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Dear Readers,

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o, anyway.

I have something to confess. Although I am conservative in my values and in the way I vote, when I’m in the car for more than a few minutes, I sometimes listen to NPR, National Public Radio. When it’s not election season, the station tends to have information on topics I wouldn’t necessarily know about and it’s all said in a very calm manner. It’s like a soothing bedtime story – even when they’re predicting doom and gloom. There’s no heated arguments, no raised voices. For me, listening to talk show hosts like Sean Hannity and Rush Limbaugh makes my blood pressure rise. If we don’t do something right now, our country will be facing Armageddon. Just yesterday, when I turned on NPR, there was a women agitatedly raising some points. I was surprised; that is not their style. But then they said that that was a clip of Megyn Kelly from last night’s Fox News. Problem solved.

NPR’s news is generally skewed extremely left, so when they speak about Israel or Trump or the environment, I am keenly aware that I am getting a very untrue story. The past few days, though, they’ve had some features about Thanks-

giving and I learned a lot about cooking a turkey – although I don’t have any intention of making a whole bird in the near future. Hint: brining is key.

Today, they had an interesting feature titled, “So, anyway.” Because so many people’s Thanksgiving dinners end up being slightly uncomfortable – even explosive – with family members who barely see each other getting together for the holiday, they had listeners come up with a topic of conversation that could be used to change heated discourse. “So, anyway,” began each person and then they ended with their idea for another, more neutral topic. One listener said she would announce her pregnancy, another suggested commenting on clothing or sales that are happening.

It got me thinking. If I had to think of a few “So, anyway” ideas to help change a topic of conversation, what would I choose?

Something innocuous, something funny, something interesting, or something important? I also realized that trying to come up with something like this in advance isn’t as easy as one would think.

So, anyway, what would you choose?

Wishing you a wonderful week, Shoshana

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Contents LETTERS TO THE EDITOR

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COMMUNITY Readers’ Poll

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Community Happenings

36 NEWS

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Global

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National

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Odd-but-True Stories

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ISRAEL Israel News

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A Message of Courage, Fortitude and Hope by Tammy Mark

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My Israel Home: Buying on Paper

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PEOPLE Tanks Today by Avi Heiligman

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PARSHA Rabbi Wein

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JEWISH THOUGHT Turnabout is Fair Play by Rabbi Jonathan Gewirtz

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Godspeed by Eytan Kobre

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Purposeful Living, Purposeful Lives by Rabbi Dr. Naphtali Hoff

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HEALTH & FITNESS There’s No Connection without Reflection by Dr. Deb Hirschhorn

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An Ode to Family Dinners by Dr. Hylton I Lightman

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Carb Swapping by Cindy Weinberger MS, RD, CDN

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Everything Comes with a Learning Manual, Why Not Our Kids?

by Rivki Rosenwald, CLC

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FOOD & LEISURE The Aussie Gourmet: Inspiration at Kosherfest

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Keeping the Menu Simple Can Please Everyone by Julia Turshen

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Dear Editor, This is in response to this week’s dating column in your magazine. First of all, I truly enjoy reading your paper and I really like your dating column.

It’s an innovative, interesting way to speak about a topic on many people’s minds and many of your columnists offer great advice.

This week’s article was about someone dating a man who she felt was “low-energy” compared to her. I have seen this situation in a very close friend of mine’s home and I would like to share my experience.

My friend’s husband always has to be doing something – checking his messages, fixing something in the garage, picking up something from the store, speaking to this person about shul hock, etc. My friend is a calmer, more homebody-type of person.

Amazingly, this couple has a wonderful marriage (as far as I can tell). They enjoy each other’s company when they’re together and both of them are able to “switch off” for a time so they can be on each other’s speed. And yet, when shopping before Pesach has to be done, my friend sends her husband and he gets it all done – and then some! And when the children need a calming force when they’re heading to bed, my friend takes care of that. They each have their own roles and talents

that they bring to the family, and together they make a great team!

Hatzlacha with your dating.

A Reader Dear Editor, Every time I read an article about Israel and how an amazing, small nation has made so many strides in so many areas, I shep such nachas! In just one issue of yours, you highlighted different medical breakthroughs, the amazing way they purify water for use, and an impressive accolade that they earned in regards to their mobile medical units – something no other nation has obtained! What an amazing nation and People! Chazak va’amatz!

Yona Gray Dear Editor, Recently, you featured an article about how yeshiva tuitions are exponential and how it’s becoming impossible for any middle class family with more than one child to pay tuitions without any breaks. Surely, many people have wondered about this before. And yes, I’ve seen the GoogleDoc that has been circulating in which it lists tuitions for schools throughout the world. It seems that schools in Manhattan and Long Island do end up Continued on page 12

LIFESTYLES The College Application Process by Chaim Homnick

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Dating Dialogue, Moderated by Jennifer Mann, LCSW 85

HUMOR

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Your Money

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It’s Awfully Quiet in Here! by Rivki D. Rosenwald Esq., CLC, SDS 126

Centerfold Uncle Moishy Fun Page

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POLITICAL CROSSFIRE Notable Quotes

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“Hamilton” and the Implosion of the American Left

by Marc A. Thiessen

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CLASSIFIEDS

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charging more. My brother who lives in Brooklyn spends way less on tuitions than I. I don’t know the solution.

I appreciate your writer’s offer that schools should be run like businesses.

But if schools were run like businesses, we wouldn’t have any operating.

Schools are run with tefillos and mazal and with heart. It’s a living organism designed to help our children grow and develop. We need rebbes who teach with love and teachers who give their all to their students. We need ehrlechkeit and menschlechkeit. When running a business, those traits go out the window. It’s all about the bottom line, the profit and loss. In yeshivos, the bottom line is our children, so no, I don’t think it’s realistic that yeshivos be run like a business.

C. L. Dear Editor, The Trump administration has supported, as part of its economic jobs program, the reconstruction of our infrastructure which it claims will create millions of jobs in the United States.

Let’s first understand that surely there are many roads, highways and bridges throughout the country which are decrepit, but they are not in systemic

disrepair that would require a national program for their reconstruction. These colossal infrastructure schemes—or what amounts to public works programs—such as the one currently advocated by the incoming administration are very bad economic policy, as simple economic analysis will demonstrate.

Suppose that the government hires 1,500 workers to build a bridge, at a cost of $1 million. In order for the government to procure the money for the bridge and pay the workers their wages, it must first tax the $1 million out of the private sector; obviously money isn’t created from nothing. It must also reallocate 1,500 workers from the private to public sector. The reason why such a program is flawed is the unseen fact that the money could have been used in the private sector to create more jobs, or raise wages and salaries, or invest, or to simply create more wealth. The workers themselves who are hired to build the bridge also could have been hired in the private sector, perhaps employed in better-paying jobs. Instead, human and financial resources have been diverted to some spurious public works project to “create” jobs, except that nothing has been created. This is bona-fide

wealth redistribution. Money that is used in the public sector comes from the private sector by default since the government has no money of its own other than what it raises through taxation and borrowing.

The same is true of labor: government has no workers of its own other than what it diverts from the private economy. The aggregate result of increased tax rates is a reduction in working hours or wages, layoffs, a decline in production, and worst of all, higher prices on consumer goods and services which financially incapacitate the poor in the severest form. In other words, they inhibit the creation of real wealth, and in actuality redistribute it. As the saying goes, “You can’t multiply wealth by dividing it.” Such spending also increases public debt, further dragging the economy into the abyss. In the long run, the artificial gains in the public sector are heavily outweighed by the losses in the private sector.

Franklin D. Roosevelt tried this very operation on a grand scale more than 75 years ago with his New Deal, and his Treasury Secretary Henry Morgenthau Jr. admitted, “We’re spending more than ever, and it doesn’t work… I say after eight years

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of this Administration we have just as much unemployment as when we started—and an enormous debt to boot!” And Morgenthau was absolutely correct: government spending didn’t work then, won’t work now, and will in fact never work. Wealth is created in the private sector, not the public sector. This is failed Keynesian economics at its worst.

Sincerely, Rafi Metz

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This year, 1.24 million people will die in a car accident. That number is expected to increase to 3.6 million by 2030, which means it will be the fifth highest cause of death in the developed world – higher than AIDS and malaria. Traffic deaths are particularly bad in Africa; they are 50 percent higher than the world average with 26 of every 100,000 people dying in a car accident.

Scientists at Georgetown University may have come up with a simple way to drastically reduce those numbers. By placing stickers inside Kenya’s buses and public transit vans that encourage passengers to ask their drivers to slow down, insurance claims fell by half for long-distance vehicles and one third overall.

Georgetown’s researchers claim the “effect of the stickers was equivalent to avoiding 140 accidents and saving 55 lives per year.”

The program is also extremely cheap. The university estimates that the sticker program costs just $10 to $45 for each year of life that it saves.

There are a couple of factors that make driving in Africa so dangerous.

Firstly, the training is very poor. In many cases, drivers are given licenses without even taking a road test. Another factor is the high level of corruption. It is well-known that being stopped by a cop will cost you some money and the officer will let you off the hook.

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Want to know who makes the most perfect counterfeit U.S. dollars? It’s not Mexico and it’s not ISIS. Peru has the world’s best counterfeiting rings. Last week, though, the groups faced a setback when U.S. and Peruvian agents seized a record $30 million in counterfeit dollars in the biggest netting of fake greenbacks ever by the U.S. Secret Service, the agency said on Thursday.

The stash was discovered when more than 1,500 Peruvian police, along with Secret Service agents, carried out searches and arrest warrants on Tuesday in Lima, the agency said in a statement. Fifty thousand fake euros were also seized and 48 people arrested in the raids, called Operation Sunset.

Peru is the world’s largest manufacturer and distributor of fake U.S. currency. Six counterfeit plants were shut down, eight manufacturing presses were seized, and more than 1,600 printing plates and negatives of denominations were found, the Secret Service said. The Secret Service, despite us thinking it just protects the president, was actually created to combat currency counterfeiting.

In Peru, once the bills are made, the product is then sent to stash houses controlled by the violent gangs in Lima. They are then packed into parcels and loaded onto planes or hidden inside ordinary objects – luggage, Bibles, pottery, children’s toys and sneakers. They eventually make their way to Miami, although their ultimate destination is New York, New Jersey, Boston and other cities in the Northeast. Once at their final destination, the faux cash is then split up among a few groups which are able to divvy it out.

Responsible for producing and distributing an estimated 60 percent of the world’s counterfeit U.S.

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notes, more fake American money comes from Peru than any other country, according to the Secret Service, which has been combating the fake currency’s rise since 2003.

“It’s very similar to the drug war,” said Jose, a Secret Service agent who leads the agency’s efforts to crack down on the trade in Peru and declined to provide his last name. “The modus operandi is very similar, and a lot of the smuggling routes and the hierarchy of organizations involved are very similar, as well as the execution.

“A lot of these organizations are family-run,” he added. “Making a counterfeit note is a skill that’s been passed down. It’s an art, and the skill isn’t easily transferrable.”

Despite the operation’s success last week, there is still a lot of work to be done.

“Since 2009, in our investigations with the Secret Service, we have seized about $75 million in fake bills,” Walter Escalante, head of the Peruvian National Police’s anti-fraud division, told the Guardian in March. “We don’t know what percentage entered the U.S. illegally and has gone inside the financial system. We think that our $75 mil-

lion is the better part of what has entered the U.S.” For all the millions in fake currency intercepted by authorities, millions more flow into the United States each year.

Russia Withdraws from ICC

Russia has withdrawn its signature from the founding treaty of the International Criminal Court in the Hague. Russia’s withdrawal is in retaliation for the ICC calling the Kremlin’s actions in the Crimea an international conflict between Russia and Ukraine. After the court made its announcement, Russian

president Vladimir Putin issued an executive order canceling Russia’s participation in the court.

Russia’s exit is only the latest setback for the ICC. In the past months, several African nations have left the court. African politicians have been calling the court biased for a long time as all of its 39 indictments to date have been against people of African nations.

In 2002, the United States withdrew its support of the treaty which it signed two years earlier. Israel and the Sudan have also pulled out of the treaty. Last week, populist Philippine President Rodrigo Duterte called the institution worthless and said he may leave it as well. As more countries leave, the court’s reach becomes smaller and its influence becomes weaker. As such, its jurisdiction and legitimacy are both decreased.

The ICC was established to prosecute individuals for international crimes of genocide, crimes against humanity and war crimes when national courts are unwilling or unable to prosecute criminals or when it is advised by nations or the United Nations.

Terror Attacks Up 650%

There was too much blood spilled last year. Every year, a think tank called the Institute for Economics and Peace produces a Global Terrorism Index. Shockingly, the index of 2016 shows that, although the number of terror-related deaths worldwide fell, there was a 650% increase in fatal terror attacks on people living in the world’s biggest economies in 2015.

In 2015, a total of 731 people died in terror attacks in the 34 countries that make up the Organization for Economic Cooperation and Development (OECD). 21 of the 34 countries suffered at least one attack in

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2015 as well. Most of the victims of terror in 2015 were from France and Turkey. France’s numbers are especially high as 90 people were killed at the Bataclan music theater during the horrific attacks in France on Friday, November 13, 2015. Syria saw a 50% rise in terrorism from 2014 to 2015.

“While the reduction in deaths is positive, the continued intensification of terrorism in some countries and its spread to new ones is a cause for serious concern and underscores the fluid nature of modern terrorist activity,” IEF chief Steve Killelea said in a statement. “The attacks in the heartland of Western democracies underscore the need for fast paced and tailored responses to the evolution of these organizations,” he said.

The report also highlights the growth of ISIS in 2015. The terror organization jumped from being active in 13 countries to 28 in one year alone. “Understanding the drivers of terrorism is crucial if we are to develop counter-terrorism strategies that help combat radicalization,” Killelea pointed out. “Military operations are clearly contributing towards restraining ISIL [ISIS] in Iraq, but the continued appeal of the organization, evident in the ISIL-inspired attacks in Europe, demonstrates the limitations of a purely military approach.”

Sarkozy Beaten Again

The French presidential primaries were held this week, and in a surprising victory, François Fillon beat out his former boss, Nicolas Sarkozy, for the job. 44.1 percent of the votes went to Fillon. The conservative party did give 28.6 percent of the vote to Prime Minister Alain Juppe, and Sarkozy came in third with 20.6 percent. On November 22 there will be a runoff election for the conservative nominee in France’s presidential election.

Fillon was prime minister under

Sarkozy for five years. He is known for his family and Catholic values.

He is also thought to have a very clear plan for the future of France’s economy. Jean-Daniel Levy of Harris Interactive polling institute said Fillon “appears to be calm, soft-spoken, with quite an international stature

and an extremely clear language.”

His economic plan includes extending the work week up to 48 hours from the current 35, cutting taxes, raising the retirement age to 65, and reducing the number of government employees.

Fillon may have also gained many

votes because of his outlook on immigration. He has promised to reduce the number of legal immigrants in France by half. He published a small book in September titled, Defeat Islamic Totalitarianism, in which he promises to fight Islamic extremism to avoid a “third world war.”

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Yaakov Litzman, the Minister of Health, responded to the shocking report, pledging, “The Ministry of Health is determined to wipe out the phenomena and bring a dramatic change in sugar consumption in order to preserve public health and prevent disease.”

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Heading to Israel? Check out the shuk or Geula for some yummy, sticky, gooey candies. Or maybe you’re in the mood of chocolate crepes or rugalech or frozen cappuccino. Believe me, you won’t be alone as you go into a sugar coma. Israel is the sugar capital of the world.

A new report has found that the Jewish State is the top per capita consumer of sugar in the world. The Organization for Economic Cooperation and Development (OECD) has found that per person per day, the average Israeli consumes 170 grams of sugar. That means that a whopping 16 percent of the calories consumed by the average Israeli comes from sugars.

The next closest country on the list is sweet Malaysia at 160 grams per person per day. In third place is syrupy Brazil at 155 grams, followed by the saccharine United States at 142 grams per person per day.

The World Health Organization recommends that men not consume more than 32 grams (which is 8 spoons) and women not consume more than 24 grams, or 6 spoons, of sugar a day. Excessive amounts of sugar have been shown to cause dizziness, headaches, addiction, damage to the pancreas, high cholesterol, obesity, and diabetes. Many foods in Israel are processed and often have a high sugar content. There has been

Twenty-eight athletes and environmental activists took to the Dead Sea in their swimming gear to raise awareness and try to help the world’s saltiest body of water. Over the past 30 years, the surface of the Dead Sea has shrunk by about a third. According to the environmental group Ecopeace Middle East, an organizer of the 3-mile swim, the Yam Hamelach has receded by 25 meters (82 feet) in the same time period. Now it is shrinking approximately 3.3 feet a year.

There was a medical team standing by during the swim, and the swimmers all wore snorkels and face masks during the seven hour crawl. The water is ten times saltier than regular sea water. If not treated immediately, ingesting the water can be fatal.

World-famous open water swimmer Kim Chambers, 39, of New Zealand called the swim “unlike anything I’ve ever done.” She said the few drops of water that got into her eye felt like acid. “The swim took incredible teamwork. We had unprecedented diplomatic support from Israel and Jordan to make it happen. That’s what’s needed to bring attention to an issue that needs attention right now,” she said.

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East, Jordanian and Israeli mining, creating of evaporation ponds to extract the minerals, and diversion of the Jordan River which flows into the Dead Sea are all to blame for the water level’s recession. EcoPeace Middle East’s members include Israel, Jordan and the Palestinians. The event was held to highlight the Dead Sea’s problems and urge government action to save the salty waters.

The Dead Sea is the lowest point on Earth at 425 meters below sea level. It is bordered by both Israel and Jordan.

Jerusalem Among the Poorest The Central Bureau of Statistics (CBS) in Israel has ranked the socio-economic standings of the country’s major cities. On the high end, Rishon LeZion and Petach Tikvah have grabbed the top spots in the nation. Unfortunately, Jerusalem has been ranked among the poorest cities in Israel.

The CBS took statistics from 201 cities and another 54 regional coun-

cils to compile their report. In Rishon LeZion and Petach Tikvah, there has been an influx of young and well-educated professionals that are contributing to the high rankings. In Jerusalem, there is a large, poor Arab population, and the Chareidi community often finds themselves below the poverty line as well.

The ministries of education and welfare are both using the information to uplift the regions that are weak. However, some institutions, such as banks, are using the information to pull out of weaker areas in favor of stronger socioeconomic options. Many branches have been closed in the weaker areas, leaving residents to make other banking arrangements.

The Jerusalem Municipality came

out with a statement defending their hometown. It read: “There is no need to know the CBS statistics in order to know the city needs urgent government budgets. Having a low ranking more accurately reflects the city and allows for the passage of larger budget allowances which can be felt by the population.” It added, “The capital of Israel has enormous challenges that no other city or municipality face. The key to the future of Jerusalem is local innovation in business, high-tech industry and massive investment in tourist infrastructure.”

Hamas Forbids Israeli SIMs

In Gaza, there’s concern that SIM cards are spies. Recently, a crackdown was issued in the Palestinian

enclave on black market Israeli SIM cards. The Hamas-run government is calling Cellcom and Partner SIM cards a security, moral, and economic risk. The use of the SIM cards has always been banned but the black market for them has thrived due to their cheap price and reliability compared to the Gazan counterpart.

Those caught selling the SIM cards are being threatened with “sanctions.” Licensing Director at Gaza Telecommunications Ministry Zeyad Al-Sheikh Deeb said, “These companies are not registered in Palestinian areas and therefore we can’t allow them to operate. They represent an unfair competition to national companies and cause damage to our economy.”

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by PalTel’s Jawwal network. However, Israeli cellphone towers work in many parts of Gaza as well. Cellcom is especially well-known for having reliable service and very good prices.

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Though exact numbers for the Gaza Strip are unknown, it is estimated that inside the Palestinian Authority, 370,000 Israeli SIM cards are in use.

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Despite his musical prowess and fame, R’ Ben Zion is known to have been humble and friendly.

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Many Americans are hoping and praying that Donald Trump will finally get us out of this financial rut, specifically the disappearing middle class.

Throughout the recession, though, the U.S. has maintained a fair share of millionaires, making the States a very rich country. America has $55.6 trillion in private financial assets and more millionaires than any other nation in the world by far. Currently there are over 8 million households that have financial assets that equal $1 million or more, excluding homes or luxury goods, according to Boston Consulting Group.

In fact, from 2010 to 2015, during the worst years, the number of millionaires jumped by 2.4 million. The financial firm estimates that by 2020 there will be another 3.1 million millionaire households. At that rate, there are 1,700 Americans becoming millionaires each day, and you might be one of them. However, it is important to note that many of the trillions belong to the oldest generation of Americans who will eventually pass it on to their offspring. Inheritance is an increasingly significant driver of wealth in America.

The Federal Reserve Bank of St. Louis concluded in a study last year that about three-quarters of the country are “strugglers” who can’t manage to save from year to year while the other quarter of the country “thrivers,” individuals who successfully save money and accumulate wealth each year. Generally the thrivers tend to be members of the upper-middle class.

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Reb Ben Zion Shenker z”l was regarded as one of the greatest composers of this generation. He passed away suddenly on Sunday at the age of 91.

R’ Shenker composed more than a thousand songs, some that are extremely well-known and sung at Shabbos tables around the world including “Eishes Chayil” (1953) and “Mizmor Lidovid” (1946). He also composed “Yasis Alayich” (1965), which is sung at Jewish weddings around the world. Last month, R’ Ben Zion released his final album.

R’ Ben Zion had a unique position in the Jewish music world. The composer was born in 1925 and lived in Williamsburg as a child. As a young boy, the Modzitzer Rebbe, the Imrei Shaul, heard him humming. The Rebbe took him under his wing as his musical secretary and transcriber.

He would write down all the Rebbe’s tunes and has been a treasure in the Modzitz community since, serving as its chief baal tefillah and baal menagen. Indeed, he remained the world’s

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class is the only group of middle class citizens to have grown exponentially; the other groups of the middle class have shrunk.

Sadly, being a millionaire is not as glamourous as it used to be. Accumulating over $1M in your investment accounts should be just about enough

for retirement. (A private room in a nursing room now costs up to $7,700 a month according to Genworth Financial.) In a survey of those with a net worth of at least $25 million, most of them – at least 90% —said that hard work and education helped them in their climb to the top. Only 40% of

President-elect Donald Trump is tying up loose ends before he checks into the White House on January 20th.

Last Friday, Trump settled a lawsuit that had been pending for almost a decade. He agreed to pay $25M to former students of the now-defunct Trump University who claim that the education at the university was a scam filled with empty promises to ambitious students.

Many are saying that Trump hastily signed the deal in order to avoid testifying in court, which would have taken place during his presidency, despite previously promising to fight the class action suit till the end. The suit claimed that Trump University misled students who paid as much as $35,000 in tuition.

Trump took to twitter to defend his recent move tweeting, “I settled the Trump University lawsuit for a small fraction of the potential award because as President I have to focus on our country.” Just a few moments later he followed up with a tweet: “The ONLY bad thing about winning the Presidency is that I did not have the time to go through a long but winning trial on Trump U. Too bad!”

Previously, in February 2016, Trump had tweeted, “Trump University has a 98% approval rating. I could have settled but won’t out of principle!”

New York attorney general Eric Schneiderman, who announced the settlement, called it “a stunning reversal by Donald Trump and a major victory for the over 6,000 victims of his fraudulent university.”

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Sugar: Not So Sweet

The current U.S. dietary guidelines recommend that less than 10 percent of the calories we consume each day should come from added sugars. That means that for children, a 1,500 calorie diet would allow for about 33 grams of added sugar per day. That’s about one bowl of Fruity Pebbles.

The new, stricter guidelines were issued by the American Heart Association in August. The AHA is trying to make kids healthier. Get ready for this one: They recommend children and teens should limit their sugar-sweetened drinks to no more than 8 ounces per week.

Not surprisingly, research shows that children who eat more sugar end up craving much more of the sweet stuff than those who eat healthier.

“Sugar, packed in items like sugar-sweetened beverages and snacks, consumed consistently over many years, can promote excess weight gain – especially through the overproduction of insulin, which clears the blood of sugar (storing the calories as fat), and this leaves a child wanting more and more sugar,” said Kathy Isoldi, a registered dietitian nutritionist and associate professor of nutrition at Long Island University.

“Sugar (specifically fructose) is metabolized in the liver just like alcohol,” said Dr. Robert Lustig, a professor of pediatrics at the University of California, San Francisco. “This is why children are getting the diseases of alcohol, like type 2 diabetes and fatty liver disease, without the alcohol. These are diseases that were unheard-of in children prior to 1980.

Sugar doesn’t cause disease just because of its calories. Sugar causes disease because it’s sugar,” Lustig added. “Thin people get metabolic diseases like type 2 diabetes, too.

Obesity increases the risk, but sugar is an independent risk factor apart from calories or obesity.”

So should sugar be thrown out

altogether? Research shows that fully depriving your kid of sugar may very well backfire. “Sugar is not a ‘toxin’ that must be excluded from a child’s diet,” Isoldi said. “Often, children who have sweets restricted feel deprived and will not learn how to regulate sweets. Instead, they often overindulge whenever the possibility is presented.

