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ave you ever played hide and seek with a toddler? They love to hide and find the “best” spot where you for sure can’t find them. And then, after a few minutes of “searching,” you walk slowly to where they are and they close their eyes tightly, certain that you can’t see them if they can’t see you.

Sometimes I feel that’s what our politicians are doing. There is an obvious evil force in the world that wishes to kill innocent people. And they kill them in the most gruesome, deviant ways – in ways that I cannot even describe on these pages for fear of keeping children up at night. Their evil agents are not just in the Middle East; they have come to America. Some people, though, don’t want to believe that. They want to believe that we are safe and that America won’t be subject to these attacks.

But it’s hard to imagine that anyone can truly believe that after 9/11. Weren’t we rudely awakened on that September day, awakened out of our naïve innocence?

Perhaps our politicians are afraid to utter those words “radical Islam” because they are closing their eyes. Maybe they hope that if they don’t say it, then it doesn’t really exist. They’ll make all the excuses in the world, they’ll fall over their selves to give justification to such acts.

Today, on Wednesday, I read a headline, “Why Did He Do It?” Are they kidding?

The massacre was perpetrated on Saturday night and the media still has not gotten the memo that the terrorist announced at the scene and called a news station to pledge his allegiance to the leader of ISIS? Aren’t they the ones who are writing the stories?

So either it’s gross naiveté or it’s a denial of something that they know is very real. Whatever it is, it comes from the very top. When the president of the free world refers to an attack in which 49 of his citizens were murdered as “extremism” (extreme what? Extremely cold? Extremely funny? Extremely cool?), “gun violence” and a “hate crime,” many begin to wonder: how are we going to combat this evil in our midst if we won’t even define who they are? The first step in generating a solution to a problem is pinpointing the problem. We cannot begin to fight those who hunger for our blood if we refuse to admit we know who they are.

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Contents LETTERS TO THE EDITOR

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Op-Ed: NY Suburbs’ Legal War against the Hasidic Community by Michael Fragin & Michael Tobman

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ISRAEL Israel News

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The English Inspector by Rafi Sackville 66 PEOPLE World War II Deceptions, Part I by Avi Heiligman

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JEWISH THOUGHT The Finals Solution by Rabbi Jonathan Gewirtz

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Me and We by Eytan Kobre

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HEALTH & FITNESS The Key Element of Narcissism by Deb Hirschhorn, PhD

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Dear Editor, As a Yeshiva bochur who proudly went to yeshiva on Memorial Day, I am deeply disturbed by the letter you printed from Mr. Alan Ernst. Mr. Ernst says it is “shameful” that some yeshivos were open on Memorial Day. I’m not sure what his kids were doing the whole day (how long does a BBQ take?), but I am confident saying that I spent my day in a better way.

Furthermore, if I was to do something in memory of a Jewish soldier, what greater zechus is there for his neshama than to be amal in Torah?

That is what makes a difference to a Jewish soldier. He could care less if you had a good time at a BBQ in his memory.

Lastly, to answer Mr. Ernst’s final question with another question, where is your hakaras hatov to the yeshiva bochurim and kollel yungerleit? They are the true pillars of our community. They never stop learning even if they have excuses such as a secular holiday.

I’ll sign off with saying, “Mi l’Hashem elay,” whoever wants to do the ratzon Hashem come to me in the beis medrash.

Simcha Weissman Far Rockaway

Dear Editor, It was surreal to hear about the terrorist attack on yom tov, while we were all spending time with our families and largely shut out from the rest of the world. Of course, terrorist attacks are something that we shouldn’t just avoid thinking or talking about, but I do feel that it was probably better for our children’s anxiety levels that they weren’t being inundated with the all-consuming coverage of the horrible attack. This experience highlighted to me the power of Shabbos and yom tov and the beauty of it. We sometimes take our traditions for granted and forget how strong they are.

May we always have the joy of Shabbos and yom tov and, of course, may the entire country and all of Israel be safe and defeat the evil radical Islamists who seek to destroy the world.

Chava D. Dear Editor, I thoroughly enjoy your paper and I appreciate how you try to put a positive spin on things and not focus on the negative. I have noticed, though, that in many papers – and even in your paper – the “letters to the editor” section is filled with gripes, criticisms Continued on page 12

LIFESTYLES Dating Dialogue, Moderated by Jennifer Mann, LCSW

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Job Search Lessons from “Wrong-way” Corrigan by Rabbi Mordechai Kruger 96 Pablo Picasso and Cubism by Rebbetzin Naomi N. Herzberg

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Rocky’s Rant: Postcards from the Henhouse 94 Uncle Moishy Fun Page

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swimmer you should only swim in an area where there is a lifeguard. The risk (the possible loss of your life) is simply not worth the reward (your life).

Sincerely, S. Herbst Dear Editor, I know that people are wondering who they should vote for come November: should it be Hillary, who seems to bungle way too many things, has a hard time saying the truth, and tries way too hard to make others like her? Or should it be Trump, whose venom slips out of his mouth like the drool on a baby’s face and who knows next to nothing about foreign policy and American values?

It’s a hard choice because there’s nothing really enticing about either candidate. One thing is certain, though. This election makes it hard not to see that “lev melachim b’yad Hashem.” Sometimes we can think that a certain candidate will be good for Israel or a good diplomat or will help pull the economy out of its slumber. And then years later we see that that wasn’t the case. Now, it’s obvious that we have no one to rely on except the One Above. Regardless of who wins in November, it’s really Hashem Who is pulling the strings. And He knows what is best for us.

Sincerely, Dov Samet

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and cynicism from readers and those in the frum community. I know that some people find this entertaining, but I do not. After skimming through these letters I felt so sad for us – is this all we have to talk about? Why can’t we be upbeat and bring positivity to others?

I’d like to propose that people should write in something positive

that they noticed or that happened to them. Perhaps they can share a story of inspiration. If that is not feasible, perhaps you would consider a column in which every week you feature a story that can uplift our community. It will train us to see the good in everything and hopefully will make us into more positive people.

In appreciation, Chaya D.

Dear Editor, It looks so inviting. The blue skies.

The near-white sand. The calm water. Boardwalk. Joggers. Ice cream.

Surfers. But it is deadly. Every summer we sit in our homes and hear the faint sounds of dozens of fire engine racing down the 878 and we think to ourselves, “Oh no.”

Don’t be fooled – the ocean will outsmart you. Even if you are a good

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Where are We Safe?

SWAT Teams for Chinese Test Takers

Desperate times lead to desperate measures. Faced with the threat of cheating test takers at this week’s gaokao exams, the Chinese government is sending in SWAT teams to maintain the exam’s integrity. The exam, which dates back to imperial China, is a vigorous two day test which focuses on math, Chinese and a foreign language, and determines the university prospects of many young students, particularly those from rural backgrounds, who otherwise would not be able to compete for the few prized college spots with their urban counterparts.

9.4 million Chinese students have so far taken the gaokao this year.

Getting into a good university is a top priority for many Chinese, whose other alternative is to take a low-paying, blue collar job. Many students in China are under particular pressure as the State’s one-child policy has forced them to become the sole breadwinner to support aging parents and grandparents.

Chinese police have recently busted a ring selling fake exams and they worry about cheaters using mobile devices and substitute exam takers.

Test takers have already been subject to high-tech security measures such as iris scans and surveillance drones.

The SWAT teams add an extra level of scrutiny. Xiong Bingqi, an expert at China’s 21st Century Education Research Institute, said, “There’s absolutely no doubt. Cheating on the gaokao exam diminishes the exam’s authoritativeness, and could even impact the credibility of the government.”

If caught, a cheater will face up to seven years in jail. They say the education given there is unparalleled.

It seems that every time we read the news we are bombarded by evil – terrorist attacks, shoot-outs, bombings, and killings. Is there anywhere in the world that’s safe? True, feeling safe is about perception. And it seems that most people in the world consider Denmark the safest country on the globe.

Sweden and our neighbor to the north, Canada, came in next on the list of the 2016 Best Countries rankings. Regrettably, the United States came in at 20th on the list.

Here are the safest countries in the world, ranked by perception: 1. Denmark 2. Sweden 3. Canada 4. New Zealand 5. Netherlands 6. Austria 7. Australia 8. Luxembourg 9. Germany 10. Ireland

Bangladesh Finally Finds Terrorists

For Bangladeshi bloggers, the past three years have been particularly dangerous. At least 39 activists and freethinking bloggers in the country were murdered since February 2013,

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mostly through gruesome machete attacks to the back of the head. Most recently, four bloggers were killed in May and three so far in June. While it was pretty clear that the attacks were carried out by militant Islamists, authorities were at a loss as to the attackers’ exact identities and even accused the Mossad of being behind the attacks.

But last week, an alert police officer’s arrest of a 23-year-old man set the case open. The man, Saiful Islam, was a teacher at a local madrasa, or Islamic school, and was caught carrying a machete and pistol in his backpack. Days later, the arrest of two of his co-conspirators, who were caught running from the scene of another attack, led to the discovery of two militant groups who recruited and trained young Bangladeshi men to become terrorists. Authorities now say they have identified the leaders of these two groups and are preparing to round them up.

While Bangladesh is officially a secular country, the majority of its citizens are Muslim. Until 2009, the government was run by officials sympathetic to Muslim extremists. The chief of the police counterterrorism unit, Monirul Islam, who assumed

his post in February, said, “In general, people think they have done the right thing – that it’s not unjustifiable to kill.”

Is That a Cigarette, Kim?

“Do as I say not do as I do” was on full display in North Korea when its dictator Kim Jong-Un was recently seen with a cigarette in the midst of a national campaign against smoking. The pudgy 33-year-old, who took over the reclusive regime when his father Kim Jong-Il died in 2011, was seen hiding a burning cigarette while visiting a children’s camp, of all places. Although he is often pictured with a cigarette dangling from his lips in the past, for the past three months he

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Mr. Jong-Un’s health has been closely watched recently, after he ballooned to a hefty 300 pounds, believed to be fueled by a love for cheese.

Hezbollah: Experts at Money Laundering

Iran-backed Hezbollah has found a lucrative proposition in the Latin American drug trade. According to senior DEA officials, Hezbollah is “moving [multiple] tons of cocaine” from South America to Europe and has developed “the most sophisticated money laundering scheme or schemes that we have ever wit-

nessed.”

Agency officials have arrested a number of Hezbollah operatives who had been working together with Colombian drug cartels to move drugs and launder money. The DEA has recently described a South American network “where a large portion of the drug proceeds was found to transit through Lebanon, and a significant percentage of these proceeds are benefiting terrorist organizations, namely Hezbollah.”

Although Hezbollah is wellknown in the U.S. to be a terrorist organization, its full scope of activities has been a subject of debate in Washington. The DEA’s findings highlight how far the group’s activities reach.

“Drug cartels need middlemen, as well as commodity and service providers, for the supply line and delivery to cartels in Colombia, Venezuela and Central America,” Emanuele Ottolenghi, a senior fellow on Iran and illicit finance with the Foundation for Defense of Democracies, told Congress last week. “They need assistance facilitating transit to West Africa before drugs cross the Sahara on their way to Western Europe and enabling the producers, refiners and cartels to launder their revenues and

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This information is in addition to recent findings that Hezbollah has been involved in smuggling people into the United States through contacts in South and Central America.

ISIS Claims Attack that Killed French Officers

It was Monday night in the City of Lights when a man who claimed allegiance to the Islamic State terrorist group stabbed a French police commander and his wife, a police admin-

istrator, to death outside their Paris suburb home. The attacker, Larossi Abballa, was killed by other officers after a showdown with police. He had pledge loyalty to the leader of Islamic State and had a list of other targets, including rappers, journalists, police officers and public officials. Officials say that he filmed the attack with his phone and then livestreamed the video to his Facebook page along with photos. Along with footage of him killing his victims as their small child looked on in horror, he also pledged allegiance to Abu Bakr al-Baghdadi, saying that he was heeding the organization’s call for lone-wolf attacks during the month of Ramadan, which began last week.

He then warned that Europe would become a “graveyard.”

A news agency linked to IS said the attack had been carried out by an “Islamic State fighter,” days after posting a similar claim following the massacre in Orlando, Florida.

Witnesses told investigators the man may have shouted “Allahu akbar” (G-d is greatest) as he killed the policeman outside his home before holing up inside with the woman and

the couple’s three-year-old son.

Abballa, 25, was from Mantes-la-Jolie and was sentenced in 2013 to three years in prison for recruiting fighters for jihad in Pakistan, according to two police officials.

The bloodshed comes as France hosts the Euro 2016 football tournament under tight security – still reeling from jihadist attacks in Paris last November that left 130 people dead.

Highest Paid Athletes

According to the newly released Forbes Highest Paid Athletes list, for the first time since 2001, the world’s

highest paid athlete is not Floyd Mayweather or Tiger Woods. In fact, neither of those two even made the top ten list this year. Rather, the top two are both soccer stars.

Cristiano Ronaldo do Santos Aveiro, who plays for Real Madrid, has a salary of $56 million and endorsements worth $32 million, for a combined $88 million, making him the highest paid athlete in the world. The Portuguese-born soccer star, who was named Ronaldo after Ronald Reagan, is, at the age of 31, already a soccer icon and has broken the vaunted 50-goal mark six seasons in a row.

The top ten highest paid athletes in the world are: 1. Cristiano Ronaldo do Santos Aveiro ($88M) 2. Soccer star Lionel Messi ($81.4M) 3. LeBron James ($77.2M) 4. Roger Federer ($67. 8M) 5. Kevin Durant ($56.2M) 6. Novak Djokovic ($55.8M) 7. Cam Newton ($53.1M) 8. Phil Mickelson ($52.9M) 9. Jordan Spieth ($52.8M) 10. 10. Kobe Bryant ($50M)

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Last week, after the Sarona Market attack when the police finally apprehended the terrorists, all seemed to go back to normal. But for four families, their lives – and the lives of the Jewish nation – will forever be shattered by the loss of their relatives.

On Friday, more than 600 people attended the funeral of Mila Mishayev. Mila, who was 32 when she was murdered, was going to be married in the near future and was waiting for her fiancé when she was attacked.

She managed to call him before she died to tell him that she was shot.

“Facing the dreadful photos from the attack we are left in shock and grief. How can human beings so easily take the lives of other human beings, innocents, whose only ‘sin’ was being Jewish? My heart goes out to you, the Mishayev family, parents Zvi and Ritza, brothers Phoenix and Alex and sister Natali. All of Ashkelon grieves and hurts with you and it is hard to contain the great disaster that befell us,” Ashkelon Mayor Itamar Shimoni said at the funeral.

Another one of the four victims, Ben Gurion University professor Michael Feige, 58, from Ramat Gan, was buried at the cemetery in Rehovot on Friday afternoon. Michael was a father of three.

Earlier Friday, hundreds of people turned out at Yarkon cemetery in Petah Tikva for the funeral of Ilana Naveh. She was at Sarona Market to celebrate her 40th birthday.

“I wanted to believe that when they took me to the hospital it would be okay,” said Shiran Naveh, one of 39-year-old Naveh’s four daughters.

“They told me in the morning [that

you had died], but it didn’t surprise me, I already knew that night. I wanted them to wake me from this nightmare, tell me that it didn’t really happen, but it’s not a dream, it’s real.”

She continued: “Give me the strength to fill your massive shoes. I promise to do it in the best way possible. Watch over us, Mom, we love you very much.”

MK Rabbi Moshe Gafni, who performed Naveh’s marriage ceremony, also delivered a eulogy.

“Seventeen years ago I stood with you under your chuppah, I blessed your marriage, and who would have thought I would have to mourn you?” he lamented.

The fourth Israeli killed in the Tel Aviv attack, Ido Ben Ari, was buried on Thursday. Ido was a father of two whose wife was also injured in the attack. He served in the elite Sayeret Matkal unit during his IDF service and was working in a senior position at The Coca-Cola Company’s Israel branch.

Since last October, 33 Israelis and four others have been killed and hundreds more injured in the spate of attacks, though the violence had dramatically waned of late.

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Average Salary at Record High

According to figures released by the Central Bureau of Statistics last week, the average Israeli salary in March 2016 reached record levels of 10,128 New Israeli Shekels (NIS). The crossing of the NIS 10,000 threshold has been brought about, in large measure, due to the high distribution of work bonuses.

The average monthly salary rose between January and March this year by 4.7 percent, reflecting a continuation of the 3.9 percent increase preceding it between October and December 2015.

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How Did the Terrorists Get into Israel?

Israel to Head UN Committee After the tragic attack at Sarona Market in Tel Aviv last week, in which four Israelis were murdered, many were wondering how the Pal-

For the first time ever, and after months of behind-the-scenes diplomatic struggles, Israel’s Ambassador to the United Nations Danny Danon was elected to head the UN Legal

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On Friday, security authorities revealed that the two terrorists, cousins Muhammad and Khalid Muhamra from the West Bank town of Yatta, left their village just south of Hebron and made their way to the Israeli town of Meitar through a wide gap in the security barrier.

The two were already armed, having purchased their weapons – Carl Gustav automatic firearms – in their hometown through an intermediary, who was ultimately arrested by police.

Once on the Israeli side in Meitar, the cousins were assisted by a Palestinian man working illegally in Israel who drove them to the Bedouin town of Segev Shalom, southeast of Beersheba. This is where, according to the investigation, they changed into the formal attire – suits and ties – which they wore when they carried out the attack.

Dressed and armed, they took a taxi from Segev Shalom to Beersheba, and another cab to Tel Aviv’s Sarona Market where, after entering and ordering dessert at the Max Brenner cafe, they got up and fired their weapons at the Israeli customers around them, killing four and wounding 16.

A cab ride from Beersheba to Tel Aviv takes less than two hours and costs approximately NIS 400 (about $100) According to a statement from the Prime Minister’s Office on Thursday, work to plug the gaps in the security fence in the Tarkumiya-Meitar area will begin on June 28 and the budget has already been allocated.

Israel has also deployed additional forces to the area until the work is completed.

Following the deadly attack, the Israeli government ordered a series of measures in response, including the sealing off of the West Bank and Gaza and the revocation of work permits from family members of the terrorists.

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Despite this positive news, twothirds of Israel’s population employed in the workforce receives below the average national wage.

So how come the numbers are up? Those who work in the information and communication industries are leading in the salary rankings, boasting handsome monthly wages of NIS 20,960. These workers predominantly hail from professions in wire communications, wireless and satellite industries, maintenance and operating internet sites, programming and servicing computers.

The second highest paid professions are those of the mining industry, quarrying and gas production which pull in an average of NIS 20,493 per month. These professionals are closely followed by banking and insurance employees receiving an average of NIS 20,491.

Surprisingly, those employed in electrical companies, who for years occupied first place, have fallen to fourth place, receiving a monthly average of NIS 19,336.

Trailing last place are those employed in food and services industries such as waiters, hotel room attendants and receptionists who receive pay checks averaging a meager NIS 4,607 (below the minimum NIS 4,650). Many of these workers are employed in part time positions.

Earning narrowly above them are workers employed in delivery services, security guards and cleaners who receive around NIS 5,338.

Farmers earn NIS 6,764 while teachers, despite recent reforms, close the month with an average of NIS 7,376.

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“We will not allow dictatorships and anti-Israel countries to harm our standing in the international community. Those who tried to block our appointment would be well advised to take note of the jurisdiction of this committee, as they have much to learn about international law,” he continued, “We are a full member of the UN and any attempt to deny us of our legal rights in this organization will be met with uncompromising rejection.”

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Committee (officially named the Sixth Committee) on Monday. The committee deals with sensitive topics including fighting global terrorism. .

This is a historic event, as it marks the first time an Israeli representative will head a permanent UN committee since its induction into the organiza-

tion in 1949 109 nations voted for Danon (the process only included votes cast for a candidate for the position, and did not include ‘nay’ votes). Both the Palestinian and the Iranian representatives worked to convince representatives not to cast their vote for Danon.

The Israeli victory came after a long, complex diplomatic struggle

by Israeli representatives worldwide.

Their main opponents were the Arab nations and the Organization of Islamic Cooperation (OIC).

“I am proud to be the first Israeli elected to this position,” said Ambas-

When we’re looking to spend some time away from the rat race, we generally head to Israel – or maybe Miami for some sun. But where do Israelis go when they go on vacation?

It seems that Israelis are heading to Turkey in droves. Despite Turkey’s Recep Tayyip Erdoğan consistently spewing venom at the Jewish State, Turkey is Israelis’ number one destination.

A new report from the Israel Airports Authority shows that, in the first five months of 2016, 483,000 flights have traveled from Ben Gurion to Istanbul, marking a rise of 12.6 percent from 2015. These flights went to the Turkish metropolis’s Sabiha Gökçen International and Atatürk Airports on

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Most of the other passengers to these airports are on layovers and continue on to destinations in Europe, the Far East and North America.

