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Publisher’s Note
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Faith @ Work
Meet Shawn Cole, attorney, wife and mother of two. Shawn’s greatest desire is to love and value those she serves in every area of her life...family, work and ministry. She believes building deep relationships is key!
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Pastor's Perspective Rev. Walter E. Ellis, Pilgrim Rest Missionary Baptist Church
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Pondering the Journey Sam Whatley
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Counselor’s Corner Saralu (Sam) Belkofer, LPC
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Damaged Souls
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Women Arising
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The Intersection
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Do we really love people like Jesus does? Do we offer them grace and love before judgment and correction? Scott Sauls encourages us to sit with Jesus and know Him better, so we can better understand how He wants us to love others.
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In Every Issue
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Respite Ministry of FUMC by Angela Hardgrave
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Pastor’s Perspective Rev. Walter E. Ellis, Pilgrim Rest Missionary Baptist Church
Enriching Your Christian Faith by Reading God’s Word Christians embarking upon their faith journey in an everchanging, fast paced technological society that is filled with the perils of times and stressors of life often find themselves putting the reading of God’s word on the back burner. As we venture throughout our daily faith walk, we will experience some good days, but at other times we can feel overwhelmed, perplexed, discouraged and just simply want to give up. That’s where the word of God comes in, for the Bible reminds us in 2 Corinthians 12:9 that “my grace is sufficient for thee: for my strength is made perfect in weakness.” As Christians, we must realize that each day is filled with new mercies, and new oppor-
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tunities are granted which allows us to reflect upon our personal relationship with God. Each day should be a day of thanksgiving, and another moment to diligently seek Him for guidance. As it is written in Proverbs 3:5-6, “Trust in the LORD with all your heart and lean not on your own understanding; in all your ways submit to him, and he will make your paths straight.” Depending on God’s word daily through scriptural reading allows us to renew our strength, gain spiritual maturity and grow deeper in Christ. We must stay in God’s word in order to stay in the will of God; His Will is in His word, and His Word is His way. The Bible has answers and solutions for every situation that we endure. God is a subject-matter expert, for He knows all and sees all. In our daily Bible readings, we can find scriptures that relate to any topics of interest, such as: law, love, history, politics, education, war, literature, marriage, finances, death, false teaching, worrying, prosperity, sin, servanthood and leadership just to name a few. In what other book can you find expert advice and answers to such a plethora of topics all arranged together in a single volume? Neither a philosopher, nor proliferate writer could ever address all of our needs like the book known as the “Holy Bible.” The parables told in the Bible are mirror images of our lives. As we go through 4
difficult times, the Bible is a comforter and reminds us of those in the Biblical times who overcame difficulties. Isaiah 26:3 reminds us, “Thou will keep him in perfect peace, whose mind is stayed on thee.” There are more than 100 verses in the Bible that refer to reading, meditating and hiding God’s word in our hearts. As we read through the scriptures, we find that there is wisdom and knowledge to help us grow while on our faith walk. So one still may ask, “Why is it so important for me to read scriptures regularly? I’m glad you asked! Among many, following are three ways to enrich your faith journey by reading God’s word. First and foremost, the word of God, according to 2 Timothy 2:15, reminds us that “we should study to show thyself approved unto God, a workman that needeth not to be ashamed, rightly dividing the word of truth.” Matthew 4:4 further explains, “but he answered and said, ‘It is written, Man shall not live by bread alone, but by every word that proceedeth out of the mouth of God.’” The word of God lets us communicate with God through scriptures. Making time to read our Bibles regularly creates a connection to God allowing us to hear His voice. As it is written in James 1:23 NIV, “anyone who listens to the word but does not do what it says is like someone who looks at his face in a mirror.” The word of God also allows us to experience true freedom. According to John 8:32, reading the scriptures can give us the freedom that God intended for us to have. We will be able to surrender all and fully submit unto Him. As a result, we can enjoy freedom every day. “Know the truth and it shall set you free.” Delighting in the word made flesh is the consummation of God’s highest purpose of literacy (2 Corinthians 3:12–18). Enjoy reading God’s word! Reverend Walter E. Ellis is pastor of Pilgrim Rest Missionary Baptist Church, 1550 E. Washington Street, in Montgomery.
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12 Faithful Men:
How to Be a Perfect Christian
Portraits of Courageous Endurance in Pastoral Ministry
The Babylon Bee How To Be a Perfect Christian is a user manual for the spiritually motivated zealot. The subtitle perfectly expresses the inner longings of such a person: Your Comprehensive Guide to Flawless Spiritual Living. In a mere 192 pages, the authors wonderfully capture the essence of the perfect Christian life. Step-by-step instructions are given that denote which church to attend, which music to listen to, which churches and movies to avoid, and the critical practices that don the ecclesiastical vita of the person seeking Christian perfection. But in the final analysis, How To Be a Perfect Christian actually guides spiritual zealots away from self-righteousness and straight to the cross of the Lord Jesus Christ: “Instead of faking smiles and completing checklists, the Christian life would be about beholding the unspeakable glory of the Creator and living to please Him and make Him known in a dying world.” How To Be a Perfect Christian will make genuine Christfollowers laugh. It will prompt wide smiles. But it will also lead to deep reflection about the lengths many of us have gone to live in our own strength in order to merit favor in the eyes of a holy God. This book (despite all its silliness and wittiness) is a stern rebuke to anyone who is trapped by legalism. As such, it will anger the Pharisee. It will spur the Sadducee. And it will draw the ire of the religious fundamentalist. For these reasons, How To Be a Perfect Christian is a stunning success.
12 Faithful Men is a collection of portraits that capture the lives and ministries of godly men, scattered throughout church history. These men come from a variety of backgrounds and have all made significant contributions to the kingdom of God. Collin Hansen and Jeff Robinson serve as editors of this project and enlist the help of several other pastors and scholars who paint short portraits of these faithful men. What makes this volume so valuable is that each of the twelve men has faced significant pain, suffering, or persecution in ministry. The men include the apostle Paul, John Calvin, John Bunyan, Jonathan Edwards, John Newton, Andrew Fuller, Charles Simeon, John Chavis, C.H. Spurgeon, J.C. Ryle, Janani Luwum, and Wang Ming-Dao. Most of the faithful men featured in this book are well-known names. The portraits are painted with skill, passion, and biblical wisdom. They are short introductions that will likely prompt some readers to do a more in-depth study. A few of the faithful men in this volume are lesser known figures, most notably, Janani Luwum and Wang Ming-Dao. Each portrait is an invitation to pursue a life and ministry, which is tethered to sacrifice and suffering. The clear message is that ministry entails suffering and that God uses adversity to mark a man and make a man. And while each portrait provides a basic glimpse of one of these twelve faithful men, the greater message is that God is exalted and glorified in each of these men.
