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How to Teach Children the Value of Hard Work
All parents want their children to be happy. Yet how do you achieve happiness? One might say that responsibility and hard work help build happiness. When you work hard to achieve your goals, and feel fulfilled because your life has meaning, that’s a great definition of happiness.
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In teaching children a handstand than hard work,what we “Good job” doesn’t teach when they work are really talking about is building a child exactly what they hard but fail at the monkey bars, self-confidence and did right. When you praise they’re learning that perseverance even when something is your child, be specific better outcomes come from doing difficult. Teaching about what you saw and things that are easy. children hard work also encourages what you would like them Instead, praise your child when he or children to try new to continue doing. she tries again after things, because failing, or when nothing is easy the first time you try it. you see them practicing a skill over and Here are some tips on teaching children over. This will help your child learn that the value of hard work. hard work, effort, and practice is valued as Praise the effort more than the much as the actual outcome. accomplishment. If a child is praised Give specific praise. “Good job” more for being naturally good at doing doesn’t teach a child exactly what they 56
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did right. When you praise your child, be specific about what you saw and what you would like them to continue doing. “I like how you didn’t give up even after you fell off the monkey bars. I can see you swinging your body and keeping your head up. You can do it!” Effortspecific praise lets your child know that you notice the work they are putting in and positively reinforces that effort. Coach your child instead of taking over. A coach’s job is to help develop skills. Instead of jumping in to finish something when your child struggles, ask yourself what tool, thought, or mindset can help your child be successful. This will require patience on your part. Consider a child struggling to buckle the seatbelt because the jacket keeps getting caught. Poor response: “Here, just let me do it.” This signals that you don’t think they are capable. Okay response: “Move your jacket out of the way first.” Identifies the problem for your child and tells them how to solve it. Best response: “Try looking at the buckle to see if something is blocking it.” Coaches your child to identify the problem and figure out a solution. Turn it into a game. If your child is getting frustrated and wants to give up, sometimes it’s time to get creative to keep the work fun. Is your child frustrated at cleaning their room? Keep them engaged with “Room Olympics”, including basketball dirty laundry, a clothes folding contest, and organized toy tossing. Competition against time is another fun example, “Let’s work together and see if we can clear the parlor in under five minutes. Ready? Go!”
Show by example. Tell your children stories of times when you thought about giving up but decided to try again instead, or about a mistake you made and how you solved the problem. Also encourage your children to talk to you about things in their life that they work hard at. These conversations help fuel the thought processes behind hard work and determination.
Teach them to ‘work smarter’. Sometimes hard work includes finding easier ways to do a task. It’s not considered laziness, but rather showing them how to problem solve and innovate. Is it taking forever to pick up all the legos one by one? Improvise a cardboard box to scoop large piles at once. Ask a child, “Is there an easier way to do that?” and you might be surprised at just how creative they can get. Holiday 2020 57
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Here is how you can draw the 107 year old Kilauea 2 Lighthouse using a simple three step process:
Step 1: FORM UP the lighthouse pressing softly with your pencil making the base like a rectangle that is slightly larger at the bottom than the top. Then put a square where the light casing is, and a triangle for the cap. Put a ball on top of the triangle with a point 3 on it and the oval inside the square for the light. Then make a rectangle doorway with a triangle top and ad the windows and railings.
Step 2: OUTLININGNow make anything you want around the lighthouse like birds, clouds, ocean, whales, get creative! When you have things the way you want them, press harder or use a pen to outline your drawing. Step 3: SHADING and COLORINGFigure out what direction the sun is shining on the lighthouse and shade it on the other side. Advanced artists can use reflective light on the shaded side.
eMail your art to Kauai Family Magazine by January 15th, 2021. One of you will win the book Honu and Hina by Patrick Ching and Friends
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Reyla Walicki Age 9, Grade 4 Kauai Christian Academy.
Kaua’i Family Magazine thanks all the young creative artists for their participation. Everyone’s a winner with us!
Humuhumunukunukuapua’a | Honorable Mentions
Anika Singh Age 8, Grade 3 Kalaheo Elementary School Asha Singh Age 6, Grade 1 Kalaheo Elementary School August Voight Age 5 Kauai Christian Academy
Brooklyn Braun Age 8, Grade 4 Island School
Hailey Gurtiza Age 10, Grade 5 Wilcox Elementary School
Gabriel Cohick Age 8 St. Catherine’s School
Justin Moreno Age 5, Kindergarten St. Theresa School Gabrielle Gregorius Age 6, Kindergarten Alakai O Kauai
Noah Cohick Age 6 St. Catherine’s School
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