Not interested in Turkey? The second most popular destination from Ben Gurion airport is New York (both JFK and Newark), with 477,000 travelers flying there over the five-month period of 2016 – a 5.5 percent increase from last year. London’s myriad of airports trailed in third place with some 378,000 travelers flying from Ben Gurion Airport (an increase of 5 percent). Moscow and Rome are the next most popular destinations for Israeli vacationers.

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It’s almost time for summer camp, and all over the U.S. kids will leave their urban surroundings to head to places with names like Camp Mataoka and Kippewa. For the more athletically inclined, there’s one run

by Nike and there’s music camps for future Beethovens. In Gaza, however, kids will be treated to a summer held in the Al-Quds Intifada Camp, run by Hamas.

Hamas has created the camp in an effort to “educate” its youth and instill in them a desire for Intifada. Children are taught about martyrdom and “the Occupation” and learn to play games of jihad.

The Al Quds Intifada is the term used by Hamas to describe the latest wave of Palestinian terror against civilian Israelis.

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It is the deadliest mass shooting in America’s history.

On Saturday night, around 2am, when around 300 people were still inside the nightclub in Orlando, a man approached with a 9mm handgun and an AR-15 rifle with large capacity magazines. It is unclear how he got inside, when there are usually security guards and bouncers in the front. What is clear is that the terrorist shot and killed 49 people and wounded 53 others callously and with calculated calmness.

At first, people didn’t hear the shots, since the music was so loud.

But as people close to Omar Mateen began to fall, screams and terror took over the crowd. People ran for safety; others dropped to the floor.

An off-duty police officer shot at Mateen. The 29-year-old son of Afghan immigrants fired back and headed deeper into the club, mechanically shooting at more people.

“He started shooting everybody,” said Tony Marrero, 32, who was at the nightclub, Pulse. He tried to play dead under a sofa. He was shot in the back but ultimately survived.

Witnesses said that the shots just kept coming. It almost seemed as if there were more than one gunman in the club.

Finally, police arrived and Mateen barricaded himself in the bathroom with four hostages. Dozens of survivors fled the building, gulping in the fresh air and freedom. Others were still trapped inside.

Just before 2:30am Mateen began a series of calls with 911 in which the terrorist “said he was doing this for the leader of ISIS, whom he named and pledged allegiance to,” FBI Director James Comey said. Mateen also “appeared to claim solidarity

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went with him to purchase the weapons and drove him to the club. Authorities are considering arresting her for not revealing plans on the attack.

Mateen was known to the FBI and was interrogated twice and let go both times. He visited Saudi Arabia twice.

In 2013, co-workers reported Mateen to the FBI in 2013 after he had made “inflammatory and contradictory” statements, including a claim that he had family connections to al Qaeda and membership in the Shi’ite militant group Hezbollah, a bitter rival.

He is also known to have said that he wished the authorities would raid his apartment and assault his wife and child so he could martyr himself.

He was a frequent visitor to the club at which the massacre took place.

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with” the brothers who bombed the 2013 Boston Marathon and with a fellow former Fort Pierce resident who became a suicide bomber in Syria on behalf of the Nusra Front, an ISIS rival. Mateen was a security guard at another place in Orlando.

Finally, around 3am, police decided to storm the club. At around

4:15am, police created a hole in the wall. Many people were able to get out. Mateen exited through there and then was killed by police in an exchange of gunfire.

Sadly, 49 people lost their lives in the carnage. 53 people were wounded.

On Sunday, President Obama ad-

dressed the nation. Some criticized the president for refusing to mention Islamic terrorism in his speech. He said it was an “attack on all of us and on the fundamental values of equality and dignity that define us as a country.”

Slowly facts have come out about the suspect. His wife said that she

In a sense, we should have seen this coming. At least twelve of the Guantanamo Bay detainees who were released back to Afghanistan recently have been identified as being part of attacks on U.S. troops there which killed about half-a-dozen Americans.

Paul Lewis, who oversees Guantanamo issues at the Defense Department, admitted to this back in March, and many lawmakers are seeing the admission as further proof that the president’s plans to close the facility is unwise. Lewis has refused to provide further detail on the attacks, and so have other Pentagon officials.

An unnamed source has confirmed that nine of the twelve terrorists are either dead or back in U.S. custody.

The official added: “Because many of these incidents were large-scale firefights in a war zone, we cannot always distinguish whether Americans were killed by the former detainees or by others in the same fight.”

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public. Many members of Congress and the Senate have been increasingly frustrated by the difficulty in obtaining information from members of the Obama administration. “There appears to be a consistent and concerted effort by the Administration to prevent Americans from knowing the truth regarding the terrorist activities and affiliations of past and present Guantanamo detainees,” Senator Kelly Ayotte wrote in a letter to President Obama this week.

$1,250 to Do Nothing

it means to live in a utopian society.

A raffle held by the organization My Basic Income awarded a man named Edwin from Florida $1,250 a month for the next year just for living. The group aims to build a society where everyone is granted free cash stipends from the government.

“Our mission is to create a world of universal prosperity and innovation, by ensuring basic economic security. No one should be held back from their aspirations, passions, and dreams,” the advocacy group says on its website. “We believe that advocating for, and experimenting with, Basic Income is the best way to practically tackle the problem of economic insecurity and advance our mission.”

How the group intends to have its universal program financed is still unknown. But it made at least one man happy.

Top 10 Places to Retire in the U.S. Comrades in San Francisco have found a way to show the world what

Conde Nast Traveler is out with its list for the 2016 top places to retire in the U.S. “Simple,” you say. “Mi-

ami Beach, Miami Beach or Miami Beach.” Well, actually, Miami isn’t even on the list. (Don’t worry, your condo is still very valuable.)

Coming in at number one is Asheville, North Carolina. Retirees can hike the Blue Ridge Mountains; kayak at Lake Junaluska; and golf on world class courses. The average home price is $231,900.

Rounding out the top ten list, in order, are Santa Fe, New Mexico; Carmel-by-the-Sea, California; Naples, Florida; Sedona, Arizona; Sarasota, Florida; Charleston, South Carolina; Santa Barbara, California; Savanna, Georgia; and Napa Valley, California.

House Republicans Take Stance Against PC

Republicans in the House of Representatives took a stand against political correctness and defeated a democratic measure to remove the words “illegal alien” from the Library of Congress catalogs and replace it with the term “noncitizen.” The bill by Texas Democrat Rep. Joaquin Castro, titled “CHANGE: Correcting Hurtful and Alienating Names in Government Expression,” was defeated on a party-line vote, with all Republicans voting against the bill and all Democrats voting for the bill.

The vote came as the bill’s sponsor, Rep. Castro, is undoubtedly trying to shore up his position as a viable vice presidential candidate for Hillary Clinton. Congressman

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Joaquin Castro and his identical twin brother, HUD Secretary Julian Castro, are both considered possible vice presidential candidates. According to recent reports, the brothers – first generation Americans, born to Mexican immigrants – have been cramming Rosetta Stone courses in an effort to learn Spanish. Oddly, the two did not grow up bilingual and are frantically trying to avoid a scenario where they are picked for their Latino credentials and they turn out unable to speak Spanish. That would make them look...loco.

Not Enough Time will Make you Happy

The old cartoon of the content person lounging on a backyard hammock

may really be a myth. Researchers recently discovered a higher correlation between people who felt strapped for time and happiness; as opposed to people who felt cash strapped, but time-content.

In a study across 4,400 people, researchers found that two-thirds of respondents would rather have more money than time, but the minority that needed more time than money also reported feeling the happiest.

The researchers note that this may be related to a famous 2010 study that once a person reaches an annual income of $75,000, his or her emotional well-being does not improve as much with additional income.

Of course one can argue with the study’s findings that people who need more time over money probably have enough money to begin with and that is the reason why they are happier, but even when the researchers studied a group of people with the same level of income, the results were the same.

The happier group exhibited certain common characteristics, such as being older, married and having children.

After all, happiness is a state of mind.

Trump Bans WaPost

Donald Trump’s war against the “biased media” continues as he now revoked the credentials of the Washington Post; its reporters will no longer have access to Trump’s campaign events.

Trump banned the paper, which he called “phony and dishonest,” after the paper wrote in a headline: “Donald Trump suggests President Obama was involved in Orlando shooting.”

The corresponding article criticized Trump’s statement on Fox News: “We’re led by a man who is... either not tough, not smart, or has something else in mind.” Trump went on to say, “People can’t believe that President Obama is acting the way he acts and can’t even mention the words radical Islamic terrorism.

There’s something going on. It’s inconceivable.”

The Post quickly changed the headline after Trump’s announcement, but it was too little, too late.

The Washington Post’s executive editor responded to the ban by saying that the ban is “nothing less than a repudiation of the role of a free and independent press.” He promised to continue to cover Trump in an “honorably, honestly, accurately, energetically, and unflinchingly” manner.

The Washington Post joins other left-wing media outlets that have been blocked from Trump events, such as BuzzFeed, Politico, Univision and The Huffington Post. After Trump announced the ban against The Washington Post, The Huffington Post tweeted: “Welcome to the Club.”

As they say, misery loves company.

More Families Crossing the Border Illegal immigrants are no longer just breaking the law by jumping

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the border; many of them are also kidnapping children. Faced with the knowledge that the government may not detain illegals if they are part of a family unit, many of them are seizing children to bring with them as they cross the border.

“When people now know that when I come as a family unit, I won’t be apprehended and detained — we now have people being abducted so that they can be deemed as family units, so that they can avoid detention,” Leon Fresco, a deputy assistant attorney general who handles immigration cases, told the 9th Circuit Court of Appeals.

Peter Schey, a lawyer who represents immigrant families, claims the accusations are unfounded. “We know zero instances of that, and there’s zero support for that any-

where in the record,” he said. “If they know of any such instances, I would think they would bring the actual instances to the attention of the court.”

For years, much of the focus has been on unaccompanied minors who have managed to enter the United States. But now, more attention is going to family units that enter the U.S. illegally. How to handle them is being hotly debated. The Obama administration has opened up detention facilities to house them and ultimately send them back to the country of origin – hoping it will deter them – and others – from coming to the United States.

Immigrant rights advocates, though, have said that the detention centers were unsuitable for young children. Last year, Judge Dolly M. Gee agreed, and ordered all of the children quickly processed and released. In cases where they came with a parent, she said it usually made sense to release the parent too, because that was in the best interests of the children.

Since that verdict, there has been a surge of family units crossing the border, just as the Obama administration warned after the verdict was announced.

Town for Sale

How do you say “sale” in Italian?

Well, do I have a vendita for you!

Francesco Garafolo has been having a hard time keeping his town in San Sossio Baronia in southern Italy afloat. He’s been mayor for seven years and he’s throwing his hands up in the air for all to see.

Recently, Garafolo took his frustration to Facebook and posted: “Wanted: a rich Chinese investor to come and take over the town,” adding that this was due to “perennial lack of funds.” He also said that he would continue to be mayor if the

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new owners would need him to continue in the position.

“I should point out that the cost would be slightly lower than that of [football clubs] Inter and Milan.”

Appealing to buyers, Garafolo believes that the town would make a “very profitable investment,” saying the region had a great environment, and strong tourism potential.

Despite this wonderful offer that you can’t refuse, the mayor admits that his Facebook plea was really just a ploy to garner attention for the cash-strapped village.

Speaking to Italian paper il Fatto Quotidiano, the mayor said, “I will not sell my land. I just want to draw attention to ensure services to my people. It has become difficult even to plug a hole in the street or afford to mow the grass.

“I thought I’d post my ad in hopes of finding a way to ensure a more prosperous future in my municipality. The post was created by a deep unease, frustration and sense of helplessness in dealing with the daily newspaper, [and due to] lack of cash liquidity.”

Perhaps he should find another job.

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There is nothing like a good neighbor. You can trust them to watch your kids when you head out for a bit, will lend you eggs, sugar and a cup of oil, and will keep an eye out when prowlers are about. But here’s one man we’re happy doesn’t live in our neck of the woods.

Mark Tuson is a World War II fanatic. He’s such a fanatic that he kept a “safe” bomb in his Lancashire garden for a decade. But recently, the 26-year-old was shocked when police and Army explosive experts raced to his home to detonate the bomb – which was actually live.

His uncle had found the bomb on a beach and Mark had always thought it was safe because it was missing the fuse. After ten years of adorning his garden, he called police because his mother pointed out that it may not be so safe. It took the police three hours to detonate the explosive.

What a live wire.

What’s with Z Bridge?

Need to head to New Jersey? Well, it’ll cost you. The toll to cross the Verrazano Bridge is a whopping $15.

Makes the trip even more painful.

But now, it’s been revealed that although we’ve been crossing that bridge for many years, we’ve actually been spelling it wrong for all that time. Turns out that the bridge is named after a 16th century Italian explorer Giovanni da Verrazzano – with two Zs. The state authority that con-

trols the span acknowledges the misspelling but has stubbornly held to the one Z position it’s taken for years.

Seems that it would be too expensive the change all the signs, brochures, maps and websites. Changing the name of New York’s Triborough Bridge to the Robert F. Kennedy Bridge in 2008, for example, reportedly cost the state $4 million.

“This is a travesty,” said Robert Nash, a 21-year-old Brooklyn college student who started an online petition to add the other Z to North America’s longest suspension bridge. “To honor a man and name a bridge after him and not spell his name right?”

Nash, whose mother is Italian and father half-Italian, said Italian-Americans everywhere deserve better. “We were always proud of being of Italian descent, and this rich culture shaped who I am,” he says.

What if, he says, the George Washington Bridge or John F. Kennedy International Airport were spelled wrong? Would Americans stand for it?

The reason for the wrong spelling is unclear. According to Gay Talese, who chronicled the span’s construction for The New York Times and in his book The Bridge, the origin of the error was the original 1959 building contract, which spelled Verrazzano’s name with one Z. “We’re talking about a typo and everybody let it go,” Talese said. “Nobody noticed because nobody really knew who Verrazzano was then.”

Seems like it’s water under the bridge now.

A Cookie in Ink

Want to know a great chocolate chip cookie recipe? Well, this man from Minnesota is so proud of it and would love to share. In fact, he’s so pleased – and so sure of this recipe – that he had it tattooed on his leg.

The list of ingredients is written neatly in script. Below, there’s a single line: Bake at 350 degrees for 12 minutes.

Wonder what he likes to eat for snack.

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“We value our partnership with the Colombian Football Federation and apologize for our mistake. We removed these graphics and are quickly installing new versions.” She said the mistake only happened in the U.S. Despite the error, Colombia’s football team appears to have taken the controversy in stride. Colombia beat Paraguay 2-1 on Tuesday night to progress to the Copa America quarter finals.

Dig for Victory It’s a mistake that happened only in the U.S. and it’s possible that no one really noticed.

Recently, Adidas misspelled the name of the country Colombia on football promotional images and wrote the word “Columbia” instead.

Some people, though, did notice the error and pointed it out.

One Twitter user wrote: “Seriously, @adidasfootball – IT’S COLOMBIA, not Columbia! Colossal mistake for such a brand. Unacceptable” A spokeswoman for Adidas said:

Working in a graveyard is a solemn position. But last week, some gravediggers in Hungary had some fun when they competed to prove they were the fastest and best in the business.

Taking their places at plots selected by pulling names out of a hard hat,

18 two-man teams waited for an official to shout “Start!” before shoveling at the ground to dig a precise, regulation-size grave as quickly as possible.

“I don’t think this is morbid,” the Hungarian Undertakers’ Association’s deputy chairman, Zoltan Juracsik, said at the national grave-digging contest at the wooded cemetery in Debrecen, Hungary’s biggest city after Budapest. “This is a profession, and the colleagues who toil in competition today are proud and deserve our respect.”

The winners finished in less than a half hour. Others took almost an hour.

The graves were then judged on neatness and whether they complied with the regulation size: 200 cm long, 80 cm wide and 160 cm deep (7 feet by 2 feet 7 inches by 5 feet). The winning team wins a place in an international tournament against Poland, Slovakia and the Czech Republic.

The contest is meant to improve the prestige of grave digging and attract young men to a job that must still be done by hand in crowded graveyards where mechanical diggers cannot fit.

One of the competitors, Csaba Halasz, 21, began by taking a summer

job after high school. Although he graduated with a degree in physical education, he stayed in the business.

“This job chose me,” he said. “It’s hard but it’s worth it. Relatives come and thank me every time. The profession just lured me in.”

Seems like he digs it.

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Community MAY’s Budding Engineers Present at CIJE Science Fair

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s part of their progressive STEM Program, Mesivta Ateres Yaakov fielded multiple teams from the 9th and 10th grades to present projects at the Center for Initiatives in Jewish Education Fair held at HAFTR Middle School.

Projects ranged from a laser harp and a firefighting robot to a motion controlled shower and a soccer video game. The Mesivta is incredibly proud of the students who worked tirelessly on their projects and the faculty who mentored them.

“It’s been four years since we began our pre-engineering course, complementing our STEM program,” commented Assistant Menahel/Assistant Principal Rabbi Yossi Bennett, “This year in particular the projects were simply astounding and

so inventive. We really have to thank CIJE, their entire staff and, particularly, our CIJE liaison, Mrs. Judy Leibowitz, for their continued support of this program.”

Shabbos it is a little harder to complete the 100 Brachos as you only recite 80 brachos between davening and all meals. The remaining 20 brachos can be completed with extra food and brachos from the Torah.

The only day a person completes 100

brachos just from davening is Rosh Chodesh Iyar and Sivan.

The boys received a raffle ticket for each day completed and two tickets for Shabbos.

Meah Brachos Winners

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For two weeks, the boys kept track of the 100 brachos they made daily with the charts on meahbrachos.com. Picture above Yeshiva Ketana Rebbeim Rabbi Eisikovic and

Rabbi Finkel with their students who won the contest.

On a regular weekday, a person recites 90 brachos from Shacharis, Mincha, and Maariv, and can complete the remaining 10 brachos between meals and personal needs. On

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Scenes from the White Shul’s 94th Anniversary Dinner The Dinner took place at the Sands on June 7. Shlomo and Adina Reich were the guests of honor; Gabe and Bonnie Kaszovitz received the Legacy Award.

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Young Authors Celebrate Achievements

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riting is an essential skill, and we all know how important it is for a student’s future academic career and for any job they pursue. With this in mind, Shulamith Lower Division introduced the Writing Workshop program, under the direction of Mrs. Susie Garber, over five years ago. Mrs. Garber works in classrooms with teachers and students in grades 1-4 on a weekly basis. Teachers then follow up during the week. The program is based on the philosophy of Teacher’s College Columbia University Reading and Writing Project. It complements and works with the Journey’s Reading Program to create an outstanding literacy program for Shulamith Lower Division. The program covers Common Core Writing Standards, but it goes way beyond to bring out the creative voice of each student author and to instill in her confidence and a love of writing. Students work at their own individualized level and choose their own topics to write about.

In early June, each class celebrated their published writing in the elegant tent erected on the Cedarhurst campus. Parents and grandparents were invited to this special event.

To begin, students marched into the tent and stood on risers. They sang

original songs about writing, and recited a poem. They then invited their parents to accompany them to their class table, where writing portfolios filled with the year’s finished writing was displayed. Each grade focused on different genres of writing: the second graders published memoirs, fictional animal books and poetry books; third graders published poetry books, fractured fairy tales, and Informational how-to books; the fourth graders published persuasive essays, personal narratives, and poetry. Students in every grade learned craft skills such as using sensory details and strong verbs.

The Authors’ Tea included a gallery walk. After parents and grandparents enjoyed their own daughter’s portfolio, they accompanied their daughter to view the other students’ work. Students wrote compliments to each other about their writing, and each girl went home with a list of compliments and her writing portfolio. Girls and their guests enjoyed tea and cookies. A special treat were the frosted cookies that said “#1 Shulamith Author.”

There was so much excitement about writing in the air. Parents and grandparents expressed delight at their children’s achievements, and the children went home with pride in their accomplishments.

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Mariano Rivera Pitches In for OHEL

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he summer calls for grilling, chilling and baseball. Then what do you get when you have OHEL, friends, family, an amazing open backyard, BBQ, and a Yankees legend in attendance?

An awesome kickoff to the summer season!

Mariano Rivera, former pitcher for the Yankees and future hall of Famer, came out to support OHEL at the exclusive pre-Father’s Day barbeque at the home of Da-

OHEL’s Foster Care program also had the privilege to meet and take photos with Mariano.

At the open BBQ, the “OHEL Red Carpet” was ready for OHEL friends to take photos with Mariano.

Guests came from as far as Teaneck and Elizabeth, New Jersey.

