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they sat down to the canvas, and still other times it’s the hidden messages or hints that are suggested. Hanging up a piece that reflects the values of the Jewish nation in your home invites guests to share in that experience. My son likes to read books about gedolim. One book that he has is on many gedolim. For each one, there is a large photo of the gadol followed by other photos at different events. At one point, my son would sit with the book, pencil and paper in hand, and draw the faces of these gedolim. He would draw at school, before he went to bed, he was always sketching. And he became quite good at it. In fact, he would bring them to me and I would be able to recognize who each person is. Around Sukkos time, he drew one of my husband’s grandfather and we hung it in my in-laws’ sukkah. I thought I had an artist living in my home. Recently, I mentioned to my husband that I never see him drawing anymore. My husband shrugged, “I guess it was just a fad.” When I brought it up with my son, he seemed nonchalant. “Oh, I did it in the winter. Now that we play outside, I don’t have time.” OK, so I may still have a little Picasso in my home. Wishing you a wonderful week, Shoshana

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Contents LETTERS TO THE EDITOR

COMMUNITY Readers’ Poll

Community Happenings

Special Attention to Special Needs at Achiezer by Tammy Mark

NEWS

Global

National

Odd-but-True Stories

ISRAEL Israel News

Smoked Out by Rafi Sackville

Israel’s True Colors: Impressions of an American Art Promoter by Nachum Soroka

PEOPLE Broken but Unbowed: An Unlikely Alliance between Governor Greg Abbott of Texas and the Jewish State by Shmuel Winiarz 108 Merrill’s Marauders by Avi Heiligman

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PARSHA Rabbi Wein

JEWISH THOUGHT Close Call by Rabbi Jonathan Gewirtz

Making the Omer Count by Eytan Kobre

HEALTH & FITNESS How to Stop Weight Re-gain by Cindy Weinberger, MS, RD, CDN

Oh No – We’re in the News Again? by Dr. Hylton Lightman

FOOD & LEISURE The Aussie Gourmet: Falafel Stuffed Eggplant

LIFESTYLES Dating Dialogue, Moderated by Jennifer Mann, LCSW 90

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Dear Editor, This week, in your note to readers, you wrote about not using credit cards at gas stations. I echo your concerns. I have one credit card that I keep in good standing and rarely, rarely use. Other times it’s only cash. Not only does this keep me out of hackers’ sights, it is really helpful for budgeting. I know that I have a certain amount of money each week to spend on food, clothes, and necessities. After that money is used up, I have to wait until next week, so it ensures that I make the right decisions when it comes to my spending. Years ago I learned this trick from my financial planner and I have been using it

ever since. I don’t consider it a burden and I certainly find enjoyment out of watching my bank account grow. Sincerely, N. Tepper Dear Editor, As the summer approaches, I want to remind parents of a few safety issues they should keep in mind that pertain to the warmer months. First and foremost, children should make sure to wear helmets when they ride their bikes, scooters or rollerblade. This shouldn’t be looked at as cumbersome; they should view it just like wearing seatbelts in a car. Additionally, please caution them when riding in the street. Recently, I saw a boy on a skateboard riding in the middle – on the double yellow line separating the traffic lanes – of Central Ave. That’s not cool – that’s dangerous. Also, remind your children about what they should do if a stranger approaches them. Days are long now and children are outside playing. They should know to run away or yell if they feel they are in a compromised situation. And while you’re having that conversation, remind them that they can come to you with any problem and should feel comfortable coming to you in any situation. School is different than camp and a small reminder that their parents love them, are there for them, and can help them can go a long way. Wishing everyone a safe summer, Chaviva H. Continued on page 12

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The Way You Make Your Bed is the Way You Sleep in It by Rivki Rosenwald, Esq., CLC

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POLITICAL CROSSFIRE Notable Quotes GOP Lunacy in High Places by Michael Gerson CLASSIFIEDS

Dear Editor, I found it interesting how your article this week seemed to bash Mayor de Blasio. Yes, he may have not been aboveboard when it came to certain campaign funds, but most politicians need to do that in order to get donors and donations coming in. Look at what he has done for the city. Universal Pre-K is helping many families. He has tried to even the score when it comes to policing in white and black neighborhoods. Would you prefer to have Bloomberg in charge? If we would have given him a few more years, he would have cracked down on even more in the city and all we would have been allowed to eat is organic kale. Be happy you’re not living in a nanny state. Yes, de Blasio is not perfect but, hey, neither are you! Sincerely, Jack Braun

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Dear Editor, With the spring season having just arrived, there are indubitably old and new diseases for us to be apprehensive about. An election season functions in a parallel manner, and it is thus imperative for us to be fully vigilant of the myriads of political “diseases” which such a season is certain to breed. Throughout this primary process, many of Donald Trump’s most staunch defenders have depicted their

candidate as the quintessential constitutional conservative, in fact resembling very closely the likes of Ronald Reagan. I become livid at that description, as Trump is not even marginally identical to either Reagan who was an unparalleled statesman indeed, or to any other prolific American figure of which they are accustomed to drawing such similarities. Why are they entirely remiss over Reagan’s pioneering defense for and scholarly erudition of the Constitution?

Why do they constantly cite Reagan’s import tariffs as valid precedent for protectionism (though they were single-good tariffs to address specific trade issues, not across-the-board like Trump’s), while simultaneously neglecting his record on marginal income tax rates and the regulatory regime? It is manifestly clear that when considering Trump’s own constitutional illiteracy, his resolute support for protectionism as an economy-wide policy, and his other liberal

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Friendship Circle which provides such incredible programming, including Friends at Home, Sunday Circle, Judaic Circle, Sibs Circle, Teens and Young Adult Division (T-YAD), Moms Night Out, exciting trips, among many other programs. As one who has been a volunteer in the past, I have seen firsthand the positive impact such programming has on special needs children and their families: the smiles on the participant’s faces, the joy that families feel when they see their children bond with a new volunteer who truly relishes and accepts them. And yet, as much as the children benefit, the volunteers gain an invaluable lesson of true giving of themselves and of the importance of including those with special needs in the community. As I push myself harder and harder, with fatigue beginning to seep in, I think of my sister Esther, to whom I dedicate my ride. Esther has benefited tremendously from the extensive programming provided by the Friendship Circle, has bonded incredibly with her weekly volunteer and always comes home with a beautiful smile after attending a T-Yad event. For the true cyclist, 40 miles a day is not difficult. On Bike4Friendship, we will average 100 miles day, six days a week. We will ride through rain, wind, in extreme heat and in some cases, in the early hours of the morning darkness and through steep inclines. All along, I will help spread the message of the Friendship Circle, a message of acceptance, of inclusion and of the importance of giving. Please lend your support towards my goal of reaching $4,500 in support of this incredible organization. You may donate online by visiting my page at www. bike4friendship.com/yairsternman. Thank you, Yair Sternman

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Insider Reveals Russian Doping Scheme

According to the director of Russia’s anti-doping laboratory, dozens of Russian athletes at the 2014 Winter Olympics, including at least 15 medal winners, were part of a staterun doping program meticulously planned for years to ensure dominance at the Games. The director, Grigory Rodchenkov, who ran the laboratory that handled testing for thousands of Olympians, admitted he developed a three-drug cocktail of banned substances that he mixed with liquor and provided to dozens of Russian athletes. The broad scheme is one of the most elaborate doping ploys in sports history. It involved some of Russia’s biggest stars of the Games, including 14 members of its cross-country ski team and two veteran bobsledders who won two golds. Under the cover of darkness, Russian anti-doping experts and members of the intelligence services replaced urine samples tainted by performance-enhancing drugs with clean urine collected months earlier. They were somehow able to break into the supposedly tamper-proof bottles that are the standard at international competitions, Dr. Rodchenkov said. Bottles of urine were passed through a hand-sized hole in the wall to be ready for testing the next day. By the end of the Games, Dr. Rodchenkov estimated, as many as 100 dirty urine samples were expunged. None of the athletes were caught doping. More importantly, Russia

won the most medals of the Games, easily surpassing its main rival, the United States, and undermining the integrity of one of the world’s most prestigious sporting events. When Russian officials were asked to respond to the recent claims, Russia’s sports minister, Vitaly Mutko, released a statement to the news media calling the revelations “a continuation of the information attack on Russian sport.” In November, the World Anti-Doping Agency identified Dr. Rodchenkov as the linchpin in what it described as an extensive state-sponsored doping program in Russia, accusing him of extorting money from athletes – the only accusation he denies – as well as covering up positive drug tests and destroying hundreds of urine samples. After the report came out, Dr. Rodchenkov said Russian officials forced him to resign. Fearing for his safety, he moved to Los Angeles. In the Sochi Games, Russian athletes won 33 medals – including 13 golds, 10 more than at the previous Winter Olympics. A third of all medals were awarded to athletes whose names appeared on the spreadsheet outlining the government’s doping plan that Dr. Rodchenkov said was provided by the sports ministry before the Games.

Brazil’s Prez Vows to Fight Impeachment

Dilma Rousseff, the newly suspended Brazilian president, is swearing to use “all legal means” to fight a permanent impeachment. Hours after the Senate voted to impeach her, the nation’s first female president blasted the process as “fraudulent” and said it was an injustice more painful than the torture she endured under a past military dictatorship. Rousseff continues to reject the accusations levied against her of using illegal accounting tricks in managing the federal budget. “I may have committed errors but I never com-

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mitted crimes,” Rousseff proclaimed during a 14-minute address flanked by dozens of top officials and brass from her left-leaning Workers’ Party. The Senate’s decision came after a months-long battle that highlighted the country’s fury over corruption and economic decay just months before it hosts the Summer Olympics. Speaking to several thousand supporters as she left the Planalto presidential palace, Rousseff said the accusations are nothing more than a red herring, part of a “coup” orchestrated by her power-hungry foes. “I am the victim of a great injustice,” she declared, adding, “I fought my whole life and I’m going to keep fighting.” The Senate has 180 days to conduct a trial and decide whether Rousseff should be permanently removed from office — in which case interim leader Michel Temer would serve out the remainder of her term, which ends in December 2018. Impeachment supporters contend Temer, a career politician and constitutional expert who has published a collection of poetry, is the best hope for reversing Brazil’s economic collapse. For now, Temer is hanging onto power tenuously as he has been

largely isolated in Latin America. Eight Latin American countries – Venezuela, El Salvador, Cuba, Bolivia, Ecuador, Nicaragua, Chile and Uruguay – have rejected the coup that put him in office, with only Argentina’s conservative government of President Mauricio Macri publicly stating support for the newly-installed right-wing government. The South American bloc UNASUR has also condemned the coup and has said the impeachment bid against Rousseff undermines the “democratic governability” of the entire region in a “dangerous way.”

Hezbollah Top Commander Killed Hezbollah made clear this week that its top military commander was killed in Syria by Sunni Islamist artillery fire, and not by an Israeli airstrike as one member of the Lebanese Shi’ite movement had said. “Investigations have showed that the explosion, which targeted one of our bases near Damascus International Airport

and which led to the martyrdom of commander Mustafa Badreddine, was the result of artillery bombardment carried out by takfiri [hardline Sunni] groups in the area,” the terror group said in a statement.

The Shi’ite Muslim group is fighting in Syria, backing President Bashar al-Assad against many Sunni groups including ISIS and the al Qaeda-affiliated Nusra Front. Damascus airport and its surroundings are controlled by the Syrian government and allied forces. Around 1,200 Hezbollah fighters are estimated to have been killed in the Syrian conflict. “The outcome of the investigation [into Badreddine’s death] will increase our determination ... to continue the fight against these criminal

gangs and defeat them,” Hezbollah said. Iran-backed Hezbollah, considered a terrorist group by the United States and Gulf Arab states, wields enormous political influence in Lebanon alongside its powerful military wing. Israel declined to comment on speculation it was behind Badreddine’s death, but a former Israeli official said his country would be glad to hear the news of the terrorist’s demise.

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Experts believe the finds came from a large merchant ship carrying metal slated for reuse when it ran into a storm near the harbor and smashed into the seawall and rocks. “A preliminary study of the iron anchors suggests there was an attempt to stop the drifting vessel before it reached shore by casting anchors into the sea; however, these broke – evidence of the power of the waves and the wind which the ship was caught up in,” the statement said. Ran Feinstein and Ofer Ra’anan of Ra’anana were diving at the site of the ancient harbor in the Caesarea National Park before Pesach when they noticed that shifting sand had exposed the remains of a ship and its contents. The pair immediately contacted the IAA, which sent down archaeologists to take a look. To their delight, the team spotted “iron anchors, remains of wooden anchors and items that were used in the construction and running of the sailing vessel,” the authority said. The ship is said to be from the Late Roman Period or 3rd-4th century CE. In the weeks following the discovery by Ra’anan and Feinstein, IAA divers along with volunteers carried out an underwater salvage survey and by using specialized equipment were able to find and recover many items from the cargo. The bronze statues are particularly rare; slated to be melted down, they instead sank and were preserved by the seawater. Also discovered were two lumps, together weighing 20 kilograms, composed of thousands of coins with the markings of Constantine the Great that had retained the shape of the long disintegrated pottery vessel in which they were being transported.

ISIS Using Gaza Tunnels

Ancient Trove Discovered Beneath the Sand A shipwreck from 1,600 years ago has been discovered on the seabed off of Caesarea. The Roman-era seaport was hiding a huge underwater treasure of bronze and silver.

While the artifacts discovered may not have been worth that much 1,600 years ago, the Israel Antiques Author-

ity called the find the most extensive underwater discovery in 30 years. Pieces brought to the surface included many fully intact bronze lamps, fragments of three life-size bronze cast statues, objects fashioned in the shape of animals such as a whale, and a bronze faucet in the form of a wild boar with a swan on its head. Fragment of jars the crew had used to store drinking water were also found.

Maj. Gen. Yoav Mordechai, the Coordinator of Government Activities in the Territories, made it known that ISIS members have come into Gaza from Egypt through tunnels

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to receive military training in the Hamas-ruled enclave. Mordechai said the ISIS members entered Gaza a few days ago with the support of a well-connected Hamas affiliate in the city of Rafah, adding that Hamas is helping the ISIS fighters receive medical care in Gaza’s hospitals. According to Israeli authorities, the operatives used ties with Sayid Abed El Aal, who is close to Hamas and holds sway in the border town of Rafah. Mordechai explained that Hamas’ field commanders were informed, and its top military and political leaders were updated on the issue. Mordechai’s comments come just after Egypt reopened the Rafah crossing between Gaza and Sinai for the first time in three months. The crossing has been mostly closed since a terrorist attack in the Sinai Peninsula in October 2014, in which Egypt claimed Hamas played a role. After that attack, Egypt began creating a wide buffer zone along the Gaza border, in a bid to destroy the hundreds of smuggling tunnels Cairo says are used by Palestinian Arabs to deliver weapons to jihadists in the Sinai. As part of its attempt to mend ties with Egypt, Hamas is trying to create the

semblance that it is distancing itself from Iran and ISIS, at least publicly. Hamas hopes the Egyptian regime will alter its policy towards Gaza and will reopen the crossing in Rafah indefinitely. Israeli media outlets are quoting Palestinian sources in Gaza that say that, although Hamas is actively courting Egypt, there are some, especially in its military leadership, that view Iran and Salafist groups as their main source of funds and arms and are reluctant to give up the ties. Nonetheless, Hamas is facing increasing pressure from the Saudi royal house to cut ties with Iran and respect Egyptian national security interests.

Netanyahu Shames Iran for Holocaust Denial Benjamin Netanyahu blasted Iran this week for promoting a Holocaust-themed cartoon contest that mocked the Nazi genocide of 6 million Jews during World War II and said the Islamic Republic was busy planning for another one. Iran has

long backed armed groups committed to Israel’s destruction and its leaders have called for it to be wiped off the map. Israel fears that Iran’s nuclear program is designed to threaten its very existence.

Netanyahu said it is more than Iran’s belligerent policies that Israel opposes – it’s its values. “It denies the Holocaust, it mocks the Holocaust and it is also preparing another Holocaust,” Netanyahu said at his weekly Cabinet meeting. “I think that every country in the world must stand up and fully condemn this.” State Department spokesman Mark Toner, traveling with Secretary of State John Kerry in Saudi Arabia, said the United States was concerned the contest could “be used as a platform for Holocaust denial and

anti-Semitic speech, as it has in the past.” “Such offensive speech should be condemned by the authorities and civil society leaders rather than encouraged. We denounce any Holocaust denial and trivialization as inflammatory and abhorrent. It is insulting to the memory of the millions of people who died in the Holocaust,” Toner said. This is not the first time the regime has held the contest; it’s been going on for years. This year, though, is the first time since the Iran nuclear deal was signed. The denial or questioning of the genocide is widespread in the Middle East, where many regard it as a pretext Israel used for its creation and to excuse its actions toward the Palestinians. “Holocaust means mass killing,” said contest organizer Masuod Shojai Tabatabaei. “We are witnessing the biggest killings by the Zionist regime in Gaza and Palestine.” He said the purpose of the Tehran event was not to deny the Holocaust but rather to criticize alleged Western double standards regarding free expression – and particularly as a response to depictions of the Prophet Muhammad by the French satirical magazine Charlie Hebdo and others.

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The exhibit featured some 150 works from 50 countries, with many portraying Israel as using the Holocaust to distract from the suffering of the Palestinians, and others comparing. Netanyahu to Nazi leader Adolf Hitler. The contest was organized by non-governmental bodies with strong support from Iran’s hardliners. A previous contest in 2006 got a boost from then-President Mahmoud Ahmadinejad, a hardliner who referred to the Holocaust as a “myth” and repeatedly predicted Israel’s demise.

Hamas Takes Advantage to Smuggle Weapons

A Hamas-affiliated smuggler was arrested by the Israeli Navy last week attempting to bring illegal weapon-building materials into the country through Gaza. In April, the Defense Ministry extended the permitted distance from the coast for Gazan boats to nine nautical miles, up from the previous six miles. The Shin Bet accused Hamas of “taking advantage” of this recent change in blockade policy. Salim Jamal Hassan Naman admitted to interrogators that he’d been involved in a naval smuggling operation for some time and had helped bring in weapons and “materials used in the production of rockets, like fiberglass resin,” the security service said. Though Naman was most closely affiliated with the Hamas terror organization, he told investigators the smuggling ring brought weapons to a variety of terror groups in the Gaza Strip. Naman, 39, also gave additional information on the terror group’s methods of using dedicated smugglers as well as Gaza fishermen to bring contraband to and from Egypt. He gave details on how Hamas uses Gazan fishermen as a “camouflage” for their military actions, the Shin Bet

said. “The information revealed in this interrogation, along with the interrogations of the other Hamas terror operatives who have been arrested recently, reveal another aspect of the numerous efforts made by Hamas in order to prepare itself for advancing its violent terrorist actions,” the Shin Bet said. “This time, it’s through taking advantage of the relief provided by Israel for the population of Gazan fisherman.”

The New Norm: 65 and Still Working

In many countries, 65-year-olds can be found enjoying a day at the beach or playing bingo, but in America almost a full 20 percent of Americans 65 and older can be found at their desk at work, according to the latest data from the U.S. Bureau of Labor Statistics. There hasn’t been such a large portion of Americans working this late in life since the early 1960s, before the U.S. enacted Medicare. A plausible explanation is that the baby boom generation is that age group now – of just reaching retirement age – causing the U.S. to have the largest number of older workers than ever before. Twenty-seven percent of Americans say they will “keep working as long as possible,” while another 12 percent have no plans of retiring at all, according to a 2015 Federal Reserve study. Three in five retirees surveyed by the Transamerica Center for Retirement Studies said making money or earning benefits was at least one reason they had retired later than they had originally planned. Almost half said financial problems

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were their main reason for working past 65. However, many Americans choose to work later on in life to keep their brains stimulated and maintain their youth. Thirty-six percent of respondents told Transamerica they had worked past 65 mainly because they enjoy their jobs or “want to stay involved.” Many in the baby boomer generation suffered major losses during the financial crisis and lost a large portion of their retirement savings. Today, 60 percent of U.S. households have no money in a 401(k) or similar retirement account, and the benefits of 401(k)s are skewed toward the wealthiest Americans, a recent report by the Government Accountability Office found. It seems that Americans with a strong skill set tend to work longer. People with college and graduate degrees tend to work later than those with less schooling, according to a 2013 study by the Center for Retirement Research at Boston College. And since 1985, the share of older Americans with college degrees has tripled, to about a third of 60- to 74-year-olds, another possible reason for the increase of older working Americans. Another explanation offered was that as life expectancy rises, Americans feel that they will have time to relax and retire later on in life and do not feel the same urgency to close the lights on office life.

Diet Soda Linked to Obesity in Infants

Attention all ladies in waiting: enjoy your pickles and ice cream but stay away from diet soda. According to a new study, women who drank artificially sweetened beverages like diet soda every day while pregnant were more likely to have infants clock in at a higher body mass index (BMI) at their one-year-old checkup. Oddly enough, the same trend did not hold true for mothers who drank sugary beverages throughout

pregnancy. Researchers did find a correlation between BMI and the total amount of sugar pregnancy women consumed each day, but no specific link between sugary beverages and high BMI. Lead author Meghan B. Azad of Children’s Hospital Research Institute of Manitoba in Winnipeg, Canada, who conducted the study, said, “There’s growing evidence in adults that artificial sweeteners may have counterintuitive relations with weight gain.” The study analyzed more than 3,000 sets of mothers and infants. The women completed dietary questionnaires in the second or third trimester of pregnancy and then the babies were weighed 12 months after birth. Almost 30 percent of women said they consumed some artificially sweetened beverages during pregnancy, and five percent said they did so at least once a day. More than 20 percent said they drank at least one sugar-sweetened beverage per day. At a year, 5 percent of the infants weighed in at the overweight range. After the researchers accounted for the mothers’ weight, diet quality and calorie intake, they determined that infants whose mothers drank artificial sweeteners on a daily basis during pregnancy were twice as likely to be overweight as those whose mothers did not drink any artificial sweeteners. Azad did acknowledge that “women consuming [the] most artificial sweeteners were most likely to be obese or have diabetes, so we had to correct for that.” However, despite that correlation, the conclusion still held true. The infants that were the subject of the study are now threeyears-old and will be reassessed at age five to see if the pattern persists. “Five artificial sweeteners have been deemed safe for human consumption by the U.S. (Food and Drug Administration) on the basis of the available evidence from animal and human studies, including acesulfame potassium, aspartame, saccharin, sucralose, and neotame,” Mark A. Pereira of the University of Minnesota in Minneapolis, who coauthored an editorial said. “Stevia (rebaudioside A or rebiana) is extracted from the Stevia plant, so it is not an artificial sweetener.” These sweeteners are found in diet soda, tea, coffee, and other energy drinks. “It’s not time to ban them or tell everyone not to consume them, but it does raise a question,” Azad said.

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Skelos Sentenced

State Assembly Speaker Sheldon Silver, who was sentenced to 12 years in prison, will be welcoming a former colleague into his cell. Former State Senate Majority Leader Dean Skelos was sentenced to five years in prison last week and fined $500,000. In December, Skelos and his son, Adam, were found guilty on eight federal counts of bribery, extortion, and conspiracy. Upon conviction, Dean Skelos lost his Senate seat immediately. Judge Kimba Wood also sentenced Adam Skelos to six and a half years in jail, and imposed a $334,120 forfeiture to be paid jointly by Dean and Adam. The judge also addressed Adam’s reputation of bullying and threatening by ordering

him to participate in a mental-health program in prison and also recommended alcohol and drug treatment. The father-son duo were accused of intimidating three companies – a developer, an environmental technology company, and a malpractice insurer – to provide Adam with payments and benefits in return for “political” favors. According to the prosecution, they siphoned extortion payments of $760,120, and obtained more than $334,000. After his sentencing on Thursday the former senator said, “I am deeply remorseful. It has destroyed my reputation.” He tried to explain that he was simply trying to be a good father but “somewhere my judgment became clouded ... I let things go off the rails.” Added Skelos, “For that, I apologize to Adam.”

