River Region's Journey January 2015 by KeepSharing

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Feature Articles

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Publisher’s Note

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Jason Watson

Faith @ Work

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Married couple and local entrepreneurs Daniel and Krystal Mims share how faith impacted the beginning of their journey together and is still a central focus of the business they run and new projects they’re creating.

Pastor's Perspective Pastor Rob Couch, First United Methodit Church, Prattville

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Pondering the Journey Sam Whatley

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Shine

Kim Hendrix

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Building a Marriage 101

With All Your Mind Matt Jordan, Ph.D.

by Candy Arrington Find practical advice for building your marriage on a solid foundation from the ground up.

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Family Teams for Christ Lisa and Mike Conn

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Counselor’s Corner

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Inspiration For Your 2015 Wedding Resident wedding expert, Mary Sanders of Mary Me, shares what’s hot for the coming year in weddings, plus a look at two new and unique venues in the River Region.

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The Intersection Bob Crittenden

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Dave $ays Dave Ramsey

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Books to Read

Newlywed Highlight:

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Luv and Derek DuBose

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Around Our Community Support Groups

You’ll be inspired by this young couple’s approach to strengthening their new marriage and living life together as one.

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Event Calendar page 40

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Our Mission... We believe the Good News concerning the life, death and resurrection of Jesus Christ is worth sharing with our friends and neighbors in the River Region. Each month we deliver this life-changing message to the centers of activity across our community in a user-friendly and relevant way to empower and equip all those seeking to grow closer to God. Join us in this mission by sharing a copy with your neighbor or by becoming an advertising partner starting next month.

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From the Publisher Every January we dedicate a large portion of River Region’s Journey to inspiring young couples who are planning a wedding. There are many “Wedding Guides” published, but we are the only one that shares the latest trends in wedding planning, as well as the biblical plan for having a successful marriage. First, Mary Sanders of Mary Me Wedding Planning shares Inspiration for Planning Your 2015 Wedding. Mary is at the top of her field and the insights she shares will get you started towards creating a beautiful stage for your big day. Next, Candy Arrington lays out the blueprint for marriage success in her article, Building a Marriage 101. She explains the foundational, relational, financial, spiritual and emotional components needed to maintain a healthy bond between you and your spouse. Finally, we asked local newlyweds Luv and Derek DuBose to share advice on preparing for both before and after your wedding day. As newlyweds, their fresh perspective will be a help to anyone planning for their own upcoming marriage. Marriage is an institution created by God and is a blessing to each person when they follow His blueprint. I hope this issue will not only help you find tips for wedding planning, but I pray it also reveals the necessity for having Christ, and your commitment to Him, at the center of your union. Next month, in February’s issue, we’ll be doing a “Marriage Part Two” for Valentine’s Day where we’ll interview four couples who have been married for more than 20 years. Don’t miss out on the valuable insights they will share about sustaining a happy and lasting marriage. Just because you’re not planning a wedding, don’t think this issue doesn’t have something for you. We are still sharing all of our regular columns, helpful media reviews and community news. As you begin this new year, Journey wants to be a part of your life by meeting you out in the community to discuss the way Christianity transforms all of life. You’ll see that in everything we share. Enjoy your copy and may your 2015 be filled with God’s hope and peace.

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Pastor’s Perspective

Pastor Rob Couch, First United Methodist Church, Prattville

All Things New else just stays the same. We know, however, that nothing is impossible with God! What do you hope is different about 2015 for you? Would you like to get healthier? Would you like to mend a broken relationship? Would you like to start that new business or begin spending more time with your family? Maybe you want to go back to school to complete that degree, or start a new degree program altogether. No matter what improvement you want to make to your life, it’s possible, with God’s help. Setting a new course begins by changing your mind. The Bible calls this repentance. Many of us have a “can’t do” mindset instead of a “can do” mindset. The reason we can’t: lose weight, have better relationships, learn something new, etc. is not because we really can’t, it’s mainly because our minds have paralyzed us from doing what God wants us to do. We need to change our minds so that our actions can change accordingly. We also need to admit to the many excuses we’ve been making over the years. We can or vEry also be honest with ourselves about the E n E r at i o n obstacles we’ve allowed to stand in our way keeping us Prattville First United Methodist Church from becoming the 100 E. 4th Street, Prattville, AL 36067 person God wants us to be. This is a TRADI TI O NAL W O RSH I P 8 : 3 0 AM & 11 : 0 0 A M form of confession. SUNDAY SCH O O L 9 : 4 5 AM The most important TH E W ELL 11 : 0 0 AM confession is the admission that no lasting meaningful change will be able to happen in our www.prattvillemethodist.org

The Apostle Paul tells us that in Christ we are new creatures and everything has become new (2 Cor. 5:17). Revelation tells us that God’s ultimate plan is to make “all things new” (Rev. 21:5). God’s love for renewal is seen even in Isaiah as we are told God is about to do a “new thing” (43:19). The good news for us beginning a new year is that our creator loves to make things new! No matter what happened in 2014, not matter where we may find ourselves as we wake up in 2015, God is ready and prepared to make all things new. We’ve all become pretty cynical about New Year’s resolutions. Most of us have broken more of them than we’ve kept. Because of this, many of us have given up on the idea that change is possible. For many of us the change of the calendar year is just the change of a number, and everything

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lives if it depends only on us. Many of us fail at change because we are trying to do it all alone. We need the help and support others, and, most importantly, we need the grace of God. The best news I can share with you as we begin this New Year is that all things can become new because of God’s grace. Many of us haven’t really fully accepted God’s unconditional grace and love made available to us through the work of Christ. We still carry around a lot of guilt and regret about the things we’ve done or not done, the missed opportunities, and the times we’ve let others down. God’s grace sets us free from these things which are holding us back. This grace is especially evident in baptism where we see the power of God’s grace working through water to cleanse and renew us. Some churches encourage their members to remember their baptism from time to time so that we don’t forget that God’s grace is still cleansing us and renewing us. This is a good practice, especially at this time of year. The year is 2015 and God is making all things new! In Christ you can become a new creation, the old has passed away, the new has come! All of this is available to you as you trust Jesus Christ with your life in 2015. No matter how you want to become more like the person God wants you to be, it’s possible, with God’s help. Change your mind, admit that you need help, and allow God’s grace to cleanse you so that you can begin again. Rob Couch is Senior Pastor of First United Methodist Church in Prattville. Rob is married to Crystal and they have three kids: David (11), Ethan (8), and Ella (5).

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Prayer

by Timothy Keller Hold on! Is it a book about prayer? Another book about prayer? Is there any possible way we can benefit from yet another book on the subject of prayer? Tim Keller’s Prayer: Experiencing Awe and Intimacy with God answers with a decisive yes. Now here’s the interesting thing. There is not much new in this new book. As Keller says, the best books on prayer have already been written. So instead of pursuing novelty (see The Prayer of Jabez or The Circle Maker or a thousand other books) Keller looks to the past, to the deep wells of Christian history, and draws heavily from Augustine, Luther, Calvin, Owen, and Edwards (and, in more recent history, Edmund Clowney). He understands that any new insights on prayer tend to go farther from rather than closer to biblical truth. Instead of looking for new secrets to discover or keys to unlock, Keller looks for fresh ways of saying those old things. Again, there is nothing profoundly new in this new book, but that is its strength, not its weakness. Keller begins his book in an interesting place—the tension between two kinds of prayer. Christians tend to describe prayer in one of two ways: communioncentered or kingdom-centered. ComRiver Region’s Journey

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munion-centered prayer is “a means to experience God’s love and to know oneness with him. [Such authors] promise a life of peace and of continual resting in God. [They] often give radiant testimonies of feeling regularly surrounded by the divine presence.” Kingdom-centered prayer “sees the essence of prayer not as inward resting but as calling on God to bring in his kingdom. Prayer is viewed as a wrestling match, often—or perhaps ordinarily—without a clear sense of God’s immediate presence.” He opts to discard the either-or view and will not drive a wedge between the two. Prayer is both conversation and encounter with God. This is not to say he advocates the kind of prayer you might find among the Roman Catholic mystics whose books remain so popular today. In fact, he pushes firmly against mysticism, against meditation as being an emptying of the mind rather than a filling of it, or against rapturous but mindless prayers. But still he leaves plenty of room for true communion with God, and for the illuminating work of the Holy Spirit who may bring Scripture to mind and cause us to understand it better in those times we are prayerfully meditative. Even as he teaches these things, he leans on the Reformers and Puritans. As I began to read, I had thought that Keller’s purpose in the book might be to try to resolve the mysteries of prayer. Over time, though, I came to see that this is not the case. There is much about 6

prayer we cannot understand and may never understand on this side of eternity (and perhaps even after). Keller peers into these mysteries, but he does not attempt to resolve them. He understands that prayer will always be difficult and never overpromises, never lays out a plan that, if followed, will supposedly bring guaranteed or overwhelming results. We can grow in our understanding of prayer and our skill at prayer, but we will never solve it, and will never pray perfectly. One particularly interesting aspect of the book is Keller’s definition of prayer. Few books on prayer pause to actually define prayer, but Keller gives it his best shot. Prayer, he says, is a personal, communicative response to the knowledge of God. This accounts for the universality of prayer—all religions, and very nearly all human beings, pray. They pray because they have some knowledge of God through his creation. But as God awakens the hardened hearts of his people, Christians are now able to pray on the basis of much greater and much more specific knowledge. Thus, for the Christian, “praying is continuing a conversation that God has started through his Word and his grace, which eventually becomes a full encounter with him.” Early in his book Keller critiques most books on prayer as being “primarily theological or devotional or practical, but seldom do they combine the theological, experiential, and methodological all under one cover.” This is what he has attempted to do, and it is exactly what he has done, as displayed in the book’s five parts: Desiring Prayer, Understanding Prayer, Learning Prayer, Deepening Prayer, Doing Prayer. He has written a winsome, wellrounded book that leads through theory and into practice. It is one of the strongest books on prayer I have ever read and it receives my highest recommendation.

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Kirk and Patti Lytle Perform Historical Drama at Ridgecrest Baptist Church

Ridgecrest Baptist Church, 5260 Vaughn Road, will host Kirk & Patti Lytle presenting excerpts from “Together again... for the very first time” on Sunday, January 25, 2015 at 6:15 pm. This historical drama written by Kirk & Patti, is an entertaining, inspirational walk through the “Hall of Faith”. Historically accurate, the program captures the personalities of ordinary people who accomplished extraordinary things in the service of the King of Kings. Dramatic scenes, sprinkled with humor, along with music from the era, combine to create touching insights into decisive moments in the lives of some of the best-loved saints. The result is a highly entertaining history of the Church from a very personal vantage point. In this presentation, Kirk and Patti will portray two prolific hymn writers: Fanny Crosby, and Charles Wesley, and his wife, Sally. For more info, please call 277-0011.

Epiphany Gala Hosted by Reality and Truth Mission Reality and Truth Mission is hosting a “Epiphany Gala” January 10, 7 pm at Grace Episcopal Church, 906 Pike Road, 36064 Enjoy a five-course meal with entertainment by The Montgomery Symphony, plus a ballet performance. There will be a several items to bid on! $100 suggested donation. Tickets online RealityandTruth.com or contact Debby Thomas at 224-1460.

