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s they head to the bus stop for the last day of the year I breathe a sigh of relief. They did it! We did it! They graduated from one more year of school – and they did a great job. They worked on homework each night and studied for tests; they caught the bus most mornings and made new friends. Baruch Hashem, what a wonderful year.

And now they look forward to a much needed break. Enter summer. It’s a season of more relaxed bedtimes and later wakeups. Kids are more relaxed; they spend more time outdoors. There are more ices breaks and cut up watermelon for snack. Barbecues are the perfect dinner on many nights, and bathing suits are worn daily. And there’s always time for water fights and bike rides to the beach.

Growing up, summer was always my favorite season. Now, when I see kids heading off to camp I am envious of their summer freedom. How I wish – in some ways – I can turn back the clock and I can be spending my days at the pool eating popsicles and playing tag with friends. The freedom kids feel is palpable; I wish there was some way we can bottle it and sprinkle it around the neighborhood throughout the year so we can all taste its sweetness.

Truthfully, I feel the summer serenity too during these months, albeit on a smaller scale.

Although I am still at my desk working the same hours as I usually do during the year the sunshine streams into my room as I write this note.

And when I’m finished with my work, on some days the sun has not yet set. (Yes, I keep really late hours.) There’s an added spring to my step as I water my plants in the morning and greet the

day. And there’s a morning or two that I can bike on the boardwalk or do laps in the pool.

This week’s issue is dedicated to summer safety. There are some tips in this issue that you are probably very familiar with. And then there are other tips that perhaps you would never have thought of on your own or are good to be reminded of once in a while. Before the summer starts take a few moments to look through what we put together for this issue. It’s possible that one thing will stick in your mind and when the situation arises you’ll be a bit more prepared.

Years ago, when I worked as a head lifeguard in a girls’ sleepaway camp I never realized that I went through the summer holding my breath.

I was responsible for the safety of over a thousand girls and I tried to impress that responsibility onto my lifeguards. We had a great time at the pool during those two months of camp but then, on the last day, when all our equipment was packed up and the gate was locked for the final time I breathed a sigh of relief. Baruch Hashem our summer went – pardon the pun – swimmingly, and there were no incidents on my watch.

Summer can be mounds of fun – but we need to always be on our guard.

In preparing this issue we also spoke to two professionals who have worked with the community on preventing abuse and alerting our children to the dangers of certain situations. The article is crucial for every parent – whether their child is going away to sleepaway camp or is staying home.

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Contents LETTERS TO THE EDITOR

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Readers’ Poll COMMUNITY Community Happenings

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National

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World Builders

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PARSHA Rabbi Wein

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Your Wellspring Shall Spread Forth by Rav Moshe Weinberger

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HEALTH & FITNESS Summer Fun, Safety First

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A Candid Conversation about Preventing Abuse in Camp by Susan Schwamm 83 The “Light”er Side of Dermatology by Rachel Bernstein, RPA-C

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Dear Editor, The way your paper describes that arrogant, ignorant, sleazy and narcissistic president of ours, you would think Moshiach has arrived.

Many of us are repulsed by his antics. And yet, your paper is full of sheer hatred for our previous president, with words and cartoons. Have you forgotten that for a full 8 years, Obama provided Israel with the most sophisticated weapons that it can now use on Iran? Where is the slightest hakoras hatov (gratitude) to that man? The best way to describe our revulsion to your attitude is an old Yiddish expression: Feh! Yours truly, Charles Tal Fresh Meadows, NY Dear Editor, By the time these words appear, the election for Lawrence mayor, pitting incumbent Alex Edelman against Deputy Mayor Michael Fragin, will have been decided. Congratulations to the winner in a contest that appears to have enabled a choice between two talented candidates.

What concerns me is the premise that threatened to mar the election’s integrity, a premise that must be challenged lest it infest future races.

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sons are entitled to run unopposed for Lawrence mayor. This notion is anathema to the very concept of a free election.

The position of Lawrence mayor, while unpaid, is not an entitlement, gained simply because one is wealthy or well-connected. As with any elected position in our democracy, the ascension to this office is predicated upon winning support among a majority of voters. By definition, anyone who is a citizen of Lawrence has every right to vie for the position of mayor. Becoming mayor should not merely be a feather in one’s cap.

There are countries where election results are predetermined, but Americans look askance upon the governmental systems of those countries. We call them “dictatorships.”

Avi Goldstein Far Rockaway, NY Dear Editor, Today was a tough day for me at work. In between supper and putting the kids to bed I sat down on the couch and breathed a sigh. I took out a book and started to read. And I realized that I was “self-soothing.”

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after reading Dr. Deb’s article over the weekend, “The Line Between Addictions and Self-Soothing.” It was a welcome eye-opener, to learn this about myself.

In the future I am going to look out for other ways I “self-soothe” as I feel that it’s nice to constantly keep on learning new things about myself, even at my age.

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Yochanan Weider Dear Editor, Kudos to The Jewish Home for a wonderful issue on the upcoming Lawrence elections. You provided fair and impartial coverage to both candidates and wisely stayed out of any negative issues. You are certainly continuing your mission of providing your readership with a wonderful paper for the Five Towns.

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Tons of Taxes for Thai King

Billions of dollars’ worth of assets held by the Thai Crown have been transferred directly to Thai King Maha Vajiralongkorn Bodindradebayavarangkun, a move that will vastly increase his personal wealth and tax liability.

The move is not a surprise. It was due to happen after the Crown Property Act was repealed last year, but it was only formally revealed over the weekend.

The Crown Property Bureau (CPB), the office in charge of the Crown’s holdings before the repeal of the Crown Property Act, posted on its website over the weekend that millions of shares of two companies – The Siam Cement Public Company and The Siam Commercial Bank Public Company – had been formally transferred from the CPB to the King.

The shares are worth more than $7 billion, according to the stocks’ prices when markets closed on Friday.

The Crown Property Act, passed in 1936, reorganized the Thai royal family’s assets into separate categorizes for royal assets. Repealing the act meant that the Crown’s and the King’s personal holdings would be placed into a single category to be administered by King Vajiralongkorn.

The transfer of funds will mean a change in the taxes for the king.

The assets will also be subject to “the same duties and taxation as would assets belonging to any other citizens,” the palace said in a note accompanying the news release. It also said the funds and assets would be managed in a manner that is “transparent and open to scrutiny.”

Besides the millions of shares of the two companies, it’s unclear exactly how much money is at stake, but the Thai royal family is believed to be one of the wealthiest royal families in the world, if not the most.

Forbes estimated the Crown’s holdings to be worth more than $30 billion in 2012. To put that into perspective, Queen Elizabeth II is believed to be worth nearly $500 million, according to the Sunday Times’ rich list. The $30 billion net worth has been disputed by the Thai embassy in Washington. It said the magazine’s calculations lacked clear methodology and explanation. It also said the CPB’s assets are “held in trust for the nation” and were not part of the then-King Bhumibol Adulyadej’s personal fortune.

Maha Vajiralongkorn Bodindradebayavarangkun assumed the throne in December 2016, becoming King Rama X. He is the tenth member of the Chakri dynasty, which has ruled Thailand since Rama I took the throne in 1782.

Intrepid Journalist Killed in India

An Indian journalist based out of Kashmir was shot to death while covering the war-afflicted region.

Shujaat Bukhari was on his way out of his office in Srinagar when three gunmen on motorcycles shot the 50-year-old and two of his bodyguards. The bodyguards were also killed in the melee.

Bukhari had long been working on bringing stability and peace to the mountainous, war-ravaged state.

This marks the first time in ten years that a journalist has been killed in Kashmir. “He’s a true martyr to the cause of courageous journalism,” said Shekhar Gupta, a prominent Indian journalist. State lawmaker Mohammad Yousuf Tarigami said that

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the attack was “very meticulous, well planned, targeted.”

Though the police have released video footage of the shooters, no one has been able, or willing, to identify the murderers and no active militant group has claimed responsibility.

Tarigami said Bukhari was targeted because he is one of the region’s most recognizable reporters. “They want to send a message,” he said.

“There will be a demoralizing effect on the journalist community.”

Hindu-majority India and Muslim-majority Pakistan both claim parts of the Himalayan territory to be their own. In the past three decades of fighting over the region, tens of thousands of people have been killed and injured. In the last couple of years, the conflict has worsened.

Justice for Stolen Dreams A woman in Canada has been ordered by a judge to pay $350,000 to her former boyfriend after it was found out that she stole his opportu-

nities for furthering his musical education and career.

Eric Abramovitz was among the best clarinetists in Canada, having studied under some of the country’s best teachers since the age of seven.

He won many awards in his young career, including the first prize at the Canadian Music Competition six times. In 2013, he applied for a full two-year scholarship to complete his bachelor’s degree at Colburn Conservatory of Music in Los Angeles. The students at Colburn all receive a full scholarship and money towards an apartment and meals, which is worth around $50,000 a year.

If he was to be accepted into the program, he would have had the invaluable opportunity to study under Yehuda Gilad, one of the best clarinet teachers in the world. Gilad only takes on two students a year, and getting the position guarantees a high-paying symphony career after graduation. In February 2014, Abramovitz flew to LA and auditioned before Gilad. He was accepted a month later in an email from Colburn.

But Abramovitz never received the acceptance email. His girlfriend

at the time, fellow McGill music student, Jennifer Lee, intercepted his email and deleted it. She then sent Abramovitz a fake email telling him he had not been accepted to the program and answered Gilad for Abramovitz, saying that he would be declining the scholarship he was offered.

After completing his studies at McGill, Abramovitz did a two-year certificate program at USC, not on scholarship, where he got to study part-time under Gilad. Two years later, he learned of the deception and sued his ex-girlfriend for $300,000 in general damages, including loss of two years’ income, loss of reputation, and loss of educational opportunity.

Ontario Superior Court judge David

L. Corbett ruled in his favor, and added $50,000 “against Ms. Lee for her despicable interference in Mr. Abramovitz’s career.”

“I accept and find that Mr. Abramovitz lost a unique and prestigious educational opportunity, one that would have advanced his career as a professional clarinetist,” Corbett wrote. “It is difficult to quantify such a loss. Mr. Abramovitz’s life and career have continued. Imagining how his life would have been different if he had studied for two years under Mr. Gilad and earned his teacher’s respect and support requires more speculation than the law permits.

One hears … of the ‘big breaks’ that can launch a promising artist to a stratospheric career. I cannot speculate as to how high and how quickly Mr. Abramovitz’s career might have soared, but for the interference by Ms. Lee. But the law does recognize that the loss of a chance is a very real and compensable loss.”

Abramovitz, despite the stolen opportunity, has earned a spot on the Nashville Symphony Orchestra.

The 24-year-old was also appointed associate principal clarinet of the Toronto Symphony Orchestra.

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Journalists in the Czech Republic were stunned to see the president of their country setting fire to a huge pair of red underwear last week. Milos Zeman, 73, put on the demonstration without offering any explanation. When reporters arrived, the president did not acknowledge them until the 3-foot high pair of men’s boxers was already in flames.

According to a local radio station, the demonstration was meant to symbolize the “time to end the era of dirty laundry in politics.” Zeman himself did not offer much in way of explanation. He told the press corps: “I’m sorry to make you look like little idiots, you really don’t deserve.” Sounds like he was making things a bit brief in the explanation department.

Artist collective Ztohoven, who made the underwear, once flew them above the Czech presidential palace instead of the national flag in 2015.

The raising of the shorts was done in order to call attention to the country’s closeness to China and Russia.

The president reportedly purchased the same pair from the state property office for one Czech crown.

This is hardly the first time that the Czech president found himself at the center of controversy. In May 2017, he remarked to Russian President Vladimir Putin that “journalists should be liquidated,” although he later claimed it was a joke.

U.S. & China: A Trade War? The White House said on Monday that if China goes through with its promise to retaliate against the U.S. tariffs announced last week, the United States will impose tariffs on

an additional $200 billion worth of Chinese goods.

“Further action must be taken to encourage China to change its unfair practices, open its market to United States goods, and accept a more balanced trade relationship with the United States,” President Donald Trump said in a statement.

The Trump administration said on Friday that it will impose a 25% tariff on $50 billion of Chinese exports. China, claiming the United States had “launched a trade war,” retaliated almost immediately, outlining its own tariffs on U.S. goods worth $50 billion.

The escalating conflict between the world’s two largest economies has rattled markets and companies, which fear disruption to their global supply chains. “The tit for tat brings the two sides closer to a full-blown trade war,” Louis Kuijs, head of Asian economics at research firm Oxford Economics, wrote in a note to clients.

“While there is in principle still room for negotiation, attitudes seem to be hardening.”

The Trump tariffs, which the U.S. government says are punishment for intellectual property theft, will be enacted in two waves. More than 800 exports, about $34 billion worth, will be subject to tariffs starting July 6.

Another 280 or so still need to undergo a public comment period, and will take effect later.

Trump said on Monday that China’s response “indicates its determination to keep the United States at a permanent and unfair disadvantage.”

China’s tariffs would target agricultural products, cars and seafood, among other items.

“China apparently has no intention of changing its unfair practices related to the acquisition of American intellectual property and technology,” the president said. “Rather than altering those practices, it is now threatening United States companies, workers, and farmers who have done nothing wrong.”

He directed Trade Representative Robert Lighthizer to identify $200 billion worth of Chinese goods for additional 10% tariffs, which would be

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enacted “if China refuses to change its practices, and also if it insists on going forward with the new tariffs that it has recently announced.”

But China immediately said it would strike back. “If the United States loses its senses and comes up with a new list, China will be forced to strike back hard, and launch comprehensive measures that match the U.S. move in quantity and quality,” the Chinese Commerce Ministry said in a statement on Tuesday.

Beijing faces challenges in retaliating directly: China ships far more goods to the United States ($505 billion last year, according to U.S. figures) than come back in the opposite direction ($130 billion). To respond to Trump’s threat to impose tariffs on as much as $250 billion worth of Chinese goods, Beijing would have to find other ways to respond.

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This week, Nguyen publicly said on state television that he regretted breaking the law and that he will not join such protests again.

“I regret that I caused trouble for people heading to the airport,” Mr. Nguyen said in Vietnamese in the televised statement. “I blocked traffic

and caused trouble to my family and friends. I will not join any anti-state activities anymore.”

The Vietnamese authorities are known to coerce detainees into making such public confessions. The country, which has been governed by the Communist Party since the end of the Vietnam War in 1975, has a long history of suppressing free speech and punishing critics with long prison sentences.

In recent weeks, the country has seen numerous protests over the government’s plan to create special economic zones that would allow Chinese investors to lease land for 99 years. Many Vietnamese regard China, their northern neighbor, as an enemy and oppose what they see as a Chinese land grab facilitated by the government. The two countries fought a brief border war in 1979.

Anti-Chinese protests erupted in Vietnam in 2014 and resulted in the looting and burning of more than 200 foreign-owned factories.

Nguyen, a Houston native who graduated from Yale, is fluent in Vietnamese and Mandarin and has traveled frequently to Vietnam. His family has called on the Trump administration to intervene on his behalf and set

up a Twitter account to advocate his release. They fear that his case could drag on for months as the authorities investigate him for “disturbing the social order.”

Three Democratic members of Congress from California, Alan Lowenthal, Jimmy Gomez and Lou Correa, have urged the Vietnamese government to free Nguyen. They also called on President Trump to help secure his release.

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The pricey collection comes at an inopportune time, as Macron and his government appear to be preparing voters for benefit cuts. In a video released by his team on social media last week, Macron – who campaigned on a pledge to cut spending – assails social spending in particularly blunt language.

“Our social policy, look at it: we spend a crazy amount of dough on social security and the people are poor. They’re born poor and they stay poor. Those who become poor, stay poor,” he said.

The comments are not likely to help him shake off the label of “president of the rich,” which has stuck since he pushed through changes to labor laws last year making it easier for firms to dismiss employees.

Although Macron is by far not the richest leader of the free world’s major world players, between 2009 and 2014, Macron declared pre-tax revenue totaling 3.3 million euros, according to filings with France’s government transparency authority. This was the fruits of his time as a partner at Rothschild investment bank, where among other things he helped close a deal in which Nestle paid $11.8 billion for Pfizer’s baby food business.

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porcelain tableware worth half a million euros. Aside for the mind-blowing money spent on dishes, Macron’s purchase came just days after complaining about the “crazy amounts of dough” spent on social security. Gulp.

We think he probably wants to eat his words now.

The culture ministry allocated some 50,000 euros ($58,000) to pay around 30 artists chosen to submit proposals for the new “Elysee Blue” bone china collection. According to

Le Canard Enchaine, a single, unadorned plate sells for 400 euros.

A set of 1,200 pieces of tableware would set the French government back at least 500,000 euros.

The winner of the contest was French visual artist Evariste Richer, who will design the pieces produced by the prestigious Sevres porcelain factory, a state-owned company founded under the reign of Louis XV to produce royal china.

The presidency on Thursday de-

fended the order, saying a modern table service was needed for large state dinners and other gatherings, which can include up to 300 guests, because the existing collection dates from the 1950s. Surely guests cannot eat off plates from that era!

It also said the cost of the new collection, to be delivered over three years, would be covered by the annual subsidies to the Sevres factory, which are expected to reach about 4.5 million euros this year.

The leader of the Taliban in Pakistan has been killed by a U.S. drone strike. Mullah Fazlullah, the elusive terrorist who ordered the assassination attempt on Nobel Peace Prize winner Malala Yousafzai, was killed along with two other militants in their car in the eastern Afghanistan province of Kunar. Their driver was also killed in the strike.

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ist organization” in the region, but did not confirm it was the Taliban leader. The Taliban has not commented on the attack.

Fazlullah had the blood of many innocent people on his hands. He is believed to have been behind the 2014 attack on a Peshawar school which left more than 130 children dead. He also spent many years ordering his men to kill anyone who disagreed with his Islamic extremist views in Pakistan’s Swat Valley.

the Republic of North Macedonia.

“This is our own rendezvous with history,” the Greek prime minister, Alexis Tsipras, told officials gathered under a giant marquee pitched at the edge of Lake Prespa, where the borders of Greece, Macedonia and Albania meet.

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This week, a debate that has raged for almost three decades was put to rest when both Greece and Macedonia signed an accord formally heralding in a new era of peace.

On the banks of a lake the prime ministers of the neighboring states declared that the bitter dispute over Macedonia’s name was finally over – despite scattered protests on both sides of the frontier.

Once ratified, the pact will see the small Balkan nation being renamed

“We are here to heal the wounds of time,” he asserted, adding that for too long the Balkans had suffered from “the poison of chauvinism and the divisions of nationalist hatred.”

Macedonian Prime Minister Zoran Zaev arrived at the ceremony by speedboat. He called on critics of the agreement, which was announced five days ago, “to step out of the past and look to the future.”

peared to have been relegated to the past. Taking the podium after adding his own signature to the accord, Matthew Nimetz, the UN special envoy who has mediated negotiations since the early 1990s, spoke of the “political courage” required to arrive at this point. The EU foreign affairs chief Federica Mogherini and EU enlargement commissioner Johannes Hahn, who were present for the signing, spoke glowingly of the signing as a rare moment of success for Europe.

The pact opens the way to Macedonia joining NATO and beginning EU accession talks. Previous such moves have been blocked by Athens and triggered growing western security concerns in a region that has become increasingly susceptible to Russian influence. By agreeing to rename itself the Republic of North Macedonia the country will replace an interim accord under which it joined the UN 23 years ago as the Former Yugoslav Republic of Macedonia.

The Lake Prespa accord erases the last trace of the old Yugoslavia.

With the adoption of its new name, Macedonia will not only assume a new title, it will ultimately change the map of Europe.

“Our peoples want peace … We will be partners and allies,” said Zaev, who must have the pact passed by parliament and endorsed by a referendum before it is accepted by Greece. “We are proud of today’s agreement … May we stay as forever united as we are on this day.”

From the moment its neighbor proclaimed independence as the Republic of Macedonia following the collapse of Yugoslavia in 1991, Greece has believed its chosen name and symbols conveyed ill-disguised territorial claims against its own province of Macedonia. Maps depicting the landlocked state’s borders extending to the strategic port city of Thessaloniki, Greek Macedonia’s capital, have helped stoke fears. So, too, has the appropriation of ancient Greek figures. The erection of a gargantuan statue of the warrior king Alexander the Great in Skopje’s central square fueled further claims of cultural theft.

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Spain Accepts Migrants Turned Away from Italy Hundreds of migrants were stranded for days after being denied entry by Italy. After a week-long torturous journey, the group was finally rescued at sea and landed in the port of Valencia, Spain. The Aquarius, a rescue ship carrying 106 migrants, docked shortly before 11AM last Sunday. The Aquarius wasn’t the only immigrant ship to arrive in Italy that day; it entered four hours after the arrival of 274 other migrants on board the Dattilo, an Italian Navy vessel.

Italy’s new populist government had followed through on anti-immigration campaign promises and refused to allow the Aquarius to dock at an Italian port. Italy’s interior minister and the leader of the anti-immigrant League, Matteo Salvini, had argued that “an army of fake refugees” had long exploited what he called the country’s lax rules.

The Aquarius originally picked up about 630 migrants — including pregnant women and children — from the Mediterranean Sea off Libya and was left stranded by Italy in unsafe conditions. Italy allowed emergency services to board the Aquarius to check on the passengers.

The Italian government also sent two navy ships to escort the Aquarius to Spain and to help transport the migrants in order to reduce overcrowding. Italy’s decision was highly criticized by many other nations and humanitarian groups.

The Aquarius is operated by two European humanitarian groups, SOS Méditerranée and Doctors Without Borders. David Noguera, the president of the Spanish branch of Doctors Without Borders, said on Sunday that the migrants had completed a journey that was “too long and generates contradictory feelings.” He added, “The blockade of European ports sets a very negative precedent.”

Now the migrants are being granted a temporary special humanitarian permit that allows them to remain in Spain for 45 days. During that time authorities will review their cases and provide medical attention. Spain’s new Socialist Prime Minister Pedro Sánchez said his government’s decision to let the refugees into the country was an “obligation to avoid a human catastro-

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UK: Only 5% of Robberies Solved The most recent forensic numbers out of London show that the city has seen more than 70 murders this year.

For the first time since February, London has had more homicides than New York City.

Murder is not the only problem England is facing. Authorities across the United Kingdom are promising

to do better as new reports show that 95 percent of all robberies and burglaries have not yet been solved. The Metropolitan Police in London say they are exerting a “huge amount of effort” to break the recent streak of crime related mostly to the theft of motor scooters.

Though the exact reasons for the uptick in crime have not been established, an increase in the supply of crack and cocaine has been blamed for the surge.

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Scotland Yard said that its London sanction rates – the way it measures solved cases – is only at 5.5 percent for burglary and 7 percent for robbery. Overall, their numbers are slightly better at 13.2 percent. “Solving crime is a key priority for the Met and we are committed to doing all we can to cut crime, pursue offenders and support victims to make London even safer,” a spokeswoman said.

National police data in the UK show the proportion of suspects who are caught and punished for all crimes has more than halved to 9 percent over the past five years, according to the Sunday Times. The figures also suggested only 4 percent of robberies were solved in England and Wales in 2017, compared with 9 percent in 2013. The burglary detection rate halved from 6 percent to 3 percent in the same period.

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After being found guilty of drug smuggling in 2006, former minister Gonen Segev has long been a source of ridicule, his name usually only brought up in public discourse as a comparison with other loud-mouthed rule-breaking lawmakers. This week, though, his reputation has changed – and Segev has only become more infamous.

On Monday, charges were announced alleging that Segev engaged

in espionage against Israel for arch-foe Iran. If Segev is found guilty of handing information to Iran – as alleged in an indictment revealed by the Shin Bet security agency on Monday – he could face either the death penalty or up to life imprisonment.

Segev, who served as infrastructure and energy minister between 1995-1996, provided Tehran with information about locations of security centers and Israel’s energy industry, the Shin Bet said. As somebody who sat in government meetings and headed ministries dealing with energy and national infrastructure, Segev would have had access to sensitive material during his time as a politician, though it is unclear how damaging the information would have been 20 years later.

The ex-minister is also accused of making contact with Israeli figures in security, defense and diplomacy in order to mine them for information to send to Iran. According to the Shin Bet, he tried to make direct connections between his Israeli contacts and Iranian handlers, presenting the spies as businesspeople.

He is also said to have met with his Iranian handlers in hotels and safe houses around the world and used a special encrypted device to send them messages in secret. He even allegedly traveled to Iran twice in order to divulge security secrets.

After having been extradited to Israel from Equatorial Guinea last month, he was indicted in a Jerusalem court on charges of assisting the enemy in wartime, spying, and a number of other related crimes.

“He’s facing a life sentence or death penalty for the crime of aiding an enemy in a time of a war, and 15 years to life sentence for espionage,” said Nitsana Darshan-Leitner, president of Shurat HaDin – Israel Law Center, a Tel Aviv-based non-governmental organization whose aim is to put terror organizations out of business.

“Giving information is 15 years, giving confidential information is life,” she added.

Some say he can be sentenced with the death penalty. Only one person has ever been put to death after a death sentence by a standing Israeli court: Nazi officer Adolf Eichmann, one of the architects of the Holocaust. (Eichmann was convicted on 15 criminal charges, including crimes against humanity, war crimes, and crimes against the Jewish people, and was sentenced to death on June 1, 1962.) In 1948, the country put to death Meir Tobiansky

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for treason, after a field court martial, the first and only execution of an Israeli.

Segev, who served as a minister between January 1995 and June 1996, seems to be the highest-ranking Israeli official ever charged with being a spy. Even so, he joins a long list of senior officials, including MKs and top army brass, who have been charged with treason through the decades.

Segev has reportedly admitted to Shin Bet investigators that he was in contact with Iranian intelligence officials, but claimed his alleged espionage on behalf of the Islamic Republic was actually an effort to help Israel. The Shin Bet does not believe him. During his interrogation, Segev reportedly told investigators that he had no ideological or financial motive in helping Iran, and that he did not hand over any classified information.

Israel Criticized in UN Doc A document is being circulated

by UN Secretary-General Antonio Guterres that criticizes Israel over

recent violence on the Gaza border.

Defense Minister Avigdor Lieberman is singled out in the document, which has not been made public yet, for making “inflammatory” comments.

The report also warns that Gaza is on the brink of war and blames Hamas for encouraging violent protests.

The document was mandated in December 2016 when the UN Security Council passed Resolution 2334.

It focuses on demanding an immediate stop on all Israeli settlement construction in the West Bank and East Jerusalem. The United States and Israeli diplomats fought to have the report delayed for several months.

Since it was delayed, it now includes UN concerns over the violence at the

Gaza border.

“Israel has a responsibility to exercise maximum restraint in the use of live fire and to not use lethal force, except as a last resort against imminent threat of death or serious injury,” it says. “It must protect its citizens, but it must do so with due respect of international humanitarian law. The killing of children, as well as of clearly identified journalists and medical staffers by security forces, during a demonstration are particularly unacceptable,” the report reads, according to news outlets that got ahold of the document.

Most of those killed at the border were terrorists and many were either carrying out attacks or breaching the security fence.

In an attempt not to look one-sided, the report also criticizes Hamas, which Guterres says has “inflamed and encouraged a highly volatile situation that contributed to violent actions at the fence and risked a serious escalation.” He blames Hamas for delaying the return to normal life in Gaza.

It is not clear when the report, which was delayed for 17 months, will be made public.

