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Dear Readers,

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ast night, my daughter couldn’t sleep.

She was in bed for a while when she came out to ask me something.

I couldn’t believe she was still up. But I understood. Every year, the night before school started, it was hard for me to fall asleep. I was so excited to see my friends again, to meet my new teachers, and to use my fresh notebooks and sharpened pencils.

There’s something wonderful – almost magical – about starting anew. It’s a clean slate, a new beginning. Don’t you ever wish you can get that fresh start in other areas in life? Sometimes it’s with certain relationships, other times it’s with a job or a possession.

Think about these past few weeks, with the kids being home from camp and school.

In most houses, by the time the afternoon rolled around, there was “nothing to do” and quite a few arguments between siblings over silly things like the color of a marker or crayon. But what if you could have had the option to press “reset.” What if you were able to pretend that it was the first day of vacation, when the kids were excited just to spend some time at home, lolling on the couch or riding their bikes? Imagine if you could have pressed “reset” every day between camp and school. What was a long, three week break would have felt like just a day or two – for you and the kids.

Think about the first day you started your job. Yes, it was nerve-wracking. You didn’t know your coworkers, your boss was intimidating, and the work seemed new and overwhelming. You were concerned: would I ever be able to get a handle on things? But now you know what’s going on. In fact, you know what’s going on even before things are going on. It’s the same thing day in, day out.

Same people, same work, same drudgery.

But it doesn’t have to be like that. If you can harness the excitement you had on that first day – forgo the nerves and anxiety of that time – your job wouldn’t be tedious. It would be fun! It would be interesting! You’d be learning new things, meeting new people. And your outlook at the office would propel you to do even more, perhaps encourage you to find more clients or volunteer for more projects.

As my children go through school, I realize that I am learning new things along with them (hey, they didn’t have Common Core when I was growing up). But even before school starts I can learn something from my children. I can bring excitement into my life and create a sense of newness – even when things aren’t really starting from the beginning.

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Contents LETTERS TO THE EDITOR

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COMMUNITY Readers’ Poll

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NEWS

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Global

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National

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Odd-but-True Stories

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ISRAEL

Israel News

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My Israel Home

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Israel’s United Hatzalah

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PEOPLE TJH Speaks with George Maragos Ellis Zacharias, a Man of Intelligence and Insight by Avi Heiligman

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PARSHA Rabbi Wein

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Every Man Will be a King by Rav Moshe Weinberger

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JEWISH THOUGHT For Crying Out Loud – Or Not by Eytan Kobre

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A New Lease on Life by Rabbi Jonathan Gewirtz

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JEWISH HISTORY Memoirs of a Forgotten Rabbi: The Troubled Life of Rabbi Tzvi Hirsch Ferber 76

by Rav Pini Dunner

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HEALTH & FITNESS Step 5: A Good Way to Get Ready for Rosh Hashana by Dr. Deb Hirschhorn 90

The Back to School Lunches by Cindy Weinberger MS, RD, CDN

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Elul’s Waking Call by Dr. Hylton I Lightman

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Dear Editor, “Forgotten Heroes: The Heroism of War Correspondents” (Avi Heiligman, August 31, 2017) was most informative. Any high school or college student – along with many adults – would benefit by reading this article to understand the role newspaper correspondents in the field played in reporting and covering World War II for everyone back home.

Sincerely, Larry Penner Great Neck Dear Editor, I was recently sitting on a Friday night with a group of frum individuals in a living room. The conversation then somehow proceeded to become a sequence of statements such as, “I got married at 19,” and “I was married at 20 and had two kids by the time I was 22.” Now, I am a single twenty-fiveyear-old just sitting and listening as this conversation goes on.

About a month ago I read an article in the paper regarding how we, as Jewish people, and I believe women specifically, do not know how to discuss matters besides for marriage, kids, and anything revolving around those topics. This author discussed further about how she is long awaiting a child and that when she goes to weddings or any other gathering with her Orthodox Jewish friends it becomes

challenging for her to stay since all that her friends can discuss are their children. She then relates that when she goes to work alongside those who are not Jewish, there is an expansive wealth of knowledge and ideas to discuss.

I have found myself in many similar situations. Now, I understand that as a frum person, being family-centered plays a significant role. I am not belittling that nor am I saying that the ladies at a wedding can’t share about the latest achievements of each of their children or their newest sheitel macher find. Furthermore, in my first example above, no one said anything wrong or insulting. However, what I am saying is that in all the above-mentioned situations there lacks the inherent Jewish quality of sensitivity.

As Elul is upon us I feel that it is of utmost importance to think and assess who are around us before we speak. As a nation, our pride is that we are a unique entity. We are a nation whose souls are intertwined and we shouldn’t lose the sensitivity that is the foundation for our religion. Again, just to reiterate, it is more than okay to share what is going on in your life, happy or less happy, with your friends and those around you. However, as with everything else in life, everything in good taste.

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FOOD & LEISURE The Aussie Gourmet: Toasted Ravioli

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LIFESTYLES Dating Dialogue, Moderated by Jennifer Mann, LCSW

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HUMOR Centerfold Tough Tasks by Jon Kranz

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POLITICAL CROSSFIRE Notable Quotes After the Islamic State is Defeated, Should Trump Leave Some U.S. Troops in Syria? by David Ignatius CLASSIFIEDS

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Dear Editor, I would like to applaud the schools in our area that started school “early” this year. There is so much time between camp and school that it’s a travesty for the children who are home. It’s almost impossible for them to play for the whole day on their own; it’s up to their (working) parents or babysitters to entertain them. And without structure, bickering and boredom becomes commonplace.

Giving them school – a structure, friends, teachers and rebbeim – is like giving them a gift after a long summer vacation. And never mind that the yomim tovim are right around the corner. There is so much to learn – and to teach!

Shifra Kramer Dear Editor, I have always enjoyed Rabbi Dunner’s articles in your paper and I am happy to see that you have continued to feature his column.

I find his writings to be highly informative, interesting, and well-written.

B’hatzlacha, Shimon Fass

Dear Editor, Your dating panel is wonderful. I like to read each person’s perspective; it’s interesting to see their thoughts and how they differ and are similar.

I am a young married women who knows a few single men and women.

Although I would like to make shidduchim, I don’t really know how to go about it. Are there any tips you can give people who are interested in getting involved but don’t really know what to do?

I would appreciate your panelists’ advice and insight.

Thank you, G.H.

TJH expresses its condolences on the passing of Assemblyman Michael Simanowitz, beloved husband, father, son, and advocate for the Jewish community.

May his family be comforted among the mourners of Zion and Jerusalem.

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The Week In News

N Korea: A Hydrogen Bomb?

On Sunday North Korea proudly proclaimed that they successfully detonated a hydrogen bomb that can be transported on an intercontinental ballistic missile. While experts are viewing this announcement as a scare tactic, this makes the reality of nuclear warfare against the U.S. a bit more profound. Kim Jong-un’s administration claimed that the bomb they created had a force of 100 kilotons, more than six times the magnitude of the U.S. bomb detonated on Hiroshima.

The explosion was big enough to “pretty much end an American city,” according to Vipin Narang, an associate professor of political science at the Massachusetts Institute of Technology who studies nuclear issues.

“I had thought that maybe Kim hadn’t tested number six for the past several months because that was a red line for China,” Narang said. “But clearly he decided to blow past it.”

Due to the tension between the U.S. and China to find an agreement regarding the nuclear policy, Kim has had free reign to accelerate his nuclear weapons program, something he says is vital to defend a potential American attack.

Kim seems to be growing more confident, and perhaps more powerful, since he is aware that the U.S. won’t resort to military action in the near future since that would probably be the start of World War III. Kim is also sure that China won’t halt the sale of oil and food to his regime.

This week, the regime promised more “gift packages” for the United

States if it continues “reckless provocations.”

Experts believe that the timing of the test bomb was strategic. Both countries are distracted: Trump is touring the devastated areas affected

by Hurricane Harvey while President Xi Jinping is hosting leaders from Russia, India, Brazil and South Africa.

The most recent focus of Trump’s comments and remarks by Treasury Secretary Steven Mnuchin were on tighter sanctions, not military action.

“The United States is considering, in addition to other options, stopping all trade with any country doing business with North Korea,” Trump said on Twitter. “South Korea is finding, as I have told them, that their talk of appeasement with North Korea will not work; they only understand one thing!”

Rohingya Flee Myanmar

In just ten days, almost 125,000 Rohingya Muslims have fled from Myanmar into Bangladesh to escape violence in the country. Myanmar leader Aung San Suu Kyi came under more pressure on Tuesday from countries with Muslim populations to halt violence against them.

The latest violence in Myanmar’s northwestern Rakhine state began on August 25, when Rohingya insurgents attacked dozens of police posts and an army base. The ensuing clashes and a military counter-offensive have killed at least 400 people and triggered the exodus of villagers to Bangladesh.

The treatment of Buddhist-majority Myanmar’s roughly 1.1 million Muslim Rohingya is the biggest challenge facing Suu Kyi, who has been accused

by Western critics of not speaking out for the minority that has long complained of persecution.

Myanmar says its security forces are fighting a legitimate campaign against “terrorists” responsible for a string of attacks on police posts and the army since last October. Officials

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blamed Rohingya militants for the burning of homes and civilian deaths but rights monitors and Rohingya fleeing to neighboring Bangladesh say the Myanmar army is trying to force them out with a campaign of arson and killings.

Turkey’s President Tayyip Erdogan, who has said the violence against Rohingya Muslims constituted genocide, told Suu Kyi the violence was of deep concern to the Muslim world and that he was sending his foreign minister to Bangladesh.

The latest estimate of the numbers of those who have crossed into Bangladesh since August 25, based on calculations by U.N. workers, is 123,600.

Taking into account those fleeing since October, though, the numbers balloon – about 210,000 Rohingya have fled to Bangladesh since then.

The new arrivals – many sick or wounded – have strained the resources of aid agencies and communities already helping hundreds of thousands of refugees from previous spasms of violence in Myanmar.

Bangladesh is concerned about Myanmar army activity on the border and would lodge a complaint if Bangladeshi territory was violated, an interior ministry official said.

British Soldiers Arrested

On Tuesday, four British soldiers and alleged members of a banned neo-Nazi group were arrested for terror offenses, police said.

Britain’s Ministry of Defense confirmed that the men – arrested on suspicion of being members of the outlawed far-right group, National Action – were serving members of the army.

Last December, National Action became the first far-right group to be outlawed by the British government – six months after the assassination of lawmaker Jo Cox by a far-

right sympathizer. Membership or inviting support for the organization is a criminal offense carrying a sentence of up to 10 years imprisonment.

Cox, an MP from the main opposition Labour party, was shot and stabbed to death in her constituency by far-right nationalist Thomas Mair in June 2016.

Mair shouted “Britain first!” as he killed her.

At the time, Interior Minister Amber Rudd branded the organization as “racist” and “anti-Semitic.”

The four suspects are being held “on suspicion of being concerned in the commission, preparation and instigation of acts of terrorism,” West Midlands police said in a statement.

FARC Rebranding in Colombia For over half a century, the Revolutionary Armed Forces of Colombia, or FARC, has been a political party that has evoked a terribly negative response from the average Colombian.

The group tried many times to seize

power in Bogota using any violent means necessary. They are responsible for many years of bloodshed, kidnapping and drug abuse in Colombia.

However, now FARC has rebranded itself, and the party hopes to be more successful than it has ever been.

FARC changed their name but kept their acronym this past week.

They are now known as the Fuerza Alternativa Revolucionaria del Comun, which roughly translates to the Popular Alternative Revolutionary Force. They signed a very controversial peace deal about ten months ago and are now preparing to compete in next year’s general elections. The deal required the army of 7,000 to demobilize in exchange for political guarantees and reduced prison sentences.

Ivan Marquez, who was once Continued on page 18

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a commander but is now a politician with FARC, says that the name choice definitely has its drawbacks.

“For some people, FARC is a negative word,” he admitted. “But at the same time it represents our historical continuity, our past ... We are going to continue our fight but only in the arena of legal politics.”

As part of the deal they signed, the FARC has been guaranteed five congressional and Senate seats. “We want to be the government or part of it,” Marquez said. The FARC Party being in the senate is so controversial that the initial peace deal was rejected in a national referendum last year.

FARC is trying to rebrand itself. It has dropped the AK-47 from its logo and has replaced it with a star surrounded by red rose petals.

“This is a new party for a new Colombia,” said Pablo Catatumbo, another FARC leader.

“When people see a red rose, we want them to think of the FARC,” Marquez said. “We want it to become a symbol ... of unity among all Colombians.”

Frankfurt Evacuated

On Sunday, days after a massive World War II bomb was discovered at a construction site in Franfurt, Germany, authorities in Frankfurt defused the explosive. Nearly 60,000 people were evacuated from the area ahead of the detonation.

The bomb was found during work last Tuesday close to the Goethe University Frankfurt compound on Wismarer Street. It was a British bomb, specifically a 1.4-ton HC 4000 air mine, and was put under police guard ahead of Sunday’s operation to make it safe.

Police said the size of the bomb made extensive evacuation measures a necessary precaution. Residents were told to leave their homes by 8 a.m. local time before the operation

to defuse the bomb began.

The process – which took about four hours to complete – began around 2:30 pm local time after police removed additional Frankfurt residents who had yet to leave the evacuation zone. Hospitals and care homes, along with the German federal reserve and a local broadcaster, were evacuated as well.

Police had the authority to forcibly remove residents from their homes. The fire brigade said in a statement that streets would be patrolled with the assistance of helicopters to ensure that no one had been left behind and that homes were secure.

Shelters were set up for residents who were unable to go to friends or family during the bomb operation, with food provided. The two main shelters – at a convention center and a concert hall – were able to house up to 10,000 people. The city also offered many activities to evacuees, with all public museums open and free of charge. Airport tours were offered for free as well; some residents used their time away from home to do yoga in the park.

In May, more than 50,000 people were asked to leave Hanover after a bomb was discovered during pre-construction work on a site in the Vahrenwald district.

On December 25, 2016, another 50,000 were evacuated from Augsburg in south Germany after a 1.8ton bomb was found beneath an underground parking garage.

Russia’s Power Play

Russia has been making a lot of waves in the international community lately. Last week, the Kremlin sent bombers flying over the Korean peninsula, which many took as a signal that the Russian government has its eyes on Asia.

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Korea, but making an appearance in the region is being seen by many experts as a way of inserting himself into a very complex North Korean-American-Chinese political chess game that is capturing much of the world’s attention.

China chose not to comment on Russia’s show of force. The Chinese Foreign Ministry said that it would not “quantify how close China and Russia are cooperating on the North Korean nuclear issue. Just like China, Russia plays a pivotal role in maintaining global peace and stability as well as promoting peaceful solutions to hotspot issues in the region. China is willing to strengthen its cooperation and coordination with Russia to jointly preserve peace and stability in the region and around the world.”

Russia has recently been wedging its way into North Korea’s good graces. The Kremlin recently forgave $10 billion in Soviet-era debt that Pyongyang owes. Russia also has become one of the biggest donors of food aid to North Korea and has been hit with U.S. Treasury sanctions for selling oil to Pyongyang.

Samuel Ramini, a Russian foreign policy specialist, says all of Russia’s moves have been intentional and calculated. “As Russia takes an increasingly assertive approach to world affairs, it reminds its citizens of the Soviet Union’s status as a superpower that could influence conflicts worldwide,” Ramini wrote in July. “In this respect, Russia’s increased attention to North Korea is much like its military intervention in Syria and its expanded diplomatic presence in Libya and Afghanistan. Moscow is trying once again to project itself as a global power.

“Russia wants to be, and be seen as, a great power. It wants to lead the nations that resist Western power and influence. In defying the United Nations and supporting North Korea, Russia bolsters that status at home and abroad,” Ramani points out.

“And so Moscow’s alignment with North Korea will likely get stronger in the near future.”

Japanese Princess to Marry Commoner Japan’s royal family made a big announcement on Sunday: Princess Mako is engaged. The royal princess’s

fiancé is a commoner. By marrying someone outside the royal family, the princess forfeits her royal status.

Mako, 25, is Emperor Akihito’s eldest granddaughter; she is the eldest daughter of Prince Akishino, Akihito’s second son. Japan’s monarchy is male-dominated, and the forfeiture only applies to royal female members who marry commoners. A male royal can marry a commoner without being stripped of his status. Akihito and both his sons married commoners, who are now part of the monar-

chy. Mako’s recent engagement has sparked a debate regarding whether the law should be amended.

Despite the repercussions, Mako said she felt “really happy” during a televised press conference.

“I was aware since my childhood that I’ll leave a royal status once I marry,” she said. “While I worked to help the emperor and fulfill duties as a royal family member as much as I can, I’ve been cherishing my own life.”

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Mako’s fiancé, Kei Komuro, 25, proposed more than three years ago.

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rains and flooding in the southern region, they postponed the announcement.

Kei described Mako as someone who quietly watches over him “like the moon.” The princess described his smile “like the sun.” They plan to marry after the summer of 2018.

Akihito, 83, recently retired, and Naruhito, his eldest son, succeeded him. Next in line is Akishino, followed by his son, Hisahito. Unless Hisahito has a son in the future, though, there will be no more eligible males to ascend the throne, and the centuries-old succession would be broken.

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Urbanek said that by law prosecutors were required to submit a motion to dismiss after getting the medical evaluation results.

The International Auschwitz Committee, which represents Holocaust survivors, had sharply attacked Germany’s handling of the case, saying the court was hurtling “between sloppy ignorance and complete disinterest” in a resolution.

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Hubert Zafke faces charges of 3,681 counts for being an accessory to murder in the concentration camp in Nazi-occupied Poland. However, German prosecutors are asking for the case to be dismissed because the former Nazi is unfit for trial. The trial has been postponed numerous times since February 2016 due to Zafke’s mental and physical health.

During the Holocaust Zafke joined the Nazi party’s elite police force, the Waffen-SS, at age 19. The allegations focus particularly on a one-month period in 1944 when 14 trains carrying prisoners — including the Jewish teenage diarist Anne Frank — arrived at Auschwitz-Birkenau.

Stefan Urbanek, a spokesman for the regional prosecutor’s office, said in a statement that medical evaluations in March and July this year had found the wheelchair-bound Zafke “unfit to stand trial.”

“The experts reached this conclusion after having diagnosed dementia in October 2015, leading to a deter-

On August 8, President Uhuru Kenyatta of Kenya celebrated his re-election. The president won by a landslide. His glory, though, didn’t last long. Last week, Kenya’s Supreme Court nullified his re-election. In response, Kenyatta promised to “fix” the judicial system and warned the chief justice and judiciary not to interfere with the electoral commission. The court claims that the electoral commission had committed irregularities in the vote and demanded a new election within 60 days.

The judiciary has a “problem,” Kenyatta, who doesn’t take opposition well, said in comments to elected officials from county assemblies.

He also announced the start of his new campaign. He called the court “crooks.”

“We shall show you in 60 days that the will of the people cannot be overturned,” Kenyatta vowed. “We will come back and revisit this issue ... Going forward, we must fix it.”

The case was initiated by opposition leader Raila Odinga who peti-

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tioned the court to challenge Kenyatta’s win, claiming manipulation. He is now calling for the electoral commission to be disbanded. The commission promised to make changes in staff and agreed to cooperate in prosecuting any employee involved in manipulating results.

Bibi Called Paper Hundreds of Times Prime Minister Benjamin Netanyahu has been forced by Israel’s Supreme Court to reveal the dates of his phone calls with the owner and editor of Israel Hayom, and the results don’t look great for Bibi. Between 2012 and 2015, the prime minister spoke with editor Amos Regev almost twice a week. He also spoke with American casino mogul Sheldon Adelson almost once a week in that time period.

According to the call logs, during the three years in question Netanyahu held a total of 120 phone conversations with Adelson and 223 with Regev. Right before the 2015 elections, Netanyahu spoke with Regev multiple times on 15 out of the 19 days before elections. Most of the calls took place late at night before the paper went to press.

The court was responding to an appeal by journalist Raviv Drucker, who threatened to file a contempt of court motion against Bibi if he did not comply. The prime minister wrote online that “all the politicians in Israel speak to publishers, editors-in-chief and journalists. Between politicians and the media there is a constant and ongoing dialogue — this is what is accepted in democracies.” He added that Adelson has been a “very close

friend for 30 years and I am happy to speak with him from time to time.”

This week, Adelson’s attorney told the court that, although it was believed for many years that Adelson owns the paper, it is, in fact, owned by a relative but not by Sheldon Adelson himself.

Israel Hayom has been regarded as being strongly pro-Netanyahu.

Drucker has been pushing for the release of these records for a long time and is now asking for details on the conversations that took place. He says he is looking for any conflicts of interest between Netanyahu and the newspaper. He has called the number of phone calls between the prime minister and Adelson and Regev a “crazy amount” that goes far beyond “just friendly conversation.”

The court’s ruling that he give over his contact history comes as Bibi faces more legal troubles. He is suspected of offering to curb Israel Hayom’s circulation in exchange for more favorable coverage by a rival paper. “The public interest in releasing this information outweighs the considerations for Netanyahu and Adelson’s right to privacy,” Justice Menachem Mazuz wrote in the ruling.

Although Israel Hayom has always portrayed Netanyahu in a favorable

light, lately the paper has been more critical of the prime minister and his family.

Bar Mitzvah at 93

Shalom Shtamberg, 93, is now bar mitzvah.

Last week, the nonagenarian celebrated his bar mitzvah ceremony eighty years after turning 13-yearsold. Mr. Shtamberg was born in Warsaw, Poland, and his bar mitzvah came just as his family was taken to the Warsaw Ghetto. Shalom was able to survive by training as an electrician and using his skills. The rest of his family was slaughtered by the Nazis.

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Haifa. He was driven by trainee police officers to the shul, where he donned a talis and read from the Torah before dancing with guests – including his wife.

“I haven’t fulfilled my mission yet because I still have things to do,” Mr. Shtamberg told Reuters.

One of those things is to detail in lectures the horrors of the Nazi camps he survived, unlike his parents and five brothers who were killed.

Recalling his time in the Ghetto, he said: “In the beginning I did not speak, I said and told nothing because I stayed a child, aged 13, 14, and (living in) Warsaw Ghetto was extremely difficult, every day.”

Sara Netanyahu Takes Polygraph The First Lady of Israel has taken a lie-detector test in an attempt to prove her innocence. She is expected to be indicted on charges that she diverted public funds for her private housekeeping expenses.

Sara Netanyahu took the private test through her “own initiative” in order

to “prove her version of events,” according to Israeli news reports.

Attorney General Avichai Mandelblit has not yet announced whether he will be indicting Sara. Although lie detector tests are not admissible in Israeli courts and can only be used as an indication of events, it will only help Mrs. Netanyahu’s case that she was found to be telling the truth by the Tal Polygraph center.

The prime minister’s wife is suspected of improper behavior and misuse of state funds relating to the Prime Minister’s Residence, including receiving goods under false pretenses, falsifying documents and breach of trust. The most serious of the allegations involved the hiring of an electrician who is a Likud Central Committee member, even though the committee that oversees the

prime minister’s house expenditures ruled against hiring him.

She is also suspected of using state funds to furnish her home in Caesarea. The furniture was reportedly purchased for the official residence in Jerusalem and then moved to the Netanyahus’ private residence.

The allegations came about as a result of State Comptroller Yosef Shapira’s 2015 report in which he detailed lavish spending by Netanyahu and his wife at their official and private homes.

Both Bibi and Sara Netanyahu deny any wrongdoing, and their lawyer has called the allegations “ridiculous” and part of an overall “persecution of the Netanyahu family.”

