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Dear Readers, Hachodesh hazeh lachem rosh chadashim, this month shall be the first of the months. We Yidden count the years starting from Rosh Hashanah, while the months start from Nissan. There’s a natural way Hashem runs this world that is reflected in the cycle of the sun. Then we have the supernatural, reflected in the monthly cycle of the moon. Yidden count by to the moon because we are compared to the moon. Sometimes less light, sometimes more, but in the end we’ll be renewed as the new moon is. This is what Zeresh alluded to when she told Haman that Mordechai being a Jew meant that once Haman began to fall and Mordechai rise it would be too late. The month of Adar is now ending and the month of Nissan beginning. Both celebrate miraculous events that occurred bayomim hahem bizman hazeh. In Adar it’s the miraculous, enclothed in nature. And in Nissan it transcends nature. In one, fasting and Teshuva went together with a shrewd plan of action. In the other Hashem did the planning, and we just had to focus on the Mitzvos given us. Our Avodas Hashem has these components as well. There’s the status quo day-in day-out Torah and Mitzvos that we do. Then there are times when
greater sacrifice, both literally and figuratively, are needed. If we do ours, Hashem will surely do His. -Chof Hey Adar marked the entry into the 120th year since the Lubavitcher Rebbe’s Rebbetzin A”H was born. In addition to being very intelligent and of extreme noble and gracious character, the Rebbetzin personified modesty. Most Lubavitcher Chassidim who grew up in the same neighborhood as her had never seen her in person! She knew that as the Rebbetzin she would get different treatment and would have none of it. Inner peace and contentment vs superficiality that comes from outside stimuli is something the world can use a nice dose of now. Simple acts of attentiveness and graciousness to others goes a long way for both recipient and the giver. It’s in the silent act of giving that the soul touches the divine. May we see great miracles of all kinds with the coming of Moshiach when we will have all the Tzadikim and Tzidkaniyos return to us here in this world speedily in our days. Wishing you a wonderful Shabbos and a Chodesh shel Geulah,
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Oooh, that looks good! Click…add to cart. Oh my goodness, that’s gluten free? I’ll take two! Click. A few clicks later I completed my Pesach order, and called Mrs. Goldman1, a 98-year old Holocaust survivor. Years ago, she had called me before Pesach, crying that she didn’t know how she would prepare for the holiday. Ever since then, I have handled her Yom Tov food purchases. Especially this year, with Coronavirus adding stress to everyone’s life, I wanted every detail of her order to be taken care of. We thought of every possible need, from her Seder plate to dessert, so she
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would not have to exert any energy on her already frail mind and body. After double checking the details of the order, and triple checking her address, I clicked the complete button. Ten minutes later, Mrs. Goldman called me back. “Sarah! Can you order me some schnitzel, too?” “Of course! What’s Pesach without schnitzel?” I replied. Before her request could slip my mind, I quickly ran to the computer and placed the second order. A few weeks went by, and Erev Pesach had arrived. It was Wednesday at 3 p.m., and my order had not been delivered yet. Mrs. Goldman, however, had received hers, and called to thank me. At 4 p.m., still no food had arrived
from the caterer. Instead, I got another call from Mrs. Goldman. “Sarah, I got a second box of food, thank you so much! It has everything I need.” As she started to describe the contents, I realized it was not the order I had coordinated! It wasn’t even from the catering company I ordered from. Where did this mysterious box come from? I wondered. It seemed someone else had a similar idea, and had anonymously ordered her Pesach food, as well. “Mrs. Goldman, what did you receive in the order that I sent?” “Schnitzel.” Oh no! She only received schnitzel? She was too nice to mention that everything else was missing. Where was the first order? 5 p.m. came, and Pesach was rapidly approaching. I was about to call the catering company--again--when the phone rang. The caterer said, “Sarah, I have your order right here, and I never normally notice these things, but I see there are two huge orders coming to your house. Are they both for you?” Mrs. Goldman’s order was being put on the truck to come to my house, but he caught the mistake, and was able to redirect the driver to her home. At 5:30 p.m., my food thankfully arrived, and I began to unpack. Everything seemed correct. My phone rang again at 5:35. The caterer was calling. “Sarah, we have a problem. The elderly woman refuses to open the door to the driver. She simply won’t accept the order we have for her. She says she has too much food, and she doesn’t need it.” I knew why Mrs. Goldman wasn’t opening up. In Auschwitz, she was forced to divide her meager portion of bread, saving half for the evening in order to survive. Since then, she despised wasting food. “What would you like me to do?” the caterer asked me. We didn’t need it ourselves for the holiday, and I had no space left in the freezer. I asked if he knew of someone in need. He answered quickly, “Yes, I think I do. Thanks. Good Yom Tov.” Pesach came and went, and when the first days were over, the caterer reached out to me with a story told in texts:
You won’t believe the miracle that happened! I didn’t have time to tell you before Chag, but here is the unbelievable story: Minutes before I was closing the store, a poorly-dressed Chassid walked in. He told me he didn’t have a Seder plate, and asked if we had an extra one to spare. Unfortunately we didn’t. This year we had literally sold every last plate. We started to create a makeshift Seder plate by taking portions from my own family’s meal. My employee also started to extract items from his Seder plate to complete this poor man’s plate. While we were in the middle of preparing this plate for him, my driver called to say that Mrs. Kohan would not accept the food. We were able to offer him Mrs. Goldman’s seder plate, and the entire contents of her order. The Haggadah writes, “All who are hungry, let them come and eat. All who are needy, let them come and celebrate the Passover with us.” We were so grateful to have been part of the mitzvah to help feed a less fortunate person. Imagine what went on “behind the scenes” in order for this man to have food for Pesach. Hashem knew this Jewish man would be in need, and utilized His pawns: the catering company, Mrs. Goldman, the anonymous donor, the driver, and myself to ensure that it happened. Every detail had to go inexplicably “wrong” for the man to have the food he needed. This event illustrates Hashem’s constant and detailed hand in our lives. These separate pieces were all necessary moments to ensure that an anonymous Jew had what he needed to celebrate Pesach. Perhaps when things go wrong, they are actually going exactly as planned. As we all face mounting, unfortunate occurrences and disappointments with COVID-19, I can’t help but think of this story. We must believe that these inexplicable and somewhat mind-boggling events are merely fragments of a larger plan. They are part of Hashem’s tapestry to form a larger picture that hopefully will become clear to us in the near future. May we all see that beautiful plan very soon.
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If there is one thing that most people learned from Covid, it is the necessity to adapt to changing situations. People had thought that they were set and had everything figured out. Then the world careened and many plans, careers and businesses were toppled. Firmly established wasn’t firm enough, as people and their businesses quickly ran out of money and collapsed. Families were devastated by premature deaths. Millions were sickened and millions died. There was no escaping the pandemic and the ravages it left in its wake. Through it all, people had to learn to adapt to the new reality. Those who did were able to keep themselves afloat. Those who didn’t suffered much hardship and pain. By the same token, people who can’t apply their values to a changing reality are also in trouble. The trick is to hang on to your inner truth as you confront new surroundings and realities. Adapting means to strengthen what makes you strong, enhancing the attributes that distinguish you from others, and reinforcing them so that you can excel in new surroundings. You must size up the new situation and recognize that things will change and may never be the same again. Figure out where your strengths lie and do what you must to survive and succeed in the new reality. Jews who immigrated to America during the first half of the past century believed that the religious life they led in the old country could not be replicated here. Many had no hope that their children would be able to be religious in the new country and quickly surrendered to what they thought was inevitable assimilation. They were led to believe that in order to adapt to the new country, they had to jetti-
son their essence, identity, and what made them great. Jewish children from religious homes were sent to public school and quickly became lost to the Jewish people. A minority understood that although America was totally different than what they were used to, they could still hold on to their children. They struggled to make a living and expended extra effort raising their children to retain their heritage while adapting to the new environment. It was an uphill battle, but they sacrificed to establish yeshivos and/or sent their children to already existing ones. Both types recognized that the world
We have to deal with the challenges that face us in our time and confront them wisely. We mustn’t bury our heads or engage in illegitimate compromises. Neither of those options holds any chance for longterm success. The Bnei Yisroel were able to survive as a people in Mitzrayim because they held fast to certain attributes. As Chazal say, “Lo shinu es shemom, lo shinu es malbusham, lo shinu es leshonam.” They adapted to a life of servitude and endured because they made sure not to change their identifying characteristics. This is reinforced by the Haggadah Shel Pesach, which says,
Even on a routine day, our life is loaded with opportunity and meaning. had changed, but they differed radically in their methods of dealing with the new reality. Those who held fast to their values survived with their essence and their values intact. They transplanted those values to a new country, translated them into the new language, and they flourished. Every era presents new temptations and challenges. A society that is strong and realistic studies the new situation until it can navigate it competently. But one that is weak and fatalistic either continues on as if nothing has changed or compromises everything that gave it its identity in the first place.