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First Pregnancy Trains Women’s Bodies

Israeli researchers have found that a woman’s body learns from its first pregnancy how to deal with complications and adapts itself to try to avoid them in subsequent pregnancies.

The researchers at Hadassah Medical Center and the Hebrew University of Jerusalem led a sixyear study on the role of certain cells during a women’s pregnancy period.

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memory” of the “natural killer” cells that fight viruses and tumors revealed that the cells in charge of helping fetuses implant in the womb and avoid diseases such as preeclampsia or intrauterine growth retardation are more active during a second pregnancy because they remember what happened in the first pregnancy and are thus better trained to do their job the second time around.

“It is a known clinical fact that second pregnancies are more efficient than first,” Prof. Simcha Yagel, the head of the division of Obstetrics and Gynecology at Hadassah Medical Center, said.

Previous research has concluded that fetuses tend to implant better in a second pregnancy, babies are born larger during subsequent pregnancies, and a second pregnancy is less prone to diseases.

“If we know why the second pregnancy is better than the first, then maybe we can do something to help women with high risk first pregnancies — like after in-vitro fertilization or who are older” based on this molecular research, Yagel said.

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an explosive attack in Jerusalem, a bombing in the Itamar settlement and shooting attacks in the Samaria region,” the security service said.

More than 20 suspected members of the Hamas cell were arrested in late April, including its leaders: Mutassem Muhammad Salem, 35, and Fares Kamil Zebidi, 33. “Most of them had a connection to the Hamas organization and some of them had a rich history of terrorist activities, including in the production of explosives and bombs,” the Shin Bet said.

After they were interrogated, security forces found multiple explosive devices, including a 10-kilogram bomb with a cell phone detonator and another 33 pounds of explosives.

“Additional materials for creating an explosive device, weapons, and information storage devices with instructions on the manufacturing of bombs and explosives were also discovered,” the security service said.

Other terrorist cells were discovered through the interrogations. “The discovery of this cell shows the constant desire by the Hamas organization to carry out terror attacks against Israeli targets to disturb the relative calm,” the Shin Bet said.

The arrest of the more than 20 suspected cell members made this one of the largest busts by the Shin Bet in recent years.

Sanctions for Companies Tied to Israeli Businessman A large and extremely active Hamas terror cell has been uncovered

by Israeli forces in Shechem (Nablus).

According to the Shin Bet, the terrorists were allegedly planning a number of bombings and shooting attacks in the West Bank and in greater Israel.

“In recent months, the Shin Bet, Israel Defense Forces, and Israel Police uncovered a Hamas terror cell, extraordinary in its size and level of activity, which operated in the Nablus area,” the Shin Bet said in a statement. “During the suspects’ interrogations by the Shin Bet, it was determined that the cell planned to carry out terrorist bombings in central cities in Israel and the northern West Bank, including a bombing in Tel Aviv, a suicide bombing and

Fourteen companies tied to an Israeli businessman were blacklisted this week by the United States. The companies are accused of profiting from massive resource corruption in Africa.

According to Sigal Mandelker, the U.S. Treasury’s undersecretary for terrorism and financial intelligence, the companies allowed the businessman to conduct business despite him being sanctioned in December. “We are using our tools to change the behavior of those engaged in the looting of natural resources and the humanitarian consequences that follow,” said Sigal. “A financial toll will be imposed on individuals and companies that exploit innocent people and vulnerable jurisdictions for their own personal gain,” he said in a statement.

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sically blocked from access to the global financial system, and any assets under U.S. jurisdiction have been frozen.

The businessman has been accused of using his friendship with Democratic Republic of Congo President Joseph Kabila to get lucrative mineral rights for very cheap and then selling them at huge margins.

According to the State Department, DRC had reportedly lost more than $1.36 billion in state revenues from underpriced mining assets sold to offshore companies tied to the businessman between 2010 and 2012.

DRC is the third-poorest country on earth, according to the Central Intelligence Agency. It has been ravaged by a bloody civil war for many years.

Cell Size Determines Lifespan How long an animal lives can be determined by their cell size.

Recently researchers in Israel, Canada, and Germany have found that animals with larger pancreatic

cells tend to age faster, while those with smaller such cells seem to live longer. They came to this “shockingly beautiful and unexpected” correlation, said Yuval Dor, who studies developmental biology at The Hebrew University’s Hadassah Medical School in Jerusalem, after studying the pancreases of 24 mammalian species, from the smallest, a shrew, to the tallest, a giraffe.

The findings were published on Monday in the journal Developmental Cell.

Previously, scientists had thought that after birth most mammals’ organs, including the pancreas, grow by cell proliferation – meaning the number of cells grows. However, Dor and his colleagues made a chance observation while at work: they needed

a higher magnification to look at pancreatic cells of newborn mice through a microscope than they did to look at those of adults. This suggested that the volume of each cell had substantially grown from infant to adult life.

“This was surprising because the assumption was that post-natally the pancreas grows by increasing the number of cells, just as most organs do,” said Dor. This was not the case in mice, where the cells grew both in number and in size.

So, the researchers then looked at the same cell type in humans. There, they found cell replication — i.e., the number of cells were higher as the individual grew older, but the cells were not larger in size. Thus, humans belong to the group of mammals that have small cells. Scientists used animals at the Jerusalem Biblical Zoo and Kimron Veterinary Institute and examined pancreases from a variety of mammals, from tiny Etruscan shrews to tigers.

By analyzing the data, the scientists found a strong negative correlation between the size of individual pancreatic cells and lifespan. Mammalian species that aged faster had larger cells, whereas species that lived longer had smaller pancreatic cells.

In humans, the cells do not expand in size but in number, and as expected, humans live for a very long time, said Dor. When comparing the pancreas cells of mice and the naked mole rat – two mammals that are more or less of the same physical size – they found that mice, which live just some three years, had large pancreatic cells, whereas the mole rat had small cells. Mole rats live some 30 years, by the way.

Similarly, rats, with large cells, live for around three years, whereas fruit bats, which are also similar in physical size to rats, but have smaller cells, live for some 25 years, he said.

“We don’t understand why this is,” he said. But the finding is “interesting and fun.”

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in 2014. The idea behind the app is to help any soldiers facing abduction to alert authorities with the push of a button. The app, which is called Distress Signal, was released earlier this week.

The GPS-based app notifies three different headquarters when activated: a special operational division in Tel Aviv dedicated to providing rapid response in cases of emergency; the closest division to the soldier’s geographical location; and the soldier’s unit. The soldier will only be tracked after the distress signal is activated so that the soldier’s whereabouts are not being tracked when the user does not wish to be located. Because cellphones are private property, no one is obligated to download or activate the app if they do not want to.

The largest challenge was making sure the app was safe from cyber-attacks. “The app is based on our own database, stored on our servers in Israel and not on the app developer’s servers in the United States,” said an IDF spokesman. “The developer will not have the data to link the identities of the app’s users to soldiers’ real names. As soon as the soldier is dismissed from active duty, his or her information will be erased from the system, making it impossible for him or her to use the app.”

Another major challenge facing the developers of the app was the avoidance of false alarms. The IDF has briefed relevant officers and soldiers on proper response protocols.

In the future, the app may be offered to career army personnel as well as to reservists.

US Withdraws from UN Human Rights Council On Tuesday, the United States announced that it is withdrawing from the UN Human Rights Council, U.S. Ambassador to the UN Nikki Ha-

ley said, branding the global body a “cesspool of political bias.”

“We take this step because our commitment does not allow us to remain a part of a hypocritical and self-serving organization that makes a mockery of human rights,” she said.

The council, she added, has a “chronic bias against Israel.”

Haley said that if the council reforms, the United States “would be happy to rejoin.”

Although the U.S. could have remained a non-voting observer on the council, a U.S. official said it was a “complete withdrawal” and that the United States was resigning its seat “effective immediately.”

U.S. Secretary of State Mike Pompeo, appearing alongside Haley at the State Department, said there was no doubt that the council once had a “noble vision.”

“But today we need to be honest,” Pompeo said. “The Human Rights Council is a poor defender of human rights.”

Haley and Pompeo stressed the decision had been made after a long year of efforts to shame the council into reform and to remove member states that themselves commit abuses. “These reforms were needed in order to make the council a serious advocate for human rights,” Haley said. “For too long, the Human Rights Council has been a protector of human rights abusers, and a cesspool of political bias. Regrettably, it is now clear that our call for reform was not heeded.”

She explained, “We take this step because our commitment does not allow us to remain a part of a hypocritical and self-serving organization that makes a mockery of human rights.”

The Geneva-based body was established in 2006 to promote and protect human rights worldwide, but its pronouncements and reports have often infuriated the U.S. – in particular, the council’s relentless focus on Israeli policies toward the Palestinians. “Since its creation, the council has adopted more resolutions condemning Israel than against the

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The U.S. has also seen its obvious lack of criticism when it comes to countries like Venezuela and Cuba.

Israel’s Prime Minister Benjamin Netanyahu welcomed the U.S. move, branding the council “a biased, hostile, anti-Israel organization that has betrayed its mission of protecting human rights.”

UN Secretary-General Antonio Guterres regretted the U.S. decision, saying, “The UN’s human rights architecture plays a very important role in the promotion and protection of human rights worldwide.”

“The Human Rights Council has long been the foe of those who truly care about human rights around the world,” Israel’s Ambassador to the UN Danny Danon said after Haley spoke. “We thank President Donald Trump, Secretary of State Mike Pompeo and Ambassador Nikki Haley for their leadership, and call on the moral majority at the UN to hold all of its institutions accountable.”

There are 47 countries in the Human Rights Council, elected by the UN’s General Assembly with a specific number of seats allocated for each region of the globe. Members

serve for three-year terms and can serve only two terms in a row. Israel has never been a member state of the Human Rights Council, whose members are elected by the UN General Assembly.

The United States has opted to stay out of the Human Rights Council before. The administration of President George W. Bush decided against seeking membership when the council was created in 2006. The U.S. joined the body only in 2009 under President Barack Obama.

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David Taylor, the company’s general counsel, will step into the CEO role. Balwani left her job at the company in 2016 and Holmes stepped down as CEO last week. If convicted, each of them faces up to 20 years in prison and a fine of $250,000 plus restitution, for each count of wire fraud and each conspiracy conviction.

Theranos rose to fame about six years ago for its finger-pricking technology that would allow labs to perform tests with just a few drops of blood. The startup teamed with Walgreens in 2013 to offers its tests in stores across the nation. However, the giant drugstore chain did not fully validate Theranos’ work and ended up losing over $50 million on the deal, after it was shown that Holmes misrepresented her company’s technology capabilities.

“Holmes and Balwani used advertisements and solicitations to encourage and induce doctors and patients to use Theranos blood testing laboratory services,” prosecutors said in the statement. The pair did so knowing Theranos’ finger prick blood tests could not consistently produce accurate and reliable results.

In 2003, Holmes dropped out of Stanford University to launch Theranos. In 2014 she was named one of the richest women in America by Forbes. At the time, her company was valued at $9 billion and Holmes owned a reported 50% of the startup. In October 2015, the New York Times named Holmes one of its

“Five Visionary Tech Entrepreneurs who are Changing the World.” Since then, her world has fallen. Just last Friday, Holmes and Balwani both surrendered to the FBI and were released on $500,000 bond each.

The Tipping Point

Want to know who are the worst tippers? Stay away from millennials.

That generation, those ages 18 to 37, are stingy when tipping when going out to eat, according a new survey released by CreditCards.com.

According to the data, ten percent of millennials don’t leave a tip for their server. Only three percent of those older than them stiff their waiters after eating a meal.

Why do they hold their credit cards so close to their chests? Matt Schulz, senior industry analyst for CreditCards.com, opines, “People have jobs, but they’re not getting raises, and life is just expensive, especially when you’re carrying student loan debt or other types of debt,” he says. “The other side of it is that we’ve seen a lot of data that shows millennials generally are pretty conservative when it comes to their own money. And that makes plenty of sense because they bear the scars of coming of age during the Great Recession and it makes sense that those memories and those experiences would have a really big impact on what they think and what they do forever.”

In other words, maybe they have an excuse – or maybe they don’t.

Even when they tip, millennials are not the most generous. The average tip they leave is just 15%; the average amongst all those surveyed is 18%.

Folks over the age of 38 tend to be more generous, with just over half of them, or 51%, choosing to leave a 20% tip, while just over one-third of millennials, or 36%, said they usually go with a 20% tip.

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it’s millennials shortchanging others their age.

“At a minimum, it’s troubling because while a lot of people view tipping as just a question of etiquette the truth is that when you don’t tip well, you’re making it harder for that waiter to put food on their own table and that’s a challenge,” Schulz notes.

Millennials also said they would rather pay more for food when dining out instead of leaving a tip. More than one-quarter of millennials, or 27%, said they’d pay more. That number is even higher for the younger millennials, ages 18 to 27, with 30% of them saying they’d pay more for their food and forgo the tip.

Dining out isn’t the only area where millennials are skimping on tips, though. The survey found that 18% of millennials opt not to leave any tip when they’re given pre-entered options whether it’s in a taxi or ride-hailing service or at a food truck or coffee shop, compared to 12% of those who are older. When selecting one of those pre-entered options, 14% of millennials said they pick the lowest one.

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A Justice Department watchdog report released last week Thursday said former FBI Director James Comey mishandled the Hillary Clinton email investigation. It concluded that Comey’s actions were “insubordinate,” although it said there was no evidence of his actions being motivated for political reasons.

In response to the report, current FBI Director Christopher Wray said that the FBI will “hold employees accountable for any potential misconduct.”

“I take this report very seriously and we accept its findings and recommendations,” Wray said. “The report does identify errors of judgment, violations of, or even disregard for, policy and decisions that, at the very least, with the benefit of hindsight were not the best choices.”

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He also attempted to protect Comey by stating, “It’s also important to note what the inspector general did not find. This report did not find any evidence of political bias or improper considerations actually impacting the investigation under review.”

On Monday Sen. Charles Grassley, the chairman of the Senate Judiciary Committee, said that Comey’s

email practices raised “serious questions.” He said that the FBI must be able to access emails sent from Comey’s personal account, which he used to send government emails even while he was leading the investigation into Hillary Clinton for the same breach of protocols. Comey reportedly said that he thought using his personal account to conduct government business was “okay.”

“It is disturbing that FBI employees tasked with investigating Secretary Clinton, including the former director, appear to have engaged in strikingly similar conduct,” Grassley wrote in a letter to Director Wray.

Comey Jr. was the 7th director of the FBI from 2013 until his dismissal in May 2017 under the Trump administration. Wray has been serving as the director since August 2017.

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Let’s Paint – Next Week

Taking care of a house is a lot of work – there’s utility bills to pay, gardening to tend to, clogged drains to unplug, and sidewalks to be shoveled.

A new study shows that many Americans have important home improvement projects that they push off doing. According to a new study, 32% of homeowners have been pushing off at least one home improvement job for 12 months or more. The average American home has nine DIY jobs that desperately need attention, according to research from Porch.com.

The study looked at 2,000 American homeowners’ “to-do lists”

around the home and found that 57% of homeowners feel their home is still a “work in progress.” Only 10% of homeowners felt they were completely on top of their home maintenance tasks. The most commonly neglected job is a fresh coat of paint, with 55% of homeowners agreeing that their homes were in need. The next most frequent item on to-do lists around the world was remodeling a bathroom, at 33%, and installing new carpet, 28%.

Although it seems Americans are neglecting their home improvement projects, the average homeowner has already spent over $9,000 in home repairs and maintenance; one in five homeowners have spent $13,000 or more.

“Homeowners often underestimate the investment needed just to maintain the quality of their home, and if they are not willing to make that investment, it can lead to much larger costs down the road,” said Matt Ehrlichman, CEO of Porch. com, of the study results.

Kudos to the 55% who attempt to tackle home improvement jobs themselves before hiring a professional.

However, the survey found that only 31% of homeowners said their DIY

projects have been successfully completed without major problems. Each week the average homeowner spends at least six hours working on various house projects and maintenance tasks. That doesn’t necessarily mean things are taken care of – 32% admit to not completing projects around the house. In other words, there are many half-painted walls and half-decluttered garages.

The main reason homeowners put off projects is obviously the price tag. Forty-two percent of homeowners admit they’ve postponed a repair or maintenance task because it proved to be too expensive.

The top 10 tasks on America’s todo lists: 1. New paint: 55 percent 2. Bathroom remodel: 30 percent 3. New carpet: 28 percent 4. Landscaping: 27 percent 5. Kitchen remodel: 27 percent 6. Drywall repair: 25 percent 7. Fix/replace door(s): 23 percent 8. Fix/replace window(s): 22 percent 9. Flooring repair: 21 percent 10. Roof repair: 20 percent

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An affirmative action lawsuit against Harvard University is suggesting racial bias against Asian-American applicants being supported by the school’s own internal research.

Harvard’s Office of Institutional Research completed three reports, the first in 2013, clearly showing that Asian-American applicants faced a penalty in the admissions process, according to a filing by the Students for Fair Admissions, a non-profit that is suing Harvard.

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students solely based on academic merit, Asian-Americans would comprise 43% percent of every admitted class. When extracurricular activities and personal ratings are considered, then 26% of each class should be Asian-American. Despite their stellar academics, the percentage of Asian-Americans going to Harvard is just 19%. Although Harvard’s own research generated these numbers, they offered no conclusions or explanations. This past spring, 22% of students admitted were Asian-American.

Edward Blum, leader of Students for Fair Admissions, which is representing a group of Asian-American students, is challenging Harvard for not addressing the unfair discovery.

“Instead of taking even the most minor steps to address this problem, or conducting any further investigation, Harvard killed the investigation and buried the reports,” according to the organization’s court filings.

In response, Harvard has argued that it is legally entitled to ensure a diverse campus and that the reports were preliminary and incomplete. The university instead filed court documents with new research showing that Harvard does not discriminate against Asian-American applicants. The new report, which reviewed six years of admissions data, found that being Asian-American had no material effect on gaining a seat at Harvard, according to court filings. In fact, the admissions rate for Asian-Americans has grown by 29 percent in the past decade, Harvard officials said.

Blum was recently involved in a similar suit that challenged racebased admissions at the University of Texas that involved a white student.

Harvard argues that Blum and the Students for Fair Admissions, having failed to convince the U.S. Supreme Court to overturn the use of race in college admissions in the University of Texas case, are now trying again with Asian-Americans and Harvard.

“Mr. Blum and his organization’s

incomplete and misleading data analysis paint a dangerously inaccurate picture of Harvard College’s whole-person admissions process by omitting critical data and information factors, such as personal essays and teacher recommendations that directly counter his arguments,” said Anna Cowenhoven, a spokeswoman for Harvard.

Harvard accepted 1,962 students for the class of 2022. Each of those students (without financial aid or scholarships) will pay $45,278 for tuition alone. In 2017, Harvard admitted majority non-white students for the first time in its 280-year history. Another interesting fact about the IV league school: it has educated more U.S. presidents than any other university. None of those have been Asian-American.

Why Freight Trains are Getting Longer

Freight train companies have been adding cars over the years.

The newest trains will stretch up to 3 miles long and consist of 200 or more cars. Lengthening trains save on fuel, crews, and reduce the overall cost of rail transportation.

Another benefit of longer trains is that it decreases the volume of trains through communities and improves productivity, says Raquel Espinoza, spokeswoman for Union Pacific Corp. Additionally, fewer trains on the network frees up track space for

other traffic.

“Railroads thrive on economies of scale,” said Christopher Barkan, professor and director of the railroad engineering program at the University of Illinois in Urbana-Champaign, Ill. “Longer trains are the most important advance in achieving economies of scale in the past quarter-century.”

The drive to maximize efficiency and cut costs in the freight train industry was driven by competition from trucking companies and activist investors. An activist investor is a shareholder that uses an equity stake in a corporation to put pressure on its management. The goals of activist shareholders range from financial to non-financial. Activist investors have been pressuring railroad companies to improve operations in order to increase their return.

One company, CSX Corp., reported in April that its average train length increased by 5% in the first quarter from a year earlier, signaling to investors that the railroad is gaining efficiency. Adding cars in not a simple task; it involves a calculated distribution of weight and pulling force. Operating trains are double the length of standard size trains. The longest, heaviest trains may have four locomotives in front, two in the middle and two at the end.

Not everyone is happy with this new development. Some manufacturers and customers are demanding faster, more frequent deliveries of smaller batches of raw materials and goods, and longer trains are counterproductive. Additionally long trains take longer to assemble and disassemble in freight yards and can lead to delays on main lines.

Others are concerned about the safety of long trains. A high-profile accident with a long train last year has caught the attention of regulators. The National Transportation Safety Board said train length, car arrangement and operation are a part of its investigation into the derailment of a 178-car CSX freight on a mountain grade in Hyndman, Pa.,

in August 2017. The Government Accountability Office, the investigative arm of Congress, has launched a study into the safety and other issues related to longer trains.

Many are also apprehensive about the impact on communities, as long trains block multiple crossings for several minutes which can delay emergency vehicles and other motorists, as they take 5 minutes or more to go through a crossing, “I used to think that 100 cars was a long train,” said Norman Schmelz, mayor of Bergenfield, N.J., which is located on a busy CSX freight route. Now, he sees freight trains twice that size. “Waiting for them to pass seems an eternity,’’ he said. “They go on forever.”

The Decline of our IQ

The world has come a long way in many areas like technology, equality, and medicine but a recent study shows that IQ scores have been consistently declining for the past few decades and some say that the reasons can be found in the environment.

Norwegian researchers analyzed the IQ scores of Norwegian men born between 1962 and 1991 and found that scores increased by almost 3% each decade for those born between 1962 to 1975, however, after 1975 they noticed a steady decline.

Other studies in Denmark, Britain, France, the Netherlands, Finland and Estonia have shown a sim-

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ilar trend.

Ole Rogeberg, senior research fellow at the Ragnar Frisch Center for Economic Research in Norway and co-author of the new study, explained, “The causes in IQ increases over time and now the decline is due to environmental factors. It’s not that dumb people are having more kids than smart people... It’s something to do with the environment,” he says, “because we’re seeing the same differences within families.”

Environmental factors that may affect IQ include recent changes in the education system, nutrition, and lifestyle habits. Perhaps because children and adults alike are reading less and spending more time online their brains are suffering, Rogeberg postulated.

The rise in IQ scores in the mid1900s follows the “Flynn effect,” a term for the long-term increase in intelligence levels that occurred during the 21st century, perhaps because of broader access to education.

This new study is shaking up the widely held theory that genes could explain variations in intelligence.

Since intelligence is inheritable researchers assumed that people with high IQ scores would have kids who

also scored above average. In this study, researchers analyzed the IQ scores of brothers who were born in different years and discovered significantly differing IQ scores.

“The main exciting finding isn’t that there was a decline in IQ,” a researcher said. “The interesting thing about this paper is that they were able to show a difference in IQ scores within the same families.”

Robin Morris, a professor of psychology at Kings College in London who was not involved in the research, raises an interesting point.

He questioned if the traditional measure of intelligence, such as the IQ test, is currently the best way to assess intelligence in today’s fastpaced world of constant technological change. “In my view, we need to recognize that as time changes and people are exposed to different intellectual experiences, such as changes in the use of technology, for example, social media, the way intelligence is expressed also changes.

Educational methods need to adapt to such changes,” Morris said.

In other words, it’s possible that our IQ is declining. But then again, maybe we’re just as smart – we just don’t like to take these type of tests.

Candy Kid

This kid is the sweetest child on the block. Renee Cup competed against hundreds of other mothers to win a contest run by Reese’s that showed her devotion to the chocolatey confection.

Renee was a clear standout for her love of the candy bar, naming her daughter Reese E. Cupp. She took home a $10,000 cash prize and beat out others who even had a Reese’s Peanut Butter Cup tattooed on their bodies.

Her husband actually had the idea for the yummy moniker. Their older daughter, Erica, would go around asking for Reese’s Peanut Butter Cups as a child. The couple decided to “take the humor and run with it,” and named their child Reese Eve Cupp – playing off their last name.

“Everyone calls her ‘Rees-ee,’” Cupp said. “It’s our favorite candy for sure. We have it in the house almost all the time. We have the Half Pound Big Cup in our freezer and the Reese’s spread in our pantry.”

Cupp said that although the candy is pronounced Reese-is, she has always called it Reese-ees, and so she kept that while naming her second child.

Thankfully 8-year-old Reese is a fan of the name as well. “She loves her name,” Cupp says. “She always says, ‘Oh, little Reese Cup. I’m a little Reese Cup.’ She loves everything chocolate.”

Thank G-d the contest was not for Snickers.

vette has popped up on eBay after being parked for 45 years in the owner’s garage.

A classic car dealer said it was selling the expensive vehicle after finding it under a pile of junk in a garage a decade ago when he was checking out another car. The firstyear split-window coupe had been purchased new by the owner who has not driven it since 1972. Although it was found years ago, the owner couldn’t part with it until last year.

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The car is equipped with the 300 hp 327 cubic-inch V8 and a 2-speed Powerglide automatic transmission. It was originally silver, but was painted green at the dealership before it was delivered to its first owner. The seller got the engine running again, but says it needs to be refurbished. The rest of the car wears a heavy patina and a fair amount of corrosion, but the bodywork and glass are in good shape and the only real rust issue can be found on one of the B-pillars.

Although it needs a fair amount of work to get there, the Hagerty Price Guide estimates that one of these in perfect condition could be worth over $150,000.

A small price to pay for a bit of nostalgia.

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Unholy Heist

Nenad Jovanovic is not Jewish.

But that didn’t stop him from telling an Italian art gallery owner that he was a “diplomat rabbi.” The non-Jew used the false identity to distract the dealer as accomplices stole paintings worth $30 million. The heist took place near Milan, Italy, a few months ago.

Thankfully, Jovanovic has been arrested, along with three others, since then. The 44-year-old Croatian man called himself “Samuel Abraham Lewy Graham” and said he was an Israeli rabbi and a diplomat in the Israeli Foreign Ministry. He had invited the art gallery owner to a meeting at what Jovanovic said was the Israeli consulate in Milan. He had told the owner that he was interested in buying two paintings.

A few weeks after the initial meeting, Jovanovic suggested that the owner bring the paintings to the Albanian mission in Milan. In reality, he and his accomplices arranged the meeting just a floor below the mission; the unsuspecting gallery owner thought that he was in the Albanian mission. It was there that Jovanovic and his accomplice swapped empty boxes for the ones containing the valuable paintings. The thieves then made their getaway with two paintings: a part of the “Holy Family” series by Peter Paul Rubens and “Girls on the Lawn” by Pierre Auguste Renoir.

The police have yet to find the paintings. They better keep praying.

nese city was pelted with giant hailstones and blocks of ice when a freak storm moved into town. Even more freaky were the other things falling from the sky – shrimp and starfish.

Remarkable images of shrimp and starfish on the windshields of cars were shared by Chinese social media users during the downpour in the eastern city of Qingdao. Some called it “seafood rain” after images

emerged on social media. Huge hailstones, some the size of golf balls, caused extensive damage to buildings and vehicles in the area.

What made the sea creatures fall from the sky? Some say the storm sucked them out from the ocean and then dropped them onto city streets.

Others opine that the sea creatures were swept up from stalls at a nearby market.

Instances of sea life being sucked out of the water during extreme weather conditions and dumped onto land are rare, but not unheard of. At least four such events have been recorded in Mexico, the United States, Sri Lanka and Iran within the past two years.

Sounds like dinner was delivered straight to their door.

