over the many millennia. The rabbis have taught us that we are to attempt to be Abraham and Sarah in each generation of human society. We are to represent what is right and moral, lasting and valuable, to be righteous individuals in a world that often loses its moral compass and godly direction. Shabbat shalom.

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From the Fire

Parshas Lech Lecha Same Place, Worlds Apart By Rav Moshe Weinberger Adapted for publication by Binyomin Wolf

av Pinchas Koritzer frequently said that until parshas Lech Lecha, before Avraham Avinu, the world was in a state of confusion. When Avraham came into the world, however, kindness and Hashem’s salvation entered the world. Let us see how Avraham’s life brings clarity to our world. Without any introduction, Hashem began speaking to Avraham with the words “Lech lecha, go!” With these words, our history began abruptly and without any preface. Hashem did not even tell him exactly where he was going. We know now, however, that Avraham was being sent to Eretz Yisroel, the land of Israel. The beginning of our parsha seems to imply that Hashem suddenly gave Avraham a new commandment, to leave his birthplace of Ur Kasdim and travel to Eretz Yisroel. The remarkable thing is that just a few psukim earlier, at the end of parshas Noach, we learn that Avraham had already left his birthplace and was already on his way to Eretz Yisroel. He had merely been waylaid in Charan. The pasuk says (Bereishis 11:31), “And

Terach took Avram his son, Lot the son of Haran, his grandson, and Sarai his daughter-in-law, the wife of Avram his son, and they went out of Ur Kasdim with them to go to the land of Canaan [Eretz Yisroel]...” We therefore see that it was Terach’s idea to leave Ur Kasdim and move to Canaan before Hashem ever spoke to Avraham. Why does the Torah present lech lecha as if it were a commandment to do something that Avraham was not already on his way to do? In addition, we must understand why Hashem tells Avraham to leave his birthplace. As we saw earlier, Avraham was no longer in his birthplace of Ur Kasdim. He was already in Charan, on the way to Canaan! Finally, we must understand why Terach calls Eretz Yisroel Canaan, but Hashem does not call it by name, but instead calls it (Bereishis 12:1), “The land that I will show you.” It is clear that there are two ways go to the same destination, Eretz Yisroel. There is “Aliyas Avraham” and “Aliyas Terach.” Why did Terach decide to “make aliyah”? The Torah makes a

point of omitting the reason, perhaps because there are numerous reasons someone may move from one country to another. He may have moved for economic, political, or cultural reasons. Alternatively, he may have moved to escape something in Ur Kasdim. There are numerous reasons why Terach may have wanted to move to Canaan. But Avraham moved to Eretz Yisroel for one reason: it was Hashem’s will. There was no natural, rational reason for Aliyas Avraham. Eretz Yisroel, to Avraham, was only defined as “the land that I will show you,” the land where Hashem wants him to live. Even later on (Bereishis 22:14), Avraham names Yerushalayim “Hashem appeared” in order to show “b’har Hashem yeira’eh, Hashem appeared on this mountain.” Terach, however, called Eretz Yisroel “Canaan” because it had absolutely no spiritual significance to him. For him, Canaan was simply a destination to which he could flee and nothing more. For Avraham, every inch of Eretz Yisroel was a revelation of G-dliness, another opportunity for (Bereishis 17:1)

“and you shall walk before me.” Everywhere he went, he built altars. Canaan and Eretz Yisroel were the same place, but for Avraham and Terach, they were worlds apart. Throughout history, our people have made aliyah in two different ways. Even when the Jews left Egypt to go to Eretz Yisroel, there were two types of aliyah, as we see in the pasuk (Bamidbar 33:2), “Their going out for their travels... their travels for their going out.” For some Jews, their aliyah was just “their travels for their going out,” meaning that they only wanted to go to Eretz Yisroel because they just wanted to escape the slavery of Egypt. For many, however, it was “their going out for their travels,” their departure from Egypt was not for its own sake. They were leaving primarily because they wanted to go to Eretz Yisroel and not simply because they wanted to leave Egypt behind. Referring to this idea, the pasuk in Yeshayahu (60:8) says, “Who are these who are blown like a cloud and like doves returning to their nests.” Rav

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Kook taught that some people come to Eretz Yisroel like clouds simply blown by the winds of anti-Semitism. There are others, however, who feel compelled to return to Eretz Yisroel like hatchlings returning to their mother, back home to their nest. The aliyah of Terach was the aliyah of being blown in by the clouds from some other place. Avraham’s aliyah was one of a dove returning home to its mother, to its home. Hashem told Avraham to “Go!” as if it were a sudden command to do something new because He wanted to emphasize to Avraham that his aliyah to Eretz Yisroel was not a continuation of Terach’s journey to Canaan. It was to be a completely new type of aliyah with exactly the opposite purpose of Terach’s. For Avraham’s aliyah, he was told to go “from your birthplace, from your father’s house.” Avraham had to leave behind his father’s attitudes and travel to Eretz Yisroel with a new purpose. For Avraham, the connection between the people of Israel and the land of Israel is not about some particular quality or advantage of the land. It is based on the will of Hashem. Hashem chose this place as the land where His unbreakable connection with the people of Israel would be manifest. That is where the three parts of one whole are united as one: Hashem, Eretz Yisroel, and the Jewish people. That is why, in His covenant with Avraham (Bereishis 15:9-10), Hashem told him to take “three calves, three goats, and three rams” and cut them in half. There are three types of animals and three of each animal because of the inseparable relationship between the three partners, Hashem, the Jewish people, and Eretz Yisroel. They were cut in half to show that none of them can exist separately from the others. They would be incomplete. The connection between them cannot be broken because they are united by Hashem’s will. The Jewish people and the land of Israel are chosen by Hashem and are therefore eternal. We understand that for those who made aliyah not in order to return home to the special place where we can reunite with Hashem, but merely to escape anti-Semitism, the search for a “national Jewish homeland” does not have to be in Eretz Yisroel, it could be in Uganda or anywhere else in the

world. But for anyone with a sense of Avraham Avinu’s connection to Eretz Yisroel, which is based on the fact that Hashem chose Eretz Yisroel and the Jewish people, Eretz Yisroel is our

ish people... Indeed, what dispensation do they have to agree to tear Eretz Yisroel into shreds by setting a hand upon the sanctuary of G-d and de-

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“Just like if one says that the entire Torah is from heaven except for one letter, he is a heretic, so too, anyone who says all of Eretz Yisroel belongs to the Jewish people except for one inch of it, he uproots the sanctity of Eretz Yisroel and denigrates the soul of the Jewish people.”

inheritance? … The land of Israel is the land of the life of the Jewish people such that we draw our entire sustenance from Eretz Yisroel. It is a part of the body of the Jewish people without which we could not survive. To take away a piece of Eretz Yisroel is to pierce the heart of the Jewish people. While there may be differing halachic opinions on the matter, such words could only be spoken by someone who recognizes the inseparable connection between the land of Israel and the people of Israel because of Hashem’s choice of Eretz Yisroel and the Jewish people as His portion. May we merit to see the return of the entire nation of Israel to the land of Israel as an eternal inheritance soon in our days.

filing a portion of the Divine gift which was given to us as an eternal

Rav Moshe Weinberger, shlita, is the founding Morah d’Asrah of Congregation Aish Kodesh in Woodmere, NY, and serves as leader of the new mechina Emek HaMelech.

only “homeland.” Such a person could no more give away part of Eretz Yisroel to another nation than he could cut off part of his own body. Even in the times of Rav Kook, and his closest student, Rav Yaakov Moshe Charlap, there were discussions about whether we should not insist on possessing the entire land of Israel in exchange for “peace” with our neighbors. In opposition to the “land for peace” concept, Rav Yaakov Moshe wrote the following amazing words in a letter printed in the first volume of his sefer Mei Marom: There is no doubt that if anyone would feel the need to sign an international treaty which would have the effect of giving up even the smallest rights to a portion of the land of Israel, it would be better for the signatories to such an agreement to cut off their own thumbs and not cut away any of the plantings of Hashem’s garden, (Tehillim 50:2) “from Zion, which is entirely beautiful, where Hashem appears.” Just like if one says that the entire Torah is from heaven except for one letter, he is a heretic, so too, anyone who says that all of Eretz Yisroel belongs to the Jewish people except for one inch of it, he uproots the sanctity of Eretz Yisroel and denigrates the soul of the Jew-

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Between the Lines

Yields and Dividends By Eytan Kobre

“I’m afraid we need someone with a little more backbone for this position.” You win the victory when you yield to friends. -Sophocles

n a chilly night in September 1986, two Soviet ships – a cargo freighter and liner carrying 1,234 passengers – were to sail past one another in the Black Sea. Instead, the ships collided and, within minutes, the liner sank so quickly that there was no time to launch lifeboats. Hundreds drowned to death. The tragedy was not caused by technology failure or weather conditions or human negligence. It was stubbornness. The captain of each ship had nearly an hour’s notice of the collision course, but they refused to give way to one another. Both were too arrogant to yield. And the results were tragic. Recognizing her inability to bear children, Sara told Avraham to bring her maidservant Hagar into the house “so that [she] could be built through her,” that is, not because Sara gave up on having children but because she believed that she herself would bear children “in the merit of bringing the maidservant into her house” (Rashi, Bereishis 16:2).

Put Sara’s yieldedness in perspective. She struggled for years to have children. She could hardly be faulted for being extra possessive of Avraham. But instead, yielding to Avraham’s benefit, she invited her rival into her home as a competitor for Avraham’s time and attention. Why? Yieldedness ran in the family (Bereishis Rabba 53:13), and Sara understood that by forgoing her rights in favor of Avraham’s best interest, G-d would forgo what might otherwise have been His plans for her. Because when we yield to others, G-d is willing to yield to us (see e.g. Rosh Hashana 17a). Yieldedness is vital (Pele Yoetz, Vatranus). Even the wicked King Achav, for example, had half his sins forgiven because he was foregoing with his money (Sanhedrin 102b). The Jewish people were exiled because they refused to yield to one another (Bava Metzia 30b). It was Rochel’s yieldedness in transmitting to her sister Leah the signs confirming marriage to Yaakov (Bereishis 30:22) – and not the pleas of the other patriarchs and matriarchs – that spared the Jewish people from annihilation (Eicha Rabba 24). And, during one severe drought, it was the prayer of R’ Akiva – and not that of his colleague R’ Eliezer – that resulted in rainfall “because [R’ Akiva] is yielding and [R’

Eliezer] is not” (Taanis 25b). Again, G-d yields to those who yield. On his mother’s yahrzeit, R’ Yisrael Salanter arrived in shul to learn that another congregant had yahrzeit for his daughter. Although the yahrzeit of a mother takes precedence in leading the congregational prayers, R’ Yisrael asked the other man to lead the prayers in his stead, as yielding would have an even greater effect in elevating his mother’s soul than actually leading the prayers (Tenuas HaMussar, Vol. 1, Chapter 32). More than just a spiritual merit, yielding is a practical necessity, the ultimate life hack. One cannot always stand on ceremony, refuse to budge, and claw for every last right or cent or slight. That’s no way to live. Yieldedness is the secret to a long life (Taanis 20b; Megilla 28a), because only by letting go can one truly live a life free of aggravation. During World War II, a young R’ Yaakov Galinsky found himself in a Siberian labor camp alongside Poland’s former ministers of justice and education. After some time, the two ministers approach R’ Yaakov and asked him to mediate a dispute: the education minister accused the justice minister of stealing his pillow; the justice minister copped to stealing the pillow but justified the theft

by claiming that he needed it to barter for additional rations for survival. Shocked by the depths to which these two had sunk, R’ Yaakov told them of his own experience in the labor camp. Early on, R’ Yaakov awoke one morning to find an extra ration of food under his pillow, a discovery that repeated itself morning after morning until R’ Yaakov resolved to find the “culprit.” Despite crushing labor, near-starvation, and sleep-deprivation, R’ Yaakov strained to remain awake and learn the identity of his anonymous benefactor. At 3:00 am, he felt a tug at his pillow. R’ Yaakov sat up abruptly to find an elderly Jew tucking rations under his pillow. “What are you doing?” asked R’ Yaakov. “Why are you giving up your meager portion for me?” The elderly man explained: “Before the war erupted, I was a wealthy man who lacked nothing. I now know that money is meaningless; life here has taught me that there are things far more valuable than money...The nutrients are less valuable to someone of my advanced age than they are to someone younger like you. You have your entire life ahead of you, and you could use all the extra nutrients you can get. Giving you my extra rations has preserved my humanity.” R’ Yaakov addressed the ministers.

