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Every week, as we go to press, I feel as if we packed as much as we could into that week’s issue for you to enjoy. This week, I feel the same way. There is something here for everyone. You like politics? Catch up on Michael Fragin’s Spinclass. You love New York? Read up on Mayor Ed Koch, a quintessential New Yorker. You like history? Learn about what happened in the Battle of Stalingrad seventy years ago. Leading a busy married life? Take time to peruse Sorah David’s article on marriage. There is so much to take in and enjoy. And of course, this issue is also full of your favorites—Dr. Deb, Rabbi Jonathan Gewirtz, Rabbi Yaakov Margulies, Rifka Schonfeld, Rivki Rosenwald, Naomi Nachman and Rebbetzin Herzberg. Art, humor, Jewish thought, legal issues and “quotable quotes” are here as well. Speaking about notable quotes, Mayor Ed Koch was a true New York character and was known for his trademark witty remarks. He said what he believed and seemed indifferent to comments from others. Mayor Koch was a deeply committed New Yorker and a deeply committed Jew. Although he was not religious, he was proud of his heritage and stood up for Israel and against anti-Semitism. Looking back on his legacy, Koch was a breath of fresh air. His remarks were sharp and his convictions ran deep but he did not apologize for who he was. He was different that politicians today. Nowadays, politicians tie themselves in knots trying not to offend any person or group. And every one is very sensitive. Don’t talk about this because it’ll hurt this group. Don’t refer to that because it’ll sting that group. Oh, and never talk about [fill in the blank] because it’ll enflame that community. They dance around issues and have to make nice to every faction but they only end up just making themselves dizzy. As Jews, we know that we have to be proud of our convictions and beliefs. And Mayor Koch, although not religious, taught us that it is important to do so. New York will remember him fondly. Michael Fragin is a Trustee for the Village of Lawrence. Just a few weeks ago, TJH interviewed him about his role in town, his thoughts on Hurricane Sandy and his new on-line show on the Nachum Segal network, Spinclass. This week we bring you an excerpt of some interviews from last week’s show. Michael interviewed two people with keen understanding into the Israeli elections: Michael Freund and Binyomin Rose. I found their insights to be enlightening. Keep on the lookout for more from Michael’s Spinclass. We will try to bring you the scoop on politics every week. And of course, if you can’t wait a week before hearing what Michael and his guests have to offer, make sure to listen online every Thursday at jmintheam.org. When my husband and I were just married, we spent a beautiful spring afternoon in Old Westbury Gardens. The weather was perfect and the gardens were picturesque. As we were walking around the grounds, we spotted an older couple ahead of us, holding hands as they strolled. They were sweet-looking—she was wearing a long pleated skirt and her gray hair was swept into a bun. He was wearing a sweater over slacks. But what made the biggest impression on me was the way they spoke to each other and acted towards one another. They were obviously married for many years and the care they showed each other was endearing. Many of us lead very busy lives—carpool, homework, long work hours, shopping, errands, preparations for Shabbos and Yom Tov—the list can go on and on. But even with all the minutiae we have to deal with, it is important that we take time to spend with our spouse. This week Sorah David gives us tips on how to reconnect with our spouses. It’s the little things, she says, that are so important in a relationship. As always, I love to hear from you. Send me your thoughts at editor@fivetownsjewishhome.com. Wishing you a wonderful week, Shoshana

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Letters to Dear Editor, I very much enjoyed your article on Uriah Levy. One thing was left out though. In 2005, the US Naval Academy was the last service academy to dedicate a Jewish chapel. They did so that year and named it after Uriah P. Levy, and it received a Sefer Torah dedicated by the IDF. Regards, Yecheskel Medetsky

Dear Editor, I am not one of those people who shuns pop culture, but I must say that I was shocked while watching the Super Bowl with my twelve-year-old son. It seem like it was a celebration of immorality. I was actually happy when the power went out. I was hoping it

wouldn’t go back on. What is different about the Super Bowl than the regular trash in TV is that the Super Bowl seems to be a formal celebration of these things. Michelle Obama said about one of the entertainment performers who broke every barrier of decency during her performance, “I am so proud of her.” There is no greater sign of how rotten our culture is than that statement. So why did I watch the game with my son? Because I didn’t have a choice. All of his friends were watching it and I wasn’t going to deprive him. But I really wish we could shield our children from being inundated with the trash that they are being fed. One idea I was thinking of was to have a learning program during the Super Bowl that is so much fun (i.e. amazing food, incredible and plen-

the Editor tiful prizes such as guitars, skateboards etc., contests etc.) that teens would rather go there than watch the game. I know this concept exists but I don’t know of any program which is so much fun that it is a no brainier that teens want to go to it. We should make a program that is even more fun than watching the game. In order to win the cultural battle we will have to be innovative and bold because the people on the other side are determined, as was very evident last Sunday night. A Concerned Mother

Dear Editor, Although I am an Ashkenazi Jew and not related to the Syrian community, I was taken with the article featuring the rescue of Syrian Jewry. The

operation was so large in nature and yet so small in reality. What I mean to say is that although Judy Feld Carr saved almost the entire Jewish community in Syria, what she ran was essentially a one-woman, unknown operation. It’s amazing to me that this woman did this with no ulterior motive. She did it not for riches or fame or gratitude. In fact, she never even met the thousands of people who she rescued! It’s almost Purim time and I am reminded of Esther HaMalka who also almost single-handedly rescued the Jewish nation for our enemy’s hands. It is a true picture of when an individual sets their mind to something and wants to do good, Hashem will help them make their dreams come true. Sheila Werner

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Chinese Hack Into The New York Times Apparently the Chinese are not content with controlling just their own; they want to control media across the globe. The New York Times claims that

“Computer security experts found no evidence that sensitive e-mails or files from the reporting of our articles about the Wen family were accessed, downloaded or copied,” said Jill Abramson, the paper’s executive editor. But security experts found evidence that the hackers stole the corporate passwords for every Times employee and used those to gain access to the personal computers of 53 employees, most of them outside The Times’s newsroom. “Experts found no evidence that the intruders used the passwords to seek information that was not related to the reporting on the Wen family,” Abramson added. “Security experts hired by The Times to detect and block the computer attacks gathered digital evidence that Chinese hackers, using methods that some consultants have associated with the Chinese military in the past, breached The Times’s network,” a statement issued from The Times read. Predictably, China’s foreign ministry denied the accusations. “Reaching such conclusions for no reason with uncertain evidence and no proof and saying that China participates in relevant online attacks is totally irresponsible,” Foreign Ministry spokesman Hong Lei said at a daily news briefing. Hong reiterated China’s stance that the country “is also a victim of online attacks” and said it hopes “the relevant party can take a responsible attitude towards this issue.”

Iran’s Latest Weapon Can Evade Radar

Iran unveiled its newest combat jet last weekend and it’s scary to think about this being in the hands of a madman who is seeking Israel’s destruction. The jet is a domestically manufactured fighter-bomber that military officials claim can evade radar. President Mahmoud Ahmadinejad said in a ceremony that building the Qaher F-313, or Dominant F-313, shows Iran’s will to “conquer scientific peaks.” Since 2007, the Iranian military has been releasing updated aircraft designs. The country

claims to have developed advanced military technologies in recent years. However, that assertion has yet to be verified since Tehran does not release technical details of its arsenals. The Islamic republic launched a self-sufficient military program in the 1980s to compensate for a Western weapons embargo that banned export of military technology and equipment to Iran. Since 1992, Iran has produced its own tanks, armored personnel carriers, missiles, torpedoes, drones and fighter planes. “Qaher is a fully indigenous aircraft designed and built by our aerospace experts. This is a radar-evading plane that can fly at low altitude, carry weapons, engage enemy aircrafts and land at short airstrips,” Defense Minister Ahmad Vahidi said. IRNA news agency released official photos of the Qaher. It appears to be a single-seat jet, yet it was described as a fighter-bomber that can combat other aircraft and ground targets. Iran’s English-language state Press TV compared the Qaher to the Ameri-

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Chinese hackers have been “persistently” attacking its computers over the past four months. These hacking attacks began after the newspaper published a story on Premier Wen Jiabao. Last October, The New York Times printed an article relating that Wen’s family had accumulated at least $2.7 billion in “hidden riches.” China was offended by the editorial and said that the article tarnished Wen’s name and that the newspaper giant had ulterior motives. The Chinese hackers penetrated the e-mail accounts of Shanghai bureau chief, David Barboza, who wrote the story on Wen’s family, and Jim Yardley, the paper’s South Asia bureau chief in India who was previously the Beijing bureau chief.

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Explosion in Mexico Leaves 35 Dead Last Thursday, there was a huge explosion at a gas facility of Mexican state oil company Pemex. Initially, it was reported that 31 workers were dead and 120 injured. But as rescue workers continued sifting through rubble for victims, the death toll rose to 35. Pemex director Emilio Lozoya Austin said at press conference on Friday that the company “would spare no expense” in attempting to pull victims from the rubble. They also promised to help the injured and the families of those killed. It still remains unknown as to what

may have caused the explosion that occurred on Thursday, January 31 at 3:45pm local time. The tremendous explosion ripped through the lower level of the building and sent smoke soaring into Mexico’s skyline, forcing the evacuation of 3,500 employees. Reportedly, several minutes before the blast, Pemex ordered employees to evacuate the tower as a precaution because of electrical problems. That rumor has yet to be confirmed by the company. Local media reported that machinery exploded in the basement of an administrative center next to the Pemex tower in Mexico City, which has more than fifty floors. The Mexico City government sent rescue teams with search dogs to look for victims buried in the basement of a building known as B2, where nearly 1,700 employees worked. President Enrique Peña Nieto said via Twitter that he would be personally overseeing rescue operations. He also personally paid visits to hospitalized victims of the disaster. Authorities are currently investigating the catastrophe although they did

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Hillary Clinton Warns of Danger in Her Parting Message

As Hillary Rodham Clinton prepares for her graceful exit as Secretary of State, she has some closing remarks. Clinton issued a warning on Thursday about Syria’s civil war, accusing Iran of playing an increasingly prominent role in initiating the violence. She said this internal conflict increases the danger of a larger regional conflict in the Middle East which may lead to the inclusion of Israel or other neighbors. Clinton feels that during her time served she attempted to address this growing issue saying, “I’ve done what was possible to do…The worst kind of predictions about what could happen internally and spilling over the borders of Syria are certainly within the realm of the possible now.” The conflict “is distressing on all fronts,” Clinton told a roundtable of journalists on Thursday, a day before John Kerry was sworn in as her successor. She primarily blamed Iran, accusing it of dispatching more personnel and better military material to President Bashar Assad’s regime to help him defeat rebel forces. Its Lebanese proxy, Hezbollah, is also playing a bigger role in the conflict. “The Iranians are all in for Assad, and there is very little room for any kind of dialogue with them,” Clinton said. These warnings came shortly after Syria threatened to retaliate for an Israeli airstrike, and its ally Iran warned threateningly that the Israel would regret the attack. Clinton declined to talk specifically about Israel’s strike, which U.S.

officials described as targeting trucks containing sophisticated Russian-made SA-17 anti-aircraft missiles. The trucks were next to a military research facility, and the strike hit both the trucks and the facility, U.S. officials said. Despite her gloomy perspective of the war, Clinton stressed that she still feels strongly that the United States should not provide weapons to Syrian rebels or intervening militarily. When Clinton was asked about America’s Gulf allies who have sent arms to the Syrian opposition, Clinton said the Obama administration continues to urge caution on the types of material being supplied and should thoroughly screen recipients. The U.S. worries that if extremist groups receive dangerous weapons, they may use them against American interests or Israel. “Sitting here today, I can’t tell you that we’ve been entirely successful in that,” Clinton said. “There are those who are supplying weapons and money for weapons, who really don’t care who gets it as long as they are against Assad – and who have the view that once Assad is gone, then we’ll deal with the consequences of these other groups who are now armed and funded. That’s not our view.” “I think I’ve done what was possible to do over the last two years in trying to create or help stand up an opposition that was credible and could be an interlocutor in any kind of political negotiation,” Clinton said. “We’ve engaged in a steady drumbeat of activities and trying to put together a coalition and trying to find a way to get something through the Security Council that would serve as the international legal basis for further action to be taken by many countries.”

Doctors in UK Will be Forced to Share Patient Information It seems that sharing information with your doctor is no longer something that we can assume will be kept under wraps. General practitioners in the U.K. will be forced to submit confidential records on all their patients’ drinking habits, waist sizes and illnesses. The files will be stored in a giant information bank that privacy campaigners say represents the “biggest data grab” in National Health Service history. Many Continued on page 14

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Health chiefs will have the authority to demand information on every patient and patients will not be able to opt out. They admit that they will ask for “patient identifiable components,” including post code and date of birth. The data will include weight, cholesterol levels, body mass index, pulse rate, family health history, alcohol consumption and smoking status. Any diagnosis of a medical condition will be included including cancer, heart disease, and mental illness. Officials insist that all personal in-

formation will be made anonymous and deleted after analysis. The data grab is part of Everyone Counts, a program intended to extend the availability of patient data across the Health Service. GPs will be required to send monthly updates on their patients to a central database run by the NHS’s Health and Social Care Information Centre. The information will be used to analyze demand for services and improve treatment. But many doctors don’t feel comfortable sending their patients’ private information to a general database. They feel that patients should have the right to opt out since they are afraid it may cause patients to hold back certain information which could pose a health threat.

Ahmadinejad Visits Egypt for Kisses and Complaints On Tuesday, Iranian president Mahmoud Ahmadinejad visited Egypt to

In News meet with President Mohamed Mursi. It was the first visit by an Iranian president since Tehran’s 1979 Islamic revolution and would have been unheard of under Egypt’s previous regime.

Mursi, who is a member of the Sunni Muslim Brotherhood, kissed the Iranian despot after he landed at Cairo airport and greeted him with a red carpet reception. But when Ahmadinejad, a Shi’ite, met with Egypt’s leading Sunni Muslim scholar, he was given a sharp rebuke. Sheikh Ahmed al-Tayeb urged Iran to refrain from interfering in Gulf Arab states, to recognize Bahrain

as a “sisterly Arab nation” and rejected the extension of Shi’ite Muslim influence in Sunni countries, a statement from al-Azhar said. Visiting Cairo to attend an Islamic summit that begins on Wednesday, Ahmadinejad told a news conference he hoped his trip would be “a new starting point in relations between us.” But the meeting rapidly declined into a battle of theological differences. Hassan al-Shafai, a senior cleric, pointed out, “There ensued some misunderstandings on certain issues that could have an effect on the cultural, political and social climate of both countries.” Before his trip, the Iranian dictator said in an interview on TV, “The political geography of the region will change if Iran and Egypt take a unified position on the Palestinian question.” He said he wanted to visit the Gaza Strip, the Palestinian territory which neighbors Egypt to the east and is run by the Islamist movement Hamas. “If they allow it, I would go to Gaza to visit the people,” Ahmadinejad said. Analysts doubt that the historic changes that brought Mursi to power will result in a full restoration of dip-

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North Korea Video Shows U.S. Under Fire It begins benignly enough, with an image of a sleeping young North Korean man, and a genteel piano version of the US feel-good pop anthem “We Are the World” providing the musical backdrop. But the YouTube video recently posted by Uriminzokkiri, North Korea’s official website, quickly takes a more sinister turn as the man’s dream continues into the realms of Stalinist fantasy. The man boards a space shuttle which orbits Earth and views a unified Korea and a city draped in Stars and Stripes. Then missiles seem to be raining down on this city, setting fire to high-rise buildings, reminiscent of the 9/11 attacks. “Somewhere in the United States, black clouds of smoke are billowing,” the Korean-language caption says. “It seems that the nest of wickedness is ablaze.” The video was uploaded over the weekend and proves that North Korea has scary plans for the West. South Korea’s ambassador to the UN said on Tuesday a North Korean nuclear test was imminent, in protest for the condemnation and tougher Security Council sanctions that followed its rocket launch on December 12. The latest sanctions resolution repeated international demands that Pyongyang abandon its nuclear weapons program and refrain from further rocket launches. The UN has warned North Korea a nuclear test would invite “significant action” in response. At the end of the video, the pilot is

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Obama Congratulates Netanyahu…Almost a Week Later

It is customary for leaders of allied countries to congratulate one another upon winning an election. On Monday, U.S. President Barack Obama phoned Benjamin Netanyahu from the White House to congratulate him on his narrow win. The call came nearly a week after the close election. Prior to the phone call, a former U.S. ambassador to Israel publicly stated that Obama and Netanyahu have “bad chemistry.” The two don’t necessarily always agree, especially with regards to Israeli territories. During his first term, Obama did not pay a visit to Israel. The last time he was in the country was during his first campaign trial in 2008. Obama said that he was looking forward to working with the next Israeli government. Lip service? You decide.

Morsi’s Aide: The Holocaust is a Myth For a while now, Arab nations have been attempting to prove that the Holocaust never actually really happened so recent remarks from an Egyptian government official are not that shocking. An aide to Egyptian President Mohammed Morsi claims that the Holocaust was a hoax.

Fathi Shihab Eddim, Morsi’s senior advisor, made the comments on Holocaust Remembrance Day on January 27. “The myth of the Holocaust is an industry that America invented,” Eddim said. He claims that the 6 million Jews migrated to the U.S. during World War II. Eddim is responsible for appointing editors for the country’s state-run newspapers. “U.S. intelligence agencies in cooperation with their counterparts in Allied nations during World War II created it to destroy the image of their opponents in Germany, and to justify war and massive destruction against military and civilian facilities of the Axis powers, and especially to hit Hiroshima and Nagasaki with the atomic bomb,” Eddim stated. Back in 2010, Morsi referred to Jews as the “descendants of apes and pig.”

ian President Bashar Assad said an air strike around dawn blasted a convoy on a mountain track about 5 kilometers south of where the main DamascusBeirut highway crosses the border. Its load probably included high-tech antiaircraft and anti-tank missiles. “It attacked trucks carrying sophisticated weapons from the regime to Hezbollah,” the source said. The source claims that the attack took place within Syria, but the border in that region is poorly defined. Shortly after the attack, Syria’s state-run television channel aired images of the site. The pictures show a building damaged by what Syria claims was an air raid against the Jamraya Scientific Research Center, on the outskirts of Damascus. There is conflicting information. Originally it was said that vehicles carrying weapons were targeted. Nothing was mentioned about a military research complex. However, Damascus insists the target was the Jamraya Scientific Research Center, although the last part of a video posted online visibly

Turkey Asks if Israel and Syria are in Cahoots And now for the outrageous and absurd… Turkish Foreign Minister Ahmet Davutoglu criticized the Syrian government over the weekend for not rapidly responding to the attack allegedly led by Israel. Davutoglu’s conspiracy is that Syria’s position indicates that there is perhaps a secret deal between the two countries. “Why has the Syrian army, which has been attacking its own people

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“Why doesn’t [Bashar al-Assad] throw a stone at the Israeli planes while they fly over his palace and insult his nation’s honor? Why doesn’t he do anything against Israel while he drops bombs on the innocent people of his country? Is there a secret agreement between Israel and Assad?” he added. Davutoglu feels Syria should “do whatever a country that comes under attack should do.” Israel has officially remained silent about the attack, but on Friday, an un-

official television report confirmed that the target was a convoy of SA-17 missiles that was preparing to leave a base at Jamraya, near Damascus, in order to deliver the missiles to Lebanon’s Hizbullah. The U.S. released a statement revealing that Jerusalem had informed Washington about the attack. The officials also reiterated the claim saying that Israel had launched an air strike on a convoy carrying Russian-made SA-17 missiles. By Thursday, Syria threatened to retaliate for the Israeli attack. The government wrote a letter to the UN Secretary-General Ban Ki-moon stressing its “right to defend itself, its territory and sovereignty.”

Brooklyn College to Sponsor Anti-Israel Event Brooklyn College is located in the predominantly Orthodox Jewish Mid-

In News wood section of Brooklyn, New York. Yet the college’s political science department is co-sponsoring an event intended to promote the Boycott, Divestment and Sanctions (BDS) movement against the State of Israel. Of course, this move caused waves of criticism, controversy and protests. The event is scheduled to take place on Thursday, February 7 and is being organized by Students for Justice in Palestine. Well-known anti-Israel speakers are scheduled to speak, including Omar Barghouti, founder of the Palestinian Campaign for the Academic and Campus Boycott of Israel, and Judith Butler, a professor of rhetoric and comparative literature at the University of California’s Berkeley campus and a supporter of the BDS movement, which seeks to bring about Israel’s isolation. The Anti-Defamation League (ADL) expressed concern over the event and urged the president of the college to follow through on her assertion to the Brooklyn College community that the college “does not endorse the

views of the speakers visiting our campus next week.”

“We remain concerned that cosponsorship of the event by a department of the college is not consistent with President Gould’s statement of non-endorsement and, in fact, the department’s participation directly contradicts that message,” said Ron Meier, ADL New York Regional Director. “While we are strongly committed to the principles of academic freedom and free speech, and fully understand

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partment that it should remove its cosponsorship.” Many Jews attend Brooklyn College and many professors there are Jewish as well. Students, alumni and staff have expressed their outrage. One alumnus told TJH that she sent emails to different departments in the school expressing her “embarrassment” at having a degree from an institute that promotes these sort of ideals. The college did not respond to her statements.

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In News Israeli Companies Should Look Out for the Country’s Long-Term Interests The current “start up” mentality in Israel has led to many great success stories. Dozens of companies have built themselves from the ground up and have been able to cash in with big buy-outs from companies like Google and Intel. Innovative companies with fresh ideas have seen huge paydays and have created their own “Israeli Dream” mentality amongst the country’s best and brightest innovators and inventors. However, some feel that this popular “pump and dump” business model is hurting the economy and discouraging domestic capitalism. Pinchas Landau, an independent expert who writes for Israeli and international media and also publishes the Landau Report, his own monthly newsletter, has recently written about the trend that does not invest in the future of Israeli businesses. “Foreign investment is still coming in for the last couple of years at a very good pace, but that model is finished,” Mr. Landau said, noting that since the financial crisis, it has been more difficult to float a company on Nasdaq or attract venture capital from the United States. Israel has only one company like TEVA Pharmaceuticals Ltd., a multinational that was able to singlehandedly skew the country’s foreign investment statistics with a major deal in 2006. There has been a lot of talk about the courage and downright “chutzpah” of Israeli

entrepreneurs, especially in the book, Start-up Nation: The Story of Israel’s Economic Miracle, that tells the story of Israel’s economic miracle over the past two decades. But Mr. Landau said the software-fueled boom that started the Israeli economic explosion in the 1990s could be attributed to a broader array of factors: a strong defense sector and the influx of a half-million Russian Jews after the fall of the Soviet Union (including engineers comprising the superpower’s technological elite) fused with American capital to create an unrivaled ecosystem for software development and innovation that continues to this day.

But if the country is to take advantage of its arguably stronger position in biotechnology – where the action is for the future, according to Mr. Landau – the model will have to change. Biotech and other industries will have to start looking further down the road with a long-term lens. While the quick buck is very attractive, a long-term strong economy is what the country’s innovators should be trying to achieve.

National California Will Have a Hispanic Majority by 2014 Soon Spanish may be the language you’ll be hearing on Hollywood Boulevard. State demographers predict that California’s Hispanic population will equal the white population within the next six months and possibly exceed it by early 2014. This significant shift is a reflection of the country’s racial and ethnic changes. By early next year, Hispanics can Continued on page 26

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become the dominant ethnic group in California. About 37 percent of the California population is white; demographers say that by 2020 Hispanics will be about 41 percent. As the Hispanic population increases, it is expected that the white population will decrease to about 30 percent by 2060 from the current numbers. Surely this monumental change will affect many things including politics and public policy in the nation’s most populous state. The report also predicts that California’s population will hit 50 million in 2049. Currently, whites do not comprise the majority of the population in Hawaii and New Mexico.

Service dismissed. In a January 22 letter sent to both the city of East Cleveland, Ohio, and the company that operates the city’s photoenforcement program, Postal Service attorney Jennifer S. Breslin says two school-zone speeding citations and five red-light infractions by postal trucks in December should be ignored.

