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hy do we have images from Occupy Portland on the cover of this issue?

What’s gay about illegal camping in downtown parks?

Not a thing, there’s nothing gay about it at all. I know this because I’ve been down to the site several times. I took pictures of the signs—lots of signs—and I can tell you that I did not see one message advocating for marriage equality, gay rights, an end to bullying or anything “gay specific.” Nope, Occupy Portland is on the cover because it’s the backdrop for a story that needs to be told.

The story of why Marcy Westerling, staunch ally and advocate for LGBTQ rights, found herself at the march and rally that kicked off the now weeks-old movement in Portland. If you have been looking for a reason to attach credence to the people and emotions of this movement, you might well find it on p. 18.

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everal times in the past weeks, I have questioned as to how I feel about Basic Rights Oregon and their possible/probable ballot measure to bring marriage equality to the state in 2012. The most notable aspect of these discussions has been that those involved are reluctant to voice their own opinions for fear that they will be seen as being “antiBRO” if they question the timing of the ballot measure. One businessman is concerned that he might lose customers; another feared that speaking publicly might shadow his nonprofit with a negative cloud if he voiced a position presumed not to be in the majority.

Really, Portland? We’re afraid to engage in dialogue, express opinions, suss out thoughts, question and challenge each other and our community nonprofits, the very ones who work for and are supported by our contributions? That’s a bit troubling to me. BRO is, after all, looking for your opinion. They need to know what the community is feeling—they need to know that they either do or don’t have sufficient support if/when they go forth with this endeavor. So let me speak for those who are more timid, as this is an opinion that I share and have no objection to attaching my name to.

Simply put, right cause, right message— wrong time.

Granted, there’s a lot of in-depth analysis and data that I’m not privy to, but common logic and sense lead me to strongly feel that marriage equality activism via ballot measure in Oregon is better suited for the midterm elections in 2014 than the presidential election of 2012. Next year could be, will be a bloodbath of a presidential race. The nation as a whole is ready to bite the heads off of kittens. Candidates seeking many seats will be knocking on doors asking for money that many, if not most people don’t have to give. The Portland mayoral race, currently in its warm fuzzy phase, won’t stay this way for long. The economy still, or again, sucks.

Protesters are camping in the parks while the truly homeless are being denied the same right and privilege. The collective temper of the electorate is at the fraying point. To me, this is not the environment for putting forth a ballot measure that will be eliciting emotionbased votes. Voter emotions are going to be too raw, on too many levels, for too many reasons.

Again, right cause, right message—wrong time.

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ovember is the anniversary month of Just Out. I often use this column at that time to reflect on the past and look forward to the future. This year I’m starting a little early. It was in November of 1998 that I started the process of purchasing this paper, officially taking the reins in January of 1999. Sometimes this seems like yesterday; sometimes it seems so very long ago that I can’t begin to remember whatever possessed me to do such a thing.

When I bought the paper, it was in malaise.

With the help of staff and community, Just Out has in the past 13 years seen periods of growth, success and prosperity, followed by the still freshly felt days of recession and notso-fun times. For the most part, Just Out is in good stead. We’re definitely no longer in a state of prosperity, from a financial aspect, but the quality of our work is better than it’s ever

been—and to me that quality is a greater determinant of our success than the money that I no longer have in the bank. Which brings me to the point of this conversation. I went home last night to write this column, and I awoke, after a largely sleepless night, with the realization that I want/need change. No, I’m not quitting, I’m not retiring, I am not selling Just Out. I am, however, going to reinvent the paper. Some of the structure we’ve had in place for 13 years still works fine—other aspects, not so much. We’re too short-staffed and continuously under too much deadline pressure to be able to look much past the next issue, let alone at the process of reinvention. So I’m altering our publication schedule through the balance of the year and into early spring.

From November through March, we’ll publish only once per month in print. We’ll bloom in the spring, in April and return to our twice monthly format. During this period we’ll increase our daily presence on justout.com. The calendar will still be maintained and updated.

I’ll still be everywhere with the camera, using the lens as a barrier to real, actual personal interactions. Aimee will have a little more time to spend with that new baby of hers, the one you’ll read about on p. 6. Around the first of the year we’ll post an online survey, not a long one, asking for your feedback in how you’d like to see Just Out grow and evolve. We know you like pictures, but we need to delve deeper into readership growth and retention.

I am always open to your thoughts, questions and comments. You can find me on Facebook or email me at marty@justout.com.

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cannot end this column without words about Richard Ludt, whose death, whose suicide impacted so many people, myself included. Over the past 13 years, I’ve seen many goodbyes said in our pages. With no disrespect to any of the others, and those who loved them, Richard’s death has touched me like no other. To be truthful, while not judging, I cannot wrap my mind around suicide.

The thought is too big for me to grasp. Perhaps I simply don’t have the emotional complexity needed to have that ability to understand. I did not know Richard well, but I was proud of our relatively new friendship—one born from the seeds of adversity, but which grew, via emails and Facebook, into a teasing, bantering comfortableness. I’ve never known anyone as well-respected and regarded as Richard. He fit into every corner of our community. I hope he knew that.

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inside » NEWS & COMMUNITY 5 Transitions & Letters 7 northwest news in brief 12 and Justice for all

Basic Rights Oregon to hold Trans Justice Health Care Summit

14 A mother’s work

Women involved in high-profile same-sex parenting case show fight for equal protection not always cut-and-dried

16 Just Doing it

Nike LGBT & Friends Network observes National Coming Out Day

18 Voices of the occupation

Rural Organizing Project founder Marcy Westerling brings Big Pharma med shortages to the frontlines

» CULTURE & Lifestyle 21 Out & About 27 Grave expectations

It’s here, it’s queer, it’s, you know, Halloween

29 They only come out at night

Uh Huh Her’s sophomore effort Nocturnes sees daylight

30 Sonoma Adventure 32 It’s Tricky

Don’t miss these special Halloween editions of your favorite queer nights

34 Mirror, Mirror

Kate Clinton turns tears to laughter with poignant reflections

36 Sing Loud, Sing Proud

Siren Nation gives voice to female artists

» COLUMNISTS 20 Petlandia 25 Lady About Town 28 from Half a life to whole 33 Panda Say What?!

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TRANSITIONS

In Remembrance of

Kevin Grant Peppel

July 26, 1972-September 13, 2011 Kevin played softball in the Rose City Softball Association for three years with me on the Redwings. He was loved and adored by many. His big smile and even bigger laugh were infectious. I will miss that and his loud “Whooo” and his way of saying, “Hey, girl.”

He also had his own cleaning and handyman business, and he was amazing at both.

Kevin loved his family, friends, his dog and his bike.

I am going to miss him, a lot.

You’re at peace now, Kevy! Enjoy!

—Tim Bias

Richard Kneller Ludt

May 11, 1965-October 10, 2011 Richard “Ricardo” Ludt was born Ricky Kneller to Richard and Patricia (Arkell) Kneller at Weir Maternity Hospital in Central London on May 11, 1965. His father was a British rock ‘n’ roll singer known as Dickie Pride—“the Sheik of Shake.” At the height of Dickie Pride’s career, in 1960, the Beatles (then called the Silver Beatles) were slated to be his backup band for a U.K. tour, but Dickie’s manager Larry Parnes decided against this. Although Dickie was chosen to be the supporting act for a Stevie Wonder tour in 1966, his career had been spiraling downward due to mental illness and drug abuse. A lo-

botomy followed, and he died of a sleeping pill overdose in 1969.

Shortly after Dickie’s death, Patricia met and married Rudolph Ludt, who legally adopted Ricky, and the family moved to New York—where his sister Michelle was born— and later, Colorado, where Richard—the “awesome brother and ringleader of trouble”— spent most his youth. After graduating from high school, he traveled extensively throughout Europe, and fell in love with and in Spain, where he lived for several years.

Returning to the United States, he worked with his beloved grandmother Stella Arkell at her English tea shop in La Jolla, California. At the urging of his best friend Cathie Joy Young, he moved to Portland in 1992, where he worked at Caffe Mingo and Zefiro restaurants, among others. He graduated from the Oregon School of Massage and established his own very successful practice, Spirit Body Massage, and was beloved by his clients for his healing abilities.

During the brief period of time when gay marriage was legal in Multnomah County, Richard married Thaté’ (Taté) O’Shaughnessy in 2004.

Like his father, he loved to perform, and dived into flamenco, belly dancing, piano/ guitar/accordion playing, and singing with a fervor. He had an incredible sense of humor, and loved the theatrics of creating voices and characters, such as the homeless caped superhero Dangerous Dan, Wolverine, Jesus on the cross and a grass skirt and hat-wearing witch doctor with no underwear. Not surprisingly, his favorite holiday was Halloween.

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Richard jumped off the Fremont Bridge on October 10, 2011, after months of severe depression. He is predeceased by his father, by his adoptive father Rudy, and his beloved grandmother Stella. He is survived by his sister Michelle Ludt of Denver, his mother Tricia Browner and stepfather Philip Browner, and numerous aunts and uncles and cousins.

He is also survived by his ex-husband Thaté’ (Taté) O’Shaughnessy and hundreds and hundreds of friends.

There will be a celebration of Richard’s life with his family and friends on Sunday, October 30 at noon in the atrium of Wieden+Kennedy (224 NW 13th Ave.). Remembrances or donations can be made in Richard’s name to Q Center (pdxqcenter.org) or The Trevor Project (thetrevorproject.org).

LETTERS

An Ad(d) About Acceptance

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Original letter reguarding the Portland Luggage ad in JO’s August 5 issue: “…I’m angered and disgusted by the Portland Luggage ad on page 7 - the one that opens with “Nobody likes an OLD Bag!” accompanied by a photo of a scowling grey-haired woman wearing glasses (who appears to be anywhere from 55 to 95 years old).

For the store, there’s no excuse - you folks obviously think your ad is funny and compelling.

One result of your bad judgment, bad taste and bad attitude, however, is that I (a customer for almost 16 years who has bought a variety of excellent products at the downtown store and happily referred other shoppers) won’t be buying luggage from you anymore + will be telling my friends about this - angrily. I’m guessing you don’t care, given your use of this ageist/sexist ad copy, but I do want you to know. …JO should not be accepting ads that deliberately offend/insult any of us (eg, Old Lesbians Organizing for Change) - or anybody else, for that matter (except maybe well-known bad guys; it’s probably ok to insult people who are vicious, violent queer-haters)…”

also reject negative comments about age and physical appearance.

We appreciate your commitment to adverTo: Gregg Simon, Portland Luggage Company, tise in Just Out. We only ask that the humor cc: Marty Davis, Just Out not reinforce negative images of old people or be at the expense of people who do not fit the Dear Mr. Simon, Thank you for your willingness to withdraw “Madison Avenue” image. the ad and your explanation of the rationale behind it [“Letters” dated Sept. 16, in response Sincerely, to Vol. 28, No. 19, Sept. 2, Page 3, “Putting the Mary Beth Brindley, Old Lesbians Organizing for Change ‘Ad’ In Adverse”].

We as an organization did not write the letter Portland to the editor [quoted in Page 3] nor did we authorize it as a statement from our group. However, we do not disagree with the letter writer’s point of view. We are concerned about ageism in general and specifically the images of old women in the media. We seek to promote positive images of old women as vibrant, productive and contributing members of our society, as opposed to “old” models who are either ignored, scorned or are considered to be inferior to the “new.”

To The Editor: It seems to us that if we really value acLet me begin by stating who I am. I’m an ceptance and tolerance we would extend it atheist. A liberal. A true Portlandite. One who beyond issues of skin color, gender identity, proudly speaks of Portland because of the apsexual orientation and physical disability and preciation I have for one another’s differences.

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An appreciation I expect our community to honor. Today, Portland disappointed me.

My boyfriend is Christian, a difficult area of our relationship we struggle with daily. He wanted to attend the new Mars Hill Church.

I went with him because I strive to know a whole person, to understand differences in order to appreciate the strengths. So, I went.

The church was welcoming and non-presumptive. The primary message of the sermon was to connect to and understand the city, and to be good community members. Pastor Tim praised Mayor Adams for meeting with the church and honoring it as part of the Portland community. I was happy to see this; I was pleased the focus was on community and respect for one another.

When we left the church, there was a small group of protestors outside. They cursed as people exited and chanted “pro-choice, proqueer, homophobes get outta here.” They wore bandanas over their faces as they shouted at families. As they shouted and cursed at me.

I am pro-choice. I am pro-queer. I am not a homophobe. Some of my closest friends are lesbian. This summer I had the joy of witnessing two of them unite in marriage. My boyfriend attended their ceremony, too. We also attend events in support of Gay Pride.

Yet, here I was labeled and discriminated against for simply being inside of that church.

For taking the time to understand a different perspective. There was nothing in the sermon

letters&babies [that was] the slightest bit anti-gay or anti Portland. It is a shame that none of the people protesting took the time to figure that out.

We cannot claim to be diverse, open-minded people, and then selectively discriminate. It is the greatest of hypocrisies. Portland should be a great community because people can safely and peacefully express their beliefs and lifestyles no matter what they might be.

There is an appropriate platform for debating conflicting beliefs. Shouting slurs at people to protest a different set of slurs is not that platform. It only stands to perpetuate the negativity that exists. To those who protested, you did more harm than good for your cause.

You showed hate for another group of people.

You treated others as you would not want to be treated. I shook my head as I walked out, because I knew that those actions would not help my gay friends in their mission to find equality in the world. I try to live by Gandhi’s words, “Be the change you wish to see in this world.” Condemning others will not free you from condemnation.

As we walked away, I overheard a mother talking to her son. He asked why people had to be angry. Her reply, “People should be nice to each other, no matter what they believe.”

If only everyone in our community would follow that edict.

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An uproar by some Lincoln City residents over the city sponsorship of the annual Iris Pride festival has been quieted, or at least set aside for now.

Following a media email from Iris Pride organizers Franci Miller and Rebecca Barnhardt sent October 13, in which they urged recipients to inform the Lincoln City Visitor & Convention Bureau of the critical need for the yearly event, the bureau replied with a cursory statement in response.

Sandy Pfaff, director of VCB, said that due to the newness of the reports, there had been “no time or appropriate opportunity for discussion by the City” to comment further.

“The Lincoln City Visitor & Convention Bureau ... has been the primary organizer and financial supporter of the Iris Pride Festival for the past four years,” said Pfaff. “Its efforts to execute the festival have been supported by a variety of individuals, businesses and organizations, both local and outside the immediate Lincoln City area, who contribute and participate in equally varied ways, including entertainment, educational material, and retail vending. I am in receipt … of a number of emails expressing support of the festival. The 2012 festival is currently scheduled for September 15, 2012.”

Pfaff noted that the bureau always calen-

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Lincoln City Officials Respond to Iris Pride Opposition…Sort of

One of those businesses is BK Mulligan’s, a Lincoln City sports bar that hosted the show in question, Drag-U-Licious. The event was a benefit for the Oregon Safe Schools & Communities Coalition and other local charities.

Just Out will continue to report on this as news becomes available.

Look out, Lincoln City! It’s only a matter of time before these rainbow kites try to push their agendas on our children!

BRO’s Ignite Fundraiser Brings Record Crowd; Town Hall Meetings to Help Decide Gay Marriage Ballot Initiative in 2012

dars special events for the next year immediately after the event is completed to maintain organizational and marketing focus, unless they have already decided they will not pursue the event further.

Miller and Barnhardt reported that the first rumblings of controversy stemmed from an article dated October 4 in local paper The News Guard, in which community member Jim Hoover said that the VCB’s decision to post a link to a “raunchy” YouTube video featuring a drag performance by Lily Armani “showed lax oversight at City Hall.”

But the opposition to the city-sponsored Iris Pride hasn’t ended with complaining to the media.

“There are also businesses in town that have received threatening phone calls,” reported Miller and Barnhardt.

Basic Rights Oregon’s fundraising gala “Ignite” far exceeded its organizers’ expectations October 7 at the Kridel Grand Ballroom at the Portland Art Museum.

BRO development director Juan Martinez reports that a record crowd of more than 900 people attended the annual benefit. With the record influx of attendees came an inflated fundraising total, as over $265,000 was generated to benefit BRO. “We keep hearing from those who attended that the energy level in the room was so high, which made for a truly memorable evening,” says Martinez. “Our goal was to make the event accessible to more of our supporters, gathering people to celebrate those who ignite change and to spark everyone’s passion to support LGBT equality. We feel we accomplished this in a big way!”

As BRO’s accomplishments continue to pile up, the public interest on whether or not the organization will move forward with a gay marriage initiative on the 2012 ballot remains high.

As was previously reported, an Advisory Group had been tasked to meet in late October to make a recommendation on whether or not BRO should begin gathering signatures for a freedom to marry ballot initiative for 2012’s general election. Now BRO executive director Jeana Frazzini says that this process will also include a series of Town Hall meetings across the state throughout the first week of November.

“No state has ever put a proactive measure to win marriage equality at the ballot before,” says Frazzini. “It’s a herculean task, and not a decision we take lightly. Making this decision must be a shared responsibility of Basic Rights Oregon and the community.”

Frazzini says that BRO will review results of an online survey of supporters, professional public opinion research and input from the organization’s Advisory Group before making a final decision on the ballot measure for 2012.

Scheduled Town Hall meetings include stops in Eugene on Saturday, November 5 from 11 a.m. to 12:30 p.m. at the First Christian Church (1166 Oak St.); in Corvallis Sunday, November 6 from 2 to 3:30 p.m. at Grace Lutheran Church (435 NW 21st St.);

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In other BRO news, the organization is ramping up for its hosting of a one-day leadership conference to empower transgender Oregonians and allies to end health insurance discrimination. The Trans Justice Healthcare Summit takes place Saturday, October 29 at Q Center. For more information on this event, turn to p. 12.

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Rose City Antifa Protest Outside Mars Hill About 20 people, dressed in black, staged a protest on Sunday, October 16 outside of the new Mars Hill church in Southeast Portland.