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“That’s how you should act! Yield to one another, not despite your dire circumstances but because of them. If you can’t yield to one another in this hell then you’ve already lost your humanity.” Never is yieldedness more needed than when it comes to family (Bamidbar Rabba 9:2). The Chazon Ish advised that yieldedness is the most important trait in a potential spouse. And, in marrying off his children, R’ Yaakov Kamenetzky insisted that his custom was “whatever the other side’s custom is.” Or, as the Vizhnitzer Rebbe (Imrei Chaim) put it, “Our custom is to be yielding.” When the brilliant R’ Akiva Eiger was engaged to be married, the custom was for the groom-to-be to travel to his father-in-law for Shabbos and deliver a Torah address to the community. Following custom, R’ Akiva Eiger traveled to his father-in-law’s town, which eagerly awaited what was sure to be a wondrous display of the future son-in-law’s brilliance. But, alas,

R’ Akiva Eiger refused to speak on Shabbos morning, and no one could convince him otherwise. Bitterly disappointed, the townspeople spoke with the father-in-law after Shabbos. “The young man is no prodigy. You’ve been duped! He cannot even speak.” The next morning, R’ Akiva Ei-

surrounding the other groom-to-be. It was more important to me that he have the limelight. So I yielded to him and waited until today to deliver my address.” Theodore and Audrey Geisel (Dr. and Mrs. Seuss) long ago penned the famous tale of two Zax – a North-Go-

“Giving you my extra rations has preserved my humanity.”

ger delivered a brilliant, four-anda-half hour dissertation, wowing the townspeople. Asked to reconcile his curious behavior, he explained that another groom-to-be had been present in shul that Shabbos. “Had I delivered my address on Shabbos, it would have dampened the fanfare

ing Zax and a South-Going Zax – who crossed paths upon the prairie of Prax. Both refused to yield (“There they stood. Foot to foot. Face to face.”), assuming the world would stay put too. But they were wrong: “Of course the world didn’t stand still. The world grew.

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In a couple of years, the new highway came through And they built it right over those two stubborn Zax And left them there, standing unbudged in their tracks.” In a world obsessed with “rights” – and everything nowadays seems to impinge upon some “fundamental” or “human” or “universal” such “right” – it has become increasingly difficult to forgo anything, with the result that we have become conditioned to fight and nitpick and guard over every trifling matter. Family. Friends. Neighbors. Work. School. Shul. Wherever and whenever, we know our “rights” and we insist on them. But being so exacting is not worth it. It never is. Yielding pays far greater dividends.

Eytan Kobre is a writer, speaker, and attorney living in Kew Gardens Hills. Questions? Comments? Suggestions? E-mail eakobre@outlook.com.

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My Israel Home

Ashdod More than the Shore By Gedaliah Borvick Ashdod in 1957

hen one thinks of Ashdod, what usually comes to mind is the shore: the beaches, the port, the stunning sea views. However, there is so much more to learn about Israel’s fifth largest city. Mentioned over a dozen times in the Bible, Ancient Ashdod has a fascinating history hearkening back to the 17th century BCE, making it one of the oldest cities in the world.

First Planned City Established in 1956 on the Mediterranean Coast near the site of the ancient town and situated twenty miles south of Tel Aviv, Modern Ashdod was the country’s first urban planned city. Accordingly, it is one of the most attractive cities in Israel, with over 850 acres of beautiful public parks and gardens. Its wide multi-lane streets and boulevards traversing the city are adorned with lovely green promenades and bicycle trails. With a population of almost 250,000 residents, Ashdod is comprised of seventeen residential districts. Each district was meticulously created, with housing encircling the center which is comprised of stores, restaurants, parks, community centers and sports facilities.

Industry Ashdod is home to Israel’s largest port, with 60% of all imported goods entering the country via the Port of Ashdod. The port and industrial district were built to the north of the city to avoid air pollution drifting into the residential sections via the area’s ubiquitous southern winds. The city is in growth mode. A plan to build an industrial zone adjacent to the train station, which includes a high-tech industrial park, is in the works; the shore is undergoing significant development; and the Port of Ashdod is undergoing a massive expansion program. Because of its superior transportation infrastructure, Ashdod was chosen to become a “living laboratory” for a venture between MIT, Microsoft and other tech firms to develop and test advanced transportation systems. In addition, Ashdod has a “smart city” program in which it has set up digital bus stops, put sensors and smart cameras on new buses, etc. to enable researchers to obtain traffic and driving patterns data.

Demographics Ashdod has an extremely diverse population. Its first settlers were Moroccan, followed by an influx of Egyp-

tian immigrants. In 1991, immigrants from the former Soviet Union and Ethiopia ushered in a decade of largescale growth, when the population more than doubled. In addition, Israelis of many different colors and stripes have moved to Ashdod. Numerous professionals and high-techies live in Ashdod, as it is a mere 20-minute train ride to Tel Aviv. Drawn by the Mediterranean Sea, many French people have also made Ashdod home. In 1964 the Ponevezher Rav, Rabbi Yosef Shlomo Kahaneman, established the first hareidi neighborhood in Ashdod’s District Three. A dozen years later, Belz and Ger Hassidim established another hareidi community in nearby District Seven. These communities mushroomed, as other chassidic sects have since moved in. The chassidic community is now spilling over into neighboring District Six. Today, thirty percent of Ashdod’s residents are religious, making it the third largest religious city in Israel.

Proactive Municipality Ashdod has a proactive municipality, led by a visionary mayor. For example, Dr. Yehiel Lasri was one of Israel’s first mayors to promote the TAMA 38 program of making older buildings

earthquake-resistant. Apartment owners receive construction rights and transfer them to a developer who reinforces and upgrades the building in exchange for constructing additional residential floors. Though passed into law in 2005, very few cities initially embraced the TAMA 38 program. However, Dr. Yehiel Lasri understood that the only way for the city to expand was vertically – due to the dearth of available land – and made implementation of this and other urban renewal programs a priority. Today, most of Ashdod’s older buildings have been rebuilt or are in the process of being redeveloped. Offering many cultural and athletic venues, a hospital, an excellent educational system, first-rate government services and relatively inexpensive housing, it is easy to understand how Ashdod has attracted a broad cross-section of Israeli society.

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Hadata The Effort to Make Israel into a Secular Jewish State By Tzvi Lev

ast week, Israel’s Deputy Attorney General Raz Nizri proposed that hospitals begin allowing chometz on their premises during the holiday of Passover. Under Nizri’s plan, hospitals will cordon off a special compound in which Israelis would be free to bring in any outside food that they wish. Transferring the chometz out of the reserved section will be illegal, and all of Israel’s hospitals will transition to using disposable dishes during the Passover holiday so as not to violate kosher dietary laws. As chometz is not allowed to be eaten, sold, or even seen during the Pesach holiday, hospitals have traditionally banned chometz from their premises in order to accommodate

religious patients. However, left-wing groups challenged these guidelines in an appeal to Israel’s Supreme Court this past Passover, arguing that banning chometz from the premises amounted to discriminating against secular Jews. This is not the first time that Israel’s secular majority has alleged discrimination at the hands of the religious. In June, emissaries of the Chabad movement sought to hold their annual Lag Ba’omer event in Tel Aviv’s Rabin Square. When they approached the Tel Aviv municipality, they were denied a permit. The reason? The festive celebration would include separate seating between men and women. Despite the fact that the group had organized many other similar events

in the past at that site, the municipality told the Chabad group that it could not allow any event that included a separation between men and women. “Our city Tel Aviv, in which the Declaration of Independence was read, has always led the protection of human rights, equality and gender equality in particular,” said Mayor Huldai. “The decision not to hold the event is in line with the State of Israel’s values that seek equal rights to all, while eliminating the grave phenomenon of exclusion of women in public space.”

oth of these incidents are among the results of a new wave of anti-religious sentiment rocking the State of Israel. Under

the guise of fighting what is defined as “Hadata,” or “Religionization,” this movement seeks to fundamentally alter the historical nature of the Jewish state. According to these activists, the State of Israel is slowly undergoing a transformation from a western-oriented secular government to a religious theocracy akin to the Iranian Revolution back in 1979. In less than two years, anti-Religionization activists have made skillful use of the media to institute far-reaching changes in the school system, the local municipalities, and the IDF. Everyday Israelis were first introduced to this term in July 2017, when a television special showed the end-ofyear ceremonies in a secular kinder-

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garten. During the celebration, which coincided with the 50th anniversary of the reunification of Jerusalem, the toddlers talked about rebuilding the Third Temple with the golden painted bricks they had prepared. The report went viral and caused a storm on social media, where angry parents alleged that Education Minister Naftali Bennett, who heads the Religious-Zionist Jewish Home party, was secretly trying to brainwash children into following a religious lifestyle. Israel’s public school system is split into secular, religious, Arab and hareidi divisions. While the religious and hareidi streams have always featured a healthy dose of Judaic studies, the secular system taught a bare bones curriculum of Jewish history, Tanach, and bar/bat mitzvah training. Now, went the narrative, religious Jews were purposely attempting to missionize secular children via innocent-sounding non-government organizations that taught Jewish identity. “There is an orchestrated and coordinated infiltration of dozens of private organizations, the vast majority of which is related to the Jewish Home, united under a single umbrella organization named Zehut [‘Identity’], in which the notion of strengthening Jewish identity and a need to ‘cure’ what they see as the disintegration of Jewish identity among secular Jews is the crack through which they enter the Jewish education system,” said Dr. Avner Inbar in an interview with the Haaretz newspaper. Inbar, who co-heads a think tank titled Molad – the Center for the Renewal of Israeli Democracy, had been an instrumental part of the expose and called on secular families to wake up to the fact that “their kids have been taught by people with no training and that they have been taught without their permission.” “While secular Jews aren’t allowed near a classroom in the religious-Zionist education system, over the past few years the religious-Zionist NGOs – which belong to the religious Zionist sect that is prominent politically but is only 10 percent of the population – has basically taken over the curriculum and teaching of everything to do with Jewish content, Jewish values and Jewish identity in the general educa-

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at the beach.