Participants took part in a special Mariano Rivera Q&A session with Aaron Jungreis as MC. The Q&A gave a chance for attendees to sub-

Mariano Rivera poses with Jonathan & Joshua Yelizarov

vid & Leah Brecher in Lawrence, NY, who graciously hosted the event.

The evening kicked off with a special meet and greet for VIPs who had the chance to take part in one-on-one time with the Yankees legend, complete with an appetizing sushi bar courtesy of Schick Caterers. Fans took pictures, mingled, and acquired autographs on limited-edition commemorative OHEL Mariano Rivera baseballs.

Afterwards there was a memorable “baseball toss” where kids got to have a “catch” with Mariano, truly the thrill of a lifetime for any young baseball fan! Children that were formerly part of

mit questions for Mariano to answer, ranging from professional to personal. He opened the session by speaking about his admiration for OHEL’s work, his humble roots in Panama, his journey to becoming a Yankees pitcher, his dedication to religion, staying in shape, and, of course, baseball. He also reflected on various highlights from his Yankees’ career such as being the last player wear #42, favorite baseball players, going from starter to reliever, and dealing with the pressure of being in the “bullpen.”

When asked “Who taught you to throw the cutter?”

Mariano, without missing a beat, responded, “I didn’t

learn to throw the cutter; the L-rd gave it to me” Aaron Jungreis, speaking for the audience and the Jewish community at large, complimented Mariano by stating that “the people in this community respect that you are so religious, besides that you have so much dignity and that you’re the best closer ever, but you’re so humble and modest and we all respect you for that.”

Robert Katz, OHEL’s Chief Development Officer, reflected that “in their remarks, both David Brecher and Aaron Jungreis perfectly captured the essence of Mariano Rivera and that’s why we chose him to work with him, in order to truly benefit OHEL’s children and families.”

In the areas of confidence and sports performance, Mariano related that “being nervous is a part of being a human being,” making issues such as anxiety and self-esteem very prevalent, even for a Yankees pitcher. OHEL offers individuals many services and opportunities to help overcome personal obstacles in order to reach their fullest potential.

As a special surprise gift for the host, Mariano threw a closing pitch to David Brecher, which David caught and will keep forever. The hundreds in attendance all stood and cheered.

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Mariano Rivera throws a pitch to host David Brecher

sors of the event were FM Home Loans, Rosewood Realty Group, and Omni Managed Health.

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Ateres Yaakov Grand Siyum – Celebrating 100 Siyumim!

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ast Thursday evening, Mesivta Ateres Yaakov celebrated its annual Grand Siyum, recognizing 75 talmidim who completed 99 masechtos of Shas, or sedarim of Mishnayos, over the course of the school year. The Menahel, Rabbi Mordechai Yaffe, was mishtatef with his talmidim by being masayem Masechtas Gittin, bringing the grand total of siyumim to 100.

Over 150 parents, grandparents and relatives were invited to celebrate this achievement together with the masaymim and their Rabbeim. Upon arrival, a digital journal with messages from parents and Raebbeim to the masaymim was displayed and included pictures of the masaymim learning throughout the year.

After a beautiful buffet, Rabbi Yaffe opened the evening commenting on the tremendous pride the Mesivta has in these talmidim. Listing each boy and “his masechtos” by name, he added that the Torah that the talmidim in the Mesivta learn is Toras emes and Toras chaim. Unlike any other discipline, it inculcates a way of life.

Rabbi Yaffe then introduced Yaakov Eckhaus, a senior who completed Masechtas Baba Metziah, the yeshiva’s masechta this year and Makos (on his spare time and over Shabbosim) who led the 75 masaymim in the Hadran – a huge communal ac-

complishment! The yeshiva rewarded each and every mesayem with a gift. Particularly noteworthy were the talmidim who completed the Yeshiva’s masechta, Rabbi Orlansky’s 12th grade shiur who participated in the popular V’ha’arev Nah program and completed Masechtas Ta’anis, and 10th grader Daniel Trapunsky who completed Baba Metziah, Baba Kama, Beitzah, Sukkah and Makos!

The guest speaker for the event was Rabbi Elysha Sandler, a MAY senior Rebbe, and also Rav of Kehillas Bais Yisroel in Far Rockaway, who will be assuming the position of Mashgiach Ruchani of Yeshivas Sh’or

Yoshuv next year. Rabbi Sandler spoke about the constant dedication, commitment and diligence necessary to be mesayem a masechta, complimenting the talmidim and noting their respect for chashivus haTorah.

The Mesivta thanks Assistant Menahel Rabbi Yossi Bennett for organizing the event. Rabbi Bennett commented, “We are so impressed and inspired by the amount of learning accomplished this z’man. In preparation for kabbalas HaTorah, we were so fortunate to be able to celebrate this achievement with our talmidim and their families.”

The evening closed with leibidik

dancing in joyous celebration of Torah.

Shevach Students Create a Kiddush Hashem at Niagara Falls

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uring the first week of June, the senior class of Shevach High School had a memorable graduation trip to Niagara Falls.

True, they had a wonderful time at all the sights they visited. True, they were inspired by the majestic beauty of all they viewed. True, they gained chizuk from the local rav’s words.

However, in this writer’s opinion, the most memorable moment was hearing the reaction of a worker on the Maid of the Mist boatride, upon seeing and hearing the comportment of the Shevach students. “I’ve seen many school groups on this boat.

You should be proud of your girls.

Now I see that there is hope for the next generation.” What a kiddush

Hashem!

This special trip was organized by 12th grade mechaneches Mrs. Cypora Kleinkaufman, together with the class presidents, Aleeza Arieh, Hila Arshadnia, Shani Hertzberg and Breindy Oppenheimer. It was chaperoned by Shevach staff members Mrs. Chaya Swerdloff and Ms. Sara Nasirov. Every detail was thought of and provided for, from a set of Tehillim Mechulok to add meaning to the bus ride, to delicious midnight snacks.

Yocheved Wagner, a Shevach senior, shared with us the highlights of their trip. “On Tuesday, the first day of the trip, we settled into the hotel and then went on a night tour of the

American Niagara Falls. The beauty of the Falls filled us with the feeling of “mah rabu maasecha Hashem.” In a quiet area near the Falls, we ended the evening with a heartfelt kumzitz.

“On Wednesday, we crossed the border into Canada, and enjoyed Canada’s wonderland. We watched the stunning Canadian Falls, and then went on to the Chabad House in Niagara, where we were treated to a barbeque supper and a question-and-answer session with the rabbi. To end the fun-filled day, we bought souvenirs and watched the night-time fireworks over the Falls.

“On Thursday we were able to get closer to the Falls. On the Maid of the Mist we enjoyed the feel of the mist

and the wind of the falling water. In the Cave of the Winds, we stood under the Falls and felt the strength of the water. The climax was the Whirlpool Jet, a fast boat which rode the rapids of the Niagara River in a thrilling and wet ride! We then boarded the bus to head back to Shevach, truly inspired by the niflaos haborei.”

This was truly a trip to remember.

The Shevach staff, and the Queens Community at large, can well be proud of their product. We wish the Shevach students hatzlacha as they near graduation, and are confident that they will continue to be mekadeish sheim Shamayim with their every action.

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New Life at the CAHAL Class at HANC

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earning really comes alive in the CAHAL kindergarten class at the Hebrew Academy of Nassau County. In their science lessons about plant and animal life in spring, the children not only learned so many new concepts and vocabulary words, but they also experienced the miracles of Hashem firsthand. The children planted lima beans on paper towels in clear cups rather than in soil in order to be able to watch the germination process right before their eyes. After just three days the excitement began as the seeds shed their coats and roots began to grow. The children watched daily and charted their seeds’ prog-

ress in their science journals as root hairs, stems and leaves all sprouted on the new seedlings. When the plants were ready for transplanting the children decorated pretty pots which they then filled with soil and took home to their families as a Shavuot present.

However, that is not all that is growing in this very unique classroom. Four weeks ago, 12 tiny caterpillars arrived in clear plastic cups

filled with special food to nourish them. The children watched with great anticipation as the caterpillars ate and ate and ate and grew for 10 days until they went into their chrysalises to do metamorphosis. What a thrill when the Painted Lady Butterflies emerged.

The children developed a strong sense of appreciation and value for Hashem’s miracles in life as well as much responsibility for their

living things, remembering daily to water their plants and give their butterflies fruit and sugar water to simulate the nectar they drink in the outside world. After enjoying the butterflies in their nets for a week, the children agreed that they would be happier if they could fly free. So eleven brave kindergartners sang “Shalom parparim” as they released their butterflies to the skies.

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JV Basketball Champions – Again

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ongratulations to the Junior Varsity Basketball Team of Mesivta Ateres Yaakov on their championship victory over Yeshiva Heichal HaTorah of Teaneck.

The well-attended game, which was held at Lawrence Middle School last week, was a competitive yet menchlich ending to an amazing season.

MAY would like to express its gratitude to Irv Bader, Judah Rhine, and the entire Young Israel Basketball Program for organizing and overseeing an amazing season.

A special yasher ko’ach goes to 2nd time championship winning coach Josh Friedman (2012) for his tireless and herculean efforts in leading this team to this milestone.

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Blackout Brunch Proves to be an Eye-Opening Experience

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individuals typically perceive and process different experiences.

Rabbi Dr. Wallace Greene, a master educator and a long-time advocate for disabled individuals, was the featured speaker at the event and spoke about a number of Talmudic sages and other famous individuals who achieved greatness without the gift of sight.

“Despite their limitations, blind and partially sighted people are very intelligent and capable,” said Rabbi Dr. Greene. “We know everyday people who did not let their blindness stand in their way. We need to move beyond seeing blind people as needy, toward a view that all people have needs. The blessing of Poke’ach Ivrim is not just about gratitude for our ability to see, but we need to open our eyes and really see and understand how important is the work of the Jerusalem Institute for the Blind.”

Following the Blackout Brunch, some of the attendees reflected on the unique sensory event that they experienced.

“It was magical seeing so much with my eyes covered,” said Leo Brandstatter. “Feeling the touch of apprehension melt away in favor of excitement was an incredible sensation. By experiencing the world in this way, we all gained a fresh perspective on the world of the blind and visually impaired.”

“The Blackout Brunch experience made me especially grateful for the gift of sight,” noted Esther Fishman.

“I realized, at the brunch, how much time I normally spend observing my surroundings and people-watching. Had I not been blindfolded, I

those who are permanently in the dark,” commented Rabbi Dr. Wallace Greene.

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ining in the dark is not the way most people envision spending their Sunday morning. Yet, for all those that gathered at the Fifth Avenue Synagogue in New York City on May 22, the experience of eating in complete darkness is something that they will never forget.

The Blackout Brunch, which was presented by the Jerusalem Institute for the Blind to benefit the visually impaired in Israel, enabled participants to begin comprehending how individuals who are blind or visually impaired must live their daily lives without the gift of sight. For over 100 years, the Jerusalem Institute for the Blind has provided a wide array of educational, rehabilitative, health and social welfare activities for blind and visually impaired children and youth throughout Israel.

As the participants gathered in the lobby of the Fifth Avenue Synagogue, each was handed a featherweight blindfold which they donned before entering the event room. The blindfolded guests were escorted to their tables by Amy Baumgarten and her team from Dark Dining Projects, which worked in conjunction with the Jerusalem Institute for the Blind to produce and manage the Blackout Brunch. With their world enveloped in total darkness, guests sat in their designated seats, introduced themselves to the people sitting on either side, and attempted to acclimate to an unfamiliar, challenging, yet somehow exciting and even promising black world.

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by Leo Brandstatter, the Executive Director of JIB’s New York office, the wait staff served a delectable meal to the blindfolded guests. The attendees felt around on the table for the appropriate cutlery, tried identifying the food on their plates by utilizing their senses of smell, taste, and touch, and then proceeded to partake in the brunch, slowly and carefully. Throughout the meal, diners conversed with those around them whom they could hear, but not see.

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Noted Community Lecturers to Participate in Shaaray Tefilah’s Tea & Torah Series

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he topics are both timeless and contemporary, and the speakers represent a multitude of communities and shuls throughout the Five Towns and Far Rockaway.

Congregation Shaaray Tefilah is launching its annual Tea and Torah Lecture Series for women on June 18, the week after Shavuous. Shi-

July 2___________________ Rachav: A Woman Who Found Hashem Vivienne Chaya Frank, Noted Educator and Lecturer July 9___________________ Avoiding Machlokes Rabbi Motti Neuberger, Assistant Rabbi, Congregation Kneseth Israel July 16__________________ Perceiving Hashem’s Glory in Tammuz and Av Yaffa Jungreis, Noted Educator and Lecturer July 23__________________ Parents at Risk—The Post Shidduch Crisis David Seidemann, Esq., Rabbi and Family Law Expert

urim will be presented at 5:45 pm every Shabbos through August 27, at Shaaray Tefilah on 25 Central Ave in Lawrence.

“We are looking forward to a meaningful program that will draw community women of all ages to learn and gain insight into issues that are on their minds,” said Rabbi Uri Orlian, Rav of Congregation Shaaray Tefilah. “We are thrilled by the participation of rabbis, educators and leaders and invite everyone to attend.”

The program schedule follows: June 18__________________ The Crisis of Kibbud

Av Va’em in the 21st Century: Confronting Quandaries at all Stages of Life

Rabbi Uri Orlian, Rav, Congregation Shaarei Tefilah Rabbi Tzvi Flaum, Professor of Judaic Studies and Manhig Ruchani, Lander College for Women and Chairman of the Vaad HaRabbanim of Far Rockaway and Lawrence June 25__________________ Swimming Upstream: The Jewish Identity Rabbi Yaakov Trump, Assistant Rabbi, Young Israel of Lawrence Cedarhurst

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July 30__________________ Be of the Students of Aharon: Pinchas and the Covenant of Peace Michal Horowitz, Noted Educator and Lecturer August 6_________________ The Wandering Jew—Timeless Lessons from Parshas Matos-Masai Aviva Orlian, Noted lecturer August 13________________ Tochacha, Emunah and Redemption: How to Perceive Suffering Yair Yaish August 20________________ Parenting Teenagers in Tumultuous Times: Challenges and Solutions A Panel Discussion Featuring: Dr. Hylton Lightman, pediatrician and community activist Rachel Pill, LCSW and clinician in private practice Helen Spirn, Head of School, Stella K. Abraham High School for Girls

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BY’s general studies principals, Mrs. Surela Koenig and Morah Devorah Kurland, wanted their students to own certain basic facts about historical figures, landmarks, different branches of science, useful math info and commonly used acronyms. They organized an innovative program called Master Mind to help them meet their goal.

Every student in grades 3 – 8 received a series of flash cards. After the girls studied the questions and answers for a few weeks, it was time to put their knowledge to the test. Literally. The principals tested the girls and each one who earned a grade of 90% or above received a token which entitled her to “purchase” a prize from a vending machine prominently placed right outside the principal’s office.

The excitement was palpable.

Everywhere you went, you saw children studying their flashcards – by themselves, with a friend, or with a group of study partners. What was

the motivation? A pride in their own achievements, as well as a chance to participate in the Grand Finale which took place on Memorial Day. The grand finale was grand in every sense of the word! In the darkened lunchroom, colored lights flared, buzzers were sounded, and on a huge screen flashed Master Mind pictures and facts. It was the staging for a nail-biting, adrenalin-pumping game show. Using the facts they had imbibed over the last many months, the teams of girls in the competition pushed those buzzers, confidently called out the answers, and demonstrated an amazing mastery over the information. The lunchroom erupted in cheers and clapping as each correct answer was given.

Whoever would’ve believed that historical, mathematical, and scientific facts and figures could generate such enthusiasm and excitement? It was indeed a “grand” finale to a grand academic program.

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Innovation, Fascination and Relationship Building: The 2016 J-Biz Expo and Business Conference at a Glance

By Shimmy Blum

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ike with the election cycle, there are a lot of [real estate] experts…,” Jason Dov Greenblatt, Executive Vice President and Chief Legal Officer of The Trump Organization, quipped.

Mr. Greenblatt delivered an address and held a Q & A session at Wednesday’s J-Biz Expo and Business Conference at the New Jersey Convention and Exposition Center in Edison.

Among many other things, Mr. Greenblatt was asked whether he thought the real estate market had peaked. He explained that he, along with most experts, have thought so for a while but the market kept on rising anyways – sort of like his boss’ unprecedented winning of the GOP presidential nomination.

The thousands of attendees who streamed in from across the country and beyond to attend J-Biz Expo were treated to a smorgasbord of intriguing personalities and business resources, with the opportunity to network face to face and build invaluable business relationships. Attendees came from Chicago, Cleveland, Toronto, Antwerp, Israel and more to take advantage of this.

During the Q & A session with Mr. Greenblatt, moderated by Dr. David Lieberman, the top Trump aide now advising on Israel and other Jewish issues, was peppered with a range of questions. Ironically, most questions were not politically focused, but rather related to his business and negotiating experience, and how he juggles his high level position as a frum father of six.

Mr. Greenblatt was presented with an award from Duvi Honig, founder and director of J-Biz and the Orthodox Jewish Chamber of Commerce (OJC), for his dedication towards Jewish community economic development.

Mr. Greenblatt related that face to face networking – the hallmark of J-Biz Expo – has been the most valuable tool for advancement his career at all stages. “There’s no substitute for networking,” he exclaimed.

point. Mr. Bernhard, a native of South Africa and highlight of elite business events around the world, shared fascinating tidbits from his life experiences and his original “Leopardology” business philosophy. The son of a rabbi, and successful diamond executive, shared details about the African leopard and how it manages to “close the deal” on 76% of its prey. He elaborated on the first pillar of his six pillar philosophy: “Know who you are.”

Intrigue and Valuable Lessons The audience at the morning business conference at the event enjoyed various other high level speakers as well.

Marketing guru Rabbi Issamar Ginzberg, well-known for his elite business addresses in chassidish garb, was the opening speaker. Rabbi Ginzberg shared a range of practical tips on how to win over individuals and audiences, such as researching their backgrounds to refine a sales pitch, and understanding the different modalities of audience members and how to appeal to them.

His address was followed by a legal panel featuring two prominent frum business attorneys, E. David Smith, Esq. and Dror Futter, Esq. The attorneys related their experiences on how proper professional business and accounting planning can increase the value of a business and prevent countless headaches. They also spoke of the importance of maintaining a constant relationship with investors and lenders, and keep them updated on business progress, which can pay particular dividends when the business hits a rough patch. “’No surprises’ should be the rule,” said Mr. Futter.

When the screens began showcasing clips of the wild African jungle, the audience knew that they were in for something unique. And keynote speaker Kivi Bernhard did not disap-

The B2B Floor Abuzz After the conclusion of the business conference at around 1:30, the action moved onto the main expo floor where a frenzy of business-to-business – and person-to-person – networking activity took place throughout the afternoon.

The diversity of both exhibitors and attendees was striking. They hailed from a cross section of the Orthodoxy, communities around the world, and all business sectors. The floor was dotted by a selection of corporations of all sizes, showcasing their products and services to curious attendees. There were names like Wells Fargo, Meridian Capital and Lyft, as well as small, medium and large community based businesses. Banks. Traditional and online marketing companies. E-Commerce resources. Accounting firms.

Real estate and construction resources. Media firms. Telecommunications.

Shipping. Educational resources. Oneon-one business coaching. Transportation. And much more.

You felt the excitement and synergy in the air as exhibitors interacted with attendees, and attendees interacted with each other. Everyone was comfortable and confident around people they never even met before.

Booths were vibrant and colorful, many of them distributing exciting souvenirs.

“The event was extremely well or-

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ganized and had a wonderful energy about it,” said Tom Frank of General Floor, who spent the day showcasing his products at the MS Flooring booth.

“On a business level, we accomplished more than we thought was possible.”

Similar sentiments were heard from exhibitors in other industries as well. “We were able to interact with the exact demographic we were looking for,” said Penina Baim of Testing and Training International (TTI) higher education program. “The expo gave us great access.”

This scene was repeated throughout the day, in every corner of the massive expo floor. New relationships. New ideas. New clients. New transactions.

New Horizons Additional action on the floor included an exciting live business game show, professional workshops, a Women in the Workforce panel, and more.

“This is what J-Biz Expo and the Orthodox Jewish Chamber of Commerce are about,” explains Duvi Honig, the visionary and director behind these projects. “Bringing the most promising resources of the business

world under one umbrella, and empowering the entire community to benefit from them.” He credits the incredible Chamber and J-Biz staff for arranging this event, particularly coordinator Mrs. Devorah Wahl and sales director Ari Finkelstein.