The protest, led by eight-member antifascism group Rose City Antifa, was held during the church’s first meeting. The group opposes the church’s views, including those on homosexuality, which the church believes is a sin, as well as its views on women; Mars Hill Seattle Pastor Mark Driscoll has said that women should not hold church leadership positions.

The group is a local chapter of the AntiRacist Action, a self-proclaimed radical anti-fascist group. Rose City Antifa started in 2007 to shut down Hammerfest, a neo-Nazi festival that drew a crowd of 100 to the Portland area.

Mars Hill announced in September it would open a new church in Portland. The announcement was met with opposition from the LGBTQ community. A protest “kiss-in” was originally planned on Facebook to coincide with the church’s first official gathering on September 10, but it was called off when the church canceled the gathering.

The church said it didn’t want to interfere with the Belmont Street Fair, which was held in the neighborhood on the same day.

Documentary A Jihad for Love screens at Q Center October 26.

Mars Hill Portland Pastor Tim Smith and leaders at Q Center have since met to start a dialogue, a move met with mixed reactions by the LGBTQ community. Smith and the Q Center are planning to hold regular meetings between members of the evangelical Christian and LGBTQ communities.

Rose City Antifa member Caroline, who declined to give her last name out of fear of retaliation from neo-Nazi groups, says the meetings give Mars Hill “credibility” that it doesn’t deserve.

“We feel like it’s more productive to engage with people who want to fight patriarchy and homophobia,” Caroline said.

Smith said the protesters “certainly have the right to make their position known the same way we have the right to hold our beliefs.” But he added the group “directed anger toward families and kids in a pretty harsh way.” A report published online October 16 by The Oregonian said that protesters “shouted profanities at adults and children.”

Caroline said that though “at no point was anyone accosting children,” the group has a right to be angry. She said one would be incorrect to assume that “if you’re nice you’re on the right side, and if you’re angry you’re on the wrong side.”

Rose City Antifa plans to hold another protest but hasn’t yet scheduled a date.

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Catching Up with Q Center

As 2011 comes to a close, Q Center continues its perpetual clamor to partner with or host top-notch LGBTQ events. While the queer community center gears up for its big end-of-the-year giving campaign, several informative goings-on pave the way for a smooth end to the calendar year.

Portland’s Office of Equity and Human Rights is partnering with Q Center for a special screening of the documentary A Jihad for Love, Wednesday, October 26 at 5:30 p.m. The screening—which is free and open to the public—will be followed by a dia-

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for Saturday, November 19, is for mature aulogue led by OEHR staff.

The film, directed by Parvez Sharma and diences—attendees are reminded that to be Sandi DuBowski, was filmed in 12 coun- offended is part of the charm—and spottries and in nine languages. Exploring the lights films clocking in at 10-minutes-or-less complicated intersections of Islam and ho- that are made in Portland, by Portlanders.

Space for Shorty Shorts is extremely limmosexuality, the film traverses the cultural ited, and organizers encourage early bird terrain of regions such as Pakistan, Iraq, ticket purchases by visiting pdxqcenter.org.

Egypt and Turkey, among others.

Tickets are $5, or $3 with a canned-food RSVPs are needed by October 25. Condonation.

The fest runs 7:30-10:30 p.m. tact Muna Abshir Mohamud at 503-823Last but not least, mark your calendars 4427, or muna.mohamud@portlandoregon. for Q Center’s annual Winter Gala, schedgov for more information. Food and reuled for Saturday, February 18, 2012 at the freshments will be provided.

The Gay and Lesbian Archives of the YU Contemporary Art Center (800 SE Pacific Northwest (GLAPN) will present 10th Ave.). This year dubbed “Never Out of its first all-female Our Stories event at Q Style,” the Winter Gala is Q’s primary on Saturday, November 5, when it spotlights fundraiser for the year.

For more information on these and other the history of women’s softball. This special showcase of female athletes will feature the events hosted by or held in partnership with Q oral history of fast-pitch softball culture Center, visit pdxqcenter.org. through the 1950s and ‘60s from the mouths of those who lived it.

Search For Missing Man Guest speakers include Louise “Chris” Continues Mazzuca, an imposing hurler who threw nine perfect games and recorded an asA 30-year-old gay Portland man has tounding 35 no-hitters during her tenure been missing since July 7 and investigators on the mound. Speaking on the impact of are searching for any clues as to his Title IX on women’s sports before and after whereabouts. its implementation, Timi Elwood will also Clackamas County Sheriff ’s Office invesspeak; and Donna Luckett will relate what tigators say Steven Moline was traveling to softball has meant to her in her experiences the Bagby Hot Springs, about 70 miles involved with the Lesbian Community southeast of downtown Portland in Mt. Project softball tournaments.

Hood National Forest. Moline was riding Doors for the Our Stories event are at with friends, said sheriff ’s office spokesman 6:30 p.m., and the presentation begins at 7. Sgt. James Rhodes, when the driver of the Admission is free, though car pulled over because she donations to Q Center are suspected she had missed a always encouraged. turn and the car was low on In yet another unique gas. local partnership, the OreAccording to accounts gon Museum of Science given to investigators, the and Industry (OMSI) will friends wanted to return co-host a Family Science to Portland, but Moline Night Monday, November said he wanted to continue 7 with a special welcome to to Bagby Hot Springs on LGBTQ families. Per a foot, about a five-mile press release, OMSI exhibit hike through the forest developer Tim Hecox said Steven Moline has been from that point. The driver OMSI is hoping to evolve missing since July 7. of the car said she shouted this event into an annually for Moline to come back funded occurrence, in line with the museum’s to the car and honked the horn. She said continued efforts to reach underserved she waited an hour before leaving and audiences. called 911 when she was able to receive A suggested donation of $5 per family is cellular phone service near Estacada. requested for admission. The Family Science After two days without word from MoNight runs from 6 to 8 p.m., and will in- line to his family or friends, a search party clude access to most of the museum, exclud- was called to go through the Bagby Hot ing the traveling exhibition of “Body Springs area, but no one found him.

Worlds,” and a few of OMSI’s science labs.

Moline has epilepsy as well as a history of Heading into the center’s end-of-the- depression, and he is prone to seizures. He year giving campaign, a kickoff party is is believed to be without his medication. scheduled for Friday, November 4 at Q from Investigators said they have heard con7 to 10 p.m. Armed with the infectious flicting accounts about the number of people dance beats of DJ Lunch Lady, the “Dream riding in the car with Moline, and at least A Little Dream” event will include food and one person who rode in the car is not being drinks to fuel your giving ways. There will fully cooperative with investigators presumbe a $5 suggested donation at the door. ably because of a DUI charge that calls for A couple of weeks later, Q will host the the person’s arrest.

Shorty Shorts Queer Short Film Festival Moline’s mother, Carol Degagne, is suswith Gula Delgatto and Fannie Mae Dar- picious of the friends’ accounts. She said ling. This annual cinematic adventure, slated Moline has been to Bagby Hot Springs sev-

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“From a mom’s point of view, something happened to my kid,” she said, “because even when he lived on the streets, he always called me. People said he could have been hippie-napped or fairy-napped. Even if he did get carried off, he would never not call me. This is just a mom’s worst nightmare— not knowing. There are just all kinds of things that run through your head.”

Moline is thin and tall—6-foot 8-inches—and white with brown hair.

The Clackamas County Sheriff ’s Office receives about 100 cases a year for search and rescue of people lost, missing or injured in the outdoors.

If you have information that can help in the case to find Moline, contact the tip line at the Clackamas County Sheriff ’s Office at 503723-4949 or text your tip to 274637 with the first word of your message being “CCSO.” —Aaron Spencer

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• In other transition news, the popular Hot Flash dance productions are rebranding themselves as “Inferno Dances: A Hot Flash Production.” Per a press release, Hot Flash head honcho Pauline Miriam relates that over the past several years, the name “Hot Flash” has alienated the 30- and 40something crowd that she wants to attract.

The name “Inferno” is hoped to represent the “hot and sassy attitude” of Hot Flash parties.

• Gevurtz, Menashe, Larson & Howe law firm has welcomed back Mark Johnson Roberts, a pioneering LGBTQ rights attorney who began his career at the firm.

Roberts has been a visible presence on the frontlines of the struggle to bring equality to LGBTQ Oregonians. As a solo practitioner since 1993, Roberts focused on professional ethics, appellate litigation and family law and brings with him decades of experience in appeals, adoption and surrogacy arrangements, and laws regarding same-sex couples and step-families.

• Oregon’s Parents, Families and Friends of Lesbians and Gays (PFLAG) has announced a new State Council President/Coordinator in Prineville native Becky Groves. After serving as a board “member-at-large” for just one year for PFLAG Oregon, Groves is moving on from her position as president of PFLAG Central Oregon, located in Bend—a position she’s held for the past eight years.

Groves joined PFLAG after her son came out at the age of 18, and has flexed her activist muscle by helping LGBTQ equality legislation move forward in Oregon. In 2007, Groves was invited by Basic Rights Oregon to be the first testimony before the Senate Judiciary Committee on the Oregon Equality Act, which was eventually passed by the House.

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• The Imperial Sovereign Rose Court crowned its newest royalty during a coronation ceremony October 15 at the Crown Plaza Hotel in downtown Portland. His Most Imperial Majesty Rose Emperor XXXVIII, The Endearing Athens Scities Foxx, and Her Most Imperial Majesty Rose Empress LIII, The Legendary Monica Boulevard were crowned unopposed. Their reign will last one year.

Despite the lack of other Emperor and Empress candidates, this year’s coronation was not without its share of drama. Sources tell Just Out that Rose Empress LII Tsunami Foxx was suspended indefinitely for “inappropriate behavior” just five days before coronation. This decision was implemented following a three-hour meeting attended by the ISRC Board of Directors, titleholders and members of both the Advisory Council of Emperors and the Imperial Council of Empresses.

Both Tsunami Foxx—aka Richard Tuttle—and board president Candi Wrapper— aka John Meadows—did not respond to inquiries about further details as of press time.

Community Events

• As part of the Fifth Annual Portland Latin American Film Festival, Lester Hamlet’s LGBTQ-oriented Casa Vieja— Old House—will screen Friday, October 21 at the Hollywood Theatre (4122 NE Sandy Blvd.) at 5:45 p.m. The film will re-screen Sunday, October 23 at 6:50 p.m.

For more information, visit pdxlaff.org.

• As a benefit for The Community of Welcoming Congregations, the Hillsdale United Church of Christ (6948 SW Capitol Highway) will host “Songs of Faith & Freedom V” Saturday, October 22 at 7 p.m.

Featuring a flurry of choirs from all over Portland metro, and more than 100 singers, the benefit will help support CWC’s work

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toward marriage equality, building community coalitions, transgender education, mentoring congregations seeking to be inclusive, and providing outreach to those seeking spiritual homes.

There is no admission charge, but donations are strongly encouraged. For more information, visit hillsdaleucc.org.

• The Oregon and Southwest Washington chapter of the Association of Fundraising Professionals will present an installment of Speaker Series Educational Programming Thursday, October 27 from 3 to 5 p.m. at Portland State University.

The seminar, called “Getting Money Out of the Closet: Unique Issues in Raising Funds from Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual and Transgender Donors,” will include a close look at LGBTQ philanthropy in a historical context, as well as utilize polling research about gay and lesbian donors. Presenters include Equity Foundation executive director Peter Cunningham, Grassroots Leadership executive director Donna Red Wing, and AFP of Oregon and Southwest Washington president James K. Phelps.

For more information, contact 360-2565590, or email afp-oregon@comcast.net.

Square, the “This Land is Our Land” rally will include speakers such as the Rev. Bill Sinkford of the First Unitarian Church of Portland; Congressman Earl Blumenauer; Oregon AFL-CIO President Tom Chamberlain; and Kathleen Saadat, activist and former Affirmative Action Director for Governor Neil Goldschmidt.

This event is free and open to the public.

• The Saratoga Bar (6910 N. Interstate) goes back in time for a Sadie Hawkins Sock Hop fundraiser Friday, November 4.

Starting at 8:30 p.m., twist to the sounds of ‘50s and ‘60s pop music—mixed with some modern hits—and help out a great cause while you’re at it. A $5-$10 sliding scale admission goes straight to Femme Collective and Butch Voices. A raffle will help the cause, too, and includes prizes items from Hollywood Vintage, It’s My Pleasure, Bad Girls PDX, She Bop and more.

The event is for those 21 and older.

For more information, search “Sadie Hawkins Sock Hop” on Facebook.

• Glitterfruit—a new musical variety show in Portland headed by Pants Off Productions’ Max Voltage, along with Riley Clara La Rouxe—debuts Saturday, November 5 at In Other Words with “Fruitillion.”

As an introduction to this event, Fruitillion is your opportunity to meet and greet with performers, as well as help raise funds for Glitterfruit, and In Other Words.

Admission is on a sliding scale of $5-$10.

Doors are at 7 p.m., and the show starts at 7:30. All ages are welcome.

For more information, visit glitterfruitmusic.com.

• Philip Iosca’s exhibition Hopefully I Become the Universe is on display through Thursday, October 27 at the Pacific Northwest College of Art’s Manuel Izquierdo Gallery. Iosca’s installation has received due praise as an artistic statement commemorating seven young men from across the United States who between July 9 and September 29, 2010 independently committed suicide as a result of anti-gay bullying.

This exhibit is free and open to the pub• Into drum circles but don’t have anyone lic. Visit cal.pnca.edu/events/288 for more to complete the circle? Consider the Queer information.

Drum Circle, a socializing experience held • On Friday, October 28 at noon, Port- every second Wednesday of the month at land orchestral pop conglomerate Pink Mt. Tabor Theatre (4811 SE Hawthorne Martini joins forces with Storm Large for Blvd.) at 7:30 p.m.

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About 100 people are expected at the leadThis summer, the Portland City Council unanimously approved a health care plan op- ership summit, a daylong event that includes tion that covers sex reassignment surgery for lessons on various topics, from trans health care issues to activism. transgender city employees.

Some sessions are meant to help trans indiNow, Portland is one of five municipalities in the country that offers the trinity of trans- viduals navigate the system to get health care. gender health care benefits: counseling, hor- Nineteen percent of trans people report being refused medical care due mone therapy and surgery. to their transgender or Multnomah County and gender non-conforming the city and county of San status, according to numFrancisco had already ofbers from the National fered the coverage. The Center for Transgender city of Seattle announced Equality and the National October 7 it would add Gay and Lesbian Task transgender surgery to its Force. Trans people are health plan next year. This also unemployed at double is in addition to several the rate of the general businessesâ&#x20AC;&#x201D;inc luding population.

Nike, Google and MicroSome programs will softâ&#x20AC;&#x201D;that offer the coverprovide education about age. The health care is topics like health care for supported by the Ameriâ&#x20AC;&#x153;Most people even in the trans children and the can Medical Association LGB community donâ&#x20AC;&#x2122;t even disparities that exist beas medically necessary.

But staff at Basic Rights have an awareness of trans tween trans and nontrans people.

Oregon, who led the charge issues, so itâ&#x20AC;&#x2122;s a lot of work. â&#x20AC;&#x153;Most people even in for trans-inclusive health care in Portland, want to Itâ&#x20AC;&#x2122;s a lot of outreach. Itâ&#x20AC;&#x2122;s not the LGB community take the issue statewide. going to be anything quick.â&#x20AC;? donâ&#x20AC;&#x2122;t even have an awareness of trans issues,â&#x20AC;?

The nonprofit is holding a -Joe leblanc LeBlanc says, â&#x20AC;&#x153;so itâ&#x20AC;&#x2122;s a lot Trans Justice Health Care Summit October 29 at Q Center in hopes it of work. Itâ&#x20AC;&#x2122;s a lot of outreach. Itâ&#x20AC;&#x2122;s not going can rally troops to get trans health care dis- to be anything quick.â&#x20AC;? crimination banned in Oregon.

Other sessions will focus on activism: â&#x20AC;&#x153;Overall, we want to magnify the trans how to lobby legislators and approach busicommunity and get them involved in this nesses with trans health care issues. LeBlanc campaign,â&#x20AC;? says Joe LeBlanc, who as a part of says BRO doesnâ&#x20AC;&#x2122;t have concrete plans for its BROâ&#x20AC;&#x2122;s trans justice working group is organiz- state health care crusade, but its general ing the effort. strategy is to target businesses, cities and

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other municipalities before taking the fight to the state level.

“Now we have more tools in our boxes,” LeBlanc says, referring to the victory in Portland, which BRO hopes to use as a model as it shoots for other goals in the state.

Specific businesses or cities haven’t been targeted, LeBlanc says, but he hopes more participation from the trans community will help narrow the focus. With the city of Portland win, for example, a trans city employee— who still remains anonymous—offered testimony to city council describing his plight and asking for health care coverage.

“If there wasn’t an employee to advocate for the city of Portland, it would have been more difficult to make this happen,” LeBlanc says.

LeBlanc says the level of participation from the trans community is “right on target,” adding that many have been surprised by BRO’s efforts because “not a lot of national organizations have put trans justice at the forefront of their campaigns.”

But some trans people don’t want to create waves, says Laura Calvo, another member of the trans justice working group, especially when it comes to health care.

“When you come out as gay, generally, that’s it,” Calvo says. “When you’re trans, there’s a likelihood that every time you walk out the door you’re going to have to come out again—suffering the stares, or the giggles, or somebody pointing, or being denied service, or being treated different, or people asking, ‘What are you?’ All of these things happen on a regular basis. So you tend to walk around on eggshells keeping your head low.”

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The conference is intended to empower people, both to get on board with the campaign and also to know and fight for their health care rights.

BRO is also looking for support from trans allies, non-trans individuals who can advocate for the cause.

“If your friend who is not trans says [trans health care] is medically necessary, that effect is actually more powerful,” Calvo says, “especially when you don’t identify with the person who’s being oppressed.”

