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CONTENTS

THE DANGERS OF ONLINE DATING.....................PG 6

IS MY BIBLE ONLY RELEVANT ON SUNDAY?.... PG 7 MY SWEET ZAMBIA..................................................PG 8 LESSONS FROM TREES............................................ PG 9 ARE YOU A TECHNO-DINOSAUR?........................PG 11 THE EMERGENCE OF POETRY IN ZAMBIA....... PG 12 ZAMBIA’S BUSINESS TYCOON- BUK................. PG 14 DOCHI KUBEBA- UNDERCOVER CHRISTIAN.. PG 17 LETTER TO MY SWEET YOUTHS......................... PG 18 THE SWEET VOICE BEHIND R4M........................ PG 20 POEMS FROM WRITERS........................................ PG 21 THE WORLD OF NUCLEAR MEDICINE............... PG 24 EXPOSING THE BONDAGE OF MUSTARBATION..... PG 26

MATTERS OF THE HEART..................................... PG 28 CHANGE................................................................... PG 30 BISHOP EDDIE MULENGA ................................... PG 32 BOOK REVEIW - ACHIEVEMENT VALUES FOR YOUNG ADULTS .................................................... PG 34 SKIMPY WARDROBE “KNOWING HOW TO WORK IT” .............................................................................. PG 35 TOP TEN MUSIC DOWNLOADS............................ PG 35 HEALTH TIPS - WHY LADIES SHOULDN’T WEAR TIGHT BRA’S, WHY GUYS SHOULDN’T WEAR TIGHT PANTS. ......................................................... PG 37 COMIC PHENOMENON - THE MAN BEHIND HK.............................................................. PG 38 CERTIFIED TO SEX ................................................ PG 39

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The articles and stories may not necessarily reflect the views of Kairos but that of the writer. Reproduction of the magazine in part or whole without the consent of kairos media is prohibited.

EDITOR’S NOTE It is a sad story that millions of people around the world, particularly youths in our generation have lost the true and real value of LOVE. It is because of such a deteriorating moral fiber in our youths that SEX is now a game. Yes, sex is good but only when done at the right time and with the right person (spouse).

It is for this reason that Kairos has brought you yet another exciting piece under the theme ‘LOVE, SEX & DECEIT. This Issue addresses problems that so many people shy away from talking about. However, we refuse to stay silent and sketch a spade as a spade and not a big spoon! Read on and enjoy.

Our prayer is that God touches and changes you as you read on.

Be a part of raising our moral standards and be counted as one of the gems that will say NO TO SEX before MARRIAGE.

Mr. Humphrey Zimba Chief Editor

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THE DANGERS OF

ONLINE DATING

By Humphrey Zimba

I

received the forwarded message you are about to read from a good friend of mine (Chipo Chama) from Radio Christian Voice. My body moved when I read it. Although we may think it as an urban legend, such things do really happen and we should take them serious and be weary of the people we invite into our lives. Proverbs 4: 23 says, “Keep your heart with all diligence; for out of it are the issues of life” (KJV).

An Urban Legend, as defined by Wikipedia, is a form of modern folklore consisting of stories usually believed by their tellers to be true. As with all folklore and mythology, the designation suggests nothing about the story’s veracity, but merely that it is in circulation, , exhibits variation over time, and carries some significance that motivates the community in preserving and propagating it.

From: Humphrey Zimba Sent: Friday, November 11, 2011 4:01 PM Subject: FW: ALERT ALERT Importance: High My buddies, The original recipient of this mail got it from a friend in South Africa. Because of its importance, I thought of sharing it with our Kairos readers.

Hey, This morning we received shocking news from a co – worker. Her cousin was dating a guy called Norman (probably a false name) from Florida.

They met through a dating website, and apparently they have been dating for three months only via phone. The man has been sending her money and telling her things that a woman needs to hear from a man. The two only met on the 27th of October, 2011 in Polokwane and booked

DID YOU KNOW..??

The Organisation Apple (behind the Mac/ Ipods) is worth more than the economy of Poland?

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at a named hotel. They also rented a car from tempest Polokwane and cruised the town and villages of Polokwane.

Two days later, on Saturday 29th October, 2011, the two became intimate after the guy met the girl’s family. Unexpectedly, all hell broke loose, the guy became some reptile the girl could not describe. The reptile entered her body and disappeared in her body for 3 hours. This creature re-appeared and became human again and asked if she enjoyed it. She was confused and weak. However, she then called her mother to explain what had just happened and managed to drive home.

Unfortunately, she is now admitted in Polokwane’s private hospital. “Norman” left her parents R82 500 (More than Fifty-six million Zambian kwachas) to cover her funeral expense. Well, obviously on Norman’s assumption that she would eventually die.

Investigations indicate that when the hotel’s footage is viewed, the guy is invisible and only the girl is being seen in the cameras.

Though Kairos has not yet substantiated this urban legend, there are lessons we could learn from it. Let us not rush into such relationships.

Blind dates and online dates are as dangerous as what this story depicts.

Please take time to know the person you want to acquaint yourself to and ALWAYS PRAY. Do NOT, under any circumstance, have sex before marriage.

IS MY BIBLE ONLY

By Jotham Mwale

RELEVANT ON SUNDAY?

How ironic that I should be writing on this topic

with my recent slack in the reading of my Bible.

I have read so many novels since I got done with school last year. I got to the point where I asked myself why I couldn’t read the Bible as if it were just but a novel also; after all, some novels I have read are Bible-thick or at least testament-thick.

What a testimony!! Considering I can’t even testify to having read my Bible cover to cover as yet.

It’s a shame isn’t it? Why is it so much easier to study/read anything other than our Bibles for most of us?

Relevant is a big word. Some synonyms for the word are; applicable, appropriate, and significant.

Needless to suggest that you can replace relevant with any of these words, in the question above. But before we go further in looking at the gravity of the word relevant let us first consider what the Bible is or represents, for better understanding in context.

The Bible:

Is the Word (translated; voice) of the MOST HIGH God, creator of the heavens and the earth, and the universe at large.

• Is the last will and testament of a humble man who died over 2000 years ago, in your place, to wash away your sins.

• Is Jesus Himself through whom nothing that was made, was made.

• Is the only book that has the spec ‘forever established in heaven’.

• Is a compilation of basic instructions for all, before leaving earth.

• Is the Creator’s manual for His creation, mankind.

• Is the one thing that puts the devil in his place, the one thing he fears the most.

Should I go on? Well, there’s so much more that the Bible is and represents.

Let us now respond to the question of whether our Bibles are only relevant/applicable/appropriate/ significant on Sunday.

The sixth chapter of Ephesians in the Bible brings about the concept of an armor of God that we are all supposed to take up or rather put on. The Bible, in this armor, is referred to as the sword of the Spirit. This is in light of the fact that beyond the physical and any wars that may take place in this realm, there is a spiritual realm where two powers are forever at ‘war’; God and the devil. It is the devil’s intent to win over as many people as he can to his side or rather away from God. His kind of winning over is killing, stealing and destroying.

And who, in the midst of an on-going battle puts his sword down for whatever reason?

Forgive my language, but that is foolishness! You will be dead before you know it. Need I ask again at this point if our Bibles are only relevant on Sundays?

We need to understand that all that we need to stand against him is in our taking up this armor. In war you can only do so much to defend yourself. There comes a point in time when you will need to strike or attack for your own survival and that of all you represent; it is here that you will need to use your sword (the Bible). Let us further understand that the devil does not rest in his schemes and attacks against us, but why do we? Why do we rest in our being alert and taking up of our swords?

The devil cannot necessarily attack us physically so he ‘tries’ to get to our minds because his best chance of a successful victory is if he can bring in guilt, condemnation or fear. Such can only be combated by the word of God. How else will you know that there’s no condemnation for those in Christ because He did not come to condemn but to save the world; that God is love and perfect love casts out all fear; that you no longer live but Christ does and through Him all things are possible?

The Bible (the Word of God) represents all the key elements of life; • Jesus (John 1:14) • The Bread of life (John 6:48) • Living waters (John 4:10) • Breath of God (2Timothy 3:16) Who can live life without Jesus? Furthermore, who can live life without air, water or food: are they only relevant on Sundays?

If Jesus Himself, God in the flesh, could deny food (a daily necessity) because His food was to do the will of God; who are we to only remember the embodiment of His will (the Bible) on Sundays?

There’s so much more that could be said or written about, but I end right here. He who has an ear let him hear! Or rather; He who has an eye let him see/read! Jesus did not give up the cross half way or just die for you for one day; He went all the way and died for all mankind, with eternal effect.

Take up your cross and read your Bible everyday; let it not depart from you (Joshua 1:8). Or risk being a powerless Christian, in name only but with no power at all; being defeated by that which you are supposed to have authority over. After all “my people perish for lack of knowledge”; how else do we expect to have knowledge if we are not willing to take it in/read/study it in the first place??

Peace!! God bless!!

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My Sweet Zambia

By Choolwe Mweemba

Growing up in an independent and peaceful country is something I don’t take for granted, well, I try not to. It is amazing how peaceful this nation is. It is often said, you don’t know what you have till it’s gone but I hope the young people of this nation will know what they have because it is something to be proud of.

Often times, we hear about wars and rumors of wars and mostly this is as a result of a president or leader failing to hand over power to somebody else. Unfortunately, this is often in Africa. Does that mean Africans like to cling onto power?

I totally think so because it is so evident.

It’s all over the news when a leader is killed because of thinking they are the best for a particular country and nobody else is. That is particularly unfortunate.

Now let us bring it home. I have been in this world a little over 20 years and I have experienced the rule of 4 presidents! Isn’t that something to be proud of, especially considering the fact that it has been a peaceful transition all the way? I only qualified to vote in the last elections and it was an awesome feeling to be able to participate in decision making. I must say it was impressive to have lots of young voters.

Like that’s not enough, we accepted the majority’s decision even though we have different political affiliations. Since Independence, we’ve had 5 presidents and we are still going strong! I believe we have to give credit where it’s due.

What I am trying to bring to the table is the fact that our nation is

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one dedicated to the Lord, no wonder the peace. The least we can do is be thankful. I totally understand the fact that we can’t like all the things that happen but we have to look at the big picture, which is simply the fact that we are a blessed land!

We might not like everyone in leadership simply because we don’t all belong to one political party but the word of the Lord tells us to pray for our leaders, in fact, it’s a command! So whether or not you like them doesn’t exempt you from the duty of having them in your daily prayers or simply supporting them.

Sounds good right?

If you have never taken time to thank God for this country, I suggest you do so right now because if you take a look around, you will see that there are lots of countries that have had one person ruling for over 40 years and nobody can say a thing about it. Libya recently forced Muammar Gaddafi out of office after ruling for over 40 years.

This was not easy because many lost their lives (It was bloody).

There are a number of countries I can talk about that urgently need political help. However, that is a topic just for another day.

So show love to everyone you see today. Walk tall and be proud to be Zambian!

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lessons from trEes It has been said that a tree is known by its fruit. True to this saying, nature has from time to time been a huge source of inspiration to mankind and it is no secret that some of the natural things we see have a great level of database from which we can process information to help us in our daily lives.

Let us look at trees for example: Trees get to grow when roots have found access to the ground (earth)

we all want to connect to other people. however, what we really need is the ultimate tap root which is Christ Jesus the solid rock and solid foundation because He is the rock of ages.