“The key is to help children find a balance with food, helping them learn how to enjoy healthy foods and enjoy [and learn to self-regulate] treats.”

More Police Officers Targeted

There have been several attacks against law enforcement in the past week across the nation. Sunday was a particularly brutal day when authorities in Texas, Missouri, and Florida were all targeted. On Sunday morning, San Antonio Benjamin Marconi, 50, a detective and twenty-year veteran of the department, was writing a traffic ticket in his squad car outside police headquarters when he was ambushed and shot dead. After a manhunt for the suspect, the murderer was apprehended on Monday.

“I think the uniform was the target and the first person that happened along was the first person that [the suspect] targeted,” San Antonio Police Chief William McManus surmised on Monday.

In Missouri, a St. Louis police sergeant was shot twice in the face on Sunday evening while he sat in traffic in a marked police vehicle and suffered injuries. Thankfully he was released from the hospital on Monday.

In the year 2016 there were sixty officers killed on the job so far, compared to 41 in all of 2015, according to the National Law Enforcement Officers Memorial Fund. The group said that it is believed that 20 of the 60 killed this year were targeted by their

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assailant and sought out because of their uniform, while last year there were only eight such incidents.

Just five months ago, a black military veteran killed five white officers at a protest in Dallas, the deadliest day for American law enforcement since Sept. 11, 2001. In this particular case, investigators believe race also played a significant role.

Race is also mentioned during the recent cop killer incidents. In San Antonio, police say the suspect, Otis Tyrone McKane, 31, is black and that the officer who was killed, Benjamin Marconi, was white. In St. Louis, the suspect was black as well. Historically, the majority of police killings were carried out by white men, and most people shot and killed by police are white, said Craig W. Floyd, president of the National Law Enforcement Officers Memorial Fund.

Most Violent States

Over the last few decades violence in the United States has steadily declined. In 1995, for every 100,000 Americans, 685 violent incidents were reported. Nowadays there are only about 383 incidents per 100,000.

That’s good news. But last year, violent incidents increased by 3%, based on the FBI’s 2015 Uniform Crime Report Program. Violent crime includes all offenses involving force or threat of force. It includes murder, non-negligent manslaughter, crimes against women, robbery, and aggravated assault.

Violent crimes tend to be higher in urban areas. Common explanations for violence are poverty, lack of education, and unemployment. The poverty rate meets or surpasses the national rate of 14.7% in eight of the 10 states with the highest violent crime rates.

Similarly, the annual unemployment rate is greater than the national 2015 rate of 5.3% in seven of the 10 states with the highest incidents of violence.

Planning a vacation? You may want to stay away from these states.

They are the most dangerous states in the nation: 1. Alaska 2. Nevada 3. New Mexico 4. Tennessee 5. Louisiana 6. Arkansas 7. South Carolina 8. Delaware 9. Missouri 10. Alabama

Melania Hearts New York Since being elected president, we’ve seen a lot of surprises come our way from Donald Trump. He’s certainly the most unconventional candidate to be occupying the White House in many years. Last week, Melania, the first lady-to be, made it known that despite her husband heading to Washington, D.C., she’ll be living on Fifth Avenue for the next few months following the inauguration.

Melania and Barron, who is ten, will be staying in Manhattan for at least the end of the school year. It has been said that she is a very good mother and wants her son to continue his schooling until year’s end. Barron attends a private school that costs at least $40,000 a year – and no, despite the costs, it’s not a yeshiva.

Donald Trump has also made it known that during his presidency he will want to split his time between D.C. and his penthouse on Fifth Avenue.

Are Food Stamps Used for Unhealthy Foods?

If Michelle Obama really wanted to combat obesity, perhaps she should have started with the food stamps program. According to a new study commissioned by the

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U.S. Department of Agriculture, soft drinks were the top individual commodity purchased by food stamp households. Families not on food stamps purchased milk as their top commodity.

In terms of items purchased and their ranking of how much is spent in each household, families on food stamps spent, in order, on the following food groups: soft drinks, milk, beef grinds, bagged snacks, cheese, baked breads, cold cereal and chicken. Families not on food stamps purchased these items, in order of ranking: milk, soft drinks, cheese, baked breads, bagged snacks, beef grinds, cold cereal, and candy. About 40 cents of every dollar went to basics like bread, milk, meat, eggs, fruits and vegetables for both types of households.

Taking a step back, it is easy to see that all households in the United States are not eating particularly healthily.

“It’s disappointing in both SNAP households and households with incomes well above SNAP [levels] that as Americans we don’t adequately follow the dietary guidelines,” Kevin Concannon, the USDA’s undersecretary for nutrition, said. “We consume

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too much sugar.”

Monthly food stamp benefits average about $125 per person and Americans are eligible if their income is below 130 percent of the poverty line. Benefits can be used for any food item in a grocery store except alcohol or prepared meals sold hot and ready to eat. Forty-three million Americans receive benefits, making SNAP one of the federal government’s biggest anti-poverty programs.

SNAP may be facing reforms in the near future. Although Donald Trump has never singled out the program, House Speaker Paul Ryan has suggested that the program needs revisions. Republicans have proposed restricting benefits to nutritious foods only, an idea Democrats have vigorously opposed. The USDA has said a better approach is to boost the value of benefits when they’re used for fruits and veggies.

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The Midland Basin of the Wolfcamp Shale area in the Permian Basin in Texas is estimated to have 20 billion barrels of oil and 1.6 billion barrels of natural gas, according to a new assessment by the U.S. Geologist Survey – that’s three times as big as the estimated amount in the mammoth Bakken formation in North Dakota.

According to newly released estimates, the oilfield, which encompasses the 118 miles of cities Lubbock and Midland, is the largest “continuous oil” discovery in the United States, meaning that the oil is in unconventional formations.

“This oil has been known to be there for a long time – our task is to estimate what we think the volume of recoverable oil is,” assessment team member Chris Schenk said.

“Even in areas that have produced billions of barrels of oil, there is still the potential to find billions more,” Walter Guidroz, coordinator for the USGS Energy Resources Program, said in a statement. “Changes in technology and industry practices can have significant effects on what resources are technically recoverable, and that’s why we continue to perform resource assessments throughout the United States and the world.”

Since the early 1980s oil has been produced in the Wolfcamp area by traditional vertical wells. However, now companies are using horizontal drilling and hydraulic fracturing to tap the continuous oil reserve. More than 3,000 horizontal wells are currently operating, according to the USGS.

Trump: No Need to Prosecute Hillary

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Remember a month or two ago when Donald Trump fired back at Hillary Clinton in one of their debates that when he will be president Hillary will go to jail? Remember

his taunts of “Crooked Hillary” and his supporters chanting, “Lock her up”? Well, he’s won the election but Hillary won’t be wearing orange in the near future. This week, President-elect Donald Trump has decided that he won’t seek criminal investigations related to former rival Hillary Clinton’s private email server or her family foundation, Kellyanne Conway, Trump’s campaign manager, said on Tuesday.

Trump’s decision to pursue or not pursue a criminal investigation from the Oval Office would be an extraordinary break with political and legal protocol, which holds that the attorney general and FBI make decisions on whether to conduct investigations and file charges, free of pressure from the president.

But Conway said Trump now sees things differently. “I think when the president-elect, who’s also the head of your party, tells you before he’s even inaugurated that he doesn’t wish to pursue these charges, it sends a very strong message, tone and content” to fellow Republicans, she said. “Look, I think he’s thinking of many different things as he prepares to become the president of the United States, and things that sound like the campaign are not among them,” she added.

Although Trump has not spoken directly about his apparent change of heart, he hinted at it in a post-election interview with CBS’s “60 Minutes.” “I’m going to think about it,” he said. “I don’t want to hurt them, I don’t want to hurt them. They’re, they’re good people.’’

According to a poll released on Monday, Donald Trump’s popularity has jumped 9 points since becoming the president-elect.

Forty-six percent of those polled hold a very or somewhat favorable view of Trump, while 34 percent hold a very unfavorable view of him.

Twelve percent hold a somewhat unfavorable view of the president-elect.

Trump’s favorability is up 9 points, while his unfavorability fell from 61 percent to 46 percent since being elected into office.

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New Background into Pollard’s Harsh Parole Documents submitted last week show that the United States Parole

On November 20, 1986, Wolf Blitzer interviewed Pollard in jail for The Jerusalem Post. The government claimed that the interview was given in violation of Pollard’s plea agreement. This is hard to understand as Pollard was in federal custody at the time and could only have given the sit-down with the press with direct permission of the federal government.

The conditions of Pollard’s current parole include him not leaving home between 7 p.m. and 7 a.m., wearing a GPS monitoring device at all times (including Shabbos), and submitting any computer he uses for inspection.

Eliot Lauer, Pollard’s attorney, wrote a response to the strict parole conditions in which he says the commission misconstrued events from 30 years ago in order to show that Pollard’s “history and characteristics” require harsh parole terms. “Even if, as the district court stated, the commission is ‘entitled to rely on sources that predate a parolee’s incarceration,’ that does not convert a single unproven instance of a violation of a gag order 30 years ago into an alleged ‘propensity’ to violate parole today.” Lauer added, “Such reasoning also ignores the reformative effect of serving 30 years in prison as a model prisoner.”

The government has made a lot of the Blitzer interview. In December 2012, a declassified CIA document from 1987 said that Pollard had received a life sentence because he violated his plea agreement by giving the interview. In March 1987, Judge Aubrey Robinson sentenced Pollard to life in prison despite Pollard agreeing to cooperate with the investigation against him in return for not receiving such a harsh sentence.

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ing advance approval of the resulting text from the Justice Department violated the terms of his plea bargain,” the document said. “In the Blitzer interview, which was held at Petersburg Federal Penitentiary, Pollard provided extensive information on his motives and objectives in conducting espionage for Israel.

He also provided Blitzer a general account with important examples of intelligence he passed to the Israelis and emphasized that the Israeli government must have been aware of and approved of his activities.”

Esther Pollard, Jonathan’s wife, has always maintained that neither Judge Robinson nor the government had ever warned them against talking to the press. “The government did something highly suspicious by forgetting to send anyone to monitor these interviews,” Esther said. “Later, at sentencing, the prosecutor successfully inflamed the judge against Jonathan by falsely claiming that not only had the interviews been secretly arranged behind their backs, but that Jonathan had also disclosed highly classified material to Blitzer that compromised the intelligence community’s sources and methods.”

Several years later, Blitzer said

that it did appear that the approval for his interview was “part of a calculated scheme” by the prosecution to have Pollard violate his plea agreement. Government prosecutor Joseph diGenova later told the The Village Voice that he hoped the interview would be the “rope with which Pollard would hang himself.”

Flynn is In

While President-elect Trump continues to mold his administration, many eyes are on retired Lt. Michael T. Flynn for the most influential national security job. The three-star general who was instru-

mental in dismantling insurgent networks in Afghanistan and Iraq and formerly led the Defense Intelligence Agency will garner the top spot.

“This is a guy who has the president’s trust, has credentials with the military, credentials with the intelligence community and credibility with Congress,” said Rep. Devin Nunes (R-Ca.), the chairman of the House Intelligence Committee and a member of the Trump transition team. “He’s a very serious person.

He takes his job very seriously.”

Flynn was wrapped up in some drama last year when he traveled to Moscow to appear alongside Russian President Vladimir Putin at an extravagant gala for the Kremlin-run propaganda channel RT. Later on Flynn openly admitted that he was paid to attend and defended his attendance by claiming that RT news is to Russia as CNN is to the U.S. He said that he used the opportunity to pressure Putin’s government to act more responsibly in international affairs.

In 2014 Flynn was forced out of his job as head of the Defense Intelligence Agency over dissatisfaction with his leadership style. He was also very vocal about his distaste for

President Obama and blamed him for his dismissal due to his administration’s discomfort with his hardline views on radical Islam.

Flynn, a longtime Democrat, campaigned for Trump and has said that he has admired the mogul since their initial meeting. “I was very impressed,” Flynn said in the interview with The Post. “Very serious guy. Good listener. Asked really good questions… I found him to be very attuned to what was going on around the world.”

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“We have updated the [Audience Network Policy] to explicitly clarify that this applies to fake news,” a company spokesperson said.

CEO Mark Zuckerberg has vehemently denied accusations that Facebook knowingly allowed fake news to influence voters ahead of the election.

“Personally, I think the idea that fake news on Facebook – of which it’s a small amount of content – influenced the election in any way is a pretty crazy idea,” Zuckerberg said last Thursday.

Google also said it will also prohibit “misrepresentative content” from appearing on its advertising network.

“Moving forward, we will restrict ad serving on pages that misrepresent, misstate, or conceal information about the publisher, the publisher’s content, or the primary purpose of the web property,” the company declared in a statement.

In the days following the election the top result for “final election result” sent users to a false news site that gave misinformation including incorrect voting numbers. In response Google promised to tweak its search algorithms but it is unlikely that they will actually ban them being that the company policy is that it only remove pages from a search if they contain malware or illegal content.

campaign. While there is no law banning false stories, Facebook and Google do have the right to take steps to minimize their involvement with bogus sites. The tech giants will no longer allow fake news sites to use their ad-selling services.

Facebook released a statement last week saying that it will no longer dis-

There are many advantages that the rich have over the poor. They have better access to education, health-

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care, and real estate in lower crime areas. Along with that, researchers have found that the upper class has a longer life expectancy.

Although the U.S. is considered one of the richest countries in the world, there still is a large presence of poverty. “In essence, there are several developing countries hidden within the borders of the United States – regions defined, in this case, by poverty,” a research team wrote in a study published last Thursday in the American Journal of Public Health.

“The ‘state’ of poverty in this country is dramatic and deeply disturbing.”

The research team, from East Tennessee State University, wrote that they could get a better sense of the “actual impact of poverty on health in the United States” if they focused on “the poorest counties in the nation, regardless of where they are geographically located.”

They analyzed the country’s 3,141 counties by using income data from a span of five years from the U.S. Census Bureau’s American Community Survey. The poorest counties were found in Alabama, Arkansas, Georgia, Illinois, Kentucky, Louisiana, Mississippi, Oklahoma, South Carolina, South Dakota, Tennessee, Texas and West Virginia. The median income in those counties was $24,960 and there were considerably smaller populations of 14,000 but there was a high ratio of people to primary care doctors. Smoking rates were twice as high in the poorest country than in the richest, and obesity was 50% more prevalent. Life expectancy for men was 69.8 years, and for women it was 75.9 years On the other side of the greenback, the wealthiest counties in the nation were found in Alaska, California, Colorado, Connecticut, Georgia, Illinois, Indiana, Kentucky, Maryland, Massachusetts, Minnesota, Ohio, New Jersey, New Mexico, New York, Pennsylvania, Utah, Tennessee, Texas and Virginia. The median income there was $89,723 and the counties were much more populated, with about 362,000 residents. Patient to doctor ratios, though, were half the poorer counties. The average life expectancy of a male in the richer countries was 79.3 and 83 for females – that’s a discrepancy of about 10 years for men and more than 7 years for women.

“The results should be deeply disturbing to all persons in the country,” the researchers concluded.

lo and Kevin Duffy were going to tie the knot. They were celebrating their nuptials when the guests smelled something burning. Sure enough, there was a fire in the kitchen and the fire department was called in.

walks around with a big sign over his chest which says, “I don’t know who won and don’t want to. PLEASE DON’T TELL ME!”

Lonely? Or Happy?

Are you reading this on the couch by yourself? Is there no one around you to hear you repeat the brilliant witticisms I am about to throw your way? Your loneliness may mean more than just your need of a shower; it may mean that you’re very smart.

According to evolutionary psychologists from Singapore Management University and the London School of Economics and Political Science, most people are happier when socializing. But that is not the case with everyone. For those who are really intelligent, socializing does not necessary make them happier.

It seems that being really smart helps people adapt to their surroundings. For example, smart people may be able to figure out their new remote or printer or computer faster than others. And they may also be able to figure out that milk left on the counter the whole day should not be consumed. They don’t need others to help them understand these things; they just know it on their own. Friends, therefore, are ancillary.

Other psychologists surmise that smarter people are focused more on achieving their goals than socializing with others, hence they are just as happy being alone. Interestingly, smarter people were actually more unhappy the more time they spent socializing.

So if you spent Thanksgiving dinner by yourself in the den shunning all your family’s guests, you’re not just rude, you may also be very smart.

With Fire and Water It was supposed to be her big day – and then it went up in flames.

Last week, Allison Russoniel-

But the bride kept calm and carried on.

“We figured we would make lemonade out of lemons when we can.

What am I going to do? Sit in a corner and cry? I’ll ruin my makeup,” she said.

The bride and her guests stood outside as dozens of firefighters poured into the hall. Intent on not ruining their day, the bride and groom grabbed their photographer and climbed into a fire truck to memorialize the chaos.

“There was one moment of a little bit of panic,” Allison recalled. “We were in the fire truck taking pictures and the radio was buzzing. It said, ‘All units please report to Bonnet Island.’”

Finally, the cause of the burning was determined and the wedding party was able to go back into the hall.

But Allison was not yet done with making her “lemonade.” She asked the firefighters to come back inside for a photo shoot. They happily obliged, throwing the bride into the air, as the DJs played the song “We Didn’t Start the Fire.”

The day didn’t continue uneventfully, though. When the new couple walked into their home that night, they discovered that they had a flood in the basement.

“We had to laugh it off,” Allison said.

Fire and water. We hope their marriage is slightly calmer.

Chandler told WAGA in Atlanta that as Election Day approached he was riveted like everyone else. “I was invited to an election party to stay up into the night with everybody gnawing their nails,” but instead he decided to go to sleep. He woke up the next morning and felt at peace not knowing what happened. “It is very peaceful in my bubble of ignorance,” he claims, so he has decided to keep it going.

Chandler works from home and avoids TV and newspapers. When he does venture out, aside for the sign over his chest, he also wears big headphones to avoid overhearing conversations.

So when will he end his election results “fast”? Chandler told the “Today Show” that he knows he’ll need to give in eventually. “I am almost ready for somebody to put me out of my misery, but when they do, I have a feeling I might be stepping back into a world of even more misery,” he says, without revealing which candidate he may have supported.

Whenever Chandler does decide to find out who won, he will surely be surprised…big league!

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You know what your mom says: make sure to stay in school. And she’s right. This man skipped out on second grade spelling and now the FBI is after him.

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After a string of bank thefts, the FBI is offering a reward for information on a man who targeted four banks in the Boston area. In all four instances, the robber entered the bank wearing sunglasses and wrote “robery” on a withdrawal slip before handing it to the teller. Tellers have begun to be concerned as he is starting to behave more irrationally and aggressively towards them.

The FBI describes the thief as a white male between 5’11” and 6’2”. He was wearing jeans, a dark jacket and sneakers. And he desperately needs a dictionary.

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Simon Berry, 24, plummeted 240 feet and 10 inches while attempting to dip a chocolate hobnob into a cup of tea to claim the record for highest bungee dunk ever on the 12th annual Guinness World Records Day. He broke the previous record held by American Ron Jones with a bungee dunk of 198 feet, 8 inches.

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Perhaps it’s worth ten bucks. Was the steak a little too chewy? Maybe you’d like to only contribute a fiver. Was your cappuccino the best you’ve ever

tasted? Better empty that wallet.

David Wade McCullough, who operated a pop-up food stand for the past three years, opened the full-time restaurant this week. The payment philosophy was inspired by a restaurant McCullough visited in Australia.

McCullough says that making money from the restaurant is secondary

to his main purpose which is “giving people a safe place where they can come and have something to eat.” So far, he says most people are “fair and honest and want to contribute.”

Here’s something to ponder: If a restaurant like this opened on Central Avenue, would it be successful?

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Community Shulamith Middle Division Torah Bowl Team Sweeps First Meet

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eeks of studying and practice culminated in the first Torah Bowl Meet of the year hosted by HAFTR at Beth Sholom in Lawrence. The Eastern Girls Division has expanded to include HAFTR, HALB, HANC, NSHA and Silverstein Academy of Great Neck as well as Shulamith. The teams studies the first three parshiyot of Sefer Devarim with all of Rashi’s commentary. The Torah Bowl competition requires both depth and breadth of knowledge, as well as speed and thorough recall.

The Shulamith team is very enthusiastic, giving up two lunches a week to study and practice with buzzers to simulate a real meet. The captains, Ariella Borah and Anni Laufer, and the coaches, Mrs. Billet and Morah Fischman, prepare questions on the material and quiz the team members.

All the hard work paid off, as the Shulamith team beat all its opponents in the five matches that compose the meet. But winning doesn’t guarantee a championship, since the rules of the game allow anyone in the league to come from behind

and win the division lead and go to the league-wide championship at the end of the year. By May, the teams will have studies all of Sefer Devarim with Rashi, and will have sharpened their skills and gained much knowledge of the text and the con-

cepts of the sefer. We look forward to a great year of Torah study and chavruta (Torah study partnership and friendship).

May all the teams learn lots of Torah lishmah!

Sweet Treats for Delectable Learning

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ll of the elementary school talmidim of Yeshiva Darchei Torah enjoyed fresh ice cream cones in honor of the launch of this year’s Shnayim Mikra V’echad Targum program.

Each week, the talmidim are given age-appropriate goals to complete portions of the parshas hashavua according to the method of Shnayim Mikra V’echad Targum. The sweet ice cream served as an incentive for the boys to do their very best as they review the sweet words of the Chumash. Depending on their progress, they will receive further rewards as the year progresses.

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HAFTR Teams up with Stonybrook University for Penguin Research Project

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ifth grade students in HAFTR’s gifted program have been partnering with Stonybrook University researchers to track penguin colonies in Antarctica. The tracking method, called the Mapping Application for Penguin Populations and Projected Dynamics, enables citizen scientists to use Web-based technology and Google Earth to locate guano, the stain left by penguin excrement. Guano is found only in the places where penguins breed, so locating the stains aids in determining the location of penguin populations.

Global climate change is seriously impacting the penguin population in Antarctica. As the ice melts, the penguins’ habitat is threatened, so locating and protecting penguin populations is critical. Dr. Heather Lynch, associate professor of ecology and evolution at Stonybrook University and the primary investigator on this

project, along with Mathew Schwaller of NASA’s Goddard Space Flight Center, developed the tracking program for citizen scientists to help policy-makers with conservation directives aimed at saving Antarctica’s dwindling penguin populations.

Mrs. Lisa Rosenberg, gifted education teacher, and Rabbi Baruch Noy of the technology department initiated this project in Rosenberg’s fifth grade gifted program in early November, after reading an article in Newsday. To date, the students have found two penguin colonies by locating their guano stains by looking at satellite images taken in 2011. According to Professor Lynch and Dr. Grant Humphries, MAPPPD data webmaster, Rosenberg’s students found an emperor penguin colony called Smith, with around 4,000 breeding pairs of penguins. The colony was locat-

ed 2.3 km from where they were last seen in a 2009 image, indicating that this colony still existed at that point in time. Additionally, Rosenberg’s students uncovered another penguin emperor colony called Smyley, which had 6,061 nests at last count in 2009. Lynch and Humphries plan to use this data to convince NASA to task some satellite time to investigate these colonies in the near future.

Rosenberg and her students are very excited to be a part of this exciting research. This project is perfect for her gifted class, Rosenberg says. “The kids are completely engaged.

They understand the importance of protecting various species from global climate change and its effect on the penguins’ habitat and ecosystem. The use of technology only fuels the students’ excitement as well as the ‘gross factor’ of locating the penguins’ guano (poop)

stains.” Rosenberg and her students look forward to continuing the hunt for penguin colonies and aiding in

the research needed to developing the global solution.

Zichron Tzirel Middos Program Named at YOSS

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t a dedication assembly in conjunction with the first yahrtzeit of Rebbitzin Tzirel Kamenetzky, the wife of the founder and Rosh Yeshiva, Rabbi Binyamin Kamenetzky, Yeshiva of South Shore formally renamed their Middos Development Program as the “Zichron Tzirel Middos Program.”

Headed by the Menahel HaMechina Rabbi Zev Davidowitz and led by Program Coordinator Rabbi Shlomo Drebin, the program now in its second year focuses on our talmidim’s character development. Each month, another middah is presented, and through inspirational speeches and stories, fun activities and exciting incentives‎, the talmidim gain a real-life appreciation of the middah.

This unique middos program permeates the air in the Mechina, and by the end of each month, talmidim are already trying to guess the next mid-

dah!

Rabbi Avraham Chaim Knobel, a YOSS alumnus and grandson of the Rebbetzin, shared with the talmidim inspiring life lessons from his grandmother’s life. Quoting the Orchos Tzadikim who explains that middos tovos, good character traits, are the strand that holds the jewels of Torah and mitzvos together, he said, “If the strand is broken you lose all the precious stones!”

The Rebbitzen told her grandson that she was able to build up her middos and bein adam l’chaveiro by always imagining that her parents and grandparents were standing before her. She would ask herself, “How would they view my reaction to a particular event?”

