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Coping with Your Adolescent.... ‌..your adolescent coping with you King Edward VI School Parents Wednesday 9th May 2018

Continuum of Emotional wellbeing

Wholly content, positive and optimistic

Despair, hopeless, possibly suicidal

Did you know....?

Statistically….

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Over 194 current KES boys and girls will suffer from depression at some stage of their lives, many before they leave school

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Approximately 97 are suffering from a diagnosable mental health problem today

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About 42 will suffer from an anxiety or stress disorder

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A similar number girls AND boys will suffer from a relationship with food - or exercise - that is a significant cause for concern

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Approximately 30 of the current 6th form will have selfharmed

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75% of all mental health disorders originate during adolescence, 50% by age 15

What is adolescence?

(The Limbic System)

DNA(Nature)

BEHAVIOUR

TRIGGERS

EMOTION

COGNITION

PHYSIOLOGY EXPERIENCE (Nurture)

ANXIETY AND STRESS DISORDERS Generalised Anxiety Disorder

Panic Disorder

OCD

Separation Disorder

PTSD

Phobic Disorder Acute Stress Disorder

SELF-HARM 13% of 15/16 year olds Three times more girls than boys

It works……

Release of emotional pain

Depression “...a

loss of interest and enjoyment in ordinary things and experiences...low mood and a range of associated emotional, cognitive, physical and behavioural symptoms.�

National Clinical Practice Guideline

Signs and Symptoms •Tearful •Withdrawn from friends and/or family •No longer enjoying hobbies •Unable to concentrate •Sadness •Tired all the time •Poor communication •Feeling hopeless or helpless •Irritable •Lack of motivation •Anxious •Angry •Neglect of appearance and/or hygiene

DEPRESSED? OR JUST A BIT HACKED OFF?

Duration Distress Disability

Top Tips!

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Encourage fresh air, exercise and decent sleep!

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Encourage laughter and fun! Always leave space and time to chill!

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Negotiate than than dictate: imposition should be last resort

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Communicate with school and with anyone with whom your son/daughter has a positive relationship

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Talk to your son/daughter - even if he/she doesn’t talk to you!

More Top Tips!

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Listen to him/her, even if he/she doesn’t listen to you! Try to avoid judging…

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Don’t hesitate to speak to your doctor if you feel your son/ daughter’s emotional wellbeing is under threat. Be pushy if necessary.

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Avoid imposing your own aspirations: A*s are not essential for a happy life

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Discuss emotions: Prepare for failure and ‘Man Up’!

Take a deep breath and don’t insist on the last word

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