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February, 2012 Volume I • Issue 2 Michael Kull and Eva Nations, Publishers Advisory Board

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contents

14 It’s a Mitzvah

Live and Learn: Smile - What would we do differently if we were teens again?

Childwise: Smart advice for Parents

House Calls: Surviving flu season

Kid’s Plate: Smoothie snack treats

Servings from the Cereal Bowl

18 What state are we in?

The List: Ten terrific books about Abraham Lincoln

19 A safe place to get help

History Mystery: The Fracas over Franklin

Calendar Listings

Camp counselors are prepared for any job.

15 Adolescents and acting out 16 Be the wall between teens and alcohol 17 Get involved in your child’s middle and high

school years

20 Making time for homework - and for fun! 21 Because I said so: Balancing act 22 The Dad Dispatch: Wanting, but waiting

on the cover:

Being a camp counselor teaches leadership, management experience and people-skills that turn a teenager into an attractive job applicant with proven skills. Read more in this issue. Photo Courtesy of Joanne Bryan.

Knoxville Parent welcomes your comments, story ideas and advertising inquiries. Contact Michael Kull at KnoxvilleParent@gmail.com 3

February 2012

What would we do differently if we were teens again?

f you are among those who have considered revisiting your teen years to determine if another try at it would get a better outcome, you may want to rethink it. Even in movies like Freaky Friday and 17 Again, the trip back doesn’t have much appeal and accomplishes little more than a brief escape from present regrets. Unless you were prom queen or captain of the football team, going back is sure to mean teenage feelings of inadequacy, pimples, and hokier fad diets. In the book, Dear Me: A Letter to My Sixteen-YearOld Self, editor Joseph Galliano and some famous folks try their hands at sharing the advice they would give themselves as teenagers. Here is a glimpse at what some contributors wrote: Rock Singer Alice Cooper’s advice to his sixteen year old self: “Trashy girls are excitin’ for about 5 minutes. Keep your eye out for a really good-lookin’ church girl. Then you’ll have the best of both worlds.”

“It was a truly illuminating exercise. It made me look at my seventeen-year-old daughter and remember, in a more powerful way than ever before, just how raw and vivid life is for her, in a way that it has been only intermittently for me as an adult.”

“Yes, that inadequacy. It’s there all the time, isn’t it? Will you remember your lines? Will that girl ever put her arms around you and tell you that she loves you? Dweezil Zappa, son of Frank, is pictured Enjoy those feelings of inadequacy… What will be, will be, Stephen King (The Shining, Misery) here with his daughters Zola and Ceylon. and although there is much you can do about it, in the end, “It’s simple, really, just five words: stay away from recrethere isn’t much you can do about it. The idea is to keep trying. Don’t let up. Things ational drugs.” happen---good, bad, dull, and exciting. Survive, struggle, and keep the love in your JK Rowling (Harry Potter) heart.” “Attempting to isolate those life lessons I could pass back to the girl I used to be. It Lu and I think that the advice “to your teenage self ” is covered nicely in made me look at my seventeen-year-old daughter and remember, in a more powerful way than ever before, just how raw and vivid life is for her, in a way that it these lines, so we thought about the advice we could offer to teenagers still has been only intermittently for me as an adult. I would not go back to sixteen for out there and reading this column. It’s rather important and still within anything you could give me, and yet I still recognize that she has something I have your control. It could be the most important advice you take within the next ten years! lost along the way— something I had to lose, to stay sane.” Here it is: Begin now thinking about what you will name your unborn William Shatner (Star Trek) children. We won’t lecture you but we’ll build a case for consideration. A name can be special enough to say “Hey, world, I’m here!” but it should not say, “Hey world, I’m the child of parents who may have been delusional 15 years ago!” It must be great, for example, to be a celebrity kid, but how will they feel explaining these names in high school: Apple (child of Gywneth Paltrow), Dweezil (Frank Zappa), Blanket (Michael Jackson), Kal-el (Nicholas Cage). This name thing is just something you still have time to think about before you write history on your child’s birth certificate. Take it from two “happy to have plain names”---Lu and Edna. Veteran educators Lu Lewis and Edna Varner collaborate each month to address a topic of particular concern to area parents. If you have a concern you’d like them to discuss in print, send it to Lu and Edna at either ChattanoogaParent@ gmail.com or KnoxvilleParent@gmail.com.

February 2012

Art therapy is a good choice for teens who are reluctant to talk about their problems. Many need help identifying their feelings and expressing them appropriately. for her behaviors and their outcomes. She named her drawing “fuzzy” because of its prickly sharp edges and claws. Other examples of the payoffs/benefits for this behavior followed by several examples of the consequences/costs, ending with a new character, “Fluffy,” with softer and smoother edges. The drawings reflect her understanding of behavior and consequences, moving from “fuzzy” to “fluffy”.

Dear Childwise: My teen daughter is struggling. She has been resistant to talking with us and is afraid of going to a therapist. She is very creative so we have thought about art therapy. How can it help her? Debbie M.

Dear Debbie, Many teens struggle with social issues and exhibit rebellious tendencies as they seek their “place” with peers, family and school. Art therapy is a good choice for teens who are reluctant to talk about their problems. Many need s help identifying their feelings and expressing them appropriately. Most r importantly teens need help making the connection between attitude, behavior and consequences. L. was a quirky, intelligent adolescent diagnosed with Oppositional Defiant Disorder. Diagnosed with ongoing behavior issues she has had exposure to several types of therapy – equestrian therapy and vision therapy - but she loves to draw. Art therapy enhances her self esteem and builds on an existing area of strength. She came to art therapy as she was transitioning from home school to “real” school after several years of small group and 1:1 adult time. This pre-teen was out of touch with her feelings and not interested in other people’s. The onset of puberty and returning to a typical school classroom inspired her to work on her social skills. These drawings were prompted to lay out the causes and effects of negative social behavior. This implies selfawareness and discernment between Learning the relationship between behavior and negative and positive behaviors and consequences changed L’s empowers L. to take full responsibility drawings from fuzzy to fluffy.