Frazer Christmas Store Helps Less Fortunate

Frazer’s first Christmas Store to help those less fortunate was a huge success. This concept is designed to give the gift of dignity to families who want to provide for their families but are struggling financially. The Frazer Family donated more than $7000 to the store, equipping volunteers with the funds needed to stock the store with toys, electronics and other items. Every gift is priced at $5. Several area organizations identified families who qualified for this help and invited them to stop by and purchase gifts for their loved ones. As parents shopped, the Men’s ministry fed the children at the annual pancake breakfast and Santa was on hand for photos. Here’s a look at the first year numbers: 120 children were recommended by 6 local organizations; 80 children were shopped for by there parents/grandparents; 160 presents were purchased for children the day of the store. The church community donated more than $7300 to the store. $850 was brought in the day of the store to be used next year to purchase gifts. $30 was given by a shopper for another shopper. More than 60 volunteers helped to make the event a success. River Region’s Journey

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February 24 @ 7:30 p.m., MPAC Michael Oher came from a broken home and his estranged father was murdered while Oher was in high school. Sean and Leigh Anne Tuohy became Oher’s legal guardians and he developed into a college football star and a top NFL draft pick. Oher’s story was told in Michael Lewis’s book The Blind Side and the Sandra Bullock film of the same name. Tickets begin at $27.

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Coosada Baptist Church, 5687 Coosada Road, is hosting the Mwangaza African Children’s Choir January 18 at 5:30 pm. The Mwangaza Children’s Choir is an inspiring group of 20 hopeful and talented children, ages 8-14, who represent the orphaned and poverty-stricken youth of Uganda. Touring as a ministry outreach of Africa Renewal Ministries, they come to share a special message of hope through authentic Ugandan song and dance. The upcoming performance will be a part of Mwangaza’s tenth international tour. Free admission. A love offering will be taken. Call 285-4225 for more details.

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Ignite: A Time for Worship

January 25th, 6 pm St. James United Methodist Church We invite you to take an hour from the busyness of life to worship with us! It’s a great way to begin the year as we praise the Lord together!

Religious Arts Festival at First UMC

First United Methodist is hosting its 4th annual Religious Arts Festival for the community February1-8. This is a free event for the whole family. We will sponsor a free animated movie at the Capri Theatre called Secret Kells, have art exhibits, a Readers Theatre, the Jazz group Presbybob will perform, among other things.

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Terrific Tuesdays for Older Adults

First UMC, 2416 West Cloverdale Pk, welcomes all Senior Adults on Tuesday mornings. 10 – 10:30 Fellowship and a Snack; 10:30 -11:30 Devotional and a program; 11:30 –Noon; Lunch ($2.50) January programs: January 6, 13, 20 – Bible Study with Fred Zeigler January 27 – Bingo Questions? Call Nee Nee at 834-8990.

Women’s Conference Featuring Lisa Whelchel

Jan. 30-31; Friday, 6:30-8 p.m; Saturday 8 a.m.-noon Eastern Hills Baptist Church, 3604 Pleasant Hills Rd, Montgomery Actress, speaker, author, Lisa Whelchel is guest speaker. Lisa shares her personal journey of discovering connection with God, herself and others. $25 through Jan. 29; $30 day of event. Go to ehbconline. com to register.

February 7, 8:30 a.m.-3:30 p.m. Eastmont Baptist Church, 4505 Atlanta Highway, Montgomery. Join Lou Priolo, author of Resolving Conflict for a day of learning how to make, disturb & keep peace in Resolving Conflict in Marriage. (box lunch included). Cost: $20/singles; $30/couples

Grace @ Bell Road Turns 10 Years Old!

On January 25th the Grace family will be celebrating 10 years together at 5 Bell Road and praising God for His blessing over these eventful years. Lives have been touched through worship, community outreach and service. The campus has seen a number of improvements, both inside and out. And, under the leadership of Pastor Bill Thompson, we are watching God birth something new at Grace. Dr. Kent Bull, pastor during the merger of Grace Presbyterian and Bell Road Methodist Churches in 2005, will present the message. Please join us at 10:30 for worship and afterwards at the Celebration Luncheon. For more information or to make a luncheon reservation, contact the church office, 272-4930. 9

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Frazer Christmas Musical Drama Draws Thousands

Thousands of people gathered for two live performances of Frazer’s Christmas program, “Listen, It’s Christmas”. This is an original work written by Frazer’s own Digital Ministries Coordinator Will Adams. Based loosely on his life, Will tells the story of a family dealing with the craziness of the holidays combined with some struggles within—a story line many people can identify with anytime of the year. Frazer’s Music Director Wayne Sigler took Will’s story and weaved in dancing and singing, involving Frazer members of all ages. This story of hope, grace and forgiveness seemed to resonate with those attending. Also, members of our Smile Ministry volunteered their time to greet those coming to the program, knowing many people would be visiting Frazer for the first time. One family from Troy who joined in the time of fellowship told us they like visiting different churches and events during the year, but they have never been to a church where they were made so welcome!

Parenting Workshop at Christchurch in January

“Parenting This Generation” will be held January 30-31 (Friday 7pm-9pm & Saturday 9am-Noon) at Christchurch, 8800 Vaughn Road, Montgomery. Counselors Melissa Trevathan, David Thomas and Sissy Goff from Daystar Counseling Ministries in Nashville will be speaking. Look at what it means to bring time-tested values into a modern world…how to deal with issues that are more concerning than ever before: disrespect, entitlement and the seduction of technology. David examines the world and ways of a boy, and the vital role you can play in his journey to manhood. Sissy and Melissa break down the stages of a girl’s development as she becomes the woman she is uniquely designed to be. $35 couple/$20 single. Tickets available through the church office at 334-387-0566.

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Lasting Letters In the 1950’s Pat Boone hit the charts with a record called “Love Letters in the Sand.” He lamented about being in love, writing love letters on the beach, and watching the tide wash them all away. He sang about his love being untrue and laughing at his sorrow. Girls across America loved the song, bought records, and made the young singer a celebrity. The obvious problem in the song is that love letters were never intended to be beach drawings. Anything that is really important needs to be preserved so it can be appreciated, again and again. Once upon a time, before texts, tweets, and email, people wrote letters to each other. No joke. Usually they were written in longhand (cursive, if you like) on quality paper. It took time to write them. You tried to say exactly what you meant without being misleading, because you knew that letter could show up years later. Being polite was important. You even tried to spell every word correctly, so you would not look stupid. Letters said something. When I was a child I read letters one of my ancestors had written from a battlefield of the Civil War. He was cold; he was hungry; all he wanted was a plate of his mother’s cooking. The letter and paper were real. And as I read his words, that war became real to me. Over the years something basic has changed. Somehow we have shifted from savoring our feelings and thoughts to running them through an assembly line. Our electronic messages are quickly tapped out and quickly deleted. Even if one is printed and saved, it may soon be discarded. We live lives of temporary engagement. Our addresses change; our emails change; our phone numbers change. We are too busy. Well, guess what? God is not in such a hurry. He has all the time in the world and if He ran out of it, He could just whip up another batch. God has time to listen to us and speak to our hearts. And He has written us many letters to remind us of that. We call them the Bible.

The Psalms and many of the other Old Testament books sound just like journal entries, but really they are letters written to God. You can hear writers, sometimes praising, sometimes crying, sometimes reporting to their Maker what they see all around them. Through God’s providence He has taken these letters written to Him and sent them back to us. The New Testament is loaded with letters from Luke, Paul, Peter, James, John, Jude and others. They seem to be addressed to certain people, but again, they are also letters from God to all of us. Sure, the writers use different styles. Paul uses big words and complicated sentences that run over a hundred words, while Peter and James clip their comments down to nuggets. But in all of it the Holy Spirit is calling us to the Father and revealing how Christ died to set us free from ourselves. The Bible didn’t just show up one day at the bookstore. Wars have been fought to save these letters so we can read them. People have burned at the stake for translating them into a current language. Others have risked their lives smuggling them into countries where they are illegal. Some still do. The process has taken centuries. We don’t need to beat ourselves up because we have neglected these love letters. We need to read them. We need to 11

find their meaning for us and their mission in our lives. We need to re-feel the presence of Christ. God knew we were not going to figure out His plan without divine help. As you start this new year, read a letter from Him and see where it leads you. Over the years you have read other books. Maybe you have also read this one. But love letters are meant to be re-read, again and again. Allow God to bring back the joy that you knew the first time you read His words. They are not written in the sand, but in our hearts and minds. No wave of doubt or fear can wash them away.

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Absolutely. Like Jesus said in Mark 8:36, what good is it if you gain the whole world and lose your soul? I think this principal is true for our children as well. Nothing is as important as their salvation. We often joke that our children were born in church. It’s the only life they have known. We share life with a great extended family and we are so thankful and blessed to be surrounded by incredible saints who have helped us to rear our children. We’ve also been blessed to have a direct involvement with their Christian education. Krystal coached them in Junior Bible Quiz and I coached them when they advanced to Teen Bible Quiz. I’ve also been able to teach both of our boys, and soon our daughter, in the High Teen Sunday School class which I’ve taught for 20 years. RRJ: In 2003 you two took the first steps towards what has become the Mims Management Group, primarily focusing on business solutions in the pharmaceutical industry. What led you to this venture?

RRJ: You two have been in each other’s lives for a long time, having grown up together in the same youth group and eventually getting married. What impact has that early Christian instruction, then belief, played in your life and marriage? We married young at age 19! Everyone told us we were crazy, but we both knew exactly what we wanted...each other. When we were teens growing up at First Assembly, church was our life. We were literally there almost every day of the week so we didn’t have time for anything else. We were both on the Bible Quiz team and that really laid the foundation for our relationship. Memorizing over 1/3 of the New Testament over that time laid the foundation for the rest of our lives. It developed our minds to think like Christ, shaped our desires to commit everything to Him, and made Christ the absolute all in all for us both. So, 22 years later, we are still together and happily married with three wonderful children. We are living a life of purpose because Christ has always been the center of our relationship. RRJ: Is that foundation you received something you’ve sought to pass along to your three children? River Region’s Journey