Mandelblit is expected to announce his indictment decision in the next two weeks.

Rally Held for Hamas Captive A rally took place in Tel Aviv this week to commemorate three years since Israeli civilian Abera Mengistu was taken into captivity by Hamas terrorists in the Gaza Strip.

On September 7, 2014, Mengistu crossed into Gaza from the beach at Zikim. The 28-year-old suffers from mental illness and did not understand what he was doing when he crossed over into the Strip. He was captured inside Gaza and has been in Hamas’s custody since then.

“Unfortunately, today we are commemorating three years that Abera has been in captivity. There isn’t one day that mom doesn’t pray for you to come home,” one of Mengistu’s older brothers said before the crowd of about 100 people. “We’ll continue to yell, to fight, until you come home, healthy and whole,” he added.

Haili, Abera’s father, said that he prays every day to see his son again.

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tunnel.” The crowd in general had a lot of negative things to say about how the government is handling the negotiated return of Abera, as well as Hisham al-Sayed, Juma Ibrahim Abu Ghanima, and the bodies of two IDF soldiers, Hadar Goldin and Oron Shaul.

Defense Minister Avigdor Lieberman was especially put under fire for comments he made last week. Lieberman said that Israel must not repeat the “mistake” it made in the Shalit deal of releasing Palestinian prisoners in exchange for Israelis. In 2011, Israel released 1,027 security prisoners, including 280 who were serving life sentences for planning and perpetrating various terror attacks against Israeli targets, in exchange for the release of Gilad Shalit. Lieberman has since elaborated that he feels there is no easy way to bring back Mengistu, al-Sayed, Abu Ghanima, Goldin and Shaul short of “capitulating to Hamas’s demands or reoccupying the Gaza Strip.”

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The State of Israel has been slowly stripping the citizenship of these individuals as they apply for renewal of their IDs and passports since 2010.

The revocation is based on a 2008 “Nationality Law,” which allows a court to revoke citizenship in a case where there is a “doubt in loyalty to the State of Israel,” including, for instance, in the event of a terrorist attack.

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There are over 1.7 million Arabs living in Israel. They represent approximately 20% of the population.

Saudi King Funding “Martyrs’” Hajj The king of Saudi Arabia is continuing his tradition of sponsoring five hundred families of Palestinian “martyrs” to go on the annual Muslim pilgrimage of Hajj. For the past eight

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The Palestinians were chosen from Gaza and the West Bank equally. The Kingdom of Saudi Arabia pays for “everything starting with the crossing of the bridge [into Jordan], flights, visas and their stay in Mecca.”

The Trump administration has been very active in trying to limit the coverage, attention, and benefits that are given to Palestinians who have died while committing terrorist attacks against Israel. President Trump has called on Palestinian Authority President Mahmoud Abbas to stop paying the salaries of said “martyrs.”

Case against Pro-Israel Parties Thrown Out

A one billion dollar case that was brought against a group of wealthy American Jews has been thrown out by a U.S. federal court. The group, which included casino magnate Sheldon Adelson and media mogul Haim Saban, was accused of supporting illegal Israeli war crimes against Palestinians.

The lawsuit, which was brought

by Palestinian activists against 49

defendants, was thrown out by United States District Court Judge Tanya Chutkan. Chutkan ruled that the plaintiffs were asking her to decide on a matter which is outside of the purview of the United States legal system.

The main plaintiff, Bassem Tamimi of the West Bank, frequently speaks on college campuses advocating the Boycott, Divestment and Sanctions (BDS) campaign against Israel. Along with his other cronies, Tamimi was seeking $1 billion in damages against those that support the settlement movement in Israel. He accused them of engaging in a conspiracy to expel all non-Jews from East Jerusalem, the West Bank and the Gaza Strip, as well as aiding and abetting war crimes and crimes against humanity, including genocide.

The judge said that the case did not meet the jurisdictional requirements for a U.S. federal court to make a ruling. “The Palestinian and Palestinian-American Plaintiffs in this lawsuit allege that they have experienced immense loss of life, liberty, and property over the last several decades, and they seek justice and compensation for violence they have experienced,” Chutkan wrote. “This issue, both close to the heart of the ongoing Israeli-Palestinian conflict and central to the United States’ foreign policy decision-making in the region, is simply inappropriate for this court to resolve. Instead, these issues must be decided by the political branches.”

The list of defendants included pro-Israel donors like Irving Moskowitz, Norman Braman, Daniel Gilbert and Lev Leviev; corporations like the car-manufacturer Volvo; and groups that support West Bank settlements, like American Friends of Har Homa and the Karnei Shomron Foundation.

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Moscow gave an order that U.S. personnel must leave their positions in Russia and, one day before the deadline, the U.S. announced the closing of these Russian government buildings in the States.

“The United States has fully implemented the decision by the Government of the Russian Federation to reduce the size of our mission in

Russia,” State Department spokeswoman Heather Nauert said in a statement announcing the decision.

“We believe this action was unwarranted and detrimental to the overall relationship between our countries.

In the spirit of parity invoked by the Russians,” she continued, “we are requiring the Russian government to close its Consulate General in San Francisco, a chancery annex in Washington, D.C., and a consular annex in New York City.”

White House press secretary Sarah Huckabee Sanders told reporters that the decision to close the Russian diplomatic facilities was made directly by President Trump. A senior administrator in the White House told reporters that no Russian personnel would be expelled through this action and that Russian government employees could be reassigned to other locations, if Moscow would choose to do so. The official also said that the real goal of the White House

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In an attempt to try and redeem themselves, the bank promised to hire new management and pay a total of $6.1 million to refund customers affected by unauthorized bank and credit card accounts. This is in addition to the amount Wells Fargo agreed to pay last year – $142 million in a national class action settlement.

While many wonder whether or not the bank will be able to recover from this scandal, they are also battling new allegations of harming customers. In July the bank admitted to forcing up to 570,000 borrowers into unnecessary auto insurance, 20,000 of whom had their cars repossessed because of it. The bank has also been accused of messing over small businesses with credit card fees, an allegation that it denies.

Astronaut Breaks Records

A U.S. record was made on Saturday as NASA astronaut Peggy Whitson and two crewmates made a parachute touchdown in Kazakhstan, completing 665 days in orbit.

Whitson’s 665 days off the planet, 288 days on this mission alone, exceeds that of any other American and any other woman worldwide. For the last nine months Whitson, 57, was aboard the International Space Station, a $100 billion research laboratory that flies about 250 miles (400 km) above Earth. Two crewmates who launched with Whitson in November returned to Earth three months ago.

She stayed onboard to fill a vacancy after Russia scaled down its station staff from three to two cosmonauts.

Whitson returned to Earth with

Jack Fischer, also with the National Aeronautics and Space Administration, and Russian cosmonaut Fyodor Yurchikhin, who had been aboard the station since June.

“I feel great,” the biochemist said from space last Monday. “I love working up here. It’s one of the most gratifying jobs I’ve ever had.”

This was her third mission aboard the station and definitely the most accomplishing. Whitson devoted a lot of her time to experiments, including studies of cancerous lung tissue and bone cells. She achieved another record by doing four spacewalks, adding to her six previous outings. On record, that is the most time spent spacewalking by a woman.

“I’m looking forward to seeing friends and family,” Whitson said.

“But the thing I’ve been thinking about the most, kind of been fantasizing about a little bit, are foods that I want to make, vegetables that I want to sauté, things that I’ve missed up here.”

The previous U.S. record for time spent in space was 534 days. Only seven Russian men have logged more time, including Gennady Padalka, the world record-holder with 878 days in orbit.

“I am working on paying forward some of the advice and mentoring that I received on my journey, in hopes that one day those young people will do the same and look back on a life in which they leapt at the opportunities and broke their own records,” Whitson added.

Whitson, who became an astronaut in 1996, was the first woman to command the space station and also the first woman and first non-pilot to serve as chief of the NASA Astronaut Corps. She is also now regarded as the world’s oldest spacewoman at age 57.

Trump to End DACA

The Trump administration will be cutting a program that shields immigrants who came to the U.S. il-

legally as children from deportation.

The president is giving Congress six months to draft replacement legislation.

The legislation in question is the Deferred Action for Childhood Arrivals, or DACA. The Obama administration policy protects nearly 800,000 young men and women, often called “Dreamers,” and allows them to work legally. The Dreamers are a fraction of the estimated 11 million illegal immigrants in the U.S. Trump promised on the campaign trail to deport all of them but many Americans have shown support for this group of immigrants and Trump has agreed to delay deportations for six months while Congress comes up with a solution.

Many Republicans have urged the president to keep the DACA program running. House of Representatives Speaker Paul Ryan and Republican Senator Orrin Hatch have called on Trump not to rescind the program. Many leading business figures across the country have come out in support of the bill. Microsoft chief executive Satya Nadella and Facebook Inc CEO Mark Zuckerberg are among the biggest names to sign a letter that outlines the economic contribution of Dreamers.

Trump had called Obama’s 2012 executive order “unconstitutional” and “illegal.”

Despite the Republican pushback and Democratic support, President Trump’s base will likely be unpleased that the president has given Congress time to fix the bill instead of fully rescinding it. In recent weeks, ten attorney generals wrote to Attorney General Jeff Sessions, threatening to mount a legal challenge to DACA unless the administration phased it out

by September 5. Sessions informed the president that he would not defend the DACA order, adding that he considers it unconstitutional.

In June, the Trump administration had ended a similar program that Obama had created in 2014 to expand eligibility for DACA and give legal status to as many as five million parents of citizens and legal permanent residents. That order was blocked by a legal challenge by the State of Texas, and the Supreme Court announced last year that it had deadlocked on the case, 4 to 4. The attorneys general said if Trump did not take similar action to terminate DACA, they would amend the Texas lawsuit to include it and work to have a court overturn the program along with the other two.

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Harvey Victims Head Home

As the devastated residents of Houston, America’s fourth largest city, return home they are facing incredible and devastating loss. Harvey hit a 300-mile stretch of southeast Texas, leaving thousands displaced, many without electricity or running water.

While the water in the Houston area began receding on Thursday, in the town of Beaumont, the waters were still rising on Friday, a full week after the storm.

Authorities revealed that there are currently 46 deaths listed that are related to the storm, a number that

could unfortunately still rise.

“This is going to be a multiyear project for Texas to be able to dig out of this catastrophe,” Gov. Greg Abbott said on Friday.

The George R. Brown Convention Center was the biggest shelter of Hurricane Harvey: in the beginning of the week there were 10,000 Texas residents camping out. By the end of the week the number fell to 8,000. There are an estimated 42,000 in shelters across the state. Many residents were eager to return to their homes to retrieve important and valuable items while others simply wanted to assess the extent of damage.

“I do want people to exercise caution if they are leaving the shelters and returning home,” Mayor Sylvester Turner said late Thursday, “or if they sought lodging someplace else and are returning home. They just need to be extra careful when they are returning.”

There are dangers in the aftermath of the storm – the water that flooded homes was dirty water. Authorities warned residents not to eat anything that had come into contact with floodwaters, to check for wildlife, including snakes, and to visit homes in daylight.

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“It’s dirty water,” explained Dr. David E. Persse, the public health authority for the City of Houston.

State Senator John Whitmire, who represents part of Houston, said residents were eager to see their homes.

“Every human emotion ever found in a society is being experienced,” Whitmire said. “They realize how lucky they are to be alive, in many instances. You’ve got to have priorities: Their priority was one of survival and breathing. Now they want to get back to normal as much as possible.”

Harvey’s Damages and Flood Insurance It’s been almost two weeks since Tropical Storm Harvey hit Houston, Texas, and wreaked tremendous havoc. Thousands of homes, vehicles, properties, and businesses were totally destroyed across southeastern Texas. An estimated 400,000 homes and 700,000 vehicles were significantly damaged. More than 32,000 people were housed in shel-

ters. Hurricane Harvey is estimated to be one of the costliest disasters in American history with damages that could exceed $100 billion.

It is expected to take years to rebuild and clean up all the mess. Sadly, it will cost many people their savings or force them to borrow money as many didn’t have flood insurance.

Fewer than one in five homeowners in the Houston area are insured for flood damage. There will be government relief funds and charities to assist people but that will surely take months, if not years, to work out.

Even those with the proper insurance need to itemize their losses in order to receive payouts, which can take months.

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gram’s long-term financial outlook is being reevaluated. Lawmakers and experts are suggesting requiring more homeowners to buy flood insurance or discouraging people from rebuilding in areas that will likely see more storms and flooding.

After decades of relative stability, the flood insurance program fell into debt after paying out nearly $25 billion in claims from Katrina and Superstorm Sandy, which could not be covered through policyholders’ premiums. Today the program has $5.8 billion in borrowing authority from the U.S. Treasury. Payments from Harvey are expected to far exceed that limit. Katrina cost $175 billion in damages.

In certain regions, homeowners are required to purchase flood insurance policies through private companies. Prices are regulated by the federal government; they establish rates and provide subsidies to keep prices reasonable. FEMA’s maps require policies in areas with a 1 in 100 chance of severe flooding. In the Houston area, the high-risk zones cover only a small part of the city, typically along the rivers and bayous. The average annual premium in Houston is $555.

Some homeowners have said that because flood insurance was so inexpensive they believed that the risk was only very slight. However, homeowners outside the flood zone could also be affected by rising waters; their chances are just not as high.

Possible Ethylene Shortage

What do you know about the chemical ethylene? Probably nothing.

The colorless, flammable gas is one of the most important petrochemicals on the planet, and a lot of it originates from the hurricane-stricken Gulf Coast in Texas. Ethylene is used to make many essential items from diapers to mattresses, and the

damage from Harvey will likely affect the manufacturing of many household items.

“Ethylene really is the major petrochemical that impacts the entire industry,” said Chirag Kothari, an analyst at consultant Nexant.

Nearly three quarters of the U.S.’s supply of ethylene is produced in Texas. Ethylene is produced naturally; it’s the gas emitted by fruit as they ripen. Due to Hurricane Harvey, 61% of U.S. ethylene capacity has been closed, according to PetroChemWire.

Last year, factories pumped 146 million tons of ethylene, a big chunk of the $3.5 trillion global chemical industry. According to some experts, ethylene and its derivatives account for 40% of global chemical sales.

Processing plants turn the chemical into polyethylene, the world’s most common plastic. When transformed into ethylene glycol, it’s the antifreeze that keeps engines and airplane wings from freezing in winter, and it also becomes the polyester used in textiles and water bottles.

Chemical plants are designed to withstand hurricane winds and floods, however, they were not intended to withstand the duration and quantity of the rainfall from Harvey.

“The combination of Harvey’s path, duration and rainfall total is wreaking havoc with the supply side of the U.S. chemicals industry on an unprecedented scale,” said Kevin McCarthy, an equity analyst at Vertical Research Partners. “We certainly haven’t seen anything quite like it in our 18 years of following chemical stocks on Wall Street.”

The sudden decrease of ethylene may trickle down to consumers.

Chemical and plastics buyers will need to replenish their inventory sooner rather than later. Many producers are already telling customers that they won’t be able to meet their contractual supply obligations because of damage from Hurricane Harvey.

Forest Fires Engulf CA Just as the U.S. assesses the damage of Hurricane Harvey, there’s another natural disaster brewing in California and neighboring states.

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“That can change in a moment’s notice, and the winds can accelerate very quickly,” Los Angeles Fire Capt.

Ralph Terrazas cautioned. “There is a lot of fuel out there left to burn.”

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as fire crews battled forest fires. Los Angeles Mayor Eric Garcetti said that this is one of the largest fires in the city’s history. Garcetti declared the situation a local emergency, and as temperatures soared, thousands were forced to evacuate. At Los Angeles International Airport, temperatures hit 97 degrees Fahrenheit, topping the previous mark of 92 set in 1982. Records were also set in parts of Ventura and Santa Barbara counties, where the temperature hit 101 degrees.

A group of hikers were rescued in Oregon after being forced to spend the night in the woods after fire broke out along the popular Columbia River

Gorge Trail. Wildfires also reached a small part of Yosemite National Park and forced evacuations in Glacier National Park.

After the wild fires destroyed three homes, Gov. Jerry Brown declared it a state emergency. Over 1,000 firefighters were sent out to battle the blazes that reached 9 square miles. Luckily, temperatures dropped slightly and the region received a bit of rainfall before Burbank, Glendale, and Los Angeles had to be evacuated. However,

Many stories of heroism and goodness have come out of the tragedy of Hurricane Harvey. This story, though, will rise to the top.

During Hurricane Harvey, four bakers at El Bolillo Bakery were trapped in the shop as mounting waters forced them to stay indoors.

Faced with nothing to do, the bakers did what they do best – they baked.

It all started on Saturday afternoon, as the rain was falling. The bakers were trying to fill orders from locals, and they ended up staying up late baking bread. By the time the orders were filled, the streets were flooded and they couldn’t get out.

Over the next 48 hours, the workers used 4,400 pounds of flour to prepare hundreds of loaves of bolillos, kolaches and pan dulce for storm victims. As Harvey raged on, they found motivation in the good their work would do for the community. “They knew it was going to be needed,” owner Kirk Michaelis said.

Thankfully, while they were baking for their neighbors, the waters never came into the store and power continued unabated.

On Monday morning, Michaelis was finally able to get to his bakery to evacuate his staff. He found, to his surprise, shelves brimming with fresh bread and baked goods. Michaelis loaded up his jeep and brought the delicious goodness to shelters, nurs-

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avocados to smash the record for the world’s biggest guacamole this past Sunday. The creamy dip weighed a whopping 6,600 lbs. as throngs joined together in Mexico’s Jalisco state.

Smashing and mashing avocados is surely fun, but the activity wasn’t just entertainment for bored teenagers between camp and school. Growers and Mexicans wanted to make a point as negotiators from Canada, Mexico and the United States were

meeting to revamp the NAFTA accord: that we’ve all benefited from the North American Free Trade Agreement.

Jalisco has become the second biggest producer of the Hass variety of avocadoes in Mexico behind Michoacan state, according to producers.

More than 600 student chefs and 400 people from the rural town of Concepcion de Buenos Aires prepared the traditional dish for thou-

Another world record was made over the weekend. Hey, someone had to do some labor over Labor Day. This new record took place in Bavaria, Germany, which is also home to Oktoberfest, the world’s biggest beer festival. Fittingly, the record involved beer.

Oliver Struempfel cradled 31 beerfilled tankards stacked up in two tiers, walked 40 meters and then set them down. Two steins tipped over at the last minute, so Struempfel has set the record for this feat at a whopping 29 jugs – or more than 69 kg (152 lb) of beer and glass.

“I first did 27, because I wanted to be sure and then at the end I said, ‘Let’s add another one and get over 30,’” Struempfel said. “Unfortunately it didn’t quite work, but having managed to put 29 down ... I think it’s amazing.”

To prepare for Sunday’s attempt, Struempfel said, he has trained at the gym three to four times a week since February.

“When I think about it, it’s 200 hours for about 40 seconds of walking,” he said after the feat.

He had set the previous world record of 25 jugs in 2014, Munich daily

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The fishy companion is not a new concept at the hotel, says hotel manager David Dillen. It has been running for several years and is popular with guests He said, “We started a few years ago. The idea was to surprise our guests, as we always try to do. It’s brilliant to see how people react to it. They smile, they take pictures to put on social media. We rent a few fish per week.”

For those concerned about the fish’s feelings, Dillen o-fish-ally assures that the pets are well-cared for. “They have been with us for over four years now, so if they were not taken care of they would have died a long time ago.

“They also have a big fish-tank in the housekeeping department, with a shelter, oxygen and plants. When we think it’s necessary, we put them there for a few days.”

Is he fishing for compliments?

Beer Yoga

Some people find it relaxing to sip an icy cold one at the end of the day.

Others enjoy deep breathing and chanting to relieve stress. And then there are others who put two and two together and get (no, not four) beer yoga.

The trend began at festivals in the U.S., traveled to Berlin and then arrived in Australia. No word on if followers were driving while drunk.

According to Germany’s BierYoga, also known as BeerYoga, the practice is the “marriage of two great loves – beer and yoga. Both are centuries-old therapies for mind, body and soul.”

“BeerYoga is fun but it’s no joke,” founder and yogi Jhula writes on the company’s website. “We take the philosophies of yoga and pair it with the pleasure of beer-drinking to reach your highest level of consciousness.”

What exactly does beer yoga entail? Well, students can enjoy yoga poses involving “beer salutations” and balancing beer bottles on one’s head – just watch for broken glass.

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On Sunday night, the Yeshiva of Far Rockaway held a hesped and gathering of hisorerus marking the petira of their beloved menahel, Rabbi Aaron Brafman, z”l, who served the Yeshiva of Far Rockaway for more than forty years. The overflow crowd was addressed by Harav Hagaon Rav Yechiel Perr, Rosh Yeshiva, Harav Hagaon Rav Moshe Brown, Harav Hagaon Sholom Kamenetsky, Mr. Ben Brafman, and Rav Avraham Boruch Brafman. Rabbi Brafman, z”l, will be missed by the Yeshiva, the community and the Torah world. May his memory be a blessing for us all.

HaRav Binyomin Carlebach giving an Elul shmuz at Mesivta Shaarei Chaim in Far Rockaway

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Sephardic Congregation Sefer Torah Dedication

Eric Aminoff completing the writing of the Sefer Torah with Rabbi Israeli

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n Sunday, September 3, the Sephardic Congregation of Hewlett celebrated the hachnosas sefer Torah of its sefer Torah. All of the Five Towns Sephardic congregations and their respective rabbis came together to celebrate the completion of the writing of a sefer Torah of Eric and Mina Aminoff of Lawrence. The sefer Torah was dedicated in loving memories of their beloved parents.

The completion of the writing was at the Aminoff residence followed by a beautiful procession that included a float, music and plenty of dancing as the Torah was accompanied to the Young Israel of Lawrence-Cedarhurst.

The police closed off Broadway as hundreds of people of all ages joined in with the celebration along the route.

At the Young Israel Eric

Eric and Mina Aminoff

Aminoff delivered an emotional speech followed by inspiring speeches by Rabbi Moshe Teitelbaum, Mora D’Asra of the YILC, and Rabbi Israeli of Mill Basin.

After a beautiful, catered, festive celebration at the Young Israel, Eric and Mina Aminoff decided to loan the new sefer Torah to the newest Sephardic congregation in the Five Towns, The Sephardic Congregation of Hewlett, currently having services at the home of Shmuel and Anita Koren at 1725 Union Avenue in Hewlett. TSCOH was started in November of 2016 to fill the void and a very much needed Orthodox synagogue in an area were the nearest Orthodox synagogue is a mile and a half away. It began with six families, and as of today has attracted 24 families to its congregation.

The Sephardic Congre-

Rabbi Refael Ribacoff of TSCOH dancing with the new sefer Torah

Eric Aminoff dancing with the Torah with Rabbi Moshe Teitelbaum, Mora D’asra of the YILC

gation of Hewlett with the leadership of its rabbi, Refael Ribacoff, is planning to purchase a property to host the synagogue for the growing

community.

TSCOH is currently considering the extension of the eruv to accommodate the growing needs of the com-

Members of TSCOH dancing in front of the Torah

munity. TSCOH considers itself to be the new frontier of the Five Towns, an area that is truly a safe suburban enclave with affordable housing that is greatly underpriced, compare to the rest of the Five Towns. East Rockaway, Lynbrook, Valley Stream, Hewlett Harbor, Hewlett Neck are all within walking distance.

The new community is hoping for generous donors to come forward and help them with the purchase of a new property. As with any new synagogue, dedications are available and greatly needed. All donations are tax deductible.

