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There are certain terms that every bride and groom should learn so they can be more informed in the process.
■ Ascot: A wide, formal tie generally reserved for formal daytime weddings. ■ Blusher: A short veil that covers the brides' face before the ceremony.
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■ Boutonniere: Flower or flowers that are worn by the men in the wedding party. The boutonniere always should be affixed to the left side of the jacket. ■ Cathedral train: Train, or long piece of fabric that extends 61/2 to 71/2 feet from the waist. ■ Ganache: Rich chocolate filling or topping made from chocolate and heavy cream. ■ Girdle: The outer edge or the widest part of the diamond forming a band around the stone.
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■ Illusion: Fine netting used for veils, headpieces, and on the sleeves and necklines of dresses.
■ Tea Length: Length of dress or skirt that falls several inches above the ankles.
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■ Topiary: Flowers or foliage trained and trimmed into geometric shapes, often resembling miniature trees or animals.
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Traditional and non-traditional ways to celebrate Some couples want to celebrate their weddings in traditional fashion. Others want everything to be unique, new and exciting. Today's weddings are largely planned, financed and executed entirely by the couple getting married. Therefore, it is up to them how to celebrate their special day. Here's a look at some of the traditional wedding elements and how they can be shaken up for a different spin.
Rebecca Davis Kimbrough’s wedding photography included casual and comfortable scenes at her home.
■ Traditional: Father walks the bride down the aisle. ■ Alternative: A son, daughter, friend, or even both parents walk the bride down the aisle. She can also traverse the white carpet solo, if desired. Perhaps the groom meets the bride halfway and they walk the rest of the aisle together.
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■ Traditional: "The Wedding March (Here Comes the Bride)" plays when the bride enters. ■ Alternative: Any favorite classical or modern song is played when the bride enters, as long as it is approved by the venue where the ceremony is taking place.
■ Traditional: Mother-Son, Father-Daughter dances at the reception. ■ Alternative: Welcome everyone present to dance with a special member of their family so all eyes are not on the bride and groom, who may be self-conscious about dancing with their parents.
■ Traditional: Something old, something new, something borrowed, something blue. ■ Alternative: Wear all new items, all antique
■ Alternative:
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■ Traditional: Bouquet toss for the bride and garter toss for the groom.
in the style of Mardi Gras to all of the guests, so it's not only about single men and women. ■ Traditional: A three-tiered wedding cake all in white. ■ Alternative: Choose cupcakes, a festively colored cake that matches the wedding theme or another desired dessert. ■ Traditional: Reception at a catering hall or hotel. ■ Alternative: Reception at an alternative site, such as an aquarium, zoo or museum.
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Wade and Jessica Hardin Fleming made their outdoor reception “kid friendly” with individual cupcakes and age-appropriate snacks.
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Little things mean the most
Personal touches make the perfect day
By Lisa Voyles | Chickasaw Journal
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he date is set, the dress and rings have been chosen and now it’s time for the most meaningful details. Blair Easley Jolly of Houlka chose the location of her vows and reception to Jake Jolly for sentimental reasons. The outdoor ceremony and gathering afterward were held at her home. “My mama and daddy got married at my house. My grandparents built the house and my parents were married there,” Jolly said. The outdoor location was in a less formal setting than a chapel wedding, but still was traditional in most aspects. “I’d describe it as formal, semi-casual,” Jolly said. Her bouquet included a traditional sentiment presented in a non-traditional way. Tied
with ribbon to her flowers was a Lego Batman figurine. “My son gave that to me to use as my ‘something blue,’” Jolly said. Jessica Hardin Fleming of Houston chose a traditional inside ceremony at First Baptist Church and followed with a more informal reception at the home of her parents, Tommy and Ruthie Hardin. “Most of my reception was a surprise,” Fleming said. “My mom and my Nana did it. I knew bits and pieces of what it was going to be like, but not everything.” Ruthie and Fleming’s Nana, Carol Koutroulis, planned for a party atmosphere. “She wanted to have fun and to enjoy her reception,” Hardin said of the outdoor event held in her back yard. “We had a dance floor and
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Mr. and Mrs. Eric Kimbrough (nee’ Rebecca Davis) chose the home of the bride’s parents, Mr. and Mrs. Larry Davis, for their outdoor wedding. had over 450 people,” Hardin said. “He had golf carts and drivers to get people up to the house and organize traffic.” To prepare for the outdoor
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reception, Hardin took her time and made a plan. “I started the day after they announced their engagement,” Hardin laughed. An avid gardener, she began in the fall to plan the summer wedding. “I thought about what we’re
going to add or what we’re going to move,” Hardin said. “We built the arbor her cake was under. We moved in the dance floor. We had a blast.” While some new brides prefer a formal reception and limit children’s participation, Fleming took a “the more the merrier,” approach. “Oh, the kids,” Fleming said. “That was one of the best parts, the kids table.” The reception featured a children’s area complete with wedding cupcakes and age-appropriate snacks and drinks. Fleming said the area was a wedding gift from a friend. “Heather Martin said she wanted to do the kids part for me,” Fleming said. Fleming also had a personal momento tucked into her bouquet. Her great-grandmother's hankerchief, with a portion of her mother's wedding dress sewn on it kept her family
Continued next page Wade and Jessica Fleming’s reception theme was casual and fun, just as the couple intended.