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An idea. We believe it was a God-inspired idea. I was working for another pharmacy company and I had an idea for a unique way of providing pharmacy services for a particular health care sector. After praying about it, researching, and performing the due diligence, I presented the idea to Krystal. Without hesitation, she said, “Let’s go for it.” I want to say that God had given her a divine revelation, but I’m afraid she was just stir crazy from being a stay-at-home mom for nine months. RRJ: Now you have more than 200 employees working across the country. How do your Christian beliefs effect the way you lead them? As Christians, we know that we live our life for a higher purpose than just success, recognition, riches and comfort. God has called us to make a difference in the world. We try to instill this philosophy in the way that we present our companies to employees. We are very open about the faith-based ministries that we support and try to instill in every employee that we are all working for a higher purpose. These companies would not exist if it were not for God’s blessing. We also believe that God requires excellence in everything that we do (Ecclesiastes 9:10). Christians should be the hardest workers because we are working for the Lord and not ourselves. RRJ: Locally, you’ve recently opened Cotton & Pine Creative, which is different from all your other brands. What does Cotton & Pine offer our readers? Cotton & Pine Creative is truly unique. In January of 2014 we purchased Long Run Press, moved it to the adjacent building of our 12

corporate headquarters on the Eastern Blvd. and changed the name to Cotton & Pine Creative. We designed the space to look like an old Southern storefront, purchased 100-year-old equipment that could produce printed material with a unique quality and character, and spun off our MMG Creative Department to make something that has turned out to be very special. The creative side of Cotton & Pine offers services like graphic design, branding, logo development, videos, photography and writing. We are story tellers. Whether that’s telling the story of your business, your family or your special event, the creative staff of Cotton & Pine do an incredible job of communicating genuine stories. The print side offers a lost art of craftsmanship and quality. We offer letter pressing, foil stamping, embossing and die-cutting; techniques rarely used in today’s modern world of digital printing. With the creative services and the printing working together under one roof in collaboration, we have produced some incredible items. RRJ: Couples working together is rare. How do you two do that well? Working with your spouse can be challenging to say the least. You never can get away from work – you are always talking about it. However, it can be extremely rewarding. You get to share in the joys of success and lean on each other during the trials. It makes you closer and strengthens your bond. RRJ: Finally, living out your faith in Christ everyday doesn’t just happen. It takes serious effort through God’s resources and the Holy Spirit. What are some specific ways that God equips you to live daily for glory? Guidance from the Holy Spirit is critical. There have been times in our journey where I know beyond question that God has given us clear and precise direction. Time after time we have seen His hand weaving an incredible plan. Our biggest responsibility is just obedience. That’s a lot easier said than done. So often, we get caught up in the business of the day, activities and circumstances. God often just wants us to be still and listen. That’s why you’ve got to keep the “dailies” daily. Prayer, time in the Word, and Godly fellowship are all crucial to living your faith consistently. It really helps to put the phone away, stop checking emails and turn off the TV. You’ve also got to live a life of service to others. Once you begin to focus on the needs of others, you take the focus off of your own needs and allow God to handle them. Thank you both for taking the time to share your journey with Christ and how you’re honoring Him where He has called you to shine. **Photo provided by Michelle Consuegra.

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Rest Psalm 46:10: “Be still, and know that I am God.” It’s a new year, a new beginning, a chance to start all over with fitness, personal growth and goals. So what’s on your “to-do” list? Many of us hit the ground running with a new year. We make great plans to lose weight, de-clutter, get organized, change personal habits, all to perhaps become a better person. Let me add one more very important goal to your list: Rest. The importance of resting in Him has become more apparent to me in the last month as my sister-in-law battles a cancerous brain tumor. For a year and a half she has courageously undergone various forms of treatment, all the while watching her physical strength wane. Recently as she told me about her loss of peripheral vision and balance, she looked up and said, “I want to say okay, Lord, I’m trying to fight this, what in the world do you want me to do?” As I prayed about her question I could hear God saying, “Fall back in my arms and let me fight.” In other words, rest. Alternate words for “Be Still” in Scripture are “relax”, “let go” and “cease striving”. That’s hard for us to do, isn’t it? If we’re not working on something in our own strength, laying out a plan and moving toward a goal, then we’re not succeeding. That’s the world’s definition of being a fighter. God’s definition is give it all to Him and rest in His loving, protective arms. Yes, do what He puts before you but don’t exhaust yourself trying to achieve your goals. Allow His plan to unfold in His way and in His timing. River Region’s Journey

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Matthew 11:28: “Come to me, all who are weary and burdened, and I will give you rest.”

me to do?” I hope in those times, we can hear our Lord saying, “Rest, trust me and let me fight.”

A close friend, whose son has spina bifida, shared once that when you feel helpless and everything is out of your hands, all you can do “is hunker down and trust”. Her family has found themselves in the bunker of trust many times, in fact I would say they live there. What got them there is hard but the result is a constant stream of peace and strength, a confidence that whatever comes their way will first come through the hands of God, the filter of his love.

We often need help hearing that voice and even more so reacting to that command. As we pray for miracles in healing and strength to endure the battle, we join our loved ones and friends who need to fall into the arms of Christ, as their mighty prayer warriors— becoming the cords in a strong band of calling out to God.

Isaiah 43:2-3: “When you pass through the waters, I will be with you; and when you pass through the rivers, they will not sweep over you. When you walk through the fire, you will not be burned; the flames will not set you ablaze. For I am the Lord your God, the Holy One of Israel, your Savior.” A health crisis often displays in fast motion and high intensity everyday life lived in our own strength. We will have valleys—times in our marriages, as parents, in our careers, as children caring for aging parents, when we may get to the point of saying, “I’m trying to fight, Dear Lord, but what in the world do you want

Ecclesiastes 4:12: “Though one may be overpowered, two can defend themselves. A cord of three strands is not quickly broken.” It’s a new year, a new beginning, a chance to let your Heavenly Father hold you and lead the way. Add “Rest” to your “to-do” list, in fact put it in the top spot, and be prepared to be blessed. Dear Heavenly Father, Thank you for always being there, holding out your arms, saying, “Fall into me child and let me fight.” May your sovereignty provide comfort when the battles of this life appear overwhelming and may we make ourselves available to all who desperately need rest. In the mighty name of your son, Jesus Christ, we pray, Amen.

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We attempt to build a marriage relationship without blueprints or site work. Before entering a marriage commitment, consider the following:

Analyze the building site (Foundational)

Frequently, romance has a snowball effect. We date someone, find mutual connection in several areas, and think we’ve found our life mate. Especially for those who have delayed marriage for educational or other purposes, or those who simply haven’t found someone with whom they have much in common, there is a tendency to rapidly move forward toward marriage once they find someone that appeals to them. Slow down. Take some time to get to know the person. Most of us are working hard to be at our best in a dating relationship. Personality quirks, habits, and hidden sins that can cause major marital conflict later are usually hidden during courtship. Look at the background of your future mate. Were you raised in a similar manner? Do you both have a Christian heritage? Does your potential spouse have ongoing relationship problems with family members or others? The answers to these questions may eventually impact your marriage in some form, so knowing beforehand may help you decide to slow the process and work through issues before walking the aisle. And remember, there are certain styles of houses that simply will not fit on certain lots. If you think you’re going to change your spouse once you’re married, you’re mistaken. So if something really bothers you about your future mate, realize it isn’t going to be different once you’re wearing rings.

Study the relationship blueprints (Relational)

Before my husband and I married, a little lady walked up to me at church and said, “Dear, I saw your engagement announcement. Congratulations.” Then she leaned toward me and whispered, “Marriage is the hardest job you’ll ever have.” She patted my hand, and flung a knowing look my way before continuing down the hall. I laughed inwardly, wondering what an old woman could possibly tell me about marriage. As it turns out, she was wiser than I imagined. Marriage requires effort. The Biblical blueprint for marriage is specific – one man and one woman, in a committed, exclusive marriage relationship. Scripture also tells us the marriage relationship should be focused, and no other relationship, other than our relationship to God, should take precedence over it. But some parents and adult children never get the memo about “leaving and cleaving.” Yet Genesis 2:24 is clear – “For this reason a man will leave his father and mother and be united to his wife and they will become one flesh.” Many marriages are sabotaged, almost before the nuptials, because of controlling parents or immature adult children. While there is nothing wrong with occasionally seeking advice from parents, when you take marriage vows, you create a new family unit. It’s important to learn to function independently, looking to God for wisdom and direction. One of the most important elements of the marriage relationship is what my great-grandmother referred to as simply “the main thing,” which, of course, is the sexual union. This element of marriage is a gift, and should be kept sacred between husband and wife. No matter how often the guys share stories, or the gals kiss and tell, keep the details of your love life private between you and your spouse.

Often, when caught up in the dizzying, heart-pounding early days of love, it’s hard to imagine feelings could ever change. But events and circumstances challenge even the deepest love and most stable marriage, so it’s important to lay a little ground work before saying “I do.” I remember watching my father, who was a builder, prepare a site prior to laying the foundation. With the land cleared and leveled, he’d measure and stake off the dimensions of the house by constructing temporary corner posts. Using a level, he’d make sure everything was even. Then, he’d connect string to each of the four corners. With these guidelines in place, he’d hire ditch diggers to dig a trench and then measure again. Next, the concrete truck arrived to pour footings, which were smoothed and leveled again. After all this, the brick masons laid concrete block and brick. From that point on, the construction of the framework of the house seemed to fly in comparison to the slowness of the foundation work. Establishing a proper foundation on which to construct a house is a process. No matter how exciting it is to see the actual structure take shape, a lot of time, planning, and preparation must first occur before reaching this point. Site location, architectural drawings, materials selection and procurement, financial resources and constraints, seasonal conditions, contractor and construction worker availability, all factor in and play a role in the successful completion of the edifice. Marriages are not unlike a house under construction. As with any structure, if the foundation is faulty, trouble lies ahead. But often, we’re not willing to invest time and energy prior to marriage to ensure a sturdy foundation on which to construct a lasting relationship. We want the benefits, but don’t want to invest in the process. River Region’s Journey

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Even with a solid foundation, a house sometimes settles and structural changes happen. Cracks appear, floors sag, and walls shift. In your marriage, similar things may occur. Ghosts from the past in the form of unresolved issues may come back to haunt you. Or job loss, illness, or other major issues may arise. When your marriage encounters big hurdles, seek professional counseling. Don’t feel embarrassed or defeated. A willingness to receive counsel indicates your marriage is important enough to you to work on it rather than ignoring problems and obstacles. And seeking counsel is Biblical. “Without good direction, people lose their way; the more wise counsel you follow, the better your chances” (Proverbs 11:14, The Message).

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God is the Master craftsman; creator redeemer, the author and finisher of our faith. He is the one who provides stability, direction, wisdom, and continuity. Putting your faith and trust in any human, even the person you marry, is a structural error and a guarantee of disappointment. We’re all sinners, and we all make mistakes. Expecting your spouse to be your savior and security is unfair and unwise. Allow God to mold and create you into the person He wants you to be. Realize we’re all in the process of being remodeled into the image of God. So when the bumps in your relationship come, and they will, remember God’s mercy, forgiveness, and love, and extend the same to your spouse.

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and your future spouse have similar, or vastly different, philosophies about finances. If your future husband is a controlling tightwad, are you going to be happy living with a rigid budget? Will your husband’s conservative nature mean he’ll never want to spend money for a family vacation and expect to eat every meal at home? And what about your future wife? Do you see evidence now that she makes large, or frequent, purchases on credit with little regard for how bills will be paid once they are due? Noticing these types of things during a dating relationship, and discussing them, will help avoid problems and surprises in the future. However, not everyone is forthcoming.

