Auburn Opelika Parents February 2013

Contents February 2013 Volume 3 Number 12

Features 26 How to Bond with Tweens and Teens Learn 12 ways for connecting beyond possessions, sports and texting.

30 Teens and Dishonesty Discover eye-opening truths about why and how often kids lie, and when you should worry.

34 Celebrate Your Tween

You’ll find six encouraging thoughts about parenting your tween along with the wonderful aspects of this phase we might simply fail to notice.

Columns 2 From One Parent to Another Kendra Sumner

4 Living With Children John Rosemond, Ph.D.

On The Cover

8 Kids Health

Wes Stubblefield, M.D.

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Departments 6 Bits and Pieces

Get This!

Paige Gardner Smith

10 School Bits

28 The FlyLady

36 Family Calendar

Marla Cilley

29 Dave Says

44 Parent Previews

Dave Ramsey

32 A Page in a Book Paige Gardner Smith

43 Parenting on the Plains Polly Dunn, Ph.D.

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Tiara Makia Baker is the 17-year-old daughter of Rodney and Angel Baker of Opelika. She is a junior at Beauregard High School. She loves to model, travel, hunt, and play the guitar. She is a member of True Deliverance Holiness Church in Auburn. Tiara is very caring and outgoing and loved by her family and friends.

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Auburn-Opelika Parents Lee County’s Foremost Parenting Source

Auburn-Opelika Parents Magazine, is founded on the principle that parenting is an exciting, diverse, challenging, and significant, role in our community. Auburn-Opelika Parents Magazine is a community advocate for families and the parenting process.

Publisher Kendra Sumner kendra@auburnopelikaparents.com

Editor DeAnne Watson deanne@auburnopelikaparents.com

Associate Editor Kelly Watson

Director of Sales Justin Sumner justin@auburnopelikaparents.com or (334) 209-0552

Contributing Writers Marla Cilley Polly Dunn, Ph.D. Julia Garstecki Dave Ramsey John Rosemond Heidi Smith Luedtke, Ph.D. Paige Gardner Smith Wes Stubblefield, M.D.

Cover Photography Candy Avera www.pictureperfectbycandy.com

President Jason Watson jason@auburnopelikaparents.com

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From One Parent to Another...

Introducing our newest edition of Auburn Opelika Parents Magazine...the Tweens/Teens Issue! After listening to readers’ suggestions and interests as it related to their families, we decided to pack up and retire our ‘Travel Issue’ from previous years and take a new adventure into the world of our tweens and teens. While many of our monthly articles and resources include support for families with children 10-18 years old, the need is so broad that the best way to fully provide parents with a resource is to give tweens and teens their own month! With such trending topics as peer pressures, growth spurts, educational demands, career and adulthood goals, the hope is to provide insight, research and a sense of normalcy to families as they move into this stressful, yet exciting stage of life.

Many of my family and friends are smack dab in the middle of the tween/teen years, and personally, our family is just knocking on that door. This past December, my oldest daughter turned ‘double digits’ and it seemed the moment she blew out the candles the hormones settled in, the uncomfortable questions began, and full on drama to warrant a Golden Globe nomination quickly shifted our family dynamic! In a moment of panic, I looked to our very own cover photographer, Candy Avera, who has two tween/teen girls.

Hearing about friendship fun, boy woes, late nights of homework, and fashion trends have not only been eye opening, but have prepared me a bit to what I have in store with my own children. While these years can be difficult, I am betting the rewards far outweigh all the struggles, fears, and learning curves. Her two girls are beautiful, smart, talented and filled with a contagious wonder and excitement for the future. Not only can I see them growing and blooming, but I find comfort and hope knowing that their mom is their biggest supporter, guide and friend. Maybe my family will make it through the tween/teen years, too.

This month, we have featured three great articles that focus on our theme. In Celebrate Your Tween! by Michele Ranard, the author reminds us of all the positive aspects of parenting a tween such as the growth of independence, which parents have hoped for since those toddler years. Also, she suggests that in the midst of those difficult questions and mood swings, there is a bond forming through the parent-teen conversations. This more ‘adult-like’ relationship can even grow into common interests and goals that can be shared for a lifetime. On the flip side, teens may also feel the need for independence to the point of withdrawal from family, which in turn, could lead to lies and deceit. Research suggests in Teens and Dishonesty: Eye Opening Truths Parents Need to Know, 96% of kids lie during the teen years. Fear not! The advice given will help prepare and guide us. The keys are awareness, communication and prevention.

This generation has been coined the “I” generation. Filled with iPods, iPads, “I deserve”, and “I want”, our kids are living in a day and time where technology is advanced and they are becoming less communicative and more self focused. Yet, among this centrally focused theme, you will find the root and foundation of our tween/teen to be more in line with “I care, I serve, I give, and I will!” From one parent to another, the tween/ teen years are inevitable, it is our planning and approach in these years that determines the outcome. I embrace the ‘I-generation’! Among them are intelligence, imagination, independence, ideas, and inspiration, with infinite possibilities.

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Living With Children

By John Rosemond

Don’t Referee Sibling Squabbles Q:

How can we help our 7-year-old twin girls stop fighting?

They constantly provoke and antagonize each other. We thought this was just normal sibling conflict, but it seems to be developing into actual resentment. One of them is now saying we love the other one more, and the other one bullies and intimidates her when we’re not looking. We seem to be doing nothing but mediating their fights. Help!

A: As long as you referee their squabbles, this is only going to get worse. Even the most well-intentioned referee (who’s only trying to level the playing field) ends up identifying one child as the villain and the other child as the victim. In effect, the victim wins. The supposed villain must apologize, give the toy back, or do whatever the parentreferee thinks is necessary to make matters right again.

No matter what the particulars of any given conflict situation are, the villain always ends up feeling unjustly convicted. She

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begins, therefore, to plot and look for ways of evening the score. The victim, meanwhile, begins looking for opportunities to set up the other child to look like the villain again. And around and around they, and you, go.

Parents need to understand that the “book” of sibling conflict cannot be judged by its cover.

It may seem as if the child who most often occupies the role of victim is suffering abuse, but she is actually willing to endure insult and even pain in order to obtain the perverse satisfaction of seeing her sibling humiliated and punished. In the long run the role of victim becomes increasingly incorporated into her social behavior and she begins playing it with other children.

The only way to solve this problem is to put both children in the same boat; to hold them, in other words, equally responsible for the problem. That requires that you stop refereeing, that you stop assigning the roles of villain and victim, no matter what the situation looks like on the surface.

Tell them that from now on, they are responsible for solving their problems. If they

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get you involved by complaining, tattling, or creating a loud ruckus that attracts your attention, both of them will sit in separate chairs, in separate areas of the house, for one hour. That’s the “warning shot” across the bow. The second such offense on any given day results in both of them being confined to separate areas of the home for the rest of the day and early bedtime.

In that event, make sure that the separate areas are equally boring. Must be fair, you know.

Done consistently and dispassionately, that will motivate them to solve their problems without involving you. This plan may also greatly improve their relationship (not right away, mind you, but eventually) because it requires them to cooperate and collaborate. In effect, you become the villains, and their job is to keep you off their backs.

A more peaceful home is just around the corner!

Family psychologist John Rosemond answers parents’ questions on his website at www.rosemond.com.

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bits & pieces 2013 Girl Scout Cookie Drop The 2013 Girl Scout Cookie lineup includes favorites, such as Shortbreads, Thin Mints, Caramel Delights ®, Peanut Butter Patties ®, Peanut Butter Sandwiches, Lemonades™, Thanks-A-Lots™ and a new addition, the Mango Crème with Nutrafusion. The sale begins with girls taking orders from families, friends and neighbors at their homes and offices. For those who miss out on the in-person sales, they can still find their favorite cookies being sold at booth sales beginning Friday, February 1, where troops will set up in front of local businesses and shopping centers. For more information or to locate Girl Scout troop, visit www.girlscoutssa.org or call toll free 1-800-239-6636.

The Montgomery Ballet Presents “Sleeping Beauty” Don’t miss Sleeping Beauty, presented by the Montgomery Ballet. Experience the magic of the Disney classic, through ballet interpretation!

Performances will be held March 15-17 at 7:30 p.m., and 2 p.m., at the Montgomery Performing Arts Centre. www.montgomeryballet.org.

“Beauty and the Beast” Musical Coming to Montgomery The romantic Broadway musical for all generations, Disney’s Beauty and the Beast, the smash hit Broadway musical, is coming to The Montgomery Performing Arts Centre, February 6, at 7:30 p.m.! Based on the Academy Award-winning animated feature film, this eyepopping spectacle has won the hearts of over 35 million people worldwide. This classic musical love story is filled with unforgettable characters, lavish sets and costumes, and dazzling production numbers including “Be Our Guest” and the beloved title song. Experience the romance and enchantment of Disney’s Beauty and the Beast at MPAC! www.ticketmaster.com.

Near His Heart Dinner for Special Needs Families Come enjoy a dinner meant to uplift and encourage families of children with special needs who are near to His heart. Free, for all families with children with special needs. Childcare for all children is provided with advance registration.

To register, call 334-887-3909. Space is limited.

Friday, February 22, 6 p.m. Free. Lakeview Baptist Church, 1600 E. Glenn Ave., Auburn.

Alabama Wildlife & Outdoor Expo to be Held in Dothan The Annual Alabama Wildlife & Outdoor Expo will be held at the Dothan Civic Center Saturday, February 9 from 9 a.m. – 6 p.m. and Sunday, February 10 from 10 a.m. – 4 p.m.

There will be vendors and entertainment including the Ultimate Air Dog Competition. www. dothanciviccenter.org.

Wetumpka Crater Days The greatest natural disaster to ever hit Alabama was caused when a very large meteor hit near the area where the city of Wetumpka now sits. It created quite an impact. First discovered in the mid 1970s, a five-mile wide crater or astrobleme, meaning “star wound” was confirmed in 1998 by Dr. David King Jr., Professor of Geology, Auburn University. Wetumpka will host Crater Days: Wetumpka Impact Crater, February 21-23. Visit www.visitelmoreco.com for more information.

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Bridge Crossing Jubilee Commemorates Selma

The 2013 Bridge Crossing Jubilee will be held February 28-March 4 at the National Voting Rights Museum and Institute in Selma. Included this year is a pageant, mock trial, step show, festival, arts and craft vendors, awards, unity breakfast, march re-enactment and much more! For a schedule, visit www.bcjubilee.org.

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For weeks, January 25-February 12, the streets of downtown Mobile are filled with the sights and sounds of Mardi Gras Celebration with live marching bands, brilliant-colored floats and of course the crowds of parade goers that is Mardi Gras in Mobile. For a schedule of Mardi Gras events, visit www. cityofmobile.org/mardigras.

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Bring Your Valentine to DeSoto Caverns Family Fun Park Visit DeSoto Caverns for a special light show commemorating “love” on every cave tour.

February 7th - 14th, DeSoto Caverns, Childersburg, Alabama. www.desotocavernspark.com.

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Understanding Strep Throat

It’s that time of the year again! Streptococcal pharyngotonsillitis, or “strep throat”, is a common childhood illness that is diagnosed this time of year, and can be misunderstood. Hopefully, this will give you a little more information, and make you a better educated parent and consumer.

“Strep throat” is defined as an inflammation of the throat and tonsils caused by an infection with a bacterium called Streptococcus pyogenes or Group A streptococcus. There are many varieties of streptococci that can cause both throat and other infections, but the only one we are concerned with is this particular strain. This is a common bacterium, and is thought to be an organism that lives in the back of healthy people’s throats (called “strep carriers”). In fact, this carrier status may be present in up to 15-20% of healthy children, and this may give rise to the localized epidemics of strep infections that we see in the community. However, this carrier status does not usually need to be treated.

Strep bacteria are usually spread from one infected person to another, and symptoms usually develop 2-5 days after contact with another person’s saliva or other upper respiratory secretions. A person is most contagious during the acute phase of the illness and during the first 24 hours after treatment has begun. Symptoms of a strep infection of the throat include the following: a red, sore throat, a white film on the tonsils, difficulty swallowing, tender and/or enlarged lymph nodes in the neck, and fever. However, there

are a variety of organisms (both viruses and bacteria) that can cause similar symptoms and do not need treatment. Strep bacteria do not usually cause cold symptoms, and those with obvious cold symptoms may not need testing or treatment.

