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Winter conditions can’t stop the Rhode Island Jewish community

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Yehuda Yaakov makes a point during his speech Jan. 11.

Consul General rallies the Rhode Island crowd

BY FRAN OSTENDORF fostendorf@jewishallianceri.org PROVIDENCE – Israel is a diverse country and that must be a focus for the country’s long-term success. That’s what Yehuda Yaakov, the Israeli Consul General to New England, reminded more than 200 people Jan. 11 at the Dwares JCC.

“Our civilians are Muslim, Christian, Jews, Druze and a whole host of others in our multicultural mosaic,” he said. Twenty percent of the Israeli population is not Jewish, according to Yaakov.

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With winter seeming to begin later than ever, the Jewish community in Rhode Island “bundled” together to help those in need on Super Sunday, Jan. 11.

Rhode Islanders answered the call to help ensure a strong Jewish future. More than 60 volunteers gathered to raise $97,108, propelling the 2015 Annual Campaign past the $2.5 million mark. The volunteers thanked donors for their past support and were able to reach out, engage and bring many more people into the giving community.

In the spirit of a new year, the community was reminded to give back, thus creating a communal atmosphere.

The day began with a busy

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Cara Mitnick makes some phone calls. morning. Many of the volunteers represented many of the agencies and synagogues in the community. Babysitting was available all day and children’s activities kept families busy.

Continuing an annual tradition, religious school and Jewish day

school students brought in decorated tzedakah boxes fi lled with coins. The Cohen School from Torat Yisrael in East Greenwich won the contest with a beautiful box and a total of $72. The SUPER SUNDAY | 15

Rhode Island faith leaders call for renewed commitment to fight poverty

BY MARTY COOPER mcooper@jewishallianceri.org PROVIDENCE – On Jan. 7, leaders representing virtually every faith in Rhode Island marched from Gloria Dei Lutheran Church on Frances Street to the State House. The uphill march, to the beat of

drums in cold weather, was meant to symbolize the day-today struggle to get by.

At the State House, the sound of four shofars called the faith community and Rhode Island’s elected officials to work together to reduce poverty. Blowing the Shofars were: Rabbi Alan Flam of the Swearer Center

for Public Service, Brown University; Rabbi Wayne Franklin of Temple Emanu-El; Rabbi Aaron Philmus of Temple Torat Yisrael; and Abigail Sherwood, a member of Temple Beth-El. This was the seventh year that a vigil has been held at the start of a legislative session. Much has been done to help Rhode

Islanders living at or below the safety net. Yet, organizers of the vigil, the Rhode Island Interfaith Coalition to Reduce Poverty, said there is still much more that has to be done and implored legislators to renew the state’s commitment to fighting poverty in Rhode Island.

More than 200 members of the Rhode Island Interfaith Coalition and its supporters turned out to issue a prayer for legislators that asked for leaders to govern with wisdom and compassion, as they make decisions in the new year, and to remember those most VIGIL | 2

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vulnerable. During the vigil, more than 40 faith leaders called out the names of all elected officials including President Obama, the Rhode Island congressional delegation, the governor, members of the executive offices, the general assembly as well as city and town mayors.

Readers included Flam, Rabbi Andrew Klein of Temple Habonim in Barrington, Rabbi Sarah Mack, president of the Rhode Island Board of Rabbis and a rabbi at Temple Beth-El, and Philmus.

Gov. Gina Raimondo, in her first full day in office, spoke about the hard work Rhode Islanders and the state government must do to assist the

The Rt. Rev. W. Nicholas Knisely, bishop of the Episcopal Diocese of Rhode Island, gave the keynote address and spoke about the promise to eradicate poverty and the challenges in such an endeavor. “It is a challenge because we know that there will always PHOTOS | RI COALITION FOR THE HOMELESS, KAREN JEFFREYS be more to do in finding the causes of pov- Clergy marched from Gloria Dei Lutheran Church on Francis Street erty in this state and to the State House in force to remind elected officials that everyone eliminating them. It is must work together to reduce poverty. a promise because, as all people of faith recognize, tax credit rate which is the low- home; adequate food and nutriwe can only truly serve God est in New England and why tion; equal access to affordable by serving the weakest and the so many Rhode Islanders are and quality health care; equal most vulnerable.” waiting for foundational work- and quality education for all Maxine Richman, board force programs. children; decent work with admember of “How can it be,” said Rich- equate income. the Jewish man, “that Rhode island, with The Rhode Island Interfaith Council of a very large service sector Coalition to Reduce Poverty Public Af- and struggling middle class, was formed in the summer of fairs and co- has only a 10 percent earned 2008 as part of a national efchair of the income tax credit while our fort, “Fighting Poverty with Interfaith Co- neighbors in Massachusetts Faith,” endorsed by 40 national alition, wel- earned income tax credit is 15 faith-based organizations and comed those percent, and Connecticut’s is co-chaired by Catholic Chariattending the 20 percent? And how can it be ties USA, the Jewish Council vigil. Before that 1,300 people are on a wait- for Public Affairs and the Nai nt ro duci n g ing list for foundational work- tional Council of Churches.

Gov. Raimon- force programs?”

The goal of the national project do, Richman The Interfaith Coalition is to elevate the issue of poverThe Jewish community was well represented called on the wants to make sure that all ty. The premise of the national state to do Rhode Islanders are given the effort is based on the belief that at the vigil including rabbis, community more to erad- same basic rights regardless poverty can be solved with poleaders and members of the Alliance. icate poverty of their race, religion or eco- litical leadership powered by a needy. This included areas of in Rhode Island as well as help nomic status. The annual vigil citizen movement. human services and jobs. Sen- people near, or below the safety is meant to raise awareness ate President M. Teresa Paiva net. Richman asked the state among legislators that every MARTY COOPER is the ComWeed and House Speaker Nich- legislators to answer questions Rhode Islander shall have: A munity Relations Director for olas A. Mattiello also spoke. concerning the earned income decent, safe and affordable the Jewish Alliance.

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Liliana Fijman’s work is on display at gallery (401).

Liliana Fijman defies definition, “I am large. I contain multitudes.” – Walt Whitman “Alive” at gallery (401)

BY IRINA MISSIURO imissiuro@jewishallianceri.org Liliana Fijman is an artist, although she would probably cringe even at that broad definition. She thinks that artists are branded as eccentric and doesn’t want to be pigeonholed.

Instead, she is looking to maintain her integrity and break stereotypes. “Appearances are misleading. I’m a rebel. I stay on the fringes.” Her personal philosophy is applicable to her work.

Spellbound by the idea of defying expectations, Fijman creates art in a metaphorical way, believing that nature’s qualities are reminiscent of human behavior. After her husband’s death 14 years ago, she found solace in transforming dead plants into images – two- and three-dimensional pieces. She soaks fibers in water to print, cut, emboss, shred or sculpt with the resulting textures.

When Fijman talks about an inky toothpick that doesn’t sink, one gets a sense of her deep identification with materials. She’s fascinated by the fact that our idea of liquid is challenged – after all, when we think of water, we don’t imagine writing in it. Breaking that preconceived notion is thrilling to her. Hence, Fijman resists certainty. Just as life is complicated – with its ambiguous feelings and interactions – so is art. Because it defies labels and enclosures, both figurative and literal ones, she says, “I hate frames. The frame cannot become the piece.” Instead, she prints her photos on metal to allow the work to stand on its own.

One advantage of art over reality is its ability to achieve seeming flawlessness. Fijman says, “You can make perfect circles, depending on how you touch the surface of the water.”

In life, it’s harder to enclose a person in a circle. Fijman seems to inhabit a set of perpetually interlocking spheres.

Among them are the dichotomies of haves and have not’s, photography and paper arts, civil society and Judaism, foreignness and citizenship, doubt and religion, free-spiritedness and perfectionism.

She struggles to keep her individuality within an environment that is not entirely different and yet not wholly embraceable. In her art, she prefers to work in contrasts – light and dark, strength and fragility, staging and spontaneity – and to find the middle somewhere in the process.

Born in the countryside of Cordoba, Argentina, Fijman grew up playing in nature with her two older brothers. She is at ease on dirt roads and farm land, not streets and asphalt.

Knowing no restrictions, she played in the mud, competing with friends for the best land-

If you would like to see Fijman’s exhibit, “Alive” will be displayed at the gallery (401), Dwares JCC, through Feb. 20.

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Liliana Fijman scape, created using tree roots, rocks and earth. Fijman believes that she had an inclination toward art at birth, “My art came with me.” She explored that interest by taking photographs, a hobby she pursued at the University of Cordoba, an education she completed at Rhode Island College and, later, continued at the Rhode Island School of Design.

Fijman shares that those initial university years were tough; the repressive government caused many to engage in uprisings and protests against inequality and the establishment. Possessing a progressive point of view was dangerous in a world defined by class struggle. “The Argentinean society was in shambles. I didn’t want to disappear,” she says, referring to those who were abducted and killed.

Growing up without any religious education, Fijman still saw herself as a Jew. Her grandparents’ roots lay in Russia and Poland. She remembers them speaking Yiddish and has fond memories of celebrating Jewish holidays. Conflicted about her stance and eager to learn about her background, in the ’60s she decided to resolve her identity in Israel, embarking on a yearlong trip to study Hebrew, history and the Bible in Mahon.

One of 50 students from Latin America, Fijman traveled the country and stayed on a kibbutz. The experience resulted in her becoming a Zionist.

In the early ’70s, she and her husband immigrated to the United States and had two boys.

In addition to adapting to foreign customs, a new language and different social norms, Fijman had to confront religion.

While she identified as a supporter of Israel, she saw herself as a non-believer. Because the ability to interpret the Torah appeals to her, she respects the study of it. Yet, she takes issue with being told exactly what the text means. She says, “My iden-

“Alive,” a 5 by 1-inch Mulberry handmade paper on aluminum wire. tity was fraught with paradoxical elements.”

Fijman resolved to maintain physiological and emotional stability through her art. She says that, when she creates, she

abandons all logic, which, in her opinion, is an interruption that only frustrates the artistic process. Fijman chooses to act on intuition, the only path to true expression that she trusts.

Through the path of creativity, she is able to awaken and nurture the child in her. Fijman’s work is a revelation of that youthful energy.

When she is creating art, she engages in a constant dialogue with her impulses. At times, she doesn’t know her aim but is open to discovering something that speaks to her along the way.

Drawn to monochromatic images that bring her back to photography, – a major influence in her work – she is choosy about her materials. Fijman says that it took her four months to find a way to convey air for “Breath on the Line,” the artwork she exhibited at a biennial in Mexico. While she quickly found a thin wire to symbolize a line, to illustrate air was more difficult.

After consulting a dictionary, she was able to crystallize the image of air and what it stands for – life – within an environmental context.

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Miriam Plitt inducted into Pawtucket Hall of Fame

BY IRINA MISSIURO imissiuro@jewishallianceri.org On Oct. 28, 2014, Miriam R. Plitt, along with three other women, became a member of the Pawtucket Hall of Fame. The committee recognized her for her volunteering efforts in improving the lives of the town’s residents. Plitt is proud and thrilled to receive the award for which she was nominated by Robert Metivier, former mayor of Pawtucket and past colleague (they worked together in the financial industry). When Metivier had suggested that he’d like to present Plitt’s candidacy to the panel, her reaction was, “You gotta be kidding, Bob! I don’t do these things for awards. I enjoy them.” He argued that she really deserved the recognition and pursued the matter for two years, until it came to fruition.

The recognition dinner was a very emotional event for Plitt.

It wasn’t until she walked into

a room of more than 200 people and saw all the city and state officials, her colleagues, neighbors and friends that she understood the importance of the evening. “It hit me. I was overwhelmed,” she says. The fact that her two sons arrived from Massachusetts and California to be present at the ceremony made it even more special. Listening to speakers recite her accomplishments was exhilarating, “I loved it. I really did!” she gushes.

If you take a look at the boards on which Plitt serves, as well as at her extensive volunteer work, you’ll understand why Metivier was adamant she be inducted. A marketer prior to retirement, she now spends her time as executive director of the Arts Council of Pawtucket. Also, at Pawtucket History Research Center, she preserves Elizabeth Johnson’s collection of documents that reveal the nature of the town’s past.

Some other causes Plitt dedicated her time to include the Rhode Island Ethics Commision, Rhode Island League of Voters and the American Heart Association, which honored her as volunteer of the year, bestowing on her the Mission of Heart Award. Plitt served as commissioner for the Pawtucket Riverfront Commission and led the creation of Pawtucket’s Advisory Commission of Person of the Year Senator Donna Nesselbush, left, and two Arts & Culture as Hall of Fame inductees, Joan Crawley and Miriam R. Plitt well.

Despite being recognized to her, acts of kindness are a and the National Institute of Sefor her work, Plitt doesn’t feel given. “It’s part of my upbring- nior Centers, as well as in develthat she has done anything ex- ing,” she says. Growing up, she oping Pawtucket’s Check teletraordinary. During a phone watched her family members phone reassurance program interview, one can almost hear perform mitzvot, “My fam- and the Home Alone program. her shrug as she explains that, ily were quiet givers.” After In addition, she has served on she married Arthur Plitt, she numerous local and statewide watched her mother-in-law nonprofits. reach out to those who needed The late Kathleen A. Magill help on a regular basis. Later, was recognized for her pioneershe took it upon herself to as- ing work for women in Pawtuckfrom May 15-17 to honor Alice sume her elders’ responsibility et politics. In 1979, she became Goldstein, who moved from her to continue doing good deeds. the first woman to serve on the childhood home in Germany 75 Plitt says, because of that, giv- Pawtucket City Council, a posiyears ago and has since lived ing is ingrained in her. “It’s part tion she held for eight years. At a remarkable life in America. of our heritage to give back and the end of her term, she continued challenging the status quo Now, the weekend will also of- make the world a better place.”

While she loves people and by becoming the first woman to fer an opportunity to honor the synagogue building for its ser- enjoys volunteering, she also run for mayor. Magill was not vice to the congregational fam- gets something from those only a founder and one of the ily, and a walk down memory whom she helps. “It’s a form of longest continuing members lane to say an official farewell gratification; it makes me hap- of the St. Patrick’s Day Parade to the building. The weekend py.” Plitt would like to encour- Committee, but also a former festivities, which will be open to age you to volunteer. Doing so grand marshal.

Elizabeth Higginson Weeden the community, will be capped not only brings happiness to the off by a Cantors Perlman Broth- recipients, but also evokes an was the historical inductee. ers concert featuring Shireinu, intrinsic feeling in the helper, Using the financial resources Temple Sinai’s Jewish choral reminding him that he’s done inherited from the Draper famsomething nice for someone ily, her ancestors, Weeden’s esensemble.

Rabbi Perlman observed, else and causing him to feel tate funded and established the Elizabeth Higginson Weeden “This will be a weekend filled good.

Plitt shared the spotlight with Home for the Indigent and Inwith “L’dor v’dor (Generation to generation) memories of the three other award recipients firmed Female. She was recpast, as well as reflection and – 2014 was the year of an all- ognized for providing care for a glimpse into the future. We women induction. Joan Craw- poverty-stricken women.

Senator Donna Nesselbush look forward to working with ley, retired from her position all members of our community as director of the Leon Mathieu was honored as the first ever as Klal Yisrael (The Whole of Senior Center, was honored for Pawtucket Person of the Year, Israel), is what matters most to her advocacy for Pawtucket’s a newly created category. The our beloved Congregation Am aged and disabled. A nurse for committee recognized her for more than 17 years, she devel- being a civil rights advocate by David.” oped human and social service championing the Senate MarNAOMI GELLER LIPSKY is programs at the center. Crawley riage Equality bill, which was a member of Congregation Am also played a crucial role in the passed into law. center’s accreditation through David. the National Council on Aging

Temple Am David is now Congregation Am David

BY NAOMI GELLER LIPSKY It is only fitting that in the week preceding the reading of Parshat Shemoth (“These are the names…”) the Board of Temple Am David unanimously voted to change the name of the synagogue to Congregation Am David, effective immediately.

This followed a December congregational meeting where the popular vote also endorsed the change.

As Rabbi Richard Perlman, spiritual leader, cantor and now executive director explained, the change emphasizes “the difference between a ‘temple’ (building or place) and a ‘congregation’ (a gathering of people, often for the purpose of worship, study and social connection).” In light of the decision to sell the building, he emphasized that the focus of the congregation must now be on the aspect of a coherent community of people, not a building. “Given that we are moving toward a downsize, to offer our members a more affordable membership model, this change has been made. We believe that we are a community, and a

strong one, in need of strengthening our financial house.”

