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How To Be Friendly - S.P.I.T.
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How To Join In
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What To Do If The Kids Say “No!”
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How To Co-operate
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Knowing About My Feelings
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How To Calm Down
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How To Ignore
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How To Trick Stinkin Thinkin
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How To Do Supa Thinkin
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How To Spot Sillyness The Fun Wrecker
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How To Trick Sillyness The Fun Wrecker
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How To Deal With Cool And Cruel Teasing
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How To Deal With Bullying
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So What Happens Next?
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How To B_ Fri_n^ly – S.P.I.T.
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S.P.I.T. stands for……………………………………………………………………… ………………………………………………………………………………………...........
Who is the friendliest person that you know?......................................... ………………………………………………………………………………………………
What does that person do that makes them seem so friendly? ……………………………………………………………………………………………… ……………………………………………………………………………………………… ................................................................................................................................. ………………………………………………………………………………………………
If you wanted to give that friendly person some praise for being so friendly, what would you say?................................................................ ………………………………………………………………………………………........... ……………………………………………………………………………………………… ……………………………………………………………………………………………… ………………………………………………………………………………………………
If 10 out of 10 was the top score anyone could get for being friendly, what mark would you give yourself?........................................ I like it when someone praises me for……………………………………….. ……………………………………………………………………………………………… ………………………………………………………………………………………………
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If you wanted to be more friendly, what sort of things would you do more of?......................................................................................................... ……………………………………………………………………………………………… ……………………………………………………………………………………………… ………………………………………………………………………………………………
Finish these sentences: (You can look in your book on page Don’t forget, praise is like……………………………………………………….. ……………………………………………………………………………………………… ………………………………………………………………………………………...........
If you don’t talk to others……………………………………………….. ……………………………………………………………………………………………… ………………………………………………………………………………………………
Every new friendship begins with………………………………………. ………………………………………………………………………………………………
Don’t forget your smile…………………………………………………………… ……………………………………………………………………………………………… ………………………………………………………………………………………………
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How To Join In
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What are 2 other questions the boy could have asked when he wanted to join in? ............................................................................................. ………………………………………………………………………………………........... ………………………………………………………………………………………........... ………………………………………………………………………………………........... ……………………………………………………………………………………………… ………………………………………………………………………………………………
What are 2 friendly answers the other boy could give?................. ………………………………………………………………………………………........... ……………………………………………………………………………………………… ………………………………………………………………………………………........... ……………………………………………………………………………………………… ………………………………………………………………………………………………
A new way I could ask to join in is to say………………………………….. ……………………………………………………………………………………………… ………………………………………………………………………………………........... ………………………………………………………………………………………………
The person at school who I invite the most to join in games with me is………............................................................................................................. …………………………………...because…………………………………………… ……………………………………………………………………………………………… ………………………………………………………………………………………………
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If I wanted to tell my friend called………………………..why I invite him/her to do lots of things with me, I would say:…………………........ ‘…………………………………………………………………………………………… ………………………………………………………………………………………………
Two kids at school who I could invite into more games are ……………………………………………………………………………………………… That would be a good idea because…………………………………………….. ……………………………………………………………………………………………… ………………………………………………………………………………………………
o Why was the broom late? It over swept. o Waiter, this soup tastes funny. Then why aren’t you laughing? o I'm not going back to school ever again. Why not? The teacher doesn't know a thing; all she does is ask questions.
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Wh[t To Do If Th_ Ki^s S[y ‘No’
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What’s happening in the picture?.............................................................. ……………………………………………………………………………………………… ………………………………………………………………………………………………
The girl who is walking away looks like she is feeling ………………. ………………………………………………………………………………………………
What is she thinking?....................................................................................... ……………………………………………………………………………………………… ………………………………………………………………………………………………
What is the name of that sort of thinking?........................................ Supa thinkin helps you feel……………………………………………………… ………………………………………………………………………………………………
If the kids say: ‘No, you can’t join in our game’ what are 3 things you don’t do? Don’t……………………………………………………………………………………… Don’t……………………………………………………………………………………… Don’t....................................................................................................................... What are 2 things you don’t say?............................................................... ……………………………………………………………………………………………… ……………………………………………………………………………………………… ……………………………………………………………………………………………… ………………………………………………………………………………………………
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What will you say if someone says to you that you can’t join in their game or group?....................................................................................... ……………………………………………………………………………………………… ………………………………………………………………………………………………
What will you think to yourself?.................................................................... ……………………………………………………………………………………………… ………………………………………………………………………………………………
o o o What do you call a boomerang that won’t come back? A stick. o Why do kangaroo mums hate bad weather? Because the joeys have to play inside.