“Vayehi shom legoy, melameid shehoyu metzuyonim shom.” They made sure to maintain their identity and not to compromise on anything that would have diluted their people. In our time, as well, we are confronted by a constantly changing society, one that is plagued by ebbing morals and a host of temptations that threaten us. New problems arise daily. We have to remember why we were created and what our mission is. We mustn’t fall prey to the fads of the moment. As we enter Nissan, the month during which the Jewish nation came into existence, we should remember that we have
endured longer than any other people because we remained loyal to our belief in the Torah’s unchanging character and the timelessness and sanctity of its every word. And because we, the Jewish people, have a mission in this world. We mustn’t compromise on that which ennobles us and sets us apart. We must remain metzuyonim, excelling in all we do. If we cling to the Torah and seek to excel in its study and the observance of its precepts, we not only enhance our lives, but hasten the end of the exile. So many bowed, capitulated and fell, while the Torah community continues to grow and flourish in this county and across the globe. In every language, in every society, we have the means to persevere, as long as we are committed to remaining metzuyonim, distinguished by the lofty attributes that define the Jewish people. There is currently a battle being waged to turn back the force of halacha and the purity and holiness of the Jewish people. As we wrote last week, Israel’s Supreme Court ordered that the country accept fictitious conversions performed by Conservative and Reform clergy and mark people converted by them as Jews on all official documents. They are fictitious conversions because Judaism is guided by a system of rules and laws borne out of the Talmud, the Shuchan Aruch, codifiers of halacha, and millennia of practice. It is adherence to these laws that identifies us as religious Jews and guides our lives. To ignore these laws and certify people as Jews without committing them to living according to the laws as represented by halacha is to falsify conversions and religious life. We live at a time when society allows people to identify themselves as being something they are not and can never be. As we are forced to adapt to new legal realities in one way or another, Torah and halacha remain immutable and are not subject to passing whims. Those who mock us and seek to dilute Jewish laws in the name of adapting to a new world and new situations are usurpers who debase themselves and the people they preach to. Israel’s Chief Rabbinate is guided by halacha, as all religious rabbis have been since there have been rabbis. To claim
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that they are guided by interests of power is subterfuge and wrong. It may earn the practitioners of faux Orthodoxy some favorable press, but it is meaningless and won’t endure. Two of our old friends, Avi Weiss and Marc D. Angel, leaders of the so-called Open Orthodoxy movement, wrote an article in the Jerusalem Post to let the world know that not all Orthodox Jews are as backward and closed-minded as we are. Some are intelligent enough to adapt to new realities. This is how they began their article: “We are Orthodox rabbis who have served in Orthodox synagogues and taught in Orthodox schools for five decades. It is precisely because we love Orthodoxy that we speak in support of the Israeli Supreme Court’s decision validating Conservative and Reform conversions done in Israel for Israeli citizenship. “This move, we believe, will help foster in Israel a less coercive Orthodoxy and worldwide will embrace all of our people as part of Am Yisrael, with a shared past and shared future. “No doubt, the Chief Rabbinate will disagree with the position we’ve taken, as they fiercely want to hold on to power, determined to be the sole arbiters on conversions, leaving no room for Conservative and Reform.” They go on to bash the Chief Rabbinate’s form of Orthodoxy. You see, it is too oppressive and is not inviting. If they would relax the rules and recognize outsiders as insiders, we would all be so much better off, they claim. Sounds like Joe Biden’s rhetoric to welcome foreigners to the United States. They don’t have to become citizens. It is enough just to cross the border and declare an intention to live in the country. That entitles them to all – or most – benefits of citizenship. There are no obligations, no tests, no background checks. You want to be an American? You are one. That is not going to work for the country, and that philosophy does not work for us either. They rationalize, “If Israeli citizens have a choice of where to go for a conversion, it may catalyze the rabbinate to be more open in their conversion policies, taking into account the whole corpus of Jewish Law, which is more flexible than the current extreme Chief Rabbinate’s standards. Competition is always good, as it encourages everyone to do better. This bill could create a dynamic which would prod the Chief Rabbinate to become less insular and adopt a broader view of Klal