Walk On – Ben Malcolmson Walk On by is the inspirational tale of a young man who dared to follow his dreams onto the football field and beyond. Ben Malcolmson dreamed the impossible when he decided to play as a “walk on” during his days at the University of Southern California. Pete Carroll was the coach during those days which makes for a very interesting story. Malcolmson not only shares the story about his athletic pursuits; he clearly describes how his relationship with Jesus Christ began and was fostered in those early days at USC. Sports enthusiasts will appreciate Malcolmson’s heart, passion, and grit. His love for God shines clearly in these pages as he gives honor and glory to his Savior for enables his hands and guiding his feet. River Region’s Journey
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“You Are Enough”
Saturday, August 18, 9 a.m.-noon. Frazer United Methodist Church. A gathering for women, featuring keynote speaker Janeese Spencer of Venture Life Coaching and breakout sessions with Counselor Brandi McNew and Life Coach Boo Archer. $10 includes light breakfast. For more info, contact Susan Fisher at susan@frazerumc.org or (334) 495-6465.
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with Skillet, Sidewalk Prophets, Bonray, Rhett Walker Band, Ryan Stevenson Saturday, August 25, 2018 Admission is free! Verbena Amphitheater, 2701 County Road 23, Verbena, AL For more information, visit enfuegoinfo.com or call 334-420-2850.
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Friday, September 28 – Saturday, September 29, at Vaughn Forest Church, 8660 Vaughn Road. For more info, visit vaughnforest.com or call 334-279-5433.
Rush of Fools in Concert
Sunday, September 30, 2018 at 7:00 pm at Garrett Coliseum, 1555 Federal Drive For more information, call 334-356-6866. Organized by Alabama National Fair.
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The Incredibles Movie Night + Blessing of the Backpacks
Sunday, August 5, 4-6 p.m. Frazer United Methodist Church. Kick off your own “Incredible” school year with a “Blessing of the Backpacks” time of prayer over all students and educators, followed by the classic Pixar movie that reminds us every family can be incredible. Concessions will be available. The Incredibles is rated PG for cartoon action violence. For more info, contact Kim Hendrix at khendrix@frazerumc.org or (334) 495-6397.
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His Vessel Ministries Presents Empowered…for Influence and Purpose His Vessel Ministries is honored to present “Empowered… for Purpose and Influence” in the Fellowship Hall of First Baptist Church, 305 South Perry Street on Saturday, August 25, 2018, 9am – 3pm, with respected speakers Jennifer Kennedy Dean and Jo Hancock. “Empowered…for Purpose and Influence” will call individuals of all ages and all denominations to discover living a life filled with purpose through the power of a praying life. Jennifer Kennedy Dean has authored numerous bestselling books focusing on prayer and spiritual growth. Jennifer is Executive director of The Praying Life Foundation, National Prayer Director and board member for
Christian Women in Media, Kentucky State Director for United States National Prayer Council, a member of Advanced Writers and Speakers Association, and a member of America’s National Prayer Committee (National Day of Prayer). Jo Hancock is a local author and speaker, devoting much of her time to discipling individuals to live a life of purpose. There is no charge to attend, however registration is required. His Vessel Ministries, Inc., a 501(c)(3) non-profit, will accept a love offering at the event in lieu of tickets sales. An optional box lunch will be available for a cost of $11.00, and pre-orders are required. To register for the event, contact His Vessel Ministries at 334.356.4478. His Vessel Ministries, Inc., a 501(c) (3) non-profit provides Christ-centered teachings through Bible studies, yearly discipleship training and special teaching events written and published by Jo Hancock. His Vessel Ministries is located in the Historic Union Station in downtown Montgomery, Alabama.
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On September 22, the National Alliance on Mental Illness of Alabama (NAMI Alabama) will conduct the fourth NAMIWalks Alabama fundraiser, which will be held at the Wynton Blount Cultural Park, in Montgomery. Registration for the 5K Walk will begin at 8:00 a.m. and the Walk will begin at 9:00 a.m. A short program will be held from 8:30 a.m. – 9:00 a.m. with several guest speakers, door prizes, and awards. University of Alabama Head Football Coach Nick Saban, who is serving as the State Honorary Chairperson, said… “I am honored to serve as Honorary Chairperson for this year’s NAMIWalks Alabama. Mental illness impacts so many families across our country and we appreciate all that NAMI does to help provide the support and education to those who suffer from mental health disorders. Hopefully, NAMIWalks Alabama will create more awareness and generate the necessary funds vital to the health and well-being of our state.” The purpose of the 5K fundraiser is to support the education (including Crisis Intervention Team trainings (CIT), advocacy, and support programs of NAMI Alabama. NAMIWalks is a joint effort of NAMI, NAMI Alabama, and NAMI Alabama Affiliates. Walk Manager, Wanda Laird said, “please join a team or serve as a sponsor and help us raise $75,000 as we celebrate our theme, #StigmaFree. Every year, regardless of race, age, religion, or economic status, mental illness impacts the lives of at least one in five individuals across the United States – that is nearly 60 million Americans. Mental illness drains our economy of more than $80 billion every year. One-fourth of all social security disability payments are for individuals with mental illness. There is no registration fee for the Walk. Please visit www.namiwalks.org or www. namialabama.org to serve as a sponsor or join a team. 11
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germinated, and soon a crepe myrtle sprout could be seen stretching above the dirt. Years went by. The little tree grew as tall as the fence next to it. The roots pressed against the sides and bottom of the pot. Gradually a crack appeared down one side. It widened. Eventually the pot split in two and fell away from the tree. But by then the roots had pushed deep into the ground. The tree stood on its own. Now, when I look out back I see two trees in bloom. The one I planted is larger and fuller. But the new one is catching up to it. It’s nearly as tall as the house. One was nurtured. The other had to fight its own battles and take nourishment wherever it could. The blossoms on the two trees look identical. Both are evidence of the glory of God’s natural world That cracked pot and the fulfilment of its mission remind me of how our lives can change things and how the Lord can change our lives. Circumstances can leave us pretty beaten up from time to time. Like that pot, we can feel damaged and discarded by our friends and family. We may sense that we are useless, unnecessary, and just in the way. We may question if there is any reason for us to go on. But, hang on. Things can change. The Lord can blow a seed our way. That seed may be a person or group of 12
people who needs our help. And when we strive to meet the needs of others, the Lord changes things inside of us. As we pour more and more of our lives into that seed, we will see it grow. It will stretch us by taking up our time, energy, and money. It may even crack our shell of independence and cause us to rely more and more on God. But that’s a good thing. I know a couple who adopted an older international child and found their world rocked with one challenge after another. There were financial, discipline, and communication challenges that went on for years. Each challenge tested their marriage and their faith. It drove them to their knees and into the Bible. And that is just where the Holy Spirit wanted them. The experience of raising that child cost them, but it deepened their dependence on God and their love for each other. Paul wrote to the church at Corinth, “Whoever sows sparingly will also reap sparingly, and whoever sows generously will also reap generously” (2 Corinthians 9:6, NIV). It is in giving ourselves away that we come to understand our significance in this world. The seed that God blows your way may have nothing to do with adopting children. You may pour yourself into a cause or a vocation that you feel God has called you to. You may have a spouse, parent or grandchild that needs all the attention you can give. But whatever the Lord puts on your heart, there will be a cost. So, what if the seed had not blown into that terra cotta container? The pot would still be intact, sitting by the fence, half-full of dirt. And what a loss that would have been. Our lives are richer when we give them away to serve those around us. In doing so we serve our Lord and find our place. And the world is more beautiful for our sacrifice. **Sam Whatley’s latest book, Ponder Anew, is now available at the Frazer Bookstore located inside Frazer Memorial UMC.