One of these allies is Medina Cardona, who plans to attend the summit in support of her trans friends. She is a lesbian and for a number of years lived in Puerto Rico, where she stayed in the closet because of what she describes as violent hostility toward gays and lesbians.

“They kill people for that,” Cardona says.

“My neighbor was suspected as gay, and he was cut up in pieces and left in the road.”

When she moved to the United States, she says she heard about trans people being murdered or mistreated by the police.

“I can identify with that level of fear,” Cardona says, “and there’s no way I was going to be quiet about it. There’s no way I wasn’t going to stand up for them. There’s no way I was going to let anyone live with the level of fear that I had.”

The Basic Rights Oregon Trans Justice Health Care Summit is Sat., Oct. 29, 9 a.m. to 5 p.m.; Q Center, 4115 N. Mississippi Ave.; $10-$20, sliding scale; for more information and to register, call 503-222-6151 or visit basicrights.org/ featured/trans-health-care-summit/.

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In November of 2010, Just Out profiled an due to an agreement now being finalized unprecedented legal battle between Sondra Kemp shares the children with her ex 50 perShineovich and Sarah Kemp over two chil- cent of the time during the summers, and 40 dren, referred to here as Paul and Agatha. percent of the time the rest of the year.

“I feel like I’m seen as a traitor,” said Kemp.

Kemp conceived both children through artificial insemination while the two were partners. “It’s really not like that.”

Kemp doesn’t see her story as a civil rights But after they separated, Kemp limited Shineovich’s access to one child and denied her ac- issue, but one about domestic violence. Only cess to the other. Shineovich filed a lawsuit now is she fully willing to speak with friends, arguing that non-biological partners who con- family and the media about her side of the story, one that involves sent to artificial insemina“This family has been what she claims was an tion are legal parents, regardless of their gender, living on pins and needles abusive relationship that sexual orientation or marital and in the center of chaos she tried to protect her children from. status. At the time, Oregon’s for years. It’s time for us Kemp was 19 years old statutes were unclear. Doand Shineovich was 32 mestic partnerships, parental to be normal and happy when the couple began datjudgments and birth certifi- and to move on and to ing in the late ‘90s. They cates were often insufficient stop the fight.” started a business, bought a to guarantee non-biological -Sarah Kemp home and in the court’s parents access to children when relationships ended. That changed in eyes, began a family together as a couple. But 2009 when the Oregon Supreme Court sided according to Kemp, after the first four years, with Shineovich and decided that laws gov- the relationship went bad. Kemp claims she erning insemination for “husband and wife” suffered repeated and sustained verbal and physical abuse, and that by the time their first applied to same-sex couples as well.

While some regarded the decision as a child Paul was born, they were a couple in breakthrough, Shineovich and Kemp are only name alone.

“She was essentially an abusive roommate,” now just settling their legal dispute. This October, Just Out checked back to see what impact said Kemp, now 33, who claims she was too the dispute has had on them, their children and young, and too terrified, to talk about the real nature of their relationship with others or to same-sex parents in Oregon. leave. “It got to the point where I would say [to myself ], ‘I’m never going to get out of this.’

Sarah’s side Sarah Kemp lives with her new partner, So, the children were the one thing that could Carmy Roberts, in the Rockwood section of be mine. Having babies was all I had.”

According to Kemp, it wasn’t until she was Gresham. Even after the settlement, she continues to have sole custody of the children, but pregnant for the second time that she found

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That story, however, is largely in dispute.

The court discredited much of Kemp’s testimony, and according to Kemp, Judge Katherine Tennyson refused to hear much of her abuse defense. In an unusually reproachful written decision, presiding Judge Tennyson wrote in December of last year that Kemp was “not believable,” and “willing to say what it takes to achieve her desired outcome without regard to the truth.”

To that end, the Shineovich side submitted 110 exhibits of evidence to support their claim of a mutual relationship, including proof of Shineovich’s participation in the funding of the inseminations, choosing of the children’s genetic profiles and in naming Paul, now 7.

Ultimately, that argument prevailed in so much as Shineovich was awarded legal parent status and visitation rights to Agatha and Paul.

Pioneering parent

Shineovich wants to put the fight behind her. She met her daughter Agatha, now 4, for the first time in February of this year. Unsupervised visits began in June. Last month, she took both kids camping on Mount Hood.

“She called me ‘mom’ right away,” said Shineovich. “It’s obvious the kids want me in their lives. They’re happy.”

That happiness comes at a high price. Shineovich now makes regular child support payments as a result of the settlement. But since there were no laws governing the dispute at the time, Shineovich’s lawsuit burdened her with roughly $400,000 in legal expenses.

“What’s worth more, being in debt the rest of your life or having your kids?” posed Shineovich. “The laws weren’t there so I had to carry the legal costs. But there are now hundreds of non-bio moms who have rights to their children.”

In September, Shineovich was a special guest at a lunch honoring pioneering samesex parents from around the country at this year’s National LGBT Bar Association Conference. There, she got a sense of how important her struggle for equality is for others.

“I had tears in my eyes,” she said, recalling people who thanked her for her sacrifices. “I met adults who were the children of alienated gay parents. They would come up to me and say they wished these laws existed when they were little.”

Moving on

Looking back on it all, Kemp still seems confused about her motivations.

“I have so many regrets,” she said. But Kemp has found peace of mind as well. “This family has been living on pins and needles and in the center of chaos for years. It’s time for us to be normal and happy and to move on and to stop the fight. We’re ready to be happy.”

Shineovich holds no ill will either, even after a five-year battle, close to half a million dollars and estrangement from her children.

“I know Sarah loves her children and that she thought her way was best,” said Shineovich. “But I opened the door if Sarah and Carmy should ever have children. Everyone should have the opportunity to know and love their parents.”

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Just Doing It Nike LGBT & Friends Network observes National Coming Out Day As part of a slew of countrywide events celebrating National Coming Out Day, Nike World Headquarters in Beaverton played host to a week of educational LGBT activities, culminating in the LGBT & Friends Network NCOD Event Thursday, October 13.

Three exhibits on the main campus focused on the importance of LGBT allies, spotlighting statements from senior company leaders. The finale came October 13, when the LGBT & Friends Network held an employee lunch and community event featuring key speakers. Special guests included Jessica Mendoza, a two-time Olympic gold medalist and Game Changer Athlete for the Gay, Lesbian and Straight Education Network (GLSEN); Hudson Taylor, wrestling coach at Columbia University and founder of Athlete Ally; and Pat Griffin, professor of social justice education at the University of Massachusetts, as well as the director of the Amherst Project for Changing the Game for GLSEN. The Nike-GLSEN link is the result of the organization’s recent partnership via GLSEN’s Changing the Game project, which is working to end homophobia in sports in school grades K-12.

During the event, GLSEN Oregon was awarded a $14,000 grant to support two trainings for K-12 coaches and physical education teachers on making athletics inclusive of all students, regardless of their sexual orientation or gender identity. GLSEN’s national arm received a check for $18,000 from the sale of the 2011 Nike Pride T-shirts to support the continued work of the Changing the Game project across the country.

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There, the students and staff have been working since last year to create an LGBTQ community center that would serve not only the students at the college, but the community at large.

The new Queer Resource Center, or QRC, had its grand opening on October 11, National Coming Out Day. The QRC’s mission is much like that of the Q Center, the nonprofit LGBTQ hub in Portland. It’s a designated space where people can come and connect with others in the LGBTQ population, participate in activities, get help if they need it and learn about the community’s issues and history.

These resources are available at the Q Center in North Portland—near PCC’s Cascade campus, in fact—but they are sparse in the suburbs.

“At a campus like Rock Creek, it makes sense that you would create these types of services and programs because these sorts of outlying areas don’t have as much available,” says David Martinez, the outreach and orientation coordinator with the Rock Creek campus and a member of the task force that started the QRC. Students and staff invited the community to attend the grand opening, which was celebrated with a ribbon cutting, music and food. Tables were set up to educate people about the new QRC, and representatives from Cascade AIDS Project and the Portland Area Business Associ-

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ation (PABA), as well as Q Center executive director Barbara McCullough-Jones, came to show support.

But the QRC didn’t happen overnight. In fact, the very idea of a school-based QRC is something of a novelty, especially on a community college campus. Larger universities like Oregon State University and Portland State University have QRCs, though they go by various other names. But as far as staff at PCC Rock Creek can tell, their QRC is the first at any community college in Oregon.

“We’re really at the forefront of a new and innovative program,” says Joshua PetersMcBride, who as the clubs and programs specialist with PCC Rock Creek, helped drive the QRC forward. “Even though the concept of a QRC isn’t new and innovative, at an academic level, it really is.”

PCC Rock Creek’s QRC sprang from the school’s Gay-Straight Alliance, a club found at many schools and universities that’s meant to provide support for LGBTQ youth (though the PCC club is in talks to rename itself the QueerStraight Alliance, or QSA).

GSAs are not uncommon. Students often

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at her high school in Scappoose, but parents eventually forced the club to shut down, she says. When she went to PCC Rock Creek, she got involved with its GSA. “I joined the GSA, but it took me a while to get the courage to go to a meeting,” she says, “and then when I went there I was like, ‘This is where I belong.’”

The QRC idea came from students in the GSA and was brought before the school’s student government. Around that time, in January, the school hired Peters-McBride, who had experience organizing queer groups at the University of Montana. He “really ran with the idea,” Martinez says.

Student government worked with the dean of students to create a task force, which drafted a proposal for the QRC. That proposal was eventually okayed by the president of the campus with an annual budget of $16,500 a year.

The QRC is operational now and sees about 30 to 50 people walk through its doors each day, says Peters-McBride, who has an office near the space.

Plans for future programming aren’t concrete, but students envision events that can help the entire community.

“It’s been a long time coming, but it’s definitely been worth the wait,” Peters-McBride says.

come to college from high schools that have GSAs, so they’re looking for something similar in college, Martinez says. But the QRC is different from the GSA in that it provides a designated space for LGBTQ resources. It has a front lobby, or lounge, a collection of books, computers and a part-time staff.

One of those staff members is Jazmin Sandoval, a sophomore and student advocate for For more information on the PCC Rock Creek QRC, the QRC. She had been a member of her GSA visit pcc.edu/resources/aspcc/rock-creek/qcenter.

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As founder of the Rural Organizing Project, established in 1992, Westerling’s reputation as a critical grassroots activist precedes her. With ROP, she sought to unite smalltown leaders and figure out how to address hot-button progressive issues. While the radical right attempted to lay claim to more politically isolated towns throughout Oregon during the late 1980s and early ‘90s, ROP stepped in at a crucial legislative time for statewide civil rights: Measure 9. That initiative—championed by the Oregon Citizens Alliance in 1992, which targeted gays and lesbians as “abnormal,” and would have relegated the LGBTQ community to secondclass citizenship—was defeated in no small part due to the work of ROP. Though queer rights became a cornerstone for the state’s introduction to ROP, the group, says Westerling, tried to put that fight into a larger context of understanding how the right was using the queer rights platform to build and move the “kind of agenda that we’ve seen unrolling over the last two decades.” ROP has made broad efforts to expand its activist agenda in the 18 years since its inception.

“I think in small-town America, where you have fewer people willing to talk about progressive issues, it’s really important that they don’t just talk about one issue of concern,” explains Westerling.

But for Westerling, 52, her participation in solidarity with the nationwide Occupy movement revolves around one very serious issue of concern. She was diagnosed with advanced ovarian cancer in spring 2010, necessitating her departure from leadership at ROP, and her subsequent fellowship position at the like-minded Open Society Institute. Her condition continues to worsen due to her being placed on a wait list for the drug Doxil.

Westerling openly blames the profit-focused mechanics of the corporate pharmaceutical engine for the rationing of the drug.

During the first day of Occupy Portland, she could be seen holding a sign reading: “Wait Listed for Chemo; Thanks Big Pharma and

Wall Street; Stage 4 Ovarian Cancer.”

“It’s really about this whole progression that we’ve been seeing about profit and greed leading the values of our country,” explains Westerling, who notes that there are more than 200 intravenous drugs that are no longer available or are very hard to get for folks with serious medical conditions. “My cancer is physical, it’s growing, I need that drug right now. But instead of being able to get it any time in 2011, I’m on a wait list. Obviously my cancer is not going to wait. My life is very much in jeopardy as a result of this kind of greed.”

While the mainstream media has thus far struggled to put a face to the Occupy movement—outside of parodying the easy target of squatting masked as neo-hippie activism— its general anti-corporate grievances are typified by strong, in-your-face cases like that of Westerling.

Doxil reportedly represents less than 1 percent of pharmaceutical corporation Johnson & Johnson’s revenues. But Ben Venue Labs, the manufacturer of the drug, claims that the problem is not one of profit. Rather, in an article published in The Courier-Journal, a Ben Venue spokesperson would only say that the company was facing “capacity re-

straints” with the manufacturing of such a complex drug. These statements disregard the fact that Ben Venue is seeking to get out of the Doxil business altogether, meaning J&J will be even harder pressed to produce Doxil for the many patients nationwide in need of it.

It’s this kind of profit-fueled bureaucracy that most Occupy protesters shake a common fist at. For her part, Westerling feels that her foundations with ROP have made it possible for not only metro areas, but also small communities—as many as 10 small Occupy movements are currently functioning in Oregon—to stand up and be heard.

“Our big effort has been to say, ‘This is not an urban anger, this needs to be really a 99 percent anger,’ which includes an enormous

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number of small-town and rural folks,“ says Westerling. “I can’t prove it, but I’d suspect that if you look at all of the states that make up this country, there are more small-town occupations going on in Oregon than anywhere else in the United States. I think that particularly is testimony to how here in Oregon we do have an organization that is entirely about amplifying those voices and making sure that these concerns are felt everywhere.”

While the focus on individual Occupy movements nationwide begins to trend toward sustainment of the various camps, general health and well-being of protesters, and walking the tightrope of civil disobedience, Westerling hopes that those involved continue to analyze their motivations. She encourages every citizen to look at where they’re most impacted “by the downward mobility of our society, and to make that a household discussion, and to come into this moment.”

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I believe in the right to free speech and to ers recognize that simply sitting in the park dom of speech is more important than tresprotest. I believe in what their general mes- is not enough and is really just [an] initial passing on private property, which is a missage is (though it seems to be getting lost). action—eventually there has to be a phase demeanor. Conservatives who support the Tea Party movement, which is named after However, I also believe in abiding by laws and two, the what’s next.

They have (for some time) been/are plan- a felonious act against oppression, seem not ordinances and not being destructive. It’s tough. The damage caused to the parks is add- ning to collect funds to pay for the park to agree. Don’t you find that oddly hypoing up and we, as taxpayers, will foot the bill. damage—including volunteering to do the critical? -Shelly Casteel work (keeping in mind the Granted, it’s far less than we I support the cause and the message. I don’t broad range of skills there). already spend in taxes, but it’s “This for me is turning believe that a (largely) homeless camp in front -Debra Porta money that could go to betinto yet another 1 of Portland City Hall is going to have any ter use. I say move them to By 99 percent they are impact. As we know there are scant few ForPioneer Courthouse Square. percent speaking for us.”

-april landers talking income levels. So tune 500 companies based in Portland. ProEven more obvious and no technically whether you tests like this in our liberal mecca is certainly chance of ruining anything.

Also, they should apply for a permit to stay agree with them or not, you are part of the singing to the choir. If the movement is going overnight in an effort to make it legal. [Mayor 99 percent. Unless you’re a billionaire. I am to have any impact, besides whining about the Adams], surprisingly, has worked well with tired of people complaining about how much obvious and abhorrent inequities in our socithem so far. I’m sure he’d entertain the idea of this is costing the city. The damn fact is peo- ety, they need to have a platform of issues, an legally allowing them to stay overnight. ple have the right to protest without frigging agenda to accomplish them, and leaders to permits, and if our government and financial promote and elect. They will NOT overthrow -Michael Olson the government or subvert the sector hadn’t screwed us we current paradigm by camping I understand the basic thought behind the wouldn’t be having a problem “In my America, in a park. I think it’s time to go Occupy movement, but I do not think they with our budgets being freedom of speech is home. -Scott Osburne have the right to claim they are the “99 per- stretched. Your apologetics for cent.” If they base their actions on a vote, I do the 1 percent is sad. So let me more important than My partner and I have parnot remember ever being asked if I agree with get this straight. You would trespassing on private ticipated in the marches... very their actions. They are no more the “99 per- halt all demonstrations and all property, which is a inspiring... so many different cent” than the “1 percent,” if you ask me. As the progress this movement is kinds of people participated... things move on and on, the communities they making because it costs money? misdemeanor.” are protesting in are burdened with having to -Djambel Unkov -shelly casteel union folks, grandmas, every ethnicity, not just the usual pay for more police, cleanup, etc. I don’t think Throughout history REAL change has suspects. The message is important... the inwith all the budgets already stretched pretty far this is a good use of the funds. Nor do I only occurred by the people. Instead of fo- come disparity is about the disappearing think blocking streets, derailing other groups cusing on the minimal cost of a park cleanup, middle class... the richest folks and corporawho took the time to get needed permits, etc. perhaps attentions would be better focused tions OWN our government. This model is really speak for the 99 percent. Sorry but this on the trillions of dollars the banks have UNSUSTAINABLE. The park that is being for me is turning into yet another 1 percent taken from us and the criminal activities occupied (in a very organized way) is paid for they have yet been held accountable for. Or by the taxpayers. It is being used for an imporspeaking for us. -April Landers perhaps the fact that the banks/corpora- tant purpose. Those who are occupying are They have been working on education/in- tions/rich own politicians and the people’s representing those of us who stand in solidarformation campaigns—I think the organiz- will is being ignored. In my America, free- ity but can’t be down there. -Wendy Wick

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As I ease the car to the curb, Barney presses his nose against the passenger window, leaving a large smudge. He whines, then yips out a sharp bark. I chuckle; does my 11-month-old pit bull think I donâ&#x20AC;&#x2122;t know this is the dog park?