 Trees have got several small roots and the main root called a tap root that grows deeper than the others in search of survival nutrients such as water 

Trees grow one or more branches onto which leaves grow and fruit is developed

 Trees shed their leaves in summer in order to bring forth fresh and more youthful leaves When we look at the organization of a tree, just like the points noted above, we see that a tree has to have roots to get grip to counter wind and rain storms. This is true for people as well, we all want to connect to other people however, what we really need is the ultimate tap root which is Christ Jesus the solid rock and solid foundation because He is the rock of ages.

When we look at a tree with a stem from which several branches grow, we see that we have to prune a good stem in order to make it better and more fruitful. Most people hate the process of chastening and preparation. Be mindful that without preparation even a great opportunity that will come your way will just run to waste because there were no deliberate steps taken to discipline yourself and prepare you for the upcoming challenges. Nothing appreciates success like great preparation. In fact life has more of preparation than doing the actual.

Trees shed leaves in order to survive. Similarly, significantly so, there comes a time when we have to remove excess luggage. Some of the stuff we carry is not nec-

essary. We have to give up some habits, friends and at times family and pursue the greater good for our lives.

This journey may seem so unbearable, even the Prophet Isaiah said, “Even the youths shall faint and be weary, and the young men shall utterly fall: But they that wait upon the Lord shall renew their strength; they shall mount up with wings as Eagles; they shall run, and not be weary; and they shall walk, and not faint. Isaiah 40:30-31. Friend, this is where we discern the time to shed off some of our ever carried burdens such as hatred and unforgiveness so that the Lord grants us renewed strength; if you abide in Gods’ word you will bear fruit because preparation done in the Lord will never go unrewarded. Each time you look at a tree know that it goes through various processes to be where it is now. Do not hate the process that the Lord has to take you through because when He is done with you, everyone will see

Your comrade, Cosmas Msoni Founding Partner at John Cosmas, Leadership Development Int’l.

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By Martha T Nkhuwa

In our society today, technology has become the tool to data, the tool to information and the tool to knowledge. To our gentlemen it is the new BMW GT. To our ladies it is the latest Manolo Blahnik 4 inch stilettos. And to our children, it is the renovated Ben 10.

Over the recent years, the growth of technology has been undeniably rapid allowing its users to discover their talents, realise their passions, accomplish their dreams, fulfil their destiny and most of all conquer the world.

Since 1983, the revolution of cell phones has been tremendous both in function and design. From the Motorola DynaTAC 8000X which only enabled you to make and receive calls, to the iphone 4S which you can use to browse the internet, play a video, run one of the thousands of applications available from the Apple Store or capture your very own Kairos moment by taking a picture. WOW! That’s not all; you can download your Bible and dictionary and use them wherever you go. Technodinosaurs are a people who aren’t willing to spend on expensive gadgets because they see no value in technology or its necessity in improving their everyday lives. Techno-dinosaurs don’t see the value of the internet and value of information and how much they can learn and the amount of knowledge they can acquire from the internet. This facility helps individuals to do their shopping

have an incredible capacity to help users enjoy life. The iPad has many built-in applications such as notes, maps and stocks.

These enable you to write your thoughts and ideas at any given time. You can search the maps for location in case of direction failure and with the stocks you can keep in touch with the money markets all over the world. Other apps include Business, Education, Entertainment, Games, Lifestyle, News, Social Networking, Sports, and Travel Apps. There is also a feature known as the iCloud. I-Cloud stores your music, photos, Through technology, goals are achieved and excellence is attained. Gadgets such as the iPad have an incredible capacity to help users enjoy life. The iPad has many built-in applications such as notes, maps and stocks. These enable you to write your thoughts and ideas at any given time. You can search the maps for location in case of direction failure and with the stocks you can keep in touch with the money markets all over the world. Other apps include Business, Education, Entertainment, Games, Lifestyle, News, Social Networking, Sports, and Travel Apps. There is also a feature known as the iCloud. I-Cloud stores your music, photos, documents, and more and wirelessly pushes them to all your devices.

So if you buy a song, take a photo, or edit a calendar event on your iPad, iCloud makes sure it appears on your Mac, iphone, and iPod touch, too. You don’t have to do a thing.

In business, the iPad 2 gets down to business with indispensable apps for managing your workflow, keeping abreast of the market, creating dynamic presentations, and more.

With that being said, technology is double edged. It can be harmful or helpful depending on the user. Sitting on your phones texting all day or searching unhealthy websites may lead to a lack of future prosperity and success. And the knowledge attained may cause more harm than good. So let’s be wise in our use of this technology.

So what will it be ladies and gentlemen, the Nokia 3310 or iphone 4S? The choice is yours....

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Throughout history, the innovation of technology has assisted humankind in improving their standard of living. No doubt, the internet has played a major role in availing its users with facilities such as e-commerce. E-commerce is the process of buying and selling goods and services electronically, involving transactions using the internet plus other digital technologies. This facility helps individuals to do their shopping from the comfort of their own home or any place where internet is available. With e-commerce, there is also e-business. E-business is the use of internet and digital technology to execute all business processes in the enterprise. This way, business men and women can do business with overseas partners in their separate countries. The enhancement of technology has made what once seemed impossible possible. These new possibilities have paved the way to an easier and more convenient way of life. Laptops are great tools as they are portable with accessible ports. This makes it perfect for business people and students who need to share files and make business presentations away from home. Wireless features are also available on the laptop and users can gain access to the internet and get information instantly.

For students, being able to have them in class can also be a time management factor. In addition to this, there is also a great development for students as this process of ownership and responsibility in their learning results in greater confidence in their academic capabilities.

In addition to laptops other technology can be used by individuals to fulfil their endeavours. Tools such as smart phones enable users to email their friends and families on the go. Video call is available and you can see your loved ones as you communicate.

Call conferencing is another great way of communicating and you can talk to two or more people at the same time though you may live in different cities. This new type of communication is quicker and allows for a better life. Through technology, goals are achieved and excellence is attained. Gadgets such as the iPad

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“Bittersweet Poetry” The emergence of Poetry in Zambia

I

had never been an ardent or fond follower of poetry not until I inadvertently found myself in this cozy place in Lusaka filled with half-crazy people. Well, crazy in a good sense cause they managed to put a smile on my face and more importantly, their messages were enchanting.

These gifted individuals immediately took me on a trip I will never live to regret. I was amazed to see great indigenous Zambian talent aboard.

As usual, my mind started racing to and fro trying to figure out how all this began; who the brains behind it were; and if it were indeed a truly Zambian concept.

My eyes, big as they are, failed to locate possible targets of who could be behind such a fascinating show. I guess ‘don’t judge a book by its cover’ really worked. Those seemingly possible dons of the show turned out spectators no different from me after all. My journalistic tricks had to be unpacked and gladly so worked wonders.

I finally got to meet one of the guys behind the show which they have coined ‘Bittersweet poetry’. I waited a little while after the show but he unexpectedly looked too busy for me. Patiently so, I waited a little longer before he coyly called me. It was way after 22:00 hours so we had to reschedule the interview for another day.

Finally, four days later on an arid Wednesday, we met during lunch at Arcades Shopping Mall.

I thought it would be one of those boring getit-done-with kind of interviews. However, that was not to be. Kapembwa Wanjelani and Mwape Mumba came through one after the other. These two gentlemen are the brains behind BitterSweet Poetry Zambia. One an introvert and the other an extrovert met in 2003 at High school and later reunited at the University of Zambia.

By Humphrey Zimba

They started off as a campus band in 2007 with a few other colleagues. Unfortunately after graduating from UNZA, they had to disband because their colleagues got jobs in other provinces.

Nevertheless, Mwape and Kapembwa decided to continue entertaining people through poetry and using it as a platform through which they could share the Gospel of Jesus Christ. These multi-talented stars can choreograph, sing, play instruments and conveniently so write and recite their own poems. Through these gifts, they are able to minister to their audience the liberating Word of God. “The Bible says that your gift shall bring you before great men and that God shall bless the works of your hands. It is because of this that we take our talents serious and use them to share the Word of God,” Kapembwa stated. Kapembwa added that they use their talents to the glory of God and not to their own amusement.

Mwape, who happens to be the introvert, is single and a born again Christian. He believes poetry is a platform for cultivating a reading culture in our society and inevitably increases people’s knowledge. He would love to bring back the ‘round-the-fire’ concept so the old generation could find time to meet youths and impart wisdom in them. His counterpart, Kapembwa (an extrovert and a born again Christian too) would love to expose the richness in the rawness of art in Zambia. He believes in excellence and would love to see a mediocre-free leadership

“The poetry stars will soon compile and write a booklet as well as record their work entitled ‘BitterSweet-The beginning.”

JOKE A BEMBA WILL OWEZ BE A BEMBA Bill Gates organized an enormous session to recruit a new Chairman for Microsoft Europe.

5000 candidates assembled in a large room.

One candidate was Mulenga Musonda a Zambian living in USA .

Bill Gates thanked all the candidates for coming and asking those who do not know JAVA programming to leave. 2000 people left the room.… Mulenga said to himself, ‘I do not know JAVA but I have nothing to lose if I stay.

I’ll give it a try.

Bill Gates asked the candidates who never had experience of managing more than 100 people

to leave. 2000 people left the room.. Mulenga said to himself ‘ I never managed anybody by myself but I have nothing to lose if I stay. What can happen to me?’ So he stays.

Then Bill Gates asked candidates who do not have management diplomas to leave. 500 people left the room. Mulenga says to himself, ‘I left school at 15 but what have I got to lose?’ So he stays in the room.

Lastly, Bill Gates asked the candidates who do not speak Serbo – Croat to leave. 498 people left the room. Mulenga says to himself, ‘ I do

generation.

BitterSweet Poetry nights are conducted fortnightly at Lagondola (Arcades shopping mall).

These shows are not a trudge; they are purposeful and run on a bittersweet vision. The bitter taste is realized when the gentlemen do not share the gospel and the sweet taste is appreciated when they share the gospel.

The poetry stars will soon compile and write a booklet as well as record their work entitled ‘BitterSweet-The beginning.’ They are currently in talks with the Ministry of Education over introducing poetry at secondary school level so as to tap talent at that level. They also hope to introduce an intercompany poetry competition so as to embrace all generations and bridge the gap between the old and the young.

Now, whoever said Christianity was boring and full of boring people should think again.

The Kairos team hopes companies would jump on board to support such progressive projects and be a part of rewriting our history pages. We appreciate what Kapembwa and Mwape are doing through poetry in Zambia. We wish them God’s grace and unfailing love through their endeavors in ministering the Word of God.

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not speak one word of Serbo – Croat but what do I have to lose?’ So he stays and finds himself with one other candidate. Everyone else has gone.

Bill Gates joined them and said ‘Apparently you are the only two candidates who have all the required qualifications & experience I am looking for and speak Serbo – Croat, so I’d now like to hear you have a conversation together in that language.’ and…… Calmly, Mulenga turns to the other candidate and says `Mulishani Mukwai!

The other candidate answers ‘ Yangu tata ee!!

Naimwe muli ba Bemba????

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ZAMBIA’S BUSINESS TYCOON

By Humphrey Zimba

Life is full of beckoning opportunities.

However, it is what you do with these opportunities that will ultimately distinguish you from the rest. Ordinary people take whatever life presents before them while extraordinary people change the course of what life presents. The few that grab life by its horn find themselves sharing the spoils of fetes of the rich and famous.

