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But on Saturday, Rodman was found by police who were investigating another incident. “On Saturday night, officers investigating a matter stumbled across the now 60-year-old man where he allegedly confessed to police that he had been listed as a missing person,” police say. He is believed to have been hiding out mostly in tropical far north Queensland but it is not known if he had help or why he staged his disappearance. “The matter was never closed as a

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he headed towards the beach. His kayak was found submerged a month later in waters several kilometers south of where he launched it. Rodman, then 55, was never heard from again.

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Time and tide wait for no man, the saying goes. But at midnight on Tuesday clocks momentarily paused as the entire planet gained a bonus second. If you happened to be awake and gazing at the dial on an atomic clock, it read 23:59:60 before ticking forward to 00.00.00. The addition of a “leap second” is designed to allow the Earth’s rotation, which is gradually slowing, to catch up with atomic clocks, keeping official time neatly in sync with night and day. But trade floors, tech companies and those in charge of the internet were bracing themselves for potentially calamitous computer glitches linked to the 61-second minute. “There are consequences [to] tinker-

ity, causing a frictional drag between the water and ocean floors and coastlines. “The tidal bulges act like giant brake pads,” said Dr. Marek Kukula, public astronomer at the Royal Observatory Greenwich. “Over millions of years they cause the Earth’s rotation to slow down.” Without the correction, civil time would very slowly drift away from time based on the Earth’s rotation, meaning that about 800 years from now the sun would be at its highest point in the sky at 1pm rather than noon. The U.S. and France are pushing to abolish leap seconds, with Britain, Russia and China arguing that the technical challenges are manageable. A final decision is due to be reached in November at a meeting of the International Telcommunications Union, the relevant UN body.

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ing with time,” said Peter Whibberley, a senior scientist at the National Physical Laboratory, which is now responsible for defining Greenwich Mean Time. “Because leap seconds are only introduced sporadically it is difficult to implement them in computers and mistakes can cause systems to fail temporarily.” The last time a leap second was added, on a weekend 2012, Mozilla, Reddit and LinkedIn all crashed. In Australia, more than 400 flights were grounded as the Qantas check-in system went down, requiring the job to be done manually. This time is the first time since markets went electronic that the 61-second minute occurred during trading hours, adding to market nerves linked to the looming Greek deadline. The need for leap seconds is, in a sense, because official timekeeping has become so precise. Atomic clocks are roughly a million times better at keeping time than the rotation of the Earth, which fluctuates day-to-day and in the long term is slowing down, due to a phenomenon known as “moon drag.” The moon’s gravity raises tidal bulges on the Earth’s surface. As the Earth rotates, the bulges move out of line with the moon, but they are continually being dragged backwards by the moon’s grav-

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never to be seen again. The mystery was only solved with his death, thousands of miles away.

N. Korea Drums Up Anti-American Fervor

In North Korea, June is known as “Struggle against U.S. Imperialism Month.” It’s a special time for North Koreans to swarm to war museums, mobilize for gatherings denouncing the evils of the United States, and join in a general, nationwide incitement of anti-American sentiment. The culmination this year came last Thursday — the 65th anniversary of the outbreak of the Kore-

an War — with a 100,000-strong rally in Pyongyang’s Kim Il Sung Stadium. Though often called the “Forgotten War” in the United States, the 1950-53 Korean War is anything but forgotten in North Korea. North Koreans, who aren’t privy to differing versions of the history of the war, are constantly told they “can never trust the American imperialists.” The North Korean version of the war, including the claim that it was started by Washington, is radically at odds with that of the United States and often doesn’t even match its wartime allies, China and the Soviet Union. For Pyongyang, however, the conflict isn’t just about history. What’s more important to the ruling regime is the official moral of the story. According to them, it was thanks to the wise leadership of the country’s founder, Kim Il Sung, his son Kim Jong Il, and now grandson Kim Jong Un that the country has managed to survive in its struggle against the ever-present threat of the American goliath.

Even if the attacks were not coordinated, two sources familiar with the thinking of U.S. intelligence agencies said they were likely to have been inspired by Islamic State’s call to jihad or, possibly, to coincide with the one year anniversary of the group’s declaration of an Islamic caliphate in Syria and Iraq. Peter Neumann, director of the International Centre for the Study of Radicalization based in London, said it was unlikely the attacks were directly coordinated. “I don’t think that they talked to each other, knew of each other, or that there was a central command that told them to do that,” he said. “There is zero evidence that they were coordinated.”

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ISIS Claims Ramadan Attacks A series of attacks in Europe on Friday seem to show ISIS’s growing menace and capability. In France, a decapitated body covered in Arabic writing was found after an attacker rammed his car into a gas container, triggering an explosion. In Kuwait, a suicide bomber blew himself up in a packed Shi’ite mosque during prayers, killing two dozen. And in Tunisia, a gunman opened fire at a popular tourist hotel, killing at least 38 people. There is no evidence the three attacks were deliberately coordinated. But coming so close together on the same day in three countries on three different continents, they underscored the far-reaching and fast-growing influence of Islamist group Islamic State, western politicians point out. The ultra-radical group, which has claimed direct responsibility for the Kuwait attack, clearly now poses a threat far beyond its heartland in Syria and Iraq. The terrorist organization urged its followers this week to escalate attacks against Christians, as well as Shi’ite and Sunni Muslims fighting with a U.S.led coalition. On June 23, Islamic State spokesman Abu Muhammad al-Adnani urged jihadists to turn the month of Ramadan into a time of “calamity for the infidels ... Shi’ites and apostate Muslims.” “Be keen to conquer in this holy month and to become exposed to martyrdom,” he urged.

Bloomberg Business was not happy with the shekel last week. The financial reporting giant dubbed the shekel the “World’s Worst Currency” following a week of sharp ups and downs that saw it climb 2.1% and then drop 0.8% in value. The shekel fell to 3.7754 on the USD, leading it to become the most depreciated currency of the 30 major world currencies Bloomberg experts track across the world. The Bank of Israel purchased roughly $200 million to quell the increase in the shekel’s value, but the intervention raised doubts about the currency’s value in the market. “It’s the Bank of Israel against the market,” Yariv Shalev, a currency specialist at Mercantile Discount Bank in Tel Aviv, told Bloomberg. “The central bank will continue to buy but we don’t see the dollar/shekel coming back to levels we’ve seen in the last week. The market does not believe in the interventions, and it knows the Bank of Israel is very limited.” According to the report, the central bank requires foreign-exchange purchases to control the shekel’s strength after comments made by BOI chief Karnit Flug, who recently cited concerns around a lack of export growth.

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Gaza-Bound Flotilla Ship Boarded Early this week, Israeli Navy commandos boarded a ship that was headed for the Gaza Strip and took control of the vessel without incident or injury. The Swedish-registered Marianne of Gothenburg was taken to Ashdod port, after which the activists onboard will likely be deported, as Israeli officials had warned “In accordance with international

On Monday night, Malachi Moshe Rosenfeld was critically hurt in a shooting attack in the West Bank. On Tuesday, sadly, he succumbed to his injuries and was pronounced dead in Shaare Zedek hospital, a day after the car he was

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Our Specialty Free Consultation Earlier, flotilla organizers said that three other boats accompanying the Marianne had turned back to their ports of origin, without explaining why, and that the Marianne was sailing toward Gaza on its own. There were 18 activists and journalists aboard the Marianne, including the former Tunisian president Moncef Marzouki and Arab-Israeli Knesset member Basel Ghattas. Before the boat was boarded, Netanyahu’s office prepared a letter for the activists aboard the flotilla, slamming what it described as the hypocrisy of the group’s humanitarian mission to Gaza. “Welcome to Israel!” the letter read. “It appears you’ve made a mistake along the way. Perhaps you meant to sail somewhere not far from here — Syria. There, Assad’s regime is massacring his own people every day with the help of the murderous Iranian regime.” It continued, “In contrast, here in Israel, we are dealing with a situation where terrorist organizations such as Hamas are trying to harm innocent civilians. In the face of these attempts, we are protecting the citizens of Israel in accordance with in-

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Whatever the purpose may be, it is clear that Hamas has been training its troops recently for more than launching rockets or carrying out commando attacks from the sea, as they did during last summer’s war. Hamas’s military wing has been conducting infantry and urban warfare exercises at different levels. The training in urban warfare that its troops are undergoing — throwing grenades into buildings, then shooting — is similar to the exercises of Israel’s own infantry troops. . Hamas has also reportedly been working diligently on other exercises to plan for a future war: commando raids, massive production of short-range mortar shells (including ones with larger warheads), and its tunnels project. While the purpose of all these activities is to deter Israel, another goal may be to score a significant, landmark success for Hamas in the next conflict with the Israeli army after what Gaza residents see as a defeat in last summer’s 50-day conflict.

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More and more armed Hamas troops have been spotted recently on the move just a short distance from the Israel-Gaza border fence. While it is unclear what their goals are, some of the Hamas forces appear to be carrying out ongoing security tasks. Others are training in camps very close to the border, such as the one established on the ruins of Dugit, a Jewish settlement evacuated in 2005.

traveling in was shot at by a Palestinian assailant near the West Bank settlement of Shvut Rachel, north of Ramallah. His three friends, with him in the car, were also wounded in the attack. His family, unfortunately, has known sadness. Rosenfeld is the brother of an Israeli Air Force pilot who died after getting caught in a flash flood near the Tzeelim River in 2002. Eliezer Rosenfeld, his father, lost his brother some years ago in a car accident in the army. Earlier Tuesday, Eliezer Rosenfeld urged the public to pray for his son’s recovery, telling the press outside of Jerusalem’s Shaare Zedek Medical Center, “We are in a difficult hour. The entire nation of Israel is in a difficult hour.” The four men in the car, all of whom live in the West Bank Settlement of Kochav Hashahar, had been driving near Route 60, the main north-south artery running through the West Bank, when they were attacked. “We were four friends coming back from a basketball game,” Yair Hoffer, who was shot in both legs, said. “All in all, we played basketball, we had a good time; we joked around on our way back. We were just trying to get home.” The friends turned onto the inter-

ternational law,” the letter says. Israel and Egypt imposed a blockade on Gaza in 2007 after the Islamist Hamas group wrested control of the Strip in a bloody coup, ousting the Palestinian Authority leadership. Both countries say the blockade is meant to prevent Hamas, which is committed to the destruction of Israel, from importing weapons into Gaza. Hamas is avowedly committed to the destruction of Israel.

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law, the Israeli Navy advised the vessel several times to change course,” the IDF said in a statement. “Following their refusal, forces visited and searched the vessel in international waters in order to prevent the intended breach of the maritime blockade of the Gaza Strip. The forces have reported that use of force was unnecessary, and that the process was uneventful. The vessel is currently being escorted to Ashdod Port and is expected to arrive within 12-24 hours,” it went on. Prime Minister Benjamin Netanyahu congratulated the commandos on “their determined and efficient action in detaining the passengers on the ship that tried to reach the Gaza coast in contravention of the law.” “This flotilla is nothing but a demonstration of hypocrisy and lies that is only assisting the Hamas terrorist organization and ignores all of the horrors in our region. Preventing entry by sea was done in accordance with international law and even received backing from a committee of the UN Secretary General,” Netanyahu said in a statement.

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Netanyahu’s Secret Tests On Monday, Israeli television reported that Prime Minister Benjamin Netanyahu was twice “smuggled” into the hospital late at night for medical checkups in recent months — once in a vehi-

cle disguised as a pita-delivery van, and once in a vehicle disguised as a pest-control van with his security guards dressed as pest-controllers as they surrounded him.

The medical tests, which Netanyahu’s personal doctor reportedly confirmed were routine exams, found “nothing uncharacteristic for a man of his age.” One of the tests was carried out before the March 17 elections, and the second a few weeks ago, the report said. The Channel 2 item claimed that Netanyahu, 65, was lightly anesthetized “and therefore essentially sleeping” during the tests; his doctor, though, said he was not given anesthetics and was fully alert throughout. The tests took place at the Mayanei Hayeshua Medical Center, an ultra-Orthodox hospital in the Tel Aviv suburb of

Bnei Brak, and were administered by a Dr. Gatt and a Dr. Goren. Netanyahu’s personal physician Dr. Tzvi Berkovitz said reports on the prime minister’s medical procedures were provided a month ago to the relevant authorities as required. It was not explained why Netanyahu was taken to a relatively obscure hospital and why such elaborate security deceptions were involved for such a routine procedure.

Ramadan Hoax Depicts Cruel Israel The depiction of Israel in the Arab media is a vicious one, even on prank TV. Last week, a cruel and highly-rated Egyptian TV show “kidnapped” a wellknown Syrian singer while he was taking a cruise off the Egyptian coast. “Israelis” then interrogated him at gunpoint at an elaborately constructed fake Israeli army base and led him out for execution with a gun put to his head. The “hilarious” hoax is one of a rash of such tasteless pranks filmed and screened by various TV stations in the Arab world to coincide with the current Ramadan festivities. The victim was the Syrian actor Bassem Yakhour, who was taken out for a pleasure cruise in a yacht. First a helicopter appears overhead, and then two fast boats close in on the yacht, firing into the air. The boats fly Israeli-style flags. Uniformed “Israelis” board the yacht and tell the passengers they are under arrest for entering Israeli territorial waters. Yakhour is then blindfolded and taken to land — to an “Israeli” army base on the beach, complete with watchtowers, Hebrew signs, buildings bearing Stars of David, and Hebrew-speaking soldiers. He is then interrogated at gunpoint. Sounds of ostensible torture, screams and dogs barking are audible as he is questioned. Meanwhile, in a separate room, the Egyptian hoaxer turns to the camera and says, laughing, “Sorry, but this is my livelihood.” The cruel “Israelis” then march him out of the interrogation room and force him to his knees on the sand outside. An “Israeli” officer puts a gun to the back of his head. Yakhour plainly believes he is about to be executed. Then a burst of gunfire rings out, people start running in all directions, and Yakhour is pulled to his feet and encouraged to flee. The hoaxer now appears alongside Yakhour, and urges him, “Run! Come on! Don’t be afraid!” Eventually, Yak-

hour sinks to his knees, recognizing the prank, and looking drained and furious. The prank ends with the hoaxer and victim together, declaring to the cameras that they would “never come to terms with Israel.”

Israelis May be Poor, but They’re Mostly Happy According to new survey, 39 percent of Israelis cannot cover their monthly expenses. Women tended to have more financial problems than men, according to the numbers published by the Central Bureau of Statistics. One of the positive findings of the report, though, showed that Israelis feel a general level of satisfaction in life, with some 86% of respondents indicating they are satisfied with life. Of those, some 31% were “very satisfied” and 55% were “satisfied.” Satisfaction in life was one of the only areas in which there was no discernible difference between responses from men and women. The survey showed a decline in satisfaction as the ages progressed, with some 91% of 20 to 24 year olds responding that they are satisfied with life, compared to only 79% of those 75 and above. Some 14% of respondents, representing approximately 700,000 citizens, responded that they are not very satisfied or not satisfied at all with their lives. In terms of satisfaction with financial situations, levels are much lower. Only 53% of Israelis are satisfied with their financial situation. Not unsurprisingly, the satisfaction rates with regard to finances correlates with income levels. Only 34% of those with monthly income below NIS 2000 are satisfied with their financial situation, compared to 46% of those with income between NIS 2001 to NIS 4000, and compared to 70% of those with income over NIS 4000. Arabs were less satisfied with their financial situation than Jews (49% dissatisfied compared with 45%), and women were less satisfied with their financial situation than men (49% dissatisfied compared with 45%). Another key finding of the survey showed that one in every seven respondents reported feeling “poor” over the past year, translating to approximately 725,300 Israelis. Young respondents between the ages of 20 to 44 were more likely to feel poor than those aged 45 and over. One of the disturbing findings of the survey showed that some 16% of re-

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The Week In News spondents, representing approximately 822,200 Israelis, reported that they had foregone food due to financial difficulties. 11% gave up a warm meal at least once every two days because of financial difficulties. Some 41% of respondents, representing approximately 2,100,000 Israelis, gave up on heat or cooling of their houses because of financial dif-

ficulties. Others reported giving up on medication, paying bills, fixing things around the house, dental treatment, buying clothes, and more. On a positive note, over a third of those who felt poor were optimistic about their future finances, with some 36% stating they believe their financial situation will change in the near future.

New Tunnel Unveiled By Hamas

3.5 kilometers long and will be used in the “next round” of violence with Israel, masked Hamas operatives told Al-Alam, Iran’s Arabic-language channel.

Members of Hamas have announced that the terror group has built a new fortified tunnel that reaches into Israeli territory. The attack tunnel is said to be

From the footage aired, it was not clear if the tunnel was in fact new or if the segment inside the tunnel was filmed before the 50-day conflict last summer and repackaged. Israel destroyed at least two dozen tunnels used by Hamas and other Gaza-based terror groups during the operation. Some were used to devastating effect to ambush and kill IDF soldiers in the course of the war.

National National GDP Increases

The economy is growing; in 2014, the U.S. economy grew 2.2%. As with most things, though, growth varied across the nation—all but three states saw growth. According to a recent release from the Bureau of Economic Analysis (BEA), 16 states reported growth rates of less than 1%. Virginia’s economy remained status quo, and Mississippi and Alaska’s GDP fell last year. Which states are growing the fastest, in terms of GDP? North Dakota GDP growth: 6.3% 2014 GDP: $48.2 billion (5th smallest) Texas GDP growth: 5.2% 2014 GDP: $1.5 billion (2nd largest) West Virginia GDP growth: 5.1% 2014 GDP: $68.0 billion (12th smallest)

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The Week In News Wyoming GDP growth: 5.1% 2014 GDP: $37.6 billion (2nd smallest) Colorado GDP growth: 4.7% 2014 GDP: $279.7 billion (18th largest) Oregon GDP growth: 3.6% 2014 GDP: $203.8 billion (25th largest) Utah GDP growth: 3.1% 2014 GDP: $128.2 billion (19th smallest) Washington GDP growth: 3.0% 2014 GDP: $390.5 billion (14th largest) California GDP growth: 2.8% 2014 GDP: $2.1 trillion (the largest) Oklahoma GDP growth: 2.8% 2014 GDP: $162.4 billion (22nd largest) Five state economies expanded at more than twice the national rate. The mining industries in each of these states — North Dakota, Texas, West Virginia, Wyoming, and Colorado — all expanded at more than twice the overall rate. In fact, five of the nation’s slowest growing economies also have mining industries. The professional, scientific, and technical services sector was the largest contributor to U.S. economic growth last year, and seven of the ten fastest growing economies boast growing markets in those fields: California, Connecticut, Georgia, Utah, Massachusetts, New Jersey, and Tennessee.

SpaceX Rocket Explodes

On Sunday, witnesses recalled seeing a “major fireball in the sky” moments after SpaceX’s Falcon 9 rocket took off from Cape Canaveral. The explosion was seen in a live webcast of the launch carried by NASA TV. “We appear to have had a launch vehicle failure,” NASA TV commentator George Diller said as the rocket crumbled to bits above Florida’s Atlantic coastline. No details have been revealed yet as to what caused the failure. Witnesses claim the explosion could be seen as far as 50 miles away in Sebas-

tian, Florida. The launch was supposed to be a routine cargo mission to the International Space Station, part of SpaceX’s agreement with NASA to launch resupply missions to ISS. This is the third attempt by the company to make history. Since January, SpaceX has been trying to safely land the Falcon 9 rocket on a free-floating barge — a feat the company says would be revolutionary, since most space rockets burn up or are largely destroyed during takeoff, making such launches an expensive proposition. The first two tries ended similar to Sunday’s. NASA says it isn’t too concerned about the failed resupply launches; the space station claims to have more than enough supplies to last through 2015.