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nose-up altitude was focusing the plasma’s heat on the reinforced carbon-carbon panels covering the shuttle’s nose and the leading edges of its wings. Newly released footage from inside the aircraft shows inside the cabin as it reached Earth. “This is amazing,” pilot Willie McCool said. “It’s really getting, uh, fairly bright out there,” he added, staring at the growing intensity of the fire outside. Rick Husband smiled, it wasn’t his first re-entry. He knew this was only the start of the blast furnace that was to come. “Yeah, you definitely don’t want to be outside now,” he told his pilot. Columbia crossed the California coast at 8:53 a.m. Eastern time, right on schedule, 23 minutes away from its Florida touchdown. News photographers were busy setting up their cameras to get a view of the returning shuttle. But instead of seeing the perfect trail of plasma they expected, the photographers saw a huge red flare shoot from underneath Columbia. They knew something wasn’t right. Merely six minutes later, Columbia crossed the sky 40 miles above Texas. The super-hot plasma sped freely

In News through a six-inch hole in Columbia’s left wing. The hole was made by a chunk of falling tank foam on launch day. The blast melted the ship’s inner structure within seconds and America’s first space shuttle was ripped into more than 84,000 pieces. Unfortunately, all those aboard the aircraft did not survive the accident. Following a seven-month investigation, the Columbia Accident Investigation Board, chaired by retired Navy Adm. Harold W. Gehman Jr., issued a scathing report, confirming that the “the foam did it” and indicting NASA as a co-conspirator. The board declared that “the NASA organizational culture had as much to do with the accident as well as the foam.” Its report cited eight missed opportunities to detect the problem during the flight, and identified schedule pressures and communications breakdowns as contributing factors. NASA decided to retire its space shuttle fleet after meeting its obligations to complete the building of the International Space Station, and drew up plans for safer rockets and spacecraft. Last Friday marked 10 years since the Columbia tragedy. Now Ameri-

ca’s $6.6 billion Florida spaceport sits mostly unused. Many have attempted to jumpstart new projects. Private companies are working on creating spaceships that could launch astronauts from U.S. soil. NASA is developing a launch system that could send Americans beyond Earth’s orbit which will take a minimum of ten years to complete. In the meantime, about 8,400 NASA employees and contractors are caretakers of what was once the home of the world’s leader in space exploration.

Congress Attempts to Close the Pay Gap Between Male and Female Workers Last week, Senator Barbara A. Mikulski and Congresswoman Rosa DeLauro, both Democrats, introduced a Paycheck Fairness Act in Congress. If approved, the bill will require employers to show pay disparity as related to job-performance and prohibit employer

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Grand Central Station: A New York Landmark for 100 Years New York’s Grand Central Terminal was the original transportation hub of America. Friday, February 1, 2013 marked 100 years since the first set of keys was handed to the terminal’s stationmaster and the first train departed just after midnight on the following day. Construction of the building began in 1903 and was completed by 1913. The station spreads out across 48 acres. Since then, the terminal has shuttled billions and billions of commuters and it has also become a destination in and of itself. The city celebrated the milestone with a public rededication ceremony, live performances and the opening of the “Grand by Design” exhibit.

Medical Company Blames Obamacare for Layoffs Smith & Nephew, a medical equipment company with offices worldwide, has laid off 100 employees in the United States. They are blaming the layoffs on President Obama’s healthcare law that took effect on January 1. The law burdens the medical company with a 2.3 percent excise tax on medical devices. To compensate for the dues, they claim they were forced to lay off employees in the Memphis, Tennessee and Andover, Massachusetts offices. “The nearly $30 billion tax on medical devices that took effect Jan. 1, 2013, has impacted a number of companies across the U.S.,” the company said in a statement. Joe Metzger, senior vice president of corporate communications for the company, tells the Memphis Business Journal that they were “not immune” to the tax burden. “Unfortunately, and in order to absorb this cost burden into our business, this has meant less than 100 positions have been made redundant across various departmental functions

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Deadliest Sniper Ever Snuffed Out Last week, Chris Kyle, the deadliest sniper in U.S. history, was killed at a gun range by a former Marine who was suffering from post-traumatic stress disorder. Kyle is the author of American Sniper, an autobiography about his accomplishments. The co-author of the book, Scott McEwen, said that Kyle was more

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equipment for emotionally and physically wounded veterans. “Chris was literally the type of guy if you were a veteran and needed help he’d help you,” Travis Cox, the director of FITCO Cares, said. He was also an advocate for service members suffering from PTSD. He once said in an interview, “All of a sudden you don’t have no identity,” he said “And you have to learn a whole new way to act.” Kyle, 38, served four tours in Iraq and was awarded two Silver Stars, five Bronze Stars with Valor, two Navy and Marine Corps Achievement Medals, and one Navy and Marine Corps Commendation. From 1999 to 2009, Kyle recorded more than 150 sniper kills, the most in U.S. military history. He was a true patriot and hero. After leaving combat duty, Kyle became chief instructor training Naval Special Warfare Sniper and Counter-Sniper teams, and he authored the Naval Special Warfare Sniper Doctrine, the first Navy SEAL sniper manual. He left the Navy in 2009. When published last year, his autobiography became a New York Times bestseller.

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Harvard Marred by Cheating Ring

Last week, the college issued academic sanctions against approximately 60 students who were forced to withdraw from school for a period of time in a cheating scandal that involved the final exam in a class on, interestingly enough, Congress. The length of a student’s involuntary withdrawal period is between two and four semesters. Reportedly, two basketball team co-captains were also deleted from the team roster. Initially when officials first addressed the issue last year, the school implicated 125 students. The inquiry began after a teaching assistant in a spring semester undergraduate-level government class detected problems in the take-home test, including that students may have shared answers. Many are speculating whether or not the expectations and rules of the take-home exam were clear. In a campus-wide email on Friday, Faculty of Arts and Sciences Dean Michael D. Smith said the school’s academic integrity board had resolved all the cases related to the cheating probe. Yet many remain unsatisfied with the board’s decisions. Supposedly only half the students involved got disciplinary probation. The rest weren’t disciplined. The school refused to discuss specific student cases and promises to maintain student privacy policies. The dean said a school committee is working on recommendations to strengthen a culture of academic honesty and promote ethics in scholarship. “This is a time for communal reflection and action,” he wrote. “We are responsible for creating the community in which our students study and we all thrive as scholars.” Dean Smith, here’s a scholar for you: Sophocles once said, “I would prefer even to fail with honor than win by cheating.” But I guess they don’t teach that in Harvard…

Harvard University is regarded as one of the most prestigious universities is the world but that doesn’t mean it’s immune from scandal.

More Pets Than Kids in the U.S.

After nearly a week of negotiations, FBI agents stormed an underground bunker where five-year-old Ethan was being held hostage by 65-year-old decorated Vietnam veteran, Jimmy Lee Dykes. In the raid, Dykes was killed and the boy was rescued and taken back to his family. The FBI says that Ethan was laughing and joking and will be celebrating his sixth birthday next week with his family. On Tuesday of last week, Dykes killed a school bus driver and threatened the children on the bus before taking Ethan hostage. He took him back to his bunker, and police and FBI agents were negotiating with Dykes through a PVC air pipe. The police were careful not to anger the man and even thanked him at one point. They were able to see inside the bunker with a high-tech camera and only moved in when they saw the kidnapper holding a gun. They then stormed the doors of the bunker and rescued the little boy. Dykes lived in Florida up until two years ago. Neighbors say that he beat a dog with a lead pipe when he moved to Alabama and threatened children if they would trespass onto his property.

A new book discussing demographics written by Jonathan V. Last is set to be published next week. Last writes that currently in America, pets outnumber children 4 to 1. That was the basis of his title, What to Expect When No One’s Expecting, a spin on a popular book for expecting Moms entitled, What to Expect When You’re Expecting.

January 2013— Deadliest Month in Chicago Since 2002

A Bright Future Cut Short Hadiya Pendleton was a 15-year-old girl from Chicago with a bright future. She was smart, diligent, and passionate. She had the opportunity to perform by President Barack Obama‘s inauguration just one week before her tragic death. Her family and friends describe that as her proudest moment. Unfortunately, it was one of the last moments in her short life. As the teenager walked through the park with a group of friends it began to rain. The group ran for shelter in an alleyway where Pendleton was hit by gunfire not even aimed at her. She tried to escape but was shot in the back. The park where the incident took place on Tuesday, January 29 is less than a mile from Obama’s home. Hadiya’s father, Nathaniel Pendleton, spoke on Wednesday at a Chicago police news conference, which was held in the same park where his daughter died. “He took the light of my life,” Pendleton said. He then spoke directly to the killer: “Look at yourself, just know that you took a bright person, an innocent person, a nonviolent person.” Obama was asked about Hadiya’s death in an interview which led to a dis-

cussion about gun control. The White House press secretary, Jay Carney, said the President and the First Lady’s “thoughts and prayers are with” her family, adding: “And as the President has said, we will never be able to eradicate every act of evil in this country, but if we can save any one child’s life, we have an obligation to try when it comes to the scourge of gun violence.”

NYC Protects People from Bike Delivery Men

It seems as if taxi drivers and bikeriding delivery guys own the streets of

Manhattan, putting other drivers and pedestrians in danger. Restaurant delivery cyclists recklessly swerve through traffic but now they will be required to follow laws intended specifically for them. City officials announced on Friday that delivery boys will be obligated to follow new regulations and if they break them, their employers will face fines. Businesses will be obligated to provide their delivery people with safety instructions and equipment including helmets, identifying clothes, and ID numbers. If they fail to do so, they will face up to a $300 fine, the Department of Transportation said. West Side deli owner Nick Pappas said, “If I was driving in my car and got a ticket, they wouldn’t bill them,” Pappas said of his three cyclists. “The delivery people should be fined, not us.” In 2010, there were 3,874 violations issued by the NYPD — compared with 14,392 last year. Jenny Perez, a worker at an Upper East Side restaurant, said the new policy could negatively affect the bottom line. “It could hurt businesses because

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“The pet market has been steadily increasing in America since the 1980s, with people not only acquiring more furry little dependents, but spending more on them, too,” writes Last. “In 1994 Americans spent $1.7 billion on pets; by 2008 that number had risen to $4.3 billion. By 2010, even in the face of a massive recession, it had climbed over $4.8 billion. The evidence suggests that pets are increasingly treated like actual family members: In 1998, the average dog-owning American household spent $383 on medical care for their dogs; by 2006, that figure had risen to $672.” Of course as people in the business got wind of the growing industry, prices quickly increased. Dog grooming costs jumped, too, “from $59 to $127.” Last calls this trend “pet mania.” Local malls now have stores dedicated exclusively to pet clothing and accessories. Pet strollers run from around $80 to around $300. Famous designers design clothing for pets since they are now part of the family. “Auto insurance companies now offer policies for pets traveling in cars,” Last explains. “Wealthy dog owners have successfully lobbied for changes in estate law allowing pets to legally receive inheritances and trust funds. A bill put forward in Congress recently called for a $3,500 tax break for pet-care expenses—which is more than families get for a child. The HAPPY Act (Humanity and Pets Partnered through the Years) happily failed to reach a vote on the floor of the House.” “In surveys from 1947 to 1985, fewer than half of American reported that they owned a pet,” writes Last. “Today American pets now outnumber American children by more than four to one.” Last comments, “At the micro level, the pet boom is…unsettling.” “[E]ducated, middle-class people have all but stopped having babies,” he writes. “Pets have become fuzzy, low-maintenance replacements for children.” It seems America is going to the dogs.

The murder toll in Chicago is tragically continuing to climb. The death toll for the month of January hit 42, making it the most deadly January in Chicago in more than 10 years. The last time this number of murders was documented was in January 2002, when there were 45 homicides. This number doesn’t include the injuries due to gunshot wounds or other violent crimes. On Tuesday, January 29, eight people were wounded in shootings across the city on Tuesday. On Saturday, January 26 seven people were killed. Not all of those homicides were the result of shootings. In Chicago, gangs routinely and often indiscriminately open fire. The mayor, Rahm Emanuel, is pushing for tougher local, state and national gun laws and longer prison sentences for offenders.

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Fake is All the Rage in the USA

When you’re on the train and someone offers you a DVD for “$1, $1,” or you see men selling handbags on blankets on street corners in Manhattan, think twice before purchasing these items. The American economy loses $250 billion as a result of counterfeit products each year, according to a recent report. Despite the impact, only a fraction can be detected and confiscated by the government.

In News In 2012, approximately $1.26 billion worth of counterfeit goods originating overseas were seized by the U.S. Customs and Border Protection (CBP). The three most confiscated items in 2012 were handbags and wallets; watches and jewelry; and wearing apparel and accessories. Every year, the value of what is confiscated by the CBP differs dramatically. It all depends on the type of goods, their value and the CBP’s efforts. It also fluctuates depending on the different methods of smuggling these goods into the country. Just over ten years ago, most goods were shipped from overseas in large containers to be resold in the United States. Nowadays, counterfeiters are hawking their products online and shipping them directly to the consumer. As a result, the CBP has begun to target the websites themselves to shut down operations. Most counterfeit products originate from China. Hong Kong, Singapore, India and Taiwan complete the list of the top five countries of origin for these goods. Here is a list of the top five most counterfeited items based on their value. 1. Handbags/Wallets—valued at $511.2 million and amounted to 40 percent of the total seizure value in 2012. These items were by far the most counterfeited items in terms of value. So many of these items were able to be seized because of cooperation with U.S. Customs officials. More than $446 million worth of these items originated in China. 2. Watches/Jewelry—valued at $187 million and amounted to 15 percent of the total seizure value in 2012. In 2011, only $173 million worth of watches and jewelry were seized. The majority of these seized originated from China—$91.3 million worth. It’s interesting to note that 98 percent of counterfeit items smuggled from Singapore were watches and jewelry. The country has a large jewelry industry, which leads to many counterfeit operations. 3. Wearing Apparel/Accessories— valued at $133 million and amounted to 11 percent of the total seizure value in 2012. Even though clothing and accessories only amounted to 11 percent of the value of what was seized in 2012, it actually was the most seized item in 2012; 29 percent of all seized was in this category. More than $97 million worth of this category originated from China. 4. Consumer Electronics/Parts— valued at $104.4 million and amounted to 8 percent of the total seizure value

in 2012. An estimated $71.5 million worth of consumer electronics originating in China were seized in 2012, comprising 8 percent of the total value of all items from the country. Of all counterfeit products originating from Hong Kong, consumer electronics were the most seized, comprising 1,943, or 23 percent, of all seized items from the country. Obviously, because tablets and smartphones have become the rage among consumers, knockoffs of these items have risen as well. 5. Footwear—valued at $103.4 million and amounted to 8 percent of the total seizure value in 2012. The value of only five seized products in the country exceeded $100 million in 2012, and shoes marks the first of the five. The federal government seized more than $103 million worth of footwear in 2012 in nearly 1,900 seizures. While most of the footwear that was seized used to be athletic shoes, knock-offs of higher end, dress shoes are becoming more common. The vast majority of footwear seized in 2012 originated in China. In fact, 10 percent of the total value of goods seized from the country was footwear, higher than all but two other products.

That’s Odd The Elderly Are Robbing the Banks An 83-year-old unsuspecting man found himself in middle of a bank robbery investigation in California. He was accused of being the getaway driver in a bank robbery—even though he had no role in it! Reportedly, several weeks ago, Gail Castle knocked on the man’s door and asked to buy his car. The car wasn’t even for sale. The man chose to accept the offer and the buyer asked him to drive her by the Bank of America which was two miles away to withdraw the cash to pay for the car. The man said that when she came out of the bank, “She kind of pulled the top of her purse open, like this and leaned it toward me and said, ‘Well, I got the money.’ When she came out of the bank, I didn’t know myself that she Continued on page 38

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Looters Steal From Hoarder’s Home An eccentric man simply known as Radkin passed away in his home on the shores of Lake Champlain in northern Vermont. Sadly, it was months before anyone realized that he had died. Eventually a friend who had not heard from him for several months contacted police. Police investigated the situation and found Radkin’s body crushed beneath a trailer. Radkin was a hoarder, and moving around in his home was almost impossible. But it didn’t take long for looters to vandalize the packrat’s decrepit house, police say, seizing antiques, a vehicle, scrap metal, and over $200,000 in gold coins. Four people, including at least one who police suspect knew the 66-yearold, are facing charges of stealing the coins and cashing them in at coin and jewelry stores. “We’ve been watching the looters come and go,” said neighbor, John Fleury. It remains a mystery why

In News this good neighbor did not contact the police. “What it is is a hoarder’s house,” said Vermont State Police Sgt. Maurice Lamothe, who is investigating the burglaries. “The exterior is covered in outbuildings, cars, trailers and everyone one of them is full, I mean full to the top. I had never been in a hoarder’s house prior to this. The rooms, you can’t walk through them, you can’t walk through any of them.” The property is now being handled by a lawyer.

Early Spring Thanks to Punxsutawney Phil Each year in Punxsutawney, Pennsylvania, which is about 65 miles northeast of Pittsburgh, the groundhog makes his prediction on a hill known as Gobbler’s Knob. The event attracts more than 15,000 people and has been drawing crowds since 1886. This year, on February 2, Groundhog Day, Punxsutawney Phil crawled

out early and did not see his shadow, signaling it will be an early spring.

Coming into this year, Phil had seen his shadow 100 times and had not seen it only 16 times since 1886, according to Punxsutawney Groundhog Club’s Inner Circle. There are no records for the missing 10 years. The 15 members of the inner circle, clad in tophats and tuxedos, decide in advance whether to announce Phil has seen his shadow or not, even though the groundhog does the symbolic duty. I’m only pretending to actually understand this bizarre tradition even though they do it year, after year, after year…

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Last week, TJH reported on thieves stealing Tide detergent. This week, we bring to you a story of a man who so desperately needs oil for his car, that he went to Costco to stock up—big time! A California man was arrested Thursday for allegedly trying to steal 24 quarts of motor oil from a Costco. He tried to get away with the oil strapped to his body and stuffed into his clothing. Jorge Sanchez, 35, was spotted about 4:30 p.m. trying to leave a Burbank Costco without paying for the oil. Store employees tried to chase him but lost Sanchez after he jumped a fence at the west side of the parking lot. Burbank Police Sgt. Darin Ryburn said that nine of the 24 quarts were recovered during the foot chase. Authorities believe Sanchez walked into the Costco and went directly to the oil aisle. He allegedly snatched a few cases and emptied them. This thief was really slippery…

A Perfect Score— Times Three!

Scoring a perfect score of 2400 on the SATs is a pretty difficult feat. Even so, a student receiving a perfect score wouldn’t normally be newsworthy but three students in the same class scoring a 2400 is. Two boys and a girl from Montgomery County, Pennsylvania, all got a 2400 on their SATs. They are juniors at The Upper Dublin High School. Julie Baldassano, 17, who is the youngest in her family, says her two big brothers left some intimidating shoes to fill, because they both scored 2380 when they took the SAT. She says she couldn’t wait to tell them about her perfect score. “They said, ‘Congrats,’ yeah, it felt great to be able to tell them.” Benjamin She, 16, says the test is all about skill. “Taking a standardized test like the SAT is just like doing a skill like poker, it’s all about what you need to do

In News to analyze the questions.” According to the College Board, more than one million students take the SAT each year. Last year, only 360 students got a perfect score. “It’s really exciting and I never expected it,” said William Raynor, 16, who is also the oldest in his family. For those of you readers seeking a perfect score, “Don’t get discouraged, I wasn’t getting anywhere near 2400 when I started practicing, but the more you do the better it’ll go and the easier it will get,” said Baldassano. Baldassano sounds like a dream students. Besides for her academic excellence, she likes to knit and volunteers at an animal shelter. She combines her two passions by selling knitted hats to her friends for $10 each, and donates that money to the shelter. So far, she’s raised $4,000 for the cause she’s passionate about and says she is considering veterinary medicine for her future. Benjamin She is also considering a future in medicine, and has a passion for classical music. He plays violin in a youth orchestra in Philadelphia. On Sundays, he teaches English at a Chinese school for the elderly. Raynor volunteers at a library and plays viola in the same youth orchestra as She. He also competes in the science Olympiad, math team and science fair and is looking to study medicine as well. “You can find time to study and do well academically while still having other passions,” said Baldassano. Congrats!

Inventor of Etch A Sketch Dies

His name probably does not sound that familiar but Andre Cassagnes’ product is definitely recognizable in most households across the world. Cassagnes is the inventor of the Etch A Sketch toy. It’s the perfect toy for children who love to draw—youngsters draw on the screen, then shake it up and start over. The toy inventor passed away at the

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The Week age of 86 in France on January 16. Cassagnes was an electrical technician when he came up with the Etch A Sketch idea in the late 1950s. He thought of it when he peeled a translucent decal from a light switch plate and found pencil mark images transferred to the opposite face. The Ohio Art company saw his idea at the Nuremberg Toy Fair in 1959. The toy, with its gray screen, red frame

and two white knobs that are twisted back and forth to create drawings, was launched in 1960 and became the top seller that holiday season. More than 100 million have been sold worldwide since. Now video games and tech-gadgets outshine the Etch A Sketch but the toy still has a steady market. After being featured in the first two “Toy Story” movies, sales got a big boost.

In News No Tip for You— Thanks to G-d A person claiming to be a pastor tried to stiff a waiter on a tip, explaining that her work for G-d absolved her of having to leave one. A photo of the receipt, posted to Reddit.com, shows a bill for $34.93 that included an automatic 18 percent gratuity ($6.29) above a blank space for an additional tip. “I give G-d 10%,” the diner wrote on the receipt, scratching out the automatic tip. “Why do you get 18?” The person then wrote “Pastor” above their signature and an emphatic “0” where the additional tip would be. The Reddit user who submitted the image explained in the comments section that the receipt was part of a total bill of over $200 for a party of 20, which is why the gratuity was automati-

cally added. “Parties up to eight…may tip whatever they’d like, but larger parties receive an automatic gratuity,” the server, Chelsea, wrote. “It’s in the computer, it’s not something I do.” Chelsea added: “They had no problem with my service, and told me I was great. They just didn’t want to pay when the time came.” She also added, “My mistake… I’m sure G-d will pay for my rent and groceries,” as most waitresses live off their tips since their base salary is generally low. But the story does not end there. This pastor, who was not embarrassed to deny her server a tip, found herself ashamed by the media attention and scorn surrounding this incident. She contacted the restaurant and ultimately Chelsea was fired. Talk about representing religion in a positive light.

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Five Towns Synagogue Has Not Forgotten Hurricane Sandy Victims

While New Yorkers move on with their lives after the devastation of the hurricane, some New York area victims of Sandy are still suffering. Even local, state, and federal officials who promised help are having difficulty remembering their initial promises of assistance. There is one institution, though, that has not forgotten. Congregation Beth Sholom (CBS) of Lawrence, NY, nestled in the midst of one of the hardest hit areas, For tickets, call (516) 646-285-5301 has not forgotten their neighbors or their or (516) 431-9715. neighboring communities. This year as they celebrate their 61st anniversary, CBS has been urged by their 2013 testimonial dinner honorees, Melodie and Marty Scharf, to do even more. For the first time, CBS has pledged to donate proceeds from their hachaim that is apparent to all who meet raffle to local victims of Hurricane Sanhim. “I believe in every child, and dy. “The storm wasn’t just a hiccup for they know that. The best part of my day some,” says Marty Scharf. “For many, it is when they pass my office and wave was a devastating reversal in their entire hello, or bring a project that they would lives. “ Scharf continues, “People have like to show me. My mantra is that a lost their businesses; some have children warm and loving environment is not a that had to switch schools, or who have contradiction to academic excellence. used their pension funds to survive and This is what we Boruch Hashem have rebuild. We have to keep these people in mind, even while the rest of us continue created here.” The first annual dinner of Bais to live our lives.” According to Lester Henner, dinYaakov Ateres Miriam will take place Motzei Shabbos, March 2th, on their ner chairman, based on last year’s recampus on Heyson Road. Their hon- ceipts they expect the raffle to exceed orees are their devoted teaching staff. $20,000. Henner says, “Usually we use Rabbi Neuman explains, “A teacher’s those proceeds for temple expenses, but job requires tremendous devotion under this year they are required elsewhere a normal circumstances. This year, due bit more.” Actually, Congregation Beth to hurricane Sandy, many of our staff Sholom is one of the region’s most arwere displaced, or had lost everything. dent supporters of people in need. In We even have one teacher who had to addition to participating weekly in food move to a different community, adding distribution for the needy for the Sab45 minutes to her commute. And yet, bath through its Tomchei Shabbos prothey all came, every day, with a smile gram, it also distributes cash weekly by on their face, and continued in their Rabbi Hain, Congregation Beth ShoAvodas HaKodesh. We are very hon- lom’s spiritual leader through the “Rabored to have each and every one of them bi’s Fund.” Congregation Beth Sholom also opened its doors and fed anyone in here with us.” Their first annual dinner is an event need during the power outage affectnot to be missed. You get the sense that ing the south shore of Long Island and Queens. this is history in the making. assisted the community of Long Beach during the aftermath of Hurricane Sandy. The event stems from the basic recognition that it behooves us to express gratitude to Hashem for His infinite kindness and for that matter, to anyone who has extended themselves on our behalf, whether materially, emotionally or financially.