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OHEL Provides an Epic End-of-Summer in Diverse Programs

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etween new school stationary, notebook and clothing purchases, coupled with on-going preparation for the chaggim, it is easy to feel overwhelmed. Throw in kids coming off a summer high and the stress mounts for everyone!

OHEL Bais Ezra’s End-of-Summer Programs for Children with Developmental Disabilities provide the welcome solution to fill the problematic gap between the end of traditional summer activities and the start of school.

With programs for boys and girls at the beautiful Camp Kaylie campgrounds as well as Camp Nageela, OHEL provides children with an incredible week of fun and affords parents much necessitated respite. Each summer, as August ends, hundreds of children go back to camp for swimming, dancing, sports and activities.

The children all relished extremely busy days of fun-filled activities from sports, puzzles, to baking – thanks not least to an incredibly dedicated staff of counselors. As Hillary Zimmern, an OHEL Bais Ezra Coordinator, conveyed, “Our counselors help ensure

every minute is a perfect camp experience!”

A parent of one camper shared, “There just aren’t enough words to describe how much our daughter loves the End-of-Summer Program, or how important it is to our family. The care our daughter receives here is incalculable, with one-to-one staffing and super human efforts by the counselors to make every day great! ” Reflecting the breadth of OHEL programs and services and diversity of individuals we serve, OHEL also provided an awesome End-of-Summer vacation for adults with psychiatric disabilities.

For over 20 years, OHEL has organized this annual retreat for OHEL residents in the Rieder Mental Health Services Center, which for many is the highlight of the summer!

Every year, more than 120 adults join together with over 20 dedicated staff and volunteers to have one last hurrah before summer is out. From painting, bingo, boating, and yoga, to sushi and challah making, tie dyeing, and sports trivia, our individuals are able to find the perfect activity to max-

imize their fun all day long.

This year, OHEL returned to the Block and Hexter Retreat Center, a welcome return to nature for many of our individuals, many of whom fondly remembered previous trips. In addition to the nature hikes, martial arts and makeovers, OHEL also includes unique activities that help enrich the program and the lives of the participants.

The Socialization Program coordinated by OHEL’s Sarah Kahan, a licensed social worker, is eagerly anticipated by the individuals every year and is part of the Pinsky Simcha Program that fosters socialization and growth for individuals with disabilities. More than 30 people attended the sessions to learn about communication, expression, and social interactions with their peers, families, even spouses.

This one-of-a-kind activity is indicative of all of OHEL’s programs; it is a chance for people to grow and thrive and actively manage and enhance their own lives and independence.

Elaine Schickman, a dedicated OHEL board member, joined the retreat with her husband Bernie and

several of her children and grandchildren. The Schickman family enjoyed playing cards, fishing, and ping pong with the OHEL individuals. Says Bernie, “It’s not a job, but a labor of love we look forward to every year.”

This amazing week would not be possible without the generous support of so many people, particularly Mrs. Rose Pollak and Mr. and Mrs. Bert Gross. Theirs is a superhuman fundraising effort to help ensure so many individuals truly enjoy a magnificent End-of-Summer experience.

And they are not alone, where together with OHEL and other parents, friends, and many of the individuals themselves all help and give so much to help ensure all have a life-changing summer experience.

OHEL’s End-of-Summer Programs culminate a summer of many diverse OHEL camps and activities throughout the summer season which provide fun, inspiration, and personal growth and like for us all, a time of warmth and sun that enables us to recharge our batteries for the year, and admittedly, the winter months ahead!

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A Bat Mitzvah Celebration of Giving

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abbi Aryeh & Shaindy Cohen celebrated the bat mitzvah of their daughter, Neshama, at Kfar Yeladim David, Jerusalem, a home for Israel’s disadvantaged children, orphans, victims of abuse and neglect. The celebration began in Cedarhurst after Pesach, when Neshama, together with her classmates at Bnos Bais Yaakov and friends, had a bat mitzvah celebration at home. At this event, all the girls had a workshop where they made at least two pieces of jewelry – one for themselves and one to be distributed to the girls of KYD in Ramat Shlomo, Yerushalayim.

Neshama, her parents, siblings, (Shmuel Yaakov, Eliorah, Mesya and Uriel Nosson Tzvi), and her great-gandmother, Savta Judy Cohen of Belle Harbor, celebrated with the girls of KYD. They had a wonderful time meeting the girls and sharing the gifts with them.

KYD is a unique blend of a loving family environment coupled with the latest in professional therapeutic treatments which gives a warm home with a bright future to these young

made my simcha so special. I wish everyone can experience this opportunity and spread joy to the world.”

The Cohen family and the directors of KYD, Rabbi and Mrs. Weingarten, at Neshama’s bat mitzvah celebration

girls that have endured so much hardship during their young lives. It was fun to dance, play and party with the girls. The smiles of the KYD girls said it all. The bright smiles and cheerful eyes exude hope and faith in a successful future made possible by the dedicated staff.

Kfar Yeladim David was founded in 1994 in Jerusalem by Rabbi Yechiel Fishel Weingarten and his son Yehoshua. Caring for orphans and chil-

dren in distress is a family tradition that goes back three generations in the Weingarten family. In 1901, Yehoshua’s great-grandfather, Rabbi David Weingarten, took in many homeless orphans into his tiny, two-room Jerusalem apartment, which then became the first Jerusalem Girls Orphanage.

As Neshama said so eloquently, “Smiles are contagious. To share my happiness of being a bat mitzvah with so many young girls in Yerushalayim

By freeing ourselves from being enslaved to our desires, we enable ourselves to connect to G-d as kings, as masters of our own lives.

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Rabbi Gedaliah Oppen, principal of Judaic Studies, and Rabbi Lewis Weineker, director of Israel guidance at HAFTR High School, wished a tzeitchem l’shalom and much bracha and hatzlacha to their talmidim and talmidot at JFK Airport as they left for a year of learning in Israel

School’s Open at SKA

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he official first day of school was still some time away but administration, faculty members and students of the Stella K. Abraham High School for Girls were already in attendance!

The day after an inspiring Faculty Meeting Day held on Tuesday, August 29, staff members of both SKA and the Davis Renov Stahler Yeshiva High School for Boys shared a joint professional development workshop on Motivational Breakthroughs: Turning on the Turned-Out Child given by noted educator and learning disabilities expert, Mr. Rick Lavoie, who spoke about educating children in the 21st century. “Your job,” Mr. Lavoie shared, “is to teach the way the child learns, not the way you teach.”

SKA’s Yom Chaverut, held the previous spring, had already acquainted the incoming ninth graders with their new classmates and administration, but Freshmen Orientation Day, held on Thursday, August 31, really brought things to a new

SKA leaders with Mrs. Kyra Rhine

level! Everyone had the opportunity to meet and socialize once again while learning to “navigate” their new school. Lunch and bowling as a grade in the afternoon was a wonderful way for all the girls to bond.

While the freshmen became “oriented,” the school hosted student leadership sessions in which SKA Student Ambassadors, G.O. and production heads and publication editors worked to define the qualities of

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a leader while working on the most productive ways to communicate and build their teams. The Leadership Day sessions empowered the students to learn how to make communication and teamwork play a part in completing a task as a group. The workshops were organized by Mrs. Deena Kobre, SKA associate principal, and Ms. Lisa Fogel, SKA social worker, and aided by Mrs. Jordana Mallin, SKA G.O. advisor, digital media coordinator and faculty member, Mrs. Kyra Rhine, chesed coordinator and faculty member, and Mrs. Terri Wagner, director of production. Special thanks go to Ms. Debbie Stone, NCSY’s Associate Director of Education, for partnering with us in this special student leadership initiative.

We look forward to her returning to work with our students after the chagim. The day certainly set the tone for the year for what it means to

Ninth graders enjoying freshmen orientation

assume responsibility!

Orientations for SKA’s sophomores, juniors and seniors were held on Tuesday, September 5. When the morning bell rang on the first day of school, SKA students, faculty and administration were well prepared for a great start to the new year!

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The Munkacser Rebbe to Visit Five Towns Annual Breakfast for Yeshiva & Kolel Chaim V’Shalom Zichron Tzvi

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t is with great anticipation that residents of the Five Towns look forward once again to the Annual Breakfast in benefit of the Munkacser Mosdos. As in years prior, the esteemed Munkacser Rebbe, shlita, will be in attendance during this much-her-

alded event, delivering words of inspiration and chizuk to all participants.

Supporters are marking the calendar date of Sunday, September 10, as the community prepares for the great honor of hosting this venerable Torah personage. Many cherish the chance

to meet with the Rebbe, as he presides over this celebrated occasion in benefit of Mosdos Munkacs – Yeshiva and Kollel Chaim V’Shalom Zichron Tzvi which is named in memory of Yussie’s beloved father R’ Hershel (Tzvi) Ostreicher, a”h.

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As has become a tradition, the event will be hosted by Mr. and Mrs. Yussie Ostreicher at their home: 184 Wildacre Avenue, in Lawrence at 9:30am. It will feature keynote guest speaker Harav Mordechai Kamenetzky, Rosh Yeshiva Toras Chaim of South Shore, who will hold spellbound his listeners with a spiritually uplifting lecture.

The Ostreichers, who are graciously opening their home for the breakfast, are deeply rooted to Munkacs by generations of heartfelt devotion, stemming all the way back to the glory days of pre-Holocaust Europe. Yussie’s paternal grandfather, Reb Menachem Ostreicher, a”h, served as one of the roshei kehillah in Munkacs and helped spearhead the community under the direction of the previous Munkacser Rebbe, Rav Chaim Eluzar Spira, zy”a, the revered Minchas Eluzar. That warmth and closeness continue to this day. Yussie and his family maintain a special relationship and a singular connection with the Munkacser Rebbe, shlita.

Today’s Munkacser Torah institutions worldwide are a continuation of the vast and elaborate network inaugurated by the previous Munkacser Rebbes. They are expanded and proliferated by today’s esteemed Munkacser Rebbe, shlit”a, Rabbi Moshe Leib Rabinovich. The current Munkacser Rebbe, shlit”a, is an illustrious Torah personage, whose wisdom and eminent leadership have imbued the Torah world with grandeur and greatness. The Rebbe is a worthy grandson of Rabbi Chaim Eluzar Spira, zt”l, renowned author of Minchas Eluzar.

Chaim V’Shalom Zichron Tzvi, one of the jewels in the crown of Munkacs Torah Institutions worldwide, flourishes under the dynamic governance of the Rebbe’s son-in-law, HaRav HaGaon R’ Yosef Horowitz, shlit”a.

The Rosh Yeshiva, following the guidance of his father-in-law, is completely devoted toward the spiritual success of his talmidim. This towering edifice of Torah and yiras shamayim has gained much admiration as an establishment that cultivates excellence in each of its students.

On Sunday, September 10, readers of this article can choose to simply eat breakfast. Or they can choose to attend the Breakfast, and help bolster a treasured Torah institution, for all time.

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Early Orthodontic Treatment – Palatal Expansion: Why It’s Worth It

By Dr. Jonathan Paley, D.D.S., Cert. Ortho.

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our 8-year-old daughter Rena is at her pediatric dentist for her routine 6-month checkup. The doctor turns to you and recommends that you get to an orthodontist for an evaluation.

“What?! She’s only 8! Why are you referring her to an orthodontist at such a young age?” He starts muttering something about a narrow jaw… crossbite…arch development but you’re already thinking to yourself, “Gosh, I hope my insurance covers this…”

One of the most successful and predictable techniques in contemporary orthodontics is palatal expansion. The technique involves the placement of a custom device along the palate and the monitored application of a force to widen the upper

jaw. What’s truly amazing about this technique is the stability of the results that are achieved. Sometimes, in orthodontics, teeth can be made to look straight with braces, but as

sure the teeth stay put! With palatal expansion, however, the results tend to be much more stable and permanent, as we will soon explain.

As children grow, the upper and

In fact, most cases of palatal expansion bring about better overall facial esthetics and a whiter, toothier grin! soon as the braces are removed, the teeth may tend to shift back to their original positions. It takes excellent treatment planning by a knowledgeable orthodontist and appropriate implementation of that plan to make

lower jaws develop in three planes: horizontally, vertically and transversely. That means that the jaws should grow to a suitable length, height and width. Often, the width of the jaws is inadequate. This can

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be due to genetic issues or as a result of environmental factors such as thumb or finger sucking. Whereas it may be very challenging for an orthodontist to correct a jaw which is deficient in vertical or horizontal development, it is relatively easy to deal with a jaw that is too narrow. If just the upper jaw is affected, what results is a “crossbite.” This means that the upper back teeth or molars are inside the cusps of the lower molars. In most cases, a crossbite is noted on the back teeth, where it is called a “posterior crossbite.” However, in some cases, where the upper front teeth are behind the lowers, we have an “anterior crossbite.”

In some cases, both the upper and lower jaws are too narrow.

Here, there is no true crossbite but there still may be a tremendous benefit in pursuing palatal expansion. Studies have shown that by

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widening the upper jaw, there is a spontaneous mutual widening of the lower jaw as well. This can result in an overall increase in width, which leads to a broader, brighter smile. In fact, most cases of palatal expansion bring about better overall facial esthetics and a whiter, toothier grin!

The function of the appliance, known commonly as a “rapid palatal expander” or simply an “RPE,” is to widen the upper jaw itself. In order for this to happen, your upper jaw must NOT be rigidly attached to the rest of your skull. If the sutures (stitches) that attach your upper jaw to the rest of your skull are still open, which is usually the case in females up to around age 13 or so and in males up to around age 15, then the device will be able to open those sutures and widen the jaw itself.

If the sutures have already fused, which occurs once puberty has been reached, then the expander can only work if surgery is performed to separate the upper jaw from the skull in key areas. That’s why early treatment is so effective and why your dentist is referring your daughter at such a young age.

Although the expansion screw can be placed on a removable appliance, I prefer a fixed expander because of its predictability and stability and the fact that I know it will stay in place. It is activated by the parent once or twice a day for a number of weeks. The orthodontist will check progress periodically to make sure all is going according to plan. Once adequate expansion has been achieved, the appliance is fixed in place and remains there for approximately 6 months. At that time, a decision is made whether to replace the expander with a removable retainer or to proceed right into the next stage of braces.

The benefits of palatal expansion are numerous. They include a widening of the overall smile which results in a broader, brighter grin, a correction of bite abnormalities due to a poor fit of the back teeth and increased stability of the upper and lower molars. In addition, since the palate of the mouth is also the floor

of the nose, increasing the width of the palate causes an increase in the size of the nasal chamber and may enable you to breathe more freely through your nose. I have seen many cases where “mouth breathers” have been converted to “nasal breathers” after palatal expansion.

All in all, with proper treatment planning and appropriate orthodon-

tic supervision, palatal expansion can serve as a great way to easily correct jaw width problems and in some cases, reduce or eliminate the need for later orthodontic treatment…and it is often covered by major insurance carriers. Phew!

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Delicious Wines to Start the Year Off Right

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very year, we see articles about the newest or fanciest releases of wine for Rosh Hashana. While I have myself written some of those articles, I must admit having grown a bit tired of them. Reflecting on the past to look ahead for a brighter spiritual future, I believe that I should act in the same way towards some practical things as well, such as wine. For my selection for these coming holidays, I thought I should not solely focus on new or expensive wines but also go back to some wines that may not necessarily be new, and yet are delicious and well-worthy of the celebrations.

Everybody should know that if there was a single winery that has always known how to reinvent itself while

retaining the lessons from its rich history, Carmel is the one. I have been praising Carmel for years now, as I truly consider this winery to be

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among Israel’s very best. Sure, their flagship Limited Edition and Single Vineyard (Kayoumi Shiraz and Riesling, Shaal Merlot and Late Harvest

Gewürztraminer, Sumaka Cabernet Sauvignon, Admon Malbec and Cabernet Sauvignon) are always excellent. The Appellation series is always dependable, as well.

However, it is with the entry-level of a winery that one can really recognize quality from the ground up.

Carmel has recently released a complete lineup of 8 wines in its “Selected” series. These are wines that are very much affordable and yet provide quite pleasant drinkability.

My favorite is the Mediterranean Blend. For years, Israeli wineries have been struggling to make their wines stand out from those of other wine growing regions. Many people who are not familiar with Israel in general and Israeli wines in particular wonder what is so special about them. Carmel, which is arguably the winery at the origins of Israel’s wine Renaissance, has come up with the answer: Israel has the ideal terroir, the perfect soil and climate for varieties such as Carignan, Petite Sirah, Viognier or Petit Verdot. After multiple successes with wines based on these aforementioned varieties in their high-end series, here is a wine that is delicious, inexpensive, food-friendly and which showcases unique characteristics.

Rosh Hashana is also a time for taking inventory of the past year, something that requires extra humility. In that spirit, I thought I should talk about a new French wine that is not considered fancy and yet bears the same features and qualities of some of the most prestigious wines. Château Royaumont is a blend of Merlot and Cabernet Franc. It is made by Vignobles Péré-Vergé, the same producer as Château Montviel, in Pomerol. While not as exuberant, the Royaumont offers remarkable complexity as well as the potential to be cellared for over 10 years from harvest. The Pascal Bouchard Le Classique, which hails from Chablis, an appellation within Burgundy, is yet another French wine that is reaching the stores’ shelves these days. As opposed to most kosher Chardonnay wines, this one is unoaked and radically different, style-wise. It showcases some bright citrus and green apple fruit profile with notes of saline and earthy minerals, as well as lip-smacking acidity. It is really fun to compare and taste it side by side with another excellent yet different style such as the Matar Chardonnay from Israel with its slightly creamy texture and buttery notes.

It is customary to indulge in sweet fruits and treats on Rosh Hashana, in the hope of being granted a sweet New Year. Herzog Wine Cellars in California have been crafting stellar dessert wines for more than two decades with the Late Harvest series. My personal favorite is the Chenin Blanc, a variety originating from France’s Loire Valley. The grapes for this wine grow in the Herzog Family’s vineyard in Clarksburg. The wine has a luscious, almost oily texture with aromas and flavors of quince jam, pear and lemon drops with hints of dried apricots and honeysuckle. It is the perfect companion for an apple pie.

Happy and sweet new year to all, shana tova!

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The Manifestation of Love and Torah

By Menachem Siegel

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here are many great shuls in Brooklyn but one shul in particular strives to promote inclusion. This shul is under the auspices of passionate individuals who look past the external and into the core of a human being. They’re restoring Jewish peoplehood, unity and cohesion.

Yet, according to Steven M. Cohen, a research professor of Jewish social policy at Hebrew Union College-Jewish Institute of Religion, “many young American Jews, like their non-Jewish counterparts, are not seeking religious engagement.” However, the Brooklyn Jewish Xperience (BJX) shul and organization celebrated a number of milestones and simchos this summer including weddings, adult bar mitzvos, and brissim. They also ran many programs with guest speakers, had a packed Tisha B’Av event, featured an international video, and a stellar performance by the incredible Israeli band, SHTAR.

Is Jewish interest really diminishing? At BJX, Jewish neophytes are still interested in exploring their heritage. How is this achieved? “We believe that there’s a diamond hidden in the depths of every soul,” said Rabbi Moshe Fingerer. “Our rav and faculty polish these gems to reveal their brilliant light,” he said. BJX is witness to a thriving revitalization of interest in Torah. The ripple effect of the game-changing work that BJX does will be felt for generations.

Have you ever felt deeply insignificant – not because someone belittled, discredited or usurped your role – but because of the awesomeness of another’s action? This was exactly the sentiment expressed by close to one hundred guests who attended the seudas mitzvah of three young professionals who underwent a painful surgery for their bris. “What they did is unbelievable. It’s so commendable. The words escape me. You can’t even imagine the sacrifice – the decision that they finally made to do

this. These are actual heroes. This has left an indelible imprint in all of us who were present. It’s something that I will remember forever,” said Moshe Dov Stern.

“I could just imagine 30 years from now people will be looking at the photographs and will say ‘wow those three guys had their bris.’ It’s the Jewish people coming back. People talk about all the assimilation in N.Y. and about all the Jews who don’t keep Shabbos and here you have three guys in their late 20’s and they’re having their bris. It’s incredible. It shows that kiruv isn’t dying!

Kiruv is growing! People love Torah, they love Judaism. They’re willing to inflict upon themselves such pain for Judaism because there is so much joy in Torah and in Judaism and in BJX,” said Isaac Shrem, a BJX student.

Even after the anesthesia it’s still painful. Why do this? One student was prepared with an answer: “I experienced at BJX a thirst and a passion for doing mitzvos – a passion that was real and electrifying.” Another said: “The rabbis opened my eyes to a Judaism I had never known. There was so much that I didn’t even know that I was lacking.” One student who had a trimmed beard and his tzitzis out said, “I went under their tutelage from learning Torah, to keeping Torah, to living Torah.”

It was a monumental evening; an evening of inspiration, an evening of true heroism. This is an evening that we’ll all remember for a very, very long time,” shared Sruli Werdiger.

How do the rabbis continue to nurture and strengthen Torah Judaism in Brooklyn? Their love for other Jews transcends political affiliation, religious observance, or any other criteria. The rabbis help Jews unconditionally. There is a particular closeness that people feel when they come to BJX. “When I walk inside to the shul all I feel is unconditional love,” said Steve. “Though I was secular, I always wore my Star of David. And more often than not my neighbors just coasted by me. Rabbi Fingerer invited me in. Since that initial invitation, BJX raised my level of observance, introduced me to the BJX family and enriched my life with the beauty of Torah.”

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ists various contradictory tensions.

For many of our unaffiliated neighbors the religious experience isn’t natural. What would prompt a secular professional to join one of the weekly BJX Shabbatons, or to join a chavrusah at their mishmar? Mr. Liebermann answered this question.

“When I came into the ballroom someone came over to me and said, ‘You’re part of BJX’ and I replied back you’re wrong, ‘BJX is part of me.’”

Similarly, the students feel that BJX is part of them – it’s family.

Mrs. Chaya Lew, organizer of the Great Brooklyn Challah Bake for the Shabbos Project, said, “I feel just pure exhilaration. As a community we are privileged and honored to have BJX. We really appreciate the BJX phenomena and all that they do. They’re bringing our community and all Jews from all over closer and closer to Yiddishkeit. I am so privileged to be a part of it.”

“It was a pure honor and zchus to be able to partake in such a unique mitzvah right here in our own backyard. We grow up so accustomed to attending baby brissim that an adult bris is not something we even think about, but BJX is changing that mentality and opening our eyes to the amazing opportunities we have in our own backyard,” explained Dovid Herzka.

BJX does everything they can to bring Jews together through relevant classes, a vibrant shul and kehilla and riveting passion for limud haTorah.

Let’s do everything we can to bring Jews together, become one united Klal Yisroel and merit the Final Redemption.

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Meet Dr. Hillel Broder, Principal of General Studies at DRS

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as an English major and discovered my calling as a teacher leader and as a teacher researcher ten years ago.

While teaching for five years at MTA and then five years at SAR, I first completed an M.A. in English, and then I continued on to complete a Ph.D. in English, both in the CUNY system.

I found that my practice as a teacher was strengthened and challenged by my alternating practice as a student: each reinforced the other.

to growing our social-emotional curriculum; and to articulating and implementing a 21st century vision for education founded on collaboration, communication, and critical and creative thinking. Looking forward – and this is really the long-view – I’m excited about rethinking the place, form, and role of formative and summative assessment, and I’d like to expand and streamline our elective offerings.

What drew you to DRS specifically? What was it about DRS that interested you to apply for this position?

