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here is no greater chessed than the giving of oneself to another. This week, we feature a few people who donated a kidney to someone in need of a refuah. The act of donating a kidney is no small thing. It involves a major surgery, and even before the surgery, there are myriad tests that need to be performed to ensure compatibility between matches. Even so, Ari, one of the donors in this week’s article, says he’s privileged to have been able to share one of his organs with a fellow Jew. A few days of pain and inconvenience, he says, is pittance compared to the honor of saving someone’s life.

Not everyone is in the position of being able to donate a kidney. Some of us are not in perfect health and others are not at the stage of life that allows them to go through with the surgery. But you don’t have to donate a kidney in order to give wholly to others.

There are many organizations in our community that care for those who are wanting in certain areas. Food for Shabbos, coats for the winter, rides to the hospital…all these programs were started because someone observed his or her surroundings, assessed a need, and then rose to the opportunity.

Volunteering for these organizations shows that you feel for your fellow Jew, you understand their pain, and you are trying to help alleviate their burden.

There are other ways to help our brothers and sisters. Last week, our community was saddened to hear of the passing of R’ Naftali Rhodes, a”h, who died in a tragic car crash. With hearts broken, those who heard of the tragedy wanted to help. They were desperate to show the family that they felt their pain and that they wanted to alleviate some of it. As people donated to the cause, they weren’t just giving money, they were giving their hearts, showing their concern, and sharing in the pain.

It’s not just monetarily that we can give to oth-

ers. There are many people in our community – and maybe even in your family – who could benefit from a simple acknowledgment of their existence and importance. A phone call before Shabbos or a text at the end of the day shows them that you care. An invitation to a Shabbos meal or an offer to pick up groceries for them when you’re in the store is a reminder that they’re not alone and that someone is thinking of them. These acts of chessed don’t require much time or energy, but they can lift the spirits of a lonely person.

This week, a Hamas missile blew up a bus that was transporting Israeli soldiers near Gaza. The terror organization sent out an exultant video showing them tracking the bus and then blowing it up. But Hamas’ cheers of victory were muted when it was discovered that the bus was carrying soldiers – just moments before the attack. When the missile hit its target, there was one occupant of the bus: the Bedouin bus driver, who was injured during the strike. One Israeli soldier was hurt in the blast as well; he was standing near the bus and b’ezras Hashem will recover.

When I watched the chilling Hamas video, showing them tracking the bus as it went into the parking lot and around the site, I marveled at the chasdei Hashem that allowed tens of soldiers to come home to their families that night. If Hamas would have lined up their missiles just a few minutes before, worlds would have been shattered. But Hashem did not let that happen.

Throughout our day we are constantly being guided and protected by Yad Hashem. We don’t see or know of events that could transpire. But sometimes Hashem allows us to see His Hand clearly. And it’s those times that remind us that He is with us all the time.

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Contents LETTERS TO THE EDITOR

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COMMUNITY Readers’ Poll

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Community Happenings

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NEWS Global

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National

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Odd-but-True Stories

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ISRAEL

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Israel News Cleaning Trustee by Rafi Sackville

A Shabbos of Unity and Hospitality

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PEOPLE Of Life & Limb by Naomi Wein

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Sailing Stealthily by Avi Heiligman

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PARSHA Rabbi Wein

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We are the Ladder by Rav Moshe Weinberger

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JEWISH THOUGHT Growing Green by Eytan Kobre The Wandering Jew

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Dear Editor, There is a very interesting story I found in the book “Ally” by former Israeli Ambassador to U.S. Michael Oren. This was after the New York Times published a piece

by Abbas that the Arabs accepted the UN Partition Plan and that the Jews rejected it. Oren called Andy Rosenthal from the New York Times and said: “When I write for the Times, fact-checkers examine every word I write. Did anybody check whether Abbas has his facts exactly backward?” “That’s your opinion,” Rosenthal replied. “I’m an historian and there are opinions and there are facts. That the Arabs rejected the Partition Plan and the Jews accepted it is an irrefutable fact.” “In your view,” was the reply. “Tell me, on June 6, 1944 did Allied forces land or did they not land on Normandy Beach?” Rosenthal, the son of a Pulitzer Prize-winning Times reporter and famed executive editor, replied, “Some might say so.”

Makes you wonder why the New York Times complains when Trump calls them fake news?

Michael Rosen

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A Healthy Guide to Shabbos Eating—Kiddush by Cindy Weinberger, MS RD CDN 118

Dear Editor, I have read Mr. Bobker’s article on Krystallnacht. I was a 5-year-old in our family home 17 miles outside of Kolon, Germany, on November 9,

1938. Sir, you have written a very realistic, descriptive article. Thank you!

As time passes the only people who can describe that horror are those who experienced it and survived.

Jill Pauly

Dear Editor, I would like to tell you that I love reading Mr. Bobker’s articles. He is blessed with the ability to bring to life the events which he writes about.

Although I must say that his writing skills and humor are enlightening, I was somewhat saddened to read the article on the terrible tragedy of Krystallnacht. Although it was written well and so passionately (I actually heard the glass breaking, and the people screaming and crying), it brought to light the sheer barbarism of those sub-savage beings.

As a frum Jew, I know many Holocaust survivors who talk about their awful experiences but none are able to describe their experiences as Mr. Bobker did in his article. Thank you for your work, and I look forward to reading your informative, enlightening, amusing, and sometimes somber, articles.

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LIFESTYLES Dating Dialogue, Moderated by Jennifer Mann, LCSW

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Your Money

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Rushing … For What? by Rivki D. Rosenwald Esq., CLC, SDS

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HUMOR Centerfold

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POLITICAL CROSSFIRE Notable Quotes

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The Kavanaugh Debacle Cost the Democrats the Senate

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It’s Not the Economy, Stupid by Robert J Samuelson

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total of 72 cases, all in frum communities.

Rabbi David Niederman, executive director and president of the United Jewish Organizations of Williamsburg, stated, “From a religious point of view, people have to vaccinate. ... Anything that causes harm — you have to do whatever you can to [avoid] that.”

I understand the need to present different opinions in our newspapers, but perhaps you should be more responsible in your editorial policy. As Ms. Stern wrote, “Our children deserve better.”

Jay Saltzman Woodmere

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Dear Editor, I am at a loss as to why you published the conspiracy-laden letter from Ruth Stern in your November 8, 2018 issue, questioning the efficacy of vaccinations at a time when Israel is suffering from an epidemic of measles that then spread to frum communities in the United States.

In Israel, more than 1,400 people — the majority of them haredi — have fallen ill, half of them in

October alone. Ninety percent of the cases reported this year resulted from people who had not been vaccinated or came into contact with unvaccinated persons, according to

the Israeli health ministry. As of November 9, seventeen people in Williamsburg and Borough Park were confirmed with measles, along with 55 people in Rockland County, for a

Dear Editor, This is in response to Ruth Stern’s letter to the editor that you printed last week.

To Ms. Stern: no one is being dramatic or jumping the gun in having their children vaccinated if it can prevent even one child – just one child – from dying. Last week, a child died in Israel from the measles.

That child did not receive the measles vaccination and neither did the person who gave him the fatal disease. Now, we are dealing with tens of cases of measles in the frum community because there are people who refuse to give their children vaccines.

This disease can be fatal. And if it’s not fatal, it can lead to pneumonia, encephalitis, blindness, and hearing loss.

For those who refuse to vaccinate because “vaccines are not ideal,” I have one thing to tell you: death is also not ideal. And I don’t want my child to contact a possibly deadly disease because you thought that you were smarter than the U.S. Department of Health.

Don’t want to vaccinate your child? Head to Africa, where measles is still alive and well as the vaccine is not readily available. You can enjoy your vaccine-free life there, but you won’t be able to affect my children.

Naomi G.

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Macron Backtracks from Honoring Nazi Hero

Fruity Diplomacy

Tangerines and mushrooms are symbolic of the peace that is to come on the Korean Peninsula.

This week, South Korean military transport aircraft began a tangerine airlift to North Korea, the first of a gift of 200 tons of the fruit from the southern island of Jeju, South Korea’s presidential Blue House said. Back in September, North Korea gave South Korean President Moon Jae-in two tons of pricey pine mushrooms after a summit with North Korean leader Kim Jong Un in Pyongyang. North Korea is still persuing a nuclear and missile program in defiance of U.N. sanctions, and South Korean officials said last week they had tested the mushrooms for radiation after an opposition lawmaker complained.

The Jeju tangerines were packed in 20,000 boxes and were flown to Pyongyang by four C-130 aircraft during multiple flights on Sunday and Monday. Along with the fruit were several senior South Korean officials, including Vice Unification Minister Chun Hae-sung and presidential secretary for unification policy Suh Ho, who flew to Pyongyang to deliver the first shipment.

North Korean leader Kim has vowed to work towards denuclearization but has fallen short of what the U.S. says is needed to limit sanctions against the regime. Even so, South and North Korea have conducted a number of inter-Korean projects designed to lower tensions, including joint sports and cultural events, closing some guard posts along their shared border, and regular high-level negotiations.

Following a growing backlash, France’s President Emmanuel Macron announced that the country will not honor Nazi collaborator Philippe Petain.

“There was no question of a tribute, but of historical truth,” said Macron through his spokesperson.

“Pétain served in 1914. He contributed to the victory of 1918. But nothing will obscure or make us forget the Pétain who betrayed, collaborated and infamously signed and implemented the decree on the status of the Jews.”

Petain was a legendary French general whose bravery in World War I’s Battle of Verdun led him to be crowned the “Lion of Verdun.” It was Petain’s World War I heroics in that battle which killed over 300,000 people that led France to announce that it would commemorate him in its upcoming memorial marking the war’s 100th anniversary.

Macron’s decision to honor Petain quickly sparked a backlash, with many in France and around the world pointing out that while Petain fought with distinction during World War I, he also collaborated with Nazi Germany during the Second World War. After France was captured by Nazi Germany in 1940, Petain headed the puppet Vichy regime until 1944.

As leader, Petain collaborated with the Nazi regime and was responsible for sending thousands of Jews to the death camps. Having been stripped of his rank and sentenced to death following the Holocaust, many people felt that it was inappropriate to honor Petain.

“Macron, this time you’ve gone too far! The history of France is not your toy,” said left-wing leader JeanLuc Mélenchon.

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lande concurred. “History doesn’t isolate a single stage, even a glorious military career,” he tweeted. “It judges the immense and unworthy responsibility of a marshal who deliberately used his name and prestige as a cover for treason and the collaboration and deportation of thousands of Jews in France.”

The decision to include Petain in the memorial also caused consternation in Israel. “Marshal Pétain sanctioned and facilitated the expulsion and mass-murder of Jews. It is unacceptable to suggest that previous deeds mitigate such atrocities,” said Diaspora Affairs Minister Naftali Bennett. “I would urge President Macron not to offer excuse or defense for the Nazis and their supporters – in the past, present, or future.”

While Macron initially defended the choice to honor Petain, saying that it was “legitimate” to honor a “great soldier” such as Petain, he quickly relented under the mounting outcry.

Following World War II, a court sentenced Petain to death for his culpability in the war’s atrocities, a sentence that was commuted. Stripped of all his rank and medals and eventually dying in prison, Petain is regarded by many in France as a traitor.

Taliban Gains Strength in Afghanistan

According to a new report by the Special Inspector General for Afghan Reconstruction (SIGAR), the Afghan government only controls or influences 55.5% of the country’s districts – the lowest level recorded since SIGAR began tracking district control in November 2015.

The report measures “control” – in which one side runs an area – and “influence” – in which one side has the upper hand.

In November 2015, the Afghan government controlled 72% of districts in the country, but now con-

trols just 56% of them. Insurgent influence or control has risen to 12.5% of districts from just 7% and approximately a third of Afghanistan is a “contested” area.

The official figures offer a glimpse into the Afghan army’s loosening grip in the face of a determined, sustained Taliban insurgency and a bleak outlook for America’s involvement in the war, now in its 17th year.

The war in Afghanistan is the only U.S. foreign policy issue on which President Donald Trump has delivered a lengthy personal delineation of policy and goals. In August 2017 he said: “One way or another, these problems will be solved — I’m a problem solver — and, in the end, we will win.”

Yet the challenges have been clear for the new U.S. commander in Afghanistan, Special Forces veteran Gen. Scott Miller. Earlier this month, the top police and intelligence chief of the southern region of Kandahar was shot dead meters away from him during a maximum-security meeting; the gunman also injured one of Miller’s top officers.

Fighting between the Taliban and government forces has driven the number of civilian deaths this year to its highest ever. A total of 1,692 civilians were killed by June 30, according to the United Nations Assistance Mission in Afghanistan (UNAMA).

The Afghan National Security Forces (ANDSF), who are tasked with defending the war-ravaged country from a continuing insurgency, have struggled to maintain personnel. It is short of roughly 40,000 personnel, approximately 11% of its target total forces.

U.S. & China Facing Off on the High Seas

U.S. and Chinese warships are increasingly facing off in the South China Sea in “a game of chicken” with geo-strategic implications.

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United States Indo-Pacific Command head Admiral Philip S. Davidson warned Congress in April that Beijing’s weapons buildup in the South China Sea was rapidly giving it a military edge over the United States.

“China is now capable of controlling the South China Sea in all scenarios short of war with the United States,” said Davidson.

“Once occupied, China will be able to extend its influence thousands of miles to the south and project power deep into Oceania,” Davidson added. “The PLA [People’s Liberation Army] will be able to use these bases to challenge U.S. presence in the region, and any forces deployed to the islands would easily overwhelm the military forces of any other South China Sea-claimants.”

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Times, the American destroyer Decatur came within 150 feet of a Chinese warship in the South China Sea this past September. Only a sharp turn by the Decatur avoided a collision, something that could have thrust the two nations into open war.

The near-collision in September was not the only instance of China squaring off in the region with the United States. According to the Department of Defense, there were 18 unsafe or potentially harmful interactions between the two nations in

the area over the past year, an increase from both 2016 and 2015.

China’s increasingly muscular posture towards the United States Navy is a sign that the nation does not accept any American presence in the South China Sea. While China has long claimed the disputed waterway as its own, the U.S. considers it international waters and has bulked up its naval presence in the region.

In response, China has embarked on a massive arms buildup in an effort to deny the United States access

to the South China Sea. China has flooded the sea with submarines, drones, advanced radar platforms, and aggressive aircraft patrols.

China specialists say that China’s saber rattling coupled with the escalating trade war it is fighting with the United States is possible to plunge the region into war.

“A game of chicken is being played around Asia’s flashpoints,” South China expert Brendan Taylor told the New York Times. “It is only a matter of time before a clash occurs.”

The international law enforcement agency Interpol says that its own rules prevent it from investigating last month’s disappearance of then-Interpol President Meng Hongwei in China.

Meng, who had headed the law enforcement body since November 2016, disappeared in China back in September. The Chinese government says it is holding him on corruption charges.

According to Interpol Secretary General Juergen Stock, the law enforcement body does not have jurisdiction over police investigations in member states. Stock added that Interpol will be closely watching developments in the probe.

“We are a rules-based organization. That is very important to understand,” said Stock and stressed that Interpol’s mandate is “not to govern over member states.”

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are strongly encouraging China” to work in tandem with Interpol going forward regarding Meng’s fate.

“There is no doubt this is a very regrettable situation,” acknowledged Stock. “But on the other hand, we have to ensure day-to-day operations ... continue.”

China acknowledged that it had arrested Meng over allegations of bribery on October 7, a week after he vanished while visiting the country.

Meng’s last message to his wife was a knife emoji, leading her to contact authorities over fears that his life was in danger.

Following a week of speculation, China’s Central Commission for Discipline confirmed in a statement that “Meng Hongwei, deputy minister of the Ministry of Public Security, is suspected of violating the law and is currently under the supervision of the State Supervision Commission.”

Interpol announced a day later that Meng had resigned as president but did not say why. Meng’s wife has denied the allegations and has accused China of detaining him as part of a campaign of “political persecution.” Meng’s wife and two children are currently under police protection in France.

Is Jordan Unprepared for Natural Disasters?

A series of deadly flash floods in Jordan has left experts questioning the nation’s preparedness for natural disasters.

Over 13 people died in November after being hit with sudden flash floods after torrential rainstorms rocked the Mlaih region bordering the capital of Amman. The storm also caused the evacuation of Petra, Jordan’s main tourist attraction.

The high death toll came after 19 people were killed in late October

when their bus was swept away near the Dead Sea. The majority of the dead had been children who were on a field trip when the downpour started. Rescue efforts were assisted

by Israel’s elite 669 Search and Rescue Unit after the Jordanian government appealed for help.

The series of tragedies has left many experts questioning Jordan’s readiness for natural disasters.

Amman-based civil engineer Sara Hamour told Al Jazeera that Jordan’s lack of urban planning and decrepit sewage system made a disaster such as the recent floods a matter of time.

“Without the open areas that soaked up rainfalls or the presence of modern sewer systems, heavy downpour turns into destructive flash floods,” said Hammour. “Jordan is simply not prepared for what nature has in store for it.”

The Jordanian newspaper A-Rad spoke about the “shock and amazement, in an atmosphere of bereavement and sadness, when the harsh news about the death of special school students from grades 6 to 8 was heard.”

Jordan’s King Abdullah tweeted that “my sadness and pain are great,

and they compare to my anger at the failures in decision-making that could have prevented this difficult event.”

Macron Plays Politics at World War I Commemoration

France’s President Emanuel Macron appeared to criticize President Donald Trump at a memorial ceremony in France commemorating 100 years since the end of World War I. With Trump sitting a few feet away, Macron said that “patriotism is the exact opposite of nationalism.

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tism. By saying our interests first, who cares about the others, we erase what a nation holds dearest, what gives it life, what makes it great and what is essential: its moral values.

“I know there are old demons which are coming back to the surface,” Macron added. “They are ready to wreak chaos and death.

History sometimes threatens to take its sinister course once again.”

Many viewed Macron’s remarks as a direct rebuke to Trump and his “America First” policies. German Chancellor Angela Merkel also appeared to be chiding the American president when she said that threats to the international order included “lack of communication and unwillingness to compromise.”

Meanwhile, Trump’s address later in the day was visibly less political than Macron’s, with the U.S. president saluting the “legendary Marines” who had fought in the “grizzly horrors” of World War I. “The American and French patriots of World War I embody the timeless virtues of our two republics,” Trump said at the Suresnes American Cemetery and Memorial in Paris, where 1,541 American troops are interred.

“It is our duty to preserve the civilization they defended,” added Trump. “We renew our sacred obligation to memorialize our fallen heroes.”

The president had flown to Paris to join other world leaders in marking a century since the last shot was fired in the First World War. On Saturday, the president was roundly criticized for canceling a planned trip to an American military cemetery on Veterans Day in France due to inclement weather. Trump sent Chief of Staff and former Marine General John Kelly to visit AisneMarne American Cemetery in his stead.

“Those veterans the president didn’t bother to honor fought in the rain, in the mud, in the snow – & many died in trenches for the cause of freedom. Rain didn’t stop them & it shouldn’t have stopped an American president,” tweeted former Secretary of State John Kerry.

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Bibi Not Involved in Sub Affair?

Prime Minister Netanyahu’s personal lawyer David Shimron and the ruling Likud party both recently denied that the premier knew about the corruption surrounding a deal to purchase nuclear-capable submarines from Germany.

On Thursday, police recommended that Shimron and five other suspects be charged for bribery and corruption in what observers say is the defense establishment’s biggest corruption case ever. The probe, named “Case 3000,” centers on allegations that Shimron lobbied the government to purchase submarines from Germany shipyard ThyssenKrupp in a deal that netted the German conglomerate billions of dollars.

According to Shimron, he had kept Prime Minister Netanyahu in the dark about the various deals he was involved in and reiterated that the prime minister knew nothing of the affair. “I don’t give the prime minister information about my customers, just as I don’t ask him about various matters he deals with,” Shimron told Israel’s Hadashot television channel. “People can claim all sorts of things. The question is what is the truth, and the truth is that I never discussed this with him. I don’t think I needed to talk with him about this, neither then nor in retrospect,” he reiterated.

Apart from Shimron, other high-profile suspects facing charges are former Israeli Navy Commander Eliezer Maron, Brigadier-General Avriel Bar Yosef, and ex-Netanyahu Chief of Staff David Sharan.

Following the explosive allegations, opposition leaders called on Netanyahu to resign, contending that the prime minister was either involved in the scheme or demonstrat-

ed a dangerous ignorance to what his aides were doing behind his back.

In addition, numerous Israeli public figures alleged that Shimron, as a key Netanyahu confidante and lawyer, could not have coordinated such a comprehensive bribery scheme without the prime minister’s knowledge.

“If the prime minister knew about his confidantes’ involvement, he must resign. If he didn’t know, he must resign because he’s unfit to lead our defense establishment,” said Zionist Union party leader Avi Gabbay.

“How did it happen that he was suspected of earning tens of millions under the table in a sensitive arms deal that he personally managed, how could he not know, and why he authorized the sale of advanced submarines to Egypt while being hidden from the defense minister, the Defense Ministry, and the IDF?” asked Yesh Atid faction head MK Yair Lapid. “If all this happened without Netanyahu knowing what is going on at his office then he is not fit to continue in his position.”

Police have said that Netanyahu is not a suspect in the investigation but have taken testimony from him multiple times. Netanyahu’s longtime aide and advisor Isaac Molcho was also cleared.

Netanyahu’s Likud party rebutted the allegations and said that Lapid’s and Gabbay’s attacks were simply efforts to besmirch the premier for political gain.

“The Left’s attempts to connect the affair of the submarines to Prime Minister Netanyahu have crashed into reality,” the Likud said. “We share the sorrow of Lapid and Gabbay who again lost their desperate hope to replace Prime Minister Netanyahu with false accusations.”

Ethiopian Bible Whiz Makes Aliyah

The family of the Ethiopia’s 2018 contestant in Israel’s Bible Competition immigrated to Israel on Tues-

day, making them the only Ethiopian Jews allowed to immigrate to the Holy Land this year.

The Shafrao family officially immigrated on the Ethiopian Jewish holiday of Sigd, a day which the community has marked for thousands of years to signify their yearning to return to the Land of Israel.

The case capped off a year of bureaucratic wrangling that frequently surfaced in the headlines.

Sintayehu Shafrao, 18, had represented Ethiopia in Israel’s International Bible Competition, a televised contest held on the Jewish State’s Independence Day that tests the contestants’ knowledge of Tanach.

Following the contest, Shafrao made waves when it was revealed that the State of Israel was not allowing his family to immigrate to Israel.

In addition, the Israeli government forced Shafrao to put down tens of thousands of shekels as collateral in order to prevent him from staying in the country after the competition.

Shafrao, an observant Jew active in Addis Adabba’s Bnei Akiva youth movement, had siblings already in Israel but his mother and sister were forbidden from moving to the Holy Land.

Under Israel’s Law of Return, all Jews are entitled to receive Israeli citizenship. However, the Interior Ministry has not recognized Shafrao’s Falash Mura tribe as Jewish due to their forced conversion to Christianity two centuries ago, leaving 8,000 Ethiopian Jews unable to move to the Jewish State.

Following public pressure, Interior Minister Aryeh Deri granted Shafrao citizenship a few days before the International Bible Competition.

The government finally relented and permitted his family to immigrate to Israel in August after the Heart of Israel organization raised the necessary funds.

The Heart of Israel is a Shilo-based organization that promotes Israeli business in Judea and Samaria. CEO A.Y. Katzoff told TJH that he decided to raise the necessary funds to bring the family to Israel since he sees the mass Ethiopian immigration to Israel as part of the prophetic return of the ten lost tribes.

“Growing up in school, we all learned about the ten lost tribes that are far out and one day they’re going to come back. We study about it but no one realizes that they have to wake up and do something about it,” said Katzoff.

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“Today,” he added, “we find that we have the lost tribes in Ethiopia who are suffering terribly, without running water and medicine but their connection to G-d and Judaism is stronger than anywhere I’ve ever seen.”

Netanyahu: Israel Protecting Europe

Israeli Prime Minister Benjamin Netanyahu recently asserted that Israel is “protecting Europe” through its counter-terrorism activities, something he said should cause the continent to “change their approach to us.”

“Israel is Europe’s shield in the Middle East from terrorism, and without us it would spread and many more people would push into Europe,” warned Netanyahu at a memorial event marking a century since the end of World War I. “When we protect ourselves, we are also protecting Europe.”

Netanyahu added that the protection Israel affords Europe should cause it to seek to improve the continent’s often-strained relationship with the Jewish State.

“I do not hide the discomfort that the EU is attacking Israel on a number of issues. The State of Israel is the only democracy in the Middle East that is a brake against the spread of radical Islam towards Europe,” Netanyahu said.

“They consistently return to us unfounded political attacks, and I expect the European countries to stand against it,” he added.

Israel’s Mossad intelligence agency has been credited with foiling numerous terror attacks in Europe within the last year. In early November, reports said that the Mossad scuttled an attempted attack by Iran on a gathering of anti-regime Iranian groups in Denmark.

According to the report, Iran

planned on bombing a meeting of the Arab Struggle Movement for the Liberation of Ahvaz - Iran (ASMLA).

Intelligence provided by the Mossad enabled Sweden to arrest an Iranian national on October 21, who was nabbed with explosives in his possession.

Israel also allegedly played a role in thwarting another Iranian attack in August, this time in Paris. Together with France, Germany and Belgium, Israel furnished key information that enabled the Belgians to detain two of its citizens of Iranian origin.

In January, Netanyahu said that Israeli intelligence prevented several airlines from being hijacked. “We have, through our intelligence services, provided information that has stopped several dozen major terrorist attacks, most of them in European countries,” he said.

“Some of these could have been mass attacks, of the worst kind that you have experienced on the soil of Europe and even worse, because they involve civil aviation,” the prime minister said. “Israel has prevented that, and thereby helped save many European lives.”

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42 Siyumei Hashas at Shas Yiden

Each Scholar Completes 13,555 Blatt a Year On Monday evening, the avreichim geonim of Shas Yiden, leading supporters from the United States and England and other guests gathered at the Lederman shul in Bnei Brak. A controlled excitement permeated the small hall as all waited to welcome the Nasi of Shas Yiden, Maran Sar Hatorah ‫ורשכבה"ג‬ Hagaon Harav Chaim Kanievsky, shlit”a, for the annual Siyum Hashas by each of the 42 avreichim. Each had completed a

minimum of 13,555 blatt!

When Rav Chaim entered, the music and the singing reached a crescendo and the simchas Torah began with abandon.

Aside from Rav Chaim, Rav Eliyahu Mann, the Rav’s chavrusa, addressed the gathering on behalf of Rav Chaim. “We are celebrating a siyum of 569,310 blatt!...

The Sar Hatorah said that the supporters of Shas Yiden will have ehrliche children

who will be yir’ei shomayin; their sons talmidei chachomim and their daughters, tznuos. Hagaon Harav Shimon Galai gave divrei brocho and spoke of the greatness of the avreichim and the mutual greatness of those who support Shas Yiden. The hadran was made by the Rosh Reshet Hakollelim, Hagaon Harav Moshe Isaac Samet, shlit”a, and the kaddish was recited by Reb Yossi Hirsch from New York.

Just before Rav Chaim left the gathering, he read and signed a letter of brocho – 28 Cheshvan 5779 “Let these lines be testimony regarding the honorable Rabbonim Geonim, the avreichim of the Shas Yiden Kollelim, led

by Hagaon Harav Avrohom Halevi Eisen, shlit”a, Pozna Rov, that they are ba’alei trisin (protagonists of Torah study) and of noble middos. They visited with me, and I tested them with questions from throughout Shas (the Talmud). I was amazed at their incredible knowledge, and their study effort to delve through the entire Talmud every year in depth and all-encompassing proficiency. Happy is their portion and those who support and assist are full partners in the project. And all who come to support [Shas Yiden] will merit to see double the blessing from their livelihood and will be protected from the travails of the Messianic times. I bless them that they shall merit to bring greatness and glory to the Torah amidst tranquility and expansiveness of knowledge with brocho and hatzlocho (blessing and success) in all their efforts – Amen and may it be His will.

Chaim Kanievsky To see the siyum and the ‘give and take’ of the farhers, click on www.shasyiden.com

The Nasi signing a testimonial to the incredible accomplishments of the avreichim in yedias Hashas

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Hagaon Harav Eliyahu Mann delivering the words of brocha of the Nasi

s Yiden, The Nasi with the Founder of Sha na Rov Poz n Eise Hagaon Harav Avrohom

Rosh Hakollelim, Hagaon Harav Moshe Isaac Samet making the Siyum Hashas

Gathering at Siyum Hashas of Shas Yiden with the Nasi, Maran harav Chaim Kanievsky

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The Nasi and his son, Hagaon Yitzchak Shaul speaking with the founder of Shas Yiden

Yossi Hirsch of New York reciting the Kaddish in memory of his father the late Leiby Hisrch

Hagaon Harav Shimon Galai, guest speaker at the Siyum Hashas

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Committee head MK Nurit Koren thanked the IDF for their cooperation and pledged to get to the bottom of the affair that remains one of Israel’s darkest controversies.

“It is not only important for families to know how and to whom the medical experiments were carried out, it is important for everyone – Israeli society is strong enough today to look at the terrible reality that was then,” said Koren. “I appreciate the IDF archives for their cooperation. The exposure of the materials will be a significant achievement for families who have been living in question for years.”

IDF Archive Director Ilana Alon said that all of the military’s files had been turned over to the committee.

“At the request of the committee, we scanned hundreds of files related to the Medical Corps, the Transit Camps Ordinance and others,” said Alon. “We did a search with every possible word. All files are available to the committee for review and soon after the personal details are removed, they will even be revealed to the general public.”

The Knesset committee is probing the alleged disappearance of

hundreds of Yemenite children during Israel’s founding period.

For years, rumors have abounded of Yemenite children that were taken away from their parents by doctors and subsequently disappeared.

Often, Israeli officials were said to have told the parents that their child died, yet no death certificates were ever issued and the parents were not taken to a grave.