Naftali Bennett: “There is no Hadata. What this is, is to give every child in the State of Israel a chance to get to know the ways of our people... I am proud of this program, and I invite all the members of the Knesset, everyone, to open the book and stop with the media spinning.”

tion system,” Inbar said. From there, allegations of Hadata were suddenly everywhere. One senior secular journalist breathlessly told his prime-time audience that his daughter had come home from school and told him that he would suffer in the afterlife if he did not fast on Yom Kippur. Another report which caused much

day of rest. Headed by a boy and a girl, representing the Shabbat Abba and Imma, the class would celebrate with a festive meal, complete with kiddush, challah, and Shabbat songs. The ceremony infuriated the “Secular Forum” group, who alleged that it inappropriately promoted a perception of Shabbat only as it is experienced by

Rather than singing about Shabbat, the newly-approved songs talk about the joys of spending time with family at the beach.

outrage showed an earth science textbook that mentioned Jewish farmers would historically pray for rain. Furious parents alleged that the textbook promoted religion and demanded that it be removed from the syllabus. Textbooks weren’t viewed as the only problems within Israeli schools, either. For more than a half-century, secular and religious preschools alike all held a Friday-morning activity preparing the toddlers for the Jewish

religious Jews. After intense lobbying by the anti-religious group, the Education Ministry introduced a new format for the Friday activity which erased all traces of Jewish tradition. Rather than the traditional “Shabbat Father and Mother,” preschools now designate only “children of the week” of either or the same gender. Rather than singing about Shabbat, the newly-approved songs talk about the joys of spending time with family

t is the Secular Forum that has been leading the “campaign against Religionization.” Comprised of several well-known left wing activists, the forum has a large social media presence, and regularly releases information regarding any and all public signs of religion in Israel. One of the Secular Forum’s main demands is the creation of a public school system in Israel that is free of any mention of Judaism. “We demand the creation of a secular public education system that would defend itself from the widespread religious radicalization of the Israeli society and education system,” reads a manifesto written on the Secular Forum’s website. “We believe that this is the only way to create an enlightened secular generation capable of critical thinking. This new generation will enjoy the highest levels of education, will know how to stand up for its rights and values, and will promote the State of Israel in the spirit of the founders of secular Zionism.” Secular Forum head Ram Vromen revealed his intentions for Israel in an article he co-wrote in the Forward. Together with former Labor MK Einaf Vilf, Vromen called on American Jews to fight for a total and absolute separation between church and state in Israel, similar to what has long been the law of the land in the United States. According to Vromen, “….liberal American Jews should support all of the various battles actual Israelis, living in Israel, wage on behalf of greater secularization and less religion in public sphere. This means resisting all efforts to introduce religion, of any kind, into Israel’s public secular schools. This means fighting for the teaching of evolution. It means supporting the numerous grassroots efforts of Israeli parents to keep religion out of their children’s schoolbooks and to keep religious ‘volunteers’ out of provision of extracurricular activities in school. “It also means supporting public transportation on Shabbat for those municipalities that seek it (imagine if in addition to having the names of donors on ambulances, they would be on buses providing services on Shabbat).

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Are certain rules in the army “religionizing” soldiers?

It means supporting the promotion of full equality for all citizens, especially on matters of family life.”

nother battlefield over the role of religion in Israel is within the military. The Israel Defense Forces (IDF) was designed as a “melting pot,” or an institution that would transform immigrant Jews from all over the world into proper Israelis. In line with early Israel’s egalitarian leanings, then-Prime Minister David Ben-Gurion refused to accede to pleas from Religious Zionist rabbis to allow all-Orthodox units. However, in order to ensure that observant Jews would also be comfortable serving in the army, Ben-Gurion entrusted the military rabbinate with far-reaching powers. Led by the venerable IDF Chief Rabbi Shlomo Goren, all IDF kitchens would be obligated to serve only kosher food. To this day, every army kitchen has a kashrut inspector and non-kosher food is banned from the premises. More than that, the IDF is not allowed to force Orthodox Jews to violate any of Judaism’s tenets when not absolutely necessary. Training is not allowed to be held on Shabbat, and military rabbis have the power to override orders issued by any commander. The army also acknowledges Jewish practice in many of its official activities. For example, every soldier is required to put his beret on his head and listen to kiddush recited on Friday night, and thousands of soldiers are taken on “Selichot Tours” of Jerusalem’s Old City preceding the Rosh

Is teaching children about farmers praying for rain a “dangerous” precedent?

Hashana and Yom Kippur holidays. Enter the Secular Forum: according to the group, such activities improperly foist religion on soldiers that are legally mandated to serve for three years in the military (or two years for women), and infringe upon these same soldiers’ rights. For instance, the Secular Forum ran a high-profile publicity campaign this past Passover

gender. The orders include banning physical contact between men and women, separate barracks, and rules defining appropriate attire while on base. According to the Secular Forum, however, the Order of Joint Service constitutes segregation of women. Numerous examples of female soldiers allegedly suffering in order to please

In Tel Aviv, the Secular Greens party offered promotional stickers to eateries that remained open on Tisha B’Av, despite it being against the law. alleging that the IDF’s policy of forbidding chometz on base was leaving conscripts malnourished and without proper food to eat. Another area of contention has been the army’s treatment of women. To enable observant servicemen to serve in the military without compromising Jewish law, the IDF instituted the Order for Joint Service regulating contact between soldiers of opposite

their religious counterparts soon surfaced in the media. In one particularly high-profile recent incident, Ynet reported that female soldiers were forced out of a swimming pool in order to make observant conscripts feel comfortable. The story caused considerable outrage, especially on social media. The problem? The story was almost totally baseless. The pool was

designated for mixed-swimming throughout the day. The female soldiers had been forced out during the one hour of separate swimming designed to allow religious soldiers to enjoy the pool as well. An internal study by the IDF found that no other incident has ever occurred in the IDF in which female soldiers were ordered out of a swimming pool in order to appease the religious. More and more stories followed. In September, a viral report publicized that 30 religious paratroopers turned their backs on a female parachuting instructor in order to avoid gazing at a woman. Outraged Knesset Members called for severe punishment to be meted out to the soldiers. “This is a rebellion,” fumed Yesh Atid Chairman Yair Lapid. “Remove them.” Yet further investigation unearthed that it had been the soldiers’ non-religious commander who had ordered them to swivel their backs on the instructor as part of getting into formation. The reports keep piling up, painting a picture of a military held in the clutches of an extremist military rabbinate. The parents of soldiers in the Armored Brigade protested the army’s long-standing order forbidding female troops from wearing white undershirts. Another Haaretz report said that religious commanders prevented families from visiting their children who were spending Shabbat on base. Last week, Army Radio reported that the military rabbinate was ordering soldiers to shut off their cellphones in base dining halls on Shabbat, under penalty of facing disciplinary action.

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Amidst the blizzard of reports painting a picture of the IDF becoming a theocracy, the IDF’s Head of Personnel Division Maj. Gen Moti Almoz issued an order to all of the army’s commanders forbidding them from adding to existing military rabbinate guidelines. “Considering certain reports regarding commanders choosing to be overly stringent regarding the dress code, for example forbidding female recruits from wearing white shirts or banning swimsuits in the pool area, these stringencies are contrary to IDF orders and policy; they unnecessarily harm wide sectors of those serving and are incompatible with the responsibility conferred upon IDF commanders,” wrote Almoz. “No commander is permitted to unilaterally decide to be more stringent regarding IDF orders. Orders regarding dress code and co-ed service are binding and must be adhered to. The IDF’s commanders are first-rate and are expected to find the ‘golden

path’ that will allow for a respectful service for all the soldiers under their command.” Following the reports of Hadata, the Knesset’s Secular Lobby held a hearing on the issue of Hadata in the IDF. Present at the hearing was the Secular Forum’s Ram Vromen, who demanded that the IDF create a unit parallel to the military rabbinate that would watch over the rights of secular soldiers.

he growing controversy over the place of religion in the public sphere has also contributed to radicalizing the upcoming municipal elections in October. Under the guise of “fighting Hadata,” fiercely secular political parties have been running anti-religious campaigns that many Israelis have deemed anti-Semitic. In Tel Aviv, the Secular Greens party offered promotional stickers to eateries that remained open on Tisha B’Av, despite it being against the law.

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The party called on its supporters to patronize these highlighted restaurants. In Ashdod, one party released a video showing rude hareidi men showing up to a secular man’s house and forcing him to observe a religious lifestyle. In Holon, the Yesh Atid party publicized a clip imploring secular people to vote, lest “they” (hareidim) be allowed to take control.

t’s important to stress that tensions between the religious and secular have always characterized Israel, even before its founding. However, the new campaign of Hadata differs from traditional left-wing opposition to religion because it implies that any expression of religion in the State of Israel infringes on the rights of the secular majority. According to Bar Ilan Professor Asher Cohen, a noted expert on religious issues in Israel, the campaign on Hadata is a new ploy from a left-wing that has given up hope on returning to

power via the ballot box. “Something happened in the last decade that gave [this campaign] another push,” Cohen told The Jewish Home. “What happened is that the reality has penetrated [their understanding] that they cannot replace the government.” Despite the strong sentiments, Cohen doesn’t estimate that the general public will be turned off from Judaism. “[The campaign] isn’t as effective as we think,” Cohen contended. “I saw a poll that asked secular people if children need to learn Judaism in school – in a secular school – and 50% said yes. It doesn’t manage to gather any significant public support. “The conversation doesn’t match the reality. The media reports are causing a subjective feeling of anxiety and fear.” Tzvi Lev grew up in New York and moved to Israel as a teen. He served in the IDF for three years and works as a journalist for multiple outlets.

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Dating Dialogue

What Would You Do If… Moderated by Jennifer Mann, LCSW of The Navidaters

Dear Navidaters,

Recently, I dated someone I’ll call Rena a couple of times. I hope to continue to go out with her because she seems to be a wonderful young woman in every way and I find that we are compatible together. I have no questions or complaints about her middos or personality. So far, it’s all good.

My problem may even sound silly, but it’s been bothering me from the very first date and I’m curious to hear what you all have to say about it. First, a little background. I am the oldest in my family and my parents are quite young and “with it.” They are modern looking and acting people. Our home, lifestyle and approaches are modern. Rena is the youngest in her large family. Her parents look as though they could be my grandparents! I wouldn’t be surprised to learn that their ages are more similar to my grandparents than my parents. When I stepped into their home for the first time, I felt as though I was stepping through a time warp. Everything about their home looked really old, dated and hard to feel comfortable in. Upon getting to know Rena, I realize that certain devices or techy terms I’m comfortable with are foreign to her. There is an old-fashioned, hard to relate to vibe going on with her and her parents. Though I know it’s not the most important thing in the world, I can’t help picturing my first apartment after marrying, and I picture something modern, sleek and similar to what I’m used to. I’m concerned that Rena may not know the first thing about the world I’m so comfortable in. Again, her middos are what matters and I know that I shouldn’t let this get in the way, but I’m worrying whether there is a tactful way to bring up this issue with Rena and where to go from there.

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The Panel The Rebbetzin Rebbetzin Faigie Horowitz, M.S. o not feel silly for asking. It’s good that you value Rena’s middos but good middos are not enough to determine compatibility for marriage. Other factors play a part and need to be explored. Do the two of you have compatible goals and values? Are you two moving in the same general direction? Are there qualities in the other person that each of you admires? Are you attracted to each other? Can you accept Rena for who and what she is including her family background and personal shortcomings? If the answer to all of these questions is yes, it’s usually a sign that a couple has a strong foundation upon which to build a happy enduring life together. If you feel an emotional connection developing and deepening, keep on dating and put the matter of family differences squarely on the table honestly and sensitively. With all that said, it sounds like you question whether you and Rena are headed in the same direction. If you were compatible in terms of where you are headed, even if she was on a slower journey, you would not be wondering whether she knows “the first thing about the world I am so comfortable in.” You have spent enough time together to know the answer. And it seems to be that you are not going toward a similar destination. As you date others, keep in mind the compatibility questions that go along with the middos criteria. You need suitability of goals and values as well as seeing and accepting the other person’s strengths and flaws.

The Mother Sarah Schwartz Schreiber, P.A. et me guess. There’s tri-colored shag carpeting in Rena’s living

room and a record player in the corner console. Her mother still wears shoulder pads and a “stiff” hairdo. Her father’s sports jacket is classic Sears. Still, while their taste in decorating may be so “last century,” Rena’s family has managed to excel in at least one area: raising Rena. In spite (or perhaps, because) of her old-fashioned upbringing, Rena has impressed you with her middos, her manners, and her personality. Rena is living proof that while styles may change, a person of strong character transcends the vicissitudes of fashion. You needn’t fear that in marrying Rena you will be relinquishing your fantasy of a high-tech, modern lifestyle. Nor should you jeopardize your relationship by bringing up this sensitive non-issue. Even if the techy terms and devices are foreign to her now, Rena, like all the kids in your generation, will catch on fast. I guarantee you: Rena did not choose her parents’ furniture. I also give you my word: if Rena should agree to marry you, she’ll leave her rotary princess phone back home on her doily-covered nightstand. Unless you insist she bring it along… for its kitsch effect.

