My sex therapist mom embarrassed me to no end – then something shifted
Kate Wiley Contributed to The Globe and Mail Published Thursday, May 05, 2016 10:09AM EDT Last updated Thursday, May 05, 2016 11:57AM EDT Facts & Arguments is a daily personal piece submitted by readers. Have a story to tell? See our guidelines at tgam.ca/essayguide. “As you know, more oxygen leads to better orgasms.” So goes the conversation around the dinner table when Mom visits. It’s her favourite topic: sex. My husband actually counts the minutes at each mealtime before his motherinlaw manages to lob a casual reference to masturbation or foreplay into the familial banter. “It’s an occupational hazard,” she protests when I ask that she rein it in. There’s truth to her defence. She’s been a practising sex therapist for as long as I can remember. At the dawn of her career, she was invited to speak on talk shows hosted by the likes of Joan Rivers. I remember Husband No. 2 (she’s now on her fourth) dutifully taking a ribbing from Howard Stern for having landed himself a “sex professional” for a wife. Mom gave an overboisterous laugh and proffered a dildo as a stage prop. These days, most people know the difference between a sex therapist and a sex surrogate. Dr. Diana’s advice to her clients is administered in an office, while fully clothed. But in the 1990s that distinction wasn’t so clear in people’s minds. The misconceptions were implicit in the wideeyed stares of my schoolmates when I revealed my mother’s line of work. “She does what?” A year into my undergraduate degree at a Catholic university, I realized there was no concealing my