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Recording the moments
Every bride wants the perfect pictures to record every aspect of her day and many more are opting for non-traditional photos or unusual settings to make it happen. “Brides now are wanting more modern and ‘fun’ stuff instead of, or in addition to, the more traditional bride and groom photos standing sideby-side in front of the church,” said Chasity Pearson of Capture Forever Photography. Pearson said one way to make more intimate and personal memories is to plan ahead. She takes as many photos as possible prior to the ceremony and tries to put wedding party members in outdoor, colorful and unusual settings. Pearson said she does try to hold to tradition for the photos of the bride and groom together, as she did with Andrew and Paige Lancaster Ross. “I did all the pictures where Paige and Drew did not see each other before the wedding, then the ceremony, then did all
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Including photos of the bride and groom adds a personal touch to the reception.
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Choosing her parent’s home as the location for her ceremony lent a comfortable tone to Rebecca Davis Kimbrough’s wedding.
Randy and Michelle Warner Skinner, above, are caught coming out of the church following their wedding ceremony. Floating gardenias, below, in an outdoor fountain were captured for a lasting memory for Blair Easley Jolly. the ones of them together afterward,” Pearson said. “The did not see each other before the wedding.” Whether the wedding ceremony, wide open for the engaged couple. Their day should be reception or photography is formal or informal, traditional or spontaneous, the options are perfect and just exactly the way they want it.
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Mr. and Mrs. Andrew Bryant Ross (nee’ Alana Paige Lancaster).
Personal touches mean a lot in a wedding as Blair Easley Jolly’s son showed with his donation of his Lego Batman to use as her “something blue.”
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Getting married is stressful. The plans that are to be made and finalized can seem overwhelming. Make sure that day doesn’t catch you by surprise. Here’s a handy checklist to help tie down the details of a formal wedding.
Nine months
Available for • Weddings • Receptions • Bridesmaids Luncheons & Showers • Engagement Parties • Birthday Parties PATIO IS AVAILABLE FOR EVENTS
❏ Announce your engagement ❏ Discuss the formality, size and location of the wedding and reception with both families. ❏ Set wedding date and time. ❏ Meet with clergyman and judge to confirm date and time. ❏ Reserve ceremony site
Eight months
❏ Discuss wedding budget with your parents. ❏ Determine the approximate number of guests. ❏ Select and invite attendants. ❏ Select wedding and engagement rings.
Seven months
❏ Have engagement party. ❏ Begin making your guest list. ❏ Discuss honeymoon plans. ❏ Begin shopping for wedding attire.
Six months
❏ Talk to the wedding official and organist about music, decorations and procedure. ❏ Select readings and music for the ceremony. ❏ Select music for the reception. ❏ Schedule rehearsal dinner. ❏ Get a list of services and menu possibilities from the caterer or other reception contact.
Five months
❏ Register at gift and department stores. ❏ Meet with caterer or club manager to plan reception details. ❏ Meet with florist. ❏ Meet with photographer. ❏ Meet with baker. ❏ Complete honeymoon plans and make travel reservations. ❏ Make doctor and dental appointments. ❏ Shop for your trousseau.
Four months
❏ Order invitations, announcements, thank-you notes and other stationery. ❏ Select attire for groom and groomsmen. ❏ Confirm delivery dates of all attire and schedule fittings for bridal and bridesmaids’ gowns. ❏ Purchase wedding album and guest books. ❏ Schedule wedding portrait.
Three months
❏ Address invitations ❏ Select bridesmaids’ and groomsmen’ gifts. ❏ Have formal portraits taken. ❏ Make lodging arrangements for out of town guests and attendants. ❏ Arrange transportation for bridal party to and from the ceremony and reception sites. ❏ Coordinate menu plan for the rehearsal dinner with groom’s family. ❏ Finalize the arrangements for flowers, menu, wedding cake(s) and music. ❏ Change insurance policies, charge accounts, bank accounts, will, driver’s license and Social Security listing to reflect name and/or address change. ❏ Write wedding announcement for newspapers. ❏ Make appointment with hairdresser for the day of or day before your wedding.