Whose Lives Matter? Apparently, only certain lives matter. On Thursday, a “Blue Lives Mat-

ter” tribute to law enforcement officers was put up at Dartmouth College. But on Friday, members of the Black Lives Matter movement removed the display, replacing it with fliers that proclaimed, “You cannot co-opt the movement against state violence to memorialize its perpetrators. #blacklivesmatter.”

police display due to “safety and security” concerns, on Saturday morning, the Black Lives Matter literature was taken down to allow the reposting of the police tribute. A sign on the board on Sunday night read, “We will not be silenced, Blue Lives Matter,” according to The Dartmouth.

Where’s the Middle Class?

“The next morning we got up and we saw that our display was torn apart and replaced with Black Lives Matter posters,” Dartmouth College Republicans President Michelle Knesbach said. Those who took down the display were unrepentant. Mikala Williams, a student involved in replacing the police display with Black Lives Matter literature, said the tribute to cops undermined concerns about police brutality. “By framing that as ‘[Blue Lives Matter],’ it normalizes and naturalizes violence against people of color in this country,” she told The Dartmouth newspaper. “And that is not okay. That is in no way okay.” Knesbach, however, said the activism went beyond the billboard revamp. “Throughout the entirety of the day, 25 Black Lives Matter protesters were standing in front of billboards,” she told On the Record’s Greta Van Susteren. “Not only did they replace our billboard with their display, they also replaced all of the other billboards in the student center with Black Lives Matter posters and posted pictures of our club members’ faces with ‘Sons of Old Dartmouth’ written over it.” It took two days for school administrators to respond to the incident. On Sunday, they said that it was an “unacceptable violation of freedom of expression” and then equated it to a November incident in which Black Lives Matter t-shirts were removed from a display. Although the College Republicans were initially not allowed to replace the

There are three basic socioeconomic classes within the nation: the wealthy, the middle class, and the poor. While the rich and the poor are growing in size, the middle class is withering away. Nationally, a household of three making less than $42,000 in 2014 fell into the lower-income tier, while a household with earnings above $125,000 was considered part of the upper tier. According to a study released last Wednesday by Pew Research Center, the share of the middle class fell in 203 of the 229 U.S. metropolitan areas examined from 2000 to 2014. The trend was visible in major cities like New York, Los Angeles and Chicago. Economists blame the declining middle class on the decrease in manufacturing jobs over the last decade and a half. Factories got rid of about 5 million workers from their payrolls nationally over the last 14 years. “The 10 metropolitan areas with the greatest losses in economic status from 2000 to 2014 have one thing in common — a greater than average reliance on manufacturing,” the Pew report said, referring to places such as Detroit; Rockford, Illinois; Springfield, Ohio; and the Hickory-Lenoir-Morganton area in North Carolina. The exception was in metro areas in coastal and border regions, which have benefited from the technology, trade and resources boom. In California, even as 22 of the 26 metropolitan areas experienced a thinning middle class between 2000 and 2014, most of those same areas

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saw a net gain in distribution of income, meaning the share of the upper-income tier increased more than the lower-income group. “It absolutely is an East-West phenomenon,” said Stephen Levy, director of the Center for Continuing Study of the California Economy, noting that coastal areas generally are blessed with higher-wage industries like hightech, and more favorable demographics, such as a highly educated workforce. For example, San Francisco, a coastal town, and Sacramento, located in Central California, both showed a loss of middle class according to the study. However, Sacramento’s middle class mostly downgraded to the lower-income class whereas San Francisco showed increases that pushed residents into the higher-income group. Pew reported late last year that the middle class no longer constituted a majority on a nationwide basis. In 1971, 61 percent of adults were in middle-income households, but that had fallen steadily to just a hair below 50 percent last year.

streets and stabbing them. The article was accompanied by a photo of a hooded murderer stalking a victim in an upscale American home. There is also a photo montage that shows Microsoft founder Bill Gates along with a pistol and spattered blood. The periodical is published by al Qaeda’s main affiliate, al Qaeda in the Arabian Peninsula (AQAP), whose priority from its base in Yemen is to attack the U.S. homeland. The Middle East Media Research Institute quotes Inspire’s editor, Yahya Ibrahim, as saying, “The prophet ordered the killing of many criminal leaders using this method … And here we are, following the footsteps of the prophet on how he dealt with his enemies and friends. We will never put down our weapons until we fulfill what Allah wants from us. We are determined to keep fighting and striking Americans with operations by organized jihadi groups and by Lone Jihad, [and] pursuing America in its homeland – by the will of Allah.”

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It’s no secret that al Qaeda promotes violence and terrorism. In the latest issue of Inspire, its online magazine, it calls on jihadists to target the American economy by pursuing business leaders and entrepreneurs in their homes. In the May 14 edition, al Qaeda’s site published a story with the headline “Professional Assassinations” and a subheading, “Home Assassinations.” The article urged radical Islamic terrorists to emulate the violent Palestinian street-killings of Israelis by ambushing them in the

Capital punishment is still legal in 32 U.S. states but pharmaceutical company Pfizer is taking matters into its own hands. On Friday the medical giant announced that it will impose its right to prohibit the distribution of its products to be used in an execution. As more manufacturers try to avoid any association with capital punishment, a controversial form of punishment, the obstacles to lethal injection have increased in the last half-decade. Over 20 other American and European drug companies have imposed such restrictions, citing either moral or business reasons. “With Pfizer’s announcement, all F.D.A.-approved manufacturers of any potential execution drug have

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now blocked their sale for this purpose,” said Maya Foa, who tracks drug companies for Reprieve, a London-based human rights advocacy group. “Executing states must now go underground if they want to get hold of medicines for use in lethal injection.” It has become a challenge for states to carry out executions, often leading states to scramble for supplies last minute. Some states have used straw buyers or tried to import drugs from abroad that are not approved by the Food and Drug Administration, only to see them seized by federal agents. Some have covertly bought supplies from compounding pharmacies while others, including Arizona, Oklahoma and Ohio, have been forced to delay executions for months or longer because of drug shortages or legal issues tied to injection procedures. In some cases when lethal drugs were not available, states used the electric chair, a firing squad or the gas chamber as an alternative. Lawyers for convicted inmates have attempted to challenge the efforts of corrections officials to hide how the drugs were obtained, saying that they cannot ensure if the drugs used meet quality standards or may be causing undue suffering to their clients. “States are shrouding in secrecy aspects of what should be the most transparent government activity,” said Ty Alper, associate director of the death penalty clinic at the University of California, Berkeley, School of Law. Pfizer plans to restrict the sale of seven relevant drugs. The distributors are required to certify that they will not resell the drugs to corrections departments and will be closely monitored. Pressure on the drug companies has not only come from human rights groups. Trustees of the New York State pension fund, which is a major shareholder in Pfizer and many other producers, have used the threat of shareholder resolutions to push two other companies to impose controls and praised Pfizer for its new policy. “A company in the business of healing people is putting its reputation at risk when it supplies drugs for executions,” Thomas P. DiNapoli, New York’s state comptroller, said. “The company is also risking association with botched executions, which opens it to legal and financial damage.”

First Time Parents at 70

They should be celebrating their retirement. Instead, they are celebrating the birth of their firstborn. On April 19, an Indian couple in their 70s welcomed a bouncing baby boy into their home. “I can live happily now. My life is complete,” Daljinder Kaur, the ecstatic first-time mother, enthused. The 72-year-old has been married to her 79-year-old husband, Mohinder Singh Gill, for 47 years. Thanks to modern technology, they are now able to fill their home with laughter and joy – and the cries of a baby screaming throughout the night. Once verified, Kaur would be the world’s oldest mother. The record is being held by Maria del Carmen Bousada Lara, who was 66 when she gave birth to twin boys in Barcelona in 2006. Interestingly, the couple is not just beating the odds when it comes to giving birth; they have both surpassed the average life expectancy in Punjab, where the average man there lives only to about 70 years old. Women generally live to around 72. But not everyone has been extending their congratulations to the couple. Many have pointed out that although it may be medically possible for older women to give birth, ethically it may not be the right thing to do. Dr. Hrishikesh Pai has pointed out, “The question is not about technicalities, it’s about ethics. Our responsibility to the patient.” And to the baby as well. Who is going to give him piggyback rides when he gets older?

A Mind of its Own She wears her brains on her sleeve. When Carnegie Mellon Universi-

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the team figured out how to wire the dress with clusters of LED lights in shades of blue, red and yellow that respond at random to voices detected via a microphone in the dress. These particular colors are part of the standard convention for studying brain response to stimuli, Ms. Behrmann says. For instance, hot colors are used in experiments to denote the parts of the brain that do respond to stimuli, whereas cool colors reflect the opposite. “We wanted to make the lights look as though they were in the folds of the brain,” she says.

ty’s Marlene Behrmann, professor of cognitive neuroscience, learned she was to be inducted into the National Academy of Sciences – and the first female scientist from the university to earn the honor – she used her brains to come up with a memorable outfit to wear to the ceremony in Washington, D.C. Behrmann enlisted Sophie Hood, designer and adjunct professor, and programmer Matt Mukerjee to create her “brain dress.” A nod to brain

activation, the garment features multicolored LED lights that illuminate in response to positive and negative voice tones. “I’ve been meaning to do something like this for a while,” Ms. Behrmann says. The induction ceremony seemed like the perfect opportunity. Behrmann took a high-resolution scan of her own brain and then had it printed onto a fabric for her dress. But that was not all. She didn’t just want the dress to look like the brain –

it had to act like it too. Through lots of trial and error,

So what did people say when they saw the brainy professor in her cerebral clothing? “The responses were actually pretty different,” she admits. The event in Washington, D.C., attracted scientists from a range of fields, some of whom didn’t quite grasp the intent behind the brain dress. (“There’s something wrong with your dress” and “You’re blinking!” were among some of the puzzled reactions she received.) Those familiar with brain science, however, gave the garment two thumbs up, she says. Meanwhile, back at home in Pittsburgh, “everybody gets it.” “It reflects the intersection of art and science,” she says. Sadly, the brain dress may not see too many events since it can never be washed or worn in the rain. Even so, Behrman has taken out a copyright on it. After all, who wouldn’t want a dress that looks like a brain?

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Where’s the Power of the Pen?

Despite the white-haired man representing the company, Quaker Oats is a forward thinking corporation. And handwritten notes, although they are praised by your parents when writing thank you cards, are apparently not part of their modern creed. William Smith found out the hard way that Quaker has embraced the future and left the past far behind. The senior citizen has been eating oatmeal every morning of his life. When the 80-year-old Massachusetts man recently saw a Quaker Oats “best recipe” contest, he was quick to mail in his favorite: oats topped with brown sugar, pineapple and coconut flakes. “I have been using your product since 1946,” he wrote in his letter along with his recipe. “I am 80 years old.” But Smith’s “Hawaiian Special” recipe, which he wrote by hand on a piece of paper, was rejected and returned to him a few days later – with a letter accompanying it. Quaker quickly wrote back – but not to tell him he won. “Please be advised that your letter, with attachment, does not constitute a valid entry into the Contest in accordance with the Official Rules available at www.bringyourbestbowl.com,” wrote a representative for PepsiCo, which owns Quaker Oats Company. “The submissions are accepted through either the contest application on Quaker’s website, select retailer websites, Twitter, or Facebook during the submission period,” the letter read. “We will not accept entries via alternative methods of entry.” Smith, who doesn’t own a computer, finds this t-oat-ally discouraging. “I realize times have changed but I’m sure the man on the Quaker Oats box doesn’t recognize a computer either,” he quipped. “I think it’s age discrimination but I would never force the issue,” he added. “When you reach a certain age, you have to let things go.” Perhaps it’s time to start eating something else for breakfast. Waffles, anyone?

Brrr…Bison

Question: what do you do when a bison is cold? It’s not a trick question or a Laffy Taffy joke, but some people don’t

seem to have the right answer. This week, two tourists took a bison calf for a ride in an SUV during a visit to Yellowstone National Park. After pulling into a ranger station on Monday, rangers noticed something strange in the car. The man and son, who were visiting from another country, brought the young animal into their car because they were concerned it was cold. “They were demanding to speak with a ranger,” Karen Richardson,

a visitor to the park, related. “They were seriously worried that the calf was freezing and dying.” Richardson, of Victor, Idaho, was on a field trip with a group of fifth graders and other parents. She snapped a photo of the animal in the SUV and posted it on Facebook, with the caption, “Dear tourists: the bison calf is not cold and it is not lost. PUT IT BACK.” That, my friends, is the answer to the question.

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Community Annual Hasmoda Program

Did Somebody Say Challah?

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Moshe Glazer, this week’s Learn and Live’s “Spotted” winner

his week at the Learn & Live program, we sure did as the boys got to “Learn & Live” the brocha of hafroshos challah. Daniel Waldman brought with him three batches of dough, one for his family, in order to make the brocha, and two for the boys. After a short overview about challah and other related things, each boy got his own piece of dough to make his very own 3, 5 or any other number braid challah. Daniel Waldman showed the boys to make a 3 and 5 braid challah. This week, “Who’s on First” will be presented by R’ Y. Deutsch. For more information, regarding L&L, email learnandlivefr@gmail.com.

he annual Hasmoda Program under the leadership Rabbi Aaron Brafman is underway. It begins right after Pesach and ends right before Shavuos. Boys from many of the local yeshivas come and learn at night at the Yeshiva of Far Rockaway. At the end, there is a

raffle and the boys have a chance to win wonderful seforim and bicycles. The Hasmoda Program is in memory of Rabbi Yisroel Meir Heiman, Rochel Brafman, Meir Aryeh Blum, Binyomin Tzvi Berger, Aaron Moshe Schreiber, Barbara Brodsky and Michel Kramer.

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Rabbi Betzalel Korn, M.C., Mr. Gedaliah Robinson and Rabbi Dov Bressler, Rosh Kollel

Rabbi Betzalel Korn, M.C., Rabbi Uri Orlian and Rabbi Dov Bressler, Rosh Kollel. Rabbi Betzalel Korn is the Mara d’asra of Congregation Keneseth Meir, Far Rockaway

Rabbi Betzalel Korn, Sam Futersak and Rabbi Dov Bressler

Rabbi Betzalel Korn, M.C., Mr. Samuel Feigenbaum and Rabbi Dov Bressler

Morning after Mourning – TMM Seniors Visit the Kleinman Family Holocaust Education Center

he 12th grade class in Holocaust studies in TMM, taught by General Studies Principal Mrs. Adina Mandel, focuses on the dignity and emunah with which the 6 million kedoshim lived and died. After spending many months reading and discussing books and essays on the Holocaust and listening to first person narratives from survivors, the TMM seniors went to visit the Kleinman Family Holocaust Education Center. They were prepared intellectually for the visit, but the emotional impact was enormous. The Center has a particularly innovative way of making their visiting

students visualize and understand the significance of what happened to the Yidden under the Nazi regime. The first exhibit focused on the history of the Avigdor family – before, during, and after the war. Using primary sources, artifacts, and videos, the articulate and extremely knowledgeable docent helped the girls relate emotionally to the Avigdors. They felt their pride in their Yiddishkeit, their helplessness and fear, and their fierce will to survive. The girls followed the trail of the father and son who survived the war and came to these shores to rebuild their lives. After the presentation, there were no

questions from the girls. There were simply none to ask. The second exhibit was a display of artifacts that the Center has painstakingly gathered over the years. They range from a bloodstained, threadbare concentration camp uniform to the report card of a little boy who did not survive; from an original Vilna Shas to a film of the deportations depicted in stark black and white reality. But much of this exhibit also concentrated on the rebirth of our resilient, ever hopeful nation. Weddings took place in the D.P. camps, Torah education for children resumed in Europe, and

boruch Hashem, our communities have flourished in America. Mrs. Ruchie Sokoloff, TMM’s Dean of Students, noted that the girls’ reactions were mature and appropriate. They understood what was lost 70 years ago, and they appreciated the miracle of our rebirth. History melded with hashkafah; the preservation of artifacts combined with the renewal of a nation; tragedy layered with hope and belief – it all added up to a most meaningful experience. It was a fitting culmination of an excellent, in-depth course on the Holocaust.

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Sheya Belsky RL Service - member of the year award

Rabbi Elozer Kanner, Hatzalah Coordinator, addressing the crowd

Rabbi Lerer receiving an award for his decades of service to Hatzalah

Shlomo Katz, Hatzalah paramedic, conducting an AED presentation and appeal

Rabbi Eytan Feiner with Dr. Hylton Lightman

Rabbi Aaron Glatt with Hatzalah coordinators

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Goldfeder, Mosley Dragged Through the Mud for a Good Cause

ssemblyman Phil Goldfeder joined his colleague Walter Mosley and hundreds of athletes for the OHEL Extreme Challenge. Goldfeder and Mosley braved over thirty challenging obstacles, frigid lake water, and plenty of mud over the 5-mile course. Proceeds from the challenge benefited Camp Kaylie, a residential summer camp for children with disabilities.Â

The assemblymembers show off their medals at the finish line

Left to right: Roberta Kaylie, Assemblyman Walter Mosley, camp benefactor Gloria Kaylie, Assemblyman Michael Simanowitz, Assemblyman Phil Goldfeder and OHEL C.E.O. David Mandel

Assemblymembers Goldfeder (left) and Mosley scramble up a rock slide during the OHEL Extreme Challenge

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Rambam Mesivta Celebrates 24th Annual Dinner

arents and supporters of Rambam Mesivta gathered at the Sands of Atlantic Beach to celebrate the school’s 24th Annual Scholarship Dinner. Awards were presented to Guests of Honor, Mr. Adam and Mrs. Rivky Orlow; Educator of Excellence Award was presented to Rabbi Yotav Eliach; and Alumni of the Year were Aaron Friedman and Yehuda Isseroff, both of the Class of 2006. Tribute was paid to the alumni from the Class of 1996 who came to celebrate the 20th anniversary of their graduation. Rabbi Pinny Rosenthal served as the evening’s emcee and spoke about his four boys, Eliyahu (2010), Yosef (2011), Shmuel (2014) and senior Zechariah who graduated Rambam and gained so much there. He introduced Rabbi Zev Friedman, who connected the theme of the Haftorah Machar Chodesh to current events. “The day before Rosh Chodesh, Machar Chodesh, the sky is dark at night. The emergence of the moon begins to illuminate and dissipate darkness. Jewish history reflects the same thing. Just last week we commemorated Yom HaShoah, one of our darkest days, and yet three short years later the reestablishment of a Jewish state in Eretz Yisrael occurred. My parents survived Plasow, Auschwitz, and death marches, lived in total darkness for many years and had no idea when redemption would come. Hashem changes our destiny from darkness to light, oftentimes, in an instantaneous and totally unexpected manner,” said Rabbi Zev Friedman. He stressed that the school’s mission was one of promoting Jewish leaders. “Teaching kids to know how to learn Torah and how to excel in all of the studies is the aleph bais of Jewish ed-

ucation today – our mission is to inspire the next generation of Torah true Jewish leaders,” he said. Yehuda Isseroff was presented with a special Alumnus of the Year Award for his commitment to Torah and chochmas Hashem, as he concludes his training in dentistry at Columbia University. His father, Rabbi Dr. Zevi Isseroff, joined the podium as Yehuda was presented with a beautiful silver besamim box. Aaron Friedman, who serves as Rambam’s Director

of Operations, was presented with an Alumnus of the Year Award for his day-today service to the school and interacting with all vendors in a manner that creates a true kiddush Hashem. Adam and Rivky Orlow were named the Guests of Honor for their broad-based support of many Torah institutions including Rambam. Upon receiving the award Mr. Orlow lauded the school, its administration, Rebbeim and teachers for the excellent education and inspiration they provide his son,

Avi, a junior, and his friends. It is no surprise that Rabbi Yotav Eliach was named Educator of Excellence for his decades’ long commitment, passion and dedication to Jewish education. He has truly inspired thousands of students to increase their commitment to Torah and the Jewish community. Upon receiving his award, Rabbi Eliach spoke about the goals and mission of the school and about its amazing track record of producing so many rabbanim, doctors, lawyers, accountants and

graduates who are committed to Torah while concomitantly pursuing many different types of professions. Rabbi Rosenthal concluded the program by introducing a special, surprise video tribute from Rabbi Eliach’s former students, many of them residing in Israel, who spoke about the profound impact he had on their lives. After Maariv and dessert, the crowd left with a wonderful taste of what Rambam is all about.

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Celebrating Yom Ha’atzmaut at HALB

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Students and Seniors Celebrate Israel

group of seventh and eighth graders at Shulamith went to the JCC to join in a Yom Haatzmaut celebration with the seniors. They were chaperoned by Morah Pollak and Mrs. Leiderman. Girls who went were chessed

heads: Batya Altmark, Tamar Davies, Yafit Bokobza, Rachel Sandler and Eleora Fine. Seventh graders joined them as well: Sarah Leiderman, Frieda Vegh, Ariella Borah, Rachel Schwartz and Arielle Yarmish.

Connecting to Medinat Yisrael

his week’s back-to-back occasions of Yom HaZikaron and Yom Ha’Atzmaut brought our ever-present connections with Medinat Yisrael to the forefront of our minds. On Wednesday, Central High School was fortunate to host two veterans of who have helped to defend the State of Israel: Sgt. Sydney Rabinovich, grandfather of Mrs. Aliza Gewirtz and Miriam Rabinovich (‘17), who fought in the 1948 War of Independence; and Adam Kugelman, a Lone Soldier who joined the Israeli Army after his two years of post-high school Israel study. Both stories captured the difficulties and personal rewards of defending Israel and enhanced our appreciation for the IDF and Jewish people’s capacity to defend ourselves. Our Yom Ha’Atzmaut celebrations began bright and early as a blue-and-white-clad study body davened together, saying Hallel on our lawn in a unified circle. After a scrumptious Israel-inspired breakfast, students split up to attend sessions prepared by our faculty. Topics ranged from “Girl Power: How Women Impacted the State of

Israel,” to “Rav Kook: Rebel with a Cause” to “Halakhot of Hallel on Yom Ha’Atzmaut.” Rabbi Elie Weissman’s group visited 1111 Marcus Avenue, former home of the United Nations and site of the 1947 Partition Plan. Following a celebration of Israeli film, we were treated to a showcase of “Israel Through the Arts,” with special performances from our students and faculty. Sophomores in Mrs. Naomi Bennun, Mrs. Ofira Bashiry, and Mrs. Osnat Laks’s Ivrit classes entertained us with a beautiful daglanut, followed by a dance from our Israeli Culture Club and a performance from our Stomp Club. Thank you to the faculty members who contributed to writing and presenting a skit about the importance of unity among the Jewish people. After a rousing chagigah and falafel lunch, the school celebrated Yom Ha’Atzmaut the “Israeli way” – with a Macabiah that inspired students of all grades to work together toward common goals. Thank you to our entire programming team for a successful and spirited celebration of Medinat Yisrael!