If you suspect your child may have a strep infection, which may be the case if an otherwise healthy school-aged child has an abrupt onset of the symptoms listed above without obvious cold symptoms (although one may have both at the same time) after contact with a child with a diagnosed or suspected condition, you should visit your health care provider. It is well documented that the suspicion of strep throat should be confirmed with a test. A confirmed infection should be treated promptly with an antibiotic (usually penicillin-based) to prevent many possible complications, some of which can be serious.

Here are some common misconceptions.

1. A positive strep test in the office is conclusive of strep throat. This is a misconception, as children may carry strep and the test does not discriminate these “carriers” from those with infection. The test should be limited to those with a possible infection (as determined by a physician).

2. Untreated strep will not get better. Most strep throat infections will resolve in a few days without treatment, but this may lead to complications that could have been prevented.

3. Infected children can return to school immediately. Infected children need a

minimum of 24 hours of treatment prior to returning to school and should be much better.

4. All siblings and close contacts of children with diagnosed strep should be tested.

In most cases, contacts without symptoms should not be tested or treated, although there are rare exceptions.

5. If my child is better, he/she doesn’t need antibiotics or can stop the antibiotics.

Again, even if an infection was recent, antibiotics given within a few days can prevent long term problems. Also, if the medication is stopped too early, the infection can return.

The best defense is to keep your children home if they are sick, prevent sharing of objects touching the mouth, maintaining good health (good sleep and good diet, for example), and practice frequent hand washing.

Dr. Wes Stubblefield graduated from the University of Alabama School of Medicine (UAB) with his medical degree in 2004, and then trained at Vanderbilt Children’s Hospital in pediatrics, finishing in 2007. He returned to Alabama in 2007 and joined Dr. Ellen Royal and Dr. Richard M. Freeman at their pediatric practice in Auburn. Dr. Stubblefield is board certified in pediatrics, is a Fellow of the American Academy of Pediatrics, and currently serves as the local area representative for it’s Alabama Chapter. He is married to Jennifer and they have one daughter, Peyton.

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Lee-Scott Academy held its annual Grandparents Day on Friday, December 14th. The Pre-K through 3rd grade students performed at 8:30 a.m. followed by the 4th through 6th graders at 10 a.m. The performance was directed by LSA's choral director, Mrs. Mary Smith.

Cary Woods Students Donate Items to Pediatric Unit of EAMC 3rd Graders at Cary Woods Elementary School participated in a service project to collect items such as books, toys, and games for the Pediatric Unit of EAMC. After two weeks of collecting, the students met at the hospital to present their donation. Afterwards, Chick-fil-a gave each kid who donated to EAMC a free kids meal saying that "no good deed goes unnoticed!"

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Wrights Mill road Students rode and walked with the 50’th birthday celebration cake during their Christmas Day parade.

Thank you to Chris Fulghum for building such a beautiful float!

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Wacoochee Elementary’s Teacher of the Year

Mr. Todd Seeley has been selected as Wacoochee Elementary’s Teacher of the Year. He has taught third grade in Lee County for 10 years and is an avid Auburn Tigers Fan! Mr. Seeley’s wife, Alisha, teaches first grade at Beauregard Elementary School. They are proud parents of twins, Kyle and Olivia, and a beloved family dog, Mini.

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Auburn Classical Academy Holds Christmas Celebration Auburn Classical Academy celebrated Christmas as a family on the evening of December 6. Students read Scripture telling the story of our Savior’s birth and sang classic Christmas carols.

Following the Christmas Program hot chocolate, a dessert buffet and story time offered a time of fellowship.

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Girl Scouts Earn Silver Award

Lisa Barron and Sophie May from Girl Scout 7098 earned the Silver Award for work at the Louise Kreher Forest Ecology Preserve in Auburn. Barron and May designed, built and installed posts that will be used to identify local plants and trees.

“It felt great that we had done such a huge project,” May said. “People will be able to identify plants easier, maybe to the point where they are as familiar with the plants as McDonald’s sign.”

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Dean Road 5th Grader Wins First Place in Essay Contest Dean Road Elementary School 5th Grade student and 4H Club member, Kappy Eastman, was recently recognized by the Lee County Extension Office. In an essay awarded 1st place in the 4H Peanut Essay Contest, Kappy wrote about both the historical importance of the peanut to Alabama agriculture and the many nutritional benefits of peanuts. Kappy received both a certificate of recognition and a $20 cash prize, and now her essay is competing at the state level.

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AEEC Students Hold Annual Trike Ride The 4th Annual Trike Ride took place on October 19th and was a great success!

Thanks to the generosity of our business sponsors, all of our students, teachers, and faculty received a special Trike Ride t-shirt. Our children had so much fun wearing their shirts and riding the trikes, while their friends, teachers, and parents cheered for them! With 26 business sponsors and so many students collecting money, we were able to net over $26,000 for AEEC! Thanks to everyone who donated their time and money to make this fundraiser a success. Please congratulate the following on their outstanding contributions to the event: Top Boy Fundraiser: Graham Giles; Top Girl Fundraiser: Audrey Claire Erickson; Largest number of donations received: Harrison Powell; Top Fundraiser Class : Ms. Mitchell; Top Fundraiser Pod : Blue Pod.

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Wrights Mill Road Receives Special Deliveries in Honor of 50th Birthday

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In celebration of Wrights Mill Road’s 50th birthday, students wrote persuasive letters to invite celebrities and famous leaders, and athletes to help us celebrate our special year. We have had special deliveries from Tim Tebow from the New York Giants, Drew Brees quarterback for the New Orleans Saints, and Jennifer Lawrence from Hunger Games. We hope to hear from many more.

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Send-Off Party Held in Honor of DYW of Lee County

A send-off party hosted by the Distinguished Young Woman of Lee County Board honoring Nancy Fang was given at the home of Julie Perryman, on January 8. Nancy was greeted and wished well by board members, family, friends, and fellow 2013 DYW of Lee County participants. Nancy will be representing Lee County at the state competition January 11-19. Nancy learned an opening number routine, practiced physical fitness, and attended many appearances, as well as a fun day at the Montgomery Zoo. She will be playing a piano piece for her talent portion of the program. Miss Fang will be graduating from Auburn High School in May and attending a university of her choice. She plans to major in Molecular Biology and then attend Medical School to become a physician, specifically a Gynecologist. Best wishes to Nancy Fang for the state DYW of Alabama. She will be competing for scholarship money payable toward books and tuition. The DYW of Alabama program will be held at Frazer United Methodist Church January 18 at 7:30 January 19 at 1:00 and finals January 19 at 7:00.

Lee-Scott Academy Supports the Troops in Afghanistan The Lee-Scott family launched a new project this season to purchase, fill, and distribute Christmas stockings to Operation Enduring Freedom. Secondary students purchased and filled Christmas stockings with all kinds of goodies! The lower school children wrote letters, made Christmas cards, ornaments and banners. Once the stockings were filled and the banners were complete, the items were shipped to Afghanistan.

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OMS Project Grow Wins Green Apple Award from WLTZ The Project Grow program at Opelika Middle School recently won the Green Apple Award from WLTZ. Miller Robson visited OMS to present the award to Mrs. Kristin White and the members of Project Grow. Mrs. White and her students were nominated by John Mehaffey, a doctoral student under Dr. Lisa Kensler at Auburn University.

Mehaffey and Kensler headed up a Go Green, Save Green Day in October where OMS hosted students from 3 other schools to learn about how to go green to save green.

Project Grow is a club that was established 6 years ago that focuses on recycling. It started small for the first three years with about 10-12 dedicated students hauling mostly paper out to the Denson Drive rec center to recycle. The club has grown its membership over the past few years and has been able to purchase recycling containers. Project Grow now recycles cans, plastic, paper, cardboard, Capri Sun pouches, Frito-Lay chip bags, Elmer’s glue, coffee packaging, cheese packaging, candy wrappers and much more. OMS students involved in the program meet regularly during the school year and include the special needs students to help them learn about recycling. Pictured, Kristin White, OMS Project Grow sponsor accepts the Green Apple Award from Miller Robson of WLTZ.

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Veterans Day at Lee-Scott Academy Each year the elementary school holds a special program designed to honor American veterans and soldiers. This year’s program was held in the LSA cafetorium on Friday, November 9. The 6th grade classes were responsible for making banners for display in the cafetorium to express our appreciation to our veterans for protecting us and our country. A special American flag that had been flown in Iraq and presented to the school several years ago was flown on the campus, as it is each Veterans Day. The 4th, 5th, and 6th grade students presented a musical program led by the elementary music teacher, Mrs. Mary Smith. All present stood for the Pledge of Allegiance to the American flag led by Mrs. Suzanne Smith, 5th grade American history teacher. A group of Lee-Scott mothers organized a project to send Christmas stockings filled with gifts to a unit of soldiers serving our country in Afghanistan. Each of the 72 soldiers in the unit received a stocking. The officer in charge of the unit is a Lee-Scott dad. Mrs. Staci Lanier, representing the committee, explained this project to the students. Dr. Roberts spoke to the group discussing the reasons we celebrate Veterans Day and the importance of honoring Americans who have served in the armed forces to protect our freedom. He reminded students to thank veterans or soldiers in uniform for their contribution to the United States of America. The program ended with prayer.

Wrights Mill Road Holds Spelling Bee Wrights Mill Road held its spelling bee in December. First place went to 5th grader Hallie S. Runner up was Connie M. in 4th grade.

Pictured are the spelling bee participants

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Dr. Barry Crowe recently visited Mrs. Shiver’s 1st grade classroom at Dean Road Elementary School. The students were learning and the human body and bones. They wanted to know how many bones are in the human body, which bone is the largest, and which bone is the smallest. Dr. Crowe did an excellent presentation, answering all of the questions. The children were very excited to wear the real surgeon masks and hats that Dr. Crowe gave all of them. He also donated a stethoscope to the classroom so the students would be able to listen to their heartbeats. Pictured is Dr. Crowe with Mrs. Shiver’s class.

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Northside Intermediate School Chorus Performs at Music Educators Conference Members of the Northside Intermediate School Chorus performed at the Alabama Music Educators Association (AMEA) Conference on January 10 in Montgomery, at the Renaissance Conference Center. They submitted an audition tape last year and were selected to perform this year by the Elementary Division of the AMEA Executive Board. The Northside Chorus is under the direction of Mrs. Karen Hickok.

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Lee County 4-H Members Win at Wiregrass Winter Classic Lee County 4-H member Clay McGuire, 17, of Waverly exhibits the champion Percentage Simmental heifer in rings A and B at the Wiregrass Winter Classic in Nichols, Ga., on December 8.

DRES Students Present Christmas Musical Dean Road Elementary students in grades 1 – 5 recently performed the musical, “It’s Christmas, Carol!” in the school auditorium for parents and friends. The play consisted of musical performances by the Dean Road Choir as well as from students in all grade levels. The dramatic parts of the play were performed by several fifth graders. The play was directed by music teacher, Dennis Floyd. Several other teachers assisted with the choir, drama, and set decoration. Pictured is fifth grader, Jett Davis, who served as the narrator.

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Fe Auburn Classical Academy Students Serve Community During Break Auburn Classical Academy student volunteers were the hands and feet of Christ during their Annual Service Days. Service Days are at least two days during the first week of Christmas break that Auburn Classical Academy students, staff and parents volunteer in the Auburn/ Opelika area. The desire is to lead by example as students are taught to be active participants in the community. Pre-Kindergarten through third grade students visited local nursing homes on December 10. Students sang Christmas carols and gave residents handmade ornaments. Fourth through eighth grade students spent the morning of December 12 sorting donations at Big House warehouse. The opportunity to serve our community was enjoyed by all.

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Dean Road After-School Students Entertain with Fall Drama Presentations The Dean Road After School Drama Club recently entertained students and parents with a Fall drama presentation. Students in grade 5 performed a variety of one act plays and poetry readings. Shown is Mary Grace Pack performing a poem called Bad Hair Day.

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Lee-Scott Academy Student's Poetry Featured in Three Books

Cortnee Shepherd is a ninth grader at Lee-Scott Academy. Her poetry has been published in three books, starting in the 7th grade. The first two books were Acclaimed and Stars in Our Hearts. She entered a competition for each and was chosen to be in these books. The third book was special because it was not something she applied for. She received an e-mail saying that she had been chosen to be in an international book of poetry.