Temple Am David (in the 1980s) was formed from the merger of Temple Beth Am and Temple Beth David. The original facility was expanded, and repairs and upgrades have been continual. At its last meeting, the synagogue Board of Directors officially directed the congregation to hire Thomas Sweeney, of Sweeney Real Estate & Appraisal, to list the building for sale. At the same time, the Board has been exploring options to relocate the Shabbat, weekday and larger services, including High Holy Day services and social events, as well as the Louis and Goldie Chester Religious School, to different venues around the area.

Says Perlman, “This move is on a temporary basis while we look for a new permanent home for our synagogue and school in the near future. “ Some possible facilities are currently being evaluated for the congregation’s use while talks regarding the sale of the building are being conducted.

Congregation Am David has been planning a gala weekend

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Southern farewell Ninety-two people gathered with Bonnie and Donald Dwares for a “Retirement Florida Brunch” in honor of Temple Beth-El’s Rabbi Leslie Y. Gutterman at the Palm Beach Country Club Jan. 11.

Front row, left to right, David Epstein, Susan Epstein, Howard Weiss, Elaine Weiss, Bernie Wasserman. Back row, left to right, Arnie Kaufman, Sheila Kaufman, Skippy Weingeroff, Ina Wasserman, Renee Cohen

Left to right, Fred Franklin, Janet Gutterman, Bonnie Dwares, Rabbi Leslie Y. Gutterman and Donald Dwares.

Resolve parenting challenges with Carla Naumberg’s self-help book Meet the author at the Dwares JCC

BY MICHELLE CICCHITELLI mcicchitelli@jewishallianceri.org Being a parent today is not easy.

Every age group claims that their ordeal is harder than that of the previous generation, and obviously, I cannot comment on the challenges that my parents or grandparents faced. I can, however, attest that, today, and at least for me, it is not easy.

To paint the full picture, you should know that I am a fulltime working mother of two and do recognize the expectations that come with that, both from a professional and personal standpoint. As result, I have a hard time ensuring that I am truly present in all that I do and find myself continually multitasking to be sure that everything gets the attention that it needs. Yet, it might also be fair to say that, through all that

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Work at different locations to better understand the plight of hunger and homelessness in America’s inner cities. Travel with friends, share experiences and take some time for fun, too.

Receive 10 hours of community service credit.

The trip runs from Feb. 14 to 16. Cost: $229. The trip is for grades 8-12 and includes transportation, food, hotel and activities.

Final, extended deadline for payment and registration is Jan. 20! For more information, contact Jana Brenman, director of teen engagement at the Jewish Alliance of Greater Rhode Island, 401-421-4111, ext.

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multitasking, everyexpect them to take. thing doesn’t fully So, as parents, how get the “real” attendo we navigate our tion that it needs, esown busy lives and pecially my children. those of our chilNow I could probdren, while also ably also make the working hard to case that being a raise them with the child today isn’t as care and responeasy as it was when I siveness they need was young. Children to become self-sufseem to have a lot ficient, compassionmore responsibilities ate adults? How do than they did years we make sure we ago; these include Carla Naumberg are doing right by numerous extracurour children? ricular activities, inIf you, like me, creased school standards and are looking for some guidance testing, and sadly, heightened or validation, join us on Tuessecurity measures the adults day, Jan. 27 at 7 p.m. as Shalom

Family welcomes author Carla Naumberg, Ph.D. at the Dwares JCC, for a discussion about her book “Parenting in the Present Moment: How to Stay Focused on What Really Matters.” The parent committees of the David C. Isenberg Family Early Childhood Center and the Jewish Community Day School of Rhode Island, as well as Camp JORI, are also co-sponsoring this event. As part of the Jewish Book Council, Naumberg has been touring the country sharing various excerpts of her book and practical, simple tips to use in your own situations to ensure that you are connecting with your children in meaning-

ful and effective ways. “Mindful parenting – or whatever words you want to use to describe connected and effective parenting – isn’t about whether or not or even how often we get it right. It’s about noticing when we have strayed, and getting reoriented,” Naumberg states.

For more information or to RSVP, please contact Michelle Cicchitelli, 401-421-4111, ext.

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Shalom Family is a program of the Jewish Alliance of Greater Rhode Island.

MICHELLE CICCHITELLI is chief programming officer for the Jewish Alliance.

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An American founding father’s influence on Judaism

Benjamin Franklin, who was born on Jan. 17, 1706, influenced Jewish thought and practice after his death

BY SHAI AFSAI In addition to his lasting contributions to science and government, Benjamin Franklin succeeded in influencing Jewish thought and practice, a feat he accomplished posthumously, through his famous “Autobiography,” which found its way into Eastern European rabbinic circles in the early 19th century.

“Franklin devised his moral-improvement method while he was in his twenties, and had originally intended to compose a book elaborating on it.”

In the “Autobiography,” Franklin (1706–1790) briefly discusses a method he devised to overcome his undesirable habits and become a more virtuous individual. Inspired by this account, Rabbi Menahem Mendel Lefin of Satanow (1749–1826) decided to compose “Sefer Heshbon Ha-nefesh” (“The Book of Spiritual Accounting,” 1808), a Hebrew self-improvement guide based on the “Autobiography’s” method that is still studied in yeshivot today.

Franklin’s “Autobiography” and Lefin’s “Spiritual Accounting” both put forward yearlong, quarterly-repeated self-

reform programs that center on 13 character traits. Franklin focused on the virtues of temperance, silence, order, resolution, frugality, industry, sincerity, justice, moderation, cleanliness, tranquility, chastity and humility. Lefin encouraged his readers to focus on whatever character traits they found themselves most in need of improving.

Each trait is given a week of close attention and daily journaling. A grid chart that has the seven days of the week running horizontally and the 13 desired traits running vertically is used to monitor growth and progress. After 13 weeks, the cycle begins again so that over the course of a year each trait may be carefully worked on for four weeks.

Franklin devised his moralimprovement method while he was in his twenties, and had originally intended to compose a book elaborating on it. That book was to be part of “a great and extensive Project” envisioned by Franklin: the formation of an international secret fraternity and mutual-aid society, “the Society of the Free and Easy,” comprised of virtuous men across the globe. However, in the “Autobiography” Franklin reconciles with the fact that “the necessary close Attention to private Business in the earlier part of Life, and public Business since” has prevented him from carrying out that project.

Nearly 20 years after Franklin’s death, and halfway across

Benjamin Franklin the world from Philadelphia, Rabbi Menahem Mendel Lefin of Satanow published his own book based on the “Autobiography’s” self-improvement method. However, instead of this being a work for the use of the “Virtuous and good Men of all Nations,” whom Franklin had

envisioned as the members of his society, Lefin’s “Spiritual Accounting” was written in Hebrew for the religious and moral edification of his fellow Jews, who embraced it.

In a Hebrew letter written to a colleague in 1815, for instance, Samuel Jacob Bick described the self-improvement method of “Spiritual Accounting” as “a wonderful technique invented by the sage Benjamin Franklin from the city of Philadelphia in North America. This scholar is renowned in all corners of the earth … Thus, Rabbi Mendel [Lefin] has prepared a delicacy for his nation … and taught a simple and clear solution for the broken but still precious soul to speedily return from the bad to the good. In their approbation, the rabbis of the generation said that this thing is beneficial and new.”

Although Lefin never claimed that the technique he presented was his own invention, he didn’t disclose to “Spiritual Accounting” readers that Franklin was its source. He explained only that “a few years ago a new technique was discovered, which is a wonderful innovation in this task [of overcom-

ing one’s animal nature], and it seems its mark will spread as quickly, God willing, as that of the innovation of the printing press, which has brought its light to the world.”

It’s not clear why Lefin took such an approach. David Shahar, in his Hebrew essay “Benjamin Franklin’s influence on the approach to character improvement in R. Menahem Mendel Lefin’s Sefer Heshbon Ha-nefesh” (1984), has reasoned that Lefin’s acknowledgment of Franklin’s role was done only “partially and through hinting and without attributing his source” because “perhaps he was concerned that revealing the source of his inspiration might prevent the book from receiving rabbinic approbation.”

Nonetheless, Lefin was confident that Franklin’s method could benefit all who were interested in self-improvement, and was determined to adjust it for a Jewish audience. Fortunately, Franklin’s approach to religion made for a smooth adaptation.

In the “Autobiography,” Franklin explains his original intention to make his system for self-betterment, as well as the international fraternity whose members would adhere to it, universally accessible: “It will be remark’d that, tho’ my Scheme was not wholly without Religion there was in it no Mark of any of the distinguishing Tenets of any particular Sect. I had purposely avoided them; for being fully persuaded of the Utility and Excellency of my Method, and that it might be serviceable to People in all Religions, and intending some time or other to publish it, I would not have any thing in it that should prejudice any one of any Sect against it.”

As Franklin assumed a generic religious approach to his method, there were no obstacles preventing its development within a Jewish context.

Lefin was able to adjust Franklin’s system, expand upon it, and publish it as a book for Jewish readers, in the process furthering Franklin’s initial goal of making his system for self-examination and character improvement “serviceable to People in all Religions.”

SHAI AFSAI (ggbi@juno.com) lives in Providence. This article appeared in The Jerusalem Post on Jan. 14, 2014.

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The message of brotherly love

BY RABBI ANDREW KLEIN In both last week’s Torah portion, Shemot, and this week’s Torah portion, Va’era, God instructs Moses to go to Pharaoh and free the Israelite people from Egyptian bondage. Moses is afraid that Pharaoh won’t listen to him, and so God tells Moses’ older brother, Aaron, to go with him. Perhaps God knew that some brotherly support might help Moses on such a monumental mission.

I can’t help but notice the relationship between Moses and Aaron. One brother, the greatest prophet of all time, was unable to do the task alone. But together, they were stronger, more confident and more able to follow God’s commands.

Their relationship reminds

me of one of my favorite stories about the power of siblings living in harmony.

Long ago, in the holy city of Jerusalem, there lived two brothers who earned their living as farmers. The older brother was unmarried and lived alone; the younger brother lived with his wife and four children.

The brothers loved each other dearly and worked together very well. Together they plowed, planted and harvested their crops. After they cut the wheat, they shared equally the produce of their joint labors.

One night during the harvest, the older brother lay down to sleep, but his thoughts were troubled. “Here I am,” he said to himself, “all alone, with no family and no children. I don’t need to feed or clothe anyone

except myself. But my younger brother has the responsibility of a large family. It’s not right to share our harvest equally; after all – he needs much more than I do!”

At midnight he arose and took a pile of sheaves from his crop, carried them to his brother’s field and left them there. Then he returned home and slept in peace.

That very same night his brother also could not sleep.

He was thinking about his older brother. “Here I am,” he thought, “with a large and loving family. When I grow old, my children will take care of me. But what will happen to my brother in his old age? Who will take care of him? His needs are greater than mine.

It isn’t fair to divide the crops

Yards from the Paris hostage situation, a tefillin kit at the ready

BY CNAAN LIPHSHIZ PARIS (JTA) — Standing for hours behind that yellow police line Friday, many of us could feel our patience running out as we waited idly near the Porte de Vincennes metro station for news from the hostage situation that was going on just 100 yards away, at the Hyper Cacher kosher supermarket.

The journalists among us were on the phone, setting up quality interviews for the next day about the drama we were prevented from approaching.

An Islamist had taken more than 20 people hostage at a kosher supermarket, where five people died, including the assailant, before police secured the building.

The police officers preventing us from crossing were chatting among themselves, ignoring the crowd of curious passersby who paused to take pictures of the boulevard – normally a vibrant market which suddenly looked eerily empty because police had

closed it to vehicular traffic.

Yet one of the people hanging around the barricade was having no downtime at all.

Holding his tefillin kit at the ready, a bearded follower of the Chabad-Lubavitch movement was soliciting Jews who passed by to put on the leathery straps and pray for the safety of the Jews who were being held hostage less than 100 yards away at the Hyper Cacher kosher store.

Michael Bloch, a reporter for the le Journal de Dimanche, took a picture of the man in action and placed it on Twitter.

“A surrealist scene: A Lubavitcher putting on tefillin on a Jewish passerby. We are 100 meters away from the Hyper Cacher,” Bloch wrote. He did not name the man.

The picture — depicting religious devotion at the site of a crime committed in the name of another religion — drew mixed responses among Bloch’s followers.

Paul de Chabalitosse, a musician and music columnist,

wrote: “Leave us alone with your religions.”

Ben Assouli replied: “You’re wrong, Paul, they’re simply showing that we are not intimidated by terrorism. That’s the message here.”

In his article for the online edition of le Journal de Dimanche, Bloch wrote that several passersby asked the Lubavitcher whether he could tell them anything about the hostage situation. His reply: “You need to pray, that’s all I know.”

equally!”

So he arose and took a load of sheaves to his brother’s field, and left them there. Then he returned home and went to sleep in peace.

When morning came, both brothers were amazed to find their crops exactly as they had been the night before. They wondered how such a thing could happen, but they did not speak to each other about this strange event.

The following night, the same exact thing happened again.

When morning came, once again they were amazed to find they had the same number of sheaves as the night before.

On the third night, each brother once again carried a pile of sheaves to his brother’s land, but it just so happened that they were doing it at the exact same time. It was a clear night lit with a bright full moon; they met at the top of the hill.

Suddenly, magically, silently, each understood what had happened.

They dropped their sheaves; they embraced, weeping with gratitude, happiness and love.

God saw this act of love be-

tween the two brothers and blessed the place where they met that night. And when, in the course of time, King Solomon built the Holy Temple, from which peace and love and brotherhood were to flow to the whole world, he erected it on that very spot.

This is one of my favorite stories for many reasons. I love the idea of brothers and sisters being loving and kind to each other. I love that, embedded in this week’s Torah portion, we have a reminder of how siblings can help one another.

I want to encourage each of us to contact our siblings, if we’re blessed enough to have any, and find a way to be kind to them.

Try to think of their needs; find a way to offer help and support.

Wish them a peaceful Shabbat, a peaceful week.

Shabbat Shalom.

RABBI ANDREW KLEIN is rabbi of Temple Habonim in Barrington. He is secretary/ treasurer of the Board of Rabbis of Greater Rhode Island

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From the editor’s viewpoint: A forum for diverse opinions We are a community of diverse viewpoints. I see that on a daily basis.

Democrat, Republ ican, Right, Left, Liberal, Conservative, EDITOR Zionist and everything in between.

FRAN I would venOSTENDORF ture to guess that if you are taking the time to read this publication, you probably fall on the pro-Israel side of the fence. Of course, that does not mean you are anti-something else. As editor of the Jewish Voice, I am constantly being reminded of how many variations there are of being “proIsrael.”

That’s why we try to present a variety of opinions in this paper. Discussions are vital in a democratic community. They advance everyone’s knowledge and keep us moving forward as a community. Listening is so important to becoming a better-informed person. And we hope that a newspaper like ours can facilitate these kinds of discussions.

In the lead-up to the Israeli elections on March 17, there will be many volatile discussions, in the press, on the Internet, among your friends, relatives and neighbors. I am hoping you will see as many of these opinions as possible represented here.

Will you always agree with the content and opinions? No, I’m sure you won’t. I’m not sure I will. But we don’t have to agree. And just because you don’t agree with one opinion or another, doesn’t mean you should stop reading about them. In many places around the world, newspapers are labeled left or right, liberal or conservative. Here at The Jewish Voice, we are not striving

for any label other than open and balanced.

In light of the despicable acts of terrorism that have taken place recently, we need to remember that there is a place for civil discourse in society in general. We can agree, we can disagree, but we should be able to agree to disagree without repercussion. Many people have said this, but I feel it bears repeating: Fear should not factor in our decision to express our opinions.

So tell us how you feel about Israel or our community. We are proud to be able to provide a place to facilitate a dialogue.