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JCC Holocaust Survivors Celebrate Yom Ha’atzmaut with Love and Joy

utdoors the sky was a splendid shade of blue last Thursday, matched in beauty and color by the festive Yom Ha’Atzmaut celebration inside the Marion and Aaron Gural JCC’s social hall where over seventy-five cherished Chaverim – Holocaust survivors – who gather weekly at the JCC to socialize and enrich their lives, were treated to a wonderful event celebrating Israel’s 68th anniversary of becoming a nation. JCC staff members, volunteers and many survivors themselves excitedly arrived at the event in solidarity shades of blue and white, a tribute to their homeland and their great spirit. In the cheerfully decorated social hall this precious population, gloriously represented at our JCC, filled the room and enjoyed our multi-level program.

This Yom Ha’Atzmaut event was a classic example of JCC programs which unify the community as well as the generations in heartwarming projects. The program began as Rabbi Bruce Ginsburg from Congregation Sons of Israel in Woodmere gave a welcoming speech about the history of Israel and the proud accomplishments and growth of our nation – economically, technologically, in Torah studies and aliyah. Following these remarks Nassau County Legislator Denise Ford spoke warmly to our survivors of their tenacity and strength as they arrived in the U.S. decades ago and created lives for themselves after the horrors of the Holocaust. She praised their courage and told them how much they inspire us all. She called them our heroes. In keeping with the theme, a de-

licious “Israeli” lunch was served by JCC staff, neighborhood volunteers and an enthusiastic group of Shulamith School for Girls seventh and eighth graders who came to help, interact with our group and join in the festivities. After the meal, long-time favorite Israeli singer, Shlomo Haviv, performed for our survivors, entertaining them with nostalgic melodies, songs of Israel, and many lively tunes. Our survivors happily sang along, clapped to the beat, and, in many cases, got up and danced with joy arm in arm with staff and excited middle-schoolers. The Marion and Aaron Gural JCC’s goal to enhance the quality of life of members of our community was realized this Yom HaAtzmaut in an uplifting and moving experience no one will soon forget.

Holocaust survivor Cantor Sol Mitgang leads the Hatikva

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HANC High School Yom Ha’atzmaut Celebration: A Day to Remember

ANC High School imbues a love of Medinat Yisrael in each and every student,

which was evident in the display of passion and love for Israel at the school’s annual Yom Hazikaron commemoration and Yom Ha’atzmaut celebration on May 11 and 12. On Wednesday, May 11, the 3rd of Iyar, the entire high school gathered in the auditorium to honor the memories of fallen Israeli soldiers and victims of terror who gave their lives to defend our Homeland so that

we can visit and live without fear. Mrs. Penina Aronowitz, Chairperson of the Ivrit Department, organized a moving program for Yom HaZikaron together with student volunteers. Students read meaningful poems which were guided by a student-produced multi-media presentation. As is done in Israel on this day, a two-minute siren was sounded during which we felt the solemnity of the day, remembering fallen soldiers. For the conclusion of the program, the entire high school stood for Hatikvah, Israel’s National An-

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them, reminding us of our dedication to Medinat Yisrael. The connection to Eretz Yisrael was evident the following day, Thursday, May 12, the 4th of Iyar, when the high school gathered to celebrate Yom Ha’atzmaut. In honor of the 68th birthday of Israel’s Independence, HANC High School welcomed two guests to celebrate Yom Ha’atzmaut. The first was a former IDF tank commander, Ron Weinreich, who was seriously injured in the second Lebanon war when his tank was buried under a collapsed building. After recovering from his injuries, and learning to deal with his new life in a wheelchair,

he moved to California to pursue his music dream. His inspirational story, his singing, and his call to action to defend Israel on college campuses left an indelible impression on all our students. The students and faculty then participated in an incredible, spirited chagigah and concert by Eitan Katz and band which culminated with a moving kumzitz. The ruach and the achdut among the students and faculty were palpable. The day was simply magnificent. Thank you to the Student Life Team for all their time and effort in making Yom Ha’atzmaut 5776 a memorable day for all.

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Hero from Israel’s War of Independence Addresses Rambam

r. Sydney Rabinovich, a 93-year-old veteran of World War II, was the keynote speaker at Rambam Mesivta’s Annual Yom Ha’atzmaut assembly. Rabbi Eliach, Rambam’s principal, opened the program by speaking about the unbelievable accomplishments that Jews made in “transforming the desert into blooming metropolises.” Accompanying this, Rabbi Eliach played a number of videos about Israeli innovations and achievements, which were nothing short of inspirational. The students heard how scientific advancements have been used not just to build Israeli society but to benefit so many countries in the world at large. With an emphasis on the religious significance of the day, its miracles and our obligation to recognize Hashem for providing us with this gift after 2000 years of persecution, he said, “Hodu la’Hashem ki tov,” and explained why so many people both in Israel and in the States say

Hallel. Rabbi Eliach mentioned that in the religious Zionist community in Israel, Yom Haatzmaut is joyously celebrated like Chanukah. Rabbi Zev Meir Friedman, Rosh Mesivta of Rambam, introduced the next speaker, Mr. Rabinovich, as a true hero who helped in the establishment of Medinat Yisrael by volunteering to fight immediately after he finished his army service in the United States. “We take everything for granted,” he explained. “If you want to go to Israel we call up a travel agent and book a flight. Mr. Rabinovich did not have that luxury. There was no El Al, there was no State and he didn’t have to go. Yet, Mr. Rabinovich chose to go, took a boat and stood ready to sacrifice his life for Klal Yisroel.” The talmidim rose in respect when Mr. Rabinovich was introduced and sat mesmerized during his whole presentation. He spoke about the difficulties of the battle, the paucity of weapons

available to the Jews, the overwhelming enemy forces they faced, and the miracles that took place. Upon the conclusion of his remarks he stopped and offered, “Wait, I have one more story to tell.” He then recounted how he was assigned to infantry, Air Force and Navy “depending upon the needs of the day.” While in the Navy, the few boats that the Israelis had were confronted by a destroyer and a battleship named the King Farouk. He said there was no way to fight the overwhelming forces given their military advantage. The Israeli forces had to swerve and constantly be on the move to avoid the Egyptian shells being fired at them. “One night we were given the order to withdraw and soon woke up to hear that the King Farouk had sunk.” The withdrawal of the Israeli boats was a decoy to give the Egyptian ships a false sense of security. “What happened was, Israel had developed an under-

water torpedo that could be carried by frogmen, so our guys took the torpedo, jumped into the water and swam towards the Egyptians and fired – that was the end of the King Farouk.” The boys rose and applauded the heroics that took place in the battle of 1948 and the valiant dedication and bravery of a 93-year-old devout, Orthodox Jew who lives in Queens ... and is the proud grandfather of Rambam’s 10th grade student, David Rabinovich.

HALB Lev Chana Celebrates Israel’s 68th Birthday

he words “Am Yisroel chai” were shouted over and over again on Thursday, as the children of HALB Lev Chana Early Childhood Center celebrated the 68th birthday of the State of Israel. As they alighted from their buses and carpools, our children pointed significantly to their blue and white clothing and then stopped and stared at the many Israeli flags hanging around and in trees, on doors and windows, fluttering and flapping in the wind. Huge smiles could be seen on their faces as they entered Lev Chana to begin the day-long festivities. Passports were distributed, checked and stamped because, after all, how can we travel to Eretz Yisroel without proper identifi-

cation? The children carefully boarded their planes/classrooms, found their seats, and davened Shacharit. Their tefillot and Hallel were even more meaningful as they talked about how important the Land of Israel is to them and the world. Our kindergarten children did a magnificent job preparing and decorating the back room so that their friends could get a taste of Eretz Yisroel. Our first stop was Arrivals and Customs at Ben Gurion Airport, designed and created by Morot Debra and Abby’s class, where our tourists were questioned as to their purpose in visiting and how long they intended to stay. Then a hop on a bus to visit three of the main cities in Eretz Yisroel:

Tzfat, Eilat and Yerushalayim, and a kibbutz. Our children meandered slowly through the cobbled streets of Tzfat, gazing at the beautiful colorful artwork created by Morot Dawn and Lauren’s class. After a “long bus ride,” our children relaxed on the pristine beaches of Eilat, designed by Morot Sheila and Sherry’s class, and took a glass-bottom boat ride so they could gaze at the many colorful fish. They refreshed themselves with oranges at Morot Blimi and Ruchie’s class’ Kibbutz Lev Chana, helped milk a cow and picked some vegetables and fruit. Their final stop was a visit to our beloved city of Yerushalayim, conceived by the children in Morot Anita and Tali’s cIass. The children davened

at the Kotel, enjoyed a shopping spree at Machane Yehuda and Ben Yehuda Street, and enjoyed some delicious pastries at one of the many outdoor cafes. Our children went home with souvenirs to remember the places they visited. What a great tour! T hroughout the day, we smelled the delicious aromas of baking pita bread, frying falafel balls and cut-up Israeli salad. They tasted as yummy as they smelled! Could a Yom Ha’atzmaut celebration be complete without the blue and white cookies and the melodious music of Gary Wallin!? Our children and morot danced, swayed and sang together, concluding with the tefillah, “L’shana habaah b’Yerushalayim habenuyah!”

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Yom Ha’atzmaut at Shulamith

fter joining the Middle Division for an early morning program, the Lower Division of Shulamith enjoyed a day of visiting different sites in Israel. The girls rotated between ten different stations. They enjoyed squeezing fresh orange juice and eating crispy Israeli pickles at the shuk, while at the theater, they acted out a story about new immigrants building the State of Israel. A third station offered a photo booth where the girls took selfies and then decorated frames proclaiming, “Love, Happiness, and Peace.” There was also a game show about Israeli agriculture, a game about Yom Haatzmaut in the computer lab, and the chance to sing Israeli songs together. At the “Israeli Museum,” the girls saw an exhibit of Judaica and artifacts, and at the clothing boutique they learned about tzniut fashion. They also learned about flowers in Israel and made flower pens, “toured” Kever Rachel and made red “ayin

hara” bracelets, and marched off to Tiranut (boot camp) where they were inducted into basic training as Israeli soldiers. The success of the program was in large part thanks to Morah Breindy Wahrman’s attention to detail and to the achdut and enthusiasm of the entire Lower Divison faculty.

Yom HaZikaron and Yom Ha’atzmaut at YCQ

t was a week of celebration and remembrance at the Yeshiva of Central Queens. To commemorate Yom HaZicharon, Bnai Akiva visited the school. In order to teach students about the daily struggles faced in Israel every day and to help students create a greater connection to fallen soldiers and terror victims, Bnai Akiva set up multiple stations that introduced students to family members of a lost soldier or a terror victim. Students learned how important it is for us to support our soldiers and our Homeland. A grade 4 choir led by Mrs. Tali Spector, our music

teacher, performed beautiful and meaningful Hebrew songs for their parents and participants at Congregation Eitz Chaim during their Yom HaZikaron program. The fourth graders hosted grades K-2 with an Israeli Fair where younger students learned all about Eretz Yisroel and got to take a make believe trip there. There were events for students throughout the day, with flag making and other activities to celebrate our independence. The entire school got to enjoy an Israeli dance and a concert in the yard.

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A Greater Appreciation for the Miracle of the State of Israel at HAFTR

s Jews around the world celebrated Yom Haazmaut, Israel’s Independence Day, our HAFTR High School students who participated the Abe Scharf z”l HAFTR Poland Mission were treated to a special Yom Haazmaut dinner program at Chosen Island by Mr. and Mrs. Marty Scharf. Rabbi Gedaliah Oppen, principal of Judaic Studies, began the event by relating a story from the Ponovicher Rav, who, while standing in front of the Arch of Titus during a visit to Rome, proclaimed: “Titus! Titus, where are you now? You thought you would destroy klal Yisroel, but just look around, there is nothing left from you, but an isolated stone structure, while klal Yisroel is here alive and vibrant, and I am standing here representing Am Yisroel and Torat Yisroel.” Rabbi Oppen continued, noting that “in Poland, we stood at the same place where Hitler ym”sh and thousands of Nazis stood spewing their venom of anti-Semitism hoping for the eradication of the Jewish nation. And yet, there we were, a group of yeshiva students, proclaiming, ‘Where are you enemies of Israel and where is klal Yisroel?’ The star that you tried to make a badge of shame we raise

high with pride proclaiming that Am Yisroel, Torat Yisroel and Eretz Yisroel will always survive and endure.” The students also shared thoughts and reflection of their experience and the lessons they learned from this important mission, as well as their gratitude to Mr. and Mrs. Scharf for making this mission possible. One of the students, in response to the profound impact of this mission, announced that she now realized the importance of studying in Israel and thus would be attending seminary there next year. Another student related that upon returning from the mission, as he was speaking with his parents, he discovered that he is a direct descendant of one of the Rabbis of Tykocin,

a shtetel whose Jews were massacred. Senior students Rebbe, Rabbi Moshe Hubner, explained to the students why it is essential to daven at the kevrei tzadikim, thereby deriving inspiration and strength from those who were closer to the source, matan Torah. Mr. Scharf concluded the program by stressing the fact that we have an obligation to pass down, m’dor l’dor, from generation to generation the history and mesora of our people. This year’s faculty and students participating in this important mission were: Rabbi Gedaliah Oppen, Rabbi Moshe Hubner, Mrs. Melodie Scharf, Reb’ Yehudis Oppen, Mr. Yehuda Moseson, Dr. Marvin Wer-

tenteil, Rabbi Boruch Oppen, Shoshana Bach, Ashley Baruch, Henny Berkowitz, Andrew Bokor, Nery Braver, Caleb Brown, Hannah Chaikin, Tzvi Gettenberg, Alyson Glaubach, Jason Glaubach, Kelly Goldman, Shaindy Goldsmith, Yoni Kastner, Deena Kopyto, Ezra Lent, Yisroel Mindell, Coby Neumann, Chaya Oppen, Ayelet Rosenbloom, Allison Scharf, Yehuda Segelnick, Arielle Sharafi, and Jeremy Solomon. Each participant, in their own way, returned touched intellectually and emotionally with a renewed commitment to perpetuating the memory and legacy of those lost, those who survived and all of klal Yisroel and Eretz U’Medinat Yisorel.

Memorable Day of Celebration at Shulamith Middle Division

hanks to the leadership of eighth graders Rivka Bennun, Meira Steiner, and Shira Zelefsky, students of the Middle Division enjoyed a fun day of activities in celebration of Israel. Under the direction of Mrs. Rachel Steiner, Director of Student Activities, the trio spent weeks preparing five fabulous booths. The girls showed great initiative and followed through on all aspects of

the multi-faceted event. They even stayed in school with a team of students for close to two hours on the night before the event, decorating the hallways with posters featuring places in Israel, Israeli flags, and a giant Kotel. During the course of the day, each student visited five stations. They decorated cupcakes; paid a virtual visit to the Kotel via a PowerPoint

presentation and wrote notes to be placed in the Kotel; played an Israeli trivia game complete with buzzers; and learned a daglanut dance taught by Adee Black, Tamar Davies, Rachelle Gelbtuch, and Kayla Wilamowsky, who were patient and encouraging with every group all day long! The fifth station offered students the opportunity to create a giant flag by writing messages of their love for Is-

rael on the carefully outlined areas of the fabric. The flag was displayed at the end of the day when the entire school gathered outside, and plans have been made to bring it to the Celebrate Israel parade where, in just a few weeks, our students will again have the chance to proclaim their love of the Land!

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Exclusive Screening of OHEL’s Rising from Divorce Film Draws Large Crowd and Much Emotions

large group of divorced women from Williamsburg and Boro Park and other yeshivish communities attended an exclusive screening for Sister to Sister members, which was generously hosted by the JCC of Marine Park. OHEL’s groundbreaking film drew welcome applause, and many felt that the acute challenges faced, especially by women of divorce, are still unknown and unappreciated by most in the community. The screening was followed by an insightful and engaging panel discussion with Dr. Hindie M. Klein, OHEL’s Director of Clinical Projects, and Dr. Mark Banshek, both featured in the film. While the film has been screened in hundreds of locations and seen by thousands, this was the first time a screening was held for just a closed group of divorced women. Many of the women in attendance asked difficult and poignant question that

raised the profound and many challenges they and their children face in the community Yehudis Robinson from Sister to Sister commented, “I believe the women felt validated, heard, and came away with much chizuk.” The questions and the depth of the issues raised cut to the very raison d’être of OHEL’s Rising from Divorce initiative. A chief objective of the film is to raise awareness and empower the especially non-divorced members of the community – friends, educators, Rabbinic leaders – with the different responsibilities and tools they can utilize to help better ensure that parents of divorce and children of divorce can better thrive in the home, the school, the synagogue and the community. Derek Saker, OHEL’s Director of Communications and Executive Producer of the film, remarked that “this unique screening for just di-

Front left to right: Dr Hindie M. Klein, Yehudis Robinson, and Shaindy Shain; back, left to right: Derek Saker and Dr. Mark Banshek

vorced women where we heard their pain and challenges drove home ever more the communal imperative for individuals to step forward to better help single parents and children of divorce in the community.”

For more information, to see the trailer, or to host a screening of the film in your community, please visit http://www.ohelfamily/risingfromdivorce.

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Breakfast for Rabenstein Learning Center and Weiss Vocational Center to Take Place this Sunday

A rebbi and talmid at the Rabenstein Learning Center of Yeshiva Darchei Torah

he Rabenstein Learning Center and Weiss Vocational Center of Yeshiva Darchei Torah are internationally recognized as peerless intervention programs turning around youth who had been positioned for failure. Where does one find these programs? Although they are physically located on the Melohn Campus of the Yeshiva, their true heart lies in the students who, with the help of dedicated rabbeim and teachers, gain the necessary confidence to achieve academic success. A Breakfast Reception will be held in support of the Rabenstein Learning Center and Weiss Vocational Center

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at the home of Mr. and Mrs. Nachum Futersak, 1 Boxwood Lane, Lawrence, New York, on Sunday morning, May 22, at 9:30 a.m. Rabbi Elya Brudny, Rosh Yeshiva at the Mirrer Yeshiva, will offer divrei bracha. The Rabenstein Learning Center’s trailblazing role in Jewish education for 35 years has not only offered countless opportunities to the children of our community – it has also become an invaluable resource for yeshivos and Bais Yaakovs throughout the country and throughout the world. On any given day, a call can come in from California or Eretz Yisrael with a distraught parent seeking a solution for his or her child. They call because they are seeking answers, and they find them in the warmth and support of the Center’s staff members. The Center is led by Mrs. Jill Kay, whose warmth and professionalism is a source of inspiration to everyone at the Yeshiva. Bearing the great imprint of its founders, Rabbi Yaakov Bender and Mr. Norman Rabenstein, the Center is committed to helping each child reach his full potential. The children are helped through resource room assistance as well as self-contained classroom instruction. Teachers confer regularly with the Center’s staff to help students succeed in modified learning

A scene at the Weiss Vocational Center of Yeshiva Darchei Torah

programs created and monitored by outstanding professionals. Academic challenge is courageously met and often overcome. The Weiss Vocational Center was founded by Rabbi Yaakov Bender and complements an outstanding limudei kodesh education with a well-rounded secular program that also includes career-oriented technical classes. The program is named after Mor and Deborah Weisz, who were known as great baalei chesed before and during World War II. Besides Mor Weisz’s tremendous efforts on behalf of the individual needy, he established several charitable enterprises. One was a free kitchen for poor people, which began as a special Shabbos kitchen for those who had nowhere to go for their Shabbos meals. He also established two separate vocational programs in Hungary addressing the need for shomer Shabbos jobs. He personally housed young men to whom he taught his trade of baking in addition to other vocations. He also placed all these young men, once trained, in jobs by urging businesses to hire them. It is truly fitting that the Yeshiva’s vocational center bears their names. Housed on the Yeshiva campus, the Weiss Vocational Center is a singular role model for other yeshivos

throughout the country. Students are offered a variety of technical courses as part of their general studies program. Technical courses include woodworking, construction, plumbing, electrical training and home wiring. Courses offered in conjunction with Mesivta Chaim Shlomo’s General Studies program are computers, science, global studies, English, math, and business math. Classes are kept small to maximize student involvement and accomplishment. A related program is the Weiss Institute for Continuing Education, designed to equip unemployed and underemployed men and women of the community with new skills that will enable them to rejoin the workforce. Courses offered include: bookkeeping, computer skills, electrical technician and plumbing. The Yeshiva cordially invites the entire Far Rockaway/Five Towns community to join in this special opportunity to support the education of our children – all of our children – so that no child is left behind. Toward that goal, Yeshiva Darchei Torah is eternally committed. For more information, please contact the Yeshiva at 718-868-2300 ext. 219.

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The Power of Lag B’Omer – Kollel Chatzos Nighttime Learning Captures the True Essence of Rabbi Shimon bar Yochai

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s Lag B’Omer approaches, hundreds of thousands of people are preparing to gather in the storied hills of ancient Meron to celebrate the yartzheit of Rabbi Shimon bar Yochai. There they will dance, sing, light fires and cut little boys’ hair, partaking in the joyous and uplifting traditions of the day. Tucked away on a quiet street, en-

trance #9, in house #56, in the shul of Rabbi Naftali Friedman (special Lag B’Omer location), the talmidei chachomim of Kollel Chatzos, Meron, will be celebrating Lag B’Omer with the ultimate fulfillment of the essence of Rabbi Shimon: Torah learning throughout the night. Unlike the thousands who have traveled to the kever of Rabbi Shi-

Lag B’Omer 2015 at the Lag B’Omer location (52 Meron, Israel )

mon for just this one night, the members of Kollel Chatzos gather every midnight throughout the year at the kever in Meron (as well as in three locations in the United States). As the rest of the world sleeps, they immerse themselves in vibrant Torah learning, bringing zechusim and yeshuos to klal Yisroel. “In the Zohar, Rabbi Shimon bar Yochai states over and over, more than 130 times, that chatzos halaila is such a special time to learn,” explains Rabbi Nechemye Hoffman, Founder and Director of Kollel Chatzos. “Between the Kollel Chatzos locations in the United States and the one in Meron, Torah is being learned 24 hours a day.” As a bochur learning in Eretz Yisroel, Rabbi Hoffman visited Meron on Lag B’Omer and left with a small set of Zohar. The numerous references to the tremendous gadlus of learning Torah through the night kindled something within him and he began waking at midnight to study Torah. Once back in the United States, he married and settled in upstate New York with a regular day kollel schedule. Yet he sorely missed his nighttime learning, and with the support and encouragement of his wife, he founded the first Kollel Chatzos. Four years later, each location has a waiting list. There have always been those who feel a deep connection to segulos and yeshuos and Lag B’Omer at the kever of the holy Rabbi Shimon bar Yochai has long been revered as a source of powerful potential bracha. But for anyone with a true understanding of the immense tzidkus of Rabbi Shimon and the brilliant light of Torah he brought to the world, there can be no

greater way to mark his yartzheit than by immersing in Torah learning. Rabbi Shimon Halperin, Rosh Kollel of Kollel Chatzos Meron, expounds. “People come to Meron from across the country and across the world. At the kever there is a huge commotion with dancing, davening, Tehillim, singing and upsherin going on. The Kollel Chatzos talmidei chachomim, who are sitting quietly and learning the entire night; they are truly connected with Rabbi Shimon bar Yochai, fulfilling his holy will.” As more and more people across the globe reach out to support the nighttime Torah learning of Kollel Chatzos, the recognition is growing of the enormous bracha inherent in supporting continuous, 24 hour a day, Torah learning. Kollel Chatzos partners continuously share their amazing stories of yeshuos, refuos and besuros tovos that came to fruition after they began supporting the nighttime Torah learning of the Kollel. “When people hear the power and zechus of supporting Kollel Chatzos, and the yeshuos it brings, they realize that there is definitely a koach to supporting Torah being learned b’chatzos halailah,” shares Rabbi Hoffman. You can reach the ultimate level of bracha this Lag B’Omer and throughout the year by supporting the nighttime learning of Kollel Chatzos in Meron as well as Brooklyn, Monsey and Monroe. Contact Kollel Chatzos today for special Lag B’Omer partnership options. 1-855-CHATZOS (242-8967) or 1-718-887-9114 info@chatzos.org 46 main St. #104, Monsey, NY 10952, www.chatzos.org.