Rebbetzin Kamenetzky a”h was beloved by very many people in the neighborhood, especially those who remember her active role when the

Five Towns community was in its early stages of development. Her embrace of all Jews endeared her to so many. It was in those years when the neighborhood was very mixed, with people of all backgrounds living together, that her pleasant and sweet

approach to others was greatly realized. What a wonderful zechus it is for the talmidim of YOSS to have – that they can be connected to such a wonderful person and neshama, as they develop their own middos tovos in her memory.

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Shulamith’s Challah Bake

Rebbetzin Teitelbaum Speaks about Becoming Bat Mitzvah

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ver 300 mothers, daughters, grandmothers and sisters gathered on Wednesday night, November 16, to celebrate the special mitzvah of challah at the SWO Shulamith Challah bake. As the guests entered Beth Shalom in Lawrence, they snapped pictures at the photo booth, received beautiful aprons, and were directed to their tables to begin preparing the challah.

Parents Chevi Kail, Tzippy Chait and Camille Weiss led the evening, sharing the meaning of each ingredient as it was added to the dough. The principals of each division of Shulamith, Mrs. Estee Scher, Mrs. Joyce Yarmak, Dr. Evelyn Gross, Mrs. Rookie Billet and Mrs. Rina Zerykier, enhanced the celebration. The evening ended with a spirited, spiritual kumzits led

by Mrs. Adina Wolf and accompanied

by Shulamith High School students.

Every family enjoyed making their dough together and braiding their beautiful challot! A special thank you to all of the committee members for

T making the event a huge success, and to our sponsors, Oh! Nuts, Gourmet Glatt, Paper Place, Event Planner NY, and DJ Malka, David Chait of DOME Healthcare, and TovaK Designs.

he sixth graders in Shulamith Middle Division are each eagerly anticipating becoming a bat mitzvah. In the first of an upcoming series of lectures, on Wednesday, November 16, Rebbetzin Suri Teitelbaum spoke to the girls about the role of the Jewish woman.

Referencing Shlomo Hamelech’s beloved composition, Eishet Chayil, Rebbetzin Teitelbaum encouraged the girls to name the unique qualities of an eishet chayil. Bravery, strength, loyalty, risk-taking, and a strong desire to protect that which is hers were just some of the ideas the

girls formulated.

The Rebbetzin told the girls that to be an eishet chayil is to be someone very special. She expounded on the word, “gimelatu,” explaining that it indicates good deeds or kindness. The line in Eishet Chayil refers to our Imahot who took the initiative to do for other people. The words especially reflect the qualities of Rivka Imeinu who epitomized kindness.

As each girl becomes bat mitzvah, she hopes to emulate the Imahot and acquire the many wonderful traits of an eishet chayil.

Yeshiva of Central Queens Bat Mitzvah Workshop

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n November 9, the sixth grade girls of YCQ and their mothers had the privilege of attending a Bat Mitzvah workshop.

The program began with two inspirational d’var Torahs, the first by Rabbi Landsman, principal, and the second

by Morah Hadas Fried, the girls’ Naavi teacher and Bat Mitzvah coordinator. The program was an amazing

bonding experience for the girls and their mothers, as they learned about the importance of becoming a Bat Mitzvah and the responsibilities they will take on as members of the Jewish community. The girls and their mothers began their Namesake Projects where they will research the people they were named after or write about why their parents chose their names and what they are going to do to better themselves to be like those name-

sakes. They attended a workshop on values and priorities. The night ended with some simcha dancing and each girl looking forward to becoming a Bat Mitzvah.

The reason for this annual program is to introduce the girls and their mothers to the “Bat Mitzvah year” and the expectations the school has for each young lady as an individual. A Bar Mitzvah workshop is run for the boys as well. During the pro-

grams, the families are informed of the protocol allowed for celebrations as well as the various tzedakah projects they will participate in as a class and others they could take on as individuals. The aim of these projects are to offer direction and support as the students enter their own Jewish communities and klal Yisroel as independent young adults.

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Packed Open House at Rambam Mesivta

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his past Motzei Shabbos, Rambam Mesivta, currently celebrating its 25th anniversary, opened its doors to a full room of prospective 8thgraders and their parents who were interested in the school’s mission of “Torah, Midos, and Excellence.”

Rabbi Ari Boiangiu, Rambam Rebbe, began the evening by describing Rambam’s unique school environment that fosters a love of Torah and builds relationships that last a lifetime between the rebbeim and the talmidim.

Rabbi Zev Meir Friedman, Rosh Mesivta of Rambam, was introduced by senior Noah Schwartz and junior Yoni Grossman. Rabbi Friedman discussed the school’s focus on instilling midos in every facet of the school’s culture. He shared insights into how the Mesivta guides talmidim to recognize the chochmas Hashem in every area of their lives.

He also discussed the warmth that permeates Rambam and how no student falls under the cracks. He shared, “In a school that is small by design, we are able to know each talmid on an individual basis and create a meaningful kesher with each talmid.” He also discussed the school’s commitment to activism

and getting involved in the issues of the time. “If there is something wrong, we speak up.”

Senior Avi Orlow and junior Akiva Schuck introduced Assistant Principal Mr. Hillel Goldman who spoke about the school’s STEM Program, which has an extra emphasis on social sciences; the Writing Program; and Masmidim. He also explored the Mesivta’s extracurricular activities ethos that promotes the idea of having a culture that promotes leadership, chevra, midos, academic excellence, chessed, and self-esteem. “’A Team for every Talent. A

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s part of Dovi Tomaszewski’s Heart to Heart curriculum, TAG’s fourth grade raised money to buy a beautiful Shabbos tablecloth and challah cover for the Shabbos table in the Achiezer respite room at South Nassau Hospital. The girls got to per-

sonally deliver the gifts and hear from Mrs. Aliza Wartelsky about all the amazing work that Achiezer does for patients and families. Iy”H this should be the beginning of many acts of chessed that the girls perform throughout their lives.

Club for every Curiosity. A Place for every Person’ is the idea behind our student activities,” explained Mr. Goldman.

Rabbi Friedman and Mr. Goldman also explored the school’s approach to religious Zionism and academic excellence, portions that are normally covered by Principal Rabbi Yotav Eliach, who unfortunately could not be there as he was sitting shiva for his mother, Dr. Yaffa Eliach.

Mr. Goldman noted that in addition to being, once again, awarded Middle States Accreditation, the

school was one of 53 schools, out of an estimated 37,000, to win Blue Ribbon Award Distinction.

Mrs. Rebecca Isseroff, the school’s Science Scholar-In-Residence, then took center-stage to regale the crowd with science wizardry.

Following the presentation, parents and students went into separate groups to meet with administrators, teachers, rebbeim, and students before a collation concluded the night.

It was a very impressive turnout and the school is looking forward to welcoming a new cohort of “Rambam Men.”

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Gurwin Jewish’s Fifth Annual “L’dor V’Dor” Calendar

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dorable puppies, beautiful scenery and vintage cars — these are some of the common themes you’ll see for 2017 wall calendars. But recently, at the Cinema Arts Centre in Huntington, a unique and inspiring calendar theme was revealed, starring the timeless beauty and sage advice of 15 senior residents of the Gurwin Jewish ~ Fay J. Lindner Residences.

A calendar “reveal” was held in the Cinema Arts Centre’s Sky Lounge, filled to capacity with the calendar models, family members, staff and community members who were there to celebrate and catch a first glimpse of the anticipated publication. Now in its fifth year, the calendar not only includes stunning portraits of seniors who have cornered the market on successful aging, but it also celebrates the wisdom of the Greatest Generation.

“Tonight, we celebrate the men and women of our 2017 Calendar,” said Staci Rosenberg-Simons, Director of Marketing for the assisted living com-

munity and the emcee for the evening.

As each model was introduced, a dramatic image of the calendar page filled the screen, to smiles and an occasional tear. Following the introductions, a film entitled, “Behind the Scenes: the Making of the 2017 Calendar” was shown, recounting the

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experience for the participants. The film can be viewed here: http://www. gurwin.org/assisted-living/calendar/ “I was never a calendar girl before,” said Ruth deBeer, whose life changed dramatically when her family fled Germany to Palestine just before Kristallnacht. “I had so much fun, and the pictures turned out terrific. I am going to keep it on my wall forever!”

“The calendar is really such a wonderful project,” said Ms. Rosenberg-Simons. “Seeing their faces light up when they see their calendar pages for the first time is just priceless, but more than the photos, it is the advice they impart as a by-product of their life experiences that makes the calendar a treasure.”

With a title of “L’dor V’Dor,” which translates to “From Generation to Generation,” the premise of the Gurwin Jewish ~ Fay J. Lindner Residences calendar is that its residents have led lives rich with experiences that will enable them to impart valuable advice for future generations. Among these are the wise words from Stewart Greene, an original “Mad Man” and former partner at the Wells Rich Greene advertising agency, known for many iconic ads, including Alka Seltzer’s “I Can’t Believe I Ate the Whole Thing!” Mr. Greene, who retired young and sailed around the world, says it’s important to “pursue your passions.”

Mary Falcone, a quintessential Italian grandma with four daughters, 12 grandchildren and 14 great-grandchildren (and one on the way), advises future generations to always “cherish family.”

Family is, of course, at the heart

of every “L’dor v’dor” calendar, and this year’s calendar features two couples who have cornered the market on long, happy marriages — Helen and Mel Morgenstein, currently married 72 years, and Les and Lorraine Parver, who got hitched 68 years ago. Each couple offers sage advice on a successful partnership, such as the Morgensteins’ reminder to always “respect each other,” and the Parvers’ suggestion to “cultivate your own interests.”

One of the most lasting benefits to come from Gurwin’s calendars is the recounting of world history, which this year comes in the form of three Holocaust survivors and a decorated World War II veteran. Gerald Burberry, who escaped Nazi Germany along with thousands of other Jewish children via the Kindertransport, is his family’s sole survivor. After marrying his wife Helen, Mr. Burberry discovered his love for nature photography, which lent well to his determination to find the beauty in life despite his experiences as a young man. He leaves future generations with this piece of advice: “Appreciate nature.”

Edwin Zola, who was drafted to fight in the Army around the same time his family was taken to Auschwitz, had the fortune of reuniting with his brother and sister, his only remaining family, who had moved to the United States before the war. Having seen firsthand the horrors of war, Mr. Zola says that people should “use common sense” as a means of ending war. And Ms. deBeer — better known as Ms. March — rebuilt her life in the United States, but wants to be sure that future generations “never forget.”

For Sidney Klein, a decorated World War II Army veteran who earned a Purple Heart after being injured in the Battle of the Bulge, it’s his pride in our nation that he credits as a driving force in his life. His advice: “Serve your country.”

“The residents featured in our calendar are truly an inspiration,” says Herbert H. Friedman, Executive Vice President, Gurwin Jewish. “They have lived lives filled with a wide range of rich experiences, and they offer us not only a window into the past, but a path to the future.”

Copies of the calendar are available free of charge by emailing info@ gurwin.org or by calling 631.715.8537.

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South Nassau Communities Hospital Respite Room

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SOUTH NASSAU AND ACHIEZER RECOGNIZE THE UNIQUE NEEDS OF THE LOCAL ORTHODOX JEWISH POPULATION AND ARE WORKING TOGETHER TO MAKE YOUR STAY MORE COMFORTABLE AND ENJOYABLE. We’re working with doctors, nurses and our entire hospital staff to raise awareness of the sensitivities and sensibilities of Orthodox Jews; and we are working closely with our Rabbinical consultants to anticipate our patients’ needs before they arise.

To highlight these efforts, we are pleased to provide the Kosher Pantry/Respite Room co-sponsored by South Nassau and Achiezer. This room offers a quiet haven for patients to relax, rejuvenate and enjoy a variety of kosher amenities provided exclusively for their use. Thanks to Gourmet Glatt, the pantry is fully stocked throughout the week and has hot meals for Shabbos and Yom Tov. And with a Monday-Thursday 1:35 p.m. Mincha Minyan year-round on premises, and Young Israel of Oceanside nearby (walkable within

For more information about the Respite Room or our other services, call 877-SOUTH-NASSAU, visit southnassau.org or call Achiezer at 516-791-4444.

the Eruv), we can always help meet your spiritual and medical needs.

South Nassau also offers a convenient Shabbos elevator, and comfortable overnight accommodations are available year-round at our kosher Shabbat Hospitality House, which is complete with beds, linen, durable kosher food items and a refrigerator. Electric Sabbath candles are available.

Access to the Shabbat Hospitality House is arranged through South Nassau’s Spiritual Care Program.

When you find yourself in our hospital, visit the new Respite Room located on the Ground Floor G Wing adjacent to the Volunteer Office, and see for yourself why more and more Jewish families throughout the area are choosing South Nassau.

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Shulamith Second Graders Give Mrs. Levy Motivates HALB Thanks Students

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n Thursday, November 17, the second grade students of Shulamith School for Girls welcomed their parents and grandparents to the annual Thanksgiving Fair. The school lunchroom was elaborately decorated in fall colors, creating a festive atmosphere for the event. The girls sang songs and presented poems. There were also interactive booths for the children and their guests to “feast” upon: making cupcake turkeys, placemats, and bookmarks were some of the activities that delighted everyone.

Thanks to the creativity and commitment of their teacher, Mrs. Sharon Katz, the second graders enjoyed an enriching experience which taught them all about the Pilgrims and why they came to the “New World.” They learned how very different life was at that time than it is today and came to understand the hardships the Pilgrims endured. As the students and parents thanked their teachers, it was evident that all had gained a newfound appreciation and understanding of hakarat hatov.

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ust a few days before Thanksgiving, Mrs. Chava Willig Levy – motivational speaker and author of “A Life Not with Standing” – came to speak to the 3rd and 4th graders at HALB. Mrs. Levy was curious to learn about the HALB students, and the students were eager to learn about Mrs. Levy as well! Some students shared important facts about themselves, such as being an identical twin, being a spelling champion and an athlete, while Mrs. Levy shared that she loves children and that she is fascinated by words. All the children were curious about why Mrs. Levy gets around in a motorized

wheelchair and asked many relevant questions. Mrs. Levy demonstrated to the children that her chair can move in all different directions – even up!

– and has different functions which come in handy. Mrs. Levy pointed out that although she is not happy that she has a disability, she is grateful and thankful for her adventurous life and her power chair (which plays a key role in the song she taught the children).

Thank you very much, Mrs. Levy, for coming to our school and for teaching our children the importance of kavod habriyot and hakarat hatov.

Awardees & Dignitaries at 22nd Rachel’s Children Reclamation Foundation Annual Commemoration of the Yahrzeit of Rachel Imeinu PHOTO CREDIT: DEBORAH SCOP

L-R: Tanya Sarah Sheivester, Rachel Imeinu Young Leadership Award; Robin Ticker, Co-President, Brooklyn AFSI Chapter holds Memorial Recognition Award for Charlotte Wahle z”l; Dr. Paul Brody, Master of Ceremonies; Alexander Gelman, PhD., presentation on Jewish Ancestry and DNA; Rabbi Yaakov D. Cohen, Breaking the Silence Award; Evelyn Haies, Founder and President of Rachel’s Children Reclamation Foundation and Bnei Rachel Corp, the majority owner of the property next to Rachel’s Tomb in Beis Lechem; NYC Councilman Chaim Deutsch; Cantor David Presler; and Sergeant David Haies, Lone Soldier, IDF Givati Unit

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Fifteenth Annual Dinner for Kehillas Bais Yehuda Tzvi of Cedarhurst PHOTO CREDIT: CHAIM KASDAN PHOTOGRAPHY

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Grateful for Great Wine

By Gabriel Geller

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n a few days, hundreds of millions of American citizens will celebrate the national holiday of Thanksgiving. On that very day, those who celebrate it express their gratitude for all the good they have in life. The believers thank G-d, others thank their family or their friends.

Personally, as a Swiss-born and frum Jew, I do not celebrate Thanksgiving. I consider that every day is Thanksgiving, as we thank Hashem many times a day for all the good in our lives, in which every single detail matters. We bless G-d multiple times a day in each of the daily tefillos as well as for our food and drink. The Torah offers us a way of life that is not a routine, on the contrary it is a constant renewal of our commitment to G-d through mitzvos and brachos which are the concrete expression of our gratefulness for G-d’s goodness towards us. That culminates every week by Shabbos and kiddush.

The kiddush is made on wine, and while I do enjoy a glass of good wine almost every night with my dinner, the wines that I choose for Shabbos are usually extra special.

As well, I often think about the fact that until only a few years ago, the selection of quality kosher wines was rather restrained, and that is an understatement. When I pour myself a glass of wine, I try to remember how

blessed our generation is for being able to enjoy such a wonderful and diverse collection of wines!

There is a wine that I was truly thrilled to drink recently: the Carmel Kayoumi Riesling from Israel.

I am a huge fan of white wines in general, and of the Riesling variety in particular. The Kayoumi vineyard is situated in the upper Galilee, and it has produced the grapes for some of the country’s best wines for over a decade, including some of the most refined Cabernet Sauvignon and Shiraz out there. This Riesling is such a treat, as it is dry yet full of fruit flavors such as green apple, grapefruit and peaches, and its refreshing acidity makes it the perfect companion with a hearty fall dish of smoked turkey, mushrooms and quinoa.

Netofa is a winery that is located at the foot of Mt. Tabor, in the lower Galilee. The wines made by Pierre Miodownick are unusual in Israel as if you taste them without looking at the label, you might well believe that they’re French, and not Israeli.

It is not so much of a surprise once we know that for many years, Pierre made most of the kosher runs of the finest French wines such as Châteaux Giscours, Montviel and Malartic-Lagravière. The Latour Netofa however calls to mind the wines of the southern Rhône valley rather than those of Bordeaux. It is a blend of Syrah and Mourvèdre that features aromas of roasted meat, leather and ripe raspberries. Full-bodied and

velvety, it is even better when sipped while enjoying a plate of lamb shoulder roast or a beef bourguignon.

Netofa winery happens to have another boutique winery as a neighbor, the Or Haganuz winery. Or Haganuz grows its vines on the slopes of the mountains surrounding Mt. Meron. The grapes yielded by those vines are very much concentrated in their juices, and the wines are big and bold, very ripe with lots of oaky flavors. Their Marom Cabernet Franc from the Evyatar vineyard is no exception, and it is an interesting wine which I recommend to try as Cabernet Franc is a grape variety that shows fascinating characteristics in Israel.

Italy is an old world country that makes me dreamy. The beautiful vineyards of Tuscany are home to Terra di Seta, the first fully kosher winery in the country. I am truly grateful for having now the possibility of enjoying a very special wine, the new Terra di Seta Gran Selezione Assai Chianti Classico. I am well aware of the fact that many wineries often use words such as “Reserve” or “Superieur” mainly for marketing purposes. Having said this, in this case the “Gran Selezione” moniker is one that cannot be used without being truly deserved. The “Gran Selezione” denomination designates the wines that have been recognized of the highest quality in the Chianti Classico appellation by an official committee of wine experts. These

wines must be aged for a minimum of 30 months, including at least 3 months of bottle aging prior to release. Only the very best Sangiovese grapes of the region can be used to produce a wine that will be a candidate for the prized and coveted “Gran Selezione.” This wine truly is a pleasure to drink now when properly aerated beforehand but will likely improve and develop further complexity and flavors for years to come.

Celler de Capçanes in Spain have released this year La Flor del Flor Samso. Samso is Catalan for Carignan. This is a wine that has the potential to reward those who are patient with an extraordinary wine once it will have reached its peak, and I am looking forward to enjoy and watch its evolution over many years to come. Made from old vines that for some are over 100 years old, this powerhouse of a wine explodes with aromas of blackberries, olives, earth and espresso. Once again, I am thankful for having the possibility to enjoy such a unique and amazing wine.

The brachos that I say before and after drinking wines such as the aforementioned ones to thank Hashem make them even more special, even though I say them practically every day. I wish you all to say kiddush on great wines at least every Shabbos, and to be thankful to Hashem for all the good He grants us every instant of our lives. L’chaim!

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Snip, snip, snip is what “Hiding O’Sheep” is all about. In part II of the melacha of gozez at Learn & Live on Sunday the boys got to see, touch and cut from some real sheep hides and kept the wool to be used at a future Learn & Live when the boys will do some hand carding. Thank you R’ Nochum Dinowitz and Ari Strickman. This Sunday will be “Dry Cleaning & Other Dry Cleaners.” For more information about Learn & Live, email learnandlivefr@gmail.com.

A Week in Yeshiva of Central Queens

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ast week, State Senator Michael Simanowitz made a visit to YCQ to speak to some students and thank Mrs. Melissa Maisel, club organizer, and Sam Verstandig, student president, for all their hard work for “Mix It Up,” an anti-bullying club that helps students learn effective ways to break down social and racial barriers, as well as to build healthy relationships with their peers.

The visit from the senator was a great way to kick off election week. Students throughout the school voted in a variety of elections. The elementary school got to experience the voting process by voting for ices or cupcakes as an Election Day treat. The JHS students

had their own campaigning and elections taking place for this year’s student government.

In addition to the election excitement, technology has taken the forefront in enhancing the students’ academic skills through fun and innovative tablet and Chromebook applications.

The YCQ Tablet program is in full swing with their new Educational Technology Coordinator, Miriam Kavian, who has done extensive research on the top academic applications and is now introducing them to teachers and students for use in the classrooms. All students in both elementary and JHS have the opportunity to enhance their learning using both tablets and Chromebooks.

Israel Advocacy at the Forefront of HANC High School

By Josh Weinstein, Grade 11

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ANC High School was proud to send a delegation of five students to the annual AIPAC Schusterman Advocacy Institute High School Summit in Alexandria, Virginia, accompanied by Assistant Principal Ms. Tziporah Zucker.

AIPAC, the leading organization to promote bi-partisan support of the America-Israel relationship, organizes a summit every year for select high school students, training students in methods of advocating for Israel, how to combat the Boycott, Divestment, and Sanctions (BDS) movement on college campuses, and how to represent and strive for bi-partisan support in resolutions aiding Israel in Congress.

The students participated in and enjoyed a wide variety of sessions, which ultimately culminated on Tuesday, November 15, with a day of lobbying the office of Congresswoman Kathleen Rice, a staunch supporter of the America-Israel relationship.

The talking points presented to the staff of the Congresswoman’s office were regarding the Iran sanctions act, the Israeli-Palestinian conflict, and the continued American funding provided to Israel. In addition, the students participated on a tour of the monuments in Washington, D.C., while learning and experiencing America in a fun and educational way.

Additionally, the students were given the opportunity to meet with Rabbi Lord Jonathan Sacks, Chief Rabbi of the United Hebrew Congre-

Assistant Principal, Ms. Tziporah Zucker, Leah Yardani, Batsheva Moskowitz, Chief Rabbi Lord Jonathan Sacks, Zack Plutzer, Josh Weinstein, and Tehillah Baruch

gation of the Commonwealth, as well as many other influential members of the pro-Israel community.

The goal of the summit was for stu-

dents to learn how to better advocate for Israel and the HANC students are currently preparing to host advocacy events on their campus.

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The Bostoner Rebbe Visits MAY

Tenth grader Ariel Goodstein receiving a bracha from the Rebbe

The Rebbe giving brachos to ninth grade talmidim

Rabbi Yehuda Horowitz, MAY Mashgiach Ruchani, greeting the Rebbe

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ast Friday, the talmidim of Mesivta Ateres Yaakov had the distinct z’chus to hear divrei Torah from the Bostoner Rebbe of Yerushalayim, Rav Mayer Alter Horowitz, shlit”a. A unique Torah personality, the Rebbe inspired the talmidim through Torah and song.

The Rebbe is the son of HaRav Levi Yitzchak Horowitz, the second Bostoner Rebbe, and was born in Boston, Massachusetts. From 1969 to 1989, the Rebbe was Rav of Congregation Beth Pinchas, located in Boston, and was integral to the formation of ROFEH International and

the Torah Academy of Boston. The Rebbe now lives in Har Nof where he leads the vibrant Bostoner kehilah.

The Rebbe’s older brother, Rabbi Pinchos Dovid Horowitz, is the Bostoner-Chuster Rav of Borough Park,

Brooklyn, and his younger brother, Rabbi Naftali Yehuda Horowitz, is the Bostoner Rebbe of Brookline, Massachusetts.

Following the divrei Torah, the MAY talmidim lined up to give sha-

lom and receive a bracha from the Rebbe. The Rebbe warmly greeted each talmid, and for many of them included their names into the unique bracha that he gave them.

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Fun and Football Tech and Torah at Yeshiva University High School for Girls

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he laws of Shabbat are becoming more and more intertwined with technology.

From timers to Shabbat-mode ovens to automatic sensors, the technological world comprises the vast majority of contemporary Shabbat halakhic issues. Says Rabbi Josh Strulowitz, “One needs to be highly educated in hilchot Shabbat and core scientific principles to know how to navigate this burgeoning technological age.”

This is especially important for our students, who are so immersed in technology that they regard it as indispensable. A new interdisciplinary course at Central is designed to teach hilchot Shabbat in conjunction with technology to educate our students in both highly important disciplines.

The class addresses key Shabbat concepts such as melakha, melekhet machshevet, gerama, and muktzah, together with lessons about electricity, circuitry, sensors, thermostats, and more.

