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motions, but we’re not really focusing on what they’re saying. When these boys spoke with each other, they were focused. Their eyes couldn’t move from their friends’ hands; if they would have lost focus, they would have lost track of the conversation. And the conversation was lively, with gestures and facial expressions. It was animated, expressed with heart and soul. I learned a lesson sitting around the table on Shabbos afternoon. Communication is not just about hearing the words said in a conversation. We need to stop the other tasks we’re working on and focus on the other person. We have to care about them and fully listen to what they’re saying. We need to give them all of our attention, listen to every word they say. At this moment, they are the most important person in the world. As school winds down, we are heading into the summer months. There will be more time spent with family (at least until sleepaway camp starts!) and more trips with the kids. How wonderful will it be if we can use this time to really hear what they’re saying! Listen to their stories, their excitement, their questions, and their fears. Listen well, and the bond that summer strengthens will only be stronger.
ast Shabbos we had the pleasure of hosting a group of boys from a yeshiva for those who are hearing impaired. Some of the boys were able to communicate with us by speaking; others only communicated via sign language. It was interesting to see how they helped each other – those who were able to speak and hear were the mouthpiece and the ears for those who only knew sign language. We were able to ask them questions and they were able to convey our queries to the other boys. They then relayed the answers back to us. After my son said his d’var Torah, one boy signed the speech to the others. A few minutes later, they applauded his Torah message – it was heartwarming and my son felt very proud. We take our sense of hearing for granted. How many times do we multitask, listening to our children’s questions or stories as we prepare supper, finish up work, or send an email? We nod and murmur in agreement but we’re not really hearing them. The words seem to float in the air, touch our ears, and then bounce away. But we’re not absorbing them – or the inflections that come along with them. How many times do we meet someone new and ask them about themselves but walk away not remembering anything at all? If we didn’t truly care about where they live or where they send their kids to school, why do we even ask? We’re going through the
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Contents LETTERS TO THE EDITOR
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COMMUNITY Readers’ Poll
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Community Happenings
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The Five Towns is About to Become a Lot More Congested
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NEWS
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Global
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National
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Odd-but-True Stories
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Fatty Kim the Third, the U.S. and China 79
ISRAEL Israel News
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First Call by Rafi Sackville
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PEOPLE Simon Levy, First Graduating Class of West Point by Avi Heiligman
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PARSHA Rabbi Wein
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The Joy of Torah and Eretz Yisroel by Rav Moshe Weinberger
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The Challenge of Change by Rabbi Dr. Naphtali Hoff
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JEWISH THOUGHT Ascent over Descent by Eytan Kobre
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Putting My Spin On It by Rabbi Jonathan Gewirtz
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HEALTH & FITNESS Is Everyone Supposed to be Sensitive? by Dr. Deb Hirschhorn 88 Summer Survival: Avoiding Camp Weight Gain by Aliza Beer MS, RD 90
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Dear Editor, As the year draws to a close – I can’t believe it flew by! – it behooves us as parents to recognize the dedicated and wonderful teachers and rebbeim who have taken care of our precious children for the past nine months. Teaching is not a part-time job. It requires an empathy, a caring, a love for our children and learning. It requires late nights and early mornings and test-grading in between. It requires phone calls and lesson plans and spirited discussions in the classroom. Our children’s teachers are always “on” for our kids. Make sure that we give their teachers the proper appreciation after months of devotion. A Parent Dear Editor, Jon Kranz’s humor always makes me smile. His twist on lox and bagels elicited giggles from me and my friends, although I haven’t had a lox ‘n’ cream cheese bagel in years. Charlotte Gorden Dear Editor, I have been enjoying Rav Moshe Weinberger’s articles weekly in The Jewish Home every week. This article hit home particularly hard as in years past I have never considered myself to be a “complainer.” But recently I’ve been noticing that it is so easy to see the glass half-empty
in certain situations. I have had to stop myself from complaining; after all, who wants to be around a constant complainer? Although it takes effort, you will feel better and more accomplished if you look at the world with rose-colored glasses. And people will enjoy being around you more! A Reader Dear Editor, I tell my children all the time that you can learn something from everyone. I have been learning a big lesson from our president. Even if you are accomplishing and getting things done, if you keep on mouthing off to people they will have something to use to denigrate your efforts. I have taken it as a personal lesson to keep my mouth shut at certain times – even though I was itching to respond. It takes effort, but is well-worth it in the long run, as it earns your respect of your peers and colleagues. Yosef I. To the Editor: Regarding the article “Home Run!” on June 8, it seems to me that this Five Towns little league is finally starting to implement good practices, which our league has already been implementing for the past few years. I have been the commissioner of the West HempContinued on page 12
The A-to-ZZZs about Infants and Sleeping by Dr. Hylton I. Lightman 91 FOOD & LEISURE
The Aussie Gourmet: Super Summer Salads
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LIFESTYLES Dating Dialogue, Moderated by Jennifer Mann, LCSW
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Your Money
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Slow Down Time by Rivki D. Rosenwald Esq., CLC, SDS
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HUMOR Centerfold
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POLITICAL CROSSFIRE Notable Quotes You Can’t Govern by Id by Charles Krauthammer CLASSIFIEDS
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stead Shuls Little League for the past three years, and we have already been demonstrating many of these techniques in our league since day one. Our little league is now run a joint effort between five shuls – four from West Hempstead and one from Oceanside. We have unified jerseys and caps, and teams are a mix of all different shuls, all different schools, and all different playing level abilities within each division. Teams do not enter into by shul – rather players come individually and are pooled. Teams are assembled by the commissioners and administrators of the league with the idea of: Fairness of talent on each team – Each player is evaluated before the season starts – for batting, fielding and overall baseball acumen. We statistically develop a player WAR (wins above replacement) for each player and mathematically make sure that all teams are divided fairly in terms of talent. (I as commissioner, am a professional creator of
major league baseball projections, which are available as the “ATC Projections” on fangraphs.com, a prestigious fantasy baseball website.) Friends and fun – We make sure that each child will have a few school classmates on each team that they are already friends with. Starting on a team where you don’t know anyone can be daunting – so we make sure to have some familiarity with other classmates on each team. We also are familiar with the children as the years go by and make sure that good friend combos are allowed to play on the same team. Diversity and new situations – At the same token, we also make sure that there is enough diversity on each team so that there are opportunities to meet new children and make new friends. We try and put some children from different shuls or different schools on the same team as well – in order to foster new friendships. The end results are teams that are all competitive, have familiar
PROPOSED NASSAU EXPRESSWAY (NY 878) OPERATIONAL AND RESILIENCY IMPROVEMENTS PROJECT Project ID. No. 0072.14
NYSDOT Public Information Meeting Thursday, June 22, 2017 5 p.m. to 8 p.m. Lawrence High School 2 Reilly Road, Cedarhurst, New York 11516 Town of Hempstead, Nassau County The New York State Department of Transportation (NYSDOT) is seeking input from residents, local groups, business owners and public officials regarding the proposed Nassau Expressway (NY 878) Operational and Resiliency Improvements Project in the Town of Hempstead. NYSDOT’s proposed plans and visual materials for the reconstruction of Nassau Expressway between Rockaway Turnpike and Burnside Avenue as well as improvements to the Peninsula Boulevard and Bay Boulevard intersections will be available for review. NYSDOT representatives will be on hand to address questions and receive comments on the proposed project. If a sign or other language interpreter is needed at the meeting, or to provide written comments, or for information about this public meeting, contact: Nassau Expressway (NY 878) Design Team NYSDOT, 5th Floor, State Office Building, 250 Veterans Memorial Highway, Hauppauge, NY 11788 R10-RPIC@DOT.NY.GOV or 631-952-6929 All comments must be received by July 24, 2017. *Interpreter services will be provided for the hearing impaired upon four (4) days’ advance notice.
faces, and have opportunities to generate new bonds and connections with others – all while learning and playing the game of baseball. This other league seemed to have taken way too long to discover the right way to make a fair, fun and competitive league – while we have been doing this for some time now. We also give out a few prizes during the season for each player – in addition to a trophy. Of course, we also have uniforms. Not only that, but we give out pizza on our “Pizza Day,” have a fun carnival (games, videos, prizes, food) at our end of year celebration, and we organize a trip to see the Mets and/or Cyclones each season. We just started having a picture this season too. I personally have been running baseball, softball, basketball, football and tennis leagues for the past 17 years – for men, woman and children. When I moved to West Hempstead in 2014, I was immediately asked to run the Kindergarten T-Ball program that same year, and was subsequently asked to take over
the operations of the West Hempstead Shuls Little League for the following season. Our league has grown now to 125+ children, and everyone is having a blast! Regards, Ariel Cohen
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May Scrambles to Form Govt
share for each party. For example, the Conservative Party won 48.9 percent of the seats in Parliament with 42.5 of the national vote. May needed just eight more MPs to win the majority. In eight of the closest constituencies, if 401 more people – in all – would have flipped their votes to the Conservative party, May would have won the majority. Now, May is trying to finalize her majority in the Parliament through negotiating a coalition with the Democratic Unionists, the Northern Irish party whose 10 seats she now needs. That deal is seen as very controversial as the D.U.P. is a very socially conservative party that disagrees with many of May’s key social platforms.
Theresa May finds herself in a very dangerous political position this week. After calling for an early election in order to shore up her support and have a clear mandate to negotiate Brexit, May went on to lose a lot more ground than she had ever hoped to gain in last week’s election. May’s Conservative Party ended the election with only 318 seats in the 650 seat Parliament. The Labour party, their biggest rival, came in with 262 votes. In order to have a strong government, a party must control over 325 seats. May is now looking to form a coalition government, in which she will need a lot of support from her former rivals in order to achieve anything as prime minister. In order to ensure her role as prime minister, May must make sure that she does not lose any of the votes of her Conservative party comrades. She spent over an hour apologizing to her fellow Conservatives this week during a meeting in which she said, “I got us into this mess; I’m going to get us out of it.” May went on to fire two of her closest aides, Fiona Hill and Nick Timothy. Hill and Timothy were known for their secrecy and arrogant treatment of fellow politicians. Their dismissal was to paint a picture of coalition and humility. Interestingly, each of the 650 seats in Parliament relates to a constituency in the country, with each being won by a straight race between candidates in that area. This is known as the First Past the Post system, where the winning candidate only has to receive one more vote than the person in second-place. Because of this fact, there can be massive discrepancies in the vote share and seat
Top Sports Stars’ Salaries
Being an athlete can be a very, very lucrative career, especially if you’re on top. According to Forbes, soccer player Cristiano Ronaldo is the highest-paid athlete in the world – with salary, bonuses and endorsements totaling $93 million a year. The Real Madrid player is the most popular athlete in Europe. He was named FIFA’s best player in the world for the fourth time and scored his 600th career goal. This year he secured a contract extension with Real Madrid promising him $50 million annually for the next four years. He reportedly also inked a lifetime deal with Nike worth upwards of $1 billion The next-to-highest paid athlete in the world is paid $7 million less – but please don’t waste your tears. NBA superstar LeBron James signed a three-year contract with the Cleveland Cavaliers amounting to $100 million (over 3 years it’s about $33.3 million a year). James helped the Cavs reach their first championship in decades last season. He is one of the most famous faces in sports in the U.S., garnering him $55 million in endorsements.
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Lionel Messi, another soccer star, took the third spot on the list. Tennis superstar Roger Federer pulls in $58 million a year endorsing high-end companies like Mercedes, Nike and Rolex, earning him the fourth spot on top paid athletes list. Basketball legend Kevin Durant came in fifth on the list; he earns $26.6 million a year and poll in $34 million in endorsements. Although Spain reserved the top spot on the list, the United States dominated the list with 63 entries. The rankings were composed of athletes from 21 countries. Serena Williams (No. 51, $27 million) is the only female athlete to be included in the list this year. In the last 12 months, the 100 highest-paid sports stars earned a cumulative $3.11 billion, down 1% from last year. Despite the decrease, the threshold to make the list rose $600,000 to $21.4 million.
Austria: No Burqas in Public Austria is discouraging Islamic women from wearing their religious
garb in the streets. The Western European country recently passed a law that will fine any woman wearing a burqa, niqab, or any covering that covers the whole face in public places.
with the refugee crisis and help integrate immigrants. The new laws also state that it is illegal to distribute combustible materials. In order to prepare immigrants for the workplace, migrants will be encouraged to volunteer before acquiring permanent work permits. Since 2015, around 90,000 migrants, mostly from Muslim-majority countries, have made Austria their home.
When the law was originally introduced it was met with much opposition from activists. Last week the bill was signed by the president. According to the law, women will face a fine of €150 ($168) if they wear Islamic dress in public places. In addition to the fines, all new migrants coming to Austria to live will now be forced to take a 12-month “integration course” that includes German language lessons if they wish to receive any welfare benefits. “Those who are not prepared to accept Enlightenment values will have to leave our country and society,” reads the text of the law. The laws are an attempt to deal
Gaddafi’s Son Freed
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lam Gaddafi, the son of Muammar Gaddafi. The child of the deceased dictator had been held in their custody since November 2011. Saif al-Islam is the second of nine children that Gaddafi had. He was sentenced to death in July 2015 for his role in the very bloody repression of the 2011 revolt. The 44-year-old is fluent in English and often appeared in the West as his father’s representative. Many saw him as Gaddafi’s heir apparent. He never held an official post in the regime but was said to have held a lot of power and made many key decisions. Saif al-Islam was accused of torture and extreme violence and was sanctioned by the UN in 2011. During the revolution, three of Gaddafi’s sons were killed. Saadi, the other son who survived, is facing a trial of his own in Libya for the repressions in 2011 and for the killing of a former football coach. Since the death of Gaddafi, Libya has been in a state of chaos. Political rivalry and warring militia factions have been fighting for control of the oil-rich country. Saif al-Islam is still wanted by the ICC on charges of war crimes and crimes against humanity.
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On Monday, Panama’s exiled former president was arrested in Florida after being accused of political espionage by his successor in the Central American nation. Ricardo Martinelli was detained near his home in Coral Gables and was being held at the Federal Detention Center in Miami. He had served as head of state from 2009-2014. The Panamanian supermarket tycoon has been living in the U.S. for two years since his country’s top court opened an investigation into allegations that he embezzled public money and spied on political opponents. Martinelli has denied any wrongdoing. In a Twitter post last month, he alleged that his successor, Juan Carlos Varela, was going after him to divert attention from his own problems. Varela served as Martinelli’s vice president but they have sparred bitterly since the transfer of power. Martinelli is not facing any U.S. charges and was arrested at the request of Interpol.
majority in the French Parliament. The French have been giving Macron a ringing endorsement. His party, founded just a year ago, is expected to win between 415 and 445 seats during the second round of voting which is scheduled for next week. The novice political party and its Mouvement Démocrate (MoDem) allies won a combined 32.3% of the vote, while the established Les Républicains trailed with 15.8% of the vote in the first round of voting. Despite the sweeping gains, many are crediting En Marche’s victory to poor voter turnout – only 48.7% of eligible voters showed up to the polls. A victory would give a majority of the 577-seat house to Macron and his political party, which would surely be a huge blow to the country’s traditional ruling parties. Macron’s party contested 526 constituencies out of a possible 577. His party put forward 266 women candidates, of which 219 come from outside politics. He has vetted candidates from a cross-section of society, including a former bullfighter, a Nobel Prize winner and an ex-fighter pilot. This would be another historic win for Macron, who won the French presidency without the support of a traditional mainstream party. Front National, a party led by Marine Le Pen, Macron’s presidential opponent, earned 13.2% of the vote on Sunday. The Socialists, the party of outgoing President Francois Hollande, won just 7.4%.
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The strange disappearance of one of Thailand’s most famous monks has the authorities in Bangkok at a loss. 73-year-old Phra Dhammachayo has a temple just north of Bangkok that is 10 times the size of Vatican City and
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out of office in a 2006 coup. Shinawatra is still popular amongst the poor in Thailand. Four thousand riot police laid siege to the temple for 23 days this past spring in an attempt to capture the elusive monk. He was never found. Some suspect that he escaped through a hole that was cut in the temple’s perimeter wall and has escaped the country.
The list of charges against the monk relating to the temple’s finances is over 350 items long. “It doesn’t matter if he’s famous or not,” said Police Colonel Woranan Srilum. “What matters is that he is a wanted man. It’s our duty to find him and bring him in.” In March, the Thai king symbolically stripped Phra Dhammachayo of his monastic ranking.
Cut off from Saudi Arabia and other Gulf countries after a recent boycott, Qatar is left fumbling for provisions. Iran has stepped in to fill the void, sending at least 5 planes filled with food to Qatar. Tehran said the planes were filled with vegetables and that it plans to send 100 tons of fresh fruit and legumes every day to the import-dependent nation, according to the semi-official Tasnim news agency. “So far five planes carrying ... vegetables have been sent to Qatar, each carrying around 90 tons of cargo, while another plane will be sent today,” Iran Air spokesman Shahrokh Noushabadi told the Agence France-Presse news agency on Sunday. “We will continue deliveries as long as there is demand.” Saudi Arabia, the United Arab Emirates, Bahrain and Egypt cut links with Qatar last Monday, accusing Doha of supporting and financing terrorism in the Middle East and elsewhere – a charge Qatar denies. They also ordered Qatari citizens to leave within 14 days. Separately, Iran is preparing to send a flotilla of warships first to Oman and then later to international waters north of the Indian Ocean and the Gulf of Aden, Tasnim reported.
Japanese Prince: I’ll Rule with “Body and Soul” Just days after a law was enacted to allow Emperor Akihito to abdicate the throne, Japanese Crown Prince Naruhito said that he will devote himself “body and soul” to his job as emperor. Emperor Akihito’s abdication will be the first by a Japanese emperor in two centuries. He is 83-years-old. Japan’s parliament enacted a law on Friday that will allow Akihi-
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he is sometimes referred, rejected a ceasefire request from the Maute Group. “They said that they will go down upon Marawi to burn the place,” Mr. Duterte recounted in December. “And I said, ‘Go ahead, do it.’”
Marawi was seized by hundreds of Maute militants over three weeks ago. They fight under the black flag of ISIS and have already killed a large number of the city’s locals. “The government has largely been in denial about the growth of ISIS and affiliated groups,” said Zachary M. Abuza, a professor at the National War College in Washington who specializes in Southeast Asian security issues. “Duterte has been preoccupied with his campaign of gutting the rule of law by using police and other security forces for the extrajudicial killing of drug pushers.” Much of the city’s 200,000 residents have left. The military says that 90 percent of the city has been cleared of the radicals. Still, there are three neighborhoods in the center of the city that remain under Maute control. President Duterte has declared martial law in the city for 60 days. He has made two deadlines for the troops to retake the city and yet it is still not done. For all of his big talk, he has been unable to deliver. Recently he suggested eating the terrorists as a way to be rid of them. “Get me a terrorist. Give me salt and vinegar. I will eat his liver,” he said.
Duterte Unable to Free Philippine City Islamic militants who have declared their allegiance to ISIS have still not been completely rooted out of the Philippines city of Marawi. President Rodrigo Duterte has been unable to successfully retake the city despite having bombed Marawi from the air and deploying ground troops. The “tough-guy president,” as
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RWA) have discovered a Hamas tunnel under a boy’s elementary school in the Gaza Strip. The Gaza Strip school is part of a compound of other schools. The two-to-three meters deep tunnel was built both westward into Gaza and eastward towards a security fence with Israel. “The discovery was made during the summer vacation, at a time when the schools are empty, and in the course of work related to the construction of an extension of one of the buildings,” UNRWA said, adding that the tunnel “has no entry or exit points on the premises nor is it connected to the schools or other buildings in any way.”
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Benjamin Netanyahu and his wife Sara recently won a court case against journalist Yigal Sarna. The Magistrate Court in Tel Aviv ruled that Sarna must pay compensation to the prime minister for a slanderous Facebook post that he wrote in March 2016. Sarna will pay 60 thousand shekels to Bibi, 40 thousand to Sara, and an additional 15 thousand to the couple for legal fees. Judge Azariya Alkali ruled, “The defendant [Sarna], as he himself admits, set a goal of criticizing the claimants [Binyamin and Sara Netanyahu] and their conduct. This he chose to do by slandering their name using colorful language and harsh imagery some of which, due to its harshness and ugliness, manifests extraneous opinion and criticism under the guise of freedom of speech, while the case at hand involves slander and not opinion, aspiring to describe a situation that transpired which has not been proven to be
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N Korea Releases US Hostage – in a Coma On Tuesday The Washington Post revealed that University of Virginia student Otto Warmbier, who had been detained in North Korea for 17 months, was medically evacuated from the country in a coma. The 22-year-old had been in a coma for more than a year. He fell unconscious shortly after his last public ap-
pearance: during his trial in Pyongyang in March last year. “Our son is coming home,” Fred Warmbier told The Washington Post on Tuesday morning after Otto had been evacuated from North Korea. “At the moment, we’re just treating this like he’s been in an accident. We get to see our son Otto tonight.”
His release was announced by Secretary of State Rex Tillerson in Washington on Tuesday morning. Tillerson did not discuss Warmbier’s medical condition. Warmbier was on a New Year’s Eve tour in North Korea, en route to Hong Kong, where he was to do a January study-abroad trip. But on his final night in Pyongyang – New Year’s Eve – Warmbier appears to have gone to a staff-only floor of his hotel and had attempted to take down a large propaganda sign laud-
ing the regime. He was charged with “hostile acts against the state,” and after an hour-long trial in March 2016, sentenced to 15 years in prison with hard labor. His family was told that he had come down with a case of botulism soon after his trial – which lasted only one hour – and had been given a sleeping pill, from which he never woke up. There is no way of knowing yet whether the North Korean version of events is true, but the Warmbiers had been told their son had been in a coma the whole time. North Korea has woefully inadequate medical care and it is not clear how North Korean doctors had been caring for Warmbier for more than a year in an unconscious state. Warmbier was flown out of North Korea on the same day that Dennis Rodman, the controversial basketball star, arrived for his fifth visit to Pyongyang. Rodman’s trip caused a media frenzy because of the heightened tensions between North Korea and the United States, but also raised speculation that he might be going as an envoy to secure the release of Warmbier and three other Americans being detained.
A former Virginia resident, Kim Dong-chul, was arrested shortly after Warmbier on accusations of espionage and has been held in the regime since. In April and May, North Korea detained two other Korean Americans, both of them affiliated with the Pyongyang University of Science and Technology, a private institution run by Korean-American Christians.
Trump Fires Back at Comey
A day after former FBI Director James Comey testified in front of Congress, President Donald Trump accused him of lying under oath and
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said he was “100 percent” willing to testify about the conversations they shared. The president did not say if the conversations they had were on tape, a point that has been brought up many times in the contradicting accounts of what occurred when Comey was leading an investigation into Russia’s interference in the 2016 presidential election. Trump pointed out that none of Comey’s testimony pointed to his campaign acting with Russian officials to corrupt the election results. “Yesterday showed no collusion, no obstruction,” Trump reiterated. The president also denied ever asking Comey for his “loyalty,” which contradicts Comey’s account of a conversation they had over dinner. Comey testified that the president had asked him to back off of his former national security adviser Michael Flynn, saying that he was a “good guy” and that he “hoped” he would “let it go.” At Thursday’s hearing, Sen. James Risch (R-Idaho) pointed out to Comey that people don’t get prosecuted for “hoping” something will happen in the absence of force or coercion or bribery, and that Comey’s “feeling” that he was being asked to end the investigation is immaterial to what actually happened. Comey also testified that he told the president on three different occasions that he was not under investigation and yet refused to make that information public when Trump asked him to. His excuse for not lifting the cloud of suspicion swirling around the president? If “the boomerang comes back, it’s going to be a very big deal, because there will be a duty to correct,” the former head of the FBI said. During his testimony Comey confirmed that there was no evidence that any votes had been altered by the Russians during the election. He also said that that a New York Times story on February 14 titled “Trump Campaign Aides had Repeated Contacts with Russian Intelligence” was “not true.” When asked by Sen. Tom Cotton (R-Ark.) if it would “be fair to characterize that story as almost entirely wrong,” Comey said “yes.” Most interesting about his testimony was the revelation about former Attorney General Loretta Lynch, who Comey said told him to call the investigation into Hillary Clinton’s mishandling of classified material as a “matter” and not an “investigation,” highlighting Lynch’s concern for the Clintons.