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Assemblyman Goldfeder Hosts TAG Eighth Graders at State Capitol in Albany

he eighth grade class of Torah Academy for Girls were treated to a very special civics lesson, courtesy of Assemblyman Phil Goldfeder. On their end-of-year trip to Albany, the students received the

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Serious Wines or Not, Rosés have Arrived By Gabriel Geller

hile the BBQ season is around the corner and the warm days of the spring and summer have finally arrived, it is time to stock up on one of the most refreshing types of wine: rosé. Rosé is often not considered serious wine and is criticized sometimes as being some off product of red wines with no complexity. Some rosés are indeed like that, simple quaffing wines, and there’s nothing wrong with that. Why not drink a simple, yet delicious and refreshing rosé out on the porch on a beautiful and sunny day? But – and there’s a but – some rosé wines are in fact much more interesting than they may appear and can be a great conversation starter. Rosé wines can pair well with many dairy or fish dishes, and therefore would be more than ade-

quate for Shavuot. Rosé wines can be made in different manners and styles. There are the light and delicate, rosé wines from the region Côtes de Provence which is thought of as the birthplace of rosé. These wines have a feminine aspect to them and feature lots of elegance with floral and mineral characteristics. The new Château Roubine is most surely the best kosher rosé from Provence. It is one of very few great classified growths (Grand Cru Classé) from this region, as well as the only kosher one. It has a pale, bright salmon pink color, as well as aromas and flavors of spring flowers, grapefruit and freshly picked strawberries. The structure offers stoney minerals and great balancing acidity. This a wine that would pair very well with fish dishes or pasta with a creamy sauce. From Israel, there is the new

Psâgot Rosé. The touch of winemaker Yaacov Oryah is clearly shining in this wine, made more in the style of the Rosés d’Anjou. With a heavier body and delicious flavors of watermelon and ripe raspberries, this scrumptious wine would work quite nicely with fresh salads such as guacamole and babaghanoush. Some dishes, such as spicy tuna tartare or lasagna with parmesan and red pepper, would have their flavors highlighted and balanced by some subtle sweetness. And this is exactly what is offered by wines such as the Baron Herzog Rosé of Cabernet Sauvignon or the Pacifica Rosé from the Columbia Gorge in the state of Washington. With a fruit-forward and fresh profile, these delightful, slightly offdry rosés would make for an amazing combination of flavors and could turn a simple meal into a real party! The Goose Bay Blanc de Pinot Noir

is another fantastic rosé wine. This special wine from New Zealand features the refreshing, vibrant red fruit aromas that one would expect from a medium-bodied, new world rosé, along with the typical flavors of cherries and currants of Pinot Noir. Excellent for a BBQ with bratwurst sausages or grilled chicken wings, it would also be a classy accompaniment with veal and asparagus on Shabbat or yom tov. Rosé is not just a hot trend for the warm season; these usually inexpensive wines have such great versatility that they can be enjoyed throughout the rest of the year as well, with or without a meal. And with the growing selection, it is now easier than ever to find the perfect wine(s) for your taste and for your guests. L’chaim, cheers!

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The Dream of Jewish Unity Becomes Reality By Yossi Wolf

t’s rare to find a kehillah that is able to positively impact all segments of klal Yisroel. Within any family there are differences of opinion and each has their own unique family dynamic. BJX is a family that broadens itself to incorporate many dynamics and persuasions. More importantly, BJX is a kehillah, a veritable Hakhel, that unifies and unites all types of Yidden, from the heimish baalei batim, to those with absolutely no background and every stripe in between. Rav Yitzchok Fingerer along with his brother, Rabbi Moshe Fingerer, of the BJX Beis HaMidrash and kehillah, run diverse programs to inspire all sectors of klal Yisroel. The rabbis organized Passover sedarim for unaffiliated collegiate and young professionals in Brooklyn, while simultaneously inspiring families and individuals in the Crowne Plaza hotel in Stamford, Connecticut. Unique Shabbosim Each Shabbos families from the BJX kehillah host unaffiliated students from the BJX educational branches and divisions. “BJX is more than a place to go to pray or study, it is family,” explained Max Hurwitz, a student. “It is amazing to see the students at the Shabbos meal express their immense admiration for Rabbi Fingerer, saying he is like a real father to them,” said Reb Azriel Zakheim. “Rabbis Fingerer are sweet, genuine, caring people,” explained Max. Special Programs Last week, Rabbi Moshe Fingerer planned a magnificent Israel event honoring several BJX students who served in the IDF. These soldiers, previously unaffiliated, were active in the Tank Brigade and the Special Forces. They’re now committed members of the BJX family. Mr. Moshe Zicherman, an Israeli, inspired a packed house with his message of love for Eretz Yisroel. Mr. Zicherman said, “I can’t stop marveling at the accomplishments of BJX. I’ve never seen anything like it.” Everyone enjoyed a delicious Shwarma buffet with Israeli food. “The program was amazing,” enthused an unaffiliated student. “I saw secular students asking for yar-

mulkes and reciting brachos. The energy was incredible. Where else do you see this? The rabbis’ warmth towards the students made a big impression on me. The students love them,” said a mentor who popped in. One formerly unaffiliated Israeli soldier, who is now Shomer Shabbos, runs a company in Manhattan. He brought his unaffiliated family who was visiting from Israel. “It’s crazy, but each week I pack up my bags and leave Manhattan just to spend Shabbat at BJX. I love this kehillah,” he said. One of the reasons people are willing to walk long distances to daven in the BJX Beis HaMidrash is because of the enthusiastic davening and the positive energy that permeates the Beis Midrash. “BJX is not only a mecca for the unaffiliated, but also for those who are affiliated, but feel disconnected and need a spiritual reboot,” exclaimed Ezriel Rovt. “The davening at BJX is not just for the unaffiliated Jew. It’s really amazing for anyone wishing to increase his kavanah and get an injection of inspiration and spirituality. Through the beautiful musical davening, you really feel that this is a place in which all Jews are accepted and a feeling of achdus pervades the shul,” said Reb Azriel Zakheim. Baalei batim from Chasidish, Yeshivish and modern background call the Beis Medrash their home for Torah, tefillah and spiritual growth. “The Rov’s shiurim addresses halachic and hashkafic issues that speak to our lives. He challenges us to grow and explore our horizons,” said Yosef. Max reflected, “BJX helped me down the path to become the person I was put in this world to be.” Expanding Community Programs In an effort to nip in the bud the off-the-derech phenomenon, BJX ran a successful Avos u’Banim program. Now they’ve initiated a community-wide Pirchei program for boys (ages 7-12) with a simultaneous Pirkei Avos shiur for fathers who drop off their sons. Apparently the word is already out, because this Shabbos there was an overflow crowd. Fathers thoroughly enjoyed the Rov’s enthralling shiur while their sons enjoyed a fantastic Pirchei with prizes,

IDF soldiers with Rav Fingerer and Mr. Zicherman

stories, nosh and learning. “We want to provide boys with positive Yiddishe experiences in a wholesome environment. Kids are exposed to so much stress and potential pitfalls, Yiddishkeit needs to be happy and joyous,” explained Rav Yitzchok Fingerer. Another Typical Shabbos Eddie, a student from Sheepshead Bay, experienced his first Shabbos. According to Rabbi Moshe Fingerer, “I had the privilege of coordinating Eddie’s first Pesach seder this year and he attended our events. The next step was for him to join our Shabbos experience.” “Eddie related at the Shabbaton dinner that he suddenly remembered his grandmother telling him that she spent her Friday nights running from the Nazis who were trying to kill her. He said that he felt so emotional and grateful to be at a loving and beautiful, safe Shabbos meal and not having to deal with the things his grandmother had to deal with,” related Dr. Faygie Zakheim. Dr. Faygie is known as the BJX Mom and is a super dedicated partner of the rabbis. In addition to helping cultivate the students’ growth, she regularly hosts the Friday night Shabbatonim in her home. Eddie had never received a Jewish name and was eager to finally have one. “There was a special event this past Shabbos morning in the BJX Beis HaMidrash,” said Reb Azi. “Although we ended the Friday night meal close to 1am, Eddie came to shul to receive his new Jewish name, Shlomo,” enthused Dr. Faygie. “Watching Eddie get his Jewish name, encircled by people singing, dancing and rejoicing with him, was such an uplifting scene,” said Reb Azi Zakheim. Eddie and other students then had a delightful

seudah celebrating this momentous milestone at the home of dedicated BJX members, Mordechai and Avigayil Jaffa. A Kehillah for All Types of Yidden Mark, an unaffiliated Flatbush young professional who joined the BJX Shabbaton, talked about his love for his newfound “family.” He never really felt connected to his fellow Jews before. “He felt that he could connect on a deep level with everyone at the table,” said Dr. Faygie. “We’ve watched BJX grow into a real community of growing, intelligent, and caring individuals who join together under the loving and wise leadership of, morah d’asra, Rabbi Yitzchok Fingerer,” explained Reb Azi. “BJX is a spiritual body shop where souls are entirely transformed,” exclaimed Mr. Rovt. The rabbis and Chairman Moshe Caller are constantly working towards enhancing the community with important programs. BJX is a kehillah unlike any other. BJX is open each day for shiurim and inspiration. The BJX helpline (646-3971544) has helped numerous community people cope with challenges and find solutions. In addition to offering chizuk for frum people through their seminars, videos and CDs, they run a variety of educational programs for secular and unaffiliated collegiate and YJPs, work with kids-atrisk, have a new division for seniors from local public schools, encourage disconnected chassidim to make the transition back to Yiddishkeit, and have a Beis Medrash where Torah, tefillah and ahavas Yisroel come to life. The BJX organization is a conglomerate of so much. Indeed, BJX is a rare and exceptional kehillah.

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Midreshet Shalhevet Scholarship Dinner

Rina, Daniel, Rafi and Jeff Ganeles, Rosh Mesivta Rabbi Zev Meir Friedman, Assistant Principal Mrs. Shaindy Lisker, and Menahelet Mrs. Esther Eisenman

Rabbi Yaakov Feitman, Mickey and Malkie Hyman, Gayil and Rivka Hyman, Kelly and Shmully Allman, Midreshet Shalhevet Assistant Principal Mrs. Shaindy Lisker, Rosh Mesivta Rabbi Zev Meir Friedman, and Menahelet Mrs. Esther Eisenman

Yonatan, Michal, Tamar, Sari, Azi, Shira and Jeffry Beer

idreshet Shalhevet honored Guests of Honor Jeffry and Shira Beer, Parents of the Year Mickey and Malkie Hyman, and Teacher of the Year Jeff Ganeles at its Seventh Annual Scholarship Dinner on Sunday, May 15 at Temple Hillel in North Woodmere.

The Scholarship Dinner, the cornerstone of the school’s scholarship campaign, was a great success this year, ensuring Midreshet Shalhevet’s ability to provide the best Orthodox Jewish high school education. The dinner commenced with a dvar Torah by Rosh Mesivta Rabbi

Jeff Ganeles, Shira and Jeffry Beer, Senator Todd Kaminsky, and Mickey and Malkie Hyman

Zev Meir Friedman, followed by Menahelet Mrs. Esther Eisenman. The awards were preceded by beautiful moving remarks by Mr. Shmuly Allman, the Hyman’s son-in-law, Tamar and Michal Beer, and Mr. Ganeles’ senior students respectively. Senator Todd Kaminsky made

time in his busy schedule to stop by and address the parent body and guests. Thank you to all who made the dinner a success.

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At SKA’s Yom Chaverut, orientation for the incoming class of 2020, girls were able to learn more about the school, enjoyed getting to know each other and some of the faculty, and then ended the day with a sweet treat.

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Gedolei Yisrael Attend Dirshu Daf HaYomi B’Halacha Siyumim Throughout Eretz Yisrael By Chaim Gold

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person who learns Gemara with Tosafos for three hours a day but does not learn practical halacha has not fulfilled his obligation of talmud Torah. The obligation to learn Torah must include halacha l’maaseh!” Those were the powerful words of HaGaon HaRav Yosef Shalom Elyashiv, zt”l, as quoted by his close talmid, HaGaon HaRav Yosef Yekusiel Efrati, at Dirshu’s Daf HaYomi B’Halacha siyum on Chelek Aleph of the Mishnah Berurah held on Motzoei Shabbos, Parshas Kedoshim in Kiryat Sefer. The siyum, held at the Heichal Haneginah Hall in Kiryat Sefer and attended by more than 1,500 people, was one of many major gatherings held in Eretz Yisrael in honor of the milestone of finishing Chelek Aleph of Mishnah Berurah. In addition to

Rav Efrati, the siyum was also addressed by HaGaon HaRav Shmuel Yaakov Borenstein, shlita, Rosh Yeshiva, Yeshiva Kiryas Melech of Bnei Brak, and HaGaon HaRav Shmuel Eliezer Stern, shlita, Rav of Western Bnei Brak and a talmid muvhak of HaGaon HaRav Shmuel Wosner, zt”l, and Rav Dovid Hofstedter, shlita, Nasi, Dirshu. Milestone siyumim were similarly held at the main Vizhnitzer Beis Medrash, where the Vizhnitzer Rebbe, Rav Yisroel Hager, shlita, addressed more than 1,500 Chassidim; in Kehillas Hamasmidim where HaGaon HaRav Eliezer Yehuda Finkel, shlita, Rosh Yeshivas Mir Yerushalayim, spoke; at the Toldos Avrohom Yitzchok Beis Medrash, where the Toldos Avrohom Yitzchok Rebbe, shlita, attended and addressed the crowd; and in the Vizhnitz Monsey Beis Medrash of Eretz Yisrael where the Rebbe’s son

HaRav Shmuel Eliezer Stern, talmid muvhak of Rav Wosner zt’l, at the siyum in Kiryat Sefer

HaGaon HaRav Boruch Shimshon Hager, shlita, addressed the crowd. Rav Shmuel Eliezer Stern Highlights Rav Wosner’s Role in Dirshu Rav Shmuel Eliezer Stern described the special place his rebbi muvhak, Rav Shmuel Wosner, had in his heart for Dirshu and the deep personal bond that he shared with Dirshu’s Nasi, Rav Dovid Hofstedter. When referring to Rav Dovid, Rav Wosner would always quote the pasuk, “And Hashem was with him.” He referred to Dirshu as the largest yeshiva in the entire world. Dirshu’s Nasi, Rav Dovid Hofstedter, gave a comprehensive address. He opened his remarks by pointing out the profound simcha that is gripping Yidden throughout the world at this pivotal accomplishment of finishing Chelek aleph of Mishnah Berurah by learning one page of Mishnah Berurah daily. He said, “From Yerushalayim to Monsey, from Johannesburg, South Africa, to Buenos Aires, Argentina, from Paris, France, to Gateshead, England, and from Melbourne, Australia, to Providence, Rhode Island, Yidden are celebrating a tremendous accomplishment that is a testament to the eternal nature of Klal Yisroel!” Rav Shmuel Yaakov Borenstein: “Halacha L’maaseh Offers Clarity that Infuses the Learner with Simchas HaTorah” The climax of the event in Kiryat

Sefer was the moving address of Rav Shmuel Yaakov Borenstein, Rosh Yeshiva of Yeshiva Kiryas Melech. Rav Borenstein pointed out that learning halacha l’maaseh offers a clarity that infuses the learner with simchas haTorah. When a person has simcha, that simcha brings him to dveikus in Torah and a love of Torah that serve as a catalyst for increased kabbolas ol malchus shomayim and kabbolas ol mitzvos. Rav Borenstein explained that learning Chelek Aleph of Mishnah Berurah is truly a manifestation of kabbolas ol malchus shomayim. One learns the halachos of the morning brachos, tzitzis, tefillin, and then the halachos of kriyas Shema and tefillah, all of which are halachos that depict how a person is constantly cognizant of Hashem’s presence in his life throughout the day! The Vizhnitzer Rebbe and 1,500 Chassidim Celebrate Siyum One of the most heartwarming siyumim was the siyum in the main Vizhnitzer Beis Medrash in Kiryat Vizhnitz, Bnei Brak, attended and addressed by the Vizhnitzer Rebbe, shlita. Over 1,500 Vizhnitzer chassidim from all over Eretz Yisroel converged on the beis medrash for the event. In his remarks, the Rebbe said that every chassid should have a pocket copy of the Mishnah Berurah in his tefillin or tallis bag so that he can constantly reference the Mishnah Berurah when faced with a halachic question. The Rebbe encour-

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Partial view of the participants at the Dirshu Siyum in Vishnitz

aged all the chassidim to join the Daf HaYomi B’Halacha. In fact, the greatest testament to the Rebbe’s deep bond with the program is the fact that his own son, HaRav Yaakov Mordechai Hager, shlita, delivers a daily one hour shiur on Daf HaYomi B’Halacha in the main Vizhnitzer Beis Medrash in Bnei Brak. Rav Eliezer Yehuda Finkel Addresses Kehillas Hamasmidim Siyum The Kehillas Hamasmidim, led by Rav Aryeh Leib Minzburg, also encouraged all of its affiliated batei medrash to learn Daf HaYomi B’Halacha. Their siyum merited to hear divrei chizuk from HaGaon HaRav Eliezer Yehuda Finkel, shlita, Rosh Yeshivas Mir-Yerushalayim. Rav Finkel could not stop expressing his admiration at how the entire kehillah joined the program and merited finishing Chelek Aleph. Toldos Avrohom Yitzchok Rebbe: “Everyone Who Has a Connection to This Beis Medrash Should Learn the Daily Mishnah Berurah” The Toldos Avrohom Yitzchok community similarly held a beautiful siyum in their main beis medrash in Yerushalayim. At the siyum the Rebbe said that it is an eitzah tova, a good idea, that everyone who has a connection to this beis medrash should learn the daily Mishnah Berurah. The Vizhnitz Monsey Kehilla of Eretz Yisrael also held a siyum led by their Rav, HaRav Baruch Shimshon Hager, shlita, son of the Vizhnitzer Rebbe of Monsey and

son-in-law of the Vizhnitzer Rebbe, Rav Yisroel Hager of Bnei Brak. Rav Hager encouraged all chassidim to join the program. During Rav Hofstedter’s visit to Eretz Yisrael to celebrate the siyumim he paid a visit to the Belzer Rebbe, shlita. The Belzer Rebbe conversed with Rav Hofstedter at length about Dirshu’s worldwide activities and expressed his deep admiration and bracha for the worldwide harbotzas haTorah which is to Dirshu’s credit. The Daf HaYomi B’Halacha Revolution in South Africa The siyumim were not limited to Eretz Yisrael. One of the most beautiful, heartwarming siyumim was the siyum held in Johannesburg. The festive occasion celebrated the community’s embrace of the program and each participant received a soft cover Mishnah Berurah on the first part of Chelek Beis as well as a Daf HaYomi B’Halacha calendar. The pure joy on the faces of those in the community who – for the first time in their lives – had the experience of completing an entire Chelek of Mishnah Berurah was palpable throughout the hall. In fact, one participant said, “I never knew how much my life could change simply from attending a daily, half hour shiur!” That thought is being echoed by people across the entire Jewish world!

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The Legacy Lives On: Forty-Ninth Annual Dinner for Yeshiva Shor Yoshuv By Liba Lieberman

he power to mold a nation begins with one person at a time. Yeshiva Shor Yoshuv’s legendary founder and Rosh Yeshiva, Horav Shlomo Freifeld, zt”l, deeply understood the implication of that truth, and opened Shor Yoshuv using the principle from Proverbs 22:6—“Educate a young man according to his way, and when he is old, he will not depart from it.” At the time of its opening, the yeshiva was a haven for unconventional yeshiva students and assimilated youths, both of whom were drawn to the Rosh Yeshiva’s warmth and vast Torah erudition. That compelling combination of being warm as well as being a talmid chacham became the trademark of Shor Yoshuv’s rebbeim, and continues to this day as one of the great hallmarks of the yeshiva. The upcoming forty-ninth Annual Dinner for Shor Yoshuv Institute, to be held on June 6 on the yeshiva campus,

celebrates the yeshiva’s continuity of purpose with the theme, “The Legacy Lives On,” as well as commemorating the twenty-fifth yahrtzeit of its beloved founder and Rosh Yeshiva. All those decades ago, Rav Freifeld came to Far Rockaway as a rebbe of Yeshiva Chaim Berlin, which for a short period of time relocated to the peninsula. When Chaim Berlin decided to return to Brooklyn, Rav Freifeld discussed with his Rosh Yeshiva and mentor, Rav Yitzchok Hutner, zt”l, the idea of forming a new yeshiva with a number of his students, who he felt would benefit from a smaller and more personal approach to limud haTorah. Rav Freifeld opened Yeshiva Shor Yoshuv with eighteen of his own students whose spiritual needs were embedded in his own heart. It became known that a new kind of yeshiva had opened in Far Rockaway, and soon assimilated as well as disaffected yeshiva youth began showing up on the yeshiva’s doorstep. Following the

educational philosophies of his own rebbe, Rav Hutner, Rav Freifeld set in motion an example of reaching out by reaching in which has been copied many times throughout the world. It worked then, and it works now. Today’s bochurim of Yeshiva Shor Yoshuv speak with the same fondness and appreciation for the yeshiva that characterized its earliest talmidim. Ariel Sonnenblick explains, “The closeness and warmthkeit of the yeshiva allows for growth. The Rosh Yeshiva makes himself available. Even though he is a huge talmid chacham, he makes himself available to the bochurim of the yeshiva.” The respect for each bochur’s individuality is reflected in this yeshiva member’s reflections. Binyamin Safrin points out, “Shor Yoshuv is very open. You are led in the right direction, but you can be who you are. There are guys here from all over the world, from Brazil, from France. You’re learning with guys who are often more advanced than you are in learning. It’s both challenging and inspirational. That’s what Shor Yoshuv is. People who want to learn are here because they want to learn, not because they are part of a system.” Of course, the biggest draw are the rebbeim themselves, who are the living embodiments of the philosophy of inclusion and warmth to be celebrated at the upcoming dinner. Yeshiva member Leon Mayer, shares, “There are great rebbeim in the yeshiva. The warmth that was always the trademark of Shor Yoshuv is the main draw to go here as opposed to anywhere else.” As is the learning itself, so poignantly expressed by another member of the yeshiva community, Andy Stimmel. “The learning is so deep. Having a yeshiva which is friendly and warm is a plus, but we’re here to learn Torah. That’s the ikur. When you join the shiurim and speak with the rebbeim, that‘s even better than the warmth. That’s the real warmth.” This year’s Dinner has a roster of honorees led by Rabbi and Mrs. Avraham Mordechai Freifeld, who will be receiving the dinner’s Mesores HaTorah Award. Rabbi Freifeld is upholding his esteemed father’s vision as Rosh Kollel of Yeshiva Cheshek Shlomo in Yerushalayim, spiritually guid-

ing members of his bais medrash with the same warmth and respect for each bochur’s individuality that characterizes Yeshiva Sh’or Yoshuv. Mr. and Mrs. Andy Gladstone are the recipients of this year’s Kesser Shem Tov Award. Andy is a valued alumnus who has served as the yeshiva’s loyal gabbai for many years. The Harbotzas Torah Award is being given to Rabbi and Mrs. Zev Bald, loyal kehilla members who are not only deeply valued within the yeshiva, but are also well known for their caring efforts for all of Klal Yisroel. The dual values of honoring Torah while also honoring individuality were the yeshiva’s original raison d’etre, and have remained its guiding principle throughout decades of growth and expansion. The types of students have changed, and will continue to change, as the needs of Klal Yisroel grow around in an ever challenging world. What has remained constant throughout the years, however, are the open doors of Yeshiva Shor Yoshuv, ready and willing to teach Torah to anyone ready to commit himself to Limud HaTorah. The range of bochurim continues to include seasoned yeshiva bochurim as well as newly minted baalei teshuva, all of whom merge into a single unit of committed bnei Torah within the walls of the yeshiva’s bais medrash. They come to be molded into new and better Yidden in the expert hands of Yeshiva Shor Yoshuv’s rebbeim, and remain with these rebbeim, some for decades, as they evolve. And as they evolve, so too does Am Yisroel, for whom these rebbeim toil, to create a holy nation dedicated to give its heart and soul to the Ribono Shel Olam through the timeless pursuit of limud haTorah. The yeshiva invites its extended community of families, supporters, and friends to attend this year’s forty-ninth Annual Dinner commemorating the yarzheit of Rav Shlomo Freifeld, as well as celebrating the new generations of Yeshiva Shor Yoshuv as they work further into the twenty-first century carrying the yeshiva’s time honored mission to include and uplift the hearts and souls of Klal Yisroel. To make a reservation or place an ad, please call 516-239-9002, ext. 102, or e-mail admin@shoryoshuv.org.