They requested she write an original poem to be published. The book is entitled The International Who's Who in Poetry. She received a certificate and two "Award Winning Poet" pins.

Wrights Mill Road 3rd Grader Wins iPod Shuffle

Joseph Frazier, a 3rd grader at Wrights Mill Road, won the Smoothie Smooth Healthy Breakfast campaign. Holding his prize, an iPod Shuffle, Joseph is pictured with his dad who had just attended WMR’s All Pro Dad Breakfast prior to Joseph’s name being drawn as winner.

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6th Graders at Drake Middle School Experience Deliberative Democracy The entire sixth grade class at Drake Middle School experienced deliberative democracy in October 2012 through participation in the David Mathews Center for Civic Life program Alabama Issues Forums. Alabama Issues Forums provide citizens with an opportunity to weigh the pros and cons to various approaches to an issue of concern, in this case bullying. Under the coordination of social studies teacher and coordinator Beverly Helm, over 600 sixth grade students participated in forums over the course of five days, moderated

by Mathews Center staff or colleagues from the College of Liberal Arts at Auburn University or New College at the University of Alabama. Using a non-partisan, non-advocacy issue guide, students sat in a circle and talked through the bullying issue and ways we might address a problem that claims the lives of more and more children each year. “Oftentimes we relate to students as objects to teach, but when we ask them to be citizens and make judgments about what should be done on an issue, they realize they have the power and responsibility to make a difference,” says moderator Dr. Mark Wilson, Director of Civic Learning Initiatives in the College of Liberal Arts at Auburn University. Drake Middle School is known for its engaged learning practices, and the forum series contributed to Alabama state standards for helping students develop critical thinking skills and an ability to develop their own opinions and understand opinions and perspectives other than their own. “This was an excellent way for students to interact and discuss the issue in a non- threatening manner,” says teacher Beverly Helm. “Students discussed several solutions to the problem of bullying and brainstormed ideas with minimal adult guidance. The conversation was extremely insightful. “Following each forum students completed a post-forum questionnaire and recorded their thoughts from the deliberation. “The questionnaires will contribute to a comprehensive report on forums held around the state, and we are honored to have the voices of these 6th grade students as part of Alabama Issues Forums,” says Chris McCauley, Mathews Center executive director. For more information on Alabama Issues Forums and to learn how you can convene a forum in your community, visit www.mathewscenter.org.

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Lee-Scott Academy Choirs Hold Christmas Dinner Theater The combined choirs at LSA put on a Christmas Dinner Theater as a special fundraiser entitled, "Wonderful Joy". The students sold tickets for three separate shows where audiences were fed dinner as they enjoyed solo and group performances by members of the choir.

Many of the choral parents assisted in the preparation of the food, as well as with the decorating of the cafetorium and each table. Dinner Theater 2012 was not only a monetary accomplishment for the choral program, but it showed off the amazing talent of many LSA students.

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PSA Collects School Supplies for Children in Haiti Thank you to everyone that helped collect school supplies for the Haiti Mission Trip over Christmas. Because of our All-Stars, Class and Private Lesson Students we were able to send two footlockers full of school supplies to the Christian Light School in Haiti. These items were taken by Marc and Shay Baugh along with the 3 other families through AUMC to the Christian Light School over Christmas. Thank You for your support of this mission trip!

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Beulah High School FCA Joins with Other Schools to Pray

Students representing Beulah High School’s Fellowship of Christian Athletes were one of many groups of area high school students to gather at the Auburn University Arena on Tuesday morning, December 4th.

Students filled the arena for the 6th annual FCA Prayer Breakfast sponsored by the East Alabama District of FCA. Over 50 Beulah students gathered to meet with Coach Stan Pepper and Assistant Principal David Owen at Beulah High School for an early 5:30 a.m. departure to the Auburn Arena. The breakfast went from 6:30 a.m. to 8 a.m. with a welcome from John Gibbons, the FCA state director and Wayne Dickens, the East Alabama FCA Area Director.

The keynote speaker was C.L. Shepherd who was the Founder of Keep The Change, Inc. A former NFL player, Shepherd sacrificed the chance at a $6.75 million contract with the Tampa Bay Buccaneers to take up a new cause. Instead of embracing the fast lifestyle and riches of NFL glory, years ago Shepherd spurned the millions for a greater calling as a full-time minister with the Fellowship of Christian Athletes. Tuesday, Dec. 4th, Shepherd shared the ebb and flow of his remarkable life with hundreds of students and coaches at the Auburn University Arena for the 6th Annual FCA Prayer Breakfast.

Shepherd recalled how the lack of a fatherly presence in his life led him to turn to gangs at one point. Growing up in poverty, Shepherd's mother had to work long hours to support the family. His father was in prison before being released when Shepherd was 12 years of age. Instead of receiving the long-awaited acceptance by his father he so desperately sought, he was barely acknowledged.

This sent Shepherd into an abyss of hatred for the world and into the arms of gang life.

Years later, Shepherd turned his life around and became involved in football, which earned him a scholarship to Florida Atlantic University. He made the most of his education by completing a double major in sociology and communications with a minor in ethnic studies.

He also met his mentor, former NFL MVP & Crimson Tide standout Shaun Alexander, who helped to affirm Shepherd's faith. That faith eventually led Shepherd from the gridiron to the pulpit. Providing an example, Shepherd told how his participation in football turned him away from gang life and became the springboard for his success. Both students and area high school coaches were captivated by Shepherd’s testimony as he delivered a passionate message that hit home with many in attendance.

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Spiritual Emphasis Week at Lee-Scott Academy The week of November 12-16 was designated as Spiritual Emphasis Week at Lee-Scott Academy. This was the 11th year of our special celebration. Although school begins each day with classroom devotionals, additional emphasis is placed on our religious lives during this special week and more focus is placed on blessings and how we show our faith. As always, at any time during the school day, teachers were encouraged to discuss the morning devotion or other spiritual lessons.

On Thursday, Reverend Chette Williams, FCA Director and Auburn University Football Team Chaplain, shared a message entitled “Living from the Inside Out.” The music portion of the assembly was led by Mary Smith, LSA Choral Director and Joy Samford, Music Minister at Trinity United Methodist Church. Throughout the week, secondary students broke up into small groups and had devotions led by area YoungLife leaders. The week was very encouraging and inspirational.

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Wild About Animals!

Recommending the Best Toys and Products for Kids

Kids have a natural animal attraction for creatures of the wild! They quickly learn to identify all the major players in the animal kingdom, from the king of the beasts to the wanderers of the deep. So it’s no surprise that toy designers incorporate a whole range of exotic creatures into their plans for kids gear and toys. And it’s a toy jungle out there. But we’ve cut through the undergrowth and discovered the following wild animal-themed toys offering features that make them some of our favorites for kids!

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Baby’s first wild animal toy should be the Gentle Giraffe. This amazing soft toy is great on so many levels with super-soft polyester covering and a long slim neck that’s just the right size for small hands to hold and hug. And when kids are a little older, they will appreciate the accompanying storybook and adoption certificate. The best part is the Gentle Giraffe sound system that features soft recordings of womb sounds, rushing water, Safari groove and wilderness trails. These sounds both soothe and serve as ‘white noise’ for small children who sometimes need to tune out the rest of their environment’s noise. Easy controls and a sleep timer make it an ideal bed buddy, too. Fair warning: The sounds are also soothing to adults who may find themselves enjoying an unscheduled nap with their little one, snoozing to the soft roar of Victoria falls.

The most playable bear doll has arrived!

A twelve-year-old bear with impeccable fashion sense, Zylie and her brother Theo live with their adventurous aunt in New York – and that’s where the story starts! Zylie is an 18” jointed bear who comes dressed for adventure in skinny jeans, flounce top and a soft ivory coat. Her orange handbag holds her diary, map …and passport, because this bear is going places! Including the first book to get Zylie’s adventures started, her world can grow with additional clothes for her travel wardrobe – and an awesome friend, Shen the Panda (introduced in the second Zylie book, and sold separately). Zylie is versatile doll for young tweens and kids whose imaginations can keep up with a bear who’s on her way around the world!

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Adding a new twist and wobble to the standard ‘ring toss’ game, Sonny the Seal mimics the movements of a real seal, bobbing and weaving his head around! The game is on as kids take aim with plastic rings, trying to score points with a ring around Sonny’s neck. When the ring goes over Sonny the Seal’s head and past his tail, Sonny barks and claps his flippers cheering on young players. Sure, it’s ideal for developing hand-eye coordination, but that’s just a wild sideeffect of this addicting and challenging game for kids!

Why should kids just sit, when they can sit and be active? The Kids Activity Chair, with a big lion graphic on the back rest, offers plenty of keep-busy options for little hands. With a jingle bell ball on one arm rest, and a three-page flip book attached on the other, both are easy to manipulate for still developing motor control. Pockets with bright primary shapes hide removable (tethered) peek-a-boo wild animals! The best part is the Activity Chair is inflatable! It packs and ports with minimal effort and space… so this chair can keep bottoms comfy plus hands and eyes busy wherever you go --- and sit!

Paige Smith is a freelance writer and syndicated columnist living in Alabama. More on GET THIS! at www.PageBookMedia.com.

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12 Ways to Bond with Tweens and Teens

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by Michele Ranard, M.Ed. Your tween or teen may be busier than ever with school, sports, and socializing. So as parents we have to be on our game and intentional about connecting with them. (And by connecting, I don’t mean leaving a comment on that photo they posted on FaceBook.)

I remember reading a quote from Robert Downey Jr. years ago when his child turned 13. His statement went something like, “My job is now to service my teen.” I thought maybe he was kidding, and if he WAS serious, it was a beyond pathetic attitude. Then I had tweens and teens.

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It IS easy to feel that as our kids navigate adolescence, we are here to simply service them (as a chauffeur, cheerleader, and bank account). But parenting is about nurturing them in simple ways. These suggestions offer reminders of easy efforts to strengthen bonds at home.

1. Make sure their friends feel welcome. This is one of the best ways to see more of your kids. Sometimes the presence of their friends loosens them up and better facilitates certain discussions than if you were alone, so take advantage.

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2. See a movie together. Take turns choosing the film which will give you an opportunity to share your favorite movies or actors they may otherwise never see.

3. Let them help you cook. Trying a new recipe is a great way to bond, even if your culinary attempts are a disaster. My own kids love to help bake yeast breads or bagels, and because of the rising time, they linger much longer than if we were just making waffles. It is hard to be cranky when the whole house smells like heavenly fresh bread, and baking skills are a wonderful investment for the future.

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4. Reminisce about old times.

Tweens and teens love to hear about funny things they said and did when they were little. The stories never get old and often trigger more stories and memories you may have forgotten. Laugh it up!

grown up when my husband and I bring them into conversations about our careers.

I’m not suggesting you bore them to tears with technical language that alienates but share a little to expose them to the world of work and you.

on a Tuesday night when it’s just spaghetti on the menu. Bake something special on a random night, plating it creatively like a restaurant would. Surprise them on a weeknight by announcing you’re all going bowling. Treat them to a one-on-one lunch at their favorite restaurant.

8. Watch their favorite youTubes.

11. Write a love note. It can be difficult to find the right moment to express what is on your heart, but teens need to know how much you cherish them. Take the time to write how thankful you are for them and leave it on their pillow. They may never mention it, but it will matter.

5. Get hooked on one TV show.

Everyone in our house is home on Wednesday nights to watch our family favorite on TV. As a bonus, the show always hits on some spiritual themes we discuss openly. We even took a family vacation to the location where our show is filmed.

My kids have introduced me to some of the most hilarious videos only kids their age could discover. Laughing together is sweet relief from all the inescapable daily nagging.

6. Eat together. This can be nearly

9. Ask about their high and low.

impossible as everyone heads in different directions for lessons and sports, but it is important to carve out time. It doesn’t have to be dinner. If everyone is available for a long leisurely Saturday morning breakfast, go for it. Let them take turns choosing the restaurant, and do insist they unplug.

Since adolescents are notorious for grunting and mono-syllabic responses, regularly ask them to report on their high (the best thing that happened during the day) and their low (the worst). It is as healthy for them to reflect on these experiences as it is for you to be aware of them.

7. Show them your work. Sometimes we forget that it’s okay and even beneficial for our children to see our other roles. It makes my children feel more

10. Create special memories between holidays. Do not wait for a holiday or birthday to create special moments. Light candles and play fun music

12. Be brave and take a road trip.

Sometimes the best way to re-connect is by putting some miles between your family and where the daily grind happens.