Benjamin Chimbalanga Katubiya, is no exception. He grabbed life by its horn and grew a multi-billion kwacha empire from a paltry three hundred dollars ($ 300). Despite coming from a humble background, a determined Benjamin knew what he wanted to be in future; comfortable and significant.

Born and bred in Ndola, Benjamin was raised by a dad who was a domestic worker-cum-tailor. The dad worked for an Indian man and could only afford to shelter his family in a house made from mud in Twapya (a pitiful compound in Ndola).

In spite of such circumstances, Benjamin made it through school and acquired a Diploma in Marketing from the Copperbelt University. After graduating in 1991, Mr. Katubiya embarked on a business trip eastwards rather than look for employment. He went to Tanzania and bought spare parts for trucks. He sold the spare parts and made a profit from the transaction. This was his first of many more transactions to come.

“He mentioned that if he could make it with a capital of three hundred dollars, then anyone with the same determination would follow suit and make millions of dollars”.

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Benjamin Chimbalanga Katubiya Mr. Katubiya formed Market Links Agency in 1992 but later created a corporate entity BUK Truck Parts Limited with his wife as the only other partner. Mr. Katubiya explains that his company, like any other company, experienced a number of challenges before getting its real breakthrough in 2005. “There is no business that is smooth. It is up to individual company owners to come up with solutions to meet these challenges,” he explained. He added that his company’s financial breakthrough was as a result of contracts he managed to secure from The United States of America to supply American-made spare parts

kairos “The dad worked for an Indian man and could only afford to shelter his family in a house made from mud in Twapya (a pitiful compound in Ndola)”

to the Zambian truck market. “We started supplying at both retail and wholesale terms to among others, LEYLAND-DAF (z) Ltd, one Vehicle centre; City Spares; and Zambian Bottlers,” Mr. Katubiya stated.

BUK Truck Parts now houses forty-six employees out of which six would soon be accommodated as shareholders. These shareholders are key BUK Truck Parts Limited members of staff mainly from the directorate.

Benjamin appreciates his employees and influences them to live positive Christian lives. “I love working with diligent and focused people who can carry the vision I have for the company,” Benjamin said. A Christian himself, Benjamin came to the saving knowledge of Jesus Christ in 1998.

He however used to go to church before this encounter. He currently serves as a senior member at The Potter’s House in Lusaka and at times preaches in church every time an opportunity to do so arises.

The BUK Truck Parts owner attributed his success to the 1998 transformation. He stated that after he gave his life to Christ, a number of things changed for the better.

He became more prudent with his work and honest

with his employees as well as stakeholders. He further said that he became selfless and put other people’s interests before his own. Mr. Katubiya also took up the role of preaching to his employees. “Through the manner in which I work, employees are encouraged, inspired and have given their lives to Jesus. Others would come to the office smelling of alcohol while others were womanizers but I thank God they have changed through interacting with me and seeing my character,” He narrated.

A father of three, Mr. Katubiya implored the youths to trust God and to hold-on to their dreams. He further encouraged the youths to believe that God would deliver and usher them into prosperity because trials were not permanent. He quoted Ecclesiastes 3:1 ‘there is a time for everything, and a season for every activity under heaven.’

He stated that he was not saying this from without because he experienced difficulties at various stages in his life and it was determination and trusting God that eventually paid off. Benjamin also implored the youths to be financially principled and abide by the Word of God if they ever wanted to succeed in business, family and social spheres. “There is inner peace with the Word of God, therefore let us not just be good hearers of the Word but doers of the Word,” Benjamin stated.

Mr. Katubiya is saddened by the current generation’s lack of respect for elders and their parents. “It’s quite saddening to note that the youth of today don’t obey their parents. When growing up, my friends and I would fear our parents and there was some sense of worthiness and obedience.

This is no longer the case,” He lamented and further echoed, “We need to lay a good foundation for the future. The future of this nation is dependent on today’s youths.”

Benjamin would like business houses, the government and the church to setup projects to engage youths in skills training programs. These would deter youths from engaging in illicit activities and get them away from activities that were detrimental to their lives.

The Zambian business mogul would like to encourage all Zambian would-be businessmen to believe in themselves and not leave it for whites or the affluent only. He mentioned that if he could make it with a capital of three hundred dollars, then anyone with the same determination would follow suit and make millions of dollars. “Black Zambians should change their mindsets and believe in themselves,” He stated. He added that Zambian businessmen should be honest with their clients and suppliers and should not look for shortcuts in their business deals unless they wanted to end up in prison.

Mr. Katubiya believes that God has given everyone the ability to prosper and that God does not segregate. He further believes that God blessed him with a talent for negotiating. “I am very good at negotiating and I have always been positive in whatever I do because with God nothing can fail. Even in the midst of trials, I look up to God for wisdom, comfort and direction,” He stated.

“Seek the face of Jesus and He will make your dreams achievable,” Mr Katubiya concluded.

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UNDERCOVER CHRISTIAN

By Mangaliso Chihana & Musubila Mumpangwe

Donchi Kubeba

I used to think Christians were “A bunch of lost souls” for I could not understand or rather was lead not to understand how one man could die for the whole world. How by his death and blood one could be made pure again. Well, it sounds romantic but not so easy to fall in love with if surrounded by destructive theories.

I believe my case had always been different because I strongly feel God’s word was upon me. Acts 28 vs 26 “you will indeed hear but never understand, you will indeed see but never perceive”.

I am a product of two different cultures and religions, born from a beautiful Christian woman some two decades ago yet raised by another beautiful woman almost all my life (Grandmother - Muslim). Allow me to simplify this; I was born in a Christian home (mother’s Family) and at the age of 7 I went to live with my grandmother due to financial hardships my mother was facing. So I was automatically introduced to the Muslim world. I was taken for classes to learn more about the Qur’an and the Religion itself (Islam). Time moved so fast (I think it still does.lol) and before we knew it I had embraced Islam very well and completed the Qur’an (recitation) at the age of 12 years and was in the process of memorizing the entire book. I must mention that we ought to give credit to the Muslims for their dedication and passion towards their Faith.

However, little did I know that there was a woman constantly interceding and I mean constantly pleading her case before the Majesty for the Salvation of her Fruit (Kwenze nkondo mu spirit mumvelakoche). “May God preserve her life for me in Jesus Name,” She would pray. Things slowly started to change, no offence to my dear Muslims, I just started wondering and questioning why the prayers where pre-written. What was to be recited in prayer was already written and the procedure was going to be the same till the end of time. When it came to prayer I knew, that the recited were perceived to be the words of Allah (SWT) but reading/ reciting the same things Monday to Sunday, January to December, Year in Year out at the same fixed time raised too many questions?

The Kingdom of God we are told is just not a matter of talk or words but the Manifestation of Power through the Holy Spirit. I mean, what if one just wants to Worship and Praise the Almighty, would you recite the same things? What if it is a personal fight between you and the enemy, do you recite a general prayer again? These are but a few questions that ran through my mind. I do not condemn everything about Islam; please do not get me wrong. Islam actually does preach the oneness of God.

Unfortunately, they do not believe in the crucifixion of Christ Jesus in whom we are restored, cleansed and earn eternal life “Hebrews 9”. The Muslim religion is a world of Law, The ‘Sheriah’ Law. But I thank God for Hebrews 8, 9 and 10. I admired the authority the Christians had over the devil (Luke 10 vs 19) and the personal relationship they enjoyed with their creator. The Praise and Worship is awesome. The Joy! I loved the way they boasted in the Lord. But I did not understand the trinity, with this I was in a state of confusion. I decided to be mutual by neither believing in Allah nor the Christ. The rest of other religions where automatically outnumbered.

They was no way I was going to be worshiping Idols. (No offense guys) In 2009 I finally gave my life to Christ. My mother led me through the salvation prayer and I remember tears falling down her face. The night I gave my life to Christ I wore the same jacket she bought for me on my 15th birthday; little did I know that she had prayed and fasted, anointed the garment for the salvation of my soul.

(See how God works?).

2012 has marked my third year living a Christian life and I do not see myself going back. Apparently, my Faith and transformation has not yet been known to my Muslim Family. I have committed everything in God’s Hands because He knows better than I. (Isaiah 55 vs 8 - 9) and he knows the right time for my Muslim family to know and to convert as well. I always pray for their Salvation and the Muslims at large. (The world too) The past years in my Christian walk have not been easy, I have backslidden in my Faith before, not to the Muslim world but to the pleasures of the world. However, I praise God for His mercies that are new every morning.

It is never too late and He is willing to forgive. The fact that I live with my Muslim family makes it hard for me to express myself in Christ and to fellowship with others. To my Muslim family, my transformation would cause them to disown me. To some extent they would take it as betrayal. I love my Muslim family and appreciate all that they have done for me but nothing in this world can give me the peace I have experienced with Jesus Christ. Neither riches nor any other god makes more sense to me than Christ Jesus and His death on the cross. I now belong to Jesus Christ and He alone will help me through this. I urge all of you to read Hebrews 9 vs 13 - 28. It explains it all. Stay blessed Assallam alaikum. (Peace be with you) The Kairos team would like to appeal to all well meaning Christians to stand with such people in prayers and advice on how best we could help people in her situation. Write to magazine@kairosmedia.net

David Triumphs over Goliath-Chipolopolo!

What is most amazing for me about Zambia winning the AFCON 2012 is that they hit it hard, and hit it well in the place where it had hurt the most (Gabon 1993). And the Lord has

By Annette Mulumbika granted victory in that very place to a team that was termed, “Victory belongs to those who believe in it the most, to ‘the underdogs,’ a team that was ‘underrated’ and ‘underthose who believe in it the longest,” said Lieutenant Gen- mined’ as if to say, “I have never forgotten you, I have never eral Doolittle as he prepared what in history has come to be forgotten your lose, your pain.” known as the Doolittle Raid on Japan on 18th April 1942 Our boys, (allow me to use that term) the chipolopolos disafter Japan had attacked America at its heart, Pearl Habor.

The April 1942 air attack on Japan, launched from the air- played confidence, resilience, tenacity and so much more, craft carrier Hornet and led by Lieutenant Colonel James and it paid off. ‘David’ has triumphed over ‘Goliath.’ Indeed, H. Doolittle, was the most daring operation yet undertaken when the Lord has given, no one can do otherwise. by the United States in the young Pacific War. Though con- Congratulations Zambia! ceived as a diversion that would also boost American and allied morale, the raid generated strategic benefits that far “Victory belongs to those who believe in it the most, to those who believe in it the longest.” outweighed its limited goal.

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o t ’ r e i e t t e t e e L w s y ‘m

By Kelvin Esiyasa

youths Sweetie,

Dear sweetheart, Subject: Recalling 2011 Col Muammer Gaddafi is dead, Micheal Chilufya Sata is Zambia’s new Republican President, the world’s most wanted man Bin Laden is dead and FTJ Chiluba is dead. Sweetie, these are some of the headlines of 2011.

There are a number of issues that I wish to recall in 2011 so that my love for you can grow from strength to strength and that God can love us all.

It is important that we share the experiences that we had in 2011 and set out goals for 2012. It is true my sweetie that 2011 was everything from boring, exciting, average, sorrowful and energizing. I remember 2011 as a year when Zambia lost its father, I mean its father of democracy. It was a sad day when I heard the news. As usual I woke up early in the morning and walked to the sitting room to switch on the TV in order to watch kwacha good morning Zambia but only to find scrolling words on the TV announcing the demise of Dr.FTJ Chiluba. It was indeed saddening to see the nation mourn a great man.

