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Philanthropist Myra Kraft Dies
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Philanthropist Myra Kraft, the wife of New England Patriots owner Robert Kraft, died on Wednesday, July 20 following a long battle with cancer, according to an announcement from the team. She was 68. She was the president and director of the New England Patriots Charitable Foundation and a trustee of the Robert K. and Myra H. Kraft Foundation, which she started after
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her husband bought the team in 1994. Kraft also served on the boards of the American Repertory Theatre, United Way of Massachusetts Bay, the Boys and Girls Clubs of Boston, the American Joint Distribution Co m m i t t e e and Brandeis University. In 2003, Boston Magazine named her one of the 20 most powerful women in Boston. continued on page 3
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Jewish Activists Dig In Amy Sessler Powell Jewish Journal Staff
40 years, they formed the Highlands Coalition almost five years ago to address a range of issues from education to health care to bringing voting back to the neighborhood. Today, the Ford School Peace Garden, at the center of many of their initiatives, is both a reality and a metaphor for all that is growing in this neighborhood. “I see the garden as a center for solving community problems,” David Gass said. The garden was his brainchild several years ago, an encore of sorts, after he successfully planted 58 trees in the Amy Sessler Powell city and got local families to adopt David Gass, Susan Pascar, Leslie and Stephen Greenberg and Wendy them. Working with the Massachusetts Joseph, all Jewish members of the Highlands Coalition, stand in the Department of Conservation and
LYNN — Some of the members of the Highlands Coalition describe themselves as Jewish hippies, as apt to attend a folk festival or Moody Blues concert, as they are to bait the neighborhood rat traps, organize a peace march or petition for minority voting rights. While many of their friends over the years have moved to the suburbs, they have stayed in the city or, in some cases, returned there — happy to delve into the numerous opportunities for tikkun olam, repairing the world. Though they have been active in various causes, some for more than Ford School garden where 33 different crops are grown.
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ROWLEY — Larry Constantine is an accomplished author who has published three novels, 17 technical books, and more than 200 papers. Yet years ago, when he was a student at MIT, a humanities professor gave him an “F” on an essay, saying “You’re hopeless and can’t write.” Susan Jacobs “I was determined to prove Larry Constantine proudly displays his him wrong,” said Constantine, American Jewish Press Association continued on page 2
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Accomplished Author/Scientist Wins Jewish Journalism Award from page 1 who recently won a prestigious Simon Rockower Award from the American Jewish Press Association for his personal essay, “A Jew by Any Other Name.” The piece, which garnered second prize, was published in the Jewish Journal on November 25, 2010. “I am grateful and humbled by this recognition. I am delighted to share the honor with The Jewish Journal, and thank them for publishing my essay and submitting it to the AJPA,” Constantine said. The winning essay explores the issue of identity — a theme that fascinates Constantine. In the essay, Constantine questions what makes someone a Jew. Is it because an individual possesses a particular surname, or an adherence to a set of beliefs? He has also examined this issue in a series of contemporary thrillers he published under
the pen name Lior Samson. “In my first novel, ‘Bashert,’ one of the main characters moves to Israel, undergoes an Orthodox conversion, and becomes in Israeli citizen, but never practices Judaism. His wife, a secular Israeli, is actually the more observant. The book explores identity — ethnic, national and personal,” Constantine said. While Constantine has enjoyed success as an author, the self-described “techno nerd” is quick to point out that writing is more of a passion than a day job. A software engineer who did pioneering work in the computer field, Constantine double minored in computer science and psychology at MIT. “When I realized that I was more interested in people than technology, I became a family therapist,” said Constantine, who trained at the Boston Family Institute.
A multi-talented “Renaissance Man,” Constantine is also a composer, musician, industrial designer who holds several patents, and a professor. For the past six years, he has taught interactive design at the University of Madeira in Portugal in a program run jointly with Carnegie Mellon University in the U.S. He spends several months per year on the island, which is where he does most of his fiction writing. A native of Minnesota, Constantine lives in Rowley with his wife, Lucy, and their children Devan, 13, and Tovah, 10. He is an active member of Temple Ahavat Achim in Gloucester, where he serves on the synagogue’s board. “My identity as a Jew is a core piece of me. There is a Jewish sentiment and point of view in all my books, as well as in my [winning] essay,” he said. As Jews in Rowley, he and his
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BEVERLY — Temple B’nai Abraham has offered a contract to Rabbi Alison Adler, now an assistant rabbi at Congregation Mishkan Israel in Hamden, Conn. A 2008 graduate of Hebrew College, Rabbi Adler will begin on September 1, pending approval of the full congregation. “We are very enthusiastic. She intends to hit the job running. She is a great fit and just
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Kraft gave millions of dollars in philanthropic gifts to causes in the arts, education, women’s issues, health care, religion, American and Israeli issues, and sports. She was not a football fan at first, but taught herself the game and became one of its most ardent fans, according to the team’s statement. Kraft used her own battle with cancer to help launch the NFL’s “Kick Cancer” campaign last fall, and she helped fund the Kraft Family Blood Donor Center at the Dana Farber Cancer Institute. During the past season, the Patriots dedi-
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Recreation and numerous community groups, he imagined what is now there: a lush garden grown over the black top at the Ford School. “This peace garden has made a big difference in the neighborhood. It has brought the neighborhood together,” said Dr. Claire Crane, Ford School principal. Many of the activists see their responsibility to the neighborhood clearly in terms of providing the next generation with the same services they or their ancestors received. “My people were immigrants at the turn of the century, helped by the things that were in place,” said Wendy Joseph, who moved from Brighton to Lynn eight years ago. Gass recalls the stories of how his family was kept alive with beets during the Russian Civil War. “These immigrants are having the same experiences as Jewish immigrants,” Gass said. Leslie and Stephen Greenberg have been involved in community projects for about 40 years in Lynn. Leslie, now president of the board at My Brother’s Table and in her 25th year at the Lynn Health Task Force, as well as an active member of Congregation Sons of Israel in Peabody, said her own mother set a strong example, working as a volunteer in Jewish social services. Gass grew up in Lynn, lived away for many years, and moved back. When he sees the way the immigrant families support each other, it reminds him of his own family’s immigration. But, he is also happy to use any connec-
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David Gass, Susan Pascar, Wendy Joseph, Stephen and Leslie Greenberg and Dr. Claire Crane plan activities in a shaded area of the Ford School garden.
tion he has formed through both business and years of activism to make the community work better.
This peace garden has made a big difference in the neighborhood. It has brought the neighborhood together. For example, the community garden has had help from government sources, from volunteers from Lynn Vocational Technical High School and other schools, and from the Jewish community. The North Shore Teen Initiative made the Ford School the site for the 2010 J-Serve program. Jewish teens from all over Greater Boston came for a day and worked, building many of the raised beds that now hold lush crops. Today, Jewish teens continue to work there on Thursdays throughout the summer. The garden also provides jobs to local college students who are studying agriculture and community activism. With 33 different crops — grapes, cabbage, Swiss chard, tomatoes, berries, herbs, beans and more — the garden provides numerous opportunities for the neighborhood. Most obviously, it provides healthy food, free to anyone who helps or shows up for lunch on Thursday. Additionally, volunteers have studied the state’s math and science curriculum, and use the garden to develop lesson plans that instruct students and help them get through the MCAS
tests successfully. “The teachers and the students love to go to the garden. They are always asking when they can go,” Crane said. Gass explained that childhood obesity is a huge problem in the neighborhood, and the garden is helpful there too. Families have the opportunity to work in the garden and to get free, healthul food. Norris Guscott, a UMass Boston student from Lynn majoring in community psychology, works in the garden. He explained that it has the ability to empower the community as people “feel like they have to take on jobs” and “have a place to come.” For Nick Chum, who went to the Ford School and now attends North Shore Community College to study agricultural engineering, the garden is both a means of giving back to the neighborhood and mentoring younger children, while gaining valuable work experience. Susan Pascar recently moved to Lynn from Winthrop and became active in the Highlands Coalition, where she has found a community both of peers and fellow Jews. After a long career of activism in PTA, Jewish camping, synagogue volunteerism and other things, she is thrilled to dig in and do what she can. “I carry what was taught to me by my grandfather about loving human beings,” said Pascar. “That’s what this neighborhood is all about,” Leslie Greenberg said.
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The Highlands Coalition works with neighbors in the Highlands of Lynn to empower them, while fighting for social justice and improving the quality of life. They embrace all ethnic groups and work to restore voting to the Ford School so that everyone in the neighborhood has access to the political process. Recently, they were selected by Mass Humanities to sponsor “The Meaning of the Fourth of July for the Negro: A Communal Reading of a lecture by Frederick Douglass,” held at High Rock Park, Lynn, on July 3. The goals of the Highlands Coalition are: • to restore community policing • to build community gardens • to curb domestic violence • to establish anti-crime groups • to increase youth activities and jobs • to empower the neighborhood • to develop leadership • to re-build the Henry Avenue Park. To learn more, visit hclynn.org. The Jewish Journal is a nonprofit newspaper, supported by generous readers, advertisers and the Jewish Federation of the North Shore.
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Temple Sinai’s Interfaith Tikkun Olam Project Helps Habitat for Humanity Barbara Rosenstroch Special to the Journal
MARBLEHEAD — When Cardinal Sean O’Malley addressed the community at Temple Sinai on June 20, he emphasized the need for Jews and Christians to work together for tikkun olam, or repair of the world. As a follow-up to the Cardinal’s visit, the Temple Sinai Social Action committee organized an interfaith tikkun olam project with Habitat for Humanity of the North Shore. On June 26, members of Temple Sinai teamed up with members of Our Lady Star of the Sea parish to prepare and serve lunch to a group of 50 volunteers who had traveled from Vermont to frame a house on Park Street in Peabody. On the menu were four types of sandwiches, garden salad, chips, fruit salad, cookies and brownies. Iced tea, lemonade, and bottled water were brought to the construction site
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Temple Sinai and Star of the Sea volunteers serve lunch at the construction site.
during the hot afternoon. The following day, Temple Sinai joined with a group of enthusiastic volunteers from Sacred Heart Church in Lynn, who cooked a feast for the construction crew, and served it on tablecloths with a vase of flowers. The crew enthusiastically blessed the cooks and called them “angels” for bringing them feasts two days in a row. Habitat for Humanity is currently building eight units of
housing in Peabody at 12 Park Street. They work mostly on Saturdays, but recently added Wednesday sessions, and are willing to hold special sessions on Sundays if a crew of 10-15 people over age 16 can be organized. Those interested in helping with construction and painting in August or September should contact Barbara Rosenstroch of Temple Sinai at barbararosenstroch@gmail.com.
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Dana “The Convert” Rabbi Dr. Baruch HaLevi Special to the Journal
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et me tell you a story about Dana. In a congregation of a few thousand souls, Dana’s is one that burns brighter than most. She is a passionate student of Torah. She is deeply committed to growing in both Jewish knowledge and practice. She takes her life seriously and sees it through a filter of Yiddishkeit like few other Jews I have met. Dana is not a born Jew. Dana is a Jew by choice. The truth of the matter is that Dana is hardly alone. Quite often the most sincere, passionate and committed Jews in synagogues and Jewish communities are Jews by choice. This isn’t just hyperbole. Given the choice between a congregation of Jews by choice versus a congregation of choice-less Jews, without a shadow of a doubt my choice is clear. Jews by choice tend to exhibit the best of what Judaism has to offer, and are examples of what Jews could and should be. The truth of the matter, however, is that this name hardly does justice to who they are or what they are, as Dana pointed out to me. “Rabbi, I don’t mind if you call me a ‘convert’ or a ‘Jew by choice,’” Dana said to me before her conversion. “Neither are offensive and I understand the need for labels. However knowing how you talk about authentic labels, I was wondering if there is a better term for describing myself as a Jew?”
Dana got me thinking. She’s right. We need new names, better names, for the journey she and others like her have taken. To convert means to become something else, something other than what you were. Dana and others like her have hardly converted. Dana was not leaving something else. Rather, she was becoming a Jew – what she felt she always was. And Jew by choice is not only clumsy, it also isn’t true. As Dana, and so many others shared with me – “what choice did I have?” Dana didn’t become a Jew to marry a Jew. Dana was choosing to become Jewish because that was where her heart and her soul were leading her. Growing up, it was a menorah she longed for rather than a Christmas tree. She wanted to go to Passover seders and attend the shul for the High Holy days. “I was born with a Jewish neshama,” she said. “I was simply born into the life of a gentile. And now I have found my way home.” Her Jewish journey was finally completed. Maybe that makes her a “completed Jew.” Dana experienced herself as a Jew, and now she simply revealed it to the rest of the world. Maybe that makes her a “revealed Jew.” Dana was on a journey to become a Jew; maybe that makes her a “becoming Jew.” Her pathway into Judaism was truly inspired, so maybe
we should call her an “inspirational Jew.” And though Dana had returned home, I think calling her a “home Jew” somehow misses the point (and makes me want to break out into a rap). So, since we can’t call her, or others like her, a convert or a Jew by choice, as neither of these are quite accurate, until we come up with a better label, for now I’ll just call Dana a Jew; because she is a Jew – a Jew that has found her way home to her tribe. Rabbi Dr. Baruch HaLevi is the spiritual leader of Congregation Shirat Hayam in Swampscott. Read more of his writing at http://rabbib.com/blog.
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include information on Hebrew, history, holidays, Torah, ethics, and lifecycle. The course, which is free for individuals who live in the Foundation service area, will begin in October 2011. For more information or to register, contact Phyllis Osher at 978-740-4404 or posher@rilcf. org.
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Red Sox 6. Blue Jays 4. Teens 30. It’s All Good. (“So Good, So Good”)
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Emma McGuirk and Harrison Bond were two of the NSTI teens who attended the Red Sox game.
MARBLEHEAD — On July 6, teen baseball fans from around the North Shore joined the North Shore Teen Initiative for a trip to iconic Fenway Park. Thirty teens were part of the 37,404-person crowd that watched and cheered as the Red Sox beat the Toronto Blue Jays, 6 to 4. NSTI, in collaboration with Congregation Shirat Hayam, Temple Ahavat Achim, Temple Beth S h a l o m , Te m p l e B’nai Abraham, Temple EmanuE l , Te m p l e Ner Tamid and Temple Sinai, organized the trip for teens to get in some good summer fun. “How often do you get to go to a Red Sox game with a bunch of
your friends on a beautiful summer night?” said NSTI Executive Director, Adam Smith. “Our kids are excellent Red Sox fans. Even with a short rain delay, their energy made for a great night at Fenway.” To see more photos and to learn more about NSTI’s opportunities for social action, community collaboration, leadership development, travel and fun, visit nsteeninitiative.org and facebook.com/ nsti18, email at info@nsteeniniative.org or call 781-244-5544.