With Rabbi Strulowitz, students explore the halachic process as they

see how poskim have grappled with groundbreaking new technologies and note the sensitivity of the halachic process as it creates heterim based on various mitigating factors.

With Mr. David Horstman, who teaches engineering to grades 9-12, they are learning about how electrical systems work, the harnessing and distributing of electricity, and the building of circuits, timers, sensors, thermostats, and different forms of lightbulbs. The primary assessment will be a year-end project in which the students design their own Shabbat technological invention and explain it from a halachic and scientific perspective. In this course, students are gaining an understanding of design thinking, which will enable them to create action-oriented and solution-focused projects, using their creativity, logic, intuition, and reasoning skills to express their understanding of the course content.

We can’t wait to see what happens with this course, which is truly Torah u’madda at its finest!

Aish Hatorah Comes to Rambam Mesitva

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abbi Max Anteby, Senior International Lecturer for Aish Hatorah, was welcomed to Rambam Mesivta the other day to discuss “Torah and the Origins of the Universe.” The program was arranged by Rambam Rebbe, Rabbi Ari Boiangiu, who introduced Rabbi Anteby as a scholar, successful CEO, and talmid chachom.

Rabbi Anteby, using complex

mathematical formulas, coupled with quotes from the Torah and the meforshim, gave compelling proofs about the actual age of the universe.

The discussion was erudite, as well as humorous, and Rabbi Anteby was impressed with the decorum and insight displayed by the talmidim.

The school is looking forward to welcoming him back for a follow-up visit in a few months.

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nder the leadership of Rabbi Eli Brazil and Larry Gross, the Five Towns Flag Football League has just finished their inaugural season. Congratulations to the Champions in each division: 2nd grade – Giants; 3rd/4th grade – Patriots; 5/6th grade – Steelers; and 7th /8th grade - Packers.

The season and playoffs were beyond amazing as many of the games were decided in the final seconds. The league, which is open to 1st-8th grade boys in the Five Towns and surrounding areas, had 5 divisions

with over 30 teams. The ability to play competitive flag football in a structured environment makes this league such a great success. Plans are under way for next season, which will hopefully begin in the beginning of March.

We would like to thank the league sponsors Gourmet Glatt and S. Adelsberg & Co. Certified Public Accountants. Registration will open shortly after Thanksgiving. Sign up at www.5townsflagfootball.com to reserve your spot before the league is closed out.

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Yeshiva Ketana of Queens Debates the Issues

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eshiva Ketana of Queens celebrated the right to vote with its own mock election on November 7. The mood in the yeshiva had been quite intense as far back as September as we heard our highly politicized children in grades 2-8 offer their – and sometimes their parents’ – opinions on which candidate would be the best president. Conversations ranged from who had less integrity to whom would be better for the Jews – the two greatest criteria, it seemed, during this election season. Our mock election began two weeks before the election when our four eighth grade candidates, Yehoshua Hoch, Tuvia Kleinkaufman, Tzvi Levenson and Aron Munk, along with their vice presidents, campaign managers and other workers, began campaigning by plastering the yeshiva’s walls with posters full of promises and snappy slogans. The climax of the campaign was reached on November 7 when the junior high held its truly professional debate in our shul. Each boy opened with a

two minute speech giving his perspective on the U.S. and the world and explaining his platform. The speeches were followed by a debate in which the moderator, Menachem Bilitzky, posed questions concerning what the candidates planned to do for national security as well as on the hot topics of immigration, debt and gun control. Our students’ answers demonstrated points of view that ranged from moderately left

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wing to fiercely rightist. Some of the questions that the audience were able to pose at the end were also quite on target especially when they wondered how a candidate could possibly expect to deport or jail 10,000,000 immigrants if he also expected to get rid of the national debt. The candidates were well prepared as proven by their ability to cite statistics on each topic. We were also quite awed by the speakers’ pub-

lic speaking abilities as they wound down with their concluding speeches. Though the Kleinkaufman-Bondi team received the most votes and the Levenson-Levy team finished in a close second, the audience – student and faculty – could not stop marveling at the knowledge and ability of all our candidates.

Perhaps the president-elect may want to take a lesson or two from our students.

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Adopt-a-Kollel at the Agudah Convention

Harav Shmuel Kaminetzky with Adopt-a-Kollel Coordinators

Adopt-a-Kollel Booth

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Israel Activism at Midreshet Shalhevet

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idreshet Shalhevet’s committee of Israel Activism has hit the ground running.

Midreshet Shalhevet’s Committee for Israel Activism (CIA), led by Mr. Simcha Bader and club heads, Rachel Fishbein and Zahava Fertig, have already had multiple meetings to discuss current Israel news as well as plan the next few months of Israel programming and presentations.

The club has started a new initiative after Tefila, updating the students on Israeli current events and world-wide news regarding Jews and the State of Israel. Avigail Borah of Hewlett, said, “It’s really

important that we all know what is happening in Israel news, because even though we live here in America, we need to know what is happening to our brothers and sisters in Israel.”

As a proud Zionist school with a strong emphasis on Israel education, Midreshet Shalhevet takes great pride in our connection and close ties with StandWithUs. Once a month Paul Friedman, Tri-State Area High School Program Director of StandWithUs, partners with Midreshet Shalhevet, providing fascinating presentations and speakers to educate the students on matters relating to

Israel. The main goal of the programs is to empower the girls with facts about Israel, teach them how to combat anti-Semitism, and the BDS movement plaguing universities and colleges across the world.

Last week, the CIA club met with Mr. Friedman to learn and discuss the differences between anti-Semitism and legitimate criticism. Defining Anti-Semitism as demonization, delegitimization, and double standards, the girls participated in the conversation by asking and answering questions to further understand what Antisemitism means and why it exists.

They discussed that although Israel has room for improvement that does not mean that it doesn’t have the right to exist.

Imparting the message “speaking up is the only thing that will make a difference,” Mr. Friedman explained the importance of being a part of the dialogue to teach the truth

and facts about the only democratic country in the Middle East, our beloved Israel.

Thank you to Mr. Bader for planning the presentation and to Paul Friedman for taking the time to educate and discuss these important issues with Midreshet Shalhevet’s Committee of Israel Activism club.

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Mesivta Yam Hatorah – A Principal’s Point of View

By Rabbi Nachum Dinowitz

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ife is about balance and finding that balance can be a tricky thing. How much more so when trying to teach our children and students how to find their own balance in life? I was lucky enough to have amazing rebbeim and great teachers who helped me find my balance and it is this same sense of mission that drove me to become an educator. When I found Mesivta Yam HaTorah, an institution that promotes that same sense of balance for its students and staff, I knew it was the place for me.

Students are under constant strain (and aren’t we all?): to live up to the demands of parents, teachers and society; to live up to how others see them, while at the same time trying to find themselves; to discover their own strengths and to overcome their weaknesses. Too often, adults try to impose upon teenagers instead of helping in this lifelong task. True chinuch is “al pi darko,” to help the student find his or her darko their own unique way. This is what we strive to do here at Mesivta Yam HaTorah; not only in limudei kodesh, Judaic studies, but in our outstanding English department as well.

At Mesivta Yam HaTorah we set the bar high. Our students are offered a full Regents preparatory curriculum, where all students are guided towards attaining an Advanced Regents Diploma. Classes are rigorous, with frequent assessments, to make sure the boys are maintaining a well-balanced class standing. In order to assure success, each student is monitored by their teachers and the administration so that help can be

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offered before anyone falls behind.

For example, our on-site math tutor works daily with boys in the Common Core algebra and geometry classes.

Our AP classes explore a deeper level of understanding and mastery so our students can score well on their AP exams.

For boys reaching for that high bar or for those that may not yet be able to reach it, we offer a close understanding staff that is always available to assist the individual student succeed at their own level. That’s not to say they are held to a lower standard but rather we help raise the student up to reach as high as they can.

This is done with individual based assessments as well as open and timely communication with parents.

Each teacher emails out their weekly class plan to the parents so everyone is on the same page for what is ex-

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pected and due for the week. Working together, we help our students succeed. We also offer STEM (Science Technology Engineering and Math) and personal finance classes for the boys who are looking for a different approach to math and science classes.

Our 9th and 10th grade ELA and math classes are geared not only towards preparing our students for their Regents but also towards getting the boys comfortable with and ready for their PSAT and SAT exams.

This year, for our older grades, we offered an in-school SAT prep class to review with the students so they can face the tests with a calm and prepared mind. We are also planning a back-to-college night for our seniors and their parents, to assist them in the process of picking schools and preparing for a year in Israel – with credits – if that’s where their son wants to go.

What about finding a student’s strengths and interests? Mesivta Yam HaTorah offers a wide variety of elective classes. Several of these classes fulfil the New York State requirements for Foreign Language (such as Hebrew and Spanish) and Health.

Along with these we offer a rotating series of classes which touch on a wide variety of content areas. Electrical Wiring and Engineering and Introduction to computers, where the boys learn their way around Mi-

crosoft Office, in order to prepare them for all the reports and projects they will have to work on. Real world skills are also covered, such as basic mechanic skills, sushi making and grilling (for the 12th graders who make and sell food for Mishmar, to raise money for their senior trips to Washington, D.C., and Orlando). In other words, a well-rounded, student-centered approach to the things we would all like to learn.

Back to that balance; we don’t just help the boys shine in their studies.

At Mesivta Yam HaTorah, our football and basketball teams regularly compete in the inter-yeshiva leagues but what about boys who want to play but aren’t yet up to the team’s level? We have an on-staff coach to work on their skills several times a week. Again, it’s all about balance; finding your strength and overcoming your deficiencies.

These are just some of the reasons I chose, three years ago, to take on the position of principal here at Mesivta Yam HaTorah and why you should make the choice to come to our Open House on Sunday, December 4th at 2:00 p.m. at 2716 Healy Avenue, Far Rockaway, NY 11691.

Come and see what a well-balanced school can do for your son. For further information please contact 718471-7471 or e-mail mesivtayamhatorah@gmail.com.

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Thanksgiving at HAFTR Lower School

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t HAFTR, giving thanks is an integral part of our daily lives. Whether we are davening, saying brachot or taking a pause from our regular busy lives to enjoy Shabbat, we constantly give thanks for what Hashem has given us. Leading up to Thanksgiving, our students learned about the history of Thanksgiving, the hardships for the Pilgrims, and the friendships that were formed with the natives. HAFTR students discussed the importance of religious freedom and realized that Pilgrims helped pave the way for us to be able to attend a yeshiva like HAFTR and learn Torah in America.

Our kindergarten and first grade classes helped usher in Thanksgiving with delicious grade-wide feasts.

Kindergarten students baked a variety of dishes that are symbolic of the holiday. Each class chose a special food to make which they happily shared with the other classes at the feast. Students practiced counting and measuring as they put their math

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skills to good use. In first grade, the students made delicious “hand” turkey cookies. As the students feasted, they sang songs both in Hebrew and English and celebrated as a community.

Wishing everyone a happy Thanksgiving from HAFTR Lower School.

hevach High School launched its Alumnae Series of Shiurim on Monday, November 21 – and what a launching it was! The shiur was given by Mrs. Miriam Krohn, associate principal of Shevach High School and​ staff member of many decades. She drew alumnae from as far as 25 years back and as recent as last year’s graduates.

I​ n her inimitable style of serious and light interwoven with real lessons, she did not disappoint.

The shiur was based on the Michtav M’Eliayahu, on the topic of givers and takers. The class was taught from the original text and “students” were able to experience the classroom once again. T​he discussion was clear, relevant and inspirational. The message was that most people need to be takers in order to achieve a balanced world but that taking should not be their priority. A person should try to

be a giver as much as possible. Giving can take the form of something tangible but at the same time it can be the intangible, like time, compassion and a listening ear.​ The Alumnae Series of Shiurim is dedicated in memory of Ms. Elki Rosenfeld, former teacher and principal of Shevach High School. Many attendees came in her memory and remember her still as a master mechaneches and warm mentor of theirs. She passed away two months ago and is missed by all who knew her.​ The next shiur will take place on December 7. Mrs. Krohn will give that one and one more after that, in January. The hope is that those will be equally well attended and that the shiurim will continue to serve the Shevach alumnae and the Queens community on a regular basis. All classes will be held at Shevach High School in Flushing.

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Learning, Batting and Playing Golf

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his past Motzei Shabbos Parshas Vayeira, a group of boys grades 6th through 8th took a mini trip to batting cages, mini golf, and paintballing. This outing was the first of many to come as part of the Ashreinu Motzei Shabbos program. Ashreinu is an organization that was created 17 years ago under the auspices of Rabbi Mordechai Finkelman and Rabbi Noach Sauber. The program was created in order to give boys, specifically junior high boys, a geshmak in Yiddishkeit and to increase their love of just being frum Jews.

Ashreinu started out with Chol Hamoed trips to Washington, Niagara Falls, as well

as other attractions. Fifteen years ago, the Motzei Shabbos program began. Each Motzei Shabbos, boys would gather in the Agudah of Long Island to take part in an interactive shiur, followed by a pizza Melave Malka and raffles. The shiur was presented by various choshuve rabbeim in our community, such as Rabbi Shimon Saslow, Rabbi Menachem Feifer, Rabbi Binyamin Wielgus, Rabbi Aaron Goldman, Rabbi Dovid Frischman, and Rabbi Yaron Halbertal. The Motzei Shabbos program came about as a result of seeing too many boys of this age feeling “too old” for the avos u’banim programs, yet too young to really engage

in chavrusa style learning for the most part. A Shavuos night program was started as well, with the same intention: the boys get a full night of learning complete with ice cream breaks and all. In the spring and early summer, with long Shabbos afternoons, the boys gather at each other’s homes for a Pirkei Avos shiur, also given by local rabbeim.

Additionally, several years ago, at the request of the boys, an oneg Shabbos was started once a month on Friday nights in Bais Medrash Ateres Yisroel (Rabbi Blumenkrantz) complete with singing, stories and hot chulent.

This year, the director

of the Ashreinu program, R’ Daniel Waldman, along with the approval and full support of its rabbeim, felt that something new was needed.

Therefore, starting this year, the Motzei Shabbos shiurim will continue to be given every other week by Rabbi Shimon Saslow. On alternate weeks, a special fun activity or outing will be organized for the boys.

The hope is that these activities will keep the boys excited about their learning (boys who come to the shiurim get something extra on the alternate weeks) and having fun in a kosher, supervised environment – similar to the popular Ashreinu Chol Hamoed trips.

As Rabbi Yaakov Bender, rosh hayeshiva of Yeshiva Darchei Torah, stated, “Ashreinu is a golden opportunity to learn with geshmak and at the same time be in a very enjoyable atmosphere.”

The boys had a wonderful time this past Motzei Shabbos and came back tired but fully ready to start the week ahead.

We are looking forward iy”H to a winter of learning, fun and excitement.

For more information regarding the Ashreinu programs, to be added to the email list, or for sponsorship opportunities, please email ashreinufr@gmail.com or call 917-202-4056.

Sefer Bereishis Theme: Cooperation and Partnership at Gesher

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reschool teachers love teaching Sefer Bereishis. The wealth of available medrashim and stories are a treasure chest for educators.

At Gesher, the staff looks for opportunities to bring the lessons to life. This year a special focus has been placed on teaching the students about sharing their talents and skills with others. It is a natural effect of the social thinking curriculum that Gesher inculcates into its early childhood model.

Recently, for a Parshas Noach lesson, the first grade students joined with the nursery students to work on

a parsha-themed project together.

There were several activity centers where the students developed and carried out their plans harmoniously.

The older children had the opportunity to be role models and mentors while being taught the importance of validating and befriending others.

The younger children had the chance to connect and share with someone who may have otherwise seemed distant. It was a beautiful sight to see. The morahs were extremely impressed by the maturity of the first graders and their obvious desire to bond with their younger friends.

One morah was very taken by the

profoundness of the lesson learned.

She noted that it is often more challenging for children to manage sameage relationships. And by experiencing the age-gap relationship the child has a better appreciation of appropriate interactions.

As the weeks move into new chapters and themes this initial basis of shared respect and acceptance has set the tone for the year. Cooperation and partnership are integral at Gesher. On any given day a visitor will notice the strong bond between administration and staff, and amongst the staff themselves. The continuous professional support and

mutual admiration create a powerful learning atmosphere for the students.

The children feel that they are at the collective focus of a united team. The sense of harmony can be found within the parent body as well. Recently, many parents have come together to share ideas and talents in support of Gesher. Although diverse, the overriding sense of commonality has pulled the parents together. It is with their dedication that Gesher’s first open house has developed.

The administration is encouraged by and appreciative of the sense of partnership that is felt.

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Annual DRS Shabbaton

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t is perhaps the most anticipated event of the DRS school year: The Annual Schoolwide Shabbaton. This past Shabbat, DRS sophomores, juniors, and seniors, accompanied by their rabbeim and their families, spent the weekend at the Mountain Laurel Hotel in White Haven, Pennsylvania. Students eagerly boarded the buses bound for the Shabbaton on Thursday evening.

Upon arrival at the hotel, the students were treated to a lavish BBQ and participated in the annual Shiur vs. Shiur Trivia Challenge, during which the students’ knowledge of Torah, DRS history, music, and pop culture were put to the test. But the night was still young, as the students entered the grand ballroom which was transformed into a full-out game room, replete with ping pong tables, basketball hoops, and 6 big screens

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which hosted the Madden X-Box tournament. On Friday morning, after Shacharis, a shiur by 10th grade Rebbe, Rabbi Friedman, and a hearty breakfast, the students traveled to a nearby park to partake in the annual Shabbaton Flag Football Tournament, where 13 flag football games were played simultaneously!

The Pre-Shabbat festivities came to an end as students returned to the hotel to prepare for the holiness of Shabbat. After an inspiring kabbalat Shabbat, and spirited zemirot during dinner, students were privileged to hear from this year’s guest lecturers. This year’s guests were DRS alumni Rabbi Dovid Bashevkin and Rabbi Josh Rosenfeld. Both alumni have dedicated their lives to inspiring teenagers and serving Klal Yisroel. Rabbi Bashevkin serves as the Director of Education for NCSY, and Rabbi Rosenfeld is the Assistant Rabbi at Lincoln Square Synagogue in New York and a Rebbe at SAR High School. In a unique armchair discussion, moderated by Associate Principal Rabbi Elly Storch, Rabbis Bashevkin and Rosenfeld told the students of some of their memories of DRS as students and discussed the importance of decisions one makes in high school to set themselves up for future success. After some fun game show activities by grade, it was time for one of the highlights of Shabbat: the Friday Night DRS Tish led by Rabbi Kaminetsky. All 230 students packed into a section of the ballroom and the inspired singing went on well past midnight.

On Shabbat Day, students were

treated to a fabulous kiddush followed by parsha time with their rabbeim. The Seudat Shabbat included more lively zemirot and divrei Torah from various students. After an incredibly inspiring shalosh seudot and havdalah, the students head-

ed to the dining room for a spirited Melava Malka with lively dancing.

The Shabbaton was a great way for students of different ages to strengthen friendships, as well as their relationships with their rabbeim.

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HANC High School Participates in Annual Shabbat Project

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his year HANC High School participated in the worldwide Shabbat project with a fun-filled morning of activities and Shabbatonim. HANC High School embraced the Project, and its spirit permeated the air throughout the week. The activities included a chagigah with music performed by their very own Mr. Dovid Klaver, dancing, and an international cooking competition, in addition to a Challah bake.

In addition to the in-school festivities, the junior boys were hosted by their mechanech, Rabbi Daniel Mezei, on the Lower East Side and the girls by their mechanchot, Mrs. Adina Waldman and Ms. Nomi Bensoussan, in the Five Towns to enjoy an amazing Shabbaton. Additionally, students opened their homes to others seeking a more meaningful Shab-

bat atmosphere.

HANC High School was once

again excited to participate in the Shabbat Project and looks forward

to participating again in the coming years.

HALB Middle School’s Community of Kindness

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uring the yom tov season in October, HALB’s middle school participated in a yom iyun that emphasized the ways in which Jewish values promote kindness, community, and unity. They learned about the power of klal Yisrael when they come together as a whole. They concretized these ideas by participating in an activity in which they assembled various individual tiles into a beautiful mosaic.

To further advance these ideas and in connection with Bullying Prevention Month in October, HALB students in grades 6-8 were required to read Wonder by R.J. Palacio over the chagim. The book is an engaging story of a child with a facial deformity who enters a mainstream school in the fifth grade and how this impacts all the people with whom he interacts. Last Wednesday, on November 16, HALB’s 6th-8th grade students participated in a meaningful and memorable experience. The students met in groups from across the grades and discussed important themes emerging from Wonder. In doing so, they grappled with issues relating to differences and inclusiveness, cliques and social circles, bullying, and developing a community of kindness. The middle schoolwide program required the student groups to produce written responses to thought-provoking questions writ-

ten by the faculty and administration under the direction of Mrs. Wein, Associate Principal for General Studies. The groups then discussed their similarities and differences. Finally, the groups worked together to produce creative expressions of the lessons learned from Wonder.

A special program was also conducted in the 5th grade where students read aloud from two books that celebrate inclusiveness and kindness, One by Kathryn Otoshi and Those Shoes by Maribeth Boelts.

Students contemplated the “big ideas” of these touchstone texts, both orally and in writing. The culminating activity, in which students created “graffiti posters” related to the themes of the day, demonstrated the children’s remarkable perception and sensitivity.

The students’ thoughtfulness, maturity, and collaborative spirit infused the afternoon’s engaging activities. Their insights and creativity were on full display when sharing their remarkable takeaway projects at the concluding assembly. HALB will be sharing the student-produced videos, PowerPoints, and Prezis with the HALB community in the coming months as HALB continues to focus on “HALB’s community of kindness” throughout the year.

To create new relationships, HALB has developed its “big broth-

er/sister little brother/ sister” programming where each 5th grader is paired with a 7th grader and each 6th grader is paired with an 8th grader.

This program promotes achdut and friendliness throughout the middle school. To start off the program the boys “speed-friended” with each other, where each pair of students asked questions to get to know each other better. The girls kicked off the program with a fun game where each student received half of a nursery rhyme and had to find their match.

The partners constructed fruit skewers together demonstrating that a whole can be made of various different parts. Upcoming events include an achdut Shabbaton.

The activities of the past few weeks brought more awareness to ideas of bullying and inclusion. Furthermore, the programming facilitated forging new relationships and deepening old ones. HALB trusts that these activities will promote and reinforce a culture of kindness.

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The Marion and Aaron Gural JCC Celebrates Gratitude

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t is not every day that a friend or neighbor turns 99-years-old. When that person is also a Holocaust survivor the milestone is not just a wonderful cause for celebration. It is an occasion to pause and reflect and mark with utmost respect, gratitude and distinction.

The Marion and Aaron Gural JCC in the Five Towns had the great privilege of acknowledging and celebrating just such an occasion last week at our annual Thanksgiving Luncheon for Holocaust Survivors, where this year’s theme was gratitude.

An incredible and heart-warming count of over ninety Holocaust survivors gathered in our festively decorated social hall last Thursday and, among them, our guest of honor, Laura Greenbaum, celebrating her hundredth year. On hand to offer words of congratulation and appreciation were New York State Senator Todd Kaminsky and Town of Hempstead Councilman Bruce Blakeman. Mr. Blakeman presented Laura

with a Certificate of Recognition and special birthday wishes. Senator Kaminsky wished Mrs. Greenbaum a heartfelt mazal tov and presented her with a Senate Proclamation in honor of this milestone birthday. Senator Kaminsky told a captive audience that in 1990 Holocaust survivor Maurice Vegh, amazingly in attendance at our Thanksgiving event and sitting right near him, spoke before his 6th grade Long Beach class about his Holocaust experiences. The impact of that speech has stayed with the senator throughout the years and he recalled it again last week, heralding the Jewish people’s strength and resilience and our great spirit.

For sixteen years our JCC has been the meeting place and safe haven for Holocaust members from our community and beyond to gather in a recreational, social and enrichment program. Throughout the course of the year many important occasions are marked and celebrated.

The Thanksgiving gathering

is a particularly popular and uplifting event. This year, special guest speaker Rabbi Zalman Wolowik, of Chabad of the Five Towns, addressed the survivors, family members, staff and other guests reiterating the theme of gratitude. Rabbi Wolowik reminded us that every day when we awake we must be thankful.

Regardless of our negative experiences, we must look at the world around us in a positive light, find common goals, and appreciate the blessings we are given, including living in a free world. He emphasized

that Holocaust survivors and the Jewish people are a beacon of light to the world and must share their memories as well as their messages with their families and their communities.

A number of students from Shulamith School for Girls joined the festivities, helping to serve a delicious hot lunch and dancing with the survivors during the musical entertainment.

Laura Greenbaum, our guest of honor, sat proudly and regally among her family and friends. Born in

Czechoslovakia in 1921, she survived Bergen Belsen and Ravensbruck concentration camps. Liberated in 1945, she emigrated to the U.S. soon after and worked as a seamstress for most of her life. She is a beloved member of the JCC’s Café Europa and several programs for Holocaust survivors. It was a great joy to honor and recognize her at the Marion and Aaron Gural’s Thanksgiving Luncheon.