At 5:00 pm, the event’s grand finale took place in the main business conference auditorium. “The Accelerator” investors’ panel featured veteran savvy investors Gershon Bassman, Morton Davis, Rabbi Gedaliah Weinberger and Danny Lemberg. Moderator Shea Rubenstein managed to make the presentations and discussions entertaining, concise and efficient. Innovators from New York, Lakewood, Toronto and Israel showcased their new products in the technology, long term care, healthcare and pet care, and discussed various long term investment offers from the “sharks.”

Needless to say, before the final attendees left the 2016 expo, Mr. Honig was already working on planning upcoming Orthodox Jewish Chamber of Commerce events and the 2017 J-Biz Expo and Business Conference, b’ezras Hashem. “Look out in the months ahead!” he says.

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HAFTR Early Childhood Incorporates iPad Minis

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ecently, HAFTR has adopted a new technology initiative at the Early Childhood. The program will partner with the K-12 STEM and Innovation initiative. HAFTR’s goal is to start teaching students, at their earliest educational stages, basic technological skills. At these stages, they easily adapt to educational related apps that help with reading, writing, and arithmetic. The students will also start basic foundational methods of critical thinking. These lessons will help students better prepare for kindergarten, where they will start learning computer programming.

HAFTR’s Early Childhood Center recently had a wonderful lesson with Morah Elaine. Their little techies were so surprised to see their new iPad minis. They read The Monster at the End of this Book: starring lovable, furry old Grover, and then had to find the app on the iPads, and read the digital version of the same book! Morah Elaine Gross said, “These students are beginning to understand that technology is being utilized as a tool and not a toy. We can teach them the proper way to physically handle technology while creating a feeling of excitement to learn in new and innovative ways.”

With this new initiative, HAFTR now has a full N-12 STEM program.

They have partnered with CIJE and The Jewish Education Project to create exciting new curriculum to help further the importance of Jewish education.

The Hasmoda Program of the Yeshiva of Far Rockaway under the leadership of Rabbi Aaron Brafman, the Menahel, held a raffle for all the boys who participated in the program. The prizes consisted of sets of seforim and bicycles.

HAFTR Learns About Mezuzahs

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ur three-year-old children were treated to a very special lesson on the ins and outs of a mezuzah. We were privileged to have Rabbi Akiva Oppen (from Oppen Scrolls) come to our

Early Childhood Center and explain to the children just how a mezuzah is made. Each child examined the differences between regular paper and parchment. They also got to see the special ink and quills that the sofer

uses. Then the children went on to make a beautiful mezuzah case for their home. We are very proud of the yeladim for participating in this wonderful mitzvah.

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First and second grade boys at Yeshiva Darchei Torah enjoyed an amazing bubble show as they celebrated becoming Middos Mission members

“Little” HALB Visits “Big” HALB

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n Tuesday morning, the HALB kindergarten children excitedly boarded buses to visit the HALB Long Beach campus. This annual end of year visit enables our children to experience firsthand what it means to be a first grader! The children had an opportunity to meet some of the HALB administrators, including their new principal, Mr. Richard Altabe. Mr. Altabe entertained the kindergartners with an amusing story of his first day in HALB’s kindergarten when he was just about their age!

Each class enjoyed the opportunity to participate in one of the first grade specialties, either art, science, Ivrit or gym. The high point of the visit was spending time with the first grade teachers, Morah and Rebbe, who shared highlights of what to expect in September in first grade.

Many of our kindergarten children got hugs and kisses from their older sisters, brothers, cousins, grandmothers and friends as well.

They can’t wait to be in Kitah Aleph!

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Around the Community Scenes from the Chofetz Chaim Torah Center Dinner The event was held on June 7 at the Lawrence Country Club.

PHOTO CREDIT: TEIGMAN PHOTOGRAPHY

Three high schools and 6 different seminaries, the same Shulamith friendships endure. Old friends reunite in Israel for the last hurrah as they go their separate ways after year in Israel. Some are making Aliyah and others are coming back to the States to attend Stern, Queens, and Cooper Union.

Menashe and Judy Greenberger were presented with the Amud HaChessed Award

Passport Day in The Five Towns

Nashi and Gabi Teller were presented with the Young Leadership Award

Hempstead Town Clerk Nasrin Ahmad (second left) with Mayor Benjamin Weinstock, Village Trustee Myrna Zisman and Village Treasurer Sal Evola

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empstead Town Clerk Nasrin Ahmad (standing) shares information with the Dweck family of Cedarhurst on how to apply for a passport during the Town of Hempstead Passport Day in the Five Towns held at Cedarhurst Village Hall. This event allows U.S. citizens an opportunity to obtain passport application services on a convenient

weekend date, allowing those who are unable to attend during the week to have an opportunity to apply for passports on a weekend. The Town of Hempstead also provides a “OneStop Passport Shop” at Town Hall, where customers may obtain passport forms, take required passport photos and file applications Monday through Friday.

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On June 7, the UJA-Federation of New York Tov B’Yachad Committee recognized Danny Gluck, Vice Chairman Commanding Officer, Nassau County Auxiliary Police, Fourth Precinct; Legislator Denise Ford of the Fourth District; and Honorable Michael Fragin, Trustee, Village of Lawrence at a Dessert Reception at the Young Israel of Lawrence-Cedarhurst for their outstanding service to our community. Rabbi Ephraim Buchwald was the guest speaker and spoke about bringing joy back to our Judaism.

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ineNMeet, partnering with YUConnects and the Young Israel of Woodmere, recently returned to the Five Towns with a successful Shabbaton in early June. 86 singles, equally divided between men and women, enjoyed a Shabbos of neighborhood hospitality and an opportunity to meet in a fun, comfortable environment.

The concept is simple. Eleven local families each graciously hosted approximately 8 guests who were placed based on compatibility and commonalities. Spirited conversation took off and many meals lasted well past midnight. Shabbos day had all the participants gather for delicious desserts in a structured, interactive program which gave everyone a chance to meet each other in a relaxed way. Even during some “downtime” later in the in the afternoon, most people decided to remain at the shul to schmooze over board games, speak to some excellent matchmakers and continue to mingle together.

A highlight of the Shabbos was a gala Shalosh seudos at a lovely home where the conversation picked up right where it left off. Rabbi and Rebbetzin Herschel Schachter, who were in the neighborhood for Shabbos,

stopped by and Rav Schachter offered insights and words of Torah to all. A musical havdala left everyone uplifted and ended Shabbos with great cheer.

Following the event, the committee received over 159 requests of interest from the men and women attendees. Nine dates have been arranged in the short time since the event and two couples went out by the following evening! Engagements have been made from each of the prior three Shabbatons in Woodmere and the organizers are hoping for continued bracha from this year’s program.

DineNMeet plans exclusive, elegant events for targeted groups of Jewish singles based on age, hashkafah, and other factors. Each event focuses on a different niche, ensuring maximum compatibility as its popularity keeps growing. YUConnects is a non-profit organization, open to the entire Jewish community, offering unique social activities, educational forums and targeted matchmaking through a friendly and helpful office.

For more information about these programs or to learn about the Young Israel of Woodmere’s “YIWMeet” activities, please email yiwmeet@ gmail.com.

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At a recent idfbbq.org barbecue, at an IDF base, Camp Offir, about 30 minutes from Jerusalem

L-R: Esther Feigenbaum, who sponsored the BBQ in memory of her husband, Ira a”h; Shelly Seif; Ahuva Kessler; and Sarah Bergman

Rabbi Pesach Lerner and Yussie Seif

Friends of the IDF

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empstead Councilmen Anthony D’Esposito and Bruce Blakeman joined to demonstrate their strong support for Israeli soldiers serving in the Israeli Defense Forces at the annual FIDF community event in the Sephardic Temple in Cedarhurst. By spending time speaking with many of the young soldiers at the event, the councilmen gained a greater perspective of the expe-

rience of these young soldiers who sacrifice so much to protect the Jewish nation from its millions of hostile neighbors. Many of the soldiers they met are young American men and women from the Five Towns area who left friends, family, and the comforts of home to join the Israeli Defense Forces to defend the State of Israel, America’s greatest ally in the Middle East.

Bureaucracy at its Finest See Rafi on page 66

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Inspiration and Guidance from Rabbi Leuchter

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ussar. Yiras Shamayim.

Avodas Hashem. Chinuch. Every one of us recognizes these words and instinctively identifies with them. Who does not want to constantly grow and get better in any, and all, of these areas?

Yet, we sometimes lack the answers and advice on how to move forward and how to accomplish in these areas.

Our community is fortunate that Rabbi Reuven Leuchter shlita, one of the foremost mashgichim and mechanchim in Eretz Yisroel, will be visiting our area to give a major chinuch address. Rabbi Leuchter had the privilege of learning b’chavrusa for over 25 years with Rabbi Shlomo Wolbe z”l, the acknowledged expert in the world of chinuch. Rabbi Leuchter has also served as Mashgiach in a number of yeshivos, and currently delivers numerous vaadim to Americans, married and single, who are learning

in Eretz Yisroel, in addition to his position at Ner L’Elef, the premier kiruv training institution.

Rabbi Leuchter is also the author of a number of immensely popular seforim. He has written commentaries to both Ohr Yisroel and Nefesh HaChaim, as well as a commentary to the Haggadah Shel Pesach. Additionally, Rabbi Leuchter has written two acclaimed English books, one on tefillah and another on teshuvah. He is known for his novel and unique approach to many of the current issues that we all face.

Rabbi Leuchter will be here Tuesday and Wednesday, June 2122. Exact details will be announced as venues are finalized. If you are interested in participating in any of the smaller vaadim, please email

ravleuchterin5t@gmail.com

or call Rabbi Fogel at 516-2345332.

Stern College Students Receive Google Grant

Elisheva Rabinovich, Elizabeth Bitterman, and Kayla Boldt

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lisheva Rabinovich, Elizabeth Bitterman and Kayla Boldt, all members of the Computer Science Club at Stern College for Women of Yeshiva University, recently received a grant from Google to mentor high school girls in computer science.

The grant is a part of Google’s igniteCS initiative to help student groups develop a computer science outreach program in their communities. Schools that receive an igniteCS grant establish an ongoing mentorship project working with students from local schools.

The three women have invited high schools in the New York and New Jersey area to join the program; Samuel H. Wang Yeshiva University High School for Girls has already accepted the invitation. The goal is to have 40 to 70 girls in the program.

They would meet six times over the 2016-17 school year at Stern College to learn coding and robotics (using Arduino processors and Python and C programming languages). Mentoring in future years would focus on different facets of computer science, such as app development and web design.

Their goal, says Bitterman, “is to encourage and empower women to feel highly capable in a computer science field so that they can continue

learning and independently creating their own projects.”

The grant comes at an opportune time as the computer science major has been reinstated at Stern College beginning with the 2016-17 academic year. “The igniteCS grant is an excellent way to celebrate this triumph,” Bitterman said. “This will help us share our knowledge and passion with young women interested in computer science. Stern’s and Google’s support for our initiative has also been very empowering to the STEM women at Stern College. The mentors and I are really excited and looking forward to a fun and stimulating program.”

Professor Alan Broder, chair of the new department at Stern, pointed out “the prestige associated with this investment by Google in Stern computer science students – Stern is one of only two schools to be awarded this grant in the New York City area. We want area high school girls to know that Stern is a great place to pursue a university computer science education.”

High school girls who want more information about participating in this program for the upcoming school year should email igniteCS@ sternCS.net by July 1, 2016.

Do you drink soda?

Better read what Allan Rolnick has to say.

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Op-Ed

NY Suburbs’ Legal War against the Hasidic Community Frivolous Litigation Against Hasidic Communities is Discriminatory and Should be Regulated

by Michael Fragin & Michael Tobman

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are is the week that passes without a new legal action pitting a New York suburb

against the Orthodox or Hasidic Jewish community. Rockland, Orange, Sullivan, Westchester,

and Suffolk Counties have been host to a flurry of litigation centered around Orthodox Jews, their foundational religious needs, and, often, their housing needs. While American suburban life may not have contemplated the diversity presented by the Orthodox Jewish community, the time is long past to move away from confrontation and towards a more realistic embrace of a new normal that isn’t going away.

Discriminatory litigation against Hasidim is a form of bias — a s real as the racism that generated civil rights litigation, as real as the gender discrimination that led to Title VII protections, and as real as the calls for judicial fairness that produced marriage equality.

In this case, it’s the lawsuits themselves that are the discriminatory acts.

An egregious example is the Sullivan County Town of Mamakating, which has for the past three years generated frivolous litigation against Hasidic Jews. Local officials there have been rebuffed by the Courts at every turn in their quest to halt the development of a Hasidic enclave in their area, and the continued official abuse of municipal resources to abet these suits will likely lead the Town down the path already trod by the Rockland County Village of Airmont, where

taxpayers faced over $1 million in federal fines after being sued by the DOJ for engaging in similar tactics.

It’s hard to see the blizzard of legal action by Mamakating as anything but a publicly financed effort to thwart a Hasidic Jewish influx. A women’s ritual bath at the site of a former spa was rejected by the Town, only to be ordered approved by the Court. Federal litigation initiated by the Town to stop housing for Hasidic Jews was summarily dismissed by a Federal District Court Judge. State court action to prevent Hasidic voters from casting ballots was similarly rejected. Other suits include absurd scenarios – like the Town of Mamakating suing itself over an annexation it already approved.

The Mamakating Town Supervisor proudly estimated in a message to supporters that he spent more than a quarter of a million dollars, or 10% of the Town’s 2015 general budget, on litigation against Hasidim. This number might increase 100 fold if the Town becomes subject to damages for its actions.

Mamakating may be Exhibit A of the unregulated use of the public treasury as litigation war chest, but there are others. The Village of Pomona in Rockland County busted mightily through the state property tax cap and raised taxes last year

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by nearly 50% to fund its litigation against the Tartikov Hasidim in their area.

Non-Hasidic Orthodox Jews have also been judicially warned that they are not welcome in certain communities. On the tony East End of Long Island, The Village of Westhampton Beach, the Town of Southampton, and the Village of Quogue spent millions on state and federal lawsuits to prevent the designation of an eruv, a nearly invisible symbol that permits observant Jews to carry items in public thoroughfares on the Sabbath. The lawsuit against the eruv was so absurd that it was parodied by Jon Stewart on The Daily Show. This litigation was settled after the municipalities suffered losses in court, and the eruv has been erected. In Westchester County, the wealthy Village of Mamaroneck settled a religious discrimination case after denying

a local yeshiva the right to expand their building on a 26 acre campus.

The Village was on the hook for as much as $22 million due to their actions, but settled for $4.75 million in damages. That taxpayer funded settlement followed more than $1 million in legal fees.

Private parties in litigation need to weigh the costs and benefits of legal action, but municipalities face no such standard. In this dynamic, anti-Hasidic elected officials are funding their hateful and discriminatory lawsuits from the coffers of property taxpayers, who have no recourse or control other than voting out their misguided leaders.

Change can be scary, and nothing is more noticeable than dramatic changes in the composition of your neighborhood. It’s home, and people have strong opinions when it comes to their place. Complicating an honest analysis is that these new

suburbs were, until very recently, exburbs — previously too far from New York City to be considered bedroom communities. But rising housing costs have pushed the suburbs north, and there was bound to be blowback.

The United States Department of Justice, the New York State Attorney General, and the New York State Comptroller need to investigate, and halt, this abusive diversion of tax dollars. Further, we support state legislation to require municipal officials to provide taxpayers with an independent assessment of the costs and benefits of such cases, along with projections of the property tax impact. The Attorney General’s office should be authorized, upon the request of a municipal official or a potential party in such litigation, to conduct a binding independent review of the merits of these cases before

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they are brought.

It is nearly impossible to deny municipal approval to reasonable projects that accommodate the ritual, worship, educational, and housing needs of religious minorities. Nonetheless, like much litigation, these suits can drag on for years and cost millions of dollars. It is seen as political weakness to stop litigating, even when it is fiscally prudent, and even when the chances of courtroom success minimal.

A full embrace of diversity, the necessary direction in which New York has been a national leader, also includes accepting our Orthodox and Hasidic neighbors.

Mr. Fragin is Republican Political Consultant. Mr. Tobman is an Independent Political Consultant. Both work extensively with Orthodox and Hasidic Jewish communities.

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Riddle me

this?

David has just received his brand new driver’s license.

As Dad does every Sunday, he is puttering around

The family parades out to the driveway and climbs in the

the house, fixing everything that you and your sib-

car, where he is going to take them for a ride for the first

lings broke over the last week. At some point, he

time. Dad immediately heads for the backseat, directly

realizes that he needs something, so he goes to a

behind the newly minted driver.

hardware store and asks for help in find-

“I’ll bet you’re back there to get a change of scenery after all those months of sitting in the front passenger seat teaching me how to drive,” says the beaming boy to his father.

“Nope,” comes Dad’s reply. “I’m gonna sit here and kick the back of your seat as you drive, just like you’ve been doing to me all these years.”

ing what he needs. The clerk shows him where the objects are and tells him that they cost $1 each.

Dad says: “I’m taking 600, so here’s $3.” What did he buy?

See answer on opposite page

Who Said It? 1. “When I was a boy of fourteen, my father was so ignorant I could hardly stand to have the old man around. But when I got to be twenty-one, I was astonished at how much he had learned in seven years.”

4. ”My father carries around the picture of the kid who came with his wallet.”

A. William Shakespeare

5. “A father is a man who expects his son to be as good a man as he meant to be.”

D. Jimmy Piersa

2. “[Teaching Fathers how to Diaper a Baby]: Spread the diaper in the position of the diamond with you at bat. Then, fold second base down to home and set the baby on the pitcher’s mound. Put first base and third together, bring up home plate and pin the three together.

Of course, in case of rain, you gotta call the game and start all over again.”

6. “By the time a man realizes that maybe his father was right, he usually has a son who thinks he’s wrong.”

C. Charles Wadsworth E. Sigmund Freud F. Mark Twain G. George Washington H. George W. Bush

7. “I cannot think of any need in childhood as strong as the need for a father’s protection.”

I. Rodney Dangerfield

8. “[My father] was a great father before politics, a great father during politics, and a great father after politics.”

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9. “Father I cannot tell a lie. I did it with my little hatchet.”

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1. Which NHL team has the most Stanley Cup championships? a. Detroit Red Wings b. Montreal Canadians c. Toronto Maple Leafs d. NY Rangers 2. Who is the only player who was the captain of two different NHL teams and led them both to championships? a. Mark Messier b. Wayne Gretzky c. Jacques Lemaire d. Jaromír Jágr 3. Phil Housley played in the NHL from 1982 to 2003. How many Stanley Cup championships did he win? a. 14 b. 11 c. 7 d. 6 e. 5 f. 4 g. 3 h. 2 i. 1 j. 0 4. Which NHL player has the most Stanley Cups? a. Yvan Cournoyer b. Claude Provost

c. Henri Richard d. Red Kelly 5. The NY Islanders won a total of 4 Stanley Cups. Over how many years did they win those Cups? a. 23 b. 8 c. 6 d. 4 6. Who scored the double-overtime goal in Game 7 of the 1994 Eastern Conference finals, to send the Rangers to the Stanley Cup for the first time since 1940? a. Adam Graves b. Stephane Matteau c. Mark Messier d. Brian Leetch Answers 1. B- The Montreal Canadians have 23 Stanley Cup championships (plus one before the league was known as the NHL) 2. A- Of Messier’s 6 Stanley Cup champions, he was the captain of the Oilers in 1990 and the Rangers in 1994.

3. J- Poor Phil Housley played

for 21 years, and all of those broken teeth later, he never got to drink out of the Cup. 4. C- From 1956 to 1974, Richard won 11 Cups with the Montreal Canadians.

5. D- The Islanders won all of their Cups from the 1980 season through the 1983 season.

6. C- “Matteau! Matteau!

Matteau!” Perhaps the most memorable play-by-play call in sports history took place when Stephane Matteau scored in double-overtime of game 7, earning the Rangers a trip to the Stanley Cup. The call was made by Howie Rose.

Scorecard 5-6 correct: If it was up to me, your name would be engraved in the Cup! 3-4 correct: Not bad; I guess you got a Hat Trick.

0-2 correct: Took a hockey puck to the head?

Answer to riddle: Three home address numbers consisting of a six and 2 zeros.

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Torah Thought

Parshas Naso

By Rabbi Berel Wein

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he role of the Levites in Jewish life was a very important one, even though it was not always completely delineated and defined. The essential task of the Levites was to serve as the caretakers in charge of the maintenance of the holy Temple. The Talmud called them “the gatekeepers.” They were, so to speak, the maintenance staff of the Temple, assisting the priests in their tasks, though not actually performing the rituals of sacrifice and incense that made up the Temple service.

