Rachael + Kyne
Rachael + Kyne
DECEMBER 23, 2022
TURANGA CREEK VINEYARD, WHITFORD
Song of Solomon 8:6-7
"Set me as a seal upon your heart, as a seal upon your arm, for love is strong as death, jealousy is fierce as the grave. Its flashes are flashes of fire, the very flame of the LORD. Many waters cannot quench love, neither can floods drown it. "
Corenthians Chapter 13 Verses 1 to 7
If I speak in the tongues of men and of angels, but have not love, I am a noisy gong or a clanging cymbal. And if I have prophetic powers, and understand all mysteries and all knowledge, and if I have all faith, so as to remove mountains, but have not love, I am nothing. If I give away all I have, and if I deliver up my body to be burned, but have not love, I profit nothing.
Love is patient and kind; love does not envy or boast; it his not arrogant or rude. It does not insist on its own way; it is not irritable or resentful; it does not rejoice at wrongdoing but rejoices with the truth. Love bears all things, believes all things, hopes all things, endures all things.
Kyne and Rachael, have you come here freely and without reservation to give yourselves to each other in marriage?
R. We have
Will you love and honour each other as husband and wife for the rest of your lives?
R. We will.
Will you accept children lovingly from god, and bring them up according to the law of christ and his church?
R. We will.
I promise to be true to you In good times and in bad In sickness and in heath.
I will love you and honour you All the days of my life.
Take this ring as a sign of my love and devotion.
Olivia’s speech
In a lot of ways Rachael and I are quite different. Summers at Pauanui involved Rachael getting up early to go for a run and me staying in bed – I feel Kyne might be able to relate to this. Rachael has always been the most wonderful friend though. I love the fact how she is always straight up and tells it like it is. She is a little ray of sunshine and I really admire her optimestic and yet pragmatic outlook on life. Rachael is a really loving person who really cares about her family and friends and I am very proud to be one of these.
Kyne and I became friends near the end of university over the general engineering camaraderie and shared love of dancing. As you will surely see by the end of tonight, Kyne is an amazing dancer. I think he would give Shakira a run for her money. Kyne is a wonderful guy he is fun to be around and he is very kind and caring.
Sayonara’s speech
A warm welcome to you all who are here to grace this happy occasion. Thank you for coming from far and wide to help us celebrate. I, SQ, mother of the groom, am honoured to say a few words about my son Kyne who I am so proud of. Kyne is a name of English origin that means “Royal one”. I don’t know what Kyne would say, but we have certainly tried our best to bring him up like a Prince! Luckily, he was our one and only so he couldn’t be a Spare - thank goodness. As William Shakespeare said, “Some are born great, some achieve greatness and some have greatness thrust upon them.” While every mother thinks that their child is born great – I also wanted Kyne to work hard, be smart and achieve greatness –which I really feel he has done- certainly in my eyes. I am so proud of his achievements at university and being scouted to work at Air New Zealand, and through hard work and dedication has managed to be a proud first home owner by the age of 25 – which as we all know in this day and age is no mean feat. But most of all, I am particularly proud of the warm, witty, kind and golden hearted person that Kyne has become. This, I will take as my greatest achievement.
However, no matter how proud I am of Kyne’s good points… I know he also has a very cheeky side to him! He has a way with words and people – particularly women! When once asked,” how do you do that, Kyne?” Kyne replied with a giggle,” you can only perfect that art when you live with 4 mothers and a grandmother. Kyne was referring to his aunts, my sisters who have taught him all the important things in life – such as not to argue with women! You can thank me later Rachel. Like any good prince, Kyne also loves good food and definitely good wine. I’m not quite sure where he picked the latter up –certainly not me! I will put this one down to nature. not nurture. Kyne’s love of wine has led him to be a connoisseur of wine and also has led him to convincing his beautiful bride to be married in a vineyard! Careful Rachel – perhaps there are 3 in your marriage already! But in all seriousness, Kyne was always my golden child – loyal, caring and understanding, and although we have had our ups and downs the bond that we share is very special and built on trust and belief in each other. And for this - I am eternally grateful for. Kyne, you have been my pillar of strength, the light in my life, my best friend and I absolutely love you to bits.
Today, I see a young, handsome, well accomplished man and people often say to me you’re so lucky to have such a good son but let me assure you it was not luck, it was sacrifice and discipline along with respect, love and understanding from both parties. Love and relationships built on these foundations can achieve the world, and I know that Kyne and Rachel also share these qualities. In Rachel, Kyne has found a wonderful person to share his life with, and, like most princes do (well at least the sensible and non- red headed ones) he has chosen very wisely. Rachel is someone who he trusts, is not only bright but also very kind and caring. I could not have wished for a more beautiful person to become part of our family.