Hats off at Waterloo The Battle of Waterloo is perhaps the most famous of all of the battles Napoleon Bonaparte fought. The bloody battle, fought on June 18, 1815, saw Napoleon’s dramatic defeat by the British and effectively ended the Napoleonic wars. Perhaps the French leader would have wanted to forget

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that battle.

After Napoleon fled the battlefield, the hat he wore when he met defeat was collected by Dutch Dragoon captain Baron Arnout Jacques van Zuijlen van Nijevelt. Years later, 203 years later to be precise, the “bicorne” hat has been sold for a whopping $325,000.

The purchaser of the two-corned chapeau is a private European collector who is “passionate” about the period of the First French Empire.

The hat is one of 120 bicorne hats that Napoleon is believed to have worn during his lifetime. Only 19 of the hats are still in existence.

“There were always 12 hats in service, each of them having a life of three years; they were renewed at the rate of four a year,” the auction house, De Baecque, said in a statement. Valets would wear the hats to break them in before they were worn by Napoleon.

Napoleon wore his trademark bicorne hats sideways (as opposed to

with the points at the front and back) so that his troops could recognize him on the battlefield, according to the BBC. Sounds like Napoleon lost that war at the drop of a hat.

lines until he is 25 years old. Valérie Pécresse, president of RATP, took to twitter to deliver her congratulations to the new mom, and wished the baby “a long and happy life.”

This kid is going places.

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Heading to work on Monday morning passengers on a Paris commuter train were stunned when train service was interrupted – for the birth of a baby in one of the cars.

The unexpected delivery happened as the train was pulling into Auber station, located in the center of Paris.

Dozens of emergency personnel rushed to the scene to help the mom and her newborn and to bring them to the hospital.

In response to the excitement, the public transport company RATP later announced that the little boy would be receiving free transportation on its

The Henry Ford Museum received a mysterious phone call on Friday from someone who said they had a clock that once hung in the Michigan Central Station and that it wanted to “go home.” A text message gave details to Ford officials on how to find the lost timepiece.

Ford has plans to renovate the historic property and to turn it into an innovation hub and mixed use development. The clock was stolen from the abandoned Detroit train station years ago.

“I only have the clock. No other material,” the thief said. “I left it leaning against a burned-out building on Lawton. It is between Warren and Buchanan. The building is between the train tracks and 4470 Lawton. Please send two men and a truck immediately. It has been missing for over 20 years and is ready to go home. Thank you so much.”

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The clock was found by two Ford employees right where the note said it was, wrapped in moving blankets and gently leaning against a decrepit building. The thief had advised them to transport it face up because “the paint is very delicate.”

The architectural element was one of many that were from the 1913 building since it ceased operations in 1988. Since the return of the clock the FordLand development company has reached out to the public to request that any other items that were “lost” or stolen since the train station closed down be returned.

The company has yet to determine where exactly the clock once stood.

Despite those details, it’s about time it found its way back home.

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Community Drama for Life! once again amazed their audience last Sunday with their 14th annual production.

Two casts of girls performed in “Peter Pan!” Both the audience and actors were “flying” after the shows, dazzled by the brilliant theatrics, colorful costumes, and the scary crocodile!

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Priority-1 31st Annual Dinner

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riority-1 would like to thank the community for the incredible outpouring of support experienced this past Tuesday at the Priority-1 31st Anniversary Dinner.

With 300+ attendees, the event was an astounding success and highlighted the incredible role that Priority-1 and Yeshiva Zichron Aryeh have in the community.

“In all my years of giving time, money and energy to the yeshiva, I have always felt that I have gained exponentially more then I gave,” Avraham Burger, the Guest of Honor, said.

Bud Shawel, recipient of the Young Leadership Award, related his fourteen-year journey of growth with the yeshiva, starting as a young man in Dallas, Texas, getting into his car and driving to New York to join Yeshivas Zichron Aryeh to now smoking brisket as a community leader in preparation for the shiur he hosts every week. He gave a passionate plea to all attendees to reach out to someone that they’ve had a positive learning experience with in the past, to begin a daily seder for 10-20 minutes. Speaking from personal experience, he guaranteed that the infusion of Torah learning would enhance their lives significantly.

Meir Nitekman, the recipient of the Alumnus of the Year award,

shared his perspective on accepting the role of fundraiser for Priority-1.

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“Hakaras hatov is something one should share publicly,” Meir said.

“I view being honored and helping to fundraise as a small way of giving back for the incredible amount that the Yeshiva has done for me over the previous 20+ years. The Chofetz Chaim says that the purpose of life is not to become the greatest person, it is to become the greatest you can become. That is the mission of Priority-1, to bring out the individual greatness of each person.”

Set in a massive tent on yeshiva

campus and catered by Sharmel Caterers, the dinner featured a short program followed by an inspiring kumzitz led by Yehuda Green.

Additionally, all attendees received an advance copy of Rabbi Shaya Cohen’s new book, “Raising Amazing Children - A Torah Approach to Parenting.”

To receive your own copy, please email info@priority-1.org or call 516-295-5700 x 108.

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Chaverim Car Seat Safety

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n Sunday, June 10, Chaverim of the Five Towns and Rockaways held its second annual Car Seat Safety inspection.

This was done in conjunction with the Kulanu Fair, held in Andrew J Parise Park, and the NY State Police, which had over 1,000 people attending.

We checked many car seats and were pleased to have the following certified inspectors from the NYS Police: SGT James Walters, TPR Upton Walker and TPR Ron Gallo.

While in general over 75% of caregivers feel confident that they know how to use their seats correctly, we found a 91.6% misuse rate among the seats checked – seats that were either installed improperly or being used incorrectly. We are so proud to have been able to give over lifesaving education to all those who participated!

We had over 20 people who came by without cars and took our information to sign up for the next car seat event (stay tuned by following us on social media or see email below).

We would like to thank Bubble Bum for sponsoring three Travel inflatable Car Booster Seat and for Tech613 for sponsoring the car seat for our raffle. The winners of the raffles were: Dovid Pinter, who won the grand prize car seat; and Mr. and Mrs. Shmaryahu Ryback, Mr.

and Mrs. Dan Gettinger, and the Handler family who each won a BubbleBum Travel Inflatable Car Booster Seat.

Dovid Pinter and Menashe Friedman also won the Chaverim Power Bank.

Chaverim would like to thank Deputy Inspector Daniel Gluck, Commanding Officer, and the rest of the Nassau County Auxiliary Police Fourth Unit for their tireless efforts in helping with anything and everything that our community needs. We would like to thank Mayor Ben Weinstock of Cedarhurst, Mayor Alex Edelman of Lawrence, and the Village Administrator of Lawrence, Ronald Goldman, for stopping by and giving us much support.

Chaverim of the Five Towns and Rockaways would like to thank our dedicated members: Avi Bulka, Avrohom Yaakov Ely, Naftoli Feitman, Shlomo Feldman, Aaron Kagan, Efrat Kagan, Shlomo Kaplan, Samuel Kopolovitz and Binaymin Lipsky for stopping by and helping on a very hot day.

A special thanks goes out to our sponsors: Cross River Bank, Tech613, Gourmet Glatt, Luxury Connections, Hotel Rooms.com, Westwood Realty, Miller Realty, FTAds, The Jewish Home, and Five Towns Jewish Times.

Please patronize our sponsors as we couldn’t have done this event without their help.

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MSH junior Eliana Hirsch was awarded the Yeshiva University Book Award for rising seniors who have demonstrated outstanding academic achievement, leadership qualities, community service, and a commitment to the values and ideals of Yeshiva University.

She was presented the award by Menahelet Mrs. Esther Eisenman and Director of College Guidance Mrs. Rena Hirsch.

Rav Yaakov Feitman, guest speaker, welcoming Rav Dovid Feinstein, shlita, to the Five Towns for a fundraiser for the Rosh Yeshiva’s cheder in Eretz Yisrael on June 14 at the home of Mayer and Nurit Berkovitz PHOTO CREDIT: IVAN H NORMAN

Memoir Night… An Evening of Lasting Memories

The Annual Dinner of the Agudath Israel of Bayswater was held at Congregation Kneseth Israel (The White Shul) in Far Rockaway on Wednesday evening. The dinner was held in memory of Rabbi Yehuda Harbater, z”l, and the Otzar Seforim dedication was held in memory of Rabbi Shimon Ludmir, z”l. The guest speaker was Rabbi Yaakov Bender, Rosh HaYeshiva of Yeshiva Darchei Torah in Far Rockaway. Pictured here are Meyer Simcha & Sora Schwartz and Mrs. Shira Harbater & Nissan Harbater.

Rabbi Menachem Feifer, Mara D’asra of Agudath Israel of Bayswater, is pictured with Rabbi Yaakov Bender.

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ressed in their Shabbat best, the budding young authors of Shulamith School for Girls gathered with their parents, grandparents and some great-grandparents on Wednesday evening, June 6 at the Hewlett East Rockaway Jewish Center for the eleventh annual fifth grade Meet the Author Night and Publishing Party. This was a culminating event for the young ladies who began writing their memoirs in December. The students published beautiful scrapbooks that included eight entries they had written about their lives. The girls learned a lot about writing and will surely treasure this keepsake for many years to come.

When our authors were asked to write about their experience writing,

one noted that she liked being able to share her feelings in her scrapbook.

Another author wrote that it was fun to write because “it is all about you and no one else.” She concluded, “Memoirs can show people who you are.” Many authors commented that the best thing about memoirs is that they will “have their scrapbooks for a really long time” and that they will be able “to look back and see what they thought in 5th grade.” As one enthusiastic author concluded, “Memoirs are overall the most fun thing in the world!”

The evening was enjoyed by all those who attended as we shared nachat while celebrating the writing accomplishments of these fine students.

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Singing in the Aisles

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ast Thursday evening, as people were shopping and preparing for the Shabbat, the Five Towns community was treated to a kumzitz led by the talented Joey Newcomb and his musical ensemble whilst enjoying delicious cholent, dips, and kugel at KolSave Market. While this celebration did not take place in a local shul or yeshiva, the atmosphere was spiritual and uplifting. For two hours, the meat department at KolSave Market in Lawrence was transformed into an event space bringing the community together with a sense of camaraderie to enjoy great music and delicious food.

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Last Sunday, June 10, 27 Sivan, the bochurim at Yeshiva of Far Rockaway held their annual siyum at the yeshiva campus. Sixty-five bochurim completed masechta Baba Metzia, fifteen bochurim completed masechta Kiddushin, and six bochurim completed masechta Megillah. The guest speaker was Rabbi Naftali Jaeger, Rosh Yeshiva of Yeshiva Sh’or Yoshuv.

KBH Building Fund Breakfast

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ehillas Bnei Hayeshivos, also known as KBH, was founded in September of 2012, when a small group of men from various main stream yeshivos pioneered beyond the boundaries of where most black hatters were comfortable. It started off as a place to find semi-affordable housing, with hopes of growing into a fullfledged black hat community, where people would come by choice, and not because there were merely no other choices available. What has developed since those days is beyond what any of those first 15-20 families who settled in the North Woodmere community

could have ever imagined.

Kehillas Bnei Hayeshivos is run under the auspices of Rabbi Shmuel Witkin, who dared to move out to North Woodmere before there was even a minyan there. The first minyan was actually held in his basement for a number of years. Since then, the kehilla has boomed. They moved from Rabbi Witkin’s basement to a house they purchased by scraping together contributions. It took mesiras nefesh from the members, but in late 2014, they finally had a respectable place to daven. With seating for roughly 120 people, they thought they were com-

fortable for the foreseeable future.

Since then, the group has grown to over 100 members, and on an average Shabbos there is standing room only.

The shul recognized two years ago what was developing and was able to put together funds to purchase the house situated directly behind the shul. With these two lots in hand, and with a membership of over 100 families, with more than 300 children, the kehilla is looking to take its next step by building a shul that can comfortably house this rapidly growing group.

This past Sunday the shul hosted a breakfast as the launch of their

building campaign, to which many of the members have already pledged significant funds towards the goal of building a shul that can house the ever-growing neighborhood. They have seen tremendous siyata dishmaya in their efforts thus far, and we hope that this is the beginning of something special for the people of North Woodmere, as well as the Five Towns community at large. Many members of the community and the Five Towns at-large joined in the breakfast and came to show support for the growing shul.

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The HALB staff, along with parent Naomi Nachman, ended the year with a Chopped cooking competition that left everyone laughing and full! The staff was presented with a mystery bowl which consisted of chicken, marshmallow fluff, spicy chili and popcorn and had 30 minutes on the clock to create a masterpiece. The judges had a great time eating the delicious (and the not so delicious!) dishes.

As the competition concluded, the HALB family watched a tribute video to Mrs. Sambursky, a dedicated and devoted first grade teacher who has been teaching at HALB for over 30 years. Mrs. Sambursky has been a staple at HALB and we wish her all the best on her retirement.

Breakfast Inauguration of Emek Hamelech

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ast Sunday morning over two hundred men and women gathered at a breakfast at Congregation Aish Kodesh to mark the inauguration after the Yomim Noraim of a unique kollel to be headed

by Rav Moshe Weinberger, shlita.

Emek HaMelech will be affiliated with Congregation Aish Kodesh, where Rav Weinberger has been Morah D’asrah for more than 25 years, and will begin in the fall.

As Rav Weinberger explained, the mission of the mechinah is to work with and develop talented young men to prepare them to establish all over the United States and Eretz Yisrael yeshivas and shuls modeled on the style that has been established at Aish Kodesh over the years. Each day at the kollel will include an intense focus on sugyas in Gemara and Shulchan Aruch followed by a deep

examination of the same sugyas in machshavah and penimius haTorah. Rav Weinberger introduced the incredibly accomplished leadership of the kollel including Rav Yoni Levin, Assistant rabbi of Aish Kodesh, who will serve as Rosh Kollel, Rabbi Yirmy Ginsburg, Rabbi Yehoshuah Rubenstein and Rabbi Yossi Zakutinsky. The Kollel will offer many chaburas and shiurim to the men, women and children and will be a fantastic resource for the entire community.

Rav Weinberger explained that the imperative for the kollel comes from Rav Kook’s vision of Toras Eretz Yisrael. Rav Kook noted the different interpretations of the pasuk in Sefer Devarim (17:8), “Ki yipuleh mimcha davar, When a matter of judgment is hidden from you.”

Talmud Bavli defines “davar” as a

halachic matter while the Yerushalmi sees it as nevuah or aggadah.

Rav Kook teaches that Toras Eretz Yisrael is an integration of these two views: a combination of halacha and machshavah. Rav Weinberger explained that in these days before the coming of Moshiach it is not only possible outside Eretz Yisrael but it is our responsibility to reunite these two parts of Torah that have tragically been separated through all our years in galus. By integrating the study of halacha and the penimius of Torah we can lift up and inspire Am Yisrael to ascend to greater halachic observance awhile reaching a greater understanding about what emunah is all about.

Rav Weinberger’s address is available at Torah Anytime. For more information about Emek

Hamelech please email Rabbi Yitzchak Mordecai Feder at jeremy.m.feder@gmail.com.

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Gan Chamesh Garden Graduation Parade

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an Chamesh ended off the year with a magnificent garden themed graduation parade down Maple Avenue. The young graduates excitedly marched out, wearing their brightly colored school shirts and holding banners with their own self-portraits up high.

The theme revolved around a garden and drew a comparison between the process a seed and a child undergo. The child is similar to a seed that has a tremendous amount of potential within, and blooms, flourishes and bears fruit when tended to with warm, loving care.

Gan Chamesh works daily to plant a love of Yiddishkeit in their

students, and believes that the flowers of tomorrow are in the seeds of today.

Thank you to the Village of Cedarhurst and the auxiliary police for their assistance in closing off Maple Avenue. Thank you to Mr. Gary Wallin for the amazing musical accompaniment. Thank you to Jerusalem Florist for supplying materials for the garden display. Thank you to Ronen Riskovich from Action Studios for the beautiful photographs.

Thank you to the incredible teachers and staff at Gan Chamesh for a wonderful year of growth. Wishing the parents continued nachas from their seedlings.

HANC Visits the Buehler Challenger and Science Center

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he sky was the limit for the sixth grade students at HANC’s Samuel and Elizabeth Bass Golding Elementary School.

They traveled to Paramus, New Jersey, for their culminating science trip to the Buehler Challenger and Science Center. Over the past several months, the students have been learning about mission STS-51L that was supposed to take place in January 1986. Unfortunately, the astronauts lost their lives in a horrible disaster due to a malfunctioning O-ring. The Buehler Challenger and Science Center allows for the students to complete the mission of the astronauts and gather information about Halley’s Comet. Many hands-on activities were performed to prepare the students for the jobs for which they applied.

The students had the opportunity to

build a probe and calculated the coordinates to determine where the comet was located. Once they completed the

calculations, they were able to “send” the probe into space to collect information about what the comet is made

of. During the course of the mission, an emergency arose and, just like actual astronauts, the students had to work together to determine the best course of action to resolve the problematic issue.

Buehler is an excellent experience that is designed to foster team work, leadership and experimentation through inquiry-based learning.

Mr. Jonathan Eisenkraft, HANC’s inspiring science teacher, described the experience in this way: “This is a once in a lifetime opportunity where students get to experience what it is like to be an astronaut for a day. The students were proud to complete the mission of the seven Challenger astronauts who lost their lives.”

All of the children had a great time and it was an experience that they will always remember

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Taking Inwood to the Next Level

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Judaic Educators from Schools Nationwide Share Innovative Strategies

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ver 100 leading educators representing Modern Orthodox high schools from across the United States participated in YHShare, the inaugural conference of yeshiva high school Judaic Studies teachers. YHShare was a groundbreaking two-day forum for sharing innovative pedagogic and curricular ideas that was organized by the Torah Educators Network (TEN), a new organization that serves Jewish educators from coast to coast in ways that their schools cannot do independently.

The first day, which was held at Frisch in Paramus, NJ, focused on Bible and Jewish Philosophy. The second day, which took place at Torah Academy of Bergen County (TABC) in Teaneck, NJ, concentrated on Talmud and Jewish history.

TEN Founder Rabbi Perry Tirschwell explained, “Teachers in yeshiva high school classrooms across the country are facing the exact same challenges, and there’s a teacher somewhere who has a creative solution. There must be a venue for those teachers to learn from each other, hence the name ‘YHShare.’”

Participating schools at the YHShare conference included Ateres (NY), Bruriah (NJ), Central (NY), DRS (NY), Fuchs Mizrachi (OH), RASG (FL), HANC (NY), Ida Crown (IL), Katz (Boca), Kohelet (PA), Ma’ayanot (NJ), Magen David (NY), MTA (NY), Naaleh (NJ), Kushner (NJ), Ramaz (NY), SAR (NY), Shalhevet (CA), SKA (NY), TABC (NJ),

Ulpana (Toronto), Flatbush (NY), Frisch (NJ), and YULA Girls (CA).

In addition, there were participants from the Avi Chai Foundation, Prizmah: Center for Jewish Day Schools, Rabbi Isaac Elchanan Theological Seminary at Yeshiva University, and Azrieli Graduate School of Jewish Education & Administration.

“As opposed to public and most parochial schools, Jewish day schools are independent. There is no central organization that coordinates curriculum or pedagogy, and only a handful of for-profit vendors who are addressing high schools.

Like in all fields, technology is making possible rapid changes in education. Many technological innovations that teachers have developed in

their classrooms were shared at this conference,” said Rabbi Tirschwell.

YHShare was dedicated in memory of Rabbi Dovid Kaminetsky, who passed away the previous week. An extraordinary educator and beloved role model, Rabbi Kaminetsky, who most recently served as the middle school principal at Rosenbaum Yeshiva of North Jersey, also held leadership roles at Manhattan Day School and The Moriah School, and was the former national director of NCSY. Rabbi Tirschwell spoke about how he entered Rabbi Kaminetsky’s Chumash and algebra classes on his first day of Jewish day school in 1977, and noted his deep love of children, authenticity, sincerity, warmth, care, and concern for every single student.

The impressive array of concurrent breakout sessions at YHShare included “Using Jewish History to Discuss Core Identity Issues,” “Reaching the Struggling Gemara Learner,” and “Should We Raise Philosophical Questions We Can Fully Answer.”

In an interactive conference-wide session entitled “Designing Solutions to Common Challenges,” small groups of educators brainstormed solutions and shared resources with peers on such topics as Teaching Nach, Judaic Studies Alternative Assessment, and Time & Structures for Learning.

Attendees enjoyed a panel discussion on “The Teacher’s Great Balancing Act: Rigor, Relationships & Religious Growth,” during which renowned educational leaders responded to a variety of questions about building a culture of religious growth in the classroom, and examining the relationship between challenging academic goals and inspiring religious growth. The panel, which was moderated by Rabbi Dovid Bashevkin, the Director of Education at International NCSY, and included Rabbi Eli Ciner, principal of Yeshivat Frisch, Mrs. Rivka Kahan, principal of Ma’ayanot Yeshiva High School for Girls, Rabbi Yisroel Kaminetsky, rosh yeshiva of Hebrew Academy of Long Beach (HALB), Mrs. Racheli Luftglass, director of Judaic studies of YULA Girls High School, and Rabbi Asher Yablok, Head of School of TABC.

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Around the Community Last Friday, the boys from seventh and eighth grade of Yeshiva Ketana of Queens had the wonderful opportunity to get their tefillin inspected.

In addition, the two sofrim from the Tefillin Awareness Project and its Director Avrohom Schachter came down to demonstrate the issues that usually will arise with time. Much appreciation was shown and the boys left with a greater understanding of this most precious mitzvah.

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Learn & Live Carnival

Binyomin Bloom, Yehuda Leib Cohen, Yisroel Dov Farkowitz, Avrumy Feldhamer, Uri Fleischmann, Yosef Chaim Fleischmann, Mordechai Tzvi Friedman, Yisroel Frischman, Mordechai Goodman, Mordechai Hauer, Yosef Kaufman, Avi Kranzler, Shalom Miller, Gavriel Nussbaum, Binyomin Perlstein, Yosef Pfeifer Eli Asher Reisman, Eliezer Simha, Yehuda Simha, Yitzi Waldman, Tzvi Weiss, Yehoshua Windselworth and Shmuel Yankelowitz.

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nce again, the Learn & Live program/Pirchei of Far Rockaway held its annual L&L melachos carnival. All the booths were based on the Lamed Tes Melachos that the boys experienced and saw at the L&L program this year. An example booth was the popular pickle eating race for the melacha of m’abeid. Learn & Live would like to give a big thank you to carnival coordinator Yossie Keilson for his outstanding job. Thank you to R’ Mordechai Groner and Yeshiva Ateres Shimon for hosting the pro-

gram all year round. Thanks to all the great and talented rabbeim for all their great presentations.

Thank you to all the boys who helped make the carnival as fun and exciting as it was:

For more information regarding L&L/Pirchei of Far Rockaway please email us at learnandlivefr@ gmail.com or try our hotline 641715-3800 pin 932191#.

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A Momentous Milestone

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n Sunday, June 10, the kindergarten boys of Siach Yitzchok proudly marched into the room at Rabbi Blumenkrantz’s shul adorned with their crowns and ribbons, and were proudly greeted by the shining face of their family members. “Mazel tov! Mazel tov!” This was a very special day for the children, their rebbeim, Rabbi

Yisroel Kviat and Rabbi Moshe Binyomin Smilovich, and menahel, Rabbi Dovid Sitnick.

The kindergarten classes had been working hard, preparing for their siyum since the beginning of the school year. Each week, the kindergarteners learned a new letter and continued to review the previous ones. Along with siyata d’shmya, the

creative activities and games that the rebbeim have created over the years have greatly helped their young charges grasp and remember the alef beis.

The siyum commenced with a short speech from the rebbeim, followed by singing from the boys. They all received a special alef beis sefer from Rabbi Dovid Sitnik, shlit”a, the

menahel. Rabbi Sitnick then said a few words, praising the rebbeim and the children. This was followed by dancing in which each child had a turn to dance with his rebbe and father.

It was truly a special siyum and, with siyata d’shmaya, will be the beginning of the boys’ truly deep and loving connection to the Torah.

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Second Step Social Skills at HANC

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n addition to academics, HANC’s Samuel and Elizabeth Bass Golding Elementary School in West Hempstead also focuses on the social and emotional growth of each child. Through an interactive program called Second Step, the students in kindergarten, first, second and fourth grades learned how to identify and manage their emotions and solve problems in a healthy and constructive manner.

Over the course of the year, HANC’s social worker through Counterforce/ Torah Umesorah, Mrs. Barbara Hollander, meets with the students and teaches them skills that help them to strengthen their ability to learn, develop empathy and learn ways to reach out to others with compassion, manage their emotions, and solve conflicts as they arise. Beginning in kindergarten, the program promotes the development of self-regulation skills that will not only enhance their learning in school but will be useful throughout their lives. During the course of the year, Mrs. Hollander utilizes techniques to help the children recognize their feelings and when they have strong feelings, she teaches them proactive strategies that help each child to calm down and prevent these emotions from escalating into negative behaviors.

With the help of “situation cards” that depict difficult interpersonal situations that can arise in school, the children discuss what is happening and try to place themselves in that situation. Together as a class, the children discuss how each child in that circumstance feels and try to work together to come up with strategies and solutions that will rectify the situation without hurting anyone’s feelings. When a child finds themselves very upset about something, the program teaches them

how to name their feeling and take deep “belly breaths” to help them calm down. In addition, there is an emphasis on utilizing positive selftalk (i.e. “I can calm down,” “My friend and I can work this out,” “It will be OK.”). In the younger grades, Mrs. Hollander utilizes puppets that help the children identify how they are feeling and state their feelings to others in a kind and considerate manner. They then practice taking slow, deep breaths, identify what they are feeling and come up with ideas of how to solve the problem.

Learning these skills in school has had a profound effect on the children, and they utilize what they have learned in situations in which they find themselves outside of school.

When asked about what they learned in Second Step, here is what some of the kindergarten students had to say: “We learned how to figure out feelings and how to deal with feelings. I got sick last night and I did belly breaths because I was upset.”

“When someone is feeling left out, you should invite them to come play with you.”

“You should care about people when they feel sad. You can tell

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them to do belly breaths.”

“Once when my cousin fell down on her knee. She was sad. I asked her if she wanted to play with me and she said yes.”

“One day my brother ran into my room and surprised me. I felt angry.

I did belly breaths and after that I felt better.”

As the children become more adept at managing feelings and resolving conflicts with others, the discussions in the upper grades become more sophisticated. One of the sessions focused on dealing with peer pressure. Through the use of videos, the children in fourth grade learned how to react to this inner pressure that children sometimes feel. By reenacting the scenario in class, the students learn to identify the feeling of wanting to be “part of the crowd” but recognizing that if it doesn’t feel right, they should resist joining in. Through practice, the students are enabled to recognize that if their peers are suggesting that they do something that is not safe, not respectful or unkind, they should think it through and no matter what, always to the right thing. This takes strength and courage, and Second Step provides them with the practice and skills to handle these situations.

This was particularly evident in Morah Leah Friedler’s fourth grade class. “I found the Second Step program to be extremely practical and beneficial for the girls. It displayed day to day issues that often occur and how to effectively work through the problem. The girls really enjoyed the role playing aspect where they were able to act out appropriate responses to a situation. I found that

the girls felt comfortable sharing their thoughts and ideas about each topic. It gave the girls an opportunity to discuss different approaches to take when confronted with a situation and how to respond in a calm and appropriate manner. The girls really looked forward to the class each week.”