Bais Yaakov Ateres Miriam Happiness – The Key to Academic Success Young children think, learn, and interact very differently than adults. They need a rich learning experience that will feed their brains and entice them to learn more. The years they spend in preschool and elementary school are the times that will build their foundation of learning and social and emotional growth. Bais Yaakov Ateres Miriam encourages their students to reach their potential in a warm, nurturing, yet challenging atmosphere. The combination of frontal teaching, differentiated learning and cooperative learning ensures that the girls will gain and retain important information and learning skills while guiding them in proper social skills and middos that befit a bas Yisroel. Because they are challenged in a developmentally appropriate way, they are excited about learning and see learning as fun rather than a chore. “The prevailing atmosphere of simcha in the school is a direct outgrowth of seeing every girl as a unique individual who is loved and valued,” says Mrs. Zytman, the preschool director. “They know that their efforts are valued, and it encourages them to reach their goals.” Rabbi Nosson Neuman, the Menahel of the school, emanates a simchas

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Under the guidance of Rabbi Kenneth Hain, Congregation Beth Sholom has become a powerhouse that wields its influence in many ways that help Jewish causes. Rabbi Hain, hailed as one of Top 25 Pulpit Rabbis in America by Newsweek Magazine, has made sure that issues important to the Jewish community are on the agenda in Washington D.C., in Albany, and at City Hall. Congregation Beth Sholom is well known for the enormous sums raised for Jewish causes like The United Jewish Appeal as well as the diversity of influential guest speakers from the highest levels of politics, religion, Israel, the United States, and Europe. Despite all the lofty arenas Congregation Beth Sholom participates in, Rabbi Hain is gratified that even the at the annual synagogue dinner which fundraises for its own budget, that he has members like Melodie and Marty who never forget the individual neighbors in need. Hain commented, “It’s crucial that we look at the big communal picture, but we mustn’t forget that the community is made up of individuals, and right now, these individuals are hungry, scared, and they need help. Congregation Beth Sholom is dedicated to one person, one family, one day at a time.” The proceeds of the raffle will be distributed through the Community Assistance Fund as well as CBS’ charity fund. The Congregation Beth Sholom 61st Annual Testimonial Dinner will take place on Saturday Night, March 2, 2013 8:15 PM at the synagogue. To make a dinner reservation or contribution in Honor of Melodie and Marty Scharf, or to purchase a raffle whose proceeds will benefit Hurricane Sandy Victims, please contact Congregation Beth Sholom at 390 Broadway, Lawrence, NY 11559, Phone: (516) 569-3600, Email:office@bethsholomlawrence.org.

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The annual Robert Chiger Scholarship Concert will take place on February 9th 2013 at 8:00 PM at the Young Israel of Long Beach, 120 Long Beach Boulevard, Long Beach, NY 11561. It will feature Avraham Fried and will include a Melevah Malkah sponsored by the Brach’s Supermarket. This year it was decided that the event will be dedicated to recognizing and expressing appreciation to all of the wonderful people and benefactors who

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Thirty-First Bikur Cholim Brunch Draws Great Turnout By Liba Lieberman On Sunday morning, December 2nd, many members of the Far Rockaway and Five Towns communities were still immersed in post-Sandy recovery efforts that would naturally preclude participating in a community event. Nevertheless, the thirty-first Bikur Cholim Annual Brunch was once again held in the lovely (and untouched) banquet hall of the White Shul, and any necessary activities were put aside to support this organization, whose sole purpose is to help Yidden in times of need. With a stunningly impressive turnout of over six hundred women, the brunch was attended by a standing-room-only crowd, as women from throughout the local neighborhoods banded together for this once-a-year fundraiser for the community’s Bikur Cholim. This year’s event featured the dynamic Rabbi Label Lam as guest speaker. A former fulltime lecturer for Arachim Seminars, Rabbi Lam has been inspiring businessmen, college students, and others for Ohr Somayach

International and Hamayan Institute for almost two decades. Rabbi Lam related that his mother used to say, “You can find sympathy in the dictionary.” What is needed, he continued, is empathy. One story he related involved a baal teshuvah who had a tattoo. Embarrassed by the tattoo, he would wear long sleeves throughout the year. One time, however, he decided to go to the mikvah, and he planned out how he could walk along the wall with a towel draped over his shoulder. On the actual day he went, however, he slipped on soap lying on the floor. He and his towel went flying, and he was devastated. All of a sudden, an elderly gentleman went over to him and showed him his arm, which had a tattoo of numbers from Auschwitz. The old gentleman said, “This is my gehennom. Mistama, this is your gehennom. Come, let’s go together into the mikvah.” In another story, Rabbi Lam spoke of a little orphan for whom a lady bought

clothes. She bought him more than he needed. At the end of the shopping, he asked her if she was Hashem. “No,” she said. “If you aren’t Hashem, who are you?” he asked. She answered, “I am one of Hashem’s messengers.” The little boy replied, “I knew you were related.” The Tehillim awardees, chosen for their contributions as volunteers, were Mrs. Hadassa Bobker and Mrs. Shani Moerman. Both dedicated members of Bikur Cholim keep the North Shore Hospital Bikur Cholim room stocked with kosher food for its Jewish patients. As a result of honoring these two special volunteers, the brunch was a great success. Dr. Neal Goldberg provided the Lev Leytzan clowns to entertain the children during the brunch. Chairladies were Mrs. Marilyn Wolowitz, Mrs. Tzippy David, and Mrs. Esther Feigenbaum. “The commitment to come and show chizuk at this time indicates an understanding of the vital function that Bikur Cholim plays in our community. A short amount of your time means a great difference in someone’s life,” Mrs. Wolowitz points out. Bikur Cholim of Far Rockaway and the Five Towns was originally the outgrowth of suburban life, which does not always feature a comprehensive transportation system. When elderly residents could not find a way to hospitals and doctors’ offices, local women volunteered to drive them to their appointments. That was over thirty years ago. Today, the organization includes its original mandate of driving people to appointments, but it has significantly expanded to include visiting Yidden in hospitals and residents in nursing homes, visiting or calling shut-ins, and cooking for families who are undergoing medical challenges or individuals who are homebound. Overwhelming medical bills are paid, as is home care after surgery, illness or childbirth. Physical therapy, laboratory work, dental work, eye care, prescriptions and mental health treatments are all part of the vast array of services to which the organization donates significant funding on behalf of the community it serves. Another facet of Bikur Cholim of Far Rockaway and the Five Towns is its equipment gemach – comprised wheelchairs, walkers and canes – located in the garage of Mrs. Jeanette

Baruch, in memory of her mother, Mrs. Hinda Karmel a”h. The women who choose to work with Bikur Cholim help those in desperate situations, and they also contribute to maintaining a healthy lifestyle for its recipients. Hospitals now included under the local Bikur Cholim’s care are St. John’s Episcopal Hospital, Mercy Hospital, and North Shore University Hospital. The transportation team drives residents not only to local doctors, but also to many appointments as far away as New York City, where many treatments take place. Attending a Bikur Cholim Brunch is giving testimony to how Yidden work in times of crisis and need. There is an underlying theme to this event, a theme that states the importance of making time for someone else, for stretching the limits of chessed to do even more. Since Superstorm Sandy, Bikur Cholim of Far Rockaway and the Five Towns has stretched its protective umbrella that much further over the lives of those stricken with homelessness or deficient living situations. Its cooking volunteers are on call to provide meals for those who cannot prepare meals for themselves, either because they are not living at home or are at home without cooking facilities. The group is particularly taxed because many of its volunteers lost their cars during Sandy. Getting new drivers and an adequate number of cars is a challenge that must be addressed as the recovery takes its long, difficult road back to normalcy. The current presidium members of Bikur Cholim of Far Rockaway and the Five Towns are Mrs. Marilyn Wolowitz, Mrs. Tzippy David and Mrs. Esther Ruzohorsky. Whether taking a resident to the optometrist or providing a ride to someone who is receiving treatments for a life-threatening illness, Bikur Cholim needs funds to continue its mission and to expand that mission now as the community struggles after the great storm. Pushkas are available, as are zmana-gram cards, which can be used for simchos, Purim, or personal use. Both can be purchased by calling the Bikur Cholim hotline at 718.327.5989 or 516.371.9662. Contributions can be mailed to Bikur Cholim of the Five Towns, P.O. Box 294, Lawrence, New York, 11559. Reprinted from the Yated.

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Throughout its sixteen year history, DRS has always made it a priority to look for ways to inspire its students’ religious growth outside the classroom as well as inside. Each year, the annual DRS Melave Malka helps promote just that. It is the

one night that the entire Yeshiva family, including fathers, mothers and sons, join together for a night of food, warmth, spirit and song, DRS style. This year’s Melave Malka focused on “Lessons Learned from Hurricane Sandy.” Students and parents heard from

those affected by the disaster and paid special tribute to those who went above and beyond to help those in need after the hurricane took place. Rabbi Tzvi Selengut,A a Shoel U’Meishiv at HALB’s Yeshivat Lev Shlomo, as well as the Rav of Congregation Ohab Zedek of Belle Harbor, spoke about the challenges that his community faced in the face of the storm, and of the tremendous growth, chessed, and strength that his Kehillah has shown since going through such a tumultuous experience. Following a moving kumzitz, the students and their parents were treated to a wonderful dinner and were treated to a video, recapping all of the events from DRS this year. Rabbi Kaminetsky also paid tribute to HALB Executive Director, Richie Hagler, and his assistant, Chaim Hollander, and thanked them for all the tremendous work they did to ensure that the students of DRS were returned to

their building after being dislocated for several weeks due to damaging flooding in its basement. Additionally, every year at the Melava Malka, DRS gives out two special awards to its students. The first is the Torah Growth Award, given to a student from each class last year who their Rebbe felt grew most in their Torah learning. The second award is the Middot Award, which is voted on by the students of each grade. The award is given to the student who the grade feels best exemplifies what a true Ben Torah with proper middot should be. We wish a Mazel Tov to all of the winners of the various awards. The night ended off with leibedik dancing and celebration with students, parents, and rabbeim.

Visiting Masada, Sdei Chemed Style!

As I placed my feet in the water to enter, a cut on my foot immediately began to sting. After the initial shock, however, the pain weakened and I journeyed deeper into the sea and joined the others. For once this summer we didn’t need to wear our life-jackets! We all just relaxed as we let our bodies simply stay afloat in the water. After a long tiring trip, this was a great way to chill and detox. Feeling newly rejuvenated, a more energetic (and healthy), camp made their way to the bus. Our last stop was at an off the road chill hike called Ein Bokek. We stomped through knee-high water as we made our way to an area with two waterfalls and a pond. We relaxed in the water and just enjoyed ourselves. But the calm didn’t last for long. We quickly transformed the slippery waterfalls into slides, which we used to launch ourselves into the water. Instead of returning to our base back near Yerushalayim we drove to a hotel in Yeruchim, a religious city located in the Negev. We immediately went to our rooms and took nice long naps. Finally relieved from our exhaustion, we got up a few hours later do daven micha, some learning and an awesome camp barbecue, where we ate delicious burgers and tasty wings. The hotel had beautiful lawns and a full size basketball court for us to chill. Our last activity of the night was at an indoor pool a short walk away from our hotel. We had the entire pool to ourselves. The pool was the perfect end to an action-packed day, that was not only exciting but relaxing as well. Tomorrow we will visit the Israeli Airforce museum and Chavat Na’ama, where a guy named Buki will give us a tour of his farm. Can’t wait!

Community Bais Yaakov Students Discover Through Experiments

Mrs. Moeller’s fifth grade science class has been exploring a fascinating unit about the human body. While learning about the skeletal system, a discussion developed about the importance of calcium. Students examined their eating habits and what they thought is needed for strong bones and teeth. To emphasize this need, the girls engaged in a hands-on experiment which brought the lesson to life. Each girl examined two chicken bones and considered their characteristics. They discovered they were hard and non-bendable. They then put one of the bones in a container of vinegar and one in a container of water to see what changes would occur in the bones. The containers were placed on the windowsill in the classroom so the

girls could observe them easily. Hypotheses varied. After five days passed, the girls re-examined the bones to see how they were affected by each of the liquids. They found that the bone that had been in the water was unchanged, while the bone that had been in vinegar was soft and bendable. They were amazed at the change and the difference between the two. The reason, they discovered, for this was the acid in the vinegar removed the calcium from the bone, which made the bone lose its hardness. Applying the lesson to their lives, they worked together on ways a loss of calcium could impact someone’s life. This experiment helped the girls understand why calcium is so important for us.

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Last night or rather this morning, we left our campus at 1:45 AM and headed straight for Masada. With our camelbacks strapped on, we prepared for the climb. We marched our way up the mountain using blazing torches as our only source of light. We climbed the ancient Roman ramp and so a quick 20 minutes later, we found ourselves on a beautiful mountaintop with a breathtaking view. As we started davening vasikin, the sun was barely visible, there was just a thin pink line in the sky, but by the time we reached Shimoneh Esrei, the sun had completely risen and was in full view. Davening this way, was not only magnificent on the eyes, but was also a very inspirational backdrop. After davening, we ate our pre-made breakfast along with an ice cold shoko, while we listened to a brief historical background on the story of Masada. We then finished off our stay on the mountain with our awesome camp flashmob dance; officially stamping the mountain with our authentic Sdei Chemed flare. At this point one can began to feel the heat of the sun and so we had the option of either going down the snake path to the air-conditioned activity center (the cable cars were not running yet), or stay and get an exclusive tour while the weather was still bearable. Being that I had never seen Masada’s landmarks before I decided to stay. The tour was truly amazing. Wiped from an already awesome start to the day, the entire camp loaded on the bus and headed for The Dead Sea. We arrived at the Yam Hamelech, which today has a beautiful separate beach, just 20 minutes later. The Dead Sea’s appearance is a bit deceiving: shiny and beautiful from the outside, yet full of burning salt water on the inside.

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Almost 3 months after Hurricane Sandy, 65% of the homes in Far Rockaway still contain Sandy-generated mold. Thousands of homes in the area where without power for weeks! We need an elected official in the City Council who will actually care and fight for our community. Pesach Osina was there for us during Sandy. Pesach Osina worked tirelessly alongside Assemblyman Phil Goldfeder. Pesach Osina has the experience and a track record of getting things done. Pesach Osina will fight for you and the families in our community.

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The close to 500 guests who will be experiencing Pesach in paradise at The Luxury Sheraton Hotel in Maui may well get even more than they bargained for… In the highly competitive business of Pesach retreats, Phillip and Dayna Klitzner recognized several months ago that in order to create the buzz they desired and to ensure that Hawaii Pesach 2013 is a smash hit, they would have to “pull out all the stops” and design a program that ensured the highest levels of both gushmiyas and ruchniyas…and, that is exactly what they have done! For starters, Hawaii Pesach 2013 boasts an all-star cast of world renowned speakers with a broad appeal… The speakers include the most prominent Shomer Shabbos radio host in America, Michael Medved; one of the most influential political lay leaders in the USA, Malcolm Hoenlein, Executive Vice Chairman of the Conference of Presidents of Major American Jewish Organizations; prominent askan, moti-

vational speaker, Stand-up Comic and Wall Street executive, Rabbi Chanan (Antony) Gordon; and one of the most prominent presenters on women’s issues, Rebbetzin Lori Palatnik, amongst others … The location is hard to beat, nestled along one of the most stunning parts of the Hawaii coastline. Hawaii Pesach 2013 also has taken the entertainment aspect of the Pesach retreat to a totally new level with a range of unique performers and events including a beach front concert with 8th Day. According to Phillip, guests will be treated to several surprises which will remain under wraps until they arrive. One thing is clear though…Hawaii Pesach 2013 will surely be a life time memory for one and all. Hawaii Pesach 2013 is almost already sold out completely. If you wish to try and secure one of the remaining rooms, feel free to call Phillip Klitzner directly at (206) 226-7082 or e-mail info@hawaiianpesach.com.

Rambam Radicals Ranked as 1st Place Yeshiva The Rambam Radicals, led by their coach, Mr. Jeff Ganeles, scored 24 out of a possible 30 points at their 4th monthly Math Meet. They rank in 17th place in the entire Nassau Count Interscholastic Math League (NCIML), and are also the #1 ranked Yeshiva in the county. Each month, a team of students compute six advanced math equations,

which require students to think “outside of the box.” The competition is cumulative and the winning team is determined at the end of six meets. Senior Yair Lichtman, who has already won a YU Merit Scholarship, is currently ranked 10th overall student in the county.

Rambam Mesivta Moms’ Book Club Discusses The Cat’s Table The home of Anne Roffe, mother of Rambam freshman Jacob, was recently the site of the latest Mesivta Moms’ Book Club Discussion. Moderated by Assistant Principal Hillel Goldman, the discussion centered around Michael Ondaatje’s award winning novel, The Cat’s Table. Mr. Goldman provided background information and context for the book’s unusual setting which traces the jour-

ney of young boy who leaves 1950s Columbo, goes across three oceans and two seas before beginning his new life in England. The book is as much a spiritual journey of growth as it is a physical journey, and the decisions the narrator had to face, as well as its post-modern narrative approach made for a lively book chat. The next meeting will be in April. For more information, please contact the school at info@rambam.org.

Because of the Special Election on that day. Our community has been ignored for too long. We must make our voices heard in City Hall. Pesach Osina is running for New York City Council in order to help us and represent us in City Hall. Our community came together with great achdus in 2011 and elected Phil Goldfeder to the New York State Assembly. But presently our community has no representation in the New York City Council. Political experts have predicted that the winner will be decided by a mere few votes! Your vote will deliver a clear message that we cannot be ignored.

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Yeshiva Har Torah 7th Grade Boys Celebrate Their Siyum in Kew Gardens Hills On Wednesday, January 9th, the 7th grade boys at YHT, accompanied by Rabbi Yisrael Silverman and Rabbi Ahron Rosenthal, celebrated their completion of Parshat Shelach with a trip to Kew Gardens Hills. The boys headed first to Yeshivat Ohr Hachaim, where they had the zechut to meet and hear Divrei Torah from Rabbi Finkelman. Rabbi Finkelman is a well-known Rav and educator who has taught many students over the years, and this was the fourth consecutive year that the 7th grade boys have met with him. It is always a highlight

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of the year meeting with Rabbi Finkelman, and this year was no exception. The boys walked away inspired and uplifted from the Rabbi’s insights into the mitzvah of tzizit and mitzvah of guarding one’s eyes. Following the meeting, the boys went to Carlos and Gabby’s for a festive lunch celebrating the siyum. At lunch, one of the boys shared a short dvar Torah from the parsha of Shelach, making it a true Seudat Mitzvah. It was a great trip and a wonderful opportunity to bond with their teachers and friends.

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Bringing in Pesach on February 19th By Eli Shapiro zations within the community. Leandre successfully siphoned $1.4 million of city funds for field improvements for his Rosedale Jets youth football team. You probably did not notice such a significant amount of funds being poured into our community, because our institutions received less than 1% of those funds. Yes, you read correctly, our com-

Pesach Osina is a true public servant who is a hard worker who gets things done and more often than not shies away from the limelight. In his own quiet way, Pesach has been one of the most impactful community leaders in recent years. Whether it was his work as an active board member of the Jewish Community Council (JCCRP), or

We are the recipients of the 1% for far too long. It is time for our community to receive its fair share, and that will only happen with us coming out to vote for Pesach Osina.

munity mosdos received less than 1% of the $30 million dollars allocated for our district. It would seem only fair that since our community makes up approximately 12% of the district, we would see an equitable amount of funding for our community institutions and programs, yet, less than 1% is what we have actually received. Folks, we are the 1%. We are the recipients of the 1% for far too long. It is time for our community to receive its fair share, and that will only happen with us coming out to vote for Pesach Osina.

on the Far Rockaway Jewish Alliance and Community Emergency Response Team (CERT), Pesach has been a real asset to the community. Most recently, he started a Chanukah toy collection and distribution organization in Far Rockaway that provided toys to hundreds of needy families. In addition, Pesach has been instrumental in helping many Yeshivos and Mosdos deal with larger communal issues. Hatzalah was having difficulty with a utility that was being unresponsive; Pesach’s intervention led to swift

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At this time, if you are a resident of the Far Rockaway or Bayswater Jewish community, the name Pesach Osina and the words “Special Election February 19th” should be stuck in your head like the line “I flip my latkes in the air sometimes” from that Maccabeats song from a couple of years back. This election is serious business. Sure there is the usual election concern about showing up as a bloc and demonstrating our power in numbers to the power brokers that pick apart the turnout for each election district, street by street, house by house to see which neighborhoods are really active and which ones are not. And yes, the rumors that candidate Jaques Leandre served as the defense counsel for the Nation of Islam and was a guest on the Sankofa Experience, a podcast hosted by Brian E. Muhammad, an advocate of the organization under the leadership of Louis Farrakahn, are absolutely true. But the serious business of this election is the actual business local government. Many people do not realize how much is financially at stake for our community should we fail to come out and vote Pesach Osina into office. Over the past five years, the 31st council district was allocated as part of the city budget over $30 million. That’s $30 million for programming, services, and infrastructural development that was given out to agencies and organi-

Pesach Osina has worked with Senator Schumer, Congressman Meeks and government representatives on every level of government to advocate for our community.

action. He helped OHEL get necessary state permits in order to continue plans for a large fundraising event and has worked hand in hand with the JCC and Achiezer to assist whenever necessary with government action. Pesach Osina is not your typical politician; he is a public servant with a track record of delivering for the community. In City Hall, Pesach will make sure our community is adequately represented and make sure we get our fair share. Let’s make sure that on February 19th we help Pesach help us.

Song and Dance for the First Graders at Bais Yaakov of Queens Bais Yaakov of Queens’ first graders received their first siddurim this week! The girls performed magnificently. Their small voices, with the acGreencompaniment of Mrs. Rena berg, sang melodic songs with huge messages about the meaning of tefil-

lah. Their pride in what they accomp lished was evident in each and every student’s smile, and oh, how they smiled! Rabbi Gewirtz addressed the many parents and grandparents in the audience about the power and beauty of

children’s tefillos. He then presented each student with her personalized siddur. Mrs. Somerstein congratulated the students on their spectacular performance and knowledge. She said, “Our first graders began their lifelong journey of communication with Hashem by

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receiving their first siddurim. During their years at BYQ they will learn the meaning of the tefillos, the kavana behind the meaning and the halachic approach to reciting these tefilos. It is our heartfelt wish that Hashem will accept the beautiful tefilos of these tinokos shel beis raban.” Students and family were treated to a delicious display arranged by Mrs. Vita Abramchik. The giant mazal tov cake, personalized presents, pictures, balloons and nosh were enjoyed by everyone in the Bais Yaakov family. A video of the event will iy”H be distributed to each family to ensure the memory of the day will remain an inspiration to the students for years to come as they continue to daven with such fervor and enthusiasm as they learned in first grade.

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SKA Welcomes Eighth Graders Over 120 eighth graders from several metropolitan elementary schools recently got a taste of what their high school experience at the Stella K. Abraham High School for Girls would be like. With SKA students serving as welcoming ambassadors, girls from HALB, Shulamith, YCQ, HANC and others got a glimpse of some of the highlights the school has to offer, along with the warmth and energy it projects. After refreshments, the eighth graders heard from Mrs. Helen Spirn, Head of School; Rabbi Dr. Jeff Rothman, Principal of Grades 9-10; and Rabbi Yosef Zakutinsky, Director of Student Programming, followed by panelists from different grades who answered questions about the school and discussed their own high school experiences. Mrs. Yael Gelernter, Admissions Liaison, who helped plan the day’s events, personally greeted all the girls she had met during the interview process. Can you see yourself at SKA? The visitors were placed into various groups and had the opportunity to “spend an hour at SKA” by attending Tanach, art,

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n honor of Tu B’Shevat, the sixth grade girls designed a simulated Israeli shuk for the elementary school. Upon entering, the students handed in their passports and received shekalim to purchase items in the shuk. This was a wonderful hands-on learning experience for the students as they became familiar with the Israeli culture. Their teachers, Morah Michelle Farbman and Morah Alyssa Schussheim, worked very hard in creating the beautiful and enjoyable shuk. math, and dance classes. They even played Panoply, giving them a chance to meet girls applying from other schools and experience the creative and unique programming SKA has to offer. The hallways thronged with current and hopeful students making their way to their various classrooms. SKA binders filled with SKA paraphernalia were among the souvenirs the eighth graders took home. It was a wonderful way to end a very informative day.

Annual Rashi Breakfast at Bnos Malka Academy This past week, the third grade talmidos of Bnos Malka Academy had their annual Rashi Breakfast. When the students have completed learning all of their Rashi letters, we celebrate the momentous occasion with a Rashi Breakfast. The students were privileged to hear Rabbi Weichselbaum speak to them about the kedusha of Rashi and how learning Rashi is integral part of learning Torah. The talmidos were so inspired and involved in the discussion, that they kept asking more insightful questions, and didn’t want the speech to end! After dining on a delicious breakfast, the students played an exciting scavenger hunt game for Rashi letters, which they then had to transform into a phrase they had already learned from chum a s h . N e x t , each student decorated a beautiful picture frame, and on

the inside was each girl’s name written in Rashi letters. It is amazing how creative our students are! These are handmade keepsakes that our students will cherish for a long time to come. At the conclusion of the exciting morning, the students were reminded that now the real work begins: learning to extrapolate Rashi’s question, and understand the answer as well. Boruch Hashem our students are well on their way to accomplishing this important milestone in their learning. We wish the talmidos many years of inspiration and growth from learning Rashi and much nachas to their parents, teachers, and families.