U.S. Leads in Child Obesity
If you are reading TJH with your Shabbos morning coffee, put that piece of kokosh cake down while you read this article. A new study has found that more than 2 billion people – adults and children – are overweight or obese and suffer health problems because of their weight. Basically, poor diets, reduced physical activity and urbanization have led to almost a third of the world’s population carrying excess weight. 195 countries were included in the study. Of the 2.2 billion found to be overweight, 710 million of them are obese. Not surprisingly, the United States leads the child obesity group with 13% of children falling into that category. Egypt was the highest for adult obesity – almost 35% squeeze their way into the club. The categories are based on body mass index, or BMI. BMI is the ratio of one’s height and weight. Those between 25 and 29.9 are considered overweight, and anything over 30 is obese. “People who shrug off weight gain do so at their own risk – risk of cardiovascular disease, diabetes, cancer, and other life-threatening conditions,” said Dr. Christopher Murray, director of the Institute for Health Metrics and Evaluation at the University of Washington, who worked on the study. “Those half-serious New Year’s resolutions to lose weight should become year-round commitments to lose weight and prevent future weight gain,” he urged. Although the adult rates of obesity have slowed down in recent years, the numbers of obese children are on the rise. This signifies that there is more risk of obesity and its health-related issues in the future. When looking for a reason for the huge numbers, researchers write that “changes in the food environment and food systems are probably major drivers... Increased availability, accessibility, and affordability of energy dense foods, along with intense marketing of such foods, could explain excess energy intake and weight gain among different
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populations.” It’s summer! Lace up those sneakers, head for the pool, and cut up some watermelon. What better time to eat right and start moving?!
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Puerto Ricans Vote for Statehood
Puerto Rico held a vote on statehood this past week, and almost half a million votes were cast in favor of changing the territory’s status. Another 7,600 voters were in favor of free independence and nearly 6,700 voted for the current territorial status to remain unchanged. Though those numbers sound like an overwhelming majority, the voter turnout was historically low, at only 23 percent of the 2.26 million registered voters showing up at the polls. Several have questioned the results as many groups boycotted the vote. Gov. Ricardo Rossello, though, was very excited about the results. “From today going forward, the federal government will no longer be able to ignore the voice of the majority of the American citizens in Puerto Rico. It would be highly contradictory for Washington to demand democracy in other parts of the world and not respond to the legitimate right to self-determination that was exercised today in the American territory of Puerto Rico.” Despite the governor’s emphatic demands, Congress has the last word on any changes made to the island’s status. Puerto Rico’s 10-year economic recession has led to nearly half a million Puerto Ricans fleeing to the U.S. mainland. While Puerto Rico is exempt from U.S. federal income tax, it still pays Social Security and Medicare and local taxes. The island also receives less funding than U.S. states from the federal government.
Bedtime isn’t just for children. A recent study is claiming that a good night’s sleep is extremely important for college students as well. The recently published study in the journal Scientific Reports found that students in college who don’t go to bed or wake up at consistent times every day generally have lower grades. To draw the conclusion, the study analyzed 61 students from Harvard College who kept online diaries of their sleep schedules for 30 days. Researchers identified two groups: regular sleepers, or those who went to bed and woke up about the same time every day, and irregular sleepers, who had different sleep patterns every day. In general, the less “regular” a student’s sleep pattern was, the lower the grade point average. Lead author of the study Andrew Phillips explains the findings medically: Irregular sleepers have a delayed release of the sleep hormone melatonin. “Our body contains a circadian clock, which helps to keep time for many biological functions,” he said. “One of the key markers of the circadian clock is melatonin. Usually, at nighttime, our circadian clock sends a signal that tells us to release melatonin overnight.” Melatonin is released when we sleep and helps set both the sleep and wake cycles for our bodies. In the cases of irregular sleepers, melatonin is released later in the night, pushing the circadian clock later as well. Phillips found that the irregular sleepers in his study had much later circadian rhythms – by almost three hours, on average. Dr. Charles Czeisler, another study author and chief of the Division of Sleep and Circadian Disorders at Brigham and Women’s Hospital in Boston, said that can make your body feel like it’s in another time zone. “That means that if the student had an 8 a.m. class, it would actually be happening at 5 a.m. biological time,” he said. “It’s as if they were traveling from the East Coast time zone to the Pacific time zone.” The goal of the study was to il-
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lustrate how important regular sleep is. “When circadian rhythms are disrupted, it degrades many different physiological systems in the body and makes individuals much more vulnerable to adverse health outcomes,” Czeisler said. “That could be everything from catching a cold to gaining weight to diabetes, and here in this study, we’re showing it can degrade academic performance as well.” There was no difference in the number of hours of sleep between regular and irregular sleepers. “The results of this study are not suggesting everybody has to be a goody-twoshoes. So if you go to bed at 2 and get up at 9, that’s fine. You just have to consistently do the same thing.”
Anti-Sharia Protests Nationwide The nation is facing a rising anti-extremism rhetoric. In the days following terrorist attacks in the U.K., over the weekend, activists raised American flags and delivered passionate speeches in rallies across
the U.S. The nationwide “March Against Sharia” rallies were organized by ATC for America, a lobbyist organization. The group’s premise is that extreme Muslims are a direct threat to U.S. society.
ACT for America was founded in 2007. Its leaders, who claim a 500,000-strong membership nationally, have labeled Islam a “cancer” and have declared ACT to be the “NRA of national security.” Brigitte Gabriel, one of the group’s founders and a Lebanese immigrant, clarifies that she is anti-Sharia, not anti-Muslim. At a course at the Department of Defense’s Joint Forces Staff College in 2007 Gabriel said that practicing Muslims cannot be truly committed to American law. “A practicing Muslim who believes
the word of the Koran to be the word of Allah … who goes to mosque and prays every Friday, who prays five times a day – this practicing Muslim, who believes in the teachings of the Koran, cannot be a loyal citizen of the United States.” Sharia, or Islamic law, is a set of guidelines for Muslim life, including finances, daily rituals, marriage and divorce. Sharia has a range of interpretations and practices, with certain guidelines for extreme types of criminal punishment. For example, criticizing or denying the Koran, Muhammed or Allah is punishable by death. In several cities, protestors were met with counter-demonstrators, although in smaller quantities in most cities. “We’re here protecting their rights, and they’re trying to shut us down!” Pax Hart, the organizer of the New York City rally, told his audience, referring to the gathering of hundreds of leftist activists and masked anarchists across the street. “It’s insane!” Since ACT started its campaign against Sharia law in 2008, at least 13 states have introduced bills banning Sharia law.
The Invention of the Fidget Spinner
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Plot to Attack Americans Foiled Two men who are tied to Hezbollah have been arrested for plotting to attack Americans and Israelis in Panama and the United States. Samer El Debek and Ali Kourani were both arrested on June 1 and are being held in New York. El Debek was captured in Livonia, Michigan, and Kourani was arrested in the Bronx. According to the authorities, the men were trying to support “Hezbollah’s Islamic Jihad organization” after they had been trained in weapon and bomb-making in Lebanon. El Debek was targeting U.S. and Israeli embassy locations in Panama while Kourani was making plans to attack Americans and Israelis here in New York City. “Pre-operational surveillance is one of the hallmarks of Hezbollah in planning for future attacks,” New York Police Commissioner James P. O’Neill said. William F. Sweeney Jr., head of the New York FBI office, said the charges “reveal once again that the New York City region remains a focus of many adversaries, demonstrated as alleged in this instance by followers of a sophisticated and determined organization with a long history of coordinating violent activities on behalf of Hezbollah.”
Dodd-Frank No More?
“It started as a way of promoting peace, and then I went on to find something that was very calming,” she is quoted as having said. Recently, Bloomberg tasked two patent lawyers to examine Hettinger’s expired patent and, according to their report, her invention has little in common with the fidget spinners by every checkout counter. Hettinger is attempting to jumpstart the sale of her original product through Kickstarter.
The campaign for her “classic spinner” looks more like a hatted Frisbee than a three pronged spinner in a variety of colors and shapes. Even so, Hettinger insists that she purposely designed hers differently. She told Inc.com, “The product that we have, I feel, is designed more for children, so I feel better about putting my name on that – the ‘Hettinger spinner’ or whatever – and getting that out.”
Hettinger’s Kickstarter campaign will expire on Sunday, June 18 but is still about $9,000 short of its goal of $23,990. Hettinger says she isn’t upset that many others are profiting from her idea; she is happy if it can help calm children who struggle or even adults who suffer from anxiety. Aside from every local shop that sells fidget spinners, there are over 8,000 Amazon sellers that sell the toy. There has also been a lot of con-
On Thursday, the U.S. House of Representatives voted mostly along party lines to replace the 2010 DoddFrank Wall Street reform law. Despite the win, experts expect the agenda to die when it hits the Senate, although it could allow opportunities to revamp or eliminate regulations that were the effects of the 2007-09 financial crisis. The bill, authored by House Financial Services Committee Chairman Jeb Hensarling, a Republican, was named the CHOICE Act. It was approved by a vote of 233 to 186. The proposal
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gives banks a choice between complying with Dodd-Frank or holding onto more capital. It also restructures the Consumer Financial Protection Bureau, created under Dodd-Frank to guard individuals against fraud in lending, an aspect that Democrats are severely opposed to. Despite the endorsement of President Donald Trump, the U.S. Senate is not expected to take up the bill in its entirety. The Congressional Budget Office, a non-partisan evaluator of legislation, estimates the bill would save the federal government $24 billion over a decade, mostly due to the lifting of the government’s authority to step in and unwind failing institutions.
Two Nations, One Home It’s the best – and the worst – of both worlds. When Brian and Joan DuMoulin go out of their home in the morning,
they can either head out into the United States or into Canada. You see, the 1782 home with thick granite walls straddles the border between Beebe Plain, Vermont, and Stanstead, Quebec. Brian grew up in the home, although times were different then. The couple inherited the house, known as the Old Stone Store, about 40 years ago. They live year-round in their primary residence in nearby Morgan, Vermont. The original owner of the Old Stone Store built it so he could sell his products in both Vermont and Quebec.
Looking to have your feet in two worlds? The DuMoulins are selling the house – which needs some work – for just $109,000. They’ve been getting a lot of inquiries and certainly a lot of questions. Times are far from idyllic now in the security-obsessed world that we’ve become. Certain streets in Beebe Plain
are blocked by gates. The street next to the Haskell Free Library and Opera House, deliberately built in both countries, is blocked by flower pots, although Canadians are still allowed to walk to the library’s U.S. entrance without going through a border post. The DuMoulins’ house has entrances from the United States and Canada. In general, those who live in the home are able to move back and forth freely as long as they stay in the house or in the tiny front or backyard. There’s a small granite border marker just outside the front door. The gate in the backyard hedge is wired shut, as per U.S. agents. Despite border patrol’s concerns, it would be kind of nice to choose your country when you get up in the morning.
World’s Longest Pizza Cheesy goodness, miles long. That’s what Californians were able to find in their state this weekend. According to Guinness Book of World Records, the pizza pie, assembled at the Auto Club Speedway in Fontana,
California, is the longest pizza pie in the world. Measuring 6,330 feet – that’s 1.2 miles of pizza. Tony Gemignani of Tony’s Pizza Napoletana in San Francisco, Giulio Adriani of NYC’s Forcella mini-chain, and Jimmy DeSisto of nearby Venice Bakery in Torrance made sure that every inch of the pizza had its sauce and cheese.
The pizza record was snagged from Italy, which wore the crown for longest pizza last year. Their pie (can we call it that?) measured 1.15 miles. The Italians, though, topped theirs with basil. Because for Italians a pizza with only cheese and sauce will just not do. Throngs of pizza lovers came to Speedway to witness this momentous occasion. Due to a scheduling snafu, they came away with empty stomachs. But have no fear: I am sure they ordered cheesy slices the second they came home.
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Painting Found in Antarctica
Not much is found in Antarctica. In fact, you’ll see a lot of ice and plenty of penguins that enjoy the frigid landscape, but not much anything else. Recently, though, something else was found – and it brought color and happiness to those who discovered it. Scientists found a 118-year-old painting by one of Britain’s most famous explorers in a hut on Cape Adare, a peninsula on the continent’s far east side. The almost perfectly-preserved artwork was painted by Dr. Edward Wilson, a British polar explorer who died in Antarctica with his expedition leader Captain Robert Falcon Scott. It was hidden among penguin excrement, dust and moldy papers in the hut he sheltered in on a 1911 expedition from which he never returned. Paper conservator Josefin Bergmark-Jimenez found the old artwork while clearing out the hut to ready it for restoration. The delicate painting is labelled “1899 Tree Creeper” and depicts a white-breasted tree creeper bird. Bergmark-Jimenez was shocked when she discovered the painting that was in a portfolio sitting on the bed. “I opened it and there was this gorgeous painting,” she said. “I got such a fright that I jumped and shut the portfolio again. I then took the painting out and couldn’t stop looking at it – the colors, the vibrancy, it is such a beautiful piece of work. I couldn’t believe it was there.” The watercolor was discovered in 2016 but kept a secret to let the Antarctic Heritage Trust focus on restoring the 1,500 artifacts they recovered from the Cape Adare huts. It will be returned when the structures have been secured to ensure their continued protection.
1 Burger, $2K Having a barbeque for Father’s Day this Sunday? Perhaps you’ll be
eating a burger topped with lettuce, tomato and ketchup. You may even add pastrami or fried onions. But will you be dousing it with coffee and vanilla? Presenting the world’s most expensive burger, concocted by chef Diego Buik of the South of Houston restaurant in The Hague, Netherlands. A Netherlands native, Diego developed a passion for hamburgers during his two-year stint working at SoHo House in London. He started designing and building his own burgers, even winning the prize in 2015 for Rotterdam’s best patty and bun creation.
In honor of International Burger Day, which fell on May 28, Buik set out to create the world’s most expensive burger. And expensive it is. Coming in at $2,275, you’d better have a whole lot of cash to throw around if you’ll be eating this cow. The sumptuous sandwich consists of a Japanese dry-aged Wagyu and Black Angus beef patty, Oosterschelde lobster infused with Hermit Dutch Coastal Gin, foie gras, white truffle, Remeker cheese, Japanese fruit tomatoes and caviar. And that’s not all. French lettuce, Iberian ham, and a specially-concocted sauce made with 35 lobsters, Jamaican Blue Mountain coffee, Madagascan vanilla, saffron and Japanese soy are also added to the mix. The burger and its trimmings are stuffed into a brioche bun made with saffron and covered in gold leaf. So how does this whopping burger taste? Chef Buik admits that this is not even the tastiest burger around. “Byron in London served me the best burger I’ve ever had – a beef burger on a brioche bun with dried bacon, Byron sauce, tomato, red onion, and aged cheddar. It cost me about £14.” You mean to say that just because something’s expensive doesn’t mean it’ll taste all that good? We never knew.
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Community Tefillin Awareness Project Visits YOSS
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n Friday, June 9, the Mechina Division of Yeshiva of South Shore welcomed several sofrim from The Tefillin Awareness Project to the minyan. Every talmid had the opportu-
nity to have their tefillin examined and, if necessary, adjusted by expert sofrim. In addition, the director of the program presented a review of many of the common issues that could come up with tefillin and how
to resolve them. Rabbi Zev Davidowitz, the Menahel HaMechina, commented on how impressed he was by the interesting and thoughtful questions that the talmidim asked the sofrim as they were having their
tefillin examined. B’ezras Hashem, their excitement and enthusiasm for this special mitzvah will remain with them for years to come!
(blindfolded) and much more. Thank you to all the bachurim who came and helped and ran the booths. A special thank you to Yossi Keilson for all your help in setting up, the badges and much, much more. Thank you to our photographer Mr. Jeremy
Horowitz for the great pictures. Thank you to R’ Groner and Yeshiva Ateres Shimon for hosting the carnival. This Sunday is Tzitzis, part II. For more information regarding the L&L program, please email us at learnandlivefr@gmail.com.
L&L Sedurei D’Begudim Carnival
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ver the course of this past winter, the boys who came to the Learn & Live program witnessed Sedurei D’Begudim, which are melachos gozez to korei’a from the Lamed Tes Melachos, come to life.This past Sunday L&L held
its annual carnival. This year all the booths were based on the Sedurei D’Begudim melachos. There was a “shaving” the balloon race booth, throw the wet washcloth at the human bullseye, tattooing, face painting, pin the “yad” on the Torah
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Madraigos Annual Five Towns Breakfast
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he beautiful home of Nosson and Miri Ginsbury was the filled with friends and supporters of Madraigos on Sunday morning, June 11 for the Annual Five Towns Breakfast. With the theme of the morning – The Many Faces of Madraigos – the community banded together for teens and young adults from diverse backgrounds who are serviced by Madraigos throughout the year. Through their innovative programs and support services, Madraigos helps community youth and their families cope with the everyday challenges of life. In his sincere way, Rabbi Yaakov Feitman, shlita, Rav of Kehillas Bais Yehudah Tzvi, shared words of chizuk and inspiration. He stressed the importance of having a place in the community for young people to turn to for guidance and support and praised Madraigos for its efforts in meeting these needs. He gave the organization a heartfelt bracha for even greater siyata dishmaya and
continued hatzlacha. Rabbi Dov Silver, Founder and Executive V.P. of Madraigos, greatly appreciates the gracious hospitality of Mr. and Mrs. Ginsbury who made this year’s event enjoyable, meaningful, and successful in every way. Rabbi Silver remarked, “The existence and growth of Madraigos is a result of sincere, committed friends like the Ginsburys. I am touched by their genuine sensitivity to the spe-
cial needs of our teens and young adults and I am deeply humbled by their warmth and dedication.” To the credit of Nosson and Miri Ginsbury and the devoted members
“We are thrilled with the wonderful turnout from local supporters and rabbanim,” said Rabbi Josh Zern, Executive Director of Madraigos. “We hope to build upon these
of the event committee, Madraigos was introduced to many new friends, from both the Five Towns and surrounding communities. Attendees learned about the scope of Madraigos’ services including “The Lounge,” the after-school recreation center on separate nights for boys and girls, school-based services program in local schools, and the latest developed program, the Parenting Support Groups and Parenting Workshops that are offered throughout the year to families in our community. “It was my goal to spread awareness and raise funds for Madraigos, a dynamic organization,” said Nosson Ginsbury. “My support and enthusiasm for its work is predicated not only on its unbelievable growth and development as an organization, but on its remarkable success in achieving its unique mission.”
relationships as we grow even stronger in our ability to effectively meet the needs of the youth in our community.” For more information about Madraigos, please see www. madraigos.org or call the office at 516-371-3250. For sponsorship opportunities, please contact Rabbi Josh Zern at 516-371-3250 ext. 5. Madraigos, a 501c-3 not-forprofit organization, offers a wide array of innovative services and programs geared towards helping teens and young adults overcome life’s everyday challenges one step at a time. Our goal is to provide all of our members with the necessary tools and skills to empower them to live a healthy lifestyle and become the leaders of tomorrow.
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Siyum for 8th Grade at YOSS
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abbi Yaakov Rosenwasser, an eighth grade Rebbe at Yeshiva of South Shore, celebrated with his talmidim a siyum on Perek HaShoel, the eighth perek of Bava Metzia. The class learned the perek this year very thoroughly with Gemara, Rashi, and many Tosafos. In honor of the siyum the boys were treated to a catered Chinese lunch and heard divrei bracha from their Menahel, Rabbi Zev Davidowitz. He praised the boys for their
hasmada and told them that as geshmak as their learning is now at this point in their lives, they will be moving onto high school where the learning will get even more amazing, interesting, and an even more major component in their lives as they continue to mature in their avodas Hashem. He implored them to take the skills they have learned thus far in Yeshiva of South Shore and continue to develop them in high school and beyond!
Sara Schenirer Far Rockaway Open House by Hindy Rendel
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he recent announcement that Sara Schenirer is adding a Far Rockaway location has generated tremendous excitement in the Five Towns and Queens areas. Finally, an affordable yet quality degree offered right here in town! An Open House where all the details will be shared is being held in Far Rockaway on Wednesday evening, June 21, at 137 Lawrence Ave. from 7:308:45pm. To learn more about this exciting initiative, I reached out to Rabbi Elazar Meisels, shlita, dean of Sara Schenirer, who graciously gave of his time to answer my numerous questions. Sara Schenirer has been in operation for a long time. Can you tell me a bit about its history? Sara Schenirer Seminary has been offering outstanding education for 32 years and has been at the forefront of the movement to offer degree programs suitable for Bais Yaakov students. Our graduates number in the thousands, and they have had an immeasurable impact upon our communities. Every degree we offer through our partner colleges is designed to be affordable and accelerated, while maintaining a very high level of education. Our instructors are carefully selected to ensure that they’re not only experts in their respective fields, but are also singularly devoted to their students and attuned to their hashkafic sensitivities. Tell us about your partner col-
lege, Concordia College-New York. We are fortunate to enjoy a wonderful partnership with Concordia College-New York, a top-ranked college from an educational standpoint and a terrific partner in terms of honoring religious sensitivities. They greatly appreciate our students and work hard to accommodate our hashkafic requirements. Our students are continually amazed by the respect and care that the Concordia College employees exhibit toward them. More importantly, Concordia offers our students a substantial discount on tuition, which means that our degrees are extremely affordable. Their BA in Social Sciences, a versatile and practical degree, costs only $19,000 for Sara Schenirer students — a discount of more than 50%. The master’s degree in Education and Bachelor’s in Social Work are offered at similarly low tuition rates. To further save our students time and expense, Concordia counts 30 seminary credits toward the degree plan. Sara Schenirer is famous for its exceptional student support. How will Far Rockaway students benefit from that support? Our goal is not just to offer the classes in Far Rockaway but to offer the full slate of student services and advisement to our students there, as well. The personalized service our advisors give to every student is unmatched. There are few, if any, colleges anywhere that go to such lengths to help their students figure out the best, most cost-efficient and expedient
path toward degree attainment. It’s what we’re known for and a significant reason that students choose to attend Sara Schenirer. Which degrees will Sara Schenirer be offering in Far Rockaway? Beginning fall 2017, we will be offering our B.A. in Social Sciences, a versatile and widely-accepted bachelor’s degree that can be earned in just one year at a fantastic tuition rate. This degree can be used to gain entry into a wide variety of master’s programs. It is accepted by colleges across the country and is a terrific value in every sense. We will also be offering a BSW – Bachelor’s in Social Work. This can be earned in just four semesters and at very affordable rates. Furthermore, our graduates will be able to join any MSW programs that accept students under Advanced Standing, which allows them to attend for just two out four semesters of their MSW program. The cost and time savings of this arrangement are immense! We also anticipate being able to offer a MSW in fall 2018 for students who graduate our BSW program. We will also be offering the MS Ed in Education and Special Education B-6, a popular Master’s degree at an extremely affordable tuition rate. Will you also be offering a separate degree program for adults? Yes! The Women’s Program caters to adults, offering flexible hours, extended vacation for yomim tovim, and one-on- one mentoring. Join us at our open house for details about this
groundbreaking program and to find out how easy it is to fulfill your dream of earning your degree, no matter which stage of life you are in. You mentioned that the degree programs are heavily discounted, but will students still be eligible for financial aid? Most definitely. Our students have access to the full panorama of financial aid options such as PELL, TAP, Student Loans, Biller Scholarship, etc. Students who are eligible for full financial aid will find that virtually the entire expense of the undergraduate program can be covered by FAFSA. How can those who wish to learn more find out about the Far Rockaway Sara Schenirer program? The best way to get all the information at once is by attending our open house, to be held this Wednesday, June 21, at our new premises in Machon Basya Rochel at 7:30 pm. Come and meet Mrs. Shoshanna Jaeger, Far Rockaway coordinator, Mrs. Baila Halpern, social work coordinator, and Mrs. Batsheva Shonek, program director. You will have an opportunity not only to hear their presentations, but also to confer with them individually and discuss your personal needs. Don’t miss this special opportunity to plan for your future. As an added incentive, we offer a voucher good for a $50 discount off our application fee for all those who attend the Open House. Thank you for your time and insights!