Boston Marathon Bombing Hearings Conclude, Tsarnaev Addresses Crowd

For the very first time, Boston Marathon bomber Dzhokhar Tsarnaev has addressed the public. The terrorist has been mostly silent since his arrest and during the trial he declined to testify on his own behalf. On Wednesday, though, Tsarnaev took the opportunity to speak and at his sentencing hearing he addressed a crowded courtroom. The 21-year-old apologized for his role in the terror attack that left three people dead and injured nearly 300. “If there is any lingering doubt, I did it, along with my brother,” the 21-yearold said of the terror attack that left three people dead and injured nearly 300. His audience was comprised of family members and survivors who sat shaken two years after his cruel actions left many maimed and injured. “I pray to Allah to bestow his mercy on you,” Tsarnaev said. “I pray for your relief, for your healing, for your well-being, for your strength.” Earlier in the hearing, bombing survivors and family members of those killed

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The Week In News or injured in the bombings delivered victim impact statements, directly addressing Tsarnaev about the suffering and loss he caused. “I don’t know what to say to you,” Patricia Campbell, mother of bombing victim Krystle Campbell, told Tsarnaev. “What you did to my daughter was disgusting.’’ In conclusion to the session, before handing down a sentence of death by lethal injection, Judge George O’Toole

spoke to Tsarnaev. “When people remember you, they will remember only the evil you have done,” O’Toole said. “No one will remember that your teachers were fond of you, that you were funny, a good athlete. What will be remembered is that you murdered and maimed innocent people.” Tsarnaev was then cuffed and led out of the courtroom by U.S. Marshals; he didn’t look back.

Supreme Court Upholds Affordable Care Act It’s been a big week for the Obama administration as it ticks off items from its agenda. Late last week the Supreme Court ruled in favor of Obamacare. In a 6-3 decision, the ruling in the King vs. Burwell Obamacare case means that millions of Americans will be able to keep

their current health insurance plans. The Court supported President Obama’s proudest accomplishment by upholding the Affordable Care Act. The lawsuit focused on specific language from the Affordable Care Act’s Definitions section, which says that subsidies shall be made available to individuals who enroll in exchanges “established by the state.” Under the plaintiff’s plain-meaning argument, this word choice should preclude subsidies for anyone except those enrolled on statebased insurance exchanges, specifically the federal exchange Healthcare.gov.

CLAIMS CONFERENCE CHILD SURVIVOR FUND Claims Conference negotiations with the German government have resulted in a fund for certain Holocaust survivors who were children at the time of their persecution. The Child Survivor Fund will issue one-time payments of €2,500 to eligible individuals who apply to the program. Eligibility is open to those born January 1, 1928 or later AND who were persecuted as Jews in the following circumstances: (I) in a concentration camp; or (II) in a ghetto (or similar place of incarceration recognized as such by the German government); or (iii) living in hiding or under false identity or illegality for a period of at least 6 months in Nazi-occupied territory or in Axis countries. Individualized application forms were mailed to certain survivors who have received previous compensation payments from other programs. If you received an individualized application form in the mail, please complete it and return it to the Claims Conference. If you believe you are eligible for the Child Survivor Fund and did not receive an application in the mail, you may obtain an application at www.claimscon.org/childsurvivor and return it to the Claims Conference. Information about the program is also on this website. If you have submitted an application and have received an acknowledgement from the Claims Conference, you need not take any further action. If you have submitted an application, and have not received acknowledgement within 8 weeks of submitting it, please contact the Claims Conference. Applications must be submitted by survivors. If an eligible survivor applies and subsequently passes away, the surviving spouse is entitled to payment. If there is no surviving spouse, the child(ren) of the eligible child survivor is entitled to the payment. Hardship Fund The German Government has recently restated that Jewish Nazi victims cannot receive a Hardship Fund payment if they were part of an organized evacuation. However the German Government clarified that this restriction only applies to claimants who were themselves the subject of an organized evacuation. For further information contact the Claims Conference. There is no cost to apply to any Claims Conference program. For more information, contact: Claims Conference 1359 Broadway, Room 2000, New York, NY 10018 Tel: 646-536-9100 Email: info@claimscon.org www.claimscon.org The Claims Conference has an Ombudsman. To contact the Office of the Ombudsman, please email Ombudsman@claimscon.org or write to The Ombudsman, PO Box 585, Old Chelsea Station, New York, NY 10113

The Court rejected this interpretation, along with the plaintiff’s argument that this language was built into the law intentionally to coerce states into setting up their own exchanges at the risk of losing access to federal subsidies. According to research by the Kaiser Foundation, at stake in this decision were subsidies for more than 6.3 million people across the 34 states who haven’t set up their own exchanges.

Wildfires Consume Washington Homes Wildfires hit parts of central and eastern Washington over the weekend as the state is struggling with a severe drought. Mountain snowpack is at extremely low levels, and about one-fifth of the state’s rivers and streams are at record low levels. Temperatures were soaring into the 100s and just last week Washington Gov. Jay Inslee issued an emergency proclamation that allows state resources to quickly be brought in to respond to wildfires. In the city of Wenatchee, the wildfire, fueled by high temperatures and strong winds, roared into town on Sunday afternoon. 24-28 homes were destroyed in the blaze. Monday brought rain and with it, some relief, but the hot, dry conditions and wind posed significant challenges. Hilda Emerson, 37, was among the people who fled the flames on Sunday. “I went and grabbed what I could — my computers, irreplaceable stuff, toys for my daughter — and I left,” she said. “I never had to do this before.”

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The Week In News New York Prison Fugitives Finally Caught

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She and her 4-year-old daughter, Nissa, spent the night on cots set up by the Red Cross in the gymnasium of the high school nearby.

New Yorkers in upstate New York can finally stop holding their breath and sleeping with one eye open. The two dangerous prison escapees have finally been caught. After eluding authorities for three weeks, Richard W. Matt and David Sweat have been found—one dead and

one alive. After Matt and Sweat’s original plan to catch a ride to Mexico with a prison employee fell through, the two murderers wandered through the thick woods upstate heading for Canada. The two men spent their days resting and gearing up and mostly traveled at night. They stole food and supplies from unoccupied hunting cabins along the way. By Saturday, Mr. Matt had been found and was killed by a federal agent. Just three days later, Mr. Sweat was taken into custody

alive but in serious condition after being shot twice by a state trooper.

Sweat left his older accomplice, Matt, behind five days before his capture because he felt he was slowing him down. Until the end of last week, authorities had few leads but when Matt fired a shot at a moving camper trailer in an attempt to steal it, the driver reported the incident and investigators blanketed the woods. When authorities heard the escapee cough, they were able to pinpoint his location. He was shot three times and ultimately killed by a federal agent. Later that day, investigators found a chocolate wrapper in an area off Webster Street in Malone, north of where Matt was killed, that they later determined had traces of Sweat’s DNA. Early on Sunday morning, a group of teenagers in Constable, N.Y., reported meeting a man roaming in a ditch who hid his face from them when they asked if he needed help. Officers rushed to the area, and late Sunday afternoon, Sgt. Jay Cook of the New York State Police noticed Sweat running north along a roadway, just several miles from Canada. He chased him across a hayfield and shot Sweat twice in the torso, ending the long, historic manhunt. After the 23-day manhunt, it was revealed that neither convict made it more than 40 miles from the Clinton Correctional Facility, from which they escaped. On Sunday, New York Governor Andrew Cuomo reassured residents. “The nightmare is finally over. We wish it didn’t happen in the first place. But if you have to have it happen, this is how you want it to end.”

Christie Enters the Race

It was inevitable. On Tuesday, New Jersey Gov. Chris Christie entered the presidential race, promising a campaign of “big ideas and hard truths.” “We need to have strength and decision-making and authority back in the

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clinched a world record for playing the most games of simultaneous chess when she replaced 1920s Cuban grandmaster Jose Raul Capablanca for the title.

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The U.S. Supreme Court made a court ruling this week in support of Oklahoma’s method of legal injection for the death penalty. The court ruled 5-4, with its five conservatives in the majority, that a drug

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used by Oklahoma as part of its lethal injection procedure does not violate the U.S. Constitution’s ban on cruel and unusual punishment, a setback for activists against the death penalty and a loss for three convicted murders on the state’s death row. The three-drug process used by Oklahoma prison officials has been under scrutiny since the April 2014 botched execution of convicted murderer Clayton Lockett. During the proceedings, liberal Justices Stephen Breyer and Ruth Bader Ginsburg expressed their belief that the death penalty is unconstitutional. “We believe it highly likely that the death penalty now violates the Eighth Amendment,” Breyer said in a statement he read from the bench. Conservative Justice Antonin Scalia called Breyer’s arguments full of “internal contradictions” and “gobbledy-gook.” Justice Samuel Alito wrote that the prisoners who brought the case failed to identify an alternative method of execution that offered a lower risk of pain.

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Oval Office. And that is why today I am proud to announce my candidacy for the Republican nomination for president of the United States of America,” Christie said during a rally at Livingston High School in New Jersey. The often-blunt Republican played up his penchant for straight talk during his announcement, promising to speak honestly “whether you like it or not.” “I mean what I say and I say what I mean and that’s what America needs right now,” Christie declared. Even before officially launching his campaign, Christie sought to portray himself as one of the few GOP voices willing to propose major overhauls to key entitlement programs, a move that risks alienating senior citizen voters. Christie has traveled extensively to the early voting states, especially New Hampshire, where he has delivered other major policy speeches and held his signature town hall discussions. Christie becomes the 14th Republican presidential candidate to officially enter the race and will face a tough, uphill climb to the top of the crowded field. The Bridgegate scandal that has consumed much of his governorship over the past year-and-a-half has taken a major toll on Christie’s standing among fellow Republicans. “Part of it is, you know, we had the Bridgegate situation which turned out not to be anything about me, but the coverage was overwhelming,” Christie told NBC’s Kelly O’Donnell after his announcement, referring to the significant hit his approval numbers have taken in his state of New Jersey. “And the last thing is, you make hard decisions over a long time. If you look at the history of my poll numbers, I’ve gone up and down in this state. I earn political capital to spend it. Not to keep it in a drawer or put it on a frame on the wall,” he added.

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Good Luck Glasses It was a case of good luck that didn’t seem too good at first. Bob Sabo of Easton, Connecticut, couldn’t wait in line to buy a lottery ticket this week, so he headed to the vending machine to purchase his lucky numbers. But Sabo wears glasses and this time he left them at home. Just his luck: instead of buying two $20 tickets, he bought a $30 ticket. When he got home, though, he realized that he was a winner—the glasses-less man is now $30,000 wealthier because of his spectacles snafu. You know, Bob, it’s all good. Sometimes, though, you just have to look a little deeper.

The Granny Grandmaster She’s 87-years-old, but don’t let that fool you. On Sunday, Brigitta Sinka

Almost 60 years since her first simultaneous games, on six boards side-byside at a Chess Olympiad in 1957, Brigitta Sinka overtook the magic 13,545 number attributed to Capablanca (18881942), one of the world’s best-ever players. “I wanted to stop for a moment so everyone could reflect in memory of Capablanca,” Sinka, a former top amateur, related. “There were so many people waiting for me to move my pieces however, so I simply carried on,” she added. By late Sunday, she was already well over 13,600 games – clocking up over the week the final few hundred games needed to beat the old record – before calling it a day. “We feel privileged to have been one of the many thousands,” said Jozsef Csabi, 37, who brought along his teenage son to play Sinka, or Auntie Bici (pronounced “Bitzi”) as she is widely known. Since the 1950s, Sinka clocked up thousands of simultaneous games around Hungary playing at summer camps for

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The Week In News schoolchildren hosted by her employer for many decades, a communist-era metal recycling firm. In 2010, with her total around 9,000 games, a chess historian told her that he had spotted Capablanca’s total in a biography of the Cuban great. “I was unaware of it before then, so I thought I’d have a go at beating it,” she said. Around a century ago Capablanca played high-speed simultaneous exhibition chess for money but his games, despite being counted, were undocumented. Sinka, on the other hand, has meticulously recorded in scrapbooks every game she has played – where, when, opponent, and result – each signed off by a witness. She hopes the Guinness Records adjudicators will acknowledge her feat as an official world record. Despite her age and three heart operations in recent years, the chessmaster doesn’t plan on stopping anytime soon. “I will keep going, as long as my health permits,” she said, adding that she has already committed to playing in several school camps throughout the summer. She’s the super-gran grandmaster.

The 12,000th Ride

He’s 73 and he’s lovin’ it. On Monday, Gary Coleman took his 12,000th ride on his favorite roller coaster at Kings Island amusement park in Ohio. The milestone ride was taken in the front row of the Diamondback coaster, which features 10 drops and a top speed of 80 mph. The retired minister has made 493 trips to the theme park outside of Cincinnati since 2009, when the 230-foot steel roller coaster opened. It’s the tallest and fastest roller coaster at Kings Island. The elderly daredevil says he’s loved coasters since he was a child. As long as he remains healthy, he says, he’ll be strapped into that seat, enjoying the ride and the ups and downs that Diamondback has to offer.

Grilled Cheese: Coming to a Mailbox Near You Love grilled cheese? Well, now you can have your sandwich while sitting in your pajamas. Cheese Posties is a subscription-based service that sends all the ingredients for a perfect grilled cheese straight to your door. According to their Kickstarter, their bread comes from “local artisan bread makers” and their cheeses are “world class.” For just £3.99 per week, grilled cheese-lovers will be able to make the best grilled cheese possible. They’ll be shipped the traditional cheese, bread, and butter, along with Nutella, bacon, or even berries. It also comes with a special bag that you can toast it in. In trying to fund their startup, Cheese Posties has some interesting incentives for contributors. A £5 contribution gets participants one Cheese Postie to eat and one to share with a friend. Larger contributions come with Cheese Posties-themed merchandise (or even a toaster). Creators promise that anyone willing to donate £5000 will “be lowered into a vat of melted cheese, rolled in breadcrumbs and dipped in marinara sauce before being taken to a West-End musical of your choice and spending the night at the prestigious Dorchester Hotel.” (A firm handshake is also an option.) The Cheese Posties Kickstarter has been live for only a few days and is already more than halfway funded. There’s still more than three weeks to join in, so you too can have a grilled cheese in your letterbox by August. Unfortunately, in order to get this interesting snack delivered via FedEx or UPS, you’ll have to move to the United Kingdom. As of now, it seems, Americans don’t need help making their own grilled cheese at home.

You Laugh, You Learn

Want to learn something? Perhaps you should laugh about it. A new study published in the journal Cognition and Emotion suggests laughter helps children learn new tasks.

Researchers in Paris wanted to test how well babies learn a new task, and whether or not their learning capabilities improve when there’s laughter involved. They worked with 53 babies, all around 18 months old, which is roughly the age children develop a sense of humor. It’s not easy making children laugh, but of those who laughed during the testing, 94 percent of them were able to successfully mimic the task shown to them. In contrast, only 19 percent of the kids who didn’t laugh at the joke were able to mimic the task and only 25 percent of the kids in the control group. This doesn’t just apply to babies. College students can better memorize a lecture if their professor inserts jokes. “Well-planned, appropriate, contextual humor can help students ingrain information,” explains psychologist Randy Garner, a professor of behavioral sciences at Sam Houston State University. Scientists don’t know exactly why this works, although there are some theories. Perhaps laughter gets our learning juices flowing by altering chemicals in our brain. Humor also decreases stress levels, which can help with better memory. In any case, you know what they say, learning is just a barrel of laughs.

A Baby and a Ball

He wins the title of most talented multi-tasking dad. Cubs fan Keith Hartley was enjoying last Tuesday’s game at Wrigley Field while feeding his 7-month-old son a bottle. As he was sitting in a box seat down the first baseline during the second inning, Cubs pitcher Jason Hammel hit a pop fly right to Hartley and baby Isaac. Paternal instinct kicked in. “I’m just trying to protect him first,” Hartley said. “We have the seating configuration so my two friends were closer to the ball if a sharp foul ball came. We’d all kind of stand up and make a wall. “This one was a little easier, a pop fly. Just kind of a reaction. It just came to me.” Gonzalez had a play on the ball, but Hartley nabbed it before Gonzalez could attempt a catch.

“He didn’t say anything,” Hartley said. “I think I turned around too quickly for him to interact with me. Hopefully he’s not too angry. He is on my fantasy team.” Dodgers manager Don Mattingly protested and asked for a replay review. Fan interference was ruled after the replay, ending the Cubs’ inning. Hartley, who works for a financial firm, said his Twitter was “going insane” and he had 15 emails in the first 10 minutes after the catch. He never caught a ball before during a game. Isaac, donning a Blackhawks cap, had no comment because he doesn’t talk yet. He did, though, enjoy his bottle and was wondering when this game would ever end.

The Cutest Quinoa

Isn’t Quinoa the cutest ever? No, I’m not taking about your side dish. I’m talking about my son. Yes, someone—who really likes to eat out—is going to be naming their child Quinoa. BJ’s Restaurant and Brewhouse recently announced that it will be giving away a $10,000 gift card to their casual dining restaurant to the person who names their newborn baby after the high-protein grain in celebration of its new quinoa bowl dishes. “We are so excited to introduce these amazing new Quinoa Bowls that we wanted to do something big, maybe even a little crazy,” Chief Marketing Officer Kevin Maye said in a statement. If you’re trying to win, you better hurry and have that baby soon. The official contest rules dictate that there will only be one winner, and that person is whoever names his or her baby Quinoa first during the contest period, which began at 12:00 a.m. PDT on June 22. No, middle names and nicknames don’t count, and you have to back it up with a birth certificate. So yes, even if you named your little one Quinoa and then raced to the store, if someone is crazier and quicker than you, you lose the prize and your child is doomed to a life of a grain name. Perhaps we can all be spared and you can just buy yourself a bowl of quinoa. It doesn’t taste that great anyway. 

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Dr. Rochelle Brand, principal of HAFTR Middle School, addressing the HAFTR and Lawrence Middle School students

Agudath Israel of Long Island and prominent lecturer Charlie Harary, both of whom have had children in the Lawrence

Public Schools. The seminar included a presentation on the various customs and laws that related to Orthodox Judaism along with a question and answer period. Harary, an entrepreneur, professor and radio host, was very encouraged by the positive reception. “The event was great. The teachers were very open and the conversation flowed the entire time.” As expressed in its mission statement, the Lawrence School District aims to be “a unifying force at the heart of a cultural mosaic.” In light of recent issues across the country regarding racial tensions and ethnic profiling, the second seminar was a broader discussion which included representatives from several cultures coming together to speak to the 7th and 8th grade classes of Lawrence. The participants included presenters from the local police department, media and civil rights organizations, as well as spiritual leaders, all hailing from diverse backgrounds. Utilizing clips from films like Remember the Titans and The Boy in the Striped Pajamas to help illustrate issues of race and cultural relations, the guest speakers shared stories that added personal perspective to the conversation. Participants were visibly moved by the powerful exchange of ideas. “We had many events that gave clarity to the times in which we live and the impact we have on our children and the community at large. I consider today’s program a truly defining moment for Lawrence,” says Schall. Lawrence leaders look forward to creating innovative educational and communal programs throughout the upcoming year.

Prayers at the Home of the Ishah Hashunamis on Behalf of Childless Couples Whenever childless couples came to the Steipler Gaon, zt”l, for a blessing, he would advise them to go to the home of the Ishah Hashunamis. It was at this location that Elisha Hanavi changed the rules of nature for a childless woman, and his blessing hovers in the air there to this very day. Maran Hagaon Harav Chaim Kanievsky, shlit”a, son of the Steipler, zt”l, is highly supportive of this segulah and advises those who seek his blessing to pray there. Three years ago, Maran Harav Kanievsky traveled to the home of the Ishah Hashunamis. His advanced age and busy schedule notwithstanding, he made the trip to the ramshackle house in the middle of an Arabic village. The

trip was defined as personal, but over 20 childless couples, family members and those close to the Kanievskys were permitted to join. Harav Kanievsky, shlit”a, decided on a seder tefillah for all twenty-one couples. A month later, there was good news, and thereafter, slowly but surely, more and more good news followed. Each time, Rav Chaim’s face lit up and he responded with one word: “Shunam.” Precisely two years after that historic tefillah, the last couple, too, received their yeshuah! We have no way of determining why a certain tefillah was accepted, but Maran, shlit”a, clearly said that in this case, it was the segulah of the location.