The Shadchan Michelle Mond hile others are worried about middos/character issues or personality flaws, you seem to be doubting potential compatibility based on future apartment furnishings. While I do understand that there is a difference between the two of you and is something to get used to, I can’t wrap my head around why it would be a consideration of incompatibility. Go on a mission to try to find someone who married into a family just like their own, down to the parental ages, style and overall house-

hold furnishing style. You will find that many people marry into families that are different in this regard and still go on to have very happy marriages. This is because they put their focus on the other person’s middos, character and general compatibility. In your case, it doesn’t seem like this will be a problem. To quote your own words, “She seems to be a wonderful young woman in every way and I find that we are compatible together.” Unfortunately, I do not think there is a tactful way to bring up your dislike of her family’s style home without offending her and potentially throwing this shidduch off course. You can, however, look at the bright side. You will be marrying a girl who is low maintenance, who does not expect a lot of expensive and fancy things. Talk to any marriage therapist and you will hear that one of the main concerns young couples come to therapy for is monetary issues. More specifically, it is usually the wife who is used to a very high standard with high expectations financially, which the couple just cannot possibly afford. You will rarely hear stories where the couple goes to therapy because the wife is happy with living simply on the couple’s income and this upsets her husband. If you would like a solution to be able to backhandedly find out if Rena would be open to the same type of “style” home as you, I would suggest taking her on a fun date to Ikea. Many couples go to Ikea on a date since it’s a fun store! There is usually a café with a place to get drinks, sit and talk but also simply walking around the store is a lot of fun! You can play a game where the two of you go to a specific section, look at the different rooms, and both write down which room is your favorite and why. Then reconvene and show each other your answers; see how similar or different they are. Then you will have a segue to talk about how (that is, if ) your styles are actually drastically different.

While styles may change, a person of strong character transcends the vicissitudes of fashion.

There is so much communication that can come about during an Ikea date that can help you in this situation. For all you know, she does not have the same old-fashioned style as her parents and would be happy with whatever her husband would like. It does not have to be as big of a deal as you are making it out to be. Go have fun and remember to focus on how lucky you are to have found a girl with all the good, compatible qualities you see in Rena. Hatzlacha!

The Single Tova Wein o you’ve found a wonderful young woman you admire in many ways and are able to appreciate her terrific middos. Sounds like you are not a shallow person who only cares about “stuff.” You see the whole picture. What I think is happening here is that you are reacting to experiencing an environment that is totally different than what you have lived with your entire life and what you have just taken for granted as normal or regular. There is also the fact that you have very young parents and Rena’s parent are anything along with a sense of stepping

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into an alternate universe in which everything “feels” so different and maybe “off.” I doubt that this feeling is about the furniture or clothing, per se, but more about feeling out of sorts at Rena’s home, where nothing matches up to what you are accustomed to. That doesn’t make you a bad person – that doesn’t make Rena or her family bad people. It just makes you different

from each other and you’re sensing the difference. In order for this feeling to normalize a bit, I think you need to spend more time with Rena’s parents and in her home in order to get more comfortable with her surroundings. Hopefully, with time, it won’t all feel so alien to you. Also, I think there is nothing wrong with bringing up the ele-

phant in the room, namely the fact that you grew up in such different environments and bring it into the open and see what Rena has to say on the subject and where this conversation leads. She may be curious to know what it’s like to grow up with such young, “with it” parents. This conversation may lead to an informative discussion regarding how you both picture your lifestyle going forward. My guess is that after the “elephant” is looked at together, it

It’s simply a matter of different lifestyles and preferences.

will go away and leave the two of you with a very positive future to work toward.

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don’t think this is about “stuff,” technology or superficiality. Having grown up with young, “with it” parents, you are accustomed to a certain environment; a certain energy, if you will. And Rena, having grown up with older and/or more old-fashioned parents, has grown up in a very different environment with a very different energy than to what you have grown accustomed. Your parents may be into decorating their home with the latest, sleekest styles, running to the movies with friends, and trying out all the new restaurants while Rena’s parents have completely different interests and priorities. This isn’t a matter of right or wrong values; it’s simply a matter of different lifestyles and preferences. And anything different can make us feel strange or uncomfortable. When different enters the relationship arena, it can leave us wondering: are we compatible? So, you’re a high-tech, modern guy dating a fantastic, yet old-fashioned gal…and you ask if there is a tactful way to bring this up to Rena. Yes, there is! Next time you are on a date, pull out your latest device or a

gadget you are excited about. Show it to her. This is an opportunity to have a light conversation about your interest in techy, modern things as well as to see if Rena shows enthusiasm about your interests. More important than a shared interest at this young stage of your courtship is to see if there is a mutual respect and appreciation of each other’s differences. Talk about your backgrounds from there; the way you grew up, the way you envision your future. And most importantly, listen to what Rena has to say. Her responses may put you completely at ease. And even if they don’t, you will be closer to figuring out if you and Rena are compatible. Bottom line: if she shows interest and has respect for your modern, techy world, that is all you can ask from Rena. If she begins to share an interest in it, even better! If interest and respect aren’t enough and you just aren’t jiving because your worlds are incompatible, then you will have learned an invaluable

lesson about your own self and what you need to be in a compatible relationship. In my opinion, give this one more time. Rena sounds like a great catch and you need more dates/time to see where the suggested conversation may take you. PSA 1: It’s OK to talk about your concerns on a date. I’m not suggesting people say, “I’m concerned about your lack of interest in technology” but there are always tactful and appropriate ways to bring things up. The exception to this rule is if you are physically unattracted to someone. Do not bring this up in any way, shape or form on a date. Seek guidance, do soul searching, and be honest with yourself. Remember, talking is always best. Dating is a time to figure out if this is someone you can spend the rest of your life with. The process naturally requires conversation and communication. You want to see how the person handles the situation. Shying away from communicating concerns, priorities, and desires (also known as sweeping it under the rug) only complicates matters down the line. PSA 2: unless someone is a Picky Rikki or an Ego Inflated Effie, what you value is meaningful and important. If you’ve done your soul searching and left no stone un-

turned and believe in your heart of hearts that you will not be compatible or happy with someone longterm, well…that matters. “So and so told me that in five years this wouldn’t matter anymore, but it still does.” “I always had my doubts, but everyone made me feel crazy or a like a bad guy for caring about x.” No one (not a friend, parent, coach, therapist, rabbi, etc.) can predict whether or not you will be content down the road. What your support system can help with is supporting you, challenging you, helping you explore feelings and priorities, and offering feedback. Ultimately, we all our left with our intuition and free will, and it is up to us whether or not to use it. All the best, Jennifer

Esther Mann, LCSW and Jennifer Mann, LCSW are licensed psychotherapists and dating and relationship coaches working with individuals, couples and families in private practice in Hewlett, NY. To set up a consultation or to ask questions, please call 516.224.7779. Press 1 for Esther, 2 for Jennifer. Visit www.thenavidaters.com for more information. If you would like to submit a dating or relationship question to the panel anonymously, please email thenavidaters@gmail.com. You can follow The Navidaters on FB and Instagram for dating and relationship advice.

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Dr. Deb

This is What a Healthy Relationship with Your Kids Looks Like By Deb Hirschhorn, Ph.D.

hen I started focusing more on husband-and wife relationships it was because I was convinced that if they were “good,” the kids would be good. My concern – my heartbreak – was over the pain the kids were experiencing and what I really wanted to do was stop their pain, so I focused on their parents’ relationship. A happy couple had to create a great environment, right? That’s not always true, as I have sadly found. Many times parents who are too afraid to disagree with each other will take out their lack of skills on their kids and the result is the very pain I was hoping to prevent. So here’s my list of bullets for what a healthy parent-child relationship should look like: • Parents take a minute to figure out what is the smartest reaction they can come up with that will be useful in their child’s development when their child misbehaves. • Parents take a few minutes ev-

ery single day to check in with how their child is doing and how he feels, whether it’s about the academics, the social scene, or personality struggles with teachers – at all ages. • Parents have food ready for supper, possibly a snack, and clear rules about what can and can’t be eaten when the children get home. • Parents have clear rules about devices, who owns them, when they can be used, and what happens when they’re “mismanaged.” • Parents stick to their own rules. • Children know that it doesn’t pay to try to argue their way around the rules because their parents are consistent. That said, wise parents will listen to their child’s “points” in order to show them respect but will still stick to the rules unless the point was actually well-taken (I can remember that happening maybe once or twice). • Parents don’t mind explaining the reason for the rules but the child knows deep in his precious little heart

that the parent is simply being nice by doing that explaining because the rule will not change. • Anyway, such discussions do not take longer than about a minute, if that much. • Parents are praising the good behavior far, far more often than they are lacing into the child for misbehavior. • Speaking of being positive, rules and requests are formulated in a positive way. (“Yes, you can get a treat after dinner,” rather than “You can’t get a treat till you eat your dinner.”) • There is plenty of unconditional love given in the form of hugs, smiles, caresses, kind words, words of praise, and fun-type high fives. • Speaking of high-fives, there is plenty of lightheartedness and laughter every day. • Bedtime is at a known and given time. • There is a bedtime routine and there is a morning routine. Children like routine; it’s comforting and fa-

miliar. It also builds a shared history between the parent and child. • Children in middle school and older are responsible to get themselves up in the morning. A parent may choose to wake the child – once only. • Speaking of responsibility, children are taught to be helpful. Three-year olds can “get mommy a diaper for the baby” and elementary-school children can set the table. Middle-school children of both sexes can learn to cook and add value to the Shabbos table. They can learn to do their laundry and certainly put it away. Even elementary children can put it away. • Parents inculcate these routines in a pleasant way in the child from extremely early ages so that by the time a child is old enough to rebel, the idea never occurs to him. • Children feel heard and understood. • Children value the family’s values.

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• That means, among other things, they’re excited to go to shul with their parents (if their parents are excited to go themselves). • The children love their parents; the parents love their kids. (Wish I didn’t need to actually put this down.) • Children don’t always listen the first or even second time they’re told to do something, but parents know how to get them to listen without resorting to over-reactive punishments. (My granddaughter, 7, was crying because her 3-year-old brother pinched her. We all looked across the room for the culprit; he had put himself in the corner! His mom asked him why he was there and he admitted to hurting his sister. It was difficult not to laugh at the cuteness but there’s a point here…) • Children are taught to honor parents by bringing daddy a glass of water or doing some other thing that parents need. • Children know to ask permission to sit in their parent’s chair.

Forgetting is possible but a reminder should be all that’s needed if they accidentally sat down. • Parents give plenty of love, kindness, and care, but they do not cater to their child’s whims. • Parents don’t take their kid’s

sionate. That means they do not allow their children to go to sleep late because that isn’t good for them. That also means they feed them healthy foods. I do not understand this need to send children to shul with snack bags. I ate breakfast when I was a

There is plenty of light-heartedness and laughter every day.

misbehavior personally; they don’t feel sad or attacked. • Parents do not bribe misbehaving children. They know they can get the child to behave because the strength of the relationship between them is strong enough to not need material things. • Parents are kindly and compas-

child and, yes, I was allowed (for a few years) to bring my treasured plastic horses to play with but I did not eat in shul. My own children were and grandchildren are not allowed to bring food to shul. Why assume they need it? • When children whine, parents don’t get into a verbal back and forth

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with them. They don’t threaten or punish or get angry. It’s best to distract. Or put them to sleep. Lovingly. • When you set up rules of what the child needs to do in order to get a defined prize and the child doesn’t do it, parents do not say, “You didn’t earn it; I’m not giving it to you” as that guarantees an argument. Instead they say, “I’m so sad. I was so looking forward to giving you your X, but I see you really don’t want it.” Parents do not set themselves up as the “bad guy.” There are family dinners throughout the week, at least several times. And they are pleasant. The children enjoy being “part of.” That means the parents have worked hard on being the sort of people that their children enjoy being with.