The Marion and Aaron Gural JCC is a beneficiary agency of UJA-Federation of New York.

Rambam Hosts 21st Annual Shabbaton in Israel

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ince the inception of Rambam in 1992, the Mesivta has held an annual Shabbaton for its alumni learning in Eretz Yisroel. This year’s get together, Rambam’s 21st, was held at Yeshivat HaKotel in Yerushalayim. Both the boys and Rosh Mesivta, Rabbi Zev Meir Friedman, look forward to this event.

“It is an opportunity for the talmidim to get together, schmooze, catch up and enables me to witness their progress and help them with any questions they may have.

It is great to see the growth that the talmidim experience,” said Rabbi Friedman.

On Friday afternoon, the boys davened Mincha at the Kotel. Their joyous singing of kabbolas Shabbos attracted

others to their minyan. After Maariv, they headed back to Yeshivat HaKotel for the seudah which was filled with divrei Torah, zemiros and schmoozing.

All the boys were very interested to hear about the latest happenings in Rambam and to get “caught up” on recent events and programs.

The seudah was followed by a tisch where more divrei Torah on the parsha were shared over nosh and soft drinks.

On Shabbos morning after Shacharis and kiddush, the boys were treated to a walking tour of Yerushalayim with Michael Eisenstein, an expert tour guide during the week, volunteering his time on Shabbos.

Lunch, zemiros and more

divrei Torah ensued. After a brief break, boys returned for an interactive shiur with Rabbi Friedman on “Mitzvos tzrichos kavannah.” “I was amazed to see how the boys were able to anticipate, ask,

and answer many different opinions that the meforshim bring down in analyzing this issue. The nachas was well worth the trip!” shared Rabbi Friedman.

The discussion contin-

ued until Mincha which was followed by shalosh seudos and more ruach.

Shabbos came to an end with Maariv and havdalah with many hoping to join again next year.

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e had an amazing experience on Sunday, Monday and Tuesday, November 13-15! As representatives of the Stella K. Abraham High School for Girls and with Mrs. Sheila Leibtag as our chaperone, we went to the AIPAC Schusterman High School Summit in Washington, D.C., along with 400 other attendees. This summit was a training opportunity for teens all around the country who share a love for Israel and wanted to learn how to be better advocates.

The conference commenced with various sessions teaching students what to do and what not to do when lobbying for Israel. There were optional sessions such as Israel and Social Media, Reading Behind the Headlines, and How to Better Your Public Speaking, all of which were enormously informative. As publicized, this was also a real opportunity to learn how to strengthen the U.S.-Israel relationship through the American political process.

AIPAC also ran a college fair on the second day of the conference, with lobbyists from different colleges discussing how they combat BDS on campus. It was an eye-opening expe-

rience for us and really inspirational to see how people from all different walks of life were able to unite over their immense love for Israel.

On the last day of the conference, 29 of us were able to lobby Congresswoman Kathleen Rice’s staff on very relevant issues pertaining to Israel, such as the Iran deal. The Congresswoman’s staff members were very receptive and pleased to see so many high school students who were passionate about political issues.

SKA’s Israel Action Committee, with its leadership training advocacy seminars, knowledgeable speakers and fundraising events for Israeli causes, prepared us well for this event!

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Torah Thought

Parshas Chayei Sarah

By Rabbi Berel Wein

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ur matriarchs of Israel were very strong personalities and were formidable women. The life experiences of our mother Sarah are an excellent example of this assessment of character and behavior. From the Torah narrative we are informed early on that she is infertile, unable to conceive and give birth naturally. Nevertheless, we do not hear despair from her. She is willing to bring another woman into

her house and to share her husband, so to speak, with that woman in the hope that this would somehow facilitate her own becoming pregnant.

Having Hagar in her home and watching her arrogant behavior forces her to chastise Avraham’s attitude towards this complex relationship. She takes action to bring Hagar in line and thus preserve the primacy of her relationship to Avraham. Having escaped from the

clutches of the Pharaoh and being aware of the dangers facing a beautiful woman in a cruel and violent society, she nonetheless continues her life’s mission of advancing monotheism and morality in a surrounding society that condones evil and violent paganism.

She is wondrously shocked, almost to disbelief, when informed by a stranger who appears as a Bedouin Arab that she will conceive and bear a son to Avraham. At that moment she realizes that she will not only become an “ordinary” mother but rather the matriarchal figure that will preside over an eternal people

who recognizes the darkness of Eisav in comparison to the heavenly potential of Yaakov. She shows strength in having to do family triage, so to speak, and knowingly to accept the consequences of such a painful and agonizing decision. The ability and strength that she exhibits, in switching her husband’s blessings from the older son to the younger one, is indicative of the certainty of commitment and clarity of vision that so characterized all of the matriarchs of the people of Israel.

Sarah lived on in Rivka and her life’s decisions. The same thing is true regarding Rachel and Leah

She is the woman of iron that acts to guarantee the future survival of the Jewish people.

that will influence all future societies.

To protect and safeguard that eternity, she is forced to expel Yishmael from her home. She does not flinch or flag at performing this distasteful task. In this respect, she is stronger than Avraham, and Heaven, so to speak, backs up her position. She is the woman of iron that acts to guarantee the future survival of the Jewish people.

Sarah serves as the paradigm for the matriarchs that follow her in the Torah narrative of the book of Bereshith. Rivka is certainly the strong force in the house of Yitzchak

who are more aware of the nefarious and dangerous ways of their father Lavan than is their husband Yaakov.

It is they who finally force Yaakov to heed the Heavenly voice that directs him to leave Aram and return home to the Land of Israel.

Again it is the strength of character and will that decides the ultimate issue, and it is that decision that tips the scales of eternity in favor of Jewish survival. If Chava is recorded as being the mother of all living things, it is Sarah who is the mother of the loving, vibrant and eternal people of Israel.

Shabbat shalom.

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The Observant Jew

Turnabout is Fair Play

By Rabbi Jonathan Gewirtz

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ot since April of 1865 has the attendance of a politician at a theater made such headlines. On April 14, 1865, President Abraham Lincoln attended Ford’s Theater in Washington, D.C., for a performance of the play, “Our American Cousin.”

A famous actor, John Wilkes Booth, was a Confederate sympathizer who disagreed with Lincoln’s anti-slavery position and was incensed by the South’s loss to the Union armies. Sneaking up to the president’s theater box, he waited until the audience erupted with laughter, then shot President Lincoln in the back of the head. Lincoln died the next day.

In November 2016, Vice President-elect Mike Pence (also a Republican) attended a performance of the hit play, “Hamilton,” about the life of one of the founding fathers of the United States (whose face is on the $10 bill.) At the end, one of the actors, stepping out of character, addressed the Vice President-elect and urged him to work on behalf of all Americans. Presumably, this actor felt that Mr. Pence’s loyalties did not align with those of Lincoln, and he took the opportunity to call him out publicly.

Mr. Pence, not wanting to be lectured, got up and left the theater.

He did wait in the hallway until the actor finished speaking, but this exchange sparked a huge controversy.

The fact that the office of president or vice president is not considered sacred and worthy of respect no matter who holds it is a testament to our fierce defense of our First

Amendment rights to say whatever we want, when we want, and how we want.

Supporters of Mr. Pence were outraged that he was scolded by the actor and a cry went out that nobody should go to see the play. Opponents, who had supported Mrs. Clinton in her presidential bid, booed at the vice president-elect and applauded

that have changed the mood?

I am reminded of the fellow who came before the great sage Shammai and said, “Convert me on the condition that you teach me Torah while I stand on one foot.” The impudence of this fellow was beyond the pale, and Shammai shooed him out of the room with a ruler or yardstick.

It was clear the young man was only

The young man was disarmed and actually converted because of Hillel’s response!

the stand taken by the actor. President-elect Donald Trump demanded an apology for the harassment.

I won’t go into whether it was the right choice or not for the actor to have done what he did, or whether he would have been legally or halachically (had he been Jewish) allowed to do it, since it could cause harm to his employer.

Instead, what I’m wondering is if it could have played out differently.

What if Mr. Pence had stayed in the theater, listened to the man’s piece, and then responded? What if he had said, “Sir, it is my sincere intent to seek the benefit of and work on behalf of all Americans. I am aware that people are unsure of my allegiances, but I hold it to be a solemn duty and privilege to be of service to the entire American people”; could

taunting him. The message Shammai gave the disrespectful young man was that one must respect authority, follow rules, and speak appropriately to people of stature and office. One cannot ask to encapsulate the vast Torah in a moment’s quip.

His behavior was unacceptable and Shammai let him know it. That’s pretty much what Mike Pence did by exiting the theater.

Now let’s look at Hillel’s approach. The same young man had the audacity to then approach Hillel with the challenge. Instead of being angry, though, Hillel came through on the ask. He offered a piece of guidance upon which one’s entire study of Torah could be based. The young man was disarmed and actually converted because of Hillel’s response! Who knows what might

have been if Mr. Pence had responded welcomingly instead of critically?

Rabbeinu Asher, in his Orchos Chaim LaRosh, says that if someone who wronged you wishes to explain himself, you should listen to him, whether he’s telling the truth or lying. Perhaps one reason is because when you do so, you have a better chance at peace.

Oftentimes, people say things that are insulting and rude to us.

We could stand on ceremony and demand respect, but that doesn’t mean we would win our rivals over.

Instead, if we turn it around and surprise them by hearing them out and respond to what’s truly bothering them, it’s possible we could earn that respect we so desire. We wouldn’t need to demand apologies because they’d be falling over themselves trying to make it up to us.

Of course, it shouldn’t merely be an act, but sincere. When we do it that way, I’m sure Hashem will smile down at us and say, “Well played, sir.

Well played.”

Jonathan Gewirtz is an inspirational writer and speaker whose work has appeared in publications around the world. You can find him at www.facebook.com/RabbiGewirtz, and follow him on Instagram @RabbiGewirtz or Twitter @RabbiJGewirtz. He also operates JewishSpeechWriter.com, where you can order a custom-made speech for your next special occasion. Sign up for the Migdal Ohr, his weekly PDF Dvar Torah in English. E-mail info@Jewish SpeechWriter.com and put Subscribe in the subject.

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Between the Lines

Godspeed

By Eytan Kobre

There are no shortcuts to any place worth going. – Helen Keller

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renowned Rebbe was once approached with the suggestion that his son be matched with the daughter of a certain wealthy merchant from a faraway town. After some research, the match seemed

like a good one, so the Rebbe and his entourage traveled to meet the young woman and her father.

Along the way, the Rebbe stopped at an inn, where he encountered some travelers from the bride-to-be’s town.

When the Rebbe spoke of the purpose of his travels, the men ridiculed and belittled the bride-to-be and her father.

Not one to sit idly by in the face of

such insults, the Rebbe retorted that their behavior, untoward as it was, actually helped him resolve an apparent difficulty. “We are told that Eliezer, servant of Avraham, experienced a miraculously rapid journey while traveling to locate Rochel, Yitzchak’s prospective wife. Now, securing a wife for Yitzchak surely was an important task. But were miracles really necessary? Couldn’t Eliezer have traveled more conventionally and arrived a few days later?

“It seems,” the Rebbe concluded pointedly, “that had Eliezer taken a more conventional route – say, stopping at an inn along the way – he would have encountered unbecoming folk who might ridicule the bride-tobe and her family. And who knows if the match would have been consummated?”

Unlike the fictitious teleportation or time travel so admired in popular culture – “Beam me up, Scotty!” – the wonders of “kefitzas haderech” (“the jumping of the road”) are steeped in our tradition. The spies sent by Moshe to probe the Land of Israel experienced a swift journey in touring the entire land in just forty days (Rashi, Bamidbar 13:25), and when the Jewish people entered the Land of Israel, they completed the long, round-trip journey to and from Gerizim/Eival in one day (Sota 36a).

But, while our tradition has no shortage of such supernatural voyages, only four Biblical individuals – Avraham, Eliezer, Yaakov, and Avishai ben Tzeruya – experienced the specific, miraculous journey known as kefitzas haderech (Tanchuma, Vayeitzei 3; but see Sanhedrin 95a [counting only three]).

Avraham experienced it when he traveled to wage war against the four kings who had captured Lot (Rashi, Bereishis 14:15); Eliezer experienced it when he set out to search for a wife for Yitzchak (Rashi, Bereishis 24:42); Yaakov experienced it when he realized he had passed the future site of the two temples, Mount Moriah, without stopping to pray there on behalf of the Jewish people (Rashi, Bereishis 28:11; Chullin 91b; Da’as Torah, Bereishis 28:11); and Avishai ben Tzeruya, Dovid’s general, experienced it when rescuing Dovid just as he was about to be killed by the giant Yishbi (Sanhedrin 95a). Four Biblical examples of kefitzas haderech with one common denominator: the traveler was on a mission to benefit someone else.

Such wondrous journeys extended even past Biblical times.

Certain holy individuals – “baalei shem” or “masters of the name” – possessed secret knowledge of G-d’s sacred names used to achieve kefitzas haderech, invoking them either through recitation or by writing them on the hooves of the horses that were to carry them (Megillas Achima’atz [Megillas Yuchsin], pg. 24-25; Responsa of the Geonim, No. 115).

The holy name of G-d used to invoke such wondrous journeys, observed the Apter Rov, is comprised of the first letters of the words, “the heavens and the earth” (Bereishis 1:1) – Aleph, Hei, Vav, Hei – an allusion to rapid transit. It is no coincidence that the words from which we learn of Eliezer’s wondrous journey – “and I came today to the well” (Bereishis 24:42) – are comprised of those same four letters.

The Chasam Sofer and his teacher, R’ Nosson Adler, experienced similar

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wondrous journeys. Traveling from Frankfurt, they once plied their wagon-driver with a mug of beer to make him drowsy. When the driver fell asleep, the earth jumped for them and they reached their faraway destination in very short order (Responsa of Chasam Sofer, Orach Chaim No. 197).

But not all authorities favored such feats. Rav Hai Gaon, for one, strongly denounced wonder-workers and their kefitzas haderech as “nonsense” (see also R’ Yaakov Emden, Eruvin 43a).

To be sure, time and space are relative dimensions; great people and epic spiritual events can telescope and manipulate them (Michtav Me’Eliyahu, Vol. 1, pg. 309). But the manner in which such miraculous travel was accomplished defies our limited human understanding. There even is disagreement as to whether the destination is brought to the traveler (Rashi and Ohr HaChaim, Bereishis 28:11; Rashi, Bereishis 28:17) or vice versa (Ramban, Bereishis 28:17; Shem MiShmuel, Chayei Sara 5676). We

cannot explain or understand such preternatural phenomena.

But while a full understanding of kefitzas haderech may be beyond our intellectual ken, it would be a mistake to regard it as a mere marvel, devoid of practical significance.

The Ba’al Shem Tov and his key disciples were reputed to make use of

ity that, after only a few minutes, the horses had covered a great distance.

The horses could not believe it. We’ve covered such a great distance but are not at all hungry. We must not be horses. We must be men!

Several minutes later, the horses had sped yet further and faster along their way, still not hungry. Oh, we

“We must not be horses.

We must be men!” kefitzas haderech somewhat regularly to meet communal needs or to save those in peril. Once, for one such critical mission, the Baal Shem Tov’s horses were hitched up to his wagon for a trip, unaware of the wondrous journey they were soon to experience.

The horses began to gallop, pulling the wagon and the Ba’al Shem Tov behind them. They flew with such rapid-

must be far greater than men. We must be angels!

And so, the horses galloped along proudly until they reached their final destination. By this point, the horses were ravenous and couldn’t help but go straight to the feeding trough, enthusiastically digging in. When they were done and their bellies were bloated with hay and water, the horses

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turned to one another, and acknowledged their true nature. Horses.

They had mistaken their wondrous and miraculous journey for genuine growth and development. * * * While we may not experience the miraculous journeys of Avraham or Eliezer or Yaakov or even the Ba’al Shem Tov, we sometimes find ourselves on the receiving end of G-d’s overt wonders. But Divine intervention can never take the place of real, hard-earned development.

Such growth is a slow and gradual process requiring hard work and effort, not hopping over mountains and skipping through life at breakneck speed. Because life is not about taking shortcuts – even if we seem to be traveling at Godspeed.

Eytan Kobre is a writer, speaker, mediator, and attorney living in Kew Gardens Hills. Questions? Comments? Suggestions? E-mail eakobre@outlook.com.

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A Fulfilled L fe

Purposeful Living, Purposeful Lives

By Rabbi Dr. Naphtali Hoff

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recent study reveals something that most of us likely find obvious and intuitive: those who believe in G-d unequivocally are more likely to maintain that life has meaning.

Stephen Cranney of the Population Studies Center at the University of Pennsylvania recently conducted a study that tests the association between belief in G-d and feeling a sense of purpose in life. Those respondents who said they believe with no doubts also disagreed most strongly with the idea that life is purposeless. In addition, the latest data on happiness and religious belief from a Pew Research Center survey shows that religious people, on the whole, are happier than nonreligious people.

The opening pasuk of parshas Chayei Sarah conveys a similar message. It informs us that our first matriarch, Sarah, lived for 127 years before her passing.

However, instead of simply stating that her life spanned that duration, the verse presents the data choppily, inserting the words “years” multiple times (after the numbers 100, 20 and 7). It concludes with the seemingly superfluous summary, “these were the years of Sarah.”

Rashi explains this unusual presentation by stating that Sarah lived a steady, consistent life. Her noble character and beauty did

not change throughout her various ages and stages. The pasuk’s concluding phrase indicates that her life was a model of stability, with no breakdowns in her approach to life or her actions.

Similarly, R’ Yehoshua Aharon Tzvi Weinberger (MAHARIT”Z) explains the pasuk’s final phrase based on the dictum that “evil peo-

our lives as a means through which to advance Hashem’s goals as well as our own.

Still, while we recognize fundamentally that we exist to achieve a deep, meaningful purpose we struggle to make that association on a daily basis and to recognize that every moment is a new opportunity for “life.”

How can we become more

that could also serve as your moral compass when you lack clarity. Then, commit to live by them, in thought and deed.

Begin with the end in mind – This concept, made famous by the late Stephen Covey, focuses our attention on how we wish to be remembered. Covey’s imagery is that of one’s own funeral.

We all seek to live a purposeful existence in which our lives are framed by consistency and growth. ple are called dead even as they live” (Berachos 18b). The idea, says R’ Weinberger, is that reshaim do not lead purposeful lives. Their behaviors are characterized by pursuits of pleasure and their deeds fail to reflect a higher purpose. When Hashem asserts that He “does not desire the death of the wicked,” (Yechezkel 18:32) He is saying that He does not wish for them to die as wicked people, but rather to come to their senses and live a fulfilled life, in which each day is treasured as another means by which to conduct a spiritual, noble existence.

Purposefulness emerges from recognizing that our lives have meaning. We understand that we are here for a reason and appreciate

conscientious of our need to live purposeful lives? How can we avoid the traps of monotony and routine which tend to diminish our focus, enthusiasm and perhaps even our core commitment?

The following strategies may help us in achieving that goal.

Establish and clarify your core values – Values express our philosophy in life and guide us in our decision-making and actions.

They drive us to make certain associations, such as where we live and daven, the school that we send our children to, and the company that we keep. Take the time to articulate and refine your values, to understand what truly motivates you. Share them with someone that you trust, someone who knows you well

What will people say about him? How did they perceive his life, actions and values?

What can we be doing each day to cause other to reflect back positively on our lives and say that we lived it to the fullest?

Expand your vision and take action – People who lead purposeful lives often are people of vision. They see possibilities and growth opportunities where others see challenges. But vision alone is not enough. A person of consequence does not sit idly by. After developing his vision he rolls up his sleeves, ready to take the steps needed to achieve his goals.

Reflect – Every time you engage in an experience, ask yourself how it may have impacted you. Did you grow

from it? Could you have approached it differently and achieved better results? This includes interactions with family or your conduct on the road or in a store. In addition, take the time to take stock of your progress as it relates to your values and goals. Are you on target? How can you achieve even more?

No doubt, the items listed above demand time, energy and much focus. They may be somewhat uninspiring, at least at first, and may even feel burdensome. But they are worth it, as they offer the clarity and direction that we all need in our busy, distracting and confusing realties.

We all seek to live a purposeful existence in which our lives are framed by consistency and growth. As with all other noble endeavors, living purposefully requires a framework, a set of values and motivators that keep us along a straight and narrow path while we dream of future success. May the life of Sarah Imeinu inspire us to identify our goals and dreams and then develop the inner fortitude to maintain consistency and growth even throughout the many vicissitudes of life.

Rabbi Naphtali Hoff, PsyD, is President of Impactful Coaching and Consulting. He can be reached at 212.470.6129 or at president@impactfulcoaching. com.

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A Message of Courage, Fortitude and Hope

Hallel Ariel’s Legacy Unites the Jewish Nation

BY TAMMY MARK

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the past few years there have been a surge of tragic events in Israel, one more heartbreaking than the next.

Sometimes there are so many in succession that one can almost forget the details of the individual stories, and yet there are those that can impact us forever, like the tragedy of young Hallel Yaffa Ariel, Hy”d.

On June 30, 2016, 13-year-old Hallel was asleep in her bed at home in Kiryat Arba when a terrorist entered her bedroom, stabbing her in her sleep. The shock and cruelty of the attack perpetrated on an innocent girl left a deep wound on the nation.

Rena and Amichai Ariel had to sit shiva for their precious, young daughter.

While thousands of people came to pay respects to the Ariel family, two individuals were compelled to take action and ensure that Hallel would be remembered in a meaningful way – Moshe Rothchild and Elana Kronenberg, neighbors from

the community of Efrat. Elana had purchased wine from the Ariel family winery where Hallel loved to work and helped to promote and sell the wine for the family with the intention that more blessings would be made in Hallel’s memory. Moshe had contacted Elana to purchase wine, and they subsequently joined forces, selling hundreds of bottles of wine in the young girl’s memory.

But Elana and Moshe still wanted to do more for the family. Moshe knew that while the pain will always be sharp for the Ariels, as for all grieving families, there would only be a short time that the world would feel the sharpness of the pain along with them. The Ariel family understood that the most significant time to connect with the community would be soon after the tragedy. Accompanied

by Elana and Moshe, who both left their own families, the Ariels agreed to travel to the United States to share their personal story of loss – and give

the greater Jewish community the opportunity to offer comfort and pay their condolences.

Moshe posted a message on Facebook about the Ariel family’s upcoming visit. His step-sister, Tamar Einstein of Woodmere, offered immediately to host the event, which was held a few months ago. Many other communities followed, graciously opening their arms to welcome the Ariels. Moshe expressed his gratitude for the opportunity to help share Hallel’s story. He expounded on the difference between the Jewish concept of chessed and that of rachamim – explaining that rachamim is when a person in need comes and asks for help and you respond. Chessed is when you actively go and look to help – when you respond without being asked.

Rena

Ariel recalls details from the tragic day Hallel was murdered. Rena was on

the way to work when she received the text from a friend, telling her to contact Amichai. “I’m sitting in my car in Jerusalem, knowing that the worst of the worst was happening in Kiryat Arba. On one hand I’m dead, on the second hand you must function, you must take the car and drive… This feeling of functioning and dying at the same time – I feel sometimes it’s the story of the Jewish people, living where we are, and we have to function even if we feel like dying.”

The terrorist had jumped the fence in Kiryat Arba. Amichai belongs to civilian unit that helps the army. He knew something was happening but nobody knew exactly what. He was told to run home. Two of Amichai’s friends went with him. The three men ran into the house with Amichai heading directly to the room where his daughter Hallel had been sleeping. He saw the ultimate horror and started screaming. Shukie, his friend and former student, stayed with him.

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The Jewish nation mourned in the family’s loss

The Arab terrorist was in the house waiting with a knife. The terrorist stabbed Shukie in the leg. The third man heard the shouting, saw what happened, and alerted the civilian unit who shot and killed the terrorist.

The whole exchange took but a few seconds. Amichai’s life was spared but he will never truly be whole.

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were miracles alongside the tragedy. The two younger Ariel girls, ages 8 and 4, were sent to school early for their last day. The sisters shared the room – the next day it could have been all three of them in their beds.

“We felt side by side that Hashem gave us some kind of mercy, some kind of chessed,” believes Rena.

A bullet had entered Shukie’s eye.

The Ariels found out two weeks later that he lost the eye. A millimeter over and he would have been brain damaged or dead, but he’s alive, driving and shooting. These are the miracles they hold onto.

“We hold onto the miracles. The fact that Amichai is alive and the other girls were spared and Shukie – we have to hold on to that. That Hallel was stabbed in the heart and was not injured or terrorized – she went up holy like the sons of Aharon. For us this was a chessed. The paramedics said she did not suffer.”

Rena and Amichai Ariel also maintain a global perspective on their personal tragedy that helps comfort them. They feel that they are a part of a long chain of Jewish history. Living in Kiryat Arba, on the outskirts of Hebron and the Cave of the Patriarchs, reinforces that connection.