Another lesson gave the students the opportunity to learn respectful assertiveness skills. Through discussions and practice, the children learned how to face the person who has upset them, look them in the eye and use a calm but firm voice to state their feelings in a respectful way with a focus on resolving the issue. These skills will be beneficial for all of the students and will hopefully be utilized throughout their life time.

Visiting the classrooms and presenting this program has been a very gratifying experience for Mrs. Hollander. “Embarking on the journey of nurturing social and emotional awareness with our students is a highlight of my work as a social worker at HANC. The children are incredibly open to learning new concepts of what empathy for others is, how to show others we care, skills for coping with and calming down strong feelings, interpersonal problem solving and other important life skills. The children are creative, expressive, and enthusiastic as we discuss these concepts via role play, props (belly breathing ball, chimes, etc.), art, books and other modalities. I am often touched by the personal experiences and ideas related to the week’s lesson that the children share.”

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Aviv Amar Valedictorian Aviv Amar lives in Woodmere with her parents and four siblings.

In the four years that Aviv has been a student at Shulamith, she has received a great deal of support and encouragement from her teachers, principals, and peers, which she will always be thankful for. Aviv enjoys art, music, reading, spending time with her friends, and participating in as many chessed opportunities as possible.

Aviv has a strong passion for all of her academic subjects, particularly Navi, social studies, and science.

Her dream is to become an engineer, using her love of construction and technology. This year, Aviv won the Shulamith Award for her science fair project, participated in Math Olympiad, was a head of PI Day, and worked diligently as a layout editor for the yearbook.

Aviv will always cherish the friendships she has made in Shulamith and is honored to be part of the graduating class of 2018.

Gabriella Herman Salutatorian Gabriella loves to participate in school activities! This year, she invested countless hours of creative effort as a co-editor-in-chief of the yearbook. In both seventh and eighth grades, Gabriella was on the Torah Bowl and Math Olympiad teams, and this year she was also on the Shulamith Basketball team. For the past two years, Gabriella represented Shulamith in the annual school- wide Middle School Science Fair. She also enjoyed participating in all of the chessed activities Shulamith offered.

Outside of school, Gabriella loves to rollerblade, swim, bike, read and spend time with her family and

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friends. Gabriella has been fortunate to be taught by excellent teachers, who have fostered her love of learning in all subjects, especially Ivrit and math. Gabriella will miss her amazing friends and supportive principals and teachers who have been with her for the past ten years in Shulamith.

Shayna Wasser Keter Shem Tov Award Shayna Wasser resides in Cedarhurst and has been a student at Shulamith School for Girls since Pre-1A. She has worked hard to achieve her goals and has excelled academically in her studies. Shayna is a positive person who loves learning new things.

Shayna feels fortunate to have been given many opportunities at Shulamith. She served as vice president of G.O in seventh grade and planned many great programs and activities. She was a member of the Torah Bowl team in seventh grade and served as co-captain in eighth grade, leading her team to victory in the divisional championships. She also served as coordinator of Yom Ha’atzmaut festivities and is participating in the school play.

Shayna enjoys singing, acting, art, and baking. She loves spending time with her friends, both in and out of school. She has a solid focus on her family and enjoys spending time with them as well. Shayna brings a strong sense of enthusiasm, loyalty, and sincerity to everything she does.

Shayna has much hakarat hatov to her teachers and principals for providing her with a superb education and for instilling within her the right values. She cherishes the wonderful friendships that she has built with her classmates. Shayna is proud to be part of the graduating Class of 2018.

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Miriam was going over the next week’s schedule with her husband, Shloimy.

“Oh, Shani has a well visit appointment next week,” Miriam said.

“That will make it for a busier week,” said Shloimy, “but at least it’s for a good reason!”

“I know,” said Miriam, “Last winter, I was literally at the doctor with Shani every week. First it was a cold, then a bad cough, then the flu, then the infection. It was a nightmare!”

“You know,” she continued, “I just realized that I haven’t taken Shani to the doctor even once this winter!! Isn’t that unbelievable?”

Shloimy chuckled. “Well, it makes sense. We got her extra protection this year!”

Miriam was confused, “You mean the flu shot? We always do that!”

“No,” laughed Shloimy, “I mean that we signed up for Tehillim Kollel! Our whole family had extra Shmirah this year!”

“You think it made a difference?” said Miriam. “I forgot that you signed us up. What do they do again?”

“Of course it made a difference!” said Shloimy. “This is Tehillim Kollel we are talking about! We had the zchus of having an entire minyan of Talmidei Chachamim davening for us.

Every day. Saying the entire Sefer Tehillim! Tehillim Kollel is like five zchusim rolled into one- and we are lucky enough to have their special, holy power on our side this year, praying for the wellbeing of our family! And Shani’s health this year is probably just one example of what the power of Tehillim has done for us and will do for us. Who knows what other wonderful blessings are in store? I can’t wait to find out.”

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Regional Medevac Conference at Camp Simcha Enhances Coordination of Medical Care

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epresentatives from several regional Air Methods Medevac bases that serve the Glen Spey, NY, area as well as crews from Westchester Hospital and Hackensack University Medical Center met at Camp Simcha last week to review policies and procedures for medical helicopter flights.

Simcha Shain, a Camp Simcha paramedic who organized the meeting, noted that the meeting was just the latest in a series of annual visits to familiarize helicopter crews with Camp Simcha’s medical program.

Rivkah Reichmann, LCSW, Camp Simcha Special’s associate director, said that the meeting enables crews and medical staff to review protocols and the camp’s physical setup before the summer begins.

The group included Air Methods’ medical director, pilots, flight nurses, and coordinators who arrived in three helicopters early in the morning and proceeded to the Ilian Goldberg Social Hall (usually the site of

Air Methods personnel at the Camp helipad

Camp Simcha concerts, games and other programs). The group discussed more sober issues related to medical transports and coordinating with the camp’s medical and administrative staffs.

As part of the day, they toured the Silber and Scheiner Families Medical Center, Camp Simcha’s state-of-the-art medical facility. The

Air Methods and Camp Simcha medical staff

medical center is a two-story facility that contains a complete emergency medical center, isolation rooms, pharmacy, exam rooms, physical therapy center and bathing facilities for the camp’s most physically compromised campers. As the home base for the medical staff, the Silber and Scheiner Families Medical Center uses the latest technology to safeguard the health and well-being of campers, all of whom are seriously ill. This year the Medical Center will begin remote monitoring of campers’ vital statistics using technology usually found only in hospitals.

“The group was really impressed with the Medical Center and our medical program,” said Nachman Maimon, Camp Simcha’s director.

“We try very hard to keep our children safe and healthy within the camp environment. We hope the only time we see our Air Methods friends is for training and social visits; nevertheless, it’s vital for them to see the Medical Center and be-

come familiar with our protocols.”

Simcha Shain agreed. “Air Methods is really part of the Camp Simcha family. This meeting helps them to understand what our needs will be during the summer.

The crews were excited to spend the day at Camp Simcha as well.

Aidan O’Connor of Air Methods wrote in an email, “(We want) to ensure that we are prepared for anything (Camp Simcha) may need from us over the summer.”

While Rabbi Simcha Scholar, Chai Lifeline’s executive vice president, could not be at camp to greet the group, he noted the longstanding and warm relationship between the camp and Air Methods. “We are happy to host the clinical review event. It’s one more way our medical and administrative staffs work to assure the health of every child who comes to Camp Simcha and Camp Simcha Special.”

The first of Camp Simcha/Camp Simcha Special’s four sessions begins on June 24.

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n Monday, June 11, NY Yachad held their first gala dinner at Congregation Beth Sholom in Lawrence. An overflow crowd of community leaders, rabbis, donors and Yachad families joined in support of Yachad’s work and raised critical funds to help promote the goal of inclusion of individuals with disabilities within the Jewish community. Tribute was paid to three unique people who have been a guiding force for many years in Yachad’s mission. Rabbi Abie Wahrhaftig, z”l, who was a pioneer in the camping world, brought inclusion to Camp Morasha at a time when the concept did not yet exist. Today, Yachad has 27 different inclusive summer programs. Adira Katlowitz was presented with the Young Leadership Award for her longstanding efforts and involvement with Yachad, which began more than 15 years ago when she was in high school. She continues to remain involved with Yachad through her participation in many Miami and Jerusalem marathons and her leadership of the Friends of Yachad Alumni association.

A moving video tribute was shown extolling the impact of Caryn Pollak, a”h, a dynamic and beloved young lady from West Hempstead and founding member of Yachad programs who was both a member of Yachad’s nascent programming over 30 years ago and later a Yachad employee, working in the OU offices in downtown Manhattan. Rabbis Yehuda Kelemer and Josh Goller of the Young Israel of West Hempstead, joined the many families from the West Hempstead community who were present in support of the Pollak family as they accepted Caryn’s award and naming of the West Hempstead

Yachad chapter in her memory.

Rabbi Ahron Rosenthal, Director of NY Yachad, reflected on the great growth of Yachad across New York, specifically the expansion of Yachad’s many services in Brooklyn, Riverdale and the Five Towns, with a community center having been opened there a year ago. Yachad’s vocational program was showcased in a short video touring the job sites and establishments at which Yachad members have been trained to work in.

UPS, Judaica stores, Carlos & Gabby’s, supermarkets and many other job sites were highlighted as places where Yachad’s vocational program has been able to provide meaningful employment to its members. Dr. Jeffrey Lichtman, Yachad’s International Director, closed the evening with a moving charge to the attendees urging participants to view this evening as just the tip of the iceberg of what NY Yachad can accomplish with their involvement and support.

The gala dinner was a beautiful evening which afforded all those present a glimpse into the impactful work that Yachad does across the broad Jewish community, promoting the inclusion of ALL individuals, no matter the abilities, into all areas of

Jewish life. Many thanks to the Dinner Chairs: Blima and Yossel Druker, Leora and Yaakov Hauptman, Chani and Daniel Herrmann, Tobey Karpel, Hannah Kelsen and Joy Glicker Lieber for helping to make the evening the success that it was.

For more information and to find out how you can get involved and support the efforts of NY Yachad, please contact Rabbi Ahron Rosenthal, Director at Nyyachad.org or 212-613-8266.

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HANC Class of 2018

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n Monday evening, June 11, the 28th of Sivan, HANC High School seniors graduated before an audience of several hundred proud family members, guests, administration and faculty members.

The ceremony took place at The Space in Westbury, New York.

The program opened with a poignant video presentation filmed by faculty honoring the graduating class.

The video featured administrators

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and teachers reflecting on their most meaningful memories with the graduates. Following the processional and the anthems, Rabbi Shlomo Adelman, principal of the High School, welcomed guests and graduates and introduced salutatorian, Zackary Plutzer, who delivered the invocation.

Mrs. Marie Palaia, associate principal, greeted the graduates with a heartfelt congratulatory message.

In his outstanding valedictory address, Josh Weinstein encouraged his classmates to continue making positive choices based on the foundations each student received while at HANC. Additionally, Josh expressed his hakarat hatov to his beloved school, family, and friends.

Alumnus Dylan Hamapour (‘15), and graduate Chazan Yosef Karavani, a father of HANC students, riveted the audience with their heartwarming performance of a “Al Kol Eleh,” tribute to Israel at 70.

Ms. Tziporah Zucker, Assistant Principal, addressed the graduates, reminding them of the unique qualities HANC and how it has impacted each individual throughout their high school career. She then introduced the class speaker, Michali Betesh who reflected on her four years of high school.

A special Keter Shem Tov award was presented to Moshe Khalili in memory of Rabbi Jack V. Zucker, father of Assistant Principal Ms. Tziporah Zucker. This award is in recognition of the recipient’s outstanding

distinguished character and a strong commitment to leading a life of high ethical and moral standard consistent with Torah ideals and values.

Prior to the distribution of the diplomas, the graduates performed their alma mater, “A Million Memories,” written together by HANC’s music teacher, Mr. Dovid Klaver, and members of the graduating class.

Rabbi Adelman, Mrs.Palaia, and Ms. Zucker distributed the diplomas to the graduates who were also greeted

by Dean of Students, Rabbi Etan Ehrenfeld, and Director of Student Life, Rabbi Daniel Mezei. Gifts to the graduates were distributed by the Chairman of the Board of Education, Mrs. Loren Daitch and the Chairman of the Board of Directors, Mr. Duvy Maryles, HANC’s Menahel, Rabbi Shlomo Adelman, in his charge to the graduates, recognized his special bond with the graduates and encouraged students to always stay close to Hashem.

Salutatorian Batsheva Moskowitz administered the Benediction, reminded fellow graduates to “keep their uniqueness” and thanked Hashem for bringing the students to this milestone.

Closing out the ceremony was a moving rendition of “Birkat Kohanim” performed by Chazan Karavani. After the proceedings, graduates and guests enjoyed an elaborate collation sponsored by the Bender and Kreinik families.

Mazal tov to all the graduates and their families!

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This past Sunday the White Shul Youth Department celebrated the close of another successful season with a family BBQ, Rita’s Ices, carnival rides, raffles and embroidered sweatshirts. We can’t wait to see what’s in store for next year!

National Council of Young Israel Basketball League 2018 Crowns Its Two Champions

By Judah Rhine

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he National Council of Young Israel Basketball League 2018 season came to a close with two thrilling and competitive championship games.

In the Intermediate Division, the heavily favored Heichal HaTorah Hornets from Teaneck, NJ, emerged victorious in the championship game against the underdog Darchei Torah Pelicans in front of an overflow crowd at the Hebrew Academy of Long Beach’s beautiful new gym.

The Senior Division featured a terrific matchup between MAY, Mesivta Ateres Yaakov of Lawrence, and the Mashadi Magic of Great Neck. The game was played in JMF Sports Are-

na in Westbury in front of a capacity crowd. After an exciting game, MAY secured the Senior Division 2018 Championship in an overtime victory.

Congratulations and Mazel Tov to all the teams for an exciting season.

The 2018 season featured teams from the following Shuls/Schools: Intermediates (9th & 10th grades) – Young Israel of Woodmere, Heichal Hatorah, Harborview, Darchei Torah, Pruzdor Yeshivah, Young Israel of Lawrence Cedarhurst, Mesivta Ateres Yaakov, Young Israel of Jamaica Estates, Be’er Hagolah, Ivdu, Lev Torah, Yam Hatorah, Mesivta Tiferes Torah, and Jewish Institute of Queens.

Seniors (11th & 12th grades) – Mesivta Ateres Yaakov, Mashadi, Tribeca, Ahavat Shalom, Tiferes Shmuel,

Heichal Hatorah, Darchei Torah, Harborview, and Young Israel of Manhattan.

Many thanks to all the players, coaches, athletic directors, refs, parents and fans who participated in the 2018 NCYI Basketball League.

For the past ten years, the National Council of Young Israel Basketball

League, under the director of Irv Bader and Judah Rhine, has given hundreds of boys an opportunity to play basketball in a competitive setting.

The League is open to high school boys from different schools and shuls in the NY-NJ metropolitan area. The season runs from the end of January until June, culminating in Playoffs and League Championship games.

NCYI is excited to announce that for the 2019 season, the League will be expanding to include Middle School aged boys in grades 6th-8th from shuls and schools throughout the NY-NJ Metropolitan area. The League is looking to increase the amount of teams in the current Boys High School Intermediate and Senior Divisions.

In addition, NCYI is excited to announce that there will be a separate Girls Basketball League with three divisions: Middle Division (6th-8th), Intermediate Division (9th-10th) and Senior Division (11th-12th).

For more information please email Judah Rhine mvp4boys@ gmail.com or call 516-707-2638.

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Fountaingate Gardens Announces Approvals to Move Project Forward

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ountaingate Gardens, a proposed Life Plan Community (also known as Continuing Care Retirement Community, or CCRC), sponsored by Gurwin Jewish Nursing & Rehabilitation Center in Commack, NY, recently unveiled new renderings of the project and announced that it recently received several key approvals that have allowed the project to move closer to construction.

The images depict the spacious and light-filled lobby with vaulted ceilings, pendant lighting, a gas fireplace and deep-cushioned seating to create a feeling that welcomes residents home. The more than 3,000 sq. ft. fitness center features exposed truss construction, floor to ceiling windows and state-of-the-art equipment, including treadmills, weight machines and a stretching area.

Gurwin also announced it has received approvals from the Town of Huntington Planning Board for a subdivision of the property where the project will be built. Additionally, the Suffolk County Sewer Agency accepted Gurwin’s application for handling the additional waste treatment needs associated with the new community.

Finally, the Huntington Town Board approved a slight modification in the zoning for the Fountaingate Gardens project related to its internal road system and access to Commack Road.

“These approvals are exciting

for us, because each brings us a step closer to serving the people who will call Fountaingate home, both from Long Island and beyond,” said Herb Friedman, Fountaingate Gardens’ President and CEO. “We’re looking forward to bringing contemporary senior living to complete our CCRC, which we know will be the model of elder care for the future.”

Fountaingate Gardens is a proposed not-for-profit Life Plan Community, also known as a Continuing Care Retirement Community or CCRC that will be located on Long Is-

land, NY. The community is an extension of Gurwin that adds independent living to current offerings that include assisted living, skilled nursing and short-term rehabilitation, among other services. Fountaingate Gardens is a community for seniors who want to continue their active, independent lifestyle without the burden of home ownership and with the added security of knowing a full continuum of care is available on-site.

For more information, please call (631) 210-5806 or visit www.fountaingateli.org.

not have done this without Rabbi Fingerer’s tireless commitment to us. My journey one year ago all began with me coming to BJX for a Mishmar. Both of the Rabbis Fingerer have been infinitely encouraging,” said John. The shul erupted in applause.

“This Shabbaton anniversary is unique. These young men have prioritized godliness over fun. They are focused on developing themselves spiritually,” explained Rabbi Moshe Fingerer, Menahel of BJX. “In attempting to please friends we bend a little. Whether it’s talking a little during davening, listening to a little lashon hara or vacationing in less than kosher environments many of us choose never to take a stand. These young students taught all of a valuable lesson. There are values (or mitzvos) for which you must be willing to take a stand and fight,” said Ephraim C. A middle-aged less affiliated Jew was at BJX for his first time. “Partying, texting, and surfing the net are symptoms of modernity. What would cause

young men raised by secular parents to make such a radical departure?” he wondered.

“I love this shul. I find it life-giving and full of purpose,” said a young man from Flatbush. Perhaps that is the answer.

“BJX does miracles. Shabbos was truly awesome,” said Sarah G. “Doing what’s right in the face of popular opposition and swimming against the tide is remarkable. These young men have showed tremendous moral courage,” explained Sarah.

“This doesn’t just emerge from nowhere. The BJX Rabbis are there for the students day and night and it’s incredible to see all the care and love they have for these students,” said Avrumi.

These young men have done that which, we think, is beyond us, and for us they are our heroes. Their shemiras Shabbos and now leaving to yeshiva tells us that is it possible to overcome whatever comes our way. These young men deserve our admiration.

Local Superstars Feted at BJX

By Dovid Miller

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latbush residents witnessed a unique event this Shabbos. It was an event that went against all odds. Community members and BJX supporters came to congratulate several young modern-day heroes who were celebrating their one year anniversary since they began keeping Shabbos at BJX. And there was another surprise in store. Three of them were leaving on Sunday to learn in yeshiva!

The BJX beis medrash was packed with interested onlookers and mispallelim. A rainbow of young and old Yidden danced around the shul at the conclusion of “Lecha dodi.” They danced, embraced in achdus. It was a powerful testament to the ahavas Yisrael that filtered down from Rav Yitzchok Fingerer to each mispallel. The dancing continued unabated for several long minutes.

Then Rabbi Fingerer challenged everyone. “If you had four weeks to accomplish something, what would you

choose? You can finish a long book.

You can take a mini-course on a topic of your choosing. You can organize a community project.” He then said, “We have here with us today a young woman who attends Murrow Public High School and is, baruch Hashem, observing her fourth consecutive full Shabbos. This is how she decided to spend her past four weeks.” Everyone spontaneously broke out into applause for this young heroine.

He continued, “What if you had a year’s time to accomplish something, what would you aim for?” There were three young men who were at BJX joyously celebrating their one-year anniversary since they took it upon themselves to become shomer Shabbos.

“How many of us are ready to take the spiritual plunge and risk alienating family and friends? Would you be brave enough to invest in a higher value at the risk of turning off former friends?” the rabbi asked.

John spoke for all of them. “Spiritually we came from nothing. We could

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YOSS’s “Bachurei Chemed – Yedidei Hashem” Celebrates Middos Tovos

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eshiva of South Shore’s Bachurei Chemed - Yedidei Hashem program culminated a year of middos tovos and derech eretz. Established by Rav Binyamin Kamenetzky, zt”l, the society inspires talmidim in first through eigth grades to fulfill mitzvos, act like bnei Torah and grow in their love for Yiddishkeit.

The Yeshiva honored the special talmidim to mark their achievements. All the boys in first through third grades received certificates that recognized their completion of 12 cycles of basic middos corresponding to the 12 Shevatim. In fourth through eighth grades, the rabbeim selected 34 talmidim who exhibited exemplary middos and derech eretz throughout the year. The older boys visited Yeshiva of Far Rockaway, where they had the zchus to meet and hear divrei chizuk from the Rosh Yeshiva, Rav Yechiel Perr, shlit”a. Rav Perr inspired them with stories about the

Alter of Kelm, Rav Shalom Shwadron and other tzaddikim. The stories carried the overriding theme of treating people properly.

“I am so proud of all of our talmidim,” said Rabbi Mordechai Kamenetzky, Rosh Yeshiva. “It is a great honor to my father’s memory that our students are continuing his love of mitzvos and following his example of middos tovos and treating everyone with respect.”

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Jimmy is all excited that the final exam is all “true/false” questions.

He takes his seat and stares at the questions for five minutes, and then in a fit of inspiration takes out a coin and starts tossing the coin and marking the answer sheet “true” for heads and “false” for tails. Within a half an hour he is all done, while the rest of the class is sweating it out.

During the last few minutes, he is seen desperately throwing the coin, muttering and sweating.

Centerfold Things I’ll Miss About School Being able to always get out of helping by saying, “Hmm…I would love to, but I have too much homework tonight, sorry.”

Having a stomachache whenever there is going to be a math quiz.

Running down the street at 7:30AM screaming, “Wait!....Wait!...Wait!” so the big, mean, menacing school bus doesn’t run off without me.

The cut-up orange that my mother sends with me every day (Well, I might not miss that but the garbage can sure will… Shhh! Don’t tell her I said that!)

Raising $1,700 for my school and getting some slime in return. The art of the deal!

The moderator, alarmed, approaches him and says, “What is going on?”

Growing fungi in my cubby… It kind of happens by itself every year, but I love seeing nature’s creativity.

Jimmy answers in exasperation. “I finished the test a while ago but now I’m rechecking my answers.”

Having mac & cheese for lunch on Monday, Tuesday, Wednesday and Thursday. But wow! We get potato kugel on Friday!

Riddle me this?

Why was the student’s report card wet?

See answer below

Answer to Riddle Me This: It was below C level!

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Lugging around a 50-pound knapsack everywhere I go, like a Navy Seal. (Yes Mom, I do need everything in my knapsack, including the rocks I collected in the fall.)

I will miss everything about school – I love learning new things and using my time constructively.

But I will try to have an amazing summer and use my time efficiently, until school starts again. (Now, practice that sentence and then go say it to your mother followed by this sentence: “Mommy, is it possible that maybe I can get something from the ice cream truck?” Works every time.)

Trying to convince my teacher that I actually did the homework but I accidentally made it into a paper plane and by the time I realized my mistake I was unable to locate the paper plane because it landed in Indonesia.

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Who Does Not Belong?

Each of the following words were in the 2018 Scripps Spelling Bee. Match the word with the definitions. (Try not to burn too many brain cells on the first word!)

1.

Each of the following students were in the final round of the 2018 Scripps National Spelling Bee, except for one. Can you spot the guy/gal that does not belong? See answer below.

Shiv Mehrotra-Varma

Shifa bey

Siddharth Doppalapudi

Sharanya Pastapur

Anish Tejomurtula

Tejas Shyamsundar

Vasundara Govindarajan

Abhiram Kapaganty

Pavani Chittemsetty

Tanusree Makwana

Kedaar Rentachintala

Keerthi Padmanabhan

Maya Jyothinagaram

Ranitha Kumarasinghe

Mera Moucharrafie

Senter Foldcomish

Atman Balakrishnan

Srivatsav Nemmani

Sharanya Chatterjee Alesya Rathinasamy

Sivasaipraneethreddy Devireddy

Una VanWynsberghe

Saisurya Lakkimsetti

Ritvik Teegavarapu

Amankwa-Gab-

Cholent

A. Leader of a band of mercenaries

2. Ecchymosis

B. Vestibule or entrance of architectural importance before a building or enclosure

3. Amadelphous

C. Housing for a ship’s compass

4. Pareidolia

D. Anonymous Jewish religious writings of the period 200BCE to 200CE

5. Ooporphyrin

E. Jewish Sabbath-day dish of slow-baked meat and vegetables F.

6. Lochetic

Olufemi Onigbinde 7.

Pale brown pigment in eggshells

Propylaeum

G. Outgoing, sociable, gregarious.

8. Condottiere

H. Escape of blood into the tissues from ruptured blood vessels

9. Pseudepigrapha

I.

Lying in wait for prey

J.

Tendency to perceive a specific, often meaningful image in a random or ambiguous visual pattern

10. Binnacle

 Answers

 Wisdom Key

10. C

5. F

8-10 correct: Splendiferous job!

9. D

4. J

4-7 correct: You are quite prosaic.

8. A

3. G

1-3 correct: You are predy gud at speling!

7. B

2. H

6. I

1. E

0 correct: Oy vey! Are you still in a cholent-induced comma or something?

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Answer: Senter Foldcomish (I should be a judge!)

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Parshas Chukas

By Rabbi Berel Wein

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n the Torah reading of this week we are reminded that one of the traits that Judaism emphasizes and encourages is that of obedience.

Obedience requires a suspension of one’s own thought process and even behavior. Since this is not usually an acceptable state of being for humans, there is a natural tendency for disobedience and even rebellion. Children resent having to obey their parents, students chafe at the instructions of teachers, and society generally abhors and disobeys government and laws on a very regular basis.

The Torah creates for us a commandment and warns us in advance that there is no rational explanation for its existence and fulfillment. It is simply a test of faith and a willingness to obey a higher authority, even if one’s own intellect and nature cannot fathom the reason for the command itself. In effect, we are being taught that obedience is the necessary ingredient for human discipline and without human discipline people are little more than uncontrollable wild animals.

It is our nature to filter all rules and laws through our own intellect.

If somehow it makes sense to us then we are willing to obey but if we are not able to rationalize the com-

of the soldiers themselves. Needless to say this proved disastrous to the army as a whole and to the very soldiers individually. Until today, discipline and obedience constitute the

It is simply a test of faith and a willingness to obey a higher authority, even if one’s own intellect and nature cannot fathom the reason for the command itself.

mand to ourselves then we feel that we are not obligated to obey.

We all know that discipline plays a great role in human society. No army can exist without it. At the beginning of the Soviet revolution in 1917, the Red Army experimented with running an army based on democracy and the common consensus

basis for all societal organizations and commercial enterprises.

For this necessary feeling of discipline to be instilled, the individual must feel that there is justification for one’s obedience, for following orders and commands. The command cannot be intrinsically immoral, illegal or contrary to human

nature and tradition. Therefore, the command regarding the red heifer appears late in the books of the Torah. What has gone before shows the reliability of the commandment that is now advanced.