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Dr.FTJ Chiluba was a champion of democracy.

He made Zambians realize the beauty they had, the power of the tongue and freedom of expression (of cause there is still much to be done).This is the more reason people could call him a thief and he would at times force a smile when asked if he were indeed a thief. I am glad he was acquitted by the courts of law before his untimely death. Well, people will always be just that, people. They still followed him and castigated anyone who respected and supported him.

Others treated him like a disciple of Jesus Christ while others still said he was a thief “lazo”. Some said he was a saint because he declared Zambia as a Christian nation. I believe we are all entitled to our foolish or intelligent opinions but one thing is for sure, Dr. Chiluba was a great man despite having made a number of mistakes as Republican President.

Frederick Jacob Titus Chiluba (born April 30, 1943) governed Zambia from 1991 to 2001. Chiluba, a trade union leader, won the country’s multi-party presidential election in 1991 as the candidate of the Movement for Multiparty Democracy (MMD), defeating long-time President Kenneth Kaunda.

He was re-elected in 1996. Unable to run for a third term in 2001, former Vice President Levy Mwanawasa was handpicked to run as the MMD candidate and succeeded him. After leaving office, Chiluba was the subject of a long investigation and trial regarding alleged corruption; he was a target of Mwanawasa’s campaign against corruption. In February 2003, he was charged along with his former intelligence chief, Xavier Chungu, and several former ministers and senior government officials, with 168 counts of theft totaling more than $40m.

kairos Dr. Chiluba was eventually acquitted in 2009.

Chiluba can be said to have left both an economic and a political legacy. Economically, he started the process of ending Zambia’s socialist command economy. He presided over various economic reforms and championed privatisation. However, Zambians still question the methods and effectiveness of the economic transformation initiated by the Chiluba government.

Politically, he re-introduced democracy in Zambia in 1991 and helped broker a peace agreement to end the war in the neighboring Democratic Republic of Congo.

Sweetie, Zambia became live when Micheal Sata was declared the president of Zambia in the late hours of 22nd September, 2011 into early hours of the next day. I recall walking along the streets of Lusaka and seeing young people marching and singing the adopted Patriotic Front anthem ‘Don’t Kubeba.’

(Don’t tell them). They marched in hundreds.

People expressed different emotions. On one hand, youths set up fire expressing their anger towards the previous government while on the other hand some Sweetie, I can only say long live Zambia, history is our heritage.

Therefore Sweetie, may I draw your attention to the things I learnt in 2011. Here are some of them: Be mature  Life is precious and it’s the best gift God has given us. Therefore, one has to treasure it and grow both in stature and wisdom. This paves way for maturity which inevitably results in calmness. Calmness of mind is a beautiful jewel of wisdom. A mature man understands himself as a thought-evolved being .For such knowledge necessitates the understanding of others and sees ever more clearly the internal relations of things by the action of cause and effect. He ceases to fuss, fume, worry and grieve.

He remains poised, steadfast, and serene.

Be disciplined  Sweetie! Discipline is the father and mother of many. It has many children and its children are rewarded heavily and those that disobey him go to the grave very early.

Discipline brings progress and abundance of blessing, it creates thoughts and character.

The five pillars of self-discipline are: Acceptance, Willpower, Hard Work, Industry, and Persistence.

If you take the first letter of each word, you get the acronym “A WHIP” — a convenient way to remember them, since many people associate selfdiscipline with whipping themselves into shape.

My philosophy of how to build self-discipline is best explained by an analogy. Self-discipline is like a muscle.

The more you train it, the stronger you become.

The less you train it, the weaker you become.

Just as everyone has different muscular strengths, we all possess different levels of self-discipline.

Everyone has some — if you can hold your breath a few seconds, you have some self-discipline. But not everyone has developed their discipline to the same degree.

 Forgive BITTERNESS IS MORE THAN a negative outlook on life. It is a destructive and self-destructive power. Like a dangerous mold or spore, it thrives in the dark recesses of the heart and feeds on every new thought of spite or hatred that comes our way.

And like an ulcer aggravated by worry or a heart condition made worse by stress, it can be physically as well as emotionally debilitating.

FORGIVENESS IS A DOOR to peace and happiwomen wailed to dramatize the painful exit of the Rupiah led government.

At noon on 23rd September, 2011 the former Republican President, Rupiah Bwezani Banda addressed the nation. In his address, the former president accepted defeat and encouraged Zambians to support the new government.

Sweetie, It was nice to see Zambia setting another record in Africa, demonstrating to the world that the people’s will could be respected. Zambia also showed the world that an opposition leader could be elected into power.

US president Barack Obama congratulated Sata for a historic victory. “The hard work of a living democracy does not end when the votes are tallied and the winners announced; instead it offers the chance to reconcile and to advance greater security and prosperity for its people,” Obama said in a statement. ness. It is a small, narrow door, and cannot be entered without stooping. It is also hard to find. But no matter how long the search, it can be found.

What does forgiving really mean? Clearly it has little to do with human fairness, which demands an eye for an eye, or with excusing, which means brushing something aside. Life is never fair, and it is full of things that can never be excused.

When we forgive someone for a mistake or a deliberate hurt, we still recognize it as such, but instead of lashing out or biting back; we attempt to see beyond it, so as to restore our relationship with the person responsible for it. Our forgiveness may not take away our pain, it may not even be acknowledged or accepted yet the act of offering it will keep us from being sucked into the downward spiral of resentment. It will also guard us against the temptation of taking out our anger or hurt on someone else.

Pray all the time  “Then shalt thou call, and the LORD shall answer; thou shalt cry, and he shall say, Here I am. If thou take away from the midst of thee the yoke, the putting forth of the finger, and speaking vanity.” -Isaiah 58: 9 It must never be forgotten that the Almighty God rules this world. He is not an absentee God. His hand is ever on the throttle of human affairs. He is everywhere present in the concerns of time. “His eyes behold, his eyelids try the children of men.”

He rules the world just as He rules the Church by prayer. Nothing is more important to God than prayer in dealing with mankind. But it is likewise all-important to man to pray. Failure to pray is failure along the whole line of life. It is failure of duty, service, and spiritual progress.

All this and much more can be said as to the necessity of prayer to the being, and culture of piety in an individual. But prayer has a larger sphere, a more obligated duty, a loftier inspiration. Prayer concerns God, whose purposes and plans are conditioned on prayer. His Will and His glory are bound up in praying. The days of God’s splendor and renown have always been the great days of prayer. God’s great movements in this world have been conditioned on, continued and fashioned by prayer. God has put Himself in these great movements just as men have prayed. Present, prevailing, conspicuous and mastering prayer has always brought God to be present. The real and obvious test of a genuine work of God is the prevalence of the spirit of prayer. Praying women, whose prayers like those of Hannah, can give to the cause of God men like Samuel, do more for the Church and the world than all the politicians on earth. Men born of prayer are the saviours of States, and men saturated with prayer give life and impetus to the Church.

Under God, they are saviours and helpers of both Church and State.

Lastly sweetie;

1.

Sincerity. Be sincere in your actions.

Don’t try to deceive or impress others. Be yourself, and do what you feel is right based on your values and beliefs. You will be surprised at how people will accept you when you stop trying to be someone you are not.

2.

Humility. Don’t lead a life thinking you are better than others or are superior to those around you. Modesty and humbleness will leave a far more ever lasting impact on people than trying to show off.

3.

Personal integrity. Always follow your heartfelt values, and never let a situation or anyone steer you away from doing what you know is right.

Be someone that people can look up to and respect and not someone who trades his or her moral values for material gains in life.

4.

Incorruptibility. Let it be known that you stand firm for what you believe in and that your morals, values and actions are not for sale. Don’t let outside forces corrupt the person you are.

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Courtesy. Practice good manners even though others around you may not.

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Wisdom. Gain from the wisdom that is inside you. Understand the inner qualities of people and learn how to understand situations that might be different from what we are used to.

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Charity. Practice kind, gentle, and compassionate treatment of others – especially those who may be undeserving. Learn to extend a hand to help others, even though they themselves may not have helped you.

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Sympathy. Share your feelings with others and understand the emotional situations that people go through. Put yourself in their shoes.

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Magnanimous. Be generous in life. Give your time, money and wisdom. Share with others so they can see the true joy and adventures of life themselves.

Sweetie, God bless you until we meet again at our lovely eating place…looking forward to our new menu-2012!!!!!!!!!!!!

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Name: Kasonde Lubasi aka Kassi DOB: 22nd December, 1991 Occupation: Student- Bsc of Hons.

Computer Science at ZCAS Kassi is the last born in a family of two. She has an elder brother (Kalaluka Lubasi). Her parents are Mr. Lutangu Lubasi and Mrs. Foster Lubasi. She is an unashamed child of God; ‘I love Him and I live for Him.’

Inspiration behind the R4M song; ‘I’m not the same old me’ Kassi has a passion for and empathizes with the hurting, broken and lost, and really understands what they go through.

She realizes that what separates the liberated from them is just a situation or a prayer, but they are all but dust. ‘‘Everybody needs love, even prostitutes, and love entails, amongst many things, meeting people’s needs. People go into prostitution for a number of reasons; poverty, identity crisis, peer pressure, abuse. Most of them are not even proud of it and seek a way out, if only they could find one (i.e. a way to sustain themselves). God loves them as much as He does anybody else, He died for them too and He can change them as long as they yield their lives to Him. So please do not look at them as everybody does but look at them through God’s eyes,’’ Kassi explained.

It was for this reason that Kasonde passionately wrote, composed and sung ‘I’m not the same old me.’ The song enjoyed massive airplay both on radio and television as the Muvi television programme ‘Ready For Marriage’ enjoyed massive viewership.

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Bitter Sweet Poetry Bitter Sweet Poetry Bitter Sweet Poetry Bitter Sweet Poetry

POETRY SECTION ENOUGH

by Chipo Chitambi

My love

by Yvy-apple Winter

I have a theory. I think that every child is given a memo when she turns 5.

It tells her what to think, what to believe and probably contains a few tips on how to survive. It lists down a few things. It says; 1) You’re not good enough 2) You’re not good enough, and 3) You’re not good enough I must have read it because how else would I know its content and how else would I turn out like this?

All I have to show for my age are dreams, and even they are sneaking away from me.

My wounds have not yet matured into scars and my decisions have not yet grown into regrets.

It’s like I’m locked behind bars with no sign of progress.

Because all my life, I have been told that I’m not talented enough, I’m not pretty enough or tall enough. I’m not slim enough or curvy enough. My voice is not quite enough. My fashion sense isn’t quite foxy enough. I’m not funny enough, neither am I eloquent enough. My smile doesn’t spark enough. Apparently, I am not enough.

But I will tell you this; my body is strong enough. My knowledge is old enough.

My mind is fast enough. My perspective is young enough. My emotions are hidden enough. My loneliness has stayed long enough. My scars don’t show enough.

My wounds, they hurt more than enough.

Apathy has been my friend long enough.

Insecurity stings painfully enough. My face has been wet with enough tears. And yes, maybe the back of my ears is not dry enough because my identity has been in a crisis for long enough. I have come to the realization that maybe I have not loved myself enough.

So I have another idea for the memo. Let it be edited and let it read; 1) Beauty and Success have a totally different definition from what you’ve seen advertised.

2) The media is not always right, it rarely is, and 3) Yes, maybe you are quite different from the rest but there’s nothing wrong with that, you are still good enough. You always were enough.