I have to say that my friends from the first graduating classes of DRS were some of the most passionate, well-adjusted, thoughtful, reflective, and smart people that I knew. I heard stories about the culture of DRS from its very inception – and so when I saw a leadership opportunity open at DRS, I knew that this was an opportunity be a part of something great.

Aside from your principal duties, will you be teaching any classes at DRS? Yes, AP English Language! I insisted; there was no way that I could leave the joy and life-giving energy of the classroom.

What are your thoughts on the importance of having a general studies curriculum within a yeshiva setting?

I subscribe to Rav Kook’s teaching that the only difference between kodesh and chol is that chol is not yet kodesh. I know that to live an integrated Modern Orthodox life, our students must see the potential for sanctifying the world. I also know that to live a unified life, our students must see that all branches of knowledge and wisdom can be integrated, correlated, and brought into productive tension.

What do you hope to accomplish during your first year as general studies principal?

I’ve been telling everyone that I’m on a “listening tour.” I believe strongly that you can lead by listening, and so in my first year, I hope to listen closely to the educational needs of our students, the professional needs of our faculty, and the greater needs of our community. I also hope to respond to those needs, to address those needs, in whatever ways I can. But I want to start from a place of listening. In the near future, I’m looking forward to growing our new teacher supervision program;

When stopping by a classroom, for an informal observation, how would you determine if students were learning and properly engaged?

Every student learns differently, and every teacher’s lesson channels different strengths in our students – so I’d look for a full range of dispositions that demonstrate active learning, and especially those that are least obvious. I’ve always thought that the best lessons (at least in my home discipline, English) are those where each and every student says something, reads something, and writes something. So to answer your question: I’d look to some sort of active engagement, and even if the student were actively listening.

What is your “teaching philosophy”?

I’m a big believer in process pedagogy, which means one thing in English, but which might mean something comparable in teaching, writ-large: namely, students should be taught that the work produced and understanding achieved are both part of a greater process of becoming. If students are always on the path of learning, school serves as a segment of that greater process. Perhaps the greatest thing we can teach our students is how to become lifelong learners, how to become aware of themselves as learners, and how to challenge themselves independently and appropriately beyond our classrooms.

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t a meeting of Yeshiva Darchei Torah’s Board of Directors and Executive Board on Sunday. On the agenda: planning for the Yeshiva’s upcoming historic event.

Yoav Taub with Rabbi Yaakov Bender

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Klal Yisrael to Join in Yom Limud and Tefillah on Yahrtzeit of Chofetz Chaim Schools and Businesses the World Over to Participate in Unique Programming

By Chaim Gold

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he Chofetz Chaim’s impact on Klal Yisrael is felt every day and continues increasing exponentially. Whether through his Sefer Chofetz Chaim that has transformed Klal Yisrael by educating them to take greater care in areas of speech and bein adam l’chaveiro or through his sefer Mishnah Berurah which every Jew must know in order to conduct his day-to-day life according to halacha, the impact of the Chofetz Chaim on our everyday life is colossal!

Yidden are obligated to show hakoras hatov for good bestowed upon us. Perhaps there is no person in recent generations to whom we owe more spiritual hakoras hatov than the Chofetz Chaim who bestowed the twin brachos of the Mishnah Berurah and the Sefer Chofetz Chaim upon us, seforim that illuminate our spiritual lives every single day of the year.

Indeed, the yahrtzeit of the Chofetz Chaim is a special eis ratzon, a remarkably opportune time to invoke rachamei shomayim. This year, on Friday, 24 Elul/September 15, Klal Yisrael will utilize this eis ratzon by engaging in an International Yom Limud and Tefillah. Jews from all over the world will recite specific chapters of Tehillim and learn segments from the two seminal seforim written by the Chofetz Chaim, the Mishnah Berurah and the Sefer Chofetz Chaim.

Uniting in Tefillah The Yom Limud and Tefillah, being held under the auspices of Dirshu and its kiruv arm, Acheinu, is designed to reach out with a message of achdus to all Jews from across the spectrum and at all levels of observance, promoting Torah learning and tefillah. There is so much strife in the world, so much danger, as countries threaten one another and natural disasters plague us. There is so much polarization and heated rhetoric. Combining sur meirah with aseh tov, the Yom Limud and Tefillah has been designated as a day

Yom Tefilla gathering at Kever Rochel last year

when all Jews will learn the seforim of the Chofetz Chaim and make a special effort to avoid discord, lashon hara, as well as any form of gossip.

This year’s Yom Limud and Tefillah is the third such event. Last year’s event attracted some 500,000 Jews worldwide and culminated with a deeply inspiring trip by gedolei Yisrael from Eretz Yisrael and America to the kever of the Chofetz Chaim in Radin. This year, as the Chofetz Chaim’s yahrtzeit falls out on Friday, the large delegation of gedolim will not be traveling to Radin. Nevertheless, Dirshu will have representation at the kever of the Chofetz Chaim where heartfelt tefillos will be said. Organizers of the Yom Limud and Tefillah hope to tap into the innate feeling of every Jewish neshama, in these extraordinary times where we face threats from within and without, for a concentrated effort in tefillah and achdus to invoke rachamei shomayim in the zechus of the heiligeh Chofetz Chaim who was so moser nefesh to promote these ideals among Klal Yisrael.

Special Tailor-made Programming for Hundreds of Chadarim and Schools Hundreds of chadarim and schools from the United States, Canada and Eretz Yisrael have signed up to participate in the Yom Tefillah.

This year, Dirshu prepared special age-appropriate material for schools that will bring the message and legacy of the Chofetz Chaim to life. According to Rabbi Ahron Gobioff, Dirshu’s North American Director, “Dirshu prepared three different booklets to be distributed to participating boys’ school and girls’ schools across the United States and Canada. The booklets, are specifically designed for three age groups: grades 1-3, grades 4-6 and grades 7-8. The booklets contain age-appropriate halachos from both the sefer Chofetz Chaim and Mishnah Berurah, as well as beautiful inspirational and educational stories about the Chofetz Chaim with age-appropriate biographical material about the Chofetz Chaim and his life’s mission. The booklets are available in both English and Yiddish, thereby

enabling each school to participate b’achdus in accordance with their mesorah. The schools will also say Tehillim on behalf of Klal Yisrael and the tefillah of ‘Acheinu Kol Bais Yisrael.’

“I was amazed at the level of enthusiasm shown by the principals and leadership of the schools for the program!” exclaimed Rabbi Gobioff. “It was remarkable to see how gratified they were to incorporate this instructive and educational programming into their curriculum on the auspicious day of the yahrtzeit of the Chofetz Chaim.

“Without a doubt, the merit of the Torah learned on the Chofetz Chaim’s yahrtzeit, combined with the enhanced observance of bein adam l’chaveiro and bein adam l’Makom, will serve as a tremendous zechus for Jews the world over,” Rabbi Gobioff concluded.

Aside from the hundreds of boys’ and girls’ schools participating throughout Eretz Yisrael there will be North American participation from a wide range of schools hailing from communities such as Mon-

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sey, Lakewood, Brooklyn, Toronto, Houston, Baltimore, Cleveland, Waterbury, Phoenix, Staten Island and Los Angeles.

In addition, numerous shuls and many frum-owned businesses have signed up to take a few minutes on the Yom Tefillah of Friday, 24 Elul/ September 15, to join with Klal Yisrael and recite Tehillim and learn the sefarim of the Chofetz Chaim.

They will recite two chapters of Tehillim and learn the daily limud of Daf HaYomi B’Halacha, Siman 254, along with the daily mussar from the Chofetz Chaim’s sefer, Torah Ohr. The anticipated Yom Limud and Tefillah has already begun generating a tremendous atmosphere of goodwill and achdus amongst Klal Yisrael.

Connecting with the Chofetz Chaim by Joining Daf HaYomi B’Halacha “An additional purpose of the Day of Limud and Tefillah,” explained Rabbi Shlomo Rozenstein, Dirshu’s Communications Director, “is to encourage Yidden the world over who have not yet joined Daf HaYomi B’Halacha to join the program together with the multitudes throughout the world. Perhaps there is no greater zechus to invoke rachamei shomayim than additional Yidden joining those who are already learning the sefarim of the Chofetz Chaim in a daily program of halacha and mussar.

“In fact, gedolei Yisrael from both Eretz Yisrael and America who comprise the Nesius of the Daf HaYomi B’Halacha have urged all who

have not yet joined the Daf HaYomi B’Halacha to join and make it part of their lives.”

Acheinu Promotes Day of Unity beyond the Torah Observant Community Efforts are also being made to tap into the auspicious day of the Chofetz Chaim’s yahrtzeit to reach beyond the Torah observant community under the auspices of Dirshu’s kiruv arm, Acheinu. Last year, this aspect of the campaign for ‘A Day of Jewish Unity’ became so noteworthy that the mainstream media as well as the secular Jewish media covered the story. News outlets such as Newsweek, Newsmax and Huffington Post carried stories about the fact that Jews from all over were designating a “Day of Jewish Unity” on the yahrtzeit of the Chofetz Chaim as a day of prayer and unity – a tremendous kiddush Hashem. This year similar efforts are being made to further build on last year’s success.

As the Chofetz Chaim’s yahrtzeit approaches, now is the time to join with Klal Yisrael in the Yom Limud and Tefillah this coming Friday, 24 Elul/September 15.

To participate, please say Tehillim perek 20 and 130, learn the sefer Mishnah Berurah, Chapter 254 from the middle of se’if gimmel until the middle of se’if hei, and learn the Chofetz Chaim’s sefer Torah Ohr from Perek 1 until ‘V’isah b’Megillah.

Now is the time to tap into this unique eis ratzon!

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You gotta be kidding Jimbo and Bubba rent a boat and go fishing in a lake. They are amazed at the number of fish that they catch that day, so Jimbo says to Bubba, “We’ll have to come back here tomorrow!”

Bubba asks, “But how will we remember where this spot is?”

Jimbo says, “Simple.” He takes a can of spray paint, paints an X on the bottom of the boat, and says, “We’ll just look for this X tomorrow.”

Bubba says, “You fool! How do you know we’ll get the same boat?”

School Political Correctness Guidelines (Sincere apologies in advance if you may be insulted) No one fails a class anymore; they’re merely “passing impaired.”

You don’t have detention; you’re just “exit delayed.”

Your bedroom isn’t cluttered; it’s just “passage restrictive.”

A student isn’t lazy; he’s just “energetically declined.”

Your locker isn’t overflowing with junk; it’s just “closure prohibitive.”

Kids don’t get grounded anymore; they merely hit “social speed bumps.”

Your homework isn’t missing; it’s just having an “out-of-notebook experience.”

You’re not sleeping in class; you’re “rationing consciousness.”

You’re not late; you just have a “rescheduled arrival time.”

You’re not misbehaving; you’re merely having a “moment of reflexive self-expression.”

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Answer to riddle: The wind blew over the tents; it did not blow the tents over.

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FANTASY FOOTBALL TRIVIA 1.

How much did team founder Tim Mara purchase the New York Giants for in 1925? a. $500 b. $500,000 c. $1,000,000 d. $15,000,000

2. Phil Simms played quarterback for the Giants from 1979 to 1993. Which uniform number did Simms wear for the Giants? a. 2 b. 11 c. 14 d. 23 3. Who was the New York Giants’ starting quarterback in their 1991 Super Bowl victory against the Buffalo Bills? a. Jeff Hostetler b. Phil Simms c. Dave M. Brown d. Boomer Esiason 4. Which coach led the Giants to the most victories during the 20th century? a. Bill Parcells b. Dan Reeves c. Steve Owen d. Tom Coughlin 5.

Who was the Giants’ first round pick in 2004? a. Eli Manning b. Plaxico Burress c. Jeremy Shockey d. Phillip Rivers

6. Who caught the winning touchdown pass in the 2008 Super Bowl? a. David Tyree b. Plaxico Burress

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A B A C

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D B D D

9. B 10. D

Wisdom Key 8-10 correct: You are True Blue! Here comes the Gatorade!

4-7 correct: You were probably there for all the good times (but none of the bad).

0-3 correct: Hey Jets fan, you went 0 for 3; that’s better than your team, which will probably go 0 for 16 this season!

c. Amani Toomer d. Mario Manningham 7.

The 1986 championship Giants team is credited with starting which now-popular NFL tradition? a. The wave b. “I’m going to Disneyland!” c. End-zone dancing d. Dumping Gatorade on the coach

8. The 2007 Giants had fewer of these than any other Super Bowl team in history: a. First downs b. Receptions c. Penalties d. Pro bowlers 9. How many points did the Giants score in the 2012 Super Bowl? a. 14 b. 21 c. 24 d. 27 10. What New York Giants defensive back went on to have a Hall of Fame career as an NFL coach? a. Vince Lombardi b. Don Shula c. John Madden d. Tom Landry

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Torah Thought

Parshas Ki Savo

By Rabbi Berel Wein

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oshe describes in horrid detail the ravages of the disaster that will befall the Jewish people towards the end of their long exile from their homeland. We no longer have to accept the descriptions outlined in the words of Moshe as they appear in this week’s Torah reading on faith alone. We have eyewitnesses, testimonies, films, official documented government records, and written memoirs that describe to us in excruciating exactitude the corroboration of Moshe’s dire prediction made over three millennia earlier.

So, there are some who somehow contend that the words of Moshe are at best superfluous in our generation.

A picture, it was once said, is worth a thousand words. But such a view is very short-sighted. It misses the very points that Moshe wishes to teach us in his awful vision of what will be the fate of the Jewish people before the beginning of our ultimate redemption.

Firstly, as Ramban points out, it is utterly astounding that a human being, prophet though he may be,

can accurately describe events and emotions that will occur thousands of years later. We cannot even peer around the corner of time to know what the morrow brings. Simply put, the vindication of the prophecy and words of Moshe themselves are one

Secondly, if any lesson needs to be constantly repeated to the Jewish people it is that all actions, ideas, and agendas that violate Torah principles and values eventually lead to disastrous consequences. These consequences may not be initially appar-

Simply put, the vindication of the prophecy and words of Moshe themselves are one of the strongest pillars of faith upon which Judaism and the Jewish people rest.

of the strongest pillars of faith upon which Judaism and the Jewish people rest. It is not for naught that we shout and sing that Moshe is truth incarnate and his Torah is absolute truth. To doubt Moshe is to deny Judaism.

ent; it may take many years and even generations for them to appear and take hold. As Churchill once said, the wheels of history may grind very slowly but they grind very fine.

Moshe warns us not to repeat past errors and foolishness and to know

that the G-d of justice will always eventually enforce justice even to the end of days. The Jewish people can only ignore this truth at their own great peril. Even a cursory glance at Jewish history will validate this conclusion quickly and impressively.

Finally, Moshe concludes this section of the Torah with a promise of hope and redemption. As Rabbi Akiva pointed out long ago regarding the desolate ruins of the Temple, only those who have witnessed the minute accuracy of the verses of destruction and punishment will then have complete faith in the verses of consolation, redemption and eventual greatness.

The light at the end of the tunnel only appears to those who are experiencing the tunnel itself. Our generation that survived the horrors of the past century should bear witness and bring hope and faith to our view of the future of the Jewish people.

Moshe sees our struggles and difficulties and nevertheless promises a bright and holy future.

Shabbat shalom.

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From the Fire

Parshas Ki Savo Every Man Will be a King

By Rav Moshe Weinberger Adapted for publication by Binyomin Wolf

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he customs of the Jewish people are very holy, and we say the following tefillah over the head of a fish or sheep on Rosh Hashanah night: “May it be Your will that we should be the head and not the tail.” But how we can pray for this when the Mishna says in Avos (4:15), “Be a tail to lions and not a head to foxes.” This is understood to teach that one should be humble, not always running to be the “head,” the most important role in whatever he involves himself. Indeed, there is tremendous grace and charm in one who makes himself the “tail” by conducting himself in a humble way. As the pasuk (Mishlei 3:34) says, “[Gd] gives grace to the humble.”

Our parsha is filled with blessings. And to the extent some psukim in the parsha appear to be the opposite of blessings, it is only because we do not know how to read them properly. One pasuk (Devarim 28:13) seems to “side” with the Rosh Hashanah custom: “And Hashem will make you the head and not the tail. You shall be only above and you will not be below when you listen to the mitzvos of Hashem your G-d which I command you today, to observe and do.” Targum Yonasan, in his interpretive Aramaic translation of the phrase “the head and not the tail,” renders the phrase: “Hashem will make you kings and not simple

people.”

Indeed, the pasuk (Shmos 19:6) says, “You shall be to Me a kingdom of kohanim and a holy nation.” But what does it mean that every Jew can be a king? As we will quote below, the Ibn Ezra explains

vow (to refrain from drinking wine or cutting his hair) a Nazir, which literally means “crown.” The pasuk makes this explicit when it says (Bamidbar 6:7) about the Nazir, “for the crown of his G-d is on his head.”

He says, “Know that all people are

At least I still have my enjoyment of yom tov with my Rebbetzin.”

this beautifully in his commentary on parshas Naso. It must be noted that the Ibn Ezra himself suffered from profound poverty and suffered throughout his life. Nevertheless, he was a great talmid chacham and paytan and the Rambam even refers to him as a chassid, a pious individual. Because of his constant lack of success at anything he attempted to do in order to improve his situation, he once wrote, tongue in cheek, “If I became a candle-maker, the sun would never set, and if I began making burial shrouds, people would stop dying.”

The Ibn Ezra explains why the Torah calls one who makes a nazir

slaves to the desires of the world.

But a true king who has the crown of kingship on his head is anyone who is free from these desires.” It is therefore appropriate and fitting to call a Jew who is not a slave to his desires a “king.”

Perhaps that is what Targum Yonasan means when he translates “the head and not the tail” as “kings and not simple people.” In order to be masters of our own destiny and not slaves to our baser instincts, we must do as the pasuk in our parsha continues, “to observe, l’shmor, and do,” which implies that we must guard, shemira, ourselves by setting up boundaries to ensure that we do

not become enslaved to the illusory pleasures, values and priorities of this world.

As we recently said, we merit to be Hashem’s bride by acting as His betrothed. When He said, “Behold you are betrothed, mekudeshes, to me,” we recognize that the intimacy of our relationship means that we must be separated like hekdesh from the things of this world. By freeing ourselves from being enslaved to our desires, we enable ourselves to connect to G-d as kings, as masters of our own lives. By doing so in advance of Rosh Hashanah, we not only coronate Hashem as King, but we make ourselves kings as well – not simple people. By doing so, we will merit “only above and not be below.”

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hat does it mean to be a king, to be the head and not the tail? This is exemplified by a story, some aspects of which many people do not like.

But it illustrates the point extremely well. Reb Nachum Chernobyler, zy”a, was extremely poor, though he had one valuable asset – the Baal Shem Tov’s tefillin. The Chernobyler only donned these tefillin once or twice a year, on special occasions.

Because they had belonged to the Baal Shem Tov himself, they were extremely valuable. Many chassi-

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dim would have paid a fortune of money for them. From time to time, when their poverty was particularly difficult, the Chernobyler’s rebbetzin asked him to sell the tefillin to help support the family. But he always demurred, finding some other way to manage.

One year, before Sukkos, no one in Chernobyl had an esrog except for one wealthy man. Knowing this, the rebbetzin was surprised when the Chernobyler came home one day with an esrog. She asked the Rebbe, “How did you manage to get an esrog when there is only one person in town with one?” Presumably preparing to duck to avoid any flying objects, the Rebbe answered that he had made the gvir an offer he could not refuse by trading the Baal Shem Tov’s tefillin for the esrog.

Enraged that the Rebbe had finally “sold” the tefillin – not to support their family, but to buy an esrog – the Rebbetzin threw the esrog across the room. The Rebbe looked at the esrog and realized that the pitom had broken off, rendering it unusable for the mitzvah of Arbah Minim on Sukkos. While the Rebbetzin’s frustration was understandable, it would also have been understandable if the Rebbe had gotten upset at this point, given that he had held off selling the precious tefillin for so long, only to have the esrog he had bought with the tefillin disqualified before he even had the chance to use it.

Instead of getting upset, the Chernobyler said, “I once had the tefillin of the Baal Shem Tov, but now I do not. I once had an esrog, but now I do not. But at least I still have my enjoyment of yom tov with my Rebbetzin.”

If one is a slave to the desires of the world, he looks to the pleasures and values of the world for his happiness and fulfillment. Such a person will always lack something, so he will never be satisfied. But one who, like the Chernobyler, looks only to Hashem and trusts in Him, is free from the bonds of the world and can be serene in any circumstance.

This is what it means to be a Jew. From the time a young man be-

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comes a bar mitzvah, he is called a bachur. The Tosafos Yom Tov in the tenth perek of Nedarim quotes the Maharal that because the word for bachur has the same letters as “one who chooses, bocher,” we know that the essence of being a young man in Yiddishkeit is that he must make choices. He must be a master of his own destiny. He must choose to be

a king and not a slave to his desires, above and not below, a head and not a tail.

This Rosh Hashanah, may we merit to coronate not only Hashem but also ourselves as kings. By letting Hashem guide our choices so that we are not enslaved by the desires, values, and priorities of this world, may we merit to see the world

in which “Hashem will be King over the entire earth; on that day Hashem will be One and His name will be One” (Zecharia 14:9).

Rav Moshe Weinberger, shlita, is the founding Morah d’Asrah of Congregation Aish Kodesh in Woodmere, NY, and has served as Mashpia in Yeshiva University since 2013.

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Between the Lines

For Crying Out Loud – Or Not

By Eytan Kobre

They cried, and G-d heard, and He delivered them out of all their troubles. -Tehillim (34:18)

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aron Rothschild’s wife was in her bedroom in the final stages of labor when the Baron was sitting downstairs with some friends, waiting for the auspicious moment. Suddenly, they heard the Baron’s wife cry out, “Mon Dieu, mon Dieu!” (“My G-d! My G-d!”)

“Baron,” said his friends, “go up to your wife. You should be at her side now.”

“Not yet,” replied the Baron.

A few minutes later, they heard another cry. “My G-d, my G-d!”

“Go up to your wife,” said the Baron’s friends. “She requires you at this time.”

“Not yet,” replied the Baron.

At last, his wife cried out, “Gevalt!”

“Now!” said the Baron, and he rose abruptly and bounded up the stairs to his wife’s side.

While the story is more about how Jews historically have concealed their true identities in for-

eign lands, it also says something about our penchant for crying out and baring our souls in the most trying of times.

We cry out about what impacts us to our core: Eisav, upon learning Yaakov had taken Yitzchak’s blessings (Bereishis 27:34); the Jewish people, when G-d punished them for their incessant complaining (Bamidbar 11:2); Moshe, when his sister was afflicted with leprosy (Bamidbar 12:13).

So it is no surprise that – as we retell during the offering of the Bikkurim (First Fruits) – the Jewish people enslaved in Egypt “cried out to G-d…and He heard our voices” and redeemed us (Devarim 26:7). It was only “on account of their crying out [that] He accepted their prayers with His mercy” (Ramban, Shemos 2:24-25; Yerushalmi, Ta’anis 1:1; Shemos Rabba 21:1; Shir HaShirim Rabba 2:30).

In other words, it wasn’t our prayers that G-d heard, it was “our voices” – “without words of prayer, rather crying out from the depths of the heart” (Ha’amek Davar and Chofetz Chaim, Devarim 26:7). And that is what merited redemption.

Soon after, when the Jewish people approached the Red Sea

with Pharaoh and his legions in hot pursuit, they again cried out to G-d from the depths of their hearts (Gur Aryeh, Shemos 14:10). That’s just what we do in times of need. That alone is effective. Formal prayer is not required.