In the background of the commandments of the Torah, in their beauty and harmony, the demand for obedience and unquestioning discipline makes sense. All individual commandments of the Torah must be seen in the backdrop of the entire structure of halacha and Jewish tradition. There are no isolated commandments but rather they are all pieces of a whole, a tapestry of G-d’s will and Divine intent.

The idea of discipline and obedience has already proven itself over through the commandments previously ordained by the Torah.

As such, the current request for obedience, even though there is no rational explanation for the demand itself, becomes more understandable and fits into the general pattern that is provided for Jewish life and survival.

Shabbat shalom.

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From the Fire

Parshas Chukas Your Wellspring Shall Spread Forth

By Rav Moshe Weinberger Adapted for publication by Binyomin Wolf

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he Jewish people experienced two miracles in the desert for which we sang a song to Hashem. The first and most famous was the song at the sea (Shmos 15:1-19). The second and much less well-known is the song at the well in this week’s parsha (Bamidbar 21:17-20). The most striking difference between them is the fact that the song at the sea begins, “Then Moshe and the children of Israel sang…,” whereas the song at the well begins, “Then the Jewish people sang this song…” with no mention of Moshe Rebbeinu. Why was he left out of this second song?

When the Jewish people sang the song at the sea, we were still in our infancy as a nation. “For Israel is a youth and I love him” (Hoshea 11:1). Moshe Rebbeinu led us in the song at the sea because we had not yet reached a state of maturity. We could not compose our own song. So he led us in the song word for word and we repeated after him. We did not even understand the full depth and importance of what we were experiencing, so Moshe taught us how to sing. He taught us the deeper meaning of what we went through.

Moshe was the adult and we were the children. As the pasuk homiletically says, “Ephraim is a son who is dear to me” (Yirmiyahu 31:19).

But forty years later, in this week’s parsha, just before we were about to enter the Land of Israel, our nation had matured. We were then able to compose a song to Hashem

on our own. We no longer needed Moshe to do it for us. We were able to compose our own song, “Then the Jewish people sang this song, ‘Spring up O well, sing to it!’”

The Sfas Emes explains differently. According to him, Moshe and the Jewish people sang the song at the sea together because both were on the same level. But at the end of the forty years in the desert, after we had done teshuva for the many mistakes we had made, we were on an even higher level than Moshe, as the Gemara (Brachos 34b) says, “Complete tzaddikim cannot stand in the place where baalei teshuva stand.” Because the Jewish people were on a higher level than Moshe at the end of our time in the desert, the pasuk says that we sang the song at the well without Moshe. We had surpassed him.

We can connect the understanding mentioned earlier, that the Jewish people praised Hashem on their own without Moshe’s guidance because we had matured to the point that we were able to compose our own song to G-d, to two beautiful pesukim written by Shlomo Hamelech. In Mishlei (5:15-16) he compares four stages in a person’s life to four sources of water: “Drink water out of your cistern and running water out of your well. And your spring will be dispersed outside and streams [rivers] of water will flow in the broad places.” We see here four sources of water: a cistern, a well,

a spring, and a river. Each of these four sources of water has different characteristics.

A cistern is not an independent source of water. It only has whatever water people put in it. We cannot take anything from it that we did not place into it. A well, on the other hand, is an independent source of water, but it is limited. The water does not rise above a certain point.

And the only way to access it is for someone to lower a bucket into the well and draw the water out. A spring is qualitatively different. Not only is it an independent source of water, but the water must find a way to come out of the ground. It will search until it finds a way to emerge.

And a river is even more powerful.

It rushes across the ground in huge streams and currents and will not be stopped.

These four sources of water also correspond to four stages in an individual’s life. The cistern corresponds to one’s childhood. Before a person begins to think independently, all he has are the thoughts, information, and good qualities imparted to him by his parents, rebbeim, and teachers. He has nothing other than what is put into him, just like a cistern only has whatever water was placed in it.

The next stage of life begins around the time of one’s bar or bas mitzvah. Some people begin to mature at a younger age and many others do not start maturing until much later. Men in particular some-

times do not begin to grow up until they are in their forties and others leave the world without ever forsaking their infantile thinking. Women, thankfully, generally mature at a much younger age. The well corresponds to this stage in life. It is no coincidence that this transition from childhood into adolescence is called “bar” mitzvah, which is related to the phrase “be’er mitzvah, the well of the mitzvah.” At this stage, the child begins to think independently.

He asks deeper questions and starts to draw his own conclusions. But, like a well, his waters do not spring forth on their own. His parents, rebbeim, and teachers must lower a bucket down into him to draw out his own deeper thoughts, feelings, and actions.

The third stage of life is when things truly begin to get lively. At this stage, a young man or woman becomes like a spring. His or her waters, i.e., unique ideas and ideals, begin to spring forth without any coaxing from parents, rebbeim, or teachers. This young person becomes, as the Mishna in Avos (2:8) says, a “ma’ayan ha’misgabeir, an ever-strengthening wellspring.” It is also no coincidence that the word for “ever-strengthening” is misgabeir, which has the same letters as mitgaber, maturing. A young person who reaches this wellspring stage of life cannot contain the good, the idealism, the talent, the knowledge, and the creativity he or she has inside. It must find a means

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of expression. It must burst forth and it does so of its own power. Parents, rebbeim, or teachers need not coax out the waters of this person’s inner greatness.

The final stage is the raging river. A person who reaches this stage in life has ideas, knowledge and ideals which he must spread as widely as possible. Someone like this is compelled to teach others, to lead, to write, and to bring major projects to fruition. His waters spread forth and cover all of the expanses of the earth.

The miracle of the well was how Hashem turned a dry rock into a flowing well of water. This is similar to the wellspring of creativity, talent, idealism, knowledge, and generosity hidden within the Jewish people. At the beginning, our parents and teachers – Moshe Rebbeinu and Aharon Hakohein – had to draw our waters, our song, out from us word by word. But over the forty years in the desert, we grew up and matured.

Like any young person transitioning from childhood into adulthood, we caused our teachers untold aggravation and pain during our time in the desert. Those were our teenage years. We were testing the limits and trying to form an independent identity from our teachers before we knew how to do so in a constructive way. But in the end we became a mature nation, ready to compose our own song to Hashem from our own waters, our own song at the well.

The truth is that when we sang the song at the well, it was not a song praising Hashem for giving us the well for the first time. That had happened forty years earlier. We were on the cusp of entering Eretz Yisroel and we were soon going to say goodbye to the well, to the water we were given based on the merit of Miriam.

We were able to end the time in our national life when Moshe, Aharon and Miriam led us and drew out the goodness from within us. That epoch in our history was coming to a close.

So the song at the well was really a goodbye song. We gave thanks for our teachers’ guidance when we needed it as we prepared for our national adulthood and independence in the only place on earth where we could actualize the full breadth of our inner greatness – in Eretz Yis-

roel, about which the pasuk (Devarim 8:7) says, “For Hashem your G-d is bringing you to a good land, a land with rivers of water, wellsprings, and deep [waters] going forth in the valley and in the mountain.” We were leaving the age of the cistern and the well and entering the time of the wellspring and the raging river.

threw off his tallis and tefillin and ran to the man’s house to bring what he needed for the yahrtzeit. The chassid was mortified. When the Rebbe returned, he pleaded with him, “Rebbe! Please forgive me! I never meant to ask the Rebbe to get the food for me! I asked someone to get a young boy to do it!”

So the Rebbe answered him, “Let

A young person who reaches this wellspring stage of life cannot contain the good, the idealism, the talent, the knowledge, and the creativity he or she has inside.

Because the song at the well functioned as a goodbye ballad to our teachers, it contains a reference to Moshe Rebbeinu and his death. In it, we said (Bamidbar 21:20), “From the heights to the valley in the field of Moav, at the top of the summit, rosh ha’pisgah, that overlooks the wastelands.” And at the end of the Torah (Devarim 34:1), when Moshe was ascending Har Nevo as he was about to leave the world, the pasuk says, “And Moshe went up from the plains of Moav to Har Nevo [to the] top of the summit, rosh ha’pisgah, facing Yericho…” This reference to the top of the summit in the song at the well was therefore a hint at Moshe Rebbeinu, to whom they were about to bid farewell.

The chavrusa of the Sar Shalom of Belz, zy”a, was the great gaon and tzaddik, Rav Shalom Kaminka, zy”a. One day, one of Rav Shalom’s chassidim had yahrtzeit, and, as was the custom, he planned to bring some schnapps and kichel upon which the other chassidim would make a bracha in memory of the person for whom this chassid was saying kaddish. Unfortunately, he forgot to bring the bag he had prepared with the food. He panicked when he remembered and asked someone next to him, “Oh! Can you ask a young boy to run to my house to get the kichel and schnapps?”

But before anyone knew what had happened, the Rebbe, Rav Shalom,

me tell you why I ran to get your kichel and schnapps. Before I became a bar mitzvah, I did not want to grow up. So I made an agreement with the Master of the World. I said I would only grow up on condition

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that whenever I wanted, I could go back to being a child again. When I heard you say you needed a young boy to bring what you needed from home, I chose that moment to take advantage of the condition I made with Hashem and took it upon myself to run to your house to fetch what you needed, just like a child would.”

All of us have the ability to fulfill our own unique potential and draw from our own inner creativity to illuminate the world. But we also have the ability to do so with the freshness and exuberance of a child, just like Rav Shalom Kaminka. May we all merit to grow up to spread our inner gifts, creativity, thoughts, ideals, knowledge, and talents in the world independently while never losing that sense of childlike wonder and excitement.

Rav Moshe Weinberger, shlita, is the founding Morah d’Asrah of Congregation Aish Kodesh in Woodmere, NY, and serves as leader of the new mechina Emek HaMelech.

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Variable Value

By Eytan Kobre

We may say we value this thing or that thing more than any other, but the volume of our actions speaks louder than our words.

-Louie Giglio

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man who passed away came to Heaven and wanted to know the value of things up there.

He asked an angel, “So, how much is a minute of time worth up here?”

“Well,” came the response, “a minute here is worth a thousand years on earth.”

“Wow! That’s incredible,” said the man. “And, tell me, how much is a nickel worth up here?”

“Well,” came the response, “a nickel here is worth a million dollars on earth.”

“Wow! That’s incredible,” said the man. After a moment of contemplation, the man asked, “Can I please have a nickel?”

“Sure,” came the response. “In a minute.”

We tend to think of everything we do as having a fixed value. So, in our

minds, the reward for fulfilling a “major” commandment is a concomitantly “major” reward (and a “minor” commandment warrants only a “minor” reward), whereas the punishment for committing a “major” sin is a concomitantly “major” punishment (and a “minor” sin warrants only a “minor” punishment).

But, in reality, we control the value of our actions.

After recounting the Jewish people’s victory over Sichon and the Emori peoples, the Torah describes how “the parable-sayers would declare, Come to Cheshbon. Let the City of Sichon be built and established” (Bamidbar 21:27). The simple meaning of this verse refers to Bilaam and his friends, great prophets known to express themselves through parable, who told of Sichon’s victory over the Moabite peoples. But since we were already told of Sichon’s victory over the Moabite peoples (Bamidbar 21:26), the verse must teach something else (Rashi, Bava Basra 78b; Yaaros Dvash, Drush 5; Torah Temima, Bamidbar 21:27).

It does. With a play on words, it “refers to those who rule their inclinations and say, Come and let us make an accounting. Let us weigh the loss sustained when performing a commandment against the reward of the commandment, and the gain of committing a sin against its loss” (Bava Basra 78b).

Indeed, we are to “be careful with a lenient commandment as with a serious one, for you do not know the reward for commandments; and calculate the loss of a commandment against its reward and the gain of a sin against its loss” (Avos 2:1; see Pele Yoetz, Eirech).

But if we “do not know the reward for commandments,” how can we “calculate the loss of a commandment against its reward and the gain of a sin against its loss”?

And there’s the rub.

The rewards and punishments for our deeds are not fixed or fated. We determine the value of our actions by the extent to which we sacrifice for them (or are prepared to). So, for example, one who is willing to work on Shabbos for $10,000 has demonstrated that Shabbos observance is worth only $10,000 to him, while one who refuses to work on Shabbos no matter the price demonstrates that Shabbos observance is of infinite value. The reward for Shabbos observance thus depends upon each person’s individual level of commitment. And the same could be said for every other commandment and sin.

So, we are to “be careful with a lenient commandment as with a serious one, for you do not know the reward for commandments” – because our deeds have no preordained, fixed value. How then are we to make decisions based upon notions of reward and

punishment? By “calculating the loss of a commandment against its reward and the gain of a sin against its loss,” for it is the tradeoffs we are willing to make that determine the value of our actions (Sefer Hafla’ah, Introduction).

It all depends on the individual’s level of commitment: one who is prepared to sacrifice much will receive much in return.

But the converse also is true: our level of commitment comes with the responsibility of living up to the value we have assigned to our actions.

Perhaps that is the reason that “one who is traveling and studying Torah and interrupts his learning to comment, ‘How nice is this tree’ or ‘How nice is this field’ is regarded as deserving of death (Avos 3:7). Interrupting Torah study, to be sure, is a grave sin (see e.g. Sanhedrin 99a; Chagiga 5b; Shabbos 32b; Berachos 5a). But so harsh a punishment?

The case concerns one who is traveling but nonetheless studies Torah, which demonstrates a high regard for Torah study. By interrupting to take in the scenery, however, he prioritizes the mundane and fleeting over something to which his own actions already have assigned great value. And that warrants a harsher punishment than might otherwise be meted out.

There once was a man who needed

one thousand rubles to marry off his daughter. With only one ruble to his name and nowhere else to turn, the man traveled to seek the advice of his rebbe, R’ Avraham Yehoshua Heschel, the Apter Rov. Without elaboration or explanation, the Apter Rov instructed the man to seize on the first business opportunity he encountered, which he guaranteed would yield the monies needed for the wedding. The man could not fathom what a chance business prospect with one ruble would look like, but he had his rebbe’s assurances, and he took comfort in that. He set out for the return trip home.

The man soon came to a roadside inn, where he overheard a group of merchants discussing various business ventures. Mindful of the Apter Rov’s instructions, the man approached the businessmen and asked whether they had any business opportunities for him and his one ruble. The merchants snickered.

“Sure,” one merchant replied. “I’ll

sell you my share in the World to Come for your one ruble.” The man accepted the proposal and handed over his one and only ruble.

When the merchant arrived home, he told his wife of the “foolish” man who had bought his share in the World

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now-penniless man, and, explaining his predicament, offered to buy back his share in the World to Come for the original purchase price of one ruble.

The man refused. The merchant offered one hundred rubles to buy back his share in the World to Come. Still

“Sure,” one merchant replied. “I’ll sell you my share in the World to Come for your one ruble.”

to Come for a ruble. His wife was not amused. She was not interested in a man who would sell his share in the World to Come (much less for a measly ruble), so she gave him this ultimatum: buy back his share in the World to Come or divorce her.

The merchant tracked down the

the man refused. The merchant’s offers increased steadily until he managed to convince the man to sell back his share in the World to Come...for one thousand rubles – the very sum needed by the man to marry off his daughter.

But the merchant’s wife was not satisfied. She could not understand

how it was right or fair for the man to insist on a price of one thousand rubles for something he previously had purchased for only one ruble. (She was also skeptical that her husband’s share in the World to Come was worth one thousand rubles.) She went to see the Apter Rov. The Apter Rov explained to her that, when her husband initially sold his share in the World to Come for one ruble, that’s all it was worth – because that’s how he valued it. When he later demonstrated a willingness to buy back that same share in the World to Come for one thousand rubles, the value of his share in the World to Come increased to one thousand rubles. Through our level of commitment and sacrifice, we determine the value of our own actions.

And that is a notion as daunting as it is empowering.

Eytan Kobre is a writer, speaker, and attorney living in Kew Gardens Hills. Questions? Comments? Suggestions? E-mail eakobre@outlook.com.

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Builders

Gitty Beer Changing the Face of EMS in Israel

By Raphael Poch

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itty Beer is the wife of United Hatzalah founder and president Eli Beer, but that isn’t what makes her great. Beer is a woman of her own achievements, who is changing the face of emergency response in Israel and may soon change the world.

“My entire life I have wanted to become a volunteer first responder, but as the wife of the president of United Hatzalah, Eli Beer, I first needed to hold down the fort and raise our family. About four years ago, I realized that my children were getting older and didn’t need me at home as much, so I knew that it was time for me to get out there and become a volunteer as well,” Beer says.

“I joined an EMT training course of 180 hours that was aimed at spe8 cifically training women in the reo ligious Orthodox communities,” she shares. “Most of the women who attended were not interested

in becoming full volunteers, rather they were interested in gaining the knowledge of how to save a life in order that they could volunteer on a limited basis in their own communities.”

Beer felt that it wasn’t quite enough to stop at being a regular EMT and continued training to become a CPR instructor. She now teaches CPR and basic first aid courses around the country to women and has begun the organization’s first-ever all Women’s Unit that serves women in communities such as the ultra-Orthodox or Muslim communities, wherein privacy and modesty are considered ethos of the highest value.

In the past few years since completing her EMT training course, Beer has responded to hundreds of emergency calls. Sometimes she even dashes out the door when an emergency alert sounds and leaves

her husband behind to take care of their children. Other times the couple responds together. Now even her daughters have gotten into the act and are also trained as first responders. “It’s always been a family project, but now it is so much more as we have all gone out together. There are four of us now who are trained first responders, so when our family goes out, that is more EMS personnel than arrive in an ambulance,” she notes.

Some emergencies stick in her mind as guideposts and have affected her in ways that she will never forget. “The first call I ever went on is one that I will never forget. I was going to visit my father who wasn’t feeling well and I brought a doctor from United Hatzalah to come with me to see him,” she relates. “As we arrived the doctor pulled up to a different house nearby and told me to get out of the car as we had a CPR

case right then and there. I told him that I wasn’t qualified as I had just barely finished the course. Truth is, I was qualified; I was just a bit scared.

The doctor wasn’t having any of my excuses and told me to get out and come with him to help do the CPR. We were the first responders at the scene and we began working in tandem to perform CPR on the patient.

When other responders came, they joined our efforts and we all worked together so seamlessly it was terrific.

“The unity of purpose that I saw and felt, with everyone working together to save a complete stranger, is something that has left its mark on me forever,” she says.

Beer recounts another incident that inspired her. “One time a woman was carrying her children when she slipped and fell down the stairs.

The woman and her two-year-old broke one of their legs and the baby she was carrying was luckily un-

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injured. I arrived at the scene and treated the woman and her twoyear-old. Then, after numerous attempts, she couldn’t reach her husband. I went with her to the hospital and watched her baby as she and her child were getting treatment.

I stayed for five hours because I didn’t want to bring the baby into the emergency room for fear of it contracting a virus. No other organization that I know of, volunteer or otherwise, would do something like that,” Beer adds.

For Beer, being a United Hatzalah volunteer goes far beyond simply responding to emergency calls; it has become a way of empowering communities and helping as many people as possible, whether they happen to be the patients or the first responders themselves.

“The organization is really made out of heart and soul,” Beer asserts.

“Each and every volunteer simply gives 100 percent of themselves to the patient. What is more impressive is that most of the time the patients won’t even remember who the volunteers who helped them are and the volunteers won’t get anything back beyond their own personal gratification. The only thing that I receive from my volunteering is a sense of joy at knowing that I helped another person. It is because of this that I believe that our volunteers don’t drop out. Many stay for years because they know that they are doing

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something worthwhile that they find that gratifying.

She continues, “The whole idea of United Hatzalah is that we help within our community, so when we had a specific group of people who wanted to volunteer on their terms and only in their community, then

ly be more comfortable receiving treatment from someone from their own country who speaks their own language and understands them.

The same thing happens in each community. The patient feels more comfortable with someone that they connect with. Whether it is someone

Sometimes she even dashes out the door when an emergency alert sounds and leaves her husband behind to take care of their children.

that is what we as an organization provided. We are able to do this because we come from the community and provide for the needs of each and every community. This takes place in the Orthodox communities, the secular communities, Muslim communities, Druze communities, Bedouin communities, Christian communities and others.”

To explain this idea a bit fuller, Beer gives the example of a person having a medical emergency in a foreign country. “Of course they would accept treatment from a qualified local team, but they would certain-

from the same community or someone of the same religion or gender even.” She adds, “And while there is no ethical or religious problem with a man treating a woman or vice versa, the comfort of having a woman treat a woman for certain issues is an extra level of comfort that we can now provide the patient.

“While I am proud of my own achievements and those of the organization and the Rabbonim who supported me, I personally am often too tired to reflect on the change that we have wrought in just a few short years. But once in a while, a major

event happens that jolts me to realize just what a huge accomplishment the women in the unit have created.

Recently, in Meron, we had over 40 women volunteering from the organization who treated hundreds of women that needed help during the holiday pilgrimage of Lag Ba’Omer.

The fact that we had women operating a women’s health clinic at the heart of the very celebration was so positively received that we are still getting thank you letters from women who received treatment more than a week later. It made such a difference for hundreds of people – and that was just one day.”

Beer’s dream is to increase the number of women working and volunteering as EMS personnel around the world, starting in Israel. Currently in the U.S. according to the NREMT, only 30 percent of EMT level first responders are female, whether they are volunteers or work in paid positions. “This field is seen as a man’s world,” says Beer, “and it doesn’t need to be. On the contrary, as women make up a higher percentage of the population, there should be more women in the field than men because the patient is more likely to be a woman.

“My dream is that there should not be a city in the world that will not have a female emergency medical representative available to help women feel more comfortable being treated in medical emergencies.”

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safety first

mework ther, and the absence of ho wea r rme wa s, day ger lon with on and freedom son is a period of relaxati sea mer sum the ts, tes and ily stays safe s alike. make sure your fam for both kids and parent down slabs of ice cream cones and scarf _ and make this as they lick their creamy p these tips in min d kee es. rri che of ls bow watermelon and summer the most fun yet!

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summer is the perfect time for swimming, boating, and splashing in the sprinklers. make sure your family knows these water_related rules so they can keep safe as they cool down.

Never swim – even just for a minute or to “dip in your toes” – without a lifeguard present. Disaster can strike even the most experienced swimmers at any time. A lifeguard watching you can either save you or get you the proper assistance within a moment of something happening.

long, strong stick, if you are strong enough not to get pulled in and there are no adults around. If someone is underwater, call for help immediately!

Swim with a buddy – and keep an eye on him or her.

When boating, all children should be wearing life jackets at all times.

Although the life jackets may feel a bit uncomfortable, they can – and do – save lives.

If you hear thunder or see lightning, get out of the pool immediately.

Swimming and alcohol is a definite no-no. Drinking alcohol can slow your reflexes and lull you into a dangerous situation.

Do not dive off the side of the pool unless the pool is deep enough for diving. And never dive in a lake, when the depths can shift and objects can move underneath.

Do not run in the pool area.

Make sure the walkways are clear around the pool.

Never take your eyes off young children even for a “minute.” Drownings can happen in just a few minutes.

Keep your pool locked with a gate around it and make sure it is secure when you are not using the pool.

If you witness someone having trouble in the water, do not jump in to help him. Signal the lifeguard or adult to get them help. You can also reach out to them with an object, such as a flotation device or a

When swimming in a lake it’s preferable to wear footgear as sharp objects can be lurking underneath.

Heading towards the beach? Make sure you are swimming under a lifeguard’s protection.

If you find yourself stuck in a riptide, swim out of the current by swimming parallel to the shore. Remain calm and try to c o n s e r v e your energy as you wait for help to assist you if you cannot get out of the current on your own.

Speaking of water, make sure you and your children stay hydrated. Sometimes we forget to drink when we’re at the pool or the beach. Hey, there’s water all around! But keeping a water bottle handy and measuring how much you drank all day can be useful.

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we love the sun _ hey, isn't that what we look forward to all year? to bask in the sun's rays and enjoy the warm weather? as much as the longer, sunnier days herald a great season, make sure you don't get too much of a good thing.

Sunscreen! You can’t get enough of it! Make sure you are using an unexpired sunscreen with an SPF of at least 30. Cover your and your child’s whole body – from head to toe. Remember the tops of the ears, the top of the head (for those who don’t have the advantage of a full head of hair), the shoulders, back, back of the legs and toes.

Lather up on the sunscreen even when it’s cloudy – the sun is still out, it’s just a bit shy.

Reapply every two hours – and more often when you’re sweaty or wet.

Cover up! Even though it’s hot, covering your body can block much of the sun’s damaging rays. Think wide-brim hats, cotton clothes or clothing with SPF in them, and sunglasses.

Stay in – at least during the sun’s peak hours. The sun is strongest between the hours of 10AM to 2PM. Consider doing indoor activities during that time.

Stay hydrated. Have your children take “water breaks” throughout the day. The young and the elderly need to be reminded to drink.

Never leave children, infants, or pets in a parked car – even just for a few minutes. The car can become an oven for those left in without air conditioning. If you are someone who is inclined to forget things, keep your purse or phone in the backseat near your child. This way, you’ll be reminded of your cuties as you exit your vehicle.

If your infant is really hot, consider bathing him or sponging him down throughout the day.

Be aware of the symptoms of heat exhaustion and heat stroke, conditions that are extremely dangerous. The signs of heat exhaustion include confusion, dark colored urine, dizziness, fainting, fatigue, headache, nausea or diarrhea, pale skin, heavy sweating, and a rapid heartbeat.

If someone is experiencing heat exhaustion, immediately bring them to a cool place, remove any tight clothing, give them sips of water or a sports drink, and apply cooling towels or sponges to their skin. If they do not recover, alert a medical professional.

Heat stroke is more severe than heat exhaustion. If you suspect someone has heat stroke, call 911 immediately. Heat stroke can cause damage to internal organs. The symptoms for heat stroke include fainting, red, hot and dry skin, lack of sweating despite the heat, muscle weakness or cramps, nausea and vomiting, rapid heartbeat, rapid and shallow breathing, confusion or disorientation, seizures, and unconsciousness. During heat stroke, the body’s core temperature rises to above 104 degrees. Professional help is critical. While waiting for help to arrive, move the injured person to a cool area, fan the air over the patient while wetting his skin, apply ice packs to his groin, armpits, neck and back, and give the person a cool bath or shower.

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don't you love the outdoors during the summer? the problem during these months, though, are the extra multi_legged " friends" who love to join you in your garden or at your barbecue. keep bugs at bay with these tips.

Stay off the perfumes and scented soaps, and bugs will stay away from you.

button, arms and legs.

Clear any standing water on your property.

Use ice packs on insect bites for ten to fifteen minutes at a time. Benadryl is good for the itching associated with bug bites.

Some insects are attracted to bright, flowery clothes.

Wear insect repellant but make sure to avoid contact with your eyes or mouth. Children under six months of age should not be sprayed with repellants containing DEET. Some people use lemon eucalyptus oil as a natural mosquito repellant.

Make sure to use it in the right way. Lavender is also a natural bug repellant.

Planning on going on a hike? Have fun – but make sure you’re covered.

Wear pants and long sleeves. When you come home, take a shower. Check your body thoroughly for ticks – including your ears, waist, head, belly

If someone is allergic to certain bug bites and develops hives, swelling of the face, throat tightness, difficulty breathing, vomiting or fainting, contact your doctor immediately or call 911.

If you get a tick bite, it’s important to remove the tick and get seen by a doctor. Make sure to grasp the insect as close to the skin’s surface as possible using tweezers. Pull straight up and away from the skin, applying steady pressure. Try not to bend or twist the tick. Check the bite site to see if you left any of the tick’s head or mouth parts in the bite. Clean the bite site with soap and water. Save the tick so you can show it to your doctor when you go to see him soon after receiving the bite.