Dr. Deb Hirschhorn is a Marriage and Family Therapist. She can be reached at 646-54-DRDEB or by writing drdeb@ drdeb.com.

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Health & F tness

Back to Routine By Cindy Weinberger MS, RD, CDN

ith yom tov behind us, we’re back to reality, back to routine. As kids of all ages head back to school, many parents find it hard to get back into the routine of meal prep. Waking up in time to eat a balanced breakfast, packing a healthy lunch, and cooking wholesome dinners require a lot of planning and dedication. Planning is crucial when it comes to meal prep. Finding a meal that the majority of the family likes, to fit everyone’s schedules and actually have time to prepare it can be tedious. Ideally, plan your meals in the beginning of the week. Make a menu and a shopping list for all the ingredients. One big grocery run saves stress and time. Once you have planned out your meals and bought everything you need, prep as much as you can in advance. Take advantage of your freezer. You’d be surprised how almost all foods, if wrapped properly, can freeze very well and taste fresh when reheated. When it’s one of those days when you just won’t have time to make dinner, simply pull a prepared meal out of the freezer, reheat,

and voila! a fresh, home cooked meal. Another friend of yours that will come in handy when dinner gets hectic is the crockpot. You can use it to make chicken, a roast, and even throw in rice and vegetables. Put it up in the morning and have a fresh, hot meal when you get home from work. If planned appropriately and prepared in advance, dinner can be much less of stress regardless the time you get home. Find a schedule and system that works for you. Another burden that many face is that there is no time for a sit-down breakfast. Ideally one should sit down and have a well-balanced, nutritious breakfast such as egg whites and vegetables, high fiber cereal with skim milk, oatmeal, or whole grain toast with cottage cheese. However, if you do not have the lifestyle which allows for a sit-down breakfast, make sure you take a breakfast on the go. Try throwing your favorite fruits or even vegetables with milk, a low-fat yogurt, or water and blend it all together. There are so many different recipes to try that are delicious and offer an array of nutri-

ents. Even more, smoothies are so refreshing that they will give you a morning boost and you won’t even need a coffee. If you really don’t even have a minute to prepare a smoothie in the morning before you race out the door, grab a yogurt and granola or berries, or a granola bar – but that’s pushing it because granola bars are low in protein. Another yummy idea, but this one requires prep ahead of time, is bake “healthy breakfast muffins” and keep them in the freezer. Just grab one and munch on the way. Use any “healthy” recipe you find that catches your eye. By “healthy” I mean substituting the oil, sugar, and eggs for healthier options such as honey, applesauce, whole wheat flour, and oat bran. When packing lunch for you or your kids, make sure each lunch contains a protein, fruit, vegetables and grains. Make a list of all the proteins your child likes and is willing to eat. For example, cheese sticks, tuna, hardboiled eggs, turkey, chicken, and fish sticks. Do the same with fruits, vegetables and grains, and then mix and match. Do the same for yourself. Remember,

eating healthy in the workplace is essential too. As mentioned above, planning is key. If you don’t have time for a sitdown, well-balanced breakfast, make sure you have the ingredients for a smoothie stocked up or prepared with something to grab on the go. Next, prepare a nutritious lunch for yourself and your family members. Lastly, sit down for a relaxing, wholesome, homecooked dinner. Whether you have time to make it fresh, or warming up something from the freezer, nothing tastes better than sitting down to dinner with family. Before you know it, you’ll fall into routine and feel that the next yom tov can’t come fast enough. Cindy Weinberger MS, RD, CDN, is a Master’s level Registered Dietitian and Certified Dietitian-Nutritionist. She graduated CUNY Brooklyn College receiving a Bachelor’s in Science and Master’s degree in Nutrition and Food Sciences. She is currently a dietitian at Boro Park Center and a private nutrition consultant. She can be reached at CindyWeinberger1@gmail.com.

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Health & F tness

It’s All in a Name By Hylton I. Lightman, MD, DCH (SA), FAAP

’ve been thinking about this article for a while. Actually, I’ve wanted to write about it for a long time. It bothers me. “It” is calling me by my first name. It’s happened in my office. During office hours. By some of my patients and their parents. The parents are young enough to be my children. Without a moment’s hesitation, if I ever heard or learned that my adult children called older people or profes-

sionals by their first names in professional settings – even if these people are their contemporaries – I’d sit down and talk with them. It’s wrong. As for the patients, well, once they’ve heard Mommy and Daddy or Imma and Tatty call me Hylton, then, of course, it’s been role modelled for them and they just bomb ahead, calling me by my first name. And it occurs outside my office and not only to me. There’s a local member

of the clergy who calls his congregants and others by their first names. The feedback about it is uniformly negative and that it’s unimpressive. So let’s start breaking down this phenomenon. Why does it happen? What is wrong about it? What can be done? Thankfully, many of my patients are people whom we know (including their parents, siblings and other extended family members) from other incarnations. Some relationships span decades. We may socialize with one another in our homes. We participate in one another’s simchas. We carpool together. Sometimes, this familiarity can lend itself to a blurring of the boundaries and calling others by first names. Others explain that they will use a person’s first name because they feel close to him and the first name use will help to engender a closer relationship. Whatever the reason, the fact remains that there are some basic tenets in life and one of them is respect for elders. Holding true to this assures little, if any, error. There is also respect for a person’s “station” in life. For example, our preschoolers always call their teachers “morah” or “rebbe.” It instills within children respect for the teacher and that we value learning. The same thing goes for the shul rav and rebbitzen. Despite the extent to which the rav and rebbitzen may be involved in our lives, it’s a must to address them appropriately. Calling a professional by his/her name, especially within the professional’s office and to his staff, is disrespectful. Plain and simple. The professional has achieved a certain level of

education and you’re entrusting them with some important part of your life, whether it be health, finances or legal matters. You want to assure that professionalism for obvious reasons. Using his first name can chip away at the professionalism. In surfing the internet, I found an article written by Jodi Glickman, a Peace Corps volunteer turned Goldman Sachs banker turned communications expert and president of Great on the Job, for the Harvard Business Review about 5 or 6 years ago. Here’s an excerpt: When, as a young person, you address someone as Mr. or Ms., you immediately establish yourself as either a) younger or b) lower status, neither of which is particularly helpful to your cause professionally. Instead, walking into a room confidently with a “Hello, John, nice to meet you. I’m Jodi Glickman. It’s a pleasure to be here” establishes you as both confident and mature. It minimizes that status gap rather than amplifying it with a “Hello, Mr. Smith, I’m Jodi…” I disagree with Ms. Glickman. Life is filled with hierarchies. It’s there from day 1 of life, when a parent is in charge (or at least should be) and there’s a child to care for and raise. A little later, when a child enters a classroom, the teacher is in charge, leading and teaching, helping students to develop skills and a love for the subject(s) being taught. And so forth. There are (not infrequently) times when a child or teenager may not care for the teacher. I’m sorry. It can be a l-o-n-g school year when a child and the teacher or rebbe are not a “shidduch.” Unless abuse on the part of the

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teacher in involved (and I pray it’s not part of the picture), despite the lack of chemistry, all parties concerned are mandated to keep respect first and foremost. The teacher or rebbe should never be called by the first name or last name only, either in the classroom or when speaking about the person at home. Yes, your child may have a legitimate reason for despising the teacher. But unless there’s abuse going on, my advice is to embrace this as an opportunity to teach the child respect even for people with whom we don’t necessarily like or agree. As parents, we should teach our children that there will be people in life whom our children will encounter who may not be the “right fit” for them but they have to learn to make it work. And there must be respect for these people for obvious reasons and especially when they simply are higher up on the totem pole of life. Addressing the other person appropriately is nonnegotiable. Similarly, in the workforce, there’s

much to be said for addressing people as Mr., Mrs., Ms., Dr., Rabbi, Morah, plus the last name. It’s a formality but it leaves little room for offending another. Imagine if you started out calling your new boss by her first name only to hear others address her by her title and last name. It will be awkward to switch from using her first name to

Addressing the other person appropriately is nonnegotiable.

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lationship. What do you do if a person of prominence calls you by your first name and you deem it inappropriate? Respectfully say something. If he’s a mensch, you’ll hopefully not have to say it twice. The Midrash tells us that we Jews merited leaving Egypt for four reasons. The first reason stated was because we didn’t change our names. Let’s return to the old way of calling others by their appropriate names and titles. Honoring others only ensures good for us, individually and as a people. It will keep those boundaries in place so, as Tevye the Milkman said, everyone knows who he is and what G-d expects him to do.

Dr. Hylton I. Lightman is a pediatrician and Medical Director of Total Family Care of the 5 Towns and Rockaway PC. He can be reached at drlightman@totalfamilycaremd.com, on Instagram at Dr.Lightman_ or visit him on Facebook.

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The Wandering

Jew

Looking Forward to the Past By Hershel Lieber

t happened over 50 years ago. It was a rather mild January night, after a delicious dinner at the Tel Aviv Restaurant on East Broadway in the Lower East Side. If I remember correctly, I had chicken soup with kneidlach followed by a main of flanken and chrein. I don’t recall what Pesi ordered, I was too preoccupied with my thoughts to remember. We went back to my car and I drove half a block to the corner of Essex and Canal and pulled over. It was there, on our third date, that I proposed. Pesi was flustered, and probably in shock, but courageous enough to answer, “I guess so.” To clinch the deal, I added that among other benefits of us getting married, “we would travel the world together.” Yes, I seriously wanted Pesi as my wife, but I was looking for a travel partner as well! I can’t vouch about any other commitments I made that night, but this one I kept. Other than a delayed honeymoon to Israel, and some car trips with my young children, serious traveling started about ten years later. Getting involved in kiruv was the springboard for a great part of our travel adventures. To date, we have visited 41 countries in Europe and 46 states in the U.S. I figure that South America, Asia and Africa will have to wait for the next fifty years. Kiruv opportunities kept coming our way from 1979 onward. Our journey to the Soviet Union that year and the prospects to meet and help Yidden there was our first experience. This was followed by being asked to serve as the chazzan for the Yamim Noraim in Warsaw, Poland, which I am still doing almost forty years later. Involvement with Jewish activists in Moscow and Leningrad, cemeteries in Poland, young Jewish students in Eastern Europe, teaching

Hershel with his wife, Pesi

at a summer retreat in the Polish Tatra Mountain region, and managing a Jewish School in Kishinev, Moldova, are only a small sampling of our kiruv opportunities. At home, we often hosted baalei teshuva guests for Shabbos and weekdays, room and board included. We were given the chance to become involved in their lives and attempted to help them in times of joy and need. In summation, our trips changed our lives immensely. We felt that we, baruch Hashem, gained a tremendous amount of spiritual growth and an understanding of our roles in life. In the process we met diverse people and got to know and appreciate various cultures and values. Recently, I was asked to write a bi-weekly column highlighting the many experiences and stories that have become part of our lives through our traveling. This column, albeit having elements of our travel highlights, will focus on the stories and lessons that shaped our lives and enriched our weltanschauung. I am sure that our readers will iden-

tify with the difficulties other people confronted and the dilemmas we faced as the stories unfold. They will be able to share times of despair and joy and moments of fear and relief. Many times, they will witness the Yad Hashem that was present in every step of the way. On other occasions they will delight and laugh at the humorous situations and colorful characters we encountered.