The power of crying out to G-d (tze’aka) cannot be overestimated.

It is one of four things that staves off bad decrees (Rosh HaShana 16b; Pele Yo’etz, Tze’aka), and G-d assures us that He will always heed our cries of desperation, whether communal or individual (Mechilta, Mishpatim 22; Tehillim 34:17-18; Tehillim 107:6). And He does.

During World War II, the Nazis (ym”sh) were storming through Northern Africa, looming over Israel (then Palestine). Staring down the same unspeakable fate as their European brethren, throngs of Jews assembled before the Italian consulate in Jerusalem to plead for some sort of intervention that might save them. Led by the great mystic R’ Yehuda Pesaya, they appealed to the mercies of the Italian ambassador.

But the ambassador was powerless; the Germans would be invading Palestine the next day, he confirmed.

Nothing could stop them.

With nowhere else to turn, the

desperate crowd descended upon Kever Rochel, where they crammed into the small chamber room and poured out their souls throughout the night.

At daybreak, R’ Yehuda addressed the crowd. “I believe the decree has been averted! The Germans will not set foot on the Holy Land. I know this because I saw our matriarch standing upon her grave listening to us cry out to G-d and she too cried out to G-d, and—” Before he could finish his thought, two messengers arrived from his wife. She too had dreamed that Rochel was standing on her grave listening to the Jews cry out to G-d in prayer until she joined them in pouring out her heavenly soul on behalf of the Jewish people.

And, as it turns out, the British army miraculously rebuffed the German onslaught.

To be sure, crying out to G-d can be a form of prayer (Devarim Rabba 2:1; Da’as Zekeinim, Devarim 3:23) – but it is also so much more than that. It is “a prayerful raising of the voice from the deepest recesses of the heart” (Pele Yo’etz, Tze’aka), and it is “greater [than prayer] because crying out is in the soul…and that is dearer to G-d” (Zohar, Shemos 20).

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It is an act not as much of the lips or the mind or even the heart, but of the soul itself.

Those who have had occasion in their lives truly and desperately to cry out to G-d understand viscerally the distinction between prayer (tefilla) and crying out (tze’aka).

Prayer is deliberate and methodical and composed; crying out is desperate, chaotic, even haphazard – we resort to it when nothing else seems

bush and walked away so as not to see him suffer and die. But while it was Hagar who “wept in a loud voice” (Bereishis 21:16), it is said that “G-d heard the cry of the boy” (Bereishis 21:17). There had been no mention of the boy crying, but some cries are silent.

As Rebbe Nachman of Breslov put it: “One can shout loudly in a small, silent voice, without anyone hearing, because one doesn’t emit

“One can shout loudly in a small, silent voice, without anyone hearing, because one doesn’t emit a sound but simply screams silently with this soundless small voice.”

to work (or at least when we believe that nothing else is working). The place for prayer generally is the synagogue, but crying out is not so confined – it can take place even in the middle of the street (Ta’anis 15a-16a). Crying out is reflexive. It is frantic. It is unplanned. It is deeply personal. It is gut-wrenching.

And that’s why it works.

Whether formal prayer is a Torah obligation is a matter of some debate (Rambam Tefilla 1:1; Rashi, Berachos 20b), but all agree that crying out to G-d in times of need is an absolute obligation (Rambam, Sefer HaMitzvos, Positive Commandment No. 5 and Ramban ad loc.). “There is a positive commandment to cry and call out with the trumpets upon every crisis which confronts the community…This is the manner of repentance, that during times of crisis they should cry and call out…”

(Rambam, Ta’aniyos 1:1-3).

And yet, to be effective, crying out need produce no audible sound.

Like the silent cry emanating from a child in extreme distress, some of the deepest and most penetrating cries are the silent ones – the ones so desperate that no sound at all is emitted. Those silent cries are devoid of vanity; they are heard only

by G-d, and they ascend to Him without interference.

Banished from Avraham’s household to the barren desert, Hagar dumped her son Yishmael under a

a sound but simply screams silently with this soundless small voice.

Anyone can do this. Just imagine the sound of such a scream in your mind. Depict the shout in your imagination exactly as it would make a sound. Keep this up until you are literally screaming with this soundless small voice. This is actually a scream and not mere imagination…

When you picture this scream in your mind, the sound actually rings inside your brain. You can stand in a crowded room, screaming in this manner, with no one hearing you” (Sichos HaRan 16). And sometimes those are precisely the cries of utter desperation that G-d heeds.

The Selichos imminently upon us take the form not of prayer (tefilla) but of crying out to G-d (tze’aka) (Rabbi Joseph B. Soloveitchik, “Redemption, Prayer and Talmud Torah,” Tradition, Volume 17, No. 2 [1978]). Distilled to its essence, Selichos is just this: “Answer us, G-d, answer us!” (Ta’anis 17a). Simple.

Frank. Desperate. Poignant.

Crying out to G-d – out loud or silently – is the quintessential act of Elul.

Eytan Kobre is a writer, speaker, mediator, and attorney living in Kew Gardens Hills. Questions? Comments?

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The Observant Jew

A New Lease on Life

By Rabbi Jonathan Gewirtz

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fter thirty years of driving, and twenty-something of having my own car, I finally crossed to the other side. For all my years of car ownership, my cars were bought. I owned them, and any scrapes, dents, or mechanical problems were my own. Recently, however, I got my first leased car.

Leasing a car for many has been the norm, and I’ve heard all the horror stories about going over your allotted mileage, having to fix dents and dings, and worrying what the inspector will see when you return the car. Sometimes people have a relationship with the dealer and can have some things slide, but it’s not a sure thing.

So now, here I am, finding myself in the leagues of those who lease, and suddenly I’m worried about those things. When I take a trip, I wonder how this will affect my overall mileage account, even though I’ve paid for a higher level of miles. I start making calculations about how I use the car, since it’s not a free-for-all. Of course, I’m at the beginning of my lease and I figure I’ll ease up closer to the end, so it will be OK. I see that I’ve changed in other ways as well. When I see dirt on the car, I think that perhaps I should get it washed, lest the build-up eat through the paint and I’ll have to pay for it later. I notice even the tiniest blemishes and try to wipe them away to make sure they’re just surface dirt and not actually gouges or gashed

into the car’s exterior.

But I don’t write about cars; I write about life. This time, the insights I gained from my car experiences are teaching me some important lessons about life. The biggest lesson is that my life is not my own.

Just as my car is actually owned by

it looking for signs of misuse, abuse, and negligence. The same goes for our souls.

Hashem is going to look at what He gave us to work with and will determine whether we used it properly, took care of it, and performed the recommended maintenance. He’s

The biggest lesson is that my life is not my own.

the bank, and I just have the privilege of using it for a set time, I realize that our bodies and souls belong to Hashem and we just get to use them.

Of course, with a car you know how long the lease is for, and with life, we don’t get to see that part of the contract.

Saying, “I’ll use less miles towards the end of the lease” may work, but saying, “I’ll do the right thing later in life” doesn’t, because we don’t know when the lease is up. That’s why our Sages say, “Repent one day before you die.” Since we don’t know when that is, “every day will be spent in repentance and good deeds.”

I think about washing the car.

Doesn’t this seem to be an eerie parallel to “at all times your clothes should be white”? When the car gets returned, someone is going to go over

going to see whether we cared about the dings and scratches and tried to protect our souls from deterioration.

I remember my grandmother used to say that we’re given a certain number of words in life, and when we use them up, we die. No, that’s not scary to a six-year old at all. Sigh.

When I first heard that, I stopped talking completely (not that it lasted so long).

Though I didn’t become a permanent mute, the idea of being concerned with how we use our words and when we use our words, just as I calculate and think about using the miles, is an important piece of our existence. In fact, Chazal say that Man’s mission in life is to make himself mute; that is, to control his mouth and actually think before he speaks.

Bottom line: Leasing a car has given me a whole new perspective into the life I’ve been given. It makes me realize that my life is not my own to simply do with as I please; I must make sure I follow the Manufacturer’s guidelines to avoid voiding the warranty.

I must care for its appearance and health and be concerned on a daily basis about the effects today will have on the tomorrow when I will need to turn it back in for inspection. It’s meant for my pleasure and benefit while it gets me where I need to go, but I need to remember that ultimately both the destination and the journey are more important than the comfort of the well-appointed interior.

I now have a new lease on life and hope these words will drive you in the same direction.

Jonathan Gewirtz is an inspirational writer and speaker whose work has appeared in publications around the world.

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Memoirs of a Forgotten Rabbi The Troubled Life of Rabbi Tzvi Hirsch Ferber

By Rabbi Pini Dunner Rabbi Tzvi Hirsch Ferber (1883-1966) was a Lithuanian-born Torah scholar who spent fifty years as the spiritual leader of a small community in the West End district of London.

In several previous articles Rabbi Dunner introduced us to Rabbi Ferber’s memoirs, allowing us to glimpse the life of this revered rabbi for the very first time since he began recording it in vivid detail in 1938. After a brief hiatus, Rabbi Dunner is continuing his translation of Rabbi Ferber’s memoirs. The narrative continues with the story of Rabbi Ferber’s family and early life experiences.

The translation is not a word-for-word rendition of the original Hebrew. Rabbi Dunner has stuck as closely as possible to the original, except where the Rabbinic Hebrew makes an exact translation difficult, or where ambiguities need to be corrected. The material has also been abridged where necessary, or expanded where more details are required.

MORE MEMORIES OF MY FAMILY AND TEACHERS My Parents My greatest regret of all is that I failed to honor my parents properly with financial support. When I was young and single, I was totally immersed in my Torah studies and was fully supported by them; I had nothing of my own. Afterwards, when I was newly married, I was not able to support them either.

Seven months after our wedding my mother arrived at our house. She was already widowed, as my father had died, and it quickly became clear that she wanted to move in and live with us permanently. I was very concerned that if she did move in conflict would inevitably erupt between her and my wife, and so, despite her reluctance to go, she left and went back home to Slabodka.

Only after arriving in London in 1911 was I finally able to support my mother properly. But it was too late.

She died in December that year, and was buried in Slabodka cemetery.

The only one in our family who was able to take care of our mother in those final years was my righteous sister, Feiga Beila, and she dutifully fulfilled the Jewish obligation of honoring a parent. My father pre-

deceased my mother after suffering from debilitating diabetes. In those days the medical profession did not know too much about diabetes, and he died on 12 Adar, 1906.

May G-d in His compassion take care of their souls under the shadow of His wings, and may they find tranquility in Heaven, together with the souls of all righteous men and women, until the end of days. And may G-d forgive me for not having honored my parents properly and give me the opportunity to atone.

My parents’ graves were tragically lost in the aftermath of the Great War, when the local government destroyed part of the cemetery in Slabodka, which means that I am not even able to visit their graves to seek their forgiveness.

My Brother David We also had another tragedy at my parents’ home, and it still haunts me. It totally devastated my parents and caused them enormous grief in their old age. Soon after the passing of my illustrious brother Rabbi Eliezer Lipman, my brother David became unwell. He was two years older than me – a fine young man and a diligent Torah student, very sincere and devout, and extremely kind hearted. But at the age of about

twenty-years-old he suddenly went into a severe depression. Despite the efforts of numerous doctors, and the prescription of countless medications, there seemed to be no way to cure him. This new tragedy completely shattered my father.

Everybody said that David’s depression had been triggered by the death of our older brother, and it got progressively worse. At first he said he was troubled because he could not find a suitable study partner. Then he was unable to get any satisfaction from his Talmud studies — he constantly felt that he was missing something, and that his learning wasn’t good enough. After that he became very anxious about getting married and that he would need to find a wife before he had finished his rabbinic studies. And he was constantly worried that nothing he was doing had any purpose.

He was totally consumed by all of these anxieties and ended up becoming a complete recluse, laid up at our parents’ home for five years in a very agitated state, until, after my father died, he was forcibly removed to a mental hospital in Nowowiejska near Vilna, where he died in 1907, after having endured his dreadful illness for many years. What a waste of a precious soul – he was such a fine

Rabbi Ferber's older sister, Feiga Beila Flaum

character, so G-d-fearing, a lover of Torah, and even an author of Torah homilies – I even found a short manuscript of his that he had wanted to publish.

David was the first person to encourage me to publish my commentary on the Torah, and to call it “Kerem Hatzvi.” When I was just a boy he would urge me to record all the Torah ideas I heard in writing, so that in the future I could include them in my publications. He was such a dili-

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gent Talmud student – if only someone could have cured him, he would certainly have developed into a very great scholar. What a terrible tragedy that he was taken before his time – an irreplaceable loss. I still have a set of ten Torah books that he bought with his own hard-earned money, and he wrote his name in them, and I have made sure to mention him a few times in my books, so that his memory will never be forgotten.

My Sister Rivka; My Brother Pesach My beloved sister Rivka was a very distinguished woman. Her husband died young, and left her with a family of young children. She brought them up on her own. After I moved to London in 1911, I supported her financially to the best of my ability. She lived in a place called Aleksotas, near Kovno. Then she became sick with typhus, after which the war broke out, and even though she was extremely sick, they evacuated her deep into Russia and she died on the journey. Her children were scattered all over the place, with neither a mother nor father, and I tried my best to support them with my limited resources.

One of her daughters still lives in Kovno. She was widowed at a young age, and I send her money. Another one of her daughters married the son of my relative Rabbi Shmuel Eliezer Halevi Bukantz, the chief rabbi of Helsinki, Finland, who later moved to Jerusalem, where he died in 1935.

That daughter now lives in New York.

Two of Rivka’s children live in Paris, and from time to time they send me letters. One of them, a daughter, is married to a man with the last name Rudnick. His brother, Rabbi Yitzchak Rudnick, lives in London, and is married to the daughter of my friend Rabbi Pinchas Yaakov Gerber.

In fact, I was the one who suggested the match that resulted in their marriage. Sadly neither of the Rudnick brothers has had any children.

Another one of my siblings, Pesach Ferber, died in New York in 1936, at the age of 75. He was the next one in the family after my oldest brother, Rabbi Eliezer Lipman. He had a dye business, which suited our surname “Ferber,” which means “dyer” in

Yiddish. For many years he lived at my parents’ home together with his family. When he became much older he moved to New York to be together with his children who had moved there. His son, Maurice Ferber, is a silversmith living in Paris, and he

Because he had enough money to support himself after the wedding, my brother continued his studies at the Kelm yeshiva for a few years, under the guidance of Rabbi Simcha Zissel Ziv, its founder, who was known as the “Alter (Elder) of Kelm”.

Remarkably, he had engraved the text on his own gravestone, only leaving out the day, the month, and the year – and I actually saw it while he was still alive.

has a store there that sells silver objects. The rest of his children live in America. Pesach’s wife was Chaya Rivka. Her father was a G-d-fearing man called Reb Yisrael, whom I knew very well – he was a gravestone engraver by profession. Remarkably, he had engraved the text on his own gravestone, only leaving out the day, the month, and the year – and I actually saw it while he was still alive.

My Brother Rabbi Mordechai Ferber My other brother, Rabbi Mordechai Ferber from Shavel, was a great rabbi, famous for his Torah scholarship and piety. In his youth he studied at Reb Abba Chatzkel’s private school in Slabodka, the same as me.

He became an expert on the Yoreh Deah section of Shulchan Aruch. My father fully supported him through his studies, and when he was old enough the great rabbinic luminary, Rabbi Yoizel Horowitz, founder and leader of the Novardok yeshiva network, set my brother up with the daughter of the renowned Kabbalist, Rabbi Shlomo Eliashiv.

Although my father did not seek any promises of financial support for his son, as he was delighted for my brother to be marrying into such a distinguished family, Rabbi Eliashiv insisted on giving my brother a dowry of 500 rubles. Most of the money came from one of his wealthy supporters, a man from Berlin called Obadiah (Emil) Lachman, who gifted 450 rubles to every one of the rabbi’s children when they got married.

While he was in Kelm my brother also became acquainted with Rabbi Yehuda Leib Ziegler, a man renowned for his piety and saintliness. Rabbi Ziegler never took a paid public position in Kelm, but he was nonetheless highly revered, known to all as Reb Leib “Hasid” (the pious), despite insisting that he was

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plain “Mr. Ziegler”. He formed a very strong bond with my brother, and when his wife died asked my brother to deliver the eulogy at the funeral.

My brother was ordained by Rabbi Tzvi Yaakov Oppenheim of Kelm and Rabbi Moshe Shmuel Shapira of Kurshan. He also received ordination from Rabbi Shimon Shaima Luria, the rabbi of Shavel. But he was not interested in securing a rabbinic position, preferring to remain a businessman and support himself with the profits. My father helped him get started, and he quickly became very successful.

Despite the fact that he was running a profitable business, he regularly gave well-attended community Torah classes and public discourses and devoted a lot of his time to Torah study. He also married off all his daughters to Torah scholars.

After the Great War my brother fell on hard times. His son-in-law, Rabbi Yosef, together with my brother’s daughter and grandchildren, were stuck in Russia at the mercy

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of the awful Soviet government and unable to leave. My brother’s only son was unable to communicate by speech, only in writing, which was a tremendous strain on his financial resources, and very draining emotionally. On a number of occasions my brother reached out to me for help, and I helped him as best I could.

During the war my brother also lost his wife, a woman of exceptional intelligence and wisdom – if anything, she was even brighter than he was. My brother remarried, but his luck seems to have run out. He lost the money he had saved for his youngest daughter’s dowry, after having invested it with a wealthy man who turned out to be a swindler.

My brother asked me for financial help, but with my limited resources there was only so much I could do.

My sister, Feiga Beila Flaum from Jerusalem, helped him marry off his daughter, providing him with hundreds of British pounds for her dowry.

The marriage in 1930 of Rabbi Yitzchak Rudnick (1904-1975) to Yetta Gerber, daughter of Rabbi Pinchas Yaakov Gerber of London. Rabbi Rudnick’s brother was married to Rabbi Ferber’s niece in Paris, and Rabbi Ferber was the “shadchan” for this couple. He can be seen standing between the bride and her father, to the left of the photo

My Sister, Feiga Beila Flaum My sister Feiga Beila Flaum was older than me by a few years and far greater than me in righteousness and piety. Initially she endured tremen-

dous poverty and hardship, as her husband was a simpleton, unable to support them both. My father helped them out for years by providing them with a rent-free house to live in.

When her children reached adulthood they immigrated to the United States, and after a few years she followed them there, with the intention of strengthening Torah and Judaism in America.

She was a very persuasive woman, and influenced many of the women she got to know to set up organizations that would focus on strengthening commitment to Torah and Jewish life. But ultimately she realized that her own children were too set in their ways and were never going to be fully observant Jews, so she left them and went to the Holy Land, where she worked with everything she had and convinced others to do everything they could to support Torah and those who studied it.

My sister was particularly supportive of the Beis Yosef Novardok yeshivas, as she knew Novardok Ye-

shiva’s founder, the illustrious Rabbi Yoizel Horowitz, who was a close family friend. She became like a mother to the boys studying at the Novardok yeshiva in Israel, looking after their every need.

Pinchas Grayevski, who published numerous works about modern settlers in the Land of Israel, published a photo of my sister together with details about her life in one of his books and described her many great deeds and achievements supporting Torah in the Holy Land.

When she became widowed, I advised her to marry Rabbi Yosef Sharshevski of Slonim, who had moved to the Holy Land. She married him, and takes care of his financial needs, allowing him to sit and study Torah full time in peace and tranquility.

To be continued...

Rabbi Pini Dunner is the Rav of Young Israel North Beverly Hills in California.

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Breaking Up is Hard to Do

By Gedaliah Borvick

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e recently marketed an apartment in Jerusalem’s Greek Colony. After three families made similar initial proposals, one buyer raised his bid and the owner accepted his revised offer.

While the lawyers were revising the contract and the buyer was completing his due diligence, another potential purchaser showed up at the seller’s door and submitted an offer that was 500,000 NIS higher than the accepted price. The owner, in an impressive show of menschlichkeit, refused to accept the offer, explaining that he already had a handshake on the deal.

This act of elevated ethics got us thinking about what Jewish law, halacha, and Israeli law would say in this situation.

In Jewish law, the Shulchan Aruch, Choshen Mishpat 237 states that generally (and yes, there are many exceptions to this rule) once a buyer and seller have reached an agreement, another person may not interfere with the deal by offering a competing bid. One who does so is considered by the Talmud (Kiddushin 59a) to be a “rasha” – a wicked person (see also Bava Metzia 49a).

Let’s now consider Israeli property law. A verbal offer and acceptance is not sufficient, rather, a written

document is needed for the agreement to be legally binding. According to the letter of the law, the document requires the following elements: the buyer’s and seller’s names, property address and description, price, payment schedule, vacancy date, statement regarding who will pay sale-related taxes, and the signatures of both parties. In fact, there’s a famous

notwithstanding the lack of a signed document. In addition, there exists in contract law the concept of negotiating a deal in “good faith,” which requires both parties to act with honesty and integrity. The courts have determined that once the parties have agreed in principle on the main deal terms and the lawyers have begun contract negotiations, the par-

In fact, there’s a famous Israeli Supreme Court case where a buyer and seller discussed a potential deal over coffee and jotted down these seven terms on a dirty napkin.

Israeli Supreme Court case where a buyer and seller discussed a potential deal over coffee and jotted down these seven terms on a dirty napkin.

That soiled napkin was deemed by the court to be a valid contract!

Recently, the courts have relaxed their requirement for a written document and have judged in some cases, based on the actions of the parties, that there was a binding agreement

ties are legally obligated to negotiate and attempt to finalize the deal in good faith, and a breach of good faith can be grounds for liability. In most cases where a deal is broken due to a breach of good faith, the aggrieved party will not be granted an order for specific performance, i.e. contract execution and fulfillment. However, one can sue and, depending on the circumstances, recover expenses

and damages.

Jewish law and Israeli law take generally similar approaches regarding real estate transactions, with some subtle differences. Fittingly, the accepted practice among brokers and attorneys is that once there is a handshake on a deal and both parties’ lawyers have begun a dialogue, the property is taken off the market and the seller will not entertain other offers so long as the buyer works in good faith to expeditiously close the deal. Revisiting the story at the beginning of this article, we now know that the seller’s decency, although undoubtedly admirable, was merely in accordance with halacha and Israeli law.

Thank you to Rav Avishai David, shlita, for the halachic guidance and attorney Josh Portman for the legal guidance. This article is meant for informational purposes only. Please contact an attorney should you require legal counsel.

Gedaliah Borvick is the founder of My Israel Home, a real estate agency focused on helping people from abroad buy and sell homes in Israel. To sign up for his monthly market updates, contact him at gborvick@gmail.com. Please visit his blog at www.myisraelhome.com

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n the fall of 2015, Israel’s Ministry of Health recognized United Hatzalah as one of the two national EMS providers of Israel. The organization boasts some 3,500 volunteers country-wide who are on call 24 hours a day, seven days a week, 365 days a year.

Through utilizing community-based responders who drop whatever they are doing and rush to the scene of a medical emergency, as well as the organization’s iconic ambucycles, United Hatzalah of Israel decreased the average EMS response time in Israel to less than three minutes – the lowest response time of any EMS service in the world.

As opposed to ambulances that are dispatched from stations, United Hatzalah volunteers come from the community and could be one’s co-worker or next door neighbor. The responders carry a fully equipped medical kit, an emergency vest identifying them as a first responder, and both a radio and smartphone, which connect them to the national dispatch center in Jerusalem at all times.

By means of the advanced technology developed by the organization, the national dispatch center can locate and notify the closest responders to any medical emergency via an application on their smartphone.