Yisrael.” According to Weiss and Angel, we should be broad and welcoming, diluting our nation by allowing people to enter simply by identifying as Jews, taking some courses and going through a meaningless ceremony. Halacha does not recognize such people as Jews, and neither can those of us who are halacha observers. The parsha this week begins with the words, “Vayakhel Moshe es kol adas Bnei Yisroel.” Moshe returned from receiving the Torah on the day after Yom Kippur and all of Klal Yisroel flocked to him to hear what he brought them. There is a lesson here for us that is relevant throughout the year. The Jewish year, just like Jewish life, is composed of peaks and valleys, times of joy and times of pain. Every period has its specific avodah, whether it is a day that is spent in shul or one that is spent eating and drinking. Even on a routine day, our life is loaded with opportunity and meaning. The time that passes will never return, and every moment that arrives is unique. Mimochoras Yom Kippur is the day following the most exalted twenty-four hours of the year. How can you top that? Any day that follows must be a downer, maybe even a day off, without its own specific recipe for growth. Our parsha opens on that day, mimochoras Yom Kippur, when Moshe Rabbeinu gathered the nation. As they stood listening to him, they were once again together, b’achdus, and they merited the Mishkon. Following his return from Har Sinai after the chet ha’Eigel, Moshe called out, “Mi laHashem eilay - Everyone who remains with Hashem come to me.” Only the bnei Levi answered the call. But following that, the Jewish people repented for their involvement with the Eigel and understood that when Moshe speaks, everyone should listen and obey. The parshiyos of Vayakhel and Pekudei conclude the five parshiyos that discuss the construction of the Mishkon and its design. The building of the Mishkon began after Yom Kippur and continued until Rosh Chodesh Nissan. The work required hundreds of workers and large amounts of material. To facilitate its construction, there was a fundraising campaign in which everyone participated. When the Mishkon was completed, the festivity lasted twelve days. Rav Yaakov Kamenetsky points out the incongruity between the effort exerted into building the Mishkon and the original intended duration of its existence. The
Bnei Yisroel left Mitzrayim on Pesach and were to travel in the desert until reaching the Promised Land. Had the sin of the meraglim not taken place, they would have entered Eretz Yisroel in a matter of months and would not have wandered in the desert for thirty-nine extra years. Why, then, was so much effort and expense invested in constructing a temporary edifice? Why all the specifics, precise measurements, and exhaustive work? The Mishkon, epicenter of holiness, repository of Hashem’s presence on this world, defied time. Although the Mishkon would be temporary, its effect would be eternal. While it was only meant to last for several months, it represented the ideal that every day could be spent in the presence of Hashem. No day, or even part of it, should be taken for granted or wasted. Every minute is precious and can generate greatness. We know nothing about which day or which moment is most important. Every action is eternal, every teaching of Moshe is eternal, every halacha is eternal. Klal Yisroel, newly-cleansed from the chet ha’Eigel and desirous of the return of a proper relationship with Hashem, appreciated the opportunity to construct a dirah batachtonim. And they knew that in a relationship, there are no off moments. For however long it would stand, they would ensure that the Mishkon would be a place where Hashem would, kevayachol, be comfortable. They understood that building the Mishkon was an act of teshuvah for their sin and they immediately responded to the appeal. It did not matter that the Mishkon was to stand for only a short period of time, for they would take advantage of the opportunity to become closer to Hashem, and in that merit they would enter Eretz Yisroel and build the permanent Bais Hamikdosh. Their efforts were a labor of love. As the Mishkon was completed, Moshe Rabbeinu blessed the Jewish people, stating, “Vihi noam Hashem Elokeinu aleinu.” Rav Simcha Sheps explained that they were blessed upon the completion of the work and not when they began it, because Moshe knew that there would be an initial burst of enthusiasm for the project. He didn’t have to bless them at the outset. He feared that the initial euphoria would wear off and they wouldn’t be able to maintain the proper spiritual levels to merit the Shechinah remaining among them. When the job was done and the Mishkon was set up, Moshe was able to look on with pride at the lesson his people had learned. In the great mussar yeshivos, every talmid was infused with an awareness of
the greatness inherent in man, referred to as gadlus ha’adam. Every day is a gift from Hashem and worthy of expending the effort to construct a Mishkon - a place for Hashem - in our hearts. Every day presents new opportunities to grow, learn and achieve greatness. Every day deserves cleanliness and preparation for Godliness. The posuk states, “Vayavo’u kol ish asher nesa’o libo” (35:21). Every man “whose heart lifted him” came to work on the construction of the Mishkon. The Ramban states that none of the people who were engaged in building the Mishkon had learned that trade, nor did they have any previous experience. They were the people who responded to the call of Hashem. Niso’om libom, their hearts lifted them. They were consumed with the desire to fulfill the wish of Hashem. They didn’t say that they weren’t trained for anything that the Mishkon required. They didn’t say that the work was too difficult. They didn’t say, “Leave it for