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Yeshivat Kol Yaakov and Bnot Yaakov Host Community Melava Malka Yeshivat Kol Yaakov and Bnot Yaakov of Great Neck enjoyed an affable and spiritually uplifting Parent Appreciation Melava Malka last Motzei Shabbat. Under the guidance of Rabbi Mordechai Kashani, Menahel of Yeshi-

community to share in their Melava Malka, enjoy a delicious dairy buffet and learn about their new and thriving schools. Renowned speaker and master mechanech, Rabbi Jonathan Rietti, was the featured guest speaker and the room overflowed with far more people than expected, listening intently as he addressed current issues in parenting and chinuch habanim in today’s challenging world. He spoke about the responsibility incumbent upon each parent to convey Torah values to Bnot Yaakov Students create their own “Little Trees” their children vat Ohr Haim in Queens, Yeshivat Kol not merely by “telling” about them but Yaakov and Bnot Yaakov are flourish- by living them. “We teach our children ing new schools located in the Great values when we’re out on vacation and Neck area of Long Island. Created to we still make sure to take time out to do serve Great Neck’s growing religious learning…when we show our children Sephardi community, Yeshivat Kol that we make sure to daven with a minYaakov and Bnot Yaakov, for boys and yan…” Rabbi Rietti also discussed the girls respectively, invited the entire importance of chinuch and of support-

to get not only a glimpse of academic work, but into their own child’s selfperception as growing “trees.. One child wrote, “Trees need sunlight and I need the warmth of Torah and a family…” and another wrote, “Trees have fruits and I can have children and grow up to be like my mother…” The

Rabbi Kashani, Principal of Yeshivat Kol Yaakov and Bnot Yaakov, and Rabbi Jonathon Rietti

ing quality local chinuch in one’s area. The evening’s theme was “Little Trees” with the students of Yeshivat Kol Yaakov and Bnot Yaakov starring as the featured Little Trees in question. In honor of the Melava Malka, the students created beautiful “trees” of their own as the centerpieces that decorated all tables. Each child created his or her own tree and wrote a composition describing how she/he is like an “Eitz Katan/a Little Tree.” Trees were adorned with flowers, fruit and students’ pictures, and parents got to take them home at the end of the evening. As parents admired the Tree Project and read through the compositions, many expressed how truly wonderful it was

Rabbi Rietti addressing Kol Yaakov and Bnot Yaakov Parents

centerpieces illuminated student perspectives on their role in the future of Am Yisrael while also, as writing projects, demonstrated both Kol Yaakov and Bnot Yaakov’s commitment to academic excellence.

TMM’s The Bamboo Cradle – A Smashing Success! A smashing success! A five star performance! A sensational dramatic coup! Lest you think these are descriptions of a Broadway play, please note with great pride and pleasure that these

accolades apply to a local high school production. Tichon Meir Moshe’s performance of The Bamboo Cradle, held on Motzai Shabbos, February 2nd, and Sunday,

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February 3rd, surpassed all typical high school production expectations. The script, based on the book of the same title, depicts the upbringing of a Chinese girl in the home of a Jewish family, and the family’s journey towards increased Jewish observance. The performances in Lawrence Middle School were played to packed audiences who were simply awed at the professionalism and sheer beauty of the sets and costumes. A pagoda and a stone archway were built expressly for the play and the costumes, sewn by the high school girls themselves, were authentic down to the tiniest details on the kimonos, obis, hair buns, and dramatic stage makeup. TMM girls participated in a variety of ways to bring this play to its final magnificent stage. The students were involved in working on the playbill, handling ticket sales, organizing props and scenery, creating spectacular song

and dance routines and, of course, acting in the play itself. The play was directed by Mrs. Chana Katzin, a TMM Chemistry teacher who has had years of play production experience in Camp Bnos. Behind-the-scenes consultants were Mrs. Chaya Gornish, Mrs. Adina Mandel, and Mrs. Ruchie Sokoloff. Although part of the administration, there is no aspect of TMM in which they are not closely involved. The cooperation of staff and students in this magnificent production is typical of all TMM ventures. In this particular case, the concerted efforts of all were so successful, that one grandmother asserted that The Bamboo Cradle “was the best play I ever saw.” The rave reviews around the community concur with this opinion.

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Kosher Cupcake Bake-Off at Breezy’s Mixes Up An Afternoon of Food and Fun For Achiezer other impressive panel of judges including Bobbie Lloyd, President and Operating Partner, Magnolia Bakery; Alessandra Rovati, an Italian food writer and lecturer and founder of dinnerinvenice. com; and Tamar Genger MA, RD Director of Digital Media for Kosher Media Network and Executive Editor for JoyofKosher.com. The contestants were incredibly talented at their trade! They included Melissa Kaye of lilmisscakes.com, Faige Goldner of cupofcakenj.com, Michelle Goodman Frohlich of cakeabite.com, and Shira Perlman of DelightfullySweet.com. They all produced some of the most amazing looking, and tasting cucpakes, I have ever had. All of these cupcakes, from cake to frosting, were dairy-free. Part of the fun in

this event was the element of surprise. The contestants were sent a box of ingredients to use in their cupcakes earlier in the week. These ingredients included Cherry Heering Liqueur and Coffee Liqueur, King Arthur flour, fig jam, and balsamic vinegar. They could either use all of them in one cupcake, or use them in three different cupcakes. For the icing on the cake, literally, the contestants had to pick three of the following ingredients: pomegranate seeds, lavender, cumin, cinnamon maple butter, apricot kernel oil and wild sweet orange Tazo tea. The theme that they had to create in their cupcakes was Purim. They had a total of 45 minutes to create their frosting from scratch and decorate their cupcakes. Once the clock started, attendees watched as the contestants made their way to great creations. Breezy provided all of the tools and fondant a cupcake designer could desire. When their time was up, the contestants presented their cupcakes, all so inventive and festive. Once the judges had a chance to view and taste the three cupcakes from each

contestant, they took a few minutes to make their decision. During this time, the winners of the raffle prizes were announced. The raffle prize sponsors included Joy of Kosher, Earth Balance, KitchenAidUSA, King Arthur Flour, Breezysny.com, Not2Shabbey.com, and Fairway Market. The winner of the cupcake competition went to Cup of Cake NJ. Faige Goldner, with her baby in tow, created Fig Cupcakes with Pomegranate Cream Cheese Frosting. Faige’s cupcakes and winning recipe will be featured on joyofkosher.com and in the Shavuot issue of Joy of Kosher Magazine with Jamie Geller. Thank you again to all of the event organizers including SweetUP Team Esti Berkowitz and Abbey Wolin, Breezy Beckerman of Breezy’s, and Beth Rosen of 4KeysMedia.com. It was really an honor to be a part of such a great event with such an important message. Welook forward to the 2nd Annual Kosher Cupcake Bake-Off!

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Koko Fitclub Introduces Koko Fuel Custom Nutrition Personalized, results-driven nutritional guidance program is part of patented, high-tech fitness system On Feb. 4, Koko FitClub, the stateof-the-art workout centers with the patented Smartraining automated personal training system, launches Koko Fuel, an integrated nutrition program that builds individually customized, nutritionistrecommended, online meal plans for members here in Cedarhurst, Hewlett and at all its 120 locations nationwide. Koko Fuel is the third element of the Koko Smartraining system that includes strength and cardio regimens designed for each member’s unique goals and fitness level. The visionary Koko FitClub workout centers are known for their commitment to helping members build healthy lifestyles upon a foundation of lean muscle with highly efficient, personalized fitness regimens that offer the benefits of a 90-minute workout in just 30 minutes. Koko Fuel was developed by a team led by top nutritionist Debra Wein, MS, RD, LDN, CWPD. The program is not a diet, but rather provides research-based nutritional guidance and online meal

plans to burn fat, build lean muscle and “Fuel” each member’s personal Smartraining workouts. “Koko Fuel completes the Koko Smartraining experience with a sound, evidence-based nutrition program designed to help our members build and preserve their body’s foundation of precious lean muscle,” said local Koko FitClub owner Hinda Mizrahi. “We started this business with the belief that through technology, we can change lives in our communities with a simpler, faster, more effective path to fitness, and Koko Fuel is the next step in doing that.” To get started with Koko Fuel, Koko FitClub members will consult with their club’s FitCoach, who will help select a fitness goal and intensity level. The member’s profile is then loaded onto a key that contains the member’s individual workout data that integrates with the Koko Fuel plan and is tracked on the member’s personal online portal at www.mykokofitclub.com. “It’s no secret that being fit and

healthy requires a combination of healthy eating and exercise, but no one has ever integrated the two like Koko FitClub does,” said Koko FitClub Chief Fitness Officer Michael Wood, CSCS. “No one else in the world can offer this holistic, simple path to success in a customized, automated fitness system like we do.” For locations and membership information, go to www.kokofitclub.com.

efits of a 90-minute workout in just 30 minutes, combined with Koko Fuel, the program’s integrated nutritional component. In 2012, the company received a Franchise Business Review Franchisee Satisfaction Award and this year was named to the 2013 Entrepreneur Magazine Franchise 500. For more information, go to www.kokofitclub. com, www.youtube.com/user/KokoFitClubChannel or www.facebook.com/ KokoFitClub.

About Koko FitClub The first Koko FitClub opened in Boston in 2008 as an efficient, leanmuscle-building alternative to traditional gyms, and today has more than 120 company-owned and franchise FitClubs in 30 states. Its name, Koko, inspired by the Japanese word for individual, refers to Koko FitClub’s fully customized fitness and nutrition programs that make up the patented Koko Smartraining System. The Smartraining System is automated personal strength and cardio training, offering the ben-

About Koko FitClub Five Towns Koko FitClub Cedarhurst and Hewlett locally owned by Hinda Mizrahi is part of a fast-growing community of Koko FitClubs across the United States. Koko FitClub Cedarhurst is located at 134 Cedarhurst Avenue between Central Avenue and the train tracks and Koko FitClub Hewlett is located at 1270 Peninsula Blvd, in Hewlett next to the CVS. Parking is available in the CVS parking lot.

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Machon Basya Rochel Announces Newly Expanded Women’s Adult Education Division Machon Basya Rochel Seminary, located at 137 Lawrence Ave in Lawrence N.Y., is considered to be one of the premier girls’ seminaries in the United States. Under the leadership of Rebbetzin Aviva Feiner, in only three short years, the student enrollment in the seminary has grown to over 40 students. Over the past three years, the seminary has opened its doors to adult women in the community through its regular Yom Iyun programming and a once a week Tanach course, but the demand for adult women to have the opportunity to have a mini seminary experience was growing. As a result, Machon Basya Rochel developed its spring semester for adult women’s education featuring an eclectic group of dynamic presenters. Women can sign up for any one of four textual collegiate level courses and two health and wellness program focusing on positivity and well-being. Courses Tuesdays from 10:00am – 10:50 am will feature Our Spiritual DNA with Mrs. Temima Feldman, noted lecturer and Principal at TAG. This course has been described as a journey of selfdiscovery using the women of Tanach as a guide. The classes are based on the

text of Tanach including Rishonim and Talmudic sources. More contemporary sources including the works of Rabbi Dessler, Rebbitzen Tziporah Heller and others will also be studied. Through the course, women will learn the personality strengths of well-known and less well recognized women in Tanach including Sarah, Hagar, Esther, Rus, Bnos Tzlafchad among others. Each of these women developed a unique trait within them to such a deep degree that it continues to be passed on to all Jewish women through today. Their interactions and conversations documented in the text and Chazal will glean insights into present-day issues such as child raising, sibling rivalry, women’s intuition, marriage, Eretz Yisrael and more. The Kings and the Prophets: Jewish Monarchy in Melachim will be taught by Mrs. Vivienne Frank on Tuesdays from 1:00 – 1:50pm. Participants will uncover lessons for daily life in the text of the Tanach. The goal of this course is to study the personalities and events in Melachim with the guidance of the classical meforshim – Rashi, Metzudos, Radak, and the Medrashim—in order to uncover the lessons that are relevant to the lives of Jewish women today. Enhancing the Kedusha of your

Home with Mrs. Yocheved Shonek, a teacher at Machon Basya Rochel, will take place on varying Tuesdays and Thursdays in February and March. This course will be a review of the Halachos and Hashkafos of Taharas Hamishpacha. This seven-part series is for married women who want to rejuvenate the unique qualities of their relationships as well as refresh their knowledge of this mitzvah. This period of Shovavim has been designated by Chazal as a time to work on our Taharas Hamishpacha. Participants will have the opportunity to engage Mrs. Shonek in a comfortable discussion with a focus on personal growth and development that will surely inspire you to strengthen the tahara of your home. Wednesdays from 11:15 to 12:15 will feature Perkei Avos, Walking in Wisdom’s Footsteps with internationally acclaimed speaker Rabbi Y.Y. Rubinstein. This lecture series analyzes the commentary of the Alshich HaKodesh to discover the wisdom and advice of some of the greatest minds of Klal Yisroel. It uncovers the transmission process by which the Torah comes to us today, essential, relevant and vibrant. Special emphasis will be placed on applying the timeless insights of

the Talmud’s giants to our own time’s struggles and challenges. Health and Well-Being Courses With the understanding that overcoming struggles and challenges often requires more than textual study, MBR is also offering opportunities for adult women to participate in their health and well-being programming. On Wednesdays between 11:15 and 12:15, Mrs. Elisheva Liss will be running a workshop series entitled Joyful Living which will use spirituality and human consciousness to enhance the experience of living. And finally, Mrs. Devorah Yaffe will be offering Yoga on Wednesdays from 8:00pm – 9:15pm. Participants will be taught effective techniques in movement with breath, increasing strength, flexibility, coordination, concentration, and balance body awareness, allowing individuals to experience a calm mind and a sense of body. Machon Basya Rochel is committed to providing excellent learning opportunities for women of all ages. For more information about the courses and registration fees, please call 516-362-5000 or email info@mbrseminary.org.

Rambam Mesivta Adult Lecture Series Begins On Monday evening, Feb 4th, Rambam’s very own Principal, Rabbi Yotav Eliach gave a most inspiring and impassioned overview of Zionism. While the lecture started off with an emotional connection to the Land of Israel and the living prophecy it represents, it ended with a rational and logical conclusion that the Land of Israel, Zionism and Torah Judaism are inextricably linked. One could hear a pin drop as Rabbi Eliach thoughtfully presented the antiZionism arguments by both non-Jews and Jews alike while taking his time to refute each and every one of their points in a most convincing manner. During the lecture, Rabbi Eliach first redefined Judaism since, in the

views of many, Judaism is simply religious and cultural in nature; however, people seem to have forgotten along the way that a significant component of Torah Judaism is its outline and structure for a society that runs its own state. While the anti-Zionist propaganda machine tries with all its might to communicate the Zionism=Western Imperialism premise, religious Zionists hold on firmly to the Torah concept of returning to the land of our people. Zionism=Jewish Nationalism. Rabbi Eliach ended his lecture with inspiring messages of hope, renewal, success, ingenuity, might and resolve. Don’t miss the rest of the lectures. Monday, February 11: Rabbi Yotav Eliach, Israel, The Story Of The Modern Day Return

Monday, February 18: Rabbi Zev Meir Friedman, Purim, The Untold Story. A Glimpse Behind The Scenes Monday, February 25: Mr. Joel Berkowitz, Martin Luther And The Jews...A Prelude To The Holocaust Luther’s original book, “The Jews and Their Lies” from 1542 as well as the original decree of Fredrick of Prus-

sia from 1703 removing words from Aleinu and the infamous Nuremberg Laws will be on display Monday, March 4: Rabbi Yotav Eliach, The Siege: 1949 to the Present Monday, March 11: Rabbi Yotav Eliach, Jerusalem, Who Does It Really Belong To? And Why

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Submitted by Chaim Levi Shurin Three boys are in the schoolyard bragging of how great their fathers are. The first one says: “Well, my father runs the fastest. He can fire an arrow and start to run, and I tell you, he gets there before the arrow.” The second one says: “Ha! You think that’s fast! My father is a hunter. He can shoot his gun and be there before the bullet.” The third one listens to the other two and shakes his head. He then says: “You two know nothing about fast. My father works for the government. He stops working at 4:30 and he is home by 3:45!”

Submitted by Nesanel Shiran How much dirt is there in a hole that measures two feet by three feet by four feet? Answer on next page

• You Too Can Do Housework

• Combating The Impulse To Nag

• How To Properly Fill An Ice Tray

• You Too Can Change The Oil

• Get A Life – Learn To Cook

• How To Do All Your Laundry In One Load and Have More Time To Watch Football

• How Not To Act Like An Idiot When You Are Obviously Wrong • Balancing A Checkbook – Even You Can Get It Right • Understanding Your Financial Incompetence • How To Close The Garage Door • Pairing Socks - It’s Not As Hard As It Looks • If You Don’t Want An Excuse, Don’t Demand An Explanation • Garbage – Getting It To The Curb • Living Without Power Windows – How To Turn A Crank • You Cannot Always Wear Whatever You Please • Payday and Shopping Are Not Synonymous • How To Adjust Your Eyes If you Happen To Wake Up Before Nine In The Morning

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• Give Me A Break – Why We Know Your Excuses Are Lies

• How To Close the Top On the Toothpaste

• Helpful Posture Hints For Couch Potatoes

• Sorry: How To Pretend You Mean It

• Smiling: How To Do It Even When Your Parents Don’t Hand You A Wad Of Bills

• Life Beyond The Six Strings Of Your Off-Tuned Guitar

• The Weekend and Sports Are Not Synonymous

• Why Hello Is Not a Nasty Word

• How Not To Act Younger Than Your Children

3. The Van Wyck Expressway, the Grand Central Parkway, the Long Island Expressway, the VerrazanoNarrows and Throgs Neck Bridges, Shea Stadium, and the Lincoln Center were all initiated or completed during whose tenure? a. John Vliet Lindsay b. Abraham David Beame c. Vincent Richard Impellitteri d. Robert Ferdinand Wagner

5. Which mayor was so straightlaced that he declared, “[City workers] must not roll in city automobiles with cigars in their mouths...[or] be conspicuous at baseball games when they should be in their offices”? a. Michael Bloomberg b. John F. Hylan c. William O’Dwyer d. David Dinkins 6. Which mayor was a Democrat then became a Republican to run for office then became an independent once in office? (Hint: He also changed the city’s term limit to run for a third term and wants to take away your sodas too.) a. Grebmoolb Leahcim b. Michael Bloomberg c. Kesefyane EsHakol d. Flipflop Likaphish

7. Which mayor said, “I’m not the type to get ulcers… I give them?” a. Ed Koch b. Rudy Giuliani c. John Lindsay d. Abraham David Beame Answers: 1. D- Fiorello LaGuardia (mayor 1934— 1945) 2. B- Jimmy Walker (Johnnie’s brother) (mayor 1926-1932) 3. D- Robert Wagner (mayor 1954-1965) 4. D- Robert Van Wyck (mayor 1898—1901) 5. B- John F. Hylan (mayor 1918-1925) 6. B- Michael Bloomberg (mayor 2001- until who knows when) 7. A- Ed Koch (mayor 1978-1989) Wisdom Key: 5-7 Correct: You are a true New Yorka’—very impressive. 3-4 correct: Not bad, unless you got 1 and/or 6 wrong, in which case see the next comment. 0-1 correct: You belong in Dis-gracey Mansion (but you probably don’t even get the joke, so never mind).

Claim...Debt... Scratch I mean, Game...Set...Match! Find a rhyme for each word below so you end up with a familiar three-word phrase:

1. Stop, Drop, and Roll Answer Answer to riddle: No dirt – it’s just a hole.

7. Warning, Soon, Flight

2. Hook, Line, and Sinke

6. Steady, Filling, Label

3. Hop, Skip, and Jump

5. Sock, Rock, Peril

4. Blood, Sweat, and Tears

4. Mud, Wet, Smears

5. Lock, Stock, and Barrel

3. Mop, Slip, Thump

6. Ready, Willing, and Able

2. Cook, Wine, Drinker

7. Morning, Noon, and Night

1. Shop, Swap, Dole

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4. According to the New York Times, this mayor “became involved in probably more scandals than any mayor in the city’s history.” What is his name? (Hint: There is also a horrible highway named after him.) a. Timothy Belt b. Henry Hudson c. Robert Van Wyck d. Roger Staten Island

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Inside A Psychotherapy Practice

South Shore Cognitive Therapy Answers Your Questions

Jonathan Cohen, PsyD

Sara Schwartz-Gluck, LCSW

“Another important aspect of CBT is the collaborative relationship between the therapist and the client, where the client is seen as an expert on him or herself.”

“Children, teachers, and parents each become an essential part of the treatment process.”

Jonathan Cohen, PsyD and Sara Schwartz-Gluck, LCSW have written informative articles for TJH, enlightening readers about the world of therapy and psychotherapy in this day and age. TJH was able to speak with both of them at their practice, South Shore Cognitive Therapy. TJH: Hi Dr. Cohen, it’s a pleasure to introduce you to the readers at TJH. Can you tell me a bit about your professional background? JC: I went to University of Maryland for my undergraduate degree in psychology. After that I went on to Ferkauf Graduate School of Psychology, where I earned a Master’s and then a Doctorate in Clinical Psychology. A great benefit of Ferkauf’s rigorous program was that I had numerous and diverse training experiences both in inner city hospitals and private practice settings. TJH: What inspired you to found SSCT in the Five Towns area? JC: An area of psychology that I think is incredibly important is cognitive theory and the practice of cognitive behavioral therapy. I noticed pretty clearly that there was a lack of professionals with advanced training in evidence based therapies, and I thought our community could benefit from that kind of practice, since our community suffers just as much as any from emotional and behavioral problems in our children and ourselves. That’s what inspired me: the potential to create value in people’s lives. Also, I wanted to create a practice that could provide full service treatment to clients. At South Shore Cognitive Therapy, we have clinicians with a variety of specializations. We are able to offer very high quality psycho-educational testing (which can be difficult in school settings), and alternative therapies such as play and art therapy for younger school aged children. TJH: What are the primary problems that you treat? JC: The most common problems are mood and anxiety disorders, and obviously those are connected with self-esteem problems in children and in adults. These problems really interfere with individual and family functioning. In children, other common problems include disruptive behavior problems such as oppositional behavior at home and in school, as well as attention deficit hyperactivity disorder. I see the gamut of all types of problems in children and adults. TJH: Sometimes people have some moodiness or anxiety—how does one know if they need to come to therapy, or if they or their children are just struggling with something that they can deal with on their own? JC: I hear this question from parents a lot, and the answer is to ask, “Is my child functioning well?” Someone may be anxious, but may still be able to func-

tion relatively well, so the costs and benefits of engaging in a therapeutic process need to be weighed based on how well the person is functioning, and how much distress they feel. A person could be functioning at a high level, but may be miserable, anxious, and depressed. They may be doing all the things they need to do, but they may not feel well at all. So it’s personal decision—and people need to weigh the costs of therapy both in time and money, vs. how much the problem interferes with healthy function and the distress they are in. TJH: You mention the words “cognitive therapy.” Can you describe what that is? JC: Sure. Cognitive therapy is a structured, goal-oriented psychotherapy method that was developed in the 60’s by Aaron Beck, MD. It is founded on the idea that the way we think is the greatest influence on how we feel emotionally and on what we do— the decisions we make, the patterns of behavior that we are involved in. The greatest thing about Cognitive Therapy, also known as Cognitive Behavior Therapy (CBT), is that it is based on a “customized” cognitive conceptualization of the client and it offers people so much hope because the person themselves is usually not the problem—it is their thoughts, expectations and beliefs. Just like those are learned over time, we can learn new beliefs and ways of thinking. One of the important facets of it is that the therapist is always monitoring the content of the session compared to the conceptualization that the therapist has and also the goals for therapy. The structured nature of CBT and the skill building quality make it much more time limited than traditional psychotherapy. Another important aspect is the collaborative relationship between the therapist and the client, where the client is seen as an expert on him or herself. TJH: You’ve talked about the beliefs that affect people’s lives. What are some of the main beliefs that you have found to hold people back from achieving their goals? JC: There are so many variations, that it’s really a customized type of work, where beliefs and behavior patterns need to be identified for each individual. That being said, there are certain beliefs about safety, and what people should do when they’re feeling nervous and anxious. A common underlying belief is, “I need to escape or get away from uncomfortable feelings.” Another one is, “if I don’t try then I won’t fail.” People who have acquired that belief will usually settle for mediocrity or they will avoid challenges. That in and of itself often keeps them functioning at a lower level than they should. People are often acutely aware of that, which contributes to depression and anxiety.