This application notifies the dispatch center as to the whereabouts of the responders, what level of training they have and what equipment they

have available to them so that the dispatch center can send the necessary personnel to each incident in a matter of seconds.

The concept of having community-based volunteer responders responding to each and every medical emergency in their proximity alleviates dependence and pressure on the often overburdened government supported ambulance providers and EMS systems, while simultaneously galvanizing and increasing community resiliency. In Israel, volunteer

there to treat and stabilize the patients before the regular ambulance arrives on the scene.

The model isn’t new. It was started in Brooklyn back in the 1960s.

The difference lies in the application of the community-based Hatzalah response model to a much wider area, such as an entire city or country and for the nationalizing of the institution to include volunteers from all walks of life in Israel. The organization includes ultra-Orthodox, National Religious, and secular

“We will not stop until we have an emergency medical responder on every block, in every city, throughout the country, so that we can provide this feeling of safety and self-assurance to every resident in Israel.”

EMTs, paramedics and doctors leave their home, work, or school and respond to an emergency that takes place right next to their current location instead of waiting for an ambulance to arrive from a dispatch center.

This model is revolutionizing the field of EMS by placing the community volunteers on the front lines as the immediate responders who are

Jewish volunteers, as well as volunteers who are Arab, Bedouin, Druze, and Christian. Both men and women volunteer with the organization, making it a true symbol of Israeli cooperation and existence by unifying people from all backgrounds and cultures in Israel for a single purpose – saving lives.

In the past ten years since its inception, United Hatzalah has re-

sponded to more than 2 million calls and saved the lives of hundreds of thousands of people. Each year, the organization responds to some 260,000 calls and treats each individual with the highest level of care available. Moreover, not a single person has ever been charged for services by the organization, as all medical services provided are completely free of charge.

The organization, which began as a group of individual haredi organizations, was officially formed after those organizations unified in 2006 following the outcome of the Second Lebanon War and the need for a national first-response organization that provided medical services ahead of the arrival of ambulances was clear.

The work that United Hatzalah does is not aimed at being the transport vehicle to take an injured or sick individual to the hospital but in being the immediate response to save critical seconds and respond before an ambulance can arrive. Ambulances, through no fault of their own, often get bogged down in traffic or held up by weather conditions such as snow or rain. Occasionally, some even have difficulty finding a location in a crowded section of a city that can be hard to reach. These community-based models use a responder who is already near the location and notifies them about the emergency via advanced cellular technology that pinpoints the lo-

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cation of the patient and sends the responders who are closest in proximity to the person in need of care.

In the case of mass casualty incidents or trauma, triage can begin and immediate medical treatment can already be taking place before the ambulances arrive, enabling the ambulance teams to simply load the patients onboard and transport them to the hospital for continued care.

Today, United Hatzalah’s pre-ambulatory organization has expanded beyond just providing emergency medical services (EMS) to people in need. The organization is always innovating and creating new projects to help the Israeli populace receive the best health care in the fastest and cheapest way possible. These projects include Ten Kavod, which provides free inhome medical services to the elderly; the Hospital Emergency Room Partnership Project; and United Hatzalah’s Psychotrauma and Crisis Response Unit that provides psychological and emotional stabilization for those who suffered trauma at the scene of an incident. The organization also conducts instructional classes for schools, families, organizations and businesses, as well as providing medical equipment to kindergartens, schools and non-profit organizations.

The organization adheres to the strictest standards of Jewish law and even the more than 300 non-Jewish volunteers become versed in the intricacies of the issues surrounding pikuach nefesh and Shabbat. This is so that they will be able to respond properly to their Jewish patients. Similar-

ly, all volunteers undergo sensitivity training to know how to provide optimal care for people from different religions or backgrounds. United Hatzalah shares all call information with all necessary organizations such as the Fire and Rescue Department, the police military and the Israeli ambulance services.

The community-based response is an investment in human resources. The medical volunteers give their time, which is their most precious resource, while United Hatzalah gives them everything else. This includes training and equipping them with fully stocked emergency response kits. Additionally, United Hatzalah builds a sense of community among the first responders. In Israel, the organization has divided the country into 43 chapters, each with its own group of volunteers and its own identity. Each chapter trains together, gets together for communal celebrations and has a local media spokesperson. While each chapter has their own identity and responds to emergencies in their territory, each responder is also connected to the national response system and can receive calls anywhere in the country. If a responder is visiting a friend in a different city or is vacationing with their family in a remote location and a medical emergency occurs in their vicinity, they will be notified and able to respond even if they are outside of their local chapter.

Imagine an EMT, paramedic or doctor, from the tristate area vacationing in Florida when a hurricane hits. That trained medical professional under the

current 911 system cannot help someone in need who is down the block and may be in dire need of medical attention. What is worse is that in certain conditions, such as snowstorms, ambulance services may take an inordinate amount of time before they are able to reach the person in need and that person will go untreated despite of having a fully trained EMS responder nearby. In Israel, such a scenario can no longer happen.

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he United Hatzalah model has stood up under real-life situations including mass casualty incidents (MCIs) such as terror attacks, natural disasters, and everyday medical emergencies such as car and bicycle accidents, falls from high places, illnesses and traumas. The United Hatzalah network of volunteers respond to an average of more than 800 daily calls nationwide. The system works, and the volunteers are highly trained and effective due to their constant activity. The daily activity and constant response to emergency calls are important because if a responder is not utilizing their skills on a day-to-day basis, the effectiveness of the responder, and hence the entire response team, dwindles during largescale emergencies. The preparedness and readiness of any response team depends upon how much they practice and use their skills every day.

An incident that illustrates this point was a building fire in Jerusalem that occurred in early September 2016. Over 40 people were transported to the hospital, many thankfully only suffering minor inju-

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ries. Due to the well-oiled response of the community-based responders, who arrived within 90 seconds of being notified, ambulance teams didn’t need to stop and wait to do triage at the site. The result was that over 40 people were transported to the hospital in less than 30 minutes. Medical teams from surrounding hospitals and the ambulance service as well as the fire and rescue department, police department and social services, worked hand-in-hand with United Hatzalah response teams to allow for fast assessment, treatment and transport of all the patients. Even the patients who were suffering from shock we treated on site by United Hatzalah’s psychotrauma and crisis response unit.

Success of this nature does not happen when responders only see one or two calls a year. A team of

community-based responders that can respond quickly, provide accurate assessment and treatment, and alleviate the burden of EMS teams in the community in which they work can provide these successful results.

This type of model not only allows for fast treatment and evacuation of patients, but it also builds unparalleled resilience within the community. Your average citizen will feel more confident knowing that their neighbor is there with the knowledge and expertise needed that enables them to provide emergency medical care if needed. United Hatzalah’s

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community-based EMS response is a force multiplier for emergency and disaster preparedness at the highest level and fulfills the Judeo-Christian value of “love thy neighbor.”

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ov Rubin of Elad is a United Hatzalah volunteer EMT who inspired his community after he rescued an infant from choking at the end of January. Rubin is a dedicated husband and father of 6. He works as a food importer and has been volunteering for United Hatzalah for nearly four years. Rubin has always been involved in community work but was driven to become an EMT after witnessing a traumatic incident that his community did not know how to properly cope with.

Rubin was alerted to a ten-dayold baby boy who was choking. Rubin raced to the nearby address and arrived to the scene in less than 60 seconds! Sprinting into the apartment, he found frantic parents beside a baby who was already turning blue. The experienced medic swiftly picked up the baby, tilted him downwards and gave him sharp measured back blows. Immediately, the baby spit out the blockage in his airway, allowing Rubin to administer oxygen which stabilized the infant’s condition.

With the help of another United Hatzalah volunteer responder, Rubin carried the tiny infant downstairs to meet the ambulance, with the oxygen flow continuing unabated. Moments later, when the ambulance pulled up, Rubin handed over a breathing and stable baby to the crew for immediate transport to the hospital.

“The ability that the organization gives us as volunteers to save lives in terms of equipment, knowledge, and ability is simply amazing,” said Rubin after the incident. “United Hatzalah makes me feel as if I am part of a larger family or part of a community

dedicated to saving lives, which is in direct contrast to how I felt during that meeting all those years ago.

The community felt that if an emergency took place in our community that there would be no one to answer the call. We had numerous incidents where a medical emergency occurred and no one knew what to do.

“When my friend and I finished our training to become the first EMTs in our community, the entire community breathed a sigh of relief.

People saw how effective it was to have someone from the community be able to provide medical support and treatment which led others to become certified EMTs as well. We now have almost ten volunteers helping others whenever there is a need, and we are supported and embraced

by United Hatzalah, which is our larger community and family. It really makes a difference for us. People feel safer and more self-assured that if something happens we will be there to make sure that everyone is alright.”

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li Beer, president and founder of United Hatzalah, said, “This is the very reason why United Hatzalah was founded. We have 3,500 volunteers currently active in the field. We have another several hundred in training. We provide emergency medical response on average in under three minutes and we are continuing to grow. We will not stop until we have an emergency medical responder on every block, in every city, throughout the country, so that we can provide this feeling of safety and self-assurance to every resident in Israel.

“If a medical emergency occurs, I want everyone in Israel to rest assured that someone nearby will be able to respond and treat the injured or sick person in a professional manner with the best equipment possible.

“No life should be lost due to a lack of proper and timely medical response.”

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What Would You Do If… Moderated by Jennifer Mann, LCSW of The Navidaters

Our daughter Rena married a man who charmed her, us, and everyone from the first date. We all fell in love with him. However, as soon as Pinchas and Rena got married, he let his true colors come through. He was constantly critical and disgusting toward our daughter, privately and even in public. He would insult her and put her down. We never actually came right out and told Rena that we thought she should divorce Pinchas, but we would drop hints and let her know that we were concerned about her.

Then, after a year and a half of marriage and no children, the most wonderful thing happened. Pinchas decided he wanted a divorce. We viewed this as a gift from Hashem. But despite her terrible marriage, Rena was devastated that he was leaving her. She had a very difficult time dealing with feelings of abandonment. And also, after eighteen months of abuse, I think she felt truly beaten down and worthless. At the time, all we could see was that now Rena finally had an opportunity to meet someone who would appreciate her and treat her the way she deserved. But all Rena could see was her failure as a wife.

We forced her to speak to a therapist a few times, which she felt was helpful, but bottom line, Rena is not interested in dating now and, according to her, maybe never. She says she doesn’t trust men and is very happy living at home with me and my husband, where she feels safe. She has not gone out since her divorce, and, of course, the clock is ticking away. My husband and I are very concerned that Rena will never want to date again and eventually will spend her life looking after us.

What can we do as parents to help Rena understand that what happened with Pinchas is out of the ordinary and that it’s safe to go out again and consider marriage? How does someone get over such a traumatic experience?

Dear Navidaters,

Disclaimer: This column is not intended to diagnose or otherwise conclude resolutions to any questions. Our intention is not to offer any definitive conclusions to any particular question, rather offer areas of exploration for the author and reader. Due to the nature of the column receiving only a short snapshot of an issue, without the benefit of an actual discussion, the panel’s role is to offer a range of possibilities. We hope to open up meaningful dialogue and individual exploration.

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am sorry that Rena has gone through the experience you described. The feelings of abuse, abandonment, feeling beaten down and worthlessness that you ascribe to her are normal. So is the feeling of failure. Some people feel unequal to making a good choice in a spouse after a divorce. But all of these emotions are not the same. Abandonment feels different than abuse, which feels different than worthless.

Don’t confuse these feelings that you say your daughter has.

Your job as a parent is to be supportive of your daughter and give her the tools to process the end of the marriage. One of the tools is re-

spect for her adulthood and privacy.

Remember that she is an adult child – even if she is a child. She needs to process things without your active involvement. It’s good that she is seeing a therapist and she should be encouraged to do so. But you should not be forcing anything. Although Rena is living at home, she is an adult and needs to be treated as such.

Your tone seems rather dramatic.

She is not doomed to permanent singlehood because of an unsuccessful short marriage. It may have been traumatic but she will move forward with help, time and space. Give her those gifts. And give yourselves the tools to give them to her – get professional help for yourselves. Learn the skills to be supportive in a healthy way that will help your daughter.

The Mother Sarah Schwartz Schreiber, P.A.

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f all the trials and tribulations of parenthood, nothing is as painful as watching your child suffer.

You may have winced when Rena got her first vaccinations, tossed and turned while she endured the growing pains of adolescence, and, years later, shed bitter tears during her tortured and abusive marriage of 18 months.

Now Rena is back in the comfort and safety of her childhood home.

While you acknowledge her divorce is a “gift from Hashem,” it’s understandable that your heart aches for her abuse and abandonment. It’s also natural for you to be anxious for her to get back on the horse and ride

Give Rena the gifts of love, encouragement, privacy and space.

happily into the sunset. Sorry Mom, toss your ticking clock; recovery from trauma, or PTSD, in psych-speak, is not automatic or predictable.

Rena seems like a sensitive soul (having been duped into marriage by a sociopath and enduring his torment for almost two years). She needs time to process the ordeal, time to rebuild her self-esteem, time to regain confidence in others. This will take a lot of work and a competent therapist. As for your role? Give Rena the gifts of love, encourage-

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ment, privacy and space. Your priority for her is mental health – not marriage – so she has the emotional equilibrium to make healthy decisions in her bright (er) future.

The Single Tova Wein

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hen anyone is in the middle of a crisis, it’s hard to see clearly and find the confidence in knowing that things will change and that life won’t always look as bleak as it does

in the minute. Right now, it sounds as though Rena is still deep in the throes of a very painful few years and probably believes that her heart will never mend and that she doesn’t want to ever risk putting herself in this situation again.

You, however, as the adult, surely knows that our hearts are resilient and do, with time, mend. As an outsider, looking in, this reality should ease your fears to some degree, knowing that Rena can say and mean one thing today but that doesn’t mean that with a proper amount of time and healing she won’t say and feel quite differently.

Pulling It All Together The Navidaters Dating and Relationship Coaches and Therapists

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can almost feel your desire and sense of urgency that Rena start to date and get remarried.

It is palpable. I have to wonder if you have allowed yourself to process the pain and suffering that your daughter has been through and continues to experience. If you have, please forgive me. But I would be remiss if I weren’t to acknowledge that it would be emotionally easier to move on from this and see your daughter remarried than it would be to sit in this horrible pain. If you were to feel this, you may break down…and you may not have the luxury to do so.

I’m not going to save my advice for the end of the column; I’m going to say it right now. You and your husband (if he shares this “clock is ticking” mentality) should speak with a mental health professional right away to help redirect your energy and efforts. The very worst thing for Rena right now is to feel pressured to jump back into a relationship.

What does Rena need right now? She needs you to say, You were duped! No-

body saw it coming. I cannot believe what you have lived through. She needs an emotional mirror. She doesn’t need to be moved through this quickly. She needs to be validated.

She needs time to process. She needs time to understand how she got into such an abusive relationship and, furthermore, time to understand why she stayed for eighteen months. If she were to start dating without having processed her trauma and rebuilt her ego strength, the odds of her finding herself in another abusive relationship are quite good. So, let’s slow this down a bit. Of course, she is scared. Of course, she doesn’t want to date right now. Of course, of course, of course. Your new personal motto and mantra is Of Course.

Why Of Course? Two reasons. The first is, Of Course Rena’s feelings make sense. This speaks to the enormous amount of validation you are going to give her right now. Being in a psychologically, emotionally or physically abu-

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Therefore, I think your role right now is to respectfully give Rena the time and space she needs to heal and also to set a different tone around your house – a tone that conveys that you feel confident in her future.

Be positive, encouraging and loving without putting pressure on her.

As an aside, it sounded to me as though she met with a therapist for a couple of times and that was the end of it. I think she probably needs to settle into a longer relationship with a great therapist who can help her along the road toward happiness, confidence and optimism.

Let her unpack her suitcase of baggage in the comfort of her childhood home so she will not unpack it in her next relationship.

sive relationship throws off a woman’s inner compass. Abusive men tamper with their wives’ sense of reality. This is how they keep their victims coming back for more. They’ll tell you it’s day when it’s night. They’ll tell you it’s black when it’s white. Abused women stop trusting their own intuition and sometimes their sense of reality. She needs a safe place where she can learn to trust herself again. And that place is not with a new husband. It’s with you and her father, it’s with trusted relatives and friends. It’s in new experiences she will have as a single woman.

The second reason is that Rena’s reactions, decisions and emotions right now are Of Course or on course. In other words, everything she is doing, feeling, saying and thinking is to be expected.

This is going to take time. Your daughter is in pain. Let her unpack her suitcase of baggage in the comfort of her childhood home so she will not unpack it in her next relationship. You can encourage her to seek out therapy again; perhaps there is a local support group for women who were in abusive relationships. (The therapy is not to help get her ready to date again. The therapy is to help her find herself and heal.)

And you can encourage her to engage in therapeutic activities where she will

slowly regain her confidence and sense of self. What does she enjoy? A gym class, a bike ride, a shiur, pottery painting, taking a long walk, seeing a friend, cooking… Many women exiting abusive relationships enjoy taking up karate or Krav Maga to learn self-defense. It can be very empowering. My hope is that as you become healthier in the way of pressuring her less that she will feel more comfortable and commit to therapy.

Thank G-d, Pinchas wanted the divorce. You got your daughter back. That is all you need to think about right now.

When Rena is ready, she will date again and hopefully find a man who is worthy of her. Try to stay in the moment. Take deep breaths, cry to a friend, and take care of yourself. You’ve been through a trauma as well.

Sincerely, Jennifer Mann, LCSW Esther Mann, LCSW and Jennifer Mann, LCSW work with individuals, couples and families in Hewlett, NY. As The Navidaters, they specialize in dating and relationship coaching. To set up an appointment, please call 516.224.7779.

Sessions are held in the office or via Skype. If you would like to submit a dating or relationship question to the panel anonymously, please email thenavidaters@gmail.com. Visit their website, thenavidaters.com for dating and relationship advice and to learn more about their services. Follow The Navidaters on FB and Instagram. Check out the hit web series Soon By You, and be sure to tune into the Navidaters After Show!!

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Dr. Deb

Step 5: A Good Way to Get Ready for Rosh Hashana

By Deb Hirschhorn, Ph.D.

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ast week, Step 4 of the 12 Steps in (hopefully) overcoming addictions was the focus of this column because it ties so nicely to Elul. Step 4 says,

“We made a searching and fearless moral inventory of ourselves.” To me, this seems equivalent to our cheshbone hanefesh. The only way we can do teshuva is if we first

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know what we did.

This neither means beating oneself up over errors nor does it mean skipping over this requirement in favor of the (wrong) assumption that davening and fasting on Yom Kippur will do the trick without any inner work. These approaches don’t lead to a more satisfying, happier life. I made the case that doing that inner work helps us to see what new and different paths we ought to take – and that’s a good thing.

The Alcoholics Anonymous people, it seems, took a cue from us when they came up with the next step in the process. Step 5 says, “We admitted to G-d, to ourselves, and to another human being the exact nature of our wrongs.”

Once you are completely aware of what you did that may not have been the best choice and you want to make changes, the most reliable way to begin that process of change is to tell someone. Members of the various 12 step programs (for all sorts of addictions) select someone to literally monitor their behavior, in a friendly way, of course. But they go further. To do this step properly, they confess to the people in their lives what they did that was hurtful.

That means a lightning quick, “I’m sorry for the pain I caused you over the last 15 years,” will not

do. What exactly was the nature of that pain? How did it feel? What did you do? When did you do it? To whom?

This is a much more difficult step. People generally know when they hurt someone; they can tell by the look on the other person’s face.

Even over the phone, they can hear a catch in someone’s breath as they gasp in shock at what is being said to them. What is harder is to know exactly what about it was hurtful.

If you think this is obvious and doesn’t need explanation, the reality is that many, many people don’t seem to understand what it is that hurts the people they love.

So doing this step requires more than introspection and confession.

There is a missing step in between: understanding feelings.

I have a chart in my office area which is a poster-sized page of emojis, created before there were emails and cell phones in which to send them. Underneath each is the word for the emotion that that particular face stands for. It is amazing how many people are unaware of the fine gradations of their own feelings, let alone that of their spouse or children. I take out my emoji chart often because people need to start expanding their vocabulary in the feeling area. There is no other way to really know someone – starting with yourself

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– than to pinpoint the distinctions in emotions.

There is also no other way to heal with hurt feelings than to pinpoint the exact nature of the hurt that we gave someone. And this can only be done when you are intimate with the world of feelings.

This is what Step 5 is about; this is, I think, what Elul, Rosh Hashana, and Yom Kippur are really about.

The bonus is that once you truly understand your loved ones’ feelings – and how you hurt them – not only are you in a position to repair the damage and start fresh, but you know them now. You know them in a way you never did before. This is what intimacy really is: Knowing. Which should bring you closer. And there is nothing like the sense of connection to someone you understand and who understands you. This is a beautiful bonus after all.

But where do you start? Maybe it is overwhelming to wonder how you can accomplish this in a short time. The reality is that you won’t.

This is akin to learning piano; it won’t happen in two weeks. But that is really okay. As long as you are willing to keep up the effort after the yom tovim, you will reap all the benefits. So get started.

Here are three steps to understanding your loved ones’ feelings:

Be A Listener It’s amazing what you can learn when you actually listen. The trick is to stop preparing your counter-argument while you’re supposed to be listening because then you’re not listening after all.

Sometimes people will say, “Our relationship is too far gone; my spouse won’t talk to me so I can’t listen.” I’ve heard this often, but the truth is, they really will speak to you (except in the most estranged of circumstances); you just weren’t listening well enough to catch it. In fact, part of listening is looking. If all you do is notice the expression on your spouse’s or child’s face, you will get tons of in-

formation.

That Leads to Reflecting Once you have heard something or seen a shadow cross a face, you can now reflect back on what you thought you just heard or saw. “Are

stand what our spouse feels, the easier it is to respect them. It is only when there are many pieces of the puzzle missing that we think, “Well, they just don’t get it,” or something even less complimentary than that. Here, there’s

There is nothing like the sense of connection to someone you understand and who understands you.

you saying that when X happened, it scared you?” Or if you are pretty sure what you understood, you can say it more confidently: “You were feeling betrayed when I did Y. Do I have that right?” (Even if you’re confident, you still need to check if you were right.)

This is not mind-reading or what I call psychoanalyzing. It is very disrespectful for spouses (or even parents) to tell the person they love what that person was thinking or feeling or what their motives were for doing something.

If you want psychoanalysis, go to a trained professional. Don’t do it to loved ones.

Can you see the difference?

When your loved one says something, you simply reflect what you heard. You don’t make inferences because that would be mind-reading.

That Leads to Respecting I always tell people they don’t have to agree with what their loved one says, thinks, or does. But they still have to respect it. It is not possible that you or I have a lock on Truth; the members of your family are entitled to draw their own conclusions and make their own choices, and simply because they were imbued with a G-dly soul, we have to respect them.

The nice piece here is that the more we deeply know and under-

a word of warning: They might not understand themselves well enough to communicate all this to you. That’s okay. If you have several conversations about the topic,

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the clarity will eventually come.

Clarity will come when they feel the respect you have for them to begin with. So do it this way: Assume that even though you don’t yet understand, you eventually will. Therefore, you should respect them right now. Then let that respect grow as you get to know them better.

If you use the above three steps to figure out exactly what you did that hurt your loved one, you will be well on the way to utilizing this period of time the way it was meant to be. And the benefits you’ll get will be amazing.

Dr. Deb Hirschhorn is a Marriage and Family Therapist. She can be reached at 646-54-DRDEB or by writing drdeb@ drdeb.com.