someone else to do.” The Mishkon was built by men of greatness who ignored their shortcomings and pushed themselves to do what they didn’t know they could to serve Hashem. Perhaps, in light of our understanding, we can appreciate the lesson. Our year doesn’t consist of “on-days” and “offdays,” and our nation doesn’t boast capable people and those who are absolved of work. Every day has its special light, and on any day we can accomplish something. They achieved greatness. They brought the Shechinah to this world. They received the brocha of Vihi Noam and the Mishkon lasted much longer than anyone thought it would. In fact, the Mishkon was never destroyed. It lies in hiding, waiting for the day when we can appreciate our blessings, the potential that lies in each moment, and all join together and summon the inner strength we all possess to put aside differences and work together to reestablish a dirah laHashem batachtonim. They sinned with the Eigel and were punished. They learned from their mistake and adapted their behavior to be able to return to Hashem’s embrace. They dedicated their efforts to the construction of the Mishkon reinforced with the knowledge that every day, every person and every halacha is important and is transformative. They wouldn’t return to the Eigel ever again. They wouldn’t allow people who seek to dilute the greatness of Am Yisroel to convince them ever again to compromise on Moshe’s teachings. May we merit the construction of the Bais Hamikdosh speedily in our day.
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remember when I was working on my master’s degree and the teacher described how special education used to look: children were either “teachable” or “not teachable.” Baruch Hashem, we have come very far from those days when parents were told to not bother educating their child. Our yeshivos and bais yaakovs now boast of programs that include children of all abilities. There are so many options that most families are able to keep their child in a Jewish environment without compromising on their medical or educational needs. It makes sense that our community would make the extra effort to reach out to all students, since we know that each child has a special neshama that is a gift from Hashem. I was impressed to see how even colleges have come to respect and assist those with special needs. The attitude isn’t “if you can’t keep up, then you don’t belong here.” There is now a greater recognition that many students can accomplish great educational goals with a little assistance. Initially, I was hoping for this article to coincide with Rare Disease Day on February 28, an internationally recognized day that is dedicated to raising awareness among the general population of the many rare diseases, but then I checked the calendar and realized that it fell out on the week of Purim. I had never heard of Rare Disease Day until my amazing and incredibly adorable niece was diagnosed with a rare (non-hereditary) disease, KAT6A. While I rarely get to spend time with this Israeli niece, we’ve all gained so much from having her in our family. I’ve seen how hard one person can work to accomplish what is easy for others, all while smiling through it. This seemed like a good opportunity to bring up respecting others, even those who may
function differently than us. While there are immense differences between a child with speech difficulty and a child with a rare disease, learning to not only tolerate but respect both of them is important and will be the topic of this article.
Evening Out the Playing Field I think there are many who have the misconception that giving some students special accommodations creates an unfair playing field and is unfair to those who aren’t getting what they deem special treatment. This couldn’t be further from the truth and creates feelings of animosity towards those needing assistance. There is a rigorous process before students receive any accommodations. Everything needs to be proven necessary before allowing for the accommodations. Students can’t claim something they don’t need; everything requires documentation. Special accommodations or providing special assistance to a student helps that student show what they can really accomplish if they’re not hindered by their disability or extra limitations. As an example, one of my children qualified to have non-reading-based questions read out loud to him during testing. This means that if the test is on the subject of reading, then they can’t be given assistance, but if the question is not reading-based, such as math, then they can have it read to them. I truly appreciated the difference this made when my reading-challenged child received a near perfect score on his math test. Without the accommodation, he would not have been able to answer any of the questions but with minimal assistance we were able to see how much he knew. A child with regular reading ability would not have
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been helped by this accommodation but a reading-challenged child was given a chance to show what he knew. He shined because he was given that opportunity. Every individual comes with their own challenges, and with a little assistance we can allow each child to show us their best and excel at their level. Whether that means laptop access for a child with writing difficulties or an extra quiet work environment during testing, each individual should be given the chance to succeed.