Bronx Girl Enjoys a Little Fresh Air
Byers is on the North Shore for 10 days participating in the Fresh Air Fund’s Friendly Town program. She is staying with the Caplan family of Swampscott. “They are so nice… and they have a dog named Charlie,” exclaimed the youngster, who chose the Caplans from a bevy of prospective host families. Melissa and Andy Caplan, and their daughters Lila, 9, and Louisa, almost 7, have fully embraced the exuberant tween, who comes from a disadvantaged neighborhood in New York City. In suburban Swampscott, Chauncie and Lila are sharing a room, as well as a mutual love of Lady Gaga and meatball sandwiches. Seamlessly integrating their newfound friend into their summer plans, the family has gone mini-golfing and go-karting, swam in pools and the ocean, and attended a bonfire on the beach where they made and ate s’mores. For Chauncie, who says she otherwise would have spent the majority of the summer inside her family’s apartment watching television, it’s been a dream come true. Lila and Louisa were scheduled to attend Camp Menorah during the weekdays. Melissa contacted Director Judi Simmons, who arranged for Chauncie to join in the activities at the Jewish day camp. Assigned to the same group as Lila, Chauncie quickly fit in. “The second I introduced her, she made a lot of friends,” Lila reported. “We at Camp Menorah were proud to be able to host Chauncie for this experience,” said Simmons, adding that Chauncie also got to participate in a mock trip to Israel. “It’s a great experience for Chauncie, and it’s also a wonderful opportunity for everyone here to learn a little more about what Chauncie’s life is like.” Since 1877, The Fresh Air Fund, a not-for-profit agency, has provided free summer vacations to more than 1.7 million New York City children from disadvantaged communities. Each year, via the Friendly Town Program, close to 5,000 children ages 6-18 stay with volunteer host families in rural and suburban communities. There they have the opportunity to enjoy simple summer pleasures, such as walking barefoot in the grass, swimming in the ocean, gazing at the stars, or barbecuing outdoors.
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(L-r) Louisa, Chauncie and Lila at the lake of Camp Menorah.
Chauncie’s mother, who works full-time, signed her daughter up because her two older children had successfully participated in the program in the past. The friendly and outgoing Chauncie has not suffered a minute of homesickness, although she does wonder how her cat, Frisk, is doing. Melissa, who works at Congregation Shirat Hayam’s preschool, has kept in contact with Chauncie’s mother throughout her stay. Although this is the first time the Caplans have volunteered to be a Fresh Air Fund host family, they have found it to be a positive experience. “A lot of people don’t know about this program, but I’d encourage them to look into it. It’s very doable,” Melissa said. “Our neighbors have been great,” she added. “One gave us a ride in their speedboat, another arranged for Chauncie to go to Park League, and someone invited her to come over and garden. It made me realize that it takes a neighborhood to host a child.” Chauncie is eager to return in December and spend her birthday in Swampscott. If it can be arranged, the Caplans are amenable. Lila and Louisa could take Chauncie ice skating, sledding and build a snowman together. Families interested in hosting a Fresh Air Fund child next summer must go through a screening process, which generally begins in the spring. For further information, visit freshair.org or call Deborah Stephanides, the local contact, at 978884-0794.
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Do Children Need Eye Exams? Dr. Tatyana Katz Special to the Journal
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ust as taking care of your children’s teeth is important, so is taking care of their vision. Eye exams for children are extremely important because 5 to 10 percent of preschoolers, and 25 percent of schoolaged children, have vision problems. Undetected vision problems can set a child up for learning disabilities, bad behavior and poor grades. Early identification can be crucial because children are often more responsive to treatment when problems are diagnosed early. There are two common eye problems in children: strabismus (cross eyes) and amblyopia (lazy eye). In a child with strabismus, one or both eyes persistently turn inward, outward, upward or downward. If you notice this, it’s best to see an eye care professional because, left untreated, it can lead to other vision problems. Amblyopia involves a loss of sharp, clean central vision in one eye. This condition may be treated with corrective lenses, prisms, eye patching or vision therapy.
Even though your child may have had a normal vision test at school, plan to visit a formal optometrist or other specialist for a comprehensive eye exam at least once every two years. A full eye exam will test your child’s near and distance vision, eye movement, focusing ability and peripheral awareness. Eye exams can start at six months of age, and are repeated at age three, before entering first grade, and then routinely during school years. In 2000, the U.S. Census Bureau reported that 72.3 million children under the age of 18 suffered from visual disorders, making it the fourth most common disability in the United States. Studies also show that only 31% of children between the ages of 6 and 16 years have had a comprehensive visual examination, and below age six, only 14% have had them. As a result, 90% of children who might benefit from prescription eyeglasses are not wearing them. If your child requires eyeglasses, there are many fashionable choices from which your child can select. For any additional questions or to read more about eye care for children, visit avcma.com. Dr. Tatyana Katz practices at Advanced Vision Center in Swampscott’s Vinnin Square. Call 339440-5105.
North Shore Teen Initiative Pool Party BBQ MARBLEHEAD — North Shore Teen Initiative invites teens in grades 8-12 to an evening of swimming, music and BBQ at the JCCNS pool on Tuesday, August 9, from 7-9 p.m. All Y2I travelers, and anyone who wants to hang with old friends and new friends they met during summer adventures, are welcome. Veggie burgers, hot dogs,
hamburgers and s’mores will be served. The JCC pool has new outdoor lighting and plenty of room to play Frisbee, ping pong and more; perfect for a hot August night. The event, which is sponsored by North Shore Teen Initiative, The Lappin Foundation, the Jewish Community Center of the North Shore, and the Jewish
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Israeli Scouts Back by Popular Demand
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The Israeli Scouts will return to the North Shore on July 27.
MARBLEHEAD — Back by popular demand, the Israeli Scouts will return to the JCCNS for a concert on Wednesday, July 27, at 7 p.m. The Scouts are 10 Israeli teenagers who travel the United States, sharing stories about life in their homeland through songs and dancing. Both children and adults are invited to dance and sing along. The Scouts will be visiting Summer on the Hill, the JCC’s camps for toddlers to teenag-
ers, during the week, talking to campers about growing up in Israel, their hopes and dreams. even their favorite rock stars. The concert, which will take place at the outdoor pool complex, is open to everyone. Bring a picnic dinner, or enjoy Marla’s Poolside Café. Tickets are $5 per person; $18 per family. For more information, visit jccns.org.
Federation of the North Shore, is free. Attendees are asked to register at nsteeninitiative.org. The JCCNS is located at 4 Community Rd., Marblehead. In the event of rain, festivities will be held indoors. Visit nsteeninitiative.org, facebook. com/ns1818, email info@nsteeninitiative.org or call 781-2445544.
Travel with a Twist for College Students Aish Connections is hosting a 10-day trip to Manhattan from August 10-18 for Jewish college students. Students will not only visit all the hotspots, sights and attractions, but will gain insight into how to tack-
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and return to their hometowns equipped with Jewish pride and knowledge. At $199, the trip is specially priced to be affordable for all students. For additional information, visit aishconnections.com or call 212-921-9090.
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Who Should Our Elected Officials Represent?
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n days gone by, it was not unusual to hear Jews say that if there were a Jewish president who led us into a war or economic crisis, all Jews would be held liable. If a Jew, or one with a Jewish sounding name, made the news for all the wrong reasons, Jews would have said that it was a shandeh upon all of us, for all Jews would be guilty by association. Recent years have given us scandals involving Madoff, Rubashkin, and most recently, the calumny of Strauss-Kahn, and the first mentions of those names must have made many a Jew shudder. Now, another Jewish name comes to the fore, this time not for criminal misconduct. Rep. Eric Cantor is a Jewish Republican in the House of Representatives, and he serves as his party’s majority leader. In negotiations over the lifting of the debt ceiling, Cantor has become the voice of the many conservative Tea Party members elected to the House last year, advocating for measures that potentially could lead the U.S. to defaulting on its debt, positions that, according to some, can have catastrophic effects on the international economy, and could even prevent the issuing of Social
Security and military paychecks come August. Of course, a member of Congress has the obligation to serve the interests of his constituents and to uphold the Constitution. But some fear that Cantor, who commendably embraces his Jewish identity, may become a lightning rod for anti-Semitic anger should his advocacy lead us into a major economic crisis. Do we as a Jewish community have the right to expect our Jewish elected officials to represent our interests as a Jewish people? Certainly, when John Kennedy ran for president, we expected him to leave his Catholicism at home. Where do we draw the line when it affects our self-interests? Should Cantor be concerned about the possibility that his positions might unleash an anti-Semitic backlash both here and abroad? Or should he forge ahead based upon his convictions? These are important issues to ponder. We want to hear your thoughts on these questions. Please post your comments to this editorial on our website, and share your views with others.
letters to the editor Congress Wants One Thing Only
Cross About the Cross Personally, I have no problem seeing people in the street wearing crosses, churches with crosses, and even seeing statues of Jesus and Mary in people’s gardens. But I would not want to see any crosses in my house, over my bed, or in my garden. I strongly feel that the place for a cross is in a church, but definitely not in a synagogue — especially not near the ark in the sanctuary holding the Torah scroll. I have on numerous occasions heard Dr. Marvin Wilson, the Christian dean of Gordon College in Wenham who is also professor of biblical and theological studies there, as a synagogue guest speaker. My only complaint is that Professor Wilson and his well-mannered students don’t visit our North Shore synagogues more often.
I am sure, however, that I would have squirmed in my seat had I attended Cardinal Sean O’Malley’s synagogue visit at Temple Sinai in June. In the video, which I was able to view online through the Jewish Journal, I saw the cardinal with four priests on each side. The priests were in their distinctive clerical uniforms and collars, but there was no crucifix visible on any of them. The cardinal wore a large cross. I would like to pose this question to the cardinal — hypothetically speaking of course — had Temple Sinai or any other synagogue asked the cardinal to come without revealing a crucifix in plain view, could that be a deal-breaker to making a synagogue visit? Hersh Goldman Swampscott
Give Us the Other Side I’m in complete agreement with Dr. Hyman Goldin of Peabody, who urges the Journal to present the other side to counter the growing right-wing slant that has dominated the op-ed page for some time. If it isn’t Charles Krauthammer paired with guest columns by the likes of Jeff Jacoby, then it’s Charles Krauthammer paired with angry-toned guest pieces by North Shore residents who, as Rabbi Arthur Waskow of the Shalom Center of Pennsylvania terms it, are usually more “against” than they are “for,” and who, quite frankly, leave me far more nerved up than assuaged or informed. As Goldin and others have expressed on the letters page this year, the right-wing tilt also does not reflect the American Jewish community at large. And,
I fear, it cheapens the rest of the superb content of the Journal. Given the bevy of liberal Jewish columnists who appear in other newspapers, publications and Judaic websites, I would think it would be a simple matter to choose another contributor for the other side. One who comes immediately to mind is Rabbi Bruce Warshal, publisher emeritus of the Jewish Journal of Florida. I find him rational, kindly, sensible, highly informed and inspiring. Rabbi Waskow himself is another possibility. Leonard Fein? Philip Klein of the Washington Examiner? N.Y. Times columnist Frank Rich? Please, for the sake of journalistic objectivity, lend us another angle. Frank Levine Malden
A lot of times people write in support of Israel for political reasons. Others, like Charles Krauthammer, blast Obama about his approach to a twostate solution for Israel and her peace-loving neighbors. His latest article, “Who Takes Us to War?” (Journal, July 7) takes Obama to task over Libya, and our participation in a NATO operation without getting approval from Congress under the War Powers Act. Mr. Krauthammer must be living in a dream world. Approval from this “Just Say
No to Obama” Congress? Is he nuts? This Congress is perhaps the worst in our history, and he wants Obama to get their approval. They refuse to approve simple Obama nominees to fill important vacancies. How in the world could they decide on our assisting NATO? They wouldn’t. Republicans in Congress are geared for one thing, and one thing only — the defeat of President Obama, and that is very transparent! Saul P. Heller Salem
Journal is Not an Organ of the Right Wing I am trying to understand why Dr. Hyman Goldin, or any self respecting Jew who feels anything for Israel, would have a problem with Charles Krauthammer or Jeff Jacoby’s criticisms of President Obama’s behavior and blunders towards Israel or Benjamin Netanyahu. Why do you have a problem with Jacoby and Krauthammer’s views of President Obama? Because they are not yours? What happened to freedom of speech? Does it not count when their views are different than yours? These two columnists have a problem with President Obama’s insisting that Israel stop settlement construction in the West Bank, effectively destroying any negotiating position they had. How about suggesting that they move back to the 1967 lines? Remember, they were attacked and captured this land. Now the Palestinians will not negotiate until Israel stops settlement construction and moves back to the 1967 lines. Thank you President Obama for your inexperience and short sight-
edness! Don’t give everything away before they negotiate. Otherwise, what’s the point? Because the Journal prints columns by Jacoby and Krauthammer does not make them “an organ of the right wing.” I say we are lucky to have their columns in the Journal. Dr. Goldin further states that by printing these two columns, “the Journal is less interesting a paper and not representative of the North Shore.” All I can say is: “says you.” No one elected you to represent the Jewish community of the North Shore. My suggestion to Dr. Goldin: cancel your subscription, or respect other viewpoints. Maybe even show a little support for Israel. If you have ever been to Israel, you certainly know the challenges they face. They need support from a U.S. president who is not willing to “throw them under the bus” and pander to the surrounding Muslim countries. Ed Berman Danvers
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al insults. Letters can be mailed to The Jewish Journal, 201 Washington St., Suite 14, Salem, MA 01970, or emailed to editor@jewishjournal.org. The Journal may post letters online prior to print publication.
Mainstream Press Has Left Wing Bias In his letter in the Journal’s July 7 issue (“Who Does the Journal Speak For?”), Dr. Hyman Goldin objects to “right wing ideologues” being represented in the Journal and wants “balance” — as if the Journal doesn’t publish a wide range of opinions. I would hope that he also writes to the Boston Globe, N.Y. Times, NPR, TIME magazine et al to correct the overwhelming left wing bias of most mainstream press. Of course, he will favor bringing back the “fairness doctrine” to shut up rightleaning talk radio. It would be amusing if it were not so frightening that “liberals” seem to think that any opinion other than their own is taboo, and then they accuse “right wingers” of stifling dialog. Jerry Cohn Haverhill
Loved the Mikvah Story Just want to tell you what a wonderful job you did covering the mikvah groundbreaking in Malden (“Malden Breaks Ground on Long-Awaited Mikvah,” Journal, July 7.) You really included a lot of information and quotes, and reported the story really well. Thanks for the super job! Ellen Zagorsky Goldberg Malden
Journal Should Take Action Could you please pay your attention to the article, “Where Obama is leading Israel,” published May 31, 2011 by Jerusalem Post columnist Caroline Glick. She states, “... leaders of American Jewish organizations have refused to condemn Obama’s anti-Israel positions.” Mark Prudkov Lynn
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At the Three Weeks, Mourning the Narrowness of Today’s Judaism Dr. Erica Brown
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mid the clutter of towels, beach umbrellas and summer, lies something more dark and painful that marks the summer months for Jews. On July 19, we began the Three Weeks mourning period on the Jewish calendar with a fast. Otherwise known by its name from the book of Lamentations, Bein Ha-mitzarim, between the straits or narrow places, the Three Weeks marks the ancient siege of Jerusalem and the subsequent destruction of the city and the two Temples. On the ninth of Av, the period closes with another fast as the apogee of our mourning. On the second fast day we have two public readings. The book of Lamentations is traditionally read in the evening with a haunting melody while sitting on the floor. In the morning, congregations read an extensive series of medieval poems, or kinot, that describe major persecutions and collective losses that we have experienced as a people — whether the York massacre in England or the burning of the Talmud in France in the 13th century. Over time, more layers of kinot have been added to the liturgy reflecting more recent historical trauma like the Holocaust. The kinot book is a repository of tears and sadness. You may be reading this and thinking that the Three Weeks is only observed today by the very religious, and
you would be right. No one is going to snatch away your summer fun or even diminish its breezy quality with a mourning period that is as much anachronistic as it is difficult to capture emotionally. It is downright difficult to mourn losses that you have never experienced personally. But when it comes to this time period, perhaps it is not the personal that is mourned at all. When I think of the missing Temples, I don’t focus on sacrifices or bricks and mortar. I think about how amazing it must have been to watch an entire people on pilgrimage to the Temple three times a year. I imagine the power of numbers when the entire community assembled. There is something transcendent about being in a space shared by tens of thousands of people with a similar mission and vision. There is something deeply moving about atonement, guilt, thanksgiving and joy when it is celebrated collectively rather than merely personally. Today, Judaism is an expression of self much more than it is an expression of the collective. Many of my formative Jewish moments were birthed through the Soviet Jewry movement. I was swept up by rallies on the National Mall in Washington and at the United Nations in New York. I felt part of something larger, and it felt great. I remember taking off the Anatoly Sharansky bracelet and taking down his poster when Sharansky took his historic walk to freedom out of the clutches of Soviet repression. I experienced this joy not as a single individual but as part of a wave of consciousness that the community voice is always louder. It has
A Modern Day Hate Crime Gayle Saks Rodriguez “I hate Jews. Kikes suck. Heil.” The above words were posted on Facebook by a 16-year-old who hangs around my stepson. They were posted on another kid’s page, the soft-spoken best friend of my stepson, and a boy I have grown to adore. This isn’t the first time that he’s left his iPhone unattended, allowing anyone within reach to post what they want under the guise of his identity. One can always tell by the vulgarity and the button-pushing, boundary-breaking language that it isn’t him, but this crossed a line that hadn’t been crossed before. I felt like I had been sucker punched. I sat there and stared at the words. My reaction was so visceral, so raw, that I truly began to shake. I called my husband and with a tone of voice I didn’t even recognize as my own, said “Look at ___’s status update NOW.” I implored my husband to call my stepson to (a) make him aware of this post and (b) find out who had written it. He called without hesitation, and it didn’t take long for my stepson to tell us who it was. The kid who posted this happened to be sitting next to my stepson with a group of other kids, and I demanded to speak to him. I absolutely lost it on him, my anger escalating the more I spoke. It is hard to remember exactly what I managed to spit out in my highly charged rage. He initially tried to make excuses, said it was a joke, that he and his friends always did stupid stuff like that, that he’d forgotten that I was Jewish, and if he had known that I was a Facebook friend of ___ he never would have done it. Imagine for a minute what this unleashed in me. I thought that young people were more enlightened these days. I thought that for the most part, we were beyond all this. I began to spew out the details of my own personal connection to the Holocaust, that my mother was a survivor and that threequarters of her immediate family had been killed, and how DARE he refer to this as a joke. I left out the part about how many Holocaust survivors and scholars ended up killing themselves, including Primo Levi, who hurled himself down a flight of stairs, and writer Jerzy Kosinski, who suffocated himself by wrapping a plastic bag around his head in his bathtub. I left out the part about my mother’s eventual suicide as the result of the sadness and loss that she was never able to shake.