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The 23rd Annual siyum of Yeshiva of Far Rockaway took place this past Sunday, June 11, where close to 100 boys completed Mesechta Kiddushin
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Wishing all of our families much Nachas!
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OHEL’s Third Annual OXC Classic at Camp Kaylie Draws Record Participants
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any said it was impossible. Over a thousand have proved them wrong. In just three years, the collective mass of over a thousand participants, young and senior, men and women, individuals and families, and OHEL individuals, have proven that the combination of physical challenge and exhilarating fun is a win-win in an Xtreme challenge for an Xtremely great cause! On Sunday, May 21, over 550 participants, including 70 individuals with disabilities and 71 teams, courageously ran, climbed, jumped, muscled, crawled and even swam through 35 obstacles at OXC, the one-of-a-kind mud runstyle obstacle race at OHEL’s beautiful Camp Kaylie in Wurtsboro, NY. The unique OXC challenge appeals to both individuals and families given the choice of either the 5-mile Individual or 1.5-mile Family obstacle course. Separate start times and waves were made available for elite, men, women, teams, and families. What draws so many to OHEL Children’s Home and Family Services’ Xtreme Challenge Classic? OHEL’s OXC Classic provides the unique opportunity
Avid Dagan of the Five Towns participating in oXc
– supporting children and adults with disabilities that face greater challenges every day. At OHEL, we help thousands of individuals overcome different personal struggles they may face – from abuse to depression, disability to divorce. OXC is the product of the bold and determined vision of OXC Co-Chairs Ben Englander, Phil Goldfeder, Aryeh Jacobson, Etan Kestenbaum, Yehuda Konig, Rachelle Rosenberg and Jeffrey Schwartz. The welcomingly sunny day began with a hearty and healthy breakfast, with a delicious BBQ lunch following the race. It was a fun day for all ages – whether as participants or spectators and family members who were there to
Ben Englander of the Five Towns doing the OHEL’s Xtreme Challenge at Camp Kaylie
for participants to challenge their own bodies and test their limits, all while helping others
cheer on their relatives. As Ben Englander, OXC Co-Chair and a 2017 race
participant, commented, “We knew OXC would succeed and the turnout today speaks for itself! You see the incredible attraction of this distinct event, where people can both have a fun, challenging and exhilarating time, while at the same time, engage in such meaningful chessed for such an important communal cause.” Congratulations to our top fundraisers Rachelle Rosenberg, Rabbi Lewis Wienerkur and Avi Dagan, the top fundraising teams of Team #AVIDSTRONG, Team FIT Studio and Team Rosco Mud Runners, as well as the top student teams of DRS High School for Boys, Beth Abraham Teen Program and FRISCH High School. Rabbi Avi Weber, OXC Community Coordinator, commented, “This year we saw an unprecedented increase of participating trainers and gyms, the number of engaged schools, and over 175 students – which all bears testimony that OXC galvanizes both individual physical determination, and a communal sense of responsibility to doing good.” OHEL is grateful to its sponsors, including Event Sponsors Harvey and Gloria Kaylie and Obstacle Course Sponsor Jack Jaffa & Associates. Other sponsors included: ABC Communications,
ABF Mud Run, Atlantic PC, Inc., AVID Fitness, Barristers Title Agency, LLC, Clif Bar, Dependable Abstract Inc., FIT Studio, FM Home Loans, Inflated Creations, Miller Realty, Modell’s Sporting Goods, Omni Managed Health, ReliaTech Network Solutions, Rosco Vision Systems, Rosenberg & Steinmetz PC, Saxony Title, Stein, Farkas & Schwartz LLP, TriState Capital, and others, as well as our many participants who helped raise money to make this event possible. OHEL additionally thanks Toby Schwartz Graphic Design for her creative design and branding work for OXC, as well as the many
Rachelle Rosenberg of the Five Towns climbing an obstacle at oXc
finish line, you see the personal achievement in all, and the powerful inclusive message that sends to our community. We all have challenges, and collectively we are stronger by supporting one another and not least OHEL,
The Kaylie family at OHEL’s oXc Xtreme Challenge at Camp Kaylie
trainers who helped participants get in shape for this event. Participants left not only with a tremendous feeling of personal and communal accomplishment but with OXC’s many swag giveaways, T-shirts, gloves and more. Alan Secter, Chief Development Officer at OHEL, commented, “When you look at the range of participants, from 6 to 65 years young, the diversity of abilities amongst all, from rugged sports competitors to individuals with disabilities, and you see their exhilarating dash through the
an organization that does so much of the heavy lifting in our community.” Ready to join us next year? Start training now – put it on your bucket list for you and your family! Be a part of the Fourth Annual OXC Classic event next year – pre-register at www.oheloxc.org. Individuals interested in the many programs and services that OHEL provides should contact OHEL at 800603-OHEL (6435) or visit www.ohelfamily.org.
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Yeshiva Shaarei Tzion, under the leadership of Rabbi Tzvi Flaum, shlita, held their ninth Annual Breakfast at Congregation Shaaray Tefila in Lawrence this week. The Master of Ceremonies was Mr. Avromie Farber. Rabbi Tzvi Flaum addressed the gathering. The guest speaker was Rabbi Eytan Feiner, shlita, Mara D’Asra of Congregation Kneseth Israel of Far Rockaway.
YCQ Students Raise Baby Chicks
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very year, under the guidance and instruction of grade 5 teacher Mr. Ed Kahn, the students at the Yeshiva of Central Queens raise chicks from embryo to “teen” chick. Mr. Kahn has been incubating
and raising chicks with students for over 45 years, beginning with his first class in East New York, Brooklyn. The students at YCQ have been privileged to work with him and participate in this amazing learning experience over the past several years. Prior to the beginning of the project, students discuss
what they will observe, make predictions about the process, and discuss the appropriate behavior necessary to care for the chicks. As part of their STEM curriculum, the students learned about animals in
their natural habitats with a focus on development and adaptation. Through this project, the students partook in a hands-on experience that taught them all about embryology, as they watched each stage of their chicks’ development. The student participants came up with an array of ques-
tions to enhance the lessons, and those questions got answered through research, classroom discussion and by just watching patiently as the natural process took place. Through this project, the students have learned about digestion in animals compared to humans and the importance of nutrients for growth and where we get those nutrients. Throughout the course of the project, they studied the similarities and differences between birds and other mammals in relation to how the animals’ needs are met during the gestation period and how the circulatory system develops and delivers necessary nutrients to the embryo. By the 21st day of the gestation period, the excitement built as the students got to see the chicks “break out” of their shells. Within a day and a half of the chicks emerging from their shell, the feathers dried out and the down-covered chicks began to explore their surroundings. What is great about the “chick hatching” project is that the gestation period takes place within a three-week period, giving each student a chance to really observe and understand the process. Using special instruments and lights, the students were able to see inside the eggs as they developed to gain a better understanding
of their life cycle. Mr. Kahn gets the chicks from a farm in Huntington that takes the chicks back when they are ready to return. In the past, this lesson had been done with duck eggs. “Ducklings are amazingly adorable, but they imprint strongly to us,” said Mr. Kahn. “It is harder to let them go.” Dassie Jaffe, grade 5 project participant, said, “Raising the chicks taught us that it is important to take care of your friends and classmates, sort of in the same way we take care of the chicks. It taught me the importance of how to treat others nicely, just like we would never hurt the
chicks.” On weekends and holidays when the Yeshiva is closed, different students and their families volunteer to take the chicks home, offering the proper care and attention. The students not only learned from this experience academically, they learned how to nurture and show sensitivity to other living things, as well as responsibility and to increase their observation techniques, all necessary skills for scientific learning. This was an opportunity that offered students, within the context of science, to interact with living things in a way that promotes respect and encourages a love of science and learning.
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Shulamith seventh graders Adina Adelman and Elisheva Feinberg with seniors from the Chaverim program enjoying a pre-summer bash at the JCC last week Volunteers from Kulanu visited the JCCRP pantry to help stock the shelves. They are seen here with the new Executive Director of the JCCRP, Moshe Brandsdorfer
Young Artists at Shulamith
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he Annual Shulamith Night of the Arts showcases all that the fourth graders have learned in art, music, and dance. This year’s event took place on Monday, June 5. The evening began with a musical and dance performance which the girls prepared under the direction of music teachers Morah Tali Spector and Morah Rena Greenberg. Following the musical presentation, guests proceeded to the gym and lunchroom which were transformed into an art museum. The exhibit included four pieces of artwork created by each student over the course of the year. Three pieces, inspired by wellknown artists Gustav Klimt, Wassily Kandinsky and Roy Lichtenstein, hung on the wall, while sculpted metallic clay leaves were displayed on tables. Mrs. Naomi Weintraub expressed pride in her students’ work, commenting, “Each of my girls did an excellent job recreating famous pieces of artwork while using her own creativity and imagination.” The event could not have taken place without the support of Lower
Division Principal Mrs. Joyce Yarmak and the help of fourth grade teachers Morah Mindy Futersak, Mrs. Helene Gerber, Morah Maayan Gross, and Mrs. Stephanie Shilo. In addition, Mrs. Rina Hirsch lent her expertise to the evening’s festivities, Mrs. Breindy Wahrman coordinated numerous aspects of the event, and Mrs. Shana Gluck donated headbands for each young performing artist.
HAFTR Junior Named a Bronfman Fellow
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aniel Friedman, a junior at HAFTR High School, is one of 26 students from across North America to be selected as a recipient of the prestigious Bronfman Fellowship. The Bronfman Fellows will participate in a transformative five-week program of study and travel in Israel, followed by a rigorous year of programming that will immerse them in an intensive exploration of Jewish text study, pluralism and social responsibility. The Fellowship promotes the study of Jewish texts, traditions, history and culture as a way for Fellows to engage with each other and the world. There are now over 1,100 Bronfman Fellowship alumni in Israel and North America, including some of today’s most inspiring Jewish writers, thinkers and leaders. Daniel is a member of numerous teams and clubs at HAFTR High School, including the math team, science and engineering club, and Model Congress. In addition, Daniel is a writer for the HAFTR Tattler, the school’s student newspaper. He ranked among the top ten national finalists at the Jerusalem Science Competition, and has won numerous awards for his science projects on spectroscopy. Last month, Daniel was selected as Student of the Year at HAFTR High School’s annual Celebration of Excellence, where he delivered the keynote address. Daniel is also involved in the Yeshiva University Talmud Study Program and currently ranks in the top five nationwide. In the future, Daniel hopes to continue to combine his passions for
science, Torah, reading, and writing in a career. The Bronfman Fellowship program was founded by Edgar M. Bronfman, a”h, formerly CEO of the Seagram Company Ltd. and a visionary Jewish philanthropist. The Fellowships reflect Mr. Bronfman’s early and impassioned belief that for the Jewish people to thrive, Israeli and American Jews must be engaged in open and creative discourse with one another. The alumni embody Mr. Bronfman’s vision that young people who are enriched and energized by their Judaism are poised to contribute not only to Jewish life, but to improving the world. The highly selective Fellowship educates and inspires exceptional young Jews from diverse backgrounds to become active participants in Jewish culture throughout their lives and to contribute their talents and vision to the Jewish community and to the world at large. Mazal tov Daniel!
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Community Celebrates and Supports Yeshiva Gedolah Ateres Yaakov
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his past Sunday the community gathered for a beautiful event for hachzakas haTorah. Mr. & Mrs. Nossi Feiner opened up their beautiful home to host the third annual Breakfast Reception on behalf of Yeshiva Gedolah Ateres Yaakov. The breakfast was enhanced by fantastic food and ambiance and tremendous ruchniyus. Tremendous kavod was given to this special makom Torah and chizuk given to its Rosh Yeshiva and rabbeim. The breakfast celebrated the successes of the Yeshiva Gedolah and its Kollel. Mr. Nossi Feiner greeted the packed event and spoke about the
the heart thanking the hosts for opening up their home for the breakfast. The Rosh Yeshiva thanked the Rosh HaYeshiva of the overall Ateres Yaakov institution, Rabbi Mordechai Yaffe, shlita, for his tremendous devotion to the Yeshiva Gedolah and its talmidim. Rabbi Braunstein explained that the Yeshiva’s mission is to guide each talmid in the derech that he needs to fulfill his tafkid and attain simchas hachaim. He stressed the importance for bochurim returning from Eretz Yisroel or those staying in America to have a makom where they can build on all their growth in Eretz Yisroel. He
amazing care and attention lavished on each and every talmid in the yeshiva by Rosh Yeshiva, Rabbi Meir Braunstein, shlita, and the faculty. He noted that the Rosh yeshiva is driven to be marbeh kavod Shamayim. Following this warm introduction, Rabbi Braunstein spoke from
noted that “since the Yeshiva Gedolah opened, over 60 bochurim from the Yeshiva Gedolah have gotten married and more than 40 of those couples now reside in the Far Rockaway/ Five Towns community. The Yeshiva is building fine bnei Torah and the entire community is benefitting from it.”
The Rosh Yeshiva concluded by thanking Rabbi Rodkin, Rabbi Gold, Rabbi Edelstein, Rabbi Hartman, and Rabbi Willig for their tireless devotion on behalf of the talmidim. “The rabbeim of Ateres Yaakov are dedicated to each bochur and each avreich. Whether it’s understanding p’shat in a Gemara or a Rabbi Akiva Eiger, whether it’s navigating a shidduch, whether it’s getting married, or any other of the myriad of challenges that life has to offer, the rabbeim are al-
ways there to direct, help, and guide.” The yeshiva breakfast was enhanced by the presence of many prominent community rabbanim and leaders. The Yeshiva thanks the Feiner family for opening their home, and the breakfast chairmen Mr. Nochum Aber and Mr. Seth Farbman, the hosting and alumni committee, and the whole community for their support of this unique Yeshiva.
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Mr. Ronald Lowinger, the president of Yeshiva Darchei Torah, addressing the graduating class of Mesivta Chaim Shlomo in advance of their graduation
YDT Visits Rav Hillel David
Yeshiva Darchei Torah Seventh Graders with Rav Hillel David at his beis medrash in Flatbush
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ast month, when Rav Dovid Frischman took his seventh grade talmidim to visit Rav Hillel David, shlita, the rav of Khal Yeshiva Shaarei Torah in Flatbush, the boys made a collective siyum. A siyum in Rav Frischman’s class is not unusual, nor is it in the middle school, the division of Yeshiva Darchei Torah which he leads as menahel. Each year the boys learn many Mishnayos, usually in memory of or as a zechus for someone. What was different about this siyum, and this visit, was that they had already been there before. Back in December, Rav Frischman and his class were in Rav David’s shul to hear
words of chizuk from this venerated rav and gadol ba’Torah. At the time, Rav David encouraged the boys to begin learning two Mishnayos each day, outside of their regular studies. The boys wasted no time in implementing the rav’s idea. The very next day in class, Yaakov Yisroel Methal assigned Mishnayos to each boy. Now, in May, the boys returned to Rav David to celebrate their collective completion of three out of the six sedarim of the Mishnah. Something had happened in the intervening six months. Rav Hillel David’s doctors determined that he needed open heart surgery. Rav Frischman and the boys became aware of this and dedicated their efforts – and davening – to a success-
ful operation and his speedy recovery, taking on more Mishnayos than they had originally planned. When they returned this spring to mark the siyum in his presence, Rav David had visible nachas as they made the hadran together, and he offered them divrei chizuk about ameilus in Torah. They surprised him by singing a song that Rav Frischman had written especially for the occasion, I Am the Mishnah. The song’s lyrics use the documented story of the angel representing the Mishnah who appeared on the night of Shavuos to Rav Yosef Karo, zt”l, author of Shulchan Aruch, as a motif, and incorporated the boys’ Mishnayos journey of the last six months. Rav David, visibly moved, de-
scribed how his recovery from heart surgery proceeded remarkably quickly, to the surprise of his medical team. His voice breaking with emotion, Rav David addressed the boys: “I and you know why I feel so much better already: because of your Mishnayos. I thank you very much… it’s all you. You got me better, your Mishnayos.” Not willing to let the boys rest on their laurels, he challenged them: “But you only learned half of Shas! You have to learn all of Shas…You did a great job in half a year – in another half a year you can finish… Boys, are you all ‘game’?” They definitely are.
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It Has Been Quite an Exciting Year at HALB!
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fter years of hard work and effort purchasing and renovating the Woodmere campus, the school moved into its magnificent new facility with great fanfare this past March. What an incredible opportunity we had to witness the sheer delight of students and teachers as they walked through the front doors of our new home! This was, by far, one of the most memorable days in HALB’s history. Now that everyone has acclimated
to the new facilities and classes are running smoothly and seamlessly, we should all take a moment to appreciate the thought and meticulous planning that went into this major endeavor. Over the summer months, the school will be preparing a Chanukat Habayit to be celebrated in September with the entire HALB community upon the opening of the first full school year in the building. That event will iy”H formally celebrate the new facility and march the sifrei To-
rah into the Beit Medrash. It is rare to be able to play an active role in a project of this magnitude and we truly want everyone to look back on this event knowing the role that we each played in bringing it to fruition. This campus is a huge step forward for our children and we ask that you donate generously. Aside from major dedication opportunities, the campaign has been opened to the entire community with our “Take a Mezuzah” and “Take
a Seat” Campaign. They allow you to dedicate a mezuzah in the new building for $10,000, or a seat in our beautiful auditorium for $1,800. The dedication will be recognized on a commemorative plaque. Please participate online at HALB.org/Build, or call Dini at 516791-8200, ext 107. Thank you so much for your partnership and your support.
Standing Room Only at Sh’eefa’s Leil Shavuos Program
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ncredible!” “Unreal!” “It made my yom tov!” “Such a beautiful night!” These were just some of the sentiments from the young women who participated in Sh’eefa’s inaugural Leil Shavuos Night of Learning. The learning, dedicated anonymously as a z’chus for a refua shleima for Adeena Chaya bas Aviva and Breindel bas Reitza and lilui nishmas HaRav Shmuel ben Tziporah, a”h, filled a much-needed void, en-
suring that women have a place to learn throughout Shavuos night. Delicious refreshments were provided throughout the night to ensure a most comfortable learning environment. There was standing room only as over 100 women came out to Aish Kodesh to learn together. The program featured inspiring shiurim from Rebbetzin Myrna Weinberger, Rabbi Aryeh Cohen, Rabbi Shalom Yona Weiss and Rabbi Elly Storch,
followed by a chabura led by Sh’eefa participant Ahuva Fox. Delicious refreshments were provided throughout the night to fuel the participants. After learning through the night, the women completed Sefer Tehillim together, a truly special way to culminate such a magical evening. Thank you to all of our wonderful volunteers and sponsors for making this event possible! Sh’eefa looks forward to continuing its programs and shiurim
throughout the summer. This Sunday, June 18, at 10:15AM, we are privileged to be hearing from Mrs. Schali Chrein, registered nurse, morah, kallah teacher and certified relationship coach, who will be speaking on the topic of ”Sometimes When You’re Right, You’re Wrong – The Torah’s View of Excelling in All Our Relationships.” All women in the community are invited to attend.
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YOSS Bachurei Chemed Reach New Heights
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orty four talmidim of Yeshiva South Shore were privileged to attend a very unique trip which they will surely never forget. These talmidim, from the fourth through eighth grade, are Bachurei Chemed – Yedidei Hashem, who were chosen by their rabbeim for ex-
hibiting exemplary middos and derech eretz throughout the year. Led by the Director of Student Activities, Rabbi Shomo Drebin, the talmidim visited the famed yeshiva Mesivta Tifereth Jerusalem on the Lower East Side. They got a chance to meet, to
hear divrei chizuk from, give shalom and to receive a bracha from the Rosh Yeshiva, Hagaon Rav Dovid Feinsten, shlita, the son of the Gadol Hador, Hagaon Rav Moshe Feinstein, zt”l, and one of the great gedolim and poskim of this generation. After the visit to the lofty
spiritual heights, the boys got a chance to reach some physical height as well. The entire group of these select talmidim went from the Lower East Side to Lower Manhattan where they visited the One World Observatory at the Freedom Tower. While inside this iconic land-
mark, the boys were dazzled by the speed at which they ascended by elevator to the hundred-second floor and by the absolutely breathtaking views of the city from such a dizzying height. The Bachurei Chemed was a project inspired by our late Rosh Yeshiva, Rav Binyamin Kamenetzky, zt”l, who left a legacy of amazing programs in the Yeshiva that help the talmidim grow in love for Yiddishkeit and middos tovos. During his lifetime he personified qualities of sterling middos which in turn inspires each of us that knew him . Our Bachurei Chemed received an additional sobriquet after the Rosh Yeshiva’s passing. At the shloshim Rav Mordechai Kamenetzky suggested to add the name Yedidei Hashem, the name Moshe Rabbeinu bestowed on shevet Binyamin to the Bachrei Chemed as a fitting memorial to his beloved father. May the Rosh Yeshiva’s memory continue to inspire our talmidm and our Bachurei Chemed Yedidei Hashem for generations to come.
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n Thursday, June 8, HANC Middle School held its Names, Not Numbers© program. Names, Not Numbers© is a copyrighted oral history film project and curriculum which Mrs. Tova Fish-Rosenberg created that takes the teaching of the holocaust and its lessons well beyond many previous efforts. Through the Names, Not Numbers© program, HANC students had the opportunity to document the teachings of the Holocaust and address questions about an individual’s responsibility to humanity. The night began with a dinner for the eighth grade students, their families, and the survivors and their families. This allowed everyone to interact with each other. In fact, the inter-generational component is a key component of the program. After dinner, the lights were turned off and it was time for the feature presentation. The students interviewed Martin Berger, Jean Chapnick, Sally Frishberg, Ernie Honig, Toby Levy, Asher Matathias, Ruth Mermelstein, and Mordechai Miller.
At the end of the DVD, there was loud applause and when the survivors were asked to come to the front for a final time, the crowd of people erupted. Afterward, parents and students were effusive in their praise of this most powerful evening. One of the parents said that her daughter shared with her every step of the process and that “the program’s impact on her and her friends was far greater than we were able to see last night.” May the par-
ents and students always pass down the testimony from generation to generation. Names, Not Numbers© is generously supported by a prominent national foundation. The following people sponsored as well: Atara and David Berkowitz, Loren and Stuart Daitch, Doreen and Beryl Eckstein, Adina and Dovid Frankel, Ruchi and Tsvi Kushner, Kari and Joshua Levine, Sharon and William Lovy, Penny and
Paul Reinstein, Yocheved and Irving Reinstein, Rochelle and Avi Schneider, and Meryl and Jeremy Strauss. A special thank you to Tova and Dov Rosenberg for their indefatigable efforts with this program. The Names, Not Numbers© at HANC 2016-17 documentary will be included in the archives of The National Library of Israel in Jerusalem, Yad Vashem, and Yeshiva University’s Gottesman Library.