We are constantly asked how we got involved with kiruv, and especially with Jews from Poland and Russia. I am an accountant by profession, not a very exciting vocation. Pesi is very talented as a jewelry designer and part-time artist, but surely did not dream of dedicating so much time and effort in this direction. You may say it was by accident, but then again, nothing really happens by chance. I was always interested in prewar Europe and Jewish history. My father and mother, zichronom levrocha, always shared their stories with me and my siblings. Whether it was about their childhoods or the horrors they went through during World War II, their personal histories always fascinated me. Those images were so alive that they gave me the longing to go back to the old country to somewhat recapture their past. And that’s what I did. In the spring of 1977, I joined one of the earliest chassidishe tours organized by Reb Mendel Reichberg to visit kevorim and Jewish sites in Poland. And a very chassidishe group it was. I

A 1979 photo of the Remu Synagogue in Krakow

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was the only one eating the “kosher” airline meal. Everyone else brought brown papers bags with food from home. I was the only one in a suit and tie! To top it off, I forgot my gartel at home. Yet, I felt quite comfortable. I was sitting next to a Rebbe, and we actually had a lot to talk about. This journey can be called the “If it’s Tuesday, We are in Gorlitz”-style trip. Three days, nineteen cemeteries and seventy-six kevorim later, the group departed back to New York. But I remained. I stayed over Friday and Shabbos in Krakow. Krakow, the once Yiddishe cradle of so many rabbonim and gedolim, was also the pre-war home of both of my parents. Those two days I spent walking the old cobblestoned streets of Kazimierz. The area was very neglected, but had remnants of the former Jewish presence dating from the Middle Ages until World War II. Decrepit

Decrepit shul buildings and forlorn cemeteries with crumbling tombstones gave an eerie atmosphere to what was once the pride and joy of Jewish Krakow.

shul buildings and forlorn cemeteries with crumbling tombstones gave an eerie atmosphere to what was once the pride and joy of Jewish Krakow. I found the building that my father’s family lived in, as well as the apartment where my mother spent two years before the war. I went into the courtyard of the building, where my great-grandfather, Reb Yokel Leser, lived and raised thirteen children, most whom were

At the entrance to Hershel’s grandfather Reb Yokel Leser’s house in 1977

killed by the Nazis, ym”sh. I was blown away by this trip. I felt a mixture of nostalgia and sorrow the entire time I was there. But I vowed to come back. And not so long after, come back I did.

Hershel Lieber has been involved in kiruv activities for over 30 years. As a founding member of the Vaad L’Hatzolas

Nidchei Yisroel he has traveled with his wife, Pesi, to the Soviet Union during the harsh years of the Communist regimes to advance Yiddishkeit. He has spearheaded a yeshiva in the city of Kishinev that had 12 successful years with many students making Torah their way of life. In Poland, he lectured in the summers at the Ronald S. Lauder Foundation camp for nearly 30 years. He still travels to Warsaw every year – since 1979 – to be the chazzan for Rosh Hashana and Yom Kippur for the Jews there. Together with Pesi, he organized and led trips to Europe on behalf of Gateways and Aish Hatorah for college students finding their paths to Jewish identity. His passion for travel has taken them to many interesting places and afforded them unique experiences. Their open home gave them opportunities to meet and develop relationships with a variety of people. Hershel’s column will appear in The Jewish Home on a bi-weekly basis.

The Kovea Itim L’Torah Shul in Krakow in 1979

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In The K

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Lentil Feta Burgers Dairy • Yields 12 servings By Naomi Nachman

These burgers are just the thing when you don’t want a meat meal but do want to increase the protein in a dairy meal.

Ingredients 1 medium onion, diced 2 tablespoons canola oil 1 teaspoon kosher salt 2 cloves garlic, crushed ½ teaspoon cumin ½ teaspoon smoked paprika 2 eggs, lightly beaten 2 tablespoons flour 1 cup panko crumbs 1 cup uncooked lentils, prepared according to package directions ½ cup feta cheese, crumbled Oil, for frying Spicy mayo, for serving Tomato, additional feta, and buns, optional, for serving

Preparation Heat sauté pan over medium heat; add oil. When oil is hot, add onion; sauté for 5 minutes. Add garlic, cumin, and smoked paprika. Sauté for 2-3 minutes. Remove from heat; transfer to a mixing bowl. Add lentils and feta to the onion mixture, stirring to combine. Add eggs, flour, and panko crumbs. Stir to combine; set aside to thicken for 20 minutes. In a sauté pan over medium heat, heat 4 tablespoons canola oil. Form the lentil mixture into patties; fry for 5 minutes on each side, until cooked through. Serve on a bun with spicy mayo, a slice of tomato, and a sprinkle of feta, if desired. Cook’s Tip: You can also use 1 pouch of Gefen’s ready-to-eat Organic Lentils, which are available in most kosher supermarkets.

Naomi Nachman, the owner of The Aussie Gourmet, caters weekly and Shabbat/ Yom Tov meals for families and individuals within The Five Towns and neighboring communities, with a specialty in Pesach catering. Naomi is a contributing editor to this paper and also produces and hosts her own weekly radio show on the Nachum Segal Network stream called “A Table for Two with Naomi Nachman.” Naomi gives cooking presentations for organizations and private groups throughout the New York/New Jersey Metropolitan area. In addition, Naomi has been a guest host on the QVC TV network and has been featured in cookbooks, magazines as well as other media covering topics related to cuisine preparation and personal chefs. To obtain additional recipes, join The Aussie Gourmet on Facebook or visit Naomi’s blog. Naomi can be reached through her website, www.theaussiegourmet.com or at (516) 295-9669.

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Notable Quotes “Say What?!”

You cannot be civil with a political party that wants to destroy what you stand for, what you care about. That’s why I believe, if we are fortunate enough to win back the House and/or the Senate, that’s when civility can start again. - Hillary Clinton, in an interview with CNN’s Christiane Amanpour

I am very strongly in favor of mobilizing the American people to stand up and fight for economic justice and social justice and racial and environmental justice, and I think we have to mobilize people. - Sen. Bernie Sanders (I-VT), on CNN, refusing to condemn political mobs engaged in harassment and intimidation

Michelle [Obama] always says, “When they go low, we go high.” No, when they go low, we kick ‘em. That’s what this new Democratic Party is about. Senator Warren is undermining tribal interests with her continued claims of tribal heritage. - Cherokee Nation Secretary of State Chuck Hoskin, Jr. responding to Sen. Elizabeth Warren’s (D-MA) announcement this week that she did not lie when she claimed on her Harvard application that she was Native American because a DNA test that she just took shows that she is anywhere between 1/64th and 1/1,024th Native American (which is less Native American ancestry than the average white American)

[Senator Warren is] potentially one-one-thousand-and-twentyfourth Indian, which is 0.09 percent. Using such standards, I’m Asian, which is why I can’t get into Harvard. – Greg Gutfeld, Fox News

I have to say at this point, Michael Avenatti is as much of a good lawyer as Elizabeth Warren is Native American.

- Obama’s Attorney General Eric Holder, at a campaign event in Georgia

Here’s my view of the Democratic Party…going low is a step up for you. You are in the gutter. - Senator Lindsey Graham (R-SC) on Fox News

Hey, guess what? Your parents are using you as tools. But in the future, if somebody makes an allegation against you, and there’s no proof for it, you will be OK. - Sen. Bill Cassidy (R-LA) after the Kavanaugh vote, when a liberal agitator took her children and blocked him in a hallway and shouted, “Senator Cassidy, can you please apologize to my children for ruining their futures?”

- Ben Shapiro

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Why don’t we laugh at him? Why does no interviewer simply burst into giggles when he unveils his latest absurd fib? And yet there comes a point at which laughter begins to falter, under the simple, steady weight of events. As I’ve noted before, Trump’s record as a force of destruction is profound, whether it be the sabotage of Obamacare, the devastation of democratic norms, or the rattling of NATO. But as the months tick by, there’s a decent case that Trump’s proactive accomplishments are beginning to add up as well: a huge tax cut, two Supreme Court justices, wholesale deregulation, renegotiation of NAFTA, isolation of Iran, and a broader reboot of bilateral nationalism on the world stage. But I’m not talking merely about policy — he has also shifted the entire policy more decisively toward the authoritarian style of government. In this respect, yes, the Trump administration has indeed accomplished much more than many of us want to believe. – Andrew Sullivan, New York Magazine, in an article titled, “The Danger of Trump’s Political Accomplishments”

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Jared is such a hidden genius that no one understands. - Outgoing UN Ambassador Nikki Haley at a White House press conference with the president, announcing her resignation

Ivanka would be dynamite, but, you know, I would then be accused of nepotism, if you can believe it, right? I think Ivanka would be incredible. It doesn’t mean I would pick her because I would be accused of nepotism. – President Trump trolling the press about whom his next UN ambassador may be

But the thing of it is, the blue wave is African-American. It’s white, it’s Latino, it’s Asian Pacific Islander. It is disabled. It is differently abled … It is law enforcement. It is veterans. It is made up of those who are told they are not worthy of being here ... those who are documented and undocumented.

Even though I’m not sure there is anybody more competent in the world. But that’s OK. But we are looking at numerous people. - Ibid.

- Georgia’s Democratic gubernatorial nominee Stacey Abrams, at a rally last week, indicating that illegal immigrants may vote in the mid-terms

I wish he would create the headlines by his play on the field as opposed to what he says and what he does off the field… I think he needs to do a little more playing and a little less talking. – Giants owner John Mara criticizing Odell Beckham Jr. for his recent interview on ESPN, in which he questioned quarterback Eli Manning, coach Pat Shurmur and his willingness to stay in New York just weeks after signing a $95 million contract

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Imagine if a reinforced concrete block seven times your weight was placed on your chest. -Russian astronaut Alexei Ovchinin, in an interview with Russian TV, describing the G-force he and his crew experienced when they had to abort their mission on October 11 after the Soyuz rocket supposed to carry them to the International Space Station failed

There was actually no time to be nervous. We had to work. We had to carry out various actions that have to be done by the crew to prepare for an emergency landing. - Ibid.

On Saturday night, Brett Kavanaugh was sworn in as Supreme Court justice. He said it was a night he’ll never forget, because he wrote it on a weird calendar he’ll keep for 30 years.

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Political Crossfire

Western Spy Agencies Strike Back By David Ignatius

ne of the most satisfying moments in any spy thriller is when the bad guy – the black-hat operative who has been killing and tormenting his adversaries – does something dumb and gets caught. That’s essentially what’s been happening recently with Russian President Vladimir Putin’s pet spy agency, the GRU. What’s fascinating about the GRU revelations is that they seem to reflect an aggressive pushback after several years in which Putin (chiefly through the GRU) launched recklessly aggressive covert actions against the West. The West is retaliating (at least in part) with public information that blows GRU covers and operating methods and, frankly, makes them look clumsy and incompetent. These disclosures are the latest in a string of disasters for the GRU, a military spy service known for its panache and daring. Now, we should add sloppiness to that list of operational trademarks. The GRU’s spycraft occasionally looks closer to TV’s Maxwell Smart than John le Carre’s vaunted fictional spymaster, Karla. The latest expose of the GRU’s not-so-secret tradecraft came last Tuesday, when a British investigative group shredded layer of the lies surrounding Russia’s attempt to poison former agent Sergei Skripal in March. It was the equivalent of the tough guy in the trench coat getting caught with his undershorts around his ankles. Bellingcat, as the group calls itself, presented photographic evidence showing that a suspect in the

Skripal attack, who the Russians had claimed was a tourist named Petrov who worked in the sports nutrition business, is really a GRU doctor named Alexander Mishkin. Last month, Bellingcat had exposed another suspect, whose cover identity was “Ruslan Boshirov,” as GRU Col. Anatoliy Chepiga. The most detailed exposures of GRU tradecraft came in a Justice Department indictment that was unsealed on October 4, in tandem with supporting statements from Britain and the Netherlands. The indictment,

a second, chilling GRU hack stole information from Westinghouse about advanced U.S. nuclear-reactor technology. A third targeted two investigations of the Novichok nerve agent used in the Skripal hit, one by an international chemical weapons group in The Hague and another by a chemical laboratory in Switzerland. These were brazen operations, but they were also messy. The dry pages of the indictment reveal tradecraft secrets that could animate a half-dozen spy novels. The GRU operatives used spoof websites