The disappearances are said to have happened between 1948 and 1954. According to some estimates, one in every eight Yemenite children vanished, with some estimates ranging as high as 10,000. Many of the missing children’s parents were starting to doubt the official story upon receiving a draft notice for their child around the time that their child would have turned 18.

While Israel has tasked four official investigatory commissions to look into the affair, no Israeli official has confirmed that the abductions took place until Minister Tzachi Hanegbi acknowledged in 2016 that “hundreds” of children were “taken away.”

“We may never know what happened to them,” added Hanegbi.

Soldier Hit in Missile Attack

This week, a 19-year-old soldier in the IDF was brought to Beersheba’s Soroka Hospital with life-threatening injuries after he was hit in a missile attack from Gaza. After two major operations, his condition is said to have been improved.

The unnamed soldier was standing outside a bus near Kibbutz Kfar Azza, when a Kornet anti-tank guided missile fired from the Gaza Strip struck the vehicle.

“I am asking that you pray for my son’s recovery and that my son opens his eyes,” the soldier’s mother said. “We are hoping that he will [open his eyes] by this evening.”

The bus was carrying soldiers, who all exited the bus right before

the attack. The driver of the bus, a resident of a Bedouin community in the Negev, said he was in “total shock.”

On early Tuesday, the Hamas terror group published a video showing the bus being hit and erupting into flames.

The attack on the bus near the Gaza border touched off a massive flareup of violence that has seen more than 400 rockets fired at Israel and massive retaliatory airstrikes by Israel on Gaza, bringing the sides to the brink of war.

The attack, however, could have had a much higher injury or death toll. According to reports, the bus had been filled with soldiers minutes earlier, but thankfully was empty at the time it was hit. It had no markings identifying it as a military bus.

The attack on the bus came less than a day after an IDF special operations officer was killed in an operation gone awry that also killed seven Palestinian gunmen in the Strip. Following Sunday night’s incident, the Gaza-ruling terror group Hamas said “the blood of our righteous martyrs will not be wasted.”

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On Wednesday, Yisrael Beytenu chairman Avigdor Liberman announced that he would be resigning as defense minister. He called for the government to be dismantled and for new elections to be set.

“I am here to announce my resignation from the government,” Liberman said at a hastily organized press conference at the Knesset after a Yisrael Beytenu party meeting, during which he told MKs of his decision.

Liberman said his decision came in light of the ceasefire reportedly agreed on Tuesday between Israel and Palestinian terror groups in Gaza following an unprecedentedly fierce two-day barrage of over 400 rockets fired by Hamas and other terror groups toward Israel. Liberman and other ministers had criticized Prime Minister Benjamin Netanyahu over the decision.

“What happened yesterday, the ceasefire, together with the deal with Hamas, is a capitulation to terror.

There is no other way of explaining it,” Liberman reiterated. “What we are doing right now is buying quiet for a heavy price with no long-term plan to reduce violence toward us,” he said of the deal, which wasn’t officially confirmed by Israeli officials. He also slammed the military’s response to the rocket fire. “To put it lightly, our response was drastically lacking to the 500 rockets fired at us,” he said.

Liberman also directly criticized Prime Minister Netanyahu, saying he “fundamentally disagreed with him” on a number of key issues, including the government’s allowing $15 million to be transferred in cash from the Qatari government to Hamas on Friday.

“I opposed it. The prime minister needed to write an executive order for it to go above my head,” Liberman claimed, saying that the money went first to the families of Hamas members killed on the Gaza border in clashes with the IDF and then to funding for rockets to fire at Israel.

“I could not remain [in office] and still be able to look residents of the south in the eyes,” Liberman said.

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After Yisrael Beytenu’s pullout, the coalition will hold a paper-thin majority in the 120-seat Knesset. New elections must be held by within the coming 12 months.

The Jewish Home party, however, is expected to demand the position of defense minister for its leader, Education Minister Naftali Bennett. Liberman has clashed frequently with Bennett, whose religious-nationalist party

will compete with Liberman’s secular right-wing Yisrael Beytenu over the votes of many hawkish Israelis in the upcoming Knesset elections.

According to the military, over 460 rockets and mortar shells were fired at southern Israel over the course of 25 hours on Monday and Tuesday. The Iron Dome missile defense system intercepted over 100 of them. Most of the rest landed in open fields, but dozens landed inside Israeli cities and towns, killing one person, injuring

dozens more, and causing significant property damage.

In response to the rocket and mortar attacks, the Israeli military said it targeted approximately 160 sites in the Gaza Strip connected to the Hamas and Palestinian Islamic Jihad terror groups, including four facilities that the army designated as “key strategic assets.”

Netanyahu agreed to a ceasefire despite several minsters opposing the deal.

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Special Forces Officer Killed in Gaza

Thousands gathered on Monday for the funeral of an IDF Special Forces senior officer who was killed overnight during a covert operation in the Gaza Strip that culminated in a fierce exchange of fire with Palestinian gunmen.

President Reuven Rivlin, Education Minister Naftali Bennett, and Communication Minister Ayoub Kara represented the government as the lieutenant colonel was laid to rest.

The soldier, 41, and identified in media only by the Hebrew initial “Mem,” was from a community in

northern Israel. He is survived by his wife and two children.

“I came to thank and to salute a hero, on behalf of the entire State of Israel. The very best of our boys, whose memory will be forever engraved in our hearts,” Rivlin said.

“Your pain is our pain, your grief is our grief. The grief of the whole people, the whole people of Israel.

“Mem was one of the bravest and most daring soldiers and commanders of the State of Israel and he fell defending the citizens of Israel, the children of Israel,” he added. “He lived the values he was brought up on: bravery, self-sacrifice, daring and determination, and that is how he died.”

In a eulogy, Bennett said the lieutenant colonel would go down in history “as one of the greatest Israeli heroes, alongside Yoni Netanyahu and Roi Klein,” referring to the brother of Prime Minister Benjamin Netanyahu, who was killed in the 1976 Israeli hostage rescue in Entebbe, and an Israeli soldier who jumped on a grenade in the 2006 Second Lebanon War to save his men.

The slain officer “did not hesitate to take part in this complex mission and was not afraid to endanger his

life,” continued the minister. “He dreamed of being a teacher. He will no longer be able to do that, but generations of children will be educated about his legacy.”

Many details of the raid in Gaza remain subject to military censorship and could not be revealed. The army described the incident, in which another officer was moderately injured and which sparked hours of clashes, as an intelligence-gathering mission that went awry.

Prime Minister Netanyahu tweeted: “I bow my head in sadness at the loss of Lt. Col. Mem, a glorious fighter who fell during an IDF operation in the Gaza Strip.”

At some point during the intelligence operation, Israeli troops clashed with local Hamas fighters, killing a senior commander and several other members of the Gaza-ruling terrorist group. The IDF unit called in aerial support to bomb the surrounding area and made its way out of the Gaza Strip.

According to the IDF, the soldiers operating in Gaza overnight “became trapped in a highly complex situation” but they had responded “heroically, hit those who threatened them, and extracted themselves to Israeli territory.”

According to the Hamas-run Gaza health ministry, seven Palestinians were killed in the exchange and another seven were injured. Their funerals were held in Gaza on Monday.

Rockets Rain on Ashkelon

On Tuesday morning, residents from Ashkelon were beginning to emerge from their homes. A rocket from the Gaza Strip hit an apartment building in the southern part of the city. One person – a Palestinian who had permission to be in Ashkelon – was killed. Thirteen were injured in the hit.

“Life is continuing. We can’t let them dictate our lives from Gaza,”

Galit Tzaban, an employee at a 24hour supermarket in Ashkelon that stayed open during the barrage of rockets overnight, told Times of Israel. She said the employees spent their overnight shift dashing into a public shelter located next to the building.

Others were at home, running back and forth to the shelter every time the sirens went off.

Schools on Tuesday morning were canceled. Authorities were telling residents to stay within a short distance of bomb shelters and protected areas. Residents of Ashkelon have 30 seconds after the Code Red alert sounds to run to the nearest shelter.

Lion Takes Jerusalem

Fifty-four municipalities held their second round of voting on Tuesday. In Jerusalem, Israel’s capital and largest city, Moshe Lion barely squeaked by with a victory over Ofer Berkovitch by a slim margin of 51.5 percent to 48.5%. Berkovitch, though, did not admit defeat.

The secular candidate said that he was looking into alleged “irregularities” in voting, and also awaiting the counting Wednesday of 8,500 votes

by IDF soldiers, prisoners, and those cast in hospitals.

In Israel’s fourth-largest city, Rishon Lezion, challenger Raz Kinstlich defeated two-term mayor Dov Tzur, a popular politician beset by corruption investigations, 53% to 47%.

In all, some 833,000 Israelis voted in the second round on Tuesday, a turnout of 43%.

It was a bad year for incumbents.

Nissim Malka lost his seat in Kiryat Shmona to challenger Avichai Stern by a steep 37%-63% result. In Ramat Gan, Carmel Shama Hacohen, a former Likud lawmaker and Israeli ambassador to UNESCO and the OECD, ended a long-running contest with incumbent mayor Israel Zinger with a 56%-44% victory. In Bat Yam, Zvi-

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ka Brot handily defeated incumbent Yossi Becher 63% to 37%.

Arkady Pomerantz unseated Israel’s longest-serving incumbent, 42-year Ma’alot-Tarshiha mayor Shlomo Buhbut, by a steep 65%-35% victory.

In Safed, Likud candidate Shuki Ohana defeated ultra-Orthodox candidate Nahman Avraham Gelbach by a sizable 61%-39% margin, helped by a splintering of the ultra-Orthodox vote in the city.

In Gush Etzion, the only West Bank municipality to hold a runoff, incumbent Shlomo Ne’eman bucked the trend, holding onto his seat against repeat challenger Moshe Saville with a 56%-44% victory.

Local elections were put off in the Hof Ashkelon Regional Council due to the rocket barrages from Gaza and Monday and Tuesday. The Interior Ministry has yet to announce a new election date.

Tragedy in CA

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A shaken Sherriff Dean told reporters, “It’s a horrific scene in there,” following the assault. “There is blood everywhere and the suspect is part of that.”

Long ended up taking his own life in what was the United States’ deadliest mass shooting since the February 14 shooting at Marjory Stoneman Douglas High School in Parkland, Florida, that killed 17.

Among the dead was a 29-year-Ventura County Deputy Sheriff Ron Helus, who was hit with a hail of bullets after risking his life and charging into the bar when the shooting started. Helus had been on the phone with his wife when he heard the gunshots, telling her, “Hun, I got to go, I love you. I gotta go on a call” before charging in with a patrolman. Sadly, he lost his life trying to save others.

Another victim was 22-year-old Cody Coffman, who was planning to enlist into the U.S. Army. “I’ve been here fighting for him all morning long, and we did just get the news that he was one of [those] killed last night. His name was Cody Coffman, my first-born son,” his father, Jason, tearfully told the media.

113M+ Voted in the Midterms Twelve people were killed in California last Thursday after a gunman opened fire at Borderline Bar & Grill.

The shooter was identified as 28-year-old Marine veteran Ian David Long. Having had served a tour in Afghanistan, Long reportedly suffered from PTSD. Ventura County Sheriff Geoff Dean said that he had been acting angry and irrational in the weeks prior to the mass shooting.

During the attack, Long threw smoke grenades into the packed hangout before shooting patrons and employees with his 45-caliber Glock 21. Survivors spoke of a stampede towards the exit that formed a bottleneck, preventing others from fleeing.

“There were at least 50 people that all tried getting up at once and run out the back door. I ended up get-

A record number of Americans voted in last Tuesday’s midterm elections, a phenomenon many observers attribute to President Donald Trump.

According to the Associated Press, over 113 million U.S. citizens voted in the elections, making this the highest total turnout in U.S. history for a non-presidential election.

Turnout was up by 30 million from the previous midterm elections in

2014.

With 47% of eligible voters participating, the turnout at this year’s elections percentage-wise was the highest since the 1966 midterm elections, which witnessed 49% voter turnout.

Many observers credit President Trump’s polarizing political style for sparking the record-shattering turnout. Democrats were eager to show their displeasure with the direction in which Trump has taken America, and were well motivated to show up at the ballot box. According to the New York Times, more Democrats voted in this election than Republicans. However, Republicans flocked to the polls as well, out of fear that a Democratic “Blue Wave” taking over the House and the Senate would paralyze the GOP’s legislative agenda.

The increased turnout was particularly pronounced in close and highly contested races. In Texas, where incumbent Republican Senator Ted Cruz went down to the wire with Democratic star Beto O’Rourke, the amount of citizens choosing early voting surpassed the total turnout in 2014. Cruz ultimately won the state.

In Kansas’ closely-fought race for governor, over 60 percent of eligible voters showed up to send incumbent Kris Kobach home.

Despite predictions that a “Blue Wave” would strip the Republicans of both branches of government, the Democrats wound up only taking control of the House. While the Democrats now have a 225-197 Congressional majority, the GOP added two seats in the Senate.

President Trump, who had campaigned heavily for Republican senators, said that the Democrats’ lower than expected gains means that the midterms were “a tremendous success.”

The Journal reported late Monday that Amazon has picked New York’s Long Island City and Arlington County’s Crystal City neighborhoods, citing people familiar with the matter.

The development projects promise to bring the cities a giant infusion of jobs and tax revenue, but are almost certain to draw fire from critics concerned about their impact on infrastructure and property values.

Amazon began searching for what became known as HQ2 back in September 2017. The company outlined several criteria for its second headquarters, such as proximity to a major airport and the ability to attract technical talent. It also wanted a suburban or urban area with more than 1 million people and access to mass transit. The facility could create as many as 50,000 jobs and cost as least $5 billion to build and operate.

Cities went to great lengths to attract Amazon to their areas.

Kansas City Mayor Sly James wrote five-star reviews for 1,000 random items on Amazon’s website; Tucson sent Amazon CEO Jeff Bezos a giant cactus; and Stonecrest, Georgia, offered to rename some of its land “the city of Amazon.”

Amazon received 238 proposals for HQ2, spanning 54 states, provinces, districts and territories across North America. It eventually winnowed those bids down to 20 finalists, including Austin, Boston, Nashville, Miami and Philadelphia. Just last week it was revealed that Amazon planned to divide the headquarters between two places.

Spider-Man Creator Dies at 95

NYC HQ2

According to the Wall Street Journal, New York City and North Virginia are about to be the newest sites for Amazon’s second headquarters.

Wanting to create superheroes who were more relatable than superheroes like Batman, Stan Lee enthralled kids with creations like Spider-Man, Ironman, Thor, and the Hulk. The colorful Marvel Comic patriarch died this week at the age of 95.

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Lee began his career at what was then Timely Comics in 1939. Over the years he was a writer, editor and occasional illustrator. But, bored with the output, he was preparing to leave the company when history took a sudden turn. The comics industry had been dominated by the creators of Superman, Batman, Wonder Woman and the Green Lantern. In the late ‘60s, Lee was asked to come up with superheroes who more flawed, more human, those that children could see also struggled with everyday challenges – like paying rent or wondering about their purpose in life.

First came the Fantastic Four, a superhero team probably most famous for the grumpy, rock-skinned Thing. Following that success Lee and Marvel introduced such characters as Spider-Man, the Hulk, Iron Man, Thor, the X-Men and Daredevil.

These new superheroes – all created in a burst between 1961 and 1964 – were hugely popular and allowed Marvel to surpass DC in both sales and fashionableness.

Spider-Man, in particular, became the imprint’s signature character: a neurotic photographer named Peter Parker who, after being bitten

by a radioactive spider, develops spider-like powers. Parker was forever clashing with newspaper editor J. Jonah Jameson (an angry, cigar-chomping martinet who was no Perry White) and worrying about his fragile Aunt May. Crime fighting was the least of his concerns.

“I never thought that Spider-Man would become the worldwide icon that he is. I just hoped the books would sell and I’d keep my job,” Lee said in 2006.

Many of Lee’s and Marvel’s characters were turned into film or TV characters. In 2009, the Walt Disney Company purchased Marvel Entertainment – the licensing arm of the comic-book brand – for $4 billion.

Lee maintained that he saw little of the wealth, though.

“I used to be embarrassed because I was just a comic-book writer while other people were building bridges or going on to medical careers,” he told the Washington Post. “And then I began to realize: entertainment is one of the most important things in people’s lives. Without it they might go off the deep end. I feel that if you’re able to entertain people, you’re doing a good thing.”

Fatal CA Fire

At least 44 people were killed after a series of wildfires ripped through California, leaving hundreds of thousands of people homeless in what is the state’s worst fire in over two decades. There are around 100 people still missing, as firefighters search for survivors.

Governor Jerry Brown declared a state of emergency on Sunday and asked the federal government to assist in rehabilitating the devastated parts of northern California.

“We have the best firefighters and first responders in the country working in some of the most difficult conditions imaginable,” Brown said.

“We’re putting everything we’ve got into the fight against these fires and this request ensures communities on the front lines get additional federal aid. To those who have lost friends

and family members, homes and businesses, know that the entire state is with you. As Californians, we are strong and resilient, and together we will recover.”

In Butte Country, the Camp Fire has already destroyed 109,000 acres since it first erupted last Thursday, taken the lives of 42, and burned 6,453 homes. The fire completely gutted the 27,000-person city of Paradise, and California’s Department of Forestry and Fire protection says that the death toll is likely to rise.

Over 300,000 people have already been evacuated in what is California’s deadliest fire since 1991.

In Ventura Country, the Hill Fire has already burned 4,531 acres but firefighters say that they believe that they have taken control of the blaze.

Meanwhile, the Woolsey Fire in Ventura and Los Angeles Counties has destroyed 83,275 acres, killed two, and destroyed 177 homes.

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across the Middle East.

The Houthis are a Shiite theological movement that has been at the center of a violent civil war in Yemen that has left over 11,000 people dead.

Widely considered to be a proxy of Iran, the Houthis have been in armed conflict with Yemen’s government since 2004 and took over the capital of Sana’a in 2014.

The Houthis’ success has led neighboring Saudi Arabia to intervene by flooding Yemen with military forces. Sunni-dominated Saudi Arabia, who are at odds with Shiite Muslims such as the Houthis, has imposed a punishing naval blockade on Yemen that has led to mass starvation. By January, more than 20 million Yemenis were missing basic food supplies.

The Houthis have responded by attacking Saudi Arabian oil shipments and launching rockets at Riyadh. Despite multiple ceasefire attempts, the bloody conflict shows no sign of abating and has already taken the lives of 11,000 people.

Experts say that Trump is seeking to crack down on the Houthis in order to hurt Iran and the Shiite proxy groups that Iran controls in order to subvert neighboring Arab states but

Should the Houthis be Considered Terrorists?

A new report says that President Trump is deciding on whether or not to designate Yemen’s Houthi rebels as a terror group.

As reported by the Middle Eastbased Al Monitor, such a move “would make it illegal for U.S. citizens to provide money or other material support to the group.” Defining the Houthis as a terror group would also allow the U.S. to freeze Houthi bank accounts and take over their financial assets.

Trump is considering taking such a step as part of his crackdown on Iranian-linked armed terror groups

are skeptical that such a designation would change the reality on the ground.

“Everyone knows they are terrorists and that they’re controlled

by Iran, which itself is a ‘terrorist organization,’” international counter-terror specialist Del Wilder told Fox News. “But until there is regime change in Iran the Houthis, Hezbollah, Hamas, and others will continue to go about the business of committing acts of terror and disruption.”

“Look at the number of declared terrorist entities, yet they continue to operate and the conflicts they engage in continue,” added University of Ottawa researcher Kamran Bokhari.

“Like sanctions, these designations assume the key stakeholders will actively work to isolate the groups in question, which rarely happens.”

Americans to be Honored The list of United States citizens set to receive the nation’s highest civilian honor includes a renowned pro-Israel activist, a former Supreme

Court justice, and a Hall of Fame baseball player.

The White House announced last week the roster of people being awarded the Presidential Medal of Freedom in a ceremony on November 16.

“This prestigious award is the Nation’s highest civilian honor, which may be awarded by the President to individuals who have made especially meritorious contributions to the security or national interests of the United States, to world peace, or to cultural or other significant public or private endeavors,” said the White House.

Among the recipients are former Dallas Cowboys Quarterback Roger Staubach, outgoing Utah Senator Orrin Hatch, the “King of Rock and Roll” Elvis Presley, and baseball legend Babe Ruth. The White House invoked Elvis’ military service when

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they give to a wide variety of causes, including Birthright Israel. Miriam Adelson also owns the Israel Hayom daily, which is the Jewish State’s highest circulation newspaper.

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announcing the award, noting that the rocker “served nearly 2 years in the United States Army, humbly accepting the call to serve despite his fame.”

Another Presidential Medal of Freedom awardee is former Supreme Court Justice Antonin Scalia, who died in 2016.

The prize will also go to Miriam Adelson, a doctor and the wife of Republican Party mega-donor Sheldon

Adelson.

“Miriam Adelson is a committed doctor, philanthropist, and humanitarian,” the White House said in a statement. “She has practiced internal and emergency medicine, studied and specialized in the disease of narcotic addiction, and founded two research centers committed to fighting substance abuse.

“With her husband, Sheldon, she also established the Adelson Medical

Research Foundation, which supports research to prevent, reduce, or eliminate disabling and life-threatening illness. As a committed member of the American Jewish community, she has supported Jewish schools, Holocaust memorial organizations, Friends of the Israel Defense Forces, and Birthright Israel, among other causes.”

Both Adelsons are well-known in Israel and the U.S. for the support

The United States wants China to crack down on exports of the synthetic opioid fentanyl as the deadly drug’s popularity in the U.S. continues to climb.

Fentanyl, which is over 50 times more powerful than heroin, has been overtaking heroin as the opioid epidemic’s biggest killer. Fentanyl and similar drugs killed 29,000 Americans in 2017 alone, an astonishing rise from the 3,100 lives the drug claimed in 2013.

A major reason for the escalating body count is fentanyl’s high potency; a bag the size of a sugar packet is sufficiently toxic to kill 500 people. The Drug Enforcement Agency (DEA) warns that “fentanyl is potentially lethal, even at very low levels. Ingestion of doses as small as 0.25mg can be fatal.”

China is unquestionably the world’s biggest fentanyl producer.

The Defense Intelligence Agency estimates that 68% of the drug comes from China, where it is often openly produced in large factories. As such, the U.S. has been pressuring China to finally take action towards combatting the drug that has been devastating Americans in record numbers.

“People in labs in China are producing this substance that is killing Americans,” said Deputy Attorney General Rod Rosenstein. “This is a real crisis. The Chinese government has the ability to stop this if they want to. We believe they should want to do that.”

In August, President Donald Trump told then-Attorney General Jeff Sessions that fentanyl dealers should be sentenced to death. Trump also blamed China for the fentanyl epidemic, noting that a key reason law enforcement has had trouble combatting the drug’s proliferation is fentanyl’s high potency and small size, which allow it to be shipped via mail.

“It is outrageous that poisonous, synthetic Heroin Fentanyl comes pouring into the U.S. Postal System

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Garbage Geyser

Spectators at Yellowstone’s Ear Spring geyser who watched it erupt on September 15 had a little surprise. Ear Spring is normally a docile hot pool, but recently, during its rare eruption, the geyser blasted water, rocks and trash upwards of 20 feet, according to the United States Geological Survey.

After the eruption, employees found a collection of trash near the vent of the geyser. Grizzly bear warning signs, cigarette butts and a 1930s pacifier were among the items discovered. Colleen Curry, Yellowstone’s museum curator, said that the recognizable items will be cataloged and stored in the museum collections.

“Stuff like this can tell us a story and the history of how people were unfortunately using the spring while they were visiting. It will definitely be added to the collections,” Curry said.

Although some of Yellowstone’s staff were excited to take a trip back in time, they recently made sure to remind visitors not to throw things into any geysers or springs.

“When the vent becomes completely plugged, as it has in several springs in the park, then the spring can actually plug up to the point where it’s not a hot spring anymore and it’ll go dormant or it’ll die,” park ranger Rebecca Roland warned.

This happened at other sites in the park, like Handkerchief Pool.

The pool was able to clean items, specifically handkerchiefs, but eventually the vent got clogged with gar-

bage and shut off.

“Foreign objects can damage hot springs and geysers. The next time Ear Spring erupts, we hope it’s nothing but natural rocks and water,” Yellowstone National Park wrote on Facebook. “You can help by never throwing anything into Yellowstone’s thermal features!”

The Fight over Florida

Democrat Andrew Gillum announced last week that he has withdrawn his concession in the Florida governor race after the contest suddenly tightened between him and opponent Ron DeSantis.

“I am replacing my words of concession with an uncompromised and unapologetic call that we count every single vote,” Gillum told reporters in Tallahassee.

“This process is not over until every single vote is counted,” Gillum added. “The outcome of this election will have consequences beyond who wins and who loses. How we handle this election in this process will have reverberations for democracy, for an entire generation of voters.”

Ron DeSantis appeared to have soundly beaten Gillum after the polls closed last Tuesday. However, DeSantis’ lead narrowed to under 0.5%, automatically triggering a recount under Florida law.

DeSantis responded by calling on Gillum to drop out of the race, contending that “the results are clear and unambiguous, just as they were on Election Night.

“With the election behind us, it’s now time to come together as a state as we prepare to serve all Floridians,” added DeSantis.

Gillum is believed to be trailing DeSantis by 33,000 votes, or 0.4%.

The final tally will be announced on Thursday afternoon.

Gillum, a former Tallahassee mayor, had entered Election Day as a six-point favorite, yet could not

pull off victory. Should DeSantis maintain his lead, the Republicans would have won every Florida gubernatorial election since 1998.

In another race in the state, the Florida senatorial race has gone down to the wire, with a recount marred by claims of fraud and abuse of power by both Democrat Bill Nelson and Republican candidate Governor Rick Scott.

Scott had appeared to have pulled off an upset victory over longtime Senator Nelson on Tuesday.

However, Scott’s lead dropped to the point in which Florida law mandates a recount, triggering a heated contest between the two candidates.

Two counties that will likely sway the fate of the race are the liberal Palm Beach and Broward Counties.

Yet Broward County Elections Supervisor Brenda Snipes, a Democrat, has come under relentless criticism from Republicans for being responsible for a slew of violations including misplacing ballots and opening absentee ballots early.

Scott and a host of other Republicans, including President Trump, have alleged that “a group of ragtag liberal activists” are attempting to steal the election.

“We’ve all seen the incompetence and the irregularities in vote tabulations in Broward and Palm Beach for years. Well, here we go again. I will not sit idly by while unethical liberals try to steal this election from the great people of Florida,” Scott told Fox News.

Alleging that the Broward Country ballots were at risk of being tampered with, Scott invoked his governor’s responsibility to order the ballots guarded by armed deputies.

President Trump said that mass voter fraud was underway and urged Florida officials to call the election in favor of Scott and fellow Republican DeSantis.

“The Florida Election should be called in favor of Rick Scott and Ron DeSantis in that large numbers of new ballots showed up out of nowhere, and many ballots are missing or forged. An honest vote count is no longer possible – ballots massively infected. Must go with Election Night!” tweeted the president.

The allegations of voter fraud were denied by Nelson, who said in a statement that if Scott “wanted to make sure every legal ballot is counted, he would not be suing to try and stop voters from having their legal ballot counted as intended.”

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No High Heels, No High Price

Planning a wedding and want something a little bit different? Consider Roccascalegna. You may have to travel far but it will leave you a lot in your wallet to pay for all those airline tickets you’re going to need.

Roccascalegna, a medieval hamlet in the central, wild Abruzzo region in Italy, is leasing its stunning fortress for weddings, cocktail parties, birthdays, anniversaries and other once-in-a-lifetime events for a giveaway price of just €100, which is around $114. Yes, the price is right!

Now, you just have to find the groom.

Mayor Domenico Giangiordano is hoping to use the recently refurbished castle to liven up his depopulating town and turn it into a niche location for lavish celebrations.

“It’s a real low fee, practically a tip,” Giangiordano said, admiring the view stretching from the snowy peaks of the Apennine Mountains to the distant blue of the Adriatic sea.

“Our goal isn’t to raise cash but to use this unique setting to revamp the local economy by luring an elite clientele who loves tiny, offbeat spots.”

Known as the Castle in the Sky, the 700-square-meter venue features a chapel for weddings, a tower to host evening cocktail bashes, and former dungeons and torture rooms for candlelit dinners and business brunches.

Spotlights illuminate the uphill, craggy stone steps and inner gardens. The battlements have protruding iron balconies, glass floors and slit windows that overlook a verdant canyon – an idyllic background for sunset photo sessions.

The scenery is serene – and breathtaking. Roccascalegna’s castle shoots out of a shard-like horizontal basalt cliff. The rocky outcrop sits between flower meadows dotted with olive trees and barns. If you’re planning to head there soon, better pack

your sneakers. There are no roads leading up to the castle. Guests need to park their cars at the entrance of the village and then climb old donkey trails to enter the palace.

But hey, can’t beat $100 for a wedding hall, right?

Getting Younger

No longer do you have to worry about old age. If you want to be younger, just say it, and it’s done.

A 69-year-old Dutchman is petitioning courts to legally change his age to 49 years old.

Emile Ratelband says that it would help him with job prospects and when dating if his age is listed as 20 years less than he really is.

“You can change your name…

Why not your age? Nowhere are you so discriminated against as with your

age,” Dutch paper De Telegraaf quoted Ratelband as saying.

On Monday, he asked a court in his hometown of Arnhem, in the east of the country, for his date of birth to be changed from March 11, 1949 to March 11, 1969.

He told the court that he “suffers” as a 69-year-old and has been feeling “20, 25 years younger” than his official age, according to Dutch newspaper Algemeen Dagblad.

According to the newspaper, the court is skeptical about Ratelband’s case as there is no legal precedent in this area. It is due to make a ruling in four weeks.

Ratelband, whose website describes him as a personal development entrepreneur, told De Telegraaf he is a “young god” and said a change to his legal age would help him live life with gusto.

Hey, my kids have always wanted to vote. Can they change their age to 18 so they can head to the polls?

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ed her 26th birthday onboard the J train.