Our community will be better for it. *** Speaking of seeking other viewpoints, please join me in welcoming the Jewish Voice Advisory Group: Elanah Chassen, Melanie Coon, Douglas Emanuel, Stacy Emanuel, John Landry, Toby London and Mindy Stone. These community members have agreed to put their skills, expertise and experience to work to help me and the paper better serve the Jewish community of Rhode Island and Southeastern Massachusetts. Each month we will get together to take up issues of coverage and direction of the newspaper. In between, members are at work bolstering the paper with story ideas and suggestions for new ways to better cover our community. Adding their viewpoints and wisdom, we hope to move the paper forward, making it a Voice representative of all of our community. So now, in addition to contacting your editor, you can always bend the ear of any one of the Voice Advisory Group members.

You can reach them just like you reach me, via editor@jewishallianceri.org. Or you might just see them when you are out and about.

LETTER Re: French terrorism When the Christians and other minorities in Iraq were slaughtered, tortured, raped and sold into slavery, where were the public voices of the leadership of our Jewish community?

When the rabbis at prayer in Israel were slaughtered, where were the public voices of the leadership of our Jewish community?

When the French Jews in a Kosher market were slaughtered in Paris, where were the public voices of the leadership of our Jewish community?

We as a Jewish community can no longer be publicly silent.

If the leaders of our community organizations, synagogues and temples do not publicly speak out, they should not consider themselves as our leaders.

The time for public silence is long gone.

Judge Howard I. Lipsey (ret.)

Lincoln, R.I.

The whipping, the watch and a 40-year quest “In 1971, I met a boy who changed my life forever. I was ten and he was twelve, when for a few indelible months, we roomed together in a Britishstyle boarding school perched on an alpine meadow high above Geneva.”

So begins a personal history, “WhipBoy,” in IT SEEMS ping the Nov. 17, TO ME 2 0 1 4 , i s s u e of T he New Yo r k e r. T h e RABBI JIM author, Allen ROSENBERG Ku rzwei l, a novel i st a nd l e c t u r e r, i s publishing this very month a full-length memoir, “Whipping Boy: The Forty-Year Search for My Twelve-Year-Old Bully.”

Kurzweil tells us that he was “a middle-class Jewish kid from New York,” whose father died of cancer when he was only 5.

Kurzweil knew his roommate as Cesar Augusto. Decades later Kurzweil finally discovered that Cesar, born on April 24, 1954, in Manila, Philippines, was given the full name of Cesar Augusto Viana III. From the very beginning the relationship of Cesar to Allen was that of bully to victim.

Of the many sadistic incidents of Cesar’s bullying that have continued to haunt Kurzweil over the years, two stand out: The first of these acts was inspired by the song “Thirty-Nine Lashes,” the core of a powerful scene in the then popular Broadway musical “Jesus Christ Superstar.” During an afternoon recess, “Cesar cast himself as whipmaster, gave his sidekick the role of centurion, and decreed that I play Jesus Christ.

Once my wrists were secured to the metal posts of my bunk, he ordered another roommate ... to cue up the music (on a cassette player). In the Broadway musical, Jesus is flogged with clockwork precision. But Cesar sometimes lifted his makeshift flail (a belt, if memory serves) only to stop midway through the downstroke. Each time I flinched, Cesar’s face contorted into a grimace of ecstasy. The whip barely made contact, but the point was to humiliate and degrade me.”

In many ways the theft of his watch left a deeper scar than the whipping. While the young Kurzweil was taking a shower,

Cesar convinced another roommate to steal his wristwatch and toss it out the window into the deep snow, never to be recovered. The watch, an Omega Seamaster, was an inheritance from his father, a tangible and precious link to his deceased parent. As Kurzweil puts it, “The loss left me more than bereft. I felt annihilated.”

Forty years later, Kurzweil finally confronts Cesar face to face about the whipping and the watch. And Cesar’s response?

“So basically, I’m being blamed for your memories? ...This is really only your interpretation based on your recollection of events.”

“… as long as we hold onto a grudge, we are nourishing and nurturing a potent poison – allowing it to flow continuously through body and soul.”

Later that same afternoon, Cesar leaves a reluctant and perfunctory voice mail on Kurzweil’s cellphone, the core of which was “I apologize to you for whatever pain I may have caused...” Kurzweil asks himself whether this was “only the remorse of a bully.”

There are, of course, many explanations for the adult Kurzweil’s inability to let go of his schoolboy tormentor: shame, loss of a sense of honor and dignity, the feeling of being impotent and ineffectual, the search for true justice, the desire to restore the balance between right and wrong – and that primitive urge that almost all of us feel at one time or another, the overpowering need to get even.

In “The Book of Words” (Jewish Lights, 1993), Rabbi Lawrence Kushner writes that “[i]n bearing a grudge, we have transformed the hurt from something we once received into something we now carry or guard. Almost as if, in our inability to repay the pain we felt, we tenaciously carry this little vial of grudge-toxin.” That is to say, as long as we hold onto a grudge, we are nourishing and nurturing a potent poison – allowing it to flow continuously through body and soul.

Kushner concludes his

thought by pointing out that “the grudge anchors us to something long gone, it denies a part of us from being here in the present. It burrows deep into our personality, sapping our joy and our happiness.”

It seems to me that Kushner pinpoints what has happened to Kurzweil, who finally admits that “Cesar had taken over my life.” Kurzweil’s grudge – his decades-long psychic entanglement with Cesar – is a poison burrowed deep within his personality.

Clearly, Kurzweil’s 40-year quest to find and confront Cesar did have its negative consequences: his grudge, his obsession, diverted his emotional energy from his family and robbed him of incalculable hours that could have been spent in more positive pursuits.

Nevertheless, Kurzweil’s search for Cesar was by no means entirely negative. In large part, he was attempting to right a grievous wrong, to affirm that, in the long run, justice can prevail.

The whipping and the watch must not go unanswered, must not be swallowed up in the fog of forgetfulness.

Cesar was a bully – an anti-Semitic one at that. And it appears that Cesar remains a rasha, a “no-goodnik,” throughout his life, doing jail time both in Oslo, Norway, and southern California. So far as I can tell, Cesar can offer no compelling alternative narrative that might mitigate the viciousness of his behavior toward his chosen victim, a helpless and defenseless 10-year-old. Thus, there is no need – indeed, no real possibility – for Kurzweil to forgive Cesar; for Cesar sees no reason to be forgiven.

While Cesar is clearly the villain of this story, it would be a stretch to call Kurzweil the hero. True, in the end he tells his wife and son that he has been able to banish Cesar from the lives of all three of them.

Nevertheless, Cesar’s “apology” is so half-hearted that it is difficult to conclude that the decades-old wrongs have been righted, to affirm that justice has been truly served.

To echo the words of the poet T.S. Eliot, Allen Kurzweil’s 40year quest ends not with a bang but a whimper.

JAMES B. ROSENBERG is rabbi emeritus at Temple Habonim in Barrington. Contact him at rabbiemeritus@templehabonim.org.

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Recent events should serve as France’s wake-up call

BY SIMONE RODAN-BENZAQUEN PARIS (JTA) – The kosher supermarket was chosen deliberately. Men, women and children were shopping and preparing for Shabbat. Only two days before the attack, terrorists had left 10 of the best-known satirical journalists and cartoonists dead at Charlie Hebdo. Three French police officers were also struck down, one of them a Muslim. Each Islamist terrorist attack targeted a symbol of the French Republic, seeking to bring the country to its knees.

That Jews were targets of radical Islam was, alas, unsurprising. Four of the hostages – Yoav Hattab, Philippe Braham, Yohan Cohen, François-Michel Saada – were killed at the kosher market. Survivors of the attack are anguished. So, too, are most French Jews, who again are discussing and evaluating not only the future of our community but the fate of France itself.

Let’s be clear: France is under assault. The enemy is in our midst. Extremists, faithful to a brand of Islam that celebrates violence and martyrdom, have no respect whatsoever for the core, longstanding French values of democracy, pluralism, freedom of expression – and,

indeed, for life itself. Traditional forms of protest are alien to them. Instead, as seen in the carnage wrought by ISIS, alQaeda and other jihadists in Iraq, Syria and Yemen, pure barbarism is their vehicle to achieve their perverted notion of salvation.

Tragically, the events of recent days are not a new phenomenon. The Jewish community, including the American Jewish Committee in Paris, has warned for years about the developing and deepening threat that radical Islam poses to France.

In March 2012, a lone, heavily armed Mohammed Merah murdered three French soldiers in cold blood and, a week later, slaughtered a teacher and three children at a Jewish school in Toulouse. The Toulouse attack was a game changer for French Jews. And although French political leaders voiced outrage, as time passed and the numbers and frequency of anti-Semitic incidents rose, the country seemed to get used to them – even anesthetized to this reality – while many Jews felt a sense of loneliness and isolation.

The recent attacks in Paris have shocked the entire nation, indeed the entire world. What is new this time is the depth and breadth of the reactions, criss-

crossing French society, the realization that combating the threat of radical Islam must be, and remain, a national priority.

But will this be the necessary wake-up call for France as a whole to confront the danger?

The terrorists who struck in Paris – as in Toulouse and at the Jewish Museum in Brussels last May – are not isolated lone wolves. They most likely are the tip of a radical Islamist iceberg, the small visible part. To counter this lethal trend, we must delve deeper and understand the factors that draw certain individuals to radical Islam, and find ways to counter this evil that endangers all of France.

French schools must teach mutual respect and responsibility, a component of the curriculum that today is stunningly missing. Indoctrination in extremist ideologies in prisons demands attention, as does recruitment by radical, violent groups through social media and in mosques. The Toulouse and Paris terrorists spent time not only in prison but also with jihadist groups in Syria and Yemen. Hundreds more are currently in Syria and Iraq, and maybe in other Arab countries.

That they could return with French passports to settle back in our communities, or in other

HarperCollins must not contribute to delegitimization of Israel

BY DANIEL S. MARIASCHIN WASHINGTON (JTA) – Before the HarperCollins Middle East Atlas story is deleted from email inboxes, it pays to spend another moment ruminating on the damage caused by companies that ought to know better.

On its website, HarperCollins bills itself as “one of the world’s leading English-language publishers.” It has a storied brand and a list of top-notch authors going back some 200 years. It markets books in more than 150 countries on a wide range of subjects and boasts of having had 400 best-sellers in the past fiscal year.

Among its offerings in 2014 was the Collins Middle East Atlas, which was sold to schools in the Middle East. Atlases are usually reference works, not consulted for daily reading but good to have on the shelf when needed. This edition omitted Israel from maps in the Middle East. The West Bank and Gaza are noted, but not Israel.

Confronted with this omission, a HarperCollins spokesman said that maps marked with Israel’s location would have been “unacceptable” and the omission – clearly intentional – was a bow to “local preferences.”

Leaving Israel off the map in Middle East textbooks and atlases is nothing new. Arab countries, from 1948 on, have

perfected the practice. Palestinian textbooks not only leave Israel off the map but put Palestinian place names instead of Israeli cities and towns.

Airlines for years have been guilty of the same practice. Last year, the United Arab Emirates-based Etihad Airways left Israel off its travel-route maps (all other countries in the region are noted), and it does not carry Israeli passport holders.

BMI, a British carrier that until 2010 flew to Tel Aviv, failed to note Israel on its in-flight maps but did put Haifa on the map – in Arabic. At the time, BMI pleaded a “technical error” and subsequently apologized.

HarperCollins has now apologized as well, stating that it will “pulp” all remaining copies of the atlas and offering the nowstandard apology for the omission “and any offense caused.”

So perfunctory! In first defending the map, HarperCollins clearly implied a business motive for its actions. The publisher assumed it could willfully rewrite history, cast aside diplomacy and appropriate a blinders-on approach to its sales in the region. Imagine if other countries engaged in territorial disputes – and there are many today, from Europe to Asia to Latin America, not to mention the Middle East – made the same demands of HarperCollins. What if the company bowed to one side or another in these conflicts? Would anyone

want to use, or trust, such a geographically incorrect reference?

The international effort to delegitimize and demonize Israel comes from many quarters.

Most are predictable: far-left and far-right political organizations, Islamic extremists, a host of “human rights” nongovernmental organizations, the Palestinians themselves. But when otherwise respectable parties like HarperCollins engage in willful distortions of geography or historiography, they legitimize the delegitimizers. And making matters worse, the company defended its pandering to its Arab customers and their “local preferences.”

As an educational publisher headquartered in New York, not in the Middle East, how can HarperCollins defend not providing students with facts or, in the case of the atlas, the world as it is?

The publisher of John F. Kennedy and Martin Luther King, Jr., as well as so many acclaimed works of history, sociology and even the Bible, should have known better. We will never reach conflict resolution between Israelis and Palestinians when an eraser is taken to history, diplomacy – and maps.

DANIEL S. MARIASCHIN is the executive vice president of B’nai B’rith International.

European countries, is a nightmare. Their objective is to create fear and division in French society, of which the extreme right and populists may take advantage. So let’s have the courage not to let fear take over.

The French government cannot stop this trend alone; the effort will require the active involvement of political, religious and civil-society leaders. Immediate reactions to the attack on Charlie Hebdo were inspiring, as millions of French citizens gathered in central Paris and throughout France, communicated their outrage on social media and called for action. Unfortunately, the voices of Muslim community leaders – with some notable exceptions – have until now been barely audible.

Those leaders, too, must speak loudly and clearly, as Muslims and as French citizens.

Many of us in the Jewish community regretted that no large solidarity movement rose up after the gruesome kidnapmurder of Ilan Halimi nine years ago, or after Toulouse, or during last summer’s transparently anti-Semitic demonstrations. While the government did speak out after attacks on Jews and firmly decries anti-Semitism, many in French society and in the media refused to see that our French values were at stake and that Jews were indeed a target.

Hatred of Jews never ends with Jews. The menace of ris-

ing anti-Semitism threatens French society at large. The future of France will be decided in the coming days, weeks and months. The Charlie Hebdo massacre makes clear that the war against France’s democratic values is in high gear.

Sunday’s (Jan. 11) mass rally, with more than 3.7 million people across the country in attendance – including, in Paris, French President Francois Hollande, German Chancellor Angela Merkel, British Prime Minister David Cameron, Israeli Prime Minister Benjamin Netanyahu and other political leaders – was a powerful statement of outrage and solidarity against this barbarism in France and in the rest of the world.

But what happens in the days and weeks ahead will truly test France. Now more than at any other time in its postwar history, the fate of France is entwined with the fate of its Jews.

If France loses them, sooner or later it will also be lost. Is this the wake-up call that will help the French people understand the nature of the threat to our country, and will they respond firmly and effectively?

The very soul of France is at stake.

SIMONE RODAN-BENZAQUEN is the director of the American Jewish Committee’s Paris office.

Jewish Federations condemn attacks, express support for the people of France Following the recent attacks in Paris, the Jewish Federations of North America condemn the attacks on civic institutions and Jewish targets in the strongest possible terms, mourn the loss of life and pray for the injured, and express our support for the people of France at this difficult time.

“We deplore these violent attacks,” stated Michael Siegal, chair of JFNA’s Board of Trustees, “not just against Jews and Jewish institutions but against the people of France and all those who value freedom and democracy. Once again, we are forced to bear witness to the reality that terrorism continues to pose a threat to civil societies everywhere. Together, as a global community, we must find a way to move past this horrible specter of hatred and violence. Our deepest condolences, hopes and prayers are with the families of the victims, the French people and the Jewish community of France during this difficult time.”

Paul Goldenberg, director of the Secure Community Network (SCN), has traveled to Paris to support the community in addressing security issues. SCN, the national homeland security initiative of The Jewish Federations of North America and the Conference of Presidents of Major American Jewish Organizations, has regularly consulted with Jewish organizations in the United States and around the world on security-related matters and in the wake of terrorist attacks such as the ones perpetrated in Paris this week.

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Ongoing

Alliance Kosher Senior Café. Kosher lunch and program every Monday, Wednesday and Friday. Dwares JCC, 401 Elmgrove Ave., Providence. Noon lunch; 1 p.m. program. $3 lunch donation from individuals 60+ or under 60 with disabilities. Neal or Elaine, 401421-4111, ext. 107.

Am David Kosher Senior Café. Kosher lunch and program every weekday.

Temple Am David, 40 Gardiner St., Warwick. 11:15 a.m. program; Noon lunch. $3 lunch donation from individuals 60+ or under 60 with disabilities. Elaine or Steve 401-732-0047.

Through Feb. 20

“Alive” by Liliana Fijman. gallery (401) at the Dwares JCC. What can plant fiber do? Liliana has a fascination with plant textures and their forms. When plants die, nothing is lost. Rather, they are transformed into visual expressions.