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Medal Rain for Kosher Wines in Prestigious Competitions By Gabriel Geller

wards, top ratings, and gold medals keep flowing for kosher wines from all over the world. Over the last couple of weeks, the results of two highly-regarded wine competitions have been published, proving once again that kosher wines compete very well with the best wines in the world. The Golden Cluster competition is the most respected of its kind in Israel. Every year, a jury composed of winemakers, wine writers and sommeliers reviews hundreds of the latest released wines entered in the race for the coveted gold and silver medals. The Tabor Adama II Zohar won a gold medal at the Golden Cluster. This original blend of Chardonnay, Roussanne and Colombard is as original as it is excel-

lent, with aromas and flavors of fresh pear and citrus fruit. PsĂ˘got winery can be reassured of having made the right choice when they hired the talented Yaacov Oryah as their new head winemaker. And Oryah can be proud, as the Chardonnay he made was selected among the top 3 Chardonnays. It is not so much of a surprise for those having tasted it as this delicious wine is mouth-watering with its flavors of lemons, apples and a touch of fresh butter. Zion winery was awarded a gold medal for its Armon as one of the best red blends. A full-bodied wine with aromas of dark berries, herbs and chocolate, it is an impressive

achievement as this category is one of the most competitive for Israeli wines. Netofa, Shiloh, Carmel, Teperberg, Bazelet Hagolan also won some well-deserved prizes in recognition of the quality of their wines. Earlier this week, it was the 2016 Tasters Guild International Wine Judging that published its ratings. This competition counts among the most professional ones in America, as over 35% of the wines are randomly reevaluated to ensure the accuracy of the awards. Herzog Wine Cellars, from California, scored some impressive results this year, as four of its wines won gold

and double gold medals. The Herzog Anniversary Edition Camouflage, a great and innovative field blend from 12 varieties grown in the Herzog familyâ&#x20AC;&#x2122;s vineyard, won a gold medal. Gold medals were also awarded to the Baron Herzog Chardonnay as well as to the Baron Herzog Old Vines Zinfandel. These wines collect awards and the highest accolades almost every year. The Baron Herzog Chenin Blanc won the double gold medal. This delightful wine, which represents fantastic value for money, is a constant crowd-pleaser and a winner at professional tastings and competitions. If these wines are so much acclaimed by the professional tasters, does it mean they would appeal also to the amateurs and occasional drinkers as well? Thereâ&#x20AC;&#x2122;s only one way to check: Try them out!

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Centerfold kidding

A Texas rancher was visiting a farmer in Cuba. The proud Cuban showed him around.

“Yes, yes, this is really all mine!”

“Here is where I grow tomatoes, cucumbers, and squash.

“Well, Sam,” said the

Over there I built a playset for my kids, next to the doghouse,”

Texan, “back home I’d get

the farmer said.

in my car before the sun’d

The land was tiny, and the Texan was surprised by its small size. “Is this all your land?” he asked. “Yes,” the Cuban said proudly. “This is all mine!” “You mean this is it? This is all of it?” the Texan said incredulously.

come up and I’d drive and drive and drive, and when the sun set, why, I’d only be halfway across my land!” “Oh, yes,” replied the Cuban farmer. “I have a car like that too.”

You Know Your Car Is Real Old When…  People behind you change lanes to keep your oil off their windshields.  Tractor trailer drivers are afraid to pass you.  Passengers can only exit through the driver’s door.  You keep a broomstick in your trunk to hold it open when you get something out of it, otherwise it will slam you in the forehead.  Your tires have more patches than Patch Adams.

 The seats are so worn out that they put a “spring in your sit.”

 It has an Andrew Jackson election bumper sticker and it’s not a relic.

 You get an EPA citation for having an oil spill in your driveway.

 There is more duct tape on the seats than on the Pesachdik boxes that your family has been using for the past 25 years.

 You leave it running at night because you are afraid it may not start back up in the morning.  You are on a first name basis with AAA.  Your check engine lightbulb has burnt out from overuse.

 It makes the Flintstones’ mobile look futuristic.

 Your odometer reads like the Powerball jackpot announcement.

 Everything makes noise but the horn.

 When you turn the radio on, it plays the Brooklyn Dodgers.

 When you step on the brakes, it’s just a suggestion.

 The warning on the mirror says: “Horses in the mirror are close than they appear.”

 It inspired Henry Ford to do it better.  Instead of going to the gym, you use the window crank for 20 minutes a day. (Sorry “millennials,” you don’t know what a window crank is – you don’t know what you’re missing out on.)  It has no roof, but not because it’s a convertible.  You have to move it indoors when it rains because it’s not waterproof.

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Yankees Trivia

Trivia on Your Favorite Team – Hopefully! By DOVID Y. FOXBRUNER

1. Who had the most home runs while they were on the Yankees? a. Alex Rodriguez b. Babe Ruth c. Joe DiMaggio d. Lou Gehrig

c. Mariano Rivera d. David Cohen

2. Who had the most hits while they were on the Yankees? a. Lou Gehrig b. Joe DiMaggio c. Derek Jeter d. Tino Martinez 3. Who had the most stolen bases while on the Yankees? a. Derek Jeter b. Brett Gardner c. Rickey HenderSam d. Alex Rodriguez 4. Which pitcher has the most postseason wins? a. Andy Petit b. Roger Clemens

Riddle me

5. How many perfect games do the Yankees have in their history? a. 1 b. 2 c. 3 d. 5 6. Which of the following Yankees do not have a perfect game? a. David Wells b. David Cohen c. Don LarSam d. Roger Clemens 7. Which of the following teams were the Yankees chasing for the 2015 AL East Pennant? a. Boston Red Sox b. Tampa Blue Rays c. Toronto Blue Jays d. Baltimore Orioles

Answer Key: 1-B 2-C 3-A 4-A 5-C 6-D 7-C Reality Check: 0-1 correct: You are a Red Sox fan 2-3 correct: You follow baseball 4-5 correct: Hey there, fellow Yankees fan! 6-7 correct: Congratulations! You are eligible for the Yankees fan Hall of Fame – I told you they were your favorite.

this?

Four friends have to get through a dark tunnel. They must use a torch to get through the tunnel. David can make it in 1 minute, Moe in 2 minutes, Sam in 4, and Jack in 5 minutes. No more than 2 people can go through the tunnel at one time, moving at the speed of the slower one. How do they all make it to the other side if they have a torch that lasts only 12 minutes? See answer below

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Answer to riddle: First Moe and David go (2 minutes). David then comes back (3 minutes). Sam and Jack go (8 minutes). Moe goes back to the other side and brings the torch to David (10 minutes) .They both then go together (12 minutes).

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Special Attention to Special Needs at Achiezer By Tammy Mark

n the fall of 2012, as Hurricane Sandy devastated homes across the Five Towns community, one organization stood out in its relief efforts. Helping people throughout the region with emergency needs big to small, the Achiezer organization quickly became a household name. Achiezer is now well known as the go-to resource for all those in crisis. Achiezer founder Rabbi Boruch Ber Bender is always looking for meaningful ways to meet the expanding needs of the community. On May 31, Achiezer will be hosting the SpecialCare+ Expo 2016. This groundbreaking, one-ofa-kind event will be geared towards helping the growing special needs population. The expo will provide a unique opportunity for parents and caregivers to learn more about the resources available to them, including education, insurance, legal services, and emotional and medical support. Featuring vendor booths and workshops, there will be representatives offering information on adult planning, advocacy, family resources, specialized equipment, extracurricular programs and more. Joel Kaplan is the Executive Director of the On Our Way Learning Center, an early intervention center located on the Yeshiva Darchei Torah campus, and Joel has partnered with Rabbi Bender in

creating this initiative. Kaplan saw the need for greater community support and was confident that Achiezer would be able to tackle it. “They have broad shoulders,” says Kaplan. Well-established organizations like OHEL, Kulanu, HASC, Friendship Circle and CAHAL will be represented at the expo, along with the Lawrence Public Schools and several other programs and vendors, totaling upwards of

guide parents and caregivers towards the proper resources for their particular situation. While some people are just becoming concerned about their child’s development and are seeking basic information, others may already have children in special education programs but are looking to determine what the next step is in his or her education. There will be information on placement options for younger children at the beginning

many outstanding organizations and institutions that work in the special education sphere, Rabbi Bender explains that, working in line with Achiezer’s general mission statement, they are not looking to reinvent the wheel, but rather to coordinate and bring together all of these wonderful possibilities under one roof. “I don’t think we will solve every problem at this conference, but we do intend

The expo is for every type of concern a parent may be facing regarding the child’s development.

20 participants. An impressive lineup of professionals will be lecturing, providing expert advice, and insight on many topics. There will also be opportunities for speaking one-on-one. Event organizers chose the centrally located Congregation Beth Sholom in Lawrence due to its accommodating space and parking availability, looking to make the event as welcoming and comfortable as possible. The venerable Benjamin Brafman, Esq. will serve as the honorary chair of the evening as this initiative is an issue he cares deeply about. The primary goal of the SpecialCare+ Expo will be to

of their educational journey and advice on handling complex issues of special education students entering high school, as well as the needs of those beyond school age. Attendees will leave with a resource book in hand and contact information for follow up questions. Rabbi Bender and the team at Achiezer planned the expo based on real questions they have encountered. Wanting to address special needs support for a while, Esther Novak, Achiezer’s Intake Coordinator, led the team with extensive research to determine how best to take it on. Noting that there are

to bring a lot of information together,” Rabbi Bender explains. Rabbi Bender stresses that the expo is for every type of concern a parent may be facing regarding the child’s development – a child that is just on the autism spectrum, a young adult that may need to go into a group home, or even a somebody trying to get a Medicaid waiver to get special expenses covered – there is no issue too big or too small. “A conference like this, bringing together all of these organizations under one roof, has never ever taken place. The unity being brought out

by the 20-plus organizations all joining together to help parents is amazing,” Rabbi Bender conveys. Always seeking to fill in the gaps, Achiezer held a similar event in November 2015 on the subject of elder care. The ElderCare Plus Conference was a tremendous success with many hundreds of people in attendance. He is hoping to see similar success at the SpecialCare+ Expo. Looking towards the future, Achiezer has plans to increase programming options for the special education population, hoping to organize gatherings for parents with information and inspirational speakers to address whatever other voids there may be in regards to special needs. Rabbi Bender believes that the topic of special needs has not gotten its due attention. He and Kaplan hope that this event will be the stepping stone for so much more. Says Kaplan, “The best way to start is to start.”

Achiezer’s SpecialCare+ Expo 2016 will take place in Congregation Beth Sholom, in Lawrence, New York, on May 31 beginning at 6:30PM. Gourmet Glatt will be sponsoring a gala buffet dinner. For more information about the SpecialCare+ Expo 2016, or any of Achiezer’s other programs and resources, please call 516-7914444 ex. 113, email specialcare@ achiezer.org, or visit www. achiezer.org/specialcare.

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Torah Thought

Parshas Emor By Rabbi Berel Wein

he Torah commandment regarding the counting of the seven weeks between the holidays of Pesach and Shavuot appears in a timely fashion in this week’s Torah reading. Over the many millennia of Torah study and commentary numerous ideas have been advanced as to the import and meaning of this

commandment. Nevertheless, it is obvious that the simple meaning and apparent lesson is that we are to appreciate all of our days, weeks, months and years. Time remains the most precious of all gifts granted to human beings. Taking notice of its passage is certainly an effective way of making us

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aware of its importance. In Jewish tradition, this period of time marks the progress of the Jewish people, in our early history, from a nation of slaves to a chosen and holy nation. There are many forms of slavery present today and neither the world nor the Jewish people are completely free from all of them. This seven week period is meant to indicate the necessity for emancipating ourselves from the bondage that the material world constantly inflicts upon us. Counting our days is a method of elevating them so that we always see ourselves serving a higher purpose and not merely groveling in the dust of a purely materialistic way of life. It is interesting to note that the Torah demands from us complete, full and whole days and weeks. Making our days truly meaningful is not a halfhearted project. It has to have within it the element of complete perfection in order to make it a spiritual journey and not just a mechanical one. Jewish law teaches us that if we omit counting even one day during this period of time, we have – to a certain extent – forfeited the necessary observance of the commandment. Lost time and lost days can never be made up…another important lesson that this period of time teaches us. By their very nature, human beings are procrastinators. We put off what could be accomplished today and assign its performance to a later date. We are told in Avot: “One should never say that later in life when I have time, I will then study.”

The rabbis warn us that if we wait we might not have the time, the opportunity or even life. The future is the most uncertain thing that life presents before us. That is why the count of this period of weeks is always the count of what

Lost time and lost days can never be made up…another important lesson that this period of time teaches us.

was and is, and not the count of what is yet to be. There is much that we can learn from the past and much that we have to do to exploit the present, but the future remains beyond our reach. The important lesson to be learned from this period of the year is that life often intervenes and mocks our hopes regarding the future. So this period of time, when we count the days, is most instructive as to how our lives should be lived and our behavior determined. Shabbat shalom.

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The Observant Jew

Close Call By Rabbi Jonathan Gewirtz

hen “someone” dropped my phone, cracking the screen, I knew I’d have to keep my eye out for a good deal. In the past, I’d gotten a promotion for a phone with upgraded memory and extra data in the plan. As I often use the phone for Waze, the popular traffic-sniffing but data-munching GPS program, that comes in handy. I figured I’d hold out until I got something worthwhile, then go for it. Unfortunately, the phone must not have known that was the plan as it cracked further and then stopped responding to touch. I managed to get it backed up but it was a goner. I went to a store one evening in Florida, where I was visiting at the time, and told them which phone I wanted. There were no deals going on and because they were not a Verizon store, but only a reseller, I was stuck when they told me their price was $10 higher than the price I’d seen Verizon advertise. When I asked him to match it, he said he couldn’t do it, but I was getting faster service than I would at the store. It was late in the evening and I didn’t want to run all over town. I took it, although I was a bit annoyed. But it got worse. A few days later, when I was back in New York, I got a call from the store. They’d misplaced my paperwork and needed me to send it to them. Needless to say, I hadn’t brought the paperwork back with me. A few minutes later, my phone was out of service! I was very upset

by this and called Verizon from another phone. It took perhaps an hour, but they reconnected my phone to the network and determined that the contract didn’t cause the problem. The store called me back and said he had an idea but would have to reach out to his sales rep at Verizon the next day. He e-mailed me the contract which I signed and submitted a day later. He made some calls on his end, I turned off the phone, and half an hour later the ordeal was over. However, because of the delay, a promotion was now going on, and because my contract was just signed, I was eligible for the new deal! I thought about the situation and realized that if I’d have had the opportunity to wait for the new promotion, I wouldn’t have realized how Hashem was orchestrating everything. How often does it happen that a store loses the paperwork? That never happens! And yet, in this case, I couldn’t get the deal through my own efforts, but I got it nevertheless so I would recognize that the “deals” I get don’t come from my own acumen, but from my loving Father who is always working for me. It reminds me of a story I’d heard some time ago: A wealthy wood merchant came to R’ Chaim of Volozhin for advice, explaining that all his wealth was in danger of being lost. He had sent a huge ship laden with wood to a foreign country, but the authorities were not allowing the wood to en-

ter the country. In fact, they were threatening to sink the ship if it didn’t leave the border of the country. R’ Chaim reassured the man, “Don’t worry, you’ll see. The salvation of Hashem is like the blink of an eye!”

He doesn’t just “let nature take its course” but rather ensures that we get exactly what He wants us to get at every moment. The reason the “rich man” sees this less often is because he sees his efforts and he sees success. He cor-

How often does it happen that a store loses the paperwork? That never happens!

On that day, the price of wood rose dramatically, and later that day, the authorities finally allowed the merchant’s ship to enter the country. The wealthy man returned to R’ Chaim, beaming with happiness. He said, “Rebbi, today I experienced hashgacha pratis (Divine intervention)! If the authorities hadn’t delayed me, I would have received the original price for the wood. The delay actually turned out to be beneficial; I ended up earning significantly more money because of it.” R’ Chaim sighed, “This is the difference between a rich man and a poor man. The poor man sees the hashgacha pratis of Hakadosh Baruch Hu every day. The rich man, only once every few years.” Hashgacha pratis really means that Hashem is, in fact, micromanaging our lives, but in a good way.

relates the two. Therefore, Hashem sends reminders every so often that the success is not because of his brilliance but because of His beneficence. That’s the message I got from my phone. And you know what? I’m glad I made the connection.

Jonathan Gewirtz is an inspirational writer and speaker whose work has appeared in publications around the world. You can find him at www.facebook.com/ RabbiGewirtz, and follow him on Instagram @RabbiGewirtz or Twitter @ RabbiJGewirtz. He also operates JewishSpeechWriter.com, where you can order a custom-made speech for your next special occasion. Sign up for the Migdal Ohr, his weekly PDF Dvar Torah in English. E-mail info@JewishSpeechWriter. com and put Subscribe in the subject.

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Between the Lines

Making the Omer Count By Eytan Kobre

“Don’t count the days; make the days count.”— Muhammad Ali

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love Saturdays,” a wise man once opined. “So I did some math one day. The average person lives about seventy-five years. I multiplied 75 years by 52 weeks per year to get 3,900, the number of Saturdays in an average lifespan. By that time, I was fifty-five years old, and I already had seen over 2,800 Saturdays. So if I live to 75, I’d have only about a thousand Saturdays left to enjoy. “That day, I went to a toy store and bought every marble they had. I visited two more toy stores and did the same, until I had a thousand marbles. I took them home and put them in a large, clear container. Every Saturday, I take one marble and throw it away.” And then came this morose but sobering thought. “There is nothing like counting your time to get your priorities straight.”

The counting of the Omer tells us just that. A special barley offering was brought in the Bais HaMikdash on the second day of Pesach to celebrate the first new grain crop of the year (Vayikra 23:15-16). From that day, 49 days were counted until Shavuos, at which time another special offering was brought from the new wheat crop. To be sure, our present-day counting of the Omer commemorates these offerings. But it also recreates the Jewish people’s first journey – one that was both physical and spiritual. The physical journey was the trek from Egypt to Mount Sinai. Commemoration of this physical journey endows these days with inherent meaning, akin to the days of Chol HaMoed between Pesach and Shavuos (Ramban, Vayikra 23:36). But there was a spiritual journey as well – from spiritually-bankrupt slaves to a godly people worthy of the Torah we were to receive upon reaching our destination (Sefer HaChinuch 306; Ran, Pesachim [end]). And inasmuch as the Jew-

ish people used these days to purify and elevate themselves in preparation for accepting the Torah, we are likewise encouraged to use these days to elevate ourselves. Indeed, some associate each of these 49 days with one of the 48 qualities through which the Torah is acquired, refining one trait per day, with the 49th for review (Avos 6:6; Alei Shur II pg. 397). This aspect of the Omer counting – the spiritual progression of each and every day – explains why we count up (1, 2, 3, etc.) instead of down (49, 48, 47, etc.). When we long for some future event like a rocket launch or a vacation or the end of a school year, we count down to the event because the counted days are unimportant; we want them to pass as quickly as possible. The days of the Omer could not be more different; they are meant to be days of introspection, not a sentimental passing of time but a process of development. Each day has value and meaning, so we count upwards. The Omer days are thus a microcosm of, and a met-

aphor for, the days of life. There can be no worse feeling than that “all our days pass away in Your fury; we waste our years like an utterance” (Tehillim 90:9); rather, we ask G-d to “teach us to count our days that we may acquire a heart of wisdom” (Tehillim 90:12; Shemos Rabba 25:13). Shortly before his passing, Rabbi Samson Raphael Hirsch, put it this way: “All the happiness man is capable of attaining lies in the blissful certainty that he has lived all his years, days, hours, and minutes on earth in loyalty to G-d, and that he has faithfully done his duty throughout that time. He who knows how to appreciate this kind of bliss, who measures the total worth of his life span accordingly, and who knows how to utilize every moment of his existence for the faithful service of his G-d will find the true purpose of his life in every moment that he spends on earth. And whenever G-d sees fit to call him away, he will heed the summons, serene in the thought that he has happily reached the goal for which he was

created. Therefore: ‘Teach us how to number our days,’ how properly to seek that bliss which we are capable of acquiring during the 24 x 60 x 60 seconds of each day…” (Rabbi Samson Raphael Hirsch, Klugman, pg. 341-42). And, at its core, that is the reason we must count seven “perfect” weeks (Vayikra 23:15). “When are they perfect? When the Jewish people do the will of G-d” (Vayikra Rabba 28:3). The weeks are perfect only if we use them to make strides towards achieving personal perfection. The Dubno Maggid explains with – what else? – a parable. Two paupers went door-to-door seeking charity: one saved much and spent little, gathering pennies into nickels, nickels into dimes, and so on until his pockets were stuffed with dollar bills; the other spent the money collected almost immediately. That’s the difference between spiritual washouts and champions. Washouts lack the continuity that connects one day to the next. They squander away their

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days. Champions make each day count. Avraham, for one, “came with his days” (Bereishis 24:1), because he made the most of each and every one (Vayikra Rabba

store with the store’s cashier. At day’s end, both count the money in the register. But the cashier’s counting is detached – the goal is simply to report to the owner. The

not be the detached counting of the cashier but the very personal counting of one with a personal interest in the significance of the days being counted.

They are meant to be days of introspection, not a sentimental passing of time but a process of development.

28:6). Days turn into weeks, weeks turn into months, months turn into years, and years become a lifetime of accomplishment and fulfillment. You see, there’s counting and there’s counting. Compare the owner of a retail

counting of the owner, on the other hand, is personal – it is, after all, the owner’s money being counted (R’ Shlomo Yosef Zevin, Vayikra 23:15). That is why the Omer counting must be “for yourself” (Vayikra 23:15; Menachos 65b). It should

Napoleon once met a colonel of a Hungarian battalion who had been taken prisoner in Italy, when the colonel mentioned he had fought in the army of Maria Theresa (long before Napoleon was even born). “You must be rather on in

years,” Napoleon remarked. “I’m sure I’ve lived sixty or seventy years.” “You mean to say,” Napoleon continued, “that you have not kept track of your years?” The colonel replied, “Sir, I count my money, my shirts, and my horses. But as for my years, I know nobody who wants to steal them, and I shall surely never lose them. What sense is there in tracking them?” It is precisely this cavalier attitude that the counting of the Omer cautions against. So much of life is spent in anticipation. If only I can make it to the next weekend, the next vacation, the next holiday, the next special occasion. The days in between are neglected.