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Keep children away from the grill. The barbecue grill gets really hot and little children’s minds – and hands – are very curious. Make a three-foot kids-free zone around the grill to prevent any injuries.

Watch little children when outside to make sure they don’t put anything not fit for consumption in their mouths.

Remove all lighters and matches from areas that children have access to.

If your child bumps his head, keep an eye on him for signs of a traumatic brain injury.

Don’t leave perishables like meat and mayonnaise-based foods out in the sun.

Make sure children wear helmets when biking, roller blading and scootering.

Children should play on playground equipment designed for their age and abilities.

Look out for poison ivy, poison sumac and poison oak on your property and when your children are playing in the grass.

Poison ivy has three pointed notched leaves per stem. With poison sumac, six to twelve leaves grow in pairs with a single leaf topping stems. Poison oak looks like poison ivy but its tips are rounded.

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A Candid Conversation about Preventing Abuse in Camp TJH Speaks with Dr. Hylton Lightman and Debbie Fox, LCSW

By Susan Schwamm

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owels? Check.

Soap dish? Check.

Shampoo? Conditioner?

Check and check.

As we pack up our children for camp we fill their suitcases with many things. Socks, underwear, shirts, and towels are stuffed into their duffels and trunks the days before camp. We buy them cases of waters and bags of nosh; we shop for last-minute batteries and fans. We remember to send them stamps in the off-chance that they’ll remember to send a letter to their grandparents back at home.

But our children are young and, no matter what the age, going away from home presents challenges. Before you wave goodbye to them at the camp bus stop make sure you spend a few minutes with your daughter or son talking about the challenges that may come up during the next month or so away from home.

A Casual Conversation Dr. Hylton Lightman, noted pediatrician and medical director of Total Family Care in Far Rockaway, suggests talking with your children – whether they go to sleepaway camp or are heading to day camp – about numerous topics that pertain to their camping experience.

“You tell the child in a general way,” Dr. Lightman suggests. “You tell them, you’re going to camp, you’ll meet new people, you’ll make new friends… We have certain safety rules in camp.” For instance, he says, “I’m sending you water bottles. We want you to drink a lot of water, not sugary drinks because they can dehydrate you in the heat.” By taking a calm approach and discussing numerous safety facts with your children you can broach many topics – and not create anxiety about certain ones.

“The purpose is not to scare anybody or induce anxiety in a child. Many of them are anxious about going away for the first time so we need to approach these topics in a nonchalant manner,” he says.

Talk about wearing sunblock, Dr. Lightman advises. Remind them to brush their teeth and to change their socks. He quips that kids need to be reminded to make sure that they have clean underwear “because sometimes kids will come back from camp with a beautifully immaculate packed trunk which they did not pack in the first place.” We’ve all been there before.

Standing up to bullies is also something parents should address before camp. Children should be encouraged to let things “slide” and not to escalate conflicts with bullies. A shrug of the shoulder or a quick retort to a bully may deflect the confrontation – and discourage the bully from

continuing his tirade against your child.

Eventually the conversation will include other safety topics.

Debbie Fox, LCSW, agrees that a conversation with children before camp about topics of safety is vital – and that it’s important that the conversation is “natural.”

“Don’t create THE talk, that children often have a reaction to or may laugh at,” she says about discussing topics about abuse and inappropriateness. Mrs. Fox is the founder of the Safety Kid program taught internationally in frum schools. “Instead, find a natural, normative way to have that conversation occur.” She suggests finding a window of opportunity that may lead to a conversation of this sort. Perhaps you’re going swimsuit shopping and you mention to your child, “Oh, this just reminded me, as you’re putting on your bathing suit,

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that there are private areas of your body that are covered by a bathing suit that no one should ever touch.”

Then you can talk to your child about changing times in camp or pranks that may be inappropriate and remind them about how certain “touches” are not OK. Perhaps you can bring up your camp experience or talk about situations that may have occurred to you when there were pranks or jokes that felt not OK.

ABCDs of Safety For those going to camp for the first time, changing for the pool or for the shower may present an awkward situation. At home, children are taught to change their clothes in the privacy of the bathroom or their bedroom. In camp, things are very different when it comes to changing for swimming or for showers.

Dr. Lightman suggests talking about the concept of modesty and tzinius with children. He adds that children should be encouraged to change in a way that’s more “becoming” and more private. Remind children not to run around the bunkhouse without their clothes, he notes. Simple things, but sometimes young children are exuberant and rushing to get to an activity and may forget.

There is safety in numbers. Children should be told to bring a friend when going to a place that’s a bit more secluded. “Three is a crowd,” Dr. Lightman says, “but hopefully three is safer than two.” He adds, “Tell your children to never be alone with a counselor – just you with a closed door. It’s very important that other people can see what’s happening. So keep the door open, so others can see what’s happening.” Counselors should also keep this in mind. If they need to change a child who soiled himself, suggests Dr. Lightman, they should bring along another counselor to ensure that everything is appropriate.

“Bring a friend” is not a new concept to children in our community.

Safety Kid, an international program that educates children on the topic of safety, teaches our children about the ABCD’s of safety: Ask for help, Bring a friend, Check first, and Do tell. If children are told that they should always make sure to have at least one

friend with them when they are meeting with a counselor or with others, the chances of something inappropriate occurring decreases dramatically.

What are Your Camp’s Procedures?

Debbie Fox, LCSW, is the founder of the Safety Kid program. About five years ago, she started to bring the program to camps, to train counselors and those working in camps about

that three to four months in advance.

You need to ask questions like, how do you train your counselors before camp? There should be policies about staff left alone with campers in unsupervised or isolated areas. Is there a training for camp staff on creating a safe environment for campers? What procedures are in place for children to report concerns and to address any allegations? Where should children go if there is any concern about

“Tell your children to never be alone with a counselor - just you with a closed door.”

these safety issues. She has worked with girls’ and boys’ camps in the frum community. Now she is involved with educating parents about how to talk to their children before they go to camp and when they come home after a long summer.

She says that as parents our number one responsibility is to start a conversation with camps about this topic.

If camps see that parents are asking about camper/counselor guidelines or contracts that counselors are required to sign before going to camp then they would work to ensure that those demands are met. “Parents have to start being responsible as parents,” she asserts. “If you want your child’s camp to be safe, you need to start

anything occurring in camp? Who are they supposed to speak to and do they have guidelines, written guidelines, for counselors to be trained on and for counselors to sign that they have read and they understand what their requirements are in reference to counselors?”

It’s funny. As parents we can be calling the camp numerous times throughout the year to ask them what their policy is regarding electronics or skirt lengths or reading material. But how many times have we called our children’s camps to demand that our children enjoy their camp experience in the safest environment?

Ask your child’s camp about its policy about a counselor sitting

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down on a camper’s bed. What’s the camp policy on an adult taking a walk through a forest with a camper? Is there someone who checks secluded areas in camp on a regular basis? Are there counselors going in and out of bunkhouses after lights-out?

Lest anyone think that they’ve already failed, as they never had that discussion with their children’s camps, there’s no time like the present. Yes, camps are busy now – and so are parents. But this is something that can be discussed with head staff a day or two into the session. If enough parents raise the issue, then camps will feel pressured to step up to the plate.

Talking about counselors and crossing boundaries, Dr. Lightman suggests using the term “social skills of space” when talking to children about this topic before they go to camp. Social skills includes not taking over the whole table when you’re eating. In the same way, children should be reminded not to take over someone else’s locker with their clothing. Laying on someone else’s bed is a no-no too – because that’s an invasion of their space.

Our children are smart – and they should be told to go with their gut.

“There are many different individuals and everybody has their own quirks and personalities,” Dr. Lightman says.

“There are some people you’re going to like and there are some people you’re going to dislike. If somebody makes you feel weird or you have funny sensations and vibes, keep away from that individual,” Dr. Lightman counsels. “If somebody wants to invade your space and territory and say, ‘Let’s go. Let’s go lie down. Let’s go to the bathroom together,’ be wary because you want to have your own privacy.”

A Trusted Adult & A Password Before heading to camp parents and children should talk about a trusted adult a child can go to if they feel uncomfortable or if something happened or is happening that does not feel right.

“The parent is the adult,” Mrs. Fox asserts. “The parent has to tell the child before camp that if you cannot reach me for any reason and anything

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at all happens in camp that makes you uncomfortable or that you’re uncomfortable with or you have questions about, this is the person I want you to go speak to. Kids can’t figure that out on their own when they’re sitting in camp with all these people around them and something’s happening that makes them uncomfortable or something happened that was inappropriate.”

Identify the trusted adults your child can depend on in camp if they can’t reach you. Perhaps it’s a head counselor, or a camp mother, or even an older relative. Your child should know there is always someone there who they can depend on in times of crisis.

Mrs. Fox also suggests that a family have a family emergency password that children can use in a conversation with their parents that will relay the message to their parents that they have to act immediately to help them.

That doesn’t mean that their parents will drop everything and make the two hour trek to camp. It means that the parents know that at that point they need to get the camp director or head counselor involved because something is not right.

A family emergency password isn’t just for camp. Suppose a child goes to their friend’s house for a sleepover and their friend’s brother is making them feel a bit too uncomfortable. A child won’t be able to convey that to their parents over the phone without feeling embarrassed in front of their friend. But a password can let their parents know that something isn’t right.

Touching is Not a Game Before camp it’s important to go over with your child about what is OK and not-OK touching. Mrs. Fox says that fewer than 30% of parents nationwide have ever discussed sexual abuse prevention with their children.

That’s horrifying, considering that alerting your children to the dangers can be the best tool for prevention of abuse. This conversation, says Mrs. Fox, is the best tool you can give your children to ward off possible abuse.

Says Mrs. Fox, “Make sure to remind your children, if somebody wants to touch you or look at you or talk about your private parts – any-

body, whether it is the camp director, a counselor, a friend, someone in your bunk or even a Rebbe....you need to yell, No! Children have the right to say

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children that even if someone says that it’s just a “touching game” or a “secret,” that’s an automatic “do tell” scenario and the child should go to

“If somebody makes you feel weird or you have funny sensations and vibes, you keep away from that individual.”

no, no matter who the person is, what their role is in camp, and even if they try to threaten the child not to tell.”

“When it comes to private parts, these belong to you and you alone,” reminds Dr. Lightman. “It’s not anybody’s business to see them, no one is allowed to touch you in the private places and you can’t touch anybody else.”

He adds that showing children something inappropriate on an iPad or on their phone or in a magazine is also not OK. “A child has to have strength to tell their ‘friend’ that that’s not the way that they were brought up and that they don’t want to see such stuff.” It takes a strength of character but you’d be surprised at how strong our children are. Being shown those images or movies is not appropriate, and a trusted adult or parent should be told immediately if that happens.

Mrs. Fox reminds parents to tell

their trusted adult or call their parents right away.

If someone is being touched inappropriately, Dr. Lightman says that if they can’t run away, they should scream. Yes, children should be told to scream, even if there is no one around. Perhaps the screaming will ward off the attacker. Additionally, it has been found that those who were assaulted and screamed during the assault psychologically felt less guilt on their part since they felt that they attempted to fight the assault.

Your Parent is Your Friend Whether they are home or in camp, a child should know that their parents are their biggest advocates and their biggest support. If something happens that is not appropriate or if a child is molested, parents want to – and need to – hear about it. The earlier a child can tell their parents, the faster they can get the child the

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proper help that’s needed.

Part of ensuring a healthy summer occurs after camp. When the summer is finally over, parents should keep the lines of communication open. Many kids come home from camp with loads of laundry, hundreds of photos, and too many missing socks. When asked how they liked camp some of them can only offer a grunt and a monosyllabic “’Kay.” But parents have to draw their children out. Ask about their bunkmates – where they were from, what schools they went to – what their favorite activities were, what trips they went on, any arguments that went on in the bunk, any activities they didn’t like. Talk about color war or sports or canteen. Keep the conversation going – and show your child that you’re here to listen to what they have to say. Think about their behavior after camp. Is your child withdrawn, sullen, anxious, secretive? Is there a counselor who keeps her on the phone for too long? Is she afraid of sleeping?

Is he wetting his bed at night?

You know your child best. If something doesn’t feel right, talk to your child calmly. Maybe take them out for ice cream or go on a walk. Be there for them to help them understand their feelings and what happened.

Talk to your doctor or a psychologist to help you ascertain if it’s just teenage drama or something that needs to be addressed. “Do what’s good for your child,” Dr. Lightman urges. “And make sure this is addressed. If it’s not addressed appropriately at this time, it will manifest years later in a much more profound and deleterious manner.”

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s we wave goodbye to our children next week with a prayer on our lips at the camp bus stop we know that we are arming them for everything they can possibly encounter. Hopefully, they won’t have to use the strategies we discussed or encounter the situations we fear, and the next two months will be filled with lots of ice cream, sunblock and snapshots. Soon enough they’ll be coming home with many more friends and hundreds of wonderful memories that they will relive for a lifetime.

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Health & F tness

The “Light”er Side of Dermatology The Summer, the Sun, & Your Skin

By Rachel Bernstein, RPA-C

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sit down in my office and find myself bemused at the brilliant sunshine that seems to have an irresistible hold over my patients as it draws them to the nearest beach – essentially away from my indoor office. I pray my pleas of sunblock are still echoing somewhere deep in the recesses of their psyche. For a split second, I contemplate temporarily relocating my office to a beachfront but then decide that would be a bit impractical. Thus, while the sun beckons and captivates, I sit down to find another means of communicating a few summer dermatologic pearls to my patients.

Firstly, all those extensive warnings about the importance of sunblock, sunscreen, suntan lotion are all true! Use of sunblock prevents damage to the DNA in our skin cells by either absorbing or reflecting the ultraviolet rays radiating from the sun. Ultraviolet radiation is responsible for changes in the skin that lead to precancerous lesions known as actinic keratosis, as well as skin cancers like basal cell carcinomas, squamous cell carcinomas and malignant melanomas. Photoaging, which is the premature aging and wrinkling of the skin, can also be attributed to excessive sun exposure.

Clearly, sunblock is needed, however, with a plethora of choices, how do you know which to pick?

First, it’s important to understand that the ultraviolet radiation, UVR,

that reaches the earth’s surface can be divided into UV-B (290-320nm) and UV-A (320-400nm). Most of the damage caused by a sunburn is due to UV-B, however, UV-A accounts for more than 95% of the overall UVR that reaches us. A broad spectrum sunblock protects against both forms of ultraviolet radiation. To measure the effectiveness of the sunblock, the sun protection factor (SPF) is used.

The SPF is defined as the ratio of the amount of ultraviolet energy needed to produce redness (sunburn) on skin protected with sunblock that is applied at 2mg/cm2 to the amount of UV energy needed to produce redness on unprotected skin. In other words, a sun protection factor of 15 would allow you to stay in the sun 15 times longer than you could without sunblock protection. It should be noted that most people experience a far lower protection than the actual SPF listed on the sunblock as they often apply only a thin layer of sunblock far less than the 2mg/cm2 that had been tested.

The greater the number of the SPF, the more protection one has.

Studies have shown that although one may not develop redness or a burn with a lower SPF, there may still be unnoted damage to the underlying cells of the skin. Therefore, it is essential to apply a broad spectrum sunblock with a SPF of at least 30 (preferably a SPF of 50).

For acne prone skin, apply an oilfree sunblock and for more dry skin,

apply a moisturizing sunblock. Those with particularly sensitive skin should seek out sunblocks with the ingredients of titanium dioxide or zinc oxide as they are less irritating. Do not be afraid that applying sunblock will inhibit vitamin D synthesis needed for healthy bones as studies have shown that even those who apply the sunscreen maintain proper levels of vitamin D if they receive adequate sunlight. And of course, one can always take vitamin D supplements.

It is best to apply the sunblock about 15-30 minutes before going outdoors. Remember to apply the sunblock on all areas exposed to the sun including scalps that have thinning hair, behind the neck and ears.

Reapply sunblock every 90 minutes, especially following sweat-producing rigorous activities and swimming – even if you are wearing water-resistant sunblock. Try to avoid going outdoors during the hours when the sun is at its peak between 10a.m. and 2p.m.

In addition to sunblock, physical barriers such as protective sunglasses, clothing and wide brimmed hats are crucial. Please bear in mind that about 80% of the ultraviolet rays penetrate through the clouds on a cloudy day and UV light does penetrate through glass windows as well.

So, remember sunblock – never leave home without it!

Now what happens, if after all this,

you somehow find yourself with a really red, hot, tender sunburn?

A sunburn is an inflammatory reaction of the skin following extensive exposure to ultraviolet radiation.

Sunburns occur from exposure to sun, tanning beds, phototherapy lamps, and arc lamps. Redness of the affected area occurs 3-4 hours following exposure with the peak reaction occurring approximately 24 hours later.

Tanning occurs in specific skin types with slightly less extensive ultraviolet radiation exposure. Sunburns dramatically increase the lifetime risk of developing various skin cancers and inducing changes in moles. In extreme situations, hospitalization may be required for severe sunburns that result in second or third degree blistering burns, dehydration, secondary infection or extreme pain. If you develop an extensive sunburn with or without blistering and are in extreme discomfort, you should visit your dermatologist. In most cases, you can expect the redness to resolve over the next 4-7 days, usually with peeling of skin.

For the simple first degree sunburn, cold compresses, cool baths or showers with an anti-inflammatory medication such as Motrin (ibuprofen) should alleviate symptoms but will not shorten the course of the sunburn. You should avoid sun exposure until the sunburn has fully resolved.

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sometimes noted in the moles on your body. It’s important to familiarize yourself with your moles and to have any new moles or changes in preexisting ones evaluated by your dermatologist. Don’t forget to check even those moles on your body that are located in areas that never see the light of the sun. Since it is difficult to turn your head 180 degrees and see your back, it is highly recommended that you go for a full body exam once a year to your local dermatologist. The incidence of melanoma has more than doubled in the white population over the last 30 years, and melanoma currently is the sixth most common cancer in the United States. Therefore, it is important to look out for the ABCDEs of changing skin lesions: • Asymmetry: Half the lesion does not match the other half, as if it looks like a sunny side up egg.

• Border irregularity: The edges are not smooth but are notched; often appearing fudged or blurred.

• Color variegation: A variety of colors are noted with shades of tan, brown, gray or black. Shades of white, red, or blue discoloration are of particular concern.

• Diameter: A diameter greater than 6 mm or the size of a pencil eraser is characteristic, although some melanomas may be smaller in size; any growth in a mole warrants an evaluation.

• Evolving or Elevation: Any changes or elevation in the lesion over time should be evaluated.

Although often moles may still turn out to be benign, it is important to check them out. Any bleeding or itching of moles may be a warning sign and certainly non-healing ulcers or erosions should always be evaluated.

Now here are some thoughts about a topic that I know will touch the hearts and minds of my teenager readers.

What about teenage acne?

Acne vulgaris, the official name, is a common chronic skin condition involving the blockage and/or inflammation of the pilosebaceous units (hair follicles and their accompanying sebaceous units). It’s well-known that light therapy has a positive effect on acne and has been used over the years to treat acne. Many agree that their acne improves significantly during the

summer months. However, the extra summer sweat may contribute to the clogging of the pores and an increase in acne. Therefore, more frequent cleansing of the face and trunk may be warranted. There are a multitude of over-the-counter acne treatments packaged as liquid washes, pads, lotions, creams and gels. Benzoyl peroxide and salicylic acid are the main ingredients in most of these products.

ply avoid these medications during the hot summer months.

For those of you who relish sitting on the beach sipping a refreshing lemonade, please be aware of something called phytophotodermatitis.

This occurs when the juice of several seemingly innocuous plants, vegetables and fruits react with sunlight on your skin leaving a mild burn with inflammation and discoloration. The

The incidence of melanoma has more than doubled in the white population over the last 30 years, and melanoma currently is the sixth most common cancer in the United States.

If your acne is not well controlled with these products, you may need more extensive prescriptive oral and/or topical treatments. Only oil-free cosmetics and sunblocks should be applied.

Be aware that the commonly used oral medications for acne treatment such as the tetracycline antibiotics (i.e. Doxycycline, Minocycline) and isotretinoin (Acutane) as well as the retinoid topicals (i.e. Retin- A, Differin, tretinoin) are photosensitive drugs and may cause an increase in sensitivity to the sun inducing a sunburn even with very limited sun exposure. Thus, either be extremely diligent to reapply the sunblock every 1-2 hours or sim-

stains usually fade over time and can resolve more quickly with a topical steroid cream. Some of the common culprits are lime, lemon, parsley, celery and carrots.

If you have sensitive, dry, itchy skin and a history of eczema, you may note a flare-up during the hot summer months. Traditionally, eczema has been known as the winter itch, however, all those summer water activities and hours in the pool as well as multiple showers can also elicit the dry itchy patches of eczema. Although sun exposure improves the lesions, sweating can be irritating and increase the itching. Be careful to limit the amount

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of time in the shower, not to use very hot water, and to moisturize yourself with over-the-counter emollients/ moisturizers after showering to seal in the moisture. Effective and inexpensive products include petrolatum, Vaseline, Aquafor, Cerave, etc. Be sure to use unscented moisturizing soap that will not dry your skin out. If you still have trouble keeping the eczema patches under control, you may need prescriptive topical steroids to relieve your symptoms.

Another common recurring summer rash is known as tinea versicolor or TV. TV is a benign condition caused by the Malassezia yeast/fungus that resides on the body year-round and proliferates during the hot sweaty summer months. The condition is not contagious and usually appears as light brown or pink slightly scaly patches that do not tan and are typically found on the upper chest, arms, neck and back. Factors that induce the proliferation of this common fungus include a genetic predisposition, warm and humid environments, immunosuppression and pregnancy. TV does not leave any permanent scars or pigmentary changes, and any effects on skin color resolve within 1-2 months after treatment has been initiated. Since recurrence is common, prophylactic therapy is often recommended. Tinea versicolor can be treated with various agents such as over-the-counter selenium sulfide (found in Selsun Blue shampoo), zinc-pyrithione (Found in Head and Shoulders shampoo) and prescriptive antifungal topicals. If you note a new slightly itchy rash on your neck, upper extremities, back or chest that is not responding to the above products, you may want to visit your local dermatologist.

Remember, after a long arduous winter you deserve your summer fun!

Just stay safe and use sunblock to avoid any long lasting summer memorabilia.

Have a happy healthy summer!

Rachel Bernstein is a practicing dermatology physician assistant for over a decade. Rachel practices in a busy private practice in Howard Beach as well as in Belle Harbor. For any questions, please contact Rachel Bernstein at parachelb@ gmail.com.

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Dating Dialogue

What Would You Do If… Moderated by Jennifer Mann, LCSW of The Navidaters

Dear Navidaters,

I’d like to know what each of you think of the concept of “love at first sight.”

The reason I’m asking is because my daughter Tami came home last week after a first date with a young man and told me and my husband that she is in love with this guy (let’s call him Joe) and that she’s going to marry him.

A little background about Tami. She’s 22 years old and has dated a lot. She’s had two different experiences going out with men who seemed like possible future prospects for marriage but after a few months either Tami or the guy ended it. They were both typical dating experiences, push and pulls, better dates and worse dates, but Tami was always very clear about what she liked and didn’t like about the guys and she seemed very cautious and insightful.

Last week, after her date, she practically came dancing into the house, and hasn’t stopped smiling and dancing from room to room ever since. We obviously have nothing bad to say about Joe – how can we? We don’t know him at all! According to Tami, he is a perfect human being or at least perfect for her.

It’s nice to see Tami so happy but it’s also scary. She’s already telling us that she wants us to meet his parents and she wants us to start talking about a date for a wedding and that we need to start looking for a hall.

Tami has always been reasonable and responsible. I feel like she’s been taken over by someone else and is not the same daughter we’ve known her whole life. Could this be real? Can people literally know after one date that they’ve met their bashert and that it turns out to be a successful marriage?

Disclaimer: This column is not intended to diagnose or otherwise conclude resolutions to any questions.

Our intention is not to offer any definitive

conclusions to any particular question, rather offer areas of exploration for the author and reader. Due to the nature of the column receiving only a short snapshot of an issue, without the benefit of an actual discussion, the panel’s role is to offer a range of possibilities. We hope to open up meaningful dialogue and individual exploration.

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The Panel The Rebbetzin Rebbetzin Faigie Horowitz, M.S. he answer to your opening and closing questions are the same.

No, people cannot know after one date that they have met their bashert, but they can feel strong chemistry and attraction. They can sense that this is the one and sometimes they do say that this is the one I am going to marry. And often they do.

And it works long term.

The difference is that most people date further to verify the attraction and rightness. They want to see that the fit is real. Can they be there for each other in ways that they need? Can they see as well as negotiate their differences? Do they see potential problem-solving

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abilities as a team? Are they heard by the other person? Do they have similar aspirations in professional, religious, financial and other life goals? And so on.

What’s scary here is that your daughter is jumping to the procedural matters without exploring the relationship and why it feels so wonderful.

Don’t get caught up in naysaying. Listen and ask questions. Be supportive and help her explore those questions she has dealt with while dating others. Help her put her thinking cap back on by understanding and saying things like: Wow! You seem really smitten.

What is it about him that makes him so lovable? Makes you feel so good?

You can begin to tease out the factors and help her explore them

further after other dates. Focus on her with attention and skill so that you validate her feelings as she begins to understand their roots, causes and manifestations.

You can also help her detect what is real and what is skillful courtship.

Meanwhile, have Tami bring him over. Invite him for meals. Get to know him casually over time. At the same time, be clear. You are not going to walk her down to the chuppah tomorrow. Arrangements can wait.

Meeting the parents can wait. She can wait to see that the chemistry is sustained, mutual and has depth. In the context of a lifetime, this is very short. Articulate the mature truth that as an adult you are happy for her and happy that the relationship is real and deep.

I would venture to guess that Tami has good instincts. You have indicated that she is insightful and clear about her dates in the past.

She may be on the mark but only time will tell. This is the message you can communicate strategically and supportively.

The Mother Sarah Schwartz Schreiber, P.A. ive me a minute. My Left Brain (the linear, logical part of me) is tussling with my Right Brain (“big picture, details don’t matter” part of me) in an attempt to come up with a reasonable, measured approach to your dilemma.

OK, I’m back. First things first.

Tami is, by your assessment, a responsible, cautious and insightful person. She is an experienced dater and has met a number of boys she liked but deemed “not for her.” That said, she is young and vulnerable.

Sit her down and lovingly reassure her that if Joe is The One, time (i.e., dating and courtship) will reinforce her resolve and happiness. Time will also give you and Dad the op-

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portunity to get to know and appreciate your future SIL. As to whether it’s realistic to fall in love at first sight? The optimistic, emotional side of me says, “Yes! Go for it!” So many of us have had the experience of meeting someone for the first time – at a party, on a trip, among the school’s parent body, and clicking instantly – that is, feeling a comfortable affinity and connection.

And yes, while rare, there are a good number of happily married couples who knew from Date One. It is my fervent wish to you, Mom, that Tami and Joe are truly bashert and that Tami will, b’ezras Hashem, join the ranks of those who have said, “He had me at Hello.”

The Shadchan Michelle Mond our daughter has dated quite a bit and, from your letter, it seems that she is usually very levelheaded. Now that she has actually met a guy she is very excited about, she is acting accordingly! To me, this is not worrisome, rather, it’s a symptom of her excitement.