I ended the conversation, after some conciliatory “Yes ma’ams” and “I’m sorry ma’ams,” by telling this kid that he was not welcome in my home where he had once come for dinner, and that I hope that was the last I would be seeing of him. I was tempted to call his parents, but I had no idea who I might be up against. The tree created this apple. Who knows how far or close, it has fallen. I don’t pretend to be a “religious” person. The last time I went to temple during the High Holidays, I felt like such a hypocrite that I decided that it might be the last time I try to fake it through another service. I listened to the sermon, appreciated the words that the rabbi said, but was quite frankly terrified by the ongoing discussion on the lack of an afterlife. However, like many other non-observant Jews, the cultural connection to who I am is very authentic. I’ve got this history that connects me very directly to the epicenter of anti-Semitism. Right now I am in the middle of a book about the American ambassador to Berlin during the cusp of Hitler’s rise to power. I am reading about Jews being randomly jumped and beaten to death for not “Heiling” as the SS paraded down the street. I am reading about how laws were being enacted to stop Jews from practicing medicine and law. Even though I would never pretend to possess all of the information to educate a 16-year-old, or a 90-year-old on the events that created someone like Hitler or something like the Holocaust, I know enough to muddle through the basics. Sooner than later, I’m going to have to explain to my now 10-year-old daughter how her grandmother died. Her best friend just did a book report on Anne Frank, so I was able to at least tell her that my mother was also hidden, not in the attic, but in the basement of a family’s home. When I was my daughter’s age, I knew that my mother didn’t really want to be alive anymore, but I don’t want to open that can of worms just yet. In the end, who knows if I’ve taught this kid anything? My stepson has ended his friendship with him, and I am no longer connected to even the friends of his I love on Facebook. Maybe I should just look at this unfortunate blip as an opportunity to have discovered my inner activist. Or, maybe, I should just be terrified. Gayle Saks-Rodriguez of Melrose is the daughter of a Holocaust survivor, and author of the blog mylifeinthemiddleages. blogspot.com.
the heft and depth that cannot be mustered alone. A few years ago when I was speaking at a conference in Jerusalem, a young woman from Latin America raised her hand and said, “We have no causes today, only organizations.” Years later her words still ring true. My children know nothing of large-scale Jewish movements to transform the world, even at a time when tikkun olam projects are thrown about with abandon. Absorbed in our own limited spaces, we have no spiritual center as an entire people. We have no gathering place for our passions and causes. We are locked into community with a small “c.” Our collective voice needs a platform. The prophet Zechariah laments that people fast over the Temple’s destruction but have lost the true meaning of community. It is not about the building but about the builders. “Execute true justice, deal loyally and compassionately with each other,” Zechariah warns. That only happens when we can see each other. We have compassion for people when we have faceto-face encounters with them. Bringing people together in a sacred space generated that bonding. But we have no such space now. We call this time period a narrow place because for us, Judaism has been narrowed as a result of this loss. For that I mourn. Dr. Erica Brown is the scholar in residence for the Jewish Federation of Greater Washington. Her latest book is “In the Narrow Places: Daily Inspiration for the Three Weeks” (OU/Koren).
In New Egypt, Old Conspiracies Live On David E. Miller
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hen a European laboratory announced two weeks ago that an infected shipment of Egyptian fenugreek seeds was the source of an E. coli epidemic that killed 48 Germans and a Swede, the Egyptian agriculture minister didn’t apologize, nor did he call for an investigation into the matter. The problem had nothing to do with Egypt, the minister, Ayman AbuHadid, told Egyptian press. “Israel is waging a commercial war against Egyptian exports,” he explained, and that case was closed. Abu-Hadid isn’t the only minister in Egypt’s post-revolutionary government to blame Israel for his country’s woes. In June, Deputy Prime Minister Yehia El-Gamal told the Lebanese news site Al-Nashra that Israel was inciting sectarian strife between Muslims and Christians in the country. “Israel understands that a strong Egypt is a danger for them, and they want to make Egypt weak,” El-Gamal said. “Nothing breaks or weakens Egypt more than sectarian tension or clashes between Muslims and Christians.” Conspiracy theories — with Israel fingered as the power by the scenes — were common currency in the years Hosni Mubarak ruled Egypt. Many Egyptians expected that with the transition to a more open, accountable and democratic society, the politicians and press would no longer need to point to cabals to explain away problems. Egypt’s press today is freer than any time in the last half century, but the government remains in the hands of the Mubarak-era army leadership and the cabinet, even after this week’s reshuffle, is made up of veteran politicians. And, even though Egypt and Israel are formally at peace, many Egyptians remain hostile to the Jewish state. Travel, commercial ties and cultural links are minimal. “Conspiracy theories are part of the texture of our culture,” Hani Henry, a psychology professor at the American University in Cairo, told The Media Line. “Even if we have a democratic government, the problem will not go away.”
He says blaming Israel for Egypt’s problems could be both a cynical attempt by politicians to distract the public or an honest belief that Israel is constantly conniving against Egypt. In either case, however, conspiratorial thinking was deeply ingrained in Egyptian thinking. The Egyptian government, nominated and directed by the Supreme Council of Armed Forces (SCAF), is struggling with soaring unemployment, a sharp decline in tourism and inflation of nearly 12%. Given these troubles, it is much easier to blame an outside enemy than take responsibility and face public rage, experts say.
“In Nasser’s day, imperialism was the bogeyman. Today imperialism has been replaced with Israel. It’s a way of uniting a fragmented society.” Ishaq Ibrahim, a researcher at the Egyptian Initiative for Personal Rights, a Cairo human rights organization, says that decades of Western failure to address the Palestinian issue has caused Egyptians to become bitter and suspicious of the West. However, he added, that doesn’t exempt them from examining their own mistakes. “I don’t like hearing about conspiracy theories,” Ibrahim told The Media Line. “Even if we assume there was external intervention, someone from the inside must have contributed.” While he understood why simple Egyptians would blame the Israelis for the E. coli epidemic, Ibrahim says that such statements from an educated government official are unacceptable. “The government is placating the sentiments of the masses,” Ibrahim said. “Rather than leading the way and enlightening the people, they are feeding their fears.” Conspiracy theories have been a part of Egypt’s political discourse since the days of populist President Gamal Abdul Nasser, who toppled the Egyptian monarchy almost 60
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Israeli Company Powers Buildings Using Honeycombs in Windows Susan Kraemer Green Prophet
Many governments worldwide now require double pane glass in windows for energy efficiency. In between the panes is usually a gas that helps to cut down on unwanted heat transfer. But what if, sandwiched between the two panes of glass, instead of merely a substance that helps to conserve energy, there was also an actual energy generator? That is the ingenious energy
innovation supplied by Israel’s SolarOr, which was on display at this month’s Intersolar event at San Francisco’s Moscone Center. Sandwiched between the two panes, SolarOr inserts tiny faceted solar photovoltaic cells facing the sky at the top of a honeycomb inside the glass. The solar glass “efficiency” — or electricity generated per square meter — is better than most BIPV (Building Integrated PV). SolarOr’s says their honeycomb glass can produce 155
watts per square meter. Normally BIPV is a little less efficient than traditional PV — but traditional PV must be added on top of a roof, in separate panels. These “smart windows” do not require additional roof panels, and would generate energy in addition to conserving it. SolarOr’s glass also reportedly cuts heat transfer and lets 40% of the light through, thus meeting most government requirements for energy efficiency. It is hoped that Israeli innovations like this architectural glass
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where you stand. • Ask if your lender will reduce the interest rate if you agree to automatic monthly payments, or after you’ve made a certain number of on-time payments. • If you anticipate repayment difficulties, contact your lender immediately to work out an agreement to defer payments, extend the loan’s term, or refinance at a lower rate. • Many people with federal loans who are lowincome, unemployed or working at low-paying, “public service” jobs in education, government or non-profits, qualify for income-based repayment, where monthly payments are capped relative to adjusted gross income, family size and state of residence. To learn more, visit studentaid.ed.gov/ ibr. Many people don’t realize the impact their credit score has on their financial future until after it’s been seriously damaged from making late payments, bouncing checks, opening too many accounts or exceeding credit limits. This can haunt you later when you try to borrow money for a house or car, rent an apartment or apply for a job. Find out where you stand by ordering credit reports. Jason Alderman directs Visa’s financial education programs.
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Two Jews, One Mixed Marriage Robin Washington Special to The Journal
LYNN — It was cold and drizzly all week, part of the springthat-wasn’t gripping the whole country. At least we could be thankful no tornadoes were threatening Lynn’s Red Rock Park. Still, the bride was being optimistic, if pragmatic. “If it rains on Saturday,” she said of the day before the wedding, “we’ll have it in the synagogue.” Saturday came, and the sun even came out. But by then, I was having other worries. The park overlooking the Atlantic might be hard for out-of-town guests to find. Once they got there, parking could be a problem. And at the rehearsal, people kept tripping in a gopher hole. “Maybe we should have gotten her a wedding planner,” I said to her stepmom quietly. It helped that my daughter Erin is, in addition to working for a newspaper, a choreogra-
pher — a skill, along with her dancing, she didn’t get from me. One of the first acts in this production was two summers ago, when she and Gene flew cross-country to Duluth, Minn., so he could ask me for her hand, or the 21st century equivalent. I was impressed by the trip alone, though I recognized it would be a mixed marriage. Not ethnically, in the amalgamation of Gene’s first-generation Russian Jewish clan with our black-Jewish-and-everythingelse mix, but politically, with their conservative leanings. “Very, very conservative,” our soon-to-be cousin Elina corrected me at a pre-wedding dinner. Still, if Erin and Gene agreed, what else mattered? And his family was impressed that officiating was Michelle Obama’s first cousin, Rabbi Capers Funnye, an old friend of ours from blackJewish circles, leading some to wonder if presidential family peepers might crash the wedding.
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Gene Pelikhov and Erin Washington under the chuppah with Rabbi Capers Funnye officiating. The ceremony was at Red Rock Park in Lynn.
There was little chance of that when Sunday came, drearily overcast and the thermometer barely breaking out of the 40s. Who could have any of this guessed when the couple decided on a seemingly safe May wedding outdoors? The Israeli relatives in attendance were no doubt freezing, though it couldn’t faze the hardy Minnesotans in the group, including transplants to Massachusetts like mom Lynn Washington, of Newton. Likewise, Gene’s parents, Eugene and Marina Pelikhov of
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Salem, had more than a few Russian winters under their belt. On the bright side, cold weather did mean less competition for parking spaces. After the bride and groom signed the ketubah — Jewish marriage contract — at their home, everyone gathered at the park and waited while Erin dressed. “Where’s Erin?” I was getting asked, and the best thing the father of the bride can do at this point is, well, mumble something affirming. Regardless of the weather, I knew she wasn’t
getting cold feet. And there she was. Beautiful, with barely a goosebump. If she can take it, everyone else can, and the sun peeked through to give its approval. It was time to make it official. “I consecrate you to me as my wife according to the laws of Moses and the traditions of our people,” Rabbi Funnye said for Gene to repeat. “I concentrate you to me as my wife,” Gene started. “No, no,” the rabbi interrupted. “Consecrate. We gotta get this right.” He got it right. And so did Erin, and both of them in their choice of each other, made apparent in their first pas de deux (inside the synagogue, with no gopher holes). He’s quite the dancer, too — and a computer science grad and pharmacist to boot. Even Dad found a way to move his feet in the fatherdaughter number. It helps to have a Dancing-With-the-Stars caliber partner. “You look so proud! You’re beaming,” people said to me that night and afterward. I was. And am, of my talented daughter and son-in-law. A wedding planner? Who needs one? Robin Washington is editor of the Duluth News Tribune in Minnesota and a co-founder with Rabbi Capers Funnye of the Alliance of Black Jews. Washington formerly lived in the Newton area and worked for the Boston Herald. He may be reached at rwashington@duluthnews.com.