Ever since the last couple celebrated their good news, it was clear that something had to be done. So often, people come to Rav Chaim crying bitterly that they are longing for a child. If all those who were prayed for at Shunam merited a yeshuah – we must do what we can on behalf of those who were not yet blessed with zera shel kayama. That is why Kupat Ha’ir, upon the instruction and guidance of Maran Harav Kanievsky, is planning an imminent prayer event in Shunam. Maran has authorized Hagaon Hatzaddik R’ Shimon Galai, shlit”a, who is well-known for his saintliness and fervent prayers to conduct the tefillah to be recited in Shunam on behalf of childless couples. On Wednesday, the 21st of Tamuz

– July 8th, a minyan of earnest talmidei chachamim, headed by Harav Galai, will follow the detailed instructions provided by Harav Kanievsky with regard to what should be said and where and how and this historic tefillah will iy”H rend the very heavens. Kupat Hair will also have a messenger in Shunam daily for forty days thereafter until Rosh Chodesh Elul, and then another forty days until Yom Kippur. A majestic 40-day-long tefillah, about which the Zohar Hakadosh says is “surely answered.” Names can be submitted by calling 1-888-587-2842 or by visiting www. kupat.org.

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damage and destruction it can cause. Fish-Rosenberg, hailed by Moment Magazine as “The New Spielberg,” addressed the crowd saying, “Young people are the bridge between the past and the future,” and urged the students to “build a better future.” In an ongoing effort to promote and cultural sensitivity, Lawrence District began a series of groundbreaking programs, with two held in the past month. Due to the growing population of observant Jewish students in the Lawrence Public Schools, a Sensitivity Training Session was held for the Lawrence Middle School faculty. To help foster a greater understanding of the religious practices and customs of the students and their families, the staff was addressed by Rabbi Yaakov Reisman of Congregation

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By Tammy Mark Each school year is filled with experiences and opportunities for tremendous growth. As the current academic year winds down, the Lawrence School District is still going strong, continuing to implement meaningful and mindful programming. Working in collaboration with other local schools and organizations, Lawrence leaders strive to help bridge generations, connect cultures, and achieve common goals. With the constant supTova Fish-Rosenberg, creator of the Names, Not Numbers program port of the Lawrence School Board, District Superintenby Dr. Rochelle Brand of HAFTR, along dent Gary Schall works throughout the with Principal Willis Perry of Lawrence year to create opportunities that educate Middle School, the event featured “A and enlighten in the belief that the expe- Movie in the Making,” a video that capriences will leave a lifelong impact as the tured the journey of the young students students grow into young adults and be- and their efforts throughout the year. come future leaders. While spending time with the survivors One of the most powerful collabo- and documenting their stories, the sturations was the “Names, Not Numbers” dents also received training in interviewprogram. The Hebrew Academy of the ing, videography and editing. Five Towns and Rockaway invited LawEach participant expressed being rence Middle School students to partner transformed in some way. The survivors once again in producing video documen- shared stories, some of which they had tation of Holocaust survivors and their never previously revealed, and families stories. This intergenerational multi-me- of the survivors gained new perspecdia program, created by educator Tova tives as these memories emerged. The Fish-Rosenberg, has been implemented students became witnesses to history, in numerous yeshiva day schools, with now charged with the responsibility to Lawrence Middle School being the first preserve and carry it forward. This emoand only public school to participate. tionally moving and relevant endeavor The survivors and the student par- joined students of various backgrounds ticipants were celebrated at an event at in the common goal of conveying the HAFTR High School this month. Led crucial lessons about intolerance and the

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to the Home Front, a movie about the transition of a group of Israeli teenagers to a platoon of elite paratroopers, as they overcome various challenges along the way. “It was very good and had a beautiful message about serving the Jewish people and overcoming hardships,” said Avi Kupchik about the movie. Shlomo Schwartz appreciated the sacrifice Israeli soldiers make to protect the Jewish homeland. “My favorite part was watching Beneath the Helmet because it showed me how much people are willing to sacrifice for the Jewish people,” he said. Zack Rosen and campers

To Tutor or Not to Tutor – An InnovatiFun Solution No more teachers! Summer has arrived, at last, and with it, an endless expanse of joyous freedom! Your child can finally dance in the sunshine, look forward to splashing in the pool, riding her bike, sleeping in, and sweetest of all, unburdening in the “homework-less testless” blessing of unstructured time. Her teacher, though, has cautioned that this is not an occasion for tossing care aside. In order that she thrive next school year it is crucial that she brush up on reading and math skills. If she doesn’t move ahead, she’ll fall behind. Now, in the absence of daily routine, is the opportunity for her to buckle down and move forward. But you know your child—all the efforts she’s made and the break she needs, the creative play and socialization she’s anticipated, and the pressure you want to ease. Or perhaps, your child has been fine keeping up at grade level, and you

simply know that it is wise to ensure that she doesn’t lose over the summer months all that she has developed all year. How to walk the tightrope between freedom and structure in the drawn out months of “No more books!” The Jewish Home met up with Morah Rechie Eisner, the beloved veteran teacher of Prospect Park Yeshiva and Yeshivat Shaare Torah, who launched her career at TAG and now teaches English at the Rappaport School in Jerusalem, to discuss this issue. “As with all things,” says Morah Eisner, “it’s a delicate matter of balance.” Morah Eisner speaks of complementing the genuine need for relaxation and downtime with the necessity of maintaining and enhancing essential skills over the long summer months. She finds that when it comes to instilling the joy of learning, at times, “less is more.” “vYOUtoring,” as she calls it, began

as an experiment to keep up with her longtime “tutee cuties” when she made Aliya in 2012. Mommies and morah alike wondered whether it would work. Could the “sweetness of success” be maintained from 3,000 miles and 7 time zones away? Incredibly, her Skype learning system has enabled students to truly blossom. “To what do you attribute this success?” we asked. “vYOUtoring doesn’t have the feel of tutoring,” she explained. “There is no teacher who arrives with her books and agenda at your home, no car ride to hers. There is no struggle to concentrate as attention spans wane, no mega doses of homework. Speaking with a computer teacher has a sense of play. It promotes involvement and inner motivation. And … it is over before it becomes tiresome, often leaving a child with the desire for more.”

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tion, the New York State Assembly has fortified the already unbreakable bond between New York State and the State of Israel,” said Michael Miller, CEO and Executive Vice President of the Jewish Community Relations Council of New York. The resolution, the first of its kind passed by the New York State legislature, was introduced by Mosley and was sponsored by a broad, bipartisan coalition of Assembly Members from across the state. Assemblyman Goldfeder played a pivotal in its passage, working closely with Mosley and colleagues, as well as with the JCRC, to build support for the bill in the Assembly. In strongly-worded language, the

resolution reaffirms the common bonds between the United States and Israel “rooted in the values of freedom, democracy, and equal rights.” The text emphasizes the growing concern in New York State over the BDS movement and the threats faced by Israel from Iran and growing violence in the region, and calls on the legislature to reject activities that contribute to the “delegitimization...of Israel as a Jewish State.” With the passage of this resolution, New York joins a growing nation-wide effort by both state legislatures and concerned citizens to reject the BDS movement and similar efforts to undermine Israel’s right to exist and isolate the democratic country from the larger international community. Tennessee, Indiana and Illinois had previously passed similar resolutions, making New York the fourth state in the nation to vote on the issue.

Orah Day Camp: Excitement from Our Heads to Our Toes I spy with my little an “eye”… ORAH DAY CAMP! Welcome to summer 2015. This summer promises all sorts of fun and excitement from our “heads” to our “toes.” We will spend the summer exploring body parts (limbs) so that “Kol atzmosei tomarnah,” every part of me will sing in harmony. The first week we will set our “sights” on eyes –I’s and more ayes. The building is covered with all sorts of eyes—animal, human and maybe even some vegetables. We have optical illusions to fool the “eye” and we also have blank faces to embellish – not real ones, of course, because our campers are grinning from “ear” to “ear.” Even though we just have our “toes” out of the starting gate we are already coming and going and are already out and about on trips galore! Our 2nd grades are being “I”nspired to move

and exercise in Fitwize, the 3rd grade is trying their “hand” at bowling and our 4th grades are running fast as their little “feet” can carry them to Kzam where they are having a ball—literally! Our oldest bunk, which is packed to the gills (different kind of animal body part but it still counts), is already an old “hand” at trips. They went on a surprise and delicious trip the very first day of camp! This week the 6th and 7th grades went to New Roc City which—of course—was a feast for the “eyes” with all sorts of fun and exhilarating games and rides to get the “blood” pumping. Our “sense” of fun is all over the place here at Orah Day Camp. This week we had not one but two different magic shows in camp. We had a lower division magic show by the amazing Didi Maxx female magician extraordinaire. The girls couldn’t keep their

“eyes” off of her as she performed tricks and dazzled the girls with her magical feats (get it? “feets”). The older division had magician David Levitan and though their “eyes” were peeled and focused on him they couldn’t figure out how he did his illusions. The slight of “hand” magic had the girls wondering how, where and what he was going to pull out of his hat next. Let’s talk about getting our “feet” wet. Our swim program is up and running swimmingly with all bunks having two extended swim periods a day. Our “head” lifeguard commented how wonderful it is to have the girls “back” and in the swim of things. The girls are being divided into leveled swim groups and many of the campers have tried and passed the deep water test. Our outdoor in-ground Olympic-size pool is the favorite of many of the girls you could say

it holds a special place in their “hearts.” Orah is renowned for its plethora of special activities and this year it’s no different. We have returning favorites like ceramics where the girls “hand”craft their own pieces, team building where the girls work “hand” in “hand,” and dance where they move their “feet” and learn all of today’s popular dances. We are “look”-ing forward to everyone doing Revach and Yesh Tikvah during lunch. Over the course of the summer we will introduce our other specialties and the projects they do that coincide with this summer’s theme. We have our “hands” full of fun things we have planned, a packed “eye”-tinerary and a “toe”-tally awesome summer in the works; try to keep up with our “nose” for news because Orah Day Camp is the “head”-quarters of fun.

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honor and I thank the JCRC and the Israeli Consulate for this humbling award their leadership in the community,” said Assemblyman Phil Goldfeder. “I thank my colleagues for their help in passing this resolution to condemn the hateful, destructive BDS movement. This reso-

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This superhero ran to the store and purchased new socks and hair accessories and proceeded to reinvent this child for the day. She then walked her into class and proceeded to launch into an exciting lesson filled with fun and excitement and the most extraordinary thing happened. The girl smiled. Can you tell me one thing that is worth more than that? “Oh my goodness,” I exclaimed, “you are amazing,” I gushed to the teacher. “What do you mean?” was her response. “What you just did for that girl; that was so special.” “Oh, that, nah that’s just being human.” As a social work intern working in Ptach, I was amazed daily at the amount of compassion, devotion and sensitivity that was poured into these students every day by the administrators, teachers and social worker. It got me thinking about all of the hidden superheroes that walk among us and look like your average man or woman. The morah that notices the kid who never seems to bring snack to school and happens to have some pretzels in her desk, the administrator who notices the child who never has a Purim

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to it was that Moshe Rabbeinu should have said a shiur and that would be the basis of Siyaata Dishmaya in having the physical needs of Klal Yisroel met. He used this concept to introduce Kenny Fliegelman who understands that the basis of his hatzlacha in the day is his seder early in the morning. Kenny then spoke about the month of Tammuz being associated with the name of Hashem in the last Chazzan Friedman, Ateres Zekainim Award, Rav Moshe Zev Katzenstein, and letters of each word Rav Yitzchok Knobel in the passuk, “V’chol Rav Yitzchok Knobel, shlita, the zeh ainenu shaveh li,” from Megilas Rosh Kollel, then eloquently described Esther to indicate that in this month, the role of Torah in the midbar and com- Hashem’s presence is hidden, as we bepared it to our present times. He men- gin the mourning period for the Batei tioned that the Midrash explains that the Mikdashos. It is our job to reverse the sin of hitting the rock and not speaking concept of Haman who was focused on his personal kavod and focus on the kavod of Hashem to bring it back to the cognizance of the world. He then spoke about how the Yeshiva is a place AWAY K C O in which the prime interest is Kavod R S A S U A Shomayim and everyone and anyone is N welcome to learn any day or night. Yakov Lowinger, the Amud Hatorah awardee, then elaborated on the concept of kavod, as described in Pirkei Avos, Call the 24-hour hotline at any time: “Aizehu mechubad, hamechabade es ha’briyos,” that kavod is actually represented in the ability to give kavod to others. He then connected the concept of honor, “kibbud” to “kavaid,” liver. Subscribe to the RNSP Security Alerts In as much as the liver extracts the undesirable materials and leaves the useAnyone interested in receiving security alerts, please send an email to ful part, so too, kavod is to appreciate in securityalerts@rockawaypatrol.org and enter "Sign me up" in the Subject field. others the parts that are worthy of honor

On Sunday, June 21, the Yeshiva Gedolah of the Five Towns held its annual breakfast, honoring Kenny Fliegelman with the Yedid Hatorah award, Yakov Lowinger with the Amud Hatorah award, and Chazan Yitzchok Friedman with the Ateres Zekainim award. Although there are many events for many worthy causes, this breakfast was a unique event. It was enjoyed by all of the almost 250 people who attended. The program was introduced by the Yeshiva’s Executive Director, Mr. Baruch Moskowitz, who spoke about his strong emotions on leil Shavuos, while witnessing Beis Hamedrash packed with bochurim, yungerleit, baalei batim and children learning throughout the night. There was even a need to add tables to accommodate the impressive crowd. His comment was that the welcoming atmosphere that exists in the Yeshiva has made it a prime choice for people to come learn and daven, even if they are members in other shuls. In his words, “We are a community Yeshiva.”

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and discard the rest. He then mentioned that he can learn the concept of kavod from his parents’ care for their parents and for their kavod for Torah. In the Yeshiva as well, the primary focus of all the members is to give kavod to Hashem and His Torah. Then came the highlight of the morning. Rav Moshe Zev Katzenstein, shlita, the Rosh Yeshiva, introduced Chazan Friedman by saying that although the first two honorees represent what the Yeshiva is accomplishing with the community, Chazan Friedman represents the foundation on which the Yeshiva, the community and all of Klal Yisroel is built. As the Satmar Rav, zt”l , said, “Don’t ask me for a bracha, go get a bracha from someone with a number tattooed on his arm who is still a maamin!” Chazan Friedman not only survived the Holocaust, but he emerged with a strong emunah in Hashem and a simcha and appreciation for life. His goal is to bring simcha to others with the gifts he received from Hashem—his talents. He then shared some of those talents with the crowd by singing a beautiful rendition of Yibaneh Beis Hamikdash in a crystal clear voice that belied his 96 years, ka”h. Yidden like R’ Yitzchok and what they represent will truly bring the building of the third Bais Hamikdash b’mheira b’yameinu! Every one of the attendees left inspired by the show of appreciation for the Yeshiva and Torah exhibited by the large crowd. They were impressed by the humility, sincerity and chashivus for Torah represented by the honorees. And most of all, it was a privilege to be part of honoring a man who (not only) represents a whole generation that was lost, (but) a generation that fuels any success we have as Yidden, as a Yeshiva, and as a community.

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tirelessly recruiting friends and sponsors, creating this special event for a very special cause. Robert Katz, OHEL’s Chief Development Officer, commented, “This year’s Golf Classic was OHEL’s most successful ever in fundraising dollars secured, and we commend and thank the hard-working Golf Chairs who are dedicated to the success of this important annual fundraising event.” A fantastic day featured a scramble format, special gifts for every golfer, and numerous raffles with super prizes. At the conclusion of the tournament, players enjoyed a relaxing cocktail hour reception which transitioned into the sit-down Awards Dinner when the winning foursomes and raffle winners were announced and the prizes awarded. During the Dawn, a former OHEL foster child who spoke at Dinner, with her OHEL foster parents, dinner, guests Bernie and Eliane Shickman heard a moving and inspiring story from Dawn, a former OHEL foster child, who in-person, spoke about how her life had been positively transformed by her loving OHEL foster parents, Bernie and Elaine Shickman, who sat at her table, togethFamily Services, a winning event for er with her husband. players and OHEL. The OHEL Rosemil Healthcare OHEL’s Golf Classic Commit- Golf Classic proceeds benefit the thoutee, headed by Ben Englander, Izzy sands of children and families served Kaufman, Jeffrey Schwartz, Jonathan by OHEL Children’s Home and Family Marks and Michelle Sulzberger, worked Services.

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L-R: Robert Katz, OHEL Chief Development Officer, and OHEL Golf Classic Co-Chairs Jonathan Marks, Izzy Kaufman, Michelle Sulzberger, Ben Englander, and Jeffrey Schwartz

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The Rebbe of Chernobyl shlit”a davening on behalf of donors to Kupat Ha’ir at Amukah this week

You won’t be challenged. You won’t be Chopped. But you will win by participating in the Levi Yitzchak Library auction. Celebrity chef Katsuji Tanabe will whip up amazing dishes and will also share his unique story as half Mexican, half Japanese, winner of Chopped, and chef of the popular MexiKosher (Los Angeles, CA) restaurant at the event at Beth Sholom in Lawrence. You will also win by supporting a community icon. The Levi Yitzchak Library has enriched the lives of all of us in the community. We would be hardpressed to find someone who has not enjoyed the library experience. Hundreds go on a regular basis to provide

for themselves and their children an enriching, wholesome Jewish educational experience. But they rely on community support to keep their doors open. You might also win one of the extraordinary prizes at the auction. The very best of vacation offers, fashion finds, culinary options, and technological must haves is up for grabs. Visit www.lylauction.org or better yet stop by at 564 Central Avenue to view the options and purchase tickets. Happy Tales To You! Wednesday, July 8th, Beth Sholom – 390 Broadway, Lawrence, NY 11559 Viewing Hours: 12:00PM – 3:00PM, Event: 7:00PM, Program: 8:00PM, followed by raffle drawing

Yeshiva Nishmas Hatorah: Addressing Every Facet of Every Bochur Living through these trying and confusing times, it seems as if every week we are hit with another crisis as well as a deeper realization of an existing one. In the same vein, we are well aware that nothing is random and everything has a design and a purpose, yet sometimes we struggle to understand our role in it all. We also strongly believe that Hashem gives us tools to combat these issues and in fact, grow from them. When assessing the overwhelming stress and anxiety on so many fronts, be it ruchniyus, financial, in marriage, shidduchim, chinuch or in the general bigger picture of life, it can seem to daunting to any young adult growing up today. These vicissitudes of life can affect bochurim severely. Especially as a bochur transitions from being single to marriage, from full time learning to part time, from spending the day in a Bais Medrash to now sitting in college or at work, there is a lot at stake. Any bochur’s future life is heavily dependent on the tools he receives during these crucial years especially in today’s times. This is why Yeshiva Nishmas Hatorah was founded a few years ago. It is this void of supplying life skills in which Nishmas Hatorah has been successful, with much Siyata D’shmaya, in filling. This Yeshiva is unique and so integral to Klal Yisrael as the Roshei Hayeshiva have been working to develop a model where the all the many facets of each individual bochur are addressed so the boys can develop

their full potential. The Yeshiva is led by Rabbi Yissachar Blinder and Rabbi Pinchus Weinberger who have experience, talents and a grand vision that they bring to the table. They are ably assisted by the Menahel, Rabbi Abi Goldenberg, who is uniquely suited to understand and connect to the bochurim while giving them what to aspire to. The daily schedule, which has been developed and tweaked over the years, encompasses the many goals the roshei hayeshiva have set for their bochurim. There are three sedarim of which bochurim must attend at least two of them. In this way they are productive and fulfilled and maintain a very positive association with Torah and Yiddishkeit. The rest of the time is spent in school or working part time. It also exposes them and prepares them for life ahead. In the same vein, every bochur starts off the day with Chumash, halacha and attends the hashkafa shiur. First seder has two tracks: one of standard iyun and shiur, and the second, solidifying the basics followed by shiur. Seder ends with a chaburah on tikkun hamiddos. Second seder starts with Nach then b’kiyus and ends with an interactive mussar seder. Night seder is a choice of chavrusos or chabura learning led by R’ Simcha Lebowicz. This past year we had bi-weekly presentations from R’ Meir Rizel, former presenter of Shalom Workshops, focusing on gaining a deeper understanding of relationships and how to navigate

marriage properly. This present summer zman the yeshiva has had the zechus of hearing from world renowned speakers, including Rabbi Yosef Wallis of Arachim, Rabbi Dr. Abraham J. Twerski, and R’ Akiva Graeber. The bochurim have had numerous “Lunch and Learn” programs with baale batim discussing their professions, the bochurim’s future expectations and how to be a true ben Torah in the workplace. Sunday mornings are focused on various topics of business halacha which is learned in depth followed by an interactive shiur given by a Dayan from Lakewood, R’ Baruch Greenspan. Friday mornings are filled with Chumash b’iyun and some Chassidus on the parsha. There is also a college advisor who guides the bochurim in that area and facilitates a working relationship with Empire State University. In addition to the many locals, the yeshiva supplies a dorm with full amenities and there is a beautiful ruach and camaraderie shared by all. Between the kumzitzen, barbecues, in -Shabbosim and an annual mini convention, there are real and deep positive connections forged between the entire Yeshiva and hanhala. Upon leaving the Yeshiva Nishmas Hatorah a bochur has been given the tools to succeed at being a great husband, a great father and most importantly, a great Yid. He views the Torah as a guide into all areas of life. The bochurim and alumni have started their own initia-

tives in Torah, chesed and kiruv as they feel the sense of achrayus to give over and share that which they have learned and experienced in Yeshiva. The Yeshiva is excited for the next exciting chapter. They will be moving shortly into their new building in Woodmere. Rabbis Blinder and Weinberger, on behalf of the yeshiva, are very grateful to the past, having been graciously hosted by Bais Medrash Heichal Dovid in Lawrence. The shul’s generosity of spirit and resources are something special to aspire to. The Yeshiva looks forward to continue servicing the community and beyond in an even greater capacity this coming zman. For more information, please visit, www.nishmashatorah.org.