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RRJ: What would you say your primary spiritual gift is and what opportunities have you been given to use that gift? Shawn: That’s tough. I think the Lord blesses us all with spiritual gifts, but I do not really like to talk about myself. However, I can say I love people. I genuinely believe that every person has value and worth and I enjoy being loving and welcoming to others. Therefore, my primary gift is probably hospitality – not like entertaining, but more as in drawing people into relationship and making them know they matter, that they are loved and that they have true value. It is just something I try to use as often as I can whether at the grocery store, pumping gas, or serving others. I just want to make it a way of life. I am sure I mess up often, but I try. RRJ: Shawn, you are actively involved in many programs in Montgomery’s inner city. What have you learned from this involvement?
RRJ: Growing up in the small town of Hoke’s Bluff, Alabama, what qualities did you gain from your community that led you to be a Christ follower? Shawn: My grandparents, specifically my Baptist-preacher grandfather, my youth choir director, and a friend’s mom, influenced me by being loving, genuine Christian examples. They saw a kid who wasn’t perfect, but that knew what perfection in Christ was and they just fed into that. Being in a small town, with people who had good values instilled in them early in life, made loving Jesus much easier than today’s kids have it with so many electronic distractions. We were outside – a lot – soaking in all God had to offer us in nature. It was a simpler time with good, solid, mostly like-minded people. It was also a community that allowed other parents to hold us accountable when we messed up. Loving Jesus was the norm, not the exception. Also, my parents’ generosity and loving spirits cannot be undervalued in who I am in Christ today. River Region’s Journey
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Shawn: I have learned what a loving, warm community we have here in Montgomery. I have learned that no matter how much someone lacks, they still have much to offer. I have learned that there are many, many barriers to bringing people out of poverty other than just giving them a clean place to live, a new suit of clothes, and a GED. There are some issues that are generations deep that we have to help people overcome – simple things like soft job skills an educated person may take for granted – that we have to understand are not second nature to everyone. It is not “us and them.” We are all in this together and when we can love on our neighbors in need, we are the ones that reap far more than those we are trying to serve. People just want to know that they matter to someone. We all share that basic human need. RRJ: You mentioned that your workplace is “like family”. How are you able to shine for Christ in that environment? Shawn: I do not know that I shine any more brightly than anyone else here. Our people just love deeply. We love our community. We recognize that to whom much is given much is expected. The Hill family that started our firm set the tone many years before I was born and their family members still at the firm 14
(and the non-lawyers in their family) hold to the same values. Our ethical standards are critical to identifying who we are, and for me, that is purely a result of my wanting to be an obedient Christ-follower. I want to be fiscally responsible and always do the right thing for my clients and I think we all share this same set of values at our firm. I can be a zealous advocate for my clients but can be fair, rational, and kind to other lawyers I have cases against. It is a blessing to work with others who take that position in their work and personal lives. It is also a blessing to see my co-workers live life in a way that is intentionally beneficial to others. We have our own personal involvement with various churches or organizations, but we also work together to identify community needs and try to make this world a little better place than how we found it. Whether it is through working with a legal organization to help disadvantaged people, raising funds and collecting food for the food bank, collecting books for various organizations, sending children to AWF camps, or any number of other things, we just want to make a difference. RRJ: Your involvement in the Kiwanis Club has led you to being president of the Alabama National Fair. Any exciting news on that front? Shawn: We are thrilled to be bringing some new ideas to the Fair this year. The ANF is the only fundraiser for Kiwanis Club of Montgomery. The proceeds are granted to non-profits in the River Region, so spending money at the fair benefits the community! This year we are having an awesome Christian band, Rush of Fools, sponsored by Huntingdon College and an anonymous donor made it possible for an inner-city ministry, Flatline Movement, to be a sponsor as well. We have exhibits from Alabama Department of Archives & History, the Rosa Parks Museum, and Freedom Riders Museum. Along with rides and other outdoor exhibits, we are excited to bring these new ideas to showcase some of the amazing things Montgomery has to offer – from top-notch Christian entertainment to educational opportunities from an historical and civil rights perspective. Great things are happening in Montgomery and I am incredibly proud to be a part of Kiwanis and the ANF, which has given more than $7
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RRJ: Because you have experience in helping downtown, what would you suggest to our readers who want to get involved with helping in our community but are not sure where to start? Shawn: Hands on River Region can match you with a ministry that fits your comfort level – and you may also want to make Blessing Bags for people in need! Get gallon size zip lock bags, put in a bottled water, pop-top canned meat, crackers, something sweet, wet wipes, a spoon, canned fruit or apple sauce, a pair of socks, some Band aids, and note with a Bible verse. Add information about Mercy House and the 211 help line so recipients will know where to get food, a place to shower, or other resources. We have SO much fun making these – and make a few extra for our police officers so they can give them out. They love that!
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RRJ: In your opinion, what’s the most important part of sharing your faith? Shawn: Just live for Him out loud every day. Love your neighbors. Love strangers. Embrace the concept of “the preciousness of others” – that God made us all in His image, with as much love and tenderness for one as for the other. We all matter and we all are worthy of His love. So whoever you see in whatever set of circumstances, know we all are valued equally by the Father, and love them accordingly. Shawn Cole is attorney and shareholder with Hill, Hill, Carter, Franco, Cole, & Black. She has been married to husband Les for 20 years and they have two children, Jackson (17) and Mary Elizabeth (11). They are also active and founding members at ChristChurch in Montgomery.
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I love how Jesus related to damaged, condemned people. Don’t you? A woman sins against God and is caught in the act of adultery. She wrecks a home. She brings shame upon herself and her community. Pious men take her shame public. “Lawbreakers must not be tolerated,” they think. “She must be condemned for her behavior, cast out for her infidelities, shamed for her shameful act. She must be made into an example.” This is what happens in a group of people who have sound theology but are lacking in love. A Colosseum culture develops. Everyone rallies around a common enemy— the sinner. Robbers, evildoers, tax collectors, adulterers and adulteresses. And then the pouncing and the piling on. The shaming. River Region’s Journey
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What’s wrong with the world? “Other people,” says the mob surrounding the adulteress. “What’s wrong with the world is other people...those who aren’t one of us.” But not Jesus. Jesus, left alone with the woman, simply says to her two things: “I do not condemn you. Now leave your life of sin.” The order of these two sentences is everything. Reverse the order of these two sentences and you’ll lose Christianity. Reverse the order and you’ll lose Jesus. As was the case with Jesus, so it will be with his people when we create environments that communicate “no condemnation” first, before we ever start talking about law, obedience and ethics. Because with Jesus, grace and love establish the environment for the morality conversation. It is not our repentance that leads to God’s kindness, but God’s kindness that leads to our repentance. After 23 years of pastoral ministry, I have never met a person who fell in love with Jesus because a Christian scolded them about their morality or their ethics. Have you?