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Yeshiva Gedolah of the Five Towns Hosts its 15h Annual Breakfast
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n Sunday, June 18 at 9:15, Yeshiva Gedolah of the Five Towns will be hosting its 15th Annual Breakfast, recognizing some of its dearest friends. Izzy Root will receive the Amud Hachesed Award, Alex Sichel will be awarded the Amud Hatorah Award, and Yechiel Lorch will be recognized with the Yedid Hatorah Award. For the fourth consecutive year, the Yeshiva will be able to host this important event in its own facility, at 218 Mosher Ave in Woodmere, due to its larger accommodations. The breakfast will provide a momentary pause to consider what the Yeshiva’s powerful influence means to our community. The spiritual peaks attained on a Shavuos night, learning b’chavrusa in the expansive beis medrash, or at a Yomim Noraim tefillah, punctuated by the kol tefillah, can only be achieved due to the consistent, unwavering support the community has invested in its yeshiva and the yeshiva has reciprocated
to the community. When the Yeshiva Gedolah opened the doors of its humble beis medrash to less than 20 bochurim over 15 years ago, the objectives of its chashuve Roshei Yeshiva, Rav Yitzchak Knobel, shlita, and Rav Moshe Zev Katzenstein, shlita, were rather grand. Plant an institution which can serve as an example of Torah, yiras Shamayim and middos tovos to take root in the heart of the Five Towns community. And, as the community has flourished around it, the Yeshiva has blossomed into a model for the entire olam haTorah to admire, with currently close to 100 talmidim, including bochurim and kollel. Not to be forgotten is the growth of those families who have made the Yeshiva part of their lives. Our expanding programs for children and active N’shei is reflective of this amazing growth. But the story does not end with the past history. Indeed, the Yeshiva continues to grow and expand
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its role in the lives of the bochurim, kollel yungerman and baalei batim who choose to seek spiritual nourishment from it. This critical, ongoing responsibility the Yeshiva takes on requires the continued time and investment from the community. It is in that spirit that the Yeshiva requests your presence in recognizing its special honorees and the Yeshiva itself at this upcoming event. Amud Hachessed Izzy Root is truly a force of chessed and good will in our community. He is the organizer of many chessed programs on Purim and Chanukah for the less privileged and, in general, is an advocate for all the people who are in need. Izzy has also established himself as a voice of reason on many issues and is committed to strong values and ideals. His quick smile and easy laugh are windows into his golden heart and magnanimous soul. It is truly a privilege for us to honor R’ Izzy; a true pillar of chessed in the Yeshiva and the community at large and deserving recipient of this award. Amud Hatorah The Amud Hatorah Award will be presented to Mr. Alex Sichel. Alex has been connected to the Yeshiva in an integral way for more than ten years. He is currently the gabbai and motivating force behind the daily early minyan in the Yeshiva. Alex has made the Yeshiva his home both for Torah and tefillah. Together with his wife, Shira, they have established a home of Torah and chessed. Both Alex and Shira come from families
that also have an appreciation for the Yeshiva and what it has accomplished in the community. The entire extended family frequents the Yeshiva at various points during Yedid Hatorah The Yedid Hatorah Award will be presented to Mr. Yechiel Lorch. Yechiel has a longstanding relationship with the Yeshiva that started in his formative years, in high school. For more than twenty years, Yechiel has consistently attended shiurim in the Yeshiva and contributes to every shiur with his sincerity, enthusiasm and thirst for the truth. He maintains a daily learning regimen that has allowed him to finish large portions of shisha sidrei Mishna and other parts of Torah. His heart of gold is supported by his wife, Batya, and together they have built a home of Torah and chessed. Yechiel’s friendly and energetic personality is shared with people of all kinds, but is guided by Torah and deretz eretz. He is a true friend of the Yeshiva and of Torah. Event Details It is our hope to greet you personally at the upcoming breakfast on June 18 at 9:15 so we can collectively show our appreciation for the efforts of the Yeshiva and the Roshei Yeshiva for implanting this makom Torah in our lives as well as our admiration for the accomplishments and admiration of this special slate of honorees. For more information, please contact the Yeshiva office at 516-295-8900, ext 4.
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Drama for Life
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rama for Life! once again amazed their audience with their annual productions this past Sunday, June 11. With two fantastic showings of “Beauty and the
Beast,” the audience couldn’t get over this magical show. Over 100 girls participated under the direction of Rina C. Hirsch and Ariana Wolfson, and the plays benefited Kids of Courage.
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Chaverim Car Seat Safety
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n Sunday, June 11, Chaverim of the Five Towns and Rockaways held its first annual Car Seat Safety inspection. This was done in conjunction with the Kulanu Fair held in Andrew J Parise Park, which had over 1,000 people attending. We checked sixteen car seats and were pleased to have the following state certified inspectors: Erica Hyman, Sivya Rockoff, and Sara Adina Baker. While in general, over 75% of caregivers feel confident that they know how to use their seats correctly, we found a 93% misuse rate among the seats checked – seats that were either installed improperly or being used incorrectly. We are so proud to have been able to give over lifesaving education to all those who participated! We had over 20 people who came by without cars and took our information to sign
up for the next car seat event (stay tuned by following us on social media or by email, see below). The winners of our raffles were Shana W. of the Five Towns (belt-positioning booster) and Chila A. of Brooklyn (harness-to-booster seat). Congratulations! Chaverim would like to thank Deputy Inspector Daniel Gluck, Commanding Officer, and the rest of the Nassau County Auxiliary Police Fourth Unit for their tireless efforts in helping out with anything and everything the community needs. We would like to thank Senator Todd Kaminsky, Assemblyman Dov Hikind and Senior Councilwoman Dorothy L. Goosby of Hempstead for stopping by and giving us much support. Chaverim of the Five Towns and Rockaways would like to thank our dedicated members Pinchas Lipsky, Chai Rosner and Dani Grunstein for
Chaverim member with Assemblyman Dov Hikind
stopping by and helping out on a very hot day. A special thanks goes out to our sponsors Tech613, Monte Rosenzweig from Allstate, and Mr. and Mrs. Ben Brafman in memory of their parents. Please patronize our sponsors as we couldn’t have done this event without their help. Please email us at info@ chaverim5t.org to receive our “baby on board” safety decal, which also has our number on it. Please feel free to sign up
for one of our next official defensive driving classes. They will be held at 7pm on July 24th and October 30th at the Marion & Aaron Gural JCC located at 207 Grove Ave. in Cedarhurst. Pre-registration is required, as there are space constraints. For more information or to sign up please visit us on the web http://chaverim5t.org/defensive-drivingclass-sign-up-2017/. Face-
book: https://www.facebook. com/chaverim.fivetowns.3, Twitter: @Chaverim5T, Instagram: @chaverim5t/ or by contacting us by email, info@ chaverim5t.org or on our info-line 516-331-1460. As always, please contact us if you are having car trouble. Chaverim of the Five Towns and Rockaways is ready to assist! Call the helpline 718-337-1800.
Books and Botanic Gardens at HAFTR
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AFTR kindergarten readers and writers visited Blue Door Books, following their End of Year Celebrations. Students felt at home navigating the different sections and enjoyed storytelling with a familiar favorite, “We Are Growing,” by Laurie Keller and Moe Willems. Thank you Blue Door Books for the terrific opportunity and for the
bookmarks which will come in handy. HAFTR third grade artists and scientists would agree with classmate Zach Strauss, when he said that the trip to the Chihuly Exhibit at the New York Botanical Gardens “was the best day ever.” Students toured the beautiful gardens while observing the many sculptures by artist Dale Chihuly, an artist they are learned about in art.
After exploring the gardens with their chaperones, students joined an educator for a tour of the Conservatory. They marveled at the sculptures while sketching. Students paid close attention to the location of the art and how it enhanced or camouflaged the environment around them. Some of their favorite glass sculptures included, Sol Del Citron and Sapphire Star.
Students paid close attention to the White Tower with Fiori, a sculpture that was on display at Chihuly’s Jerusalem 2000 exhibit. In a hands-on workshop at the museum, students created their own free standing sculptures. Our young artists look forward to displaying their own art inspired by Chihuly’s Macchia bowls at their M’Dor L’Dor Evening on June 14.
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he HANC fifth graders made their annual trip to Philadelphia on Thursday. They walked and walked and walked all over “Center City,” the historic district. According to Mrs. Spitalnik’s Fitbit, they logged almost 16,000 steps and countless staircases! The children stood in the room where both the Declaration of Independence and the Constitution were signed. They took a horse and buggy ride around the historical district and davened Mincha at Mikveh Israel Synagogue, which is the oldest continuing congregation in the United States. They saw Torah crowns and breastplates
made by famous Jewish silversmith, Myer Myers, a contemporary of Paul Revere. In the “Signer’s Gallery” at the Constitution Center the children got to “sit” on Ben Franklin’s lap and congratulate other signers of the Constitution...or more accurately, their life-size bronze statues. The children also got to see the Liberty Bell, a famous symbol of the greatness of America. They had a picnic dinner on the way home with yummy deli sandwiches. It was a wonderful culmination to the students’ study of American history and an experience the children will cherish.
Twelve Chicks Grow in Queens
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t was Erev Shavuos and Yeshiva Ketana of Queens’ students were hard at work preparing their chickens: for living, that is, not for cooking. Our baby chicks had hatched a week before and were getting ready to move from their first home in yeshiva to chicken coops quickly assembled and built in homes as far from YKQ as Great Neck and as near as Kew Gardens Hills. The third graders, under the guidance of Mrs. Baila Biderman and Mrs. Yael Goldberg, had watched carefully as their eggs developed, turning them each day and candling them when the time came. In each of YKQ’s third grade classrooms, eight out of twelve eggs came to fruition, and they were exhibited proudly at the third grade Nutrition Fair held in Congregation Toras Emes on May 24. Along with learning about the importance of drinking water, the nutritional content of breakfast foods, the damaging effects of sugar and soda and other nutrition-related facts, the boys learned
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about proper care for chickens—hens and roosters—and managed to obtain hands-on experience in woodworking and in caring and training their broods. Hatzlacha to all in raising healthy fowl.
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ast Tuesday evening, an overflow crowd filled the Boehm Meeting Room in the Hewlett-Woodmere Library to address the state of West Broadway, a vital Five Towns road running from Cedarhurst to Hewlett. The meeting was organized by the West Broadway Committee, a grass-roots group of local community members who have united in their efforts to voice the many concerns related to the safety and beautification of this important roadway to the local government. The committee printed their own flyers, sent emails, posted on social media and hired local teenagers to distribute flyers door-to-door, hoping to spread the word and unite residents around the issues. Residents responded on short notice and filled the library meeting space to capacity, eagerly awaiting the opportunity to voice their concerns. At the Town Hall meet-
ing, Legislators Denise Ford and Howard Kopel, along with representatives from the Town of Hempstead Department of Public Works and Nassau County Police, addressed the large crowd of frustrated residents, fielding questions related to broken telephone poles, broken sidewalks, missing curbs, illegal trucks on the road, pedestrian injuries and deaths, property damage, sewage, drainage and a host of other issues relating to West Broadway. One resident of Woodmere, living on West Broadway since the 1950s, expressed his frustration at the many years of deterioration of West Broadway, addressing the audience and pleading that when the work is eventually done, that it be done without shortcuts and done properly. Residents, both new to the neighborhood and others long-time homeowners, equally shared their frustrations of the current
state of the roadway to the assembled officials, some bringing their own videos, pictures and stories relating to the deterioration of West Broadway. Ahron Rosenthal, co-chair of the West Broadway Committee, stated, “This entirely grass-roots effort yielded phenomenal results, with a standing room only crowd coming out to express their many concerns and strongly express to the Town and County their need for immediate action. We hope that this strong community show-
ing will send a clear message that the residents are fed up.” Dr. Ari Weinreb expressed great enthusiasm at the large turnout for a town hall meeting on very short notice, and in the middle of a work-week, saying, “I am happy that the elected officials were able to see how this issue is so important to so many members of this community.” Mr. Ben Weinstock, Mayor of Cedarhurst, stood up and pointed out that Branch Blvd. was a major project of the county, with the curbing
A Siyum to Remember
Ten ninth grade bachurim from Mesivta Chaim Shlomo completed Maseches Megillah last week thanks to a voluntary, post-night-seder learning session that lasted throughout the year.
Pictured, L-R: Rav Yitzchok Hauer (speaking), Rav Zevi Trenk, Rav Moshe Bender, Rav Eli Wiener, Rav Chaim G. Davis, and Rav Avrohom Nusbaum
and sidewalks fixed and paid for by the Town and County, and not the homeowners, and that it was entirely possible to push the project through. Mr. Kopel stated that the resurfacing and fixing of West Broadway would begin sometime in 2018 and that the matter of financial responsibility of the sidewalks and curbs is still under review. If you would like to get involved with this committee please contact Westbroadwaycommittee@gmail.com.
Make no mistake. Every single household in the Five Towns will be negatively impacted by this proposed development.
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HANC Visits the Buehler Challenger and Science Center
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he sky was the limit for the sixth grade students at HANC’s Samuel and Elizabeth Bass Golding Elementary School. They traveled to Paramus, New Jersey, for their culminating science trip to the Buehler Challenger and Science Center. Over the past several months, the students have been learning about mission STS51L that was supposed to take place in January 1986. Unfortunately, the astronauts lost their lives in a horrible disaster due to a malfunctioning O-ring. The Buehler Challenger and Science Center allows for the students to complete the mission of the astronauts and gather information about Halley’s Comet. Many handson activities were performed to prepare the students for the jobs that they applied for. The students had the opportunity to build a probe and calculated the coordinates to determine where the Comet was located. Once they completed the calculations, they were able to “send” the probe into space to collect informa-
tion about what the Comet is made of. During the course of the mission, several “emergencies” arose and, just like actual astronauts, the students had to work together to determine
the best course of action to resolve the problematic issues. Buehler is an excellent experience that is designed to foster teamwork, leadership and experimenta-
tion through inquiry-based learning. All of the children had a great time and it was an experience that they will always remember!
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he Five Towns is about to get a lot more crowded if a developer has his way. Efrem Gerszberg and Robert Weiss, both non-residents of the Five Towns, have purchased the entire 110 acre Woodmere Club for an undisclosed sum. The Woodmere Club, founded in 1908, has been in existence for 109 years and is considered to be a premier golf course and crown jewel of the Five Towns. Its sprawling acreage, which is under the jurisdiction of the Town of Hempstead, encompasses portions of Lawrence, Cedarhurst, Woodmere and Woodsburgh. The developers have
hired the Troon Management Company to run the golf course for the next three to five years while they plan their next step. The land, which is privately owned by the Woodmere Club, is currently zoned for 60x100 lots. This means the developers could potentially build upwards of 300 homes on the property. This is the equivalent of adding an entire town to our neighborhood, which will negatively impact absolutely everybody living in the Five Towns. Anyone who has lived in the Five Towns for an extended period of time is well-aware that over the past several years traffic on Central Avenue has become intolerable. Whereas the less than halfmile drive
through the shopping blocks on Central Avenue used to take five minutes, it can now take up to 20 minutes during busy times. Driving down Broadway from Lawrence through Hewlett – which is approximately 2-3 miles long – can take 30 minutes or more in rush hour traffic. Adding 300 more houses with 600 or more cars to our already congested streets is a recipe for disaster. It will not only further congest the main roadways, but will also cause more cars to divert on to East Broadway, West Broadway, Peninsula Boulevard and even the quiet roads in Back Lawrence along Atlantic Avenue, Chauncey Lane and Ocean Avenue, causing major traffic jams and gridlock on side streets at all hours of the day. Never mind, the emergency evacuation routes! In the event of an emergency, routes will be past their breaking point with the several hundred extra vehicles on the road. Although the daily congestion that will come from adding several hundred homes to our area is likely a primary concern for many, there is even a bigger concern – flooding. Unbeknownst to many homeowners, during Hurricane Sandy the Woodmere Golf Course may have prevented their homes from flooding. Although hundreds of homes in the Five Towns and surrounding areas were flooded during Hurricane Sandy, the golf course’s porous land was singlehandedly responsible for saving hundreds more homes in Lawrence and Cedarhurst, Woodmere and Woodsburgh from flooding during
the storm by absorbing the water that surged inland from Reynold’s Channel. The land of the golf course, in fact, floods pretty much whenever there is a heavy rain. That flooding prevents those waters, which eventually soak into the ground, from flooding many homes in the area. Developing the golf course will also result in the loss of green space which is home to so many species of flora and fauna including flood-mitigating plants, wild pheasants, frogs, toads and rabbits. It also serves as a vital migration ground for thousands of geese, ducks and other water fowl. It serves as a natural habitat for so many living creatures, and it will be destroyed. Furthermore, birds and amphibians feast on insects and their larvae which are abundant in the watery marsh lands of Reynold’s Channel. Developing the land will destroy this delicate balance in our ecosystem. Disease-carrying mosquitoes, biting green flies and other insects that are now limited to areas close to the water will multiply uninhibited by their natural predators and move further inland. The Woodmere Club is on completely undeveloped land. This means the land will first need to be graded, then new roads, water lines, sewers, fire hydrants and street lighting added before the building of new homes can even be started. The construction of infrastructure followed by construction of homes will take years to complete. The developers will create new roads, open up or extend dead end streets to through traffic and increase the flow of traffic on previously quiet streets. This pro-
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cess will create major traffic and utility interruptions, tremendous noise and environmental pollution from all the construction vehicles that will be used in this massive project. It will undoubtedly cost a tremendous amount of money that could result in higher taxes for everyone. Our current infrastructure is overburdened for our current households. This includes our utilities, water supply, natural gas, sewer systems, and electrical grids, not to mention the increased demand it will place on our sanitation department, street cleaning/snow removal services, emergency responders and, most importantly, our police and fire departments. Upgrades and increases to these services will undoubtedly cost a tremendous amount of money that will be paid for by our tax dollars, which will likely increase with this added burden. This development will not only hurt our quality of life by removing one of the last large green spaces that we have, but will also likely affect our pocketbooks as it may cause property prices to plummet. The law of supply and demand means that with an increase in supply due to the influx of hundreds of brand new homes, the value of all our existing homes will decrease significantly.
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ut there is hope. After hearing our pleas for help, our local legislators Bruce Blakeman, Anthony Santino and Anthony D’Esposito have taken the important first step in placing a temporary moratorium on any development of private golf courses, and it has just been extended for another for 180 days. We must reach out to our politicians and demand that they continue to extend the moratorium in order to stop this nightmare from becoming a reality and to change the current zoning to benefit the community. There is also a grassroots effort underway by a group of dedicated Five Towners who have created a new “Five Towns Civic Association” to fight this through political and legal means. They have so far been successful in blocking a separate development of 22 townhouses on 2.2 acres of the Woodmere Club property. When the Number 6 School was to be sold to Simone Development and turned into a medical
center, the community banded together, raised awareness and voted it down. That property has since been purchased by HALB and is a tremendous asset to the community rather than a liability. We can do it again. But we need your help.
4. Sign our petition on change. org (search for: “woodmere club”) 5. Follow us on Facebook for the latest updates, including scheduled town hall meetings (https://www. facebook.com/woodmereclubdevelopment/) and www.5tca.org
Make no mistake. Every single household in the Five Towns will be negatively impacted by this proposed development. HERE IS WHAT YOU CAN DO TO EFFECT CHANGE: 1. Join the Five Towns Civic Association and donate money to our cause to be used in our legal battle. Get involved and be a part of the solution. The suggested donation is $500 per family, however, any amount is appreciated and will gladly be accepted. Moreover, donations can be spread out over time. Checks should be made out to “The 5 Towns Civic Association Inc.” and mailed to 5 Towns Civic Association, P.O. Box 462, Woodmere, New York 11598. You can also donate via our PayPal account linked to our Facebook page, or on 5TCA.org. 2. Reach out to our local politicians by mail to thank them for the hard work they have done so far in keeping the developers from touching the land and demand that they keep the moratorium in place indefinitely and change current zoning to prevent dense development. We must hold our local representatives responsible for the decisions they make that will affect our quality of life. Remind them that November elections are just around the corner and if they can’t deliver on the demands of their constituents, they may find themselves voted out of office. 3. Howard J. Kopel, District 7 Legislator, has created a petition on the Nassau County website. Please sign the petition to support this effort. The petition can be found here: https://forms.nassaucountyny.gov/ agencies/Legis/LD/07/wccpetition. php
6. Email us at stopwoodmergolf@ gmail.com to be added to our email list 7. To volunteer or to get lawn signs, email ftcavolunteer@gmail. com
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ment. Even if you don’t live anywhere near the Woodmere Club, you will be affected. Traffic, gridlock, parking, evacuation routes, environmental impacts, flooding, utilities, public services, property values, taxes and quality of life are all going to change our lives for the worse. We need to stop this development before it even begins. The only people who stand to benefit from this are the developers who will make many millions of dollars while we suffer. If the developers – who are from New Jersey and Staten Island and have no interest in our community or quality of life – get their way, they will essentially be adding an entire town to an already overpopulated area. It will forever change the character of our existing neighborhood. We are the Five Towns, NOT the six towns, and we need to keep it that way.
Peter Stein and Mario Joseph, Esq. are co-presidents of the 5Towns Civic Association Inc.
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Centerfold this?
Mr. Pitman was a very rich man who liked to see how smart the local kids were. One day he came into town with a little safe and announced that there was $1,000 in the safe for anyone who could get it open. He showed the crowd five different colored keys and the person who figured out which key was the correct one for the safe got to keep the money. Using the clues, do you think you could figure it out? Red: This key is somewhere to the left of the key to the door. Blue: This key is not at one of the ends. Green: This key is three spaces away from the key to the door (2 between). Yellow: This key is next to the key to the door. Orange: This key is in the middle.
See answer below
Horsing Around With Names
Which one of the following is not the name of a horse that raced in either of the three Triple Crown races this year:
Twisted Tom
Lookin At Lee
Cloud Computing
State of Honor
Tapwrit
Irish War Cry
Untrapped
J Boys Echo
Senior Investment
Always Dreaming Speedy Stallion
Meantime
Conquest Mo Money
Multiplier Epicharis Patch
Battle of Midway Practical Joke
Fast and Accurate Thunder Snow
Answer to riddle: The order (from left to right) is green, red, orange, blue, yellow. The blue key is the key to the door.
Hollywood Handsome
Classic Empire
Answer: Speedy Stallion
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Rookie of the Year Trivia 1.
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Who was the first baseball player to ever win the Rookie of the Year award? a. Ray Mercer b. Jackie Robinson c. Hank Aaron d. Babe Ruth Who was the first pitcher to win the Rookie of the Year award and Cy Young award in the same season? a. Nolan Ryan b. Tom Seaver c. Sandy Koufax d. Fernando Valenzuela How many at-bats do you need to qualify for the Rookie of the Year award? a. 75 b. 110 c. 130 d. 170
With the way Yankees outfielder Aaron Judge is playing, there’s no need to wait until the end of the season to start talking about Rookie of the Year. 4.