The dry pages of the indictment reveal tradecraft secrets that could animate a half-dozen spy novels.

which named seven GRU officers, included details about Russian spy operations that could only have been collected by the CIA and National Security Agency and its foreign partners. (Three of the Russians had also been named in July’s indictment of 12 GRU officers for meddling in the 2016 U.S. presidential election.) Last week’s indictment is a treasure trove for spy mavens. One GRU hacking operation sought to sabotage the World Anti-Doping Agency’s effort to punish Russia for systematically drugging its Olympic athletes;

to “spearphish” victims into revealing login information (creating a “westinqhousenuclear.com” site, with the misspelled “q,” for example). They made payments in Bitcoin and other cryptocurrencies. (Weren’t those supposed to be untraceable?) They used malware tools with names like “Gamefish,” “Chopstick” and “X-tunnel.” They dumped their hacked information by sending direct messages on Twitter to 116 reporters and exchanging emails with 70 journalists. For the last few years, the CIA, NSA and FBI have watched as hackers

and whistleblowers (perhaps with a helping hand from Moscow) revealed the agencies’ hacking techniques. For U.S. intelligence officials, revenge is a dish best eaten cold. The most astonishing disclosure came from the Dutch, who caught four GRU officers red-handed in The Hague as they were hacking the headquarters of the Organization for the Prohibition of Chemical Weapons. As Dutch intelligence officers intervened, “the conspirators abandoned their equipment,” including a backpack and other gear that revealed techniques and a string of other operations, according to the indictment. The Dutch even found a taxi receipt showing that a member of the team had left the rear entrance of the GRU headquarters in Moscow and headed to the airport. The implicit message in all of this: if you hit us, one of the ways we will retaliate is by exposing your operatives, sources and methods. There are other reprisals underway, but these public disclosures undermine the GRU’s operational capabilities. And they must make the Russian spy service wonder: what else do the Americans and their allies know? If agent A is blown, then what about his colleagues B, C, and D? The CIA and its foreign allies don’t normally like to reveal secrets like these because they reveal how much they know about their adversary. The revelations are a public warning to Putin: knock it off, you’re more vulnerable than you think. (c) 2018, Washington Post Writers Group

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Political Crossfire

Trump Could Be the Most Honest President in Modern History By Marc A. Thiessen

onald Trump may be remembered as the most honest president in modern American

history. Don’t get me wrong, Trump lies all the time. He said that he “enacted the biggest tax cuts and reforms in American history” (actually they are the eighth largest) and that “our economy is the strongest it’s ever been in the history of our country” (which may one day be true, but not yet). In part, it’s a New York thing – everything is the biggest and the best. But when it comes to the real barometer of presidential truthfulness – keeping his promises – Trump is a paragon of honesty. For better or worse, since taking office Trump has done exactly what he promised he would do. Trump kept his promise to move the U.S. Embassy in Israel from Tel Aviv to Jerusalem, something his three immediate predecessors also promised yet failed to do. He promised to “crush and destroy ISIS,” and two years later he is on the verge of eliminating the Islamic State’s physical caliphate. He promised to impose a travel ban on countries that he saw as posing a terrorist threat and after several false starts the final version of his ban was upheld by the Supreme Court. He promised to punish Syria if it used chemical weapons on its people, and, unlike his immediate predecessor, he followed through – not once but twice.

Trump pledged to nominate Supreme Court justices “in the mold of Justice [Antonin] Scalia,” and now Neil Gorsuch and Brett Kavanaugh sit on the high court. Trump also pledged to fill the federal appellate courts with young, conservative judges, and so far the Senate has confirmed 29 – more than any recent president at this point in his administration. Trump vowed to pass historic tax reforms, and signed the first major

included a little-noticed provision creating “Opportunity Zones” to try to revitalize struggling towns and inner-city communities. Trump promised to cancel President Barack Obama’s Clean Power Plan, withdraw from the Paris climate accord, approve the Keystone XL and Dakota Access pipelines, and open the Arctic National Wildlife Refuge to exploration. He fulfilled all of those pledges.

When Trump says he will do something, you can take it to the bank.

overhaul of the tax code in three decades. He vowed an unprecedented regulatory rollback, with a strict policy to eliminate two existing regulations for every new regulation. In his first year, he achieved $8.1 billion in lifetime regulatory savings and is on track to achieve an additional $9.8 billion this year. During the campaign, he told African-American voters, “What do you have to lose? ... I will straighten it out. I’ll bring jobs back. We’ll bring spirit back.” On his watch, African-American unemployment reached the lowest level ever recorded, and his tax reform

On trade, he kept his promise to withdraw from the Trans-Pacific Partnership and impose tariffs on steel and aluminum. He also committed to renegotiating NAFTA and the U.S.-Korea Free Trade Agreement – and recently signed new deals with Mexico, Canada and South Korea. He committed to imposing tariffs on China to force it to open its markets and stop its theft of intellectual property – and is following through on that pledge. Whatever one thinks of Trump’s trade policies, he is doing exactly what he said. The president pledged historic increases in defense spending, and deliv-

ered. He pledged to bring back manufacturing jobs, and manufacturing jobs are growing at the fastest pace in more than two decades. He pledged to sign “Right to Try” legislation to give dying Americans access to experimental treatments, and did. He pledged to take on the opioid epidemic, and will soon sign a sweeping bipartisan opioids package into law. Where Trump has failed to keep promises, such as building the wall or repealing Obamacare, it has not been for a lack of trying. Only in a few rare instances has he backtracked on a campaign pledge – such as when he admitted that he was wrong to promise a complete withdrawal of U.S. forces from Afghanistan and reversed course. I’m glad he did. But whether one agrees or disagrees is not the point. When Trump says he will do something, you can take it to the bank. Yes, he takes liberties with the truth. But unlike his predecessor, he did not pass his signature legislative achievement on the basis of a lie (“If you like your health care plan, you can keep it”) – which is clearly worse than falsely bragging that your tax cut is the biggest ever. The fact is, in his first two years, Trump has compiled a remarkable record of presidential promise-keeping. He’d probably say it’s the best in history – which may or may not end up being true. It’s too soon to tell. (c) 2018, Washington Post Writers Group

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Tech for the Tribe

Alexa, Get Ready for Shabbos! By Dov Pavel

hen Amazon introduced its digital voice assistant, the Echo, affectionately known as Alexa, in June 2015, it was a game changer. It caught consumers and tech giants like Apple by surprise and upended the home technology industry. I was testing lighting and home automation devices at the time and was surprised to receive an invite to be an early beta tester for the Echo. I often received skeptical questions from my otherwise supportive wife: is it too difficult to press a button that you need to use voice control? But as the Alexa app log demonstrates, she is a convert! “Alexa, how many teaspoons in an ounce?” “Alexa, play my favorite station on Pandora.” “Alexa, set a timer for 30 minutes.” “Alexa, turn off all kitchen lights.” And my least favorite, “Alexa, what time does the mall close?” Wait, “logs” you ask? Yes, Alexa is listening and recording, always! While recording voice logs in your home raises many privacy concerns, I have learned that with home automation, privacy is what you give up for convenience, much like other technology we have already grown accustomed to. To be fair, the logs are only sent back to Amazon when you preface your sentence with the wake-up word, Alexa. However, to hear the word Alexa, the Echo must always be listening. In certain models of the Echo, the device moves from audio logs to video logs, which

can raise an eyebrow even further. I won’t go there, yet. The always-listening feature does bring us to an important Shabbos question: Does one have to turn Alexa off for Shabbos if it is always actively listening and evaluating? I posed this question to Rabbi Binyamin Zimmerman of the Zomet Institute in Israel (zomet.org), and he responded that “since Alexa is always listening by capturing all sound in its vicinity and analyzing it to determine if it contains the

Echo on in your home on Shabbos. I sought a second opinion from other rabbis, and they all agreed with the Zomet conclusion that keeping Alexa on in your home on Shabbos is a problem. I asked the question again when Amazon announced that the Echo will be listening for glass breaks and smoke alarms to see if that would make a difference and the answer was still the same. From my own user experience, I have encountered practical reasons that you should always turn

I look forward to the week when I am able to share a Shabbos mode workaround, and Alexa will observe a day of needed rest.

trigger word Alexa, all speech triggers a function within the device. Although on Shabbos one might not care for this function, as one will (at least try their best) to not say ‘Alexa,’ it is a function that they very much want during the week. Therefore, even Alexa’s normal functioning on Shabbos would raise serious concerns, even if her name is never stated.” In other words, the Zomet Institute position on the Echo is that it is not permissible to have the

the Echo off for Shabbos. I have had the device mishear the word Alaska as Alexa during the Shabbos meal. I have also had the device play random music without prompt. I have heard comparable stories from other users. What do you do on Rosh Hashanah when Alexa randomly starts playing music, as one user described? Pray (out loud) and ask for “Alexa to stop” and hope for a miracle? I therefore recommend you al-

ways have an Alexa Shabbos plan. You can certainly unplug the device for Shabbos. Amazon is keenly aware of the privacy issue that their devices present and prominently offers on all versions of the Echo a mute button that will turn off the microphones and video if applicable. This would be effective in addressing Shabbos concerns. An important voice command feature that is noticeably absent from the Echo is the ability to ask Alexa to stop listening. Sure, you can physically push the mute button, but that is counter to the entire premise of the Echo. A routine that would allow you to say, “Alexa, get ready for Shabbos!” and would trigger a series of actions, including turning off the microphones in all Echo-enabled devices, would be a welcome addition to the service for Shabbos and non-Shabbos observers alike. My technical recommendation for now is to turn the automation technology against itself and have the Echo device plugged into a smart switch or outlet that turns itself off for Shabbos. This is what I have implemented, and it is effective. Upon turning the device on for havdalah, the device wakes without any need for re-configuration. Perhaps when Amazon sees many devices going offline for Shabbos it will add this feature. Honestly, I think this problem will become even more difficult to address in the future as more tra-

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ditional appliances and gadgets around your home will come embedded with Alexa. Amazon makes it clear that this is their strategy and offers a free integration tool kit to make it easy for manufacturers to implement. They recently introduced their Alexa-enabled microwave which if anything is a message to electronics manufacturers to integrate Alexa in everything or else they will. Google is right behind Amazon as their search engine empire is at risk as searches move from computers and phones to voicebased devices (and the Google home device will have the same Shabbos issues). Refrigerators, thermostats, speakers, microwaves, washers and dryers will likely all have voice recognition embedded. Many already do. The Consumer Electronics Show this past year in Las Vegas was all about Amazon and Google voice integration. Hopefully, voice recognition will improve to the point that unprompted actions will no longer

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very compelling. I look forward to the week when I am able to share a Shabbos mode workaround, and Alexa will observe a day of needed rest. We are all living in a Star Trek world and we will need to adapt if we want to continue to live on the ship while remaining in Avraham’s tent. Until next time, live long and prosper. Shabbat Shalom!

be an issue, but having listening devices all over your home might be inevitable and muting each of them every week will not be easy. The good news is that the Echo is always learning new skills and com-

mands. Features are updated on a weekly basis. My first-generation device has all the software updates of the latest generation. A device that can be purchased for as little as $29 and gets better each week is

Dov Pavel is a tech enthusiast who reviews personal technology and home automation through the lens of a shomer Shabbos consumer. He is not affiliated with any of the companies whose products he reviews and the opinions he expresses are solely his own. Dov is not a halachic authority and readers should consult their own rabbi as needed. Dov lives in Teaneck with his wife and three children. Previous articles an be found at TribeTechReview.com. Follow @TribeTechReview on Facebook, Twitter and LinkedIn.