As we prayed together, Matthew decided to chime in. His was a drunk prayer that went on for over 10 minutes. He prayed some of the strangest things. “God, protect us from the Klingons. God, I really want a Jolly Rancher right now, will you bring us some Jolly Ranchers? God, please move my bananas to the dog house.” After the “Amen,” everyone looked at me. What will the pastor do? Thankfully, I didn’t need to do anything because a woman from the group, full of love and situational intelligence, offered Matthew a cookie. As the woman was giving him a cookie and entertaining conversation about Klingons and such, several others went over to his wife and begged for insight on how they could help the situation. This little interaction, this way of responding with love and “no condemnation first,” became one of the most transformative experiences I have ever witnessed. To make a long and wonderful story short, the kindhearted offer of a cookie led to a tribe of people coming around the couple and their two young children, which led to a month of rehab in Arizona—including prayers and support as well as flights and personal visits to the rehab center by church members, which led to sobriety, which led to a restored home and marriage, which led to Matthew becoming a follower of Jesus, which led to him also becoming an elder in the church. To this day, after 23 years of pastoral ministry, Matthew may be the best and most impactful church elder I have ever worked alongside.
Expanding Our “Us” Once we were having a small prayer gathering with some friends. Just before we began praying together, in came a couple we had never met and who had been invited by someone else in the group. The man, who I will call Matthew, was very drunk, and his wife had this been-throughwar, can-somebody-please-help-me, I’m-dying-inside look on her face.
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Grace must come before ethics. Love must come before the morality discussion. Love—the broad embrace of the narrow path—will trigger some of the most life-giving experiences you’ll ever be part of.
love trajectory for your life. Protection from the Klingons. Sweeter than Jolly Ranchers. All you need is nothing. All you need is need.” These words from one of my favorite hymns, “Come, ye sinners” says it all:
Loving Like Jesus — Is It Possible?
Come ye sinners, poor and needy Weak and wounded, sick and sore. Jesus, ready, stands to save you, Full of pity, joined with power... Let not conscience make you linger, Nor of fitness fondly dream. All the fitness he requires Is to feel your need of him.
How can we begin to live from agape so that stories like Matthew’s become the norm versus the exception? How can we create environments in which this kind of love flourishes? Here’s how. We must first realize that love is the environment where we are already living. Love has to be a person to us before it can become a verb. And the One who is Love Incarnate—Jesus—doesn’t just love us when we’re at our best. He also loves us when we are at our worst. When we are caught in the act. When we fall asleep on Him instead of watching and praying with Him. When we deny Him three times. When we become His persecutors. When we come into His prayer meetings drunk—drunk on our ambition, our greed, our resentful grudges, our pornographic imaginations, our self-righteousness. From these places Jesus asks, “Do you like cookies? May I get you one? Will you sit with me? How about rehab? May I accompany you there? May I pay the fee? May I come alongside you toward sobriety, then a new life, then a seat at my table, then a job in my Kingdom? I went to the battlefield, I loved from the battlefield, to launch this
How do we love like Jesus? It starts with resting and receiving. It starts by stopping. Perhaps we should stop trying to love like Jesus and instead, first learn what it means to be with him, yes? Because the more we are with Jesus, the more we will become like him. Love is caught more than it is achieved. Get close to love, and love tends to rub off. Let’s pursue this path, the love path, the no-condemnation path; shall we? Scott Sauls is senior pastor of Christ Presbyterian Church in Nashville, Tennessee, and author of Jesus Outside the Lines: A Way Forward for Those Who are Tired of Taking Sides. You can connect with Scott at scottsauls.com or on Twitter at @scottsauls. Article originally published at scottsauls.com. Used with permission.
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Beautiful Survivor I first met A about 2 years ago. She was seeking counseling to receive help coming to terms with her diagnosis of Stage 4 breast cancer. A had been first diagnosed with Stage 2 breast cancer in 2012. She received intensive treatment and went into remission. She and her children, her husband and her extensive extended family were beginning to feel safe from cancer. However, she had a recurrence in 2015 and learned that the cancer had spread into her bones. She was diagnosed with Stage 4 cancer. A once again began receiving treatment for cancer and continued doing so when we began working together. In our first session, A was very distressed and tearful as she described her recent journey. She expressed her need to be able to talk to someone about her feelings without having to take care of them, and so, we began our time together. A shared her close connection to God, and this proved to remain a constant source of comfort and strength throughout her illness. We consistently celebrated this gift of God to A. A was always able to celebrate those things that were positive and wonderful. This was a gift that she gave to me every time we talked. We worked to process, gain insight, understand and validate A’s suffering and to gain wisdom that A could share with others who suffered. We were able to define many
gifts that A had to give based on her journey, and she was willing to share them. She quickly held on to the truth that her suffering and how she managed it would be a life lesson to her children. This helped give her a purpose and a resolve. About two months after A began therapy, she learned that the cancer was spreading. A shared that she was disappointed but not surprised, because she had been experiencing some pain in her back. We celebrated her acceptance and peacefulness to this news that would devastate others. A expressed the belief that God was telling her to write. She wanted to find a way to tell her children and others what she had experienced and the hard choices that she had to make. How she had struggled with feeling so bad physically, and how hard it had been to do the things that a mother needs and loves to do. How much she loved her children. A decided to blog so that she could share her gift that would be healing to many others, as well as her family. We celebrated A’s choice to be a thriver rather than a victim. As time passed, A began a journey of ups and downs accompanied by increased and decreased pain and increasing fragility. I was able to share my perspective to A that she had managed to navigate her pain, illness and fear in a way that had made it possible for her to live a life of which she could be proud. A proudly said that she had done what she had said that she would 19
do; she had not let this cancer beat her. We celebrated her victory. When A tearfully told me that the cancer had spread to her brain, we sat together in a place of fear and sorrow. A pulled us out when she shared that her hair was going to fall out with the radiation, and that she liked being bald. We were both able to smile, and move into the wisdom of acceptance and resilience. The last time I sat with A, she was excited about plans for the summer and next Christmas. She was genuinely happy that day, and we celebrated her availability for joy. A passed on not long after I saw her. I continue to celebrate her beautiful spirit and all the gifts I received from having known her. Yes, A, you beat your cancer. You are a survivor. I am comforted by the Song of Solomon, Chapter 8 verse 6, “Set me as a seal upon thine heart, for love is strong as death.” And Ecclesiastes 3:1-4, “To every thing there is a season, and a time to every purpose under heaven. A time to be born, and a time to die…A time to weep, and a time to laugh; a time to mourn, and a time to dance.”
Saralu (Sam) Belkofer is a Licensed Professional Counselor. She is a 1969 graduate of Auburn University with a BA in Education and graduated from Georgia State University with an MA in Counseling in 1988. Prior to coming to The Samaritan Counseling Center, Sam counseled adults at Chemical Addictions Program from 1994 until 1999; Therapeutic Programs, Inc., where she worked with children and foster parents of children in need of therapeutic foster care; and at Helping Montgomery Families Initiative, sponsored by Ellen Brooks and the District Attorney’s office, assisting troubled children/youth in Montgomery Public Schools and their families; and as the Montgomery County Director of Adult Outpatient Services with Montgomery Area Mental Health Authority until November 2013. Sam counsels adolescents, young adults and adults, employing psychotherapy to gain insight into problems to develop needed strategies for life transitions, survivors of abuse and neglect, addictions, forgiveness, ADHD, anxiety and depression, issues of abandonment, attachment and development of life skills.