Which famous Yankee won the award in 1996? a. Derek Jeter b. Jorge Posada c. Bernie Williams d. Mariana Rivera 5. Who was the only of the following Mets players who did not win the Rookie of the Year? a. Dwight Gooden b. Jacob DeGrom c. Darryl Strawberry d. David Wright e. Jon Matlack 6. Aaron Judge hit a homerun in the first at-bat of each of his first two career games. How many other players have done that? a. 0 b. 1 c. 4 d. 7 7. What is the MLB’s minimum salary for rookies? a. $210,000 b. $300,000 c. $535,000 d. $800,000
Answers: 1. 2. 3. 4. 5. 6. 7.
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Wisdom key:
6-7 correct: You hit it out of the park – like Aaron Judge! 3-5 correct: You are only a rookie, not bad…besides, you still are making $535,000 per year. Hey, can you lend me some money? 0-2 correct: You need some help. But it’s pretty impressive that you figured out the prank – Aaron Judge is not a Yankees player but was recently appointed by Pres. Trump to the Supreme Court
You gotta be kidding officer Reaching the end of a job interview, the human resources were you asks the young college graduate, “So, what starting salary looking for?”
ding The graduate replies, “In the region of $150,000 a year, depen on the benefits package.” e of The interviewer responds, “Well, what would you say to a packag company 4 weeks vacation, 10 paid holidays, full medical and dental, car leased matching retirement fund to 50% of salary, and a company every 2 years?” The graduate perks up and says, “Wow! Are you kidding?” The interviewer replies, “Yeah, but you started it.”
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Parshas Shlach By Rabbi Berel Wein
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evisiting the story on the spies that Moshe sent to the Land of Israel is always a very discouraging moment. How could everything have gone so wrong and so fast? All of the reasons advanced over the ages by the great commentators to the Torah – personal ambition, fear of the unknown, disregard for tradition, lack of faith in G-d, etc. – are undoubtedly true and correct. But to a certain extent they all only
beg the question. They perhaps answer the “why” part of the issue but the “how” part of the story still remains pretty much a mystery. It is obvious that a climate of fear must have pervaded the entire Jewish nation as they stood at the cusp of entry into the Holy Land. The leaders of Israel who were the spies were, in the main, representative of the people and the tribes that they headed. Jewish tradition teaches us
that there is no king without a people. So the general prevailing climate and belief of the people have enormous influence on the views and behavior of those leaders that Moshe sent on this fateful journey. The ready acceptance by the people of the negative report of the ten spies indicates clearly their preconceived notion of the land and its inhabitants. The Jewish people of that generation simply were not willing to embark on the great adventure that
spiritual and physical redemption for the Jewish people. Our forefather Yitzchak encountered strife, discrimination and famine while living in the land. Nevertheless, he never left Israel and saw in it the eternal home for his later generations. Some of the names that he gave to the locations of the wells of water still speak to us today, thousands of years later. Our father Yaakov tasted the bitterness of exile when he fled to find refuge in the house of Lavan. He
It is obvious that a climate of fear must have pervaded the entire Jewish nation as they stood at the cusp of entry into the Holy Land.
is always associated with living and populating the Land of Israel. Moshe had chosen the best people he could find for this mission. But he misread the mood of the people that they represented. Hence this tragedy became an almost unavoidable one. From the beginning of the Jewish story with our father Avraham, the Land of Israel has always posed a great challenge. To Avraham it would be a land of wars, famine and wandering. And yet, it is also to be the ultimate land of promise. The L-rd had entered into a binding covenant between him and his descendants, that this land would be their eventual homeland and would represent
therefore treasured his return to the Land of Israel even though he found it fraught with danger and violence. His dying wish was that he should be transported back to the Land of Israel to be buried in its holy earth. In this respect, the Jewish people did not quite follow the example of their forefathers but rather adopted a preconceived negative view of the land and its possibilities. This was transmitted directly or indirectly to the leadership of their tribes, resulting in a lost generation. Shabbat shalom.
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From the Fire
Parshas Shlach The Joy of Torah and Eretz Yisroel By Rav Moshe Weinberger Adapted for publication by Binyomin Wolf
The Geshmak of Eretz Yisroel This is the parsha of Eretz Yisroel. The commentators explain a variety of reasons why Moshe consented to send the spies to Eretz Yisroel. There was no doubt that Hashem would fulfill his promise to Avraham, Yitzchak, and Yaakov to give their descendants the land. In addition, there was no doubt that the land was good, a land “flowing with milk and honey” (Shmos 3:8). So why did Moshe agree to send the spies? The Ramban (on Bamidbar 13:2) explains Moshe’s consent in a beautiful way that also enlightens us to a new perspective of the uniqueness of the mitzvah to live in Eretz Yisroel: “Because Moshe knew that [the land] was rich and good..., he told them to pay attention so that they would know this in order that they tell the nation [so that the nation would] rejoice and be reenergized to ascend [to Eretz Yisroel] with joy.” This is somewhat difficult to understand. We know that there is a general principle that one should perform all mitzvos with joy, as the pasuk (Tehillim 100:2) says, “Serve Hashem with joy...” But this refers to a general state of spiritual happiness that one
is fulfilling Hashem’s command. This is a value common to all mitzvos that should accompany the performance of any mitzvah. But with regard to particular mitzvos, their purpose is not to give us physical enjoyment, as the Gemara (see, e.g., Eruvin 31a) says, “mitzvos were not given for physical enjoyment.” Physical enjoyment from mitzvos would make them “not for the sake of Heaven.” In contrast, with respect to the mitzvah to live in Eretz Yisroel, the Ramban teaches us that Moshe specifically wanted the Jewish people to know that the land was “rich and good” so that they would rejoice and feel great happiness while living in Eretz Yisroel. It seems that Moshe did not only want them to feel a spiritual enjoyment in knowing that they were fulfilling one of Hashem’s mitzvos. He wanted them to feel a geshmak, a sense of pleasure, from living in the land of Israel. This is why Hashem told us that Eretz Yisroel is “a good and expansive land...a land flowing with milk and honey” (Shmos 3:8). It is why Moshe told the spies (Bamidbar 13:20), “Strengthen yourselves and take from the fruit of the land.” He wanted them to see the geshmak of living in Eretz
Yisroel. This is why, when Hashem first spoke to Avraham to command him to go to the land of Israel, He told him (Rashi on Bereishis 12:1) “Go for your good and for your pleasure.” The unique nature of the mitzvah to enjoy living in Eretz Yisroel is also reflected in the Rambam’s statement (Hilchos Melachim 5:10) that, “The greatest scholars would kiss the borders of Eretz Yisroel, kiss its stones, and roll around in its dirt…” Living in Eretz Yisroel must be incredibly enjoyable! After returning from his visit to Eretz Yisroel, Rebbe Nachman once commented that the land was very beautiful. The listeners assumed he meant that in a spiritual or kabbalistic sense, but he clarified that he was talking about “the streets and the houses.” The fulfillment of the mitzvah to live in Eretz Yisroel must be enjoyable, beautiful, and geshmak!
The Pleasure of Learning Torah There is another mitzvah that is also an exception to the general principle that “mitzvos were not given for physical enjoyment.” And that is the mitzvah to study Torah. In this regard, the Taz writes (Yoreh Deah 221:43) that if, for example, Reuven
vows that Shimon may not derive any benefit from him [Reuven], then Shimon may not study Torah from Reuven’s sefer. He explains that this is because “the Torah certainly gladdens the heart… Therefore this mitzvah [to study Torah] is not comparable to other mitzvos with regard to which we say that they are not given for physical enjoyment. In contrast, this [mitzvah to study Torah] brings a person enjoyment.” Because it offers tangible enjoyment, Shimon may not study from Reuven’s sefer. In order to counteract the erroneous notion maintained by some that Torah study is only for the sake of Heaven if one does not enjoy it, the Avnei Nezer writes in the introduction to his sefer Eglei Tal that the primary fulfillment of the mitzvah to study Torah is to enjoy one’s learning and that this is the only way that the words of Torah will “become absorbed into the blood… This is what it means to study Torah for the sake of Heaven. It is entirely holy because even the enjoyment itself is a mitzvah.” According to the Avnei Nezer, enjoying one’s learning is the primary way one must fulfill the mitzvah of studying Torah! These two mitzvos involve the two main categories of enjoyment.
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The mitzvah to study Torah involves a positive emotional and intellectual enjoyment and the mitzvah to live in Eretz Yisroel includes a component of physical enjoyment. The common denominator in these two mitzvos is that neither are circumscribed activities done for the sake of the performance of an obligatory act. Both are much more. They are life itself. With respect to Torah, we say (Maariv), “For they [the words of Torah] are our life and the length of our days.” Without Torah, we are like fish on dry land. The Torah is the wedding ring, the bond connecting the Jewish people and G-d. Can one imagine if a chosson told his kallah under the chuppah, “Just so you know, even though I’m marrying you, it’s nothing personal. I’m doing this because it’s a mitzvah. Sure, I’ll be happy, just like there is a mitzvah to do any of Hash-
The Land of Israel is an essential unit bound by the bond-of-life to the People, united by inner characteristics to its existence.” Eretz Yisroel is part of our lives, physical and spiritual, with all that this entails. It is not a detail of our national reality, but rather it is an inherent part of the richness of our spiritual and physical life. With the foregoing in mind, we can now understand the root of the sin of the spies. As Dovid Hamelech said (Tehillim 106:24), “And they were disgusted by the desirable land.” With all of their justifications, the spies concluded (Bamidbar 13:31), “We cannot ascend.” Kalev, on the other hand, cried out (ibid. at 30), “We can surely ascend and take possession of it, we can surely succeed in doing it!” What was the difference between them? The spies put on their white fabric gloves, so to speak, inspected the land, found
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a speck of dust, turned up their noses and said, “You call this a good land?” “Is this a beautiful kallah?” In contrast, Yehoshua and Kalev said (ibid. at 14:7), “The land is exceedingly good!” “She is a beautiful and kind kallah!” (cf. Kesubos 17a). Rav Kook, zy”a, in his essay, The Great Call to Eretz Yisroel, writes, “[We must] destroy, with the powerful arm of the spirit and with the spiritual holiness of the desirable land, the filth of the spies…” Rav Kook calls upon us “to awaken the ancient love for Zion, to take hold of it and to settle it with the ropes of man and cords of love.” May Hashem allow us to learn the Torah and make our lives in Eretz Yisroel with joy, peace, and happiness. And may Hashem fulfill our request in the blessing of the haftara, “Have mercy on Zion because it is the house of our life. And save those who are sad of spirit and cause them to rejoice soon in our days. Blessed are You Hashem, Who causes Zion to rejoice in those who build it!”
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Between the Lines
Ascent over Descent By Eytan Kobre
It is a great deal easier for a man to find a pedigree to fit his virtues than virtues to fit his pedigree. -Josh Billings
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earful of other animals, a roaming dog once hatched a plan to protect itself. Collecting the horns of a dead deer, the mane of a dead horse, and the skin of a dead bear, the dog would cloak itself as a monstrous beast to ward off attack by other animals. When word of the bizarre new creature reached the lion, the proverbial king of the forest summoned the dog to appear before it. “Who are you?” the lion roared. “Don’t you see that I have deer horns,” asked the dog. “Okay,” probed the lion, “but who are you?” “Why, I have a horse’s mane.” “I can see that,” replied the lion, “but who are you?” “Can’t you see my bearskin?” “Yes, but who are YOU?” “Oh, me?” said the dog sheepishly. “I’m just a dog...” So it is, says the Dubner Maggid, with yechus (family pedigree). If we can define ourselves only by refer-
ence to the attributes and accomplishments of our forebears, who are we really? The Torah highlights the lineage of the spies sent to scout the Land of Israel because that was their undoing (Al Hatorah and Shivim Panim L’Torah, Bamidbar 13:4). They placed too much emphasis on their illustrious pedigree and not enough on their own qualities and conduct. We pride ourselves on our distinguished lineage – and rightfully so. There is value to a distinguished pedigree of “wisdom” and “fear of heaven” (Tosfos Yom Tov, Ta’anis 4:8). “One cannot compare the prayer of a righteous person who is the child of a righteous person with the prayers of a righteous person who is the child of a wicked person” (Yevamos 64a; Rashi, Bereishis 25:21). “One who is a scholar, and his son is a scholar, and his son’s son is a scholar, the Torah will never cease from his descendants” (Bava Metzia 85a). “It is fitting that a scholar the son of an ordinary man should seek out a scholar the son of a scholar,” and not vice versa (Ta’anis 21b; see Yershulami, Kelayim 9:3). “If you see a righteous person with distinguished ancestry,
[know] that he is not quick to sin” (Yalkut, Mishlei 544). We were given the Torah over all other nations because of our esteemed pedigree (Yalkut Shimoni 684). These are all true. But pedigree should be valued for what it is – not more. When a certain R’ Ezra came to study under R’ Preida, the latter’s students introduced R’ Ezra as a direct descendant of R’ Elazar ben Azaria and Ezra the Scribe (Menachos 53a). R’ Preida wasn’t impressed. “Why describe the pedigree?” he challenged. “If he is learned, fine; if he is learned and also a scion of noble ancestors, even better; but if he is a scion of noble ancestors and not learned, may fire consume him.” Even as early as the splitting of the Red Sea, some Jewish people declared, “This is my G-d and I will glorify Him”; others announced, “[This is] the G-d of my father, and I will exalt Him” (R’ Samson Raphael Hirsch, Shemos 15:2). Those who regarded G-d as their own were on a far high spiritual plane than those to whom G-d was merely the G-d of their ancestors. And while a distinguished lineage certainly can be an asset (and
maybe even a source of justifiable pride), it carries with it significant obligations. “Every person is obligated to ask himself, ‘When will my deeds reach the level of the deeds of my forefathers’” (Tana d’Bei Eliyahu 25). So, as R’ Naftali Tzvi of Ropshitz put it, “Everyone is obligated to compare their deeds to those of their forebears. One who comes from simple stock should feel accomplished, while one who stems from righteous people should feel inadequate.” The greater the lineage, the greater the responsibility and challenge. Because a distinguished lineage is defined less by the annals of the past than by the promise of the future. When the Jewish people were first counted in the desert, “each one brought documents of ‘yechus’ and witnesses to the status of their birth,” which could mean not only their ancestors but the prospective lineage of their descendants (Onkelos, Bamidbar 1:18; see Rus Rabba 8; Pesachim 62b). When the Maggid of Mezritch was a young boy, his house was destroyed by fire. His mother sat crying in the debris, not over the loss of her house but over the loss of her cher-
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ished family tree heirloom, which dated back a good many generations. The then-five-year-old Maggid told his mother, “Don’t be sad. A new chain in our lineage will begin with me.” And so it did. When the daughter of R’ Yisrael of Rizhin and the son of R’ Yaakov Yosef Halperin were proposed to one another as a suitable match, R’ Yaakov Yosef spoke unendingly about his lofty pedigree. The Rizhiner – a descendant of the Maggid of Mezritch – explained that his family defined pedigree in terms of their children. In keeping with his forefather’s position, the Rizhiner was wont to remark, “From my sons you will know who I am.” This attitude is validated, metaphorically, by the commandment to write a sefer Torah (Sefer HaChinuch 613). Even one who inherits a sefer Torah must nevertheless write their own (Sanhedrin 21b). Perhaps this reminds us that no generation can rest on the laurels of prior genera-
tions; every person and every generation must write their own Torah. The Torah may be our collective legacy (Devarim 33:4), but it is not an inheritance bequeathed to any single one of us by our ancestors (Avos 2:17). We must achieve it on our own. A man once entered the court of
nothing special, but he was of a family pedigree of the highest order. R’ Yechezkel explained that a distinguished lineage is akin to a wagon mired in a bog. After using a jack to pump up the wheels and raise them above the mud, the wagon driver then pushes the wagon back on
Like a string of zeroes, an illustrious lineage lacks value unless there is something of value – you! – in front of it.
R’ Yechezkel of Kozmir pompously. R’ Yechezkel asked his followers whether the man was a great scholar or a successful merchant or some dignitary, any one of which might explain his arrogance. The disciples related that the man himself was
course and continues driving. Does anyone think the jack is responsible for moving the wagon forward? Of course not. Only a fool would place four jacks under a wagon and wait for the wagon to move. The jacks prop up the wheels; moving the wagon
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forward still requires the driver to push. So it is with yechus. A distinguished pedigree is meaningful, but only if you continue and promote it. Indeed, “one who does not do good deeds should not trust in the deeds of his forebears” (Medrash, Tehillim 146). Like a string of zeroes, an illustrious lineage lacks value unless there is something of value – you! – in front of it. Bottom line? You can come from a somebody and be a nobody. You can come from a nobody and be a somebody. But only you determine whether you’ll be a nobody or a somebody.
Eytan Kobre is a writer, speaker, mediator, and attorney living in Kew Gardens Hills. Questions? Comments? Suggestions? E-mail eakobre@outlook.com.
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Putting My Spin on It By Rabbi Jonathan Gewirtz
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ell, before the fad is over, I figured I ought to talk about fidget spinners. Hopefully the publishers will include a picture of one so future generations (like 2018 and beyond) will know what I’m talking about. Just to give some background, the fidget spinner is a handheld toy that took off like wildfire in the first part of 2017. The most common iteration was a three-pronged version, shaped sort of like a Nerf boomerang, with a ball-bearing circle in the center, allowing low-friction spinning and centrifugal force mega-fun. The three prongs were generally small enough to pass between the fingertip and the palm when it was held between the thumb and middle finger so it could rotate fully. It was intended to give people something to do with their hands but felt very cool to hold as the centrifugal force enabled it to balance. Of course, quite often they’d end up on the floor as people knocked them out of their own hands while trying to spin them but that’s another story. When I first saw them, I wondered about their muktzeh status on Shabbos. I mean, they have no purpose on Shabbos. I immediately realized they have no purpose during the week either. But, worry not: as a toy, it’s fine for Shabbos, just please
try not to use it during the rabbi’s speech. When they first starting taking off like crazy, there was a rumor that a Jewish woman had filed a patent for the hand spinners but had let it lapse when she couldn’t get toymakers to buy it from her. As it turns out, what she had patented was very different from the fidget spinners that are now all over the world. Hers didn’t have the ball-bearings or the prongs and looked more like a Frisbee with a yarmulka that you twirled on your finger. Regardless of whether she actually had the patent or not, it made for good conversation. Whenever a Jew does something good we all feel vicariously meritorious and when they invent something we feel like we have a better understanding of it. (I disagree. All I know is that Einstein had a theory about space. And it was about time, too!) So, there I was schmoozing with someone on the checkout line of the supermarket which had just put the spinners next to the candy and gum in those lanes, and he told me that it was a Jewish woman who had the patent for it originally. I mentioned that I’d heard that. Then he commented, “But if she had kept her patent, it would never have taken off the way it did now.” I
grinned and nodded in agreement, so excited that someone else shared my view of that topic. My joy was short-lived, though, as he continued to speak. “There is no way an Orthodox Jew would have the kind of PR and distribution you need for an operation like that. The people to push it, blah, blah, blah.” I don’t really recall what he said exactly as I was so disappointed that he and I were suddenly so diametrically opposed in our viewpoints. He felt that the reason it would not have taken off if she’d maintained a patent that covered it is because she wouldn’t know what to do with it. But that’s not how I saw it. Since every success or failure (or failure to see success) we have is orchestrated by Hashem, it was clear to me when I initially heard that she’d had the patent and let it lapse that HaShem didn’t want her to get rich selling these things. It wouldn’t be the first time I’ve heard of people having a patent and it expiring before they hit it big. My great-grandmother owned apartment buildings on a little street called Collins Avenue in a little town called Miami Beach but they were sold before the boom there. It wasn’t poor business planning but Hashem’s guidance that prevented us
from becoming gazillionaires in real estate. If the woman had kept the patent on fidget spinners, Hashem would have made something else the fad, or had her sell the rights for a small amount, or some other means of directing her profits to match what He’d destined for her. So often we get caught up in the business of life that we forget our efforts are just for show and that Hashem will make happen what is intended to happen. The most brilliant ideas can go nowhere and the most ridiculous ones can go gangbusters. It’s all in His hands, and so are we. At least that’s my spin on it.
Jonathan Gewirtz is an inspirational writer and speaker whose work has appeared in publications around the world. You can find him at www.facebook.com/ RabbiGewirtz, and follow him on Instagram @RabbiGewirtz or Twitter @ RabbiJGewirtz. He also operates JewishSpeechWriter.com, where you can order a custom-made speech for your next special occasion. Sign up for the Migdal Ohr, his weekly PDF Dvar Torah in English. E-mail info@JewishSpeechWriter.com and put Subscribe in the subject.
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The Challenge of Change By Rabbi Dr. Naphtali Hoff
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arashas Shlach introduces us to the meraglim, the twelve spies who were sent into Eretz Yisrael and charged to report back about the land and its populace. These men, all leaders of personal distinction (see Rashi to Bamidbar 13:2), returned from their forty-day whirlwind trip with a slanderous report about the Promised Land, claiming that we would be unable to capture it, even with Hashem’s help and protection. It was a doomsday report that the Jewish people widely accepted, despite the many open miracles which Hashem had continuously wrought on their collective behalf from well before the Exodus until that time. Of course, this was far from the Jews’ only lapse in basic faith. A few months prior, Bnei Yisrael were forced to wage war against Amalek, a struggle which Chazal pinned on a lacking in their basic emunah. Soon thereafter, they participated in (or at least tolerated) the Eigel HaZahav, one of the most tragic and far-reaching incidents in our long, storied history. In this case, lack of trust in Moshe as Hashem’s true messenger was clearly evident. Later, Bnei Yisrael displayed a strong propensity towards complaining rather than trusting, even about such petty matters as their cuisine. All of this begs the obvious question. How it is that the Jewish people could have witnessed all of the great miracles of this period and still have committed these many numerous transgressions? Why were they unable to internalize the clear messages of Divine Providence that had been presented to them and avoid such basic failings? There are a number of answers to this question. One is that true, sustainable faith does not emerge from open
miracles. In fact, the exact opposite is true (see Rambam, Yesodei Hatorah 8:2). The constant use of miracles implies that the necessary conditions for a natural, enduring divine presence are absent, that Hashem must assert Himself in this world in order to be recognized. In contrast, real, genuine belief emerges from a deep sense of care for a personal relationship with Hashem, a desire to connect with Him out of pure love, not due to his overwhelming power or open presence. Rav Chaim Shmulevitz, zt”l (see Sichos Mussar, 5733, pp.47ff), similarly maintained that miracles alone do not intrinsically transform people into loftier, nobler individuals. In support, R’ Chaim cited the famous Mechilta which states that maidservants witnessed more during the experience of kriyas Yam Suf than
spite the many miracles that they had witnessed firsthand. A person can experience the most inspiring event but if it does not lead him to elevate his behavior it is of little consequence. It is not enough to know what is correct. Rather, one must take that information and internalize it, making it part of their character and actions. Only then has he truly achieved the desired objective as described in the pasuk that we recite thrice daily in Aleinu, “You are to know this day and return it to your heart that Hashem is the only Hashem, in heaven above and on the earth below. There is none other” (Devarim 4:39). If we are inspired to make significant changes in our lives, it is necessary to remove such thoughts from the realm of the conceptual and con-
A person can experience the most inspiring event but if it does not lead him to elevate his behavior it is of little consequence.
did many later neviim during their entire careers. Rav Chaim took special note of the fact that they were referred to as “maidservants” even after their great experience, one in which they could directly point to and identify Hashem. He explained that the reason for this designation stemmed from the fact that they remained as maidservants, on the lowest spiritual stratum, despite all that they had observed and did not achieve a recognizably higher level of inspiration or commitment. Indeed, this problem existed for the nation as a whole, which permitted them to perform these sinful acts de-
cretize them by taking meaningful steps towards achieving them. Otherwise, the inspiration will quickly dissipate. And while this is true for all behavioral changes, it is certainly the case with regards to spiritual matters, as detailed by Rav Moshe Chaim Luzzato, zt”l, in Mesilas Yesharim. It is obvious that a person does not concern himself with what does not occupy a place in his mind… For sentiments of saintliness, fear and love of Hashem, and purity of heart are not so deeply rooted within a person… In this respect they differ
from natural states such as sleep, hunger… and all other reactions which are stamped into one’s nature… There is no lack of deterrents which keep saintliness at a distance from a person.