It is definitely possible on one long date to learn a lot about someone. Despite her excitement, she will have to come down to earth and get to know this guy better. Her first date might not have just been “love at first sight” as you assume. Date one could have also been a date uncharacteristically filled with common interests, similar hashkafos,

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good flow of chemistry and so many similarities that she came back with the feeling, “This is it!”

My advice to you is to share in her excitement and show interest in this guy. They have probably gone out a few more times since you sent in this letter, so hopefully you see a broader picture of who he is. Ask you daughter detailed questions about him to try and get to know him better and to see how much she actually knows about him – you might be surprised.

If she comes back to you with unknowns as answers, explain how these are questions she needs to find out about if a guy is actually compatible and

husband material. Use open communication to bring her back down to earth a bit and make sure she is levelheaded in her decision-making process.

Other than that, be happy that she has finally met someone she is very interested in and see where this goes!

Hatzlacha!

The Single Tova Wein traight question – straight answer. I definitely do believe in

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love at first sight. I know of a number of couples who all claim that they knew the moment they first met their spouses that something magical was happening and that they would someday actually marry that person. Sometimes only one of them felt it and sometimes both.

But regarding the success of their marriages – so far, so good!

Having answered your question, I still don’t think you need to feel pressured into meeting Joe’s parents immediately or looking for a hall tomorrow. What’s the emergency? Why the urgency on Tami’s part?

Share in Tami’s excitement, encourage her to enjoy the process of getting to know Joe better on a deeper level (how does he deal with frustrations), and even on a sillier level

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You also want to help keep her grounded and to try to slow things down.

(what’s his favorite ice cream flavor).

This should and can be a fun time in their lives together and there’s no reason to rush things along so frantically.

After a reasonable amount of time – and you will all feel and know when it’s reasonable – and things are as fabulous as Tami feels they are at this moment, you can then get busy planning a wedding.

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know many couples who experienced the sensation of love at first sight. Of course, it is not true love that they felt. Rather, it was a magnetic chemistry, be it due to physical attraction, a spiritual connection, a meeting of the minds, a sweeping sense of comfort and knowing, or something indescribable that to this day they can’t put their fingers on.

Yes, those feelings are completely real!

I understand your concern about Tami’s remarks and why you’d write into this column. I think a lot of parents would feel exactly the same.

Tami seems to be completely in the clouds and maybe you’re looking for a much needed dose of reality back here on earth.

Should you book a hall? Absolutely not. Is it time to meet his parents? No, that would be unusual considering they went out one time

(maybe a few more by the time this is printed).

You cannot control Tami’s thoughts, feelings and ideas but you can model reason and levelheadedness for her. For example, Tami approaches you floating on her magical cream puff after the third date and says, “Joe and I both want to go to Europe on our honeymoon.

Isn’t that crazy?” You say, “That’s wonderful. You and Joe seem to have a lot in common. Come, tell me more.” It would be very natural to respond, “Yeah, you, Joe and every other Tom, Dick and Harry. What do you actually know about him?”

If you respond with anything other than support, this may increase her desire to speed things up. Not only do you want to provide her with support and keep the

communication open, you also want to help keep her grounded and to try to slow things down. Ask her questions about him. Ask her questions about their relationship. Let her know that it’s totally fine and natural for her to fantasize about the future she will have with Joe (that’s what you say to her, “will have,” to show her that you completely are on her side) but right now it’s time to simply enjoy the process of getting to know one another. Try to make allowances for speeding up certain things so that you have more leverage to slow down other things. If she is desperate for you to meet him now, then meet him ASAP. If she is desperate and pressing that you to meet his parents, you can try to hold off on that one for a few weeks, as you validate and support her relationship with Joe, but asking her to respect your need for a little more time to process this. (You scratch my back and I’ll scratch yours. The goal is for you and Tami to work together as a team).

If you show her and her new re-

lationship respect, my hope is that she can be respectful of a reasonable timetable. If, for some reason, she throws a fit and insists on picking out invitations, I think that is a sign of serious immaturity and a signal that something deeper may be at play. Let’s take this one step at a time and see what happens over the next few weeks. You are more than welcome to write back to the panel and update us or ask us questions as the story unfolds. Wishing you all the best.

Sincerely, Jennifer Esther Mann, LCSW and Jennifer Mann, LCSW are licensed psychotherapists and dating and relationship coaches working with individuals, couples and families in private practice in Hewlett, NY. To set up a consultation or to ask questions, please call 516.224.7779.

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Dr. Deb

Did You Stop Dreaming?

By Deb Hirschhorn, Ph.D.

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o I was talking to someone the other day. He was telling me the troubles in his marriage.

He made a long list and I listened carefully. Then I asked him, if I were to help him, what would be his goals?

He kind of looked blankly at me. I expanded. “Well, what would life look like when these problems are solved?”

He meant well. He really tried to answer the question, but somewhere along the line, this guy started slipping back into talking about The Problem.

When I pointed it out, he took a deep breath and saw that that was true. This happens to me often. People looking for help with their marriage don’t even want a good one -they’re afraid to ask for “that much.”

If only the fighting would stop; if only they could talk civilly. Or just talk, period. But a good one? Are you kidding?

Have we stopped dreaming?

Now, you may think I’m very unrealistic for daring to suggest that people dream. They’re in a foxhole, being bombarded by The Enemy, hoping to find some leaves to eat and not get too wet when it pours, and I’m talking about staying at the Ritz Hilton.

Well, actually, yes. I am.

Because how in the world do you build a building – even a skyscraper – without plans? It may be a very hard job, but it’s obviously doable.

I think New Yorkers could at least agree on that.

The problem, they would tell me, is that building a skyscraper is something possible. It happens every day.

“But my marriage is another story.

It’s not happening. I’m just going to have to suffer.”

So they stop dreaming. They stop trying to figure out a way to get out of the foxhole. Life is meant to be miserable, right?

It baffles me that people insist on feeling that way. After all, Hashem made it possible for all of us to learn

This is a hidden problem. No one talks about it but I think it’s a biggie.

I think people don’t want to lose who they are. After all, we are defined by our actions, for the most part. If we always “blew up” when the going gets tough, then that’s who we know ourselves to be. How weird would it be – from the “before” perspective – to not even feel like getting angry when faced with things that provoked you in the past?

In fact, not only is this a fear,

As someone said, and I love this, “You don’t build muscle on ‘easy.’”

and grow – to change.

The latest argument that I heard to that is, “But I can’t make my spouse change. And if he/she doesn’t want to, then that’s that.”

Not so fast.

I think it’s a matter of fear. I don’t think it’s that people wouldn’t want to make some nice and helpful changes in their lives if it could bring about peace and happiness. I think they’re simply afraid. There are a number of things they could be afraid of: • Losing their identity

but for most people and the spouse of such a person, this is not even imaginable. How could someone completely change like that? Of course, they do. People learn violin and baking soufflés and sinking baskets every day of the week. It’s just something else to learn. (Why, I can do weird things in yoga now that absolutely amaze me. Who would have thought so?) So it’s pretty scary to try to imagine the unimaginable and then on top of that realize how radically you would have to change to do so.

• Failing I think in their heart of hearts, even abusers don’t want to be like that. They don’t want to always be hurting someone else. They don’t want to be angry or depressed all the time. But they’re also afraid of failing: “What if I try to learn new ways of handling tough situations and I can’t learn?” See, that’s where the “I can’t change” really comes from. They actually don’t believe in themselves.

I know. You’ve heard that differently. To you, it sounded like they were stubborn. Like they were really thrilled with themselves and arrogantly are pushing away your attempts at getting changes made.

Nope. The opposite. They do not believe in themselves. The arrogance is a mask that protects them from the humiliation of coming to grips with their fear that they are basically no good and can’t learn.

When you see it that way, it gives a whole new perspective, doesn’t it?

The sad thing is that this is exactly the sort of person who can benefit from dreaming Big. Imagine what it would be like for such a person to risk dreaming of not having the temper and learning how to not have the temper. Imagine how beautiful for a person who doesn’t believe in himself or herself to start dreaming of one day loving himself. Imagine what it would be like for his or her family!

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realistic, and rather than hiding or changing a person’s real identity, they accomplish the opposite: The person’s true self can come out. The person’s true self had always been hidden behind self-doubt which looked like arrogance. The arrogance is enough of a heavy-duty mask that he or she really doesn’t need to wear!

Top that off with the arrogance hiding nothing more than insecurity – and you have a formula for the real person definitely being hidden.

But think of it this way: Hashem created us to be tov, good, or as I’ve learned “suitable for a purpose.”

So surely, then, a person’s true self could not possibly be a self of insecurity hidden by arrogance! Can you see how really weird it would be if that’s what Hashem had in mind when He created us?

That’s why I say that the real self is exactly what will sparkle when the changes are made!

But the person doesn’t think of it that way. Because he or she has

grown comfortable and familiar with the identity that they have, they just assume without thinking that that is who they really are. And, sadly, because they are insecure, they’re afraid to explore further and find out the shining truth. They’re expecting nothing shining or beautiful at all when their true self is uncovered. So of course, they’re afraid.

I bet I know what you’re wondering: If changing is so easy, why doesn’t it happen more often?

First of all, it is not easy. Although I can now, with great huffing and puffing, do a sideways plank in yoga, I will tell you it is not easy and it was not easy to get to that place.

For me, with my creaky knees, downward dog isn’t quite what it’s supposed to be.

But who said it has to be easy?

Why do we expect easy? As someone said, and I love this, “You don’t build muscle on ‘easy.’” When it’s a climb uphill, you value what you accomplished that much more.

Speaking of which, didn’t someone recently make it to the top of Mt. Everest – on artificial legs?

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Dr. Deb Hirschhorn is a Marriage and Family Therapist. She can be reached at 646-54-DRDEB or by writing drdeb@ drdeb.com.

A Clarification I learned that Rachel Bluth, a fine journalist who voluntarily counsels people with all sorts of traumatic histories, including depression, was deeply concerned about the impression that vulnerable people might have gotten from an article I recently wrote about fighting depression. I spoke to her and she explained that a person who is so depressed that they haven’t got the will to “roll up their sleeves” and do the homework I give them might take away the idea from my article that there is no hope for them. The reality is that we must never give up hope because there are solutions to every single problem – even if we, ourselves, are too down to search for them.

Another point she raised is that, sadly, many people in this state of mind might also believe that G-d has turned His back on them; they don’t believe He has the best intentions for them. For both of these positions, I say G-d is there for you, there is hope, and there is healing. You may not see that now, but later on, when you are better, you can look back with happiness that you did not give up.

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Health & F tness

Fiber Facts Why Fiber is Essential for a Healthy Diet

By Aliza Beer MS, RD

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ietary fiber is best known for its ability to prevent or relieve constipation. But fiber can provide other health benefits as well, such as helping to maintain a healthy weight and lowering your risk of diabetes and heart disease. Dietary fiber is found mainly in fruits, vegetables, whole grains, and legumes. Dietary fiber, also known as roughage or bulk, includes parts of plant foods your body can’t digest or absorb so its sugar units are not absorbed into the bloodstream.

It passes relatively intact through the stomach, small intestine and colon and out of the body. Dietary fiber is therefore known as “non-glycemic,” meaning it does not cause a spike in blood sugar.

Fiber is usually classified as either soluble fiber or insoluble fiber. Soluble fiber dissolves in water to form a gellike material. It can help lower blood cholesterol and glucose levels Soluble fiber is found in oats, peas, beans, apples, citrus fruits, carrots, barley, and psyllium. Insoluble fiber promotes the movement of material through the digestive system and increases stool bulk, so it can benefit those who suffer with constipation or irregular stools.

Whole wheat flour, wheat bran, nuts, beans, and vegetables, such as cauliflower, green beans, and potatoes, are good sources of insoluble fiber. Most plant-based foods, such as oatmeal and beans, contain both soluble and insoluble fiber. To receive the greatest benefit, try to eat a wide variety of high-fiber foods.

Some benefits of a high-fiber diet include: • Normalizes Bowel Move-

ments: Dietary fiber increases the weight and size of your stool and softens it. A bulky stool is easier to pass, decreasing the chance of constipation.

If you have loose, watery stools, fiber may help to solidify the stool because it absorbs water and adds bulk to the stool.

• Helps Maintain Bowel Health: A high fiber diet may lower the risk of developing hemorrhoids and small pouches in the colon called diverticular disease. Some fiber is fermented in the colon, and researchers are looking into how this may play a role in preventing diseases of the colon.

• Lowers Cholesterol Levels: Soluble fiber found in beans, oats, flaxseed and oat bran may help lower total blood cholesterol levels by lowering low-density lipoprotein, or “bad” cholesterol levels. Studies also have shown that high-fiber foods may have other heart-health benefits, such as reducing blood pressure and inflammation.

• Helps Control Blood Sugar Levels: Fiber, especially soluble fiber, can slow the absorption of sugar and help improve blood sugar levels.

A healthy diet that includes insoluble fiber may also reduce the risk of developing type 2 diabetes.

• Aids in Achieving Healthy Weight: High-fiber foods tend to be more filling than-low fiber foods, so you’re likely to eat less and stay satisfied longer. And high-fiber foods tend to take longer to eat and to be less “energy dense,” meaning they have fewer calories for the same volume of food.

How much fiber should you be

eating? Children ages 4-8 should consume about 17-20 grams of fiber a day, adolescents aged 9-13 about 2225 grams, and teenagers aged 14-18 require 25-31 grams. Adult men aged 50 and younger require about 38 grams a day; aged 51 and older about 30 grams.

Adult women 50 and younger require about 25 grams, and women 51 and older about 21 grams a day.

If you aren’t getting enough fiber every day, then you need to boost your intake. Good choices include wholegrain products, fruits, vegetables, beans, peas, legumes, nuts, and seeds.

Refined or processed foods, such as canned fruits and vegetables, fruit juices, white breads and pastas, and non-whole-grain cereals, are lower in fiber. The grain-refining process removes the outer coat (bran) from the grain, which lowers its fiber content.

Enriched foods add some of the B vitamins and iron back after processing, but not the fiber. Low-fiber foods typically spike the blood sugar quickly, thereby spiking the insulin level, and insulin is a fat-hoarding hormone.

Here are some tips for fitting more fiber into your meals/snacks: • Breakfast: Start your day off with a high fiber cereal, at least 5 grams of fiber a serving. Oatmeal is another great breakfast, especially steel cut oats, and you can up the fiber by sprinkling in some wheat germ or ground flaxseeds, and some berries.

• Switch to Whole Grains: Look for breads that list whole wheat or another whole grain as the first ingredient. Eat brown rice instead of white and whole wheat pasta or bulgur instead of white pasta.

• Love Legumes: Beans, peas, and lentils are excellent sources of fiber. Add them to soups and salads.

• Eat More Fruits and Veggies: Fruits and vegetables are rich in fiber. Fruits should be the bulk of your snacks, and vegetables should be your sides at most meals. Try getting in five or more servings a day of fruits and vegetables.

• Snacks: Other than the above mentioned fruits and veggies, low-fat popcorn or whole grain crackers are also good snacks. Nuts and dried fruit are also healthy, high-fiber snacks, but eat them with caution since they are also very high in calories.

High-fiber foods are good for your health, but adding too much fiber too quickly can promote intestinal gas, abdominal bloating, and cramping. Increase fiber in your diet gradually over a period of a few weeks. This allows the natural bacteria in your digestive system to adjust to the change. It is very important that you drink plenty of water, at least 64 ounces a day. Fiber works best when it absorbs water, making the stool soft and bulky. Some people may still need a fiber supplement if dietary changes aren’t sufficient or if they have certain medical conditions such as constipation, diarrhea, or irritable bowel syndrome. Check with your doctor before taking any fiber supplements.

Aliza Beer is a registered dietician with a master’s degree in nutrition. She has a private practice in Cedarhurst, NY. Patients’ success has been featured on the Dr. Oz show. Aliza can be reached at alizabeer@gmail.com.

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Pastrami A Meat with a Past

By Naphtali Sobel

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urprisingly, pastrami’s origin is actually of Middle East descent. It was originally known as basturma and made from meat such as goat, beef, lamb and sometimes even camel. It originally, and still is in parts of the world, a highly seasoned and air dried meat that can be prepared whole similar to a bresaola or in thin slices similar to jerky. It was seasoned with spices such as cumin, paprika and garlic.

This process not only seasoned but preserved the meat.

This curing method made its way to Romania via perhaps Turkey or Bulgaria and became synonymous with Romanian culture. In Romania it is called pastrama and is commonly made with goose as it was a readily available and affordable protein. It was commonly cured in a salt and spice solution for a few days and then soaked and air dried.

When Romanian Jews immigrated to New York’s Lower East Side they bought pastrami with them. Goose was quickly replaced with beef plate, as it was an extremely low cost meat, and the rest was history as New York and deli became associated with one another.

In essence, pastrami is more of a process that can be applied to many types and cuts of meat. It is usually made from a pickled or “corned” beef, then rubbed with black pepper and coriander seeds, and then smoked and steamed. Nowadays

turkey is popular, and not only is beef plate used but cuts like brisket, shoulder and kolichel are also utilized, depending on preference. In Montreal they have an item called smoked meat, which is virtually the same as pastrami. Essentially pastrami was an earlier form of smoking meat similar to Southern methods, and especially Texas, where they mainly consume brisket.

I am personally not a fan of altering the taste of pastrami with all sorts of sweet sauces and prefer to let its natural flavors shine. Acidic and sharp flavors enhance and intensify the smoky, and salty goodness. Pastrami needs nothing more than a bit of mustard, kraut or a sour pickle. Therefore the two recipes I am offering are quite simple and definitely not reinvented; they

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just let the pastrami shine. The first recipe is inspired by the classic BLT or bacon lettuce tomato sandwich.

The latter is a copy of a Traditions deli knish, which is so simple, yet so delicious.

Naphtali Sobel is an experienced chef and food consultant. He is available as a personal chef and for consulting. He can be reached at napsob87@gmail.com.

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Creamy Pesto Pasta

By Naomi Nachman

This is one of my favorite pasta dishes. I love a marinara sauce on my pasta and when I developed this recipe, I knew this would be a winner. At times, I have served this with a poached egg on top, and at other times I have swapped out the noodles for zoodles (zucchini noodles) for a carb-free variation.

Ingredients 1 box spaghetti, cooked according to package 5 tablespoons butter 1 clove garlic, crushed ¼ cup flour ¼ cup sour cream 2 oz. goat cheese (optional) 4 tablespoons prepared pesto 1 ½ cups milk Salt and pepper, to taste

Preparation In a deep sauté pan on low heat, melt butter and then add in crushed garlic and stir. Add ¼ cup flour and mix in with butter till it becomes a thick paste. This is called a roux.

While continuously stirring, add the sour cream and goat cheese, then add the pesto until it also becomes thick. Add in the milk slowly, and continue whisking until it becomes thickened, which will happen at boiling point.

Pour over cooked pasta and mix well. Serve with a poached egg on top.

Naomi Nachman, the owner of The Aussie Gourmet, caters weekly and Shabbat/ Yom Tov meals for families and individuals within The Five Towns and neighboring communities, with a specialty in Pesach catering. Naomi is a contributing editor to this paper and also produces and hosts her own weekly radio show on the Nachum Segal Network stream called “A Table for Two with Naomi Nachman.” Naomi gives cooking presentations for organizations and private groups throughout the New York/New Jersey Metropolitan area. In addition, Naomi has been a guest host on the QVC TV network and has been featured in cookbooks, magazines as well as other media covering topics related to cuisine preparation and personal chefs. To obtain additional recipes, join The Aussie Gourmet on Facebook or visit Naomi’s blog. Naomi can be reached through her website, www.theaussiegourmet.com or at (516) 295-9669.

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Notable Quotes “Say What?!”

A baby who was born in Paris on a public train today received free rides from the transportation company until his 25th birthday, while a baby born on the New York City subway received hepatitis.

– Seth Myers

I didn’t mean that; I meant that he’s dumb.

- Rudy Giuliani on CNN, clarifying what he meant when he called Joe Biden a “mentally deficient idiot,” in an interview with the Huffington Post recently

The way I look at it, there is nothing that is a real pothole.

Business sentiment is almost at the highest level it’s ever been, consumer sentiment is at its highest levels, markets are wide open, housing’s in short supply and my guess is mortgage credit will expand a little bit.

I’m sorry to make you look like little idiots.

- The president of the Czech Republic addressing stunned journalists at a press conference on Thursday when he set a giant pair of red underwear on fire in order to symbolize “the time to end the era of dirty laundry in politics”

– JP Morgan Chase CEO Jamie Diamond on “Squawk Box” last week talking about the state of the economy

I’ve never had [a husband], that’s why I’m this age.

- Madeline Dye, 106, of South Yorkshire, England, quipping to Yahoo News that the secret to her longevity is that she never got married

The state of Vermont is trying to get people to move into their state and to sweeten the deal they’re now offering each new resident up to $10,000. This is great because, up until now, the most popular way to become a Vermont resident was through the witness protection program.

– James Corden

He’s on his own.

- Sen. Bernie Sanders (I-VT), on CNN, declining to endorse his son Levi Sanders, 49, who is running for a U.S. House seat in New Hampshire

We were just all having fun and I saw this big exhaust pipe and I was like, “Hey, my head could probably fit in that.”

- Kaitlyn Strom, 19, of Tennessee, explaining the thought process that resulted in her head getting stuck in a car’s exhaust pipe. Firemen had to use a saw to cut the pipe so her head could be extracted from it

They are trying to establish that Judaism constitutes a people, which is not true.

- The Palestinian Authority (PA) envoy to Iraq, in a recent interview, complaining that U.S. President Donald Trump had recognized Jerusalem “as the capital of the Jewish people and not just the capital of the Jewish people”

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[Trump’s] not ever going to become president, right? Right?!

- Text by FBI lawyer Lisa Page to FBI counter-intelligence agent Peter Strzok (a key investigator on both the Clinton email case and the investigation of Russia and the Trump campaign) in August 2016, according to the recently released Justice Department inspector general’s report

No, no he won’t. We’ll stop it.

- Strzok’s response

Viva le resistance - Text message sent the day after Trump won the presidency by an attorney who ended up working on Special Prosecutor Robert Mueller’s team, according to the recently released Justice Department inspector general’s report

FBI agents are allowed to be biased.

They’re allowed to support political candidates, that’s part of the law.

Where I draw the line is when an FBI agent says, “We’ll stop him.” That’s not an expression of bias; that’s not saying who we’re gonna vote for. That sends a message to the American people that the Federal Bureau of Investigation is going to interfere in an election in an effort to try to stop the election of one candidate rather than the other. That to me was where the red line was crossed.

- Alan Dershowitz on Fox News

I’ve lived through Israel’s entire 70-year history and I believe it is one of the most remarkable countries in the world. I’m delighted to own Israel Bonds.

- Warren Buffett at a dinner he hosted last week for Israel Bonds, at which he helped raise $80 million in Israel Bonds investments

I have nothing but good feelings about what I am doing.

The United States and Israel will always be linked. It is a good thing for Israel that there is an America, and it is a good thing for America that there is an Israel.

– Ibid.

The studies suggest that when these individuals are engrossed in Internet games, certain pathways in their brains are triggered in the same direct and intense way that a drug addict’s brain is affected by a particular substance.

- From a statement by the World Health Organization, accompanying its report which found that compulsive video game playing could be a mental health problem

I, as a personal matter, think secrecy is often a good thing in government, and open government is not always a good thing.

- David Brooks, of the New York Times, talking about the goings-on of the deep state, on PBS

Communism will win.

- Note written in West Point graduate Spenser Rapone’s cap, which went viral, resulting in his other-than-honorable discharge from the U.S. Army this week

I know it’s hard for you to understand even short sentences, I guess, but please don’t take my words out of context.

- White House Press Secretary Sarah Sanders to CNN’s Jim Acosta at a press briefing last week

California will vote a proposal this fall that would split the state into three pieces. They’ll be called California, Northern California, and Sad Thin People.

– Seth Myers

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No, you can’t do that, no, no, no, no.

- French President Emmanuel Macron after a teen called him by the nickname “Manu”

You’re here, at an official ceremony, and you should behave. You can play the fool but today it’s the Marseillaise, the Chant des Partisans (French Resistance song), so you call me “Mister President” or “Sir.” OK? - Ibid.

I see my parents go to work every day when they don’t feel good or when they’re in pain so I figured, “Why don’t I do the same and go to school?”

- Kevin Davis, who graduated from a Philadelphia high school this month after never being absent from Pre-K to 12th grade (2,340 days of school), explaining his motivation in an interview with Fox News

Today I am proud to be an Israeli… Israel is my new home and I love it!

- Jack Nasielski, 92, who survived Auschwitz and moved to Israel from New Jersey, upon his arrival at Israel’s Ben Gurion Airport last week with other Nefesh B’Nefesh immigrants

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The fast food chain Sonic has introduced a new flavor of its iced slushes. And apparently, they’ve run out of ideas because this new flavor is Pickle Juice. This is great news for people who are hot, thirsty, and well into their second trimester.

– James Corden

Sonic says if this goes well, they’re all set to unveil their next exciting flavor, Cabbage Drippings. Sonic claims the new flavor has “a distinctly summer vibe to create new summer memories.”

Memories like, “Hey! You remember that time I threw up at Sonic?”

President Trump says he got North Korea to commit to destroying a major missile testing site, but “didn’t put it in the agreement because we didn’t have time.” Didn’t have time? What? It’s a nuclear deal. It’s not a trip to Disneyworld where you didn’t have time for Epcot.

– James Corden

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Political Crossfire

The Small Miracle of Armenia’s “Velvet Revolution”

By David Ignatius

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f you’re looking for some good news from a faraway land, here’s a tale of Armenia’s “velvet revolution,” which just deposed a corrupt, authoritarian government and installed a team of eager young reformers to govern a tiny nation perilously bordering Russia.

Maybe it’s the start of a counter-trend, in a world where so many indicators of freedom and good governance have been pointing downward.

But it must be said, time is not on the revolutionaries’ side. The squeeze on Armenia, from its neighbors and domestic power brokers, could undo the gains of the bottom-up protest movement that toppled the long-entrenched, pro-Moscow government of Prime Minister Serzh Sargsyan.

For now, there’s something of a festival atmosphere here, as Armenians enjoy the aftermath of what the new prime minister, Nikol Pashinyan, described to me as a “revolution of love and solidarity.” Bands play in the streets, people spontaneously cheer Pashinyan in public, and the post-Soviet haze seems, for now, to have cleared.

Pashinyan spoke with me for an hour last Friday at his grand office on Republic Square, in the center of the capital. He looked slightly uncomfortable in a dark business suit.

The popular image of him is of a guy in a baseball cap who led a march on the capital that grew so large it paralyzed the government. Barricading the streets were jazz musicians atop a piano, a chamber quartet and a young boy halting traffic with a line of toy

trucks.

The protests became so widespread that Sargsyan faced a choice of using force on fellow citizens or stepping down. In a nation whose political identity is tied to its tragic history, Sargsyan wisely chose the latter: On April 23, the day before the annual commemoration of the 1915 Ottoman genocide that killed more

sales, on which Armenia depends to counter neighboring Azerbaijan in the disputed area known as Nagorno Karabakh. Russia’s tolerance for political liberalization may come at a price.

What’s next for the velvet revolution? Pashinyan outlined his program, but it was long on democratic idealism and thin on specifics.

Barricading the streets were jazz musicians atop a piano, a chamber quartet and a young boy halting traffic with a line of toy trucks.

than a million Armenians, Sargsyan resigned.