Who Knows? My first real encounter with philosophy came in high school. One of my social studies classes included a section on philosophy, and the teacher began that part of the course by setting a chair on top of his desk and asking us, “Does this chair exist?” You can probably guess how the conversation proceeded from there. Most of us found it obvious that the chair really did exist, and the teacher responded to our confidence with a further question: “How do you know that the chair exists?” We replied: “We can see it and we can touch it; it must exist!” The

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teacher, in response, pointed out that our senses are not perfectly reliable. He also pointed out the possibility that maybe we were sleeping, having an especially vivid (if rather dull) dream about a chair. After all, things that exist in our dreams often seem utterly real—until we wake up. So what was our basis for believing that we were awake and not asleep? By now, of course, we were knee-deep in one of the classic problems of philosophy: is knowledge ever possible, and if so, how is it obtained? Many Christians will be tempted to reply that we gain knowledge from Scripture, and that’s the end of it. As the bumper sticker goes, “God said it; I believe it; that settles it!” This reply sounds very pious, but it’s deeply problematic. For one thing, the same kinds of questions my teacher asked about that chair can be asked about the Bible. Why should we believe that Paul was correct when he told Timothy that “all Scripture is Godbreathed?” How do you know that Luke’s Gospel belongs in the Bible but The Book of Mormon does not? Furthermore, a moment’s reflection shows that the Bible cannot possibly be our only source of knowledge. Theologians have pointed this out for centuries, distinguishing special revelation (which tells us things about God and God’s redemptive plans that we wouldn’t be able to know otherwise) from general revelation (which concerns all other forms 18

of knowledge). Anyone who can drive a car, or who knows who the sixteenth president was, or, for that matter, anyone who knows how to read in the first place must agree that general revelation includes much that cannot be learned from Scripture. This is not a criticism of the Bible; it’s just a fact about the situation in which we find ourselves. Philosophically speaking, this situation is a difficult and interesting one. Questions about the nature and sources of knowledge deserve careful attention and clear thinking. Unfortunately, we do not live in an age where such things are very highly valued. Many people yield to the temptation of sliding into a lazy skepticism. They respond to questions like the above with a shrug and a rhetorical “who knows?” As a philosophy professor, I find this attitude disappointing. As a Christian, I find it deeply troubling. If knowledge is impossible, then no one knows whether God exists, no one knows whether Jesus rose from the dead, and no one knows whether the gospel message is true. There are a lot of things to be said about these topics, and a lot of things to be said about whether that chair on my teacher’s desk really existed—far too many to attempt to summarize here. I’ll settle for closing with one brief comment. Many philosophers have suggested that the key to having real knowledge (as distinguished from mere opinion) is that knowledge is based on good reasons and sound evidence. This philosophical tradition fits well with the thinking of New Testament authors. Peter tells us to “be prepared to give an answer to everyone who asks you to give the reason for the hope that you have” (1 Peter 3:15). God has supplied us with good reasons and sound evidence. Real knowledge of the Christian worldview is possible. Instead of shrugging our shoulders for lack of knowledge, we Christians can— and should!—present the gospel message as something that can truly be known.

If there are topics you’d like to see Dr. Jordan address in a future column, please email him at mjordan5@aum.edu.

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One of the first steps in wedding planning is selecting a venue. I would like to showcase a couple of brand new options for those planning a wedding in the River Region area. Montgomery has a brand new one to offer you! If you have driven down Commerce Street lately, you may have noticed some changes in between Saza’s and AviatorBAR. The newly restored Warehouse at Alley Station (right) has just opened its doors for events. The cross beams and floorboards were removed from the 3rd floor so the main level now boasts 25 foot ceilings with plenty of original exposed brick and heart pine. This space feels somehow space age and vintage at the same time. It’s modern enough for any intensive live band to “plug and play”, can easily hold the 500+ concert-going crowd that comes with, while at the same time is just intimate enough to host weddings and corporate events. It’s an amazingly versatile space that you really need to see to believe. The Barn at Twin Valley is another brand new and elegant wedding and event venue. Sitting on beautiful rolling pasture land, overlooking the gorgeous Alabama countryside, The Barn at Twin Valley is located on an 1800-acre cattle farm just outside of Prattville on Hwy. 41. With its peaceful, serene, breathtaking panoramic views, and secluded surroundings, The Barn is a wonderful venue for any dream wedding. It is complete with two attached covered pavilions overlooking beautiful rolling hills and large oak trees. The Barn at Twin Valley is a one

Looking back over the last year of weddings, there were beautiful brides and a lot of detailed planning that went into making many wedding days a wonderful success. It is with a grateful heart and a lot of joy I look forward to this next year in weddings. I hope this article will bring some good insight and inspiration for brides (and their moms) planning a wedding in 2015. Becoming engaged and being a bride is such a fun season of life, but so often planning the wedding becomes stressful as well. Keeping a good perspective and realistic expectations is always a good start to the wedding planning adventure. River Region’s Journey

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The Color Palette

Once a venue is determined, you can come up with the look by starting with a color scheme. Having a “Wedding Color Palette” is a great way to begin your wedding design process. As we prepare for a new year of weddings, there are several new things to be on the lookout for. Pantone announced the color of the year as Marsala. This color will certainly affect wedding color palettes in 2015. Many people associate Marsala color tones with a fall or winter wedding, but it is actually a very versatile color. Marsala paired with neutrals such as blush and ivory would make a beautiful statement in any season. Pair it with oranges and bright corals for a summer wedding. Another color that will really show up in big ways is Aquamarine. All shades and hues of the Aquamarine will be used in color palettes mixed with soft, muted hues. Other colors that will be popular are Scuba Blue, Lucite Green and Toasted Almond.

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soft, romantic feel. This will be a trend that costs a “pretty penny!” *Metallic, especially copper! You will see these colors and textures showing up in invitation design, centerpieces and elements throughout the reception, especially brides looking to create a vintage glam ambiance. *Late night snacks will still have a presence in weddings! Providing guests with a favorite late night snack of the bride and groom will still be a huge hit. This year, even look for local food trucks to make a stop toward the end of a reception, offering late night goodies! Also, sending your guests off with edible, boxed favors will be very popular.

*Romantic, feminine, soft flowers! A big trend in flowers for 2015 is “romantic luxe”. Arrangements will be filled with completely luxurious, grand florals, not taken over by filler flowers like in the past. An abundance of creamy pastels in these full arrangements will set the tone for the

*Highlighting everything you do with incredible lighting! Keeping with the romantic focus that will inspire many brides this year, good event lighting showcases all the work you have put into the design. Weddings this year will reflect soft twinkly lights, beautifully lit patterns and monograms, and romantic chandeliers.

*Overall return to timeless elegance. As romantic hues, lush florals and soft lighting set the tone for weddings we will see an overall return back to timeless elegance. Weddings are moving more towards formal affairs, but done in any venue style. Look for beautifully adorned tablescapes, formally dressed weight staff, candelabras, dramatic cakes and extravagant fabrics. So as we prepare for the New Year in weddings, we look to see a bit more formal and a little less rustic approach than in years past. Of course, these are only suggestions and ultimately you want your wedding to still reflect your personal style. The overall goal is to have a happy bride (and Mama), so keep a good perspective throughout the planning as to what you are really planning for! Mary Sanders is owner of Mary Me Wedding Planning. She has been in business for nine years and has served many brides across the River Region. Mary is wife to Adam of eleven years and mom to her three children: Ross (9), Mary Townsend (8) and Drew (4). **Photos provided by Kim Box Photography. Bride: Jamie Blanks Williams; Cake: Peggy McKinney Venue: The Warehouse at Alley Station

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A Side by Side Marriage “For this reason a man will leave his father and his mother and be united to his wife, and they shall become one flesh.” (Genesis 2:24) Would people describe your marriage as a “side by side” marriage or as “two ships passing in the night?” When people think about one of you, do they think about both of you? During more than 20 years of teaching, Lisa and I have taken hundreds of pictures of military couples side by side attending one of our seminars. In most cases, these couples have faced tremendous challenges during their marriages from the stress of over 13 years of war. Matthew Henry in An Exposition of the Old and New Testament presents a beautiful description of a biblical marriage relationship saying, “Women were created from the rib of man to be beside him, not from his head to top him, nor from his feet to be trampled by him, but from under his arm to be protected by him, near to his heart to be loved by him.” Do you want to strengthen your side by side marriage? If yes, here are several things you can start doing now: 1. Take lots of side by side pictures of the two of you and display them as a constant reminder of the covenant marriage you committed to keep. Men, put one in your wallet so you will be reminded daily of the love of your life. 2. In a spirit of joyful anticipation of what God is doing in your marriage, make time

to pray individually and together. “Rejoice always, pray continually, give thanks in all circumstances; for this is God’s will for you in Christ Jesus.” (1 Thessalonians 5:16-18). If you have children, let them see and hear you praying together so they will know mom and dad are tight with the Lord and each other. An added benefit is your example will increase the possibility your children will seek a future spouse that will pray with them.

Our current CFM Board of Directors and officers has a combined total of over 428 years of experience as side-by-side marriages! Col. Bill and Martha John Allison (54 years) Bill and Ellie Ficken (54 years) Brig. Gen. Larry and Mary Lou Stevenson (48 years) Col. Brent and Betty Smith (48 years) Col. Chuck and Ann Ashley (44 years) Roger and Cheryl Humber (41 years) Mike and Dianna Reinhardt (39 years) Colonels John and Karen Brantner (35 years) Lt Col Mike and Lisa Conn (33 years) John and Harriett Hutcheson (32 years) These couples are living examples of what God

3. Make time to talk, intended marriage to be--a husband and wife date, and have fun togethwho have persevered through hardships, take er--just the two of you. One joy in being with each another, and are positive of the most important lessons role models for others. Strengthen your side-by we teach during every Maxside marriage by seeking out couples like these well AFB Chapel Family in your church for mentoring and wise counsel. Teams for Life program is called “Death by Tingles, (CFM), we have been blessed with dozens of Life by Love.” Using Dr. Gary Chapman’s wonderful Christian couples praying for us book and video study of The Five Love and giving us wise counsel. Languages, we help military couples learn Why not begin 2015 with a New Year’s how to avoid/resist the resolution to become a “side by side” couple? temptations they face Make your marriage a picture of oneness--not due to the unique chalonly for your own sake but for the sake of lenges of military life. others who are coming behind you, watching you, and learning from you. Make being 4. “Plans fail for married for 50-60 years a new ambition with lack of counsel, but the goal of someday leaving behind a legacy with many advisof love together--side by side. ers they succeed.”

Air Force Captain Chad Bridgeford and his wife Jessica have been married 10 years and have four children. Captain Bridgeford as a C17 pilot averaged 250 days a year away from home.

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Location: Frazer Memorial UMC, 6000 Atlanta Hwy and Glynwood Baptist, Prattville APAC- Alabama Pre/Post Adoption Connection Support Group provides education and social interaction for adoptive families. Montgomery Group meets 3rd Thursdays, 6-7:30 p.m., Room 8114 at Frazer UMC. For information, call Hannah Taylor at 409-9477 or the church office at 272-8622. Autauga/Elmore Group meets 4th Tuesdays, 6-7:30 p.m., Glynwood Baptist Church, Prattville. Childcare, children’s group and dinner provided. For more info, call 409-9477 or e-mail htaylor@childrensaid.org. Location: Landmark Church, 1800 Halcyon Blvd. Leaders: Chad & Betsy Emerson (334) 201-5241 Wednesday, 6:30pm in Rm. 116. The Orphan Care Group will focus on God’s call to help orphans through adoption, foster care, and missions work. The group will share experiences, study and Biblical themes regarding orphan care, and provide a support and network for individuals who want to support orphans.