Asaly, a photographer from California, said her cousin came up with the idea. After the birthday group boarded the train at the Myrtle-Broadway stop in Brooklyn, they brought out the party props. Out came colored paper for the subway walls and a table to hold the birthday fare. They even had a piñata to entertain the revelers. Lobster, spaghetti and wine were served.

After the festivities the group cleaned up before exiting.

Hope they “whashda clozen dawrs.”

Thanksgiving in a Can

If you wanted to taste Pringles’ Thanksgiving in a Can, you’re too late.

The holiday-themed chips sold out in less than an hour when they went on sale last Tuesday.

Pringles, which rolled out the Thanksgiving flavors – turkey in a can, stuffing in a can, and pumpkin pie in a can – to members of the media last year, decided this year to make the limited-edition chips available for anyone to order online. In 41 minutes all the cans on sale were snatched up by hungry chip fans.

In 2017, Pringles created eight Thanksgiving flavors that were served in a TV dinner-style tray. Among the additional flavors that did not make the cut for the three-pack this year were mashed potatoes, green bean casserole and cranberry-sauce.

The three-pack stackable mini cans were sold last week only online for just $14.99. The chips have the

Pringles iconic shape but taste like turkey, stuffing, and pumpkin pie.

They are showing up on eBay for $27 to $200.

I think I’m OK serving the barbecue flavor at my kids’ next Shabbos party.

Dead Man Walking

Two months ago Aigali Supygaliev was mourned by his family and friends. The man from Kazakhstan was pronounced dead after DNA testing proved with 99.2% certainty that the burned human remains in his family’s home was his.

But his family’s pain turned to joy this week when Aigali walked into their home.

His brother, Esengali Supygaliev, said, “We held a wake, and the extended family organized a traditional ‘konil shai’ ceremony,” where friends can share tea and sympathy with the bereaved.

“When Uncle Aigali walked through the door hale and hearty two months after we’d buried him, my daughter Saule nearly dropped dead of a heart attack,” Esengali added.

Aigali, 63, had left home one June morning and didn’t come back.

He had been known to walk off for a week or two but never did he leave for so long. This time, though, Aigali had taken up an offer of work from someone in a nearby village that he met in the market that fateful day.

When the work was finished – four months later – Aigali walked all the way back home to Tomalry.

The Supygalievs, who had paid for a tombstone, commissioned a stone shrine over the grave in the Kazakh tradition and even returned pension payments for the two months that Aigali was “dead,” are considering legal action against authorities for declaring Uncle Aigali deceased.

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his past Sunday, over 100 parents, children and families came together at Congregation Shaaray Tefila for a beautiful “Cups for Cops” Event.

In partnership with Achiezer, this simple yet beautiful idea was a genuine and easy way for the children in our community to display their appreciation and hakaras hatov to the men and women of our local police departments who are always protecting us, 24 hours a day. The police officers in attendance were overwhelmed by the turnout and the support and honestly exclaimed that moments like this makes their jobs that much more worthwhile. A true kiddush Hashem.

This special event was dedicated in everlasting memory of Simcha

(Sam) Belsky, z”l, who was tragically taken from us at such a young age.

His infectious and loving smile will never be forgotten.

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es, it sounds like an oxymoron, but that is the only way to describe the incredible keynote speech by Caroline Glick at One Israel Fund’s 24th Annual Dinner this past Tuesday.

As she is wont to do, Ms. Glick spoke forcefully and passionately about protecting Jewish lives, both in Israel and around the world, without raising her voice or causing a stir. The simple logic of her words resonated with the 400+ diverse dinner attendees who hailed from across the political and religious spectrum and across the globe.

The backdrop of the Pittsburgh massacre gave import to her unapologetic message of Jewish strength and courage in the face of constant terror and anti-Semitism.

She encapsulated her decades of expert experience on the ground in the Middle East, and echoed the clear mission statement that One Israel Fund operates by every day – building and securing the Heartland of our Nation.

The speech was the highlight of a poignant evening which paid tribute to several outstanding individuals who devote their time and energy to Israel and her people. Dr. Steven & Jacqui Herman of Englewood, NJ; Dr. Irwin & Donna Azman and Eli & Mila Burman of Baltimore, MD; and David & Aurora Mosberg of Woodmere all received awards for their exemplary devotion to One Israel Fund’s mission.

The program included two emotional presentations to Miriam Holman, a”h, and Elisheva Kaplan, a”h, neighbors and best friends who passed away this past year.

Miriam was a devoted member of the One Israel Fund staff until she succumbed to a long illness at the age of 21. Elisheva, daughter of One Israel Fund’s cantor, Joel & Leah Kaplan, was murdered by a drunk driver, together with her chatan, Yisroel Levin, a”h, at age 20. Scott M. Feltman, executive vice president of One Israel Fund, announced the organization would be building a new playground in the community of Yitzhar in the hills of Samaria in

their memory.

Finally, the special Shomer Yisrael Award was bestowed upon Marc Provisor, the director of security projects, who has been One Israel Fund’s frontline fighter for more than a decade. His fearless love of Yesha (the Hebrew acronym for the communities of Judea, Samaria and what were once in Gush Katif) has earned him accolades far and wide and his advice is sought at the highest levels of Israel’s security apparatus. The eye-opening video presentation about Marc’s work shed light on the often under-appreciated group of heroes who ensure the safety and security of residents

living in Israel’s most dangerous areas.

The “master” emcee, Ben Brafman, expertly guided the program from welcoming the guests at the beginning of the program to the singing of Im Eshkacheich by Cantor Joel Kaplan at the conclusion. The cuisine presented by Main Event-Mauzone was over the top in variety, presentation and, of course, taste.

To watch Marc’s video as well as all the award presentations, go to OneIsraelFund.org, or “Like” the One Israel Fund Facebook page.

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CommUnity THE ACHIEZER GALA SUNDAY 1 • 6 • 19 THE SANDS ATLANTIC BEACH

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EXCELLENCE IN MEDICINE AWARD

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THIS SUNDAY ABE & SHERREE BELSKY cordially invite the entire community to a breakfast reception at our home to benefit the children of Shuvu

SUNDAY, NOVEMBER 18, 2018 • 9:30 AM 16 BOXWOOD LANE • LAWRENCE, NY ‫דברי התעוררות‬ DAYAN YONASON ABRAHAM ‫שליט"א‬ ‫נשיא שובו‬

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Hachnosas Sefer Torah at the Premier

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n Sunday, November 11, the Five Towns Premier Nursing and Rehab Center held a Grand Hachnosas Sefer Torah/Sunday Funday event for the community. Children and adults delighted in the festivities, which included a free concert by Mordechai Shapiro, rides, cotton candy, face painting and more.

Five Towns Premier is the first rehabilitation and nursing facility to be constructed in Nassau County in many years. It is the only

facility located in the Five Towns. As a new, state-ofthe-art facility, Five Towns Premier offers an extensive array of rehabilitation and therapies on-site. The facility has a very low staffto-patient ratio and with a leadership team that has many decades of experience in the healthcare industry. Five Towns Premier will also provide unique offerings for the Orthodox Jewish resident, with a certified kosher kitchen and a full complement of religious amenities.

PHOTO CREDIT: HESHY RUBINSTEIN

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Big/Little Siblings at HAFTR

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AFTR Middle School students had a wonderful time at the Big/Little Sibling Lunch last week. Seventh graders did a phenomenal job helping their sixth grade “little siblings” feel welcome and comfortable, and the sounds of laughter and conversation filled the

room as the big and little siblings learned more about one another.

Thank you to all the faculty members who worked tirelessly to make this event a success and the Kammerman family for sponsoring the event in honor of Abbi’s bat mitzvah.

STEM at BYQ

HAFTR High School students enjoyed participating in a highly successful Bowla-Thon on behalf of Shaare Zedek Medical Center in Jerusalem on November 1.

Over 100 students gathered at Woodmere Lanes on Thursday evening for a funfilled night with their friends and classmates, during which they raised almost $8,000 for a new NICU Phototherapy System.

Extra Food WhatsApp Group

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s always, Bais Yaakov of Queens incorporates the most innovative learning into its curriculum. The new STEM initiative promotes excitement and engagement in science, technology, engineering, and math. This week the third grade was introduced to its opening unit, and the young scientists were mesmerized. The girls discussed chemical reactions between an acid and base.

The student-centered activity began with measurement as the girls identified the bottle had 16 ounces and then

measured specified proportions of oil to see what would happen. Then, what would happen if they added drops of food coloring? The excitement continued as they dropped Alka-Seltzer tablets in the bottles. The water and Alka-Seltzer combined and formed carbon dioxide. The gas bubbles rose, carrying the color upwards. They were fascinated by the amazing and colorful explosion going on inside the bottle.

Each girl proudly took home her lava bottle! They already anticipate their next STEM activity.

o you ever have food left over from a simcha? From a Shabbos? Or just from the week?

Bought the wrong flavor? Can’t return it? Almost expired? Don’t eat that anymore and still have cans/ boxes of it at home? Five Towns/ Far Rockaway Extra Food WhatsApp needs you!

Is there a family member who is ill and can’t work? Are you too tired to make dinner tonight? Do you have a large family and welcome extra food?

All are welcome to join. Five Towns/ Far Rockaway Extra Food WhatsApp needs you!

The rules are simple: If you are posting extra food, please be as specific as possible: • Homemade or not • How many days fresh • Why you’re not using • What town you’re in • It’s helpful to post your name for kashrus and other reasons.

• Or just take a picture of the food and post • If you are welcoming the extra food posted, please personal message that person.

Posts can be simple or more elab-

orate. Some examples of recent posts are, “I have gluten free crackers, cookies, snacks…”

“12 cans chunk light tuna in water.

Pick up in Woodmere.”

“6 bottles of assorted Kewpie salad dressing.”

“Have about 20 mini trifles, dozen bagels, container of egg salad, Costco dairy cookies (about dozen), Costco dairy brownie bites (almost the whole container). Dozen Beigel’s mini black and white cookies. All from this morning. Located in Cedarhurst.”

Please join in! As one participant said, “It’s good for all sides!” To join the Five Towns/Far Rockaway Extra Food WhatsApp group, please send a text message to 732-404-7909 with three words only, “EXTRA FOOD GROUP,” and you will be sent the link. Thank you!

Please feel free to start an Extra Food WhatsApp Group in your community! Pass it on! Monsey Extra Food WhatsApp, and Flatbush/ Boro Park Extra Food, and Lakewood Free Food WhatsApp have joined the family. Please message the above phone number if you wish to join either of those groups as well, and please be specific.

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The Munkacser Rebbe, shlita, visited the Five Towns last week for the Annual Breakfast to benefit Mosdos Munkacs. The breakfast was held at the home of Mr. and Mrs. Yussie Ostreicher.

From left: United States Army Reserve Ambassador to New York State Gary Port, Director of the Nassau County Veteran Service Agency Ralph Esposito, Town Clerk Sylvia Cabana, World War I reenactor Peter Bugala, Town of Hempstead Supervisor Laura Gillen, Former Commander of the Nassau County American Legion Andy Booth, and American Legion Post 1848 member Sal Martella celebrated Armistice Day by planting red poppy seeds in a flower bed at Hempstead Town Hall last week.

The flower is a symbol of remembrance for those lost during World War I.

Undefeated MSH Torah Bowl By: Ayala Feder, MSH 2021

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ast Thursday the MSH Torah Bowl team had their first meet.

After weeks of studying the p’shat and Rashi of the first parshiot of Bereishit, the MSH team emerged undefeated, beating SKA, HAFTR,

Northshore, and HANC. Everyone played well and encouraged each other. It was an extremely exciting

way to begin this year of Torah Bowl.

Junior Esther Conway said, “Torah Bowl was such a great experi-

ence! I can’t wait to play again next meet.”

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Fourth Grade Girls at Shulamith Celebrate Navi

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he fourth grade students of Shulamith School for Girls reached a momentous milestone in their lives last week as they each received a brand new Sefer Yehoshua. Their celebration began with a delicious breakfast that included a variety of cereals and blue and white cupcakes.

The enthusiastic girls played Eretz Yisrael Bingo and sang beautiful songs about Yehoshua and Eretz Yisrael. They enjoyed the inspiring words of their principal, Mrs. Joyce Yarmak. The highlight of the event was when Mrs. Yarmak and Morah Mindy Futersak called upon each young lady to receive her precious new sefer.

Students at Bais Yaakov Ateres Miriam enjoyed the brisk weather as they joyfully walked (and ran!) during their walk-a-thon this week

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More than 650 yeshiva day school educators and principals participated in The Jewish Education Project’s Annual Day of Learning, hosted at HALB, on Monday, November 12. Nearly 300 early childhood educators participated in The Jewish Education Project’s early childhood conference at the Gural JCC.

Chabad of the 5 Towns Launches Maccabee Makerspace

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n Sunday, December 2, Chabad of the Five Towns will be unveiling a new educational program for the first time for kids in the Five Towns called the Maccabee Makerspace. With the holiday of Chanukah right around the corner, it’s important for Jewish children to learn about the Festival of Lights in a fun and engaging way.

To make this possible, Hebrew School directors Rabbi Meir & Hadassah Geisinsky will be leading

the Maccabee Makerspace program where kids will team up to use their imaginative and creative powers in Chanukah-themed activities. The Maccabee Makerspace consists of workshops where children will build a robot dreidel, create a jumbo-sized menorah made entirely of s’mores, make Chanukah Slime, and build Chanukah decorations entirely out of Recycybles!

“Most kids I’ve taught learn best when they’re using more

than just their minds. STEM activities, like the ones we’ll be doing in the Maccabee Makerspace, are the best method for imparting real knowledge to children in a way that they will both enjoy and retain.

When they’re working in teams and using their hands, it’s so effective and they love it,” said Hadassah Geisinsky.

Chabad of the Five Towns hope that kids will come away from the Maccabee Makerspace with a

newfound warmth for Chanukah and a richer knowledge of what the festival is all about. The activities will also help kids learn how to work together with others and share their knowledge and skills with a team of peers.

For more information and to reserve for the Maccabee Makerspace on Sunday, December 2, please visit Chabad5towns.com or call Chabad 516-295-2478.

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Kehillas Bais Yehudah Tzvi of Cedarhurst Commemorates Kristallnacht PHOTO CREDIT: SG & NF

David Klein reading a poem by his mother Cecille Klein, z”l

Rav Yaakov Feitman

Chazan Robert Vegh reciting a kapitel Tehillim

Rabbi Ephraim Polakoff, Kehillas Bais Tefilah

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his past week Kehillas Bais Yehudah Tzvi of Cedarhurst commemorated the 80th anniversary of Kristallnacht in an unusual way. The Rav of the Shul, Rav Yaakov Feitman, gave an overview of the significance of Kristallnacht in light of Jewish history and the hashkafah of Churban Europa. He related seeing and hearing Rav Moshe Sherer, zt”l, the long-time head of Agudas Yisrael, remove a yellowed piece of newsprint which he always carried around in his wallet. It reported that Hitler, ym”sh gave the order to his murderous henchman that special attention be paid to annihilate the Talmudlehrer – teachers of the Talmud – before all others because the power of the Jewish people rests with them. This was Rabbi Sherer’s proof that even our greatest enemies always recognized that the heart and soul of Am Yisrael is our learning and Torah. Kristallnacht, on another level, also represented the true target of the Nazis, which was the spiritual life of the Jew as embodied in our Shuls and batei Medrash. Rav Feitman also connected Kristallnacht to the most recent manifestation of this enmity, the Pittsburgh Shul massacre.

There, too, a rabid anti-Semite attacked people praying in a shul. Rav Feitman pointed out that the halacha dictates that many aspects of a shul’s architecture and structures be a microcosm of the Bais Hamikdash. Thus, the Shulchan represents the mizbeach where korbanos were offered and on Kristallnacht and in Pittsburgh once again sacrifices were

L-R: David Klein, Theodore Roosevelt IV, Rabbi Feitman, Rabbi Polakoff, Robert Vegh, and Alan Gerber

brought. He poignantly mentioned that Daf Yomi will soon be completing Maseches Menachos where the last Tosfos refers to the statement of the Gemara that the angel Michael stands atop the heavenly mizbeach offering korbanos. Tosfos states that these korbanos are the souls of tzaddikim. The Rav concluded that we, too, have seen tzaddikim through the ages offered on this altar in our own shuls The co-chairman of the evening, together with Judith Greenberger, Mr. Alan Jay Gerber, then introduced the guest speaker, Theodore Roosevelt IV. In an erudite lecture, Mr. Roosevelt discussed how his grandfather, Theodore Roosevelt Jr., changed from being something of an isolationist to become both an activist and an active general on the World War II front. He related

that he became radicalized because of Charles Lindbergh’s rabid anti-Semitism and support for Hitler through the so-called “America First Committee.” Mr. Roosevelt’s presentation was a profound lesson in the need to take a stand against evil, even when one has no inclination to get involved. Although, of course, he did not use the term, he described how his grandfather was moser nefesh for the war against Hitler, joining when he was 56 years old, leading his troops personally on the battlefield, and dying soon after the war was over.

The program included the annual reading of a moving poem by survivor Mrs. Cecile Klein, z”l, by her son David Klein and a touching rending of appropriate Tehillim by Chazan Robert Vegh, a proud parent and grandparent in the shul. The final

words of Torah were presented by Rav Ephraim Polakoff, of Kehillas Bais Tefilah, which co-sponsored the event. Rav Polakoff used the metaphor of “Night of Broken Glass,” as Kristallnacht is sometimes called, to create a beautiful metaphor for the eternality of Am Yisrael. Glass, he explained, has the unique quality of being able to survive being shattered by the process of being melted and restored to its original state. This also reflects the fact that according to some poskim glass does not even absorb any of the substances which touch it (Taz, 135:11). The Jewish people, too, have survived and will continue to survive.

The overflow crowd went home with much to consider on this 80th anniversary of an infamous day in Jewish history.

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OPEN HOUSE Queens Sunday, November 18, 2018 | 7:00 PM Jewish Heritage Center of Queens, 6829 Main St. Flushing, NY Come meet the Hanhala and hear about the Yeshiva!

Looking forward to greeting you personally,

Rabbi Chaim Pechter / Menahel PARENTS PROGRAM

BOYS PROGRAM

• Meet the staff behind the vision

• Short sample shiur

• Mingle with current local boys

• Understand the YOT philosophy

• Q&A with the Rebbeim

• Watch the yeshiva video

• Q&A with the Menahel

• Hear about a day in the yeshiva

• Hear first hand what your son can accomplish in 4 years

• Meet the rebbeim and staff

• Audio visual presentation of the yeshiva • Collation

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The eighth grade students at Yeshiva of South Shore’s debate club deliberated over the inaugural topic of the year

Uniting the Community and NYPD

By Sarah Levine

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olice and community relations are vital to ensure a safe community. Over the past few months, families of Far Rockaway and the Five Towns and members of the 101st Police Precinct in Far Rockaway have joined together in activities to enhance community/police relations. Families were invited to join members of the police department to clean graffiti off city walls. We were taught about the ramifications of graffiti in the neighborhood and how important it was to get rid of it. We had the opportunity to paint the walls alongside one another. Afterwards, we were treated to pizza and soda that was donated by community members

while chatting with the members of the police department. Children were even allowed to sit inside a police car and ask questions.

This Sunday, the members of the police department arranged a beautiful program to give thanks and recognition to our deployed service members and veterans. A veteran and a current member of the 101st Precinct spoke about deployment and its hardship, especially during the holidays.

Then he answered questions from the children, like: “What is deployment?” and “Have you ever exploded anything?” Afterwards, we gathered together and, along with police officers, made cards to be sent out over the holiday season to those deployed.

The children were so proud to

show off their creativity and get the approval of those in the police department. Smiles could be seen around the room. Snacks and drinks were provided by community members.

The smiles did not stop with the children. Tzippy Schreiber, a parent at the event, said, “As the granddaughter of two WWII vets, appreciating and thanking those in the armed forces is second nature to me.

Keeping up morale for those soldiers who are deployed and are far away from loved ones is very important, so we can do our part, no matter how big or small.”

Officer Arthur said, “I had a great time helping and watching the kids make the cards. You can just feel the energy!”

Officer Blanchette quoted Mattie Stepanek: “Unity is strength. When there is teamwork and collaboration, wonderful things can be achieved.”

These events are a prime example of showing hakaras hatov to those who serve and protect us. It is of the utmost importance to give back to the community. This program gives families experiences that will last a lifetime. We can now appreciate and maintain a love and respect for our community and our servicemembers.

Under the direction of Shmuel Russell, community partner to the NYPD, future events will be planned.

If you’d like to join in these free events, please contact Shmuel at SamRussell.harmony@gmail.com.

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Chief Rabbi of Israel Visits MTA

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n Sunday, November 4, MTA was privileged to have Rav David Lau, Chief Rabbi of Israel, speak to the entire yeshiva. Perhaps the most memorable moment happened even before Rav Lau began to speak, as freshman Eli Knapp waited by the front doors to greet him when he entered the building. It was an incredibly meaningful moment as Rav Lau met Eli, whose great-grandfather Rav Herschel Schacter (father of Rabbi Dr. JJ Schacter) was the

chaplain that liberated Rav Lau’s father (former Chief Rabbi Yisrael Meir Lau) from the Buchenwald concentration camp when he was just 7 years old. Rav Schacter discovered close to 1,000 orphaned children in Buchenwald and helped arrange for them to be transported to France and Switzerland. This amazing introduction truly set the tone for Rav Lau’s impactful divrei Torah, which concluded with a bracha for all of the MTA talmidim.

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Camp Shira Launches Summer 2019

Recently Yeshiva of South Shore instituted an amazing after-school program for grades 1-5 called the Chess Wizards. Chess Wizard offers fun, intellectual and challenging chess experiences to all. The Chess Wizards philosophy is that learning should be fun! Our boys may play chess for their enjoyment, but it also happens to be great for their cognitive, social, and emotional development.

With so many new faces to meet and new classes and teachers to get used to, freshman year can be overwhelming anywhere. The freshmen at Central have been adjusting beautifully since orientation, but they took a break last Wednesday morning to enjoy the incoming winter season with some ice skating at World Ice Arena.

They returned to school energized and ready for the second half of the semester.

Nothing like crisp, cool air and hot pizza to invigorate the spirit.

Baking challah with Chazaq

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amp Shira’s 2019 registration is now open to the public. The camp looks to build on its wildly successful inaugural summer.

Camp Shira returns all of its phenomenal head staff and they have already been hard at work planning to make this summer truly special.

The camp’s new features for 2019 include a go-kart track on campus plus two water parks, one for juniors and one for seniors. Camp Shira is also adding new, unique specialties, shows and trips.

For campers who miss the summer and wish it was camp already, Camp Shira has them covered! Each Sunday, the Shira Superstars program entertains nearly 200 Five Towns girls, teaching them real skills in classes like art and ballet. Meanwhile, all former and new campers have something else to look forward to: Camp Shira’s Reunions!

On Motzai Shabbos, December 1, the Senior and Extreme divisions get to enjoy a dynamic Reunion Concert

by Mrs. Devorah Schwartz. On Sunday morning, December 2, the Junior Division will enjoy a comedy Magic Show by Syltag, the premier local magician.

This summer, Mrs. Chavsie Fried-

man joins the Camp Shira team as the Extreme Division Director overseeing the 6-7 grade program. She brings years of camp experience working in and overseeing teen divisions. Camp Shira’s Extreme campers enjoy a major all-day or overnight trip each half as well as at least 2 trips per week plus specialties, late nights, shows and activities geared exclusively to them.

Camp Shira is a girls’ camp in the heart of the Five Towns that has become a massive sensation. Girls who weren’t in the camp already know last summer’s professionally-recorded camp song by heart. Campers come to Shira from all over including Far Rockaway, Five Towns, Brooklyn, West Hempstead, Long Beach and now even Queens due to popular demand. Camp Shira spends a premium to use exclusively air-conditioned buses as that is a necessity during the summer.

With its commitment to professionalism and non-stop fun, Camp Shira is guaranteed to provide your daughter with a summer to sing about!

Register or apply as staff at campshirany.com.

For info, text 516-456-8392 or email campshirany@gmail.com.

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Staying Local for Seminary

By Rebbitzen Aviva Feiner

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n the deep frenzy of seminary applications and decisions we want to remind you that an American seminary might be right for you. Below is a list of reasons why to attend your local seminary.

It is a very valid choice for any young woman who finds herself unprepared to travel so far away from home for close to ten months. Local students have the chance to attend an excellent seminary and be in their familiar environment. The MBR dormitory is full with students from out of the area who can still go home for Shabbos or just for yom tov if they have come from further locations out of New York.

The crushing costs of tuition for our families make it logical for parents to maintain that the cost of seminary in Israel does not fit into their family’s budget. I have heard of families mortgaging homes to send their daughters overseas, notwithstanding, that we are all hoping that weddings will come soon in the years following seminary.

Baruch Hashem, we find our MBR alumni happily married having gone to seminary in the United States, and their families were better equipped to handle the financial aspect.

The ability to assimilate your growth into your native environment presents our students with immediate chances to integrate what they are learning into their “real” life. Students who find themselves career driven and opt to start pursuing their college degree during seminary year can complete their B.A. in Sarah Schneirer right in the MBR seminary building and by using their MBR seminary credits. They can also take MBR credits to a host of other institutions to complete their degree. The seminary offers career and college counseling so each student can find their personal path.

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Seminary is in its ninth year and we have many MBR alumni, I can attest to the benefit that the girls feel having teachers to whom they can easily travel to and call within their time zone. We have been there to celebrate simchos with our students and coach them through, dating, careers, marriage, and child rearing.

As a Mechaneches who taught in Israeli seminaries, I am selective that the caliber of teacher that is hired in Machon Basya Rochel is comparable with my colleagues in Eretz Yisrael.

Our faculty not only give the students outstanding lessons in the classroom, but they blend together to create the warm atmosphere that is the hallmark of the seminary. They are all outstanding exemplars of sincere and joyful Torah life.

The courses in Machon Baysa Rochel are geared to self-growth and show the immense beauty of Yiddishkeit through hashkafa and text. Our main priority is that the young woman who attends MBR is a Bais Yaakov girl who is sincere, kind, and growth-oriented. We are a seminary that is accepting of different educational needs of students on varying levels as some of the courses are tracked. Our filled schedule can accommodate a full day and half day student. We also have a dormitory option open the out-oftown student.

The upcoming open house for MBR Seminary will be from 10 a.m. till 12:00 p.m. on December 16. The location is the beautiful Lawrence campus, 137 Lawrence Avenue, across from the Lawrence Long Island Railroad Station. Explore how you could have a fulfilling and inspiring year at MBR Seminary. For more information and to apply please contact MBR Seminary at 516-362-5000 or email mbrseminary@gmail.com. Check out the website at www.mbrseminary.org.

Machon Basya Rochel Seminary is dedicated in memory of Mrs. Rose Edelman, a”h.

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Queens askanim meeting with Senator Joseph P. Addabbo Jr to congratulate him on his well-deserved reelection and wishing much bracha v’hatzlacha representing the Queens/Far Rockaway communities.

(R-L) Meshulam Lisker, Shimmy Pelman, Rabbi Daniel Pollock, Senator Addabbo, Aaron Cyperstein and Avigdor Cyperstein

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his past week, HAFTR Lower School celebrated Safety Week. The focus was on both physical and social/emotional safety.

As students entered the building Monday morning, they noticed new signs throughout the building. The signs, which are written in both Hebrew and English, reminded the students how to walk safely. Students were directed to stay on the right side and to stop before turning the corner. Each day, classroom teachers engaged students in conversations about different safety issues. Discussions revolved around important safety drills, as well as routines that encourage safe behaviors throughout the day. Safety awareness permeated all curricular areas including limudei kodesh, lashon, general studies, social skills and specialties.

In social skills, classes focused on being safe on the street. After reading, Let’s Stay Safe, by Bracha Goetz, they reviewed the important lessons from the book. Students learned that even if someone looks like them, they can still be a stranger. They learned how to stay safe on the street by crossing at crosswalks, not chasing balls into the street, and always wearing a helmet when riding a bike. A conversation about personal safety included discussions about stranger danger, telling a parent when you feel uncomfortable around someone, and what to do if you get lost in a store. Parent Tova Markowitz reinforced this issue as well.

In our STEM Lab, students learned about ways to stay safe when using technology. They learned the importance of using social media in a safe way. Students learned how quickly in-

formation can spread on the internet.

Students welcomed some of our community helpers to teach us about safety in and around our school. Firefighter Bobby DeRose spoke to kindergarteners about fire safety. Students reviewed fire safety rules like staying away from matches and stovetops, “stop, drop, and roll,” and when to call 911.

First graders took a neighborhood walk around the neighborhood, noticing traffic signs and lights along the way. They identified the crosswalk on the corner of the block, watched the traffic signals change, stopped at driveways and remembered to look left and right before proceeding.

Warren Levi Karate sent in a sensei to instruct students how to react in a bullying situation. Although it was a fun and engaging presentation, the message was very serious. Students learned how to stay focused when reacting in uncomfortable situations.

With helmets in hand, third grade students traveled to Safety Town where they learned the importance of sharing the road in a safe manner.

Drivers, cyclists and pedestrians all need to take proper measures to ensure each other’s safety. In a childsized roadway, students practiced road safety. Students had a blast while learning how to be safe.

It is important for our students to also know how to be safe passengers. Our bus company, Independent Coach, sent a school bus to our depot.

Students in various grades boarded the bus and practiced the safe way to sit on a bus. The bus driver talked about bus safety, emphasizing the importance of remaining seated, keeping hands to oneself, and not distracting the driver. Students were asked to compare the safety procedures when riding in a parent’s car to bus safety procedures. Older students were reminded to be role models for younger

students. With proper practice and awareness, we are sure that the students will work hard to be safe on their travels to and from school.

The themes of Safety Week were also incorporated into our Judaic Studies curriculum. In the younger grades, students were introduced to various Hebrew vocabulary words related to safety. Older students learned about mitzvot pertaining to safety, such as maakeh, constructing a gate around an open rooftop. Students also learned about the details of mezuzah and how it keeps us safe spiritually.

Having emunah in Hashem was imparted to all students, as well as the importance to do our part in actively keeping ourselves and others safe.