The miracle of this revolution is that it happened at all. Russia had long supported Sargsyan and his oligarch cronies. But in May, after Sargsyan’s fall, the Kremlin didn’t block Pashinyan’s accession to prime minister. That’s partly because Pashinyan declared, as he told me, that his movement had “no geopolitical agenda.”

President Vladimir Putin could still make life very difficult for the new Armenia. In Yerevan last weekend, I heard reports from diplomats that if Moscow doesn’t receive new pledges of fealty, it might halt arms

Pashinyan’s first priority is to stop the corruption that has been leaching away the creative and entrepreneurial spirit for which Armenians are often known. “Unfortunately, Armenia was a very corrupt country in the last 25 years,” Pashinyan told me, with cronies close to the leadership taking what amounted to a private tax on the economy. “People were fed up with that situation,” he said.

Linked to Pashinyan’s anti-graft campaign is a commitment to break up the monopolies that dominate key sectors of the economy. Armen Grigoryan, the new national security adviser, worked previously for Transparency International, an anti-corruption

group. He explained in an interview that the Armenian economy can grow if the new government can shed more sunlight on its operations and “decrease interaction between the state and the citizen.”

The new government will need to put teeth into this anti-corruption push, by holding some of the bribe-takers accountable. “I’m not going to give orders to judges,” Pashinyan insists, but he warns: “We will try to identify and bring to responsibility the most corrupt people.” To combat monopolies, he’ll need to capitalize new, smaller companies, perhaps through a national investment bank.

Breaking free of the gravitational field of the past will take all of Pashinyan’s idealism and energy – and also some raw political power. He told me it’s “very likely” he’ll hold a snap election for a new parliament by October or November, well before the April deadline. And the courts are already releasing some prominent political prisoners.

Armenia is a subject on which I’m hardly neutral, as my father’s family has Armenian roots. During my visit here, I helped host the Aurora Humanitarian Awards, created by a group of prominent Armenians to honor human-rights champions from other countries. Armenia has experienced more than its share of bad news, historically and in the recent, post-Soviet past. So it was encouraging to see Yerevan as a city of smiles after its dramatic moment of change. (c) 2018, Washington Post Writers Group

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But Her Emails?

You’re Dang Right, Her Emails

By Marc A. Thiessen

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hen the Justice Department inspector general’s report revealed that former FBI director James B. Comey had used a personal email account to conduct official business, Hillary Clinton claimed vindication. “But my emails,” she tweeted.

Yes, Madam Secretary, your emails.

In fact, the overlooked bombshell of the report is the inspector general’s confirmation that classified information contained in Clinton’s emails was in fact compromised by foreign intelligence services, and that Clinton had recklessly emailed President Barack Obama using her unsecured personal email from the territory of a hostile foreign adversary.

Before the report was released, we knew from Comey’s July 2016 statement that Clinton’s private emails included “seven e-mail chains concern matters that were classified at the Top Secret/Special Access Program level when they were sent and received.” We also knew that the FBI “also found information that was properly classified as Secret by the U.S. Intelligence Community at the time it was discussed on e-mail.” Comey further declared, “We do assess that hostile actors gained access to the private commercial e-mail accounts of people with whom Secretary Clinton was in regular contact from her personal account.” And he speculated that, given how “extremely careless” Clinton had been, it was “possible that hostile actors gained access to Secretary Clinton’s personal e-mail account.”

Well, it turns out, the FBI knew

with certainty at the time that hostile actors had in fact gained access to classified information via Clinton’s emails. According to the inspector general, a special review of the Clinton email investigation in 2017 by the Office to the FBI’s Inspection Division (INSD) found that, before Comey’s 2016 statement, “the FBI ... successfully determined classified information was improperly stored and trans-

compromises of the private email accounts of some of her staffers.” These facts were inexplicably left out of the final statement.

We still don’t know the full extent of the damage Clinton caused, because the inspector general reports that the FBI intentionally chose not to follow every potential lead of compromised classified information. The report notes that “Strzok further stated

We were required by the Secret Service to remove the batteries from our BlackBerrys, place them in a sealed plastic bag, and leave them on Air Force One for the duration of our visit to prevent foreign adversaries from hacking into the White House email system. mitted on Clinton’s email server, and classified information was compromised by unauthorized individuals, to include foreign governments or intelligence services, via cyber intrusion or other means.”

The initial draft of Comey’s 2016 statement said it was “reasonably likely” that hostile actors had gained access to Clinton’s private email account. Moreover, the inspector general quotes FBI agent Peter Strzok as commenting on that “it is more accurate to say we know foreign actors obtained access to some of her emails (including at least one Secret one) via

that the FBI’s ‘purpose and mission’ was not to pursue ‘spilled [classified] information to the ends of the earth’ and that the task of cleaning up classified spills by State Department employees was referred back to the State Department.”

We also learned new details about Clinton’s recklessness and willful misconduct in using her private email. The final version of Comey’s statement did note that Clinton “used her personal e-mail extensively while outside the United States, including sending and receiving work-related e-mails in the territory of sophisticated adversaries.”

But we did not know at the time that the original draft included one more sentence: “That use included an email exchange with the President while Secretary Clinton was on the territory of such an adversary.” According to the inspector general, “This reference later was changed to ‘another senior government official,’ and ultimately was omitted.”

When I worked in the George W. Bush White House, and traveled to certain foreign countries with the president, we were required by the Secret Service to remove the batteries from our BlackBerrys, place them in a sealed plastic bag, and leave them on Air Force One for the duration of our visit to prevent foreign adversaries from hacking into the White House email system. But Clinton was so cavalier that she actually used not her government communications device, but her unsecured private email to communicate directly with the president of the United States from the territory of a foreign adversary. By emailing Obama directly from hostile territory, she put both her own email system and the president’s at risk of foreign intrusion.

Many Democrats blame Comey’s July 2016 statement for causing Clinton irreparable harm in the election.

But we now know Clinton’s actions were worse than what Comey presented to the American people. Just imagine if his statement had been full and complete. (c) 2018, Washington Post Writers Group

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Forgotten Her es

Attacks on Our Soil

By Avi Heiligman

The attack on Pearl Harbor, “A day which will live in infamy”

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f you take a look in school history books there isn’t much mention of warfare taking place on American soil since the end of the Sioux Wars in 1891. Taking a deeper look at the U.S. in the 20th and 21st centuries, there has been a few times that an enemy has tried to attack the U.S. The most wellknown of these attacks was the Japanese bombing of Pearl Harbor in 1941 and while Hawaii hadn’t gained statehood at that point, it still was American territory. The same goes for the attacks and invasion of the Aleutians Islands off of Alaska. There are many times that foreign nations attacked, or tried to attack, the United States since the turn of the century.

Before, during and after the United States’ involvement in World War I (1914-1918, with the U.S. sending troops to Europe in 1917) a border war with Mexico was taking place in the border states of Texas, New Mexico, Arizona and California. The war came to a climax in 1916 when famed American General John J. Pershing was sent with an expeditionary force into Mexico to find and capture the notorious Poncho Villa. Villa had taken 500 cavalry to the town of Columbus, New Mexico, on a raid but was beaten back by a smaller number of American Army horsemen.

Some of Villa’s men broke away and severely damaged the town. Pershing drove into Mexico where he and his troops defeated the revolutionaries but Villa managed to escape.

Pershing’s mission to capture Villa ended when the U.S. entered World War I. Since 1914, most of Europe had been engaged in the Great War and at times Germany attempted to bring the

war to the shores of North America.

On July 30, 1916 an explosion on an island near Ellis Island called Black Tom Island in Jersey City was felt all the way to Philadelphia. Four people were killed, including an infant. At first officials thought it was an accident but further investigation years later revealed that German agents had planted the bombs. Six months later there was another explosion in New Jersey that was thought to have been done by German saboteurs but was never proven.

Germany had been trying to persuade Mexico to join World War I on their side. As the Mexican-American

can 10th Cavalry, also known as the Buffalo Soldiers, were sent in. At the end of the day, six Americans and dozens of Mexicans had been killed. Among the dead were two German agents. The result was a border wall between the U.S. and Mexico but Mexico stayed neutral during World War I. The bombing of Pearl Harbor signaled the entrance of the United States into World War II that had been raging globally since 1939. Hawaii wasn’t a state yet but the Americans had much of their fleet stationed in what would become the 50th state in 1959. After the bombings at Pearl Harbor, there were

The result was a border wall between the U.S. and Mexico but Mexico stayed neutral during World War I.

border wars progressed it seemed that Germany could do just that, and in August 1918 a battle took place that is considered a part of the three wars of this time (the Mexican Revolution, the Border Wars and World War I). Nogales was a border town with International Street dividing it between Arizona, USA, and Sonora, Mexico. A gun battle ensued after American customs officials saw a Mexican carpenter with a package and thought he was smuggling weapons. Mexican officials told him not to listen to the Americans and a firearm was discharged unintentionally. This set off a chain reaction and the Ameri-

several actions in and around the U.S. These involved isolated bombings, the invasion of the Aleutians, U-boats off the American coastline, and an attempt to send a spy ring into Long Island and Florida.

Cities lying on the Pacific coast of the U.S. were subject to blackouts and air raid sirens as the fear of a Japanese invasion was on everyone’s mind in the early days of 1942. In February of that year, Elmwood, California, was the subject of a bombardment from the Japanese submarine I-17. Only light damage was caused by the dozen or so shells aimed at the coastal town but the

psychological damage was far greater.

Seven Japanese submarines were stationed off the U.S. west coast and had sunk two merchant ships and damaged several others. A day after the Elmwood bombardment Los Angeles was the recipient of reports of enemy aircraft in the vicinity but it proved to be a false alarm. In Fort Stevens, Oregon, the Japanese submarine I-25 opened up fire on the military installation with no damage reported. An A-29 Hudson bomber was sent to look for the submarine but she got away undamaged. In what became known as the Lookout Air Raids a Japanese floatplane launched from the submarine I-25 dropped incendiary bombs in the Oregon Mountains. The intent was to start a forest fire but thankfully only minor damage occurred.

Rumors of German spies in Hawaii before Pearl Harbor proved to be true to an extent. On the east coast of the U.S. the German spy agency tried sending eight agents into the U.S. for intelligence gathering and sabotage.

Dubbed Operation Pastorius it was doomed for failure as soon as the Nazi spies reached the American coastline.

One of the spies was an anti-Nazi and readily gave information to the FBI. Within days of landing they were all caught and only two were spared execution because they gave themselves up to the police. The information they gave helped capture the other six spies. It was quite easy to spot the intruders as they were wearing German uniforms and one of them did not speak a single word of English.

Failing dismally, the German Abwher (the German equivalent to the OSS,

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the precursor to the CIA) made no more attempts to send agents into the U.S. The United States is very difficult country to invade with the last full scale invasion taking place during the

War of 1812. Isolation from its enemies as well as its unique military capabilities and the fact that the U.S. prefers to take the fight to the enemy makes it very safe from invasion. The September 11 hijackings remains the only ma-

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Avi Heiligman is a weekly contributor to The Jewish Home. He welcomes your comments and suggestions for future columns and can be reached at aviheiligman@ gmail.com.

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A Fulfilled L fe

It’s What is in Between that Counts

By Rabbi Dr. Naphtali Hoff

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o, it’s been kind of a long road, but it was a good journey altogether.” -Sidney Poitier I have two clients that are a block away from each other in New York City. The walking time between them is measured in seconds and often I can schedule things to allow me to go from one to the other in short order.

But there are times when I have to schedule them on different days, which would be less of an issue if I didn’t live an hour away from them.

This past week, I took things to a new level. I visited one client on Tuesday and the other on Wednesday. In between, I flew down to Florida for an early morning talk to over 300 leaders. Including local commutes to and from the airport, my journey from one client to the other, though themselves separated by only one block, exceeded 1,900 miles.

Talk about a long walk down the block!

This trip reminded me of the fact that sometimes our biggest, most difficult journeys are over small distances that seem to span miles.

Maybe it’s a strained relationship at home or at work where, despite physical closeness and easy access to conversation, we seem so far away from those around us. Perhaps the issue is with ourselves, where we cannot ac-

sider different ways of thinking and acting. Sometimes, the best way to bridge the gap that divides us from our better selves and a more fulfilling life is to step away and take a 30,000foot view of things.

Sometimes our biggest, most difficult journeys are over small distances that seem to span miles.

cess a solution or find a pathway forward despite knowing ourselves better than anyone else. But because we live our lives the same way, day after day, we fail to see that we can live that much more fully, with greater joy and conviction, than we presently are.

In the heat of the moment it can be hard to become reflective and con-

Here are some questions to consider asking yourself from time to time: How are my relationships with those that I most care about? What would make them even better? What’s holding me back from enjoying them more?

What self-doubts and inner grem-

lins are preventing me from maximizing my potential?

Is there enough balance between my work and life outside of work?

How can I keep from burning the candle at both ends?

How does my vantage point of the world and the people around me affect my relationships and general sense of happiness?

It has been said that if you always do what you’ve always done, you will always get what you’ve always got.

Sometimes, the best way to succeed in life is to take a step back (or a trip away) to reflect and ask the hard questions that can push us to achieve more and live more fully.

Rabbi Naphtali Hoff, PsyD, is an executive coach and President of Impactful Coaching & Consulting. For a free, no obligation consultation, please call 212.470.6139 or email nhoff@impactfulcoaching.com. Check out his new leadership book, “Becoming the New Boss”, on Amazon and on the book site, BecomingtheNewBoss.com. Download his free eBook for understaffed leaders at ImpactfulCoaching.com/EPIC.

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$2,500/mo.

Lovely & Spacious 4BR Splanch In SD#14, Eik, Formal DR, Finished Basement, Near All..$949K

SD#14,Near All..$699K Home W/IG-Pool..$P.O.R

HEWLETT: 56 Raymond Pl (11:30-1)$699K N.WOODMERE: 39 Valley Ln W (1-3)$949K VALLEY STREAM: 350-16 N Corona (12-1:30)$479K

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WOODSBURGH: BEST PRICE IN TOWN PRICE REDUCED: Sprawling 4BR, 4BA Exp-Ranch, Oversized Rooms, LR W/ Fplc, Formal Dining Rm, Large Den, Master Suite, Full Finished Basement, Storage Room & Office, Deck, Fabulous Property…$1.078M Call Carol Braunstein (516) 295-3000 www.pugatch.com

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INWOOD 10,000 sq ft brick building.

Offices and warehouse. High ceilings.

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Adorable, affordable brite, sunny 3br home w/ private beach. Total update w/ new heating, kit, bths, flrs. Malka (516)967-1967 $499K

COMMERCIAL RE CEDARHURST 500-3,500 +/- SF Beautiful, newly renovated space for rent. Ideal for Retail or Executive offices. Prime location. Convenient Parking.

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New Exclusive! Spacious side hall colonial. EIK, den, 4 large bedrooms, big master suite. $729K Call Miri (646)515-8813

Open contemp col w/ lg spacious rms. Lots of windows. All systms, 4brms 1 lvl. Ea bdrm duplex w/ loft area. Chana 516-449-9692 $829K

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New exclusive! Legal 2 family on large property! Great investment opportunity. Needs work. Call Tamar (917)902-0613 $699K

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355 Central Avenue, Lawrence NY 11559 (Across the street from Seasons)

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WOODMERE

NEW TO MARKET/COMPLETELY RENOVATED Perfect starter house in Woodmere. This light and bright 3 bedroom, 2.5 bath house has everything from new oors to new recessed lighting. All new windows, large kitchen w/ 2 sinks and 2 dishwashers, microwave oven and more. Beautiful hardwood oors and tiled bathrooms. Laundry on the second oor. New heat, A/C. Unnnished basement & deep property $659K. Contact Sherri Slochowsky @ 516-297-7995 to schedule a showing.

WOODMERE

COMMERCIAL SPACE FOR LEASE

$729,000 Featuring 2 large bedrooms on 1st floor HIRING AGENTS: Highest Commissions Paid.

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Corner building available. 6000 sq. ft.

Set up as office but could easily be renovated to prime retail.

Call Sherri 516-297-7995 for all info.

OFFICES FOR LEASE Far Rockaway

Cornaga location, 3 to 4 offices, plus bthrm. Good for doctor, dentist or business. $1900 Call Sherri 516-297-7995

Cedarhurst

Single rooms or executive suites. All utilities included. Starting at $400. Call Sherri 516-297-7995

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CO-OP/CONDO SALE WOODMERE: BEST BUY Spacious 2BR Apartment, Washer/Dryer In Bldg, Elevator Bldg, Open Floor Plan, 1st Floor, Close To All...$199K Call Carol Braunstein (516) 295-3000 www.pugatch.com VALLEY STREAM: New Listing – All Redone Condo/ Townhouse, 3 Bedrooms, 1.5 Updated Baths, Fully Finished Basement, New Kitchen Appliances, Hardwood Floors, Close To All...$479K Call Carol Braunstein (516) 295-3000 www.pugatch.com FAR ROCKAWAY: NEW LISTING Spacious & Updated 2BR, 2 Bathroom Apt on 1st Floor W/Terrace In Elevator Bldg, Parking, Doorman & Laundry Room On Premise...$350K Call Carol Braunstein (516) 295-3000 www.pugatch.com

APT FOR RENT FAR ROCK/INWOOD BOARDER HOME FOR RENT Newly built home in Inwood for rent beginning August 1st.

Frum neighbors, 1 block from LIRR (border of Far Rockaway IN Inwood), 5 bedrooms, 3 full baths, fully kosher kitchen (2 sinks, 2 dishwashers), living room, dining room, family room, nice backyard.

Asking $3500 monthly.

Call 917-975-1800 for more information NO BROKERAGE INVOLVED. 3 bedroom apartment in Far Rockaway, (Dinsmore Avenue near Nielsen), Two full bathrooms, Two balconies, In a 3 story 3 family house, Kosher kitchen with 2 sinks. Washer and dryer in basement. Available immediately, Asking $1975 per month, please call 516-225-4558 CEDARHURST: NEW LISTING, 2BR, 2BA In 2 Family House, Eik, LR, DR, Washer/Dryer,

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Real Estate Salesperson Wanted Must be super organized, aggressive, and 2 years of experience working in real estate industry.

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HELP WANTED HEBREW ACADEMY OF LONG BEACH Woodmere, NY is seeking the following Middle School positions for 2018-2019: Limudei Kodesh Morah PT; STEM, Coding, Robotics Instructor.

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Small, growing special education school in Five Towns seeks F/T Program Director.

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SEEKING FULL TIME PHYSICAL THERAPIST for Special Education school located in Brooklyn. Experienced preferred.

Competitive salary. Room for growth. resumes@yadyisroelschool.org SEEKING FULL TIME OCCUPATIONAL THERAPIST for Special Education school located in Brooklyn. Experienced preferred.

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ARE YOU MUSICALLY TALENTED? Wonderful opportunity for an experienced, creative music and movement teacher to develop and implement an interactive program for the talmidos of the Ganger Early Childhood Division of TAG. Applicant must be capable of managing performances and enjoy working with young children.

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The Shulamith School for Girls, LI is seeking an innovated Pre -K Teacher.

Enthusiastic and warm with excellent subject knowledge and sound understanding in early childhood.

BA/ Masters Degree in Education. classroom experience preferred.

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ASSISTANT TEACHERS CAHAL is seeking Assistant Teachers for classes for all elementary school grades in 5-Towns/Far Rock yeshivas.

F/T or P/T, AM or PM. E-mail your resume to shira@cahal.org or call 516295-3666 for information.

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Experienced with Hosted Phone Systems & VIOP required email your resume: sales@communicationsteam.net 718-844-7404 Pugatch Realty Corp., in Woodmere, is looking to hire and train a select group of motivated Realtors. If you are looking to build a career in real estate, or looking to take your existing career to the next level, there is no better place to start that the #1 Real Estate Brokerage in the Five Towns…

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F/T & P/T REGISTERED NURSE openings to work with adults who have developmental disabilities within residential settings in Brooklyn, Manhattan, or Long Island. Current NYS RN, min 2 years hospital experience. OHEL: 855-OHEL JOB, www.ohelfamily.org/careers BAIS YAAKOV ATERES MIRIAM IS SEEKING ASSISTANT TEACHERS interested in working in a growth oriented and warm atmosphere for the coming school year.

Please email resume to teachingpositions1@gmail.com The Shulamith School for Girls, Long Island, is seeking an Early Childhood assistant teacher. warm and organized.

Hebrew Language speaker preferred. excellent opportunity for individual working towards a degree in education.

Please email resume to earlychildhood@shulamith.org Seeking full time PHYSICAL THERAPIST for Special Education school located in Brooklyn. Experienced preferred.

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Office Manager (P/T) Forest Hills shul.

Duties include bookkeeping, monitoring building status: supervision of custodians, arranging for repairs. Excellent computer skills; familiarity with ShulCloud a plus.

24 hrs/wk.

Send resume to fhshuljobs@gmail.com HAMASPIK IS SEEKING COMMUNITY HABILITATION STAFF to work day hours, evenings and weekends in the Five Towns, Queens, Far Rockaway & long Island, with high functioning developmentally disabled adults, children and teens.

Shabbos staff also needed for Cedarhurst, Far Rockaway & Lawrence.

Drivers’ license a plus.

Mileage will be reimbursed.

Please call Yehudis: 718-408-5417 for more details Lev Chana Early Childhood Center, Hewlett, NY is looking to hire ASSISTANT TEACHERS FOR THE 2018-2019 SCHOOL YEAR. Candidates should have experience working with young children and be pursuing a degree in education or a related field.

Resumes to rgreen@halb.org MATH & ELA TEACHER Seeking Math &/or ELA Junior High teacher for boys in Far Rockaway,NY. M-TH, PM. Warm, supportive environment.

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Please send resume to rbzungar@siachyitzchok.org Due to continued growth, THE YESHIVA OF SOUTH SHORE IS SEEKING ELEMENTARY SCHOOL TEACHERS. Cert/Exp required.

Please forward resume to monika@yoss.org CATAPULT LEARNING Teachers, Title I Boro Park, Williamsburg and Flatbush Schools *College/Yeshiva Degree *Teaching experience required *Strong desire to help children learn *Small group instruction *Excellent organization skills Competitive salary Send resume to: Fax: (212) 480-3691 ~ Email: nyteachers@catapultlearning.com

HELP WANTED LOOKING TO HIRE DELIVERY DRIVER FOR 5 TOWNS DRY CLEANING ROUTE. PU on Tuesday AM in Far Rockaway and 5 Towns and Delivery Thurs Aft/Eve back to 5 towns.

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Manly Men Doing Manly Things in a Manly Way

By Allan Rolnick, CPA

B

ack in the early ‘80s, a group of Democratic legislators decided to room together to cut the cost of staying in Washington for the three nights or so per week that Congress is in session. The motley crew included Representative George Miller of California (owner of the blue-gray house in Southeast D.C.), Senators Dick Durbin and Chuck Schumer, future Defense Secretary and CIA chief Leon Panetta, and others. We can only imagine whose phone numbers they posted on the refrigerator in a house like that. Pizza delivery? Of course!

Liquor guy? Oh yeah. Exterminator?

Maybe not a bad idea…

Visitors to the house could be forgiven for thinking they had mistakenly wandered onto the set of Animal House. The stove didn’t work, so the group lived mainly on Frosted MiniWheats. Durbin stopped making his bed when Bill Clinton was president.

Schumer slept on a mattress in the living room, and his wife was so disgusted by the place she refused to stay with him. Still, the unconventional arrangement inspired news stories and even a TV series — Amazon’s Alpha House, starring John Goodman as one of four Republican Senators

sharing a much cleaner house.

In 2014, Representative Miller retired after 40 years in Congress and sold the tenement fixer-upper.

It seems ironic, then, that as Washington has become the most affluent city in America and home prices have climbed even higher, Congress gave up a tax break designed to make it easier to find a place to stay. From 1953 until 2017, lawmakers could de-

$4,000 that year. The average car cost $1,650. And the gas to power the car cost just 20 cents a gallon. (Of course, there was no Facebook. Life is full of tradeoffs, right?)

Today, of course, $3,000 is a rounding error for most Congress critters. Their base salary is $174,000, which is enough by itself to put them in the top 3% or so of earners. But the average Representative’s

Durbin stopped making his bed when Bill Clinton was president.

duct up to $3,000 per year for living expenses while they were away from their homes — but with last year’s Tax Cuts and Jobs Act, they gave up that deduction for themselves.

Writing off $3,000 may have been a sweet perk back in 1953, when Elizabeth II became queen and Ian Fleming published his first James Bond novel. The average taxpayer earned

net worth hovers around $1 million, and the average Senator is worth $3.2 million. Plenty are rich enough to essentially “buy” their seats. Longtime members can cash in for that much in a single year with cushy lobbying jobs after they leave — former Representative Billy Tauzin raked in over $19 million lobbying for drug companies in the five years after he gave up his

seat.

Of course, those averages, by definition, include the 50% who are below average. Dozens of mostlyyounger members sleep on futons or pull-out couches in their offices while they’re in D.C. (They shower at the gym.) That group includes House Speaker Paul Ryan (net worth: $7.8 million), who earns an extra $49,500 as Speaker. Bunking at work can make far more sense than dropping a couple grand a month for an apartment when they’re only in town for 80 or 90 nights per year. (Durbin and Schumer paid about $800 for their squalid little spaces in Miller’s hovel.)

You may live by yourself in one of those fashionable new “tiny houses” or with a whole extended family in a mansion. Fortunately, you don’t have to score political points by giving up tax deductions. So why would you?

Make sure you have a plan to pay less, and let’s see how much home you can buy with it!

Allan J Rolnick is a CPA who has been in practice for over 30 years in Queens, NY. He welcomes your comments and can be reached at 718-896-8715 or at allanjrcpa@aol.com.

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Puzzles to Peace

By Rivki D. Rosenwald Esq., MFT, CLC

D

o you do Sudoku?

It’s a game that has boxes and rows, and every row needs to have numbers one through nine with no number repeating itself.

So why am I asking? Well, I had

an epiphany the last time I did it. I’ve kind of gotten better at doing the very difficult ones. Sure, I recognize there are people better than I am. But did they get the deeper lesson?

With my attempts, something

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happened! My style has changed. I used to force myself to stay and work in a box, or write possible numbers in a box or on the sides. I’d stay stuck in it.

Now I realize that it’s better to move away. Focus somewhere else or look around for another angle and it will solve itself more smoothly. In fact, if I’m totally challenged I distract myself from it altogether for a while and when I come back I get a new realization and I can start moving for-

make sense to us. But everything has a place and a reason. So, if you can move away, or distract yourself at the toughest times, or just look at it from a different angle, then when you return to the situation you may just have the perspective you need. Even better, like Sudoku, if you remember that it’s worked out before, it will see that it resolve itself once again.

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ward again.

The point is I know there is a built-in solution, and it will all come together! Therefore, I just stay cool looking for it.

Well, suddenly, the other day, I realized this is the way to get through life. Don’t stay so focused on a negative struggle to the point that you get sad or frustrated. Try to come at things from another angle. Try to take breaks from it.

G-d built a world that makes sense! Of course, it doesn’t always

believing angle. And then, when you develop that skill, bring it to your life.

Life is a lesson in finding ways to navigate it best.

The message: Even when you’re in your Sudoku moments, believe there’s a solution and you will get there in the most peaceful way possible!

Rivki Rosenwald is a certified relationship counselor, and career and life coach. She can be contacted at 917-705-2004 or rivki@rosenwalds.com.

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