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Jewish Justice of the Peace Performs Weddings Sasha Mishkin Special to the Journal
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sex marriages. To Backer, the best part of being a Justice of the Peace is getting to meet people at their most blissful time. “The bride, the groom and the parents are very happy and in a very upbeat mood. It’s nice to work with people in a positive setting,” Backer said. Backer, who is Jewish, grew up in mixed neighborhoods. His unique ability to bring different types of people together puts interfaith couples at ease. One such couple is John and Kristine Roddy of Sterling, who hired Backer to officiate at their wedding in 2008. “With his great organization, humor and kind spirit, he helped us create our own custom ceremony. He made suggestions to help incorporate our wedding
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party and families during the ceremony, and put us at ease during the rehearsal and calmed our nerves,” they said. Backer strives to satisfy both sides of the family when leading a service. “In an interfaith marriage, Jewish parents like the breaking of the glass, but parents of the Christian faith don’t like the fact that it symbolizes the destruction of the Second Temple. So, I alter it to mean that marriage is fragile so you always have to be careful of what you say and do, and that the marriage should last as long as it takes to put the glass back together,” he said. Since interfaith marriages are almost never performed in a house of worship, Backer has officiated in neutral spaces, including in nature. In all of his services, he tries to inject a little humor into the ceremony. “The first wedding I ever did was a surprise wedding on April Fool’s Day. All the guests were sent invitations that they
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sraeli wedding gown designer Pnina Tornai, whose corseted creations are in demand across the globe, never took a sewing class in her life. Viewers of the popular TLC cable show “Say Yes to the Dress” probably assume that the top designer at Manhattan’s Kleinfeld bridal salon gained easy entrée to the legendary shop. But surprisingly, when Pnina Tornai first displayed her sexy wares to Kleinfeld’s owner and buyer, she got an icy reception. Sure of her product, Tornai did not give up. “I sent them seven dresses, and I gave the first one the number 101, a powerful symbol from Kabbalah. From the moment they put that dress on a mannequin, it did not stop selling,” she said. Tornai’s American business soon became exclusive to Kleinfeld, which two years later gave her a private in-store boutique, a first for the highbrow salon. Not bad for an Israeli mother who has no formal training in dressmaking. Prospects were gloomy for Tornai when she returned to her native Israel after 10 years in Paris, as a newly divorced mother in her early 30s with a young son to support. The drama school dropout opened a small custom
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dress shop in Tel Aviv, and hired a seamstress to operate the sewing machine in the basement. Nineteen years ago, a bride from the north commissioned Tornai to make her a wedding dress. On the big day, a missile launched from Lebanon fell near the site of the ceremony, and the next morning the newlyweds’ picture was front-page material. Women from across the country started contacting Tornai, asking her to make them a copy of that dress. “It’s an amazing story even for me,” says Tornai, who still has her flagship store in Tel Aviv. “Sometimes I have to pinch myself to be sure I’m not dreaming.” She knows she was dreaming, however, when shortly afterward she had a lovely nighttime vision of lying on a huge lawn watching beaded and jeweled bridal and
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ball gowns float from the sky. When she awoke, she made the decision to become a wedding dress designer. Her dreams remain a source of inspiration for her custommade, corseted designs. Tornai now employs “the best seamstresses and patternmakers in the world” to do the cutting, sewing and meticulous trimming, “but they need my eye to correct everything, and all the dresses are designed by me.” Tornai speaks several languages, handy for communicating with clients who stream to her in-store boutiques in New York and Athens. “I have brides from all over the world flying to New York to meet me — from all the Arab
countries, from places that don’t even know the name ‘Israel,’ even from the Palestinian territories,” she says. “I feel I’m sort of an ambassador for my country. At first they’re wary of an Israeli, but by the end they are inviting me to Dubai and Kuwait.” Her line varies from classic styles to sophisticated handembroidered gowns, always revealing and usually sparkling with Swarovski crystals and gemstones. Less well known is her line of modest gowns for religious Jewish and Muslim customers. “I dress all the daughters of the biggest rabbis in Israel,” says Tornai. A good thing, too, because her 26-year-old son recently became more religious and will likely choose a bride
who wants a more covered-up look. For her own wedding to David Levinshtein 11 years ago, she wore a “very noble” gown with a classic draped corset and A-line skirt. After the ceremony, she changed to a silver lace beaded dress, and finally a gem- and bead-encrusted embroidered denim outfit for the after-party. To Tornai’s way of thinking, the perfect wedding dress is a must — even if its price tag will necessitate cutting back on flowers or music. “It’s one chance in your life, and your wedding is all about your impression,” she says. Though she spends half her time in New York and a weekend every two months in Athens, Tornai has finally fulfilled her childhood ambition to act. She just finished filming a major role in the Israeli political sitcom “Polishuk,” and she’s hosting the Israeli version of “Ten Years Younger in 10 Days.” She also hopes to sign exclusive deals with bridal salons in Mexico, Canada and Kuwait, but is committed to keep her home base in Israel. “It is important for someone successful to remember where you come from. If you forget that, you cannot go higher — that’s a law of life,” says Tornai. This article is reprinted with permission from israel21c.org.
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Five Ways to Keep Your Love Alive Slovie Jungreis-Wolff Aish Hatorah Resources
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ummer is here and wedding music is in the air. As we share in ceremonies and watch couples embark on their lives together, remember that falling in love is the easy part; keeping the love alive is the challenge. Here are the five best ways to keep your love thriving: Be a Positive Person Who wants to live with a miserable, negative spouse? It is frustrating to share life with one who always sees the downside. Sour faces and moodiness destroy the happy feeling that makes home a haven. Create joy by developing a positive eye and attitude. Begin by giving a smile to those you love. Love flourishes in a positive atmosphere. You’ll find that your loved one reflects your new attitude, and soon smiles right back at you. Never Speak in Anger When we speak in anger, our emotions take over. We say things we don’t mean. I have met too many couples who were seething and uttered words they came to painfully regret. Though we try to explain ourselves later, the damage is done and deep wounds remain. Be a Giver “Ahavah” is the Hebrew word for love. It comes from the word “hav,” which means to give. The more we give, the more we love. Giving does not have to mean expensive. Extend your hand as you offer an encouraging word, prepare a favorite dish, or send a loving text “just because.” Some people save their rumpled look for their spouse but give their best to everyone else. Take a moment to brush your hair, change that stained t-shirt, and put yourself together like you did when you first met. See the Whole Person It’s easy to get caught up in what annoys us and drives us mad. If you limit your sight to irritants, you will end up missing out on all the blessings. Think of three good qualities about your loved one. The next time you find yourself concentrating on all those annoying habits, change gears. Fill your mind with the good qualities that make this person special. Stop Comparing Others may seem better off, but you never know what is going on behind closed doors. Comparing eats away at our happiness and strips us of appreciation for that which we have. We neglect to see all that we must be grateful for. Hold onto your blessings and bring the magic of peace into your home. Slovie Jungreis-Wolff is a freelance writer and relationships/parenting instructor. She is the author of “Raising A Child With Soul” (St. Martin’s Press) .
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ast year, The Better Business Bureau received more than 970 complaints against wedding related services including planners, bridal shops, car or limousine rentals, DJs, wedding photographers, florists and jewelers. Many of the complaints were centered on the company’s unwillingness to honor cancellation and refund policies after a deposit had been paid. “With today’s wedding averaging more than $28,000, there’s not a penny left to gamble on unreliable vendors,” said Paula Fleming, BBB spokesperson. “Before securing your wedding services and paying any upfront fees, it’s important for all newlyweds to do their research.” BBB recommends the following steps:
Research all online vendors When choosing an online retailer for wedding services or products, start with a trusted site rather than shopping with a search engine. Also, look for the BBB seal and other widely-recognized “trustmarks” on retail websites. Confirm that your online purchase is secure Look for the “s” after “http” in the URL or the lock symbol in the lower right-hand corner of the screen. Be sure to check the company out with BBB before doing business with them. Review all terms and conditions What is the company’s refund and exchange policy? What is their cancellation policy? Understand your rights as a consumer.
Keep documentation of your order For online orders, save a copy of the confirmation page or emails confirming the order until you receive the item or service and are satisfied. If you’re dealing with a company face-toface, be sure to get all details in writing, including specific dates, products, prices, cancellation and deposit policies and signatures from both parties. Pay with a credit card Credit cards offer consumers the added protection of disputing any charge over $50 within 60 days of the purchase. Most established businesses accept major credit cards, so use them whenever possible, including
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Wedding is a Melting Pot of Tradition Amy Sessler Powell Journal Staff
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hen Tova Kelman and Moshe Lerer got married in May, their wedding celebration was a melting pot of Italian, Yemenite, Israeli, American Orthodox and Chasidic traditions. They also found ways to incorporate the very American preferences of the bride and groom, with respect to the period of mourning for the bride’s grandfather. Kelman is the daughter of Rabinessa Liora and Rabbi Avraham Kelman of Congregation Ahabat Sholom in Lynn. Lerer, a firefighter, is from Monsey, N.Y. and observes in the Satmar Chasidic tradition. “We really had a melting pot of different traditions and cultures. We had a lot of friends and family, and it was really beautiful,” Tova said. Liora Kelman said her grandfather walked from Yemen to Israel through Saudi Arabia as a young man. In Israel, he married a woman with Sephardic traditions, but they identified as Yemenites and her grandmother had to “convert” to that world. Her mother, who was Italian, also had to learn to “adapt” to the Yemenite traditions. Rabbi Kelman, on the other hand, was a fourth generation American rabbi, and met Liora in Israel through a mutual friend. When she heard he liked Yemenite and Italian food, she knew she the relationship had potential. Liora Kelman said her American mother-in-law helped with the henna party in honor of her father’s Yemenite heritage, and she was thrilled when her daughter wanted this part of the tradition.
Tova Kelman and Moshe Lerer under the chuppah with Rabbi Avraham Kelman officiating.
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Tova Kelman dresses in the jeweled garb for a traditional Yemenite henna party before the wedding. Her maternal grandfather was Yemenite and her mother, Liora, also had a henna party as a young bride.
“My daughter is all-American, but she said, ‘Mommy, we need the henna ceremony.’ Here is our heritage continuing,” Kelman said. Moshe the bridegroom was upset not to be there, but it was within the period of time when he was not supposed to see the bride before the wedding. Rabbi Kelman, in keeping with the tradition, explained that Moshe would have to wait for his own daughter’s henna party — just as he did. One of the hardest parts of planning this wedding was that Liora’s Kelman’s father passed away in January, but it felt so right to honor his traditions. “I felt like he was guiding us,” Liora said. Along with incorporating many traditions, the Kelmans wanted to plan a ceremony that honored Tova’s love of the ocean. She was willing to get married in New York, a venue easier for most of the guests and some of the most elderly relatives, but she needed the water. They researched venues on the Internet and found a place in Staten Island, Vanderbilt, on Father Capodanno Blvd., a connection that spoke to Liora’s Italian heritage. To add to that heritage, Liora made bonboniera treats, a Jordan almond wrapped in tulle with a mini paper version of a breast plate showing the date of the wedding, May 30, and the names of the bride and groom. The bonboniera are given to guests to thank them for coming.
Tova chose blue and orange as her colors, and her sister, Avigayil, was her maid of honor. Avigayil selected a vintage dress from an Internet store. When it arrived and Liora saw it, she realized that it was the same as a dress her mother had once owned. Then, because of Liora’s period of mourning, tradition dictates that she should not wear anything new. She visited Madam Had’em in Marblehead, who helped her with a vintage dress, and she learned of a woman who makes hats in Maynard, Denishe, who made her a beautiful matching hat and wore it a few times herself so it would not be new. The groom wore a kittel, a traditional white coat worn by a man for special religious services during the year and at his wedding to symbolize purity. The groom also wears the pocket-less coat to show he is marrying for love versus possessions. In the Satmar tradition, the groom also wears a wool coat to hide the kittel , because it is also used a shroud. Rabbi Kelman officiated at the wedding of his daughter, but many other rabbis attended and offered blessings for the bridge and groom. Those included Rabbi Norman Lamm, former president of Yeshiva University, who married the Kelmans, and Rabbi Avrohom Halbfinger of the Kashrut Committee of New England. When it was time to celebrate, they chose a cake made with chocolate ganache, which tastes much better than non-dairy frosting, but for some reason the dark cake bothered Rabbi Kelman, Liora said. “We added some white dots to make him happy. Who said everything has to be traditional?” On eBay.com, Liora found a ceramic bride and groom wearing red fire hats, and bought that for the top of the cake in a nod to her son-in-law’s dedication to firefighting. So many relatives and friends from all over the world added a beautiful element of dancing and festivity to the day. And, though the day started with terrible rainstorms, it cleared by 10 a.m. and Tova got her seaside service. “The next day, I said, ‘Do you want to get married again?’ We had such a good time and it was just what I imagined on the water. We had friends and family from Engand, Italy, Israel and Canada, and it was beautiful. We really had a melting pot,” Tova said.
The bridesmaids line up during the wedding on the beach in Staten Island, N.Y.
Jewish Mom Hatches a Match Via Iraq Richard Greenberg Washington Jewish Week
For compelling evidence that Jewish mothers can be indefatigable in their matchmaking efforts, consider Loren Rosenzweig of suburban Boston. She wanted her daughter, Washington resident Annie Rosenzweig, to find a nice Jewish boy, so she cast a wide net on her behalf. A very wide net. It reached all the way to Iraq. No, Iraq is not a secret repository of eligible Jewish males. It is, however, where Rosenzweig’s then-25-year-old daughter was scheduled to spend several months in 2008 and 2009 on assignment for the Department of Defense. As a civilian employee on loan to the State Department, her job was to help administer the country’s provincial elections. The elder Rosenzweig poked around and learned that the Jewish chaplain in Baghdad, Rabbi Andrew Shulman, was from the Boston area. She contacted his wife, got his email address, and promptly enlisted his help in implementing “Operation Shidduch.”
“She’s going to be there for four months, and she’s a single girl, so why not have a rabbi look out for her?” explained Loren, a trust and estate attorney. “Everyone wants to see their child matched up with the right person.” In July 2008, the month before Annie arrived in Iraq, Rabbi Shulman put out the word via email (a photo of Annie attached) to a small group of young Jews with Iraq or D.C. connections. “Listen,” he said in his message, “I’ve got this Jewish mother wanting me to set up her daughter; she’s 25, lives in D.C., works at the Pentagon — take a look at the photo, pretty hot...” Annie was appalled. Her mother had cleared none of this with her. Plus, she hadn’t planned on dating in Iraq. “I was mortified; it was embarrassing,” she said. Shulman’s message eventually found its way to journalist Yochi Dreazen, who had served for several years as the Baghdad bureau chief for The Wall Street Journal. But by the time Operation Shidduch was under way, he had returned stateside, where he now covers national
security issues for the National Journal. As it turns out, Dreazen and Annie Rosenzweig already had crossed paths in Washington: Both lived in the same neighborhood (Dupont Circle), belonged to the same gym and davened with the same congregation, DC Minyan. “We weren’t really friends; we’d only met a few times,” said Annie, who heard nothing from potential suitors for months after the launch of Operation Shidduch — which was okay with her. “I had hoped it would all go away.” It didn’t. Shulman’s shout-out had put the hook in Dreazen, who now saw his ex-acquaintance in a different light. “I was smitten immediately,” said the 34-year-old Chicago native. Dreazen contacted Annie through Facebook in early 2009, shortly after she returned to Washington from her assignment in Iraq. “I said something romantic, like ‘Why don’t we swap Iraq stories?’” he recalled. It worked. They met shortly after Passover of that year, and started dating that summer. “We hit it off pretty quickly,” Annie
said. Dreazen proposed to her in June 2010 while they were on vacation in British Columbia. The magic moment occurred at the foot of a glacial waterfall they had flown to on a helicopter. “It was pretty fantastic,” she said. Dreazen and Annie Rosenzweig were married on May 22 just outside Boston, and now live in Dupont Circle. One cannot help wondering: Would the outcome have been the same if a war and a determined Jewish mother had not intervened? “It’s hard to say,” said Annie, who still works at the Pentagon. “We ran in similar circles, so it’s surprising that we didn’t get together earlier.” Asked if she is now grateful to her mother for the critical role she also played in the coming-together process, Annie said, “I have conflicted feelings. It might embolden Jewish mothers everywhere. But at the same time, it certainly worked out for me, at least in this one case.” This article originally appeared in Washington Jewish Week.