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Emek Dotan With special IDF escort we will enter the area where the Brothers sold Joseph and Israel left 10 years ago during the ‘Disengagement’. After our tour we will lunch overlooking the Dotan Valley at Maoz Tzvi, meet the modern shepherds and artists and hear from a founding member of Mevo Dotan. End our day at Katzir and peek at what may be Choreshet HaGoyim of the Prophet Deborah’s nemesis Sisera. Today meets the Tanach on this amazing unique day.

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Around The Community Evening of Inspiration and Chizuk The women and girls of the Far Rockaway and Five Towns community were uplifted this past Wednesday, June 24th at the Evening of Inspiration and Chizuk which took place at TAG High School. The event took place as a

zchus for the refuah shleima of Michal Ariella bas Sara, Michelle Rubinstein, a young mother in the community, as well as all cholim in Klal Yisroel. Rabbi Stein of Kehilas Zichron Moshe Dov opened up the evening with

divrei bracha. He stated that although no one knows why this young woman was chosen to be a catalyst for this generation, clearly something needs to be fixed and she is the one chosen directly by Hashem for this task. It is our

responsibility, Rabbi Stein added, to do whatever we can to help. Michelle’s husband, Mr. Jacob Rubinstein, spoke next. He spoke a few words about his wife and thanked the entire community for the outpouring of chessed and support that he and his family have been given over the past month. Mr. Rubinstein mentioned that one of Michelle’s primary middos is her ability to take others’ pain to heart and really feel their pain. Mrs. Debbie Greenblatt inspired the crowd with her words. She stated that mesiras nefesh means going out of our comfort zone in order to do the right thing. It is not pleasant, which is why it is so difficult to do. We need to stop expecting everyone to be like us and think like us. We need to decrease the judgement and increase the acceptance that we were all created for different reasons. We all have different jobs and we must use our differences to complete our task on this world. Mrs. Greenblatt also introduced the initiative “Project Peace,” which is being started as a zchus for the refuah shleima of Michal Ariella bas Sara. The project is being introduced to the Five Towns and Far Rockaway communities and will hopefully spread. The idea of the project is simple: “Make a commitment to reach out to someone in a peacemaking gesture at least once a week.” This can involve calling someone, giving into someone, or just reaching out to someone else in any way in order to increase peace among Am Yisroel. For more information on Project Peace, please email PeaceProjectFT@ Gmail.com.

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Torah Thought

Rabbi Berel Wein

Parshas Balak

his week’s parsha introduces us to the usual suspects who are always present and active in Jewish history and world affairs. Balak and Bilaam are prototypes of the enemies of the Jewish people throughout the ages. They really have no legitimate cause to be our enemies. They impute hostile and aggressive behavior to the Jewish people, when in reality none of this is present. They are motivated by jealousy, greed, and a terrible misreading of the situation that leads them to unreasoning hatred and the wish to eliminate the Jewish people completely. It is the existence of the Jewish people that truly troubles them. They resent the fact that the Jewish people left Egypt and were rescued from bondage. They also resent the special and unique experience of the Jewish people in receiving the Torah. Still further, they resent the fact that the Jewish people will have a homeland and national state in the Land of Israel. So they engage in a seemingly nonviolent

There are always many Bilaams ready and prepared to ride the populist cause of blaming the Jews and the Jewish state for all of the ills and problems of the world. campaign to destroy the Jewish people. False accusations, curses and hatemongering create the tools of their campaign. The Talmud pointed out to us that from the so-called blessings of Bilaam we are able to deduce what his real intentions were and what curses he intended to inflict on the Jews. Balak is willing to invest time, a great deal of money, and his personal and national prestige in this attempt to discredit and eventually destroy the Jewish people. He knows that he needs someone who will spearhead this drive and he also knows that such people are always available…for a price. And it is also obvious that when it comes to the opposition to

the Jewish people, money is no object. Therefore Balak and Bilaam form the perfect pair, the odd couple that is joined by their common goal of hatred of the Jewish people. This couple is alive and well in our time. There are countless numbers of people, supported by all sorts of high-sounding nongovernmental organizations, all dedicated to the cause of delegitimizing Israel, Judaism and the Jewish people generally. And there is no shortage of money, just as in the case of Balak, to finance this project. EU money, Arab money, and private money all flow into this effort to curse Israel and the Jews. The goal of Balak is not so much to

help his own people as it is to destroy others. All of this money, which currently is directed solely towards destroying Israel, could be channeled into helping millions of Muslims rise from poverty, hunger and disease. But that is not the goal of this money. Balak only wants the destruction of the Jews. And in our time, there is no shortage of spokespeople who wish to advance this nefarious cause. There are always many Bilaams ready and prepared to ride the populist cause of blaming the Jews and the Jewish state for all of the ills and problems of the world. Bilaam has a serpent’s tongue. He speaks in a complimentary tone and in a reassuring voice. But that only serves to mask the enmity that he feels towards the Jewish people, an enmity that has no personal or national basis. Well, he is around today as well and we have to simply recognize that the world will eventually realize that its curses should be transmuted into blessings. Shabbat shalom.

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This year’s July 4th parade has a marching band, pairs of dancers, a float of jugglers, a dozen circus clowns, a veterans’ troop, a Boy Scout troop, and a championship football team. Read the description of each group carefully and decide how many are in each group and in what order they marched in the parade. • The marching band was not the leader, but their 6 rows of 4 musicians in each row were near the front, just ahead of the veterans’ troop. • The football team had 2 fewer marchers than the veterans’ troop, and took their time signing autographs as they marched at the end. • The veterans’ troop and the Boy Scouts were separated by the 3 groups of 4 jugglers on the jugglers’ float. • The 3 pairs of dancers were between the Boy Scouts and the football team. • The Boy Scouts had 5 rows of 3 marchers and the veterans’ troop had twice as many. See answer on next page

Towards the end of his citizenship test, Yankel was asked to spell “cultivate.” He spelled it correctly. He was then asked to use the word in a sentence. He thought about it for a moment and then said, “Last vinter on a very cold day, I vas vaiting for de bus, but it vas too cultivate, so I took the subvay home.”

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 Benjamin Franklin, John Adams and Thomas Jefferson served on the committee that picked the eagle for the national seal. (Franklin wanted the turkey.)

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Places with “liberty” in their names. The most populous place is Liberty, Mo. (population 29,149). Iowa, with four, has more of these places than any other state: Libertyville, New Liberty, North Liberty and West Liberty.

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Place with “patriot” in the name. Patriot, Ind. (209).

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 Bald eagles have few natural enemies and live only in North America.  Bald eagles get their white head and tail feathers about 4/5 years of age.  Bald eagles are not, and never were, bald. The term comes from when “bald” meant “white-headed.”  Their maximum speed: 40 mph or over 100 mph while in a dive.  They can lift roughly half their body weight.  The bald eagle is no longer considered endangered, only threatened.  The only other kind of eagle in North America is the golden eagle.  Bald eagles mate for life, but if one dies, the survivor will accept a new mate.  It is a felony to shoot an eagle.

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6. In what year was the Declaration of Independence signed? a. 1492 b. 1969 c. 1772 d. 1776 Answers: 1. C- The bell cracked slightly on its first ringing. However, the large crack apparent today seems to have occurred on a later day. According to some, the large crack happened when the bell was rung to celebrate George Washington’s birthday in 1846. 2. D- “Life, Liberty and the pursuit of happiness” is one of the most famous phrases in the United States Declaration of Independence and considered by some as part of one of the most well-crafted, influential sentences in the history of the English language. 3. A, B, C, D- duh… 4. B 5. B 6. D- It’s interesting to know that historians have long disputed whether Congress actually signed the Declaration of Independence on July 4, 1776, even though Thomas Jefferson, John Adams, and Benjamin Franklin all later wrote that they had signed it on that day. Most historians have concluded that the Declaration was signed nearly a month after its adoption, on August 2, 1776, and not on July 4 as is commonly believed. Wisdom Key: 5-6 correct: You are a step ahead of our politicians in Washington, who seem to have forgotten about the Constitution. 3-4 correct: Not bad, just continue your summer school classes and you will be alright. 0-2 correct: When your friends tell you to stand over the fireworks while lighting them, don’t listen! Let t

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R’ Ben Tzion Shafier

Parshas Balak

Hashem Knows What I am Going to Do “And Balak sent messengers to Bilaam ben Beor” — Bamidbar 22:5

ilaam was a gentile who was allowed to be a prophet of Hashem. Rashi asks why Hashem allowed His Shechina to rest on a wicked gentile. Prophecy is a great gift limited only to Hashem’s beloved. Rashi answers according to the Gemara: “Hashem decided to give the gentile nations prophets so that if in the World to Come they would claim, ‘Had we had prophets to show us the right way, we too, would have been righteous,’ Hashem will answer them, ‘I gave you navi’im, and not only did they fail to lead you on the proper course, they led you to immorality. Bilaam is the example.’ Effectively, Rashi is saying that not only didn’t the gentile nations merit having navi’im, it was a degradation to Hashem that He should rest His name upon such people. However, to answer the gentiles’ claim that they would have done teshuva, Hashem appeared to Bilaam. This Rashi is very difficult to understand. The conversation between the gentiles and Hashem is taking place in the World to Come. In that world, there is only truth, and Hashem’s word is fully accepted by all. Why can’t Hashem simply say, “I am the Creator of the heavens and the earth, and I know the true nature of man. I know that had I given you a prophet, not only wouldn’t he have led you on the proper course,

he would have misguided you.” Why would Hashem have to actually go through the process of giving them a navi and have him fail? It should be enough for Hashem to say, “I know what would have happened.” The answer to this question lies in understanding an age-old philosophical question. If Hashem knows what I am going to do, then how can I have the free will to do it? If I have free will to do that act,

in all times, existing before and after time. To understand what it means that Hashem isn’t limited by time, imagine a time machine. When you walk into the machine, you are effortlessly transported twenty years forward. You walk out, and the first thing that you notice is Reuvein holding a gun up to Shimon. Shimon yells, “Stop! No!” But Reuvein doesn’t stop. He squeezes the trigger on the gun, and you watch as Shimon falls

Hashem is all-knowing, all-present, and all-powerful.

then Hashem can’t know what I am going to do because I haven’t done it yet; I could still chose to either do it or not do it. And if Hashem already knows what I am going to do, then I don’t have free will to do it – Hashem already knows what I will do. The answer to this question is predicated upon our understanding of Hashem’s relationship to physicality. Hashem Knows What Happened Before it Happened Hashem is all-knowing, all-–present, and all-powerful. Limitless and boundless, neither contained nor limited by space or time, He is in all places

into a clump on the ground — stone dead. You then go back into your time machine and come back to the present. You walk over to Reuvein and say, “You murdered Shimon. I saw it. I know it. There is no doubt in my mind because that is what happened.” Reuvein will look at you with a quizzical expression as he exclaims, “I don’t even know who this Shimon is! How could I have had killed him?” Here is the pivotal question: is it true? Do you know that Reuvein is going to kill Shimon? The answer is no. You do not know that Reuvein is going to kill Shimon; you know that he did kill Shimon. Because your time machine allowed you to defy the limitations of human knowledge, you were able to move forward in time and see something happen. Now that you’ve come back, you know it with absolute certainty — and yet Reuvein still had free will to do what he did. As you moved forward in time, it was completely in Reuvein’s capacity to either pull the trigger of that gun or not to. He had complete control over his actions. The reason that you know what he did is because you aren’t limited by time, so you can now move back in time and know what he did even before he did it. Hashem is Above Time Hashem is not limited by time. Hashem sits miles and miles about

this earth and knows everything that is going to happen before it happens. But that is the point: Hashem doesn’t know what is going to happen; Hashem knows what happened — before it happened. This seems to be the answer to the question on Rashi. In the World to Come, the gentile nations will gather and say, “If we had navi’im, we also would have been different.” If Hashem didn’t give them Bilaam, He couldn’t say, “I know what would have happened.” While it is true that Hashem could reach a conclusion that is most likely, it would not be Truth; it would be most probably, the odds are. . . But in the World of Truth, there can be no room for error. As long as man has free will, there is no way to predict with absolute certainty what he will do. Free will by definition means he can go either way. The only way that Hashem can say with absolute knowledge that such and such will happen is by allowing it to happen. So even though Hashem knew what Bilaam would bring to the world, if it could be, Hashem had to allow it to play out, so that in truth He could say, “I gave him to you and look what he brought about.” These concepts have very little application to our lives. If a person were to never know the answer to such questions, nor even ask them, he could very well walk right into Gan Eden. However, there are times when such issues come across our thinking, and it is worthwhile for us to attempt to understand our Creator as much as we can, provided we retain the perspective that we are but mere mortals attempting to gain an glimpse of something so great and profound that it is clearly beyond our limited capacity to truly understand. The Shmuz - Marriage Seminar, a 12 part, comprehensive guide to a successful Marriage is available FREE of charge at www. TheShmuz.com. It is also on the Shmuz App available at the App store, or on Google play, or you may listen on Kol Halashon by calling 718- 906 6400, then options 1, 4, 3

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Fireworks You see, even though to us on the ground, who are just spectators, the fireworks are a mystery and a surprise, the pyrotechnicians behind them have planned carefully and made arrangements to ensure us a good show. By

my car. Out popped a boy of perhaps eleven or twelve years of age, with a yarmulka perched on his head. Seeing that he was getting out, I stopped in my tracks and backed up to let him pass. He said, “Thank you,”

Like the fireworks that start out small but expand rapidly, the beauty we can share with others is extensive without requiring tremendous effort. attaching “stars,” their term for the combustible fireworks that will explode in mid-air, to tubes, they can set an explosion pattern. They will use several cylinders and shells in different arrangements so that at least some of the patterns will be at the proper angle to be viewed by the audience and recognized as the intended shape. They know what they’re doing and can anticipate and extrapolate what will happen when these shells go off and light up the night. This is a very good skill for all of us to learn. You see, everything in life can have a ripple effect. Just as the ingredients for the fireworks show start off contained in a small canister but with some heat they leave in a rush and spread out far and wide, visible to so many and from so far away, so do our actions have the potential to set off great shows of beauty, or perhaps wind up as a dud, not providing the glorious showing we’d hoped. Sometimes, it can turn into a disaster when things go awry and people get hurt. One day at the post office, I was heading to my car when the passenger door of a minivan opened, blocking me from getting to the driver’s door of

and went inside. I could have just gone to my car and driven away, but I didn’t. I walked up to the minivan and knocked on the passenger window. The woman driver rolled down the window. “He said, ‘Thank you,’” I said with a big smile. “You’re doing something right.” I then turned and got into my car. When he came back, I could imagine the welcome he would get. I’m sure his mother was beaming with pride and would let him know how she felt. I imagined that when they got home and sat around the Shabbos table, she would recount this story and his family would give him the glory he was due. I pictured how the boy would be encouraged to continue thinking of others and being appreciative. I envisioned this one phase, wherein I took note of what he’d done and took the

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time to tell his mother, casting a huge glow of beauty over his life. Like the fireworks that start out small but expand rapidly, the beauty we can share with others is extensive without requiring tremendous effort. By planning ahead like the pyrotechnic artists, we can set up developments in advance to shower the world with brightness later on. When you look at something, don’t just see it as it is now. Imagine it as a fuse, able to ignite a chain reaction that will be seen over great distances. You’ll be careful about causing pain, knowing that what you say or do are not isolated occurrences that remain in the present, and you’ll be mindful of purposely causing joy and satisfaction because you understand the mechanics of this art form. And that will give you plenty of reasons to celebrate. Jonathan Gewirtz is an inspirational writer and speaker whose work has appeared in publications around the world. You can find him at www.facebook.com/RabbiGewirtz and follow him on Twitter @ RabbiJGewirtz. He also operates JewishSpeechWriter.com, where you can order a custom-made speech for your next special occasion. Sign up for the Migdal Ohr, his weekly PDF Dvar Torah in English. E-mail info@JewishSpeechWriter.com and put Subscribe in the subject. © 2015 by Jonathan Gewirtz. All rights reserved.

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or multicolored? Will the fire form a shape? What will it look like and how loud will it be? On the other hand, there’s the thrill of looking up at the sky amidst a crowd of other people and knowing that something good is about to happen no matter what it looks like. It’s the pleasure of knowing this is a spectacle designed to be enjoyed by you. If you have noticed, over the past number of years, fireworks have become more and more elaborate. Now, instead of just circles and cascading streamers of fire, shapes and designs can be seen. This began in the ‘90s when fireworks in the patterns of purple hearts and yellow bows were introduced to welcome home American troops from Operation Desert Storm.