Even if it is a day trip, find ways to make the commute more pleasant and set ground rules i.e. no arguing or discussing sore subjects like grades and school work.

Michele Ranard has a husband, two children, a master’s in counseling, and a blog at cheekychicmama.com.

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Do You Hate Your Mornings?

by The FlyLady, Marla Cilley

Do you hate your mornings? Do you wake up in a bad mood? Do you feel like you got up on the wrong side of the bed? Your mornings do not have to be like this. All it takes is a little thought to change the CHAOS you have been living in.

That little thought is as simple as knowing what clothes you are wearing when you get up. If you will think about your morning before you actually have to face it, your mornings will run smoother.

Here is what happens when we put something off. Let’s start with our before bed routines.

martyrdom and the loud yelling voices that just add to the stress along with the guilt.

6. Now we are half dressed, jumping in a car trying to put on makeup while driving and not paying attention to what we are doing. Not to mention that you have skipped breakfast and there is not even time for a quick drive through the golden arches. Well that could be the only positive thing about rushing; no time for negative nutrition with fast food.

7. Next thing we know the blue lights are flashing in our rearview mirror and we have yet another speeding ticket to have to explain and pay for.

1. We go to bed at 1:00 or 2:00 am and have to get up at 7:00 am. We procrastinated by not going to bed at a decent hour. Then we can’t get up on time.

8. That is, if we are lucky and we haven’t had a car accident with our babies in the car.

2. After you hit the snooze button a few times it is 7:30 am, and to get to work on time we have to leave at 7:45 am. Now you have 15 minutes to get dressed and out the door and you have no clean clothes.

9. More money wasted all because we procrastinated and didn’t go to bed at a decent hour to get up and start our day on the right foot, instead of behind the eight ball.

3. Not only did you go to bed late, but you did not lay out your clothes for tomorrow. So there again you have procrastinated and you are rushing around.

Just writing this makes me nauseated. I could not live this way anymore.

The constant surge of adrenalin is hard on our bodies. We have to find a way to relieve the stress that our procrastination causes in our lives. Are you listening to me?! Procrastination can kill us and maim our children. It can be a slow painful death of our bodies turning on us because of the constant surge of adrenalin with immune dysfunction or it can be a quick one with a car accident. You have a choice to stop this right now!

4. Now you are feeling the time crunch and the pressure of being late to work or an appointment again. Then the guilt starts to pile on.

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If I can ever get you to make peace with your mornings by establishing a few simple habits in your life; you will never go back to living this way. The calmness of the mornings will start you out on a firm and steady pace for your whole day.

Before you go to bed: 1. Gather up the items you will need for tomorrow and put them by your front door.

2. Check your calendar for tomorrow’s appointments.

3. Lay out your clothes for tomorrow.

4. Brush and floss your teeth and wash your face.

5. Go to bed at a decent hour...this way you will feel like getting up!

When you get up in the morning: 1. Get dressed as soon as your feet hit the floor.

2. Swish and Swipe the bathroom while you are getting dressed.

3. Eat breakfast, drink water and take your supplements and medications.

4. Gather up the items to take with you.

5. Do not wait till the last moment to leave your home. It is OK to be early.

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These simple habits will change your life. The main thing you have to do is go to bed at a decent hour so you will have the energy to get started on your day. You can do this!

For more help getting rid of your CHAOS, check out her website and join her free mentoring group at www.FlyLady.net or her book, Sink Reflections, published by Random House and her New York Times Best Selling book, Body Clutter, published by Simon and Schuster. Copyright 2013 Marla Cilley.

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Q. My husband doesn’t like dealing with money. For years, I’ve handled everything from paying the bills to making the decisions, and he just does whatever I tell him. This makes things really hard on me, but he says financial issues cause him stress. Do you have any suggestions?

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The plain truth is you need your husband to step up and be a man. I’m sure he’s a nice guy, but it’s unfair for you alone to carry the weight of all financial and household decisions. It would be unfair, too, if he were the one carrying it all.

This isn’t a gender issue.

My wife and I are involved in all the decisions in our home, and that’s especially true when it comes to money. We do a budget, and we decide together where the money’s going. It’s not a situation where she’s a little girl, and her daddy named Dave takes care of her and everything else.

That’s the kind of thing you’ve got going on now. You feel like his mom rather than

his wife, and that’s not what a healthy marriage is about.

You need to sit down with him and explain why this is so important to you and how it makes you feel. You’re not asking him to be a number cruncher, but he has to grow up and become part of the team.

You can play the role of CFO and write all the checks. But you and he together are the board of directors. You just need 15 to 20 minutes of his time each week, so you guys can discuss what’s going on and how to handle things—together!

Q. My wife just had our first child. As a result, we now have $2,500 in medical bills not covered by insurance. We’ve got $7,000 in our emergency fund, and I make about $25,000 a year. Should we dip into our savings for this or set up a payment plan with the hospital?

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Congratulations on your new baby! I know this is going to make the new year extra-special for you.

If I were in your situation, I’d write a check today and knock out that hospital bill. This definitely falls under the heading of “emergency” in my mind, so pay the bill and jump back into rebuilding your emergency fund.

You’ve done a good job of saving on $25,000 a year, but let’s look around and see what you can do about making more money, too. Additional classroom education or extra training in your field could increase your income pretty quickly. Your emergency fund probably needs to be a little bit bigger as well, and it’ll be a lot easier to make this happen if you’re bringing in more cash.

I’m sure you’re a hard-working guy, but the truth is it’s going to be pretty tough for even a small family to make it on what you’re bringing home now. Life happens, and the unexpected can become a common occurrence when there’s a little one loose in the house!

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Teens and Dishonesty

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by Michele Ranard, M.Ed. Po Bronson and Ashley Merryman deconstruct the science of teen rebellion in an eye-opening chapter about lying in NurtureShock. Since parents today desire more emotional closeness and connectedness with their teens than any other prior generation, you would think such openness would cultivate more honesty in the relationship.

But that’s not what these authors found. In fact, one of the most shocking statistics revealed in NurtureShock is the sheer number of teens who lie: 96%!

Does that mean parents are misjudging the quality of the relationship or love shared with their teen? Probably not. To understand the discrepancy, we must understand a little more about why kids are lying and what if anything parents can do.

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Nancy Darling of Penn State University studied high schoolers and learned 96% of them hid the truth from their parents. What were they lying about? Teens lie about what they spend allowance on, whether their homework is done, whether they are dating, the clothes they wear away from home, the movie they’re seeing, and who they’re spending time with.

They also lie about drinking and drug use, what music they listen to, how they spend afternoons, whether a party is being supervised, and riding in a car driven by a drunk teen.

Are you thinking that your honor student probably lies less? Turns out, kids who lie don’t fall into one demographic— honor students, overscheduled kids—they all reported deception. Of 36 potential topics, the average teen lies to his parents about 12 of them.

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“I’M TRYING TO PROTECT THE RELATIONSHIP WITH MY PARENTS; I DON’T WANT THEM TO BE DISAPPOINTED IN ME.” They do love you. But in their mind, loving you might mean protecting you— by lying.

They don’t have to lie because I give them plenty of freedom.

Darling was surprised by the number of parents with anxiety about pushing their kids into rebellion. She indicates, “Many parents today believe the best way to get teens to disclose is to be more permissive and not set outright rules.”

However, being permissive does not open the door to learning more about a teen’s life! When parents lower their standards, teens interpret the lack of rules to mean parents don’t care and don’t want the job of being a parent. It definitely does not pay to be permissive.

Should You Be Worried?

My tween is already rebellious…will the teen years will be worse?

You may actually not have to worry.

Current research in Bronson and Merryman’s book suggests teens objecting to their parents’ authority peaks at around age 14 to 15. What is shocking is that this need for autonomy is stronger at age 11 than at age 18! So if you’ve been thinking the high school years are the high risk years, think again.

We hardly argue so I don’t need to worry about lying, right?

Even though most parents get stressed out by arguing with their teen, Bronson and Merryman note it appears that in families with the least amount of lying, there is a HIGHER ratio of such arguing or complaining. Why? Teens don’t necessarily see arguing and fighting as harmful or destructive. This is worth repeating.

TEENS DON’T NECESSARILY SEE ARGUING AND FIGHTING AS HARMFUL OR DESTRUCTIVE. The authors suggest the flipside to arguing for many teens is lying! So a teen

Encouraging Honesty The research suggests teenagers are destined to lie about some things, but there are some ways parents can create a climate so they lie about less. “The parents who are the most consistent in enforcing rules are the same parents who are most warm and have the most conversations with their kids,” indicates Darling. Such parents set a few key rules (it’s too unrealistic and impossible to enforce twenty rules) and explain why the rules are in place.

These parents demonstrate flexibility.

They extend freedom to their teen so he can make his own decisions. Instead of hiding 12 areas from their parents, kids of these types of parents might only be hiding as few as five. There is a spirit of collaboration which encourages the teen to not lie.

Michele Ranard has a husband, two teens, and a master’s in counseling.

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can either lie to the parent and then go do what they want behind the parent’s back, or argue—negotiate with the parent—and avoid lying. More than anything else, it seems to be how an argument gets resolved and whether a teen feels heard that is most important.

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A Page in a Book

by Paige Gardner Smith

Why Teachers Rule Somewhere in every child’s world, a teacher is making a positive difference in their life. Whether they meet this teacher through schooling, extra-curricular classes, or church, this leader has the power to guide, instruct and elevate not only the mind of a child, but also the spirit. The best teachers go beyond the standard lesson plans, seeking ways to engage children, fostering their strengths and encouraging them to master their challenges. Celebrating those special educators, the ones who come early, stay late and go the extra mile because they are called to teach – these titles are touching tributes to the leader of the class.

You Are My Wonders

by Maryann Cusimano Love and Satomi Ichikawa (Philomel Books / Penguin) In the broadest sense, teachers educate, but in the real world the person teaching a child is so much more. And the student is also more than just a vessel to receive education. The best pairings of students and teachers are a symbiotic exchange, like the one celebrated in ‘You are My Wonders’.

Almost like a call and response, the rhyming text in the teacher’s voice offers her roles in a school day followed by the complimentary role of the student. “I am your calm; you are my thunder. I am your wisdom; you are my wonders”. Paired with gentle and charming illustrations of a soft elephant welcoming her students (cuddly toys like teddy bears, stuffed bunnies, and toy giraffes), this title will speak to the youngest students and their parents with a reassuring message that reminds both of the fullness of learning during a school day.

The Art of Miss Chew

by Patricia Polacco (Putnam Books / Penguin) With her solid reputation for producing wonderful children’s books with moving messages, Patricia Polacco’s exploration of the variety of teachers a child can encounter – and the unique needs of each student - is both touching and inspiring. Trisha struggles with reading, but her favorite teacher gives her time she needs to finish her tests. Further, he notes her strong drawing talent and recommends her for Miss Chew’s art class to develop her strength as an artist. Trish’s confidence grows through the support of both teachers, until tragedy brings in an impatient substitute who gives no extra time on tests and thinks art class isn’t worth teaching. Only the joint effort of teachers and Trish can get her successes back on track and perhaps teach the school a lesson along the way. ‘The Art of Ms. Chew’ is powerful, poignant and definitely another Polacco masterpiece.

My Teacher

by James Ransome (Dial Books / Penguin) The call to teach is strong, but for those who answer, the fiscal rewards are not always in balance with the importance of the job they have. Yet the personal rewards of successfully educating and empowering a class, moving them forward in the progression that is school, shows their power to affect society is invaluable. And so the best teachers come…and they stay. ‘My Teacher’ features a graying teacher with years of experience behind her…and undiminished enthusiasm to take on her newest class. She’s taught more than one generation of students at the school, and lived through much of the history she introduces to her class. This title is a brilliant appreciation for the teachers with passion who step up year-after-year to mold the minds and hearts of the generations to follow.

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Family Calendar Ongoing: A2Z Local Homeschooler’s Association For homeschooling families in the Auburn/Opelika Lee County area of Alabama. A2Z Loop is an all-inclusive support group open to all homeschool families in the Auburn/Opelika area regardless of differences in beliefs, cultures, nationality, race, religion, or method of home schooling. For more information call 334-728-1162 or email: momofpnk@gmail.com.