The Levites were also in charge of the melodious atmosphere that

was present in the Temple on a daily basis. There was a presentation of instrumental and choir music in the Temple each day – including the Sabbath and the holidays – that attracted Jewish and non-Jewish visitors from near and far. This musical presentation was part of the glory of the Temple service and highlighted the emotional constituent of the service itself.

The Psalms of David and psalms authored by others constituted the basic theme of the musical presentation of the Levites and are remembered today in our daily morning

prayers, sans musical instruments.

The importance of melody to enhance the emotions and devotion of meaningful prayer cannot be overemphasized.

There are those who claim that there is still large vestiges of the Levites’ melodies and musical compositions present in some of our traditional liturgical melodies today. As you can well imagine, this is a very difficult thing to assess accurately.

But the mere fact that such an opinion can be advanced and accepted by many is sufficient to indicate to us the power of the songs and melodies of the Levites.

The individual Levite was assigned to duties in the Temple for only a few weeks out of the year. The Levites were divided into 24 families, as were the Priests themselves, and each family worked in the Temple two or three weeks per year, plus duties on the holidays. This left them a lot of free time in their lives and since Jewish tradition abhors sloth

and wasted time, the Levites were assigned the task of being the teachers – the educational guides of the young and old of the Jewish people.

In a way one can say that this was an even more vital task than serving as the maintenance and musical component of the Temple staff.

The Levites have jealously guarded their pedigree throughout the long Jewish exiles after the destruction of the Temple in Jerusalem. Some of the greatest scholars and teachers of Israel over those many centuries always identified themselves as being descendants from the tribe of Levi.

Thus, the Levites were always granted special honors in the synagogue and in being called up to readings from the Torah. The Levites and the Priests remain our special link to the Temples in Jerusalem, keeping alive the memory and strengthening our belief and resolve in their and our future in the restoration of the glory and holiness of Israel and Jerusalem.

Shabbat shalom.

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The Observant Jew

The Finals Solution

By Rabbi Jonathan Gewirtz

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hen I was having a tough time coming up with what I would write about, I decided to ask my daughter. She said, “Write about me – I’m awesome.” So, clearly we’ve done well in the self-esteem department but I don’t think that’s something I can write about.

Ironically, the thing I decided to write about happened only a short few hours earlier when she wasn’t so calm and self-assured. As the school year comes to a close, we enter the period of time when joy is limited, mourning and pain become the norm, and people walk around looking like their cat died.

I don’t mean sefira, or the Three Weeks leading up to Tisha B’Av. The frightening time of which I speak is …

Finals Week. For students, especially those in high school, the magnitude of these exams looms large and not only they, but their parents too, go through the strenuous and stressful test prep.

My daughter, after spending hours dutifully studying, copying over notes, rereading textbooks and seforim, finally emerges from her room with confidence. Knowing she has given it her all, she declares matter-of-factly, “I’M GONNA FAILLLLLLL!!”

“Calm down, sweetie,” Mr. Super-Dad says reassuringly. “You’ve been working hard and you’ll do great!”

“No I wo-o-o-n’t! I don’t know ANYTHING!” Uh-oh, time to switch gears.

“You know what, honey? Mommy and I don’t care what grade you get as

long as you try your best.” That’s what they taught me in parenting class.

Always encourage, never blame, and pray really hard. So, I repeat this mantra about trying your best, hoping I’m more convincing than the guy who was asked whether he wanted the baby his wife was carrying to be a boy or a girl.

“I don’t care what it is, as long as it’s healthy,” he said with a beatific smile. “What about your wife?” asked the questioner. “Oh,” he replied exuberantly. “She also wants a boy!”

But meanwhile, as we enter the fifth hour of the “studying is pointless routine” without a seventh-inning stretch, I might add, it’s getting harder to remain calm. “Why don’t you go to sleep and get up early to study?” my wife suggests, undoubtedly thinking of the comment of the Ta”z that one who is tired can’t learn in two hours what a rested person can learn in an hour.

“That won’t help,” whines the academic princess. “I’ll never get this!”

Finally, she is persuaded to get some sleep. In the morning, she decides she cannot study anymore and is going to use her time on the school bus to relax. I’m OK with that, because stressing doesn’t work.

Someone once told R’ Moshe Feinstein zt”l that his mother was very worried about him getting accepted into a certain yeshiva. R’ Moshe asked, “How does the worry help?”

In the simplicity of the statement, we recognize that getting anxious is counterproductive, but of course, it’s not enough to keep us calm. At dav-

ening, I add a special prayer for her success.

Maybe two hours later, I got a text message from her. “The final is done.

It was really not as hard as I expected it to be.” What? Really? After all that obsessing and freaking out all you have to say is, “It wasn’t that bad?”

Yup, that’s all she wrote.

learn Torah, we have to learn an occupation, we have to learn how to be a mensch, and we have to learn about ourselves. Sometimes we’ll get the lesson in one shot, and sometimes we’ll bang our heads against the same lesson time and time again. We may think we’ll never get it, but “how does the worry help?”

Really? After all that obsessing and freaking out all you have to say is, “It wasn’t that bad?”

It made me think about the finals solution. Now, some of you may have thought I meant something else with that, but she’s not taking German is school. What I mean is a way to look at the schedule for Finals Week and be able to still retain your sanity.

First of all, do your best. Study, review, take the time to be as prepared as possible. After that, don’t stress about it. Don’t think that the world is coming to an end and that if you don’t get a good grade it will stay with you forever. It may be true, but don’t think about it. It won’t do you any good, and will likely harm you.

But of course, this isn’t limited to finals in school. This works with every situation in life, and in fact, with life itself. We are put on this world in a state of ignorance. We have to

Instead, let’s remember that all our Father asks of us is to try our best, knowing that if we do that He will be proud, and in the end, we will look back and say, “Boy, that was easier than I thought.”

Jonathan Gewirtz is an inspirational writer and speaker whose work has appeared in publications around the world.

You can find him at www.facebook.com/ RabbiGewirtz, and follow him on Instagram @RabbiGewirtz or Twitter @ RabbiJGewirtz. He also operates JewishSpeechWriter.com, where you can order a custom-made speech for your next special occasion. Sign up for the Migdal Ohr, his weekly PDF Dvar Torah in English.

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Between the Lines

Me and We

By Eytan Kobre

If I am I because you are you, and you are you because I am I; then I am not I and you are not you. But if I am I because I am I, and you are you because you are you; then I am I and you are you.

-Kotzker Rebbe

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here was once a king whose castle sat atop a mountain overlooking the village he ruled. The king was fair, and he brought peace and prosperity to his people. He was deeply respected.

The villagers all drew water from one source: a well at the center of town. One day, the well was contaminated by a poison that caused complete and almost immediate insanity. Within a day, all the villagers had drunk the poison, and the once harmonious village was now overrun by lunatics. Only the king and queen were spared, as their water came from another source.

The king’s desperate attempts to restore order and harmony fell on deaf

ears. All the villagers agreed.

The king had gone crazy.

The villagers threatened to depose the king, who they claimed was no longer fit to rule in his crazed state-of-mind. But just as the king was ready to step down to restore peace, the queen offered another solution. “What if we drink from the well? Then we will be the same as them, and they will once again appreciate you.” The king agreed reluctantly.

So the king and queen drank from the well and, like the others, turned insane immediately. The villagers found that, thankfully, the king had finally come to his senses. And the village and its king lived happily ever after…as complete lunatics.

Above all else, the parable reaffirms how difficult it can be to retain our individuality, especially in the face of overwhelming conformity.

For twelve consecutive days, the princes of the twelve tribes honored the dedication of the Tabernacle by bringing gift-offerings.

And although each prince brought precisely the same offering, the Torah describes each in the same, almost verbatim detail (Bamidbar 7:12-83). Because despite their apparent uniformity,

the offerings were actually quite different, with each prince putting a personal touch on his offering by infusing it with intentions and symbolism to reflect the unique attributes of his tribe (Ramban, Bamidbar 7:2-5; Rabbeinu Bachaye, Bamidbar 7:84). All the offerings conformed to one another outwardly, but each also reflected the individualistic nature of the tribe on whose behalf it was brought.

The Torah, which is perfectly economical in its use of letters, words, and verses, went to great lengths to embrace the value of individuality.

Some cultures loathe individuality. In North Korea, all men are required to cut their hair in the style of dictator Kim Jong-un. In Sodom, there was one bed for guests; those too short were stretched and those too tall had their feet lopped off (Sanhedrin 109b). Such societies demand absolute uniformity and a one-sizefits-all approach to life, with total indifference to unique natures and needs.

The Torah, however, recognizes that people are just different. “Just as their faces are different, so their characters are different” (Berachos 58a). G-d used one prototype to form every

human, yet no two are the same (Sanhedrin 4:5). And we “train a child according to his nature” (Mishlei 22:6), because each child’s nature is different. Indeed, Reb Zisha of Hanipoli famously observed – with a sigh – how in the World to Come, he will not be asked why he was not Moshe or Yehoshua; he will be asked why he was not Zisha.

We recognize the value of individuality, and we ought to be grateful for the Torah that encourages it. As Rav Yosef declared on Shavuos, “If not for [the day we received the Torah], how many Yosefs there would be in the market!” (Pesachim 68b).

Without the Torah, living under some non-Divine set of rules, Rav Yosef’s individuality would have found no proper outlet. It was only through the Torah, with its many means towards the ultimate end of serving G-d, that he was able to distinguish himself from the plethora of other Yosefs in the market.

In addition to being a renowned scholar, the Sfas Emes was known to tend to his community of Ger, which he left only very sparingly. When his son, the Imrei Emes, assumed the mantle of leadership, he tended to his community but also trav-

eled to other communities to assist them. When asked why he was not more like his father, the Imrei Emes responded, “I am like my father. He never imitated anyone, nor do I.” But while individuality is encouraged, individualism is not. The former celebrates many paths to one objective, while the latter implies a multitude of objectives. Whatever the value of individuality and distinctiveness, our actions must always satisfy not only an individual purpose but also a communally-recognized one. “What is the proper path a person should choose for himself?

Whatever brings glory to himself and to others” (Avos 2:1). There is the “me” and there is the “we.” And the service of G-d must advance both.

A military is comprised of different units, each bearing different uniforms, different procedures, different training, and different cadences.

Each unit can and should be proud of its individuality, but only when all units are joined in support of a common goal. When the ends are no longer aligned, the army ceases to function properly.

So it is with us. There is ample room for individuality, so long as the individual

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goal is recognized by Torah values (Ha’amek Davar, Bamidbar 15:41). One person excels at Torah learning,

ed by a different letter in the Torah. A Torah scroll is valid only when it is comprised of all its letters, which empha-

individuality to individualism.

R’ Yissachar Dov of Radoshitz once asked the

When asked why he was not more like his father, the Imrei Emes responded, “I am like my father.

He never imitated anyone, nor do I.”

another at prayer, another at charity, and yet another at hospitality. And then there are sub-categories; indeed, just within Torah learning there are 70 “faces” (Bamidbar Rabba 15:13). All are different means to the same end.

R’ Uri of Strelisk noted that each Jew is represent-

sizes the unique value of the community. Yet the Torah also is invalidated if any two letters become so close that they join, which emphasizes individuality (see Darash Moshe, Shavuos).

But such individuality must always find expression only in accepted forms of service, lest it morph from

Chozeh of Lublin to identify one general path in which all Jews might serve G-d.

“One path?” asked the Chozeh. “There is no one path. Are people all the same that one practice could suit them all? For one, the way is the way of study; for another, it is the way of prayer; for yet another, it is feasting or fast-

ing; for another, it is helping a neighbor.”

R’ Yissachar Dov was not satisfied. “But what should I tell those who seek my guidance in this regard?”

“Tell them this,” the Chozeh answered. “Carefully observe the way of your own heart. See what stirs your passion for G-d and godliness. Then do that will all your might and all your heart.”

The princes’ gift-offerings embraced the value of both community and individuality. The offerings had different meanings, but they were identical. Each tribe had its own flag and its own camping position, but the Tabernacle was always at the center as the focal point. In both cases, there were many paths to one common goal.

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Too often in life, no different than the king and queen, we close our eyes and drink from the same well as everyone else, failing to recognize that, perhaps, we are different than everyone else.

Instead, take a page out of the Chozeh’s playbook.

Find what drives you and what excites you. Maybe it’s Torah learning. Maybe it’s davening. Maybe it’s acts of kindness. Maybe it’s charity.

Maybe it’s communal causes. It almost doesn’t matter.

But find it. And, if it is true to Torah law and values, go out and do it like you’ve never done anything before.

Eytan Kobre is a writer, speaker, mediator, and attorney living in Kew Gardens Hills.

Questions? Comments? Suggestions? E-mail eakobre@ outlook.com.

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Israel Today

The English Inspector

By Rafi Sackville

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few months ago I wrote a story about the bureaucratic, red-tape nightmare I have encountered in seeking qualification for my teacher’s license. In retrospect I should have held the piece back because the story has since unraveled. What should have been a simple, straightforward process has turned into a veritable quagmire of madness that would be funny were it not so sad.

On the desk beside me is a copy of a letter from the president of the teachers’ union, Ran Erez. In it he addresses how, in comparison to those in other fields, the burden on English teachers has reached such proportions that the union has been forced to ask them to go on a partial strike as well as requesting that 11th grade literature exams be postponed from this summer to next winter. In the three years that I have been back in the profession, the Education Ministry’s English Department has changed exam formats, the grading system, and the curriculum so frequently and without regard that English teachers have had difficulty keeping pace.

Many have begun leaving the profession. At the same time the requirements for entering the field have become so restrictive it would be easier learning how to fly

the trapeze wearing an arm cast while sipping an espresso.

Last year I spent 180 hours participating in an English course in Kiryat Shmuel on the outskirts of Haifa, was given an exemption for all Hebrew courses that would have taken up another six months of my time, and did everything imaginable to satisfy the Ministry of Education.

Yet they demurred at the 11th hour. I was perplexed.

They pointed out that the inspector who had observed and given me a report of flying colors was not the inspector the ministry had in mind. They asked me to get in touch with the northern district’s English inspector and go through the observation process again.

I contacted her and explained my circumstances, making certain she understood just how urgent my situation was: I needed all my paperwork completed by the end of 2015 in order to join the new reform. I won’t bore you with the details, suffice to say that by doing so I would enjoy a 42% increase in salary.

The inspector (we’ll call her Jennifer S., originally from Queens) arrived on Tuesday, November 24. She observed my lesson to my group of thirty-four twelfth graders. She then gave my

principal a wonderful verbal report, which was almost identical to that given to me by the previous inspector.

All that was now needed was for her to send the written report to us, which would then be sent to the ministry, from where it would return, before traveling to the new reform committee, and finally coming to its final resting place in the manpower office in school.

A week passed. Then another and another. December came and went without a word from Jennifer S., originally from Queens. I contacted her numerous times, but was forced to leave messages as she never answered my calls. I told her I’d missed one deadline, but had been informed that the new reform committee had opened its doors for newcomers until the end of January.

At this point she even stopped returning calls from my principal. Frustrated, I called Ruth, a woman with whom I had taken the English course in Kiryat Shmuel. I heard that she was in a similar predicament, and that her calls to Jennifer S. had not been returned either.

“Call the teachers’ union.

Let them know in writing.

This is their bread and butter. It’s the reason you pay your dues,” was Ruth’s advice to me. I wrote a long

letter of grievance, put it on school stationery and faxed it off. That was on a Sunday.

The following day I received word that my complaint was being looked into. Low and behold Jennifer S.’s report was faxed through the following morning. I called Ruth, who told me the same thing had happened to her.

The school’s manpower office forwarded the report and my file was sent off to the Ministry of Education for approval. That was on January 26th. On Wednesday I was told that, despite their best efforts, my papers would not be processed in time. My entry into the reform – the extra 42% on my salary – would have to wait until next September.

It’s no good complaining to anyone about my predicament, although there’s an element of comfort listening to people say things like “it’s outrageous,” “disgusting,” “pathetic,” “she should be fired.” Such comfort is fleeting at best, hot air at worst.

I’m sure Jennifer S. from Queens is a perfectly reasonable and overworked woman. She told me she was new to the job. Even so, I don’t know why she took eight weeks to send in her report.

Maybe the office of the English inspectorate is so overwhelmingly complex that her report had to wait while she completed more observa-

tions. Once my predicament finally became clear I wrote her a short note saying I held no grudge against her. All I wanted to know was why she had taken so long when she knew my salary was at stake.

She did not reply, nor did I expect she would.

Yes, I am upset. Who wouldn’t be? It’s not pleasant being ignored after spending three years fulfilling the Ministry’s requirements only to be rebuffed by their English inspector.

There is another side to the coin. I have a job that I am happy doing. A job with responsibility and fulfillment. My colleagues and students are great. Furthermore, we are not starving.

My salary is sufficient. September seems a long way away, but I have no doubt that we will manage until then.

The bottom line is that had I been the reason for the delay, I would have had more to be upset about. This whole situation has been out of my control, and as long as that’s the case, what more can I do than listen to those other voices whenever I tell them the story: “it’s outrageous,” “disgusting,” “pathetic,” “she should be fired.”

Rafi Sackville, formerly of Cedarhurst, teaches in Ort Maalot in Western Galil.

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The Future of Lawrence

A Sit-Down with Mayoral Candidate Alex Edelman and the Two Trustees Running Alongside Him, Uri Kaufman and Danny Goldstein TJH: Tell me, Mr. Edelman, how did you get your start in the Village?

Alex E: Well, I moved to the area 46 years ago.

I am living in Lawrence for almost 15 years. I have three children; one of my sons lives around the corner and my daughter lives in Cedarhurst. My other son lives in Brooklyn. Lawrence is very dear to me. I have served as a trustee on the board for four years and am now running uncontested for mayor.

Mayor Oliner served as mayor of Lawrence for six years – that’s three terms – and he can’t run again. I am going to be taking over his position, so my spot as trustee will be vacant and I will appoint someone to fill that position once I am mayor.

Two other trustees, Simon Felder and Irving Langer, will be stepping down as trustees.

Uri Kaufman and Danny Goldstein are running for their spots. Michael Fragin is keeping his spot as trustee;

he is up for election next year.

Uri, tell us why you are running for trustee.

Uri K: Many people know me from the school board; I was on the board for nine years and just finished my term last July.

When I came onto the board, it was a very contentious time. But we won the majority and I accomplished a lot.

What accomplishments are you most proud of?

UK: For one, we passed the only universal pre-K in Nassau County. We did it before Bill de Blasio – we were literally the first ones.

And we did it without raising taxes.

We also kept taxes low.

When I got on the board, the budget was $93M. District 14, their budget was $84M, but bear in mind that we have 5,000 yeshiva kids that they don’t have and we give them transportation and special ed services – that accounted

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for the differential.

Fast forward to last July, when I left the board, our budget was only $98M. Theirs was $114M. And so housing prices are really affected because the District 14 taxes are so sky-high.

We also closed buildings we didn’t need. I’m a real estate developer and I specialize in old buildings.

I take old factories and buildings and I turn them into loft apartments. I took charge of renovating the buildings in the district. We sold one school for $30M, the highest price per acre in the history of the Nassau County, and we used that money to upgrade the schools and give some tax relief.

We started out with budget of $30M to upgrade the schools. I looked at

budget and I said that those numbers are ridiculous.

I reduced the budget to $16M and then added back $1M for a turf football field.

That alone saved the district around $14M. It looks like you were getting a lot done. So why did you leave?

UK: I left because there was not much left to do. It

Danny, what about you? I know that you spent a lot of time in Israel.

Danny G: Yes. I grew up in Ashkelon and attended Hevron Yeshiva. But I’ve been here since the ‘80s and moved back to Lawrence a few years ago. I have three children – 22, 21, and 10.

My youngest goes to HAFTR.

lo Park, I was part of the fire department and rose through the ranks to become captain. Now it’s my turn to give to my community in a different way.

Why do you think a “changing of the guard” is in order?

AE: As I mentioned, I have served as trustee for four years. When I first

“We can improve the jewel of the Five Towns.” was very calm, very quiet.

Things were being run extremely well. And the kids were doing well. We had graduation rates around 91% from kids that were in low income families.

This is not my first foray into politics. I actually ran for the Knesset four years ago. I like to help make change. I like giving back to the community. In fact, when I was living in Men-

came in, I was the newest kids on block. I took care of the finance committee, the highway department, the sanitation. If you think of it, it all has to do with the operation of Village.

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The bulk of the responsibility of running the Village rests on the mayor, although there are meetings once a month when the trustees have to vote on certain issues. They are open to the public and everyone should really attend.

With this new board, we’ll have more experience and more enthusiasm.

Not to minimize the efforts of the old board, but Uri has experience with development; Danny has experience with a background in electrical contracting and is involved in real estate. I have a wealth of experience. I know about insurance, workman’s comp, labor laws, union contracts. I have a background in transportation; I own an ambulette company and school bus companies.