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Roaring Back to the 1970s Is the Broken Windows Theory Broken? BY NACHUM SOROKA

1982, an article in the Atlantic magazine posed the following enigma. How come, it asked, residents of Newark judged the city’s “Safe and Clean Neighborhoods Program”( which involved having officers walk their “beat,” instead of driving) a

city folk disappear—disorderly people, namely the drunks, addicts and rowdy youth who terrorize ordinary citizens daily. The mere presence of a member of the police force walking the neighborhood at night was enough to instill order

“If you lose the power of arrest, that’s where Pandora’s box is open and the 1970s, 1980s have the potential to come roaring back again.” success and felt safer in their erstwhile unsafe neighborhood, when, in fact, the data showed that there was actually no reduction in crime attributed to the program? Could it be that the citizens of Newark were so easily fooled by a police initiative? The article’s authors, criminologists George Kelling and James Wilson, had a different answer. Newark’s residents were indeed made safer by the physical presence of police officers. While actual crime may not have gone down in their city, there could be no question that the presence of law enforcement throughout its streets made another source of apprehension for the

into an environment that would otherwise be disorderly. And that, argued Kelling and Wilson, should be considered a success. After all, their reasoning went, disorder and crime are inextricably linked. Certain undesirable areas of town aren’t ridden with buildings with broken windows because there happens to be a preponderance of individuals who have strong window breaking tendencies who live there. Rather, one broken window is a signal to vandals and other trouble-seekers that no one cares; so come one, come all. Kelling and Wilson had no idea that their article, presciently titled “Broken

Windows,” would be the source of one mer and took a hit. In a short while, nuof the most hotly debated social issues merous passersby had joined the fracas, of the next few decades. The Broken and the car was no longer. What hapWindows Theory has been credited pened? Wasn’t Palo Alto the type of with the crime stopping successes of place where people eschewed vandalcities such as New York and Boston ism? Hadn’t they left the car alone for and countries like the Netherlands. It over a week already; why did their athas also been the bane of civil rights ac- titudes change so quickly? Kelling and tivists and the said cause of the recent Wilson brought this experiment as proof deaths of Eric Garner in Staten Island to their theory that disorder breeds more and Freddie Gray, both of “Black Lives disorder. Matter” fame. In truth, the basis of the Broken Windows argument comes from an the 1990s, New York City experiment conducted by Stanford Mayor Rudolph Giuliani depsychologist Philip Zimbardo in 1969. cided to put Kelling and WilZimbardo left two “abandoned” cars with their hoods up in two different cit- son’s theory to action. New Yorkers ies: the Bronx, which even then was not the place one would park his Lamborghini, and Palo Alto, California. While the car left in the Bronx had its radio and battery removed within ten minutes of the start of the experiment, the Palo Alto car was left untouched for more than a week. Finally, Zimbardo himself went City Council Speaker Melissa Mark-Viverito and Police Commissioner up to the car in Palo Bill Bratton are at odds over this debate Alto with a sledgeham-

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to assume that a police officer’s judgment is any different and if the officer on patrol is looking to maintain order in the community under his watch, he most probably would target minorities over whites. Even Kelling and Williams wrote in their seminal article that they feared “skin color or national origin or harmless mannerisms [would] become the basis for distinguishing the undesirable from the desirable.”

her State of the City speech earlier this year, City Council Speaker Melissa Mark-Viverito highlighted this point when she argued for an overhaul in Broken Windows policing. “We need to take a com-

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ity to stop and question someone on the street as long as the police officer had reasonable suspicion that that person was involved in a crime. Commissioner Bratton, however, was the first to implement the practice in a widespread manner as part of the quality of life initiative. Stop, question and frisk has had its fair share of critics, most notably the current Mayor of New York City Bill de Blasio. De Blasio made dropping an appeal of a ruling against the police’s widespread use of stop and frisk one of the priorities of his election campaign and called himself “the only candidate to end a stop and frisk era that targets minorities.” To be fair, one of the basic arguments used by critics of stop and frisk, and the Broken Windows Theory in general, is that it unfairly targets certain minorities. Indeed, many people would be more inclined to cross to the other side of the street if they saw a young, black male in a backwards baseball cap and hoodie approaching them than they would if that person was white and wearing a business suit. It is illogical

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were tired of being harassed with what other reasons offered for the improved the mayor called “quality of life” crimi- safety of New York City since his tenure nals: subway fare jumpers, graffiti art- in office. Steven Levitt, in his widelyists and “squeegee men” who would read book, Freakonomics, offered that forcibly squeegee one’s windshield the legalization of abortion in the 1970s when one was stopped at a red light led to an overall decline of juvenile deand then demand payment for their ser- linquents in the 1990s and the reduction vices. So he hired Bill Bratton, a self- of crimes associated with them. Others proclaimed disciple of Kelling who had have attributed Giuliani’s success to the implemented Broken Windows policies drop in the price of crack cocaine on the while at the New York City Transit Po- street, which made violence associated lice, to lead the police department and with its sale less worth it for criminals. its new “zero tolerance” method of poMost recently, the Broken Windows licing. Theory has been implemented in the Giuliani’s initiative was widely criticized at first. Why go after the petty, harmless criminals when New York City had one of the highest violent crime rates in the country, many asked. Yet, under Giuliani and Bratton, not only did quality of life criminal activity drop precipitously, so did all violent crime, The squeegee men harrassed the drivers of the city including a 70 percent before Giuliani cracked down drop in the murder rate by some estimates. public arena in a different form: “Stop, No doubt Giuliani used these sta- Question and Frisk.” Stop and frisk has tistics as proof that his heavy-handed actually been practiced since the 1980s, policing works, but there are numerous when police officers were given author-

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prehensive approach to criminal justice reform that ensures a fairer system, improves police community relations, and addresses the fact that far too many of our young people – mostly low-income

records or outstanding warrants and officers were able to put them behind bars because of their minor offenses. In the past year, the criticism of Broken Windows has taken on a new rallying cry, “Black Lives Matter.” Almost a year ago, on July 17, Eric Garner died while being arrested by New York City police officers involved in quality of life policing. Garner was selling loose cigarettes on the street in Staten Officers know that the mayor wants them to stand down Island, hardly a high profile ofblack and Latino males – are locked fense, but one that Commissioner Bratup at Rikers,” she said at the Johnson ton feels should be swiftly prosecuted. Houses in East Harlem. Mark-Viverito Then, more recently in Baltimore, insists that summonses and desk ap- 25-year-old Freddie Gray died while in pearance tickets—instead of arrests— police custody after being arrested for for minor offenses is the key to good possession of a switchblade. Both of the policing. unintended consequences in these situIn April, the City Council proposed ations fueled the national debate over to decriminalize a host of small of- whether quality of life policing is justifenses—including fare beating, riding a fied. bicycle on a sidewalk, drinking on the streets and being in a park after hours— making them punishable by a civil sumthere is mounting evimons, rather than a criminal summons dence that what large or arrest. cities, particularly New “You still have to pay a penalty. You still have to pay a fine,” Mark-Viverito York, need is more Broken Windows related at the time. “Let’s be clear: This policing. Since Mayor de Blasio took is not people walking away. People are office last year, shootings and murders in the city have risen to their highest being held accountable to an action.” Police Commissioner Bratton, levels in years. Many point to a decelthough, did not agree. He pointed out eration in stop and frisk policing by pothat decriminalizing these offenses ties lice for this increase in crime. And that officers’ hands. “If you lose the power has led to a head-to-head showdown of arrest, that’s where Pandora’s box is between de Blasio and Commissioner open and the 1970s, 1980s have the po- Bratton, who insists on employing more police officers in order to quash tential to come roaring back again.” The case of Damien Brunson high- the petty crimes which he believes are lights the importance of keeping crimes the cause of greater violence. Just this week, on Monday, Naji like fare evasion punishable on a criminal level. Officers on patrol arrested Fawaz was discovered in the front seat Brunson, 32, after he jumped a turnstile of his cab in Bedford-Stuyvesant at a few months ago. He said his Metro- 12:20am, shot and killed. The state’s Card wasn’t working, but officers didn’t taxi drivers’ association blamed the just write him a ticket, as Mark-Viverito cutback on NYPD’s stop and frisk tactics for his death. “We were very conproposes should be done. Instead, they found that he was car- cerned that criminals won the battle rying quantities of crack and marijuana, over STOP & FRISK in NYC,” NY along with a loaded Smith & Wesson State Federation of Taxi Drivers head .38. Then they ran his priors — and Fernando Mateo wrote. “We urge found seven previous arrests. He’s now Commissioner Bratton to reconsider being prosecuted on drug and gun-pos- this position and find an alternative to session charges that could land him be- Stop & Frisk ASAP. If we ignore the truth, more lives will be taken, and hind bars for 10 years. This situation happened time and someone must be held accountable,” he time again in the 1990s. Fare-beaters urged. According to the Daily News, there weren’t just nickel-and-diming the city on subway fares; many of them weren’t were 11,652 stop and frisk stops across first time offenders. They had criminal the city through June 3, projecting to

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roughly 28,000 for the year. At this pace, stop and frisk encounters will plunge by 42% this year, with 20,000 fewer stops. As the stops decrease, the numbers of murders have spiked—up 19.5% during the first five months of year and the number of people shot in the city is up 9.2%. “What you’re seeing now are the perps carrying their guns because they’re not afraid to carry them,” said Ed Mullins, head of the Sergeants Benevolent Association. “We’ve created an atmosphere where we’ve handcuffed the police. We are sitting back, taking a less proactive approach.” Why are we seeing less and less stop and frisk stops? The message from the brass is that the stops need to be “quality” stops—it’s “quality” over “quantity”. And the message from the mayor is unspoken, yet loud and clear. “The guys I talk to all feel the same way: De Blasio doesn’t want stops,” a Bronx officer told the Daily News earlier this month. “The perps know what we’re doing. We’re not stopping as many people as we used to.” Many New Yorkers prefer a safe city, or even one with less public riffraff, than a less orderly one with a more “tolerant” police force. Commissioner Bratton recently told a radio host that

the only reason some New Yorkers are not in favor of his way of policing is because they weren’t around during the “bad old days” of rampant crime and unsafe streets. Indeed, the city was in a crisis in 1970s, and it was not just limited to crime rates; tax revenues were at all-time lows, partly because of the insecure environment of the city’s neighborhoods. Proponents of Bratton’s way of policing cite community meetings in low-income areas where the main complaints from the attendees were not related to the presence of vigilante police officers on their streets, but to the presence of rowdy youth on their street corners. We may never really know if one way of policing is more effective than another. Like stock market gyrations, crime rates rise and fall because of a whole host of factors, or a combination thereof. One thing we can be sure of, though, is that like all things political, the debate is far more significant to many people than the truth. Broken windows, graffiti-ridden walls, drive by shootings, drunks hanging on the corner—these are the things that affect the people who live in the city. Let those in City Hall continue their debate, but let’s work together to make this city safe again. 

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A Fulfilled Life

Rabbi Naphtali Hoff

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gocentricity stands at the core of what chazal termed “traits of the students of the wicked Bilam” (Avos 5:22). In contrasting the characteristics possessed by the “students” of Avraham Avinu with those displayed by disciples of the gentile prophet, the Mishna states that the former are characterized by having “a good eye, a humble spirit and an undemanding soul.” The latter, on the other hand, view the world with “an evil eye, an arrogant spirit and a demanding soul.” In his commentary to this Mishna, Rav Samson Raphael Hirsch details the many instances through which we observe Avraham’s selflessness, such as when he gave up all of the “pleasures, riches, comforts and honors of home” by leaving his father’s residence at a moment’s notice, his incredible kindness to total strangers, his advocacy for the wicked inhabitants of S’dom, his willingness to battle on behalf of his ungrateful and estranged nephew, and

his unselfishness after his victory over the mighty four kings. And whereas Avraham’s behaviors emerged from true humility (“I am but dust and ashes” – Bereishis 18:27), Bilam placed his own agenda first at all times and made every effort to avoid admitting his many shortcomings. Here is a man who communicated with Hashem and clearly understood the great spiritual forces regulating the cosmos. Yet, his thoughts and behaviors did not reflect such spiritual awareness. To the contrary, Bilam was devoted to the coarsest of physical and material pleasures, so much so that he used his spiritual abilities for his personal gain, by hiring himself to the highest bidder to curse that nation’s adversary. Such self-centered hedonism is revealed time and again throughout Balak’s courtship of the erstwhile prophet. When Hashem told him, “You shall not go with (Balak’s representatives)” (Ibid 12), Bilam responded by saying, “If so,

I will curse them in my place” (Rashi). In the next pasuk, when Bilam told to the princes of Balak, “Go to your land, for the L-rd refuses to let me go with you,” he was implying that the such denial was not a reflection of true Divine control over his personal conduct, but rather Hashem’s concern that the officials were insufficiently great for Bilam’s dignity (see Rashi, Ibid). The prophet’s ostensibly righteous response to Balak’s servants in pasuk 18 (“Even if you would give me his house full of silver and gold, I would not go beyond the word of the L-rd, my G-d”) was understood by chazal as being one of greed and covetousness. And while the selfless students of Avraham Avinu “enjoy this world and inherit olam haba,” Bilam’s students have neither this world nor the next. Rav Hirsch explains that they “do not live out even half of their days” in the sense that their lives are not complete and fulfilling. Having no true appreci-

ation for this world nor the next, they pursue pleasures, wealth and prestige to fill the unquenchable hollow. However, not only does such an approach make it impossible for them to walk along the path of salvation, but it leads to a life of unfulfilled longings and an existence marred by smallness, emptiness and endless frustration. If we are all to learn a lesson from this disastrous occurrence, it should be to try to see beyond the personal lure of personal gains. We should strive to consider the broader implications of our actions by placing the needs of others before our own. In so doing, we will come to live a life that is truly fulfilling, both for now and forever. Rabbi Naphtali Hoff is an executive coach and president of Impactful Coaching and Consulting (ImpactfulCoaching.com). He can be reached at 212.470.6139 or at president@impactfulcoaching.com.

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Eyes Wide Shut yet again and in a tired and weary voice said, “In addition, it is widely seen as having corrupt politicians and corrupt government.” There was almost universal nodding now. I paused one last time, this time longer than before and said, “But personally I wish Pakistan and its people only the very best!” My audience looked confused and very uncomfortable indeed. “If,” I continued, “you thought I was talking about the State of Israel, that’s because you are suffering from anti-Semitism.” There were no smiling faces now. “Anti-Semitism is, after all, hatred and discrimina-

tion against Jews for flaws they may indeed have but everyone else has too, often in much larger amounts than us. Or it invents lies accusing us of flaws we never had and things we never did. The exact same process applies to the State of Israel—instead of at an individual level, at an international one.” You may be surprised to learn that I was not invited back to speak at the next conference.

ince moving to New York five years ago, I have been really surprised to find that speaking to Jewish audiences all over the country you cannot assume in any way that there will be any sympathy for, or agreement with, Israel’s struggle and position. Actually, I have discovered that identification with Israel often depends on the age of your audience. The older they are, the more likely they are to still be on Israel’s side; the younger they are, much less so. Then, of course, there is the bizarre position of people like me who wear black hats and would not define themselves as Zionist yet constitute a very large proportion of those wanting to move to Israel. While not identifying ourselves as Zionists, we are fierce in our anger with and rejection of the New Anti-Semitism posing as anti-Zionism. It would seem that the age of Zionism in the U.S. is roughly about fifty years and up. Those below that age and especially teenagers and students are less and less likely to side with Israel and more and more likely

to become its critics, opponents, and part of the BDS movement. I spoke a couple of years ago at a university in Long Island. The Jewish student population there is about 14,000. The number who joined the Hillel House was 14. There are couple of “underground” student magazines on this campus—two are rabidly anti-Israel and often overtly anti-Semitic. Both are run by Jews.

any years ago, I spoke at the first anti-Israel debate in Europe. It was in my hometown of Glasgow, Scotland. We lost. We lost again and again ever since. We are losing in precisely the same way across the USA today despite the large numbers of Jews and Jewish resources that should mean we should win. After the last Lebanon war, I wrote a piece for HaModia. It began, “How do you think we did in Lebanon recently, not too good, eh?! Well I am writing to you from the frontline of Israel’s defense. Not the border with Lebanon—from Manchester University!” Indeed it is, indeed all universities are. A student can wave an ISIS flag on Berkley and suffer nothing more than being ignored. When the same student waves the Israeli flag the very next day in the same place, he is insulted and threatened. Generation after generation of European college students have been fed a steady diet of Israel demonization since the seventies. Many of those graduated and went on to become the journalists, editors, politicians and opinion-makers of society, and Israel lost Europe. The same thing is happening in exactly the same way here now all over America. Don’t take my word for it. Meet India-born Zubin Mehta, the world famous Music Director of the Israel Philharmonic. He recently said, “Israel has lost Europe. Now it’s on the verge of losing America.” American Jews are doing far too little to stop it, if they are even aware that it is happening. We seem to have our eyes wide shut. When I first started working on campus in the UK all those years ago, I saw my job as defending Jews and the State of Israel to the non-Jewish world. The ineffectiveness of the camouflage of anti-Israel-ness hiding anti-Jewish-ness was all too obvious. Before I left, I found myself primarily defending Jews and the State of Israel to the Jewish world. That anti-Israel rhetoric hides anti-Semitism is not at all obvious to young American Jews who watch CNN or read The New York Times or the LA Times. Over the last four years I have told members of AIPAC and many other communal leaders too: if American Jews don’t wake up very soon and learn the lessons of fights lost on Israel’s frontlines on European universities and colleges, there will be no battle left here to win. We will have lost the war.  I am not sure they are listening.

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ive years ago, when I was still living in the UK, I received a very unusual invitation indeed. The Church of England in Manchester, England, was organizing a conference on the subject of “Conflict resolution on Campus.” Religious chaplains and counselors from all faiths were invited to attend and there were to be three keynote lectures. I was asked to give one entitled “The New Anti-Semitism.” The night before the conference, I wrote my talk and when I read it over I was aware how hard-hitting I had made it. The next day, the two hundred or so delegates arrived before the start of the conference and shared cups of tea and conversation. The atmosphere was extremely pleasant and very English. Everyone had after all attended because they were, in their minds, signed up to the concept of a multi-cultural Britain. They were a pretty tolerant crowd; there were lots of smiling faces. The first speaker opened the proceedings and then I was invited to speak. I looked at my notes and hesitated. This was really hard-hitting stuff and everyone was, after all, being really very pleasant and nice. “I have been asked to speak on the ‘New Anti-Semitism,’” I began. “I would like to make it clear that the new anti-Semitism is exactly and precisely identical in every respect...to the old anti-Semitism. When I walk down the street in London today and someone shouts, ‘Gaza’ or ‘Palestine’ at me, they haven’t stopped to ask me if I am an Israeli or a Zionist. They just see a Jew and in 2010 I am personally responsible for all the suffering and difficulties of the Palestinian people.” My audience nodded sympathetically and I went on. “In medieval Europe, I killed J-. In the 21st century I am personally responsible for all the suffering in the Middle East.” There was more nodding and agreement. Then I paused, looked up and said, “But let me frank and completely honest with you. There is no doubt that since the founding of the State some sixty years ago it has been responsible for untold human suffering.” My audience was giving me very ounce of attention they had. “There is no doubt that since the founding of the State, some sixty or so years ago, that it has been responsible for an enormous refugee problem. It was created to accommodate the requirements of one religious community and one alone. It has arguably been responsible for several wars and as it is nuclear-armed, any could have escalated into a world war.” I paused

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hings are changing here in the U.S., Israel’s “greatest ally.” The Supreme Court’s recent invalidation of a 2002 passport law allowing the 50,000 Jerusalem-born American citizens to claim their birthplace as Israel is only the latest sign. I know why it’s happening and more importantly, how.

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Halachically Speaking

Rabbi Moishe Dovid Lebovits

The Halachos of the Three Weeks

he time of the Three Weeks is a time when we avoid many activities. Why do we refrain from such activities? What are included in these activities? Below we will discuss the halachos of the Three Weeks.

Introduction We live in a world today where it is very hard to realize what we are missing by not having the Bais Hamikdosh. We have gotten too comfortable with our houses, etc. and are not really waiting for the day that Moshiach will come. The Gemara tells us that one who mourns over the Bais Hamikdosh will merit seeing it rebuilt. The Shulchan Aruch tells us that a G-d fearing person should worry about the churban Bais Hamikdosh every day of his life. Five tragic occurrences happened

on Shiva Asar B’Tamuz: 1. Moshe Rabbeinu broke the luchos when he came down from Har Sinai and saw the ei-

gel 2. The karbon tamid was no longer brought in the first Bais Hamikdosh. 3. The destruction of the second Bais Hamikdosh started. 4. Apostumos burnt

the Torah 5. A tzelem was placed in the heichel. On Tisha B’Av the following trage-

dies happened: 1. Klal Yisroel were told they were not going into Eretz Yisroel because they wept in vain after hearing the evil report of the meraglim. 2. The first and second Bais Hamikdosh were destroyed. 3. Beitar, which was home to thousands of Jews, was captured by the Romans. 4. Turnisrupos surrounded the heichel. Because of the above tragedies, the custom is to refrain from many activities during the days between Shiva Asar B’Tamuz and Tisha B’Av, which are commonly known as “Ben Hametzarim.” Source It would seem that the time for aveilus is either from Rosh Chodesh Av or during the week of Tisha B’Av. However, many poskim, among them the Rama, bring down that the time of aveilus starts from Shiva Asar B’Tamuz. Night Before or in the Morning There is a discussion among the poskim if one has to refrain from the actions which are not done during the Three Weeks from the morning of Shiva Asar B’Tamuz or even the night before. Most poskim say that one should refrain from doing these activities even from the night before, from tzeis. In a pressing situation one can be lenient (i.e. wedding on Motzei Shabbos.) Some are of the opinion that during ben hashmoshes one can be lenient with the actions which are customarily refrained from during the Three Weeks (i.e. haircut).