I clip a leash to his collar for the 50-yard dash to the double gate just to be safe. I doubt heâ&#x20AC;&#x2122;d run anywhere but toward the fenced dedicated off-leash area, but I donâ&#x20AC;&#x2122;t take a chance.

Twenty years ago, when I began walking dogs in Portland, this scenario wasnâ&#x20AC;&#x2122;t possible.

Portland didnâ&#x20AC;&#x2122;t have official off-leash areas for dogs to run and play. Fences did not separate dogs from playgrounds, joggers or traffic speeding by. Not that dog owners and companions didnâ&#x20AC;&#x2122;t let dogs off leash, we did. But it wasnâ&#x20AC;&#x2122;t sanctioned by the city or even always safe.

On a lovely spring morning in 1994, I unclipped leashes, allowing my two Lab mixes to romp at Wilshire Park in Northeast Portland.

The east portion of the parkâ&#x20AC;&#x201D;today a sanctioned area for liberated dog use at certain timesâ&#x20AC;&#x201D;was an unofficial meet-up area for dogs and dog owners. My girls raced around, sniffing butts with other canines and treeing squirrels.

Suddenly, something outside the park caught the attention of one dog, who raced out of sight. The other dog followed and soon a loud metallic clatter cracked the air. I thought perhaps a car had hit a telephone pole or a stop

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With heart in throat, I sprinted toward the sound. When I rounded the corner, my beloved black Lab, Molly, fell to her right with each attempted step, followed by a man whose abandoned red Honda Civic sat in the street, door hanging open. Her white-ringed eyes told of fear and pain. In one crashing moment, I ached for Molly, felt sympathy for the driver who hit her, cringed at the medical procedures to come, the bills, my own culpability in this state of affairs, and the daily challenge of trying to let the dogs I loved have a semblance of a dogâ&#x20AC;&#x2122;s life in the midst of a city.

The injury damaged a nerve, causing complete and incurable paralysis. Molly eventually lost her leg. She went on to live another 14 years as a three-legged dog. She lifted me out of self-pity when I was diagnosed with cancer a year after her injury, she inspired me to seek training in animal chiropractic, she demonstrated unconditional forgiveness to adopted children, and her hobbling about on three legs with head bobbing made it challenging to whine about lifeâ&#x20AC;&#x2122;s daily annoyances.

Maybe everything really does happen for a reason.

As much as having a three-legged dog for all those years taught me everything important about living, surviving, parenting and not sweating the small stuff, I swore never to put another dog at similar risk. I began seeking places where dog and human companion could exercise fully and enjoy each otherâ&#x20AC;&#x2122;s company unfettered by the leash. It would be more than a decade before the city of Portland determined the issue of sufficient importance to designate a few official areas for off-leash dog exercise and recreation. In fact, it took the deaths of several dogs at Laurelhurst Park and the resultant hue and cry of dog owners and dog haters alike to stir bureaucratic action. The conversation was vitriolic for a time, but the outcome a delight.

Today there are seven full-time designated and fenced recreation areas for dogs in Portland. More if you add those in Beaverton, Tigard, Tualatin, Wilsonville, Troutdale, Vancouver and Washougalâ&#x20AC;&#x201D;more still if you count areas like Wilshire Park where a portion of a park is allotted for off-leash dogs to use at certain times. The website portlandpooch.com

lists 55, replete with maps, directions and descriptions of amenities.

The dog parks are imperfect. All within Portland city limits are smaller than two acres, making poor hiking for humans. Some have few or no trees. Galloping canine claws tend to tear up grass so sand, bark chips and mud often greet your feet. At times a dog group becomes unruly, but in my experience that is the exception and not the rule.

Despite their flaws, designated dog parks are a boon for dog owners, providing a place for pups to learn doggie manners safe from passing traffic. Dogs who thrive on games of fetch can easily be satisfied by a trip to the closest dog park, where they can race after a frisbee or an orange ball till their tongue hangs on the ground. A human companion never has to worry about an errant squirrel seducing the canine, surrounded by a fence, into harmâ&#x20AC;&#x2122;s way.

Over the next months, I plan to visit each of Portlandâ&#x20AC;&#x2122;s dog parks, as well as those in the surrounding suburbs. Iâ&#x20AC;&#x2122;ll post a review of each trip on my â&#x20AC;&#x153;Dead Dog Walkingâ&#x20AC;? blog, which you can find at onedogstory.blogspot.com.

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(7:00 p.m., In Other Words, 14 NE Killingsworth, inotherwords.org) The Portland Sisters of Perpetual Indulgence present We CAN for the Arts: A Benefit for the Creative Advocacy Network. (8:00 p.m., Crush, 1400 SE Morrison, 21+, $5 cover)

Gear Up, Suit Up, Saddle Up: The Eagle Portland welcomes the Northwest Gay Rodeo Association. (9:00 p.m., The Eagle Portland, 835 N Lombard, 21+, No cover!, facebook.com/theeagleportland) The Oregon Bears present Sordid Lives, a beary Halloween party with DJ Brad. (9:00 p.m., Local Lounge, 3536 NE MLK, 21+, No cover!)

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Queer Documentary Night! Featuring screenings of Running in Heels and Hella Strong. (11:00 p.m., Cinema 21, 616 NW 21st, 21+, $3-5 cover)

SAT OCT 22 The Adventure Group joins the Portland Frontrunners on an Esplanade walk with optional brunch. Meet by Vera Katz’ statue (9:00 a.m., 1 SE Main, adventuregroup.org) Jeff Jahn

Chuck Pyle performs live in Eugene. (8:00 p.m., Tsunami Books, 2585 Willamette St., Eugene, $17, chuckpyle.com)

Sugar Town! October’s Sugar Town is an Outfit Party! Assemble a ensemble of orange & black and dance your SOUL out. (9:00 p.m., Saratoga, 6910 N Interstate, 21+, $3-5 sliding scale)

The Adventure Group does the “4-T” urban hike (Trail, aerial Tram, Trolley and Train). Meet at the Zoo’s topside MAX train station. (9:30 a.m., SW Knights Blvd at MAX, RSVP to Evan at 503-701-7922) Men’s Eco-Hike: Salmon River. (10:00 a.m., $8-20 sliding scale, For more information, or to RSVP, call 503-223-8822 x1 or visit manifestpdx.org) Shred Fest! A festival of female shredders?

Awesome! (3:00 p.m.-late, Troubadour Studios, 1020 SE Market, $7-10) First Annual Zomb & Monster Pub Crawl. (3:00 p.m., Dante’s, 350 W Burnside, 21+, For a full schedule, visit zombcrawl.com) Amazon Dragons Paddling Club Poker Fundraiser! (4:00 p.m., $40 buy-in, The Dean of Poker’s House, 7814 NW 10th Court, Vancouver, RSVP to jdillen@comcast.net) Free Rapid HIV Testing for guys into guys.

(5-8:30 p.m., Pivot, 209 SW 4th, pivotpdx.org) Deaf and Hearing OutReach welcomes LGBT ASL lovers to coffee night every fourth Saturday! (6:30 p.m., Three Friends Coffee House, 201 SE 12th, Free, dhorpdx.blogspot.com) The Community of Welcoming Congregations presents Songs of Faith & Freedom V. (7:00 p.m., Hillsdale UCC, 6948 SW Capitol Hwy, hillsdaleucc.org) The First Annual Blue Ball, a benefit for the Coastal AIDS Network. (7:00 p.m., Eden Hall, Gleneden Beach, $20, coastalaidsnetwork@gmail.com) Disko Warp presents Speed Up!! Episode 2 with Hi-NRG J-Pop Happy Hardcore DJs Jimni Cricket, Lucky Princess, and Initial P. (8:00 p.m., Pop Culture, 1929 Main Street, Vancouver, All ages, $5, facebook.com/diskowarpmusic) April Verch performs live in Eugene! (8:00 p.m., The Laboratory, 2645 Willamette St., Eugene, $17, aprilverch.com) Blow Pony vs. Night of the Living Homos.

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Philip Iosca’s collection HOPEFULLY I BECOME THE UNIVERSE, inspired by recent gay suicides, is on view at PNCA’s Manuel Izquierdo Gallery through October 27.

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ART joins national Standing on Ceremony night to benefit BRO’s marriage equality work As the Occupy movement has shown over the last month, Americans’ willingness to stand up in solidarity for a common goal remains a critical foundation for equity. Count its theater hordes in on that equitable bent, too.

Portland’s Artists Repertory Theatre will join 25 theaters in 19 states, and select international locales, for Standing on Ceremony—The Gay Marriage Plays. The project threads together nine 10-minute plays, written by a who’s who of scribes—including Tony Award nominees Moisés Kaufman and Neil LaBute—on issues surrounding gay marriage. The short works are given the staged-reading treatment by performers in participating cities… all at the same time.

While the New York City producers of this thespian adventure have partnered with Freedom to Marry, proceeds from ART’s one-nightonly engagement benefit Basic Rights Oregon, whose decision on whether or not to move forward with a ballot initiative to legalize gay marriage in 2012 is expected very soon.

As a stipulation of being a partnering theater for Standing on Ceremony, each show is followed by a complimentary wedding cake reception, provided in Portland by Pastry Girls. And if you miss out on this scrumptious chance to square up marriage, be patient—ART plans a full run with revolving actors in the spring.

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L.U.R.E. (9:00 p.m., The Eagle Portland, 835 N Lombard, 21+, No cover!, facebook.com/ theeagleportland) Fleur de Lethal presents the Fourth Annual Moulin Rouge Spectacular Spectacle! Come early (and in costume) for live drag, burlesque, and music! (9:00 p.m., Bagdad Theater, XXX, 21+, $5 general admission, $25 for two VIP admissions, facebook.com/fleurdelethal) Portland Black Pride presents the Black & White Masquerade Ball. (10:00 p.m., Local Lounge, 3536 NE MLK, 21+, $5 cover) Svetlana’s Birthday Party (and Zombie Crawl). (10:00 p.m., Red Cap Garage, 1025 SW Stark, 21+, No cover!)

XXXotica. (10:00 p.m., Hamburger Mary’s, 19 NW 5th, 21+, No cover!)

SUN OCT 23 Bottomless Mimosa Brunch! Get ready for that hang-over medicine, Mary! (10:00 a.m.3:00 p.m., Hamburger Mary’s, 19 NW 5th) Queer Aperture opening. Q Center’s exhibit of Jeffrey Horvitz’s portraits of our community is up for public consumption! (3-5:00 p.m., Q Center, 4115 N Mississippi) Queer/Feminist Theory Reading Group.

(4-6:00 p.m., Q Center, 4115 N Mississisppi) Repent! The Church of the Poison Mind welcomes all sinners. (4-9:00 p.m., Silverado, 308 SW 3rd, 21+, Free) Men’s Faith & Sexuality Group. This safe, welcoming forum is for men who’ve experienced a challenging conflict between their faith and sexuality. (4-5:30 p.m., For more information or to RSVP, call 503-223-8822 x1 or visit manifestpdx.org) Femmes Unite! social group. Please bring food you can eat and a bit more to share.

(6-8:00 p.m., Q Center, 4115 N Mississippi) The Mindfulness for Living Group explores mindfulness through meditation, discussion and exercises. (6-7:00 p.m., Q Center, 4115 N Mississippi) Superstar Divas Mega Show! (8:00 p.m., CC Slaughters, 219 NW Davis, 21+, No cover!)

High Places, live in concert with David Scott Stone and Purple & Green. (8:30 p.m., Holocene, 1001 SE Morrison, 21+, $10) Gaay Aalto Sundays. (10:00 p.m., Aalto Lounge, 3356 SE Belmont, 21+, No cover!)

MON OCT 24 Burger night at Starky’s! (6-9:00 p.m., Starky’s 2913 SE Stark, 21+) Coming Out support group. (6:30 p.m., Q Center, 4115 N Mississippi)

LGBTQ affirming Pentecostals: express your charismatic style of prayer and worship in a safe, nonjudgmental environment. (7:00 p.m., Caldwell’s Colonial Chapel, 20 NE 14th, please enter from the parking lot doors) Befriending Your Body: Rubenfeld Synergy.

Do you ever feel like your body is failing you?

What if your body always had your highest good in store for you? (7-9:00 p.m., In Other Words, 14 NE Killingsworth, inotherwords.org) OUT Dancing Beginning Nightclub 2-Step lessons. (7:30 p.m., Ankeny Street Studio, 975 SE Sandy, $10, outdancing.info) Pub Quiz with Polly! (7-9:00 p.m., CC Slaughters, 219 NW 3rd, 21+, No cover!)

MaryOke! Hamburger Mary’s has more songs than you can shake a high heel at (and a cash prize for the best performance). (9:00 p.m., Hamburger Mary’s, 19 NW 5th, 21+, No cover!)

TUES OCT 25 Towel Tuesdays. Let the boys of CCs serve you in nothing but their towels. (5-7:00 p.m., CC Slaughters, 219 NW 3rd, 21+, No cover!)

Inter-Personal Violence Support Group.

(6-8:00 p.m., Q Center, 4115 N Mississippi) Anawim Christian Fellowship. (6:30-8:30 p.m., Q Center, 4115 N Mississippi) Portland Lesbian Choir Open Rehearsal.

(6:30 p.m., Ainsworth UCC, 2941 NE Ainsworth, plchoir.org) Tap Into Your Body Wisdom, a workshop to help you discover what your body is trying to tell you. (7-9:00 p.m., MCC Portland, 2400 NE Broadway, info@truenorthmassage.com)

THURS OCT 27 The Association of Fundraising Professionals presents Getting Money Out of the Closet: Unique Issues in Raising Funds from Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual and Transgender Donors.

(3-5:00 p.m., PSU Donna Beegle Community Classrooms, 1801 SW 6th, $20/AFP Member, $45/Non Member, afporegon.afpnet.org) Survivors Group for LGBT Youth. (4:30 p.m., SMYRC, 3024 NE MLK, Free!)

You’re Out! Now What? monthly meet-up for men who have recently come out of the closet.

(6:30 p.m., Q Center, 4115 N Mississippi) Monster Ball & Food Drive: Don’t Dream It, Be It! WSU Vancouver invites you to show off your costume, dance it out, or just watch a little Rocky Horror. (8:00 p.m., WSU Vancouver, Firstenburg Student Commons, Free admission with food donation for Martha’s Pantry)

Quizzy! (7-9:00 p.m., Hamburger Mary’s, 19 NW 5th, All ages)

Darklady’s Oregon Theater Popcorn & Porn Night. (8:00 p.m., The Oregon Theater, 3530 SE Division, 18+, $10 plus a food donation for Esther’s Pantry)

Check Yo Ponytail Tour! Spank Rock and Big Freedia bring the booty to Portland! (8:00 p.m., Branx, 320 SW 2nd, All ages, $20)

Bearly Naked Billiards! (9:00 p.m., The Eagle Portland, 835 N Lombard, 21+, No cover!, facebook.com/theeagleportland)

Costume MaryOke! Arrive in costume or dig through our box of props (and win a cash prize for the best performance). (9:00 p.m., Hamburger Mary’s, 19 NW 5th, 21+, No cover!)

Haunted Cafeteria is upon us, with lunch trays, costumed gays, and freaky beats by DJs Lunchlady, Ill Camino, and Trans Fat. (9:00 p.m., Vendetta, 4306 N Williams, 21+, $3 cover) Hip Hop Heaven. (9:00 p.m., CC Slaughters, 219 NW 3rd, 21+, No cover!)

Red Cap Garage presents HOTT MESS, a mashup of Portland Drag Race and Miss Thing. Who’s the hottest mess in town? (10:00 p.m., Red Cap Garage, 1035 SW Stark, 21+, No cover!)

FRI OCT 28 “This Land is Our Land” rally with Pink Martini and Storm Large. Join voices with the Occupy Wall Street movement while enjoying the best musicians and speakers in Portland! (Noon, Pioneer Courthouse Square, 701 SW 6th) Oregon Bears Happy Hour. (5-7:00 p.m., Fox & Hounds, 217 NW 2nd, 21+, No cover!)

SWAGGER all-inclusive dance class! (6:00 p.m., Center Space Studio, 420 SE 6th, $8 drop-in, $35 5 classes, theotherspacellc.com) Eroticize. What works to communicate with bedroom buddies? How do you take the fumbling out? Learn from your peers in a facilitated group dialogue. (6:00 p.m., Pivot, 209 SW 4th, pivotpdx.org) Sarah cass

Milagro Theatre presents ¡VIVA LA REVOLUCIÓN! A Celebration of the Day of the Dead, running through Nov. 13. For more information, or to order tickets, visit milagro.org.

HRC presents Q=Mob! Come, socialize for change and meet other like-minded social activists. (6-8:00 p.m., The Original, 300 SW 6th, 21+)

Jock Strap Karaoke with Theo. (10:00 p.m., Red Cap Garage, 1035 SW Stark, 21+, No cover!)

Tender Forever performs in the first ever Shred Fest.

Free Rapid HIV testing & STD screening for guys into guys. (5-8:30 p.m., Pivot, 209 SW 4th, pivotpdx.org) Radical Library Crawl: A Celebration of Queer and Feminist Libraries in Portland. The crawl starts at Bitch, continues to In Other Words, and ends at the Q center, with a dance party library style! Carpool available, costumes encouraged. (6-10:00 p.m., begins at Bitch, 4930 NE 29th, ends at Q Center, 4115 N Mississippi) Cabaret Karaoke. It’s karaoke with live piano accompaniment! (6:30-9:00 p.m., Wilfs, 800 NW 6th, 21+, stumptownstages.com) Mary’s Charity Bingo. This is NOT your typical “church basement bingo.” (7-9:00 p.m., Hamburger Mary’s, 19 NW 5th, All ages, $20 buy-in) Glee Night! (8:00 p.m., The Eagle Portland, 835 N Lombard, 21+, No cover!, facebook. com/theeagleportland) GIRLTOPIA. (9:00 p.m., CC Slaughters, 219 NW 3rd, 21+, No cover!)