Today, as they take this big step to stand by each other, as husband and wife, I wish my Kyne and his Rachael a lifetime of health, happiness and togetherness. Thank you all again for sharing this beautiful and very special day with us.
Jono’s speech
I was surprised when he asked me to be his best man; not because I doubt the strength of our bromance, but because I thought, theres no way that meticulous Kyne, Mr plans everything on an excel sheet, would let me stand up here and make a speech; considering the 13+ years of dirt I have on him. So I told him this, and he replied “Jono, it has to be Rachael approved”.For a moment I was a bit deflated, you know? There go all the juicy stories. But then I thought back my friendship with Rachael over the years, and the sorts of jokes we would share, I figure I must have some brownie points saved up, and you only live once. SO, lets risk it!
How we met: It may surprise you to know I wasnt too much of a fan of Kyne when we first met, although to be fair to him I was quite grumpy at the time. It was in the first year of uni, the morning after one of the big engineering parties. During the previous night, the girl I’d had a crush on had gone and made out with some random loser. So that morning I was a bit hungover and in a bit of a foul mood. I was catching up with said girl for coffee, when this guy came over and sat down at our table and said “Hey, Im Kyne, I dont think we’ve met”. And in my head, all i could think was “Oh, we’ve met, you’re the dick from last night”. Then he did that little smirk. You all know the one. He likes to call it “the smoulder”. Anyway, it must have worked, because we’ve been friends ever since.
How I met your Rachael: Around the time we graduated from uni, Kyne went through a bad breakup, and I started to worry about that boy. But time went by, and then one day, he told me that he’d been to a party, and he’d met someone pretty special. They’d hit it off, talking outside on the deck about soccer. Naturally, when he introduced me to Rach, it had to be a joke of some form. I was instructed to introduce myself as “the competition”. Of course Rachael just looked confused and looked at Kyne “I thought you said his name was Jono”. In hindsight Kyne, I’m definitely starting to think she gets the jokes, and just likes to mess with us. Anyway, on a more serious note, the two of you have been great friends to me over the years, and I’m excited to see where you go from here. To Kyne and Rachael
Kim and Kieran’s speech
Initial coffee date and meeting Kyne:
Kim: Rachael is very organised and a creature of habit, so when I heard she was going on a coffee date I could tell something was going on. Considering Rachael doesn’t drink coffee and would usually be mid way through her morning run it was clear that she was keen on the man. At this point Kieran was over in the UK….
Kieran: Yes I’d heard whispers from half way across the world that Rach possibly had a man on the scene. Upon hearing this I immediately went into older brother mode, thinking I need to meet this fella, give him a firm handshake and assess what his intentions were with my younger sister. However, being overseas it was quite a while before I got a chance and had to rely on Dad and Kim to complete the assessment.
Kim: while I did get to shake Kyne’s hand and look him in the eye, I was less concerned about his intentions because I knew Rachael does not suffer fools and any screening I might do would pale in comparison to hers.
Opposites attract:
Kim: Kyne is totally different to Rachy and opposites do attract. The best example of this aside from Rachael disliking all computer games is sharing holidays at Pauanui. Rach up at the crack of dawn, done pilates, swim, breakfast, halfway through breakfast and Kyne stumbles out of bed rubbing his eyes mid morning at best, a bit dusty from sharing a few reds with Row the night before, rummaging around for a cup of coffee before driving his Tesla down to the bakery.
Kyne is a confident guy and this has had such a positive effect on Rachael. It is noticeable how happy she is with Kyne. Beneath a tough exterior Rachie is very kind and caring. She keeps her circle quite close but she will do anything for those she loves and trusts.
Kyne & Rachael – you have very different interests but complimentary personalities. Stick to your strengths, let the other take the lead in their area of expertise. You both have a mischievous nature, and this will ensure you will have plenty of laughs throughout life. Congratulations.
Jane’s speech
As parents, we know that our children are lent to us and we must school ourselves to continually let them go. Today is a big day for me as this is a public recognition that Rachael is truly moving on. Although she is totally independent and definitely not to be owned by anyone, we are entrusting Rachael to you Kyne confident that you will love and cherish her as you have vowed today. However let it be known that Kyne, you were chosen by Rachael. You have been her only boyfriend and she has never wavered in her love (well maybe it was infatuation in the beginning maturing to love) commitment and loyalty to you.