There is a minority view that holds that some have the custom not to eat meat from Shiva Asar B’Tamuz until after Tisha B’Av, (except for Shabbos), but the custom is not like this. Some have the custom to fast each day from Shiva Asar B’Tamuz until after Tisha B’Av, but the custom is not like this, especially for one who teaches Torah and is concerned it will affect his learning. Mourning Mid-day Many poskim mention that after the mid-day point of every day during the Three Weeks one should take some time out to mourn over the destruction of the Bais Hamikdosh. Nonetheless, this should not be done on Erev Shabbos, Erev Rosh Chodesh Av, Rosh Chodesh and Erev Tisha B’Av. Restricted Activities There are basically four main activities which are customarily restricted during the Three Weeks. 1. Joy, such as a wedding, dancing or music. 2. Haircuts. 3. Reciting a shehechiyanu. 4. Dangerous situations. We will now begin to discuss these activities in the order in which they appear in the Shulchan Aruch. Weddings The custom of Ashkenazim is to refrain from making weddings from the night of Shiva Asar B’Tamuz until after Tisha B’Av. This is even if one has not fulfilled the mitzvah of having children. One is permitted to get engaged (vort) or write a tenayim during the Three Weeks but only without a seuda or dancing). One is permitted to make a seuda for a bris milah or pidyon haben during the Three Weeks. Some say that at a sheva brochos which takes during the Three Weeks, one may not have dancing or music. Others permit dancing but no music, and others permit both dancing and music. Music Just as dancing is not done during the Three Weeks, it is customary to refrain from listening to music as well. This applies to tapes, radios, CDs or DVDs. Some poskim are lenient and

Haircuts The custom of Ashkenazim is not to get haircuts from Shiva Asar B’Tamuz until after Tisha B’Av. This applies to both men and women. The reason for this is since one does not take a haircut so often, if we were allowed to take haircuts until Rosh Chodesh Av it would not be recognizable that we let our hair grow after Rosh Chodesh, therefore, the custom is to refrain from haircuts for the entire three week period. This stands true even for the honor of Shabbos. One is permitted to comb his hair even if some hair may fall out. Some say an Ashkenazi can give

haircut, since one should teach his children about the churban, however, if it is for the need of the child then doing so is permitted until the week of Tisha B’Av. One should avoid performing an upsherin of a child during the Three Weeks. The haircut which is forbidden refers to the head and beard (shaving). If one’s mustache is getting long and in the way of eating, it may be shaven. One who works in a place that if he does not shave or take a haircut he will lose his job, may shave or take a haircut during the Three Weeks, except for the week of Tisha B’Av. A woman whose hair grows long enough that it starts coming out of her head covering may shave it. The same is true if the shaving is done for tzinius reasons. Going for electrolysis is permitted for a woman. A woman is permitted to tweeze her eyebrows during the Three Weeks. A sheitel which needs to be fixed or cut is permitted until Rosh Chodesh Av. A girl who is involved with dating can shave before she goes on a date. Some say if one’s hair is so long that it is a chatzitzah for hilchos tefillin then one is permitted to take a haircut. It is permitted for the one who is making a bris (father of the child), the mohel, and sandek to shave for the bris, until the week of Tisha B ’Av. A chosson during his sheva brochos is permitted to shave since it is like a yom tov for him. The opinion of some poskim is to be lenient for a bar mitzvah boy to take a haircut if the bar mitzvah is before the week that Tisha B’Av falls out, but others say this should not be done, and this is the custom of many.

garment that requires a shehechiyanu to be recited according to halacha. In addition this discussion is not referring to the Nine Days where the halachos are more stringent.) Some say the custom is only to refrain from a shehechiyanu from the Nine Days but not before. The reason for the custom is since this time is a time of “unpleasant occurrences” it is not the time to say the bracha of shehechiyanu where we mention being brought to this time. A woman who is expecting is allowed to eat a fruit even if she will have to make a shehechiyanu on it since if she wants a food and does not have it there can be a danger. From the fact that one should not recite a shehechiyanu during these days, we learn that one should also not buy any clothing which would require him to recite a shehechiyanu. Some say if one mistakenly recited a bracha rishona on a fruit which requires a shehechiyanu, they should recite a shehechiyanu on it before eating it. According to the above, one would be permitted to buy a chashuv item during the Three Weeks as long as no shehechiyanu is recited on its purchase. Some still say that something which is “chashuv” should not be bought during this time. A sefer that one does not recite a shehechiyanu on (not chashuv, or according to those poskim that no shehechiyanu is recited on seforim) is permitted to be bought until Rosh Chodesh Av. Some say if avoiding the purchase of an item will cause a loss, one should just give a down payment for it and pay the rest after the Three Weeks; others are more lenient. Some say an item which one does not wear when he buys it (i.e. clothing which requires alternation) and he would recite a shehechiyanu when wearing it, would

Cutting Nails One is permitted to cut nails during the Three Weeks. A mohel is permitted

Reciting a Shehechiyanu and Buying New Items It is a good practice to refrain from reciting a shehechiyanu on a fruit or garment during the three weeks (until the tenth of Av). (Please note the below discussion only pertains to a fruit or

be permitted to buy during the Three Weeks in order to wear it after Tisha B’Av. A new garment which one bought before the Three Weeks and recited a shehechiyanu on it (according to those who say a shehechiyanu is not recited at the time of wearing but at the time of the purchase) at that time is permitted to wear it for the first time until Rosh Chodesh Av. One is permitted to recite a shehechiyanu on a mitzvah such as a pidyon haben or a bris. In addition, one is permitted to recite hatov v’hameitiv during the entire Three Weeks. For example, one is permitted to buy a car until Rosh Chodesh Av if it will be used for his family. One who gives birth to a girl may recite a shehechiyanyu, even if the girl is born during the Three Weeks. Some have the custom that one should refrain from moving into a new home during the Three Weeks. Gifts Some say one is permitted to give a gift to someone during the entire Three Weeks if it is something which one does not recite a shehechiyanu on. Avoiding Danger The poskim mention a few actions to refrain from the entire Three Weeks period because of danger involved. One should be careful not to walk by himself outside of the city between the beginning of the fourth hour until the end of the ninth hour of the day (in the summer it is approx. from 11:00am – 2:00 pm). In addition any place where people frequent it is permitted. One should not walk between the sun and the shade during the Three Weeks, but this is only for a long period of time. The whole concern is in the same place, but to walk from sun to shade is permitted. Some say one should be careful not to sit or sleep in the shade of the sun during this time. One should avoid having surgery during the Three Weeks if pushing it off until after the Three Weeks is possible. Swimming - Three Weeks (not including Nine Days) Some have the custom to refrain from swimming during the Three Weeks. However, the custom is to go swimming until Rosh Chodesh Av. Nonetheless, one should avoid swimming in dangerous places. Rabbi Moishe Dovid Lebovits is a former chaver kollel of Yeshiva Torah Vodaath and a musmach of Harav Yisroel Belsky shlita. Rabbi Lebovits currently works as the Rabbinical Administrator for the KOF-K Kosher Supervision.

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Singing Singing with one’s mouth is permitted during the Three Weeks. Some say singing songs which brings joy should not be done. According to some poskim listening to a CD of chazanus without music is permitted even if one finds it enjoyable.

to cut his nail in order to perform a bris more efficiently.

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Newest Fad Many say singing without music is not permitted. Therefore, the newest fad to have music which simulates instrumental music (a capella) is not a viable loophole during the Three Weeks. Such singing defeats the whole purpose of the issur because the musical experience is what is really ossur, which a capella singing provides in full. If there is singing without music then it may be permitted. In addition, some say even if one sings into a CD without beats it is considered music and forbidden.

a Sefardi a haircut since the Sefardi is permitted to have a haircut until the week of Tisha B’Av, but l’halacha one should not do so. Others say if a Sefardi (who is permitted to take a haircut until the week of Tisha B’Av) wishes he can be stringent and not give haircuts to Ashkenazim, but according to the letter of the law doing so is permitted. An adult may not give a child a

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permit even live music at a seudas mitzvah. One who wishes to listen to music while exercising or in a waiting room is permitted to do so. One does not have to shut off a musical ringer on his cell phone during the Three Weeks. If one is driving and is scared of falling asleep, listening to music is permitted. One is permitted to listen to music if he is suffering from depression and the music will lift his spirits. Children below the age of chinuch are permitted to listen to music. This applies to adults who are listening to the children’s music as well (i.e. while driving in the car). In addition, a teacher in a playgroup may play music for her students who are under the age of chinuch during the Three Weeks. There is a discussion in the poskim if playing a musical instrument for one’s livelihood is permitted during the Three Weeks. The consensus of the poskim is that doing so is permitted, although some say only until Rosh Chodesh Av. It is proper not to have music lessons during the Three Weeks.

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Israel Today

Rafi Sackville

Pink Slipped

the last day of school in 1985 I was summoned, along with the rest of the teaching staff, to the principal’s office. It was a small room the nine of us cramped into. He was a man of few words and a usually sparse desk. The two stacks of envelopes on either side of his desk were therefore noticeable. Menachem, the math teacher, nudged me gently in the ribs and gave a knowing look. “Tenure,” was all he said. The principal appeared unhappy. The day before he had repeatedly asked me to return the following year. He needed good teachers, he said. I had yet to make a commitment. He gestured towards the envelopes, as if he knew we understood their import. I stretched my hand towards the right corner of his desk. He covered it with his hand. “No, these envelopes first,” he said, pointing to the other corner. The first letter we received thanked us for the wonderful job we had done over the course of the year. Then, in a neat turn of phrase, the tone changed and we were, every last man Jack of us, fired. Seeing the look of shock on my face Menachem pointed to the other stack of envelopes. “Tenure,” he said. And the other envelope? It was a letter rehiring us from the very day of our firing. I did not take up the offer to return. I walked towards the bus stop with Menachem who wished me well. As the bus approached and he was walking to-

wards his car he called out, “Rafi. It’s okay. This happens every year. Welcome to Israel.” Two months ago the principal in the school I work in gathered our staff to inform us that in contrast to the outgoing grade that are 140 in number, the incom-

representative to the education ministry.

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in May I was summoned to the principal’s office. Arik, who fondly calls out, “Rafi, what’s happening?” whenever he sees me, was slouching in his chair looking morose.

“Rafi. It’s okay. This happens every year. Welcome to Israel.” ing grade totaled less than 100. Sweeping cuts would be made across the staff. The law of “last teacher in, first out” would apply regardless of a teacher’s success. “There will be hearings,” she said. Those called to a hearing would

The teachers’ union rep, Idit, was busily scribbling away in a notebook. The principal wasted no time making it perfectly clear that she was not willing to cut my hours or fire me. In the worst case scenario she’d find me work

have representation from the teachers’ union as well as Arik, our math department chair, who is our school teacher

teaching in the junior high. There was a question of my accreditation. Yes, I was in the process of completing a six month course. Yes, I’d been observed. Yes, by the time September rolled around I’d be part of the ministry’s reform program. Yes. Yes. Yes. Sofi is a good principal. She has cared for me since the day I arrived. Her word is final. So that as I was walking out of her office there was no doubt in my mind that I would be employed next year. A few weeks later and just before the end of the school year I received a letter via registered mail. Here is a translation of its pertinent point: Advanced notice terminating your employment: pursuant to the notification you received from the school’s administration with respect to your continued employment, we find it necessary

to terminate your employment. This is due to a lack of your accreditation, which does not meet the requirements of the ministry of education. We thank you for your work in our institution, and wish you etcetera, etcetera. I was sitting in our parked car outside the post office with my wife, Keren. “They fired you? Four weeks before the end of the school year! How are you going to find a job for September?” “There’s got to be a mistake. Hang on a minute,” I said to her. “Let me call Arik.” A moment later he was on the line. “Rafi, what’s happening?” I explained the situation to him. He laughed aloud and said, “Rafi, welcome back to Israel.” “You’re not telling me this has something to do with tenure, are you?” I asked him. “It’s got everything to do with it. If a school can find a way to prevent your tenure, however tenuous the reason, they’ll do it. What scoundrels they are! Not Sofi, though. We’re only a branch of over 50 schools across the country. It’s from the CEO’s office. It’s not from Sofi, right?” “No, it’s not.” “Look at the madness of your situation. You’ve been teaching for years. The staff loves you. Your students love you. But the price you have to pay for being the last person employed in your department means that you’ll end up with the shortest straw next year. At least you’re getting a straw, right? Hey, Rafi! Look at it this way, the only way the school could re-hire you was to fire you. So Rafi, what’s happening?” “That sounds awfully like a Catch-22,” I said. “What catch?” he asked. “The ‘tenure-catch’” I replied. Arik’s reply to my witticism roughly translated to the Hebrew equivalent of “whatever” and I won’t bore you with it here. Arik’s a great guy. On the side he runs his own business designing and making kitchens. He has a small factory and half a dozen workers. But that is a story for another day. Rafi Sackville, formerly of Cedarhurst, lives in Ma’alot in Western Galil. He teaches in the local high school.

Forgotten Heroes

Shayetet 13

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uring WWII most of the belligerents cre- no idea it was carried out by a secret force. Ben-Nun retaliation raids. The operation was called Spring of ated special units for specialized missions, went on to become the Israeli Navy’s sixth com- Youth and several members of the Black September and in the postwar years these units evolved mander, and the Shayetet 13 was in the navy to stay. group were killed by the sea commandos. In coopto counter modern day During the Sinai War eration with other Special Forces troops, three high threats. Any first world in 1956, Ben-Nun was ranking PLO leaders and dozens of other terrorists country with a dethe commander of the were killed. Shayetet 13 also destroyed a munitions cent-sized military has INS Yafo and captured workshop in Beirut, Lebanon. Special Forces units an Egyptian destroyer. Shayetet 13 commandos took part in every Israeattached to their reguDuring the Suez li war since 1948 and achieved considerable success. lar military. In Israel, Crisis, also known as During the 1982 Lebanon War, they took out many this is especially true, the 1956 Sinai War, targets, ammunition caches and Hezbollah terrorand their water comShayetet 13 comman- ists. In the past decade and a half, they took part in mandos, called Shaydos went on several ground operations that severely hampered Palestinetet 13, got their start missions that failed to ian terrorist operations. In 2002, they took over a during the Israeli War achieve their objec- ship carrying 50 tons of weapons intended for the of Independence. tives. Most of these Palestinian Authority. The commandos fast-roped in Shayetet 13’s humwere on reconnais- from helicopters onto the ship and captured eleven Members of Shayetet 13 in training ble beginnings startsance missions, and people including “civilian activists” and discovered ed in the last days of later in the war the Katyusha rockets and high explosives. In some of WWII. The Haganah created a navy force called commandos were used on land to support the reg- the recent conflicts, they killed many militants from the Palyam under Avraham Zakai. Its main missions ular troops. countries including Syria, Lebanon, and Iran that were underwater demolitions and other maritime asThe wars of the late were fighting to destroy signments. One of their first missions that was to last 1960s also provided sevIsrael. Many arms cachuntil the start of the War of Independence in 1948 eral sore spots for the unit es were prevented from was to escort Jewish refugees from Europe to the that they’d rather forget. reaching Palestinian ports of Eretz Yisrael. On these voyages they also During the Six Day War, terrorists in Gaza from managed to bring in large shipments of weapons and Shayetet 13 commandos direct action raids permaterial needed to supply the underground fighters. surfaced in Port Said, formed by the Shayetet All of these was done despite the British blockade. Egypt, but their targets 13. A Syrian general on Raids were mounted against British targets includ- were nowhere to be seen. yacht was killed in 2008 ing blowing up a cargo vessel (it was empty at the In another raid, six divby a Shayetet 13 sniper. time) used to transport Jewish refugees away from ers were captured in AlThe 300 or so men Israel. In addition to placing mines on British tar- exandria and were only in Shayetet 13, which is gets, the commandos gathered intelligence on the released a year after the equivalent to the AmerBritish fleet. On the eve of the war there were 400 war. The Green Island ican Navy SEALs, are Palyam members, and these heroes formed the nu- Raid during the War of trained to be experts in The Palyam’s explosive speedboats cleus of the Israeli Navy. Attrition (1967-1970) counter-terrorism and Even though the Palyam was integrated into the was more successful in that, along with Sayeret hostage rescue among other “tradecraft.” Some of navy, many of the members used their experience Matkal, they achieved their objectives but result- their training is done with SEALs and other marto form another sea ed in the death of six itime Special Forces from foreign countries. The commando group. In commandos—three of training is very physical, and the selection makes 1949, Yochai Ben-Nun them Shayetet 13—and it one of the toughest units to gain access to in the formed the Shayetet ten more were injured. Israeli military. 13 from former PalyAn important radar staMost of the operations that Shayetet 13 comam members and kept tion was destroyed and mandos perform are kept classified. This is a trend it secret for over a de80 Egyptian elite com- for many Special Forces units worldwide as they cade. He led a group of mandos were killed. like to keep out of the limelight. From what we do four Italian-made exThe holes in Egyptian know about their missions and training, the public plosive boats on a misradar were exploit- can be thankful to them for keeping civilians safe. sion to bomb the Egyped by the Israeli Air These men are truly forgotten heroes as most of their tian flagship, the Emir Force and the island acts of heroism are kept under wraps. Farouk. After a couple was evacuated by the of mishaps, the boats enemy. slammed into the ship Following the Mu- Avi Heiligman is a weekly contributor to The Jewish Members of Shayetet 13 in training and sank it along with nich Massacre at the Home. He welcomes your comments and suggestions for 500 Egyptian sailors. It was a mission that boosted 1972 Olympics, Shayetet 13 commandos were given future columns and can be reached at aviheiligman@ the morale of the Israeli people, although they had missions to take out key planners from the attack in gmail.com.

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Ingredients 1 package instant vanilla pudding 4 cups fresh berries (strawberries, blueberries) washed, hulled, plus extra for garnish ¼ cup plus 2 tablespoons sugar 2 teaspoons fresh lemon juice 1 cup whipping cream 1 teaspoon vanilla extract 24 to 36 ladyfingers Preparation Prepare the pudding according to the package directions and chill in refrigerator until ready to use. Slice the strawberries. Toss all of the berries with the lemon juice and the ¼ cup of sugar. Set aside for 30 minutes to allow the berries to release their juices. In a medium mixing bowl, whip the cream, vanilla extract, and remaining 2 tablespoons of sugar until soft peaks form. Set aside. To make the trifle, set a layer of ladyfingers (around 7 or 8) on the bottom of trifle bowl. Top with 1/3 of the cream and ½ of the strawberries. Then make another layer of ladyfingers, top with 1/3 of the cream and then with ½ the blueberries. Place another layer of ladyfingers on top, top with cream and decorate with strawberries and blueberries. Refrigerate until ready to serve. Serves 8 to 10.

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Patriotic Creme Puffs

Berries ‘n Cream Ingredients 12 strawberries, washed 1 bar white chocolate Blue sugar sprinkles Preparation Wash and clean the strawberries. Dry them well. Melt the chocolate over a double boiler or in the microwave, being careful that it doesn’t burn. Prepare a baking pan with parchment paper and place sprinkles in a small bowl. Dip strawberries into melted chocolate and then into sprinkles. Place on parchment paper and freeze for a few minutes or leave out until they dry. Refrigerate until serving.

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Preparation Preheat oven to 400°F. Unfold pastry sheet and cut into 3-inch squares with a sharp knife. Bake pastry on an ungreased baking sheet until golden brown, 15 to 20 minutes. Transfer to rack to cool. Once cooled, cut pastry in half horizontally into two layers. Whip Rich’s whip until it reaches the consistency of cream. Add 1 tsp of vanilla, if desired. Just before serving, assemble the dessert. Put bottom half of pastry on plate and top with cream. Dot cream with strawberries or raspberries and blueberries. Cover with top half of pastry and top with cream and berries. Dust with confectioners’ sugar.