The Omer counting beckons to us with an alternative. It challenges us to focus on each day as it comes. To make the most of it. To use it to progress, to evolve, to develop. To connect each day to the one before it and to the one after it. Days then become weeks. Weeks become months. Months become years. And the years accumulate to that blissful life to which we all aspire. In other words – to paraphrase “The Greatest” – don’t just count the Omer; make the Omer count.

Eytan Kobre is a writer, speaker, mediator, and attorney living in Kew Gardens Hills. Questions? Comments? Suggestions? E-mail eakobre@ outlook.com.

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Israel Today

Smoked Out By Rafi Sackville

he Knesset recently amended new legislation against smoking on school grounds. The language couldn’t be clearer: it is forbidden to smoke in “every place in an educational institution, including courtyards, and outside the school grounds to a distance of 10 meters.” The legislation doesn’t stop there. An attempt has been made to explain why the designation of a smoking area is both undesirable and ineffective. The term secondhand smoke is not used. One is no longer passively caught in smoke. One is now the victim of imposed smoking. Ours is a large school. Two large buildings are connected by a bridge that crosses a busy road. There is much undergrowth that provides hiding places, particularly where hills slope away from concrete paths that encircle both campuses. One of our school guards has been given the task of flushing out the many smokers who squirrel themselves away from view. Over 50% of my class are smokers. Regardless of the weather they are constantly playing cat and mouse with him. One thing my smokers have in common with many other smokers in the country is their blatant disregard for the law. There is no logic to their arguments: “So what?” or “But we want to smoke,” they will invariably answer me when told it is against the

law to do so. Unless they are caught red-handed there is not much that can be done. For example, I was recently crossing the bridge between the two schools when I smelled cigarette smoke. It was raining hard and I could see a congregation of students at the end of the bridge. Two of them were from my homeroom class. When I approached them I saw no signs of cigarettes, but they smelled like chimneys. They laughed it off, but when we do catch them – when they are photographed –they come at us like charging bulls. “Where’s the evidence?” they’ll demand. A mother once called me demanding proof. When informed the school did not have to provide her with a photograph, she claimed that we were specifically hunting her daughter down. This same mother doesn’t mind sharing cigarettes with her daughter. It has been over thirty years since a ban on smoking on buses was enforced in Israel. We had been married a few months and found ourselves traveling on line 25 towards the central bus station in Jerusalem. Keren was pregnant at the time. When the only other passenger on the bus lit up, she asked me to tell him to put it out. It was late at night and from my position at the back of the bus the young man in question didn’t look very friendly. I approached him nonethe-

less and made my request. He looked up at me and blew smoke in my face. I took my complaint to the driver, who told him to extinguish it. He complied, but as I walked passed him back to Keren, he physically threatened me. I thought he’d be waiting for me when we got off the bus together, but he disembarked before us. I was thinking about this in early January after the introduction of the amendment. Research suggests there is a direct correlation between allowing students to smoke somewhere in school and the reduction in violent incidents. I’m not condoning their behavior, but I have seen their agitation at not being allowed to smoke. It is a sorry situation because some of them are truly addicted. It is not educationally efficacious to tell students “no.” All one can do is to present the facts. A guest speaker recently came to speak to our students about alcohol, drug and cigarette abuse. They listened eagerly and continued the conversation after school over a cigarette on the bench some fifty yards outside the school grounds. When I asked them where they get the money to buy cigarettes they tell me they roll their own and the tobacco is cheap. I reminded them that the speaker had gone into some depth to list the number of carcinogens in all tobacco, as well as highlighting that the cheap tobacco they

smoke is generally grown on sewerage water, or that the popular nargillah is up to 100 times more damaging than regular smoke. None of this information fazed any of my students. When I was a teenager my grandmother, Nanny Emma, died at the age of 67. I loved her dearly. Her loss almost

mother’s demise leaves no impression on my students who believe they are invincible. One pointed his finger at me and jokingly quipped that I had more to worry about at my advanced age than he; he who would live forever. At the end of the lengthy amendment the legislation repeats itself in an effort to

When she died, her doctor told my mother that her lungs were like tar-filled sponges.

38 years later still pains me. She was a sophisticated, articulate, and above all loving woman who – had she lived in our generation – might have paid more heed to the dangers of nicotine. She smoked a packet and a half of Peter Stuyvesant a day. They ultimately took a toll on her health. Her entire circle of friends smoked heavily. Emigres from Russia and Poland, they had arrived in Australia in the 1920s. Walking into their Sunday afternoon card games one had to battle through a thick hedge of cigarette smoke that was dizzying to a young boy like me. When she died, her doctor told my mother that her lungs were like tar-filled sponges. The story of my grand-

emphasize the import of its attempt to curb this damaging health hazard. They write that they are looking for “an educational and healthy environment that will help limit the exposure of students to imposed smoking.” I read selections of the legislation to my students one sunny Sunday morning. One of them clapped loudly when I had finished. He announced that it was about time I brought a little humor to the classroom. No matter the language, no matter the content, I later found an entire group of them hidden behind the bushes in a haze of smoke.

Rafi Sackville, formerly of Cedarhurst, teaches in Ort Maalot in Western Galil.

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Israel’s True Colors Impressions of an American Art Promoter By Nachum Soroka

ccording to Pablo Picasso, “The purpose of art is washing the dust of daily life off our souls.” Like most of Picasso’s paintings, that quote may be difficult for most people to understand. But while art’s objective remains ambiguous to many, few have trouble relating to what art does: it invokes feelings of nostalgia and appreciation for beauty. Most importantly, it can create a connection between artist

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and viewer much like the connection created between the artist and canvas when it was drawn. It is Avi Polinsky’s job to help bring about that connection between the Israeli artists he promotes and the clients who come seeking inspiration from those artists’ works. The Far Rockaway native has been an art promoter for over 25 years, representing much of the upper echelon of the Israeli Judaic art scene across the United States. Avi likes to tell the story of a close friend who, while walking down one of Jerusalem’s busy streets around the time of one of the earlier Intifadas, was persuaded by a desperate gallery owner to come in and ultimately purchase a painting. The sale had been made under duress, and it is quite possible that his friend may not have purchased the work had the circumstances been different. But the connection he feels to the artist whom he helped out in tougher times gives the work a

unique meaning to its current owner. In truth, the unfortunate reality for many of Israel’s talented painters is that the Intifada left an unrepaired dent in the market that at one point supported them to pursue their craft without worries. Unlike the artists of Tzfas, who are partly supported by government stipends and practice within a more commercialized, tourist-oriented niche, the art scene in the rest of the country is made up of people who seek to create art for art’s sake and gain notoriety in the art world at large. Much like all skilled artisans, these artists depend on the economics of the art market to allow them to continue practicing. And while the streets of Israel may be full once again with tourists, according to Avi, there are far fewer people today spending time shopping in the galleries than there were before the current uprising. It is up to promoters like Avi to introduce communities outside Isra-

el to the works of many of the talented artists in Israel. He represents a diverse group, ranging from secular European immigrants to a Charedi mother of fourteen who is married to a rosh kollel. If there would be one theme that runs across the works of those he represents, it would be their quality. Avi’s job is not to tell a client what is nice or inspirational – after all, beauty is in the eyes of the beholder – but, having been gifted with a discerning eye, he is able to spot quality and the types of works that would appeal to potential clients. Tamar Finkelstein, the aforementioned classically trained, Charedi mother whose parents urged her to pursue private art lessons as an alternative to studying in a mixed classroom, is one such artist whose work radiates quality and subtlety in detail. In one painting, sunlight, in varying hues, spills across the floor of an Old City shul in which a father and

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son are studying, realistically depicting the natural light of mid-morning Jerusalem. While many of her contemporaries may complete works in a smaller timeframe, hers can take a few months to complete; such is her deliberate stroke and unhurried attention. Finkelstein’s thoughtful approach applies to the projects she undertakes as well. Avi once had a client who insisted on commissioning a work that would allow him to “see Gan Eden,” a welcome order of business for almost any master. But when Avi approached Tamar with the lucrative proposal, she flatly refused to depict something that the Torah explicitly says is indescribable. Such is her attitude towards her art, which she feels must come from a place which is completely genuine. Ultimately, they settled on a piece which would be based on the pasuk, “V’kol hator nishma be’artzeinu,” with many birds across many trees singing G-d’s praises. If it seems that many of the works represented through Avi are just as much pieces of Torah studying as they are art, you may be onto something. Early on in his career as an art promoter, Avi went down to Florida to represent Yonah Weinrib, the Brooklyn artist and calligraphist famous for his illustrations of Torah manuscripts. The work being shown then was Yonah’s illustrated Pirkei Avos, which was heavily based on the Rishonim’s and Acharonim’s explanations of the Mishnayos, and

Avi found himself spending the entire plane ride down to Florida and the subsequent Shabbos deep in the study of Mishnayos just to be prepared to present the work at Sunday’s show. “I called Yonah who was back in Brooklyn and I told him, ‘You don’t know how hard I have to work for you!’” jokes Avi. This coming week Avi will be hosting Yosef Chaviv, who represents a group of six Israeli artists. Chaviv once had a gallery in Jerusalem and

The Judaic art market has made great strides in the past twenty years. These days, frum people are more willing to spend money on a quality work of art than they were a number of years ago. In recent years, Sotheby’s Israel began carrying Judaic works and that has helped the industry gain exposure. One thing that Avi has seen evolve beginning about ten years ago has been people’s tastes. Whereas many customers, particularly those start-

Indeed, the French daily Le Monde likened Besanson to Chagall, though Avi notes that Chagall’s work was not rooted in deep and lofty concepts. now allocates most of his time to offering the works of these artists across the world. His most famous artist is Yitzchak Besanson, a Breslov rosh yeshiva who became frum as a young artist in France after being introduced to Kabbalah and later on to the works of Rabbi Nachman of Breslov. Besanson’s works combine elements of Chagall and Picasso while depicting esoterica from across the Torah and Kabbalah. Indeed, the French daily Le Monde likened Besanson to Chagall, though Avi notes that Chagall’s work was not rooted in deep and lofty concepts.

ing out a collection, had been more attracted to the classic, “shtetl-oriented” scenes, such as tashlich or a Rebbe (perhaps because they were used to seeing such art when they were growing up in their parents’ homes), in recent years, customers are seeking more and more styles that invoke feelings of happiness as opposed to nostalgia. These types of works display louder and more varied colors and may have Impressionist influences. Avi quotes a recent study that seventy five percent of the world’s population like Impressionist paintings the most. The spontaneous

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brushstrokes and bright colors appeal to many viewers. As a promoter, Avi’s job is to temper the impulsiveness that people get when shopping for art at a gallery setting. Since he makes house calls, his selection is limited to 40 to 50 works at a time, which means that he has no room to bring along all the filler pieces one may find in a typical art gallery. The best thing he can hear from a client is what someone recently told him when they met at a simcha, “Every Shabbos I sit at my table and enjoy your paintings.” On the other hand, the absolute worst thing he wants to hear is a story someone once told him – that she had bought three paintings on a whim while visiting Israel but when they finally arrived in New York, she absolutely hated them. That’s why shopping for art in your own home is the best way to buy, Avi points out. There are some customers of Avi’s who, while being avid collectors of Judaic art, lead secular lifestyles. One of his now-closest clients was lamenting to him the first time they met, that her son had just left the United States and his high school sweetheart to study at Aish Hatorah in Jerusalem. This woman had a house full of Jewish-themed art and a house full of guests every Friday night and Purim, but she still could not understand what drew her son to religious Judaism. In the end, her son came home frum and made his family frum as well, along with his high school girlfriend. They are

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now married. Being involved in the world of art has allowed Avi to expand his services. He now offers home shopping custom framing, does appraisals of paintings for insurance policies, art layouts and hanging, and works

very closely with interior designers to find that perfect painting for their projects. Working in the art world for over twenty five years has given him the opportunity to design decorative secular art for commercial clients such as some of the tri-state’s largest

nursing homes, boutique luxury hotels, and new condo developments. There may not be anything more daunting in the world for the novice than fine art. It is a field occupied by stuck up critics and snooty auction houses which has most of its stock

owned by the richest members of society. So how does one go about the intimidating task of familiarizing himself with good art and honing his tastes, I asked Avi. “Simple,” he said with a smile. “Just call me.”

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Dating Dialogue

What Would You Do If… Moderated by Jennifer Mann, LCSW of The Navidaters

Our daughter came home from Israel for Pesach. She looked great and seemed to be flying on air! After a few days at home she finally revealed that she met a young man in Israel and was in love! We were shocked to hear this. We had no warning and never expected her to even be associating with young men while there for the year. We can’t even understand how this happened. But somehow they were thrown together at one point while on a trip and according to our daughter, Rachel, it was love at first sight. It’s bad enough that we don’t believe Rachel is particularly mature or ready for marriage. But we were advised to ask her to invite the young man over during Chol Hamoed so that we could at least meet this man. We were totally unimpressed. He is definitely very good looking and a smooth talker, but also very immature and unsettled. From the little we were able to tease out from him, it sounds as though he comes from a very unstable background and a broken home. Yet the two of them seem totally smitten. They couldn’t take their eyes off of one another for a minute. Rachel later shared with us that they want to get engaged as soon as the year ends and get married soon afterwards. Of course, we told her – no such thing! Since that conversation, she has frozen us out. She told us that we don’t understand love and that no matter what we say or do, they are getting married, even if it means doing it on their own without a big lavish wedding, which is something she has always dreamt of from the time she was a little girl. There seems to be no talking to her. The two of them have made up their minds and have big plans for the future, which don’t include our approval at all. We never saw this coming. Until Rachel left for Israel, she was always a good, reasonable child who never acted out in any way. We feel like we are out of our league and don’t know where to go from here. Any suggestions or advice would be greatly appreciated.

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The Panel

The Rebbetzin Rebbetzin Faygie Horowitz, MS

ound up the troops, mom. Get in touch with her teachers in Israel and the adults she is close with here. Do your homework about the boy as well. Find out who his rebbeim are and what his record is. And then devise a plan together with a rav and professionals. Dealing with this situation is going to take skill and outside intervention as well as your own responsibility to be communicative and open. There will be a process to dealing with this situation; there are no immediate solutions since she is adamant and you are presently at an impasse. I imagine that the rabbanim and a therapist will advise you to tell the young couple that you will consider their union if they go into premarital counseling, get jobs, continue their educations, etc. Therapy and rabbinic counsel may also tell you that you have spoiled your daughter and/or not taught her responsibility. Perhaps she has not had a voice at home and is excited about the attention she is getting. With help you will learn to communicate expectations effectively and to handle intransigence by an immature daughter and wild boyfriend. You will need help step by step together with your husband. It’s going to be a process and you will have to invest in a lot of time with your team. This problem is going to take months of dealing with it. No quickie solutions here.

The Mother

aliyah. Moreover, the Rova, bathed in Jerusalem light, can make everyone look more attractive. Not surprising that sweet, reasonable Rachel brought home a six-foot souvenir. And because it was her first taste of independence, her decision (made 6,000 miles from home) is presented with great conviction and drama (“Who needs a lavish wedding?”). The only element that can save the situation (aside from the boyfriend’s retreat) is time. Play it cool; play it slow. Tell Rachel you’ve thought it over and you are ready to welcome her beau into the fold. No talk of weddings; simply allow him to come to your home so that she may scrutinize him in the context of your normal, intact family. It’s quite likely his smooth-talking, immature demeanor will unravel during multiple encounters at your Shabbos table or backyard barbeque. Reassure your daughter that, yes, she will have her dream wedding after she returns to college, plans her career and seeks part-time or full-time employment (doesn’t every married couple need income?). Finally, encourage Rachel to reconnect with her social network. Socializing with high school or seminary friends – be it for coffee, at the mall or in the City – can be a welcome reminder of how much fun life used to be (it also leaves less time for dating). Remember, Mom, Rachel’s home; avoid confrontation at all costs. Without the pressure of defending “Mr. Wrong,” and once occupied with school, work, and buddies, Rachel will surely come to her own reasonable conclusion. (Him? What was I thinking?)

The Dating Mentor

Sarah Schwartz Schreiber

o question about it: that seminary year in Israel can be life-altering. The Israeli atmosphere is suffused with holiness and spirituality. Many kids come back on a spiritual high; some commit to kollel or

Rochel Chafetz

hear your dilemma but this can be worked through! First of all, you have to understand that your children are not extensions of you; they are separate individuals who

came into this world with a specific tafkid. Yes, they were put into your family and you were able to give her the foundation and the love, stability and values that were important to you and your family. But you are not in control and you cannot control her destiny. At this point you have to step back and take a different approach – you need to rebuild the relationship with her once again. You need to realize that if you fight her on this you will lose her. So let’s strategize. First you have to express to her that you are a bit shocked and a little disappointed that she did not tell you about this. Tell her that you were taken aback at the situation and never thought she would find her zivug this way. But still, you are willing to get to know him and you would like her to date him more and for him to come to the house and to get to know the family. Ask her questions: what do you like about him? Does he make you laugh? Does he respect your opinions? Do you share the same goals and values? Give her questions to ask him and let her begin to think about the kind of life she would like to live and if he is on the same page. You mention that he is from a broken home. Look around at our community. Many, many homes are broken, either from divorce, death or some type of tragedy. Yes, those are broken homes too. Does that mean we have to nix the poor children who come from those homes? If that is the case, then no one would get married. Ask her about the relationship he has with his family. Get her to ask him these questions and tune in – tell her what to look for. Show her that you are invested in her and want the best. Yes, this may be the one, but you just want her to be sure. Guide her but do not fight her. Many kids from challenging situations are much stronger than those from “perfect” homes. That could be viewed as a plus. Let her know this can be a positive but to be aware of the potential downside as well. You mention that before she left for Israel, Rachel was a reasonable

Moreover, the Rova, bathed in Jerusalem light, can make everyone look more attractive. child who never acted out in any way. She did everything you told her to do and followed along. Well, now that she is asserting her own individuality, who says that she is not a good, reasonable young lady? On the contrary – she is making a decision based on her thoughts and feelings and independence instead of waiting for her parents to call all the shots. However, since this is the first boy she is bringing home, it’s up to you to guide her by giving her the proper tools. Not by telling her what to do and how to act and who to go out with, etc. Perhaps you should even reach out to his parents to get to know them a little bit more. In the end, Hashem runs the world. He created this situation for a reason. Now all you have to do is work with it, embrace it, show your daughter how much she means to you, daven and let’s see where it takes you.

The Single Naomi Hecht

ounds like your daughter fell fast and hard. I’m sure we’ve all heard similar stories of “love at first sight” that actually ended well. Sometimes two immature people meet and feel such a strong attraction toward one another that they can’t imagine not spending their lives together. If they get lucky, and often they do, they grow together in the same direction and it all works out. Though it sounds really scary to watch your formerly obedient daughter disobey you in such a huge way, if this is the real deal, there is probably little you can do to make her see

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things differently. And probably, the more you bad mouth her “beau” or threaten her, the more she will run into his arms. My advice is to buy time. Never say never. However, while allowing

her to go out with him, let nature take its course while she concentrates on her future. If she uses all of her energy defending this guy, she won’t be able to focus and think about other things. If

you don’t give her any reason to defend him, she may very well outgrow him as time goes on, and possibly, she may even some day come to her own conclusion that he isn’t all that wonderful after all. If not, and their relationship stands the test of time, it may not be the worst thing in the world!

She’s the Tasmanian devil right now. You and your husband are going to be the voice of reason and be cool, calm and collected.

Assuming you get the do-over, start asking lighthearted questions. “Where did you meet?” “What do you like about him?” Keep it positive and do not interrogate her. Let her know you’d like to get to know him. Invite him over, try to spend time with them as a couple. There are no guarantees, but the hope is that if your daughter sees you and your husband making a concerted effort to get to know her beloved, then she will be more open to hearing your feedback, questions about finances, school, future plans, etc. And who knows? Maybe you’ll actually get behind this union and embrace this relationship. For now, your goal is to slow things down. She’s in a rush. Rushing to get married, rushing into a fight with you. She’s the Tasmanian devil right now. You and your husband are going to be the voice of reason and be cool, calm and collected. You are going to be the breeze to her whirlwind, the sip to her gulp, the moderation to her splurge. Because we can’t take a peek into the future, I’m sure you are left with a lot of “ifs…” What if he really is a bad guy? What if they are not good together? What if they have no means to support themselves? What if we see horrible red flags that Rachel doesn’t see? Or … what if he is a great guy but we feel they are just too young? What if they move forward with their plans regardless of our input? My hope is that you fall in love with him and everyone rides off happily into the sunset. How-

ever, if push does come to shove, at that point you will probably want to share your “findings” with Rachel. If she insists on getting married with or without you, you can invite her to a family therapy session. Ultimately, as hard as this is for me to say as a parent myself, if we follow the “what ifs” to the very worst “what if,” that she is unhappily married or gets divorced. G-d forbid, you need to know that ultimately you cannot be responsible for her decisions and you weren’t given the ability to protect her from herself or any future pain … a very bitter pill to swallow. Whatever happens, the only thing you can control here is giving her the message that you are her emotional safety net, you are always there for her, and you always love her, no matter what she decides to do. You and your husband may want to consider working with a therapist who can help guide you through this terrain, should it prove to be rocky. Best of luck to you.

Pulling It All Together The Navidaters Dating and Relationship Coaches and Therapists

ant to know how to guarantee that two kids/young adults stay together? Tell them they should be apart. The more you forbid it and draw your line in the sand, the more attractive and enticing Rachel’s relationship will feel to her. Rachel has always been the quintessential “good girl,” following Mommy and Daddy’s rules, going with the flow, living inside the box. Suddenly, she comes back from seminary with a new attitude and a new man. This is the not the little girl you sent off to Israel nine months ago. Once upon a time, perhaps Rachel would have listened and obeyed your ground rules, but today is a new day. If you put your foot down, it is possible that she will carry through with her plans to get engaged and get married, with or without you on board. If she is serious, she can throw together a wedding with no lavish china, no ornate flowers, no ten piece band and no parents. Or perhaps you will be invited and you will attend begrudgingly as bystanders. Have you given any thought to how far you are willing to take this? Are you prepared to lose your daughter to stand up for what you believe is right? It feels to me like the conversation between you and Rachel with regard to this relationship went from zero to sixty in two seconds. She shocked you with the news she

will be getting engaged in a couple of months, and you reacted from your gut, understandably. My goodness, that is like getting sucker punched. She left you no time to process this major, life altering news. Things are heated right now and I understand that she is not talking to you. Clearly, being that she has iced you out, Rachel is holding her ground. She means business. Now that you have had some time for this news to register and process, I suggest that you consider a new strategy because what you are doing isn’t working. Let’s remember, you and your husband are the parents here, and I want you to feel empowered as parents. Do not engage in a power struggle with Rachel. In a power struggle, everyone loses. If you get your way and this guy is out of the picture, you potentially lose your daughter. No one wants that. Disengage from this battle by aligning yourselves with your daughter. As soon as humanly possible, try to get back into her good graces. Here is a potential script. “You know, I think the news of you getting engaged soon put us in a state of shock. We don’t want to fight with you about this. We’re all a team here, a family. We’d love to talk with you and have the opportunity to hit the ‘refresh button.’ Let’s try to have a do-over.”