What will I do for my love today…what will I say to my love? To make him grow, perhaps glow in this feeling?

Will I sing for my love without rest…from dusk to dawn?

Shall I dance to please the eye of my love?

Or must I let him have a glimpse, a taste of a place I’ve heard is of immaculate splendor called heaven, in me here on earth?

Or maybe I should paint him a picture of my love with words called poetry?

But words and colour together may fall short of magnificence Ought it not please my love if I am to present the world to him on silver platter?

A world designed only for him, built with the finest of fabric from a heart sincere...

Yet all this and much more has already been done, by lovers to lovers for lovers The most beautiful of melodies orchestrated…I fear mine may be mediocre in comparison hence lacking reason You see my love is royalty…instruments have already been played in expression of this beautiful emotion.

Incapable I am of playing better any musical instrument than did king David not even if I played on a magical golden harp How can I ever compare, if I am to compose a song to those of the superlative psalmist?

Do tell.. Oh you whom my soul has loved!

What must a maiden do to please you?

And which poet to ever walk the face of the earth can write a poem expressing with utmost honesty, emotion and conviction as did king Solomon…Shakespeare? I fear not! Neither Shakespeare nor I...it seems impossible!

So I will show you this feeling for my love renders me as transparent as glass My love breeds purity in my soul!

My love lives but I am yet to find him mine... as falls the raindrops in the sunshine I know that at the end of the rainbow there is gold that is mine...

HELP! I KISSED A BOY.

by Edwina Mazunda So he touchd me-again// in that 1 moment id rily wished i cud refrain// from going over the same episode in the unchanging chapter of my lyf.// regain my defense mechanism,// demaim my willingnes to say no,so boldly,as id dun once b4// but no.i let him touch me-again// so he lied to me-again// & while he was @ it,in not so much spoken word he made it clear he was owt to bruise me yet again// see we had done this all too often that now i knew the routine..he didnt hav to be discreet he just went on to the 1st ‘agenda item’// the issues of my gender rights didnt bother him @ all as it seemed,i did not care about myself...so why shud he,why wud he hold back on a chance to self satisfy when i freely gave myself.

So then im confused-again.

Was it me,is it just him?do i go around blaming,whinning for wat has been,yet shouldnt be?

Maybe if i wore longer tops,perhaps bigger slacks,a peticot mayb? had i paraded myself for a cat-walk? Or perhaps a sheep leading myself to slaughter...

Was it becuz more often than not,i had been stuck in my college dorm with many different guys??

I was engaged in a warfare// every moment tryng to fight off a set snare// the ridicule of my publicised affair// an experience too great to bear,yet too profound to not share// there’s nö use in tryng to compare// as others wont comprend,taking it only as my moment in the miryclay// So i set it all aside and look for one who will care// who,a minute will spare// to listen// to sympathise,maybe even give a hint of empathy// for my ordeal.

Its all new,all complex,& for once i miss the days when my gr8est cry was Help! I kissed a boy... #end#

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What Is Nuclear Medicine

By Dr. Mukamba Mukamba

Nuclear medicine is a medical specialty that is used to diagnose and treat diseases in a safe and painless way.

Nuclear medicine procedures permit the determination of medical information that may otherwise be unavailable, require surgery, or necessitate more expensive and invasive diagnostic tests.

The procedures often identify abnormalities very early in the progression of a disease – long before some medical problems are apparent with other diagnostic tests. This early detection allows a disease to be treated sooner in its course when a more successful prognosis may be possible.

Why is it called nuclear medicine?

Nuclear medicine refers to medicine (a pharmaceutical) that is attached to a small quantity of radioactive material (a radioisotope). This combination is called a radiopharmaceutical. There are many different radiopharmaceuticals available to study different parts of the body. Which radiopharmaceutical is used will depend upon the condition to be diagnosed or treated.

How do radiopharmaceuticals work?

Radiopharmaceuticals are introduced into the patient’s body by injection, swallowing, or inhalation. The amount given is very small. The pharmaceutical part of the radiopharmaceutical is designed to go to a specific place in the body where there could be disease or an abnormality. The radioactive part of the radiopharmaceutical that emits radiation, known as gamma rays (similar to X-rays), is then detected using a special

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camera called a gamma camera. This type of camera allows the expert nuclear medicine physicians to see what is happening inside your body and to diagnose the patient’s disease.

Do gamma cameras come in different shapes and sizes?

Yes. There are several types of gamma cameras, small and large. Depending upon the kind of pictures that need to be taken, these cameras will operate in a stationary mode, move across the body or rotate around the body. Gamma cameras do not hurt, nor do they make any noise that might frighten patients. Also, unlike other imaging devices, such as CT scanners, ultrasound and MRI, gamma cameras do not transmit any radiation to the patient.

Are radiopharmaceuticals safe?

Absolutely, like any medicine, they are prepared with great care. Before they are used, they are tested carefully and are approved for use. The quantity of the pharmaceutical part of the radiopharmaceutical is very small, generally 1/10th of a millionth of an ounce. The risk of a reaction is 2-3 incidents per 100,000 injections, over 50% of which are rashes, as compared to 2000-3000 per 100,000 injections of x-ray contrast media.

Do radiopharmaceuticals hurt when they are given?

Not at all. They are given in a very small dose, just a few drops.

Is the radioactivity harmful?

Although exposure to radioactivity in very large doses can be harmful, the radioactivity in radiopharmaceuticals is carefully selected by the nuclear medicine physician to be safe.

Would I glow after receiving a radiopharmaceutical?

Not at all. The radioactivity given to a patient does not pose any demonstrable health hazard. The amount given is as small as it can be achieve clear and accurate imaging results.

A radiation exposure is very low and poses little or no risk. The radiation dose received by a patient is equal to, or even less than the natural background radiation dose received on a yearly basis by almost every person living in the world during the course of our daily lives. This natural radiation exposure comes from space, rocks and soil. There is even a small amount of radioactivity that exists naturally in our bodies. We are also exposed to radiation from typical consumer products like household smoke detectors, colour television sets, building materials, the domestic water supply, and luminous dial watches and clocks. Many exit signs may even contain radioactive material.

Radiation is simply the release of energy.

The most familiar form of radiation is visible light, like that produced by the sun or even a light bulb. Other forms of radiation include radio waves, microwaves, ultraviolet light, and x-rays and gamma rays used in medical procedures.

kairos Natural and Man-made Sources of Radiation Consumer Products Nuclear Medicine Medical X-rays Cosmic Rays from Space Rocks and Soil Inside Human Body Radon Others What kind of diseases can nuclear medicine diagnose?

Nuclear Medicine can diagnose many different kinds of diseases. It can be used to identify abnormal lesions deep in the body without exploratory surgery.

The procedures can also determine whether or not certain organs are functioning normally. For example, nuclear medicine can determine whether or not the heart can pump blood adequately, if the brain is receiving an adequate blood supply, and if the brain cells are functioning properly or not. Nuclear medicine can determine whether or not the kidneys are functioning normally, and whether the stomach is emptying properly. It can determine a patient’s blood volume, lung function, vitamin absorption, and bone density. Nuclear medicine can locate the smallest bone fracture before it can be seen on an x-ray.

It can also identify sites of seizures (epilepsy), Parkinson’s disease, and Alzheimer’s disease. Nuclear medicine can find cancers, determine whether they are responding to treatment, and determine if infected bones will heal.

After a heart attack, nuclear medicine procedures can assess the damage to the heart. It can also tell physicians how well newly transplanted organs are functioning.

Can nuclear medicine treat diseases?

Yes. For instance, thousands of patients with hyperthyroidism are treated with nuclear medicine (using radioactive iodine) every year. It can be used to treat

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Everyone is also exposed to radiation during air travel. Radiation, known as cosmic radiation, is in the upper atmosphere due to solar and galactic emissions. Chest x-rays, dental x-rays, CT scans, and many other medical procedures also expose patients to radiation

certain kinds of cancers (lymphomas) and it can treat bone pain that is a result of cancer.

Nuclear medicine can detect the radiation coming from inside a patient’s body. All of these other procedures expose the patient to radiation from outside the body using machines that send radiation through the body. As a result, nuclear medicine determines the cause of a medical problem based on organ function in contrast to the other diagnostic tests that determine the presence of disease based on anatomy or structural appearance. One nuclear medicine procedure, called a PET (positron emission tomography) scan, precisely localizes many types of diseases in the body just by determining how the disease uses sugar. No other imaging method has the ability to use our body’s own functions to determine disease status.

Can I have nuclear medicine procedures performed more than once?

Absolutely! Many patients have several performed a year as part of their medical evaluation. Your doctor will help you decide what is right for you.

Do my doctors need special training to perform nuclear medicine procedures?

Yes. The physician who supervises the procedure and interprets the results is a specially trained and certified physician. The technologists who perform the scans are also specially trained and certified.

Do I need to do anything special after I have a nuclear medicine procedure?

After most nuclear medicine procedures, it is generally best to drink a lot of fluids and urinate as frequently as you can. This helps to flush the remaining radioactivity out of your body. The length of time you need to do this will depend on the kind of study you had and the type of radiopharmaceutical that was used. Again, it is best to ask your doctor.

If I am a nursing mother, can I continue to nurse my baby after a nuclear medicine procedure?

It is best to stop breast feeding your baby for anywhere from a few hours to a few days after your nuclear medicine study. For many therapy procedures, nursing may have to stop completely.

This depends on what kind of study you are having and the radiopharmaceutical that will be used. Your doctor will give you the best advice.

How long has nuclear medicine been a medical specialty?

Nuclear medicine is older than CT, MRI, and ultrasound. It was first used in patients over 60 years ago. Today it is an established medical specialty, practiced every day in all major countries in the world, including Zambia.

In conclusion, Nuclear medicine procedures are safe and helpful in the management of many diseases.

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EXPOSING THE BONDAGE OF

BY PASTOR ROBBY masturbati o n CHEMBE Misconceptions About Masturbation Masturbation is a form of sexual behaviour and practice that transcends different age groups from the innocent, inquisitive, and often, experimental teens all the way through to the aged. Its hold on its practitioners, more often than not, defies the impact of transitional phases such as a shift from teenage-hood to adulthood, and from singleness to the marriage institution.

A lot of people discover the habit at a tender age-often instinctively or innocently-while privately responding to and exploring their developing private parts during or after puberty. Others learn about it from magazines, books, friends, x-rated films and so on. Though masturbation, in many respects, negatively affects those who practice it, a lot of people do not readily trace these effects down to the habit because its initial manifestation on the victims is more psychological than physical. It is estimated that over 90% of all young men have at one time or another been victims of this habit, and to some, it lingered on to the extent of becoming a bondage, and later on maturing into an addiction. Its influence is most devastating when it grips the life of youths in their self- discovering season, rendering them most likely to elude the pressing and defining questions of life upon which their Godgiven destinies should hinge as they are mentally dominated by thoughts of inventing means of exhausting sexual pleasures through masturbation and other types of sex. Although most of its negative effects can be emphatically outlined and are evident to many, masturbation is one of the least talked about types of sex. And as a result of this silence on the subject by the church, families and society at large, masturbation has attracted a lot of misconceptions among different age groups. Here are some of the misconceptions and the corresponding suggestions on how they are to be correctly understood:

Masturbation is the most obvious form of sexual relief and satisfaction available Sex is a God-given pleasure gift to be enjoyed and experienced between a legitimately married couple in a meaningful interpersonal union undergirded by genuine love, trust and honesty which are fundamental to fulfilling intimacy. It is a creation ordinance given for the mutual expression and consummation of loving affection between a couple. While sexual feelings are legitimate and experienced by the young and old, and single and married all across the social and cultural divides; sex is to be done with the right person, in the right phase and for the right motive if it is to remain a blessing as God intended.