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Being a Godly Mother-In-Law “A Life’s True Fragrance” As I reminisce on the goodness of God, I cannot help but to thank him specifically for His unwavering love for me, my family and especially my loving husband. Without a doubt, I know my husband is who he is because of his mom’s Godly influence. Please join me in saying “thank you” to the mothers who gave us our husbands. Our mother’s-in-law deserve our praise. I came across a poem that stood out to me: “You were the one who held his hand when his life had just began, the one who taught him everything, who raised such a loving son. You were the mother he turned to with his questions and his fears, the person who was always there to guide him through the years. I am the one who took his hand to walk with him through life, the one you lovingly embraced, and welcomed as his wife. I am the one who is grateful now for the job that you have done, blessed with a wonderful husband, the man that you call ‘your son’.” The Lord blessed me with an amazing mother-in-law, a woman who loved and feared the Lord. Even though she’s no longer with us on Earth, her matchless handiwork testifies of her sweet spirit, gentle demeanor, and relentless love and affection for her children. As I sit pondering the life of Mildred Searcy, I am reminded of Ruth and her River Region’s Journey
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mother-in-law, Naomi. Their poignant story can be found beginning in the book of Ruth. This story begins with Naomi’s Jewish family consisting of a husband, wife, and two sons. The family moves from Israel to live in Moab because there was a famine in Israel. The boys grew up and married ladies from Moab. Later, Naomi’s husband and her two sons died, leaving their mother and their wives Ruth and Orpah in a bad financial situation. After the mourning period, Naomi heard news that the famine in Israel was over and her people had started prospering again. She decided to move back home to Israel. When Naomi told her two daughters-in-law her plan to return home, they both decided to go with her. Naomi tried to dissuade them. She told the wives that their homes were in Moab. Moabites were idol worshipers with temples dedicated to many gods, where as Israel worshiped the only one, true God Jehovah, of whom the wives knew nothing. Since Naomi did not have any more sons for the women to marry, the future for them in Israel could be bleak with a culture that was foreign to them. She pleaded with them not to follow her. Orpah agreed, hugged and kissed her mother-inlaw, and returned to her people. But we read in verse 16 of chapter 1 that Ruth said to Naomi, “Entreat me not to leave you, or to turn back from following after you, for wherever you go, I will go, and wherever you lodge, I will lodge, your people shall be my people, and your God my 20
God. Where you die I will die, and there will I be buried.” Wow! I have read this story dozens of times and it has never ceased to amaze me. The question I ask myself each time I read Ruth’s story is what type of relationship did Naomi and Ruth have prior to this event that caused the young woman to be so devoted to the older woman? Even though the Bible doesn’t explain Ruth’s actions, I truly believe that Naomi must have lived such an exemplary life before the young wife that it left an impression on Ruth so great that it altered the course of history. There are so many types of mothersin-law in this world. When it comes to their sons, many mothers-in-law don’t think any lady is good enough for them. The question I ask myself is, Kemi, what type of mother in-law are you going to be? 1. The Snob – The one with an elitist attitude, who looks down her nose at everyone, and criticizes everything. 2. The Entitled – The one who feels her daughter-in-law owes her something just because she’s the mama. She is going to call every hour on the hour and everything better stop to her beckoning call. 3. The Possessive – The one who is so possessive, no one will be happy living with her son. My prayer is that I will be as Naomi – so kind, loving, and supportive – that the fragrance of my life will transform the life of my daughters-in-law and sons-in-law, no matter who they are or whatever their background. Thank you, Mildred Searcy, for being my “mother in-love.” May I leave the same legacy as you have!
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When a family member is diagnosed with Alzheimer’s or dementia, it can be a devastating blow to their friends and loved ones. The pain of memory loss and personality changes, coupled with questions of long-term care, can cause feelings of fear and hopelessness. One ministry in the River Region, The Respite Ministry, is ready to help, and their mission is clear: to provide love, education, and support to all families living with Alzheimer’s and dementia. River Region’s Journey
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The Respite Ministry began in 2012 under the leadership Dr. R. Lawson Bryan, senior pastor of First United Methodist Church, and Daphne Johnston. Johnston said, “The question was asked, ‘What is needed in the community that could not be accomplished unless the local church helped?’ We realized that there was a great need for the Alzheimer’s and related dementia community and began planning the structure of a ministry that would utilize local volunteers to serve not only the person living with the disease, but the care partners as well.” Bryan and Johnston then set a community meeting to introduce this new venture to local care partners. “One of my favorite memories was when the first organizational meeting was held in 2012. All care partners were invited to the church to discuss their needs and compare notes on how to care for their loved ones. There was a tropical depression in the area, and tornado sirens had been going off all morning. The meeting was set for 11:00 am. In the midst of a downpour and sirens, 22 care partners streamed in the doors of FUMC. The power went out, and the meeting was held for two hours in the dark, illuminated only by candlelight. The need for such a ministry was clear,” said Johnston. Johnston is passionate about The Respite Ministry because she has seen the difference a group of dedicated volunteers can
make in the lives of the families living with the disease. “I’m always quick to point out they are still living, and not suffering or simply existing. Respite’s participants still seek joy, growth and friendship. The day is filled with art, music, hand-eye coordination games, and activities that challenge and provide autonomy,” said Johnston. The impact on the city of Montgomery has been evident. From the day program, which is the heart of their ministry, a support group for care partners has formed. They meet once a month to hear the latest advances in medicine, to give each other advice and support during difficult times, and to celebrate small victories over the disease. More than 150 people have participated in the support group over the past six years. Johnston said, “Through the years, the volunteers from FUMC began bringing their friends from the community. A multitude of area churches, as well as Temple Beth Or, began supporting the program, either financially or with volunteer service. I will always be thankful for The Church of the Ascension and St. John’s becoming financial sponsors, supporting scholarships early on, and becoming a model for other places of worship to participate.” By 2017, Ascension, ChristChurch, First Baptist, St. John’s and Temple Beth Or were all financial contributors to the scholarship fund. There is a $40 cost per day for the ministry, and that
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this past Christmas! They meet every Tuesday during their 10-week sessions, from 1:00pm-2:00pm at FUMC,” said Johnston. The Respite Ministry has also impacted more than just the city of Montgomery, and even more than just the River Region. The ministry helped begin a similar program in Birmingham, Alabama in 2014. Since planting that seed, they have spread across Alabama and Georgia, inspiring ten different programs to assist those in need. As with many ministries, Respite’s success depends on their volunteers. Because of them, care partners are no longer isolated; they have a group of people to share the burden of care. All of Respite’s volunteers are trained in dementia care, and they provide a judgement-free social outlet where loved ones can thrive and feel needed. Johnston said, “The magic of the group is that you cannot tell the difference in the volunteer or the participant. Everyone is the same—friends helping friends, neighbor helping neighbor. It is a place filled with engagement, enrichment, and social interaction, all the qualities needed to combat the isolation of Alzheimer’s. Lisa Geinova once said, ‘We can’t cure Alzheimer’s but we can cure loneliness.’ This would be the motto of The Respite Ministry at FUMC. Everyone is welcome to participate!” For more information about Respite Ministry at FUMC, please contact Daphne Johnston at 334-834-8990 or at djohnston@ fumcmontgomery.org. For more information about the Side by Side Choir, please contact Laura Selby at lselby@fumcmontgomery.org.