Sincerely, Jennifer

Esther Mann, LCSW and Jennifer Mann, LCSW are licensed, clinical psychotherapists and dating and relationship coaches working with individuals, couples and families in private practice in Hewlett, NY. To set up an appointment, please call 516.224.7779. Press 1 for Esther, 2 for Jennifer. If you would like to submit a dating or relationship question to the panel anonymously, please email thenavidaters@gmail.com.

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Health & F tness

How to Stop Weight Re-gain By Cindy Weinberger MS, RD, CDN

ith the summer rapidly approaching, everyone is itching to lose a few pounds. It’s time to stop hiding under your baggy sweater and start showing off your figure. It doesn’t help that wedding season is around the corner and many of us have dresses to fit into! However, a problem many of us face while dieting is that after the initial diet starts dwindling down, the weight creeps back up on us. How do we stop regaining the weight that we worked so hard to lose? The main problem with dieting is that many are eager to try unrealistic diet plans. Sure, the diet looks great for a few weeks to make a quick fix, but is it practical? Many weight loss plans include adopting new food patterns and exercise behaviors that are unrealistic to maintain for life. Many are quick to cut out certain food groups, severely restrict calories, and eat the same foods for a few weeks. However, these plans are not feasible for the long run. The best diet is a change of lifestyle and eating habits that will work best for

you at every age and stage. Extreme diets are not realistic when it comes to long-term dieting. Another setback that many of us face while dieting is setting a goal for ourselves. The problem with setting a weight loss goal is that we tend to view it as a “finishing line.” The problem then lies: what happens once we reach that goal? Do we stop the diet? What happens once the diet is ended? What tends to happen is that once one reaches their goal, they veer away from their diet, and the pounds slowly come back. A better idea is to set a more tangible goal such as exercising 3 times a week, or eating salad for lunch 3 days a week, and let the weight loss be the outcome. An additional drawback to dieting is once that number stops dropping and stands still many figure, “If I’m not losing any more weight, then I’m done with this diet.” Don’t stop the diet! Often, after a few weeks of dieting, the number on the scale plateaus, causing a lot of frustration and despair. However, if the diet ends, instead of being maintained,

the pounds will bounce right back on and put all that hard work to waste. Don’t give up if the number stops dropping – just keep going and continue eating healthily. As long as you are not gaining weight, you are doing a great job! Our body naturally tries to fight weight loss and stabilize our weight. There is a theory called “the set point theory.” The set point theory maintains that our body weight is regulated by a feedback system. When we gain weight, a hormone called leptin is released to signal the body to gain weight. When we lose weight, ghrelin is released to tell our bodies to eat more. Naturally our bodies try to stabilize our weight. Dieting goes against our nature, so don’t give up. Keep to the diet and feel satisfied as long as the number doesn’t start to climb again. Lastly, it’s important to be flexible while dieting and always have a plan B. For example, if your plan is to go jogging in the park every day and today is raining, do you throw in the towel for the day or look for an alternative to jogging? Try doing an exer-

cise video indoors or running on the treadmill instead. Set expectations for all of life’s curveballs and always have a backup plan in terms of diet and exercise. To answer the burning question: how to keep the weight off? Find an appropriate, long lasting, achievable diet; set a tangible goal; and be prepared for life’s inevitable curveballs. Stay on track and believe in yourself. Once you lose that weight, make sure it doesn’t come back and find you! Cindy Weinberger MS, RD, CDN, is a Master’s level Registered Dietitian and Certified Dietitian-Nutritionist. She graduated CUNY Brooklyn College receiving a Bachelor’s in Science and Master’s degree in Nutrition and Food Sciences. Her Dietetic Internship was completed under Brooklyn College primarily in Ditmas Park Care Center and Boro Park Center where she developed clinical and education skills to treat patients with comprehensive nutrition care. She is currently a dietitian at Boro Park Center and a private nutrition consultant. She can be reached at CindyWeinberger1@gmail.com.

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Oh No – We’re in the News Again? By Hylton I. Lightman, MD, DCH (SA), FAAP

uesday, May 17, 2016, started off like most days for me: An early morning chavrusa, followed by davening, and then returning home to see the kids before they left for school, breakfast, and catching up on the news. And there it was – another news story featuring Orthodox Jews in a negative light. The topic: New York City health officials investigating a chicken pox outbreak in the Williamsburg section of Brooklyn that has infected over 75 children so far. According to officials, nearly three-quarters of these kids, ranging from infants to children up to 10 years old, had not been vaccinated against the disease. As a pediatrician on the front lines of primary care, it still boggles my mind that parents in the 21st century will not inoculate their children against childhood diseases. Let’s go back several decades to when I was a child and there wasn’t yet a vaccine for chicken pox. Chicken pox is also known as “varicella” as it’s caused by an initial infection of the varicella zoster virus (VZV). Not uncommonly, parents would encourage their healthy child to spend time with a child sick with the highly contagious and uncomfortable disease that is characterized by a rash which is followed by itchy, red, fluid-filled blisters that appear all over the body. Eventually, the blisters turn into scabs. It usually shows up on the face, chest, and back and then spreads to the rest of the body. Generally, it’s accompanied by fe-

ver, fatigue and loss of appetite. Yes, chicken pox can leave nasty scars. It can also be fatal. At one time, chicken pox was common in the United States. It affected about 4 million people annually. Over 10,000 people were hospitalized because of chicken pox, and about 150 people died each year from its complications. Why did parents calculatedly expose their children to chicken pox? The theory was that chicken pox was so rampant, just expose your child to it and get the disease over and done with. Unfortunately, that’s not quite factual because once a person has chicken pox, the varicella virus remains in the body and can cause shingles in adults. Shingles is a painful rash that can affect vision or hearing and remains with a person for years. Further, the shingles virus can be passed to someone who has never had chickenpox. The virus spreads through direct contact with the rash, and cannot spread through the air. Unfortunately, there’s no cure for shingles. I won’t discuss here the pneumonia, secondary skin infections, and central nervous system problems that can result from chicken pox. Think about the repercussions of the havoc which chicken pox wreaks. First, sick children miss upwards of one week of school. A parent caring for a sick child misses work. Further, the incubation period of chicken pox is 14-16 days, with a range of 10-21 days. A child

exposed to chicken pox can be walking around for days, even traveling on airplanes with circulating nonfresh air. This means that babies under 1 year of age and still too young for the varicella vaccine, pregnant women who’ve never had chicken pox, and people with compromised immune systems are at risk.

cinated, you protect others in your community. This is especially important for people who cannot get vaccinated, such as pregnant women. I shudder to think that there are pediatric waiting rooms where non-vaccinated children comingle with babies and children who are not yet vaccinated.

Over 10,000 people were hospitalized because of chicken pox, and about 150 people died each year from its complications.

Thankfully, medicine has moved forward by leaps and bounds and chicken pox is easily preventable. Today, we enjoy the varicella vaccine which has all but eradicated chicken pox. The varicella vaccine is given in 2 doses – the first at ages 12 through 15 months and the second at 4 through 6 years. Yes, there are rare cases in children who have been inoculated with the vaccine and still contract chicken pox. This is the rare exception rather than the rule and when it happens, the symptoms are usually mild – meaning fewer blisters, little or no fever, and quicker recovery. Additionally, when you get vac-

This is a call to action that we vaccinate our children against preventable diseases. Make sure your children’s vaccines are current. Pain, suffering, missing school, missing work – it’s just not worth it. Imagine all the lost productivity being channeled into something good – we can be known positively as a Light unto the Nations.

Dr. Hylton Lightman is a pediatrician and Medical Director of Total Family Care of the 5 Towns and Rockaway PC. He can be reached at www.totalfamily caremd.com, on Instagram at #light manpeds or visit him on Facebook.

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In The K

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Falafel Stuffed Eggplant By Naomi Nachman

Israeli food has become very popular across the globe. My family loves it, so I feel free to test all kinds of recipes on them and get their feedback when I experiment with newly created varieties of Israeli cuisine. One particular Israelistyle dish, stuffed eggplants, has been appearing in cookbooks, magazines and blogs in the last few years. It is usually stuffed with beef or lamb, but I wanted to try a vegetarian version. This eggplant dish was inspired by my love of falafel, and my family really enjoyed it.

Ingredients For the tahini sauce 3 tablespoons warm water 2 tablespoons tahini (roasted sesame seed paste) 4 teaspoons fresh lemon juice 1 teaspoon honey ½ teaspoon ground cumin 1 garlic clove, minced For the eggplant 4 mini eggplants 2 teaspoons kosher salt, divided 2 -3 tablespoons extra-virgin olive oil 1 (15 oz.) can no-salt-added chickpeas (garbanzo beans), rinsed and drained ¼ cup chopped onion ¼ cup fresh breadcrumbs ¼ cup chopped fresh flat-leaf parsley 2 tablespoons raw tahini 1 tablespoon extra-virgin olive oil 1 ½ teaspoons ground cumin ½ teaspoon ground coriander ¼ teaspoon freshly ground black pepper ¼ teaspoon ground red pepper 2 garlic cloves, minced

pea mixture into each eggplant shell. Add ¼ cup water to the bottom of the pan and ½ lemon, freshly squeezed. Bake at 400°F for 25 minutes or until eggplant halves are tender and chickpea mixture is lightly browned.

Relish

Preparation

Ingredients

To prepare the tahini sauce, combine the first 6 ingredients in a small bowl, and stir with a whisk. Set aside. Preheat oven to 400°F. To prepare eggplant, slice the eggplants in half lengthwise; score cut sides with a crosshatch pattern. Place the eggplant halves, cut sides up, on a baking sheet lined with parchment paper. Season the eggplant with a teaspoon of salt and extra virgin olive oil. Bake at 400°F for 20 minrutes or until slightly tender and browned. Set aside. Combine chickpeas with remaining ingredients in a food processor and process until smooth. Place eggplants in a baking dish. Spoon ½ cup chickp -

1 cup chopped seeded tomato ½ cup seeded cucumber, peeled and chopped ½ cup vertically sliced red onion ½ cup coarsely chopped fresh flat-leaf parsley 1 tablespoon fresh lemon juice 1 tablespoon extra-virgin olive oil

Preparation To prepare relish, combine the tomato and remaining ingredients in a bowl; stir to combine. Place eggplant halves on a platter. Top each half with ¼ cup relish and drizzle with tahini sauce.

Naomi Nachman, the owner of The Aussie Gourmet, caters weekly and Shabbat/ Yom Tov meals for families and individuals within The Five Towns and neighboring communities, with a specialty in Pesach catering. Naomi is a contributing editor to this paper and also produces and hosts her own weekly radio show on the Nachum Segal Network stream called “A Table for Two with Naomi Nachman.” Naomi gives cooking presentations for organizations and private groups throughout the New York/New Jersey Metropolitan area. In addition, Naomi has been a guest host on the QVC TV network and has been featured in cookbooks, magazines as well as other media covering topics related to cuisine preparation and personal chefs. To obtain additional recipes, join The Aussie Gourmet on Facebook or visit Naomi’s blog. Naomi can be reached through her website, www.theaussiegourmet. com or at (516) 295-9669.

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Notable Quotes “Say What?!”

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I think I’m pretty much as vetted as anybody in the country could be vetted. – Sarah Palin, when asked on CNN whether she is a candidate to be Trump’s vice president

A pizzeria in Brooklyn has created an edible pizza box. Chris Christie was like, “Wait, the old ones weren’t?” – Seth Myers

Despite falling behind in delegates, Bernie Sanders insists he still has nine states left to go. Unfortunately, five of those states are Denial, Anger, Grief, Bargaining, and Acceptance. – Conan O’Brien

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New England Patriots quarterback Tom Brady is coming out with a cookbook. The cookbook teaches you how to make a soufflé that falls then re-inflates at halftime. – Conan O’Brien

A new study suggests that a chemical released when a person is hungry can lead to poor decision-making. It’s what Taco Bell calls “our entire business model.” - Jimmy Kimmel

You and the other Israel boycotters are politically ignorant obnoxious idiots. - Steven Van Zandt of the E- Street Band after coming under attack by BDS supporters for supporting Israel

The big story this weekend was that the racehorse Nyquist won the Kentucky Derby, while a horse named Exaggerator came in second place. Or as Exaggerator put it, “Hey, I won the Kentucky Derby!” – Jimmy Fallon

In an upcoming interview with Fox News’ Megyn Kelly, Donald Trump tells her that although they’ve reconciled their feud, “this could happen again.” Especially if Megyn Kelly continues to stubbornly insist on being a woman. – Conan O’Brien

My husband, who I will put in charge of revitalizing the economy, because he knows what he’s doing.

A former speechwriter for John McCain said Donald Trump has an unstable personality. This is coming from the guy who wrote the words, “Please welcome my running mate, Sarah Palin.” - Conan O’Brien

Hamas is really smart. When they decide to rocket Israel, they insinuate themselves in the hospitals, in the schools, in the highly populous areas, and they are smart. They said they try to put Israelis in a position of either not defending themselves or killing innocents. They’re good at it. They’re smart. They’ve been doing this a long time. I killed myself to give the Palestinians a state. I had a deal they turned down that would have given them all of Gaza. - Bill Clinton, when a heckler accused him of not supporting Palestinians

I want Taco Bell. - 35-year-old Florida resident Jake Booth’s first words after awaking from a 48-day coma

The Gap just reported a decline in sales for its fifth straight quarter, and analysts are saying they might have to close over 100 stores. But look at the bright side — if there’s one thing they know how to do at The Gap, it’s fold. – Jimmy Fallon

- Hillary Clinton talking about putting Bill in charge of the economy

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Jeb Bush wrote a Facebook post congratulating Donald Trump for securing the Republican nomination, but said he still won’t support him. Yeah, Jeb wrote an insincere Facebook post. Or as that’s also known as, “a Facebook post.”

According to a new study, L.A. has the most or best road rage in the United States. We are number one road rage-wise. We have the unique ability to get blinded with fury on the way home from a yoga class here. – Jimmy Kimmel

– Jimmy Fallon

British researchers are warning that one-fifth of the world’s plant species are at risk of extinction. Even worse, kale is expected to survive. – Jimmy Fallon

New York’s city council recently approved stores to charge 5 cents for plastic bags. So, soon New Yorkers can pay 5 cents for a plastic bag, or just walk outside and wait for one to blow into your face. – Jimmy Fallon

NASA scientists have discovered over 1,200 planets that are possibly habitable — where humans could live. In other words, if Donald Trump does become president, Canada’s not your only option. – Conan O’Brien

Faced with the prospect of voting for either Donald Trump or Hillary Clinton, Mary Anne Noland of Richmond chose, instead, to pass into the eternal love of G-d on Sunday, May 15, 2016, at the age of 68. – Opening sentence of obituary in Richmond Times-Dispatch

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Google has created several new emojis aimed at empowering women. So congratulations women, you asked for equal pay and you got five new emojis. – Conan O’Brien

A group of alleged mobsters were just arrested in New York and their nicknames included Grandpa, Baldy, Lazy Eye and Fat Sal – which are the same nicknames Trump gave his possible running mates. – Jimmy Fallon

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Political Crossfire

GOP Lunacy in High Places By Michael Gerson

he great Republican crackup has begun. There is a growing group of Donald Trump partisans, including former House Speaker Newt Gingrich, Rush Limbaugh and New Jersey Gov. Chris Christie. Then there are Republican officials who publicly support Trump and privately hope he will lose in November – a group that could only be counted via lie detector, but I would test Senate Majority Leader Mitch McConnell first. And there are Trump opponents and skeptics, including the 41st president, the 43rd president, Jeb Bush, Mitt Romney, Sen. Ben Sasse of Nebraska and House Speaker Paul Ryan. Ryan, in particular, is providing air cover for the unconvinced. What common views or traits unite the most visible Trump partisans? A group including Limbaugh and Christie is not primarily defined by ideology. Rather, the Trumpians share a disdain for “country-club” Republicans (though former House Speaker John Boehner apparently likes Trump because they were golfing buddies). They tend to be white and middle-aged. They are filled with resentment. Above all, they detest weakness in themselves and others. The country, in their view, has grown soft and feeble. Their opponents are losers, lacking in energy. Rather than despising bullying – as Ryan, Romney and all the Bushes do – they elevate it. The strong must take power, defy political correctness, hu-

miliate and defeat their opponents, and reverse the nation’s slide toward mediocrity. There have always been politicians who despise weakness and the weak. Richard Nixon and Lyndon Johnson are examples. They were not always bad at governing, but they were bad human beings who came to a bad end. This type of leadership can motivate, usually through resentment and anger. What it cannot do is inspire. Inspiring leaders are often those who identify with the weak. They may develop this trait by rising from poverty themselves, like Abraham Lincoln did. Or they may have had their capacity for empathy expanded by suffering, such as Franklin Roosevelt’s struggle with polio. In American history, inspiring leadership has often been informed by religion, which (at its best) universalizes our empathy. This is the main reason that some of us cannot simply lump it and reluctantly lend our support to Trump. The Republican Party is not engaged in a policy argument; it is debating the purpose of politics. For some Trump opponents, the justice of a political system is determined by its treatment of the vulnerable and weak. In the Catholic tradition, this is called “solidarity.” Whatever you call it, this commitment is inconsistent with a type of politics that beats up on the vulnerable and weak – say, undocumented workers, or Muslims – for political gain.

Those who accuse Trump opponents of elitism are engaged in a particularly mendacious slur. Trump is attempting to place nativism at the center of American politics. Those who resist are not enforcing the rules of a private club. Many – including

the transformation of a party formed by Lincoln’s blazing vision of equality into a party of white resentment. Those who find this one of the normal, everyday compromises of politics have truly lost their way. This is not even to mention

The Republican Party is not engaged in a policy argument; it is debating the purpose of politics. religious people in poor and workingclass communities – are defending a vision of politics in which empathy is honored and the weak are placed first. They are opposing a candidate who mocks the disabled, demeans women, engages in ethnic stereotyping and encourages religious bigotry. Those who regard this tawdry mix of vulgarity and cruelty as typical of any social class are engaged in a particularly offensive form of condescension. Hating losers and the weak is fundamentally inconsistent with Christian ethics, and other sources of moral judgment, in every income quintile. Make no mistake. Those who support Trump, no matter how reluctantly, have crossed a moral boundary. They are standing with a leader who encourages prejudice and despises the weak. They are aiding

Trump’s pledge to limit press freedom, or his malicious birtherism, or his dangerous vaccine skepticism, or his economic plans that would bring global recession, or his lack of relevant qualifications, or his temperament of brooding and bragging, egotism and self-pity, or his promise to emancipate the world from American leadership, or his accusation that Ted Cruz’s father was somehow involved with Lee Harvey Freaking Oswald. Some are trying their best to act as though all this were normal. But we are seeing, in the words of G.K. Chesterton, “lunacy dancing in high places.” None of this requires a vote for Hillary Clinton. But it forbids a vote for Donald Trump. (c) 2016, Washington Post Writers Group

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Broken but Unbowed An Unlikely Alliance between Governor Greg Abbott of Texas and the Jewish State By Shmuel Winiarz

ith the controversial Iran Deal in the rearview mirror for some, Texas Governor Greg Abbott met with Jewish media in Manhattan on Monday afternoon discussing why this remains relevant, highlighting Texas’ role in the deal, along with discussing his personal story and his recent trip to Israel. Governor Abbott formally responded to President Obama’s earlier request on April 8 for states to withdraw their sanctions, pursuant to the deal negotiated between the P5+1 and Iran back in October 2015. Placing principle before politics, Gover-

nor Abbott rejected the request, stating, “Because the Iran deal is fundamentally flawed ... Texas will maintain

Iran sanctions Iran already has in place.” When the states’ legislative session resumes next

encourage municipal governments in Texas to join as well. A champion of state’s rights, the governor also said

Why is the Governor, in a state where the Jewish community makes up a small percentage of the population, leading the fight against the flawed Iran deal? its sanctions against Iran.” But Governor Abbott went even one step further, promising to pursue legislative attempts “to strengthen the

January, Governor Abbott aims to expand divestiture from Iran to beyond just the current state pensions to include all state agencies and

he will reach out to the governors of all other 49 states, on a bipartisan basis, asking them to follow his lead in maintaining the pressure

on Iran financially with the hope of changing Iran’s behavior. Yet behind the concrete actions of the Governor is a question the Jewish community might be wondering: Why is the Governor, in a state where the Jewish community makes up a small percentage of the population, leading the fight against the flawed Iran deal? Why aren’t the governors and senators of New York and New Jersey giving voice to their constituents in the same way? The Governor provided insight into his weltanschauung at the roundtable. In New York he was also

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promoting his recently published book, Broken but Unbowed, discussing his personal story and his views on the American Constitution. In 1984, a tree fell on the Governor, leaving him paraplegic. Graduating law school that same year, Abbott went on to a successful practice, the Texas Supreme Court, and was elected to be the State Attorney General and now governor; his story of successfully overcoming significant hurdles is both inspiring and reflective of personal fortitude. Having traveled to Israel for the first time this past January, the Governor realized the kindred spirit that is the Israeli people. The Governor told the assembled reporters that when he had his body reconstructed after the injury he had two steel rods implanted

Governor Abbott at the Kotel with Aryeh Lightstone

in his spine, giving him literally a “spine of steel” – something that both Texans and Israelis possess figuratively. The Governor discussed his trip itinerary, his meeting with Prime Minister Netanyahu, his efforts to in-

Meeting with Jewish media in New York this week

crease economic ties between Texas and Israel, and thanked Sheldon and Miriam Adelson, Ben Heller, Shining City (an issue based advocacy organization) and its director Aryeh Lightstone who convened

the roundtable for their efforts. He ticked off his accomplishments regarding the Iran Deal, including his call for the Texas congressional delegation to oppose the Iran Deal, his leadership in encouraging 17 governors to

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oppose removing the state sanctions against Iran and his proposed further sanctions, ensuring to the best of his ability that Israel and the West will not suffer the consequences of the flawed Iran Deal. So if you were wondering why the Texas Governor has shown such fortitude in fighting for the Jewish state, perhaps seeing the similarities between the person, the State of Texas, and Israel might just be the right place to start. Once started, the pro-Israel community will see that despite the current administration’s strained relationship with Israel, the relationship remains “unbowed” and that with staunch allies like Governor Abbott the road ahead remains filled with promise.