Alabama Dance Council Alabama Dance Festival. Jan. 18-27. Birmingham. www.alabamadancecouncil.org/ Alabama Mentor’s Foster Parent Training Classes Offered in the Opelika Auburn area. Call 334-7058877 x 18 to register or email: Deanna.Hand@thementornetwork.com.

Alabama Shakespeare Festival • Macbeth. Jan 25 - May 18.

• Ethel. Feb. 8-Mar. 3.

• The Love Songs of Elvis and Buddy. Feb. 14.

Alabama Shakespeare Festival, Montgomery. www.asf.net.

Birmingham Children’s Theatre • Three Little Kittens. Jan. 28-Feb. 22 • Young Abe Lincoln. Feb. 5-22. www.bct123.org.

Birmingham Civil Rights Institute Helen Keller Student Art Show of Alabama.

Jan. 27 - Feb. 24. Birmingham Civil Rights Institute. www.bcri.org.

Black History Month Feb. 1-28. Join the National Park Service and Tuskegee University Archives throughout the month for programs that focus on the unique, significant history of Tuskegee Institute/University. www.nps. gov/tuin.

Bosom Buddies (a breast cancer support group) Meets at The Health Resource Center the first Thursday of the month at 6 p.m. (334) 528-1260. www.eamc.org.

Center for Puppetry Arts Brother Coyote and Sister Fox. Through Jan. 27.

Atlanta. www.puppet.org.

DeSoto Caverns Valentine’s Light Show. Feb. 4-14. www.desotocavernspark.com Expressions of a BraveHeart Program A fine arts program for teens and young adults with special needs (ages 11-21), sponsored by Opelika Parks and Recreation, utilizing Auburn University faculty and students, as well as community volunteers. Two 30-minute sessions of art, dance/ creative movement and music will be offered and participants will select 2 of the 3 classes. Expressions meets every 2nd and 4th Monday twice a month for 1.5 hours. Opelika Sportsplex, 334.705.5560. www.opelikasportsplex.com.

Jan Dempsey Community Arts Center Winter Invitational 2013 Through Feb. 15. Jan Dempsey Community Arts Center, Auburn.

Jule Collins Smith Museum of Fine Art Through Jan. 26. 1072 Society Exhibition.

Jan. 26 - May 4. Bauhaus Twenty-21 Exhibition. Jule Jan. 26 - May 18. Auburn Collects: Works from the Collection of Dwight and Helen Carlisle Collins Smith Museum of Fine Art. www.jcsm.auburn.edu.

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families that look like their family (white parents/ Asian child). The group is 100% free! We try to eat out at Asian establishments monthly and have playdates. Families that are waiting to adopt are welcome! We accept any families with adopted children from all Asian countries. Contact Melody at mmhilyer@bellsouth.net for more information.

Mardi Gras Celebration Jan. 25-Feb. 12. Mobile.

McWane Center • The Ice Age in IMAX. Through May 11.

• Animal Grossology. A new exhibit that is oozing with science as you meet some of the slimiest and yuckiest creatures on Earth! Jan. 26-May 31.

Birmingham.www.mcwane.org.

Meditation Garden and Labyrinth Come and Find the Quiet Center... in the Meditation Garden and Labyrinth, provided as a community service by Village Christian Church, 700 East University Drive, (across from Auburn Early Ed.).

334-887-5111. Try the practice of walking meditation or simply sit and enjoy the sights and sounds. The garden and labyrinth are always open and guests are always welcome.

Montgomery Ballet • Sleeping Beauty. Through March 4.

• Love Is In the Air: Valentine’s Gala Dinner. Feb. 14-16.

Montgomery Performing Arts Centre. www.montgomeryballet.org.

Montgomery Performing Arts • Beauty and The Beast. Feb. 6.

• Who’s Bad? The Ultimate Michael Jackson Tribute Band. Feb. 9 • Kenny Rogers. Feb. 15.

• Little Big Town. Feb. 21.

• Rodney Carrington. Feb. 22.

• The Black Jacket Symphony presents The Doors.

Feb. 23.

Montgomery Performing Arts. www.mpaconline.org.

National Voting Rights Museum and Institute Bridge Crossing Jubilee. Feb. 28-Mar. 4.

Selma.www.bcjubilee.org.

Newnan Theatre Rabbit Hole. Feb. 14-24.

Georgia. www.newnantheatre.org.

Old Alabama Town Winter Warmth Tour of Old Alabama Town. Through Jan. 31. 9 a.m.-3 p.m. www.oldalabamatown.com.

Opelika-Auburn Newcomers Club A club for new women in town which offers fun social activities, meets for lunch on the 3rd Thursday of every month. Call Joan at 501-4974.

Ringling Bros.

Ringling Brothers and Barnum & Bailey: Dragons. Feb. 13-18. Philips Arena. Atlanta. www. ticketmaster.com.

Red Door Theatre Fair and Tender Ladies. Feb. 14-17.

Red Door Theatre, Union Springs. www.reddoortheatre.org.

Scott and Zelda Fitzgerald Museum The Fitzgerald Gala. Feb. 27-Mar. 3.

Montgomery. www.fitzgeraldmuseum.net.

Sleeping Beauty presented by the Montgomery Ballet Montgomery Performing Arts Centre. Feb. 10 - Mar. 4. www.montgomeryballet.org.

Springer Opera House • Steel Magnolias. Jan. 21-31, Feb. 1-2.

• Yesterday and Today: The Interactive Beatle’s Experience. Feb. 28-Mar. 16.

Columbus. www.springeroperahouse.org.

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Theatre AUM The Normal Heart. Feb. 14-16, 21-24.

334-244-3632. www.aum.edu.

Virginia Samford Theatre 9 to 5: The Musical. Jan. 24 - Feb. 10.

Birmingham. www.virginiasamfordtheatre.org.

Parents Support & Moms Groups Auburn Mommies, a fun group of moms in the Auburn/Opelika area that meet weekly for playgroups and Mommy and Me walking twice a week. We also have a Mommies Night Out once a month. Http://groups.yahoo.com/group/ auburnmommiesinalabama/.

Auburn Mommy and Me Big Dog Running Co, Auburn. 10-11 a.m. Social time, story time, music/movement, arts & crafts.

Ages 9 months-3 yrs. Free! 334-209-2580.

Breast Feeding class meets the second Saturday of each month from 10 a.m. to noon on EAMC’s third floor. Call 528-1260 to register.

La Leche League, a support group for nursing moms, meets the first Wednesday of each month at 10 a.m. @ Holy Trinity Episcopal in Auburn. For more information call Josie at 257-3950.

Lee County Autism Support Group meets every other month. Call Julie Brown 887-3903 or Florence Evermom 887-5005. Covenant Presbyterian Church on Shelton Mill Road in Auburn.

MOMS Club of Auburn, a group of stay-at-home moms that meets about twice a week to provide support for each other and fun interaction for kids.

New website is www.auburnmoms.com.

Moms In Touch. Do you worry about your children?

Come experience how you can replace your anxiety and fear with peace and hope by praying with other moms. Moms In Touch International gathers moms together for one hour, once a week, to pray specifically and scripturally for our children and school. Won’t you join with us in prayer for this next generation? Please contact Julia Farrow at julia@ cornerstonebuzz.org for information about our local groups. For more information about Moms In Touch International, visit www.MomsInTouch.org.

Teen Moms (for moms under 20) is a ministry that connects trained adults with pregnant girls and teenage moms. Support meetings, classes, job preparation, devotions and games. Call Laura Fuller at laura@insideyfc.com or 334-501-5637. www.insideyfc.com.

Mom’s Morning Out Auburn United Methodist Church, Children’s Day Out Program, every Monday-Thursday from 9 a.m.-12 noon. $10 per child for the entire morning, $2 each additional child. Attendance will be on a first come-first served basis. Contact Barbara Dawsey at 826-8800 for more information.

Trinity United Methodist Church (Opelika) Wednesdays and Fridays from 8:45-12. $15 per child.

Support Groups Care N’ Share Group Caring for a family member or friend can be rewarding, but it is not easy. Whether you are the caregiver for your grandchildren, provide care to your parents or spouse or a dependent child, this

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Registration preferred but not required. This program is supported by the Opelika SportsPlex, Lee-Russell Area Agency on Aging, and Hospice Advantage EAMC. Food Allergy Support of East Alabama The Food Allergy Support of East Alabama group offers support through the sharing of information and resources. We are also working to increase awareness of food allergies in the state of Alabama.

For more information, visit our website at www. foodallergysupporteastal.org or call Barbara at 334826-3082; bkg2007@bellsouth.net.

GRACE - Post-Abortive Support Group Are you struggling with feelings of regret or sadness from having a pregnancy termination in your past?

Do you feel like you can’t share these struggles with anyone? Would you like to find healing and forgiveness? You are not alone. Women’s Hope Medical Clinic wants to help you! You are invited to take part in our GRACE abortion recovery group.

This confidential group gives you the opportunity to process the grief of your termination in a safe and non-judgmental setting. If you would like more information about the times, dates and location for this group, call or e-mail Sherry at Women’s Hope: 334.502.7000 or sherry@womenshope.org Don’t let the regret of the past rob you of the joy in the future.

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Sports Auburn University Baseball Feb. 15, 16, 17, 20, 21, 24, 26.

Auburn University Men’s Basketball Jan. 19, 26, Feb. 6, 13, 16, 20.

Auburn University Women’s Basketball Jan. 31, Feb. 10, 17, 24.

Auburn Equestrian Feb 14.

Auburn University Gymnastics Feb. 8, 22.

Auburn University Softball Feb. 8, 9, 10, 13, 14, 15, 16, 17, 20.

Auburn University Swimming & Diving Jan. 18, 19, 20, 26.

Auburn University Tennis Jan. 19, 22, Feb. 22, 24. www.autigers.com Cottonmouths Hockey Jan. 20, 25, 26, Feb. 9, 10, 16, 19, 22.

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Friday, January 18 Gala Dinner to Honor Albert and Jule Collins Smith Auburn University Hotel and Conference Center.

6 p.m. www.jcsm.auburn.edu.

CSU Theatre presents Diary of a Worm, a Spider, and a Fly www.theatre.columbusstate.edu/productions.

Parents Night Out ‘Pirate Night’ Opelika SportsPlex. 8-12 yrs. 705-5560.

Friday Night Drop-In Opelika SportsPlex. 7-9:30 p.m. 6th-8th graders. $20 registration, $5 per visit. 705-5560.

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Blue Man Group Fox Theatre, Atl. www.atlanta.net.

Log and Timber Show Georgia International Convention Center. www.atlanta.net.

Opelika Unplugged The Event Center Downtown, Opelika. 7 p.m.

Performance platform for singers and songwriters. $5. www.eventcenterdowntown.net.

Saturday, January 19 Teen Scene Field Trip - Wilderness Survival 101 9 a.m.-6 p.m. Ages 12-15 yrs. Join Auburn Parks and Recreation and the staff from Little River Canyon Field School in Fort Payne, AL to learn hands-on methods of basic survival skills dealing with water, shelter, food, fire, and getting found. Participants must be registered by Thursday, Jan. 3. $15 fee.

Melissa Weldon, 501-2946.

AORTA Auburn Classic Half Marathon & Children’s Half Marathon Auburn. All runners will start and finish at Cater Lawn on the campus of Auburn University, touring through the quaint homes on Gay Street, past the Jule Collins Smith Museum of Fine Art, and then touring the beautiful campus of Auburn University.

The revised course will pass by the city’s most iconic landmarks including Jordan Hare Stadium, Heisman Drive, and the beloved Toomer’s Corner oak trees.

Our half marathon participants will also enjoy a tour of the School of Veterinary Medicine and enjoy cruising down the newest paved running & biking paths in Auburn. Come run with us and have your photo taken with the Heisman statues or finishing the last leg of the race under the Toomer’s Oaks! www.auburnrunning.org.

Columbus Symphony Orchestra presents Music in a Time of War RiverCenter for the Performing Arts. www.rivercenter.org.

Alabama Horse Council Horse Fair Garrett Coliseum. www.alabamahorsecouncil.org.

CSU Theatre presents Diary of a Worm, a Spider, and a Fly www.theatre.columbusstate.edu/productions.

Trains, Trains, Trains!

Southern Museum of Civil War and Locomotive History. Kennesaw, Ga. www.atlanta.net.