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Location: Caring Center of FBC, 52 Adams Avenue CrossRoads Support Group is for addicts/alcoholics and family members. Meets at 6 p.m. Tuesdays and follows a Christ-centered 12-step program. Call 264-4949. Location: Dalraida UMC, 3817 Atlanta Highway Alcoholics Anonymous meets at 6 p.m. on Tuesdays. 272.2190. Alanon meets at 7:30 p.m. on Wednesdays. Location: First Baptist Church (Huff Community Ministries Bldg., 200 S. Perry Street) Celebrate Recovery, a Bible-based Christ centered approach to recovery from hurts, habits and hang-ups, meets Friday nights, from 5:30 p.m.- 8 p.m. For more information, contact Jane Ferguson at 241.5141. Location: Grace @ Bell Road, Corner of Bell Road and Atlanta Hwy. Alcoholics Anonymous and Alanon meetings are held Monday, Tuesday, Thursday, and Friday, at 6 p.m. An Open AA Speaker meeting is held on Saturday at 6 p.m. An Alanon & AA held on Sundays at 2 p.m. Location: Grace Point Community Church, 78223 Tallassee Hwy (Hwy 14), Wetumpka Celebrate Recovery- every Tuesday night- 6:15pm. All are welcome! These meetings are a safe and loving environment for individuals seeking to conquer their hurts, habits and hang-ups! gracepoint.info. Location: Journey Church, 2960 East Cobbs Ford Road across from The Catfish House in Millbrook Celebrate Recovery - Christ-centered 12-step for anyone struggling with addiction or life-challenging issues. Mondays at 5:30pm (meal-CrossTalk Cafe), 6-6:55 pm (large group), 6:55-7:45 (small group). Childcare available. Call Larry at 334-832-5714 or visit myjourneychurch.com.

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Location: Landmark Church, 1800 Halcyon Blvd. RSVPThis is a 12 step spiritual recovery program for overcoming addictions. Using the steps and Bible we help build self-esteem, responsible behavior, the making of amends for our destructive actions, and to fill the void in our hearts in a loving relationship with God. Wednesday @ 6:30pm in Rm. 121 of the Life Center. Location: Prattville Church of Christ, 344 East Main St. RSVP - 12 step (Christians Against Substance Abuse-CASA) spiritual recovery program, for overcoming addictions. Class begins each Wednesday evening @6:30 PM. Please call 334365-4201 for addition information. Location: Santuck Baptist Church, 7250 Central Plank Rd. (Hwy 9), Wetumpka. Celebrate Recovery meets each Thursday evening at 6:15 in the Fellowship Hall. This is a Chrsit centered 12 step-program for anyone struggling with hurts, habits, and hang-ups. Call 567-2364. Sex Addicts Anonymous (SAA) is open to all struggling with addictive sexual behavior. If you believe you have a problem with sex addiction (or are wondering if you might) and you want to change your behavior, we recommend you visit our group. For locations, please visit- https://saa-recovery.org/ or please contact – MontgomerySAA@outlook.com. Meetings are held: every Sunday night - 7:45 p.m, men only. Every Monday night - 7:30 p.m, men and women. Location: St. James UMC, 9045 Vaughn Road Celebrate Recovery meets every Thursday night from 6-8 pm in the Youth Room. This is a Christ-centered 12-step group for anyone struggling with an “addiction or lifechallenging issues.” For information, call Chris Henderson at 334-215-0427. Location: Trinity Episcopal, Wetumpka (Across from Winn Dixie on HWY 231) Gamblers Anonymous-Saturdays at 7 p.m. Location: Vaughn Forest Church, 8660 Vaughn Road Celebrate Recovery is a 12-step-Christian process to help you cope with hurts, hang-ups, and habits on a weekly basis. Led by Jeff McFarland on Wednesdays from 6-8 pm. Call 279-5433 for more info. Location: Victory Temple Church (located behind Wetumpka Walmart) ‘Fresh Start’ Recovery meets every Monday, 6-8pm (meal included). In 2011, Fresh Start Motorcycle Ministry (FSMM) began when God laid it on the heart of a lifetime biker to minister to those with his background. All are welcome, not a requirement to own/ride a motorcycle. Format used is the Holy Bible. For any info contact ministry leader, Paul Henderson, 334-201-5428.

Alzheimer’s / Dementia

Location: First UMC, 2416 W. Cloverdale Park, Wesley Hall Bldg. An Adult Parkinson/Alzheimer’s respite ministry meets from 10 a.m.-2 p.m. every Monday, Wednesday and Thursday. Lunch is served. Contact Daphne at 834-8990. Location: Frazer Memorial UMC, 6000 Atlanta Hwy An Alzheimer’s and Dementia Caregivers’ Support Group meets on the first Thursday of each month at 11 a.m. in Room 3103. Call 272.8622.

Location: Frazer Memorial UMC, 6000 Atlanta Hwy A Dementia Daycare is held each Thursday in Rm. 3101 from 9:30 a.m. to 12 p.m. Each participant may bring a sack lunch. There is no charge. REGISTRATION IS REQUIRED. Call the LifeCare office at 272-8622. Location: Memorial Presbyterian, 2130 Bell Road A Dementia Morning Out for caregivers is offered each Tuesday from 8:45-noon. There is no charge. Each participant may bring a sack lunch (juice provided). Registration is required by calling 274-1018.

Cancer

Location: Aldersgate UMC, 6610 Vaughn Rd, Montgomery Cancer Survivors Support Group is sponsored by Samaritan Counseling Center. We would love to have anyone (patient or family member ) join us. Thursdays at 1 pm. Please call before attending just to make sure we are meeting that week. Please call Debbie D at 467-4578 or Ben W at 202-1912. Location: Dalraida Baptist, 3838 Wares Ferry Road. Just for Men -- Faith based cancer support group for men. Meetings are held the second Tuesday of each month at 6 p.m. in the conference center. Please call 272-2412 email stan.hurst@knology.net. Location: ChristChurch, 8800 Vaughn Road Cancer Support Group for general cancer. Tuesday afternoons at 1 pm. For more info, please call Christy Holding at 531-1390 or Debbie at 467-4578. Location: Frazer Memorial UMC, 6000 Atlanta Hwy. Women of Hope Breast Cancer Support Group, providing education, awareness, and mentoring for breast cancer patients/survivors, family, and friends, meets the 2nd Tuesday of each month at 5:30 p.m. in Rm 8253. Call 272-8622 or womenofhope@charter.net. Location: Frazer Memorial UMC, 6000 Atlanta Hwy. The Central Alabama Multiple Myeloma Support Group meets from 10 a.m. to noon the second Saturday of every month in Room 3105. We have guest speakers, video presentations, printed information and a group that welcomes sharing their journey with myeloma in an informal setting. Refreshments are provided.. Contact Lorenzo and Elaine Duncan at 334-281-8158, or at duncan6563@gmail.com.

Depression

Location: Frazer Memorial UMC, 6000 Atlanta Hwy A Depression/Bipolar Support Group meets on the 1st Thursday of each month from 7:00-8:30pm in Room 3101. This group also meets on the 3rd Saturday afternoon, 12-2 pm, Dalraida UMC, 3817 Atlanta Highway in Church Annex. For more info, call 334.652.1431 or email dbsamontgomery@yahoo.com.

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Location: Eastmont Baptist, 4505 Atlanta Hwy. Compassionate Friends is a national self-help support organization for families grieving the death of a child meeting first Tuesdays at 7 pm. Call (334) 284-2721.

Location: Frazer Memorial UMC, 6000 Atlanta Hwy A Divorce Recovery Support Group meets each Tuesday, at 5:30 p.m., in Fellowship Hall Lobby. 272-8622. Location: Frazer Memorial UMC, 6000 Atlanta Hwy Divorce Care for Kids (DC4K) meets each Tuesday from 6-7 pm. Pre-registration is required. This group is for children ages 5 and up and helps children of all ages heal from the pain of their parents separation and divorce. Call (334) 495-6368.

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Gambling

Location: Trinity Episcopal Church, 5375 US HWY 231 (Across from the Winn-Dixie shopping center) Wetumpka. Saturdays @ 7pm. 334-567-7534 Location: Mental Health Association, 1116 South Hull Street, Montgomery. Sundays @ 5 pm. Location: St Paul’s Lutheran Church, 4475 Atlanta Hwy, Mondays @ 6pm. Gamblers Anonymous Hotline number: 541-5420

Location: Vaughn Forest Church, 8660 Vaughn Road GriefShare is a support group that meets Wednesdays from 6-8 pm. This program is non-denominational and features biblical concepts for healing your grief. GriefShare will be led by Howard and Carol Payne and Jim Williams. Call 2795433 for more information.

Miscellaneous

Location: Frazer Memorial UMC, 6000 Atlanta Hwy NAMI Montgomery (National Alliance for the Mentally Ill) This group provides understanding, education and information to family members & friends of those who suffer mental illness. This group will meet on the second Monday of each month from 6:30-8:30 in room 3103. For more information contact Mary Jo Logan (334) 271-2280.

Location: First UMC, 100 E. Fourth St, Prattville Grief Share, Tuesday evenings at 6:30 pm in the church parlor. Call 365-5977. Location: Frazer UMC, 6000 Atlanta Hwy Grief Recovery Support Group meets Tuesdays at 5:30 p.m., Rm 3105, in Fellowship Hall Lobby. 272.8622. Location: Grace Baptist Church, 304 Old Montgomery Highway, Wetumpka Mourning to Morning is a Christian growth group for mothers who have lost a child, from before birth through adulthood. Meets the last Thursday night of each month. For info, contact Alice Scarborough (334) 462-4775 or Gwen Ellis (334) 567-8754 or e-mail mourningtomorning@gmail. com. Join us on Facebook--Mourning to Morning Group.

Location: 5500 Ash Grove Circle, Montgomery. OCD Support Group (obsessive- Compulsive Disorder) Long showers, multiple hand washing, rituals, checking stove, hoarding and symmetry. This support group is open to anyone who has struggled with OCD. You’re not alone anymore. Call Donald: 220-7555.

Location: Millbrook FUMC, 3350 Edgewood Rd Grief Share meets – Tuesday 5:30 PM in the Friendship Sunday School Class Room. Call 285-4114 for more info. Grief Share is a friendly, caring group of people who will walk alongside you through one of life’s most difficult experience.

Location: Vaughn Forest Church, 8660 Vaughn Road Financial Peace University is a biblical, practical and workable plan for your money. Through video teaching, group discussion and interactive small group activities, you will learn God’s way to handle finances. Led by Bill Fiken. Call 279-5433.

Parenting

Location: Pilgrim Rest Missionary Baptist Church 1550 E. Washington Street Grief Ministry is a grief recovery support group that meets every Monday at 6:00 P.M. The ministry is designed to help anyone through the hurt of losing a loved one by successfully traveling the journey from mourning to joy. Alicia Glover is the coordinator. For information contact Glover at 334-281-2754.