TJH: With so many types of mental health professionals out there, it can be hard for people to differentiate between degrees. Can you explain what the letters LCSW mean? SS: I’m always glad when people ask me about my degrees and experience. Anytime you see a therapist, you are essentially hiring that person to work for you. Therefore, it is important that you feel comfortable looking into their credentials and ensuring that they are, in fact, qualified to help you. On that note, LCSW stands for Licensed Clinical Social Worker. This is a certification that means that I worked with clients for over 3,000 hours under the supervision of an experienced therapist after completing my master’s degree. TJH: What are some of the ways in which you make therapy accessible to kids? SS: I work with children as young as 3 years old using play therapy such as art therapy and sand play. Both are hands-on treatment methods that allow kids to express their thoughts and feelings through the use of crayons, paint, and miniature objects. In addition, I have had the privilege of working with hundreds of children in both schools and agencies, and have found that kids can learn to change their thoughts and behaviors through child-friendly cognitive therapy. Kids can be remarkably resilient and open to therapy once they realize they are learning skills that will be helpful to them. TJH: How do you work with schools to help kids? SS: In order to maximize the effectiveness of treatment, I use a three-pronged approach with children whenever possible. This means that children, teachers, and parents each become an essential part of the treatment process. I tend to be in touch with schools and parents on a regular basis. This way, the skills learned in therapy are reinforced by the other adults in each child’s life through out the week. I often visit schools to obtain feedback from teachers, observe children in the classroom/recess environment, and provide guidance to school staff as we collaborate to help children reach social, emotional, and behavioral success. TJH: When people think about seeing a therapist, there is often this vision of spending years on a couch talking about one’s childhood. Do you think that is an accurate picture of how psychotherapy works? SS: Great question! The proverbial therapeutic couch is a picture that emerged from classic psychoanalytic therapists. However, there are many effective treatment methods, and different types of therapy may be right for different people. Cognitive Behavioral Therapy, for instance, is a treatment method that is directed by each person’s goals. CBT therapists guide people toward learning skills that they can then use across a variety of life situations. When I use CBT with clients, there are often noticeable changes after the first few sessions. I know that I am doing my job when a client feels confident that s/he has learned how to cope with challenges outside of the support of weekly therapy. Going to therapy can be a time-limited experience during which people see actual results.

South Shore Cognitive Therapy can be reached at Phone # 516-568-7493 or online at www.southshorecognitive.com.

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TJH: Sara, it’s a pleasure to meet you. Can you tell me a bit about your professional background? SS: I started my career doing school guidance counseling and working on an inpatient psychiatric unit, and then moved toward treating clients on an outpatient basis while lecturing at schools and organizations throughout NJ. I’ve completed significant training in treating survivors of trauma such as abuse, family violence, and natural disasters. I have also specialized in treating the range of emotional and behavioral problems in school-aged children. As for my education, I have a BA in psychology from Touro College, an MSW (Master’s in Social Work) from Rutgers University, and I am currently near completion of a PhD in Psychology. I have recently moved to the Five Towns area, and it has been a pleasure getting acquainted with the community.

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Susan Schwamm

The Quintessential New Yorker

Hizzoner Mayor Ed Koch 1924-2013

Yorkers

have a reputation for being rough ‘n tough.

known for their chutzpah and brashness.

know how theY manage to do it all.

theY

new Yorkers are

speak their minds and have their convictions.

theY’re

busY and get their jobs done—although no one seems to

but even though theY displaY their tough exterior, inside theY are softies, doling out a dol-

lar to the homeless and offering old ladies a seat on the subwaY.

last week, a quintessential new Yorker passed awaY. even in death, former maYor of new York citY, edward irving koch, refused to leave his beloved town.

he was buried in new York in one of the last plots open in manhattan.

From Humble Beginnings to Political Powerhouse Ed Koch was born in the Bronx in 1924 to Yetta and Louis Koch, immigrants from Poland. Eventually, the family moved to Newark, New Jersey, and young Ed spent his childhood there, working as a hat check boy in a dance hall. When he was just 16-years-old, Koch graduated from high school and enrolled in City College of New York. In 1943,before young Ed was able to finish his studies, he was drafted to the army and sent overseas. When returning from Europe, Koch enrolled in NYU Law School. After building up a practice, the young lawyer ventured into the world of politics in 1952 when supporting Adlai Stevenson’s presidential campaign. But his true first political post took place in 1963, when he ousted crooked politician Tammany Hall chief Carmine

DeSapio and took over his post as district leader. 1969-1977 took Koch to Congress. He served as a congressman representing New York’s 17th Congressional District. In Congress, Koch became known as a hard-working, independent liberal who was able to work across the aisle. He supported public transportation and housing, Social Security and tax reform, aid to Israel, and amnesty for draft resisters. Koch served in Congress for four terms. Although his job was in D.C., he only spent two weekends there. He would say he got the “bends” when he was outside New York for too long. Every Thursday he would travel back home to meet with his constituents. In 1977, he mounted an unlikely campaign to run for mayor of New York. He ran against six other candidates including the incumbent and rising political star

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During the first few years of being in office, Koch held down spending, restored the city back to creditworthiness, subdued the municipal unions and revived the city’s spending. The people were happy with this competent man who managed to endear himself to them with his witticisms. He related to the people. The mayor Leading With Chutzpah and Bluster rode the subways and stood on street corners to speak with voters. His classic New Yorkers felt they could relate to the man with the rumpled suits and the “How’m I doing?” was said with his trademark smile and easy manner. devil-may-care attitude. He was known for his chutzpah and his witticisms. And, New Yorkers felt the mayor was one of them. During a 1980 transit strike, like many other New Yorkers, he was known for his gift of gab. Koch spoke his the mayor joined workers on the Brooklyn Bridge. He urged commuters to head mind—regardless if what was said was politically correct or not. In 1978, Koch told to work despite the lack of transportation. “Walk over the bridge! Walk over the reporters, “I’m the sort of person who will never get ulcers. Why? Because I say bridge! We’re not going to let these [people] bring us to our knees!’” Koch exhorted. exactly what I think. I’m the sort of person who might give other people ulcers.” It wasn’t just his constituents’ problem—he was in the trenches, he was walking Perhaps that’s why people were so taken with him. with them and he was there. The people sensed that he felt their pain. The mayor believed in speaking his mind and held onto his convictions. “You Call it confidence, cockiness or arrogance, Koch loved to hear his own voice. punch me, I punch back,” Koch once observed. He rarely avoided reporters and would schedule at least “I do not believe it’s good for one’s self-respect one, usually two, press availabilities each day. And then, to be a punching bag.” And although he may additionally, the mayor would hold what he would call have riled the anger of many with his flippant and “radiators.” When he was in the mood, Koch would have “i want to be remembered tough comments, he also earned their respect. “He his aide announce to those in the press room, “The maywould not patronize or deceive you,” Al Sharpton or’s doing a radiator.” Reporters would run to the large, as being a proud jew, who said recently about the mayor. “He said what he round radiator in the entryway of City Hall where the meant. He meant what he said. He fought for what mayor would expound on something he felt needed to be loved the people of the he believed in.” The two locked horned during told and then responded to questions from the media. He the mayor’s tenure but ultimately they befriended loved making news and being in the news. He loved the citY of new York, and did each other. Koch did not expect everyone to agree rush of being the voice and pulse of the big city. with him all the time. “If you agree with me on In 1981, Mayor Koch was re-elected with 75 percent his best to make their lives nine out of 12 issues, vote for me,” Koch once said of the vote—the people had spoken and liked what he did wittingly. “If you agree with me on 12 out of 12 for them. He became the first mayor in the city’s history better,” koch said. issues, see a psychiatrist.” to get both the Democratic and Republican nominations Koch was down to earth and off the cuff with and swept the election. His second term saw an even his comments. When one of the mayor’s press secbigger improvement in the city’s finances. By then, the retaries started working for the mayor, he expressed his awe at working for Hiz- local economy was slowly improving and tax revenue for the city increased as a zoner. “I’m just a kid from Williamsburgh; I can’t believe I’m sitting next to the result. The city rehired workers and restored many services. He also made plans for mayor of New York.” With his classic, wry attitude, Koch shot back, “Oh shut up. major housing programs and improvements in education and the welfare system. In 1982, Koch made an unsuccessful bid at governor of New York. He lost that Everyone comes from somewhere.” Yet, he too seemed to be mindful of destiny. On a visit to Statue of Liberty, Koch was found in the back of the boat on the way back election to Mario Cuomo and some contribute the loss to some comments he made from the landmark, staring pensively into the waters. “I wonder what my mother about life in suburbia. “Have you ever lived in the suburbs?” Koch told an interwould have thought,” he pondered, thinking about his climb from the Bronx to City viewer about a possible move to Albany. “It’s sterile. It’s nothing. It’s wasting your life.” He said life in the country meant having to “drive 20 miles to buy a gingham Hall. dress or a Sears, Roebuck suit.” Clearly, he was meant to stay in New York City. Leading a City in Ruins Out of Darkness Third Term: Mired By Scandal Mayor Ed Koch served three terms as mayor of New York. His first term, many Koch dusted off the residue of defeat and ran for a third term. If the people say, was his best. He was probably the first mayor to look at running a city in a different light, knowing the details of the budget and giving credence to other mi- elected him loudly in 1981, they shouted their favor for him in 1985, when he was nutiae. It was this perception that led the way to other mayors’, like Giuliani and resoundingly re-elected with 78 percent of the vote. At that point in time, only two Bloomberg, success. When Koch was elected, New York was in shambles. Finan- other mayors in modern times were elected to third terms in New York—Fiorello H. cially, the city narrowly avoided bankruptcy but was teetering on financial ruin. The La Guardia and Robert F. Wagner Jr.—and both of them found them to be steeped police department was riddled with corruption. Times Square, Central Park, and the in difficulties. For Mayor Koch, this third term would seem to be no different. subway system were dangerous places to be—the homeless and drug dealers wanJust weeks after Koch was inaugurated for his third term, Queens Borough Presdered the streets. The blackout of 1977 highlighted the crisis of the city. Almost all of New York City was affected by the two day blackout. Gangs of looters and ident Donald R. Manes attempted suicide. He ultimately took his own life due to arsonists smashed windows and burned storefronts. In Crown Heights, 75 stores the anxiety of being part of a sweeping corruption scandal in the city. The Pandora’s on a five-block stretch were looted, and in Bushwick, fires were still burning in the Box was open. Many supporters of Koch, including those who led the Transportamorning. In Brooklyn, youths tied ropes from stores’ grates and their cars, using tion Department and the Parking Violations Bureau, were found guilty of bribes, their cars to pull the grates up before looting stores. When the mayor at the time, extortion, perjury and conspiracy. Some officials were forced to resign, others were Abe Beame, berated Con Edison for the outage, the utility called the outage “an act convicted and sent to jail, suspended or fined. Interestingly, it was United States of G-d.” After seeing the destruction and mayhem, a priest in Bushwick stated, “We attorney Rudolph Giuliani who led the convictions in this scandal. In all of this corruption sludge, the mayor was never accused of wrongdoing. are without G-d now.” And indeed many felt that there was no one in control in the He had always allowed his commissioners to run their own departments; he was not big city. It was this mayhem that swept Koch into office. The people were looking for one to get involved in the day-to-day handlings. Koch told the public that he was stability and desperate to find the right man to do so. His campaign slogan, “Why shocked by what happened and would never have surmised that these individuals continued on pg 78 not try competence?” earned him the voters’ respect. Mario Cuomo. Nobody expected the liberal Jew to actually garner enough votes to win. But New Yorkers love the underdog and he won that election—defeating incumbent Abraham Beame, Mario Cuomo and Congresswoman Bella Abzug.

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Throughout TAG’s history, its staff included a resident dentist. Can you name the individuals who served as TAG’s dentists? Answer to last week’s question: In addition to his many duties as Dean of the school, Rabbi Moshe Weitman z”l also pulled many a tooth. The smiling youngsters always left his office surprised that the tooth was already out and were indeed proud of their special “toothbrush necklaces.” As with so many things, Rabbi Weitman z”l left the running of TAG in his son’s capable hands, along with the duties of resident dentist which he performs on a regular basis.

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were capable of such corruption. But people were critical of his closeness to these individuals—they felt that even though he himself was clean of the scandal, the stink of corruption was too close for him to walk away smelling like roses. In addition to the scandal, Koch was also criticized by many for what they viewed as an inadequate response to the AIDS epidemic in the 1980s. Compounding this issue was the obvious rift between the mayor and black New Yorkers. Ever a person to speak his mind, the mayor made comments that enflamed the black community. In his first term as mayor, Koch closed Sydenham Hospital in Harlem. He closed the hospital to save $9 million for the city, but he didn’t realize the psychological attachment the community had to the hospital there. Looking back, Koch actually admitted in 2009, “It was the wrong thing to do…there was such a psychological attachment to Sydenham.” This incident created a mistrust between the mayor and his black constituents. In 1988, he said that Jews would be “crazy” to vote for Jesse Jackson after the reverend made reference to New York as “Hymietown.”

yard that was the only one with open space at the time. And although, it is a nonJewish cemetery, Koch, who identified himself as a secular Jew, consulted with rabbis to make sure that his plan to be buried there was acceptable. He is buried in a non-denominational section of the cemetery. The gate near his tombstone was inscribed as “the gate for the Jews” and he had rails installed around his plot. His tombstone represented the two things he valued most in life: his Jewishness and the love of the city that he led. Engraved in English and Hebrew are the words of Shema. Koch also chose to poignantly inscribe the words, “My father is Jewish. My mother is Jewish. I am Jewish” on his grave. These words were declared by Daniel Pearl, the Wall Street Journal reporter who was brutally beheaded by Pakistani militants in 2002. Eerily, both Pearl and Koch died on the same day—February 1st—just eleven years apart. The gravestone also says of Koch: “He was fiercely proud of his Jewish faith. He fiercely defended the City of New York, and he fiercely loved its people.” In an interview a few years ago, Koch expressed his pride of being Jewish. “If I had to pick the two things I’m proud of, it’s being an American and be“if You agree with me on Racial Tensions and Electoral Defeat ing a Jew,” he explained. “I want to be remembered The schism between the races escalated in the as being a proud Jew, who loved the people of the nine out of 12 issues, vote mayor’s third term. In 1984, a white officer killed a City of New York, and did his best to make their lives black woman with a shotgun as she was being evicted better,” Koch said in an interview in 2007. He put up for me,” koch once said from her building. The officer was acquitted. In 1986, a mezuzah in Gracie Mansion and held Pesach sedthree white teens assaulted three black men in Howers there as well. Although not religious, he still had wittinglY. “if You agree ard Beach, chasing one to his death on the highway. his standards. In 1989, he wrote that he “would never In 1989, Yusuf K. Hawkins, 16, went to Bensonhurst engage in a public display of eating pork products. with me on 12 out of 12 to see a car and was attacked and shot dead by white Everyone has to follow his or her conscience when it youths. The death of Hawkins became a symbol for comes to religion,” he said, “and I follow mine.”Koch issues, see a psYchiatrist.” the blacks for justice and racial inequality. Al Sharpwas not religious but he was not ashamed of his reton organized marches and protests for the conviction ligion. After visiting the concentration camps, the of Hawkins’ killer. The black youth was killed just a mayor pointed out that the Nazis didn’t care if a Jew was secular or religious. “A Jew was a Jew” to them, month before the 1989 Democratic primary. After a few years of scandal, corruption, and racial tensions, the people decided he said, berating those who tried to hide their heritage. it was time for a change. David Dinkins, a reserved black Democrat, pledged to Fighting For Israel’s Cause bring the city together in a “gorgeous mosaic.” During the campaign, Koch would Koch was a fierce defender of Israel and noted the rise of anti-Semitism as of warn voters, “I will get a better job, but you won’t get a better mayor.” But New Yorkers didn’t care—they wanted a fresh face to take care of them and Dinkins nar- late. “It’s clear to me that anti-Semitism has re-arisen to an extent even greater than before World War II, without the killings in concentration camps,” he said. “I don’t rowly defeated Koch in the primary and Rudolph Giuliani in the election. Looking back, Koch reflected, “I was defeated because of longevity, not because want to overstate it, but I mean, it’s amazing— the hate and the venom. It’s directed Yusuf Hawkins was murdered six weeks before the election, although that was a at Israel because it wouldn’t be acceptable in polite circles to direct it at Jews, but factor,” Mr. Koch wrote in New York Magazine. “People get tired of you. So they it’s intended to be directed at all Jews.” Koch felt that some of the anti-Semitism decided to throw me out. And so help me G-d, as the numbers were coming in, I said was due to a certain “resentment” to the resilience of the Jews. “We’re supposed to to myself, ‘I’m free at last.’”At the time, though, Koch was less sanguine about his be dead! ‘Why are you still standing?!’ There’s a certain resentment: ‘How could it be? We’ve kicked…them; why are they still standing?’” he explained. loss. “The people have spoken and they must be punished,” he said. Although Koch was a liberal, he was an unabashed cheerleader for the State of Ever the one to love the spotlight, Koch’s defeat in 1989 did not quiet or tire the politician. It seemed he was there every time the cameras and microphones came Israel. Nowadays, liberals generally vilify the Jewish homeland. But Koch loved out. He wrote books—17 in all—and wore a black robe on television as a judge the state in despite of, or perhaps because of, its imperfections. In 1977, when Presion the show, “People’s Court.” He appeared in scores of movies and was the star dent Jimmy Carter flew to New York to endorse him in his first run for City Hall, of the documentary appropriately titled, “Koch.” Koch became a partner in a law Koch handed him a letter berating the president for asking the Soviet Union to parfirm that ultimately merged to become the international law firm Bryan Cave. He ticipate in a Middle East peace conference. Before one of the elections, Koch visited the Bobover Rebbe in Boro Park for was an adjust professor at numerous New York universities and would give lectures across the country, demanding a minimum of $20,000 for off-the-cuff talks. And help in garnering the Jewish vote. At one point, Koch related that he said to the even though he loved working his voice, the former mayor made sure to spend time Rebbe, “I asked you what it means to be a true Hasid. And you told me it is someone who picks a Rebbe to follow. I want you to know that I am a true Hasid. I am pickat the gym with his personal trainer every morning. ing you to follow.” A Proud Jew, A Proud New Yorker n February 1st, 2013, the colorful and tenacious Ed Koch passed away. He New York, though, was what he lived and breathed. Recently, Senator Charles left behind a legacy of responsibility and accountability sprinkled with his Schumer said about the mayor, “Every atom in his body lived, breathed, spoke, and exuded the city.” Koch’s former press secretary, Maureen Connelly, recalled, “The classic chutzpah and charming wit. He was the rare politician who was honest about city was and is his family.” Even in death, the mayor refused to leave the city that what he was and what he wasn’t. As he said in 2011 when the 59th Street Bridge meant so much to him. “The idea of leaving Manhattan permanently irritates me,” was renamed for him, “It’s not soaring, beautiful, handsome, like the George Washington or the Verrazano. It’s rugged, it’s hard working — and that’s me.” Indeed, the Koch once said. “I don’t want to leave Manhattan, even when I’m gone.” At 83, Koch paid $20,000 for a burial plot at Trinity Church Cemetery, a grave- quintessential New Yorker.

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Parshas Mishpatim

The Infinite Love of Our Creator Hashem Loves You More Than You Love You The Chovos Ha’Levovos explains that one of the most basic facts in my relationship with Hashem is that Hashem loves me more than I love myself. Hashem is more concerned for my good than I am. Hashem looks out for

it to me anyway. The Rosh Ha’Yeshiva, zt’l, explained that this seems to be the answer to this Rashi. It may well be that as this thief is making his escape, he is unaware of the embarrassment that he is suffering, nevertheless it makes an impact deep within him. He is a human as all other humans, and was created

Hashem loves every one of His creations to an extent that is beyond human comprehension. And because of Hashem’s infinite mercy and kindness, even if I do not deserve something, Hashem may give it to me anyway. my interests more than I do myself. This concept is the foundation of bitachon. Without it, trusting in Hashem is foolish. How can I rely on Hashem if He doesn’t care about me? How can I trust in Hashem if I am irrelevant in to Him? The only way that a person can develop a true reliance on Hashem is by understanding that Hashem loves every one of His creations to an extent that is beyond human comprehension. And because of Hashem’s infinite mercy and kindness, even if I do not deserve something, Hashem may give

in the image of Hashem. As such, he has the same sensitivities and delicate nature of all humans. He was created for greatness, and there is a part of him that cries out in pain when a mere animal is placed over him. Granted, while he is engaged in this act, he might be oblivious to the pain. But the pain is there, and it leaves its imprint, even if he is unaware of it. This is a powerful illustration of Hashem’s compassion – even for a man who has deadened his heart to pain. The heart still feels it, and Hash-

em considers that pain significant, and counts it as partial punishment for the crime. This Man Isn’t a Tzaddik This point becomes even more salient because this man is no tzaddik. The Torah is describing a man who has veered off the Torah’s way. He is sneaking into his neighbor’s barn and committing a crime. Even so, Hashem has mercy on him and feels his pain, even more than he does himself. This stems from the love that Hashem has for each of us. The extent that He cares for our good is even greater than the extent we care for ourselves. While this concept has many applications, it has particular relevance when we come to that rude awakening of “I have messed up.” At various points in our lives, we will reach the clarity to understand that we are human, and by design we have flaws and imperfections. With that recognition should also come the desire to correct our course and do tshuvah. Being aware that Hashem has infinite love and patience can allow us to embark on that most difficult task given to the human: growth, change and ultimately returning to our Creator, who loves us more than we can ever imagine.

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“When a man steals a cow or a sheep and he slaughters it or sells it, five cows shall he pay for the cow and four sheep in place of the sheep.” – Shemos 21:37 In Parshas Mishpatim, the Torah delineates various prohibitions and punishments. With regard to stealing, we see something unusual. If a man steals a cow, he must pay back five times the amount that he stole, however, if he stole a sheep, he must pay back four times the amount. Rashi is troubled by the difference in punishments. He explains that the difference lies not in the crime, but in the mental state of the thief. When a man steals a cow, he walks it out of the barn. When a man steals a sheep, he has to place it on his shoulder’s to carry it away, and this degrades him. After all, to put a mere animal on one’s shoulders is a humiliation to the greatness of man. Since the thief is already suffering the embarrassment of carrying a sheep around, the Torah considers it as if he has already received part of his punishment, so his payment is lessened. The Rosh HaYeshiva, Rabbi A.H. Leibowitz, zt’l commented that this Rashi is difficult to understand as it is hard to imagine that this man is preoccupied with his embarrassment. He is a common thief, engaged in the act of breaking and entering. He probably isn’t even aware that carrying a sheep is considered demeaning, and he certainly isn’t thinking about it as he makes his escape. As an illustration: one of the tricks of a good pickpocket is to bump your shoulder as he reaches in to steal your wallet. Since the nervous system can only process one stimulus at a time, when he nudges your shoulder, your attention is diverted to that area, and you don’ t even feel your wallet being lifted out of your pocket. So too, this thief. If he is thinking about anything other than not getting caught, it would be about tonight’s dinner that he is happily carrying home with him. Why would the Torah consider part of his punishment already received when it is unlikely that he even feels that embarrassment? The answer to this question can best be understood by focusing on our relationship to our Creator.

