Jolynn Raymond

As a person who has been in the BDSM lifestyle for over ten years, I wish to give a word of caution to those who may be new. I spent a long time learning from books, the internet (not porn sites!), educational classes at kink events, kink get togethers, and talking to others in the lifestyle. I am still learning. I advise those who are reading about some the play and activities we engage in for the first time, to take the time to learn about the things you are interested in rather than jumping in feet first. If something sparks your interest, great, learn about how to do it safely. There are numerous resources on the internet that give factual, safe guidelines for bondage, impact play, or other things you might wish to experience. Fetlife.com is in my opinion the best resource, and has factual information on all things kink as well as experienced people who can advise you on safe play and kinky or power exchange relationships. There is more to spanking and flogging than simply hitting someone, and more to be