“She’s our girl, but we feel she became, to some extent, everyone’s girl,

and if we can share the story it becomes a story of the Jewish people,” hopes Rena. “We’re not heroes, we’re not special people, we’re not any different than any of you here, and the only difference is we live in a special place, in Kiryat Arba.”

The

Ariels feel that their story actually started more than 70 years earlier, when Amichai’s mother was a child. At the age of 13 or 14 – just around Hallel’s age – she was put along with her family on a train to Treblinka. As the door was locked her wise father told her that she must jump, that it would be the only way

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yenachem etchem’ and left. Jews from the north, Jews from the south, Jews from America.”

People visited in droves waiting on a long line that ran through the entire house. One couple who came to give comfort confided to the Ariels that they had not yet had children.

Amichai, a kohen, blessed the couple for children in an emotional and moving encounter.

On Shabbos during the week of shiva, Amichai told a story at kiddush. He told how in 1974 his family witnessed as a terrorist came to his town Nahariya through the seashore.

Amichai’s father was a military man

“We felt side by side that Hashem gave us some kind of mercy, some kind of chessed.” for her to survive. The young girl jumped off the train into the forest in the middle of nowhere. She was the only one on Amichai’s side to survive the Holocaust. She made her way to Israel and eventually married. Today she has children, grandchildren, and great-grandchildren.

“That she had to lose a whole family just because she’s Jewish links to our story today. It’s the same story and it’s important for us to tell it,” says Rena.

Rena

thought nobody would come during shiva since they would be afraid to travel to Kiryat Arba, but thousands and thousands of people came. “All of Israel heard our cry,” she says. “People came, hugged us, said, ‘Hamokem

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and managed to move them out, but tragically another family was murdered.

One visitor later that week of shiva was a man who had a story to tell them; he is the mayor of Tzfat. He told them his name was Ilan Shohat and he was named after an aunt named Ilana. Ilana was murdered at the age of 16 in that tragedy that Amichai had spoken about. Ilan told the Ariels that before Ilana died she managed to write a letter, which he proceeded to read. Written in her last hours, knowing that she wouldn’t survive, Ilana thanked her parents for everything – for good values and a Jewish life. The Ariels felt that this letter would have been the letter that Hallel would have written had she had the time to do so.

Rena and Amichai feel fortunate that Hallel had expressed to her father shortly before her death how happy she was. She had her friends and her dancing, which she loved, and was happy to start a new school.

Five minutes after Ilan’s visit, a woman entered the shiva house – Hallel’s grammar teacher. She explained that Hallel had written some essays in class and wanted to read them something she had written. The exercise was to write to an American “friend” in a notebook. Hallel told the friend how happy she was in Israel despite the hard times and the dangers.

Amichai and Rena feel like the chain connecting these young women one to another – Amichai’s mother, Ilana and Hallel – while all very sad has much power.

“People ask us how do we rise up, how do we stand,” relates Rena.

“We’re just parents, a mother and a father. We have to survive so we have to stand – the only way to survive is standing.”

The

family wanted to do something meaningful in honor of Hallel’s shloshim, a memorial service 30 days after her Hallel’s murder. Hallel loved to dance and was already very good at it. Even when she did four performances in a row, she told her mother how much she loved it – she said it gave her power and energized her. Rena decided to plan an evening to empower the women of Kiryat Arba, again not sure how many would come. Hallel’s dance teacher had the idea to perform a dance in memory of Hallel, including their 8-year old daughter Shira, to show that life continues on. The old-

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Rena and Amichai with Moshe Rothchild and Elana Kronenberg

er girls from the dancing school took young Shira under their wings and taught her the dance. 500 women came that evening. When Shira went up to dance there wasn’t a dry eye in the house.

Wherever the Ariels go they feel the strong connection from their Jewish brothers and sisters, and it gets reinforced at each turn. When the Ariels were in Miami sharing their story, a woman stood up to speak. She told them that she was there at the shloshim and witnessed something inspiring and amazing.

The Ariels’ 4-year-old daughter, Kana, also wanted to dance, so they dressed her up in a small white costume and the dancers brought her along at the end. Little Kana, however, did not want to leave and stayed throughout the rest of the program.

As Kana danced through the whole night, the lady said she saw the future in the little girls.

“With all this sorrow we have a future, and the future is this 4-year-old and 8-year-old girl dancing and the future is our country and our people.

We share the same history. We can’t collapse because we have a story,” says Rena.

The Ariels know many stories of families who have suffered losses – a wife who lost her son and husband, a young man of 18 who was missing a leg came at the end of shiva. He survived his family being murdered 10 years prior and came to tell the family that there is a future, and that though it took time to get through the trauma, he is alive.

Rena’s faith is very strong. She relies on certain beliefs that help her survive. “First is the fact that I’m relating to G-d as He’s a king and I’m a slave – an attitude of humbleness.

The question I want to ask is ‘why

her’? There’s no answer, but also we’re taught there’s no question. It’s hard in this generation when everyone Googles the answer. There’s a point where we have to say, ‘I do not know’ and accept it as being a Jew. Knowing she’s in the highest of the high – I don’t know exactly what it means but I know there’s something beyond me and that helps us accept it.” She continues, “Another way – when we say Avinu Malkeinu

want to be happy parents so Shira and Kana can have a happy life too.

They deserve it and they need us for this.” Rena speaks of her visit to Florida the previous day when they were taken to Disneyworld and their girls saw the Disney princesses and how she thought of their own princess that was missing. Again she was split: she couldn’t collapse while watching her girls so happy and wanting to take pictures with a princess – she has to

“There’s a point where we have to say, ‘I do not know’ and accept it as being a Jew.” we accept that He’s the father – a father will be a father until death. He’s taking care of Hallel. She’s in good hands. It helps us.”

In

her short life 13-year-old Hallel managed to affect those around her. There were sometimes social issues in her class of girls, but Hallel was a peace seeker. One particular girl was lonely, and Hallel quietly befriended her and built a relationship. When Hallel was murdered the girl wrote a letter thanking the Ariels for the years of Hallel’s friendship. They value the message that Hallel taught them – to look and see who needs something, to remember to look around us since in the rush of life we tend to go too fast.

The Ariels live in the last house on the edge of Kiryat Arba; beyond them there are no Jewish houses. A friend had asked Hallel if she was scared coming home late from her performances and she said no, “It is my home.”

“Hallel was a happy girl and we

live for them. “I wanted to run away… but we were there for the girls.”

The dance recital in memory of Hallel was a very special night. When the family returned home it was late but the girls asked their father for a story to help fall asleep. Amichai, a former Torah teacher, decided to tell the story of Miriam the Prophetess and how she was the very first dancer in Tanach and taught all of the women of Israel to dance. Again, the family felt the overwhelming connection to something greater, of their beloved Hallel connected with the heroes of the nation. When the younger girls see all the different Jewish people from all walks of life, they also feel connected. This gives them a lot of strength.

Terror and tragedy in Israel has become too commonplace. Rena laments how in their small community of Kiryat Arba alone there are ten families that have suffered through major terror attacks in the last year and a half. She says that it has become like their own language.

Moshe tells how even during this U.S. visit, while Rena was speaking about Hallel’s tragic attack, he was getting texts and alerts from Israel because of an infiltration in Efrat – with video showing four IDF soldiers standing on his patio at home. After hours of searching the terrorist was caught, luckily before another tragedy could occur.

“In America you talk about politics, but it’s not always real politics.

In Israel, it affects our day-to-day lives and it’s very serious,” he says.

“While this resonated around the world, people living in Israel were affected very deeply obviously, the nature of it with the innocent sleeping child.”

The

Ariel family is hoping to preserve their daughter’s memory in concrete ways. They are working to build up the family vineyard in Hallel’s memory. They appreciate how the Jewish community is reaching out – there is even an original piece of art created and printed in Hallel’s memory available for purchase.

The family is also trying to raise awareness and funds towards increasing the Jewish population.

Moshe quotes the statistic that Jewish people are the only people since World War II that have not gotten back to their pre-war numbers. To that end, the Ariels have created a fund, the Just One Life Special Fund, to help women who have difficult situations.

“Our enemies are doing everything they can to hurt us,” says Moshe, “and we are doing what we can to increase the population.”

For more information email HallelsVineyard@gmail.com.

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Buying On Paper When to “Just Say No”

By Gedaliah Borvick

I

recently wrote an article called “Buying On Paper: A Success Story” explaining the pros and cons of purchasing an apartment “on paper” or, as the British say, “off plan.”

Let’s discuss when one should steer clear of not-yet-built apartment projects.

build up the Negev. Imagine how betrayed people who purchased farmland in the north – based on assurances of an easy residential rezoning process – felt when the government abruptly changed its mantra to “go south.”

ZONING

Buying a home through an Acquisition Group – or “Kevutzat Rechisha” – is the latest trend in Israel, and there are hundreds of these groups across the country. When buying a home through an Acquisition Group, the members join together and purchase the land and hire a project manager to run the construction.

The lure is the ability to buy an apartment at a below market price.

As there is no developer’s profit added to the cost, one can theoretically save up to 20% of the purchase price. However, there are a number of drawbacks. For the sake of brevity, let’s just discuss two.

The first challenge is that members of an Acquisition Group often have to pay a significant amount of money at the outset to purchase the land. In one recent deal, the land cost equaled 2/3 of the apartment price; accordingly, my clients had to pay

Do not purchase on paper if the property is not currently zoned for residential usage. The rezoning process is fraught with potential pitfalls; here are just two of many issues that can delay or even sink a residential project: (1) Timing – Rezoning a property, which in a best case scenario takes a couple of years to accomplish, can sometimes get entwined in bureaucratic purgatory for literally decades. (2) Politics – Political decision makers are fickle, and even a well-intentioned promise from a politician should be taken with a grain of salt.

For example, a number of years ago, the Israeli government pushed a “go north” agenda, pledging expedited residential rezoning in that region. Just a few years later, the government did an abrupt about-face and decided that it made better sense

ACQUISITION GROUP

65% of the total price within a few months of joining the group. Compare that to buying on paper from a developer, where one puts down 15% or so on contract and only pays additional funds once the project achieves various construction milestones.

The second adverse element is financial protection: When buying an apartment from a developer, one receives a “bank guarantee” which ensures that if the developer goes bankrupt, the bank will bring in another builder to complete the construction at no additional cost to the purchaser.

In an Acquisition Group, there are no bank guarantees, as the group is the developer. There are ways to limit financial liability, but none of them are foolproof. Therefore, my general rule for overseas buyers is that, unless the construction project is run by a superior builder, I discourage clients from buying in an Acquisition Group due to the inherent risks involved.

TRACK RECORD Invariably, in every construction project, problems arise and issues need to be addressed and resolved.

Therefore, it is imperative that you purchase a home from a developer who has a strong reputation. When

the surprises occur, an honest developer will own up to the mistake and invest the time and funds to ensure that the problem is resolved properly.

HIRE A GOOD LAWYER Buying “on paper” offers tremendous upside potential. In the two projects that I have been involved in, apartments that were purchased during the initial “pre-sale” period have increased tremendously in value. However, the list of issues discussed above is far from exhaustive and the road to buying “on paper” is fraught with many potential pitfalls.

Therefore, I encourage you to retain a first-rate lawyer. A seasoned attorney with strong transactional real estate experience is the best guarantee that your financial and legal interests will be protected throughout the construction process.

Gedaliah Borvick is the founder of My Israel Home (www.myisraelhome.com), a real estate agency focused on helping people from abroad buy and sell homes in Israel. Gedaliah will be running home-buying presentations in NY/NJ the week of Dec 4th. For more information, contact him at gborvick@gmail.com.

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Dating Dialogue

What Would You Do If… Moderated by Jennifer Mann, LCSW of The Navidaters

Dear Navidaters,

I’m very concerned about my daughter. She is a wonderful young woman and, for some reason, is not yet married. She’s gone out plenty and somehow, her mazal, hasn’t really met anyone who is right for her. Many of the young men weren’t even all that nice to her, as she often shared some of her experiences on a date with me and my husband. Whether they were very cheap, or not polite as in holding open a door, or seemed very self-centered, only talking about themselves and not all that interested in her. I know it sounds weird that she should have had so many negative experiences and I suppose it would be easy to think that something is wrong with my daughter, as no one seems to be “good enough.” But in fact, it just hasn’t been a great experience for her so far.

She is turning 25 in two months and for the past few years has said the following: “If I’m not married by the time I’m 25, I’m going to just marry the next guy who comes along.” This has been her party line for years now. At first I thought she was just being dramatic, but I think after saying it so many times, she has really talked herself into believing that this is a good plan.

Last month she was set up with a guy who I believe is totally unsuitable to her. He is a lot older than she is, and hasn’t really found himself professionally. He seems to be bouncing around from job to job. My daughter is focused and successful in her field. Plus, I know this sounds like a broad, general, silly thing to say, but he’s kind of a dud! I don’t know what she sees in him. But she has been going out with him and has been telling me and my husband that if nothing changes within the next few months, since she’s sure he would marry her in a minute, she’s going to go for it.

We’re absolutely horrified. Right now, all she seems to care about is getting married and having children right away and catching up to her friends! I know this will turn out to be a big mistake, but nothing I or my husband says seems to penetrate. She want to be married and that’s that!

Can you offer any suggestions for how we can divert this potential disaster?

Disclaimer: This column is not intended to diagnose or otherwise conclude resolutions to any questions. Our intention is not to offer any definitive conclusions to any particular question, rather offer areas of exploration for the author and reader. Due to the nature of the column receiving only a short snapshot of an issue, without the benefit of an actual discussion, the panel’s role is to offer a range of possibilities. We hope to open up meaningful dialogue and individual exploration.

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ou seem very involved and very protective of your daughter. The fact that you feel that she is not respected and treated properly is very telling as we don’t know who has been setting her up on dates and guiding her through them. It could be that she is insecure, unassertive and a potential doormat. From what you say, it seems that she has a negative self-image and just wants to get married because she feels that no one will want her. The fact that he is much older and will make her feel secure is problematic. She may be a potential victim of abuse.

You both need to go into therapy.

You need to sort out your own persona and your relationship with your

adult daughter. You daughter needs to do the same. A strong intervention is probably the wrong thing to do right now. It would just catapult them into a commitment. You need to proceed very carefully with self- knowledge even if your daughter does not go for help.

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It’s impossible to make a rational, reasonable decision while your eyes are on the clock and your mind ticks off the escaping minutes and lost opportunities. Your daughter has told you, “When the clock strikes 25, I marry the next guy with a pulse!” And now she is confronting the eleventh hour, as it were.

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As you imply, desperation is dangerous, even disastrous to those in the dating process. Regarding this young man (“the dud”), I would encourage your daughter to take her time; have the guy over as much as possible. Feed him falafel and fried chicken. She will soon judge him probably most critically, against the incandescent backdrop of your family’s mores and values. The suitability of this shidduch – or lack thereof – will become most obvious to her – who must make the ultimate decision and live with it the rest of her life.

In the meantime, Mom, perhaps your daughter has rejected some good shidduch prospects because of her parents’ hyper-critical or negative attitude towards her young suitors.

Going forward (especially since the pickings are getting slimmer) encourage your daughter that yes, even at the advanced age of 25, she has won-

But maybe he adores your daughter and will do everything in his power to make her happy and she can finally hang up her uncomfortable dating shoes!

derful qualities, good judgment and a lifetime of marital bliss ahead of her. Help her compile a “top five” list – essential attributes with which she can judge future shidduch prospects.

Most importantly, you and your husband should remove yourselves from the dating equation. Encourage her to seek counsel with a dating mentor – rebbetzin, married friend or therapist – who can help her evaluate the pros

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and cons of each shidduch objectively and without family bias.

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decides, you will back her up and be there for her. Don’t fight her. Step back – after all – she’s 25! Good luck.

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irstly, why do you think it’ll be a total disaster? Do you know something about the future that we don’t?

And you seem to think he’s a “dud.”

Maybe she isn’t married because of your high expectations. If she’s such a smart girl, she wouldn’t do something stupid.

Sit down and ask her to list the qualities she likes and dislikes in the man she is presently dating. Tell her your concerns but that whatever she

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know more than a few peers who have basically said the same thing.

They are tired of dating and realize that they are not getting any younger and it becomes more about moving on to the next stage of their life. They want to be wives and mothers and unfortunately, getting the qualities they hoped to find in a man when they were 21 or even 23 no longer seem quite as important. They

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ou want so much better for your daughter. You would do anything for her, even try to avert this potentially disastrous marriage for her.

Motherhood is an insane and wild ride. When our children make good choices or give us those moments of nachas, motherhood is a euphoria like no other. When they are struggling, suffering or making stupid decisions, motherhood can rip your kishkas out.

Check, please! I really feel for you as you watch your daughter make a potentially disastrous decision that will impact the rest of her life, while your own hands are indeed tied.

We can guess about the possibilities as to why she and you find yourselves in this position. Some panelists suggested maybe you have been overly critical all along, or maybe your daughter has been turning down fine,

suitable men. We can surmise that this guy is a “dud” as you described him, or we can give him the benefit of the doubt. We can place bets on whether or not the marriage will last, or whether she will actually move forward with someone she doesn’t love. We can also wonder if the love will grow and they will have a satisfying, if not wonderful, marriage.

With all the possibilities and educated guesses, all we know for sure is that your daughter is twenty-fiveyears-old and in a relationship. She’s grown up. Ultimately, you have no hold over her anymore. You have no leverage, no bargaining chip to play.

When children are younger, we can coax them, reward them, and even punish them to shape their behaviors.

are ready to settle!

So, as I have observed how this has worked out for certain friends, it’s a mixed bag. Some wound up being phenomenally happy, some not so, and some even divorced. Pretty much a similar ratio to the women I know who felt they were able to check everything off their wish list when they got engaged.

What this tells me is that we don’t always know what will lead to what.

Of course I think that you have to be sure that you daughter doesn’t marry a bad guy, someone who could, G-d forbid, abuse her or have serious issues.

But to call someone a “dud” is really a vague statement. Maybe he’s not so cool, or sharp, or well-dressed, or smooth talking. But maybe he adores your daughter and will do everything in his power to make

As the mother of an adult your only real decision making power is over yourself, and whether or not or how much you will participate in her life if she moves forward with this man. For your own sake, I urge you not to lose your daughter over her decision. From what you wrote, you have spoken with her at length about her decision to move forward with this relationship. If you think she’d be willing, you can invite her to a therapy session with you.

You can say the following to her: “You know I love you and only want your happiness. I know you and so and so are serious. I want to work on keeping our lines of communication open and peaceful. Will you come with me to a therapy session or two … to work on us?”

You’re her mom. If you are seeing red flags, you say your piece to your daughter, even if she is an adult.

You’ve tried every which way, so now I suggest you give it one final try with the help of a professional. If she moves forward, insistent on this mar-

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If she moves forward, insistent on this marriage, paint a smile on, buy yourself a gorgeous gown and get on board. her happy, and she can finally hang up her uncomfortable dating shoes!

So I think you need to pull back a little at this point and watch how this plays out. Get to know him and make sure there isn’t anything about him that should absolutely be a red flag.

But if your daughter is just ready to marry and this guy is good enough, hopefully you will all grow to appreciate him and even love him down the road.

riage, paint a smile on, buy yourself a gorgeous gown and get on board … because this is your daughter, and nothing will ever change that. Do your best to make your peace with this and be happy for her. Intentionally work on acceptance every day, even if it means saying out loud, “Yes! I accept this relationship! Yes, I do! Yes, it is Hashem’s plan. It is so much bigger than I am. I’m going to have to hand this one over to Hashem.” And at the end of the day, the husband may come and go, but you, Mom, are forever.

Sincerely, Jennifer

Esther Mann, LCSW and Jennifer Mann, LCSW are licensed, clinical psychotherapists and dating and relationship coaches working with individuals, couples and families in private practice in Hewlett, NY. Date Debriefing, Dater’s Tool Kit, Dating Profile Analysis and Couples Work are some of the services available. To learn more about The Navidaters, visit www.

TheNavidaters.com. To set up an appointment, please call 516.224.7779. Press 1 for Esther, 2 for Jennifer. If you would like to submit a dating or relationship question to the panel anonymously, please email thenavidaters@gmail.com. You can follow The Navidaters on FB and Instagram.

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There’s No Connection without Reflection

By Deb Hirschhorn, Ph.D.

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t just occurred to me why I made introspection the first topic in my free talk (which can be accessed at http://drdeb.com/freecourse).

Reflection is the gateway to everything – absolutely everything that matters. Forget about the self-love I’ve been talking about; you can’t even know who you are without some reflection. You’ve got to know yourself before you can love yourself.

Why did you cry at that story you read? Sue read it and she didn’t cry. Why did you cry? What made you angry at the remark your boss made? If your husband tells you he loves you, why is it a sign of not loving if he gets your anniversary date mixed up? It’s just a date; why does it matter?

I admit I’m playing devil’s advocate here. Crying at tear-jerkers is normal; being angry at certain remarks is

normal, too. But do you know why all these things matter to you? Do you even know if they matter?

I’ve met a number of people of both sexes – although more so among men – who admit they don’t reflect and don’t want to. Or, I should say, they cover up their not wanting to with saying introspection wasn’t necessary.

WHY DON’T PEOPLE WANT TO LOOK INSIDE? We’ve all been given messages since childhood. When my daughter’s kids are on their way to bed, she says to each boy, “Good night, tzaddik’l.”

What messages did you hear?

I have a theory as to why it is that even though we know in our bones that we are good, smart, kind, hard-working and all that, the early messages are the ones that

seem real: The theory is simply that whatever came first seems real. For example, I was born and brought up in New York but I moved away after college. After college, I lived in Boston where people drive a “cah.” Then, when I took my Master’s, I lived in the Midwest where people drink “pop.” Finally, after marriage, I spent 32 years living in Florida where people don’t seem to have an accent (except if they’re from New York!). So when I finally got back to New York, having had enough people in the early years make fun of my accent that I got rid of it, my first thought when I got back and heard New Yorkers talk was, “Ah! The real way to speak English!” And I wasted no time settling comfortably into the “real” way of speaking.

Neuroscience seems to back up this idea. It is simply that the older the neural

pathway, the more it’s been used. It becomes so automatic that it feels real and feels comfortable – even when it’s painful.

I was once at a business networking meeting where I met a man who’d had a gastric bypass and he talked about his “fat self.” “But,” I said to him, “I don’t see you that way. To me, you’re slim.”

But to him, the fat self was the “real” self, not the one that I was facing.

If an older, hurtful message is the “real” one, then it’s no wonder we don’t want to look inside, especially when we are the ones who most need to. (We need to because that old message hurts and there it is, festering inside.)

YET REFLECTING IS THE GATEWAY TO REAL LIVING Living without reflecting – looking inside – is like being one of the walking dead:

You go through the motions of life but are disconnected from it. Think about it: How can you be connected to life (or anyone or anything in it) if you are disconnected from yourself?

I’ve had people come to me with a temper problem, for example. They wish they didn’t have it but they feel like they’re out of control sometimes: All the wishing in the world doesn’t help when they are about to lose it. They haven’t made the connection between the slight show of annoyance on another person’s face and the images in the back of their minds of an angry, misjudging parent.

Could they overcome their anger without uncovering this chapter in their lives?

Probably. Deep breathing and meditation can work wonders. But at the bottom is the nagging feeling that something is wrong. It would be so comforting to uncover

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this piece of personal history so that they could remind themselves that their parent was suffering from his or her own issues – and had made some big mistakes in parenting them.

I believe that this is the root of talking in shul too: People who are afraid to connect with themselves are even more in doubt about connecting to their Creator who, they believe deep down inside, would reject them. As one person told me with a laugh, “G-d is too busy with more important things than to pay attention to the minutia of my life.” He could not really believe in hashgacha pratis. So why was he laughing? To cover up his anxiety on the subject. “Let’s not go there,” his demeanor said.

How in the world would anyone believe that they could have a solid marital re-

lationship if they can’t even connect to themselves? How could they share who they are when they don’t know who they are? How could they resonate with the sharing of the other person when

the people who must watch their phone every second for the same reason: The words of others will drown out the emptiness underneath. And they think that is a whole lot better than facing it.

sense: Hashem made us so He ought to be satisfied with us. And that includes the fact that He implanted the yetzer hara inside of us, so He knows very well what we are up against. That’s why He

How could they share who they are when they don’t know who they are?

they don’t know what’s inside themselves to resonate with?

How could they expect the other person to want to connect with them if they don’t even want to?

They are the people who have to keep the radio or computer on all the time at home in order for the noise to prevent them from thinking and reflecting. They are

HOW TO OVERCOME THE FEAR Here are some things to consider: • Our neshamos are pure; they cannot be sullied.

• Every morning when we say Modeh Ani, according to some, rabbah emunashcha means “Great is Your Faith [in us]. This makes

created rachamim. Are we going to have less rachamim for ourselves than our Creator does for us?

• If you really feel you are all rotten inside, then start working on being the person you want to be. We’re meant to do just that anyway. That’s why we were created imperfect.

• Talk to someone you

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respect and trust – a rav, a therapist – to help you out of your dark place and put your life and who you are into realistic perspective.