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et another approach relates to the brief duration associated with this entire chain of events. As with many things in life, spiritual transformations take time, at least if they are to become ingrained on a more permanent level. Despite their supernatural experiences and elevated status within the Jewish community, the meraglim were still merely weeks removed from a lifetime of physical and spiritual servitude in Egypt. Sufficient time had not elapsed for them to integrate what they had witnessed into perfection of character. In a time of intense stress (the Zohar tells us, these “heads of Bnei Yisrael” (Bamidbar 13:3) were concerned over losing their positions of importance upon arriving in Eretz Yisrael), their latent shortcomings surfaced. Had they undergone more rigorous training over a longer period of time, perhaps they could have overcome their inherent personality flaws. In order for change to be both positive and meaningful, it must be driven by true sincerity and must also be given the time to grow and develop so that its primary agents can themselves internalize all that it requires for the collective benefit of the nation.
Rabbi Naphtali Hoff is an executive coach and president of Impactful Coaching and Consulting. He can be reached at 212.470.6139 or at nhoff@impactful coaching.com.
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First Call By Rafi Sackville
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t was a Friday. The sun’s warmth had finally broken the chill of winter. There was a perceptible change in mood that heralded the oncoming of spring and the last desperate push towards final examinations. At the end of the day’s lesson many on the staff made their way to the auditorium, where we gathered for the handing out of matriculation certificates for the class of 2015-16. What a difference nine months out of school can make. Most of our former students had become soldiers, serving in all branches of the armed forces. They filled the rows in front of the stage as they had done for the previous six years. Some had arrived directly from base wearing uniform. I was pleasantly surprised to see one of my female students – a girl who had suffered from a weakness of inner resolve through high school – dressed as a combat soldier. She looked tough and weather-beaten. Gone was the glaring lack of self-esteem. She looked proud.
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took them all in, amazed at how quickly they’d transformed into...adults. The irony of seeing them wasn’t lost on me. Only two days earlier I had accompanied fifty 11th graders to Lishgat HaGi-oos, the army recruiting office in Tiberias, where we spent a grueling day (12 hours door to door) while they were processed in what is known as zav rishon, or first call up. We had spent time since September preparing for this day. Students had been given forms of consent for their parents to sign, medical records were released, as were any relevant psychological evaluations. We left school at 7 a.m. and arrived less than an hour later. The recruiting office, which sits on the northern edge of town, occupies maybe half an acre of offices and grounds. Students who believed they would be spending some downtime walking the stores were quickly disabused of the notion: no one would leave until every student had been processed. Tiberias is a strange place. Residents of other cities are fond of
calling it beautiful from afar, but far from beautiful. It’s a great mystery to me how such a historically important city sitting on the banks of the Kinneret only attracts campers, day trippers, and short term tourists. It’s perfectly positioned to act as a loci, a springboard, for travel through the north of the country, and yet there is too much to the naked eye that reeks of the sad side of Israel’s periphery: rundown apartment buildings; a cluttered city center that has been developed not strategically, but haphazardly; a narrow, main road running south and parallel to the western shore of the Kinneret, which doesn’t allow you stop and gaze at the magnificent lake; and has what appears to be hastily erected summer attractions and camp sites running towards the city’s exit as if in retreat. Not every student came with us. Some preferred to get their call up notice and travel to Tiberias or Haifa themselves. The advantages of the group exercise are familiarity and organization, thus making
the day more bearable. More importantly, when first being interviewed, students’ teachers can help answer questions to move the process along. There are four stations through which all budding recruits must pass: the personal interview, a medical examination, a validation of all their personal documents, and a psychometric test. Not everything runs smoothly. Whereas some kids were processed quickly, others had to wait until the very end of the day. There were a couple who hadn’t brought certain medical documents with them and were informed they’d have to return. It wouldn’t be an exaggeration to suggest that of the fifty students, at least twenty were on some form of Ritalin-type of medication. It is important for the army to know this: how can you ask such a child to take a psychometric examination at the end of the day when the effect has worn off? Unfortunately, this is what happened to three of our students. A quick conversation to the head of the recruiting office resolved the problem. What might have happened
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had these students been there alone without teacher support? The “funniest,” or saddest, story concerned one of my homeroom students. He was called in for his medical examination late in the day. It is my belief that the doctor was extremely tired by the time she faced his cherubic, smiling mien on the other side of her desk. When he brought his medical examination form to the next station it was discovered that instead of answering “no,” the doctor had checked “yes” to every possible disease imaginable. According to his chart, my poor student shouldn’t have been alive. Boys who were successfully processed walked away with two scores: their physical profile and psychometric evaluation. The highest score one can achieve on the former is 97. One apocryphal answer as to why one cannot achieve a perfect score is because Jewish boys are circumcised and thus lose three points, yet
this makes little sense when you consider that more than a handful of our students are not of the Jewish persuasion, are in perfectly good
ready to climb the walls. We left at six and were home by seven. The following day it was learning as usual.
The contrast to the 11th graders was a stark reminder of just how much water will have to flow under the proverbial bridge before they, too, attain the same sense of group responsibility and maturity.
shape, and also scored 97. As they say in New York, “Go figure.” By four o’clock the Ritalin tablets had worn off. Some of our charges began running around like bulls in a china shop. By six o’clock I was
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efore I could blink it was Friday and there were our last year’s students, army-experienced and mature. The contrast to the 11th graders was a stark reminder of just how much water will have
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to flow under the proverbial bridge before they, too, attain the same sense of group responsibility and maturity. I’m looking forward to a similar spring day in 2019 when these current 11th graders will return to us as soldiers. I know they are going to make all of us proud – their parents, their teachers, our country. Meantime, they will continue to play out the remaining years of their youth as childishly as some of them may see fit, for who knows what the future holds for them. Just try teaching them late in the afternoon after their wonder drugs have lost their design to calm and focus them and you get an idea of what I mean.
Rafi Sackville, formerly of Cedarhurst, teaches in Ort Maalot in Western Galil.
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atty Kim the Third.” No, that’s not the name of the latest hip hop emcee to grace the top of the Billboard charts. It’s the not-so-generous Mandarin handle given to North Korean leader Kim Jong Un by the Chinese public. Whereas for years the Chinese were North Korea’s most giving, and oftentimes only, supporters, these days even the world’s last remaining communist superpower appears to have given up on its backing of the Kim family’s hermit regime. In 1950, after a secret meeting in Beijing between Kim Il Sung and Mao Zedong, the Red government of China sent nearly three million troops into Korea to aid Kim’s communist revolution. The Chinese readily accepted thousands of displaced Korean refugees and happily welcomed the nascent Kim regime into the Soviet communist bloc. The two countries share a border that stretches over 1,400 kilometers. China is North Korea’s main trade partner: over $5 billion, or about half of North Korean imports and exports, flow through China and for years has bypassed UN sanctions by providing financial assistance directly to the communist government in Pyongyang. For years, China has maintained a “big brother” relationship with its smaller communist neighbor. For the entire twentieth century and into the 2000s, Beijing mostly overlooked North Korea’s miscreant behavior. But in 2003, when Kim Jong Il openly violated the global nuclear non-proliferation agree-
ment, China organized a six country bloc which negotiated the ending of North Korea’s nuclear weapons program. (North Korea later violated the agreement and expelled all foreign inspectors from the country.) In the past, Chinese leaders had made it a habit of turning a blind eye to North Korea’s nuclear ambitions. In 2000, Kim Jong Il and Chinese President Jiang Zemin exchanged visits despite global outcries towards Kim’s test-firing of a nuclear missile just two years earlier. In 2006, during the heat of the Six Party Talks, Chinese President Hu Jintao made a visit to Pyongyang and was received with much fanfare. Less than a year later, North Korea blatantly violated its agreements and test-fired a nuclear device. North Korea officially abandoned all talks in 2009, but that did not stop both countries from trading diplomatic visits numerous times through 2011, when Kim Jong Il died. The unique relationship shared by the two countries was mutually beneficial: North Korea received economic support by means of trade partnerships and actual funds from China, along with diplomatic and security benefits, and China maintained strong ties with its neighbor and communist counterpart. The ties between the two countries have often been compared to the strained relationship between the U.S. and the kingdom of Saudi Arabia. While the Saudis may never be considered a close ally of U.S. interests – indeed, the 9/11 hijackers hailed from the Kingdom – the U.S.
has been reluctant to be overtly critical of the country, primarily because of its dependence on Saudi oil. It wasn’t until after Kim Jong Il died and was succeeded by his (even more) maniacal son, Kim Jong Un, that the Chinese-North Korean alliance began to show strains. Un is intent on breaking his country’s dependence on the larger superpower, even if that means driving his regime into further isolation. North Korea has openly begun targeting Chinese fishing vessels in waters between the two countries for ransom. In 2013, China responded by closing the Pyongyang’s bank accounts held at its banks. North Korea continued the cycle of aggression by firing missiles in the direction of China. The break in relations have caused Beijing to change its stance towards North Korea’s nuclear aspirations. By 2016, Chinese officials were openly opposed to Kim Jong Un’s expansion of his country’s nuclear and ballistic armaments. “We strongly urge the DPRK side to remain committed to its denuclearization commitment and stop taking any actions that would make the situation worse,” spokesperson Hua Chunying warned. China went so far as to join up with the United States to introduce new sanctions against the North Korean regime at the United Nations.
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his year has so far marked further deterioration between the two erstwhile Marxist lovebirds. In February, in a much publicized assassination, two North
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Korean operatives poisoned Kim Jong Un’s younger half-brother, Kim Jong Nam, with nerve gas at an airport in Malaysia. Nam was believed to be China’s main North Korean “asset” who escaped the North Korean regime in 2001 by attempting to sneak into Japan under the pretext of visiting Disneyland in Tokyo. He was an advocate for reform in his father’s country who was heavily influenced by the Swiss education he received as a youngster. The Cold War-style hit on Nam followed the 2013 murder of Un’s uncle, Jang Song Taek, whose offenses included “half-hearted clapping” when Un was promoted to Supreme Leader. Jang was believed to be a proponent of market style reforms for North Korea’s economy and a friend of Beijing. The day before the airport assassination of Kim Jong Nam, Pyongyang test-fired a missile into the Sea of Japan. The timing of that test was intentional; Japanese President Shinzo Abe was in the U.S. to meet President Trump for the first time. “This is about Kim establishing his power and legitimacy,” John Delury, an expert on North Korea told The New Yorker. “Kim is a young leader of a nationalist regime, and the onus is on him to avoid kissing (Beijing’s) ring, so he can prove that he’s not a pawn of Beijing.” The Chinese did not take lightly to North Korea’s reckless show of independence, and they summarily banned all North Korean imports of coal into their country. China is the largest consumer of North Korean
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The Chinese happily assisted the North Koreans during the Korean War
coal, and the ban is expected to severely hurt North Korea’s economy. In turn, North Korea is reliant on China’s oil pipelines for supplying fuel; China has yet to exploit that point of leverage, and for good reason: a total collapse of North Korea’s economy may help South Korea to overtake the country and strengthen U.S. interests in the region. The U.S. currently maintains tens of thousands of troops in the South. “The Chinese are deeply frustrated and want to do something, but they get stuck when they look at the options,” points out Paul Haenle, a former White House representative at the Six Party Talks. Recently, the Trump administration has led a campaign against China, calling out its unique relationship with North Korea for what it really is. China has only recently begun voicing its frustrations towards the tyrannical North Korean regime, and even then, its actions towards Pyongyang are lackluster at best. Back in February, President Trump said that he believed that North Korea was the greatest threat to the United States; he had urged a Chinese official at the White House, “You gotta work on North Korea.” In April, Chinese President Xi Jinping spoke by telephone with President Trump, asking the U.S. leader to “avoid doing anything to worsen the tense situation on the peninsula.” After North Korea attempted another missile test in April, Secretary of State Rex Tillerson demanded that China place pressure on Kim’s regime to abandon its aggressive missile programs. “With China accounting for 90% of North Korean trade, China alone has economic leverage
U.S. Secretary of State Rex Tillerson with China's President Xi Jinping in March. Both know North Korea is an issue that has to be dealt with delicately
over Pyongyang that is unique,” he told the United Nations. “For too long the international community has been reactive. The more we bide our time, the sooner we will run out of it,” he warned. President Trump said at the time that he believes China is putting pressure on North Korea to scale back its aggression, and he continues to wage a public campaign against China to exert whatever influence it has on Pyongyang, citing that is in Beijing’s best interests to curb Kim Jong Un. “I can tell you, I don’t believe that the president of China, who is a very respected man, will be happy” if North Korea conducts a nuclear missile test, said Trump. This week, The Wall Street Journal reported that the Trump administration is exerting even more pressure on China, pushing Beijing to take action against nearly ten Chinese entities that the U.S. says are trading with North Korea and supporting the rogue nation’s nuclear weapons program. If the Chinese will not punish these companies and individuals working with Pyongyang by the summer, the U.S. Treasury Department is threatening unilateral sanctions.
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hat makes the president – and the world – so concerned? Consider the numbers: last year the Hermit Kingdom launched 24 missiles; so far, in 2017, 16 missiles have been launched in ten tests, with the most recent being launched last week. Turn on your radio over the weekends, and broadcasters will undoubtedly be talking about North Korea and its missiles. As of now, thankfully, it does not yet
U.S. bases in Japan or Guam – and, of course, they ultimately have in mind the possibility of bringing the U.S. mainland within their target range.” On Monday, U.S. Defense Secretary Jim Mattis said in a written statement to the House Armed Services Committee that the threat coming from North Korea is “most urgent.” “The regime’s nuclear weapons program is a clear and present danger to all, and the regime’s provocative actions, manifestly ille-
seem like Pyongyang has fired an intercontinental ballistic missile, a missile that could potentially strike the United States and be fitted with a nuclear bomb at its tip. But, as Jung Hoon Lee, an expert in North Korean nuclear history who is director of the Institute of Modern Korean Studies at Yonsei University in Seoul, points out, “what they’re doing right now is not just random launches of all sorts of missiles with various different ranges. They have specific targets in mind, whether it’s South Korea or
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Kim Jong Il met with Chinese President Hu Jintao in China in 2010
gal under international law, have not abated despite United Nations’ censure and sanctions.” He warned that a possible war “would be a war like nothing we have seen since 1953 and we would have to deal with it with whatever level of force was necessary ... It would be a very, very serious war,” he reiterated. Un has been getting smarter. It seems that he has the components in place to create a missile to threaten North America – sophistication that the United States has long feared. Indeed, Vice-Admiral James Syring, head of the U.S. Missile Defense Agency, recently said, “It is incumbent on us to assume that North Korea today can range the United States with an ICBM carrying a nuclear warhead.” Those who monitor developments in Mr. Kim’s missile program agree, and say a test of that capability is likely not far off. On January 1 of this year, Un boldly announced that his country will soon be testing an ICBM. Most shrugged off his bombastic rhetoric, although many agree that there may be some truth to his bluster. Demonstrating ICBM capability has Washington and the West shaking in their boots. Even if the missile isn’t too efficient, it has the potential to wreak havoc and will force a change in Washington policy towards Asia. North Korea first displayed an ICBM missile known in the West as KN-08 at a military parade in 2012. That design has since been the subject of intense scrutiny and speculation, with observers puzzling over its potential range, engine technology and payload. The best current guesses are that it can fly more than 11,500 kilometers with a 500-kilo-
gram warhead, enough to pass over Canada and incinerate neighborhoods in New York or Washington. The risk to Canada is highlighted in the new defense policy unveiled by the Trudeau government, which has begun to take more careful notice of the risks in North Korea. “The number of countries with access to ballistic-missile technology, including some with the potential to reach North America or target Canadian and allied deployed forc-
Kim Jong Un and senior Chinese Communit Party official Liu Yunshan waving to a crowd during a parade celebrating 70 years since the founding of the ruling Workers' Party of Korea, October 2015
ment of four out of six launchers of a controversial U.S. missile defense system, Terminal High Altitude Air Defense (THAAD) system, for environmental review. Experts on the region point to the balancing act that South Korea has to navigate. Indeed it needs to enhance governmental transparency and accountability. But it has to show its commitment and credibility as a strong partner with the U.S. If the American public perceives that Seoul is blocking
“What they’re doing right now is not just random launches of all sorts of missiles with various different ranges. They have specific targets in mind, whether it’s South Korea or U.S. bases in Japan or Guam”
es, has increased and is expected to grow and become more sophisticated,” the policy says. “North Korea’s frequent nuclear and missile tests underscore this point.” Developing a fully functioning ICBM will take time; it took India 13 years to produce an ICBM powered with solid fuel. Un, though, seems to be working on overdrive to get to his goal; his flurry of missile activity just in this year proves that his tech teams are firing on all cylinders.
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ast Thursday’s launch was the fourth launch since South Korean President Moon Jae-in took office in May. It came one day after Seoul suspended the deploy-
measures taken to protect American forces in the region, it could prove an excuse for President Trump to withdraw forces from Korea. Removing the THAAD system further upsets the balance in the region. For months, China exerted pressure on South Korea to halt the implementation of the system. If the Chinese see the suspension as a compliance of their arm-twisting, it’s possible it will attempt to exert pressure on future occasions when it comes to security between Seoul and Pyongyang.
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o what is holding back China from fully flexing its muscles on its weak and isolated neigh-
bor? Of course, there is the concern that the North Korean missiles once aimed at the West and the United States will end up being turned in the direction of China, which is a much closer target. But that does not appear to be China’s main concern. China possesses the military strength to overcome North Korea fairly easily, particularly if it is aided by the U.S. and its Western allies. The answer is more likely related to the issue much of Europe is currently facing: refugees. China currently houses more than 100,000 North Korean refugees and the collapse of the North Korean regime will only make it vulnerable to the absorption of over 30 million North Koreans seeking safe haven. Were North Korea to fall tomorrow, the South would overtake the country and would find little need for its impoverished and ill-educated neighbors. Mass migrations of displaced North Koreans to China would occur. For many ethnically Korean Chinese, North Korea is home to close family relatives. Beijing, however, is not ready to take on the burden of millions of migrants. The North Korean situation has reached a critical point. President Trump has refused to rule out a military course of action, and North Korea is hurtling full speed ahead towards the development of a nuclear weapons stockpile which will threaten the existence of the entire world. All eyes are focused on China: will it be able to navigate its way out of this mess with the United States and South Korea on its side and prevent a potential World War III?
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Dating Dialogue
What Would You Do If… Moderated by Jennifer Mann, LCSW of The Navidaters
Dear Navidaters,
Our daughter Tova is 26-years-old. She’s been dating for quite a while and is still single. She’s a wonderful young lady and, frankly, I think part of the reason she is still single is because we may have been overly particular about who she went out with. And when I say “we,” I mean my husband. Tova has always been the apple of my husband’s eye, and he always felt no one could compare to her. Yes, Tova is wonderful, but I think my husband goes overboard in his thoughts about her.
At this point, I think it’s important for us to widen the net and allow Tova to date men who may even have a little baggage attached to them. Recently, Tova’s best friend got married to a man who was divorced. They seem so compatible and happy together. My husband was horrified to hear that her parents allowed this shidduch to go through. Frankly, I thought her parents were very wise to allow their daughter to expand her opportunities. They are a great couple and seem to be a match made in heaven. A cousin’s son married a great girl a couple of years ago who happened to be adopted. Who cares? She is wonderful! And the entire family adores her. They are happy and the proud parents of two adorable babies. I look at the joy that comes from these marriages rather than the details. My husband thinks I’m crazy and selling Tova short when I suggest that she go out with men who have “imperfect” resumes. Frankly, I’ve always looked at the person and not the trappings. It’s just the type of person that I am. If someone is good and kind – what difference does it make what school he went to? And even if he happened to have gone through a rough patch during his life and maybe got into some trouble. Again, I look at the person the way they are today and not the baggage. Am I as unrealistic as my husband thinks I am? Am I as naïve and shallow to believe that there’s nothing wrong with dating men who are divorced, converts, ba’alei teshuvah, people who reinvented themselves? Is the time already past due that we should be overlooking the details and just consider the present day human being?
Disclaimer: This column is not intended to diagnose or otherwise conclude resolutions to any questions. Our intention is not to offer any definitive conclusions to any particular question, rather offer areas of exploration for the author and reader. Due to the nature of the column receiving only a short snapshot of an issue, without the benefit of an actual discussion, the panel’s role is to offer a range of possibilities. We hope to open up meaningful dialogue and individual exploration.
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om, you know the answers to the questions you are asking, however, you are not asking the right questions that will facilitate your daughter’s prospects. There are other questions you should be asking yourself and your husband, separately and as a couple. You and your husband are disagreeing about whom to let through the door. You are asking who is right. But have you discussed this question with our daughter? Where is she in this picture? At 26 she is probably an accomplished professional with a nice resume. Isn’t it time you not only consult with her but treat her like the mature adult that she is? Isn’t it her future that depends on dating, not your social standing? Isn’t it time for all three of you to learn to communicate honestly about your priorities? If you can’t handle this process yourselves, are there not seasoned, wise people in the community to whom you can turn to? Have you availed yourselves of professional therapists and rabbinic guidance to sort out your relationships and your appropriate roles?
The Mother Sarah Schwartz Schreiber, P.A.
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nd what does Tova have to say? It’s time for a reality check. Your amazing daughter, Tova, is 26-years-old and the shidduch pool of perfect, impeccably credentialed guys is dwindling. Your husband can bide his (and his daughter’s) time waiting for Mr. Flawless to ring your bell or you can sit down with Daddy and Tova and have a heart-to-heart. Daddy’s got to confront his broad-brush prejudice against sec-
ond-time-arounders (i.e., divorcees, widowers), baalei teshivah, or converts. Tova should be reassured that you trust her ability to make smart, well-considered choices. Two conditions before you consider any “second tier” candidates: 1) Take extra care with your background checking. I’m not talking CIA, but if you usually just “let them go out,” talk to as many friends, neighbors, rabbis, and teachers as you can before the first date; 2) Inform your daughter that she can expect to date this person of interest for a good long time. Encourage her to meet his family, his friends, his children (if he’s been married before) before making a commitment.
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t seems like your husband might have developed pre-separation anxiety, the sort which occurs when a parent realizes that their nest is emptying of their beloved children. This feeling is completely understandable. Yes, he wants his beloved daughter to get married knowing it is best for her, but he will only “settle” for a young man who is perfect. Why is that? He anticipates a feeling of contentment if your daughter married the perfect man in his eyes. On the other hand, he also anticipates and fears feeling a deep sense of failure and abdication, which he will never live down, if the boy she marries is anything less than perfect. Yes, there are parents who feel that for whatever reason, they “lost a child” to their son/daughter-in-law (just read the countless stories in the different frum magazines!). On an emotional and logical level, your husband is trying to prevent that. Your husband and you need a
heart-to-heart talk in order to arrive on the same page. Starting off with validating and detailing his feelings, you will demonstrate that you understand his perspective and his fears. Then, explain to him all that you mentioned so aptly in your question. Seeing the big picture rather than focusing on inconsequential-sounding imperfections on one hand and emphasizing your daughter’s status as a fully decision-capable (and not growing younger!) 26-year-old daughter will help him “let go.” From the standpoint of your own hishtadlus, show him that the two of you are carrying out your due diligence in researching the prospective shiddu-
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chim to ensure that he is someone who is following the path which you want your daughter and her children set upon. Wishing you much hatzlacha!