Jas Milam graduated from Sarah Lawrence College and has a Masters degree in Art and Art Therapy. Jas conducts workshops and facilitates art therapy groups. The responses provided by Jas are for general information only and are not intended to represent or replace professional consultation or intervention specific to a particular child or family. Do you have a parenting question? Send it to Childwise c/o Chattanooga Parent via e-mail: ChattanoogaParent@gmail.com, or to Childwise c/o Knoxville Parent via e-mail: KnoxvilleParent@ gmail.com.

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February 2012

Surviving flu season: What the doctor says By Lori Patterson, M.D.

t’s flu season again. This contagious virus makes parents and children alike feel just plain awful.

health care provider about whether your child should be examined if he or she develops flu symptoms this season. Children younger than 5 years and children with other medical conditions (such as asthma) are at particular risk for flu complications

What is the flu? The flu, as it is most commonly known, is a contagious respiratory illness caused by influenza viruses. It is spread through respiratory droplets that are expelled when a person coughs or sneezes and is usually spread from person to person. The flu can be mild to severe and can even cause death. Symptoms include chills, high fever, dry cough, sore throat, headache, decreased appetite, achiness and exhaustion. People can be contagious one to four days before they have any flu symptoms; they will remain contagious as long as symptoms remain. A typical case of the flu will last 7-14 days.

Are there ways to prevent the flu? Flu vaccine is the key! Children should receive the influenza vaccine each year (the vaccine can be given in children as young as 6 months of age). Shots or Flumist are both good options, depending on your child’s age and overall health. Children, especially toddlers and preschoolers, usually are the ones who introduce the flu into a household. Studies have proven that when there is broad flu vaccine coverage in young children, the occurrence of the flu drops significantly in the adult population, so vaccinating your children can help not only them but also you and other family and friends.

What should I do if I suspect my child has the flu? Keep your child home and avoid contact with other people except to get medical care. Flu can be serious, so talk to a

Other tips: • Wash hands frequently and thoroughly. If water and soap are not handy, use an alcohol-based hand sanitizer. • Avoid close contact with people who are sick. • Limit young children’s exposure to large groups of children, such as group daycare settings or church nurseries, if possible. • Stay at home when sick to prevent exposing others, and especially avoid contact with elderly people or small children. Sick children should stay away from school or day care until they have been without fever for 24 hours. • Avoid touching your mouth, nose and eyes.

Yin Yang: The Art of Relationships an Art Therapy group for Mothers and Daughters With artist / art therapist Jas Milam, MAAT In this eight week session teens and moms will learn that healthy relationships are formed by healthy people. To this end we will use a variety of art media and assignments designed to teach young people how to prepare for and attract healthy relationships. Date: Tuesday evenings this winter: February 28 – April 17 , 2012 Time: 5:30 - 8:00 p.m. simple supper included Cost: $750/pair mothers and teen daughters (ages 12-19) Where: Planet Altered, 48 East Main Street, downtown Chattanooga th

Register: call Jean Huddleston (423) 400-4100 non-refundable deposit $375 due by February20 Planet Altered is open Tuesday-Friday 10 a.m.-5:00 p.m.

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• Eat a healthy diet, including fruits and vegetables, vitamin-rich foods and plenty of water. • Get plenty of rest. • Cover your mouth and nose when coughing or sneezing. • Use tissues to catch secretions and dispose promptly in the trash. • Frequently clean children’s toys and commonly shared items. • Disinfect frequently touched surfaces. • Observe children closely for symptoms of the flu and notify a physician promptly. Talk to your pediatrician or family practice physician for additional information, or visit the Children’s Hospital website at www.etch.com. Dr. Patterson is a pediatric infectious disease specialist at East Tennessee Children’s Hospital in Knoxville. For more information, visit the hospital’s website at www.etch.com.

February 2012

Nutrition, food, and fun

Smoothie Snack Treats

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By Liza Blair

Photo courtesy Samantha Paty

Liza Blair is arts manager for the Creative Discovery Museum in Chattanooga, Tennessee.

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moothies are a fresh, delicious and nutritious snack option. Made with fresh or frozen fruit and juice, smoothies have a thick, creamy texture from the addition of milk, yogurt, or ice base. Natural sweeteners, such as honey, can be added for flavor and extra healthy benefits. Smoothies in America date to the early part of the 1920’s with recipes printed and distributed by blender and appliance manufacturers. At this time, smoothies were still considered a specialty drink. It wasn’t until the mid-1960’s that smoothies became a healthy food choice. And in the mid 1980’s, smoothies became a mainstay in American culture. With the proliferation of frozen juice stands and drive-thru establishments, the smoothie became a healthy snack alternative to chips and soda. When making a smoothie, have your kids help gather ingredients. Or, let your kids create their own smoothie by experimenting with different fruits and juices. Giving your child control in making their smoothie could result in having a child more likely to eat new foods. Smoothies are a great choice for picky eaters. Favorite fruits, combined with ice and a little bit of dairy, have a similar consistency of milk shake but with less fat and calories.

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February 2012

Servings from the Cereal Bowl

By Dave Loftin

Sample the Saturday Morning Cereal Bowl

Grab you kid and a cup of coffee and tune in to the “Saturday Morning Cereal Bowl,” hosted by Dave Loftin Saturdays from 8 to 10 a.m. on the Web at WAWL.org. He posts his weekly playlists on SaturdayCerealBowl.com. And now you can take your cereal bowl with you�in podcast form! Go to SaturdayCerealBowl.podbean.com, or simply search the iTunes store. Don’t worry, parents, it’s free!

Gustafer Yellowgold Infinity Sock (DVD/CD Combo) © 2011 Apple-eye Productions Morgan Taylor continues the story of this little guy from the sun on the fourth Gustafer Yellowgold release Infinity Sock. This amazing CD/DVD collection continues Gustafer’s adventures as he settles into his home on Earth. We start off with his pet eel’s affinity towards socks on “Slim Gets in ‘Em”. He takes into the secret world of bees and snakes with “Beehive” and “Snake Proms”. The music of Gustafer Yellowgold is top notch and fun to say the least, but the real treat is the DVD. It includes a beautifully animated video for every song with the lyrics on-screen so the whole family can sing along. Socks, snakes and cheese, Infinity Sock is the best release from Morgan Taylor in the Gustafer juggernaut and his song writing and animation shines through stronger than ever. If you and your family haven’t experienced this former sun dweller yet, Infinity Sock will make you wonder how you ever got by without him.