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I am familiar with so many facets of business, which comes in handy in running the Village.

What are the issues that need to be tackled in the Village?

AE: A major issue is sanitation. I had the toughest time with that. They don’t pick up the garbage, they drop bags on the street, they drive the wrong way down one way streets, they run red lights. There’s myriad things. A lot of it comes down to their union contracts.

What about snow removal?

AE: Snow we take care of ourselves. It’s the department of highway. We sand, we salt, we pile it up and then we take it away.

We have a crew of 6 people and we have a yearly budget. In fact, this week we are already buying sand for next winter.

There are other problems we need to address.

Problems with the sewers, with flooding streets. There are some streets that don’t have working lights. And some street signs are too worn out.

There hasn’t been a history of maintenance and we want to institute mainte-

nance on a regular basis so things won’t break down.

Uri, what department do you want to be assigned to?

UK: I’m a real estate developer. I want to be involved in the decommissioning of the sewer plant.

It’s at end of Rock Hall Road and the 878 hidden by bushes. I know the property well. It has environmental contamination that needs to be addressed. It’s now being pumped to another, larger facility in East Rockaway and they maintain it from there. I’d like to see the land recommissioned so that can benefit the community.

I’d also like to see the library relocated.

AE: We already have plans with library. Preliminary plans. It will be moved along the LIRR station behind Zion Park and will be part of the parking lot and run parallel to the train tracks. We will lose 15, 20 parking spaces but will make it up on the other side of library. The Village owns a few feet of land directly behind the LIRR tracks that we will sell to the library.

The library will be twice as large as it is now. And it will have a bathroom accessible for people who use the park.

Uri Kaufman

UK: Another thing I’d love to do. When you go upstate, most small towns have a sign by their ponds: When indicated, ice skating is permitted and welcome.

If you have 5 inches of ice, you can skate. I would love to do that with the pond on Causeway. I researched it already and it won’t cost us a penny more in insurance.

Danny, you also have a vision for the Village.

DG: There are a couple of things I’d like to change.

I’d like to add a walking lane or bike lane around the main streets. It will make things a lot safer for people.

I’d also like to simplify the building department.

Right now, it’s hard to get building permits and dealing with it. We don’t need the red tape. Things should be simple for our residents.

Because of my experience, I’m very good at solving problems and getting funding.

The bug problem is also a big issue in town. And spraying is not the answer.

In Disneyworld, there are no mosquitoes. They brought in someone who does ecosystems and they planted plants and brought in bugs that eat the larva of mosquitoes instead of spraying. It will only cost

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the Village a small amount and then we wouldn’t need to spray.

It’s the little things that will make our lives better.

We need to fix the potholes and the lights. This will improve our lives.

What about crime?

There have been instances of mugging, of people breaking into cars, smashing windows.

AE: Let me give you some background. For the past few years, we didn’t have a good relationship with the 4th Precinct. But when I become mayor, I, and the trustee who will be appointed to the police department, will have a meeting right away with the police.

There’s a new captain there, Lee Steinberg. He’s been there about a year, 10 months. But the Village has not extended a welcome courtesy call to him yet. That will change when I become mayor and will request more of a police presence. It’s very important to have a good relationship.

We have many things we’d like to do. We will have visionaries on the board to get things done. It’s going to be a new group who will try to incorporate many

new, wonderful things. We can improve the jewel of the Five Towns.

UK: The Village was run well, but we feel that there are things we can do to make Lawrence even better.

Will it raise our taxes?

UK: The new library will be paid for by the library. There’s no Village expenses at all – as a matter of fact, we will sell them a piece of property and that will be income for the Village. The sewer plant will be paid for by the county.

Keeping taxes low is our number one priority.

AE: I’ve been trustee for four years. I will work hard and so will Uri and Danny.

We will be a great team. We are the experienced team and we are Row A on the ballot. There are other people running for trustee, but people should only vote for Row A. It takes work and takes work with people who have experience. Our team will be the right team to run the Village.

The election is June 21 and the term starts on July 1.

DG: It’s very important for every person to go out and vote. Every vote counts. The more we vote, the more we can make a difference.

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Dr. Deb

The Key Element of Narcissism

By Deb Hirschhorn, Ph.D.

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elissa, I did it for you!” Leon was saying.

“Yeah,” Melissa countered. “You wanted to win me over so you could ‘have’ me. You wanted me for your little pet.”

Leon was aghast. He didn’t know what to make of this strange accusation.

They were dating and he gave her a lovely bracelet.

They were already talking about getting engaged; it’s not as if they didn’t have a relationship. It made no sense to him, so he tried again.

“I was showering you because you deserve to be showered!” Leon said exuberantly. He thought that should do the trick, but it did not.

Melissa reminded him of a time that they were making plans to go out. She wanted to play miniature golf and that just didn’t appeal to him. He had humored her at each and every

outing they’d planned and didn’t see a problem with simply saying he wasn’t fond of miniature golf. “Maybe another tine,” he had said.

Melissa had been crestfallen, really disappointed.

What Leon now learned is that she was holding this one incident over his head as “proof” that he didn’t really love her or care for her.

Therefore, if he was giving her a gift now, it was not out of love and generosity but out of a desire to use her, like a puppet on a string: He could be “mean” and then cover it up later with gifts.

At least, that is how Melissa saw it.

When they came in for a session of pre-marital counseling, Melissa was a bit taken aback when the therapist asked her, “So if you got to do what you wanted each and every other time you went out, would you call that selfish?”

But she answered quickly enough, “Not at all. The

man is supposed to take care of the woman, and when they’re dating, he’s supposed to indulge her.”

“In the 21st century?” the therapist asked.

“Yes!” Melissa said quickly.

“And does that rule hold up after marriage, too?” the therapist wanted to know.

Melissa thought about it. “It’s like this,” she said.

“Let’s say a woman has a career that she finds fulfilling.

Then obviously, she is in a financial position to contribute to the household, so that is fine.”

“But if they needed more income and the sort of work she could do was not so fulfilling, then what?”

“Maybe the husband would have to work two jobs,” she offered.

You may think that Melissa was just old fashioned.

I don’t. I think if she were the man in this relationship, she would have found a different way to rational-

ize her position.

No, it is not gender bias; it seems to be narcissism.

Not only isn’t Melissa playing fair – what could be called selfish – but she doesn’t see anything wrong with her position. She is unable to see the world from another perspective. That is a dead giveaway that we are dealing with a case of narcissism.

What’s more, she presents the rationale for her position so logically that anyone’s head would be spinning. Leon could be forgiven for thinking, “Maybe she’s right! Women are to be taken care of!”

If that were so, then whatever happened to the eizer in eizer k’negdo? She’s supposed to be helping him in his job here on Earth.

And she would naturally get fulfillment out of being part of a successful team. The fulfillment surely can come from the sort of work you do, but it doesn’t have to.

What fulfillment does a parent have who must attend to a sick child? And what if that child is chronically in need of care? Then what? On the one hand, the job is tiresome and painful.

On the other, the fulfillment would come from the caregiving itself. But ask Melissa that question later on when she becomes a mother.

She might say that’s what nannies are for.

Nothing wrong with nannies, but is there a point when she chips in? Is there a point when she feels a sense of accomplishment because she gave some TLC to that child?

Narcissists don’t have to do too much reflection about these sorts of choices, either. They make their decisions based on what is good for them and they’re done. If someone else questions their behavior or they just don’t like the other person’s position, that other person is automatically

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wrong. It’s easy. And egocentric.

Not having ever been asked as a child, “Well, how do you think your friend, Shoshie, feels now?” they have no experience in seeing the world from another person’s position. Had they been asked that simple question every time they would quarrel with a friend, the outcome would be vastly different: They would be capable of shifting perspectives; they would be capable of empathy.

Without having been taught to consider another person’s position, they are not capable of it.

People say that narcissism is incurable. Because the narcissist is not able to stand in another person’s shoes and has had no

practice in reflecting, when things go wrong in life he or she would not be likely to wonder whether there were any lessons to be learned.

As a therapist, I would

she would have to be motivated to learn how to see the world from other people’s points of view. Often, that motivation comes from a spouse who is fed up with

the armor. The narcissist truly loves his or her spouse.

The narcissist appreciates qualities in the spouse that he or she lacks. Perhaps at some level he really does

Without having been taught to consider another person’s position, they are not capable of it.

not give up on a person. If Melissa came to me unhappy because Leon decided not to go ahead with the engagement, I would certainly try to help her see herself more objectively. I would roll up my sleeves – if she was willing to do the work.

The tricky part is that

the status quo.

Now, here is the really interesting question: If a narcissist is content to see the world through his or her own eyes and is not empathetic to others, then why would this narcissist care if the spouse is fed up or about to leave?

And that is the chink in

want to connect. After all, it is the human condition to be connected to others. So it makes sense that the possibility of that loss really is motivating.

I had an argument with someone the other day. His position was that there is such a thing as mental ill-

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ness and mine is that there is not. His was that we all have limitations and we cannot always overcome them. He gave an example of athletic prowess. My response is that of course we have limitations, but let’s not stick a label on someone and say they cannot make some progress on those limitations.

I say anyone can take steps in the right direction.

If they want to. Or if someone motivates them sufficiently.

Dr. Deb Hirschhorn is a Marriage and Family Therapist. She can be reached at 646-54-DRDEB or by writing drdeb@drdeb.com.

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Health & F tness

Say Goodnight to Overeating

By Cindy Weinberger MS, RD, CDN

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good night’s sleep kicks off a successful day. Adults require 7-9 hours of sleep each night. Teens need at least 9 hours of sleep each night. School-aged children need at least 10 hours of sleep each night. Preschoolers need to sleep between 11 and 12 hours a day.

Newborns need to sleep between 16 and 18 hours a day. What happens when we don’t get enough sleep?

Aside from being cranky and groggy, I’m sure many of us know this feeling all too well: we get the munchies!

It’s not just a theory. Science has proven that lack of sleep causes the body to cook up a recipe for weight gain. When you’re short on sleep and tired, it’s easy to rely on a large latte to give you energy. You might probably also be tempted to skip your workout and get takeout for dinner.

Skimping on sleep leads to bad decision making which generally results in poor health decisions too. It’s OK if this happens occasionally, but when lack of sleep starts to get out of hand, so does the weight gain. Aside from the poor decisions, lack of sleep actually generates a bigger appetite.

What causes us to eat more when we don’t get enough sleep? University of Chicago studied 14 individ-

uals for 8 nights. The participants slept 8.5 hours for four nights and 4.5 hours for another four nights.

The researchers found that the participants ate 400 calories more per day on days when they were sleep deprived. Researchers credit this response to an imbalance in the endocannabinoid system. The endo-

imbalance in the hunger hormones leptin and ghrelin. Leptin causes us to be less hungry, while ghrelin induces hunger. When one is sleep deprived, the body produces more ghrelin so the body is getting more hunger signals than usual. At the same time, less leptin is being produced so one is not getting cues when

What causes us to eat more when we don’t get enough sleep?

cannabinoid system is involved in the rewards-pleasure feelings. When sleep deprived, there is an increase in the endocannabinoid system, causing one to crave pleasure. When we’re tired, we look for a quick fix; something to make us feel better.

What’s the number one thing we turn to? Food! Research has found that lack of sleep causes individuals to snack more in the evening and consume larger portions during mealtime.

Sleep deprivation also causes an

full. Additionally, studies have found that being awake for a longer period of time naturally leads to an increase in energy expenditure which results in overeating.

Sleep is not only essential for the diet, but for overall health. Aside from overeating and eating unhealthy foods, researchers associate lack of sleep with an increased risk of developing Type II diabetes, weakened immunity, weakened cognitive function, and increased impulsiveness. Try heading to bed early

enough before you get overtired, but not too early when you’re not tired at all. Shut off all electronics that are brain stimulating – that means shut the phone, iPad, laptop, and TV. Create a bedtime ritual so your body recognizes when it’s time to unwind.

Try to go to sleep and wake up at the same time every day to get your body used to a sleep schedule. Most importantly, watch what you eat as bedtime approaches. Avoid caffeine and large meals past a certain time.

The last step is to close your eyes and let the dreams begin.

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Dating Dialogue

What Would You Do If… Moderated by Jennifer Mann, LCSW of The Navidaters

Dear Navidaters,

Six months ago I was set up with Rachel. We went out ten times and I thought everything was going great. We had very meaningful conversations and it seemed to me as though we agreed on all the important stuff. Just as I was having serious talks with my parents about my intention to propose to Rachel, she ended things. I was caught very off guard and to say that I was shocked is an understatement.

When I asked Rachel why, since I thought everything was going along so nicely, she was very vague about her reasons and basically just said that she wasn’t feeling it and that although she thought very highly of me, she felt certain that I wasn’t her bashert. I was heartbroken. I was so drawn to Rachel in every way. I felt she ended things harshly and didn’t really give me much of a reason for ending things. I found myself feeling angry at her and coming up with reasons why she wasn’t so terrific after all.

I knew she was dating quickly thereafter, because she actually went out with someone I know. They only went out a couple of times, but I was very uncomfortable hearing about it.

Recently, I received a phone call from the shadchan who originally set us up and she told me that Rachel was interested in giving our relationship another try and wanted to know if I would be willing to go out with her again.

I really don’t know how to respond. First off, I’m still feeling some anger toward Rachel for dropping me like a hot potato. I’m still feeling insulted over the whole thing. But also, I’m afraid that if I do go out, once again, I’ll grow to have very strong feelings for her and who is to say that she won’t pull the same stunt on me again?

I’m wondering how the panel feels about “revisiting” an old relationship?

The feedback from our readers has been remarkable. In order to facilitate further discussion, you can now continue the conversation anonymously on our website. Every Sunday, we will upload the weekend’s most recent edition of What Would You Do If to the dating forum at thenavidaters.com. Join The Navidaters and your fellow TJH readers in a comprehensive dialogue with regard to dating, relationships and marriage. The forum will be moderated daily for everyone’s comfort and safety. See you there!

Disclaimer: This column is not intended to diagnose or otherwise offer resolutions to any questions. Our intention is not to offer any definitive conclusions to any particular question, but to offer areas of exploration for the author and reader. Due to the nature of the column receiving only a short snapshot of an issue, without the benefit of an actual discussion, the panel’s role is to offer a range of possibilities. We hope to open up meaningful dialogue and individual exploration.

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eople revisit relationships. But there has to be openness, not just a skillful shadchan. It’s hard to start where you left off because there was no openness the first time. Rachel was not open with you about why she broke it off and you were left without closure and with a lot of anger and other unresolved feelings.

My concern here is not about whether you should or should not revisit this relationship. My concern is focused on your capacity to deal with your feelings and your emotional health.

Get some help to discuss this and to explore why you feel you may develop feelings for her again and get dumped again. Are you insecure?

Why didn’t you insist on some closure? People do meet and have a conversation together in order to break up. It’s only fair if you have invested in a relationship. There may be other things going on with you.

I think that if Rachel is interested in going out with you again and did not bother to apologize for the way she ended things during round one, she does not know how relationships work and she is treating you shabbily. Forget about her.

You should, however, explore why you are even considering this. You are in touch with your feelings of anger and fear but you need to work on what’s beneath them.

The Mother Sarah Schwartz Schreiber, PA

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irst and foremost: park your anger at the door. Yes, we know, your ego is bruised because Rachel dropped you like a “hot potato” – without rhyme or reason. At the same time, this is the same young woman with whom you shared so much in common, so much excite-

ment, that you were prepared to pop the question.

Just so you know: prior to getting engaged, no two people register the same number on the Ga-Ga-Richter scale. After ten dates and hours of meaningful conversation, you may have registered a 10 for enthusiasm while Rachel topped off at 7.6. You felt ready to commit; Rachel needed more time and space. Maybe her hesitation was over some “narishkeit” – your height, hair color or wardrobe. Maybe guy number two (your erstwhile friend) was waiting in the wings and sounded more enticing on paper (although disappointing in person). In any event, be flattered – he didn’t measure up to you.

So now Rachel’s asking for a second chance. Be kind. Be open. And do not demand an explanation for the sudden breakup (unless you want your feelings hurt all over again).

Maybe on your tenth anniversary you can ask Rachel “why?”

The Shadchan & Dating Coach Michelle Mond

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hey say that just as important as being set up with your bashert is being set up with you bashert at the right time. Sara and Doniel (names changed) went out seven times, really connected, but just like the girl in your story, she dropped him like a “hot potato.” She couldn’t think of a real reason to end it besides not completely feeling it. The truth was, though, she didn’t have much to compare him to and didn’t realize until dating more guys that some of her “needs” were really “wants” and were hard to come by.

Like many girls, she went into the parsha with her long list and Disney image, expecting that everything would be there with the right one right away. However, when she didn’t have it with Doniel, she felt it

was right to end it and did so. Only after dating a few more guys, and maturing through those new dating experiences, did she come to the realization that what she had with Doniel was truly special. She realized that it’s a big deal to find someone she was attracted to, who treated her well, whose hashkafos were in line with hers, and who she could laugh with and that there was a lot of potential.

Thank G-d he gave her another shot when she re-approached the idea a half a year later, because they ended up getting engaged the second time around and are now happily married!

This happens way more often than you think. Many times people don’t know when a couple gets engaged that they had actually tried go-

Just so you know: prior to getting engaged, no two people register the same number on the Ga-Ga-Richter scale.

ing out months before but one of the two broke it off. I would say definitely go ahead and give it another try, be optimistically cautious, and don’t harp on what happened last time.

Realize it was HaKodesh Baruch Hu’s way of saying it was just not the right time. Ask the shadchan if she has any insight on why it didn’t work

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out last time if that could give a clue as to how it could be more successful this time around.

If it’s truly meant to be, we look forward to hearing a mazel tov from you in the near future. If it doesn’t work out, it was good that you did your hishtadlus and tried and feel no regrets. Hatzlacha!

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feel for you and can certainly relate. I recently went

through a very similar situation.

First off, love and dating is a risky business but I do believe it is well worth the risk because the rewards could be huge and life evolving.

Yet, only you will know if the risk is worthwhile or not in each case. I know people who have given a second chance on a shidduch who didn’t have a substantiated reason why they stopped in the first place but ended up going out again and got married and are now happily married and raising a family together. I also know people who wouldn’t risk their heart being broken again.

Timing is also important when

Pulling It All Together The Navidaters Dating and Relationship Coaches and Therapists

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h boy! Everyone and their mother is going to have an opinion on this one. I predict there will be two divided camps. In the first camp you will find the following thoughts and notions: Give the relationship a second chance. She is young, maybe she got cold feet. The same thing happened to my friend’s brother’s sister-in-law’s neighbor and she is married happily ever after!

What if she is the one? You will regret not exploring the opportunity to rekindle with her for the rest of your life. Don’t leave yourself wondering “what if…”

In camp number two you will be met with the next set of notions: She left you once, she’ll do it again.

Fool me once, shame on you, fool me twice, shame on me. If she didn’t have the courtesy to break up with you in a dignified manner, then she is not ready to get married. Move on.

Both camps make very good sense, which is why you can listen to no one. You will have to listen to your heart and follow your intuition.

I appreciated all the advice of

the panelists, but I especially cared for Rebettzin Horowitz’s insight. Rebbetzin Horowitz honed in on your feelings, your emotional well-being, your role in the end of the relationship, if any, what your expectations are for your relationship, and your own value and self-worth.

I don’t have much to offer you with regard to moving on and dating other women, other than to wish you luck.

I can offer you some insight regarding revisiting this relationship. If you decide to go for it, I respectfully disagree with any panelist who suggested parking your feelings at the door and not looking back. A healthy relationship requires a healthy foundation. You wouldn’t build a house on a rotten foundation. Anything you bring into the home – beautiful flooring, chandeliers, the finest marble and all of your sacred possessions – can potentially fall through the floor due to the rotten foundation.

If you begin to date Rachel and

dating. You may have the right person who has been presented to you, but the timing may be off and then a shidduch will not work. Sometimes, you need space from one another in order to miss what you had and fully appreciate it.

I happen to be an optimist when it comes to dating and if a person seems to prove they have just cause to take a risk once again, then I believe one should give it another chance. But I caution you to protect yourself in order to not have your heart broken again. While being open with this woman make sure you protect yourself until you feel it’s safe to be completely vulnerable. She can do some of

pursue a future together, you must lay a solid foundation in which your current feelings get the attention and resolution they deserve, as do hers.

If you find there is no resolution to be had, then you can build a healthy, solid foundation with someone else.

Nowadays, it seems the catchphrase “TMI” is everywhere.