• Face your fears. But facing them works best when you are talking to someone you trust at the moment you are facing them.

On the subject of facing your fears, my course has gotten off to an interesting start. People love the content but the technological hurdles are another story. Whew, boy.

I’ll update you from time to time.

Dr. Deb Hirschhorn is a Marriage and Family Therapist. She can be reached at 646-54-DRDEB or by writing drdeb@drdeb.com.

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Health & F tness

An Ode to Family Dinners

By Hylton I. Lightman, MD, DCH (SA), FAAP

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ating dinner with your kids may be the most important thing you ever do for them.

Promise.

The benefits to both children and parents of eating together as a family unit are manifold. Writing as a pediatrician, father and grandfather, here’s my ode to family dinners.

Family meals are a win-win for our children. Studies show that there’s healthier eating at a family dinner, meaning foods with better nutritional content. The family dinner is also the perfect setting for introducing new foods and expanding one’s palate. A 2000 survey found that the 9- to 14-year-olds who ate dinner with their families most frequently ate more fruits and vegetables and less soda and fried foods.

Their diets also had higher amounts of key nutrients, like calcium, iron, and fiber. Also, homemade meals promote better portion control.

These healthy meals also mean that we have mentally and emotionally healthier children. Studies have shown that kids who eat with their families frequently are less likely to

get depressed, consider suicide, and/ or develop an eating disorder. The family dinner can be a time when a child or adolescent might speak more freely and the parents can identify

Also, the stories and issues discussed around the table help children build resilience. What’s the link? The family dinner is part of the family structure and structure

We focus on each other without interruptions from the outside the world.

potential problem areas and deal with them before they morph into something greater and more difficult to treat. In fact, teens whose families eat together are more likely to report that their parents are proud of them.

Further, the conversation around the table helps to build vocabulary more than reading. It also builds more awareness about grammar and syntax. Oftentimes, my wife and I sit back and listen, frequently learning new things about our children and their generation. Family dinners means better family relationships.

is important to helping children and adolescents feel secure. Children’s close, warm relationships with their parents or caregiver help them to feel secure, especially in the face of daily stress. Talking about emotions, together with helping your child build a vocabulary to discuss emotions (both positive and negative), are key to fostering warm relationships.

You, the parent, are your child’s role model in this area, as in other areas.

Talking about emotions will lead to conversations about self-regulating emotions, another key to building re-

silience in children.

The family dinner is a time when we “unplug” – no phones, no internet. We focus on each other without interruptions from the outside the world. I confess, though, that my beeper is with me – sorry, Lightmans.

In the crazily busy lives that we lead when there’s a lack of sufficient time, thank G-d for Shabbos dinner and Shabbos lunch. In His infinite wisdom, Hashem has built quality family time into our week. With His help and our determination, we should have more time like Shabbos meals throughout the other six days.

Family is the single most important influence in a child’s life. Parents and family form a child’s first relationships. Let’s maximize them.

Dr. Hylton Lightman is a pediatrician and Medical Director of Total Family Care of the 5 Towns and Rockaway PC. He can be reached at www.totalfamilycaremd.com, on Instagram at #light manpeds or visit him on Facebook.

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Health & F tness

Carb Swapping

By Cindy Weinberger MS, RD, CDN

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e all know that the secret to dieting is restricting carbohydrates and increasing intake of vegetables.

However, this is a lot easier said than done. Holding back from pastas, pizzas, and cakes can be a very challenging and daunting task. Is there a way to cut back on carbs yet still indulge in the foods you love?

The answer is yes! The good news is, grains can be replaced with vegetables, thereby saving on calories and carbs.

Zoodles: Zucchini noodles, also popularly referred to as “zoodles,” have become increasingly popular. Spiralizing your vegetables has become easier than ever. It looks fancy, but can easily be made by buying a spiralizer for as little as $20. Using a small, convenient gadget, you can basically spiralize anything – from beets to butternut squash and zucchini. While one cup of cooked spaghetti has about 220 calories and 43 grams of carbohydrates, the same serving of zucchini made into “zoodles” has just 20 calories and 4 grams of carbohydrate. Due to the low calorie and carbohydrate content, you can eat 5 servings of zucchini for just 100

calories and 20 grams of carbs. Try zoodles and cheese and you’ll be surprised how delicious a vegetable can actually be. You’ll probably get hooked and might just cut out pastas permanently!

Cauliflower pizza: Whether you’ve made the switch to gluten-free because you suffer from gluten intolerance or are simply cutting back on your wheat intake, a slice of pizza can be just as enjoyable as you remember. However, the glitch is in the crust. Cauliflower pizza is a safe and healthy alternative for those avoiding carbohydrates, and even more so, cauliflower pizza provides all the health benefits of cauliflower. Cauliflower is packed with vitamins and minerals, helps reduce inflammation, and is thought to prevent cancer, heart disease and brain disorders. Cauliflower is also rich in sulfur-containing compounds that are beneficial for digestion and detoxification. The problem is deciding which toppings to put on your yummy pizza.

Cauliflower rice: After trying the cauliflower pizza, you’ll fall in love with the taste. Next, try cauliflower rice. Chop up a whole head of

cauliflower. Leave only the florets and discard the stems. Put the cauliflower in a food processor. Pulse until the cauliflower breaks down into couscous or rice-sized pieces.

To cook your cauliflower rice, add in a tablespoon of olive oil to a large skillet. Heat over medium flame and add the cauliflower. Cook for 5-8 minutes or until tender. You can also eat the cauliflower rice raw if you’d like.

Eggplant buns: Not as popular as zoodles or cauliflower pizza, this is an alternative to buns. Toasted eggplants is a great, low-carb alternative to hamburger buns. If you want to add a little crunch, slice eggplants about ¼” thick, dip them into eggs, and lightly coat with breadcrumbs. Bake at 425°F for 30 minutes. This crunchy, tasty alternative has a fraction of the carbohydrates that are found buns, plus you’re getting fiber.

Lettuce wraps: An easy swap for wraps is lettuce leaves. Choose lettuces like butter lettuce, iceberg lettuce, cabbage leaves, kale or Swiss chard. These lettuces are big and will hold a decent amount of fillings without ripping or the items falling out.

Veggie chips: If you enjoy snacking on chips and crackers, make your own veggie chips at home. Kale chips have become a popular snack because of the salty taste and similar texture to potato chips. If you are willing to use starchy vegetables, thinly slice and bake vegetables like beets, sweet potatoes, parsnips and carrots.

These crispy treats are easy and enjoyable.

Try these alternatives to carbs and watch your grain cravings fade away.

Cindy Weinberger MS, RD, CDN, is a Master’s level Registered Dietitian and Certified Dietitian-Nutritionist.

She graduated CUNY Brooklyn College receiving a Bachelor’s in Science and Master’s degree in Nutrition and Food Sciences. Her Dietetic Internship was completed under Brooklyn College primarily in Ditmas Park Care Center and Boro Park Center where she developed clinical and education skills to treat patients with comprehensive nutrition care. She is currently a dietitian at Boro Park Center and a private nutrition consultant. She can be reached at CindyWeinberger1@gmail.com.

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Madraigos

Everything Comes with a Learning Manual – Why Not Our Kids?

By Rivki Rosenwald, CLC

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s our children struggle with their issues, we as parents struggle as well.

It’s not easy being a kid.

Children are navigating an unfamiliar world. The good news is they usually have Mommy or Daddy to help them. But, suddenly, as kids reach adolescence, their homing mechanism changes somewhat. They are more compelled cognitively, hormonally and psychologically to find the answers themselves. This is often a daunting task for preteens, teens, and even people in their early twenties.

Parents may start to get disoriented because their authority is no longer as influential as it once was. As children reach adolescence and begin their quest for independence, parents need to find their new role and develop patterns of interaction that are effective. Most important, parents need to stay connected.

“Most parents do a pretty good job of raising kids,”

says psychologist Laurence Steinberg, a preeminent psychologist in the field of parenting. “But truly effective parenting means not just relying on natural instincts but also knowing what works and why.” It seems to so many people that this is what we are programmed for, to be parents.

Therefore, the expectation is that the instincts and wisdom needed for the job will just come to us naturally, almost the way learning to eat does.

But did you ever notice that though eating begins pretty naturally, we spend the rest of our lives tweaking and analyzing it? We learn certain foods don’t agree with us. Certain foods energize us while others make us feel sluggish. We are constantly learning more about what is heart-healthy, good or bad for our bodies, or what strengthens our minds.

In other words, even though some events seem natural and what we are built to do, there is much room for edu-

cation and improvement.

This brings me to the challenges of parenting. We are clearly directed to become parents. However, nowhere does it state that this will come without challenges and the need for enlightenment, perspective, constant growth, and expansion.

Steinberg points out that he’s often asked whether what he’s learned as a researcher has helped him to be a better parent. He states, “The answer is of course that it has.

It’s like asking a professional chef whether studying cooking made him better in the kitchen. How could it not?

Like anything else, good parenting requires knowledge.” Steinberg points out that there is a science to effective parenting and that certain core principles have proved helpful.

Will adolescents still struggle and parents still make mistakes? It’s very likely because the journey is affected by many factors along the way. However, improving the way we un-

derstand it, handle it, behave, and connect through it is what will help our children most to get through it.

When we seek to understand our kids and stay connected to them we are actually supporting them through their difficult times.

One valuable tool is learning to be a good listener and really understanding what that means. This is an integral part of helping your adolescent go through his or her struggles. Most parents cannot actually wrap their heads around the concept that with all their life wisdom, one of the best teaching tools they possess is being able to hold back from sharing their information and to opt to just listen.

However, when we truly listen rather than talking, we begin to hear what is going on for our child from their point of view. As Adele Faber and Elaine Mazlish point out in their book, How to Talk so Teens Will Listen and Listen so Teens Will Talk, “There will always be time for you

to get your message across but you have a better chance of being heard, if you start by letting your kids know they’ve been heard.”

Hearing them is not just hearing their words but attempting to understand their struggle. This can happen through what they say or even what they do not say. When they are struggling they are sending us information that something is difficult for them. If we are too consumed with our own reaction, we cannot understand their challenge.

We need to be able to empathize with their feelings even though we do not condone their behavior.

Parents might begin to see behaviors that upset them. A child may begin to party, dress inappropriately, pursue unhealthy behaviors, or reject parents’ religious values. All of these actions are sending a message from their children to them. If, as parents, we choose to criticize the behavior without understanding where it is

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coming from, or what need it is meeting for them, we are not hearing them and very likely they will not hear us when we react.

“Parents often see uncooperative behavior as a challenge to their authority.

Once we understand that uncooperative behavior is a communication of a child’s unmet need, a hurt, or the response to an adult’s unrealistic expectation, we do not have to take the behavior so personally,” says Pam Leo, parent educator. When we internalize the understanding that a struggle is truly occurring for our children, it helps them feel they are not alone in their difficulty and this keeps them connected to us.

Staying connected is a core value of getting our children through their rough

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In The K

tchen

Inspiration at Kosherfest

By Naomi Nachman

There was so much to see and do at this year’s Kosherfest. It was also a great event to network and connect with others in the industry.

Here is one of my favorite products featured at this year’s Kosherfest.

To see more about this event, you can watch or listen to my radio show Table For Two on the Nachum Segal Network or on the

Nachum Segal Net channel on YouTube.

Pelleh Poultry and Bethel Creamery: This creamery and poultry farm is the one of the only Cholov Yisraol dairy farms whose cows are raised on grass the natural way. Their rich, thick, creamy milk tastes so delicious and they now make other products

such as yogurt. Across the road, Pelleh Poultry, which is also owned by the Franklin family, brings us the highest quality duck on the market today. They make duck rillettes (pate), duck sausage, duck fat and duck fry.

After sampling their candied duck I had to come home and make some for my family for Shabbat.

Kale Salad with Miso Sesame Dressing, Sweet Potato Croutons, and Kosher Candied Duck Bacon Ingredients

Preparation

1 bunch kale leaves, tough center stems removed, washed well, dried and torn into pieces 1 small butternut squash, peeled and cubed Salt Garlic powder Paprika Olive oil

To make the Butternut Squash Croutons: Preheat oven to 400°F. Peel and cube a small butternut squash. Place the squash cubes in a single layer on a baking sheet lined with parchment paper.

Sprinkle evenly with a little bit of olive oil, kosher salt, garlic powder and paprika to taste. Roast till soft and the edges are tinged brown. Set aside.

To make the dressing: Place dressing ingredients in a blender and blend until smooth or mix well by hand.

To make the duck bacon: Preheat oven to 350°F. Line a baking sheet with parchment paper and arrange bacon on it. Sprinkle brown sugar on top of bacon and bake for 20 minutes, until sugar is caramelized and bacon is crisp. Watch for burning. Transfer to cooling rack and let cool. Chop into small pieces.

To serve: Place kale leaves in a bowl. Sprinkle with dressing and massage dressing into the leaves. Marinate. Place the butternut squash and candied bacon in the salad after the kale has marinated and massaged with the dressing.

Dressing 1 tablespoon brown miso paste (or yellow or red) 2 oz. hummus Juice from 1 lemon (fresh) 1/8 cup extra virgin olive oil Pinch kosher salt Candied Duck Bacon 1 pkg. Pelleh Duck Bacon ¼ cup brown sugar

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Keeping the Menu Simple Can Please Everyone

BY JULIA TURSHEN Special to The Washington Post

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started cooking Thanksgiving dinner for my entire, ever-expanding family when I was about 12. Because I have loved to cook since before I can remember, Thanksgiving, with all its abundance and tradition, seemed like the pinnacle of meals. Getting to drive the car, so to speak, made me feel empowered and so connected to everyone I was cooking for. Although the satisfaction of preparing the meal has never left me, something has changed: Just about everyone at my table now has a dietary restriction.

The restrictions vary, and whether they exist because of necessity or choice, I do my best to honor them.

This approach took me some time to embrace, however. It’s hard enough to get a big meal for a group on the table.

Extra variables to consider, especially ones that can threaten your loved ones’ health, make an already stressful situation even more so. But there’s a silver lining: The more complicated my guests, the more straightforward my cooking. I approach the wealth of dietary restrictions in my family as an invitation to simplicity. And it turns out that this has made my life, as the host and cook, a whole lot more relaxing.

I have learned that I am at my most content when the people at my dinner table feel happy, considered and taken care of. To achieve that end while faced with such a variety of needs, I cook a lot of things, but each one is very pared down. In other words, many simple things are better than one complicated thing. Not only do you ensure that everyone is attended to, but also it’s much easier.

(Needless to say, this is a good strat-

egy whether or not your guests come with a veritable rider.)

For example, instead of one elaborate turkey (not vegan!) with nuts (allergy!) in the bread stuffing (gluten!) and a glaze (sugar! sugar!) and mashed potatoes (carbs!), I do a simple roast turkey with roasted lemons for squeezing over it, next to a wholegrain stuffing, next to a few interesting salads and vegetables. Something for everyone.

Cooking that way also keeps everyone at the table from feeling alienated.

When you are always the exception in a group of people eating, it’s nice to be included. That means no separate vegan meal for my brother and sisterin-law. It means lots of delicious side dishes that happen to be vegan that they can make a whole meal of and that everyone else can enjoy alongside their turkey. Have you ever been on an airplane and wanted to eat the vegetarian meal even though you’re not a vegetarian? The same sentiment applies. Make lots of each thing, so everyone feels as if they have access to the same dishes. Plus, you’ll always end up with plenty of leftovers, which is what holidays are all about, right?

The simple dishes need not be boring. As a cookbook author and lifelong lover of all things edible, I am sensitive to the emotional power of food, especially nostalgic holiday food. I’ve noticed that someone with a lot of dietary limitations usually ends up eating the same foods over and over at the holiday table, so I like to dial in on the menu’s “regulars” and add a little something to make them special. For example, instead of steaming Brussels sprouts, I’ll roast them to boost their natural flavor and

give them a bit of crunchy texture, then I’ll drizzle them with an herby dressing with lots of garlic and lemon.

Extra flavor without much effort and without affecting anyone’s health or beliefs: win, win. Or instead of a hohum green salad, I’ll shred radicchio, with its bitter depth of flavor, and mix it with peppery radishes and tart pomegranate seeds for an all-red salad that’s as refreshing as it is striking and that just about everyone can eat.

It cuts through all the rich food in the meal, plus it can sit for a while once it’s dressed, so you won’t end up with wilted greens that no one is interested in anyway.

To make a number of dishes, no matter how simple, thinking ahead will make your life a lot easier. Just about every dish has at least some component that can be prepared in advance. That salad I just mentioned?

Shred the radicchio and slice the radishes ahead of time, and get all the seeds out of your pomegranate. Store them all in a resealable plastic bag with a damp paper towel to keep them from drying out, and whisk up your dressing and put that in its own container. When it’s time to eat, put everything in a bowl and toss. In general, food is forgiving and reheats well.

Most of the time, it tastes even better the next day. You know how the plate of Thanksgiving food that you warm on Friday is sometimes even more satisfying than it was on Thursday?

Make everything on Wednesday!

When you’re serving a meal for a group with lots of restrictions, a buffet is your best friend: Everyone can choose whatever they like. And make sure everyone knows what you’re offering, so they can make informed

decisions. You can make a little announcement (“Hey, everyone! I just want to run through what we have!”) or cute little signs (a great task to assign to a teenager). Whatever works.

For dessert, keep in mind the mixand-match. Gingery pears filling a roasting dish are flavorful and smell like autumn and are also gluten-free, sugar-free and vegan. They can be served with ice cream for a decadent dessert (try drizzling with maple syrup and topping with candied nuts), or with unsweetened whipped cream for a low-carb decadent dessert, or with vegan ice cream and toasted nuts for a completely vegan dessert, or just on their own for something festive and comforting without any consequences. (For ultimate flexibility, set out all of the above components in separate bowls and let your guests customize.)

The pears are also great cold in the morning with yogurt or folded into oatmeal or mashed into sauce. Best of all, they can be made ahead of time and warmed in the oven just before you eat them – or on the grill or over low heat on the stovetop if you run out of oven space.

One last piece of advice. If someone you’re inviting over has a serious restriction, don’t be shy to ask for their help. This year, Thanksgiving falls on the same day as my darling niece’s first birthday. We’re not exactly sure yet what kind of cake she likes, but her parents are vegan, and my sister-in-law is gluten-free and has a few other food allergies. When they kindly asked what they could bring this year, I told them “a birthday cake that everyone will enjoy.” I am not sure what that might be, but I cannot wait to see it.

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Roasted Gingery Pears

PHOTO BY DEB LINDSEY FOR THE WASHINGTON POST

PHOTO BY DIXIE D. VEREEN FOR THE WASHINGTON POST

All-Red Radicchio, Radish, Pomegranate Salad

8 servings

8 servings

All crunch, this salad helps to balance the rich food normally associated with Thanksgiving. The ingredients’ red hues make for a striking presentation, but the complementary flavors are even more memorable.

These are also great cold in the morning with yogurt, or folded into oatmeal, or mashed into sauce.

MAKE AHEAD: The dressing can be refrigerated in a jar for up to 3 days in advance. The shredded radicchio, sliced radishes and pomegranate seeds can be prepared up to 2 days in advance; refrigerate with a damp paper towel in a Ziplock bag. The entire salad can be assembled, dressing and all, up to 12 hours before you serve it. (Keep it covered in the refrigerator.)

Ingredients • • • • • •

1 small clove garlic, minced 3 tablespoons red wine vinegar 1 tablespoon Dijon mustard ½ teaspoon kosher salt 5 tablespoons extra-virgin olive oil 2 large heads radicchio (about 1 ½ pounds total), outer leaves and core discarded, shredded • Seeds from 1 large pomegranate (about 1 cup) • 8 red radishes, thinly sliced

Steps Combine the garlic, vinegar, mustard and salt in a mixing bowl, whisking until incorporated. Gradually add the oil, whisking, to form an emulsified dressing.

Add the radicchio, pomegranate seeds and radishes, and gently stir everything well to combine. Transfer to a serving bowl.

Nutrition | Per serving: 120 calories, 2 g protein, 9 g carbohydrates, 9 g fat, 2 g saturated fat, 0 mg cholesterol, 120 mg sodium, 2 g dietary fiber, 4 g sugar

MAKE AHEAD: The pears can be roasted up to 4 days in advance and refrigerated in an airtight container. To reheat, simply put them back in the roasting dish and warm in a 325°F oven (or on a medium-low grill if your oven is full) for about 20 minutes.

Ingredients • • • • • •

2 tablespoons fresh lemon juice 1 tablespoon peeled, minced fresh ginger root 1 teaspoon ground cinnamon 2 tablespoons extra-virgin olive oil Pinch kosher salt 8 pears (any kind, about 2 ½ pounds total), cored and halved

Steps Preheat the oven to 425°F. Whisk together the lemon juice, ginger, cinnamon, oil and salt in a large roasting pan. Add the pear halves and toss until evenly coated. Turn the pear halves cut sides up; roast (middle rack) for 30 to 40 minutes, until softened and slightly browned.

Serve warm or at room temperature, drizzled with the pan juices.

Nutrition | Per serving: 130 calories, 0 g protein, 23 g carbohydrates, 4 g fat, 1 g saturated fat, 0 mg cholesterol, 20 mg sodium, 5 g dietary fiber, 15 g sugar © Washington Post, 2016

Julia Turshen is the author of “Small Victories” (Chronicle Books, 2016).

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Notable Quotes “Say What?!”

One of the great things about our democracy is it expresses itself in all sorts of ways. And that includes people protesting. I’ve been the subject of protests during the course of my eight years. And I suspect that there’s not a president in our history that at some point hasn’t been subject to these protests. So I would not advise people would feel strongly or are concerned about some of the issues that have been raised during the course of the campaign, I wouldn’t advise them to be silent.

– President Obama at a press conference in Germany, giving implicit support to protestors against Trump

No administration is ready on day one. We weren’t ready on day one. But I’m confident on day one everything will be in good hands.

I want to say happy birthday to Prince Charles, who turned 68 today. His friends got him a cake, which was nice until Queen Elizabeth popped out of it and shouted, “Still here!”

– A gracious Joe Biden, after meeting with his counterpart, incoming Vice President-elect Mike Pence

A new study revealed that having a pint of beer every day can help prevent strokes and heart disease — so this one is on me, Justice Ginsburg. Keep going.

President Obama actually said yesterday that if things get better under President Trump, he’ll be the first to congratulate him. Well, technically, he’ll be the second because Trump will congratulate himself first.

– Seth Myers

– Jimmy Fallon

We would like for our administration to understand that although some members of this community may have come to this university because of Thomas Jefferson’s legacy, others of us came here in spite of it. For many of us, the inclusion of Jefferson quotations in these e-mails undermines the message of unity, equality and civility that you are attempting to convey.

There’s talk that Donald Trump may appoint Sarah Palin as secretary of the interior, which means she would oversee the National Park Service. When they heard that, bears were like, “Well, we had a good run.”

– Jimmy Fallon

– A portion of a letter from professors and students at the University of Virginia’s psychology department in response to a call to unity by the university’s president which included a quote from President Thomas Jefferson

- Jimmy Fallon

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For the millions who are disappointed for Hillary, remember, America has a special place for people who lose.

Ironically, it’s the cast of “Celebrity Apprentice.”

- Conan O’Brien

A new scientific study shows rats are capable of laughter if they are tickled the correct way. The rats were like, “Why aren’t you trying to cure cancer?”

– Seth Myers

I read that Donald Trump doesn’t want to live at the White House full-time.

He’s thinking about commuting from New York City. It’s all part of Trump’s plan to make America great again, and to make traffic in New York City worse than ever.

Presidential Tweets

– Jimmy Fallon

If you want to know what will happen in America, who do you have to talk to? You have to talk to the Jews, naturally. But of course. They told me: “Marochka, you understand, of course, we’ll donate to Clinton. But we’ll donate twice as much to the Republicans.” That was it! The matter was settled, for me, personally.

- Maria Zakharova, Russian Foreign Ministry spokeswoman, in an interview with Russian TV, perpetuating the age-old Russian narrative that Jews control the world

McDonald’s is unveiling something called a Nutella burger at its locations in Italy. This goes against the traditional way of eating Nutella, which is with two fingers in the dark while crying at 3 a.m.

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I settled the Trump University lawsuit for a small fraction of the potential award because as President I have to focus on our country.

– About settling the Trump University fraud suit for $25 million

The ONLY bad thing about winning the Presidency is that I did not have the time to go through a long but winning trial on Trump U. Too bad!

– Ibid

Our wonderful future V.P. Mike Pence was harassed last night at the theater by the cast of Hamilton, cameras blazing. This should not happen!

– After an actor addressed Vice President-elect Pence about people being afraid of a Trump presidency, when he was in the audience watching the show “Hamilton” with his family

The Theater must always be a safe and special place. The cast of Hamilton was very rude last night to a very good man, Mike Pence.

Apologize - Ibid

I cancelled today’s meeting with the failing @nytimes when the terms and conditions of the meeting were changed at the last moment. Not nice.