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his past Wednesday evening, Madraigos, who tirelessly works to meet the needs of the community, presented “Managing Anxiety, In Parents and in our Children,” the latest initiative of its Parenting Matters program. The event featured Dr. David H. Rosmarin, Ph.D, ABPP Founder/Director of the Center for Anxiety, Director of Spirituality and Mental Health Program, Mclean Hospital, and Assistant Professor at Harvard Medical School, and Rabbi Ephraim Eliyahu Shapiro, world renowned speaker and rabbi of Congregation Shaaray Tefillah, North Miami Beach, Florida, Madraigos extends hakaros hatov to the event sponsors, Cross River, The Touro College and University System, Harborview Capital Partners, and JCCRP who appreciate the value of parenting education as a means of strengthening families and preventing serious issues from developing. Their leadership in supporting effective community wide initiatives like this demonstrates their commitment to serving the needs of the community.

The White Shul, an avid supporter of important community programs, provided the perfect venue for this program as it is centrally located and recognized by the over 450 attendees from the Five Towns and greater NY metro area who attended.

Dr. Rosmarin’s address was enlightening, instructive, and full of concrete ways to approach and overcome anxiety. He explained that due to society’s need to be in control of everything, including one’s emotions, anxiety has become a condition that is quite prevalent. Dr. Rosmarin clarified that it is normal for human beings to experience emotions that are out of control but because people are afraid of this emotion they stifle it which leads to more anxiety. He discouraged “helicopter parenting” as it doesn’t let children experience the normal range of emotions. Protecting them from fear and failure only increases their anxiety now and in the future. He urged parents to allow their child to feel and experience anxiety and not to protect them from it.

Dr. Rosmarin further explained that anxiety is very treatable but so many people suffer without getting the help that would be so beneficial for them. Part of this treatment is “to face one’s fears and really experience that ‘out of control fear’ and come out the other side knowing that nothing happened and you’re okay.”

Dr. Rosmarin mentioned that when he meets with patients he asks them to complete a questionnaire. When a family is from the Five Towns community, they are asked if they are affiliated with Madraigos. If not, he advocates that they should be sure to reach out to the organization as “they save lives every day.”

Sharing a different perspective, Rabbi Shapiro presented Torah insights to help attendees cope with anxiety. In his dynamic style, Rabbi Shapiro emphasized the importance of spending real time with one’s children in order to listen and get to truly know them and understand their worries and concerns. He underlined the importance of creating a loving, warm atmosphere in the home where children feel safe and secure to be themselves. Rabbi Shapiro also discussed the significance of heartfelt prayer and the benefit of throwing one’s personal anxiety back on Hashem. He encouraged the attendees to “tell Hashem this is too big for me and I need help.”

As the program concluded, Mrs. Rivki Rosenwald, who co-facilitates the very successful Parenting Groups, took the opportunity to personally encourage the community to

take advantage of the many services Madraigos provides and remind them that they are all free of charge.

After the speeches, the evening drew to a close, and the crowd lingered to enjoy a beautiful dessert buffet. The many conversations centered on the practical takeaway of the program. One parent remarked, “It was educational, and moving at the same time. I feel stronger. I’m walking out with a new mindset and an arsenal of practical tools to deal with anxiety.” Sitting in a room filled to capacity meant to the attendees, “I am not alone. We’re all in it together.

We’re constantly building our own homes, our relationships, ourselves.”

After the event, Madraigos received overwhelmingly positive feedback and praise from parents as well as a wide range of local agencies, educators, clinicians for providing such a wonderful program to the community. Elke Rubin, Executive Coordinator, Achiezer, co-sponsor, emailed, “Yasher koach on a really phenomenal event! Many people were talking about how wonderful and informative both of the speakers were.”

Another parent expressed in an email, “I attended the lecture last night and just want to tell you I took away so much for it, it couldn’t have come for me at a better time. Thank you for organizing it!”

Rabbi Dov Silver, Founder and Executive V.P., Madraigos, said, “Both esteemed speakers shared their wisdom, experience, and insights. They were invaluable in build-

ing a backdrop for absorbing and internalizing the concrete parenting suggestions for today’s day and age. I am grateful to Cross River, The Touro College and University System, Harborview Capital Partners, and JCCRP who generously supported this event.”

Mrs. Mindi Werblowsky, LMSW, Clinical Director, Madraigos, commented, “Since this event I have received a number of phone calls and emails from parents indicating how helpful the event was and requesting assessments to get help for their own situations. There is an increased awareness that there is help out there for anxiety and no one has to cope with this struggle alone. That awareness is the most gratifying take away for me on a personal level.”

Madraigos encourages the community to take advantage of the event video recordings which are available on YouTube. To access all of the Madraigos Parenting Matters videos, please go to https://bit.ly/2zOtVmN. Madraigos plans on launching new parenting initiatives for the community in the near future. Parents are urged to register for the Parenting Matters Effective Parenting of Teens and Young Adults Group #6 in formation now. This group starts in December and meets on Monday evenings at 8-9:30 PM at Madraigos.

To register or learn more about upcoming Madraigos’ Parenting Matters programs, please contact Mindi Werblowsky at 516-371-3250 ext. 112 or mwerblowsky@madraigos.org.

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his past Sunday afternoon, at 111 Irving Place in Woodmere, New York, 400 chairs were filled to capacity at Mesivta Shaarei Prozdor with prospective parents and students excited to hear firsthand about what MSP has to offer. The open house exuded Mesivta Shaarei Prozdor’s warm, enriching environment that permeates the halls of the Yeshiva on a daily basis.

Maintaining a high level of learning in both limudei kodesh and general studies has proven itself since its inception.

Upon arrival, visitors were greeted warmly by the hanhalah and students, who were readily available to greet and answer any and all questions one may have. After delicious sushi and snacks, the Menahel, Rabbi Yurman, addressed the audience by introducing MSP’s vision and mission statement.

“We founded this Mesivta with the basic principles of creating the ideal environment for a talmid of today to grow and flourish,” Rabbi Yurman said. He highlighted the nature of the small environment of MSP, which lends itself to individualized attention for each talmid academically as well as personally. At MSP, the talmid is prioritized at each and every level that the opportunity presents itself. Very often this takes place outside of Yeshiva hours, as our dedicated faculty and staff avail themselves at all hours of the day. As a parent mentioned to me, “The rabbeim and staff spend so much extra time with our children, how and when do they spend enough time with their own children?” To effectively target the unique needs of each talmid, Rabbi Yurman discussed the weekly meetings that rabbeim have set up in order to assess each talmid’s performance.

He also spoke about MSP’s tefillah initiative, as well as the Jewish studies elective, given by Rabbi Yossie Weiser.

Rabbi Yurman put a strong emphasis on MSP’s direction in teaching Torah: “MSP is dedicated to empower talmi-

dim and encourage them to believe in themselves. We are mechanech our talmidim to be not only thinkers, but doers. We don’t just show the talmid of utmost importance of Torah, but also why it is important.”

Following Rabbi Yurman’s speech, Rabbi Merenstein, Rosh HaMesivta of MSP, spoke about the rabbeim and teachers. “They are the heroes in the classroom,” Rabbi Merenstein declared. “The boys are taught the relevance of the Torah and are clear of who, why and how.” He also touched on the emphasis MSP puts on fostering a true relationship with their rebbeim inside and outside of the classroom. “Our breathing air in MSP is goal-minded and positive. It is our goal to see our talmidim strongly connect to Hashem and to step off the podium at graduation with the tools and foundation they will need to continue on his own.” He ended his speech by asking a powerful question. Why do we do this? “We do this because we care.”

After Rabbi Merenstein’s captivating speech, two student speakers, Eli Donowitz and David Abdolazadeh, both ninth grade talmidim were called upon to share their experiences as ninth grade students. Eli Donowitz expressed, “The reason why I chose MSP is because I was looking for a Mesivta that would give me a great education and provide me with the tools to be a complete ben Torah and succeed in any path I choose, with rebbeim and friends, who I can always turn to along the way.” Similarly, David Abdolazadeh related, “This is the type of school which focuses on every individual bringing out his unique talents. The warmth here is amazing!” He also addressed MSP’S STEM and photography classes, which he described as “amazing yet challenging.”

MSP’s unique video presentation mesmerized the room. The MSP talmidim worked tirelessly in the Multi-Me-

dia elective to create an in-house professional MSP open house video.

Under the leadership of Mr. Eric Herman, who guided the project, the open house video displayed the talmidim’s acquired skills of interviewing, public speaking, videography and filmmaking.

Following the video presentation, the boys were escorted upstairs where they were split up into four classrooms.

In the first classroom, Rabbi Stern, MSP’s beloved 10th grade rebbi, held a student panel, allowing visiting talmidim to feel free to ask current talmidim any questions or concerns. In the second classroom, Mr. Frishman, MSP’s Biology, English and extra-curricular teacher, explained about MSP’s academic clubs in further detail and engaged the students with a wide variety of presentations. The third room, Rabbi Edelstein, MSP’s other amazing tenth grade rebbi, gave over an inspiring shiur about brachos. The fourth room was dedicated to special MSP gift bags, refreshments and drinks, where the boys got to bond.

Downstairs, Rabbi Lebowitz spoke about the MSP model of secular education. He highlighted the full secular studies load with built-in elective classes and clubs which include STEM, photography, public speaking, multi- media classes and the school newspaper, The Pruzdor Press. He also emphasized the integrative general studies curriculum, which appeals to the different strengths of each student. He also discussed MSP’s rigorous course of study, which includes advanced regents and opportunity for college credit through AP’s and MSP’s partnerships with colleges such as Touro and SUNY. In conjunction with MSP’s individualized attitude, Rabbi Lebowitz stressed the individualized attention that the students receive in the secular studies department. “In MSP,” Rabbi Lebowitz added, “we teach the students to learn

how to learn. We don’t just give them information, we give them skills.”

The afternoon ended with a powerful parent panel. Prospective parents asked current parents their questions and concerns: Some of questions included: Why did you pick MSP? Are you happy?

“There were multiple yeshivas that we were looking into. But I could sum up MSP in three words: Rabbi Eli Merenstein. He makes it a priority for the students to have a connection with the rebbeim. The yeshiva provides a love of learning and a growing, positive atmosphere. I could not think of a better place to send my son.”

Where do you see your son going after MSP? “I see my son wanting to go to yeshiva in Eretz Yisroel similar to MSP, where he feels like he is a part of something. I see him ultimately learning and going to college half the day and maintaining a ben Torah lifestyle. I couldn’t be more thrilled.”

Have you had any challenges with MSP and how did the school handle it?

“My wife had a carpool conflict with my other son. Because of this, my son who is in MSP now, always ran a couple of minutes late. Rabbi Middledorf heard this and wanted to teach my son the importance of being on time to minyan. The next day, at 7:45 a.m., Rabbi Middledorf showed up at my door, and took my son to school. Every single day since then, Rabbi Middledorf is at my house and my son is excited and happy to go. That is a rebbi.”

What makes MSP different than any other school?

“You know, it’s great to see what they accomplish on a school day, and they do accomplish a lot. But to me, it’s what the boys do after school hours – when they’re not ‘on.’ When the rebbi isn’t watching. That’s what sets MSP apart. ”

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t was standing room-only in HAFTR High School’s auditorium on Sunday. More than 150 eighth graders and their parents from the Long Island area, Brooklyn and Queens converged at the school’s Open House to learn more about HAFTR High School.

The program began with engaging student presenters. HAFTR senior Margot Bokor, Vice President of Student Government, spoke poignantly about her strong connection to the school and how the warm environment, teachers and college guidance counselors helped pave the way to her success. HAFTR freshman Ethan Rabinowitz shared how HAFTR has “something for everyone” – excellence in academics, wonderful religious life and genuine warmth. He noted that one of his favorite extracurricular activities is tennis, which he can still enjoy at the high school.

Ms. Naomi Lippman, Principal, and Mr. Joshua Wyner, Associate Principal, represent the inclusive school culture at the high school and keep an open door to students and parents. “Mr. Wyner and I know every child in our yeshiva, and every student knows that we appreciate him or her as a unique individual,” said Ms. Lippman in her address to the audience.

“Our engaging, gifted teachers are devoted to the learning of every student whom they teach. Our students are warm, mature, respectful young men and women. They are inclusive of each other, and they celebrate their classmates’ special talents and accomplishments.”

“I am so proud of the students who spoke. They are truly representative of what we do at HAFTR,” said Ms. Lippman, now in her 12th year as HAFTR High School’s principal and 21st year at HAFTR overall. “We have created a culture of warmth, kindness, caring, support, and inclusiveness. Our students’ parents tell us that their children love to come to school every morning, and that is because every student has a sense of belonging and value in our community.”

In his remarks, Mr. Wyner emphasized that “at HAFTR High School we are determined to take the lessons from the Torah and transmit them into the world by working on ourselves and reaching out to others in need. Our limudei kodesh program focuses on building a bridge between Torah study

and collective responsibility.”

“This event is a wonderful display of our warm, positive and inviting school culture,” added Mr. Wyner.

“We’re looking forward to welcoming many new faces to the HAFTR family.”

“It is always nice to see that the success of HAFTR is being recognized and has piqued the interest of so many,” commented Mr. Ari Solomon, Executive Director, on the large turnout for the open house. “With our incredible administration and talented faculty, it’s not a wonder so many students from the Five Towns and surrounding areas are interested in attending our school.”

After the presentations, prospective students and their parents joined smaller groups in classrooms. Parents met with department chairs, who described curricula in their respective academic areas, while eighth graders had the chance to meet with teachers and current HAFTR students to learn about the plethora of co-curricular, extra-curricular and chesed activities at HAFTR High School. It is definitely evident that HAFTR students have many opportunities to expand their interests and talents. In particular, HAFTR’s exciting and innovative STEM education, led by Mr. Benjamin Gross, Director of STEM and Innovation, prepares students for engineering and computer science programs in college, enabling them to become future leaders in technology and engineering industries. HAFTR is also known for its school spirit, competitive sports teams and cultural initiatives such as the Fine Arts Institute.

Prospective students and their parents were also given the opportunity

to meet Mrs. Joan Parmet, director of HAFTR High School’s renowned College and Academic Guidance department, and Rabbi Lewis Wienerkur, director of Israel Guidance. The experienced professionals in HAFTR High School’s College and Academic Guidance office proactively advise students on course selections, assist students in identifying meaningful summer learning programs and work closely with each individual throughout the college admissions process. The high school’s Israel Guidance Department works closely with the yeshivot and seminaries in Israel to ensure the appropriate placement of every student.

HAFTR stakeholders are enormously proud that their graduates attend the finest seminaries and yeshivot in Israel as well as the most competitive universities in our nation from Yeshiva University Honors programs and Macaulay Honors College to Princeton, Yale and Columbia University. But more important, HAFTR’s graduates are fine young men and women with middot tovot who embrace Modern Orthodoxy and will be future leaders on their college campuses, and in their future communities and industries.

A unique and special quality of the school is that a large contingency of the student population are children of alumni. HAFTR High School alumnus Mr. Eric Einstein, ‘92, was at the Open House with his wife, Tamar, and daughter, Ashley. When asked about his thoughts on HAFTR, he noted, “It’s a warm environment. I know the parent body and I know all the families. I know my child will be in the right place to grow and succeed in life.” His daughter, Ashley, excitedly added,

“Everyone knows HAFTR is the place to be and that’s where I want to go!”

A parent of three HAFTR High School graduates, Mrs. Jenny Lent, accompanied her eighth grader, Abie Lent. “I haven’t been here in four years,” she exclaimed. “The gym has changed. There are so many new offerings. I always thought HAFTR had a lot to offer, but I didn’t think it can get better.” She was especially impressed by the new STEM lab and forensic classes. Abie Lent expressed his interest in many activities, including College Bowl.

“HAFTR High School offers absolutely everything my husband and I want in a Modern Orthodox education for our children. We currently have two children, Ben and Serena, here now who are thriving, and we are very excited for Eliana to attend next year!” added Dr. Lisa Perl, Chairwoman of HAFTR’s Board of Education. “This is definitely the premier and most innovative Modern Orthodox Jewish day school in our own community and on Long Island, and there are many reasons why HAFTR High School students are highly motivated to learn and are truly happy to attend school every day. We know that HAFTR High School is the place where students of all abilities excel and are supported academically both in general and Judaic studies, and we know firsthand that principals and teachers really do know students and care about them.”

What more could you want in a local yeshiva high school? For more information about HAFTR High School or to arrange an appointment, please contact Ms. Naomi Lippman, principal, or visit HAFTR.org.

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Shalom Task Force Annual Brunch

Dr. Shoshannah Frydman, Guest of Honor Shani Dr. Shoshannah Frydman, Rachel Hercman, Elizabeth Forspan, Dr. Sarah Silverman, STF Board President Traube, and STF Board President Esther Williams and STF Board Pres. Esther Williams Esther Williams, and Dr. Shoshannah Frydman

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n Sunday, November 4, Shalom Task Force greeted over 350 community members at their Annual Brunch at the Sephardic Temple in Cedarhurst. The standing room-only crowd came to recognize the achievements of the exceptional honorees, as well as to support this critical service to our community.

This year, Shalom Task Force honored Shani Traube as the Guest of Honor.

Rabbi Peretz Steinberg received the Community Leadership Award. Frady Kess was recognized with the Dedicated Service Award, Rachel Hercman with the Professional Leadership Award, and Dr. Sarah Chana Silverman with the Hakarat Hatov Award.

In her remarks, Mrs. Shani Traube shared that as a longtime volunteer, she is struck by the courage of the men and women who come forward seeking help. She shared her desire to help build healthier families and reflected on the pain of children growing up in the shadow of violence. She passionately asked, “How do we expect children to soar if their wings are broken?”

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create safety and foster healthy families and relationships. This theme resonated throughout the program.

Executive Director Dr. Shoshannah Frydman reflected on this event as a celebration of our community’s ability to unite in times of pain and trauma, and support the most vulnerable. The packed room watched a short educational film which illustrated the fear which dominates the life of a victim of domestic violence and how Shalom Task Force provides services to help address safety and prevent abuse.

We were honored to hear from

Councilmember Rory Lancman, a staunch supporter of the agency. In addition, Congresswoman Grace Meng, NYS Senator Todd Kaminsky, and NYS Assemblyman David Weprin all shared words of encouragement and support. The Honorable Audrey Pheffer and NYS Assemblywoman Stacey Amato both attended and demonstrated again their strong dedication to this organization.

The program closed with the stirring words of Rachel Marks, vice president of the board. She spoke of the broad range of programs, geared both

to helping victims and to creating and strengthening families. This event provides critical support for Shalom Task Force. Through its confidential hotline, legal services, education and community programs, Shalom Task Force creates safety and fosters healthy families.

If you or someone you know is in need of assistance, please reach out to Shalom Task Force at 718-337-3700, or 888-883-2323 or info@shalomtaskforce.org.

Brunch Committee and STF Board members: Elizabeth Forspan, Miriam Ellenberg, Shulamis Goldstein, Miriam Stern, Debbie Meizlik, Shani Traube, Surel Goldfinger, Aviva Hoch, Miriam Bobker, Esther Kirschbaum, Sarah Bergman, and Sharon Fogel

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Around the Community On Tuesday, November 13, Rabbi Stein’s fifth grade class at Siach Yitzchok had the zechus of visiting Harav Reuven Feinstein, shlita, at Yeshiva of Staten Island.

Nachi Grant, who is a talmid in Rabbi Stein’s class, is a great-grandchild of Reb Reuven and alongside his parents had helped to arrange this fantastic experience.

Reb Reuven spoke to the boys for around a hour. The topic discussed was why we need to specify the names of the Avos in the beginning of Shemona Esrei if it already says the G-d of our fathers. Reb Reuven then gave an individual bracha to each boy. The boys then had a siyum on three perekim of Mishnayos Bava Kama.

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Everyday Lessons from the Parsha at Gesher

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his week was packed with curriculum objectives reinforced by lessons from the parsha of Yaakov and Eisev. The highlight was the Rosh Chodesh assembly welcoming in Chodesh Kislev in preparation for Chanukah.

Lentil soup, twins, and using your senses (like Yitzchak who heard the voice of Yaakov but felt hands like Eisav’s when he couldn’t see) were prominent concepts. The nursey used lentil beans for sensory activities, for counting, and for fine motor skills.

While all lentils may look the same, people are usually easier to tell apart.

Unless they are twins, and then only sometimes. The children enjoyed twinning activities and the social skills lesson that it demonstrated.

The twins in the kindergarten were not exactly identical. Letters vav and zayin look very similar, but the children learned how to tell them apart and the different sounds that they make.

Pre1A Blue had a very involved parsha-related lesson that included many important topics. Making len-

til soup reinforces math concepts, following instructions, use of senses, safety, and working together. The twin letters in Pre1A Yellow were tes and mem, with a review of baby yud as well. Class activities focused on group planning and implementation.

This month’s Rosh Chodesh assembly was very special. Morah Yoni brought in her elaborate dreidel collection. It includes over 100 pieces of wood, metal, plastic, and even an ice cube dreidel! The children enjoyed touching the many sizes and materials, looking at the different colors and designs, and listening to the sounds they make when spinning. Morah Yoni allowed the children to observe her special museum collection of dreidels as well. Here the students walked delicately with their hands behind their backs to enjoy the treat with just their eyes.

Treats for tasting were abundant as well. Doughnuts and chanukah candy capped off the assembly, and each child received a dreidel from Morah Yoni.

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What’s Happening at Gan Chamesh

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he Grand Gan Chamesh Challah Bake was a huge success.

Gan Chamesh took inspiration from The Shabbos Project and the large scale challah bakes that took place around the world. Children joined together to mix the ingredients

and add their tefillos along the way.

It was an inspirational event that produced delicious challah that not only fed their bodies, but their neshamos too.

Last week, Yitzchak and Rivkah’s wedding came to life as children dra-

matized the different roles of a Jewish wedding.

Mommies learn too at Gan Chamesh. It was a beautiful morning as mothers gathered at a PTA breakfast which featured Rabbi Shais Taub.

Rabbi Taub shared some insightful

ideas on the secrets of practical Jewish parenting.

For more information about Gan Chamesh, Chabad’s Early Childhood Center, please contact Susy Adler or Suzanne Wallin, the program directors, at 516 295-2479.

There is No Slowing Down at Ezra Academy

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s the school year is in full swing, at Ezra Academy so are all the extras that have become staples in the school. Two Shabbosim ago, parshas Chayei Sara, the school went on the school-wide Shabbaton to Far Rockaway. On Shabbos, everyone met at the Young Israel of Far Rockaway for Shabbos davening followed by a Friday night seuda in the shul gym.

Seniors Gabriel Borokhov and Abigail Aronova both shared beautifully composed divrei Torah that were inspiring to all. After dessert and bentching together, the students were split up into groups for special onegs throughout the community. The girls all went to the home of Rabbi Naftali and Dani Sudwerts. Besides for leading the girls’ oneg, which went overtime due to the students reluctance to leave, Mrs. Sudwerts arranged all the housing for the Shabbaton (a thankless job). This was a way of showing her appreciation for all that she gained from her time as an Ezra student. The boys split up by grade to two homes, where they were were spoiled with an array of Shabbos treats as well as diveri Torah and singing. Following davening on Shabbos morning, the students ate their Shabbos seuda by their host.

This enabled them to see the beauty of Shabbos from people besides their own rebbeim and morahs. The Shabbaton continued with Mincha in the

Young Israel and a fun and interactive shiur by Rabbi John Green of Yeshiva University. Not only was the message an unforgettable one, but Rabbi Green incorporated a unique game which had everyone engaged. This was followed by the second oneg of Shabbos.

The older boys went to Rabbi Yehoshua Marachuk, Director of Alumni for NCSY, and the younger boys went to Rabbi Waldman, while the girls proceeded to Mrs. Linda Nathan’s home to hear her words of inspiration. For shalosh seudos, the boys went to Rabbi and Mrs. Akiva Palmer’s house.

Rabbi Palmer was a rebbe in Ezra for many years and has a very close relationship with the school to this very day. While there, the boys heard from Mr. Richie Altabe, the principal of HALB. He shared part of his personal struggle and growth as a young inquiring boy and finished with inspiration from the parsha. Everyone met back at the Young Israel for a melava malka of pizza and soda, which was followed by the evening entertainment, a hypnotist. When the laughter died down and the hypnosis cleared away, the icing on the cake came. Rabbi Yehoshua Kurland came to lead a heartfelt kumzits, singing songs the students all know and re-introducing timeless classics that have been staples to Ezra kumzitzs of old. Two students, Aliza Davidov and Johnathan Shimu-

nov, shared what Shabbos meant to them and Rabbi Freilich, Dean of Ezra Academy, finished the Shabbos with expressing how he hasn’t recalled such a beautiful Shabbaton in recent times.

When the evening was done, the bus had left and the shabbaton a memory, the stage was ready for the next event, Rosh Chodesh breakfast.

As we welcomed the new month of Kislev, the school gathered together to share in a special breakfast organized by the schools G.O. As the minhag of Chanukah is to eat sufganiyot, they thought it would be appropriate to take a spin off the Dunkin Donut slogan “America Runs On Dunkin” and go with “Ezra Runs On Torah.”The breakfast provided doughnuts, croissants, ice cream, coffee (hot and iced) and hot cocoa, all in the Dunkin color scheme. Junior Julia Borokov shared a dvar Torah which focused on the light of Chanukah. This was followed by Rabbi Diamond who tied the breakfast theme into Chanukah and informed the students that it was decided to carry this special theme throughout the entire year. The special breakfast was capped off with Rabbi Geller leading the school in singing song and teaching them a new one too. As always, Rabbi Geller had the room involved, anticipating the next unpredictable move.

The week came to end and with

yet another beautiful event, the annual Ezra Alumni Melava Malka. This year’s theme was “Looking into the Future.” Ezra Academy has been updating and improving its facilities. All alumni were invited to reunite with friends, classmates and faculty of the past. While there they were provided with bagels, salads and pastas and introduced to the new school logo.

Tours of the new weight room, court room, recreational room, and other improvements were given throughout the night. Rabbi Freilich again spoke and shared inspiration with students whom he taught so long ago. The sense of growth and revitalization was palpable and generated an excitement in the air. The evening continued well after the clock struck twelve.

Rabbi Dovid Orlofsky came to speak on Tuesday night for the latest part of the Ezra Academy Community Lecture Series. Speaking on the topic of “Building a Torah Home” and adding in his unique touch and sense of humor, it is no wonder that this was the largest attendance of the series to date.

There are many more special activities for the students, alumni and community already scheduled and in the works as well. Come get a taste of the unique Ezra experience at our Open House on Sunday, November 18 at 10:30 am.

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Training the Next Generation of Orthodox Jewish Mental Health Professionals

By N. Aaron Troodler

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he issue of mental health in the Orthodox Jewish community is fraught with emotions and complexities and often remains on the periphery. However, the reality is that mental health issues are indeed prevalent within the Orthodox community, just as they are common in other communities.

It is against that backdrop that Rabbi Pesach Lerner established the YIEP (Yeshiva Initiatives Educational Programs – www.theyiep. com) and developed a program that trains members of the Orthodox community seeking to enter the mental health field. Through a partnership with Bellevue University that began in 2004, YIEP offers undergraduate and graduate programs, including a specialized Master of Science in Clinical Counseling

(MSCC). The Bellevue University MSCC is accredited by the Council for Accreditation of Counseling and Related Educational Programs (CACREP), which is the gold standard in the counseling field, and the YIEP cohort is the only mental health program geared for Orthodox students with CACREP’s endorsement. YIEP launched the MSCC program in October 2014 and graduated its second cohort in May 2018, with four more cohorts in process. The next session is scheduled to begin in mid-January 2019.

The Bellevue University/YIEP Master of Science in Clinical Counseling program is unique because the students are all Orthodox Jews who receive specialized training and engage in specific coursework that prepares them to address mental health issues in the Orthodox

community, as well as to serve in the broader Jewish- and non-Jewish community.

Modeled after national licensing standards, the MSCC prepares students for the national licensing exam to become a professional mental health counselor. It is a 60 credit-hour online graduate degree program, which includes a practicum and internship component that enables students to gain valuable experience in the field while being guided by a licensed professional.

The MSCC coursework centers on the theoretical and applied principles of psychological counseling and trains students to ultimately engage in the assessment and treatment of individuals, couples, and families. Students are introduced to critical topics such as assessing and diagnosing mental health issues, psychotherapy, rehabilitation

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counseling, substance abuse, and prevention services. The MSCC is a regionally accredited graduate degree with an option for students to pursue licensure in their home state.

While the courses offered by the Bellevue University/YIEP MSCC program are online, there is a fourday on-site seminar in Brooklyn, NY, where students meet their instructors and classmates, and the practicum and internship can be done wherever the student resides.

It is also noteworthy that degrees from yeshivas are accepted as fulfillment of the undergraduate degree requirement and tuition is lower than New York area programs because it is based on Nebraska rates, which is home to Bellevue University.

Professor Esther Lustig, LCSW-R, an instructor, profession-

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Professor Lustig described a course she developed exclusively for the YIEP MSCC entitled, “Orthodox Judaic Theoretical Perspectives.”

“The unique piece to the YIEP program is that we have a very specific course that allows students to grapple with some of the major mental health issues that exist in the Orthodox community,” she said. “Nothing is off the table; everything is discussed, even the most difficult issues. These are issues that need to be faced and practitioners who want to work in the Orthodox community need to understand them.”

One of the hallmarks of the YIEP MSCC is the internship requirement, with which Professor Lustig assists with placement and administration. “There is a strong experiential component to this program; it’s not just reading books,” she said. “We have students interning at so many interesting places because our program is recognized and we have a good reputation.”

Professor Lustig acknowledged the intensive nature of the program, which she considers one of the best in the country. “There are many facets to this program and it gives students a really good foundation to start helping people,” she said. “We want to make sure they get the best education possible within the framework they’re comfortable with.”

Past and current students also spoke enthusiastically about the program. “I am extremely impressed with how professional and helpful the program’s faculty members have been,” said one student.