Matt Clark

Magic Cardboard Ride New Release: March 2012 © Matt Clark

Matt Clark captures the wonder and innocence of childhood once again with his latest offering Magic Cardboard Ride. Clark graduates from songs about toddlers and preschoolers of his Funny Little Fella series to full-on pop rock gems about bigger kids. “Cardboard Box” opens the CD with wonders of what the imagination can create when playing with the simple storage device. The generational gap and days of yore abound in “Shoe Had Laces”. And what kid doesn’t want a pet? Of course they also have to take care Batteries_HalfPgAd_PrntMag2012_CTP_HR.pdf 1 1/7/12 2:45 of PM it, unless they have “The Perfect Pet”, which in this case is a pet rock.

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Ten Terrific Books About Abraham Lincoln Compiled this month by Shelley Headrick Children’s Department, Chattanooga Public Library

Abe Lincoln Crosses a Creek By Deborah Hopkinson Reading level: PreK – 2nd A faithful friend rescues our future President from a dangerous dare.

A. Lincoln and Me By Louise Borden Reading level: PreK – 3rd When a boy discovers he has the same birthday as Abraham Lincoln, he is inspired to find other similarities with the great leader.

Abe’s Fish: A Boyhood Tale of Abraham Lincoln By Jen Bryant Reading level: K – 3rd After fishing all day with little success, a young Abe Lincoln gives his only fish to a hungry soldier.

Ghosts of the Civil War By Cheryl Harness Reading level: 2nd – 4th The ghost of Willie, Abraham Lincoln’s son, teaches a modern day girl about the Civil War.

Just in Time, Abraham Lincoln By Patricia Polacco Reading level: 2nd – 4th Two boys travel back in time to the Civil War.

Lincoln: A Photobiography By Russell Freedman Reading level: 3rd – 7th In this award-winning book, discover the life of Abraham Lincoln through photos and words.

The Lincolns: A Scrapbook Look at Abraham and Mary By Candace Fleming Reading level: 6th – 12th This historical account traces the Lincoln family.

Who Broke Lincoln’s Thumb? By Ron Roy Reading level: 2nd – 4th In this book from the Capital Mysteries Chasing Lincoln’s Killer series, two children By James L. Swanson discover that the Lincoln Reading level: 6th – 12th Memorial is missing a The days following digit. Lincoln’s assassination are detailed and explained. Lincoln and His Boys By Rosemary Wells Reading level: 3rd – 5th Learn about the President through the eyes of his sons, Willie and Tad.

For libary information in your area visit: www.lib.chattanooga.gov and http://blogs.knoxlib.org/

February 2012

The Fracas over Franklin By Jennifer Crutchfield

and grabs, duels, treason In 1784 North Carolina ceded territory from the and secession marked the birth and death of the “State earlier land grant to the federal government. That attempt of Franklin”. A handful of to repay Revolutionary War fortified outposts between the Appalachian Mountains and debts inspired the citizens of the area to secede from North the Mississippi River seceded to form their own state in 1794 Carolina. When the State of Franklin issued its declaration but the drama began decades of independence they cited earlier. The fertile Watauga The Chickamaugas and British fought against John Sevier on Lookout Mountain in what is distance from the North region had been neglected by known as the Last Battle of the Revolutionary War. Carolina capital, the lack of the post-Revolutionary War government, separated from cities and society by an imposing mountain range and protection against indian attacks and the absence of legislative representation. John Sevier had made his name in the Indian Campaign, claiming 35 victories in plagued by encroaching explorers and the constant threat of Indian attacks. as many battles, earning the moniker “Chucky Jack” for his love of his land along Translated as “Land of the Free” the renegade republic was originally called “Frankland”, its name changed to curry the favor of Benjamin Franklin. The saga of the Nolichucky River. Born in Massachusetts John was 27 years old when he settled in the Watauga territory. Sevier was sent by his fellow citizens to Congress to the de facto independent republic was an early symptom of the conflict between federal bureaucracy and local autonomy. request statehood, to make treaties with Cherokee leaders and made Governor of their fledgling republic in 1785. The 1775 Treaty of Sycamore Shoals and the 1783 Holston Treaty ceded millions Sevier was paid 1,000 deerskins as his government salary, other men receiving of acres of the Cherokee Nation, land purchased largely by legislators and their business partners. The encroaching pioneers inflamed the warrior chief Dragging otter skins, raccoon skins and minks for their roles as state treasurer, secretary, clerks and constables. By 1788 tensions were at a boiling point. Governor John Canoe and increased the number of Indian attacks on unprotected settlements. Sevier was charged with treason for trying to negotiate aid from Spain and led a retaliatory battle against his rival, John Tipton, remembered as the “Battle of Franklin”. A Cherokee named Slim Tom visited John Kirk’s homestead that Spring, a visit that would change the history of the region. When father and son returned they found 11 members of their family massacred, victims of Slim Tom and his warrior brothers. John Sevier and John Kirk, Jr. led 150 men against Cherokee villages, bent on revenge. Following pledges of friendship the village of Hiwassee was burned to the Chief Dragging Canoe’s warriors, led by Chief Skyuka, faced John Sevier atop ground and Old Tassel and three other revered chiefs were brutally assassinated Lookout Mountain in what is called the Last Battle of the Revolutionary War. Fought in September of 1782 while peace negotiations were taking place in Paris under a flag of truce. Chief Dragging Canoe and Young this battle and the Cherokee alliance with the British showed the split between the Tassel waged war against the Cherokee Nation and the warrior Chickamauga tribe. settlers, soaking the land that had been theirs in blood and making good the ominous Camp Juliette Low promise that “There is a cloud Atop Beautiful hanging over it. You will find Lookout Mountain its settlement DARK and BLOODY.” In Cloudland, Georgia The State of Franklin For Girls 7 - 17 collapsed in 1789 and John June 3 - July 28, 2012 Sevier served his region as a Congressman from North horseback riding * ropes course * climbing wall * archery * tennis * hiking * overnights Chief Dragging Canoe led the bloody Carolina, later elected in 1796 sailing * canoeing * swimming * diving * crafts * OLS * campfires Chickamauga Campaign against the settlers as the first Governor of the and the loss of Cherokee lands. Camp Juliette Low, Inc. State of Tennessee.