401 Elmgrove Ave., Providence. For more information, contact Erin Moseley, director of Arts & Culture, at 401-4214111, ext. 108, or emoseley@jewishallianceri.org

Through March 5

21 Plein Air Artists. Temple Habonim Gallery. Thirty-six works by 21 artists, part of the summer Lifelong Learning Collaborative class. The show includes works from 2014 in oils, acrylics, pastels, pencil and ink. Instructors were Bunny Fain, Roberta Segal and Mary Snowden. 165 New Meadow Road, Barrington. Hours are Wednesdays and Thursdays from 9 a.m. to 4 p.m., Fridays from 9 a.m. to 1 p.m. and by appointment. For information, call 401-2456536, or email gallery@templehabonim. org.

Sunday | Jan. 18

Southern New England Conference for Jewish Women. 9:30 a.m.-2:30 p.m.

Women’s division of the Providence Community Kollel sponsors a program of speakers with both Jewish and secular expertise in a day of workshops, lectures and exercises. Discuss issues that play a central role in women’s lives. $50, gourmet Kosher lunch included. At Brown RISD Hillel, 80 Brown St., Providence. Register online at providencekollel.org or call 401-273-3923.

Monday | Jan. 19

Martin Luther King Jr. Day celebration.

The Cranston Clergy Association will be presenting the second annual celebration at the Park Theater in Cranston, R.I. The special event, Kol Pacem – Voices of Peace, will take place at 7 p.m. The celebration will feature the Cranston Interfaith Chorus and Band, which includes both Shireinu, the community chorus of Temple Sinai in Cranston, and the chorus of the Woodridge Congregational Church. Additional participants will include groups from other Cranston churches and from youth groups in Providence. This event is free of charge and open to the public. Tickets are

CALENDAR available at the Temple Sinai and at the Woodridge Congregation Church, as well as at the door. Please join us as we celebrate the life and work of Martin Luther King, Jr. Bridging the Gap. 7:30-8:30 p.m.

Congregation Beth David, Narragansett.

Each week, Providence Kollel continues discussions led by Rabbi Raphie Schochet. Topic involves how to align one’s spiritual essence with the activities of daily living. No previous studies required.

Tuesday | Jan. 20

TNT! (Tuesday Night Talmud). 8-9 p.m. Open to men, women and teens of all levels and backgrounds. This is a collaborative group study of the first chapter of Masechet Berachot, tractate dealing with blessings. Meets weekly in the rabbi’s study at Congregation Beth Sholom, 275 Camp St., Providence. For information, 401-621-9393.

Wednesday | Jan. 21

Mothers Circle. 7-9 p.m. Dwares JCC. Join the Mothers Circle to learn about Jewish rituals, holidays, ethics and creating Jewish family life at home. This free 15-session course runs through May 13. No experience necessary. All mothers welcome, and participants do not have to be affiliated with a Jewish institution. For more information, contact Sara Foster at 401-421-4111, ext.

184, or sfoster@jewishallianceri.org.

Thursday | Jan. 22

Suminagashi Workshop. 7-8:30 p.m., gallery (401) | Dwares JCC. Suminagashi or “floating ink” is the process of marbling plain paper with water and ink to transform it into something vibrant and colorful. It originated in Japan as early as the 12th century. Join artistin-residence Liliana Fijman and gallery (401) for this hands-on workshop.

Price: $25; Members: $18. Includes all supplies. Pre-registration required.

Limited enrollment. Information, contact Erin Moseley, director of Arts & Culture at 401-421-4111, ext. 108, or emoseley@jewishallianceri.org.

Friday | Jan. 23

PJ Library Tu B’Shevat Storytime.

10-11 a.m. Dwares JCC. Enjoy a PJ Library story, songs, movement, crafts and a holiday-themed snack. All children ages 5 and under are welcome. RSVP or more information, contact Michelle Cicchitelli at 401-421-4111, ext. 178, or mcicchitelli@jewishallianceri.org.

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East Greenwich. 401-885-6600, toratyisrael.org. 9:30 a.m. Guest Speaker: Teny Gross from the Non-Violence Institute. Cost: $7/p.p. Teny Gross, a former soldier in the Israeli Defense Force, is the Director of the Institute for the Study and Practice of Non-Violence in Providence. Open to the public. For more information, contact DaveTalan@ aol.com, or call (h) 401-941-3662 or (c) 401-862-7519. Please RSVP to the Torat Yisrael office at 885-6600 by Jan. 19.

Bar/Bat Mitzvah Expo. 10 a.m.-2 p.m.

Features DJs, florists, caterers, event planners, photographers and more.

Sponsored by Temple Sinai and The Jewish Voice. Temple Sinai, 30 Hagen Ave., Cranston.

Monday | Jan. 26

Bridging the Gap. 7:30-8:30 p.m.

Congregation Beth David, Narragansett.

Each week, Providence Kollel continues discussions led by Rabbi Raphie Schochet. Topic involves how to align one’s spiritual essence with the activities of daily living. No previous studies required.

Tuesday | Jan. 27

Parenting in the Present Moment Workshop. 7 p.m. Dwares JCC. Join Shalom Family and author Carla Naumberg, Ph.D., in a discussion about her book “Parenting in the Present Moment: How to Stay Focused on What Really Matters.” This workshop will include practical tips to use in your own personal situations and is also sponsored by the Isenberg Early Childhood Center Parent Committee, Jewish Community Day School and Camp JORI. For more information, contact Michelle Cicchitelli at 401-421-4111, ext. 178, or mcicchitelli@jewishallianceri.org.

TNT! (Tuesday Night Talmud). 8-9 p.m. Open to men, women and teens of all levels and backgrounds. This is a collaborative group study of the first chapter of Masechet Berachot, tractate dealing with blessings. Meets weekly in the rabbi’s study at Congregation Beth Sholom, 275 Camp St., Providence. For information, 401-621-9393.

Wednesday | Jan. 28

Sunday | Jan. 25

Drop-in Crafting. 4-5 p.m. Parenting Center at Dwares JCC. Drop in at your leisure to create a special craft.

Member price of $1 per child and nonmember price of $3 per child to help cover the cost of materials. RSVP to Michelle Cicchitelli at 401-421-4111, ext. 178 or mcicchitelli@jewishallianceri.org to ensure enough supplies.

Temple Torat Yisrael Men’s Club/ Sisterhood Breakfast and Speaker.

Temple Torat Yisrael, 1251 Middle Rd.,

Mothers Circle. 7-9 p.m. Dwares JCC. Join the Mothers Circle to learn about Jewish rituals, holidays, ethics and how to create Jewish family life at home. This free 15-session course runs through May 13. No experience necessary! All mothers welcome, and participants do

Sprouts Preschool Program in Partnership with the PJ Library. Temple Torat Yisrael, 1251 Middle Road, East Greenwich. 401-885-6600, toratyisrael.org. Our January Topic: Tu B’Shvat.

9:00 a.m.

Wednesday | Jan. 28

Calendar Submissions Jan. 30, 2015 issue, FINANCE | PHILANTHROPY – must be received by JAN. 21.

Feb. 13, 2015 issue, PETS – must be received by FEB. 4.

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not have to be affiliated with a Jewish institution. For more information, contact Sara Foster at 401-421-4111, ext.

184 or sfoster@jewishallianceri.org.

Sunday | Feb. 1

Winter Shireinu Concert. 1:30 p.m.

Sponsored by the Sinai Seniors. Music of the community chorus of Temple Sinai, with refreshments. 30 Hagen Ave., Cranston.

Chamber Music Concert. Narragansett Bay Symphony Community Orchestra, formerly The Rhode Island Philharmonic Community Orchestra. 1 p.m. Program includes Concerto d’Hiver Op. 327 for trombone and chamber orchestra

by Darius Mihaud featuring NaBSco trombonist, Kevin Kane; Anton Dvorak’s Piano Trio Op. 65 in f minor with Emily Chen, violin, Matthew Knippel, cello, and Barbara Speer, piano; Serenade for Winds Op. 44 by Anton Dvorak, featuring the “The Bay Winds Chamber Players” with Gerald Diebold and Linda Diebold, oboes; Vincent Mattera and Sarah Corrao, clarinets; Jeff Stewart, Dave Monte, and Susan WinterbottomShadday, French horns; Jonathan Malone and Jim Kassal, bassoons; Matthew Knippel, cello and Dennis DelGizzo, bass. Carter Center, 667 Waterman Ave., East Providence.

Monday | Feb. 2

Bridging the Gap. 7:30-8:30 p.m.

Congregation Beth David, Narragansett.

Each week, Providence Kollel continues discussions led by Rabbi Raphie Schochet. Topic involves how to align one’s spiritual essence with the activities of daily living. No previous studies required.

Tuesday | Feb. 3

Jewish Disability Awareness Month.

From Awareness to Inclusion: “NEVER EVER EVER.” 7-8:30 p.m. Dwares JCC. Written by Sivan Ben Yishai. Starring Jordan Ahnquist. Discussion led

by Molly Tobin, Associate Producer.

Produced by Israeli Stage of Boston.

In this one-person show, audiences meet a young man on a journey. Yoni runs away from school, from home and from himself the moment he hears the words disabled and dyslexic. In this moving show, Sivan Ben Yishai reveals the experience of what it is like to feel like an outsider, to be differently abled and yet at the same time feel whole.

Intended audience: 13+. Q & A after the show. Sponsored by Ruderman Family Foundation, Yachad, Jewish Family Service, Temple Emanu-El and Jewish Alliance of Greater Rhode Island. For more information, contact Larry Katz, Director of Jewish Life & Learning, at lkatz@jewishallianceri.org or 401-4214111, ext. 179.

TNT! (Tuesday Night Talmud). 8-9 p.m. Open to men, women and teens of all levels and backgrounds. This is a collaborative group study of the first chapter of Masechet Berachot, tractate dealing with blessings. Meets weekly in the rabbi’s study at Congregation Beth Sholom, 275 Camp St., Providence. For information, 401-621-9393.

Wednesday | Feb. 4

Mothers Circle. 7-9 p.m. Dwares JCC. Join the Mothers Circle to learn about Jewish rituals, holidays, ethics and how to create Jewish family life at home.

This free 15-session course began in Jan. and runs through May 13. No experience necessary! All mothers

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welcome, and participants do not have to be affiliated with a Jewish institution.

For more information, contact Sara Foster at 401-421-4111, ext. 184 or sfoster@jewishallianceri.org

Saturday | Feb. 7

Drash & Dessert. 7 p.m. Dwares JCC. The Board of Rabbis of Greater Rhode Island presents an evening of dialogue, learning and community. There is much conflict in the world and a decreasing opportunity for civil discourse, both in America as a whole and specifically in relation to how Jews talk about Israel. Join us for a look at how Jewish tradition treats disagreements and arguments and holds out the possibility of respectful yet passionately engaged argumentation. This free event includes dessert. For more information, contact the Alliance Member Services team at 401-421-4111.

Monday | Feb. 9

Bridging the Gap. 7:30-8:30 p.m.

Congregation Beth David, Narragansett.

Each week, Providence Kollel continues discussions led by Rabbi Raphie Schochet. Topic involves how to align one’s spiritual essence with the activities of daily living. No previous studies required.

Tuesday | Feb. 10

TNT! (Tuesday Night Talmud). 8-9 p.m. Open to men, women and teens of all levels and backgrounds. This is a collaborative group study of the first chapter of Masechet Berachot, tractate dealing with blessings. Meets weekly in the rabbi’s study at Congregation Beth Sholom, 275 Camp St., Providence. For information, 401-621-9393.

Wednesday | Feb. 11

Jewish Culture through Film: “Hunting Elephants.” 7 p.m. Dwares JCC. Hosted by Israeli Emissary Gilor Meshulam. “Hunting Elephants” centers on a 12-year-old Israeli boy named Jonathan, who is dealt a cruel doubleblow by fate. First his father is killed in a freak accident while working at the local

bank. Then, not only does the bank deny fault, they also declare they’ll repossess the boy’s home. Pushed to the brink, the boy must find money fast and so decides to rob the bank that’s offended him.

But he needs a team. Unfortunately for Jonathan, the only crew he has access to is three senior citizens. Admission $5, Members $3. For more information or to RSVP, contact Erin Moseley at 401421-4111, ext. 108 or emoseley@ jewishallianceri.org.

Mothers Circle. 7-9 p.m. Dwares JCC. Join the Mothers Circle to learn about Jewish rituals, holidays, ethics and how to create Jewish family life at home.

This free 15-session course began in Jan. and runs through May 13. No experience necessary! All mothers are welcome, and participants do not have to be affiliated with a Jewish institution.

For more information, contact Sara Foster at 401-421-4111, ext. 184 or sfoster@jewishallianceri.org.

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Orange maple glazed salmon and whole-wheat honey challah

BY LIZ RUEVEN THE NOSHER/JTA — By the time January rolls around it’s time to face the music: We’ve indulged in latkes and sufganiyot (it’s only once a year!), avoided insulting co-workers by eating mounds of their homemade cookies (that they stayed up all night baking!) and rang in the New Year with a heaping stack of (you fill in the blank) made with copious amounts of butter.

So for a healthy change, I came up with this Asianinspired salmon dish. After searching my winter markets, I chose citrus for bright color and flavor, and balanced it with my favorite local maple syrup.

The moist salmon fillets are a perfect foil for a glossy Asian glaze. This dish is fine served at room temperature and will make tasty leftovers.

I recommend serving it alongside Shannon Sarna’s Honey Whole-Wheat Challah, which combines the best of a sweet indulgent challah with the healthfulness of wholewheat flour and even ground flaxseed.

Orange Maple Glazed Salmon Ingredients

4 salmon fillets 1/4 teaspoon salt 1/4 teaspoon pepper 1 tablespoon sesame seeds 2 navel oranges (for zest and juice listed below) 3 tablespoons olive oil 2 scallions, chopped

4 cloves garlic, peeled and chopped 1 (2-inch) piece fresh ginger, peeled and minced 1/3 cup maple syrup (grade B is best for cooking and baking) 1/3 cup fresh orange juice 3 tablespoons low-sodium soy sauce 2 teaspoons sesame oil 2 teaspoons apple cider vinegar 1 tablespoon orange zest

Directions

Rinse and pat dry salmon fillets.

Place on large plate and salt and pepper each piece. Set aside.

Heat a large, cast iron or non-stick frying pan. Do not oil. When the pan is hot add sesame seeds. Stir often and watch carefully to avoid burning. Toast until golden. Set aside in small dish.

Juice orange to fill 1/3 cup and set aside.

Grate or zest orange peel being careful to do so with a light hand. Do not zest white pith (it’s bitter). Measure 1 tablespoon and set aside.

Wipe out frying pan and place on medium flame. Heat EVOO until glistening and place salmon fillets, skin side down in pan. Cook for 2-3 minutes until golden.

Turn gently and brown the second side. Do not move fish while it is cooking. If skin sticks or falls off, it’s OK. It may be discarded if you like.

Remove fish from pan and set aside.

Place remaining ingredients (except sesame seeds) in pan and stir to combine. Cook 3-4 minutes, stirring frequently, until sauce is reduced and thickened.

If using a cast iron pan, return salmon to the pan and spoon sauce on top of fillets. If using a non-stick pan, place fillets in an ovenproof dish (spray with cooking spray to prevent sticking) and spoon sauce over fish.

Bake at 350 degrees for 6-8 minutes or until fish is cooked to your liking. If you like the salmon, cooked through, it should flake with a fork.

Plate salmon with glaze from the bottom of pan and a sprinkle of sesame seeds.

Note: This dish may be served hot, warm or at room temperature. It makes great leftovers.

Honey Whole Wheat Challah Ingredients

1 1/4 cups lukewarm water 1 1/2 tablespoons dry yeast 1/2 cup + 1 teaspoon sugar 2 1/2 cups all-purpose unbleached flour 2-2 1/2 cups whole-wheat flour 2 tablespoons ground flax-

seed 1/2 tablespoon salt 1/4 cup vegetable oil 1/4 cup honey 2 eggs 2 egg yolks plus 1 teaspoon water + 1 teaspoon honey Whole flaxseed, pumpkin seeds, sunflower seeds, sesame seeds, poppy seeds (optional) Thick sea salt (optional)

Directions

In a small bowl, place yeast, 1 teaspoon sugar and lukewarm water. Allow to sit around 10 minutes, until it becomes foamy on top.