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Lucky Coin Toss Results in Fifty Years of Happiness Susan Jacobs Jewish Journal Staff
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inthrop buddies Herb Leventhal and Roger Zimmerman were both interested in taking pretty Marcia Landsman to the ninth grade prom. The friends struck a deal. They would toss a coin. The winner would take Marcia; the loser would take Marcia’s best friend, Arlene Titchell. Herb lost. But in reality, he won. Herb not only took Arlene to the prom, he wound up marrying her. The Leventhals’ celebrated their 50th wedding anniversary June 18. The family has been rejoicing for weeks. The festivities began May 29 when the Leventhals’ daughters, Eve, Amy, Rachel and Diane, threw their parents a surprise anniversary party at Caffe Italia in Marblehead. It will culminate in August, when the entire extended family will take a Caribbean cruise together. When asked how they first met, Herb admits, “We go way back.” Both were raised in Winthrop, but lived in different parts of the city and attended different elementary schools. They became acquainted in junior high. “He was quiet, calm, studious and very handsome,” she remembers. Herb was attracted to Arlene, as well. “She had (and still has) a great personality,” he said.
In an interesting twist, they later discovered that Arlene’s father Chet, a photographer, had taken the pictures at Herb’s bar mitzvah. The couple dated while attending Winthrop High School. Herb went on to Harvard College for pre-med. Arlene studied education at Simmons College. “By the end of our freshman year, I sensed I was going to marry her,” Herb said. He “pinned her” in their sophomore year, they became engaged in their junior year, and they married June 18, 1961 at Temple Israel in Swampscott — a week after they both graduated college.
“We were 21 years old, and didn’t have a penny,” said Arlene, who landed a position as a math teacher at Malden High School and financially supported them while Herb attended Tufts University Medical School. The couple admits that they weathered some challenges during that time period. “We had no money, and I spent a lot of time studying. I later came to learn that mine was the only medical school marriage among my friends that survived,” Herb said. Herb became an internist, and shortly thereafter, their first daughter was born.
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Next month, the extended Leventhal family will celebrate the 50th wedding anniversary of Herb and Arlene (pictured in the center) on a Caribbean cruise.
But it was 1966, and like most young men in that era, Herb was drafted. Although he did not have to serve in Vietnam, he and his family had to relocate to a military base in San Antonio, Texas, for two years. Herb completed military duty and, missing the ocean, the young couple returned to Massachusetts. He decided to specialize in radiology, and went on to have a very successful career in radiation oncology. She taught and did private tutoring. The Leventhals bought a house in Swampscott in 1972, and have lived there for 39 years. They also have a place in Boynton Beach, Fla. The family-oriented couple is proud of their four children and 10 grandchildren — all of whom live near them. The Leventhals make it a priority to attend many of their grandchildren’s sports games and other functions. They are acutely aware of how special it is to celebrate their anniversary milestone, during an era when many couples are divorced. “We share the same values. We both grew up in middle class, Jewish homes. We believe in education, family and fidelity. We respect each other, and we work well as a team,” Herb said. continued on page 19
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“And we both love music – everything from classical to country western,” Arlene added. Both believe the key to a successful relationship is to give each other space. “We have our own interests, and don’t demand that we do everything together. He has a wood workshop in the basement, is an avid bike rider, and likes firearms. I enjoy gardening, cooking and going to the Temple,” Arlene said. Herb agrees. “I’m introspective, but Arlene’s nature is out-
going. She loves people, and they gravitate to her. She’s a free spirit, and I cannot possess her. I’ve got to allow her to do her own thing,” he commented. They readily shower each other with compliments. “Arlene is a kind, generous and giving person. She goes to minyan everyday at Congregation Shirat Hayam, and cooks there every Friday for the Saturday Kiddush lunch,” Herb said. “Although he just retired, he was a wonderful doctor who really cared about his patients,
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Create a Memorable Wedding Shower With an Afternoon Tea Party Beverly Levitt Special to the Journal
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uring the beautiful Boston summer, an afternoon tea party is a stress-free yet elegant treat for a wedding shower. Tea sandwiches are classic, easy to prepare, and best served cold or at room temperature. Desserts can be created at home or ordered from a bakery. India native Gary Walia, general manager of Tamarind Restaurant and Tea Room in New York, agrees that tea and all the ceremony surrounding it makes a gracious centerpiece for a wedding celebration, and that the taking of tea has an intimacy and grace that a cup of coffee or even a flute of champagne can only aspire to.
With a chuckle, Walia detailed the first meeting between his sister and a hand-picked suitor. “My sister met her future husband for a cup of tea, and by the time they emptied the teapot the deal was sealed,” he said. The tradition of mid-afternoon tea was inaugurated in the mid-19th century, and authentic Afternoon Tea is still taken in Great Britain. As the story goes, when Anna, Duchess of Bedford, served tea and “breadstuffs” to her friends at 4 p.m. because everyone was hungry and couldn’t wait until dinner, they enjoyed it so much it became a national ritual. Today, Afternoon Tea is so popular that the Ritz London’s Palm Court has a three-to-six month waiting list, according to
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Peony Tea is delicate, refined and filled with healthful antioxidants. Chai is basically black tea brewed with selected spices and milk. The Tea Sandwich Tea sandwiches are diminutive and delicate. It takes only one or two bites to finish one, so each piece must be flavorful and distinctive. The bread should be very thin. You can ask your bakery to cut it horizontally instead of vertically, or buy a loaf of unsliced bread and slice it yourself. Or you can use a rolling pin to flatten it. For most of the sandwiches you can use a spread made of equal parts of softened butter and cream cheese, white pepper and a dash of Tabasco.
The Table Since most Afternoon Tea parties are not sit-down affairs, encourage guests to mingle and graze. Amidst the lovely linens and sumptuous spring flowers, create a tea area with all the accoutrements, a sandwich section with accompanying napkins and plates, and a tray of desserts. Three-tiered platters are perfect for a tea party. Utensils are not usually offered, as guests will be walking around sipping tea and nibbling from their petit plates. Select dishes, cups and glasses that are lightweight and lend themselves to being carried around. Here are some recipe suggestions to serve at a wedding shower AfternoonTea party:
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Brie, Walnut and Watercress Sandwiches From “Effortless Entertaining with Colin Cowie” (HarperCollins) 8 very thin slices white or brown bread 4 ounces ripe Brie, softened and rind removed ¼ ounce chopped walnuts, lightly toasted ½ bunch watercress, rinsed and stems removed Flatten bread with a rolling pin. Spread cheese on one side of the bread slices. Top with walnuts and watercress. Cover with remaining slices. Trim crusts and cut into triangles.
Punjab Egg Salad Sandwich Inspired by Chado Tea Room, Los Angeles Makes 16 sandwiches 2 cups Lapsang Souchong tea at room temperature 5 hard boiled eggs, whole with shells removed 2 T. mayonnaise 1 T. chives, finely chopped Salt and white pepper to taste Softened butter 8 slices white bread Pour tea into a bowl. Marinate eggs in tea for five hours or overnight in the refrigerator. Remove eggs from tea. In a glass bowl roughly chop the eggs. Add mayonnaise, chives, salt and pepper. Gently mix to combine. Spread a thin layer of butter on bread. Spread egg mixture over half of the bread. Cover with remaining slice. Trim crusts and cut into desired shape.
Smoked Salmon Sandwiches with Smoked Grapes From Executive Chef Matthew Levin, Lacroix at The Rittenhouse Hotel Makes 15 sandwiches 1 pound house smoked salmon, diced 2 shallots, diced 15 basil leaves, chiffonade ½ bulb fennel, diced 1 Granny Smith apple, peeled and diced Zest and juice of 1 orange 4 ounces mayonnaise 1 T. Dijon mustard Sea salt and white pepper to taste 1 loaf seven grain bread, sliced ¼ inch thick 50 red skinned grapes, smoked over apple wood and dried fennel frowns Combine first nine ingredients in a stainless steel bowl, season with salt and pepper. Right before serving, top each sandwich with half of a smoked grape.
Cucumber Sandwiches 4 ounces cream cheese or goat cheese 1 t. lemon juice Salt and white pepper to taste 8 slices white or wheat bread ½ English cucumber, thinly sliced ½ cup watercress, stemmed Mix together cheese, lemon juice, salt and pepper. Spread on slice of bread. Top with cucumber and watercress. Cover with remaining slice. Trim crusts and cut into desired shape.
Alsatian Apple Tart From “Once Upon a Tart” by Frank Mentesana and Jerome Audureau (Alfred A. Knopf) 3 or 4 tart apples, such as Granny Smith, peeled, cored and halved 1 prepared 9-inch flaky tart crust 2 large eggs 1 /3 cup sugar ½ cup light cream ½ cup milk 1 t. vanilla extract ¼ cup apricot glaze (see below)
Scones at The Rittenhouse Hotel From Executive Chef Matthew Levin, Lacroix at The Rittenhouse Makes 1 dozen scones 1 cup all purpose flour ½ stick unsalted butter 3 T. granulated sugar ¼ t. baking powder 1 egg 2 T. heavy cream ¼ t. salt ¾ cup dried fruits (currants, raisins, candied citrus)
Preheat oven to 375. Using a sharp knife or a mandoline, slice apples 1/8” thick lengthwise. Arrange apple slices, starting from top tart edge and working around the perimeter of the pan. Repeat, laying the apples in rows of overlapping concentric circles, until the tart shell is full. Whisk eggs and sugar together in a small bowl until they are pale yellow. Whisk in cream, milk and vanilla. Pour this custard over the apple slices. Carefully place tart on the center rack of the oven. Bake for 1¼ hours until apples are golden brown and custard is set. It should feel firm to the touch and not jiggle in the middle when you shake the pan. Remove tart from oven and set on a wire rack to cool slightly. Using a pastry brush, coat apples with the apricot glaze.
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Preheat oven to 350. Place flour in a medium bowl. With a pastry cutter, cut in the butter. Add sugar and baking powder; mix until combined. In another bowl combine the egg, heavy cream and salt, and whisk until smooth. Place dry mixture in the bowl of an electric mixer or in a large bowl to mix by hand. Add all liquid ingredients at once and combine to make sticky paste. Do not overwork the mix. Add dried fruits and roll one inch thick. Cut scones to desired size and bake for 10-15 minutes. Serve warm.
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How to Break the Israeli Deadlock
Let’s Build Bridges With the Right People
Ms. Carol Denbo of Swampscott says Israel should simply stand firm in its relations with the Palestinians. Does that mean Israel should change nothing but continue to tell the world why its positions are right and the Arabs are wrong — hoping the rest of the world comes around to the pro-Israel point of view? In a stalemate such as this, creativity, courage and real leadership are needed to break the deadlock. That’s not going to come from Hamas and Fatah. It doesn’t look likely from Netanyahu either. It could come from Israel, but not if it absolutely refuses to budge in the name of “standing firm.” Israel could: 1. Increase efforts at people-topeople communications. Flesh out the common ground shared by many Israelis and Palestinians, that what most people (leaders aside) really want is peaceful coexistence. Establish human relations outside government channels where ordinary people can meet and talk. Relations between the towns of Mezer and Meiser are a good example.
I would like to participate in a program to build bridges to the Muslim community, as your July 7, 2011 editorial advocates. However, Islam is a religion of violence, dedicated to the destruction of Israel. The Koran holds non-Muslims in contempt, brands them “infidels,” and calls for their subjugation. Islam is clearly incompatible with democracy and the concepts of freedom, free speech, and human rights. It is both religion and state. It is a brutally patriarchal society which holds women to be little more than chattel, subjects them to genital mutilation, and “honor killing.” Homosexual men are discriminated against and even condemned to death. Violent, deadly conflicts rage all over the world in the name of Allah. It is said that the majority of Muslims are not violent, an observation with which I agree. However, it is the violent-prone minority who are in control, and those who are not violent dare not speak out, let alone refute or condemn those who perpetrate violent acts. Thus, there is no foundation upon which to build a bridge to the Muslim community. Dialogue should take place. Our message to the Muslim community should be that in their early
2. Curtail the impact of fundamentalists in politics. Freedom of belief is essential to democracy, but fundamentalism is antithetical to resolution of secular issues. 3. Prepare now to respond if and when the Arab Spring movement brings non-violent protests to Israel. Large groups engaged in non-violent protests have enormous influence and win vast popular support. What will Israel do if tens of thousands of Palestinians march peacefully against Israeli policies? Can Israel afford a military response to a non-violent protest? The world will be watching closely. My view is that popular non-violent protests need to be met with popular non-violent resistance. Instead of the IDF, tens of thousands of Israelis standing non-violently saying, “No, you cannot rewrite history” would be the only effective response. The planning needs to start now. Stuart Cohen Marblehead
More on the Map Issue The June 9 letter from Charlotte Andrews regarding “Distorted Map Ignored Palestinian Territories” tries to appear to have a tone of “fairness,” but is missing a few relevant facts. I wonder if Charlotte Andrews was out of the country with her good friend and housemate, Susan Nicholson. In any case, she should have had full disclosure of who she is and what she truly represents: Susan Nicholson heads the North Shore Coalition for Peace and Justice, which is a member organization of the “U.S. Campaign to End the Occupation.” The Jewish Journal revealed this group as one of the top 10 anti-Israel groups appearing to be Pro-Israel by the ADL. Susan Nicholson was the woman who also organized the Ann Wright speaking tour in Essex last year, so Ms. Wright could speak about her participation in the last flotilla event. I attended that event and was handed a postcard-sized map showing Palestinian reduced territories, with no
mention of Israel at all. So, Ms. Andrews, where is the fairness there? Just a card showing all the reduced Palestinian territories since 1948, then 1967, then 1972. Coincidentally, these dates reflect the times that Israel was attacked by other countries and WON this land still claimed by Palestinians. To answer Charlotte’s question, there is no country called Palestine, therefore it need not be on a map of Israel. And, as she states, Israel didn’t annex the West Bank or Gaza, so why would they need to be on a map of Israel? If Ms. Andrews was so concerned about the “ignored Palestinian territories,” why doesn’t she complain about the map of Jordan? Jordan absorbed much of the land that was to be part of the two-state solution in 1948. Maybe on their next trip to Israel, they should meet with Israelis and not just Palestinians, so they could actually be “fair” in their distortions of reality. Andrea Diamant Swampscott
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In New Egypt from page 9 years ago and was the first in a line of dictators that ended with Mubarak. “There always has to be a foreign threat,” he said. “In Nasser’s day, imperialism was the bogeyman. Today imperialism has been replaced with Israel. It’s a way of uniting a fragmented society,” says Henry. In the years before Mubarak was ousted last February, international conspiracies led by Jews or by Israel were regularly employed by government officials and echoed in the media. Some outrageous theories have become the laughingstock of Western media. In December 2010, for instance, the governor of South Sinai blamed the Israeli Mossad spy agency for a spate of shark attacks in the resort town of Sharm Al-Sheikh. Experts detect subtle changes in the way conspiracy theories are used and perpetuated. Although Israel and often the U.S. continued to be blamed for the country’s problems, Egyptians are more preoccupied these days with internal politics, Marina Ottaway,
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centuries, Judaism and Christianity were religions of violence. They have changed. So must Islam. As it happened, also in the July 7 issue, there was a letter from my friend, Professor Marvin R. Wilson, Ph.D., an Evangelical Christian and a devoted and sincere friend of Israel and of the Jewish people. It is Dr. Wilson’s Evangelical community, of some 70 million followers in the United States, to whom we should build a bridge. We should reach out and grasp the hand of unconditional friendship, which they have offered for many decades. The long-time Jewish knee-jerk rejection of “all they want to do is convert us” is foolish, inappropriate and selfdestructive. How does it make sense to attempt bridge-building to the Muslims, who are taught in their schools, mosques and media from early childhood to hate Jews, while declining to do so with a vast community of Evangelical Christians, who love and respect the Jewish people, and Israel, and who have proved their devotion in countless ways and deeds, even before the rebirth of Israel? Robert I. Lappin Swampscott
There is Plenty of Outreach to the Muslim Community The editorial of July 7 (“The Need for Interfaith Interaction”) calling for building bridges with other faiths is important. These efforts must not be unilateral. Several questions come to mind. Why are Muslim leaders not denouncing acts of terrorism committed by their fellow Muslims? Why are they allowed to build mosques throughout the U.S., but synagogues and churches are prohibited throughout Middle East, except for Israel? Why have Muslims not condemned the brutal killing of the Fogel family in Israel? Why are Muslims not coming to the aid of Coptic Christians in Egypt, who are being killed and tormented? If Muslims really want to build bridges, they have ample opportunity to do so. The Journal states that little is known about Islam, except what we are fed by our own fears and the media. I strongly disagree with this statement. There is a tremendous amount of information available. Sharia law, which forms much of the
basis of this religion, has many tenets that are quite foreign and go against JudeoChristian values. Muslims are not the focus of near universal enmity. Many countries are bending over backwards to appease the Muslim community. It seems we are reaching out to the Muslim community in a way that we do not for any other religious group. In our own country, the Obama administration is reaching out to the Muslim Brotherhood, an organization that has the destruction of the U.S., Israel and all other parts of the Free World as its explicit objective. The Muslim Brotherhood has a five-phased plan to accomplish its goal of destroying and eliminating Western civilization. The bottom line is that there is plenty of outreach to the Muslim community, and there is much known about Islam — the issue is how do we deal with this reality. Carol Denbo Swampscott
an expert on Arab politics at the Carnegie Endowment for International Peace, a Washington think-tank, told The Media Line “Old habits die hard,” she said, referring to the use of conspiracies even today. “However, neither Israel nor the United States figures prominently in what is happening in Egypt. They are not motivating the actions of the participants.” Another change from the Mubarak-era conspiracies is that Egypt’s press is far less beholden to the government. SCAF has attempted to forge direct contact with Egyptians through Facebook. With 1.2 million “fans,” SCAF’s Facebook page features official statements commending the courage of the protesters and offering public opinion polls on issues of policy. Henry of AUC says the conspiracy theories are being generated by Egypt’s sensationalistic media, not because the government necessarily favors them. “They [the media] want to score a few points with society,” he said. “There are no ethics whatsoever about what is said.” This article is published courtesy of The Media Line.