“They’re extremely accommodating and responsive, and look to be as helpful as possible. Although the coursework is intense, I am finding the course to be extremely interesting and hands-on.”

“I greatly appreciate the seviva (the environment), learning these concepts together with others who not only are frum Jews, but real b’nei Torah,” said another student.

“There are many advantages to getting a Master’s degree in this manner, as I can study and complete assignments during times I can carve out that are most convenient. In addition, the instructors, who are knowledgeable and committed to explaining the material, encourage the students to reach out to them with inquiries.”

“The program is sensitive to the needs of the students and the class calendar fully accommodates the yomim tovim schedule,” added another student. “I owe Rabbi Lerner a debt of gratitude for his commitment and his concern that the program runs smoothly.”

“The YIEP/Bellevue program is educational, professional and respectful, and it’s a culturally sensitive program that doesn’t compromise a quality education,” noted another student.

Dr. Barb Daubenspeck, Ph.D., Program Director and instructor of the Bellevue University MSCC program, explained how the university’s Clinical Counseling faculty worked with Rabbi Lerner to establish a cohort that meets the unique needs of the Orthodox community in numerous ways, including structuring the schedules for the cohort around religious holidays and being mindful of the need to facilitate the completion of the program with the students’ already busy schedule. “Course materials are continually reviewed to ensure that even as students are challenged to view things from a new perspective,

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their cultural values are respected,” she said.

“Students complete their coursework moving course by course through the program in step together,” added Dr. Daubenspeck.

“In this way the students are able to build supportive relationships with one another and are also able to connect with the Bellevue University faculty.”

Rabbi Lerner noted that the YIEP MSCC “is probably the most Torah-sensitive program of this nature around.”

“Our students receive a serious education,” he said. “As all our students are from the Orthodox community, some of whom even participate in the online coursework from Israel, there are no scheduling issues relating to Shabbos or yom tov. In addition, the YIEP and Bellevue University provide significant support for our students and play an integral role in helping them secure internships where they get practical experience that helps prepare them for a meaningful career in the mental health

field.”

Rabbi Lerner remarked that the YIEP attracts all types of Orthodox Jews, including Yeshivish, Chasidish and Modern Orthodox, and that classes are for both males and females, but is very sensitive to the guidelines of tzinius and halacha.

He added that many YIEP students were sent to the program by their Roshei HaYeshivos and community rebbes, with the hope that they will return to their community to work there as professionals.

“The intersection of Torah values, Jewish ideals, and comprehensive academic training by top professionals and instructors makes the YIEP Master of Science in Clinical Counseling program a unique educational opportunity for Orthodox Jews who want to give back to their community through the provision of quality mental health services,” added Rabbi Lerner.

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MTA Seniors Visit Museum of Jewish Heritage

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n Wednesday, November 7, MTA seniors visited the Museum of Jewish Heritage, where they learned about the vibrant Jewish communities that thrived in pre-WWII Europe. This experiential learning opportunity highlighted the strength, vitality, and dedication to Torah and mitzvos that were prevalent in many cities throughout Europe and simultaneously demonstrated the vulnerability of the Jewish community. For seniors participating in the Names, Not Numbers elective course where they will create their own Holocaust documentary, the trip was a necessary introduction to appreciating the devastation that was experienced during the Holocaust. Talmidim also participated in a workshop on Ethical Wills, where they studied several Ethical Wills

that were written to the children and grandchildren of those who perished at the hands of the Nazis. These Ethical Wills, designed to pass ethical values from one generation to the

next, discussed ethics, morality, and what it means to be part of Klal Yisrael.

They inspired talmidim to reflect on their core values and begin

to plan how they can make their own unique contributions to the Jewish community.

event, now with a true home for the Kollel.

The event was graciously sponsored by Gourmet Glatt Emporium, Maidenbaum & Sternberg LLC and Maidenbaum Tax Reduction Specialists, Russo’s Pharmacy, Village Open MRI, and Woodmere Sleep Center.

The event could not have possible without the hard work of the entire event committee: Chananya Perlman, Dovid Gerstel, Meir Weinreb, Gershon Russel, Zev Karasick and Dovid Steiner.

The outpouring of local support, not just financially but in person, including the attendance by many local and prominent rabbonim, was both overwhelming and a true testimony and show of appreciation and

recognition for all the years of hard work and struggle Rabbi Shlomo Cohen has endeavored to help build up the entire Inwood community and then literally build a center for Torah from the shell of a former Jewish Community Center. The community that is blossoming can now flourish with a beautiful center for Torah in its midst providing a haven for genuine, intense Torah learning for both the full-time and part-time learner.

The Kollel is now open for the local Inwood and Greater Five Towns and Far Rockaway community.

Those interested in a chavrusa or interested in helping financially can go to inwoodcommunitykollel.org or call Rabbi Shlomo Cohen directly at 347-224-1152.

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his past Motzei Shabbos the community of Inwood was host to a magnificent Kumzitz Melava Malka that took place at their new building for the Inwood Community Kollel.

An overflow crowd from Inwood, Far Rockaway and the greater Five Towns community all came together including many prominent rabbonim to hear divrei Torah and chizuk from Inwood Rabbonim Rav Pinchus Weinberger, Rav Simcha Bondi and the Rosh Kollel, Rabbi Shlomo Cohen, all strongly supporting the Kollel’s efforts to spread Torah to the Inwood community and beyond. HaRav Feivel Cohen, father of the Rosh Kollel, was also in attendance.

The rabbonim spoke of the tremendous value of a Kollel in the community to serve as a focal point for Torah learning for yungerleit and baalei batim as well to experience a true kol Torah. The Kollel currently has a vibrant morning Kollel from 9:30am followed by a 12:30 Mincha Sunday through Thursday and a night Seder from 8:15pm followed by Maariv at 9:50pm Monday through Thursday.

Rabbi Shlomo Cohen in his dvar Torah referenced Rashi in Chumash that speaks of the giving of Torah

being referred to in a language of unity. What was it about Torah that required this emphasis of unity?

He said over the Maharal that emphasizes that the Torah, itself, represents and is the ultimate unity. The Torah is one because in truth, that’s all that there is, and everything is in this world just to enable us to learn.

Only a group that was unified could truly receive Torah which itself is unity. How wonderful a thought and concept of the importance of bringing together the entire community to foster the growth of Torah learning!

The evening also featured an incredible energy-packed performance by the renowned Yehuda Green, bringing indoors what had previously in years past been an outdoor

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SKAbbaton 2018

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he annual Stella K. Abraham High School for Girls Shabbaton, also known as “SKAbbaton,” is one of the most anticipated school events of the year. This year’s Shabbaton took place on the weekend of November 9-10 and really lived up to expectations! The singing, zemirot, achdut, talent and warmth felt at the beautiful Sheraton Parsippany were truly out of the ordinary.

There is so much that goes into every Shabbaton and the SKA sophomores, juniors and seniors (the freshmen had their own retreat) spent the entire week leading up to the Shabbat

preparing for the event. The theme of Heroes, those among us and those in the larger community, resonated throughout the Shabbaton. The SKA students were captivated by the personal stories shared at the teacher panels and those of our guest speakers, Judge Dan and Dr. Nina Butler.

A tremendous hakorat hatov goes

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tate Senator Joseph Addabbo, Jr. (Democrat) arrived at Shevach High School on Monday, November 5 while election fever was at its peak. The Senator represents the 15th Senatorial District, which encompasses, in whole or in part, Kew Gardens, Kew Gardens Hills, Forest Hills, Rego Park, Richmond Hill, the Rockaways, Ozone Park, and many other areas. The eleventh and twelfth grades were privileged to hear Senator Addabbo describe why he is passionate about his job in government. “To be an elected official is an honor. It is an honor to help people,” he said. He explained that his father, who served twenty-six years in Congress, is his inspiration.

He taught the younger Addabbo that when someone comes to us with a problem, we should not see it through our own eyes, but rather through their eyes. Whether it was while helping an older woman gain respite from the incessant jingles of an ice cream truck on her block, or in listening, but really listening, to the local children hoping for a good skateboard park, Senator Addabbo demonstrated the importance of helping his constituents with the issues that matter to them.

As the discussion moved to legislation, Senator Addabbo explained the dynamics between the City Council and the State legislature. He highlighted issues of safety and revenue, and emphasized that party politics should not get in the way of putting the people first. He described the new license

plate designed to raise awareness of Down Syndrome, and how the fees for the new plate will help fund new research, as well as post-Sandy recovery and rebuilding efforts, and the expansion of programs for veterans. He spoke about the designated bus lane on Main Street as well as his opposition to the proposed plans to close Rikers Island and open local prisons, even in Kew Gardens.

In the question and answer segment of the program, the Shevach students posed several key questions to the Senator. Tehila Ginian asked about changes in Common Core, Esti Ecker brought up the topic of tuition vouchers, and Chavi Ribowsky inquired about the possible plans to landmark the general Richmond Hills/Kew Gardens area. In response to Esti Levant’s question about N.Y. State’s efforts to combat anti-Semitism especially in the wake of the shootings in Pittsburgh, Senator Addabbo spoke of the great diversity in New York, as well as the importance of school safety. He exclaimed how glad he was to see that the first person to meet him as he walked in the door was our very professional security guard and that school safety needs to be improved in the public school system.

The program concluded with Senator Addabbo encouraging the students to realize that while most of them are not yet eligible to vote, by voicing their ideas they too can yield many positive changes. Thank you to Mrs. Nechama

to Rabbi Yosef Zakutinsky, Director of Student Programs, and his wonderful assistants, Mrs. Yafa Storch and Shalva Goldstein, for all the work they put into this Shabbaton! Much thanks goes to Mrs. Elisheva Kaminetsky, principal, Judaic studies; Mrs. Bluma Drebin, principal, general studies; Ms. Elana Flaumenhaft, associate princi-

pal; and Mrs. Sandra Pomerantz, assistant administrator, for enhancing our Shabbat and making it so exciting.

Thank you to all the additional administrators, teachers and madrichot who joined in.

And, of course, each SKA student who attended the weekend really enriched our Shabbat.

Mirsky, associate principal, general studies, and Mr. Barry Grossman, instructor, American Politics, for arranging Senator Addabbo’s visit to Shevach High School.

The following day’s midterm elections brought Senator Addabbo a win over his Republican challenger,

Tom Sullivan. Senator Addabbo, who served seven years in the City Council and was elected to the State Senate in 2008, will now go on to serve a fifth term in Albany. Shevach High School thanks Senator Addabbo for his visit to Shevach and they offer their congratulations on his victory.

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Comedian Ashley Blaker to Headline Inaugural IVDU School for Special Needs Scholarship Dinner

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achad’s IVDU School for Special Education will hold its inaugural scholarship dinner at The Loft Steakhouse in Boro Park, NY, on Tuesday, November 27 at 7p.m. Internationally acclaimed Orthodox Jewish comedian Ashley Blaker, who is a father of two children with autism as well as a daughter with Down Syndrome, will provide comedy for the evening.

Funds raised will go directly to the IVDU School, helping to defray the enormous cost of highly differentiated special education. Tickets to the fundraiser are $360 per person or $700 per couple.

The IVDU School, based on four separate campuses in Flatbush, Boro Park and Long Island, offers students with special needs a comprehensive and nurturing educational environment. It provides core academic, social, and life skills, helping students ages five to twenty-one reach their highest potential and become productive citizens.

“IVDU has grown immensely over

the last few years,” said Jack Gourdji, executive director of the IVDU School. “In three years, enrollment jumped over sixty percent and we have expanded from two to four New York locations. As IVDU continues to grow, we must come together as a community to support this crucial resource for Jewish families.”

There are currently over 100 students in the Marilyn David IVDU Boys High School, the Marilyn Da-

vid IVDU Girls High School and Girls Lower School. IVDU’s small student-teacher ratios allow for differentiated instruction to best meet individual needs.

IVDU parents Susan Kopstick and Debbie Rochlin are chairing the Parent Committee as well as this Scholarship Dinner “IVDU is the yeshiva that accepts my whole child,” said Susan Kopstick, Parent Committee and Dinner

co-chair. “They understand that kids learn at their own pace and are willing to differentiate for each individual student so that they can learn.

They are ‘chinuch with heart!’”

For more event information or reservations, please visit ivdu. org/event or reach out to Danielle Bergman at bergmand@ou.org or 212-613-8373.

YCQ Pre-School Open House Great Success

By Ben Kochman, grade 6

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n Sunday, November 11, YCQ teachers and students volunteered at the annual preschool open house. The administration and Parent Teacher Organization president spoke to the visiting parents about the school curriculum, programming, and the many ways to get involved through the PTO. Following the introduction, parents were given a tour of the classrooms followed by presentations by teachers throughout the school.

Several students assisted in the science lab with teacher Mrs. Jennifer Jaffe where they did an egg in the bottle experiment for the visiting parents to introduce them to the early science curriculum. Other kids assisted teachers from kindergarten, first grade, fourth grade, gym, and computers.

The first and second graders presented a song in Hebrew with Morah Leah Greenwald,

first grade morah. Rabbi Shmuel Soffer, fourth grade rebbe, did a presentation using the SmartBoard, and Chrome Books were introduced in the computer lab as part of the YCQ technology program. Several of the kids who volunteered this year volun-

teered in previous years. At the end of the open house the school provided lunch for all visiting parents and volunteers while the administration was available to answer questions.

Mrs. Sharon Korn, preschool director, said, “Our open house this

year was very successful. We had many amazing families, both new and returning, that were interested in sending their kids to YCQ.” The administration looks forward to welcoming the children in September.

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Rabbi Shlomo Yonason Harris Visits Mesivta Yam HaTorah

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ollowing a special Rosh Chodesh breakfast on Thursday the students at Mesivta Yam HaTorah were privileged to have a question and answer session with Rabbi Shlomo Yonason Harris. Rabbi Harris is a member of the hanhala at Yeshiva Chofetz Chaim and was a high school menahel for many years. Rabbi Harris said that having a clarity on the purpose of life enables a person to broaden their perspective of what’s truly for their benefit, which in turn makes it easier to realize that everything Hashem does is for the best. Also included in the discussion were understanding the relationship and balance of the needs of the individual and those of the tzib-

bur, and understanding how we are indelibly impacted by our choices and the ensuing responsibility we have to take care of ourselves in ruchniyus by

limiting the detrimental influences on ourselves and having the proper diet of positive influences.

The students benefited from

hearing Rabbi Harris’s clarity of perspective and many examples and meshalim delivered with humor in a relatable and practical manner.

A Slam Dunk for Israel’s Soldiers month, benefiting Yashar LaChayal, a non-profit organization dedicated to the welfare of those serving in the IDF. With the tournament being coordinated by Judah and Carol Rhine, funds raised by participants and sponsors will go towards three of Yashar LaChayal’s flagship projects.

One of the projects is the Needy Soldier Fund which provides various forms of support (holiday food packages, grocery assistance, furniture, appliances, and more) to soldiers who come from financially disadvantaged backgrounds. The Base Enhancement Project, which provides rec rooms and gyms on army bases with furniture and equipment, will also be supported by the tournament proceeds.

Finally, and appropriately, funds will go towards Yashar LaChayal’s weekly hosting of off-duty soldiers at home games of Hapoel Jerusalem, one of Israel’s most popular basketball teams.

Yashar LaChayal was founded during the 2006 Second Lebanon War. Among its additional projects are the building and maintenance of a chain of “Warm Corner” rest stations for soldiers on patrol throughout the country, the “Injured Soldiers Fund” to support those who are injured in Israel’s defense, and the “IDF Widows and Orphans Fund” which assists the bereaved families of fallen soldiers.

Ten teams from Yeshiva Day Schools will compete in a pre-season game in November and in tournament games on December 16. The schools being represented will include Ramaz, Manhattan Day School, the Hebrew Academy of Long Beach, the Hebrew Academy of Nassau County, Yeshivat Shaare Torah, Magen David Yeshivah, Yeshiva Har Torah, Yeshiva Derech HaTorah of New York, Hillel Yeshiva, and the Jewish Educational Center of New Jersey.

Student athletes who participate in the tournament will have their own personalized fundraising web-

pages where they can direct family and friends who wish to contribute to Israel’s soldiers. The players from the top fundraising school will win prizes.

There are also sponsorship opportunities for the tournament itself.

With support from the Jewish community in the Tri-State Area, and in particular its eight grade athletes, the tournament should be a real boon for Israel’s soldiers. As a Yashar LaChayal representative told one of the participating school’s students, “Not everyone can be on the front lines, but by helping raise funds for these important projects you are showing the soldiers of Israel that you care about them and support them from across the world!”

shared a bit about how they became involved in politics, as well as the scope of their current duties. Subsequently, in true Town Hall fashion, facilitated by History Chair Mrs. Audi Hecht, Central students mimicked

the early New England colonists by participating in direct democracy and asking questions of their elected officials. In response, the legislators discussed their personal and political journeys, the policy issues that

are currently at the forefront of their minds, and how Central students can get involved in politics at the high school level.

Keep up the great Civic Spirit, Central!

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he soldiers of the Israel Defense Forces face many challenges as they give their all to secure the country’s volatile northern and southern borders. Iran is constantly stirring up its proxies in Lebanon and Syria, and Hamas ensures that not a week goes by without violent protests emanating from Gaza.

As Israel’s soldiers put their lives on the line for the country, many in the Jewish communities in the United States wonder how they can show their support for the brave, young men and women in uniform. Thanks to a new initiative, 8th grade boys from Yeshiva Day Schools in the New York metropolitan area will soon have an opportunity to do so while showing support for their own schools as well, in addition to having a great time!

The inaugural Hoops for Heroes Yashar LaChayal 8th Grade Boys Basketball Tournament will be held next

For more information about the tournament, visit: www.yasharlachayal.org/unique/bball/ or email basketball@yasharlachayal.org. For more information about Yashar LaChayal, visit: www.yasharlachayal.org or email info@yasharlachayal.org.

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ast Thursday, in anticipation of Election Day and as part of Central’s new Civic Spirit program, Central hosted its first ever Town Hall. Distinguished guests State Senator Toby Ann Stavisky, Assemblyman Daniel Rosenthal, Assemblyman David Weprin, and Ms. Beth Mehlman, Community Liaison for Congresswoman Kathleen Rice,

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Darchei Torah’s Siyum Hagadol Celebrated by the Community PHOTO CREDIT: NAFTOLI GOLDGRAB

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If there was one emotion that permeated the recent Siyum Hagadol of Yeshiva Darchei Torah’s Mesivta Chaim Shlomo and Beis Medrash Heichal Dovid, it was surely effervescent, unmitigated joy.

From the torch-lit procession down the block of the Yeshiva, attended by hundreds of men, women and children; to the siyum itself, held in the Beis Medrash where the 180-plus mesaymim and their fellow bachurim learn; to the festive melave malka and subsequent dancing, the Siyum

Hagadol was an event defined by a deeply felt and clearly visible simcha.

This joy was evident on the faces of not only the mesaymim, who completed various masechtos over the last year, much of the learning occurring during their “free” time; but of the other talmidim and their rabbeim as well – because like a family simcha, this was a celebration shared by the entire yeshiva and the wider community.

The guest speaker at this momentous occasion was Rav Elysha Sandler, rav of Kehillas Bais Yisroel and mashgiach ruchani of Sh’or Yoshuv.

Rav Shlomo A. Altusky dancing with Rav Zevi Trenk

Rav Elysha Sandler, guest speaker

Reb Avrohom Diamond, grandfather of a mesayem, reciting the Kaddish at the siyum

Rav Yaakov Bender, Rav Yossi Reisman and Rav Dovid Bender (foreground) dancing with talmidim

Rav Avi Indich dancing with talmidim

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Learning at Khal Machzikei Torah

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his past Motzei Shabbos was the first Avos Ubanim/ Motzei Shabbos Learning of this season at Khal Machzikei Torah.

There was a buzz in the air as the doors opened promptly at 6:30p.m.

With participants from all over Far Rockaway and the Five Towns, there was standing room only as the tenth year of Motzei Shabbos learning began. For 45 minutes there was the sound of kol Torah from fathers and sons, grandfathers and grandchildren, and even from some who came to learn on their own. After the learning Rabbi Yanky Hersh introduced the Morah D’asra of Khal Machzikei Torah, Harav Nosson Greenberg, to make the opening remarks.

Harav Greenberg commented on how special it was that so many people came together to start their week learning. He then spoke about the gadol of the week, Harav Meir Simcha HaCohen, also known as the Meshech Chochma and the Ohr Somayach.

Mayer Heinemann, shul president , Rabbi Nosson Greenberg, rav, and Rabbi Yanky Hersh

Rabbi Yanky Hersh, Tzali Gutman, Mayer Heinemann, and Alter Katz

Rabbi Yanky Hersh then took the podium again and announced that this year instead of 5 raffle prizes, there will be 10 raffles to celebrate the tenth year of Avos u’Banim at KMT. Everyone cheered as the lucky ten winners received the prizes. Everyone was a winner as each participant received a gadol card, pizza, zeppole, and a special slurpee card donated by Seasons Express. They also received credit toward the special Gourmet Glatt Grab sponsored

by Gourmet Glatt. Everyone left with a special sense of fulfillment and excitement, while looking forward to the next Motzei Shabbos at Khal Machzikei Torah.

HANC Senior Girls Spend Shabbat in the Five Towns

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his past Shabbat, Parshat Toldot, the senior girls at HANC were privileged to spend a Shabbat in the Woodmere community. The theme for the Shabbaton was “Decisions” as it connected to many of the experiences of the Avot and Imahot that are mentioned in recent parshiot. This represented the stage of life that the senior girls are currently in.

For Friday night dinner, the girls enjoyed the hospitality of their respective hosts. Afterwards, they joined together for a lovely tisch at the home of their Mechanechet, Morah Adina Waldman. On Shabbat day, the girls made their way to Shul at Aish Kodesh, and then walked to a hearty and spirited lunch hosted at the home of their Rebbe, Rabbi Yisroel Weingot and his wife, renowned mechanechet Mrs. Suri Weingot.

After the seudah, the students spent the afternoon at the home of

their mechanechet, where the girls enjoyed each other’s company while participating in thought-provoking and fun activities prepared by Morah Nomi Bensoussan. In addition, the students were privileged to meet and hear from Mrs. Estee Rapaport,

who shared her inspiring journey of emunah. The girls then went to the home of their principal, Rabbi Shlomo Adelman, who, together with his wife Chany, hosted a beautiful seudat shlishit. Shabbat ended with unified singing and ruach among the girls.

On Motzei Shabbat, the girls had a blast at paint night at Make It Too in Cedarhurst.

Thank you to the Mechanchet Mrs. Adina Waldman for organizing this amazing Shabbaton and to all the teachers who hosted.

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Shabbat in Monsey and on the Lower East Side

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n Shabbat Parshat Toldot, the HANC sophomore boys were treated to an all-inclusive Shabbat experience in Wesley Hills, Monsey, NY. Prior to Shabbat, the boys enjoyed a delicious pizza lunch, followed by an afternoon of activities that included paintball, archery, football, basketball, and riding ATV’s.

Rabbi Yisroel Chesir, a respected HANC rabbi and his shul, Congregation Tiferes Yisrael, warmly opened their hearts and homes to the HANC boys, hosted them for the Friday night Shabbat meal, as well as provided them with luxurious accommodations. Rabbi Chesir and his wife hosted a post meal oneg Shabbat on Friday night, as well as a delicious lunch the following morning.

Not only was the food delicious and abundant, but the speakers’ inspiring words nourished the boys’ souls as well. The sophomore boys were privileged to hear from the great Rabbi Yaakov Twersky of Milwaukee, who spoke with and blessed each boy

individually. Additionally, they were treated to words from Rabbi Chesir, Rabbi Shimon Chrein, and their fellow students.

After Shabbat the boys boarded their luxurious coach bus and headed home with memories that will surely linger in their hearts and minds for many years to come. HANC would

like to thank the Chesirs and their community for hosting such a wonderful Shabbat event for the sophomore boys, and look forward to returning in the future. Thank you to sophomore boys’ mechanech, Rabbi Shimon Chrein. for organizing this amazing Shabbat.

The junior boys joined Rabbi Dan-

iel Mezei and his family for an inspirational Shabbaton on the Lower East side of Manhattan. The weekend began with a football tournament played against the backdrop of the East River bridges. Shabbat meals were enjoyed together in an atmosphere of spirit and warmth. Participants were treated to homecooked Persian and Ashkenazi cuisine.

Students met Rabbi Dovid Feinstein, shlita, and enjoyed talks from community members on topics ranging from the Hatzolah organization and their efforts on 9/11 to the historic personalities of the Lower East Side. Cultural stops included a walking tour of Lower Manhattan including a tour of the Eldridge Street Synagogue. The Shabbat was filled with d’vrei Torah, inspirational conversations, and spirited zemirot.

After Shabbat the students went to see STOMP, an exciting off-Broadway production, had melaveh malkah and then headed back to Uniondale.

The Shabbaton continues to elicit warm and meaningful memories from our students.

Overflow Crowd at Shaaray Tefila

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n overflow crowd of 200 people showed up at Shaaray Tefila in Lawrence, last motzei Shabbos to attend the 80th anniversary of Kristallnacht, the unprecedented arson pogroms in Germany and Austria of November 9-10, 1938.

The event was titled: 1938: The Great Divide of Jewish History. After introductory remarks were made

by the rav of the shul, Rabbi Uri Orlian, who welcomed Holocaust survivors Mrs. Esther Smith, Shimon Felder, and Dr. Moshe Katz.

Rabbi Shmuel Klein, Director of Zechor Yemos Olam, the Holocaust Education Division of Torah Umesorah, head of the Emes Ve’emunah Training Program, and columnist for Hamodia, spoke on “Reflections

on Churban Europa.” Rav Klein was followed by special guest speaker Joe Bobker, former publisher and editor-in-chief of the Los Angeles Jewish Times, columnist and prolific author, including Historiography of Orthodox Jews and the Holocaust and the popular Torah With a Twist of Humor series, who spoke on “Why Remember?” Mr.

Bobker ended with the hope that the only sound of glass shattering in Jewish communities be under the chuppah, Both speakers are child of survivors and members of the “2G” generation.

The evening ended with a powerful rendition of Ani Ma’amin and E-l Maleh Aleh Rachamim by Shaaray Tefila chazan, R’ Yitzchok Freund.

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Jimbo’s Turkey Cooking Ritual

Riddle me this?

Step 2: Take a drink of whiskey

There are four people and all of them are sitting at a square table eating turkey. Their names are Mike, Al, Paul, and John. Use the clues below to figure out who sits where at the table.

Step 3: Put turkey in the oven

John is at the left of Mike.

Step 4: Take another 2 drinks of whiskey

Mike sits on the right side of the table.

Step 5: Set the degree at 375 ovens

Al is on the right of Mike.

Step 6: Take 3 more whiskeys of drink

Where does Paul sit?

Step 1: Go buy a turkey

Step 7: Turk the bastey Step 8: Whiskey another bottle of get

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Step 9: Ponder the meat thermometer Step 10: Glass yourself a pour of whiskey Step 11: Bake the whiskey for 4 hours Step 12: Take the oven out of the turkey Step 13: Floor the turkey up off of the pick Step 14: Turk the carvey Step 15: Get yourself another scottle of botch Step 16: Tet the sable and pour yourself a glass of turkey Step 17: Bless the dinner and pass out

You gotta be kidding The pro football team had just finished their daily practice session when a large turkey came strutting onto the field. While the players gazed in amazement, the turkey walked up to the head coach and demanded a tryout. Everyone stared in silence as the turkey caught pass after pass and ran right through the defensive line. When the turkey returned to the sidelines, the coach shouted, “You’re terrific! Sign up for the season, and I’ll see to it that you get a huge bonus.”

“Forget the bonus,” the turkey said. “Does the season go past Thanksgiving Day?”

Answer to Riddle Me This: Paul sits on the left of John and across from Mike.

Dinner is served.

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Native American Trivia 1. Where does the term “Indian” come from? a. Native Americans are originally from the country of India b. The state of Indiana has the most Native Americans, so in the 1800s people started referring to them as “Indians” c. It is slang for independent, since after the U.S. was formed the indigenous people did not become citizens of the new country d. Christopher Columbus thought he had landed in the East Indies so he called the people that he found here “Indians” 2. Which one of the following words is from the Arawakan Indian language meaning “framework of sticks”:

peoples. When was it enacted?

b. 1924 c. 1876 d. 1795 4. The terms “Native American” and “American Indian” are used in the United States. What term besides “Native Americans” is used in Canada to refer to Native Americans? a. Native Canadians b. Canadian Indians c. First Nations d. Ontarionians 5. Which of the following animals did Europeans bring to the Americas that the Native Americans had not seen before? a. Sheep b. Elephants c. Cats

b. Popsicle

d. Zebras 6. How many federally recognized tribes are there in the U.S. today?

d. Forest 3. The Indian Citizenship Act (Snyder Act) granted full U.S. citizenship to America’s indigenous

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d. 573

a. 1964

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c. Barbeque

c. 144

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3-6 correct: You have enough knowledge of Native Americans to hold court at a framework of sticks!

0-2 correct: You must be from the Kookoo tribe!

7. Who was Pocahontas? a. A senator from Massachusetts b. A Native American female who assisted English colonists during their first years in Virginia c. She led Lewis & Clark on their expedition and saved them when a group of Native Americans wanted to eat them for dinner d. She created the plan that led to the Louisiana Purchase 8. Where did the term Buffalo Soldier come from? a. It refers to Native Americans stationed in Buffalo, NY, during the Civil War and who fought for the North b. Native Americans gave the term to African-American regiments fighting in the Civil War c. It referred to Native American warriors who wore buffalo headdresses d. It refers to Native Americans who hunted for buffalo

9. Which of the following games was created by Native Americans: a. Golf b. Hockey c. Tennis d. Lacrosse 10. Twenty-six states are actually Native American words. Which one of the following is not one of those 26 states? a. Alabama b. Massachusetts c. Ohio d. Pennsylvania

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5. A

9. D

4. C

8. B

3. B

7. B

2. C

6. D

1. D

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Torah Thought

Parshas Vayeitzei

By Rabbi Berel Wein

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ur father Jacob was a very strong and physically powerful person. We read of his physical prowess in his previous encounter with the shepherds of Haran and later of his wrestling match with the angel of Esav, at the river of Yaabok. His sons, though young in years, are also very powerful and strong physically and filled with self-confidence, without fear of confronting dangerous enemies. We will

see that his two sons, Shimon and Levi, destroy the city of Shechem in their rage and sense of justified revenge for the behavior against their sister Dena. And according to Jewish legend, as quoted by Ramban in his commentary, Jacob engaged in many battles against hostile tribes after entering the Land of Israel.