includes a hot meal. No one has ever been turned away due to finances, and last year alone, the ministry wrote off $37,000 in scholarships. “These places of worship working together is what caught the eye of the Administration on Aging. They highlighted in a national webinar the efforts of community partners from Montgomery, Alabama in the faith-based community. I was asked to speak at an international dementia conference in Atlanta this past spring, and the message of faith-based volunteer respite was heard by over 1,500 people from around the world,” said Johnston. In 2014, the Side by Side Choir was born out of The Respite Ministry. Laura Selby, assistant director of Respite, began a choir that meets for four, 10-week sessions, and concludes with a concert in various venues around town. This choir is for anyone in the River Region that would like to participate, but its focus is those living with memory loss and their care partners. “Respite realized people needed more activities with purpose, and this has been a wonderful answer. The choir is 60 members strong and performed at City Hall
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Angela Hardgrave is a graduate of the University of Mobile with a degree in journalism and currently works in the Marketing Department of Faulkner University as a graphic designer. Angela is also a freelance writer for several publications in the River Region. She resides in Wetumpka, Alabama, with her three awesome daughters and her dog, Emmy.
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Adoption Location: Frazer Memorial UMC, 6000 Atlanta Hwy and First UMC, Millbrook APAC, Alabama Pre/ Post Adoption Connection Support Group: This group provides education and social interaction for adoptive families. Meets 3rd Tuesdays, 6-7:30 p.m., Room 8114 at Frazer. For more information call Jill Sexton at 409-9477.
Location: Grace Presbyterian Church, Corner of Bell Road and Atlanta Hwy. Alcoholics Anonymous and Alanon meetings are held Monday, Tuesday, Thursday, and Friday, at 6 p.m. An Open AA Speaker meeting is held on Saturday at 6 p.m. An Alanon & AA held on Sundays at 2 p.m. Location: Grace Point Community Church, 78223 Tallassee Hwy (Hwy 14), Wetumpka Celebrate Recovery- every Tuesday night- 6:15pm. All are welcome! These meetings are a safe and loving environment for individuals seeking to conquer their hurts, habits and hang-ups! gracepoint.info.
Location: Caring Center of FBC, 52 Adams Avenue CrossRoads Support Group is for addicts/alcoholics and family members. Meets at 6 p.m. Tuesdays and follows a Christ-centered 12-step program. Call 264-4949.
Location: Journey Church, 435 Sheila Blvd, Prattville Celebrate Recovery - Christ-centered 12-step for anyone struggling with addiction or life-challenging issues. Mondays beginning at 6:15 pm. Childcare available. Call John Pearse at 303-243-4308 or visit myjourneychurch.com.
Location: Dalraida UMC, 3817 Atlanta Highway Alcoholics Anonymous meets at 6 p.m. on Tuesdays. 272.2190. Alanon meets at 7:30 p.m. on Wednesdays.
Location: Landmark Church, 1800 Halcyon Blvd. RSVP- This is a 12 step spiritual recovery program for overcoming addictions. Using the steps and Bible
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we help build self-esteem, responsible behavior, the making of amends for our destructive actions, and to fill the void in our hearts in a loving relationship with God. Wednesday @ 6:30pm in Rm. 121 of the Life Center. Location: Prattville Church of Christ, 344 E Main St. CASA - 12 step (Christians Against Substance Abuse) spiritual recovery program, for overcoming addictions. Class begins each Wednesday evening @6:30 PM. Please call 334-365-4201 for additional information. Location: Santuck Baptist Church, 7250 Central Plank Rd. (Hwy 9), Wetumpka Celebrate Recovery meets each Thursday evening at 6:15 in the Fellowship Hall. This is a Christ centered 12 step-program for anyone struggling with hurts, habits, and hang-ups. Call 567-2364.
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Sex Addicts Anonymous (SAA) is open to all struggling with addictive sexual behavior. For locations, please visit- https://saa-recovery.org/ or please contact – MontgomerySAA@outlook.com. Meetings are held: every Sunday night - 7:45 p.m, men only. Every Monday night - 7:30 p.m, men and women. Location: St. James UMC, 9045 Vaughn Road Celebrate Recovery meets every Thursday night from 6-8 pm in the Youth Room. This is a Christ-centered 12-step group for anyone struggling with an “addiction or life-challenging issues.” For information, call Chris Henderson at 334-215-0427. Location: First United Methodist Church, Wetumpka 306 W. Tuskeena Street ‘Fresh Start’ Recovery meets every Thursday, 6-8pm (meal included). In 2011, Fresh Start Motorcycle Ministry (FSMM) began when God laid it on the heart of a lifetime biker to minister to those with his background. All are welcome, not a requirement to own/ride a motorcycle. For any info contact ministry leader, Paul Henderson, 334-201-5428.
Location: First Baptist Church, 305 S. Perry Street Divorce Care Wednesday nights @6:30-8:00 pm in Room 405B. Child care is available. Contact Kathy Cooper at 241-5125 for
Location: Aldersgate UMC, 6610 Vaughn Rd Cancer Survivors Support Group is sponsored by Samaritan Counseling Center. We would love to have anyone (patient or family member ) join us. Thursdays at 1 pm. Please call before attending just to make sure we are meeting that week. Please call Debbie D at 467-4578 or Ben W at 202-1912. Location: Dalraida Baptist, 3838 Wares Ferry Road. Just for Men -- Faith based cancer support group for men. Meetings are held the second Tuesday of each month at 6 p.m. in the conference center. Please call 272-2412 email stan.hurst@knology.net. Location: ChristChurch, 8800 Vaughn Road Cancer Support Group for general cancer. Tuesday afternoons at 1 pm. For more info, please call Christy Holding at 531-1390 or Debbie at 467-4578.
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Location: Frazer UMC, 6000 Atlanta Hwy. Central Alabama Multiple Myeloma Support Group meets from 10 a.m. to noon the second Saturday of every month in Room 3105. We have guest speakers, video presentations, printed information and a group that welcomes sharing their journey with myeloma in an informal setting. Refreshments are provided. Contact Joe Crowley at 334-207-4385 or jpcrowl46@ yahoo.com Location: Frazer Memorial UMC, 6000 Atlanta Hwy.
Location: Frazer Memorial UMC, 6000 Atlanta Hwy An Alzheimer’s and Dementia Caregivers’ Support Group meets on the first Thursday of each month at 10:30 a.m. in Room 3103. Call 495-6350 for more information.
Location: Frazer Memorial UMC, 6000 Atlanta Hwy. Women of Hope Breast Cancer Support Group, providing education, awareness, and mentoring for breast cancer patients/survivors, family and friends, meets the 2nd Tuesday of each month at 5:30 p.m. in Room 8114. Call 220-4599 or e-mail womenofhope@charter.net
Location: First UMC, 2416 W. Cloverdale Park, An Adult Parkinson/Alzheimer’s respite ministry meets from 10 a.m.-2 p.m. every Monday, Wednesday and Thursday. Lunch is served. Contact Daphne at 834-8990.