On the contrary, masturbation violates the sanctity of sex as a preserve

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of the married. Masturbation further discards the interpersonal and selfless nature of sex. It is having sex with yourself - self sex or self abuse. The immediate human reaction to a sexual urge, external sexual stimuli or life’s pressing circumstance should not be to seek relief through a sexual experience. We have sexual feelings in all phases of life in order to cultivate the fruit of self control. Instead of being a source of relief, the euphoric satisfaction derived from masturbation is temporal, enslaving and renders one to be sensually driven. Finally, masturbation for any reason, entrenches attitudes of selfishness, refusal to face reality, and undervaluing the place of intimate relationships such as marriage.

The guilt one feels after an act of masturbation is a trained response that can be challenged with better understanding of the health effects and harmlessness of masturbation.

Masturbation can only be considered harmless when we choose to ignore the negative psychological effects it bears on the lives of its users in its initial stages. Moreover, the inner harm of masturbation always finds expression in its physical equivalent. For instance, the psychological influence that masturbation has on those who engage in it wears down the foundation upon which the call to sexual purity and holiness is based, and that is, A CLEAN CONSCIENCE. Conscience is the inner regulator that gives guidance from within, and it keeps one awakened to the divine call to righteousness. The guilt is a result of violating, ignoring or going against the guidance of the voice of conscience. When the guidance of conscience is repeatedly violated, it gradually weakens and eventually becomes seared. A seared or dead conscience becomes a loophole for the free entrance of the satanic vices of lust, sexual idolatry and perversion. A weakened or seared conscience dampens one’s confidence to act in faith and connect to the presence of God.

kairos Masturbation is a harmless and healthy habit that just needs ‘SELF CONTROL’ to manage its use.

What the proponents of the so called ‘healthy masturbation’ fail to realise is that masturbation in most people eludes the grip of self-control and becomes a destructive obsession. The habit of masturbation is often engaged in over a long period, in greater quantity or at a higher frequency than was intended, eventually leading to an addiction, and hence, placing it outside one’s control. Moreover, the addictive nature of the habit of masturbation breeds a failure to resist the urge and exercise of self-control; and Satan uses this emerging bondage to sabotage and weaken the decision-making power of a person rendering him/her open to demonic influence even in other areas involving key and life-shaping decisions. When the drive to masturbate develops to the level of bypassing the will power of a person to resist the urge, the bondage or addiction has set in. In some cases, this loss of control, further degenerates into compulsive masturbation, that is, when one loses the ability to choose freely whether to stop or continue the behaviour.

Whatever feels good and makes me happy is OKEY’.

There is a negative belief perpetuated by our free society that is at the root of the current attitude of indiscipline and lack of restraint and that is, ‘if it feels good, do it.’ This is further strengthened by the fact that most secular programs and systems on sexuality portray masturbation as ‘cool and healthy ’. However, we must submit ourselves to the standard of God’s WORD in our pursuit of happiness and fulfilment. It is certainly not beneficial to enjoy the pleasures of sin for a season in exchange with eternal damnation. To break free from this deceptive mentality, it is important to understand what drives a mankind’s pursuits. Mankind possesses an inherent need and yearning for happiness and fulfilment. Satan abuses this legitimate human need by ensnaring man to pursue this spiritual state-of-fulfilment using the energy of the flesh. This can be through sex, fashion, drugs, and other substances subject to abuse. But when it comes to sex abuse, masturbation is one of the tools the enemy uses to blindfold one from pursuing true fulfilment in destiny. A person comes under the compulsion to marshal the thrills of masturbation with the unconscious deception that he will fill the void created by lack of divine alignment in pursuit of purpose. The enemy succeeds in this device because he knows that man can’t meet a spiritual need using the energy or substances of the flesh. Therefore, understand that what feels good is not always good for you, for others and may not be in line with the divine standard.

It is a sexual alternative for people who wish to avoid pregnancy and the dangers of STDs. They see it to be far better than intercourse with another person and contribute to the reduction of the incidence of STDs and unplanned pregnancy.

The foregoing statement justifying masturbation sounds noble but that is at the expense of understanding the spiritual and psychological effects that masturbation may bear on a person. Sex is a bonding agent, given to emotionally bond a couple in loving intimacy. If you act alone, they become addictive. The hormones released in the brain during sexual arousal become a bonding agent to whatever you are looking at in an external or mental image. Therefore, though masturbation is sex with oneself, it doesn’t lose the bonding quality of sex, but binds one’s spirit and emotions to the stimulating images or pictures in the mind. This trained response to the often unrealistic pornographic images engrained in one’s mind may lead to one contracting a connection with spirit husband or wife, reduced affection to the normal advances of the opposite sex, become emotionally reserved, secretive and mostly concerned with pleasing self. Masturbation conditions the body to respond to self-stimulation, which is self-centred, because sex is meant to be a relational experience. Masturbating when single will detract from one’s future enjoyment of, and appreciation of, the uniqueness of heterosexual relations. Masturbation enslaves one to a different kind of mentality that doesn’t accommodate the need for open communication, intimacy and true love. Selfless love: It is synonymous with selfish love which says, ‘too bad if it is not in your best interest, I see in you someone who might further my own ends, so I yearn to use you.’ On the other hand, selfless love says, ‘Your happiness means more to me than my own.’

There is love that dignifies and there is love that degrades. Solitary sex shatters the divinely ordained link between sex and love. And finally solitary sex leads to the alienation of a sexual partner by manifesting traits that prove lack of affection and interest.

Here is one self-limiting belief: ‘Life without masturbation isn’t possible.’

This misconception is more to do with the addictive nature of masturbation that the enjoyment they may derive from it. This is so because after many failed attempts to break free from the bondage, they resign themselves to its control, give up on the counsel of conscience and yield to its insatiable appetite. They, therefore, continuously swing between a sense of guilt and the appetite for masturbation pleasures. This usurps all effort and intention to attain freedom from the bondage. On the other hand, leading a purpose-driven life enables one to rearrange his focus and redirect his energies to reflect his new priorities according to the demands placed on him by vision. One puts on a new mental attitude that challenges his use of time, resources and efforts. He escapes the trap of spending life moments in boredom and meaninglessness which are breeding grounds of the bondage.

Discovering a worthy cause or ideal to live for holds an important key to freedom.

‘When I enter in marriage with a willing sexual partner, my masturbation issue will be a thing of the past.’

Marriage or free legal sex does not necessarily dismantle the psychological mental conditioning upon which the masturbation addiction thrives.

Moreover, chronic or compulsive masturbators have developed unrealistic sexual expectations that can only be met through wild imaginations and fantasies fed by masturbation enhancers such as pornography. In response to the addiction, they have developed relationship withdrawal strategies so as to escape the demands of honesty, open communication and personal accountability to their partners. They are, in many cases not willing to confess their bondage to their partners for freedom, and as a result, they hinder the atmosphere for spiritual and emotional oneness upon which true sexual intimacy and fulfilment is founded.

Dear reader, I want to take this opportunity to assure you that to whatever extent this bondage may have a grip on you; there is hope in Jesus Christ for complete freedom. I say this through my personal experience and the experiences of others who have shared with me their own stories, struggles and the pathway to their freedom. Winning private victory in this area often translates into the formation of a mentality that opens one to hidden, neglected and forgotten possibilities, which in time past were suffocated through social stigma, shame and personal reproach attached to masturbation.

There is a rebirth of hope and the surge of energy to pursue new possibilities. Life takes on a new meaning under the motivation of new foresight, new vision.

Look forward to the next edition for an expose on the destructive link between masturbation and pornography.

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Matters Of The Heart

By Zaina Yambala

She walked into the room, he closed the door behind her, the lights were dimmed low and the aroma of scented candles filled the air; the soft music was almost hypnotic. He ushered her gently across the room to the dinner table. The floors were garnished with rose petals, her heart skipped beat; he was such a gentleman, she couldn’t believe how much attention he had paid to detail, her favourite food, colours, music and flowers it all made sense for that brief moment. This is what she was born to feel; love, care, and concern. Finally, he made her feel special, like she was the most important person to him, the only person that existed in his world. He walked up behind her; she felt a surge of electricity as the hairs on the back of her neck stood on end. She couldn’t hide her excitement, he moved in closer and whispered in her ear “I Love you, I want to spend the rest of my life making you happy” This is the typical and common “love” scenario, but is that all there is to love? Is love only the romantic, happy times? What happens in the morning, when the candles wear out, the petals are dry and the dinner tables need clearing up and cleaning?

What happens when she isn’t the super model anymore or the envy of all his peers? What happens when he isn’t the man of the moment anymore and she can’t brag about him to her friends? For most people, romance, respect and admiration are often mistaken for Love. Beyond the temporal thrills and excitement, Love is more than just a feeling. Love is a deeper decision. Love has many forms and the most frequently talked about are Agape which is God’s unconditional, selfless Love, Phileo being brotherly Love, Eros the sexual or romantic love and Storge is fondness through familiarity, especially between family members or people who have otherwise found themselves together by chance. Please note that in all these types of love ...

“Where your treasure is there your heart will be.” Simply put, whatever is important to you, you will give it your love and attention. When anyone talks about love most people have in mind so many definitions but our ultimate example of Love is God’s Love.

“Love is patient, [and] is kind; it does not envy, does not boast, it is not proud {13:5} it is not rude, or self-seeking, is not easily angered, it keeps no records of wrongs; {13:6} Love does not delight in evil, but rejoices with the truth; {13:7} it always protects, it always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres. {13:8} Love never fails”

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kairos (1 Corinthians 13:4 – 8) Is this the kind of Love your mama told you about? Love is patient, Love isn’t forceful, or impatient, Love is tolerant and accommodating. If ever you are in hurry and not willing to wait for it, it’s not Love. You can’t force love on someone, no one should ever push you into ‘love’. This goes true for abstinence; if it’s not willing to wait it’s not Love. Love is kind, never believe love would torture you, physically, psychologically or otherwise; Love will never do anything to deliberately hurt you. Love is generous and doesn’t get tired of giving.

“For God so Loved the World that He gave...” Love does not envy so if you claim to love someone but you don’t want them to look or get better than you, you don’t love them. Love can’t wish evil or want something that belongs to someone else.

Love exalts and doesn’t pull down for selfish gain. Love does not boast in itself, true love is always about the other person and not always about the vain ‘me, myself and I’. In the same stream of thought; Love is not proud, beware of the guy or girl that goes on for hours talking about themselves and their achievements. True love is more interested in you (The other person). Love is not rude, Love is respectful; courtesy is not always common and obvious, but to the one you love it is only natural that

un-forgiveness is like drinking poison and expecting the other person to die. True love forgives and forgets. Love does not delight in Evil, Love is not born or sustained by magic potions or charms. Stop lying to yourself that you have a loyal and faithful partner when you know the evil you did. Love delights in truth, Love doesn’t lie. So many people lie to themselves and to the people they claim to love. In defense, we claim we don’t want to hurt people we love so we lie to them. Don’t lie to people you love, don’t lie to people who love you, don’t lie to anyone. If you love someone, tell them the truth no matter how bad it seems, they will love you for your honesty. I have learned from my own personal experience that lies are destructive. The last of these verses are self explanatory, Love always protects, it always trusts, always hopes, and always perseveres. Love never fails” Whether used to describe a strong feeling or misused to achieve a selfish desire, Love is a strong word that should never be taken so lightly. Love is a strong feeling that should never be suppressed or ignored; love is constant and consistent. Love doesn’t depend on what is happening or not happening good, bad or ugly. Love prevails above all else. Love is a very strong feeling; an emotion of affection. The depth of love creates a bond that holds on ones life that interweaves into their very fibers of their being. This bond is the hold that goes so deep and brings so much pain when

THE BITTER SWEET TASTE OF LOVE

anyone shows good manners and behavior to the person they love.