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New skills I’ve learned that I’m going to try out at school
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How To Co-op_r[t_
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Co-operation means…………………………………………………................... ………………………………………………………………………………………...........
The opposite of co-operation is………………………………….................... ………………………………………………………………………………………...........
You don’t co-operate with something if it is……………………………… …………………………………or ………………………………………………………...
Somebody who tries to make you co-operate with something dangerous is called a bul………………………………………………………. ………………………………………………………………………………………...........
In a team you only need to co-operate when you want to. Is
that true or false? ………………………………………………………………….. T.E.A.M. stands for: Together E………………………………………………… Ach………………………………………………M……………………………………….
I am good at co-operating when……………………………………………. ……………………………………………………………………………………………… ………………………………………………………………………………………………
It’s hard for me to co-operate when………………………………………... ……………………………………………………………………………………………… ………………………………………………………………………………………………
Out of all your friends, which person would win ‘The Champion of Co-operating’ ……………………………………………………………………. 15
Knowing @\out My F__lings
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The names of some feelings are………………………………………………. ……………………………………………………………………………………………… ………………………………………………………………………………………………
What is the cartoon for ‘Knowing About My Feelings’ telling us about feelings?..................................................................................... …………………………………………………………………………………………….... ……………………………………………………………………………………………… ………………………………………………………………………………………………
Feelings are also called emot………………………………………………….. When someone is telling you how they are feeling, they might say ‘Im in a happy ‘moo.....’ or I’m in a grumpy ‘moo……’ What are two feelings you have when it’s the last day of school before the holidays ? …………………………………………………… ………………………………………………………………………………………………
If your legs feel like wobbly jelly you could be feeling……………….. ………………………………………………………………………………………………
If your head feels like it’s going to burst you might feeling………… ………………………………………………………………………………………………
If you have a big knot in your stomach you could be feeling……. ………………………………………or……………………………………………………
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Happiness is the opposite of……………………………………………………. but the same as……………………………………………………………………… Worry is also called ………………………………………………………………… I feel excited when……………………………………………………………........ ………………………………………………………………………………………...........
I feel sad when……………………………………………………………………….. ………………………………………………………………………………………………
I feel nervous when........................................................................................... ……………………………………………………………………………………………… ………………………………………………………………………………………………
I feel proud when……………………………………………………………………. ………………………………………………………………………………………........... ………………………………………………………………………………………...........
I feel happy when…………………………………………………………………… ………………………………………………………………………………………...……. ………………………………………………………………………………...…………….
This morning when I woke up I was feeling……………………………….. Right now, I’m feeling………………………………………………………………
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If I gave my mood a score out of 10 for happiness right now, and 10 meant I weas really happy and 0 meant I was really unhappy, I would get this score ……………………………………….. Don’t forget your smile it’s right…………………………………..................... ………………………..……………………………………………………………………. (Clue: the answer is on page 57 of your big book)
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How To C[lm Down
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What is happening in the picture?..................................................... ………………………………………………………………………………… ………………………………………………………………………………… Calming Down means……………………………………………………. ………………………………………………………………………………… ………………………………………………………………………………… Adults call calming down rela………………………………………….. What do we call the thinking that the girl is doing?........................ ………………………………………………………………………………… The girl is trying to feel bra……….not scar………..or nerv…………. Feeling calm and feeling…………………………………are like best …………………………….; they go together (Clue: The answers are on page 82 of your big book)
Calming Down helps me when I……………………………………….. ………………………………………………………………………………… ………………………………………………………………………………… It also helps when these things happen: (Clue: The answers are on pages 82 & 83 of your big book)
1. ............................................................................................................ …………………………………………………………………………………