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Thur, July 21 Surrealism at PEM
5:30-8:30 p.m. View the collection and play Surrealist games. Live music, cash bar and chef demo.161 Essex St., Salem. pem.org or 866745-1876.
‘The Names of Love’
8:15 p.m. This semi-autobiographical, comedic film is about a young, liberal woman who uses sex as a weapon to influence right-wing individuals to convert to her views. Museum of Fine Arts, Boston. mfa. org.
Fri, July 22 Shabbat by the Sea
7 p.m. Temple B’nai Abraham invites the community to Friday night seaside services with dessert. Also July 29, August 5, 12, 19 and 26. Lynch Park, 55 Ober St., Beverly. tbabeverly.org or 978-927-3211.
Sat, July 23 Manchester Arts Festival
9 a.m. to 6 p.m. The Cape Ann Chamber presents the fourth annual event in Manchester-By-the-Sea. Email info@searts.org.
7 p.m. Kosher hot dogs, burgers, kebabs, wings and good drinks. Schmooze with young couples from around the North Shore. “Grill the Rabbi” with questions about Judaism. Singles also welcome. $10/person. RSVP to raizel@jewishpeabody.com.
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9 a.m. Join the North Shore’s Jewish Widows and Widowers Activity Group on a narrated sightseeing cruise and learn about Salem’s rich maritime history. After the cruise, enjoy lunch at Capt’s Waterfront Grill on Pickering Wharf. Tickets $20, cost of the meal is determined by what you order. Carpools will assemble at Temple Ner Tamid, Peabody. Contact Shifra Boudreau at 978-745-5794.
7 p.m. Burton Figler will make a slide presentation on his visits to Israel over the past decade. Temple Tifereth Israel, 93 Veterans Rd., Winthrop. 617-846-1390.
best bet ‘My So Called Enemy’
7 p.m. In July 2002, 22 Palestinian and Israeli teenage girls traveled to the U.S. to participate in a women’s leadership program. This film follows the lives of six of the girls over the next seven years. Co-presented as part of the Roxbury International Film Festival. Coolidge Corner Theatre, 290 Harvard St., Brookline. Coolidge.org.
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7 p.m. Russian Klezmer musical trio performs at Temple Sinai, 1 Community Rd., Marblehead. Contact Joshua Winn at 781-6312763.
Open House
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11 a.m. to 2 p.m. The rebuilt Temple Ahavat Achim opens its new doors for all to see. Free. 33 Commercial
Young Jewish Couples BBQ
Family Fun Day
11 a.m. to 2 p.m. Camp Menorah in Essex and the Robert I. Lappin Charitable Foundation invite families of the PJ Library to Family Fun Day at Camp Menorah. Swim in the lake, pack a dairy lunch. Free. Contact Phyllis Osher at posher@ rilcf.org or call 978-740-4404.
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11 a.m. Enjoy a day at Canobie Lake amusement park in Salem, N.H. $32. keshetonline.org.
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Tues, July 26 Ari Abramowitz
7:30 p.m. Ari Abramowitz is the creator and host of “Tuesday Night Live” in Jerusalem. He will speak on Israel: Living Prophecy. Cong.
7-10 p.m. Federation Women’s Division event featuring Roger Berkowitz, president & CEO, Legal Seafood. Legal Harborside, 270 Northern Ave., Boston. laurasb@ jfns.org or call Laura at 781-631-8330 x507.
‘The Human Resources Manager’
7 p.m. Film about a human resources manager in Jerusalem’s largest bakery, who must deal with the fallout when a foreign-born worker is killed in a suicide bombing. West Newton Cinema,1296 Washington St., W. Newton. bjff.org or 617-2449899.
Meet the Author
6:30 p.m. Marblehead author Jodi R. R. Smith will sign copies of “The Etiquette Book.” Those who purchase a book and mention that they read about the book signing in the Jewish Journal will receive a free gift, while supplies last. Abbot Public Library, 235 Pleasant St., Marblehead. 781-631-1481 or visit abbotlibrary.org.
Wed, July 27 Benefit Concert
8:30 and 10 p.m. Hear the Israeli band, Shabate, led by Ethiopian singer and virtuoso sax/clarintest Abate Bihurin. $15/advance, $20/at the door. Johnny D’s, 17 Holland St., Davis Square, Somerville. johnnyds. com/tickets.html or 617-776-2004.
Israeli Scouts
7 p.m. 10 Israeli teenagers travel the United States sharing stories about life in their homeland, through songs and dancing. $5/person; $18/ family. JCCNS, 4 Community Rd., Marblehead. jccns.org or 781-6318330.
Fri, July 29 14th Annual Shabbaton
The Synagogue Council of Massachusetts hosts an adult weekend of study and prayer. Holiday Inn, Tewksbury. synagoguecouncil. org or 617-244-6506 x10.
Outdoor Dance Concert
8 p.m. Featuring Dusan Tynek Dance Theatre of NYC, and Forty Steps Dance of Nahant. Windover Center for Performing Arts, 257 (Rear) Granite St. in the Pigeon section of Rockport. windover.org.
Sat, July 30 Fantastic Family Shabbat Service & Lunch
11 a.m. Interactive class for the babies, toddlers and children, while parents enjoy the services, followed by buffet lunch. Free. Chabad of Peabody, 83 Pine St., Unit E, Peabody. raizel@jewishpeabody. com or 978-977-9111.
Sun, July 31 Multi-Family Yard Sale
10 a.m. to 2 p.m. Benefits the Theatre of Light’s summer theatrical productions. 39 Broughton Rd., Marblehead. 978-210-9818.
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3:30 p.m. Hear a story, and stay for some swimming. All welcome. Free. JCCNS, 4 Community Rd., Marblehead. jccns.org or 781-6318330.
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Congregation Shirat Hayam Preschool Expands Hours SWAMPSCOTT — In order to accommodate local families, Congregation Shirat Hayam Preschool has expanded its hours of operation to offer fullday child care from 7:30 a.m. to 6:00 p.m. year round. The CSH Preschool also is opening an infant room that will care for infants beginning at three months of age. Shirat Hayam is expanding at the request of Lisa King, owner/ director of “Play to Learn” Preschool in Swampscott, who recently lost her lease and was forced to close her program sud denly. Play to Learn was located at St John the Evangelist Church on Humphrey Street. King, Leslie Rooks Sack and staff from both schools recently held a joint meeting for parents from Play to Learn so that par
ents could ask questions and tour the Shirat Hayam preschool facility. A number of families have already registered for September. Applications for the 20112012 program are available at the preschool office. “The expansion of our pre school is a win-win for Play to Learn families as well as mem bers of our congregation, our preschool families and the com munity-at-large. In addition to continuing our quality pre school, we are now able to offer a quality day care option with extended care hours and infant care to those who have such a need,” Sack said. For more information contact Leslie Sack at (781) 598-3311 or leslie@shirathayam.org.
Free Hebrew Reading Crash Course SWAMPSCOTT — Congre gation Shirat Hayam invites members of the community to learn how to read Hebrew. The free course, designed by the National Jewish Outreach Program, is designed to teach those with no basic knowledge of the Hebrew language, as well as those who wish to brush-up
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NSCC Offers Free Friday Workshops in August BEVERLY — Ever thought about taking a noncredit course or expanding your lifelong learning? Now’s the time, as North Shore Community College is offer ing free Friday workshops in August. Offered by NSCC’s Division of Corporate and Community Education, the two-hour workshops will provide an overview of upcoming fall offerings on subjects such as Social Networking, Japanese, Floral Design, Antiques, Intro to the Computer, Digital Cameras, Hypnosis, Art and more. The workshops will be held at NSCC’s Beverly location, 100 Cummings Center, Suite 121E, 181 Elliot St., Beverly. For a complete list of workshops, go to http://community.northshore.edu/content/free_fridays.html. While the workshops are free, space is limited and registration is recommended. Call 978-2361200.
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t sounds so cliché, but good manners and proper etiquette never go out of style. As Jodi R. R. Smith points out in her latest work, “The Etiquette Book, A Complete Guide to Modern Manners,” etiquette is timeless. Filled with 388 pages of invaluable advice, Smith informs readers that sometimes etiquette can be mistaken for rules, but in reality, it should be The Etiquette Book: viewed as flexible and always A Complete Guide to changing. Modern Manners In this, her third book, Smith, Jodi R. R. Smith who is president and owner of Sterling Publishing, 2011 Mannersmith, and an etiquette consultant, says etiquette has evolved over the years to keep pace with technology and culture. According to Smith, etiquette is about expectations. “It minimizes confusion and maximizes confidence and comfort,” she said. Her book is filled with guidelines for both professional and personal situations, as she encourages readers to live a “considerate and courteous life.” In 16 comprehensive chapters, Smith dishes advice on everything from proper table manners, to being a gracious guest or host, to maintaining personal appearance, and formal and informal correspondence. She includes suggestions and etiquette tips for tweens and teens on the proper lingo for texting and instant messaging, and provides parents of youngsters advice on hosting play dates and dealing with bullies. This etiquette consultant covers all the bases to help readers avoid embarrassing etiquette faux pas. Meet the author at a book signing at Marblehead’s Abbot Library on Tuesday, July 26, at 6:30 p.m. Those who mention that they learned about the event through the Jewish Journal will receive a free gift, while supplies last.
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icensed clinical social worker Jean Hamburg has published a new guidebook that offers parents tools to help raise children who are respectful and cooperative. “Cooperation Counts!” is a step-by-step program
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ur local authors have been a busy bunch! Writing about everything from manners to civil engineering, they are actively publishing. Here are a few new titles that have recently been released. that offers simple phrases and scripts for parents to follow. This unique program was developed from the foundation of Dr. Thomas W. Phelan’s groundbreaking series “1-2-3 Magic, Effective Discipline for Children 2 to 12.” Hamburg’s program is designed for children ages 2 to 15. Its purpose is to help families lead a less confrontational life together, as well as giving parents the tools to parent with Cooperation Counts! confidence. Life-Saving Strategies The author points out that for Parenting Toddlers to Teens by remaining calm, avoiding Jean Hamburg, LICSW power struggles and increasOutskirts Press, 2011 ing positive behaviors, families will raise respectful children, and that their inappropriate behaviors will change — leading to a stronger family bond and increased communication. Her program is also geared to children who have been diagnosed with medical or behavioral issues. By following the detailed counting clues, time warnings and star system laid out in the book, families can enjoy a more peaceful, harmonious and productive family life.
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ooking Back’ by Eve Piltch Glick is a poignant and touching journey filled with nostalgia about this local author’s life. Divided into 26 personal essays, Glick gives readers a glimpse inside her life and the memories that helped define her. From stories about her favorite, 75-year-old cooking pot, to learning to drive in middle age, to mar-
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he worthy French film “Sarah’s Key” has two overriding aims, like the 2007 novel by Tatiana de Rosnay from which it’s adapted. The first is to expose a generally unknown — or willfully forgotten — chapter in France’s long, blemfilm ished relationship with its Jewish population. The other is to connect the Holocaust to the present. To that end, the film shifts back and forth between Sarah, a Jewish child in Paris in 1942, and Julia, an
American journalist in the City of Light 60 years later. One storyline, however, proves immeasurably more compelling than the other. The Holocaust-era saga is the primary reason to see “Sarah’s Key.” The riveting (albeit fictional) wartime events deliver a knockout emotional punch, while the present-day story dissolves into half-hearted melodrama and half-baked contrivance. On balance, though, the good far outweighs the hokum. At its core, “Sarah’s Key” wants to engage us in profound moral questions of responsibility and behavior. The most uncomfort-
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able probes would seem to be directed at non-Jews, but the notion of passive participation in injustice, persecution and murder is surely relevant to anyone. In 1942, the Paris police arrested thousands of Jews and confined them for several frightening days in the Velodrome d’Hiver, an indoor stadium, before shipping them to Auschwitz. “Sarah’s Key” imagines Sarah and her parents were among the arrestees and, furthermore, that the quick-thinking girl concealed her little brother in their apartment before the gendarmes hustled them away. Once it dawns on Sarah that his fate is in her hands, she embarks on a daunting mission that compels her to depend on the kindness of strangers. Some neighbors lobbed antiSemitic insults as Jews were taken from their homes, while others took action (for or against) on the basis of mercenary selfinterest. It is the latter possibility that chills Julia (Kristin Scott Thomas), a Paris-based Ameri
riage and motherhood, to living in a retirement community in Florida, to acclimating to new technology, readers will be entertained with these lighthearted and often humorous essays about Glick’s full life. After years of reciting these stories to friends and family members, the author thought it fitting to pen them and put them in writing for readers to enjoy. So be transported back in time and enjoy Glick’s reminiscing of some of the most precious moments in her life.
can researching a magazine story commemorating the 60th anniversary of the roundup. Incredibly, she discovers that the apartment she and her French husband are redecorating, and which his family has long owned, belonged to Sarah’s family. Did Julia’s in-laws accidentally benefit from the expulsion of Jews? Or, horrible as it is to contemplate, were they abettors and collaborators, propelled by hatred or opportunism? This is a mystery fraught with consequences. But once the secret is revealed, Julia’s life devolves into prosaic melodrama. Kristin Scott Thomas gives a pedestrian, unmemorable performance, but it can’t be laid entirely at her feet. It’s unavoidable that the stuff of Julia’s life — a self-absorbed husband, an unexpected pregnancy — would seem trivial next to the life-anddeath dangers, traumas and sorrows that buffet Sarah. Ultimately “Sarah’s Key” is a moving and worthwhile addition to the filmography of the Holocaust. “Sarah’s Key” opens July 22. Check local theaters for showtimes.