Two months
❏ Have blood tests done, check your blood types, apply for marriage license. ❏ Mail invitations ❏ Send maps to out of town guests ❏ Set up table for wedding gifts. ❏ Record all gifts a nd write thank-you notes as gifts arrive. ❏ Notify the wedding party of rehearsal time and invite guests to the rehearsal dinner. ❏ Make rice bags for throwing as you leave the reception.
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Paige Lancaster Ross and her bridesmaids presented the picture of fun in her wedding photography.
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the wedding ❏ Make arrangements for dressing place for bridesmaids. ❏ Make household check for home furnishings still needed.
Two weeks
❏ Double check everything. ❏ Pick up marriage license. ❏ Have final fittings for all attire. ❏ Check all accessories for wedding outfit and for bridesmaids’ outfits. ❏ Provide photographer with a list of desired photographs. ❏ Send wedding announcement to photographer. ❏ Draw up a seating plan for reception. ❏ Make place cards for bride’s table. ❏ Give caterer or reception contact a final estimate of number of people attending. ❏ Pack for the honeymoon.
The day before
❏ Have your hair done ❏ Have a manicure, pedicure and facial. ❏ Attend bridesmaids’ luncheon: give gifts to attendants. ❏ Attend rehearsal and rehearsal dinner. ❏ Make sure everything you need for wedding day is packed in one place.
The wedding day
❏ Arrive at church three to four hours before the wedding. ❏ Take all photos you can before the wedding. ❏ Take photos with groom after the wedding. ❏ Relax, take a deep breath, and enjoy your wedding day!
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Shawn and Demeka Martinez Kilgore included Cameron Kilgore, son of the groom, in their wedding ceremony.
LAST MINUTE BRIDAL CHECKLIST
The long-awaited day has finally arrived. With all the hoopla and excitement, don’t forget a single, little thing. Put all these things in a large plastic container with a lid, except for the dress of course, and hang it beside the box.
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Demaka Martinez Kilgore took advantage of the natural rainy weather to capture a memory at her wedding at the Hancock House in Okolona.
❏ Marriage license ❏ Rings, hers and his ❏ Wedding dress. ❏ Veil & Jewelry ❏ “Something old, something new, something borrowed & blue.” ❏ Shoes & Hose (two pair) ❏ Make-up ❏ Nail polish ❏ Hair spray ❏ Extra hair ribbon ❏ Hair pins ❏ Hair brush and comb ❏ Hair dryer ❏ Curling iron ❏ Powder ❏ Deodorant
❏ Towels & Wash cloth ❏ Soap ❏ Cotton balls ❏ Q-tips ❏ Perfume ❏ Toothbrush ❏ Toothpaste & Mouthwash ❏ Spot remover ❏ Needle and thread ❏ Iron ❏ Safety pins ❏ Scotch tape ❏ Bridal bouquet ❏ Bridesmaids flowers ❏ Check on cakes ❏ Photographer’s list ❏ Musicians list
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Throw a green bridal shower Going green is infiltrating all aspects of daily life. The trend is also carrying over to the ways people celebrate special occasions. For the bride-to-be who is environmentally conscious, a "green" bridal shower can be meaningful and environmentally aware. Planning an earth-friendly shower is relatively easy, provided how many people have similar views on the environment. Here's how to begin.
■ Seek out venues that follow green initiatives. Eco-friendly day spas, gardens, parks, are all viable options. ■ Make sure vendors use environmentally responsible materials. Free-trade coffee and chocolate and organic, locally grown foods are just a few options. ■ Get creative with invitations. If you don't want to send out electronic invites, be sure the materials you use for invitations are recyclable or earth-friendly. For an outdoor occasion, write party information on tree leaves. Later the invites can be incorporated into compost or flattened in a book and preserved. ■ Use real linens, napkins and table set-
tings. Skip the disposable items that can end up in the trash. ■ Ask guests to bring gifts that are not wrapped. Not only will this save time at the party, it will reduce the amount of waste as well. ■ Ask guests to wear sustainable fabrics in their wardrobe, such as linen, organic cotton or hemp. ■ Set the mood with soy candles. They produce virtually no soot, making them better for the environment. Soy also burns longer than other candles, such as those made from paraffin wax. ■ Make party favors something that are earth-minded as well. Packets of flower seeds or small potted plants are options. Gift baskets of locally grown fruit and vegetables and jarred, fresh-produced preserves make for great gifts. You can also give away some of the same soy candles you used at the party, decorated with a ribbon indicating the party date. With a little planning you can throw a green bridal shower for that special bride-to-be. Then help her host a green wedding as well.
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Paige Elizabeth Day chose an outdoor theme at the home of Ms. Elliot and Ms. Cooper Thompson north of Houlka, for her wedding to John Davin Young.
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