For those of you who aren’t familiar, TMI stands for “Too Much Information.” Say I share something very personal, or maybe disgusting, someone might say to me, “TMI, Jen.” In the case of you and Rachel, I am making up a new catchphrase: “NEI.” Not Enough Information. Your story ended rather abruptly with very little, if any, explanation. If you and Rachel have any shot at a “do-over,” Rachel has to willingly take accountability for her behavior and express sincere regret over the pain she caused you.

And you will have to be open to truly hearing her reasons. If she says something about your behavior in the relationship, you must be willing to be open to the feedback. I believe that you need to be open and honest with her about the pain she caused you, and the anger that you struggle with, and even your uncertainty to start up again. And ultimately, you will have to forgive her and move on.

Somewhere along the way the

In the case of you and Rachel, I am making up a new catchphrase: “NEI.” Not Enough Information.

the work to be that safe person, but she will have to start from scratch in order to prove that she can be trusted with your heart.

The choice is ours. I wish you the best of luck!

two of you stopped communicating, or perhaps there was never good communication. For you the breakup was a “sucker punch.” What was the breakup for her? Was it a long time coming? Was she struggling with the relationship all along while you had no idea? Marriage is a lifelong conversation, even when we are not in the mood to chat … and trust me, there will be times when you are not in the mood to chat. I can feel the married people reading this and shaking their heads in agreement.

So, if you decide to move forward, start chatting. If you can’t chat alone, then bring yourself, Rachel and the chat to a therapist’s office, who will help the two of you communicate the needs and feelings that weren’t said in the past and help set you up for a healthy relationship in the present.

Good luck!

Sincerely, Jennifer

Esther Mann, LCSW and Jennifer Mann, LCSW are licensed, clinical psychotherapists and dating and relationship coaches working with individuals, couples and families in private practice in Hewlett, NY. To set up an appointment, please call 516.224.7779. Press 1 for Esther, 2 for Jennifer. If you would like to submit a dating or relationship question to the panel anonymously, please email thenavidaters@gmail.com.

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Great Gifts for the Gizmo-Loving Dad SPORTS HERO

WAKE UP & SMELL THE COFFEE

Dad really loves a good coffee.

How about enticing him out of bed with an espresso? No, we are not suggesting that you buy him a Keurig machine – that is so 2014. In fact, you don’t even need to brew him a coffee to get him out of bed. You just need to give him the aroma.

The Sensorwake alarm clock uses pleasant and joyous odors to awaken people from their slumber. Memory and emotions are strongly connected to the sense of smell and when your dad is awakened with those pleasant smells, well, he’ll probably have an easier time roaring out of bed like the lion he is.

The alarm clock has different capsules that you can insert for various scents, such as a whiff of “seaside,” “grass,” “chocolate” and “espresso.”

And, of course, for all you smart dads reading this – yes, there is capsule which emits the smell of money.

Hey kids, if you get this for your dad you won’t have to hear his 6AM alarm clock wailing “emm…emm… emm” anymore!

You can order the alarm clock now on pre-order for $99 at sensorwake.com.

Papa wants to swing the bat like “Big Pappy,” the golf club like Tiger (before the back issues), and the tennis racket like Federer. Dad always told you “practice makes perfect,” right? Well, sorry to let you in on the secret that Dads share – that is simply not true. Sometimes practice isn’t enough. In fact, when it comes to sports, when you have bad form or a bad swing, guess what? The more you practice, the more you are reinforcing the bad habit – your practice is making you perfectly bad!

But now, you are going to help you dad become a star! No, you are not going to buy him a package of golf, tennis or baseball lessons.

But you are going to change the way he plays all of those sports.

The Zepp sensor ($99 to $149 at Zepp.com) attaches to Dad’s baseball bat, tennis racket or golf club and provides 3D analysis which breaks down his speed, arch, time to impact, etc. It gives instant evaluations, tips, and videos from professional athletes to help him improve his swing.

The only thing is, for each sport you will need to buy a separate sensor. But, don’t worry, there’s always next year...Dad will just have to wait another 12 months before he makes it to the Major Leagues.

PAPA ROLL

Run, Papa, run. Well, not really. Dad is not so concerned with exercise. He is more concerned with getting from Penn Station to his desk. He needs to be on time to work so that... well... so that he can afford to buy you presents all the time!

“Oh, I get it, you want me to get my dad a Hoverboard?” you say.

No, my friend, Dad has too much class to roll around on a Hoverboard. Besides, it’s not classy to get someone a gift that they already got for you. (I have a feeling that you have different color Hoverboards to match your several different pairs of sneakers).

Get Dad Rocketskats. They are motorized electric roller skates that propel you to up to 12 MPH. Dad just has to slip them onto his shoes when he gets off the train and zip to work. (They range in price from $250 to $1,000 and are available in many retail stores and online.)

Oh, one thing. They generally only support up to around 250 pounds. So you may want to have a little discussion with Dad about that. One way to do it is to say: “Dad, I am thinking of buying Rocketskates for someone who looks exactly like you, is your age, has the same exact eating habits that you have and is the same clothing size as you. Do you think he weighs more than 250 pounds?”

That’ll get him on a diet fast.

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Dad loves to cook, but he really has a “long way to go” in the kitchen. When he announces that he will fry up some fish for dinner, Mom’s response is usually something like, “You know, I’m really in the mood of Wok Tov tonight!”

Well, how about we give dad a hand in the kitchen? No...No...No...we are not suggesting having someone actually come and help him, after all, Dad needs all of the space he can get while sweating over the chicken wings he’s stewing to imperfection (“Move out of the way!! I’m cooking!”). But, what if Dad can get assistance and advice from the pot itself?

That’s right, the Pantelligent smart pan (price $199) uses technology along with Bluetooth and an app to advise you while cooking. It uses sensors to gauge the temperature and it lets you know when it’s time to flip the food. Nobody in the way; no bruised egos.

So, the next time Dad makes turkey burgers for dinner, you won’t feel like you are trying to chew down hockey pucks with ketchup on them. Now who’s washing the dishes?

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Dad spends every family get together – say cheese!! – behind the lens. Droning on and on about how – say cheese!! – one day you will appreciate all the pictures he takes. How about –say cheese!! – a bird’s eye view of the family get-together? Wouldn’t that be cool?

Now Dad can capture all the photos and videos from overhead.

There are a wide variety of drones which come with many different features. For the beginner dad, look for one that is easy to fly. But make sure it has a decent camera because Dad has no tolerance for bad cameras. For around $550, you can get Dad an okay drone with a video camera.

Just one favor, though. We live near Kennedy Airport. Just let Dad know that he shouldn’t get in the path of the 747s…really not a good idea, know what I mean?

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Dad may be the grill master, but he is certainly not the grill-cleaning master. His idea of cleaning out the barbequing grill is cranking up the temperature until the white smoke alerts the entire neighborhood that he’s flippin’ burgers again.

What better way to please your Dad than by getting his an automatic BBQ grill cleaning robot. (Wait, that’s what you are!) Dad will simply have to press a button and the robot, which features three spinning brass wire brushes, will go back-andforth on the grates until they are spot clean...and ready for his next offering.

Grill cleaning robots run in the $100 price range.

Is Dad Biking4Chai this year? Is he a hiker? How about a surfer? Maybe a canoeist? A deep-water swimmer?

Whatever Dad’s activity of choice is, he would certainly love to show the rest of the family his conquests. A picture says a thousand words... Instead of Dad talking a thousand words about the wave he rode at Atlantic Beach, he can now simply prove it by showing you a picture or a video. (Oh, by the way, if your dad is a surfer dude, he really is a lot cooler than 99.9% of dads in the Five Towns.) Of course, if your dad is the pocket-protector sort, he can always show you what life is behind the desk at his accounting job. “You see, son, this is why you want to do well in school and become a doctor.”

A basic waterproof GoPro model runs for about $130. A higher-end model, with live streaming, runs for about $300. Go ahead – he’s worth it.

LOW ENERGY DAD

Papa’s cold, Papa’s hot. Papa needs his own thermostat.

Well, not really. Of course your dad wants everyone to be comfortable, but he also wants to be comfortable when he’s paying the monthly energy bill. That cold shiver down his spine when he writes the check to the energy company can be replaced with a sigh of relief, knowing that he – the ever responsible penny pinching homeowner – did all he can to save energy, meaning MONEY. The Nest Thermostat ($249 at nest.com) is a smart thermostat which automatically adapts the temperature in the home to your schedule. It uses built-in sensors and phone locations to know when you come and go, eat or go to sleep, and it adjusts the temperature based on your routine.

Of course, what your father will love most is that it will give him reports regarding how much energy the home uses every day and shows him ways to use less energy. And, he can control the thermostat from his phone as well, which means he can to crank up that AC before he gets home.

Now, who can bring him his slippers?

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Delete your account.

- Hillary Clinton’s tweet in response to Trump bashing President Obama’s endorsement of her (In the “twitter world,” that phrase is used when a tweet falls flat)

How long did it take your staff of 823 people to think that up? And where are your 33,000 emails that you deleted?”

- Trump’s reply

The co-founder of Home Depot recently announced that he is supporting Donald Trump. He wasn’t planning to, but when your colors are orange and white, you kind of have to go with Donald.

– Jimmy Fallon

The Second Amendment didn’t kill anybody. Evil, radical Islam, ISIS, they killed. We have to start standing up for our country. We have to say, we’re going to vet people before they come into our country. If you disagree with what our country believes in, why in the living daylights are you allowed in our country?

– Florida Gov. Rick Scott (R), at a press conference

In an interview, Donald Trump said he won’t have to ask G-d for “much forgiveness.” Unless, of course, G-d turns out to be a Mexican woman who’s a Muslim.

– Conan O’Brien

“Today Show” host Savannah Guthrie’s skipping the Olympics in Rio because she’s pregnant and worried about the Zika virus. In a related story, Bob Costas just announced he is pregnant.

– Conan O’Brien

The Queen wears the crown, but her husband wears the trousers.

- British royal biographer Gyles Brandreth, writing about Queen Elizabeth II and Prince Philip’s marriage, in advance of their upcoming 70th anniversary

He has not called.

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Hillary Clinton said yesterday that she would like to see the FBI investigation of her emails wrapped up. Hillary then said, “Or deleted – whatever is easiest.”

– Conan O’Brien

It’s being reported that Hillary Clinton now has enough delegates to secure the Democratic nomination. Hillary was so excited when she found out she asked her staff to schedule 15 seconds of smiling.

– Jimmy Fallon

Hillary told her assistant to break out the champagne. And he said, “Actually you drank it all when Trump secured his nomination. Do you remember that?”

- Ibid.

Congresswoman Nancy Pelosi said it would be great if Hillary Clinton picked a female running mate. She said it during a speech titled, “Hint Hint.”

Hillary Clinton today responded to her status as the presumptive nominee, calling it a “historic, unprecedented moment.” Said Hillary, “Never in my wildest dreams did I think…it would take this long.”

– Seth Myers

I mean, what am I gonna do? I can’t vote for George Washington. So I’m supporting Donald Trump.

- Bob Dole

– Conan O’Brien

In the general election, Donald Trump plans on painting Hillary Clinton as moneygrubbing and unethical. Meanwhile, Hillary Clinton plans on painting Donald Trump as Donald Trump.

– Conan O’Brien

It is being reported that Ivanka Trump is writing a book titled, “Women Who Work: Rewriting the Rules of Success.” Which is better than the original title, “Help! My Dad’s a Nectarine!”

- Seth Myers

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Almost without exception, President Obama begins serious policy discussions by explaining why everyone else is wrong.

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Political Crossfire

The Party of Lincoln, RIP?

By Michael Gerson

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hy such vehemence among Republican leaders in their condemnations of Donald Trump for questioning the objectivity of a federal judge based on his “Mexican heritage”?

This is, in House Speaker Paul Ryan’s words, “the textbook definition of a racist comment.” But it is not materially more bigoted than the central premise of Trump’s campaign: that foreigners and outsiders are exploiting, infiltrating and adulterating the real America.

How is attacking the impartiality of a judge worse than characterizing undocumented Mexicans as invading predators intent on attacking American women? Or pledging to keep all Muslim migrants out of the country? Or citing the internment of Japanese citizens during World War II as positive precedent?

Is Trump himself a racist? Who the bloody heck cares. There is no difference in public influence between a politician who is a racist and one who appeals to racist sentiments with racist arguments. The harm to the country – measured in division and fear – is the same, whatever the inner workings of Trump’s heart.

No, Trump’s attack on Judge Gonzalo Curiel was not different in kind. But for Republican leaders, this much was new: Since Trump now owns them, they now own his prejudice. Sure, Trump has gone nativist before, but this time it followed their overall stamp of approval, given in the cause of Republican

unity. Trump must have known his attack on Curiel would humiliate the GOP leaders who have endorsed him, and did it anyway. Trump is taking away the option of wishful thinking. Republicans have clung to the hope that Trump might find unsuspected resources of leadership; lacking that, to the hope that he might be coopted; and lacking that, to the hope of laying low and avoiding the Trump taint. All delusions.

Having tied themselves to Trump’s anchor, the protests of GOP leaders are merely the last string of bubbles escaping from their lungs.

So what were senior Republicans thinking when they endorsed Trump? I don’t want to underestimate the difficulties involved in opposing one’s own presumptive nominee. There is tremendous political pressure to be loyal to the team. The arguments against doing anything that might help Hillary Clinton are strong. “This is about moving our agenda forward,” said Ryan in justifying his Trump endorsement.

Republican leaders, in other words, thought they were in a normal political moment – a time for pragmatism, give-and-take, holding your nose and eventually getting past an unpleasant chore.

But it is not a normal political moment. It is one of those rare times – like the repudiation of Joe McCarthy, or consideration of the Civil Rights Act of 1964, or the Watergate crisis – when the spotlight of history stops on a single decision,

and a whole political career is remembered in a single pose. The test here: Can you support, for pragmatic reasons, a presidential candidate who purposely and consistently appeals to racism?

When the choice came, only a handful of Republicans at the national level answered with a firm “no.” A handful. It was not shocking to me that the plurality of an angry Republican primary electorate – grown distrustful of establishment

tice: Don’t support racists – or candidates who appeal to racism – for public office. If this commitment is not a primary, non-negotiable element of Republican identity, then the party of Lincoln is dead.

Without a passion for universal human dignity and worth – the commitment to a common good in which the powerless are valued – politics is a spoils system for the winners. It degenerates into a way for one group to gain advantage over

Having tied themselves to Trump’s anchor, the protests of GOP leaders are merely the last string of bubbles escaping from their lungs.

leaders – might choose a populist who appeals to racial prejudice. It is shocking to me – and depressing and infuriating – that almost no elected Republicans of national standing would stand up to it.

By this standard, Sen. Ben Sasse of Nebraska is the moral leader of the GOP. But given the thinness of his company, many of us will never be able to think about the Republican Party in quite the same way again. It still carries many of the ideological convictions I share. Collectively, however, it has failed one of the most basic tests of public jus-

another. And for Trump in particular, politics seems to be a way for white voters to take back social power following the age of Obama.

Many Republicans, I suspect, will sicken of defending this shabby enterprise – as Sens. Lindsey Graham, Jeff Flake and Mark Kirk have done. The process of unendorsing Trump is humiliating, but only for a moment. The honor of choosing rightly, when it mattered most, will endure. (c) 2016, Washington Writers Group

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Political Crossfire

In the Matter of Paul Ryan

By Charles Krauthammer

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he morning after, the nation awakes asking: What have we done?

Both parties seem intent on throwing the election away. The Democrats, running against a man with highest-ever negatives, are poised to nominate a candidate with the second-highest-ever negatives.

Hillary Clinton started with every possible advantage – money, experience, name recognition, residual goodwill from her husband’s successful 1990s – yet could not put away until this week an obscure, fringy, socialist backbencher in a country uniquely allergic to socialism.

Bernie Sanders did have one advantage. He had something to say.

She had nuthin’. Her Tuesday victory speech was a pudding without a theme for a campaign without a cause. After 14 months, she still can’t get past the famous question asked of Ted Kennedy in 1979: Why do you want to be president?

So whom do the Republicans put up? They had 17 candidates. Any of a dozen could have taken down the near-fatally weak Clinton, unloved, untrusted, living under the shadow of an FBI investigation.

Instead, they nominate Donald Trump – conspiracy theorist (from Barack Obama’s Kenyan birth to Ted Cruz’s father’s involvement with Lee Harvey Oswald), fabulist (from his own invented opposition to the Iraq War and the Libya intervention to the “thousands and thousands” of New Jersey Muslims celebrating 9/11), admirer of strongmen (from Vladimir Putin to the butchers of Tiananmen).

His outrageous provocations have been brilliantly sequenced so that the shock of the new extinguishes the memory of the last.

Though perhaps not his most recent – his gratuitous attack on a “Mexican” federal judge (born and bred in Indiana) for inherent bias because of his ethnicity. Textbook racism, averred Speaker Paul Ryan. Even Trump acolyte and possible running mate Newt Gingrich called it inexcusable.

Trump promptly doubled down, expanding the universe of the notto-be-trusted among us by adding American Muslims to the list of those who might be inherently biased.

Yet Trump is the party’s chosen.

He won the primary contest fair and square. The people have spoken.

What to do?

First, dare to say that the people aren’t always right. Surely Republicans admit the possibility.

Or do they believe the people chose rightly in electing Obama? Twice.

Historical examples of other countries choosing even more wrongly are numerous and tragic. The people’s will deserves respect, not necessarily affirmation.

I sympathize with the dilemma of Republican leaders reluctant to affirm. Many are as appalled as I am

by Trump, but they don’t have the freedom I do to say, as I have publicly, that I cannot imagine ever voting for him. They have unique party and institutional responsibilities.

For some, that meant endorsing Trump in the belief that they might be able to contain, constrain, guide and perhaps even educate him. To

my mind, this thinking has always been hopelessly misbegotten but not necessarily – nor in all cases – venal.

Which brings us to the matter of Paul Ryan, now being excoriated by many conservatives for having said he would vote for Trump.

treason for “electing Hillary.”

In the end, Ryan called an armistice. What was he to do?

Oppose and resign? And then what?

What would remain of conservative leadership in the GOP? And if he created a permanent split in the

Ryan was legitimizing resistance to the new regime, giving it safe harbor in the House, even as resisters were being relentlessly accused of treason for “electing Hillary.”

Yet what was surprising was not Ryan’s ever-so-tepid semiendorsement, which was always inevitable and unavoidable – can the highest elected GOP official be at war during a general election with the party’s democratically chosen presidential candidate? – but his initial refusal to endorse Trump when, after the Indiana primary, nearly everyone around him was falling mindlessly, some shamelessly, into line.

That was surprising. Which is why Ryan’s refusal to immediately follow suit created such a sensation.

It also created, deliberately, the time and space for non-Trumpites to hold the line. Ryan was legitimizing resistance to the new regime, giving it safe harbor in the House, even as resisters were being relentlessly accused of

party, he’d be setting up the GOP’s entire conservative wing as scapegoat if Trump loses in November.

Ryan had no good options.

He chose the one he felt was least damaging to the conservative cause to which he has devoted his entire adult life.

I wouldn’t have done it but I’m not House speaker. He is a practicing politician who has to calculate the consequences of what he does. That deserves at least some understanding.

One day, we shall all have to account for what we did and what we said in this scoundrel year. For now, we each have our conscience to attend to. (c) 2016, The Washington Post Writers Group

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Postcards from the Henhouse

By Rocky Zweig

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like cemeteries. I think I may have picked it up from my mother a”h, who was blessed with a really dark sense of humor. We once brought her to Wellwood out in Farmingdale erev Rosh Hashana to visit her parents and siblings. Mom was already in her eighties, so when it was time to go she stopped for a minute and said, “It hardly pays to leave, does it?”

Anyway, I know I’m supposed to be solemn and proper and decorous, but that’s always been tough for me – no matter where I am. When I go to the Bais Olam, I like going myself.

No, I don’t just wake up one morning and arbitrarily decide to see if my all my dearly departed are still where we left them. I mean if there’s an occasion to go (erev Yom Kippur, yahrtzeit, Arbor Day, etc.), I prefer to walk around the place alone.

I have siblings I could go with, but luckily, they both still do that thing…you know, it starts with a W; they um, they…oh yeah…they work!

They still work! So they always have to wait for Sunday and I can go all by myself, bo ba’yom, and just hang around talking to the birds and the trees and Tante Rose and Uncle Nechemia. And now when I have a conversation with my dad, I pretty much do all the talking. That comes in really handy, seeing as how he never asks me anymore to explain the Pythagorean Theorem or wheth-

er or not I was ma’avir sedra.

I bring up the cemetery because on Friday, the 19th of Iyar, the day after Lag B’Omer, I had yahrtzeit for my father, z”l. Ever since I started writing for TJH I’ve always wanted to write a piece in homage to my mom and dad when I have yahrtzeit, but I haven’t – at least until now. I always figured it would be somewhat self-indulgent for me to sing the praises of my folks upon the occasion of the anniversary of their demise. After all: a eulogy does not a funny article make.