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2. ……………………………………………………………………………... ………………………………………………………………………………… 3. ……………………………………………………………………………... ………………………………………………………………………………… 4. ……………………………………………………………………………... ………………………………………………………………………………… 5. ……………………………………………………………………………... ………………………………………………………………………………… 6. ……………………………………………………………………………... ………………………………………………………………………………… A Calming Down Champion is someone who can………………… ………………………………………………………………………………… ………………………………………………………………………………… ………………………………………………………………………………… (Clue: The answer is on page 84 of your big book)
Three cheers for Calming Down Hip ………………………………….. ………………………………………………………………………………… …………………………………………………………………………………
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I will be a Calming Down Champion by the time I am …………... years old When I become a Calming Down Champion, my family will say …………………………………………………………………………………
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How To Ignor_
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What is happening in the picture? ……………………………………. ………………………………………………………………………………… ………………………………………………………………………………… Ignoring is pretending…………………………………………………….. ………………………………………………………………………………… (Clue: the answer is on page 85 of your big book)
The boy in the picture is ignoring………………………………………. ………………………………………………………………………………… He is doing Su…………….Thin…………………………………………… If I wanted to praise that boy, I would say to him: …………………. ………………………………………………………………………………… There are 2 types of ignoring: Help…………………….Ignoring and Un………………………………Ignoring Unhelpful Ignoring is when I…………………………………………….. ………………………………………………………………………………… ………………………………………………………………………………… Helpful Ignoring is when I………………………………………………… ………………………………………………………………………………… …………………………………………………………………………………
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Before you can learn how to do Helpful Ignoring, you need to become a Calm……………………………………………..Champion (Clue: The answer is on page 87 of your big book)
You can learn to grow Calming ……………………… .into Ignoring First, you do the sev………………Calming Down Tricks (Clue: the answer is on page 88 of your big book)
The 7 Calming Down Tricks are: 1. Lie, sit or………………………….still 2. No………………………………….(zip your lips) 3. Find something to ………………………; a flower; a toy; a ………………………..on your arm; anything that is …………………. and ………………………….. 4. Keep looking,…………………………………………………………… and ………………………………….at it 5. Breathe softly and…………………………….. like you’re blowing …………………………..Important! It’s your……………………button that should move, not your shoulders! 6. Do some Supa Thinkin like, ‘Chill ………’; ‘Take………………….; ‘Sss…………………’; ‘Everything………………………………………...; ‘You’re………………………………….’ 7. Keep doing those 6 …………………until your arms and……….. 26
Feel floppy, and your………………and heart feel ………………….. 8. Add in some Supa Thinkin, like: ‘I can………………………...; I’m doing a good job…………………………………………………………’ ‘I can do………………………….., I know………………………………’
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How To Tri]k Stinkin Thinkin
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What is happening in the picture? …………………………………………. ……………………………………………………………………………………………… ………………………………………………………………………………………........... ………………………………………………………………………………………………
Is the big brother feeling annoyed, angry or excited?....................... ………………………………………………………………………………………………
The big brother might get into a gru…………………………..mood The big brother is doing St……………………………………………….. The opposite of Stinkin Thinkin is………………………………………………. Can you think of another fun name for Stinkin Thinkin?..................... ………………………………………………………………………………………………
Something that I get very angry about is when: .................................. ……………………. .………………………………………………………………………. ………………………………………………………………………………………...........
That’s when my Stinkin Thinkin is usually something like this: ……………………………………………………………………………………………… ………………………………………………………………………………………........... ………………………………………………………………………………………...........
A Stinkin Thinkin Detective is someone who is good at knowing when St………………………………………………………..is hanging ………………………(Clue: the answer is on page 94 of your big book)
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Stinkin Thinkin That I Am Not Going To Do
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Let’s have some jokes. All of that Stinkin Thinkin is too much!!
o What word is always pronounced wrong? Wrong. o What gets bigger the more you take from it? A hole.
Do you know any more jokes? ………………………………………………………………………………… ………………………………………………………………………………… ………………………………………………………………………………… ………………………………………………………………………………… ………………………………………………………………………………… ………………………………………………………………………………… ………………………………………………………………………………...