And yet the overall picture of our father Jacob that emerges from the narrative recorded in the Torah is

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of Christianity and later Islam, the Jews became a persecuted minority and almost powerless in terms of physical strength. The entire history of the exile is how the Jewish people lived by their wits, with low profiles and with appeasement of their enemies. Since the exile has lasted for such a long time, this attitude and self-assessment became ingrained in the Jewish psyche. It is only when the nadir of the Jewish exile was reached through the Holocaust that the situation of Jewish self-assessment and self-assertion began to change.

The creation of the State of Israel is undoubtedly the catalyst for this

The narrative regarding the lives and experiences of our patriarchs and matriarchs is meant to be instructive, as are all the events in Jewish history.

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one of appeasement and an avoidance of confrontation at almost all costs. He allows both Lavan and Esav to threaten him and, in effect, he chooses to buy them off with words and gifts. There is little evidence of the true strength and power of Jacob in the Torah narrative itself. It is obvious that that there is a dual nature present in the portrait that the Torah describes regarding our father Jacob. And there is a profound lesson present in that purposeful presentation that the Torah has made for us to learn and follow.

We are all aware that the narrative regarding the lives and experi-

ences of our patriarchs and matriarchs is meant to be instructive, as are all the events in Jewish history. During First and Second Temple times, when the Jewish people had national sovereignty, they engaged in many wars and battles and were well known throughout the area as a fierce foe. As a matter of fact, Josephus records that the wars of the Jews were the most fearsome in the history of the Roman Legions.

However, after the destruction of the Second Temple and the rise

change. The success of the Jewish State, far beyond even the wildest hopes of previous generations, has emboldened Jewish life throughout the world. It has enabled Jews to become publically Jewish and observant even while holding high office in non-Jewish societies and countries. It is the time of the children of Jacob reasserting themselves in pride and strength. May it continue to embed itself in the brains and hearts of Jews.

Shabbat shalom.

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From the Fire

Parshas Vayeitzei We are the Ladder

By Rav Moshe Weinberger Adapted for publication by Binyomin Wolf

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he story of Yaakov Avinu is the story of all of our lives in exile. Every single moment, we live with “Vayeitzei Yaakov mi’Beer Sheva vayelech Charana, and Yaakov went out of Beer Sheva and went to Charan.” According to the Zohar (Vayeitze 147a), “to Charan,” comes from the words “charon af,” anger. In other words, whenever we leave our little Eretz Yisroel, our shuls and our yeshivos and go out into the world, we are in a strange place, in exile. As spiritual people, we are strangers in our daily physical lives. We therefore live with the story of Yaakov Avinu entering his exile every single moment of every single day as we go into our own personal exiles. What does Yaakov’s experience teach us about how to view our life in galus?

When Yaakov lays down to sleep, the pasuk says, “And he dreamt and behold there was a ladder standing on the earth and its top was in the heavens and behold, angels of G-d were ascending and descending bo.” There is a dispute in Bereishis Raba (68:12) regarding the subject of the word

“bo,” which could be read to mean “on him” or “on it.” One opinion is that the angels were ascending and descending the ladder. But the Medrash offers the following explanation according to the opinion that the angels were ascending and descending on Yaakov Avinu: The [interpretation of the fact that the] angels were ascending and descending on Yaakov is that they were praising him (ascending) and criticizing him (descending). As it says in Yeshaya 49:3, “Yisroel, in whom You are glorified.” “You are the one whose face is carved above.” They ascended and saw his face, and they descended below and found him sleeping.

The angels wondered, “How could it be that this person who is so great that Hashem takes such pride in him and his face is carved above under the Throne of Glory is sleeping his life away?” Each of our faces, the children of Yaakov, living in exile just as Yaakov was, are also carved up above on Hashem’s Throne of Glory. We have

such great potential that Hashem exults in our greatness and carved each and every one of our faces above in Shamayim. We do not realize our own greatness and meaning, so we sleep our lives away.

In prior generations, it was hard for someone to imagine how one could be in one place and his face could be somewhere else. Even in the time of the Chofetz Chaim, someone told him about the invention of the telephone, and he commented, “Listen to the power of speech; a Jew can say something in Radin, and someone will hear him in Vilna!” Today it is easy for us to imagine this concept.

I do not know how it works exactly, but I have heard that on “Facebook,” people take pictures and other people can look at them anywhere in the world. And on Skype, one can be in Eretz Yisroel, and he can talk to his grandchildren in New York and they can see each other’s faces as they talk.

This is the struggle that each of us faces when we go out into the world.

We also struggle with the angels who say about us, “This is the person

whose face is carved onto the Throne of Glory! Look, why is he sleeping?!”

We learn from Yaakov that we cannot sleep through our lives, thinking, “Who am I? I’m just a stam person, a regular guy.” We are not just “regular guys.” Angels, which deliver Hashem’s Divine influence to the whole world, pass through us to do their work.

When Yaakov wakes up, he says (Bereishis 28:16), “Indeed Hashem is in this place and I did not know it.”

Tzaddikim explain this pasuk in the following way: The letters of the word “achein, indeed” in that pasuk stand for the words aryeh, keruv, nesher – lion, angel, and eagle – the three animals whose images Yechezkel says are carved on the great chariot in heaven (10:14). In other words, Yaakov started off knowing that in lofty places there are mystical creatures, the cherub, the angel, and the lion.

But once he hears that the angels say that Yaakov’s own face is also carved above, he says, “V’anochi lo yadati, and I did not know it.” The Hebrew word for “I” is “anochi.” The letters of the word anochi stand for the words

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aryeh, keruv, nesher, lion, angel, eagle – and Yaakov! He was saying, “I knew there were great and spiritual things in Heaven, but I never knew that I was one of them!”

Yaakov was living the good life before he left Beer Sheva. He was able to sit and learn Torah all of the time.

He had a mother who loved him dearly. Everything was good. But it was only after Yaakov left home and went into exile on the way to Charan that it was revealed to him that Hashem glorifies himself in him and that his face is carved in the kisei hakavod, the Throne of Glory. Only in exile did he realize that he was the ladder, the conduit through which Hashem sends His Divine influence into the world.

We too are carved in Hashem’s throne. We must realize that we are important, and not stam, not simple, regular people. Everything in this world is dependent on us.

There is a story that the bochurim in the yeshiva in Radin were complaining to one another about the

Haskala, the Enlightenment’s prevalence in Paris, which was plaguing the religious Jews there. The Chofetz Chaim told them that it is because of their bitul Torah, the time they waste when they should be learning Torah in Radin talking about what’s hap-

faces are carved in the Throne of Glory above, and Hashem takes pride in us. So it is up to us to wake up to take up the challenge of our potential and our importance in the world: “and Yaakov awoke from his slumber.” In contrast, with regard to Paroah, it

Only in exile did he realize that he was the ladder, the conduit through which Hashem sends His Divine influence into the world.

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We must also realize that as a congregation of Yaakov, the image of our kehilla, our congregation, is also carved on Hashem’s throne. We must look at ourselves and see if we are living up to higher image of ourselves or whether we have become complacent and have begun taking liberties in our kavod ha’tefillah, our respect for the davening in the shul, in our learning, and in our bein adam l’chaveiro, the way we treat one another.

With Hashem’s help, may we be zoche to wake up from our slumber and realize our importance and that we are the conduit through which Hashem brings everything good into the world. And through the openings that we create may we be zoche to go together to Yerushalayim with Moshiach Tzidkeinu soon in our days.

Rav Moshe Weinberger, shlita, is the founding Morah d’Asrah of Congregation Aish Kodesh in Woodmere, NY, and serves as leader of the new mechina Emek HaMelech.

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Between the Lines

Growing Green

By Eytan Kobre

Envious men innovate to compensate for their physical, economic or other handicaps.

-Homer G. Barnett

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2011 Journal of Personality and Social Psychology study found that people who felt envious of others possessed an increased ability to commit to memory details about the targets of their envy.

A recent New York Times Opinion article titled, “The Upside of Envy,” likewise argued that “envy can help us identify our visions of excellence and where we need to be.” Envy may be destructive, these reports conclude, but it also has its benefits.

Of course, envy is a dangerous character flaw for which there is no cure (Orchos Chaim, No. 113). Not only does it accomplish nothing (Mesilas Yesharim, Chapter 11), it “rots the bones” (Shabbos 152b; Mishlei 14:30) and drives a person from the world (Avos 4:21; Pirkei d’Rebbi Eliezer, Chapter 13).

But not all envy is so destructive.

“And Rachel saw that she had not borne children to Yaakov, and Rachel became envious of her sister” (Bereishis 30:1). Rachel’s envy was

acceptable inasmuch as she thought, “Were [Leah] not more righteous than I, she would not have been worthy of bearing sons” (Rashi, Bereishis 30:1); Rachel’s was a jealousy of good deeds (Bereishis Rabba 71:6; Pele Yoetz, Kina). Destructive envy is borne out of fear that the success of others diminishes our own; constructive envy (like Rachel’s) can be a catalyst for growth.

Margaret Thatcher was only half right when she opined that “the spirit of envy can destroy; it can never build.” Envy certainly can destroy.

But it also can inspire and galvanize and motivate for good.

“The envy of scholars increases wisdom” (Bava Basra 21a and 22a) because it fosters a productive and healthy atmosphere of competition in spiritual pursuits. Envy over religious excellence and character refinement “is very good, and it is the attribute of the great ones” (Orchos Tzadikim, Sha’ar HaKina; see also Kad HaKemach, Kina; Pele Yoetz, Kina; Ohr Yahel, Vol. 2, pg. 27; Medrash Socher Tov 37 and 73). Healthy competition can bring out the best in us and push us to do better (Shulchan Aruch, Yoreh Dei’ah 245:18). Because when someone else does good, constructive envy intensifies our motivation to do the same.

The Alter of Slabodka often asked his students what they thought of one

another with the aim of channeling their natural sense of jealousy into a more constructive form of spiritual envy. Similarly, when the Brisker Rav opened a matzah bakery in Vilna, adhering to stricter standards than the city’s other bakeries, R’ Chaim Ozer Grodzinski was not concerned that the other bakeries would be looked upon with disfavor; rather; he maintained, the other bakeries would enhance their standards to compete with the Brisker Rav’s bakery. With that sort of healthy competition, everyone wins.

Still, some authorities see such academic and spiritual envy only as a means to an end (Rabbeinu Yona and Rashbatz, Avos 4:28; see Koheles 4:4; Michtav M’Eliyahu, Vol. 1, pg.

126 and Vol. 3, pg. 185), acceptable only to gain initial inspiration. But “to remain on the level of scholarly envy, this is certainly not the proper path” (Ohr Yechezkel, Midos, pg. 290; see Maharsha, Bava Basra 21a). Envy should be used as a tool for growth, to the point that it no longer is needed.

How can we distinguish appropriate (even laudable) envy from its pernicious counterpart? Healthy envy is wanting to be as good as others; toxic envy is wanting others to sink to our level (Chochma U’Mussar, Vol. II, pg. 177; see also Rabbeinu Yona, Avos 4:21).

But even acceptable “spiritual”

envy must never be exploited as but a proxy for its sinister equivalent.

For if “spiritual” envy is rooted in the base desire to outshine others or for the sake of honor or braggadocio, is it any better than rank jealousy?

The parents of a bright and ambitious Stanford University student offered their son a summer trip to the Far East as a reward for his academic success. While there, the student fell under the influence of a group of Buddhists. They criticized his ambition, reprimanding him for studying hard not in an effort to learn but only to outdo his peers. The young man acknowledged as much, and he soon called his parents to tell them he would drop out of school and join the Buddhist monastery.

Six months later, the parents received this letter from their son: Dear Mom and Dad, I know you were disappointed with my decision to stay here and join the monastery, but I want you to know how happy I am. For the first time in my life, I’m living in an envy-free atmosphere. This way of life is so much in harmony with the inner essence of my soul that in only six months I’ve become the Number Two disciple, and by June I think I can be Number One! Yet sincere spiritual envy – driven by a true yearning for self-growth –

can be transformative.

The Baal Shem Tov told of two neighbors, one a well-heeled Torah scholar, the other a penniless laborer.

The scholar would wake before dawn and study Torah for several hours, after which he would pray at length, hurry home for a quick breakfast, and return to his Torah studies for several hours more. Only in the afternoon would he venture out to the market and engage in minimal business. After evening prayers and dinner, he would again learn Torah until well into the night.

Oh, how differently the laborer lived. He too would wake early, but no matter how hard he struggled to earn a living, he barely succeeded in putting bread on the table. His schedule simply did not allow for prolonged Torah study: he would pray quickly at daybreak, after which his labors consumed the remainder of his day and a fair amount of his night. On Shabbos, when he finally had the opportunity to open a Jewish book, he quickly

nodded off from the week’s exhaustion.

When the two neighbors would pass each other in the street, the proud scholar would shoot a look of scorn in the direction of the “materialistic” laborer and hurry on to his

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The years rolled on in this manner until the two men departed this world and stood before the Heavenly court for judgment. An advocating angel placed the scholar’s formidable virtues on one side of the scale of deeds, and things were looking good for the

Healthy envy is wanting to be as good as others; toxic envy is wanting others to sink to our level.

sacred pursuits. The laborer, on the other hand, would emit a weighty sigh. How fortunate is his lot; how unfortunate is mine. We’re both hurrying. But while he is rushing to learn Torah, I’m off to the mundane.

scholar. But then the prosecuting angel placed a single object on the other side of the scale: the contemptuous look the scholar occasionally cast his neighbor’s way. The weight of this disdainful glance at first equaled, and

then outweighed, the formidable load of merits.

The laborer’s reckoning was quite different. The prosecuting angel loaded the acts of his spiritually-empty life on one side of the scale, while the advocating angel had but one weight to offer in equilibrium: the covetous sigh emitted when he encountered his scholarly neighbor. But that sigh – that simple, sincere, envious sigh – outweighed all the laborer’s shortcomings, and it validated his entire existence.

So the next time we find ourselves admiring, even envying, the true merits of our friends, neighbors, or relatives, let’s not be so quick to chide ourselves. Let’s embrace it. Let’s use it as motivation. Let’s go green – and grow green – with the right kind of envy.

Eytan Kobre is a writer, speaker, and attorney living in Kew Gardens Hills.

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E-mail eakobre@outlook.com.

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Israel Today

Cleaning Trustee

By Rafi Sackville

D

riving home from a wedding one late Monday night, we got caught in a traffic jam at the northern end of Road 70. Road crews blocked a kilometer stretch for half an hour while they paved a new extension.

Midnight was encroaching, and we were tired. We had exhausted our con-

versation and were looking forward to getting to sleep. The quiet was suddenly broken by our neighbors, Yisrael and Batya, in the front seat.

“Where’s the form?” she asked him as if she were awakening from a deep sleep.

“In the glove compartment,” Yisrael answered. “And I need a pen.”

To my surprise Yisrael wrote down the registration of the car in front of us. He noted the date, the time, and then gave a precise description of how the passenger had thrown some tissues out the window. I looked at the road next to their car. There they were: one white, the other pink.

I asked Yisrael if he was going to get out of his car and make a citizen’s arrest. Yisrael isn’t one for taking his civic duty lightly. As if on cue the driver in front of us got out of his car to stretch. He looked like a body builder type with tattoos running down both arms.

“Does that answer your question?”

Yisrael asked me.

I asked him what he was doing.

“I’m a certified cleaning trustee,” he announced, not as a matter of pride, but in complete seriousness. “I completed a course run by the Environmental Agency. I have the authority to write up official complaints, send them to the agency, who will fine litterbugs.”

I’ve seen YouTube clips of drivers throwing garbage out of windows.

Drivers following them scoop up the garbage, then follow the offender until they come to a stop. The pay-off is a ceremonial and almost animated dump of the garbage through the litterbug’s window.

The following morning I began researching the Ministry of the Environment’s website to learn more about cleaning trustees.

If one is over the age of 16 one can join the Agency’s cleaning trustee squad. To become accredited one has to complete a short online course and

quiz. A passing grade qualifies our good citizen to become a “cleaning trustee.”

The main role of a trustee is to assist in enforcing the Maintenance of Cleanliness Law and to report to the Agency in cases of people dumping waste from a vehicle into the public domain. The most discarded item seems to be cigarette butts. Why people think this isn’t littering is beyond the scope of my understanding.

Upon first arriving in Israel in 1976 I was both amused and disgusted by the common practice of Israelis eating sunflower seeds and expectorating them over the asphalt. They did it then and still do it now. I once confronted a group of youngsters sitting on a park bench surrounded by spent seeds. It was a Shabbat afternoon. Their reaction was novel: they claimed the shells were muktzeh and they were halachically forbidden from handling them.

Only last week my neighbor’s dog dragged their garbage out of the bin and dispersed it to the four corners of the street. I asked the neighbor if he’d seen what his pet had done. He said he had. When I asked if he had any intention of cleaning the mess his dog had made, his reply was classic.

He claimed it was the municipality’s job, not his. “But it’s your dog,” I said, rather startled at his deflection.

He wouldn’t let up and claimed the city was doing a terrible job and why should he have to clean up.

“Because it’s your dog and it’s your garbage,” I replied, stating the obvious.

Not wanting to get into a full-

blown argument I walked away, but not before showing visible signs of disbelief and disgust. Our confrontation must have had an effect because the street was clean when I next drove by.

My neighbor’s argument was not new to me. More than once during my time in New York a student I had caught littering would refuse to clean up, claiming that schools hired janitors for such work. In other words, this is not something that is unique to Israel.

Yisrael loves Israel. He signed up because he wants a clean country and wishes to heighten the awareness of offenders in the hope they won’t litter again.

The Ministry is open when proffering the reason they encourage people to become trustees. On their website they state that volunteers are important who feel they are contributing and influencing society.

In October of 2015 sixty cleaning trustees were certified in the city of Ashdod alone. The numbers are on

the rise. Enforcing the Cleanliness Preservation Law has left its mark on the streets of the country. In 2016

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who patrol cities in order to warn about the hazards of cleanliness.

The mayor of Jerusalem was even

Upon first arriving in Israel in 1976 I was both amused and disgusted by the common practice of Israelis eating sunflower seeds and expectorating them over the asphalt. They did it then and still do it now.

there were over 7,000 reports on waste disposal.

Some cities have expanded their purview and have units of volunteers

ordained as a cleaning trustee. Hundreds of city employees train applicants and join in volunteer efforts to keep the city clean.

After what seemed like an everlasting wait, cars in front of us began moving. I looked at the tissues lying innocently on the blacktop in the still, late summer night. As we drove past I wondered if I’d be a likely candidate as a cleaning trustee. I think not. I dislike driving as it is and the thought of always looking out for litterbugs would turn my time behind the wheel into an ordeal. The incident left an impression on me, though. With intentions as pure as Yisrael’s and the thousands of other trustees, I know our future is bright.

As Yisrael pulled up outside my house he told me that 90% of offenders pay the fine. What they don’t know is what the other 10% do; the fine isn’t really enforceable. If an offender appeals it is difficult to prove guilt.

Let’s keep that little fact just between us, okay?

Rafi Sackville, formerly of Cedarhurst, teaches in Ort Maalot in Western Galil.

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Israel Today

A Shabbos of Unity and Hospitality

By Zalmi Unsdorfer and Udi ZInar

Yeshiva Shavei Hevron

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ecently, we read Parshat Chayei Sarah, in which Avraham Avinu comes to Hevron to buy a burial place for his Sarah Emeinu. That burial place is the Cave of the Machpela, in which the Patriarchs and Matriarchs buried, and is the second most sacred site in Judaism after the Temple Mount.

As in most years, I spent Shabbat in Hevron with tens of thousands of my Jewish brothers and sisters to have the enormous privilege of hearing the Torah reading and the story of the burial of Sarah in the exact place where it actually happened 3,800 years ago. If you’re looking for a means of really connecting yourself to Jewish history, this time and place never disappoints.

Many international guests at Yeshiva Shavei Hevron came specifically for Shabbat Chayei Sarah.

Some flew in Thursday night or even Friday morning and departed

Members of Young Israel of Woodmere enjoying the warm atmosphere

on Motzei Shabbat. Among the distinguished guests were an entourage led by Dayan Yonason Abraham from London, a large group from

from France, Montreal and Toronto. There were many guests from within Israel as well. The guests and students helped create an at-

In the hospitable spirit of Avraham Avinu, most of the 300 students gave up their rooms for the visiting guests, many sleeping on the roof and in corridors by night and serving by day as waiters for the three Shabbat meals.

Long Island from the Young Israel of Woodmere Community led by Rabbi Shalom Axelrod, and other groups

mosphere of friendship and unity.

Their excitement about being in the City of Our Forefathers, Hevron,

added a special spiritual dimension that was felt by all participants.

Yeshiva Shavei Hevron is a well-known and respected Torah institution situated in the heart of Hevron. It is housed in the historic Romano Estate, built in 1876 for the Jewish community by a Jewish Turkish merchant, Avraham Romano. The building has been central to the Jewish community since it was built, serving as the home of the Chief Rabbi of Hevron, Rabbi Haim Hezkiyahu Medini, as well as the site of the first Chabad Yeshiva in Israel. When the British took over the area in 1917, they commandeered the building as their police station.

And it is in this building that Jews were gathered before being evicted from Hevron.

In 1980, the Romano Estate was returned to Jewish control with the establishment of Yeshiva Shavei Hevron. Today, this Yeshiva stands

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proudly at the center of Jewish life in Hevron. It represents one-half of the total Jewish population in the city today. The Romano Estate is recognized as an official historic landmark by the Society for the Preservation of Israel Heritage Sites.

From a core of only ten students upon its establishment in 1980, the Yeshiva has grown to include a student body of about 330 students.

As the demand for attendance is greater than the numbers of students that can presently be accepted, efforts are being made to obtain a building permit in order to build another dormitory building on its premises. The Rosh Yeshiva, Rabbi Hananel Etrog, heads the Yeshiva with an educational approach that includes both an emphasis on Torah Learning and its application to one’s way of life, as well as participation in society as a whole. Thus, the Yeshiva maintains strong connections to the Israeli Army, police force and government. All of the students and rabbis consider it a privilege and great mitzvah to serve in the IDF. In addition to the 330 students learning in the Beit Midrash in Hevron, another 170 are currently fulfilling their mandatory army service.

Students are encouraged to be role models. In fact, about 50% of all of the students participate in officer or commander courses and many serve in the elite units of the IDF. One excellent example is Shay Klapper, an alumna of Shavei Hevron, who is presently serving as the

Golani Brigade Commander. The Executive Director, Dovi Weiss, is a Major in the Hevron Brigrade in the reserves unit. Graduates are making their mark on other aspects of Israeli society as well. Many have continued on to establish Zionist Religious Yeshivas and educational institutions and many have made their careers in Torah education.

Thousands of the Yeshiva’s graduates are making important contributions to Israeli society in many varied realms of pursuit.

In the hospitable spirit of Avraham Avinu, most of the 300 students gave up their rooms for the visiting guests, many sleeping on the roof and in corridors by night and serving by day as waiters for the three Shabbat meals. I’ve been a guest of Shavei Hevron for many years on this special Shabbat, and the enthusiasm of the students singing and dancing in celebration of their unique heritage never ceases to inspire everyone. The IDF commander and local police chief make guest appearances to rapturous applause, and it always warms my heart to see a police chief saying a dvar Torah on the parsha.

As it appears to me, all of the guests had an uplifting and unforgettable experience that will remain with them for a very long time.

Many of them will wish to come to Hevron again to gain spiritual strength from Hevron and the Yeshiva. As a fellow guest wrote to the Yeshiva staff, “Thanks so much for

your hospitality and amazing Shabbat Chayei Sarah! It was beyond my wildest expectations! Kol hakavod to you, your boys and the entire Jewish community of Hevron.

“The energy, excitement and ruach kodesh were palpable in the air.

It was truly an unforgettable experience. Thanks again for everything!

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I really look forward to returning to Hevron for Chayei Sarah and other visits and hopefully also bring my family along.”

I believe that Hevron should be a “must-visit” site on any visit to Israel. The great guys at Yeshiva Shavei Hevron will help you to arrange it: dovi@shaveihevron.org.

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The Wandering

Jew

Yamim Noraim in Warsaw

By Hershel Lieber

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rriving at the rundown airport in Warsaw a few days before Rosh Hashana in 1979 gave me the first glimpse of how shabby Poland was. Everything in that building was dilapidated and dirty. The terminal’s minimal lights were only turned on after passengers came off their planes. It would not be appropriate to describe how the bathrooms looked and smelled.

People were dressed dingily, and their dispositions matched entirely.

I quickly gathered my luggage, went through passport and custom controls, and went to the waiting area.

There I was met by Pan Zaigerman from the kehilla who would take me to my hotel. I was told later that Zaigerman was a loyal card-carrying Communist and people would refrain from talking about anything sensitive in his presence.

The hotel was the Europejski,

The Red Paroches, created by a non-Jew

Hershel with the rare Jewish children of Warsaw

across the parade grounds, which once was a very elegant address to stay at in prewar-Warsaw. Although one was able to see hints of its former grandeur, it was a far cry from

its former splendor. Heavy velvet maroon drapes covered the entrance to keep out the draft, and the furniture in the lobby had seen better days. In contrast, my room was

The ‘luxurious’ Europejski Hotel

warm, and there was running cold and hot water. The lighting, however, was so poor that made it difficult for me to read or write. Either the bed was not so uncomfortable, or I was too tired to care. This would be my home through Rosh Hashana, and again when I would return for Yom Kippur, from a mission in the U.S.S.R. during the Aseres Yemei Teshuva. I just had to make the best of it.

I had taken along many cans of meat and rice, which I warmed by filling the tub with hot water and letting them warm up there. I also brought some cans of gefilte fish, tuna, sardines, and challah rolls, which would only stay fresh for a short while. I bought some tomatoes and apples, which were half rotten, and picked up some seltzer and soda. The only treats I had were some packaged honey cookies

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and chocolate. I also brought along some honey and a pomegranate and two bottles of wine. My food supply was adequate, but truly not the way yom tov looked like or felt like back home.

What was most depressing to me was my loneliness. When I was occupied or in the company of other people I did not feel it. But during my lone yom tov seudos in my room it was especially gloomy. I was sitting and eating at a dressing table facing a mirror and was actually having a conversation with myself.

I was reminiscing of past yomim tovim at home with Pesi and my three daughters. I was imagining the beautifully set table, the delicious food, the simanim, the new fruits, the spirited conversations, the singing of zemiros, and the school projects the children loved to show off. I would have to remind myself that my mission here was not for my benefit or comfort but rather to be a shliach tzibbur for this forlorn and oppressed community. My purpose was to benefit them and provide them with support and comfort.

This thought is what kept me going.

I davened as the chazzan in the Noszyk Synagogue. It was the only shul from hundreds of others that made it through the war. The Nazis used the building as a horse stable and somehow it merited to survive the razing of the Ghetto and the bombings. The Polish government had just about finished restoring it, and it was to be used for the first time after the war for this Rosh Hashana. The building is beautiful but

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Reb Yankel, the baal Shacharis

not massive. Oddly, a non-Jewish artist designed and donated a bright red paroches, which was surely not the traditional color for the yamim noraim.

On Rosh Hashana there were about fifty men and twenty women in shul for most of the tefillos. Almost all of them were elderly and most

of religious communities.

The different characters who made up the minyan for the yamim noraim were the remnants of once vibrant Jewish communities throughout Poland. Reb Moshe Shapiro had a bushy white beard and was a shochet originally from Vilna.

He taught Torah to those three chil-

I was sitting and eating at a dressing table facing a mirror and was actually having a conversation with myself.

spoke Yiddish. On Yom Kippur there was a total of two hundred mispallelim. Still, very few were young. The exceptions were three children. One nine-year-old boy had only a mother and the other two, a ten-year-old boy and his younger sister, had only a father. Their mother had died not long before. I was so moved by them and their sad circumstances that I could not get my eyes and mind off them.

At one point during the repetition of Mussaf I motioned for them to stand with me by the amud. As I was singing “Habein yakir li,” my eyes welled up with tears from their plight while my heart was full of hope for their futures. Boruch Hashem, they eventually all came out from Poland, went to yeshivos, and are members

dren and to another boy from neighboring Praga. Yankel was the baal Shacharis who remembered the nusach very well but had a very hoarse voice. Nusen was constantly being dragged off to jail for exchanging money on the black market. Moishe, the father of the orphaned brother and sister, spoke a distinct Litvishe Yiddish which was hard to comprehend. There was a Yid aptly named Warshauer who would confuse me by singing loudly the Neilah tunes to all the tefillos. Shoshana was very outspoken and complained about everyone and everything. Then there was Shenitzer and his son, the undertakers, who would eventually have the task of burying the members of this aging kehilla.

Many of the men were married to non-Jewish women but nevertheless identified as Jews and came to the minyan on Shabbos and yom tov.

Most older Jews came daily to the canteen run by Joint for their main lunch meal. Everyone was poor, and many approached visitors begging for a handout. They bickered with each other, and they were obstinate in their demands. This was the community that I was davening with.

These were the people whom I was davening for.

Hershel Lieber has been involved in kiruv activities for over 30 years. As a founding member of the Vaad L’Hatzolas Nidchei Yisroel he has traveled with his wife, Pesi, to the Soviet Union during the harsh years of the Communist regimes to advance Yiddishkeit. He has spearheaded a yeshiva in the city of Kishinev that had 12 successful years with many students making Torah their way of life.