True love doesn’t look out for its own interests, Love isn’t self-centered. Love doesn’t easily become angry, Love is tolerant and the common example is that of a child messing up and a loving parent helping: no matter how many times the child messes up, love conquers anger; that’s true love. Love does not keep record of wrong doings, Things fall apart when you can’t forgive the ones you love or forget the wrong they have done. It hurts more to be offended by someone you love than someone you hate because when you love someone you expect only the best from them. Part of taking up your cross is being able to say, “Father forgive them for they know not what they are doing.” It is difficult to pray for those who despitefully use you and have a grudge against, but that’s love. Let’s not forget that bitterness and

disappointment sets in. Love, a subject that everyone can relate to but no one can say they fully understand. Love defined is love limited, love has no limit and thus can have no one clear cut definition. God is Love, and in the same way that that God has no limits neither does Love. For now there remain 3 things “Faith, Hope and Love but the greatest of these is Love” We all need love, to be loved and to love!

In conclusion, put some love in your heart and make the World a better place. Forget the past hurts and experiences of disappointments and give love one more try. But remember that God is Love and to experience true love, one must first experience the Author of Love, Love Himself - God

“for this cause I bow my knees unto the Father of our Lord Jesus Christ, {3:15} Of whom the whole family in heaven and earth is named, {3:16} That he would grant you, according to the riches of his glory, to be strengthened with might by his Spirit in the inner man; {3:17} That Christ may dwell in your hearts by faith; that ye, being rooted and grounded in love, {3:18} May be able to comprehend with all saints what [is] the breadth, and length, and depth, and height; {3:19} And to know the love of Christ, which passeth knowledge, that ye might be filled with all the fullness of God.”

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CHANGE

By Mwape Mumba

“Watch your thoughts for they become words.

Watch your words for they become actions.

Watch your actions for they become habits.

Watch your habits for they become character.

Watch your character for it becomes your destiny”

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Can a Leopard Change its spots? Can some-

one used to doing bad ever do good? Is it possible for people to change? These and many more questions are asked by people seeking answers, mostly when they want hope to be able to believe that indeed people do change. However, for most people, you’d find answers like ‘Baja, ni vamu blood nzelu zija nikuibalako chabe kuchinja’ (that one’s behavior is in the blood, you just have to forget about them ever changing).

So what is the truth about change? Is it possible for someone to truly change? The definite answer would be that change is possible, yes!

The expression ‘can a leopard change its spots’ does not imply that change is as impossible in a moral as it is in a natural sense: it only shows that it is extremely difficult and not to be often expected. But I have come to believe that people do change, only they do not change in the same ways we would expect them to, neither at the same pace because change is a gradual process. Change that happens quickly is mostly not true change, and rarely lasts. I say so because I am not the same person I was three years ago, and I cannot imagine that I will think and behave, several years from now, the same way I do today. At times, people seem to behave in a certain way simply because that is the behavior seemingly expected of them by others. They also behave predictably based on their upbringing and the kind of people they associate with.

One would not want to leave his drinking habits yet still be found among friends who are drunkards all the time, it will only allow them to go

back to those ways. Hence the saying ‘show me your friends and I will tell you what kind of person you are’.It is because of this that I can say that character is forged and found along the way depending on the kind of people one associates themselves with, and the environment in which they grow.

Also, change does not come from others, but from the desire within that person to change.

Change 100% is a choice one has to make from deep down within. If one is unwilling and not ready, no matter how much others may preach about change, it would not sink in. People do change, but it does not happen very often, unfortunately. There are several and endless beliefs out there about change and most of them are true. It’s true that some people will take several years to change. And, yes, there are those who will change, only to later return to their old ways. However, the answer to the fundamental question about change is: yes, it’s possible and yes, it’s sustainable over a lifetime.

Change is possible when we accept our shortcomings, and decide to change in those areas.

When one chooses to deny their own faults, and constantly blame others for their mistakes, then they keep themselves stuck and fail to make right decisions.

“Watch your thoughts for they become words.

Watch your words for they become actions.

Watch your actions for they become habits.

Watch your habits for they become character.

Watch your character for it becomes your destiny”

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Interviewing a great Man of God is never an easy task because you easily get swayed into his immense wealth of knowledge and wisdom conversely forgetting to write down those rich views. Undeniably so, Bishop Eddie Mulenga aka Bish is such a man.

Raised in a middle income family of eight brothers and sisters, Bish was the second born child. He had a dramatic upbringing such that he went to nine different schools in twelve years because his father was transferred so often. Despite this, Bishop pulled through and advanced to study Accountancy.

He was raised in the United Church of Zambia (UCZ) and gave his life to the Lord on Christmas Day when he was only thirteen years old at a Youth Camp in Kitwe.

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Though he gave his life to Christ in 1985, he soon learned in 1987 that if one was disconnected from fellowship then backsliding became imminent. Indeed, Bish backslid whilst still in the church and started back. “Those years were the worst years of my life because I wanted to fit-in with everybody else. Peer influence drove me away from my call, having sensed my call to serve the Lord at twelve years old. Instead of living my dream, my peers gave me theirs and I rebelled against mine,�

Bishop Eddie recalled. He added that there were times he would go with a close uncle to drinking places and would only ask for a coke. Unfortunately, as the sprees continued, he found himself calling for a beer.

Bishop Eddie explained that though he was born again, he was not Spirit-filled and

could not hear God rightly. So in 1990 at St. Andrews in Ndola, Bishop Chibesakunda laid his hands on him and he received the Holy Spirit. It was at such a time as this that his call to preach the Gospel became vivid.

He sensed this call on his life but only responded in 1994. He immediately gave up teaching at Broadway Secondary school and his accountancy studies to pursue what God made him for-preaching the Gospel.

He enrolled at Kaniki Bible University College and his journey of a fulfilled life began.

Bishop Eddie was ordained as Reverend on 26th December, 1999. He saved under Grace Ministries Mission between 1996 and 2004 as a National Youth pastor, national Worship pastor, Dean and lecturer of the Theological College. Bishop Eddie

kairos also saved as Senior Pastor of Jubilee centre.

In 2004, the Lord led Bishop Eddie to setup Liberty Christian Centre which recently celebrated its seventh anniversary. Liberty currently has sixteen branches across the country.

Bish is currently the Patron of Youth Ablaze, President of Kabod Ministries, and Bishop of Standing in the Gap. BISHOP’S LOVE-LIFE AND FAMILY Bishop Eddie first met Jane (Now Pastor Mulenga) in 1991 but never thought that she would one day be his wife. In 1993/94 Jane dated Bishop’s good friend. However, the relationship did not last and subsequently they broke up. “Praise the Lord!” Bish exclaimed as he narrated. He actually got off his seat and made a celebratory gesture. In 1997, Bish started contemplating on dating Jane and eventually realized that she would make a great wife. Well, it didn’t take long before he could pop the famous question, “Jane, would you be my wife?”

After proposing on 11th February, 1998, Bishop Eddie Mulenga and Pastor Jane Mandona tied the knot on 26th December, 1998. The two have since celebrated their 13th wedding anniversary.

Bish continues to be a husband of one wife and the couple has been blessed with five children.

PASSION FOR THE YOUTHS Bishop Eddie Mulenga is one of the most celebrated Pastors by the youths in Lusaka and beyond. He has a passion for youths and says that they are real, dynamic, energetic, and full of life. “I love hanging out with youths because they are real and I understand their language. They equally enjoy being with me because they have realized that I am real and they can identify that with me,” Bish stated.

Bishop Eddie believes that God has raised this generation of youths to do exploits beyond anyone’s imagination and beyond what the generation past did. He further said that youths have a big part in the end time move of God as prophesied by Joel in Joel 2:28 “And afterward, I will pour out my Spirit on all people.

Your sons and daughters will prophesy, your old men will dream dreams, your young men will see visions.” This was confirmed by Peter in Acts 2:17. “The visionary and prophetic voice according to these Scriptures is with the youth,” Bish said. “That is why there is a big war between the kingdom of darkness and the youths but Jesus Christ the Light will win,” he added.

Bishop Eddie bemoaned the level at which

the church was throwing away backslidden youths in the church adding that only religion throws away our backslidden friends.

“Jesus came to seek and save the lost; those hurting and needing help. Therefore, if we were perfect, Jesus wasn’t going to come.

The real Theology states that ‘we are perfect, we are being perfected, we shall be perfect. We are saved, we are being saved, we shall be saved.’Therefore, our legal position is that we are saved but reality is that we are in the process of being saved. God is still working on us. The Bible ultimately says that we shall be like Christ and then be perfect. For this reason, we need to bear with those struggling with sin, hurting and backslidden. Christ was gentle with people,” Bish said.

He advised never to give up on our sisters and brothers but to keep praying for them.

He also implored everyone to desist from being judgmental. “There are so many youths struggling in the church with addictions of alcohol, sex, masturbation, pornography and smoking. These youths live in cages and are afraid to openly talk about their problems in order to be helped because of judgmental people in the church,” Bishop Eddie lamented.

Fortunately, the bright side is that there are people like Bishop Eddie who are not judgmental. He is an example of those who stand with youths and love them through their struggles.

BISH TALKS ABOUT LOVE, SEX AND DECEIT Bish pointed out that LOVE was not an emotion but a decision that one had to make. “The problem is that we go looking for love because of the feeling within. Love is confused with lust. However, love gives at the expense of self whilst lust gets at the expense of others. You know someone loves you if all they ever think of is giving and not getting,” Bishop Eddie stated. He further said that youths ought to work on themselves before they could even think of loving someone else adding that people tend to attract the kind of people they were.

“You will attract the kind of person you are. Before you love, work and improve on yourself. Bitter, broken and hurtful people will attract the same kind of people,” Bish said.

Furthermore, Bishop Mulenga implored the youths to understand that SEX was sacred and an expression of love in MARRIAGE. He also said that there was something

deeper happening other than pleasure because the two souls were being joined together (Soul ties). He added that you become one with those you have sex with; therefore, how many would you become one with?

“Women’s paramount need is affection but man’s number one need is sex. This is why women are giving sex to try to get affection and some men pretend to be affectionate in order to have sex. It is because of this that people have ushered in an element of DECEIT in order ‘to get some’. There is a lot of deception because guys and girls just want to have sex,” Bish stressed.

Bishop Mulenga advised youths to value their bodies and not allow people to have sex with them for a phone or job. All the good things come from God. “Value yourselves because you are not cheap. Don’t get laid for a blackberry or airtime, you are worth far much more than that,” Bishop counseled. He continued by stating that youths should keep themselves in the Word of God and to be under authority. He further said that in submission there was protection. Therefore, youths were to submit to their pastors, parents or mentors. He was also quick to note that because of the sexually charged environment, youths were to supervise themselves by being weary of what they were hearing and watching.