I love that Kyne brings out Rach’s inner child, her sparkle, beautiful smile and full bodied laugh so often hidden, weighed down by the responsibilities of life, job and striving to get ahead. I love that Kyne challenges Rachael and that she adores him. But most of all I love that Kyne loves Rachael and Rachael loves Kyne. I wish for your continued love for each other and happiness together. Have fun, be optimistic, enjoy all of life taking time to appreciate little moments. Never go to sleep on an unresolved argument. Hold your love and each other tight. My love and support always.
Rowan’s speech
Kyne one night came to see us and asked to speak to Jane and that in itself isn’t unusual as sometimes he discusses legal matters so off they went down to the office. Then sometime later Jane came back out and asked for me so I joined them thinking that Kyne needed some outdated tax advice or something. Jane said Kyne has something to show you and he showed this ring. He said “Oh I’m sorry Rowan but I came to talk to the head of the household” now at the time I didn’t say anything but I am now. Kyne I understand where you are coming from but I am the head of the household. I can see that it may not look like that. It’s a bit like King Charles I’ve got the robes and the throne but the power lies elsewhere and I can assure you that tomorrow you are in the same boat.
You want the best for your children, you want them to be to be happy, healthy educated, have values, have a sense of community and then at the end you want them to be independently minded and live their own lives. Rachael you have learnt all of those things and are incredibly independent and single minded in your own life and it’s impressive. If I was to say one thing that I haven’t said publicly before and something I’m incredibly proud of is that you live your life to the beat of your own drum – you don’t take on board anything that doesn’t meet your values or your ideal of what people should or should not do, and that creates friction in certain areas but you do not bend but it is something I have incredible respect and love for that.
Many years ago Rachael wrote some notes to me, some of them are not overly flattering but she would’ve been about 7. I used to keep them in my office drawer and when times got tough I’d have a read and a giggle. ‘inside this bag are bits of my dad and a bit of me’:
• Dad likes to have fun
• Dad likes lollies sports his home… (I didn’t say mum)
• Dad is absolutely fantastic
• Dad can get angry but he says sorry quickly
• There are not many superhumans but Dad is one of them!
Rachael’s speech
Kyne, you have continued to show up, step up and love me for me throughout our 6 years together. We started our relationship by being authentically ourselves and interested and curious enough to understand and accept one another despite some on paper differences. I also think that we recognised that the differences were interesting, exciting and have actually brought new ideas, interesting conversations, questionable food tasting and a lot of fun into our lives. Today as your wife Kyne I am grateful that we each showed the interest to get to know each other, accept each other for who we are and who we can become.
Kyne, as I have shown, you are insightful and you take thoughtful actions to show you care. I recognise the lifelong commitment we made today and yet I also know that you and I shared an understanding of commitment right from the start. With one example asking me early on ‘which date should be counted as our first date and therefore our anniversary for next year?’ Kyne, you are the person I make plans with therefore I look forward to creating plans for 23rd December for the years to come.
Kyne you are the person I dream big with and race to the front door with and I choose you each and everyday for the rest of our lives. 7 years ago I held your warm hands to dance and tonight we will dance together as husband and wife. I am excited to dance through life with you.
Kyne’s Speech
To start off with, Jane and Rowan. I would never have met you, had it not been for Rachael. Hard to comprehend but true. You have been extremely welcoming from Day 1, from slaving over the pork during my first visit to the house. I do not think I was even remotely worried whether the food was good. You made me feel comfortable and I must have made a good enough impression to be here. Jane and Rowan for me are the epitome of hospitality and accomadativeness. Is that a word Jane? It truly is amazing how much support you provide and i hope to be able to replicate the same one day. Over the years, Jane and I get into regular banter over the use and choice of wordings and phrases but I can tell you now, one phrase Jane cannot use which is potential son-in-law. It is now Son-in-law. and equally on my side I cannot respond with potential mother in law. So here is a toast to Jane and Rowan for not using the word potential in the context of son in law.
Thank you everyone for being here today and sharing in our joy. To many more years of celebration and happiness and to that a toast to everyone! Finally, my wife Rachael. well where do I start. You are the most loving, caring and generous person, these qualities individually wouldnt mean much but together make you the most beautiful person I have ever known. I promise to put you first in all things except when it is first to the door after our walks. I promise to support you, literally and figuratively in all that life throws at us and i throw at you. I promise to love you, respect you and continue being your best friend for ever and ever and ever. Here is a toast to Rachael for saying yes to marrying me and also now being part of my shenanigans.
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