WED OCT 26 LBGTQI Seniors Lunch, free to seniors age 60 and over. (Noon-1:00 p.m., Metropolitan Community Church, 2400 NE Broadway, 503367-2220, mccpdxfood@gmail.com) PABA Biz Builders Lunch. (Noon, Q Center, 4115 N Mississippi, paba.com) Free Rapid HIV testing & STD screening for guys into guys. (1-3:30 p.m., Pivot, 209 SW 4th, pivotpdx.org)

Master Shredders First Shred Fest gives voice to women who rock In the music world, it has been written, to achieve shredder status one must shake off the inhibitions placed upon them by “establishment shredders.” These might include Nuno Bettencourt, Eddie Van Halen, Joe Satriani, and on into the pick-squealing realms of Yngwie Malmsteen. Notice anything about that list?

It’s full of men, most of whom overplayed—ahem!— overstayed their welcomes, talented or not (a statement inviting great debate among those for whom the neon guitar is/was a status symbol). To silence the stereotypical ways of the Kingdom of Shred, on Saturday, October 22, Shred Fest will reclaim shredderdom for women only, and you don’t need a Dean Razorback to shiver off the ghosts of those old Hessians.

The inaugural Shred Fest digs deep into the feminist punk rock playbook, showcasing underground rock, electro, punk and more from locals like Reporter,

the queer-centric Fucking Lesbian Bitches and Tombstalker, and beyond to K Records artist Tender Forever (aka Melanie Valera). Cat Fancy! fans will want to shred extra hard during the garage-y gait of the Portland crew’s final show ever.

As if you needed another reason to watch rock ‘n’ rollin’ women go apeshit on stage, the festival will raise money to start She Shreds, a magazine dedicated to the female guitarist. Bonus!

Shredding, as you’ll no doubt hear, see, smell and taste, is a state of mind. Own it, grrrl.

Sat., Oct. 22, 3 p.m.; Troubadour Studios, 1020 SE Market St.; $7-$10 at the door; all ages; search “Shred Fest” on Facebook.

—Ryan J. Prado

oregon’s lGBTQ newsmagazine

october 21, 2011

If it’s not in Just Out,

23

Gary norman

it’s not happening.

Scandals presents Dark Fables. DJ Robb enchants you with the sights and sounds of his magical wonders. (10:00 p.m., Scandals, 1125 SW Stark, 21+, No cover!)

Drinking with the Divas! Join the Divas at Mary’s for a night of drinking and debauchery!

(10:00 p.m., Hamburger Mary’s, 19 NW 5th, 21+, No cover!)

SAT OCT 29 Basic Rights Oregon’s Trans Justice Summit. Read Just Out’s full coverage of this event on pg. 12. (9:00 a.m.-6:00 p.m., Q Center, 4115 N Mississippi, $10-20 sliding scale) The Adventure Group goes on a moderate hike on the Wahkeena Falls Loop. Meet outside Starbucks at Hollywood Fred Meyer.

(9:00 a.m., 3030 NE Weidler, call Evan at 503-701-7922) The Adventure Group joins the Portland Frontrunners on an Esplanade walk with optional brunch. Meet by Vera Katz’ statue (9:00 a.m., 1 SE Main, adventuregroup.org) OutKayaking presents a Lake Merwin Paddle.

(10:30 a.m., For more information, visit outkayaking.org)

Sandro Negri’s 50-year career in filmstrip paintings are on display at Brian Marki Fine Art through Nov. 16.

OUT Dancing Intermediate/Advanced Nightclub 2-Step Lessons. (6:30 p.m., Ankeny Street Studio, 975 SE Sandy, $10, outdancing.info) SMYRC presents a Halloween Dance and Open Mic night for LGBTQ Youth! (7-10:30 p.m., SMYRC, 3024 NE MLK, smyrc.org) Film Fridays at Pivot! This week’s film: Were the World Mine (2008). (7:00 p.m., Pivot, 209 SW 4th, Free, pivotpdx.org) MTF Support Group. For more information please contact sujvary@comcast.net. (7-9:00 p.m., Q Center, 4115 N Mississippi) My Summer as a Goth presents Get Your Goth On Halloween Bash. (7:30 p.m., Hollywood Theatre, 4122 NE Sandy, $10-20 suggested donation) Mas-Q-Rade. It’s a Halloween party to benefit the Q Center! (8:00 p.m., Crush, 1400 SE Morrison, 21+, $5, pdxqcenter.org) Wicked Awesome Big Homo Halloween party and Queer Cover Bands Show! Sex. Drag. Rock and Roll. The perfect Halloween. (8:00 p.m., Rotture, 315 SE 3rd, 21+, $6-8) Queer Country & Line Dancing Night! The first hour of the night will be lessons in the two-step partner dance and/or a line dance, leaving the rest of the night for some good oldfashioned fun. (8-11:00 p.m., In Other Words, 14 NE Killingsworth, inotherwords.org) Night Flight’s Fright Night, a a haunted evening of aerial apparitions and unearthly acrobatics. (8:00 p.m., Alberta Rose Theatre, 3000 NE Alberta, $20 adv/$24 dos, nightflightaerial. com) The Oregon Bears take over CCs with the Double X Dance. The music is loud, the crowd is dense, and it’s the only place to see all of Portland’s yummiest bears under one roof. (9:00 p.m., C.C. Slaughter’s, 219 NW 3rd, 21+, No cover!)

MANTRAP, with DJ Lunchlady. (9:00 p.m., Red Cap Garage, 1035 SW Stark, 21+)

Free Rapid HIV Testing for guys into guys.

(5-8:30 p.m., Pivot, 209 SW 4th, pivotpdx.org) Hot Flash is now INFERNO! Celebrate Halloween with seasoned lesbians who are too old for the “scene” and too young to stop dancing. (6-10:00 p.m., Barracuda, 9NW 2nd, 21+, $8 cover) Thrill the World: Portland. (7:00 p.m., Irving Park basketball court, NE 7th & Fremont, thrillportland.wordpress.com) Creepy Carnal Ball! Go-gos, and fortune tellers, and groping... with DJs Aurora and B.L.Zebub ready to charm your snake. (8-11:00 p.m., Crush, 1400 SE Morrison, 21+, $4) Portland Erotic Ball! The biggest and sexiest Halloween party in Portland is back, with Pepe & the Bottle Blondes and Keegan Smith. (8:00 p.m., Crystal Ballroom, 1332 W Burnside, 21+, $35-89, portlanderoticball.com) Genderf**king Takeover: Halloween! Hosted by Carla Rossi with killer dance tunes all night long. (8:30 p.m., Matador, 1967 E Burnside, 21+, No cover!)

A Bearish Leather Halloween!

Come see what’s bubbling and boiling this Halloween weekend with gory atmosphere, a caged human, and a midnight costume contest! (9:00 p.m., The Eagle Portland, 835 N Lombard, 21+, $5 cover) The Transylvanian Voodoo Ball! With Vagabond Opera, the Dolly Pops, and more! (9:00 p.m., The Star Theater, 13 NW 6th, $15 adv/$20 dos, vagabondopera.com) There’s Something About Mary Costume Party! It’s Hamburger Mary’s First Birthday, and you’re invited to celebrate! Come dressed as any Mary, and win some cash! (9:00 p.m., Hamburger Mary’s, 19 NW 5th, 21+) CC Slashers Halloween Bash. Bolivia Carmichaels hosts a night of dancing and costumes and debauchery. (9:00 p.m., CC Slaughters, 219 NW 3rd, 21+, No cover!)

Casey’s Halloween Costume Dance Party!

(9:00 p.m., Casey’s, 610 NW Couch, 21+, caseyspdx.net) Zombie Prom! With zombie blood cocktails and a costume contest with cash prizes!

(10:00 p.m., Red Cap Garage & Boxxes, 1035 SW Stark, 21+, $5 cover)

Cross Over presents Bringing In Halloween With The Scorpios, DJ Michael Morris spins for a spooky edition of Portland’s hottest hiphop and R&B night. (10:00 p.m., Care Free Bar & Grill, 10209 SE Division, 21+, $5 cover)

SUN OCT 30 The Adventure Group takes the Santiam State Forest Tour. Meet outside Starbucks at Hollywood Fred Meyer. (8:00 a.m., 3030 NE Weidler, RSVP to Jack at 503-413-0831) Bottomless Mimosa Brunch! Get ready for that hang-over medicine, Mary! (10:00 a.m.3:00 p.m., Hamburger Mary’s, 19 NW 5th) Join Portland Saturday Market for the city’s best outdoor trick-or-treat adventure! (11:00 a.m.-3:00 p.m., Portland Saturday Market, 2 SW Naito) Women of Wonder Day! Costumed super heroes and science fiction characters make appearances, and raffles of rare memorabilia take place throughout the day, while raising money for domestic violence charities. (Noon-6:00 p.m., Excalibur Comics, 2444 SE Hawthorne) Spooktacular! Join the Q Center for their annual Halloween Party for families with children. (2-4:00 p.m., Q Center, 4115 N Mississippi) Dia De Los Muertos Downtown Parade!

(3:00 p.m., Pioneer Place Mall to NW 5th and Davis) Repent! The Church of the Poison Mind welcomes all sinners. (4-9:00 p.m., Silverado, 308 SW 3rd, 21+, Free) The Stark Raving Queens present Fright Night: A Halloween Bash!

(5:30-8:30 p.m., Starky’s, 2913 SE Stark, Dinner reservations suggested: 503-230-7980 Kristi King brings her hit Doris Day tribute show, Que Sera!, to Hillsboro. (6:00 p.m., Venetian Theatre, 253 E. Main Street, Hillsboro, $25, kristiking.com) The SpookyStar Divas Horror Picture Show! (8:00 p.m., CC Slaughters, 219 NW Davis, 21+, No cover!)

HOMO HALLOW’S EVE! It’s a big gay dance party with DJ Lunchlady to benefit the Portland riders participating in the 2012 Aids LifeCycle. (9:00 p.m., Holocene, 1001 SE Morrison, 21+, $7 adv/$10 dos) Gaay Aalto Sundays. (10:00 p.m., Aalto Lounge, 3356 SE Belmont, 21+, No cover!)

High Comedy Vertigo Theatre’s Cloud 9 weathers satire and sex In Cloud 9, sexuality and racial strife take center stage, spanning 100 years in two acts for a Victorian family. Its members, however, age only 25 years. And so it goes that Caryl Churchill’s landmark 1978 play may prove, yes, a lofty experience.

Featuring enough quotable one-liners to fill a cumulonimbus (look it up), Cloud 9 follows gender-bending characters through both British colonial Africa and modern London. Sexual oppression, political oppression, societal oppression… and more sexual oppression dominate the award-winning satire, brought to Portland by Theatre Vertigo in its first show of the 2011-12 season.

Directed by Artists Repertory Theatre’s Jon Kretzu, this latest production is rumored to include audience participation—so if you’re prone to rosy cheeks (or other effects of ribald language), you may want to wear a nice autumn turtleneck to hide beneath.

The cast, most of whom are Vertigo vets, take on Churchill’s challenge, testing theatrical and cultural norms with cross-racial and crossgender portrayals. Given Kretzu’s résumé—for Artists Rep alone, he’s helmed everything from Love! Valour! Compassion! to Othello—something tells us they’ve got it under control.

A storm of infidelities, comings out and gender expressions fall under the zany umbrella that is Cloud 9. You’ll laugh, you’ll cry, you’ll run for emotional cover. And fortunately, you’ll learn about the dark side of conformity from the comfort of an otherwise climate-controlled room.

Through Nov. 12, 8 p.m.; Theater Theatre, 3430 SE Belmont St.; $15, Thursdays are pay-what-you-will; 503-306-0870 or theatrevertigo.org.

MON OCT 31 A Pivot Halloween. An alcohol-free alternative for men, with treats, a costume contest, and a screening of the Rocky Horror Picture Show.

(5-9:00 p.m., Pivot, 209 SW 4th, pivotpdx.org) Burger night at Starky’s! (6-9:00 p.m., Starky’s 2913 SE Stark, 21+) Pub Quiz with Polly! (7-9:00 p.m., CC Slaughters, 219 NW 3rd, 21+, No cover!)

—Ryan J. Prado

TUES NOV 1 Towel Tuesdays. Let the boys of CCs serve you in nothing but their towels. (5-7:00 p.m., CC Slaughters, 219 NW 3rd, 21+, No cover!)

Free Rapid HIV testing & STD screening for guys into guys. (5-8:30 p.m., Pivot, 209 SW 4th, pivotpdx.org)

ALL HOMOS EVE! Bolivia Carmichaels hosts a night of dancing and costumes and debauchery. (9:00 p.m., CC Slaughters, 219 NW 3rd, 21+, No cover!)

Trans-Spiritual Gathering. An opportunity for the trans community to enter into deep, authentic dialog surrounding their spiritual journeys. (6-9:00 p.m., In Other Words, 14 NE Killingsworth, inotherwords.org)

Scandals presents Dark Fables. DJ Robb enchants you with the sights and sounds of his magical wonders. (9:00 p.m., Scandals, 1125 SW Stark, 21+, No cover!)

Bears Bingo. This is NOT your typical “church basement bingo.” (6-9:00 p.m., Hamburger Mary’s, 19 NW 5th, All ages, $20 buy-in)

MaryOke! Hamburger Mary’s has more songs than you can shake a high heel at (and a cash prize for the best performance). (9:00 p.m., Hamburger Mary’s, 19 NW 5th, 21+, No cover!)

Bears Coffee. (7-9:00 p.m., Cooper’s Coffee, 6409 SE Stark, oregonbears.org) It’s game night! Who doesn’t love board games? (7-9:00 p.m., Q Center, 4115 N Mississippi, Free)

Glee Night! (8:00 p.m., The Eagle Portland, 835 N Lombard, 21+, No cover!, facebook.com/theeagleportland) GIRLTOPIA. (9:00 p.m., CC Slaughters, 219 NW 3rd, 21+, No cover!)

WED NOV 2 LBGTQI Seniors Lunch, free to seniors age 60 and over. (Noon-1:00 p.m., Metropolitan Community Church, 2400 NE Broadway, 503367-2220, mccpdxfood@gmail.com) PABA Biz Builders Lunch. (Noon, Q Center, 4115 N Mississippi, paba.com) Free Rapid HIV testing & STD screening for guys into guys. (1-3:30 p.m., Pivot, 209 SW 4th, pivotpdx.org) Inter-Personal Violence Support Group.

(6-8:00 p.m., Q Center, 4115 N Mississippi) Anawim Christian Fellowship. (6:30-8:30 p.m., Q Center, 4115 N Mississippi)

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october 21, 2011

www.justout.com

If it’s not in Just Out,

david bachman

it’s not happening.

Portland Lesbian Choir Open Rehearsal.

(6:30 p.m., Ainsworth UCC, 2941 NE Ainsworth, plchoir.org) Q Center presents Our Stories: Fast Pitch!

Women’s Softball in Portland. (7-9:00 p.m., Crush, 1400 SE Morrison, 21+, $5)

Quizzy! (7-9:00 p.m., Hamburger Mary’s, 19 NW 5th, All ages) Charm School: Kimber & Kim-Chi Take Portland. Students will compete against each other for extra credit spot in Portland’s newest weekly competition. (8:00 p.m., Hamburger Mary’s, 19 NW 5th, All ages)

Fruitillion: Glitterfruit debut show! Meet the campy new magical musical duo that is Glitterfruit, with opening performances by Queertet PDX and Oh Cody!

(7:30 p.m., In Other Words, 14 NE Killingsworth, All ages, $5-10 suggested donation)

Jock Strap Karaoke with Theo. (10:00 p.m., Red Cap Garage, 1035 SW Stark, 21+, No cover!)

THURS NOV 3 Survivors Group for LGBT Youth. (4:30 p.m., SMYRC, 3024 NE MLK, Free!)

Queer Polyamory discussion group. (6:308:30 p.m., In Other Words, 14 NE Killingsworth, inotherwords.org) s****t! Episode 10. Portland’s OTHER ‘90s night returns, with Charlie Eon, Matt Mercer, D-Hug, and Kid Whatever. (9:00 p.m., Crush, 1400 SE Morrison, 21+, No cover!)

Bearly Naked Billiards! (9:00 p.m., The Eagle Portland, 835 N Lombard, 21+, No cover!, facebook.com/theeagleportland) Costume MaryOke! Arrive in costume or dig through our box of props (and win a cash prize for the best performance). (9:00 p.m., Hamburger Mary’s, 19 NW 5th, 21+, No cover!)

Hip Hop Heaven. (9:00 p.m., CC Slaughters, 219 NW 3rd, 21+, No cover!)

HOTT MESS, a mashup of Portland Drag Race and Miss Thing. Who’s the hottest mess in town? (10:00 p.m., Red Cap Garage, 1035 SW Stark, 21+, No cover!)

FRI NOV 4

Laura Kemp, Alice Stuart, and Anne Weiss, live in concert. (8:00 p.m., Unity of The Valley, 3912 Dillard Road, Eugene, $15)

The Siren Nation Music and Arts Festival runs Nov. 3-6. Read Just Out’s coverage of this event on p. 36. For more information, and a complete schedule of events, visit sirennation.com.