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Merrill’s Marauders By Avi Heiligman

pecial units playing side roles during war have always existed since biblical times. However, only recently have they actually played a major part in campaigns that would have normally sapped a country’s resources. This is especially true during World War II as the U.S. fought on five-plus continents (if you have questions about that total, please email me) and needed specialized troops to fight in many types of terrain. One of these units fought in an unforgiving jungle against the Japanese in the far off country of Burma (nowadays it’s called Myanmar). The China-Burma-India Theater of Operations was a low priority for the U.S. government since the fastest way to victory in the Pacific was seen to run through the Philippines. Without getting into specifics, only small amounts of frontline troops and fighter planes were sent to the theater. Most of the assistance sent was in the form of supplies and engineering units. The two exceptions were the famous Flying Tiger fighter pilot squadron and Merrill’s Marauders. The overall mission for the Marauders was divided into three stages (the details are quite long so we’ll only highlight some of them). As early as August 1942, President Roosevelt realized the need to

have a “long range penetration mission” in Burma that would loosen the Japanese grip on the Asian continent. General “Vinegar Joe” Stillwell was in command of a joint Chinese-American force that played into the hands of Chinese politics and suffering at the hands of the Japanese. There were local Burmese troops called Kachin Scouts of Detachment 101 that were under the command of American instructors of the OSS (Office of Strategic Services – the intelligence unit that would form the backbone of the CIA in 1947). Another unit would be needed, and Brigadier General Frank Merrill was selected to form and lead this command. This unit was modeled after a successful British unit led by General Orde Wingate (the same general to help Palamch members in Eretz Yisrael before WWII) called the Chindits. About 3,000 American soldiers were selected and trained for the unit called the 5307 th Composite Unit (Provisional). The mission was codenamed Galahad and the soldiers affectionately called themselves Merrill’s Marauders. The men came from several units. About a third were jungle-trained soldiers stationed in the Caribbean. Another third were previously based in the U.S., while the rest were sol-

diers with combat experience from the South and Central Pacific Theater of Operations. Interspersed in the three brigades were delinquents that were promised freedom if they joined the Marauders. Starting in late 1943, the men were sent to India to begin their training. They had several types of weapons and used mules for transport purposes. Until January 1944 they trained intensively in scouting and patrolling, stream crossings, weapons, navigation, demolitions, camouflage, radio communications, small-unit attacks on entrenchments, and evacuation of wounded personnel. Being resupplied by airdrop was a new concept that they would regularly need in the jungle, and they practiced how to direct the incoming aircraft and recover the supplies. The Chindits joined the Marauders for a weeklong exercise in December 1943. Each brigade was split into two self-dependent units that lacked only heavy artillery support. In February 1944, 2,750 Marauders began a 1,000 mile trek behind Japanese lines to begin operations in Burma. Kachin Scouts were attached to the units to lead them through the dense jungle. During the trek the Marauders engaged the Japanese in several

minor engagements and five larger battles. Japanese soldiers from the 18th Division faced the Allied force which at times consisted of the Marauders, two Chinese divisions and the Kachin Scouts. (The Kachins and Chinese had to march separately for fear that they would fight each other instead of the enemy.) In most of the battles, the Allies were outnumbered but managed to inflict more casualties than they sustained themselves. Disease and battlefield casualties dwindled down their numbers to a third of their full strength but that didn’t stop the Marauders from reaching their target. Myitkyina Airfield in Northern Burma was needed to land supply airplanes for units in China. The way to Myitkyina was very rough, starting with their first mission which was to capture Walawbum. The first Marauder kill was on February 25 by German-born and Jewish refugee Corporal Warner Katz. He was the lead scout that ran into a Japanese patrol and saw an enemy soldier franticly waving his hands to get the attention of his patrol to set up an ambush. He was seen by Katz who with one shot killed the enemy although he himself was wounded – the first Marauder casualty – in the fire-

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Merrill and Stillwell in Burma

fight that ensued. Katz refused to be evacuated and was awarded the Bronze Star and Purple Heart for his actions that day near Nzang Ga. Heavy fighting continued until all the units reached the objective two weeks later. The town of Walawbum was captured on March 7 with little opposition despite the fact that several hundred Japanese soldiers fought outside the town. With the first phase complete, the Marauders continued on to their second goal at Shaduzup and Inkangahtawng (these are the correct spellings but the pronunciations won’t be forthcoming!). Again, as with the first phase, they had several engagements with Japanese forces but repulsed all of them with fewer casualties than the enemy. The Americans were better armed and trained for this type of warfare and were able to destroy Japanese emplacements. Lieutenant Colonel William Osborne, commander of the 1st Battalion, issued orders to his men to avoid contact with the enemy as much as possible and fight only when the Japanese got in the way. By attacking from the north instead of the south at Shaduzup the Marauders achieved surprise and caught them while eating breakfast. An attack with bayonets completed the victory. The third mission was to capture Nhpum Ga and Myitkyina. On May 17 they reached the airfield and captured it intact. However, it took until August to capture the town of Myitkyina. The Japanese had made an advance into India, and Stillwell was worried that he may have to pull the Marauders off the Burma

front but soon the Indian front was contained. For three months the Marauders saw their numbers being depleted by enemy action and disease. With the numbers at hand the Marauders needed significant Chinese reinforcements to make a push on the town that was now in the middle of the monsoon season. The conditions were horrendous as they were malnourished (they were issued one box of K-rations per day) and exhausted as they traveled through treacherous mountains and jungles, but the sick Americans held off the Japanese force until August 3. Finally, the town fell, and the Marauders’ final mission was complete. Only two soldiers of the original 3,000 Marauders escaped the fight without major illness or wounds. 130 soldiers were able to answer muster a week after Myitkyina fell, and so the force was disbanded. About 500 Marauders suffered from actual battle casualties; the rest had disease or suffered from PTSD. General Merrill had to be evacuated once after suffering a heart attack. His second in command, Colonel Charles Hunter, condemned Stillwell’s evacuation, promotion and decoration practices that prompted congressional hearings (Stillwell was later replaced). The hospital staff that was attached to the Marauders recorded, “Many of them were seriously ill and they were so tired, dirty, and hungry that they looked more dead than alive. They suffered from exhaustion, malnutrition, typhus, malaria, amebic dysentery, jungle sores, and many other diseases resulting from months of hardship in

the tropical jungle.” For their bravery, all of the soldiers were awarded the Bronze Star and the Distinguished Unit Citation. Many of the remaining soldiers were consolidated into a unit that became the 75th Infantry and was morphed in the 75th Ranger Battalion. The Marauders are considered the parent unit of the Rangers and many members were elected to the Ranger Hall of Fame and

considered members of the Special Forces Unit. Merrill’s Marauders only fought together for about six months but in that time they achieved an amazing goal. Avi Heiligman is a weekly contributor to The Jewish Home. He welcomes your comments and suggestions for future columns and can be reached at aviheiligman@gmail.com.

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Have You Been Sold? By Rabbi Mordechai Kruger

ave you heard the one about the fish that didn’t know he was extinct? If not, shame on you, because you didn’t read my last article. It told about a fish with a funny sounding name, the coelacanth (see-la-Kanth), that everybody thought was extinct, or should have been. Turned out the fish was out there and, despite what all the experts said, it was doing just fine. This week, I would like to talk about something that might be thought of as the mirror image of that case. That would be something that really is extinct, or nearly so, yet everybody thinks it’s still around. It is so present in people’s minds that they see it almost everywhere. It’s so scary that parents warn their children about it. The species that I’m thinking of is that unloved creature, the Salesman. Of all the possible occupations that my clients want to talk about, the one that many don’t want to be is the Salesman. Just about everyone can describe him in detail: he’s wearing loud, unfashionable clothes, he drips insincerity and he sells worthless junk. Often he’s associated with used cars, but many people see him in just about every sales position. Collecting his commissions only when he closes the deal, he’ll do just about

anything to make the sale. And no matter how many true sales professionals they meet, people looking for a career are afraid of becoming the Salesman. Whether by a negative experience, a cultural stereotype, or pure imagination, they’ve been sold an image of a pushy shyster that takes advantage of unsuspecting ingénues. Thinking that all salespeople have to behave that way in order to succeed, they swear they’ll never go into sales. This mindset has two destructive effects. It can drive many people away from what could be a promising career opportunity. It can also lead people who do decide on a career in sales to work for fly-by-night companies selling overhyped snake oil. This column will address the first issue. When I speak to a client about considering a future in sales, I begin with a point that many people overlook: that no matter what changes will come to the world of business, there will absolutely always be a need for someone to make the sale. True, today there are more items that have become commodities than ever before. Those are the goods and services that can be displayed on a shelf or on a website. The customer just picks what he wants, click here, swipe the card there, two-day delivery, the deal is

done. Not much for a salesman to do. But there will always be goods and services that are more complex, more abstract, more discretionary or elective (in the sense that you know that you need the product, but you don’t necessarily have to buy it right now). For all of these, there will always be a role for a salesman. A good example of this is insurance. Even for people whose skills, background, and goals point to sales as a potential career choice, insurance oftentimes just seems too scary. The lack of a concrete object to sell, the whole idea of “I’m selling you this but I hope you never need it,” the idea of making a call to a complete stranger and inducing him to think about all of the calamities that could befall him just conjures up the image of the too-slick salesman. Most people want none of it. But if my client has been sold that awful image, it’s my job to un-sell him. While it is true that some forms of insurance are sold online, there is still an important role to be played by flesh-and-blood agents. There are books, websites, and trainers of all kinds helping new insurance professionals get started and succeed. No one I’ve found has predicted the profession’s demise, and the Department of Labor is fore-

casting a healthy annual growth rate of 9%. The strongest reason for this is also the reason why insurance can be a rewarding profession. Purchasing insurance is an emotion driven decision, reflecting a person’s long term commitment to his family and others. If the customer doesn’t feel that his insurance purchase will lead to the confidence and peace of mind that he seeks, there will be no purchase. That confidence is most often based on a feeling that the agent shares that same level of concern, and that the policy he suggests truly protects what the client holds dear. That trust is a uniquely human connection. Nothing can imitate or replace it. That is the role that only a trained salesman can fulfill. One of the hardest parts of any sales job, and certainly in insurance, is dealing with all of the times that people say “no.” Yet successful people not only aren’t deterred by “no,” they thrive on it. They see “no” as a request for more information, an invitation to try harder. There’s a great little book called Go for No that makes this point very well. It tells how a consultant helped an underperforming insurance agency. The agents were convinced that they didn’t have the “pizzazz” to sell effectively. To prove them

wrong, he took several of the weakest salesmen, practiced a particularly weak sales pitch (“You don’t want to buy insurance, do you?”), and approached people at a terrible time, knocking on doors at dinnertime, between 5:30 and 7:30 PM. Result? Their sales skyrocketed. Because more than anything else, the key to success is the human connection, the trust. In many cases, the very fact that there was a human face at the door saying words that led them to think about how insurance might protect their loved ones was enough to start the process. I have repeatedly recommended To Sell is Human by Daniel Pink. Every client that reads it finds valuable insight regarding the way that selling is interwoven into so much that we do, in ways that we don’t recognize or expect. With Pink’s guidance, we can also unsell that hurtful image of the Salesman, so that career seekers can aspire to become honest brokers of quality goods and services, truly serving as a vital resource that deserves our welcome and respect.

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The New York State Regents Exams An Analysis of the Pros and Cons By Chaim Homnick

s the warm glow from our Pesach memories recedes into the background and high schoolers return to school, Sefira often begins to feel like a dreaded 49-day countdown to Regents examinations, the standardized tests that New York and other states require to receive a Regents or Advanced Regents diploma. While these tests provide a useful tool for comparing students and identifying what they have learned, many have argued that schools should nonetheless be able to set their own goals and administer their own curriculums and finals (as is the case in most other states) without the pressures and rigors of a specific, state-mandated test effectively determining what they need to teach. Teachers and students alike have numerous complaints about the current Regents exams (many of them justifiable) yet politicians laud the Regents’ role in creating academic accountability and a method for determining the best allocation of funding. To better address this contentious debate, here is an analysis of some of the pros and cons of the New York state Regents system:

THE BACKGROUND

The New York state Regents were

actually instituted statewide back in 1878 and included elementary Latin and geography (I shudder to imagine how a Common Core ancient Latin exam would look). The exams first were given in highly specific subjects including numerous languages and vocational studies. By 1970, the exams shifted to comprehensive tests more similar to the topics offered nowadays. More recently, in the face of budgeting issues, the remaining foreign language exams and Regents for Honors 7 th graders were eliminated in 2011 and 2012. Meanwhile, in 2014 it was determined that a passing grade of 65 will be sufficient for all Regents until 2022, but at that point, an 80 on Algebra and a 75 on English will be required to graduate. The other big change has been the integration of the Common Core curriculum and standards into the algebra, geometry and English Regents.

schools and across student demographics. The Regents level the playing field and provide a standard curriculum for teachers to cover and a standard test for students to take. This enables school boards to make judgments about their own school’s academic performance, government officials to analyze the overall success of the school systems in their jurisdiction, and parents to have an accurate assessment of how well their child knows a given subject.

THE PROS

Helps in Establishing Goals This argument is the basis for pursuing such standardization. The Regents provide a clear road map to a solid high school education. There are clear expectations in terms of what courses should be taken annually and what content those courses should be comprised of. This sets easy, clear goals for students and educators alike. This enables everyone to set targets and determine if they are achieving those goals or not.

Standardization There are so many different types of high schools from private to public to charter to religious schools. Subsequently, the level of academics can vary wildly across

Improved Metrics While a good teacher can get a decent feel for his or her class and their abilities and intelligence, the Regents is a clear delineation

of those skills. Teachers and parents can better assess students and schools can partially weigh a teacher’s performance by the success of their students on the Regents. If each teacher has only their own tests to use as a gage, that data is far more subjective and limited. In other words, a 90 on a Regents means something objective about a student and their ability in relation to their peers as does a 60 on a Regent. Getting a 90 on Mr. Goldberg’s famous history exam could mean the student is smart or it could simply mean that Mr. Goldberg write easy tests or that the class got an advanced copy of the test. Standard Regents exams help make it clear what students know in relation to the test’s content and in comparison to others their age across New York.

THE CONS Standardization The same standardization that allows for comparing students/ schools and establishing goals can also create issues. Firstly, an Honors biology student, a regular biology student and a remedial biology student will all receive the same exam. The test can’t possibly be geared appropriately for all 3 students, so the

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standardization of the tests likely backfires. It is practically impossible to design a test that is equitable and suitable for all levels. Thus some students likely end up shortchanged by the process. Entirely Test-based/ Teaching to the Test The Regents create an obvious incentive for teachers to teach to the test. This then pushes teachers to emphasize the test content over other relevant information. Teachers feel compelled to focus on what topics appear most often on the test rather than on the topics and information that may be more critical to their students’ education. The various Regents aren’t quite as comprehensive as their names claim and therefore that leaves a lot of important content that likely won’t be covered. The fact that the Regents exams are such key determinants also penalizes students who aren’t good test-takers or who excel in other, less-academic ways. The vocational

Regents of the 1900s are gone, and the Regents that we have now are comprehensive and vague. Does an inability to do well on those Regents automatically translate to a student being incapable of a college education? For poor test-takers or students with IEPs of various types, the Regents can sometimes feel downright cruel when these students might otherwise be really hard workers who have found ways to compensate and succeed in the classroom despite not being strong test-takers.

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The Common Core has presented its own batch of issues and subsequent protests. That is hardly surprising considering that it is the brainchild of businessmen, not educators. It has had an effect on the math and English Regents, although most teachers seem to be adapting begrudgingly (albeit while fuming about some of the more egregious methods proposed with the Common Core).

I hope to write a dedicated article on the Common Core this month that addresses it more in detail but the one thing that is certain is that the battle over Common Core isn’t over and another overhaul seems to be eventually necessary. The idea of covering core material that is essential for students in the rapid-paced, high-tech 21st century is great; however, the Common Core has done nothing but baffle educators and parents with how uncommon and illogical some of its methods are. Ultimately, the Regents serve a useful, although distinctly limited, purpose. For many students, a Regents score can serve as an affirmation that another successful year has gone by. For others, it is a reminder to work harder moving forward. For a New York state government constantly seeking ways to improve the education of the next generation, the Regents can indeed help identify areas of weakness or provide proof of improving schools. However, it is imperative that the Regents remain a

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means and not an end. The Regents provide a path to assessing our students’ performances, but they should not become the sole destination itself. Armed with that disclaimer, feel free to start helping your 10th grader review the Neolithic Revolution.

Chaim Homnick is the College Advisor at Mesivta Ateres Yaakov of Lawrence and also teaches 5 periods of Honors/AP English Literature. Chaim is the owner of Five Towns Tutoring (fivetownstutoring.com) as well as Machane Miami Day Camp of Florida (machanemiami. com). He scored in the 99th percentile on the SAT and the LSAT and tutors both extensively along with most Regents exams. He has a Masters Degree in Educational Leadership and Administration and an MBA. For questions, comments, previous articles or tutoring, he can be reached directly at chomnick@gmail. com or 305-321-3342.

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ackgammon is an ancient game of dice, strategy, and skill. The name dates back to the 1600s, but the game itself goes back to the Byzantine Emperor Zeno (AD 476-481). While it’s never been as popular here as poker or chess, it became a huge fad in the 1960s. John McManus is an Irish gambler who started out taking bets at a greyhound track before moving up to horses and currency trading. He’s parlayed his initial stake of four pounds into a €775 million fortune, enough to make him the Emerald Isle’s eighth-richest man. Alec Gores is a private equity mogul worth $2.1 billion who lives in a $31 million chateau just down the street from home-run king Barry Bonds. Gores has wagered millions in Hollywood poker games with celebrities like Tobey Maguire, Ben Affleck, and Matt Damon. He’s not afraid to color a bit outside the lines, and drew fire for hiring a shady Hollywood private eye to wiretap his relatives. What do backgammon, McManus, and Gores have in common? Well, both men are backgammon

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ney used to be.) Here’s why we’re talking about the story today. Gambling winnings are taxable, of course — at least here in the U.S. So Gores “helpfully” withheld $5.2 million of the Irish-

In fact, McManus famously travels with a portable set, and he’s been known to start games with strangers on airplanes to win back his airfare. In 2012, McManus and Gores sat down for “a serious backgammon match.” When the dust settled, three days later, the luck of the Irish had prevailed and McManus had taken $17.4 million from the billionaire. “You always feel good after winning,” McManus quipped to The Independent after his score. (Gores may be a billionaire and all, but it still had to feel a bit like waking up in a bathtub full of ice with a sore back and a hollow spot where a kid-

man’s score and forwarded it to the IRS. But McManus says he doesn’t owe the tax. He stakes his claim on a treaty between the U.S. and Ireland, signed in 1997, designed to prevent double taxation. That treaty lets certain wealthy Irish residents avoid tax on U.S. income in favor of a flat “domicile levy” of €200,000 on their non-Irish income. McManus filed a U.S. nonresident tax return and requested his

$5.2 million back. He says the IRS approved that claim before sending it “to another department” for review. Since then, he hasn’t heard a word. So now he’s filed suit in the U.S. Court of Federal Claims. The IRS replies that McManus didn’t qualify as an Irish resident under the terms of the treaty, and didn’t even file an Irish tax return for that year. They have until October 30 to respond to the suit, so we’ll have to wait until then to learn what happens next. Here are a couple of lessons to ponder while the case makes its way through the system. First, don’t sit down for a high-stakes gamble without knowing your opponent! And second, don’t let the IRS catch you by surprise. Navigating the tax gameboard without a plan is a gamble you don’t want to take! Make sure you don’t have to leave your fortune to a toss of the dice.

Allan J Rolnick is a CPA who has been in practice for over 30 yea rs in Queens, NY. He welcomes your comments and can be reached at 718-896-8715 or at allanjrcpa@aol.com.

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Life C ach

The Way You Make Your Bed is the Way You Sleep in It By Rivki D. Rosenwald Esq., CLC, SDS

ne of the best things in the world, when you’re a kid, is a sleepover date. You’ll sleep on the floor, the rug, the carpet, you don’t care. What’s a mattress between friends? You’ll get 3 hours of sleep – more than enough! A ratty blanket, no sheet, a hard pillow – whatever, it’s all good. It’s a sleepover. But replay that as an adult? Are you insane?! The mattress must be just so, exactly to your specs – hard, firm, bouncy, whatever your preference is, it better be on that bed you sleep in. Three pillows, eight pillows, ten pillows, whatever you are used to … you just cannot entertain sleep without that number! And your prized pillow or pillowcase? That you must schlep from home! “The shades don’t make the room dark enough!” “The AC’s not cool enough!” “The heat’s not high enough!” “The bathrooms not close enough!” The litany of shortcomings is endless. If you could just dump your entire master bedroom into your suitcase, then you’d be fine with a sleepover. But short of that, the headache, backache, lost sleep, exhaustion and irritation is just not worth the sacrifice. What happened to that resilient, little floor sleep-

er of yesteryear? When did you become this inflexible kvetch?! If the guest room you’re put in is not the Taj Mahal, you want out of there! If the accommodations aren’t as good as home, you feel like crying like a baby. In all honesty, sometimes you’re just homesick for the familiar, even if it’s not that bad a place. ‘Cause the truth is, even if your bed is bumpy, lumpy or concave, you are used to your bed. Your body has etched its form into a location and sleep is defined by your relationship with that spot. So how can adults have sleepovers? Well, first they must pack their collection of pills. Ambien, Tylenol PM, melatonin, whatever does the trick for them. Then the reason to leave home must be compelling enough to move them out of their complacency. Now, for a couple, this is a definite negotiating point. Your sister’s kid’s bar mitzvah is different from his sister’s kid’s bar mitzvah. And vice versa. Your best friend’s event is not his best friend’s. And his best buddy’s first kid is not your best buddy’s first kid. Beds have a way of being less horrible if your incentive to be there is greater. But with a couple there is often different levels of in-

centive. The more one has to be there, the more easily they can re-tap into their childhood resiliency. But! ... for the spouse who is not as motivated to be there, he or she is focused more on all the adult frustrations. So when one’s comfort goes down, the appreciation from their spouse must come up. And then, as the appreciation goes up, the respondent better be able to gracefully say or imply that it’s no big deal. “I’m glad to do this with you!” Despite the cold compress on their head, ice on their back or bags under their eyes good relationship skills are about being able to feel what’s comfortable enough for you, is comfortable enough for me. If you can see the flower through the thorns, so can I! The better side of wisdom often feels like you should leave the spouse at home and grab your kid! They can sleep anywhere! To them, it’s an adventure. In fact, if they actually get a bed they’re ecstatic! They don’t wonder why the place they are staying in doesn’t have their brand of coffee, their diet sweetener, or the milk they like in it. Though, they may give you a run for your money if they don’t find a breakfast cereal that they can eat. Still, they will first

sort through the collection and be open to trying a new one as long as it looks interesting to them. That spirit of adventure is still with them. Maybe what we should do is ask some questions before our guests arrive like we do in relation to food. You know like, “Is there anything you don’t eat?” Or, “Does anyone have any food allergies?” OK, I know, we

variety of pillows. Buy newer, softer, fresher bedding. Make sure the blinds work –not every neighbor needs to know that my guest is a midnight owl! It seems that sometime – and as a parent I’d speculate just around high school age – adults do start to appreciate the need for sleep more than kids do. Maybe, just maybe, the only solution for a guest

If the guest room you’re put in is not the Taj Mahal, you want out of there!

food shop every week – we are not about to redecorate our guest room each time a new guest shows up! I guess it would be smart to walk into our guest room once in a while and lie down on the bed and think, “Could I actually sleep in here? Have I at least tried to make it the best accommodation that I can? I know I can’t meet every adult’s requirements, but can I step it up a bit?” Add a

to get through a visit with a good attitude is to somehow remember there was once a time that the experience was certainly much greater than the comfort of the bed they were assigned to.

Rivki Rosenwald is a certified relationship counselor, and career and life coach. She can be contacted at 917-705-2004 or rivki@rosenwalds.com

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‫הלב‬ 37YEARS OF ATERET COHANIM

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AMERICAN FRIENDS OF ATERET COHANIM / JERUSALEM CHAI INVITE YOU TO CELEBRATE THE 37TH (‫ )הלב‬YEAR OF ATERET COHANIM Tuesday Evening, May 31, 2016 | 23rd of Iyar, 5776 Terrace On The Park | 52-11 111th Street | Flushing Meadows, Queens, New York Dinner Reception 6:00 PM Program 7:30 PM followed by Dessert Reception The dinner is dedicated to the memory of Rabbi Nechemia Lavi hy”d and to the rebirth of the Yemenite Village in the Shiloach

GUESTS OF HONOR AND BONEI YERUSHALAYIM HONOREES: The Honorable Bruce & Segal Blakeman Dr. Steve & Hedy Rubel

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