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earn what it takes to be a civil engineer. The author shares the inside scoop about his beloved profession, and tries to encourage pre-college students to partake in this noble trade. The author points out that the innovations and designs of engineers are everywhere and are often taken for granted. Many don’t know civil engineering is the oldest engineering discipline. Civil engineers do the work From Sundaes to Space that keeps society flowing. From Stations: Careers fixing coastal erosion, to helpin Civil Engineering ing alleviate dirty drinking water Reed Brockman Engineering Education problems, to helping with trafService Center, 2011 fic congestion and constructing bridges, the needs of this profession are endless. Brockman also shares with readers the stories and experiences of other engineering professionals, to give more in-depth coverage. This passionate civil engineer encourages youths to pursue a profession in which they get a chance to solve real world problems. He feels his job gives him a voice, and through it he can make a difference.
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W.A.G. Loves Pops Join members of W.A.G., the North Shore’s Jewish Widows & Widowers Activity Group, on Sunday, September 25, at the Merrimack Valley Philharmonic Orchestra’s 12th annual Pops Concert at the Rogers Center for the Arts at Merrimack College. After the concert, participants will enjoy dinner at Teresa’s Italian Eatery in Middleton. Car pools will assemble at Temple Ner Tamid in Peabody at 1:30 p.m. Tickets to the concert are $16; the cost of the meal will be determined by the individual’s order. For further information or to make a reservation, contact Rita Flicop at 978-535-3524.
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Koshka Meshes Musical Elements
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‘Enemies’ Discover They Share Something In Common Susan Jacobs Jewish Journal Staff
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oshka, which in Russian means a female cat, is also a trio of musicians. Founded in Glasgow by Gypsy violinist/guitarist Oleg Ponomarev, Russian violinist Lev Atlas and Scots guitarist Nigel Clark, the group performs a heady cocktail of gypsy tunes from all over the world, spiced with soulful Klezmer and added elements of jazz, rock and flamenco music. The original material is inspired by traditional melodies and arranged in unexpected ways. Oleg Ponomarev, born in Habarovsk, Russia, was a member of Loyko, a renowned gypsy group that achieved international fame in the 1990’s. Lev Atlas has had a distinguished career as a classical musi-
cian. He was a member of the award-winning Rostov String Quartet and the Rachmaninov Trio, and is currently Principal Viola of the Scottish Opera Orchestra. Nigel Clark, in addition to being a member of the 1980’s rock band Hue and Cry, is one of Scotland’s best-known jazz guitarists. The chemistry between the three performers creates a mesmerising mix of virtuosity, playfulness and emotional intensity. Koshka will perform Sunday, July 24, at 7 p.m. at Temple Sinai, 1 Community Way, Marblehead. Tickets are $20/general admission; $15/ seniors. Call Joshua Winn at 781-631-2763.
n 2002, 22 Palestinian and Israeli teenage girls journeyed to the United States to participate in a summer leadership program called Building Bridges for Peace. Filmmaker Lisa Gossels, who grew up in Wayland, documented their emotional encounters as they struggled to open up to each other, and brainstorm how to peacefully co-exist in the Middle East. Many of their exchanges were volatile, and hearing news about bombings in Israel while they were safely ensconced in suburban New Jersey made things even more FILM explosive. Gossels was effectively able to capture the rawness that surfaced as each girl tried to process her feelings. The Peace Camp lasted just 12 days, however over the ensuing seven years, Gossels continued to chronicle six of the participants. This compelling film format is similar to what British director Michael Apted did in his groundbreaking “Up” series, which followed the lives of 14 children by re-visiting them every seven years to see how they had changed (or remained the same.) The result of Gossel’s work is “My So-Called Enemy,” a fascinating film that kicks off the 13th annual Roxbury International Film Festival on July 25. “It was always my intention to make a longitudinal film,” said Gossels, who will be present at the July 25 screening. “My film is really about what happened when they went home.” All of the young women are complex, mature and articulate, and all were deeply affected by their experience in America. Gossels follows one relationship in particular — that of Gal (a Jew) and Rezan (a Palestinain.) The young women became fast friends during their encounter in the United States, but their relationship is really put to the test when they return to their homeland and find they are separated by a concrete fence. Both are
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also seriously conflicted when Gal begins her compulsory military service. Another fascinating character is Hanin, a sometimes-hostile Arab Israeli who, over the course of the film, becomes a devout Muslim, The film explores the fine line between hope and hopelessness in a war zone, and emphasizes the role of women in building peaceful communities. “Whenever women are given equal opportunities, societies thrive,” said Gossels, who finds it interesting that every one of the women she followed has become a social change agent in her own way. Both personally and professionally, Gossels steers clear of trying to push particular solutions for peace in the Middle East. “I made a film about what’s possible. Peace is an easy word, but it’s hard to achieve,” she said. “My So-Called Enemy” screens Monday, July 25, at 7:30 p.m. at the Coolidge Corner Theatre, 290 Harvard St., in Brookline. Filmmaker Lisa Gossels will conduct a Q&A after the screening. For tickets or further information visit roxburyfilmfestival.org.
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Herbert Cohen, 91, of Peabody, formerly of Marblehead Herbert Cohen of Peabody, formerly of Marblehead and Delray Beach, Fla., died July 8, 2011 at Renaissance Gardens at Brooksby Village in Peabody. He was 91. Herbert was born and raised in Lynn. He served honorably in the Army during World War II. He owned and operated Cohen Shoe Machinery, as well as the P.J. Cam Company, before retiring in 1989. He was a former member of the Marblehead Lions Club and the Brotherhood of Temple Israel (now Congregation Shirat Hayam) of Swampscott. Herbert was the devoted husband of the late Henrietta D. (Weinstein). He was the beloved father of Laura and Charles
Molloy and Paul and Jane Cohen; the adored grandfather of James Cohen, Jason and Heather Cohen, Joel Cohen, Tina Molloy and Robyn and Barrett Myers; the cherished great-grandfather of Evelyn and Jada Lyn; and the loving brother of Daniel Cohen and the late Sheldon Cohen. Services were held at the Shirat Hayam Cemetery in Peabody on July 10. In lieu of flowers, donations in Herbert’s memory may be made to Hospice of the North Shore, 75 Sylvan St., Suite B-102, Danvers, MA 01923. For online condolences, visit goldmanfc. com. Arrangements were handled by Goldman Funeral Chapel in Malden.
Morton Schwartz, 80, of Winthrop, formerly of Revere Morton Schwartz, late of Winthrop and formerly of Revere, died July 12, 2011. He was 80. Born in Chelsea, Morton was a graduate of Revere High School and Boston University School of Business. He was an Army veteran of the Korean conflict. Morton was the owner and proprietor of NU-Deal Plumbing and Heating in Chelsea. He was an avid golfer, gardener and athlete. He enjoyed and extended his time and resources with the children and community of Chelsea. He was also a member of the Freemasons of Mass. Morton was the beloved husband of Thelma (Rubinovitz) Schwartz. He was the devoted
father of Kurt Ian Schwartz and his wife Lori, and Eric Steven Schwartz and his wife Stacy. He was the loving son of the late William Schwartz and Rose (Timmerman) Schwartz. He was the dear brother of the late Edward R. Schwartz. Morton was the loving grandfather of Andie, Jonathan and Jacob. Services were held at the Torf Funeral Chapel in Chelsea on July 15. Interment followed in Sudilkov Cemetery in Everett. In lieu of flowers, remembrances in Morton’s memory may be made to the Alzheimer’s Association, 311 Arsenal St., Watertown, MA 02472. For an online guest book, visit our website, torffuneralservice.com.
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Charles Klayman, 93, of Quincy, formerly of Chelsea and Revere Charles Klayman of Quincy, formerly of Chelsea and Revere, died on July 14, 2011. He was 93. Charles was born in Boston and graduated from Cambridge High School. He was very athletic, but gave up a college scholarship to support his family. He was a World War II Army Veteran. He loved to dance and listen to music and was very involved in local politics. Charles was a member of The Odd Fellows, Temple B’nai Israel of Revere, and a past president of the Brotherhood at B’nai Israel of Revere. Charles was the beloved husband of Dorothy (Sherman) Klayman for 70 years. He was the loving son of the late Kate Klayman. He was the devoted
father of Nancy Nelson and Robert Klayman and his wife Julia. Charles was the dear brother of the late Frances Klayman, Barbara Gold, Ethel Baron and Gussie Cholfin. He was the loving grandfather of Jonathan Nelson and his wife Beth, Joshua Nelson and his wife Debbie and the late Jeremy Nelson. He was the loving great-grandfather of Benjamin, Evan, Emily, Zachary and Judah. Services were held at the Torf Funeral Chapel in Chelsea on July 17. Interment followed in Lynn. Donations in Charles’ memory may be made to the March of Dimes, MA Chapter, 112 Turnpike Rd., Suite 102, Westborough, MA 01581. For an online guestbook, visit the funeral home website, www.torffuneralservice.com.
H. Bernard (“Bernie”) Liberty, 85, of Chelsea H. Bernard (“Bernie”) Liberty of Chelsea died on July 8, 2011. He was 85. Bernie was born in Chelsea and attended Chelsea schools, graduating from Chelsea High School, Class of 1944. He continued his education and graduated from Suffolk University, Simmons College and Prince School of Retailing. Bernie was a hospital administrator for the Chelsea Soldiers’ Home. He was a member of the U.S. Navy and served with the Seabees during World War II. He received a Presidential Unit Citation, the Navy Unit Accommodation and a Purple Heart. Bernie was a veteran of the Tarawa Battle in the Gilbert Islands in the Pacific, Kwartelein Battle in the Marshall Islands and the Tinian Battle in the Marianas Islands. Bernie was a member of the Veterans of Foreign Wars (V.F.W.) in Chelsea, the Disabled American Veterans (D.A.V.) Post in Chelsea and the Jewish War Veterans (J.W.V.) Chelsea Post.
Bernie was also very active in the community as president of the Y.M.H.A., president of the Kiwanis Club of Chelsea, commander of the Seabee Island in Palm Beach, Florida, president of the Boston Club of Kings Point in Delray Beach, Florida, and co-chairman of the Chelsea Planning Board. Bernie was the beloved husband of Rose (Specter) Liberty for 56 years. He was the devoted father of Nelson Liberty and his wife Marcy Hunt Liberty, Arleen Stoller and her husband Jeff, and Bryan Liberty and his wife Susan. He was the dear brother of Edith Swartz and the late Morris Liberty. He was the loving grandfather of Samantha, Amanda, Max and Nathan. Services were held at the Torf Funeral Chapel in Chelsea on July 10. Interment followed in Danvers. Contributions in Bernie’s memory may be made to the American Cancer Society, 9 Riverside Rd., Weston, MA 02493. For an online guestbook, visit the funeral home website, torffuneralservice.com.
Julius M. Simon, 90, of Marblehead Julius M. Simon of Marblehead and Salem died July 3, 2011 at his home in Salem. He was 90. Formerly of Pennsylvania, Julius moved to the North Shore 10 years ago. He was born in Jersey Shore, Penn., and served in the Army during World War II. He later moved with his late wife Mickey to Williamsport, Penn., and to Reading, Penn. Julius worked in the scrap metal recycling industry and served as chairman and president of Royal Green Corp. He was an ardent Zionist and dedicated his life to Jewish causes, both in Pennsylvania and on the North Shore. Julius is survived by his children, Stephanie Simon and her husband Jay Epstein of Marblehead, Jonathan Simon and
his wife Janice of Reading, Penn., and Lisa Block and her husband Ellis of Allentown, Penn. He also leaves eight grandchildren: Laura, Nancy and Melissa Epstein, Sarah Simon and her husband Calem Harris, Zachary Simon, Marla Block, Joel and Chelsea Block, and Adam Block. He is also survived by his brother Sam and his wife Sylvia of Williamsport, Penn., and many nieces and nephews. Services have been held. In lieu of flowers, expressions of sympathy in Julius’s memory may be made to Chabad Lubavitch of the North Shore, 44 Burrill St., Swampscott, MA 01907, or to Gann Academy, 333 Forest St., Waltham, MA 02452. Arrangements were handled by Stanetsky-Hymanson Memorial Chapel in Salem.
Rabbi Abraham Teitel, of Revere Rabbi Abraham Teitel of Congregation Tifereth Israel of Revere passed away on July 8, 2011 at his home. He was loved and cared about very much by his family and many friends. He leaves his wife, Phyllis, his daughter and son-in-law, Faith and Mark Redlich, his son and daughter-in-law, Jeffrey and Hillary Teitel, and grandsons
Solomon, Yosef, Yochanon, Eliezer, Reuven and Zachary, whom he loved very much. He wanted to be remembered for speaking about not forgetting the Holocaust and felt his biggest accomplishment in life was, together with his brothers, having saved his mother’s life during the Holocaust. May his soul rest in peace.
Bornstein, Blossom (Safer) — late of Marblehead. Died July 13, 2011. Wife of Jerry Bornstein. Mother of Ronda Bornstein of Newport Beach, Calif., Wayne and his wife Susan Bornstein of Cranston, R.I., Lisa Bornstein of Newport Beach, Calif. Sister of Helena Book of Revere. Grandmother of Anya, Milan, and Jonah Bornstein. (StanetskyHymanson) Gordon, Zelda (Klane), 97 — late of Chelsea, formerly of Malden. Died July 1, 2011. Wife of the late Simon Gordon. Mother of Myrna Rosen. Sister of Marcia Peltzman and the late Helen Weiner and Charlotte Weiner. Grandmother of Barry and Donna Rosen and Harvey Rosen. Greatgrandmother of Rebecca, Paul, Scott and Stephanie. (Goldman) Gorman, Sylvia (Kravetz), 90 — late of Medford. Died June 29, 2011. Wife of the late Samuel Gorman. Mother of Laurie Gorman and her husband Brad Wilson, Ferne Gollock and Diana Gorman. Grandmother of Deborah Siegel, Andrew and Manar Siegel, and Daniel and Karol Gollock. Great-grandmother of Samantha Gollock, Samuel Siegel and Alexander Siegel. (Goldman) Salkovitz, David, 65 — late of Bradford, formerly of Lawrence. Died July 6, 2011. Son of the late Anne (Heifetz) and Hyman Salkovitz. Brother of Michael Salkovitz, Lee Salkovitz, and the late Mark Salkovitz and Barry Salkovitz. Brother-in-law of Judy Salkovitz, Susan Salkovitz, Diane Salkovitz and Robin Lippincott. Uncle of many nieces, nephews, grandnieces and grandnephews. (Goldman) Shefftz, Melvin Charles, 82 — late of Binghamton, N.Y. Husband of Claire Shefftz. Brother of Barbara Shefftz of Marblehead. Father of Jonathan and Andrea of Amherst, and Benjamin and Amy of La Honda, Calif. Grandfather of Micayla. Silverstein, Harry, 85 — late of Beverly. Died June 30, 2011. Husband of the late Gloria (Stoler). Father of Michael Silverstein, Richard and Kathy Silverstein, and Joel and Kristin Silverstein. Brother of Nathan Stevens, the late Frank Silverstein and Saul Silton. Grandfather of Dorothy Ruggiero, Melissa, Joseph, Benjamin and Eli Silverstein. Great-grandfather of Jacob. (Goldman) Veytser, Alexander — late of Swampscott. Died July 12, 2011. Husband of Lyudmila Veytser. Father of Leonid Veytser of Brighton and Igor Veytser of Swampscott. Brother of Fishel Veytser of Lynn. Uncle of Svetlana Veytser and Sergei Veytser. (Stanetsky-Hymanson)
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Помогли Сдероту Несколько месяцев назад Russian Jewish Community Foundation начала ставшую уже традиционной ежегодную инициативу — акцию по сбору средств в фонд помощи детям израильского города Сдерот для организации летнего лагеря и развития долговременных программ, поддерживающих молодежь этого города. Члены русскоязычной общины Северного Берега, как и в прошлые годы, присоединились к этой акции. Большую активность проявили Фаня Зархи, клиент Центра Stay Well в Сэлеме, член ассоциации Хавейрим, и Аида Садолевская, проживающая на 10 Farrar St. (Линн). Фаня Зархи сумела собрать $550 среди посетителей Stay Well. Правление Ассоциации Хавейрим добавило $250, таким образом в фонд помощи детям Сдерота ушло $800 от имени ассоциации Хавейрим. Аида Садолевская на протяжении многих лет неутомимо участвует в этом благородном деле, и в этом году она собрала в своем доме $900. В этом ей помогали Юрий Корсунский, Лариса Грозева, Женя Ельцина, Люба Бондаренко, Ада Сапожникова. Эта сумма была вручена представителям Russian Jewish Community Foundation во время благотворительного концерта в доме семьи Гофштейнов в Марблхеде. На концерт, в котором приняли участие Макс Любарский и Анжела Росси, пришло более 30 человек и было собрано $6,000. Маша Гофштейн выражает особую благодарность Алексу Койфману, Ольге и Марату Вайсман за содействие. Валентина Сапожникова, проживающая на Silsbee St. (Линн), собрала $250. Синагога Ахабат Шолом в Линне также сделала дотацию в $600. Много пожертвований поступило и от частных лиц, читателей нашей газеты в фонд помощи детям Сдерота.