Begin the Discussion Open the discussion with your children and take advantage of teachable moments. Explain to them that other children may be different or have challenges but they are still worthwhile individuals. After my niece, just a baby at the time, was diagnosed, we all sat down with our children to discuss with them how their cousin would be different and have unique needs. We answered their questions then and continuously as they came up later. When my young child saw a person in a video using a wheelchair, I explained to him what it was and why she used it. Children don’t inherently realize that someone else may not be able to do something they can. This applies in all areas of life. If a child can do something, anything, they assume others can, as well. It certainly doesn’t occur to them that another person can’t do something they do naturally, such as walk, hear,
see, or breathe unassisted. You don’t need to sit your child down and tell them about every disability that exists, as this will overwhelm and scare them. You certainly don’t want to frighten them as children, can easily assume the same will happen to them. What you can do is answer their questions, spoken and unspoken, in a simple and clear way. Don’t assume they understand what a person can’t do and why. Start with the basics and answer in a matter-offact manner. Allow them to ask questions and answer calmly.
Watch Your Language Around Your Children Our kids see our actions and hear our words – make sure that both reflect respect for others. Too often, our behavior makes fun of others in a subtle way. Whether it’s imitating someone’s accent, stutter, or way of walking, our children will pick up on it. The truth is we should always watch our language and actions because our behavior makes us who we are, even when our children are not present. The beautiful Shabbos table should never become a source of speaking negatively about others or making fun of people. Sadly, the conversation can too easily slip into the wrong places. Be patient when speaking to others who have challenges communicating. Too often, we are impatient and this comes through. Not only is it disrespectful to the person you are speaking with but it gives the wrong
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message to your children. Also, avoid staring or pointing at people. While it’s natural to be curious, staring and pointing can be hurtful. Don’t allow your children to make fun of others, and don’t laugh at jokes that deride people. How often do we hear fat jokes or hear kids use the term “four eyes”? The comments are hurtful and give our children the impression that such things are acceptable. Jokes that make fun of others can’t truly be called “jokes,” and they’re never funny.
Use Your Language With Others Don’t forget that people with challenges are still people. We often forget and will speak about them instead of directly to them. If you want to know if they’d like something, ask them. You usually don’t need to ask someone else. By speaking over them, it shows a lack of respect for them as individuals. In addition, we all too often forget this with children. Children
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very early on understand what you’re saying about them. Don’t hesitate to address them directly and avoid saying anything in front of them that you wouldn’t say to them. Don’t be afraid to communicate with people. You’d be surprised how
relatives rather effectively. As deaf individuals, they are used to communicating with the hearing world and know when you respectfully try your best. You don’t need to know ASL (American Sign Language) to address someone who is hard of hearing. Sim-
Kids can learn to communicate with those who seem different from them.
much body language can show. I’ve learned to speak with my non-English speaking father-in-law using a combination of body language and tone of voice. The few Russian words I know often make him laugh rather than communicate effectively, but I can usually get my point across and I know he appreciates my efforts. I know a little sign language but I’ve learned to “speak” with my deaf
ple adjustments such as speaking clearly, enunciating your words, and maintaining eye contact are far more helpful than yelling. Kids can learn to communicate with those who seem different from them. You may be surprised to realize that your child doesn’t even notice the differences you do. By treating others with respect, you are demonstrating with your actions how they should be-
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Communicated The Week In News
MARCH 11, 2021 | The Jewish Home
At Last! Israeli Luxury Hotels Reopening
by Hadassah Bay After an entire year under the shadow of the pandemic, Israelis are finally seeing the light at the end of the tunnel, as the hospitality industry slowly emerges from hibernation. The great news is that on Tuesday, March 9, the Waldorf Astoria in Jerusalem and the Ritz Carlton in Herzliya – probably the two most luxurious hotels in Israel — will be reopening to the public. The Waldorf Astoria, adjacent to the Old City walls, needs no introduction; however, guests will be delighted to hear about its new addition: the Guerlain Spa, one of the only international spas in the country. With nine spacious, well-appointed treatment rooms, three of which are designed for couples, the spa is wellequipped to provide guests with the ultimate in pampering. Additionally, the spa boasts a stunning indoor swimming pool with adjacent vitality pool, a state-of-theart gym, as well as a relaxation area.
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For a perfect beachfront spot with breathtaking views of the sea, there can be no better venue than the Ritz Carlton in Herzliya. Acclaimed for its over-thetop gourmet cuisine, sumptuous suites, pampering spa and overall excellent service, the Ritz Carlton is just as eager to serve it clientele as the guests are to come. Wishing all a safe and healthy re-entry to “normal”!
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MARCH 11, 2021 | The Jewish Home
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