In a large bowl or stand mixer fitted with the whisk attachment, mix together 3/4 cup whole-wheat flour, 3/4 cup allpurpose flour, salt and sugar.

After the water-yeast mixture has become foamy, add to flour mixture along with oil and honey. Mix thoroughly. Pro tip: use the same cup to measure the honey as you used for the oil, which will allow for easier clean-up of the sticky honey.

Add another 1/2 cup wholewheat flour, 1/2 cup regular flour and eggs and mix until smooth. Switch to the dough hook attachment if you are using a stand mixer.

Add another 1 1/2-2 cups of

mixed flour, mixing thoroughly and then remove from bowl and place on a floured surface. Knead remaining 1/2 cup flour into dough, continuing to knead for around 10 minutes (or however long your hands will last).

Place dough in a greased bowl and cover with damp towel. Allow to rise at least 4 hours, punching down at least once if possible.

Preheat oven to 350 degrees.

Braid challah into desired shape. Allow challah to rise another 90 minutes, or until you can see the size has grown and challah seems light. This step is very important to ensure a light and fluffy challah.

In a small bowl beat 2 egg yolks with 1 teaspoon water and 1 teaspoon honey.

Brush egg wash liberally over challah. Sprinkle with seeds and thick sea salt if desired.

If making one large challah, bake around 28 minutes; if making two smaller challot, bake 24-26 minutes. When making round challot, make sure the middle has cooked through, which might require an extra 1-2 minutes baking time.

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Hearty winter Cholent for everyone

BY VICTOR SCHOENFELD According to the great Claudia Rodin (author of “The Book of Jewish Food” and “The New Book of Middle Eastern Food,” among many others) the origins of the classic French cassoulet and the traditional Jewish cholent are intermingled.

My version is a combination of the two. I have yet to meet someone who did not like this, even those who “don’t like cholent.” I make this in a huge (and very heavy) cast iron Dutch oven (8 quart), which fits nicely into our 36-inch oven, but the recipe can easily be split into two smaller more manageable casseroles, as long as you can fit them into your oven, or halved.

The marrow bones of the osso buco add richness, as does the fat from the goose breast, which is a nod to my father’s Hungarian origins.

I don’t like the “gooey” effect of too much pearl barley, but a little adds nice texture.

The beef stock adds to the overall very rich umami experience. I like large white beans, reminiscent of cassoulet, as they hold their shape and become luscious with long cooking.

Another nod to cassoulet is the addition of sausage.

Wine Recommendation: A bright Sauvignon Blanc or rich Chardonnay could offer a nice contrast, but I generally go for a lighter red such as Pi-

not Noir. Syrah also makes a good pair as the natural smoky element of the wine connects to the subtle smokiness of the cholent that comes from the goose breast and paprika.

We like to have a mixed green salad along with the cholent.

Cholent (Overnight Stew) Victor Style Serves 8+

Ingredients

4.4 lbs osso bucco cut into 0.7 inches thick slices (by the butcher) 2 smoked one-half goose breasts/duck (about 600 g), cut crosswise into 0.4 inches slices 2.2 pounds sausage (I use beef/lamb/pistachio sausage, locally produced), cut into 4-inch lengths 1.1 pounds large dry white beans, soaked for about 12 hours in water 1 whole head of garlic, separated into whole peeled cloves 3.3 pounds new red potatoes, washed Eggs (as many as you can fit in, try one per person) 4 onions, chopped 2 shallots, thinly sliced 1 cup pickled pearl onions, whole, drained 3.5 ounces pearl barley 1/4 cup decent red wine for deglazing Beef stock Salt to taste Pepper to taste Smoked paprika to taste

Directions

1. Brown the slices of goose in a large, heavy bottomed skillet (you can do this directly in the Dutch oven, but I find it easier this way). You need no oil, as the goose fat

quickly renders itself. Set aside.

2. Brown the osso buco in the goose fat. Set aside.

3. Brown the sausage in the same pan, set aside.

4. Add the onions and shallots and sauté in the remaining fat, until lightly browned.

Add a bit of olive oil if necessary. Set aside.

5. Deglaze the pan with the red wine, then transfer liquid to Dutch oven.

6. Make a thin layer at the bottom of the Dutch oven with a third of the beans and onion and barley, with a sprinkling of the spices.

7. Add a layer of half of the osso buco, sausage, eggs and potatoes.

8. Add another layer of the beans, etc.

9. Add another layer of the meat, etc.

10. Finish with the remaining beans, etc. Depending on the size of the osso buco slices, eggs and potatoes, it could be a challenge to fit everything in. Have an additional casserole on hand for the overflow, if any.

11. Fill with liquid until there’s about 1 inch of liquid covering the ingredients. If

you have enough beef stock, use that.

If the beef stock is concentrated, use to taste and then use water to come to desired level. If you do not have stock, use water.

12. Bring to a boil and remove scum.

13. Cover with lid. If the lid does not fit tightly, there is a danger of the cholent drying out and burning overnight.

You can add a doubled strip of aluminum foil between the Dutch oven and lid to help seal.

14. Put overnight in a 230 degree oven.

15. In the morning, I check on the cholent to see everything is okay. If it is missing

liquid, I will add some water. If it is too fatty, I will skim some of the fat off the top. If it is too liquidy, I will take some of the liquid out and reduce in another pan and return.

16. Shoot for a consistency of a stew; not soup on the one hand or neither a pile of mush.

17. After reaching desired consistency, turn off heat.

18. Reheat prior to serving.

19. Open at table and hear “oohs” and “ahhs.”

20. Enjoy.

21. Take a nap.

VICTOR SCHOENFELD is head winemaker at YardenGolan Heights Winery in Israel.

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are Israeli-Arab, he said. Both are internationally recognized academic institutions.

This summer, the government acted with “moral clarity” to protect everyone, he said.

“All the Israeli government did this summer was to protect [its citizens]. And it didn’t matter that the rockets fired were indiscriminate, and it did not care that they were hitting Muslims, which they did, or that they were hitting Christian houses, which they did. We don’t make those distinctions, and that’s something we are very proud of.”

Terrorism does not differentiate when it is trying to achieve its goals, he told the audience.

“Terrorism is trying to bring the world to its knees,” he said.

“We have to continue to stand together.”

His speech coincided with the unity march in Paris. Of the millions in the streets, he said, “What we saw today with a million people made clear that the free world is standing up. This has been an emotionally draining week. We just have to continue to stand. And when we stand, we win.”

This was Yaakov’s first speech to the Rhode Island community since his appointment as Consul General. The program was put together by the Community Relations Council of the Jewish Alliance of Greater Rhode Island.

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potential for business between Rhode Island and Israel. He mentioned healthcare alliances already in place such as contributions to brain research at Brown University and two Bird Foundation grants recently

and lost them in the same posting.”

All the same, he said, it’s important to remember that not everyone goes to Israel, so it’s a challenge to bring a little of Israel over here and elsewhere.

Service since 1989, Yaakov has served in New York and New Zealand, including a stint as Consul for Media and Public Affairs at the Consulate General in New York (from 1997 to 2001). He is an expert on the Iranian crisis and has focused his efforts on how to resolve it. He grew up in Queens, New York, has a degree from Syracuse University and made aliyah in 1983.

The opportunity to hear the Consul General for the first time, particularly following the terror events of the previous week in France, drew a wide range of community members. Members of the Rhode Island congressional delegation attended as did a number of state legislators and officials.

PHOTO | JEWISH VOICE Ya a kov ’s s p e e c h touched on a wide range Yehuda Yaakov and Rabbi Wayne Franklin talk after the program. of topics. Terrorism and Israel has made a point of trythe situation in France figured awarded to Rhode Island recipiing to lead and partner wherprominently as did economic ents.

El Al airline’s nonstop service ever it can in the world. “In our relations between New England between Boston and Tel Aviv, DNA is this very strong sense and Israel.

He says he looks forward to starting in June, will encour- of tikkun olam. Israel is leading working with the new gover- age more cooperation, he said. the world in per capita contrinors of both Massachusetts and Adding that service was on his butions fighting the spread of strategic planning list when ebola.

Rhode Island.

“We don’t have to do what we In Massachusetts, there al- he started his job last year, he ready has been a great deal of said, it came about much faster do to make the world a better business cooperation with Isra- than expected. “It is important place but, yes, we do have to beel. Three percent of the state’s to use these flights,” he told the cause that’s who we are.”

Members of the Rhode IsGNP results from these part- crowd, laughing. “I don’t want to be remembered as the Consul land congressional delegation, nerships, Yaakov said.

And, he said he sees great General who brought the flights including Rep. Jim Langevin,

Rep. David Cicilline and Sen. Sheldon Whitehouse, took to the podium to reaffirm their support of Israel. Sen. Jack Reed sent a statement about the bond between Rhode Island and Israel.

A question-and-answer session, moderated by the honorable Richard Licht, followed Yaakov’s remarks.

Yaakov addressed a number of issues raised by the audience, including French Jewish immigration to Israel: “There are several immigration gatherings per week in France attended by hundreds of people. There is a sense that overwhelming majority of young French Jews are on their way out of France.

This will present challenges.

This is painful for France.” He pointed out that they will go not only to Israel but to Quebec, London and the U.S. Yaakov worried at the end of the afternoon that his speech had been too negative because there are so many worries and conflicts and challenges around the world. But he stressed that there are many positives to focus on as well. He encouraged the crowd to work together to solidify ties to Israel and to personalize Israel and their individual relationship to Israel. “It’s so important that the younger generation – Jewish and non-Jewish – realize our shared values. It’s real; it’s concrete.”

FRAN OSTENDORF is editor the The Jewish Voice.

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Jewish Alliance agencies were encouraged to participate in an agency-wide contest designed to increase volunteer participation. The University of Rhode Island Hillel won, bringing a total of nine volunteers during the day.

Sunday also offered the opportunity to hear the Israeli Consul General to New England, Yehuda Yaakov, speak about Israel and the Middle East, from Iran to the current situation in Israel. The Social Hall was filled with more than 200 people, and he was received with heartwarming applause.

Elissa Felder enjoyed making her phone calls. “In the Jewish tradition, it is important to be grateful and to recognize the good that others do for us. In this spirit, the 10 women that were fortunate enough to participate in an Israel trip with the Jewish Women’s Renaissance Project want to express their thanks to the Alliance for their financial assistance. We

are here today giving back and showing our gratitude,” she said.

Super Sunday was chaired this year by Camp JORI President, Deb Salinger, and Jewish Community Day School President, Laurence Kot ler-B erkow it z .

The two agency heads came together to create a cohesive bond among the different agencies and synagogues, leading the day to a great success. Kotler-Berkowitz noted, “Today was a great day for the PHOTOS | JEWISH ALLIANCE Rhode Island Jewish community. Thanks Super Sunday Co-Chairs Laurence Kotler-Berkowitz and Deb Salinger, 2015 Campaign Chair Mitzi to the generosity of Berkelhammer, and Alliance Board Chair Sharon Gaines celebrate the number of dollars raised. hundreds of donors, the Alliance raised critical Alliance Campaign.” SalinThe 2015 Annual Campaign For more information about funds to support Jews here in ger agreed by saying, “I was Chair, Mitzi Berkelhammer, the 2015 Annual Campaign, Rhode Island and in overseas inspired by the collaboration echoed the chairs’ sentiments. the Jewish Alliance or to make communities. We are grateful shown by so many members of “The Campaign got off to a your gift by phone, contact to everyone who supports the our community agencies.” fabulous start, and we continue Michele Gallagher at mgallato grow,” she said. “It’s wonder- gher@jewishallianceri.org or ful to see all the volunteers and 401-421-4111, ext. 165. You can even more wonderful to see the also make your gift to the 2015 total number of dollars raised.” Annual Campaign by texting Overall Super Sunday was a SuperSundayRI to 51818, or ongreat success, demonstrating line at jewishallianceri.org. the strength of a community, unifying agencies, synagogues HILLARY SCHULMAN is the and families alike, and making development associate in phia difference in our community lanthropy for the Jewish Alliand abroad, one phone call at a ance of Greater Rhode Island. time.

The URI Hillel team included Dave Talan, Aaron Guttin, Amy Olson, Susan Leach DeBlasio, Seth Finkle, Allie Robbio and Ariel Marcus (not pictured: Barbara Sokoloff).

2015 Phone-a-thon Chair Marc Gertsacov with his son, Harrison

The Jewish Women’s Renaissance Project team included Meryle Cawley, Deborah Kutenplon, Alison Walter, Laurie Tessier, Elissa Felder, Jill Pearlman, Tichyeh Schochet and Barbara Fields (not pictured: Tara Demyan).

Barbara Sokoloff makes a few phone calls.

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The beauty of off-peak weddings

BY IRINA MISSIURO imissiuro@jewishallianceri.org When we think of wedding photos, we usually picture a beautiful couple posing somewhere picturesque – maybe on a beach, strolling along the waves, or at a park, standing next to some colorful plants.

What about those couples who dispense with the traditional idea of a sunny weekend ceremony? Are they trying too hard to be different or are they onto something? Why would someone take a chance on the weather and plan a winter wedding? Or, even stranger, why have a brunch instead of a dinner reception? Since wedding etiquette and style are forever changing, a couple of professionals provided some guidance to keep those planning their big day abreast of the latest trends.

Cigall Goldman, founder and CEO of mazelmoments. com, a site that celebrates Jewish events and offers free resources that include a Jewish Wedding Timeline & Checklist, says that she is seeing an increase in off-peak weddings.

That broad category includes not only months – October through April are less in-demand than the rest – but also days, with weekdays gaining in popularity. The most adventurous couples are even moving up their celebrations to earlier in the day – brunch fanatics have made their choice in vogue. Of course, the most obvious advantage of straying from the norm is the

time off the couple” by offering a list of choices. Other options, such as investing some time into searching the Internet, interviewing providers at venues, talking to people who were happy with their preferences on their wedding day help too.

Goldman believes that “the best advice will likely come from people in similar situations.” She suggests that you gather referrals through word-of-mouth and social media. But even if someone greatly recommends a company, it doesn’t mean that you will have the same experience. Interviews will narrow down those vendors with whom you will enjoy working. Goldman thinks that finding somebody “who is responsive to your needs and whose personality and work ethic complement yours” is the most important factor in the planning COURTESY | H&H PHOTOGRAPHERS process. Once you settle on A wedding is happy in any season. a vendor, you can address the issue of discounts that choice. Goldman points out passes multiple advantages, the company can offer you or that another benefit is guest including, “venue availabil- the packages and installment availability, “You’re not com- ity with better price options, plans they can customize. peting as much with vacations time options and additional Of course, not every asand other special events.” value items,” as well as “avail- pect of an off-peak wedding Bonnie Gold is the artistic ability of a wider range of ven- is guaranteed to be positive. half of Gold Events, “Elegant dors and vendor packages.” Outdoor ceremonies aren’t and Creative Event Planning In her opinion, the best way possible in frosty weather, for in Boston, Massachusetts and to find discounts during the instance. Even if the temperaRhode Island,” as the com- off-season is to hire a planner tures might allow for placing pany’s site describes their who “can do all the legwork for the chuppa in a scenic view, services. She counts on her you.” She says that a planner couples should have a plan B 15-plus-year career in the in- will know which questions to in case that lonely cloud turns dustry to guide her decisions. ask and what items to request. into a downpour. Also, don’t Along with her husband, Jerry Also, Gold thinks that their think that it’s slow season evGold, the business part of the services “take the burden of erywhere just because it’s offpeak time for weddings. The colder months that find no favor with brides and grooms, for example, appeal to business travelers who gather at resorts for conventions. It’s a good idea to call the resort to ability to negotiate deals and benefit from savings offered by business-hungry vendors filling gaps in their schedule.

The lack of demand affords the bride and groom the luxury of higher discounts and more

team, Gold ensures that her clients’ weddings are not only stylish but creatively designed using cost-effective methods, such as donated resources.

She, too, thinks that having an off-season wedding encom-

find out when their slow season begins so that you are not competing for lounge chairs with hordes of people during your honeymoon. If yours is a destination wedding, consider holding it on a weekday to save money. The wedding party has to travel anyway – they might not mind if the event doesn’t fall on a weekend. In addition, ask for a group discount since all of your guests will probably stay in the same spot.

Often, people are hesitant to inquire about deals out of embarrassment or awkwardness.