But then I figured, y’know what?

Not every day in dad’s life was tragic.

Not every day in dad’s life was maudlin. Yes, he was niftar. As which of us will not? Writing about him was just a matter of finding a story I can relate (or, in this case, two stories) that pretty much captures my relationship with my dad.

Dad was a wonderful guy, but not good at showing affection, encouragement, or approval. He grew up in a European home where male tenderness and emotions were pretty much held in check so he never learned how to express how he felt toward us, even though we all knew.

Getting a compliment from him was like pulling teeth. Mom, however, was just the opposite. All in all, they complemented each other perfectly and were a great team. But this story is about the night my father told me that I had laid an egg, which, as you

might have imagined, was the very last thing I needed to hear at the moment.

My niece got married, someone made Sheva Brachos at Schick’s on 12th Avenue in Boro Park and had the bright idea of asking me to speak. This was over twenty years ago so one would assume that most of my synapses were still firing, and I didn’t have much of an excuse not to stand in front of a roomful of bearded, black-hatted people and be wholly inappropriate, but that’s precisely what I did. In the process, of course, I embarrassed all present, not the least of which, myself: I was positively mortified.

Worst part was, my mother had been lobbying the room for me. “My son is going to speak,” she’d say.

“He’s soooo funny.” In typical fashion I had waited until the night before to put anything down on paper and hadn’t slept well the night before that, so sitting at the keyboard at two o’clock in the morning, I was already a little punch-drunk when I started.

In my semi-stupor, it occurred to me to write a spoof about the whole vetting process that goes into finding shiduchim. You know, like asking tremendously relevant questions like, “Does his mother wear sneakers?” Or, “Does her family stack dishes when they clean off the table on Shabbos or do they take off

each plate individually?” (both bona fide, actually asked questions, by the way). Pretty fertile grounds for humor, wouldn’t you think? Except the scenario I chose with which to state my case was so outrageously out of line, to this day I can’t believe I actually got up and repeated it out loud to anyone without a lobotomy.

But before I get to that, there’s this last little bit of business to contend with: Have you ever started baking a chocolate cake and then when you’re halfway through you realize you don’t have any Fox’s U-bet?

Are there any chocolate cake recipes sans Fox’s? Of course. But Bubby Surche and Tante Frahdle and Mima Yentl all held that chocolate cake without the U-bet? You might as well just serve compote. And you certainly couldn’t even think of substituting Bosco or Hershey’s or, dare I say, even Lieber’s, because Bubby Surche would consider that pretty close to sacrilege and promptly start rolling over. So what you wind up doing is finishing the cake without any syrup whatsoever. After all, there’s cocoa, coffee, orange juice and jelly in there (those all just happen to be genuine ingredients in my mother’s mouth-watering chocolate cake) so you will have cake; it just won’t be what you set out for it to be: it won’t be Bubby Surche’s.

Well, that’s what happened to me with this here story. I texted Shosha-

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na and told her one teensy little ingredient that I intended to use herein (i.e. a short synopsis of the speech).

Now, if I was asking beforehand, you know that this particular ingredient was perhaps a wee bit controversial.

Like, oh, I don’t know — arsenic.

Shoshana, being smarter, younger, and having nicer shoes than I, answered me in her usual, low-key, inimitable fashion: Are you out of your cotton pickin’ gourd???

(Full disclosure? That’s not re-

Like I said — a smart person would have done that. But I was so committed to that tripe that I just kept plugging along to the bitter end.

Thank G-d it didn’t take twenty minutes because all the interruptions of thunderous laughter I had anticipated the night before somehow never materialized.

A few of yasher koachs. A smattering of applause. I started to slink back to my seat when I decided to make a pit stop at my parents’ table for a little chizuk. I just stood there

So I’m about five minutes into this disaster and I haven’t heard a laugh. Or a chortle, or a giggle. Forget about a guffaw.

ally how it happened. Shoshana’s a true professional. She’s always calm, cool and collected. That’s why we get along so well: we’re so very much alike. What she did say was, “I would probably stay away.” That’s why she gets the big bucks.)

So, bottom line: you’re getting the cake. You’re just not getting the syrup. Just thought you should know.

Anyway, where was I? So I’m about five minutes into this disaster and I haven’t heard a laugh.

Or a chortle, or a giggle. Forget about a guffaw. I look up into a sea of bearded faces staring back at me wide-eyed, not sure what to think.

The people from my side know me of course, but the rest? They appeared to think that I was some crazy uncle for whom a day pass from Creedmor was procured so he could come partake in the simcha and present this … this brilliance.

I had timed it the night before and the speech ran almost twenty minutes. After about five or six minutes of almost stone cold silence, a smart person probably would have bailed.

Probably would have said something like, “Hey folks, sorry ‘bout all that.

I’d just like to wish the chosson and kallah mazel tov and may they build a bayis ne’eman, yada, yada, yada…”

for a few seconds, looking like a little lost puppy, and they looked up simultaneously.

“I thought you were great,” said Mom. G-d bless good ol’ dependable Mom. “Boy, did you lay an egg!” said Dad. I watched her poke him gently in the ribs, and then I walked away. I went downstairs, where there used to be a bank of public phones that probably aren’t there anymore. Just wanted some alone time. Someone walked by with a cigarette. “Can I get one of those?” I said. And just like that, I started smoking again after having stopped for about six months. Went upstairs and stood outside and puffed away five minutes’ worth of the knot in my stomach before venturing back in.

EPILOGUE: IN DEFENSE OF DAD

But then, of course, there was the time we threw my parents a 35th anniversary party at Yun-kee on Avenue M. They had been in Eretz Yisroel for a few weeks right before, and I had raided their shoeboxes of old pictures, converted them to slides, and put together a slideshow presentation for the occasion. No Windows Movie Maker. No PowerPoint. Just a lot of time, effort and

love. And it showed. When it was over, my mother hugged me and told me she was proud of me. Dad just smiled that crooked, goofy smile of his. You know, the one he smiled when I passed the bechina to get into Mir. That smile was worth at least as much as any hug. That smile was all he could ever give and I knew it, and that was always good enough for me.

Rocky Zweig has been writing since he was sixteen and was the Editor-in-Chief of the late and decidedly unlamented Modieinu, the mimeographed (remember mimeographs?) newspaper of the Tenth Avenue Pirchei of Boro Park, where he wrote everything from stories to news articles to hashkafa articles to... yes (now it can be told!)...letters to the editor. Rocky was sixteen a very long time ago. He is the proud father of three marginally neurotic children. He has been married three — count ‘em — three times and has finally determined that he’s probably not very good at matri-

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Job Search Lessons from “Wrong-way” Corrigan

By Rabbi Mordechai Kruger

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veryone needs heroes. Job hunters especially, given the frustrations and disappointments that are often part of the process, could use someone to look up to, the kind of person whose life exemplifies sticking to the search, staying focused on the goal until success is finally achieved. I would like to nominate Douglas “Wrong-way” Corrigan.

We here in the Rockaways should feel particularly proud of “Wrong-way,” as our own Floyd Bennett Field was an important part of the incident that made him famous. But we shouldn’t be overly possessive; Corrigan deserves to be recognized and imitated by job searchers no matter where they may be.

In a world that pushes bad

advice and impatience onto career choosers and job hunters, Corrigan is a real hero.

Corrigan fell in love with flying as a teenager in Los Angeles of the 1920s. He became an aircraft builder and mechanic; Lindbergh’s Spirit of St. Louis was one of his projects, in which he installed an innovative wing that he had designed himself. Through those years, while saving every penny he could, he took pilot lessons and earned his license. After Lindbergh’s flight in 1927, he decided that he would also fly across the Atlantic, to his ancestral home in Ireland.

But where Lindbergh had wealthy backers and a custom-built plane, Corrigan wanted to be the flyer of the common man. He bought a

used plane in 1933 and began modifying it to make the flight. But every time he applied for permission to try, the answer was no.

The local aviation officials knew that Corrigan was a daredevil. When he worked in a flight school, he would borrow a company plane during his lunch break and go up to the clouds, executing dangerous stunts that frightened so many people that he had to start flying over the desert where no one could see him.

In 1938 he received permission to fly cross-country non-stop. If he made it, he would be allowed to apply for permission to fly back to LA. But he would definitely not get permission to fly to Ireland. That was impossible, given his patchwork jalopy of a plane. He arrived at

Floyd Bennett Field after a 27 hour flight, with leaking gas tanks but otherwise in reasonable shape. The next morning, he got his permission to return, took off eastward, and never made the U-turn over Lawrence.

28 hours later, he landed in Dublin. An expert navigator, he told the authorities that he hadn’t noticed he was going the wrong way.

(I invite you to watch the 30 second clip of his interview on YouTube and decide if he’s telling the truth.) It took a 600 word telegram to list all of the rules he had broken. And from that day forward, he became famous as “Wrong-way” Corrigan.

Officials in Ireland took his plane and shipped it back to the U.S. on an ocean liner, hoping to teach Corrigan a lesson. But he returned

to New York to find that he was a hero, honored with a ticker-tape parade and news headlines printed in backwards letters.

1938 was a tough time for most Americans, and the way that Corrigan had done the near-impossible with almost no money but lots of pluck and courage was an inspiration. Asked repeatedly if he had done it on purpose, he insisted that it was an accident. Pushed to admit the “truth,” he didn’t change a word, always ending with a final, “That’s my story!” For the rest of his life he let the world believe what it wanted to believe.

He had fulfilled his dream.

I have worked with clients who are ready to take the steps necessary to choose the right career and look

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for the right job. They do their homework, gather information, start building networks – things move forward exactly as they should. They realize that

take a job already!”

I hope the people who say this are clueless, not cruel. But their words hurt nonetheless. First, there is the implied accusation of la-

an impersonal, meaningless rat race that has to be tolerated, or that you are a faceless drone who will be no more than a cog in someone’s machine. To our

For the rest of his life he let the world believe what it wanted to believe. He had fulfilled his dream.

ziness, which is unjustified and insulting. Even worse, beneath their words lie assumptions about the nature of work, at least at a practical level. When they say, “Just take a job, it doesn’t matter which one,” they are either saying that work is

hard-working job hunter who is sticking to the search because he wants to be doing work that is meaningful – that really matters – this points to a dreary, dull-grey future that has to be tolerated, not loved. No one (I hope) would say, “Just mar-

Well, sometimes the best answer is not to answer at all. Even when you are doing the right thing, some of the people who care about you just won’t understand.

So job hunters, salute your hero, “Wrong-way” Corrigan. There will definitely be people who will spend 60 years laughing about how you spent all that time going the wrong way. But you’ll know that when it mattered and though it was hard, you stuck to your goal and followed your dream.

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these things take time, and they patiently take the steps that lead to success.

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World War II Deceptions Part I

By Avi Heiligman

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nowledge is a very powerful weapon on the battlefield.

Understanding the enemy and properly “sizing them up” can be the difference between victory and defeat. If the enemy is confused as to the intentions of the other side it can be advantageous. During WWII, the Allies, in particular the U.S. and British, went to great lengths to deceive the Axis of their intentions.

Leading up to D-Day, June 6, 1944, was a plan called Operation Fortitude. Other deception techniques including using “turned” undercover agents, decoys and camouflage, and fictional units.

Two years before the landings in Normandy the Canadians attempted to land in France with devastating results. Half of the 6,000 man force at Dieppe were casualties or captured, and the rest were forced to go back to England. German officers were aware that the landings were going to take place and prepared their troops for the invasion. In order to prevent another catastrophe like this from happening at Normandy, a whole operation called Fortitude was put into action to fool the Germans as to where and when the landings would take place.

Luftwaffe (German Air Force) reconnaissance planes were able to

see a large buildup of tanks, vehicles and supplies in the surprisingly undefended southwest England. British coastal command planes let them come in and take aerial photographs which were then sent to the German high command who interpreted them as an attack build up for the north of France. In reality, the tanks were just blow up versions of the real thing but weren’t discernible from the air.

They were purposely put there to fool the reconnaissance planes.

Tons of bombs were dropped on the Pas-de-Calais region of France to convince the Germans that the attack was to take place there and not Normandy. False landings, empty boats getting near the shore, as well as pre-bombardment raids, were staged at beaches in northern France while the actual landings took place hundreds of miles to the south. This convinced the Germans that the Allies were only staging a diversionary attack at Normandy and for several weeks after D-Day kept vital reserves protecting an invasion that never happened. These units could have had serious effects on the Allied landing but were kept out of the fight.

An entirely made-up army group led by one of the most feared Allied generals was part of the operation prior to the landings. The First U.S.

Inflatable tanks fooled the enemy

Army Group under General George Patton was to attract German attention away from the real armies building up in other parts of England. Patton was to take control of the very real Third Army seven weeks into the invasion but was being reprimanded

by Eisenhower for slapping a soldier in Sicily. Patton commanded fake tanks, radio traffic and radio broadcasts for months before taking command of the Third Army. The army group did a lot of its “magic” with captured German agents that were now under the orders of British handlers telling them to send fake messages to England.

Paratroopers were sent in behind enemy lines in the wee hours of June 6. The Germans were convinced that many more had landed than were actually there and had no clue that the American and British paratroopers were scattered. This was in part due to small dummy figurines equipped with helmets and parachutes dropped way behind German lines. For several hours the Germans had no clue where the Allies had been dropped which gave the Allies time to regroup. The whole operation was a success because 150,000 soldiers and hundreds of the best tanks in Europe were kept out of the fight until mid-August.

Capturing German spies and agents was a tall task. Having them work for the Allies was the brilliant work of the British under the Double Cross System. Under the British Security Service, otherwise known as MI5, every single Abwehr (the Nazi spy agency) spy in England was known to the British. After being caught and interrogated, the British gave them the ultimatum of sitting in a jail cell or working as a double agent. Using secret codes, including the Enigma machine that had been broken, the agents sent false message back to Berlin under the guidance of the MI5.

To make the information even more believable, some of the messages contained true facts but were useless once they reached Nazi hands. An example of this was detailed – and all true – information on the Allied landings in North Africa but due to a series of “delays” the messages only reached Berlin after the landing had actually taken place. This made the agents’ messages even more valuable to the Germans.

One of the agents, codenamed Garbo, told his superiors in the Abwehr that he had a whole network of spies and more agents should not be sent into England. This, of

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John Moe & Tor Glad - a.k.a. Mutt & Jeff - were Norwegian spies who worked for the UK and MI5 and were members of the Double Cross System

course, was false but the Abwehr believed it hook, line and sinker.

The Double Cross System was also very active during Operation Fortitude and was a key factor in making the German high command believe that the main landings were to take place in the Pas-de-Calais.

During the V-1 Flying Bomb and V-2 Rocket launches against England, the turned agents reported that the warheads had landed in places that were actually not attacked at all.

This information caused many of the bombs and rockets to be aimed at less populated areas and caused

fewer casualties.

Operation Fortitude and the Double Cross System were two of the major Allied deceptions during the war. Many other smaller operations, including break off missions in conjunction with the Normandy land-

ings, will be discussed in part II of WWII Deceptions.

Avi Heiligman is a weekly contributor to The Jewish Home. He welcomes your comments and suggestions for future columns and can be reached at aviheiligman@gmail.com.

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From My Private Art Collection

Pablo Picasso and Cubism 1881-1973

By Rebbetzin Naomi N. Herzberg

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ablo Picasso was a Spanish painter who spent much of his life in France. He was the son of an art professor and was considered quite talented by the young age of seven. He is recognized as one of the most famous artists of his time.

He loved to create ceramic pieces, drawings, paintings, and sculptures.

As an extremely talented human being, he was also a playwright and a poet. Picasso is famous for what is

referred to as the Blue Period and the Rose Period. During the Blue Period, he produced artworks that reflected sad happenings. During the Rose Period, he produced happy looking pictures. Picasso used young children for many of the images in his pictures that were not specific as to gender.

Pablo Picasso explored creative expression by producing three-dimensional effects on two-dimensional surfaces. This was accomplished by using shapes that would overlap each other. It was referred to as Cubism.

Cubism can be explained as the art form used to create artwork with geometrics. The beginning stages in the development of this art form were devoted to the development of pictures of landscapes created with these geometric forms. In the

1900s it became popular for artists to work in art studios indoors, rather than working outdoors. The Analytic Period was developed with the use of Cubism. These artworks were produced in specific colors, which were limited, as the artists only used shades of yellows, browns, and greys. With the use of these specific colors, the artists created pictures of everyday objects, such as pitchers, glasses, and musical instruments to produce still-life pictures by combining geometric shapes to form the objects.

The artists enjoyed experimenting with the shapes and combining them with newspaper, pieces of wallpaper, lettering, and other objects to create collages. This was known as the Synthetic Period. The artists would create abstract works of art that showed recognizable ob-

jects in a most creative way. This art displayed many surfaces simultaneously, when viewing the picture from various angles.

Picasso was an extremely creative and talented artist who is famous for the following quotes: “Art washes away from the soul the dust of everyday life”; “Every child is an artist. The problem is how to remain an artist once he grows up”; “Everything you can imagine is real.”

Rebbetzin Naomi N. Herzberg is a professional art educator, artist and designer. Among her known artwork is a floral sculpture presented to Tipper Gore, Blair House, Washington, D.C. Please feel free to email nherzberg@ hotmail.com with questions and suggestions for future columns.

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Have a Coke and a Tax

By Allan Rolnick, CPA

W

hen most of us hear the word “tax,” we immediately think “IRS.” It’s natural to associate those three-letter words with each other (even if “IRS” is an acronym and not a word). But our friends at the IRS are hardly the only tax collectors with their hands out for your money. State and local governments love need money too, and they don’t have as many options for raising it as Uncle Sam. So every now and then, someone makes headlines with a plan to tax something new.

Philadelphia’s incoming mayor Jim Kenney is the latest local official to propose quenching his city’s fiscal thirst with a new tax. His inaugural budget would impose a three cents per ounce tax on soda, juices, iced tea, and other sugary drinks. The mayor claims the measure would raise $400 million over the next five years. The issue has even bubbled up into the presidential race — Hillary Clinton supports the tax, while her challenger Bernie Sanders condemns it as disproportionately harmful to the city’s poor.

This isn’t the first time governments have tried carbonating their revenue by taxing soda — since 2008, 40 similar taxes have been rejected around the country, including twice

previously in Philadelphia. Only one place, famously progressive Berkeley, California, has succeeded. New York Mayor Michael Bloomberg actually banned drinks larger than 16 ounces before a state court doused the rule.

(Grateful Gothamites fondly remember it as “Bloomberg’s $#*@ing Big Gulp ban.”)

nity schools, and renovating parks, community centers, and libraries.

School funding advocates and public health officials are all for it.

New York’s Bloomberg has joined the fray in support. But naturally, Kenney’s proposal has drawn opponents. You’ll be shocked to learn that the American Beverage Association

But if you’re one of the millions who look somewhere besides coffee for your daily caffeine fix, it would be a constant reminder of the government’s power to tax

Now Philadelphia’s Kenney is hoping the third time will hit the sweet spot. But this time, he’s coming at it from a different direction. He’s not positioning it as a public health measure or using it to fight obesity or diabetes. He’s just looking to reinvest some of the soda companies’ profits into the communities where the biggest customers live. The $400 million would go towards funding universal pre-kindergarten, creating commu-

has spent $2.6 million to oppose it.

(They poured $9 million down the drain fighting the Berkeley referendum.) Local Teamsters oppose it, too, arguing that flat soda sales will cost jobs. And plenty of city residents feel squeezed enough already — for example, there’s already a $2 per pack tax on cigarettes that helps fund local schools.

Political infighting is fierce, and council members are looking at a

whole menu of alternatives. One council member proposed a 15 cent tax on beverage containers, designed to hit the people who drink mineral water and fancy kombucha teas just as hard as the people who guzzle Mountain Dew. She also introduced a “healthy beverages tax credit” to encourage stores to stock drinks worth drinking. Others are considering taxing (gasp!) diet sodas. But time is running out — council has to pop the top on a final budget by the end of June.

We realize that a three-cent tax on an ounce of soda won’t get in the way of your financial goals. But if you’re one of the millions who look somewhere besides coffee for your daily caffeine fix, it would be a constant reminder of the government’s power to tax. We never forget how destructive that power can be, and that’s why we work so hard to give you a plan to pay the least amount possible — and avoid the unpleasant surprise of a “shook-up” can!

Allan J Rolnick is a CPA who has been in practice for over 30 yea rs in Queens, NY. He welcomes your comments and can be reached at 718-896-8715 or at allanjrcpa@aol.com.

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