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further information. Location: Frazer Memorial UMC, 6000 Atlanta Hwy Divorce Care meets each Tuesday from 6 – 7:30 p.m. Come to the Library area. This group will provide support & guidance to assist you in working through the issues, pain & pressures surrounding divorce. Also, Divorce for Kids is available. Call 495-6350 or e-mail jan@frazerumc.org. January 9 - April 3, 2018 Location: Vaughn Forest Church, 8660 Vaughn Road DivorceCare fosters a weekly supportive and caring environment to heal the hurt of separation and divorce. Call 279-5433.
Gambling
Location: Cedarwood Community Church, 10286 US HWY 231 in the Wallsboro/Wetumpka community. The church is 1 1/2 miles past Tutweiler prison. Gamblers Anonymous, Saturdays at 6 pm. and Mondays at 6:30 pm. Call 567-0476. Location: Mental Health of America, 1116 South Hull Street, Montgomery. Sundays @ 5 pm. For more information about the GA meetings call 334399-6918. For information about counseling services or to request a guest speaker please call the Alabama Council on Compulsive Gambling at 334-277-5100.
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Location: Cornerstone Christian Church, 301 Dalraida Road River Region Survivors of Suicide meets on the second and fourth Thursday of every month (excluding holidays) from 6:30-8:00 PM. This is an open group for those who have lost a loved one to suicide and welcomes anyone regardless of their religious beliefs. Contact Cheryl Vinson at riverregionsos@gmail. com with questions or for more information. Location: Eastmont Baptist, 4505 Atlanta Hwy. Compassionate Friends is a national self-help support organization for families grieving the death of a child meeting first Tuesdays at 7 pm. Call (334) 284-2721 for info. Location: Church of the Highlands, Montgomery Campus, 4255 Taylor Road Eryn’s Embrace is a child-friendly interactive support group for ages 5 and up to help children heal after a loss. Will meet June 14, 4 pm to 5:30 pm. at Church of the Highlands. There is no cost involved. Register by calling Erin Camp, 334.657.1871 or email Erynsembrace@ gmail.com. Location: First UMC, 100 E. Fourth St, Prattville Grief Share, Tuesday evenings at 6:30 pm in the church parlor. Call 365-5977. Location: Frazer UMC, 6000 Atlanta Hwy Grief Recovery Support Group meets Tuesdays at 5:30 p.m., Rm 3105. Call 495-6350 for more info. Location: Grace Baptist Church, 304 Old Montgomery Highway, Wetumpka Mourning to Morning is a Christian growth group
for mothers who have lost a child, from before birth through adulthood. Meets the last Thursday night of each month. For info, contact Alice Scarborough (334) 462-4775 or Gwen Ellis (334) 567-8754 or e-mail mourningtomorning@gmail.com. Join us on Facebook. Location: Millbrook FUMC, 3350 Edgewood Rd Grief Share meets Sundays from 5-7 p.m. For more information or to sign up, please call the church office at 285-4114 or email churchoffice@mfumc.org. Location: Pilgrim Rest Missionary Baptist Church 1550 E. Washington Street Grief support group meets every Monday at 6:00 P.M- 7:00 P.M. For additional information, please contact Alice Glover at (334)281-2754.
Mental Health
Location: Frazer Memorial UMC, 6000 Atlanta Hwy NAMI Montgomery (National Alliance on Mental Illness) meets 2nd Monday of each month from 6:30 – 8:30 p.m. in Room 7205. Group provides understanding, education, & information to family members & friends of those who suffer mental illness. Call Mary Jo Logan at 271-2280 for more info. NAMI Connection (National Alliance on Mental Illness) Support group for individuals with mental illness. Meets every Thursday. 6-7:30 p.m., Room 3103. Call Mary Jo Logan at 271-2280 for more info.
chapel at the Church from Aug - May. We offer a time of fellowship, Bible study, musical guest, special guest speakers and a lot of fun!! Cost is $5 per meeting. For moms of all stages and ages of life. Childcare provided by reservation. Call April Scott at 828-446-6666. Location: First Baptist Church, 305 S. Perry Street MOPS (Mothers of Preschoolers) is a place you can share a good meal, make new friends, and find encouragement as you face the everyday challenges of raising your little ones. We have educational speakers, great conversation, and fun activities. Free childcare is provided. Meetings are every 2nd and 4th Tuesdays, 9:30-11:30 a.m., September through May. Contact Tiffany Alewine at 241-5165.
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Location: Frazer Memorial UMC, 6000 Atlanta Hwy Frazer mom2mom is a playgroup to connect mothers of ages birth to 5 at Frazer UMC to share fun and inspiration in our journey together, with our children, and with Christ. Email Mom2mom@frazerumc.org for more information. Location: Landmark Church, 1800 Halcyon Blvd. Single Moms Support Group, Wednesday nights at 6:30 p.m. in classroom 118. For information call 277-5800.
Parenting
Location: Perry Hill UMC, 910 Perry Hill Road Single Moms’ Care and Support Group meets 2nd and 4th Thursdays from 6:15 - 8:00 PM. December meeting will be on the 11th. Free snack supper provided to moms and children. Child care for infants -16 years. Call 272-3174.
tville, 138 S. Washington Moms LIFE (Living In Faith Everyday) meets twice monthly from 8:30 - 11:45 am in the
Location: Redland Baptist, 1266 Dozier Rd, Wetumpka A MOPS group will be held 1st and 3rd Tuesday’s of every month during the school year, and has scheduled play dates and moms nights out through the summer
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and beyond. While moms are in a MOPS meeting, their children are lovingly cared for in the MOPPETS program. Email Denise Braswell at deniseorscott@ yahoo.com. Location: Vaughn Forest Church, 8660 Vaughn Road Are you in need of a time-out? MOPS joins mothers together by a common bond, to be better wives, moms, and friends along this journey in the trenches of motherhood. We meet the 1st and 3rd Tuesday of each month from 9:30—11:30 a.m. Childcare is provided. For info e-mail VFCMOPS@gmail.com.
Physical Challenges
Location: Aldersgate UMC, 6610 Vaughn Road Visually Impaired Support Group – Meets monthly on second Thursday 1:00 – 2:30 p.m. The group is called Outward Sight - Inward Vision and is for those with vision loss and their caregivers. Our mission is to assist those experiencing vision loss to maintain their independence. Call 272-6152. Location: Frazer Memorial UMC, 6000 Atlanta Hwy. Parkinson’s Support meets 4th Thursdays at 6 pm in Room 8114. Call 495-6350 for more info. Location: Frazer Memorial UMC, 6000 Atlanta Hwy. Ostomy Support meets every other month on the 2nd Sunday at 1:30 p.m. in room 3101. In 2018: Feb., April, June, Aug., Oct., Dec. Call 495-6350 for more info. Location: Vaughn Park Church, 3800 Vaughn Rd. Montgomery Area Down Syndrome Outreach Group meets 2nd Friday of each month from 6:30- 8 PM. We have activities, speakers and special events throughout the year for the parents, siblings and children with Down Syndrome. Childcare is provided. Please visit www.montgomeryareadownsyndrome.com or our Facebook page (MADSOG) for information. Please contact MADSOG at montgomeryareadownsyndrome@gmail.com.
Same Sex Attraction
Location: : Young Meadows Presbyterian Church, 5780 Vaughn Road, Montgomery Upstream Support Group for those dealing with unwanted same sex attraction and family members or loved ones of those who are gay identified. The group meets at 6:30 pm every first, third and fifth Tuesday evenings. For more information call 334.244.1385.