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Restaurant Review

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never imagined that tucked away in Rego Park, Queens, I would find an awesome, hip, kosher restaurant that would quickly become one of my new favorite kosher spots. Marani, a glatt kosher Georgian restaurant, is home to some of the most unusually refreshing and ethnically exotic cuisine I have ever had and is a real unique adventure for the palate. Extremely fresh and markedly different than any other kosher cuisine you’ll find offered anywhere in the U.S., the fare at Marani was some of the best food I have enjoyed while dining out in a long time. Ana Empremashvili, a native of Georgia (the country – not the state), came up with the concept of opening a kosher-certified restaurant that serves the authentic delicacies of her home county as a way to exhibit the cool side of kosher. The atmosphere is relaxed and cool; a TV over the bar has sports channels keeping enthusiasts current with the games— all with the purpose of proving that kosher can be contemporary and inviting. Wood paneled walls are adorned with old Georgian pictures and woven lanterns drape from the ceiling to create an ambient, calm atmosphere; jazz and R&B soothe your senses and invite you to enjoy the most unique, exceptional ethnic cuisine. My meal at Marani began with authentic shotis puri, Georgian bread that is pulled in the shape of a canoe and baked in a tandoori oven. I like to think of shotis puri as “comfort bread,” as it packed an extremely warm, earth-toned flavor that was accented by the crispiness of the crust. For starters, I sampled the eggplant with walnuts, chicken salad, and baby beets with walnuts – all which created an amazing gastronomical sensation from the blending of imported Georgian spices together with the creamy, smooth texture of the salads. I followed these starters with the khinkali, Georgian-style steamed dumplings filled with lamb and beef, and the grilled chicken thigh kebob. They were all delicious dishes, I only wished I could order all the other intriguing options on the menu. I was extremely impressed with the highly attentive and knowledgeable wait staff, who were patiently willing to explain all the menu items to me in greater detail. Before I enjoyed my amazing meal in the meat restaurant, I took a few minutes to visit their dairy kitchen located on the basement level. The dairy kitchen solely prepares traditional Georgian cheese breads known as khachapuri – which is available in 6 different varieties, though all made from the same basic ingredients of mixed mozzarella and sulguni cheeses stuffed into a buttery, flakey dough. Talk about awesome. It seemed like the only “downside” of dining at Marani was having to smell the wonderful, aromatic khachapuri baking as I sat upstairs eating my meat meal. I guess that I have learned my lesson, though: that when I return I shall pace myself enough to enjoy the buttery Georgian cheese breads before commencing with another memorable fleishig meal at Marani. Marani is under the kosher supervision of the Vaad Harabonim of Queens and is located at 97-26 63rd Road, Rego Park, NY 11374. Tel: 718-569-0600 Alex Idov, the Kosherologist, is a food blogger who runs the blog “Kosherology” and is a contributing food columnist for numerous Jewish publications across the U.S. He is currently attending Kennesaw State University near Atlanta, Georgia, for his bachelor’s degree in Culinary Sustainability and Hospitality. Visit his website at www.thekosherologist.com.

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BRAISED SHORT RIBS

WITH TRUFFLE GRITS AND SUGAR SNAP PEAS IN PORT WINE REDUCTION By Mr. Broadway (NYC)

INGREDIENTS

DIRECTIONS

Beef short rib on the bone Lemongrass Fresh ginger Carrots Red onions Red wine, semi dry Port wine Shallots Thyme Veal stock Brown sugar 2 cups of grits 1 qt of Coffee Rich Truffle oil Sugar snap peas Salt and pepper for seasoning

Trim all nerves and excess fat from the short ribs. Sear the short ribs on medium heat until brown. Sauté the carrots, onions, fresh ginger and lemongrass until golden. Move the vegetables to the bottom of a stock pot, place the short ribs on top and pour in the red wine and veal stock until the short ribs are covered. Marinate overnight in the fridge. Take out of the fridge and place in oven at 250° for 4-5 hours until short ribs are tender. For grits, bring Coffee Rich to boil and add the grits and keep stirring until the texture is smooth and soft. Add truffle oil at the last minute and reduce heat. To create the port wine reduction, use one bottle of port wine in a stock pot on medium heat. Add the shallots and the thyme, and reduce to one third. Sauté the snow peas in a separate pan. To serve, spoon the grits on the bottom of the plate and place the short ribs on top. Add the sautéed sugar snap peas and pour the port wine reduction on top, making sure of even distribution throughout the plate. Garnish with rosemary.

This recipe was reprinted from the 2015 Edition of Great Kosher Restaurants Magazine. Elan Kornblum, a.k.a. “The Restaurant Guy,” is the publisher of Great Kosher Restaurants International Magazine and its accompanying website www.gkrm.net. The 2015 edition, available on www.GreatKosherDeals.com, has 256 glossy pages and provides a visual description with menus to over 200 top kosher restaurants alongside 400 stunning high resolution color photos. Kornblum’s top ranked website, award-winning newsletter, comprehensive app and hugely popular Facebook Foodies page makes sure everyone is up to date on the latest restaurant news. Email info@gkrm.net for any questions or comments.

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Emotional Bank Account

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the more the need for constant deposits. With continuous expectations, old deposits evaporate. Although high school friends who have not seen each other in twenty years can pick up where they left

Rabbi Staum Responds: Firstly I should say kudos to you for trying to be prepared. We always deal with things better when we are proactive than when we are reactive. Perhaps the most important component of raising teens – and all children for that matter – is doing our utmost to maintain a positive relationship. It’s helpful to use the model of the “emotional bank account.” We know how a financial bank account works. We make deposits and build up a reserve from which we can make withdrawals. An “emotional bank account” works much the same way. Whenever we have any sort of positive interaction with another we are “depositing” into the emotional bank account we hold with that individual. With each deposit, the level of trust goes up and the quality of that relationship improves. What is accumulating is called “trust.” The reason this is so important is because when you have to make withdrawals, which is inevitable, if there is enough emotional reserve in the acccount there will be enough capital to compensate. The higher the level of trust in the account, the easier and more effective communication is. However, like all “accounts,” it is only as deep as its reserves. If there are too many withdrawals without enough deposits the account will become depleted. Once there is a low balance or the account becomes depleted, even seemingly innocuous comments and innocent mistakes can result in flare-ups. Unfortunately, it is all too common that families, marriages, and other relationships devolve into such distrustful and unhealthy patterns. The tension becomes immediately palpable and all involved suffer. The more constant a relationship,

off, this is because the old deposits are “preserved,” which is not the case where there has been ongoing interaction. There, ongoing investment is required. We must remember that each critical comment and demand constitutes a withdrawal. The question is if there will be sufficient deposits to cover those withdrawals. This is not to say that a parent can ever sit back and allow a child unbridled reins to do as he/she pleases. But in order to be effective as parents there has to be positive interactions that build the relationship. That includes times when you can laugh together with your child or enjoy each other’s company without rebuke or discussion about topics that you disagree upon. Spending quality time together doing something that the child enjoys, even if the parent doesn’t necessarily enjoy those things, is very powerful. I know of a rebbe who had no interest in sports but learned a little about it so that he could relate to his son. Building “trust” does not entail major “out of the ordinary” interactions. Every time you show appreciation and value for something your child did or said and every time you communicate your love, it counts as a deposit. A simple, genuine smile can powerfully demonstrate “I’m happy you’re here.” These may be small deposits but small and steady deposits add up. Maintaining the emotional bank account also entails that parents pick their battles. We cannot control our children and we cannot micromanage their lives,

especially as they grow older. We need to decide about which things we will be firm and uncompromising, such as our values, and which things we will look the other way, even though it annoys us.

With each deposit, the level of trust goes up and the quality of that relationship improves. Pick your battles carefully. If you decided not to make something a battle, don’t make faces or nasty grumblings either – accept it and smile. In regards to the things we decide to be firm about we are most effective when we can convey our feelings and decisions succinctly, without resorting to threats, warnings, and lectures. When we go into one of those modes our children tune us out. In addition, the more anger or emotion we employ when issuing a lecture or threat, the greater the withdrawal drains our emotional bank account. We have to remember the special qualities about our children and what makes them unique, especially when they are being obnoxious or difficult. In difficult situations it’s always helpful to

ask wise friends and mentors for advice and not always react on the spot. Finally, but most importantly, we need to remember to always daven for our children. Rav Shimshon Pinkus zt”l noted that in a desperate situation people say “just daven,” as if that is something to be done when there is no other hope. That is a terrible mistake. Even when things seem wonderful we must never stop davening. The Steipler Gaon zt”l once said that he still davened every day for his son. At that time Reb Chaim Kanievsky shlita was already recognized as a gadol. There is nothing more important that a parent can do for their child, no matter how old the child is. Hatzlacha and only nachas! Summary Power Points • Invest in and monitor the relationship • Choose your battles wisely • Focus on your child’s uniqueness • Daven, daven, daven! Rabbi Dani Staum, LMSW, is the Rabbi of Kehillat New Hempstead. He is also the fifth grade rebbe and guidance counselor in ASHAR in Monsey, Principal of Mesivta Ohr Naftoli of New Windsor, NY, and a division head at Camp Dora Golding. Rabbi Staum offers parenting classes based on the acclaimed Love & Logic Program. He can be reached at stamtorah@gmail.com. His website is www. stamtorah.info.

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David Elazar Simai, MD

All You Wanted to Know About Ticks and Lyme Disease Part I

he summer has just begun and many parents have already called me to report suspicious rashes that their kids have developed and the possibility that they are infected with “Lyme disease.” Lyme disease is one of the fastest growing infectious diseases in the U.S. The State of New York, being in the Northeastern U.S., is an endemic area for Lyme disease. The reason this disease is so important is because, if left undetected, it can spread to two major organs—namely the heart and the brain where it could leave irreversible damage. Let’s go over the basic facts about this important disease. First, this dis-

ease has a very interesting cycle in nature. The most common bacteria that is the main culprit of the disease type in the U.S. is called Borrelia burgdorferi. These bacteria are commonly found in dead rodents and subsequently carried over via deer ticks to infect humans. It turns out that these ticks multiply best on the skin of certain types of deer (hence their given name: “deer ticks.”) How can you or your child contract Lyme disease? Deer ticks can be found on any open field, especially in tall grassy areas. Camping, hiking or even simply laying down on the grass for a few minutes can expose us to these dangerous ticks.

Locating the Tick After enjoying your outdoor activities, thoroughly check yourself and your kids for any ticks. Deer ticks are usually very small, about the size of a sesame seed! Please check carefully in areas where the skin is exposed: the scalp (especially behind the ears), neck, hands and feet. Here is the good news for my dear readers: 1. Large ticks are usually dog ticks that do not contain the harmful bacteria. 2. It takes about 36-48 hours for the deer tick to transfer their bacteria to humans. Therefore, if you find small, sesame sized ticks on your child right after a trip, your child may not have been infected yet. 3. Midsize Ticks. These can be ticks that rested on your child a little too long. (They grow larger because they actually feed on our blood and grow.) I would suggest saving these ticks after removal and showing them to your physician. Removing the Tick This step is very important. I have had many parents bring me “parts and pieces” of ticks or accidently leave a piece of the tick’s mouth or head stuck in their child’s skin. Try to remove the tick by following this example: the recommended • Generally, method is simply to pull the tick out with fine tweezers as close to the skin as possible. Avoid crushing the body of the tick or removing the head from the body. • Avoid twisting or jerking the tick. This can cause the head of the tick to separate from the body, leaving the head stuck in the skin. • If you must use your fingers for this operation, cover them with a clean tissue during this procedure and wash them after the tick has been removed. • Wash the bite with antibacterial

soap and place the tick in a sealed plastic container marked with the date, in case the tick is later needed for confirmation of the illness. • Resist using other methods to free the tick from the body (i.e. applying a soapy cotton ball, petroleum jelly, nail polish or a hot match on the tick). These methods may actually stimulate the tick to quickly inject the harmful bacteria into the body. Stay tuned for the Signs, Symptoms and available Treatment Options of Lyme Disease in my next article. Wishing you a safe and healthy summer, David Elazar Simai, M.D.

Dr. David Simai is a Board Certified Pediatrician from the Five Towns. He is a full time attending in his own private practice since 2007 in Cedarhurst, New York. In addition, he is an Attending Physician at LIJ-Cohen Children’s Hospital, North-Shore Manhasset University Hospital and South Nassau Communities Hospital. He can be contacted for consultation at 516 374-2228 or via email at davidsimai@yahoo.com. NOTE: name, gender, geographical area and other identifying information were deliberately altered in this article in order to protect the patient’s privacy. This article is not intended to help diagnose or treat any specific disease. Always consult your personal physician before diagnosing or treating yourself or your child for any of the above mentioned illnesses.

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rebound effect. This research goes on to show that people who engage in thought suppression a lot are more depressed or have higher obsessive and compulsive symptoms. In other research, people were giv-

ering her and say, “Well, I just lost my job; I have a right to feel blue.” Or she could say that she is “depressed.” Suddenly she has a “reason” to not engage at all. And what’s more, when she tells people, “No, I’m too depressed to go out,” they may under-

Sometimes it’s called growing pains, but it is all good.

en a physical pain sensation and asked to not think about it. Later, they rated the pain as greater than subjects who focused on it. In fact, I will share a trade secret: When people come for hypnosis to overcome physical pain, one way of reducing it, paradoxically, is to focus on it, asking the individual what color it feels like, and so forth. For some reason, this actually works. Another way of looking at all this is that if G-d gave us pain, then it must be that we can tolerate it. Proponents of ACT, Acceptance and Commitment Therapy, have another, fascinating way of looking at pain. They say, not only is pain not so bad and certainly not to be avoided, but by labeling our pain, we can make it worse. Put differently, they say that when we give our pain a name, we start to act as if that named thing were a real threat. They give the example of depression. If a person is blue and doesn’t feel the energy to deal with life on a particular day, she may have a number of alternatives: She can force herself to engage, and in the act of doing something constructive, she will start to feel better. She could go to the gym and get those endorphins working to improve her mood. She could look at what’s both-

stand. They may be sympathetic. So, according to ACT, the label itself becomes the problem because it now seems reasonable to that person to not venture out after all. From maybe not wanting to go out, the label itself convinces the person that she has good reason not to go out. From an ACT perspective, believing in our labels and thinking of them as causes is the problem. It makes the initial problem worse than it was and it takes away the possibility of searching for better ways of handling the initial problem. The first step in ACT is accepting what you feel and recognizing that all feelings have their place. This point was beautifully depicted in a new children’s animation movie, Inside Out. I recommend it. The movie follows two parallel sets of characters: a little girl and her family, and all her feelings as characters working in “headquarters,” which is her brain. Initially, there is a bit of tug of war between the feelings Joy and Sadness; Joy feeling that it is her job to take the controls all of the time and not wanting Sadness to get an opportunity to touch old memories so as to tarnish them. However, a lovely point in the movie comes when Joy realizes there

is a place for Sadness. In looking at a memory, Joy sees that the support of the main character’s family and friends came about because the character was sad. And in fact, the movie turns on the moment when Joy pushes Sadness to take the controls. My grandchild wanted an explanation of this after the movie and I said to him: “It says in Koheles that there is a proper time for all feelings. There is a time for joy and a different time for sadness. That is why when we pay a shiva call, we do not make jokes. It is the time to feel the sadness of the loss of a loved one along with the person we are visiting. And that is okay.” Not only is it a chessed to feel this empathy while sitting with a bereaved person, but there is something good in feeling that pain. I was speaking to a client the other day and said, “Haven’t you heard people say that they had a good cry? What’s good about it?” She got it immediately. Sometimes, it cleans out a lot of interior dust by coming into contact with one’s deepest Self. It feels good. But perhaps the biggest gain from pain is that it clearly teaches you what you can do differently going forward. You feel the pain of your mistake and you resolve not to repeat it. That is called growth. Sometimes it’s called growing pains, but it is all good. On the subject of feelings, on my next Food For Thought talk, this Tuesday, July 7, I will be talking about Love. The topic is How Love Blooms. A sneak peek at the answer is that it begins with receiving G-d’s love for us. Hope to see you at Traditions, 12:30. Dr. Deb Hirschhorn, is a Marriage & Family Therapist and best-selling author of The Healing Is Mutual: Marriage Empowerment Tools to Rebuild Trust and Respect—Together. Attend the Food For Thought lectures at Traditions Restaurant in Lawrence on Tuesdays at 12:30 PM. (There is a lovely optional lunch menu for $12 cash.) Any questions, call 646-54-DRDEB or check out her website at http://drdeb.com. All stories in Dr. Deb’s articles are fabricated. See Dr. Deb on TorahAnytime.com.

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know what you’re thinking: There isn’t anything good about pain. Pain hurts. In fact, you are ready to tell me that just because everything that G-d created is tov does not make most of us happy to be in pain. If truth be told, we don’t understand this concept that everything – even bad – is good at all. So let me talk to you briefly about cutting. Boruch Hashem it is not frequently found in the Orthodox community – but it does exist. One percent of the U.S. population, which is around two or three million people, injure themselves. This statistic includes eating disorders. The British Medical Journal in a 2002 publication said that 13% of 15-16 year olds in that country cut themselves. Now, if you jump to the conclusion that teens who cut hate themselves, that would not be quite accurate. Actually, they will state, when interviewed, that they can’t normally feel feelings – including hate – for anyone, including themselves. That is why they cut: to remind themselves that they are alive. To feel. How did they get that way? There is a part of the brain in the limbic system, the hippocampus, that has been shown to shrink inordinately in children who were emotionally or physically abused when young. It is as if this part of the brain has gone on overload and simply gives up. Our natural state, when being treated in a healthy way, is to feel, and those who cannot feel find the numbness of spirit intolerable. So what is it about feeling – even pain – that is good? Let’s start with an easier question: Is the pain really that bad? Is it so bad that it pays to avoid it? Or, perhaps, is it possible that when it is squarely faced, the pain is not such a big deal after all? Research shows that people who attempt to avoid thinking painful thoughts or recalling painful memories make the pain worse. For example, if people suppress a thought and then find themselves in either the same context as when the suppression occurred or they are in the same mood as when it occurred, there is likelihood of the thought coming back in a more powerful way than when it was first suppressed! This is called the

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henever we are interacting, we are giving off different nonverbal clues as to what we are thinking and feeling. We may be expressing that we are pleased, concerned, happy, confused, and we do all this without thinking about it and without saying a word. At some of our most historic and life-changing events, no words were said at all, only expressions. We look for these clues. Sometimes, a person can say something but it can seem like something is not right. It is clear what the person is saying but it seems that something else is going on. Usually, this is felt when someone’s words don’t match their facial expressions or gestures. Someone says that they are not angry, but their fiery eyes, clenched teeth, and tense body says otherwise. The nonverbal expression is so important. Words only tell half the story. The other half lies within our nonverbal communication. “What are your weaknesses?” This dreaded interview question requires a perfectly crafted answer. Interviewing for a job can be one of the most stressful experiences one can have. How do I present myself in a way that will make you believe in me? We anticipate all the possible questions and how we will respond, carefully picking each word to say, “I’m great for this job” without coming across as arrogant. The truth is, there is plenty “said” even though no words are being spoken. A study in 2009 examined nonverbal signals during the interview process and how they are used to make meaningful conclusions in job interviews. Cues were noted such as eye contact, body orientation, gesturing, hand motions, and smiling. The goal was to notice whether the subtle movements of an interviewee has an impact on the decision of an interviewer to hire someone. This candidate could have a great resume and say all the right things but if he’s slumped back in his chair during the interview, he would be considered to be lazy or to have a weak work ethic. The study concluded that no matter how structured an interviewer is, nonverbal cues, even simple movements such as hand gestures, cause interviewers to make conclusions and assumptions about candidates. The negative nonverbal message discounted all the other attributes of the interviewee. There’s great

power in nonverbal communication because there is so much more to human interaction than words. Victory in sports is often associated with raising one’s hands in the air with the head raised up. Conversely, loss is associated with shoulders slumped and a head hanging down. These are classic expressions of emotion through body language. But would it be the same if someone was born blind? He would never have been taught how one should express themselves nonverbally. A group in 2007 looked to answer this question by

she isn’t “fine.” According to Briggs, the child will take the nonverbal message more seriously. “At first, every child learns to rely on nonverbal cues. When these cues conflict with verbal messages, he naturally gives the nonverbal cues priority. He counts on them; yet, he still has to deal with the words” (Briggs 1970). Children tend to express themselves through their bodies rather than using their words. In fact, babies first communicate with faces and gestures long before they speak any words. They are constantly looking for clues as to what might be

studying the responses of both sighted and blind athletes in winning and losing situations. The findings are fascinating. When blind athletes were successful in a big moment, their reactions were almost identical to one of sighted athletes. It appears from this study that nonverbal expression of emotion is not a learned behavior, therefore it would be present in all people. Body language is a universal form of communication. Many can recall doing something wrong as a child and getting “the look.” Those who know “the look” know that it means you’d better stop doing what you’re doing. It can be seen on their face—that they are paralyzed by fear of “the look.” Although no words have been said it can make someone stop dead in their tracks. In Your Child’s Self-Esteem by Dorothy Briggs, the author warns of the confusion of conflicting verbal and nonverbal messages while parenting. She illustrates a son who comes home from school and notices his mother is clearly upset. When he inquires, she tells him, “I’m fine.” Now he’s confused, since he knows based on her presentation that

going on. I was once making a list of feelings with a 9-year-old client. I started the list by writing “happy.” “Now you add one Thomas,” I said. He thought for a moment and said, “Hungry!” He had yet to understand that emotions and physical sensations are different things. Even as adults we can rely more on signals than words. On the flip side, when words are consistent with body language, the message is received on a much higher level. Consistent words and body language create synergy making the message heard, felt and understood. Words of praise along with healthy eye contact and smiling will have a major impact on someone, especially children. Paying attention to nonverbal cues is not about questioning the authenticity of words. Rather, it’s about understanding the whole person. In valuable relationships, what each person is feeling matters tremendously. If you pick up on a physical cue, it can be viewed as a meaningful expression of emotion. For example, when a teenager comes home from school and the mother asks about school, the teen’s body language may show that he doesn’t want to talk about

it. He has his head down, doesn’t making eye contact, and his shoulders are slumped. The parent can clearly see that the day did not go very well and the child definitely does not want to talk about it. He displayed nonverbally that he had a hard day and that he needs some space. Simply stating, “It seems like you had a hard day” (without demanding details) in a caring tone can leave the door open for when he does want to talk. Many see poor body language, especially in teenagers, as an expression of defiance or that the teen needs to be pried open. Ultimately, prying just makes things worse. Letting the child know that you see his struggle and that you care can be enough for him at that moment. Showing sensitivity to his feelings and an acknowledgement of his needs will go much farther than a forced conversation. In all relationships, we are constantly giving and receiving messages without saying anything. Communication is delicate, especially when dealing with the people closest to us. Understanding the impact of our nonverbal messages can help us utilize them properly and communicate on a deeper level. Improving communication is one of the topics that will be discussed in the upcoming Madraigos Parenting Workshop led by Chanie Delman, LCSW, Madraigos Clinical Director. Madraigos’ free workshop for the community is an opportunity to learn how to better understand and relate to family members. Communication is an art and every situation warrants a different touch. Getting in tune with your messages and others can greatly enhance it. For more information about Madraigos’ programs and services, please call (516)371-3250 or visit www. madraigos.org. Yehudah Alcabes, LMSW, CASAC-T CSAT Candidate, is the Director of Adolescent Programming at Madraigos. Madraigos, a 501c3 not-for-profit organization, offers a wide array of innovative services and programs geared towards helping teens and young adults overcome life’s everyday challenges one step at a time. Our goal is to provide all of our members with the necessary tools and skills to empower them to live a healthy lifestyle and become the leaders of tomorrow.