“The saga of the de facto independent republic of Franklin was an early symptom of the conflict between federal bureaucracy and local autonomy.”

(770) 428-1062 www.CJL.org * info@CJL.org

Jennifer Crutchfield, managing editor of Chattanooga Parent, chases mysteries along with her boys George, Will and Max. Contact Jennifer at JCrutchfield@ChattanoogaParentMagazine.com

Calendar

February 2012 February 9, 2012

Knoxville Ice Bears vs. Fayetteville FireAntz www.knoxvilleicebears.com Knoxville Civic Coliseum, 500 Howard Baker, Jr. Avenue, Knoxville

February 10, 2012

Valentine Sleep in the Deep at the Tennessee Aquarium During a night of adventure you and your family will enjoy and IMAX 3-D movie, explore behind the scenes in the River and Ocean Journey and bed down in the Undersea Cavern of Ocean Journey. Includes overnight, IMAX movie, guided tours, special activities, pizza and continental breakfast. www.tnaqua.org 423-267-3474 Knoxville Opera - Romeo and Juliette Tennessee Theater, 604 South Gay Street, Knoxville, TN 423-215-5901 or online at www. knoxvilleopera.com Valentine’s Day Weekend Dinner Cruise Volunteer Princess Cruises, 956 Volunteer Landing Lane, Knoxville. www. volunteerprincess.com

February 11, 2012

Cupid’s Chase 5K Run Tennessee Riverpark - Registration at 8:00 am, run at 10:00 am. www.comop.org. Mardi Gras Magic Masked Ball and Parade The 2012 Mardi Gras Ball and Parade will be held at 7:00 pm at the Car Barn (6721 Heritage Business Ct). www. chattanoogaroomintheinn.com Breakfast with the Penguins 8:30 am - 9:45 am. Enjoy a Continental breakfast and a special feeding show by a penguin keeper at 9:30 am, see art make by the penguins and explore the Aquarium. www.tnaqua.org CSO Presents: Big Band Fever! Tivoli Theatre, 709 Broad Street, Chattanooga, TN. www. chattanoogasymphony.org The Importance of Being Earnest Chattanooga Theatre Centre, 400 River Street, Chattanooga, TN 423-267-8534 www.theatrecentre.com

Stargazing at Marble Springs Marble Springs State Historic Site, 1220 West Governor John Sevier Highway, Knoxville, TN. marblesprings@gmail.com or call 865-573-5508

February 12, 2012

Winter Jam 2012 UTC McKenzie Arena The WInter Jam Tour Spectacular features top names in Christian music. Visit www.jamtour.com for more information and call 423-266-6627 for tickets.

February 14, 2012

Broadway at the Tennessee: Shrek the Musical Tennessee Theater, 604 South Gay Street, Knoxville, TN

February 15, 2012

UT Men’s Basketball vs. Arkansas (8:00 pm) Thompson-Boling Arena 1600 Philip Fulmer Way, Knoxville, TN 1-800-332-8657 or visit www.uttix.com

February 18, 2012

Bluegrass Jamboree Harrison Ruritan Club, 5709 Tyner Lane, Harrison, TN www.harrisonruritanclub.webs.com Humorist Jeanne Robertson Tivoli Theatre, 709 Broad Street, Chattanooga, TN 423-642-TIXS or visit online at www. chattanoogaonstage.com Hunter Underground Hunter Museum of American Art, Chattanooga, TN Join the fun at the Hunter Museum for great food, drinks, entertainment, a silent art auction and the ever-popular Smash & Grab, hosted by Avant-art. www. huntermuseum.org UT Symphonic Orchestra Concert James R. Cox Auditorium, 1504 Middle Drive, Knoxville, TN. www.music.utk.edu Sweet WeePeets Kid’s Consignment Sale 6933 Lee Highway, Chattanooga, TN www.sweetweepeets.com 9:00 am - 6:00 pm through February 25th.

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February 19, 2012

Disney’s Phineas and Ferb: The Best LIVE Tour Ever! UTC McKenzie Arena, Chattanooga, TN 2:00 pm Visit www.tkt.xosn.com for tickets and information.

February 21, 2012

WDVX’s Blue Plate Special - Free Noon Time Concert The Knoxville Visitor Center, 301 South Gay Street, Knoxville 865-544-1029 or visit online at www. knoxville.org/events

Laissez Le Bon Temps Rouler at Avanti Savoi 7610 Maynardville Pike, Knoxville, TN www.avantisavoi.com

February 2012 Menopause the Musical Bijou Theatre, 803 South Gay Street, Knoxville, TN. www.knoxbijou.com

February 25, 2012

Kid’s Zone Consignment Sale Gateway Mall, 4031 Cloud Springs Road, Ringgold 9:00 am - 4:00 pm through March 3, 2012 Visit www.kidszonesale.com Denim & Diamonds: Starstruck Chattanooga Convention Center Come dressed as your favorite star from Hollywood, Broadway or Nashville and join Project Access and Chattanooga physicians and health care leaders for an evening of music, food and a celebration of healing. www.chattdenim-efbevent. eventbrite.com Visit ChattanoogaParentOnline. com for more event listings in your area. Have an event you want to share? Email your listing information well in advance to Calendar@Chattanooga ParentMagazine.com or KnoxvilleParent@gmail.com

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February 2012

Camp counselors are prepared for any job

Feeling pressure to add a resume-builder to your summer schedule? Spending your summer in an office working an unpaid internship isn’t necessarily the answer. By Joanne Bryan. Photos courtesy Camp Juliette Lowe

“By the end of the summer, most camp counselors have experienced the thrill of creating something and executing it successfully, allowing them to speak passionately to wouldbe employers about the programs and activities they have planned and implemented.”