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How To Do Sup[ Thinkin
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What is happening in the picture?..................................................... ………………………………………………………………………………… ………………………………………………………………………………… The big brother is feeling…………………………………………………. He is doing Su………………………………………………………………. The opposite of Supa Thinkin is………………………………………….. Supa Thinkin is when you talk…………………………………………… to yourself (Clue: the answer is on page 97 of your big book) Supa Thinkin is like ‘Brain……………………Juice’ because it helps you to feel…………………………………………………………………... calm and………………..(Clue: the answers are on page 97 & 98 of your big book) Supa Thinkin is thoughts like: ……………………………………………. ………………………………………………………………………………… ………………………………………………………………………………… ………………………………………………………………………………… ………………………………………………………………………………... (Clue: the answers are on page 98 of your big book)
Three cheers for Supa Thinkin: Hip Hip H……………………………...; Hip……………………………Hurrah; H……………………………………
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My Favourite Supa Thinkin
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How To Spot Sillyn_ss Th_ Fun Wr_]k_r
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What is happening in the picture?..................................................... ………………………………………………………………………………… ………………………………………………………………………………… ………………………………………………………………………………… Sillyness, The Fun Wrecker is when fun goes …………………………. (Clue: the answer is on page 101 of your big book)
These are some types of Sillyness: (Clue: the answers are on page 101 & 102 of your big book)
Talking in a baby voice ………………………………………………….. ………………………………………………………………………………… Saying rude…………………………………………………………………. Laughing and laughing………………………………………………….. ………………………………………………………………………………… Running off with the ball so that……………………………………….. ………………………………………………………………………………… Do you know of some other Sillyness?............................................... ………………………………………………………………………………… ………………………………………………………………………………… ………………………………………………………………………………… …………………………………………………………………………………
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Sillyness is a Fun Wrecker because (Clue: the answers are on page 102 & 103 of your big book)
Kids get……………………………………………………………………… Kids think you’re……………………………………………………………. Kids think you’ll break…………………………………………………….. Kids think you’re mean…………………………………………………… They stop……………………………………………………………………. Parents tell their kids………………………………………………………. You might get blamed even……………………………………………. ………………………………………………………………………………… Nobody is sure……………………………………………………………… Nobody invites you ………………………………………………………. Here’s how you become a Spotting Sillyness Det…………………... (Clue: the answers are on page 104 of your big book)
Get a little notepad and call it your ‘…………………………………. Detective Diary’ Write in the Diary any Silly………………………………………….that ………………………………………………………………………………… Show the Diary to your…………………………………………………… Tell them why what happened was S………………………………….
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How To Tri]k Sillyn_ss Th_ Fun Wr_]k_r
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What’s happening in the picture?.............................................................. ……………………………………………………………………………………………… ……………………………………………………………………………………………… ……………………………………………………………………………………………… ……………………………………………………………………………………………… ………………………………………………………………………………………………
The big brother is feeling................................................................................ ………………………………………………………………………………………………
He is doing……………………………..Thinkin because he is telling him ………………………………………………………………………………………………
self not to…………………………………………..................................................... ………………………………………………………………………………………...........
It’s hard to be calm when……………………………………………………….. ………………………………………………………………………………………………
What do you think the baby might be feeling?.................................... ……………………………………………………….......................................................
The baby doesn’t know that……………………………………………………. ………………………………………………………………………………………...........
If the big boy keeps doing S……………Thinkin he will feel…………….. ………………………………………………………………………………………………
When things go wrong for me, I feel………………………………………… ………………………………………………………………………………………………
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How to D_[l With Cool @n^ Cru_l T_[sing
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What is happening in the picture?............................................................. ………………………………………………………………………………………........... ………………………………………………………………………………………........... ……………………………………………………………………………………………… ………………………………………………………………………………………………
Is this Cool or Cruel Teasing?......................................................................... Do you think ‘Bookworm Kid’ is feeling: (put a tick in the right ones) sad
angry
happy
relaxed
annoyed
proud
Does ‘Bookworm Kid’ think it is Cool or Cruel Teasing? ………………………………………………………………………………………………
I can sometimes laugh if someone teases me about……….……… ………………………………………………………………………………… That’s when I could say…………………………………………………………… ………………………………………………………………………………………........... ..................................................................................................................................
The Triple A’s for Teasing are : o Ag………………………………………………
o Ask a……………………………………. o Ask to………………………………………….