Underwear Twister. Right hand BLUE as you enjoy an evening full of twists, turns, undies and unmentionables! (8:30 p.m., Crush, 1400 SE Morrison, 21+, $3 cover) Mattachine Returns! John Cameron Mitchell, Amber Martin, PJ DeBoy, and Paul Dawson bring NYC’s legendary dance party back through Portland on their way back home. (9:00 p.m., Branx, 315 SE 3rd, 21+, $5-7)

Film Fridays at Pivot! This week’s film: The International (2009). (7:00 p.m., Pivot, 209 SW 4th, Free, pivotpdx.org) MTF Support Group. For more information please contact sujvary@comcast.net. (7-9:00 p.m., Q Center, 4115 N Mississippi)

Girls Nite Out! DJ Gino Mari spins for the ladies. (10:00 p.m., Chameleon Restaurant & Bar, 21+, $5 cover)

Sadie Hawkins Sock Hop, a benefit for Femme Collective and BUTCH Voices. (9:00 p.m., Saratoga, 6910 N Interstate, 21+, $5-10 sliding scale)

Maricon @ Matador, a night for homos and their homeys. (10:00 p.m., Matador, 1967 W Burnside, 21+)

Burlesque S’il Vous Plait, a classic burlesque show with a contemporary variety twist! (9:00 p.m., Crush Bar, 1400 SE Morrison, 21+, $7, BurlesquePlease.com)

XXXotica. (10:00 p.m., Hamburger Mary’s, 19 NW 5th, 21+, No cover!)

SUN NOV 6 The Adventure Group goes on a challenging steep hike up Dog Mountain. Meet outside Starbucks at Hollywood Fred Meyer. (9:00 a.m., 3030 NE Weidler, call Evan at 503-701-7922)

MANTRAP, with DJ Lunchlady. (9:00 p.m., Red Cap Garage, 1035 SW Stark, 21+) Drinking with the Divas! Join the Divas at Mary’s for a night of drinking and debauchery!

(10:00 p.m., Hamburger Mary’s, 19 NW 5th, 21+, No cover!)

Bottomless Mimosa Brunch! Get ready for that hang-over medicine, Mary! (10:00 a.m.3:00 p.m., Hamburger Mary’s, 19 NW 5th)

Oregon Bears Happy Hour. (5-7:00 p.m., Fox & Hounds, 217 NW 2nd, 21+, No cover!)

SAT NOV 5

SWAGGER all-inclusive dance class! (6:00 p.m., Center Space Studio, 420 SE 6th, $8 drop-in, $35 5 classes, theotherspacellc.com)

The Adventure Group joins the Portland Frontrunners on an Esplanade walk with optional brunch. Meet by Vera Katz’ statue (9:00 a.m., 1 SE Main, adventuregroup.org)

Women in the Woods Talent/No Talent Show! Featuring Lynn Frances Anderson and the Portland Women’s Jug Band. (3:00 p.m., Darcelle XV, 208 NW 3rd, 21+, $10-25)

Northwest Food & Wine Festival. (4-8:00 p.m., Doubletree Hotel, 1000 NE Multnomah, $95, nwwinefestival.com)

Bear Paw Beer Bust! (4-7:00 p.m., Eagle Portland, 835 N Lombard, 21+, oregonbears.org)

Eroticize. What works to communicate with bedroom buddies? How do you take the fumbling out? Learn from your peers in a facilitated group dialogue. (6:00 p.m., Pivot, 209 SW 4th, pivotpdx.org) Q Center presents Dream A Little Dream, the giving campaign kickoff party, featuring DJ Lunch Lady. (7-10:00 p.m., Q Center, 4115 N Mississippi, All ages, $5, pdxqcenter.org) Jaclyn Friedman leads a discussion of women and sexuality, using her new guide, What You Really Really Want: The Smart Girl’s ShameFree Guide to Sex and Safety. (7-9:00 p.m., In Other Words, 14 NE Killingsworth)

Repent! The Church of the Poison Mind welcomes all sinners. (4-9:00 p.m., Silverado, 308 SW 3rd, 21+, Free)

F*cking Perfect! A celebration of self-acceptance and self love, where you get to exorcise your demons and make a splattery mess! (6-9:00 p.m., Embers, 110 NW Broadway, 21+, portlandsisters.org)

Uh Huh Her brings their hotness to town! Read more about the band on pg. 29. (8:00 p.m., Wonder Ballroom, 128 NE Russell, 21+, $15 adv/$17 dos)

HRC presents the third annual Guess Who’s Coming to Dinner?, a fund raiser where you won’t know where you’re going until the night before. (6:30 p.m., $40, contact Jose Rivas at 949-872-8074 or email him at rivasjjp@hotmail.com for more information)

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Go Figaro Epic tale survives the centuries to return for Portland Opera production None of us is likely to remember a time when something as tame as an opera—relatively speaking—might instigate a major political and social upheaval. But without The Marriage of Figaro, some say the French Revolution may never have happened.

Say whaaaaaaat? It’s true. Louis XVI banned the original three-part play, penned in 1784 by Pierre Beaumarchais, much to the chagrin of Marie Antoinette. The spotlight on the shortcomings of rank and privilege infuriated French nobility. When a sprightly young composer named Wolfgang Amadeus Mozart got hold of the play a couple years later, it continued its nerve-racking trajectory, this time as an opera buffa—a comic opera—in four acts that irked the Austrian monarchy.

After hundreds of years and hundreds more spirited productions, Mozart’s The Marriage of Figaro returns with the Portland Opera, what also marks the return of baritone Daniel Mobbs in the title role.

Mobbs, whose recent work with the company includes his 2006 turn as Leporello in Don Giovanni, has garnered acclaim in the part before—The New York Times gushed that his performance was “robust and sassy.” Well now…

Audiences are invited to join general director Christopher Mattaliano after each show for Back Talk Sessions with a variety of freshly off-stage performers, directors and conductors. You can’t get much closer to the action without actually being in the cast.

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A couple of weeks ago, I was asked to speak at a town hall forum on our community’s response to a plan by Seattle-based evangelical mega-church, Mars Hill, to move into Southeast Portland. By now, most of us know what went down: Q Center held talks with church leaders, many in our community expressed outrage over that decision, many others offered support, and I wrote a strongly worded column about evangelicals that thrust me into the middle of the debate, making me an unofficial spokesman for Q Center’s opposition.

Somewhat begrudgingly, I marched down NW 21st Avenue that very wet, very dark Wednesday evening, finding my way to the Process Work Institute, an educational facility specializing in—you guessed it—process work.

If I may offer a crude definition, process work is a fancy way of referring to conflict resolution. (I’m guessing, though, they do much more than that.) Ever flirting with tardiness, I arrived seconds before the event’s scheduled start time; the building, daunting from the outside, looked like something out of a Frank Lloyd Wright retrospective. Or perhaps my nerves made the building grow.

Whenever I’m faced with slightly uncomfortable situations, I can’t keep the sweats at bay, so a public speaking scenario really wreaks havoc on my glands. The night’s facilitators, who moon-

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BY DANIEL BORGEN light as expert therapists, established ground rules from the outset. Since my skepticism was already in overdrive, I cringed a bit when they talked about honoring diversity, respecting difference and acknowledging unspoken feelings (they called them “ghosts”) in the room.

Calm eluded me and, for a time, I felt like I was trapped in an old Saturday Night Live skit, with an exaggerated version of Terry Gross at the helm. Not helping matters were flashbacks to my last true engagement with therapy— failed efforts to salvage a deteriorating relationship. That things devolved even more spectacularly mid-therapy has since made me irrationally wary.

A strange thing happened as our panel finished mapping out positions and the audience began sharing their stories. Not long into the conversation, I stopped caring and noticing I represented the minority view; I stopped worrying about whether talking to Hill people was futile; I didn’t care who was right or wrong (no small feat for me). I listened. Obviously a town hall forum that broaches religion attracts a particular demographic; that night was no exception. But those present weren’t evangelical Hill people (none came); these were gay Christians,

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of Emily Rose, I was awake for three days.

Years dedicated to studying theology and burying my head in texts helps keep most indoctrination at bay, as did a rather lengthy, torrid love affair with Richard Dawkins and atheism. That process (one might call it ongoing) lent to some rather hostile feelings toward Christianity. So it wasn’t much of a stretch for me to realize I have probably done my share to make queer Portland an often frosty place for queer Christians.

I realized, too, how lucky I’ve been. I’ve never had to explain my beliefs to my peers; being generally noncommittal and always exploring is relatively easy, save for the deprogramming part. Gays who believe in God and go to church? They’re treated, often at best, with unwarranted, unfair unease. As I knew throughout my exchange with Q Center, we don’t have to agree about everything to afford each other some respect. So why doesn’t this courtesy extend to gay Christians? Of course it does—and should, even if they don’t drink or go out as much as some of us. Besides, why exclude ourselves from an entirely new dating pool? Who knows what bounty awaits?

Unitarians and congregants from the Metropolitan Community Church—and probably elsewhere. A community I’ve never known well.

As conversations veered away from Mars Hill, participants delved into personal territory—and I noticed a repeating theme. After discussing broadly shared wariness toward fundamentalists, they talked about their experiences as gay Christians, specifically about coming out Christian to other queers. They talked about being judged for their faith, and how judgment occasionally morphed into ridicule—at bars, in social settings, almost everywhere. Already facing a hostile world at large, this passionate, loving, intelligent part of our community faces an impossible conundrum: straddling faith and sexuality.

Like many, I spent my formative years in an intense evangelical situation. Like Rick Perry, I was taught to believe in angels, demons and spiritual warfare—along with a real place called hell reserved for faggots and dykes and lots more end-of-the-world, book-of-Revelationtype stuff. Remember that May 21 Armageddon prediction? Close friends and I spoke in secret about faint, nagging worries that every- SNL jokes aside, I have nothing but love for thing we were ever taught might be right. And the talented people at Process Works. Email the demon stuff ? After I watched The Exorcism daniel@justout.com.

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When it comes to All Hallow’s Eve, Portland is known for going all out, in more ways than one. Club nights, classic frights and straight-up weird sights—even by Stumptown standards—are par for the course come late October. What’s a costumed queer to do?

Fear not, party people. We’ve got your best bets covered, along with a few other local highlights. Turn to p. 32 for the creepiest queer nights around, pp. 21-24 for even more in our Out & About calendar and, as always, head to justout.com for late-breaking events.

Black and White Masquerade Ball: Sat., Oct. 22, 10 p.m. at Local Lounge, 3536 NE Martin Luther King, Jr. Blvd.; $5. Celebrate Halloween in Mardi Gras fashion with Portland Black Pride. Prizes for the best masks, hip-hop from DJ On Air and drink specials; “Black and White Masquerade Ball” on Facebook.

Q Center Presents Mas-Q-Rade: Fri., Oct. 28, 8 p.m. at Crush, 1400 SE Morrison.; $5; 21+. This creepy carnival-themed party features DJ Mikey and guest DJ Tronic, drink specials and more, to benefit Q Center; pdxqcenter.com.

Second Annual Wicked Awesome: Fri., Oct. 28, 8 p.m. at Rotture/Branx, 315 SE Third Ave.; $5 in advance via brownpapertickets.com, $8 at the door; 21+. Count Fagula presents a “Homo Halloween Party and Queer Cover Bands Show” chockablock with beats by Beyonda Doubt, Chelsea Starr, Bruce LaBruiser, Stormy Roxx and more. As for those bands?

Georgina Michelle (think George Michael) boasts members of La Pump, Team Dresch and the Gossip, while Megatalica combines the sonic doom of Metallica and Megadeath—and members of TraumaDom, Pom Pom Meltdown and Gay Deceivers. Other all-star acts will cover Lady Gaga, Joy Division and X. Scandals Dark Fables: Fri., Oct. 28, 10 p.m.1 a.m. and Mon., Oct. 31, 9 p.m.-midnight at Scandals, 1125 SW Stark St.; no cover. Bookend your holiday weekend with giveaways, drink specials and the sounds of DJ Robb; scandalspdx.com.

Hot Flash Inferno Halloween 2011: Sat., Oct. 29, 6-10 p.m. at Cuda Beach Club, 9 NW Second Ave.; $8. It’s ladies fright night with in-

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dividual and group costume contests, “Witches Brew” libations and more; hotflashdances.com.

Creepy Carnal Ball: Sat., Oct. 29, 8-11 p.m. at Crush, 1400 SE Morrison St., $4. Submit to pleasures of the flesh with snake-charming sounds from DJ Aurora and DJ B.L. Zebub, go-go dancers and fortune telling, a “freak show” costume contest and a Groping Booth.

A Bearish Leather Halloween!: Sat., Oct. 29, 9 p.m.-midnight at Eagle Portland, 835 N. Lombard; $5; 21+. Blackout Leather Productions co-sponsors the hirsute hijinks, including drink specials, “gory atmosphere” and “a caged human” (!), plus a costume contest with hefty cash prize; “A Bearish Leather Halloween!” on Facebook.

Casey’s Halloween Costume Dance Party: Sat., Oct. 29, 9 p.m. at Casey’s PDX, 610 NW Couch St.; no cover; 21+. Celebrate the grand reopening of Casey’s downstairs dance floor with a deejay and full bar. The upstairs lounge will feature live music and food, plus drink specials; caseyspdx.net.

“There’s Something About Mary”—A Costume Party!: Sat., Oct. 29, 9 p.m. at Hamburger Mary’s, 19 NW Fifth; 21+. Treat yourself to Deep-Fried Twinkies while enjoying drag performances by DUI (Divas Under the Influence), and vie for cash and honors as Best Mary (any Mary) and Best Hamburger Mary.

Fright Night! A Halloween Bash!: Sun., Oct. 30, 5:30 p.m. dinner, show at 6:45 at Starkey’s Restaurant and Lounge, 2913 SE Stark St.; reservations suggested by calling 503-230-7980. The Stark Raving Queens—Heavenly Bliss, Candi Wrapper and Coco Burnside—plus resident costar Josephine and guest talent present a dinner variety show. Don’t forget your costume.

Homo Hallows Eve: Sun., Oct. 30, 8-11 p.m. at Holocene, 1001 SE Morrison St.; $7 in advance via homohalloween.eventbrite.com, $10 at door; 21+. A “big gay dance party,” to benefit Team Portland 2012 for AIDS/LifeCycle, complete

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Hamburger Mary’s 2011 Haunted Grand Opening drew some eye candy.

with costume contest, DJ Lunch Lady on the decks, raffles and more.

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Vagabond Orchestra’s Fifth Annual Transylvanian Voodoo Ball Halloween Spectacular: Sat., Oct. 29, 9 p.m. (doors at 8); The Star Theater, 13 NW Sixth Ave.; $15$20; rockpaperscissors.biz/go/vagabond. The singing souls in Vagabond celebrate the release of their fourth full-length album with a night of music, dance, ritual and art, plus an interactive Day of the Dead altar and tarot readings.

Viva La Revolucion!—A Celebration of the Day of the Dead: Fri., Oct. 21, 8 p.m. running through Nov. 13; Milagro Theatre, 525 SE Stark St.; $15-$30; milagro.org or 503-2367253. For its 2011 festivities, Milagro honors Las Adelitas, the women of the Mexican Revolution. The event, the longest-running observance of its kind in Portland, features theater, music and dance.

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Dia De Los Muertos! Downtown Parade, Altar Build and Cultural Celebration: Sat., Oct. 29-Sun., Oct. 30; Someday Lounge, 125 NW Fifth Ave.; donations accepted; somedaylounge. com. Someday Lounge will again serve as headquarters for a downtown community celebration, including family-friendly activities, a Sunday afternoon parade stepping off from Pioneer Place Mall and an after-party with food, performances and raffles.

Elsewhere, the Zomb and Monster Pub Crawl hits up downtown watering holes— including Red Cap Garage—beginning at 3 p.m. Saturday, October 22 (“1st Annual Zomb & Monster Pub Crawl 2011” on Facebook).

Get Your Goth On at a pre-Halloween bash and Kickstarter fundraiser with My Summer as a Goth filmmakers Tara JohnsonMedinger and Brandon Roberts (7 p.m. Fri., Oct. 28 at the Hollywood Theatre, 4122 NE Sandy Blvd., $10-$20).

Also that night, the Alberta Rose Theatre hosts Night Flight’s “Fright Night,” a Halloween Circus of apparitions and acrobatics (3000 NE Alberta St., doors at 7 p.m., house at 8, $20 advance, $24 at door, minors okay with parent or guardian, nightflightaerial.com).

The three haunted houses of FrightTown continue “underneath” the Veterans Memorial Coliseum through October 31 (300 N. Winning Way, $20, frighttown.com).

Experience the King of Pop homage Thrill the World at 7 p.m. Saturday, October 29 (Irving Park at Seventh and NE Fremont, thrilltheworld.com). The Portland Zombie Walk, also set to include a “Thriller” dance, begins at noon Sunday, October 30 from Hollywood Vintage (2800 NE Sandy Blvd.).

Celebrate the haunted holiday at a special Portland Saturday Market Sunday, October 30 from 11 a.m. to 3 p.m., when kids and parents alike can participate in a costume parade, contest and other adventures (2 SW Naito Parkway; saturdaymarket.org).

In other all-ages fun, Milepost 5 turns MileGhost 5: The Haunted Manor from 5 to 9 p.m. Monday, October 31 with a spooky movie night, pumpkin patch and two floors of inside/out-of-the-weather trick-or-treating (850 NE 81st Ave., milepostfive.com).

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voices The Rules Of Attraction?

october 21, 2011

I’m attracted to women. I always have been.

Well, when I was a teenager I was attracted to teenage girls and women, but my attractions were always toward females.

I knew this was true, but something told me it wasn’t. The something was my gender. If a male was effeminate, he was supposed to like males. That was the idea I picked up.

That left me in a conundrum. I could be effeminate and like males, which I didn’t, or I could hide my gender and like females, which I did. How did it work?

Not so well. I had girlfriends. Lots of women like sensitive men, and the women I dated seemed to like not having to adhere to gender stereotypes too rigidly, but I spent the relationships cut off from myself. When we made love, I retreated into a place of fantasy. When we talked, I was always hiding secrets.

Now that’s not the case. I’m out and I’m in a loving relationship. In my life, though, people often assume I’m gay, and it bugs me. When I transition, and I’m with my partner, I assume they’ll think I’m lesbian, which bugs me, too.

Actually, sexual categories bug me in general.

I don’t believe I fit in any of them. I’m androgynous. I don’t see myself fitting into the gay/ straight continuum. I also don’t feel like explaining the last five paragraphs to people every time I talk to them.