his summer, camps across America are offering the opportunity to live in the outdoors, work with people from different backgrounds, and gain valuable skills that will make you stand out in a sea of job applicants. Employers recognize the hard work, time management, planning and teamwork that it takes to be a successful camp counselor. No other summer job prepares you as well for the workplace by providing opportunities to lead and manage a group, work in a diverse team, and create and implement programs. The principles and techniques required to successfully manage a group of 10 year olds are the same techniques used to manage any group. Although counselors are encouraged to “think big” when they create programs, Every camp counselor knows that a they are also required to take a number of other factors into consideration, such makes camp counselors stand out busy group is a happy group. By being as safety, age appropriateness, and budget. among their peers. a skilled observer and a good listener, a Employers are looking for applicants successful counselor ensures that every who will work well with the rest of their team. Camp counselors learn to appreciate camper is included and feels important. Even when the work is hard, counselors are and tolerate differences in personality and background because they live and work enthusiastic, encouraging, and positive. When things don’t go according to plan, so closely together. As leaders, they recognize potential in others, and make the they are flexible and prepared for the unexpected. They problem-solve on the go, most of their co-worker’s different talents to benefit the group. As a team member, and they think on their feet. This type of leadership and management experience counselors learn to rely on others and have others rely on them—they follow through, show initiative, and support the team. The ability to work well within a group is a skill that is valuable in almost every work situation. Camp counselors quickly learn that a lot of thought and preparation goes into planning a hike, hosting a talent show, or teaching canoeing. Although counselors are encouraged to “think big” when they create programs, they are also required to take a number of other factors into consideration, such as safety, age appropriateness, and budget. In addition, summer camp is a friendly and forgiving atmosphere where

Camp counselors learn valuable management skills leading activities and even planning fun talent shows.

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he Jewish Federation of Greater Chattanooga made Barger Academy it’s focus as they celebrated Mitzvah Day, meaning a “Day of Service”. People of all ages from the Jewish Federation worked to help Barger with a number of different projects to improve the elementary school and its facilities. There was tremendous participation from college students, teens and even younger children. Students worked to restructure a path on the school grounds, rebuild a garden, dismantle and reconstruct a ramp and hand rails to one of the classrooms and many other projects to improve the school. College students from Southern Adventist not only joined the Jewish Federation on their Mitzvah Day but returned to continue work on the outdoor projects. At one point a group of students worked together to evaluate how to build a garden area. They created a plan and executed it, demonstrating valuable skills and social commitment. Participating in service projects builds new skills, creates pride in community and a sense of giving. “It was amazing to see all these people come together to help our school” said Principal Greg Bagby. Support from all areas is needed to sustain a successful school, and there are many ways to help. Even a young student committing their time to a service day will make a difference. As teens begin to prepare college Teens gain valuable experiences volunteering, application packages, scholarship often proving themselves and their commitment applications and job applications alongside community leaders. These teens volunteer service can be a wonderful from Southern Adventist University joined the way to illustrate qualities which members of the Jewish Federation to improve a make a student stand out in a pool of local elementary school. applicants.

February 2012

Adolescents and Acting Out by John Kie Vining, D. Min.

onceiving a child is not the same as deep bitter angry resentment. Abuse cuts to parenting and providing the basic the heart of a child’s sense of personhood. necessities of food, clothing, and shelter is This provocation to anger can be turned not the same as nurturing a child. Surviving inward with crippling emotions and is often is not the same as thriving. Children of turned outward in wayward behavior. all ages need committed parents and a Abandonment dependable home context in order to thrive. Taking leave of expected parental Younger children can discern when things responsibilities, whether the abandonment are not quite right but cannot articulate their is physical or emotional, will leave angry perceptions or their feelings. However, they impressions in children and adolescents. can act and their behavior is often key to Parental abandonment strikes the adolescent understanding their emotional and mental heart as a choosing of something or status. somebody else more important than one’s Adolescents develop the capacity own child. Expressed hatred and emotional for putting words to their feelings and withdrawal from the abandoning parent can perceptions. Often there is a mixture of be a sign of deep seated anger. verbal and behavioral expression that can be Irresponsibility frustrating for the child and very trying for During adolescence communication between parents and children Adolescents should never have to assume the parent. As adolescents mature they can is critical to reducing frustration and “acting out” while building a adult responsibilities because of parental perceive inconsistencies in home life; adult framework for healthy self-perception and decision-making. irresponsibility. Angry resentment faulty reasoning, dysfunctional relationships, manifests when parental irresponsibility and other confusing patterns in the home. is demonstrated through behaviors like demeaning name calling, unfair labeling, Adolescents notice when things aren’t as they should be even if they don’t know and, especially, profane language. Demeaned adolescents can retaliate with angry how to talk about it. Often those realities are symbolized in “acting out” behavior. behavior representing their fear. So, what does provoking a child to anger look life in real life? There are two elements vital to a child’s development—identity and stability. Divorce Both of these essentials are dependent upon the parent-child relationship. A lack The experience of divorce impacts children, even adult children. Adolescents or loss of identity will give rise to a sense of instability or chaos in the child’s life. question their identity and struggle with instability after divorce. Adolescents Unpredictability and identity confusion are provocations that often manifest in sometimes display angry behavior patterns as a result of the provocation that behavior labeled as angry, rebellious, defiant and oppositional. divorce engenders. Infidelity Adolescents experience the hypocrisy of marital affairs as a betrayal of trust too. The offending parent not only violates his/her spousal vows but also violates the commitment of being loyal to all the members of the family. Adolescents experience this lack of loyalty as an assault against them as well.

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Help! How Can I Be Involved and Engaged in My Teenager’s Middle and High School Years?! by Tracey Matthews, KCDE Supervisor of Family and Community Participation

ome teenagers dread having their parents come to their school, and parents often find it a challenge to determine how they can remain engaged. Statistics show parent involvement decreases significantly during high school. But it doesn’t have to! Beyond the value of attending school events, parent involvement and engagement can simply look different.