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We offer a time of fellowship, Bible study, musical guest, special guest speakers and a lot of fun!! Cost is $5 per meeting. For moms of all stages and ages of life. Childcare provided by reservation. For more info and to reserve your spot, call April Scott at 828-446-6666. Location: First Baptist Church, Montgomery 305 S. Perry Street MOPS (Mothers of Preschoolers) Moms, need a little break? MOPS is a place you can share a good meal, make new friends, and find encouragement as you face the everyday challenges of raising your little ones. We have educational speakers, great conversation, and fun activities. Free childcare is provided. Meetings are every 2nd and 4th Tuesdays, 9:30-11:30 a.m., September through May. Go to www.montgomeryfbc.org/MOPS or contact Tiffany Alewine at 241-5165. Location: Frazer Memorial UMC, 6000 Atlanta Hwy Frazer mom2mom is a playgroup to connect mothers of preschoolers at Frazer United Methodist Church to share fun and inspiration in our journey together, with our children, and with Christ. Email Mom2mom@frazerumc. org for more information. Location: Maxwell / Maxwell Gunter AFB SWAK (Single with Amazing Kids) is connecting and empowering single parents and their families through information, encouragement, and many family-oriented events throughout the year. We meet the last Wednesday or Thursday of each month. For more information, email t2763@aol.com. Join us on Facebook—SWAK (Single with Amazing Kids) for daily restaurant specials, area kid friendly events, and tips/ideas for families on a budget. Location: Perry Hill UMC, 910 Perry Hill Road Single Moms’ Care and Support Group meets 2nd and 4th Thursdays from 6:15 - 8:00 PM. December meeting will be on the 11th. Free snack supper pro-

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vided to moms and children. Child care for infants -16 years. Call 272-3174 for information. Location: Vaughn Forest Church, 8660 Vaughn Road Are you in need of a time-out? MOPS joins mothers together by a common bond, to be better wives, moms, and friends along this journey in the trenches of motherhood. We meet the 1st and 3rd Tuesday of each month from 9:30—11:30 a.m. Childcare is provided. For info e-mail VFCMOPS@gmail.com.

Physical Challenges

Location: Aldersgate UMC, 6610 Vaughn Road Visually Impaired Support Group – Meets monthly on second Thursday 1:00 – 2:30 p.m. The group is called Outward Sight - Inward Vision and is for those with vision loss and their caregivers. Our mission is to assist those experiencing vision loss to maintain their independence by providing access to valuable information and spiritual support. Call 272-6152. Location: Frazer Memorial UMC, 6000 Atlanta Hwy An MDA/ALS Support Group will meet Tuesday August 10 6:00p.m. – 8:00 p.m. in room 3101. Anyone who is affected by a neuromuscular disease or family members of those affected are encouraged to attend. To receive information, please call 396-4534. Location: Frazer Memorial UMC, 6000 Atlanta Hwy A Parkinson’s Support Group will meet the 4th Thursday at 6 p.m., in room 8114 at Frazer UMC. This group is for those who have Parkinson’s disease and the family members. 272-8622.

Location: Taylor Road Baptist Church, 1785 Taylor Rd., Montgomery Gluten Intolerance Group of Montgomery meets on 2nd Thursdays from 6-7 p.m. Check the blog for special “alternate site” meetings and other info at www.glutenfreemontgomery.blogspot.com.

Singlehood

Location: Frazer Memorial UMC, 6000 Atlanta Hwy Singles’ Small Groups meet each Tuesday from 6:307:30 pm in the Fellowship Hall Lobby. Call 272-8622. Location: Frazer Memorial UMC, 6000 Atlanta Hwy T.N.T. (Tuesday Night Together) for Singles meets Tuesdays from 6-7 p.m. in the Fellowship Hall, bldg. 7000. A meal ($5.00) and program are provided. For reservations, call 272-8622. Location: Cornerstone Christian, 301 Dalraida Rd. Unavoidably Single Again (USA) Fellowship, a support group for widows and widowers. Informal meetings for fellowship and fun are held on the third Saturday of each month starting at 10 AM. Contact Lynda at farauthor@ aol.com or 354-8869.

Veterans

Location: Frazer Memorial UMC, 6000 Atlanta Hwy Veterans OEF/OIF Caregivers Support Group meets on the 3rd Wednesday from 11am-1pm in Room 3108. Contact LaQuana Edwards, Caregiver Support Coordinator at CAVHCS (334) 727-0550 ext. 5350.

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like I do, to adopt children from all over the world, to fight human trafficking, and to love in crazy ways, and then came Derek! How good is God? What advice would you give engaged or newly married couples to help them prepare for marriage and to help them grow in “oneness” after their big day? I would say focus on being married! Don’t go crazy trying to live up to everyone’s expectations. Your house does not have to look perfect. You don’t have to have every piece of furniture in your home. You just have to start marriage. Go on day trips to the beach, stay up late watching Netflix, make a dozen cookies together and then eat them ALL, serve other people together, and learn how to serve each other. We are so excited to see all the things God has in store for our future, and we fully believe that if we honor Him with our marriage He will use us in extraordinary ways. Ephesians 3:20 says that God will do exceedingly more than you can ever ask or imagine. We believe that for our marriage and encourage everyone else to embrace that promise!

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Conversations Full of Grace I bring you greetings from the staff of The Samaritan Counseling Center in Montgomery. We are a diverse group of therapists, who work with people to find relief from an array of difficulties. A large portion of my work encounters stressful relationships plagued with anxiety and frustration from poor communication. Communication is one of the most important components of a healthy relationship. All marriages have some conflict, but successful marriages employ effective, healthy communication, problem-solving techniques and patterns of grace and forgiveness. In Colossians, Paul guides us to be gracious in our speech to bring out the best in others. This guidance applies to marriage relationships as well. “Be gracious in your speech. The goal is to bring out the best in others in a conversation, not put them down, not cut them out.” (Colossians 4:6, The Message) “Let your conversation be always full of grace, seasoned with salt, so that you may know how to answer everyone.” (Colossians 4:6, NIV) Successful marriages have direct, honest and open communication. Grace and gentleness can be a part of direct communication. Marriage is a “team sport” and direct communication does not mean that someone has to win or lose. Couples win together, or lose together. Direct communication promotes understanding and even the option to agree to disagree at times. River Region’s Journey

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Addressing an issue openly provides a safe environment for defining the perceptions and reasoning of each spouse, without creating obstacles. Direct communication takes time to clarify and understand one another. I often encounter couples struggling with painful and stressful conflict perpetuated by the fear of openly addressing their differences. The lack of communication appears less painful than more open communication, but it creates distance and fails to resolve problems even though it may avoid obvious conflict. However, simply avoiding or dismissing a problem is usually interpreted as rejection or contempt. Unresolved differences in marital relationships create frustration, anger, resentment and perpetuate damage due to a lack of communication. Indirect communication produces problems of its own making, which exacerbates problems and fails to provide solutions. Indirect communication includes hinting, using body language or third parties to pass messages between spouses along with many other variations of indirect communication. Hints are vague and imprecise. Communicating through a third-party is subject to the mood, distractions, biases, and understanding of the deliverer. Third parties often inject more confusion into the flux. Notes and text messages are too brief to deal with complex problems and lack the context of tone, inflection, facial expressions and body language. Facial expressions and body language without words are open to misinterpretation or can go unnoticed. Couples should seek to clarify and understand their spouse before making assumptions or passing judgment on ideas. Healthy communication expresses the expectations of the communicator. The recipient of the message is unlikely to meet 30

the expectations of the communicator unless the message is clear, specific, accurate, and in the proper context. Indirect communication rarely possesses these qualities and is the architect of assumptions, which create further problems. Sometimes one partner may need a good listener to feel understood while absorbing some emotional energy. It is helpful for the listener to ask if their spouse wants feedback or a listener. Generally, they will be happy to let you know. Do not assume that your spouse wants help fixing the problem being described. Communication and conflict resolution skills are two of the many relational characteristics acquired from our families of origin. Communicating effectively in your marriage teaches your children skills which will enhance their lives with the family and others in adulthood. Each of us comes into marriage with different communication and problem-solving styles. Every marriage must discover and employ the negotiated “new” style that is most effective, in the context of their relationship and life situation. Ensure that your legacy includes these empowering qualities, which will serve your children well as they work to enjoy a successful marriage in the future. Define and exercise boundaries that both parties agree will aid in the resolution of the issue. Couples must take time to work together to seek solutions rather than victory. Tim Goode is a Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist. He has been working with people and relationships in various roles since 1992. Tim has been a therapist at The Samaritan Counseling Center, Inc. in Montgomery, since 2002. He and Rhonda, his wife, have been married 47 years.

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Immigrants Among Us A passage in Zechariah chapter 7 reflects the heart of God and can be helpful to us as we attempt to develop a Biblically-informed position on the topic of immigration: 9 “Thus says the Lord of hosts: ‘Execute true justice, Show mercy and compassion Everyone to his brother. 10 Do not oppress the widow or the fatherless, The alien or the poor. Let none of you plan evil in his heart Against his brother.’ (NKJV) The subject of immigration has become a hot political topic. Congress has shown division over how to reform the immigration system, and in November, the President pressed forward with an executive order related to the topic. There are a number of issues at play, including effective enforcement of the current law, which some would say is not being done. There are those that would enhance border security first as a prerequisite to providing the opportunity for immigrants to become U.S. citizens. It is also impractical to send the millions of people who are here illegally back to their home countries. The heartbreaking situation of the scores of children who have crossed into the U.S. at the southern border has intensified calls for the U.S. government to do something, and border states are facing enormous pressure. And, survey data shows there is concern. A Gallup survey in November indicated that while 20% of those surveyed believe that the economy in general is the most important U.S. problem, followed closely by dissatisfaction with government, immigration is considered the most important problem by 13% of respondents. Christianity Today reported on a LifeWay Research survey of 1,000 pastors that shows that many of the nation’s Protestant River Region’s Journey

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senior pastors want the U.S. government to mix justice with mercy when it comes to immigration reform. Most say it’s the government’s job to stop people from entering the country illegally. They also support reform that includes a path to citizenship for illegal immigrants already in the country. They also believe Christians should help immigrants, no matter what their legal status. Scott McConnell, vice president of LifeWay Research, said pastors don’t approve of illegal immigration. But they want to help illegal immigrants make things right. He said, “This is one of many cases in which Christians can look at those around them and say, ‘I don’t agree with what got you to this place in life, but I will love you while you are here.” 87% of those surveyed said that it is the government’s responsibility to stop illegal immigration and 79% believe that Christians have a responsibility to assist immigrants, even if they are in the country illegally. And this is a telling result: Nearly 6 in 10 of Protestant senior pastors - 58 percent - agree with the statement: “I am in favor of immigration reform that includes a path to citizenship for those who are currently in the country illegally.” That includes 80% of African-American and 59% of white pastors who agree. About two-thirds of mainline pastors and just over half of evangelical pastors also favor a path to citizenship. At the 2011 national convention in Phoenix, the Southern Baptist Convention approved a resolution that, according to Baptist Press, urged Southern Baptist churches to proclaim Christ and minister in His spirit to everyone, regardless of their “immigration status.” It said “any form of nativism, mistreatment, or exploitation 32

is inconsistent with the Gospel of Jesus Christ.” The measure called for the government to make a priority of border security and holding businesses accountable in their hiring. It also requested public officials “to implement, with the borders secured, a just and compassionate path to legal status, with appropriate restitutionary measures, for those undocumented immigrants already living in our country.” Despite how political leaders may respond to the issue, I believe there are several principles by which the church and individual Christians can recognize. I believe that we can apply a Christian worldview perspective to the issues of the day. You may not agree with all or most of these tenets that I have mentioned, but I do think we can develop positions based on the Scripture and coated in prayer. That can apply to immigration, the economy, who we vote for, and how we become involved in speaking out on cultural issues. There will be issues over which we disagree, but if we are dedicated to being centered on the Scriptures, civil in our interaction, and compassionate in our approach, we can help to shape the debate on the immigration issue. Compassion does not necessarily extend to amnesty, but I believe that it is incumbent on each of us, as believers in Christ and His ambassadors, to recognize that the immigrants among us - legal or illegal - need to experience the compassion of Jesus Christ and the truth of the gospel. Bob Crittenden is host of “The Meeting House”, heard weekday afternoons from 4-6pm on Faith Radio, 89.1FM in Montgomery. Described as “the intersection of faith and culture”, the program features Christian music and conversation about a variety of topics. Learn more by visiting www. meetinghouseonline.info.