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BY LEELA GINELLE Sexual categories bug me in general.

I don’t believe I fit in any of them.

In truth, I’ve never had to. Whether I educate people about gender or define the particulars of my sexuality is my business. So why does it bother me?

Perhaps because it was always a mystery to me. When I was closeted, I wouldn’t have called myself “androgynous.” I didn’t know what my gender was. People sometimes assumed I was gay, and I wondered if they were right. I tried to date men a few times, with disastrous results.

Now, for the first time, I know who I am, and I assume no one will understand. Maybe I’m wrong. If I tell friends, I assume they’ll believe me, because they care about and respect me. I can’t imagine anyone at work, or a stranger, ever asking.

The co-workers and the strangers are precisely the people I’m annoyed about, though.

“Don’t try to put me in your categories,” I think, “because your categories are all wrong!”

Am I mad at them, or at me? I don’t like being misunderstood, like I am when people

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except when I want to wear drag and be flamboyant. I’m not male, except when I want to dress male and watch basketball.

Damn, maybe I’m a male drag queen. Or maybe none of those words mean anything.

That’s a comforting thought, except that I’m planning to have an orchiectomy next month and start estrogen, and it would be nice to know “what” I am.

I guess I’m someone who wants an orchiectomy and estrogen. I’d like some electrolysis, too. I always have, really—I just didn’t know how to listen when I told myself as much. It’s hard to hear what you want when you’re telling yourself you don’t want it.

So now I hear myself, and I want to hold myself to every word. “Okay—I’m androgynous. I like women. I want breasts, but not a vagina. Right? Right?!” Yes, but…

That’s the tricky part. Jude Law’s attractive, right? Admitting so doesn’t make me not an androgynous, woman-loving, breast-wanting penis-keeper, does it?

Policing myself this way is exhausting, and I’m ready to stop. I’m surrendering my gender house-arrest ankle bracelet... but I’m keeping the tiara.

think I’m gay, but I’m also embarrassed for having misidentified myself.

What about later? Then, I fear, I’ll be perpetually misunderstood. Who will look at me and think, “There’s an androgynous person who is attracted to females. I can tell just by looking at zim?” Probably no one.

Will that exhaust me? I hope not. A part of me likes the idea of being unique. I’ve hidden myself for so long, it’s fun to have my identity show. But another part dislikes it, and thinks my clothes and hair send messages that are inaccurate.

Sometimes it seems important, other times it doesn’t. When I wrestle with the question, however, it seems really important. That’s when I need the answer, and when anyone who might misperceive me seems villainous.

Most of the time the world seems benign to me now. Unlike when I started my transition, I think of people as tolerant and accepting.

Questions about the future, though, bring back my old fears—and with them, my old hostility.

I want clear boundaries and definitions: “My gender is…” But gender doesn’t seem to work Leela Ginelle is a journalist and writer. Visit that way, which is scary. I’m not a drag queen, zir blog at leelaginelle.com.

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They Only Come Out At Night Uh Huh Her’s sophomore effort Nocturnes sees daylight

It’s been said, mainly by entertainment publicists, that there’s no such thing as bad press. And while that remains a relative observation—excluding, of course, someone’s obituary—the fact remains that well-timed salacious dalliances, transgressions or wardrobe malfunctions in public can prompt a firestorm of social interest far quicker and with more zest than an emailed press release.

Electro-rock duo Uh Huh Her—Camila Grey, 32, and Leisha Hailey, 40 (yes, Alice from The L Word)—are, for better or for worse, now highly aware of this infallible PR rule.

Less than a month after they were booted off a Southwest Airlines flight for betraying the company’s “family-friendly” scripture— they were kissing (gasp!), and were subsequently revealed to be a couple—Uh Uh Her’s sophomore album Nocturnes is finally seeing the light of day, three years after the group’s debut, Common Reaction. It’d be somewhat sad if the timing of their tryst were the only reason for the group’s newfound notoriety.

Luckily, it’s not.

Nocturnes, released October 11 on the band’s own label Plaid Records, bubbles with synthbass warbles, vivid homage to the bleaker bits of the New Wave oeuvre (think Joy Division or the Eurythmics) and danceable moments of brooding pop just melodic enough to lull you into a false sense of security before dropping the full extent of its gloom. It’s the classic symbiosis of a dark foundation given a radio-ready facelift, and it’s immediately alluring.

For Grey (pictured, left), the grim outlook was an easy source to create from, culling as she was from the time during the band’s split from Nettwerk Records just as their debut LP Common Reaction was released in 2008. The bitter taste transferred over to the songwriting for Nocturnes.

“We went on a firing spree and got rid of ev-

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erything old, and wanted a fresh start,” explains Grey. “After an experience like that, it’s trying on you emotionally. We wanted to go back to the basics like, ‘Why do you make music?’”

The duo opted to take its time in recording a new batch of material, renting a studio in Van Nuys, Calif. and laying down the foundation for what was to become Nocturnes over the next seven months. Following the initial recordings, the album sat while Grey and Hailey mulled over how they were going to go about releasing their new music. In the meantime, they decided to hand the recordings over for a bit of collaborative production work by friend Wendy Melvoin, who worked most famously with Prince and the Revolution. What came next was a totally new take on the record Uh Huh Her had been making in the previous months.

“I can get stuck into my own little dreamy, synth-pop world,” ruminates Grey. “I’m super pragmatic and I very rarely go outside my own little box. When we brought Wendy in, she

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challenged me. She brought this really crazy, left-of-center element that I’m not used to, which I loved in the end. Both of our brains ended up working really well together.”

Upon release, Nocturnes topped iTunes’ Top 10 Electronic albums list, providing an interesting read from Grey, who insists she was trying to make a rock record.

“I was going for this super ‘70s, Pink Floyd, big wall-of-sound kind of thing,” explains Grey. “When [Nocturnes] was #1 on the electronic charts, I was like, ‘This is a rock record.’

I don’t know who gets to name everything on iTunes. I think it takes a more organic rock approach than any of the other stuff we’ve ever done. We wanted to be a little grittier than normal—less polished, a little more raw.

That’s how we were feeling from all the crap that was going on.”

However you slice it, the album is garnering near universal praise. Uh Huh Her is headlining the first ever Keep A Breast Tour, zigzagging the continental United States and

Canada to promote awareness and education of breast cancer. The tour benefits the Keep A Breast Foundation, with volunteers from the organization handing out informational pamphlets, pink ribbons, necklaces, bracelets and more. The ladies begin each of their performances on this tour by bringing a breast cancer survivor on stage to share their story with the audience.

“It’s an important thing for young people to hear, and a cool way to do it through music,” says Grey. Both her grandmothers survived breast cancer.

Beyond the Keep A Breast Tour, Uh Huh Her hopes to tour Europe before heading back to the States to do more supplemental touring for Nocturnes. With all that time together, Grey and Hailey, it would seem, have likely not let the unwelcome spotlight of the Southwest debacle thwart their camaraderie (journalists are instructed not to ask about the incident by the group’s tour publicist). In fact, as Grey reports, the couple’s offstage balance seems to translate into the creative process as well.

“The way I see Leisha is that she’s a bunny and I’m a bear,” giggles Grey. “She’s super light and energetic and really positive, and I’m kind of this broody... I tend to go dark.

She really tries to bring out the sweet, light side of me. I don’t know what it is, but from day one when we got together and started writing, it was so easy. It wasn’t ever challenging. It’s not like a Fleetwood Mac kind of thing; there are no huge fights. We complement each other really well.”

The Keep A Breast Tour makes its final stop in Portland Sun., Nov. 6 at the Wonder Ballroom, 128 NE Russell. Jarrod Gorbel opens; 8 p.m. (doors at 7:30); $15 in advance, $17 day of show; 21+; wonderballroom.com.

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We all have our backup plans. Mine involves moving to Sonoma County. It’s not likely to happen, at least anytime soon. I’m happy living in Portland. But if I had to go somewhere new, I’d steer my car toward this wine-soaked county about an hour north of San Francisco. It’s a land of breathtaking vistas with a mild climate, a progressive mindset, exceptional restaurants and proximity to city, coast, mountains and forests. Plus there’s all that wine.

Sonoma County (inside-sonoma.com) is surprisingly large and varied in its terrain.

You may picture shallow, sunny valleys strewn with vineyards when you think of this part of California, and these are certainly a prominent feature, but the county stretches west through the Russian River, home to dense groves of immense redwoods and a small but thriving gay resort scene, and it continues clear to the rugged coast, which is fringed by famously twisting and scenic Highway 1. The county seat, Santa Rosa, isn’t exactly a pulsing metropolis, but this city of 168,000 does offer a nice balance of arts, dining and shopping—and San Francisco is never far.

Also, although it can get nearly as rainy in Sonoma from December through March as it can in the Willamette Valley, fall and spring are considerably drier, and winter highs are typically 10 to 15 degrees warmer than in Portland.

As much as I appreciate Sonoma County, one reason I don’t feel especially compelled to move there is that it’s remarkably easy to visit from Portland—I go once or twice a year. Daily direct flights to Santa Rosa’s small, user-friendly airport take just under two hours, or you can fly into one of the Bay Area’s three airports, which offer a greater variety of flights and typically cheaper fares.

Usually, though, I drive down from Portland.

If this sounds like an ambitious, perhaps even foolish way to get there, it is. But I like the drive and all the wonderful things to see and do along the way, and I’ve developed a favorite road-trip strategy over the years, driving down by way of Interstate 5 and spending a night in Medford or Ashland. I return up the longer but more scenic coastal route, Highway 1 and U.S. 101, overnighting in Mendocino, Eureka, or both, and then cut inland up U.S. 199 at Crescent City, joining I-5 again in Grants Pass. Getting to Santa Rosa—not counting stops—can take as little as 10 hours via I-5 or as long as 14 hours via the coastal route.

I made my most recent road trip in May, driving down with my good friend Pennie Lane, the Sauvie Island resident whom you may know as the real-life character Kate

Above: Tomales Bay Right: Boutiques in downtown Healdsburg

Hudson portrayed in the classic movie Almost Famous. Upon reaching Sonoma the following afternoon, we drove directly to the coast, actually just into the northern tip of Marin County, to spend a night at one of the most idyllically situated inns on the West Coast, a collection of shabby-chic cottages called Nick’s Cove (nickscove.com). The small compound includes a marvelous waterfront restaurant that serves oysters caught right outside the window in Tomales Bay. The following morning we continued north up Highway 1, stopping in the sleepy hamlet of Bodega Bay, which most visitors recognize as the setting of the delightfully creepy Hitchcock thriller The Birds. For a nice vantage point of the bay made so famous in that movie, we drove along Westshore Road for a picnictable lunch at Spud Point Crab Company— you won’t find better clam chowder or sweeter crab-salad sandwiches in the area.

From Bodega Bay we cut inland toward the neighboring gay resort communities of Monte Rio and Guerneville, the heart of the Russian River (russianriver.com) and home to a magnificent preserve of redwoods and hiking trails called Armstrong Woods. A longtime weekend getaway among Bay Area gays and lesbians, the Russian River offers a mix of rustic resorts and upscale inns. One of the swankiest is Applewood Inn (applewoodinn.com), a romantic place to spend the night and also home to a fantastic restaurant and small but excellent spa. The gay-owned Sonoma Orchid Inn (ridenhourinn.com) has lovely rooms and a peaceful setting, while the Highlands Resort (highlandsresort.com) is an affordable collection of cottages nestled under the redwoods. Downtown Guerneville

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has several informal, inviting places to eat (Boon Eat + Drink is particularly good), an atmospheric gay bar called the Rainbow Cattle Company, and a funky little espresso café, Coffee Bazaar, that’s perfect for peoplewatching.

As you head east along Highway 116 from Guerneville, you’ll quickly enter the Russian River wine region, one of the most prestigious in Sonoma. You can spend weeks visiting tasting rooms in the area and never run out of them, but here are a few bits of advice if you only have a day or two for exploring.

First, stop by Sophie’s Cellars in the village of Monte Rio—the knowledgeable staff at this gay-owned wine shop and cheese market can furnish you with maps, advice and even contacts at some of the area’s best wineries.

Also, as you’re heading east out of Guerneville, the first winery you’ll come to is Korbel Champagne Cellars, which is home to a terrific deli-café and is a fun place to kick off your vino tasting.

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mal—the tasting room experiences are more comparable to what you’d find in the Willamette Valley. This is especially true in the AVAs (American Viticultural Areas) that emanate from the town of Healdsburg, 15 miles northeast of Guerneville: the Russian River Valley, Dry Creek Valley and Alexander Valley. You’ll likely have the most fun if you focus on three or four good vineyards each day—my favorites include Porter Creek, Michel-Schlumberger, Merry Edwards, Seghesio and Passalacqua. In the upscale Healdsburg, superb restaurants abound (Cyrus, Bovolo, Barndiva), and you’ll also find some outstanding luxury accommodations, among them Honor Mansion (honormansion.com) and—overlooking the leafy town square—Hotel Healdsburg (hotelhealdsburg.com).

The small city of Santa Rosa lies 15 miles south of Healdsburg and makes a handy base for exploring the entire region. Most of the county’s chain hotels are here—I like the Hyatt Vineyard Creek (vineyardcreek.hyatt. com) downtown, partly because concierge Ramon Meraz knows so much about Sonoma’s wineries, restaurants and gay scene. It’s also an easy walk to several very good restaurants. On my trip with Pennie, we enjoyed a particularly stellar meal of contemporary California-Mediterranean fare at the brand new Petit Syrah Bistro. Nearby, Stark’s Steakhouse has a great food-oriented happy hour, and A’roma Roasters coffeehouse is a favorite hangout of the city’s LGBT community. On this most recent trip, we stayed east of downtown at Flamingo Resort (flamingoresort. com), a reasonably priced, retro-hip hotel that’s been handsomely renovated and has rooms set around a fabulous pool.

From Santa Rosa you’re close to several other appealing towns. You can drive southeast along Highway 12 through the Sonoma Valley, a swath of vineyards that includes some of the most storied wineries in the country, among them St. Francis, Kunde and Benziger. Be sure to spend time strolling around the historic square in the actual town of Sonoma as well as the village of

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Glen Ellen, both of which abound with tony boutiques and fine restaurants. And up in Kenwood, the Vineyards Inn is one of the county’s most dedicated practitioners of farm-to-table cooking, with a menu focused on Spanish recipes.

And then there’s Mendocino (visitmendocino.com), the stunning coastal village that stood in for the fictitious Maine town of Cabot Cove in Murder, She Wrote and still feels like the sort of folksy, enchanting hamlet you might see Jessica Fletcher snooping around (albeit without frequent murders).

Pennie and I spent a night here on our way driving back up the coast—it’s just a 90minute, beautiful drive from northern Sonoma County. Our room at the handsome Little River Inn (littleriverinn.com) looked clear across a rolling lawn and Van Damme Beach to the Pacific. For dinner that night, we noshed on burgers and an artisanal cheese plate at the dapper MacCallum House Inn. If you’re still unconvinced of the wisdom in driving 600 miles from Portland to Sonoma and home again, consider the convenience of hauling several cases of wine with you back to Oregon, which Pennie and I did on this trek. I’m already running low, and plotting my next adventure.

Read more about the frequent travels of Andrew Collins at thecountyhunter.com and gaytravel.about.com.

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Treat: Jams to follow the performances by DJs Roy G Biv and Mr. Charming, a photo booth from zinesters Hard Times Press and more.

• Blow Pony vs. Night Ov The Living Homos: Sat., Oct. 22 at 9 p.m.; Rotture/Branx, 315 SE Third Ave.; $5; 21+ Brace yourselves for a nightmare of epic proportions: appearances by San Francisco’s Lil Miss Hot Mess, Anna Conda, Aurora Switchblade and the return of Double Duchess, plus

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C.C. Slaughters 3 219 NW Davis St. • 503‑248‑9135 A great hangout... come feel like “Norm” or shake your booty all night long to the best sound, lights and laser shows in Portland.

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Search the respective event names on Facebook for additional details. And for more grave goings-on, turn to p. 27, and Out & About on pp. 21-24. Season’s treatings.

• Peep Show presents Hard Times Halloween with Little Tommy Bang Bang: Fri., Oct. 21 at 9:30 p.m.; Red Cap Garage, 1035 SW Stark St.; no cover; 21+ Jeepers creepers, kiddies, how’s about a cabaret show to ease into an evil week? The bloody

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BY BENNIE TAN While I was working the door of an Oregon Bears event recently, an out-of-town Bear couple walked in with all of their newmeat-on-the-block glory. I introduced myself and gave them a warm welcome.

Then the inevitable line of questioning commenced—“Is this your boyfriend?” one of them asked while pointing to the Bear next to me. I told them no, he was just another board member. “Oh, where is your boyfriend? Is he at home?” No, I am single, I explained, feeling slightly chagrined because I knew what was coming. Then—as I anticipated—came the zinger. With pity oozing from his brown eyes and a you-poorthing tone in his voice, he posed the question, “Oh, why are you single?”

I used to get really offended and riled up when people asked me the why-are-yousingle question. My view on the matter is, much like my religious beliefs, why I am single is nobody’s business. But then again, can you blame people for wanting to know?

Society and the media drill into our soft, malleable brain cells that to be successful in life, one must be in a relationship. It seems when it comes to mainstream media, couples are in, singletons are out.

I don’t usually blame the media for society’s ills, but I do believe it is partly responsible for how we view single people. Be it books, music or movies and TV shows— such as Sex and the City, Bridget Jones’s Diary and, most recently, Bridesmaids—coupledom is celebrated while singlehood is painted in a sad and pathetic (albeit often humorous) light. Even if a series starts off with a protagonist who is single, by the end he or she has found a mate for life. Toxic bachelorette Carrie Bradshaw eventually wound up with Mr. Big; Bridget Jones, in all of her chubby, neurotic glory, found her Mr. Darcy; and even Annie from Bridesmaids literally rode off into the sunset (okay, if you want to get technical, it was night) in the handsome cop’s car.