Why Should Parents Remain Involved in Their Teen’s Education? A New Wave of Evidence, published in 2002, found that students with involved parents, regardless of background or income, were more likely to: attend school regularly; have higher grades and test scores; demonstrate good social skills and behavior; participate in higher level courses; adapt well to the school environment; pass their classes and be promoted; and graduate and enroll in postsecondary education (Henderson & Mapp, 2002). Because parent involvement and engagement remain important throughout a student’s academic career, we have identified a few important ways parents can be meaningfully involved and engaged in their teen’s education in middle and high school: It Starts At Home • Expectations: Communicate high, yet reasonable, expectations for your teen’s achievement. • Environment: Create a home environment that encourages learning and fosters creativity. • Self-Motivation: Model, encourage, and praise your teens when they complete homework without prompting, go above and beyond expectations, and when they otherwise take positive initiative. • Exploration: Help teens discover their passions. Investigate opportunities for your teen to participate in real life experiences related to their current and/or new interests, hobbies, strengths, academic performance, values, potential college majors, extracurricular, or other interests (e.g., community service, interviewing professionals, job shadowing, internships, etc.). • Planning: Help your teen establish short- and long-term goals in many different areas. For example, while “money isn’t everything,” it’s important for your teen to understand the anticipated income of their career interests as well as how the income ties in with their desired standard of living. • Communication: Most importantly, talk to your teen. Learn about the choices they are making, ask questions, and provide constructive feedback and praise for wise and mature decisions. Middle and High School • Resources: Contact school guidance, college, and career counselors and your teen’s teachers to receive additional guidance. It’s never too early to consult school counselors regarding the plethora of postsecondary options. • Requirements: Keep a record of the number and types of high school credits your teen needs to graduate, as well as whether they are on track to graduate on time. • Testing/Assessment: Attend or request parent meetings that help you understand how to interpret standardized test scores, testing requirements, and the types of tests and scores required for admission to universities or other postsecondary options. • Communication: Sign up to receive regular email communications from your child’s teachers and the school electronic newsletter to ensure that your child is meeting academic expectations. • Planning: Understand the middle school courses essential for pursuing a

challenging path of study in high school, and motivate and encourage your child to take rigorous coursework. College: Prepare Your Teen So College Can Remain an Option Some teens, and even their parents, insist they are “not going to college!” To learn more about what parents and students need to do now to ensure that college remains an option after high school, visit the Family and Community Engagement website at www.knoxschools.org.

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February 1, 8, 15, 22, 29: “ESL Classes” take place at Pond Gap Elementary from 6 – 7 p.m. and are open to all Knox County Schools parents. February 2, 9, 16, and 23: “Women’s’ Support & Discussion Group” meetings take place at Pond Gap Elementary from 5:45 – 6:45 p.m. and are open to all Knox County women. February 2, 7, 9, 14, 16, 21, 23 and 28: “Nurturing Parenting” classes are held at the Child & Family Tennessee Building on Tuesdays from 10 a.m. – Noon and Thursdays from 4 – 6 p.m. February 2, 7, 9, 14, 16, 21, 23 and 28: “Access Granted: Internet Assistance and Access” classes are held at the Phyllis Wheatley YMCA from 6 – 7:30 p.m. February 2, 7, 9, 14, 16, 21, 23 and 28: “GED Classes” take place at Pond Gap Elementary from 4:30 p.m – 6:30 p.m. and are open to all Knox County Schools parents. February 4, 11, 18, and 25: “Chess For Kids (of All Ages)” classes are held at the Knox County Public Library Bearden Branch starting at 2 p.m. February 6, 13, 20, and 27: “Job Skills Workshop” classes take place from 6 – 7 p.m. at Pond Gap Elementary School and are open to all Knox County Schools parents. February 6&7, 13&14, 20&21, and 27&28 (two days are required): “Adult Education Registration/ Orientation” classes are held from 12:30 – 4:30 p.m. or 5 – 9 p.m. at the Historic Knoxville High School. Once you are registered, Adult Education Classes take place on Mondays, Tuesdays, and Thursdays from 9 a.m. – 12 p.m. and Tuesdays and Thursdays from 5:30 – 8:30 p.m. February 9: “Parents of Dynamic Rebels: A Group for Moms with Teens” meetings are held every second Thursday of the month at the Phyllis Wheatley YMCA from 6 – 7 p.m. February 21: STEP’s “Conservatorships and Special Needs Trusts” webinar will take place via Internet and phone at 12:30 p.m. February 27: “Autism Society of East TN Parent Support Group” meets on the last Monday of the month at various locations from 6:30 – 8:30 p.m. For details and more information about any class, please visit the Family and Community Engagement Web site at www.KnoxSchools.org.

February 2012

What state are we in?

Dr. McIntyre delivers the inaugural “State of the Schools” report By Knoxville Parent

“We need to recognize that the work of educating our children is not a sprint, it is a long distance race...the future of our children and the vitality of our community depend on our success.”

r. Jim McIntyre, Superintendent of the Knox County Schools, delivered the inaugural “State of the Schools” Report and Address on Thursday, January 19 at Gresham Middle School. School Board Chairman Thomas Deakins, County Mayor Tim Burchett and Great Schools Partnership President Buzz Thomas also shared their perspectives on public education in our community. The inaugural event, co-hosted by the Knoxville Chamber of Commerce and the Knox County Council PTA, provided an overview of academic progress in the Knox County Schools toward the goals outlined in its district-wide Strategic Plan. The Knox County Board of Education approved the plan, entitled Excellence for All Children, in 2009. The report also highlighted the additional work necessary to provide our students with an excellent education in today’s increasingly competitive global environment. The event provided attendees with information on how to best support public education in Knox County.

- Dr. Jim McIntyre Superintendent of Knox County Schools

Dr. Jim McIntyre delivers the inaugural “State of the Schools” report and address to a public audience at Gresham Middle School on January 19th. Photo courtesy Allison Pavelchik with the Fulton High School TV Production class. Students from Fulton High School’s TV Production class were able to get hands-on experience covering the inaugural State of the Schools Address. Students pictured left to right are Junior Erin Barnes, Junior Chastity Hurst and Senior Jarrod Drury. Photo courtesy Renee Crisp with the Fulton High School TV Production Class.

Tom Deakins, Chairman of the Knox County Board of Education provided the introductory remarks for the State of the Schools Address. He was accompanied by the Army J.O.R.T.C. program at South-Doyle High School, who presented the colors for the Pledge of the Allegiance. Pictured left to right are: Jennifer Fisher, Franklin Stinnett, Catelin Logsdon, and Kristin Scott. Photo courtesy Renee Crisp with the Fulton High School TV Production class.