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SEMINARY SAVVY Every Girl’s Guide to a Successful Experience in Seminary and Beyond BY DEBBIE FOX, LCSW WITH MICHAL EISKOWITZ

hat a wonderful and essential book! For more than a decade, it has been become accepted practice for nearly all of our high school graduates to spend time learning in a seminary in Eretz Yisroel. But the vital information that these young women needed in order to spend this exciting year away was not readily available for them. Thanks to this important book, a tremendous amount of pain can now be prevented. The wide range of wisdom packed into this easy-toread book is amazing. Young women can learn about homesickness and be proactive – based on the great suggestions offered in the book – so that it is likely not to hit as hard. The open discussion about getting enough sleep and not just following the crowd is tremendously refreshing. And not only does the book contain a very clear chapter about common eating dis-

orders, it also provides really practical info about how to eat in a healthy way and not gain too much weight while at sem. Readers will acquire crucial tips about how to keep safe in case of a wide range of emergencies that they may never have considered, how to show respect for others’ privacy, and how to reinforce one’s own boundaries and speak assertively when necessary. In addition, great guidelines are presented to help our young women avoid uncomfortable situations with men. The exercises given enable students to try out the very worthwhile tools they may need when faced with confusing choices. Seminary Savvy significantly helps strengthen our young women by directing them to develop an increased awareness of the unique inner voices they can listen to when difficult situations arise. And these situations inevitably do arise. This book prepares those approaching seminary in advance so that when challenging circumstances come, they will have already have had the opportunity to think through similar dilemmas.

The extremely engaging “make it real” scenarios presented at the end of several chapters in the book allow readers to work through the struggles involved beforehand so that on-the-spot decisions will be a whole lot easier to make. If this book did nothing but empower our young women to respect their inner voices, that alone would be a major achievement. But it does so much more. The funny cartoons, the sharing of actual feedback from post-seminary students, and the brilliant on-the-mark insights that unfold within its pages, all contribute to making Seminary Savvy an invaluable guide. Hopefully each student heading to seminary will keep her own copy with her so that she can easily refer to it again and again. It will be one of the most essential things to pack because it has the potential to guide her not only through seminary, but also in the years beyond. Seminary Savvy: Every Girl’s Guide to a Successful Experience in Seminary and Beyond by Debbie Fox, LCSW with Michal Eiskowitz is published by Menucha Publishers. 

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“Say What?” With Greece on the brink of defaulting on its bailouts, it’s rumored that it may consider asking Vladimir Putin for a loan. Even the Devil said, “Don’t do it! Don’t mess with that guy.” - Jimmy Fallon

Louisiana Governor Bobby Jindal is running for president. This is historic. He’s a 44-year-old IndianAmerican whose real first name is Piyush. After hearing about it, President Obama said, “A young, non-white guy with a crazy name? Good luck with that.” – Conan O’Brien

The Affordable Care act is here to stay. - President Obama’s declaration after the Supreme Court upheld a key provision of Obamacare We should start calling this law SCOTUScare. - From United States Supreme Court Justice Antonin Scalia’s dissent to the majority’s ruling, which upheld Obamacare last week

Louisiana Governor Bobby Jindal announced that he’s running for president, which makes him the 13th Republican to enter the race so far. Yeah, 13 Republican candidates — or as that’s also called, “A Banker’s Dozen.” – Jimmy Fallon

Amazon announced it’s discontinuing products with the Confederate flag. They won’t sell it. So now Amazon no longer has to use the phrase, “You may also like slavery.” – Conan O’Brien

My mother. - Donald Trump, when asked which woman should go on the $10 bill

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Congrats to 21-year-old Jordan Spieth, who won golf’s U.S. Open yesterday. You can tell he’s young because he’s never heard of any of the products they advertise during golf tournaments. - Jimmy Fallon

My life was wasted and spent foolishly, brought shame and suffering on my parents and siblings and will end soon… Advice is a cheap commodity. Some seek it from me about crime. I know only one thing for sure — if you want to make crime pay, go to law school. - Former Boston crime boss James “Whitey” Bulger responding to three high school girls who wrote to him for a history project

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Our local store made a mistake. – A Walmart spokesman apologizing after one its stores refused to make a cake with the Confederate flag on it for a customer but they readily made him one with an ISIS flag (which he used to point out their hypocrisy)

Welcome to Israel! It appears you’ve made a mistake along the way. Perhaps you meant to sail somewhere not far from here — Syria. There, Assad’s regime is massacring his own people every day with the help of the murderous Iranian regime. In contrast, here in Israel, we are dealing with a situation where terrorist organizations such as Hamas are trying to harm innocent civilians. In the face of these attempts, we are protecting the citizens of Israel in accordance with international law. – Letters handed out when the Israeli Navy intercepted a Gazabound flotilla on Sunday evening

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Good Humor is bringing back its ice cream trucks this summer after almost 40 years. So I guess that makes two things Chris Christie will be running for this summer. – Jimmy Fallon

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Can you just hear it now? I can hear it now: The United States flag has flown over slavery and symbolized racism, discrimination, bigotry…for hundreds of years; the Confederate flag flew only four years, and we’re getting rid of the Confederate flag. Mark my words. - Rush Limbaugh on June 23, warning that the American flag will come under attack much like the Confederate flag is We need to put the American flag down because we caught as much [heck] under that as the Confederate flag. - Nation of Islam leader Louis Farrakhan preaching in Washington, D.C.’s Metropolitan AME Church on June 24

Chevrolet put out a press release about its newest car written only in emojis. Ford did the same. Unfortunately the emojis were a lemon and a tow truck. – Conan O’Brien

Now that President Obama has 19 months left, media outlets are speculating about what his legacy will be. Some think it could be healthcare or the trade deal. “Yeah, what could it be?” said the first black president, Barack Obama. – Jimmy Fallon

They used to boo me because I’m the one standing up for equal rights for women and free speech and respect for minorities, free and fair elections. It’s not my fault that these are qualities that are more lacking in the Muslim world than any other culture. But liberals saw this for years as an attack on a minority. But the irony is that they were so tolerant, they were tolerating intolerance. - HBO’s Bill Maher talking to Jerry Seinfeld about the great irony of the politically correct left On Saturday, The Washington Nationals’ Max Scherzer pitched a no-hitter against the Pittsburgh Pirates. He said it was his Father’s Day gift to his dad. Then his brother said, “Uh, can you put my name on that too? I got him a mug.” – Jimmy Fallon

I have great respect for [the Shabbat traditions], and I see Ivanka during Saturday, and from Friday evening on through Saturday night, she won’t take phone calls and they live a very interesting life. And it’s actually a beautiful thing to watch, with Jared and Ivanka. In a very hectic life, it really becomes a very peaceful time. So there’s something very nice about it. - Donald Trump in an interview with JNS.org When people remember you, they will remember only the evil you have done. No one will remember that your teachers were fond of you, that you were funny, a good athlete. What will be remembered is that you murdered and maimed innocent people. - Judge George O’Toole addressing Boston bomber, Dzhokhar Tsarnaev, before sentencing him to death by lethal injection There was nothing about this crime that was Islam associated. - U.S. Attorney Carmen M. Ortiz at a press conference after Tsarnaev’s sentencing

He makes it almost impossible for him to achieve success. - An unnamed senior Cuomo official talking to the New York Daily News about Mayor de Blasio’s inability to work with Albany I started a year and a half ago with a hope of a very strong partnership. I have been disappointed at every turn. – New York Mayor de Blasio discussing his relationship with Gov. Cuomo at a press conference What I found was he engaged in his own sense of strategies, his own political machinations and what we’ve often seen is if someone disagrees with him openly, some kind of revenge or vendetta follows. … And I want to hasten to say there was some interesting backand-forth last week and some unnamed sources well-placed in the Cuomo administration had a few things to say. I’m here in front of you on record saying what I believe. – Ibid.

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Hey. Listen. You’re in my house… You know what? It’s not respectful when you get invited to somebody. You’re not going to get a good response from me by interrupting me like this. I’m sorry. I’m sorry … Shame on you, you shouldn’t be doing this… As a general rule I am just fine with a few hecklers. But not when I’m up here in the house. - President Obama when interrupted by a heckler during a White House event

First, brava! This is a historic moment and you will be credited for realizing it. When Qaddafi himself is finally removed, you should of course make a public statement before the cameras wherever you are, even in the driveway of your vacation house. You must go on camera. You must establish yourself in the historical record at this moment. The most important phrase is “successful strategy.” - A recently disclosed email sent to Hillary Clinton on August 22, 2011 by her friend/advisor, Sidney Blumenthal

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In an interview yesterday, Donald Trump called Jeb Bush a reluctant warrior and said he thinks Jeb is an unhappy person. Which is interesting coming from a guy who always looks like he just ate a lemon. - Jimmy Fallon

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Political Crossfire

Charles Krauthammer

On Lowering the Flag

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a massacre like the one at Emanuel AME Church in Charleston, our immediate reaction is to do something. Something, for politicians, means legislation. And for Democratic politicians, this means gun control. It’s the all-purpose, go-to, kneejerk solution. Within hours of the massacre, President Obama was lamenting the absence of progress on gun control. A particular Democratic (and media) lament was Congress’ failure to pass anything after Sandy Hook. But the unfortunate fact is that the post-Sandy Hook legislation would have had zero effect on the events in Charleston. Its main provisions had to do with assault weapons; Dylann Roof was using a semiautomatic pistol. You can pass any gun law you want. The 1994 assault weapons ban was allowed to expire after 10 years because, as a Justice Department study showed, it had no effect. There’s only one gun law that would make a difference: confiscation. Everything else is for show. And in this country, confiscation is impossible. Constitutionally, because of the Second Amendment. Politically, because doing so would cause something of an insurrection. And culturally, because Americans cherish – cling to, as Obama once said it – their guns as a symbol of freedom. You can largely ban guns in Canada where the founding document gives the purpose

of confederation as the achievement of “peace, order and good government.” Harder to disarm a nation whose founding purpose is “life, liberty and the pursuit of happiness.”

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gun control going nowhere, the psychic national need post-Charleston to nonetheless do something took a re-

Politically, the murders created a unique moment. Gov. Nikki Haley was surely sincere in calling for the Confederate flag’s removal. But she also understood that the massacre had created a moment when the usual pro-Confederate flag feeling – and, surely, expressions of it – would be largely suppressed, presenting the opportunity to achieve something other-

But does anyone imagine that if the South Carolina flag had been relegated to a museum, the massacre would not have occurred? markable direction: banishment of the Confederate flag, starting with the one flying on the grounds of the statehouse in Columbia, then spreading like wildfire to consume Confederate flags, symbols, statues and even memorabilia everywhere – from the Alabama state capitol to eBay and Amazon. Logically, the connection is tenuous. Yes, Roof does pose with the Confederate flag, among other symbols of racism, on his website. But does anyone imagine that if the South Carolina flag had been relegated to a museum, the massacre would not have occurred?

wise politically unachievable. But there’s a deeper reason for this rush to banish Confederate symbols, to move them from the public square

to the museum. The trigger was not just the massacre itself, but even more tellingly, the breathtaking display of nobility and spiritual generosity by the victims’ relatives. Within 48 hours of the murder of their loved ones, they spoke of redemption and reconciliation and even forgiveness of the killer himself. It was an astonishingly moving expression of charity. Such grace demands a response. In a fascinating dynamic, it created a feeling of moral obligation to reciprocate in some way. The flag was not material to the crime itself, but its connection to the underlying race history behind the crime suggested that its re-

moval from the statehouse grounds – whatever the endlessly debated merits of the case – could serve as a reciprocal gesture of reconciliation. The result was a microcosm of – and a historical lesson in – the moral force of the original civil rights movement, whose genius was to understand the effect that combating evil with good, violence with grace would have on a fundamentally decent American nation. America was indeed moved. The result was the civil rights acts. The issue today is no longer legal equality. It is more a matter of sorting through historical memory. The Confederate flags would ultimately have come down. That is a good thing. They are now coming down in a rush. The haste may turn out to be problematic. We will probably overshoot, as we are wont to do, in the stampede to eliminate every relic of the Confederacy. Not every statue has to be smashed, not every memory banished. Perhaps we can learn a lesson from Arlington National Cemetery, founded by the victorious Union to bury its dead. There you will find Section 16. It contains the remains of hundreds of Confederate soldiers grouped around a modest, moving monument to their devotion to “duty as they understood it” – a gesture by the Union of soldierly respect, without any concession regarding the taintedness of their cause. Or shall we uproot them as well?  (c) 2015, The Washington Post Writers Group

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here’s a glossy tabloid magazines you see in the checkout line at your local supermarket. Every week, they run a photo feature called “Stars: They’re Just Like Us,” with revealing, slice-of-life gems such as a celebrity throwing a ball to her dog in the park or an actor cheering at his kid’s soccer game. (We’re explaining this because we know you would never read anything so frivolous.) Here’s another way that stars are just like us . . . they deal with the tax man! (Except when they don’t, as the case sometimes may be.) Taxes are just a much a bane of their existence as they are of yours. So let’s take a look at some celebrity tax stories making the rounds: • Melissa Gilbert, who starred as Laura Ingalls in the family drama Little House on the Prairie, is facing a $360,000 lien for unpaid federal income taxes. While we can’t be privy to the exact circumstances, the actress, who has since served as President of the Screen Actors Guild, reports that the recession had hit her hard. “That, plus a divorce and a dearth of acting opportunities the last few years, created a perfect storm of financial difficulty for me.” Gilbert, her husband, and their two boys currently live in a log house in Michigan, which she refers to as “our own Little House in the Big Woods,” and says she has negotiated a plan with the IRS to make good on her debt. • Presidential candidate Carly Fiorina may be barely cracking 1% in the polls, but she’s jumped to an early lead in the financial disclosure race — she won’t be accused of hiding anything in her tax returns. The former Hewlett-Packard CEO had already released her federal returns, along with a 503-page financial disclosure pegging her net worth at $58,954,494.88 (because $60 million would just be vulgar). But last week, she opened up her state tax returns as well. While Fiorina lives in Virginia, her various business and investment interests force her to file tax returns in a total of 17 states. We’re not talking a lot of money here — for example, she earned $946 in investment income

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Summer Dilemma attributable to Michigan, which meant filing a 58-page return and paying $40 in tax (which Virginia credited back to her on their return). The end result with her state tax returns is a 1,000-page stack of

paper that ought to keep her former company’s printers humming profitably for years. • Former House Speaker Dennis Hastert is in hot water following revelations that he paid $1.7 million in hush money. Prosecutors have indicted him for failing to report cash transactions and lying to the FBI. It’s been an incredible fall for Hastert: a decade ago, he was two heartbeats away from the presidency, and now his life is a public laughingstock. But will the IRS have a problem with it? Almost certainly not! In fact, Hastert can plausibly claim a theft loss deduction for payments exceeding 10% of his adjusted gross income. The indictment doesn’t tell us if Hastert’s blackmailer reported the payments as income, and we can safely assume Hastert didn’t issue a 1099! Still, this is one case where the IRS might actually make a celebrity’s troubles easier. Celebrities are famed for supporting entourages of publicists, agents, and managers that you probably don’t need and can’t get. But they also have tax planners — and you can have one of those right now. Make sure you have the plan you need to keep your taxes to a legal minimum and out of the headlines. Allan J Rolnick is a CPA who has been in practice for over 30 yea rs in Queens, NY. He welcomes your comments and can be reached at 718-896-8715 or at allanjrcpa@aol.com.

hile the cat’s away, the mice will play. As the kids exit the door, everyone is planning their summer trip. Visits to the Hamptons, the Mountains, California, Israel, Europe, a cruise. Some are doing a South African safari, and some are hitting more exotic spots. I suggested Prague or Spain. My husband countered with, “How about touring the five boroughs?” Obviously, a traveling enthusiast! So here I am in sunny Staten Island. Come join me! The heat is a record high and as Dorothy says, there’s no place like home. Or close by! Anyway maybe we just don’t appreciate what we have right in our own backyards. After all, we go to every country and look at every old building, old museum, and old shul. When was the last time you visited the ones down on the Lower East Side? I went on the tour of the tenements the day before Hurricane Sandy. Believe me, it helped me weather the storm with perspective. At least my lights would come back on! And people would leave and go to work in the morning -- rather than 5 more people cramming in. The two room apartments back then would come to life with more people showing up to sew and press while the residents were just turning over in bed. What we call a studio today they called a home, an office, a preschool, and an air B & B for European arrivals—except no one paid, they just moved in! Brooklyn has history too. It has museums to visit. And mansions with a rich story. There’s plenty to explore once you start. The only thing it doesn’t have is parking! What about Queens? I hear that’s the new hot spot. Everything in Manhattan’s been gentrified. Now if you want to see Little China or Little Italy or any other interesting ethnic area, they say Queens is the new destination. And you probably thought the only reason to go there was to pick up your kid

from Central High School or to attend a Queens College’s freshmen orientation. I bet you are having a hard time naming the fifth borough, huh? Or maybe you only know it as a zoo! But there must be more there. Every real estate guy has a manager schlepping there. So there has to be some buildings. And buildings have history. After all, people can’t be trekking halfway across the world just to tour grass and trees. The edifices tell much of the story. So maybe my husband’s idea wasn’t that terrible. And if you agree with that, I’m glad to give you his number! It’s not that I don’t think it has merit but it lacks a little of the pizazz of saying I went to … any place but a local spot! Except, of course, the Borough of Manhattan. That still feels like the center of energy and action. So I guess if I’m not hopping a plane anytime soon to exciting shores, you might find me roaming the streets of NYC. After all, my husband said he never saw the planetarium or Ellis Island! But then, who was I with when I saw all these famous sites? Oh yes, it was probably a class trip I joined with one of my kids. Now that I think about it, my husband’s from Philadelphia. No wonder he finds the boroughs alluring! So whatever you do this summer, enjoy, have fun, and remember: home is where the heart is!

If I’m not hopping a plane anytime soon to exciting shores, you might find me roaming the streets of NYC.

Rivki Rosenwald is a certified relationship counselor and career and life coach. She can be contacted at 917-705-2004 or rivki@rosenwalds.com

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