It doesn’t hurt to ask, though – the worst that can happen is that the answer will be “no.”

With regards to particulars, the same advice applies to offseason weddings as to those in peak-season. This includes sticking with local products, such as flowers, and signing up for alerts from bridal salons to learn about end-ofseason sales. Also, don’t forget to take advantage of the sales department stores hold during the first three months of the year to score bargains on bridesmaid dresses and mother-of-the-bride gowns.

The most important tip to keep in mind, though, is to remember the big picture – the goal is to celebrate your love for each other and have fun working as a team on your special day. Gold says, “Don’t let little things while planning take away from what this day is really about!” Goldman echoes that sentiment, pointing out, “Wedding planning should be fun and bring the couple closer together.” L’chaim and mazel tov!

IRINA MISSIURO is a writer and editorial consultant for The Jewish Voice.

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A wedding planner’s dream: Planning my daughter’s wedding

BY LAURIE ROBINSON I have been an event planner for over 14 years and have coordinated hundreds of events including weddings, bar/bat mitzvot as well as corporate events and birthday parties.

It is always an honor to work with new clients and equally as exciting when clients return to plan their next milestone event. We treat each and every event as if it was our own, and when we do plan one of our own, it’s even more special.

As a wedding planner, I knew the day would come when it would be my chance to plan my daughter’s wedding. And as fate would have it, the years have gone by, and my little girl, Amy, is now a grown woman and has met her “Prince Charming” – Jeff They dated for two years and quickly knew they wanted to spend the rest of their lives together.

Last summer, Jeff asked Amy’s father for permission to marry her, which was happily granted. He creatively proposed, and she said, “yes!” They live out of state, and with the help of technology, I was able to be part of their joy, and since that day, it has been a wedding planner’s dream … to plan my daughter’s wedding.

While getting engaged is magical, the planning process can be very overwhelming.

Amy and Jeff feel fortunate to be able to rely on a professional wedding planner/Mom. Since Amy and Jeff’s goal was to be married during peak season in Newport, we started venue shopping soon after they became engaged. We researched all the possibilities, and I scheduled appointments on a weekend so that they could visualize where their special day would take place.

Establishing a budget is a critical component of wedding

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Save the Date engagement shoot with Jeff Raymond and Amy Robinson and Piper and Lily. planning. The reality is that expenses add up quickly and often exceed the original budget. It is important to understand real wedding costs; i.e., photographer, videographer, flowers, entertainment, reception and invitations. I could not imagine planning a wedding without a true understanding of the income/resources available to support these expenses.

Once Amy and Jeff selected the venue and date, we scheduled appointments with the vendors and entered into contracts to secure these services.

My daughter did an amazing job researching bridal gowns/ designers, and she made appointments to try on specific styles and designers. It was so emotional for me and her two grandmothers to see her in a wedding gown for the first time and to be there when she

said “yes” to the dress.

The guest list is completed, and the “Save the Date” that includes the wedding website with all the details will be mailed this month.

We will work next on the invitations and other details, and I look forward to continuing to provide my guidance every step of the way. As for the day of the wedding, I will be the “Mother of the Bride,” and my trusted staff will take over to ensure that Amy and Jeff have the wedding of their dreams.

LAURIE ROBINSON formed Event Planning Specialists LLC in 2000. The East Greenwich company has two staff members. She has worked in the field since 1993.

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Plan your wedding with ease A treasure trove of helpful sites

BY IRINA MISSIURO imissiuro@jewishallianceri.org Cinderella was frustrated. Yes, she had a gorgeous engagement ring on her finger, but until a wedding band was next to it, there was so much to get done!

Just the thought of all the wedding planning made her feel as if she were still wearing those uncomfortable glass slippers. Cinderella wished she still had the Fairy Godmother helping her out. As she reminisced, a new Skype friend request popped up from “Magic Wand.” Accepting, she saw the familiar kind face on the profile picture. “Fairy Godmother!” Cinderella shared her concerns and asked for advice. After all, the prescient woman was an expert on romance.

The edited transcript of their conversation: CINDERELLA: Which resource can I rely on?

FAIRY GODMOTHER: Well, The Knot, theknot.com, is kind of the oldest catch-all. It’s been around since you were in middle school. Founded in ’96, it includes all kinds of services – newspaper advice columns, books, magazines, broadcast programs, TV shows, online portals, on-demand channels… Vogue calls it “the chicest website in cyberspace.” Who am I to argue?! You can check out their extensive gown gallery, find local florists and photographers, read articles, chat with community members and watch inspiring clips.

C: Sounds great! A bit overwhelming, though. Can you tell me about some sites that have a more narrow focus?

FGM: Sure, let’s start with WeddingWire, weddingwire.com. This one’s a bit newer – it was launched in 2007. Most couples use it to read reviews of merchants, party planners and vendors.

They like the ability to research and compare their options. Also, the site’s free planning tools, such as checklists, come in handy.

C: Yes, but what about settling on a venue?

FGM: No worries, there’s a site for that too; it’s called Wedding Spot, wedding-spot.com. I know how busy you and the prince are with your courtly obligations. I think you’ll find this resource useful for gathering trustworthy information quickly. Just plug your

criteria into the site’s search engine to generate side-by-side comparisons of multiple venues. They don’t have Rhode Island information yet, but Massachusetts is close enough, right?

C: True. After I choose the place, I’ll have to figure out the seating chart. Let me tell you – deciding where to place my stepsisters is already making me verklempt.

FGM: I know. It’s the least pleasant part of wedding planning. Allseated, allseated.com, is a site that lets you create seating charts and floor plans, as well as manage your guest list. With their innovative tools and user-friendly interface, you’ll quickly be up to date on your table arrangement and your guests’ RSVPs. C: Speaking about tables, I feel I’ve been spending a little too much time at mine. All the wedding stress is causing me to indulge, and all the carbs are not helping my figure! In fact, I have gained so much weight that I’m now shopping at plus-size departments!

FGM: I’m sure the prince loves your new shape! If you’re worried about finding a beautiful dress that will fit, though, look no further than Pretty Pear Bride, prettypearbride.com. It’s dedicated to helping curvy brides wear gorgeous fashions. The site also offers inspiration – you can check out real couples’ wedding stories and take advantage of the comprehensive bridal salon directory.

C: Wow! I’m glad to hear this option exists, but say I get serious about Zumba and lose the extra pounds? If my New Year’s resolution works, where do I shop for a dress?

FGM: I’ve always been fond of Nearly Newlywed, nearlynewlywed.com. I like the fact that brides can avoid the sales pressure by skipping the salon and opting to shop for a gown online. Novel?

Yes. Risky? No. This site not only offers you huge discounts on designer dresses, but also sends you a selection to try on. Just send back the ones you like less!

C: How easy! What about the accessories to go with the dress?

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small stuff?! Happily Ever Borrowed, happilyeverborrowed. com, provides all the accessories you will need on your special day. The best part? Renting a designer veil, head piece, belt and jewelry will cost you only 20 percent of the retail price. What’s more – this fee includes minor damage insurance and return shipping.

C: Now that I know where to find my gown, what about my bridesmaids? They’re all so different! My stepsisters alone look like the number 10 when they’re standing next to each other…

FGM: Don’t despair. I know just the site; it’s called Brideside, brideside.com. Women’s figures are as diverse as snowflakes. That’s why it’s nearly impossible to find a dress that flatters every bridesmaid. To keep them looking beautiful and feeling happy, the site offers a fit algorithm, a try-athome program and helpful videos.

C: I’m not sure a pretty dress will be sufficient to keep these girls happy. I have a feeling they expect more from a princess. What about a getaway?

Any suggestions?

FGM: You needn’t have asked. I was just about to tell you what a great resource The Bach, thebach.com, is. Its guides help brides plan fun trips to the destination of their choice. After all, what better opportunity than a bachelorette party to go on vacation with your girlfriends? Enjoy the ease of following researched recommendations to learn what places to visit and how to get there.

C: I can’t wait to get away with my friends ... and to taste alcohol for the first time! I know nothing about it – how am I going to choose wine for

the wedding?

FGM: You’re in luck again!

BevMo, bevmoweddings.com, comes to the rescue. Register at this site to be teamed up with a beverage expert who will arrange for a private tasting to select the right options for your rehearsal dinner and reception. The site’s tools also assist you in stocking the bar with just the right amount of alcohol for your event.

C: With all that alcohol, I hope no one gets into a fight during my wedding. I hear it’s common when a bunch of strangers celebrate.

FGM: It’s rare in the royal circles, my dear. To remind people of the classy company they keep, why not introduce all the family members and guests to one another with a customized magazine?

Guesterly, guesterly.com, a site dreamed up by former magazine editors, will create this cool keepsake for you. You can place one in every guest’s grab bag to show off photos and share your story, in case they haven’t heard it yet.

C: And what a story it is! I think I’d like to share it online as well. Is there a site that helps you create a wedding website?

FGM: Yes, Squarespace, squarespace.com, is up to the job. If you don’t mind paying a low monthly fee (and we all know you can afford to part with $8), you can use the site’s templates to incorporate all your wedding-related details – your meeting story, travel accommodations and gift registry. Since you already have the fine china, you might as well point out to your guests the site’s option to make a cash gift. Then, you can always donate it to me – pumpkins are getting expensive!

C: You got it! About donation.

My fiancé insists on “donating” his last name to me. The ordeal of changing the name seems overwhelming.

I’m tempted to say no.

FGM: If you don’t mind the change, why get into a squabble just because you don’t have the time to devote to the prospect? There’s always a solution, dear. HitchSwitch, hitchswitch.com, happens to be just that. Even though you’re choosing to go the traditional way, you don’t have to do it in an old-fashioned manner. This site eliminates the need to figure out which forms you need to fill out, where to get them and where to send them. All you have to do is pay the onetime fee of $25. All the necessary paperwork will arrive in your mail.

C: That does sound simple!

Now, my last question has to do with what happens after the wedding. Don’t get nervous – I’m wondering about the thank-you cards. With the number of guests we’re expecting, the process might be too strenuous. Is there an easier way?

FGM: Of course – it’s 2015, after all! Even Emily Post would have been proud of Postable, postable.com. This site allows the bride and groom to personalize thank-you cards.

Use the online writing tool and inexpensive eco-friendly cards to expedite the chore. There’s even a handwriting font to fool your stepmother into thinking you have good penmanship.

C: Thank you so much, Fairy Godmother! I’ll be trying Postable; watch for your card!

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Notes from a mother with two children getting married in the same year

BY JUDY MOSELEY

to do that.

Here are some things I am trying, and I stress trying, to do to keep the peace with the many personalities involved.

This is not the Oscars. No one is winning an award for the “Best Supporting Mother or Mother-In-Law in a Drama.” I

When you asked me two years ago if my two children were ever going to get married, my answer would have been “I certainly hope so but nothing is in the near future.” Oops, I spoke too soon. The year of 2015 will be very exciting in the Moseley family.

My son, Mark, will be marrying in August and my daughter, Erin, will be marrying in November.

I now officially have wedding on the brain. Thank goodness it is not two daughters.

I have dreams about wedding disasters and keep a to-do list by my bed.

As excited as I may be to start making all the a r ra ngements, there are at least two important things I am trying to keep in mind: 1. It’s my children’s weddings, not mine. They both have very different ideas and plans of their Jennifer Lally and Mark Moseley own.

2. I want to enjoy the party, too. If I take over am trying (there is that trying the planning, I won’t have time word again) to give my opin-

ion once and if the brides or grooms decide not to run with it, I will let it go. Pushing my opinion to the point of confrontation only makes me stressed and crazy and my children angry with me. I need to remember that I must not be more focused on being right rather I must be focused on keeping the brides and grooms happy.

I’m “Type A” but that does not give me a pass to hound everyone and remind them of what they have to do. Micromanaging doesn’t make the wedding perfect, it just will get my children frustrated with me and not make it the simcha (happy) experience it should be.

The wedding planning is a long and tedious process. I know from my own experience there are so many things that happen during the process, it’s almost unbelievable.

My job as a mother is to support my children during the most important day of their life.

And finally, I am trying (that word again) to remember that weddings are a production.

In order for the show to run smoothly, I have to allow my children to make the final decisions. As a mother I must be supportive in

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Erin Moseley and Aji Mussafeer their decisions and remember that the day is all about the brides, but also the grooms.

I know I will need to learn to count to 10, take a deep breath and then respond. It may not always be possible but I so wish that both of my children and their spouses will still be

speaking to me at the end.

I am looking forward to having my family grow and many new family traditions begin.

JUDY MOSELEY is executive director of Temple Beth-El in Providence.

What’s a Father to do when it comes to planning a wedding?

BY MARC RUSSMAN Here begins your “Fiddler on the Roof” experience. The little girl you carried has turned overnight into a beautiful sunflower. She’s engaged to a nice man, a good man, true love.

He’s promised she’ll be happy, and now it’s time to plan the wedding. Father knows best, right?

By the time you’re a father of the bride, you know your way around a checkbook. A survivor who has persevered through family vacations to Disneyworld (ka-ching).

You’ve weathered the bat mitzvah celebration (ka-ching).

And, withstood high school prom night (ka-ching). You’ve scaled the highest peak of all – college tuition (ka-ching and double ka-ching).

But now it’s the big enchilada, a Jewish wedding. Sunrise, sunset. Sunrise, sunset. Swiftly flow the … ka-ching.

It’s not about the money everyone tells you. It’s your only daughter, your wife reminds you. Don’t you want to give your loving daughter the wedding of her dreams? Of course you do. But, how can you help?

There must be many ways for the father of the bride to make a meaningful contribution to planning his daughter’s wedding. Right? Of course, right.

How about planning the wedding meal? Good place to start.

Big ticket item.

Everyone

knows good food. All you have to do is hire the right caterer.

You’ve eaten in a thousand restaurants. Food is food. So what does it matter if everyone has an opinion about the food, especially the bride, the groom, the mothers. There are allergies and preferences to deal with; shouldn’t be a problem.

If you think a canapé is what you stand under in case it rains during the wedding ceremony, you might be the father of the bride. If you think a charger is what goes between a wall’s electrical outlet and your iSomething, then you definitely might be the father of the bride.

Maybe catering isn’t the right responsibility.

How about the wedding gown? Another big ticket item. Just the place for a father’s perspective on value.

If you think Kleinfeld’s is a N.Y. kosher deli, you might be the father of the bride. If you think tuile (pronounced tool) is something you learned to use in a high school woodshop, then you definitely might be the father of the bride.

This wedding planning is getting tougher than I thought.

Time to step up your game. Not much else left to plan though.

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Investing as a couple: Getting to yes In a perfect world, both halves of a couple share the same investment goals and agree on the best way to try to reach them. It doesn’t always work that way, though; disagreements about money are often a source of friction between couples.

You may be risk averse while your spouse may be comfortable investing more aggressively BARBARA – or vice verKENERSON sa. How can you bridge that gap?

First, define your goals Making good investment decisions is difficult if you don’t know what you’re investing for. Make sure you’re on the same page – or at least reading from the same book – when it comes to financial goal-setting. Knowing where you’re headed is the first step toward developing a road map for dealing jointly with investments.

In some cases you may have the same goals but put a different priority on each one or have two different time frames for a specific goal. For example, your spouse may want to retire as soon as possible while you’re anxious to accept a new job that means advancement in your career even if it means staying put or moving later.

Coming to a general agreement on what your priorities are and roughly when you hope to achieve each one can greatly simplify the process of deciding how to invest.

Make sure the game plan is clear Making sure both spouses know how and (equally important) why their money is invested in a certain way can help minimize marital blowback if investment choices don’t work out as anticipated.

Second-guessing rarely improves any relationship. Making sure that both partners understand from the beginning why an investment was chosen, as well as its risks and potential rewards, may help moderate the impulse to say “I told you so” later.

Investing doesn’t have to be either/or. A diversified portfolio should have a place for both conservative and more aggressive investments. Though diversification can’t guarantee a profit or ensure against a loss, it’s one way to manage the type and level of risk you face – including the risks involved in bickering with your spouse.

It takes two Aside from attempting to minimize marital strife, there’s another good reason to make sure both spouses understand how their money is invested and why. If only one person makes all the decisions – even if that person is the more experienced investor – what if something were to happen to that individual?

The other spouse might have to make decisions at a very vulnerable time – decisions that could have long-term consequences.