HIS SECRET TO GROOMING POWERFUL YOUTHS “When you believe that sons go further than fathers then you are on your way to raising powerful young men of God,” Bishop said. He was however saddened that a number of people were afraid of grooming and raising champions who would be better than themselves. “Dar, no parent raises his child wanting him to be any less than they are,” Bish mocked. He believes in young people and is convinced that they can do great. The youths are not just the future leaders but present leaders. Bish is currently grooming a young man by the name of Leonard Kakungu who has a passion for the Lord and indeed the youths in higher learning Institutions.

LAST WORDS “The Bish says ‘Watsup and that’s watsup’ Keep it hot for Jesus unashamed with no excuse. It’s our turn NOW so LET’S DO THIS!”

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Achievement Values for Young Adults

Book Review

By Natasha Chitimbe Zambia’s future lies in the hands of its young people, a new generation that anxiously waits for the day when it will actually achieve its dreams. It is timely that the author of ‘Business Values for our time’ has released ‘Achievement Values for Young Adults’ for the sole purpose of changing mindsets, creating new ones, developing and mentoring a generation that will stand out in a highly competitive world. In it is timeless, practical advice from his personal life that is also very inspiring. The Achievers included in this book also share their insights on the book as well as on life as a whole.

The author has skillfully presented each chapter with essential values that every young determined mind needs to embrace on this path to achievement; they range from discovering yourself and identity, to decision making as well as the importance of planning for your future. The power of leverage interestingly deals with paradigm challenges and the dependency syndrome. There is an outlook on careers as well as winning in the workplace. He of cause did not fail to include the two things most young people love to talk about; money and marriage relationships.

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KNOWING HOW TO WORK IT!!! ........................................................................

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Sometimes it’s not what you have in your wardrobe, but it’s how well you can make it Worrrk.” Two or three pairs of jeans or slacks and a couple of T-Shirts can work wonders for you. You just have to know how to mix and match em so that you always look good and presentable. If you are working class, one slack/skirt can work for you as long as wear it with different shirts and accessories. For the guys, you can accessorize with a jacket, tie, sweater and wrist watch. For the ladies, you can use a jacket, scarf, necklace, earrings and bracelets.

When it comes to looking good, the secret is to keep it simple. Don’t complicate things. There are things that you can do, that won’t even cost you a much but will make you feel like a “million dollars”. For the ladies, you can use makeup, but not too much. And make sure you smell good (good perfumes don’t have to be expensive). Also, you need to know your body type and wear the clothes that you are comfortable in and that bring out your natural beauty. For the guys, ensure you are looking “fresh”. Wash your face or use a little powder, get a haircut and ensure that you smell good. Invest in deodorant and cologne.

One of the best things you can do to look good even if your wardrobe is skimpy, is to know the occasion you are going for and then dressing appropriately. The occasion can be work, school, business meeting, dinner or an outing. Whatever it is, it has to be appropriate and you have to be comfortable with what you are wearing.

Oh yeah, please don’t forget to smile and feel good. A good attitude goes a long way, INIT!!!

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LADIES Do not wear a tight bra: A bra should support, not constrict. Bras that are too tight are usually padded with synthetic knits, which restrict circulation and weaken breast tissue. A bra is too tight when any part of it causes redness or chaffing of the skin. For sleeping, remove the bra or, in the case of large breasts, wear one that is softer.

Avoid excessive exposure of the breasts to sunlight because it loses its elasticity, promoting sagging.

Caring for the female genitalia: • Cleansing: clean the genitals once per day with running water, moving fingers through the folds between the labia majora and labia minora. Avoid over-cleaning as it removes beneficial bacteria and protective substances from skin.

• Avoid anything that alkalinizes vaginal pH, such as regular soaps and shampoos, certain intimate soaps and deodorants, diaphragms with spermicide, and contraceptive foams. The vagina needs to keep a slightly acid pH in order to prevent fungal and bacterial infections.

• Careful with Tampons: regular use of tampons is not recommended, as it dries out the vaginal mucosa.

• Undergarments: prefer cotton garments, as they absorb moisture and keep the skin dry better than synthetic fabrics. o Avoid clothing that is too tight, as it blocks needed air circulation in the genital area. o Panty liners: use only on the last days of the period, not daily, as they block natural perspiration. Watch out for those that have perfume and deodorants that irritate and change the vagina’s natural acidity.

AVOID SEXUAL PROMISCUITY It has been shown that the greater the number of sexual partners over a lifetime, especially before age 21, the higher the risk of cervical cancer.

AVOID INTERCOURSE AT AN EARLY AGE Starting to have sexual intercourse early not only promotes vaginal infection with the herpes virus, the human papillomavirus, and various bacteria, but it also increases the risk of invasive cervical cancer.

GENTS Do not wear tight pants: The fashion of tight pants forces the testicles to remain up against to the body, warming them up to the body’s own temperature. This decreases sperm production, because at 35 o C or greater, this physiological process is stopped (which is the reason the testicles are located outside the abdomen). Wearing loose-fitting pants promotes male fertility.

MEN AND WOMEN Armpit hair removal helps reduce odor, as it decreases the amount of sweat retained in the armpit. Armpit hair can be removed by: • Cutting the hairs (regular shaving) • Pulling the hairs out with wax • Hair elimination by chemical hair removal creams or lotions.

Chemical hair removals can cause skin allergies and photosensitivity

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COMIC PHENOMENON

HK

THE MAN BEHIND

By Lisulo soko

HK is one of the feature attractions at the “Straight-up Comedy” shows held at Sterkinekor Arcades every first Thursday of the month. His real name is Nkisu Fulela Yikona but is popularly known as Handsome Kolored (HK). HK was born on 18th March 1987 in Kitwe where he grew up. He is the second born in a family of four. HK is currently living and working in Lusaka and is studying to be an Accountant with ACCA. His ambition is to do a major in Economics and Finance.

We managed to catch up with HK for an interview at Readers and Leaders Bookshop at Cairo mall, where we asked him a couple more questions about his background and his career as a standup comic.

Tell us more about your family.

I would describe my family as a humble one. We are comfortable and we don’t exaggerate life. My Father is the Senior Pastor of Lighthouse Christian Church in Kitwe and my Mother is a Mid-wife Nurse at Kitwe General Hospital. From the time I can remember, my father has always been in active ministry, although it was only part time while he worked as a technician at Philips (Specialized systems). He only went into full time ministry in 2004. I remember that we as a family fully supported his decision.

How was growing up for you? Did you ever think you would have a career as a comedian?

Honestly, I never ever thought I would be a comedian. I was always so quiet (uwa shishita) and withdrawn from everyone. In High school I was in boarding and I would be very noisy, but when I would come back home, I would fail to fit in because life back home was quiet. Anyway, despite coming from a Christian home, I was a very delinquent child. I would steal stuff from home to sell and would then go swimming or spend on other stuff. However, despite all this I Do you feel that comedy is what God has called you into? How do you plan on using your never smoked or took alcohol and I have never had sex. comic talent to serve God? How did you start out as a standup comedian?

People have recognized the talent in me as a crowd puller and as someone who was very funny; a Joker or a clown. However, the thought of becoming a standup comedian was far from me. Anyway, how it happened was that one day, Alinani called me after he got my number from Mangaliso. He asked if I was a standup comic. I refused saying I have never done it and never will. He then told me about a show at arcades and he wanted me to do it. I refused and we hang up the phone. Afterwards, when I thought about it, that I only had to do 10 minutes, I asked a work mate of mine if I could do it. She said that 10 minutes wasn’t a lot and that I would manage. So I started thinking about jokes I have done at outings, with friends and family, and I came up with something for 10 minutes.

I was so sure that if I did it, it would be my first and last.

I called back Alinani and we met later on. They explained in more detail about time, what I was to do and the like. So after work I rushed home to change then headed for arcades. I was told I was the first, to which I protested, but to no avail. To make matters worse, the show started late so the crowd became hostile. This made it was a challenge for me.

Before introducing me they asked me the name I would use. I told them HK. HK was my nick name that I picked up from my time in college (ZCAS). I went on stage and to my surprise the crowd was laughing to my jokes. The rest as they say is history.

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Yes I do, because through comedy and drama I can touch lives. I have a gift for communicating and pulling crowds through comedy and drama. I am currently working on a project where we will do drama and comedy in schools and then get to preach the gospel/word. I run a drama group at church that is who we are starting it with. I see this project going far; touching as many schools, colleges across the nation. In the long term, am thinking of doing crusades.

What is it about your character that makes you stand out as a comedian?

My comedy is based on a typical Zambian Life. I think people like to hear what they go through or went through as a kid or a young adult. They may not be very funny but can relate to someone because they are based on real life situations.

What is your inspiration?

God is my biggest inspiration. Every time I am going to do a performance, I will spend time in prayer; that it should turn out better than my expectations and that someone’s life will be touch by the comedy. I think that touching someone’s life doesn’t just have to be by the preaching of the word, but also by someone seeing your life and your sincerity in what you are doing.

By Kairos Team

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very ceremony marks the end of something and the start of something new, and as evidence that you are eligible to move from one level to the next, you are given a certificate

For example, when you graduate from high school you get a high school completion certificate. The certificate does not only mark that you have completed some course or program, but it also means that you are now eligible for something that you weren’t previously eligible for.

So when I say “Certified to Sex”, what I am referring to is marriage. Marriage for many people (especially Christians) in this day and age

simply means having a licence to have sex legally and with a guilt-free conscience. Therefore, the marriage ceremony might as well be a graduation ceremony, with the graduation gowns, hats and certificate giving ritual.

Sadly, it’s like the only reason people are getting married is so that they can legally have sex. The other sad part is that so many Christians in the church today are already engaging in sexual activities before and outside marriage. Therefore, in order to make it right, they rush to get married so that it becomes “legal”.

Studies conducted by the Church and various other individuals and organizations have shown that the rate of premarital sex, even in the church, has grown significantly in the last 50 years. Even the rate of Sexually Transmitted Diseases and Infections has shot through the roof. The age group mostly affected are those below 30 years old. This just shows the extent of the problem; about how the institution of mar rage has been neglected by so many people,even

by Christians. Marriage is a good thing. It was instituted by God himself. It was not man’s idea. I definitely agree that sex is a very important as pect of marriage, but if it is the main or onlyreason why you want to get married, then you are going to face a lot of challenges. For one, you would not have dealt with the lust and selfishness in your heart, which is in itself a recipe for disaster. Secondly, you will not get the fulfilment and satisfaction of marriage, as God intended it to be.

God intended marriage to be a wonderful experience and a process of becoming one flesh; where you get to grow with your partner and minister to each other- body, soul and spirit; where you get to share your life’s experiences, fears, hopes, dreams and aspirations; an environment that allows you to express who God made you to be. In essence, marriage is a picture of how God wants to show love to his “bride”, the church. This relationship between God and the church is based on love. John 3:16. Therefore, your marriage relationship needs to be based on love. If your relationship with your partner is based on love, it means that God is in it, because God is Love.

So the question is; how much do you love yourself and your partner? Do you love them enough to respect their body and their purity? I know from experience that staying pure is a very hard thing to do, because temptations are very high.

But I guess it all comes down to how much you want to do it right, for God as well as for yourself. So, instead of your marriage being a “Certificate to Sex” it should be a “Certificate to Love and to hold….till death do you part!”

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