Blue Man Group Fox Theatre, Atl. www.atlanta.net.

Log and Timber Show Georgia International Convention Center. www.atlanta.net.

Sunday, January 20 2013 Quantum of Auburn Bridal Show Auburn University Hotel and Conference Center.

334-745-4656.

Red Tails Day Tuskegee Airmen National Historic Site. 10 a.m., 11:30 a.m., 1 p.m., & 2:30 p.m. www.nps.gov/tusi. Free.

Alabama Horse Council Horse Fair Garrett Coliseum. www.alabamahorsecouncil.org.

CSU Theatre presents Diary of a Worm, a Spider, and a Fly www.theatre.columbusstate.edu/productions.

Willie Nelson with Lukas Nelson and Promise of the Real The Tabernacle, Atl. www.atlanta.net.

Blue Man Group Fox Theatre, Atl. www.atlanta.net.

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Monday, January 21 Dr. Martin Luther King Unity Breakfast Birmingham Civil Rights Institute. 7:30 a.m. www.bcri.org.

Martin Luther King Jr. Day of Service in Macon County www.nps.gov/tuin.

Robert E. Lee Birthday Celebration With guest speaker. First White House of the Confederacy. 11 a.m. Free. 334-215-0078.

Live Owl Education Program Dean Rd Rec Center. Auburn. 7:30 p.m. Register by Jan 18. Melissa Weldon, 501-2946.

Waterfowl Family Bird Walk McWane Science Center. Birmingham. 8 a.m-12 noon. Free ages 5 and up. On this full day trip we will travel to Wheeler National Wildlife Refuge, a waterfowl hot spot, to locate and identify some of the waterfowl that have migrated here or congregate in this diverse habitat giving us a grand view of many species of birds. www.mcwane.org.

Tuesday, January 22 Bark In The Park: Dog Parade & Walk FDR State Park. Warm Springs, Ga. 1-2:30 p.m.

Bring your canine friend (festive attire encouraged) and join us for an easy forest romp. New sounds, sights, and discoveries for all of us! Dogs must be on a 6-foot leash. You do not have to have a pet to walk with us. Free. 706) 663-4858.

Wednesday, January 23 St. Louis Brass Quintet, Guest Artist Goodwin Recital Hall, AU Campus. 7:30 p.m.

Tickets are $10 for general admission and $5 for students. www.auburn.edu.

Justin Bieber-Believe Tour Philips Arena, Atlanta. www.atlanta.net.

Thursday, January 24 Dance by Design A celebration of dance—inspired by the work of Auburn University Theatre scenic and lighting designer Fereshteh Rostampour, and featuring choreography by Adrienne Wilson and guest artists Karola Lüttringhaus and Duane Lee Holland. Join Auburn University Theatre’s student dance ensemble for a captivating evening of choreography featuring a host of different styles. 7:30 p.m. www.auburn.edu.

Ringling Brothers and Barnum & Bailey Circus: Built to Amaze BJCC. Birmingham. www.ringling.com.

Live Owl Education Program Dean Road Rec Center. Register by Jan 18. Melissa Weldon, 501-2946.

Opening Convocation/Dr. Martin Luther King Jr.’s Birthday Celebration Talladega College. www.talladega.edu.

St. Louis Brass Alexander City Arts, Benjamin Russell High School.

7:30 p.m. www.alex.k12.al.us.

Birmingham Boat Show BJCC. www.birminghamboatshow.com.

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Family Calendar Friday, January 25 Dance by Design See Jan. 24 for details.

Birmingham Boat Show BJCC. www.birminghamboatshow.com.

Ringling Brothers and Barnum & Bailey Circus See Jan. 24 for details.

Atlanta Camping & RV Show Atlanta Expo Center. www.atlanta.net.

Full Freedom: A Conference for Women Special guest speakers Sharon Jaynes and Gwen Smith. Lakeview Baptist Church, Auburn. www.lakeviewatthewell.com.

Birmingham Opera presents Madame Butterfly Wright Center at Samford University. www.operabirmingham.org.

Rangers in Action Demonstration Hurley Hill Demonstration area, Fort Benning.

This highly coordinated performance will awe and thrill you as Rangers detonate explosives, jump from helicopters into the water, rappel down and up towers, race down zip lines, and participate in hand to hand combat. 10 a.m.

Pike Piddlers Storytelling Festival Brundidge, Al. www.piddle.org.

Fun Night Drop-In Opelika SportsPlex. 6-8:45 p.m. Ages 3rd-5th graders. $15 registration, $5 per visit. 705-5560.

Friday Night Drop-In Opelika SportsPlex. 7-9:30 p.m. 6th-8th graders. $20 registration, $5 per visit. 705-5560.

FoodBlogSouth 2013 Rosewood Hall, Homewood. Conference for food bloggers, writers, photographers, and social media gurus with workshops, discussions, speakers and networking opportunities for attendees and sponsors. www.FoodBlogSouth.com.

Saturday, January 26 Dr. Cory Mixdorf, Guest Trombone Recital Goodwin Recital Hall, AU Campus. 4:30 p.m.

Tickets are $10 for general admission and $5 for students. www.auburn.edu.

Brian Stokes Mitchell Opelika Center for the Performing Arts.. www.eastalabamaarts.org.

Kids’ Art Club ‘Bauhaus Brouhaha’ Jule Collins Smith Museum of Fine Art. 10 a.m. Art Club is open to all students k-12. Art Club sessions are free, but require preregistration. Please call 334.844.3486 to preregister. Sessions are open studio so parents are asked to stay at the museum. www.jcsm.auburn.edu.

Prattville Mardi Gras Celebration Downtown Prattville. Autauga County Courthouse.

1-5 p.m. www.prattvilleal.gov.

Dance by Design See Jan. 24 for details.

Birmingham Boat Show BJCC. www.birminghamboatshow.com.

Ringling Brothers and Barnum & Bailey Circus See Jan. 24 for details.

10th Annual ASF Armchair Auction Alabama Shakespeare Festival. www.asf.net.

Full Freedom: A Conference for Women See Jan. 25 for details.

Birmingham Opera presents Madame Butterfly Wright Center at Samford University. www.operabirmingham.org.

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Pike Piddlers Storytelling Festival Brundidge, Al. www.piddle.org.

Young Eagles Day FREE Airplane Rides for Kids! Columbus Airport.

Ages 8-17. 8:30-11:30 a.m. (weather permitting).

706-324-2453.

C.S. Lewis’ The Screwtape Letters BJCC. www.bjcc.org.

Birmingham Feline Fanciers CFA All Breed Cat Show Zamora Temple, Birmingham. 10 a.m.-4 p.m. www.Birminghamfelinefanciers.com.

Atlanta Camping & RV Show Atlanta Expo Center. www.atlanta.net.

Young Eagles Day FREE Airplane Rides for Kids! Columbus Airport.

Ages 8-17. 8:30-11:30 a.m. (weather permitting).

706-324-2453.

FoodBlogSouth 2013 See Jan. 25 for details.

Sunday, January 27 Birmingham Boat Show BJCC. www.birminghamboatshow.com.

Bridal Extravaganza Dothan Civic Center. www.dothanciviccenter.org.

Kontras Quartet Montgomery Museum of Fine Arts. 3-5 p.m. www.montgomerychambermusic.org.

Birmingham Opera presents Madame Butterfly Wright Center at Samford University. www.operabirmingham.org.

Pike Piddlers Storytelling Festival Brundidge, Al. www.piddle.org.

Birmingham Feline Fanciers CFA All Breed Cat Show Zamora Temple, Birmingham. 10 a.m.-4 p.m. www.Birminghamfelinefanciers.com.

Atlanta Camping & RV Show Atlanta Expo Center. www.atlanta.net.

Ringling Brothers and Barnum & Bailey Circus See Jan. 24 for details.

Monday, January 28

Catch Me If You Can RiverCenter for the Performing Arts. 7:30 p.m. www.rivercenter.org.

Tuesday, January 29

Opelika SportsPlex. 7-9:30 p.m. 6th-8th graders. $20 registration, $5 per visit. 705-5560.

Botanica The RiverCenter for Performing Arts. Columbus, Ga. 7:30 p.m. www.rivercenter.org.

Opelika Unplugged The Event Center Downtown, Opelika. 7 p.m.

Performance platform for singers and songwriters. $5. www.eventcenterdowntown.net.

Saturday, February 2 Millbrook Mardi Gras Festival and Parade http://www.millbrookrevelers.org.

Teen Scene Field Trip to Cloudmount Ski Resort Meet at Dean Road Rec Center. 5 a.m. – 6 p.m. Fee $55. Ages 12-15 years. Melissa Weldon, 501-2946.

AAA Alabama Travel Show Grand Conference Center, Birmingham. Free. 9 a.m. – 2 p.m. www.aaa.com.

Millbrook Mardi Gras Festival & Parade 11th Annual Mardi Gras Magic Ball & Gala. Pike County Cattlemen’s Complex, Troy. 7 p.m.-midnight. www.colleyseniorcomplex.org.

Lowe’s Build & Grow Clinic: Mystery Kit 10 a.m. Free. Opelika. www.lowesbuildandgrow.com.

Home Depot Free Kids’ Workshops Build a Valentine Card Holder. Ages 5-12 yrs; 9 a.m. 12 noon. Opelika. www.homedepot.com.

Sensory Sensitive Screenings Movie Life of Pi Sponsored by The Autism Hope Center and Carmike Cinemas, Whittlesey Blvd, Columbus. 11 a.m.

Register www.autismhopecenter.com.

Clifford the Big Red Dog Live Cobb Energy Performing Arts Centre. www.ticketmaster.com.

Beaker Bash 2012: Who Done It? McWane Science Center. Birmingham. Science sleuths are invited to help solve mysteries in the museum, collect clues and have dinner with other junior detectives. 5-8 p.m. www.mcwane.org.

WWE Raw presents Road to Wrestlemania Garrett Coliseum, Montgomery. www.ticketmaster.com.

11th Annual Mardi Gras Magic Ball & Gala Pike County Cattlemen’s Complex, Troy. 7 p.m.-12 a.m. www.colleyseniorcomplex.org.

Clifford The Big Red Dog -- Live!

RiverCenter for the Performing Arts. www. rivercenter.org.

Faculty Recital Goodwin Music Building Recital Hall, AU Campus. www.auburn.edu.

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Bark In The Park: Dog Parade & Walk See Jan. 22 for details.

Pangaea Chamber Players, Guest Artist Goodwin Recital Hall, AU Campus. 7:30 p.m.

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Faculty and Guest Recital Goodwin Music Building Recital Hall, AU Campus. www.auburn.edu.

Science Cafe: What Can We Learn From Our Feathered Friends?

McWane Science, Birmingham. 5:30-8 p.m. www.mcwane.org.

Billy Elliot the Musical BJCC, Birmingham. www.ticketmaster.com.

ClefWorks Chamber Music Festival Montgomery. www.clefworks.org.

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AU Faculty Jazz Concert 7:30pm. Goodwin Music Building Recital Hall, AU Campus. www.auburn.edu.

Billy Elliot the Musical BJCC, Birmingham. www.ticketmaster.com.

ClefWorks Chamber Music Festival Montgomery. www.clefworks.org.

Columbus Kids Market Central Baptist Church, 8303 Whitesville Road, Columbus. www.columbuskidsmarket.com.

Thursday, February 7 24th Annual Daddy-Daughter Date Night The Lexington Hotel. Dads and daughters, enjoy an evening of dancing, refreshments, pictures, and surprises! $30/couple & $5/additional child. www.auburnalabama.org/parks. Dana Stewart, 501-2939.

AU Symphonic and Jazz Band Concert 7:30 p.m. Goodwin Music Building Recital Hall, AU Campus. www.auburn.edu.

Billy Elliot the Musical BJCC, Birmingham. www.ticketmaster.com.

ClefWorks Chamber Music Festival Montgomery. www.clefworks.org.

Columbus Kids Market Central Baptist Church, 8303 Whitesville Road, Columbus. www.columbuskidsmarket.com.

Friday, February 8 24th Annual Daddy-Daughter Date Night See Feb. 7 for details.

Cowboy Roundup at Storybook Farm 6pm. While daddy and daughter are having date night, moms and sons can have a rootin’, tootin’ cowboy date of their own! Wild West Games and Grub, real life cowboys showing off their skills, and great food from the Irish Bred Pub. Reservations $30 per couple/$5 each additional cowboy. www.hopeonhorseback.com Performing Arts Series ‘Billie Jean Young’ Central Activity Center, Phenix City. 7-9 p.m. www.phenixcityal.us.