– Announcing that he canceled a planned meeting with The New York Times

– James Corden

The meeting with the @nytimes is back on at 12:30 today. Look forward to it!

- Several hours later

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According to a new poll, almost 60 percent of Americans believe Donald Trump should compromise with Democrats.

Like, instead of a wall at the Mexican border, maybe a beaded curtain?

- Seth Myers

I can assure you that whether you voted for him or you did not vote for him, if you are a citizen of the United States, he is your president. He will be your president, and if you do not like that, you need to go to another country.

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“Hamilton” and the Implosion of the American Left

by Marc A. Thiessen

Special to The Washington Post

H

ey, Democrats, want help to rally the country around Donald Trump? Here’s a great idea: Have a crowd of wealthy, outof-touch Manhattan liberals (who can afford $849 tickets to “Hamilton”) boo Vice President-elect Mike Pence while the cast of the Broadway show lectures him on diversity.

The Democratic Party’s alienation from the rest of America was on full display at the Richard Rodgers Theatre on Friday night. And the left seems completely oblivious to how ridiculous it looks to the rest of the United States.

Professors at Yale and Columbia universities and other elite schools postpone exams and cancel classes for students who could not deal with the election results. Kids in Washington, D.C., schools cut class with tacit approval from administrators to march in protest of the results of a free and fair election. School officials in suburban D.C. offer grief counselors to “help students process any concerns or feelings they have about the election.” (Funny, I don’t recall anyone canceling exams or offering my kids grief counselors when Barack Obama was elected.)

People in the American heartland see all this, and they shake their heads in disgust. Today’s Democrats have become a party of coastal elites completely disconnected from the rest of America.

Doubt it? Take a look at a

county-by-county map of the 2016 presidential election.

You can drive some 3,000 miles across the entire continental United States – from sea to shining sea – without driving through a single county that voted for Hillary Clinton.

At the national level, the Democratic Party has been wiped out. Trump won five states that voted for Obama twice – Iowa, Wisconsin,

When Obama first took office, Republicans held just 3,223 state legislative seats. After Tuesday’s vote, the number stands at 4,162. There are now more Republican state legislators than at any time since 1920. And if Gov. Pat McCrory holds on in North Carolina, Republicans will match their all-time high of 34 GOP governors last seen in the 1920s.

Or consider this: Today, Democrats control both the

leadership, Democrats have been reduced to our smallest congressional minority since 1929… We have the fewest Democrats in state and federal offices since Reconstruction.”

If Democrats are smart, they will listen to Ryan.

His district includes hurting industrial areas such as Youngstown and Akron – so he understands how to win the very voters Democrats lost

You can drive some 3,000 miles across the entire continental United States – from sea to shining sea – without driving through a single county that voted for Hillary Clinton.

Ohio, Pennsylvania and Florida – pushing Democrats even further toward the coastal peripheries. As a result, Republicans now control the House, the Senate, the White House, and (after President Trump picks a new justice to replace Antonin Scalia) there will be a restored conservative majority on the Supreme Court.

But that is nothing compared with the utter devastation Democrats have suffered in the states. On President Obama’s watch, Democrats have lost a net grand total of 939 state legislative seats, 30 state legislative chambers and a dozen governorships.

governor’s office and the legislature in just five states – Oregon, California, Hawaii, Connecticut and Rhode Island. By contrast, Republicans have total control of state government in 25 states – half the country.

One Democrat who understands the need for his party to reconnect with working-class voters in middle America is Rep. Tim Ryan, D-Ohio, who has challenged Rep. Nancy Pelosi, D-Calif., for the post of House minority leader. “What we are doing right now is not working,” he wrote in a letter to his colleagues. “Under our current

in 2016 and need to win back.

Do they have a better chance of winning back those voters by electing him or an aging, coastal San Francisco liberal such as Pelosi? Ryan is young and dynamic – just 43 years old. The House Democratic leadership, by contrast, is old.

The Washington Post recently reported that the average age of the House Democratic leadership is almost 65 years old.

And Pelosi is 76 – a year older than Bernie Sanders. Perhaps Democrats should take the advice of John F. Kennedy and pass the torch to a new generation.

The long-term problem

for Democrats is that much of that new generation has been wiped out at the polls. We saw the impact of the Democratic collapse in the states during this year’s presidential primaries. The Republican field was brimming with candidates, while on the Democratic side Clinton struggled to defeat a disheveled 75-year-old socialist from Vermont, and the rest of the field – Martin O’Malley, Jim Webb and Lincoln Chafee – could not crack the low single digits.

Eight years of losing statehouses and governors’ mansions have left Democrats with no bench. They are like an NFL team with aging stars who are long past their prime and few prospects in the pipeline.

Democrats may believe that the way back from the periphery is to follow the advice Aaron Burr offers Hamilton: “Talk less. Smile more.

Don’t let them know what you’re against and what you’re for.” That didn’t work out so well for Clinton. If Democrats can’t find new leaders who can connect with the working-class voters they lost to Donald Trump, they may find themselves even more isolated from the American heartland than they are today. © Washington Post, 2016 Thiessen is a fellow with the American Enterprise Institute and former chief speechwriter to President George W. Bush.

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Tanks Today

By Avi Heiligman

Troops exiting a Stryker tank

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ompared to early tanks that broke the stalemates of WWI trenches, today’s tanks are much bigger, more powerful and have different roles on the battlefield. The new type of tank that first saw widespread use in the 1990s is referred to as armored fighting vehicles. They are combat vehicles with varying thickness of armor and firepower. Each type is designed with a specific mission in mind although some are capable of performing several types of operations. Traditional style tanks are in use as a mobile army needs all types of vehicles to fight a war.

Designed in the ‘70s and produced in the ‘80s and ‘90s, the M1 Abrams main battle tank is the principle tank in many armies worldwide. Close to 9,000 were built and the current version sports heavy armament including a 120mm smoothbore main gun. A new infrared sensor upgrades the tank’s ability to locate and destroy enemy targets.

Luckily for the Abrams crews, they won’t be facing other heavy tanks in the near future. For several years the Abrams was the king of the battlefield but now other countries

The M1A1 Abrams tank crushing a car in Baghdad

have tanks to rival the 60+ ton behemoth. The German Leopard, the British Challenger, the French Leclerc, and Israeli Merkava possess similar firepower and protection levels. Only the Russians have a possible answer to the Abrams that may make its way to Arab hands.

However, its main predator remains the anti-tank weapons that were built by Russia and supplied to enemies of American allies equipped with the Abrams.

Merkava (chariot) tanks have been a mainstay in the Israeli army since the late 1970s. General Yisrael Tal had been a soldier in all of Israel’s early wars. During the Yom Kippur War he astutely pointed out that without American aid the Israeli tactic of a fast tank would have proven a disaster for Israel. All of the tanks on the southern (Egyptian) front didn’t have capabilities for a defensive attack on Israel’s borders. As an armored commander he understood the need for Israel to have the best tanks and took his knowledge to the drawing board.

The result was the Merkava that not only would be available for IDF purposes but could also be exported. As of now, only the IDF uses the

A M1A2 Abrams Tank

Merkava but several subcontractors have used the technology produced for the tank in other military vehicles The most recent variant is the Merkava IV which first saw action during the 2006 war in Lebanon.

Unlike tanks of WWII and the Cold War that were built by the thousands; tanks like the Merkava and Abrams are produced in smaller numbers. Less than 100 roll off the production lines a year for the Merkava, and while the Abrams numbers may seem a bit higher, many are being exported. Rising costs and the declining need for tanks have given way to armored fighting vehicles. To keep up with newer types of vehicles the Merkava now can carry three wounded on stretchers and can shoot down helicopters while moving quickly.

In addition to its thick armor and other defense mechanisms, Merkava tanks also employ the Rafael Trophy system which can intercept and destroy incoming missiles and rockets. In recent wars the Trophy system has protected several tanks and their crews from being hit and has saved countless lives. During Operation Protective Edge in 2014

the Trophy system was used dozens of times and not a single tank equipped with the system was lost.

Tanks are tracked vehicles and can easily pass over tougher terrain that would give a wheeled vehicle a tougher time getting through.

That being said, armored fighting vehicles such as the Stryker are becoming ever increasingly popular among troops and armored units.

In 1999, the United States Army realized that it needed a vehicle to fill a major gap in its motor pool in the ever-changing post-Cold War battlefields. The tanks were too big and heavy for rapid deployments, and small and fast vehicles, like the humvee, were lightly armored and had little in the way of offensive power. What was needed was a light but fast troop carrier that could get into every type of battlefield and survive. The challenge was sent to many defense contactors, with General Dynamics winning the contract. Their version is called the Stryker, and first saw action in late 2003 in Iraq. The name was picked for two servicemen who posthumously won the Medal of Honor, America’s highest decoration for bravery in battle, and not

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for any psychological reasons that the name Stryker may invoke on the enemy.

The Stryker, which is modeled from a Swiss version and designed to rival the Russian BTR, is an eight wheel, 4x4, all wheel drive that comes in ten different variants and could reach speeds of up to 62 miles per hour. They all have a crew of two – a driver and a commander – and can transport nine fully equipped soldiers into battle. Most variants have either a machine gun or a grenade launcher, is light in terms of firepower but more weapons would weigh down the vehicle and it wouldn’t be able to carry many soldiers. The armor protects the occupants from most roadside bombs, mines and IEDs (improvised explosive devices). It is also equipped with a CBRN (Chemical, Biological, Radiological and Nuclear) Warfare system that keeps the crew’s compartment airtight and positively pressurized.

The Stryker can alter the pressure in all eight tires to suit terrain conditions: highway, cross-country, mud/sand/snow, and emergency.

The system warns the driver if the vehicle exceeds the recommended speed for its tire pressure and then automatically inflates the tires to the next higher pressure setting.

Even with a flat tire it can travel for several miles before it needs to be changed.

The most common version is the Infantry Carrier Vehicle (ICV). It transfers troops into battle who dis-

A Stryker Medical Evacuation Vehicle

mount for the fight and is supported by the other Strykers in the area.

Three other variants – the Mounted Gun System, the Mortar Carrier and an anti-tank Stryker – provide additional firepower for the ICVs. There are also medical, command and engineer versions performing vital tasks to keep the brigade in the field. All of these are part of a Stryker Brigade that can self-sustain itself in the field for days at a time.

Israel did not want the Stryker and instead selected an Israeli-made hybrid-armored personnel carrier. Called the Namer, it is on a Merkava chassis (so it is tracked not wheeled) and can carry up to 12 soldiers in rough terrain. Since only 120 are in current use due to rising production costs and other setbacks, Israel still employs the American-built M113 armored personnel carrier that first saw action in the Vietnam War. Infantry mobility vehicles are smaller wheeled carriers that are used for reconnaissance, patrol and security purposes. Based off the successful Jeep of WWII, many countries currently build and employ their own versions of this vehicle that can be adapted to many types of warfare.

It is vital for an army to be as mobile as possible in a battle situation. Having devastating firepower onboard the vehicle is what separates the mission capabilities of a tank or an armored personnel carrier. Helicopters have become in-

creasingly popular for both transport and in attack roles. They have taken over the main role of tanks and can get in and out of a battle in less time. Still tanks are being produced, albeit in fewer number, and can change the dynamics of a battle

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An anti-missile launcher disguised as a Merkava tank

with just one round.

Avi Heiligman is a weekly contributor to The Jewish Home. He welcomes your comments and suggestions for future columns and can be reached at aviheiligman@gmail.com.

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t’s that time of year again—college application deadlines are approaching, and parents and students find themselves scrambling. The information below is intended to act as a guide. A guidance counselor or educated mentor should be used as needed to help you advance through the process.

The college application process is a critical step for high schoolers as they attempt to advance to the next stage of their lives and yet the process is shrouded in an aura of confusion, misinformation and downright inaccuracies. Lines such as, “Well, my friend’s neighbor’s cousin got into that school without taking the SAT” are far more prevalent than actual cold, hard facts.

To compound the issue, not all schools have college advisors and even among the schools that do, many college advisors are overwhelmed and unavailable at this time of year. A New York Times report found that the national average was 500 students per college advisor. And yet, when crunch time hits, the majority of those students need advisement at the same time!

Private schools have better averages as the national median for private schools is 106 students per advisor. Nonetheless, many parents and students still feel like they are operating blindly without sufficient guidance and information. Here, then, is a step-by-step guide to the process for parents and high schoolers that includes an approximate timeline and an explanation of how the average student should approach the college application process:

STEP 1 (11TH GRADE – EARLY 12TH GRADE): ACHIEVE THE NECESSARY SCORES As simple as it sounds, this step is the most important aspect of the entire process. A student’s GPA and SAT/ACT score will always be the first metric that a prospective college analyzes when determining an application (for some schools, these are the only relevant factors). The GPA at the time of application will generally be based upon a student’s performance in 9th – 11th grade.

The SAT or ACT should be taken for the first time in mid-11th grade and up to 3 times total (by early 12th grade) if necessary to hit one’s target score (taking either test more than 3 times is a red flag to schools). Here are some basic targets to aim for, depending, of course, on the student’s individual abilities: Average minimum standards for acceptance to 4-year colleges

Average Honors Program and/or scholarship standards

GPA

85

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SAT (ACT)

1100 (24)

1300 – 1400 (30-32)

Keep in mind that the decisions in step 2 (what the student’s target schools

are) will be influenced by the grades the student has and what schools he/ she subsequently has a legitimate shot of getting accepted to. Note that in the chart above there is a wide range in the standards of Honors programs and scholarship programs. This is because (as is demonstrated in step two’s chart), schools can vary widely in that range. Thus a student with a strong GPA and an SAT score over the 1250 range should research specific schools/ programs and their respective standards.

STEP 2 (11TH GRADE – OCTOBER OF 12TH GRADE): DETERMINE YOUR TARGET SCHOOLS/CAREER OPTIONS Based upon a student’s scores, the next step is to consider schools and programs that are in line with those metrics. A key factor to consider is what the student is interested in studying and potentially pursuing as a career.

Someone considering pre-med, for example, will pursue different school and program choices than someone who is interested in engineering or law or any other field.

As an example, below is a chart delineating the basic standards of several New York schools and honors programs. Steps 1 and 2 are best performed in tandem; the grades a student has should influence their decision in choosing target schools, but the student’s preferred choice of schools should also push them to achieve the requisite scores if they haven’t achieved them yet but they are realistically within their reach.

APPROX. MINIMUM STANDARDS OF LOCAL SCHOOLS/ PROGRAMS Note: These numbers are based upon most recent available published information or educated estimates. They are not to be relied upon as admissions guarantees or standards.

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Queens

85

1100 (24)

Brooklyn

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1000 (20)

Touro/Landers

85

1100 (24)

YU

85

1100 (24)

Macaulay Honors

95

1300-1400 (30-32)

Honors Programs at Queens/Landers/YU

90-95

1250-1400 (28-32)

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95

1400 (32)

Thus a student who has a GPA in the mid-80s and is struggling to break a 1000 on the SAT should push themselves to score an 1100 as that is the magic number for many institutions. Similarly, a student with a good GPA and strong early results on the SAT or ACT should push themselves to hit the next tier and potentially open up more doors.

STEP 3 (OCTOBER OF 12TH GRADE): IDENTIFY THE APPLICATION REQUIREMENTS/ DEADLINES Schools can vary widely in what they require on applications and what the deadlines are to submit applications. For example, all the City University of New York (CUNY) schools can be applied to within the CUNY online portal.

Many of those CUNY schools (such as Queens and Brooklyn) base their acceptance decisions almost entirely on GPA and SAT/ACT scores, to the point that they do not require personal statements or letters of recommendation.

At the other end of the spectrum, honors programs and certainly Ivy League schools take a more holistic approach to winnowing down the stacks of applications: they are looking for well-rounded, bright students. The GPA and SAT/ACT are important gatekeepers, but the student’s personal statement, letters of recommendation, and even a résumé (for some schools) play an equally vital role. It is these students who have to be mindful of maximizing their community service and extracurricular activities to stand out from the crowd of smart, qualified applicants.

In terms of deadlines, honors programs, scholarships, and early decision options usually have early deadlines like December 1st. Students who are in the running for such programs need to have everything lined up early in 12th grade so that the applications are submitted in time. Most other schools and regular programs have deadlines in the February 1st range or later.

STEP 4 (NOVEMBER): CREATE YOUR ONLINE ACCOUNTS AND BEGIN WITH THE BASICS Nearly all schools have their applications online. It is important to make an account and input all of the basic information while also seeing what else is required within the account before submitting a complete application. For many CUNY schools and other colleges, the basic information may be all that is required.

STEP 5 (NOVEMBER FOR HONORS PROGRAMS, LATER FOR SOME SCHOOLS): PERSONAL STATEMENTS AND LETTERS OF RECOMMENDATION For schools that require personal statements and letters of recommendation, students need to put effort into composing and perfecting an articulate, narrative-based personal statement that shows the student’s strengths and interests, rather than tells them. That is the key in standing out from the slew of essays that each school’s admissions office is receiving and reading. As for letters of recommendation, care should be taken to find a current teacher who likes the student and will write a personal and positive letter. Students also need to submit those requests to the teacher early so that the teacher has sufficient time to write and submit the letter.

STEP 6 (BEFORE EACH SCHOOL’S DEADLINE): REVIEW AND SUBMIT Once you have completed all aspects of the application, review it and submit it. Be sure as well to request transcripts from the high school and to send SAT/ACT scores from the student’s account. After the application is submitted, don’t be afraid to reach out to the admissions department of each school over the next few weeks to ensure that the full application has been received and to determine the status of your application.

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STEP 7 (WITHIN THE NEXT FEW WEEKS): RECEIVE ACCEPTANCE LETTERS Finally, the fun part! Hopefully several acceptance letters come and you have options. Carefully read the details to determine the next step in terms of fees, deadlines and paperwork for the school that you choose.

STEP 8 (BEFORE THE REGISTRATION DEADLINE): CHOOSE A SCHOOL/DEFER TO GO TO ISRAEL The next step after receiving multiple acceptance letters (hopefully) is to decide which school to register for. For students who are planning to attend yeshiva or seminary in Israel, reach out to the school of your choice and make sure you are aware of their deferral policies (both the deadlines to submit your deferral and the number of years that they allow you to defer for). Consider an Israel Option Program if applicable for the financial aid and college credit benefits. Then make your final decision!

STEP 9 (FALL OF ____): BEGIN COLLEGE

Chaim Homnick is the College Advisor at Mesivta Ateres Yaakov of Lawrence and also teaches 5 periods of Honors/AP English Literature. Chaim is the owner of Five Towns Tutoring (fivetownstutoring.com) as well as Machane Miami Day Camp of Florida (machanemiami.com). He scored in the 99th percentile on the SAT and the LSAT and tutors both extensively. He has a Masters Degree in Educational Leadership and Administration as well as an MBA. For questions, comments, or tutoring, he can be reached directly at chomnick@gmail.com.

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Use Your Words

By Allan Rolnick, CPA

N

o matter who we voted for, we can all agree that this has been the nastiest presidential election since Thomas Jefferson called John Adams a few chosen words.

Last week it finally (finally!) came to an end. Whether you’re elated or nauseated by the results, there’s probably one emotion you share with most Americans right now: relief that the campaign is over. You’ve taken a long hot shower, and you got to enjoy your Sunday afternoon football with no political ads.

Now it’s time for everyone to make nice. Donald Trump began his victory speech by graciously praising his rival Hillary Clinton: “Hillary has worked very long and very hard over a long period of time, and we owe her a major debt of gratitude for her service to our country.” Hillary returned the favor the next day, telling her supporters we owe Trump an open mind and a chance to lead.

Outgoing President Barack Obama stated we are all on

the same team and we are all rooting for his success.

As the Beatles once sang, it seems that “all you need is love.” Unfortunately, not everyone seems to agree. We’re talking, of course, about the romantics at the Internal Revenue Service.

be one of those stories involving rich people with billions of dollars or rich corporations with trillions of dollars.

Joseph told the church’s board of directors that he didn’t want an actual, taxable salary for his work.

However, he said, he would

deductible contributions to the church. But they omitted the $4,815 the church had paid to them. Naturally, with 1099 in hand, the IRS objected, and everyone wound up in court.

Last month, Special Judge Daniel Guy issued his opinion in Jackson v.

By “misguided,” of course, what he really meant was “ridiculous” — you just don’t get to say that when you’re a Tax Court judge.

Our story this week starts with Joseph L. Jackson and his wife Sylvia.

Joseph is the pastor at Triumph Church of God, a tiny Florida congregation with just 25 to 30 regular members. His wife sat on the board of directors. Together, the Jacksons managed the church’s checking account and appeared to sign all checks jointly. As you can imagine, this won’t

be perfectly delighted to receive “love offerings,” gifts, or loans from the church.

In 2012, the couple signed $4,815 worth of checks payable to Mr. Jackson, with “love offering” or “love gift” marked on the memo line.

At the end of the year, the church issued Jackson a 1099-MISC for the income. Next year, when the Jacksons filed their return, they reported $6,478 in

Commissioner. No one objected to the deduction for the Jacksons’ gift to the church. But the love gifts were a different matter, and Judge Guy took just four sentences to conclude that Jackson’s “subjective characterization of the payments as nontaxable ‘love offerings’ and ‘love gifts’ is misguided.” (By “misguided,” of course, what he really meant was “ridiculous” —

you just don’t get to say that when you’re a Tax Court judge.)

When your kids were little and they got flustered, you might have looked down at them and said, “Use your words!” The same advice is true here. It’s a common misperception that taxes and tax planning are all about numbers. But really, they’re about the words we use. Can we legitimately interpret words to characterize money we receive as “nontaxable”? Can we interpret them to characterize money we spend as “deductible”? Merely calling something “nontaxable” or “deductible” isn’t enough. Make sure you use your words to pay less.

We’re pretty sure you’ll love the results!

Allan J Rolnick is a CPA who has been in practice for over 30 yea rs in Queens, NY. He welcomes your comments and can be reached at 718-8968715 or at allanjrcpa@aol. com.

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It’s Awfully Quiet in Here!

By Rivki D. Rosenwald Esq., CLC, SDS

H

ave you ever been that person on the plane?

You know, the one uncomfortably squished next to someone you didn’t know. Have you ever walked into an elevator followed by one other person and then had the door shut? And suddenly it was just you and a stranger. Awkward silence? Yes, these are potentially awkward silence situations.

Being in the kitchen with a child who just doesn’t want to answer your questions or schmooze with you, no, that’s not necessarily an awkward silence. That’s possibly a silent bonding moment!

Togetherness doesn’t always need words. Look at this past week’s parsha, Vayeira. G-d just appeared to Abraham. No words. Just company.

Isn’t it funny; sometimes you see a couple sitting together and not talking. It could be in a restaurant or even in their own living room or kitchen. Sure, there are times they are totally at peace with the silence, just glad to be together. But I’m talking about those other times you kind of figure they should be making a little more effort to interact, but they don’t. Then you see that same couple with their kid. They are almost interrogating them for information. I mean, the kid just doesn’t seem to want to talk, but the parent

seems to feel it’s necessary to keep at it in order to nurture the connection.

Might it be it be kind of good to switch it up? You know, maybe the parents could put the energy into connecting with each other and just be OK with the kid just sitting quietly. Sure, I know we’d all like our kids to look up from their phone, Xbox, computer, or whatever has got

Parents panic that if their child is not relating verbally that they are not relating. They are disapproving of the non-communication. But there could be a different way to look at things.

Let’s take a situation and look at it.

A guy comes home after a day at work. A wife happened to be the first

Letting them know “I’m OK with you not talking” is the connection that you can make.

their attention and notice we are accepting their silence. And absolutely, sometimes you need to discuss and set boundaries on the use of these objects. But there is that stage where a kid just doesn’t want to talk. And letting them know “I’m OK with you not talking” is the connection that you can make.

Silence is situation specific.

There’s one saying that says, “Silence is golden.” There’s another that states, “Shteeka kihoda’ah,” silence implies approval.

home. So she’s been home with the kids already an hour or two. She’s kind of had her own exhausting day.

He walks through the door and she has already had it. She launches a barrage of complaints. He turns and walks away. She shouts after him, “Oh, sure you just don’t want to communicate.”

But has he communicated?

I think he has, loud and clear.

He has clearly communicated that I don’t want to interact in this way. He has communicated with silence.

Way before technology shut kids up, there were those times, and especially as they hit teen years, that kids just didn’t want to talk. They could be communicating: “I need some independence,” or “I need to be allowed my private thoughts.” They could be testing, “Can you accept me even if I am not exactly how or who you want me to be?”

So you could kind of surprise them and let them be. And then when you catch their attention, just say something as simple as, “It’s nice having you around!” Accepting that silence, embracing their company, their presence might be a first step to letting them know, “I accept you and like just being with you.”

And in the meantime, all that great conversation you have bottled up you can be utilized to find out how your mate’s day was, who he or she hung out with, what interesting facts they learned, what they want for dinner… Who knows? Once you model all that communication with words maybe your kid might even have something to add!

Rivki Rosenwald is a certified relationship counselor, and career and life coach.

She can be contacted at 917-705-2004 or rivki@rosenwalds.com

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