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Health & F tness

The Back to School Lunches

By Cindy Weinberger MS, RD, CDN

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hat’s it! Summer is officially over! Disappointed kids are now spending their days indoors behind desks. Jovial parents are relieved that they no longer have to entertain their children. Teachers are finally going back to work. The quiet streets are filled with school buses and honking cars. And parking spots? What’s that?! Those are history. Back to school means back to reality. Back to homework and packing lunches every night. Aside from packing lunch becoming burdensome, it can also get challenging coming up with a variety of healthy, yet yummy lunches for your kids.

Here are some ideas of healthy lunches to pack for your schoolchildren.

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Mac ‘n’ cheese: Most kids love macaroni and cheese. The problem is that one bowl of mac and cheese is approximately 400 calories and has little nutritional value. How do we make mac’ n’ cheese a more nutritious meal? For starters, use whole wheat pasta instead of original macaroni. This way your child gets whole grains and fiber from the whole wheat pasta – and less calories! When it’s covered in ketchup, they can barely see or taste the difference. Next, instead of melting American or mozzarella cheese, use low fat cottage cheese. Cottage cheese gives mac and cheese a creamy texture, with less calories, added protein and calcium. Even though some might argue that this meal is heavy on the carbs, carbohydrates supply glucose to the brain and provide the body with energy. For active kids, complex carbohydrates are important. Potatoes, rice, pasta, and bread are all good sources.

2. Tuna fish: Tuna is packed

with protein, vitamins, minerals and heart-healthy antioxidants. Protein is essential for growth. Protein-rich foods also help your child feel full for longer. Tuna is great choice to send your kids for lunch, whether in a sandwich or with some crackers or even with veggie sticks.

3. Fish sticks: All fish are a great source of protein. Tuna and fish sticks tend to be the most kid-friendly out of all the fish options. Your child might refuse to eat

in protein, iron, and low in calories.

Mash up hardboiled eggs. Add in a little low-fat mayonnaise, salt, pepper, onion powder, and garlic powder. Again, you can put the egg salad in a sandwich with some veggies, or send it with crackers or veggie sticks.

5. Turkey sandwich: Turkey is another high protein food that is great to stick in a sandwich. You can stuff the sandwich with pickles, lettuce, and tomato to make it crunchy and exciting.

Ideally, the main meal in your kid’s lunchbox should include some vegetables, but it’s always a good idea to have extra veggies to munch on as a snack.

a piece of salmon but will be okay eating a fish stick. Fish sticks come frozen and make a great, easy meal by popping them into the toaster, oven or microwave. However, frozen foods do have some disadvantages.

Frozen foods can be pricey and usually have a lot of sodium and other preservatives. Instead of frozen fish sticks, fresh fish sticks are a better choice. Any fish store or fish department in a grocery store usually sell fresh fish sticks made from ground tilapia. This can be a great way to get your child to eat tilapia and get familiar with the fish taste. Fish sticks with a side of whole wheat macaroni or French fries and veggie sticks make a perfect, well-balanced lunch.

4. Egg salad: Eggs are high

6. Chicken nuggets: Kids generally love chicken nuggets.

However, once again, the frozen ones are typically not the best choice. Cut up chicken cutlets into chunks, coat with eggs, and dip in breadcrumbs, cornflake crumbs, or panko crumbs.

Cover the pan and bake on 375° for a half hour. Your kids will love these just as much as frozen chicken nuggets, if not more, and will definitely gain more nutrition.

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Avocado: Children need certain types of fat for normal cell growth and for brain and nervous system development. Avocadoes are a good source of these fats and are dense with nutrients that support growth and development, making them a great choice for kids. Slice an

avocado onto bread and even stick in a slice of tomato, a slice of cheese or sliced hardboiled eggs to make a the sandwich exciting. Or mash an avocado to make guacamole and stuff it in a sandwich or send along crackers.

Whatever lunch you end up choosing to send for your child, make at least one healthy switch.

If your child refuses a different lunch than he/she is used to, send a healthy snack or dessert instead. Include as many vegetables and fruits as you can into your child’s daily menu. Ideally, the main meal in your kid’s lunchbox should include some vegetables, but it’s always a good idea to have extra veggies to munch on as a snack. Cut up some carrots, celery, cucumber, red bell peppers, or any other vegetable that your child prefers. To make it easier to eat fruit, peel and slice it or prepare a fruit salad. Children are usually hesitant to try new foods, so it’s better to pack foods they already know and like. Slowly introduce new foods, even those that they previously refused. Start small and increase slowly as they acquire the taste for it. You might be surprised by which foods they will end up loving and begging you for more!

Cindy Weinberger MS, RD, CDN, is a Master’s level Registered Dietitian and Certified Dietitian-Nutritionist.

She graduated CUNY Brooklyn College receiving a Bachelor’s in Science and Master’s degree in Nutrition and Food Sciences. She is currently a dietitian at Boro Park Center and a private nutrition consultant. She can be reached at CindyWeinberger1@gmail.com.

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Health & F tness

Elul’s Waking Call

By Dr. Hylton I Lightman, MD, DCH (SA), FAAP

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am proud of the different people from Far Rockaway and the Five Towns who have made their way to Houston to help deal with the havoc and devastation left in the wake of Hurricane Harvey.

In addition, the monies and supplies donated, the time and expertise given thus far are beyond impressive.

Social media has been put to good use, whether helping to save lives or raise funds and awareness. The individual and collective actions all showcase that our people are gomlei chasadim, involved in the needs of the Jewish community and greater world. Mi ke’amcha Yisrael.

And yet, I’m concerned. On erev Rosh Chodesh Elul, we experienced the magnificent eclipse of the sun. It brought into 20/20 focus Hashem’s awesome world. Yet not even one week later, Harvey raged onto the scene. It’s still too soon to put a dollar amount on what Harvey’s “visit” will cost. And the lives lost are beyond any kind of monetary value and are too tragic to contemplate.

Why, on the one hand, was there extreme beauty, yet ruin and obliteration on the other?

I recall the moving words of Rabbi Mayer Twersky who spoke at the White Shul in the aftermath of the Haf Nof massacre in November

2014 when his brother, Rabbi Moshe Twersky, Hy”d, was murdered. Rabbi Twersky said that the pogrom perpetrated in Har Nof was extreme.

And also extreme were the high levels which the Kedoshim, Hy”d, had achieved in this world. The vivid contrast was meant to bring more of a balance into this world.

This is a thought that I have revisited in my mind numerous times.

And it comes to mind now. There

children are not internalizing a message that they are unworthy of chinuch. The consequences are too horrific to contemplate. And it may be, based on a conversation I enjoyed yesterday evening with Rabbi Yaakov Bender, that some parents need guidance and direction.

Further, the divorces raging with acrimony oozing and spewing forth is out of control. Divorce happens and is unfortunate. Yet the wars that

Why, on the one hand, was there extreme beauty, yet ruin and obliteration on the other?

is something out of balance in our world which abounds with public chasadim.

As I write, we are nearly half way through the month of Elul and the 2017-18 academic year is commencing. Are you aware that there are children who do not yet have schools? This is not limited to Far Rockaway and the Five Towns only.

I sincerely hope that our precious

ensue during which dignity is consumed is unacceptable. Some women refuse to accept gitten. There are men who shirk their fiduciary responsibilities, leaving school fees unpaid and their children and ex-wives without support. Some rabbonim refuse to be involved.

We as a community must address these issues. Let’s say a husband claims he gives his soon-to-be ex-

wife money for her and the children.

Yet she claims he is a deadbeat and has not given her anything. What’s one to do? The shul rav, together with two community mediators, should sit with the man and woman.

The man should bring his cancelled checks. If money has exchanged hands, then let the woman produce some kind of accounting how she has used it. Let the facts speak for themselves.

These are not pretty scenarios.

There are only victims, especially children who will be weaned on hostility and will think that this is life.

How tragic.

Elul zman is a time to think through what’s open in our avodas Hashem. It’s my sincere hope that as we help our brethren in Houston and throughout the world, we don’t lose sight of the limitless opportunities to help others within our own daled amos.

Dr. Hylton I. Lightman is a senior statesman amongst pediatricians, an internationally-recognized authority and diagnostician, a public speaker, expert witness and go-to resource for health issues in the Orthodox Jewish community.

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TJH Speaks with George Maragos, Candidate for Nassau County Executive

By Susan Schwamm

George, I know things are busy; the primary is only days away.

Your primary opponent, Laura Curran, seems to be running against Donald Trump. What’s that about?

Well, it’s odd because it is completely irrelevant to running the county and that is classic of the Democratic Party – targeting issues that are not related to local issues.

But you are a Democrat now.

So are you still willing to criticize the Democratic Party?

Yes, because I am self-funding my campaign. I’m not indoctrinated into anything. I was in private industry before I came into government.

Yes, since coming into government, some of my views have crystalized and I have evolved. But, look, Kathleen Rice was a Republican before she was elected as District Attorney.

The Democratic Party is backing Laura Curran, though.

Yes. And that gives me more motivation. If you are in Nassau County, government is ran by the Party boss.

It’s a business; it’s not about representing the best interest of the voter.

So, rather than allow an open primary, they handpick a candidate who is the least qualified and who has no record of accomplishment.

done. The middle class pays a disproportionate amount of property tax because of a shift in the tax assessment system, which I predicted would occur under the current system. Sixty percent of people are paying higher property tax to subsidize the wealthy because of the shift that occurred.

I understand that you are self-funding your campaign.

Why would you waste your money on a political campaign?

Well, you have to believe in something. I made my money and then I came into government to be a public servant. And I have served as Comptroller for eight years with honor and distinction. There is not a single stain on my reputation. I was labeled

by Newsday as [County Executive] Ed Mangano’s number one critic. I stood up against a lot of the borrowing that they wanted to do.

And there is a lot of work to be

Who is to blame for that?

It’s the tax assessment system and the special interests. Let’s say you and I have a similar house right next to one another. If you use a politically connected tax cert attorney, I get my tax assessment and you get a tax assessment. You are going to get a reduction and that burden is going to shift to me.

So what is the solution?

To assess all houses at the market value and do it annually. This way, when you get your notice you will know right away. We need to level the playing field.

How did Ed Mangano do as county executive?

I think he has done poorly because of the corruption. The special interests have gone haywire under him. We have to get rid of the special interests.

How do we do that?

We need to ban all political contributions.

How do you do that in a constitutional way?

You can do it in a contractual way, which is that if you enter into a contract with Nassau County to do business, you need to sign a contract stipulation that you will not give political contributions. So, it won’t eliminate all contributions, but it will eliminate the bulk of them because it is many of the same vendors that are doing business with the county year after year.

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Let’s talk about your roots.

Where were you born?

I was born in Greece and when I was eight we left to escape severe poverty. We went to Montreal, and I grew up there. I still have three brothers there.

Do you have a family? How many children do you have?

I have two adult sons. They took over my company. It offers high speed smart execution services. It started out as a Bloomberg competitor. They do 20% of all of the equity and options volume in all of the U.S. markets.

When did you step away from the company?

Eight years ago.

How is it having two sons running a business together?

My older son came on seven years before I left. And then the younger son came on. They complement one another—one is an engineer and the other is more of the marketing, outgoing type.

Are you still involved in the business?

Not at all. I don’t want to second-guess them; I want them to make their own decisions and learn from their mistakes, and, so far, they have made the right decisions.

What is your vision for the Nassau County economy?

We don’t have a strong economic engine to drive our economy. In the ‘60s and ‘70s Nassau County was the aerospace engine of the nation, the defense industry was here and we put a man on the moon.

We need to invest in the future.

Our kids go away for college and

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markable because I’m going up against the establishment. Now they are trying to step up their game, but I think we actually have a bigger grassroots effort than the Democrat establishment has. So, as long as everyone comes out to vote on primary day, Tuesday, September 12th, I am confident that it will turn out great.

Well, it was a pleasure meeting you. Best of luck next Tuesday. don’t come back. If we don’t invest in our future now, it’s only going to be more expensive to do later.

Is there a plan to bring more companies back?

What I am suggesting is that we build a new economy. Companies come and go, and we need to do what Boston and San Diego have done. We need to build an eco-system with deep roots here. We should focus on health care, wellness and biotech.

Why those industries specifically?

Because our biggest employers are the health care industry. We have the universities, hospitals and the health centers. So let’s invest in them and make them world class. I am not talking about a physical space; I am talking about creating an eco-system.

How do you attract companies to Nassau County?

I don’t necessarily want to attract companies; companies come and go.

When companies come for incentives, the moment the incentives end they leave and go to the next place for their incentives. I want to work with Northwell and Winthrop and invest in a way which makes Nassau County the center of the healthcare and related industries.

How is the race going?

It’s a dead heat – which is re-

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In The K

tchen

Toasted Ravioli

Ingredients 24 frozen cheese ravioli, thawed (I prefer NY Pasta Authority) 2 eggs ¼ cup milk 8 oz. seasoned Italian-style breadcrumbs Parmesan cheese, to sprinkle on top, optional Parsley for garnish, optional

Preparation Mix egg and milk until combined. Dip ravioli into egg mixture. Coat the ravioli with breadcrumbs. Press the crumbs into the ravioli gently.

Lay the ravioli on a cookie sheet lined with parchment paper.

Heat canola oil to 375°F in a medium pot. Fry ravioli in batches, 3-5 minutes per side. Place on paper towel to drain.

Sprinkle with cheese and serve hot with marinara sauce.

By Naomi Nachman

While preparing for an upcoming trip to St. Louis, I researched what kinds of foods are traditional to St. Louis. One dish that kept coming up was toasted ravioli. I’ve only tried ravioli prepared the traditional way -- but this sounded so exciting. None of the St. Louis kosher restaurants I visited served that dish, so I made my own version following my return.

Toasted ravioli is a square-shaped ravioli filled with cheese which is breaded and deep-fried until the pasta shell becomes slightly crispy, dry and golden brown (hence the name!). Toasted ravioli is traditionally served with marinara sauce for dipping; parmesan cheese may also be sprinkled on top. Toasted ravioli can be stored pre-made and frozen – which allows it to be easily prepared by busy moms.

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Artificial intelligence is the future not only of Russia but the future of humankind. Here there are colossal possibilities and threats that are hard to predict today. Whomever becomes a leader in this sphere will be the master of the world.

- Russian President Vladimir Putin giving a pep talk to students at the beginning of the school year

I am amazed and excited by what is being done here at Ziv for the sake of people from a neighboring country and an enemy, and I think you are the ones who need to receive the Nobel Peace Prize.

- Conan O’Brien, during a visit to a hospital in Sefad which treats people injured in Syria’s civil war

I hear the Coast Guard saved… almost 11,000 people by going into winds the media would not go into. They will not go into those winds unless it’s a really good story, in which case they will.

– President Trump, in Houston

This is a desperate effort by this White House to come up with a new storyline because the story that Donald Trump doesn’t want the world focused on is the Robert Mueller investigation.

- MSNBC correspondent Gabriel Sherman explaining why President Trump visited Texas last weekend

We support the Second Amendment here in Fort Bend County, and there are many of us that are armed. I would caution those that want to come and prey on our people here in Fort Bend County that are suffering so much right now. You may want to stay out of Fort Bend County because you could leave this county in a bag.

- Fort Bend County, Texas, Sheriff Troy Nehlsm making it clear to potential looters, during a TV interview, that they shouldn’t try it in his jurisdiction

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This summer we’ve had a surge of folks attempting to pay fines and printing fees with tokens from Chuck E Cheese and Bonkers. Since they are not legal tender, we cannot accept them. Please note, we also cannot accept Canadian coins.

– Facebook post by The Peabody Institute Library in Danvers, Mass.

I would not have been able to my job without the amazing team the President has assembled.

- Sentence from outgoing White House Press Secretary Sean Spicer’s farewell letter, which caused a media frenzy last week, as it contained a typo (the word “do” was missing)

It’s up to us to do everything we can build more ladders of success for every child and family that’s willing to work hard.

– From the recently disclosed letter that President Obama left for incoming President Trump, which also contained a typo (missing the word “to”). There was no media frenzy about this omission

I experienced hate firsthand today. It came from these people dressed in all black at a protest in Berkeley. Ironically they were all chanting about no hate.

Some had shields and gloves. Some had helmets. Some had gas masks.

- KTVU news anchor Frank Somerville, writing in the San Francisco Chronicle about his experience last weekend covering an Antifa rally in Berkeley

I grew up in Berkeley. I marched in anti-war protests during the sixties.

It’s one thing to read about hate. It’s another thing to be right next to it. In my opinion, these people dressed in black are just as hateful and intolerant as the people they are protesting against.

– Ibid., reaching the same conclusion that President Trump reached two weeks ago

If the optics were completely different and I was a Black Lives Matter supporter and I was attacked on the Trump side of a protest I would be in the spotlight on CNN right now... I went over to the left side to see if I could engage them with dialogue and I was instantly encircled by the so called anti-fascists.

- Trump supporter, R.C. Maxwell, who is black, in an interview with Fox News, after he was punched in the face by Antifa protesters who showed up at an “America First” rally in Laguna Beach and attacked Trump supporters

The blow by blow is simple. On my way to the other side, I was harassed by people who knew who I was, and they were imploring me to put on my MAGA [Make America Great Again] hat... Obviously I had it off because I didn’t want to be that arrogant and brash with the other side. I specifically wanted to talk to them as a black man who grew up in a lot of the areas in the black community... I was quickly encircled by Antifa and these counter-protesters, yelling racialized attacks (sellout, Uncle Tom, words I hear frequently) while I was trying to reason with the other side.

- Ibid.

I do not believe that President Trump is a Nazi or anti-Semite.

- Hillary Clinton mega-donor and Univision Chairman, Chaim Saban, in an interview with The Hollywood Reporter

ISIS is the production of the Israeli intelligence.

Most of their officers were trained in Israel, including Abu Bakr Al-Baghdadi.

- Sayed Moustafa al-Qazwini, founder and director of the Islamic Education Center of Orange County, California, in a recent sermon

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I can just no longer be in that cheerleader’s spot.

- ESPN college football analyst Ed Cunningham, who quit over his concerns about head injuries in the sport

[Kim Jong-un] is changing North Korea so much it is really becoming a 24th-century country now.

- Dennis Rodman talking about his friend Kim Jong-un’s serious modernization (approximately three centuries into the future!) during a recent interview

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We wouldn’t as a movement take a seat at the table with Trump because we wouldn’t have done that with Hitler. Trump is literally the epitome of evil, all the evils of this country… And so for us, the answer is not to sit with Trump but to resist him and to resist every single policy that he’s implemented that impacts our communities. I’m thinking about what I want my children to know in 30, 40, 50 years and I want them to know that I resisted a president at all costs because this president literally tried to kill our communities.

- Patrisse Cullors, one of the co-founders of Black Lives Matter, in an interview with the Los Angeles Times

Antifa is a radical antiAmerican, anti-free market, communist, socialist, hard, hard left censorial organization that tries to stop speakers on campuses...

I’m a liberal, and I think it’s the obligation of liberals to speak out against the hard left radicals just like it’s the obligation of conservatives to speak out against the extremism of the hard right.

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Political Crossfire

After the Islamic State is Defeated, Should Trump Leave Some U.S. Troops in Syria?

By David Ignatius

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s the U.S.-led coalition accelerates its campaign to destroy the Islamic State’s remaining strongholds in Syria, the Trump administration faces a big decision about the future: Does it want to keep some U.S. troops inside the country to help stabilize Syria after the jihadists are defeated, or does it want to pack up and come home?

The dilemma is eerily like what President Obama faced in Iraq in 2011, and the risks and benefits are similar. President Trump, like his predecessor, has expressed skepticism about permanent U.S. wars in the Middle East. But he also knows that pulling out U.S. troops from bases east of the Euphrates could create a vacuum that might trigger ethnic slaughter, regional proxy wars and a new wave of jihadist violence.

The military and civilian officials who have been closest to U.S.-Syria policy appear convinced that America should maintain a residual presence, probably something under 1,000 Special Operations Forces that could continue to train and advise – and also, restrain – the Syrian Kurdish militia that has been America’s key partner against the Islamic State. But this alliance with the Kurds is controversial, inside Syria and out.

The political map of Syria, for now, looks like a patchwork quilt, with different bands controlled by rival groups and their patrons. The U.S. and its Kurdish partners dom-

inate east of the Euphrates. The Syrian regime with its Russian and Iranian allies control the vast center of the country; Turkish-backed forces control a strip along the northern border; and a Jordanian-Russian “deconfliction” agreement has pacified the southwest.

Few analysts expect that Syria can be reunified by President Bashar Assad. So, for the foreseeable future, the country will be divided into these zones of influence – awaiting a political transition process that can re-establish the legitimacy and authority of a new central government in Da-

produced the SDF has many critics.

The Sunni-dominated Syrian opposition fears that the Kurdish fighters want to create an independent state, and neighboring Turkey sees them as terrorists. But battlefield success generates its own political momentum, and as the U.S. and the SDF have advanced, something of a bandwagon effect has developed. Sunni opposition groups now seem eager to fight alongside the Kurdish-led forces, under overall U.S. command.

This new willingness to work in tandem with the Kurds was voiced

by Riad Hijab, the head of the Syr-

The political map of Syria, for now, looks like a patchwork quilt, with different bands controlled by rival groups and their patrons. mascus.

The U.S. piece of this puzzle is the area east of the Euphrates. The Syrian Kurdish militia known as the YPG, advised by elite American forces and backed by U.S. air power, has swept across this area over the past three years, and in about six weeks is expected to seize the Islamic State’s capital of Raqqa. As they advanced, the Kurds recruited Sunni Arab allies into a broader coalition known as the Syrian Democratic Forces.

The ad hoc military alliance that

ian opposition coalition known as the High Negotiations Committee.

He said in a recent interview that his supporters want “to fight ISIS and other terrorist groups, alongside with the SDF, as long as we fight independently in separate fronts.”

Hijab claimed that up to 5,000 Sunni opposition forces would be ready to join the U.S. and the SDF in liberating Deir el-Zour, the next big town in the Euphrates Valley southeast of Raqqa. The Sunni opposition groups apparently prefer allying

with Kurds to Assad’s regime.

American officials are pleased that Hijab and other opposition leaders want to join the fight in the Euphrates Valley. But they say the new recruits aren’t ready for heavy fighting, and that Deir el-Zour will almost certainly be taken by 10,000 Syrian regime troops that are already in the town, joined by regime forces now moving east, with Russian and Iranian backing. The Iranian presence worries some U.S. officials, but they say regime control of Deir-el-Zour is probably inevitable.

U.S. commanders say the real strategic prize is further south. They say as soon as Raqqa is secure, SDF troops (joined by whatever other Arab forces are ready), will advance toward the lower Euphrates Valley, south of Deir el-Zour. The U.S. hopes that Iraqi forces across the border will help check Iranian power in the area.

What happens next? That depends in part on whether U.S. military advisers stay in eastern Syria. If they remain, say U.S. officials, they can curb the Kurds’ ambitions for independence, deter the Turks from intervening, and encourage the Sunni opposition to work with all sides. A future U.S. presence “will be essential,” says Hijab.

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Ellis Zacharias, a Man of Intelligence and Insight

By Avi Heiligman

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any of the Jewish servicemen and women in the American military joined when the country was at war. Lately, there has been a trend for Jewish Americans to join one of the prestigious military academies and serve the four or five years required after graduation. This wasn’t the case over a century ago, as there was exactly one Jewish graduate from the Naval Academy in a ten year period. This midshipman was Ellis Zacharias who served during both World Wars and became a valued intelligence officer for the navy.