“The community with the best schools wins.” - Buzz Thomas President of the Great Schools Partnership

Culinary students at South-Doyle and Austin-East prepared and served at the reception following the State of the Schools Address. Brian McKinney is the Chef/Instructor at South-Doyle and Joslyn Gillespi is the instructor at Austin-East. Preston Johnson and Devayon Macon with Austin-East Culinary Arts Program are pictured here. Photo courtesy Renee Crisp with the Fulton High School TV Production Class.

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February 2012

A Safe Place to Get Help

The Family Crisis Unit helps combat child/elder abuse in Knox County by Chief Lee Tramel, Knox County Sheriff ’s Office

n 2005, the Knox County Sheriff ’s Office’s Family Crisis Unit became a foundation agency of the Knoxville Family Justice Center. The mission of the center is to provide more accessible services, thereby reducing barriers to justice faced by domestic violence victims. By providing a safe location where professionals work together to support victims and their needs across a continuum of care, that vision is being realized. The Sheriff ’s Family Crisis Unit serves victims of child abuse, elder abuse, domestic violence, and sexual assault in Knox County. The goals of the Family Crisis Unit are: •

Create a victim centered “one stop shop” to streamline communication among the various victim service agencies and the criminal justice system

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Reduce the re-victimization of victims by eliminating multiple interviews

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Provide a safe and comforting environment for victims seeking help

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Streamline the communication among the various agencies and systems

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Increase quality of evidence collected

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Increase prosecutions

Child Abuse and Elder Abuse Investigations The Family Crisis Unit (F.C.U.) utilizes a multi-disciplinary approach in its efforts to investigate and combat elder/child abuse. Partners include the Knoxville Police Department, the Knox County District Attorney’s Office, Adult Protective Services and the Tennessee Department of Children’s Services, as well as Legal Aid of East Tennessee and numerous other community agencies. Supervised by Captain Jeanette Harris and Lieutenant David Wise, there are eight F.C.U. detectives, one computer forensics examiner, four victim advocates, and three support personnel. A case manager reviews all reports pertaining to elder/child abuse incidents, as well as elder/child abuse referrals initiated through the Adult Protective Services or the Department of Children’s Services Child Abuse Hotline. The F.C.U. detectives are specially trained to handle the most serious abuse cases, understanding the dynamics of elder/child abuse. Teamed with an A.P.S. or a D.C.S. investigator, the detectives conduct an assessment to determine if victims are at risk. A computer forensics examiner is assigned to the F.C.U. to collect and process digital case evidence, as well as investigate cases involving the sexual exploitation of minors. The role of the Sheriff ’s Office is to conduct a criminal investigation into allegations of elder/child abuse. At the same time, the investigating detective will be conducting an assessment to determine if the victim is at risk of further abuse. Domestic Violence Investigations The partnership between the Knox County Sheriff ’s Office and the partner agencies at the Family Justice Center is central to the Family Crisis Unit. Having victim advocates co-located with law enforcement officers increases resources for victims. There are three primary benefits to this model: enhanced focus of victim safety, confidential advocacy services, and institutionalization of community

partnerships. The victim advocates are also in a unique position to address the barriers which victims face when negotiating their way through domestic violence situations. This type of support is critical to ensure that victim safety remains the priority. The victim advocates and F.C.U. detectives work in a team fashion. Together, they review and assess cases, make contacts with abuse victims, conduct detailed interviews, assess enforcement options, and offer advocacy services. F.C.U. Unit victim advocates work with victims referred via police reports, community partners, and on a walk-in basis. Primary services provided by advocates include making in-person contact with victims, offering safety planning, providing information and referrals, assisting with problem solving, providing transportation and accompaniment to court hearings, assisting with obtaining Orders of Protection, facilitating access to other social services, and providing emotional support. The detectives in the F.C.U. are specially trained to follow up on reported incidents of domestic violence. Their responsibilities include reviewing reports from the initial responding officers, assessing each case in order to prioritize incidents requiring follow-up investigation, making attempts to contact the victims and witnesses to obtain additional information, providing referrals to victims for appropriate services, and attempting to contact and arrest perpetrators of domestic violence. When the legal requirements are satisfied, the detectives assist victims with warrants. They also refer cases to the Knox County District Attorney’s Office and/or the United States Attorney’s Office for review and prosecution. The dedication and specialization of the members of the Family Crisis Unit enable them to provide enhanced services and safety to victims and their children.

The Family Crisis Center is located inside the Family Justice Center. Here is the contact information, if you or someone you know needs help: Family Crisis Center 400 Harriet Tubman Knoxville, TN 37915 (865) 215- 6820

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Making Time for Homework— and for fun! by Jason Isaacs

hat does your teen enjoy doing when he or she is not doing homework? I often hear “sports” or “video games.” What would your teen say if you presented the following challenge, “You know- you are not spending enough time playing sports?” Would his jaw drop? Would she believe you? Most teenagers can learn to study more efficiently. Time is lost to distractions- music, cell phones, and television offer a barrage of distractions that make study time too long and less effective. Challenge your teen to accept the following: there are ways to spend less time on homework, improve grades, and make time each week for the things they enjoy.

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Set up a time to study Set your student’s “office hours.” Make the time consistent so they can tell their friends when they are not available. Your teen should be expected to show up on time for his or her “office hours.” Encourage your teenager to do the following: show up, get the work done, and move on! Many students will be thrilled to hear that they are expected to have an “end time.” Set up a place to study This place should be for “studying only” during that time. The study area should be free of background noise such as televisions and music. The kitchen table, a desk in a spare room, or the student’s bedroom are all good places- as long as there are no distractions in the room. Plan time for everything else In order to focus, students need to know that time has been made for “everything else.” Writing out a weekly schedule helps them to remember that time has been allotted for everything that is important. Have your student agree to the schedule- you won’t be just a “parent with a bunch of rules,” you will be the parent helping the student keep the commitment he or she has made!

Time lost to distractions makes studying take longer and be less effective.