If you’re still unconvinced the media is skewed against singletons, consider this: When was the last time you saw a show or movie depicting a carefree, stable and genuinely happy single main character?

The media focuses on how dreadful it is to be solo. And the kicker is these individuals are single because there is something inherently wrong with them. Carrie Bradshaw was in one failed relationship after another because she was a commitment-phobe.

When was the last time you saw a show or movie depicting a carefree, stable and genuinely single happy main character?

Bridget Jones was alone due to her neuroses and low self-esteem. Annie was single because she failed in her business venture and her relationship went south along with it.

I understand no one wants to watch a boring movie or TV series. On the contrary, we want to escape from the doldrums of reality. We want fun and fantasy—we want the big fairy-tale happy ending. But wouldn’t it be nice for once to see single folks portrayed as happy, well-adjusted individuals and not as some flawed character waiting to be saved by a relationship?

Here’s the truth—I am currently single because I choose to be. It is my choice and my choice alone. I’m not single because I’m crazy (granted, I may be a little nuts), ugly (my face has yet to induce spontaneous puking), fat (okay, I’m a little chubby but the Bears like it), or undesirable. Hey, I’ve got game and I get enough coitus. To be honest, getting sex is not all that difficult, especially between horny, gay men—it’s always been my opinion that fucking is easy but being in love is an entirely different matter.

Recently, I’ve had a few suitors come acalling, but after several failed relationships (three of them with the same person), I am biding my time and waiting for the right Cub or Bear to come along. Thing is, I’ve seen way too many couples who are in loveless, codependent relationships just because they are afraid to be alone and of being pitied or looked down upon for being single. I am not ready to settle and I refuse to accept second or third best only to realize years into a relationship this man was not meant for me.

Certain individuals have called me bitter and jaded because of my views. While I may be bitter, I am definitely not jaded. Look it up, there is a difference. In fact, I very much look forward to the day my hirsute Prince Charming comes riding in on a white horse and sweeps me off my feet. Until then, I shall remain single and fabulous—exclamation point for emphasis!

Yes, this article’s title was purloined from an episode of Sex and the City. If you are single and fabulous, feel free to commiserate with Bennie at pdxpandacub@gmail.com.

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Mirror, Mirror Kate Clinton turns tears to laughter with poignant reflections

By Erin Rook

Talking to political humorist and lesbian Kate Clinton, one thing is clear—life is seriously funny. Though our conversation is peppered with laughter, the heaviness of the subject matter prompts the 63-year-old New Yorker to remind me that her comedy show really is funny.

“Well that sounds like a lot of fun in a show, doesn’t it?” Clinton quips after describing one of the themes in her current show, The Glee Party. “But actually people do laugh. Everyone’s just jamming their drink straws in their eyes.

But it’s fun. They do laugh.”

Clinton’s brand of political humor is so funny (and so sad) because it’s true. In the 30 years she’s been performing nationally, Clinton has honed an uncanny ability to provide sharp commentary on current events and inspire audiences to action, all in the guise of entertainment.

In addition to taking the stage as a comedian, Clinton has also appeared on film, Broadway and television; written three books (I Told You So, What the L?, Don’t Get Me Started); contributed to The Progressive, The Advocate and Bilerico Project; and provided political commentary on CNN, ABC News and The Rachel Maddow Show (MSNBC).

“Kate Clinton has held the mirror that reflects every single issue that has faced us for the last 25 years. We’ve laughed with her, we’ve cried with her, and we’ve been changed by her,” Kate Kendell, executive director of the National Center for Lesbian Rights, said in 2006.

Clinton talked to Just Out last month in advance of her tour’s October 29 stop in Portland. She reflected on Tea Party antics, women in comedy and the role of anger in revolution.

Just Out: How did the current tour come about? And what does it have to do with the Tea Party?

Kate Clinton: Since the economy crashed and all kinds of things have been happening, people are kind of depressed. So I thought,

what better antidote to that than Glee? Everybody loves that show and I think they love that show because problems are solved in 42 minutes or less and, for no apparent reason, people break into song and dance.

It’s a happy show and I think that’s important. And it’s a little Tea Party because I think they have that same sort of quality.

The tea baggers think ... everything should be solved in two years or less. And you ask them questions and they break into these song-and-dance routines. And you’re like, “What are you talking about?”

JO: Some say we should ignore Michele Bachmann, that talking about her gives her power.

How do you think we should respond?

Clinton: I think that you have to stand up to bullies.

You can’t just let them say things and not be challenged. I think that’s a mistake when we don’t [challenge them]. I do think that the 24/7 news cycle and constant internet feeds give it an importance that it doesn’t really have. When you think about the fact that Michele Bachmann won the Iowa straw poll—you would have thought she became president that day. And it was only 4,700 votes. There’s a certain kind of annoying inflation of things that really aren’t that important. Inflation like this is really an insane minority and not a huge movement.

JO: Speaking of gays and Republicans, what you think about GOProud’s new divain-residence, Ann Coulter?

Clinton: I admire gay people who are in the Catholic Church and are trying to transform it from within. It’s nothing I could ever do—I don’t behave well in those situations— but I really admire their willingness to just go toe-to-toe with the opposition in that organization, in that church. And for the same reason I admire people who are present in the Republican Party, LGBT people—not really, just some Gs, but whatever—who are working from within to transform the Republican Party. david rodgers

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“I remember performing in L.A. at The Improv in the early ’80s and the manager saying to me after, ‘You can’t talk about gay stuff here. It just doesn’t go over,’ and going, ‘Well, all right.’ And then 20 years later doing a show there and, not the same guy, but a guy saying to me, ‘I thought you were going to do more gay stuff.’”

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JO: You’ve talked about your admiration for Jon Stewart and Stephen Colbert. Why do you think it is always men in their positions and not women?

Clinton: I had a theory once that estrogen is only on during the daytime and then after 9 o’clock you can have this raging testosterone, and only testosterone. It mirrors pretty much what’s happening in the comedy clubs.

And I’m glad they’re there. I think they’re great and very funny and I don’t buy something about “women don’t have a sense of humor.” We do. We just don’t have the power to get it on the air. If we had the power we could flood the channels every night and it would be a women’s point of view.

JO: How has the show gone over in Provincetown and how do you expect it will go over in less gay parts of the country?

Clinton: It’s very weird. I sometimes look at my show and I think, oh my god, I haven’t talked about anything gay. I remember performing in L.A. at The Improv in the early ’80s and the manager saying to me after, “You can’t talk about gay stuff here. It just doesn’t go over,” and going, “Well, all right.”

And then 20 years later doing a show there and, not the same guy, but a guy saying to me, “I thought you were going to do more gay stuff.” That changed... I think straight people are not as—what [writer] Paul Monette used to say was—homo-ignorant, they just know. I think that’s great. I have always thought that what the job of the comedian is—gay, straight, whatever—is to comment on what you’re going through, and I’ve never denied that I’m a lesbian. It’s been very in-

teresting and I’ve always talked about it. You know originally it was a great gimmick and nobody stole my material. After 30 years of doing it and 30 years of really great organizing and courageous people coming out, it’s a changed audience.

JO: What are the themes that come up in your show?

Clinton: I’ve noticed this summer that there’s, in the context of so many liberatory movements in the Mideast or Midwest, people just standing up. In that context of liberation, I’ve been talking about how the LGBT movement is proudly in that context… A lot of really great radical LGBT people kicked the doors open and a lot of conservative people came through and started yelling at the people who kicked the doors down: “You kicked those doors down, damn it!” We have to guard against losing that radical energy and the part of liberation and the movement that works, [which] is really hooking up with other movements.

JO: What’s your muse?

Clinton: I do think anger is a big part of it... You say things that people are thinking and there’s—I felt it certainly after 9/11 and after invading Iraq—there’s a way this summer I feel like you can’t release it, it’s really deep. People are afraid. They’re freaked.

Their freaking freak is on.

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Sing Loud, Sing Proud Siren Nation gives voice to female artists

In a time when men’s voices still dominate the arts and media, Portland’s Siren Nation Festival provides a platform and a megaphone for female artists to share their work and get paid for it.

“I had been in booking for 10 years and I think the music business as a whole is a very male-dominated business,” says Siren Nation co-founder December Carson, pointing out that most bookers and talent buyers for venues and festivals are men. “It shows that there’s a diminished women’s voice... I didn’t feel like they were being promoted in the way I felt they should be promoted.”

Like Olympia’s Ladyfest and the Michigan Womyn’s Music Festival, Siren Nation highlights female artists. But unlike some festivals, Siren Nation doesn’t exclude anyone based on gender or sexual identity.

“What I would sense are bigger sexuality issues involved in a lot of the festivals is not an issue for us. We really focus on women making art,” Carson says. “Men are welcome.

We’re trying to be as inclusive as possible.”

The festival’s programming reflects the push for inclusiveness, offering a wide range of opportunities for new and established artists and audiences alike.

For the event’s fifth anniversary, Carson says she wanted to “bump up” the music portion by bringing together festival alums with first-timers at the top of their game, such as Kimya Dawson (The Moldy Peaches) and Corin Tucker (Sleater-Kinney).

“I really pushed for the music to be wide reaching,” Carson says. “I am really looking forward to the all-ages show with Kimya Dawson, with STLS and Rock Camp for Girls [band Sassfest],” Carson says.

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Music has been a part of the fest since it began in 2006, but new elements each year have added to Siren Nation’s steady crescendo.

The 2011 women’s art festival will feature a film program in addition to music, visual art, workshops, lectures and an art and craft sale.

“Every year we try to add something to the festival and something to the organization we’ve never done before,” Carson says. “This year the festival has, for the first time, a really diverse film festival portion.”

In the past, the event spotlighted a few individual selections, but will this year feature three days of film curated by Erin Donovan, who owns documentary distribution company A Million Movies a Minute. Carson first partnered with Donovan for a screening of Radical Act during January’s Reel Music Film Festival and was so happy with the collaboration she asked Donovan to join Siren Nation’s board.

“I came to a meeting and realized there was a void in the film programming. No one was taking that on directly,” Donovan says. “I sort

Rock Camp for Girls band Sassfest performs at the all-ages show.

Soviet pilot-turned-schoolmistress, the program will feature a rare documentary by better-known filmmaker husband Elem Klimov.

“His documentary was never properly released,” Donovan says. “This is the best way to see the film.”

Sunday’s lineup includes a diverse selection of films made by women—among them Eve and the Fire Horse, an “incredibly lovely story” Donovan says “will be appealing to every single person in the world”—as well as a presentation by stop-motion animator Suzanne Twining (Coraline).

“I’m really excited about [the film festival],” Carson says. “We’ll have three days of films about women artists who are really historymaking that are also by women artists.”

The fine arts exhibit will display works based on the theme “What comes after yes,” which Carson says was inspired by all the hard work that comes after an artist says “yes” to a project.

“What I really like about the art show is it’s a mix of really established artists and people who have never shown before,” Carson says.

It all goes back to Siren Nation’s aim to inspire and empower women to create art by highlighting their achievements through performance, exhibition and educational opportunities.

It’s a mission Carson hopes to promote with greater frequency by eventually offering year-round workshops, making inroads into schools and sponsoring artists in residency.

“I think there is a lot of interest in bringing marginalized voices to the center, but not enough events in Portland that really centralize it on an ongoing basis,” Donovan says.

of appointed myself the film programmer and just took over. They were really supportive.”

The Siren Nation Film Festival, held at the Mission Theater, is Donovan’s first as a curator, but she says her work as a film reviewer keeps her apprised of trends as well as gaps in representation.

“I really just wanted to get a snapshot of what I think is happening right now with filmmaking,” Donovan says. “People are telling really interesting stories in ways people haven’t seen done before.”

For opening night Thursday, November 3, Donovan chose Hit So Hard: The Life and Near Death of Patty Schemel, which offers a candid look at the band Hole through the experiences of its drummer. Schemel and producer Christina Soletti will both attend the screening.

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Rainy Saturday night, and the tiny gallery is packed. I sit in the back row of chairs, eating cheese and crackers, waiting for Naming Names to start their show. A red-haired woman in a tight black dress beside me whispers conspiratorially. “The Calvinists are coming to town,” she hisses. “They moved into that castle building in the Southeast.” She pauses to gulp her wine. “We’re planning a protest, though,” she continues. “A demonstration against the anti-gay church—a kiss-in to show them whose town this is!”

“Wow,” I say quietly, “I just… I hate that.”

“I know!” she exclaims. “What makes them think that they can come here and spread their anti-gay religion?”

“No,” I reply, “the protest. I don’t support that.”

The woman and I look at each other for a moment, great distance between us. Then, Emily brings her violin to her chin and the room goes dark. A projector whirs, shoots forth light onto the screen above the stage—the image of a woman dancing, billowing curtains, the sea.

Racquel glides to the front of the gallery in a white jumpsuit, sits at the piano. “All I need are my bones, and my bones, and no skin to cover them,” she croons. I close my eyes.

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BY NICK MATTOS and dependable, like death and taxes and red wine in plastic cups at gallery parties. If I hate someone it is inevitable that I will see them everywhere—their name a blue link in the comments of a Facebook post, their eyes across a crowded bar, their profile in the window of a bus chugging past me on Hawthorne Boulevard. If I disparage a group (and God knows I’ve talked my share of shit) it is worth betting that, within a decade, I’ll briefly flirt with membership in it.

After many years of wondering why the hell this happened, I came to a hypothesis as to the cause: self-hatred. Somewhere in my past I developed an inner voice that sounds like me and, at my worst moments, reminds me that I am not good enough, that I am ugly and sinful and weird and crazy and in all ways bad. Coincidentally, the people and groups I have hated have tended to be those who, each in their own unique way, asserted that I am not redeemed, that I’m weird and crazy and sinful and isolated—exactly the messages that appear in my negative self-talk. In a very real way, I hate things when they sound too much like me.

“Bones loathe marrow,” Racquel sings plaintively over the piano and violin. “Do bones

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at catching myself in my hatred, still developing the ability to parse out the difference between what actually happened and the meaning I assigned to it. However, here in this gallery, I can see the difference between a church that takes a strict view on scripture coming to my town and the anxieties it provokes: Will it change the city?

Could it impinge upon my rights? What if I’m actually going to hell? Am I really this bad? I can also see the difference between my fellow gays loudly crying out against the church and my anxieties: Is this just liberal parochialism? Do gay people really need to fight this battle right now? Is anyone willing to coexist? Am I just too weird for gay culture? I can even see the difference between disagreeing with the red-haired woman beside me, and hating her for thinking differently.

“And can’t we decide when we’re caught in the middle of, wrought, bought into the bitter of,” Racquel belts beneath the projector screen.

I turn to the woman beside me. “I fully respect your right to voice what you think is right,” I whisper to her, “even if it’s different than what I think. There’s enough space in this world for both of us.” She grins back in agreement as Racquel hits the last note. In unison, the audience applauds, smiling.

loathe marrow?”

Perhaps this is why the queers of Portland find themselves so stricken by the threat of a socalled “anti-gay church” establishing itself in our city. A politically conservative friend of mine also asserts that this is why the Right’s doctrine that one should pull themselves up by their bootstraps so thoroughly riles up my fellow liberals. In such religious and political rhetoric, we hear the message that temporal and spiritual salvation are in fact accessible things, that they have been within our reach the whole time if only we exerted ourselves in pursuit of them.

That we, too, could be prosperous in the present and secure in the future, if only we are willing to play by the rules they set forth. Mixed with the self-loathing part of ourselves, this message twists into a screed that it is not the system that fails, it’s us—we ourselves that don’t stack up to the promises. If only we weren’t so bad at playing the game, so apt to fail, so bad, we could be redeemed with them, too.

“Go ahead and count our bones, baby, add them up—I’ll become whole for you. What will you do for me?”

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We haven’t wanted Jeff to grow up in a gay ghetto, so we’ve exposed him to a broad range of people and activities, including sports and stock-car racing.

In the last year or so, Jeff has become quite nellie. He flounces, he lisps, he wears scarves on his head, and he watches Mommie Dearest over and over… absolutely do nothing positive for your little nellie’s self-esteem.

You can try to beat the boy into butchness, send him to a military school where they’ll do it for you, or confine him to his room every time he acts faggy. Or, you can do what the best straight parents ultimately do: Accept the fact that you have a lovely poofter for a son, and be grateful for his creativity, sensitivity and sense of style.

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—Confused Dear Confused: First you say, “I love this woman!” Then you wonder if deeper love would make you feel more passionate, even though your tepid response is not specific to this relationship. Does the obstacle to your passion feel physical? Emotional?

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You seem to have trouble identifying your feelings, or at least being honest about them.

Therapy may help, but you should also rule out a physical problem. If you do nothing, you may lose your relationship, in which case Ms. Behavior would bet that lukewarm sex follows you like a bad dream to the next one. Or, to be less dramatic about it, you may find that you just have a low libido.

But if you are indeed capable of erotic ecstasy, then mediocre sex is a big drag. Ms. Behavior would suggest that you try everything—psychotherapy, an exorcism, prayer, pelvic exercises. This is not just to please your girlfriend, but so that you can see how magnificent unbridled passion will feel to you. Even if it’s just for a moment or two.

Dear Ms. Behavior: For the past three years, I’ve been in my first lesbian relationship. I love this woman!

But she wants to make love more than I do and feels that I do not want her like she wants me. Now I worry that I am undersexed or inhibited. Everything else between us is good.

In a previous relationship with a man, I also didn’t feel passionate, but I stayed with him because I loved him.

I do want her, but not with the frequency or passion she needs and wants. When we have sex (about once a week), it is intense and exciting. Some negative factors influence our lives Meryl Cohn is the author of Do What I Say: together, which affect me. But should those Ms. Behavior’s Guide to Gay and Lesbian other problems reduce my passion? It doesn’t Etiquette. Email msbehavior@aol.com.

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