If you’re the less experienced investor, take the responsibility for making sure you have at least a basic understanding of how your resources are invested. If you’re suddenly the one responsible for all decisions, you should at least know enough to protect yourself from fraud and/or work effectively with a financial professional to manage your money.

If you’re the more conservative investor If you’re unfamiliar with a specific investment, research it. Though past performance is no guarantee of future returns, understanding how an investment typically has behaved in the past or how it compares to other investment possibilities could give you a better perspective on why your spouse is interested in it.

Consider whether there are investments that are less aggressive than what your spouse is proposing but that still push you out of your comfort zone and might represent a compromise position. For example, if you don’t want to

invest a large amount in a single stock, a mutual fund or exchange-traded fund (ETF) that invests in that sector might be a way to compromise. (Before investing in a mutual fund or ETF, carefully consider its investment objective, risks, charges and expenses, which can be found in the prospectus available from the fund. Read it carefully before investing.)

Or you could compromise by making a small investment, watching for an agreed-upon length of time to see how it performs, and then deciding whether to invest more.

Finally, there may be ways to offset, reduce or manage the risk involved in a particular investment. Some investments benefit from circumstances that hurt others; for example, a natural disaster that cuts the profits of insurance companies could be beneficial for companies that are hired to rebuild in that area. Many investors try to hedge the risks involved in one investment by purchasing another with very different risks. However, remember that even though hedging could potentially reduce your overall level of risk, doing so probably would also reduce any return you might earn if the other investment is profitable.

If you’re the more aggressive investor Listen respectfully to your spouse’s concerns. Additional information may increase a spouse’s comfort level, but you won’t know what’s needed if you automatically dismiss any objections. If you don’t have the patience to educate your spouse, a third party who isn’t emotionally involved might be

better at explaining your point of view.

Concealing the potential pitfalls of an investment about which you’re enthusiastic could make future joint decisions more difficult if your

“Make sure you’re on the same page – or at least reading from the same book – when it comes to financial goal-setting.” credibility suffers because of a loss. As with most marital issues, transparency and trust are key.

A spouse who’s more cautious than you are may help you remember to assess the risks involved or keep trading costs down by reducing the churn in your portfolio.

Remember that you can make changes in your portfolio gradually. You might be able to help your spouse get more comfortable with taking on additional risk by spreading the investment out over time rather than investing a lump sum. And if you’re an impulsive investor, try not to act until you can consult your partner – or be prepared to face the consequences.

What if you still can’t agree?

You could consider investing a certain percentage of your combined resources aggressively, an equal percentage conservatively and a third percentage in a middle-ground

choice. This would give each partner equal input and control of the decision-making process even if one has a larger balance in his or her individual account.

Another approach is to use separate asset allocations to balance competing interests.

If both spouses have workplace retirement plans, the risk taker could invest the largest portion of his or her plan in an aggressive choice and put a smaller portion in an option with which a spouse is comfortable. The conservative partner would invest the bulk of his or her money in a relatively conservative choice and put a smaller piece in a more aggressive selection on which you both agree.

Or you could divide responsibility for specific goals. For example, the more conservative half could be responsible for the money that’s being saved for a house down payment in five years. The other partner could take charge of longerterm goals that may benefit from taking greater risk in pursuit of potentially higher returns. You also could consider setting a predetermined limit on how much the risk taker may put into riskier investments.

Finally, a neutral third party with some expertise and a dispassionate view of the situation may be able to help work through differences.

BARBARA KENERSON is First Vice President/Investments at Janney Montgomery Scott LLC and can be reached at BarbaraKenerson.com

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REMEMBER THE PAST From the Rhode Island Jewish Historical Association

“The love for, and dedication to one’s work seem to me to be the basis for happiness.”

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Ladies’ Hebrew Union Aid from the 1930s.

In praise of the volunteer’s spirit

BY GERALDINE S. FOSTER

Dr. Gerty Theresa Radnitz Cori with husband Dr. Carl F. Cori.

Gerty Theresa Radnitz Cori a science pioneer

BY TOBY ROSSNER It was early in the 20th century (1905) when the Nobel Peace Prize was first awarded to a woman – Baroness Bertha Sophie Felicita von Suttner, a leader of the international peace movement.

It took nearly another half century before the Nobel Prize was awarded to a woman in the sciences. On Dec. 10, 1947, the Nobel Prize for Physiology or Medicine was awarded to Dr. Gerty Theresa Radnitz Cori jointly with her husband Dr. Carl F. Cori, and Dr. Bernardo A. Houssay.

The scientists were honored for their research in identifying the “Cori Cycle” that reveals how the body converts carbohydrates into sugars that supply muscles with energy. This research was particularly important in leading to an understanding of and treatment for diabetes.

Gerty Cori met Carl during their first year at the Medical School of the German University in Prague. They co-published a paper on immune bodies in disease while still in medical school; upon graduation they continued their research in Vienna. It wasn’t long before they made the decision to leave Europe because of the rampant rise of anti-Semitism.

Carl was offered a position in Buffalo, New York; Gerty followed six months later when an assistant pathologist position became available. In 1931, after refusing a position at a university that would prohibit Gerty from

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working with him, Carl accepted the chairmanship of the pharmacology department at Washington University in St. Louis.

Once again, Gerty was hired as a research assistant at a nominal salary.

It was not until 1946, when Carl was appointed Washington University’s chairman of biochemistry, that Gerty was promoted to associate professor; and it was not until she was awarded the Nobel Prize that she became a full professor. In the late 1940s scientists from all over the world flocked to the university to work with Carl and Gerty; six subsequently were awarded the Nobel Prize.

In the NPR series “This I Believe,” Gerty Cori spoke about her lifelong values. “Honesty, which stands mostly for intellectual integrity, courage, and kindness, are still the virtues I admire, though with advancing years the emphasis has been slightly shifted and kindness seems more important to me (now) than in my youth. The love for, and dedication to one’s work seem to me to be the basis for happiness.”

To date, out of a total of 195 scientists, 10 females have been awarded the Nobel Prize.

TOBY ROSSNER (tobyross@ cox.net) was the director of media services at the Bureau of Jewish Education from 1978 to 2002. This is part of an occasional series on Jewish female scientists.

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Fijman finds the desired effect.

Whenever she exhibits work, she has to supply a description of the materials she works with; she enjoys writing it. About her ability to express herself in many ways, Fijman says, “I’m very multifaceted. My brain is prolific.” She explains that

creativity often leads to more stimulation, and she then feels frustrated that she doesn’t have the time to address all of her ideas, saying, “I need eight arms!” Fijman forces herself to synthesize her inspirations and focus on one at a time.

She refrains from describing

Let us begin with some statistics. Between 1880 and 1916, 21 Jewish women’s organizations received charters from the State of Rhode Island: one each in Pawtucket, Bristol and Woonsocket; three in Newport; the remainder in Providence. These were the years of the massive emigrations from Eastern Europe, when so many newcomers needed help, and Jewish communities were just beginning to take shape. The founders of these organizations were, with few exceptions, immigrants themselves who undertook the tremendous task of helping their neighbors through difficult times.

With six specific exceptions, the organizations all included charitable undertakings as their purpose. Education and social activities were highlighted in the three Young Women’s Hebrew Association of Newport, Woonsocket and Bristol.

Among the six exceptions were the Ladies’ Auxiliaries in Newport and South Providence who planned to build a mikveh in their respective cities. Another group had a charter for a Jewish orphanage; it existed for about a year. The other three grew from existing organizations: Miriam Hospital Association of Providence, R.I. (Miriam Society #1), the Jewish Home for the Aged (Ladies’ Hebrew Union Aid Association) and the North End Dispensary (National Council of Jewish Women).

The organizations in Providence often had the word “aid” in their title. That was their main reason for being – to give help where needed, be it mather art, preferring the viewers to interpret it. Fijman sees the role of the artist as secondary, believing that the final product must be loved for the image, not for the creator’s intention.

The aesthetic side dominates any other concern. The artist is a means to an end – driven by the work, he obeys its demands.

“You can’t control the process.”

Fijman is an expressive per-

zoh and Passover supplies, coal, clothing, medicines, visits to the sick and elderly at home or at the state institutions at Howard. They provided a social service safety net for the burgeoning Jewish population.

Too often the organizations duplicated services, and though well intentioned, not all prospered. Many disbanded after a short time or merged with more successful enterprises. In time the wider community established agencies to provide the needed social and medical services.

The women’s organizations, the founding mothers, became auxiliaries playing a supporting role.

In 1953, three of the “aid” organizations reinvented themselves. The women recognized their original purpose no longer had relevance. Their membership had dwindled, but they refused to “go out of business.” The venerable Montefiore Lodge Ladies Hebrew Benevolent Association (chartered in 1880), Ladies’ Hebrew Union Aid Association (1890) and South Providence Ladies Aid Association (1908) voted to join together to form the Festival Committee for the State Institutions of Rhode Island.

Although there had been visits to the state institutions at Howard and Wallum Lake for many years, there was no regular schedule. Transportation – public transportation – was difficult. Few, if any, women drove in the years before World War II. And so, the Jewish patients were neglected and often abused because they had no advocates or anyone visiting them. Either they had no relatives or their families had abandoned them. Chrisson who, to her dismay, is often misunderstood as pushy. She bristles at such categorizations.

In fact, any attempt at identification angers Fijman. A grandmother of five boys, she doesn’t see herself fitting the standard notion of that term. A widow, she hates to be called that. “I’m a person. Get to know me.” An immigrant, she is still trying to survive as her own person,

tian holidays were celebrated but not Jewish holidays.

Correcting this situation, filling a neglected niche in the community, renewed the sense of purpose of these dedicated volunteers. They set to work.

They built a chapel and saw to it that a rabbi held services at Howard. High Holy Days were properly observed and a sukkah erected in an auditorium.

They sponsored Seders; at the Ladd School all 100 residents and staff were invited. The one Jewish prisoner was not allowed to attend the Seder but was served his meal at the prison. Hanukkah and Purim parties, summer picnics, Shabbat dinners, gifts and treats from the hospital canteen – all were financed by the annual bridge and donations of money, food and services.

At first the women themselves cooked the Kosher meals and prepared the Kiddush that followed the religious services.

Later the kitchen staff of the hospitals took over the task under supervision.

A thick folder in the archives of Rhode Island Jewish Historical Association contains a record via newspaper clippings and photos of their work.

The record ends in 1978, when, one may surmise, the Festival Committee curtailed their work. We do not know when they ceased or the reasons.

Suffice it to say, an era and a view of community service had come to an end.

GERALDINE FOSTER is a past president of the Rhode Island Jewish Historical Association.To comment about this or any Rhode Island Jewish Historical Association article, email info@rijha.org.

to avoid being absorbed by the dominant culture. When she cooks, pounds and transforms Mulberry tree fibers into art, she feels whole – she knows what she is doing; she is accepted; she is reborn. On her website, she writes, “I am alive.

I am woman. I am constantly re-creating.”

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Musings on the march of life and Israel 1938 hurricane: I was in kindergarten. Front window broke, lamp fell on

SKETCHBOOK MIKE FINK

floor. Through grammar school, Depression ended, war began. Sixth grade: FDR died, V-E Day. Junior high: GI uncles and cousins came home. War orphans came from Europe to our schools, out of hiding in cellars, attics, forests, graveyards. 1948: Israel was declared a nation among nations! The hora was

a popular favorite on the hit parade and in our local nightclubs, the farm and the ranch house!

Meanwhile as a teen I needed friends and dates. I learned to drive a stick shift. 1961: The Eichmann trial in part of Jerusalem. I was already an instructor at RISD. The Providence Journal promised to print my account of a summer on a kibbutz, also teaching English in Tel Aviv … and commenting on the mood of the trial of the “Killer of the Jews of Europe.”

Oh, I was so high-minded and foolish! I somehow thought of Eichmann as a Cain, who could be exiled to the scorn of the world. Ha! He would have been glorified gleefully. The Grand Mufti of Jerusalem had applauded

An oil study from the RISD collection by Henry Ossawa Tanner (American, 1859–1937), “The Wailing Wall,” ca. 1898.

The following explanation accompanied the painting’s display: The son of an African Methodist Episcopal bishop, Tanner studied with Thomas Eakins in Philadelphia before acquiring advanced training in Paris. He established an international reputation in 1897 when one of his biblical scenes was awarded a medal at the 1897 Paris Salon and was purchased by the French government. Later that year, Tanner traveled to Palestine to assure the accuracy of his historical narratives through firsthand observation of landscape, costume and customs. In this study for a larger composition, devout Jews gather at the Western Wall, a remnant of the Second Temple of Jerusalem and the holiest place of prayer in the Jewish world. The oil on canvas is a gift of Mr. and Mrs. Leonard Granoff.

Hitler’s plan of total extermination! I argued with the Sabras. I admired the Arab garb of head-covering against the sun, their traditional kaffiyoth, their excellent coffee served in ceramic cups on porcelain tables in the cafes.

I appreciated Ephraim Kishon’s comic descriptions of the contradictions among the immigrant survivors. Some orthodox or Hasidic, others atheistic, still others from the four corners of the world, all with differing views and speaking an awkward mix of their native languages and their new Hebrew.

I returned to Rhode Island with a fresh set of beliefs.

I no longer respected the harsh judgments of the United Nations nor the praising of everything new in the American postwar period. In the new Holy Land, it was enough to share clothes on the kibbutz, seats on the second-hand buses, to hail hand-me-down used cabs.

I returned to Israel several times in the ensuing years and decades of my personal history. In 1967 after the Six Day War, to see the rest of Jerusalem, its sacred Western Wall. As in previous times, the sight was celebrated with courtesy. In 1973 after the Yom Kippur War, and in 1985 to greet the arrival of the Ethiopian community, once labeled Falashim, or “outsiders,” and now accepted as members of the Hebrew community, heirs to its sufferings

and its achievements.

Again in 1979, with a group of RISD students, and in 2001, during the intifada. To listen to lectures about Israel as an “existential” country, counting on each citizen to choose and to commit one’s spirit to actions of resistance to the hatred expressed by its neighboring nations who

“… liberals are not always liberal, just as conservatives are not truly conservative.” teach virulent anti-Semitism to their children in schools and in homes. My next pilgrimage to the Holy Land will be ... to bird-watch near the Hula Valley during a migratory season when the wildfowl join the Jews in flight toward their homeland.

The hope is that their habitat like the passengers in Noah’s Ark will represent the human world in its entirety, prayers for peace upon the planet.

As a graduate of the public schools of Providence, which has always been a Noah’s Ark of sorts, not only with our local Jerusalem and Galilee but with such personalities as Father Edward Flannery. He published a book twice about anti-Semitism before the establishment of the church in

Rome and again after the reestablishment of Israel, emanating from radical Islam.

My political views, such as they were, have been shaped by my journeys to the Middle East. I was a liberal lad as a schoolboy, but I learned both in Israel and through the news, that liberals are not always liberal, just as conservatives are not truly conservative. Nature and the rights of birds must be conserved, and the purity of the sea, the soil and the sky. Born-again Christians are often more respectful and concerned about the survivors and the citizens of Israel than their own coreligionists.

Israel is a genuinely diverse culture, and has earned and merited the respect of thoughtful persons. It is the fate of their people to be maligned, no matter what they may do or where they may roam. If they are poor they are despised. If they prosper, they are envied. If they are gentle, they are looked down upon. If they fight for their rights, they are feared and condemned. They are multifaceted, and they need to be.

I feel a bit of survivor guilt for the good fortune of my own lot in life. My sympathy for the Israeli population stems from my awareness of the responsibility of my generation to remember.

MIKE FINK (mfink33@aol. com) teaches at RISD.

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Stephen Hazan Arnoff named new CEO of JCC Association JTA – Stephen Hazan Arnoff was named the new chief executive officer of the Jewish Community Center Association.

Arnoff succeeds Alan Finkelstein, who announced last year he would retire from the position after more than two decades. Arnoff will take the position in February.

The Jewish Community Center Association board of directors unanimously approved the appointment on Jan. 8.

Arnoff, who lives in Jerusalem with his wife and four children, is currently the director of the Office of Culture, Community and Society at Shalem College in Jerusalem. He previously served as executive director of the 14th Street Y in New York. He will be based at the Jewish Community Center Association’s New York City office and will also have an office in Jerusalem, the JCCA said in a statement.

“I am deeply honored by the

confidence of JCC Association leadership and look forward to our work together.