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The Observant Jew Rabbi Jonathan Gewirtz

ny business owner will tell you that the best advertising is not print, radio, direct mail, or even a giant blimp pulling a banner with your name on it across the sky. The best way to get new customers is from word of mouth. If someone uses your products or services, and is happy with them, he or she will tell others and recommend you to them. Well, in most cases, that is. In my line of work, speechwriting, nobody will admit they Googled “Jewish Speeches” or “Bar Mitzvah Speech” and found JewishSpeechWriter.com. They won’t say that they contacted me, and after giving me some details of their upcoming simcha, answering a few questions, and making a deposit, I turned around and wrote them a speech that earned them compliment after compliment. They won’t thank JewishSpeechWriter.com for his help in their speech, and they won’t tell people that they should use my services. But that’s OK; maybe one of you, my loyal readers, will suggest it to someone. So what is so special about word of mouth? Basically, people can read an ad placed by the business owner, but they assume it’s biased. After all, nobody’s going to place an ad saying, “ACT NOW!! Come in and buy some mediocre merchandise at prices only slightly higher than you could find elsewhere!” When someone else has tried something though, and is giving you their unbiased opinion, it means so much more. They didn’t have to say anything, but if they took the time to do so, that product

Word of Mouth must REALLY be special. If you want to do an easy mitzvah, when you find a good product or service, tell people about it, so they can benefit from it, and so that the business owner gets more customers. It’s a win-win situation. Sometimes, though, you don’t need to generate more customers to accomplish positive word of mouth. One day, I got a phone call from a friend in Staten Island. Dovid had just

agement to do an even better job. Sometimes, the word of mouth isn’t about a business opportunity. One Motzai Shabbos, I gave a couple of yeshiva boys a ride from the supermarket to their dorm. It was a cold, snowy evening, and I felt bad that they would freeze and have to trudge across slippery ice. As it turns out, a wonderful boy had gone to buy milk for his grandmother, and his friend accompanied him. They were

He went out of his way to make a point about the positive side of something even though he could have just kept quiet.

read something I wrote and called to say, “Thank you.” “For what?” I asked. “For writing such wonderful things; for sending them to me; for just being you.” Wow. Now, Dovid (the Facebuker Rebbe) is very accomplished himself. He is involved in Kiruv/Jewish outreach, and makes hundreds of people think when he posts something. Despite that, he took the time to call me just to say he enjoyed and appreciated my efforts. I felt like a million dollars. It was firstperson customer praise and it sure felt good. It may not have given me new customers for JewishSpeechWriter. com, or new subscribers to the Migdal Ohr, my weekly Dvar Torah (e-mailed for free in PDF!), but it gave me encour-

doing mitzvos, so I was glad to join the party. The one who sat in front looked at me and asked, “Did you act in Rebbee Hill’s movie – Berel and the Bus Driver?” I told him I did and introduced myself. After he asked for my autograph (J) he asked if I was related to the Gewirtz at the Star-K. Taken aback, I replied, “Yes, my father is the Rabbi Gewirtz who lives in Silver Spring and works with the Star-K.” I couldn’t understand how he knew that until he told me his father worked for the Star-K. I couldn’t wait to share the news of this “coincidence,” once again proving that it’s not a small world, but a very well-run world, with my father. However, I didn’t have to. You see, word of mouth came into play. It was late at night so I figured I’d wait until the morning. By the time I finished davening, though, I had an email waiting for me from my father. Apparently, the father of the boy I had driven wasn’t satisfied with just marveling at the crossed paths himself. At 1:30 in the morning he e-mailed my father to say what a nice son he had, and telling him how I had given his son

a ride. If I had told it to my father, it would have seemed like so much advertising, trying to blow my own horn, or at best, it would have been focused purely on the chance meeting. Now that it came from someone else, however, it was entirely different. My father was able to “shep nachas” from the compliment, probably sharing it with my mother, and the focus was not on the coincidence, but on how proud he should be of his son and of himself for raising that son. For my part, I don’t think it was a big deal, but if hearing it gave my parents the chance to enjoy a compliment and a little Yiddishe nachas, then I’m glad it was mentioned. What this man did with word of mouth was cause joy and pleasure. It’s quite different from what our mouths are more frequently doing, when we find fault with others and make sure people know about it. Instead, he went out of his way to make a point about the positive side of something even though he could have just kept quiet. The moral of the story is that saying something nice is a chance for us to help others, but in the process, the person who does so ensures his own success. P.S. – After the e-mail, the man took another step and e-mailed info@jewishspeechwriter.com to subscribe to the Migdal Ohr. After all, mitzvah goreres mitzva, and one good deed leads to another. Jonathan Gewirtz is a freelance writer whose work has appeared in publications around the world. He also operates JewishSpeechWriter.com, where you can order a custom-made speech for your next special occasion. For more information, or to sign up for his weekly Dvar Torah in English, e-mail info@JewishSpeechWriter.com. © 2013 by Jonathan Gewirtz. All rights reserved.

Rabbi Yaakov Margulies

You Are What You Think limb, while non-Jewish slaves go free. Why is the Jewish servant treated more harshly than the non-Jew? The Torah is emphasizing that the rules in fact reflect the Jew’s superiority, not infe-

tion is, why did Hashem tell Moshe to do the talking in the first place? Only after Moshe expressed his concern did Hashem tell him that Aharon would speak. What was Hashem’s plan had

We are capable of achieving great heights. Our sole limitations come from within.

riority. True, they don’t go out early. But that’s not because they’re worse than non-Jews. It’s because they aren’t slaves to begin with. They don’t have the same label, or the same servitude, so it makes perfect sense that they don’t go free in the same manner. That’s the deeper meaning of the posuk, “You shall not go out like slaves do.” In other words, you are not a slave. Don’t view yourself as one. The Torah is attesting to the value of psychological barriers. If we label ourselves slaves, we’ll be like slaves. We’ll think and behave sub-human. But if we break the barrier, remove the label, and view ourselves through the prism of independence and greatness, then we’ll be great. We are capable of achieving great heights. Our sole limitations come from within. We learn this lesson from Moshe Rabbeinu as well. Moshe was apprehensive when Hashem told him to ask Pharaoh to release B’nai Yisrael from Mitzrayim. He felt he could not properly communicate due to his speech impediment. Hashem responded that Aharon would join him and do the talking. It appears that Hashem agreed to Moshe’s assertion that his oration skills were insufficient. The obvious ques-

Moshe agreed to speak? The answer may be that Moshe indeed had the ability to speak and be successful. But he doubted himself. Once he labeled himself as being impaired, he limited his own ability. At that point, the task would be beyond him. Had he accepted, though, and believed he could do it, then Hashem would have enabled him to succeed. This fundamental lesson is relevant to parents and Rebbeim. We tend to label children and place limitations on them. Not explicitly, of course. Most of us don’t deliberately tell a child he’s slow, or anger-prone, or lazy. In fact, we don’t even realize it, but we subtly convey to kids our true feelings about their capabilities and shortcomings. And don’t kid yourself—they pick up on it—every nuance. When a child thinks his parent or Rebbi thinks he’s not very bright, or lazy, or not nice, he feels he’s been la-

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beled. This reinforces his own insecurity and thus becomes a self-fulfilling prophesy. In other words, the child will “live up to the expectation” of failure. If a positive message is sent, however, one that says, “I believe in you,” this can instill confidence and enable him to reach beyond his natural flaws and work toward success. The child has been given a label he’s proud of. But if he senses the people he looks up to have written him off as a failure, it can be a near-unbreakable barrier. A barrier we may not even realize we’ve created. Parents and Rebbeim must be very careful to think about the messages they send. Sometimes a few words we blurt out thoughtlessly can do a great deal of damage. At times even failure to say something we should be saying can be detrimental. A great deal of effort is required to constantly keep up our guard, because every situation is unique. The bottom line is this: how we perceive ourselves and others is a key component in leading successful and productive lives. Yaakov Margulies is an ordained Rabbi, and a Bais-Medrash Rebbi in Queens. He is the Director of the ACHI mentoring program. He counsels adults and teens. To subscribe to his free audio shiur, just email “Subscribe” to YMargulies@gmail.com

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e all want to find the key to success. Whether at work, learning, in marriage, or parenting, we strive to attain our goals and reach new heights. People often can’t figure out why they’ve failed. They look at others who have succeeded, and think, “I’ve got everything he’s got. What’s his secret?” In fact, sometimes those with greater natural ability are surpassed by those with far less. What is their secret? It’s usually not what you’d expect. While there are many factors, one is purely psychological. All too often our greatest obstacle is our own mind. We may possess the innate ability to succeed, yet our mind creates psychological barriers. These can be more crippling than any physical shortcoming. We don’t believe in ourselves or abilities. We lack confidence and expect to fail. This false perception is very difficult to overcome. This concept is addressed in this week’s Parsha. The posuk tells us that a Jewish maid-servant does not go free in the same manner as a non-Jewish slave. The Torah doesn’t explain further, but Chazal interpret this to mean that unlike a non-Jewish slave who is freed if his master causes him to lose a limb or a tooth, a Jewish servant who suffers the same fate must nevertheless serve out his term. One wonders why the Torah says this cryptically. Instead of saying that she is merely different from true slaves, leaving Chazal to determine the difference, couldn’t the Torah have simply said, “You may not go free when you lose a limb?” A great Rosh Yeshiva explained that the Torah is doing a great psychological chessed for Jewish maid-servants. At first glance it seems like a punishment for Jewish servants to remain with their masters even after losing a

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Forgotten Heroes

Avi Heiligman

70 Years Since the Battle of Stalingrad

A Frigid Winter Led the Russians to Victory

ne of the biggest mistakes that the Germans made in WWII was declaring war on both Russia and the United States. These two countries had manpower and resources that together on a multi-front battlefield defeated the Nazi machine into oblivion. Each of these fronts had a battle that ultimately turned the tide against Germany even though there was much fighting afterwards. On the Eastern Front against the Russians it was the epic Battle of Stalingrad that took place 70 years ago.The Germans had invaded Russia in June 1941 and despite the failure of the operation, they failed to capture Moscow before the winter cold had set in; the Germans were still in Russian territory. There were advancing on the oilfields in the Caucasus Mountains and

height of the battle he had about 1 million men under his command. The Russian Army was led by General Georgy Zhukov. When the Germans began their offensive he had only about 187,000 men under his command and only put small amounts of men on the Stalingrad front just to keep it stable. Most of the over 2 million men under his command were being saved up for the brilliant counteroffensive that he was planning. The Russians knew that the Germans were coming and moved most of their stores to the opposite banks of the Volga. About the only thing that wasn’t moved was the factory-producing T-34 tanks because as soon as one was finished, it went straight to the front. General Vasiliy Chuikov’s 62nd Army defended the city and prepared Volga for defense. The battle began on August 23, 1942 with the Luftwaffe (German Air Force) heavily bombing the city and turning most of the buildings into rubble. For the next nine days, the Russians lost some 200 aircraft and many civilians were killed. The survivors were put into work units to create fortifications for the soldiers who were coming to defend the city. Even though the Luftwaffe kept on Soviet soldiers during the Battle of Stalingrad pounding the city throughout the autumn battle, the Red Air Force was hampering in order to complete the advance, they their efforts and achieved some success. needed to take the city of Stalingrad The German ground units were makwhich was on the Volga River. Hitler ing quick work of the defenses on the wanted Russia out of the war before the outskirts and put the city under siege. Americans could get involved (the U.S. On September 13, Paulus and 6th Army gave the war against Germany priority began pushing into the city. This was over the war against the Japanese). He supported by 4th Panzer Army which also needed to deny the Russians a vital attacked Stalingrad’s southern suburbs. source of oil while securing more for his Driving forward, they sought to capture oil-thirsty war machine. the heights of Mamayev Kurgan and The German Sixth Army was led reach the main landing area along the by General Friedrich Von Paulus. He river. Receiving reinforcements, General also had command of units from other Chuikov battled to hold the city. Undercountries including Italy and Hungary. standing the German superiority in airRumanian units held important positions craft and artillery, he ordered his men to on the flanks stay closely enbut they were gaged with the weak units enemy to negate and Paulus this advantage wasn’t countor risk friendly ing on them to fire. do much other For the next than hold out several weeks, in the unlikely the battle saw case of a Russome of the sian counterfiercest fighting Field Marshal Paulus (third from left) attack. At the in the history surrendering at Stalingrad

of combat. The attacks but it Germans were was all in vain. very slowly On November pushing back 23, the German the Russians and 6th Army with their attempt to 250,000 troops hold the city and was completely the west side of encircled. To the Volga River. add to the misEven though by ery, winter was Russian soldiers fighting in the rubble of Stalingrad the end of Octosetting in and the ber the Germans controlled 90% of the Germans had no winter clothes. Many city, they had suffered massive casualties Germans froze to death. that were difficult to replace so far from While Soviet forces pushed east, their homeland. The Russians easily re- others began tightening the ring around placed their many casualties by just fer- Paulus in Stalingrad. Heavy fighting berying men across the river. There were gan as the Germans were forced into an individual heroes like Vasily Zaytsev, a increasingly smaller area. On December sniper with 242 confirmed kills, and Ya- 12, the Germans launched Operation kov Pavlov (whose father was Jewish) Winter Storm but it did nothing to help who turned an apartment building into a the besieged. The 6th Army was fighting fortress. furiously but with little food and short on The Germans were on the verge of all supplies, they couldn’t do much too victory when they received many set- stop the Russian onslaught. Paulus asked backs. A lot of aircraft were being divert- Hitler for permission to surrender and ed to North Africa, where General Erwin save as many men as possible. Hitler reRommel needed them badly to fight off fused and made him a field marshal unthe American landings. To recover from der the presumption that no field marshal would ever surrender. Two days later, on February 2, 1943, Field Marshal Paulus surrendered to the Russians with his remaining soldiers. Soviet losses in the Stalingrad area during the battle numbered around 500,000 killed and 650,000 wounded. In addition, as many as 40,000 civilians were killed. Axis losses are estimated at 850,000 killed and wounded as well Winston Churchill (left) presenting Joseph Stalin as 90,000 captured. Of those captured, with the Sword of Stalingrad in about 5,000 survived to return to Germaacknowledgement of the Soviet people’s heroic ny. It was the bitter end of the 6th Army. stand and victory in the Battle of Stalingrad Both sides lost thousands of tanks, vehis many losses, Paulus regrouped his hicles, artillery pieces and aircraft. The forces and had Italian and Rumanian Russians, with financial and material units guard the flank while he prepared from the U.S., were able to replace their for a final all out assault on Stalingrad. losses, the Germans had a much harder Then, on November 19, the Russians time replacing their losses. The turning launched Operation Uranus and changed point of the war on the Eastern Front, the the course of the battle, and the war, weeks after Stalingrad saw the Red Army in just one brilliant move by General launch eight winter offensives across the Zhukov. On November 19, three Rus- Don River basin. These helped further sian armies crossed the Don River and push back the Germans until the war fieasily crushed the Rumanian armies de- nally came to a close in May 1945 with fending the German Southern flank. The the fall of Berlin to the Russians. next day, another two armies shattered the Rumanian defenses on the German northern flank. Soon the Russians armies Avi Heiligman is a weekly contributor to The were racing to close the gap and encircle Jewish Home. He welcomes your comments the onetime attackers. The Germans tried and suggestions.for future columns and can to send reinforcements and diversionary be reached at aviheiligman@gmail.com.

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I Think I Can, I Think I Can

What is perseverance? Perseverance is about sticking with a goal and steadfastly working to achieve that goal, even when everything does not work perfectly. There are many examples of famous people who persevered despite numerous setbacks and eventually became successful. Abraham Lincoln failed to be elected into the government seven times before becoming President of the

United States at age 51; Walt Disney went bankrupt four times before creating Mickey Mouse and the Disney World empire; J.K. Rowling’s first

than mine, but they ranked higher than I did on the effort scale. And on the bravery scale too.” And, ultimately, through this effort and bravery, people

Help her break her goal into many different, smaller parts. Remember, the way to eat an elephant is one bite at a time.

Harry Potter manuscript was rejected by twelve publishers before becoming a best-selling phenomenon. Why is perseverance important? Thomas Alva Edison, the inventor of the light bulb and many other innovations dealing with electricity, asserted, “Genius is one percent inspiration and ninety-nine percent perspiration.” In other words, brilliance is not about how talented you are, but rather about how hard you try. In a recent New York Times article, Walter Kirn argued that the ability for people to succeed in school and in life cannot easily be measured on a standardized test. While he had always gotten good grades in elementary and high school, when he got to Princeton University he realized that it was the people who no one expected to excel in college (those from low socio-economic and minority backgrounds) that were the most successful. One of the people he mentions in this category of people who persevered was Sonia Sotomayor, the Supreme Court Justice. He explains that people who persevere “seemed to study twice as hard as I did, clocking endless hours in the library… Maybe their SAT scores were lower

like Sotomayor thrive and succeed. While Edison and Sotomayor are examples of famous people who persevered and eventually garnered national acclaim, the benefits of perseverance can be seen as early as children in preschool. Dr. Lisa Wright, of Teachers College, Columbia University explained that she interviewed three different four-year-olds about what they do when they get “stuck.” The first child replied, “I practice and practice until I get it done.” The second child said, “I ask my mommy to help me.” And the last child simply stated, “I cry.” Dr. Wright used these three different children as examples of strategies that people employ in order to succeed when faced with challenges. Most likely, when faced with obstacles, both the first and second child will thrive (the first through her own strength and the second through her reliance on others). However, the third child, the one who cries when faced with a seemingly insurmountable problem, lacks the skills to succeed at the task. So, if perseverance is a skill that we need in order to succeed in difficult undertakings, how can we teach it to ourselves and our children?

How can we teach perseverance? Like any other skill, perseverance is something that we have to learn how to do. Luckily, there are some simple tips that encourage and build perseverance. Try these suggestions with yourself or your children. You might just find that you accomplish more and are less frustrated by seeming setbacks: Pick Your Passion: It is important to be invested in your goal in order to continue to work for it. If you are trying to instill perseverance in your children, help them decide what they want to achieve. Then you can assist your child in coming up with a plan of action. Because your child has chosen their goal, they will be more invested in trying to achieve it – and they will continue to try even if they fail a few times. Start Small: Pick a goal that is just beyond your reach. If you always wanted to open your own catering business, begin by figuring out the menu you will offer to your customers. This is a small task and will allow you to feel a sense of accomplishment when completed. Once the menu is finalized, you can begin to think about what equipment you need to create the food you have decided to make. Upon completion of each small goal, you can move on to the next step in setting up a catering business. The same goes with your child; help her break her goal into many different, smaller parts. Remember, the way to eat an elephant is one bite at a time. Resist Jumping In: If you see your child wrestling to open a bag of crackers, resist the urge to open it for him. When you jump in with help every time you see your child struggle, you are signaling to your child that he doesn’t have to do anything on his own. He will think that any time he has a problem, you will come in and help him. Instead, as long as your child is not in danger, allow him to

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verybody knows Watty Piper’s beautifully illustrated children’s book, The Little Engine That Could, about a kind blue engine that pulled a train over a mountain. While the other engines were too tired or arrogant, the small blue train managed to tow the dolls and toys to the good little boys and girls on the other side of the mountain. The message of this book is one of perseverance. Though the blue engine was small, she decided that she would try her best and chugged up the hill, motivating herself by saying, “I think I can. I think I can…” She refused to give up, even as she knew the odds were against her. The lesson of The Little Engine That Could is very important for children, especially in today’s fast-paced and instantly gratifying society. Now, with cell phones, we are able to contact each other at a moment’s notice. We can buy ready-made meals in the supermarket and click a button on the computer to order a book to be delivered overnight. These advances in technology have made life significantly easier, but they have also made many of us expect everything in life to come to us without difficulty. To our chagrin, when there are tasks that require excess effort and exertion, we may not have the tools to motivate ourselves to continue to strive for our goal. This is where perseverance comes in.

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struggle and fail. Eventually, he will try a new strategy and succeed. Applaud Effort: Because perseverance is about trying even when you don’t succeed, give your child (and yourself) credit when you exhibit effort, regardless of the outcome. Say something like, “I’m really impressed! When you want something, you go after it and try to make it happen.” This suggests to your child that you value effort as much as you value the end result. Lead by Example: If you give up when the going gets tough, you are teaching your children that quitting is a viable option when faced with a challenge. For instance, if you have claustrophobia and therefore avoid driving in tunnels, you are implicitly teaching your child to stay away from things that she feels she cannot do. Instead, start small. Practice driving in tight spaces and short tunnels until you feel confident driving in longer tunnels. This perseverance will show your children that even if something is scary or hard, if we work at it, we can achieve our goal. Don’t Perseverate: Persevering and perseverating are very different things. Persevering is about trying to achieve the same goal even when things are not working out perfectly.

Perseverating, however, involves trying to achieve the same goal through the same means over and over again. For instance, if a child wants to get a ball

Engine That Could made it over the mountain because she made the attempt and chanted to herself, “I think I can. I think I can.” When she was done,

Do not get stuck on one strategy—explore many possibilities to achieve your goals.

from on top of the cabinet, but is not tall enough, he might decide to jump to see if he can reach it. When jumping fails, he might try to bring a stool to stand on. If the stool fails as well, he might take a large textbook and place it on top of the stool in order to stand on the book. This is an example of persevering. However, if this child trying jumping repeatedly without success, that would be considered perseverating. Do not get stuck on one strategy, explore many possibilities to achieve your goals. How can perseverance benefit self esteem? Perseverance is a skill that comes in handy when we are struggling, not when things come easily. The Little

she puffed away whispering, “I thought I could. I thought I could.” This sense of accomplishment and renewed selfesteem is a wonderful result of perseverance. The more you try, the more likely you are to succeed. Then you too can smile and happily say, “I thought I could. I thought I could.” A great way to instill this idea of perseverance and belief in your children (and yourself) is through a followup book entitled I Knew You Could! A Book for All the Stops in Your Life. The book is a journey through life’s peaks and valleys, offering encouraging words of insight and determination along the way. As you face new challenges remember the wise words of the little blue engine: I knew you could

And you knew it, too! That you’d come out on top After all you’ve been through And from here you’ll go farther And see brand new sights, You’ll face brand new hills That rise to new heights… There’s more about life that you’ll learn as you go Because figuring things out on your own helps you grow. Just trust in yourself, and you’ll climb every hill Say “I think I can! and you know what? You will! An acclaimed educator and education consultant, Mrs. Rifka Schonfeld has served the Jewish community for close to thirty years. She founded and directs the widely acclaimed educational program, SOS, servicing all grade levels in secular as well as Hebrew studies. A kriah and reading specialist, she has given dynamic workshops and has set up reading labs in many schools. In addition, she offers evaluations G.E.D. preparation,, social skills training and shidduch coaching, focusing on building self-esteem and self-awareness. She can be reached at 718-382-5437 or at rifkaschonfeld@ verizon.net. You can view her on the web at rifkaschonfeldsos.com.

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In the Kitchen Naomi Nachman

am so excited to announce that I now have my own radio show. The show is called “Table for Two with Naomi Nachman” and it is on the

Nachum Segal Network radio stream. The show is sponsored this month by Traditions Restaurant. I have an hour show on Friday mornings at 9 am discussing recipes, food trends, restaurants, cooking tips, guest’s spots and questions from listeners. I hope that you will tune and listen to me while you cook and prepare your Shabbat meals. The show will also be archived

on the website and also rebroadcast during the week. Listen in at www.nachumsegal. com, and hit listen live on Friday mornings to hear my show. This week on the show, I will be talking about freezing and preparing in advance. The Melt-Away Spare Ribs recipe below is a favorite of mine. It is so

easy to prepare and freezes really well. It is a great main course dish for Purim – which is coming up very soon. Anything I can get cooked in advance these days is a blessing as Pesach is so early. I make a double batch of the spare ribs and serve one for dinner that night and stick the other batch in the freezer for another time.

Melt Away Spare Ribs Ingredients ½ cup brown sugar 1 tablespoon Worcestershire sauce 1 tablespoon soy sauce 4 gloves crushed garlic 3 cups ketchup ½ cup water 2 large onions, cut into rings 2 pounds spare ribs

pan. Lay the meat on top of the onions and pour the marinade over the onions and meat for 2 hours. Cover the meat with foil and bake for 2 hours at 350°. Note: I often prepare this a day in advance and refrigerate it to allow the fat to harden. I then skim it off right before I reheat it.

Directions Mix marinade ingredients in a bowl except for onions and meat. Place onions at the bottom of a 9x13

Naomi Nachman moved from Australia approximately 20 years ago and, in 2004, started “The Aussie Gourmet” to cater weekly and Shabbat/Yom Tov meals for families and individuals within The Five Towns and neighboring communities. Naomi is also sought after to teach cooking classes throughout the NY/NJ Metropolitan area (from Scarsdale to Boro Park, Manhattan to Teaneck, the Hamptons and Connecticut… and of course, The Five Towns). She has also taught classes in Florida, Australia and Israel. Naomi is a guest host on the QVC TV network and has been featured in cookbooks, a cooking CD and a variety of newspaper articles. Naomi currently lives in Woodmere, NY with her husband and 4 daughters.