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January 2015 Community Calendar Monthly events can also be found in the Around Our Community Section starting on page 8. Saturday, January 10 Amazing GRace, 8 a.m. St. James United Methodist Church, 9045, Vaughn Rd, Montgomery. Participate in a 10K, 5K or mile run. Fundraiser by Renew Women’s Ministry to support Root Ministries in Honduras. Register: http://isignedup.com/ event/36/The-2015-Amazing-GRace. Epiphany Gala Hosted by Reality and Truth Mission, 7 pm, at Grace Episcopal Church, 906 Pike Road, 36064. Enjoy a five-course meal with entertainment by The Montgomery Symphony, plus a ballet performance. There will be a several items to bid on! $100 suggested donation. Tickets online RealityandTruth.com or contact Debby Thomas at 224-1460. Saturday, January 17 Women’s Empowerment & Leadership Conference: Unleashed for the Unbelievable. 2410 Wall St, Millbrook. Latter Rain International Ministries invites all women to come and join us for a time of refreshing, restoring and renewing. Registration is free, but is required. http://www.eventbrite.com/e/unleashedfor-the-unbelievable-womens-empowerment-leadership-conference-tickets13827726101?aff=ehomecard. Sunday, January 18 Mwangaza African Children’s Choir at Coosada Baptist Church, 5687 Coosada Road, 5:30 pm. The Mwangaza Children’s Choir is an inspiring group of 20 hopeful and talented children, ages 8-14, who represent the orphaned and povertystricken youth of Uganda. Touring as River Region’s Journey

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a ministry outreach of Africa Renewal Ministries, they come to share a special message of hope through authentic Ugandan song and dance. The upcoming performance will be a part of Mwangaza’s tenth international tour. Free admission. A love offering will be taken. Call 285-4225 for more details. Sunday, January 25 Grace @ Bell Road Turns 10 Years Old! On January 25th the Grace family will be celebrating 10 years together at 5 Bell Road and praising God for His blessing over these eventful years. Lives have been touched through worship, community outreach and service. The campus has seen a number of improvements, both inside and out. And, under the leadership of Pastor Bill Thompson, we are watching God birth something new at Grace. Please join us at 10:30 for worship and afterwards at the Celebration Luncheon. For more information or to make a luncheon reservation, contact the church office, 272-4930. Ridgecrest Baptist Church, 5260 Vaughn Road, will host Kirk & Patti Lytle presenting excerpts from “Together again... for the very first time” at 6:15 pm. This historical drama written by Kirk & Patti, is an entertaining, inspirational walk through the “Hall of Faith”. In this presentation, Kirk and Patti will portray two prolific hymn writers: Fanny Crosby, and Charles Wesley, and his wife, Sally. For more info, please call 277-0011. Ignite: A Time for Worship, 6 pm, at St. James United Methodist Church We invite you to take an hour from the busyness of life to worship with us! It’s a great way to begin the year as we praise the Lord together! January 30-31 Women’s Conference Featuring Lisa Whelchel on Friday, 6:30-8 p.m; Saturday 8 a.m.-noon. Held at Eastern Hills Baptist Church, 3604 Pleasant Hills Rd, Montgomery. Actress, speaker, author, Lisa Whelchel is guest speaker. Lisa shares her personal journey of discovering connection with God, herself and others. $25 through Jan. 29; $30 day of event. Go to ehbconline.com to register. February 1-8 First United Methodist is hosting its 4th annual Religious Arts Festival for the community February1-8. This is a free 34

event for the whole family. We will sponsor a free animated movie at the Capri Theatre called Secret Kells, have art exhibits, a Readers Theatre, the Jazz group Presbybob will perform, among other things. Saturday, February 7 Resolving Conflict Marriage Conference February 7, 8:30 a.m.-3:30 p.m. Eastmont Baptist Church, 4505 Atlanta Highway, Montgomery. Join Lou Priolo, author of Resolving Conflict for a day of learning how to make, disturb & keep peace in Resolving Conflict in Marriage. (box lunch included). $20/singles; $30/couples February 24 Agape of Central Alabama Presents Michael Oher at 7:30 p.m., MPAC. Michael Oher came from a broken home and his estranged father was murdered while Oher was in high school. Sean and Leigh Anne Tuohy became Oher’s legal guardians and he developed into a college football star and a top NFL draft pick. Oher’s story was told in Michael Lewis’s book The Blind Side and the Sandra Bullock film of the same name. Tickets begin at $27.

Ongoing Happenings AGLOW International meets every third Thursday, 9:30 at the Montgomery House of Prayer. All women welcome to join together for praise, prayer and an anointed message. Contact mboudousquie@yahoo.com. Bridge of Life Assembly of God, 9000 Vaughn Road, Montgomery, holds Sunday morning worship at 10:30 a.m. each week. Sunday school classes meet at 9:30 a.m. We offer classes for all age groups and childcare is provided. Our goal is to build bridges...not walls. We invite you to come join us if you need to learn how to build those bridges. For directions or information call 334-396-0208. Email jon@bridgeoflife.tv or visit www. bridgeoflife.tv. Central Community Christian Church, 981 South Perry Street, Montgomery, holds new members training classes on Sundays at 9 a.m. Sunday School (9:30), morning worship (11:00), Tuesday night Bible study (6:30). Every fourth Sunday of the month is our youth Sunday. For more information please call (334) 269-0457 or by email at centralccchurch1@gmail.com. We are a

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Christchurch, 8800 Vaughn Road, Montgomery, offers a Women’s Enrichment Bible Study led by Jeanne Dean on Thursdays, 9:30-11:30 a.m., in Canterbury Hall. All women are welcome. Childcare for ages birth-4 years is provided. Call 387-0566 x 201 for more info.

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Christchurch offers a men’s Bible study led by Fr. John-Michael van Dyke, on Thursday mornings on the 11th floor of Goode Medical Bldg, Jackson Hospital. Breakfast is served beginning at 6:45 a.m. and teaching begins at 7:15 a.m. Call 387-0566 x 201. Chisholm Baptist Church, 2938 Lower Wetumpka Road, Montgomery, holds Sunday morning Bible study (9:30), Morning worship (10:45), Tuesday prayer breakfast (8:30) Wednesday evening prayer service (6 pm) and Senior Body and Soul Group (every 1st Tuesday at 1 pm). Email jbass9784@charter. net or call 262-6437. First Presbyterian Church, 9299 Vaughn Road, hosts Family Night every Wednesday beginning at 5:20 p.m. with supper, followed by a study on prayer. Everyone is welcome.

For more information call (279-1372). First Presbyterian Church, 9299 Vaughn Road, hosts a Men’s Prayer Breakfast every Friday morning, 6 a.m. The Youth of First United Methodist Church, Montgomery every Wednesday night at 7:00 p.m. for Wednesday Night Live, a time of praise and worship in “the attic”. Also, every Sunday night at 6:00 p.m. is MYF which includes a snack supper $3.00 followed by activities, small groups and lots of fun! Visit www.fumcmontgomery.org.

Good News @ Noon is an interdenominational Bible study, held at the First Baptist Community Ministries Building on Adams Street, Thursdays, at noon. Small cost for hot lunch. Call 272.1133. Hall Memorial CME Church, 541 Seibles Road, Montgomery, offers Bible Study Tuesdays at 5:30 P.M. and Wednesdays at 6: 30 P.M. For directions or information call 334-288-0577. Email HallMemorialCME1@aol.com or visit www.HallMemorialCME.blogspot.com.

First United Methodist Church will host Terrific Tuesdays. Please come and join us for fellowship, a program and lunch. Terrific Tuesdays will meet each Tuesday in room 204 of Wesley Hall. Fellowship time will begin at 10:00 a.m. followed by a program at 10:30 a.m. and lunch at 11:30 a.m. The cost of lunch is $2.50. For additional information please contact NeeNee Webb at 834-8990.

Hall Memorial CME Church says: VOLUNTEERS NEEDED! Tutors, prayer-warriors, and office/clerical volunteers needed for the Montgomery City Jail Ministry & G.E.D program. Opportunities are ongoing. No experience or certification necessary. Contact Pastor Anderson T. Graves II, at hallmemorialcme1@aol.com. Call 334-2880577. The City Jail ministry is an in-reach ministry of Hall Memorial CME Church, 541 Seibles Road, Montgomery.

Frazer mom2mom is a playgroup to connect mothers of preschoolers at Frazer United Methodist Church to share fun and inspiration in our journey together, with our children, and with Christ. Email Mom2mom@ frazerumc.org.

Macedonia Miracle Kingdom & Worship Center (MMKWC), 3070 Selma Highway, Montgomery, services are Sunday School and New Members Class, 9:00 a.m., Morning Worship, 10:45 a.m.; Tuesday Night Bible Class, 7:00 p.m. and Friday Night Prayer,

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Study in the church Fellowship Hall and lasts for one hour. Please come and participate in roaming the Bible learning God’s word through teaching. The Rev. Henry M. Carnegie, Jr. is the teacher and pastor. Mid-day Bible Study begins each Wednesday at 11:30 a.m. Evening Bible Study begins each Wednesday at 7:00 p.m. Call 233-8750.

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New Freedom Worship Center, 6004 –A East Shirley Lane, Apostle T. Briggs~ Pastor; Sunday Worship Service 10:30 a.m. and Wednesday Night Bible Study 7:30 p.m.

6:00 p.m. (BOTH at The Pattern-Mt Meigs Road) Messiah Lutheran Church, 6670 Vaughn Road, invites all to Wonderful Wednesdays starting with a $3-5 meal at 5:30 pm (RSVP 277-4213 by Monday noon), worship with eucharist 6:15-7:00 pm, and adult choir rehearsal and Catechism class for 7th-9th graders at 7:00 pm. Please call for Wednesday schedule due to seasonal breaks. For information, call 277-4213. Mt. Gillard Missionary Baptist Church, 3323 Day Street, holds Wednesday Bible

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River City Church, 301 Dexter Avenue, offers a Friday Christian Night Club (free of alcohol and smoking) with Ballroom Dancing every Friday at 6:30 P.M. Cost $10 for a one hour lesson, devotional, and 3 hours of DJ music. All denominations welcome. 7:30-10:30 open dance floor.