JCCs touch more Jews than any other institutional framework in North America,” said Hazan Arnoff. “The challenge is to maximize JCCs’ potential to inspire and engage the next generation of Jews who now live in a world of choice.

This is an extraordinary opportunity.”

gelical Christians to intensify their relationship with Israel beyond merely prayers and support on social networks,” the CONIB report said, citing a statement by the event’s chief organizers, Kelita and Salomao Cohen. “Consuming Israeli products helps Israel’s economy at a time when the campaign to boycott Israel products is growing. This project helps create a path that runs contrary to that campaign.”

In its report on the Brasilia event, the Israeli Economy Ministry’s mission to Brazil noted that the selection on offer was designed especially to include products that originate from areas that are internationally considered to be illegal Israeli settlements.

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Brazilian Christians urged to buy settlement goods to counter boycott JTA – Christian and Jewish Zionists in Brazil are marketing Israeli products targeted for boycott.

Titled “Support 729 – I endorse,” the project was launched in December in Brasilia, the Brazilian capital, at an event attended by at least 3,000 people, according to a report published Jan. 6 on the website of CONIB, the umbrella group representing Brazil’s Jewish communities.

The event in Brasilia featured a market comprising Israeli products including wines, olive oil, salt and baked goods, according to the report. The market will be set up in additional cities across Brazil this year, according to organizers.

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specially, for example wines from the Golan Heights that were chosen not only for their excellent quality but also for being industries that are particularly affected by the international boycott,” read the ministry’s website, in reference to the Boycott, Divestment and Sanctions campaign against Israel.

In its report, CONIB noted that Brazil has 40 million Evangelical Christians.

Brazilian governments have consistently criticized Israel over what they consider land theft in settlements.

The report did not include sales figures from the event in Brasilia.

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PROVIDENCE, R.I. – Evelyn (Kosofsky) Brown passed away Jan. 13. She was the wife of the late Elliot I. Brown. Born in Providence, she was the daughter of the late Jack and Margaret (Reminick) Kosofsky.

She is survived by her children, Bonnie Brown of Newton, Mass., and Andrew Brown and his wife Sheila of Lincoln; her brother Frank Kosofsky and his wife Judy of Cranston; and her grandchildren Eric and Marisa Brown.

In lieu of flowers, contributions in her memory may be made to the charity of your choice.

Ruth E. Hirsch, 92

WARWICK, R.I. – Ruth E. Hirsch died Dec. 31, 2014, at Tamarisk. Born in Providence, a daughter of the late Joseph and Rose (Winegust) Greene, she had lived in Warwick for 28 years, previously living in Providence. Dear sister of the late Leo and Julian Greene. Cherished aunt of James, Maureen and Bernice Greene and the late Nadine Greene. In lieu of flowers, contributions in her memory may be made to your favorite charity.

Selma Indeck, 88

PROVIDENCE, R.I. – Selma (Sherman) Indeck, of Providence, died on Jan. 1 after a long illness. Born in Hollywood, Calif., a daughter of the late Benjamin and Rebecca (Bogus) Sherman, she had been a resident of Rhode Island since 1956.

A lifelong artist, she graduated from the New England School of Art and worked in pastel, charcoal and colored pencil. She earned awards for her portraits and still-life drawings from the Copley Society (Boston), Newport Art Show, Ogunquit Art Center, Providence Art Club, R.I. Watercolor

OBITUARIES Society, the Pastel Society of America and the Wayland Art Foundation. She served on the board of directors of the ACLU and volunteered for the American Friends Service Committee, Meals on Wheels and the Sarah Doyle Women’s Center.

She is survived by Jack, her husband of 68 years, her daughter Ruth and her son Richard.

She will be lovingly missed by family and friends.

In lieu of flowers, you can make a donation in her name to the Rhode Island Food Bank.

Beverly M. Kaplan, 82

CRANSTON, R.I. – Beverly M. Kaplan died Jan. 9 at Cedar Crest Nursing & Rehabilitation Center. She was the beloved wife of Leonard Kaplan of Cranston. They were married for 61 years. Born in Lynn, Mass., a daughter of the late Louis and Anna (Bloom) Olswang, she had lived in Cranston for 15 years, previously living in Providence. She was a receptionist for Harvard Health, retiring 10 years ago. Beverly was a member of Temple Am David. Devoted mother of Alan Kaplan and his wife, Susan, of Jones Creek, Ga., and Susan R. Kaplan, Esq., of Providence.

Dear sister of the late Sheldon Olswang. Loving grandmother of David, Steven and Rachel. In lieu of flowers, contributions in her memory may be made to Beacon Hospice, 1 Catamore Blvd., East Providence, R.I. 02914 or Cedar Crest Nursing Center, Resident Activity Fund, 125 Scituate Ave., Cranston, R.I. 02921.

Shirley Levin, 82

DELRAY BEACH, FLA. – Shirley (Krieger) Levin, of Delray Beach, Fla., formerly of Warwick and Providence, R.I., died Jan. 1. She is survived by her husband of 62 years, Irwin Levin, her sister and brother-

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in-law, Doris and Jerry Einhorn, and her children, Judy Frank of Delray Beach, Fla., Lori and David Salk of Cranston, R.I., and David and Jan Levin of Wesley Chapel, Fla. She is also survived by five grandchildren, Evan Frank, Hillary Frank and Nick Solebello, Tyler Salk, Brandon Salk and Stephanie Levin, who were her greatest joy. In lieu of flowers, please donate to the charity of your choice.

Shirley Melamut, 79

PROVIDENCE, R.I. – Shirley Melamut passed away Dec. 27, 2014. Born in Providence, the beloved daughter of the late Isadore and Anna (Shenker) Melamut, she was a lifelong resident of Rhode Island.

She will be remembered as sweet and helpful.

She is survived by her brothers Gerald Melamut and Sheldon Jay Melamut.

In lieu of flowers contributions in her memory may be made to the James L. Maher Center, 120 Hillside Ave, Newport, R.I. 02840.

Esther Mudrick, 97

PROVIDENCE, R.I. – Esther (Bornstein) Mudrick died Dec. 27, 2014. Born in Poland, she was the daughter of the late Moshe and Chaya (Platner) Bornstein.

Esther stemmed from the Gur (Gerri) Chasidim. She was a Holocaust survivor who overcame many hardships. Even though she and her late husband Ezra came to the U.S. after the Holocaust without money, they often went without because they wanted to make sure their only daughter would receive a good Jewish education and Jewish values so they sent her first to Providence Hebrew Day School and later on to the Stern College in New York. Esther was a devoted wife to her husband who was ill dur-

ing much of their married life.

At the end of her life, she was “adopted” by the high school girls at the Providence Hebrew Day School/NEAT – New England Academy of Torah, who became like her surrogate granddaughters and made her last years more joyous because of the love and affection they bestowed upon her.

She is survived by her daughter Chaya Bouganim and her husband Shimon; her grandchildren Yitzhak Moshe, Yosef David, Shlomit Mazal and their spouses; her great-grandchildren Lior, Inbar, Ori and Liad; and her two nieces Gitta Katz and Regina Navidal, all of whom live in Israel.

In lieu of flowers, contributions in her memory may be made to the Providence Hebrew Day School/NEAT, 450 Elmgrove Ave., Providence, R.I. 02906.

Evelyn Russ

MIAMI, FLA. – Evelyn Mittler Russ died Jan. 8 at home.

A daughter of the late Alfred and Eve Mittler, she grew up in Rhode Island and resided in Florida for the past 45 years.

She was a teacher, retiring from the Miami-Dade school system.

Devoted mother of Brittany Johnston and her husband, David. Loving grandmother of Ava Johnston. Dear sister of Peter Mittler and his wife, Elizabeth.

Cherished cousin of Linda Fine and Mitchell Snyder. In lieu of flowers, contributions in her memory may be made to your favorite charity.

Stanley J. Schaffer, 84

WARWICK, R.I. – Stanley J. Schaffer died Jan. 10 surrounded by his loving family at Miriam Hospital. He was the beloved husband of Barbara (Fabricant) Schaffer. They were married for 57 years. Born in Brooklyn, N.Y., a son of the late Hyman and Sarah (Bernstein) Schaffer, he had lived in Warwick for 53 years, previously living in Providence. He was a

truck driver for the Providence Journal, retiring in 1990. Stanley was a Korean Conflict Army veteran. He was a graduate of Hope High School. Devoted father of Gary Schaffer and his wife, Susan, of Cumberland, and Steven Schaffer, of Warwick. Dear brother of Gloria Sheridan, of Cranston. Loving grandfather of Dylan. In lieu of flowers, contributions in his memory may be made to Juvenile Diabetes Research Foundation, 26 Broadway, New York, N.Y. 10004.

Rosella Shuster, 82

NEW BEDFORD, MASS. – Rosella Lila Harriet Shuster of North Dartmouth, Mass., died, Jan. 12 at home. She was the beloved wife of the late Arnold Howard Shuster. Born in Providence, a daughter of the late Benjamin and Celia (Talon) Klien, she was a lifelong New Bedford resident. Rosella worked for the city of New Bedford at New Bedford High School until retirement. She was a member of Tifereth Israel Synagogue. Devoted mother of Lori Brown and her husband, Ira, of North Dartmouth and Bennett Jay Shuster and his wife, Lori, of New Bedford. Dear sister of the late Eleanor Sherman and Perry Klien. Loving grandmother of Perri and her husband, Jeffrey, Julie, Alexa and Jared.

In lieu of flowers, contributions in her memory may be made to The National Breast Cancer Foundation, 2600 Network Blvd., Suite 300, Frisco, Texas 75034.

Betty Ann Starr, 69

HARTFORD, CONN. – Betty Ann Starr died on Dec. 27, 2014.

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Navy during the Vietnam War and had been living in Hartford for 35 years. She worked for the United States Postal Service for more than 20 years. Betty was an avid bridge player.

She is survived by her brothers Howard Starr and his wife Barbara of Fall River, Mass., and Robert Starr of Wrentham, Mass.; her nieces Rebecca Palana and her husband Kevin and Laura Regan and her husband Michael; and her great-nephews Thomas Jefferson Regan and James Madison Regan.

In lieu of flowers, contributions may be made to the National Multiple Sclerosis Society, 101A First Ave., Waltham, Mass., 02451.

Herman J. Sugarman M.D., 93

NEWTON, MASS. – Herman J. Sugarman, M.D., of Newton, Mass., died on Nov. 13, 2014. Beloved husband of the late Alberta H. (Friedman) Sugarman.

Dear son of the late Robert and Jennie (Rudis) Sugarman. Loving brother of Shirley Wolpert and the late Blossom Roodin.

Also survived by many loving nieces, nephews, great-nieces and great-nephews. Dr. Sugarman was a magna cum laude graduate of Classical High School in Providence, an honors graduate of Brown University and earned his medical degree from Tufts University School of Medicine. He was a surgeon and clinical professor of surgery for more than 40 years at Tufts

Medical Center. He was also a clinical professor of surgery at Boston University School of Medicine. He served with the 317th TAC Hospital in Germany during the Korean Conflict.

Donations in his memory may be made to Tufts Medical Center, c/o Development Office, 800 Washington St., Boston, Mass.

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Max Tetelbaum, 93

PEMBROKE PINES, FLA. – Max Tetelbaum, died Jan. 1 at Kent Hospital. He was the beloved husband of the late Estelle (Slepkow) Tetelbaum.

Born in Providence, a son of the late Barney and Ida (Friedlander) Tetelbaum, he had lived in Pembroke Pines, Fla. He was an accountant for Cove Metal for more than 40 years. Max was a WWII Army veteran, serving stateside.

He was a member of Touro Fraternal Association and a founding member and past president of Crestwood Country Club. Devoted father of Kenneth Tetelbaum and his wife, Willi; Richard Tetelbaum; and Joan Carvalho and her husband, John; all of Narragansett.

Dear brother of the late Jack Tetelbaum and Rose Snyder.

Loving grandfather of Jodi, Lisa, Brad and Keith. Cherished great grandfather of Ella, Jack, Suki and Rowen. In lieu of flowers, contributions in his memory may be made to your favorite charity.

Judith S. Weir, 57

SMITHFIELD, R.I. – Judith S. Weir, died Dec. 26 at Rhode Island Hospital. She was the beloved wife of the late Terrence Weir. Born in Montreal, Canada, a daughter of the late Manfred and Jeanne (Fish) Weil, she had lived in Providence for most of her life.

She was a member of Alcoholics Anonymous, and she enjoyed needlework. She was the dear sister of Cory Fink and her husband, Edward, of Cranston and Simon Weil and his wife, Fran, of Downingtown, Penn.

She was the cherished aunt of Naomi, Shira, Aviva, Asher, and Kate.

In lieu of flowers, contributions in her memory may be made to Temple Am David, 40 Gardiner St., Warwick, R.I. 02888.

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much about the value of giving back to the community.

In March, Herb’s grandson Ethan Thaler will be celebrating his bar mitzah at Temple Habonim in Barrington. Herb and Ethan worked closely together and made almost 200 Meister Menorahs for our Jewish nursing home residents across the state of Rhode Is-

When you think of the word tradition, what comes to mind for most people is Tevye the milkman from “Fiddler on the Roof.” When I think of tradition what comes to mind is Jewish Eldercare of Rhode Island’s longtime volunteer Herb Meister. Herb has been visiting nursing homes as a volunteer for Jewish Eldercare of Rhode Island, a Jewish Seniors Agency’s outreach program for more than 15 years.

Herb recognized a long time ago that it is vital for someone living in a nursing home to be able to carry on all the Jewish traditions including Hanukkah. But the holiday candles could not be kindled in an individual’s room for safety reasons.

Herb created a menorah out of wood that used crayons to represent the candles. The Meister Menorah was born, and the community embraced Herb Meister with the project by decorating grandson Ethan Thaler and distributing the menorahs to nursing homes. land. Along with other family This new wonderful mitzvah members, they decorated the was passed on to Herb’s grand- menorahs. The smile on the daughter, Rachel Salzman, in faces of both Ethan and Herb showed that this ritual was so important between grandfather and grandson. What a wonderful mitzvah to be shared among the generations. The residents who received the menorahs beamed with pride, and each one felt like a grandparent to Ethan when they heard the story of the Meister Menorah and why Ethan was doing this as his bar mitzvah project.

As we say mazal tov to Ethan and his family, we also say a big thank you to Herb Meister for passing down his values to his grandchildren. This has PHOTOS | JERI benefited all of our seniors who Meister Menorahs receive visits from Jewish Eldercare of Rhode Island and, of New Hampshire. Several years course, the Meister Menorahs. ago she and her grandfather made a new batch of Meister SUSAN ADLER is director of Menorahs for her bat mitzvah Jewish Eldercare of Rhode Isproject. She truly appreciated land. JERI is a partner agency the bonding experience with with the Jewish Alliance of her grandfather and learned so Rhode Island.

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styles, wedding party flowers, color scheme, ceremony music, reception music, dinner and dancing music, rehearsal dinner, after party, out-of-town guest accommodations and maybe a few other little things.

Starting to feel like a fiddler on the roof? Maybe wedding planning is a little more difficult (and dangerous) than I thought.

Mama Mia (sorry, not living in that play). So, I’m still looking for my role in planning for my daughter’s wedding.

Haven’t found it yet, but with three seasons to go, maybe I

will. I have gained a lot more respect and admiration for what a mother of the bride does in planning a Jewish wedding.

Maybe the father of the bride’s role is to watch from a distance, provide emotional support, wipe away occasional tears, be a source of calm, a steady hand on the rudder.

Time will tell. Meanwhile, I’m keeping a fire extinguisher near the checkbook. L’chaim.

MARC RUSSMAN will celebrate his daughter’s simchas later in 2015.

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HANUKKAH – Adrienne and Steve Kirschner of Pawtucket celebrate Hanukkah in Roatan, Honduras at Frenchy’s 44. This beachfront restaurant and beach are run by the only Jewish family in Roatan.

SHARE YOUR JOYFUL EVENTS AND HAPPENINGS by submitting them for Simchas publication in The Jewish Voice.

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ISRAEL EXPERIENCE – On Saturday, Dec. 27, 2014, Madeline Kirsch (wearing a tallit) became a bat mitzvah in Israel, during her Taglit Birthright experience. Madeline, the daughter of Ken and Nancy Kirsch of Providence, is a senior at Mount Holyoke in South Hadley, Massachusetts.

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