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That would be easier to believe if the name of his show wasn’t the amount of time he had.” - Jimmy Fallon “Eventually we do have a problem. That the population is getting older, healthcare costs are rising…there is this question of how we’re going to pay for the programs. The year 2025, the year 2030, something is going to have to give…We’re going to need more revenue… Surely it will require some sort of middle class taxes as well…We won’t be able to pay for the kind of government the society will want without some increase in taxes…on the middle class, maybe a value-added tax…And we’re also going to have to make decisions about healthcare, dock pay for healthcare that has no demonstrated medical benefits. So the snarky version…which I shouldn’t even say because it will get me in trouble is death panels and sales taxes is how we do this.” - Paul Krugman speaking about America’s healthcare system “I didn’t know this was going to be this long.” - Governor Chris Christie on the David Letterman show, after he playfully took a doughnut out of his pocket and started eating it during his interview “Here’s the big question before the country and the world and the State Department after the last eight years: can a man actually run the State Department? As the saying goes, ‘I have big heels to fill.’” - New Secretary of State John Kerry at a gathering of staff “The power outage during the Super Bowl lasted XXXIV minutes.” - David Letterman “It’s great to be back among friends. When I say among friends, I mean not only the distinguished guests that are from around the world who have joined us in this conference. I also mean to be back here in Germany, to be back here in Europe. I have traveled over 640,000 miles since I’ve been Vice President, and most of the time the President sends me to places that he doesn’t want to go. So I’ve spent an awful lot of time with McCain and others in Afghanistan and Iraq, and so it’s nice to be here in Germany. It’s nice to be invited back.” - Vice President Joe Biden in Munich

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Spinclass with Michael Fragin Michael Fragin, Village of Lawrence Trustee, is also the host of the ever-popular weekly show, Spinclass, on jmintheam.org. Every week, Michael invites interesting guests to chat with him and his audience about politics today in America and abroad. MF: Michael Freund is joining us today on Spinclass. He has served as the Deputy Communications Director in Israeli Prime Minister’s Office under Benjamin Netanyahu, not this iteration of Benjamin Netanyahu—the previous Netanyahu administration. He is also the founder and chairman of a fascinating organization called Shavei Israel which essentially rescues lost Jews around the world who may have some tinge of Jewish heritage or who may have been in remote parts of the world. He finds them and brings them to Israel. He is also a graduate of Princeton University and has an MBA from Columbia and made aliyah quite a few years ago. So, Michael, tell us about the fundamentals here of this last election and give us a quick take on what happened and what didn’t happen and what surprised you. Michael Freund: Well, one surprise for many was the fact that the turnout was higher than expected. It actually rose since the last election. And more than two-thirds of the Israeli electorate came out and voted, which for a western style democracy is rather high percentage. But, of course, the biggest surprise was the success of Yair Lapid’s Yesh Atid party which soared at the polls and came home with 19 seats, which positions him as a kingmaker now in the formation of the next Israeli government. MF: How is the Bibi world, the internal Likud world, reacting to the election results? Are they chasing or did they feel that any result that keeps Bibi as prime minister is a positive result? Michael Freund: I think it’s a little of both. In other words, there is clearly a sense of satisfaction that when the party leaders go to President Peres and recommend a particular person to be the next prime minister something on the order of 80 out of the 120 members of Knesset will, in effect, be recommending Mr. Netanyahu to lead the next government. On the other hand, it’s clear that the Likud’s performance at the polls was not what they were hoping for. The Likud together with Yisrael Beiteinu, Avigdor Lieberman’s party that they ran with jointly,

received just 31 seats, which was a drop from the 42 that they had in the outgoing Knesset. And that, of course, weakens the prime minister’s position visà-vis his other potential coalition partners. So this has certainly been a teachable moment for the Likud, and presumably they will draw the necessary conclusions. MF: I want to bring another voice into the conversation. We also have on the line Binyamin Rose, also joining us from Israel. Binyamin is the news editor Mishpacha English language, Mishpacha magazine, and he has been there since the inception, nine years ago of the magazine, a highly regarded writer and an avid reader. He covers U.S. and Israeli politics for a mostly radio audience but not exclusively, I would say. Binyamin, welcome to Spinclass.

Netanyahu knows that the Charedi parties in the past have proven to be fairly stable and reliable coalition partners, and they are a more natural fit for him in a coalition.

Tell us about the tension right now within the Charedi camp as to what they need to do or what they might do. They are probably buoyed a little bit by having a strong showing. On the other hand, there is a strong push in Israel as far as the draft is concerned. Binyamin Rose: I think, Michael, you hit both nails right on the head. There are two factors right now. So one, for the Charedi point of view, they were very happy with the turnout and their showing obviously. United Torah Judaism increased their total by 50,000 from the last election, and that earned them two more seats, from five to seven, and Shas had 11. So actually, when we totaled up the vote of both of the Charedi parties, Shas and United Torah Judaism,

together they only got 16,000 votes less than Yair Lapid’s party. So theoretically, that should make them in a stronger position. On the other hand, it’s much harder to coordinate the position with two parties than it is for Yair Lapid to coordinate his own party in the Knesset. So as a result, I agree with Michael—I think that Yesh Atid and Yair Lapid are definitely in the driver’s seat in terms of coalition building. But I think that what Netanyahu wants and will need most of all is a large enough coalition, so that no one party can knock him out. In other words, let’s say that, as you mentioned before, Yair Lapid says, “Well, I want to be prime minister one day,” and let’s say he wants to hurry that day and maybe even topple the government that he is in, so that you can have new elections. So that being the case, I think Netanyahu will be wary of that, being the political animal that he is, and I think he wants to immunize himself so that he has a large enough coalition, so that even if any one party, Lapid or anyone else, decides to leave, that he will still have the ruling majority. And that being the case, the only configuration that he could do that would be with Likud Yisrael Beiteinu which is one party, Yesh Atid, and then to sign up by Hayehudi. Shas and United Torah Judaism would give him 81 seats. And even if Yair Lapid were to leave, it would still leave him with 62. MF: So Michael, how does Lapid deal with the idea of having the Charedi parties in the government after him basically making a push towards that secular center? Does he go back on his principles potentially? Michael Freund: Well, it was a central component of his campaign, the fact that everyone needs to serve the country equally, so to speak. And it is hard to imagine that that is something that he will be willing to give in much room for compromise on. It would become a “read my lips” moment if he did that. So it’s very possible that we might see a coalition that will be formed in stages, where Shas may come in at a later stage once some kind of law is passed regarding the draft of the Shas of the Charedim. Shas is believed to be more amenable to a compromise, just how far they will be willing to go and whether that would be enough to satisfy Lapid’s demands, it’s hard to predict.

MF: An American rabbi? Michael Freund: Exactly, yes, Rabbi Dov Lipman. So this clearly represents a growing trend, and I think it’s a welcome trend where religious people are becoming more involved in the political life of the country, not sitting on the sidelines and kvetching but actually getting into the arena, rolling up their sleeves and trying to directly influence the public life of the State of Israel. And Binyamin mentioned before how Yahadut Hatorah, the Charedi party, had grown from five to seven seats. Now that, too, also was interesting because for many years, Yahadut Hatorah had remained relatively static or stable hovering around five or six, and that was despite the rapid population growth of the Charedi community. The fact that Yahadut Hatorah was able climb to seven may also indicate that in the years to come, the Charedi presence in the Knesset will grow stronger. Binyamin Rose: I was just going to add, but I think that in this particular case, there has always been a certain small percentage of Charedi voters who haven’t voted for Charedi parties. Our Mishpacha Hebrew language newspaper was running some surveys to show exactly what that breakdown was. In some communities, there were as many as 8% Charedim voting for non-Charedi parties. And in other communities, it was as low as 0% or 1% or 2%. I think in this election, what happened besides obviously the fact that gedolim and the rabbanim who basically are the leaders of the Charedi community rallied the troops but I think the troops

themselves felt that with everything that was going on in the campaign that the backs of the Charedi community were to the wall of it. And I think when people feel that way, they tend to come out and show their numbers, and I think that’s what happened here. And I think that’s good overall for Israeli democracy, and I think it’s good for the Charedi parties because the people who serve will have the support of the people this time, and hopefully, we will all see the benefits of it. MF: When we started off this election, there was kind of an unprecedented disunity particularly within the Degel camp, which is the non-Hasidic camp amongst the Yahadut Hatorah party, and it looked like there was going to be just a total fragmentation of the Charedi world. They came back together, and there seemed to be a lot of unity towards the end towards pushing the vote out. The question is, will that continue. Binyamin Rose: Michael, I think it’s hard to say at this point if it’s going to continue. I think that the first thing we have to wait for is to see exactly who ends

This government is going to be tested from day one—both on a national security point of view and the economic point of view.

up in the coalition. If Shas and Yahadut Hatorah and United Torah Judaism end up in a coalition as they were last time, then I think you will see the unity and the gains that those two parties made during the last couple or three weeks of the election when everyone closed ranks and pulled together. I think you will see that sustained. If they are forced into the opposition, then I think it would be quite likely that you are going to see a lot of second-guessing and a lot of talk about, “Okay, what do we do next?”

commitment of his to transform it from simply a newer version of the National Religious Party into something that’s more broadly based. And clearly, some of the mandates that the Bayit Hayehudi picked up came from voters who in the past would never have cast their ballots for the National Religious Party. So he certainly succeeded in that respect, and he came away with 12 seats as a result. Though there has been talk in the media about the differences of opinion between him and Prime Minister Netanyahu in their clashes in the past; it looks fairly certain that Bennett and his party will be brought into the coalition relatively soon because I think that we need to appreciate that Netanyahu is in a very difficult political position right now. So-called mainstream Israel feels that here is their opportunity to push the Charedim out of government once and for all and make some changes to the way society functions. But Netanyahu knows that the Charedi parties in the past have proven to be fairly stable and reliable coalition partners, and they are a more natural fit for him in a coalition. So he has got to walk a fine line here and try not to disenfranchise one side or the other because if he does, it may come with a very high political price for him. MF: A very delicate balancing act for somebody who doesn’t have a strong foothold even within his own party right down. I would say that there are a lot of people in Likud who aren’t happy with him. Michael Freund: Well, there are a lot of people who are again unhappy with the results of the election. But clearly, the belief was before the election and after that there is no one else of Netanyahu’s stature and experience who could possibly have run against him and garnered widespread public support. In that sense, he is in a category all his own. MF: One thing we mentioned a couple of times: Rabbi Dov Lipman, and I think it’s an interesting phenomenon, Binyamin, that he came out of Beit Shemesh. We all know about those clashes within the religious community in Beit Shemesh. Binyamin, can you give us perspective on Dov Lipman, who he is and why he joined a secular party? Binyamin Rose: I think there are a couple of viewpoints. Let’s look at it from a different direction; let’s look it why Yair Lapid would choose two rabbis to be a part of his party when his power base is mainly from the secular Tel Aviv area. So there are people – and I wrote about this this past week — that there are people

MF: Michael, one interesting thing, you mentioned the fact that Yesh Atid had Orthodox rabbis on its list, and actually I will be curious as your take on Rabbi Dov Lipman because I think his story with regard to the Beit Shemesh thing is interesting. But also Habayit Hayehudi had in their number two slot, Ayelet Shaked who identifies herself as secular. Michael Freund: Yeah. Well, one of the things that Naftali Bennett did in the campaign, • Swedish and I think he did very • Amma successfully, was to pres• Pre and Post Natal ent the Bayit Hayehudi, • Deep Tissue the Jewish Home party, as • Hot Stone exactly that, a party that • Relaxation would serve as a home • Medical for all types of Jews and putting a secular woman such as Ayelet Shaked in New York the leadership position in the party underlined, that

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MF: So of course, it’s not just the draft; there is also the economic issues which were highlighted or at least brought to the fore by the announced retirement of the governor of the Bank of Israel, Stanley Fischer. The idea that the country is facing deficits, and there is going to need to be cuts, and a lot of those cuts are going to be on the backs of the poor, on the Charedi society. Binyamin Rose: Michael, I think that Michael Freund touched on the phrase that’s been talked about a lot during the course of the campaign and even beforehand, the shivyon banetel, how they are going to share the burden, and I think the way Yair Lapid expressed it leaves himself a little bit of wiggle room. It’s generally applied to the draft and that everyone should have to serve in the draft equally. However, on the other hand, when you mention Stanley Fischer, Stanley Fischer has been one of the big movers and pushers behind trying to increase male participation in the workforce in Israel. So therefore, I think that economic equality or shivyon banetel, however you want to say it, can also be used to describe the situation where they might come up with a plan and say, “Listen, we are not going to force Charedim to go into the army, but what we would like you to do is at least go out into the workforce.” Something like that could be more palatable in certain instances to the Charedi parties, and that being the case. And I think that we would see sharing the burden in ways other than just on the service, and that could give Lapid the opportunity to say, “Hey, I won, too.” Michael Freund: I would like to actually touch upon something else here which many observers, at least before the election, were talking about. The fact is that out of the 120 incoming Knesset members, close to 40 of them are religious Jews, and this is a record, so to speak. It’s the largest representation for observant people in the Knesset since the establishment of the state, and they are spread out over a variety of parties. Mr. Lapid himself has a rabbi in the second slot on his list as well as on the 17th slot.

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who say that it’s part of Yair Lapid wanting to be inclusionary. There are others who might look at things from a more cynical perspective and say, “He wants a couple of rabbis who are Orthodox but who don’t hold to the Charedi viewpoint, and that will serve his purpose in terms of him having the type of balance to counteract the Charedi influence.” So I think that’s something we are going to have to watch out for is see how that plays out in the upcoming Knesset. I think though, from the UTJ and from the Shas viewpoint, I think the two people to watch or maybe let’s say three people to watch: two in Shas and one in UTJ. Let’s start with Shas, Aryeh Deri and Ariel Atias. So Deri was always known as a bridge between the Charedi and the secular. He was always able to pull things together and to basically achieve, I wouldn’t want to call it achdus, but I would say to achieve a dialogue between the different sectors of Israeli society. Ariel Atias is basically also one of the top men in Shas, and I think that his record of accomplishments is terms of the communications ministry and knocking down prices. It was really Atias who started the ball rolling in introducing competition and embracing the monopolies of the telephone companies here. So these are people who have accomplishments that I think are also appealing to the secular, and I think that these are people who can serve as a bridge and work with whatever politicians are members of the other parties, including Dov Lipman. MF: Does Dov Lipman represent a trend within the Charedi community, let’s say the working Charedi or the Anglo-Charedi have been ineffective in reaching out to? Does he represent that type of voter?

Binyamin Rose: Michael, I am not sure that one man in the 17th slot in a 19-man party should be accorded that sort of mandate at this point. Michael Freund: No, because the fact is that Rav Chaim Amsalem who broke away from Shas and ran his own party in the election which basically raised as its flag the new Charedi model of working and contributing to society and not just studying Torah full time, did not pass the electoral threshold. I think he garnered 60,000 odd votes, but it wasn’t enough to

It’s very possible that we might see a coalition that will be formed in stages.

get him into the Knesset. One could point to that and suggest that we are not there yet, that we haven’t yet reached a point where many Charedim are willing to cast their ballots for such a platform. However, it could prove to be in retrospect an opening which maybe years from now we look back on and view this as the bridge which led to some change. MF: So one final question is the foreign affairs just seem to have kind of dropped off the electoral map, But it’s hard to ignore what’s going on in Egypt and what’s going on in Syria and obviously the con-

tinued threat from Iran. How soon is this government going to be tested on a national security perspective? Michael Freund: This government is going to be tested from day one—both on a national security point of view and the economic point of view. Domestically, we are facing budget cuts ranging between 20 billion and 30 billion shekels over the next two years. That’s going to require some tough political decision-making. And in terms of foreign affairs, it’s clear that Mr. Obama and the Europeans are gearing up the pressure to Israel to try and make some kind of deal with Mahmoud Abbas of the Palestinian Authority. Just today, it’s been reported that the Israeli Air Force bombed a Hezbollah convoy in Lebanon. How that will play out in the coming days, we will have to wait and see. But there is no doubt that the security challenges which Israel faces are not going away very quickly. MF: Well, just remember that Obama knows better what’s in Israel’s interest than Netanyahu does. Binyamin Rose: Michael, on my point of view, I think in addition to the coalition building, it will be very interesting to see what happens at the AIPAC meeting in the first week in March. There is no set meeting yet for Netanyahu and the President Obama to meet, but I am sure they will. And I think that’s where we are going to see what sort of moving will be on the peace process front. But as far as Israel being tested internationally, as Michael pointed out, there is obviously some Israeli Air Force action going on right now. And even as we speak, tensions are high with Syria. So the Netanyahu government might be tested even before it forms a new government.

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Brotherly Love Dear Rabbi, I wanted to know if the law that we must love our neighbor as we love ourselves applies to all of mankind, or Jews only. The Rabbi Responds: We are commanded to be merciful and compassionate to all living creatures, including animals. Yet, our obligation to be kind-hearted to humans is much greater than our obligations to animals, as all humans are created in the “image of G-d.” While we as Jews respect all of mankind as the creations of G-d made in His image, the relationship we have with our Jewish brethren is of a different nature. Jews are brothers, and we should treat each other as such. Just as we have certain feelings for family that trump even bonds of friendship, so too, we have a higher level of responsibility for fellow Jews, and G-d therefore demands that we treat our brothers with even more compassion and sensitivity. Even among Jews, there is a greater obligation to one’s relatives than to others. And even among relatives, the quintessential fulfillment of loving one’s friend as one loves himself is through one’s spouse. The closest relationship man has is through marriage where man and wife become one flesh. By the way, the concept of loving another Jew as you love yourself is only possible if you do in fact love yourself. That means you need a strong sense of self-worth and appreciation for the real you. With brotherly love, Yehoshua Levy

Wiggle Room and Showers for Shabbat Dear Rabbi, As the days get shorter during the winter and Shabbat starts very early, I find myself coming home from the office with no time to shower before shul. Last week I didn’t even have time to change. My oneg Shabbat is really compromised if I can’t shower. I get very uncomfortable if I can’t feel clean until Saturday night. Is there any way to permit taking a shower on Shabbat? The Rabbi Responds: Technically, it might be permissible for someone to take a cold shower if he is in extreme discomfort and is careful

not to squeeze any water from his hair or towel etc. (See RAE’s glosses to Sh”A, OH 326, quoted Mishna Berurah, first B.H. in 326. See also Iggerot Moshe (OH 4:74) who modifies this leniency). Relying on this ruling is not ideal. Maybe you can shower in the morning before going to the office? One should really leave more than ample time to get home and prepare for Shabbat properly by showering, changing, and, if possible, helping his wife. Preparing for Shabbat and showing it the proper honor is important to you. That’s why you always shower, shave, comb your hair slick back, and change into special Shabbat clothing. But part of according Shabbat its due honor is allotting adequate time to prepare for the occasion. If you did, but you were delayed by unexpected circumstances beyond your control, you could arguably rely on the lenient opinions. It sounds, however, from your question that during the winter, it’s not uncommon for you to get home very close to candle lighting time. You can’t be doing that every week! Not only are you rushing into Shabbat with barely enough time to shower and change, but what if you have car troubles while driving back from downtown? You don’t want to be playing with fire on Shabbat! We all find ourselves in a tight spot (Sha’at Had’chak) every now and then. To get out of a jam, we can sometimes look for wiggle room in Halachah. But you can’t live life in a tight spot and wiggle week-in and week-out. If you didn’t have the option of any type of shower on Shabbat, would you be more careful in coming home earlier? You should. We are commanded to “guard the Sabbath.” Part of “guarding” is taking the measures to ensure that we are ready to enter Shabbat at the proper time with the proper frame of mind. Admittedly, it is not easy. It’s something that most of us struggle with, yours truly included. But we all have to try. Shabbat Shalom, Yehoshua Levy

Please note, the information written above is not meant as a rabbinic ruling. If you have any questions, please consult your rabbinic authority for clarification. Yehoshua Levy, a teacher of Torah, is a writer and lecturer who dares to think outside the box to bring his thought-provoking insights and facts to his readers. He welcomes your comments and can be reached at editor@fivetownsjewishhome.com.

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Life Coach Rivki D. Rosenwald Esq., CLC, SDS

My Hero

verybody’s got a hero! For some, it’s a 6’7”, 300lb, energetic linebacker. For others, it’s the guy sitting in the room— giving them some attention—instead of looking right through them at the 6’7”, 300lb, energetic linebacker. And yet for others their hero happens to be 6’7” long, and stuffed with deli, lettuce, tomatoes, and mayo! No matter how your hero looks, it’s out there somewhere for you on Super Bowl Sunday. There’s no avoiding it. This hallowed day is right up there with Thanksgiving and New Year’s. To be on the safe side, don’t make the mistake of planning a wedding on this Sunday. Unless you really want to cut your guest list down significantly— and I mean to a bare minimum— just as minimal as the bride and groom— and I can’t even guarantee you the groom. Whether your home team is in the Super Bowl or not, you manage to take a vibrant interest in it. It can be due to an old vendetta— like rooting against a team who defeated your team in the past, or the love of the game, or ultimately the love of camaraderie because no one watches the game alone on Super Bowl Sunday. A third of the experience might actually be watching the game, but the other two-thirds are divided between: cozying up to the crowd in the room, and the high of being around more oil than the OPEC nations export in a month—right there on the menu of fries, Fritos and franks. Too bad it can’t be siphoned off and used in your gas tank (what a savings!) but no one’s wiling to leave the electric atmosphere of the room anyway, even if it could be siphoned. After all, you don’t have to be watching the game every second, but you definitely need to be in close enough range to ask what the score is

to demonstrate your complete devotion to the outcome. Personally, I was in the mall on Sunday afternoon shopping with two 11-year-old girls, and shockingly they didn’t stop asking if the game had started yet. It’s not that they necessarily have a real interest in the game, but everyone has an “acute awareness.” For instance, these same preteens never have that much “awareness” of their homework, or the bus arriving for school and “that” they need to tune into on a daily basis. They always seem to be saying: “I had no idea they assigned that!” or “Really, the bus came already?” Yet, this, which has little to no real effect on their lives, looms larger than life because some hero is in the room for them—even if it’s only the one sprawled out on the cardboard oozing with dressing and smoked turkey. I think everyone’s just looking for meaning in life, something to care about, to take on monumental importance for them. And here’s a no brainer: Only one person has to do the work for it, the one who orders the food. Everyone else just has to show up. Who doesn’t enjoy that kind of meaning?! Minimal exertion rewarded with a majorly expensive and enjoyable halftime show, just to help them relax from all the mental and physical strain of the endless moral support they have been compelled to provide. So looking back on Super Bowl Sunday, I guess the bottom line is this: It’s always nice to have a hero in our lives. But hopefully, the one we pick for the rest of the year is inspiring not just on that one day, but all year round. Rivki Rosenwald is a certified life coach and couples counselor She can be contacted at 917-705-2004 or at rivki@ rosenwalds.com.

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Who Are You? transferred ownership of a bunch of items that I really didn’t need. I went through my filing cabinets – remember those from the days before you could digitize your documents? – and discovered I could eliminate drawers-full of stuff. How light I felt! This was the new me: traveling a whole lot lighter. That’s what I mean about experience. It actually changes who you are. Do you know that even my old photos of my children as little ones are no longer

However, I just discovered, only one week ago, that I am not as attached to my stuff as I thought I was. How about that for a switch? We had been living with our daughter for three months and finally found a lovely apartment in a charming neighborhood. As I calculated where everything would go, I had this feeling of being overburdened by the job of sorting out all my stuff. I was tired of it; I’d been tired out by the packing and now I was tired of the unpacking. If only I had less to unpack so I could get on with my life! I started remembering all the things on my “to-do” list: I need to keep writing articles for TJH and for my website blog; I have a talk coming up March 4 at the Levi Yitzchok Library; now someone from the VA wants me to design a program for anger removal (not management, removal), and of course, making time for clients. Now all this sounded far more interesting than unpacking. The “stuff” I’m attached to is all about memories; the to-do list is all about making things happen in the present or near future. The latter sounded much better. (Okay, some of the stuff is also utilitarian, like my computer.) I immediately put a message on some boards and sold my desk and

as meaningful as they were? The children grew up and they, too, changed. Would I rather hang onto the memories of how they were or enjoy the present moment of who they became? “The latter” is my answer. This was my other Hurricane Sandy discovery. I always thought my daughter was good, sweet, kind, and smart; now I see the adult she became and the past memories are nothing compared to the present woman she is. So I really have changed. From being practically a hoarder of the past, I’m enjoying the moment. There’s a second reason why it’s nearly impossible to define ourselves. That reason does lie in our past. Sometimes something that occurs in the present will shed new light on our ancient histories. We suddenly see ourselves and the forces that affected our early lives in a different way. At that moment, we recognize something about ourselves that we never knew before.