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’m hearing three separate issues in your questions. The first thing that concerns me is why your daughter seems to have zero voice in this situation. What are her thoughts and desires regarding the type of men she is being set up with? I think, first and foremost, she has to be brought into the picture. Her opinion should obviously be the most important one. And you and your husband have to do a little soul searching to figure out why she has been so marginalized in this process.
Secondly, I’d like to validate something here. When young adults first begin the dating process, of course most people are starting off shooting for the stars. We all want that perfect shidduch. Why not? However, what’s important is the timing. At what point should one start, as you say, “widening the net” and allowing people who may not be as perfect as we first hoped for into the fold? I think that time has long arrived, and though originally you didn’t want to deal with any troubling situations, it’s time to look deeper into prospects and go beyond the labels and into the hearts of the individuals. Finally, I don’t think you should
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our husband is doing your daughter an incredible disservice. His beliefs and ideas seem almost Darwinian in nature. Survival of the fittest. The best woman will mate with the best man and produce the best offspring. I would have a hard time believing this is your first encounter with your husband’s somewhat tenacious nature. I will provide you (right now) with oodles of validation, but I hope you know in your heart of hearts that your ideas about love and looking into the depth of one’s character beyond the superficial mumbo jumbo rampant in the world of shidduchim has been spot-on all along. While Tova may very well meet a man one day who meets your husband’s criteria, the reality is that a good percentage of men Tova’s age and older have a little, shall we say, life experience. They’ve moved out of Mommy and Daddy’s basement, and life has knocked them around a bit. What was your life circumstance at 26? Or your husband’s? Most of us have taken a hit or two by then. Whether that looks like a divorce, a divorce with a child, or a reinvention of self. Whether it looks like someone who found frumkeit on his own or a convert…it
s h o u l d n’t matter. You know this is true. But your husband is a force to be reckoned with. You can’t get your own voice heard, let alone make room for Tova’s voice to be heard. (By the way, it is noteworthy that you didn’t once mention what Tova wants. What’s that about?) What to do? Well, for starters, you can show this panel to your husband. Husband, if you are reading…hello. Welcome. Sorry we got started without you. I would love to have learned more about your feelings in all of this. All I have is conjecture, so please bear with me. I’m wondering if you’re at all anxious about allowing Tova the opportunity to meet these kind of “imperfect” guys. What happens if one of these guys hurts Tova? What happens if the guy really is a loser? How will I live with myself? Or, Tova deserves to be with the best! She’s the best! I can’t possibly know what you are feeling, but I do believe you have good intentions (if I am wrong about that, that would be an entirely different response). I do believe you are a concerned parent who wants to see his daughter happy. But this strict selec-
lump every imperfection into the same category. And that, of course, has to do with your personal standards. For instance, for one person, having their daughter date someone who is divorced may not be such a big deal, but for whatever reasons, they feel passionately about not allowing their daughter to date someone whose father went to prison for a horrible crime. Not all “imperfections” are the same or represent the same life circumstances. Be true to your values and to what is doable and what is absolutely non-negotiable.
tion process is making Tova very, very unhappy. And your wife is very unhappy. I can’t imagine you’re very happy right now either. If you can hear me and you are ready to compromise with your wife and bring Tova on board, then wonderful! Get to it. If you think I’m off my rocker, are upset or angry with your wife for writing in, think your way is best and are unwilling to make any changes, then I would advise you to see a professional together with your wife or speak to a trusted rav. Here’s what I know. No one is perfect. No one. I don’t care what something looks like on the outside. It’s a wishful fairytale to believe in perfection or that if someone seems perfect at 20 or 26, he will remain that same perfect person until 120. Based on this universal truth, I’m going to go out on a limb and say neither of you are perfect and there are some issues in your own marriage (just like the rest of us). I believe you are trying to protect your daughter from disappointment, hurt feelings, a bad experience, or from making a huge mistake. Any of these things may happen. By putting the kibosh on every “imperfect” resume and not including her in the process, you are stripping her of her transition into adulthood, and I am actually concerned about Tova’s well-being in all of this. How is this helping her development? Remember when Tova was little,
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and you would take her to the park? One day she said, “Mommy, Daddy… I want to climb the monkey bars or go down that huge slide.” Your impulse may have been Nooooooooooooo! That is dangerous. I won’t let her do it. But you had to. You had to let her go. And when she fell down you ran to give her a big hug and kiss and comforted her. And next time, she may have fallen again. But a few more times, and Tova was a pro. Tova’s twenty-six, and we’re not dealing with monkey bars anymore. This is the big time. But the message is still the same. You have to let her have life experiences and trust that she will make a wise decision for herself. Being that she has not been treated like an adult, Tova may need some counseling or coaching to learn how to make decisions and take a more active role in her life. Sincerely, Jennifer Esther Mann, LCSW and Jennifer Mann, LCSW are licensed psychotherapists and dating and relationship coaches working with individuals, couples and families in private practice in Hewlett, NY. To set up a consultation or to ask questions, please call 516.224.7779. Press 1 for Esther, 2 for Jennifer. Visit www.thenavidaters.com for more information. If you would like to submit a dating or relationship question to the panel anonymously, please email thenavidaters@ gmail.com. You can follow The Navidaters on FB and Instagram for dating and relationship advice.
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Is Everyone Supposed to be Sensitive? By Deb Hirschhorn, Ph.D.
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ou would not call Trump a sensitive guy. Watching how he seems pretty unaffected by the comments and opinions of a wide swatch of his constituents had me wondering: Is that what it takes to be a leader? Is it okay that some people just aren’t as attuned to others as we wish
they were? If someone is disturbed by tears and would rather march forthrightly into the future without giving into pain, is that bad? Most of the time, I have believed that everyone ought to be sensitive, empathic, attuned, and nurturing. Now, I wonder if my hopes for people were just plain unrealistic. Not only
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that, maybe they were plain wrong. Maybe it takes different kinds of people to make a world. Who am I to dictate what kind of personality everyone should have? Maybe Malkie would really appreciate it if Duvie would say to her when she cries, “Wow, you’re really upset, aren’t you?” But maybe Duvie thinks that is the worst possible thing he could do. There was a study done in 2002 and reported at the annual meeting of the Society for Neuroscience on people suffering from chronic pain that backs up this position. I’m not exactly sure how the researchers got away with this, but they applied painful shocks to the backs of people with chronic back pain. They then had the patients’ spouses nearby and measured their feeling of pain from the shocks. Now, here is the interesting finding as reported in the Miami Herald on November 5: “The more the husbands or wives dwelt on their partner’s pain, the worse it felt, the monitors showed.” In contrast, spouses “who responded to complaints by changing the subject, suggesting helpful but distracting activity, or by not dwelling too long on the pain did not elevate the neural responses.” The researchers explained this finding by saying, “When people pay too much attention to another’s pain, it tends to reinforce that pain.” Is that why some people make jokes when they pay a shiva call? Could be. Then again, shiva is specif-
ically designed to allow a person to be immersed in pain. But when it’s not shiva, for how long is someone supposed to stay there in that awful state? Duvie subscribes to the principle of not reinforcing pain; he sees no benefit to that. Malkie, on the other hand, feels the outcome is just the opposite of what Duvie thinks: If he only showed her he understands, then she could let go of the pain. It’s precisely because he does not seem to care that she holds onto it, waiting for that moment when he demonstrates that she can let it go. She, too, has evidence to support her position. Research shows that sometimes people who have been victimized don’t want to let go of that label because it validates the pain they have been in; being symptom-free could give the impression that they were never mistreated and never suffered from it. Holding onto victimhood gives their past experience meaning. Perhaps this is why we generally don’t make jokes at shiva calls: Mourners need to have the depth of their loss and their suffering validated. It would seem that these two approaches – ignore the pain or validate it – contradict each other. But they don’t. Each person is looking for something in the interaction. Once they get exactly what they were looking for, they can, indeed, let go and move on, provided it is actually possible for them to “get” what they wanted. In
with marital arguing. The more they argue, the further away spouses become from the connection that they really want. That’s how couples end up in their cycles of repeating over
and over the same dance steps that lead nowhere. However, this whole pattern can be avoided when people recognize their own feelings and needs so that the behavior they exhibit has a better chance of actually helping them accomplish their goals. In our scenario, Duvie is correct
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that paying attention to Malkie’s tears and perhaps even drama is not going to quiet her down or soothe her. Malkie herself needs to know exactly what she is looking for and has to
It would seem that these two approaches – ignore the pain or validate it – contradict each other. But they don’t.
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some cases, they just cannot get that thing they were missing. Take, for example, a divorce situation in which one person repeatedly hauls the other into court. This person will never get what he or she wants: The divorce itself made that end result impossible. People are looking for the expectations they originally had when entering the marriage to be met, naturally. When these are not met, they often (foolishly) rush to divorce only to feel empty inside because now those expectations will really never be met. Needless to say, they are pretty angry at that situation and so they haul their partner into court again and again. They don’t realize that what they wanted in the first place was emotional and that it will not be found in court. In fact, the more they use the court to punish their ex, the more they are moving away from their own real emotional wants and needs. The same is true on a lesser scale
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express that clearly to Duvie; that is her responsibility. She needs to calm herself first and then search inside for what upset her. She then has to explain this to Duvie who, hopefully, will be man enough to hear her and validate her feelings. At this point, Duvie should not be relying on the “reinforcement of pain” theory; be-
ing understanding will alleviate her pain. Paradoxically, not listening will increase the pain because she is still paying attention to it! And she won’t stop, either, until he listens. So the resolution of the sensitivity issue is pretty simple: Each person must be brave enough to face himself. Not only does Malkie have to know what she really wants, but Duvie has to be honest about why he is using the “reinforcement of pain” theory to avoid talking to her about it: Is he just really uncomfortable with pain? Will it create pain within himself that he won’t know how to handle? Malkie and Duvie have their own cheshbone hanefesh to do.
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Dr. Deb Hirschhorn is a Marriage and Family Therapist. She can be reached at 646-54-DRDEB or by writing drdeb@ drdeb.com.
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Health & F tness
Summer Survival: Avoiding Camp Weight Gain By Aliza Beer MS, RD
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ummer is finally here! Sleepaway camp is an opportunity for children and teens to grow spiritually, socially, athletically, and physically. Some kids return from this experience taller, fitter and leaner, but others grow plumper. Now is the time to discuss with your children how to navigate the camp dining room and select healthier options. Be proactive and contact the camp mother, advise her of your child’s food preferences, and inquire about healthier options. Try following some or all of the guidelines I have set forth to help keep your camper happy and healthy. 1. Pack Snacks: Look for 100 calorie snacks in popcorn, pretzels, baked chips, and granola bars. Dehydrated fruit snacks like Apple Crips or Simply Fruit are excellent snacks that are essentially all fruit. All natural, no sugar added dried fruit snacks like Matt’s Munchies are another excellent option. Avoid packing candy bars and high sugar granola or protein bars. 2. Breakfast: Most camps have cereal options for breakfast. Inquire before if they have non-sugary cereals that your camper will eat. If not, then please send some up to
camp. If your child eats eggs, yogurt, or cottage cheese then encourage them to eat them over the pancakes or deep fried French toast drowning in maple syrup. 3. Lunch: This is the hardest meal to keep nutritionally-sound in camp. That is because all camps serve dairy lunches and grilled salmon is not an option. When they do serve a
no salad bar, then teach your kids to take only one portion of the high fat and not very healthy lunch. 4. Dinner: Along with hot dogs and burgers, there is usually a chicken option. Encourage your camper to eat the chicken most of the time, indulging in the other unhealthy options on occasion. French fries cannot be consumed daily. Ask
Make sure to encourage your children to stay active by participating in organized sports, swimming, hiking, and exercising.
fish, it is typically breaded and fried. More often than not, lunch consists of grilled cheese, macaroni and cheese, baked ziti, and lasagna – basically white flour and cheese. How can one work around this? Some camps now offer a salad bar, and if your camp does, then please direct your camper to take advantage of it! Instruct them to fill up their plates with salad and a protein like tuna or eggs. If there is
the camp mother if possibly some kind of salad or veggie can be served with dinner. 5. Canteen: This is a place with numerous high risk options, but one that cannot be avoided. The best option is sorbet, ices, or frozen yogurt. The second best would be ice cream. Pizza, fries, and onion rings should be consumed very infrequently. Encourage your kids to utilize
the snacks they bring to camp much more than the canteen snacks.
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amp is a place where kids make new friends, experience amazing things, and have a lot of fun. It is important, however, to make sure to continue a healthy lifestyle in camp by eating right. The aforementioned advice should be taken to heart. It is completely tenable to have an enjoyable nutritious summer without a drastic lifestyle change or narrow diet. While food choices and portion sizes are extremely important, make sure to encourage your children to stay active by participating in organized sports, swimming, hiking, and exercising. The level of activity in children is directly correlated to their metabolism. By eating right and exercising, our children can come off the buses after the memorable summer feeling great and looking healthier. Have a great summer!
Aliza Beer is a registered dietician with a master’s degree in nutrition. She has a private practice in Cedarhurst, NY. Patients’ success has been featured on the Dr. Oz show. Aliza can be reached at alizabeer@gmail.com.
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The A-to-ZZZs about Infants and Sleeping By Hylton I Lightman, MD, DCH, FAAP
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ongratulations on your newborn. The bundle of joy might be your first or your fifth but some things are equalizers in life and never change – sleepless nights resulting in feeling hungover and walking around in a fog. An inevitable question is, “Dr. Lightman, what should be my baby’s sleep patterns?” First, know that unless Grandma or Auntie moves in or you hire a nurse, being sleep deprived is part of your job description. Newborns sleep a lot, typically up to 16-17 hours per day. Most babies don’t stay awake for more than 2-4 hours at a time the first several weeks of life. Why? Newborn sleeping patterns differ from those of adults. As a (yet again) new parent, you’ll be up several times during the night to feed, change and comfort Junior. Baby sleep cycles are far shorter than those of adults. Babies spend more time in REM (rapid eye movement) sleep, which is necessary for their brain development. Maximum growth for all children is during REM sleep which is when we dream and the body relaxes. We don’t know for certain but we are confident that when a newborn smiles while sleeping, it’s not gas. Hopefully, it’s because he’s dreaming about his wonderful parents. At about 6-8 weeks, things begin to change. Most babies sleep for shorter periods of time during the day and longer stretches at night. They should still wake up at night for night feedings. As
tiresome as it may be for Mom and Dad, a newborn’s waking up to eat, pish and poop is a sign of health. Each baby is unique and should not be compared to other siblings nor to other well-meaning advice-givers’ experiences. Many babies don’t reach this milestone of sleeping longer stretches until closer to 6 months of age. This is normal. Their systems are still developing. There’s no guarantee that introducing solids into your baby’s diet will improve sleep patterns. The good news is that you can help your baby get to good sleeping habits by minding several points. Allow your baby to nap frequently. Don’t push your baby during the first 6-8 weeks to go for longer than 2 hours without a nap. He will become overtired and then agitated and it will be difficult calming and settling him. Teach your baby the difference between day and night. Don’t think about doing this until your baby is twoweeks-old. Be patient. Most babies pick up on the rhythm of the household and will begin to fall into the routine by one month of age. Until then, you can gently coax your baby to where you want him to be. Establish a wake up time and stick to it even if your little guy has kept you up most of the night. During daylight hours, open the shades and curtains and let the sun shine in. Play music (not loudly, please). Dance with your baby. Run the vacuum cleaner. Put in a load of laundry. Embrace normal household sounds. Engage your baby and interact
with him When it’s nap time or bedtime, darken the room and soften the sounds. Speak in a soft voice to calm rather than relate with him. It’s normal that one night may go well and the next night is a disaster. This, too, is normal. It take time to establish patterns and good habits. Baby should have his own place to sleep. It might be a cradle, carriage, or bassinette. Preferably, it should not be the car seat. Sleeping in the car seat can cause torticollis where one side of the neck muscles tighten, causing his head to tilt to one side. This interferes with optimal development. Infants should sleep in the same room as their parents. The separate sleeping space should never be on a couch, armchair or soft surface. And please don’t argue with me about the so-called benefits of co-sleeping with your baby. Rubbish. At a minimum, co-sleeping is not good for sustaining the emotional closeness and physical intimacy between Mom and Dad. The bottom line: The American Academy of Pediatrics (AAP) is emphatic that co-sleeping is a big no-no and can compromise the life of an infant. You can read more about this at http://pediatrics.aappublications.org/ content/early/2016/10/20/peds.2016. There are people who try to sleep train their babies through the night starting at 6 weeks of age. Please. This is not good for the baby. A 6-week-old should have addressed his needs of love, affection and comforting. May-
be you’ll be successful and he’ll sleep through the night. But I can almost guarantee you that you’ll pay a price for it – and it’s not worth it. Infants should be moved to another room after four months of age. This will help him to establish better sleeping patterns. A baby can also hear, see and smell his parents. One last point – place the baby on his back. Statistics show lower incidence of SIDS (Sudden Infant Death Syndrome) when this happens. It doesn’t matter if he has a flatter shaped head than the children of yesteryear. I can’t say that I miss the sleep-deprived nights of caring for a newborn. But I’m more familiar with them that you would think. After all, I carry the beeper. Dr. Hylton I. Lightman is an internationally-recognized pediatrician, authority and diagnostician, a public speaker, expert witness and go-to resource for health issues in the Orthodox Jewish community and beyond. Originally from South Africa, Dr. Lightman is a board-certified pediatrician and fellow of the American Academy of Pediatrics (FAAP). He is also a clinical assistant professor of pediatrics at Hofstra Northwell School of Medicine. In addition, he is actively involved in teaching pediatric and family nurse practitioners through Columbia University, Pace University, Lehmann College, and Molloy College, as well as mentoring physician assistants through Touro College. To learn more, please visit http://www. drhyltonlightman.com or http://www.totalfamilycaremd.com. You may reach Dr. Lightman at drlightman@totalfamilycaremd.com.
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Super Summer Salads By Naomi Nachman During the long summer Shabbat afternoons, we have a chance to have a great sleep, read a book, and play with our children or grandchildren – all in one day! But once all have rested and played, the family all wants to eat seuda shlishit. People are always asking me what I serve Shabbat afternoon. Adults don’t want to settle for a yogurt, bowl of cereal, or tuna or egg salad on a challah roll. We like to eat something a little healthier and sophisticated. My husband and I love Greek salad. The salad described below is based on a Greek salad with a twist of the addition of the smoked salmon (lox). When making the dressing, add fresh lemon juice as it will elevate the taste to another level. If you prefer fresh salmon, you can season 1 pound of fresh salmon with salt, pepper, a squeeze of fresh lemon juice, and 2 cloves of crushed garlic, and bake on a cookie sheet lined with parchment paper for 20 minutes at 350°F. You can store the piece in the fridge until seuda shlishit and crumble it in the salad too. I always double my dressings so I have them for during the week. They store well in a quart container.
Smoked Salmon and Avocado Salad Ingredients Salad 6 cups mesclun greens or 2 to 3 heads of romaine lettuce ½ lb. smoked salmon, sliced thinly 2 medium avocados, chopped coarsely 1 medium red onion, sliced thinly ½ block of feta cheese, crumbled 1 cup cherry tomatoes sliced in half Handful of sliced black olives slices (optional) Dressing 2 TBS finely chopped fresh dill 1/3 cup fresh lemon juice 1 TBS Dijon mustard 2 TBS honey 2 cloves garlic, crushed 1 TBS white vinegar 1 TBS olive oil
Preparation Combine greens, salmon, avocado, onion, tomato and feta in large bowl. Whisk remaining ingredients in small bowl then pour over salad; toss gently.
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Spinach Salad with Spiced Pecans
Modern Israeli Salad
Ingredients
Ingredients
Salad
Salad
2 packages baby spinach
3-4 tomatoes, chopped
1 cup strawberry, sliced
4 Persian or greenhouse cucumbers, skin on, chopped
1 red onion, sliced
½ red onion, chopped
1 can hearts of palm, chopped
1 package store-bought roasted chickpeas
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½ yellow pepper, diced Dressing 1 cup oil 1 tsp mustard
1 avocado, diced ½ cup crumbled feta or goat cheese ¼ cup assorted fresh herbs mint, parsley, cilantro
1/3 cup cider vinegar ¼ cup sugar
Dressing
2 TBS corn syrup
1 whole lemon, juiced
1 TBS poppy seeds
Olive oil
1 tsp salt
Kosher salt
1 tsp dry mustard
Ground black pepper
1 tsp celery seed
¼ tsp cumin ¼ tsp sumac
Spiced Pecans 1 egg white
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¾ tsp vanilla
Chop and dice all vegetables in a bowl and add cheese on top. Mix the ingredients for the dressing together and pour over the salad. Right before serving place a handful of fresh chickpeas on the center of the bowl as a garnish.
1 cup sugar 1 TBS water 1 cup whole pecans
Preparation Prepare the pecans: In a large mixing bowl beat egg whites until frothy (not stiff). Add vanilla, sugar and water. Add pecans and mix to coat. Place pecans on a baking sheet lined with parchment paper and bake for 30 minutes, turning after 15 minutes. Let cool. Prepare the salad: Combine salad ingredients and toss with dressing before serving. Garnish with pecans over the top of the salad.
Naomi Nachman, the owner of The Aussie Gourmet, caters weekly and Shabbat/ Yom Tov meals for families and individuals within The Five Towns and neighboring communities, with a specialty in Pesach catering. Naomi is a contributing editor to this paper and also produces and hosts her own weekly radio show on the Nachum Segal Network stream called “A Table for Two with Naomi Nachman.” Naomi gives cooking presentations for organizations and private groups throughout the New York/New Jersey Metropolitan area. In addition, Naomi has been a guest host on the QVC TV network and has been featured in cookbooks, magazines as well as other media covering topics related to cuisine preparation and personal chefs. To obtain additional recipes, join The Aussie Gourmet on Facebook or visit Naomi’s blog. Naomi can be reached through her website, www.theaussiegourmet.com or at (516) 295-9669.
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Notable Quotes “Say What?!”
MADE IN AMERICA: But we’d be happy to talk about our ties to Russia under oath. - New ad for Smirnoff vodka
Following salmonella outbreaks across the country, the Centers for Disease Control is urging chicken owners to stop snuggling with their birds. Though if you’re snuggling with chickens, salmonella is, like, your fifth biggest problem. – Seth Myers
Right now, New York is in the middle of a heat wave. Temperatures are in the mid-90s. You can tell it’s hot — today, Times Square Elmo passed out before he could get drunk. - Jimmy Fallon
A new study reveals more than 2 billion people worldwide are overweight or obese. And at any given time, most of them are at Disneyland the same day as you. - Conan O’Brien
I don’t appreciate the booing. It hurts my feelings…I’m a person, too. I have feelings. When you boo me, it hurts my feelings - NASCAR racer Danica Patrick to booing fans
Jerusalem, Palestine - Location listed on a United Nations job posting for a project-managing position
Let me state this clearly: I have never met with or had any conversations with Russians or any foreign officials concerning any ... interference with any campaign or election. Further, I have no knowledge of any such conversations by anyone connected to the Trump campaign. I was your colleague in this body for 20 years, and the suggestion that I participated in any collusion or that I was aware of any collusion with the Russian government to hurt this country, which I have served with honor over 35 years, or to undermine the integrity of our democratic process, is an appalling and detestable lie. - Attorney General Jeff Sessions’ opening statement while testifying in front of the Senate Intelligence Committee on Tuesday about possible “collusion” with Russia
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Canadian officials announced they are planning to build up their military. Then they said, “That is, you know, if it’s OK with everybody else.” – Conan O’Brien
I thought it was unusual for the president of the United States to go to Saudi Arabia first. Saudi Arabia? It wasn’t even alphabetical. I mean, Saudi Arabia. - House Minority Leader Nancy Pelosi (D-CA) criticizing Pres. Trump’s recent foreign trip
Wisconsin - A Google report on the most common word that people don’t know how to spell...in Wisconsin.