музыке, написанной талантливым композитором Олегом Пономаревым. В концертах Кошки звучат композиции, состоящие из искрящейся смеси цыганских и еврейских мотивов, джаза, рока, кельтской музыки и фламенко. Олег Пономарев — скрипач, гитарист, аранжировщик и композитор — родился в семье знаменитых на весь Союз музыкантов. Его отец Анатолий Гилевич был клавишник и аранжировщик из первого состава Песняров, мама, Валентина Пономарева, — популярная цыганская и джазовая певица, актриса, неподражаемая исполнительница старинных романсов. Олег, который был в первом составе известной цыганской группы Лойко, достиг мировой эстрадной славы уже в 80-х годах и стал обладателем многочисленных музыкальных призов и наград. Лев Атлас закончил Ростовскую Консерваторию по классу скрипки, а затем аспирантуру Гнесинского Института. В составе струн-
ного квартета Ростовской Филармонии он стал лауреатом нескольких Международных конкурсов. В 1992 году Лев был приглашен концертмейстером в оркестр Шотландской Королевской Оперы и переезжает в Шотландию. Атлас совмещает концертную деятельность с педагогической, будучи профессором Королевской Шотландской Академии Музыки и Драмы. Опытный исполнитель народной армянской и клезмерской музыки, Лев привносит в игру Кошки особую лиричность, уверенность и глубину звучания. Его имя хорошо знакомо нашим читателям-старожилам Северного Берега, которые в начале 90-х могли слышать здесь его незабываемые концерты. Символично, что через 20 лет в составе трио Кошка Лев возвращается сюда, в места, где началась его международная карьера.. Третий участник ансамбля — уроженец Глазго шотландец Найджел Кларк, один из создателей Шотландского Джазового Гитарного Квартета.
Сотрудничая со многими известными исполнителями, он приобрел славу талантливого солиста и тонкого партнера. Удивительное чувство ритма, чистота звучания и безукоризненная техника делают Найджела Кларка незаменимой составной частью группы Кошка. Во время представительного международного фестиваля «Celtic Connections» Кошка была единственной группой, которой публика стоя аплодировала в течение 10 минут после их выступления в Королевском Концертном зале в Глазго.
Так что же такое Кошка? Это — сочетание многих национальных традиций, классики, джаза, цыганской, кельтской, русской и клезмерской музыки. клезмерской музыки. Их оригинальная музыка трогает до глубины души, идет от самого сердца музыкантов, где нет фальши. Билеты ($20/$15 – пенсионерам) можно приобрести у Соломона по тел. 781593-1405. В антракте будут поданы прохладительные напитки и закуски.
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В это воскресенье, 24 июля, жителям Северного Берега предоставляется возможность познакомиться с замечательными музыкантами группы Кошка, их эмоциональной, зажигающей и волнующей музыкой во время концерта в синагоге Temple Sinai (1 Community Rd.) в Марблхеде в 7 ч. вечера. Трио Кошка родилось десять лет назад в Культурном Центре “Казачок” в Шотландии, в городе Глазго, объединив двух скрипачей — выходцев из России — Олега Пономарева и Льва Атласа, и шотландского гитариста Найджела Кларка. Уже через год после их дебюта журнал Rolling Stones назвал Кошку “лучшим трио года.” Причина такого успеха группы — в виртуозности исполнителей и оригинальной
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LGBTQ Trip to Israel Keshet is co-sponsoring a unique journey through Israel for lesbian, gay, bisexual, transgender, and queer Jews, partners and allies. Meet LGBTQ Israelis and Palestinians, explore spiritual practices, hike in the desert and play in the city.
The trip will take place November 10-20, 2011. Registration is required ASAP.
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t’s summertime, and it seems like everyone is going on vacation. In addition to the sunscreen, don’t forget to pack a copy of your Journal! Your photo may be chosen to appear in a future issue of the paper! Send all submissions to editor@jewishjournal.org.
Michael and Galina Romanovsky of Marblehead traveled to Moscow for the Russian Guild of Realtors National Congress. After the Congress, they stopped by one of the oldest synagogues in Moscow, with their Journal in hand.
We are proud of where our students go from here. Cohen Hillel Academy wishes their graduates continued success. Class of 2011 High Schools: Gann Academy Green Mountain Valley School Hamilton Wenham High School Marblehead High School North Broward Prepatory School Pingree School Swampscott High School Class of 2007 Colleges, Universities and Programs: Bard College Barnard College Brandeis University Franklin W.Olin College of Engineering Hampshire College Indiana University Programs in Israel University of Massachusetts-Lowell McGill University University of Miami New York University University of Pittsburgh School of Engineering Salem State University Suffolk University SUNY-Binghamton Washington University in St. Louis Worcester Polytechnic Institute
On a recent trip to Latvia, Donna and Vitaly Vatnick of Marblehead attended a traditional Shabbat service, followed by a Kiddush featuring challah, vodka and herring, at the historical synagogue in Riga, Latvia. The synagogue, also known as Peitav Shul, was built in 1905 and is the only Jewish house of worship to survive WWII. The building underwent a major renovation in 2008.
Kate Eppers of Salem went on a birthright trip to Israel in May 2009, and fell in love with the country. The educator recently spent several weeks in the Holy Land on a Jewel program, which she describes as “a kind of crash course seminary.” She is pictured above at the Kotel, which she visited numerous times during her stay in Jerusalem.
Janice Levine of Salem is pictured with her grandson Jeremy Levine, formerly of Beverly, in Valencia, Spain. The Levine family gathered in Valencia to celebrate Jeremy’s wedding.
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Skipper George Freedman of Marblehead (wearing cap) took members of the Jewish Journal staff on a boat cruise to Misery Island. Luckily for readers, he took us all back (otherwise you would never get this issue of the Journal!)
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When in Paris, Don’t Miss the Memorial de la Shoah Linda Snow Dockser, Ph.D. Special to the Journal
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have a favorite place in Paris. It is not the Eiffel Tower or the Louvre, and it is not located near the Champs-Elysees. It is not mentioned in many guidebooks, but is an evocative destination. It is the Memorial de la Shoah — consecrated in January 2005 on 17 Rue Geoffroy L’Asnier. In contrast to the ‘Deportation Memorial’ on the Île de la Cité, this hidden gem is difficult to find. Six years ago the local police could not direct us there, and neighboring shopkeepers and hotel staff didn’t have a clue where it was. We wondered whether this was due to collective amnesia, a reluctance to educate about this history, or just a lack of publicity. Revisiting the Memorial again this past April, I was haunted by ghosts: the director of a school who was deported in 1942 and then perished in Auschwitz; the hundreds of children who were transported to their death without a chance of realizing their potential; and families who heard the guttural orders of the Vichy Government and French police to abandon their homes to the pillagers who would soon follow. Outside the Memorial, an elderly man played soccer with his grandson, while another walked his dog next to “La Mur du Just/The Wall of the
Photos by Linda Snow Dockser, Ph.D.
At left, the author holds her Jewish Journal in front of the Memorial de la Shoah. At right, the Wall of Names bears the names of 76,000 deported Jews and 11,000 children.
Righteous.” This wall lists the names of ordinary citizens who saved the lives of three quarters of the 300,000 Jews living in France — friends, neighbors and even perfect strangers. It made me wonder: Would our friends and neighbors risk this for us? Would we do it for others? Entering the courtyard, we were dwarfed on one side by an immense bronze cylinder reminiscent of death camp chimneys, and on the other by fathomless marble walls inscribed with the names of the 76,000 deported Jews including 11,000 children — all victims of the “Final Solution.” Indoors and out, Hebrew and French quotes, artwork and authentic artifacts instilled awe and humility.
The temporary exhibit on “Cinema and the Shoah” illustrated the world’s tardy reaction to the horror in Europe. Completely in French and featuring movie posters, newspaper reviews, audio recordings and movie clips, this exhibit proffered evidence of too little information too late to stop the genocide. In the main memorial hall or crypt, the Eternal Flame beckoned. A beautiful yet stark void drew us toward the black marble Star of David, which lay atop martyr’s ashes from the death camps and Warsaw Ghetto, buried in soil from Israel in 1957. Spent yahrrzeit candles lingered adjacent to the symbolic flame. Behind us, a replica of the
ghetto flanked a room filled floor-to-ceiling with index cards. These cards were handwritten by the French police for the Vichy government to target Jewish citizens. Downstairs, four large rooms were laden with photos, artifacts and videos of people whom the Nazis and Vichy government tried to expunge from existence. Films of a vibrant French community contrasted with display cases sparsely filled with the remnants of individuals’ lives. Especially poignant were notes to loved ones cherished through the war with the hope of reunion. Unfortunately only 2,500 of the 76,000 deported ever returned. Traveling through the rooms, personal stories gave way to the
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Panich Graduates Evan D. Panich graduated from Boston University School of Law, magna cum laude. Evan was named both an Edward F. Hennessey Distinguished Scholar and a G. Joseph Tauro Scholar. He was a semifinalist in the 2011 Albers Moot Court Competition, and served as its director in 2011. Evan is a 2007 graduate of Brown University. In September, he will join the law firm of McDermott, Will & Emery. He is the son of Lisa and Jerry Panich of Marblehead.
Congregation Sons of Israel Awards Scholarships The Humanitarian Committee of Congregation Sons of Israel in Peabody announced the first recipients of its annual scholarship at Shabbat services on July 8. The four students selected participated in numerous sports, activities and community service while maintaining excellent grades. They are Lauren Beader of Peabody High School, a member of the National Honor Society (NHS) who will attend Boston University in the fall; Leya Barden of Peabody High School, an avid dancer who will attend Wheelock College in the fall; Eliza Cohen of Masconomet Regional High School, a member of the NHS, who will attend Northeastern University in the fall, and Jessica Olans of Stoughton High School, a member of the NHS who plans to attend UMASS Amherst in the fall.
Welcome Tamar! Jewish Family & Children’s Services has hired Tamar Moskowitz as its volunteer and food coordinator for Family Table, the Jewish food pantry located at Temple Ner Tamid in Peabody. Moskowitz just completed an MBA in non-profit management and professional leadership at Brandeis University. She has worked as office manager at a synagogue in Newton for two years. Every month, 20 to 30 volunteers serve 35 families through Family Table. The next distribution is Sept. 18. To volunteer or donate food, including the special high holiday wish-list, contact tmoskowitz@jfcsboston.org, call 781-693-1231 or visit JFCSboston.org/familytabledistribution.
Giving Back at Early Age
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Amanda Saxe, a fourthgrade student at Cohen Hillel Academy, recently donated eight inches of her hair to Pantene Beautiful Lengths, which will be used to make wigs for children with illnesses that have caused them to lose their own hair. Amanda is the daughter of Jody and Richard Saxe of Marblehead.
Kolbo Changes Owners Kolbo Fine Judaica was sold to Larry Hardoon and Janet Fine as of July 1. Living in Brookline, they have strong connections to Israel and all things Judaic. Dana Sobel, Elizabeth Hogan, Avraham Wachs Cashman and Richard Lang will remain on staff and work closely with the new owners, as will former owner Lev Friedman.
Volk Honored
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Erin Jenica Washington and Gene Pelikhov, both of Revere, were married May 22 at Red Rock Park in Lynn. Erin is the daughter of Lynn Washington of Newton, and Robin Washington of Duluth, Minn. Gene is the son of Eugene and Marina Pelikhov of Salem. Officiating was Rabbi Capers Funnye of Chicago. The bride is a 2002 graduate of Emerson College with a B.A. in new media. She is production director at INDIA New England newspaper in Waltham, and a dancer with Forty Steps Dance in Nahant and Jewish Musical Theater Firelech in Brighton. She teaches dance classes all over the greater Boston area. The groom is a 2001 graduate of Suffolk University with a B.S. in computer science, and a 2010 graduate of the Massachusetts College of Pharmacy and Health Sciences. He is a pharmacist at CVS in Lynn. The couple choreographed their first dance - a four-part theatrical pas de deux to some of their favorite rock, popular and musical theater songs. They honeymooned in Kauai. (See related story on page 12.)
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Northeast Conference
Roger Volk of Swampscott received the Northeast C o n f e r e n c e Community Service Award for 2010-2011. A former class president and golf, basketball and baseball player for the Big Blue, Volk has remained dedicated to the community, the schools and the athletic programs of Swampscott High School. Volk is a major supporter and contributor to Big Blue booster clubs, and enjoys giving back. He has been the deputy varsity football announcer for the last 10 years, and the “voice of Big Blue football” for the last three. Volk resides in Swampscott with his wife, Elaine, and is the founder and president of Volk, Kittredge & Company, a financial consulting firm.
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Marc Freedman attended the Opening Bell ceremony at the NASDAQ Stock Market in Times Square on June 24. The Opening Bell ceremony celebrates the achievements of some of the top financial advisors.
Future Politician Joshua Chmara of Marblehead has joined the staff of U.S. Senator Scott Brown as a summer intern in his Washington, D.C. office. “It’s great to have young people like Joshua get involved in public service and have a firsthand opportunity to learn about their government,” said Sen. Brown. A 2011 graduate of Marblehead High School, Chmara plans to attend Harvard University in the fall, where he intends to study economics.
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The Temple Sinai Social Action Committee collected 118 boxes of cereal to donate to the Marblehead Food Pantry and the Jewish Family and Children’s Services Family Table. The social action project began on Shavuot, the festival of the grain harvest. As they collected them, the temple displayed the cereal boxes on the bima.
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