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Perry Hill UMC, 910 Perry Hill Rd, sponsors a Bluegrass Jam in the Church Fellowship Hall on the third Saturday of each month from 9AM - 12AM. All Bluegrass Artist plus Fans are invited to attend. Attendance is FREE. For information call Kathy@ 272-3174.

The River of Life Church, located at 116 County Road 40 E (in the Pine Level Community Center) Prattville. Pastor Nick Edwards invites you to a “Place of New Beginnings”, where families come and grow together. Church Service Schedule: Sunday 10:30 a.m. Sunday School; 11:00 a.m. Morning Worship; 5:00 p.m. Evening Worship. Wednesday 6:00 p.m. Adult Bible Study, Teens (Genesis Project), Jr. High (Limitless), Royal Rangers, MPact Girls, Rainbow’s/Noah’s Zoo Club. Thursday 9:00 a.m.Women of Grace Bible Study. Nursery provided. We invite you to”come experience God in a personal way, feel loved by all and know that you belong”. Call the church office 334-657-0392 or visit www. theriveroflifechurch.net.

Perry Hill UMC, 910 Perry Hill Rd, hosts a Wednesday Night Supper and Revive! program each week from 5:30pm til 7:00pm. Reservations

Saint James UMC, 9045 Vaughn Road, offers S.N.A.G. (Sunday Nights About God!) This program starts at 5:00p.m. and ends at 6:30p.m.

Open Door Christian Faith Church, 1601 Dewey St. Montgomery, offers Women’s Prayer Mondays at 5:00, Men’s prayer Wednesday at 5:00, followed by bible study at 6:00. Couples ministry held every 1st Wednesday of the month at 7:00. Pastor William Cromblin, and the Open Door Church family invites you to “come experience the move of God. Call 334-269-6498.

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Saint James UMC, 9045 Vaughn Road, offers Wild & Wacky Wednesdays! Wednesday night supper starts at 5:15p.m. We will start checking children in at 6:00p.m. This program ends at 7:30p.m. and childcare is provided until 8:00p.m. for small group participants. Call 277.3037 for more info.

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Saint Paul African Methodist Episcopal Church, 706 E. Patton Avenue, “Clothes Closet” is open to the public each Thursday morning from 10 a.m. – Noon. The Men of Saint Paul host a free Men’s Prayer Breakfast the Third Saturday of each month at 8 a.m. in the Church Fellowship Hall. The Men’s Prayer Breakfast is open to all men of all ages. Come and share your concerns and needs of our Men of today. For more information, please contact (334) 354-1897. Bible Study is held each Wednesday, 6-7 p.m. in the Fellowship Hall. Pastor Farrell J. Duncombe is the teacher and Senior Pastor of the church. Come and join us for Sunday School each Sunday at 9 a.m. and Morning Worship at 10 a.m. Need transportation, call (334) 2647618. For info call 286.8577 or www.saintpaulamemontgomery.com. S-STOP, a commUNITY Bible study for Singles. Souls Strengthened Together for One Purpose. Psalm 46:10 “BE STILL and know that I am God.” Meets at Prattville Christian Academy on Sunday nights at 6 p.m. For info email sstop04@gmail.com. Vision Full Gospel Ministries, 163 Rifle Range Road, Montgomery, holds Bible Study Tues. Night 7:00 p.m., Pray & Praise 2nd & 4th Thurs. Night 7:00 p.m., Sunday School 9:30 am, Sunday Worship Service 10:45 a.m., Internet radio-homecominggospel.com Sunday 3:00p.m. Central & 4:00 p.m. Eastern. and Satellite Radio -wlsg 1340am Sunday 3:00p.m. Women at The Well Ministry invites you to attend its women’s fellowship at 1 pm every 1st and 3rd Saturday. We are women who desire and have a heart to see broken, crushed, hurting women be transformed through the one man who can fulfill their every need... JESUS...THE POTTER. All women of all denominations or race are welcome. This ministry is available to teenagers as well. Come join us as we lift, encourage and build each other up through the Word of God and the words of our testimonies. For more information contact Evangelist Dr. Linda McCall, 334-220-1924.

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It’s another new year, and that means it’s time for yet another set of resolutions. But if you’re like most Americans, you’ll probably forget your goals by mid-February. So how can you turn your financial resolutions into reality in 2015? Make a plan. The number-one mistake people make with their money is they don’t bother with a plan. They have no idea where their money is going! The money comes in and the money goes out, and only the names are changed to protect the innocent. You have to do a budget! Put a name to every dollar you earn. Tell your money what to do instead of wondering where it went. Remember, it takes at least three months of practice and dedication to really make your budget work. Save for emergencies. I promise you it’s going to rain from time to time, so you’ll need an umbrella. Save $1,000 in cash as quickly as possible for an emergency fund before you begin attacking your debt. After you pay off all your debt except for your mortgage, increase your

emergency fund to cover three to six months of expenses. Layoffs happen, cars break down, and kids get sick. A fully funded emergency fund can turn these disasters into nothing more than minor inconveniences. Don’t make the mistake of putting life’s emergencies on a credit card. You’ll end up paying on them for months or even years to come. An emergency fund gives you the peace of mind that comes with knowing you can handle whatever life throws at you. Use the debt snowball. List all of your debts, except your house, from smallest payoff balance to largest. Make the minimum payment on every debt except the smallest and put every extra dollar you can find toward the smallest debt until it is paid. If you can find a way to generate extra income, do it! Take on a part-time job for a while or have a big yard sale and get rid of that stuff you never use, wear or didn’t want in the first place! Then focus on paying off the next smallest debt, then the next, then the next, rolling the money over each time.

Have plastic surgery. Cut up all of your credit cards. We call this a plasectomy. Everyone says they pay off their credit cards each month, but the truth is virtually no one does. People are more reluctant to spend money when they see tens and twenties leaving their wallets and going into someone else’s. You really feel it when you have to lay out cash. Get rid of the credit cards! Invest for the future. When you’re debt-free and have a fully funded emergency fund, you’re ready to start planning for the future. Invest 15 percent of your income in a 401(k), Roth IRA and other tax-advantaged retirement plans. Why not more? Because the extra money you’ll save can go toward saving for college (if you have kids) or paying off your home early. Do these things sound like a dream? Well, I can tell you from experience that some dreams do come true. Make 2015 the year you begin to live like no one else, so later you really can live like no one else!

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Movie Reviews Reviews provided by MovieGuide: A Family Guide to Movies and Entertainment Ratings are based on production quality and moral acceptability. See details below. ***Reviews do not necessarily reflect views of the publishers of River Region’s Journey.

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Production Quality: **** Moral Acceptability: -2 (Extreme Caution) Starring: David Oyelowo, Carmen Ejogo, Tom Wilkinson Genre: Drama Audience: Teenagers and adults Rating: PG-13 Content: Strong Christian, moral worldview about the right to vote with scripture, prayer, church scenes, gospel songs sung, a positive representation of clergy, cross, clergy talking about the works of the Holy Spirit, with some light pagan elements where illicit affairs are mentioned but repercussions shown; 19 obscenities (including one “f” word), two strong profanities using Jesus and four light profanities; strong violence includes men whip people, beating, men shoot and kill other men, people beaten down, man beaten and killed, child killed by bombing, women hits man, man hits main character; implied sexual affair, with sounds heard but not seen, middle finger; light drinking; no smoking or drug use; and, police brutality and racism but rebuked. SELMA is a powerful movie about the Rev. Martin Luther King, Jr.’s 1965 march on Montgomery, Alabama for voting rights for African Americans. The 1964 Civil Rights Act outlawed segregation in the United States. When a woman tries to register to vote in Selma, she’s denied and arrested after punching the sheriff who poked her with his billy club. King decides the right to vote should be the civil rights movement’s next battle, but President Lyndon Johnson puts the issue on the back burner. So, King, with some other leaders, leads a march from Selma to the state capitol in Montgomery. SELMA is very well done. The acting is excellent. The movie is very serious, however, and doesn’t offer any lighter content to relieve the tensions. That said, SELMA has a strong Christian worldview with prayer, church scenes, gospel songs, and scripture. Christian clergy and church members are the heroes. The movie also says God created us all equal in His image. MOVIEGUIDE® advises strong caution for SELMA due to significant foul language, intense violence and references to King’s multiple adulterous affairs.

Production Quality: **** Moral Acceptability: -1 (Caution) Starring: Christoph Waltz, Amy Adams, Krysten Ritter, Jason Schwartzman, Danny Huston, Terence Stamp, Stephanie Bennet, Emily Fonda Audience: Older teens and adults Rating: PG-13 Content: Light mixed pagan worldview with some moral statements against lying, manipulation and deceit, but also some subtle politically correct, feminist elements, but female protagonist does respect the Bible (even though she becomes a Jehovah’s Witness); seven obscenities and eight profanities (including abusing Jesus’s name), plus an obscene gesture; light violence includes husband threatens his wife and even tries to start a fire in a room she’s in; no sexual content, but married couples kiss and married man flirts with other women; no nudity but some female cleavage and women in swimsuits; moderate wine drinking; smoking; and lying, manipulation, deceit and illegal fraud, but this is not condoned. BIG EYES is a biopic directed by Tim Burton about Margaret Keane and her famous paintings that became a phenomenon in the 1950’s. The movie begins with Margaret leaving her abusive husband, Frank, and escaping to San Francisco with their daughter. Making a living doing street portraits, Margaret meets the suave Walter Keane, a painter who compliments her artwork. The two get married. Someone shows interest in Margaret’s unique paintings of children with abnormally large eyes. Walter claims to be the one who painted it so he can make the sale. The paintings become a sensational hit, and Walter’s lies get bigger and bigger. BIG EYES is a very interesting movie from Tim Burton. It’s also one of the least strange, most entertaining movies he’s done. One can’t help but be empathetic for Amy Adams as Margaret. She delivers a subtle, yet effective performance as a conflicted woman. Sadly, there are some mixed messages in BIG EYES. It has a spiritual dimension that extols honesty and rebukes lying and manipulation, but there’s also a feminist, politically correct tone. So, caution is advised.

The previous reviews are a selected sample of informative reviews from MOVIEGUIDE: A FAMILY GUIDE TO MOVIES AND ENTERTAINMENT, a syndicated feature of Good News Communications, Inc. To subscribe to MOVIEGUIDE which includes a complete set of at least 10 reviews of the latest movies as well as many informative articles, please visit our web site at www.movieguide.org or write or call:”MOVIEGUIDE,” P.O. Box 190010, Atlanta, GA 31119 (800) 899-6684. What the ratings mean: Production Quality: (1 to 4 stars) Moral Acceptability: -4 (Abhorrent), -3 (Excessive), -2 (Extreme Caution), -1 (Caution), +1 (Wholesome), +2 (Good), +3 (Moral), +4 (Exemplary) River Region’s Journey

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If you are 50 or older, get screened for colorectal cancer. Colorectal cancer is the 2nd leading cancer killer in Alabama. Ask your doctor about screening options for colorectal cancer, including the new, annual take-home test called FIT or iFOBT. If you are at high risk for colorectal cancer, you may need to be screened more frequently.

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First Baptist Church January 25 - 28 6:30 pm :: Main Sanctuary 305 South Perry Street :: Montgomery, AL 334.834.6310 :: www.montgomeryfbc.org