“Challenge your teen to accept the following: there are ways to spend less time on homework, improve grades, and make time each week for the things they enjoy.” These skills are imperative for students to improve grades today; learning the benefits of making commitments and building structure will also teach them the independence they need when they graduate! Jason Isaacs is the Center Director of Sylvan Learning Center in Chattanooga and has been an active member of the Sylvan team since 2005.

February 2012

Balancing Act

y closet has become a veritable three-ring circus. Every morning as I enter my not-so-big tent to get dressed, I wave to the animal print garments and fauxfur accessories surrounding me, nod approvingly at the crowd of shoes below me and then begin my daily high wire act. This precarious routine requires me to stand unaided as I foolishly attempt to balance on one foot and put on whatever socks or boots or pants I have deemed critical to my outfit. My rational self begs me to sit down on the floor or to lean on the doorframe in order to simplify this task. But my stubborn impatient self insists, “Nah, you got this,” as I tempt fate with every shaky maneuver, just barely getting my foot into said sock or boot or pant leg before all balance is lost completely and I somehow manage to land on two feet. But unlike the Ringling Brothers, my act is done without a safety net. And so as one might imagine, a few months ago the inevitable happened – in the middle of my balancing act I fell. And it was not a graceful fall, one that landed me on a cushion of cocktail dresses or on a bed of Banana Republic pants. This was a clumsy, awkward, downward descent that left me lying on the floor with a pair of leggings twisted around my ankles, a cowboy boot piercing the back of my neck and a vision of that woman in the commercial pleading, “I’ve fallen and I can’t get up!” My head just barely missed hitting a corner shelf, so although I was shaken, I eventually emerged from my closet unscathed and fully dressed. I thought about this episode recently when I was asked to speak at a training session for the Junior League of Chattanooga. The topic was, “Achieving Balance in Life.” I was five minutes late to the session, having stayed to watch the final minutes of our son’s basketball game, and was also double booked that evening because the training session overlapped with a retirement dinner my husband and I had agreed to attend. As I was searching in vain for a parking spot, in the pouring rain, assuring the Junior League woman on my cell phone that I was indeed on my way, and simultaneously reaching under my seat hoping to retrieve that emergency lip gloss I usually keep in the cup holder, I could only laugh at the pure irony of the situation. I can barely achieve balance in my own closet, much less my own life, and here I was about to reveal the secret behind a balancing act that was clearly more act than balancing. But isn’t balance in the eye of the balancer? And do the number of balls we are expected to juggle on a daily basis truly reflect or measure up to the multiple acts we manage to balance throughout our lives? So if achieving literal balance in my own closet had become so difficult, I needed to figure out the ways I was managing to successfully balance my life elsewhere. I started paying attention to all the minor and major parts of my life that do have balance. For instance, I always let a car go in front of me in the car rider line at school, and I even let two or three cars in when someone ahead of me fails to do so. Balance. I usually order my burgers without the bun so I can eat the French fries without as much guilt, and I always drink Diet Coke with my popcorn at the movies. Balance, balance. And for every time I have grown

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“But isn’t balance in the eye of the balancer? And do the number of balls we are expected to juggle on a daily basis truly reflect or measure up to the multiple acts we manage to balance throughout our lives?” impatient with one of our sons, forgotten to sign one of their permission slips for school or even missed one of their sporting events, I have sat quietly and listened to them play piano, trombone or drums, have committed to memory what toppings they each like on their frozen yogurt or pizza, and have never missed a single birthday. Balance, balance, balance. So when I look at all the things that happen under the Big Top of my life, it seems I’m not such a bad ringleader after all. And even if I can’t achieve the perfect balance all the time, or even in my closet, it’s okay. It’s still the Greatest Show on Earth!

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February 2012

Wanting but waiting can be a teachable moment By Don Brakebill

s a parent it is often too easy for me to forget that at one time I, too, behaved in a confused and childlike manner. My father often gave me advice that I didn’t understand or simply did not want to hear. My tendency as a young child was to quickly become frustrated when a toy wouldn’t work according to the stated directions. For me, this behavior persisted into my teens and even my young adult years. If my car wouldn’t start, for example, my first impulse was to want to hurry and fix the problem, but I would become frustrated because I could not quickly see any easy solution. I remember one such occasion when my car simply would not start. My father, a farmer and later an electrician with Alcoa, was in the house at the time. He was mechanically gifted and could use his innate logic to fashion, repair, or modify most anything that needed it. After franticly searching for the cause of the problem without results, I finally asked him for help. I suspect he was aware of my dilemma all along. He quietly walked to the car, opened the hood, surveyed the engine for a brief moment, reached down and reconnected a spark plug line that had become disengaged. My serious problem took only five minutes to fix! Once again, he had used his simple logic to solve a major problem that for me was altogether a different scene. Through this one example, my father was teaching me two important life lessons: Often the best solution is the simplest one, and waiting to be asked

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Don Brakebill is a retired music minister and voice teacher with two grown children, Greg and Traci, stepchildren Michael and Christy, two grandchildren, Drew and Emily, three great grandchildren, Dawson, Ella, and Bailey with a fourth on the way!

“... my father was teaching me two important life lessons: Often the best solution is the simplest one, and waiting to be asked for help is sometimes healthier than rushing in to fix another’s problems.”

for help is sometimes healthier than rushing in to fix another’s problems. I am now 80 years old and these lessons have stuck with me. To this day I still try to meet difficult problems by first checking for simple, albeit hidden, trouble, and I try my best to wait until I am asked for help. As a parent, to follow that advice is not easy. In my relationship with my son, I recall a time when he was no longer pleased with his car and wanted to make a trade. I was not in favor of his plan, but, heeding my own father’s teaching, my choice was to remain quiet and allow him to make the deal, which he did. I wanted to speak up and say that I would not have made the trade myself, but I didn’t say a word. At that time it was difficult for me to be quiet. However, in retrospect I believe it was the correct decision. We want what is best for our children, and to sit back and wait for them to ask for help is not an easy road. As parents we often think we see the answers before our children do. This may sometimes be true (as in the case with my father and the dangling spark plug wire), but our children can develop a much stronger feeling of independence when we allow them to ask for help on their own. I believe this also has helped my children to develop much healthier relationships with me as they have matured into adults.

ÂŠThe Partnership for a Drug-Free America, Inc.

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