Singlehood
Location: Frazer Memorial UMC, 6000 Atlanta Hwy Boundaries study for singles meets each Tuesday from 6-7:30pm in the Fellowship Hall Lobby. This study will help singles learn to set boundaries with emotions and help avoid the harmful behavior of others. For information, call 495-6386 or email singles@ frazerumc.org. Location: Frazer Memorial UMC, 6000 Atlanta Hwy Single and Parenting! A New Group for Single Mom’s. This group meets every Tuesday from 6-7:30pm for hope & encouragement & guidance & parenting ideas. For information, call 495-6386 or email singles@frazerumc.org.
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Not Idly By A pastor in Washington state concluded his Father’s Day sermon recently by praying this: “Lord...don’t let us be content as men to just let life go by, to see the world around us burn. God, instead, help us to get involved.” The Chicago Tribune reported that as David George, pastor of the Oakville, Washington, Assembly of God Church, concluded his sermon on “The Value of MENtoring,” which the story said was “about how much difference an individual can make in the lives of others,” a new adventure was about to unfold. Later that day, Pastor George, his wife, daughter, and granddaughter went to a Walmart over 25 miles away to Tumwater, WA, to make an exchange. As they stood in the checkout line, he heard the sound of gunshots. The Tribune reported that a “crime rampage was unfolding.” The article stated: A man was firing a handgun at the store’s locked ammunition case to grab more bullets. He had already carjacked a vehicle that day and attempted to hijack another one, firing shots and wounding people along the way, Tumwater police say. Now he was stocking up on ammunition for more carnage in the store’s parking lot. The shooter then went into the parking lot and tried to carjack another vehicle - the driver resisted and was shot twice. He then broke into another vehicle, when he was confronted: At that point, Tumwater police said, an armed civilian confronted the shooter, drawing his handgun, firing and killing the gunman. That same armed civilian then administered medical aid to the carjacking victim until help arrived. River Region’s Journey
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Where was Pastor George? He was the civilian who took out the shooter! The Tribune reported that: He is also an Oakville volunteer firefighter and EMT who happens to be licensed to carry a concealed firearm and is specifically trained to use it against a desperate gun-wielding criminal. A credentialed firing-range safety
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officer, George said he had received activeshooter training. The pastor did not publicly reveal himself as the hero in the story until four days later. He said in a statement, “I was sure it was gunshots I heard...and I was familiar with how I should respond, while considering mine and the public’s safety in the setting of this large store.” He was cognizant of his family’s safety, as well as those in the store. The pastor also stated: “I acted on Sunday to protect my family and others from the gunman and his display of deadly intent,” adding, “This is in accordance with both my training as an emergency responder and calling as a pastor, husband, father and grandfather.” The pastor’s prayer that morning was about involvement, and he asked the Lord to enable him and the men in attendance that Father’s Day to not just be content “to just let life go
by, to see the world around us burn.” This is consistent with a concept I like to share about being ready and responsive - we can be sensitive as God opens opportunities. It may not be an opportunity to save a life; fortunately, Pastor George had the training and knowledge to be able to intervene here. But, our responsiveness could result in someone coming into a divine encounter, including the possibility of coming to a saving knowledge of Christ. Who knows what God has in store - but He desires for us to walk in that state of willingness for the Spirit to move through us. It does seem that the world certainly is burning – replete with fiery rhetoric and the potential for conflict. In response, we can consider how we as believers can infuse our culture with grace. That doesn’t call for backing off the truth, but we can set a different tone. We are called to boldly proclaim our position on who Jesus is and what He has done. But, we can do so in a compelling manner. We can follow a principle of “disagree, but not demonize.” I think of the concept that leading Christian apologist Greg Koukl talks about: “diplomacy, not D-Day.” It can be tough, especially when we are confronted by what I see as an exclusionary mindset that has permeated society today. Unfortunately, Christians all too often find themselves on the receiving end. From speech codes on college campuses to attempts to force believers to adopt and express positions with which they disagree, people of faith have faced extraordinary challenges regarding free expression, which becomes an inhibition to the spread of the gospel. But, we cannot allow ourselves to be intimidated. The fact is, we are called by God, we belong, and our faith is part of the fabric of our society. So with boldness, tempered by the character and compassion of Christ, we can make people aware of the presence and principles of the Lord.
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Allow Them to Earn It Q. Our daughter just turned 10 years old. Is now the right time to start giving her an allowance, and start teaching her about money?
A. I’m glad you’re going to teach your daughter about money. But in my mind, there’s never a time for an allowance. I believe that kind of thinking, and using words like “allowance,” are some of the best ways to instill an attitude of entitlement in a child. I don’t think you want your daughter growing up with the idea she deserves money simply because she’s alive. My advice is to develop a method by which she can earn commissions. Write down a daily or weekly list of jobs around the house that are age-appropriate she will be responsible for doing. Then, at the
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end of the week, she gets paid for jobs she completed — and she doesn’t get paid for the ones she didn’t do. The idea is to teach her that work creates money, and teach a healthy work ethic at the same time. Of course, there are some things a child should be expected to do without financial reward. Everyone needs to pitch in, and do certain things to help when they’re part of a family. And once you’ve taught her about the importance and rewards of work, make sure to also teach her about the three uses for money — saving, spending, and giving!
Step by Step Q. When is the right time to buy a house when someone is following your Baby Steps plan?
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A. That’s a good question. Let’s start by going over the first few Baby Steps. Baby Step 1 is saving $1,000 for a beginner emergency fund. Baby Step 2 is paying off all consumer debt, from smallest to largest, using the debt snowball. Baby Step 3 is where you increase your emergency fund to the point where you have three to six months of expenses set aside. Once you’ve done all that you can begin saving for a home. I’ll call it Baby Step 3b. For folks looking to buy a house, I advise saving enough money for a down payment of at least 20 percent. I don’t beat people up over mortgage debt, but I do advise them to get a 15-year, fixed rate loan, where the payments are no more than 25 percent of their monthly take-home pay. Doing it this way may take a little more time, and delay your dream of becoming a homeowner a bit, but buying a house when you’re broke is the quickest way I know to turn something that should be a blessing into a burden!
RAISING AWARENESS OF THE THREAT OF ANTIBIOTIC RESISTANCE AND THE IMPORTANCE OF APPROPRIATE ANTIBIOTIC PRESCRIBING AND USE IN THE COMMUNITIES, IN HEALTHCARE FACILITIES, AND ON THE FARM
• At least 80 million antibiotic prescriptions each year are unnecessary. • Antibiotics are only needed for treating certain infections caused by bacteria. • Antibiotics do not work on viruses such as colds and flu. • Antibiotics are not always the answer. Everyone can help improve antibiotic prescribing and use. • S tay healthy and keep others healthy by washing hands, covering cough, staying home when sick and getting recommended vaccines.
Viruses or Bacteria: What’s got you sick? Common Condition:
Common Cause Bacteria
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Whooping cough
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Urinary tract infection
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Bronchitis/chest cold (in otherwise healthy children and adults)*
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*Studies show that in otherwise healthy children and adults, antibiotics for bronchitis won’t help you feel better.
www.cdc.gov/antibiotic-use
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