In Poland, he lectured in the summers at the Ronald S. Lauder Foundation camp for nearly 30 years. He still travels to Warsaw every year – since 1979 – to be the chazzan for Rosh Hashana and Yom Kippur for the Jews there. Together with Pesi, he organized and led trips to Europe on behalf of Gateways and Aish Hatorah for college students finding their paths to Jewish identity. His passion for travel has taken them to many interesting places and afforded them unique experiences. Their open home gave them opportunities to meet and develop relationships with a variety of people. Hershel’s column will appear in The Jewish Home on a bi-weekly basis.

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OF LIFE & LIMB How 500 Lives were Saved Because One Person Cared

BY NAOMI WEIN

One desperate patient fighting for his life…

One sympathetic individual trying to help...

500+ lives saved – so far.

In

August 2018, Renewal, an organization dedicated to finding and arranging suitable kidney donations and transplants for those in need, facilitated its 500th kidney transplant. This milestone marks far more than the growth and success of a renowned medical organization; it is a celebration of life for more than 500 people and their families who have been given the gift of a

healthy future.

A DESPERATE PLIGHT Mendy Reiner knew nothing about kidney failure, and even less about the complications of kidney transplants, when he met Eli Cohen. But what he did know was that when a brother is suffering, a fellow Jew does whatever he possibly can to come to his aid.

It began in a simple waiting

room in the Boro Park section of Brooklyn, where Mendy Reiner struck up a conversation with a fellow Jew. Though on the surface he appeared healthy, Eli Cohen’s body struggled daily with all the effects of kidney failure, and he was forced to go for dialysis 3-4 times a week for his blood to be filtered via machine since his kidneys couldn’t function properly. Standing in the waiting room of his rav’s office, Eli poured

his heart out to Mendy, hoping perhaps this caring gentleman would be able to help him. Mr. Reiner quickly began brainstorming various fundraising options but Eli gently stopped him. “I don’t need money,” he stated emphatically. “What I need is a kidney.”

Mendy went home that evening feeling sorry for the sick man but not assuming there was much he could do to help him. His wife, upon

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hearing of Eli’s plight, suggested that they put a few ads in the local papers describing the desperate situation and seeking someone willing to donate a kidney. The resounding response to the ads was astounding.

Twenty to thirty people responded, all willing to donate a kidney. Many others in need of a kidney called as well. It was clear that there was a definite need for an organization to help those in need of a kidney access those willing to donate their kidney and for suitable matches to be found for all.

“What I saw was a need and a solution,” Mendy articulates. “People desperately needed kidneys, but there were also many people who were willing to give a piece of themselves to help save another.”

Mendy’s first step was to approach other pre-existing organizations to see if they would respond to this

calling, but people laughed, not believing that there would actually be enough people out there who were willing to offer their own organs to those in need.

CONNECTING KIDNEYS It took some time to find the right person to help found such an organization. About three years after Mendy met Eli Cohen, he brought up the subject with Sendy Ornstein. Sendy was an accountant in Boro Park, a successful individual who was involved in many medical and communal organizations, and he had the perfect person to establish this resource. In 2006, Sendy set Mendy up with Rabbi Chaim Steinmetz and together they laid the foundations for Renewal. That year, they arranged their first kidney transplant, and the following year they conducted 5-6 transplants.

It was during that first year that a family in Israel reached out to Renewal for a desperately needed salvation. 27-year-old Maly Pomp, a young wife and mother, was suffering with kidney dysfunction, with no one to turn to for aid. Her husband wanted to donate his kidney to his wife, but his blood type and other medical variables were not compatible with hers. (In Israel it is particularly difficult to obtain a kidney unless a family member is willing and able to donate.) A visitor recommended that she call Renewal and see if they could help her.

The Pomps flew to America, where they were hosted for quite a while by Mendy and his family. Their seven-year-old daughter, “Pompella,” as she was affectionately nicknamed by the Reiner children, was enrolled in Bais Yaakov of Boro Park so that she could attend school during the duration of the family’s stay in America. She was a sweet, young child, whose world had been overturned by her mother’s dreadful illness and then their sudden relocation to the States. But thanks to the Reiners, she was well taken care of and adjusted well. One day, on her way out to the school bus, her mother called out after her, “Aren’t you cold; do you want to take a jacket?” The little girl responded in clear Ivrit, “As long as Ima will get better, I’m warm!” Mrs. Pomp did, in fact, receive a successful kidney transplant. Through Renewal, a match was found for her, and she was truly given a new lease on life.

The benevolent donor, a roofer by the name of Fishy Karmel, wished to remain anonymous to his recipient. He knew his kidney was going to save a life and that was all he wanted. Mrs. Pomp, however, very much wanted to reach out to her benefactor and thank him properly. On her last day on dialysis, just before the transplant was to take place, she wrote a letter to Mr. Karmel in which she poured out her heart with blessings and thanks for the renewed life she would receive.

Fishy was moved when he read her words of gratitude. “Hopefully, with your gift,” she wrote, “I will be able to answer my daughter’s plea every Friday night as I light the Shab-

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bos candles, begging for a sister or brother.” Two years after the transplant the Pomp family welcomed a baby girl to their home. More recently, they had another boy.

After his wife’s transplant, Mr. Pomp decided he would donate his kidney, as well, on the condition that he have the opportunity to meet Fishy Karmel, his wife’s donor, a wish which was granted – the blessing for a new life perpetuated.

LIFE-GIVERS In truth, every healthy individual has an extra kidney to donate.

The human body functions perfectly with only one kidney, yet Hashem gave every person two. However, the road to kidney donations is often fraught with many examinations and obstacles that need to be crossed. Just as no two faces look alike, no two human bodies are exactly alike, and, in order for a prospective kidney donation to take place, it must be made certain that the new kidney will function properly in the recipient’s body. Blood types need to be carefully tested and the donor needs to undergo a full medical examination and battery of tests to ensure that he is in general good health in order to donate. As one donor remarked, “By the time you’ve donated a kidney, you have gone through so many examinations that you yourself actually come out with a completely clean bill of health.”

Dr. Tamar Green, who resides in East Brunswick while practicing in Lakewood, NJ, was inspired to donate her kidney when she joined as a chaperone on her daughter’s class trip. At the Liberty Science Center, she, along with the girls, had the opportunity to watch a live hookup of a transplant. She was so taken by the way one person could give life to another that she decided to donate her own kidney. Dr. Green was found to possess a very rare blood type. A match was found that was perfectly compatible with someone who needed a new kidney, and Dr. Green’s kidney went to save a forty-year-old Jewish woman. The recipient, so overcome with gratitude, couldn’t stop showering her donor with blessings. Though she didn’t

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speak much English, her impassioned brachot shouted in Hebrew were so moving that Dr. Green said that at that time any pain she felt from her operation simply disappeared.

A kidney donor can choose to whom the kidney will go, provided that he is a medically suitable match for the prospective recipient.

Through Renewal, though, a person can sign up to be a donor and be tested for compatibility for any

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any way heal the patient, nor can a person fully function as a productive member of society while living with dialysis treatments, taking 3-4 hours each time, 3-4 times a week, and leaving the patient feeling tired and nauseous each round.

As time goes on, patients’ medical conditions often worsen, and their chances of survival drop.

Oftentimes, scheduled transplants need to be postponed because the recipient is too sick to

A SMALL CHUNK OF TIME IS A SMALL THING TO GIVE WHEN YOU’RE GIVING LIFE TO SOMEONE ELSE.

recipient, of which there is, unfortunately, a long waiting list. Being that there is no known cure for healing kidney failure, patients are dependent upon a transplant for their survival.

The alternative for a kidney transplant is dialysis, a procedure through which a machine performs the function of filtering and cleansing the blood in place of the kidneys.

Dialysis allows the person to continue surviving, but it does not in

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Photo credit Tzvi Simcha Cohen At the recent event in the Five Towns

A donor, his recipient, and their wives meet with emotion

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undergo the operation at the given time. This was the case with Eli Cohen, the original patient whom Mr. Reiner had met in the waiting room and whose predicament had prompted the founding of Renewal. He received a kidney transplant about five years after Renewal’s inception, but at that time he was in a much weaker state and it was difficult to find a period during which he was well enough to have the procedure done. Thank G-d, he was able

to recover enough to receive the new kidney, had a successful transplant, and experienced a full recovery.

The remarkable aspect of a kidney transplant is that it provides complete recovery and truly rectifies the problem. The new kidney begins working just about as soon as it is placed in the recipient’s body – literally, while he is still on the operating table! – and within days the patient experiences complete relief from all previous symptoms. A person can actually walk, or at times, even be wheeled into the hospital as a sick man and, just a few days later, walk out as a completely healthy individual But a transplant requires a kidney donation, and those are hard to come by. In the United States there are approximately 96,000 people waiting for a kidney transplant each year. Sadly, about 5,000-6,000 of them die before a kidney can be found for them. About 19,000 kidney transplants take place in the U.S. each year, mostly from kidneys taken from deceased individuals.

Of the approximately 250 kidney donations that come from live donors, 15%-20% can be accredited to the Jewish community, primarily through the services of Renewal. In 2017, 269 kidney transplants were done where the donors were complete strangers to their recipients; 15% of them were done through Renewal. In 2017, Renewal facilitated 81 transplants, and now, rounding out the year 2018, they are reach-

ing 90 transplants for this year.

MEETINGS OF EMOTION With excellent physical fitness and no previous medical conditions, Navy veteran Hank Goldberg of Northern-Westchester County was diagnosed with kidney disease in 2011. As a truly devoted wife, Vicky Goldberg managed to care for her husband’s condition through a very strict diet, and this helped Hank avoid dialysis for several years.

However, in 2015, it became apparent that Hank would need a kidney transplant in order to survive. The Goldbergs began their transplant journey in Columbia Presbyterian Hospital, but then switched to the James J Peters VA Medical Center, where the transplant medication would be covered through Hank’s health benefits as a U.S. war veteran. It was there that someone informed them of the organization Renewal, which would be able to assist them in their process of searching for a donor.

Through the help of Renewal, Vicky learned to utilize all the media connections available to publicize her husband’s condition and their desperate need for a kidney donation. She sent out hundreds of individualized emails, published articles in community papers, advertised on local TV stations, and even had a videographer prepare a video clip to be posted on YouTube. With Renewal behind her, Mrs. Goldberg left no stone unturned in search of a

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suitable donor. “This will happen!” assured Rivky Gutman from Renewal as she sat across the table from Vicky. “What carries us is our faith,” says Vicky, and it was that faith that Vicky used to forge ahead with her campaign.

In March 2018, a donor was found through Renewal but the journey was not yet over. At the last minute, just the day before the transplant was scheduled to take place, a detail was discovered that disqualified the donor from being able to donate their kidney to Hank.

It was devastating but Renewal continued the search, and just three weeks later a second compatible donor was found for Hank. After enduring just ten months on dialysis, on May 22, 2018, Hank received his transplant – and his new chance at life.

“I have my birthday to celebrate each year,” Hank quips, “and now I have May 22nd as my Continuation of Life Day!” Hank’s donor, Steve Glickman, of Teaneck, NJ, wished initially to remain anonymous, and so Hank had not been privileged to meet him right away. However, by mere “coincidence,” as Hank was waiting for his transplant to begin, his wife, Vicky, was sitting in a waiting room packed with about 150 people.

Chatting with the woman next to her, she realized that it was Marcie Glickman, the wife of her husband’s donor. The two women then spent about ten hours together. After the surgery, Hank realized that if he couldn’t meet his donor, he would at least write him a letter, expressing his overwhelming gratitude.

But the real treat for Hank came on Motzei Shabbos, November 3 when Renewal held a large reception in Congregation Beth Shalom in the Five Towns honoring several kidney donors and raising awareness about kidney disease in the community at large. A week or so before the event, Rabbi Josh Sturm of Renewal called Hank and his wife and invited them to the event, where they’d be privileged to meet Hank’s donor. They were overjoyed. “I just felt pure enthusiasm and joy in being able to meet my donor,” Hank explained.

Renewal sent a driver to bring them

to the Five Towns, and the two of them basked in the warmth of an evening of giving.

During the event, Hank and his wife were called up to the podium, and when Steve Glickman was called up to receive a gift, he and Hank fell into an embrace.

“I just gained another brother,” Hank cried.

During that week, Hank actually sat down and penned the letter he had always wanted to give his anonymous donor. At the event, he handed the letter to Steve – in person.

Later on that evening, Steve and Hank and their wives exchanged contact information; the two families, bound by an eternal gift, vowed to keep in touch.

During that evening, Hank was asked to deliver an impromptu speech to inspire the audience. He publicly thanked Steve and Renewal for the life that had been given to him. Speaking straight from the heart, Hank had the audience both laughing in good humor and moved to tears as he recounted his miraculous gift of life.

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A LITTLE PAIN; ENDLESS GAIN Ari and Gitty Klein both donated kidneys this year, and they can say they’ve truly experienced what it’s like to actually give life to another person. Ari, a member of the famous Klein’s Ice Cream family, says the credit is really due to his wife.

“She always felt it was her calling and she really wanted to be able to do this mitzvah. We talked about it years ago, but we pushed it off when our children were young,” he says.

Now, with three of their six children married, and two grandchildren as well, Gitty decided it was time to share life with someone else. She and her husband watched a video clip of a Renewal event where donors and recipients got to meet each other for the first time. They also had the opportunity to hear firsthand remarks from a daughter of a young mother in need of a kidney. Ari and Gitty were both quite moved. “When you have an inspiration to do something good, you have to act on it right away,” Gitty declared. And with that passionate

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determination, Mrs. Klein contacted Renewal and asked them to match her up with a suitable recipient.

Blood tests and various other medical examinations were conducted and a candidate whose blood composition was compatible with Gitty’s was found in the Renewal database. Around five months ago, Gitty underwent the operation extracting a healthy kidney from within her

and transferring it to an ailing patient in desperate need of one. The patient receiving Mrs. Klein’s kidney was an older woman from Staten Island. Mrs. Klein still has not met her recipient, as the woman is older and has not been feeling well enough for such a visit. Her family, however, has come over to see Gitty and thank her for the life she has provided for their loved one. As for

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Gitty herself, while she reports that there is some pain experienced after undergoing the operation, “the positive feeling of doing a mitzvah outweighs the pain.” The post-operation discomfort passes after a short period, she says, and Gitty is completely back to herself in every way.

In fact, she is currently training to run in Renewal’s annual marathon in January, held in Miami, FL. The purpose of the marathon is to raise funds for the organization, as well as to increase public awareness of the need for kidney donations and the ability which every healthy person has to give life to another.

Inspired and encouraged by his wife’s passion and the altruism of her actions, Ari Klein made the decision that he, too, would donate his kidney to help save a life. He contacted Renewal, intending to donate his kidney specifically to be used by a family member of his who needed one. Although the woman he had in mind was not medically compatible

with him, an exchange was arranged in which his kidney would go to another patient whom he was a match for and his family member would, in turn, be bumped up on the waiting list to receive a kidney earlier than she otherwise would have.

Ari’s operation took place in August, and his relative received her transplant at the end of October. Ari met his recipient, Isaac Winehouse, from Brooklyn, on erev Rosh Hashana. At the time, Isaac presented a gift to Ari in gratitude for the life-giving gift Ari gave to him. Because of Ari’s kidney, Isaac’s health is completely restored. He recently took a trip to Israel, and he and his family are planning a seudas hoda’ah to celebrate his renewed health.

Ari feels very passionate about what he has done. He urges others to get themselves tested and to try to donate as well. Already three friends of his have signed up, one of whom is scheduled to donate with-

in the month. While it may not be so easy or convenient to give one of your organs to someone else, this is something that is very possible to do.

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all be willing to do it? This really isn’t any different. A small chunk of time is a small thing to give when you’re giving life to someone else.”

Mrs. Klein points out, “It’s not

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“My inconvenience for two weeks can save a life!” Ari marvels. “If we could suffer for two weeks but know that our two weeks of pain would be saving a cancer patient, wouldn’t we

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What Would You Do If… Moderated by Jennifer Mann, LCSW of The Navidaters

Dear Navidaters,

Our mother got divorced three years ago. It wasn’t her idea and she was devastated when our father announced that he was leaving her. She became very sad (maybe depressed) and spent many evenings crying in bed.

About a year ago, she decided she wanted to get married – suddenly, it seemed desperately – and started going on a few dates. About six months ago, she started dating Marty. From the first time that my siblings and I met him, we didn’t like him. Something about him didn’t seem right.

We did a little digging and heard some less than wonderful things about him.

We also don’t like the way he speaks to our mother. But our mother is so desperate to remarry that she puts up with everything. His bossiness, the rude way he’ll speak to us, his demands, etc. They just recently started talking about marriage, and we’re all horrified and petrified. We know Marty is not a good man, but our mother really has blinders on right now and all she can see is the possibility of being married once again, rather than the poor choice she is making.

When we try to discuss our fears with her, her response is that there aren’t too many great men out there and that everyone has to compromise. Sure, that’s true, but to what extent? We’re afraid Marty could wind up being abusive to her. He seems to have that tendency from the way he talks and acts.

We’re very worried about our mother. As children (though we are all grown, married children with children of our own), what can we do to protect our mother and put a stop to this relationship that we believe will end very badly?

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The Panel The Rebbetzin Rebbetzin Faigie Horowitz, M.S. ongratulations for responding as a team and for picking up on several red flags. Your concerns are about your mother and her chance at happiness, not about you children.

Good for you! That takes maturity.

You recognize her vulnerability and how her insecurities are playing out with Marty. You have already taken the next step of discussing your fears with her and are not getting through. I would recommend a three part approach: 1. Get your information together. Get together a list of names and phone numbers of his neighbors, congregants, and friends of his first spouse, associates, rabbis, business

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associates and all those who know him for what he is.

2. Get your stakeholders together and decide on who will communicate your concerns and give the list to them. In other words, after deciding on which of you will reach out to her siblings, very close friends, rabbi, etc., communicate your love as well as your worries and give them the list.

These are the people your mother confides in. This way they can check him out for themselves and take action if they choose to.

3. Sit down with her as a group; this family meeting itself will communicate seriousness. But prepare beforehand. Decide on who the spokesperson will be. Make sure that s/he uses the sandwich method and starts out with articulating love and caring and ends with the articulation of love and caring. Identify your

role – children who care. Reinforce that it’s her decision but you all have concerns. In the middle, briefly communicate the depth of your concerns and give over the list of names and numbers. You may want to roleplay this if you think you need it. Stick to your script and end with it.

This is about all you can do. You cannot threaten, you cannot force.

She is an adult and has her own choices to make. The decision is ultimately hers and you need to respect that.

The Mother Sarah Schwartz Schreiber, P.A. esperation. If necessity is the mother of invention, desperation is the father of disaster. (Did I just make that up?)

In my mind’s eye, I visualize a tug of war: Your mom desperately wanting to marry Marty; you kids desperately trying to break up the relationship. And the outcome…not pretty for either side.

Allow me to backtrack three years, when your mother was suddenly confronted with the startling news of your father’s departure. Not to blame the victim, but did she not see it coming? Was she partner in an abusive relationship with Dad? Did she enable him to do his own thing, make his own selfish decisions and treat Mom as a doormat?

From your letter it seems your mother needs help – not in finding a guy – but in recovery from the devastation and ego pummeling of an unhappy marriage. She needs therapy and emotional insight to feel confident about her value as a person and to appreciate her own strengths, whether she’s single or married. No, Mom, there may not be too many great men out there, but you don’t have to compromise this time around.

Fall in love with yourself and you’re more likely to attract a loving, caring soul mate.

And while your mother works on

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Fall in love with yourself and you’re more likely to attract a loving, caring soulmate.

healing her bruised ego, you children must rally around her; envelop her with kindness, positivity and support.

Do your best to dispel the loneliness that compels her to wear blinders and make desperate, disastrous choices.

The Shadchan Michelle Mond his is a terrible predicament, and I am so sorry that you and your siblings are going through this. To see your beloved mother walk into a clearly abusive marriage due to her desperation must be so painful.

The only thing I can say for almost certain is that it seems that your mother is desperate for love and attention from somewhere. She has understandably gone through a personal tragedy and it does not seem as if she has properly coped emotionally.

She feels alone to the point of putting up with a man who treats her poorly, just to have companionship.

I advise you and your siblings to do whatever you can to be her companions. Take her under your wings, just as she took you under hers when you were growing up. Think back to when you were learning to walk and consequently fell on the concrete, scraped your knee, and ended up crying. If you have children of your own, you will know that even more than the actual Band-Aid or bacitracin ointment, you need that hug/kiss and emotional support to get back up

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and start walking again.

Your mother was there for you years ago and she needs her children now. She needs you there to help her learn how loved and cherished she is as a person, despite being unmarried. If she felt self-confident and had properly coped with the divorce through therapy, she would not be in this state of desperation.

You and your siblings should find ways to make your mother feel loved, involved, and important. Encourage her to take on hobbies that she is good at and will make her feel useful.

Most importantly, encourage her to find a great therapist to work with before she makes any decisions mov-

ing forward. Perhaps leave Marty out of the equation when encouraging her to find a therapist because that might make her resist. Encourage her to see a therapist (and perhaps a psychiatrist as well to manage her depression) to help her work through things before making any decisions about her future.

Hatzlacha raba!

The Single Tova Wein his is a sad story that we’ve all heard so often. Women go-

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ing from bad to worse out of desperation. Yes, it’s not easy being divorced.

Married women don’t really comprehend what it feels like to be the divorced woman, the odd (wo)man out, the single one at the Shabbos table, the lone soldier walking into a simcha. It plays on people’s emotions and can lead to desperation. To some women, it feels as though anything has got to be better than this.

I have to wonder whether your mother sought out therapy after your father left her, and if not, whether there is any chance you children can hint/encourage/demand that she do some meaningful work on herself now before she leaps into another marriage that sounds doomed from the get-go.

That would be her best bet.

But aside from that, you kids have already expressed to your mother your concerns about Mar-

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ty and it doesn’t sound as though anything you’ve said has penetrated and managed to shift her desire to marry him. Therefore, assuming that she doesn’t discover some mind-blowing truths in therapy in the near future, your mother is going to do what she feels compelled to do. And should that happen, be prepared to be there for her, support her, refrain from the tempting “I told you so’s,” and just stand by her side. She most likely will be needing that more than ever!

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really feel for you and your siblings. Watching your mom willingly walk into what sounds like a destructive, if not abusive, relationship has to be painstakingly sad and frustrating. How little your mother must think of herself to tolerate his barrage of criticism and demands. How diminished her self-esteem must be to watch Marty speak rudely to her children and be a willing bystander. You don’t mention anything about your mother’s marriage to your father, but if any of this feels familiar, then this is a pattern with very deep roots that would require a tremendous amount of therapy and self-reflection to begin to unravel, should your mother choose. On the opposite end of the spectrum, if your mother is behaving completely out of character, there may be some undiagnosed mental illness or even a medical condition that may explain this behavior. If you could somehow get your mom to agree to see a doctor to rule this out, that would be terrific.

It boils down to a few options.

The first option is to stage somewhat of an intervention. You and your siblings a nd spouses (depending on the relationship) can invite your mother over.

Sometimes, there’s something about gathering with an intention that can feel more serious or important.

Shower her with love and admiration and tell her how much she means to you and how concerned you are. If you haven’t done so already, I would go for her soft spot…her grandchildren. Ask her how she would feel if Marty badgered, demeaned or criticized her precious grandchildren.

Mom has to understand that Marty’s behavior will not be tolerated or allowed anywhere near your children.

All the siblings must stand firm on this. If Marty’s behavior is as bad as you depict, this should be a very firm boundary. Maybe when Mom understands that her relationship with her grandchildren will be compromised

– not to punish her but to protect her grandchildren – she will have a change of heart.

If this doesn’t get through to her, your mother’s problems are much deeper than you realize. Should your mother choose to willingly expose children to Marty’s toxicity and her docility would tell a very serious story.

If your mother decides to continue seeing Marty, you get to decide how you allow your mother into your life.

You can meet with her and Marty at a restaurant, without the kids. Mom can come over to your home without Marty. You can visit Mom and Marty at their home, without the kids, if you’d like. You can arrange for visits with Mom and her grandchildren, either at your home or at the park.

Should Mom marry Marty, she will find herself juggling two separate worlds that never collide. Make sure you express this clearly and do not back down. I think the grandchildren are the greatest leverage and shot you may have at derailing this disastrous relationship.

If none of this works, well, most

of us at some point in time find ourselves begging a loved one to get help.

It isn’t beneath the best of us. It’s a testament to our love. So beg away.

But after the begging is over, get up off the floor, brush off your knees, and work diligently to let it go. Pray that your mother sees the light, keep her close to your heart, and focus on all the healthy relationships in your life.

Again, my heart truly goes out to you.

Wishing you and your family all the best. I’ll be rooting for all of you!

All the best, Jennifer Esther Mann, LCSW and Jennifer Mann, LCSW are licensed psychotherapists and dating and relationship coaches working with individuals, couples and families in private practice in Hewlett, NY. To set up a consultation or to ask questions, please call 516.224.7779. Press 1 for Esther, 2 for Jennifer. Visit www.thenavidaters.com for more information. If you would like to submit a dating or relationship question to the panel anonymously, please email thenavidaters@gmail.com. You can follow The Navidaters on FB and Instagram for dating and relationship advice.

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OK, People do Change but Not the Person I’m Married To

By Deb Hirschhorn, Ph.D.

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here’s been an argument going on in the quiet of the room I sit in with people. Someone, wea-

ry from a difficult relationship, tells me that people do not change. I then ask them if they’ve changed. I ask if they’re

the same person they were in high school or college. They think I’m funny (which I try to be sometimes) and say, “Oh, of course not.” But then they come right back with, “But my husband/wife is different. He/she will not change.”

Why would someone say that? Why would they be so dead-set against seeing that the person they were married to could change?

Or another way of putting it is: why do they need to imprison their spouse in a jail of their own creation, lock them there, and throw away the key?

Here’s my theory: research says that we make decisions and then we come up with reasons for them! That’s called rationalization.

That means we don’t really think things through in the first place. We act on impulse. We allow our emotions to rule us. So when they decide that their partner can’t change, they’ve come to that conclusion emotionally and then they need to justify it.

Wouldn’t that be frustrating for the partner who “can’t change”? It is not fun to be thought badly of. To have someone who loves us assess not only who we are but who we will forever be?

That is maddening.

You can’t argue your way out of it – because it was never a rational thought in the first place. So there’s no logical argument that can apply.

Frustrating. Maddening.

And painful.

It hurts for your partner to no longer believe in you. It steals your possibilities away. Basically, it says that you are a robot that cannot escape your programming. As if you didn’t have free choice.

So why did they convince themselves in the first place that that was who you are? What’s the motivation to not believe in another person? The explanation that a spouse would give who is frustrated with not being heard is that they’ve told you to change and that you didn’t. That’s their answer. In fact, they claim, as they’re speaking to me, that they told their spouse “very clearly” “hundreds of times” that they wanted certain things changed – and those things didn’t happen.

The spouse – the one who won’t change – may be surprised to hear that. “They did not tell me to change. I don’t know where they get that from,” they say. There’s the rub. Was it that the unchanging spouse didn’t hear them or was it that the one who claims they repeatedly – and clearly – asked didn’t know how to communicate?

It could be both.

When I work with couples I generally find it’s both. One person will tell me that she or he repeatedly told their spouse what was bothering them, and I believe them. I believe they did. But somehow it did not register.

How does this go wrong?

I find when I’m writing an article, it works best if I write it the day before it’s due. The next day, I read it over and I go, “Huh? What was I saying over here?” At the time, it seemed to make sense, but a day later, it turns out that it wasn’t so clear after all.

Experts in public speaking also know that when a person speaks, their clarity is more on the muddy side compared to polished, written speech.

Most likely this occurs because we have the context of our point in our minds so we think it’s clear when we speak but we don’t realize that to the listener a lot of that context is missing.

Sometimes people want to make up for this by over-explaining themselves – and the result can be utter confusion!

We get lost hearing so many words.

And if that’s the problem with the speaker, it’s not much better on the listener side. People who got scolded or nagged as kids learn to tune others out. They do an amazing job of it! So, of course, they don’t know what their

spouse was trying to say.

And from this rather huge obstacle – not being completely clear and not listening well – we then accuse our spouse of not wanting to change!

And then let’s talk about delivery method. Clarity aside, frustrated spouses can start to act as frustrated as they feel when delivering their mes-

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two-hundred ninety-nine times. Am I not entitled to finally get frustrated?”

Of course, the answer is that entitlement has nothing to do with it and getting frustrated is not helpful. The real question is: what will work to get the two of you out of this vicious cycle?

Clients in my program learn to listen and “hear between the lines.” And

What will work to get the two of you out of this vicious cycle?

sage for the three-hundredth time.

But on the receiving end, who wants to hear that? The guy (or gal) is thinking, “Good thing I tuned that out!”

But the speaker will be justified in saying, “I was very nice about it the first

ask questions. And be brave enough to bring up tough subjects in a way that the other person can be okay with.

They learn how to deliver their requests in ways that go beyond “nicely” so that they get listened to.

And then you can enjoy watching your partner’s jaw dropping open in surprise as they see that you really did change.

Now, I will add one important piece: there are people who state for the record that they won’t change. They won’t learn; they won’t listen to what an outsider has to say. And they won’t do anything different. They are “fine” as they are – even if that “fine” state is tormenting the person they’re married to. So, yes, there is a group of people that really will not change.

I believe this is a small subset of people. The rest of the non-changers need a chance. They need to know that someone can help them, someone coming from a different perspective who can help them hear better and help their partner express what they want more effectively.

Dr. Deb Hirschhorn is a Marriage and Family Therapist. She can be reached at 646-54-DRDEB or by writing drdeb@ drdeb.com.

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Your Guide to Shabbos Eating: Kiddush

By Cindy Weinberger MS, RD, CDN

W

e commence the Shabbos meal with the formality of making kiddush. Since kiddush is such a holy affair, it’s only befitting to use the most respected, upscale beverage, wine.

Wine is made from red, black, or white grapes. Wine is an elegant drink and comes in many styles and varieties. The most popular wine is cabernet sauvignon. Within cabernet sauvignon, there are more subcategories: Merlot, Cabernet Franc, Carménère, Bordeaux Blend, and Sangiovese. Cabernet sauvignons pair well with meats and cheeses – not together, of course! Other types of wines include Syrah, zinfandel, pinot noir, chardonnay, sauvignon blanc, pinot gris, and Riesling.