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An Agree answer would be: ‘Yes, that’s …………………………….’ An Ask a Question answer would be: ‘Do you really………………. …………………………………..?’ An Ask to Stop answer would be: ‘Leave me ………………………. and mind…………………………own…………………………………...’ My favourite Agree answer is…………………………………………… ………………………………………………………………………………… My favourite Ask a Question answer is………………………………... ………………………………………………………………………………… My favourite Ask to Stop answer is…………………………………….. ………………………………………………………………………………… …………………………………………………………………………………
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How To D_[l With Bullying
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What is happening in the picture?............................................................. ………………………………………………………………………………………........... ………………………………………………………………………………………........... ………………………………………………………………………………………........... ……………………………………………………………………………………………… ………………………………………………………………………………………………
Why is that bullying not teasing?................................................................. ………………………………………………………………………………………........... ………………………………………………………………………………………........... ……………………………………………………………………………………………… ……………………………………………………………………………………………… ………………………………………………………………………………………………
Bullies are people who……………………………………………………………. ………………………………………………………………………………………........... ………………………………………………………………………………………………
The bully in the picture is feeling………………………………………............ ………………………………………………………………………………………………
The other boy is feeling……………………………………………………………. ………………………………………………………………………………………………
Bullies are not heroes, they are………………………………………….......... (Clue: the answer is on page 124 of your big book)
The Six Step……………………………………………………….is what you do
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if……………………………………………………………………………………............. ..................................................................................................................................
This is the Six Step Stick Up: (Clue: Answers are on page 120 of your big book) 1. Stand…………..on…………………feet and hold your shoulders……………………………………………………………………. 2. Keep your chin……..and………………..at the……………………. eyes 3. Stay……………………….and keep both………………….by your ………………………………………………………………………………… 4. Stand tall, speak slowly in a…………………and strong (but not shouting………………….) and say ”…………………………….it and leave me…………………………………” 5. Keep looking at the……………………………………..eyes for………… seconds before you……………………away 6. Keep……………………………………………away and don’t ………………………………..or look …………………………………….
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@ Quiz 1. You should always ignore bullies
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False
2. Only boys are bullies
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False
3. Bullies are just trying to have fun
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False
4. Getting bullied is a normal part of growing up
True False
5. Keep quiet about the bullying and it will stop
True False
6. If someone is being mean to you then it’s OK to bully them
True False
7. Girls’ bullying can be sneaky and silent
True False
8. The Six Step Stick Up has 6 steps
True False
9. Bullies always grow up to be famous people
True False
10. S.P.I.T. means 4 ways to be friendly
True False
11. Cool teasing can be fun
True False
12. Telling jokes is a good way to have fun with others
True False
13. Teasing can be Cool or Cruel
True
False
14. If I practise all these skills, I’ll get better and better at them
True
False
15. When I have fun on the playground, I feel very happy
True
False
(The answers are on page 50 of this book)
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So Wh[t H[pp_ns N_xt?
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Which skills that you have learned do you think will help you the most? ………………………………………………………………………... 1. ………………………………………………………………………………....… ……………………………………………………………………………………
2. ………………………………………………………………………………....... ……………………………………………………………………………………
3. ……………………………………………………………………………………. …………………………………………………………………………………….
What will become your favourite one?............................................ ………………………………………………………………………………………..
Why?................................................................................................................ ......................................................................................................................... ………………………………………………………………………………………... ………………………………………………………………………………………...
When will you start practising your skills? ........................................ ……………………………………………………………………………………….. ……………………………………………………………………………………….
Who will do the role plays with you?................................................. ………………………………………………………………………………………...
You are a Ch……………………………………of……………………………. ……………………………………………………………..for learning all this
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Now that you are a Champion, it’s time to make your own Certificate:
My Ch[mpion C_rtifi][t_
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Well we’ve come to the end. But it’s not really the end, because you are going to have lots of times when you will be able to use all the things that you have learned. So don’t put the book away. Put it somewhere that you will see it often, and don’t forget to open it up and read over all of your answers. Have fun. Be kind to yourself. Try hard. Never give up. Be kind to others. Laugh lots. Say thank you often. Think about all the good things in your life. And send us an email at admin@kidzmix.com and tell us what skills you have been using from the book Chow for Now!
Answers to the Quiz on page 46 of this book Numbers 1 – 6 are all False; Numbers 7 & 8 are True; Number 9 is False; Numbers 10-15 are True
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