Billy Elliot the Musical BJCC, Birmingham. www.ticketmaster.com.

World of Wheels Auto Show BJCC. www.bjcc.org.

Alabama Fruit & Vegetable Growers Conference/ Tradeshow Ham Wilson Arena, Auburn. www.aces.edu/department/ associations/afvga/2013AFVGAConference.html.

ClefWorks Chamber Music Festival Montgomery. www.clefworks.org.

Ceramics Valentine’s Special Denson Drive Rec Center, Opelika. 3:30-4:30 p.m.

Paint a heart shaped box for your special Valentine.

Fee $10.

Columbus Kids Market Central Baptist Church, 8303 Whitesville Road, Columbus. www.columbuskidsmarket.com.

Kidz-Sized Science Hosted by COSAM The Village Mall. 12:30 – 2 p.m. (pre-kindergarten session), 3 – 4:30 p.m. (kindergarten session).

Kidz-sized science is a monthly program for pre-

kindergarten and kindergarten students. During each session our early educator focuses on a seasonal/ thematic topic that will engage kids in literacy and mathematics skills, science concepts and principles, and hands-on discovery-based learning. Preregistration is required.www.auburn.edu/cosam/ kidzsizedscience.

Saturday, February 9 24th Annual Daddy-Daughter Date Night See Feb. 7 for details.

Cowboy Roundup at Storybook Farm See Feb. 8 for details.

Alabama Wildlife Center Wild About Chocolate Rosewood Hall, Homewood. Valentine Gala featuring a variety of chocolate concoctions, appetizers, beverages, auctions and more. Benefits the Wildlife Center. 6-9 p.m. www.awrc.org.

Alabama Wildlife & Outdoor Expo Dothan Civic Center. www.dothanciviccenter.org.

Second Saturday Lee County Historical Society Museum, Loachapoka.

1-3 p.m. www.leecountyhistoricalsociety.org.

Billy Elliot the Musical BJCC, Birmingham. www.ticketmaster.com.

World of Wheels Auto Show BJCC. www.bjcc.org.

Alabama Fruit & Vegetable Growers Conference/ Tradeshow Ham Wilson Arena, Auburn. www.aces.edu/department/ associations/afvga/2013AFVGAConference.html.

ClefWorks Chamber Music Festival Montgomery. www.clefworks.org.

Mardi Gras Gala & Auction Speedvision Dome at Talladega Superspeedway. 6 p.m.-1 a.m. www.talladegaritz.com.

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Family Calendar Youth Programs Showcase 2013 Red Mountain Theatre, Birmingham. Glee-style show with actual children performing. www.redmountaintheatre.org.

Columbus Kids Market Central Baptist Church, 8303 Whitesville Road, Columbus. www.columbuskidsmarket.com.

Lowe’s Build & Grow Clinic: Wheel of Love 10 a.m. Free. Opelika. www.lowesbuildandgrow.com.

Callaway Gardens Winter Farmers Market Robin Lake Beach. 11 a.m. - 2 p.m. The Market features a variety of local and regional vendors selling fruits and vegetables, including those grown right here in Callaway Gardens’ own Mr. Cason’s Vegetable Garden; meats and dairy products; baked goods; soaps, sauces and other specialty items; and flowers and plants.

Sunday, February 10 Alabama Wildlife & Outdoor Expo Dothan Civic Center. www.dothanciviccenter.org.

24th Annual Daddy-Daughter Date Night See Feb. 7 for details.

Billy Elliot the Musical BJCC, Birmingham. www.ticketmaster.com.

Annual Sweethearts Brunch Benning Conference Center, Ft. Benning. 10 a.m.-12 noon. 706-682-0640.

World of Wheels Auto Show BJCC. www.bjcc.org.

Hank Williams Museum Open House Join the Hank Williams Museum as they celebrate 14 years! www.visitingmontgomery.org.

Mardi Gras Gala & Auction See Feb. 9 for details.

Youth Programs Showcase 2013 See Feb. 9 for details.

Tuesday, February 12 Auburn Classical Academy Open House 8-11am. Offering a four-day program for PreKindergarten through 8th grade. Tour our school, meet and speak with our wonderful teachers, view our curriculum and meet the families of students currently enrolled. Auburn Classical Academy is a classical Christian school with a goal to nurture students’ intellectual growth as an integral aspect of Christian character development. www.auburnclassicalacademy.com AU Jazz Band with Opelika HS Jazz Band 7:30 p.m. Opelika Performing Arts Center. www.auburn.edu.

Aquila Theatre: Cyrano The RiverCenter for Performing Arts. 7:30 p.m. www.rivercenter.org.

The Price Is Right!

Live Stage Show. BJCC. www.bjcc.org.

Wednesday, February 13 Faculty Recital 7:30 p.m. Goodwin Music Building Recital Hall, AU Campus. www.auburn.edu.

Thursday, February 14 A Charlie Chaplin Valentine Film and Concert The RiverCenter for Performing Arts. 7:30 p.m. www.rivercenter.org.

Casablanca Springer Opera House. 7:30 p.m. www.springeroperahouse.org.

My Funny Valentine Comedy Jam BJCC. www.bjcc.org.

Birmingham Home and Garden Show BJCC. www.bjcc.org.

Alexander City Arts Presents The Dill Pickers Benjamin Russell High School Auditorium. 6-8 p.m.

256-825-2140. Free.

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Valentine’s Dinner at The Winery Vizzini Farms Winery, Calera. www.vizzinifarmswinery.com.

Friday, February 15 Parents Night Out ‘Beach Ball Night’ Opelika SportsPlex. 8-12 years. 705-5560.

Friday Night Drop-In Sweetheart Dance. Opelika SportsPlex. Girls, invite that special guy! King and his court will be presented. Entertainment

by Ozz! 7-9 p.m. Ages 6th-8th grade. .www. opelikasportsplex.com.

Friday Night Drop-In Sweetheart Dance Opelika SportsPlex. Girls, invite that special guy!

King and his court will be presented. Entertainment

by Ozz! 7-9 p.m. Ages 6th-8th grade. www.opelikasportsplex.com.

Kenny Rogers Montgomery Performing Arts Centre. www.ticketmaster.com.

Phantom of the Opera Mother/Son Ball Benning Conference Center’s Supper Club. 6:309:30 p.m. www.springeroperahouse.org.

Birmingham Home and Garden Show BJCC. www.bjcc.org.

Will Downing BJCC. www.bjcc.org.

Mercedes-Benz Marathon Weekend Linn Park, Birmingham. www.mercedesmarathon.com.

Saturday, February 16

Dandy Dads Dinner Dance Opelika SportsPlex. $30 per couple, $5 for each additional daughter. Includes meal, corsage/ boutonniere, activities and entertainment. 6-8 p.m. www.opelikasportsplex.com.

Atlanta Ballet presents Cinderella Cobb Energy Performing Arts Centre. Atl. www.ticketmaster.com.

Cowboy Roundup at Storybook Farm See Feb. 8 for details.

Family Art Affair The Columbus Museum. 2-4 p.m. Free. Drop in the Studio to create a bottle cap necklace at the Columbus Museum!

Birmingham Home and Garden Show BJCC. www.bjcc.org.

A Gospel Symphony Celebration BJCC. www.bjcc.org.

Animal Enrichment The Montgomery Zoo. 10 a.m.-2 p.m. www.montgomeryzoo.com.

Third Annual ANC Critter Crawl Millbrook. a 5K Trail Run beginning at 9 a.m. benefiting the ANC education programs. There will be an additional 1-mile race beginning at 10 a.m. www.alabamawildlife.org.

Mercedes-Benz Marathon Weekend Linn Park, Birmingham. www.mercedesmarathon.com.

Sensory Sensitive Screenings Movie Escape From Planet Earth. Sponsored by The Autism Hope Center and Carmike Cinemas, Whittlesey Blvd, Columbus. 11 a.m.

Register www.autismhopecenter.com.

Sunday, February 17

Atlanta Ballet presents Cinderella Cobb Energy Performing Arts Centre. Atl. www.ticketmaster.com.

Birmingham Home and Garden Show BJCC. www.bjcc.org.

Mercedes-Benz Marathon Weekend Linn Park, Birmingham. www.mercedesmarathon.com.

Monday, February 18 10th Annual Southeast Festivals & Events Conference The Hotel at Auburn University. 9 a.m.-5 p.m. www. southeastfestivals.org.

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Tuesday, February 19 10th Annual Southeast Festivals & Events Conference The Hotel at Auburn University. 9 a.m.-5 p.m. www. southeastfestivals.org.

Southern Circuit Tour of Independent Filmmakers Jule Collins Smith Museum of Fine Art. Free. www.jcsm.auburn.edu.

Getting Under The Surface (GUTS) Hosted by COSAM. 6 – 8 p.m. Science activity featuring a “Getting Under the Surface” theme designed to demystify the science of topics ranging from DNA to creatures in the deep sea to how batteries work. The mission of GUTS is to enhance science literacy and engagement within our community by providing relevant science activities to students and their parents. Pre-registration is required. www.auburn.edu/cosam/guts.

Hair http://www.eastalabamaarts.org. Opelika Center For The Performing Arts.

Wednesday, February 20 10th Annual Southeast Festivals & Events Conference The Hotel at Auburn University. 9 a.m.-5 p.m. www. southeastfestivals.org.

Thursday, February 21 Live Owl Education Program Dean Rd Rec Center. $12.50 fee. 7:30 p.m. Register by calling 501-2946.

Guest Artist Concert 7:30 p.m. Goodwin Music Building Recital Hall, AU Campus. www.auburn.edu.

Little Big Town Montgomery Performing Arts Centre. www.ticketmaster.com.

Yo Gabba Gabba! Live: Get the Sillies Out! Cobb Energy Performing Arts Centre, Atlanta. www.ticketmaster.com.

Crater Days Wetumpka Impact Crater. The greatest natural disaster to ever hit Alabama was caused when a very large meteor hit near the area where the city of Wetumpka now sits. It created quite an impact. First discovered in the mid 1970s, a five-mile wide crater or astrobleme, meaning “star wound” was confirmed in 1998 by Dr. David King Jr., Professor of Geology, Auburn University. www.visitelmoreco.com.

AU Theatre presents She Loves Me Telfair Peet Theatre, AU Campus. www.cla.auburn.edu/theatre.

Friday, February 22 Crater Days See Feb. 21 for details.

Near His Heart Lakeview Baptist Church, Auburn. Come enjoy a dinner meant to uplift and encourage families of children with special needs who are near to His heart.

All families with children with special needs are invited. Free. 887-3909.

Birmingham Ballet Presents: Neverland BJCC. www.bjcc.org.

Godspell Virginia Samford Theatre, Birmingham. www. virginiasamfordtheatre.org.

Home Expo Garrett Coliseum, Montgomery. www.thegarrettcoliseum.com.

AU Theatre presents She Loves Me See Feb. 21 for details.

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Saturday, February 23 Lowe’s Build & Grow Clinic Monster Jam Grave Digger. 10 a.m. Free. Opelika. www.lowesbuildandgrow.com.

Crater Days See Feb. 21 for details.

Young Eagles Day FREE Airplane Rides for Kids! Columbus Airport.

Ages 8-17. 8:30-11:30 a.m. (weather permitting).

706-324-2453.

VIP Bed Race 2013 Valley Interfaith Promise, Inc hosts VIP Bed Race, Columbus, Ga. 11 a.m. The Race encourages your team to build a bed on wheels, then race your bed (using manpower only) against other teams for awards and prizes. Teams must have a minimum of five people to run the actual race – one rider & four runners to push the bed.The race course is a straight run on 14th Street starting from 1st Avenue to Broadway (at the corner of Country’s BBQ). It is approximately 120 yards long. www.vipbedrace.org.

Callaway Gardens Winter Farmers Market See Feb. 9 for details.

Birmingham Ballet Presents: Neverland BJCC. www.bjcc.org.

Godspell Virginia Samford Theatre, Birmingham. www.virginiasamfordtheatre.org.

Home Expo Garrett Coliseum, Montgomery. www. thegarrettcoliseum.com.

Russell Forest Run Russell Crossroads, Alexander City. 7:30 a.m. www.russellforestrun.com.