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Forgotten Her es

Sidney Shachnow, Legendary Green Beret By Avi Heiligman

he United States Special Forces, known as the Green Berets, were born in the years prior to the U.S. involvement in Vietnam. Like the Navy Seals who were also created in the early 1960s, the Green Berets can trace their heritage back to the global conflict of World War II. Green Berets perform many duties including reconnaissance, direct action raids, counterterrorism, and unconventional warfare. Unconventional warfare includes entering a foreign country and preparing local soldiers and militia on how to fight the enemy. One of their main missions is to act as “force multipliers,” meaning that they train friendly forces to fight properly. For many assignments this means they have to learn the local languages and customs to gain the trust of the men they are training. Men are trained to respond to every potential situation while deployed. Many soldiers “wash out” during training and only the best are accepted. One of these men was a Jewish Holocaust survivor who became a pioneer for the Green Berets. One of the legends of the Green Berets is Holocaust survivor Sidney Shachnow (originally it was Schaja Shachnowski and changed when he became an American citizen). He was born in Kaunas, Lithuania, in 1934 and at the age of six was sent to the Kovno concentration camp. Shachnow spent three horror filled years watching most of his family murdered by the Nazis. Days before

the Nazis rounded up the children in the camp and brutally killed them, Sidney escaped. During the last year of the war, Sidney hid and barely survived under harsh conditions. After the Nazis were defeated, he had another harrowing journey that took him through 2,000 miles across Europe to escape the Communists. He finally made it to Nuremberg, Germany, which was occupied by the United States, and was able to secure a visa to the U.S. in 1950. The sixteen-year-old made his way to Salem, Massachusetts, where he finally was able to receive an education. After high school he joined the army and started off in the 4th Armored Division, reaching the rank sergeant first class. In 1960 he became an officer after completing Officer Candidate School. Soon he was promoted to company commander in the 50th Infantry, 4th Armored Division. Two years later, Shachnow passed Special Forces training and became a Green Beret just as the United States was about to enter the Vietnam War. For the next 32 years, he served with distinction in the Special Forces. Shachnow’s first assignment during the Vietnam War was with 5th Special Forces Group Detachment A-121 where he was sent to An Long on the Mekong River. During the fighting he was wounded by enemy bullets in the arm and leg on the same mission. Shachnow applied tourniquets to his wounds and continued fighting. After his first tour in Vietnam and recover-

ing from his wounds, he became sick with tuberculosis and typhoid fever. Shachnow recovered from his wounds and illness and went back to Vietnam for his second tour, this time with the 101st Airborne Division. For his bravery in battle he was awarded several medals including two Silver Stars, three Bronze Stars for ground combat, two Purple Hearts and two Distinguished Service Medals. One of the Silver Stars was awarded for a mission while riding in a helicopter. He spotted a Viet Cong camp and ordered the pilot to land. In an ensuing footrace, he killed an enemy soldier. Following his tours of duty in Vietnam, Shachnow served as the commander of Detachment A, Berlin Brigade. Several regular army units were already in the city and in 1961 were reorganized to be called the Berlin Brigade. Detachment A was a secretive group that was on a 24-hour watch seven days a week. These brought unique skills to the ever-changing battlefield including knowing the local language and customs to blend in better. Many of these men were from Eastern European countries and Shachnow was a natural leader. Often wearing civilian clothing, they would face off against Soviet-friendly troops. Many of the men went on to join Delta Forces, but Detachment A, Berlin Brigade remained an independent unit. When the Berlin Wall fell in 1989, Major General Shachnow was the overall commander of American forc-

es in the city. Later, he commanded the John F. Kennedy Special Warfare Center, Army Special Forces Command, and became Chief of Staff, 1st Special Operations Command at Fort Bragg, among other assignments. He was inducted as a Distinguished Member of the Special Forces Regiment in 2007.While he was still active duty he went to college and earned a master’s degree in public administration. Shachnow retired in 2004 and went on to publish an autobiography titled Hope and Honor. He became an advocate for wounded soldiers. Sidney Shachnow’s achievements were many. He became the only Holocaust survivor to become a general in the American military. On September 28 of this year, Sidney passed away at the age of 84 in North Carolina and will be buried at Arlington National Cemetery (those are the plans as of the writing of this article). The lifelong warrior persevered through the toughest of situations. He said about his life experiences, “I had seen the world change, dramatically, and suffered many triumphs and many failures. Oppression was still an enemy. But I realized how important it was to keep hope, courage, and perseverance, and we would someday erase this scourge from society.” Avi Heiligman is a weekly contributor to The Jewish Home. He welcomes your comments and suggestions for future columns and can be reached at aviheiligman@ gmail.com.

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FIVE TOWNS YESHIVA HIGH SCHOOL seeks an energetic, responsible and innovative individual to serve as full-time bookkeeper, responsible for tuition/fee collections, accounts payable, Quickbooks accounting and InfoGrasp updates, banking, and vendor relations, and reporting. Must be reliable, detail oriented, able to work within tight deadlines, and proficient using Quickbooks, Excel, MS Word. Experience using InfoGrasp is a plus. Salary commensurate with experience and skillset. E-mail resume with salary history and references to mesivta18@yahoo.com F/T & P/T COUNSELORS to work with adults with developmental disabilities/psychiatric in group residences in Woodmere, Cedarhurst, Far Rockaway, Lawrence and Hewlett. Overnight, Afternoon and Evening Shifts available. 855-OHEL-JOB www.ohelfamily.org/careers Hebrew Academy of Long Beach, Woodmere, NY is seeking the following Maternity Leave positions: Morah for 6-8 grade girls; Ivrit 6-8 grade boys/girls; Jr. HS Math from 12 - 3:30 pm (M-TH), and 10:45 am - 1 pm (F). Resumes to: ulubetski@halb.org F/T & P/T REGISTERED NURSE openings to work with adults who have developmental disabilities within residential settings in Brooklyn, Manhattan, or Long Island. Current NYS RN, min 2 years hospital experience. OHEL: 855-OHEL JOB, www.ohelfamily.org/careers Seeking full time PHYSICAL THERAPIST for Special Education school located in Brooklyn. Experienced preferred. Competitive salary. Room for growth. resumes@yadyisroelschool.org

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All Fun and Games By Allan Rolnick, CPA

ome of the world’s most popular board games give players the chance to live out professional fantasies. Aspiring property sharks can cheat each other with the classic Monopoly. Would-be Sherlock Holmeses can track down killers with Clue. Armchair generals can settle down to an evening of Risk. But until today there’s never been a game to let aspiring tax planners outwit the Internal Revenue Code. Shouldn’t that be at least as much fun as figuring out it was Colonel Mustard in the Llbrary with the candlestick? Well, that all changes in the form of a new board game called “Transfer Pricing: The Game.” Transfer pricing is the process for setting the value of transactions between businesses under common ownership and control. Let’s say Amalgamated Widgets owns a subsidiary that makes parts in, say, Macedonia, then puts them together here in the U.S. How much should the parent pay for the parts? That may sound boring and technical (because, yeah, it is). So what difference does it all make? Let’s say the corporate tax rate in Macedonia is 10% and the rate here is 21%. Naturally, it makes sense to allocate

as much of the profit as possible in Macedonia where the rate is lower. Of course, tax collectors everywhere are on to the game. So you have to be able to show them you’re transferring at an “arm’s length” price — the same price a disinterested buyer would pay from a dis-

substance. Now available, with an arm’s length price of only $30.” The goal? “You run a subsidiary of Orchid Enterprises and build a substantive value chain, grow income, destroy your corporate rivals, and defend your accomplishments against various Tax Authorities,

Maybe that’s why it recently ranked just #178,162 in Amazon’s “Toys & Games” category.

interested seller. The Organization for Economic Cooperation and Development sets out rules for pricing all sorts of transactions, including tangible items, intellectual property, and even loans. Now you’re excited to try it yourself! Too bad you don’t own a foreign subsidiary. That’s where “Transfer Pricing: The Game” comes in. The publisher describes it as “the card game that decides who has the most

legal challenges, and business pitfalls. Prove once and for all who is the greatest transfer pricing professional of all time!” The game is designed for 2-8 players, ages 12 and up. Open the box and you’ll find three sets of cards. “Function” cards represent basic business functions like marketing. “Action” cards drive game play. And “defense” cards provide power you need to defend your

actions against various challenges from tax authorities. There’s no board, so technically it’s not a “board game,” but if you’re not comfortable with technicalities, this really isn’t the game for you. The contest starts when the first player draws an action card and follows the directions (like “audit an opponent”). Once you complete them, you’ll draw another function card and trade it for one of your existing function cards or discard it. To finish a turn, draw a defense card and attach it to a function card or hold it for future play. Look, who are we kidding? The whole thing sounds about as much fun as a group project for an MBA class. Maybe that’s why it recently ranked just #178,162 in Amazon’s “Toys & Games” category. Here’s all you really need to know. Overpaying your tax is no fun, and tax planning isn’t a game. Make sure you get a serious plan to pay less. Then pass GO and find something fun to do with your savings! Allan J Rolnick is a CPA who has been in practice for over 30 years in Queens, NY. He welcomes your comments and can be reached at 718-896-8715 or at allanjrcpa@aol.com.

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Ding a Ling Wedding Bells By Rivki D. Rosenwald Esq., MFT, CLC

o you remember when you could actually see the bride and groom walking down the aisle at a wedding? I mean, without jumping out of your seat. But now if you don’t consistently rise up and down with the crowd, you miss the entire procession. You are popping up and down for an hour straight, trying to get a view of the next person coming down the aisle. I’d say it’s like an hour of continuous squats. I don’t think any gym class gives you as much exercise. It helps you not worry about how much you eat at the shmorg. You totally burn it off. So what started this ritual of everyone jumping out of their seats? I’m honestly not sure. I feel like once one person got up to signal their mate or stretch their legs, and inadvertently blocked the person behind them, it suddenly became a thing. I liked it when we could all just sit calmly and enjoy the procession. Now it’s, whoops, the music changed, someone new walked in,

and pop goes the crowd! Oh, then there’s the obsession we all have with being junior photographers. We feel we can make a difference, catch a little of the special moment and send it on to the family. Because we know it takes some time for the professional photographer to get their footage together. Now, it’s true, it’s nice to give these mementos to the person making the wedding. But 300 guests with their iPhones in the air, it’s like an Apple convention! And then everyone cannot put their iPhones away, of course, they have to keep it handy to say Tehillim. Though, that may be giving everyone the benefit of the doubt. But what happened to just being present in the moment? Just enjoying the process of a new union beginning? Another thing has emerged as a challenge at weddings these days: will my earplugs match my outfit? Everyone I know seems to be stuffing earplugs in their ears. The music is kept so loud that no one can hear what anyone is saying to

them. Seven to twelve are causing 300-600 people to spend the night screaming, gesticulating and signing at each other. You almost feel you’ve got to take out your iPhone to text the person next to you to be understood. What happened to being able to sit and enjoy the people at your table? And then there’s the long-awaited dessert before you leave. Except it’s no longer delivered to your table. A bunch of waiters are circulating with the coveted choices. You kind of notice what appeals to you sailing by. You suddenly have to hunt them down and catch them. And sometimes you’re too late and there’s none of what you liked left on the tray. You almost feel like pulling out your iPhone and ordering dessert in. What happened to sitting at your table and having your choices delivered to you? Of course, luckily, there’s the consolation of the hot chocolate chip cookie to soothe your woes as you leave. The calories help offset that

weight loss from jumping up and down at the ceremony. The chewing rebalances your eustachian tubes and helps your hearing come back. And the molten chocolate oozing from within the cookie makes every other dessert you desired pale in your eyes. Finally, that cookie keeps you distracted as you complete your final wedding step. You go to get your car. Perhaps with a “little” waiting time. (Of course, that may be giving the valet service the benefit of the doubt)! And you use the time to pull out your iPhone and call your loved ones to tell them you’re on your way home. All in all, you leave happy and emboldened to attend another wedding. And. of course, the makers of iPhone are ecstatic that they’ll have another chance to rule the night.

Rivki Rosenwald is a certified relationship counselor, and career and life coach. She can be contacted at 917-7052004 or rivki@rosenwalds.com.

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