Aside from the obligation to drink wine for kiddush, the elegancy, and the delicious taste, red wine (made from red or black grapes) is also very good for you. Red wine contains antioxidants that may help prevent heart disease. Resveratrol is a key ingredient in red wine that is thought to prevent damage to red blood vessels by reducing the “bad” cholesterol and preventing blood clots, thus protecting the heart. Resveratrol is also

high in omega-3 fatty acids, which are believed to protect against heart disease. This may be the only thing that you consume on Shabbos that is actually heart healthy! Resveratrol has also been shown to improve insulin sensitivity which may help diabetics.

However, making kiddush on wine is not feasible for everyone. For those who do not want alcohol, like wine, or cannot drink alcohol, or for those who simply want something cheaper, grape juice is a suitable option for kiddush too. And you’re in luck. The latest studies show that grape juice offers the same benefits that wine does. The reason is that the base of the beverage is the same.

Wine and grape juice are both made from grapes, and grapes are rich in resveratrol and flavonoids. The same antioxidants are found in grape juice and offer the same heart healthy benefits. These benefits include reducing the risk of blood clots, lowering LDL cholesterol, helping maintain a health blood pressure, and preventing damage to the heart. In fact, grape juice might be an even better option than wine if drinking wine solely for its well-known benefits. The reason being is that alcohol generates free rad-

icals that can actually cause damage to blood vessel tissues, counteracting the benefits that red wine’s antioxidants may offer. Even better news: the antioxidants in grape juice appear to remain in the body longer than do those found in wine. The alcohol in wine hastens the breakdown of the antioxidants in the blood, speeding its elimination from the body. At this point it sounds like grape juice might be better than wine. However, alcohol does one thing that grape juice does not do. Aside from lowering the LDL (bad cholesterol), alcohol also raises the HDL (good) levels. Wine and grape juice each have their pros and cons.

So the bottom line is, which is better to use for kiddush: wine or grape juice? Since most studies show that grape juice offers the same benefits as red wine, they sound equally healthy.

Some researchers feel that since the skin of the grape is removed when making grape juice, it’s lacking some of the antioxidants and thus some of the health benefits that red wine has to offer. Since kiddush is technically only one cup, it pretty much comes down to preference. A glass of red wine a day goes a long way. And, being that a cup of grape juice has

more sugar, calories, fat, and carbohydrates than a cup of wine, for those who don’t have a problem drinking alcohol, red wine is recommended for kiddush. But for those who don’t want the alcohol, grape juice is almost just as good. Even though grape juice is higher in calories and sugar than wine, it is only one cup, and is usually divided among those at the table.

So don’t worry too much; kiddush is not the main source of calories on Shabbos. The wine vs. grape juice for kiddush debate won’t make or break the diet. The more challenging parts of the Shabbos meal are coming up.

Keep reading the Shabbos health series to learn how to make smart and healthy choices at your Shabbos meals.

Cindy Weinberger MS, RD, CDN, is a Master’s level Registered Dietitian and Certified Dietitian-Nutritionist. She graduated CUNY Brooklyn College receiving a Bachelor’s in Science and Master’s degree in Nutrition and Food Sciences. She is currently a dietitian at Boro Park Center and a private nutrition consultant. She can be reached at CindyWeinberger1@gmail.com.

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Harissa Carrots Pareve • Yields 6 servings

By Naomi Nachman

One of my favorite outings is going to the farmers markets to see all the different varieties of vegetables that aren’t available in the supermarket. When I saw carrots in a multicolored bunch, I bought them right away, knowing how beautiful my recipe will look.

Ingredients

Harissa Dressing

1 tsp cumin ½ tsp cinnamon ½ tsp paprika 2 TBS olive oil 1 tsp salt 1 pound rainbow carrots, sliced in half lengthwise

4 TBS tahini paste 1 TBS harissa 1 tsp silan (date honey) 1 TBS fresh lemon juice 1 tsp kosher salt 2 TBS water

Preparation Preheat oven to 400°F. Line 2 baking sheets with parchment paper; set aside.

In a medium bowl, mix together spices, oil, and carrots; toss well to coat carrots. Place carrots on prepared baking sheets. Roast for 20 minutes.

Prepare the harissa dressing: In a small bowl, mix together the dressing ingredients.

Pour dressing over carrots right before serving.

Cook’s Tip: If you don’t have rainbow carrots, this recipe is delicious with any carrot variety.

Recipe shared by Naomi Nachman with permission by ArtScroll. Photo by Miriam Pascal.

Naomi Nachman, the owner of The Aussie Gourmet, caters weekly and Shabbat/ Yom Tov meals for families and individuals within The Five Towns and neighboring communities, with a specialty in Pesach catering. Naomi is a contributing editor to this paper and also produces and hosts her own weekly radio show on the Nachum Segal Network stream called “A Table for Two with Naomi Nachman.” Naomi gives cooking presentations for organizations and private groups throughout the New York/New Jersey Metropolitan area. In addition, Naomi has been a guest host on the QVC TV network and has been featured in cookbooks, magazines as well as other media covering topics related to cuisine preparation and personal chefs. To obtain additional recipes, join The Aussie Gourmet on Facebook or visit Naomi’s blog. Naomi can be reached through her website, www.theaussiegourmet.com or at (516) 295-9669.

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Notable Quotes “Say What?!”

Tucker Carlson, we will fight, we know where you sleep at night.

- Chant by a group of left-wing Antifa mob members who descended on Fox News host Tucker Carlson’s house and broke down his front door while using a bullhorn to threaten to harm his wife, who was home alone

I think the idea behind terrorizing his family, like it or not as a strategy, is to make them feel some of the fear that the victims of MAGA-inspired violence feel thanks to the nonstop racial incitement coming from Tucker, Trump, etc.

– Matthew Yglesias, co-founder of left-wing website Vox.com, defending the Antifa mob

We have to protect ourselves with respect to China, Russia and even the United States of America… We will not protect the Europeans unless we decide to have a true European army.

Some people love to wear the banner of diversity and inclusion, but they only support diversity for people who agree with them.

- Famed First Amendment lawyer Harvey Silverglate, calling out the hypocrisy of the Antifa mobsters

- French President Emmanuel Macron, on French radio

President Macron of France has just suggested that Europe build its own military in order to protect itself from the U.S., China and Russia. Very insulting, but perhaps Europe should first pay its fair share of NATO, which the U.S. subsidizes greatly!

- President Trump’s tweet in response, sent as he was landing in France for the World War I Armistice Day celebration

I drank too much because the Jets [stink]!

- Excuse given by Christopher Greyshock, 57, when he was pulled over for drunk driving on the way back from last week’s Jets game, which they lost 41-10

I want to hear Hillary Clinton condemn this — I want to hear Barack Obama condemn this.

- Harvard Law Professor Emeritus Alan Dershowitz talking about the Antifa mob

President Trump’s First 3 Children Received Birthright Citizenship.

- False AP headline after President Trump announced that he wants to end the practice which automatically grants citizenship to any baby born within the U.S., even if neither parent is legally in the United States

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Nowadays, in Europe and in the United States, we are free people – we can make our own decisions if we want to change our name, or if we want to change [other things]. So I want to change my age. My feeling about my body and about my mind is that I’m about 40 or 45.

- Emile Ratelband, age 69, of Amsterdam, who asked a court to change his birth certificate so that it says that he was born in 1969 rather than 1949, explaining to the Washington Post why his petition should be granted

As governor, I’m in charge of the antiBDS list, so when there are boycotts of Israel, I can unilaterally put these companies on Florida’s list so that they can’t do business with the State of Florida. And I’ll be very aggressive in doing that, and I think that that will help combat BDS. - Gov.-elect Ron DeSantis, in an interview with Israel Hayom, the day after winning Florida’s governor’s race

Speaking for my brothers, let me say upfront that we’re not four heroes. The real heroes are those that gave their lives during the war ... We’re just four guys that outlived everybody else. And we were just part of the unified national effort to take three dictators out and put the world back in shape again. So, we’re not heroes.

- Rufus Dalton , 94, of North Carolina, talking about his and his three brothers’ (ages 91, 96 and 97) service during World War II

Yesterday Chicago Bears kicker Cody Parky hit the field goal post four different times in the same game. In his defense, that’s actually way harder to do than you think... Then after the game it took him four tries to get through the locker room door.

– Jimmy Fallon

As-salam alaikum!

- Minnesota Democrat Rep.-elect Ilhan Omar, who was the first Muslim to be elected to Congress, starting off her victory speech last Tuesday night

Say hello to Shinzo. I’m sure he’s happy about tariffs on his cars.

- President Trump to a Japanese reporter, referring to Japanese Prime Minister Shinzo Abe

I’ll tell you what: CNN should be ashamed of itself having you working for them. You are a rude, terrible person. You shouldn’t be working for CNN… You’re a very rude person.

The way you treat Sarah Huckabee is horrible. And the way you treat other people are horrible. You shouldn’t treat people that way.

– President Trump to CNN’s Jim Acosta, at a press conference last week, after the reporter refused to hand over the microphone to a female White House intern and pushed her hand away

President Trump believes in a free press and expects and welcomes tough questions of him and his Administration.

We will, however, never tolerate a reporter placing his hands on a young woman just trying to do her job as a White House intern.

- Statement by White House Press Secretary Sarah Huckabee Sanders, announcing Jim Acosta’s suspension from the White House press pool

What I saw was battery. Not by Jim Acosta but by the young White House aide. When you are holding something … and you snatch this from me, this cup is now an extension of me. And that means you’ve battered me. You’ve assaulted me.

- “The View’s” Sunny Hostin arguing that by trying to take a microphone from Jim Acosta, the White House intern committed battery and that Acosta did nothing wrong when he pushed her hand away

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A teenager just set a world record by solving three Rubik’s cube at the same time. Afterwards he went out to celebrate with his friends – those three Rubik’s cubes.

– Jimmy Fallon

True to her name, Mrs. Clinton will fight this out until the last dog dies.

She won’t let a little thing like two stunning defeats stand in the way of her claim to the White House.

- Mark Penn, a former adviser to the Clintons, in the Wall Street Journal

A restaurant in Chicago is serving a spaghetti dish with pasta topped with maple syrup, pop tarts and candy, which in Chicago they call “a salad.”

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CNN stopped doing news a long time ago – they do Trump.

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Patriotism is the exact opposite of nationalism: nationalism is treason.

– French President Macron during an Armistice Day centennial observance in Paris, rebuking President Trump for standing up for the U.S.

Over the weekend a city in Nevada broke the world record by making a 5,000 pound serving of nachos. It was fun until a guy tried to grab one chip and dragged all 5,000 pounds onto his plate.

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Political Crossfire

The Kavanaugh Debacle Cost the Democrats the Senate

By Marc A. Thiessen

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rett Kavanaugh must have been smiling as the returns came in on Election Day, because it is now clear that the Democrats’ campaign to destroy him will go down as a massive blunder.

It failed to keep Kavanaugh off the court. It cost Democrats their chance to regain control of the Senate. And it gave Republicans an expanded Senate majority that will allow them to confirm an even more conservative justice next time around.

Today, Kavanaugh sits on the Supreme Court hearing cases. Meanwhile, Democratic Sens. Heidi Heitkamp, N.D., Joe Donnelly, Ind., and Claire McCaskill, Mo., are packing up their Senate offices – thrown out by voters furious over their party’s brutal campaign of character assassination against Kavanaugh. Sen. Joe Manchin, W.Va., was the only Democrat who voted for Kavanaugh, and he survived – but just barely. Two weeks before Election Day, Manchin was leading by double digits, but on Tuesday night he won by just over three points. Had he voted against Kavanaugh’s confirmation, he would likely have been toast as well.

The Democrats’ smear campaign also cost them the chance to pick up GOP seats. In Tennessee, Rep. Marsha Blackburn was trailing former Democratic governor Phil Bredesen by five points in a CNN poll before the Kavanaugh hearings. She ended up winning by just under 11 points,

as the Democrats’ mistreatment of Kavanaugh united Tennessee Republicans behind her. The Kavanaugh smear no doubt also played a role in energizing GOP voters in Arizona, where Republican Rep. Martha McSally appears to have squeezed out a narrow victory, and in Texas, where Sen. Ted Cruz defeated Rep. Beto O’Rourke by just 2.6 points in one of the reddest states in the union.

None of that might have been possible had it not been for the Dem-

he didn’t do it and by Democrats’ blatant disregard for the presumption of innocence. They were energized by Kavanaugh’s willingness to fight back and declare his treatment by Democrats a “national disgrace.” And they punished the perpetrators of that disgrace at the polls on Tuesday.

Now Republicans have not only an expanded Senate majority but also a pro-life majority. Reports indicated that Trump was close to nominating Judge Amy Coney Bar-

The lesson for Democrats should be clear: character assassination does not pay.

ocrats’ horrific treatment of Kavanaugh. As Senate Majority Leader Mitch McConnell put it, the failed effort to stop Kavanaugh was “like an adrenaline shot” for the GOP base.

Republican voters were outraged to see a good man accused, without a shred of corroboration, of … assaulting a teenage girl, exposing himself to a college classmate and participating in gang [assaults] in high school. They were disgusted by Senate Democrats’ insistence that the burden was on Kavanaugh to prove

rett, a devout Catholic and mother of seven, to replace retiring Justice Anthony Kennedy. Barrett became a folk hero among religious conservatives after Diane Feinstein, Calif., ranking Democrat on the Senate Judiciary Committee, grilled her over her Catholic faith during her confirmation hearings as a judge on the U.S. Court of Appeals for the 7th Circuit last year. “The dogma lives loudly within you,” Feinstein told Barrett, suggesting that her faith disqualified her. That outraged con-

servatives, who rightly castigated Feinstein for applying an unconstitutional religious test on Trump’s nominee. As Harvard Law School professor Noah Feldman explained, Feinstein “insinuated an anti-Catholic stereotype that goes back at least 150 years in the U.S. – that Catholics are unable to separate church and state because they place their religious allegiances before their oath to the Constitution.”

Barrett was confirmed for the Circuit Court. But when it came to the Supreme Court, Trump calculated that with a razor thin-GOP majority he needed what was supposed to be a safer pick and went with Kavanaugh instead. Now, with an expanded, pro-life Senate majority, Trump no longer has to worry about losing a few GOP votes next time around.

At every stage of recent Supreme Court fights, Democrats have miscalculated. Their mindless decision to filibuster Neil Gorsuch paved the way for Senate Republicans to get rid of the filibuster for Supreme Court nominees – which made it possible to confirm Kavanaugh by simple majority. And if Barrett ever makes it onto the Supreme Court, Democrats can thank their horrific, defamatory treatment Kavanaugh.

The lesson for Democrats should be clear: character assassination does not pay. Quite the opposite, it backfired – big-time. (c) 2018, Washington Post Writers Group

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It’s Not the Economy, Stupid!

By Robert J. Samuelson

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ne lesson of the midterm elections is that economic growth is losing its power to unite the country and to reduce explosive conflicts over race, religion, ethnicity, immigrant status and gender. This is unfamiliar. Economic progress has been a routine part of our election narratives. The presumption is that a strong economy favors the incumbent party and a weak economy does the opposite.

We believe prosperity encourages loyalty to the larger promise of America. It reflects Americans’ self-identity. Getting ahead is something everyone can achieve – at least in theory.

By contrast, race, religion, ethnicity and the like speak to a splintered society.

Even a cursory review of presidential campaigns confirms the persistence of economic themes. In 1960, John Kennedy pledged to “get the country moving again.” Lyndon Johnson promised a “great society.” Ronald Reagan blamed Jimmy Carter for a sky-high “misery index” (the sum of inflation and the unemployment rate).

In 1992, James Carville coined the pithy phrase: It’s the economy, stupid.

To be sure, there have been other issues: Vietnam, Watergate, crime and terrorism. But economic themes have always been at the forefront, or just behind. What is intriguing about the 2016 election and the recent midterms is that this relationship appears to be breaking down.

Despite many problems, the economy in 2016 seemed strong enough to put Hillary Clinton in the White House. When voters went to the polls,

the unemployment rate was 4.6 percent, annual inflation was only 1.7 percent, and median household income had increased 5 percent in 2015 from 2014. Nope, not enough.

Similarly – and despite the usual midterm bias against the party of the incumbent president – the economy seemed healthy enough to help the Republicans retain control of the House. Unemployment was lower

cal scientist Samuel Huntington.

People saw their adversaries as threats to their own way of life – and, of course, were often urged to do so.

Trump was proud of his ability to incite partisan crowds; Clinton was not totally blameless either, with her condescending reference to “deplorables.”

Here’s how Sides, Tesler and Vavreck characterize the 2016 cam-

Many Americans are more fearful of what the other party might do rather than enacting their own agenda.

than in 2016 (3.7 percent), inflation was only a tad higher (2.3 percent).

Median income has continued to advance. Nope, not enough.

Maybe it’s no longer the economy, stupid.

In a new book, Identity Crisis: The 2016 Presidential Campaign and the Battle for the Meaning of America, political scientists John Sides of George Washington University, Michael Tesler of the University of California, Irvine, and Lynn Vavreck of the University of California, Los Angeles, argue that the last presidential campaign was a clash of identities, to borrow a phrase from the late politi-

paign: “Trump’s victory ... relied on activating people’s pre-existing views of racial, ethnic, and religious minorities. ... Democrats reacted against Trump’s agenda. Thus, the alignment between partisanship and attitudes about issues like race and immigration only increased, and with it the likelihood of even more divisive politics. The resulting partisan polarization is the linchpin of America’s identity crisis.”

Put slightly differently, we have a vicious circle. The anger on one side of the political spectrum feeds anger on the other. Polarization grows; peo-

ple become more and more distrustful.

Pol i t i c a l s c i e nt i s t s A l a n Abramowitz and Steven Webster of Emory University have coined the useful term “negative partisanship,” by which they seem to mean that many Americans are more fearful of what the other party might do rather than enacting their own agenda.

Public-opinion polls of both parties’ nominees found that “large majorities of Democrats and Republicans truly despised the opposing nominee,” they write.

Fast forward to 2018. The Democrats seem to have done to the Republicans and Trump what the Republicans and Trump did to them in 2016.

Despite the relatively robust economy, House Republicans lost badly; at this writing, Democrats have picked up 33 seats.

Americans have a tendency to think that prosperity, administered in sufficient amounts, can cure almost any social and political problem. The experience of recent elections stands as a reminder that this sort of reasoning is often wishful thinking.

Of course, the economy hasn’t permanently disappeared from political life. Given another recession (which, at some point, is inevitable) or financial crisis, its role would undoubtedly rebound.

But meanwhile, it takes a back seat to today’s hateful partisanship.

The purpose of politics – or, at any rate, one purpose – is to conciliate and to cooperate. On that score, we are in a bad place. (c) 2018, Washington Post Writers Group

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Sailing Stealthily The USS Parche

By Avi Heiligman

USS Parche Memorial at Submarine Base in Pearl Harbor

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ometimes called the silent service, submariners have a lonely existence beneath the ocean’s surface. Many people join the military to satisfy their sense of adventure and choose dangerous jobs that are not meant for the faint of heart. During World War II joining the submarine service was considered high praise for a sailor.

It was an all-volunteer branch of the navy that many men “washed out” trying to join. Fear of tight spaces was not prevalent among these men who had to endure weeks of bad and hot air, old food, boredom, and being chased by enemy sub-killers for each patrol they were sent to complete. Two submarines with the same name from different wars have stood out as having the best crews to fulfill their difficult missions.

With hundreds of submarines coming off the production lines during World War II the U.S. Navy named them after fish. One of the species of the butterfly fish is known

as the Parche (pronounced with two syllables). The USS Parche (SS-384) was a Balao class diesel electric submarine and was commissioned in late 1943. Her first captain was Commander Lawson P. “Red” Ramage who had received the Silver Star for service on the submarine USS Grenadier. His position as that submarine’s navigator resulted in the sinking of two large enemy ships, and his tenacity was the type the navy was looking for in future captains.

Parche embarked on her first war patrol in March 1944 out of Pearl Harbor with two other subs, the USS Bang and the USS Tinosa. This was a tactic used to great effect by the German U-boats and was known as a wolfpack. In hindsight, U.S. submarines were better equipped and trained to hunt for enemy shipping alone but this particular American wolfpack saw considerable success.

At the time, the Tinosa saw a large convoy and relayed the information

to the Parche, who lined up for an attack. She sank at least two ships from the enemy convoy while the wolfpack was credited with a total of five merchant ships sunk. Before returning to base at Midway Island, the Parche took extensive photos of an enemy-held island for intelligence purposes.

Parche went out for her second war patrol in June 1944. This time she coordinated her patrol with two other subs, the USS Steelhead and the USS Hammerhead. A week into the patrol the Parche sank a patrol vessel and on July 4 was the subject of an intense depth charge attack by a Japanese destroyer and a cruiser. In the predawn hours of July 31 (some records have it the day earlier) the Parche penetrated the screen of a heavily armed convoy. Ramage’s citation for the Medal of Honor goes into detail about the daring surface attack: Comdr. Ramage launched a perilous surface attack by deliv-

ering a crippling stern shot into a freighter and quickly following up with a series of bow and stern torpedoes to sink the leading tanker and damage the second one. Exposed by the light of bursting flares and bravely defiant of terrific shellfire passing close overhead, he struck again, sinking a transport by two forward reloads. In the mounting fury of fire from the damaged and sinking tanker, he calmly ordered his men below, remaining on the bridge to fight it out with an enemy now disorganized and confused. Swift to act as a fast transport closed in to ram, Comdr. Ramage daringly swung the stern of the speeding Parche as she crossed the bow of the onrushing ship, clearing by less than 50 feet but placing his submarine in a deadly crossfire from escorts on all sides and with the transport dead ahead.

Undaunted, he sent three

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smashing “down the throat” bow shots to stop the target, then scored a killing hit as a climax to 46 minutes of violent action with the Parche and her valiant fighting company retiring victorious and unscathed.

The transport that the Parche sank was the Yoshino Maru which was originally built for Germany in 1906 and was named the Kleist.

The Parche went back to base and went on four more patrols for the remainder of the war. These patrols netted the Parche six more confirmed kills. For her gallantry in action the Parche received five battle stars and a Presidential Unit Citation. She was decommissioned in 1946 after surviving atomic bomb tests at Bikini Atoll. In 1970 she was sold for scrap but some of her structure and conning survived to be displayed at the submarine museum in Pearl Harbor.

As the original Parche was being taken apart for scrap a new submarine was being built that was to bear the same name. The USS Parche (SSN-683) was laid down in 1970 in Mississippi and commissioned in 1974. She was a Sturgeon class hunter/killer nuclear submarine and served two years as a part of the Atlantic fleet. In 1976 the Parche was transferred to the Pacific fleet and received modifications and soon was

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FDR presenting the Medal of Honor to Lawson P. “Red” Ramage

ready for secret missions.

Most of the secret Cold War submarine missions were classified until the book, Blind Man’s Bluff, was published in 1998. The public had no idea as to the nature of these operations which included spy missions in Soviet waters.

A naval intelligence officer high-

Ivy Bells, the Navy, CIA and NSA gained very valuable information on Soviet secret projects like their nuclear capabilities and submarine activities. This lasted until the mid1980s when it was discovered that a NSA analyst was giving over secret documents to the Russians in exchange for just $5,000.

Called Operation Ivy Bells, the Navy, CIA and NSA gained very valuable information on Soviet secret projects like their nuclear capabilities and submarine activities.

ly suspected that the Russians were using underwater cables as secure communications between bases. An American sub was sent to find the needle in the haystack and locate the cables on the ocean floor. A telltale shore sign telling fisherman to stay away from a particular area gave away the general location, and soon the Americans were sending submarines to place listening devices on these cables. The Parche went on several of these very high risk missions and placed and replaced wiretaps on the cables. Called Operation

The Parche was also on scene to recover fragments of Soviet anti-shipping rockets that settled on the ocean floor following testing. In 1987 she went for an overhaul that lasted four years. One-hundred-feet was added to her hull to support more equipment and crewmembers. Reports came out that in the mid-1990s the Parche was possibly involved in recovering Chinese missile fragments. If these reports are correct the U.S. gleaned valuable information on Chinese capabilities.

Many of the Parche’s missions

are still classified but some information has become public. In the future many more of her missions will become public knowledge.

She was decommissioned in 2005 and was scrapped a year later.

Parche (SSN-683) became the most decorated ship in American history and never fired a shot in anger.

She received nine Presidential Unit Citations, ten Navy Unit Commendations, and thirteen Navy Expeditionary Medals during her thirty years of service.

Both of these submarines played a critical role in their respective wars.

Attacking enemy shipping was key to stopping the Japanese during World War II, and the Parche did a fine job in sinking several ships. Intelligence was paramount during the Cold War and through the Parche’s wiretapping missions the U.S. learned that the Soviets were just as fearful of American submarines as the Americans were afraid of theirs. The legacy that both submarines left was that they served their country faithfully in the most daring circumstances.

Avi Heiligman is a weekly contributor to The Jewish Home. He welcomes your comments and suggestions for future columns and can be reached at aviheiligman@gmail.com.

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Hey, Jealousy

By Allan Rolnick, CPA

R

eality television has introduced us all to the joy of the “big reveal.” HGTV specializes in this sort of story. The perky couple, handsome brothers, or plucky firsttime homeowners spend most of an episode covered in plaster dust and paint. Then after the final commercial break, they pull back the curtain on the dream interior so viewers can feel inadequate about their own homes.

In Finland, tucked between the Baltic Sea and the Arctic Circle, they do things a little differently. For starters, they love reindeer sausage! They play host every year to the World Wife-Carrying Championship, where whoever crosses the Finnish line first takes home his wife’s weight in beer.

But on a more sober note, the Finns have decided to discourage the sort of income inequality that’s growing across the world. So, in the interest of transparency, they publish everyone’s income tax returns!

The Finnish Tax Administration schedules their big reveal for 8:00 AM on November 1. The New York Times calls it “National Jealousy Day,” which seems appropriate, and Finnish newspapers assign up to half of their staff to covering the event.

This year, taxpayers reported earn-

ing a total of €140 billion and paying €46.8 billion in tax, making Finland one of the highest-taxed countries in the world. But of course the real fun lies in snooping through the individual returns: your bosses, your neighbors, and your friends and family.

Back in 2013, a pair of video game developers named Ilkka Paananen

Two years later, one reporter discovered that several executives had relocated to Portugal to avoid tax on their pensions. It’s hard to blame them for wanting someplace warmer, of course, even if it means leaving the reindeer sausage behind. But the story caused such an uproar that Finland rewrote its tax treaty with Portugal to

They looked up his income right on the spot, and issued a ticket for roughly $62,000!

and Miko Kodisoja set the record for the highest capital gains. That’s the year they sold 51% of their company Supercell, which makes games for mobile phones. The $62 million they paid on the gains from that sale boosted the entire country’s capital gain total by 20%. And they became folk heroes for not taking advantage of any planning strategies to pay less.

close that particular loophole.

Last year, Supercell’s Paananen and Kodisoja took home the gold and silver at €65.2 million and €57.5 million, respectively. (That sounds even better than winning your wife’s weight in beer, right?) Aleksander Hanhikoski, founder of a real-time payments company, picked up the bronze with €24.6 million. Three

more Supercell execs helped round out the top ten. There were 12 women among the top 100, with Ulla Riitta Sjöström ringing the bell at number 28 after selling her family’s civilian shelter equipment business.

Revealing everyone’s income isn’t the only way Finns use tax returns.

If you get caught speeding, your fine is based on your income. In 2015, the polissi clocked hotelier Reima Kuisla doing 64 in a 50-mph zone.

They looked up his income right on the spot, and issued a ticket for roughly $62,000! (Kuisla’s car probably has the latest charcoal scrubber system to filter out the smell of poverty, but that $62,000 still had to stink!)

What do you think would happen if our IRS revealed everyone’s income? Would you be willing to pay more tax to impress your neighbors?

We would think not. So make sure you have a plan so you can fly under the radar. We bet you’ll have so much to save you won’t ever have to eat reindeer sausage.

Allan J Rolnick is a CPA who has been in practice for over 30 years in Queens, NY. He welcomes your comments and can be reached at 718-896-8715 or at allanjrcpa@aol.com.

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Rushing...For What?

By Rivki D. Rosenwald Esq., MFT, CLC

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et’s talk about being in a rush.

That ever happen to you? You are racing down the street and suddenly somebody stops and realizes they need to make a left turn, keeps you waiting for what feels like 10 minutes. Sounds familiar?

Oh, here’s one I love. A railroad crossing. The red lights start flashing and then those ominous bars come down. There’s no escaping it. You are sitting there till that train decides to chug, chug, chug by. And sometimes, to add insult to injury, there is a train coming in the other direction as well.

Those are just a few of the traffic obstacles that can slow you down.

Am I speaking your language or am I the only one this ever happens to?

What about when you are rushing for an event or special occasion

and suddenly you can’t seem to find that new pair of shoes that was on the shelf a minute ago?

Does this one speak to any of you?

You’re about to run out the door for

rushing? Are we just running late or taking on too much?

Imagine the old days on the farm, they were probably running around too. Maybe the cows would be burst-

You’ll get there...when you’re supposed to get there.

work or school and your bag or a laptop that was right there just upped and walked off all on its own?

Sure, we live in a day of rush, rush, rush. But why are we always

ing or the eggs popping. Whatever one is rushing to, if you’re on overload it’s never fun.

So what’s a person to do?

Wrap your mind around this real-

ity: sound doesn’t travel at the speed of light. Even if sound starts out at the same point with light, light gets there first.

Think of yourself as sound. You will arrive…just not as fast as you’d like. Stuff happens. It’s built into nature.

So give yourself a break. If you’re running behind, well, that’s just the way it’s supposed to be that day. Try not to beat yourself up. You’ll get there…when you’re supposed to get there.

And the cows won’t be too bothered either way.

Rivki Rosenwald is a certified relationship counselor, and career and life coach.

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