[Theresa May] was giving an interview the other day where she was asked what was the naughtiest thing she had ever done as a child. And she said…she used to upset local farmers by running through their wheat fields. That’s her darkest secret from her wild past! Imagine meeting up with old friends: “Oh, we were crazy back then, weren’t we? Out of control! We really bent some wheat.” – James Corden
You know, we haven’t seen any of that whatsoever, George, we’ve been looking and showing everything that they possibly have. That has not led to that. - Senate Intelligence Committee member Sen. Joe Manchin (D-WV) when asked by George Stephanopoulos on ABC’s “This Week,” whether he has seen any evidence of collusion
Get a job! –Cathy Stafford to a robber who walked into her restaurant and demanded that she hand over money from the register, forcing the robber to flee
[James Comey’s] performance the other day, I thought was extremely, extremely weak. You know the notion that he got all quivers in his stomach, and he got nervous and emotional and all this other stuff and he had to run back and write a memo. Did he write a memo when they sent a criminal referral over on Hillary Clinton and said you couldn’t call it an investigation? Did he write a memo when they wouldn’t approve a grand jury? Did he write a memo when the Internal Revenue Service went after thousands of freedom-loving people in this country and terrified them? Where does this guy come off talking about writing memos? - Former FBI Assistant Director James Kallstrom in an interview on AM 970 in New York
An 88-year-old woman has set a new record for oldest female to stand on the wing of a flying plane. It sounds dangerous, but it’s actually the safest place to be when you fly United. – Seth Myers
I get the sense from Twitter that my line of questioning today went over people’s heads. Maybe going forward I shouldn’t stay up late watching the Diamondbacks night games. - Sen. John McCain’s statement after his questioning of Jim Comey was incoherent the day before
Walmart is offering a new service where employees will deliver items to your house on their way home from work. Not only that — they’ll also deliver the items in a Target bag so your neighbors think you’re classy. – Jimmy Fallon
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In protest of President Trump abandoning the Paris Climate Accord, the CEO of Disney has resigned from Trump’s business advisory council. It’s not a good sign when a company led by a giant talking mouse is telling the president to be more realistic . – Conan O’Brien
We have sponsored Shakespeare in the Park for 20 years. As an institution that believes in free speech for the arts as well as the media, we support the right of the Public Theater to stage the production as they chose. – New York Times statement that it will continue to sponsor a play that features a Donald Trump look-a-like getting stabbed to death
The game show “Cash Cab” is coming back to the Discovery Channel! It’s a show where the driver asks passengers questions from the second they get into the car until they reach their destination — or as it’s called now, “Uber.”
A boy in Maryland this weekend was trapped in an arcade claw machine after climbing through the prize door. Luckily, rescuers were able to get him out after about 35 quarters.
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After Rio, I was probably the most hated person in the world. There were a couple of points where I was crying, thinking, “If I go to bed and never wake up, fine. �- U.S. Gold Medal swimmer Ryan Lochte in an interview with ESPN about the aftermath of his false allegations that he was held up at gunpoint in Rio de Janeiro during the Olympics last summer
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Political Crossfire
You Can’t Govern by Id
By Charles Krauthammer
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aving coined Bush Derangement Syndrome more than a decade ago, I feel authorized to weigh in on its most recent offshoot. What distinguishes Trump Derangement Syndrome is not just general hysteria about the subject, but additionally the inability to distinguish between legitimate policy differences on the one hand and signs of psychic pathology on the other. Take Trump’s climate-change decision. The hyperbole that met his withdrawal from the Paris agreement – a traitorous act of war against the American people, America just resigned as leader of the free world, etc. – was astonishing, though hardly unusual, this being Trump. What the critics don’t seem to recognize is that the Paris agreement itself was a huge failure. It contained no uniform commitments and no enforcement provisions. Sure, the whole world signed. But onto what? A voluntary set of vaporous promises. China pledged to “achieve the peaking of CO2 emissions around 2030.” Meaning that they rise for another 13 years. The rationale, I suppose, is that developing countries like India and China should be given a pass because the West had a two-century head start on industrialization. I don’t think the West needs to apologize – or pay – for having invented the steam engine. In fact, I’ve long favored a real climate-change
pact, strong and enforceable, that would impose relatively uniform demands on China, India, the U.S., the EU and any others willing to join. Paris was nothing but hot air. Withdrawing was a perfectly plausible policy choice (the other being remaining but trying to reduce our CO2-cutting commitments). The subsequent attacks on Trump were all the more unhinged because the president’s other behavior over the last several weeks provided ample
mayor of London after the most recent terror attack. They were appalling. This is a time when a president expresses sympathy and solidarity – and stops there. Trump can’t stop, ever. He used the atrocity to renew an old feud with a minor official of another country. Petty in the extreme. As was his using London to support his misbegotten travel ban, to attack his own Justice Department for having “watered down” the origi-
When the president’s id speaks, the world listens.
opportunity for shock and dismay. It’s the tweets, of course. Trump sees them as a direct, “unfiltered” conduit to the public. What he doesn’t quite understand is that for him – indeed, for anyone –o they are a direct conduit from the unfiltered id. They erase whatever membrane normally exists between one’s internal disturbances and their external manifestations. For most people, who cares? For the president of the United States, there are consequences. When the president’s id speaks, the world listens. Consider his tweets mocking the
nal executive order (ignoring the fact that Trump himself signed it), and to undermine the case for it just as it goes to the Supreme Court. As when he boasted by tweet that the administration was already doing “extreme vetting.” But that explodes the whole rationale for the travel ban – that a 90-day moratorium on entry was needed while new vetting procedures were developed. If the vetting is already in place, the ban has no purpose. The rationale evaporates. And if that wasn’t mischief enough, he then credited his own interventions in Saudi Arabia for the
sudden squeeze that the Saudis, the UAE, Egypt and other Sunni-run states are putting on Qatar for its long-running dirty game of supporting and arming terrorists (such as the Muslim Brotherhood and Hamas) and playing footsie with Iran. It’s good to see our Sunni allies confront Qatar and try to bring it into line. But why make it personal – other than to feed the presidential id? Gratuitously injecting the U.S. into the crisis taints the endeavor by making it seem an American rather than an Arab initiative and turns our allies into instruments of American designs rather than defenders of their own region from a double agent in their midst. And this is just four days’ worth of tweets, all vainglorious and self-injurious. Where does it end? The economist Herb Stein once quipped that “if something cannot go on forever, it will stop.” This really can’t go on, can it? But it’s hard to see what, short of a smoking gun produced by the Russia inquiry, actually does stop him. Trump was elected to do politically incorrect – and needed – things like withdrawing from Paris. He was not elected to do crazy things, starting with his tweets. If he cannot distinguish between the two, Trump Derangement Syndrome will only become epidemic. (c) 2017, The Washington Post Writers Group
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Forgotten Her es Simon Levy, First Graduating Class of West Point By Avi Heiligman
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efore military academies there was no official rule governing many militaries’ policies of determining who became an officer. Usually, if a soldier came from a prominent family, distinguished himself in battle or had been in the military for a long time he was chosen to lead soldiers. Denmark established the first academy in 1701, soon followed by the British and French. However, these were to train personnel in a particular field like artillery. In 1751 France started a military academy that would not be of a specific discipline but to train new officers. In 1801 the British opened their academy in Sandhurst. Finally, after almost two decades following the Revolutionary War, the Americans started an academy. The first graduating class of West Point had two members – with one of them being Jewish. During the Revolutionary War the Continental Army realized the importance of having a garrison at West Point. George Washington personally selected a designer to create fortifications on the strategic area on
the Hudson River. In 1779 it became the headquarters for the future first president’s command. Later in the war Benedict Arnold became commander of the fort, and it was known as Fort Arnold. After he committed treason and switched sides, the Brit-
with no time period as to when they would finish their studies graduation came at different times. Over the years an established curriculum was put into place, and the academy became an accredited four year institution with graduations in the spring.
Being the only Jewish cadet was difficult but he persevered.
ish never captured the fort. To rid themselves of this embarrassing episode, the army changed the name to Fort Clinton. Several of the Founding Fathers including Washington, John Adams and Alexander Hamilton pushed for the creation of a military institution that would teach the art of warfare. In 1802 President Thomas Jefferson signed legislation establishing the U.S. Military Academy in West Point. There were twelve cadets in 1802 and
The first superintendent at West Point was Jonathan Williams, a colonel who, while serving at West Point, also became the commander of the Corps of Engineers. He served as superintendent for two non-consecutive sessions. Following Williams, Joseph Gardner Swift became superintendent in 1812. Swift, along with Simon Magruder Levy, was the entire the first graduating class of West Point in 1802. Simon, sometimes written Sime-
on, Levy was born in 1774, although only the day of his bris was recorded and not his birthday (assuming that he was a healthy baby and his family was religious, which seems to be the case, he was born on January 18). At some point in the 1790s the family moved to Baltimore. His father had been a fur trader in Lancaster for many years When Levy was just 16-years-old he joined the army and fought in the Northwest Indian War as a sergeant. During the Battle of Fallen Timbers in Ohio he distinguished himself and was promoted to orderly sergeant. The battle itself was against the British that had left a small contingent of soldiers to align themselves with Native American tribes. The battle resulted in a treaty that ended the war and forced the British to withdraw from the Northwest Territory. While there is no detailed recording of his actions during the battle Levy did make a great impression on his commanding officer who recommended him to become a cadet at West Point. Levy and Swift graduated in about 19 months, with
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Swift officially being the first cadet to graduate. Swift later wrote about Levy that he was a “member of a responsible Jew family of Baltimore and formerly a sergeant in Capt. [Benjamin] Lockwood’s Company of Infantry and thence promoted to cadet for his merit and mathematics attainments.” It is possible that Levy stayed at the academy for a short stint as an instructor before being assigned to the position of an engineer at Fort James Jackson in Georgia. However, a mere three years after his graduation, Levy was in great pain with what he described as rheumatism. He died in March 1807 in Georgia and, like a lot of his life, his place of burial is unknown.
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n the 215 years since the first graduating class at West Point over 900 Jewish soldiers have graduated from the prestigious academy. Alfred Mordecai, an observant Jew from North Carolina, graduated from West Point in 1823. Being the only Jewish cadet was difficult but he persevered. He went on to write the first manual in ordnance for the American military. When the Civil War began in 1860 his son had just graduated from West Point. Mordecai made the difficult decision to leave the army because he wouldn’t fight against his neighbors. David “Mickey” Marcus graduated from West Point in 1920 and jumped with the 101st Airborne Division into Normandy, France. After the war, he attended the Nuremberg Trials and became a Zionist based on the tragedies that he saw when he toured Dachau. In 1947 he joined the Haganah and was appointed the first general in Israeli history. Tragically he was killed in a friendly fire incident in June 1948. Other military academies have graduated small numbers of Jewish
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FRANKLIN SQUARE: 1,100+/-SF Professional Space in Building, Reception Area, Waiting Room, On-Site Parking, Great for Any Professional Use, For Lease... Call Alan for More Details(516) 295-3000 www.pugatch.com HEWLETT: 850+/-SF Office Space, 2nd Floor Walkup in Professional Bldg with On-Site Parking, For Lease… Call Lori for More Details (516) 295-3000 www.pugatch.com LYNBROOK: 1,850SF Retail Store on Sunrise Hwy, Corner Location, High Visibility, For Lease …Call For More Details Broker (516) 792-6698
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Classifieds classifieds@fivetownsjewishhome.com / text 443-929-4003 COMMERCIAL RE HEWLETT: 1,100SF & 1,500SF Office/Medical Suites Available in Professional Building, Great Parking, Near Public Transportation & Major Highways... Call for More Details Broker (516) 792-6698 WOODMERE: 2,400+/-SF Retail Space with Basement Available, Former Beauty Salon, Great Location, Close to Public Transportation, For Lease…Call Arthur for More Details (516) 295-3000 www.pugatch.com WOODMERE: Follow The Leader To Woodmere, Now Is The Time To Act!!! No Metered Parking, Various Retail/Office Spaces Available, For Sale/Lease...Call For More Details (516) 295-3000 www.pugatch.com ROCKVILLE CENTRE: PRIME SUNRISE Hwy Location, 13000SF Lot with 10000SF Free Standing Bldg & 2 Partial Basements, Vacant Adjoining Lot Included, Retail/Office Use, For Sale …Call Lenny for More Details (516) 295-3000 www.pugatch.com
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CO-OP FOR SALE FAR ROCKAWAY 833 Central , 1st floor, balcony, doorman. Completely renovated, near LIRR, 2BR/2 full bath, 2 DW/sinks, wood cabinets, granite counters $339 917-572-9644 WOODMERE: BEST BUY – NEW PRICE SMALL PETS OK: Beautiful Corner Unit In Elevator Bldg, 2BR, 5 Closets, All Large Rooms, Sunny & Spacious, Close To All...$165K Call Carol Braunstein (516) 295-3000 www.pugatch.com
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APT FOR RENT Seeking to Rent your home or property with option to buy Good credit, on time payments 718-304-4348 LAWRENCE. LARGE ONE BEDROOM APT. Close to train, underground parking, spacious living room/dining area. Motivated seller $118,000. Call 917-299-8082 HEWLETT: NO FEE Two - 1BR APT IN BLDG – RENOVATED 1BR Apt In The Heart Of Hewlett, SS Appliances, New Cabinetry, Recessed Lighting, Hard Wood Floors, Washer/Dryer In Bldg, Close To All, NO FEE...$1,995/mo Call Carol Braunstein (516) 295-3000 www.pugatch.com
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Renovated 1BR Apt, Eik, 2BR, 2BA, Washer/Dryer Magnificent 2BR Renov Mid Block Location,3BR Close To All..$1,995/mo In Apt,Terrace..$2,500/mo Apt, Close To All..$239K Colonial,Near All..$539K
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Classifieds classifieds@fivetownsjewishhome.com / text 443-929-4003 APT FOR RENT Hebrew Academy of Long Beach, Woodmere, NY is accepting applications for the 2017-2018 year in Language Arts, M.S. Math (Common Core) and Ivrit. Send resumes to: sbotwinik@halb.org Pugatch Realty Corp., in Woodmere, is looking to hire and train a select group of motivated Realtors. If you are looking to build a career in real estate, or looking to take your existing career to the next level, there is no better place to start that the #1 Real Estate Brokerage in the Five Towns…Call Today (516) 295-3000 x 128. All calls kept confidential. Boys kiruv school located in Kew Gardens seeks general studies teachers for upper elementary grades. Must be proficient in Common Core curriculum and comfortable with technology in the classroom in addition to receiving training in an award winning system. Competitive salary. Hours are Monday-Thursday 12:30-3:45 Please send resumes to jobseekfr@yahoo.com
HELP WANTED CHEF For take out Food store in The 5 Towns. Will train. Call or text 917-620-8954 Immediate openings for Middle School Language Arts Teacher and Limudei Kodesh Maternity substitute in Hebrew Academy of Long Beach - afternoons only. Resumes to ulubetski@halb.org Local F.T. Accounting Office Seeks P/T JR. ACCOUNTANT proficient in Q.B. knowledge of payroll tax, sales tax, business tax and individual taxes Qualified applicants should please e-mail resume to: 5towntaxoffice@gmail.com SEEKING ADMINISTRATIVE ASSISTANT (part-time) Established Pre School in Far Rockaway. Resumes only to jkaplan@onourwaylc.org Looking to hire full time Executive Assistant/Bookkeeper. Prior Bookkeeping and Quickbooks experience a must. Please email your resume to: nassaultc@gmail.com
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Trigger Warning: Snakes By Allan Rolnick
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hat scares Americans most? It’s not the IRS, or public speaking, or even sharks. No, the answer, as you probably guessed, is snakes. Gallup once polled 1,016 American adults, and found that fully 51% of us are afraid of the scaly, coldblooded carnivores. Snakes have been bad guys going as far back as the Book of Genesis. And they’ve terrorized the rest us ever since. Who can forget Samuel L. Jackson, snapping out the only line anyone remembers from Snakes on a Plane, declaring “I have HAD it with these ... SNAKES on this ... PLANE!” or words to that effect. If you’re part of that 51%, you won’t be happy to hear the latest news from Mother Nature. Last month, a scientist announced he had observed a species of snake, the Cuban boa, that hunts in packs, using teamwork to catch their prey. He watched the three-to-six foot serpents join each other to hang upside down from roof of a cave to create a “curtain” and snatch bats trying to fly out. (Last we heard, he was spotted sprinting headlong away from the cave, screaming at the top of his lungs.) If this news hasn’t
sent you sprinting from the room, you’re probably wondering what any of this has to do with taxes. We’ll confess, we took the “snakes hunting in packs” story to test our own scientific hypothesis that we can find a tax connection anywhere. And it did take a few minutes on Google. But we did it!
What does that mean for daily life? Bribery in India is everywhere. Want to open a business, get a driver’s license, or schedule an appointment with a doctor? Pay up. Anti-corruption campaigns have helped tame the problem, including one clever effort to post YouTube videos of ordinary citizens naming and
One day, the farmers showed up at the tax office with three bags full of snakes.
So ... halfway around the globe, the world’s most populous country is struggling to stamp out a pattern of petty corruption and bribery that keeps it stuck in the ranks of “emerging democracies.” Mother India currently ranks 79th out of 176 on Transparency International’s corruption index. This puts India just behind that paragon of transparency Turkey, tied with Brazil, and ahead of the petty crooks in Albania and Jamaica.
shaming corrupt officials. But old habits die hard, especially away from the capital in New Delhi. Hukkul Khan and Ramkul Ram are two farmers from Narharpur village in Uttar Pradash, a northern state bordering Nepal. The men wanted tax records for their land, but officials refused to turn them over without the usual bribes. And Khan is known in his village as a snake charmer. So one day, the farm-
ers showed up at the tax office with three bags full of snakes. There were about 40 in total, all different sizes and species, including at least four deadly cobras. One state official said they started climbing up the tables and chairs. “There was total chaos. Hundreds of people gathered outside the room, some of them with sticks in their hands, shouting that the snakes should be killed.” Fortunately, no tax collectors or taxpayers were harmed during the making of the farmers’ stunt. Police and forest officials rounded up the snakes, and everyone who wasn’t in that office had a good laugh. (As Indiana Jones said in Raiders of the Lost Ark, “Snakes... Why’d it have to be snakes?”) We understand that for some people the tax code is as scary as a bag full of boa constrictors. But you don’t need a sack full of snakes to pay less. You just need a plan. Make sure you have one and see how it can be less terrifying! Allan J Rolnick is a CPA who has been in practice for over 30 yea rs in Queens, NY. He welcomes your comments and can be reached at 718-896-8715 or at allanjrcpa@aol.com.
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Slow Down Time By Rivki D. Rosenwald Esq., CLC, SDS
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ait, I think I have a minute. Oh no, that’s taken too! What don’t you have vying for your time right now? A wedding, a sheva brachos, a bar or bat mitzvah, a graduation, a shower, an engagement party. I bet you even have a bris?! (Doesn’t that kid realize June’s a busy month? Couldn’t he have come out sooner or later?!) I feel like it’s impossible to find a second to just begin to take in the summer. Everything’s going on. There are 10 months that seem all winter related. Why do we have to push practically everything into poor little summer?! Of course, I haven’t even mentioned camp shopping, camp packing, camp departure and camp visiting. That’s probably because finals, regents, and how to keep the little ones busy between school and camp are absorbing most people’s minds. Sundays, which are so cherished, need to be dissected. You have to think of them not as one massive day but as a quasi-school day. First period: walk, bike, exercise. Second period: brunch, bris, drive to regent’s reviews. Third period: beach, pool, pick up from regent’s reviews. Fourth period: start getting ready for wedding, bar mitzvah, engagement party. Fifth period: start driving there! Sixth period: keep driving there.
Seventh period: thank G-d for valet parking! Eighth, ninth, and tenth periods: be at the simcha. Eleventh period: start driving home. Twelfth period: bless those who make a local simcha.... Snippets of sun, sand, and summer need to be embraced. Whole days are few and far between. Many think this is the opportu-
inertia have taught them to operate at a snail’s pace. Your showing up, in their neighborhood, isn’t shaking them up! So you learn to tape, glue, or tie whatever it is together till they show up. And when it comes to a broken AC better buy a floor fan. Then you just go out for a stroll, play some sports, or take another trip to Walmart!
Even when you think you don’t have a minute, it’s still yours.
nity to take that longed for summer vacation getaway. Sounds great in theory! The reality is that most of us need a vacation when we get home. The one place that sometimes seems slower, more relaxing in its own warped way, though it’s a torture to drive there or maintain, is bungalow or summer home territory. The pace is just soooo slow that you have more time to enjoy the summer. Nothing is that pressing. The way you realize this is by needing a handyman to fix something. They’ll get there eventually, maybe this year, maybe next year... This is actually their busy season but ten months of
Another idea that people do to make summertime last is moving to California. It always seems appealing once summer comes. “Wow, they get to relax all year-round.” “They don’t have to push it all in.” “They get this weather all the time!” But New Yorkers actually rarely leave the grind. We are used to the cycle – and I don’t mean bicycle. The changing seasons are already a part of us, though, I’m not sure what the exact appeal is. Whether it’s family, familiarity, or the fast pace no one seems to be bolting out of here so quickly. Anyway, in the end, it seems wherever you are, whatever you do,
people, everywhere, often feel “Wow, I just don’t have a minute,” or “Where did the time go?” So, I guess the reality is that life is a series of moments. It’s ours to pass or possess. Even when you think you don’t have a minute, it’s still yours. It’s true that you may not be getting to utilize it the way you think you’d like to but, trust me, it’s necessary if you want others to utilize their minutes for you in return. I guess the best lesson we can learn is to find a way to appreciate each moment. They are not easy to control. So, whatever you wind up doing – slow your mind down! Think: I am WALKING. I am SWIMMING. Register time, don’t just pass it. As the minutes seem less your choosing, think creatively: I am spending quality time in the car with my child, mate, or alone with my favorite learning tape. I am getting really good at long distance driving! It may be tougher to eke out a value in some times than others. But when you can find the good in each moment, then, in that way you can take them all back! Rivki Rosenwald is a certified relationship counselor, and career and life coach. She can be contacted at 917-705-2004 or rivki@rosenwalds.com
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Which one of these children needs Chai Lifeline? (Hint: They all do.) Chai Lifeline is renowned for the care and love it bestows on children fighting cancer. But that’s only the beginning. Chai Lifeline serves thousands of children with medical challenges that aren’t evident on the outside, everything from Crohns Disease to cystic fibrosis to heart disease and illnesses so rare only a handful of children have been diagnosed. And still, that’s only the beginning. Chai Lifeline includes siblings and parents, too, with programs geared towards the entire family. We care for more than 5,000 children and their families around the world and across the street. Chances are, you know them. They just don’t look sick.
Whenever, wherever we’re needed, Chai Lifeline is there.
Chai Lifeline. Comprehensive, compassionate, professional assistance for families facing illness, loss or trauma. 151 West 30th Street, New York, NY 10001 I (877) CHAI-LIFE I (212) 465-1300 I www.chailifeline.org
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