Ellis Zacharias was born in 1890 in Jacksonville, Florida. His parents were early settlers in the sparsely populated area when they arrived during the Reconstruction era of American history. In 1908 he joined the Naval Academy and graduated four years later with high standings among his classmates.

From there he served on a host of

different ships including the USS Arkansas. In 1912 he was just an ensign when President William Howard Taft came aboard the battleship for a voyage to inspect the construction on the Panama Canal.

During WWI, Zacharias served on the cruisers USS Raleigh and the USS Pittsburgh in several capacities. In the two years after the war he was posted on another cruiser and then sent back to Annapolis as an instructor. Zacharias’s intelligence career began in 1920 as the assistant U.S. Naval Attaché to Japan; he worked in the American Embassy in Tokyo. During his three years in the country that would attack the U.S. he learned to speak the language and became friendly with a lot of Japanese officers. These officers became the backbone of the Japanese Navy during WWII but the resourceful Zacharias was able to glean important intelligence from the future enemy. He surmised that

these men knew that America would be at war with Japan and became aware that there were deficiencies in the American intelligence gathering network in Japan.

In 1923, a powerful earthquake hit Yokohama and he realized that “it was the foreigners among the crowd who recovered from panic and started rescue efforts. The Japanese were captives of an amazing psychic inertia, completely incapable of grasping the situation. They seemed struck to absolute helplessness.” This rare insight eighteen years before the war helped American intelligence understand the mentality of the enemy, and Zacharias himself used this insight to persuade Japan to surrender in 1945.

Following the earthquake, Zacharias returned to the U.S. For six months he was stationed in Washington, D.C., and worked with naval intelligence with their secret cryptanalyst unit. It was during this time that

he performed surveillance on the Japanese future naval commander and planner of the Pearl Harbor attacks, Isoroku Yamamto. He was the navigator on the USS Rochester and in 1926 was given command of the destroyer USS McCormick. While on another cruiser in the Asiatic, Ellis headed a radio intercept unit that was able to monitor, intercept and translate Japanese naval messages.

He then was transferred back to the USS Pittsburgh for two years before being sent on another political assignment in Japan.

From 1929 to 1931, and again from 1934 to 1936, Zacharias was the Naval Attaché in Tokyo. He was there mainly for intelligence purposes but for the most part his team included himself and just one secretary. After the earlier posting he returned to the U.S. along with another Jewish intelligence officer Sidney Mashbir. With them was the brother to the Japanese emperor for whom they were serving

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Broadcasting, on behalf of the U.S. government, on Japanese radio

as aides on his two month tour of the U.S. During his time in Japan Zacharias had scored intelligence coups

on several Japanese officers. His counterpart in the Japanese navy that served as their attaché in Washington, D.C., was Captain Tamon

Yamaguchi. They had a friendly relationship but knew that the other was gathering intelligence behind the other’s back. In 1935, while they were both in Washington, D.C., Zacharias and his wife entertained Yamaguchi for dinner one night while other naval intelligence officers searched Yamaguchi’s residence. They found evidence of a cipher machine and other valuable information useful to the U.S. Intermittently, Zacharias served on several warships including as the executive officer on the USS Richmond. Even while on duty at sea he kept in contact with other officers working for the ONI (Office of Naval Intelligence). Several fellow officers felt that he was at the forefront of the U.S. intelligence gathering against the Japanese including one that said, “He impressed me as being a very energetic officer, with many unusual ideas; perhaps slightly eccentric, but talkative and good company.”

For two years prior to WWII Zacharias was the District Intelligence Office in San Diego where he learned of Japanese plans to attack American ships. In March 1941, after meeting with an old friend who became the Japanese ambassador to the U.S., he surmised with great accuracy of a surprise attack. Zacharias foretold to Admiral Husband Kimmel, who was the commander of the U.S. Pacific Fleet and was stationed in Hawaii, “It would begin with an air attack on our fleet on a weekend and probably on a Sunday morning; the attack would be for the purpose of disabling four battleships.” Other intelligence personnel gave similar views on the Japanese intentions but Kimmel gave excuses on why he wouldn’t act on this information.

Zacharias’s prediction was accurate, and the battleships were attacked. The aircraft carriers weren’t at port and escaped the carnage.

Accompanying the carrier USS Enterprise to deliver planes to Wake Island at the time of the attack was the cruiser USS Salt Lake City. Less than three months after Pearl Har-

bor the cruiser was sent on bombardment raids of Japanese-held islands in the Gilbert and Marshall Islands. Commanding the USS Salt Lake City was Captain Zacharias who finally was able to retaliate for the surprise raid on Pearl Harbor.

He was also on the cruiser accompanying the carrier USS Hornet when she sent land-based planes to bomb Tokyo in April 1942. Two years later he was in command of the battleship USS New Mexico and received the Gold Star for its bombardment in the Mariana Islands.

In October 1944, Zacharias was transferred back to San Diego where he drew up plans for use of psychological warfare. The plan was approved, and Zacharias and his team of linguists prepared speeches to be read to the Japanese public on the radio. In a series of eighteen speeches he implored the Japanese to give into the unconditional surrender demands. Intelligence reported back to the Americans that the speeches were reaching the Japanese high command but did not have the desired effect to make the Japanese finally surrender.

After the war, Ellis Zacharias was finally promoted to admiral and remained in intelligence until he retired in 1946. He died in 1961 and is buried in Arlington National Cemetery. Zacharias had his two sons who both graduated from the Naval Academy and one of them became a Vietnam War hero when he won the Navy Cross as a pilot.

The legacy of Ellis Zacharias is important in intelligent circles today as the military puts a primary focus on understanding the enemy’s intention. Being able to accurately predict the Pearl Harbor attack was pivotal in his career and for the intelligence community as a whole.

Avi Heiligman is a weekly contributor to The Jewish Home. He welcomes your comments and suggestions for future columns and can be reached at aviheiligman@gmail.com.

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he circus will not be coming to town, at least not the world’s most famous circus. That’s because Ringling Bros. Barnum & Bailey Circus recently folded up its tent, literally and figuratively. No more elephants, no more high-wire acts, and, worst of all, no more clowns.

Believe it or not, the Talmud actually has a fondness for clowns. In the Babylonian Talmud, at Ta’anit 22a, there is a story in which a rabbi asks Elijah the Prophet: “Is there anyone in this market who has a share in the World to Come?” The prophet says, “Yes” and points to two men in the market. The rabbi then asks the men what they do for a living. They reply: “We are clowns, when we see people depressed we cheer them up; furthermore when we see two people quarreling we strive hard to make peace between them.” Based on this story, one could argue that clowns should be revered. (No, the Talmud does not specifically praise or even mention Jewish humor columnists but maybe you now should think twice before using this article to wrap up your Passover dishes. Catch my drift? Capiche?)

So, if the job of a clown is important, the question is: what other jobs in Jewish life bring us joy and therefore should be praised and admired?

Are their certain jobs that unfairly and unfortunately are treated like Rodney Dangerfield of “No respect” fame?

One job in Judaism that deserves greater praise belongs to those who shield bar mitzvah boys from cele-

bratory candy throwing. Talk about putting yourself in harm’s way. Most agents in the U.S. Secret Service spend less time in the line of fire.

Anyone who protects children from sugary shrapnel by bravely offering themselves as a human shield should be praised, especially when the congregation is throwing hard candies.

Another underappreciated job in Judaism pertains to the congregational rabbi’s weekly Shabbat speech.

Congregants expect their rabbis to

livered your e-mail. Yes, that would kind of defeat the purpose of electronic mail and would make about as much sense as (i) sending an Instagram through Western Union, (ii) handing out menus at a hunger strike or (iii) wearing 3D glasses to a Broadway show.)

Another job in Judaism that sometimes is taken for granted belongs to those who perform the most lopsided hagbah (Torah lifting) of the year. This epically un-

Anyone who protects children from sugary shrapnel by bravely offering themselves as a human shield should be praised, especially when the congregation is throwing hard candies.

deliver scintillating, riveting and moving lectures, something that can be discussed at the kiddush, lunch, hair salon, golf course, etc. Thus, when it comes to speech-making, rabbis must heed the words in a famous song: “Let’s give them something to talk about.” Of course, a perfect speech is extraordinarily difficult to deliver on a weekly basis. It’s almost as stressful and taxing as the U.S. Postal Service’s pledge to deliver the mail in rain, sleet or snow. (Imagine how insane it would be if the U.S. Postal Service also de-

even endeavor occurs right around the holiday of Simchat Torah, when we complete one annual cycle of Torah reading and begin another. At that time, nearly all of the Torah parchment is wrapped around one of the two scrolls, thus creating an extremely lopsided lifting situation.

(Based on degree of difficulty alone, it could be an Olympic sport.) If the bulk of the weight happens to be on the lifter’s weaker arm, calamity is possible. So, if you are chosen for this off-kilter honor, you would be wise to stretch out, use your legs and

assign at least one designated spotter. No matter what, you’ll have a story to tell and one less squat to do at the gym the next day.

Yet another job in Judaism that deserves extra kudos belongs to the person who sets up a synagogue’s weekly kiddush. It is a thankless job that the hungry masses tend to overlook. While congregants stuff their faces with herring and crackers, they often fail to consider the tireless efforts and supreme dedication of those working behind the scene.

Even worse, the ravenous tend to storm into the kiddush like the Bulls of Pamplona, devouring anything that isn’t nailed down and leaving the room in a filthy mess resembling a Jackson Pollock painting. Sadly, too few utter a simple “thank you,” a phrase that is not used often enough.

(Other phrases that also are rarely uttered include (i) “Hooray, my inlaws are staying with us for an entire month,” (ii) “I really need to gain a lot more weight,” (iii) “Preparing for Passover is fun,” and (iv) “Wow, the High Holidays are neither late nor early this year.”) So, the next time you partake in a kiddush, try making less of a mess, scene or fool of yourself and try showing more love and respect to the kiddush crew.

Food for thought: If clowns have a share in the World to Come, then one could say that circus clowns go from one “Big Top” to the next.

Jon Kranz is an attorney living in Englewood, New Jersey. Send any comments, questions or insults to jkranz285@ gmail.com.

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CEDARHURST: Professional/Medical Space with OnSite Parking, Three 1,500SF Suites For Lease in the Heart of Town, Near Public Transportation & Major Highways...

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NORTH WOODMERE New Listing 492 Golf Court Tropicana High Ranch, Cul de Sac, 6Br, 3Baths, EIK, Dining Room, 4000+ SF, Walk to Temple, Multi Levels Patios, Sundeck.

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COMMERCIAL RE HEWLETT BAY PARK: PRICE REDUCED – Spectacular Waterfront Colonial On 2+Acres, Bulkhead & Dock, 6BR, 6.5BA, Grand LR, Den W/Fplc, Eik W/Gas BBQ, Formal DR, IG-Heat Pool, Wood & Marble Floors Throughout, Separate Carriage House, 4 Car Garage & Much More...$1.995M Call Carol Braunstein (516) 295-3000 www.pugatch.com INWOOD: NEW LISTING 3BR, 2BA Cape In Country Club Section Of Inwood, Open Floor Plan, Eik, Finished Basement W/Fireplace, Semi IG-Pool, & Bar Area, Low Taxes, Near All…$587,999 Call Carol Braunstein (516) 295-3000 www.pugatch.com WOODMERE: NEW LISTING 6BR Colonial In SD#14, Deep Property, Formal DR, HW Floors, CAC, Room To Expand, Close To All…$499K Call Carol Braunstein (516) 295-3000 www.pugatch.com WOODMERE: PRICE REDUCED Magnificent 5BR, 3.5BA Split Level Home, Eik, Formal DR, Den W/Frpl & Vaulted Ceilings, Skylights, Hardwood Floors, In-Ground Pool, Cedar Deck, Radiant Heat & Much More!!! Close To All…$825K Call Carol Braunstein (516) 295-3000 www.pugatch.com WOODMERE: NEW LISTING 5BR, 4BA Colonial in SD#15. Eik W/2 Sinks, Formal DR, Huge Den, Master Bedroom Suite On 1st Floor, Deck, Near All…$899K Call Carol Braun-stein (516) 295-3000 www.pugatch.com

CEDARHURST 500-3,500 +/- SF Beautiful, newly renovated space for rent. Ideal for Retail or Executive offices. Prime location. Convenient Parking.

Call Sam @516-612-2433 or 718-747-8080

EAST ROCKAWAY: 1,500+/-SF Office Space in Professional Elevator Bldg W/Full Bsmt & Ample Parking, 3 Private Offices, Conference Rm, Bullpen & Reception Area, For Lease… Call for More Details Broker (516) 792-6698 HEWLETT: 2,512 +/- Turn-Key Medical/Office, All Rooms have Sinks, Lovely Atriumlike Set-ting, 8 Car On-Site Parking, Handicap Access, For Lease…

Call Randy for More Details (516) 2953000 www.pugatch.com LYNBROOK: 1,850SF Retail Store on Sunrise Hwy, Corner Location, High Visibility, for Lease …Call For More Details Broker (516) 792-6698

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WOODMERE: 2,400+/-SF Retail Space with Basement Available, Former Beauty Salon, Great Location, Close to Public Transportation, For Lease…Call Arthur for More Details (516) 295-3000 www.pugatch.com

ROCKVILLE CENTRE 4,600 -S/F Warehouse Includes Offices with Large Windows Loading Dock / Ideal Location - Walk to LIRR 917-822-0499

FAR ROCKAWAY 2 bedroom apt available furnished newly renovated basement with high ceilings, airy and light. Brand new Kitchen and appliances . All rooms have split air conditioners, full bathroom and WiFi. Please call Ricki 347-248-9160 $1350 + utilities

SEEKING PART TIME ADMINISTRATIVE ASSISTANT, Perfect for college student.

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WAREHOUSE Up to 10,000 S/F Rockville Centre Loading Dock - Walk to LIRR 917-822-0499

ROCKVILLE CENTRE: Prime Sunrise Hwy Location, 13000SF Lot with 10000SF Free Standing Bldg & 2 Partial Basements, Vacant Adjoining Lot Included, Retail/Office Use, For Sale …Call Lenny for More Details (516) 2953000 www.pugatch.com WOODMERE: LAST FEW AVAILABLE!!!

High Tech Executive Suites W/Parking & Storage, Various Sizes Available, All New!!! 24 Hour Access, All Utilities Included Plus Many Ameni-ties, for Lease…Call for More Details (516) 295-3000 www.pugatch.com INWOOD OFFICE SPACE LOWEST PRICES IN TOWN! 500-7000 Square feet gorgeous office space with WATERVIEW in Inwood!

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CO-OP FOR SALE FAR ROCKAWAY 833 Central , 1st floor, balcony, doorman. Completely renovated, near LIRR, 2BR/2 full bath, 2 DW/sinks, wood cabinets, granite counters $339 917-572-9644 WOODMERE: BEST BUY – NEW PRICE SMALL PETS OK: Beautiful Corner Unit In Elevator Bldg, 2BR, 5 Closets, All Large Rooms, Sunny & Spacious, Close To All...$165K Call Carol Braunstein (516) 295-3000 www.pugatch.com

355 Central Avenue, Lawrence NY 11559 (Across the street from Seasons)

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Looking for Commercial Office or Retail Space?

Reduced Sunny Junior 4 in Beautiful Co-op Building.

5 bedroom, 2bth w/ gorgeous granite kitchen. Lrg grnd r opens to beautiful water Renovated Kitchen & Bath, Hrdwd Flrs. Elevator, view. Renovation needs to be nished. Make Doorman, and Laundry. $265,000 it the way you want. Call Sherri Slochowsky 516-297-7995 $698K

We have available: One room offices Office suites Retail spaces Call Sherri for more information.

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Our investment sales division, winner of the prestigious Costar award 3 years in a row, has an opening for a sales position.

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OFFICES FOR LEASE Far Rockaway office for lease Cornaga location, 3 to 4 offices, plus bthrm. Good for doctor, dentist or business. $1900 Call Sherri 516-297-7995 Cedarhurst offices for lease Single rooms or executive suites. All utilities included. Starting at $400.

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FAR ROCKAWAY 3-BEDROOM APARTMENT ASAP. Perfect location near White Shul. 2 full bathrooms. 2,550 plus gas electric. Amazing. Call (917) 716-7879 CEDARHURST: Fabulous & Very Spacious 2BR, 2Fbth, Storage Units, Close To All...$2,650/mo Call Carol Braunstein (516) 295-3000 www.pugatch.com WOODMERE: HOUSE RENTAL 4BR, 3BA Split Level on Quiet Residential Street In SD#14, Eik, Formal DR, Garage…$4,200/mo Call Carol Braunstein (516) 295-3000 www.pugatch.com

SECRETARY/ADMINISTRATIVE ASSISTANT YESHIVA HIGH SCHOOL OFFICE Mange all aspects of the School/ Business Office, Strong Organization Skills and Ability to Multi Task.

Must be responsible, extremely organized, self-motivated Yeshiva Experience a plus Email Resume: officepositionhire@gmail.com

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New From Ground Up, Spacious 2BR, 2BA, Eik, 6BR Colonial, SD#14, 3BR, 2BA Cape, Fin Bsmt, 2BR,Near All..$1,950/mo Storage,Near All..$2,650/mo Room To Expand..$499K Low Taxes..$587,999

5BR,4BA Colonial,SD#15,Eik Waterfront 6BR, 6.5BA W/2 Sinks, Near All..$899K Col,Dock,Pool..$1.995M

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A Match Made in Dallas

By Allan Rolnick

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here is “home”? Home is where the heart is. Home is wherever you make it. Home is wherever I’m with you.

And, of course, I’ll be home for the holidays. But what does the tax man think of all of this?

In 2009, Greg Blatt was Executive Vice-President, General Counsel & Secretary of InterActive Corp (IAC), which ran 150+ web sites including About.com, Vimeo, and The Daily Beast. Blatt’s title sounded impressive, but IAC had reorganized him out of much of his responsibility, and he started looking for a new position.

IAC didn’t want to lose him, so they made him CEO of Match, a collection of dating sites including Match.com, OKCupid, Tinder, and PlentyofFish.

There was just one problem with the new gig — it was headquartered in Dallas. That held no appeal for the New York-based Blatt. So he worked out a deal to manage Match from New York. (Just another long-distance relationship, really.) He would keep his corporate position with IAC, spend most of his working time in New York, and keep his West Village loft and his boat in the Hamptons.

They say no battle plan survives

initial contact with the enemy, and Blatt’s was no exception. He got to Dallas and discovered, much to his surprise, that he loved it. The people were friendly! The city was cosmopolitan! (We realize that may be hard for the bi-coastal elites to accept, but there really is life in flyover country.)

Blatt loved the work, where he got to be “the decider.” He loved his

So Big D is my new home.”

Unfortunately for Blatt, his Lone Star adventure was short-lived. He did so well at Match that he got promoted to CEO of IAC. While he tried to run the corporate parent from Dallas, he quickly realized he couldn’t do it, and he moseyed on back to the Big Apple in 2011.

Everyone was happy except the

“Dog is the final step that I haven’t been able to come to grips with until now. So Big D is my new home.” apartment in a swanky Uptown hirise, where 1-bedroom units start at $2,230 per month. He started dating, which makes sense for a guy running an online dating empire. (We’re pretty sure Warren Buffett gets his insurance from GEICO, too.) He even moved his dog, who he had rescued from the SPCA, telling a friend, “Dog is the final step that I haven’t been able to come to grips with until now.

romantics at the New York Division of Taxation, who didn’t love the idea of losing taxes on Blatt’s salary. In 2011, they audited him and hit him with $430,065 in taxes plus interest and penalties. Blatt paid the tax, then filed a petition for a refund. (Did we mention that New York’s top tax rate of 8.82% is 8.82% higher than Texas’s top rate of zero?)

Administrative Law Judge Di-

ane Gardiner issued a 23-page opinion walking through Blatt’s story.

She noted mundane factors like changing his driver’s license and voter registration. But the real clincher?

“As borne out by the evidence in this case, petitioner’s dog was his near and dear item which reflected his ultimate change in domicile to Dallas... As demonstrated by a contemporaneous email regarding his move, petitioner stated that his change in domicile to Dallas was complete once his dog was moved there.”

So, boys and girls, what have we learned today? Well, we’ve learned that home is where the dog is. More important, we’ve learned that home is where the tax savings are — in this case, 430,000$ worth. So make sure you have a plan when you’re ready to save so you can feather your own nest!

Allan J Rolnick is a CPA who has been in practice for over 30 yea rs in Queens, NY. He welcomes your comments and can be reached at 718-896-8715 or at allanjrcpa@aol.com.

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Which one of these children needs Chai Lifeline?

(Hint: They all do.)

Chai Lifeline is renowned for the care and love it bestows on children fighting cancer. But that’s only the beginning.

Chai Lifeline serves thousands of children with medical challenges that aren’t evident on the outside, everything from Crohns Disease to cystic fibrosis to heart disease and illnesses so rare only a handful of children have been diagnosed. And still, that’s only the beginning.

Chai Lifeline includes siblings and parents, too, with programs geared towards the entire family.

We care for more than 5,000 children and their families around the world and across the street.

Chances are, you know them. They just don’t look sick.

Whenever, wherever we’re needed, Chai Lifeline is there.

Chai Lifeline. Comprehensive, compassionate, professional assistance for families facing illness, loss or trauma.

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A Matter of TIME

By Rivki D. Rosenwald Esq., CLC, SDS

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o we really wonder why there is more anxiety these days than ever before?!

Imagine when many of us were kids. What made us nuts? I can’t even remember! Maybe a lot of what we heard about, or our history. But in general I think it was just upcoming tests or friends leaving us out. Not disease, nuclear destruction, and terrorism.

There is too much global awareness, too much access to news.

When we were kids, no one knew what was going on around the corner – unless you were playing at the kid’s house! Today, everyone posts everything.

Practically before a person is engaged, everyone knows about it.

A guy can’t just get down on one knee and say, “Will you marry me?”

How lame would that be?! Everyone would know the guy’s not too creative five seconds after his proposal.

The girl would have to say no, just to save face.

Nothing is private. And everything in the world seems close at hand. Perhaps there was a lot of stuff going on years ago, too. But who knew? If a tree falls in the forest does it make a sound, was the big ques-

information and not get edgy?

Can I make a suggestion? Stop!

Stop listening to all the news, accessing the Internet, instagramming, snapchatting, and being so connected. I know for many that’s like saying

Perhaps there was a lot of stuff going on years ago, too. But who knew?

tion. Meaning, if no one was there to hear it, was there a sound?! Today the answer is yes, because everyone hears everything!

We are all so anxious because we are all too aware. Instead of just knowing what’s going on within your family and friendship circles, you know everything about everyone, everywhere. Who can handle all that

stop breathing. But some of the air we’re breathing is toxic!

Listen, there was an old joke: “I read smoking is bad for you, so I stopped reading!” My suggestion sounds a little bit like that. But what I’m really saying is that being so attuned to things you can’t control can get somewhat burdensome to the human mind! And therein begins the

worrying because there is nothing else to do.

But if there is some good that comes from the knowing, then that’s a different story. If you can be proactive by knowing something and another can be helped by your knowing, then therein lies the benefits and pathway to countering anxiety. Using your energy to do, to accomplish, to impact – that can help you channel the information productively.

So, figure yourself out! If TMI (too much information) makes you nuts, then use your “time” in other ways, so you may “trim” your worrying opportunities. And in rearranging these letters, and embracing this approach, you can “merit” a little more peace of mind!

Rivki Rosenwald is a certified relationship counselor, and career and life coach. She can be contacted at 917-7052004 or rivki@rosenwalds.com<mailto:rivki@rosenwalds.com

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