I had that very experience at a recent seminar that I attended. Weaved in between the many lectures and powerpoint presentations were some group exercises. Suddenly, I discovered something about myself that I actually didn’t realize: Where, in my upbringing, my need to get things perfect came from and how that slowed me down in being productive. I had had glimmers of all this before, but during one exercise, it somehow came together in a

So I really have changed. From being practically a hoarder of the past, I’m enjoying the moment.

crystal-clear way and even explained other parts of my personality. How interesting! I loved that exercise because it immediately pointed to a way to improve myself (by not trying to be perfect!). We all have this latter experience. I’ve been to shiva homes where, in talking about the deceased, people see their relationship to their loved one in an entirely new way. People get these “ah-ha” moments in therapy, too; they thought they knew themselves pretty well until some point is brought up that changes everything. Sometimes people even get a new perspective on themselves from reading a magazine article, hearing a talk, or having a conversation with a good friend. So who are we? If we are in flux just because life does that to us and we discover new aspects of ourselves because circumstances shed light on dark corners, then

just who are we? I’d like to propose the following thought which is not an answer but a wonderful gift: The very fact that we cannot pin ourselves down, either because we do change or because we can never fully examine all the hidden secrets of ourselves means that marriages can never get stale. Think about that. If living life in and of itself either re-creates us or illuminates aspects of ourselves that we never before saw, then the person we married is always going to be new, with new insights, perspectives, awareness, and even values. This is exciting! It means that the same thrill of discovery is possible with someone you’ve been married to for 50 years as for a new chassan and kallah. But how do you tap into that? First, just knowing that it is possible will put a smile on your face; it will make you see your spouse with new eyes; and it will change life into a series of opportunities rather than a test to endure. Second, search inside and share. Then see what happens. Does your life partner feel too burdened to hear it or is it interesting to him or her? Third, invite reciprocity: Ask for new self-insights. Do this by using daily things to formulate interesting questions. For example, “Did you notice that the hurricane changed you in any way?” “How do you feel about Hashem now that you’ve been through X?” Even if your spouse is not impressed with this whole new adventure, the very fact that you know it’s there will promote your own self-discovery. And you have to admit, that can be very interesting, maybe even fun. Eventually, your partner may sense the lightened mood and enjoy it, too. Dr. Deb Hirschhorn has had over 35 years clinical experience. She has been in numerous publications, both professional and for the public, and has appeared on TV and has been featured on radio. She practices Marriage-Friendly Therapy. She has a local practice in Woodmere, N.Y. See her website, http://drdeb.com, or call her at 646-54-DRDEB.

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ou would think, at my “advanced” age, that I would finally know who I am, wouldn’t you? We all think we know ourselves, but there are two things that cause our knowledge to be harder to grasp than we realize: One is that we keep on growing, having life experiences, and changing because of it. The person we thought we knew is not the person we have become. For example, I wrote some time ago in this paper that we have a right to feel badly about losing our “stuff” in the hurricane; stuff is the physical representation of meaning. That is, the things we treasure, whether old photos or recipes, come with memories and feelings attached to them. These ephemeral things—memories and feelings—give the stuff their meaning. We are entitled to feel badly about losing that tangible representation of the intangible.

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here is a troubling phenomenon taking place around us. It is an issue which gets lost among the myriad issues we all face daily. The issue is about a certain distortion of priorities. I am talking about the disintegration of marriage even in the beginning stages. I am not talking about divorce. That is a sad reality all its own. What I want to bring to light is a certain unimportance placed on marriage today. Many people will be shocked by my statements. Allow me to elaborate. I want to share a story with you which will help illustrate my point. Years ago I went to visit a friend who had just gotten married. At the time, I had been married for about three years and had two children. Life with two small children very close in age was hectic to say the least. It was Shabbos afternoon, and my friend was staying by her parents that Shabbos. I went to visit just as her father and her new husband left to mincha. Suddenly the skies opened up and it began to pour. My friend began to worry that her husband would now be stuck in the downpour and he would get soaked. “I must go bring him his raincoat. Otherwise he will have to walk home without a coat. It will only take a few minutes. I should really run to shul and bring him his coat.” I very swiftly talked her out of such a silly idea! What a naïve young newlywed, I thought. Just wait until she has children and life gets hectic! She won’t be able to pick up and run to bring him his coat. What a crazy idea to go out in the rain only to bring someone else a coat so that they don’t get wet. After all, a little rain never killed anyone! Due to my insistence, I am sad to say, she did not bring him his coat. Later that night I had a change of heart. I began to think, “Wow. Look what a selfless thing she wanted to do for her husband. How I wish that I could do that. Of course life gets hectic but right now she can do such a thing. I hope that she always desires to be so thoughtful of her husband’s needs.” So I called her up and apologized. I apologized for squelching her desire to help her new spouse in this way. My life was chaotic and busy and I had lost sight for a moment of the core importance of thinking of my spouse’s needs.

In the same vein, I have noticed a general complacent attitude among people who are married even for a few years. Lately I have been hearing poisonous comments from young women, which corrode the very core of their marriage. I will share with you some of the comments I have heard most recently. “It is just us for Shabbos. I don’t need to make anything. Whatever I make my husband will have to deal with.” “If it is just us for Friday night I will definitely not be dressed. My pajamas are what you will find me in.”

“Dinner? I don’t make dinner. My kids are little and they barely eat anything. My husband will have to fend for himself.” Finally, the saddest one in my eyes: “Who needs to celebrate an anniversary? After a few years, who cares? It’s all the same thing year-in and year-out.” These comments are only a few of the many disparaging quotes I have been privy to. I am not telling anyone to dress up in their finest clothes and heels for Friday night if that is not your style. Nor am I telling a young wife to cook a ten course meal that may or may not get eaten. Each couple must decide what works and what feels comfortable for them. What I want to bring to light is the overall attitude of “why should I extend myself for my spouse?” This thought process is detrimental on so many levels. If you think about it, it is a very backwards mentality. The message which

comes across is that impressing strangers or guests is more important to me than impressing my spouse. I would rather go out of my way for an outsider than for the one person who is supposed to be the center of my universe. How troubling it is that so quickly a couple seems to lose the willingness to go out of their way for each other. We are shortchanging ourselves and our marriages. This trend need not continue any longer! I recognize that all of our lives are busy b”H. Life gets busier and more hectic as time goes by. At the same time, there is a need for going back to basics. Remember that at the crux of all the chaos is hopefully a wonderful spouse who you chose to spend your life with. Cultivate that thought and build on it daily! When a couple is accustomed to behaving in ways that keep their spouse at the forefront of their minds, as life gets more hectic, the bond that the couple has created will continue to help them through those difficult times. Here are some ideas that I am sure you have heard before. I want to reiterate them since they are really so vital in maintaining that special bond between spouses. Spend time with your spouse. It doesn’t have to be expensive. Designate a time to sit on the couch and chat. Take a walk with no distractions, on some consistent basis. It works wonders and it is free. I have been seeing couples around the neighborhood in recent months walking and talking. It makes me smile to see a husband and wife who took time out of their day to walk together. The fresh air and the chance to discuss important things (or silly things that make you laugh together) is a gift you can give yourselves. Alternatively, if you need to run an errand and by some miracle you can go out together – do it! Quick trip to CVS or Target anyone? Seek out ways to spend quality time together. Your marriage will thank you. Do kind things for each other every day. Any small act can come into this category. Make your spouse lunch for the next day; prepare something they like for dinner, clean up the dishes after dinner if that is helpful. Fill their car up with gas so that they don’t have to make another stop. Anything that shows “I

olden days, people wrote notes to each other and stuck them in their loved one’s bag. At lunchtime when they opened their bag at work they were surprised to see a special note meant to brighten their day. Writing notes may seem out of style, but you can modernize on the same idea. In today’s world it takes only a moment to send someone a message which says, “I am thinking of you…Thanks for…[add your own ending].” Of course, emails or texts shouldn’t replace real commu-

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nication, however, it is nice to get a reminder of how much you are appreciated or thought of during the day. So send your spouse a message of some sort today and hopefully you will have the pleasure of receiving one as well. It will definitely bring a smile to your face! Who doesn’t need that? These things seem simple enough (maybe too simple), but as our families grow, these things may get thrown by the wayside. A young couple’s priorities can shift until their marriage is no longer at the top of the list. Before a couple realizes it they have (with Hashem’s help) children, jobs, family obligations, and

the list goes on. This is especially true in this era which we all find ourselves. There is always too much to accomplish and not enough time to slow down. To combat this slow shift in priorities, a couple must decide from the outset that their marriage is the most important priority (that they are the most important to each other). They must hold onto that belief day in and day out. Be zealous about it. Care for this belief like it is a priceless gem. In turn, their marriage will be a treasured, joyous union. When a couple can each do their part to think of the other one on a daily basis this flows naturally into all aspects of their life— how they act towards each other, how they greet each other at the end of a stressful day, how they speak to each other. Every facet of their lives will be elevated and in turn their lives together will be much richer. When a couple thinks of each other on this consistent basis it never feels like either party is overextending themselves. It feels more like each one is receiving. This may seem simplistic and old fashioned; however, sometimes going back to basics is necessary. In our fast-paced world it is more important than ever to hold onto positive, basic but proven ways of making our marriages the priority they should be. Let’s make our marriages priority number one, from day one. And if you have lost sight of these basic ideas in the jungle which we call life, it is never too late to go back to basics. Happy bonding!

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thought of you and wanted to help you in this way.” Communicate your feelings in a healthy way. Many times small things can spiral out of control when swept under the rug during the beginning stages of marriage. Discuss things openly and clearly. When small miscommunications or misunderstandings are defused quickly, they hopefully won’t grow out of control. When I was first married, I worked full time including Fridays. On Thursday nights I would cook for Shabbos. Late one Thursday night, as I stood and prepared the cholent, my husband came and asked what he could do to help. “Nothing,” I said, thinking he could sense the exhaustion in my voice. “Just go to sleep if you want to.” Although I did want help, I didn’t want to ask him to help me. I thought that he should just know what to do! So guess what? He went to sleep! Boy, was I mad! Clear communication would have solved this misunderstanding. Had I asked him to help me peel potatoes or chop vegetables he would have gladly picked up the peeler or knife and gotten to work. Now we can look back and laugh about that story. Taking this idea a step further, seeking proper professional input early on need not be a sign of impending doom. It is a healthy way to smooth out the bumps in the road sooner rather than later. In this way, the couple can have an easier time getting acclimated to married life. Elisheva Liss, a licensed Marriage and Family Therapist, wisely relates, “When dealing with areas of real conflict, the longer a couple waits to seek help, the harder the conflicts are to resolve. Couples are often surprised at the possibilities that arise with proper early guidance.” Reach out to each other during the day. In the

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Lola's Story A World After This

Lola Lieber Schwartz

A Memoir of Loss and Redemption

Lola Lieber Schwartz is a world-renowned artist whose paintings have been exhibited in art galleries throughout the United States and are part of the Yad Vashem archives in Jerusalem. Most importantly, Lola is a mother, grandmother and great-grandmother to many. She has myriad friends and sees life in all its vibrancy and vitality. But life was not always easy. Lola was only sixteen-yearsold when Hitler ym”sh invaded Poland, and Lola was forced into hiding and spent years on the run with her husband, Mechel. Through six years of trying times, near

starvation and brutality, Lola and her husband held onto their faith and values. It was Mechel’s words of encouragement, “There will be a world after this,” that helped them cling to the hope that there will be a life of light and joy waiting for them at the end. This is the story of Lola’s life—from her grandparents’ “enchanted garden” to meeting Eichmann ym”sh to making the Pesach seder for the Bobover Rebbe during the war—her words will take you back to a different world.

Chapter 6

Exile in the Countryside 940. Spring in Krakow was a contradiction in terms. There was neither rebirth nor joy in this normally hopeful season. In April Naziappointed Governor Hans Frank had proudly announced his plans for the city. Krakow would be sanitized; in other words, “cleansed” of its Jews, making it the first and most completely Jewfree city within the so-called “General Government” of German-occupied Poland. The elimination of Polish Jewry was no longer simply a topic of conversation and the focus of fearful plans made for family survival. All Jews were to be removed, and we had nothing whatever to say about it. For those born after the Shoah, it is important to remember that the Nazis were “brilliant” in planning and executing their unsurpassed evil. Their strategy was to implement the destruction incrementally; if they had come out of nowhere and begun suddenly rounding up Jews in city after city, conquered country after country, without warning, perhaps the outcome might have been different, and, one would hope, there might have been a quicker global response. One must understand that their moves against us were at first relatively benign, although clearly motivated by mindless prejudice and hatred. The measures they enacted were not totally unprecedented in the long course of Jewish history: restrictions on movement, prohibitions regarding certain jobs or vocations for Jews, marks on identification papers by race, and other forms of visible identification – most or all of which hadbeen imposed on us before and thus did not immediately indicate to us that it meant our certain death. Indeed, the forced resettlement of Jews throughout Europe into designated ghetto areas was not a novel idea thought up by Hitler’s thugs. It was an unfortunate method used before to “control” Jewish populations. The first Jewish ghetto was established not by Hitler’s

Our history was filled with stories of endless, intractable anti-Semitism and random acts of violence, but nothing ever, anywhere, was on the scale of Hitler’s and his henchmen’s “Final Solution.” Reich, but in sixteenth century Italy – in Venice. European Jewry did not believe it possible that the early restrictive laws of Hitler’s regime would devolve into deportations, gas chambers and the mass murder of an entire people. Of course there was alarm, and there was pervasive fear, but the genocide and annihilation of millions were concepts too preposterous either to predict or to comprehend. We had always been aware of prejudice. Who among us was not aware of the Spanish Inquisition? Our people had known endless rounds of pogroms. Our history was filled with stories of endless, intractable anti-Semitism and random acts of violence, but nothing ever, anywhere, was on the scale of Hitler’s and his henchmen’s ”Final Solution.” Once we arrived at the moment in our history when SS troops would routinely grab infants and slam them against walls or murder them without hestitation, the height of heartlessness and depravity had been reached. Once random murders and mass slaughter became the order of the day, the fate of European Jewry was clearly in the hands of a demonic maniac and his armies and supporters. The rumors about camps and forced labor and death were now confirmed truths. When these concepts and ideas entered our vocabulary as if they had always been there, it was too late for many things. Though it was now our daily conversation topic, it was too late to come together in a massive, armed resistance against the behemoth of wholesale death and destruction. As if mere civilians ever could have done so anyway! To the toxic

Nazi soup was added another ingredient – the dispersal and systematic weakening of the Jews to the point where they were effectively unable to reach out to the world for help. This is only one aspect of the horrific “genius” Hitler’s plans and of what happened during the Shoah. They were always so many steps ahead of us, and also ahead of the ordinary righteous gentiles who cared about us. They could not resist effectively in vast numbers because they did not have much power either. The only way to survive was by your faith in Divine Intervention, your wits and intelligence and the longing hope of an eventual Allied invasion and victory, if only it would come in time. Governor Frank was eager to show in the most dramatic way possible his allegiance to the Reich. What happened in Poland would eventually be recorded as the model of the war against Jewish life in all of Europe, not only in Germany and Austria. On May 18 the Nazis decreed that all but a handful of Krakow’s Jews were to be resettled. About 15,000 Jews would be allowed to remain in the city but hardly as free citizens. They would all be confined to Kazimierz, the old and shabby Jewish Quarter of Krakow. There they would be forced to work for the Reich and contribute, against their will, to the war effort. All of Krakow was closing in on us and moving away from our reach. Earlier in May, Governor Frank had made all the boulevards, major squares, common public areas and parks “off-limits” to Jews. We were living in Krakow, but

the Krakow we had known – where our families had spent their lives and their ancestors before them for generations – was finished, forever vanished. Spring moved into summer, but for me there were no seasons. Everything was enveloped in threats and darkness all the time, every hour of every single day. The Germans began to celebrate the beginning of the winter season and their Christmas celebrations in a most unholy way quite early in the year of 1940. Roaming bands of SS stomped all over Krakow. By now the very sight or sound of them marching down the street invoked physical nausea in me, and I know it caused dread among all Jews. December 5 and 6 that year were notable for a continuous rampage of terror, when the SS monsters raided homes in full public view, not even trying to hide the abuses and brutalities they inflicted on innocent Jewish families – a further indicator of our ultimate doom. Entire families were thrown onto the streets without their belongings, without warning, and without a place to go. German officers and their families were arriving in Krakow in increasing numbers to carry out the orders of the Reich, and of course they had to be made comfortable immediately. Young Jewish men, healthy and strong, were among their easiest and first victims. The Nazis rounded them up and sent them to forced labor camps now scattered across the country. By the end of January 1941 Krakow’s Jews had disappeared in alarming numbers. Some were expelled to neighboring towns. Some were on the run, and perhaps they survived. Others were in hiding elsewhere. The majority of Poland’s Jews, as we know now, did not survive. Continued next week

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From My Private Art Collection Rebbetzin Naomi N. Herzberg

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can be developed and learned, through the use of charts, diagrams and scientific methods. They all serve as visual aids and reinforce what has already been taught. In addition, visual data and descriptions are for many people easier to understand. Science fair projects are a wonderful way to utilize artistic and creative outlets. The use of art in the drawing of shapes, forms, graphs, grids and proportions helps us to be able to understand what is being taught in a math lesson. Studying any subject and seeing it in an observant way with a keen eye helps in the understanding. It is important to be able to see clearly and interpret what you see. Art terminology that is researched, studied and explained clearly is a great way to fully gain an appreciation for art and the a division of ohr somayach monsey multitude of avenues that it at the luxurious join us For one oF these caters to. beit shvidler inspirinG Family retreats oF Many years ago, when I r e t r e at c e n t e r was the Director of Art and monsey, ny Creative Education at an elementary school, I loved speaking to the teachers in FRIDA Y, MARCH 1 - SUNDA Y, MARCH 3, 2013 both the Judaic and secular studies departments. We brainstormed projects that I would teach to the chilTUESDA Y, MA Y 14 - THURSDA Y, MA Y 16, 2013 dren to create in the art room. The teachers would (Slightly Higher Cost) teach the subject matter while I simultaneously FRIDA Y, MA Y 31 - SUNDA Y, JUNE 2, 2013 handled the visual and skill aspects of the topics. The In conjunction with mapseminars.com learning that took place

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Why are Guardians appointed for children with living parents? The Court appoints Guardians for children who have been injured at birth and receive verdicts or settlements in a lawsuit. The parent(s) may be appointed the Guardian of the property received. The Court may appoint a financial institution or attorney as Co-Guardian with a parent who is not deemed a sufficient sole Guardian of the property of the child, due to the parents’ lack of ability to manage the property. What is the process for appointing a Guardian? A person who wishes to become the Guardian, or a responsible third party, prepares a Petition for Guardianship and files it in Court. The Court appoints a Court Evaluator to protect the rights and interests of the alleged Incapacitated Person. The Court Evaluator does an investigation of the family, whether there is a marriage or children, the medical history, the problem at issue, the finances, interviews with interested persons, including the family, the alleged Incapacitated Person and the physician. A hearing is conducted in Court. The Court Evaluator prepares a report with recommendations. If the Court appoints a Guardian, it issues a detailed Order setting forth the powers of the Guardian, the Guardian’s com-

pensation, and the Guardian’s requirements to make an annual Report.

a Court Order ending the Guardianship. Can a Guardianship be ended because the Incapacitated Person recovers? Yes. In the unusual circumstance, such as a transitory brain injury from an accident, an Incapacitated Person may recover sufficient capacity to handle his own affairs to end the Guardianship. That requires Court approval.

the Guardian is required to notify the Court and the Court Examiner, and to

In the unusual circumstance, such as a transitory brain injury from an accident, an Incapacitated Person may recover sufficient capacity to handle his own affairs to end the Guardianship.

What is the Guardian’s compensation? The Guardian’s annual compensation is set by the Court. It is based on a statute and is typically a small percentage of the opening balance of the assets of the Incapacitated Person or the closing balance of the assets of the Incapacitated Person, or based on the funds received and expended in a given year. What does a Guardian have to do once an Order is issued? Guardians have to attend a Courtapproved course on how to be a Guardian. They have to obtain a document from the Court called a “Commission” to have legal authority to act as a Guardian. Guardians must file reports including an initial report within ninety days of obtaining a Commission, and an Annual Account and Report. What is a Court Examiner? In the Guardianship Order, the Court designates a Court Examiner to receive a copy of the Guardian’s Reports and examine them for compliance with the law and regulations. The Court Examiner is an independent reviewer of the Guardian’s handling of the Guardianship including both the property and the care of the Incapacitated Person. As appropriate, Court Examiners act as resource persons for the Guardians and give an opinion on the Guardians’ proposed expenditures on behalf of the Incapacitated Person. What happens when the Incapacitated Person dies? When an Incapacitated Person dies,

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House For Sale in Far Rockaway Fully detached, move in condition, four bedrooms, one and half bathrooms, enclosed yard, eat in kitchen. Asking $575,000. 516-234-8665

3 Bedroom Apt. For Rent Far Rockaway Near Kollel and Shuls In a 3 family house on 3rd floor, also basement ideal for office Sunny apt. with 2 porches Available August Call 516-225-4558

Large House for Sale in Far Rockaway by owner with 3 apts available for rent. Located on corner of Sage and Bolton, near shuls and LIRR.$ 985,000. For more info call 718-916-2724

Real Estate for Rent/Sale Cedarhurst colonial in excellent condition Three Bedrooms 1 Bath - Den, cellar, fenced backyard close walk to synagogues Call 516-569-4628 or 516-547-8930 (cell)

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Queens-Upper Ridgewood. Fresh Pond Rd./Forest Ave area. Professional space for rent. Ideal for medical office. 1st floor handicapped access, around 1000 sqf. Call R.E. Agent for more info @347-8065414/Edyta - Grimaldi Realty Medical or Professional Office On First Floor Of Private House For Rent in Far Rockaway On Cornaga Ave. 1000 sq + basement area and 2 parking spots .... Please call 646 523 4458. For rent 2 bedroom apartment Far rockaway near BBY - Available NOW Kosher Kitchen New appliances Call 516-225-4558

Office space available for rent in Lawrence by owner. Shared waiting room with other health related professionals. Utilities covered and internet access available. mymanagement360@yahoo.com

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Non for profit in the 5 Towns looking for mature, responsible and organized bookkeeper/office manager. Computer savvy, QuickBooks a must. Energetic, personable and self motivated. 25 hours a week. Fax: 718-879-6404.

Executive Assistant: PT, Exec Assis for Lawrence office, Must have superb organizational & phone skills. Micr.Office experience, ability to sched & acquire appointments with top CEO's. Ability to multi-task a must. Email resume to chayaweinberg@yahoo.com.

Seeking a full time administrative assistant for a busy roofing company. Hours are M-Th 9am - 4pm & Fri 9am - 1pm. Skills must include: - The ability to multitask - Good phone skills -Basic bookkeeping - Proficient in MS Office - Proficient in Quickbooks Please email resume and salary requirements to info@islandexteriors.com or fax to 516 303 7664.

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TAG high school looking for experienced Mishlei teacher starting 1/25 till June. E-mail resume to ChavaGlaser@Gmail.com Midyear opening at TAG High School for teacher proficient in global and/or European history. Up to five periods a day available. Relevant degree and experience required. Email resume to mshepard@tagschools.org. Res. Hab. Positions Available Work part time with a special needs young adult. Pays $14 an hour No Certification Necessary. Great opportunity to do Chesed and get paid at the same time Call Metropolitan 718-633-3334 ext. 0 Firm in 5 Town area seeking motivated individual to handle AR/collections and general office work, must be organized, detailed oriented and professional, excellent salary + benefit package and room for growth, please email resume to jobopening36@gmail.com Leaders in Online Jewish Marketing are hiring Sales Superstars. Do you fit the bill? Send your resume to sales@thejmg.com or call us @ 646-351-1808 x 111 Looking for Shadow/tutor in five towns girls yeshiva high school Please call 347-524-3864

Experienced P-3 Provider, with M.S. in Education and Permanent N.Y. State Teacher Certification- Available to work with students in all grades Mondays through Thursdays- mornings until 11 A.M. and anytime after 5:30 P.M.; and Sundays anytime Please call Tsivia: 516-526-2385 COOKING FOR PESACH AT YOUR HOME Disciplined, hard worker is willing to cook Haimishe delicious meals at your home, following your Kashruth specifications. Ref. available. Call 917-741-4316.

Misc. Shaital gmach in Eretz Yisroel desperately needs shaitels. To be a part of this great mitzvah please call Peninia @ 347-6756526 Tizku Lâ&#x20AC;&#x2122;mitzvos FOUND Found ring a few months ago in the Stop & shop parking lot. Please call (718)327-3807. Lost white gold diamond bracelet/covered watch either at Kennedy Airport or in Boro Park. If found please call 347.578.4165

The Yeshiva of Far Rockaway admits students of any race, color, national and ethnic origin to all the rights, privileges, programs and activities generally accorded or made available to students at the school. It does not discriminate on the basis of race, color, national and ethnic origin in administration of its educational policies, admissions policies, scholarship and loan programs, and athletic and other school-administered programs.

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Bayswater- massive 2 family home in a great area, close to all the shuls, beautiful cabinets & granite counter tops, lots of bedrooms, all tiled bathrooms, hardwood flooring all through the house, fireplace, etc., needs tlc, very motivated seller, asking 449k, call Yitzchok 847-691-6397.

Beautiful 20 ft., corner Colonial, brick house In HEART of KGH, 1 block off Main St., semi-attached house, 3BR, 11/2 baths, finished basement, side hall, EIK, large LR/DR, large backyard and large front porch, front garage with private driveway and electric eye garage door, central A/C. One block from shul. For sale by motivated owner, asking 595K. Call 917-650-5623 and leave message, if no answer.

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