Wilcox Area Chamber Big Fish Crappie Tournament Lake Dannelly, Camden. www.wilcoxareachamber.org.

Girls, Glitz and Glamour!

Covington Rec Center. Opelika. 10 a.m.-12 p.m. Ages 5-13 yrs. $15.

Jeff Bunham Columbus Civic Center. www.ticketmaster.com.

Kid Rock BJCC Arena. www.ticketmaster.com.

Ft. Benning Adventure Race 9 a.m. 5 hours long consisting of biking, trekking, paddling, navigation, and mystery events. 706-505-7759.

Annual Love Your Heart Run & 6th Annual Crank Your Heart Ride Chewacla State Park. 6:15 a.m. 501-2930.

AU Theatre presents She Loves Me See Feb. 21 for details.

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Sunday, February 24 Birmingham Ballet Presents: Neverland BJCC. www.bjcc.org.

Godspell Virginia Samford Theatre, Birmingham. www. virginiasamfordtheatre.org.

Home Expo Garrett Coliseum, Montgomery. www. thegarrettcoliseum.com.

Annual Love Your Heart Run & 6th Annual Crank Your Heart Ride Chewacla State Park. 6:15 a.m. 501-2930.

Montgomery’s Jewish Food Festival Temple Beth Or. 9 a.m.-3 p.m. Free. www.templebethor.net.

AU Theatre presents She Loves Me See Feb. 21 for details.

Tuesday, February 26 AU Theatre presents She Loves Me See Feb. 21 for details.

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Wednesday, February 27 Faculty Recital 7:30 p.m. Goodwin Music Building Recital Hall, AU Campus. www.auburn.edu.

Bon Jovi: Because We Can- The Tour Philips Arena, Atl. www.ticketmaster.com.

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Thursday, February 28 Auburn Piano Trio Concert 7:30 p.m. Goodwin Music Building Recital Hall, AU Campus. www.auburn.edu.

Fort Benning Golf Scramble Ft. Benning Golf Course, Baltzell Avenue, Ft. Benning. 12 p.m. 706-687-1940.

Final day to register for Mud Mania Event scheduled for March 23, Auburn. Mud Mania is a mud drenched outdoor obstacle adventure race fueled by excessive and unreasonable enthusiasm.

Whether competing alone or on a team, ultimately it is a challenge that will pit your raw grit against the notoriously rugged Alabama mud. www.mud-mania.com.

Auburn Classical Academy Open House See Feb. 12 for details.

AU Theatre presents She Loves Me See Feb. 21 for details.

Looking Ahead...

March 1-2. Monster Nation’s Jurassic Bash.

Columbus Civic Center. Features some of the toughest monster trucks in the world. www. columbusciviccenter.org.

March 1-3. Cottontail’s Village Arts, Crafts, and Gifts Show. BJCC, Birmingham. Exhibitors selling original art, hand crafted soaps, jewelry, handmade garden decor and more. Fri., 10 a.m.-8 p.m.; Sat., 10 a.m.-7 p.m.; Sun., Noon-5 p.m. www.christmasvillagefestival.com/cottontails.

March 7-9. 56th Annual Southeastern Livestock Expo/Rodeo. Garrett Coliseum, Montgomery. www.slerodeo.com.

March 9. March Fantasy Doll and Toy Show/Sale.

Fairhope Civic Center. Sponsored by the Eastern Shore Doll Study Club of Alabama. 9:30 a.m.-4 p.m.

251-980-5958.

March 9-16. Birmingham Children’s Theatre presents Sleeping Beauty. www.bct123.org.

March 9-30. Cottontail Express. Silverhill, Al. Ride the train to the Easter Village for a visit with the Easter Bunny. Hunt eggs in the egg patch and decorate them at the art table. Catch the train for a ride back to the station for refreshments. Sat.-Sun., 1-5 p.m. www.waleswest.com.

March 8-May 18. To Kill a Mockingbird. Alabama Shakespeare Festival, Montgomery. www.asf.net.

March 16. Harlem Globetrotters. Phillips Arena, Ga. www.ticketmaster.com.

March 20-21. Seussical. RiverCenter for the Performing Arts. Columbus. 9:30 a.m., 11:30 a.m., 7 p.m. www.rivercenter.org.

March 28. America’s Got Talent: All Star Tour.

Cobb Energy Performing Arts Centre, Ga. www.ticketmaster.

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Over the past few months, I’ve noticed an alarming trend in my house whenever I say “no.” My kids accept my response initially, but then something goes wrong. Very wrong! They start repeating their request over and over in an effort to get me to change my mind. They seem to think that if they ask me enough times, that I will give in and let them have what they want.

Can I have a play date? Can I have a soda? Can I watch television? Can I have a snack? Can I play a video game? These are some of the most frequently asked questions at my house that get a no. Don’t get me wrong, sometimes each of these get a yes. But only when the time is right.

No, you can’t have a play date when we’re walking out the door to go to gymnastics. No, you can’t have a soda after school. No, you can’t watch television when you could be playing outside. No, you can’t have a snack before dinner. No, you can’t play a video game when you have homework to do.

In an effort to determine if this was a problem with all kids or just my own, I did an informal survey of some of my kid’s friends. I asked them all the question, “What would happen to you if your parents said no to you and then you asked them again for that same thing?”

The first kid looked at me with shock and said, “Well, my mom and dad would send me to my room for sure!” I also got an “I’d be put in time out!” And then there were just the “I know better than to do that!” responses.

My survey was by no means scientific, but it made me stop and think about what was going on in my house that made my kids think it was okay to ask for the same thing over and over again, even when the answer was no.

Then it hit me. The reason they keep asking is that I don’t always stick to my guns. I’ll be the first to admit that I’ve given in to their 10th request to have a snack just so they would stop asking me!

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Now, if you ask to watch television after already being told no, then you will be grounded from the television. Ask over and over again for a soda and you won’t get to see one for a week (at least). You get the idea... the consequences are all related to what they’re begging for. And you know

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We’ve been at it a week, and it hasn’t taken long for us to see a complete turn around in their behavior. And the last time I checked the recycling, there were a lot fewer soda cans in there than usual. Give it a try at your house. If it can work for me, I promise it can work for you!

Dr. Polly Dunn received her Ph.D. from Auburn University in 1999. She is a Licensed Clinical Psychologist and currently serves as the Director of the Auburn University Psychological Services Center, a position she has held for over ten years. Dr. Dunn is also the founder of www.ChildPsychMom.com where she blogs about what works and what doesn’t in her hectic life as a child psychologist, wife, and mom of four.

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Parental Guidance

MPAA Rating: PG-13 Overall: AViolence: BSexual Content: C Language: B+ Alcohol / Drug Use: B The MPAA has rated The Impossible for intense realistic disaster sequences, including disturbing injury images and brief nudity.

On December 26, 2004 an earthquake in the Indian Ocean spawned a tsunami that struck South Asian coastlines with an incredible wall of water, leaving over 200,000 people dead in its wake. Around the world, people watched the news reports with a sense of dismay. But for those at the center of the disaster, the horrors only grew after the water receded. The Impossible, directed by Spanish filmmaker Juan Antonio Bayona and based on the real life experiences of Maria Belon and her husband Henry, tells the story of just one of the thousands of families swept up in the events of that day.

Henry and Maria (played by Ewan McGregor and Naomi Watts) arrive at an idyllic shoreline resort in Thailand for a relaxing Christmas vacation with their boys Lucas (Tom Holland), Thomas (Samuel Joslin) and Simon (Oaklee Pendergast). Then, without warning, a tidal wave of churning, dirty, debris-filled water crashes down on the resort battering the guests and employees as it plunges over them. When she finally fights her way to the surface, Maria is cut, bruised and partially unclothed from the force of the water. In the distance she catches sight of Lucas rushing along in the current.

Finally, the two of them latch on to the trunk of a floating tree. But the rest of their family is nowhere to be seen.

Rescued by locals, the pair eventually ends up in an overrun hospital where Maria’s injuries worsen each day as the staff deals with an evergrowing patient load.

Meanwhile, a shoeless and blood-covered Henry, still in a state of shock, leaves Thomas and Simon in the care of a stranger (Nicola Harrison) and begins searching for his missing wife and son.

Because many of the extras in the film are actual survivors of the tsunami, there is a sense of authenticity to the emotional shock that follows the watery event. Still in the middle of unbelievable devastation and mayhem are incredible moments of courage and compassion. These heroic moments become the redeeming elements in this story of incredible survival. While the terrifying depiction of the tidal wave and the resulting devastation make this movie inappropriate for young viewers, adults and the oldest of teens will likely be inspired by the tenacity of the human spirit that still surfaces in the face of unimaginable calamity.

MPAA Rating: PG Overall: BViolence: B+ Sexual Content: B Language: AAlcohol / Drug Use: BThe MPAA has rated Parental Guidance PG for some rude humor.

Artie and Diane Decker (Billy Crystal and Bette Midler) seldom see their three grandchildren, so when their only child Alice (Marisa Tomei) requests an extended child-sitting favor so she can accompany her husband (Tom Everett Scott) on a business trip, grandma can’t say no. Grandpa, on the other hand, is dealing with a sudden job loss and would rather be down in the dumps on his own sofa. Conceding to his wife’s determination to care for the little ones he slaps a smile on his face and heads to Atlanta.

Raised in a home where words like “no”, “don’t”, and “stop” are banned and political correctness is embraced, Artie’s gift of a trio of water guns is unwelcomed by his daughter, who shun violent toys, even though it elicit sequels of delight from the youngsters. Soon even Grandpa regrets the choice after one of the little darlings showers his pants, leaving him with a wet crotch.

And in short order other personality traits are revealed that are sure to tax the sitters. 12-year-old Harper (Bailee Madison) is an over-achiever wrestling with a newfound desire to have a social life, Turner (Joshua Rush) is dealing with a bullying issue that aggravates his stuttering speech disorder and little Barker (Harrison Breitkopf) quickly learns that blackmailing Grandpa can be a profitable activity.

This couple-of-fish-out-of-water premise holds all the usual hijinks one might expect, including the kids’ first introduction to high sugar foods when Fartie (grandpa’s new nickname, heard repeatedly throughout the script) brings home a giant ice cream cake as one of many bribes to keep the boys quiet about a previous indiscretions. And that leads to the biggest concern in this script -- our senior protagonist constantly lies and yet he, with some help from Grandma Diane, eventually becomes the source of wisdom that ultimately drives the story to its happy ending.

There are truly funny moments, especially with Billy Crystal’s comic delivery and the chemistry he shares with Bette Midler. As well, it is nice to see a movie that puts grandparents in a position of being helpful and (somewhat) knowledgeable. It’s just unfortunate that this production from Walden Media, a company dedicated to creating stories that (according to their website) “... capture the imagination, rekindle curiosity, and demonstrate the rewards of virtue,” doesn’t offer families some stronger reasons to seek Parental Guidance.

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Violence: A grandfather encourages his bullied grandson to stand up to his assailant -- later the boy returns with a black eye and admits he threw the first punch. A child hits a man in the crotch with a bat. A man falls from a skateboard after slipping in a puddle of urine. An imaginary friend is hit by a car and killed, and a funeral is held the next day.

Sexual Content: A man makes mild sexual remarks during a pat down at airport security. Other veiled remarks are made about a married couple needing to have intimate time together. Women are seen exercising using dance poles -- no sexual comments are made. Married couples kiss.

Language: A man named Artie is referred to as “Farite” by his grandkids.

Drugs/Alcohol: A man says he needs a martini. A woman drinks a glass of wine while stressed. A character talks positively about getting drunk. Social drinking, including alcohol served at a bar, is depicted.

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Violence: A dirty, churning wave of water engulfs the guests and employees of a resort. Debris in the water causes serious injuries. Numerous bloody wounds, bruises, gashes and cuts are depicted. Dead bodies and large-scale destruction caused by a tsunami are shown. An injured woman is dragged through debris by her rescuers. Women choke, coughing up blood and refuse from their lungs. Bloody or injured characters search for their missing loved ones. Other scenes of death and devastation are portrayed.

Sexual Content: A woman’s breast and nipple are exposed as she changes clothes. Later her breast is exposed when her shirt is torn off during her struggle in the water and when her clothes are cut off in the hospital.

Language: The script contains only a handful of mild profanities and terms of Deity.

Auburn-Opelika Parents I February 2013

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